> ## Content Index > Fetch the complete content index at: https://achronicvoice.com/llms.txt > Use this file to discover other available public pages before exploring further. # Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength) - URL: https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/ - Published: 2018-11-25T12:40:29.000Z - Updated: 2026-07-23T14:57:52.000Z - Author: Sheryl Chan - Tags: Chronic Illness, Disability, Personal Development ## Why Many People with Chronic Illness Hate to be Known as ‘Sick’ From reading articles online, I’m aware that many of us with chronic illnesses don’t like to be known as sick or weak. No human being does, really. There are many reasons why one might dislike the association with their illness, such as: - We are [more than our illnesses](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-schizophrenia-one-man-s-journey/201512/you-are-not-your-mental-illness); we are [**human beings with individuality**](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/). - Associating and repeating to ourselves that we are sick leads us to believe that as the ultimate truth, and thus remain ‘stuck’ in that state. - Labels and thus judgment of any sort are not cool. - You hate being treated differently or being known as the weakest of the group. There are many more reasons, but these are common themes that I see. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. 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I was the girl who’d carry the extra load, went on for longer or pushed myself to be faster, and never shed a tear in public. I was even the physical training instructor of my NPCC group (National Police Cadet Corps) in school. It might have be a struggle, but I was still physically able to do 500 push ups and sit ups during training camps. Even when I suffered my first major health blow via a [**near-deadly clot in the lung due to multiple DVTs**](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/), I toughed it out in the hospital for months with only panadol as painkillers. To put things into perspective, that's the worst pain I've experienced to date, and I did it in part to prove my 'strength'. Read Related Posts: - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [You Don’t Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) - [Are You a Capable Person? What Does That Even Mean?](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) - [Kick Ass With Kindness and a Sweet Cherry on Top](https://achronicvoice.com/kick-ass-with-kindness/) - [A Page From a Sick Girl's Diary: Sometimes I Wish I was an Old Person](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girls-diary-wish-old-person/) ## Turning Weakness Into Strength Through Acceptance But what is strength [**when the pain is chronic**](https://achronicvoice.com/what-neverending-pain-reveals/)? When you’re in it for the long term? When you’re running a marathon, not a sprint? I learned over the span of a decade how ridiculous I was being. The point is to pace myself so that I can stay in the game of life, and to even maybe end it on a good note. There’s this quote by Tyrion Lannister, a dwarf from Game of Thrones, that's one of my all time favourites: > “Let me give you some advice, bastard. Never forget what you are, the rest of the world will not. Wear it like armour, and it can never be used to hurt you.” It resonates with me because it's so true. What happens [**when you finally learn to accept a perceived weakness**](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/), is that it transforms into a strength. It loses its power and no one can ever use it to hurt you again, whether intentional or otherwise. ## Oh, the Things We Can Do as a Person with Chronic Illness If you’d like to take it a step further, put on that armour and step into battle; [**there’s a lot of advocacy work left to be done**](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/), and every person on our side counts. There’s still so much that science doesn’t understand about our bodies, and still so much pain that medicine can’t fix. But in the meantime, we can work on clearing misunderstandings and misconceptions the public and even doctors have about us as patients. We can work on sharing the reality of our experiences, and [**speak up for those who can’t**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) or aren’t ready to do so yet. We can remind others of what it means to be human, and how to behave like a decent one. We can lead by example, ***because*** we are sick. A strange opportunity if you would; your words or actions wouldn’t have as much power if you were healthy, because you don’t live the reality of it. Experience after all, is the best form of credibility. Your scars tell a story of survival. ## The Opportunities that Blogging has Brought About Over the last few years, I’ve been blogging and posting to my social media accounts every single day. Sometimes I’d hit the schedule limit in Buffer, and would have to consider what to remove. There’s just too much important information to share, and stories waiting to be heard. If people around me never knew that I was sick or just how much chronic illness impacts my life, well now they do. When I made the decision to start blogging about it, I walked in well aware of this, and I was ready. Ready to forever be known as 'the sick girl', and to reveal private aspects of my life for illustrative or referential purposes. Read Related Posts: - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) - [Why Humility is the Best Tool for Advocacy](https://achronicvoice.com/humility-advocacy/) - [12 Chronic Illness Bloggers Share Their Top Posts for 2020](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-bloggers-top-posts-2020/) - [A Quarterly Reflection: 12 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned](https://achronicvoice.com/quarterly-reflection-life-lessons-learned/) - [MediSearch Review: A Medical AI Search Engine for Patients, Clinicians & Medical Writers](https://achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/) ## What Being Known as ‘The Sick Girl’ Has Done As a result, all sorts of people have approached me. Friends, family and acquaintances often come to me when they need a referral to a good doctor, or advice on some strange symptom. Others with chronic illness whom I've [met online have become friends](http://www.myseveralworlds.com/2018/11/21/chronic-illness-prompts-meeting-advocating-tweaking-working-curating/). Others whom I never knew were ill or those who were recently diagnosed, approach me for advice or a listening ear. In the words of one young lady whom I spoke with, not even her mother could understand the pain or grief associated with being forever ill. Isn't it amazing how you can be so useful even though [**you might not have been able to get out of bed today**](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/), or for the past month or year? You can take that unwanted identity and transform it into a lighthouse for those who are suffering; for those who don't know where to turn to, or whose position you were in once. You have the power to take a supposed negative identity, and turn it into a useful one. Sometimes people whom I haven't spoken with in years approach me simply to get something out of me, and I don't even mind anymore. Because I understand what pain is, and if there's something being ill has taught me, it's to have a little empathy. At the end of the day, we're all just trying to live our best lives, and if I have the ability to change something for the better, then I should. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [What’s it Like to be the Mother of a Sick Child? (Precious Insights from My Own Mum)](https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/) - [What’s it Like to be the Father of a Child with Chronic Illness? (Precious Insights from My Own Dad!)](https://achronicvoice.com/father-of-child-with-chronic-illness/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) Pin to Your Identity & Invisible Illness Boards: ![Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_sick-girl-1.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Katie Clark Jun 19, 2020 I love this quote, “Let me give you some advice, bastard. Never forget what you are, the rest of the world will not. Wear it like armour, and it can never be used to hurt you.” There are times I wonder should I be talking about what I’m dealing with? Not sure that others really want ot hear it. But, in the end, it’s a part of who I am now. So, I’ve decided to talk about it. Not all the time, but if I didn’t, it’s like I’m hiding a part of me to be more accepted or something. But, I find what I’ve done and am learning is important and if someone doesn’t, that’s okay, but they then, don’t really want to be a part of where I am now. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 20, 2020 Yes! When Tyrion said that in the series, I was like fuck yea!!! Probably wasn’t meant for chronic illness, but my thoughts immediately jumped to it haha. It’s so true, isn’t it? Once again, everything boils down to acceptance, and turning your weakness into strength. I too talk about my health openly, and am not offended by questions. I see them as opportunities to educate. (I mean, unless they’re trying to shove their thoughts down my throat then go somewhere else…) I think by speaking up, we are speaking up for many others suffering in silence, too. That’s really important. - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Jun 18, 2020 I really love this! I often debate whether other terms used to describe those with chronic illness such as ‘fighter’ and ‘warrior’ are positive or negative. I haven’t really made up my mind, but I do agree that health concerns open up worlds too. Like meeting all the people here! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 20, 2020 Aww…I love all the people I’ve met online and offline along the way, too! I think all schools of thoughts are fine – whatever works for you is good 🙂 For me I don’t like the words fighter or warrior, just because I think it’s a bit dramatic, haha. This is of course, just me. If you like using it, I encourage it! - [ chronic mom ](https://chronicmom.com) Jun 18, 2020 I love that quote. That’s how I’ve long viewed being sick, I wear it as armor. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 20, 2020 Me too! Maybe one of my favourite quotes, haha. Our weaknesses can also be our strengths (and if we’re not careful, vice versa). - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Jun 17, 2020 I can completely relate to you here Sheryl. I was okay to be known as the sick girl early because I felt it empowered me to voice my health journey and be informative. But sometimes I hesitate to mention I’m unwell because oddly it makes others a little awkward and they suddenly feel the need to encourage me and ask me to be positive! 😀 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 20, 2020 Haha actually I find that the more comfortable I am in my own skin, the less others hesitate to mention it. I guess it’s because it doesn’t affect me so much in terms of comments, interpretations, etc. I just talk about it as how they’d talk about, say, work or family. It IS normal life, after all 🙂 x - Kirsten Nov 27, 2018 LOVE THIS SHERYL! It’s so difficult to find a healthy balance between being the sick person (listening to our bodies, raising awareness, using mobility aids, taking meds, going to doctor appointments, etc) and being you, the person behind the illness (your personality, your likes and dislikes, your friends and family, your job or hobby, etc). Sometimes I tend to be stubborn and ignore my chronic pain which leads me to a flare or crash. But other times I’m just sick and tired of being sick. It’s difficult but we gotta except ourselves and just be ourselves. There is nothing to feel ashamed about and it’s a part of us. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 28, 2018 Thanks Kirsten! This is a quote that really inspires me, the wise little dwarf 🙂 I think achieving that balance is something we all struggle with, even if we were healthy, what more when ill! But definitely important to try and aim for every day that’s possible. Sending good thoughts! x - [ Rachna Parmar ](https://www.rachnaparmar.com) Nov 27, 2018 I really loved this post. Kudos to your courage and work. I also loved that quote you shared. It is so very true as I have experienced in my own life. It was lovely reading you. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 27, 2018 Thank you so much for reading, Rachna! Am really glad it resonates with you, and hope it gives you a little bit of inspiration 🙂 - [ Rachel, The Invisible Hypothyroidism ](https://theinvisiblehypothyroidism.com) Nov 27, 2018 Such an important message. We are more than our health conditions but it is also OK for them to be a part of us. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 27, 2018 Thanks Rachel! Yes totally agree. There are many perspectives to it, and finding peace with each one is key in order to thrive, and also to put a face to it. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!**