# A Chronic Voice » A Chronic Illness Blog with Patient Resources > A chronic illness blog that aims to share personal patient experiences and pain management tips, combined with health resources backed by the latest research. Public Ghost content for AI and LLM tooling. This file includes a bounded export of public pages first, then recent public posts. Append `.md` to any post or page URL to get the content in Markdown (for example, `/example-post.md`). ## Pages ### About URL: https://achronicvoice.com/about/ Last updated: 2026-03-28T14:36:44.000Z ## About “A Chronic Voice” & Its Aim Hello, my name is Sheryl and welcome to my blog, “A Chronic Voice”. I come from the hot and humid island of Singapore, but spent my childhood in Hong Kong. I live with multiple chronic illnesses and autoimmune disorders, primarily: - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [Lupus (SLE)](https://achronicvoice.com/rock-bottom/) - [Sjögren’s disease](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-bearable-not/) - [Epilepsy](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) - [Paroxysmal supraventricular tachycardia (PSVT)](https://achronicvoice.com/heart-rhythm-disorder/) - [A repaired mitral heart valve](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) - [Clinical depression & anxiety](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - [Spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture & repair](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [Oesophageal diverticulum](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) - Mitral valve stenosis My aim with 'A Chronic Voice' through this blog and various channels is to raise awareness about lifelong illnesses from various perspectives. Every patient, illness and how they experience pain is different. There is no single technique or approach to managing these symptoms, but every tool in the toolbox helps. I also want to encourage empathy amongst all facets of society and not just within healthcare. Here's one of my favourite excerpts by [Luca Turin](https://substack.com/@lucaturin) which sums it up: > “Metaphor is the currency of knowledge. I have spent my life learning incredible amounts of disparate, disconnected, obscure, useless pieces of knowledge, and they have turned out to be, almost all of them, extremely useful. Why. Because there is no such thing as disconnected facts. There is only complex structure. And both to explain complex structure to others and, perhaps more important – this is forgotten, usually – to understand them oneself, one needs better metaphors.” > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/CX5ouHNPztm/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/CX5ouHNPztm/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) **Where Else You Can Find Me on the Internet:** - [Sick Lessons Podcast](https://sicklessons.com/) - [Work Portfolio](https://work.achronicvoice.com/) *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice*. Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog.* [***Read our Privacy Policy page***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/) *for more information. Thank you!* [Subscribe for More](#/portal/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness, Disability & Blogger Boards: ![About “A Chronic Voice” — A Chronic Illness Blog. (A reader flips through pages of a paperback, but the words can't be seen, only the white edges.)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/about-a-chronic-voice-chronic-illness-blog.jpg) --- ### For Caregivers It isn’t always easy to articulate chronic illness, because we look fine on the outside for the most part. I would like to open a window into our thoughts, so that light may flow both ways. There are many unsung caregivers in the background who try their best to be supportive. Yet you may still feel inadequate, and struggle to understand what it is that your loved ones really need. It is my hope that you gain some useful insight, through the details of our collective experiences here. A Selection of Articles on “A Chronic Voice” for Caregivers: - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) - [The Art of Supporting: Sometimes That Means Letting Go](https://achronicvoice.com/supporting-sometimes-letting-go/) Pin to Your Caregiving & Chronic Illness Boards: ![For Caregivers - Insights into people with chronic illness and disability.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/caregivers-insights-people-chronic-illness-disability.jpg) --- ### For Medical Researchers & Doctors It is the hope of I and many others that doctors will listen to their patients beyond the physical symptoms. Chronic illnesses tend to span across various medical departments. This makes the patient-doctor and even doctor-doctor collaboration crucial. Collective knowledge is power, and I hope that some of the experiential data here will be useful in the search for solutions. A Selection of Articles on "A Chronic Voice" for Medical Researchers & Doctors: - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [An Experience from Hell: Thromboembolism From Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) Pin to Your Healthcare & Patient Care Boards: ![For Medical Researchers and Doctors - Learn more about people with chronic pain and disabilities.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/medical-researchers-doctors-learn-more-people-chronic-pain-disabilities.jpg) --- ### For Myself I find writing in itself cathartic. It forces me to pay attention, to be mindful. It also forces me to reveal my ‘weaknesses’, which is something I detest. But I want to learn how to be comfortable saying ‘I need help’, because at the end of the day, we all do. And to be truly well in every sense of the word, I have to stop denying myself of what I need. A Selection of Articles on “A Chronic Voice” for You: - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [A Quarterly Reflection: 12 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned](https://achronicvoice.com/quarterly-reflection-life-lessons-learned/) Featured Interviews: - [‘Uninvisible Pod’ Podcast](https://uninvisiblepod.com/episodes/episode-80-aps-lupus-mental-health-sheryl-chan/) - [‘This is Not What I Ordered’ Podcast](https://laurenselfridge.com/listen/47) - [Collin's IBD Chronicles](https://collinscrohns.wordpress.com/2019/07/22/breaking-stigma-an-interview-with-sheryl-chan/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Disability Boards: ![About “A Chronic Voice” - A blog for people with chronic illnesses and disabilities. Find community, support and solidarity on the website. You are never alone.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/about-a-chronic-voice-blog-people-chronic-illnesses.jpg) --- ### For Those with Chronic Illness and/or Disability Finally, I want to let the many others who are suffering out there know that they are not alone. I hope that you take comfort through this solidarity, and find the strength to be human once more. **It is not that easy to die.** (This sentence is an unspoken code for those who have suffered greatly - you know what I mean :) ) A Selection of Articles & Resources on “A Chronic Voice” for You: - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [40 People Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Flare Up Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Featuring People with Illnesses, Passions & Talents](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-people-illnesses-talents/) - [My Diary Entries (Previously: Blog Posts Written for Community Linkups)](https://achronicvoice.com/diary-entries/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Disability Boards: ![A blog for people with chronic illness and disabilities - Learn more about “A Chronic Voice”.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/blog-people-chronic-illness-disabilities.jpg) --- ## Thank You & Come be a Part of the Chronic Illness Community Thank you for taking the time to be here. If you have any questions or topics you would like to discuss, feel free to let me know in the comments below. Don't forget to sign up for our mailing list below to stay in touch. You will also receive a beautiful illustrated e-book along with it! I am also active on social media, where I share more stories, and interact with those who live with other chronic illness and disabilities. You can connect with me on: [**Twitter**](https://twitter.com/AChVoice)**,** [**BlueSky**](https://bsky.app/profile/achronicvoice.com)**,** [**Instagram**](https://www.instagram.com/achronicvoice/)**,** [**Facebook**](https://facebook.com/achronicvoice) **&** [**Pinterest**](https://www.pinterest.com/achronicvoice/boards/). **Get in touch if you'd like to:** [Work with Me](https://work.achronicvoice.com/) [Contribute to the Site](https://achronicvoice.com/contribute/) You can also [**support my writing and website here**](https://www.buymeacoffee.com/achronicvoice). It costs at least $100 to keep the blog running, and to do some basic advocacy work with some measure of efficiency. Every cup of coffee helps to keep me going - thank you so much! 🙂 ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. ### Work with Me URL: https://achronicvoice.com/work-with-me/ Last updated: 2026-08-10T05:29:02.000Z ## What I Do & Why I have been running “A Chronic Voice” since 2015, with approximately 45,000 followers across five social media platforms to date ([Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/achronicvoice), [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/achronicvoice/), [Twitter/X](https://x.com/AChVoice), [BlueSky](https://bsky.app/profile/achronicvoice.com), and [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/achronicvoice/blog-posts-on-a-chronic-voice/)). My primary audiences are people with chronic illness, disability and mental health conditions. They are mostly looking for support, information, tips, and resources on how to manage chronic pain, and improve their quality of life. Apart from that, I work on providing educational material to the general public that are backed by facts and research, from a patient's perspective. I also strive to humanise and articulate invisible pain experiences, which are often misunderstood in a society that runs on culturally ingrained ideas of productivity. I want to close the gap between the sick and healthy, doctor and layperson alike. We are all human, and we need to work together if we want a better society to live in. [Contact Me](#work-form) ## Services I Offer ### Sponsored Posts & Reviews SEO-optimised educational articles, or reviews of your product, service, app, etc, published to this blog. DA (Domain Authority) is 35, which is above average for the chronic illness niche. View the full list of my published works at the end of the post. Sample Posts & Reviews: - [MediSearch Review: A Medical AI Search Engine for Patients, Clinicians & Medical Writers](https://achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/) - [YuYu Bottle Review: Hot Water Bottle for ‘Surround Warmth’ Pain Relief](https://achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-review/) - [Drink Pure Wine Review (A Product That Excites Me as a Person with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/drink-pure-wine-review/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) ### Research-based Copywriting In-depth coverage of a specific topic with research and citations from established medical sources or scientific journals. It may be published on this blog, or on your own website(s). Sample Articles: - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) (Personal Research Project) - [GABA for Sleep & Supplements that Work Best Together with It](https://spectraspray.com/blogs/news/multivitamins-for-kids-what-they-can-and-cannot-support) (Spectra Spray) - [Multivitamins for Kids — What They Can and Cannot Support](https://spectraspray.com/blogs/news/multivitamins-for-kids-what-they-can-and-cannot-support) (Spectra Spray) - [TMJ Disorder Treatment in Singapore](https://nourishdentalcare.com/) (Nourish Dental Sleep & TMJ Care) - [Trigeminal Neuralgia: The Great Toothache Mimicry (Case Study #5)](https://nourishdentalcare.com/trigeminal-neuralgia-toothache/) (Nourish Dental Sleep & TMJ Care) ### Speaking Engagements - Werfen — [Webinar: Shared Journeys in Hemostasis: Connecting Patient Voices with Hot Topics in the Hemostasis Laboratory](https://www.werfen.com/na/en/webinar-shared-journeys-hemostasis-connecting-patient-voices-hot-topics-hemostasis-laboratory) - Not What I Ordered Podcast — [Episode 47: Acceptance Is Power with Sheryl Chan](https://laurenselfridge.com/listen/47) ### Chronic Illness Bloggers’ Network Recruitment Finding the most suitable bloggers for niche chronic illness/disability/health topics through the [Chronic Illness Bloggers](https://chronicillnessbloggers.com/businesses/) network. Our bloggers have a combined reach of 4 million patients, and we have experience working with a wide variety of brands. ### Web Development Services I am originally a web developer by trade with a background in design, and offer full-suite web services for new and existing websites. I work best with small to mid-sized businesses that need a new website, coupled with copywriting services, e-commerce functionality, SEO optimisation, and/or niche integrations. View my work site, [Black & Web LLP](https://blackandweb.com/), and [LinkedIn profile](https://www.linkedin.com/in/sherylchan/) for more information. #### Browse Portfolio: - [Nourish Dental Sleep & TMJ Care](https://nourishdentalcare.com/) - WordPress site build - Copywriting for all pages, posts, and case studies - On-page, local, and AI SEO optimisation - [Innovez Engineering](https://www.innovezengineering.com/) - WebFlow site build - Product listings - Copywriting for all pages (client collaboration) - On-page, local, and AI SEO optimisation - [Content Collective](https://contentcollective.com.sg/) - WordPress site build - Copywriting for all pages - [HGT Consultancy](https://hgtconsultancy.com/) - WordPress site build - Copywriting for all pages - [Sick Lessons](https://sicklessons.com/) - WordPress site build — our sister site featuring podcast interviews [Contact Me](#work-form) --- ## My Published Writing Works A reference list of my writing works, published on this blog, and also to various media outlets, and clients' websites. ### Published on This Blog - [MediSearch Review: A Medical AI Search Engine for Patients, Clinicians & Medical Writers](https://www.achronicvoice.com/2024/12/05/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://www.achronicvoice.com/2021/05/24/dimensions-of-wellness/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://www.achronicvoice.com/2021/03/18/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://www.achronicvoice.com/2021/05/02/malabsorption-nutrients/) - [The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don’t Reflect)](https://www.achronicvoice.com/2020/02/05/costs-chronic-illness-disability/) - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://www.achronicvoice.com/2020/01/20/accessibility-home/) - [How to Rewire Your Brain to Manage Chronic Pain (& Resources to Help)](https://www.achronicvoice.com/2019/07/30/brain-chronic-pain/) - [Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs)](https://www.achronicvoice.com/2019/04/21/disability-home-resources/) - [YuYu Hot Water Bottle Review: ‘Surround Warmth’ for Pain Relief](https://www.achronicvoice.com/2018/08/19/yuyu-bottle-review/) ### Written for Clients on Their Website - [Nourish Dental Sleep & TMJ Care](https://nourishdentalcare.com/) (Copywriting for entire website, including case studies and blog posts) - [Innovez Engineering](https://www.innovezengineering.com/) (Copywriting for entire website) - [Content Collective](https://contentcollective.com.sg/) (Copywriting for entire website) - [HGT Consultancy](https://hgtconsultancy.com/) (Copywriting for entire website ### In the News #### Huffington Post: - [This is What Hell Must Feel Like](http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/this-is-what-hell-must-feel-like%5Fus%5F57620697e4b057ac661b6201) - [So This is What a Seizure Feels Like](http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/so-this-is-what-a-seizure-feels-like%5Fus%5F57695419e4b048b0aa9b89fc) - [Don’t Compare, Your Life Destination is Your Own Special Mission](http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/dont-compare-your-life-destination-is-your-own-special%5Fus%5F57d15ff0e4b0eb9a57b7a0c3) - [What Neverending Pain Reveals to You](http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/what-neverending-pain-reveals-to-you%5Fus%5F58297901e4b02b1f5257a5df) - [The Strange Sensations on a Train in China](http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/the-strange-sensations-on-a-train-in-china%5Fus%5F57620c73e4b07d4d0a41aff1) #### Yahoo & Rice Media: - [This is What It’s Like to Live With A Chronic and Invisible Illness in Singapore (Yahoo)](https://sg.style.yahoo.com/live-chronic-invisible-illness-singapore-022816819.html) - [This is What It’s Like to Live With A Chronic and Invisible Illness in Singapore (Rice Media)](https://www.ricemedia.co/current-affairs-features-chronic-invisible-illness-singapore/) #### Brit + Co: - [I Am a Rebel—Even If I Don’t Look Like One to You](http://www.brit.co/i-am-a-rebel-even-if-i-dont-look-like-one-to-you/) #### Thrive Global: - [Words are just words. But what you associate them with can change your life.](https://thriveglobal.com/stories/words-change-life/) - [Learning What You’re Worth When You Have Nothing in Your Life](https://journal.thriveglobal.com/learn-what-youre-worth-69d0410a099f) - [It’s time to go to work…by sleeping](https://journal.thriveglobal.com/its-time-to-go-to-work-by-sleeping-2aadf6b69479) - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://journal.thriveglobal.com/positive-thinker-unicorns-rainbows-3293fba38e2c) - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Purpose](https://medium.com/thrive-global/no-purpose-life-d3830eea83d0) #### Thought Catalog: - [Why Fear Will Hurt You In The Long Run](http://thoughtcatalog.com/sheryl-chan/2016/12/why-fear-will-hurt-you-in-the-long-run/) #### Pathways Health: - [Pain Awareness Through Journaling, and Using It to Manage Chronic Pain](https://www.pathways.health/pain-awareness-through-journaling-and-using-it-to-manage-chronic-pain/) - [What Fear’s Got to Do with Chronic Pain & Ways to Recover from It](https://www.pathways.health/what-fears-got-to-do-with-chronic-pain-ways-to-recover-from-it/) #### The Mighty Site: - [11 Visible Signs That Provide Evidence of an 'Invisible' Illness](https://themighty.com/2017/05/photos-lupus-sjogrens-heparin-blood-thinners/) - [3 Reminders for the Days Depression Leaves You Feeling Defeated](https://themighty.com/2016/11/what-to-remember-on-the-days-depression-leaves-you-feeling-defeated/) - [Why I Look Forward to Getting Older With Chronic Illness](https://themighty.com/2016/06/learning-to-slow-down-with-lupus-and-sjogrens-syndrome/) - [To the Person Wondering, ‘Is My Doctor Right for Me?’](https://themighty.com/2016/01/to-the-person-wondering-is-my-doctor-right-for-me/) - [4 Things Healthy People Do That Can Affect Those With Weak Immune Systems](https://themighty.com/2017/02/what-to-say-rude-comments-chronic-disease/) - [My Strategy for When the Pain Is Unbearable](https://themighty.com/2016/01/when-the-pain-that-comes-with-lupus-is-unbearable/) - [9 Acts of Kindness That Have Brought Me Joy in the Midst of Pain](https://themighty.com/2016/02/chronic-illness-acts-of-kindness-that-have-brought-me-joy-in-pain/) - [To the People Who Think My Pain Is 'No Big Deal'](https://themighty.com/2016/02/when-people-dont-understand-your-arthritis-pain/) - [When the Effects of My Chronic Stress Could No Longer Be Ignored](https://themighty.com/2016/02/when-the-effects-of-my-chronic-stress-could-no-longer-be-ignored/) - [When the Person Being Unkind About Your Chronic Illness Is You](https://themighty.com/2016/02/being-unkind-to-yourself-about-your-chronic-illness/) - [When Loved Ones Can’t Comprehend What We Go Through With Our Chronic Illnesses](https://themighty.com/2016/02/when-loved-ones-cant-comprehend-what-we-go-through-with-our-chronic-illnesses/) - [The Poem That Reminds Me We Are All Living Miracles](https://themighty.com/2016/03/the-poem-that-reminds-me-we-are-all-living-miracles/) - [What Does 'Living With a Chronic Illness' Really Mean?](https://themighty.com/2016/03/what-it-really-means-to-live-with-a-chronic-illness/) - [To the Person With Chronic Illness Who Is Impatient to Get Better](https://themighty.com/2016/03/inspirational-quotes-for-people-with-chronic-illness-impatient-to-get-better/) - [The Chronic Illness Advice That Could Quite Literally Kill Me](https://themighty.com/2016/03/chronic-illness-advice-variation-in-diet-for-people-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [12 Important Lessons I've Learned From Starting a Chronic Illness Blog](https://themighty.com/2016/05/starting-a-chronic-illness-blog-what-ive-learned/) - [10 Things I Didn't Appreciate Until I Became Chronically Ill](https://themighty.com/2016/05/10-things-i-am-grateful-to-do-while-sick/) - [When My Loved Ones' Support Made It Harder to Recover From Health Challenges](https://themighty.com/2016/05/how-to-support-a-friend-with-health-challenges/) - [What I Seldom Compare Myself to After I Became Chronically Ill](https://themighty.com/2016/07/chronic-illness-comparing-myself-to-the-other-wonderful-parts-of-me/) - [Why I Need to See 10 Different Doctors on a Regular Basis](https://themighty.com/2016/07/the-doctors-i-see-for-my-autoimmune-chronic-diseases/) - [Yes, You're Allowed to Feel Upset About Your Illness](https://themighty.com/2016/08/why-its-ok-to-be-sad-about-your-illness/) - [Here's What It Takes for Me to 'Have Fun' While Chronically Ill](https://themighty.com/2016/08/what-i-do-to-take-care-of-my-illnesses-before-having-fun/) - [Why My Favorite Birthday Memories Include My Chronic Pain](https://themighty.com/2017/03/celebrating-your-birthday-with-chronic-pain/) ### Guest Post on Other Sites - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](http://writersam.co.uk/the-power-and-purpose-of-blogging-and-why-you) --- ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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You can browse this website to get a feel of the tone and type of content preferred on this blog, and also [read some of the ‘Published’ articles on my work site here](https://work.achronicvoice.com/). **Do take note of the following guidelines, before you pitch your post idea using the contact form at the end of the page.** *\*Disclaimer: This website is meant solely for educational purposes. None of the articles - whether written by me or a contributor - is to be taken as medical advice. Please consult your own doctor before adding or change *any* new treatment protocols. Once an article has been published, it belongs to A Chronic Voice LLP, unless agreed upon otherwise. Affiliate links may be added to posts, which will cost users nothing to click on. I will make a small referral fee from any purchases made, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read* [***our Privacy Policy page***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/) *for more information. 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If you don’t hear from me, feel free to follow up again. 9. Photos that are relevant to your guest post are always helpful. I will create the featured and Pinterest images on my end for the purpose of consistency. 10. Do include a profile photo and short bio about yourself (approximately 150 words), and links to your social media and/or website. These will be featured at the end of the post. 11. There will be no payment for guest posts from contributors. It is meant for cross-promotional purposes, and I will share it to all my social media channels. ## Guest Posts Others Have Contributed to the Blog Here is a sample of top 10 guest posts on the blog, written by people with chronic and/or mental illnesses, and also by caregivers. Each piece has an important story to tell, or point to make. Top 10 Guest Posts on the Blog: 1. [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) 2. [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) 3. [A Day in the Life of a ‘POTSie’ (A What??)](https://achronicvoice.com/day-in-life-potsie/) 4. [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) 5. [I May be Chronically Ill, but I’m Also Chronically Resilient](https://achronicvoice.com/chronically-ill-resilient/) 6. [Is Yoga Accessible for People with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/) 7. [When Autoimmune Disorder Ravages Your Face (and How That Led to My Body Dysmorphic Disorder)](https://achronicvoice.com/body-dysmorphic-disorder/) 8. [How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationships with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/) 9. [The Chronic Pain Cycle & How to Break It (Top Tips From an Occupational Therapist)](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/) 10. [5 Things You Should Know About My Epilepsy (It's More Than Just Seizures)](https://achronicvoice.com/epilepsy-more-than-just-seizures/) ## Advertisements & Sponsored Posts Feel free to contact me via the form below for any advertising-related services, or if you would like to hire me for any medical writing or web development work. You can find me on [LinkedIn](https://www.linkedin.com/in/sherylchan/), [view my portfolio](https://work.achronicvoice.com/) and [**download my media kit**](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/achronicvoice-sheryl-chan-media-kit.pdf) for more information. --- --- ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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Join us in the current one here:** [Join This Month's Linkup](https://achronicvoice.com/september-writing-prompts-chronic-illness-disabilities-2026/) ## The Monthly Community Linkups I Used to Run You may be wondering, “what are linkups”? In brief, they are blog posts written in response to writing prompts, and gathered in one central location online – usually on the host's website. They function just like a networking event or meet up of like-minded people, except that it's all done online. Linkups can be done via a comments thread. Another popular tool is inLinkz, which I used to use. All you need to do is insert the code snippet onto the web page, which then allows people to submit and view each others' entries via the widget. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* [Subscribe for More](#/portal/) ## Why Did I Stop Running These Linkups? I ran these linkups for 7 years (time flies a little too freakishly for my liking...). Towards the end, I was basically just coming up with new writing prompts and setting the page up for a few other bloggers, without participating in them myself. The number of participants had also reduced over the years. It had become more of a chore than pleasure to do, and without a great number of benefits either. ## Why Don't I Delete This Page, Then? For the exact same reason as to why I ran them for 7 years – they're a timeline and treasure trove of memories. When I 'flipped through' all the blog posts I had written for these linkups, I realised that they were like diary entries. Many of them were personal, heartfelt pieces, as compared to the other posts on my blog, which had a more advocacy or research spin to them. Reading them also brought back many memories, both the good and bad. I also realise how my perspective about life has morphed over the years – subtly month by month. ### A Mix of Good and Bad Memories The good – I find happy photos of friends, pets or events that I had forgotten all about, and see how I've grown as a person despite chronic illness and disability. The bad – it also resurfaced unhappy periods of time in my life, and I felt a bit of despair that I haven't progressed in terms of health, but regressed instead. I also feel like I'm stuck in time, as certain desires or milestones are still the same as before. For example, I haven't 'climbed' any ladders in terms of career, family or life goals. ### Memories are Footprints of a Life Lived Regardless, memories are precious. And having my thoughts written down at that point of time is definitely much more accurate than if I try to conjure that moment in time again. As they say, your memory of events became less reliable the more time passes by. So in a way, those entries, whilst quite 'useless' for SEO, are in fact more precious than SEO. They are a smudge on the wall as the train of life speeds by, a small marker of existence. Also, they might just come in handy when I start actually sitting down to write my memoir 😂 I hope you enjoy the trip down memory lane as much as I did 🙂 --- ## Timeless Linkups - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does 'Normal' Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) - [Invisible Cities Linkup: Pros & Cons of Living with Chronic Illness in Your City](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-cities-linkup/) --- ## Monthly Linkup Party for People with Chronic Illnesses ### September 2026 Linkup Entries - [Community submissions from September 2026](https://achronicvoice.com/september-writing-prompts-chronic-illness-disabilities-2026/) ### August 2026 Linkup Entries - [Community submissions from August 2026](https://achronicvoice.com/august-writing-prompts-chronic-illness-disabilities-2026/) - [Treatment for AIN 3 — My Experience with Imiquimod & Anal Excision](https://achronicvoice.com/treatment-for-ain-3-my-experience-imiquimod-anal-excision/) ### July 2026 Linkup Entries - [Community submissions from July 2026](https://achronicvoice.com/2026-july-writing-prompts-chronic-illness-disability/) - [A Quick Catch-up with My Chronic Illness Writing Community This July 2026](https://achronicvoice.com/catch-up-chronic-illness-writing-community-july-2026/) --- ### My 2021 Linkup Entries - **June 2021:** [It is \*Always\* Possible to Make Time for What Matters Most](https://achronicvoice.com/make-time-what-matters-most/) - **March 2021:** [Why I Moved from SiteGround to Cloudways (and Couldn't be Happier). Plus Cute Puppy Pics & A New Pacing Strategy.](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/) - **February 2021:** [The Barriers That Throw Rocks into My Bucket List with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/) - **January 2021:** [Timeless Duties Toward Life Every New Year](https://achronicvoice.com/new-year-duties-life/) ### My 2020 Linkup Entries - **October 2020:** [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - **September 2020:** [Triggers Trigger Triggers (Re-Stabilisation Procedure Encore)](https://achronicvoice.com/triggers-trigger-triggers-re-stabilisation/) - **July 2020:** [July's Supply & Demand: Learning to Maximise Wellbeing in the Midst of Stress](https://achronicvoice.com/july-maximise-wellbeing-stress/) - **June 2020:** [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) - **May 2020:** [To Live with Chronic Illness is to Learn to Live with Maybes](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-maybes/) - **April 2020:** [A Hurried Return, but Chronic Illness's Opening Hours Remain Unchanged](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-opening-hours/) - **March 2020:** [Winter Fun, Games & Pain with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-fun-chronic-illness/) - **February 2020:** [Coming Alive in the Winter Air (Pushing for Personal Changes & Group Advocacy)](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-advocacy/) - **January 2020:** [Hello 2020: A Bubble Covered in Glitter. Please Don’t Pop.](https://achronicvoice.com/hello-2020-bubble-glitter-dont-pop/) ### My 2019 Linkup Entries - **December 2019:** [Travelling New Paths with Chronic Illnesses in My Pocket](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-new-paths-chronic-illness/) - **November 2019:** [Plunging Into a Sparkling Sky of Unknown Possibilities, with a Tinge of Nostalgia in Tow](https://achronicvoice.com/unknown-possibilities-nostalgia/) - **October 2019:** [Life is All Sorts of Crazy, but She's Definitely a Keeper](https://achronicvoice.com/life-is-crazy-but-keeper/) - **September 2019:** [On Being a Decent Human Being and Other Thoughts](https://achronicvoice.com/being-decent-human-being/) - **August 2019:** [A Perfect Capture of Life with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/capture-life-with-chronic-illness/) - **July 2019:** [The Eternal Spoonie Struggle: Justifying Rest & Recovery Time](https://achronicvoice.com/spoonie-justifying-rest-recovery-time/) - **June 2019:** [A Pain Pill, a Caress, an Exhalation of Relief](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-pill-caress-relief/) - **May 2019:** [Investigating Chronic Pain Levels Post-Dengue Fever](https://achronicvoice.com/may-2019-investigating-chronic-pain-post-dengue-fever/) - **April 2019:** [Tiring First Quarter Being Muggle Sick](https://achronicvoice.com/tiring-first-quarter-muggle-sick-april-2019/) - **March 2019:** [Epic Fail and Redefining Success](https://achronicvoice.com/epic-fail-redefining-success-march-2019/) - **February 2019:** [Hopes to Awaken Life Within Me Again](https://achronicvoice.com/february-2019-awaken-life-within-me/) - **January 2019:** [Chronic Pain has a Hold on Me, and I Need to Break It](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-hold-break-it-january-2019/) ### My 2018 Linkup Entries: - **December 2018:** [De-Stressing and Winding Down in December 2018](https://achronicvoice.com/de-stressing-december-2018/) - **November 2018:** [Meeting and Collaborating with Chronically Ill People in Real Life](https://achronicvoice.com/meeting-collaborating-chronically-ill-real-life-november-2018/) - **October 2018:** [Trying to Earn Passive Income Whilst Pacing](https://achronicvoice.com/passive-income-pacing-october-2018/) - **September 2018:** [Reconnecting with Friends & Family, and Sharing on Social Media](https://achronicvoice.com/reconnecting-friends-family-sharing-social-media-september-2018/) - **August 2018:** [Boredom Can be Stimulating & Cuddling My Pet Birds](https://achronicvoice.com/boredom-stimulating-cuddling-birds-august-2018/) - **July 2018:** [Blogging Rants & Protecting My Peace](https://achronicvoice.com/blogging-rants-protecting-my-peace-july-2018/) - **June 2018:** [Self-Reminder on Listening to Your Body](https://achronicvoice.com/self-reminder-listening-to-your-body-june-2018/) - **May 2018:** [In Memory of My Parrotlets & Designing My Days](https://achronicvoice.com/memory-parrotlets-designing-my-days-may-2018/) - **April 2018:** [Marvelling at the Miracle of Life & Splurging for My Birthday](https://achronicvoice.com/marvelling-miracle-of-life-splurging-birthday-april-2018/) - **March 2018:** [Sorting My Medications & a Hike Up Little Adam's Peak](https://achronicvoice.com/sorting-medications-hike-little-adams-peak-march-2018/) - **February 2018:** [Adapting to the Ebb & Flow of Chronic Pain and Depression](https://achronicvoice.com/adapting-ebb-flow-chronic-pain-depression-february-2018/) - **January 2018:** [Reflections on My Refreshing Holiday in Australia](https://achronicvoice.com/reflections-refreshing-holiday-in-australia-january-2018/) ### My 2017 Linkup Entries: - **December 2017:** [Recovering from a Cold & Reminiscing My Childhood in Hong Kong](https://achronicvoice.com/recovering-from-cold-reminiscing-childhood-hong-kong-december-2017/) - **November 2017:** [Discovering the Importance of Gut Health & Rediscovering Old Friendships](https://achronicvoice.com/discovering-gut-health-old-friendships-november-2017/) - **September 2017:** [Resisting the Urge to Stress Myself Out Unnecessarily & Supporting the Supporters](https://achronicvoice.com/resisting-stress-supporting-supporters-september-2017/) - **August 2017:** [Missing a Stable Income & Striving Towards Healthier Habits](https://achronicvoice.com/missing-stable-income-striving-healthier-habits-august-2017/) ## That's All for My Diary Entries! So there we go — almost 7 years of self-reflection, using the writing prompts in the monthly linkups. You'll also notice that there is no 2022 or 2023 listed, as I had personally stopped submitting entries. I hope you enjoyed the trip down memory lane together with me. Do or did you also participate in other linkups? What are your thoughts then and now – are they similar or different from mine? ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. ### Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About URL: https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/ Last updated: 2026-08-26T15:11:34.000Z As someone who's chronically ill, a good quote - be it inspirational, sad, funny, even morbid (maybe especially morbid!) - can inspire me to carry on for another day. Words are magical. String them in a sequence, and they can generate so much hope. Rearrange them again, and they can serve to inspire, then stir up fury, before instilling calm once more. I have put together some chronic illness quotes on this page, in hope that it helps you through your day. I personally believe that the best way to deal with chronic pain is through acceptance of our emotions, circumstances, limitations and strengths. I admit that this isn't easy to do, and I still struggle with it. I've arranged the chronic illness quotes below into categories that I feel suits them best to make for easy viewing. I'd also like to emphasise the importance of perspective; some quotes help me today, but not tomorrow. So take only what you need today. It is also my hope that this chronic illness quotes page becomes a community hub. If you have a good quote that you'd like to share, be it from a book, movie, or even your own, please click on 'Contribute a Quote' button below. I plan on updating this page with more chronic illness quotes every now and then, so do come back to browse if you enjoy a good quote. Don't forget to pin your favourite quotes here to share and refer to as well. Thank you and happy browsing! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice*. Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog.* [***Read our Privacy Policy page***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/) *for more information. Thank you!* Changelog: - **19 April 2026**: New Quotes Added - **15 March 2025**: New Quotes Added [Contribute a Quote](https://forms.gle/M81ApAMdPv15nG6W7) Read Related Posts: - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) ## Quotes on Healing & Coping with Chronic Pain ![“Healing involves discomfort. But so is refusing to heal. And over time, refusing to heal is always more painful.” - Resmaa Menakem](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/refusing-heal-more-painful-resmaa-menakem-quote.jpg) “Healing involves discomfort. But so is refusing to heal. And over time, refusing to heal is always more painful.” – Resmaa Menakem ![“You will get through this. You don’t really have a choice.” - Art of Poets](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/demotivational-quote-get-through-this-no-choice-art-of-poets.jpg) “You will get through this. You don’t really have a choice.” – Art of Poets ![“Nobody realises that some people expend tremendous energy merely to be normal.” - Albert Camus](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/tremendous-energy-normal-albert-camus-quote.jpg) “Nobody realises that some people expend tremendous energy merely to be normal.” – Albert Camus ![“Sometimes nourishing yourself means subtracting, not adding.” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/nourishing-yourself-means-subtracting-not-adding-sheryl-chan-achronicvoice-quote.jpg) “Sometimes nourishing yourself means subtracting, not adding.” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice (**[Read the post here](https://achronicvoice.com/july-maximise-wellbeing-stress/)**.) ![“Pain is always new to the sufferer, but loses its originality for those around him. Everyone will get used to it except me.” ― Alphonse Daudet, In the Land of Pain](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pain-new-sufferer-loses-originality-around-alphonse-daudet-quote-bw.jpg) “Pain is always new to the sufferer, but loses its originality for those around him. Everyone will get used to it except me.” ― [Alphonse Daudet, In the Land of Pain](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1101970863?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6ec5860701f839c70702242712ddea8d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“People go through so much pain trying to avoid pain.” — Neil Strauss](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/people-go-through-so-much-pain-avoid-pain-neil-strauss-chronic-pain-quotes-bw.jpg) “People go through so much pain trying to avoid pain.” — Neil Strauss ![“Strength isn't always shown in what you can hold on to, sometimes it's shown in what you can let go of.” ― Aubrey Drake Graham](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/strength-sometimes-shown-what-let-go-aubrey-drake-graham-quote.jpg) “Strength isn't always shown in what you can hold on to, sometimes it's shown in what you can let go of.” ― Aubrey Drake Graham ![“It's okay to do less when you're coping with more.” — Various sources attributed](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/its-okay-do-less-when-coping-with-more-quote.jpg) “It's okay to do less when you're coping with more.” — Various sources attributed Read Related Posts: - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) ## Inspirational Quotes for the Chronically Ill​ ![‘When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps.’ - Confucius](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-goals-action-steps-confucius.jpg) “When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps.” – Confucius !['Start by doing what is necessary, then what is possible, and suddenly you are doing the impossible.’ - Francis of Assisi](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-necessary-possible-impossible-francis-assisi.jpg) “Start by doing what is necessary, then what is possible, and suddenly you are doing the impossible.” – Francis of Assisi ![‘And now you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good.’ - John Steinback](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-done-better-perfect-sheryl-sandberg.jpg) “And now you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good.” – John Steinback ![‘The best place to succeed is where you are with what you have.’ - Charles Schwab](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-best-place-success-charles-schwab.jpg) “The best place to succeed is where you are with what you have.” – Charles Schwab ![‘Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.’ - John Wooden](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-cannot-do-can-do.jpg) “Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.” – John Wooden ![Quote of the Day: “There are victories of the soul and spirit. Sometimes, even if you lose, you win.” - Eliezer Wiesel](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-victories-soul-spirit-lose-win-eliezer-wiesel.jpg) “There are victories of the soul and spirit. Sometimes, even if you lose, you win.” – Eliezer Wiesel ![‘I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something. And because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do the something I can do.’ - Edward Everett Hale](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-only-one-do-everything-do-something-edward-everett-hale.jpg) “I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something. And because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do the something I can do.” – Edward Everett Hale ![‘Real generosity toward the future lies in giving all to the present.’ - Albert Camus](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-generosity-future-giving-present-albert-camus.jpg) “Real generosity toward the future lies in giving all to the present.” – Albert Camus ![“Things work out best for those who make the best of how things work out.” - John Wooden](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-things-work-out-best-john-wooden.jpg) “Things work out best for those who make the best of how things work out.” – John Wooden ![“When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot in it and hang on.” - Franklin D. Roosevelt](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-rope-knot-hang-on-franklin-roosevelt-1.jpg) “When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot in it and hang on.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt ![“There are plenty of difficult obstacles in your path. Don’t allow yourself to become one of them.” – Ralph Marston](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-obstacles-ralph-marston.jpg) “There are plenty of difficult obstacles in your path. Don’t allow yourself to become one of them.” – Ralph Marston ![“I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning how to sail my ship.” - Louisa May Alcott (Background: Storm, blue-grey sea and sky, with a lighthouse in the distance on the right.)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/not-afraid-storms-sail-ship-louisa-may-alcott-quote.jpg) “I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning how to sail my ship.” - Louisa May Alcott *Thank you to [@serenebutterfly](https://x.com/serenebutterfly) of [brainlesionandme.com](https://www.brainlesionandme.com/) for the contribution!* ![“Everyone is gifted - but some people never open their package!” - Wolfgang Riebe](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/everyone-gifted-open-package-wolfgang-riebe-quote.jpeg) “Everyone is gifted - but some people never open their package!” - Wolfgang Riebe ![“Don’t believe everything you think.” - Robert Fulghum](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/dont-believe-everything-think-robert-fulghum-quote.jpeg) “Don’t believe everything you think.” - Robert Fulghum ![“Courage isn’t having the strength to go on - it is going on when you don’t have strength.” - Napoleon Bonaparte](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/courage-strength-go-on-napoleon-bonaparte-quote.jpg) “Courage isn’t having the strength to go on - it is going on when you don’t have strength.” - Napoleon Bonaparte ![“It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it.” - Lou Holtz](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/inspirational-quotes-not-load-breaks-you-down-way-carry.jpg) “It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it.” - Lou Holtz ![“You cannot see your reflection in boiling water. Similarly, you can’t see the truth in a state of anger. When the waters calm, clarity comes.” - Unknown](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/cannot-see-reflection-boiling-water-truth-anger-waters-calm-clarity-quote.jpg) “You cannot see your reflection in boiling water. Similarly, you can’t see the truth in a state of anger. When the waters calm, clarity comes.” - Unknown ![“We are like books. Most people only see our cover, the minority read only the introduction, many people believe the critics. Few will know our content.” - Emile Zola](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/books-people-cover-content-emile-zola-quote.jpg) “We are like books. Most people only see our cover, the minority read only the introduction, many people believe the critics. Few will know our content.” - Emile Zola ![“Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.” — Dalai Lama](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/sometimes-not-getting-stroke-of-luck-dalai-lama-quote.jpg) “Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.” — [Dalai Lama](https://www.dalailama.com/) ![“Balance isn't fitting everything in. It's starting with what's important and letting the rest fall as it will.” — Erica Layne](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/balance-starting-important-letting-rest-fall0erica-layne-quote.jpg) “Balance isn't fitting everything in. It's starting with what's important and letting the rest fall as it will.” — Erica Layne ![“We are not going in circles, we are going upwards. The path is a spiral; we have already climbed many steps.” — Hermann Hesse](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/not-going-circles-path-spiral-climbed-many-steps-hermann-hesse-quote.jpg) “We are not going in circles, we are going upwards. The path is a spiral; we have already climbed many steps.” — Hermann Hesse Read Related Posts: - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [You Don’t Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [Asking for Help (and Why Everyone Needs to Learn this Important Life Skill)](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) - [Flowers are the Most Beautiful When They’re Just About to Die (and What That’s Got to Do with Being a Spoonie)](https://achronicvoice.com/flowers-most-beautiful-die-spoonie/) ## Quotes on Time & Patience​ ![‘Patience is also a form of action.’ - Auguste Rodin](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-patience-action-auguste-rodin.jpg) “Patience is also a form of action.” - Auguste Rodin ![“Breathe. What else in life could be more important than that?” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-breathe-life-important-a-sheryl-chan-a-chronic-voice.jpg) “Breathe. What else in life could be more important than that?” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice (**[Read the full poem here.](https://achronicvoice.com/just-breathing-enough-today-poem/)**) ![‘Time is a created thing. To say ‘I don’t have time,’ is like saying, ‘I don’t want to.’’ - Unknown](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-time-created.jpg) “Time is a created thing. To say ‘I don’t have time,’ is like saying, ‘I don’t want to.” – Unknown (Various sources attributed) ![“If we take care of the moments, the years will take care of themselves.” - Maria Edgeworth (Background: Gritty texture in warm hues. Round analog clocks in various sizes stacking horizontally upwards from left to right. A man is running atop a clock. Another stands at the bottom gazing up.)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/take-care-moments-years-take-care-themselves-maria-edgeworth-quote.jpg) “If we take care of the moments, the years will take care of themselves.” - Maria Edgeworth ![“You should sit in meditation for 20 minutes every day- unless you are too busy. Then you should sit for an hour.” - Zen Proverb](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/sit-meditation-20-minutes-unless-busy-hour-zen-proverb.jpg) “You should sit in meditation for 20 minutes every day- unless you are too busy. Then you should sit for an hour.” - Zen Proverb (Also see: [The Little Book of Zen: Sayings, Parables, Meditations & Haiku](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1523512458?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=02d448db2ab0e449a67ad213d80fdee7&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl)) ![“If you're waiting for the right time... Time never comes, time only goes.” — Azereth Skivel](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/waiting-right-time-never-comes-only-goes-azereth-skivel-quote.jpg) “If you're waiting for the right time... Time never comes, time only goes.” — Azereth Skivel Read Related Posts: - [It is \*Always\* Possible to Make Time for What Matters Most](https://achronicvoice.com/make-time-what-matters-most/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [Dealing with Pain, One Second at a Time](https://achronicvoice.com/dealing-with-pain/) ## Quotes on Joy & Happiness​ ![‘Stop looking for happiness in the same place you lost it.’ - Anonymous](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-happiness-lost.jpg) “Stop looking for happiness in the same place you lost it.” - Anonymous ![“Our idea of happiness is our main obstacle to happiness.” - Thich Nhat Hanh](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-idea-happiness-thich-nhat-hanh.jpg) “Our idea of happiness is our main obstacle to happiness.” - Thich Nhat Hanh Read Related Posts: - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or ‘How to Relax’ by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [Find Your Way Back to Happiness with a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/find-happiness-chronic-illness/) ![“The smallest act of kindness is worth more than the greatest intention.” - Kahlil Gibran (Background: 3 hands holding red heart-shaped cutouts up at the bottom. Star shapes and gritty green background texture.)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/smallest-act-kindness-worth-more-greatest-intention-kahlil-gibran-quote.jpg) “The smallest act of kindness is worth more than the greatest intention.” - Kahlil Gibran ![“Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.” - Dalai Lama](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/be-kind-whenever-possible-dalai-lama-quote.jpg) “Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.” - Dalai Lama ![“Joy exists whether you exist or not, and is always ripe for a taste.” – Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/joy-exists-whether-youexist-always-ripe-taste-sheryl-chan-a-chronic-voice-quote.jpg) “Joy exists whether you exist or not, and is always ripe for a taste.” – Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice ![“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” — Helen Keller](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/one-door-happiness-closes-another-opens-helen-keller-quote.jpg) “When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” — [Helen Keller](https://afb.org/about-afb/history/helen-keller/biography-and-chronology/biography) Read Related Posts: - [Kick Ass With Kindness and a Sweet Cherry on Top](https://achronicvoice.com/kick-ass-with-kindness/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [Why Humility is the Best Tool for Advocacy](https://achronicvoice.com/humility-advocacy/) - [My Second Brush with Death: A Broken Heart (Literally)](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) ## Affirmations & Self-Love Chronic Illness Quotes ![‘Don’t set sail on someone else’s star.‘ - African Proverb](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-sail-star-african-proverb.jpg) “Don’t set sail on someone else’s star.” - African Proverb ![‘Character is what you know you are, not what others think you have.’ – Marva Collins](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-character-marva-collins.jpg) “Character is what you know you are, not what others think you have.” – Marva Collins ![‘The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any.’ - Alice Walker](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-common-way-power-alice-walker.jpg) “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any.” - Alice Walker ![‘There is only one me amongst the billions of us on this planet, and we are all worth something in that regard.’ - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-only-one-me-worth-sheryl-chan.jpg) “There is only one me amongst the billions of us on this planet, and we are all worth something in that regard.” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice (**[Read the post here](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/)**.) ![“My body is a bloody mess, but I love it just the same.” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-body-mess-love-same-sheryl-chan-a-chronic-voice.jpg) “My body is a bloody mess, but I love it just the same.” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice ![“Certain things lose their power the moment you accept them to be true, because they can no longer prey on your thoughts. Take your self-confidence back.” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-lose-power-accept-true-thoughts-self-confidence-sheryl-chan-a-chronic-voice.jpg) “Certain things lose their power the moment you accept them to be true, because they can no longer prey on your thoughts. Take your self-confidence back.” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice (**[Read the post here](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/)**.) ![“My vulnerability may symbolise weakness, yet becomes a strength when used like a knife. I don’t have to put the broken pieces back together, because what would I cut and mark with, then?” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-vulnerability-strength-sheryl-chan-a-chronic-voice.jpg) “My vulnerability may symbolise weakness, yet becomes a strength when used like a knife. I don’t have to put the broken pieces back together, because what would I cut and mark with, then?” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice (**[Read the post here](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/)**.) ![“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that there was something wrong with me.” - Glennon Doyle (Background: Top image of an orange sunset and dark ship with sails on the right.)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/belief-something-wrong-me-glennon-doyle-quote.jpg) “The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that there was something wrong with me.” - Glennon Doyle ![“Be you, love you. All ways, always.” - Alexandra Elle (Background: Watercolour rose on top right, another smaller one with leaves and branch on the top left.)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/be-you-love-you-alexandra-elle-quote.jpg) “Be you, love you. All ways, always.” - Alexandra Elle ![“A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because its trust is not on the branch but on its own wings.” - Charlie Wardle, Understanding & Building Confidence (Background: Flat lay of blue clouds and swallows.)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-live-exist-oscar-wilde.jpg) “A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because its trust is not on the branch but on its own wings.” - Charlie Wardle ![“Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years.” - “Gates’ Law” (Background: A mix of five different male and female people with fingers against their chin gazing upwards in thought.)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/people-overestimate-underestimate--gates-law-quote.jpg) “Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years.” - Known as [“Gates’ Law”](https://fs.blog/gates-law/); original author unknown ![“When you give up, there is a sense of despair and lost hope. There is nothing else to look forward to in life. Self-acceptance on the other hand is empowering.” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/give-up-despair-lost-hope-self-acceptance-empowering-sheryl-chan-quote.jpg) “When you give up, there is a sense of despair and lost hope. There is nothing else to look forward to in life. Self-acceptance on the other hand is empowering.” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice (**[Read the post here](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/)**.) ![“You can only lose something that you have, but you cannot lose something that you are.” - Eckhark Tolle](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/lose-something-have-cannot-lose-you-eckhart-tolle-quote.jpeg) “You can only lose something that you have, but you cannot lose something that you are.” - Eckhark Tolle ![“Remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” - Eleanor Roosevelt](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/no-one-make-you-inferior-without-consent-eleanor-roosevelt-quote.jpeg) “Remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” - Eleanor Roosevelt ![“Your story is what you have, what you will always have. It is something to own.” – Michelle Obama](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/story-what-always-have-own-michelle-obama.jpeg) “Your story is what you have, what you will always have. It is something to own.” – [Michelle Obama](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1524763144?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c0adc9e4eb8ae3a356ea265fa89ac541&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“Sometimes when you lose your way, you find yourself.” — Mandy Hale](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/lose-way-find-self-mandy-hale-quote.jpeg) “Sometimes when you lose your way, you find yourself.” — [Mandy Hale](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1546012354?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c9d8f25654688a974c01a196c95258f0&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“You have been criticising yourself for years and it hasn't worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” - Louise Hay](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/criticising-self-approving-louise-hay-quote.jpg) “You have been criticising yourself for years and it hasn't worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” — [Louise Hay](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1401912095?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=7a3aeb49ad1cad7b1f51dca5b52a8d8c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“We are all ordinary. We are all boring. We are all spectacular. We are all shy. We are all bold. We are all heroes. We are all helpless. It just depends on the day.” - Brad Meltzer](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/all-ordinary-boring-spectacular-shy-bold-heroes-helpless-day-brad-meltzer-quote.jpg) “We are all ordinary. We are all boring. We are all spectacular. We are all shy. We are all bold. We are all heroes. We are all helpless. It just depends on the day.” — Brad Meltzer ![“Your scars are a warning to all future monsters, of the hell you have survived before them, every demon you vanquished, and every battle you won.” - Nikita Gill](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/scars-warning-future-monsters-hell-survived-demon-vanquished-battle-won-nikita-gill-quote.jpg) “Your scars are a warning to all future monsters, of the hell you have survived before them, every demon you vanquished, and every battle you won.” — [Nikita Gill](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0316519847?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=d9aec7be3f1f3aeb18b2796d5b3b9a67&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“There is nothing wrong with being fragile, my dear. A fragile thing like you has the power to cut someone in two.” - Eloise Night](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/nothing-wrong-fragile-power-cut-two-eloise-night-quote.jpg) “There is nothing wrong with being fragile, my dear. A fragile thing like you has the power to cut someone in two.” - Eloise Night **[(Read related post here.)](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/)** ![“No one can heal you the way you can heal yourself, and that’s one of your greatest superpowers.” - Spiritual League?](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/no-one-heal-you-heal-yourself-greatest-superpowers-spiritual-league-quote.jpg) “No one can heal you the way you can heal yourself, and that’s one of your greatest superpowers.” – Spiritual League? ![“What other people think of me is none of my business.” — Wayne Dyer](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/other-people-think-me-business-wayne-dyer-quote.jpg) “What other people think of me is none of my business.” — [Wayne Dyer](https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B000AQ104Y/allbooks?ccs%5Fid=d0f58121-b631-4a80-8e50-cf1d9b75b7a1&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=28e24be4d99b4d55d8b193629bb057ca&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“You cannot be anything you want to be - but you can be a lot more of who you already are.” — Tom Rath, Strengths Finder](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/cannot-be-anything-want-be-more-who-already-tom-rath-strengths-finder-quote.jpg) “You cannot be anything you want to be - but you can be a lot more of who you already are.” — [Tom Rath, Strengths Finder](https://www.amazon.com/dp/159562015X?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c38e8beef6899c46f1fdce6f7ad704b5&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“Capability is to pursue life, but sometimes that means focusing inwards and not pushing outwards.” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/capability-pursue-life-focussing-inwards-sheryl-chan-a-chronic-voice-quote.jpg) “Capability is to pursue life, but sometimes that means focusing inwards and not pushing outwards.” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice. (**[Read the post here.](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/)**) ![“Self-compassion is an extension of acceptance, where we give ourselves the permission we need to heal.” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/self-compassion-extension-acceptance-permission-heal-sheryl-chan-achronicvoice-quote.jpg) “Self-compassion is an extension of acceptance, where we give ourselves the permission we need to heal.” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice (**[Read the post here.](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/)**) ![“Be careful how you are talking to yourself, because you are listening.” — Lisa Hayes](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/be-careful-how-talking-yourself-you-listening-lisa-hayes-quote.jpg) “Be careful how you are talking to yourself, because you are listening.” — Lisa Hayes ![“Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.” - Rick Warren](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/humility-thinking-yourself-less-rick-warren-quote.jpg) “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.” - Rick Warren (**[Read the post here.)](https://achronicvoice.com/humility-advocacy/)** ![“I’ll never harden my heart, but I’ve toughened the muscles around it.” - Dolly Parton](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/never-harden-heart-toughed-muscles-dolly-parton-quote.jpg) “I’ll never harden my heart, but I’ve toughened the muscles around it.” - Dolly Parton ![“Humble enough to know I can be replaced. Wise enough to know that there is nobody else like me.” — Unknown](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/humble-enough-know-can-replaced-wise-know-nobody-else-like-me-quote.jpg) “Humble enough to know I can be replaced. Wise enough to know that there is nobody else like me.” — Unknown Read Related Posts: - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Are You a Capable Person? What Does That Even Mean?](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) [Subscribe for More](#/portal/) ## Productivity & Motivational Quotes​ ![“If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten.” - Anonymous](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-do-always-done-gotten-anonymous.jpg) “If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten.” - Anonymous ![“The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.” - Stephen Covey](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-main-thing-stephen-covey.jpg) “The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.” — [Stephen Covey](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1982137274?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=d33410f2ce7b305348c7996a5c406d73&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“Done is better than perfect.” - Sheryl Sandberg](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-done-better-perfect-sheryl-sandberg.jpg) “Done is better than perfect.” - Sheryl Sandberg ![“Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.” - William James](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-act-makes-difference-does-william-james.jpg) “Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.” - William James ![“Don’t be pushed by your problems, be led by your dreams.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-pushed-problems-led-dreams-ralph-waldo-emerson.jpg) “Don’t be pushed by your problems, be led by your dreams.” — [Ralph Waldo Emerson](https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B000AP7ZOO/allbooks?ccs%5Fid=4bd62842-d8ab-4b91-b0b8-bb1933b22b13&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=9f452636385b2e617c6b7c63bd5a2097&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“Don’t be afraid to give up the good to go for the great.” - John D. Rockefeller](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-give-up-good-for-great-john-rockefeller.jpg) “Don’t be afraid to give up the good to go for the great.” - John D. Rockefeller ![“If you want something you’ve never had, you must be willing to do something you’ve never done.” - Thomas Jefferson](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/want-something-never-had-willing-never-done-thomas-jefferson-quote.jpg) “If you want something you’ve never had, you must be willing to do something you’ve never done.” - Thomas Jefferson ![“Face your fears voluntarily: that’s the cure.” - Jordan Peterson](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/face-fears-voluntarily-cure-jordan-peterson-quote.jpg) “Face your fears voluntarily: that’s the cure.” - Jordan Peterson ![“The master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried.” - Stephen McCranie](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/master-failed-more-times-beginner-tried-stephen-mccranie-quote.jpg) “The master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried.” - Stephen McCranie (**[Read related post here.](https://achronicvoice.com/dont-compare-life-destination-special/)**) ![“It is not the size of the dog in the fight that counts, but the fight in the dog that wins.” ― Arthur G. Lewis, Stub Ends of Thought and Verse](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/not-size-dog-fight-counts-but-fight-dog-wins-arthur-g-lewis-quote.jpg) “It is not the size of the dog in the fight that counts, but the fight in the dog that wins.” ― [Arthur G. Lewis, Stub Ends of Thought and Verse](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00480PSMS?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=8a1d70c6a6c3de9979adb7b4ed0075b8&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![Self-esteem quotes — “Stay afraid, but do it anyway. What’s important is the action. You don’t have to wait to be confident. Just do it and eventually the confidence will follow.” — Carrie Fisher](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/self-esteem-quotes-stay-afraid-but-do-anyway-action-confident-confidence-carrie-fisher-quote.jpg) “Stay afraid, but do it anyway. What’s important is the action. You don’t have to wait to be confident. Just do it and eventually the confidence will follow.” — [Carrie Fisher](https://carriefisher.com/) Read Related Posts: - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [Give Your Best Anyway, Even When You’re Feeling Depressed](https://achronicvoice.com/give-your-best-even-when-feeling-depressed/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - [#projChronicWisdom: Secret Motivation Tips for When You’re Unmotivated](https://achronicvoice.com/projchronicwisdom-motivation-tips/) ## Quotes on Life & Hope​ ![“In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on.” - Robert Frost](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-3-words-life-goes-on-robert-frost.jpg) “In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on.” — [Robert Frost](https://www.amazon.com/dp/9363119025?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e67425c2561bdec4cfaf4eb0af0e16fe&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“The meaning of life differs from man to man, and from moment to moment.” - Viktor Frankl](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-meaning-life-man-moment-viktor-frankl.jpg) “The meaning of life differs from man to man, and from moment to moment.” - Viktor Frankl (**[Read more here.](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/)**) ![“Clay is fashioned into vessels; but it is on their empty hollowness that their use depends.” — Lao Tzu](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-clay-vessels-hollowness-lao-tzu.jpg) “Clay is fashioned into vessels; but it is on their empty hollowness that their use depends.” — [Lao Tzu](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0061142662?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=0463b92dc187bd47e88e5cdc33fa80a9&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) (**[Read the post here.](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/)**) ![“How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.” — Annie Dillard](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-spend-days-lives-annie-dillard.jpg) “How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.” — [Annie Dillard](https://www.amazon.com/stores/Annie-Dillard/author/B000APWASA?ccs%5Fid=89ab0c0b-230e-4687-8623-741cb994ae5d&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=383eee039d6ae371a54bfeb9fb66d0bc&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.” — Oscar Wilde](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-live-exist-oscar-wilde.jpg) “To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.” — [Oscar Wilde](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0007144369?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b2c3b480d6225c00f49a8faf24ae6ac6&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“If life were predictable it would cease to be life, and be without flavour.” — Eleanor Roosevelt](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-life-predictable-flavour-eleanor-roosevelt.jpg) “If life were predictable it would cease to be life, and be without flavour.” — [Eleanor Roosevelt](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1439192049?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=4f05defa5ef1842e930f542670337f0b&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“Every next level of your life will demand a different you.” - Leonardo Di Caprio](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-next-level-life-leonardo-di-caprio.jpg) “Every next level of your life will demand a different you.” - Leonardo Di Caprio (**[Read the post for more insight.](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/)**) ![“Think of giving not as a duty but as a privilege.” - John D. Rockefeller Jr.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-giving-duty-privilege-john-rockefeller.jpg) “Think of giving not as a duty but as a privilege.” - John D. Rockefeller Jr. ![“Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it. My optimism, then, does not rest on the absence of evil, but on a glad belief in the preponderance of good and a willing effort always to cooperate with the good, that it may prevail.” ― Helen Keller](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/world-full-suffering-overcoming-optimism-good-prevail-helen-keller-quote.jpeg) “Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it. My optimism, then, does not rest on the absence of evil, but on a glad belief in the preponderance of good and a willing effort always to cooperate with the good, that it may prevail.” ― [Helen Keller](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1542315824?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=195a7cf1074dc10640b54139d1f9d8e4&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“Maybe life isn’t about avoiding the bruises. Maybe it’s about collecting the scars to prove that we showed up for it.” — Hannah Brencher](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/life-avoiding-bruises-scars-showed-up-hannah-brencher-quote.jpg) “Maybe life isn’t about avoiding the bruises. Maybe it’s about collecting the scars to prove that we showed up for it.” — [Hannah Brencher](https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B00MAPCYTI?ccs%5Fid=5b2c6edb-5489-432a-9fab-c5fe0747b9ce&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=317e2f4ad71dab1c3b87971457165f13&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“Don’t let yesterday take up too much of today.” - Will Rogers](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/dont-let-yesterday-take-up-today-will-rogers-quote.jpg) “Don’t let yesterday take up too much of today.” — [Will Rogers](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1482041391?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=283402abccb095526fcf43dc6c44300c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“Let the waves carry you where the light can not.” - Mohit Kaushik Yenugwar](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/waves-carry-light-can-not-quote.jpg) “Let the waves carry you where the light can not.” - Mohit Kaushik Yenugwar ![“Live to the point of tears.” - Albert Camus](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/live-point-tears-albert-camus-quote.jpg) “Live to the point of tears.” — [Albert Camus](https://www.amazon.com/stores/Albert-Camus/author/B000AQ541E?ccs%5Fid=f3a8e437-1239-4ff4-ab09-4183827c3d4f&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=fe889835ecb1ac98c552028aa1a3f09b&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“Everything has its wonders, even darkness and silence, and I learn, whatever state I may be in, therein to be content.” — Helen Keller](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/everything-wonders-darkness-silence-state-content-helen-keller-quote.jpg) “Everything has its wonders, even darkness and silence, and I learn, whatever state I may be in, therein to be content.” — [Helen Keller](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0486292495?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6f1adff0ac08a1be5306478dc424d2b5&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.” - Martin Luther King, Jr.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/accept-finite-disappointment-never-lose-infinite-hope-martin-luther-king-jr-quote.jpg) “We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.” — [Martin Luther King, Jr.](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1250335647?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ab382af99d2b6226492fad2ef531d524&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“Life is like a piano; the white keys represent happiness and the black show sadness. But as you go through life's journey, remember that the black keys also create music.” - Ehssan](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/life-piano-white-keys-happiness-black-keys-sadness-music-ehssan-quote.jpg) “Life is like a piano; the white keys represent happiness and the black show sadness. But as you go through life's journey, remember that the black keys also create music.” - Ehssan ![“To be a human being among people and to remain one forever, no matter in what circumstances, not to grow despondent and not to lose heart - that’s what life is all about, that’s its task.” - Fyodor Dostoyevsky](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/human-being-circumstances-despondent-lose-heart-life-task-fyodor-dostoyevsky-quote.jpg) “To be a human being among people and to remain one forever, no matter in what circumstances, not to grow despondent and not to lose heart - that’s what life is all about, that’s its task.” — [Fyodor Dostoyevsky](https://www.amazon.com/dp/9362140527?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e8ec7a027cd19ca382a8b73fb067b69b&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“People speak of hope as if it is this delicate, ephemeral thing made of whispers and spider’s webs. It's not. Hope has dirt on her face, blood on her knuckles, the grit of the cobblestones in her hair, and just spat out a tooth as she rises for another go.” - Matthew (CrowsFault)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/hope-dirt-on-face-matthew-crowsfault-quote.jpg) “People speak of hope as if it is this delicate, ephemeral thing made of whispers and spider’s webs. It's not. Hope has dirt on her face, blood on her knuckles, the grit of the cobblestones in her hair, and just spat out a tooth as she rises for another go.” - Matthew ([CrowsFault](https://x.com/CrowsFault/status/1502001835779014666)) ![“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default.” — J. K. Rowling](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/impossible-live-without-failing-j-k-rowling-quote.jpg) “It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default.” — [J. K. Rowling](https://www.amazon.com/stores/J.K.-Rowling/author/B000AP9A6K?ccs%5Fid=52391492-6e88-49ea-bea9-b194e2abbdb7&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=1e10dd8c5896c1e45525a47f3dd19c84&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” — Joseph Campbell](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/tried-bury-us-didnt-know-seeds-dinos-christianopoulos-quote.jpg) “They tried to bury us, but they didn’t know we were seeds.” - Dinos Christianopoulos Read Related Posts: - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [Every Next Level of Your Life Will Demand a Different You](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) - [Life is a Long Process of Becoming Into…](https://achronicvoice.com/life-is-a-long-process-of-becoming-into/) - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does 'Normal' Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) ## Quotes on Change​ & Resilience ![“When we give ourselves permission to fail, we, at the same time, give ourselves permission to excel.” - Eloise Ristad](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-permission-fail-excel-eloise-ristad.jpg) “When we give ourselves permission to fail, we, at the same time, give ourselves permission to excel.” — [Eloise Ristad](https://www.amazon.com/stores/Eloise-Ristad/author/B001KMNCN4?ccs%5Fid=645fc25d-797a-41de-ae60-d30dd4e491c7&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=9f7159ee63c444a6ed309303e8ca723f&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“The man who moves a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.” — Confucius](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/moves-mountain-small-stones-confucius-quote.jpg) “The man who moves a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.” — [Confucius](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1941129498?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6f401c3b42c0f5fd76932a0d4acf1e2e&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” - Socrates](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-secret-change-focus-energy-old-new-socrates.jpg) “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” — [Socrates](https://www.amazon.com/dp/9355217889?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=8da6717f3509cc78c3a907880178e59a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) (**[Read the post here.](https://achronicvoice.com/secret-of-change/)**) ![“If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude.” -Maya Angelou](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-change-attitude-maya-angelou.jpg) “If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude.” — [Maya Angelou](https://www.amazon.com/stores/Maya-Angelou/author/B000AQ8Q00?ccs%5Fid=c84b7ffd-6122-4f82-b793-48bdb2a1b2a2&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=04806ae7b252c79aa32587f42a0f2b92&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“Impossible is merely possibility waiting to be solved. If we know it’s impossible, then we do not know enough.” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/impossible-possibility-waiting-solved-sheryl-chan-a-chronic-voice-quote.jpg) “Impossible is merely possibility waiting to be solved. If we know it’s impossible, then we do not know enough.” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice (**[Learn more about my perspectives here.](https://achronicvoice.com/about/)**) ![“If it costs you your peace, it's too expensive.” - Nassim Nicholas Taleb](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/costs-you-peace-expensive-nassim-taleb-quote.jpg) “If it costs you your peace, it's too expensive.” — [Nassim Nicholas Taleb, The Bed of Procrustes: Philosophical and Practical Aphorisms](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0812982401?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=cdc5fd23e63c181ca02df6f3619872b2&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“Just take any step, whether small or large. And then another and repeat day after day. It may take months, maybe years, but the path to success will become clear.” — Aaron Ross](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/take-any-step-path-become-clear-aaron-ross-quote.jpeg) “Just take any step, whether small or large. And then another and repeat day after day. It may take months, maybe years, but the path to success will become clear.” — [Aaron Ross](https://www.amazon.com/stores/Aaron-Ross/author/B003GD50ZI?ccs%5Fid=5cff51ac-e619-4b4b-a43f-822de0fd73f0&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=d1d3f1a4913968cc081b4e4ad9c0ca50&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) (**[Read related post here.](https://achronicvoice.com/give-your-best-even-when-feeling-depressed/)**) ![“To get better this year, means getting better today.” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/get-better-this-year-today-sheryl-chan-quote.jpeg) “To get better this year, means getting better today.” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice ![“You won’t find the same person twice, not even in the same person.” - Mahmoud Darwish](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/wont-find-same-person-twice-same-person-mahmoud-darwish-quote.jpg) “You won’t find the same person twice, not even in the same person.” — [Mahmoud Darwish](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935744011?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b4a52b187f9a60a21d6a12e7144415a8&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) (**[Read related post here.](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/)**) ![“The goal is not to change who you are but to become more of who you are at your best.” - Sally Hogshead](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/goal-change-become-more-best-sally-hogshead-quote.jpg) “The goal is not to change who you are but to become more of who you are at your best.” — [Sally Hogshead](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0062230697?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=0bbb6c6c81f16ba7b571dc8e12b55d4e&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“A wise man once said: “Don’t be afraid to start over again. This time, you’re not starting from scratch. You’re starting from experience.” - Anonymous](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/wise-man-afraid-start-over-scratch-experience-quote.jpg) “A wise man once said: “Don’t be afraid to start over again. This time, you’re not starting from scratch. You’re starting from experience.” - Anonymous ![“Where your fear is, there your task is.” - Carl Jung](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/where-fear-is-task-is-carl-jung-quote.jpg) “Where your fear is, there your task is.” — [Carl Jung](https://www.amazon.com/dp/9363112381?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=790976c0855ca79f2942aa8f6eec90a3&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) (**[Read related post here.](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/)**) ![“It is not the most intellectual of the speciesthat survives; it is not the strongest that survives; but the species that survives is the one that is able to adapt to and to adjust best to the changing environment in which it finds itself.” - Charles Darwin](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/not-strongest-survive-responsive-change-charles-darwin-quote.jpg) “It is not the most intellectual of the speciesthat survives; it is not the strongest that survives; but the species that survives is the one that is able to adapt to and to adjust best to the changing environment in which it finds itself.” - [Charles Darwin](https://quoteinvestigator.com/2014/05/04/adapt/) ![“If you think you are too small to make a difference, try sleeping with a mosquito.” — Dalai Lama](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/small-difference-sleeping-mosquito-dalai-lama-quote.jpg) “If you think you are too small to make a difference, try sleeping with a mosquito.” — [Dalai Lama](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1573227544?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=32e7109432bc766c3b83a6855ce628bc&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“Big things are built one brick at a time. Victories are achieved one choice at a time. A life well lived is chosen one day at a time.” - Lysa TerKeurst](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/life-well-lived-chosen-day-at-a-time-lysa-terkeurst-quote.jpg) “Big things are built one brick at a time. Victories are achieved one choice at a time. A life well lived is chosen one day at a time.” — [Lysa TerKeurst](https://www.amazon.com/stores/Lysa-TerKeurst/author/B001IGJTPC?ccs%5Fid=567ee794-729d-43b4-89b5-c548ced334ea&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b1c0ae710e48590c8e047b86788116d5&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“It is impossible for you to go on as you were before, so you must go on as you never have.” — Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar ](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/impossible-go-on-as-you-were-before-chery-strayed-quote.jpg) “It is impossible for you to go on as you were before, so you must go on as you never have.” — [Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar ](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0307949338?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=3cbf4fbb67794f12fc727b6375c13649&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.” ― Alan Wilson Watts](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/only-way-make-sense-change-plunge-move-join-dance-alan-wilson-watts-quote.jpg) “The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.” ― [Alan Wilson Watts](https://www.amazon.com/stores/Alan-Watts/author/B000AP9KWO?ccs%5Fid=e0c07f5f-48e9-4291-9044-6d6f5c4e0f3e&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6627d593b02da41ffca72bf18bb6c8e6&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” — Joseph Campbell ](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/willing-let-go-life-planned-have-life-waiting-joseph-campbell-quote.jpg) “We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” — [Joseph Campbell](https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B000AQ33DK/about?ccs%5Fid=0d4c6ad4-2920-42ad-ab2e-e81f5918df83&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=771f2eeb8675c6ff294356afe810507f&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [The Secret of Change: Spend Your Energy Wisely with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/secret-of-change/) - [Dealing with Pain, One Second at a Time](https://achronicvoice.com/dealing-with-pain/) - [What You Reshare Can Change Someone Else’s Life Forever](https://achronicvoice.com/what-you-reshare-can-change-life/) ## Funny Chronic Illness Quotes ![“Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there.” – Will Rogers](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-right-track-will-rogers.jpg) “Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there.” — [Will Rogers](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1482041391?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=492e28a6d65f229ca8a40d063ad88f65&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily.” - Zig Ziglar](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-motivation-bathing-zig-ziglar.jpg) “People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily.” — [Zig Ziglar](https://www.amazon.com/stores/Zig-Ziglar/author/B000AP7VIY?ccs%5Fid=9620028c-57d1-4971-93b3-9978d1e88e7b&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=85031e67bc445e8e1c48055ec742eed0&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“Life gave me so many lemons I don't know what to do with all the spares. Would you like one?” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/life-lemons-a-chronic-voice-quote-sheryl-chan.jpg) “Life gave me so many lemons I don't know what to do with all the spares. Would you like one?” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice (**[Check out more humorous chronic illness memes here](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/)**.) ![“If at first you don't succeed, have some cake.” “I see. Does it work?” “Every time.” ― Charlie Mackesy, The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/dont-succeed-have-cake-charlie-mackesy-book-quote.jpg) “If at first you don't succeed, have some cake.” “I see. Does it work?” “Every time.” ― [Charlie Mackesy, The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0062976583?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ed67e7625f42d84fe7806664e2f3f7ef&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) (Also, there is a [new book](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0593994825?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=7064984b013540b2948d5452580802ca&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl)!) ![“Laughter is the best medicine. Crying is the affordable generic brand.” - Marianne Williamson](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/laughter-best-medicine-crying-affordable-generic-brand-marianne-williamson-quote.jpg) “Laughter is the best medicine. Crying is the affordable generic brand.” — [Marianne Williamson](https://www.amazon.com/stores/Marianne-Williamson/author/B00455T7KU?ccs%5Fid=90895bd6-cfc6-477e-912c-ca78c5f01d1d&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=47275c0674c26daf02f9545f07a465b6&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“There cannot be a stressful crisis next week. My schedule is already full.” - Henry Kissinger](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/life-chronic-illness-stressful-crisis-next-week-schedule-full-henry-kissinger-quote.jpg) “There cannot be a stressful crisis next week. My schedule is already full.” — [Henry Kissinger](https://www.amazon.com/stores/Henry-Kissinger/author/B00MC1YV4G?ccs%5Fid=7ca4fd90-835a-4faa-aae7-8c0e5e51ca0c&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=8c6bceacf00d35f713127cf12c517111&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“I try to take one day at a time, but sometimes several days attack me at once.” - Jennifer Yane](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/take-one-day-time-several-days-attack-jennifer-yane-quote.jpg) “I try to take one day at a time, but sometimes several days attack me at once.” - Jennifer Yane ![“I love sleep. My life has the tendency to fall apart when I’m awake, you know?” - Ernest Hemingway](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/love-sleep-life-fall-apart-awake-ernest-hemingway-quote.jpg) “I love sleep. My life has the tendency to fall apart when I’m awake, you know?” — [Ernest Hemingway](https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Ernest+Hemingway&crid=2XWOKW6BV3D9O&sprefix=ernest+hemingway%2Caps%2C418&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=70009a16f60e461b7f644dbd90da9ed9&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) (**[Read related post here.](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/)**) ![“This too shall pass. It may pass like a kidney stone, but it will pass.” – Unknown](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/this-shall-pass-kidney-stone-quote.jpg) “This too shall pass. It may pass like a kidney stone, but it will pass.” – Unknown ![“I swear if I have to go through any more character development, my character is going to develop into a villain.” — Unknown](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/swear-go-through-character-development-villain-chronic-illness-quotes.jpg) “I swear if I have to go through any more character development, my character is going to develop into a villain.” — Unknown ![“I must have been pretty badass in my previous life to accrue this much bad karma.” — Sheryl Chan (A Chronic Voice)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pretty-badass-previous-life-accrue-karma-sheryl-chan-achronicvoice-quote.jpg) “I must have been pretty badass in my previous life to accrue this much bad karma.” — Sheryl Chan (A Chronic Voice) ![“Be careful about reading health books. You may die of a misprint.” — Mark Twain](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/careful-reading-health-books-die-misprint-mark-twain-quote.jpg) “Be careful about reading health books. You may die of a misprint.” — [Mark Twain](https://www.amazon.com/stores/Mark-Twain/author/B000APWHJ2?ccs%5Fid=dfb3d8f5-f19d-412e-84a6-2cee9126f804&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=07e20df35b51afc5690a9a291c593b7c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Chronic Stress, the Silent Assassin](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or ‘How to Relax’ by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) ## Quotes on Grief, Loss & Sorrow ![“Grief, like chronic pain, comes and goes. It is the ocean, and I am the shore. I will be broken, but there I remain.” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-grief-chronic-pain-ocean-shore-broken-remain-sheryl-chan-a-chronic-voice.jpg) “Grief, like chronic pain, comes and goes. It is the ocean, and I am the shore. I will be broken, but there I remain.” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice (**[Read the post here.](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/)**) ![“For of all sad words of tongue or pen, the saddest are these: ‘It might have been.’” – John Greenleaf Whittier](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/sad-words-tongue-pen-saddest-might-have-been-john-greenleaf-whittier-quote.jpg) “For of all sad words of tongue or pen, the saddest are these: ‘It might have been.’” — [John Greenleaf Whittier](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0091HYTAK?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=caa447e1d65b7f80be9053705ba3fe1e&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) (**[Read the post here.](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girls-diary-wish-old-person/)**) ![“We think that death is an absence, when in fact it's a secret presence.” - Valérie Perrin](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/death-absence-secret-presence-valerie-perrin-quote.jpg) “We think that death is an absence, when in fact it's a secret presence.” — [Valérie Perrin, Fresh Water for Flowers](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1609456769?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c7d41d104481e470338db6329b3e620e&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“When it comes, it comes. When it goes, it goes. But sit with it, and you’ll be okay.” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/whhen-comes-goes-sit-okay-sheryl-chan-a-chronic-voice-quote.jpg) “When it comes, it comes. When it goes, it goes. But sit with it, and you’ll be okay.” - Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice (**[Read the post here.](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/)**) ![“It wasn’t my day. My week. My month. My year. My life. God damn it.” — Charles Bukowski, Pulp: Charles Bukowski's Final Hardboiled Noir Comedy – Lady Death, Aliens, and the Absurd](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/wasnt-my-day-life-charles-bukowski-quote.jpg) “It wasn’t my day. My week. My month. My year. My life. God damn it.” — [ Charles Bukowski, Pulp: Charles Bukowski's Final Hardboiled Noir Comedy – Lady Death, Aliens, and the Absurd](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0876859260?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=70573e2cc91a145622023cfcb70d40df&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“I tried to drown my sorrows, but the bastards learned how to swim, and now I am overwhelmed by this decent and good feeling.” — Frida Kahlo](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/drank-drown-sorrows-damned-things-learned-swim-frida-kahlo-quote.jpg) “I tried to drown my sorrows, but the bastards learned how to swim, and now I am overwhelmed by this decent and good feeling.” — [Frida Kahlo](https://www.amazon.com/dp/3836594854?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=81aaa6d50f0f2a25a205db7e1c2ef8d0&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“Everyone who is born holds dual citizenship, in the kingdom of the well and in the kingdom of the sick. Although we all prefer to use the good passport, sooner or later each of us is obliged, at least for a spell, to identify ourselves as citizens of that other place.” — Susan Sontag](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/everyone-holds-dual-citizenship-kingdom-well-sick-susan-sontag-quote.jpg) “Everyone who is born holds dual citizenship, in the kingdom of the well and in the kingdom of the sick. Although we all prefer to use the good passport, sooner or later each of us is obliged, at least for a spell, to identify ourselves as citizens of that other place.” — [Susan Sontag, Illness as Metaphor and AIDS and Its Metaphors](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0312420137?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=73a0b34b59860112e1da62a994bf7528&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“Grief turns out to be a place none of us know until we reach it.” — Joan Didion, The Year of Magical Thinking](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/grief-place-none-knew-until-reach-joan-didion-quote.jpg) “Grief turns out to be a place none of us know until we reach it.” — [Joan Didion, The Year of Magical Thinking](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1400078431?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=91512f8b93d39200e4960dd7bafea9be&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“Micro joys are how you survive macro grief.” — Glo Atanmo (@glographics)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/micro-joys-survive-macro-grief-glo-atano-quote-illustration.jpg) “Micro joys are how you survive macro grief.” — [Glo Atanmo (@glographics)](https://www.instagram.com/glographics) ![“The moon is proof you can be broken in phases, and still pull oceans toward your soul.” — Found via TheSoulShadow on X/Twitter.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/moon-proof-broken-phases-pull-oceans-toward-oul-thesoulshadow-v1-warm-dusk.jpg) “The moon is proof you can be broken in phases and still pull oceans toward your soul” — Found via [@TheSoulShadow](https://x.com/TheSoulShadow/status/2003399730995274011) Read Related Posts: - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) ## Quotes on Friendships & Relationships ![“Be your own best friend. Never ever, put yourself down.” – Paulo Coelho](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-own-best-friend-paulo-coelho.jpg) “Be your own best friend. Never ever, put yourself down.” — [Paulo Coelho](https://www.amazon.com/stores/Paulo-Coelho/author/B000AQ3HB8?ccs%5Fid=16aefa44-e12b-481b-a62a-04e77e5431ca&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=4326a5deb164e6b831a05f39f907c5b2&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“Don’t walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don’t walk behind me, I may not lead. Walk beside me and be my friend.” Albert Camus](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/walk-beside-me-be-friend-albert-camus-quote.jpeg) “Don’t walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don’t walk behind me, I may not lead. Walk beside me and be my friend.” — [Albert Camus](https://www.amazon.com/stores/Albert-Camus/author/B000AQ541E?ccs%5Fid=7ff5caf8-51ce-451d-bc34-5cd3da106dd2&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=5594492b21d25646bb8d79f01869348a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“I no doubt deserved my enemies, but I don't believe I deserved my friends.” - Walt Whitman](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/dont-believe-deserved-friends-walt-whitman-quote.jpg) “I no doubt deserved my enemies, but I don't believe I deserved my friends.” — [Walt Whitman](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00IMJ9JB2?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e4a2ca06b7391ab81b3d7e15fb898f9e&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“Never explain - your friends do not need it and your enemies will not believe you anyway.” - Elbert Hubbard](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/never-explain-friends-enemies-elbert-hubbard-quote.jpg) “Never explain - your friends do not need it and your enemies will not believe you anyway.” — [Elbert Hubbard](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYCG22Z1?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b1b8122bef22492813c22df955d588e0&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“Not everyone is going to love you. Most people don't even love themselves.” Unknown](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/not-every-love-you-dont-love-themselves-unknown-quote.jpg) “Not everyone is going to love you. Most people don't even love themselves.” — Unknown ![“When people allow you to know about their pain and talk about it, take your shoes off. It’s a holy place. Be humble, be kind when someone shows you vulnerability.” - Amani Albair](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pain-take-shoes-off-humble-vulnerability-amani-albair-quote.jpg) “When people allow you to know about their pain and talk about it, take your shoes off. It’s a holy place. Be humble, be kind when someone shows you vulnerability.” - Amani Albair ![“How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.” ― A.A. Milne](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-lucky-have-something-makes-saying-goodbye-hard-a-a-milne-quote.jpg) “How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.” ― [A. A. Milne, The Complete Tales of Winnie-The-Pooh](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0525457232?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=1cde0f47ceb0889ed3b2e64ee1e29c90&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [Disability & Sex: Disabled People are Not Automatically Bad Sexual or Romantic Partners](https://achronicvoice.com/disability-and-sex/) - [How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationships with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) ## Quotes from Poems, Books & Stories ![“You are human being. So called for a reason. Not human doing. Just you being Is wonder enough to make heaven fall still. You are miracle.” - Thuli Zuma](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/human-being-miracle-thuli-zuma-quote.jpg) “You are human being. So called for a reason. Not human doing. Just you being Is wonder enough to make heaven fall still. You are miracle.” - Thuli Zuma (**[Read the post.](https://achronicvoice.com/poem-on-miracles-thuli-zuma/)**) ![“Instead of asking yourself, ‘What can I know?’ ask yourself, ‘What, at this moment, am I meant to know?’” - W. H. Auden](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/know-moment-w-h-auden-quote.jpg) “Instead of asking yourself, ‘What can I know?’ ask yourself, ‘What, at this moment, am I meant to know?’” — [W. H. Auden](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0679731970?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=0299181898754c27e0a017dde478176e&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“What is the bravest thing you’ve ever said?”, asked the boy. “Help”, said the horse. “Asking for help isn’t giving up. It’s refusing to give up.” ― Charlie Mackesy, The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/bravest-asking-for-help-horse-charlie-mackesy-story-quote.jpg) “What is the bravest thing you’ve ever said?”, asked the boy. “Help”, said the horse. “Asking for help isn’t giving up. It’s refusing to give up.” ― [Charlie Mackesy, The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0063435608?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=8e159ebbe6741b0e33b9c4e02530e596&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ![“Were all stars to disappear or die, I should learn to look at an empty sky And feel its total dark sublime, Though this might take me a little time.” ― W.H. Auden](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/stars-disappear-die-empty-sky-dark-sublime-little-time-w-h-auden-quote.jpg) “Were all stars to disappear or die, I should learn to look at an empty sky And feel its total dark sublime, Though this might take me a little time.” ― [W. H. Auden](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0394403649?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=7bb28ede8117c5cbb7859a77003c84d4&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [It’s Just One of Those Nights (Poetry on Steroids)](https://achronicvoice.com/one-of-those-nights-poetry-steroids/) - [Just Breathing is Enough For Today](https://achronicvoice.com/just-breathing-enough-today-poem/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You’re All Invited, Too!)](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies: Part II](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies-2/) - [Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill: Part III](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-3-chronically-ill/) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! 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There may be some information about Antiphospholipid Syndrome from medical sources online, but patient tips, stories and life experiences are fairly lacking. For those of you who’ve never heard of Antiphospholipid Syndrome (APS), I don’t blame you. It’s a rare blood clotting disorder that's seldom discussed in the media. It did get a little bit of limelight during the pandemic, as [COVID patients suffered from hypercoagulation](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7752689/) as a symptom (van der Linden, 2020). Although it’s an autoimmune disease that affects the blood, [Antiphospholipid Syndrome can manifest in other parts of the body](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0011502903001706) such as the brain, lungs, heart, kidneys, gastrointestinal system, and more (Gezer, 2003). This is an A to Z guide for those with an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis. Over time, I aim to build up more resources about APS, with this serving as a main reference page. Let me know if you think I’ve missed anything out, or if something should be added in or amended. Let's work together to make this a useful patient resource! --- \*Disclaimer: This blog and page is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. **I am not a doctor, and nothing on this website should be substituted for medical advice.** Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding **any** new treatment protocols. This page may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our **[Privacy Policy](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)** page for more information. Thank you! Changelog: - **23 May 2025**: Replaced link from Penn Medicine (2022) to Jaffer and Bragg (2003) as the previous link is no longer available. - **17 Jan 2025**: Replaced link from Dickmann et al. (2001) to Lindley et al. (2022) under “African Americans” section, as the previous paper is no longer available. [Subscribe for More](#/portal/) --- ### How to Use This Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis A to Z Guide This guide can be read as standalone sections in any alphabetical order - just do a search or skip to whichever section you’re looking for keywords in. An alphabetical menu can be found at the end of each section for easier navigation. I have separated certain topics into their own posts, such as medications, research and women's health, as they truly need an entire post of their own. I have included these links where appropriate. I am currently also doing research into APS and food, and plan to write a mini series that revolve around the topics of herbs, vegetables, diet and more. I will update this A to Z guide as we go along, and you can find the changes in the changelog when I do. 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[Feed Sheryl Coffee Here](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) Read Related Posts in the Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis Series: - [Latest Research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome (2024 Edition)](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Pregnancy, Miscarriage & Women’s Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/) - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome-personal-experiences/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis Boards: ![Antiphospholipid Syndrome — An A to Z guide. Written by an APS patient with over 20 years of lived experiences. Get the Guide on: A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-a-to-z-guide-aps-patient-20-years-lived-experiences.jpg) ![Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis - The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-the-a-z-guide-as-a-patient.jpg) ## A is for Antiphospholipid Syndrome, Anticoagulants & The 2023 ACR/EULAR APS Criteria ### Antiphospholipid Syndrome Well, of course we need to start with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (APS) itself! So what is APS, exactly? [According to the National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute](https://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/antiphospholipid-syndrome) (NHLBI) (2022a): > “Antiphospholipid syndrome (APS) is an autoimmune disorder that causes abnormal blood clots to form. Autoimmune disorders occur when your body’s immune system makes antibodies that attack and damage your own tissues or cells.” Another surprising thing to note is that whilst APS is usually associated with blood clotting, sometimes it can also lead to bleeding. [According to Ahluwalia and Sreedharanunni (2017)](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5280868/): > "The bleeding may be related to severe thrombocytopenia, platelet function disorders, factor VIII inhibitor, prothrombin deficiency and rarely to acquired deficiency of factors VII, X and XI." You can [**learn more about the systemic implications of Antiphospholipid Syndrome in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#systemic). [Laboratory tests used to identify patients who have Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0896841114000080) are: anticardiolipin (aCL), and/or anti-β2GPI, and/or lupus anticoagulant (LA) assays. A laboratory test needs to be positive on at least two occasions, separated by 12 weeks, to be considered diagnostic for Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Gómez-Puerta & Cervera, 2014). Also Read: [Anticardiolipin](#anticardiolipin) | [anti-β2GPI](#AntiB2GPI) | [Lupus Anticoagulant](#LA) ### Anticoagulants There are many types of [anticoagulant medications](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/22288-anticoagulants), which work by preventing the blood from clotting (Cleveland Clinic, 2022a). In general, patients who have had thrombotic events before need to be on warfarin with an even higher target INR range. [This is a great paper that covers the different types of anticoagulants in detail](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4715843/) (Nutescu et al., 2016), should you be interested to learn more. [**I have also written more about medications and drugs used in relation to APS in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/). Also Read: [Coumarin](#coumarin) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) ### The 2023 ACR/EULAR APS Criteria The [2023 American College of Rheumatology (ACR) / European Alliance of Associations for Rheumatology (EULAR) APS criteria consists of four phases](https://ard.bmj.com/content/82/10/1258). These include a combination of surveys, literature reviews, criteria reduction, criteria definition, and validation, with actual patient scenarios for guidance (Barbhaiya et al., 2023). It was formulated to address some of the limitations of the previous Sapporo criteria(s), and serves to narrow the heterogeneity gap of patients who are positive for antiphospholipid antibodies (aPLs). The 2023 ACR/EULAR APS Criteria has an increased specificity compared to the 2006 revised Sapporo criteria (99% versus 86%), although it also has a lower sensitivity (84% versus 99%) (Barbhaiya et al., 2023). The 2023 ACR/EULAR APS Criteria still needs to be fully validated for some subsets of patients as well, [such as Lupus patients who are positive for antiphospholipid antibodies](https://ard.bmj.com/content/83/Suppl%5F1/542.2) (Koliadenko & Iaremenko, 2024). [According to Yang et al. (2024)](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0896841124000714), who did a small study on a cohort of Chinese patients: > “Revisions to clinical criteria included refined risk stratification for venous thromboembolism (VTE) and cardiovascular disease (CVD), a clarified definition of microvascular thrombosis, a redefined understanding of pregnancy morbidity, and heightened consideration of cardiac valve disease and thrombocytopenia. The introduction of these new criteria helps identify patients who were previously only diagnosed as “probable APS”.” Based on the 2023 ACR/EULAR APS criteria, Yang et al. (2024) were able to diagnose an additional 9 patients with Antiphospholipid Syndrome, in a cohort of 965 patients. #### Classification vs Diagnostic Criteria Favaloro et al. (2024) makes an emphasis on the importance of [differentiating classification from diagnostic criteria](https://www.thieme-connect.com/products/ejournals/abstract/10.1055/s-0043-1776318) as well: > “In other words, the “classification” criteria establish a finite list of clinical and laboratory parameters that can be used to identify some “definite” APS manifestation for inclusion in future studies, but a broader list of both clinical and laboratory criteria are available to help diagnose APS.” > ..... “Therefore, diagnostic criteria are a set of signs, symptoms, and tests for use in routine clinical care to guide the clinical decision making in individual patients. Classification criteria are instead standardized definitions used primarily to create well-defined, relatively homogeneous cohorts of patients for clinical research.” In short, the point that Favaloro et al. (2024) makes is that whilst APS diagnoses can be made by clinicians based on the most recent 2023 ACR/EULAR APS criteria, other APS manifestations should be taken into consideration as well. This is especially crucial when the patient presents with non-criteria APS manifestations. Also Read: [Antiphospholipid Antibodies](#APLS) | [Non-Criteria APS](#NCAPS) | [2006 Revised Sapporo Criteria](#sapporo) ### Some other keywords under ‘A’ and APS are: 1. **Acute Pain** \- A blood clot or haemorrhage can be cause for acute pain anywhere in the body, and I've had the misfortune of experiencing both on numerous occasions. These events can be life-threatening and require immediate medical attention. Head to the A&E/ER right away even if you're unsure of the exact cause, and never 'wait it out' - this was my biggest regret in life. 2. **Alcohol** \- People who have recently received an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis often [wonder if they can still drink alcohol](https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/blood-thinners-and-alcohol) (Caporuscio, 2021). Usually a [maximum of two glasses of alcohol](https://www.uptodate.com/contents/warfarin-beyond-the-basics) is allowed, as [alcohol is a blood thinner that stays in the bodily system](https://americanaddictioncenters.org/alcohol/how-long-in-system) for a short duration of time (Hull et al., 2024; Thomas, 2024). Having said that, this does not take into account your specific comorbidities, risk factors, liver function, medication interactions and more. So please check with your own doctor first before consuming alcohol. There have also been [studies that show associations with alcoholic liver disease, and the development of antibodies](https://gut.bmj.com/content/49/6/852) targeting complexes between oxidised cardiolipin and β2-GP1, which might account for higher levels of antiphospholipid antibodies in the individual (Rolla et al., 2001). Read Related Posts: - [Drink Pure Wine Review (A Product That Excites Me as a Person with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/drink-pure-wine-review/) - [We Want to Have Fun Just Like You, But Here’s What it Takes](https://achronicvoice.com/we-want-have-fun-just-like-you-but-heres-what-takes/) 1. **African Americans** – In relation to the CYP2C9 gene, which plays a role in warfarin metabolism, it has been noted thus far that the [CYP2C95 allele has been found in 5 out of 110 African-American APS patients](https://www.nature.com/articles/6500182), and CYP2C96 in around 0.6% of African-American APS patients as well. Neither have been yet found in Asian or Caucasian patients (Takahashi & Echizen, 2003). And according to Lindley et al. (2022), “The [cytochrome P450 2C9\*5 (CYP2C9\*5) allele is found almost exclusively in populations of African ancestry](https://ascpt.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/cpt.2549), and in vitro studies suggest CYP2C9\*5 is associated with reduced clearance of warfarin”. What this means is that carriers of this genetic variant may require more warfarin than average. More investigation is still required, however, in order to determine its exact effects and functionalities. Also Read: [Asians](#asians) | [Caucasians](#caucasians) | [Chinese Patients](#chinese) | [CYP2C9 Gene](#CYP2C9) | [Genes](#genes) | [Warfarin](#warfarin) 1. **aGAPSS** \- The [Adjusted Global AntiphosPholipid Syndrome Score (aGAPSS)](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7402528/) was developed to identify high-risk APS patients, and consists of: hyperlipidaemia (3 points), arterial hypertension (1 point), anticardiolipin antibodies (5 points), anti-β2 glycoprotein-I antibodies (4 points), and lupus anticoagulant (4 points) (Radin et al., 2019). 2. **Alternative Therapies** \- I don’t deny the usefulness of holistic approaches to health and wellness, and some alternative and complementary therapies can be useful when adapted to an individual. Having said that, people who have an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis need to be cautious of such therapies, because many of them involve touch or dietary changes, which can lead to bruising and bleeding. These include massages, chiropractic adjustments, herbs and more. Also Read: [Cupping, Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) & Chiropractor](#cupping) | [Herbs](#herbs) | [Massages](#massages) Read Related Posts: - [Floatation Therapy: Did it do Anything for My Chronic Pain?](https://achronicvoice.com/floatation-therapy-chronic-pain-review-palm-avenue-float-club-singapore/) - [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/resources-therapies-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/independence-disability-chronic-illness/) 1. **[Andexanet Alfa](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK519499/)** \- This is a factor Xa protein used to reverse the effects of apixaban and rivaroxaban (blood thinning drugs used by patients), during life-threatening situations where there may be uncontrolled bleeding (Reed et al., 2023). **[Learn more about Factor Xa and Andexanet Alfa here.](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#FactorXa)** 2. **Anti-Beta2 Glycoprotein 1 (anti-ß2 GPI)** \- Beta-2-Glycoprotein I (β2GPI) is a soluble blood protein, and has many functions, including haemostasis (blood clotting process). [According to McDonnell et al. (2020)](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0268960X19300268): > “Indirectly, β2GPI can exert an anticoagulant effect through downregulation of thrombin generation whilst its indirect coagulant effect is shown through mechanisms including inhibiting activation of protein C and disrupting the anticoagulant Annexin V shield.” APS patients present antibodies, such as anti-ß2 GPI, that can dysregulate this process. Two isotypes found in anti-β2 GPI – IgG and IgM – are one of the diagnostic criteria for an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis. Whilst the IgA isotype is not currently used for diagnosis, there has been growing interest and research in it, especially for seronegative APS patients. In one study, there was a [strong association for IgA and arterial thrombosis](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/art.38131) (Murthy et al., 2013). **[Learn more about thrombin and the coagulation cascade here.](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#thrombin)** Also Read: [2023 ACR/EULAR APS Criteria](#EULAR) | [Coagulation](#coagulation) | [Non-Criteria/Seronegative APS](#NCAPS) 1. **Anticardiolipin Antibodies** \- [Cardiolipins are phospholipids](https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/encyclopedia/content?contenttypeid=167&contentid=cardiolipin%5Fantibody), and antibodies produced against them can lead to blood clots (University of Rochester Medical Center \[URMC\], n.d.-a). Whilst research on antiphospholipid antibodies (aPLs) in relation to COVID-19 are still underway and not fully understood, interestingly, [anticardiolipin antibodies (aCLs) have shown some correlations](https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-022-15969-y). Having said that, it is important to note that infections in themselves can also trigger a rise in antiphospholipid antibodies, and the pathways of blood clotting might differ from that of a patient who actually has an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis (Bertin et al., 2022). Also Read: [COVID-19](#COVID19) | [Infections](#infections) | [Phospholipids](#phospholipids) 1. **Antiphospholipid Antibodies** \- The lupus anticoagulant, anticardiolipin and anti-ß2GPI antibodies are collectively referred to as antiphospholipid antibodies. Note that this is different from the autoimmune disease, Antiphospholipid Syndrome, itself. [According to Green (2022)](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9391091/): > These antibodies attack cells, cellular receptors, and hemostatic proteins either alone or in complexes with phospholipid-binding proteins.” This triggers a sequence of events that can lead to a blood clot. About [50% of Systemic Lupus Erythomatosus (SLE) patients also possess antiphospholipid antibodies](https://www.hopkinslupus.org/lupus-info/lupus-affects-body/antiphospholipid-antibodies/) (Johns Hopkins Lupus Center, n.d.-b). Also Read: [Lupus & Lupus Anticoagulant](#SectionL) | [Phospholipids](#phospholipids) 1. **Antiplatelet Drugs** \- These are used to prevent platelets from sticking together, which decreases your body’s ability to form blood clots. Aspirin is one of the most commonly used antiplatelet drugs. These work differently from anticoagulants, even though they both prevent blood clotting. As per Cleveland Clinic (2022c): > “Antiplatelets interfere with the process of platelets binding together. Anticoagulants, also called blood thinners, interfere with proteins in your blood that are involved with clotting.” For a more in-depth explanation, **[read this post on medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/)**. Also Read: [Blood Clots & Bleeding](#SectionB) | [Coagulation](#coagulation) | [Platelets](#platelets) 1. **[Antiphosphatidylserine / Prothrombin Antibodies](https://www.thieme-connect.com/products/ejournals/abstract/10.1055/s-0040-1705115)** \- Studies have shown the correlation of antiphosphatidylserine / prothrombin (aPS/PT) antibodies with a higher association of clinical manifestations of Antiphospholipid Syndrome, and that it can be considered as a robust test for further investigation in patients with suspected APS (Radin et al., 2020). 2. **[Apixaban](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK507910/) (Brand Name: Eliquis)** \- This is a direct oral anticoagulant (DOAC) originally approved for atrial fibrillation (Afib) patients to reduce the risk of strokes and blood clots. It was later approved to treat DVTs and PEs (pulmonary embolisms) as well (Agrawal et al., 2024). **[Learn more about apixaban and DOACs here.](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#DOACs)** 3. **Asians** \- [According to Takahashi and Echizen (2003):](https://www.nature.com/articles/6500182) > “Anecdotal observations indicated that the maintenance doses of warfarin obtained from Asians (ie, 3.4 and 3.3 mg/day for Japanese12,13,14 and Chinese,32 respectively) are 20–50% lower than those obtained from Caucasian (ie, 4.1–6.7 mg/day).” This may be due to the fact that the Asians in the study did not possess the CYP2C9\*2 variant, which is more commonly found in Caucasian populations. This variant, and also the CYP2C9\*3 variant, both contribute to decreased metabolism of warfarin. Also Read: [African Americans](#AfricanAmericans) | [Caucasians](#caucasians) | [Chinese Patients](#chinese) | [CYP2C9 Gene](#CYP2C9) | [Genes](#genes) | [Warfarin](#SectionW) 1. **Aspirin / Acetylsalicylic Acid** \- This is an NSAID (which all have anticoagulatory effects), and some patients take it for other medical conditions such as heart problems. Aspirin is usually not strong enough of a blood thinner for those with Antiphospholipid Syndrome however, especially for those of us who have had DVTs and the likes before. It only [reduces the risk of first arterial, but not venous thrombotic events](https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/cardiovascular-medicine/articles/10.3389/fcvm.2021.715878/full) in people with antiphospholipid antibodies (Pastori et al., 2021). **[Read this post for more information on NSAIDs, including aspirin](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#NSAIDs)**. Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis Boards: ![A is for Antiphospholipid Syndrome, Anticoagulants and the 2023 ACR/EULAR APS Criteria - Check out the full series](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/a-antiphospholipid-syndrome-anticoagulants-2023-acr-eular-aps-criteria-full-series.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## B is for Blood Clots & Bleeding Blood clots and bleeding are the bane of Antiphospholipid Syndrome. Either extreme can be cause for alarm, should they go out of control. ### Blood Clots The process of blood clotting is very important, as it helps your body to stop bleeding when you injure yourself, whether externally or internally. A blood clot is medically known as a ‘thrombus’, and a [thrombosis](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK538430/) is “a blood clot within blood vessels that limit the flow of blood” (Ashorobi et al., 2024). [Blood clots become dangerous](https://www.mayoclinic.org/symptoms/blood-clots/basics/causes/sym-20050850) when they break off to lodge in other places within the body, such as in the heart, brain or lung, and patients with Antiphospholipid Syndrome are at a higher risk (Mayo Clinic, 2023a). Many APS patients need to go on anticoagulation therapy in order to prevent blood clots, and are usually started on warfarin, a vitamin K antagonist. Patients who have experienced any blood clotting events before are usually medicated with a higher dose as well. Also Read: [Coagulation](#coagulation) | [Embolus](#embolus) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) Read Related Posts: - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/) - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/) ### Bleeding A little known fact is that APS patients can also bleed from the disease itself in rare circumstances. [According to Kubisz et al. (2021)](https://www.intechopen.com/chapters/76760): > "The acquired coagulopathy caused by the aPL, particularly by lupus anticoagulant and anticardiolipin antibodies, might be occasionally manifested as a hemorrhagic syndrome with various clinical severity." And from [Pazzola et al. (2015)](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11926-014-0481-0): > "Antiphospholipid antibody-positive patients can develop bleeding due to capillaritis, microthrombosis, antiprothrombin antibodies, thrombocytopenia, and/or excessive antithrombotic therapy." Bleeding can range from mild to severe, and occur in various organs such as the brain or stomach. The interaction between antiphospholipid antibodies and the body is heterogeneous, with many possible factors at play. The management of APS during such events are even more complex, as both blood clotting and bleeding risks need to be managed. [**Read about the systemic implications of APS in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#systemic)**.** Also Read: [Antiphospholipid Antibodies](#APLS) | [Stop Bleed First Aid](#StopBleed) | [Surgery](#surgery) ### Other Terms for ‘B’ in Relation to APS are: 1. **Birth Control** \- There are a few different types of birth controls, which mainly contain the hormones oestrogen, or progestin, or both. [Oestrogen is known to cause blood clots](https://www.pennmedicine.org/specialties/hematology/blood-clotting-disorders), and is best avoided in all forms (Penn Medicine, n.d.). Whilst you may choose to be on birth control to prevent conception, sometimes women with APS need to go on them due to recurrences of ovarian cyst ruptures, which is a life-threatening event. **[Learn more about birth control here.](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/#BirthControl)** Also Read: [Free Fluid](#FreeFluid) | [Etonogestrel](#etonogestrel) | [Paediatric APS](#paediatric) 1. **Blood Disorder** \- Antiphospholipid Syndrome is but one of many different types of blood disorders. You can [view more blood clotting and bleeding disorders in this list from Cleveland Clinic](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/21545-blood-disorders) (2022d). Also Read: [Haemophilia](#haemophilia) | [Factor V Leiden](#FactorV) 1. **Blood Tests** \- As with any other autoimmune disease and/or blood disorder, your doctor will monitor your blood closely for things such as inflammatory markers and full blood count. For patients with an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis, one of the most, if not the most important blood test is the one for [PT/INR (International Normalised Ratio)](https://medlineplus.gov/lab-tests/prothrombin-time-test-and-inr-ptinr/) (MedLinePlus, 2024). Also Read: [INR](#INR) | [Snake Venom](#SnakeVenom) 1. **Bone Loss** \- [Long-term warfarin therapy can lead to bone density loss](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6955144/), as it antagonises vitamin K – an important vitamin for bone health (Rodríguez-Olleros Rodríguez and Díaz Curiel, 2019). **[Learn more about musculoskeletal manifestations here.](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#musculoskeletal)** Also Read: [Calcium](#calcium) | [Vitamin D](#VitaminD) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) | [Supplements](#supplements) | [Warfarin](#SectionW) 1. **Brain Fog** \- See **[Cognitive Function](#cognitive)**. 2. **Broccoli** \- This may sound somewhat random, but I’ve personally found broccoli to be very high in vitamin K. Often 2 to 3 stalks of broccoli can drop my INR back down to baseline, so I balance this with blood thinning foods such as salmon carefully. Call it a food strategy. 3. **Bruises** \- It’s easy to get bruises when you’re on an anticoagulant medication; it can be alarming especially in the beginning. It’s important to monitor all signs of bruising, especially the bigger ones. You will need to stop all contact sports, due to the high risk of bruising which increases the chances of DVTs. 4. **Brushing Your Teeth** \- Ever brushed your teeth a little too hard and have your gums bleed? It’s best to use a toothbrush with soft bristles, or an electric toothbrush that has a sensitivity pressure warning. I’ve tried a couple and [this is the electric toothbrush I currently use and like](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09LD7WRVS?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c471516e1d02c0270028b8e10ae99bd8&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), as the price is decent, the bristles are small enough and it doesn’t clean with a vengeance. Also Read: [Diet](#diet) | [Green, Leafy Vegetables](#LeafyVeg) | [INR](#INR) | [Quinoa](#SectionQ) | [Sports](#sports) | [Vegetables](#vegetables) Read Related Posts: - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-chronic-illness/) - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome & Rare Disease Boards: ![B is for Blood Clots and Bleeding - Antiphospholipid Syndrome Guide](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/b-blood-clots-bleeding-antiphospholipid-syndrome-guide.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## C is for Coagulation, Cardiovascular Disease & Catastrophic Antiphospholipid Syndrome (CAPS) ### Coagulation Coagulation is when the blood turns from a liquid to solid state and clots. Patients with Antiphospholipid Syndrome typically need to take anticoagulants to counteract their ‘sticky blood’, as they have an increased tendency to clot. The coagulation process is a fascinating one where lots of variables are at play, and one where researchers are still learning and discovering new things about even up to this day – such as the more recently known clotting factors – prekallikrein and high-molecular-weight kininogen. According to Palta et al. (2014), [clotting factors can be classified into the following three groups](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4260295/): ![Classification of Coagulation Factors](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/classification-coagulation-factors.jpg) *(Source: )* They also state that: > “Most of the procoagulants and anticoagulants are produced by liver except factor III, IV and VIII. These proteins undergo a post translational modification (vitamin K dependent ϒ carboxylation of glutamic acid residues) which enables them to bind calcium and other divalent cations and participate in clotting cascade. Deficiency of vitamin K or administration of vitamin K antagonists (warfarin) lead to anticoagulation.” What this means in simpler terms is that the body produces both coagulants and anticoagulants on its own through various pathways internally, and that various proteins, elements and processes are involved in the coagulation process. It also means that altering vitamin K levels in the body, whether through the use of medications, or as a result of malabsorption or nutrient deficiency, can affect this process. **You can** [**learn more about the blood clotting process in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/)**.** Also Read: [Anticoagulants](#anticoagulants) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) | [Sticky Blood](#StickyBlood) ### Cardiovascular Disease Cardiovascular Disease (CVD) is a leading cause of mortality in Antiphospholipid Syndrome patients. On top of traditional risk factors, they also have thrombotic and inflammatory risk factors to contend with. [**Learn more about cardiovascular disease and APS here**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#CVD). ### Catastrophic Antiphospholipid Syndrome (CAPS) [Catastrophic Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0896841118302488) is a rare occurrence that only occurs in 1% of APS patients, but is also the most severe manifestation of APS. It has a high mortality rate, especially if the patient has an SLE (Lupus) comorbidity. CAPS happens when multiple blood clots occur simultaneously throughout the body, which can lead to multiple organ, system and tissue failure (Cervera et al., 2018). Little is understood about the condition, although it is hypothesised to be [multifactorial in aetiology](https://academic.oup.com/rheumatology/article/63/SI/SI46/7601825), with genetic and environmental factors thrown in for good measure (Rodriguez-Pintó et al., 2024). CAPS mostly affects women at 70%, and those who are in their forties, although it can occur at any age. Pulmonary (lung) manifestations, such as lung thrombosis and diffuse alveolar haemorrhage, occur in approximately two thirds of cases. Central nervous system (CNS) manifestations include strokes and encephalopathy, and occur in up to 56% of CAPS patients. Cardiovascular manifestations such as heart attacks and anginas can also happen, and is reported in approximately half of CAPS patients. And wait we aren’t done yet….. Skin manifestations such as livedo can also be found in 47% of CAPS patients, and it can also affect the liver, spleen, adrenal glands, reproductive organs, and just about every body part you can think of, I reckon (Rodriguez-Pintó et al., 2024). The CAPS Registry was created by the European Forum on Antiphospholipid Antibodies, and contains a grand total of 500 CAPS patients. [Rodríguez-Pintó et al. (2016) did a study on the demographics data](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1568997216302051), and found some common precipitating factors for CAPS to be events such as: infections, surgeries, malignancy, contraceptive use, pregnancy, drug use, SLE flares, trauma and more. For more information, read the post, “[**How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/)”. Also Read: [Birth Control](#BirthControl) | [Infections](#infections) | [Haemorrhage](#haemorrhage) | [Lupus (SLE) & APS](#SLEAPS) | [Men](#men) | [Non-Criteria/Seronegative APS](#NCAPS) | [Platelets](#platelets) | [Primary APS](#PAPS) | [Secondary APS](#SAPS) | [Strokes](#strokes) | [Surgery](#surgery) | [Women](#women) ### Other Terms for ‘C’ in Relation to APS are: 1. **[Calcium](https://www.niams.nih.gov/health-topics/calcium-and-vitamin-d-important-bone-health)** \-Calcium is the most abundant mineral in the body that is needed for various functions, including bone health. Our bodies also ‘borrow’ calcium from our bones should there be a deficit, which can lead to osteoporosis (National Institute of Arthritis and Musculoskeletal and Skin Diseases \[NIAMS\], 2023). Warfarin is a Vitamin K antagonist (VKA) that affects bone health, so calcium is generally prescribed for Antiphospholipid Syndrome patients to help counteract this. Something to bear in mind is that many calcium supplements sold over-the-counter (OTC) are combined with vitamin K, as they have a synergistic effect. Do ensure that you read carefully through the ingredients, as these can interact with warfarin. **[Read this post for more information on vitamin K antagonists and warfarin](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#VKAs), and [this post for musculoskeletal manifestations of APS](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#musculoskeletal).** Also Read: [Vitamin D](#VitaminD) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) | [Omega Oils](#OmegaOils) | [Supplements](#supplements) | [Zinc](#SectionZ) Read Related Posts: - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/malabsorption-nutrients/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) 1. **Caucasians** \- [According to MedLinePlus (2018)](https://medlineplus.gov/genetics/gene/cyp2c9/#conditions): > “The two most common CYP2C9 polymorphisms in people of European ancestry are known as CYP2C9\*2 and CYP2C9\*3\. Both of these polymorphisms lead to a decrease in warfarin metabolism to such degrees that prescription doses are typically reduced by one-third and one-fifth, respectively.” What this means is that patients of European descent tend to require a lower dosage of warfarin, if they possess these polymorphisms. Also Read: [African Americans](#AfricanAmericans) | [Asians](#asians) | [Chinese Patients](#chinese) | [CYP2C9 Gene](#CYP2C9) | [Genes](#genes) | [Warfarin](#SectionW) 1. **CBD (Cannabidiol)** \- Can you take CBD whilst on warfarin? [According to Grayson et al. (2018)](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5789126/): > “In addition to competing for enzymes in same metabolic pathway as warfarin, CBD has been demonstrated to act as a potent competitive inhibitor of all seven of its own CYP enzymes and as such could further impair the degradation of warfarin.” What this means is that there is a potential for CBD to interact with warfarin and cause bleeding. Thus, if it’s legal where you are and you want to take CBD, work with your doctor to monitor your INR. You also need to be consistent in intake, which sort of defeats the purpose – pain levels can [fluctuate like the weather in Rapid City, South Dakota](https://fivethirtyeight.com/features/which-city-has-the-most-unpredictable-weather/) (yes I diverged to look that up 😜) (Silver & Fischer-Baum, 2014). There are also a lot of variations in CBD oils and products, which do different things in the body. **[Read this post for more information about warfarin and medication interactions.](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#warfarin)** Also Read: [Bleeding](#bleeding) | [Haemorrhage](#haemorrhage) | [INR](#INR) Read Related Posts: - [Will Taking CBD Oil Turn Me into an Addict? (Get Your CBD Oil Facts Right)](https://achronicvoice.com/cbd-oil-facts/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-life/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/resources-therapies-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) 1. **Chinese Patients** \- In a [study of 252 Chinese APS patients](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10067-017-3549-1), whilst common thrombotic events were found to be similar to those from the Euro-Phospholipid Project, lower positive rates of anticardiolipin and lupus anticoagulant antibodies were also found comparatively (Shi et al., 2017). Asians in general also do not possess a certain allele for the CYP29C gene, which means they may require a lower maintenance dose of warfarin, as compared to caucasians. Having said that, [a systematic review and meta-analysis that studied 20 single nucleotide polymorphisms in eight genes](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40262-023-01258-y) also revealed that other polymorphisms play a role in the mean daily warfarin dose of Chinese Han patients (Zhao et al., 2023). Also Read: [African Americans](#AfricanAmericans) | [Anticardiolipin Antibodies](#anticardiolipin) | [Asians](#asians) | [Caucasians](#caucasians) | [CYP2C9 Gene](#CYP2C9) | [Euro-Phospholipid Project](#europhospholipid) | [Genes](#genes) | [Lupus Anticoagulant](#LA) 1. **CoaguChek®** \- See **[Roche](#roche)**. 2. **Cognitive Function** \- An impact in cognitive function is preferable to saying ‘brain fog’, which often makes the experience sound overly trivial. Those who live with ‘brain fog’ know how devastating its impacts are. [Cognitive dysfunction is also another annoying feature of APS](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11926-016-0568-x) involvement in the neurological pathways, and exists on a spectrum from mild to severe (such as dementia) (Yelnik et al., 2016). The frequency of cognitive dysfunction ranges from 19% to 40%, and includes cognitive complication with memory, executive function, visuospatial skills and visuomotor speed. APS patients can also present with psychiatric symptoms such as: psychosis, mania, depression, bipolar disorders, OCD and schizophrenia (Yelnik et al., 2016). You can **[learn more about the neurological manifestations of APS here](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#neuropsychiatric)**. 3. **Comorbidities** \- [Patients with an autoimmune disease tend to have comorbidities](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3150011/), meaning that they have more than one medical condition at the same time (Cojocaru et al., 2010). The overlap of these comorbidities can be complex and more often than not, patients live with chronic pain whilst waiting for proper diagnoses. Also Read: [Lupus & Lupus Anticoagulant](#SectionL) 1. **Compression Clothing & Devices** \- If you’re stuck in bed or in a single position (such as on a flight) and can’t walk or move for a period of time, then wearing compression stockings and clothing can help to prevent the formation of blood clots. APS patients tend to need to wear compression stockings after undergoing major surgery where they’re unable to walk about. An [intermittent pneumatic compression device](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/14791-intermittent-pneumatic-compression-ipc-device) is also usually used when APS patients undergo surgery that requires general anaesthesia. These are cuffs that are wrapped around your legs which inflate and deflate to help with blood circulation (Cleveland Clinic, 2023b). You can **[find some of my recommendations for compression clothing here](https://achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery/#2-Compression-Socks-Gloves-for-Blood-Circulation-Pain-Relief)**, and **[check out my top tips for travelling with chronic illness and disability in this post](https://achronicvoice.com/top-tips-travelling-chronic-illness-disability/)**. 2. **COVID-19** \- As mentioned in the introduction, many COVID-19 patients suffer from hypercoagulation. Whilst they may not have the APS disorder itself, [greater than 80% had detectable antiphospholipid antibodies in their bodies](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7752689/) (van der Linden et al., 2020). It is important to note that research into antiphospholipid antibodies (aPLs) and COVID-19 is still preliminary, with the need for standardisation across various research methods. At present, it is generally accepted that the [presence of aPLs in COVID-19 patients](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1568997222001768) could be a secondary symptom of the infection, with each as contributing risk factors for thrombosis (Serrano et al., 2022). In [one study of 56 patients in France](https://www.jthjournal.org/article/S1538-7836%2822%2901602-6), 45% of them tested positive for the lupus anticoagulant (LA) (Harzallah et al., 2020). Many also experience a prolonged aPTT time, which is an indicator of a blood clotting deficiency, and [up to 91% of such patients tested positive for LA in another study](https://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJMc2013656) (Bowles et al., 2020). You can **[find out more about the latest Antiphospholipid Syndrome research in this post.](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/)** Also Read: [Antiphospholipid Antibodies](#APLS) | [Infections](#infections) | [Lupus & Lupus Anticoagulant](#SectionL) Read Related Posts: - [COVID-19 Vaccine Experiences from People with Chronic Conditions](https://achronicvoice.com/covid-19-vaccine-experiences/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture-lupus-steroids/) - [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery-stay-comfortable-bed/) 1. **[Coumarin](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/B9780123864543007983)** \- Coumarins are naturally occurring compounds derived from 1,2-benzopyrone. They were first discovered in tonka beans, but can also be found in other plant products such as cinnamon, strawberries, green tea, lavender oil and more. They are often used in perfumes and soaps in low quantities, as a stabiliser and fragrant ingredient. Although it is allowed for consumption via natural food products such as cinnamon, it is not allowed as a direct food additive due to its toxicity and anticoagulation effects (Garrard, 2014). Warfarin is derived from coumarin, and is used to both kill rodents, and also as an anticoagulant drug for APS patients. The more science-y explanation, [according to Lu et al. (2022)](https://www.mdpi.com/1420-3049/27/13/4054): > “Coumarin-like drugs bind to vitamin K epoxide reductase complex 1 in the liver and block the conversion of inactive oxidative vitamin K into active reducing vitamin K. Active vitamin K is involved in the effects of coagulation factors II (reducing prothrombin production), VII, IX, and X.” An interesting conclusion from the paper as well is that their results indicated that six of the tested coumarin derivatives inhibited ADP (adenosine diphosphate)-induced platelet aggregation, and also of calcium ions. Meaning, they target various coagulation pathways. **[Learn more about warfarin drug interactions and vitamin K antagonists in this post.](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#VKAs)** Also Read: [Diet](#diet) | [Vegetables](#vegetables) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) 1. **Cupping, Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) & Chiropractor** \- These are just a few alternative therapies that aren’t such a good idea when you live with Antiphospholipid Syndrome. Many of the herbs that are used interact with warfarin (believe me, I’ve tried). [Cupping is a TCM treatment](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK538253/) that works by drawing small amounts of blood through suction ‘cups’. Apart from those who have blood disorders, cupping is also contraindicated for many other patients such as those who have cancer, organ failure or an implanted electronic device (Furhad et al., 2023). I asked my rheumatologist about visiting a chiropractor, and to my surprise, it wasn’t my Lupus or Sjögren’s that he was worried about, but Antiphospholipid Syndrome. Even if the manipulations were to be gentler, it can still cause blood clots or minor injuries. Also Read: [Blood Clots & Bleeding](#SectionB) | [Haemorrhage](#haemorrhage) | [Herbs](#herbs) | [Massages](#massages) 1. **CYP2C9 Gene** \- CYP2C9 Gene – The [CYP2C9 enzyme plays a major role in the metabolism of warfarin](https://medlineplus.gov/genetics/gene/cyp2c9/), and other drugs such as ibuprofen. Polymorphisms can lead to an increase or decrease in warfarin metabolism (MedLinePlus, 2018, September 1). [According to Takahashi and Echizen (2003)](https://www.nature.com/articles/6500182): > “Collectively, it is suggested that patients with CYP2C9 variants, particularly CYP2C9\*3 allele or a combination of CYP2C9\*2 and CYP2C9\*3 alleles would be vulnerable to above-range INRs, need more time to achieve stable warfarin dosing and longer hospitalization and have a higher risk of serious or life-threatening bleeding events than those with wild-type CYP2C9 genotype during the induction or dose-titration period of warfarin therapy.” This means that certain patients who possess particular variants of the CYP2C9 gene might have an increased risk of bleeding whilst on warfarin, and also take longer period of time to achieve their target INR range. **[Learn more about warfarin metabolism here](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#WarfarinMetabolism)**. Also Read: [African-Americans](#AfricanAmericans) | [Asians](#asians) | [Caucasians](#caucasians) | [Chinese Patients](#chinese) | [Genes](#genes) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis & Health Boards: ![C is for Coagulation, Cardiovascular Disease and CAPS (Catastrophic Antiphospholipid Syndrome) - Learn more about Antiphospholipid Syndrome in the A to Z guide.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/c-coagulation-cardiovascular-disease-CAPS-learn-more-antiphospholipid-syndrome-a-z-guide.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## D is for DVT, Diet & Dermatologic Manifestations ### Deep Vein Thrombosis (DVT) [DVT stands for ‘Deep Vein Thrombosis’](https://www.cdc.gov/yellow-book/hcp/travel-air-sea/deep-vein-thrombosis-and-pulmonary-embolism.html), and they can be an extremely painful consequence of Antiphospholipid Syndrome. These blood clots tend to form in a deep leg vein, but can occur anywhere in the body. If they are large enough, they can lodge in the lungs, brain or heart, and that can turn into a life-threatening situation (Reyes & Abe, 2023). [**Learn more about DVTs and other manifestations of APS in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/). Also Read: [Blood Clots & Bruising](#SectionB) | [Coagulation](#coagulation) | [‘Muscular’ Sprains](#sprains) Read Related Posts: - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care: Introduction to the Series](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-introduction/) - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/top-tips-travelling-chronic-illness-disability/) ### Diet The APS diet is the biggest and most confusing thing to contend with when a person receives an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis. Questions that pop up include: “Is that safe to eat whilst on warfarin?”, and “You mean I can’t eat or drink my favourite food stuff anymore?!” I’ve been there. I remember being terrified, as I didn’t know what I could or could not eat and drink anymore. Every APS patient can react differently to the same foods as well, so what works for one person may not for another. But don’t be like me and live in denial; I continued to consume green tea in copious amounts and played contact sports, because [**there wasn’t any pain initially – until there was**](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/). It will take a while, even years, to learn what foods are safe for consumption after an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis. I promise that it gets easier though, as you start to know how to keep your diet balanced in terms of Vitamin K and blood thinning foods. It will even become intrinsic knowledge, where you can roughly estimate what the status of vitamin K is within your body, more or less. The Antiphospholipid Syndrome diet is also a behemoth topic that requires a post of its own, and one which I will cover in greater detail in future. Also Read: [Broccoli](#broccoli) | [Calcium](#calcium) | [Vitamin D](#VitaminD) | [Fruits](#fruits) | [Green, Leafy Vegetables](#LeafyVeg) | [Green Tea](#GreenTea) | [Juicing](#SectionJ) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) | [Omega Oils](#OmegaOils) | [Quinoa](#SectionQ) | [Saponins](#saponins) | [Supplements](#supplements) | [Vegetables](#vegetables) Read Related Posts: - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/malabsorption-nutrients/) - [Dysphagia & Swallowing Problems (and How Oral Vitamin Sprays Can be of Help to You)](https://achronicvoice.com/dysphagia-oral-vitamin-sprays/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) ### Dermatologic Manifestations Cutaneous (skin-related) manifestations are common and may actually be the first signs of Antiphospholipid Syndrome. [According to Gibson et al. (1997)](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0190962297802836): > “These include livedo reticularis, necrotizing vasculitis, livedoid vasculitis, thrombophlebitis, cutaneous ulceration and necrosis, erythematous macules, purpura, ecchymoses, painful skin nodules, and subungual splinter hemorrhages.” [**I cover the topic of dermatologic manifestations in APS more comprehensively here.**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#skin) ### Some Other Terms for ‘D’ & APS are: 1. **Vitamin D** \- Vitamin D comes in various forms, such as D2 and D3\. It works together with calcium to promote bone health. [According to Harvard Medical School (2021a)](https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/vitamin-d-and-your-health-breaking-old-rules-raising-new-hopes): > “Without enough vitamin D, the body can only absorb 10% to 15% of dietary calcium, but 30% to 40% absorption is the rule when vitamin reserves are normal.” APS patients tend to have a greater [vitamin D deficiency of up to 70%](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1521661623006125) as well (Kello & Cho, 2023). Thus, it is quite likely that your doctor will prescribe some sort of vitamin D supplement, especially if you’re on warfarin. **[Read this post for more information on bone health](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#musculoskeletal)**. Also Read: [Calcium](#calcium) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) | [Supplements](#supplements) | [Zinc](#SectionZ) 1. **Diffuse Alveolar Haemorrhage (DAH)** \- [DAH is a small vessel vasculitis](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11926-019-0852-7) that damages the lung microvasculature (Stoots et al., 2019). It is a rare condition that can happen to APS patients, with a high mortality rate between 30.3% – 45.8%. **[Learn more about the pulmonary and vascular manifestations of APS here, including DAH](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#pulmonary)**. 2. **DOACs** \- DOACs stands for ‘Direct Oral Anticoagulants’, and they can be categorised into these main classifications: oral direct factor Xa inhibitors (e.g. rivaroxaban and apixaban), and direct thrombin inhibitors (i.e. dabigatran). DOACs are also anticoagulants, but differ in the way they work. Whilst there are many advantages to DOACs, such as not needing to monitor vitamin K food intake, they are also generally not recommended for APS patients, especially if you are triple positive or have had a DVT or similar before. **[Learn more about DOACs, how they work, and how they differ from warfarin in this post](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#DOACs)**. Also Read: [Vitamin K](#SectionK) | [Triple Positive](#TriplePos) | [Warfarin](#SectionW) 1. **dRVVT (dilute Russell viper venom time)** \- This is one of the tests used to check for lupus anticoagulant. See the **[section on Snake Venom](#SnakeVenom)** for more information. Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome Health Resource Boards: ![Exclusive for Patients: A to Z Antiphospholipid Syndrome Guide. D is for DVT, Diet and Dermatologic Manifestations.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/d-dvt-diet-dermatologic-a-z-antiphospholipid-syndrome-guide-patients.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## E is for Embolus & Enoxaparin ### Embolus [An embolus can be a blood clot, or piece of plaque](https://medlineplus.gov/ency/article/001102.htm) that acts like a clot. It is called an ‘embolism’ when it travels from one site of the body to another. Whilst they mostly occur in veins, embolisms can also block arteries, and are usually found in the legs or feet (MedLinePlus, 2022a). There are many [types of embolisms](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/embolism); besides blood clots, they can consist of fat, tumours and even air. Depending on where the embolism is at, symptoms can include: shortness of breath, hypoxemia (low oxygen levels), hypotension (low blood pressure), headaches, swelling, and more. These can eventually lead to severe complications such as arrhythmia (abnormal heart rhythm), heart failure, kidney failure, stroke and more (Cleveland Clinic, 2024b). Thus, it is important for APS patients to be aware that clots can consist of more than just blood product, and that [**they can lodge in unwanted places within the body beyond the veins – learn where in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/). Also Read: [Blood Clots & Bleeding](#SectionB) | [Coagulation](#coagulation) | [Haemorrhage](#haemorrhage) ### Enoxaparin Enoxaparin ([brand names](https://www.drugs.com/ingredient/enoxaparin.html): Lovenox and Clexane) (Drugs .com, n.d.) is also known as “low molecular weight heparin” (LMWH), and is [an anticoagulant with a much shorter half-life](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3324206/) as compared to warfarin (Cook, 2010). It is commonly used as a bridge medication when an APS patient needs to stop taking warfarin temporarily. Common scenarios are surgeries, both major and minor, where bleeding might be anticipated, as well as during pregnancies. Whilst enoxaparin is derived from heparin, it is important to note that [the final formulation as well as administration differ](https://www.fda.gov/drugs/postmarket-drug-safety-information-patients-and-providers/generic-enoxaparin-questions-and-answers) (U.S. Food & Drug Administration \[FDA\], 2018). [**Learn more about enoxaparin and heparin here**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#enoxaparin). Also Read: [Injections](#injections) | [Pregnancy](#pregnancy) | [Surgery](#surgery) ### Other Words Starting with ‘E’ for APS: 1. **Etonogestrel (Implanon & Nexplanon)** \- As [oestrogen is known to increase the risk of blood clots](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1538783622150853), birth controls containing this hormone generally need to be avoided if you have Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Rosendaal, 2003). [Etonogestrel](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/drugs/18407-etonogestrel-implant) is a progestin hormone that is sold under the brand names, [Implanon](https://www.rxlist.com/implanon-drug.htm) and [Nexplanon](https://www.nexplanon.com/) (Cleveland Clinic, n.d.; RxList Inc., 2022; Nexplanon, n.d.). It comes in the form of a small implant that is inserted subdermally in your arm by your gynaecologist. **[Learn more about birth control and women’s health in relation to APS here.](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/#BirthControl)** 2. **Estrogen** \- See **[Oestrogen](#oestrogen)**. 3. **“Euro-Phospholipid” Project** \- The Euro-Phospholipid Project started in 1999, where 1000 Antiphospholipid Syndrome patients from 13 European countries have been followed since. It provides some interesting medical insights into APS, and correlations with other comorbidities such as Lupus (SLE). You can [view the paper on the lessons gleaned from the Euro-Phospholipid Project here](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1568997207001632) (Cervera, 2008). You can also **[read this post for the latest research insights into Antiphospholipid Syndrome.](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/)** Also Read: [Caucasians](#caucasians) | [Lupus](#SectionL) Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis Boards: ![E is for Embolus and Enoxaparin - Antiphospholipid Syndrome Guidebook](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/e-embolus-enoxaparin-antiphospholipid-syndrome-guidebook.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## F is for Free Fluid & False Negative/Positive ### Free Fluid [Intra-abdominal fluid](https://link.springer.com/referenceworkentry/10.1007/978-3-642-13327-5%5F175) collections can be classified into: free intraperitoneal fluid and contained fluid collections (Mansoori & Herrmann, 2013). Free (intraperitoneal) fluid can build up quickly and cause severe pain. An ultrasound is usually used to detect free fluid in patients with acute pain in an emergency setting. This was what happened to me twice when [**I experienced ovarian cyst ruptures that would not stop bleeding**](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/), due to being on warfarin. The pain escalated quickly in a mere 4 hours, from mild to a life-and-death situation. [**Learn more about ovarian cyst ruptures and menstruation in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/#menstruation). Also Read: [Acute Pain ](#AcutePain)| [Haemorrhage](#haemorrhage) | [Hospital Bag](#HospitalBag) | [Ultrasound](#SectionU) ### False Negative/Positive A [false negative](https://manoa.hawaii.edu/exploringourfluidearth/chemical/matter/properties-matter/practices-science-false-positives-and-false-negatives) is also known as a “type II error”, and is pretty self-explanatory (a negative result is obtained when it should actually be positive). A false positive (“type I error”), is the reverse, where a positive result is obtained, when truly it is negative (Exploring Our Fluid Earth, n.d.). Whilst I’m not grateful to have Antiphospholipid Syndrome, I’m grateful that my initial diagnosis was straightforward. After suffering a transient ischemic attack (‘mild stroke’), they did a blood test and confirmed a diagnosis of APS. Diagnosis isn’t always so straightforward however for a myriad of reasons. Patients can present with a wide range of symptoms that overlap with other health conditions or autoimmune diseases. False-positives can also occur as a result of certain medications of after having caught an infection, such as syphilis. [False-negative/seronegative APS patients](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/1529-0131%28200002%2943:2%3C440::AID-ANR26%3E3.0.CO;2-N) are harder to diagnose and therefore treat, as they usually present with clinical symptoms, yet no antiphospholipid antibodies are detected in their blood (Lockshin et al., 2000). Understandably, this is extremely frustrating for both the patient and doctor. [**Read the section on Non-Criteria/Seronegative APS for more information**](#NCAPS). Also Read: [Antiphospholipid Antibodies](#APLS) | [COVID-19](#COVID19) | [Infections](#infections) | [Syphilis False Positive](#syphilis) ### Other Terms for ‘F’ & APS are: 1. **Factor V Leiden** \- This is another type of blood clotting disorder that also increases the tendency for abnormal blood clots to form. The difference is that [Factor V Leiden](https://www.ahajournals.org/doi/full/10.1161/01.CIR.0000068167.08920.F1) is a hereditary disorder, where a mutation of one of the clotting factors increases the risk of blood clots (Ornstein & Cushman, 2003). Whereas Antiphospholipid Syndrome is an autoimmune disease, where the body produces antibodies that attack tissues in the body and causes blood clots to form. There is a [nice infographic on the differences here](https://www.differencebetween.com/what-is-the-difference-between-factor-v-leiden-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) (Udayangani, 2022). Also Read: [Blood Clots & Bleeding](#SectionB) | [Blood Disorder](#BloodDisorder) | [Genes](#genes) | [Haemophilia](#haemophilia) 1. **Factor Xa Inhibitors** \- These are another class of blood thinning medications, also known as direct oral anticoagulants (DOACs). In general, APS patients, especially those who are high risk, need to stick with warfarin instead. You can **[read more about DOACs, and why warfarin is recommended instead for APS patients here](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#DOACs)**. Also Read: [Lupus Anticoagulant](#LA) | [Triple Positive](#TriplePos) 1. **Fruits** \- You might be surprised, but it isn’t only the green foodstuffs that can interact with warfarin. [According to Norwood et al. (2015)](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0897190014544823): > “A total of 23 citations (15 case reports and 7 controlled clinical trials) were reviewed. The majority of cases involved cranberry products, while pomegranate juice, avocado, grapefruit juice, mango, and papain were also implicated in reports of suspected warfarin-fruit interactions.” Mangoes have also been shown to increase the INR in 13 patients, who were consuming between 1 – 6 mangoes per day, for at least 2 days (yes, I am aware that nobody eats six mangoes a day, but that’s research for you 😆). Mangoes contain high levels of Vitamin A, which may inhibit CYP2C19, which is an enzyme that is involved in warfarin metabolisation (Norwood et al., 2015). More research still needs to be conducted to determine the interaction between warfarin and fruits, but it never hurts to monitor your INR levels if you’re on warfarin, and consume any new food product. From there, you will slowly learn how to balance your diet in relation to your warfarin dosage. **[Read this post for more information on warfarin interactions.](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#warfarin)** Also Read: [CYP2C9 Gene](#CYP2C9) | [Vitamin D](#VitaminD) | [Diet](#diet) | [Green, Leafy Vegetables](#LeafyVeg) | [Herbs](#herbs) | [INR](#SectionI) | [Juicing](#SectionJ) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) | [Vegetables](#SectionV) Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis & Medical Resource Boards: ![F is for Free Fluide and False Negative / Positive - Antiphospholipid Syndrome Guide. Learn about seronegative APS, and medical tests that can and cannot used to diagnose, treat and manage this rare disease. Also learn more about essential diet and lifestyle changes required by Antiphospholipid Syndrome patients.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/f-free-fluid-false-negative-positive-antiphospholipid-syndrome-guide.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## G is for Genes & Green, Leafy Vegetables ### Genes & APS Genes are complicated things, aren’t they? As with any autoimmune disease, genetics have a complex interplay in Antiphospholipid Syndrome, where factors such as environment, trauma and comorbidities also need to be accounted for. In a warped sense, the body is pretty amazing in its ability to mess itself up. [According to Barinotti et al. (2020)](https://www.mdpi.com/1422-0067/21/24/9551): > “The impact of a specific genetic alteration is not restricted to the activity of the gene product carrying it, but it can also alter products of genes that actually do not carry defects \[83,84,85\]. Thus, in order to better understand complex and multifactorial disorders, such as APS, and the consequences of genetic abnormalities, it is important to look at a gene as a part of a complex network of processes and interactions and not as an isolated entity.” There have been various studies on [familial risk factors in Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1365-2141.2009.07831.x), yet the results are inconclusive due to the heterogeneity of antigen specificities and clinical manifestations of APS patients. What is fairly certain is that a few genetic abnormalities and factors are probably needed to ‘click’, to set Antiphospholipid Syndrome and its consequences into motion (Castro‐Marrero et al., 2009). Another interesting thing to note is that [Antiphospholipid Syndrome isn’t passed down directly from parent to child](https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/antiphospholipid-syndrome/causes/) like some other autoimmune diseases (NHS, 2022a). You can [**learn more about polygenes here**](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/#PassAPS). Also Read: [Paediatric APS](#paediatric) | [Young Adults](#SectionY) ### Green, Leafy Vegetables Green, leafy vegetables, as well as certain legumes and vegetable oils contain a fairly high amount of Vitamin K1\. If you’ve just received an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis and are on warfarin, your doctor would highlight this to you as it’s important to remember. Having said that, [moderation is always key when it comes to warfarin management](https://www.ccjm.org/content/ccjom/70/4/361.full.pdf), as the dosage is adjusted to your regular diet (Jaffer & Bragg, 2003). I will cover APS and food in a separate post, as it’s a complex topic. In the meantime, you can [**read more about warfarin medication interactions here**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#WarfarinInteractions). Also Read: [Vitamin D](#VitaminD) | [Diet](#diet) | [Coumarin](#coumarin) | [Fruits](#fruits) | [Green Tea](#GreenTea) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) | [Vegetables](#vegetables) | [Saponins](#saponins) Read Related Posts: - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) - [An Inspirational Poem on Miracles, by Thuli Zuma](https://achronicvoice.com/poem-on-miracles-thuli-zuma/) - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Sarah Frison – A Pastry Chef with a Stomach Disorder](https://achronicvoice.com/blood-sarah-frison-gastroparesis/) - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does ‘Normal’ Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/day-in-the-life/) ### Other Words for ‘G’ & APS are: 1. **Google Alerts** \- Not directly related to APS, but Google Alerts and RSS Feeds are a great way to stay on top of the latest news and research about it. **[Learn how to use them to keep up with the latest research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome here](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/#personal)**. 2. **Green Tea** \- I’m not sure about other countries, but this was one of the first food and drink items that the doctor told me to avoid when I first received my Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis. [Green tea is a pretty potent coagulant](https://www.mountsinai.org/health-library/herb/green-tea), although [it does have anti-inflammatory health benefits](https://www.spandidos-publications.com/10.3892/ijmm.2014.1635) that may help with managing other autoimmune conditions such as Lupus (Mount Sinai, n.d.-a; Wang et al., 2014). [Green tea has also been reported to have an antiplatelet effect](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1517/14740338.5.3.433), which increases bleeding, so it seems to have multiple properties as well (Nutescu et al., 2006). This is a common conundrum for those with APS, as so many beneficial foods need to be moderated due to warfarin intake. Also Read: [Alcohol](#alcohol) | [Blood Clots & Bleeding](#SectionB) | [Broccoli](#broccoli) | [Coagulation](#coagulation) | [Inflammation](#inflammation) | [Juicing](#SectionJ) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) Pin to Your APS & Autoimmune Disease Boards: ![G is for Genes and Green, Leafy Vegetables - Antiphospholipid Syndrome Guidebook.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/g-genes-green-leafy-vegetables-antiphospholipid-syndrome-guidebook.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## H is for Hughes’ Syndrome, Herbs, Haemorrhage & Heparin-Induced Thrombocytopenia ### Hughes’ Syndrome Antiphospholipid is also known as [Hughes’ Syndrome](https://www.proquest.com/openview/62fbe3b476ebec22f4ee6a9446c7f2f0/1), after the doctor who first described it in 1983 (Hughes, 2007). (Fun fact: I’ve visited him in person in London!) I suppose “Hughes’ Syndrome” is easier to remember and pronounce as compared to “Antiphospholipid Syndrome”, though the latter does have a nice pitter-patter ring to it. Also Read: [Antiphospholipid Syndrome](#SectionA) | [Sticky Blood](#StickyBlood) ### Herbs Herbs are tricky things; there are so many superfoods and traditional herbs touted for their health benefits. They might even be beneficial in the management of other chronic illnesses, such as Lupus (SLE). Yet, there is little medical literature on the interaction between such herbs, and their blood thinning or blood clotting effects. Having experimented with common Chinese and Indian herbs in soups and foods – sometimes unintentionally – I was surprised to find out how quickly my INR could swing. I didn’t have to consume a lot of these herbs for that to happen, and thus I approach them with great caution. I try to find information about the herb on Google, and only taste a little if it’s something I’ve never tried before. I then compare my INR the next day with my CoaguChek machine, to see what difference it made, if any. [According to Chua et al. (2015)](http://www.smj.org.sg/article/interaction-between-warfarin-and-chinese-herbal-medicines): > “This review has evaluated the current published evidence regarding the herb-warfarin interactions of 44 commonly used Chinese herbal products in Singapore. Of these, 11 herbs (danshen, ginkgo, dong quai, American ginseng, safflower, peach kernel, licorice, Asian ginseng, lycium, ginger and notoginseng) were found to have the strongest evidence of potential interaction with warfarin.” I will be writing a separate post dedicated to herbal interactions with Antiphospholipid Syndrome, because it is a mega topic that could take up half the content on this page, so keep an eye out for it! [**Sign up for my newsletter here**](https://eepurl.com/djDZ5P) should you wish to be kept in the loop. In the meantime, you can [**read more about warfarin medication interactions here**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#warfarin). Also Read: [Cupping, Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) & Chiropractor](#cupping) | [Diet](#diet) | [INR](#SectionI) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) | [Lupus (SLE)](#SLEAPS) | [Omega Oils](#OmegaOils) | [Roche (Coaguchek)](#roche) | [Supplements](#supplements) | [Vegetables](#vegetables) | [Warfarin](#warfarin) ### Haemorrhage This is the medical term for excessive bleeding. So why are we talking about bleeding, when Antiphospholipid Syndrome is a blood clotting disorder? This is because the medications used for the management of APS are mostly anticoagulants, which thin the blood and therefore, increases the risk for bleeding ironically. I’ve suffered from a few of such haemorrhagic events, where different types of coagulants were used in an attempt to stop the bleeding. You can [**read about my experiences at the Emergency Department here**](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/), where another hospital refused to accept me for treatment due to the ‘high risk’. This is also the reason why your INR needs to be monitored if you are on warfarin – to ensure that your blood is ‘thin’ enough, but not too much. Intravenous (IV) vitamin K is usually administered to [reverse the effects of warfarin during a major haemorrhagic event](https://jcp.bmj.com/content/57/11/1132) (Hanley, 2004). [**Learn more about reversal agents and the reversal protocol here**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#reversal). Also Read: [Blood Clots & Bleeding](#SectionB) | [Ovarian Cyst Rupture](#OCR) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) ### Heparin-Induced Thrombocytopenia (HIT) [Heparin-Induced Thrombocytopenia](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK482330/) (HIT) is a severe complication that occurs from the use of any products containing the drug, heparin. The main symptoms are a fall in platelet count and a hypercoagulable state, which can be life-threatening (Nicolas et al., 2023). There are two types of HIT – Type I HIT and Type II HIT – with the latter being more severe as it is activated by antibodies. According to Nagano et al. (2023), [currently the thrombin inhibitors used for HIT therapy do not have antidotes](https://www.cell.com/molecular-therapy-family/nucleic-acids/fulltext/S2162-2531%2823%2900211-1), although they are working on one. There is also some interesting [**research into a new drug to combat HIT**](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/#aptamers). You can also [**learn more about heparin here**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#HeparinVsLMWH). Also Read: [Blood Clots & Bleeding](#SectionB) | [Heparin](#heparin) | [Platelets](#platelets) | [Thrombocytopenia](#thrombocytopenia) ### Other Important Terms Under ‘H’ for APS are: 1. **Haemophilia** \- You’ve probably heard of Haemophilia, also known as the ‘[Royal Disease](https://hemaware.org/bleeding-disorders-z/royal-disease)’ that affected English, German, Russian, and Spanish nobility. So I guess it has more awareness due to such publicity (Hickey, 2023). Haemophilia is kind of (and not) the opposite of Antiphospholipid Syndrome. Both are blood disorders; in APS, the blood tends to clot, whereas in Haemophilia it does not clot properly, which leads to bleeding. [APS is also more common in females](https://medlineplus.gov/genetics/condition/antiphospholipid-syndrome/#frequency) (approx. 70%), whereas Haemophilia in males (for both [Haemophilia A](https://www.bleeding.org/bleeding-disorders-a-z/types/hemophilia-a) and [Haemophilia B](https://www.bleeding.org/bleeding-disorders-a-z/types/hemophilia-b)) (MedLinePlus, 2022b; National Bleeding Disorders Foundation \[NBDF\], n.d.-a; NBDF, n.d.-b). [Haemophilia is also an inherited disorder](https://www.cdc.gov/hemophilia/about/index.html), whereas multiple genetic and environmental factors play a role in APS, with [no clear pattern of inheritance](https://medlineplus.gov/genetics/condition/antiphospholipid-syndrome/#inheritance) (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention \[CDC\], 2024b; MedLinePlus, 2022b). Also Read: [Blood Disorder](#BloodDisorder) | [Factor V Leiden](#FactorV) | [Genes](#genes) | [Syphilis False Positive](#syphilis) 1. **Heart Attacks - [Read this post for more information on cardiovascular disease and Antiphospholipid Syndrome.](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#CVD)** 2. **Heparin** \- Heparin is given intravenously only within a hospital setting. It has a higher chance of causing [Heparin Induced Thrombocytopenia](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2352556820300448) (HIT), where massive activation of platelets take place, with multi-cellular release of micro particles that contribute to hypercoagulability in patients (Gruel et al., 2020). Hence, patients need to be closely monitored. **[Learn more about heparin and other APS medications here](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#HeparinVsLMWH)**. Also Read: [HIT (Heparin-Induced Thrombocytopenia)](#HIT) | [Injections](#injections) | [Platelets](#platelets) 1. **Hospital Bag** \- If you’ve been chronically ill for a while, chances are you have a ‘go bag’ for emergency trips to the hospital. I have one packed with a few days’ supply of medications, a change of clothing, underwear, hygiene products, a powerbank, water bottles, slippers, and other basic supplies I may need at the A&E, or should I need to be admitted. It can be a hassle to write down a list of things for your family members to bring, and they may not be able to find everything you need either. Read Related Posts: - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/top-tips-travelling-chronic-illness-disability/) - [After Surgery Care at Home: Hygiene Resources](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene-resources/) - [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery-stay-comfortable-bed/) - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) - [How to Prepare for a Medical Appointment in a Post-Pandemic World (4 Top Tips From a Doctor)](https://achronicvoice.com/prepare-medical-appointment/) Pin & Help to Share This Antiphospholipid Syndrome A to Z Guide: ![A to Z Antiphospholipid Syndrome Guide - H is for Hughes’ Syndrome, Herbs, Haemorrhage and HITS (Heparin-Induced Thrombocytopenia).](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/h-hughes-syndrome-herbs-haemorrhage-HITS-a-to-z-antiphospholipid-syndrome-guide.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## I is for INR, Infections & Injections ### INR (International Normalised Ratio) A [“PT” (Prothrombin Time)/INR blood test](https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/international-normalised-ratio-INR-test) must be done regularly for all Antiphospholipid Syndrome patients who are on warfarin. The PT/INR blood test measures how quickly it takes for your blood to clot, so that your doctor can adjust your warfarin medication accordingly, if needed. PT tests can also be used to check for blood clotting and bleeding conditions, and how well your liver is working (Healthdirect Australia, 2022). Also Read: [African Americans](#AfricanAmericans) | [Asians](#asians) | [Caucasians](#caucasians) | [Chinese Patients](#chinese) | [CYP2C9 Gene](#CYP2C9) | [Genes](#genes) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) | [Warfarin](#warfarin) ### Infections: Both the Trigger & Target Infections can either be the trigger to Antiphospholipid Syndrome, and/or worsen clinical manifestations in APS patients. According to Radic and Pattanaik (2018), [certain infectious agents might interact with β2GPI](https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/immunology/articles/10.3389/fimmu.2018.00969/full), which has implications in Antiphospholipid Syndrome. Other possible mechanisms for activation of disease include molecular mimicry, as well as an abnormality in immune-related protein and blood components. According to Shoenfeld et al. (2006), [many infections are often accompanied by an increase in aPLs](https://ard.eular.org/article/S0003-4967%2824%2920318-6/abstract) (antiphospholipid antibodies). Some of these infections include, but are not limited to: skin infections, human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) infection, Hepatitis C (Hep C) virus, urinary tract infections (UTIs) and more (also see: [Cervera et al., 2004](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC1754783/)). The [two most commonly reported viral infections associated with aPLs](https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/immunology/articles/10.3389/fimmu.2019.01609/full) are HIV and Hep C (Martirosyan et al., 2019). Shoenfeld et al. (2006) also propose a two hit hypothesis; in the first hit, aPLs increase the risk for thrombosis, and in the second hit, involvement of TLRs (toll-like receptors) by microbial structures together with those mediated by anti-β2GPI antibodies have a synergistic effect that contribute to the clotting event. According to a review by Mendoza-Pinto et al. (2018), [all types of infections can trigger APS](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11926-018-0773-x), from bacterial to parasitic and fungal, but especially viral. Certain vaccines can also trigger APS. One thing to note is that the existence of aPLs are mostly transient for an otherwise healthy person who has caught an infection; that is, the levels may rise in the patient’s blood for a period of time, but usually subside without further incidence (also see: Martirosyan et al., 2019). [**You can learn more about which major organs APS can hit in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/). Also Read: [Anti-β2GPI](#AntiB2GPI) | [Antiphospholipid Antibodies](#APLS) | [Injections](#injections) | [Vaccinations](#vaccinations) Read Related Posts: - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/dengue-fever-lupus/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/body-gone-rogue-invisible-illness/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-chronic-illness/) - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/) ### Injections as an APS Patient In general, [subcutaneous injections](https://medlineplus.gov/ency/patientinstructions/000430.htm) are okay for people who are on anticoagulants, as they penetrate into the fatty tissue just beneath the skin (MedLinePlus, 2023). This is also how people with Antiphospholipid Syndrome self-administer enoxaparin (Clexane/Lovenox) as well. You can [**learn more about enoxaparin here**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#enoxaparin). Intramuscular injections are a little trickier, as there is a [risk of bleeding and muscle haematomas](https://immunisationhandbook.health.gov.au/contents/vaccination-for-special-risk-groups/vaccination-for-people-with-bleeding-disorders) (Australian Immunisation Handbook, 2023). Patients who are on blood thinners generally need to stop taking them before receiving an intramuscular injection or vaccine (such as the [HPV vaccine](https://www.cdc.gov/vaccines/vpd/hpv/hcp/administration.html) (CDC, 2021). [**Learn more about the reversal protocol here**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#reversal). In some cases, such as an epinephrine injection during an anaphylaxis reaction, it cannot be avoided. In such cases, the patient should be monitored until healthcare professionals have deemed that both bleeding and clotting risks are well under control. This was what happened to me when I was undergoing rituximab treatment for Lupus at the hospital, and [**suffered an allergic reaction to it**](https://achronicvoice.com/anaphylaxis-rituximab/). Also Read: [Blood Clots & Bleeding](#SectionB) | [Haemorrhage](#haemorrhage) | [Lupus (SLE) ](#SLEAPS) | [Vaccinations](#vaccinations) ### Other Terms for “I” and APS: 1. **Immunosuppressants** \- There are some immunosuppressants, such as [azathioprine](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S154359460600002X), and many other [medications that interact with warfarin](https://www.uptodate.com/contents/image?imageKey=HEME%2F62697) (Ng & Crowther, 2006; UpToDate, n.d.). You will need to work with your doctor(s), if you need to take a medication for a comorbidity that interacts with warfarin. Your warfarin dose will most likely need to be tweaked, to ensure that your INR is within your personal target range. Always consult your own doctor before changing or taking medications that might potentially interact with warfarin. **[Learn more about warfarin drug interactions here](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#warfarin)**. 2. **Implanon** \- This is the brand name of a birth control implant that contains etonogestrel, a progestin-based hormone. **[Read more about Implanon, hormones and birth control here.](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/#BirthControl)** 3. **Inflammation** \- [Antiphospholipid Syndrome is a thrombo-inflammatory autoimmune disease](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9877197/), with ongoing research as to its role within the immune system. Inflammation can be activated from various pathways, with antiphospholipid antibodies as a contributing factor (Ambati et al., 2023). You can also **[learn more in this post on the systemic implications of Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#systemic)**. 4. **Interactions** \- There are many everyday activities that can interact with warfarin and Antiphospholipid Syndrome, such as your diet and contact sports. APS patients need to be careful of getting hit (even ‘gently’ at times!), as they can bruise and bleed easily. I use [MedScape](https://reference.medscape.com/drug-interactionchecker) (n.d.) all the time to check for medication interactions with warfarin and also other drugs. Another alternative medication interaction checker is [DrugBank](https://go.drugbank.com/drug-interaction-checker) (n.d.). I have the [MedScape app downloaded on my iPhone](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/medscape/id321367289), and you can also [get it at the Google Play app store](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.medscape.android&hl=en%5FUS&pli=1). **[ Learn how it works and how I use the MedScape app here](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#CheckWarfarin)**. Also Read: [Cupping, Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) & Chiropractor](#cupping) | [Google Alerts](#GoogleAlerts) | [Herbs](#herbs) | [Massages](#massages) | [Sports](#sports) | [Supplements](#supplements) 1. **Invisible Illness** \- Antiphospholipid Syndrome is dangerous because it is an invisible illness. In fact, it may not present with any pain symptoms, but when it strikes, it goes in for the kill. This was my fatal mistake as a teenager. I presumed that I was fine since I did not experience any pain, and continued to eat, drink and play sports as per usual. That was until I **[developed multiple DVTs and a pulmonary embolism that nearly costed me my life](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/)**. The event also **[activated all my other autoimmune diseases and chronic illnesses subsequently.](https://achronicvoice.com/bloody-mutations-lupus/)** So learn from my mistakes and pay attention to your body, whether you feel any pain at present or not. **[Read more about how Antiphospholipid Syndrome can affect your entire body in this post.](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/)** Also Read: [Antiphospholipid Syndrome](#SectionA) | [Comorbidities](#comorbidities) | [Lupus (SLE)](#SLEAPS) | [Sports](#sports) | [Young Adults](#SectionY) Read Related Posts: - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome-personal-experiences/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/body-gone-rogue-invisible-illness/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare) ](https://achronicvoice.com/dengue-fever-lupus/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-chronic-illness/) - [Invisible Cities Linkup: Pros & Cons of Living with Chronic Illness in Your City](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-cities-linkup/) Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis Boards: ![I is INR, Infections and Injections - The Ultimate Antiphospholipid Syndrome Guide.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/i-inr-infections-injections-ultimate-antiphospholipid-syndrome-guide.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## J is for Juicing You know how they tell you that kale (or whatever vegetable) juice is going to work miracles for you? Well, you might want to avoid that with Antiphospholipid Syndrome, as green leafy vegetables tend to contain high levels of vitamin K, which is a coagulant and interacts with warfarin. Having said that, consistency is key. According to Booth and Centurelli (1999) (they have a comprehensive list of common foods that contain vitamin K, too): > “When a dietary vitamin K interaction with warfarin is suspected, [inconsistent consumption of green vegetables is often the cause of fluctuations in vitamin K status](https://academic.oup.com/nutritionreviews/article-abstract/57/9/288/1860852).” So if it is part of your daily routine to drink a cup of kale juice every single morning, then you need to stick to it *every day*. ***Warfarin dosages are adjusted based on your personal diet and not someone else’s***. This is why warfarin management can be tricky, especially when you first receive an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis, as it’s difficult to know where to even begin diet-wise. Should you wish to add or remove something that interacts with warfarin from your daily or weekly diet plan, then you need to discuss this with your doctor. They will monitor your INR closely, and should work with you to make that shift happen. [**Learn more about warfarin and its interactions here**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#warfarin). Also Read: [Coumarin](#coumarin) | [Vitamin D](#VitaminD) | [Diet](#diet) | [Green, Leafy Vegetables](#LeafyVeg) | [Herbs](#herbs) | [INR](#INR) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) | [Omega Oils](#OmegaOils) | [Quinoa](#SectionQ) | [Saponins](#saponins) | [Supplements](#supplements) | [Vegetables](#vegetables) | [Zinc](#SectionZ) Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome & Healthy Living Boards: ![J is for Juicing - A to Z Antiphospholipid Syndrome Guide.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/j-juicing-a-z-antiphospholipid-syndrome-guide.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## K is for Vitamin K Vitamin K is **the** vitamin that patients with an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis become most familiar with eventually, as it [interacts with warfarin](https://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/VitaminK-HealthProfessional/) and contributes to the blood clotting process (Office of Dietary Supplements \[ODS\], 2021). It’s a little ironic because most people are more familiar with vitamin C and vitamin E, but don’t fully understand what vitamin K does. Neither do they know which foods and drinks contain it. Apart from blood coagulation, [vitamin K is also important for many other bodily processes](https://www.mdpi.com/2304-8158/10/12/3136). It works together with vitamin D to promote bone health, prevent vascular calcification and also modulate cell proliferation (Bus & Szterk, 2021). There has also been recent interest in [vitamin K’s role in intestinal health](https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/immunology/articles/10.3389/fimmu.2021.791565/full) (Lai et al., 2022). Thus, whilst it is important to monitor your vitamin K intake, it is also important to take into account your body’s overall nutritional needs. ### Types of Vitamin K Vitamin K is not quite ***a*** vitamin, but a family of compounds that share a similar chemical structure, 2-methyl-1,4-napthoquinone. These are primarily vitamin K1 (phylloquinone) and vitamin K2 (a series of menaquinones). A synthetic version exists as well in the form of [vitamin K3 (menadione)](https://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/VitaminK-HealthProfessional/), although it is no longer used in food products due to evidence that it can damage hepatic cells (ODS, 2021). According to Booth (2012), [all photosynthetic plants produce vitamin K1](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.3402/fnr.v56i0.5505), with green, leafy vegetables containing the highest concentration. Vitamin K2 is primarily of bacterial origin and can be found in food products such as fermented foods. MK-4 (menaquinone-4) is the exception, as it is mostly found in dairy products, and also as a result of vitamin K1 or K3 conversion within the body. ### Vitamin K is Heavily Diet Dependent No matter what form it comes in, vitamin K is fat-soluble, although the bioavailability, absorption and storage varies. [Humans also do not produce vitamin K](https://www.mdpi.com/2072-6643/12/1/138), and need to rely on dietary intake to meet the body’s requirements for it (Simes et al., 2020). In addition, the [human body recycles vitamin K](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5726210/) as only a minute amount of it is retained (Fusaro et al., 2017). As vitamin K intake is heavily dependent on diet which varies by country and person, it has been hard to pin down a fixed daily intake requirement even up to this day (Booth, 2012). In most Western nations, the [main form of vitamin K intake is vitamin K1](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5726210/), whilst in Japan, it is vitamin K2 (Fusaro et al., 2017). I will be writing a separate post that focuses on vitamin K, as I realised this section would become too lengthy if I kept adding to it 😉 You can [**learn more about warfarin and medication interactions here**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#warfarin). Also Read: [Coumarin](#coumarin) | [Calcium](#calcium) | [Vitamin D](#VitaminD) | [Diet](#diet) | [Omega Oils](#OmegaOils) | [Saponins](#saponins) | [Supplements](#supplements) | [Zinc](#SectionZ) Read Related Posts: - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/malabsorption-nutrients/) - [Dysphagia & Swallowing Problems (and How Oral Vitamin Sprays Can be of Help to You)](https://achronicvoice.com/dysphagia-oral-vitamin-sprays/) Pin to Your Vitamins, Nutrition & Antiphospholipid Syndrome Boards: ![A to Z Antiphospholipid Syndrome Guide - K is for Vitamin K.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/k-vitamin-k-a-z-antiphospholipid-syndrome-guide.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## L is for Lupus & Lupus Anticoagulant ### Lupus Anticoagulant – A Double Misnomer It’s important to note that there is a difference between [Systemic Lupus Erythematosus (SLE / the autoimmune disease)](https://www.cdc.gov/lupus/about/index.html) (CDC, n.d.), and the lupus anticoagulant (a heterogeneous class of immunoglobulins). The [‘anti’ in ‘lupus anticoagulant’ is actually a misnomer](https://www.apjai-journal.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/12/10LupusAnticoagulantAPJAIVol5No2December1987P161.pdf) with historical roots, as it was originally found to prolong a clotting test that is dependant on phospholipids in Lupus patients. Later, it was discovered that the lupus anticoagulant actually increases the tendency for the blood to clot (Wong et al., 1987). The ‘lupus’ in ‘lupus anticoagulant’ is also a misnomer, as more than half of people who have this antibody do not indeed have Lupus (the autoimmune disease). So you can see how Lupus and lupus anticoagulant are easily confused! Also Read: [Antiphospholipid Antibodies](#APLS) | [Antiphospholipid Syndrome](#APS) | [Phospholipids](#phospholipids) | [Syphilis False Positive](#syphilis) ### Lupus (SLE) & APS Overlaps Having said that, it is also not unusual for patients with Lupus to be diagnosed with APS, and vice versa. [Both autoimmune diseases are closely linked](https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/immunology/articles/10.3389/fimmu.2018.00969/full), with a spectrum of overlaps in clinical manifestations. For some patients, it is considered Primary APS with Secondary Lupus, or the other way around, depending on their manifestations (Radic & Pattanaik, 2018). SLE occurs more frequently in females than in males with a 9:1 ratio, and generally manifests during the fertile period between 15 – 50 years of age. The clinical manifestations may differ a little between female and male patients. [Antiphospholipid antibodies are also frequently found in SLE patients](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0896841116302475) (at least 20-30%) (Pons-Estel et al., 2017). You can [**read this post to learn all about females and women’s health in relation to Antiphospholipid Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/). Also Read: [Men](#men) | [Primary APS](#PAPS) | [Secondary APS](#SAPS) | [Young Adults](#SectionY) ### Testing for Lupus Anticoagulant (LA) The lupus anticoagulant (LA) is one of several criteria used to diagnose Antiphospholipid Syndrome. Not all APS or Lupus patients will test positive for the lupus anticoagulant, and [detection of LA](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1538783622105738) also consists of a sequence of tests, instead of just a single one (Pengo et al., 2009). According to Rasool and Tiwari (2023), this [sequence of tests for lupus anticoagulant](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK544357/) include an initial screening test, a mixing study, and a final confirmatory test. You may be familiar with some of the tests used in this sequence, such as PTT and dRVVT. Rasool and Tiwari (2023) have also summarised the LA testing criteria as outlined by the International Society of Thrombosis and Hemostasis (ISTH) here: - *“(Screening test) Prolonged result in one of two coagulation tests that are phospholipids dependent such as PTT-LA or DRVVT* - *(Mixing study) observe the prolonged result on mixing study* - *(Confirmatory test) Lack of prolonged time when adding additional phospholipids* - *Ruling out other coexisting coagulation factor inhibitor such as factor VII.”* The [full guide on lupus anticoagulant testing](https://www.jthjournal.org/article/S1538-7836%2822%2903725-4/fulltext) can be found in the Journal of Thrombosis and Haemostasis, should you be interested to learn more (Devreese et al., 2020). Also Read: [2023 ACR/EULAR APS Criteria](#EULAR) | [Anti-β2GPI](#AntiB2GPI) | [Anticardiolipin Antibodies](#anticardiolipin) | [INR](#INR) | [Phospholipids](#phospholipids) | [Snake Venom (dRVVT)](#SnakeVenom) ### Lupus Anticoagulant – aPL Associated with the Highest Risk for Thrombosis Of all the antibodies that mark Antiphospholipid Syndrome, [patients with the lupus anticoagulant are also at the highest risk of thrombosis](https://www.ahajournals.org/doi/full/10.1161/ATVBAHA.107.153536) (Pengo et al., 2007). The [odds ratio for thrombosis are 5 – 6 times higher](https://ashpublications.org/blood/article/101/5/1827/106631/Lupus-anticoagulants-are-stronger-risk-factors-for), and presence of LA are both strong indicators for thrombosis and Systemic Lupus Erythematosus (SLE) (Galli et al., 2003). Hence, both APS and SLE patients need to monitor their LA markers periodically. Another interesting thing to note is that [patients who are on DOACs (except perhaps for apixaban) may yield false-positive results for lupus antibody](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1568997216302774) (Hoxha et al., 2017). Clinical research is still ongoing for this. You can [**read about the latest APS research in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/), and also [**learn more about DOACs here**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#DOACs). Also Read: [Antiphospholipid Antibodies](#APLS) | [Blood Clots](#BloodClots) | [Coagulation](#coagulation) | [False Positive/Negative](#FalseNegPos) | [Non-Criteria/Seronegative APS](#NCAPS) ### Other Terms for “L” and APS are: 1. **Labels** \- It’s important to check food labels when you first receive an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis, and are unfamiliar with what to eat. Food labels and percentages can give clues as to whether an ingredient might interact with your APS medications. A little trick or tip is to avoid products that are labelled as ‘good for heart health’ or ‘not for pregnant women’, especially in supplement form. These consumable products generally have blood thinning effects, and supplements often come in a concentrated form. I will write a post on little APS hacks in future, when I can! In the meantime, you can **[learn more about warfarin interactions here](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#WarfarinInteractions)**. Also Read: [Vitamin D](#VitaminD) | [Diet](#diet) | [Omega Oils](#OmegaOils) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) | [Saponins](#saponins) | [Supplements](#supplements) | [Zinc](#SectionZ) Read Related Posts: - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture-lupus-steroids/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/dengue-fever-lupus/) - [Bloody Mutations into Lupus](https://achronicvoice.com/bloody-mutations-lupus/) - [What’s it Like to Live with a Heart Rhythm Disorder?](https://achronicvoice.com/heart-rhythm-disorder/) - [My Second Brush with Death: A Broken Heart (Literally)](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome & Lupus Boards: ![L is for Lupus and Lupus Anticoagulant - The Antiphospholipid Syndrome A to Z Guide.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/l-lupus-lupus-anticoagulant-antiphospholipid-syndrome-a-z-guide.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## M is for Miscarriage, Men with APS & Musculoskeletal Manifestations ### Miscarriages & APS [Recurrent miscarriages](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3279165/) are a common indication of Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Di Prima et al., 2011). Apart from miscarriages, pregnancy with APS also comes with added risks. As this is an extensive topic, I have separated it into a post of its own. [**Read more about miscarriage, pregnancy and women’s health with APS here**](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/). Also Read: [Paediatric APS](#paediatric) ### Antiphospholipid Syndrome in Men Antiphospholipid Syndrome occurs more commonly in women than in men, with a ratio of about 3.5:1, but few studies have been done on how the disease manifests between sexes. Albeit the small sample sizes, here is what has been found so far in terms of prevalent APS manifestations between males and females ([Truglia et al., 2022](https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/immunology/articles/10.3389/fimmu.2022.932181/full); [Jara et al., 2005](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1191/0961203305lu2176oa); [Cervera et al., 2002](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/art.10187)): **Females**: central nervous system, stroke / TIA (transient ischemic attack), pulmonary embolism and venous thrombosis at a young age. **Males**: mesenteric thrombosis, Budd-Chiari syndrome, gastrointestinal complications, arterial thrombotic events (such as myocardial infarctions and peripheral thrombosis of lower limbs), later-onset but more relapsing arterial events and epilepsy. Other research that has been found so far, albeit limited, is that males tend to have Primary APS more than Secondary APS, unlike women where the ratios found were closer in number. Female also tend to have more IgM anticardiolipin antibodies than males (Truglia et al., 2022; [de Carvalho, 2011](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s00296-009-1346-0)). You can [**read this post for more information on the systemic implications related to Antiphospholipid Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#systemic). Also Read: [Anticardiolipin Antibodies](#anticardiolipin) | [Primary APS](#PAPS) | [Secondary APS](#SAPS) | [Transient Ischaemic Attack](#TIA) | [Strokes](#strokes) ### Musculoskeletal Manifestations Several [musculoskeletal manifestations have been reported in APS patients](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0961203316636467), namely: Arthralgia/Arthritis, Avascular Necrosis/Osteonecrosis, bone marrow necrosis, complex regional pain syndrome type-1 (reflex sympathetic dystrophy), muscle infarction, non-traumatic fractures and osteoporosis (Noureldine et al., 2016). Musculoskeletal manifestations can also be further complicated with comorbidities, such as Lupus (SLE). [**Learn more about musculoskeletal manifestations in APS patients here**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#musculoskeletal). Read Related Posts: - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture-lupus-steroids/) - [What’s it Like to be on a High Dose of Steroids? (And the First Question You Will Definitely Ask)](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) - [Would You Rather: Have an Invisible Illness or a Visible Disability?](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-disability/) - [3 Types of Chronic Pain that Sound Bearable, but are Not](https://achronicvoice.com/not-big-deal-experience-real/) ### Other Terms for “M” and APS are: 1. **Massages** \- Massage involves touch, and with that, a possibility of bruising due to the pressure applied. As a person with APS, I’m sure you’re familiar with how easily a bruise can form! Whilst I suppose that the safest solution to avoid blood clots is to not have any massages at all, I find life sad without them. Massages are very therapeutic for me, especially when I’m in a Lupus or Sjögren’s pain flare, and am aching everywhere. They truly do help me to sleep better at night, and ease some of the pain. So what I do is to be stringent with the selection of a massage therapist, and also voice out when I think they need to reduce the pressure. I actually found a masseuse whom I really like, and I return to her all the time because she knows my body pretty well by now. I never get a bruise after her massages, and always feel much brighter and better after. ***Please note that I am simply sharing my experiences; do check with your own doctor if you would like to try massages as a pain management strategy for your other chronic illnesses***. Also Read: [Blood Clots & Bruising](#SectionB) | [Cupping, Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) & Chiropractor](#cupping) | [Herbs](#herbs) | [Lupus](#SLEAPS) | [Sports](#sports) Read Related Posts: - [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/resources-therapies-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [Floatation Therapy: Did it do Anything for My Chronic Pain?](https://achronicvoice.com/floatation-therapy-chronic-pain-review-palm-avenue-float-club-singapore/) - [YuYu Bottle Review: Hot Water Bottle for ‘Surround Warmth’ Pain Relief](https://achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-review/) 1. **Medical ID** \- When I was first diagnosed with Antiphospholipid Syndrome, I was given a medical card that stated I was on warfarin. I was told to keep this card close to me at all times, in case of an emergency. I also have other medical cards in my wallet that state **[I have antibodies in my blood](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/)**, and that I have an annuloplasty band for a **[mitral valve repair.](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/)** These are all important medical information, especially if you need a blood transfusion or emergency surgery done. There is a risk of bleeding with surgeries, so my warfarin medication needs to be reversed. Having antibodies in the blood also means that they might need to filter blood from the blood bank for me, if they are unable to find an exact match (regardless of blood type). (**[Learn more about the reversal protocol for various anticoagulants here](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#reversal)**.) Whilst first responders should always check for such medical information that a person may be carrying, this might not always be the case during a frantic emergency situation. Thus, some people wear [medical IDs in the form of accessories such as bracelets or necklaces](https://www.amazon.com/s?k=medical+ID+accessories&crid=3YBAW5MXQ1AM&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ec14ace7c1a4ae4e591a8af1f896583d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). This can help to alert paramedics and hospital staff that the patient has a medical condition they need to take note of, such as Antiphospholipid Syndrome. Also Read: [Antiphospholipid Antibodies](#APLS) | [Bleeding](#bleeding) | [Hospital Bag](#HospitalBag) | [Invisible Illness](#II) | [Surgery](#surgery) 1. **Menopause** \- Whilst there are not many studies done on APS in relation to menopause, it is a [period of immune changes](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1521661613000454) within the body, one of which is a decrease in oestrogen (Bove, 2013). 2. **Menstruation** \- Women with Antiphospholipid Syndrome can have [heavier periods](https://aps-support.org.uk/self-help/living-with-aps/aps-and-womens-health) or see blood clots whilst menstruating (APS Support UK, n.d.). It is also important to be aware of ovarian cyst ruptures, as these are extremely painful and can be life-threatening. **[I’ve had the misfortune of experiencing them twice](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/)**, and am now on a progestin-based birth control as a preventive method. **[Learn more about menopause, menstruation, birth control and ovarian cyst ruptures in this post.](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/)** 3. **Mental Health - [Read this post for more information on neuropsychiatric symptoms in APS](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#neuropsychiatric).** 4. **Movement** \- It’s important to keep on your toes when you live with a blood clotting disorder like Antiphospholipid Syndrome! This is especially true if you’re taking a long flight, due to the change in cabin pressure, dehydration, and cramped spaces. Even healthy people can get DVTs on flights, so it is even more vital for a person with APS to keep moving every hour. You can **[read more travel tips in my post here](https://achronicvoice.com/top-tips-travelling-chronic-illness-disability/)**, and **[learn more about flights and DVTs in this post](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#DVT)**. 5. **Magnetic Resonance Imaging (MRI)** \- An [MRI procedure](https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/mri/about/pac-20384768) is the one where they slide you into a tube-like casing, then start to blare a sequence of loud, weird sounds at you (Mayo Clinic, 2023c). Unlike CT scans or x-rays, they do not use radiation but powerful magnets, so if you have metallic implants, do let the technician know. They produce three-dimensional images of anatomy in greater detail than x-rays or CT scans. MRIs are most frequently used to diagnose brain and spinal cord issues, but can also be used to check on heart or blood vessels, bones and joints, as well as irregularities in other organs such as the kidney, uterus and prostate. In particular, [spin echo (SE) imaging is effective for intracardiac masses](https://www.jrheum.org/content/29/12/2658.short), such as thrombi and tumours. MRIs are also able to differentiate tumours and age of blood clots more clearly than echocardiograms. These insights can be useful for the formulation of treatment plans (Erkan et al., 2002). It is also interesting to note that MRI findings of certain APS patients are similar to those with Multiple Sclerosis (MS). Whilst further studies need to be done, [Stosic et al. (2010) conclude in a small MRI study that](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s00415-009-5264-6): > “The release of phospholipid antigenic determinants during tissue injury may play an important role in the epitope spreading of immune response and the generation of APLAs in MS that may lead to secondary ischemic damage.” **[Learn more about the cardiovascular, musculoskeletal and systemic implications in relation to APS in this post.](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/)** Also Read: [Blood Clots](#BloodClots) | [Coagulation](#coagulation) | [Ultrasound](#SectionU) | [X-Rays](#SectionX) 1. **‘Muscular Sprains’** \- Muscular sprains are something to be aware of, especially around your chest area, as they might indicate a Pulmonary Embolism (PE). As someone who has experienced the full works of haemorrhages, blood clots, tendon ruptures and muscle sprains, I can usually tell which is what by now. For someone who is newly diagnosed with APS, it can be difficult to differentiate between a regular muscular sprain and a blood clot. I am here to tell you to please simply err on the side of caution, and visit your specialist or the ED/A&E right away. When **[I experienced a PE at 17](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/)**, I had initially visited a General Practitioner (GP) who brushed it off as a muscular sprain. I only went to the A&E two days later and by then, it was a little too late. This major health crisis **[triggered a cascade of autoimmune disorders](https://achronicvoice.com/bloody-mutations-lupus/)** that might have stayed dormant otherwise. **[Read more about pulmonary embolisms and other manifestations of APS here.](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#pulmonary)** Also Read: [Catastrophic Antiphospholipid Syndrome](#CAPS) | [Haemorrhage](#haemorrhage) | [Lupus](#SLEAPS) Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis & Resource Guide Boards: ![A to Z Antiphospholipid Syndrome Guide - M is for Miscarriage, Men and Musculoskeletal Manifestations.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/m-miscarriage-men-musculoskeletal-manifestations-a-z-antiphospholipid-syndrome-guide.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## N is for NSAIDs, Neuropsychiatric Manifestations & Non-Criteria APS ### NSAIDs Does “Ibuprofen”, “Naproxen” or “Aspirin” ring a bell? These all fall under a class of [medications called NSAIDS](https://www.health.harvard.edu/diseases-and-conditions/bad-mix-blood-thinners-and-nsaids) (Non-Steroidal Anti-Inflammatory Drugs) (Harvard Medical School, 2019b). In brief, NSAIDs interfere with the blood clotting process through the inhibition of platelet function. They also [increase the risk for gastrointestinal bleeding and peptic ulcers](https://australianprescriber.tg.org.au/articles/peptic-ulcer-disease-and-non-steroidal-anti-inflammatory-drugs.html) due to the way they are metabolised (Drini, 2017). Thus, taking NSAIDs can pose as an additional risk when you are already on an anticoagulant drug. [**Learn more about NSAIDs here**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#NSAIDs). Also Read: [Aspirin](#aspirin) | [Blood Clots & Bruising](#SectionB) | [Coagulation](#coagulation) | [Painkillers](#painkillers) | [Platelets](#platelets) | [Warfarin](#SectionW) ### Neuropsychiatric Manifestations [Neuropsychiatry](https://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/become-a-psychiatrist/choose-psychiatry/what-is-psychiatry/types-of-psychiatrist/neuropsychiatry) is a field of medicine that involves both neurology and mental illness (Royal College of Psychiatrists, n.d.). Whilst a lot more research still needs to be done, [Antiphospholipid Syndrome is now recognised as a major neurological disease](https://academic.oup.com/pmj/article-abstract/79/928/81/7045590) as well. Neurological events include: strokes, TIAs, migraine, headaches, brain fog/cognitive dysfunction and much more (Hughes, 2003). [**I write about neuropsychiatric manifestations in APS patients more comprehensively here**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#neuropsychiatric). Also Read: [Cognitive Function](#cognitive) | [Transient Ischaemic Attacks](#TIA) | [Strokes](#strokes) Read Related Posts: - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [Is Seeking Help for Your Mental Health Worth It?](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/) ### Non-Criteria APS / Seronegative APS This is a widely debated topic amongst researchers and even amongst patients. In basic terms, non-criteria APS (NC-APS) indicates that a person may have Antiphospholipid Syndrome, but does not meet the formal criteria for it ([**see the section on Antiphospholipid Syndrome**](#SectionA) for what those are). [Non-criteria APS patients can present with clinical manifestations](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1568997220302664) such as strokes, migraine, livedo reticularis, thrombocytopenia and others, yet blood tests yield a negative result for apLs (Pires da Rosa et al., 2020). [Cervera et al. (2012) makes a case for and against testing for so-called non-criteria APS antibodies](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1568997211002370), and concludes with a rough protocol to follow in terms of diagnosis. For instance, serum IgG anti-vimentin/cardiolipin antibodies can be found in a large number of NC-APS patients, and in almost all patients who have a confirmed APS diagnosis. However, antiphospholipid antibodies (aPLs) can also be transient in nature. These are just two examples from Cervera et al.’s (2012) paper for and against testing for NC-APS. [**Read this post for all the various manifestations that Antiphospholipid Syndrome can present as**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/). #### Types of Non-Criteria APS Antibodies Liu et al. (2022) investigates [seven of these non-criteria antiphospholipid antibodies](https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/immunology/articles/10.3389/fimmu.2022.972012/full), which include: 1. anti-phosphatidylserine/prothrombin (aPS/PT) antibodies IgG/IgA/IgM, 2. anti-phosphatidylethanolamine antibodies (aPE) IgG/IgA/IgM, 3. anti-Annexin V antibodies (aAnnexinV) IgG/IgA/IgM, 4. anti-phosphatidylserine antibodies (aPS) IgM, 5. aPS IgG, 6. antibodies directed against a mixture of phospholipids (APhL) IgG, and 7. APhL IgM They conclude that the highest prevalence of non-criteria aPLs was aAnnexinV, whilst APhL IgG and aPS IgM had the highest specificity, and aPS/PT had the highest Youden index for diagnostic value in terms of APS. Of these seven non-criteria aPLs, they further conclude that three in particular – APhL IgG, aPS/PT, and aPS IgG – might show potential as biomarkers for APS-related thrombosis events. #### Classifications for ‘Seronegative’ & ‘Non-Criteria’ APS In a [small study of seronegative APS patients](https://academic.oup.com/rheumatology/article/61/2/826/6273199?login=false), Truglia et al. (2022) found that 69% of them tested positive for at least one non-criteria test. Interestingly, [seronegative APS patients who tested positive for aVim/CL IgA](https://academic.oup.com/cei/article/205/3/326/6431041) showed a higher prevalence of arterial thrombosis, whilst APS patients who tested positive for aVim/CL IgG showed a higher prevalence of pregnancy morbidity and thrombocytopenia (Capozzi et al., 2021). To complicate matters, definitions and terms can vary from paper to paper, and different laboratories may produce different results. According to Cervera et al. (2012), even anti-β2GPI, which is a known antiphospholipid antibody, is only tested in a small number of labs. Much of the literature for non-criteria APS also focuses on obstetric patients, where majority seem to be treated as ‘regular’ APS patients, despite being seronegative (Pires da Rosa et al., 2020). As a result, Pires da Rosa et al. (2020) further proposes [breaking down non-criteria APS into the following four categories](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1568997220302664): “Seronegative APS”, “Clinical non-criteria APS”, “Incomplete laboratory APS” and “Laboratory non-criteria APS”. This might help to break this quandary down into more identifiable parts for further research. Also Read: [Anti-β2GPI](#AntiB2GPI) | [Anticardiolipin Antibodies](#anticardiolipin) | [False Negative/Positive](#FalseNegPos) | [INR](#INR) | [Phospholipids](#phospholipids) ### Other Terms for “N” and APS are: 1. **Nexplanon – [Read more about Nexplanon and birth control here.](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/#BirthControl)** 2. [**NOACs** (novel oral anticoagulants)](https://www.jthjournal.org/article/S1538-7836%2822%2912799-6/fulltext) \- This is another name for DOACs, and is also the name that has been used for the longest amount of time. However, for the purpose of clarity, the term “DOAC” is preferred (Barnes et al., 2015). **[Learn more about DOACs in this post](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#DOACs)**. 3. **Numbness** \- Numbness, or a “pins and needles” sensation, can be a sign of poor blood circulation, or one of many symptoms of a blood clot. Please seek medical attention immediately if you think you might have a blood clot, as the consequences can be deadly. For example, half of my entire body went limp and numb when **[I experienced a Transient Ischaemic Attack](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/)** (“mild stroke”). Also Read: [Blood Clots & Bleeding](#SectionB) | [Coagulation](#coagulation) | [Cognitive Function](#cognitive) | [Haemorrhage](#haemorrhage) | [Transient Ischaemic Attack](#TIA) | [Strokes](#strokes) Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis Boards: ![A to Z Antiphospholipid Syndrome Guide - N is for NSAIDS, Neuropsychiatric Manifestations and Non-Criteria APS.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/n-nsaids-neuropsychiatric-non-criteria-aps-a-z-antiphospholipid-syndrome-guide.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## O is for Oestrogen, Ovarian Cyst Ruptures & Ophthalmologic Manifestations ### Oestrogen [Oestrogen (or estrogen) is a steroid hormone associated with menstruation](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK538260/) that can increase the risk of both arterial and venous thrombosis (Delgado & Lopez-Ojeda, 2023). These are [often used in contraceptives or as postmenopausal hormone replacement therapy](https://www.ahajournals.org/doi/full/10.1161/hq0202.102318) (Rosendaal et al., 2002). If you have APS, it is important to use alternative therapies such as contraceptives that are progestin-based instead. ### Ovarian Cyst Rupture [Ovarian cyst ruptures](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/ovarian-cysts/symptoms-causes/syc-20353405) happen when a corpus luteum cyst occurs after the egg is released, and the opening becomes blocked in the corpus luteum (Mayo Clinic, 2023b). For women with APS who are on anticoagulants, this can result in internal bleeding and is a medical emergency. [**I nearly died from these ovarian cyst ruptures, which you can read all about here**](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/). [**Learn more about oestrogen and ovarian cyst ruptures in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/#menstruation). Also Read: [Blood Clots & Bleeding](#SectionB) | [Free Fluid](#FreeFluid) | [Haemorrhage](#haemorrhage) | [Hospital Bag](#HospitalBag) ### Ophthalmologic / Ocular Manifestations [Ophthalmology](https://www.aao.org/eye-health/tips-prevention/what-is-ophthalmologist) is a field in medicine with many sub-specialties, and deals with the eyes and vision, their functions and diseases (Churchill & Gudgel, 2024). It is important to be aware that there are a number of [ocular and neuroophthalmic manifestations that can happen in APS patients](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1568997206002138), including but not limited to: retinal arteritis, retinal venous occlusion, ischemic optic neuropathy, transient loss of vision, and diplopia (Suvajac et al., 2007). You can [**learn more about ocular manifestations in Antiphospholipid Syndrome here**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#ocular). ### Other Terms for “O” and APS are: 1. **Osteopenia & Osteoporosis** \- Osteopenia refers to bone density loss, whilst osteoporosis to weak, brittle bones. Both are linked to [bone mineral density](https://www.health.harvard.edu/womens-health/osteopenia-when-you-have-weak-bones-but-not-osteoporosis), which is measured by a bone density test (Harvard Medical School, 2021b). Long-term warfarin use has been found to be a [major contributor to osteoporosis](https://www.medsci.org/v17p0471.htm) (Yokoyama et al., 2020). **[Learn more about osteopenia, osteoporosis, and other musculoskeletal manifestations in APS patients here.](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#musculoskeletal)** Also Read: [Calcium](#calcium) | [Vitamin D](#VitaminD) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) | [Warfarin](#SectionW) 1. **Omega Oils** \- Omega oils come in omega-3, 6 and 9\. [Omega-3 fatty acids](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1098882318300480) are healthy fats that cells in the body require for proper functioning (Adili et al. 2018). They are also anti-inflammatory, and are beneficial for cardiovascular and neurological health. They come in three forms, which can be found in seafood such as fatty fish (e.g. salmon and mackerel), and plants (e.g. flaxseed and chia seeds). [Omega-6 fats](https://www.health.harvard.edu/newsletter%5Farticle/no-need-to-avoid-healthy-omega-6-fats) are mainly found in vegetables, and also help to lower cholesterol when balanced with omega-3\. Good sources of omega-6 polyunsaturated fats include: sunflower oil, soybean oil and evening primrose oil (Harvard Medical School, 2019a). [Omega-9 fatty acids](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1687157X23009071) can be found in plant food sources such as macadamia nuts, soybean oil, olive oil and sunflower oil. They also bear anti-inflammatory and anti-cancer properties (Farag & Gad, 2022). Whilst generally safe for the average person, [certain omega-3 and omega-6 fatty acids have also been shown to have antiplatelet effects](https://openheart.bmj.com/content/6/1/e001011), which can prolong bleeding time especially for patients who are on anticoagulants (DiNicolantonio & OKeefe, 2019). [According to Adili et al. (2018)](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1098882318300480): > “\[omega\]-3 and \[omega\]-6 polyunsaturated fatty acids are an essential component of the platelet phospholipid membrane and play a major role in regulation of platelet function. Dietary supplementation with \[omega\]-3 or \[omega\]-6 PUFAs may alter platelet lipid membrane phospholipid composition and affect platelet function, which, in turn, may alter the progression and thrombotic complications of cardiovascular disease.” As such, it is better to get your nutrition from omega oils via natural food sources, as fish oil capsules and the likes tend to have a higher potency. Should you insist on or need such supplements, do discuss with your doctor so that they can adjust your medications accordingly. Also Read: [Diet](#diet) | [Green Tea](#GreenTea) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) | [Platelets](#platelets) | [Quinoa](#SectionQ) | [Saponins](#saponins) | [Supplements](#supplements) Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis Boards: ![A to Z Antiphospholipid Syndrome Guide - O is for Oestrogen, Ovarian Cyst Ruptures and Ophthalmologic Manifestations.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/o-oestrogen-ovarian-cyst-ruptures-ophthalmologic-a-z-antiphospholipid-syndrome-guide.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## P is for Pulmonary Embolism, Pregnancy, Phospholipids & Primary Antiphospholipid Syndrome ### Pulmonary Embolism (PE) A [pulmonary embolism](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/17400-pulmonary-embolism) (PE) is when a blood clot travels to lodge itself in your lung, thereby restricting blood flow (Cleveland Clinic, 2024a). [**When I had a pulmonary embolism at 17**](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/), I experienced difficulty breathing and could not lie down flat. The GP I had seen had carelessly misdiagnosed it as a muscular cramp, so I waited for two days before rushing to the A&E – barely alive. A pulmonary embolism is a medical emergency, so if you are experiencing chest pains that will not recede, please just err on the side of caution and visit the A&E/ED. [**Learn more about pulmonary embolisms here**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#PE). Also Read: [Blood Clots & Bleeding](#SectionB) | [Haemorrhage](#haemorrhage) | [Hospital Bag](#HospitalBag) | [Lupus & Lupus Anticoagulant](#SectionL) | ‘[Muscular Sprains](#sprains)’ Read Related Posts: - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/body-gone-rogue-invisible-illness/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Would You Rather: Have an Invisible Illness or a Visible Disability?](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-disability/) - [What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-chronic-illness/) ### Pregnancy in APS Patients Pregnancy with Antiphospholipid Syndrome is a topic that needs its own article; [**I cover pregnancy with APS in detail in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/#pregnancy). For a quick overview, [this paper by Schreiber and Hunt](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0049384819303664#bb0055) (2019) does an excellent job of listing out the management of APS in pregnancy. Also Read: [Antiphospholipid Antibodies](#APLS) | [Enoxaparin](#enoxaparin) | [Lupus & Lupus Anticoagulant](#SectionL) | [Paediatric APS](#paediatric) ### Phospholipids [Phospholipids](https://www.mdpi.com/1422-0067/14/6/11767) are a class of lipids (fatty compounds) that are part of all major tissues in the body, and are concentrated in organs that require neuronal (nerve) interactions (Pichot et al., 2013). [According to Rege and Mackworth-Young (2015)](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.3402/tdp.v3.25452): > “Phospholipids are the major component of cell membranes. These molecules constitute approximately 60% of the dry weight of the brain and play an important role in neurodevelopment.” ….. “Phospholipids also facilitate signal transduction responses to neurotransmitters, such as serotonin, dopamine, glutamate, and acetylcholine that play a key role in the pathophysiology of psychiatric disorders.” In basic terms, people with APS produce antiphospholipid antibodies (aPLs) that attack phospholipids, which leads to blood clotting issues. Phospholipids are also major components of cell membranes, including those in the brain. This means that beyond the blood, [**Antiphospholipid Syndrome can also lead to systemic issues, which I expand on in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#systemic). Also Read: [Antiphospholipid Antibodies](#APLS) | [Blood Clots & Bleeding](#SectionB) | [Coagulation](#coagulation) ### Primary Antiphospholipid Syndrome (PAPS) [Primary Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/096120339400300417) (PAPS) is a term that mainly refers to patients who only have APS as an autoimmune disease, although it can morph to secondary APS (SAPS) further down the road. There are some clinical differences between PAPS and SAPS patients, such as valve lesions, which occur more frequently in PAPS patients (Asherson & Cervera, 1994). In a small [study of 60 Egyptian patients](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1110116422000989), it was found that PAPS patients were more likely to have cutaneous manifestations, and also higher levels of β2 glycoprotein I IgG, as compared to SAPS patients (Morad et al., 2022). In [another European study of 1000 patients](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/art.10187), the results showed that SAPS patients were more prone to arthritis, livedo reticularis, thrombocytopenia and leukopenia (Cervera et al., 2002). ***What is key to keep in mind with an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis however, is that we can experience any symptom regardless of whether it is primary or secondary.*** So don’t hesitate to seek professional advice and care should you feel that something is not quite right. As my rheumatologist has mentioned to me – I may have secondary APS, yet my clinical manifestations thus far has been worse than even triple positive patients. [**Read this post to learn more about how Antiphospholipid Syndrome can affect the entire body**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/), from the blood to skin, eyes, lungs, brain, heart and much more. Also Read: [Anti-β2GPI](#AntiB2GPI) | [Catastrophic APS](#CAPS) | [Non-Criteria/Seronegative APS](#NCAPS) | [Secondary APS](#SAPS) | [Triple Positive](#TriplePos) ### Other Terms for “P” and APS are: 1. **Paediatric APS** \- If APS is rare, then paediatric APS is even rarer. Not much is known about it, and there are no validated guidelines or criteria to help manage it better as of yet. According to Basaran et al. (2020), [children with APS tend to have more blood clots in the brain and ischaemic strokes](https://www.hss.edu/conditions%5Ftop-ten-points-pediatric-antiphospholipid-syndrome.asp), as compared to adults. Children with APS are also more likely to have a Lupus comorbidity, and the frequency of occurrence is similar in girls and boys. Acquired risk factors in adults are also generally not applicable in children (e.g. atherosclerosis, use of oral contraceptives, smoking, etc), and thus test results might differ. In the [15th International Congress on Antiphospholipid Antibodies Task Force on Pediatric Antiphospholipid Syndrome Report](https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-3-319-55442-6%5F16) (Soybilgic et al., 2017), they also note that platelets in infants have decreased function, and whilst certain coagulation proteins reach adult levels by age 5, in newborns this is different qualitatively. [Paediatric strokes](https://www.cureus.com/articles/181587-pediatric-antiphospholipid-syndrome-presenting-as-a-massive-stroke-a-case-report/) are also extremely rare, but can happen to children with APS (Marzooq, 2023). Also Read: [Coagulation](#coagulation) | [Lupus](#SLEAPS) | [Platelets](#platelets) | [Transient Ischaemic Attack](#TIA) | [Strokes](#strokes) | [Young Adults](#SectionY) 1. **Painkillers** \- There are a [few different classes of painkillers](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK560692), such as paracetamol/acetaminophen, NSAIDs, opioids and local anesthetics. Some antidepressants and antiepileptics are also used to manage certain types of pains (Queremel Milani & Davis, 2023). If you have an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis, it is important to note that NSAIDs (e.g. ibuprofen, naproxen, aspirin, etc) not only interact with warfarin, but can also [cause gastrointestinal bleeding and ulcers](https://australianprescriber.tg.org.au/articles/peptic-ulcer-disease-and-non-steroidal-anti-inflammatory-drugs.html) (Drini, 2017). Thus, I only take NSAIDs when I have a high fever – but not before letting my healthcare team know beforehand. I also developed an allergy to paracetamol after having taken it too often during **[my pulmonary embolism episode](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/)**, and am only left with opioids for managing my Lupus and Sjögren disease pain flares. **[Learn more about NSAIDs and Antiphospholipid Syndrome here](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#NSAIDs)**. Also Read: [Bleeding](#bleeding) | [Cannabidiol (CBD)](#CBD) | [Cupping, Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) & Chiropractor](#cupping) | [Haemorrhage](#haemorrhage) | [Massages](#massages) Read Related Posts: - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-life/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/resources-therapies-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) - [So This is What a Tonic Clonic Seizure Feels Like](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) 1. **Paper Cuts!** \- Yes, I had to include this one. I once had a paper cut whilst travelling overseas, and it wouldn’t stop bleeding for hours. So I bandaged it up real tight, and woke up the next day to a blue, numb thumb. I panicked and thought that I might need to get it amputated, because I could no longer feel it at all. Thankfully it settled down, blues, cuts and all. P.s. Don’t forget to bring a bottle of ‘Stop Bleed’ spray or plasters, for situations like these whilst travelling! You can also **[check out my top tips for travelling with chronic illness and disability in this post](https://achronicvoice.com/top-tips-travelling-chronic-illness-disability/)**. Also Read: [Bleeding](#bleeding) | [Haemorrhage](#haemorrhage) | [NSAIDs](#NSAIDs) | [Numbness](#numb) | [Stop Bleed First Aid](#StopBleed) | [Travel](#travel) 1. **Periods – [Read more about menstruation and Antiphospholipid Syndrome here](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/#menstruation).** 2. **Platelets** \- Platelets are also known as thrombocytes, and are made in the bone marrow. They make up part of our blood, and play an important role in the coagulation process. Certain conditions can contribute to a low platelet count, such as thrombocytopenia and chemotherapy. Apart from donating blood, you can also donate platelets, which many patients need in order to survive (American National Red Cross, n.d.). (**[Learn more about thrombocytopenia here](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#thrombocytopenia)**.) [According to Baroni et al. (2017)](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/09537104.2017.1280150): > “Although underestimated, platelets may be involved in APS and its thrombotic manifestations, especially arterial, in several ways. Thrombocytopenia is the most relevant non-criteria manifestation of APS, possibly caused by direct binding of anti-β2-GPI antibodies or anti-β2-GPI–β2-GPI complexes.” Meaning to say that anti-beta2-glycoprotein 1, an antiphospholipid antibody, directly interacts with platelets. According to Huang et al. (2021), this [increased risk for arterial thrombosis](https://www.mdpi.com/1422-0067/22/8/4200) is due to upregulation of plasma levels of active VWF (Von Willebrand Factor), which promotes platelet activation. The lupus anticoagulant (LA) was also found to have the strongest effect on arterial thrombosis. Other pathways and cell types have also been linked to [platelet activation and Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://www.mdpi.com/2077-0383/13/3/741). On top of that, platelet dysfunctions may also contribute to antiphospholipid antibodies (Tohidi-Esfahani et al., 2024). Also Read: [Antiphospholipid Antibodies](#APLS) | [Anti-β2-GPI](#AntiB2GPI) | [Coagulation](#coagulation) | [Lupus Anticoagulant](#LA) | [Non-Criteria/Seronegative APS](#NCAPS) 1. **Point-of-Care Testing** \- [Point-of-care (POC) testing](https://www.cda-amc.ca/2-point-care-testing) simply refers to a medical test that isn’t done in a laboratory. You might be familiar with some of them, such as pregnancy test kits, and blood glucose tests that patients with diabetes monitor on a regular basis (Canadian Agency for Drugs and Technologies in Health \[CDA-AMC\], 2024). **[For more information, read the section on Roche](#roche)**. 2. **Progesterone** \- Progesterone is a reproductive hormone that is produced naturally in the body by both sexes. [Progestin](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/24838-progestin) is the synthetic form of progesterone that is used in some forms of contraception methods or devices (Cleveland Clinic, 2023a). **[Learn more about hormones and birth control here](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/#BirthControl)**. 3. **Psychological & Psychiatric Manifestations - [I detail neuropsychiatric manifestations in APS patients, which you can read more about here](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#neuropsychiatric).** Read Related Posts: - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-late/) - [Is Seeking Help for Your Mental Health Worth It?](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/) - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) 1. **Pulmonary Manifestations** \- [According to Espinosa et al. (2002)](https://ard.eular.org/article/S0003-4967%2824%2909424-X/abstract): > “Patients with antiphospholipid syndrome (APS) may develop a broad spectrum of pulmonary disease. Pulmonary thromboembolism and pulmonary hypertension are the most common complications, but microvascular pulmonary thrombosis, pulmonary capillaritis, and alveolar haemorrhage have also been reported.” Thus, APS can affect the lungs in a variety of ways that range from blood clotting to bleeding events. Always seek medical attention immediately should you suspect a blood clot in the lung, as this can be life-threatening. **[Learn more about APS pulmonary manifestations here](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#pulmonary)**. Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis & Health Guide Boards: ![P is for Pulmonary Embolism, Pregnancy and Primary Antiphospholipid Syndrome - Get the A to Z Guide.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/p-pulmonary-embolism-pregnancy-primary-antiphospholipid-syndrome-get-a-z-guide.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## Q is for Quinoa I didn’t know that quinoa could be ‘dangerous’, until I ate a plateful of this healthy grain, and woke up the next day to a giant bruise that spanned my entire upper arm. I discovered that the hulls of quinoa seeds contain [saponins](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1155/2015/876426), which is an anticoagulant (Chen et al., 2015). Some other foods that contain saponins and thus, have a blood thinning effect (although to varying effects) are: soymilk, asparagus, strawberry, alfalfa, sea cucumber (yes, we Chinese love it), and more. For more information, [read this paper in the “Food Research International” journal by Cheok et al. (2014)](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S096399691400074X). In my personal experience, [alfalfa sprouts are a big ‘no’ more due to Lupus and inflammatory reasons](https://www.hopkinslupus.org/lupus-info/lifestyle-additional-information/avoid/) (Johns Hopkins Lupus Center, n.d.-a). Asparagus, sea cucumber, strawberries and the likes seem to be okay for me. I moderate the amount of soybean products I consume. ***What your own body can and cannot tolerate is greatly dependent on your own genetics, allergies, comorbidities, diet, etc, so I cannot speak for you.*** It’s a shame though, because I actually like a lot of these foods, and they’re supposed to be good for you! You can [**learn more about warfarin interactions here**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#WarfarinInteractions). Also Read: [Alcohol](#alcohol) | [Diet](#diet) | [Green Tea](#GreenTea) | [Juicing](#SectionJ) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) | [Lupus & Lupus Anticoagulant](#SectionL) | [Omega Oils](#OmegaOils) | [Saponins](#saponins) Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome, Food & Nutrition Boards: ![Q is for Quinoa - Get the Antiphospholipid Syndrome A to Z Guide.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/q-quinoa-get-antiphospholipid-syndrome-a-z-guide.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## R is for Roche, Research & Reversal ### Roche Roche is a medical company that sells INR self-test machines called “CoaguChek®”. Many Afib (atrial fibrillation) and Antiphospholipid Syndrome patients who take warfarin use these machines to monitor their INR at home, or whilst on the go. It is important to note that Afib patients who are on warfarin differ from APS patients, as the former group may not have aPL antibodies that may further interfere with the INR reading. There is some [debate as to the accuracy of the CoaguChek](https://journals.lww.com/poctjournal/abstract/2017/12000/accuracy%5Fof%5Fcoaguchek%5Fxs%5Fin%5Fpatients%5Fwith.3.aspx) (Taylor et al., 2017). This [may be especially true for APS patients with elevated anti-β2GPI antibodies and are positive for lupus anticoagulant](https://www.thieme-connect.com/products/ejournals/abstract/10.1160/TH05-06-0400) (Perry et al., 2017). It is also not recommended for patients who require an INR of 4 and above. #### My Own Experiences with Roche’s CoaguChek XS & How I Use It I personally own a [CoaguChek XS](https://diagnostics.roche.com/global/en/products/instruments/coaguchek-xs-ins-804.html) (Roche Diagnostics, n.d.), and it was actually Prof. Hughes who recommended that I consider one. ***I can only share my personal thoughts and experiences with it, but cannot speak for all APS patients.*** I first discussed it with my own rheumatologist, and we then used it to test my INR right after a venous blood draw on multiple occasions. We learned that the range difference is about +-0.3 for me, which makes it fairly stable. [**I also have a heart rhythm disorder**](https://achronicvoice.com/heart-rhythm-disorder/), and my heart rhythm specialist has many Afib patients who take warfarin and use the machine. As she tells me, what’s important is that my INR falls within my target range, and not to hit a specific, exact number. This is because INR levels can shift throughout the day, and even with two venous blood draws or POC (point-of-care) tests done back to back. My CoaguChek XS has been my faithful companion for many years now. Whenever I fear that my diet might have messed my INR up at home, I do a finger prick test to check. [**I also bring it along for all my travels**](https://achronicvoice.com/top-tips-travelling-chronic-illness-disability/), which gives me peace of mind when I don’t have regular access to my rheumatologist or blood tests. Also Read: [Anti-ß2GPI](#AntiB2GPI) | [Antiphospholipid Antibodies](#APLS) | [INR](#INR) | [Lupus Anticoagulant](#LA) | [Point-of-Care Testing](#POC) | [Travel](#travel) | [Warfarin](#warfarin) ### APS Research APS is a rare disease and more research is needed both on a global, scientific level, and also on a personal patient level (hence why I’m writing this resource page!). It is also crucial that you do your own research – from foods to medication interactions, symptom awareness and more. Every bit of knowledge can be useful in helping you manage an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis. There is also [**promising research in relation to Antiphospholipid Syndrome, which I have documented and will keep updated in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/). ### Reversal of Anticoagulants Wait… but isn’t Antiphospholipid Syndrome a blood ***clotting*** disorder? Well, at present, the only management for APS is through the use of anticoagulants. These only ‘thin’ the blood, but they do not fix the root, autoimmune issue. As a result, APS patients on blood thinners can suffer from excessive bleeding or a haemorrhage. In some instances, this can lead to a life-threatening situation, such as an ovarian cyst rupture, or after an accident. In such cases, the blood ‘thinning’ effects of the anticoagulant medication(s) need to be reversed via a reversal/hemostatic agent. [**Learn more about reversal agents and the reversal protocol here**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#reversal). Also Read: [Blood Clots & Bleeding](#SectionB) | [Coagulation](#coagulation) | [Haemorrhage](#haemorrhage) | [Vitamin K ](#SectionK) | [Ovarian Cyst Rupture](#OCR) | ‘[Sticky Blood](#StickyBlood)’ | [Surgery](#surgery) ### Other Terms for “R” and APS are: 1. **Rare Disease** \- [Antiphospholipid Syndrome is a rare disease](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11926-021-01038-2), with only about 1 – 2 cases per 100,000 (Dabit et al., 2021). More diverse, population-based studies are still needed to learn more about it. Thus, raising awareness about it is extra important. 2. **Rashes / Urticaria** \- These are some skin manifestations that can happen with an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis. **[Learn more about APS dermatologic manifestations here.](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#skin)** 3. **Refractory APS** \- [Refractory Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S156899721100098X) refers to cases where the patient is resistant to regular anticoagulation treatment, and can still thrombose despite being at an optimal INR range or medication dosage. Several alternative therapies such as LMWH (low molecular weight heparin), hydroxychloroquine and prednisolone have been used for various reasons, but there are currently no standardised treatment protocols for it (Scoble et al., 2011). Here are [three case studies on anticoagulant-refractory thrombotic Antiphospholipid Syndrome from Cohen and Isenberg (2021)](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0006497121000793), should you be interested to learn more. Also Read: [Catastrophic APS](#CAPS) | [Non-Criteria/Seronegative APS](#NCAPS) | [Primary APS](#PAPS) | [Secondary APS ](#SAPS) 1. **Rivaroxaban (Xarelto)** \- This is another type of DOAC under the factor Xa class. **[Learn more about DOACs such as rivaroxaban here](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#DOACs)**. Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis, Management & Treatment Boards: ![R is for Roche, Research and Reversal - Get the Antiphospholipid Syndrome A to Z Guide.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/r-roche-research-reversal-antiphospholipid-syndrome-a-z-guide.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## S is for Strokes, Secondary APS, Surgery, Supplements & Saponins ### Strokes There are [two types of strokes](https://www.cdc.gov/stroke/about/index.html) – ischaemic and haemorrhagic. An ischaemic stroke happens when a blood clot blocks an artery in the brain, thus restricting blood flow. A haemorrhagic stroke on the other hand, happens when a blood vessel within the brain itself bursts (CDC, 2024a). There is also something known as a ‘mini stroke’, or a transient ischaemic attack (TIA), where blood supply to the brain is temporarily disrupted. It was also [**my first manifestation of APS when I was 14**](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/). If you’re more of a visual person, here’s a [video on strokes by the NHLBI](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UJ5aO4KmQ8M) (2020) that explains more: A common framework for recognising the [signs and symptoms of a stroke](https://www.healthhub.sg/programmes/aap/stroke) is ‘F.A.S.T’, where the abbreviations represent (HealthHub, n.d.): - **Face** drooping to one side - **Arm** weakness - **Speech** difficulty - **Time** to call for medical help immediately #### Strokes in APS Patients Strokes are also one of the most feared consequences of Antiphospholipid Syndrome, and is particularly suspect when it happens in a young adult. According to Grimes et al. (2022): > “It has been estimated that [one in five strokes and patients younger than 45 could be associated with APS](https://www.intechopen.com/chapters/80492) and some newer studies show that APL antibodies are present in approximately 14% of stroke patients. Persistently elevated APL seems to increase the risk for CV by at least fourfold.” And according to Novotny (n.d.): > “APS has up to five times higher prevalence among women. Symptom onset is usually between 30-40 years of age. [APS-related stroke represents up to 20% of stroke events in patients under 45 years of age](https://eso-stroke.org/antiphospholipid-syndrome-and-stroke/). In older patients, APS is less common, however, it is more prevalent in males, and stroke as a complication is more common.” Whilst the epidemiological data varies in different papers, what one can definitely conclude is that an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis increases the chances of getting a stroke. Thus, it is important to do what you can to prevent one, such as maintaining good heart health and taking your medications as prescribed. [**Learn more about strokes and transient ischaemic attacks (TIAs) in this post.**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#stroke) Also Read: [Antiphospholipid Syndrome](#APS) | [Lupus Anticoagulant](#LA) | [Numbness](#numb) | ‘[Muscular Sprains](#sprains)’ | [Transient Ischaemic Attack](#TIA) | [Young Adults](#SectionY) ### Secondary APS [Antiphospholipid Syndrome can be subdivided into three broad classifications](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK430980/), namely: Primary APS (PAPS), Secondary APS (SAPS) and Catastrophic APS (CAPS). PAPS is when patients only have an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis, whilst SAPS is when they have an associated autoimmune disorder such as SLE (Systemic Lupus Erythematosus). CAPS is when multiple blood clots occur simultaneously in various parts of the body in a short span of time, and has a high mortality rate (Bustamante et al., 2024). [**Personally for me, it started out as PAPS, then morphed into SAPS**](https://achronicvoice.com/bloody-mutations-lupus/) (with Lupus, Sjögren’s disease and other chronic illnesses tailing along). Whilst APS and SLE are two different autoimmune disorders, their symptoms often overlap as well. There is also a [higher risk of developing SLE within the first 5 years](https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/medicine/articles/10.3389/fmed.2021.654791/full) of an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis (Chen et al., 2021). Having said that, these terms are merely classifications. APS patients in all categories (definitely in CAPS) can still thrombose, and should try to mitigate potential triggers. [**Learn more about primary and secondary manifestations in APS here**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/). Also Read: [2023 ACR/EULAR APS Criteria](#EULAR) | [Catastrophic APS](#CAPS) | [Lupus & Lupus Anticoagulant](#SectionL) | [Non-Criteria/Seronegative APS](#NCAPS) | [Primary APS](#PAPS) ### Surgery & APS It is vital to let your surgeon know that you are on anticoagulants before any surgery – even minor ones. This includes dental procedures, and deep tissue injections for vaccines. Healthcare professionals tend to avoid surgery with me unless it is absolutely necessary, as I am a high-risk patient for both blood clotting and bleeding incidents. The irony is that the risk for APS patients to clot during surgery can be higher than the risk from the surgical procedure itself. [According to Kim et al. (2020)](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0300060519896889): > “When such patients undergo surgery, however, the underlying risk of thrombosis increases as a result of anticoagulant withdrawal, immobilization, and/or intimal injury. Conversely, there is also an increased risk of bleeding due to thrombocytopaenia, possible disseminated intravascular coagulation, or progression to catastrophic APS, as a result of excessive anticoagulation, surgery, and infection.” #### Planned Surgeries Before a planned surgery, your nurse clinician or doctor will do an anticoagulant reversal and conversion to LMWH (low molecular weight heparin) with you over the span of a few days. The LMWH is then paused about 24 hours before the surgery. This is in hope that the patient doesn’t bleed during surgery. Depending on the risk to the patient, LMWH and warfarin is then reintroduced accordingly. [**Learn more about LMWH and the reversal protocol in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#enoxaparin). #### Emergency Surgeries Emergency surgeries can be extra complicated for APS patients. I personally have had one or two emergency surgeries done before. In general, they inject you with vitamin K and/or other coagulant drugs to bring your INR back to baseline, before performing the surgery. [Additional measures they may need to take are](https://publishing.rcseng.ac.uk/doi/10.1308/003588406X106496) to keep the patient hydrated, use a compression machine or stockings on the patient, and to get their body moving again as soon as possible (Agaba et al., 2006). ***Note that these are just a general idea on surgeries with APS; please work with your own medical team to provide the best care and surgical outcome for YOURSELF.*** Also Read: [Blood Clots & Bleeding](#SectionB) | [Coagulation](#coagulation) | [Injections](#injections) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) | [Vaccinations](#vaccinations) | [Warfarin](#SectionW) Read Related Posts: - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 – 6](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) - [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery-stay-comfortable-bed/) - [Wound Care & What to Wear After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery/) - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery-hobbies-crafts-games-part-3-5/) ### Supplements Supplements are another controversial topic that gets people riled up. There are so many opinions on holistic healthcare, diet and supplements, with many people thinking that their method works best. This may be true – for them. Always remember that every person is different, including what works and doesn’t work. As human beings, we are all anomalies and enigmas, in that regard. Anyway, in terms of research, this is [an interesting paper on APS and the following supplements](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1521661623006125#bb0270): vitamin D, omega-3 fatty acids, coenzyme Q10, gingerol, and isoquercetin. They display anti-inflammatory, antioxidant and/or anticoagulation properties via different pathways (Kello & Cho, 2023). These may be beneficial if your body is working as intended. But if you’re on anticoagulants for APS or immunosuppressants for other chronic illnesses, these might actually work against you instead, as they may either dampen or amplify the effects of your medications and/or illness. I will write a separate post with more details on supplements and APS when I can! For now, you can [**check this post out to learn all about medication interactions with Antiphospholipid Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/). Also Read: [Calcium](#calcium) | [Coumarin](#coumarin) | [Cupping, TCM & Chiropractor](#cupping) | [Vitamin D](#VitaminD) | [Herbs](#herbs) | [Juicing](#SectionJ) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) | [Omega Oils](#OmegaOils) | [Zinc](#SectionZ) Read Related Posts: - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) - [Dysphagia & Swallowing Problems (and How Oral Vitamin Sprays Can be of Help to You)](https://achronicvoice.com/dysphagia-oral-vitamin-sprays/) - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/malabsorption-nutrients/) - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome-personal-experiences/) ### Saponins & ‘Blood Thinning’ Foods I am including saponins as a main category under “S” and Antiphospholipid Syndrome because many patients tend to focus on moderating vitamin K foods, but are less aware of blood thinning foods. According to Olas et al. (2020): > “\[Saponins\] exist as secondary metabolites, occurring frequently in dicotyledonous plants and lower marine animals. Plant saponin extracts or single [saponins have indicated antiplatelet and anticoagulant activity](https://www.mdpi.com/1420-3049/25/21/5171).” Saponins also have the potential increase membrane permeabilisation and increase the bioavailability of certain drugs and vitamins (Olas et al., 2020). Another [study on Panax notoginseng saponins and warfarin interaction by Qian et al. (2022)](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s13318-022-00753-0) also revealed that it increases PT/INR levels, as well as the blood concentration and exposure time of warfarin, through the inhibition of enzyme CYP3A4 in the liver. #### Types of Saponins [According to Oleszek and Oleszek (2021)](https://link.springer.com/referenceworkentry/10.1007/978-981-15-4148-3%5F34): > “Based on number of chains attached to the aglycone, they can be categorized as monodesmosides, bidesmosides, or tridesmosides.” “Triterpenoid saponins can be found in many legumes” (such as alfafa and lentils), ginseng roots, tea leaves, quinoa seeds and much more. Steroidal saponins on the other hand can be found in oats, yucca, ginseng roots, asparagus and more. #### Health-Related Properties of Saponins Saponins can be great for general health, as they have been found to possess “immunostimulatory, hypocholesterolemic, antitumor, anti-inflammatory, antibacterial, antiviral, antifungal, and antiparasitic” properties (Oleszek & Oleszek, 2021). However, if you’re on warfarin treatment, then you might want to moderate foods that are high in saponins due to the antithrombotic effects. If you live with other autoimmune diseases, immunostimulatory products can often trigger your disease in undesirable ways as well. After all, your immune system is already over and not underactive 🙂 Also Read: [Bleeding](#bleeding) | [CYP2C9 Gene](#CYP2C9) | [Haemorrhage](#haemorrhage) | [Herbs](#herbs) | [INR](#INR) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) | [Warfarin](#warfarin) ### Other Terms for “S” and APS are: 1. **2006 Revised Sapporo Criteria** \- The [initial Sapporo criteria](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1538783622121422) was put together in 1999 and subsequently revised in 2006, based on the insights gained from research and clinical practice. Some manifestations associated with APS, such as heart valve disease, thrombocytopenia and livedo reticularis, are not included in the 2006 revised Sapporo criteria (Miyakis et al., 2006). A [review by Bobba et al. (2007) on the 2006 revised Sapporo criteria](https://www.jrheum.org/content/34/7/1522.short) also concluded that whilst it is an improvement in terms of face and content validity as compared to its predecessor, better reliability testing is still required. For the latest APS criteria guidelines, **[see the section on the 2023 ACR/EULAR APS Criteria](#EULAR)**. 2. **Seizures & Spasms - [Refer to this section on Neuropsychiatric Manifestations in this post](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#neuropsychiatric)**. 3. **Seronegative - [See the section on Non-Criteria APS](#NCAPS)**. 4. **Sexual Intercourse** \- You might be wondering if having an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis will impact your sex life. This is highly subjective, but you will need to be careful that it doesn’t get too rough, or risk plenty of bruises. It’s possible to get an ovarian cyst rupture if you are a female who is ovulating as well. **[Learn more about ovarian cyst ruptures and progestin-based contraceptives in this post](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/#OCR)**. In a very [small study of 11 male APS patients](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0961203311427552), 50% of them were found to have moderate to severe erectile dysfunction as well. The causes may be multifactorial, and some speculation that thrombosis of penile vessels might contribute to it (Lopes Gallinaro et al., 2012). Also Read: [Men](#men) | [Women](#women) Read Related Posts: - [Disability & Sex: Disabled People are Not Automatically Bad Sexual or Romantic Partners](https://achronicvoice.com/disability-sex-disabled-people/) - [Would You Date a Person with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationships with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-body-chronic-illness/) 1. **Singaporeans with APS** \- There have been a few interesting studies on Singaporeans, and the differences in clinical manifestations of APS in various ethnic groups. For example, [one study at Tan Tock Seng Hospital by Tan et al. (2009)](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0961203309103303) found that strokes were the most common manifestation of arterial thrombosis, more so in men than women. Malays and Indians were found to have a higher rate of venous thrombosis, and Indians had the highest rate ischaemic heart disease (IHD). Also Read: [African Americans](#AfricanAmericans) | [Asians](#asians) | [Caucasians](#caucasians) | [Chinese Patients](#chinese) | [CYP2C9 Gene](#CYP2C9) | [Euro-Phospholipid Project](#europhospholipid) | [Genes](#genes) Read Related Posts: - [What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - [Invisible in Singapore: What’s It Like to Live Here with Chronic Illnesses?](https://achronicvoice.com/singapore-chronic-illnesses/) - [Floatation Therapy: Did it do Anything for My Chronic Pain? (Review of Palm Avenue Float Club, Singapore)](https://achronicvoice.com/floatation-therapy-chronic-pain-review-palm-avenue-float-club-singapore/) - [Invisible Cities Linkup: Pros & Cons of Living with Chronic Illness in Your City](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-cities-linkup/) 1. **SLE (Systemic Lupus Erythematosus)** \- Quite a number of patients with APS also have SLE (like me!). **[See the section on Lupus for more information](#SectionL)**. 2. **Snake Venom** \- Some snake venoms work by coagulation, and others by anticoagulation. The [dilute Russell viper venom time (dRVVT)](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/B9781455722969000208) is in fact, widely used in laboratories to test for lupus anticoagulant (LA). The snake venom “activates coagulation factor X, which leads to the formation of a fibrin clot”. Lupus anticoagulant prolongs dRVVT through disruption of this process (Rand & Wolgast, 2013). And according to Pengo et al. (2017): > “[dRVVT is more sensitive than other global tests employed to detect LA](https://link.springer.com/protocol/10.1007/978-1-4939-7196-1%5F14) and is not affected by inhibitors of factor VIII or IX. The test is most successfully implemented if you observe three steps in its execution: screening, mixing, and confirmatory studies.” [RVVT is also highly sensitive to anticoagulation drugs](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/ajh.25606), including VKAs (vitamin K antagonists) and DOACs (direct oral anticoagulants), which means that tests may reflect a false negative or positive for LA whilst the patient is on anticoagulant therapy (Favaloro, 2019). [Other snake venom tests used](https://news.hss.edu/new-antiphospholipid-syndrome-research-findings-presented-at-acr-convergence-2023/) is the prothrombin-activating Taipan snake venom time (TVST), and the Ecarin clotting time (ECT) confirmatory test. These tests are insensitive to VKAs, unlike the RVVT (Hospital for Special Surgery \[HSS\], 2023). And just for trivia’s sake, the Ecarin test is derived from the venom of the Indian saw-scaled viper, and the Taipan snake is the most venomous snake in the world! **[You can also learn more about VKAs and DOACs in this post.](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#VKAs)** Also Read: [2023 ACR/EULAR APS Criteria](#EULAR) | [False Negative/Positive](#FalseNegPos) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) | [Lupus Anticoagulant](#LA) | [Non-Criteria/Seronegative APS](#NCAPS) 1. **Sports** \- People with APS need to avoid playing certain sports, namely [contact sports](https://www.gosh.nhs.uk/conditions-and-treatments/medicines-information/warfarin/), due to the high risk of bruising and bleeding, which can lead to DVTs and/or excessive bleeding (Great Ormond Street Hospital, 2016). Sports was actually the first thing that popped into my mind and overwhelmed me with grief, when I first received my Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis. I loved to play basketball and football, as well as rock-climbing. I did sports not so much for health reasons, but because I enjoyed them. I struggle to this day to exercise as I dislike solo sports, and do so out of necessity, rather than pleasure. Read Related Posts: - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-self-worth/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) 1. **‘Sticky Blood’** \- Antiphospholipid Syndrome is sometimes referred to as ‘[Sticky Blood Syndrome](https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/conditionsandtreatments/hughes-syndrome)’, due to the increased tendency for the body to form blood clots (Better Health Channel, n.d.). It’s pretty much an unofficial term and not technically correct, though it can be easier to explain what APS is about to others in layman terms! Also Read: [Antiphospholipid Syndrome](#APS) | [Hughes’ Syndrome](#SectionH) 1. **Stillbirth** \- [Antiphospholipid antibodies can increase the risk of a stillbirth](https://journals.lww.com/greenjournal/abstract/2013/09000/antiphospholipid%5Fantibodies%5Fin%5Fstillbirth.22.aspx) by threefold to fivefold (Silver et al., 2013). **[Learn more about stillbirth and pregnancy in this post](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/#pregnancy)**. 2. **Stop Bleed First Aid** \- Like any other chronically ill person, I have my own ‘mini pharmacy’ at home. As someone with an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis, my ‘pharmacy’ includes sprays and plasters that help to stop bleeding. Something like this is essential when you’re on anticoagulants, and especially when you’re travelling. They come in various forms, such as plasters (for minor cuts), sprays, gels and powders. I personally prefer the sprays as they cover a wider surface area, and are quick and easy to use. Here are some you can get from Amazon: Buy Stop Bleed Sprays: - [Curad: QuickStop Bleeding Control Spray](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01G45K54K?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=91fca6a74eeaf3dee2d04594f5916488&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [New-Skin: Liquid Bandage Spray](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B010OVC28W?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=69c7846bd301524486708ad51059db3e&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Buy Stop Bleed Powders: - [BleedStop™ First Aid Powder (for bleeding wounds or nosebleeds)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09ZBK5RBP?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=edc1edda78249a9200e3886fbbb02739&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Nampons: for Nosebleeds (nasal plugs with clotting agent)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08YSB2M34?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=af0b9d1ac40dc073202bf9706dd712f6&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [WoundSeal Powder (suitable for pets, too)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00GC81R4W?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=04b59791343a80748397f97ab144800e&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [BleedCease: Stop Nasal Bleeds (natural based polymer, calcium alginate, derived from brown seaweed)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07TFBFFNN?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c01b58289e1d7624e99836637731461e&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Buy Stop Bleed Bandages / Plasters / Wound Kits: - [Curad: Quickstop Flex-Fabric Bandages](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01FY63WA4?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6dfc90cb90a98bec190ad8e424f4a0d4&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Emergency Wound Closures Band-Aid Laceration Repair Kit Without Stitches](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09NTDTPC2?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=165851208d224a57e4c2d6fefceaa7e1&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Buy Stop Bleed Gels: - [Rapid-Seal: Wound Gel](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08K1HFYQV?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6c5154eca9eb3716b81cd43f32103379&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Also Read: [Blood Clots & Bleeding](#SectionB) | [Coagulation](#coagulation) | [Haemorrhage](#haemorrhage) | [Hospital Bag](#HospitalBag) | [Paper Cuts](#PaperCuts) | [Travel](#travel) Read Related Posts: - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/top-tips-travelling-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Wound Care & What to Wear After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/independence-disability-chronic-illness/) - [Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs)](https://achronicvoice.com/disability-home-resources/) 1. **Support Groups** \- Support groups can be a lifeline for chronically ill patients, regardless of what their diagnosis may be. For patients with an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis, it can feel empowering when you meet people who just ‘get’ you, and understand the struggles you face without the need to explain. I have met a number of ‘spoonie’ friends through social media and my advocacy work, and frequently chat with them. Whilst not all of them live with Antiphospholipid Syndrome, the symptoms and struggles from our myriad chronic illnesses tend to overlap. These are topics that the average healthy person simply won’t understand, such as chronic fatigue which can be more debilitating than chronic pain, the loss of self-identity, the sadness of being unable to work full-time, and the worries of the financial burden. It’s important to find support groups or friends who share the same values as you however. (And IMHO, share the same type of humour!) There are also many ‘support groups’ that are more negative than positive, so you want to steer clear from those. At the end of the day, you know what type of support works best for you, so trust your instincts. Some patients thrive from in-person support groups, whilst others might find this draining. Regardless, some form of emotional and moral support is key to thriving with any chronic illness. If you are a chronic illness blogger, here is a support group that I’m an admin of, and which you are welcome to join: [Chronic Illness Bloggers](https://chronicillnessbloggers.com/). You can also connect with me on social media here, if you like!: [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/achronicvoice), [Twitter/X](https://x.com/AChVoice), [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/achronicvoice/), [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/achronicvoice/), [BlueSky](https://bsky.app/profile/achronicvoice.com) and [SubStack](https://substack.com/@achronicvoice). Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-chronic-illness/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-chronic-illness/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest-after-surgery-education-advocacy-volunteering-part-5-5/) 1. **Syphilis False Positive** \- The Wasserman test used in the past for detecting syphilis was dependent on an antibody called reagin, which reacts with cardiolipin. The [biological false positive test for syphilis](https://www.hopkinslupus.org/lupus-tests/antiphospholipid-antibodies/) was actually the first recognised test for antiphospholipid antibodies, and can occur in people with autoimmune diseases such as SLE and APS (Johns Hopkins Lupus Center, n.d.). Also Read: [Anticardiolipin Antibodies](#anticardiolipin) | [Antiphospholipid Antibodies](#APLS) | [False Negative/Positive](#FalseNegPos) | [Lupus & Lupus Anticoagulant ](#SectionL) 1. **Systemic** \- According to García-Carrasco et al. (2013): > “[Antiphospholipid syndrome (APS) is a systemic autoimmune disorder](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK459442/) defined by the persistent presence of antiphospholipid antibodies (aPL) in plasma of patients with vascular thrombosis and/or pregnancy morbidity.” What this means is that Antiphospholipid Syndrome symptoms are not confined to one area, and can manifest anywhere within the body. APS is also often associated with autoimmune diseases such as Lupus. **[Learn more about the systemic implications of APS here](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#systemic)**. Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome Signs & Symptoms Boards: ![S is for Strokes, Secondary APS, Surgery, Supplements and Saponins. Get the A to Z Antiphospholipid Syndrome Guide.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/s-strokes-secondary-aps-surgery-supplements-saponins-a-z-antiphospholipid-syndrome-guide.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## T is for Transient Ischaemic Attack (TIA) & Triple Positive ### Transient Ischaemic Attack (TIA) Strokes and Transient Ischaemic Attacks (TIAs) are the most common neuropsychiatric manifestations of Antiphospholipid Syndrome. In fact, [more than 20% of strokes in patients younger than 45 years of age may be attributed to APS](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0961203318776110) (Ricarte et al., 2018). A [**TIA was also my first manifestation and experience with APS at 14**](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/), where exactly half of my body was numb. [Symptoms of a TIA or stroke include](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/transient-ischemic-attack/symptoms-causes/syc-20355679): weakness, paralysis in the face, arm or leg, vertigo, blurry vision or blindness, slurred speech and loss of balance or coordination (Mayo Clinic, 2024). It is critical to seek help immediately, as damage can accrue over time. The bottom line being – if you feel like something, anything’s off – please just go to the dreaded A&E / ER right away. It truly is better safe than sorry in this instance, as the effects on your body and health can be for life. [**Learn more about TIAs in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#TIA). Also Read: [Hospital Bag](#HospitalBag) | [Numbness](#numb) | [Strokes](#strokes) | [Young Adults](#SectionY) ### Triple Positive To be a [‘triple positive’ APS patient](https://rmdopen.bmj.com/content/9/1/e002534) means that you have all three types of antiphospholipid antibodies (aPLs) present in your body, i.e. lupus anticoagulant (LA), anticardiolipin (aCL) and anti-β2GPI. Triple positive APS patients tend to be at a higher risk for thrombosis and obstetric complications, as well as CAPS (catastrophic APS) (Laurent et al., 2023). Of note, the [lupus anticoagulant increases the tendency to clot significantly](https://ashpublications.org/blood/article/101/5/1827/106631/Lupus-anticoagulants-are-stronger-risk-factors-for), and studies have shown a correlation for thrombosis of up to 95% confidence interval (Galli et al., 2003). Another thing to note is that triple positivity detection can vary, depending on the methods and type of assays used for measurement. The [two broad categories of assays used to diagnose APS](https://ashpublications.org/hematology/article/2014/1/321/20555/Laboratory-methods-to-detect-antiphospholipid) are LA essays and ELISAs (which measure anti-β2GPI and aCL) (Krilis & Giannakopoulos, 2014). In one study of 851 patients, [triple positivity detection was also found to be of statistical significance between BioPlex® 2200 and QUANTA Lite ELISA®](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1538783622023996#f0015) (Chayoua et al., 2018). Having said that, it does not mean that single or double positive patients can be less cautious. I am double positive, but my rheumatologist says that I’ve had worst APS manifestations than someone who is triple positive, even. Also Read: [Antiphospholipid Antibodies](#APLS) | [Anti-β2GPI](#AntiB2GPI) | [Anticardiolipin Antibodies](#anticardiolipin) | [Catastrophic APS](#CAPS) | [Lupus Anticoagulant](#LA) | [Non-Criteria/Seronegative APS](#NCAPS) | [Primary APS](#PAPS) | [Secondary APS](#SAPS) ### Other Terms for “T” and APS are: 1. **Tecarfarin** \- [Tecarfarin](https://www.cadrenal.com/tecarfarin/) is a novel vitamin K antagonist (VKA) that is being developed by Cardrenal Therapeutics, and is currently in phase III clinical trials (Cardrenal Therapeutics, n.d.). **[Learn more about tecarfarin and VKAs here](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#tecarfarin)**. Also Read: [Vitamin K](#SectionK) | [Warfarin](#warfarin) 1. **Testosterone Therapy** \- It is important to note that [testosterone therapy](https://www.mdpi.com/2077-0383/8/1/11) (TT) can cause the blood to clot, despite sufficient anticoagulation. It is important for patients to be screened for thrombophilia (such as antiphospholipid antibodies) prior to starting TT, as the risks may outweigh the benefits. In two studies of 88 such patients, venous thromboembolism was shown to peak at 3 months after starting TT (Glueck et al., 2019). Also Read: [Antiphospholipid Antibodies](#APLS) | [Blood Clots & Bleeding](#SectionB) | [Coagulation](#coagulation) | [Men](#men) | [Women](#women) 1. **Traditional Chinese Medicine - [See Cupping, Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) & Chiropractor](#cupping).** **Thrombin** \- [Thrombin](https://www.thieme-connect.com/products/ejournals/abstract/10.1160/TH10-11-0711) is the “central protease in the coagulation cascade” and also “plays a role in inflammation and cellular proliferation” (Siller-Matula et al., 2017). [Learn more about thrombin here](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#thrombin). 2. **Thrombocytopenia** \- [Thrombocytopenia](https://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/thrombocytopenia) is a disorder where your platelet count is too low, and thus increases the risk for bleeding (NHLBI, 2022b). **[Learn more about thrombocytopenia here](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#thrombocytopenia)**. Also Read: [Bleeding](#bleeding) | [Platelets](#platelets) | [Heparin-Induced Thrombocytopenia (HIT)](#HIT) 1. **Travel** \- DVTs and PEs are known colloquially as “[economy class syndrome](https://anatoljcardiol.com/article/AJC-82844)”, and can happen even in healthy people who remain immobile for long periods of time whilst on a flight or in a car. Dehydration and low oxygen levels due to the high altitude are contributing factors as well. There are perhaps up to 30,000 cases of such symptomatic passengers per year in the UK (Şabanoğlu, 2021). [Other factors that increase the risk of PEs and DVTs](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S001948321730144X) are: advanced age, obesity, pregnancy, estrogenic drugs, extreme cold, and being in high altitude areas for prolonged periods of time (Dutta et al., 2018). Thus, it is important for people with APS to pay attention to environmental factors whilst travelling, on top of the need to keep moving and stretching whilst in transit. Travelling is one topic you can’t read much about in research papers, as this comes from patient experience. I share **[my personal best travel tips in this post](https://achronicvoice.com/top-tips-travelling-chronic-illness-disability/)**, and you can **[learn more about DVTs here](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#DVT)**. Also Read: [Alcohol](#alcohol) | [Sports](#sports) | [‘Stop Bleed’ First Aid](#StopBleed) Read Related Posts: - [Travelling New Paths with Chronic Illnesses in My Pocket](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-chronic-illness/) - [Invisible in Florence: Life with Chronic Illness in Italy](https://achronicvoice.com/florence-italy-chronic-illness/) - [What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Sarah Poitras – Round the World with a Lung Disease](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-sarah-poitras-lung-disease/) - [Invisible Cities Linkup: Pros & Cons of Living with Chronic Illness in Your City](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-cities-linkup/) 1. **Trial and Error** \- A lot of having an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis is figuring things out for yourself through trial and error. As a patient who has had APS for more than 20 years, I hope to reduce the amount of errors that newly diagnosed patients make, with this resource page. Many of these errors have led to detrimental lifelong consequences, some of which could have been avoided. Having said that, there are still some things that you will need to be cautious about, and figure out on your own, such as diet and lifestyle. Remember that we are all different in terms of genetic make up, comorbidities, life duties and more. So do what’s best for yourself, and advocate for yourself as needed. **[Get tips on how to do personal research from credible sources here](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/#personal)**. Also Read: [Antiphospholipid Syndrome](#APS) | [Diet](#diet) | [Genes](#genes) Read Related Posts: - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome-personal-experiences/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-self-worth/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-pain/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness/) Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis & Medical Information Boards: ![T is for Transient Ischaemic Attack and Triple Positive - A to Z Antiphospholipid Syndrome Guide.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/t-transient-ischaemic-attack-triple-positive-a-z-antiphospholipid-syndrome-guide.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## U is for Ultrasound ### Diagnostic Ultrasound A [diagnostic ultrasound](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diagnostics/4995-ultrasound) is a non-invasive imaging test that uses high-frequency sound waves instead of radiation to ‘see’ inside the body. There are a few different types of diagnostic ultrasounds, such as abdominal, kidney, thyroid and transvaginal (Cleveland Clinic, 2022b). Patients who are on blood thinning medications can bleed internally, such as during an ovarian cyst rupture. Ultrasounds are used to detect free fluid in such instances, which can indicate an abnormal buildup of fluid in a bodily cavity. An ultrasound is what I insist on at the A&E / ER should I suspect internal bleeding. You can [**read more about ovarian cyst ruptures here**](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/#OCR). Also Read: [Bleeding](#bleeding) | [Free Fluid](#SectionF) ### Doppler & Obstetric Ultrasound A [doppler ultrasound](https://www.mayoclinic.org/doppler-ultrasound/expert-answers/faq-20058452) is able to measure blood flow in addition to images, by bouncing high-frequency sound waves off red blood cells. They are used to detect blood clots, heart valve defects, aneurysms and more (Mayo Clinic, 2023d). A [history of thrombophlebitis and the second trimester doppler ultrasound](https://academic.oup.com/rheumatology/article-abstract/45/3/332/1788674?redirectedFrom=fulltext&login=false) is also the best predictor of late obstetric complications in APS and/or SLE patients (Le Thi Huong et al., 2006). [Obstetric ultrasound evaluations](https://www.cureus.com/articles/82244-obstetric-antiphospholipid-syndrome-from-the-perspective-of-a-rheumatologist#!/) are also used to detect abnormalities in foetal growth for patients with APS and/or SLE, such as in foetal growth restriction (IUGR). They are also used to evaluate amniotic fluid volume, foetal growth and morphology (Santacruz et al., 2022). [**Read this post for more information on pregnancy and APS.**](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/#pregnancy) Also Read: [MRI](#MRI) | [X-Rays](#SectionX) Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: ![U is for Ultrasound - Antiphospholipid Syndrome from A to Z.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/u-ultrasounds-antiphospholipid-syndrome-a-z.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## V is for Vegetables & Vascular Manifestations ### Vegetables Certain vegetables interact with vitamin K, and can become a tricky puzzle if you’re taking warfarin. If you’re newly diagnosed with Antiphospholipid Syndrome, the first rule to remember is that green, leafy vegetables contain the highest concentration of vitamin K. Another thing to bear in mind with an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis is that unlike heart patients who are on warfarin, your blood has an increased tendency to clot in and of itself. This does not mean that you need to avoid vitamin K entirely, as it is important for nutritional needs. You just need to take extra precautions to consume a balanced diet and to keep track of your INR levels, together with your healthcare team. ([**Learn more about warfarin medication interactions here**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#WarfarinInteractions).) [Vegetable oils are also an often forgotten factor](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1517/14740338.5.3.433) when it comes to ‘vegetables’, such as soybean, canola, olive and sesame oils. These oils also contain vitamin K, and can interact with warfarin to the unwitting patient (Nutescu et al., 2006). As this topic is rather comprehensive, I will be writing a separate post all about it. Also Read: [Broccoli](#broccoli) | [Vitamin D](#VitaminD) | [Diet](#diet) | [Fruits](#fruits) | [Green, Leafy Vegetables](#LeafyVeg) | [Herbs](#herbs) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) | [Quinoa](#SectionQ) | [Saponins](#saponins) | [Supplements](#supplements) ### Vascular Manifestations The [vascular system](https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/encyclopedia/content?contenttypeid=85&contentid=P08254) is also known as the circulatory system, and comprises arteries, veins and capillaries. Together, they circulate blood and lymphatic fluid throughout the body. Vascular diseases can be caused by blood clots, genetics, inflammation and more (University of Rochester Medical Center, n.d.-b). [**Learn more about vascular manifestations in APS patients here**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#vascular). Also Read: [Blood Clots & Bleeding](#SectionB) | [Coagulation](#coagulation) | [Genes](#genes) ### Other Terms for “V” and APS are: 1. **Vaccinations** \- Studies have suggested that HPV (Human Papilloma Virus) infections are more prevalent in Lupus patients, and the HPV vaccine is recommended for patients up until 25 years of age. Extra precautions must be taken by APS patients however, due to the [risk of VTE (venous thromboembolism)](https://jcdr.net/article%5Ffulltext.asp?issn=0973-709x&year=2015&volume=9&issue=5&page=OE01&issn=0973-709x&id=5972) (Ranjan et al., 2015). It is a deep intramuscular injection, which can cause bruising and bleeding. Also Read: [Injections](#injections) | [Sexual Intercourse](#sex) | [Surgery](#surgery) | [Young Adults](#SectionY) 1. **Vorapaxar (Zontivity)** \- [Vorapaxar is a novel thrombin antagonist](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1043661817312550) that is approved for coronary artery disease. Specifically, it is a protease-activated receptor (PAR) antagonist, which is involved in platelet activation, and the thrombin cascade. One of the issues with Vorapaxar is its high risk of bleeding (Signorelli et al., 2018). **[Learn more about vorapaxar here](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#vorapaxar)**. 2. **Vitamin K Antogonists (VKAs)** \- These are a class of medications for the prevention and treatment of thrombosis. You might be familiar with the most well-known of the lot by now – warfarin. **[I write about VKAs in greater detail here](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#VKAs)**. Also Read: [Coumarin](#coumarin) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome Guide Boards: ![V is for Vegetables and Vascular Manifestations - Antiphospholipid Syndrome from A to Z.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/v-vegetables-vascular-antiphospholipid-syndrome-from-a-z.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## W is for Warfarin & Women ### Warfarin [Warfarin](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK441964/) is a vitamin K antagonist that inhibits multiple vitamin K dependent clotting factors, specifically factors II, VII, IX, and X, as well as the anticoagulant proteins C and S (Crader et al., 2023). In general, [patients with an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis are advised to use warfarin instead of DOACs](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S2387020623002802) (direct oral anticoagulants) for treatment, especially if they have a history of arterial thrombosis, or are triple and even double positive (Girón-Ortega & Girón-González, 2023). [**Learn all about warfarin – from how it works to interactions with other medications – in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#warfarin). Also Read: [Blood Clots & Bleeding](#SectionB) | [Coumarin](#coumarin) | [Haemorrhage](#haemorrhage) | [INR](#INR) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) | [Triple Positive](#TriplePos) ### Women Antiphospholipid Syndrome is more commonly found in women than in men, with a ratio of about 3.5:1 (Kaul et al., 2023). [**I have dedicated an entire post to females and Antiphospholipid Syndrome here**](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/). Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis Boards: ![W is for Warfarin and Women. The A to Z Antiphospholipid Syndrome Handbook.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/w-warfarin-women-a-z-antiphospholipid-syndrome-handbook.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## X is for X-Rays Whilst x-rays are ***not*** used to diagnose APS, and [*they *cannot* show a pulmonary embolism*](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/pulmonary-embolism/diagnosis-treatment/drc-20354653), they are still useful to rule out other possible conditions. Apart from detecting bone fractures and tumours, x-rays can also be used to detect blocked blood vessels. When used with radioactive contrast agents, x-rays can also reveal blood flow to the heart muscle, blood vessels and organs (Mayo Clinic, 2022). [Avascular necrosis (AN) can occur in patients with APS and SLE](https://www.ingentaconnect.com/content/ben/crr/2010/00000006/00000001/art00006), especially those who are on steroid treatment, and/or consume alcohol excessively. Antiphospholipid antibodies and other factors may be possible contributors as well. AN patients can be asymptomatic, and x-rays don’t always show abnormalities until months after it has begun. MRIs are more useful in detecting such cases, as compared to x-rays, CT scans, and/or bone scans (Gómez-Puerta & Pons-Estel 2010). [**Learn more about AN and other musculoskeletal and pulmonary manifestations in APS patients in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/). Also Read: [Antiphospholipid Antibodies](#APLS) | [Alcohol](#alcohol) | [Blood Clots & Bleeding](#SectionB) | [Coagulation](#coagulation) | [Haemorrhage](#haemorrhage) | [MRI](#MRI) | [Ultrasound](#SectionU) ### Angiography An [angiogram](https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/angiogram) is an x-ray where a contrastive agent is injected, which helps to show the shape, structure and flow of blood vessels. It can be used to check for blockages and other issues within them (Healthdirect Australia, 2023). For example, a [coronary angiography may reveal blocked arteries or intracoronary organised clots](https://www.omjournal.org/CaseReports/FullText/200910/FT%5FA%20Rare%20Presentation%20of%20Primary%20AntiphospholipidSyndrome.html). Antiphospholipid antibodies (aPLs) can cause thrombosis in normal blood vessels, due to a number of factors (Prashanth et al., 2009). A [cardiac catheterisation and angiogram](https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/coronary-angiography/) is an invasive procedure, and is used to visualise the arteries in the heart. The technique is known as arteriography. It can be used to help diagnose certain conditions such as after a heart attack or angina, or to plan surgical procedures (NHS, 2022b). It has also been noted that [patients with aPLs and cerebrovascular events](https://www.ajnr.org/content/19/4/611.short) seem to present arterial abnormalities differently as compared to the general population, when assessed via arteriography (Provenzale et al., 1998). [**For more information about cerebrovascular and cardiological manifestations in APS, read this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/). ### Tomography / CT Scan A CT scan is also known as a [computed tomography](https://www.nibib.nih.gov/science-education/science-topics/computed-tomography-ct). It uses a combination of x-rays and computer technology to generate cross-sectional images of the body. These images are more detailed than standard x-rays, and are used to diagnose tumours, blood clots, haemorrhages, and other injuries inside the body. A contrast agent may be used to help visualise soft tissues and other fine structures better (National Institute of Biomedical Imaging and Bioengineering \[NIBIB\], 2022). Multislice computed tomography (MSCT) angiography is a noninvasive, and more advanced method. According to one study of 100 APS patients, it [proved to be the method of choice for monitoring blood vessel changes](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12026-016-8887-6). Their results revealed that lower extremity blood vessel lesions were more prevalent in APS patients (Saponjski et al., 2017). ### Other Terms for X & APS: 1. **Xarelto** \- This is the brand name of the DOAC, rivaroxaban. **[More information on DOACs, including Xarelto, can be found here](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#DOACs)**. Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome & Autoimmune Disease Boards: ![X is for X-Rays - Antiphospholipid Syndrome from A to Z.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/x-x-rays-antiphospholipid-syndrome-from-a-z.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## Y is for Young Adults ### Strokes & Transient Ischaemic Attacks (TIAs) Strokes and heart attacks are more commonly associated with the elderly, but it is important to be aware that young adults with Antiphospholipid Syndrome can also experience them. In fact, [about 10% – 15% of strokes happen to young adults](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0006497118628782) (Vaccarino et al., 2019). [According to a systematic review by Sciascia et al. (2015)](https://ard.bmj.com/content/74/11/2028): > “The overall aPL frequency was estimated as 17.4% (range 5%–56%) for any CVE \[cerebrovascular events\], 17.2% (range 2%–56%) for stroke and 11.7% (range 2%–45%) for transient ischaemic attack (TIA). The presence of aPL increased the risk for CVE by 5.48-fold (95% CI 4.42 to 6.79).” [**My first manifestation of APS was a TIA at 14 years of age**](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/), and I’m lucky in a sense to get an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis shortly after. Many patients go undiagnosed or misdiagnosed for years, even decades. Meanwhile, their invisible illnesses cause pain and symptoms that are poorly managed. Also Read: [Invisible Illness](#II) | [Strokes](#strokes) | [Support Groups](#SupportGroups) | [Transient Ischaemic Attack](#TIA) Read Related Posts: - [What’s It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) - [A Page From a Sick Girl’s Diary: Sometimes I Wish I was an Old Person](https://achronicvoice.com/page-sick-girls-diary-sometimes-wish-old-person/) - [We Want to Have Fun Just Like You, But Here’s What it Takes](https://achronicvoice.com/we-want-have-fun-just-like-you-but-heres-what-takes/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/body-gone-rogue-invisible-illness/) - [Would You Rather: Have an Invisible Illness or a Visible Disability?](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-disability/) ### Cerebral Venous Sinus Thrombosis [Cerebral Venous Sinus Thrombosis](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1076029621999104) (CVST) is a rare but severe cerebrovascular disease that is often overlooked at the outset. It accounts for about 0.5% – 1% of all strokes in the adult population, but 10% – 20% of strokes in young adults (Shen et al., 2021). APS was found to be the underlying factor for CSVT in 6% – 17% of patients. Whilst the exact reason is yet unclear, studies have suggested enhanced production of antiphospholipid antibodies (aPLs) as a possible factor. [One study found that young adults were more prone to CSVT](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1076029621999104), and were mainly female (Shen et al., 2021). In a small study of 11 primary APS patients, they [concluded that CSVT may also occur in younger patients](https://synapse.koreamed.org/articles/1026296), with more extensive involvement of the venous system compared to other causes of venous thrombosis (Kim et al., 2000). [**Learn more about veins here**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#veins). Also Read: [Antiphospholipid Antibodies](#APLS) | [Catastrophic APS](#CAPS) | [Men](#men) | [Primary APS](#PAPS) | [Secondary APS](#SAPS) | [Women](#women) ### Heart Attacks Heart attacks are known medically as [myocardial infarctions](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK537076/) (MI), and occur when there is a decrease or complete stop of blood flow to the myocardium (the muscle layer of the heart) (Ojha & Dhamoon, 2023). An [acute myocardial infarction](https://www.msdmanuals.com/professional/cardiovascular-disorders/coronary-artery-disease/acute-myocardial-infarction-mi?ruleredirectid=749) (AMI) is when there is heart cell death during a heart attack (Sweis & Jivan, 2024). It is important to note that [young adults with APS can also suffer from AMI](https://academic.oup.com/pmj/article-abstract/78/915/27/7039162?redirectedFrom=fulltext&login=false), due to antiphospholipid antibodies. They can also suffer from valvular abnormalities in addition to that (Osula et al., 2002). [**Learn more about heart attacks and cardiovascular manifestations in APS patients here.**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/#CVD) Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Y is for Young Adults - The Antiphospholipid Syndrome A to Z Guide](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/y-young-adults-antiphospholipid-syndrome-a-z-guide.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## Z is for Zinc To be honest, I had no idea about zinc and its interaction with phospholipids, until I had to go dig for medical terms starting with the infamous ‘Z’. [Zinc is a trace mineral that can be found in food sources](https://nutritionsource.hsph.harvard.edu/zinc/) such as: shellfish, beef, legumes, nuts, seeds and whole grains (Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health, 2023). Zinc is also available in supplement form that you can purchase over-the-counter. Only small amounts are needed by the body; consuming too much of it can be toxic. The recommended daily allowance is 8 – 11mg, and [people in industrialised countries rarely have zinc deficiencies](https://www.mountsinai.org/health-library), unless they have malabsorption syndromes or are on a restricted diet (Mount Sinai, n.d.-b). Yet, zinc occurs as constituents of more than 300 enzymes. It is involved in processes that are also altered by the action of antiphospholipid antibodies. A lack of zinc can indirectly result in inadequate blood flow, in addition to many other health issues. [According to Tubek et al. (2008)](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12011-007-8077-4): > “In this regard, if antiphospholipid antibodies alter the structure and function of cell membranes of thrombocytes and endothelium then an effect on the above-mentioned phenomena could be expected. The clinical symptoms of these alterations include early atherosclerosis development, thrombosis, and pulmonary embolism.” You can [**learn more about how Antiphospholipid Syndrome affects various organs and bodily systems here**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body-blood-major-organs/). Also Read: [Antiphospholipid Antibodies](#APLS) | [Blood Clots & Bleeding](#SectionB) | [Calcium](#calcium) | [Vitamin D](#VitaminD) | [Diet](#diet) | [Green, Leafy Vegetables](#LeafyVeg) | [Vitamin K](#SectionK) | [Omega Oils](#OmegaOils) | [Phospholipids](#phospholipids) | [Saponins](#saponins) | [Supplements](#supplements) Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome & Chronic Illness Guide Boards: ![Z is for Zinc - The Ultimate Antiphospholipid Syndrome Guide from A to Z](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/z-zinc-ultimate-antiphospholipid-syndrome-guide-a-z.jpg) Jump to Section: [A](#SectionA) [B](#SectionB) [C](#SectionC) [D](#SectionD) [E](#SectionE) [F](#SectionF) [G](#SectionG) [H](#SectionH) [I](#SectionI) [J](#SectionJ) [K](#SectionK) [L](#SectionL) [M](#SectionM) [N](#SectionN) [O](#SectionO) [P](#SectionP) [Q](#SectionQ) [R](#SectionR) [S](#SectionS) [T](#SectionT) [U](#SectionU) [V](#SectionV) [W](#SectionW) [X](#SectionX) [Y](#SectionY) [Z](#SectionZ) ## Conclusion to the Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: A – Z Guide It is my sincere hope that this resources page has been useful to you, especially if you’ve just received an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis. As a patient, I know just how scary it can be, and the feelings of both loss and feeling lost. I hope that this resource page can be like a small flame amidst that terrifying fog, and I have faith that you will manage it to the best of your own abilities. Sending well wishes, and feel free to leave a comment should you have more questions, a story to share, or a correction to point out. I am not a doctor, afterall 😉 Thank you so much for reading until the very end! If you liked this resource and would like to show your token of appreciation, you can do so with the button below. Thank you for your support! 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Rather, it’s just a simple life philosophy, or a constant return to a single question — “what does life expect from me, in this very moment?”. > *“It did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us.” (Frankl, 1946/2006)* *Note: This post is written as part of the September 2026 linkup. The five writing prompts are: *Asking*, *Overthinking*, *Humbling*, *Valuing*, and *Reclaiming*. You're more than welcome to pick at least three prompts to write about in any style you like, and* [***join us here***](https://achronicvoice.com/september-writing-prompts-chronic-illness-disabilities-2026/)😊 *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. 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Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/question-i-get-asked-a-lot-how-to-live-with-chronic-illness.jpg) ## That Rhetorical Question is Based on Viktor Frankl’s Framework on Logotherapy According to the [Viktor Frankl Institute of Logotherapy](https://www.viktorfranklinstitute.org/about-logotherapy/): > *“Viktor Frankl’s Logotherapy is both a life philosophy and treatment modality. As a philosophy it focuses on the meaning of human existence and on man’s search for such meaning. As a therapy it focuses on finding healing through finding meaning.”* I will further explain what the rhetorical question, “what does life expect from me, in this very moment?”, means to me below — how it helps me to live with chronic illness, and navigate difficult days and unpredictabilities. ### Approaching Life from a Position of Humility First, I believe that question — “what does life expect from me, in this very moment?” — is approached from a position of humility at its essence. Contrary to common belief, being humble does not equate to low self-worth, self-esteem, or a lack of confidence. In fact, [**I would rate my level of self-worth now to be higher**](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/)than it was 20 years ago; partly due to age, yes, but also because of the [**life lessons I’ve had to learn from being chronically ill.**](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) In general, I’ve found overconfident people who lack humility to actually be wanting in self-worth, yet aren’t even aware of that fact themselves (or don’t want to admit to it). On the other hand, the humblest people I personally know have a very stable core of self-worth — external opinions do not destabilise what they already know to be their worth as a human being; [**they have nothing to prove**](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/), and no one they need to prove it to. Here are some of my favourite quotes on humility which emphasise this point: > *“Humble enough to know I can be replaced. Wise enough to know that there is nobody else like me.” — Unknown* > *“Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.” — Rick Warren* #### I am Not that Special, Nor am I at the Centre of the Universe I like to approach a problem or pain with thesobering and humblingthought, “I am not *that* special”, or “I’m not at the centre of the universe”. [**My mantra in life is simply to “get up and carry on”**](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/). Don’t get me wrong — I am not being cold or self-defeatist, and am aware that I will still be in great pain no matter what mindset I lean towards — be it positive or negative. Such thoughts comfort me because they remind me that I’m not alone out there, and that [**life is bigger than my pain**](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/). To know that [**there is still beauty in this world *despite* my pain**](https://achronicvoice.com/projchronicwisdom-beautiful-life-despite-pain/) helps me to [**endure it with more grace**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronically-ill-resilient/). Perhaps it is to not let myself become bitter, because chronic pain has a tendency to shrink a person’s entire world. Instead, it helps me to expand my world, and when the ‘world’ expands, there is space for beauty, endurance, and life. > *“Life waiting for them to actualize values implies that the ‘I’ is not in the center, rather, values are in the center.” —* [*Viktor Frankl Institute of Logotherapy in Israel*](https://themeaningseeker.org/what-life-expects-of-you/) ### I Believe that I Have a Duty to Life Sometimes, I paraphrase the question, “what does life expect from me, in this very moment?”, to “[**what does life demand of me right now**](https://achronicvoice.com/new-year-duties-life/)?”. This is not as drab or dreary as it sounds, because I believe that life always demands the best out of us. [**It demands that we fulfil our potential as human beings**](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/), it demands that we survive this tough moment to get there, and it reminds us that we have a role to play in the grand scheme of the universe. We may just be a speck, but a speck can still sparkle for ages. Read Related Posts: - [Why Humility is the Best Tool for Advocacy](https://achronicvoice.com/humility-advocacy/) - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [A Quarterly Reflection: 12 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned](https://achronicvoice.com/quarterly-reflection-life-lessons-learned/) - [Why Your Beauty Never Left You (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/why-your-beauty-never-left-you/) - [Flowers are the Most Beautiful When They're Just About to Die (and What That's Got to Do with Being a Spoonie)](https://achronicvoice.com/flowers-most-beautiful-die-spoonie/) Pin to Your Humility, Values & Life Journey Boards: ![Humility — How approaching life with humility helps me to cope with chronic pain. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-approaching-life-with-humility-helops-me-cope-chronic-pain.jpg) ## I Just Get Through the Pain Without Overthinking In one of the roundups I did where [**40 people with chronic illness shared their best pain management tips**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/), Julie Holliday said something that I found and still find very insightful: > *“Accept it, allow the emotions it triggers, but *be careful to not add any meaning to it about what it means for the future*. Then, to distract myself and make myself as comfortable as possible while I wait for the worst to pass.”* We often tend to overthink when we’re in the throes of pain, and start to imagine doomsday scenarios for the future. Yet, we often fail to account for the fact that we are feeling at our worst in that particular moment. Thus, [**whatever negativity we are overloading our mind with**](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) during those moments isn’t the entire truth. When that period of agony passes, we tend to regain mental stamina and thus, [**feel more capable**](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) and independent again. The mental is tied to the physical, and vice versa. I would even go on to add that the higher the pain levels, the more you need to untangle yourself from the danger of giving the pain too much weight. What you need to do is to [**simply survive the episode**](https://achronicvoice.com/dealing-with-pain/). Come out on the other side, [**take a breather**](https://achronicvoice.com/just-breathing-enough-today-poem/), then look around you again to recalibrate. ### I Don’t Absorb Emotions Until I Need to I guess ‘emotions’ and ‘thoughts’ are two sides of the same coin. I’m not sure if this is an entirely good thing, but I’ve learned not to absorb emotions until I need to. That is because I find emotional pain to be much [**worse than physical pain**](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/), so a higher level of internal energy is consumed — something I'm already in short supply of. Any sort of stress, whether of a psychological or physical nature, always [**triggers a pain flare**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/). ### I Don’t Expect Others to Understand My Pain I would also say that I’m a very compassionate person, but not empathetic. The reasoning behind it is that no one can truly understand another person’s pain, or put themselves in another person’s shoes — so why waste energy imagining it? But if I’m able to [**“show up” for a person**](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) — I will try my very best to do so. As such, [**I don’t expect people to ‘get’ how much pain I’m in**](https://achronicvoice.com/we-shouldnt-expect-people-to-understand/), because such expectations bear the risk of disappointment. I explain my situation and need for accommodations, but also acknowledge that chronic pain is *impossible* for others to grasp. Read Related Posts: - [What Neverending Pain Reveals to You](https://achronicvoice.com/what-neverending-pain-reveals/) - [Grieving the Life That I Will Never Have (Due to Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/grieving-the-life-i-will-never-have-chronic-illness-disability/) - [The Subtle Difference Between Saying “Think Positive” and “Stay Positive” to Someone with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/difference-think-positive-stay-positive-chronic-pain/) - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) - [Triggers Trigger Triggers (Re-stabilisation Procedure Encore)](https://achronicvoice.com/triggers-trigger-triggers-re-stabilisation/) Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Mental Health Boards: ![How I Survive a Pain Flare Without Overthinking. Read the post on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-i-survive-pain-flare-without-overthinking.jpg) ## I Think that Happiness is Overrated Whilst I think that there is a kernel of truth to the phrase, “life is short, just be happy”, because many wise and kind old people have said it to me, I personally think that modern society places too much of a premium on the ‘achievement’ of happiness. [**As Thich Nhat Hanh states**](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/), “many people become unhappy in their search for happiness”. I am not saying I want to remain miserable or that happiness is a bad thing. I am simply saying that happiness is not high on my list of life values or priorities. For some reason, this is confusing to many people, and they often try to ‘correct’ me by re-emphasising their phrase. To me, who cares how long or short life is going to be? Happiness is not dependent on the length of one’s life. Besides, [**when you live with chronic pain — 24/7, 365 days a year**](https://achronicvoice.com/does-chronic-pain-go-away-last-pain-free-day/) — and especially when it flares up, happiness can be very abstract, and an elusive concept to chase. It is an unreliable and unstable element — a pop of glitter that explodes gloriously, then quickly fades away. *P.S. When Ragnar said to his son, Björn, in the* [*TV series, “Vikings”*](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2306299/)*, “who told you that you should be happy in life?”, I was like “yes!!!”* 😆 *And yes, I’m a huge fan of “Vikings”; I actually take inspiration from how Ragnar and Lagertha deal with hardships, and apply the mentalities in real life, too, even though it is from a fictional source. Whatever works, right?* 😛 ### You Need to Survive Before You Can Thrive I guess my mindset is quite base and evolutionary in this regard, because I am primarily focused on survival and self-preservation; chronic pain and a few [**near-death experiences**](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) have instilled that focus into me. My entire life thus far has been spent [**surviving and rebuilding**](https://achronicvoice.com/secret-of-change/), so I don’t know how to do otherwise. However, regrowth and expansion can happen when the conditions become favourable — make that semi-favourable, because there is never a fully favourable time when you’re chronically ill. Exploring and gaining mastery in new life domains, such as fitness levels or education, bring me satisfaction or [**improve my quality of life in one way or another**](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/). These matter just as much as being happy in and of itself. Apart from measurable outcomes, regrowth and expansion can be of a mental or spiritual nature, too. To be able to find or make meaning out of a difficult situation brings about positive emotional states that outlast happiness as well, such as peace or hope. (Hope reminds me of the Sandman playing Satan's game in hell, by the way 😉) "A Hope in Hell" fight scene | The Sandman Read Related Posts: - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness and Pain Can Coexist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [How Many Times Can You Hit Rock Bottom with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/rock-bottom/) - [How to Use the Tetris Effect to Invite Positivity Back into Your Life, Despite Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/tetris-effect-positivity-chronic-illness/) ## Seeking Out Contentment with Chronic Illness Instead I think the small but big difference I have been trying to highlight is the meaning of ‘happiness’ versus ‘contentment’. In this [paper by McKenzie](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/jtsb.12098) (2015), they sum it up as, “in its simplest form, happiness consists of positive affect and contentment consists of positive reflection”. Did you find that “simplest”? Because I didn’t 😆 Joke aside, I prefer [this illustration on contentment](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/what%5Fif%5Fyou%5Fpursued%5Fcontentment%5Frather%5Fthan%5Fhappiness) from Greater Good magazine instead: “‘chokkshay’ is a ‘spiritual word’ that means ‘**the knowledge of enough**’”. (I also googled the language — [Dzongkha in Bhutan](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dzongkha)). I also like the user, slayemin’s, take on the [difference between happiness and contentment](https://www.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/mdcdue/what%5Fis%5Fthe%5Fdifference%5Fof%5Fbeing%5Fcontent%5Fand%5Fbeing/) in this Reddit thread: > *“You don't need happiness to be content.* > *Contentedness leads to happiness.* > *Happiness is elusive, while contentedness can be created.”* That is, I suppose, a 2026 way of paraphrasing what Frankl said as well, “happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ### How Contentment Looks Like in Daily Life If ‘contentment’ is the umbrella term, then the little things that matter in life are the network of roots that your own life is built upon. The small, familiar comforts matter a great deal when you’re in pain. This can be seen as coming home to your own bed, or having a nice hot cup of tea at the end of the day, if that’s your thing. There is no need for excitement, elation, or special celebrations to end a day well, although they’re nice once in a while. I think that healthy people don’t appreciate just how much[**“boring” is actually a blessing in disguise**](https://achronicvoice.com/boredom-stimulating-cuddling-birds-august-2018/). In addition, [**when the good days do finally come around**](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/) — as they always do — the taste is just that much sweeter. ### The Little Comforts, Joys & Routines in My Own Daily Life A few [**everyday routines**](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) that help to stabilise me are: - My morning coffee and medications - A hot shower in the evening - Sorting out my Buffer/social media schedules for the week (I know, nerdy) - Playing ball with my dog, Talisker, and brushing his fur every evening From this short list, you can see that they’re very simple things and nothing fancy. The little comforts of such moments are **enough** for me, and most importantly, they bring me peace. They signal to me that another day has passed without incident, and when you live with the [**unpredictability of chronic illness**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) — that is a win. Read Related Posts: - [To Live with Chronic Illness is to Learn to Live with Maybes](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-maybes/) - [29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) - [May 2018: In Memory of My Parrotlets & Designing My Days](https://achronicvoice.com/memory-parrotlets-designing-my-days-may-2018/) - [#ProjChronicWisdom: Simple Pleasures I Can Enjoy Whilst Stuck in Bed with Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/projchronicwisdom-simple-pleasures-enjoy-pain/) - [A Perfect Capture of Life with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/capture-life-with-chronic-illness/) Pin to Your Contentment, Happiness & Quality of Life Boards: ![How to Seek Out Contentment in Everyday Life with Chronic Illness. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-seek-contentment-everyday-life-with-chronic-illness.jpg) ![Contentment — an Important Ingredient to Living Well with Chronic Illness. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/contentment-important-living-well-with-chronic-illness-v2-reading.jpg) ## I Believe That Love is an Endless Well If there is one **value** or virtue in life that I hold dear, it is love. I have decided a long time ago that [**I will never close my heart up to people**](https://achronicvoice.com/kick-ass-with-kindness/), even if I keep getting hurt or rejected. This is because I believe that love is an endless well I can draw from deep within me; there is always more to give. In fact, I know that I still have *a lot more love* left to give. I am not sure if my Chinese name has anything to do with it, because it means “excellent love” 😆 Perhaps names do have meaning after all, but I digress. This belief helps me to navigate [**a world that is often unkind, unforgiving, and unreasonable**](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/); it all comes back down to a willingness to put myself out there in the world regardless — you never know what or who will answer in return. To clarify two things — I do not expect love in return; I find joy in the act of giving instead. I guess that is why the phrase “unconditional love” exists. Also, being loving does not mean being a pushover. In fact, I need to tone down on my aggression towards incompetent medical staff 😛 I guess what I basically mean to say is that to me, “to love” is never the wrong choice. > *“I’ll never harden my heart, but I’ve toughened the muscles around it.” — Dolly Parton* > *“Love is the only way to grasp another human being in the innermost core of his personality.” – Viktor Frankl* Led Zeppelin — Whole Lotta Love \*Note: Contains some flashing lights. ## The Right Medications Matter When You Live with Chronic Illness I just wanted to insert a short section here on the importance of having the right medication cocktail, too. When I was young and dumb and proud, [**I avoided painkillers just to prove how ‘strong’ I was**](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/). I also didn’t seek out a psychiatrist, [**until I was begging for mental relief**](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/). I learned over a decade that nobody really cares. Not in the sense that people do not support you, but rather, that you’re the only one who has to bear with the pain and consequences — be it mental or physical — and not someone else. So do what’s right by you. Read Related Posts: - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [A Pain Pill, a Caress, an Exhalation of Relief](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-pill-caress-relief/) - [What's it Like to be on a High Dose of Steroids? (And the First Question You Will Definitely Ask)](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [A Page From a Sick Girl's Diary: Sometimes I Wish I was an Old Person](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girls-diary-wish-old-person/) ## How to Live with Chronic Illness is a Personal Construct You Need to Build for Yourself In this post, I have shared my personal thoughts and approaches on how to live with chronic illness, and possibly even to **reclaim** some meaning despite it. Yet, I want to emphasise that “how to live a good life with chronic illness” is a [**personal construct**](https://achronicvoice.com/stories-we-tell-ourselves-prisons-freedom/) — it is truly what you make of it. What works for me is *definitely* not going to work for you in its entirety, but I hope it helps to add some tools or perspectives to your own toolkit. It is crucial to first [**understand and acknowledge your worth**](https://achronicvoice.com/finding-self-behind-illness/), limitations, strengths, needs and such, in order to live with chronic illness fully and purposefully, **as is intended for you as an individual.** Read Related Posts: - [There's No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [The Value in Seeking Out Moments of Gratitude (and How to do it)](https://achronicvoice.com/value-gratitude/) ### Where to Start if You’re Unsure of Where to Even Begin If you’re still unsure about how to live with chronic illness, a good starting point is often tied to life **values** that you hold dear, such as kindness, loyalty or honesty. Whilst [**chronic illness can create barriers**](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/) to traits that you value, such as independence or discipline, there may be ways to work around them with a bit of creativity, and a shift in perspective. When you [**release yourself from the trap of ‘perfect’**](https://achronicvoice.com/dont-compare-life-destination-special/), you will be astounded by how much further you can go. Nobody gets everything they want in life. I repeat. *Nobody* gets everything they want in life. And when you live with chronic illness, ‘everything’ shrinks considerably more. That does not mean, however, that we cannot **reclaim** some meaning out of our experiences, in order to end our life journey on a note that we can be proud of. Many people who obtained what they thought they really wanted in life also got to their destination, only to realise that it wasn’t what they were actually seeking anyway. You can read my post, “[**Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness**](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/)”, to gain more insight. [This post by Antoine Buteau](https://www.antoinebuteau.com/lessons-from-viktor-frankl/) also has a great infographic and quotes from Frankl that sum things up. Also, [**many of the quotes in this post can be found on this page here**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/). All roads truly lead to Rome, so pick the one you find most scenic — or enjoyable or meaningful or fun…... pick the one you prefer to tread upon 😉 ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! 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Learn more about my personal approaches, from nearly 30 years of lived experiences. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/people-ask-me-how-to-live-with-chronic-illness-personal-approaches-30-years-experiences.jpg) ### September Writing Prompts for People with Chronic Illness & Disability (2026 Edition) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/september-writing-prompts-chronic-illness-disabilities-2026/ Last updated: 2026-09-05T16:07:33.000Z ## Let's Get into the 2026 September Writing Prompts! Welcome to the third instalment of the linkups since its relaunch! I am happy that there have been a few entries in the past two linkups, and that there were both 'old' and new faces. It has been refreshing to see how others interpreted the prompts, which were very different from my own. Come join us this month in the September writing prompts — I for one, would love to read what you have to say 🙂 *\*Disclaimer: This post/linkup is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my/our personal experiences as patient(s). *I/We are not doctors, and nothing in this post or its associated links should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post/linkup may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness, Disability & Linkup Boards: ![September Writing Prompts for People with Chronic Illness and Disability. All are welcome. Get the prompts on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/september-2026-writing-prompts-chronic-illness-disability.jpg) ## What the 2026 September Writing Prompts are About, and How to Participate The writing prompts are a monthly get-together for anyone with a chronic illness, mental illness or disability. An opportunity to share, to listen, and to learn from one another through shared writing prompts. I also think it’s a great way to provide insight into life with chronic pain and disabilities, from many different points of view. You can choose to write about your latest experiences with chronic illness and/or disability, or even turn it into an [evergreen blog post](https://mailchimp.com/resources/evergreen-content/). All you have to do is write a post using **at least three of the writing prompts** listed below, and publish it on your blog, or to a free writing platform such as [Medium](https://medium.com/) or [SubStack](https://substack.com/) (don't forget to set the post for public viewing!). Then click on the **blue ‘Add Link’ button** in the widget below to add your blog post to this page. Voilà, you’re now part of the linkup party! ## Simple Rules for the 2026 September Writing Prompts - Only **submit one link** per website/blog. - If you choose to participate, do **comment on at least two** other blog posts in this linkup by the end of the month. Return to check at a later date if there aren't enough entries yet. Helping to spread the word on your social media is always appreciated, but not required. - Linkups start on the first of every month. There will be five different writing prompts. It will close at the end of each month before midnight. All timings listed are in [Singapore time](https://www.google.com.sg/search?q=singapore+time&oq=singapore+time&aqs=chrome..69i57j69i60l2j0l3.1041j0j1&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8) (+8 GMT). - Pick **at least three** of the writing prompts to write about. Five is best, of course! - **Insert a link to this post** when you submit your blog entry for auto verification. - Failure to follow these rules might get you blacklisted from future writing prompt linkups. Let's keep it fair for all 🙂 ## September 2026 Awareness Dates Here are a few awareness dates for September 2026\. Note that there may be variations, as different countries hold events or awareness dates on different dates. It is also not an exhaustive list, as there are many different days for just about everything. Feel free to use the prompts to advocate or talk more about these awareness dates if you like. - [World Sexual Health Day](https://www.worldsexualhealth.net/world-sexual-health-day) (04 September) - [World Suicide Prevention Day](https://www.iasp.info/wspd/) (10 September) - [World Sepsis Day](https://www.safetyandquality.gov.au/news-and-media/events-and-awareness-days/world-sepsis-day) (13 September) - [World Lymphoma Awareness Day](https://lymphomacoalition.org/world-lymphoma-awareness-day/) (15 September) - [National HIV/AIDS and Aging Awareness Day](https://www.cdc.gov/hiv/awarenessdays/index.html) (18 September) - [World Mitochondrial Disease Awareness Week](https://mitopatients.org/mito-week/) (14 – 20 September) - [World Hydrocephalus Day](https://www.hydroassoc.org/ham2026/) (20 September) - [National Non-speaking/Nonverbal Awareness Day](https://www.sendtutoring.co.uk/resources/blog/post/celebrating-non-verbal-awareness-day-every-voice-matters/) (30 September) The following awareness campaigns span the entire month (a long list for September, as you can see!): - [Alopecia Areata Awareness Month](https://www.naaf.org/events/alopecia-areata-awareness-month/) - [Animal Pain Awareness Month](https://www.ivapm.org/animal-pain-awareness-month) - [Blood Cancer Awareness Month](https://lymphoma.org/aboutus/bcam/) - [Charcot-Marie-Tooth (CMT) Awareness Month](https://cmtrf.org/cmt-action-month/) - [Childhood Cancer Awareness Month](https://childhoodcancer.asn.au/latest/2025/10/ccam2026/) - [Dystonia Awareness Month](https://dystonia-foundation.org/summer-2026-dystonia-dialogue-available-online/) - [Gynaecologic Cancer Awareness Month](https://www.aacr.org/patients-caregivers/awareness-months/gynecologic-cancer-awareness-month/) - [Immune Thrombocytopenia Awareness Month](https://pdsa.org/contribute/raise-awareness-for-itp/itp-awareness-month) - [Leukemia and Lymphoma Awareness Month](https://www.aacr.org/patients-caregivers/awareness-months/leukemia-and-lymphoma-awareness-month/) - [National Atrial Fibrillation Awareness Month](https://www.heart.org/en/professional/quality-improvement/get-with-the-guidelines/get-with-the-guidelines-afib/afib-awareness-month) - [National Pain Awareness Month](https://www.iasp-pain.org/advocacy/pain-awareness-month/) - [National Recovery Month](https://www.samhsa.gov/about/digital-toolkits/recovery-month) - [National Service Dog Month](https://canine.org/service-dogs/service-dog-month/) - [National Sickle Cell Awareness Month](https://sicklecelldisease.org/national-sickle-cell-awareness-month/) - [National Vascular Disease Awareness Month](https://veininstitute.com/national-vascular-disease-awareness-month/) - [PCOS Awareness Month](https://www.congress.gov/bill/119th-congress/house-resolution/175/text) (now renamed to "[Polyendocrine Metabolic Ovarian Syndrome](https://swhr.org/health%5Ffocus%5Farea/polycystic-ovary-syndrome/)" (PMOS)) - [Prostate Cancer Awareness Month](https://www.pcf.org/pcam/toolkit/) - [Urology Awareness Month](https://www.theurologyfoundation.org/impact-achievements/campaigns/urology-awareness-month/) - [World Alzheimer's Month](https://www.alzint.org/get-involved/world-alzheimers-month/) - [World Sexual and Reproductive Health Month](https://www.who.int/news-room/events/detail/2026/09/01/default-calendar/world-sexual-and-reproductive-health-month-2026) ## Presenting the 2026 September Writing Prompts 🎉 ### 1\. Asking Have you had to [**ask for more help**](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) than usual of late due to chronic pain, chronic fatigue or other disabilities? Or perhaps others have been asking you for help instead (or asking too many questions...). Perhaps you need to ask your doctor about a certain finding. You could also be [**asking for accommodations in school**](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/), asking for permission to do something, enquiring about project details, or seeking answers to a question be it from the community, AI, a mentor, or even yourself. You might also have been trying to ask for help to no avail. This prompt is quite open to interpretation, I think 🙂 Read Related Posts: - [Is Seeking Help for Your Mental Health Worth It?](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/) - [MediSearch Review: A Medical AI Search Engine for Patients, Clinicians & Medical Writers](https://achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) - [Why I Need to See More Than 10 Different Types of Doctors Regularly](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) - [What's it Like to be on a High Dose of Steroids? (And the First Question You Will Definitely Ask)](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) ### 2\. Overthinking When you live with [**invisible illness**](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/), it can be easy to fall into the trap of overthinking. This can be especially true if the [**symptoms are seemingly mysterious**](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/), or repeatedly refuted. It can also be [**easy to overthink when you're in the throes of a severe pain flare**](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/), or before or after a surgery. During such moments, you might feel like you're a burden to others, [**engage in negative self-talk**](https://achronicvoice.com/stories-we-tell-ourselves-prisons-freedom/), or reinforce defeating thoughts. The [**mind and body are connected**](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/), after all. What are your strategies to deal with such rumination? You may also be experiencing a high level of [**stress from work**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/), relationship, family, or some other issue. This often leads to anxiety and/or insomnia, as your mind plays the problem on repeat. Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don't Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [The Subtle Difference Between Saying “Think Positive” and “Stay Positive” to Someone with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/difference-think-positive-stay-positive-chronic-pain/) - [To Live with Chronic Illness is to Learn to Live with Maybes](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-maybes/) - [September 2017: Resisting the Urge to Stress Myself Out Unnecessarily & Supporting the Supporters](https://achronicvoice.com/resisting-stress-supporting-supporters-september-2017/) ### 3\. Humbling Modern society tends to be ego-focused and productivity driven, where a lot of one's identity and self-esteem are tied to their career, possessions, and such. Chronic illness and/or disability can be a humbling experience, because [**you realise just how fragile human beings are**](https://achronicvoice.com/what-neverending-pain-reveals/), and [**how life can change so quickly**](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/). You could also be experiencing other humbling moments that are not health-related. Having said that, the word 'humbling' has a lot of positive connotations too; for example, experiencing the grandness of nature could leave you in awe and humbled. Or you could feel humbled by other nice human beings who go out of their way to make the lives of others better, when they really do not need to do so (R.I.P. Dolly Parton 😔) Read Related Posts: - [Are You a Capable Person? What Does That Even Mean?](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) - [Why Humility is the Best Tool for Advocacy](https://achronicvoice.com/humility-advocacy/) - [March 2019: Epic Fail and Redefining Success](https://achronicvoice.com/epic-fail-redefining-success-march-2019/) - [Kick Ass With Kindness and a Sweet Cherry on Top](https://achronicvoice.com/kick-ass-with-kindness/) - [April 2018: Marvelling at the Miracle of Life & Splurging for My Birthday](https://achronicvoice.com/marvelling-miracle-of-life-splurging-birthday-april-2018/) ### 4\. Valuing Apart from the association with financial assessments, "valuing" could also be related to appreciation and gratitude for certain people, circumstances, moments, systems, and more. Alternatively, feel free to use this prompt to share more about values you hold dear, and [**how they help you thrive despite chronic illness**](https://achronicvoice.com/value-gratitude/) or disability. Read Related Posts: - [Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [10 Very Normal Things I am Grateful I Can Do](https://achronicvoice.com/normal-things-grateful-i-can-do/) - [Timeless Duties Toward Life Every New Year](https://achronicvoice.com/new-year-duties-life/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) ### 5\. Reclaiming You could be working towards [**reclaiming a certain aspect of your sense of self or identity**](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/), such as self-esteem or self-worth, self-confidence, or character trait. Or you could be [**attempting to reclaim a state of health**](https://achronicvoice.com/discovering-gut-health-old-friendships-november-2017/) and well-being. You could also be reclaiming a physical possession, [**reclaiming certain boundaries**](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/), rights, and more. (I don't think any of us here have the power or resources to reclaim any land, but if you do — it would be very interesting to hear about it 😆) Read Related Posts: - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness and Pain Can Coexist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [February 2018: Adapting to the Ebb & Flow of Chronic Pain and Depression](https://achronicvoice.com/adapting-ebb-flow-chronic-pain-depression-february-2018/) - [May 2019: Investigating Chronic Pain Levels Post-Dengue Fever](https://achronicvoice.com/may-2019-investigating-chronic-pain-post-dengue-fever/) - [Finding Your Self Behind the Illness (Your Story Isn't Over Yet)](https://achronicvoice.com/finding-self-behind-illness/) ## Join Us in the 2026 September Writing Prompts Here Do you have thoughts to any of the writing prompts above? I truly hope to hear from you, and am eager to read what you have to say! You can [**read** **past linkup entries here**](https://achronicvoice.com/diary-entries/) for inspiration or ideas on how or what to write about. Feel free to write in whatever style or form suits you, however. These writing prompts are meant to be a relaxing and cathartic community activity, after all. Happy writing and sharing! You are invited to the **Inlinkz** link party! [Click here to enter](https://fresh.inlinkz.com/p/d48fd8e85e7c456ab0b3821a5a8c203d) [Direct Link to Linkup (if widget isn't working)](https://fresh.inlinkz.com/party/d48fd8e85e7c456ab0b3821a5a8c203d) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Community & Writing Boards: ![September Prompts: Asking, Overthinking, Humbling, Valuing, and Reclaiming. 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(11 People Share About Their Last Pain-free Day) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/does-chronic-pain-go-away-last-pain-free-day/ Last updated: 2026-08-12T14:18:30.000Z ## Does Chronic Pain Go Away, or is It Here to Stay? I have never been asked by a healthy person if I’ve ever experienced a pain-free day, most likely because [**the idea is** **incomprehensible to them**](https://achronicvoice.com/we-shouldnt-expect-people-to-understand/). Yet, if you have lived with chronic illness for some time, then you know the answer to the question, “does chronic pain go away?”. The answer is a hard “no”. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Community Roundup Boards: ![Does Chronic Pain Go Away? Gain more insight into chronic illness, as 11 people share about the last pain-free day they had. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/does-chronic-pain-go-away-insight-chronic-illness-people-last-pain-free-day.jpg) ## What is It Like to Experience Pain on a Daily Basis? The irony is that people who live with chronic pain have no idea themselves as to what the following day will be like, so they can’t quite tell you with precision. Just like anyone else, they may have a to-do list, jobs to complete, errands to run, and people to love, but a pain flare has a way of forcing everything else to be downgraded to a non-priority status. The anticipation of pain can be even more exhausting than the experience of pain itself at times, because [**unpredictability messes with your psyche**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) and physiology. You are constantly bracing yourself for a potential attack, and running scenarios in your head of how you'd react [**should a pain flare truly strike**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/). Anyone who has suffered a massive flare-up of their chronic illness before is [always left a little traumatised](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1526590021002297) (Gasperi et al., 2021). Read Related Posts: - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) - [Men with Fibromyalgia & the Unique Challenges They Face](https://achronicvoice.com/men-with-fibromyalgia-unique-challenges/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) ## The Incomprehensibility & Dilution of “Chronic” in “Chronic Pain” Most people have heard of the word ‘chronic’, and from what I understand, it’s a pretty common term in Gen-Z lingo as well. I actually first heard the term “[chronically online](https://www.vice.com/en/article/were-all-chronically-online-now/)” when [**I returned to school**](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/), and started hanging out with people half my age. In brief, the term refers to a person being so entrenched in social media or online culture, that it starts to affect their way of thinking and behaving. In that sense, I feel like the word “chronic” in “chronic pain” or “chronic illness” has become a little diluted. Not only is it associated with something bad, but it also implies an alterable predicament. ## The Solidarity Found in the Chronic Pain Community Whilst every person who lives with chronic illness experiences pain differently, we all know just how bad chronic pain can be. There is solidarity in that knowledge; I often speak with [**my chronically ill friends online**](https://www.achronicvoice.com/2020/10/21/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) who live with very different diseases than my own, yet we have empathy for one another because we are actually able to comprehend what it means to live with [**unbearable pain**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-bearable-not/) — the sort that is indescribable with words. ### An Attempt to Illustrate What Chronic Pain is Like Metaphors are a wonderful aid for imagination, which is quite necessary if you are a healthy person who’s trying to understand what chronic pain is like. Apart from metaphors, actual lived experiences and stories may strike a chord — which emphasises the [**importance of sharing your own experiences if you live with chronic pain**](https://achronicvoice.com/humility-advocacy/). Every voice counts, and helps to paint a clearer picture. In the roundup below, 11 chronically ill people share insights into the last pain-free day they had. Combined, I hope that they help to raise awareness on just how ‘chronic’ chronic pain truly is. Should you have more questions, feel free to ask openly in the comments section at the end of the post — I promise to answer as best as I can, as long as they are constructive (and others in the chronic illness community may chime in as well!). Read Related Posts: - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [How Many Times Can You Hit Rock Bottom with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/rock-bottom/) Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Disability Boards: ![An Attempt to Illustrate What Chronic Pain is Like — 11 people answer the question: “when was the last pain-free day you had?”. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/attempt-illustrate-what-chronic-pain-is-like-answer-question-last-pain-free-day.jpg) ## Does Chronic Pain Go Away? — 11 People Share Their Thoughts About Their Last Pain-free Day ### 1\. Eric **Do You Remember When Your Last Pain-free Day was?** Beginning of December, 2021. **What Do You Remember About It?** I didn't think about pain. **Do You Think There was a Reason That You Had That Pain-Free Day?** Before my conditions started showing symptoms. **What's Your Baseline Level of Pain on a Daily Basis?** 6. --- ### 2\. Kate [ ](https://katethealmostgreat.com/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/katethealmostgreat) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/katethealmostgreat/) [ ](https://bsky.app/profile/katethealmostgreat.bsky.social) **Do You Remember When Your Last Pain-free Day was?** No. **What's Your Baseline Level of Pain on a Daily Basis?** I start the day at a 4, and I generally spend most of the day at a 6. --- ### 3\. April Smith [ ](https://www.thethrivingspoonie.com/) [ ](https://bsky.app/profile/thethrivingspoonie.com) **Do You Remember When Your Last Pain-free Day was?** Not really, it was so long ago and they are so rare! **What Do You Remember About It?** I remember being happy to be able to do the simple things without pain for a change: walking my dog, showering, chores. I also remember feeling like I was waiting for the other shoe to drop - that the pain would come back any minute, so I felt like I couldn't really enjoy being pain-free. **Do You Think There was a Reason That You Had That Pain-Free Day?** I'm not sure of this exact day, so it's hard to say. But generally, [**my symptoms are affected by the weather and stress**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/), so I'd say that these two things being low-impact that day probably helped me feel better. **What's Your Baseline Level of Pain on a Daily Basis?** Somewhere between a 2-4\. This means that the pain may just seem like background noise, and I can ignore it sometimes, or it's more front-of-mind but I can still function mostly normally. --- ### 4\. Rhiann [ ](https://www.facebook.com/MyBrainLesionAndMe) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/serenebutterfly) [ ](https://x.com/serenebutterfly) [ ](https://bsky.app/profile/serenebutterfly.bsky.social) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/serenebutterfly/) **Do You Remember When Your Last Pain-free Day was?** This is such a thought-provoking question, for me I cannot remember when that would have even been. In one of my older blog posts, I wrote “Not being in pain seems so far removed from my reality that it feels like it only exists in fairy tales” and it’s true because every day for me pain is there. Some days are better than others but pain is always there. **What's Your Baseline Level of Pain on a Daily Basis?** I would say my pain is usually between 6 and 7\. On my worst days it is around an 8\. There have been days when it’s been a solid 10 and those are the days when I’m physically sick with the pain. --- ### 5\. seeking serenity and harmony [ ](https://seekingserenityandharmony.com/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/groups/serenityandharmonyhub) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/seekingserenityandharmony/) **Do You Remember When Your Last Pain-free Day was?** No. **What Do You Remember About It?** Can't remember when the last pain free day was. **Do You Think There was a Reason That You Had That Pain-Free Day?** If there was a day it would be a combo of meds/weather and balance of activity (not using more spoons than I have). **What's Your Baseline Level of Pain on a Daily Basis?** 4. --- ### 6\. mohikan22 **Do You Remember When Your Last Pain-free Day was?** To be honest I don't. I remember I had one that's about it. **What Do You Remember About It?** I remember being able to [**walk around with the grandchildren**](https://achronicvoice.com/carole-griffitts-chronically-ill-grandmother-modern/) and take a photoshoot that day. **Do You Think There was a Reason That You Had That Pain-Free Day?** Nothing had changed medication wise, possibly the weather as it was a calm average day. Not hot, not cold, not raining. **What's Your Baseline Level of Pain on a Daily Basis?** 7/10. --- ### 7\. Beverley Butterfly [ ](https://www.bloomingmindfulness.co.uk/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/beverleybutterflyxx/) [ ](https://uk.pinterest.com/BloomingMindfulness/) **Do You Remember When Your Last Pain-free Day was?** Not pain free but I have had days where it is a lot less or almost nothing. **What Do You Remember About It?** That I could walk without my aid much easier, and I could think clearer. **Do You Think There was a Reason That You Had That Pain-Free Day?** It was a warm, not hot, and dry day. **What's Your Baseline Level of Pain on a Daily Basis?** Daily out of ten, I am usually around a three or four. --- ### 8\. mtm **Do You Remember When Your Last Pain-free Day was?** 2 months ago. **What Do You Remember About It?** I was confused, then relieved, then concerned, and cycled through that for the rest of the day. Nothing was different, my meds hadn't changed, and my activity level is consistent every day, so it was very, very bizarre. I remember [**sleeping better than I had in years**](https://achronicvoice.com/floatation-therapy-chronic-pain/) that day. **Do You Think There was a Reason That You Had That Pain-Free Day?** No idea why. **What's Your Baseline Level of Pain on a Daily Basis?** On the 10 scale, it starts at a 5/6 and goes up from there. Usually sits at a high 7 [**by the time I get home from work**](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/). If I've been traveling it sits at a high 7 most of the day. --- ### 9\. LaffingKat [ ](https://bsky.app/profile/laffingkat.bsky.social) **Do You Remember When Your Last Pain-free Day was?** No. **What Do You Remember About It?** Nothing. Since I have had chronic pain for decades, I don't remember what it was like to be pain-free, although I know I [**had more energy and more freedom**](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/) in what I could do. **What's Your Baseline Level of Pain on a Daily Basis?** Usually a 3 or 4 out of 10 on a good day. --- ### 10\. MrsBot [ ](https://mrsbot.substack.com/) **Do You Remember When Your Last Pain-free Day was?** Jan 2023 (before diagnosis). **What Do You Remember About It?** I was able to do a Peloton workout and activities with my kids easily. **Do You Think There was a Reason That You Had That Pain-Free Day?** It was the day before I woke up with severe joint swelling and pain. **What's Your Baseline Level of Pain on a Daily Basis?** 5 (now that I've found a [**biologic**](https://achronicvoice.com/anaphylaxis-rituximab/) that helps). --- ### 11\. Sheryl Chan [ ](https://www.facebook.com/achronicvoice) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/achronicvoice/) [ ](https://x.com/AChVoice) [ ](https://bsky.app/profile/achronicvoice.com) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/achronicvoice/blog-posts-on-a-chronic-voice/) [ ](https://www.youtube.com/@sicklessons) [ ](https://www.linkedin.com/in/sherylchan/) **Do You Remember When Your Last Pain-free Day was?** Yes; I think I remember quite precisely, because it was an anomaly. I was staying in Berlin for 3 months with my ex, [**back in the beginning of 2020**](https://achronicvoice.com/hello-2020-bubble-glitter-dont-pop/). **What Do You Remember About It?** We actually had had a night out at his friend’s place, playing board games, and having home made pies and wine (it was also [**where I tested the Pure Wine wands**](https://achronicvoice.com/drink-pure-wine-review/)!). So, I had expected to pay for that in terms of a pain flare the following day. Instead, I had a pain-free day, which was most quizzical because not only did that not happen, but my daily pain levels even got negated. **Do You Think There was a Reason That You Had That Pain-Free Day?** Perhaps a combination of laughter, feel-good hormones, and the [**cold winter air**](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-advocacy/) which was rare for me to experience. If there was a cause, I don’t think it was one, but multiple contributors. **What's Your Baseline Level of Pain on a Daily Basis?** It swings quite wildly for me — from two to seven. More than chronic pain itself, there is chronic fatigue and brain fog to contend with, which I [**actually find worse than the pain itself**](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/), as there’s nothing you can do about those except to let time do its thing. --- ## In Conclusion — A Pain-free Day is Quite Abstract to Those with Chronic Illness As you can see, many of the participants in this mini survey do not remember what it’s like to live with zero pain. It’s an incomprehensible concept in our world. There is *at least* one tiny body part that’s hurting at the bare minimum. Weather seems to play a huge role as well, no matter what the research says (or has yet to discover). ### Our Lives are Still Worth Something, Even if Chronic Pain Never Goes Away Whilst there were only 11 participants in this mini survey, I am fairly confident that if you approach anyone with a chronic illness and asked them, “does chronic pain go away?”, their answer would be a “no”. Having said that, life with chronic illness isn’t all doom and gloom — believe it or not, there are still [**pockets of joy to be found within the pain and suffering**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/). These moments may not be long-lasting, but they are certainly etched into our memories more deeply. ### Some Encouragement if You're Suffering Today If you’re having a particularly bad day, here are [**seven reminders to keep you going**](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/). Some days I [**choose to let it all go**](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) and just sit through the depression and emotions. On other days I choose to [**keep going on autopilot**](https://achronicvoice.com/give-your-best-even-when-feeling-depressed/) like a zombie, just because I can still do so. Yet on other days, I choose to fight back and make a mark on my life. I believe that context, circumstances, and the resources we have on hand — be they [**physical, mental, emotional, moral, spiritual**](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/), or something else — fluctuates on a daily basis, just like chronic pain. And that adaptation is the best way to not only survive, but to [**make some meaning out of life with chronic illness**](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/). Here’s wishing you a good day (or [**one that will come soon**](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/)!). I am personally recovering from a minor surgery at present, so for me, I’ll just sit with that for a bit until the pain dials back down again 🙂 ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! 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Read Related Posts: - [The Chronic Pain Cycle & How to Break It (Top Tips From an Occupational Therapist)](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [Tell Me You're Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You're Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [How to Rewire the Brain to Manage Chronic Pain (& Resources to Help)](https://achronicvoice.com/rewire-brain-manage-chronic-pain/) - [The Value in Seeking Out Moments of Gratitude (and How to do it)](https://achronicvoice.com/value-gratitude/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Health Education Boards: ![11 People Share About Their Last Pain-free Day. Does Chronic Pain Go Away? Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/11-people-share-last-pain-free-day-does-chronic-pain-go-away.jpg) ### References: - Gasperi, M., Afari, N., Goldberg, J., Suri, P., & Panizzon, M. S. (2021). Pain and Trauma: The Role of Criterion A Trauma and Stressful Life Events in the Pain and PTSD Relationship. *The Journal of Pain, 22*(11), 1506–1517\. ### Treatment for AIN 3 — My Experience with Imiquimod & Anal Excision URL: https://achronicvoice.com/treatment-for-ain-3-my-experience-imiquimod-anal-excision/ Last updated: 2026-08-02T16:51:00.000Z At risk of turning this into a research-based article again, I am putting this note up front to remind myself to keep it as personal as I can, as part of the [**August 2026 Writing Prompts**](https://achronicvoice.com/august-writing-prompts-chronic-illness-disabilities-2026/) 😉 I will be sharing more about treatment for AIN 3 (Anal Intraepithelial Neoplasia 3) and my experiences with it, namely with Imiquimod and anal excision. Do note that this article contains a lot of info about poop, so if that grosses you out — then you need to read more about it, because it’s just a normal human bodily function that’s essential in keeping you alive and healthy 😉 Right, now on to the fun bits 😛 [Join Us in the August 2026 Linkup Here](https://achronicvoice.com/august-writing-prompts-chronic-illness-disabilities-2026/) *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Treatment for AIN 3 & Surgery Boards: ![Treatment for AIN 3 — My Experience with Imiquimod and Anal Excision. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/treatment-for-ain-3-my-experience-imiquimod-anal-excision.jpg) ## What is AIN 3? — A Brief Overview To put it in the simplest of terms, AIN are pre-cancerous cells in the anal region. According to the Anal Cancer Foundation, “anal precancers (also known as [Anal Intraepithelial Neoplasia or AIN](https://www.analcancerfoundation.org/what-is-anal-cancer/anal-pre-cancer/)) are growths and/or changes in the skin cells in the anal region”. There are various grades of AIN, ranging from one to three; grade three is the stage just before anal cancer. AIN is mostly caused by HPV (human papillomavirus). I recall being advised against taking the HPV vaccine when I was a teenager, due to the doctor’s concerns about blood clots or bleeding, as [**I have Antiphospholipid Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) (a blood clotting autoimmune disorder). I regret that decision to not take it back then, as I am taking the vaccine now anyway (more about that in a bit). Then again, back in those days the HPV vaccine wasn't as advanced as it is now, so I guess it is what it is. Read Related Posts: - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Latest Research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [COVID-19 Vaccine Experiences from People with Chronic Conditions](https://achronicvoice.com/covid-19-vaccine-experiences/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) ## A Few Brief Notes About HPV — the Culprit of AIN 3 - HPV is not only one virus — there are in fact, [more than *200 types* of HPV](https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/human-papilloma-virus-and-cancer). - [Up to 85% of the human population would have had an HPV infection](https://www.cdc.gov/hpv/hcp/clinical-overview/index.html) in their lifetime, with many people not even knowing that they have it. - For [90% of people](https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/human-papilloma-virus-and-cancer), the body fends off the infection on its own, so I guess I’m just that unlucky immunocompromised girl. - There are [12 high-risk HPV strains which can lead to cancer](https://www.cancer.gov/about-cancer/causes-prevention/risk/infectious-agents/hpv-and-cancer). - The types of cancers that you can get include: anal, cervical, oropharyngeal (throat), penile, vaginal, and vulvar. - [HPV16 and HPV18 alone contribute to 70% of cervical cancer](https://www.cancer.gov/types/cervical/causes-risk-prevention) cases globally. ### How Do They Test for HPV? During a [pap smear (Papanicolaou test)](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diagnostics/4267-pap-smear), your gynaecologist will take cell samples from your cervix to check for cell changes. This is different from an HPV test, which is used to specifically check for the HPV virus. However, these are often done together as co-tests. It is essential for females with a cervix to get their pap smears done regularly in order to catch early signs of cervical cancer. According to Crifase and Parker (2025) and the Cleveland Clinic (2024a), the current [guidelines for pap smear and HPV tests](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK470165/) are: - Females between 21 to 29 years old: every 3 years. - Females between 30 to 65 years old: every 3 years. If done as a pap smear and HPV co-test, then every 5 years. - Females older than 65 years of age: Not necessary if you’ve never had abnormalities in your cervical screenings or cervical cancer, and if you’ve had three consecutive pap smear tests in the past 10 years that were unremarkable (yes, that’s a good thing in medical terms!). ### The HPV Vaccine Can Still be Helpful Even if You’re Already Infected I took my first dose of the HPV vaccine before the surgery, even though I already have a few of the HPV strains. Ironically, I don’t have HPV 16 or 18, which are the [two most dangerous strains in terms of cancer risk](https://ejgo.org/DOIx.php?id=10.3802/jgo.2024.35.e72) (Cho et al., 2024). It says ‘others’ in my report. Anyway, according to both my gynaecologist and infectious disease doctor, the HPV vaccine may still confer some benefits. What it can still do, despite already being infected, is to [aid the body in its fight against the viruses](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5006801/), [prevent other variants from taking hold](https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-025-92861-5), and/or prevent the same type of reinfection post surgery (Pruski et al., 2025a; Scherer et al., 2016). In some patients, [remission has been observed](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12568279/) as well, especially if they are younger in age (Pruski et al., 2025b). #### Types of HPV Vaccinations Note that there are a few different types of HPV vaccines; each of them cover different strains (always HPV16 and HPV18, then other strains as well according to risk). In the two studies done by Pruski et al. (2025a; 2025b), the latest HPV vaccination, Gardasil-9, was used. The ‘9’ indicates that it is a nine-valent vaccine, meaning that it protects against nine types of HPV strains. #### HPV Vaccinations in Singapore [In Singapore, two types of HPV vaccinations are available](https://vaccine.gov.sg/hpv) — HPV2 (Cervarix), and HPV9 (Gardasil-9). The former is available to all females, and the latter to both males and females. Cervarix is offered to all Secondary 1 and 2 students as part of school-based vaccinations, and free for females up to 17 years of age — so don’t miss out on it. You certainly don’t want your anus, cervix or vulva burned and sliced up like mine. Do note that whilst Cervarix is subsidised, you need to pay out-of-pocket for Gardasil-9\. I would totally recommend going with Gardasil-9 though, as it protects you from another 20% of cancer-causing HPV strains. Read Related Posts: - [Invisible in Singapore: What's It Like to Live Here with Chronic Illnesses?](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/) - [What's it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - [Pregnancy, Miscarriage & Women's Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [A Hurried Return, but Chronic Illness's Opening Hours Remain Unchanged](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-opening-hours/) - [When Your Stress & Fatigue Thresholds Suck (Also on Cute Cockatiels, Education via Zoom & Art Films for Rent)](https://achronicvoice.com/stress-fatigue-thresholds-suck/) Pin to Your Sexual Health & Health Education Boards: ![Must Knows About HPV (the Human Papillomavirus). Learn more on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/must-knows-about-hpv-human-papillomavirus.jpg) ## My Symptoms for AIN 3 For me, it started out as a small growth in the anal area.I had assumed it was just a haemorrhoid or scarring from it, as I get them quite frequently due to thin, fragile skin from [**long-term steroid medications**](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) used to control [**my autoimmune diseases**](https://achronicvoice.com/about/). My anal skin is able to tear from a simple bowel movement, so I apply medication ([Rectogesic / glyceryl trinitrate 0.2% w/w](https://www.ndf.gov.sg/about-drugs/product-information/sin12240p/)) on the [anal fissures](https://www.nuh.com.sg/health-resources/diseases-and-conditions/anal-fissures) almost every day, as it’s a non-stop ripping affair. My sexy life. During [**my oesophageal surgery last June 2025**](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/), the upper gastrointestinal surgeon took a biopsy of the lump, since I was passed out from the general anaesthesia anyway. The bad news was, it did indeed turn out to be something more sinister. ### I Also Needed Surgery for CIN 3 & VIN 3 Previously — Which are All Related to HPV [CIN 3](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/15678-cervical-intraepithelial-neoplasia-cin) stands for “Cervical Intraepithelial Neoplasia Grade 3”, which is like AIN 3, but in the cervix instead. [VIN 3](https://www.cancerresearchuk.org/about-cancer/vulval-cancer/vulval-intraepithelial-neoplasia) stands for “Vulvar Intraepithelial Neoplasia Grade 3", which occurs on the vulva. I had laser surgery done about a decade or so ago to burn those precancerous cells away, and the surgeon did a fantastic job. The skin healed up with minimal scarring, which was my biggest fear. Now, they are returning as grade 1 again, so it’s a matter of watching and waiting. And if you were wondering — yes, getting skin lasered off your vulva hurts. I remember squatting by the bed to work for weeks, as that was the only comfortable position. Tip: pouring water whilst peeing helps a lot (pee is slightly acidic, after all). Probably the same sort of advice as for postpartum women, really. It’s important to get your pap smears and related tests done to detect these pre-cancerous cells early on. My oncology gynaecologist also examines my vulval and cervical surfaces for any changes in the skin on a regular basis — such as strange lumps or discoloration. ## Types of Treatment for AIN 3 There are a few types of surgeries that can be used as treatment for AIN 3\. According to Weis (2013), these are the [treatment options for AIN 3](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3684220/), which are still mostly relevant up to date (also see: [Benson et al., 2023](https://jnccn.org/view/journals/jnccn/21/6/article-p653.xml)): - Surgical excision (cutting out/removing infected areas) - Infrared coagulation ablation - HRA (high-resolution anoscopy)-guided electrocautery ablation - CO2 laser fulguration - Topicals (fluorouracil or imiquimod creams) - Topical trichloroacetic acid and bichloroacetic acid (cytotoxic therapies) For me, they decided that anal excision would be most suitable, I’m guessing due to the location, manifestations, and type of cells I had. Before that, we also tried the topical, Imiquimod. ### My Experience with Imiquimod, a Non-invasive Treatment for AIN 3 Imiquimod is an [immune response modifier](https://www.clfoundation.org/imiquimod) that is [used to treat conditions](https://www.bad.org.uk/pils/imiquimod-cream) such as warts, actinic keratosis, and in my case, AIN. It works by stimulating the immune system in response to these conditions, with the hope that the AIN reduces in grade severity. It comes in the form of a cream in single dose packs, and I had to apply it 3 times a week, before giving the skin a break; it is a harsh medication, after all. For me, the side effects were bad itching, and some soreness. But what was most annoying about Imiquimod is that you can’t apply more of it should you need to use the bathroom again after that. The advice is to use it before bedtime, but the problem is that I not only am an insomniac, but I have [**gastrointestinal issues ever since the oesophageal surgery**](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/). So that means that many of my nights are spent interrupted by vomiting or diarrhoeal episodes. Anyway, I tried my best to keep the cream in place until 8 hours later, when you should wash it off. #### Sad to Say, Imiquimod Didn’t Work for Me There was no harm in trying Imiquimod for me [even though it might have stimulated my autoimmune diseases](https://www.mayoclinic.org/drugs-supplements/imiquimod-topical-route/description/drg-20067474) because it’s non-invasive, which is considerably much better than needing to do any surgery at all. Sad to say, it didn’t seem to do much, and my AIN remained as AIN 3. Another issue when it comes to dealing with AIN 3 is that it’s a rather ‘grey zone’ diagnosis, especially since I do not know what HPV strains I have, and all the specific locations they’re at. As a patient, you can either choose to watch and wait, or do preventative surgery. In the words of my surgeon, “if we do go ahead with the surgery, it would be like going in blind”. However, she also told me that I would need a stoma bag for life in the worst case scenario — that is the main issue I wanted to avoid, so I decided to go ahead with the surgery. I really don’t need more permanent health issues piling up — I have enough from head to toe as it stands. ## Preparing for Anal Excision Surgery As someone who lives with Antiphospholipid Syndrome, I need to [**bridge from warfarin to low molecular weight heparin**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) (LMWH) / Clexane before and after any surgery, no matter how minor it might be. Otherwise, I run the risk of clotting or bleeding, or both. Apart from that, I also needed to attend a pre-op assessment. During this assessment, the [**doctors and anaesthetists**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) run through your medications with you to see if any of them need to be paused for the surgery (these are often immunosuppressants, for fear of infections). Since it was a ‘minor’ operation, I had to take all my medications as per usual, except for my emergency verapamil (for PSVT / arrhythmia). Nurses will also explain to you how to wash yourself just before the surgery, which includes a disinfecting shower gel, and a [fleet enema](https://www.fleetlabs.com/constipation-relief-products/enemas/fleet-saline-enema) (saline laxative) to clear out your bowels on the same day itself. ### A Horrible Pre-op Experience with Clueless Staff at SGH My experience with the pre-op team was horrible. They were *so* disorganised, and the junior anaesthetist did not even know how to bridge the warfarin to Clexane properly. My nurse from my regular hospital had to talk to her over the phone. In addition, she was wearing her lanyard with her name tag tossed behind her back, until I insisted on writing down her name. Very unprofessional. Over the years, I must say that my tolerance for incompetent medical staff has become extremely limited. Yes, I am becoming *that* cranky middle-aged, jaded patient. When I went to collect my medications at the pharmacist later, I had to go home empty-handed after waiting for 1.5 hours, because apparently the prescription wasn't correct. ## What is Anal Excision Surgery for AIN 3 Like? The surgery was planned to last for 2h 45mins. The nurse who checked me in at the same-day admission centre confiscated my mobile phone and gave it to my parents, as she said that I couldn’t bring it in. However, *every* other patient in the waiting area was on their phones when I went in. It was ‘lucky’ that I was extremely exhausted, and spent the 2 – 3 hour wait time dozing off in a cold, hard chair. Otherwise, I would just have been sat on my ass doing absolutely nothing. I didn’t even have any paper to write on, or scribble or doodle. When they finally came for me, the anaesthetist in charge told me that she had read my file, and noted that I was a high-risk patient (nothing new). She also warned me that I should not get any other surgeries done after this, until I had done the open heart surgery to fix my mitral valve stenosis. This is because general anaesthesia can cause heart rhythm problems, and [**I already have PSVT**](https://achronicvoice.com/heart-rhythm-disorder/), combined with a heart valve disease. She also inserted an arterial line into my wrist to monitor my blood pressure, so she could react more immediately if she needed to mid-op. I liked her a lot, as she seemed to know what she was saying and doing, was willing to explain procedures, and patient with other staff on the operating team as well. ### An Invalidating Experience with My Surgeon However, I never saw my surgeon at all; she came into the operating theatre only after I had passed out from the GA. When I was supposed to see her in the clinic two weeks later, she handed me off to her colleague instead as well. I will be changing doctors after this, as I find this **invalidating**,and an unacceptable level of patient care. I have many questions to ask, I am in horrible pain, and I need some level of accountability on their end. ### The Complications for *Any* Surgery Due to My Chronic Illnesses & Heart Diseases Whilst anal excision for AIN 3 is normally a day surgery, I was kept under observation for a night as the anaesthetist was worried that my heart rhythm might go haywire. Thankfully, it was okay, even though the nurses weren’t very helpful at all. I kept wetting the bed as they had injected a numbing anaesthesia to my entire anal and vulval area. They wouldn’t let me use a commode as my blood pressure was too low — but really it was my personal normal, which is in the 90s range. I was frustrated and snappy — just let me pee so I don't wet the bed and need to sleep on it, damnit. I think fundamentally what I was most upset about was them not trusting that I know my own body well enough. Read Related Posts: - [My Second Brush with Death: A Broken Heart (Literally)](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [After Surgery Care at Home: Hygiene Resources](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/) - [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/) - [Wound Care & What to Wear After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery/) Pin to Your Surgery & Chronic Illness Boards: ![What is Anal Excision Surgery for AIN 3 Like? Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/what-anal-excision-surgery-ain3-like.jpg) ## Confined to Bed Rest the First Week After Surgery — with Lots of Blood, Sweat & Poop Just like with my oesophageal surgery, the surgeon hadn’t warned me of the full range of possible side effects post-operation. She had only said I might get strictures and tissue scarring, I’m guessing as long-term issues from the surgery. But gosh, the short-term side effect of faecal incontinence was the worst, as I couldn’t holdanything in at all. I was basically leaking poop 24/7, and had to constantly clean up after myself even in the middle of the night, in a mess, and in pain. The prophylactic antibiotics were necessary, but contributed to the diarrheal effect as well. They were also a higher dosage than what I was used to, so it was pretty much just trying to survive with lots of electrolytes the first week (and pad changing). In addition, my period came a day after the surgery (it seems to have a knack for showing up at the worst times all the time). So it was all a bloody mess, quite literally. ## The Second Week was No Less Draining — Perhaps Even More so The second week was no better. The faecal incontinence was just as bad, even after the course of antibiotics had ended. In fact, it might have been worse as I had become malnourished and severely fatigued from the endless loss of fluids and [**lack of sleep**](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/). My INR wasn’t going up, which indicated that [**nutrients from food were probably not being absorbed in the gut**](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/), and the blood thinners weren’t having an effect. I [**needed to be pushed around in a wheelchair**](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) when I went for other medical appointments, as I had become too weak to even walk. I felt **drained** and wouldn’t have been surprised if I looked ghastly pale, as that was how I felt on the inside, too. And of course, I had to go clean up in the bathroom outside too, as the faecal incontinence doesn’t care where you are, or how inconvenient it may be. Luckily, I had packed a ton of wet wipes, sprays, and creams. Read Related Posts: - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body ](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits) ](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) ## Anchoring Rituals to Help with Healing & Restoring Balance Even though I was in a rather weakened state, I decided to go for [**my lymphatic drainage appointment**](https://achronicvoice.com/nourish-naturally-skin-care-tips/) a bit after two weeks. I just thought that it might be healing for my body, even though I had to drag myself there with my trusty walking stick. The night after the lymphatic drainage was actually the first time since the surgery that I started to feel a little better, so I suppose it did make a difference. Out of all the physical therapies I’ve tried, I’ve found [lymphatic drainage to be one of the most helpful](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/21768-lymphatic-drainage-massage), despite the gentleness of the strokes. In addition to the lymphatic drainage, my therapist also helped to loosen the knotted up muscles in my face, jaw, and neck. I have TMJ disorder issues and grind my teeth violently at night, so the muscles in my neck are particularly tight. She said that everything in the body is connected, so the orofacial pain can contribute to pain in the lower parts of my body, too. I believe her, as I too believe that everything in the body is interconnected. In fact, I think doctors need to collaborate more across specialisations, and stop viewing the body as ‘clean cut, sliced up parts’. ## In Conclusion to My Experience & Treatment for AIN 3 So there we have it — I had expected the pain, but wasn’t prepared for the torrent of poop, malnourishment, and fatigue linked to it. I do have some baseline level of Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS), but I know that many in the chronic illness community probably experience this on a frequent basis, especially those with conditions such as Irritable Bowel Disease (IBD), Celiac Disease, Crohn’s Disease, gluten intolerance, [**Short Bowel Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/roy-george-dramatic-life-short-bowel/), and more. I have my fingers crossed that the faecal incontinence is temporary. If you live with such issues as well, I would love to hear your best coping or poop management tips in the comments below. If you like, you can also share your funniest, most embarrassing or most painful experiences. Thanks for reading my disgusting entry this month 😉 I’m pooped for now (sorry I just had to 😆). What Happened During Past Augusts: - [August 2019: A Perfect Capture of Life with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/capture-life-with-chronic-illness/) - [August 2018: Boredom Can be Stimulating & Cuddling My Pet Birds](https://achronicvoice.com/boredom-stimulating-cuddling-birds-august-2018/) - [August 2017: Missing a Stable Income & Striving Towards Healthier Habits](https://achronicvoice.com/missing-stable-income-striving-healthier-habits-august-2017/) Read Related Posts: - [“It’s in My Blood”: Sarah Frison — A Pastry Chef with a Stomach Disorder](https://achronicvoice.com/sarah-frison-pastry-chef-stomach-disorder/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Cheyanne Perry — Living a Full Life with Deadly Allergies](https://achronicvoice.com/cheyanne-perry-life-allergies/) - [Dysphagia & Swallowing Problems (and How Oral Vitamin Sprays Can be of Help to You)](https://achronicvoice.com/dysphagia-oral-vitamin-sprays/) - [November 2017: Discovering the Importance of Gut Health & Rediscovering Old Friendships](https://achronicvoice.com/discovering-gut-health-old-friendships-november-2017/) - [Magazine Review: Lucky Peach’s Last Issue, Ever](https://achronicvoice.com/magazine-review-lucky-peach/) Pin to Your Treatment for AIN 3 & Chronic Pain Boards: ![Treatment for AIN 3 — Imiquimod and Anal Excision. Read about my experience with the topical, Imiquimod, and invasive anal excision surgery, for AIN 3, on: A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/treatment-for-ain-3-imiquimod-anal-excision-experience.jpg) ### References: - Anal Cancer Foundation. (n.d.). *Anal intraepithelial neoplasia: Anal precancer (AIN) signs, symptoms & treatment.* Retrieved 1 August 2026, from - Benson, A. B., Venook, A. P., Al-Hawary, M. M., Azad, N., Chen, Y.-J., Ciombor, K. K., Cohen, S., Cooper, H. S., Deming, D., Garrido-Laguna, I., Grem, J. L., Hecht, J. R., Hoffe, S., Hubbard, J., Hunt, S., Hussan, H., Jeck, W., Johung, K. L., Joseph, N., … Stehman, K. (2023). Anal carcinoma, version 2.2023, NCCN clinical practice guidelines in oncology. *Journal of the National Comprehensive Cancer Network, 21*(6), 653–677\. - British Association Of Dermatologists. (2026, February). *Imiquimod cream.* - Cancer Research UK. (2025, August 26). *Vulval intraepithelial neoplasia (VIN).* - Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (2024, July 9). *Clinical overview of HPV.* - Cho, E. H., Park, M.-S., Woo, H.-Y., Park, H., & Kwon, M.-J. (2024). Evaluation of clinical usefulness of HPV-16 and HPV-18 genotyping for cervical cancer screening. *Journal of Gynecologic Oncology, 35*(6). - Cleveland Clinic. (2024a, August 19). *Pap smear.* - Cleveland Clinic. (2024b, September 19). *Lymphatic drainage massage.* - Cleveland Clinic. (2025, June 4). *Cervical dysplasia.* - Crifase, C., & Parker, J. (2025, June 22). *Preventing cervical cancer: Best practices in pap and HPV testing.* In *StatPearls*. StatPearls Publishing. - Cutaneous Lymphoma Foundation. (n.d.). *Imiquimod.* Retrieved 1 August 2026, from - Mayo Clinic. (2026, February 1). *Imiquimod (topical route).* - Ministry of Health Singapore. (n.d.). *Protect yourself against cervical cancer.* Retrieved 31 July 2026, from - National Cancer Institute. (2024, August 2). *Cervical cancer causes, risk factors, and prevention.* - National Cancer Institute. (2025, May 9). *HPV and cancer.* - National University Hospital. (2024, May 16). *Anal fissures.* - Pruski, D., Millert-Kalińska, S., Jach, R., & Przybylski, M. (2025). Effect of vaccination against HPV in the HPV-positive patients not covered by primary prevention on the disappearance of infection. *Scientific Reports, 15*(1), 12642\. - Pruski, D., Millert-Kalińska, S., Jach, R., Żurawski, J., & Przybylski, M. (2025). Impact of vaccinating adult women who are HPV-positive or with confirmed cervical SIL with the 9-valent vaccine—A systematic review. *Viruses, 17*(10), 1377\. - Scherer, E. M., Smith, R. A., Gallego, D. F., Carter, J. J., Wipf, G. C., Hoyos, M., Stern, M., Thurston, T., Trinklein, N. D., Wald, A., & Galloway, D. A. (2016). A single human papillomavirus vaccine dose improves B cell memory in previously infected subjects. *EBioMedicine, 10*, 55–64\. - Weis, S. E. (2013). Current treatment options for management of anal intraepithelial neoplasia. *OncoTargets and Therapy, 6*, 651–665\. - World Health Organization. (2024, March 5). *Human papillomavirus and cancer.* ### August Writing Prompts for People with Chronic Illness & Disability (2026 Edition) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/august-writing-prompts-chronic-illness-disabilities-2026/ Last updated: 2026-08-29T15:09:54.000Z ## I Can't Believe It's Already Time for the August Writing Prompts! It's so true that the older you get, the faster time flies by. I have also [**been on bed rest after a minor surgery**](https://achronicvoice.com/catch-up-chronic-illness-writing-community-july-2026/), so I guess that doesn't help! Anyway, if you live with a chronic illness or disability, come check out the 2026 August writing prompts, and do join us if you're feeling up to it. We'd love to hear more about your life with chronic illness, how you're coping, and what you'll be up to this month! *\*Disclaimer: This post/linkup is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my/our personal experiences as patient(s). *I/We are not doctors, and nothing in this post or its associated links should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post/linkup may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness Writing Prompts & Linkup Boards: ![August Writing Prompts for People with Chronic Illness and Disability. All are welcome! Get the prompts on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/august-2026-writing-prompts-chronic-illness-disability.jpg) ## What the 2026 August Writing Prompts are About, and How to Participate The writing prompts are a monthly get-together for anyone with a chronic illness, mental illness or disability. An opportunity to share, to listen, and to learn from one another through shared writing prompts. I also think it’s a great way to provide insight into life with chronic pain and disabilities, from many different points of view. You can choose to write about your latest experiences with chronic illness and/or disability, or even turn it into an [evergreen blog post](https://mailchimp.com/resources/evergreen-content/). All you have to do is write a post using **at least three of the writing prompts** listed below, and publish it on your blog, or to a free writing platform such as [Medium](https://medium.com/) or [SubStack](https://substack.com/@achronicvoice) (don't forget to set the post for public viewing!). Then click on the **blue ‘Add Link’ button** in the widget below to add your blog post to this page. Voilà, you’re now part of the linkup party! ## Simple Rules for the 2026 August Writing Prompts - Only **submit one link** per website/blog. - If you choose to participate, do **comment on at least two** other blog posts in this linkup by the end of the month. Return to check at a later date if there aren't enough entries yet. Helping to spread the word on your social media is always appreciated, but not required. - Linkups start on the first of every month. There will be five different writing prompts. It will close at the end of each month before midnight. All timings listed are in [Singapore time](https://www.google.com.sg/search?q=singapore+time&oq=singapore+time&aqs=chrome..69i57j69i60l2j0l3.1041j0j1&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8) (+8 GMT). - Pick **at least three** of the writing prompts to write about. Five is best, of course! - **Insert a link to this post** when you submit your blog entry for auto verification. - Failure to follow these rules might get you blacklisted from future writing prompt linkups. Let's keep it fair for all 🙂 ## August 2026 Awareness Dates Here are a few health events (and more) happening this month, should you feel like talking a bit about them using the August writing prompts. - **World Lung Cancer Day (01 August).** Lung cancer isn't just a "smoker's disease"; according to the Lung Cancer Foundation of America (LCFA), up to [60% of patients are non-smokers](https://lcfamerica.org/get-involved/raise-awareness/honoring-world-lung-cancer-day/), or have quit years ago. Early screening saves lives. - [**Left Handers Day**](https://lefthandersday.com/) **(13 August).** Okay, I'm biased and had to include this one, as I'm a leftie myself. We often advocate for an inclusive society, but I bet most people never notice how lefties cleverly adapt to a predominantly right-handed world rather seamlessly 😉 - [**World Humanitarian Day**](https://www.weforum.org/stories/resilience-peace-and-security/what-is-world-humanitarian-day-un/) **(WHD) (19 August).** WHD honours the sacrifices and dedication of humanitarian workers. They are the ones who step into disaster zones and other dangerous places to help those in great need. The humanitarian system itself is underfunded, and needs more awareness raised. - **International Overdose Awareness Day (IOAD) (31 August).** IOAD is a global campaign to end deaths from overdose, which are largely preventable. The [CDC has an IOAD toolkit here](https://www.cdc.gov/overdose-prevention/php/toolkits/ioad.html) which you can use to help raise awareness together. The following awareness campaigns span the entire month: - [**National Immunisation Awareness Month**](https://www.cdc.gov/vaccines/php/national-immunization-awareness-month/index.html) **(NIAM).** According to the CDC, "NIAM aims to raise awareness about the importance of vaccination across the lifespan to help protect communities from serious diseases". Throughout August, the [American Association of Immunologists](https://www.aai.org/About/National-Immunization-Awareness-Month) (AAI) will also be sharing information and resources you can use to help raise awareness. - [**Psoriasis Action Month**](https://www.psoriasis.org/psoriasis-action-month/)**.** Psoriasis can manifest in different ways on the skin, and no matter which way you look at it — they all look painful. One in three people with psoriasis also have [Psoriatic Arthritis](https://www.papaa.org/resources/learn-about-psoriasis-and-psoriatic-arthritis/just-diagnosed/what-is-psoriatic-arthritis/) (PsA), which is an autoimmune condition. ## Presenting the 2026 August Writing Prompts 🎉 ### 1\. Confining Perhaps you've been confined to bed rest or [**stuck at home**](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) due to chronic pain, chronic fatigue, or don't have anyone to help you travel outside safely. You might also be [**limiting certain things in your diet**](https://achronicvoice.com/self-reminder-listening-to-your-body-june-2018/) or lifestyle, such as your sugar intake, or overzealousness for certain activities. Or perhaps you're [**trying not to go beyond your energy boundaries**](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/) or limitations, and/or ensuring that other people respect them, too. A bit of a cultural tidbit — in Chinese and other Asian cultures, pregnant women also [spend their first postpartum month 'in confinement'](https://www.panda.org.au/articles/traditional-birthing-practices-postnatal-confinement), which is actually a positive thing in this instance. They often hire 'confinement nannies' who help restore them to health with herbal soups, postnatal massages, and other healing practices. Here are some interesting [differences in confinement practices](https://www.healthxchange.sg/pregnancy/postnatal/confinement-dos-donts), between Chinese, Malay, and Indian communities in Singapore. Read Related Posts: - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [What's it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) ### 2\. Draining What's the main activity that's [**draining you of energy**](https://achronicvoice.com/triggers-trigger-triggers-re-stabilisation/) this month? You might find [**certain tasks more draining than others**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) for different reasons on different days. Perhaps certain conversation topics, human behaviours, medical issues, work or life events are sapping you of energy. You could also be [**draining water or liquid in your garden**](https://achronicvoice.com/shannon-giroux-better-home-multiple-sclerosis/), for cooking, or some other household chore. ### 3\. Invalidating Have you been feeling invalidated of late, perhaps in your dealings with uncaring doctors, test results, society in general, or something else? You could also feel that a certain person, manner of speaking, [**treatment or behaviour towards you is invalidating**](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/). Alternatively, it could be the more literal sense of the word, where you're invalidating a document or contract. It could also be logical, where you are disputing a claim, fact, or study/report. ### 4\. Anchoring Do you have daily rituals or goto [**practices that help anchor you**](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) whenever you feel anxious, or are [**huddled up from chronic pain**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/)? You could be anchoring your thoughts or emotions using certain objects, mantras, sensations, people, and more. Oh, and I doubt any of us here are anchoring a boat, but if you actually are — I would *love* to hear about your adventures! ### 5\. Restoring Does your physical or mental health need restoring this month, and how do you plan to go about the [**healing process**](https://achronicvoice.com/road-to-recovery-longest/)? Or perhaps you're trying to restore the appearance of a certain room in your house, trying to restore your car or computer so that it's in tiptop condition, or trying to [**restore a relationship**](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/). You could also be trying to restore a certain body part that might be damaged or decaying, such as your teeth, nails or vision. ## Join Us in the 2026 August Writing Prompts Here I hope that at least a few of these writing prompts stir your creative juices, and I truly do hope to hear from you. Let's aim to increase the participation, and help support one another in this online community space 😊 You can [**read** **past linkup entries here**](https://achronicvoice.com/diary-entries/) for inspiration or ideas on how or what to write about. Feel free to write in whatever style or form suits you, however. These writing prompts are meant to be a relaxing and cathartic community activity, after all. Happy writing and sharing! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. You are invited to the **Inlinkz** link party! [Click here to enter](https://fresh.inlinkz.com/p/ef021e13f9044cea89f5db51bf9255b2) [Direct Link to Linkup (if widget isn't working)](https://fresh.inlinkz.com/p/ef021e13f9044cea89f5db51bf9255b2) Pin to Your Chronic Illness, Disability & Community Boards: ![August Writing Prompts For People with Chronic Illness and Disabilities — Confining, Draining, Delaying, Convincing, and Restoring. Participate at: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/august-writing-prompts-chronic-illness-disabilities-confining-draining-invalidating-anchoring-restoring-list.jpg) ![August Writing Prompts for the chronically ill & disabled — Confining, Draining, Delaying, Convincing, Restoring. Join us at: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/august-writing-prompts-chronic-illness-disabilities-confining-draining-invalidating-anchoring-restoring.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Invisible Cities Linkup: Pros & Cons of Living with Chronic Illness in Your City](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-cities-linkup/) - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does 'Normal' Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) - [29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) - [12 Chronic Illness Bloggers Share Their Top Posts for 2020](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-bloggers-top-posts-2020/) - [#ProjChronicWisdom: Simple Pleasures I Can Enjoy Whilst Stuck in Bed with Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/projchronicwisdom-simple-pleasures-enjoy-pain/) ### A Quick Catch-up with My Chronic Illness Writing Community This July 2026 URL: https://achronicvoice.com/catch-up-chronic-illness-writing-community-july-2026/ Last updated: 2026-07-11T08:02:39.000Z This quick catch-up post is written in response to the 2026 July Writing Prompts — come join our little online writing community for the chronically ill and disabled, too! [View the Writing Prompts for July 2026](https://achronicvoice.com/2026-july-writing-prompts-chronic-illness-disability/) *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Writing Prompts Boards: ![A Quick Catch-up with My Chronic Illness Writing Community This July 2026. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quick-catch-up-with-my-chronic-illness-writing-community-july-2026.jpg) ## A Quick Catch-up Since Our Last Linkup I suppose “**updating**” would be a good word to start with — kind of like a mini catch-up on what and how everyone is doing! A quick catch-up on my end: - [**I had surgery for oesophageal diverticulum**](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) back in June 2025, and it hasn't really settled down since. So I guess the issues I need to deal with have multiplied instead. I just need to find ways to live with a new issue... again. - [**I moved this website from WordPress to Ghost Pro**](https://achronicvoice.com/did-you-know-a-chronic-voice-is-10-years-old/), because I was sick and tired of paying for plugins, and the need to constantly update them. So far, so good, though I'd like to eventually self-host the website. Trying to move towards a $0 model (or as close as is possible) because — you know why 'because'. - I turned 40 in April, and was a little depressed. Is it just me, or did anyone else felt that way when they turned 40? (Or if you're turning 40 soon.) I just feel like it's a big day where people look back to see what they've accomplished in life in terms of career, family, and all that. And I feel like I'm still a young adult [**who will never be allowed to adult**](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/). Right, now onwards to what I will be doing this July 2026, and what I have planned on a longer-term scale! Read Related Posts: - [Grieving the Life That I Will Never Have (Due to Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/grieving-the-life-i-will-never-have-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Life is a Long Process of Becoming Into...](https://achronicvoice.com/life-is-a-long-process-of-becoming-into/) - [Every Next Level of Your Life Will Demand a Different You](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [April 2018: Marvelling at the Miracle of Life & Splurging for My Birthday](https://achronicvoice.com/marvelling-miracle-of-life-splurging-birthday-april-2018/) ## Recommitting to My Studies I have had to take three semesters of leave from my studies, as I had that stupid oesophageal surgery, which opened the gates to a barrage of new health problems. Then, it was a run-on of more 'minor' issues and flare ups with [**my various chronic illnesses**](https://achronicvoice.com/about/). You know how it goes — before you know it, you've turned 40, and also missed 1.5 years of your studies. It's a little depressing, as I will need to befriend new Gen Z-ers when I go back to school. I only had one real friend when I was still studying there previously. I mean no offense if you are a Gen Z reader; it's just that my classmates are young enough to be my kids. So the conversation topics differ quite a bit, as do our priorities and focus in life. ### The Limitations Job & Health-wise I was undecided as to whether I should return to my studies for a spell, as I realised that what I had wanted to do with the degree — language documentation — was quite impossible for me; I would need to further pursue a phD, and the only viable option to do that as a 'real job' is to work as a professor at a university, with language documentation as a 'side gig'. I'd say that pursuing my studies *even* further isn't the main issue, but there is no way I could work as a professor or teacher of any kind. It's not just not my thing, but facing a group of students and being responsible for them is physically impossible as someone who's chronically ill and disabled. Regardless, I have two more years of my studies to go. So I am going to just **recommit** to the programme, and see it to the end. No more thinking and overthinking — just get it done with, pay off the loans, and I'm sure that there are always opportunities that overlap in my current line of work, and areas of knowledge. Read Related Posts: - [Why 'Easy' Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [The Barriers That Throw Rocks into My Bucket List with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) ## A Triple Bracing — School, Work & Surgery Yes, I am [**bracing myself for the return to school**](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/), as there will be major changes to my routines and schedules. I am not a morning person by nature, and I also need to [**wait about two hours for my meds to kick in every day**](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/), before I'm somewhat functional. I wanted to take afternoon classes exclusively, but clinched two morning ones that each last for 4 hours at a stretch, during the bidding session for classes (horrible system, btw). That will be tough for me, but I will try to [**cushion them with 'white space days'**](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) in between. Apart from school, I *might* also take on a job from a new client. I don't want to jinx it, so all I'll say for now is that I will need to be very disciplined in juggling between work and school, and not overcommit, as I tend to do. Finally, the soonest thing I am **bracing** for is a 'minor' surgery to remove some pre-cancerous cells on the 10th of July. So if I'm offline during those couple of days — you know why! Read Related Posts: - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [It is \*Always\* Possible to Make Time for What Matters Most](https://achronicvoice.com/make-time-what-matters-most/) - [Chronic Stress, the Silent Assassin](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/) - [The Eternal Spoonie Struggle: Justifying Rest & Recovery Time](https://achronicvoice.com/spoonie-justifying-rest-recovery-time/) - [September 2017: Resisting the Urge to Stress Myself Out Unnecessarily & Supporting the Supporters](https://achronicvoice.com/resisting-stress-supporting-supporters-september-2017/) ## Documenting for Health & Personal Purposes ### Documenting My Sleep Patterns for My Psychiatrist I suffer from insomnia; the [**unpredictable vomiting episodes at night**](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) do not help, and I think I got the night-owl genes from my mum to boot — she is often up later than even I am. I also realise I need about 10 hours of sleep a day to be at my best — whatever 'best' means in relation to being chronically ill. (That is quite an awful lot 😔 What is yours, out of curiosity?) Thus, my psychiatrist — who helps to [**manage my sleep**](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/) and mood issues — has asked me to document my sleeping and waking times, and also how frequently I wake at night. So far, it's been random pepperings of 'normal' 10 hour sleep stretches, alternated with nights where I wake up every 30 minutes to vomit until dawn. Pin to Your Mental Health & Support Group Boards: ![Documenting for Health and Personal Purposes. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/documentating-health-personal-purposes-chronic-illness-life.jpg) ### Documenting My Weekly Reflections In relation to a more interesting type of 'documentation' — I enjoy [**drawing a tarot spread for the week ahead**](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/#tarot). I pair this with a significator card, which I use to set my intentions or to ground me on a weekly basis. I don't use tarot for fortune-telling, but more as a [**mindfulness tool**](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/). Having said that, I need to pay more attention to my reflections, or they're pretty much just pretty thoughts scribbled down 😛 So far, I've gained many interesting snippets of insight every week, when I reflect on each card paired with my significator. Sometimes, a 'bad' card turns out to be surprisingly 'good', when [**viewed from another perspective**](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/); not a different perspective, but a more complete one, in the grand scheme of things. Question — I want to expand this blog to add on a paid membership plan, simply to cover blogging fees, and hopefully earn a wee bit more. Do you think sharing these insights would be of any interest to people? Read Related Posts: - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don't Reflect)](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/) - [There's No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - [August 2017: Missing a Stable Income & Striving Towards Healthier Habits](https://achronicvoice.com/missing-stable-income-striving-healthier-habits-august-2017/) Tarot Decks I Own & Use: Golden Art Nouveau Tarot: [![Golden Art Nouveau Tarot](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51YrZ+wdxAL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0738763462?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Golden Art Nouveau Tarot") Da Brigh Black Tarot Cards Deck for Shadow Work: [![Da Brigh Black Tarot Cards Deck for Shadow Work](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41WvscVzVlL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B089DMX1PD?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Da Brigh Black Tarot Cards Deck for Shadow Work") Heaven & Earth Tarot Kit: [![Heaven and Earth Tarot Kit](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41L1DGPdqaL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/073876731X?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Heaven and Earth Tarot Kit") Tarot Decks I Have (& Want!): - [Golden Art Nouveau Tarot](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0738763462?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=232a9a17e99c6dff4f96dc313954465a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Da Brigh Black Tarot Cards Deck for Shadow Work](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B089DMX1PD?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=5f49f266f91c11431a87912390dc9812&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Heaven & Earth Tarot Kit](https://www.amazon.com/dp/073876731X?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=0d5e7ee346708adeded0b671c825b9c5&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Rider-Waite Tarot Deck (the original modern tarot deck)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/091386613X?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=8787ef853fc47d827fdff2e9224f8d5f&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Cats Rule the Earth Tarot: 78-Card Deck and Guidebook for the Feline-Obsessed](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1419766066?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=2971740ed00567eb0b680e30158bb666&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Tarot of the Woodland Wardens: 78-Card Deck & Guidebook](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DS4CCB3K?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=58087b4a9852a26446e097934a717a9d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Myripoly Pink Tarot Cards Deck Set for Beginners, with Meanings On Them](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BXHF851L?th=1&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c963257580d17b4548a90b54a724920f&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Tempest Tarot Deck: 78-Card Tarot Deck with Nautical Themes](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1646712455?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f79e838857ab7f1d15db6ccebed3719d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Tarot Books I Use for Reference: - [The Big Book of Tarot: How to Interpret the Cards and Work with Tarot Spreads for Personal Growth (Weiser Big Book Series)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/157863668X?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=57d18921ddea6e6b5dab9bf867435244&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Guided Tarot: A Beginner's Guide to Card Meanings, Spreads, and Intuitive Exercises for Seamless Readings (Guided Metaphysical Readings)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0593196996?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=1e9a2350c12704d3762a24895da0ea08&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Holistic Tarot: An Integrative Approach to Using Tarot for Personal Growth](https://www.amazon.com/dp/158394835X?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=d8325e7f20be2a19c2eb924673ccc47b&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [1001 Tarot Spreads: The Complete Book of Tarot Spreads for Every Purpose (1001 Series)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1454942150?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=2fc2cf7fa418e09e7f8b6fb61992bfe9&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ## Spoiling My Furry Companion & Pampering My Skin ### Talisker — My Heart & Soul Finally, I think I've been spending too much money on [my furry little companion, Talisker](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/the-way-my-dog-talisker-brings-me) (so now you know where my money goes to...). But I don't mind pampering him with quality time and treats. He is my world; [**I don't have any good friends left**](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) (maybe just one), as they have all started their own families, or are too busy with their careers — things that I also wish I could have in life, but am unable to. [**I don't bear grudges toward them**](https://achronicvoice.com/we-shouldnt-expect-people-to-understand/), because I understand that people drift apart at different stages in their lives. Yet, sometimes I wish they would just say 'hi' (and it's not that I haven't tried to keep in touch on my part, either). These are all good, kind-hearted, lovely people. But life has a way of keeping even these angels overwhelmed — perhaps even more so. Modern Talking - You're My Heart, You're My Soul (Official Video) Read Related Posts: - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [September 2018: Reconnecting with Friends & Family, and Sharing on Social Media](https://achronicvoice.com/reconnecting-friends-family-sharing-social-media-september-2018/) - [November 2018: Meeting and Collaborating with Chronically Ill People in Real Life](https://achronicvoice.com/meeting-collaborating-chronically-ill-real-life-november-2018/) - [November 2017: Discovering the Importance of Gut Health & Rediscovering Old Friendships](https://achronicvoice.com/discovering-gut-health-old-friendships-november-2017/) - [It’s in My Blood”: Kelly Hodgkins — Riding Horses with CRPS](https://achronicvoice.com/kelly-hodgkins-riding-horses-with-crps/) ### The Vulnerabilities Beneath the Skin I admittedly have also been pampering myself a little in terms of [**skincare products**](https://achronicvoice.com/nourish-naturally-skin-care-tips/). Perhaps it's that I'm getting older, and finally realised that ageing is a thing 😆 I think they call it vanity 😉 Perhaps it's also because I have been single for a while, and whether I care to admit it or not — I [**fear being #AloneForever**](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/). You might be surprised, but many [**potential partners**](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) shun you when they learn that you have a chronic illness — and worse — if you have a physical disability, too. Whilst I wouldn't want such people as partners anyway, that's the cold, hard reality that many people with disabilities face (though not all, for sure). Having said that, I do believe that there are still good people out there. And I still choose to put myself out there, as I operate on a "don't try, don't know" mentality in all areas of my life. ### Beyond Beauty — Face Gua Sha is Surprisingly Relaxing Whilst [**gua sha can be used on the face**](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) for beauty reasons, I've been doing it more for relaxation purposes a couple times a week before bed. To my surprise, I fell asleep within 30 minutes the first few times I did it (usually I toss and turn for two hours or so). I've discovered little dots of muscles in my face that ache each time I gua sha them, and each time the spots differ. Interestingly, even the lips and places on your face you wouldn't think could be achy, can be tense. Here are the three books I've been referring too for a few simple strokes, should you be interested, too: Books I Refer to for Gua Sha & Facial Massage: - [Press Here! Face Workouts for Beginners: Pressure Techniques to Tone and Define Naturally](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1592339425?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=7099bcfeefb03ef8f410006083938149&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Face Yoga: Sculpt, Lift & Tone in Just 10 Minutes a Day](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F4QF1R6V?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=623fcc9558c553b57cf140f8af2c21ce&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Facial Gua Sha: A Step-by-step Guide to a Natural Facelift](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0956150764?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f689ffc1e1a0a4344d076919760ab632&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [When Autoimmune Disorder Ravages Your Face (and How That Led to My Body Dysmorphic Disorder)](https://achronicvoice.com/body-dysmorphic-disorder/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) ## In Conclusion to My Quick Catch-up This July 2026 So what have you been up to, and will be up to this July 2026? Come share in the writing prompts below. I truly hope to see a few friendly faces and regulars, and can't wait to read and share your entries 😊 Have a good July! [Participate in the July 2026 Linkup Here](https://achronicvoice.com/2026-july-writing-prompts-chronic-illness-disability/) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Chronic Illness, Disability & Writing Boards: ![A quick catch-up with my chronic illness writing community this July 2026. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quick-catch-up-chronic-illness-writinng-commuity-july-2026.jpg) ### July Writing Prompts for People with Chronic Illness & Disability (All New 2026 Edition) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/2026-july-writing-prompts-chronic-illness-disability/ Last updated: 2026-07-13T03:24:01.000Z ## Using the 2026 July Writing Prompts to Break That Writer's Block So, I haven't ran a linkup party in *ages*. I haven't written a new post on the blog for a while as well, as I [**wanted to focus on drafting my memoir**](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/). However, believe it or not, despite having an outline and the time to work on it for the past couple of months, I've barely gotten past chapter one. I feel like I need to do some freeform writing, as I've been mainly working on [**medical research articles**](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) the past couple years, both for this website, and for clients. That, or formal copywriting for websites, and optimising them for SEO. I feel like my brain is 'stuck' with only formal instead of creative writing now, and I'd like to break that writer's block. So will you help me out by joining me in kicking off the monthly linkups again? I [**consolidated all my previous entries on my “Diary Entries” page**](https://achronicvoice.com/diary-entries/), but now, I'd like to re-open this to the chronic illness and disabled community again on a monthly basis (or as close to monthly as I can). Let's do this together! *\*Disclaimer: This post/linkup is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my/our personal experiences as patient(s). *I/We are not doctors, and nothing in this post or its associated links should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post/linkup may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Writing Community Boards: ![July Writing Prompts for People with Chronic Illness and Disability (All New 2026 Edition). Get the Prompts on: A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/july-writing-prompts-for-people-with-chronic-illness-disability-2026-edition.jpg) ## What the 2026 July Writing Prompts are About, and How to Participate The writing prompts are a monthly get-together for anyone with a chronic illness, mental illness or disability. An opportunity to share, to listen, and to learn from one another through shared writing prompts. I also think it’s a great way to provide insight into life with chronic pain and disabilities, from many different points of view. You can choose to write about your latest experiences with chronic illness and/or disability, or even turn it into an [evergreen blog post](https://mailchimp.com/resources/evergreen-content/). All you have to do is write a post using **at least three of the writing prompts** listed below, and publish it on your blog, or to a free writing platform such as [Medium](https://medium.com/) or [SubStack](https://substack.com/) (don't forget to set the post for public viewing!). Then click on the **blue ‘Add Link’ button** in the widget below to add your blog post to this page. Voilà, you’re now part of the linkup party! ## Simple Rules for the 2026 July Writing Prompts - Only **submit one link** per website/blog. - If you choose to participate, do **comment on at least two** other blog posts in this linkup by the end of the month. Return to check at a later date if there aren't enough entries yet. Helping to spread the word on your social media is always appreciated, but not required. - Linkups start on the first of every month. There will be five different writing prompts. It will close at the end of each month before midnight. All timings listed are in [Singapore time](https://www.google.com.sg/search?q=singapore+time&oq=singapore+time&aqs=chrome..69i57j69i60l2j0l3.1041j0j1&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8) (+8 GMT). - Pick **at least three** of the writing prompts to write about. Five is best, of course! - **Insert a link to this post** when you submit your blog entry for auto verification. - Failure to follow these rules might get you blacklisted from future writing prompt linkups. Let's keep it fair for all 🙂 ## July 2026 Awareness Dates Here are a few health events happening this month, should you be at a loss for words, and needed something to stir those creative or advocacy juices! Also,Happy Canada Day to all my Canadian friends and readers 🙂 - **Chronic Disease Awareness Day (10 July).** Honestly, this irks me a little — why does chronic disease awareness only get *one* miserable day?! Anyway, I digress. Here are a [few ways to show support and get involved](https://chronicdiseaseday.org/). - **World Brain Day (22 July).** According to the World Federation of Neurology (WFN), "more than 3.4 billion people currently live with neurological conditions, making brain disorders the leading cause of disability worldwide". World Brain Day aims to bridge the gaps in healthcare in relation to neurological health, and advocates for positive change. [Get the campaign resources on the WFN website here](https://wfneurology.org/world-brain-day-2026). - **World Sjögren's Day (23 July).** The [Sjögren's Foundation website provides resources](https://sjogrens.org/get-involved/world-sjogrens-day-july-23) and suggests various ways you can participate, to help raise awareness for [**Sjögren's disease**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-bearable-not/). - **World Drowning Prevention Day (25 July).** According to the World Health Organization (WHO), [drowning is one of the leading causes of death for young children](https://www.who.int/campaigns/world-drowning-prevention-day), and approximately 236,000 people drown every year 🙁 - **World Hepatitis Day (28 July).** According to the [World Hepatitis Day website](https://www.worldhepatitisday.org/), hepatitis is treatable, yet "viral hepatitis is the world's deadliest communicable disease", with 287 million people infected without even realising it. It is also the leading cause of liver cancer. Get multi-language resources on their website and help to raise awareness. The following awareness campaigns span the entire month: - [**Cord Blood Awareness Month**](https://learn.cordblood.com/CordBloodAwarenessMonth)**.** You've probably heard that 'cord blood saves lives'. This event helps to raise awareness amongst healthcare professionals and educate the public on the benefits of preserving stem cells found in cord blood and cord tissue of newborns. - **Juvenile Arthritis Awareness Month.** Approximately 1 in 250 children live with [juvenile arthritis](https://www.iabhp.com/national-wellness-observance-calendar/juvenile-arthritis-awareness-month/) (JA), which can take an enormous toll on such young individuals. [Juvenile Spondyloarthritis](https://spondylitis.org/juvenile-spondyloarthritis-awareness-month/) (JSpA) month overlaps with it — help to raise awareness about these debilitating diseases that affect children. - **National** [**Haemochromatosis Awareness**](https://irondisorders.org/july-is-national-hemochromatosis-screening-and-awareness-month/) **Month.** Did you know — "hemochromatosis kills more Americans than breast cancer and AIDS combined" (Iron Disorders Institute)? Learn more about this metabolic disorder that leads to iron overload in the body. - **Sarcoma & Bone Cancer Awareness Month.** According to American Association for Cancer Research (AACR), "Sarcomas are a rare group of cancers in which malignant cells form in the bones or soft tissues of the body", which can affect both the young and old alike. [Learn more about the various types of sarcomas here](https://www.aacr.org/patients-caregivers/awareness-months/sarcoma-and-bone-cancer-awareness-month/), and help to raise awareness. - **UV Awareness Month.** This campaign by the American Academy of Dermatology Association (AAD) aims to [raise awareness of the dangers of UV-exposure](https://www.aad.org/member/advocacy/promote/uv-awareness), which is the "root cause of most skin cancers". ## And Now... Presenting to You the 2026 July Writing Prompts! ### 1\. Updating The July 2026 writing prompts would probably make for a great way for all of us to catch-up and update each other on what we've been up to in all areas of life. (And probably to b\*tch about new chronic illness problems, heh.) Alternatively, you could be [**updating your doctor**](https://achronicvoice.com/prepare-medical-appointment/) or loved one about an issue, [**updating a project or website**](https://achronicvoice.com/did-you-know-a-chronic-voice-is-10-years-old/), updating certain details or data — the list goes on! ### 2\. Recommitting Has the trail for a commitment of yours gone cold, yet you'd like to see it revived? What would you like to recommit yourself to this July, or for the long-term? It could be related to work, school, relationships (familial/platonic/romantic/etc), a self-care routine, a diet or exercise plan, or anything else that you might find meaningful or helpful. Read Related Posts: - [What's It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) - [Why 'Easy' Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I've Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [It is \*Always\* Possible to Make Time for What Matters Most](https://achronicvoice.com/make-time-what-matters-most/) ### 3\. Bracing Is there an event that you're bracing for this month, such as a surgery, medical test results, or a difficult chat that's way past due? Alternatively, you might be experiencing invigorating weather, or adding tangible support to something that you're physically building. ### 4\. Documenting Do you document or track anything for chronic illness management, such as your diet, sleep or [**heart rate**](https://achronicvoice.com/heart-rhythm-disorder/)? I think many people with chronic illness are fantastic project managers of their lives. Apart from that, you could also be [**documenting in the form of a journal**](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) or film (short or long-form), or documenting languages, data, notes, and many other types of observances — either formally or informally. ### 5\. Pampering Are you pampering anyone in particular this July? Perhaps a loved one's birthday is coming up, or perhaps it's time for a small holiday, staycation, or 'me-time'. You could also be spoiling yourself in many different ways (both healthy and unhealthy 😛), or pampering someone else ([pets](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/the-way-my-dog-talisker-brings-me) and plants included!). ## Join Us in the 2026 Writing Prompts Here Do you have thoughts to any of the writing prompts above? I truly hope to hear from you, and am eager to read what you have to say! You can [**read** **past linkup entries here**](https://achronicvoice.com/diary-entries/) for inspiration or ideas on how or what to write about. Feel free to write in whatever style or form suits you, however. These writing prompts are meant to be a relaxing and cathartic community activity, after all. Happy writing and sharing! You are invited to the **Inlinkz** link party! [Click here to enter](https://fresh.inlinkz.com/p/38226648f440457286849091794d022e) [Direct Link to Linkup (if widget isn't working)](https://fresh.inlinkz.com/p/38226648f440457286849091794d022e) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Disability & Writing Group Boards to Help Spread the Word: ![July Writing Prompts — Updating, Recommitting, Bracing, Documenting, and Pampering — for the chronically ill and disabled. Get them on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/july-writing-prompts-updating-recommitting-bracing-documenting-pampering-chronically-ill-disabled.jpg) ### Men with Fibromyalgia & the Unique Challenges They Face URL: https://achronicvoice.com/men-with-fibromyalgia-unique-challenges/ Last updated: 2026-05-17T08:54:50.000Z ## Men with Fibromyalgia — Stephen White’s Story *\*Note from* [***Sheryl of “A Chronic Voice”***](https://achronicvoice.com/about)*: I am happy to be able to share another male advocate’s story on the blog today (although obviously not happy that he is suffering from fibromyalgia). I truly believe that more male voices are needed when it comes to invisible illness, for the same reasons that Stephen White states within his own story below.* *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I/We are not doctors, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Men with Fibromyalgia Boards: ![Men with Fibromyalgia, and the Unique Challenges They Face. Guest Post by: Stephen White. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/men-with-fibromyalgia-unique-challenges-stephen-white.jpg) ### A Quick Look at What Fibromyalgia is *According to Choy et al. (2010), the* [*mean time taken for a patient to be diagnosed with fibromyalgia*](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1186/1472-6963-10-102) *was approximately 6.5 years from the onset of symptoms. Within that study of 800 patients, only 16% were men. This makes it a double whammy for men with fibromyalgia, as there is a two-fold stigma attached to it. From a clinical perspective, a doctor might dismiss the pain, as “men do not ‘really’ get chronic illness or fibromyalgia”. Within a societal narrative, men are often expected to be “strong and stoic” — pain is thus, frequently suppressed voluntarily, yet reluctantly.* ### What has Helped Me Through Any New Diagnosis *Personally, my own doctor has stated that I probably live with some 'baseline level of fibromyalgia', together with my autoimmune cocktail of* [***Antiphospholipid Syndrome***](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/)*,* [***Lupus***](https://achronicvoice.com/rock-bottom/)*,* [***Sjögren's disease***](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-bearable-not/)*, and many other chronic illnesses and disabilities. Two things that have helped me through each of these diagnoses are medical research, and support from other patients (*[***many who have become friends***](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/)*!). Meaning to say that knowledge paired with humanity becomes a powerful combination to help survive the relentlessness of chronic illnesses, and the pain they bring. If you are newly diagnosed with fibromyalgia, here are a few useful resources from official guidelines and websites:* - [*American College Of Rheumatology (ACR) — Preliminary Diagnostic Criteria For Fibromyalgia*](https://www.rtmslondon.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/12/ACR-Fibromyalgia-Diagnostic-Criteria.pdf) - [*The American College of Rheumatology Preliminary Diagnostic Criteria for Fibromyalgia and Measurement of Symptom Severity*](https://acrjournals.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/acr.20140) *(Wolfe et al., 2010)* - [*The Diagnosis Of Fibromyalgia Syndrome — UK Clinical Guidelines*](https://www.rcp.ac.uk/media/udlhnt1b/the-diagnosis-of-fibromyalgia-syndrome-guidelines%5F1%5F2%5F0.pdf) *(Royal College of Physicians \[RCP\], 2022)* *For now, I shall shut up, and hand over the page to Stephen!* Read Related Posts: - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) - [Why I Need to See More Than 10 Different Types of Doctors Regularly](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [My Second Brush with Death: A Broken Heart (Literally)](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) ## Young, in Pain, but Undiagnosed Though undiagnosed at the time, I’ve experienced fibromyalgia since the age of 21\. It was January 2017 when my pain first started, just as I was returning to university after the [**Christmas holidays**](https://achronicvoice.com/survive-the-holidays-chronic-illness-disability-pain/). I had six months left of my integrated master’s degree in Geology, and I felt extremely anxious to return. The end of my degree was in sight, and my mind was on my thesis constantly. Would I find a good job at the end of this? Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Young Adult Boards: ![Young, in Pain, but Undiagnosed. Stephen White's Story, read on A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/young-pain-undiagnosed-stephen-white-story.jpg) ![Men with Fibromyalgia — Stephen White's story. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/men-with-fibromyalgia-stephen-white-story.jpg) ### The Chronic Pain that Brought Me to the A&E In the beginning, I felt a strong, aching pain in my chest, and my [**heart rate was very high**](https://achronicvoice.com/heart-rhythm-disorder/). I kept a close eye on the pain over the next couple of days, but it didn’t settle down. Naturally, the preoccupation over my health fed into anxious thoughts. It may seem overblown, but I genuinely thought I could be having a heart attack, or that something was seriously wrong with me. And so, I asked if my housemate could drive me to the hospital. When I arrived, I was quickly triaged at the A&E, before they conducted an ECG scan. I waited nervously for the results in a hospital bed. However, after only an hour or so, I was told by a kind doctor that they could find no abnormalities, and that I was otherwise healthy. I was discharged and sent home, whilst feeling very confused. ### The Addition of Chronic Fatigue When I returned home from the hospital, I became more concerned about the chest pain over the next few days, as it hadn’t subsided. To my worry, fatigue began to accompany the pain, which then became chronic over weeks and months. This chronic fatigue was brutal. Within the span of a few weeks, I went from being a highly active 21-year-old, to barely being able to walk down the stairs. I was really scared, and had no idea what was happening to me. Read Related Posts: - [What's It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) - [A Page From a Sick Girl's Diary: Sometimes I Wish I was an Old Person](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girls-diary-wish-old-person/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) ## The Identity Crisis & Accommodations Needed at School I had to take a break from my degree to recover, and was unable to complete an environmental module that I had been really looking forward to. I remember having a meeting with my supervisor and the course organiser, to discuss how I could finish my studies for the year. I felt so dejected. I didn’t want the attention that this illness brought, and I really struggled to verbalise what I was experiencing. I also felt a visceral sense of imposter syndrome. Up until the start of 2017, I had always been able to cope with whatever life threw at me. I was young, otherwise healthy, and wanted so desperately to just push through this period of ill health. This didn’t feel like the ‘normal’ me, and I didn’t want to take time out. I just wanted to complete my course the same way as the rest of my coursemates did. However, it soon became apparent that I would need accommodations. With the extra time and flexibility they granted, I managed to complete my degree. Looking back, I’m not sure how I would have been able to complete my course without those adjustments. ## My Brief Career in Exploration Geology My health improved during the summer of my graduation, and I was gradually feeling more like my previous healthy self; only a few lingering pains could be felt here and there. I started a career in exploration geology, which was my dream job. It meant spending time in rural Türkiye, collecting metallurgical samples and mapping the geology of the area. There was a lot of travelling involved, but I was hoping the leftover pain would eventually resolve on its own. My optimism didn’t quite go to plan. Months later, I had my first major pain flare-up. To cut a long story short, I had to quit my job as it was too physical for me. ## The Physical, Emotional & Mental Toll of the Chronic Pain as a Young Adult I needed support, so I moved back in with my family. They were big life changes, and it felt like all my independence had disappeared in an instant. The aftermath of the flare-up was messy, to put it lightly. I lost a lot of confidence in myself, and felt so angry, confused, and heartbroken. It was so hard not to compare myself to my peers at the time, who had now either started their own careers or had taken time out to go travelling. For years, I had planned a career built for the outdoors, either in mineral exploration or environmental geology. These plans seemed impossible after my flare-up. Experiencing chronic pain completely flipped my life on its head, and I had no idea how I was going to navigate it. Read Related Posts: - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Why 'Easy' Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) - [What Neverending Pain Reveals to You](https://achronicvoice.com/what-neverending-pain-reveals/) ## The Struggles with Communicating My Pain as a Young Man with Fibromyalgia As a young man, I struggled to communicate that I was having a really hard time with my health. I had always been told “the world is your oyster” at that age, but in truth, I felt more trapped by my circumstances than anything else. My health became a real rollercoaster ride throughout my twenties, with hospital appointments, surgeries, and work-life balance to navigate. For the past nine years, I’ve had to deal with chronic fatigue and nerve pain, as well as the ups and downs in mental health. With all the issues I had presented to the doctors over the years, they still couldn’t give me a complete diagnosis, as they didn’t know what was fully going on. There was always a baseline of chronic pain and anxiety, but I found it difficult to explain my symptoms, because they would come and go, and varied in intensity. Pin to Your Communication & Men's Health Boards: ![Stephen White — the struggles with communicating my pain as a young man with fibromyalgia. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/stephen-white-struggles-communicating-pain-young-man-fibromyalgia.jpg) ## Finally Diagnosed with Fibromyalgia at 30 It wasn’t until I turned 30 last year that I was finally diagnosed with [fibromyalgia](https://www.abdn.ac.uk/iahs/academic/epidemiology/our-research/plain-language-summaries/fibromyalgia-healthcare/) — a condition that affects around 2.5 million people in the UK (University of Aberdeen, n.d.). The [National Health Service \[NHS\] (2022)](https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/fibromyalgia/) defines the condition as chronic, characterised by pain throughout the body. From my personal experience thus far, most people become concerned for me when they hear about my diagnosis. Many of them are also surprised to see a male with a fibromyalgia diagnosis. This is because [fibromyalgia disproportionately affects women more than men](https://www.mdpi.com/2227-9032/11/2/223) (80 – 96% of cases are found in women) (Ruschak et al., 2023). As a person who lives with fibromyalgia, I will also add that there is still a real lack of understanding in the medical community about the condition in itself. In addition, research has typically concentrated on women, due to the low percentage of men with fibromyalgia (Ruschak et al., 2023). I often wonder if the smaller proportion of men with fibromyalgia is solely due to genetics, or also to do with how men behave in general. For instance, men tend to be very silent when it comes to invisible disabilities, and also their mental health. ## Societal Expectations of Men Societal norms typically dictate that men should be strong and be viewed as providers, usually in a familial context. It’s an expectation that I struggle to live up to; in fact, many of my male friends have told me that they feel the same way. ‘Masculine’ traits such as leadership, emotional detachment, and financial success have been drilled into us since we were little boys — by media, films, sports, culture — the list goes on. With such an orchestrated backdrop, it’s no wonder that men struggle to open up when they face difficulties in life. When we do so, it feels like we’ve failed in some way, or that we have lost a part of our masculinity. For men with fibromyalgia, this sense of failure is compounded by everyday pain, which can lead to isolation, along with other mental health issues such as anxiety and depression (University of Aberdeen, n.d.). Read Related Posts: - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does 'Normal' Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) - [There's No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [To Live with Chronic Illness is to Learn to Live with Maybes](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-maybes/) - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don't Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) ## The Need to Limit Activities I Love, Due to Chronic Pain from Fibromyalgia One activity that I’ve always loved is exercise. Whether that’s walking, hiking, or going to the gym. Throughout my teenage years and early twenties, I ran cross-country events for my school and county, and played football with my university coursemates. I had even run a half-marathon eight months before the onset of my pain. Exercise had always featured heavily in my life. Now, I need to be more mindful when I exercise. I need to be careful not to push myself to my limits, as doing so can have a knock-on effect on my pain levels the following day. Throw in work, general life duties such as cleaning and cooking, and it quickly becomes tricky to balance mentally. This is especially true when I’m experiencing chronic pain. ## Men with Fibromyalgia & the Fitness and Achievement Clashes We live in a culture focused on fitness and achievement, and that’s hard to live up to for men with fibromyalgia. I need to skip the gym on the days when I’m feeling really fatigued or in pain, which slows down any progress I have been building up in my workouts. This is frustrating because I have fitness goals, but I’ve also learned to be more flexible with them due to my condition. I now know that if I am experiencing a flare-up, it’s more important that I look after my health, rather than “push through” the pain. Doing otherwise would only exacerbate the pain and exhaustion. Regardless, I still feel frustrated that it has to be this way. Read Related Posts: - [The Chronic Pain Cycle & How to Break It (Top Tips From an Occupational Therapist)](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/) - [Are You a Capable Person? What Does That Even Mean?](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) - [Is Yoga Accessible for People with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/) - [The Barriers That Throw Rocks into My Bucket List with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/) - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) ## Learning to Shift My Mindset as a Young Man with Fibromyalgia I miss playing football and long-distance running. It becomes [**easy to compare myself to others**](https://achronicvoice.com/dont-compare-life-destination-special/) who might be training for a marathon or reaching their gym goals, whilst I’m crashed out on the sofa. However, empathy and kindness are two traits that I’ve been working on for a while now. I have also been [**practising radical acceptance**](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/). Just because I’ve had to take a week off from going to the gym, that doesn’t mean I’m any less capable. It’s helpful to remind myself of all my good qualities, too. Speaking of “pushing through” pain, men with fibromyalgia can often feel that they’re not tough enough if they don’t force themselves to carry on, despite their struggles. Sometimes, I think to myself, “[**who am I trying to prove myself to**](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/)”? I’ve found this [**mindset shift**](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) to be incredibly helpful for challenging conditioned thoughts and behaviours that I may have. ## I Want to Reach Out to Men Who Feel Stigmatised by Society With all the challenges we face in our society today, I want to speak up on behalf of those with invisible disabilities, regardless of gender. However, I want to specifically reach out to men who feel stigmatised for speaking up about their struggles, and say that [**it’s okay to admit when you’re not feeling great**](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/). It’s healthy to express your emotions, and [**isn’t a sign of weakness**](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/). When it comes to chronic pain, we wouldn’t expect someone with a broken leg to glide through the day or attend the office five days a week. The [**difference is that a broken leg is visible, whereas an invisible disability**](https://achronicvoice.com/rather-have-invisible-illness-or-disability/) isn’t. Speaking objectively, visibility brings a unique challenge of its own. Obviously, no one can read anyone else’s mind to know what they’re going through, but empathy and kindness can go a long way when we interact with our fellow humans. This is especially relevant when it comes to healthcare and the workplace. ### The Changes I Believe We Need in Healthcare In healthcare, we need to adopt a culture of trust when an individual presents long-term pain concerns. Just because the pain isn’t visible, it doesn’t mean it’s not real. I really do believe that western medicine needs to adapt to a changing world, and [**approach chronic pain with a holistic approach**](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) that is tailored to the individual. This means an approach that takes into consideration talking therapies, physical therapies and medications. A combination of all three is ideal, but should always be tailored to the individual. This will take time and change is never easy, just like any facet within society. General practitioners and health professionals tend to only have 10 minutes per appointment; they are also seriously overworked in a pressurised system. Speaking from my own experience as a man with fibromyalgia who has been through the medical system in the UK — a holistic approach has worked for me, and has helped me to live a much better life with an invisible disability. Unfortunately, I had to discover this approach by myself in my twenties. It took many years of self-study, reading, and pushing for referrals to relevant consultants. I don’t want others to go through what I did. With the right foundations, I believe that it’s possible to change our outlook on chronic pain collectively as a society. Ideally, this should be guided by a top-down healthcare approach. Read Related Posts: - [Is My Doctor Right for Me?](https://achronicvoice.com/is-my-doctor-right-for-me/) - [How to Prepare for a Medical Appointment in a Post-Pandemic World (4 Top Tips From a Doctor)](https://achronicvoice.com/prepare-medical-appointment/) - [Why You Need a Good Therapist on Your Healthcare Team (Based on My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-good-therapist/) - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [Chronic Illness is Expensive, but Here’s the Real Reason Why](https://achronicvoice.com/real-reason-why-chronic-illness-expensive/) ### The Need for Awareness Within Shared Spaces Public and workplace environments also need more education in regards to accommodations, and how to adapt to individuals accordingly. [**It takes brave individuals to speak up**](https://achronicvoice.com/humility-advocacy/), and to educate others about the invisible conditions we live with. We can be a more inclusive society if we help those with invisible disabilities to feel more comfortable in our shared environments. If you have any questions about chronic pain, fibromyalgia or are interested in learning more about my background, my DMs are always open. All the best, Stephen ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read More Guest Posts Written by/About Men on the Blog: - [“It's in My Blood”: Roy George — A Dramatic Life with a Short Bowel](https://achronicvoice.com/roy-george-dramatic-life-short-bowel/) - [Rheumatoid Arthritis — the Biggest Street Fight of My Life](https://achronicvoice.com/rheumatoid-arthritis-fight-life/) - [Liam's FND Story & How He Achieved His Dreams](https://achronicvoice.com/liams-fnd-story-how-he-achieved-his-dreams/) - [How Art Benefits Children with Developmental Differences](https://achronicvoice.com/how-art-benefits-children-with-developmental-differences/) - [Suffering with a Rare Disease, Isaacs' Syndrome, as Told from a Male Perspective](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-isaacs-syndrome/) - [3 Reasons Why I Don't Let Multiple Sclerosis Prevent Me from Living a Normal Life](https://achronicvoice.com/dont-let-multiple-sclerosis-prevent-normal-life/) - [The Greatest Battle of My Life: How I Overcame Addiction](https://achronicvoice.com/overcame-addiction/) - [What's it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) Pin to Your Fibromyalgia & Men's Health Boards: ![Guest Post by: Stephen White. Men with Fibromyalgia — The stigma, barriers, and challenges faced as a young man in school and in society. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/men-with-fibromyalgia-stephen-white-stigma-barriers-challenges.jpg) **Contributor Bio:** ![Stephen White headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/stephen-white-headshot.jpg) I’m 30 years old and live in London, UK. I love nature and try to get out of the city often! I play guitar and sing, previously in a band but I mostly play solo now. I love all things water sports — surfing, paddleboarding and swimming — so I tend to choose breaks by the sea. My background is in Geological Science, however, I’ve worked within the Climate Technology and Insurance industries since I graduated — either in carbon analysis or as a Natural Disaster Analyst. I’m passionate about learning more from climate change, but I also have a keen interest in genealogy and psychology — which both developed during my twenties. Researching family history has led to uncovering my Irish and Scottish roots, and I’m currently taking an Introduction to Counselling course to explore more about the potential routes to becoming a therapist. Here is my [blog](https://courageinchronicpain.wordpress.com/) and [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/standwhite/) account. ### References: - Choy, E., Perrot, S., Leon, T., Kaplan, J., Petersel, D., Ginovker, A., & Kramer, E. (2010). A patient survey of the impact of fibromyalgia and the journey to diagnosis. *BMC Health Services Research, 10*(1), 102\. - National Health Services. (2022, October 12). *Fibromyalgia.* - Royal College of Physicians. (2022). *The diagnosis of fibromyalgia syndrome: UK clinical guidelines.* - Ruschak, I., Montesó-Curto, P., Rosselló, L., Aguilar Martín, C., Sánchez-Montesó, L., & Toussaint, L. (2023). Fibromyalgia syndrome pain in men and women: A scoping review. *Healthcare, 11*(2), 223\. - University of Aberdeen. (n.d.). *UK healthcare services for people with fibromyalgia.* The Institute of Applied Health Sciences. Retrieved 9 May 2026, from - Wolfe, F., Clauw, D. J., Fitzcharles, M.-A., Goldenberg, D. L., Katz, R. S., Mease, P., Russell, A. S., Russell, I. J., Winfield, J. B., & Yunus, M. B. (2010). The American College of Rheumatology Preliminary Diagnostic Criteria for Fibromyalgia and Measurement of Symptom Severity. *Arthritis Care & Research, 62*(5), 600–610\. ### How Art Benefits Children with Developmental Differences URL: https://achronicvoice.com/how-art-benefits-children-with-developmental-differences/ Last updated: 2026-02-13T14:17:51.000Z *\*Note from Sheryl of A Chronic Voice:What is "art", really? A quick search yields a few similar dictionary definitions:* > *"The* [***making of objects, images, music, etc***](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/)*. that are beautiful or that *express feelings*". (*[*Cambridge*](https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/art)*)* > *"Skill *acquired* by experience, study, or observation". (*[*Merriam Webster*](https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/art)*)* *Many people tend to associate 'art' with Picasso, Rembrandt or some other museum-worthy painting. Either that or a starving artist with 'no real job'. Yet we often miss the other dimensions of art, even within dictionary definitions — such as being a medium for expression, as well as mastery of a skill. In that sense, *anything* within *any* field can be honed into an artform.* *In this post, Martin Block shares more about art forms, and how they can benefit children with various developmental differences. Shall we dive in?* 🙂 *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Parenting & Development Differences Boards: ![How Art Benefits Children with Developmental Differences. Guest Post by Martin Block. Read More. (Pupils are dressed casually in a classroom setting. They are painting on canvases attached to wooden easels, and look quiet and focused. A teacher in a blue dress smiles from the corner, and seems to be guiding them along.)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-art-benefits-children-with-developmental-differences.jpg) ## The Beginnings of Connection, on Terms Your Child Understands Sometimes a child hums before they speak. Sometimes they tap, fold, line things up. And it's not random. It's not empty behavior. It's not something to redirect. It's a sign — something’s working. Something’s flowing. The arts don’t always arrive in brushes or songs. They arrive in patterns, gestures, sounds. Wherever that shows up, it’s worth following. Especially when language is slow to come. Especially when attention is scattered. That’s where the connection begins. ## Art Creates Safe Places Where Emotions Can Land Kids who don’t speak much — or who echo — still feel everything. Strongly. Loudly. Sometimes all at once. And if there’s nowhere to put it? That’s when things explode. Or shut down. But give them shape. Give them color. A surface. A place to push. And it changes. Programs that [layer creative expression into emotional development](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/17533015.2024.2319032) are proving that regulation doesn’t have to start with words (Birrell et al., 2025). It can start with hands. With movement. With space. The point isn’t to create something good. It’s to let the noise settle. ### Turn Mess Into Meaning Together as a Family A lot of families start with a corner of a table. Then maybe a shelf. Then maybe a kitchen cupboard full of projects no one can throw out. Sometimes it’s not even about the child. Sometimes a parent’s the one who draws first. Sometimes it turns into something more. There are now families building small businesses around their shared creativity — not for money, but for rhythm. If you’ve ever thought about [shaping your own passion for art](https://www.zenbusiness.com/art-business-ideas/) into something that supports connection and identity, this is the lane. It doesn’t have to scale. It just has to mean something. Read Related Posts: - [What's it Like to be the Mother of a Chronically Ill Child? (Precious Insights from My Own Mum)](https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/) - [What’s it Like to be the Father of a Child with Chronic Illness? (Precious Insights from My Own Dad!)](https://achronicvoice.com/father-of-child-with-chronic-illness/) - [What's it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [Liam's FND Story & How He Achieved His Dreams](https://achronicvoice.com/liams-fnd-story-how-he-achieved-his-dreams/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) ## Speech is Not the Only Form of Communication Not every child who needs to speak can do it through the mouth — not right away, at least. But give them texture. Tools. A beat. A pattern to repeat. And suddenly, there’s language — just not the kind people expect. It comes out in spirals. In rows. In tracing. In stopping halfway through and doing it all again. [Arts programs focused on children with speech or communication blocks](https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/child-and-adolescent-psychiatry/articles/10.3389/frcha.2024.1322860/full) show that meaning doesn’t need a sentence to be real (Léger-Goodes et al., 2024). It just needs a form. ## The Body Learns by Doing — Let Kids Play with Their Hands Paint is messy. Clay is unpredictable. Collage sticks to everything. That’s the point. Because to do those things, the hands have to work together. The arms have to reach. The eyes have to track. For children with developmental differences such as motor delays, this is training disguised as play. A lot of formal therapies miss this. They isolate the movement, forget the joy. But [art-based motor workshops](https://thevisionaryartworkshop.com/art-for-special-needs/) flip that. They let kids build strength without knowing they’re building anything at all. Which, ironically, is when the most happens. ## Transformation & Inclusion Through Art, Where Every Child Matters You can be in the same room and still miss each other, especially when a child doesn’t follow back-and-forth the way others do. So instead of conversation, there’s shape. There’s rhythm. There’s making. That’s where real inclusion shows up — not in policy, but in practice. It looks like a kid with one sound on loop building something next to another who speaks five languages. It looks like group art sessions that aren’t about skill, but about showing up. [UNICEF’s own reporting on arts-driven cultural inclusion initiatives](https://www.unicef.org/innocenti/media/10856/file/UNICEF-Innocenti-Disabilities-Arts-Culture-Report-2025.pdf) offers global examples. What do they have in common? No one’s expected to act “typical.” > “These programmes can play a transformative role in promoting social inclusion by encouraging children to actively participate alongside one another. For children with disabilities in particular, these activities provide a space to build self-esteem, improve communication and foster a sense of belonging in group settings.” (UNICEF, 2025) ## The Gaps in the Education System for Children with Development Differences Some schools still keep arts on Fridays — optional, ungraded, squeezed into the end of the week. Others have figured it out. That learning isn’t just input and recall. It’s rhythm. Sequence. Motion. Flow. And for neurodivergent kids, it’s often the only door that stays open. International pushes for [arts-first learning models](https://www.unesco.org/en/articles/what-you-need-know-about-culture-and-arts-education) are changing what counts as intelligence. Kids who can’t hold a pencil “correctly” are composing. Kids who stim through dance are choreographing without knowing it. Schools are slow to shift. But families don’t have to wait. Read Related Posts: - [What's It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) - [“It's in My Blood”: Roy George — A Dramatic Life with a Short Bowel](https://achronicvoice.com/roy-george-dramatic-life-short-bowel/) - [“It's in My Blood”: Katarina Zulak — Living Life Skillfully & Artistically with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/katarina-zulak-living-artistically-chronic-illness/) - [Coming Alive in the Winter Air (Pushing for Personal Changes & Group Advocacy)](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-advocacy/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) ### Filling in the Gaps with Initiatives & Communities In many places, disabled artists don’t get gallery shows. Or press. Or awards. So they build their own rooms. Their own stages. Sometimes it’s digital. Sometimes it’s hyperlocal. Doesn’t matter. What matters is that there are now entire networks devoted to making space. One example — [this hub for global arts initiatives](https://blackdisabledcreatives.com/resources/orgs/) — curates programs where disabled children, teens, adults can show their work, get support, and be part of a culture that sees them as contributors, not just participants. It’s not therapy. It's a community. ## Take the Time to Notice & Provide Validation This isn’t about [**unlocking potential**](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/). It’s about letting it run. Art doesn’t need to be framed to matter. A drawing doesn’t need to be praised to count. Not every moment needs to be labeled “progress.” [**Some things are just good**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-your-beauty-never-left-you/). Because they are. Because a child made them. Because a parent paused long enough to notice. That’s enough. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [There's No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [Life is a Long Process of Becoming Into...](https://achronicvoice.com/life-is-a-long-process-of-becoming-into/) - [Are You a Capable Person? What Does That Even Mean?](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) Pin to Your Children with Developmental Differences & Disabilities Boards: ![How Art Benefits Children with Developmental Differences. Guest Post by Martin Block. (The hands of children can be seen as they dabble with all types of paints, chalks, beads and other crafts, scattered across a white table.)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-art-benefits-children-with-developmental-differences-painting.jpg) ### References: - Birrell, L., Barrett, E., Oliver, E., Nguyen, A., Ewing, R., Anderson, M., & Teesson, M. (2025). The impact of arts-inclusive programs on young children’s mental health and wellbeing: A rapid review. *Arts & Health, 17*(3), 185–207. - Léger-Goodes, T., Herba, C. M., Moula, Z., Mendrek, A., Hurtubise, K., Piché, J., Gilbert, M., Bernier, M., Simons, K., Bélanger, N., Smith, J., & Malboeuf-Hurtubise, C. (2024). Feasibility, acceptability, and perceived benefits of a creative arts intervention for elementary school children living with speech, language and communication disorders. *Frontiers in Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, 3*. - UNICEF Innocenti – Global Office of Research and Foresight. (2025). *A systematic review on children with disabilities: Arts and culture for inclusion.* United Nations Children’s Fund. **Contributor Bio:** ![](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/blank-profile.jpg) Martin Block is the co-founder of [Able Rise](https://ablerise.net/) and an advocate for digital accessibility and inclusive design. With a background in web development, he focuses on building practical tools that empower the disability community and bridge gaps in societal support. Through Able Rise, Martin aims to create compassionate, technology-driven solutions rooted in lived experience. ### Liam's FND Story & How He Achieved His Dreams URL: https://achronicvoice.com/liams-fnd-story-how-he-achieved-his-dreams/ Last updated: 2026-05-17T09:14:42.000Z ## An Introduction to Liam and Functional Neurological Disorder I am pleased to have Liam Virgo on the blog today — but not glad that he has to live with the poorly understood medical condition, Functional Neurological Disorder (FND), previously known as "conversion disorder". *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the patient(s)' personal experiences. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* [Subscribe for More](#/portal/) Pin to Your Functional Neurological Disorder & Rare Disease Boards: ![Liam’s FND Story — Read about Liam’s diagnosis and recovery process, and how me achieved his dream of visiting London.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/liam-fnd-story-diagnosis-recovery-process-achieve-dream-visit-london.jpg) ### More About FND [Functional Neurological Disorder](https://medlineplus.gov/ency/article/000954.htm) (FND) is a "condition in which there is a problem with how the brain receives and sends information to one or more parts of the body" ((National Library of Medicine \[NLM\], 2024). From moving to walking, speaking, and even feeling and thinking — the [impacts of FND](https://www.massgeneral.org/neurology/treatments-and-services/functional-neurological-disorder-basics) range far and wide within the human body (Massachusetts General Hospital, n.d.). In addition, [FND can branch out into subtypes](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1474442221004221), such as functional seizures and Functional Movement Disorder (FMD). FMD in itself can be further classified into different types based on diagnostic features, including dystonia, jerks, tremors, a disruption to gait and balance, limb weakness and/or other generic motor dysfunctions (Hallett et al., 2022). All combined, this makes FND challenging to diagnose, with no one-size-fits-all treatment plan. ### What Liam Will be Sharing with Us Today For this guest post, Liam will share his personal experiences with FND — from his initial diagnosis, to how he's living with it today. On a side note, I am happy to have another male voice on the blog, as I personally believe that there are not enough perspectives and resources by and for them out there. FND in itself predominantly affects females as well at 60 to 80% (Hallett et al., 2022). Without further ado, let's read what Liam has to say below! ## My Name is Liam, and This is My FND Story When I was a child, I acquired a debilitating chronic illness that would have a major impact on my life for years to come. I went from being a healthy child to one who couldn’t move or even speak. FND suddenly took my mobility and speech and placed me in a wheelchair, then caused me to become bedridden and locked inside my own mind and body. My name is Liam, and I’ve been battling with FND since 2016, when I was 13 years old. This is my story which I’m pleased to be sharing with A Chronic Voice. ## The Beginning Signs & Symptoms of My FND I personally had severe FND, and my symptoms were mainly in the form of paralysis, cognitive and speech problems. My physical and cognitive skills deteriorated to the point where I had all my abilities taken away from me. Within a few days, I had lost my ability to walk and talk, and was rushed to hospital. The doctors were baffled by my mystery illness, and said that I had an unknown disorder. They even filmed my case for medical research for universities around the world. I had so many scans, tests and medical procedures, yet all the results came back as "normal". I had to leave school as it wasn’t safe for me anymore, due to my sudden deterioration. I don’t remember the early days of my illness, and life before it is a blur. Read Related Posts: - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [Learn More About the Super Rare Disease — Esophageal Diverticulum](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) - [What's It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) - [So This is What a Tonic Clonic Seizure Feels Like](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) ## My Functional Neurological Disorder Diagnosis After spending 4 months in the hospital, I was finally diagnosed with severe Functional Neurological Disorder. I had at least 20 [**health professionals involved in my care from across different specialties**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/). For 6 months my mind was blank, and I didn’t know what or who anything was. As my brain's function improved slowly, it was then that I could understand what was happening to me. ### Another Blow from FND, Just as I was Recovering In the midst of regaining function, FND struck again, causing me to lose the ability to sit up. I was given different types of wheelchairs, but nothing was suitable due to my deteriorating posture. It got to the stage where my body couldn't tolerate being on any form of equipment apart from my hospital bed. I was bedridden for 3 years and I felt trapped inside my own body, and uncertain about my future. I wasn't able to talk for a whole year either, but slowly began to regain my voice with determination, and also with the support of my loved ones. The process was painfully slow, but I was determined. With the help of speech and language therapists, slowly but surely, my voice recovered fully. ## My FND Recovery Process & The Dream That Motivated My Progress During the time when I was bedridden, I found comfort in a few things, one of which was London. I saw London on the TV one day while I was bed bound, and thought that I would love to visit it one day. Severe FND meant that I wasn't well enough to go, but it became a dream of mine regardless. The [CAMHS](https://www.england.nhs.uk/mental-health/cyp/children-and-adolescent-mental-health-service-inpatient-services/) (Child and Adolescent Mental Health Service) and a specialist team from [Great Ormond Street Hospital](https://www.gosh.nhs.uk/) created a progress chart that would help motivate me to achieve my dreams. I would get a point on the chart whenever I moved an arm or finger, which meant that I was one step closer to achieving my wishes. Read Related Posts: - [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) - [How Many Times Can You Hit Rock Bottom with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/rock-bottom/) - [Grieving the Life That I Will Never Have (Due to Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/grieving-the-life-i-will-never-have-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [The Road to Recovery is the Longest of Them All](https://achronicvoice.com/road-to-recovery-longest/) ### Learning How to Sit Up on My Own Again After 3 long years, my body felt less stiff as my FND started to improve. I had to relearn how to move my arms and managed to do so within a few months, which was a huge milestone for me. Next, I had to learn how to sit up on my own again. One morning, when my back didn't feel as "locked" and stiff, I was transferred to the specialist [tilt-in-space wheelchair](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1155/2019/4027976). This is a special wheelchair where the seat and backrest can be [adjusted to different angles](https://www.nature.com/articles/sc2010194), and is used for many different rehabilitative purposes (Giesbrecht et al., 2011; Zemp et al., 2019). Even though I could only lift my head slightly above my knees, it was a huge achievement. I was transferred to the chair every day for 10 minutes, which was the maximum amount of time my body could tolerate sitting. I would then need to lie down in bed again. However, just being able to sit in the chair for 10 minutes was another huge milestone. Before that, I wasn't able to tolerate sitting on anything for even one second. Slowly but surely, my body regained strength, and I could tolerate sitting in an upright position after many months. ## My First Taste of Freedom Again After FND Rehabilitation At this juncture, I was given a new wheelchair. It was a tilt-in-space one that had self-propelling wheels, so I could wheel myself if I was able to. My first outing in *years* was to go and collect it from the hospital. It was only the hospital, but to me, it felt like a whole new world ready to explore. I tasted freedom at last, after having been trapped inside my own body and bedridden for so long. This was now my new life — learning to live with FND. I could no longer remember what the world was like before my FND diagnosis, but I now looked at it differently through the lens of a wheelchair user. ### Achieving My Dream of Visiting London When I was well enough, I achieved my dream of visiting London. It is my favourite place, and I’ve been back many times since. It was everything as I had seen, heard and imagined it to be. I love everything about the city — all the buildings, statues, views and more. My next wish is to visit Cyprus. ## A New Chapter with FND — The Start of My Advocacy Work 9 years on from my life-changing illness, I’m learning to walk again. I still have difficult days, but I’m determined to raise awareness about Functional Neurological Disorder and not let it define me. I'm now committed to living my life to the fullest despite my chronic illness. I've discovered a new purpose in raising awareness about FND. I'm grateful for the progress I've made and excited for what’s to come. I'm not letting my FND define me — I'm living life on my own terms. Despite the harrowing experiences with severe FND where it took my voice, body and freedom, I found the strength and resilience to fight through it from somewhere within. It’s been a long, painful and isolating journey, but I’m learning to live with FND — and I’m determined to never give up hope for the future. I believe that even when all feels lost, you can still find a way forward. If you’re living with FND, know that you are not alone. Read Related Posts: - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [The Barriers That Throw Rocks into My Bucket List with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/) - [I May be Chronically Ill, but I'm Also Chronically Resilient](https://achronicvoice.com/chronically-ill-resilient/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Functional Neurological Disorder (FND) & Chronic Illness Boards: ![My FND recovery process, and the dream that motivated my progress. Guest post by: Liam Virgo.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/fnd-recovery-process-dream-motivate-progress-guest-post-liam-virgo.jpg) **Contributor Bio:** ![Liam Virgo headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/liam-virgo-profile.jpg) I'm Liam Virgo, and my life took an unexpected turn in 2016 when I was just 13 years old. I was diagnosed with severe Functional Neurological Disorder and became bedridden. It's been a challenging journey, but I'm determined to live life to the fullest. My condition may have taken away my mobility and speech, but now it's also given me a voice to speak up about FND. Connect with me on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/liamloveslondon). ### References: - MedLine Plus. (20 October, 2024.) *Functional neurological disorder.* - Giesbrecht, E. M., Ethans, K. D., & Staley, D. (2011). Measuring the effect of incremental angles of wheelchair tilt on interface pressure among individuals with spinal cord injury. *Spinal Cord, 49*(7), 827–831\. https://doi.org/10.1038/sc.2010.194 - Hallett, M., Aybek, S., Dworetzky, B. A., McWhirter, L., Staab, J. P., & Stone, J. (2022). Functional neurological disorder: New subtypes and shared mechanisms. *The Lancet Neurology, 21*(6), 537–550\. https://doi.org/10.1016/S1474-4422(21)00422-1 - Massachusetts General Hospital. (n.d.). *Basics of functional neurological disorder (FND)*. Retrieved 2 December 2025, from https://www.massgeneral.org/neurology/treatments-and-services/functional-neurological-disorder-basics - National Library of Medicine. (2024, October 20). *Functional neurological disorder*. MedlinePlus. https://medlineplus.gov/ency/article/000954.htm - Zemp, R., Rhiner, J., Plüss, S., Togni, R., Plock, J. A., & Taylor, W. R. (2019). Wheelchair tilt-in-space and recline functions: Influence on sitting interface pressure and ischial blood flow in an elderly population. *BioMed Research International, 2019*(1), 4027976\. https://doi.org/10.1155/2019/4027976 ### Did You Know... A Chronic Voice is 10 Years Old? URL: https://achronicvoice.com/did-you-know-a-chronic-voice-is-10-years-old/ Last updated: 2026-05-20T16:42:30.000Z Listen to the Audio 0:00 /244.871813 1× *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Personally, I'm surprised that these old website bones are still holding up, what with the advancements in technology and gaudy new AI trinkets! Regardless, I wanted to migrate the website to another platform for a few reasons: - **I'm tired of updating WordPress plugins.** If you own a WordPress website too, then you know that the constant updates are a drag, especially since they break your website half (or more) of the time. Yet, they're crucial for security reasons. - **I didn't want to pay for a gazillion 'essential' WordPress plugins to be viable SEO-wise.** On top of that, I also pay for plugins to keep the site secure, and free from malware and spam. It all adds up to quite a bit, as you can imagine — both in time and money. - **Simply because I got bored of the design, and have always wanted a magazine-feel to the site!** So there we have it 🙂 Pin to Your Chronic Illness Advocacy & Blogging Boards: ![Celebrating 10 years of Blogging, Advocacy, and Friendships Made on A Chronic Voice .com!](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/celebrating-10-years-blogging-advocacy-friendships-achronicvoice.jpg) ## So Where Did "A Chronic Voice" Move to? The website is now hosted on Ghost Pro, which is perfect for a small blog like mine. The migration process was *a lot* more work than I had anticipated, as the import function in Ghost is pretty barebones. ## What I Did and How it Benefits You, Too! I did a mega spring cleaning of ***all* *300+ posts*** plus pages on the website. You don't need to be a web expert or writer to know that what was written 10 years ago is probably cringe-worthy by now, both in terms of technicality and writing style. What this means for you — many posts from the archives have been updated with new (hopefully wiser 😆) perspectives. So even if you've read a post before, you can read it again 😉 ### A Walk Down Memory Lane I had originally wanted to delete all my monthly writing prompt entries as well, as they don't provide much value in terms of SEO. But as I was going through them, I realised that they are in fact, a treasure trove of memories. Many of the posts brought a smile or tinge of sadness to my face. I have housed them all under a new [**‘Diary Entries’ page here**](https://achronicvoice.com/tag/diary-entries/). When you get tired of reading 'science-y' articles, perhaps you can break the monotony up with more freeform, emotion-filled articles 🙂 ### Other Changes That Will Affect Or Benefit You - **Website is *way* faster now.** I don't even need to check the time to compare the load speeds. In Ghost, the pages load up in a flash! So that means a more seamless reading experience for you. - **Newsletter platform and membership merge.** I was previously using MailChimp as my newsletter platform. Since Ghost has a newsletter feature and membership options too, I decided to merge the two for a more integrated experience. If you're familiar with SubStack, the model is very similar. - **No change on your end.** Except perhaps for the newsletter layout! As a current newsletter subscriber, you are automatically considered a 'free member' of the website 🙂 All current public content is free for reading always. - **Comments section.** This is now restricted to members only (including free members), as I received way too much spam previously on WordPress. I also wanted it to move towards a more community feel. - **Should you wish to unsubscribe at any time**, you can click on the 'unsubscribe' link at the end of this post as well. Thank you for reading this lengthy welcome message, and why not [**take a peek at the new website here**](https://achronicvoice.com/)? 🙂 I wish you a lovely week ahead and thank you for being a part of this community! Pin and Help Share the Word!: ![Did You Know... A Chronic Voice is 10 Years Old?](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/did-you-know-a-chronic-voice-10-years-old.jpg) ### Why I Need to See More Than 10 Different Types of Doctors Regularly URL: https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/ Last updated: 2026-05-04T15:47:48.000Z ## From 10 to 15 Different Types of Doctors on My Healthcare Team I was reading this post the other day, and realised that I had originally written it 10 years ago. Back then, I was 'only' seeing around 10 different types of doctors on a regular basis. Now, the body count has increased to 15 - which excludes other healthcare professionals who aren't technically considered doctors, but still important players on my medical team (such as my dietitian and physiotherapist). Then there's also the other medical specialists I see on a *less* frequent basis. Needless to say, I had to update the post. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. Whilst I have done my best to be meticulous in research, *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Different Types of Doctors & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Why I Need to See 15 Different Types of Doctors Regularly (Medical equipment and pills can be seen in the blue background behind.)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-15-different-types-of-doctors-regularly.jpg) ![Why I Need to See More Than 10 Different Types of Doctors Regularly. Find out more on A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/why-i-need-see-more-than-10-different-types-of-doctors-regularly.jpg) ## The Complexity of Autoimmune Diseases [Autoimmune diseases](https://www.autoimmuneinstitute.org/understanding-autoimmune-disease/) are a complex beast (Global Autoimmune Institute \[GAI\], n.d.); like a hydra with poisonous heads that have the ability to regenerate and multiply as comorbidities. No two patients are the same; we share the same illness only by namesake. There is no go-to medication to treat them, such as antibiotics for a common flu. Every patient's cocktail of drugs is obtained from years of trial and error, and also with much blood, sweat and tears. More often than not, such patients need to see many different types of doctors, due to the [systemic nature of many autoimmune diseases](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1155/2013/728574) (Shi et al., 2013). Personally, I need to see at least 15 different types of doctors on a regular basis. ## Is There Really a Need to See *That* Many Different Types of Doctors? As you well may know, the body operates as one unit. A dysfunction in one system can impact another, whether as a direct or indirect consequence. For instance, [many autoimmune diseases manifest as problems within the oral cavity first](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1155/2018/6061825) (Saccucci et al., 2018), which may seem totally unrelated at first glance. Various medical departments contribute their expertise to manage these symptoms as a whole. Following up with only one doctor is usually insufficient, even if they're knowledgeable within their specialty. So for those who are wondering why we're scurrying off for *yet another* appointment (didn't she just see her doctor last week?!), or were curious as to what purpose each different type of doctor serves, here's a little peek into our lives. ## 1\. Rheumatologist - My Most Important Doctor Out of all the different types of doctors, my [rheumatologist](https://rheumatology.org/rheumatologist) (American College of Rheumatology \[ACR\], n.d.) is hands down the most important specialist on my healthcare team. You probably have a go to primary care physician (PCP)/general practitioner (GP) whom you visit whenever you feel ill. For me, the equivalent is my rheumatologist. This is because [**I have so many autoimmune diseases and comorbidities**](https://achronicvoice.com/about/) that are beyond what a GP can help me with. In fact, I hardly visit GPs anymore unless I know what I need from them specifically, such as medications for a cough. Otherwise, they usually just direct me to the nearest A&E out of fear. ### What My Rheumatologist Helps Me with Specifically My rheumatologist takes care of my autoimmune conditions together with me, namely Systemic Lupus Erythematosus (Lupus), Sjögren's disease and Antiphospholipid Syndrome. I see him the most frequently out of all my doctors, as we need to ensure that both the symptoms of these diseases, and also the medication side effects are all under control. Or as close to 'under control' as we can get them to be. He is also the doctor who refers me to other specialists, should he suspect the involvement of a particular organ, or detects other problems. Perhaps he heard some unusual sounds gurgling in my heart, or found a mysterious lump on my foot. He then refers me to a cardiologist or foot surgeon respectively for further investigation. Read Related Posts: - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) - [Bloody Mutations into Lupus](https://achronicvoice.com/rock-bottom/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) ## 2\. Cardiologist (Heart Doctor) [Cardiologists](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/21983-cardiologist) are doctors who take care of the heart and the blood vessels related to it. They treat a variety of diseases such as heart attacks, atherosclerosis, heart valve problems and more (Cleveland Clinic, 2024a). My rheumatologist first referred me to a cardiologist after he detected strange sounds coming from my heart about 15 years ago. The cardiologist then ordered an [echocardiogram](http://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/echocardiogram/basics/definition/prc-20013918), which is an ultrasound test for the heart (Mayo Clinic, 2024). We learned that the [mitral valve in my heart had prolapsed](https://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health-topics/mitral-valve-prolapse), and that the sounds were a result of blood leaking back into my lungs (National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute \[NHLBI\], 2022). [**I eventually needed to get a mitral valve repair (MVR) done at Cleveland Clinic**](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) in the U.S., as I was getting progressively breathless over a year. The repair was done using an [annuloplasty band](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/22224-annuloplasty) that's made of gore-tex material (Cleveland Clinic, 2021). I've had to see a cardiologist on a regular basis ever since, to monitor for any changes or new problems with my heart. (P.s. 15 years later, I now have [mitral valve stenosis](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/21903-mitral-valve-stenosis) (Cleveland Clinic, 2023b), which will eventually require an open heart surgery). ## 3\. Heart Rhythm Specialist Yes, I see two different types of doctors for my heart, who look after different aspects of the same organ. You may be surprised at how fine-grained all the different medical specialties can be! And no, heart rhythms are not something my cardiologist knows too much about. It isn't because she is stupid; they are just a whole new ball game from heart valves. I guess you could view the cardiologist as a mechanic, and the heart rhythm specialist as an electrician. It is like the difference between the science of measuring electric currents, versus operation of the actual machine itself. The mitral valve prolapse (MVP) I had probably led to the [heart rhythm disorder/arrhythmia](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/heart-arrhythmia/symptoms-causes/syc-20350668) (Mayo Clinic, 2023). [**I have something called paroxysmal supraventricular tachycardia**](https://achronicvoice.com/heart-rhythm-disorder/) (PSVT), which causes my heartbeat to accelerate out of control when it falls into a wrong loop. ## 4\. Neurologist (Brain Doctor) About a year after I was first diagnosed with Lupus, I was diagnosed with [epilepsy](https://www.epilepsy.com/what-is-epilepsy), which is a neurological disorder that causes abnormalities in brain waves, which then trigger seizures (Epilepsy Foundation, n.d.). I was officially diagnosed with epilepsy after undergoing an [electroencephalogram](https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/treatment-tests-and-therapies/electroencephalogram-eeg) (EEG) test, which measures brain waves (Johns Hopkins Medicine, 2024). Whilst the [neurologist](https://healthcare.utah.edu/neurosciences/neurology/neurologist) (University of Utah Health, 2021) claims that my epilepsy isn't related to my other chronic illnesses, I personally think that all my illnesses are connected or impact each other in one way or another. Out of all the medical specialisations, I have found neurology to require the most guess work as well, which just goes to show how much we still don't know about this super important organ. What usually happens during my appointments with my neurologist is that I update him on my latest brain-related symptoms. This might be extra brain fog, [visual field auras](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4519021/) (Spencer, 2015), giddy spells brought about by buzzing sounds, or something else. He then makes a conclusion based on my word, and adjusts my medications as needed. From there it is a waiting game until the next appointment, and the next. You need to be incident-free for at least two years before medications can be reduced, or subsequently stopped. I have yet to be off my medications after 15 years, as I still experience visual field auras on a weekly basis. Read Related Posts: - [So This is What a Tonic Clonic Seizure Feels Like](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) - [5 Things You Should Know About My Epilepsy (It’s More Than Just Seizures)](https://achronicvoice.com/epilepsy-more-than-just-seizures/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Healthcare Boards: ![15 and counting... All the doctors I see to manage my chronic illnesses. (A bandaged teddy bear can be seen, with first aid tools in front of it.)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/all-doctors-see-manage-chronic-illnesses.jpg) ## 5\. Psychiatrist (Mental Health Specialist) I first started seeing a [psychiatrist](https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/what-is-psychiatry) (American Psychiatric Association, 2023) after I begged my doctor to refer me to one about a decade ago. [**My steroid medications give me anxiety**](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/), but for the most part I just bore with it. I reached a breaking point when I caught tuberculosis (TB) however, as they had to double my steroid dose due to interactions with the TB meds. The 30 pills I was taking every day wreaked unspeakable havoc on my mind and body. It also worsened my heart rhythm disorder, so I had to rush to the A&E every few days. I hardly saw anyone except hospital and medical staff for a year. [**I was diagnosed with clinical depression and anxiety**](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) by the psychiatrist, which stemmed from both the TB and long-term steroid usage. I believe the chronic pain I experienced over the years was starting to take a heavy mental toll, too. She started me on an antidepressants which I need to take on a daily basis. She also gave me some 'emergency medications' for [**acute bouts of panic attacks**](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/). ### More on How the Psychiatrist has Helped Me If you live with chronic pain and have been wondering if you should see a psychiatrist (or another mental health professional) or not, the answer from me is a resounding "yes". Before I was put on antidepressants, I had no idea how out-of-whack my brain was, and that there were actually solutions. Whilst the medications do not remove the depression, anxiety or pain entirely, I have managed to return to a functional level because of them. I actually don't see the mental health problems going away anytime soon, so I will need to see my psychiatrist regularly, too. In addition, she works in tandem with my neurologist, as some of the medications used can overlap with those for epilepsy. ## 6\. Psychologist (Another Type of Mental Health Specialist) Different states and countries have [different requirements to be a clinical psychologist](https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/blog/why-family-matters/201904/do-you-need-doctorate-be-clinical-psychologist) (Browne & Smith, 2019), so I'm just going to include them here on the list of different types of doctors I see. Even though I was seeing a psychiatrist, I was curious as to what the difference was as compared to a [psychologist](https://www.apa.org/education-career/guide/science) (American Psychological Association, 2013). I wanted to know which specialty was more suited to my needs. What I learned instead is that a psychiatrist and psychologist have very different skill sets. Whilst they both deal with mental health issues, their approach and scope is very different. I came to realise that I needed both a psychologist and psychiatrist on my healthcare team for that period of time. The psychiatric medications I was on helped to staunch the so-called 'mental wounds and infections', whereas the counseling sessions were the balm that soothed it, and aided with recovery. [I found the counseling sessions so helpful](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/my-inner-child-and-the-angry-girl) that I continued to see my psychologist on a monthly basis for quite some time, even after she told me that I didn't need her help anymore. Whilst I haven't seen a psychologist in years, I might be booking an appointment with a new one again soon. A myriad of new chronic illnesses and disabilities have pushed me to a new breaking point, one which I am having trouble coping with on all levels - physical, mental and emotional. Read Related Posts: - [Is Seeking Help for Your Mental Health Worth It?](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [Give Your Best Anyway, Even When You’re Feeling Depressed](https://achronicvoice.com/give-your-best-even-when-feeling-depressed/) - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) ## 7\. Gynaecologist (for General Women's Health) I truly wish that I were seeing a gynaecologist for pregnancy reasons, but unfortunately, it's because [**I've had two deadly ovarian cyst ruptures**](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/), no thanks to the medications I take for Antiphospholipid Syndrome. I met my current gynaecologist - who is a high-risk gynaecologist - in the hospital ward, after one of these near-death episodes. Now, I have a birth control implant in my arm to prevent further episodes. These need to be changed only every 3 years, but I do see her more frequently than that as she also does my PAP smear and other tests related to women's health. ## 8\. Gynaecologic Oncologist (Cancer Specialist for Women's Health) I was going for regular check ups with another [gynaecologist](http://www.gynaecologist.sg/) (Gynaecologist Singapore, n.d.) previously, and had two [dilation and curettage (D&C) procedures](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK568791/) (Cooper & Menefee, 2023) done by her. (Needless to say, the jobs were poorly done, so I am seeing the other gynaecologist mentioned above instead now.) Anyway, she sent me to a [gynaecologic cancer specialist](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/departments/obgyn-womens-health/depts/gynecologic-oncology) (Cleveland Clinic, n.d.), after we discovered two different types of precancerous cells that had spread all over my female reproductive system. It was critical to get checked asap as I was on immunosuppressants, meaning that the cells could spread more easily as compared to a healthy person. The gynaecologic oncologist proceeded to cauterise these precancerous cells - both [in my cervix](https://www.cancer.gov/publications/dictionaries/cancer-terms/def/cin-3?redirect=true) (National Cancer Institute \[NCI\], n.d.), and [on the surface of my skin](https://www.cancerresearchuk.org/about-cancer/vulval-cancer/stages-types-grades/stages-grades) (Cancer Research UK, 2023). I still need to follow up with him on a fairly regular basis, to ensure that these precancerous cells are not making a comeback. On a side note, the original advice from my previous gynaecologist was to cut out my entire cervix. I was strongly against this, but am grateful that she was willing to put me in contact with someone else still. Bottom line is - always seek a second opinion before doing anything drastic. Different doctors even within the same specialty can have pretty extreme opinions; find one whom your research and gut instinct sits well with. ## 9\. Ophthalmologist (Eye Doctor) [Ophthalmologists](https://www.aao.org/eye-health/tips-prevention/what-is-ophthalmologist) are medical doctors who "specialize in eye and vision care". They diagnose and treat various eye diseases and vision disorders, and also perform eye surgery if needed (Churchill & Gudgel, 2025). I need to see an ophthalmologist on a yearly basis, as the medications I take to control the Lupus and Sjögren's can cause blindness, especially [hydroxychloroquine](https://www.aao.org/eyenet/article/hydroxychloroquine-induced-retinal-toxicity?june-2011). The medications can also lead to other eye problems such as cataracts and visual field defects (Hansen & Schuman, 2011). I also have this "blind spot" in my left eye, which happened after the [**pulmonary embolism and multiple DVTs episode I had**](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) when I was 17\. Whilst the ophthalmologist asks me every year if the blind spot is still there, they have yet to identify a problem within the eye itself, which leads me to believe that it is an injury within the brain of some sort. They [dilate your pupils with some eye drops](https://aapos.org/browse/glossary/entry?GlossaryKey=37182552-8081-4f19-91a5-ee34f973bfdf) during these eye checks so that they can examine them properly (American Association for Pediatric Ophthalmology & Strabismus \[AAPOS\], 2023). It is impossible to go back to work for up to 6 hours after even if I wanted to, as everything on my screen becomes too bright and fuzzy. ## 10\. Dentist ### Salivary Gland Issues with Sjögren's Disease Whilst we should all see our [dentists](https://ncrdscb.ada.org/recognized-dental-specialties) on a regular basis (National Commission on Recognition of Dental Specialties and Certifying Boards \[NCRDSCB\], n.d.), it is extra important for those of us with [Sjögren's disease](https://www.niams.nih.gov/health-topics/sjogrens-disease), as our salivary glands can dry out (National Institute of Arthritis and Musculoskeletal and Skin Diseases \[NIAMS\], 2024). Apart from its role in lubrication and breaking food particles down, [natural saliva](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3312700/) also contains certain enzymes that has anti-infective properties (Tiwari, 2011). A dry mouth can lead to bacterial or viral infections, which then leads to gum or tooth decay if left untreated. During bad flares from Sjögren's disease, I need to constantly rinse my mouth with [Oral 7](https://www.oral7.com/) moisturising mouthwash. I also smear the Oral 7 mouth gel all over the insides of my mouth before sleeping, which acts as a protective coating in place of natural saliva. It also lends brief relief from the discomfort of dryness, which can be [**more painful than you would imagine**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-bearable-not/). ### TMJ Disorder & Sleep Bruxism Issues Apart from reasons related to Sjögren's disease, I also need to see my dentist for [TMJ disorder and sleep bruxism](https://nourishdentalcare.com/bruxism-and-obstructive-sleep-apnoea-neuropathic-pain-case-study-14/) (teeth grinding) issues (Nourish Dental Sleep & TMJ Care \[NDC\], 2025). I have managed to break my molar tooth from bruxism before, and [broke it again recently whilst chewing on some Christmas ham](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/broken-tooth-christmas-eve). Because of these issues, I had to have a customised mouth guard made by my dentist. I need to wear this to sleep every night to prevent yet more damage to my teeth. Fun times. Pin to Your Different Types of Doctors & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Why I Need To See 15 Different Doctors On A Regular Basis](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-15-different-doctors-regular-basis.jpg) ## 11\. Orthopaedic Surgeon (Sports Medicine) I don't have to explain to you by now, but there are also a ton of specialties under [orthopaedics](https://www.abos.org/about/what-is-orthopaedics/) (American Board of Orthopaedic Surgery \[ABOS\], n.d.). As a whole, they take care of the [musculoskeletal system](https://www.msdmanuals.com/home/bone-joint-and-muscle-disorders/biology-of-the-musculoskeletal-system/introduction-to-the-biology-of-the-musculoskeletal-system), which includes muscles, bones, tendons, ligaments, joints and other bits and pieces (Villa-Forte, 2025). Orthopaedic surgeons tend to specialise on one particular area of the body; for example, the hand versus the feet or ankle. Ironically, my orthopaedic surgeon specialises in sports medicine, even though chronic illness and disability has made me less active. This is because sports injuries can be pretty violent, and my knees broke pretty violently by themselves. [**The incident rendered me disabled overnight**](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/), and left me [**bed bound for a year**](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/). Whilst I need to see my orthopaedic surgeon on a less frequent basis now, he is still on my emergency to-dial list because my disabilities are kind of permanent. I can't squat or run anymore, and my knees feel like wooden blocks. ## 12\. Upper Gastrointestinal Surgeon Gastrointestinal issues are a whole new minefield for me, one that I have no clue how to navigate yet. Like with many other chronic conditions, and like what the upper GI doctor said, symptoms and treatments are highly individual. I recently had esophageal surgery done to 'fix' my [**esophageal diverticula issues**](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) that were causing regurgitation whilst sleeping. Unfortunately, the surgery seems to have opened new cans of worms. I now have [Dumping Syndrome](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK470542/) (Hui & Bauza, 2023), which affects the lower part of my digestive system, and also [severe acid reflux](https://www.nejm.org/doi/abs/10.1056/NEJM199409083311007) (Pope, 1994), [where I throw up non-stop at night](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/post-esophageal-surgery-now-my-life). It also seems like there isn't much they can do for me, except to add more medications to my already long list of daily medications. I am still experimenting with foods and medication dosages to see what works. This process can sometimes cause more pain, but I don't have any other choice but to try and figure it out. Read Related Posts: - [Learn More About the Super Rare Disease – Esophageal Diverticulum](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) ## 13\. Colorectal Surgeon / Proctologist Of all the clinics I have been to, this tends to be the one packed with the oldest folks. I first saw a [colorectal surgeon](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/24409-colorectal-surgeon) (Cleveland Clinic, 2022) at the hospital for chronic [rectal bleeding](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK563143/) (Sabry & Sood, 2023) and [haemorrhoids](https://www.health.harvard.edu/diseases-and-conditions/hemorrhoids%5Fand%5Fwhat%5Fto%5Fdo%5Fabout%5Fthem) (Harvard Health Publishing, 2025). Visits tend to be quick (although you wait for hours) - a finger or tube up your bum, and he's done. I also see a private colorectal specialist on the side, because when I get symptoms the pain is acute, and I need pain relief like *yesterday*. My private colorectal specialist also made some calls and we managed to get a biopsy done at the same time as my esophageal surgery. It was a good thing that we did, because we learned that I have [AIN 3](https://www.cancerresearchuk.org/about-cancer/anal-cancer/stages-types/number-staging/stage-0-anal-intraepithelial-neoplasia), which are precancerous cells (Cancer Research UK, 2025). This means that I will definitely need to get surgery done at some point to remove them. It also means that I probably need to see a colorectal surgeon for life, to ensure that they don't recur. ## 14\. Respiratory Medicine Doctor / Pulmonologist I see a [pulmonologist](https://www.lung.org/blog/know-your-providers-pulmonologist) (Kimble, 2019) for several reasons. I have scarring in my lungs from various medical incidents - the pulmonary embolism at 17, the bout of tuberculosis, and also from chest tube insertions and lung infections due to various surgeries. I follow up with the respiratory medicine department on a fairly regular basis now, to ensure that any current defects are not becoming abnormal. Or *more* abnormal. ## 15\. Infectious Disease Specialist [Infectious disease doctors](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/25022-infectious-disease-doctor) specialise in diseases that can spread to others. This includes a wide range of diseases, including but not limited to: HIV, measles, tuberculosis, COVID-19, and certain bacterial infections (Cleveland Clinic, 2023a). I need to follow up with my infectious disease specialist on a fairly regular basis, just to monitor certain latent but permanent illnesses. (Don't worry, they're not that easily spreadable or they would have locked me up by now.) ## Other Healthcare Specialists Who are Not Doctors (But Still a Vital Part of My Healthcare Team) ### 16\. Rheumatology Nurse Clinician My rheumatology nurse clinician works in tandem with my rheumatologist, and does a lot of work behind the scenes. These nurses follow up on problems of a smaller scale, or of a more predictable or routine nature. For example, I always see my rheumatology nurse clinician before and after surgeries to [**titrate my warfarin and clexane doses**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) (anticoagulant medications). ### 17\. Physiotherapist Physiotherapists are not medical doctors, but they do work closely with various surgical departments in order to rehabilitate patients. I was only allowed to start physiotherapy [**6 weeks after the knee surgery**](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/), and by then most of my leg muscles had already wasted away. Increasingly, patients who are going for planned surgeries need to go for [prehabilitation](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0007091221007959), too. The physiotherapy's role is to help the patient build up their strength with the aim of a faster recovery post surgery (Gillis et al., 2022). I last saw a physiotherapist for this reason a few months ago. If I wanted to, I could probably request for a new referral to gain access to their specialised services and gym equipment needed to work out safely. Read Related Posts: - [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) - [The Chronic Pain Cycle & How to Break It (Top Tips From an Occupational Therapist)](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/) - [Is Yoga Accessible for People with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/) - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) ### 18\. Dietitian A [dietitian](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/dietitian) (Cleveland Clinic, 2024b) is not a doctor, but they are still a key part of my healthcare team. My dietitian works with my upper GI doctor, with the combined aim of reducing my symptoms through dietary changes. They also monitor my weight to ensure that I am within a healthy range. Personally, my dietitian has been more enlightening than my upper GI surgeon thus far, in terms of tips on how to manage the Dumping Syndrome and acid reflux issues. My surgeon simply prescribed medications 🤷🏻‍♀️ Read Related Posts: - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) - [Dysphagia & Swallowing Problems (and How Oral Vitamin Sprays Can be of Help to You)](https://achronicvoice.com/dysphagia-oral-vitamin-sprays/) - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) Pin to Your Healthcare & Patient Care Boards: ![Healthcare Specialists Who are Not Doctors (But Still a Vital Part of My Healthcare Team)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/healthcare-specialists-not-doctors-vital-part-healthcare-team.jpg) ## All the Other Different Types of Doctors I've Seen (and Might See Again) As anyone with a chronic illness can testify, many of our symptoms can come and go in the blink of an eye. Often there is no explanation, and doctors are just as confused. The conclusion is always that it is an 'idiopathic condition', or a 'birth defect'. As a result, I have seen hand surgeons, urologists, haematologists, sleep specialists (somnologists) and many other medical specialists. I have even sought out various doctors within the same field for second, third and forth opinions. It is amusing [**how much an opinion can cost**](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/), seeing that they are often unwanted on a regular day. Apart from medical doctors, many patients with chronic illness and disabilities also need to work with other health-related specialists for various reasons. A few examples are: a physical therapist to help with pain management, or an occupational therapist to [**improve home accessibility**](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/). ## Conclusion as to Why I Need to See So Many Different Types of Doctors The next time someone says that they have a chronic illness or disability, know that they often see more than just one doctor. Medical appointments can feel like a full time job on some days, and eat into your entire day. I've spent up to 6 hours just waiting for medical test reports, appointments and to collect medications. It's worse at the Accident & Emergency (A&E), where it can take days to get a bed should you need to be warded. I hope that this post has been insightful as to why people with chronic illness and disability need to see so many different types of doctors on a regular basis. Each of our 'doctor mix' can also vary greatly. Some of us see the same type of specialist for different reasons, too. 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Science behind human saliva. *Journal of Natural Science, Biology, and Medicine, 2*(1), 53–58\. https://doi.org/10.4103/0976-9668.82322 - University of Utah Health. (2021, April 6). *When to see a neurologist.* https://healthcare.utah.edu/neurosciences/neurology/neurologist - Villa-Forte, A. (2025, January). Introduction to the biology of the musculoskeletal system. *MSD Manual Consumer Version.* https://www.msdmanuals.com/home/bone-joint-and-muscle-disorders/biology-of-the-musculoskeletal-system/introduction-to-the-biology-of-the-musculoskeletal-system ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Dec 18, 2020 And this is what leads to full doctor burnout, which no one ever addresses or even thinks about... - [ Claire ](http://throughthefibrofog.com) Dec 16, 2020 Oh gosh yes. I also have a neurologist, two rheumatologists... - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Dec 17, 2020 It’s crazy isn’t it! A time sucker, money sucker, energy sucker... **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### We Want to Have Fun Just Like You, But Here’s What it Takes with Chronic Illness URL: https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/ Last updated: 2026-01-06T14:55:07.000Z ## Do We Even Want to Have Fun at All? So [**your friend with chronic illness**](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) has rejected your party invitation…again. Or they’ve included a list of T&Cs just in case they have to bail last minute. What’s up with that? Do they hate you or something? I booked a champagne brunch the other day for the boy’s birthday and thought, why not use it as a real life example to provide insight? Shall we go through the experience together? *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Social Wellness Boards: ![We Want to Have Fun Just Like You, But Here’s What it Takes with Chronic Illness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness-pin.jpg) ## The Physical and Mental Preparation It Takes If We Want to Have Fun I got lucky with this booking. It was only on one specific date, the prices were reasonable, and it had magnificent views on the 43rd floor! I was anticipating his happiness, which fueled my excitement. I checked the date again – perfect. It wasn’t around the ‘bad weeks’ of my period, where extra inflammation occurs. I started to keep a close watch on my INR using my blood test machine, and adjusted my diet to maintain an optimal range. If I was going to consume alcohol, I had to make sure that my blood wasn’t too thin, and this does not change overnight. [**Sometimes I need to avoid leafy greens for a while**](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) to normalise it (you heard me right). I made sure that I had enough exercise, especially the day before the champagne brunch itself. That always seems to help take some stress off my body from alcohol consumption. I braced myself for one to two weeks of downtime and possible pain, as alcohol and inflammation go hand in hand. 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My boyfriend did not force me to drink; it was my decision to celebrate with him. I mean, I do want to have fun and feel like a ‘normal person’ from time to time, too. I took a sip of champagne to judge its effects. It was delicious, but I started to feel dizzy and ill after only half a glass. So I slid it across the table to the birthday boy, and switched to red wine. I wondered where the inflammation would strike first; it is always a lucky draw. You have heard the word ‘inflammation’ mentioned a few times by now. What does it mean in this instance? They usually appear as angry red swells that can clump up on any body part. [**I’ve had big lumps on my forehead**](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) before (who knew there were so many blood vessels between that flat patch of skin and skull?!). It struck like clockwork after two hours. The swollen wrist I had from the day before was now a bloated, unbendable chunk of meat. The muscles in my upper arms started to throb with aches, and I had mild vertigo. A sudden wave of nausea struck me when we stood up to leave. Descending 43 floors wasn’t much fun. Thank goodness there was no one else with us, as I looked unglamorous squatting in my dress. I had forewarned my boyfriend that we might have to hop into a cab straight home after, and this was exactly what happened. I passed out in bed the moment we got home, and this was just from 2.5 glasses of wine! I was experiencing nausea and swelling without any of the happy effects. That was a bit upsetting, especially after all my careful planning. If I am going to feel sick, at least let me have a bit of fun! 😉 ## The Post-Event Downtime I had ran through all the possible scenarios in my head, but wasn’t prepared for the internal inflammation that occured this time. It did cause me to panic a little, as my stomach felt bloated and swollen for days. I [**worried about internal bleeding**](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/), so I kept a close eye on all my vital signs and daily activities. That might sound a bit paranoid, but as someone with multiple chronic illnesses, it [**doesn’t take much to trigger a catastrophe**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/). I spent the following day in bed unwell, and utilised whatever energy I had to make a simple stew for dinner. It soothed the stomach to my relief, as that was a sign that there were no blockages from gut swelling. I recovered after a few slow days, which was a pleasant surprise. I had actually set aside and been prepared for up to two weeks of discomfort. ## Was That Really Worth the Pain? You might have been muttering expletives whilst reading this piece. Or you might be judging me now for my incredible stupidity. Why would I even do that, especially when I knew the possible consequences?! Well, I do it for the exact same reasons as anyone else – to have a good time! And I do enjoy [**getting involved in the ‘normal world’ once in a while**](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/). It is pretty hit or miss with me when it comes to alcohol, so I save these wildcards for special occasions with my favourite people. On the good days, I actually have a lot of fun, although the downtime is the same. You can imagine the level of exhaustion a ‘relaxing’ Friday night out might bring. The pain and fatigue might even last throughout the whole of the next work week. Would I do it again? Without a doubt! It’s fun and I get to bond with people in a different way. It just requires a lot of planning, and willingness to take some damage (not recommended [**during bouts of bad flares**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/)!). I have also decided long ago that keeping myself in a bubble isn’t exactly being alive either. Am I advocating for you to go wild and party hard? Of course not. All I wanted to do was use a single experience to illustrate the amount of effort it can take for us to socialise. ‘Casual’ barbeque events have cost me just as much energy and pain. What I *am* saying is – have some fun if you can, your way! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. 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I don’t drink much and can’t drink wine at all, yet on Christmas, I decided to do a brunch, had white wine, and didn’t even recognize myself. What a mess afterwards! But I had fun and for once in 2020, I felt normal. This Saturday I’m having a small afternoon get-together with some friends for my birthday. I am going heavy on the cake and will likely stick to a glass or two of beer because it doesn’t seem to hit me as hard. But the upper arm pain and swollen stomach and everything else you’ve mentioned here – it never fails! So frustrating! (But I’m still planning on enjoying that time!) - Ann Feb 26, 2017 For me, sugar seems to be the enemy — it makes me fatigued and my joints hurt more. I wish I had more energy. I do reiki and that’s a big help. Sheryl, you sound like you’ve had a rough road. Have you asked your angels for help? Clean diet is a big deal. Good luck to you, - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Feb 26, 2017 Hi Ann, Yes I believe sugar does play a big role, but I do have a sweet tooth 😡 I am glad reiki works for you. Thank you for taking the time to read and comment! 🙂 - Amy Oct 18, 2016 You have a different set of health conditions than I do, and therefore very different symptoms, but I still recognize myself in this. I have to spend days — sometimes weeks — gearing my body up for a special event, and sometimes I run into huge problems no matter how well I’ve planned and prepared. But yes, absolutely, it’s worth it to get out of the house, see some friends, have whatever fun my body will allow. Even when I’m laid up for days afterward, it’s worth it. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Oct 18, 2016 Dear Amy, Thank you for taking the time to read and comment 🙂 And I’m glad you understood the message I was trying to get across with this article, as there has been some backlash on other channels that focussed on the alcohol aspect of it. But just this week I went to visit a friend and her kids, and am now paying for it just the same 😉 I hope you get more good days than bad for the rest of the year. Wishing you lots of inspiration for your photography and writing. Keep it up! 🙂 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I've Learned) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/ Last updated: 2026-05-11T15:51:20.000Z ## Dating with Chronic Illness – A Thorny Topic Dating with chronic illness is no easy, straightforward feat for either party. Questions like this are all over Quora and Reddit: “[Would you date or marry a person with chronic illness?](https://www.quora.com/Would-you-date-a-person-with-chronic-illness)”. So I thought I’d share my perspective, as a person who’s chronically ill and disabled. Over the years, I’ve been in long-term, short-term and even long-distance relationships. I’ve also tried various dating apps, and met partners through friends. I much prefer the latter, but it does get harder the older you get! P.s. The original version of this post was published on 26 February, 2017 (8 years ago!). More insights into dating, relationships, self-worth, disability and chronic illness have been added 🙂 *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Dating & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned). Read the post on A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness-what-ive-learned.jpg) ## Just Like Chronic Illness, Every Relationship is Unique I’ve been fortunate enough to have had relationships with partners from extreme ends of the spectrum. It gives me insight into different perspectives, which enables me to identify and appreciate certain characteristics better. Their opinions about our future together were diverse, and so were their attitudes towards my daily health struggles. Before going further, I’d like to state that the purpose of this article isn’t to bash anyone at all. Everyone is entitled to how they want to live their lives, and who they want to do that with, for better or for worse. ### Partners Who Saw My Chronic Illnesses as a Liability My first relationship was with a guy whose greatest desire was to start a family of his own, and it troubled him that I never seemed to get better. He did not like the open-ended, variable timetable of my chronic illnesses. Neither did he want to start with a ‘deficit’ before even trying for a child. I underwent a few surgeries whilst we were dating, and he felt tormented that he could do ‘nothing’ to make it better. Yet, he never provided any emotional support, and would often bail out on the bad days. I ended up having to be stronger for him, because ‘it was difficult for him too’. I would always give in to him, because I thought that I had less rights to my own opinions. It was already a burden for someone to be with me, what more could I ask for? #### **Dates Who Tried, Then Ran** I’ve also dated men who were willing to try things out for a couple dates, but who were constantly analysing my limits. This isn’t too fair in my opinion for several reasons. First, I have good and bad days, and you might be seeing me during a bad week. Second, and this is applicable to healthy individuals, too – it takes a bit of time to truly know who a person is, both the good and bad. Third, their assessment of my capabilities is usually inaccurate, because it tends to be biased. Unfortunately, when you’re chronically ill or disabled, people tend to hyperfocus on the limitations and judge you more keenly and immediately. Then there are those dates where they see me arrive with a walking stick on a bad day. We have a short, polite chat, before they run for the hills and hide themselves behind a wall of silence. Whilst this feels unpleasant, I have learned to accept that it’s all part of the dating game, sick or otherwise. #### **Divorced Partners are Not Necessarily More “Chill”** There was a period of time I said to myself, “well, let’s wait for all the married men to get divorced. They should be wiser and more open-minded now, and realise that there’s more to a relationship than chronic illness”. This turned out to be false. I obviously can’t speak for all divorced men, but the ones I have personally interacted with were fairly extreme. They were either paranoid (“you haven’t replied to my message in 24 hours, even though there are two blue ticks!”), or fixated on a certain ideal (hyperfocused on a singular quality, to the exclusion of all other qualities). Chronic illnesses still bothered most of them. Divorced men are not necessarily wiser than an unmarried person. They are still human, with strengths and flaws alike. 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He saw me at my worst, yet never once treated me as a lesser human being. I know for sure that life will never be easy with me, yet it was a non-issue to him. He claims that there is nothing wrong with me at all, and that I didn’t affect his lifestyle. Another revelatory phrase he made was that every relationship has its own set of problems anyway, whether the partners were sick or healthy. (You can [**read more brilliant utterances about relationships he made in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/cool-truths/).) I found that I grew with him as a person, because of his support to the very end. He never undermined any desire I had for education, which comes in many forms. Apart from the intellect, it also consists of life skills, hobbies, and most importantly, self-awareness. Mental and invisible health issues are often seen as suspicious in the eyes of the public, but I never felt stigmatised by him. I could display my psychological and physical pains at the level of torture that they were truly at. That brought so much relief - just to have someone who believes you, and who never belittles the impact your experiences have on you. Whilst we have broken up, we are still friends, and I visit him and his family every Christmas. I am genuinely happy for him, because I believe people like him truly deserve the best that life has to offer. Read Related Posts: - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [What’s It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) ## The Most Important Thing I’ve Learned from Dating with Chronic Illness If there’s one I’ve learned over the years from dating as a person with chronic illness, it is to have some respect for myself. If I were dating someone who treated me with contempt, resentment or blame, then I – a person with chronic illness and disability – would leave them. With age, experience and the freedom I have had to grow, I’ve learned that I am worth just as much as any other person out there. So what if my illnesses are permanent? There is only one me amongst the *billions* of us on this planet, and we are all worth something in that regard. In fact, an aura of quiet self-confidence and knowing your inherent self-worth can be attractive traits to potential partners. You are as deserving of love as any other human being; we are all part of the same world, and return to dust just the same. ### All Human Beings Need a Little Help to Get by in Life There is no doubt that a person with chronic illness will need more help than someone who is healthy just to get by. Many situations might test your patience, question your love and flirt with your morality. In modern day culture, independence is a revered trait, and we like to think that we are independent beings. But that is not how humanity has thrived over the centuries. [We are social creatures built for community](https://hbr.org/1998/07/how-hardwired-is-human-behavior). It is an important aspect of social well-being. Yes, even introverts need a touch of human connection every now and then, in order to thrive. And no human being is truly independent, anyway; just cut off their oxygen supply for a minute. We all depend on something to survive and thrive – a relationship with a chronically ill or disabled person also has the potential to help you develop as a person, and to live a fulfilling life ultimately. Perhaps even more so, because it will force you to reflect on your priorities, purpose and goals in life more than you would otherwise. Pin to Your Dating & Life Lessons Boards: ![The Most Important Thing I’ve Learned from Dating with Chronic Illness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/most-important-thing-learned-dating-with-chronic-illness.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Are You a Capable Person? What Does That Even Mean?](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [Asking for Help (and Why Everyone Needs to Learn this Important Life Skill)](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) ## How Chronic Illness & Disability has Influenced the Way I Approach Romantic Relationships To be honest, after having faced several life-and-death situations, I’ve become more stoical than I already was to begin with. Acceptance took me years to grasp, and I often need to learn to accept a new diagnosis all over again. However, I will vouch that it is the best coping tool and strategy that has enabled me to live my life, despite chronic illness. And if we’re being completely honest here, I am still grieving the [**loss of function in my knees**](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/). Grief and acceptance are two sides of the same coin; they come and go like visitors, and are not linear processes. I actually adopt this mindset of acceptance when I approach relationships and dating with chronic illness as well. “Whatever will be, will be”, “que Será, Será”. For example, I never worry if my partner is going to cheat on me. If they do, then I will just up and leave – obviously it wasn’t meant to be. Interestingly, this bothered a boyfriend, as he assumed that it meant that I didn’t like him enough to care. However, I’ve dealt with way more harrowing experiences, so I consider many everyday problems as trivial. You could say that it’s a bit like scar tissue – tougher, but less sensitive, which can be both a good and bad thing. Pin to Your Chronic Illness, Disability & Relationships Boards: ![My Experiences Dating With Chronic Illness - The Good And Bad](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/experiences-dating-with-chronic-illness-good-bad.jpg) ![Dating - How chronic illness and disability has influenced the way I approach romantic relationships](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/dating-how-chronic-illness-disability-influenced-approach-rmantic-relationships.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [So This is What a Tonic Clonic Seizure Feels Like](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years ](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) ## Other Insights I’ve Gained from Dating with Chronic Illness & Disability Whilst it is true that anyone can become disabled at any time, this fact doesn’t sink into healthy people’s brains regardless. I can’t blame them for that, as the devastation of chronic illness and disability is impossible to grasp, unless you live that reality yourself. [Humans are also wired for self-preservation](https://dictionary.apa.org/self-preservation-instinct). This means that they instinctively avoid things that may contribute towards the eradication of their lives or legacies. If I’m going to be logical, health is wealth. Who doesn’t want to be healthy? So yes, we are starting out with a deficit in life. However there is an extremely fine line between worth1 and worth2 that people often confuse. What do I mean by that? [This statement from Positive Psychology](https://positivepsychology.com/self-worth/) helps to clarify it a little: > “Self-esteem is what we think and feel and believe about ourselves. Self-worth is recognizing ‘I am greater than all of those things.’ It is a deep knowing that I am of value, that I am loveable, necessary to this life, and of incomprehensible worth.” In brief, people often confuse self-worth – where every human being is inherently valuable, and deserving of love and respect – with material or tangible value. It’s an issue of feeling secure or insecure. In a ‘modern’, capitalist era, it’s not that much of a shocker either, as we’ve been exposed to such ideals from our childhoods, and our parents may have even placed an emphasis on it. ## My Best Tips for Dating with Chronic Illness The communication style, character, values, sense of humour and lifestyle of all the people I’ve dated were vastly different. So it’s been an interesting, though admittedly exhausting, ride thus far. I also broke both my knees fairly recently, [**no thanks to Lupus and long-term steroid treatment**](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/), plus [**developed yet more chronic diseases**](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/). These unasked for additions have definitely made dating much harder, as my disabilities become more and more apparent. Sure, rejection from being chronically ill and disabled stings, but it’s also for the best. I would be walking on eggshells, if I were with a partner whom I had to constantly prove and pretend I was healthy to. ### Dating Tips for the Chronically Ill & Disabled Here are a few of my personal golden rules, when it comes to dating with chronic illness and disability. Your list might look different, based on your own comorbidities, life experiences and personality. 1. **Have some self-respect.** If a potential partner disrespects you in any way, leave. It’s better to be single than with someone who doesn’t treat you right. This will only compound problems in your life, such as [**mental health issues**](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/). 2. **Be open-minded and explore.** Yes it’s true – the more nets you cast, the more fish you get. This strategy definitely doesn’t work for everyone, due to a myriad of reasons, such as limited energy, religious beliefs, etc. But I believe in trying things out. I mean, it’s just one date over coffee or dinner. At worst, you waste some time and discover that you’re incompatible. The reasons may not even be related to chronic illness – it happens to regular people, too. At best, you find your special person. Whilst I’m not an extrovert, I take it as an opportunity to socialise. I also believe that I can learn something from every person I meet – even from the bad dates. In that sense, there is no loss. 3. **Do they offer to pay for the first date?** I am definitely not looking for a free meal and will refuse the offer, but this simple act of generosity tells me a few things. Basically, if they can’t even be generous financially, which is arguably the easiest, then how generous can they be with other more important or ‘difficult’ aspects of life, such as quality time, medical emergencies, or if you had kids? 4. **Just be yourself.** In the wise words of Dave Grohl, “No one is you and that is your biggest power”. You might be surprised who falls in love with you - the real you. In the mess and glory of your full humanity. Even Joker has his Harley Quinn, so that gives me hope. 5. **Know that you will face rejection, and be okay with that.** Whilst we might face more romantic rejections than an abled individual, there is an upside to that as well - we only get to be with the best sorts of people on this planet. In that sense, chronic illness is an automatic filter that sifts out the bad eggs. 6. **Know your self-worth.** It is also important to be aware of your self-worth at all times - whether you’re single or in a relationship. Ironically, it was chronic illness that forced me to hone this awareness through acceptance. Self-acceptance isn’t an admission of failure; rather, it asks us to put our ego aside in order to unlock possibilities, be at peace, and regain a sense of freedom. Pin to Your Dating, Disability & Chronic Illness Boards: ![My Best Tips for Dating with Chronic Illness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/best-tips-dating-with-chronic-illness.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [Keeping Up with the World: Why it’s Important Despite Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) ### Dating Tips & Insights for Potential Partners So, someone interesting has caught your eye. You think that they may be your ‘type’ of person. The ‘problem’? They have a long-term illness or disability. This section addresses some questions you may have, but are unsure who to ask, or if it’s appropriate to ask. I will try to be as unbiased as I possibly can. 1. **Understand that there is no perfect partner or relationship.** Every single person brings a new dynamic to a relationship. There are pros and cons to each dynamic. Decide what matters most to you most. 2. **Don’t ghost.** What’s up with ghosting these days? This is my number one pet peeve when it comes to dating in general. If you decide that it’s not going to work out, do the courtesy of letting the other party know, so they get some closure. Why lead someone on before disappearing into the ether? 3. **Shift your perspective.** Something interesting my ex-turned-boyfriend-again said to me: “Your chronic illnesses have some advantages, too. It enables me to have my own space, alone time, and time for other friends”. I’m always happy to oblige because it means I get some me-time as well, without feeling pressured to do ‘coupley things’. Don’t get me wrong. Coupley things are important, as they generate memories and build bonds. But as a person with chronic pain and fatigue, my energy bar is limited, and I need more downtime than others. Another caveat – said boyfriend is older now, so he’s seeking different experiences in life as well. Age does play a part to an extent. In a sense, his body has ‘caught up’ a little with mine. Whilst he’s definitely still a social creature, he also appreciates time at home a little more now. So we watch films and play chess at home, and go out for the occasional brunch, party or exhibit. ## Conclusion to Dating with Chronic Illness This article is a sum of my experiences in regards to dating with chronic illness and disability thus far, but the story hasn’t ended yet. (Does it ever end, really?) I am still learning as I go along, and will add to this post should I gain any other insights. I would also love to hear about your experiences in regards to dating with chronic illness or disability. What were your best and worst experiences, and why? If you’re happily married, how do you make it work? I would love to learn more from you as well! And finally, if you’re an able-bodied individual, I’d love to hear your thoughts, questions and concerns as well. You can post an anonymous comment if that makes you feel more comfortable. I promise to be as open-minded and non-judgemental as I can. I believe in open, proactive discussion, as opposed to allowing misconceptions or fears to fester in the dark closet of your mind. Happy dating to one and all - I hope you find your special person ♥️ ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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Read Related Posts: - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does ‘Normal’ Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Featuring People with Illnesses, Passions & Talents](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-people-illnesses-talents/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [A Page From a Sick Girl’s Diary: Sometimes I Wish I was an Old Person](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girls-diary-wish-old-person/) Pin to Your Dating with Chronic Illness & Disability Boards: ![Dating with chronic illness (and what I’ve learned). Read on: A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness-what-ive-learned-polaroids.jpg) ### My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/ Last updated: 2026-04-17T16:02:18.000Z ## Two New Diagnoses - Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum & Mitral Valve Stenosis Whilst I haven’t heard much good news in a long time, I did not expect 2025 to be a harbinger of such terrible news. It seems like I will need to get two major surgeries done, one for a severe mitral valve stenosis, and the other for an epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum. Well technically, epiphrenic esophageal diverticula, since there are two of them. Oh, and [I also broke my molar tooth on Christmas Eve](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/broken-tooth-christmas-eve), so that was a bonus. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum & Rare Disease Boards: ![Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum — My personal experiences, plus tips to help cope. Read the Post on A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips-cope.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Learn More About the Super Rare Disease – Esophageal Diverticulum](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) - [My Second Brush with Death: A Broken Heart (Literally)](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) - [What’s it Like to Live with a Heart Rhythm Disorder?](https://achronicvoice.com/heart-rhythm-disorder/) - [MediSearch Review: A Medical AI Search Engine for Patients, Clinicians & Medical Writers](https://achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/) - [Latest Research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) ## Classifications for Esophageal Diverticulum To be honest, the diagnosis for epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum scares me more than the mitral valve stenosis, only because it’s so rare. In practice, [esophageal diverticulum is divided into a few different types of classifications](https://jtd.amegroups.org/article/view/71937/html) from an anatomical and etiopathogenic point of view (Constantin et al., 2023). They are also subdivided based on their location. [WebMD summarises the different types of esophageal diverticula here](https://www.webmd.com/digestive-disorders/esophageal-diverticulum), although the classifications can get even more fine-grained than that (Whitten, 2024). However, from what I’ve gathered after reading multiple medical journals, there is currently no agreed upon standard for treatment. Classifications for the disease itself are not even ‘finalised’, so to speak. Meaning there is no handbook or protocol for doctors or surgeons to refer to for this condition, and it’s mainly ‘play by ear’. Both my surgeon and doctor at the hospital have only seen one case in their career. I’ll talk about the stenosis in a separate post, as I would like to focus on my diagnosis and symptoms for epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum in this one. This post is part of a two-part series. I will share my personal experiences in this one; you can [**find more research and facts on esophageal diverticulum in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/). ## How I Learned About My Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum I reluctantly admitted myself to the A&E/ER one evening, as my forearm was bloated and swollen. It felt like my skin was going to burst. The only reason I had gone to the A&E was because the GP had assumed it was an abscess. The rheumatology team saw me the next day, whilst I was snoozing along the corridor of a random ward. They were collectively certain that it was a blood clot, considering [**I have Antiphospholipid Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/), a blood clotting disorder. A few scans and tests later, they were all surprised that it wasn’t a blood clot, neither was it a fracture. They did however, find some liquid near my lung, and the outpouching characteristic of esophageal diverticulum. According to Constantin et al. (2023), “[somewhere between 0.06 - 4% \[of epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum\] are discovered incidentally](https://jtd.amegroups.org/article/view/71937/html), radiologically”. The swollen arm and liquid in the lung subsequently resolved on their own. In fact, when they wheeled me in to do a pleural biopsy, they wheeled me back out as the surgeon said that ‘there was nothing to biopsy’. This is why I rarely rush to the A&E for every pain, even if extreme. Living with chronic illness means constant pain, and the occasional weird symptom. My own rheumatologist said that the esophageal diverticula probably have been there for some time. He also said it was probably unrelated to my other autoimmune diseases, though I really beg to differ. I personally think it doesn’t make sense that none of my long list of medical conditions are related. Read Related Posts: - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [Why I Need to See 10 Different Doctors on a Regular Basis](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) ## My Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum Symptoms According to Sato et al. (2023), the [main symptoms of esophageal diverticulum](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12328-023-01765-2) are “dysphagia, regurgitation, weight loss, heartburn, respiratory complaints, and retrosternal pain when swallowing food”. My own biggest problem was and is regurgitation, especially whilst asleep in the middle of the night. I wake to violent fits of coughing, as my esophagus tries to purge the food trapped within the pouches. Sometimes my throat is so irritated that I vomit. In fact, it happened twice again last night. At first, I had simply assumed that it was GERD/acid reflux, as I am on long-term steroid therapy for Lupus and Sjögren’s disease. Plus I drink way too much coffee, and my eating habits are not the best (yes, sue me). When I received the diagnosis for epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum, everything made so much more sense. Other symptoms I’ve had to date are: minor incidents of dysphagia (trouble swallowing food), and being really gassy. My digestive system makes a lot of weird noises, and I feel bloated and uncomfortable. These are sporadic with no fixed pattern. My doctor has said before that I probably have Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS) too, so I’m not sure what’s triggering what. Chronic illness comorbidities are fun like that. In addition, my throat often feels scratchy, as if there are tiny specks of food trapped within it, plastered to the ‘walls’. There are ‘better’ and worse days as well. On the ‘better’ days, the symptoms are mostly quiescent with some minor coughing. On bad days, that ‘stuck’ feeling is there for almost 24 hours, and I am unable to eat without vomiting. ### My Increase in Symptoms The symptoms rapidly became worse over time. I am now being involuntarily woken almost every night by violent coughing, regurgitation and vomiting. On a ‘better’ night, I wake once or twice. On a ‘bad’ night, that would be at least every 2 hours. Combine that with horrendous chronic urticaria that antihistamines barely alleviate, it means that I hardly get a good night’s sleep. In fact, that happened again last night, as I was up until 6am scratching and coughing. Unsurprisingly, this isn’t great for my physical or mental health, as I feel extremely frayed at the edges, and completely worn out. What sort of life is this, if I am in pain and discomfort both day and night? What makes it even more depressing is that there is no medication to even relieve some of the symptoms either. Pin to Your Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum & Motility Disorder Boards: ![My Symptoms For Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum - Read The Post](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/my-symptoms-epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Dysphagia & Swallowing Problems (and How Oral Vitamin Sprays Can be of Help to You)](https://achronicvoice.com/dysphagia-oral-vitamin-sprays/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [How Much Time Are You Wasting On Sleep?](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/) ## More Information About Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum This section covers more about epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum specifically. You can [**read the research post for more information about esophageal diverticulum in general**](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/). My two diverticula are mainly epiphrenic in nature (towards the tail end of the esophagus), although one is slightly higher up. Out of the various types of esophageal diverticulum, [epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4235103/) comprises less than 10% of all cases, with an estimated incidence of 1:500,000 per year (i.e. 1 out of *half a million* people) (Abdollahimohammad et al., 2014). The most common is Zenker’s diverticulum, which occurs at the top end of the esophagus. According to Alicuben et al. (2023), [patients with epiphrenic esophageal diverticula are symptomatic only about 10% to 20% of the time](https://books.google.com.sg/books?hl=en&lr=&id=xmGvEAAAQBAJ&oi=fnd&pg=PP23&dq=epiphrenic+esophageal+diverticulum&ots=0o4vbaWSoF&sig=hs-aOtti78ZTa5oPhaaZbuFSsW4&redir%5Fesc=y#v=onepage&q=epiphrenic%20esophageal%20diverticulum&f=false). Symptoms tend to begin when the [diverticulum becomes bigger than 5cm](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4235103/) (Abdollahimohammad et al., 2014). Having said that, both my epiphrenic esophageal diverticula are a little smaller than 5cm, and I have been progressively symptomatic. I’m unsure if that’s good or bad luck. Good because I guess, well, treating something earlier is usually better than later. Bad because the symptoms are obviously not fun. ### The Complications of Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum Many [symptoms of epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum](https://www.degruyter.com/document/doi/10.7556/jaoa.2009.109.10.543/html) are similar to other gastrointestinal and common medical conditions, such as acid reflux or side effects of NSAIDs. As a result, many patients with epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum are diagnosed late, which can lead to further complications, such as “gastrointestinal bleeding, aspiration pneumonia or cancer” (Conklin et al., 2009). The incidence of cancer in patients with epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum is around 0.3% to 3%, and it is often at an advanced stage when discovered (Conklin et al., 2009; also see: [Hjern et al., 2015](https://academic.oup.com/bjs/article-abstract/102/1/119/6136641)). According to Constantin et al. (2023), there is also the [risk of developing esophageal cancer](https://jtd.amegroups.org/article/view/71937/html), around 10 years after symptomatic esophageal diverticulum. ### Some Other Characteristics of Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum [According to Constantin et al. (2023)](https://jtd.amegroups.org/article/view/71937/html) there is “no correlation between size and retentive character” for epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum in particular. That means that food and liquid can get stuck regardless of the size of the epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum, to give rise to symptoms. In addition, “one of the early signs of food stasis in a pharyngeal-ED \[esophageal diverticulum\] is the appearance of hydro aerial noises when ingesting fluids”. As a result of food stasis, sialorrhea (hypersalivation) occurs (Constantin et al., 2023). After reading that, I wondered if my drooling at night is a consequence of the epiphrenic esophageal diverticula. But as I need to wear a mouthguard for bruxism and TMJ disorder issues as well, I suppose it could be multifactorial. Pin to Your Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum & Rare Disease Boards: ![More info about epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/more-info-epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [How to Survive the Holidays When Chronic Illness & Disability Cause Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/survive-the-holidays-chronic-illness-disability-pain/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) ## Confirmation of My Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum Diagnosis - a Barium Swallow Test After the incidental finding of the epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum, I was scheduled for a barium swallow test. This is [one of the more definitive tests for esophageal diverticulum](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1043067920302720), and also certain motility disorders such as achalasia (Sudarshan et al., 2021). I was made to drink a chalky liquid at intervals, as the medical team watched and timed the flow under [fluoroscopy](https://medlineplus.gov/lab-tests/fluoroscopy/) (a type of x-ray that shows the movement of organs in real-time) (National Library of Medicine, 2024). The mixture tasted quite nice to me, a bit like yoghurt, but don’t take my word for it as the technician said that no one else likes it. The doctors’ biggest concern was achalasia, which the team decided that I did not have based on the test. They were also able to measure the size of the diverticula and gather other information from the barium swallow test. ## Other Essential Preoperative Tests for Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum I will need to get surgery done in my surgeon’s opinion. Whilst it’s a fairly high-risk surgery, I am going to agree with him, as the symptoms are becoming unbearable and interferes with my life every day. Some preoperative tests will need to be done, namely an upper endoscopy and manometry. Whilst the surgeon has said that the manometry might not be necessary since we’ll need to do a fundoplication (an anti-reflux procedure) during the Heller’s myotomy (surgery) regardless, I insist upon it. This is because epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum mostly stems from a motility disorder, so it is best to treat the underlying cause if so. Whilst the fundoplication might treat any existing motility disorder, I think it’s best to actually know what the disorder is, if there is indeed one. According to Alicuben et al. (2023), “failure to identify and treat the underlying motility disorder during diverticulum resection has been associated with [high rates of recurrence and leak along the staple line](https://books.google.com.sg/books?hl=en&lr=&id=xmGvEAAAQBAJ&oi=fnd&pg=PP23&dq=epiphrenic+esophageal+diverticulum&ots=0o4vbaWSoF&sig=hs-aOtti78ZTa5oPhaaZbuFSsW4&redir%5Fesc=y#v=onepage&q=epiphrenic%20esophageal%20diverticulum&f=false) in the range of 10% to 20%.” They also state that, “specifically, failure to perform an adequate myotomy in such patients has yielded leak rates exceeding 25% when diverticulectomy alone is performed”. 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The advice I was given by the gastroenterologist was rather generic, and there aren’t many tips online either. The closest I have found for managing epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum are general esophageal soft food diet tips. A list of [esophageal soft food diet tips can be found on the Cedars Sinai (2018) website](https://www.cedars-sinai.org/blog/esophageal-soft-diet-guidelines.html), and includes: eating slowly in small amounts, chewing thoroughly, drinking fluids whilst eating to flush the food down, sitting upright whilst eating and up to 60 minutes after, avoiding food 3 hours before sleeping, avoiding caffeinated beverages, avoiding tough meats, abrasive foods and breads with chewy textures, and to stop eating when you start to feel satiated. This is pretty much what the gastroenterologist has advised me to do for symptom management of my epiphrenic esophageal diverticula. You may or may not have trouble digesting food in and of itself with epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum. However, many of the symptoms mimic those of esophageal cancer or a motility disorder. Thus, many of the symptom management tips closely resemble these diseases. It also largely depends on your personal symptoms, how and when it affects you. For instance, regurgitation whilst sleeping is my biggest symptom, so my management plan might look different from yours, if you mostly get dysphagia instead. Dietary changes and eating times are primary ones, however. According to Yam et al. (2023), “if patients are not surgical candidates, then [management with diet changes](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK532858/) such as eating bland food and drinking water after every bite to help flush any food out of the diverticulum is recommended”. Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Pain Management Boards: ![Epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum symptom management](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-symptom-management.jpg) ## How I’m Personally Managing My Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum Symptoms It’s been a lot of trial and error for me, personally. I have a rough idea of which types of food cause the most damage, having learned the painful way. By sharing these personal experiences, I hope that it saves you some pain. There are also a few things I want to try but have yet to do them regularly, so I’ll update the post after I’ve experimented with them a bit more. One thing I’d like to try is stretching to aid with digestion, and make it a nightly routine. It seems safe and simple enough to try and implement. ### Dietary & Lifestyle Changes I rarely eat at regular timings, so I’m trying to work on that. I think it’s helped a little, mainly because there is less acid reflux, which can also contribute to irritation along the digestive tract - which includes the esophagus. The most painful episode for me so far was eating a bag of risotto chips at night, because I thought that rice crackers would be less abrasive and easier to digest than potato or corn chips. I was proved so terribly wrong, as I was up all night coughing and vomiting every 2 hours, and even the entire day after as well. I now have a phobia of anything crunchy, and avoid them especially at night. #### **Food Textures Matter a Great Deal** I’ve found that foods that are either crunchy or flaky to be the worst, and also anything with lots of ‘specks’ in it, such as black peppercorns. I probably don’t have to explain ‘crunchy’ to you - stuff like crisps, deep-fried chicken and certain cereals. ‘Flaky’ includes bread, sugary candies like [soan papdi](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00CH4CPVE?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=561ca9489ba72005e8e9bb74e3b2af07&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) (which I love), ginger slices, and basically anything that can be broken down into strips, if that makes sense. Bread, especially sliced bread with lots of ‘air pockets’ tends to be the worst. This is because they get chewed up into tiny specks that ultimately become trapped in the pouches of the esophageal diverticula. I can feel them tickle at my throat, begging to be spat out. And when they refuse to budge, my body reacts and expels them via vomiting. The suggestion to ‘eat bland food’ does not appeal to me in the least bit, because I have also developed a phobia after only eating bland food for months on end whenever hospitalised. I call it ‘sick people food’, and the thought makes me depressed. However, the pain and discomfort from the esophageal diverticula means that sometimes, that’s worth the sacrifice. #### **Avoid Supper at All Costs, if Possible** My sleeping hours are very irregular, as one night of painsomnia can trigger a domino effect for days. So I tend to eat supper, especially if I hadn’t had much to eat earlier on in the day. Whilst the gastroenterologist did say not to eat 2 hours before sleeping, I find that I need to avoid eating right after dinner. It was difficult at first, because my body had been primed to want to eat at night. It’s much better now though. That little change does make a rather big difference. I did try drinking fruit juice at night as I thought it was categorised as a ‘liquid diet’, but that didn’t work out too well for me at all. The fibre from the fruits tend to be like ‘strings’, so those get trapped in the esophageal diverticula pouches, too. According to Marcin (2024), such fruits are hard to digest because [fibre “isn’t digested by your body”](https://www.healthline.com/health/easy-to-digest-foods). Whilst the esophagus is technically before the digestive juices start their action, I guess this rule applies too, but in a different way. I’m learning as I go along. Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Pain Management Boards: ![Learning to live with the rare disease - epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/learning-live-rare-disease-epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum.jpg) ### Foods That are Fine for My Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum For more substantial meals, soups and stews (including stewed meat and vegetables), work best for me so far. As stews are boiled for a long period of time, this helps to break the food product down partially. In a gross metaphorical sense, they’ve been ‘pre-chewed’ a little to make things easier for you. I eat less white rice than the average Asian, as it makes me feel quite bloated if I have too much of it. It is still a staple, and apart from bloating, doesn’t cause too much distress. I suppose that’s because they’ve been dehusked and are cooked, making them soft and less fibrous. Noodles and pasta are also okay in general, as once again, I guess it’s because they’ve been cooked at high temperatures. Other foods I can tolerate with the epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum are: mashed potatoes, eggs, fish, spreads (like jams and compotes), any cooked meat or vegetable, and yoghurt. Things that are okay on the ‘naughty’ food list for me include: ice cream, marshmallow, bingsu (Korean shaved ice dessert), sorbet, jelly and custard. ### Foods That Cause Pain for My Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum Foods that cause me the most pain, in hierarchical order, include: crisps/chips, sliced bread, cookies and biscuits, and high-fibre fruits. Whilst some of these foods can be quite plain, remember that it isn’t so much that your stomach has trouble digesting them. Rather, the pouches from the esophageal diverticula trap some food products more so than others. The time of consumption matters as well. So if I want to try my luck eating one of these food items, it’s safer to try it as early on in the day as possible. Northwest Minimally Invasive Surgery (2021) has an information page for patients who have had esophageal or stomach surgery, but the advice is pretty relevant for epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum, too. They state that “it is important that foods consumed be smooth in texture to facilitate the movement of food through the swollen areas of the esophagus or stomach. Bread products that can expand with fluid are avoided entirely”. They also have a [list of foods allowed and foods to avoid](https://www.northwestmis.com/procedure/esophageal-and-stomach/esophageal-soft-food-diet/) that makes total sense to me. The list is similar on the [Cedars Sinai (2018) blog about esophageal dietary guidelines](https://www.cedars-sinai.org/blog/esophageal-soft-diet-guidelines.html) as well. ### Experimenting with Supplements & Medications for Symptom Relief I was suffering from two days of bloatedness and regurgitation a while back, and just randomly thought I’d try some magnesium. The justification being that [magnesium is an essential mineral](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1155/2018/9041694) for the proper functioning of over 300 enzymes in the body, which includes muscle relaxation and digestion (Al Alawi et al., 2018). I took a magnesium carbonate effervescent tablet, and was amazed to find that it helped to relieve the epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum symptoms a fair bit. I’m not sure how the esophagus is associated, but hey, it helped with some relief from two days of discomfort. Placebo or not, I’ll take it as a win, and something to add to my pain management toolkit. (I personally like the range of [effervescent tablets from Voost](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09RP5FVZV?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=a4066a24deef7e52bf8aa203eaf41cc9&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl).) However, do note that this ‘trick’ isn’t fail-proof. Half the time it doesn’t work and I still wake up coughing and regurgitating. So I guess the magnesium simply aids with digestion and relaxation in general, which probably has an indirect effect on my body overall. Interestingly, I did a search about it the next day, and found that magnesium supposedly helps some people who have achalasia. I couldn’t find any papers for it though, as esophageal diverticulum is a rare disease. [Healthline has a list of the different types of magnesium supplements](https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/magnesium-types), which is interesting general knowledge (Hill, 2023). Cough syrup also surprisingly seems to help with the non-stop coughing, even though it’s irritation from the esophagus, instead of the trachea/windpipe. I suppose it suppresses the urge to cough regardless? Having said that, both my parents are having an extremely bad cold and cough at the moment, so perhaps I’ve caught the bug, too. I’ll wait for a couple more weeks before concluding on the cough syrup relief. Pin to Your Soft Food Diet & Chronic Pain Boards: ![Epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum - foods that are okay or not okay for me](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-foods-okay-not-okay.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) - [Is Yoga Accessible for People with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/) ## Conclusion on My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum In sum, epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum is an extremely rare disease with limited research comparatively, so symptom and pain management are mostly through trial and error. Whilst it is not deadly in and of itself unless something rare happens (such as a rupture that will not stop bleeding), it tends to worsen over time. There is also a very small risk of esophageal cancer further down the road. It has definitely ruined my quality of life, especially with the regurgitation whilst sleeping at night. The dietary and lifestyle changes are annoying, because managing my other chronic illnesses is demanding enough. Whilst I am certainly not looking forward to yet another high-risk surgery in a relatively short span of time, I really hope that I feel better after I recover from it. I’ve read a few Reddit threads on other patients’ experiences with Heller myotomy and fundoplication surgeries, and some of the aftereffects sound really painful and scary. But I guess I don’t really have much of a choice, do I? If you’ve never had surgery or been chronically ill - the [**healing process is actually the worst**](https://achronicvoice.com/road-to-recovery-longest/), only because it’s the most boring, painful and helpless period. All you can do is wait for the pain to subside and the wounds to close, which can take months and sometimes, years. But I guess, hope for symptom relief is what keeps me, and others like me, going. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. 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Management of Epiphrenic Diverticula and Short-term Outcomes. *Seminars in Thoracic and Cardiovascular Surgery, 33*(1), 242–246\. https://doi.org/10.1053/j.semtcvs.2020.08.017 - Whitten, C. (2024, February 20). *What to Know About Esophageal Diverticulum*. WebMD. https://www.webmd.com/digestive-disorders/esophageal-diverticulum - Yam, J., Baldwin, D. L., & Ahmad, S. A. (2023, April 24). Esophageal Diverticula. In *StatPearls \[Internet\]*. StatPearls Publishing. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK532858/ ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Sue Jackson ](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/) Apr 17, 2025 Wow, Sheryl — this sounds just awful. Your diagnoses just keep piling up! And through it all, you have such a positive attitude and just keep learning and teaching others. I’m sorry you’re going through all this. I hope both surgeries are successful and bring you some relief (and don’t knock you down for too long). Sue [Live with ME/CFS](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/) - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Apr 17, 2025 Hi Sue, thank you for reading and checking in — I appreciate it 🙂 Yes, I think you know the drill, as someone who’s chronically ill too lol. They’re really eager to pile up, aren’t they?! Sending gentle hugs and hope you’ve been well too. Wishing you many more road trips to come! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Learn More About the Super Rare Disease — Esophageal Diverticulum URL: https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/ Last updated: 2026-04-30T17:37:44.000Z ## Why am I Writing About the Rare Disease, Esophageal Diverticulum? The short answer is because I was recently diagnosed with it, although symptoms have been accumulating for some time now. I had simply assumed that all the regurgitation and vomiting, even in the middle of the night, were due to acid reflux. If not for an admission to the A&E/ER for something completely unrelated, the doctors would never have found it. The esophageal diverticulum was an incidental finding after I did a CT scan. According to Constantin et al. (2023), “[somewhere between 0.06 - 4% \[of epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum\] are discovered incidentally](https://jtd.amegroups.org/article/view/71937/html), radiologically”. Anyway, I have decided to split this into a two part series. You can [**read about my personal experiences with epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/), which details my struggles with it, and also things I’ve done to try and manage it. This post will focus entirely on research I’ve done thus far, as a patient. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Read Related Posts: - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) Pin to Your Rare Disease & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Learn More About the Super Rare Disease — Esophageal Diverticulum](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/learn-more-super-rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum-read-blog.jpg) ![All the Things We Don’t Know About Esophageal Diverticulum — Learn more about this rare disease that affects less than 1% of the population globally.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/all-things-dont-know-about-esophageal-diverticulum-rare-disease.jpg) ## A Brief Look at the Esophagus / Oesophagus In order to understand what certain terms mean and the implications of the different types of esophageal diverticulum, we first need to understand a bit about how the esophagus works. The [esophagus](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/body/21728-esophagus) is the “hollow, muscular tube that carries food and liquid from your throat to your stomach”, and is part of your digestive system (Cleveland Clinic, 2021b). It is approximately 9 to 10 inches long (23 to 25 cm). The [esophagus itself is made up of four layers](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK532858/) \- the mucosa, submucosa, muscularis and adventitia (Yam et al., 2023), and can be [divided into three anatomical segments](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK482513/) \- cervical, thoracic and abdominal (Chaudhry & Bordoni, 2023). ### Peristalsis The main function of the esophagus is to transport food from the mouth to stomach, and it does that through a series of muscular contractions known as [peristalsis](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/body/22892-peristalsis), which is an automatic wave-like movement that happens within the digestive tract (Chaudhry & Bordoni, 2023; Cleveland Clinic, 2022). [According to Nehra et al. (2022)](https://pubs.rsna.org/doi/full/10.1148/rg.220052), “the proximal one-third of the esophagus is composed of striated muscle, the distal one-third is composed of smooth muscle, and the middle one-third contains a mixture of striated and smooth muscle”. Peristalsis in the different muscle types is controlled by different types of neuronal activity. The lower esophageal sphincter is also made up of smooth muscle segments. This allows for the smooth passing of food into the stomach, and also prevents gastroesophageal reflux (Nehra et al., 2022). Some other keywords in relation to the esophagus are: - **Esophageal lumen** \- the inside of the esophagus - **Esophageal sphincter** \- a ring-shaped muscle that contracts and expands - [**Mediastinum**](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/body/24113-mediastinum) \- The centre area of the chest between the lungs, where the esophagus, heart, thymus, trachea and other structures can be found (Cleveland Clinic, 2022b) ## What is Esophageal Diverticulum? [Esophageal diverticulum is a rare disease](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK532858/) with a prevalence of less than 1% globally (Yam et al., 2023). Patients with esophageal diverticulum have an outpouching within the esophagus, and the disorder is categorised based on anatomical location and type. ‘Diverticula’ is the plural term, where there are more than one diverticulum. ### Esophageal Diverticulum Based on Anatomical Location There are primarily [three types of esophageal diverticula](https://jtd.amegroups.org/article/view/71937/html) \- Zenker’s, mid-esophageal and epiphrenic, running from top to bottom of the esophagus (Constantin et al., 2023). [Within the pharyngoesophageal space](https://surgicalcasereports.springeropen.com/articles/10.1186/s40792-023-01599-7), they can be further categorised as - Zenker’s, Killian-Jamieson and Laimer’s, once again based on where they occur (Watanabe et al., 2023). Here is a great [illustration that shows the differences between these three types of diverticulum](https://www.researchgate.net/figure/Anatomy-of-the-hypopharynx-Killian-Jamieson-space-and-its-relation-to-the-recurrent%5Ffig1%5F342651751), from a left lateral and posterior view (Zakaria & Barawi, 2020). Then there is also a diffuse type, known as “diffuse intramural pseudodiverticulosis” (DEIPD) (Constantin et al., 2023), which is a “[chronic, fibrosing inflammatory disease](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/jgh3.12750)” (Hentschel, 2022). Iatrogenic diverticulum has also been added as a category recently. As its name suggests, it happens post treatment - peroral endoscopic myotomy (POEM)-type endoscopic therapy, in this instance. Such treatments are often used for late complications of achalasia (a swallowing disorder) (Constantin et al., 2023). Whilst esophageal diverticulum is a rare disease, the most common tends to be Zenker’s diverticulum - the one that occurs at the top of the esophagus. Esophageal diverticula are also more commonly found in the elderly, and in men as opposed to women (Yam et al., 2023), so I guess that makes me one lucky dark unicorn again. ### Esophageal Diverticulum by Type There are [two ways that an esophageal diverticulum forms](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/16977-esophageal-diverticulum) \- pulsion or traction, with the former being more common. ‘Pulsion’ simply means pushing, whilst ‘traction’ means pulling. Therefore, pulsion diverticula push against the esophageal wall, whereas traction diverticula are ‘sucked in’, which lead to the formation of indentations in the esophageal wall (Cleveland Clinic, 2023). [According to Sato et al. (2019)](https://www.wjgnet.com/1007-9327/full/v25/i12/1457.htm), pulsion esophageal diverticula form due to “inadequate relaxation of either the upper esophageal sphincter (UES) or the lower esophageal sphincter (LES), causing an increase of intraluminal pressure resulting in a herniation of the esophageal wall in an area of low parietal resistance”. Traction esophageal diverticula on the other hand, involves “adhesion and traction on the esophageal wall in the presence of a mediastinal inflammatory focus, resulting in the formation of a diverticular pouch”. To simplify that explanation, a pulsion esophageal diverticulum is due to pressure within the esophagus. This leads to an abnormal bulge in the weaker areas of the esophageal wall. Traction esophageal diverticulum on the other hand, is caused by inflammation within the mediastinum. This pulling effect leads to the formation of pouches within the esophagus. #### **True Versus False Diverticula** Esophageal diverticulum can be further classified as either ‘true’ or ‘false’. According to Yam et al. (2023), true diverticula involve all four layers of the esophageal wall, whereas only the mucosa and submucosa layers are involved in false diverticula. True diverticula are caused by traction (pulling), whilst false diverticula by pulsion (pushing). In general, Zenker’s and epiphrenic diverticula are false diverticula, whilst mid-esophageal diverticula are true diverticula. ### Some Charts for Easier Digestion (Pun Not Quite Intended) You can [view the correlation between esophageal typography, anatomo-clinical criteria and etiopathogeny in Table 2 here](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9992562/#t2) (Constantin et al., 2023). Figure 1 in this paper by Sudarshan and Murthy (2021) also provides an excellent [summary of the three main types of esophageal diverticula](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/26345161211045613). It includes their varying pathophysiology, presentations, work-up and management for easy comparison. Finally, you can [view some images of how various esophageal diverticula look like on Radiopaedia](https://radiopaedia.org/articles/epiphrenic-diverticulum) (Rezaee, 2024). Pin to Your Rare Disease & Medical Infographic Boards: ![Learn more about the rare disease, esophageal diverticulum, in the infographic](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/learn-more-rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum-infographic.jpg) ## Esophageal Diverticulum Symptoms - From Mild to Severe According to Sato et al. (2023), the [main symptoms of esophageal diverticulum](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12328-023-01765-2) are “dysphagia, regurgitation, weight loss, heartburn, respiratory complaints, and retrosternal pain when swallowing food”. The ‘milder’ symptoms of esophageal diverticulum include an irritating sensation in the throat as if something is stuck there, a sore throat and halitosis (bad breath). As the diverticulum increases in size over time, it [can lead to other complications as food gets stuck in the pouches](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12328-023-01765-2). For instance, patients can get “esophagitis, bleeding from ulceration, impaction, and stasis with regurgitation” (Sato et al., 2023). [Aspiration pneumonia](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK470459/) can also happen especially when a person is asleep, where regurgitated food gets inhaled into the lungs and becomes infected. Apart from gastric content, the aspirated fluid can also consist of oropharyngeal secretions and particulate matter (Sanivarapu et al., 2024). Aspiration pneumonia is also one of my biggest fears, as regurgitation at night is one of my main symptoms. According to Thomas et al. (2001), other [serious manifestations of esophageal diverticulum](https://bjssjournals.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1046/j.1365-2168.2001.01733.x) include: “acute dyspnoea and stridor from pulmonary displacement, cardiac tachydysrhythmias from atrial compression and diverticular rupture, and, rarely, tension pneumothorax”. In sum, esophageal diverticulum can potentially affect your heart, lungs, and their surrounding structures, due to pressure and/or rupture. It can also give rise to heart rhythm issues. Whilst the formation of ulcers rarely leads to perforation or bleeding, such events can be life-threatening if they do happen. In addition, atypical symptoms of esophageal diverticulum may remain unknown until surgery is being done (Thomas et al., 2001). Read Related Posts: - [Dysphagia & Swallowing Problems (and How Oral Vitamin Sprays Can be of Help to You)](https://achronicvoice.com/dysphagia-oral-vitamin-sprays/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [My Second Brush with Death: A Broken Heart (Literally)](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) - [What’s it Like to Live with a Heart Rhythm Disorder?](https://achronicvoice.com/heart-rhythm-disorder/) ## Diagnosing Esophageal Diverticulum After that incidental finding of the esophageal diverticula from the CT scan, I had to go for a barium swallow test. The surgeon has also mentioned that I will need to do a manometry and endoscopy as pre-operative procedures. This is in line with what I have read up thus far within the medical literature. According to Herbella and Patti (2012), the [preoperative workup for esophageal diverticulum treatment](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s00423-011-0843-2) includes: a barium swallow test, endoscopy, manometry, and pH monitoring if deemed necessary (also see: [Thomas et al., 2001](https://bjssjournals.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1046/j.1365-2168.2001.01733.x)). Let’s take a look at these tests used to diagnose esophageal diverticulum and motility disorders, to better understand why they’re important. ### Barium Swallow Test In order to clearly see and define the esophageal diverticulum, a [barium swallow test](https://medlineplus.gov/lab-tests/barium-swallow/) (esophagram) (National Library of Medicine \[NLM\], 2024a) is usually carried out first. The patient will be made to drink a chalky liquid at intervals. This helps with the visualisation of the diverticulum by ‘highlighting’ it under [fluoroscopy](https://medlineplus.gov/lab-tests/fluoroscopy/), which is a type of x-ray that shows the movement of organs in real-time (NLM, 2024b). From the test, your medical team will then be able to [determine the size and location of the diverticulum](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1043067920302720), and also if they are on the right or left side of the esophagus (Sudarshan et al., 2021). The information from the barium swallow test is important for determining the course of treatment, and type of surgical method to use. In general, surgery is avoided for asymptomatic patients due to the risks, although some surgeons think that it is still essential, as up to 45% of patients demonstrated aspiration (Sudarshan et al., 2021). Some also think surgery is necessary, due to the “[risk of cancerization of the diverticulum mucosa or spontaneous rupture](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12328-023-01765-2)” (Sato et al., 2023). In addition, a [timed barium swallow test is able to detect certain motility disorders](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/26345161211045613) such as achalasia, as well as “associated conditions such as dysmotility, hiatal hernia, distal esophageal rings, and reflux” (Sudarshan & Murthy, 2021). ### Esophageal Manometry According to Gyawali et al. (2020), “[esophageal manometry](https://journals.lww.com/ajg/fulltext/2020/09000/acg%5Fclinical%5Fguidelines%5F%5Fclinical%5Fuse%5Fof.19.aspx) is generally considered the gold standard for the diagnosis of motility disorders”. It is important to get this diagnostic test done especially for epiphrenic esophageal diverticula, as [these are often due to an esophageal motility disorder](https://books.google.com.sg/books?id=xmGvEAAAQBAJ&printsec=frontcover&source=gbs%5Fge%5Fsummary%5Fr&cad=0#v=onepage&q&f=false), such as achalasia or diffuse esophageal spasm (Alicuben et al., 2023). The word “[manometry](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diagnostics/4952-esophageal-manometry-test)” simply means a measurement of pressure. A tube will be placed down your nasal cavity and into your esophagus. Thereafter, you will be made to swallow water and/or other liquids of different consistencies, in various bodily positions (Cleveland Clinic, 2023). A [high-resolution manometry is usually recommended](https://www.wjgnet.com/1007-9327/full/v25/i12/1457.htm), based on the latest research (Sato et al., 2019). The [difference between a regular and high-resolution manometry](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5439137/) is that the latter uses more catheters (36 as opposed to 5), thus producing more accurate results (Yadlapati, 2017). ### Upper Endoscopy (Esophagogastroduodenoscopy) A [preoperative upper endoscopy is essential](https://books.google.com.sg/books?hl=en&lr=&id=xmGvEAAAQBAJ&oi=fnd&pg=PP23&dq=epiphrenic+esophageal+diverticulum&ots=0o4vbaWSoF&sig=hs-aOtti78ZTa5oPhaaZbuFSsW4&redir%5Fesc=y#v=onepage&q=epiphrenic%20esophageal%20diverticulum&f=false) for several reasons. First, to rule out other possible diseases (such as Barrett’s esophagus) or malignancies (cancers), and also to clear any debris stuck in the diverticula before surgery is done (Alicuben et al., 2023; Herbella & Patti, 2012). ## The Importance of Differential Diagnosis and Detection of Motility Disorders There are a number of other disorders that can mimic an esophageal diverticulum, and vice versa. A [differential diagnosis](https://medlineplus.gov/lab-tests/differential-diagnosis/) is essential to rule out such cases. This is simply a process that takes into account all possible diagnoses based on your individual symptoms, medical history, lifestyle and more (NLM, 2023). Additional tests may be done if deemed necessary. This helps your medical team to conclude with a more definitive diagnosis, and therefore, the treatment course to take. For epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum, the [differential diagnosis](https://books.google.com.sg/books?hl=en&lr=&id=xmGvEAAAQBAJ&oi=fnd&pg=PP23&dq=epiphrenic+esophageal+diverticulum&ots=0o4vbaWSoF&sig=hs-aOtti78ZTa5oPhaaZbuFSsW4&redir%5Fesc=y#v=onepage&q=epiphrenic%20esophageal%20diverticulum&f=false) includes: “hiatal hernia, esophageal webs and strictures, esophageal duplication cyst, and esophageal carcinoma”. Other differential diagnosis of underlying causes should also be ruled out as well, such as: “achalasia, distal esophageal spasm, ineffective esophageal motility, esophagogastric junction outflow obstruction, end-stage gastroesophageal (GE) reflux disease with a "burnt out" esophagus, peptic stricture, or failed previous fundoplication” (Alicuben et al., 2023). Whilst rare, it is also important to screen for malignancies (cancers). The [incidence of malignancies from esophageal diverticula](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s00423-011-0843-2) is 0.3% to 7% for pharyngoesophageal (which includes Zenker’s), 1.8% for midesophageal, and 0.6% for epiphrenic (Herbella & Patti, 2012). ## The Link Between Motility Disorders and Esophageal Diverticulum As mentioned, motility disorders are often the underlying cause of esophageal diverticulum - particularly so in epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum. In fact, according to Thomas et al. (2001), [one should still “remain suspicious” even if a motility disorder is not detected](https://bjssjournals.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1046/j.1365-2168.2001.01733.x) during medical investigations, as apart from achalasia, most of such disorders “occur intermittently and may not be evident during oesophagoscopy, contrast radiology or standard manometry”. Studies have also shown that “[more than 75% of epiphrenic diverticula](https://www.wjgnet.com/1007-9327/full/v25/i12/1457.htm) occur concomitantly with esophageal motility disorders” (Sato et al., 2019). In one small study by Nehra et al. (2002), [all their patients with epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum were found to have a motility disorder](https://journals.lww.com/annalsofsurgery/abstract/2002/03000/physiologic%5Fbasis%5Ffor%5Fthe%5Ftreatment%5Fof%5Fepiphrenic.6.aspx), using 24-hour ambulatory motility testing. ### Achalasia - The Most Common Motility Disorder Found in Esophageal Diverticulum Achalasia has been mentioned numerous times in this post. [Achalasia](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/17534-achalasia) is a rare swallowing disorder that stems from damaged nerves in the esophagus, specifically in the lower esophageal sphincter. As a result, food and liquid are unable to move down to the stomach. How achalasia develops is still unknown, but has been purported to be autoimmune in nature (Cleveland Clinic, 2021a). There are also [different types of achalasia](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5572971/) based on manometric patterns, namely: type 1 (classic), type 2, and type 3 (spastic). Type 1 achalasia has “minimal contractility in the esophageal body”, Type 2 has “intermittent periods of panesophageal pressurization”, and Type 3 has “premature or spastic distal esophageal contractions”. They also vary in immunohistochemical markers and histology (Patel et al., 2017). Achalasia is also the [most common motility disorder found in patients with esophageal diverticulum](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s00423-011-0843-2) (Herbella & Patti, 2012). However, this is not the case in reverse. [Less than 5% of patients with achalasia develop an epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum](https://bjssjournals.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1046/j.1365-2168.2001.01733.x), with the exception of those with ‘vigorous’ achalasia, as more pulsion forces are involved (Thomas et al., 2001). ### Diffuse Esophageal Spasm and Other Motility Disorders The second most common motility disorder found in patients with epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum is diffuse esophageal spasm (Herbella and Patti, 2012). [This is characterised by](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK541106/) “simultaneous, uncoordinated, or rapidly propagated contractions that are of normal amplitude and accompanied by dysphagia”. Once again, differential diagnosis is critical because there is a long list of disorders that resemble it (Goel and Nookala, 2023, July 2). In [one small study using high-resolution impedance manometry](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10620-023-08196-6), other motility disorders associated with esophageal diverticulum include, in descending order of occurrence: esophagogastric junction outflow obstruction, jackhammer esophagus, ineffective esophageal motility and absent contraction (Yuan et al., 2024). [Another small study by Carlson et al. (2016)](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/nmo.12739), which also used high-resolution manometry, revealed “propagating peristalsis, often with hypercontractility” as the predominant motility pattern in their participants. I would recommend reading [this paper by Nehra et al. (2022), which has some insightful explanations of the different types of motility disorders](https://pubs.rsna.org/doi/full/10.1148/rg.220052). There are tables which detail how they appear on diagnostic tests, their differentiating features, and the recommended examinations and treatments. It is also important to note that motility disorders can stem from different dysfunctions. For instance, it could arise from an autoimmune disease (e.g. Scleroderma), impaired inhibitory innervation (e.g. distal esophageal spasm), or excessive cholinergic stimulation (e.g. hypercontractile/jackhammer esophagus) (Nehra et al., 2022). In sum, it is important to be sure that what you have is truly an esophageal diverticulum, as the treatment and management plan can be quite different for each diagnosis. And since a motility disorder is often the underlying cause of epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum, it is important to investigate this further in order to reduce or eliminate the chance of recurrence. 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(2007), “[optimal surgical treatment is debated](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S000349750701363X), mortality being 9% in the largest reported surgical series of 33 patients”. That’s not much data to go on. For epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum, the ‘traditional’ methods of treatment include: “transthoracic resection, long esophagomyotomy, and an antireflux procedure”. I won’t deep-dive into each treatment type here because honestly, I’m probably as clueless as you are. I think I’ve done sufficient research to ask my surgeon the questions I need to ask however, and his answers convince me that he knows what he is doing. So I will share only the treatments that piqued my interest initially, and also what I would personally need. ### Diverticulum Peroral Endoscopic Myotomy (D-POEM) I had read that [diverticulum peroral endoscopic myotomy](https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-981-15-1998-7%5F9) (D-POEM) is becoming more popular as a surgical method for esophageal diverticulum. It is a minimally-invasive procedure with various adaptations, but generally involves steps to create tunnels, dissect and reseal certain parts of the esophagus and its related muscles (Wang et al., 2020). I was interested in D-POEM, because [studies have shown that it has a high technical and clinical success rate](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S259003072300079X), and also a low recurrence rate. It is also commonly used to treat achalasia and other motility disorders (Pelton et al., 2024). However, it has [mostly been used for Zenker’s diverticulum](https://www.thieme-connect.de/products/ejournals/abstract/10.1055/a-2127-7402), as compared to other types of diverticula (Mavrogenis & Bazerbachi, 2023). In any case, I asked my surgeon about it. I didn’t quite understand his explanation of why it wouldn’t make sense to use it. He did say that the surgical treatment that I’d need would be the same regardless of diverticulum type however, which is a Heller myotomy. ### Heller Myotomy and Fundoplication [Heller myotomy](https://www.uclahealth.org/medical-services/gastro/esophageal-health/tests-treatments/surgical/esophageal-heller-myotomy) is the standard procedure used to treat achalasia, where the lower esophageal sphincter is cut to relieve pressure, so that food and liquid can pass through. Acid reflux can occur after a Heller myotomy, so a partial fundoplication may be done in addition (UCLA Health, n.d.). A [fundoplication](https://radiopaedia.org/articles/fundoplication) is an anti-reflux surgical procedure, where a “gastric fold is wrapped around the distal esophagus which enforces the lower esophageal sphincter and prevents gastroesophageal reflux”. It can be either full (Nissen) or partial (Toupet, Dor or Thal) (Abdrabou et al., 2022). A Dor fundoplication takes the frontal approach, whilst a Toupet or Thal fundoplication from the back (Abdrabou et al., 2022). The [most common is a Dor fundoplication](https://www.nm.org/conditions-and-care-areas/treatments/heller-myotomy), where part of the stomach is wrapped over the front of the esophagus and stitched in place. Nissen fundoplication is rarely advised for patients with achalasia, as it can lead to issues with peristalsis (Northwestern Medicine, n.d.). My surgeon also said that he would probably need to perform the surgery at two entry points, with one incision from near the abdomen. Since my right chest wall has been tunnelled through before in order to repair my mitral valve, a thoracic surgeon will be needed on the surgical team to help ‘navigate’ through the web of adhesions. According to Torres-Villalobos and Martin-del-Campo (2013), “[myotomy can be safely performed using open abdominal and thoracic approaches](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1155/2013/708327), and for more than two decades, it has also been done using laparoscopy and thoracoscopy”. I’m assuming that was what the surgeon meant when he was explaining it to me. ### Potential Surgical Complications The [rate of symptom relief for esophageal diverticulum](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s00423-011-0843-2) is between 85% to 100%, using standard treatments such as “laparoscopic myotomy, diverticulectomy, and fundoplication”. Having said that, the complication rate for the procedure itself is high (Herbella & Patti, 2012). Some [complications that can occur post-surgery](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0022480413004861) include: “air leaks, septicemia and/or sepsis, mediastinitis, mediastinal empyema with or without fistula, mediastinal abscess, postoperative wound infection, and postoperative hemorrhage” (Onwugbufor et al., 2013). Leaks are one of the more common complications post surgery, at a rate of up to 23%. My own surgeon has told me that a leak was his biggest concern. The mortality rate for the procedure reaches up to 7% as well (Herbella & Patti, 2012). Your surgeon will most likely use a combination of procedures in order to treat you, based on several factors. Your individual anatomy needs to be accounted for, as well as the size and position of the esophageal diverticulum, comorbidities and more. Each surgical method has its own risks and merits. For instance, a [left thoracotomy provides good access to an epiphrenic diverticulum](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s00423-011-0843-2), but is also associated with a high morbidity rate (up to 21% of patients had a leak), and a mortality rate of up to 11% (Herbella & Patti, 2012). Here is a summarised table of [optimal surgical treatments used to treat epiphrenic esophageal diverticulum](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12328-023-01765-2/tables/2) from 17 published series (Sato et al., 2023). 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(2024). Characteristics of Esophageal Motility and Associated Symptom Profiles in Patients with Esophageal Diverticulum: A Study Based on High-Resolution Impedance Manometry. Digestive Diseases and Sciences, 69(2), 510–520\. - Zakaria, A., & Barawi, M. (2020). Endoscopic treatment of Killian-Jamieson diverticulum using submucosal tunneling diverticulotomy technique. *VideoGIE, 5*. ### MediSearch Review: A Medical AI Search Engine for Patients, Clinicians & Medical Writers URL: https://achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/ Last updated: 2026-04-07T16:15:16.000Z ## Introduction to MediSearch, a Medical AI Search Engine You’ve probably asked ChatGPT, Gemini or another AI-powered chatbot a medical or health-related question before. Perhaps to try and find a diagnosis, or simply out of curiosity. I have personally asked them some medical questions that I already knew the answers to, simply to see how accurate they were. Google Gemini tends to skirt around health-related issues, whilst ChatGPT gives rather generic answers. That is not necessarily a bad thing, because the scope of what these AI chatbots cover are quite broad. MediSearch on the other hand, is specifically built to focus on answering medical questions. Thus, you could say that it concentrates all of its resources on health-related topics, to give more detailed and accurate responses. So when the founder of MediSearch, Eduard, approached me to write an honest review, I was excited to say the least. He also granted me access to the Pro version of MediSearch, so I could test the system and see the differences for myself. Let’s dive into the review - the good and bad (if any)! *\*Disclaimer: Whilst this post is sponsored by MediSearch, all opinions expressed in this review are my own. This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. Whilst I have done my utmost to be meticulous in research, *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Medical Technology & Health App Boards: ![MediSearch Review: A Medical AI Search Engine for Patients, Clinicians, and Medical Writers](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine-patients-clinicians-medical-writers.jpg) ## What is MediSearch Exactly, and is It Credible? MediSearch is a medical AI-powered search engine with over a million users to date. It aims to be the world's best medical Q&A system. It filters out the noise and only references credible sources and journals - so no random or woo-woo websites. ChatGPT and other AI chatbots are infamous for hallucinating, or to be more harsh, [Scientific American straight up says they’re “bullshitting”](https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/chatgpt-isnt-hallucinating-its-bullshitting/). MediSearch on the other hand, cites and links to all sources it derived its answers from. You can click on neatly arranged links to read the medical articles for yourself. If there are no credible sources to be found for your medical question, it will tell you so, or suggest potential questions you might be interested in instead. One other thing that I love about MediSearch is that it is always up-to-date, so the answers it gives are all based on the latest scientific evidence. Its database is updated within *hours* of new publications. Even my favourite medical apps, such as MedScape (which I use to check for drug interactions), take weeks to prompt a manual update of medical information. To me, MediSearch truly taps into the power of AI to serve its purpose. ## How MediSearch Works If you’ve ever used ChatGPT or similar, then you know the drill. Simply ask MediSearch a medical question, and it quickly generates the answer with all sources cited. It differs from ChatGPT in the sense that you can’t simply type ‘tell me more’ like in a conversation, but it will suggest possible questions you can follow-up on. I actually like that it does that, because it doesn’t guess what you’re trying to ask, which can lead you down rabbit holes. For example, I use ChatGPT quite a bit for coding work, but have realised that asking it questions in a conversational style often leads to errors. This is because it infers from the previous text, and amplifies its ‘understanding’ - which can often be false. Specificity is extremely important for medical questions, as it concerns you and your health. Something else I like about MediSearch is the way its algorithm works. You don’t only get a summary of answers to your medical questions, but one that has been carefully crafted based on ranking factors such as journal quality, number of citations, and more. This means that the answers you’re getting are quality ones. ## How Well Does MediSearch Perform for Medical Questions? According to their website, [MediSearch Pro has a 94% accuracy score](https://medisearch.io/about) when tested on the [United States Medical Licensing Examination](https://www.usmle.org/) (USMLE) sample examination. The average score for a medical school graduate student taking the exam is 60%. Like me, you might be wondering what the USMLE is exactly, and I took the opportunity to ask MediSearch: ![MediSearch Pro answer - How does the United States Medical Licensing Examination work?](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/medisearch-USMLE.jpg) As you can see, the answer that MediSearch generated is comprehensive, and the information is broken down into a readable format that is easy to digest. The USMLE is an important exam that is compulsory for medical students to take, in order to practice medicine in the U.S. When compared to other AI-powered search engines, MediSearch also had the highest accuracy score for the USMLE sample test, as can be seen from the chart below: ![MediSearch's performance on the US medical licensing exam](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/medisearch-performace-usmle.jpg) ## Taking MediSearch for a Test Drive I decided to ask MediSearch questions I have done extensive research on as a patient, namely Antiphospholipid Syndrome (APS) and Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (SBPTR). These are medical conditions I live with, and have written resources on myself. ### Asking MediSearch a Basic Medical Question I started with a basic question about APS, “What are the lab tests used for diagnosing Antiphospholipid syndrome?”: ![MediSearch Pro answers - What are the lab tests used for diagnosing Antiphospholipid syndrome?](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/medisearch-aps-lab-tests.jpg) This pretty much summarises what took me hours of manual research, in order to include proper references for my APS resource guide. It also highlights that LA is “considered the strongest predictor for adverse pregnancy-related events and thrombosis”. This is an important note, and something my own rheumatologist has pointed out to me before. ### Asking MediSearch a More Complex Medical Question Next, I decided to ask MediSearch about Tecarfarin, which is a blood thinning medication still undergoing clinical trials. It is a drug that is targeted more for heart and kidney disease patients, and less for APS (a blood clotting autoimmune disorder), so I was curious as to what its response would be. The response provided by MediSearch was well-informed once again, as seen in the screenshot below. It states clearly that Tecarfarin is still limited in evidence for APS, and tells me more about what it is, which stage the clinical trials are at, and more important medical information. This matches up with the research I had done (as a patient) for my article on medications in relation to APS, which took me months to put together. ![xxx](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/medisearch-tecarfarin-aps.jpg) ## Who is MediSearch for? MediSearch isn’t only for medical writers, clinicians, or chronic illness patients who have lived with their diagnoses for *years*. It is also suitable for ‘everyday’ health questions that the average person may have, such as, “is coffee good for health?”, “best foods for reducing cholesterol”, or even “is breakdancing considered a sport?”. Yes sorry, I just had to ask MediSearch about breakdancing, given the Olympics fiasco 😉 Even for ‘simple’ questions such as these, MediSearch cites its sources. I tried asking ChatGPT 4.0 the same question about coffee, and whilst it provided the potentials and drawbacks, no sources were cited. We are living in an age of information overload, disinformation and misinformation, so it’s even more vital to know where the answers generated come from - which MediSearch does. Every single source it cites is clickable, and taken from actual medical journals, international health guidelines, published books and other credible sources. Regular AI chatbots on the other hand, are fairly limited when it comes to medical questions, as they are only able to retrieve information from open-access or free/public resources. P.s. To see what the answer is to: “is breakdancing considered a sport?”, simply [type the question into the search box on MediSearch’s website](https://medisearch.io/?utm%5Fid=sheryl%5Fblog). 🙂 Preview of MediSearch’s Landing Page: ![MediSearch Landing Page](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/medisearch-landing-page.jpg) ## Benefits of MediSearch Pro Version ### Increased Number of Sources to Refine Accuracy Further The answers you have seen in this review thus far are all from the MediSearch Pro version. Whilst the standard version gives concise answers as well, the MediSearch Pro version sources from more medical articles, which further refines accuracy. A sample from the standard version can be seen from the screenshot below. If you compare this to the other screenshots we have seen thus far, whilst it is still evidence-based and informative, the answers from the Pro version are more detailed and streamlined. For the example question below, “is coffee beneficial for health?” - the standard version cites two references, whereas the Pro version gave me 10. ![MediSearch Standard and Pro Q&A - Is coffee beneficial for health?](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/medisearch-coffee-standard.jpg) ### Advanced Filter Options and Citation Tools If you use Google Scholar, then I’m sure that you’ve clicked on ‘filter by publication date’ at some point, because you want the latest information about a specific topic. MediSearch Pro has a filter by date feature as well, and you can also select which type of sources you want it to search from, such as “scientific articles” and “books”. If you are a medical writer or need to compile a list of references, MediSearch Pro’s citation tool comes in handy. I personally gather all my references using Zotero, and the ‘export’ feature in MediSearch Pro is compatible with it, including its browser extension. This will save me so much time for research-based articles I write in future. ![MediSearch Pro Advanced Filter Options](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/medisearch-filters.jpg) ![MediSearch Pro Citation Tools](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/medisearch-citation-options.jpg) ### Search for Related Insights with a Click of a Button In addition, the Pro version also allows you to search for more related articles, find contradictions and see what others think. These additional insights are important if you’re doing research - whether for personal or work related purposes. If you’ve done research for anything at all (shiny objects included), then you know how important perspectives can be. It is good to have all the cards laid out on the table, so that you can make better judgement calls. The “find contradictions” feature to me is a very good one, because it questions the initial answers to see if there may be potential loopholes. The “see what others think” feature is also quite interesting, although I personally wouldn’t use it much. It essentially peeks into Reddit threads to see what others have been asking or thinking about in relation to your topic. This may be a personal preference thing however, as I don’t even trust Reddit on a regular day (I may be a millennial…). I do know that many of my Gen Z friends use Reddit more than even Google Search however, so I can see how this is useful. In their own words, “it gives me human, straightforward answers, and not some lengthy blog with a biased opinion”. Another thing you could potentially do is to see what others are asking or thinking, rephrase it into a specific question, then feed it back into MediSearch to find out what the science actually says. ## Other Video Reviews Available on MediSearch Pro by Health Professionals If you hate to read and prefer to watch a video to see how best to utilise MediSearch Pro, here are some great reviews by medical professionals and/or establishments: ****How to Use MediSearch for Your Medical Writing (by Alex Evans, PharmD, MBA)** ## More for the Technically-Inclined and Businesses [MediSearch comes with documentation for developers](https://medisearch.io/developers/docs). You will need an API key to integrate MediSearch into your website or app, which can then be used to generate a medical Q&A chatbot. Medical businesses or establishments can also use MediSearch to benefit both clinicians and patients. For patients, MediSearch Pro can be used to generate evidence-based health tips, based on individual user data. For clinicians, MediSearch can be used to manipulate Electronic Health Records (EHR) for summaries and also in other novel ways. ## Conclusion to My MediSearch Review: Would I Get the Pro Version as a Chronic Illness Blogger and Patient? The answer is a resounding “yes”. I honestly loved how streamlined, concise and accurate the answers were, and the intuitive user interface. If you have been following my blog for a while, you would know that I recently published an APS A - Z resource guide. This resource took me years to complete, and is truly a work-in-progress. There is still a lot of information that I would like to add to it, such as a related article about herbs, foods and drinks to avoid with APS. With MediSearch Pro, I know that the research process will go much quicker this time around, and I’m actually excited to get started again. I also work as a medical writer for my own clients, on topics such as digital healthcare, orofacial pain, oral medicine, vitamins and more. I spend a lot of time doing manual research for each article, which can take me days or weeks - more than the actual writing itself. I can see how MediSearch Pro will be an asset to my medical writing jobs in future as well. Update: I now pay for the Pro version even though my trial has ended, because it truly is a great service. You can try the free version of MediSearch via the links below! Try MediSearch Here: - [Visit the MediSearch Website](https://medisearch.io/?utm%5Fid=sheryl%5Fblog) - [Download MediSearch on the Apple Store](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/medisearch-ai/id6473300940) - [Download MediSearch on the Google Store](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=io.medisearch.twa&referrer=utm%5Fid%3Dsheryl%5Fblog%26utm%5Fcampaign%3Drandom&pli=1) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [Latest Research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care: Introduction to the Series](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-introduction/) - [Why I Need to See 10 Different Doctors on a Regular Basis](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) - [Advice That Could, Quite Literally, Kill](https://achronicvoice.com/advice-quite-literally-kill/) Pin to Your Medical AI & Health App Boards: ![A Medical AI Search Engine - Medisearch Review - for Patients, Clinicians and Medical Writers](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/medical-ai-search-engine-medisearch-revivew-patients-clinicians-medical-writers.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Harriet J. Hartley ](https://habithackershub.com/) Jan 29, 2025 This sounds like a game-changer for anyone seeking reliable medical information! I’ve used AI tools like ChatGPT for medical questions, but they often feel too general. MediSearch seems like it could be a great resource, especially since it focuses solely on health-related topics. Excited to check it out! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Jan 30, 2025 Hi Harriet, let me know what you think when you do check it out! It’s one of my favourite writing companions now too 🙂 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Tell Me You're Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You're Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/ Last updated: 2026-04-09T13:58:22.000Z ## Darkness Needs Lightness for Balance... All of my recent posts have been extremely ‘heavy’, so to speak. First, there were the two knee injury series - one on [**resources for post knee surgery**](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-introduction/), and the other on [**things you can do whilst bed bound**](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/). Then, there was the [**Antiphospholipid Syndrome A to Z resource**](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/), which included a few other topics such as [**medications**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/), [**women’s health**](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/), the [**latest APS research**](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) and all the [**major organs in the body that the autoimmune disease can hit**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/). Researching and writing those articles consumed a lot of my brain power and energy, which comes in limited edition as a person with multiple chronic illnesses. Then, I landed in hospital with more new diagnoses just a few weeks after school re-opened..... Changelog: - **Updated: 20 March 2025** \- More memes added at the bottom of the page. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness Memes & Spoonie Humour Boards: ![Chronic Illness Memes (Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/chronic-illness-memes-tell-me-youre-chronically-ill-without-telling-me.jpg) ## ...Or Maybe It Just Needs More Darkness! So I decided to do this post for a bit of fun, and to take a break from the dreariness of it all. A metaphorical digestif, if you will. This post is part of a TikTok trend (I should really get on it some time soon, shouldn’t I?), “[Tell Me Without Telling Me](https://www.thelist.com/585719/the-origins-of-the-telling-me-without-telling-me-meme/)”. I learned about it from a post by Caz over at [invisiblyme.com](https://invisiblyme.com/), although I can’t seem to find the original post now. Many of us who live with chronic illness endure our days with chronic pain, chronic fatigue, brain fog and other unnameable unpleasantries. Humour has always carried me through the darkest periods of chronic illness, especially when faced with mortality. Morbid, dark humour is my favourite. It somehow lightens the whole situation, and makes things seem less scary or foreboding. To be able to laugh into the face of death takes away some of its power, and lightens the load. It gives me the strength to carry on. What about you? What sort of humour do you enjoy the most, and does it help you through the dark days? Check out these “Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill” memes I made, and let me know if you can relate to any of them in the comments below! Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [An Open Letter to Death, and One Simple Plea](https://achronicvoice.com/letter-to-death-simple-plea/) ## “Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill” Memes - Can You Relate? 1. Autocorrect keeps ‘correcting’ your medical words to something incorrect. No way you actually meant “[**antiphospholipid**](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/)” or “[**encephalomyelitis**](https://achronicvoice.com/me-struggles/)”. ![Autocorrect be like...did you mean duck?](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/autocorrect-duck.jpg) 1. Sometimes **[you wish you were older](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girls-diary-wish-old-person/)**, just so people would stop questioning the reality of your illnesses because you’re ‘too young’ to be that sick. 2. You **[drill your travel companions on emergency protocols](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/)** like an army sergeant, just in case you get a seizure or something cool. 3. **[Superfoods and kale juice can land you in the A&E/ER](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/)** at best, or kill you at worst. ![Kale juice and superfoods can land you at the ER at best, or kill you at worst. | Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronic Ill Memes](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/kale-juice-superfoods-ER-tell-me-youre-chronically-ill.jpg) 1. Your girlie pouch in the bag contains emergency medication (make that medication**S**). Maybe lipstick and mascara – ***if*** there’s space. 2. You can read a medical article in a minute and actually understand all the jargon. 3. Choosing the ‘physician’ rather than ‘consumer’ version of medical articles to read. ![Choosing the ‘physician’ rather than ‘consumer’ version of medical articles to read.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/professional-consumer-msd-manual-2048x205.jpg) 1. Spontaneity means getting prepared to be spontaneous. Unless of course, it’s a trip to the ER. ![Spontaneity means getting prepared to be spontaneous. | Chronic illness jokes.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/spontaneity-plan-chronic-illness-jokes.jpg) 1. You also have a ‘grab and go’ bag even though you’re not pregnant, for that said **[spontaneous trip to the A&E](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/)**. 2. Also, you don’t just have ***a*** backup plan, but ***the*** backup plans. ![You don’t have A backup plan, but THE backup plans. “Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me” meme series.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/backup-plans-tell-me-youre-chronically-ill-without-telling-me-youre-chronically-ill-memes.jpg) 1. When the **[#1 item on your Christmas wish list](https://achronicvoice.com/all-i-want-for-christmas-pain-relief/)** is simply – less pain. (A girl/boy can dream?) ![Number one spoonie Christmas wish list item - less pain!!! Chronic illness memes.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/hash-one-spoonie-christmas-wish-list-item-less-pain-chronic-illness-memes.jpg) 1. Your hands have a ‘daily quota’, so you use other body parts to compensate. Hey, shoulders are more efficient for opening doors, non? 2. Gross isn’t gross – it’s important medical information that needs to be described in great detail to doctors so they can diagnose you properly and relieve you of pain. ![Gross isn’t gross - it’s important medical information that needs to be described in great detail to doctors so they can diagnose you properly and relieve you of pain.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/gross-isnt-gross.jpg) 1. You develop naked body confidence, after needing to undress or spread your legs for the doctor/lab tech/whichever medical professional for the umpteeth time. It’s just ***a*** body. ![Chronic Illness Memes - When you’re so used to spreading your legs... for doctors and med techs.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/spreading-legs-doctors-med-techs-chronic-illness-memes.jpg) 1. You need to dismantle your sushi because you can’t open your mouth wide enough to take a bite. ![Dismantling Your Sushi Because You Can’t Open Your Mouth That Wide. | Chronic Pain Memes](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/dismantling-sushi-cant-open-mouth-wide-chronic-pain-memes.jpg) 1. Cutting up steak also requires careful planning and execution. If in company or if your hands are too painful for the day – abort mission and order a miserly salad like you meant to instead. 2. That said, you can knock back a fistful of pills like a pro. They should really have a Major League ~~Eating~~ Pill Popping championship, because you would totally rock that. 3. You also have a ‘pill swallowing method’ where various parts of your mouth cavity serve as storage and launching devices. 4. You have **[chronically ill internet friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/)** who ‘get you’ more than people in real life. These are people you can discuss body parts, bowel movements and pain with all day without judgement. ![Friendship Goals - Discussing bowel movements earnestly with your chronically ill friends online. Tell me without telling me- chronic illness version.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/friendship-goals-bowel-movements-chronically-ill-friends.jpg) 1. Monitoring your energy levels at events has become second nature, especially after you’ve had to make Titanic drama level exits a couple times. 2. A shopping spree consists of pyjamas, **[compression clothing](https://achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery/#compression)**, ice and heat packs, **[hot water bottles](https://achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-review/)**, and **[mobility aids](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/)**. ![Chronic Illness Shopping Spree: Pyjamas, furry slippers & compression socks. Ice and heat packs, migraine caps and hot water bottles. Walking sticks, rollators and powerchairs.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/chronic-illness-shopping-spree.jpg) 1. Your ‘savings’ amount to a grand total of… $0\. Those **[pesky medical bills](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/)** really need to ease up their enthusiasm for a bit. ![“Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill” Memes - When your ‘savings’ amount to a grand total of….. $0.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/savings-total-zero-tell-me-youre-chronically-ill-without-telling-me-youre-chronically-ill-memes.jpg) 1. You **[want to read](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/)** that 1000-page book but fret, because you know it’s a trade off with pain in your finger and hand joints. (**[Thank goodness for Kindles](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/#digital-device)**!) 2. Essential to do on arriving home from ‘the outside world’ – wiping your phone down with a **[70% isopropyl alcohol wipe](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/)**. ![Chronic illness memes - First thing you do when reaching home - wipe your phone down with a 70% isopropyl alcohol wipe.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/first-thing-reaching-home-wipe-phone-alcohol-wipe-chronic-illness-memes.jpg) 1. You glance or glare passive aggressively at **[anyone who coughs or sneezes on the street](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/)** (or the elevator…gross). 2. You’re grateful that the **[pandemic](https://achronicvoice.com/covid-19-vaccine-experiences/)** normalised mask-wearing (speaking for Asia, at least). 3. The chemist is like the adult version of a candy store where you restock your OTC supplies. ![Chronic illness life: Visiting the chemist be like... the adult version of a candy store.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/visiting-chemist-adult-version-candy-store-chronic-illness-meme.jpg) 1. When you know the actual medication name – not just the brand name – better than the pharmacist or doctor. No, **[it’s not just Clexane or Lovenox, it’s enoxaparin](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/)** to be precise. 2. You run a mini pharmacy at home that takes up at least a few shelves. People come to you for medical supplies for minor ailments, or to ask you what their symptoms could be indicative of. ![You know you’re chronically ill when... you’re the amateur pharmacist at home.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/chronically-ill-amateur-pharmacist-home-chronic-illness-memes.jpg) 1. That mini pharmacy extends to your bedside table, where you keep emergency supplies for immediate access. 2. When the GP panics just as much as you, and just directs you to the nearest ER. ![“Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill” Memes - When the GP panics, and just directs you to the nearest ER each time you say hi.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/gp-panics-directs-nearest-er-tell-me-youre-chronically-ill-without-telling-me-youre-chronically-ill-memes.jpg) 1. You have a weighted blanket to help **[manage your anxiety](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/)**... except you regret buying it because it’s basically a giant paperweight when your swollen hands can’t pull it up at night. 2. You hold your bladder in and calculate your toilet breaks like an arithmetic problem, in order to save your knees some pain per trip. ![You hold your bladder in and calculate your toilet breaks like an arithmetic problem, in order to save your joints some pain per trip. - Chronic Pain Jokes and Memes](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/calculating-toilet-breaks.jpg) 1. You also need 5 minutes to mentally prepare yourself just to sit up, when you need to use the toilet at night. 2. You can prattle off tongue-twister medical conditions and medications off the tip of your tongue like **[poetry](https://achronicvoice.com/one-of-those-nights-poetry-steroids/)**. ![You can prattle off tongue-twister medical conditions and medications off the tip of your tongue like poetry. - Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill Memes.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/spoonie-medication-chronic-illness-names-poetry.jpg) 1. Your bottle of concentrated peppermint essential oil has saved a drunk friend or two from puking. 2. You have two homes. The second being the hospital. Even the staff know you by name. ![You have two homes. The second being the hospital. Even the staff know you by name. - Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill Memes.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/two-homes-hospital.jpg) 1. The **[fear of boarding public transportation](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/)** is real. Often you avoid the disabled seat even if no one is sitting in it, for fear of being accused. 2. Same goes for disabled toilets. When you’re actually out with your walking stick or mobility aid, you feel vindicated just standing outside. Look at my mobility aid, goddamnit. 3. Home is where the… medications are. ![Home is... where the medications are.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/home-medications-are-chronic-illness-memes.jpg) 1. Your calendar is fully booked for the rest of the year with **[doctor appointments](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/)**. Maybe you can squeeze a friend in somewhere, but probably not. 2. Your handwriting is like a 4 year-old’s scrawl because your hand trembles, either from illness or a **[medication side effect](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/)**. ![You write like a 4 year old because meds and pain. Chronic illness memes.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/write-four-year-old-meds-pain-chronic-illness-memes.jpg) 1. When you **[rupture your tendons](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/)**, but assume it’s ‘just a dislocation’ that your **[hypermobile friends online](https://achronicvoice.com/jayne-bailey-crafty-life-coach-eds/)** can teach you how to pop back. 2. People think you’re cold and arrogant, no thanks to your resting pain face. ![People think you’re cold and arrogant, no thanks to your resting pain face. - Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill Memes.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/resting-pain-pain-chronic-pain-meme.jpg) 1. Your idea of a **[fun, wild night out with friends](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/)** is chilling on the couch at home, playing board games. Maybe one glass of wine tops, and with a **[wine wand](https://achronicvoice.com/drink-pure-wine-review/)**. 2. You’re absolutely shocked when/if you wake up to a pain free day. You poke and prod your body all day in disbelief, and **[wonder if that’s how ‘normal’ people feel every day](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/)**?! ![You’re absolutely shocked when/if you wake up to a pain free day. You poke and prod your body all day in disbelief, and wonder if that’s how ‘normal’ people feel every day? You also remember said day, and mark it down in your memory for all eternity. - Chronic Illness Jokes and Memes.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/waking-up-pain-free-day-something-wrong.jpg) 1. You now consider **[work stress](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/)** as a luxury problem, and dream of being stressed out about work, instead of rotting in bed all day long with pain and fatigue. ![When work stress equals luxury problem. Way better than rotting in bed with chronic pain and fatigue, 100%. “Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill” Memes.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/work-stress-luxury-problem-tell-me-youre-chronically-ill-without-telling-me-youre-chronically-ill-memes.jpg) 1. You understand that ‘just be happy’ is a bullshit platitude and attitude on life, when you live in chronic pain. So you **[seek a life with meaning](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/)** instead. ![You understand that ‘just be happy’ is a bullshit platitude and attitude on life, when you live in chronic pain. So you seek a life with meaning instead. - Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill Memes.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/bullshit-platitudes-chronic-illness-just-be-happy.jpg) 1. When someone asks if you’ve heard of a disease… You can guess based on its medical name. ![When someone asks if you've heard of a disease... You can guess based on its medical name.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/heard-disease-guess--medical-name-meme.jpg) 1. You carry a water bottle wherever you go (with at least ***one*** sip left) just in case you need to pop that emergency med. ![“Tell me you’re chronically ill without telling me...” - You carry a water bottle wherever you go (with at least one sip left) just in case you need to pop that emergency med.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/water-bottle-one-sip-emergency-med-chronically-ill-meme.jpg) 1. You know you have a rare disease when… you search a hashtag on social media, and the ‘latest’ post is yours from 2 years ago. ![You know you have a rare disease when... you search a hashtag on social media, and the latest post is yours from 2 years ago.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/rare-disease-search-hashtag-social-media-latest-post-yours-2-years-ago.jpg) 1. You win word games all the time because you know fancy words like… **[Encephalomyelitis](https://achronicvoice.com/me-struggles/)**, **[antiphospholipid](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/)**, carbamazepine, anaesthesiologist. ![“Tell me you're chronically ill without telling me...”. You win word games all the time because you know fancy words like... Encephalomyelitis, antiphospholipid, carbamazepine, anaesthesiologist.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/win-word-games-fancy-words-chronically-ill-meme.jpg) ## Conclusion to the “Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill” Meme Series Could you relate to any of these memes as a person with chronic illness or disabilities? I’d love to hear which you could relate to the most in the comments below! And if you have a good chronic illness meme of your own, I’d love to hear it too, and perhaps add it to this post (with credits to you, of course)! Wishing you a low-pain day, and one filled with laughter 🙂 ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [Would You Rather: Have an Invisible Illness or a Visible Disability?](https://achronicvoice.com/rather-have-invisible-illness-or-disability/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Featuring People with Illnesses, Passions & Talents](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-people-illnesses-talents/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Memes Boards: ![Chronic Illness Memes Page - “Tell Me You're Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill” - check them out!](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memes/chronic-illness-memes-page-tell-me-youre-chronically-ill-without-telling-me.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Caz / InvisiblyMe Oct 7, 2024 **This is soooo good, Sheryl! Humour has been important to me, too. Especially the ability to laugh at myself, otherwise I think I’d shrivel up with embarrassment.** It’s a sad time when you can safely say the only reason you’ve been able to spread your legs for a number of years is for doctors. 😂 Mini pharmacy at the bedside table, I have that too. I had to get little pots to separate meds and one to put on the wall because having them all together was a disaster waiting to happen. In a confused and sick state, you reach for something and hope it’s the right one. I actually took a screenshot of an autocorrect typo from a hospital video recently. It was brilliant but I can’t find it. I’ve got so many documents all over the place on my laptop now it’s just ridiculous. I could use a few months of solidly tidying up and getting through computer-related stuff let alone anything else. I wish I could remember what it was but alas, my memory is awful! Illness really is the gift that keeps on giving. Thank you for the giggles! Caz xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Oct 8, 2024 Hi Caz, thanks for reading and for sharing your own little laughs and experiences! Would love to see those photos! Also, I got the inspiration from you as mentioned in the post, but I can’t find it now so if you could let me know I’ll include it so we have even more laughs! 😀 Yes I figured that one about spreading legs… for doctors… would be either funny or repulsive depending on who you are haha! x - Sue Jackson Oct 6, 2024 Great post, Sheryl! I could relate to many of these!! You are SO lucky to live in Asia where wearing a mask has been normalized. Here in the US, we few “freaks” still wearing masks are treated like lepers or worse, openly mocked. It’s seriously messed up. I went to my 40th high school reunion (of course had to wear a mask – I rarely go to any event with that many people), and one of my old classmates (who is a surgeon now!!) pointed at me and laughed, chanting “ha ha Sue’s got COVID!” I was floored. As if it would be funny even if I did have COVID. sigh… he was clueless back in HS, too, but scary that he is now a medical professional. Anyway, I enjoyed your list and shared it 🙂 Sue [Live with ME/CFS](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/) - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Oct 6, 2024 Holy crap… a surgeon who said that?! That’s crazy to me 🙁 Yes, in the hospital every medical staff wears a mask, and it’s mandatory in the wards. Out in public, it’s up to you, but since the pandemic, wearing masks even by “healthy people” is normal now, which is great! Sadly, one of my classmates told me she wears a mask because she was “too ugly” – so, in that regard, maybe not haha! And thank you for your comment, I appreciate it – glad you could relate to many of these memes (or not, really 😔). Sending sunshine your way! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/ Last updated: 2026-04-19T08:40:34.000Z You may have heard of the rare blood clotting disorder, Antiphospholipid Syndrome, but did you know that it isn’t ‘just’ about the blood? This article is part of the Antiphospholipid Syndrome (APS) resource library that I’m building up on my site from a patient perspective. It consists of findings from research journals, as well as over 20 years of my personal experiences with APS. This post will focus on how does Antiphospholipid Syndrome affect the body, beyond the blood to major organs. I won’t deep dive into each medical condition, or the post will never end ;) (Also, I have found anatomy to be my least favourite research topic...but we’ll definitely have to delve a bit into it here!) If I get the motivation in future however, I will write up separate articles for each major organ in relation to Antiphospholipid Syndrome. If there are terms or topics in this article that you’d like to learn more about, then check out the complete A - Z resource guide and related APS posts below as well! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. Whilst I have done my utmost to be meticulous in research, *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Changelog: - **26 May 2025**: Updated citations and in-text links. - **14 January 2025**: Added new study by Huang et al. (2025) on future atherosclerotic cardiovascular disease in SLE/APS patients. Read Related Posts in the Antiphospholipid Syndrome Series: - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [Latest Research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Pregnancy, Miscarriage & Women's Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [The Lowdown on Medications & Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) Pin to Your Autoimmune Disease & Antiphospholipid Syndrome Boards: ![How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-body-from-blood-to-organs.jpg) ## Antiphospholipid Syndrome is a Systemic Autoimmune Disease What this means simply (but we know it’s not that simple, is it?), is that it can affect any part of the body in different ways. [According to García-Carrasco et al. (2013)](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK459442/): > “The clinical features and laboratory manifestations associated with aPL \[antiphospholipid antibodies\] have broadened considerably since the first description of APS in 1983 and now include thrombocytopenia, hemolytic anemia, cardiac valve disease, pulmonary hypertension, microangiopathic nephropathy, skin ulcers, livedo reticularis, refractory migraine, cognitive dysfunction, and atherosclerosis.” Beyond direct blood-related manifestations, Antiphospholipid Syndrome can also affect the heart, lungs, skin, brain and more. People who have an autoimmune disease tend to have comorbidities as well (i.e. those mutations love a party). For one, researchers have found that there is a [high risk of developing Systemic Lupus Erythematosus](https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/medicine/articles/10.3389/fmed.2021.654791/full) (SLE), especially during the first 5 years of being diagnosed with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Chen et al., 2021). Quick Link Guide: [Lupus & Lupus Anticoagulant](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SectionL) Pin to Your Autoimmune Disease & Antiphospholipid Syndrome Boards: ![APS Series - Systemic Issues in Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/aps-series-systemic-issues-antiphospholipid-syndrome.jpg) ## Let’s Get the Bloody Issue Out of the Way First Patients with [Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/21685-antiphospholipid-syndrome) are at an increased risk of blood clots, due to the production of antiphospholipid antibodies (aPLs) that attack phospholipids (Cleveland Clinic, 2022e). They can cause abnormalities in white blood cells, red blood cells, platelets, and other components of blood both directly or indirectly. Symptoms of blood clots depend on the body part where they’re ‘stuck’ at. Let’s take a look at a few direct manifestations of Antiphospholipid Syndrome within the blood. Quick Link Guide: [Antiphospholipid Antibodies](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#APLS) | [Blood Clots & Bleeding](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SectionB) | [Coagulation](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#coagulation) | [Phospholipids](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#phospholipids) | [Platelets](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#platelets) ### Deep Vein Thrombosis (DVT) [Venous thrombosis](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1568997209001918) (VT) is the most common clinical manifestation of Antiphospholipid Syndrome, with up to 30% of APS patients having had an episode (Biggioggero & Meroni, 2010). A VT usually occurs as a deep vein thrombosis (DVT). You’ve probably heard of [DVTs](https://wwwnc.cdc.gov/travel/yellowbook/2024/air-land-sea/deep-vein-thrombosis-and-pulmonary-embolism) (Reyes & Abe, 2025), in news articles scattered across the internet especially in relation to [long-haul flights](https://www.nationalgeographic.com/premium/article/long-flights-dehydration-pain-nausea-dvt) (Ward, 2024), as they can also occur in healthy people as a result of prolonged periods of inactivity. DVTs are blood clots that tend to form in a deep leg vein, although they can occur anywhere in the body. If these clots are large enough, they can also lodge in the brain, heart, lung or heart, which can quickly turn into a life-threatening situation. Read Related Posts: - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [My Second Brush with Death: A Broken Heart (Literally)](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) - [How Many Times Can You Hit Rock Bottom with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/rock-bottom/) #### More About Veins This [article from Cleveland Clinic (2022c)](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/body/23360-veins) does a fantastic job of explaining what veins are. To summarise, veins are blood vessels that are an important part of the circulatory system, and 75% of blood in the human body is contained within them. Apart from the pulmonary veins, they carry oxygen-poor blood back to your heart (arteries carry oxygen-rich blood in reverse). Collectively, they form the venous system, and there are a few different kinds - deep veins, superficial veins and perforating veins. Deep veins are found in the muscles and along bones, and contain 90% of the blood that needs to make its way back to the heart in the legs. That is why it is more common to experience a DVT in the legs. An interesting anatomy tidbit from Cleveland Clinic - calf muscles are also known as the ‘second heart’ as they help to pump blood back up against gravity. That is why it is important to keep moving and walking on long-haul flights, and why bedbound patients often need to wear compression stockings to prevent a DVT from occurring. Breathing is another important factor in helping blood to circulate. ### Thrombocytopenia Platelets are also known as thrombocytes, and [thrombocytopenia](https://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/thrombocytopenia) is a condition when your platelet count is too low (National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute \[NHLBI\], 2022). This can lead to excessive bleeding, as your blood is unable to clot sufficiently. Thrombocytopenia is also the [most common non-criteria manifestation of antiphospholipid antibodies](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11926-014-0494-8) (aPLs), with a frequency of between 20% - 50% (Artim-Esen et al., 2015). It is recognised as a [complication of patients with lupus anticoagulant and anticardiolipin antibodies](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1179/102453312X13336169156654) in particular. Those with APS and SLE concomitantly also exhibit thrombocytopenia with greater frequency. Having said that, thrombocytopenia is usually not severe in APS patients, and usually does not require therapy (Forastiero, 2012). Quick Link Guide: [Anticardiolipin Antibodies](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#anticardiolipin) | [Compression Clothing & Devices](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#compression) | [Lupus & Lupus Anticoagulant](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SectionL) | [Non-Criteria/Seronegative APS](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#NCAPS) | [Platelets](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#platelets) ## The Increased Risk of Cardiovascular Disease in Antiphospholipid Syndrome [Cardiovascular disease](https://www.who.int/health-topics/cardiovascular-diseases#tab=tab%5F1) (CVD) is an umbrella term that covers disorders of the heart and blood vessels, and is the leading cause of death globally (World Health Organization \[WHO\], n.d.). The usual suspects contribute to CVD, such as smoking and an unhealthy diet. Smoking is also one of the most important predictable risk factors for cardiovascular disease in people with Antiphospholipid Syndrome. [The combination is strongly associated with arterial vascular events](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S089684112200021X), especially [ischaemic strokes](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/stroke/symptoms-causes/syc-20350113) (when a blood clot blocks an artery in the brain) (Tektonidou, 2022; Mayo Clinic, n.d. -b). As such, it is important for people with APS to mediate what they can in an attempt to maintain and improve their overall health. [According to Polytarchou et al. (2020)](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31530257/): > “Patients with APS have endothelial dysfunction, accelerated endothelial proliferation and intimal hyperplasia, atherogenesis, platelet activation, inflammatory products secretion and coagulation-fibrinolytic dysregulation.” All that basically goes to say that APS patients are more prone to CVD, due to thrombotic and inflammatory factors in addition to traditional risk factors. Let’s break that down a bit to make more sense in relation to blood clotting and Antiphospholipid Syndrome. Quick Link Guide: [Blood Clots](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#BloodClots) | [Coagulation](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#coagulation) | [Diet](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#diet) | [Strokes](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#strokes) ### What is the Endothelium? [Endothelium](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/23230-endothelial-dysfunction) refers to the thin layer of cells that lines the inside of blood vessels, and endothelial cells secrete substances that control the opening and closing of arteries, which subsequently determines blood pressure and how hard your heart has to pump (Cleveland Clinic, 2022b). These substances also activate the [fibrinolysis system](https://medlineplus.gov/ency/article/000577.htm) (which helps to regulate blood clots) (National Library of Medicine \[NLM\], n.d.), and [mediates platelet adhesion and shear stress induced aggregation](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/8712785/) (Wu & Thiagarajan, 1996). There are [four different types of endothelial cells](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11886-020-1275-9), namely: arterial, venous, capillary and lymphatic. These cells can be found in major organs, such as the brain, liver, kidney, lungs and heart, where they proliferate (reproduce) at different rates, serve different functions, and vary in movement (Przysinda et al., 2020). ### Endothelial Dysfunction & Antiphospholipid Syndrome According to Stanford Health Care (n.d. -b): “[Endothelial dysfunction](https://stanfordhealthcare.org/medical-conditions/blood-heart-circulation/endothelial-dysfunction.html) is a type of non-obstructive coronary artery disease (CAD) in which there are no heart artery blockages, but the large blood vessels on the heart’s surface constrict (narrow) instead of dilating (opening).” Endothelial dysfunction causes chronic chest pain, and is more frequently seen in women than in men. This dysfunction is usually due to low levels of nitric oxide gas in blood vessel walls, which can trigger inflammation, and other platelet and blood vessel dysregulations. These can result in blood clots, strokes, hypertension, heart attacks, and more. [Patients with APS have been found to have impaired synthesis of nitric oxide](https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/physiology/articles/10.3389/fphys.2018.01840/full) that can be caused by various factors. APS patients with thrombosis were found to have low plasma levels of nitrites and nitrates, which are important metabolites for breaking down nitric oxide. Antiphospholipid antibodies also have implications in how nitric oxide synthesises (Velásquez et al., 2018). ### Cardiovascular Diseases that APS Patients are More Prone to According to [Tektonidou (2022)](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S089684112200021X) and [Polytarchou et al. (2020)](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31530257/), a few of the types of cardiovascular diseases that patients with Antiphospholipid Syndrome are more prone to include: 1. [**Hypertension**](https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/hypertension) **(high blood pressure).** Hypertension is a leading cause of death worldwide (WHO, 2023). It is also one of the most common traditional risk factors for APS patients, where approximately 20 – 35% of APS patients have it. It is also more commonly found in patients with a combination of SLE/APS, as compared to PAPS (Primary Antiphospholipid Syndrome). 2. [**Pulmonary Hypertension**](https://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/pulmonary-hypertension) **(PH).** This is [different from ‘regular’ hypertension](https://www.orlandohealth.com/content-hub/warning-signs-of-pulmonary-hypertension-and-how-to-treat-it), as it mainly affects either arteries or veins in the lungs; ‘regular’ hypertension on the other hand, is when there is constriction in your arteries, and can happen anywhere in the body (NHLBI, 2023; Orlando Health, n.d.). People who are positive for antiphospholipid antibodies have been found to be susceptible to all five groups of PH, with those who have a comorbid connective tissue disorder such as Lupus, at a slightly higher risk. 3. [**Hyperlipidemia**](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/21656-hyperlipidemia) **(elevated lipids such as cholesterol).** Hyperlipidemia is another prevalent medical condition, especially in developed countries that eat a high-fat, Western diet (Cleveland Clinic, 2022d). It is also another leading cause of cardiovascular disease in patients with Antiphospholipid Syndrome, and is present in about 20% - 25% of patients. 4. [**Atherosclerosis**](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/16753-atherosclerosis-arterial-disease) **(hardening of arteries caused by a buildup of plaque).** This is a prevalent condition, but many people may not be aware that they have it as they may not have symptoms in the early stages (Cleveland Clinic, 2024a). Studies have found that atherosclerotic plaques are associated with IgG and anti-β2GPI antibodies, and that APS and/or SLE/APS patients had almost 2.5 fold the risk of them developing in the carotid and/or femoral arteries. Another[ recent study by Huang et al. (2025)](https://bmcmedicine.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12916-024-03843-9) also concluded that “SLE patients with positive aPLs, especially positive aCL \[anticardiolipin\] IgG/IgM and LA \[lupus anticoagulant\], warrant more care and surveillance of future ASCVD \[atherosclerotic cardiovascular disease\] events during follow-up”. The study also found that aCL IgA and anti-β2GPI IgA antibodies were independent risk factors for ASCVD, even in participants without autoimmune disease. 5. [**Acute Coronary Syndromes**](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/22910-acute-coronary-syndrome) **(ACS).** These are a group of disorders that include heart attacks and [unstable anginas](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/21744-unstable-angina) (chest pain when your heart muscle doesn’t get enough oxygen-rich blood), and is a medical emergency when it happens. ACS most commonly happens due to a plaque bursting, or when a blood clot blocks blood flow to the heart (Cleveland Clinic, 2022a; Cleveland Clinic, 2024c). Patients with Antiphospholipid Syndrome have an increased risk of ACS, which can happen even with normal or [non-obstructive coronary artery disease](https://stanfordhealthcare.org/medical-conditions/blood-heart-circulation/non-obstructive-coronary-artery-disease.html), or with normal or near-normal coronary arteries (Stanford Health Care, n.d -a). [Acute myocardial infarctions](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0146280622004005) (heart attacks) that happen to young patients, especially those in their forties, can often be attributed to Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Nevras et al., 2023). There could be a few possible reasons as to why APS patients are more prone to ACS, such as plaque ruptures or an acute thrombosis event. 1. **[Valvular Heart Disease](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/17639-what-you-need-to-know-heart-valve-disease).** This happens when any valve in the heart is damaged or diseased, with the most common being stenosis, where the valve becomes narrow or stiff, and thus unable to open fully to allow blood to flow through (Cleveland Clinic, 2024d). Libman-Sacks endocarditis is present in 30% of APS patients, and according to Polytarchou et al. (2020): > “Typically, patients with APS have valve thickening (>3 mm) of the proximal or middle portion of the leaflets, or irregular nodules on the atrial aspect of the edge of the mitral valve or the vascular surface of the edge of the aortic valve. The formation of valve vegetation, known as Libman-Sacks endocarditis, is the result of endocardial damage and thrombus formation.” **[I personally have had a mitral valve prolapse when I was 25](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/)**, though I don’t think it can be solely attributed to APS as I have a whole assortment of chronic illnesses. I still remember slowly dying over the course of a year, as breathing became increasingly difficult. I managed to eventually get it repaired at Cleveland Clinic, as the local surgeons were not keen to touch a patient with Antiphospholipid Syndrome. That life-saving surgery was only made possible thanks to the hundreds of kind, generous souls who funded it. 1. **Cardiomyopathy (heart muscle disorders).** \- There are various types of conditions that can cause cardiomyopathy, which results in your heart being unable to pump blood efficiently. Over time, this weakens your heart and can lead to heart failure. APS patients, especially those with a comorbid SLE diagnosis, have an increased risk of cardiomyopathy, most likely due to “microvascular thrombosis, autoimmune vasculitis and myocarditis or microvascular fibrosis” (Polytarchou et al., 2020). 2. **[Intracardiac Thrombi](https://journals.lww.com/hrtv/fulltext/2013/14030/cardiac%5Fthrombi%5Fin%5Fdifferent%5Fclinical%5Fscenarios.2.aspx).** \- Cardiac thrombi can be commonly found in patients with ischaemic strokes, and it is important to distinguish them from other cardiac masses such as tumours, in order to render proper treatment (Alkindi et al., 2013). Intracardiac thrombosis is when a blood clot forms in the heart, which can also lead to pulmonary or peripheral embolisms. This is not an exhaustive list of cardiological issues in relation to Antiphospholipid Syndrome, but I hope that it has granted you some insight into the mechanisms behind it, and that it serves to highlight the importance of maintaining good heart wherever possible (I personally could do better, for one...). Quick Link Guide: [Anti-β2GPI](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#AntiB2GPI) | [Antiphospholipid Antibodies](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#APLS) | [Diet](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#diet) | [Vitamin K](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SectionK) | [Lupus (SLE) & APS Overlaps](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SLEAPS) | [Phospholipids](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#phospholipids) | [Strokes](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#strokes) | [Young Adults](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SectionY) Pin to Your Cardiovascular Health & Antiphospholipid Syndrome Boards: ![Cardiovascular Disease in Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/cardiovascular-disease-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome.jpg) ## Cutaneous Manifestations in Antiphospholipid Syndrome Cutaneous (skin-related) manifestations are common and may actually be the first signs of Antiphospholipid Syndrome. In [a study of 200 patients](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/art.21041), Francès et al. (2005) found that 49% of APS or APS/SLE patients had dermatologic manifestations, and that it was the presenting manifestation in 30.5% of them. Kriseman et al. (2007) also notes that [40% of APS patients who have cutaneous manifestations](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0190962206040977) go on to develop multisystemic thrombotic events, which underscores the need to be extra vigilant. [According to Gibson et al. (1997)](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0190962297802836), cutaneous manifestations in Antiphospholipid Syndrome include: > “livedo reticularis, necrotizing vasculitis, livedoid vasculitis, thrombophlebitis, cutaneous ulceration and necrosis, erythematous macules, purpura, ecchymoses, painful skin nodules, and subungual splinter hemorrhages.” Studies have shown that livedo reticularis is the [most common dermatologic manifestation](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1365-4632.2004.01939.x) in APS patients, at about 55%. Another study of 70 patients with the lupus anticoagulant showed thrombophlebitis as the most common at about 34%. SLE is often associated with secondary cases, and chronic urticaria is also associated with autoimmune conditions in general, in approximately 50% of cases (Diógenes et al., 2004). Let’s take a look at how Antiphospholipid Syndrome can affect the largest organ of the human body - the skin. ### Livedo - The Most Common Dermatologic Manifestation in APS Patients [Livedo reticularis](https://www.hss.edu/conditions%5Ftop-ten-antiphospholipid-syndrome-skin-problems.asp) is a netlike, purplish discolouration of skin, thought to be caused through the constriction of blood vessels (Danan et al., 2021). This then disrupts blood flow, and results in oxygen-starved red blood cells accumulated beneath the skin. It may also be the presenting sign of APS, although it may be hard to tell as it can also occur in other individuals with or without other medical conditions. There is also another form of livedo known as [livedo racemosa](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/1534734619896938), which presents as a discontinued network, and does not go away. It mostly occurs in the lower limbs, and for APS patients, usually happens due to organised thrombosis. Unlike livedo reticularis, livedo racemosa is commonly associated with thrombotic or inflammatory disorders (Pincelli et al., 2021). ### Superficial Thrombophlebitis [Superficial thrombophlebitis](https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/antiphospholipid-syndrome/symptoms/) is when there is inflammation of the veins just beneath your skin, and usually occurs in the legs. Symptoms include swelling, redness or tenderness, and sometimes a high fever (National Health Service, 2022). These are similar to that of a DVT, but with less severity. A small [study of 45 patients with recurrent superficial thrombophlebitis](https://www.proquest.com/openview/664722a942256a660b5b53accad27341/) also found a correlation with anticardiolipin antibodies (de Godoy et al., 2001). ### Cutaneous Ulceration According to Dobler et al. (2018), about [20% - 30% of Antiphospholipid Syndrome patients have lower extremity ulcers](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0006497119411713), which they posit might be due to “vascular endothelial damage at the microcirculation level, leading to intracapillary thrombosis and focal inflammation”. Whilst the full pathology is yet to be fully understood, some recent studies have suggested that the antiphospholipid antibodies - lupus anticoagulant and anticardiolipin - might be [risk factors for venous leg ulcers](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/cia2.12143), which might cause repeated thrombosis that lead to chronic damage that are unable to heal properly over time (Takahashi et al., 2021). Research I have found in relation to skin ulcers are mostly from case reports, where many of the ulcers resembled [pyoderma gangrenosum](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK482223/), which is an ulcerative disorder that is not fully understood, but commonly linked with systemic diseases (Schmieder & Krishnamurthy, 2023). These ulcers either fully resolved with a combination of treatments including anticoagulation, although there was one case report of [an ulcer that wasn’t able to heal for 7 years](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/15347346221090079) (Wei et al., 2022). In all of the case reports, the need for a multidisciplinary approach was emphasised. You can [**learn more about anticoagulants and the various types of medications used in relation to APS in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/)**.** Quick Link Guide: [Anticardiolipin Antibodies](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#APLS) | [Lupus Anticoagulant](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#LA) Pin to Your Skin & Antiphospholipid Syndrome Boards: ![Skin Problems with Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/skin-problems-antiphospholipid-syndrome.jpeg) ## Male & Female Reproductive Systems I wrote a whole post about females and Antiphospholipid Syndrome which you can read about in the link below (and will follow up with one all about males at some point!). If you do not have the time, one thing to be aware of are [**ovarian cyst ruptures**](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/), which can come on suddenly, and is of life-threatening status. Having experienced it twice, I am now on birth control in a bid to prevent it from happening again. Whether Antiphospholipid Syndrome contributes to infertility is still controversial, as there is insufficient data to conclude. However, there have been case reports of [testicular thrombosis followed by orchiectomy](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0961203319893763) (surgical procedure to remove testicle(s)) in males with APS, which could contribute to future infertility (El Hasbani et al., 2020). Quick Link Guide: [Birth Control](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#BirthControl) | [Men](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#men) Read Related Posts: - [Pregnancy, Miscarriage & Women’s Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [YuYu Bottle Review: Hot Water Bottle for ‘Surround Warmth’ Pain Relief](https://achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-review/) ## Musculoskeletal Manifestations in Antiphospholipid Syndrome Several [musculoskeletal manifestations have been reported in APS patients](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0961203316636467), namely: Arthralgia/Arthritis, Avascular Necrosis/Osteonecrosis, bone marrow necrosis, complex regional pain syndrome type-1 (reflex sympathetic dystrophy), muscle infarction, non-traumatic fractures and osteoporosis (Noureldine et al., 2016). Musculoskeletal manifestations can also be complicated by comorbidities, such as Lupus (SLE). Patients on long-term warfarin therapy can also lose bone density as it is a Vitamin K antagonist, which is an [important vitamin for bone health](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1155/2019/2069176) (Rodríguez-Olleros Rodríguez & Díaz Curiel, 2019). [**Learn more about Vitamin K antagonists here**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/)**.** Quick Link Guide: [Vitamin K](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SectionK) Read Related Posts: - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [What’s it Like to be on a High Dose of Steroids? (And the First Question You Will Definitely Ask)](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) ### Avascular Necrosis / Osteonecrosis Avascular necrosis of bone (AVN) is also known as osteonecrosis (ON) or aseptic necrosis. It is a disease in which cell death occurs in components of bone, as a result of interruption in blood supply. AVN is associated with several autoimmune diseases. For Antiphospholipid Syndrome, ischaemia is thought to be the main cause, with [antiphospholipid antibodies associated with vessel thromboses](https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/1-84628-009-5%5F12). Thrombosis of terminal arteries in the subcondral areas (layers of bone just beneath the cartilage in a joint) has also been found in patients with non-traumatic AVN (Tektonidou & Moutsopoulos, 2006). Studies have shown that [previous glucocorticoid (steroid) use and thrombocytopenia (low platelet count) may be contributing factors](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40744-021-00333-9) (Freire de Carvalho et al., 2021). Quick Link Guide: [Platelets](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#platelets) ### Osteopenia & Osteoporosis [Osteopenia](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/21855-osteopenia) refers to bone density loss, which can lead to [osteoporosis](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/osteoporosis/symptoms-causes/syc-20351968) where the bones have become weak and brittle, and thus can break easily (Cleveland Clinic, 2024b; Mayo Clinic, n.d. -a). [Long-term warfarin use has been associated with osteoporosis](https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamainternalmedicine/article-abstract/409581), especially for men. This might be due to its Vitamin K antagonistic effects, which interferes with bone formation (Gage et al., 2006). Another small study also showed a [strong correlation between antiphospholipid antibodies and metatarsal fractures](https://ard.bmj.com/content/63/10/1241.long) (which includes osteoporosis), although the role of warfarin is yet unclear (Sangle et al., 2004). [**Learn more about warfarin here**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#warfarin)**.** ### Arthralgia As per Noureldine et al.’s (2016) review, Primary Antiphospholipid Syndrome (PAPS) is a common cause of arthralgia (pain in a joint). This is [different from Arthritis](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK303/), which is an actual diagnosis, and not a symptom (Hardin, 1990). Management of arthralgia and arthritis is primarily on a symptomatic basis, with drugs such as NSAIDs and analgesics. According to Noureldine et al. (2016), osteoarticular pain might be due to a flare for SLE-APS patients, in which immunosuppressive agents and/or corticosteroids may be needed. I have both Sjögren’s and SLE, and based on my personal experience, only steroids work when I’m in an immense pain flare. Even strong painkillers do nothing to ease the pain. Quick Link Guide: [Lupus (SLE)](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SectionL) | [Painkillers](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#painkillers) Read Related Posts: - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [3 Types of Chronic Pain that Sound Bearable, but are Not](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-bearable-not/) Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome Awareness Boards: ![Antiphospholipid Syndrome - It’s not ‘just’ a blood clotting disorder](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-not-just-blood-clotting-disorder.jpg) ## Neuropsychiatric Manifestations in Antiphospholipid Syndrome [Neuropsychiatry](https://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/become-a-psychiatrist/choose-psychiatry/what-is-psychiatry/types-of-psychiatrist/neuropsychiatry) is a field of medicine which involves neurology and also mental illness (Royal College of Psychiatrists, n.d.). Antiphospholipid Syndrome is now recognised as a major neurological disease as well. [Neurological events that can occur due to APS](https://academic.oup.com/pmj/article/79/928/81/7045590) include: stroke, transient ischemic attacks (TIA), migraine, headaches, memory loss, [ataxia](https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/ataxia) (coordination/balance issues), symptoms that mimic Multiple Sclerosis, [myelopathy](https://www.pennmedicine.org/for-patients-and-visitors/patient-information/conditions-treated-a-to-z/myelopathy), [neuropathy](https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/neuropathy), behavioural disorders and more (Hughes, 2003; Johns Hopkins Medicine, n.d. -a; Penn Medicine, n.d.; Healthdirect Australia, 2024). The [direct impact of antiphospholipid antibodies (aPLs) on the central nervous system](https://www.hindawi.com/journals/jir/2014/239398/) (CNS) have also been postulated to explain the effect of neurological symptoms in APS patients. One study showed that aPLs bound to specific areas of the brain that impacted memory and learning functions. Another study associated long-term exposure to apLs with motor hypoactivity and impaired cognition, due to mature amyloid plaque deposition, and a relationship between thrombin and coagulation inhibitors. This could potentially increase the risk of Alzheimer's Disease. The increased exposure to proinflammatory cytokines most likely play a role as well (Carecchio et al., 2014). A lot of research still needs to be done in terms of APS and neuropsychiatric manifestations, as the mechanisms are yet to be fully understood. This is also a great [video by Dr. Sanil Rege, who explains more about neuropsychiatric manifestations of APS](https://psychscenehub.com/video/antiphospholipid-syndrome-aps-in-psychiatry-neuropsychiatric-manifestations-dr-sanil-rege/) in a simple manner (Psych Scene Hub, 2024), and [another one on the subject by Prof. Graham Hughes](https://psychscenehub.com/video/neuropsychiatric-manifestations-in-aps-by-prof-graham-hughes/) (Psych Scene Hub, 2020). Quick Link Guide: [Antiphospholipid Antibodies](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#APLS) | [Coagulation](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#coagulation) ### Brain Fog / Cognitive Dysfunction An impact in cognitive function is preferable to saying ‘brain fog’, which often makes the experience sound too trivial. Those who live with ‘brain fog’ know how devastating its impacts are. [Cognitive dysfunction is also another annoying feature of APS involvement](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11926-016-0568-x) in the neurological pathways, and exists on a spectrum from mild to severe (such as dementia) (Yelnik et al., 2016). The frequency of cognitive dysfunction ranges from 19% to 40%, and includes cognitive complication with memory, executive function, visuospatial skills and visuomotor speed. APS patients can also present with psychiatric symptoms such as: psychosis, mania, depression, bipolar disorders, OCD and schizophrenia (Yelnik et al., 2016). Here is also a useful [Q&A session with Dr. Yu](https://medicine.umich.edu/dept/intmed/what-aps-%E2%80%9Cbrain-fog%E2%80%9D-what-are-some-strategies-help-manage-it), as he answers some questions from the APS community regarding brain fog (Yu, n.d.). Combined with Lupus, Epilepsy, Sjögren’s disease, depression, anxiety and all the other medical conditions that I have, nailing down the culprit of my brain fog can be tricky. I often think that brain fog can be worse than pain, because at least there are coping strategies for pain to a certain extent. There is not much you can do for brain fog, where I have trouble adding 3 + 2, even. You can see how that’s detrimental to trying to get anything done, from simple chores to work. Read Related Posts: - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [So This is What a Tonic Clonic Seizure Feels Like](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) ### Stroke / Cerebrovascular Accident A stroke is known medically as a [cerebrovascular accident](https://health.hawaii.gov/nt/stroke/stroke-medical-terminology/) (State of Hawaii, Department of Health, n.d.), and is one of the big bad ones when Antiphospholipid Syndrome misbehaves. Apart from taking your medications fastidiously, steps for stroke prevention require modifications to your lifestyle. This includes eating a balanced diet (especially if you're on warfarin), the avoidance of contact sports, and more. Basically, things you probably would not have thought about twice before your Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis. Studies have shown that triple positive APS patients are at the highest risk for thrombosis, whilst other studies have shown that patients with SLE with only lupus anticoagulant are at an equally high risk. According to Mittal et al. (2023): > “[Acute ischemic stroke (AIS) and transient ischemic attack (TIA) are the most common manifestations of arterial pathology in APS](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/17474930221150349),7 with approximately 20% of patients with APS suffering a stroke more than 10 years.8 In individuals aged below 50 years, 17% of strokes and 12% of TIA are associated with aPL,9 suggesting APS is an important cause of strokes in younger patients.” Another important thing to note is that [more than 20% of strokes in patients younger than 45 years of age](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0961203318776110) may be attributed to Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Ricarte et al., 2018). It is also more common in males. ### Transient Ischaemic Attack (TIA) A [transient ischaemic attack](https://www.ninds.nih.gov/health-information/disorders/transient-ischemic-attack-tia) (TIA) is a ‘mild stroke’ event that doesn’t last for long, and occurs when blood supply to the brain is cut off briefly. Symptoms include: numbness especially on one side of the body, confusion, vision problems, dizziness, and loss of coordination in articulation and balance (National Institute of Neurological Disorders and Stroke \[NINDS\], n.d.). I also know a friend with Lupus (SLE) in her mid-30s, who was recently diagnosed with APS, as she had suffered a stroke with atypical symptoms. Strokes and transient ischaemic attacks (TIAs) are the most common neuropsychiatric manifestations of Antiphospholipid Syndrome. [**A TIA was actually my first manifestation and experience with APS**](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) at 14, where exactly half of my body was numb. It was a strange sensation, almost as if I were sliced into half with precision. I brushed it off as a heat stroke, as I had just endured a physical training session under the hot sun. I was still joking with my friend as we dragged my body to a general practitioner, who referred me to a neurologist. I then received an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis, and I can still remember that devastating day with clarity, even 20 years on. Quick Link Guide: [Diet](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#diet) | [Lupus (SLE)](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SLEAPS) | [Sports](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#sports) | [Strokes](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#strokes) | [Triple Positive](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#TriplePos) | [Young Adults](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SectionY) Pin to Your Autoimmunity & Antiphospholipid Syndrome Boards: ![From Brain to Blood and Beyond - The widespread impact of Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/brain-blood-beyond-impact-antiphospholipid-syndrome.jpg) ## Ophthalmologic / Ocular Manifestations in Antiphospholipid Syndrome [Ophthalmology](https://www.aao.org/eye-health/tips-prevention/what-is-ophthalmologist) is a field in medicine with many sub-specialties, and deals with the eyes and vision, their functions and diseases (Churchill & Gudgel, 2024). It is important to note that thrombosis can occur in the eyes as well. Apart from antiphospholipid antibodies (aPLs), proinflammatory cytokines also play a role in triggering thrombosis. As usual, comorbidities such as SLE can worsen things; according to Neto et al. (2023), [up to 1/4 of APS/SLE and SLE patients had retinal abnormalities](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10067-023-06613-9), and the presence of aPL triple positivity and a high aGAPSS score also seem to be risk factors for [paracentral acute middle maculopathy](https://www.cureus.com/articles/139900-paracentral-acute-middle-maculopathy-as-the-presenting-sign-of-ischemic-cardiomyopathy#!/) (a type of ischemic maculopathy) (Mishra et al., 2023). There are a number of [ocular and neuroophthalmic manifestations that have been found in APS patients](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1568997206002138), including but not limited to: retinal arteritis, retinal venous occlusion, ischemic optic neuropathy, transient loss of vision and diplopia (Suvajac et al., 2007). Both [anterior and posterior eye segments can be affected](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0961203320949667) (Franco et al., 2020), and sometimes symptoms overlap with neurological-type manifestations such as [headache and migraine-like visual symptoms](https://joii-journal.springeropen.com/articles/10.1186/s12348-021-00240-8) (Uludag et al., 2021). According to Suvajac et al. (2007), the most frequent ocular manifestation in APS is retinal thrombosis, especially in young adults. In secondary APS, occlusion of central retinal artery and vein (OACR, OVCR) is the most common finding. Patients with Lupus (SLE) on top of Antiphospholipid Syndrome have a compounding of ophthalmic issues, such as scleritis, extraocular thromboses, and optic neuropathy. Catastrophic APS (CAPS) is rare but can also affect the eyes, which can even [lead to permanent vision loss](https://journals.lww.com/retinajournal/abstract/2021/11000/catastrophic%5Fantiphospholipid%5Fsyndrome%5Fand.18.aspx) (Morel et al., 2021). Ocular and ophthalmic manifestations in Antiphospholipid Syndrome was previously thought to be rare, but further studies have revealed that they actually occur in 15 - 88% of patients (Suvajac et al., 2007). Interestingly, [risk factors associated with retinal vasculopathy](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/09612033211069762) include APS-related kidney and heart valve disease, as well as obstetric morbidity (Xie et al., 2022). Quick Link Guide: [aGAPSS](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#agapss) | [Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#APS) | [Catastrophic APS](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#CAPS) | [Lupus (SLE)](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SLEAPS) | [Primary APS](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#PAPS) | [Secondary APS](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SAPS) | [Triple Positive](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#TriplePos) ### Retinal Venous Occlusion [Retinal vein occlusion](https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0122814) (RVO) is a multifactorial retinal vascular disease that can cause vision damage and blindness, and is common amongst the elderly. Antiphospholipid antibodies are also a risk factor for RVO, especially in patients less than 45 years of age (Zhu et al., 2015). In a study by Hernández et al. (2020), it was found that [10% of the patients with RVO had antiphospholipid antibodies](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0049384820301122), and that up to 90% of their RVO-APS patients had at least one vascular risk factor. ## Pulmonary Manifestations in Antiphospholipid Syndrome Pulmonary thromboembolisms and pulmonary hypertension are the most common manifestations of APS in the lungs. Sometimes, patients get a pulmonary embolism first, which leads to a diagnosis of Antiphospholipid Syndrome. Other [APS and lung issues](https://ard.bmj.com/content/61/3/195.full) include, but are not limited to: microvascular pulmonary thrombosis, pulmonary capillaritis, alveolar haemorrhage, acute respiratory distress syndrome (ARDS) and postpartum syndrome (Espinosa et al., 2002). ### Pulmonary Embolism (PE) A [Pulmonary Embolism](https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/pulmonary-embolism) (PE) is when a blood clot develops in one of your veins (often in the legs), and travels to lodge itself in a lung artery, blocking blood flow (Johns Hopkins Medicine, n.d. -c). There is a high mortality rate for PEs, with Antiphospholipid Syndrome as a risk factor. According to Shi et al.( 2022) in a study of 76 patients with PE: > "The [risk factors for APS in PE patients](https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/cardiovascular-medicine/articles/10.3389/fcvm.2022.872523/full) are male, low PLT, prolonged APTT and slightly increased D-dimer." Many people who live with all types of chronic illnesses or disabilities tend to “wait for a bit and see”. Going to the A&E is not fun - I don’t think I need to explain why. It is also uncomfortable, full of other sick people, and all that waiting around makes you even more dehydrated and exhausted. “Is it worth a trip? The pain isn’t so bad...yet...right?”, you think to yourself. And I’ve had that thought many times. But if you have breathlessness or any persistent chest pains that will not go away, especially where painkillers don't even help - then please just go to the A&E. A pulmonary embolism can be deadly, and the longer you wait, the more damage it will cause. You can [**read about my personal experience with Pulmonary Embolism in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/). This medical incident put my body under huge physical and mental stress, which [**subsequently activated all the other genes for Lupus, Sjögren’s and more**](https://achronicvoice.com/rock-bottom/), which might have otherwise remained dormant. Quick Link Guide: [Genes](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#genes) | [Lupus (SLE)](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SLEAPS) | [NSAIDs](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#NSAIDs) | [Painkillers](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#painkillers) Pin to Your Anatomy, Health & Antiphospholipid Syndrome Boards: ![Major Organs that Antiphospholipid Syndrome Can Hit](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/major-organs-antiphospholipid-syndrome.jpg) ## Vascular Manifestations in Antiphospholipid Syndrome The [vascular system](https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/overview-of-the-vascular-system) is also known as the circulatory system. It consists of the blood vessels (arteries and veins), capillaries (tiny arteries between blood vessels), and lymph vessels. Its functions include blood circulation and lymphatic drainage. These have overlaps with the respiratory, digestive, kidney and urinary system, as well as temperature control, as they all rely on the vascular system (Johns Hopkins Medicine, n.d. -b). This also means that vascular manifestations of Antiphospholipid Syndrome can happen within any of these pathways. There is increasing evidence that activation of the mammalian target of rapamycin complex (mTORC) pathway by antiphospholipid antibodies (aPLs) is [associated with vascular lesions](https://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJMoa1312890) (Canaud et al., 2014). In a [study of 48 APS patients](https://acrjournals.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/art.38785), it was also found that those with increased TLR-2 and TLR-4 (toll-like receptor proteins) had endothelial dysfunction, arterial stiffening, and hypertrophy (Benhamou et al., 2014). No matter the organ involved, most of these [vascular manifestations](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11926-017-0687-z) occur as acute or chronic lesions and/or thrombosis in various forms. These can subsequently lead to more specific medical issues, such as stenotic/occlusive coronary arterial disease in the heart, “APS nephropathy” in the kidneys, on top of a myriad of other vascular-related diseases. It is also important to note, once again, that comorbidities such as Lupus (SLE) compounds these issues, due to a wide variety of added factors (Siddique et al., 2017). Quick Link Guide: [Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#APS) | [Coagulation](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#coagulation) | [Lupus & Lupus Anticoagulant](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SectionL) ### Diffuse Alveolar Haemorrhage [Diffuse Alveolar Haemorrhage (DAH) is a small vessel vasculitis](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11926-019-0852-7) that damages the lung microvasculature, so the most fatal complication often involves the respiratory system (Stoots et al., 2019). This is a rare condition that can happen to APS patients, with a high mortality rate between 30.3% - 45.8%. [Symptoms of diffuse alveolar haemorrhage include](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1521661623005387): dyspnea (shortness of breath), cough, hypoxemia (low blood oxygen levels), hemoptysis (coughing blood out from the lungs), fever, and more. Treatment is usually fairly aggressive, and include: glucocorticoids, immunosuppressive therapy, plasma exchange, and more. More than half of APS patients with DAH are estimated to have a relapse within 5 years of follow-up (Figueroa-Parra et al., 2023). Quick Link Guide: [Immunosuppressants](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#immunosuppressants) ## Conclusion: How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect the Body? As you can see, Antiphospholipid Syndrome is a systemic autoimmune disease that goes beyond its status as a ‘mere’ blood disorder. Blood is life, and blood clots can occur in *any* part of your body, leading to potentially detrimental effects. Thus, it is critical to take your APS diagnosis seriously. [**Learn from my mistakes**](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) \- sticking to a regular balanced diet and avoiding contact sports are some things you can do to help lessen the risk of a severe incident. You may not be experiencing pain in the present moment, but remember that prevention is better than cure. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. 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Non-stroke central neurologic manifestations in antiphospholipid syndrome. *Current Rheumatology Reports, 18*(2), 11\. - Yu, R. Z. (n.d.). *What is APS “brain fog”? What are some strategies to help manage it?* Michigan Medicine. Retrieved July 1, 2024 from - Zhu, W., Wu, Y., Xu, M., Wang, J. Y., Meng, Y. F., Gu, Z., & Lu, J. (2015). Antiphospholipid antibody and risk of retinal vein occlusion: A systematic review and meta-analysis. *Plos one, 10*(4), e0122814\. ### The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/ Last updated: 2026-05-11T13:40:26.000Z This article is part of the Antiphospholipid Syndrome (APS) resource library that I’m building up on my site. In this post, we will focus on medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome. In particular, warfarin is a key medication for the management of APS, especially if you’ve experienced blood clotting events in the past. We will also take a look at what DOACs (direct oral anticoagulants) are, how other medications such as NSAIDs (non steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs) can interact with warfarin, and exciting new drugs in the pipeline. If there are specific terms or topics in this post that you were wondering about, such as injections, diet, bone health or something else, you can probably find in answers in the find the answers in the complete Antiphospholipid Syndrome A - Z guide or links below. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. Whilst I have done my utmost to be meticulous in research, *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Read Related Posts in the Antiphospholipid Syndrome Series: - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [Latest Research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Pregnancy, Miscarriage & Women's Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? 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Read the post on A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/lowdown-medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-aps-wawrfarin-enoxaparin-nsaids-doacs.jpg) ## **A Brief Introduction to Vitamin K** [Vitamin K](https://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/VitaminK-HealthProfessional/) is important to know all about as a patient with Antiphospholipid Syndrome, as it interacts with warfarin and is a key contributor to the blood clotting process. It is a fat-soluble vitamin that comes in the form of vitamin K1 (phylloquinone) and vitamin K2 (a series of menaquinones). There is also a synthetic form - Vitamin K3 (menadione), which is no longer used in dietary supplements as they have been found to damage hepatic cells (Office of Dietary Supplements \[ODS\], 2021). Vitamin K1 is the main form of vitamin K in the human diet, and can mostly be found in green, leafy vegetables, certain fruits, and its absorption is increased in the presence of butter or oils. Vitamin K2 is mainly derived from fermented foods, dairy produce and animal-based sources. According to Halder et al. (2019): > “[VKDPs \[vitamin K-dependent proteins\] are categorized as hepatic and extra-hepatic VKDPs](https://www.mdpi.com/1422-0067/20/4/896). Hepatic VKDPs include coagulation factors II, VII, IX, X, and anticoagulant protein C, protein S, and protein Z, all of which are involved in regulating blood coagulation. Extra-hepatic VKDPs include Matrix Gla protein (MGP), Osteocalcin, and Gla-rich protein (GRP). These VKDPs are primarily involved in maintaining bone homeostasis, as well as inhibiting ectopic calcification.” In basic terms, what this means is that vitamin K, whether in K1 or K2 form, is an essential component of blood clotting processes, maintenance of bone health, and prevention of vessel mineralisation, depending on how and where they are metabolised. Whilst it’s important to be aware of vitamin K, I won’t deep dive into it in this post as I’d like to focus on medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome. Quick Link Guide: [Coagulation](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#coagulation) | [Fruits](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#fruits) | [Green, Leafy Vegetables](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#LeafyVeg) | [Vitamin K](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SectionK) Read Related Posts: - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) ## Vitamin K Antagonists (VKAs) Vitamin K antagonists (VKAs) are a class of medications used for the treatment and prevention of thrombosis. The most well-known and commonly used VKA is warfarin. For the sake of interest, [other types of VKAs](https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/pharmacology-toxicology-and-pharmaceutical-science/ethyl-biscoumacetate) include: ethyl biscoumacetate, phenindione, anisindione, dicoumarol, phenprocoumon and diphenadione. There is a reason why warfarin is the most commonly used, as many of these other VKAs are erratic, highly toxic, or can cause other adverse side effects (Vardanyan & Hruby, 2006). The administration of VKAs is convenient and practical, as they can be taken orally, and have a long half-life (warfarin has a half-life of 36 - 42 hours). Doctors are also able to adjust dosages for more precision in individual patients as needed, based on risk factors and medical history. [VKAs work by antagonising the enzyme vitamin K epoxide reductase (VKOR)](https://thrombosisjournal.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12959-016-0088-y) to prevent vitamin K from being recycled. This results in inhibition of the coagulation cascade, as many clotting factors rely on vitamin K to synthesise (Schein et al., 2016). ### Coumarins Vitamin K antagonists such as warfarin, acenocoumarol and phenprocoumon are [derivatives of coumarin](https://www.mdpi.com/1420-3049/25/6/1465), which can be of natural or synthetic origin. In 1945, Karl Link experimented with 150 naturally occurring coumarin derivatives, before concluding that one compound was particularly active - warfarin. For a rare subset of patients with mutations in VKOR, VKAs are unfortunately low in efficacy or ineffective due to coumarin resistance (Kasperkiewicz et al., 2020). [**Read more about coumarins in the A to Z APS resource guide here**](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#coumarin)**.** ## Warfarin - THE Medication for Antiphospholipid Syndrome Warfarin is a vitamin K antagonist, and is probably the most important drug for the management of Antiphospholipid Syndrome, and for the prevention of thrombosis. There are two brands of warfarin available - [Coumadin and Marevan](https://www.healthywa.wa.gov.au/~/media/HWA/Documents/Treatments-and-tests/Warfarin/Living-with-warfarin.pdf) (Western Australian Department of Health, 2021). ***It is important to stick to the same brand, as the formulation is not an exact match***. What that means is that the anticoagulation effects can vary between each brand, and might mess your INR up. Do discuss with your doctor first, should you need to switch brands for any reason. (Not so) fun fact: [Warfarin also first started out as rat poison](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/ps.2780430112), but has declined in usage for such purposes due to an increase in resistance from these rodents, which is inheritable (Thijssen, 1995). ### How Warfarin Works to Prevent Blood Clotting [Warfarin](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK441964/) inhibits vitamin K dependent clotting factors II, VII, IX, and X, and also the anticoagulant proteins C and S (Crader et al., 2023). This means that it inhibits multiple pathways in the blood clotting process, as compared to DOACs, which only disrupt a specific point. Specifically, prothrombin, FVII, FIX, protein C, and protein S are [strictly related to blood coagulation processes](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/1076029618811109) (Girolami et al., 2018). Approximately 10% - 40% of factors II, VII, IX and X are [inhibited by warfarin](https://www.nature.com/articles/6500220) (Wadelius et al., 2004). [Vitamin K ‘activates’ these clotting factors via the enzyme, epoxide reductase](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK507850/), which is inhibited by warfarin. In rare cases, patients who are first taking warfarin may experience warfarin-induced skin necrosis. This is especially true for patients who are deficient in protein C, as it has the shortest half-life amongst them all. In such cases, patients are often co-administered heparin, as it has a quicker effect (Barmore et al., 2023). ### How Warfarin is Metabolised Warfarin is a potent anticoagulant that is well absorbed by the body via the intestine with 90% bioavailability, and also offers high water solubility. [It is then metabolised in the liver (hepatic)](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK470313/), primarily through the CYP2C9 enzyme, with a half-life of approximately 20 - 60 hours. Other minor enzymatic pathways for metabolism include: CYP2C8, 2C18, 2C19, 1A2, and 3A4\. How much of the drug gets metabolised is also dependent on each individual’s genetic variations (Patel et al., 2023; Kasperkiewicz et al., 2020). The warfarin molecule is further broken down into two forms - S- and R-warfarin, with S-warfarin 3 - 5 times more potent than R-warfarin. They are mainly broken down in the liver; metabolism of active S-warfarin is mainly via the CYP2C9 enzyme, and CYP enzymes CYP1A2 and CYP3A for R-warfarin. ### Does Warfarin Interact with Other Medications? The issue with warfarin is that it is also highly bound to serum albumin, which when combined with cytochrome P450 (CYP) metabolism, [interacts with many drugs and foods](https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-1-908517-96-8%5F1). This results in warfarin either becoming more or less potent - thus increasing or decreasing its anticoagulatory effects, which can be risky either way for a patient with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Tay et al., 2013). Some drugs that interact with the CYP450 2C9 are cardiovascular medications such as amiodarone, and anti-infectives such as fluconazole. Some drugs that interact with CYP1A2 or CYP3A4 are quinolones and macrolides (bactericidal antibiotics). Inhibition of these enzymes can enhance the effects of warfarin, thus increasing the risk for bleeding further. Other drugs such as rifampicin (an antibiotic), carbamazepine (an anticonvulsant) and azathioprine (a DMARD) on the other hand, induces these enzymes and can decrease the potency of warfarin (Tay et al., 2013). #### **Highly Probable to Highly Improbable Interactions** In a systematic review by Holbrook et al. (2005), [they categorise drugs that might potentially interact with warfarin from level 1 (highly probable) to level 4 (highly improbable)](https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamainternalmedicine/article-abstract/486574). According to Holbrook et al. (2005): > “Of all 184 reviewed reports, 128 (70%) described a potentiation of warfarin’s effect, while inhibition and “no effect” reports each comprised 28 (15%). There were 34 reports of a major interaction—3 case reports of thrombosis associated with trazodone, sulfasalazine, and propofol and 31 case reports describing a major potentiation.” Some drugs also yielded conflicting evidence for interaction with warfarin, i.e. terbinafine, ritonavir, and influenza vaccine. [Linkins (2013) breaks down these medication categories](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0268960X13000155) by Holbrook et al. (2005) into a table according to type - antibiotics, antifungals, cardiovascular, cholesterol lowering agents, analgesics or antiinflammatory agents, and others. This is definitely not an exhaustive list of medications that interact with warfarin - there are way too many to be listed in one post, plus many others whose interactions are yet unknown. ### What if I Have No Choice but to Take a Medication That Interacts with Warfarin? Sometimes, taking medications that interact with warfarin is unavoidable, such as antibiotics for an infection, or an essential drug for another medical condition. For example, I was on carbamazepine and azathioprine for a period of time in the past, in a bid to control my epilepsy and Lupus (SLE) activity. First, your rheumatologist (or doctor who manages your warfarin and Antiphospholipid Syndrome) should be consulted. They will then monitor and adjust your warfarin dose as needed, in combination with the other medications. As the medications I took were on a daily basis, that makes things easier as the main strategy to maintaining your target INR range is consistency in medication and food intake. I eventually had to stop taking those medications not because they interacted with warfarin, but because they were ineffective or unsuitable for me for various reasons. Your doctor will also work with you to retitrate your warfarin dose when and if you need to stop taking these other medications. Remember that this applies to major dietary changes as well. The main takeaway that I’d like to highlight is to always inform and work with your doctor when introducing a new medication that might potentially interfere with warfarin. Another important point is to always state that you’re on warfarin when you visit any new healthcare professional, including (especially) at the A&E/ER. In fact, you should have received a medical card that states that you are on warfarin - laminate this and keep it with you at all times so that you can show it to them. Quick Link Guide: [Lupus (SLE) & APS](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SectionL) | [Genes](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#genes) | [Infections](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#infections) | [Injections](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#injections) | [INR](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#INR) | [Medical ID](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#MedID) Read Related Posts: - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [So This is What a Tonic Clonic Seizure Feels Like](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) ### How to Check for Warfarin Interaction with Other Medications Often, it can be a hassle and impractical to consult your doctor every time you need to take a new medication or food product. I personally use the [MedScape app on my phone](https://www.medscape.com/public/medscapeapp) to do a quick check for medication interactions on the fly (I’ve seen doctors use it as well!). It tells you if there are minor or major contraindications, and why. It’s especially handy when I’m travelling. You can also tap into its comprehensive database to learn more about any other medication. They also have a [browser version here](https://reference.medscape.com/drug-interactionchecker) that you can use, plus [other educational tools and resources](https://reference.medscape.com/) on their website. Do note that it’s still important to cross-check with other verified sources and your doctor whenever possible, as not everything may be 100% accurate - that is impossible as research can sometimes be conflicting, and is also being constantly updated with new discoveries. (You can [**check out the latest research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/)**.**) Screenshot Examples of the MedScape App: ![MedScape mobile app - Warfarin medication information](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/medscape-warfarin-screenshot-1.jpg) ![MedScape mobile app - Warfarin, azathioprine and carbamazepine medication interaction example.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/medscape-warfarin-screenshot-2.jpg) ![MedScape mobile app - Warfarin interactions with other medications.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/medscape-warfarin-screenshot-3.jpg) ### How Much Warfarin Do I Need to Take with Antiphospholipid Syndrome? The dose requirement of warfarin varies more than 10-fold amongst patients, due to genetic polymorphisms of CYP2C9, dietary differences, and other factors. According to Takahashi and Echizen (2003): > “[Therapeutic targets measured by international normalized ratio (INR) of prothrombin time appear to differ between populations](https://www.nature.com/articles/6500182): INR of 2–3 for most indications in Caucasian patients1 and 1.5–2.5 for Asian patients.” And according to Wadelius et al. (2004): > “[CYP2C9 variants, age, weight, concurrent drug treatment and indication for treatment significantly influenced warfarin dosing in these patients](https://www.nature.com/articles/6500220), explaining 29% of the variation in dose. CYP3A5 did not affect warfarin dosing.” Thus, there is no hard and fast rule as to how much warfarin one should take, as that needs to be titrated on an individual basis. Apart from the diverse genetic and dietary differences amongst patients, other factors need to be taken into account as well, such as comorbidities and the medications used to treat them, medical history, and other risk factors. If you’ve had had a thrombosis in the past, your INR target range might need to be higher as well, as that is an indication of an increased risk for blood clotting. Quick Link Guide: [African Americans](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#AfricanAmericans) | [Asians](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#asians) | [Caucasians](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#caucasians) | [Chinese Patients](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#chinese) | [CYP2C9 Gene](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#CYP2C9) | [Genes](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#genes) | [INR](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#INR) Pin to Your Warfarin, Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome Boards: ![Food and medication interactions to be aware of — Antiphospholipid Syndrome and Warfarin. Read on A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/food-medication-interactions-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-v1-colourful.jpg) ![Antiphospholipid Syndrome Guide — Warfarin Medication Interactions](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-guide-warfarin-medication-interactions-1.jpg) ### Tecarfarin — A Novel Vitamin K Antagonist in Phase III Trials Tecarfarin is a novel VKA with a structural analog of warfarin, and can be measured via INR just like warfarin. It is being developed by [Cardrenal Therapeutics](https://www.cadrenal.com/) for patients with implanted medical devices, end-stage renal disease (ESRD) and atrial fibrillation (AFib), although they are looking to expand its scope to [include other patients who require anticoagulation](https://www.sec.gov/Archives/edgar/data/1937993/000121390023084969/ea187953ex99-1%5Fcadrenal.htm) too, such as in APS (Cadrenal Therapeutics, Inc., 2023). It has [orphan drug with fast track designation](https://www.cadrenal.com/tecarfarin/) from the FDA - meaning to say that it has governmental support for its development as a pharmaceutical agent for rare diseases (Cadrenal Therapeutics, n.d.). It is currently in Phase III clinical trials and in fact, since the time I drafted this section, it has already [completed the ARIES-HM3 trial](https://www.cadrenal.com/investors/press-releases/detail/cadrenal-therapeutics-provides-third-quarter-2023-corporate-update) and presented its findings at the International Society for Heart & Lung Transplantation (ISHLT) 44th Annual Meeting & Scientific Sessions on June 3, 2024. There are over hundreds of medications and foods that warfarin can interact with, due to the way it is metabolised by CYP2C9\. Genetic variability in CYP2C9 gene can also affect the instability of INR. [Tecarfarin on the other hand is metabolised by hCE-2](https://www.thieme-connect.com/products/ejournals/abstract/10.1160/TH16-08-0623), a pathway with no significant drug interactions, or genetic variability (Albrecht et al., 2017). It however, does not display any advantages over warfarin for people with VKORC1 polymorphisms. In a [multicentre study of 66 AFib patients](https://www.ahajournals.org/doi/full/10.1161/CIRCULATIONAHA.109.856120) for up to 12 weeks in a phase IIA trial, tecarfarin was shown to be well-tolerated without any adverse effects (Ellis et al., 2009). It was also shown to be well-tolerated in a small [study of 40 healthy Chinese volunteers](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40256-022-00562-5) in a phase I trial (Zhou et al., 2023). This means that tecarfarin might be a potential warfarin alternative or even replacement in future, as research has shown thus far similar effects as warfarin, minus the many interactions with other foods and drugs. I guess only time will tell, after it jumps through all the hoops of the essential clinical trials! (You can [**check out the latest research in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/)**.**) Quick Link Guide: [CYP2C9 Gene](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#CYP2C9) | [Diet](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#diet) | [Genes](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#genes) | [Herbs](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#herbs) | [Saponins](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#saponins) | [Vegetables](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#vegetables) ## Enoxaparin — Another Important Medication in the APS Treatment Arsenal We’ve covered quite a bit on warfarin, because it is so important when it comes to medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome. Another important drug is enoxaparin ([brand names: Lovenox and Clexane)](https://www.drugs.com/ingredient/enoxaparin.html) (Drugs.com., n.d.), which is also known as a “low molecular weight heparin” (LMWH). Two other [U.S. Food and Drug Administration \[FDA\] approved LMWHs in the USA](https://www.fda.gov/drugs/postmarket-drug-safety-information-patients-and-providers/generic-enoxaparin-questions-and-answers) are dalteparin (Fragmin) and tinzaparin (Innohep). Note that they should not be used interchangeably (FDA, 2018). Enoxaparin is a medication that’s commonly substituted for warfarin, when APS patients need to pause their warfarin intake for whatever reason. It is often used as a bridge medication between surgical operations, where there is a higher chance of excessive bleeding. This does not only include major surgeries, but also minor ones such as dental procedures, implantation of contraceptive devices, and procedures that require intramuscular injections such as the HPV vaccine. Enoxaparin has a quicker onset as compared to warfarin, and only has [a half-life of about 4.5 - 7 hours](https://www.thieme-connect.de/products/ejournals/abstract/10.1055/s-0030-1267849) (Cook, 2010). Hence, it is safer to be on enoxaparin during periods where excessive bleeding might be anticipated. You will need to do a warfarin reversal when switching to enoxaparin, which your doctor and gynaecologist will guide you through. [Whilst derived from heparin, the final formulation of enoxaparin is different](https://www.fda.gov/drugs/postmarket-drug-safety-information-patients-and-providers/generic-enoxaparin-questions-and-answers) (FDA, 2018). It has a [bioavailability of 90% when given in the subcutaneous form](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK539865/) (injection into the fat just under the skin), and is a more stable and predictable drug that can be self-administered by patients at home (Jupalli & Iqbal, 2023). Pregnant women with APS generally need to substitute warfarin for enoxaparin/LMWH during the term of their pregnancy, as warfarin can be harmful to foetuses. You can [**read more about pregnancy with Antiphospholipid Syndrome here**](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/)**.** Quick Link Guide: [Bleeding](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#bleeding) | [Injections](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#injections) | [Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#surgery) | [Vaccinations](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#vaccinations) ### How Does Enoxaparin / LMWH Work? According to Lawrence (2011): > [“\[LMWHs and fondaparinux\] target anti–factor Xa activity rather than AT \[antithrombin\]](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/B9781416062080100783). With LMWH and fondaparinux, there is a reduced risk of heparin-induced thrombocytopenia (HIT), and monitoring of the aPTT is also not required, because the aPTT is insensitive to alterations in factor Xa.” This means that the anticoagulatory mechanisms of LMWH differs from that of vitamin K antagonists, and that patients do not need to measure their INR like they do when on warfarin. I actually prefer being on enoxaparin as compared to warfarin despite the hassle of injections, because it gives me a chance to indulge in all the foods I love (yes, like broccoli and tofu...), as it does not interact with foods in the same way as VKAs do. Sadly, enoxaparin is not a good long-term medication as it is known to [impair bone health and bone healing](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s00774-021-01268-5) (Li et al., 2022). You can [**learn more about musculoskeletal manifestations in APS here**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/#musculoskeletal)**.** Having said that, that does not mean that there are no drug interactions with enoxaparin. [Mayo Clinic (2025) has listed some medications that can interact with enoxaparin here](https://www.mayoclinic.org/drugs-supplements/enoxaparin-intravenous-route-subcutaneous-route-injection-route/side-effects/drg-20063670?p=1), and also certain medical conditions that should be highlighted to your doctor if you have them. Quick Link Guide: [Broccoli](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#broccoli) | [Injections](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#injections) ## Differences Between ‘Standard’ Heparin and Low Molecular Weight Heparin It is easy to get confused between enoxaparin/LMWH and heparin, since technically enoxaparin is derived from heparin. Many patients and sometimes even doctors refer to enoxaparin as heparin in casual speech. However, whilst enoxaparin can be self-administered by the patient via subcutaneous injections, unfractionated heparin (UFH) is usually given intravenously within a hospital setting, as there is a risk of [Heparin Induced Thrombocytopenia](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2352556820300448) (HIT) (Gruel et al., 2020). HIT is a life-threatening condition where massive activation of platelets take place, with multi-cellular release of micro particles that contribute to hypercoagulability (Gruel et al., 2020). Compared to LMWH, unfractionated heparin is a highly variable drug as well, where almost 75% of patients fail to achieve the intended aPTT. Hence, patients need to be closely monitored when on unfractionated heparin (Krishnaswamy et al., 2010). [According to Krishnaswamy et al. (2010)](https://journals.lww.com/critpathcardio/abstract/2010/03000/the%5Fuse%5Fand%5Flimitations%5Fof%5Funfractionated%5Fheparin.7.aspx): > “Unfractionated heparin (UFH) exerts its effect by binding and inducing a conformational change in antithrombin (AT), converting AT to a more efficient inhibitor of circulating thrombin (factor IIa), factor Xa, factor IXa, factor XIIa, and kallikrein. Contributing to its efficiency, heparin can dissociate from the thrombin: AT complex and catalyze the activity of other AT molecules.” Referring back to Lawrence’s (2011) explanation of the mechanisms of LMWHs, in comparison unfractionated heparin readily binds to antithrombin as well. This makes unfractionated heparin a more potent anticoagulant as compared to LMWH - but also brings with it more complications and bleeding risks. It is still an important medication to combat acute cases and medical emergencies however, such as pulmonary embolisms and heart attacks. [**Learn more about pulmonary and cardiovascular manifestations in APS, and also more about thrombocytopenia in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/)**.** [Subscribe for More](#/portal/) Quick Link Guide: [Coagulation](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#coagulation) | [Platelets](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#platelets) Pin to Your Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome Boards: ![Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome - What You Need to Know](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-need-know.jpg) ## DOACs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome [DOACs stands for ‘Direct Oral Anticoagulants’](https://journals.lww.com/jfmpc/fulltext/2022/08000/direct%5Foral%5Fanticoagulant%5F%5Freview%5Farticle.13.aspx), and they can be categorised into these main classifications: oral direct factor Xa inhibitors (apixaban, rivaroxaban, edoxaban, and betrixaban), and direct thrombin inhibitors (i.e. dabigatran) (Nasiri et al., 2022). You can actually skip this entire section with a main takeaway - warfarin is still the mainstay drug for patients with Antiphospholipid Syndrome, especially for those who are high risk, or who have had a thrombosis before. However knowing me, I went down the research rabbit hole and found a lot of interesting information about these anticoagulants. I’ve actually asked my own rheumatologist before why I can’t be on DOACs as opposed to warfarin, as their benefits seemed much better. Now I know clearly why. If you’re interested to learn how DOACs work as an anticoagulant and why they aren’t quite recommended for APS patients, then read on! ### What are DOACs and How do They Work? [DOACs are anticoagulants like VKAs](https://thrombosis.org/2020/11/doacs-vs-warfarin/), but their mechanism differs (Vasculearn Network, n.d.). The [main advantages](https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fcvm.2021.715878/full) are that patients who are on DOACs need not monitor their diet or INR, and they have a rapid onset and offset of action (Pastori et al., 2021). One interesting finding about DOACs is that beyond their anticoagulation properties, they may also have an anti-inflammatory, anti-fibrotic and anti-angiogenic properties (Signorelli et al., 2018). That might sound great, but [APS patients are advised to use VKAs](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2387020623002802) such as warfarin instead, especially if you've had a history of arterial thrombosis, or are triple positive, or even maybe double positive for antiphospholipid antibodies (Girón-Ortega & Girón-González, 2023; also see [Bejjani et al., 2024](https://www.jacc.org/doi/abs/10.1016/j.jacc.2023.10.038)). [**I personally have had multiple DVTs and a PE before**](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/), so my target INR with warfarin needs to be higher than the average APS patient, as I am at a greater risk of clotting. That can be better achieved via VKAs as compared to DOACs. VKAs also target all phases of thrombin generation, whereas DOACs target only the initiation and/or propagation process. Rivaroxaban and apixaban in particular were found to be significantly inferior to VKAs for the prevention of recurrent thrombosis in APS patients (Girón-Ortega & Girón-González, 2023). [DOACs also showed an increased risk of stroke amongst APS patients](https://journals.lww.com/annals-of-medicine-and-surgery/fulltext/2023/07000/direct%5Foral%5Fanticoagulants%5Fvs%5F%5Fvitamin%5Fk.47.aspx), and they may also be at a higher risk of thrombotic events (Shah et al., 2023). Another problem with DOACs is that not all of them have an antidote at present, and more studies are yet to be done as to their safety and efficacy in actual patients. There are also [specific groups of individuals whom DOACs are not suitable for](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/imj.12448), such as those with poor renal function, who have a prosthetic heart valve, a disorder of haemostasis, amongst others (Tran et al., 2014). Quick Link Guide: [Diet](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#diet) | [INR](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#INR) | [Non-Criteria/Seronegative APS](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#NCAPS) | [Primary APS](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#PAPS) | [Secondary APS](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SAPS) | [Triple Positive](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#TriplePos) ### What is Thrombin? A blood clot is also known as a thrombus, and thrombin plays an important role in the blood clotting process. Thrombin converts fibrinogen to fibrin, which is a tough protein that forms blood clots to seal wound sites. Thrombin is also the most potent platelet agonist (i.e. clots the blood). The more technical explanation, [according to Posma et al. (2019)](https://www.ahajournals.org/doi/full/10.1161/ATVBAHA.118.311655): > “Activation of the blood coagulation cascade leads to fibrin deposition and platelet activation that are required for hemostasis. However, aberrant activation of coagulation can lead to thrombosis. Thrombi can cause tissue ischemia, and fibrin degradation products and activated platelets can enhance inflammation.” Quick Link Guide: [Blood Clots](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#BloodClots) | [Coagulation](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#coagulation) | [Embolus](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#embolus) ## DOACs: Direct Thrombin Inhibitors (DTIs) According to Eriksson et al. (2011): > "[DTIs directly neutralize thrombin](https://www.annualreviews.org/content/journals/10.1146/annurev-med-062209-095159) by occupying the catalytic binding site, fibrinogen binding site, or both. DTIs also inhibit both fluid-phase and fibrin-bound thrombin." They do pretty much what their name states - inhibition of thrombin, which results in a reduction of blood clotting. A [key advantage of DTIs](https://bpspubs.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1365-2125.2011.03916.x) is their ability to bind directly to thrombin, and they do not bind to other plasma proteins either (Lee & Ansell, 2011). ### Dabigatran - The Only Approved DTI The only approved DTI for use at present is [dabigatran etexilate](https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/pharmacology/articles/10.3389/fphar.2013.00012/full), which is a prodrug that metabolises into dabigatran in the body. Other DTIs such as ximelagatran have been withdrawn due to hepatotoxicity reports (Posma et al., 2019; van Ryn et al., 2013). Dabigatran is approved in over 70 countries, for the purpose of stroke prevention in patients with atrial fibrillation, and for the prevention of thrombosis after orthopaedic hip and knee surgery (van Ryn et al., 2013). Whilst dabigatran seems to be a highly effective anticoagulant with a good safety profile thus far, it is important to note that it is primarily used in patients who don’t have Antiphospholipid Syndrome. International guidelines still indicate [VKAs as the choice drug](https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/cardiovascular-medicine/articles/10.3389/fcvm.2021.715878/full) for patients with APS, especially if they have experienced a blood clotting event before, or are a high-risk patient, such as being triple positive (Pastori et al., 2021). Quick Link Guide: [Strokes](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#strokes) | [Triple Positive](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#TriplePos) ## DOACs: Factor Xa Inhibitors [Factor Xa inhibitors](https://www.dovepress.com/the-role-of-factor-xa-inhibitors-in-venous-thromboembolism-treatment-peer-reviewed-fulltext-article-VHRM) on the other hand, reduces thrombin generation, and thus interferes with the process of fibrinogen to fibrin conversion. They also have no direct effect on platelet aggregation. It is theorised that this targeted action on factor Xa serves to limit the cascade of thrombin generation, and therefore less of the drug may be needed as compared to a DTI. Factor Xa also has minimal functions outside of coagulation, unlike thrombin, and side effects may be more contained (Cabral & Ansell, 2015). ### Apixaban (Eliquis) - A Highly Selective Factor Xa Inhibitor [Apixaban (brand name: Eliquis) is a DOAC](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK507910/) originally approved for atrial fibrillation (Afib) patients to reduce the risk of strokes and blood clots. It was later approved to treat DVTs and PEs (pulmonary embolisms) as well. It is a highly selective factor Xa inhibitor that exerts no effect on platelet aggregation, and mainly binds to plasma protein (Agrawal et al., 2024). [Side effects of taking apixaban](https://medlineplus.gov/druginfo/meds/a613032.html) are similar to other anticoagulant drugs, and include: bleeding, red or black, tarry stools, red, pink or brown urine, trouble breathing, dizziness, coughing up blood or material that looks like coffee grounds, and more (National Library of Medicine \[NLM\], 2025). ### Rivaroxaban (Xarelto) - Another Factor Xa Inhibitor [Rivaroxaban (brand name: Xarelto) is another type of DOAC](https://medlineplus.gov/druginfo/meds/a611049.html) under the factor Xa class (NLM, 2023). Based on the data available to date, [rivaroxaban is less effective than VKAs in the prevention of recurrent thrombosis](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S2387020623002802), but more research needs to be done as to its efficacy (Girón-Ortega & Girón-González, 2023). A [study of 120 high risk APS patients was terminated early](https://ashpublications.org/blood/article/132/13/1365/105711/Rivaroxaban-vs-warfarin-in-high-risk-patients-with) due to the higher incidence of thromboembolic events for those who were on rivaroxaban, whereas none occurred in the group on warfarin (Pengo et al., 2018). Quick Link Guide: [Blood Clots & Bleeding](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SectionB) | [Coagulation](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#coagulation) | [Platelets](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#platelets) Pin to Your Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome Boards: ![All the Medications Used for the Treatment and Management of Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/all-medications-treatment-management-antiphospholipid-syndrome.jpg) ## Current Reversal Agents Available for Anticoagulant Drugs Patients who are on anticoagulants ironically run the risk of excessive bleeding or a haemorrhage, and not all DOACs have an antidote; the antidotes that are available are also expensive. In cases of severe bleeding, patients need to undergo reversal of their anticoagulant medication via a haemostatic agent. [According to Tomaselli et al. (2020)](https://www.jacc.org/doi/abs/10.1016/j.jacc.2020.04.053) and [Kustos and Fasinu (2019)](https://www.mdpi.com/2305-6320/6/4/103), these are the current reversal agents used for anticoagulant drugs during emergencies: 1. **Vitamin K Antagonists (warfarin)** \- Intravenous or oral vitamin K1\. In addition, [prothrombin complex concentrate (PCC) is preferred for immediate reversal](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.5694/mja12.10614), as compared to fresh frozen plasma (FFP) (Tran et al., 2013). Compared to FFP, 4F-PCCs contain approximately 25 times the concentration of vitamin K-dependent factors, and thus can be given at a smaller volume with a faster infusion rate. 2. **Vitamin K Antagonists (heparin)** \- Protamine. 3. **Indirect Thrombin Inhibitors (LMWH)** \- Protamine. 4. **DTI (dabigatran)** \- Idarucizumab (Praxbind). If unavailable, PCC or aPCC (activated prothrombin complex concentrate). 5. **Factor Xa Inhibitors (apixaban & rivaroxaban)** \- Andexanet Alfa. If unavailable, PCC or aPCC. 6. **Factor Xa (betrixaban & edoxaban)** \- Off-label treatment with high dose Andexanet Alfa. If unavailable, PCC or aPCC. 7. In addition for the DOACs, activated charcoal may be considered for known recent ingestion in the last 2 - 4 hours. ***This is just a brief, general guideline, and many more considerations need to be taken into account on an individual basis during an emergency. Please work with your own doctors and emergency care team for the best outcome.*** Quick Link Guide: [Bleeding](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#bleeding) | [Haemorrhage](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#haemorrhage) ### A Bit More About Andexanet Alfa as a Reversal Agent [Andexanet alfa](https://www.mdpi.com/2305-6320/6/4/103) is administered via intravenous infusion with an onset time of 2 minutes. Side effects are primarily hot flashes and antibody development; they may also induce blood clotting ironically and result in strokes, DVTs, PEs, cardiac failure and more (Kustos & Fasinu, 2019; also see Escal et al., 2024). It is currently only approved for use as an antidote for apixaban and rivaroxaban, whilst its safety and efficacy is still being evaluated in relation to edoxaban and betrixaban. [**Learn more about how APS affects major organs such as the lungs, brain and heart in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/)**.** Quick Link Guide: [Blood Clots](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#BloodClots) | [Strokes](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#strokes) ### Ciraparantag & Other Non-Specific Pharmacokinetic Antidotes to DOACs [Ciraparantag is a reversal agent still undergoing clinical trials](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/fcp.12992), but shows promise as a non-immunogenic antidote for a wide array of anticoagulants (all types of DOACs, heparins and fondaparinux) (Escal et al., 2024). Non-specific pharmacokinetic antidotes are sometimes used in addition to reversal agents to increase coagulation effects. According to Escal et al. (2024), these include: - **Activated Charcoal** \- Activated charcoal has the ability to absorb various substances in the body within the gastrointestinal tract. It may help to reduce blood concentrations of DOACs and thus its bioavailability. It also remains active for a long time and is low in cost. - **Haemodialysis** \- This is more for patients on DTIs (dabigatran), and especially if they have renal impairment. They are ineffective for Factor Xa inhibitors as they mainly bind to plasma proteins. It can be difficult to access during emergency situations however, as it requires trained healthcare professionals who know how to use specific equipment. - **Haemostatic Agents** \- These are useful when the type of DOAC the patient is on is unknown, or when standard reversal agents are unavailable. They include naPCC (non-activated prothrombin complex concentrates), FEIBA (factor eight inhibitor bypassing activity), rFVIIa (recombinant activated factor VII) and tranexamic acid. Note that these are second-line treatments and that more research still needs to be done to determine their exact effects and safety profile. Pin to Your Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome Boards: ![Current Reversal Agents Available for Anticoagulants (Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome Series)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/current-reversal-agents-anticoagulants-medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-series.jpg) ## Proteases & Protease-Activated Receptor (PAR) Antagonists Proteases are important regulators of cellular activity, and they communicate directly to cells via [protease-activated receptors (PARs)](https://www.rpthjournal.org/article/S2475-0379%2822%2901305-X/fulltext). There are four different PAR profiles, from PAR1 to PAR4, which are expressed widely in the body, from the brain to lungs, muscles, bones, bladder and more (Han et al., 2021). PAR1, PAR3 and PAR4 are activated by thrombin, whereas Factor Xa activates PAR2, although other proteases can also [contribute to activation](https://www.ahajournals.org/doi/full/10.1161/ATVBAHA.118.311655) (Posma et al., 2019). ### Cleavage of PARs Inflammation is at the tail end of the blood coagulation cascade, as can be seen from a [graphic in this paper by Posma et al. (2019)](https://www.ahajournals.org/doi/10.1161/ATVBAHA.118.311655). According to Burzynski et al. (2019): > “The [current principal link between coagulation and immunity is cleavage of PARs by thrombin](https://www.cell.com/immunity/fulltext/S1074-7613%2819%2930093-7), which produces cytokines and inflammation.” This reveals a direct link between coagulation and the immune system, which is an exciting perspective. What this means is that future Antiphospholipid Syndrome treatments might shift to an immunological one, instead of merely targeting anticoagulation. Unfortunately, despite the implication of PARs in Antiphospholipid Syndrome, there are [no ongoing trials for APS patients](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1043661817312550?via%3Dihub) (Signorelli et al., 2018). Let’s keep our fingers crossed! ([**Read this post for the latest research on APS**](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/)**.**) ### Vorapaxar - An FDA-Approved PAR Antagonist [Vorapaxar is a first-in-class PAR1 antagonist](https://www.rpthjournal.org/article/S2475-0379%2822%2901305-X/fulltext) approved for use by the FDA, for patients with [coronary artery disease](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1043661817312550). Unfortunately, it is contraindicated for patients who have had thrombotic or bleeding events in the past. Like all antiplatelet agents, vorapaxar increases the risk of bleeding, which can be fatal. It also has a long half-life and no antidote (Han et al., 2021; Signorelli et al., 2018). [Another PAR-1 antagonist is atopaxar, but research has been discontinued](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1517/13543784.2013.832198) as clinical trials in phase II demonstrated a high risk for bleeding with the drug (Zhao et al., 2013). ## NSAIDs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome [NSAIDs](https://www.health.harvard.edu/diseases-and-conditions/bad-mix-blood-thinners-and-nsaids) (Non-Steroidal Anti-Inflammatory Drugs) are a class of anti-inflammatories that people often take for generic pain relief. You’re probably familiar with these over-the-counter drugs that go by the names of: Ibuprofen, Naproxen and Aspirin. Brand names include Neurofen, Advil, Motrin, Aleve, Alka-Seltzer, Pepto-Bismol, and more (Harvard Health Publishing, 2019). To be honest, NSAIDS would probably work better for my Lupus and Sjögren’s pains because of their anti-inflammatory properties, but I can’t take them due to interactions with warfarin. As I’m also allergic to paracetamol (Panadol), I can only rely on opioid classes of painkillers for pain relief. NSAIDs interfere with blood clotting by inhibiting platelet function. [Platelets](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/body/22879-platelets) (also known as thrombocytes) are essential components in our blood that help with clotting (Cleveland Clinic, 2024). Hence, patients who are on blood thinning medications have a higher risk of bleeding with NSAIDs. There is also an increased [risk of gastrointestinal bleeding and peptic ulcers with NSAIDs](https://australianprescriber.tg.org.au/articles/peptic-ulcer-disease-and-non-steroidal-anti-inflammatory-drugs.html) due to the mechanisms of the medication (Drini, 2017), which is also the biggest concern my rheumatologist has with them. I only use NSAIDs when absolutely necessary, such as during a high fever, and inform my healthcare team when I do so. I also take extra measures to protect my stomach such as eating proper meals, and check my own INR regularly. Quick Link Guide: [INR](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#INR) | [Lupus & Lupus Anticoagulant](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SectionL) | [Platelets](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#platelets) Read Related Posts: - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [What’s it Like to be on a High Dose of Steroids? (And the First Question You Will Definitely Ask)](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) - [Drink Pure Wine Review (A Product That Excites Me as a Person with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/drink-pure-wine-review/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) ## Conclusion to Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome In this post, we have covered medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome, as well as some of the important drugs that can interact with warfarin, and new medications that are undergoing clinical trials. I hope that this post on medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome has been insightful and useful to you whether as an APS patient, or someone who is caring for one. Should you have any questions, experiences to share, or corrections (I am not a doctor, after all!), feel free to leave a comment below. 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Read Related Posts in the Antiphospholipid Syndrome Series: - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [Latest Research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Pregnancy, Miscarriage & Women's Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) Pin to Your Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome Boards: ![The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs and More)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/lowdown-medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids-2.jpg) ### References: - Agrawal, A., Kerndt, C. C., & Manna, B. (22 February, 2024). Apixaban. In *StatPearls*. 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Safety and tolerability of tecarfarin (ATI-5923) in healthy chinese volunteers: Multiple oral dose-escalation phase I trial. *American Journal of Cardiovascular Drugs, 23*(1), 101–112\. ### Pregnancy, Miscarriage & Women's Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome URL: https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/ Last updated: 2026-05-14T17:08:28.000Z This post is part of the Antiphospholipid Syndrome (APS) resource library that I’m building up on my site for patients, as a patient who’s lived with it for more than two decades myself. This article in particular will focus on all things related to the female sex and women’s health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome. It will cover topics such as pregnancy, miscarriage, menstruation, menopause, risk factors, birth control and other general knowledge. I have taken the time to research relevant medical journals, and also share my personal experiences where appropriate. I hope you find it useful, whether as a patient or as a supporter. If there are specific terms used in this post that you were wondering about, such as antiphospholipid antibodies (aPLs), correlations with other autoimmune diseases such as Lupus, the reversal protocol and more, then I’d recommend that you check out the complete A - Z guide plus other resources in the series below. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. Whilst I have done my utmost to be meticulous in research, *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Women’s Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome Boards: ![APS Series: Antiphospholipid Syndrome and Women’s Health — important things to be aware of. Read on A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-and-wommens-health-important-things-aware.jpg) Read Related Posts in the Antiphospholipid Syndrome Series: - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [Latest Research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [The Lowdown on Medications & Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) ## Women’s Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome The terms for ‘women’ and ‘female’ used in this article will mostly be referring to those who were assigned female at birth, and will take into account genetic differences and their links with autoimmunity. Females typically have two X chromosomes, whereas males have an X and Y chromosome. [Females account for around 80% of all autoimmune disease cases](https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-024-00342-y) as well (Graham, 2024), and recent studies have shown that specific X-linked genes may be contributors to autoimmune disease. [According to Dou et al. (2024)](https://www.cell.com/cell/fulltext/S0092-8674%2824%2900002-3): > “To make the gene expression output roughly equivalent between females and males, every cell in a female’s body epigenetically silences one of two X chromosomes via the action of the long non-coding RNA (lncRNA) Xist. Xist is an ∼17-kb lncRNA (19 kb in human) that is transcribed only from the inactive X chromosome and thus not expressed in males.” Whilst exactly how, when and where is still sketchy, there is no doubt that there can be further Antiphospholipid Syndrome related complications simply by being female. After all, APS is a blood clotting autoimmune disorder, and as women we get periods every month on average, and also need to go through the pregnancy process if we so choose to - all of which involves the immune system and blood. Quick Link Guide: [Genes](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#genes) | [Men](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#men) ### Epidemiology of APS — Males vs Females [Antiphospholipid Syndrome is more commonly found in women than in men](https://wchh.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/tre.911), with a ratio of about 3.5:1\. It is also more often secondary APS (SAPS) in women, whereas men are more prone to primary APS (PAPS). Women present with strokes, livedo and headaches more frequently than in men. Whereas male PAPS patients present more with myocardial infarction, mesenteric and hepatic vein thrombosis (Kaul et al., 2023). Other studies have also shown [greater cerebrovascular disease in women](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1191/0961203305lu2176oa), whilst men had gastrointestinal involvement more frequently (Jara et al., 2005). This is also an interesting [table which shows the comorbidities associated with APS and antiphospholipid antibodies (aPLs) positivity](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11926-021-01038-2/tables/3) in the general population, from a compilation of various research papers (p.s. link sometimes needs to be clicked twice to open for some unknown reason). It includes the various aPLs found in women in different types of pregnancy incidents, ages when women first experienced a stroke, patients with comorbidities, and more (Dabit et al., 2021, Table 3). [**Read this post for more information on how Antiphospholipid Syndrome can affect the entire body**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/)**.** Quick Link Guide: [Catastrophic APS (CAPS)](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#CAPS) | [Non-Criteria/Seronegative APS](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#NCAPS) | [Primary APS](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#PAPS) | [Secondary APS](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SAPS) | [Strokes](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#strokes) Pin to Your Women’s Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome Boards: ![APS - Women’s Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/aps-womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome.jpg) ## Menstruation & Antiphospholipid Syndrome It is not unusual for us ladies to experience [heavier periods whilst taking anticoagulants](https://aps-support.org.uk/self-help/living-with-aps/aps-and-womens-health), or to see some blood clots discharged (APS Support UK, n.d.). Something important to know about are [ovarian cysts](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/ovarian-cysts/symptoms-causes/syc-20353405). Most of these cysts are common and harmless, and occur even in healthy women. They usually get reabsorbed into the body or are passed out naturally, but sometimes they can rupture (Mayo Clinic, 2023). When this happens, it is called an Ovarian Cyst Rupture, and I can tell you from [**two first-hand experiences**](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) that it is not pleasant. I nearly died both times. This was also the reason why my healthcare team decided to put me on birth control (Nexplanon), to prevent further episodes. A benefit of being on birth control, at least for me, is that I have experienced lighter periods with fewer period cramps since then. ### The Relation Between Oestrogen & APS Or estrogen, depending on where you come from! [Oestrogen is a steroid hormone associated with menstruation](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK538260/) (Delgado & Lopez-Ojeda, 2023). There are a few different types - estrone (E1), estradiol (E2), estriol (E3), and etestrol (E4) - and they collectively regulate the development and function of the female reproductive system. Males also produce oestrogen, primarily in the testis (Harding & Heaton, 2022). Beyond its role as a sex hormone, [oestrogens and their receptors also play a role in modulating innate immune responses](https://www.mdpi.com/2072-6694/14/4/909) against infections, from viral to bacterial, parasitic and fungal. They display anti-inflammatory effects and also help the body with wound healing and repair (Harding & Heaton, 2022). A powerful hormone, no doubt! However, oestrogen also plays a role in pain flares for rheumatoid autoimmune disorders, such as SLE (Lupus) and Rheumatoid Arthritis. Oestrogens also increase the risk of both arterial and venous thrombosis, and have effects on almost every cell in the body. The technical explanation, [according to Abou-Ismail et al. (2020)](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7341440): > “Estrogen leads to increased thrombin generation and fibrin clot formation by increasing the levels of variable coagulation proteins and decreasing the levels of anticoagulant proteins.” And [according to Manukyan et al. (2020)](https://www.mdpi.com/2227-9059/8/6/162): > "Our findings show the ability of E2 \[high-17β-estradiol\] to promote proinflammatory and procoagulatory phenotype of innate immune cells in individuals with aPL \[antiphospholipid antibodies\] positivity. Our data highlights the significant impact of female hormones on the activation of immune cells in the presence of aPL." Oestrogen also [increases the risk of blood clots](https://www.ahajournals.org/doi/full/10.1161/hq0202.102318) when used in contraceptives or as postmenopausal hormone replacement therapy. This can also happen in men who use them as treatment for coronary disease, or in sex-change treatment (Rosendaal et al., 2002). Thus, it is best to avoid treatments and forms of contraception that contain oestrogen if you have Antiphospholipid Syndrome. Quick Link Guide: [Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#APS) | [Blood Clots](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#BloodClots) | [Coagulation](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#coagulation) | [Infections](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#infections) ## Ovarian Cyst Ruptures in Women with Antiphospholipid Syndrome Ovarian cyst ruptures are extremely painful and can be life-threatening. For women with Antiphospholipid Syndrome who are on some form of anticoagulation treatment, the blood thinning effects of the medication(s) can compound the problem. Let’s take a closer look at how and why they happen. ### Types of Functional Cysts There are two types of functional cysts that your ovaries grow every month - [a follicle cyst and a corpus luteum cyst](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/ovarian-cysts/symptoms-causes/syc-20353405). A follicular cyst occurs when the follicle doesn't rupture during ovulation. A corpus luteum cyst occurs after the egg is released, and the opening becomes blocked in the corpus luteum. Most functional ovarian cysts are harmless and resolve on their own (Mayo Clinic, 2023). However, an ovarian cyst rupture can occur sometimes during menstruation. For a healthy female, usually this gets passed out as a blood clot, or reabsorbed by the body, with few to no incidences. If there are symptoms, they may include sudden abdominal or pelvic pain, pain with fever and vomiting, or signs of shock and weakness (Mayo Clinic, 2023). ### Hemoperitoneum in Females with APS For a female with Antiphospholipid Syndrome, such ruptures can sometimes cause internal bleeding, no thanks to their blood thinning medications. This is also known as a [hemoperitoneum](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/hemoperitoneum), where excess blood accumulates in the abdominal or pelvic cavity, and it is a medical emergency (Cleveland Clinic, 2023). This doesn’t happen every period of course, but [**I’ve been unlucky to have had two ovarian cyst rupture episodes that were of life-threatening status**](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/). The pain was acute and came on suddenly. Within 4 hours I was doubled over, swollen and bloated with pain, and had to crawl to the hospital. They will usually do an abdominal ultrasound at the A&E/ER to check for free fluid. Emergency surgery is usually required, but generally avoided for patients who are on anticoagulants, until the blood thinning effects of their medications have been counteracted. The second time I had an ovarian cyst rupture, the nurses at the A&E were rather junior, so I had to insist on the ultrasound. The senior doctor later confirmed the diagnosis, and I was immediately placed in the high emergency section, given strong painkillers, and injected with three different types of blood clotting agents. RBC (red blood cell) counts may fall, but this can be due to dehydration as well. [**Read this post for more information on reversal agents and medications related to Antiphospholipid Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/)**.** Quick Link Guide: [Blood Clots & Bleeding](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SectionB) | [Free Fluid](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#FreeFluid) | [Haemorrhage](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#haemorrhage) | [Medical ID](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#MedID) | [Ultrasound](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SectionU) Read Related Posts: - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [YuYu Bottle Review: Hot Water Bottle for ‘Surround Warmth’ Pain Relief](https://achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-review/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) ## Birth Control as Prevention for Bleeding Risk in Women with Antiphospholipid Syndrome As a result of these ovarian cyst rupture episodes, my gynaecologist suggested birth control to prevent ovulation, which would reduce the chances of a recurrence. There are a few types of birth controls, and they contain the hormones oestrogen, or progestin, or both. As mentioned previously, oestrogen increases the risk of blood clots. Studies have also demonstrated that [progestins in combination oral contraceptives](https://www.ahajournals.org/doi/full/10.1161/hq0202.102318) also play a role to a lesser degree (Rosendaal, 2002). You can [view a table of contraceptive recommendations for women with APS here](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11926-021-01006-w/tables/2) (Sammaritano, 2021, Table 2). As I have many comorbidities such as Lupus and Sjögren’s disease and am severely immunocompromised, my gynaecologist did not recommend [intrauterine devices](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/24441-intrauterine-device-iud) (IUDs) (Cleveland Clinic, 2022b). either due to the higher chance for infections. I personally use Nexplanon, as suggested by my own gynaecologist. ### Etonogestrel (Implanon & Nexplanon) - What I Use for Birth Control as a Female with APS [Etonogestrel](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/drugs/18407-etonogestrel-implant) is a progestin hormone under the brand names of [Implanon](https://www.rxlist.com/implanon-drug.htm) and [Nexplanon](https://www.nexplanon.com/). It comes in the form of a small implant, and your gynaecologist will make a small cut in your arm to insert it subdermally (Cleveland Clinic, n.d.; Cunha, 2022; Organon, n.d.) You will most likely need to do a reversal of your blood thinning medication beforehand, just in case of excessive bleeding. Your rheumatologist/doctor and gynaecologist will work closely with you to do [**the reversal protocol, which you can read more about here**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/#reversal). What I like about the etonogestrel implant is that once it's inserted, it lasts for 3 years and you can go about your life as per usual. And should you wish to try for pregnancy, you can simply remove it and start trying pretty much immediately. Quick Link Guide: [Bleeding](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#bleeding) | [Haemorrhage](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#haemorrhage) | [Infections](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#infections) | [Injections](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#injections) | [Lupus (SLE) & APS Overlaps](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SLEAPS) | [Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#surgery) Pin to Your Women’s Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome Boards: ![From Birth to Menopause - The Life of a Female with Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/birth-menopause-life-female-antiphospholipid-syndrome.jpg) ## Pregnancy with Antiphospholipid Syndrome Pregnancy is a tricky and touchy topic when it comes to Antiphospholipid Syndrome. I’ve known people who have had miscarriages at 8 months, because they didn’t know that they had APS. The [incidence of pregnancy loss for women with Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://obgyn.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/aogs.13665) is reported to be between 34% - 76% (Xu et al., 2019). Women with APS need to work closely with their rheumatologist, a high-risk gynaecologist, and their entire healthcare team - ***before even getting pregnant***. Your healthcare team should [assess your risk factors](https://ard.bmj.com/content/76/3/476#T2), and work with you to implement preventive strategies, as well as come up with a plan that is tailored to your specific circumstances and health status (Andreoli et al., 2017). ### So Why Not Screen Every Woman Before Pregnancy for Antiphospholipid Antibodies? I used to think that every woman should be tested for APS before pregnancy to save us the grief of a miscarriage. But having done more research, I can understand why it isn't such a good idea to do so. In general, [asymptomatic patients should not be screened for aPLs](https://ashpublications.org/hematology/article/2012/1/455/83771/Dos-and-don-ts-in-diagnosing-antiphospholipid) as there is a risk of false positivity of up to 3 - 20% (Rand & Wolgast, 2012). This not only subjects the individual to unnecessary treatment, but increases the risk of bleeding complications. Before screening for aPLs, the patient's medical history (such as recurrent miscarriages), as well as comorbidities (such as SLE), need to make sense medically too. False positive aPLs tests can also be triggered by many types of infections, such as Lyme Disease, Syphilis and EBV (Rand & Wolgast, 2012). Quick Link Guide: [Antiphospholipid Antibodies](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#APLS) | [False Negative/Positive](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#FalseNegPos) | [Infections](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#infections) | [Syphilis False Positive](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#syphilis) ### Will I Pass Antiphospholipid Syndrome on to My Child? Like many other autoimmune diseases, Antiphospholipid Syndrome is [polygenic](https://www.genome.gov/genetics-glossary/Polygenic-Trait), where multiple genes are involved, and can also be influenced by environmental factors (National Human Genome Research Institute, 2025). The [individual contribution of each gene may even be unnoticeable](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3491892/), and requires multiple contributing factors to activate (Lvovs et al., 2012). Whilst yes, the genes are still there, [APS is not commonly inherited from parent to child](https://medicine.umich.edu/dept/intmed/antiphospholipid-syndrome-aps-hereditary-if-i-have-aps-should-my-family-members-be-tested), as compared to other conditions such as sickle cell anaemia or cystic fibrosis (Yu, 2021). [According to Barinotti et al. (2020)](https://www.mdpi.com/1422-0067/21/24/9551): > “The etiology of APS is still unknown, but similarly to other autoimmune diseases, it seems to be linked to a complex interplay between genetic predisposition, antigenic stimuli, and the presence of specific autoantibodies.” ..... “APS is a complex rare disease with the great majority of the cases being sporadic. Rarely, the condition has been reported to run in families.” There is still much to be understood as to how Antiphospholipid Syndrome ultimately develops, but according to Ortiz-Fernández and Sawalha (2019), recent studies have identified [some of the genetic components that contribute to APS](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11926-019-0869-y), such as: “antigen receptor-mediated signaling, interferon-gamma-mediated signaling, T cell receptor signaling, and regulation of B cell receptor signaling pathways”. [Genetic susceptibility to APS](https://doi.org/10.1007/s11926-004-0025-0) is also dependent on ethnic, gene-gene, gene-environment, and a multitude of other factors that are still not completely understood (Horita & Merrill, 2004). Quick Link Guide: [CYP2C9 Gene](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#CYP2C9) | [Genes](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#genes) ### Medication Interactions During Pregnancy with Antiphospholipid Syndrome It is important to inform your medical team before even trying for pregnancy, as certain medications that you’re on might be harmful to either yourself or the foetus. Some medications take a while to be completely eradicated from your bodily system as well. Your doctor will usually switch you to a safer alternative for pregnancy, and monitor you closely for adverse effects. Here are some important medications to take note of in relation to APS and pregnancy. If you have other medications that you take for other chronic illnesses, they should also be taken into account. #### Warfarin & Pregnancy Warfarin medication should be paused during pregnancy, as [it can be harmful to foetuses](https://www.nhs.uk/medicines/warfarin/pregnancy-breastfeeding-and-fertility-while-taking-warfarin/) (National Health Service \[NHS\], 2022). Apart from a rare disease called [Foetal Warfarin Syndrome](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3624665/) (Starling et al., 2012), [warfarin can also cause other complications during pregnancy](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2214036/) such as developmental problems or haemorrhages (Abadi et al., 2002). #### Hydroxychloroquine, Low Molecular Weight Heparin (LMWH) & Aspirin in Pregnant APS Patients Recent studies have also shown that the current standard for pregnancy in APS patients, which uses aspirin and LMWH, are limited in efficacy of late-term pregnancy complications. Interestingly, hydroxychloroquine, which is an anti-malarial drug commonly used to treat Lupus (SLE), showed benefits for APS patients in pregnancy. [A study on 176 pregnancies (96 with aPLs)](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0002937815011928#bib16) reflected a higher rate of live births, and a lower prevalence of aPLs-related pregnancy morbidity whilst on hydroxychloroquine (Sciascia et al., 2016). Another [European multicentre study of 35 APS patients who were put on hydroxychloroquine](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1568997215000270), showed a decrease in pregnancy losses from 81% to 19%, as compared to previous usage of aspirin and/or LMWH only (Mekinian et al., 2015). [These findings by Marchetti et al. (2014)](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1538783622039599) explain why hydroxychloroquine may be beneficial for APS patients who are pregnant: > "Here, we observed that HCQ completely reversed the effects of the plasma of APS patients (free from anti–annexin V antibodies) and the anti‐β2GP1 antibodies on trophoblastic cell fusion and differentiation." Something interesting I found whilst doing research on this topic, is that [in Japan, APS-complicated pregnancies from the usage of LMWH](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0165037817300931?via%3Dihub) is not covered by medical insurance. Thus, unfractionated heparin (UFH) and/or low-dose aspirin (LDA) are used instead (Deguchi et al., 2017). In addition, there is also something known as aspirin-heparin resistant APS (AHRAPS), where other therapies such as [high-dose intravenous immunoglobulin](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK554446/) (IVIG) may need to be included (Arumugham & Rayi, 2023). Should you be interested to learn more, [this paper by Schreiber and Hunt (2019)](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0049384819303664#bb0055) does an excellent job of listing out the management of APS during pregnancy. You can also [**learn more about warfarin, LMWH and other medications related to APS in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/)**.** [Subscribe for More](#/portal/) Quick Link Guide: [Antiphospholipid Antibodies](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#APLS) | [Asians](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#asians) | [Haemorrhage](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#haemorrhage) | [Refractory APS](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#refractory) Read Related Posts: - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [After Surgery Care at Home: Hygiene Resources](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/) - [Wound Care & What to Wear After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery/) - [An Anaphylaxis Reaction from Rituximab in Between Shady Years](https://achronicvoice.com/anaphylaxis-rituximab/) Pin to Your Women’s Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome Boards: ![Pregnancy Complications in Antiphospholipid Syndrome and Other Must Knows - Women’s Health and APS](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pregnancy-complications-antiphospholipid-syndrome-must-knows-womens-health-aps.jpg) ## Pregnancy Complications with Antiphospholipid Syndrome Whilst it is important not to worry yourself sick(er), it is also important to be aware of potential pregnancy complications as a result of Antiphospholipid Syndrome, in order to better care and advocate for yourself. These [complications can arise from a combination of factors](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7834901/) \- from the disease itself, comorbidities, hormonal changes, decreased mobility, stage of pregnancy, and method of delivery, with caesarean section carrying a higher risk of thrombosis than vaginal delivery (Lee et al., 2021). Whilst there are certain guidelines sketched out for the management of APS during pregnancy, more studies still need to be done in order to determine the best course of action. Thus, it is critical to ensure that your pregnancy care is individualised based on your medical history, comorbidities such as SLE, lifestyle factors and more. Quick Link Guide: [Lupus & Lupus Anticoagulant](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SectionL) | [Research](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#research) ### Trophoblasts Pregnancy complications do not just stem from a single factor; Antiphospholipid Syndrome can attack from different pathways. For one, they can interact with [trophoblasts](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK53245/), which interfere with nutrients transmitted to the embryo in the placenta. Apart from nutrients, trophoblasts also produce numerous growth factors and hormones that support healthy foetal and placental development (Wang & Zhao, 2010). [According to a study by Mulla et al. (2009)](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1600-0897.2009.00717.x): > "Our findings suggest that early pregnancy loss and late obstetric complications in APS may arise from anti-β2GPI Abs acting on first trimester trophoblast cells, thereby triggering placental inflammation and cell death." Meaning to say that antiphospholipid antibodies trigger an inflammatory response in the placenta, which interferes with trophoblasts. Studies have found that hydroxychloroquine, an anti-malarial drug commonly used to treat Lupus (SLE), has beneficial effects against this. Quick Link Guide: [Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#APS) | [Vitamin D](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#VitaminD) | [Diet](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#diet) | [Vitamin K](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SectionK) | [Omega Oils](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#OmegaOils) | [Saponins](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#saponins) | [Zinc](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SectionZ) ### Preeclampsia [Preeclampsia is also associated with Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9511038/), and can also be associated with shallow cytotrophoblast invasion (Skoura et al., 2022). Preeclampsia manifests as hypertension and sometimes with protein in the urine (proteinuria). It is vital to work with your obstetrician closely, as this can be a deadly condition. ### Venous Thromboembolism (VTE) Another severe [complication of pregnancy for APS patients is venous thromboembolism (VTE)](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10364824), especially in the legs (DVTs). This can manifest systemically with mild to life-threatening symptoms, from pain and swelling, to blood clots in the lungs (pulmonary embolism). Left-sided DVTs are also more common at 70% - 90%, due to the involvement of certain veins during pregnancy. VTE is also still a risk during the postpartum period (Varrias et al., 2023). In general, LMWH is used for the prevention and treatment of VTEs in pregnant women, although that depends on the individual as well. Here are some [guidelines based on observational studies and extrapolation from Bates et al. (2012)](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3278054/). [**Read more about cardiovascular and pulmonary embolisms in general relation to APS here**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/)**.** ### Intrauterine Growth Restriction (IUGR) [Intrauterine Growth Restriction (IUGR)](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/24017-intrauterine-growth-restriction) \- also known as Foetal Growth Restriction (Cleveland Clinic, 2022a) - is another pregnancy complication with APS, where the foetus is estimated to be below the 10th percentile for its gestational age. [Women with APS were found to have a higher rate of IUGR](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/1076029620974455), with anticardiolipin (aCL) positivity highly associated with it (Xi et al., 2020). In [another systematic meta-analysis](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9159204/), anticardiolipin antibodies (aCLs) and anti-beta2 glycoprotein 1 antibodies (anti-β2GP1) were also found to be associated with IUGR, whilst lupus anticoagulant (LA) did not increase the chances of it (Xu et al., 2022). This further demonstrates the complexity of antiphospholipid antibodies and APS in general, as each type of antibody affects the body differently, yet are all indicators towards an Antiphospholipid Syndrome diagnosis. Quick Link Guide: [Anti-β2GP1](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#AntiB2GPI) | [Anticardiolipin Antibody](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#anticardiolipin) | [Lupus Anticoagulant](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#LA) Pin to Your Female, Autoimmune Disease & APS Boards: ![The Problems of Being a Female with Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/problems-female-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome.jpg) ## Miscarriages & Antiphospholipid Syndrome Sadly, many women only discover that they have Antiphospholipid Syndrome after recurrent miscarriages. [According to Di Prima et al. (2011)](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3279165/): > “Obstetric complications are the hallmark of antiphospholipid syndrome. Recurrent miscarriage, early delivery, oligohydramnios, prematurity, intrauterine growth restriction, Foetal distress, Foetal or neonatal thrombosis, pre-eclampsia/eclampsia, HELLP syndrome, arterial or venous thrombosis and placental insufficiency are the most severe APS-related complication for pregnant women.” Foetal loss over 10 weeks of gestation is more common in women with Antiphospholipid Syndrome, although about half of recurrent miscarriages occur during the first trimester. The lupus anticoagulant also plays a big role in recurrent miscarriages before the 24th week of gestation (Di Prima et al., 2011). The [rate of successful births is more than 80% although there are still risks](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5575987/), such as preeclampsia and preterm delivery (Abrahams et al., 2017). I can’t emphasise this enough, but it is extremely important to work closely with a high-risk obstetrician and your entire healthcare team throughout your pregnancy journey. ### The Stigma Associated with Women’s Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome, and the Perceived Inability to Conceive I have always known that I want to be a mother - since I was 14 in fact. In my young teenage mind, I would get married at 27, have a few children, and devote myself to bringing them up as well as I can. I was prepared to suffer through all pains and risks to do so. Unfortunately, life doesn’t work that way. It is not to be dictated - it sets the direction and pace, and you can either choose to adapt, or struggle double. I am now 38, with neither partner nor child. My biological clock is ticking, but there is nothing I can do about it. After all, marriage and/or pregnancy takes two hands to clap. Partners and potential partners have also written me off due to my multitude of chronic illnesses; they do not even want to begin with the slightest possibility of me being unable to conceive. [This is a phenomenological study that might resonate with you](https://www.sciencepublishinggroup.com/article/10.11648/j.rs.20200501.12), if you have experienced foetal loss as a woman with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Mahmoud et al., 2020). It illustrates the social burdens felt by patients, with some marriages ending in divorce due to expectations from husbands and mother-in-laws. The psychological suffering of the patient is huge as well, with many women feeling sad and frustrated. Some choose to delay subsequent pregnancies, and many live in constant fear due to the unpredictability. It is important for healthcare professionals to educate their patients on potential complications, from the physical to emotional. In my opinion, it is also the responsibility of loved ones to educate themselves on women’s health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome, and to understand that it is not their partner’s fault. As a patient, know that you are not alone, and that you are not to be blamed. Read Related Posts: - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [4 Cool Truths My (Ex) Partner Said (Unwittingly)](https://achronicvoice.com/cool-truths/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) ### Ongoing Research on Recurrent Miscarriages in APS A systematic review and meta-analysis has been done to try and determine [which antiphospholipid antibodies play a bigger role in recurrent miscarriages for female patients with APS](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S016503781630715X). Whilst it has been found that anticardiolipin antibodies, lupus anticoagulant, anti-β2-glycoprotein I antibodies and antiphosphatidylserine (which is just about all of them...) are related to recurrent miscarriages, more studies still need to be done to learn more about what they truly do (Santos et al., 2017). [Up to 15% of unexplained stillbirths might be due to aPLs](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0961203316671815) (antiphospholipid antibodies), with women with lupus anticoagulant or who are 'triple apL positive' at the highest risk (Herrera et al., 2017). Quick Link Guide: [anti-β2-glycoprotein I](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#AntiB2GPI) | [Anticardiolipin Antibodies](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#anticardiolipin) | [Antiphospholipid Antibodies](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#APLS) | [Lupus Anticoagulant](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#LA) | [Triple Positive](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#TriplePos) ## Menopause and Antiphospholipid Syndrome There are not many studies done on APS and menopause but in general, [menopause is a period of immune changes](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1521661613000454) within the female body, amongst other events. Levels of oestrogen and DHEA sulfate decrease, which may lead to: an increase in proinflammatory cytokines, a decrease in certain anti-inflammatory cytokines, decreased lymphocyte levels (CD4+ T cells and B cells), and a decrease in cytotoxic activity of NK cells (Bove, 2013). Depending on the individual, type of autoimmune diseases they have, and other factors such as epigenetics and environment, the menopause transition can occur quite differently. There are some reports of decreased frequency of pain flares in patients with SLE, yet at the same time, greater damage accrual in affected organs (Bove, 2013). In one controlled study, premenopausal women with APS/SLE were also found to have an [increased risk of atherosclerosis](https://academic.oup.com/rheumatology/article/42/5/645/1784574?login=false), which is a buildup of fats, cholesterol and other substances in and on the artery walls (Vlachoyiannopoulos et al., 2003). [As per Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/arteriosclerosis-atherosclerosis/symptoms-causes/syc-20350569) (2024), whilst atherosclerosis is often considered a heart problem, it can also occur in any other artery in the human body. The plaque not only cause the arteries to narrow, they may also burst and lead to blood clots. [**Learn more about cardiovascular manifestations in APS patients here**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body//#CVD)**.** Quick Link Guide: [Blood Clots & Bleeding](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SectionB) | [Genes](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#genes) | [Haemorrhage](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#haemorrhage) | [Lupus (SLE) & APS Overlaps](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SLEAPS) ## Conclusion to Women’s Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome I hope that this article provides you with the added knowledge to better care for yourself as a female with Antiphospholipid Syndrome. From menstruation to child birth to menopause - the journey of womanhood is intertwined with blood, so it’s vital to be aware of how APS can interact with each stage of your life. 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Read Related Posts in the Antiphospholipid Syndrome Series: - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [Latest Research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [The Lowdown on Medications & Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) Pin to Your Women’s Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome Boards: ![APS Series: Pregnancy, Miscarriage, and Women's Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pregnancy-miscarriage-womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-sydrome.jpg) ### References: - Abadi, S., Einarson, A., & Koren, G. (2002). 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If i have APS, should my family members be tested?* Michigan Medicine, University of Michigan. ### Latest Research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome (2024 Edition) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/ Last updated: 2026-01-08T14:23:07.000Z The bad news about Antiphospholipid Syndrome (APS) is that it’s chronic. The good news is that there are quite a number of exciting new treatments in the works. This article is part of the APS resource library that I’m building up on the site for patients, as a patient who has lived with it for more than 20 years myself. This post will focus on the latest research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome as of 2024, and I aim to update it as frequently as I can. The ultimate A to Z resource guide on Antiphospholipid Syndrome has also been released – so don’t forget to check that out for more in-depth information about APS in the links below! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. Whilst I have done my utmost to be meticulous in research, *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Changelog: - **28 May 2025**: Link and citation updates. - **7 June 2024**: Discovery of 2 Missing Enzymes in People with Antiphospholipid Syndrome Read Related Posts in the Antiphospholipid Syndrome Series: - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [Pregnancy, Miscarriage & Women's Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [The Lowdown on Medications & Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome & Autoimmune Disease Boards: ![Check out the 2024 edition on the latest research into Antiphospholipid Syndrome (APS), a rare autoimmune disease that causes the blood to clot.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome-2024-edition-2-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ![Check out the latest research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome (APS), from diagnosis tools to proteins, NETs, DNA molecules and more.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome-aps-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ## Personal Research is Important as a Patient Before I begin, I just wanted to emphasise that it is important that you do your own research as a patient with Antiphospholipid Syndrome. This can feel like a colossal task in the beginning, with a long list of foods, drinks, medications and activities that you need to moderate. It took me a long time to figure out what works for me through trial and error, often unwittingly. But trust me, you will learn over time, and become more confident with living with this autoimmune disease. Knowledge is power, and doing your own research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome in relation to its impact on your personal life can also help to make you feel more empowered. ### Subscribe to Feeds and Alerts that are Related to Antiphospholipid Syndrome There are also a few things you can do online to ensure that you don’t miss out on the latest research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome. I personally [subscribe to Google Alerts](https://www.google.com/alerts) for keywords related to: “Antiphospholipid Syndrome”, “Lupus”, “autoimmune disease”, “chronic illness” and the likes. (Unfortunately, they have recently stopped this service, although it still works for me.) Another tool I use is [Feedly](https://feedly.com/), an [RSS (Really Simple Syndication) feed](https://zapier.com/blog/best-rss-feed-reader-apps/), where I subscribe to specific websites and news to browse through on a daily basis. If you’re curious as to how an RSS feed looks like, [this is the one for this website](https://achronicvoice.com/rss/). You simply need to add the URL to Feedly, and everything published on my blog will be in your reader. The best part is that these tools are free to use, and you can add any other topic that you’re interested in as well! ### How to Find Credible Antiphospholipid Syndrome Sources I also rely quite a bit on [Google Scholar](https://scholar.google.com/) to learn more about various aspects of Antiphospholipid Syndrome from a medical and scientific perspective. In fact, all of the latest research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome that you will read about in this post can be found on Google Scholar - so it is indeed possible to keep up with the research on your own, too! There are many websites on ‘regular’ Google search, but it’s important to note that not all of these sources are verified, whereas articles on Google Scholar are. If you do choose to do your own research via ‘regular’ Google, do ensure that the source is from an established organisation, such as the NHS or Cleveland Clinic. Finally, the latest Antiphospholipid Syndrome research tool I have recently grown to like and use quite a bit is Medisearch. What I like about it is that it only references actual journals, and is not prone to so-called “hallucinations” like other AI models such as ChatGPT. You can [**learn more about this tool in my Medisearch review here**](https://achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/). ## A Breakdown of the Latest Research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome Whilst there are quite a number of promising new research and clinical trials for Antiphospholipid Syndrome, it is still a rare disease that could use more public awareness and research funding. The [American College of Rheumatology](https://rheumatology.org/) (ACR) (n.d.) holds an annual convergence that showcases the latest research and knowledge into all areas of rheumatology. Here are the new [Antiphospholipid Syndrome findings that were presented at the ACR convergence in 2023](https://news.hss.edu/new-antiphospholipid-syndrome-research-findings-presented-at-acr-convergence-2023/) (Hospital for Special Surgery \[HSS\], 2023), and I can’t wait to see what will be shared in the next one in November 2024! Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome & Research Boards: ![Get the latest breakdown of the latest research in Antiphospholipid Syndrome - from peptide libraries, to B cells and T cells, neutrophils, Beta-2-Glycoprotein I (β2GPI), aptamers and more.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/breakdown-latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome-aps-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Peptide Libraries for Diagnosing Antiphospholipid Syndrome Let’s begin with exciting new advancements in the diagnosis stage of APS. The current tests available for the detection of autoantibodies that target prothrombin (aPT) are aPS/PT, and aPT-A assays. However, it has been difficult to standardise their detection in lab tests, due to variability in platforms and protocols. One new diagnostic tool in the works is a [novel ELISA assay, ProTS525A-Biot (aPT-Bio)](https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fimmu.2021.741589/full). In a study of 27 high-risk APS patients, the ProTS525A-Biot was able to identify 24 triple-positive APS patients. ProTS525A-Biot may also be useful in future for the detection of other prothrombotic conditions apart from APS, such as COVID-19 (Chinnaraj et al., 2021). Another diagnostic tool in the works is based on [peptide IIa‐8.0‐biot‐2x](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2475037922024621), which is able to interact with antiphospholipid antibodies (aPLs) to a much larger extent (Moghbel et al., 2022). ### Research on B Cells & T Cells in Autoimmune Diseases If you live with an autoimmune disease, chances are that you’ve heard of T cells and B cells, and might even have underwent a biologic infusion to try and eliminate them, as they often trigger autoimmune disease activity when they go awry. T cells and B cells are lymphocytes, which are a type of white blood cell. [As per the National Human Genome Research Institute](https://www.genome.gov/genetics-glossary/Lymphocyte), B cells produce antibodies that target invading bacteria, viruses and toxins, whilst T cells destroy the body’s own cells that have become infected, or have turned cancerous. There has been some fascinating research into T cells and B cells, although they are still in the preclinical stages. [According to Taylor et al. (2023)](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10569398/): > “One such therapy is redirecting T cells to selectively kill anti-β2GPI antibody-producing B cells using chimeric autoantigen-TCRs (CATCRs), allowing T cells to bind autoantigen-specific B-cell receptors (BCRs) and induce selective cell death. Other B-cell therapies include monoclonal antibodies to B-cell activating factor (BAFF), which has been shown to exist at higher levels in many types of autoimmune diseases, including APS.” In brief, T cells and B cells go hand in hand in the body, and targeting one will affect the other for better or for worse. Within the thymus gland, [B cells play an active role in ‘training’ T cells](https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2024/02/240221160321.htm) on which cells to attack, and which to leave alone (ScienceDaily, 2024). [According to Afzali et al. (2024)](https://www.nature.com/articles/s41586-024-07079-8) in this latest research paper: > “CD40-induced B cell antigens, which, besides AQP4, comprise additional potentially disease-relevant autoantigens such as Anxa2, App and Cpd. Autoantibodies to ANXA2 and APP are associated with antiphospholipid syndrome and cerebral amyloid angiopathy-related inflammation.” Thus, perhaps future treatments for Antiphospholipid Syndrome might target B cells and T cells more specifically, by ‘switching off’ the bad stuff whilst leaving the good alone. ### Disruption of Neutrophilic Involvement in Antiphospholipid Syndrome [According to Papayannopoulos (2018)](https://www.nature.com/articles/nri.2017.105), “Neutrophils are the most abundant innate immune effector cells of the human immune system”, and come with antimicrobials on a broad spectrum. [Neutrophil extracellular traps (NETs)](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3439169/) are a combination of chromatin fibres, DNA and histones, and they play an important role in immobilising and killing invasive microorganisms, thereby protecting against infection (Kaplan & Radic, 2012). However, NETS are also sources of autoantigens and immunostimulatory proteins, and can stimulate autoimmune diseases such as Lupus (SLE), vasculitis and psoriasis (Kaplan & Radic, 2012). Apart from that, [NETs play a role in blood coagulation](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1521661623004771) both through platelet and coagulation cascade activation, and can contribute to the formation of both arterial and venous blood clots (Kmeťová et al., 2023). Clinical trials in Primary Antiphospholipid Syndrome patients with no comorbidities have also shown that these individuals had [high levels of anti-NET antibodies](https://acrjournals.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/art.42489), which can potentially trigger the complement cascade (Zuo et al., 2023). [Another study](https://academic.oup.com/rheumatology/article/61/7/2993/6429293) found that APS patients with a high risk of thrombosis had more NETs and activated protein C resistance (Foret et al., 2022). With [NETs being drivers of thromboinflammation in APS](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10569398/), research into disruption of this pathway is underway. Two FDA-approved medications with antineutrophilic properties are being studied, as well as selective modulation of immune cell activity. This could potentially result in neutralisation of adhesive properties of cells, thus reducing thrombosis in both arterial and venous vascular beds (Taylor et al., 2023). ### Beta-2-Glycoprotein I (β2GPI) & Future Therapeutic Research in Relation to APS There are only three proteins in the body that are able to up and down regulate the complement and coagulation systems, namely: C-reactive protein (CRP), thrombomodulin and [Beta-2-Glycoprotein I (β2GPI)](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0268960X19300268#bb0240). β2GPI is a unique five domain protein, and exists in open (J-shaped), S-twisted, and closed (O-shaped) conformations (McDonnell et al., 2020), and [according to Ağar et al. (2010)](https://ashpublications.org/blood/article/116/8/1336/27914/2-Glycoprotein-I-can-exist-in-2-conformations): > “In contrast to the circular conformation, the open fishhook-like conformation of β2GPI has a profound effect on the aPTT. Therefore, we propose that the conformation of β2GPI in plasma is predominantly circular.” Coagulation from β2GPI is dependent on the surrounding environment, and can have an anticoagulant, antiplatelet and procoagulant effect (McDonnell et al., 2020). [β2GPI is also known to bind to phospholipids and DNA](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1521661623004771), where interactions with DNA further extend to NETs (which we touched on previously) (Kmeťová et al., 2023). According to McDonnell et al. (2020): > “These actions of β2GPI can be influenced by aβ2GPI antibodies present in patients with APS and may be potential therapeutic targets. Assays to measure levels of antibodies to β2GPI and to DI show promise in improving diagnosis and risk stratification of patients with APS. A number of proposed therapeutic agents that target β2GPI/aβ2GPI interactions are in development.” In basic terms, what this means is that β2GPI has implications in coagulation and Antiphospholipid Syndrome. Future therapies may target the blocking of these interactions, in order to reduce the cascade of thrombosis. One of these new potential therapeutics is A1-A1, which is a peptide that targets the fifth domain of β2GPI, in order to prevent binding to cell surfaces. Another potential therapeutic is TIFI, a cytomegalovirus capsid peptide, which also targets the fifth domain of β2GPI, and might be able to inhibit the thrombotic effects of IgG antibodies. 1N11 is a monoclonal antibody that has also been shown to target ß2GP1 to decrease binding of antiphospholipid antibodies (aPLs) to proteins. Recombinant domain I molecule is also able to bind to aPLs, which in turn prevents their adverse effects. Researchers are still trying to understand the full role of β2GPI as well as Antiphospholipid Syndrome. So whilst these therapeutics sound exciting, it will probably still be many years before we see them in practice (McDonnell et al., 2020; [Fierro et al., 2022](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/aji.13509)). ### Aptamers / Next-Generation Thrombin Inhibitor Consisting of DNA Molecules Finally, let’s take a look at [aptamers](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3260938/). Aptamers are single-stranded oligonucleotides (DNA or RNA molecules) that are capable of binding to proteins or other cellular targets with great specificity ([Arbuthnot, 2015](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/B9780124105188000053); Ni et al., 2011). They are small in size, non-immunogenic, and there are [different kinds that show promise in a variety of immune related treatments](https://www.mdpi.com/1999-4923/12/10/955) \- from antibiotic alternatives, to autoimmune diseases such as Sjögren's disease, to suppression of tumour growth. The good news is that many of these therapeutic aptamers are in the mid to late stage of clinical trials, and might be ready within 5 - 10 years (Yasmeen et al., 2020). In relation to Antiphospholipid Syndrome and its potential complications, a [new DNA drug to fight blood clots](https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2023/08/230821114401.htm) has been discovered (ScienceDaily, 2023). Heparin is used as an anticoagulation drug in APS patients during emergencies, but up to 3% of patients who are on heparin for various medical reasons develop [heparin-induced thrombocytopenia](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/24014-heparin-induced-thrombocytopenia) (HIT), which causes the blood to clot instead. HIT is a life-threatening complication where platelet counts drop, and the patient is at risk of thrombosis. The medications used to treat HIT - argatroban and bivalirudin - have no antidotes (Cleveland Clinic, 2022). Recently it has been found that the anti-thrombin DNA aptamer, M08s-1, might act as a promising antidote for HIT. It also does not cross over into the placenta of pregnant women. [According to Nagano et al. (2023)](https://www.cell.com/molecular-therapy-family/nucleic-acids/fulltext/S2162-2531%2823%2900211-1): > “The dimerized M08s-1-based aptamers had about 100-fold increased binding affinity to human and mouse thrombin compared with the monomer counterparts.” ### Discovery of 2 Missing Enzymes in People with Antiphospholipid Syndrome According to [NaveenKumar et al. (2024)](https://ashpublications.org/blood/article-abstract/143/12/1193/514641/Low-ectonucleotidase-activity-and-increased): > “Many patients with antiphospholipid syndrome had decreased ectonucleotidase activity on neutrophils and platelets, which enabled extracellular nucleotides to trigger neutrophil-platelet aggregates. This phenotype was replicated by treating healthy neutrophils and platelets with patient-derived antiphospholipid antibodies or ectonucleotidase inhibitors.” [Goodwin (2024) explains this unexpected research finding in simpler terms here](https://www.michiganmedicine.org/health-lab/helpful-enzymes-vanish-many-patients-antiphospholipid-syndrome). In brief, the enzymes CD39 and CD73 which normally work together to cool down inflammatory molecules known as adenosine triphosphate were not found in patients with APS. This results in instigation of cells like neutrophils and platelets that contribute to the blood coagulation cascade. NaveenKumar et al. (2024) has also discovered that the receptors P2X7 and P2Y2, which play a role in platelets and neutrophils respectively, are key components in the inflammatory response from the accumulated adenosine triphosphate. Blocking these receptors on cells related to Antiphospholipid Syndrome returned them to a healthy state. Research such as this matters so much even if there is little funding for research into Antiphospholipid Syndrome specifically. Every bit of knowledge helps medicine to advance as a whole. ## Conclusion to the Latest Research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome Currently the main form of APS management and treatment is with the use of blood thinning medications, which come their own sets of problems. So it’s interesting to see that the future direction of APS treatment delves quite a bit into more targeted therapies on a biological level. I hope that this peek into the latest research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome has granted you some insight and hope into the possibilities of more effective APS diagnosis, prevention and treatments on the horizon. Perhaps some day, these fantastic researchers and doctors will find a cure as well. 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Read Related Posts in the Antiphospholipid Syndrome Series: - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [Pregnancy, Miscarriage & Women's Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [The Lowdown on Medications & Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) Pin to Your Latest Research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome Boards: ![Read all about the exciting new research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome (APS) on the horizon. Check out the discoveries that have been made in medicine and science, and clinical trials underway.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome-aps-3-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ![Read about the latest findings in medical research with regards to Antiphospholipid Syndrome - a blood clotting disorder and autoimmune disease that can have systemic effects.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome-2024-edition-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### References: - Afzali, A. M., Nirschl, L., Sie, C., Pfaller, M., Ulianov, O., Hassler, T., Federle, C., Petrozziello, E., Kalluri, S. R., Chen, H. H., Tyystjärvi, S., Muschaweckh, A., Lammens, K., Delbridge, C., Büttner, A., Steiger, K., Seyhan, G., Ottersen, O. P., Öllinger, R., … Korn, T. (2024). 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Anti–neutrophil extracellular trap antibodies in antiphospholipid antibody–positive patients: Results from the antiphospholipid syndrome alliance for clinical trials and international networking clinical database and repository. *Arthritis & Rheumatology, 75*(8), 1407–1414\. ### Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering (Part 5/5) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/ Last updated: 2026-05-12T17:27:54.000Z This post is part of a series on [**my knee surgery and recovery journey**](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/), and how I coped with all that down time. [**I spent a good part of a year bed bound**](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/), in pain, and also bored. Afternoons were the toughest, as it felt like a state of limbo, where the world was speeding on by... without me. When I was in less pain, I wanted to channel some energy into being productive, apart from watching Netflix all day. (P.s. Nothing wrong if you want to Netflix all day either - healing takes top priority, after all!) This entire series of posts covers different activities you can do, whilst stuck in bed or at home. This article in particular will focus on useful things to do while on bed rest after surgery. This includes self-education, advocacy work and volunteering - or how to be productive and feel a sense a purpose, even if you can't leave your bed. (**For more tips and ideas on things to do whilst bed bound,** [**check out the links at the end of the post**](#full-series)!) --- **Disclaimer*: Knee injuries and surgeries, or any surgery for that matter, varies widely from person to person. Your age, lifestyle, weight, circumstances, medications, comorbidities, allergies and other issues can impact your recovery timeline, as well as the tools and methods required. They should be adapted for YOU.* This article, and the resources or suggestions provided within, are based on MY own personal experiences with a spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture, as a person with many chronic illnesses. They are meant for educational purposes. **I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice. Please consult your own medical provider before trying anything out.** *This post also contains affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog.* [***Read our privacy policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/) *for more information. Thank you!* **Items with a star ⭐ next to them are resources I've personally tried and would recommend!** Pin to Your Surgery, Disability & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery. Education, advocacy, and volunteering — Final part in the knee recovery series on A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest-after-surgery-education-advocacy-volunteering-knee-recovery-series.jpg) --- ## 1\. Education Isn't Bound by Locations & Disabilities If you've always wanted to get certified in a new skill set or upgrade an existing one, now is the perfect opportunity to do so. There are many online courses available these days, ***many of which are free*** as well. Perhaps you've wondered about becoming a blogger, but don't know where to start. Or perhaps you've always wanted to try your hand at photo editing or coding, but never found the time. Or maybe you always wanted to study literature or physics, but went down a more 'practical' career path instead. Well, now you have plenty of time to dive in. ### Where to Find the Best Free Courses Online If you do a search for 'open courses' online, you will find that many universities offer free education. This includes prestigious universities like [Harvard](https://pll.harvard.edu/catalog/free) and [MIT](https://ocw.mit.edu/). [Open University](https://www.open.edu/openlearn/free-courses/full-catalogue) has a full catalogue of useful courses, and Open Culture has a compiled list of [“1,700 Free Online Courses from Top Universities”](https://www.openculture.com/freeonlinecourses) as well. If you're more interested in U.S.-related history and information, you can also check out ["250+ Killer Digital Libraries and Archives" from the Open Education Database](https://oedb.org/ilibrarian/250-plus-killer-digital-libraries-and-archives/). They have free courses in business, data analysis, finance, healthcare, history, literature, mathematics, politics and law, programming, psychology..... and the list goes on! [LinkedIn now has their own learning platform](https://www.linkedin.com/learning/?u=43752620) as well. These courses are more focused on social media, time management, critical thinking, design, leadership, SEO, and other more tech or business-related topics. Very practical, and knowledge you can definitely use as we navigate a world that's increasingly digital in nature. Pin to Your Disability, Education & Self-Improvement Boards:: ![Best Free Resources - Education Isn’t Bound by Locations and Disabilities](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/best-free-resources-education-isnt-bound-locations-disabilities.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [What’s It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) - [Every Next Level of Your Life Will Demand a Different You](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Keeping Up with the World: Why it’s Important Despite Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) - [Life is a Long Process of Becoming Into…](https://achronicvoice.com/life-is-a-long-process-of-becoming-into/) ## **2\. Read All the Books - For Knowledge, Inspiration & Fun** I’ve also been reading and buying more books, which honestly I don’t need because it ends up in the neverending yet-to-be-read pile. Sounds familiar? Different genres can take your mind to different places. Fantasy and sci-fi can take you to new worlds. Novels, memoirs and [fiction can generate empathy](https://www.discovermagazine.com/mind/how-reading-fiction-increases-empathy-and-encourages-understanding), hope, and bring perspective and meaning back to your life. Non-fiction books are great to learn new things from, and stimulate the brain. Maybe even help you to doze off - thinking is hard work, after all! I'm sure you're also wondering how best to recuperate from your knee surgery, and where to find resources beyond the 10 minute (or less) conversation you had with your surgeon. Now is the best time to learn how, through books written by qualified physiotherapists and doctors. Book Resources I Found Useful While Recovering from Knee Surgery: Book by an Orthopaedic Physiotherapist About Managing Knee Pain: [![Beat Knee Pain: Take Back Control: The Ultimate Guide To Treating Your Own Knees](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41YclRZCe1S._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B096TW87T8?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Beat Knee Pain: Take Back Control: The Ultimate Guide To Treating Your Own Knees") Book by a Physical Therapist on Recovery from Knee Injuries: [![Treat Your Own Knees: Simple Exercises to Build Strength, Flexibility, Responsiveness and Endurance](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41BqTx8yk0L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1684424852?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Treat Your Own Knees: Simple Exercises to Build Strength, Flexibility, Responsiveness and Endurance") The Science & Importance of Strength Training (Which You'll Need Whilst Recovering): [![Science of Strength Training: Understand the anatomy and physiology to transform your body (DK Science of)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51ECPn1Dz0L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0744026954?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Science of Strength Training: Understand the anatomy and physiology to transform your body (DK Science of)") Face Workouts for Beginners (Very Relaxing & Helps with [My TMD pains](https://achronicvoice.com/nourish-naturally-skin-care-tips/)): [![Press Here! Face Workouts for Beginners: Pressure Techniques to Tone and Define Naturally](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/510lAdRTLIL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1592339425?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Press Here! Face Workouts for Beginners: Pressure Techniques to Tone and Define Naturally") Buy These Books Here: - ⭐ [Chloe Wilson: Beat Knee Pain: Take Back Control: The Ultimate Guide To Treating Your Own Knees](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B096TW87T8?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=bd283f40d14363f9f04e4e618f93ee89&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - ⭐ [Jim Johnson: Treat Your Own Knees: Simple Exercises to Build Strength, Flexibility, Responsiveness and Endurance](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1684424852?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=06a0183afd68371d3f329ab226b19f31&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - ⭐ [Austin Current: Science of Strength Training: Understand the Anatomy and Physiology to Transform Your Body](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0744026954?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=55d6c948652dadd696b605f732156394&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - ⭐ [Nadira V Persaud: Press Here! Face Workouts for Beginners: Pressure Techniques to Tone and Define Naturally](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1592339425?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=8b4c7377ac5474196f7273fc22b2d8d9&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ### Magazines are Counted as Reading, Too! Magazines are more visual, and there are many excellent ones on the market these days. From biking to hiking, gardening, arts and crafts, food, animals, poetry, architecture, lifestyle, animals, literature and so much more. I like to read magazines on culture and travel in particular, as they show me things in a way that books can't quite do. Magazines can make for a more relaxing read, as there is no real chronological order to follow. The visuals can be inspirational as well, especially when it comes to nature. ### Some of my favourite magazine publications - [**The Passenger**](https://thepassenger.iperborea.com/english/): A cultural magazine that focuses on one country for each issue, and covers its politics, history, people, food, and other cultural facts and tidbits. - [**Delayed Gratification**](https://www.slow-journalism.com/): Which takes pride in its 'slow journalism' stance. They report on world events months later, which gives you the full scoop and broader picture of what's truly going on. Their infographics are also impressive, and they have [compiled a book full of them](https://amzn.to/3CfLihq). - [**Apartamento**](https://www.apartamentomagazine.com/)**:** It's a nice blend of living spaces, architecture, art and culture. Less about houses as is, and more about the people who inhabit them, their lifestyle, and philosophies. - **Lucky Peach:** Sadly, this magazine is no longer in publication. But you can [**check out the review I wrote for its final issue here**](https://achronicvoice.com/magazine-review-lucky-peach/), just to know what I mean by magazines being educational and beautiful, too! ⭐️ Recommended Magazines: The Passenger: [![The Passenger (9 books)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51ROf+SUkhL._CLa%7C617%2C500%7C516QnphHFoL.jpg%2C41Oy-QWX7oL.jpg%7C0%2C0%2C280%2C500%2B337%2C0%2C280%2C500%2B140%2C0%2C337%2C500__SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08882QNXZ?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "The Passenger (9 books)") Delayed Gratification - Infographic Book: [![An Answer for Everything: 200 Infographics to Explain the World](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/518a92ohSoL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1526633647?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "An Answer for Everything: 200 Infographics to Explain the World") Apartamento (Compilation): [![The World of Apartamento: ten years of everyday life interiors](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41Vuxq55MmL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/141972892X?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "The World of Apartamento: ten years of everyday life interiors") Buy These Magazines Here: - ⭐️ [Delayed Gratification: An Answer for Everything: 200 Infographics to Explain the World](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1526633647?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b86d2925dfa5c291a267ec4cf6034b3f&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - ⭐️ [The World of Apartamento: ten years of everyday life interiors](https://www.amazon.com/dp/141972892X?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=a1775a816250788a4fdb3f3a7d938830&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - ⭐️ [The Passenger: All 9 Series Pack](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08882QNXZ?binding=paperback&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=62c4504b5b440c72590a4b5a6a4184f4&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Reading widely is one of the most useful things to do while on bed rest after surgery. You won't only be learning how to improve your quality of life physically, but all aspects of your well-being. So read, and read whatever you like. At the end of the day, it should be educational and/or enjoyable. Make it a routine, so it’s something you can look forward to at a specific time of day. Even a few times a day, if you like! [**For audiobooks and reading on digital devices, check out part two of this series here**](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/)**.** Read Related Posts: - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or ‘How to Relax’ by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You’re All Invited, Too!)](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies: Part II](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies-2/) - [Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill: Part III](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-3-chronically-ill/) - [Book Review: The Narwhal Who Suffers from Chronic Migraines](https://achronicvoice.com/book-review-narwhal-migraines/) ## 3\. Do Your Research on Knee Surgery Recovery Resources Along your recovery journey, different accessibility and physiotherapy tools will be needed. You may not be able to use many of these resources yet, such as a wheelchair or walking frame. But when the time comes, you'll know exactly what the differences are, and what you want for yourself. You’ll be surprised how intricate the little details can get. Read up more about your medical condition and the research being done, or treatments available at present. You can discuss these options with your doctor, to see if they might be viable or suitable for your injury in particular. Remember to use [Google Scholar](https://scholar.google.com/) to verify and access credible information, and not random YouTube videos posted by fishy people looking to monetise off you. If you think that seeing someone's face on social media means it's legit, please know that [deep fakes](https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2020/jan/13/what-are-deepfakes-and-how-can-you-spot-them) are getting popular and easier to create. [**Check out my post for some ideas on what the physiotherapy process is like, and the equipment you may need**](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/)**.** Read Related Posts: - [Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care: Introduction to the Series](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-introduction/) - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) - [How to Prepare for a Medical Appointment in a Post-Pandemic World (4 Top Tips From a Doctor)](https://achronicvoice.com/prepare-medical-appointment/) - [What You Reshare Can Change Someone Else’s Life Forever](https://achronicvoice.com/what-you-reshare-can-change-life/) ### A Side Note on Physiotherapy, When You're Able to Start Out of all the things you can do while recovering from knee surgery, this is probably the most important. It is your key from disability back to ability. Sadly, fully ruptured knees will never be as good as the original. But the more you take your physiotherapy seriously, the better you'll regain your functionality. You will be given more physiotherapy exercises to do with each milestone you reach, and it's important to stick to them. I know it's difficult. It can feel like a chore, especially since it hurts, which your brain doesn't like. Some weeks I'm just in too much pain from my 'regular' pain flares, so I can't even do anything. If you live with chronic illness too, let's face it - the recovery process will take more time, and might be more unpredictable. But that doesn't matter. **What matters is that you do what you can, the best you can, when you can. Take it one day at a time, and in time you'll get there.** ## **4\. Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery - Plenty for the Bloggers!** ⬇️ **P.s. If you don’t blog, or don’t intend to start one,** [**skip to the next section**](#advocacy)**!** ⬇️ Admittedly, I was in too much pain and too depressed to do anything for many weeks, much less keep up with my blog. And that's okay. Take your time to grieve and let yourself feel what you need to feel while recovering from knee surgery. **It is a life-changing event after all, and grieving is an important part of the healing process.** When I felt like I was in a better place mentally and emotionally, I started to blog again. My first post was more emotional, which was cathartic. Subsequently, I could write more about my knee injury experience, what I learned, and share resources to help others. These were all useful things to do while on bed rest after surgery, and gave me a slight bit of satisfaction at the end of the day, even if I was still upset about the whole situation. If you're a blogger, then you know that there is always 101 things to do next for your blog, be it planning, writing, creating graphics, or something else! I suppose that's a good and bad thing. The bad part - learning when to stop. The good part - there's always somewhere you can channel your energy and passion to. It can also be done even if you're stuck in bed or at home. Read Related Posts: - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) - [A Quarterly Reflection: 12 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned](https://achronicvoice.com/quarterly-reflection-life-lessons-learned/) - [The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Prisons or Paths to Freedom](https://achronicvoice.com/stories-we-tell-ourselves-prisons-freedom/) - [Finding Your Self Behind the Illness (Your Story Isn’t Over Yet)](https://achronicvoice.com/finding-self-behind-illness/) ### Organise Your Content Calendar & Plan New Blog Posts For those who run into blogger's block or don't know what to write about next, a content planner can be helpful. Many bloggers would even say that their best blogging tip is to have a content calendar. A consistent posting schedule can help you to establish yourself, and connect with your readers. When they know what sort of content you post and when, they will start to keep an eye out for them. This can be useful especially if you’re trying to target holiday seasons and Awareness Days. Here’s a list of [Awareness Days for 2025 from Rutgers](https://kines.rutgers.edu/dshw/events/calendar/eventsbyyear/2025/-) to have a think about if you need ideas. I don't really have a plan, but do jot down my ideas on [TeuxDeux](https://teuxdeux.com/), and save post drafts in [Google Docs](https://docs.google.com/). Other popular content planning tools you can use include: [Trello](https://trello.com/home), [Evernote](https://evernote.com/), and [AirTable](https://airtable.com/invite/r/fRBO96Wz). Now would be a great time to do a bit of research, content planning, and drafts. Come the time when life gets busier again, you'll have content to keep your blog afloat! ### Update Old Posts If you're in no mood to write a new post, you can always improve the quality of existing content, on-page SEO, and update the graphics. I still sift through my blog archives to update posts that I think have the potential to become more useful. This has helped them to appear in search engines as well, even if they were written years ago. ### Give Your Website a Facelift Maybe your blog has been around for 10 years, and it’s starting to look a little dated. Or perhaps you’ve always fancied a certain style, but had no time to revamp your site. OR maybe you’re using a free blogging platform, and want to move to self-hosted. Now is a great time to do all of the above. You’ll also have a powered-up, beautiful blog after to continue your advocacy work on after. I guarantee that the hours will fly by - because that’s what happened to me as I finished up two websites - [Sick Lessons](https://sicklessons.com/) and Blogging Bread. I also made a [bio landing page](https://bio.achronicvoice.com/) using [Carrd](https://try.carrd.co/achronicvoice), since I already use it for my work site, [Black & Web](https://blackandweb.com/). (P.s. I [recently set my work site up using Carrd](https://work.achronicvoice.com/) as well 🙂.) I love WordPress themes from [Heartenmade](https://www.heartenmade.com/ref/sheryl.chan/), and can spend hours scrolling through [Theme Forest](https://1.envato.market/6bvP1r). [Elementor](https://be.elementor.com/visit/?bta=21335&brand=elementor) also has their own template library, and their drag-and-drop interface is extremely user-friendly. If you're looking for a hosting company, I'd recommend [Cloudways](https://www.cloudways.com/en/?id=848707) for cloud hosting. I know many bloggers in the chronic illness community are on [Lyrical Host](https://hub.lyricalhost.com/aff.php?id=1751&home=1) (use code **achronicvoice** for 10% off!) for traditional DNS hosting, too. As you can see, there are plenty of useful things to do while on bed rest after surgery, for the bloggers out there. Come join us in the chronic illness blogger community online, if it sounds interesting to you - I'd love to share your posts, too 🙂 Pin to Your Blogging & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Blogging from bed after surgery](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/blogging-from-bed-after-surgery.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Why I Moved from SiteGround to Cloudways (and Couldn’t be Happier). Plus Cute Puppy Pics & A New Pacing Strategy.](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/) ## 5\. Continue or Start Advocacy Work With the internet these days, advocacy opportunities are endless. If you are a chronic illness or disability blogger, continue to write and share about your experiences. You never know who your words and experiences may help, even if they don’t leave a comment on the post. I know that there are a number of 'silent' readers on my blog, which is fine by me. If you don’t blog or do any advocacy work but would like to, why not come join the chronic illness and disability community? Lord knows we still need more advocates and awareness in society. There are so many rare diseases and mental illnesses that still hold a lot of stigma, with little to no research funding for them. ### Read & Share Posts from Other Chronic Illness & Disabled Bloggers Even if you aren't a blogger, you can still make a difference. Reading and re-sharing blog posts from other chronic illness and disabled bloggers helps to raise awareness, too. I highlight snippets I find useful via [Instapaper](https://www.instapaper.com/), then schedule them on [Buffer](https://buffer.com/) to [Twitter](https://twitter.com/AChVoice), [BlueSky](https://bsky.app/profile/achronicvoice.com) and [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/achronicvoice). If there are many snippets that I find useful, I space them out in my Google Calendar for scheduling at a later date. An unintended benefit was that I learned a lot about chronic illnesses other than my own. You will also make a blogger's day, simply because you read, commented and/or shared a post they wrote! Pin to Your Advocacy, Disability & Chronic Illness Boards: ![How to be an advocate from bed after surgery](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-to-be-an-advocate-from-bed-after-surgery.jpeg) Read Related Posts: - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [Why Humility is the Best Tool for Advocacy](https://achronicvoice.com/humility-advocacy/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [16 Chronic Illness Bloggers Share Their Top Posts for 2020](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-bloggers-top-posts-2020/) ## **6\. Volunteer Your Services for a Charity or Non-Profit Organisation** Starting a blog, YouTube or podcast channel are some ways to begin, but not the only ones. There are also existing non-profit, charity and healthcare organisations that are looking for volunteers. They may be looking for a social media manager, designer, content curator, or someone else. Whatever skills you do have – I’m sure they could benefit from it. If you’re looking to pick up a new skill, volunteering is a great hands-on way to do so as well. If you’re sick of talking about illness all the time, you can volunteer for other meaningful causes as well. Such as a migrant crisis organisation, or your local animal shelter. There are so many causes around the world that need more hands to help out. My friend, Carrie, has a useful post on [volunteering as a person with chronic illness or disability](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/2020/06/15/volunteer-work-when-you-are-chronically-ill/). ## **In Conclusion on Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery** It's important to keep in mind that your value and worth as a human being are not defined by how much you do. You bring something into this world simply by being you, so strive to be the best version of yourself, in this present moment and situation. Wishing you fruitful learning experiences, and a speedy recovery. Take it step by step, day by day - you got this. Don't forget to check out the full series below for more tips and ideas as well! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Disability, Chronic Illness & Surgery Boards: ![Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest-after-surgery-education-advocacy-volunteering-2.jpeg) ![Ways to feel useful while stuck in bed after surgery — Resources for self-education, ways to get started in advocacy work, and volunteering ideas. Get them on: A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/ways-feel-useful-stuck-in-bed-after-surgery-resources-self-education-advocacy-work-volunteering-ideas.jpg) Read More Posts in This Series: 1. [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) 2. [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) 3. [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) 4. [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) 5. *Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering (this post)* Read Related Posts: - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 – 6](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) - [Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care: Introduction to the Series (1/6)](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-introduction/) ### Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed (Part 4/5) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/ Last updated: 2026-05-05T16:46:03.000Z This post is part of a series on [**my recovery journey from a spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture**](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/), which left me bed bound for nearly a year. In this article, I will share some uplifting activities to do while recovering in bed. You can also [**find more tips, resources and fun suggestions at the end of the post**](#full-series)! Pin to Your Uplifting Activities & Recovery Boards: ![Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed-2.jpg) ![Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed (Part 4 of 5 in the knee recovery series)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-recovering-in-bed-part-4-knee-recovery-series.jpg) --- **Disclaimer*: Knee injuries and surgeries, or any surgery for that matter, varies widely from person to person. Your age, lifestyle, weight, circumstances, medications, comorbidities, allergies and other issues can impact your recovery timeline, as well as the tools and methods required. They should be adapted for YOU.* This article, and the resources or suggestions provided within, are based on MY own personal experiences with a spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture, as a person with many chronic illnesses. They are meant for educational purposes. **I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice. Please consult your own medical provider before trying anything out.** *This post also contains affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***privacy policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/) *for more information. Thank you!* **Items with a star ⭐ next to them are resources I've personally tried and would recommend!** Changelog: - **09 February 2025**: Added **[‘Bring the Spa to Your Bed’ section](#spa)**, and **[‘Tarot Reading’](#tarot)** under the ‘**[Journaling](#journaling)**’ section. --- ## 1\. Journaling - There are a Hundred & One Ways to Do it [Many people find journaling therapeutic](https://mental.jmir.org/2018/4/e11290/) (Smyth et al., 2018), and it can be one of the most uplifting activities to do while recovering in bed from surgery. You can use it to sort through the chaos of thoughts and emotions that are bound to arise with such a major life event. You can also use it to document your healing journey, capture the small wins, or even vent with no holds barred. There are also many ways to journal, depending on your personality and preference. Let’s take a look at some of these! ### A Good Old Traditional Diary When I was young, I used to keep a daily diary. I happened to find these diaries many years later, and they gave me many good laughs. Oh, the trivial problems of being a teenager. I also found ones I had written as a child, and it brought a smile to my face. Journaling captures the essence of daily life and records our personal growth. That process is so gentle that we often don't even realise how much we've changed as time passes. When you read them at a later point in life, I guarantee you will wish that you had written more diary entries. Types of Personal Notebooks & Diaries: Vintage Handmade Leather Journal: [![Vintage Leather Journal - Antique Handmade Deckle Edge Vintage Paper Leather Bound Journal - Book of Shadows Journal - Leather Sketchbook - Drawing Journal - Great Gift (Vintage Brown, 7.5 x 5.5 inches)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/4182-qNqowL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B085VQLDHK?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Glow-in-the-Dark Hardcover: [![Cute Notebook Journal, Blank Journal for Women Men to Write in, Hardcover Aesthetic Notebook with Thick Scrapbook Paper, Kawaii Stationary for Junk Journal, 5.3'' x 7.6'' Pocket Notebook](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51LDMClrv5L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08NCLTJ8Y?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Journal with Lock: [![Lock Diary for Women Vintage Lock Journal Refillable Personal Locking Diary Leather Locking Journal Writing Notebook Girls B6 Secret Journal with Combination Passwords 5.5 x 7.8 In, Sunflower Wine Red](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41M7PIbzjML._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09M9QBNSG?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Refillable D&D Leather Binder Journal: [![DUROTAN DND Notebook Vintage Dragon Journal Unique Refillable Binder Leather A5 400 Pages For Dungeons and Dragons Gift D&D Gifts DM Accessories Men&Women](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51t4reCtqqL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D73XLGCD?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "DUROTAN DND Notebook Vintage Dragon Journal Unique Refillable Binder Leather A5 400 Pages For Dungeons and Dragons Gift D&D Gifts DM Accessories Men&Women") Buy Personal Journals / Notebooks: - [NomadCraftsCo: Handmade Vintage Leather Journal (with key & strap, vintage paper, various sizes)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B085VQLDHK?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=afa893675d819df1a94579583184a3e4&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [KGN Handicraft: Sun & Moon Vintage Leather Journal (vintage paper, small brass c-lock)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DPVJH91Z?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=4f95015c44213109346b02492ce8e203&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Maleden: Glow-in-the-Dark Hardcover Notebook (blank pages with watercolour illustrations)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08NCLTJ8Y?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=25130b953faa2738eaa61ab9cbf2163a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Insight Editions: Universal Monsters - Creature from the Black Lagoon Journal (glow-in-the-dark hardcover, ruled pages)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1647229383?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e06d88fa5c506134b732cefb0eb0e773&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Yoment: Vintage Journal with Lock (various colours)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09M9QBNSG?th=1&psc=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c85e7599f93394797c6a64113ff82b6a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Durotan: D&D Vintage Dragon Leather Journal (refillable binder; other designs available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D73XLGCD?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=2c89dce8a90d43e324007f6ca5de4657&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Taka Pryor: Ruled Notebook with Magnetic Clasp Cover (with pen loop, 120gsm)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09L6Z51KQ?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=73806dc6b5cb75a136c5659daf34a840&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Chronicle Books: One Line A Day: A Five-Year Memory Book](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0811870197?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=aa480e1edfc2e55a4bce153bc1d2f457&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ### Bullet Journaling Bullet journaling has been trending for a while now, and allows for a lot of flexibility. You can also get washi tape, stickers and other decorative items to embellish your pages with. You can draw up your own food and [mood logs](https://piktochart.com/blog/make-mood-board/), plan and record daily tasks, and more. Be as creative or as structured as you like. The options are endless, and it's a progressive effort. When you're done with a notebook, flipping through the beautiful pages can bring satisfaction. Types of Leuchtturm1917 A5 Hardcover Notebooks & Colours: ⭐ Plain (80g/m² acid-free paper): [![LEUCHTTURM1917 - Notebook Hardcover Medium A5-251 Numbered Pages for Writing and Journaling (Navy, Plain)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31KBfDykzSL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0095FFUO2?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "LEUCHTTURM1917 - Notebook Hardcover Medium A5-251 Numbered Pages for Writing and Journaling (Navy, Plain)") Dotted, Special Edition (120g/m² paper): [![LEUCHTTURM1917-120G Special Edition - Medium A5 Dotted Hardcover Notebook (Rising Sun) - 203 Numbered Pages with 120gsm Paper](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41L5TspnrFL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BKMY6G53?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Squared (80g/m² acid-free paper): [![LEUCHTTURM1917 - Notebook Hardcover Medium A5-251 Numbered Pages for Writing and Journaling (Purple, Squared)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41kqvvH4BTL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00SBDMW6I?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Ruled, Special Edition (120g/m² paper): [![LEUCHTTURM1917 - 120G Special Edition - Medium A5 Ruled Hardcover Notebook (Black) - 203 Numbered Pages with 120gsm Paper](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31aMYoMMmeL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B096WJ89YR?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Buy Leuchtturm1917 A5 Hardcover Notebooks (All in various colours & styles): - ⭐️ [Leuchtturm1917: A5 Hardcover Notebook - Plain (80g/m² acid-free paper, 251 numbered pages & 2 ribbon page markers)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0095FFUO2?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=3a678c4ddfcb22ffda11d4a094ca99d6&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Leuchtturm1917: Special Edition A5 Notebook - Dotted (120 g/m² paper developed & manufactured in Germany, 203 numbered pages & 2 ribbon page markers)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BKMY6G53?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e761023d74aaed4ff266e36715b707e1&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Leuchtturm1917: A5 Notebook - Squared (80g/m² acid-free paper, 2 ribbon page markers & 251 numbered pages)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00SBDMW6I?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6be9f0b28054e1f0de6dad3b698124c1&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Leuchtturm1917: Special Edition A5 Notebook - Ruled (120 g/m² paper developed & manufactured in Germany, 203 numbered pages & 2 ribbon page markers)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B096WJ89YR?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=771e9e906cbd170ce3b539fac185ad80&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Pin to Your Uplifting Activities & Journaling Boards: ![Journaling ideas and more stuff you can do while recovering from surgery](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/journaliing-ideas-stuff-to-do-while-recovering-surgery.jpg) ### Mental Health & Symptom Trackers Using a journal to track pain levels, mood, meals, sleep quality, medications and other personal details can be useful for unravelling patterns. Or even help to relieve some of the stress bottled unwittingly on the inside. Showing and practising gratitude has been shown to have many mental health benefits as well. As someone who lives with chronic pain, depression and anxiety, the boundaries blur after a while. Sometimes I don't even notice when a new type of pain creeps up. That was [**how the spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture happened**](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/); I had mistaken it for my 'regular' Sjögren's or Lupus joint aches. You can plot charts, draw graphs, or simply write a log. I record each time I take a medication that's not on my daily list using the Notes app on my phone, and include why I took it. It's simple, yet I can still spot patterns from that. If you're the practical or curious sort of person, journaling in this format can be an aid and record of your recovery process. Here are some [tips on how to get started, from Mental Health America](https://screening.mhanational.org/content/how-keep-mental-health-journal/). Types of Symptom & Wellness Trackers: This F\*cking Hurts: Chronic Pain & Symptom Tracker: [![This F*cking Hurts: A Pain and Symptom Tracking Journal for Chronic Pain and Illness (Large Edition - 8.25 x 11 and 6 months of tracking)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31Vg5dHw9EL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1990271847?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Weekly & Daily Health & Wellness Log Book: [![Clever Fox Wellness Planner - Weekly and Daily Health and Wellness Log, Food Journal and Meal Planner Diary for Calorie Counting, Notebook for Medical Condition Tracking, A5-Sized - Light Blue](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51angkKfTNS._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B089PZ563W?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Weekly & Monthly Views, 12-Month Chronic Illness Planner: [![bloom daily planners Undated Chronic Illness Planner & Medical Journal - 12 Month Pain and Symptom Tracker, Mood and Medication Log, Appointment Organizer (7” x 9”)- You Are Stronger Than You Think](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51lryXn2buL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B61Z3YLX?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Buy Symptom & Wellness Trackers: - [Wellness Warrior Press: This F\*cking Hurts: Pain & Symptom Tracker (large edition, 8.25" x 11", 6 months tracking)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1990271847?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=7a3dee816c0190789835059e029b9b06&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Clever Fox Wellness Planner - Weekly & Daily Health and Wellness Log (A5-sized, various colours)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B089PZ563W?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=2ccac8946990da2060f81ce6b6324810&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Bloom Daily Planners: “You Are Stronger Than You Think” - 12 Month Chronic Illness Organiser & Medical Journal (undated, 7” x 9”)](https://www.amazon.com/bloom-daily-planners-Undated-Chronic/dp/B0B61Z3YLX?pd%5Frd%5Fw=AzAE1&content-id=amzn1.sym.76a0b561-a7b4-41dc-9467-a85a2fa27c1c&pf%5Frd%5Fp=76a0b561-a7b4-41dc-9467-a85a2fa27c1c&pf%5Frd%5Fr=2G5B323CTMH55CHXYNMC&pd%5Frd%5Fwg=RNA7y&pd%5Frd%5Fr=e1286feb-5ba7-4970-9d4a-9de1ff0ada23&pd%5Frd%5Fi=B0B61Z3YLX&psc=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c61a8bab49003422ccc484e2e5bcba67&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Legend Wellness: Planner & Food Journal – 6 Months Daily Diet, Health Journal & Trackers (A5 sized, various colours)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08TBZFQLD?pd%5Frd%5Fi=B08TBZFQLD&pd%5Frd%5Fw=HejQN&content-id=amzn1.sym.f734d1a2-0bf9-4a26-ad34-2e1b969a5a75&pf%5Frd%5Fp=f734d1a2-0bf9-4a26-ad34-2e1b969a5a75&pf%5Frd%5Fr=CJJYP956MY4T9EKGQMYH&pd%5Frd%5Fwg=RmVI6&pd%5Frd%5Fr=290aeefd-f69d-4e6b-bc3d-db9179085ab9&s=office-products&sp%5Fcsd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9kZXRhaWw&th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ec73fb5d770aef901aab84821715ca8a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Pretty Nifty Publishing: Simple Pain & Symptom Tracker Log Book (6” x 9”, 108 undated pages)](https://www.amazon.com/Pain-Symptom-Tracker-Log-Book/dp/B08VCNJGTD?pd%5Frd%5Fw=v3UPS&content-id=amzn1.sym.76a0b561-a7b4-41dc-9467-a85a2fa27c1c&pf%5Frd%5Fp=76a0b561-a7b4-41dc-9467-a85a2fa27c1c&pf%5Frd%5Fr=CDA6Y5Y01T99XN1T1ZV2&pd%5Frd%5Fwg=u01SZ&pd%5Frd%5Fr=e4e73732-7c73-4809-9391-630861202a5f&pd%5Frd%5Fi=B08VCNJGTD&psc=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c2855b8319a19843c0baf8dbc25f100a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) Types of Mental Health & Gratitude Journals: Creative Mental Health Workbook: [![My Therapist Told Me to Journal: A Creative Mental Health Workbook](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51KZhYjmj9L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1510761128?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) The 5-Minute Daily Gratitude Journal: [![The Five Minute Journal, Original Daily Gratitude Journal 2024, Reflection Manifestation Journal for Mindfulness, Undated Daily Journal with Gold Foiling, Plastic-Free, Green - Intelligent Change](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41niDa1Bu8L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09G3K6T6G?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "The Five Minute Journal, Original Daily Gratitude Journal 2024, Reflection Manifestation Journal for Mindfulness, Undated Daily Journal with Gold Foiling, Plastic-Free, Green - Intelligent Change") The Anxiety Check-In Journal: [![The Anxiety Check-In: A Guided Journal to Support Your Mental Health and Help You Through the Hard Days (A Daily Wellness Journal for Anxiety Relief and Self-Care, Gifts for Millennial Women)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51EDo1PrvoL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1728225493?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Guided Anxiety Journal, with CBT-Based Prompts: [![Worry for Nothing: Guided Anxiety Journal, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Prompt, Anxiety Relief and Self Care, Men & Women, Improve Mental Health](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41e4XcMBQML._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1792339496?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Buy Mental Health & Gratitude Journals: - [Holly Chisholm: My Therapist Told Me to Journal: A Creative Mental Health Workbook](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1510761128?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=58c1824ceb53ae03bfb66b181331ac96&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Intelligent Change: The 5 Minute Daily Gratitude Journal (undated, gold foiling, various colours)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09G3K6T6G?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ac7f82ba9ed3ad3d8e940d9797ee1203&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Bree Cartwright: The Anxiety Check-In: Guided Journal to Support Your Mental Health](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1728225493?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=4b72c4112ad64b0220919741360958b9&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Four Progress: Worry for Nothing: A Guided Anxiety Journal (60 CBT-based worksheets)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1792339496?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f6f91830f18ee21e76501cebec082569&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Insight Editions: Calm: A Day and Night Reflection Journal](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1647225485?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=1e57bcf538cbb6e991afb66ccf9cd7f5&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Intelligent Change: The Five Minute Illustrated Journal for Kids](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0991846249?psc=1&pd%5Frd%5Fi=0991846249&pd%5Frd%5Fw=Hy5EO&content-id=amzn1.sym.386c274b-4bfe-4421-9052-a1a56db557ab&pf%5Frd%5Fp=386c274b-4bfe-4421-9052-a1a56db557ab&pf%5Frd%5Fr=7P956P9YZPX56HAR1P7R&pd%5Frd%5Fwg=WlSnZ&pd%5Frd%5Fr=d0695e45-f9df-4b74-bd50-1a57960fc3de&s=office-products&sp%5Fcsd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9kZXRhaWxfdGhlbWF0aWM&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=8e1285e453ecfcf949cf1f31bbd8a415&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or ‘How to Relax’ by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) ### Expressive Writing Thought dump all the stuff running through your mind in endless loops onto paper. It can help you to 'purge' them. Writing takes more effort and time than typing. Doing so can help you to process and observe your thoughts more meaningfully. Whilst thought dumping or [expressive writing](https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/expressive%5Fwriting) don't remove the worries and anxiety in my head entirely, it did help me to move on to the next useful thought. It's a bit like problem solving, but in black and white. I would also analyse my priorities and moods to see what the sources were, and if I could do anything about them. I still have these little notes, and when I glance at them, they bring back memories. So in a way, keeping this diary was still beneficial, and I’m glad I captured some of those moments in writing. They show me where I was, and where I am now. ### Guided Journals If you don't know where to even begin or what to write about, you can try various guided journals for uplifting activities to do while in bed. These usually include prompts or questions to help stimulate your writing juices. Many of them also contain affirmations, inspirational quotes and beautiful drawings within them. Every little thought scribbled down can help to clear your head a little. Types of Guided Journals: The Sunrise Manifesto Guided Morning Journal: [![SaltWrap Sunrise Manifesto: Daily Morning Guided Journal for Gratitude, Mindfulness, Wellness, Self Care for Women and Men – 5 Minute Reflection Journal](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51SOHVqPvXL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01C1QWP5S?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Tiny Buddha's Inner Strength Journal with Prompts: [![Tiny Buddha's Inner Strength Journal: Creative Prompts and Challenges to Help You Get Through Anything](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/514umZx7x-L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0806542233?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Practice You Daily Awakening Deck: [![Practice You Daily Awakening Deck: A Journal](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41-CQWRGHvL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/162203922X?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Types of Guided Art Journals: One-Year Art Journal with Daily Prompts: [![One-Year Art Journal: Daily Prompts to Spark Your Creativity](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51NQYYA82AL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1638075018?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Daily Doodle Journal with Creative Prompts: [![Daily Doodle Journal: 365 Days of Creative Prompts - Discover Your Inner Whimsy and Find Moments of Mindfulness](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51HHUXaXcML._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1638070849?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Wreck This Journal (Now in Colour!): [![Wreck This Journal: Now in Color](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51KCTNWR6rL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0143131664?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Buy Guided & Art Journals: - [SaltWrap: The Sunrise Manifesto Guided Minimalist Morning Journal (5 min self reflection)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01C1QWP5S?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=bd503288796fd0dcddbc9072b2ca0a76&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Lori Deschene: Tiny Buddha's Inner Strength Journal: Creative Prompts and Challenges](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0806542233?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=0573fc309f915e05212878e23f606ebb&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Elena Brower: Practice You Daily Awakening Deck: A Journal (watercolour style & prompts)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/162203922X?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=4148432cc2fc4655144f6d0553192ccb&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Monica Sweeney: Let That Sh\*t Go (illustrative design)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1250181909?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=bca8f634e6adcd6f2f296988119ae6a5&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Bonnie Myotai Treace: A Year of Zen: A 52-Week Guided Journal](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1638788537?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e17357c04287bdb4768f757da3db28bd&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Rockridge Press: One-Year Art Journal: Daily Prompts to Spark Your Creativity](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1638075018?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=19747be6963cafc9c66907767c42c788&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Rockridge Press: Daily Doodle Journal: 365 Days of Creative Prompts](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1638070849?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=00a92e9a1c4d9a98029b87d294de7c3a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Keri Smith: Wreck This Journal: Now in Color (all new edition!)](https://www.amazon.com/Wreck-This-Journal-Now-Color/dp/0143131664?pd%5Frd%5Fw=wfLjL&content-id=amzn1.sym.839d7715-b862-4989-8f65-c6f9502d15f9&pf%5Frd%5Fp=839d7715-b862-4989-8f65-c6f9502d15f9&pf%5Frd%5Fr=SAHWXG4E7EMQJ5GS3Q4J&pd%5Frd%5Fwg=66BJZ&pd%5Frd%5Fr=da6f3e62-b6cb-452e-813d-3ea0c715d2c1&pd%5Frd%5Fi=0143131664&psc=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=7bd18ff8f206db24ef5fc1d685c90d83&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ### Photo Journaling I used to snap one polaroid picture a day, and write a sentence with a black marker on the edges; a photo diary of sorts. It didn’t have to be anything special. Most of the pictures were of ordinary everyday things, such as a table, my dog or my face. I really liked this method of keeping a diary, because it’s the ordinary things that make up life in daily increments. When I flip through these compilations, they tell a story of my life. (I think I’ve just inspired myself to start this mini diary project again!) I like the traditional Instax mini size, but they also come in squares and landscape sizes. There is also a digital printing version, where you can snap pictures and also print ones from your phone or computer via Bluetooth. It's certainly one of the more fun and uplifting activities to do while recovering in bed! Types of Polaroid Cameras: ⭐️ Fujifilm Instax Mini 11 Camera Bundle (with stickers & frames): [![Fujifilm Instax Mini 11 Instant Camera with Case, 60 Fuji Films, Decoration Stickers, Frames, Photo Album and More Accessory kit (Lilac Purple)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51g7WdbGBLS._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08CG1GKRV?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Fujifilm Instax Wide 400 Instant Camera Bundle (with film & bag): [![Fujifilm INSTAX Wide 400 Instant Camera - Sage Green (Camera + 2 Wide Twin Packs/Bag)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51Eme4ed0pL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DM9VQ62K?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Fujifilm INSTAX Wide 400 Instant Camera - Sage Green (Camera + 2 Wide Twin Packs/Bag)") Fujifilm Instax Square SQ1 Instant Camera: [![Fujifilm Instax Square SQ1 Instant Camera Glacier Blue with Carrying Case + Fuji Instax Film Value Pack (40 Sheets) Accessories Bundle, Photo Album, Assorted Frames + More](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51+eAuvYw7L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09HY3LH5W?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Fujifilm Instax Square SQ1 Instant Camera Glacier Blue with Carrying Case + Fuji Instax Film Value Pack (40 Sheets) Accessories Bundle, Photo Album, Assorted Frames + More") Kodak Mini 3 Retro Portable Photo Printer (digital compatibility): [![KODAK Mini 3 Retro 4PASS Portable Photo Printer (3x3 inches) + 68 Sheets Bundle, White](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41x4yMFjOyL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08FSTXSNM?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Polaroid Now I-Type Instant Camera Bundle (auto-focus + double exposure): [![Polaroid Now 2nd Generation I-Type Instant Camera + Film Bundle - Now Black Camera + 16 Color Photos (6248)- Black](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41F94OTvIvL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BVNMK48Q?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Polaroid Now 2nd Generation I-Type Instant Camera + Film Bundle - Now Black Camera + 16 Color Photos (6248)- Black") Buy Polaroid / Instant Film Cameras: - ⭐️ [Fujifilm Instax Mini 11 Bundle (includes case, 60 films, stickers, frames, photo album & accessories; various colours)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08CG1GKRV?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=96e89c2f303fc73353a5247b41b725fd&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Fujifilm Instax Wide 400 (includes films and bag; other bundle types available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DM9VQ62K?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=5911cbf72ca564ff76492ee79b16e4e3&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Fujifilm Instax Square SQ1 (includes 40 films, album, frames, thumb grip, straps & batteries; various colours)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09HY3LH5W?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=75c65934d128e15063d96a7cb148f80e&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Kodak Mini 3 Retro 3"x3" Portable Photo Printer: Compatible with iOS/Android/Bluetooth (60 sheets)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08FSTXSNM?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=7ac01afe6b29be22099e170e487ad516&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Polaroid Now Black I-Type Instant Camera: Double-Exposure & Autofocus (includes 16 films & accessories; other colours available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BVNMK48Q?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=231111de5d219c50455fb884ee913ca7&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ### Digital Journaling Finally, you don’t need a physical diary to journal these days either. There are now quite a number of phone apps you can use. I started using [Daylio](https://daylio.net/), as my psychiatrist told me to record my mood every day to find some patterns. But it extends beyond that and allows me to include a short daily journal entry with a photo. I like that I just need to write a short snippet, and the visual element makes it fun to browse through. [Subscribe for More](#/portal/) ### Tarot Reading I’m putting tarot card reading under the journaling section, because that’s how I personally use it. I’ve started reading [this book by Benebell Wen, “Holistic Tarot”](https://www.amazon.com/dp/158394835X?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=bfe9144544cfdf3a06a50ba59ae1947c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), because it seems to align with how I approach tarot reading. She doesn’t see it as a fortune-telling tool; rather, as a self-reflective narrative process. She believes that the imagery on the cards activates our imagination, and taps into our intuition. This leads to the revelation of certain truths that are already known deep within us. Perhaps dormant, but waiting to be awoken and understood. I usually do a spread for the week, together with a significator card, which is basically a virtue or thought I’d like to focus on for the week, such as ‘patience’, ‘hope’ or something else. Then I see how that could possibly link to the card for each day of the week. In that sense, it’s a mindfulness practice that I use to manifest certain things I want to improve about myself or my life. After that, I refer to some websites or books for other dimensions to these cards, just in case I’ve forgotten what else they can represent. If their meanings are relevant or applicable to the current period of my life, I integrate it into my journaling. I find the [card meanings from Energetic Tarot](https://www.energetictarot.co.uk/tarot-meanings) to be helpful, because of the wide array of perspectives offered, instead of a fixed, predetermined explanation. There are also a few [spreads for all occasions](https://energetictarot.co.uk/energetic-tarot-spreads/) you can try out on the website, if you’re in need of ideas. Two other books I refer to regularly are: [“Guided Tarot” by Stefanie Caponi](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0593196996?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=699d0ac70739406c594e8a462a59ba48&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), and [“The Big Book of Tarot” by Joan Bunning](https://www.amazon.com/dp/157863668X?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=862c2dc8f4231b8e6b443e2cb598cd03&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). These are my favourite tarot decks and books I use, but there are many different styles out there, so pick one (or a couple!) that resonates with you. Tarot Books I Like: ⭐️ Holistic Tarot: An Integrative Approach to Using Tarot for Personal Growth: [![Holistic Tarot: An Integrative Approach to Using Tarot for Personal Growth](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41otohDhJpL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/158394835X?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Holistic Tarot: An Integrative Approach to Using Tarot for Personal Growth") ⭐️ The Big Book of Tarot: How to Interpret the Cards and Work with Tarot Spreads for Personal Growth: [![The Big Book of Tarot: How to Interpret the Cards and Work with Tarot Spreads for Personal Growth (Weiser Big Book Series)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51NQwbpmy-L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/157863668X?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "The Big Book of Tarot: How to Interpret the Cards and Work with Tarot Spreads for Personal Growth (Weiser Big Book Series)") ⭐️ Guided Tarot: A Beginner's Guide to Card Meanings, Spreads, and Intuitive Exercises for Seamless Readings: [![Guided Tarot: A Beginner's Guide to Card Meanings, Spreads, and Intuitive Exercises for Seamless Readings (Guided Metaphysical Readings)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51UfLARsbEL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0593196996?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Guided Tarot: A Beginner's Guide to Card Meanings, Spreads, and Intuitive Exercises for Seamless Readings (Guided Metaphysical Readings)") Buy Books on Tarot: - [Holistic Tarot: An Integrative Approach to Using Tarot for Personal Growth (by Benebell Wen)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/158394835X?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6fab9eade1dbaca04be2ec2b8a524c52&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [The Big Book of Tarot: How to Interpret the Cards and Work with Tarot Spreads for Personal Growth (Weiser Big Book Series) (by Joan Bunning)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/157863668X?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=5aee50a4972865c11cdb0cc4522c6149&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Guided Tarot: A Beginner's Guide to Card Meanings, Spreads, and Intuitive Exercises for Seamless Readings (Guided Metaphysical Readings) (by Stefanie Caponi)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0593196996?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=595662457548e10125e9a1724a8d8cf4&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Examples of Tarot Card Decks: The Rider Tarot Deck®: [![The Rider Tarot Deck®](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51C-n5A3PiL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/091386613X?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "The Rider Tarot Deck®") ⭐️ Golden Art Nouveau Tarot: [![Golden Art Nouveau Tarot (Golden Art Nouveau Tarot, 1)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51YrZ+wdxAL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0738763462?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Golden Art Nouveau Tarot (Golden Art Nouveau Tarot, 1)") ⭐️ Da Brigh Black Tarot Deck: [![Da Brigh Black Tarot Deck - A Mystical Journey Through The Shadows, Featuring Gothic Artwork and Intuitive Symbolism for a Powerful Reading Experience Every Time](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/418d-JE-8dL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B089DMX1PD?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Da Brigh Black Tarot Deck - A Mystical Journey Through The Shadows, Featuring Gothic Artwork and Intuitive Symbolism for a Powerful Reading Experience Every Time") The Linestrider Tarot: [![The Linestrider Tarot](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51baggsjYVL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0738748293?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "The Linestrider Tarot") Buy Tarot Decks: - [The Rider Tarot Deck® (by Arthur Edward Waite & Pamela Colman Smith)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/091386613X?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=8f8d1002ece7c3e6e23ee013738078c6&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - ⭐️ [Golden Art Nouveau Tarot (by Giulia Francesca Massaglia)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0738763462?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e0181cd6f59c4a0ee385c10e4c3a12fa&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - ⭐️ [Da Brigh: Black Tarot Deck (gothic artwork)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B089DMX1PD?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=27158f9622142ce005a6eb8abd825163&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [The Linestrider Tarot (by Siolo Thompson)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0738748293?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=bc4244cdf68ad4fb14d3bd4180432cb8&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [MediSearch Review: A Medical AI Search Engine for Patients, Clinicians & Medical Writers](https://achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/) - [Why You Need a Good Therapist on Your Healthcare Team (Based on My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-good-therapist/) - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [Why I Need to See 10 Different Doctors on a Regular Basis](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) Pin to Your Journaling, Mental Health & Recovery Boards: ![The different ways to journal and other activities to lift your mood while recovering in bed.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/different-ways-journal-activities-lift-mood-recovering-in-bed.jpg) ## 2\. Make a Vision Board or Bucket List A [vision board](https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/blog/click-here-happiness/202103/what-is-vision-board-and-why-make-one) is a collage of images that represent your goals and dreams; a visual reminder of what you want and hope to achieve in your life, and as a person. It can include bucket list destinations, career, finance and personal goals, your values in love and life, and anything else you want. Use images that resonate with you, and cut or print them out from anywhere. There are also vision board kits, if you prefer to have something a little more readymade. It can be a fulfilling self-awareness exercise and one of the more uplifting activities to do while recovering in bed, as it is a beautiful visual reminder that you create for yourself. Take your time to piece them all together, and feel free to modify it as life takes you different paths along the way. Types of Vision Board Kits & Supplies: Vision Board Kit for Women: [![Vision Board Kit for Women - Complete Deluxe Dream & Mood Board Supplies for Adults | Law of Attraction Manifestation | 100 Creative Pictures, 100 Inspiration Quotes, Folded Board, Goal-Setting Guide](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51xRM6IlWlS._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B095STP4CZ?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Vision Board Images for Cutting Out: [![800+ Vision Board Pictures and Quotes - Create Life Goals, Visualize, and Inspire with Magazine Clip Art and Collage Book](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51WNu8+i2fL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BHTXDTJ1?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Cork & Dry-Erase Combo Board: [![Amazon Basics Combo Magnetic Whiteboard Dry Erase Board/Cork Board, White/Yellow, 36 x 24 inches](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/4177fX8nZML._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B085PH4TLF?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Buy Vision Board & Bucket List Supplies: - [Bold Tuesday: Vision Board Kit for Women (100 quotes, folded board & goal-setting guide)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B095STP4CZ?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=32122706665a44328361889d933aa747&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Lamare: Vision Board Book (800+ pictures & quotes that you can cut out)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BHTXDTJ1?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=718f44e66edfc5769396e0f0f41bce0b&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Amazon Basics: Cork & Dry-Erase Combo Board (36" x 24"; other sizes available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B085PH4TLF?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e50147c8c48394821b4dd422b3ffee2a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Free Period Press: Vision Board Book (700+ words & images that you can cut out)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09F7ZLFK9?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=9fad788f09499d5b55c94a3b0cf6fe90&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [Every Next Level of Your Life Will Demand a Different You](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [It is \*Always\* Possible to Make Time for What Matters Most](https://achronicvoice.com/make-time-what-matters-most/) - [The Barriers That Throw Rocks into My Bucket List with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/) ## 3\. Write Thank You Notes to Those Who Matter Most You can get some nice cards - or make them yourself for some extra love! - and write thank you notes to all the healthcare staff, caregivers, friends, family and people who took care of you, and have been supporting you. It's always nice to receive a handwritten letter, and words are forever. I know I keep these little notes from others, as they're like tangible bits of precious memories. Types of Thank You Card: Elegant Gold Foil Greenery: [![VEEYOL 100 Gold Foil Greenery Thank You Cards with Envelopes, Watercolor Foliage Thank You Notes For Wedding, Baby Shower, Graduation, Bridal, Business, Anniversary](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41apuE56IQL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09LQYTKZY?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Fun & Punny: [![40 Funny Thank You Cards with Envelopes & Stickers, 4×6 in Cute Pun Cards Assorted Blank Greeting Cards, Boxed Bulk Note Cards for Friends Teachers Business Coworker Employee Appreciation](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51DF8uZkzSL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C7G82RWS?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "40 Funny Thank You Cards with Envelopes & Stickers, 4×6 in Cute Pun Cards Assorted Blank Greeting Cards, Boxed Bulk Note Cards for Friends Teachers Business Coworker Employee Appreciation") Wide Variety Pack: [![Hat Acrobat Thank You Cards with Envelopes – 24 Unique Designs on Thick Cardstock and Storage Box Included – 5.8” x 4.1 (Colorful)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61qrLyCpvCL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09ZVG5BK4?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Buy Thank You Cards: - [Veeyol: Gold Foil Watercolor Foliage (100 pieces with envelopes, blank inside, 5" x 3.75")](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09LQYTKZY?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ad5eb73d94281946f78ce6f5108da6d6&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Bapmnicc: Funny Puns Thank You Cards (40 pieces with envelopes, matching stickers, 10 designs, blank inside, 4" x 6")](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C7G82RWS?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=efd279321a5a8486ed860074ef759b73&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Hat Acrobat Store: Unique Design Thank You Cards on Thick Cardstock (24 pieces with envelopes & sticky seals, blank inside, 5.8" x 4.1", smudge-free, storage box included)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09ZVG5BK4?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c9a922b7db910453bc01db319eb893bf&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [What’s it Like to be the Mother of a Sick Child? (Precious Insights from My Own Mum)](https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/) - [What’s it Like to be the Father of a Child with Chronic Illness? (Precious Insights from My Own Dad!)](https://achronicvoice.com/father-of-child-with-chronic-illness/) - [The Value in Seeking Out Moments of Gratitude (and How to do it)](https://achronicvoice.com/value-gratitude/) Pin to Your Self-Care, Gratitude & Healing Boards: ![Self-Care and Gratitude - Activities to do while recovering in bed.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/self-care-gratitude-activities-recovering-in-bed.jpg) ## 4\. Bring the Spa to Your Bed First, let’s make one thing clear - self-care isn’t all about bubble baths and spas. However, caring for your body is one way to show yourself some love as well, and can lead to a better state of mind and mood. You may not be able to go to a spa (or even your own bathroom) right now. But you can always recreate a spa-like ambience, and it doesn’t need to be costly or complicated. The “[best spas](https://www.cntraveler.com/gallery/best-spas-in-the-world)” all have a common theme - a mood that is tranquil, serene and relaxing. *That* is what we want to recreate - an environment and atmosphere that contribute towards your healing. Let’s take a look at some simple things you can do to soothe your senses, and create your own ‘spa from bed’ day. **A quick but important note before we begin - your comorbidities are definitely different from mine, and you know your own body best. Hence, take the ideas below as mere suggestions.** You may be allergic to certain things, and/or your injury is different from mine. So please avoid doing or using anything that might trigger further injury, or if you’re uncomfortable with the idea. However, you can certainly adapt these ideas to recreate your own spa-like routine and ambience. One that is suitable and accessible for yourself :) ### Gentle, Physical Touch to Soothe Your Mind and Body Gentle pressure or touch can be soothing, relaxing and reassuring. I know I crave for a hug or a massage especially on my bad days. In [a study by Case et al. (2021)](https://www.ibroneuroscience.org/article/S0306-4522%2820%2930503-0/fulltext), they found that “certain patterns of deep pressure remain pleasant even when applied mechanically, in the absence of a social interaction. We demonstrate that oscillating deep pressure has similar affective effects to that of C-tactile gentle stroking, including similar ratings of touch pleasantness and increased ratings of calm”. I understand that some of you may not be able to tolerate touch due to allodynia or pain flares, so skip this section if that is you. There are other ways we can soothe our senses and relax, too. #### **Manicure or Nail Art (Skip the Pedicure for Now)** I would skip the pedicure for now since your knees are injured; the risk isn’t worth it. Also, if an emergency surgery is needed for any reason, [nail polish can hinder oxygen monitoring equipment](https://www.jptrev.com/frequently-asked-questions/remove-nail-polish/). Nails are the best parts of your body for the detection of [cyanosis](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/24297-cyanosis), so they should be kept bare. Once you’re more stable however, a manicure can be relaxing if you enjoy that sort of activity. Apart from choosing a pretty shade that will brighten your mood, the focus required to paint your own nails can be rather meditative. I used to get them done at the nail salon when I was working full-time, as I paint my own nails like a 3 year old would. Of late I think I might try doing them myself at home again. Who doesn’t love some colour, and it will be a practice in patience for me. Here are some non-toxic nail polish you can use to coat your nails. Hopefully the bright colours cheer you up, or you could even paint them a morbid shade or pattern to express your grief or pain. For more fun or a challenge, you can try nail art, too. Here are [58 nail art ideas from Beauty Bay](https://www.beautybay.com/edited/21-summer-nail-art-designs-weve-bookmarked/), and [Essie has tips for various designs](https://www.essie.co.uk/nail-art) as well. I won’t recommend any gel polish because they’re [outright bad for your nails](https://www.aad.org/public/everyday-care/nail-care-secrets/basics/pedicures/gel-manicures). The UV light dryers are also bad for your hands and can lead to skin cancer. [If you have Lupus, it is especially crucial to avoid the UV ligh](https://www.lupus.org/resources/uv-exposure-what-you-need-to-know)t in case it triggers a flare as well. Types of Non-Toxic Nail Polish: Vitamin-Enriched, Clean Beauty Formula: [![Karma Organic Natural Non toxic Nail polish - Vegan and Cruelty Free Nail Paint for Nail Art - Fast Drying Nail Polish for Women - Long Lasting Nail Polish (Serendipity)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31MYOXYfgVL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01B6FZM6Y?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Karma Organic Natural Non toxic Nail polish - Vegan and Cruelty Free Nail Paint for Nail Art - Fast Drying Nail Polish for Women - Long Lasting Nail Polish (Serendipity)") Pastel Non-Toxic Nail Polish (Set of 5): [![Eternal Pastel Nail Polish Sets for Women (CHIC PASTELS) - Pastel Nail Polish Set for Girls | Long Lasting & Non Toxic Nail Polish Kit for Home DIY Manicure & Pedicure | Made in USA, 13.5mL (Set of 5)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/410rw2+G5NL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08XWMRQSG?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Eternal Pastel Nail Polish Sets for Women (CHIC PASTELS) - Pastel Nail Polish Set for Girls | Long Lasting & Non Toxic Nail Polish Kit for Home DIY Manicure & Pedicure | Made in USA, 13.5mL (Set of 5)") Buy Non-Toxic Nail Polish: - [Karma: Organic Non-Toxic Nail Polish (21 free-from formula; other colours available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01B6FZM6Y?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f5a4a6bdaeeb390ebda46bdc4e1cac59&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Eternal: 5-Pack Pastel Nail Polish Set (21 free-from formula; other colours available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08XWMRQSG?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=cda1d8e9c676a410278f1d2388fbe6c9&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Buy Nail Polish Base Coat, Top Coat & Remover: - [Ella+Mila: “All About the Base” Base Coat (17-free from formula)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00T1425NG?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=81d4a59696ad11cac37025c84b3719d4&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Butter London: Nail Rescue Base Coat (with horsetail extract & vitamin-enriched)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01ALDXENA?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c0ac68167831247ec23631c8127052e7&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Ella+Mila: “In a Rush” Fast Dry Toxic-Free Top Coat (17-free from formula, high gloss shine)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00T141WFS?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=0ee97795eb4cae7ffd75be0e9b9de179&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Essie: All-in-One Nail Top & Base Coat (8-free from formula; more bundles available)](https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00B9FTP2E?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=553f138306bf596cbfc1b3c578eb3324&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Ella+Mila: Soy Nail Polish Remover (unscented, moisturising, alcohol & acetone-free)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B082WN64RD?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=3a756ac2aeff8baca0f19868843092f6&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Examples of Nail Art Tools: 31-Piece Nail Art Brush Set: [![Artdone 31pcs Nail Art Brushes, Nail Art Tool Set, Dotting Tools, Dust Brush,Striping Brushes for Long Lines, Drawing Pen For Gel Polish Design supply.](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51UYTBTLAiL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09787V4M9?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Artdone 31pcs Nail Art Brushes, Nail Art Tool Set, Dotting Tools, Dust Brush,Striping Brushes for Long Lines, Drawing Pen For Gel Polish Design supply.") Chrome Nail Powder: [![Artdone 36 Jars Chrome Nail Powder Nail Art Fimo Decoration Metallic Mirror Effect Holographic Aurora Chameleon Pigment Powder 1g/Jar Pearl for Resin Craft & Nail Art](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61IGoDrKAiL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CBPJ8L4G?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Artdone 36 Jars Chrome Nail Powder Nail Art Fimo Decoration Metallic Mirror Effect Holographic Aurora Chameleon Pigment Powder 1g/Jar Pearl for Resin Craft & Nail Art") Nail Art Kit (Brushes, Stickers, Foils, Flakes, Rhinestones): [![FANDAMEI Nail Art Brushes Set, Nail Art Kit, Nail Design Kit, Nail Art Dotting Pens, Nail Stickers, Butterfly Nail Art Sequins, Nail Foils, Nail Art Flakes Iridescent, Rhinestones For Nails](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61APpgi+8ML._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BFQHWFYD?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "FANDAMEI Nail Art Brushes Set, Nail Art Kit, Nail Design Kit, Nail Art Dotting Pens, Nail Stickers, Butterfly Nail Art Sequins, Nail Foils, Nail Art Flakes Iridescent, Rhinestones For Nails") Spring Flowers Nail Art Stickers: [![JMEOWIO 10 Sheets Spring Flower Nail Art Stickers Decals Self-Adhesive Pegatinas Uñas Colorful Summer Floral Nail Supplies Nail Art Design Decoration Accessories](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/516IhJ3aB+L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BWDRZZXS?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "JMEOWIO 10 Sheets Spring Flower Nail Art Stickers Decals Self-Adhesive Pegatinas Uñas Colorful Summer Floral Nail Supplies Nail Art Design Decoration Accessories") Buy Nail Art Tools: - [ArtDone: 31-Piece Nail Art Brush Set (other sets available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09787V4M9?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e6ca2332fbe65f8c2e7b762f3b470873&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Fandamei: Nail Art Kit (includes: brushes, dotting pens, stickers, sequins, foils, iridescent flakes & rhinestones; other colours available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BFQHWFYD?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=90e6aa887b86dd2464fc0f21cc495f68&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [ArtDone: Double-Ended Nail Dotting Tools (other sets available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DDJ6NB4V?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=70c80f7fc00e6eab21ea5b7bac859260&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [ArtDone: Chrome Nail Powder (36 jars)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CBPJ8L4G?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f98b690443bf0b7fa0030e7a3cf104fd&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Jmeowio: Spring Flower Nail Art Stickers (10 sheets)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BWDRZZXS?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=5f215df9a0e8f9a556c3b6e690de6503&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) #### **Face & Eye Masks** It might be a bit too messy to do a full facial routine whilst stuck in bed, but you can still nourish your skin with those face and eye sheet masks every now and then. I remember my skin being dry, flaky and itchy all over my body, because I could not shower. Whilst nothing replaces a nice, hot shower or bath, you can still continue to care for the parts of your body that are accessible for now. Afterall, you’ll need to lie in bed for hours on end. There’s no harm relaxing with a cooling face or eye sheet mask slapped on, and your skin will thank you for it after. Here are some clean beauty face and eye sheet masks you could try. Remember to use something that is suitable for your skin type and needs. Or if you already have a goto brand - use that! Examples of Clean Beauty Face Sheet Masks: Overnight Hydrogel Mask for Sensitive Skin: [![BIODANCE Hydro Cera-nol Real Deep Mask, Overnight Hydrogel Mask, Soothing, Moisturizing, Nourishing, 1.19oz(34g) x 4ea](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41H2DLMEfUL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CWGSP1WY?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "BIODANCE Hydro Cera-nol Real Deep Mask, Overnight Hydrogel Mask, Soothing, Moisturizing, Nourishing, 1.19oz(34g) x 4ea") Collagen Hydrogel Face Sheet Mask: [![Trancend Korean Collagen Face Mask, Deep Bio-Collagen Skincare Glass Skin Hydrating Face Masks Overnight Hydrogel Mask, Pore Minimizing, Elasticity Improvement 39G (4 Pack Sheet Mask)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41vdRx7U7oL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D91M3WQJ?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Trancend Korean Collagen Face Mask, Deep Bio-Collagen Skincare Glass Skin Hydrating Face Masks Overnight Hydrogel Mask, Pore Minimizing, Elasticity Improvement 39G (4 Pack Sheet Mask)") Non-GMO, EWG Verified, Blue Ampoule Face Sheet Mask: [![K-Beauty Real Natural Sheet Mask with Blue Ampoule with Unbleached & Non-fluorescent sheet EWG Verified Non-GMO Cruelty Free No Artificial Fragrance Firming 5 Count ](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51HmeuBOjxL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08DTC2L3G?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "K-Beauty Real Natural Sheet Mask with Blue Ampoule with Unbleached & Non-fluorescent sheet EWG Verified Non-GMO Cruelty Free No Artificial Fragrance Firming 5 Count ") Buy Clean Beauty Face Sheet Masks: - [BioDance: Cera-Nol Overnight Hydrogel Face Sheet Mask (4 pieces, hypoallergenic, 19 free-form formula; other types available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CWGSP1WY?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f8809292ad1e7c90951859ebf7951600&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Transcend: Korean Collagen Hydrogel Face Sheet Mask (4 pieces, hypoallergenic, unscented, 19-free from formula, with 3 types of probiotics)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D91M3WQJ?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=a92015c8a93890387f822a29d05f08bf&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Varuza: K-Beauty Face Sheet Mask (EWG verified, non-GMO, 100% natural cotton, unscented, supermarine complex; other options available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08DTC2L3G?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=03fadd508d61506447137d7c8700f7d2&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Examples of Eye Sheet Masks: Under Eye Mask Combo Pack (Moisturising, Illuminating & Energising): [![Under Eye Mask - Reduce Dark Circles, Puffy Eyes, Undereye Bags, Wrinkles - Gel Under Eye Patches, Vegan Cruelty-Free Self Care by grace and stella (72 Pairs, GoldPinkBlue)24 Pair (Pack of 3)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41CAOpyi4zL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09RKNJWCR?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Under Eye Mask - Reduce Dark Circles, Puffy Eyes, Undereye Bags, Wrinkles - Gel Under Eye Patches, Vegan Cruelty-Free Self Care by grace and stella (72 Pairs, GoldPinkBlue)24 Pair (Pack of 3)") 24K Gold, Collagen, Hyaluronic Acid Hydrogel Under Eye Mask: [![Under Eye Patches & Masks (18 Pairs) - All Natural Anti Aging Treatment for Bags, Puffiness, Wrinkles, & Dark Circles - 24K Gold, Collagen, Hyaluronic Acid, Hydrogel - Formulated in San Francisco](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51WPCyYnAYL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07CJ5Q48T?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Under Eye Patches & Masks (18 Pairs) - All Natural Anti Aging Treatment for Bags, Puffiness, Wrinkles, & Dark Circles - 24K Gold, Collagen, Hyaluronic Acid, Hydrogel - Formulated in San Francisco") Advanced Snail Hydrogel Eye Patch: [![COSRX Advanced Snail Hydrogel Eye Patch (60pc), Gel Serum Mask, Puffy Undereye Treament, Fine Lines, Refresh, Hydrate| Paraben free, Korean Skin Care](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41Wo7DVPQiL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08V56GJ7W?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "COSRX Advanced Snail Hydrogel Eye Patch (60pc), Gel Serum Mask, Puffy Undereye Treament, Fine Lines, Refresh, Hydrate| Paraben free, Korean Skin Care") Buy Eye Sheet Masks: - [Grace & Stella: Under Eye Mask Combo Pack - Moisturising, Energising & Illuminating (vegan, paraben & sulfate-free, with sea moss; other combos available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09RKNJWCR?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=cdaa22761737c5646df61a2b8124f19c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [DoppelTree: Under Eye Mask Pack (24k nano-active gold, hyaluronic acid, collagen, vitamin C, paraben-free)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07CJ5Q48T?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=9eefe7f8a46564f74f112a2fd1513b5f&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Cosrx: Advanced Snail Hydrogel Eye Patch (60 pieces, unscented, sulfate, phthalate & paraben-free)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08V56GJ7W?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c71d5719593454500ca3139849cbfd6a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [BreyLee: Aloe Vera Eye Masks for Sensitive Skin (60 pieces, nonylphenol ethoxylate & paraben-free; other types available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BTBPJTKN?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e46ec638e425b8ec9e83cb8916473e75&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Grace & Stella: Retinol & Hyaluronic Acid Under Eye Masks (phthalate, sulfate & paraben-free, unscented; other types available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CPT8W3RV?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e5cb9aa74f6b813313eb27e21f6f9cf3&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [How Much Time Are You Wasting On Sleep?](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/) - [Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-home-resources-learned-other-blogs/) - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) - [29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) #### **Self-Massage Kits & Tools** I will just do a brief overview of this section, as [**I’ve already written about massage therapy and other self-massage tools in this post here**](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/#massages). In Singapore, [Urban Company](https://invite.urbanclap.com/0C8sUpWrnrb) offers house call massage and nail services for ladies. I remember booking a massage session when I was more mobile, but that was definitely out of the question during the early stages of recovery. It was bliss to have those aches and knots relieved after lying in bed for ages. There are also many DIY self-massage tools and kits these days for various body parts, from head to toe. [**My personal favourite are gua sha tools**](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/#guasha), which are lightweight and thus easy on my hands. They aren’t only for beauty purposes; I use them to massage my face and head gently, and they do help with pain relief and also relaxation. There are also many other massage equipment out there these days, from manual self-massage tools, to automatic massagers that can be placed on your bed. Take a look at the variety below. Types of DIY Self-Massage Tools: Jade Gua Sha Facial Tool: [![PLANTIFIQUE Gua Sha Facial Tools - Massage Tool - Jawline Sculptor - Face Sculpting Tool for Your Skin Care Routine - Jade Guasha](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41u0dC2H0-L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B3RJPM4L?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "PLANTIFIQUE Gua Sha Facial Tools - Massage Tool - Jawline Sculptor - Face Sculpting Tool for Your Skin Care Routine - Jade Guasha") Large Resin Gua Sha Tool with Handle: [![Scienlodic Gua Sha Massage Tool with Handle (Resin) Larger Guasha Scraping Tool for Back Neck Face Leg Massage, Lymphatic Drainage, Cellulite Remove - Large](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31aGtdq4cpL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B095C254HY?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Scienlodic Gua Sha Massage Tool with Handle (Resin) Larger Guasha Scraping Tool for Back Neck Face Leg Massage, Lymphatic Drainage, Cellulite Remove - Large") Neck and Back Massager (with Heat & Bidirectional Rotating Head): [![Brelley Neck and Back Massager for Pain Relief Deep Tissue with Heat, Shiatsu Shoulder Massager with Bi-Directional Rotating Head for Neck, Back, Shoulders, and Legs, Gift for Mom Dad](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41NeJcUI6KL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D1VJH1XM?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Brelley Neck and Back Massager for Pain Relief Deep Tissue with Heat, Shiatsu Shoulder Massager with Bi-Directional Rotating Head for Neck, Back, Shoulders, and Legs, Gift for Mom Dad") Deep Tissue Heat & Cold Massage Gun (Bluetooth, Percussion Massage): [![RENPHO Massage Gun with Heat and Cold, FSA HSA Eligible Gifts for Women Men Percussion Muscle Deep Tissue Massager Portable with Bluetooth, Carry Case, Active+ Thermacool](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41kvcsVkj2L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CQ75BNZT?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "RENPHO Massage Gun with Heat and Cold, FSA HSA Eligible Gifts for Women Men Percussion Muscle Deep Tissue Massager Portable with Bluetooth, Carry Case, Active+ Thermacool") Buy Self-Massage Tools: - [Plantifique: Jade Gua Sha Facial Tool (other materials and shapes available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B3RJPM4L?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b310e69b4d67a4fa23f3f4b5e2404674&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [ScienLodic: Large Resin Gua Sha Tool with Handle (other colours available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DJY4759P?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=9f4290f1e0e89aba051cb2195ab9a237&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Brelley: Shiatsu Neck and Back Massager (with bidirectional rotating head & heat)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D1VJH1XM?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=415a3f7d7945eaac17c13543d5fd0551&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Aerlang: Shiatsu Neck and Back Massager (with heating & deep kneading)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D17LYK12?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=1aa75215d25d823c4e7a12904e36ea13&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [RenPho: Deep Tissue Massage Gun with Heat & Cold (bluetooth-enabled, percussion massage, accessories included; other bundles available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CQ75BNZT?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=1e55557b0fb640f588dbd8fa73fcc53f&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [TheraGun Prime (5th Gen): Quiet, Deep Tissue Massage Gun (bluetooth-enabled, electric percussion massage, various speeds; other models available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C42NZ9FR?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e2f3cb4d53c67b3d0d46392437e68fa0&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Pin to Your Isolation, Recovery & Wellness Boards: ![Bring the Spa to Your Bed - and other uplifting activities to do while recovering from surgery.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/bring-spa-bed-other-uplifting-activities-recovering-surgery.jpg) ### Soothing Scents to Ease or Clear Your Mind Our sense of smell is probably the most underrated sense. [This article on Nautilus Magazine serves as a beautiful reminder of why scents are so important](https://nautil.us/scent-makes-a-place-1175656/). Scents can be therapeutic and grounding, and gently alter your mood or mind depending on the ingredients. [According to Masuo et al. (2021)](https://www.mdpi.com/1420-3049/26/9/2571), “odor may provoke a physiological response in the autonomic nervous system. An unpleasant aversive odor causes non-invasive stress, while a pleasant smell promotes healing and relaxation in mammals”. We have about “50 million olfactory sensory neurons in the nasal olfactory epithelium” (Masuo et al., 2021), and “[odors take a direct route to the limbic system](https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2020/02/how-scent-emotion-and-memory-are-intertwined-and-exploited/)”, which is related to memory and emotions (Walsh, 2020). So yes, I personally think it’s a good idea to tap into our sense of smell to lift our mood, as long as it doesn’t trigger any of your medical conditions. It’s one of the more uplifting activities to do while recovering in bed, and with minimal effort to boot. #### **Types of Scented Products** There are many scented products on sale these days, for all sorts of preferences in terms of smell, usage and method. From candles to reed diffusers, room sprays, perfumes, scented lotions, mist diffusers and so much more. If you’re worried about burning candles either because of the fire hazard or the smoke, there are candle warmer lamps that melt them without the need to burn the wick. I really like these [paper leaf incense from POJ Studio](https://pojstudio.com/products/leaf-incense-hinoki) \- now I just need to think of an excuse to buy them for a special occasion... I personally love musky, oud, floral, or green, woody scents. Although for some reason rose perfumes last the longest on my skin. One of my nightly routines is to slather hand lotion on for my dry skin, and sniff my hands after. It makes me smile. I also like to add a few drops of water-based essential oils into my two-in-one mist diffuser at night, to keep the air a little moist and for relaxation. #### **Scented Products You Can Try** **Once again, scents may not work for everyone and are highly subjective.** What I’ll share here are ideas of scented products that you may or may not have heard of before (or have forgotten about), so you can browse on your own if you like. Types of Scent-Related Products: Candle Warmer Lamp: [![Candle Warmer Lamps with Timer, Dimmer & 2 Bulbs, Electric Candle Burner for Jar Candles, Dimmable Warm Light Wax Melting Lamp for Home Decor (Walnut Base)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41a6QT5v-9L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CL9QH9ZG?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Candle Warmer Lamps with Timer, Dimmer & 2 Bulbs, Electric Candle Burner for Jar Candles, Dimmable Warm Light Wax Melting Lamp for Home Decor (Walnut Base)") ⭐️ Hand-Poured Scented Candle: [![SALT & STONE Scented Candle for Women & Men | Hand-Poured, Aromatic & Fragrant | Made with Natural Coconut & Soy Blend Wax | 100% Cotton Wick | Long-Lasting 50 Hour Burn Time (8.5 oz) - Black Rose and Oud](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31rjiMkSngL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09KSYFFX5?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "SALT & STONE Scented Candle for Women & Men | Hand-Poured, Aromatic & Fragrant | Made with Natural Coconut & Soy Blend Wax | 100% Cotton Wick | Long-Lasting 50 Hour Burn Time (8.5 oz) - Black Rose and Oud") Reed Diffuser Set: [![COCORRÍNA Reed Diffuser - English Garden Scented Diffuser with 8 Sticks Home Fragrance Reed Diffuser for Bathroom Shelf Decor](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41ewFEPd5KL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CCMDBYDQ?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "COCORRÍNA Reed Diffuser - English Garden Scented Diffuser with 8 Sticks Home Fragrance Reed Diffuser for Bathroom Shelf Decor") Types of Scent-Related Products: Leaf Paper Incense: [![Paper Incense HAKO Leaf Incense Ha KO Black Sleep 6 Pieces Kunjyudo 1913 Kunjudo Made in Japan (Sleep (Lavendar))](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41tpQoS8+WL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B084YWB9HC?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Paper Incense HAKO Leaf Incense Ha KO Black Sleep 6 Pieces Kunjyudo 1913 Kunjudo Made in Japan (Sleep (Lavendar))") Non-Toxic Incense Stick Pack: [![Folkulture Incense Sticks - Set of 6 Insenses (120 Insence Sticks) - Palo Santo & Sandalwood, White Sage, Lavender, Patchouli, Rosemary, Blue Lotus Inscents or Inciensos, Sleep Incents, Gifts for Her](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41AGXzpHFtL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CC8SZDFV?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Folkulture Incense Sticks - Set of 6 Insenses (120 Insence Sticks) - Palo Santo & Sandalwood, White Sage, Lavender, Patchouli, Rosemary, Blue Lotus Inscents or Inciensos, Sleep Incents, Gifts for Her") Essential Oil Mist Diffuser: [![LEVOIT Humidifiers for Bedroom, Quiet (3L Water Tank) Cool Mist Top Fill Essential Oil Diffuser with 25Watt for Home Large Room, 360° Nozzle, Rapid Ultrasonic Humidification for Baby Nursery and Plant](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/417XutTP+OL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09W21XFS5?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "LEVOIT Humidifiers for Bedroom, Quiet (3L Water Tank) Cool Mist Top Fill Essential Oil Diffuser with 25Watt for Home Large Room, 360° Nozzle, Rapid Ultrasonic Humidification for Baby Nursery and Plant") Room & Linen Spray: [![Natural Room & Linen Spray, A2 Charm, Made with Essential Oils & Natural Vegan Ingredients - Freshen Your Space with The Bright Long Lasting Aroma - Non-Toxic and Eco-Friendly, Essential Oil Blend](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31kB7GnhjBL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BTL8LNTY?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Natural Room & Linen Spray, A2 Charm, Made with Essential Oils & Natural Vegan Ingredients - Freshen Your Space with The Bright Long Lasting Aroma - Non-Toxic and Eco-Friendly, Essential Oil Blend") ⭐️ Pillow Spray: [![thisworks Deep Sleep Pillow Spray, Natural Relaxation Aid for Stress & Anxiety Relief, 2.5 fl oz](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31i2CgKpIGL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09QH4KB6Q?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "thisworks Deep Sleep Pillow Spray, Natural Relaxation Aid for Stress & Anxiety Relief, 2.5 fl oz") Waterless Essential Oil Nebuliser: [![Waterless Diffuser for Essential Oil Nebulizer Battery Operated Mini Scent Air Machine Aromatherapy Atomizing Diffuser 1/2/3H/Continous Mode 3 Mist Level for Home Room Cars Office AN6 Black](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/316xsMxvS1L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CRTPVD1D?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Waterless Diffuser for Essential Oil Nebulizer Battery Operated Mini Scent Air Machine Aromatherapy Atomizing Diffuser 1/2/3H/Continous Mode 3 Mist Level for Home Room Cars Office AN6 Black") Buy Scent-Related Items: - [Anoredo: Walnut Base Candle Warmer Lamp (with timer, dimmable & two bulbs)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CL9QH9ZG?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=86c8a6d1d7dbd34b2e488313e91a4e53&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - ⭐️ [Salt & Stone: Hand-Poured Scented Candle (natural coconut and soy wax blend, 100% cotton wick, 50 hour burn time; more scents available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09KSYFFX5?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=a22bb7d19730d293d08e84b138513e34&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Cocorrína: English Garden Reed Diffuser Set (more scents available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CCMDBYDQ?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b50d2a58f905af88fcc836678bbb9dc6&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Hako: Paper Incense Leaves (lavender & patchouli wood used, made in Japan)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B084YWB9HC?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=82eac3542bb05dadc7969c496b59aeee&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Folkulture: Non-Toxic Incense Sticks (set of 6, moonshine variety pack; other sets available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CC8SZDFV?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ba4631ecadaa3d68395759bc83beba91&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Levoit: Essential Oil Mist Diffuser (3L tank, 360° nozzle, rapid ultrasonic humidification)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09W21XFS5?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=81921286b8190dd6408986bdccd9ee22&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Positive Essence: A2 Charm Room & Linen Spray (made with essential oils, vegan ingredients, non-toxic & eco-friendly; other scents available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BTL8LNTY?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=934f169a7a1849c82ebd2a02f1c67d9d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - ⭐️ [ThisWorks: Deep Sleep Pillow Spray](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09QH4KB6Q?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=d52600c630e81f4c076ea862e561e6fc&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Airversa: Waterless Essential Oil Nebuliser (battery-operated; other sets available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CRTPVD1D?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=341f83468a364a96c27bf99cdc55ad9d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ## **Conclusion on Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed** Being stuck in bed is never fun, whether it is due to a major or minor surgery, chronic pain, chronic fatigue, depression, or something else. But there are still a few uplifting activities you can do as you sit or lie in bed, whether as a form of distraction from the pain or your brain, or to feel a sense of meaning or accomplishment. Whatever it is that you're going through, know that you're not alone in your isolation and struggles. There are many in the chronic illness community out there who understand and empathise. I hope that this list gave you a few good ideas on uplifting activities to do while recovering in bed. Don't forget to check out the full series right below for more activities! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read More Posts in This Series: 1. [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) 2. [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) 3. [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) 4. *Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed (this post)* 5. [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) Read Related Posts: - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 – 6](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) - [Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care: Introduction to the Series](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-introduction/) Pin to Your Chronic Pain, Disability & Mental Health Boards: ![Get The List On The Blog - Uplifting Things To Do While Stuck In Bed In Pain](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/uplifting-things-to-do-stuck-in-bed-pain.jpg) ### References: - Case, L. K., Liljencrantz, J., McCall, M. V., Bradson, M., Necaise, A., Tubbs, J., Olausson, H., Wang, B., & Bushnell, M. C. (2021). Pleasant deep pressure: Expanding the social touch hypothesis. *Neuroscience, 464*, 3–11\. - Masuo, Y., Satou, T., Takemoto, H., & Koike, K. (2021). Smell and stress response in the brain: Review of the connection between chemistry and neuropharmacology. *Molecules, 26*(9), 2571\. - Smyth, J. M., Johnson, J. A., Auer, B. J., Lehman, E., Talamo, G., & Sciamanna, C. N. (2018). Online positive affect journaling in the improvement of mental distress and well-being in general medical patients with elevated anxiety symptoms: A preliminary randomized controlled trial. *JMIR Mental Health, 5*(4), e11290\. - Walsh, C. (February 27, 2020). *How scent, emotion, and memory are intertwined — and exploited.* Harvard Gazette. ### Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games (Part 3/5) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/ Last updated: 2026-04-29T18:03:26.000Z This post is part of a series where I share [**my recovery journey from a spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture**](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/). Both my knees were broken, and I was bed bound for almost a year, with the [**first 6 weeks**](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) spent trying to keep my legs as flat as I could so as not to incur further injury. If you’re in a similar situation as I was, then you know that spending that much time in bed can be boring, frustrating and depressing. Here is a list of fun things to do while recovering from surgery. This part of the series in particular focuses on hobbies, crafts and games that you can engage in whilst in bed. (You can [**view the full list of tips and resources at the end of the post**](#full-series)!) **Disclaimer*: Knee injuries and surgeries, or any surgery for that matter, varies widely from person to person. Your age, lifestyle, weight, circumstances, medications, comorbidities, allergies and other issues can impact your recovery timeline, as well as the tools and methods required. They should be adapted for YOU.* *This article, and the resources or suggestions provided within, are based on MY own personal experiences with a spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture, as a person with many chronic illnesses. They are meant for educational purposes. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice. Please consult your own medical provider before trying anything out.** *This post also contains affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***privacy policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/) *to learn more. Thank you!* **Items with a star ⭐ next to them are resources I’ve personally tried and would recommend!** Changelog: - **17 January 2025**: Added new sections: [Embroidery Work](#embroidery), [Flower Pressing](#flower-pressing), [Jewellery-Making](#jewellery) and [Calligraphy](#Calligraphy). Updated other broken links. Pin to Your Knee Surgery, Hobby & Pain Distraction Boards: ![Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games — Read the Post](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery-5.jpeg) ![Hobbies, Arts and Crafts — Fun things to do while recovering from major knee surgery](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/hobbies-arts-and-crafts-fun-things-do-while-recovering-major-knee-surgery.jpg) ## 1\. Work on Personal Hobbies – It Can be Fulfilling If there are hobbies that you like doing and that can be done from bed, now’s the time to obsess over them! Knitting, jewellery making and sketching are some common ones I see on my social media feeds, from people with chronic illness and disabilities who need to spend a lot of time on bed rest. Some of them also sell their creations for a bit of income – so support them if you spot them around! I had planned to start a podcast before my knee injury, and decided that I could still do that whilst bed bound. So I finished setting up the website, because I actually find that process fun. I started interviewing people from bed, with pillows as an enticing backdrop. The podcast is still ongoing by the way, if you ever want to be interviewed too! It’s called [Sick Lessons](https://sicklessons.com/), where people share life lessons they’ve learned from being chronically ill or disabled. Apart from that, I signed up for online vocal lessons, and restarted my French classes on [iTalki](https://www.italki.com/affshare?ref=af4173593). What I like about these platforms is the wide selection of tutors, and the freedom to pick someone who’s teaching style suits me. These activities kept my calendar more or less filled up, so that time seemed to go by a little faster. Read Related Posts: - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Featuring People with Illnesses, Passions & Talents](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-people-illnesses-talents/) ## 2\. Gamers – Game On Without Guilt! If you’re into gaming, now’s your opportunity to game all day with zero guilt. Games are truly one of the most immersive activities. They while away hours quickly, and are one of the best distractions from pain. They often even make you forget the need to eat and drink – so remember to take care of yourself whilst playing! I’ve heard a lot of good reviews about [Animal Crossing](https://ac-pocketcamp.com/en-US), so you might want to check that out. Or simple mobile phone games work too, such as Candy Crush and Wordle. I’ve started playing Plants vs Zombies and Sudoku on my phone again. I used to spend hours on end playing a [text-based MMORPG called CarrionFields](https://www.carrionfields.net/) from dialup. It may not be the most popular thing around these days, what with much faster internet speeds. But the allowance and possibility for strategy, player-killing and roleplaying are endless, which was what I loved about it. Games are definitely at the top of the list of fun things to do while recovering from surgery, in my humble opinion! ### Piece Together a Jigsaw Puzzle or Two, or 10 My sister loves putting together 1000-piece puzzles and up. The end result can be rather gratifying I suppose, as you start out with one tiny piece, and watch a beautiful picture emerge. I have gifted her with many puzzles over the years, and she’s even framed them up at home. Whilst I don’t enjoy doing puzzles, I do enjoy the time spent sitting, chatting and bonding with her, as we figure it out together. I like the vintage nature ones by [Cavallini](https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Cavallini&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=15696c5b7ded94466d78e209422fca47&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) in particular, which are like art works or infographics. They also have puzzles related to travel, animals, birds, ocean life, constellations and even colour charts. I also like the [vintage Vogue magazine cover puzzles](https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/787DF2A7-1262-48CC-A5F1-292C564FD6EE?ingress=0&visitId=49d4decd-7f12-4533-95b0-53d1700537ef&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=0da64060519992f11586b7c03b4f43b8&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) by the [New York Puzzle Company](https://www.amazon.com/stores/NewYorkPuzzleCompany/page/F1789C95-1B72-4905-A894-4EBA35C1C0EE?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=5d93cf9b98f20c93a9b95e825b2844d5&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). They have an old world glamour feel to them. Their ‘[The New Yorker’ magazine cover puzzles](https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/9FD6A573-1119-470C-BE98-661147374C62?ingress=0&visitId=70f1dbb6-7e8e-4f90-8dd8-7d88225daa5f&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=d2e83aa660c68a70247e1ba178f25b8c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) are nice, too! ⭐️ Buy Cavallini Papers & Co., 1000 Piece Puzzles: Herbarium: [![Cavallini Papers & Co. Herbarium 1,000 Piece Puzzle, Multi](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51d6KI4NYFL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1635447186?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Cavallini Papers & Co. Herbarium 1,000 Piece Puzzle, Multi") Vintage Mushrooms: [![Cavallini & Co. 1000 Piece Vintage Puzzle, Mushrooms (PZL/MUSH)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41R56Dp7kKS._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/163544909X?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Cavallini & Co. 1000 Piece Vintage Puzzle, Mushrooms (PZL/MUSH)") Vintage Travel: [![Cavallini 1000 Piece Puzzle, Vintage Travel (PZL/TRV)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51e6HUjXs0S._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1635446392?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Cavallini 1000 Piece Puzzle, Vintage Travel (PZL/TRV)") ⭐️ Buy New York Puzzle Company Puzzles: Vogue - Painted Parasols (1000 Pieces): [![New York Puzzle Company - Vogue Magazine Painted Parasols - 1000 Piece Jigsaw Puzzle for Family Game Nights by Pierre Brissaud](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51jVLWqMN8L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CRJ1YJWD?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "New York Puzzle Company - Vogue Magazine Painted Parasols - 1000 Piece Jigsaw Puzzle for Family Game Nights by Pierre Brissaud") New Yorker - City Advent Calendar (1000 Pieces): [![New York Puzzle Company - New Yorker City Advent Calendar - 1000 Piece Jigsaw Puzzle for Family Game Nights by Ilonka Karasz](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61t6HHMYvOL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01LNKAV7C?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "New York Puzzle Company - New Yorker City Advent Calendar - 1000 Piece Jigsaw Puzzle for Family Game Nights by Ilonka Karasz") City Prayer (1000 Pieces): [![New York Puzzle Company - Victo Ngai City Prayer - 1000 Piece Jigsaw Puzzle for Adults by Victo Ngai](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51PQA2n-nkL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BSLRSD79?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "New York Puzzle Company - Victo Ngai City Prayer - 1000 Piece Jigsaw Puzzle for Adults by Victo Ngai") Harry Potter Chamber of Secrets (1000 Pieces): [![New York Puzzle Company - Harry Potter Chamber of Secrets - 1000 Piece Jigsaw Puzzle for Family Game Nights by Mary GrandPré](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51oQdG5MQBL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01LNK9T84?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "New York Puzzle Company - Harry Potter Chamber of Secrets - 1000 Piece Jigsaw Puzzle for Family Game Nights by Mary GrandPré") More Colourful & Stylish Puzzles: Elena Essex: Tiger Lounge (1000-Pieces): [![Elena Essex 1000 Piece Puzzle for Adults - Tiger Lounge | Jigsaws Size 28 x 20 inches](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51k4COgvgAL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B098THBKBT?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Elena Essex 1000 Piece Puzzle for Adults - Tiger Lounge | Jigsaws Size 28 x 20 inches") Galison: Florette Puzzle (500-Pieces): [![Galison - Florette Puzzle, 500 Pieces, 20” x 20”](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61+SjXkVwTL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0735369917?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Galison - Florette Puzzle, 500 Pieces, 20” x 20”") Buy Good Old Jigsaw Puzzles: - ⭐️ [Cavallini: Herbarium (1000 Pieces)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1635447186?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c39a65fa177d696dd8f9a668304f7599&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - ⭐️ [Cavallini: Vintage Mushrooms (1000 Pieces)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/163544909X?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=8f2601692f43dba507d8be83e6ff7103&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Cavallini: Vintage Travel (1000 Pieces)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1635446392?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=97fb4578b311447dbaa4a1064dd2d5f8&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [New York Puzzle Company: Vogue - Painted Parasols by Helen Dryden (1000 Pieces)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CRJ1YJWD?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=d29c11d1050181fcbe7ecec207595298&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [New York Puzzle Company: New Yorker - City Advent Calendar by Ilonka Karasz (1000 Pieces)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01LNKAV7C?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=11f75d3653348feb15244c3c1025c63c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [New York Puzzle Company: City Prayer by Victo Ngai (1000 Pieces)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BSLRSD79?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=1397aa1c2a535f2afdc240affa3eec32&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [New York Puzzle Company: Harry Potter Chamber of Secrets by Mary GrandPré (1000 Pieces)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01LNK9T84?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=5f96d0d170b1487507bee40db49c0680&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Elena Essex: Colour Home with Tiger on Lounge (1000 Pieces)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B098THBKBT?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=4531cd774c454b5a7a63c8a8cef7fa3c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Galison: Florette, Illustration by Victoria Ball (500 Pieces)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0735369917?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=06ee99a29818920fcdf4326e4a921a0a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ### Other Sorts of Puzzles You Can Take Your Time to Solve There are also other sorts of puzzles you can solve and play with, such as crossword puzzles or Sudoku (which I love!). My favourite Sudoku interface is [the one by Optime](https://apps.apple.com/sg/app/sudoku/id397227037). It’s addictive, mindless and fun, as my eyes try to hunt down that next hidden clue asap. I’ve solved every series twice, so now I’m using the next best Sudoku game app I found – [Sudoku Master Edition](https://apps.apple.com/sg/app/sudoku-master-edition-logic/id1260190370), which highlights number groups, making it a little easier to find. I’m not sure if you had “Where’s Wally” books as a kid, but finding Wally in a complicated illustration kept my sisters and me occupied when we were young. It extends beyond Wally these days, and there are other books where you can go on a visual treasure hunt. Types of Puzzle Books: The Hardest Hidden Pictures Book Ever: [![The Hardest Hidden Pictures Book Ever: 1500+ tough objects to find](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61x87Zuh5zL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1644723344?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "The Hardest Hidden Pictures Book Ever: 1500+ tough objects to find") Where's Wally? (Waldo) The Super Six!: [![Where's Wally? (Waldo) The Super Six! by Martin Handford 6 Classic Books, Poster & Jigsaw Puzzle Collection Box Set](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51-aEuvwuPL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/9124143340?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Where's Wally? (Waldo) The Super Six! by Martin Handford 6 Classic Books, Poster & Jigsaw Puzzle Collection Box Set") Large Print Variety Puzzles Book: [![Variety Puzzle Book For Adults: 90+ Large-Print Puzzles Word Search, Sudoku, Word Scramble, Number Search, Trivia, Mazes](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51eWcVcO1qS._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B096TW9C82?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Mindful Crossword Puzzles: [![The Everything Mindful Word Search Book, Volume 1: 75 Uplifting Puzzles to Reduce Stress, Improve Focus, and Sharpen Your Mind (1) (Everything® Series)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51bJPJs4q6L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1507214677?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Buy Puzzle Books: - [Highlights: The Hardest Hidden Pictures Book Ever (1,500+ objects to find)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1644723344?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b71ffd377f4c502fcbf7ab48f05037de&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Martin Handford: Where's Wally? (Waldo) The Super Six Box Set (includes 6 books, poster & jigsaw puzzle)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/9124143340?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=48a8373ceba30d4d09628e6a8e9f19c1&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [FunAfter Books: 90+ Large Print Variety Puzzle Book (word search, sudoku, word scramble, number search, trivia & mazes)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B096TW9C82?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=74f9dabc18338f66d350dec3f9ca9700&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Charles Timmerman: The Everything Large-Print Games & Puzzles Book (150+ crossword, word search, sudoku & logic games)](https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1507222483?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=9246c2891fb60a56d650e1d8bd89f2bb&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Charles Timmerman: The Everything Mindful Word Search Book, Volume 1 (75 uplifting puzzles)](https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1507214677?asin=1507214677&revisionId=&format=4&depth=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b7609aecf5a54cc2d3ce77f23438c023&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Novapuzzles Publishing XR: 1000 Sudoku Puzzles for Adults (Easy to hard, with solutions)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09VLCV2M1?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=70b625fa997a04f1c7c3e10322199992&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ## 3\. Engage Yourself with Arts & Crafts There are many fun things to do while recovering from knee surgery in bed that are art and craft related. They range from easy to complex, and levelling up is always a good feeling. Working with your hands is a mindful process, which can help to still your mind and relax. The tangible results can also give you a motivational boost, and inspire a sense of achievement. Pin to Your Arts & Crafts & Disability Boards: ![Crafts to do while stuck in bed](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/crafts-to-do-while-stuck-in-bed.jpg) ### Colouring Books I personally don’t enjoy it, but [colouring can help to relax our brains by refocusing our attention](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/3-reasons-adult-coloring-can-actually-relax-brain/). I know many people with chronic pain who colour as a form of distraction, whilst they’re stuck in bed, or having a bad day. There are many styles of colouring books to choose from, from hippie to cute or even profane. Colouring Book Styles: For Feminine Expression & Affirmation: [![RYVE Adult Coloring Book for Women - Mindfulness Coloring Book with Personal Growth Prompts - Coloring Book for Adults Relaxation, Coloring Book Adult, Mindfulness Gifts, Relaxation Gifts for Women](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51jNnH34ibL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09NB2GZTD?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) For Those Who Need to Vent: \>[![You're a Mother F*cking Badass: Motivational & Inspirational Swear Word Coloring Book for Adults](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61TW+cFiIpL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1645093190?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) For the Cat Lovers (I See You!): [![Cats Around the World: A Coloring Book](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61RCiuzc3ML._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0692188673?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Cats Around the World: A Coloring Book") For Those Who Love Complex Cityscapes: [![Fantastic Cities: A Coloring Book of Amazing Places Real and Imagined (Adult Coloring Books, City Coloring Books, Coloring Books for Adults)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51NvG+kOeML._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1452149577?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Buy Colouring Books: - [Ryve: Express Yourself, Adult Coloring Book for Women](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09NB2GZTD?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=13a06696d78742ecb31eb1522c7ab67d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Honey Badger Coloring: You're a Mother F\*cking Badass (motivational & inspirational swear word coloring book for adults)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1645093190?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=459d5da046f92753909853e7ca470a8d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Eva Carriere: Cats Around the World](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0692188673?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c3120b5f848248a48b383867399f4df3&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Steve McDonald: Fantastic Cities (amazing places real & imagined)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1452149577?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=905a8e42b7afa2483715d138cfe764a3&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Johanna Basford: World of Flowers](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0143133829?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=acf163e712cb627c4c0544e2cb86b799&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Tracy Flowers: Amazing Patterns (54 floral & mandala pattern designs)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BM57TDT6?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=8ef5fe4297f2eac3ace6236e8e6e4a34&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Buy Colour Pencils: - [Kalour: Premium Colored Pencils, Set of 120 Colors](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B8MFGW36?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e92487fcda88a819e15112aec3f3d7a2&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Prina: 120-Color Colored Pencils Set for Adults](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09FJN5R5C?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=d51435d69d7fb938b047aaeb6cfb0c97&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ### Paint By Numbers For some people, colouring can feel tedious and less fun, due to pain and stiffness in their wrists and fingers. Paint by Numbers is another alternative to colour pencils, as brushes are lighter. You’re presented with a set of acrylic paints and brushes, and paint them into designated spots on the canvas. The end results can be delightful, and you can frame them up after as well. It’s a creative and fun activity, with no painting or artistic experience required either. I would highly recommend [Winnie’s Picks](https://sovrn.co/12d13xx) – they generously sponsored two of our [**Christmas giveaways**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-christmas-giveaway-gifts-pain/), as they wanted to bring cheer to those who live with chronic pain. Examples of Paint by Numbers: Feminine Florals & Butterflies (4 Pieces): [![VeGuude Paint by Numbers for Adults and Kids Beginner, 4 Pack Painting by Number Kits On Canvas, Without Frame DIY Flower Girl Butterfly Oil Painting Acrylic Paints, Home Wall Decor Gift 12x16inch](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61REdvH0TYL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C48F1JHQ?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Cityscape Scenery (4 Pieces): [![cupmod Paint by Number for Adults, 4 Pieces Paint by Numbers for Adults Beginner Drawing Paintwork with Paintbrushes Cityscape Paint Canvas Oil Painting 12X16inch](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61KfU+D8LwL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09P8276X2?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Famous Paintings - Matisse’s “Music”: [![DoMyArt Acrylic Paint by Number Kit for Adults - World Famous Painting16X20 Inch (Music)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51+QqX9q3yL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B3X9Y3R4?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Skull, Flowers, Mushrooms & Moon: [![LWZAYS DIY Oil Painting by Number for Adults Beginner, Painting by Numbers Kits for Adults Kids Moon Mushroom, Paint Kits Canvas Gifts Arts Crafts for Home Decor Flower Skeleton16x20 Inch](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61EznNJGGUL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B847HN58?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Buy Paint by Numbers (Frames Not Included): - ⭐️ [Winnie's Picks: Best Sellers](https://sovrn.co/189hssh) - [VeGuude: 4 Pack Feminine Florals & Butterflies (12" x 16", non-toxic pigment; more designs available)](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0C48F1JHQ?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=3a42defb4b6afaec9d1354675951ce16&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Cupmod: 4 Pack Cityscapes Scenery Set (12" x 16")](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09P8276X2?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=fe048641b61874601dfc77561b58787e&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [DoMyArt: World Famous Painting, “Music” by Matisse (16" x 20"; more designs available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B3X9Y3R4?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=692d0a09b0334895d55567f12ff16a29&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Lwzays: Skull, Flowers, Mushrooms, Moon (16" x 20"; more designs available)](https://www.amazon.com/Painting-Beginner-Numbers-Mushroom-Skeleton16x20/dp/B0B847HN58?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=a8b093c8ab0e551cc0872343a0c2c588&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Filaslft: Colourful Black Cat (16" x 20"; more designs available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CJ28F4J3?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=413725d58fd561f0e2c2786fef76882a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ### Diamond Painting / Crystal Art Diamond painting is something of a mix between cross-stitching and paint by numbers. Instead of paint, you glue rhinestones onto a pre-designed canvas. It can be easier than Paint by Numbers, as you don’t have to blend paint colours and such. The final piece is a sparkly mosaic, with a more 3-dimensional look. You can [learn more about it on the official Paint with Diamonds website here](https://paintwithdiamonds.com/blogs/pwd-insider/what-is-diamond-painting). Examples of Diamond Painting / Crystal Art: Peacock Bookmarks: [![pigpigboss Peacock Bookmarks, Diamond Painting Kits, 2 Pieces, 5D DIY Diamond Painting by Numbers, Crystal Rhinestones, Peacock Bookmarks (21 x 6 cm)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51rgWvBt1PL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08FWZW9L3?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Cat Coasters: [![Vcekract Diamond Painting Coasters Kits, 6 Pcs Cat Diamond Art Coasters with Holder, Crafts Kits for DIY Coasters, Diamond Art Kits for Adults](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61UbfpfwB6L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BY6KSTV9?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Vcekract Diamond Painting Coasters Kits, 6 Pcs Cat Diamond Art Coasters with Holder, Crafts Kits for DIY Coasters, Diamond Art Kits for Adults") Inspirational Quotes: [![FORLAND Inspirational Quote, Diamond Painting Kits for Adults Beginners - 5D DIY Flowers Art Full Drill Diamond Kits Painting Crafts for Home Wall Decor, Diamond Art Kits,12x16inch](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51c9wT81gxL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B9HMQ524?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Owl Mandala: [![Hibah Diamond Painting DIY 5D Special Shape Rhinestone, Owl, Partial Diamond Crystal Diamond Painting Set (Mandala)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/71-XofhI1GL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B085FT23Q2?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Buy 5D Diamond Painting Kits (Frames Not Included): - [ PigPigBoss: 2-Piece Peacock Bookmarks - faux leather with tassel (8.27" x 2.37")](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08FWZW9L3?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=3e1b67b6a6e77a1b2a1e9e83e8b5804f&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Vcekract: Cat Coasters (6 piece set, comes with coaster holder; more styles available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BY6KSTV9?pd%5Frd%5Fi=B0BY6KSTV9&pd%5Frd%5Fw=3wXvB&content-id=amzn1.sym.f734d1a2-0bf9-4a26-ad34-2e1b969a5a75&pf%5Frd%5Fp=f734d1a2-0bf9-4a26-ad34-2e1b969a5a75&pf%5Frd%5Fr=C0EWRGT1S63ENRXTMMVY&pd%5Frd%5Fwg=mUTGG&pd%5Frd%5Fr=d740240e-1d40-4cbc-91b4-1e51e71d730a&s=arts-crafts&sp%5Fcsd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9kZXRhaWw&th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f537eaeb066f2d69272ac59678ae06cb&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Forland: Inspirational Quote, “Be Kind to Your Mind” (12" x 16"; more quotes available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B9HMQ524?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=fed261e6f6237c90f6c0549c69aeb54b&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Hibah: Owl Mandala - special-shaped crystals, including drop-shaped, diamond-shaped columns & circles (12" x 12"; more styles available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B085FT23Q2?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=3a9e05db8f85277afcddb7ab23ae3bd9&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Filaslft: Tropical Parrots (and more animal selections) (12" x 16")](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CC4KBT69?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=2c64e8312327b6550f311bba6e657b88&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ### Build a Lego Set Legos aren’t just for kids. They have sets catered for adults that can be de-stressing, fun to build, and make for nice display pieces after. If you want something challenging, [Toy Hunters has a list of “10 Hardest Lego Sets to Build”](https://toyhunters.com.au/blog/10-of-the-hardest-lego-sets-to-build-/). I’m sure they’ll engage you in hours of concentrated fun. Check out how intricate and gorgeous these Lego sets look, or [browse all their building sets for adults here](https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/EF1D073A-9E6F-4310-B678-C2BDBDAF0C5C?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ab7cf3d72e99a85615a04dd8dd1f1352&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). Types of Lego Sets for Adults: Pacman Arcade (Released - January 2024): [![LEGO Icons PAC-Man Arcade Building Kit, Build a Replica Model of a Classic Video Game, Nostalgic Gift Idea for Fans of Retro Video Games and Retro Décor, Includes PAC-Man, Blinky and Clyde, 10323](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51EWkP61dwL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CGYQ2WJC?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "LEGO Icons PAC-Man Arcade Building Kit, Build a Replica Model of a Classic Video Game, Nostalgic Gift Idea for Fans of Retro Video Games and Retro Décor, Includes PAC-Man, Blinky and Clyde, 10323") Star Wars Ultimate Millennium Falcon (don't buy this, it's too pricey 😜 but just look at the details!): [![LEGO Star Wars Ultimate Millennium Falcon 75192 - Expert Building Set and Starship Model Kit, Movie Collectible, Featuring Classic Figures and Han Solo's Iconic Ship, Best Gift for Adults](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51AIDjuiF7L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B075SDMMMV?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "LEGO Star Wars Ultimate Millennium Falcon 75192 - Expert Building Set and Starship Model Kit, Movie Collectible, Featuring Classic Figures and Han Solo's Iconic Ship, Best Gift for Adults") Succulent Garden: [![Lego Icons Succulents 10309 Artificial Plants Set for Adults, Home Decor, Birthday, Creative Housewarming Gifts, Botanical Collection, Flower Bouquet Kit](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51S9RXLfrhL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09Q4GWMZQ?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Lego Icons Succulents 10309 Artificial Plants Set for Adults, Home Decor, Birthday, Creative Housewarming Gifts, Botanical Collection, Flower Bouquet Kit") Harry Potter Hogwarts Castle & Grounds: [![LEGO Harry Potter Hogwarts Castle and Grounds 76419 Building Set, Gift Idea for Adults, Buildable Display Model, Collectible Harry Potter Playset, Recreate Iconic Scenes from The Wizarding World](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51GDFubyklL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BXQ6NRRN?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "LEGO Harry Potter Hogwarts Castle and Grounds 76419 Building Set, Gift Idea for Adults, Buildable Display Model, Collectible Harry Potter Playset, Recreate Iconic Scenes from The Wizarding World") Buy Lego Sets for Adults: - [Lego Icons: Pac-Man Classic Arcade Video Game 10323 (newly released - 2024, 2,651 pieces)](https://www.amazon.com/LEGO-PAC-Man-Building-Replica-Nostalgic/dp/B0CGYQ2WJC?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=a575febe8f3f418ccb3c15a8a7c7f044&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Star Wars: Ultimate Millennium Falcon 75192, Expert Building Kit & Starship Model (7,541 Pieces)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B075SDMMMV?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f668c1149036a8848f8135a20ef88f8c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Lego Icons: Succulents 10309 (771 pieces)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09Q4GWMZQ?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=8359e26c3530671f2da11b9c417a15b8&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Harry Potter: Hogwarts Castle & Grounds 76419 (2,660 pieces)](https://www.amazon.com/LEGO-Hogwarts-Buildable-Collectible-Wizarding/dp/B0BXQ6NRRN?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ca0e490b621096218e6fe324c4ff0501&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Lego Ideas: Ship in a Bottle 92177, Expert Building Kit, Snap Together Model Ship (962 pieces)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B078VVLQ6J?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c213bfe4263d0cb76be481866639b3e9&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Lego Icons: Boutique Hotel 10297, Set with 5 Detailed Rooms, Including Guest Rooms & Gallery (3,066 pieces)](https://www.amazon.com/LEGO-Boutique-Building-Displayable-Surprises/dp/B09JKXSQWG?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=fe84a06f2a9a733957ab6cdd791fef44&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) [Subscribe for More](#/portal/) ### Origami - The Traditional Art of Paper Folding Origami is most associated with the Japanese. And if you think that folding paper sounds useless, origami has inspired [architecture](https://architizer.com/blog/inspiration/collections/origami-3/) and design. There’s even [computational origami](http://courses.csail.mit.edu/6.849/fall10/lectures/L23%5Fimages.pdf), and [origami space engineering for potential NASA solutions](https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/29/learning/origami-in-space-engineering-rediscovering-the-meaning-of-discovery.html). So don’t underestimate the art and science of paper folding! [MIT Open Courseware has a course on “Geometric Folding Algorithms: Linkages, Origami, Polyhedra”](https://ocw.mit.edu/courses/6-849-geometric-folding-algorithms-linkages-origami-polyhedra-fall-2012/pages/class-and-lecture-videos/), should you be interested. So, what can you fold with some paper? From cute boxes to plants, insects, patterns, animals and more. And not just a generic looking bird or fish; they can look pretty specific such as a peacock vs a penguin, a panther vs a leopard, and even mixed floral bouquets! The wonderful thing about origami is that it’s suitable for all levels, as they range from easy to complex. The papers also come in a myriad of fun colours, which are sure to brighten your day. Some Books to Get You Started with Origami: Japan's Greatest Origami Master: [![Akira Yoshizawa, Japan's Greatest Origami Master: Featuring over 60 Models and 1000 Diagrams by the Master](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41LfiacuVmL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/4805313935?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Akira Yoshizawa, Japan's Greatest Origami Master: Featuring over 60 Models and 1000 Diagrams by the Master") Lifelike Origami Roses: [![Naomiki Sato's Origami Roses: Create Lifelike Roses and Other Blossoms](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/417QcqMM5aL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/4805315202?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Naomiki Sato's Origami Roses: Create Lifelike Roses and Other Blossoms") Amazing Origami Boxes: [![Amazing Origami Boxes](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51lj+3SDGfL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/048682246X?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Amazing Origami Boxes") Geometric Origami: [![The Art & Science of Geometric Origami: Create Spectacular Paper Polyhedra, Waves, Spirals, Fractals and More! (More than 60 Models!)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51lHF8iX5ZL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/4805316853?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "The Art & Science of Geometric Origami: Create Spectacular Paper Polyhedra, Waves, Spirals, Fractals and More! (More than 60 Models!)") Buy Books on Origami: - [Akira Yoshizawa, Japan's Greatest Origami Master (over 60 Models & 1000 Diagrams)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/4805313935?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=262cc3a89fc6860f020b38a76c7a6d1b&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Naomiki Sato's Origami Roses: Create Lifelike Roses and Other Blossoms](https://www.amazon.com/dp/4805315202?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=eb79fda35490e69d3be9264229fecf0c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Tomoko Fuse: Amazing Origami Boxes](https://www.amazon.com/dp/048682246X?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f87d3cef784b15115d9e1da4c563d43c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [The Art & Science of Geometric Origami: (More than 60 models of polyhedra, waves, spirals & fractals)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/4805316853?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c5f6e3bd0576bf458b347a0b1d826963&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Ultimate Origami for Beginners Kit (includes: book, projects, papers & video instructions)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/480531267X?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=445d8a88673a9c47b9a68f4b26cb312d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Encyclopedia of Origami Techniques (fully illustrated guide)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1782214747?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=71883aa46ff7fa2ab27b51329da8d356&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Amazing Origami Kit (includes: 144 papers, book & 17 projects)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0804841918?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b4035c9cc14c25fbeabefe163949b33e&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Types of Origami Papers (Bursting with Colours & Patterns!): Floral & Animal Patterns: [![Japanese Washi Origami Paper 500 Sheets, 10 Vivid Colors, Colors Make Colorful and Easy Origami,6 Inch Square Sheet, for Kids & Adults, Papers, Arts and Crafts Projects (E-Book Included)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51Tn9Wv4icL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07QPK4TVM?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) & Galaxy: [![150 Sheets Double Sided Origami Paper Kit 6 x 6 Inch Beautiful Sky Scrapbook Paper Galaxy Outer Space Star Pattern Paper Easy Folding for Arts Crafts School Kids Teachers, 36 Designs (Vivid Style)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/510sYyYUyKL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09QYDQ7SK?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Buy Origami Paper (6" x 6"): - [ Winland: Japanese Washi Origami Paper (includes: 500 sheets, 10 vivid patterns, double-sided & e-book)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07QPK4TVM?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=544945b7524be9821e0d7eba11b571c7&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Chinco: Galaxy Patterned Origami Paper Kit (includes: 150 sheets, 36 vivid designs, double-sided)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09QYDQ7SK?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=0cd289370231cb614074309bf534a297&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Cutblajat: Heavier Bronzing Chiyo Origami Paper, Japanese Blossom / Sakura Patterns (112 sheets, one-sided, eco-friendly ink, hot stamping in gold)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09TBGVL8D?psc=1&pd%5Frd%5Fi=B09TBGVL8D&pd%5Frd%5Fw=hx2vy&content-id=amzn1.sym.386c274b-4bfe-4421-9052-a1a56db557ab&pf%5Frd%5Fp=386c274b-4bfe-4421-9052-a1a56db557ab&pf%5Frd%5Fr=M5A3HEA36R8W43WZY1QE&pd%5Frd%5Fwg=WG9rX&pd%5Frd%5Fr=be91bb13-3e59-4a10-bb1f-02c0a72fd012&s=arts-crafts&sp%5Fcsd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9kZXRhaWxfdGhlbWF0aWM&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=2fcdf5b00901ffd346975e35de031035&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) #### **Mechanical Paper Models That Move** Oh, and this popped up in my newsfeed today, which got me quite excited. If you want to take your origami models to the next level, you can also make them walk, spin, jump and move! Types of Animals Paper Model Books: Mechanical Paper Models that Move: [![Karakuri: How to Make Mechanical Paper Models That Move](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41xY0s-grZL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0312566697?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Karakuri: How to Make Mechanical Paper Models That Move") Origami Paper Toys that Move: [![Japanese Paper Toys Kit: Origami Paper Toys that Walk, Jump, Spin, Tumble and Amaze!](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61Q+YWCyFZL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0804846324?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Japanese Paper Toys Kit: Origami Paper Toys that Walk, Jump, Spin, Tumble and Amaze!") Buy Animated Paper Model Books: - [Karakuri: How to Make Mechanical Paper Models That Move](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0312566697?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=7323d221cf31da0b0ab0d2e07c7fcc0c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Japanese Paper Toys Kit: Origami Paper Toys that Walk, Jump, Spin, Tumble and Amaze!](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0804846324?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=04c641a747bf3798f3a4de0ef58af5e0&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ### 3D Wooden Puzzles & DIY Miniature Houses I stumbled upon these gorgeous, intricate 3D wooden puzzles and was blown away. Some of them play music, too! I adore the [ROKR Magic Cello Mechanical Music Box 3D Wooden Puzzle](https://www.amazon.com/ROKR-3D-Puzzles-Adults-Building/dp/B0BRSYD251?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=057f8098979b05f2553231edb227e7f1&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). The melody it plays when assembled is “Nocturne, Op.9, No.2 in E-flat” by Chopin. No batteries are required either, as it runs on gears, and use mortise and tenon joint structure, and precise laser cutting. The [Retro Gramophone 3D Wooden Puzzle](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08P5GN1CB?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=3da26bf740efe4a36a5e36637e94bfef&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) is a little more technical, but plays three different tunes. It can also play other 7-inch and 10-inch records. If you want something more practical, you can piece together a clock. Or if you want to invoke some childhood memories or have a display piece to talk about, the DIY miniature scene kits are gorgeous, too. If you’re old-school, appreciate the intricacy of gears, and/or love handcrafted things – then this is truly right up your alley for fun things to do while recovering from surgery! Types of 3D Wooden Puzzles: Magic Cello Mechanical Music Box (199 pieces): [![ROKR 3D Puzzles for Adults 1:5 Scale Cello Model Kit with Base 199pcs Wooden Music Box Building Kit Desk Gift for Men Women Hobby for Adults](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41kwsrKEZDL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BRSYD251?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Automatic/Manual Gramaphone Record Player (424 pieces): [![ROKR 3D Wooden Puzzles Gramophone for Adults - DIY Mechanical Model Kit 1:1 Replica Record Player Support 7”/10” Vinyl Building Gift Hobbies for Adults Home Decor](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41NdsVYB1zL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08P5GN1CB?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "ROKR 3D Wooden Puzzles Gramophone for Adults - DIY Mechanical Model Kit 1:1 Replica Record Player Support 7”/10” Vinyl Building Gift Hobbies for Adults Home Decor") Illuminated Globe with Stand (180 pieces): [![ROKR 3D Wooden Puzzles for Adults Illuminated Globe with Stand 180pcs 3D Puzzles Built-in LED Model Kit Hobby Gifts for Adults/Teens Home Decor](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51-4AX3dLxL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B095Y7RXL5?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "ROKR 3D Wooden Puzzles for Adults Illuminated Globe with Stand 180pcs 3D Puzzles Built-in LED Model Kit Hobby Gifts for Adults/Teens Home Decor") Cyberpunk Futuristic Marble Run (140 pieces): [![ROKR 3D Puzzles Building Toy Sets Marble Run Model Kits for Adults, 140pcs Brain Teaser STEM Kit for Kids, DIY Hobbies for Men Women, Boys and Girls (Parallel World MR02S) ](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51H8oYxb7cL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D8JFQP3Y?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "ROKR 3D Puzzles Building Toy Sets Marble Run Model Kits for Adults, 140pcs Brain Teaser STEM Kit for Kids, DIY Hobbies for Men Women, Boys and Girls (Parallel World MR02S) ") Buy 3D Wooden Puzzles: - [ROKR: Cello Model Kit with Base (199 pieces)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BRSYD251?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=23a7c4518581351ae00501ebdb6f2759&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [ROKR: Automatic & Manual Gramophone Record Player (424 pieces)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08P5GN1CB?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=15a8f29d2eaf8d36acef092e04afeeb6&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [ROKR: Illuminated Globe with Stand (180 pieces)](https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B095Y7RXL5?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6a32fcf3438dd48c03bb7e364407b85b&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [ROKR: Cyberpunk Futuristic Marble Run (140 pieces)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D8JFQP3Y?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=392c5caab16b73e6db60455349b339ab&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [ROKR: Mechanical Romantic Notes Clock (230 pieces)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B21924R8?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=eba034ad9be22e94de6e30a1a31d68b3&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Types of DIY Miniature Dollhouses: Sam’s Study (with LED lights): [![Rolife 1:20 Tiny House DIY Kits for Adults-LED Miniature House Kit-DIY Miniature Dollhouse Kit-Model Building Craft Kits Hobbies for Women and Men](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61bAy2tI1gL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07HCX6V53?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Becka’s Bakery (with LED lights): [![Rolife DIY Miniature Doll House Kit, Build Becka's Bakery Diorama House Building Set with LED Room Hobby Craft for Aduls Uniue Gifts for Teens](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51wsCH70p9L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C1Z9VFMG?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Emily’s Flower Shop (with LED lights): [![Rolife DIY Miniature House Kit Flower Shop, Tiny House Kit for Adults to Build, Mini House Making Kit with Furniture, Halloween/Christmas Decorations/Gifts for Family and Friends(Emily's Flower Shop)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61SJnoqkRaL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08JPZ3PQ4?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Library Nook (with LED lights): [![ROBOTIME Book Nook Kit DIY Miniature House with LED Light Booknook Bookshelf Insert Decor Wooden Bookend Craft Hobby Diorama Kit Unique Gifts (Garden House)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51eAI0OpI2L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C7KSJYCN?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Buy DIY Miniature Dollhouse Diorama Kits: - [Rolife: Sam's Study (with LED lights; batteries not included)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07HCX6V53?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=d6260ed3ea27d7b241a450960976477f&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Rolife: Becka's Bakery (with LED lights; batteries not included)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C1Z9VFMG?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=df712d494108f7dc043b538cec630613&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Rolife: Emily's Flower Shop (with LED lights; batteries not included)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08JPZ3PQ4?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6ca73dd54760318e81bb8c2b8609ffd1&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Robotime: Book Nook (with LED lights; batteries not included)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C7KSJYCN?psc=1&pd%5Frd%5Fi=B0C7KSJYCN&pd%5Frd%5Fw=aoJV8&content-id=amzn1.sym.386c274b-4bfe-4421-9052-a1a56db557ab&pf%5Frd%5Fp=386c274b-4bfe-4421-9052-a1a56db557ab&pf%5Frd%5Fr=8SMN38DW5JQ1TS73MM4V&pd%5Frd%5Fwg=EfwZJ&pd%5Frd%5Fr=7b834bb7-cee2-4695-88e3-2a6142685381&s=toys-and-games&sp%5Fcsd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9kZXRhaWxfdGhlbWF0aWM&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=15d56f5540bffc6986a92f8e69f06905&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ### Embroidery Work My paternal grandmother was a professional seamstress, and would hand sew adorable dresses for us when we were children. Another of my aunts was also a seamstress, and taught us how to use the sewing machine. Unfortunately, I didn’t inherit any of these meticulous, crafty genes. I did sign up for a few cross-stitch sessions during one summer camp in my childhood though, and enjoyed it thoroughly. I remember being awed, because I had more fun than I thought I would have. Anyway, embroidery work can be lots of fun, and is also a meditative experience as you focus and repeat the stitches. You also get a tangible product at the end, which can be satisfying. I am thinking of picking this hobby up again myself, even though I can now leave my bed. Here are a few embroidery kits that appealed to me on Amazon, which I might purchase for myself, too. I will stick to the beginner kits, because I’m sure those of you who are more advanced in this hobby already have your preferred go-to sources and embroidery styles. There are [so many differences in needles and stitches](https://penguinandfish.com/blogs/news/the-difference-between-hand-embroidery-and-cross-stitch), and right now we just want simple, fun things to do while recovering from surgery. You can always level up on your own should you get satisfaction from this craft, however. Types of Embroidery Starter Kits: 4-Pack Colourful Landscape Embroidery Starter Kits: [![Maydear 4 Pack Embroidery Starter Kit with Pattern, Stamped Cross Stitch Kits for Beginners Adults with Embroidery Hoop and Instructions, Hand Embroidery Kit (Embroidery kit flower2) ](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51ovVR+Ma4L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CSDCHJ3C?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Maydear 4 Pack Embroidery Starter Kit with Pattern, Stamped Cross Stitch Kits for Beginners Adults with Embroidery Hoop and Instructions, Hand Embroidery Kit (Embroidery kit flower2) ") 4-Pack Pink Landscape Embroidery Starter Kits: [![Harimau 4Pcs Beginner Embroidery Kit,Natural Landscape Pattern,Cross Stitch Kits, Including Stamped Embroidery Cloth with 2 Embroidery Hoops, Multicolor Color Threads for Embroidery Kits](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51aQVJHQ-OL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09TQFPKDY?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Harimau 4Pcs Beginner Embroidery Kit,Natural Landscape Pattern,Cross Stitch Kits, Including Stamped Embroidery Cloth with 2 Embroidery Hoops, Multicolor Color Threads for Embroidery Kits") 3-Pack Frog Embroidery Practice Kits: [![TINDTOP 3 Sets Embroidery Kit for Adults, Frog Embroidery Practice Kit for Beginners Include Embroidery Cloth Hoops Threads for Craft Lover Hand Stitch with Embroidery Skill Techniques](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51tLGT1JzcL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DM5H6DVK?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "TINDTOP 3 Sets Embroidery Kit for Adults, Frog Embroidery Practice Kit for Beginners Include Embroidery Cloth Hoops Threads for Craft Lover Hand Stitch with Embroidery Skill Techniques") 3-Pack Enjoy Life Beginner Embroidery Kits: [![ETSPIL 3 Pack Beginner Embroidery Kits for Adults DIY Starter Kit with 33 Stitch Techniques, Stamped Patterns, Embroidery Hoop, Colorful Threads, Tools, Step by Step Instructions & Video Tutorial](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51ebLNqSP0L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C3ZVKB46?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "ETSPIL 3 Pack Beginner Embroidery Kits for Adults DIY Starter Kit with 33 Stitch Techniques, Stamped Patterns, Embroidery Hoop, Colorful Threads, Tools, Step by Step Instructions & Video Tutorial") Buy Beginner Embroidery Kits (complete with tools & instructions): - [MayDear: 4-Pack Colourful Embroidery Starter Kit (more designs available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CSDCHJ3C?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ad2a83ae7b907fd21a91b99470ce8eae&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Harimau: 4-Pack Pink Landscape Embroidery Starter Kit (more designs available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09TQFPKDY?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=9cf1a0cb005d01eee6b03e84b5a3f8ff&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [TindTop: 3-Pack Frog Embroidery Practice Kit (more designs available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DM5H6DVK?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=3268fec89a2aab91b349fad8ac7e3b59&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Etspil: 3-Pack Enjoy Life Beginner Embroidery Kits (more designs available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C3ZVKB46?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ea28aad885113bb939c26c091d2afdcf&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [TindTop: 5-Pack Cats & Flowers Beginner Embroidery Kits (more designs available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CB62VK4C?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=430032bb72ade6793896241fc2184ff1&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ### Flower Pressing You’ve probably received quite a few ‘get well soon’ wishes, and floral bouquets to go along with them. Why not preserve those beautiful flowers, instead of dumping them into the bin after they wither? Apart from air drying or pressing them in a book, there are actually a few other methods to preserve flowers. Each method has a different purpose as well, depending on what you want to do with the flowers after. [Some other ways to preserve flowers, from BBC Maestro](https://www.bbcmaestro.com/blog/preserving-flowers-6-ways): silica gel, resin, microwave pressing, and using a freeze dryer or food dehydrator. These preserved flowers can then be used for making jewellery, as you please in your own creative craft projects, or even re-arranged into a dried floral arrangement. Different Types of Flower Pressing Kits: Extra-Large 6-Layers Flower Pressing Kit: [![Aboofx 15.7](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51iRqysYigL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CL463XYV?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Aboofx 15.7") Real Dried Pressed Flowers for Resin (140 Pieces): [![140 Pcs Dried Pressed Flowers for Resin, Real Pressed Flowers Dry Leaves Bulk Natural Herbs Kit for Scrapbooking DIY Art Crafts, Epoxy Resin Jewelry Molds, Candle, Soap Making, Nails Décor](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61TiaI0vaDL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08T19P4QS?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "140 Pcs Dried Pressed Flowers for Resin, Real Pressed Flowers Dry Leaves Bulk Natural Herbs Kit for Scrapbooking DIY Art Crafts, Epoxy Resin Jewelry Molds, Candle, Soap Making, Nails Décor") Microwave Flower Pressing Kit: [![Microfleur Max Art Flower Presser Kit – Quick & Easy Pressing with Washable Cloth, Vibrant Color Retention, Fits Most Microwaves, 9](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41V2caOkYFL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0050GWV9C?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Microfleur Max Art Flower Presser Kit – Quick & Easy Pressing with Washable Cloth, Vibrant Color Retention, Fits Most Microwaves, 9") Silica Gel Flower Drying Bundle: [![5LBS(2.27Kg) Silica Gel Flower Drying Crystals with Sealed Container and Brush Fine Crystals Color Indicating Reusable,Bead Size<1mm (User Manual Included) ](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41dPNRq6d5L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BJNMN6DP?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "5LBS(2.27Kg) Silica Gel Flower Drying Crystals with Sealed Container and Brush Fine Crystals Color Indicating Reusable,Bead Size<1mm (User Manual Included) ") Buy Flower Pressing Kits: - [Aboofx: Extra Large 6 Layers Flower Press Kit (other sizes available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CL463XYV?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b6f0e183e80b5a411d7427d9d3ab0815&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Cruzix: Real Dried Pressed Flowers for Resin (140 Pieces)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08T19P4QS?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e07f349d6d4c9b8b78d86179410379bb&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Microfleur: Microwave Flower Presser Kit](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0050GWV9C?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=855730e3e7bf0a8c63a1efb406558b24&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Fonday: Silica Gel Flower Drying Bundle (with sealed container, colour-indicating crystals & brush)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BJNMN6DP?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=d41eee7e25ae0cde64a8c51df486cfe4&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Aboofx: Large 6-Layer Flower Pressing Kit (even force distribution presser)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CZCTT1JT?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=2bdcf5586e293c760250f00b73454b96&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Crafty and Paper Store: Extra Large 10-Layers Flower Pressing Kit](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D1MXFVFK?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=bd315a9f9c4d22d3bd80c346e04dba4e&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [Flowers are the Most Beautiful When They’re Just About to Die (and What That’s Got to Do with Being a Spoonie)](https://achronicvoice.com/flowers-most-beautiful-die-spoonie/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [Curated Chronic Illness Gift Ideas for Christmas, Birthdays & Other Occasions!](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-gift-ideas/) ### Jewellery-Making Many of my school mates back in school were really into making jewellery, which they would then wear, sell or gift to friends. If you like pretty things and paying attention to details, making your own jewellery might be the perfect hobby for you. Making jewellery can be a fun way to express your personality and style, as you get to choose the colours, materials and type of ornaments. You can work with beads, crystals, preserved flowers (see resin flowers in the category above!), ropes and anything that tickles your fancy, really. You can start crafting Christmas presents early, or simply make them for your own accessorising pleasure. I’m fairly sure the hours will fly by quickly as you find the best combinations and patterns to fit together. Just a heads up that some people (or you) may be allergic to certain materials, such as copper. So if you’re thinking of making jewellery for a friend with chronic illness, don’t forget to ask them if they have any sensitivities to the products that you’re thinking of using. [**Read this post to learn more about potentially dangerous gifts for those with chronic illnesses**](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/)**.** Examples of DIY Jewellery-Making Kits: Black & Coloured Lava Beads Kit (1000 pieces): [![Incraftables Lava Beads Set for DIY Jewelry & Bracelet Making (1000pcs). Bulk Black & Colorful Assorted (4mm, 6mm & 8mm) Stone Rock Chakra Bead Kit for Essential Oils with Spacer Beads & Organizer](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51ZadjJ6ZXL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09HJBKXMP?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Incraftables Lava Beads Set for DIY Jewelry & Bracelet Making (1000pcs). Bulk Black & Colorful Assorted (4mm, 6mm & 8mm) Stone Rock Chakra Bead Kit for Essential Oils with Spacer Beads & Organizer") Stone Beads (100 pieces): [![Natural Stone Beads 100pcs 8mm India Agate Round Genuine Real Stone Beading Loose Gemstone Hole Size 1mm DIY Charm Smooth Beads for Bracelet Necklace Earrings Jewelry Making (India Agate)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/516HlvY-a4L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07PN66HQ6?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Natural Stone Beads 100pcs 8mm India Agate Round Genuine Real Stone Beading Loose Gemstone Hole Size 1mm DIY Charm Smooth Beads for Bracelet Necklace Earrings Jewelry Making (India Agate)") Resin Kit (153 pieces): [![LET'S RESIN Jewelry Making Kit - 153Pcs Highly Clear Resin with Upgraded UV Lamp, Resin Accessories for Keychains, Jewelry](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61wLjokJShL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09QG32FFS?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "LET'S RESIN Jewelry Making Kit - 153Pcs Highly Clear Resin with Upgraded UV Lamp, Resin Accessories for Keychains, Jewelry") Clay Beads Kit (10,500 pieces): [![Pizooro Clay Beads 3 Boxes Bracelet Making Kit, 10500pcs Beads for Jewelry Making, Round Letter Beads with Charm and Elastic Strings, Friendship Bracelets Holiday Gifts for Girls Adults](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61fH3BnZTHL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BYJ6ZWN1?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Pizooro Clay Beads 3 Boxes Bracelet Making Kit, 10500pcs Beads for Jewelry Making, Round Letter Beads with Charm and Elastic Strings, Friendship Bracelets Holiday Gifts for Girls Adults") Buy DIY Jewellery-Making Kits: - [Incraftables: Black & Coloured Lava Beads Set (1000 pieces, 3 sizes; other materials available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09HJBKXMP?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=4b832785cb79394f110b39a9b26089c3&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Cmidy: Natural Stone Beads (100pcs, different materials, colours & sizes available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07PN66HQ6?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=433de896c469183ac6559536ba54b2a1&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [XJRLUK: Glass Beads Jewellery Making Kit (1300 pieces, 48 colours)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CKX5YKQN?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=151fc2b9bdeb617712059beb4d26106c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Let’s Resin: Jewellery Making Kit (153 pieces, with UV lamp and accessories)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09QG32FFS?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=02015733e80fa09f0eec4347c82f8c4d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Pizooro: Clay Beads Jewellery Making Kit (10,500 pieces, 48 colours; other options available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BYJ6ZWN1?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=3640aff9ff378d48c187966bdeeb9919&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [ShyNek: All-in-One Jewellery Making & Repair Kit (1830 pieces, copper material)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B087WL6JXW?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ac97ddf52ec0794971f069a0808dc8c0&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Bead Jewelry Making for Beginners: Step-by-Step Instructions for Beautiful Designs, by Cecilia Leibovitz (book)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1641526424?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=56c28d571595baf37fae7be87dc6d3d6&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Pin to Your Surgery, Recovery & Hobby Boards: ![Hobbies, Crafts and Games - Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/hobbies-crafts-games-fun-things-recovering-surgery.jpg) ### Calligraphy I stumbled upon this website, “[Ferris Wheel Press](https://ferriswheelpress.com/)”, and was immediately taken in by the inks, pens and packaging. I personally think it’s a little sad that kids these days aren’t taught to write in cursive anymore. I remember it being an important skill to learn during English class when I was a child, and we were even encouraged to practise it for speed. My own handwriting is perpetually cursive, but combined with tremors due to medications, not many people can seem to read it anymore. Anyway, calligraphy is a hobby I’m thinking of picking up myself. I really admire people who make calligraphy prints by hand, and find the art such a pleasure to look at. I even [**commissioned a friend to create a little calligraphy for a poem I wrote**](https://achronicvoice.com/just-breathing-enough-today-poem/): ![Breathe - What else in life could be more important than that? (Calligraphy of a poem excerpt)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/breathe-quote-calligraphy.jpg) *Breathe - What else in life could be more important than that?* I am sure that the learning curve will be steep, and shaky hands will pose an extra barrier, but I would love to give it a go at the very least. Here are a few calligraphy kits to get started, with the basics included. You can use markers, fountain pens or other writing tools to practice. If I ever level up, then I might get those gorgeous fountain pens and inks from Ferris Wheel Press. That would be a real treat, I think! Types of Calligraphy Kits: Quill Feather Pen, Ink & Wax Seal Stamp Kit: [![Quill Feather Pen and Ink Set, Calligraphy Pen Glass Dip Pen and Wax Seal Stamp Kit (Green)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51B+zad-x0L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09KS6BBNT?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Quill Feather Pen and Ink Set, Calligraphy Pen Glass Dip Pen and Wax Seal Stamp Kit (Green)") Fountain Pen Set: [![GC QUILL Calligraphy Pens Set 64pcs - Calligraphy Fountain Pen Set with 3 Fountain Pens, 7 Varied Nibs, 54 Ink Cartridges(10 Colors) - Writing, Drawing and Calligraphy Practice for beginner GC-F354](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51J-hFN4AeL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BCVDNPRJ?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "GC QUILL Calligraphy Pens Set 64pcs - Calligraphy Fountain Pen Set with 3 Fountain Pens, 7 Varied Nibs, 54 Ink Cartridges(10 Colors) - Writing, Drawing and Calligraphy Practice for beginner GC-F354") Dual Tip Art Marker Set: [![Taotree 120 Colors Dual Tip Art Markers Pens for Kids Adult Coloring Book, Artist Fine & Brush Tip Coloring Markers Drawing Pen for Journaling Note Taking Lettering Calligraphy Craft Art Supplies Set](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51u3f9v6wOL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DBHGJ859?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Taotree 120 Colors Dual Tip Art Markers Pens for Kids Adult Coloring Book, Artist Fine & Brush Tip Coloring Markers Drawing Pen for Journaling Note Taking Lettering Calligraphy Craft Art Supplies Set") Watercolor Brush Pen Set: [![Chalkola Watercolor Brush Pens for Lettering, Coloring, Calligraphy - Set of 28 Watercolor Pens, 15 Painting Pad & 2 Watercolor Markers - Drawing Art Supplies for Kids, Adults, Professional Artist](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51tKGzWLTNL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07KZ88X38?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Chalkola Watercolor Brush Pens for Lettering, Coloring, Calligraphy - Set of 28 Watercolor Pens, 15 Painting Pad & 2 Watercolor Markers - Drawing Art Supplies for Kids, Adults, Professional Artist") Books on Calligraphy to Get Started: Pretty Simple Lettering: A Step-by-Step Hand Lettering and Modern Calligraphy Workbook for Beginners: [![Pretty Simple Lettering: A Step-by-Step Hand Lettering and Modern Calligraphy Workbook for Beginners (Premium Spiral-Bound Hardcover)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61llcx5UvWL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1948209470?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Pretty Simple Lettering: A Step-by-Step Hand Lettering and Modern Calligraphy Workbook for Beginners (Premium Spiral-Bound Hardcover)") The Ultimate Guide to Modern Calligraphy & Hand Lettering for Beginners: [![The Ultimate Guide to Modern Calligraphy & Hand Lettering for Beginners](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51v8CChcjiL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1646081498?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "The Ultimate Guide to Modern Calligraphy & Hand Lettering for Beginners") Calligraphy: A Complete Guide: [![Calligraphy: A Complete Guide](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51CvRsUVzWL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/081171294X?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Calligraphy: A Complete Guide") Felt-Tip Calligraphy Pen Set (with Workbook): [![Calligraphy Kit for Beginners - Calligraphy Pen Set with Calligraphy Workbook](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51As2T+7gzL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C66K9NHR?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Calligraphy Kit for Beginners - Calligraphy Pen Set with Calligraphy Workbook") Buy Calligraphy Kits: - [Junhartt: Quill Feather Pen, Ink & Wax Seal Stamp Kit (other colours available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09KS6BBNT?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=0775c4d5757e4ba74f6d346e8d71c9aa&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [GC Quill: Calligraphy Fountain Pen Set (3 pens, 7 varied nibs, 54 ink cartridges, 10 colours)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BCVDNPRJ?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=a7a825b4eccdd9227aca0d01f6b3910a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [TaoTree: Dual Tip Art Marker Set (120 colours; other pack types available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DBHGJ859?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=aea5f20c03103b84e2c67883241627b7&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Chalkola: Watercolor Brush Pens for Lettering, Colouring & Calligraphy (28 colours)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07KZ88X38?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=8b1d9a3be401b691514826dc464a4cd6&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Buy Books on Calligraphy: - [Pretty Simple Lettering: A Step-by-Step Hand Lettering and Modern Calligraphy Workbook for Beginners (Premium Spiral-Bound Hardcover)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1948209470?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=fac4563df6cee2922c3100917f169cd4&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [The Ultimate Guide to Modern Calligraphy & Hand Lettering for Beginners](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1646081498?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=1c343234538ba1bc0c2aeffa162fa153&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Calligraphy: A Complete Guide](https://www.amazon.com/dp/081171294X?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=402b2ca8c5d843d99b9396fa1ca76151&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [June & Lucy: Felt-Tip Calligraphy Pen Set with Workbook (6 markers, 4 sizes)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C66K9NHR?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=d0d008f4b0fb00c76169a34a64bcfe5c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ## **Conclusion to Fun Things to Do While Recovering from Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games** I hope that this list gave you some ideas, or got you excited for a new project or hobby to pick up, whilst recovering from surgery in bed. You will need a good adjustable bedside table for some of these crafts, which you can check out in another parallel series, “[**Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable in Bed**](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/)”. Wishing you a speedy recovery, and I sincerely hope that you will be able to get back up on your feet again soon with minimal pain. But do take it nice and slow, and try to stay distracted in the meantime. Check out the links below for more boredom busters, and ideas on things to do while recovering from surgery! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Surgery, Recovery & Pain Management Boards: ![Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-recovering-surgery.jpg) Read More Posts in This Series: 1. [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) 2. [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) 3. *Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games (this post)* 4. [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) 5. [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) Read Related Posts: - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 – 6](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) - [Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care: Introduction to the Series](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-introduction/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Unwanted Life ](https://unwantedlife.me) Feb 3, 2025 Engaging in a hobby, something creative, or an interest is always a great idea as it does wonders for our well-being — but it does sound especially beneficial when recovering from surgery when you have limited options to keep you occupied. I enjoy building a Lego set or playing a game on my phone, but being able to mix things up if you have a long recovery time will also be important. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Feb 4, 2025 I didn’t know there were Lego building games on the phone — I’ll have to check that out! And yes, even whilst not bed-bound, hobbies are important. I need to pick a few new ones (or old ones again) up myself, as my hobbies currently are all linked to my computer, which isn’t great either 😉 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery (Part 2/5) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/ Last updated: 2026-05-16T17:59:57.000Z Apart from the immense pain and lack of mobility, being stuck in bed after any major surgery can leave you bored to tears. [**I personally suffered from a spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture**](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) due to Lupus, and the steroid therapy that I'm on. Being bed bound for an entire year meant that I not only had to endure the physical discomfort, but also the mental battles. This post is part of a series on activities and things you can do post-surgery to keep boredom and restlessness at bay. This article in particular will focus on things to do on digital devices after knee surgery. ([**Check out the full series at the end of the post**](#full-series), for a wider selection of boredom busting activities!) Pin to Your Knee Surgery & Digital Boards: ![Fun and Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/fun-productive-things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery-scroll.jpg) --- **Disclaimer*: Knee injuries and surgeries, or any surgery for that matter, varies widely from person to person. Your age, lifestyle, weight, circumstances, medications, comorbidities, allergies and other issues can impact your recovery timeline, as well as the tools and methods required. They should be adapted for YOU.* This article, and the resources or suggestions provided within, are based on MY own personal experiences with a spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture, as a person with many chronic illnesses. They are meant for educational purposes and **not to be substituted for medical advice. I am not a doctor, so please consult your own medical provider before trying anything out.** *This post also contains affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog.* [***Read our privacy policy page***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/) *for more information. Thank you!* **Items with a star ⭐ next to them are resources I've personally tried and would recommend!** --- ## 1\. My Doctor’s #1 Prescription: Films & TV Series TV is probably the go-to distraction for many of us, whether we’re sick or healthy. It’s great for decompression from work, or if you need a bit of a break from the reality of life. Now is the time to immerse yourself nonstop in TV series and films. In fact, it was what my surgeon prescribed for things to do on digital devices after knee surgery! My uncle kindly installed a big TV screen in front of my bed even before I was discharged from the hospital, which I appreciated so much. I don't think I've watched so many TV series in my life in a go, but it did help with distraction. This was especially true in the beginning, when I was in immense pain and at my weakest. You can also watch films on your tablet, laptop or mobile phone, just as easily as on a TV screen. If you find a good series to watch, they can be one of the more fun things to do on digital devices after knee surgery! ### Benefits of Watching Movies Reminder: Not all TV programmes are mindless, although you're allowed to watch as much reality TV as you like right now. [Films can be transformative experiences](https://www.proquest.com/docview/823696124) (Mitchell, 2010), and teach you many things. You learn to appreciate cinematography, expand your imagination and perspectives, gain inspiration from narratives, acquire knowledge about history, explore the future, understand societal and world issues, and so much more. ### Some Suggestions on What to Watch Popular online subscriptions that you probably already know or have include: Netflix, HBO Go and Disney Plus. Your TV company will also have various subscription packs on offer. If you’re into sports, there are also many [sports streaming services](https://www.pcmag.com/picks/the-best-sports-streaming-services) out there. I'd recommend [Mubi](https://mubi.com/t/web/global/81vVeq53) if you're into art, foreign and/or award-winning films. Since the pandemic, some cinemas in your vicinity may have online subscriptions or pay-per-view as well. There’s also a wide array of stuff to watch on YouTube, from inspirational TED talks to makeup tutorials, science videos and hilarious compilations. Who doesn’t like to see a [giant pimple popping](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ok5cNx7aghQ)? (Not for the faint of heart!) ## 2\. Podcasts - If You Find TV Too Stimulating If you find TV too stimulating, you can try listening to podcasts instead. They’re also great for when you’re in too much pain, and can only lie there and stare at the ceiling. There are many different genres that can serve to inspire, distract or learn new things from. Podcasts and YouTube videos tend to be a better format than TV if you’d like to spend this time learning more about entrepreneurship, web design and development, blogging, making passive income, and topics such as these. There are also educational podcasts on health and wellness, nutrition, history, society, and many other interesting stories and facts. No idea what to listen to? [Esquire has a list of "The 68 Best Podcasts You Can Listen to in 2024"](https://www.esquire.com/uk/latest-news/a26086091/best-podcasts/), and [Timeout has also compiled "The 50 best podcasts to listen to in 2024"](https://www.timeout.com/things-to-do/best-podcasts). #### **Listen to Free Podcasts:** - [Spotify](https://sovrn.co/ey8grrk) - [Google Podcasts](https://podcasts.google.com/) - [Apple Podcasts](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/apple-podcasts/id525463029) - [BBC Sounds](https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/podcasts) - [NPR](https://www.npr.org/podcasts-and-shows/) - [iHeart](https://www.iheart.com/podcast/) - [Tune In](https://tunein.com/podcasts/) Read Related Posts: - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [Keeping Up with the World: Why it’s Important Despite Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) Podcasts I've Been Featured on: - [Sick Lessons: Life lessons from living with chronic illness, mental illness & disability (my side project!)](https://sicklessons.com/) - [Lauren Selfridge: Acceptance Is Power with Sheryl Chan](https://laurenselfridge.com/listen/47) - [DISabled to ENabled: You can die in Singapore but you can’t get sick - it’s too expensive!](https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/you-can-die-in-singapore-but-you-cant-get-sick-its/id1465712315?i=1000447998085) - [The Uninvisible Podcast: Antiphospholipid Syndrome, Lupus, & Mental Health with Sheryl Chan](https://uninvisiblepod.com/episodes/episode-80-aps-lupus-mental-health-sheryl-chan/) ## 3\. Listen to Audiobooks Audiobooks are becoming more popular, as people like that they can 'read' a book as they go about their busy lives. It's also great for those of us who are too fatigued, or in too much pain to hold a physical book. Ditch the idea that books must be read with only your eyes. It's the content that matters, after all. So read with your ears, too! Audiobooks can be played from almost any digital device; all you need to do is download the app of whichever platform you sign up for. ### Popular audiobook platforms: - [**Amazon Audible**](https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e39c95c3d29e58cfaf9488287283b933&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). Amazon, as you know, sells *millions* of books online. Their audiobook selection is huge as well, and covers just about all genres. You can sign up for a 30-day free trial, and take your time to see if audiobooks are a good fit for you. - [**Rakuten Kobo**](https://www.kobo.com/us/en/audiobooks). There are also many categories of audiobooks available on Kobo. They too, have a 30-day free trial, and you get your first audiobook for free! - [**Audiobooks.com**](https://audiobookscom.postaffiliatepro.com/scripts/kcd5fq4o7?a%5Faid=63b562fe39a57). Their 30-day free trial includes three free audiobooks - so that's a win! They have two paid models under their Audiobook Clubs. You can use your monthly credits to choose and purchase one of over 350,000 audiobooks. Or join one of their eight Audiobook clubs for 30 days of unlimited listening. - [**Google Play**](https://play.google.com/store/books/category/audiobooks) **&** [**Apple**](https://books.apple.com/us/genre/audiobooks/id50000024) **Stores**. Whether you're more of a Google or Apple person, they too sell audiobooks which you can purchase, download and listen to. - [**Libro.fm**](https://www.awin1.com/cread.php?awinmid=25361&awinaffid=1226518&ued=https%3A%2F%2Flibro.fm). Another audiobook platform with over 275,000 audiobooks. They also support local bookstores, where they split the profits with them. ### Free Audiobook Resources: - [**Libby by Overdrive**](https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby). If you have a library membership, you can do a search to see if it's registered with Overdrive. If so, then you can **borrow audiobooks, e-books and digital magazines for free!** Libby is the newer library reading app by Overdrive, and can be downloaded on your digital devices or Kindle. - Open Culture also has a compiled an excellent list of [***1,000 free audiobooks here***](https://www.openculture.com/freeaudiobooks). Pin to Your Digital, Disability & Chronic Pain Boards: ![Podcast, audiobook and film resources for when you're stuck in bed after knee surgery.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/podcast-audiobook-film-resources-stuck-in-bed-after-knee-surgery-2.jpeg) ## 4\. Read with a Digital Device Reading is one of the best things to do on digital devices after knee surgery; an immersive storyline can distract you from the pain and boredom momentarily. It might even inspire or bring a smile to your face, despite feeling trapped by circumstances. ### Why I Love My Kindle I rotate from my [Kindle](https://www.amazon.com/kindle-paperwhite-Signature-Edition/dp/B08B495319?crid=3HC3MOU8KY13O&keywords=kindle+paperwhite+32gb&qid=1706628661&sprefix=kindle+paperwhite+32%2Caps%2C421&sr=8-1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=34081996b309d6ebdf00dfbe82a52a16&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) to magazines to paperbacks. I love my Kindle as it takes pressure and weight off my hands and fingers, especially when they’re aching. And when a book is a thousand pages long, that means a lot. I managed to finish reading “[Catherine the Great: Portrait of a Woman](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004J4X9L0?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=cd2e762bb872c9f15c5be4d355151bde&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl)”, thanks to my Kindle! I also like my Kindle as it's **built for the sole purpose of reading**. Whilst you can read on your phone or tablet, the [blue light isn't so good for your eyes](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/jbio.201900102) (Wahl et al., 2019), especially if you're trying to sleep at night. The built-in backlight of the Kindle is suitable for reading in the dark without further stimulation. The e-ink is glare-free as well. There is also a 'Kindle Unlimited' subscription, with over 3 million e-books and digital magazines to choose from and read. You don't need a Kindle to access this. All you need is to download their app onto your existing phone, tablet or desktop. You can [try out their 30-day free trial here](https://www.amazon.com/kindle-dbs/hz/subscribe/ku?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=8af5cce73a48dc6e8ecdf9dfedc30c24&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) first. ### Other Reading Devices If you don't like Kindles, some alternatives are [Kobo](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CZXYV8GT?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e846b60e886e271422560aeab3e0d558&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), or [Nook by Barnes and Noble](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09GNHSMZN?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=7a0d0bbaa3e3b6a00612309b84f4fa86&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). You can borrow books from your local library via Kobo, and it has OneDrive and other integrations as well. Nook has a GlowLight illumination for evenly dispersed lighting. Recommended e-Readers: ⭐️ Kindle Paperwhite Signature Edition: [![Kindle Paperwhite Signature Edition including Kindle Paperwhite (32 GB) - Agave Green - Without Lockscreen Ads, Fabric Cover - Agave Green, and Wireless Charging Dock](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31vpHIENJHL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BN4ZLQR2?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Kobo Libra Colour E-Reader: [![Kobo Libra Colour | eReader | 7” Glare-Free Colour E Ink Kaleido™ 3 Display | Dark Mode Option | Audiobooks | Waterproof | Black](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41ggn9zRJ1L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CZXX465Z?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Kobo Libra Colour | eReader | 7” Glare-Free Colour E Ink Kaleido™ 3 Display | Dark Mode Option | Audiobooks | Waterproof | Black") Barnes & Noble Nook Glowlight 4e E-Reader: [![Barnes & Noble Nook Glowlight 4e eReader | 6](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31ZfajZJjTL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0594149274?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Barnes & Noble Nook Glowlight 4e eReader | 6") Buy Reading Devices: - ⭐️ [Kindle Paperwhite Signature Edition Essentials Bundle (32GB, 6", comes with cover and wireless charging dock)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BN4ZLQR2?th=1&psc=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=fa52fd6b1c303d2a4b5621a24f323fd5&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Kobo Libra Colour eReader (32GB, 7", waterproof)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CZXX465Z?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=710596472714b4b5664886832a8c43ac&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Barnes & Noble Nook Glowlight 4e e-Reader (8GB, 6")](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0594149274?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=422c4e5d38e003e003bc44b70cf9b826&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or ‘How to Relax’ by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You’re All Invited, Too!)](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies: Part II](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies-2/) - [Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill: Part III](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-3-chronically-ill/) - [Book Review: The Narwhal Who Suffers from Chronic Migraines](https://achronicvoice.com/book-review-narwhal-migraines/) [For more magazine and book recommendations, read part 5 of this series on “Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery”.](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) ## 5\. Music – Explore the New & Enjoy the Good Old I needed to keep my legs straight for 6 weeks whilst recovering from knee surgery. That's a lot of downtime, and also when you start to overthink, or become increasingly frustrated. But trust in the healing process, and do stuff to beat boredom in the meantime. That includes closing your eyes, resting, and listening to music. Music has been a comforting companion, and helped me to cope with the emotional aspect of things. Angry music represented and highlighted how I felt on the inside. Soothing music helped to calm me down or go to sleep. Melancholic music felt relatable and human. Music is powerful; it tugs at your heartstrings, and can pound an inspirational rhythm into your head. You can simply listen to soothing sounds of nature as well. I like [Spotify](https://sovrn.co/ey8grrk)'s song recommendations, and have discovered a ton of new songs with 'Enhance' mode turned on. It also resurfaced some old songs that I like, which was nice. ### Tidy Your Endless Playlists If you’re like me, you add a new playlist for every new artist you like, 'just in case you forget who they are'. I also add songs to my current playlist via [Shazam](https://www.shazam.com/home), which I discover on the go. My current list becomes… not very current. I don’t even recognise half of the artists in them anymore. My archived playlist is even worse. If you want something productive to do, now’s the time to clean up your playlists, so you don't need to keep hitting ‘skip’. When you’re up and about again, you can switch between playlists for better listening pleasure as well. ## 6\. Online Window Shopping (Or Just Browsing!) I’ve been doing a little too much online window shopping, but nevermind. Whatever consumes time, basically. I even count scrolling through grocery products as online window shopping. I know I have a browser folder full of links called 'Gifts/Shopping' now... The anticipation of a parcel arrival gives you something to look forward to. Even if you don't buy anything, it's still one of the more fun things to do on digital devices after knee surgery. Go ahead and check out all the weird or fancy stuff they have on sale online. You can also browse for the [**best accessibility products and mobility aids**](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) that would suit you most at a later point along your recovery journey. ### Early Christmas Shopping - You’ll Have the Best Gifts at the Best Prices Remember that online shopping isn't all about you! You can save up a list of gifts, then purchase them slowly over the year when there are discounts. You can also treat it as browsing for early Christmas gifts - who cares if it's months away. Come the festive season, you'll be well prepared. You'll have the best gifts at the best prices, and with less burnout! Read Related Posts: - [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/) - [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) - [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/) - [All I Want for Christmas is Some Pain Relief! (Real Wish List Ideas from 13 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/all-i-want-for-christmas-pain-relief/) ## 7\. Digital Decluttering - Maximise Your Productivity for Later A clutter-free space is always a pleasant experience, isn’t it? Whilst that's not possible to do physically right now, we also leave crumbs of digital clutter everywhere. You know those 50 photos you took of your cat in the same position? Well, they're taking up space on your phone and/or computer. Not only may that cost you money via storage space, but it also makes finding other photos difficult. Now’s the time to do some simple digital decluttering. These little tasks are actually highly productive. They’ll increase your efficiency when you’re back in swing. I use [Gemini by MacPaw](https://macpaw.com/gemini), which is able to scan through your folders quickly. They show you which are duplicates, blurry, are screenshots or auto downloads, etc. I like the swipe left/right function for the 'Other' photos (yes, like Tinder), so it can be pretty mindless yet fun and productive. Other things that are on my digital declutter todo list: browser bookmarks (you know those window shopping links?), email folders, apps and subscriptions. Google also has some suggestions and tips on [how to use AI tools to help with organising your digital life here](https://blog.google/products/workspace/google-ai-organize-inbox-photos/). Guilty as Charged: ![Endless dog screenshots](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/dog-photos.jpg) ### Updates & Backups Other things to do on digital devices after knee surgery are to update all your passwords, plus backup your computer systems. It's less necessary to [change your passwords every 3 months](https://www.businessinsider.com/guides/tech/how-often-should-i-change-my-password) these days if they are strong ones, and have not been compromised. But if you think you need to clean house or add a layer of [2FA](https://authy.com/what-is-2fa/) (two-factor authorisation), now's a great time to do so. Many people tell me they don't remember their passwords, so they don't change them. I'd recommend that you hit 'Forgot Password' to reset it. Then use a secure password organiser like [LastPass](https://www.lastpass.com/) or [BitWarden](https://bitwarden.com/) to remember and auto-fill them in for you each time. It's a pretty mindless, repetitive task and you get 'into the zone' after a while. You can also do one of those pesky backups via [Time Machine (for Mac)](https://support.apple.com/en-sg/104984), [Backup (for Windows)](https://support.microsoft.com/en-us/topic/how-to-back-up-or-transfer-your-data-on-a-windows-based-computer-bd7e1bcf-15ea-078b-922f-6d6fcca76c7e), or via a hard disk. I know they're boring to do, but if/when your system breaks down, you'll be very glad you did. The benefit of Time Machine/Backup is that you can restore your entire workspace as it was previously. The benefit of a hard disk is that you can separate folders, say, your movie folder, and free up desktop space from them. Pin to Your Disability & Recovery Boards: ![How to maximise your time while recovering in bed](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-to-maximise-your-time-while-recovering-in-bed-3.jpeg) ## 8\. Start an Art or Pet Instagram / Tiktok Account It can also be fun to roleplay your pet on social media, like I do with [my dog, Talisker, on Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mysheltietally/). You can get to know other pet parents and have friendly banters, which can cheer you up. Talisker does that with [Claire's cat, Sammy](https://www.instagram.com/sammy.my.cat/), with [Shruti's toy poodle, Toby](https://www.instagram.com/tobytoypoo/), as a sidekick. Sadly, both of them have crossed over the rainbow bridge due to an accident and illness. R.I.P. beautiful ones 😢 It's also a photo diary of sorts. I have photos of Talisker from as a pup there, and the captions bring back fond memories, and shows me how he's grown and changed. > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/CXy8nBYv8dj/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Talisker (@mysheltietally)](https://www.instagram.com/p/CXy8nBYv8dj/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) If you're into artistic endeavours, social media is also a great place to display your creations, and to meet more people who share your passion. [Check out my friend, Carrie's, gorgeous Ikebana creations on Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/wayoftheflower/). Don't underestimate what your art or pet photos can do. Just browsing through Carrie's flower feed brings me joy, and I get a good chuckle from some of the animal ones. Check out the [#SpoonieArt](https://www.instagram.com/explore/tags/spoonieart/) and [#ChronicillnessArt](https://www.instagram.com/explore/tags/chronicillnessart/) hashtags on Instagram for some inspiration or smiles. ## 9\. Collect & Curate Inspirational Ideas for Things You Love Online I admit to being a bit obsessive when it comes to collecting and curating things. It's a personality thing. I remember when my co-workers and I were all into analog photography at one point in time, and someone commented that I seemed to be 'documenting everything'. It's the same with interesting websites and online resources. Now I have folders bursting with information. Yes, I need to do a lot of digital decluttering... That’s probably why I love [Twitter](https://twitter.com/AChVoice) best out of all the social media platforms as well. It’s where I find and curate blog posts from various chronic illness bloggers with the most ease! Hashtags such as [#ChronicIllness](https://twitter.com/search?q=%23ChronicIllness&src=typed%5Fquery), [#ChronicPain](https://twitter.com/search?q=%23ChronicPain&src=typed%5Fquery&f=top) and [#spoonie](https://twitter.com/search?q=%23spoonie&src=typed%5Fquery&f=top) help me to find the best and latest content written by real people in seconds. Whereas on Google search it's mostly dry, medical sites due to competitive SEO factors, and the need to write 'helpful content'. **Who's to say a patient's perspective or poem isn't just as helpful?** [Pinterest](https://pinterest.com/achronicvoice/) and [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/achronicvoice/) are also great platforms for the more visually-inclined. It's great for collecting recipes, home decor ideas, fashion and design inspiration, gift ideas and the likes. ### Get Ready for the Better Days to Come Even if you can't get up and cook or redecorate your house now, collecting ideas is always a good idea! You can even level up and do a spreadsheet on [Google Sheets](https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/), [Trello](https://trello.com/) or [Airtable](https://airtable.com/invite/r/fRBO96Wz). Things to include: Photo inspiration, places you can buy items from, costs, ingredient lists, links, etc.. Whilst these can be tedious things to do on digital devices after knee surgery, they'll give you some fun activities to do right away when you're up and about again! You can check out my social media feeds to see the stuff I curate, organise and post, if you need some ideas: - [Twitter](https://twitter.com/AChVoice) - [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/achronicvoice) - [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/achronicvoice/) - [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/achronicvoice/) - [BlueSky](https://bsky.app/profile/achronicvoice.com) Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (48 Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) ## Conclusion on Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery I hope that these post on things to do on digital devices after knee surgery has given you some inspiration or ideas. If digital devices are not your favourite mode of entertainment or you wish to avoid them for whatever reason, then check out the rest of the series below. I also share ideas for hobbies, crafts, education and other tips. Wishing you all the very best in your own personal recovery journey! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Digital, Disability & Chronic Pain Boards: ![Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/fun-productive-things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery-2.jpg) Read More Posts in This Series: 1. [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) 2. *Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery (this post)* 3. [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) 4. [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) 5. [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) Read Related Posts: - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 – 6](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) - [Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care: Introduction to the Series](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-introduction/) ### References: - Mitchell, J. M. (2010). *Transformative film experiences: An intuitive inquiry into the power of movies to change lives.* Institute of Transpersonal Psychology. - Wahl, S., Engelhardt, M., Schaupp, P., Lappe, C., & Ivanov, I. V. (2019). The inner clock—Blue light sets the human rhythm. *Journal of Biophotonics, 12*(12), e201900102\. ### Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/ Last updated: 2026-04-28T14:54:16.000Z ## Travelling with Chronic Illness and Disability — Why I Do It Anyway Travelling is one of my biggest passions in life, and I'd like to share my top tips for travelling with chronic illness and disability in this post. Whilst we all travel for various reasons and find pleasure in different things, being chronically ill can be a literal pain (beyond the neck). The everyday lives of people fascinate me, simply because it isn't the same normal as back home. I enjoy the stimulation from environments and languages that I'm unfamiliar with. I love to take relaxing strolls along the streets, and also delight in the beauty of open landscapes and nature. Most importantly, travelling reminds me that possibilities are as endless as the stars in a clear desert night sky. It also reminds me that life still bears much beauty, despite all the suffering that exists. These are easy to forget, especially when you're stuck in a pain-filled and mundane routine. I hope that these tips for travelling with chronic illness and disability will help with your own holiday planning. It will include practical resources and suggestions that hopefully eases your mind, so that your trip is as smooth and enjoyable as is possible. Have a lovely holiday, whether it's a staycation, or on to distant lands! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Changelog: - Article first published on: April 17, 2017 Pin to Your Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability Boards: ![Why I love to travel, despite chronic illness and disability [Background: A map flatlay, with sunglasses, earphones, mobile phone, boarding passes, passports and a camera surrounding the corners.]](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/why-love-travel-despite-chronic-illness-disability.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Keeping Up with the World: Why it’s Important Despite Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) - [Are You a Capable Person? What Does That Even Mean?](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) ## 1\. It's All About the Prep Work When You Travel with Chronic Illness and Disability Even on a regular day at home, people with chronic illnesses and disabilities spend a lot of time preparing to...prepare. This may come in the form of meal preps, pacing around an event or just a night out with friends. On a bad day, that might look like how many trips you can afford to make to the toilet, or how many dishes you can wash, as your joints hurt so bad. Travelling is obviously a bigger endeavour, but not impossible with some preparation. Like this woman, [Macy, who travels in a wheelchair, and even tried skydiving](https://www.atlasobscura.com/articles/accessible-travel-adventure-with-kory-macy)! Here are some important things I try to get in order before embarking on any trip. ### Get Your Doctor to Write a Summary of Your Medical Conditions & Issue a Patient Medication List (1PML) Before I embark on a trip, I always ask my rheumatologist for an updated letter that summarises all my medical conditions and prescribed medications (also called a [1PML/Patient Medication List](https://corp.nhg.com.sg/PML/Pages/default.aspx) where I'm from). I have a clear folder that I keep with me at all times, and this very important letter goes in here. I also keep a digital copy, but it's good to have a hard copy as gadgets can fail, or you can lose either copy. These letters are crucial for when you need to see a doctor overseas, or require emergency medical attention where time is of essence. It also helps to speed things up at the airport security bottleneck choke point, especially if you're carrying needles, opioids, or other medications that are less commonly used in other countries. ### Bring All Your Essential Medication Supplies...and More This might be stating the obvious, but I ensure that I have enough medication supplies whilst on vacation. More than enough, in fact - I bring about half the necessary amount as a buffer. In case of a delay or mishap (or if you choose to extend your holiday!), this will not only save you time and stress, but maybe even your life. This is even more crucial if you are going to a rural area, or a country where you don't speak the language. Even if you manage to find a hospital, they may not have the rare drugs that you need. **Every country also favours different brands of medications, and the formulations might differ.** [According to Merchant et al. (2020)](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7606210/): > "Patients and consumers who fill prescriptions abroad, either when travelling or when shopping at foreign internet pharmacies, need to use caution because drugs in other countries may have identical or highly similar brand names for products with different active ingredients." Some of us may be sensitive or allergic to the ingredients in other formulations, or they may interact a little differently as compared to your usual brand of medications. **This applies to OTC (over-the-counter) medications too.** I remember being in the U.S. for a heart surgery, and not being able to purchase plain old paracetamol at any chemist. Similar types of medications all contained NSAIDs, which would interact with my warfarin medication. I also split my medications up into different bags, in case one goes missing. On top of my prescribed medications, I also carry my own over-the-counter mini pharmacy. As someone with chronic illnesses, I am prone to infections, and random ailments pop up all the time. So I bring along sachets, pills, potions and lotions for food poisoning, UTIs, colds and other minor or generic health problems. Witch or amateur pharmacist - that's for you to decide 😉 Bonus: Your travel companions will thank you for that magical formulation if they come down with a bug, too. ### Keep Your Medical Information with You at All Times There are a few important medical cards which I keep in my wallet at all times, even when I'm not travelling overseas. There is one that states that I'm on [**warfarin**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/#warfarin)(a blood thinning medication), and another that states that I have [autoantibodies](https://emedicine.medscape.com/article/1731232-overview) in my blood. I also have a medical card that states that I have an [annuloplasty band](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/22224-annuloplasty) for a mitral valve repair, so that medical professionals are aware that I have had a heart surgery before. On top of these medical cards, I also keep my medical information in the 'Health' app on my phone up-to-date. This information can be accessed by anyone, even without a password. Here's [how to set up your medical ID on your iPhone](https://support.apple.com/en-sg/guide/iphone/iph08022b192/ios), [Samsung](https://www.samsung.com/latin%5Fen/support/mobile-devices/how-to-use-galaxy-device-in-an-emergency-to-contact-emergency-contacts-and-view-important-medical-information/) or [Android phone](https://support.google.com/android/answer/9319337?hl=en). Some people also wear [medical bracelets](https://www.verywellhealth.com/making-the-most-of-your-medical-bracelet-1298508) so that it is immediately apparent that they have a medical condition. You can [purchase and customise such accessories online such as from Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/s?k=medical+bracelet&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=a201cc0cb4d9e6b0e09ff01f54d7ba07&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), and they should, at the very least, alert emergency responders of your main chronic illness condition(s) or medications that you're on that could be potentially life-threatening. Such medical information is crucial, especially if you're unconscious or unable to communicate, or if a blood transfusion or emergency surgery is needed. With the additional antibodies in my blood and medications that I take, my body can still react negatively, even if I receive universal donor O negative blood which is supposedly neutral. Read Related Posts: - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [My Second Brush with Death: A Broken Heart (Literally)](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) - [What’s it Like to Live with a Heart Rhythm Disorder?](https://achronicvoice.com/heart-rhythm-disorder/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) ### Keep Your Packing & Medication Lists Online Packing is often repetitive and boring, yet forgetting to bring an important item can cause major stress when you're travelling with chronic illness and disability. I have a packing list which I refer to for every trip. This not only includes medications, but also items needed for different seasons and environments. For example, sunblock for sunny places or the beach. This is very important especially for those of us with Lupus. Even if you aren't overly photosensitive, [the sun can still trigger a Lupus flare](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0961203314530488?journalCode=lupa) (Barbhaiya & Costenbader, 2014). Other items may include [hand warmers and/or foot warmers](https://amzn.to/3QTb5m7) for cold destinations, or even your own food supplies or kitchen accessories, especially for those who have food allergies or sensitivities. I also have my medication routine written down on my phone. It is confusing even when I'm warded at my local hospital, as I take about 20 pills prescribed by various doctors, at different times every single day. Whenever I visit the A&E / ER or visit a new doctor, I just show this list to them. This makes the process a bit easier for both you and the doctor, especially when you're in severe pain and have difficulty communicating clearly. I keep all these checklists on the "Notes" app of my iPhone. I also add a hashtag #travel and #medications, and pin them for easier referencing. Putting them on the cloud also means that you can share and sync these lists with loved ones and medical personnel digitally as well. [Subscribe for More](#/portal/) ## 2\. Communication is Key During a Medical Emergency Whilst Travelling ### Mark Down All the Hospital Locations This is common sense, but be aware of where the closest hospital locations are whilst travelling with a chronic illness and disability. You can [save the Google map offline](https://blog.google/products/maps/google-maps-offline/), but I also take screenshots and put them in an album on my mobile phone for quick and easy access. Do save or print these maps out in the local language as well if you can. It saves everyone - from your travel companions to hotel staff to drivers - from trying to figure out where exactly it is you need to rush off urgently to. You can also do some research before you depart for your holiday, so you know where the better hospitals are, and if they have a medical team who speaks your language. Communication matters, especially during crises, as it leads to more accurate diagnoses and faster treatment. ### Educate Your Travel Companions in Case of an Emergency As mentioned above, don't forget to carry your medical information on your own person whilst travelling with a chronic illness and disability. If you have a travel companion, ensure that they know where and how to access them quickly. Not everyone may be as tech-savvy as you are or even think to check for such information, because they've never been chronically ill or disabled before. They should also know where your doctors' letters and your medications are. If you need them to administer medication for you during an emergency, such as an epipen for an anaphylaxis reaction, then don't forget to teach them how to do so. Walk them through it, because they will probably be panicking if it does happen, and they have no confidence or clue as to how to help you. I have epilepsy, so I ensure that my travel companions know [what to do should I get a seizure](https://www.cdc.gov/epilepsy/first-aid-for-seizures/). ### Keep Your Loved Ones Updated on Your Travel Plans Seamlessly I also have a Google Calendar solely for the purpose of storing travel information, such as dates of where I'll be, flight timings, and hotel contact details. When I'm travelling - especially if I'm alone or going to a remote destination - I [share this timeline of events](https://support.google.com/calendar/answer/37082?hl=en) with my family and/or friends. In case of an emergency, they will be able to contact the hotel where I'm at for more information, or to coordinate with them. In a worst case scenario, they may need to fly up to rescue me, and the information will help to speed things up. ### Be Contactable at All Times Some of us go off-grid or only use free wifi whilst travelling, but this isn't ideal during an emergency situation, or should you be feeling unwell. These days, your telco should have affordable overseas data plans that use your existing mobile phone number. Back in the day, we had to purchase local SIM cards with loads of data (2GB was considered 'loads' back then ;) ), and ensure that our loved ones knew what the temporary number was. You can still do that as well as a backup plan! If you're travelling to a country where access to Google or other useful sites are blocked, such as China, then don't forget to buy a [VPN (Virtual Private Network) plan](https://uk.pcmag.com/vpn/138/the-best-vpn-services) for your device as well. Think of a VPN as a global location where your data transmits to and from, instead of a local network. Usually all you need to do after downloading the VPN app on your digital device is to open it, connect to a selected location server, and then you should be able to access your favourite search engines or websites again. Server locations will depend on which VPN company you purchase a plan from, but often have U.S. and U.K. servers. If you want a faster connection, usually the closest location to where you are will work best. Pin to Your Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability Boards: ![Chronic Illness Travel Guide - Tips, Tricks and Hacks. What to do in an emergency. How to manage chronic pain. And how to enjoy yourself. Read the post!](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-travel-guide-tips-tricks-hacks-chronic-pain.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [So This is What a Tonic Clonic Seizure Feels Like](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) - [5 Things You Should Know About My Epilepsy (It’s More Than Just Seizures)](https://achronicvoice.com/epilepsy-more-than-just-seizures/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) ## 3\. The Nitty Gritty Travel Details (in Font Size 6) are Important Too ### Yes, Buy That Travel Insurance (with Buffer Dates as Well) Many people travel without insurance because nothing devastating happens 99% of the time, and they see it as a waste of money. But it’s that 1% that can end up as one of the biggest regrets in life. It is crucial to have travel insurance for those who are travelling with a chronic illness or disability, as we have a higher chance of needing medical aid. This is essential even for short or nearby trips. These days there are more travel insurance plans that also include pre-existing medical conditions. They mostly only cover a small token fee for hospitalisations and doctor visits that are related to your chronic illnesses or disabilities, but it's better than nothing. In addition to chronic illness, we can also still fall 'regular people' sick (a.k.a. 'muggle sick'), or become injured due to incidents or accidents. In such circumstances, travel insurance has you covered, as these are unrelated to your pre-existing medical conditions. They also cover lost or damaged baggage, flight delays, etc, depending on the travel insurance plan you choose. I read all travel insurance policies thoroughly and scrutinise the plan differences. Most of the time the difference between mid and top tiers is merely an increase in over all coverage, yet the daily maximum payout sum for hospitalisation fees are the same for chronic conditions. So do read everything closely to see what fits your needs best, in case of an emergency. I also buffer in a couple of extra days when I purchase travel insurance, just in case I need to delay my flight due to chronic pain or for any other reason. ### Purchase Flexible Flight/Transport Tickets As a chronically ill or disabled person, it might be worth paying extra for a flight ticket that allows you to change flights without further penalties. I have had instances where I had to delay my flight due to acute or chronic pain, so I see it as a sound investment. Of course, if it's only a small fee to change the dates, or if it's a budget ticket to a nearby location with many flights available, then I purchase it at regular price. Pin to Your Travel Tips, Tricks & Hacks Boards: ![Top tips for travelling with chronic illness and disability [Background: Girl in a straw hat and sunglasses leaning against an orange luggage bag and gazing up happily.]](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/top-tips-travelling-chronic-illness-disability.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) - [Chronic Illness is Expensive, but Here’s the Real Reason Why](https://achronicvoice.com/real-reason-why-chronic-illness-expensive/) ## 4\. How to Maximise Comfort on a Stuffy Airplane, Whilst Travelling with Chronic Illness and Disability ### Dress for Ultimate Comfort Save those stylish skinny jeans for your actual holiday, and wear something loose and cosy for the flight. Bring a shawl or soft jacket, as it can get freezing cold on a plane. Ask for an extra blanket or two if you need it. They usually provide you with fluffy airplane socks you can walk around in on long-haul flights as well. I love those, and even save them for home use sometimes! I love compression gloves as the tiny joints in my hands often ache from Lupus, and they help to manage the pain a little. I use them in school, and have had comments that they look 'cool', as if it were a fashion statement ;) My favourite ones are from [Grace & Able](https://www.graceandable.com/) ([**who sponsored one of our Christmas Giveaways**](https://achronicvoice.com/virtual-holiday-party-chronically-ill-disabled/#grace-able)!), and also these two that I bought from Amazon: [Long Copper Compression Gloves](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07NQRNJN3) and [DrNaiety Dotted Compression Gloves](https://amzn.to/40VdXna). I am thankfully a deep sleeper who can pass out anywhere, but for those of you who are light sleepers, I've personally heard good reviews for the [Manta Sleep mask](https://mantasleep.com/?rfsn=7745577.2b8c6c&utm%5Fsource=refersion&utm%5Fmedium=affiliate&utm%5Fcampaign=7745577.2b8c6c) (another [**awesome sponsor for one of our Christmas Giveaways**](https://achronicvoice.com/virtual-holiday-party-chronically-ill-disabled/#manta-sleep)!), which is 100% blackout. They're also adjustable, and zero pressure on the eyelids and eyelashes. Other items that can help you to have a good rest, or at least some peace on a flight, are things like a neck pillow, noise cancelling headphones, something soft to hug, a stress ball to squeeze, just listening to your favourite songs, or if you're like me, playing Sudoku ;) Shop the Manta Sleep mask here: ### Stay Hydrated It isn’t just you - everyone becomes dehydrated on a flight. In fact, [humidity levels of less than 25 percent are common in the cabin](https://www.qantas.com/sg/en/travel-info/travel-advice/your-health-inflight.html). I live in Singapore, where the humidity levels can reach up to 100 percent, yet I still suffer from dry skin problems. A healthy person might just get cracked lips and a croaky voice, but the slightest pain is often amplified in your body if you live with chronic illness. I'd skip the alcohol selection for now, and save it for when you land. It not only [dehydrates you further, but is inflammatory and might trigger more pain](https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/healthyliving/how-alcohol-affects-your-body) if you're travelling with a chronic illness. I have a [LARQ Bottle](https://imp.i263265.net/rQ1xAj) Movement PureVis, which is really useful for travelling, camping, or even whilst on-the-go back home. You can fill it up with tap water from anywhere, and simply press a button to purify it and kill bacteria with UV light. It also cleanses the bottle periodically to keep the water fresh. Get up to 20% off Larq bottles here: [![Get up to 20% off Larq bottles here](//a.impactradius-go.com/display-ad/11455-1735424)](https://imp.i263265.net/c/2113489/1735424/11455)![](https://imp.pxf.io/i/2113489/1735424/11455) ### Limit Germ Contact I suppose there isn't much you can do if you're sitting beside a sick passenger (oh no!), so just try to remain calm. I switch seats with a healthy travel partner if I can. Since the pandemic, it's more common to wear a mask as well, so don't forget to bring plenty of masks along. I personally have an [Airinum Lite mask](https://amzn.to/47QDvnD) with [replaceable filters](https://amzn.to/485AYGn), which I strap around my neck for convenience. Other popular reusable filtration air masks are [Vogmask](https://amzn.to/46sJgXA), and [Cambridge Mask](https://cambridgemask.com/). They all come in a variety of cute patterns or colours. I also carry alcohol wipes in my little pouch wherever I go to clean dirty tables, toilet bowl seats and whatnot. I also use them to disinfect my phone and earphones when I reach home. It doesn't hurt to carry them around whilst travelling too, on top of a good hand sanitiser for when no soap is available. ### Move Around & Keep Your Blood Flowing Something else that I try to do is to get an aisle seat for any flight that's more than 4 hours. You can try requesting for this at the assisted check-in counter, though it's better to do so 48 hours beforehand by checking in online, as the flight might be fully booked. You might have to pay a small fee to do so, especially if it's a budget airline. Even healthy people can get [**DVTs (Deep Vein Thrombosis) on long flights**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/#DVT); [**I have Antiphospholipid Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/), a blood clotting disorder, which increases that risk. Sitting along the aisle makes it easier for me and everyone else as I go for my routine toilet breaks and mini strolls every hour. I do my silly exercises in the toilet, which includes jogging on the spot and wide hip twists. Sometimes I giggle to myself because it feels ridiculous, but a girl's got to do what she's got to do to arrive in one piece ;) [Here are more simple exercises you can do whilst onboard a flight, from Washington Post](https://www.washingtonpost.com/travel/tips/flight-seat-exercises-stretches-dvt/). ### Make the Travel Process from Start to End as Smooth as Possible Travelling can be exhausting even for a healthy person. I prefer to take a day flight if that option is available, as I'm usually in the [most pain at night](http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2478568/Why-illnesses-worse-night-From-arthritis-colds-heart-disease-changes-body-clock--fact-youre-lying--send-symptoms-soaring.html), and need to take my medications before I feel alive in the morning. Whenever I take an overnight flight, I always need a day to two to recover from the aftermath. It's also double the misery when I'm trapped in a cramped chair whilst aching all over in the night. All the waiting around and security checks at the airport whilst dragging your luggage around takes up time and energy as well. Energy that a healthy person has to spare, but not you. You are all here to enjoy your holiday, so allocate your energy supply wisely! Make the process of leaving your house up to stepping foot into your hotel as smooth as possible. I print out all my flight and accommodation details (you guessed it - off it goes into that clear folder). Whilst many hotels accept digital confirmation these days, I have always found good old paper to be more reliable. This is especially true in countries or places where internet connection is sketchy. I've seen people getting rejected at hotels, even though they have an email confirmation from a third-party booking site such as Agoda or Booking .com. Somehow my printed copy seems more legitimate. It's also easier to refer to your hotel address should there be language barriers, or issues with your mobile device. Pin to Your Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability Boards: ![Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness and Disability](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/top-tips-for-travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/) ## 5\. Adjust Medication Schedules to the Destination Timezone Lots of people with chronic illnesses need to take medications a few times a day, every day. I have pills I need to take in the morning, afternoon and night, and sometimes others are added on top of them. It may create a bit of anxiety if you're travelling to a destination that has a significant timezone difference. The best way to stay on top of this schedule is to start adapting to your destination timezone even before you depart. You can take your medications an hour or two earlier or later, so that the time difference isn't too wide, and so that it isn't overly disruptive to your regular routine. Once you land, you can adjust it further, bit by bit. I personally am a little lazier, and only start adjusting my medication schedule on the flight, where my mind is in the "I'm travelling for real!" zone. I take my medications up to 4 hours earlier/later than usual, aimed at the destination timezone. It then takes about a day or two for me to fully adapt my medication schedule thereafter. Note that this works for me and my types of medications, but may not work for you. So do check with your own doctor should you be unsure about how to adjust your medications whilst travelling with chronic illness or disability. ## 6\. Use the Tools You Have Whilst Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability All the little details to take care of, moving around, and changes in routine can drain your energy bar pretty quickly. Whatever assistance, medication or mobility aid you have - use them. I've read many accounts of people with chronic illness or disability who do so - and not one of them have regretted making that choice. You're there to have fun with your travel companions after all, and not to prove how much you can tough things out at the risk of a pain flare. ### It's Okay to be a Little More Liberal with Your Painkillers & Medications I try to control my intake of painkillers and steroids as I have limited [painkiller options](https://patient.info/treatment-medication/painkillers), and don't want to build up a resistance to what I can take. But I've also come to realise how silly it is not to use these pain medications that I'm *allowed* to take whilst travelling with a chronic illness and disability. I've wasted days on holidays simply because I was in too much pain to walk, or felt too fatigued to leave the hotel. It's ridiculous! These days I am a little more liberal with the tools I have; this simple short-term change has improved the quality of my holidays by a great deal. This also includes anti-anxiety tablets, or [whatever medications you need to keep your chronic illness at bay](https://www.healthcentral.com/pain-management/chronic-pain-medications). You don't go on a holiday all year round, so try to maximise the pleasure, and minimise the pain! Read Related Posts: - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [What’s it Like to be on a High Dose of Steroids? (And the First Question You Will Definitely Ask)](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [You Don’t Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) ### Bring All the Mobility Aids You Might Need With my permanent knee injuries now, I also need to bring along a walking stick for those extra bad days (or simply to swipe at annoying people who have no sense of personal space, or who are glued to their phones whilst walking). I have a quad-cane and a nicer looking one, but I think I will be getting myself a foldable one for my future travels as well. I've come to realise that having a walking cane that can stand on its own 'feet' is actually a must-have whilst travelling, because my hands will be pretty full. It can be pretty annoying with my sleek walking stick, where I keep needing to find surfaces to prop it against whilst I rearrange my items. If you are travelling with a wheelchair or motorised scooter, you will want to check with the airlines and insurance company, and see how they can best help you out. You might also want to do some detective work via Google beforehand, to see what the experiences were like for previous disabled customers. Avoid bad service like the plague - you don't want a missing or damaged wheelchair when you land at your holiday destination (which would probably end up costing you more than taking a more inclusive airline company). Mobility aids aren't just confined to wheelchairs or walking canes either. Yes, electric can (and wine!) openers are counted. Whatever else you need to keep yourself most mobile during your holiday - find a way to bring it along. P.s. If you do drink, these wine wands are great for filtering antihistamines and sulfites from wines, *without* compromising on taste or alcohol levels. You can [**read my review on Drink Pure Wine here**](https://achronicvoice.com/drink-pure-wine-review/) for more details. Read Related Posts: - [Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care: Introduction to the Series (1/6](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-introduction/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) - [Would You Rather: Have an Invisible Illness or a Visible Disability?](https://achronicvoice.com/rather-have-invisible-illness-or-disability/) - [YuYu Bottle Review: Hot Water Bottle for ‘Surround Warmth’ Pain Relief](https://achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-review/) ## 7\. Non-Tangible - But Practical - Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability In order to actually find some enjoyment from travelling with chronic illness and disability, it's important to accept your limitations, and to make peace with these added hassles. Yes, it's annoying that we need to take all these extra precautions and spend more time and money for safety's sake, but life experiences, at least to me, are worth all that and more. There is no point in denying that we're physically weaker in many ways, but if we are able to be our best selves (ill or otherwise), the right people will enjoy your company nonetheless. Do remember that it's okay to ask for help whenever you need it. Should you try to do it all on your own, you might end up in a pain flare, which would affect your travel companions too. It's not 'wrong' or 'bad' to ask for help, especially when it's a true need. Others probably also have more energy than you do, so it might not affect them that much as it will you. ## Some Inspirational & Motivational Travel Quotes to Get You Going Here are some quotes to inspire, motivate, and hopefully get you to book that next ticket to check one off your bucket list! > “Maybe life isn’t about avoiding the bruises. > Maybe it’s about collecting the scars to prove that we showed up for it.” > — Hannah Brencher > “What is the bravest thing you’ve ever said?”, asked the boy. > “Help”, said the horse. “Asking for help isn’t giving up. It’s refusing to give up.” > ― Charlie Mackesy, The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse > “Think of giving not as a duty but as a privilege.” > – John D. Rockefeller Jr. ➡️ For your travel companions ;) [View more inspirational & motivational quotes on our Quotes Page.](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) I hope that you found these travel tips for travelling with chronic illness and disability helpful! Do you have similar protocols, or more tips to share? I would love to hear them. Have a happy holiday! [Check out our travel guest posts on Huffington Post.](https://www.huffpost.com/entry/the-strange-sensations-on-a-train-in-china%5Fb%5F57620c73e4b07d4d0a41aff1) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [“It’s in My Blood”: Sarah Poitras – Round the World with a Lung Disease](https://achronicvoice.com/sarah-poitras-travelling-world-lung-disease/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Bree Dixon – Paris Je T’aime, Even with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/bree-dixon-paris-je-taime-chronic-pain/) - [Invisible in Florence: Life with Chronic Illness in Italy](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-florence-chronic-illness-italy/) - [Invisible in Singapore: What’s It Like to Live Here with Chronic Illnesses?](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/) - [Travelling New Paths with Chronic Illnesses in My Pocket](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-new-paths-chronic-illness/) - [Asking for Help (and Why Everyone Needs to Learn this Important Life Skill)](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) Read More Experiences & Travel Tips from the Chronic Illness & Disability Community: - [Traveling As A Disabled Person – The Angst and Anxiety (My Several Worlds)](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/2023/06/08/traveling-as-a-disabled-person/) - [How to Travel with a Chronic Condition (Wayfaring with Wagner)](https://www.wayfaringwithwagner.com/travel-chronic-condition/) - [5 Tips for Taking Road Trips When You're Chronically Ill (The Mighty)](https://themighty.com/topic/ehlers-danlos-syndrome/road-tripping-when-ill/) - [12 Tips for Traveling by Train With Chronic Illness (The Mighty)](https://themighty.com/topic/fibromyalgia/tips-advice-traveling-train-chronic-illness/) - [My Weekend in London + Strategies That Helped Me To Manage Chronic Pain (February Stars)](https://februarystars.co.uk/weekend-in-london/) - [How to pack your medication when flying? (Probe Around the Globe)](https://www.probearoundtheglobe.com/how-to-pack-your-medication-when-flying/) - [Traveling While Chronically Ill (The Fresh Co)](https://www.therefresh.co/2017/07/19/traveling-while-chronically-ill/) - [9 Tips For Chronic Illness Travelers (Highway to Healing)](https://highwaytohealingblog.wordpress.com/2018/06/01/9-tips-for-chronic-illness-travelers/) - [Flying with POTS: How I Prepare and What I Bring (Patience and Pajamas)](https://patienceandpajamas.com/flying-with-pots-how-i-prepare-and-what-i-bring/) - [Navigating Sorrento with a Physical Disability (Tripping Through Treacle)](https://trippingthroughtreacle.com/navigating-sorrento-with-a-physical-disability/) - [Vacation Packing List & Disney World Packing Essentials (Gutsy Feeling)](https://gutsyfeeling.com/2018/12/16/vacation-packing-list-disney-world-packing-essentials/) - [Accessible travel tips from frequent travelers (Travel Breathe Repeat)](https://www.travelbreatherepeat.com/accessible-travel-tips/) - [10 helpful tips for traveling with lupus (Hannah on Horizon)](https://hannahonhorizon.com/10-helpful-tips-for-traveling-with-lupus/) ### References: - Barbhaiya, M., & Costenbader, K. (2014). Ultraviolet radiation and systemic lupus erythematosus. *Lupus, 23*(6), 588–595\. - Merchant, L., Lutter, R., & Chang, S. (2020). Identical or similar brand names used in different countries for medications with different active ingredients: A descriptive analysis. *BMJ Quality & Safety, 29*(12), 988–991\. ### 365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement URL: https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/ Last updated: 2026-08-26T14:24:01.000Z ## A Note from A Chronic Voice I’d like to thank [Chloe of “Nyxie’s Nook”](https://www.instagram.com/nyxtrix/) for these 365 mindfulness journaling prompts for self-improvement. Journaling is a fantastic activity and tool to help unlock pieces of your heart, mind and soul that are ‘stuck’, so to speak. I personally use a [digital app, Daylio](https://daylio.net/), to log snippets of my day with a photo, like a mini diary. I started doing so as suggested by my psychiatrist, to see where my anxiety triggers lie. Whilst it’s not a symptom diary, I would say that I enjoy scrolling through these snippets to see how my life has progressed. In this post, Chloe shares 365 mindfulness journaling prompts for self-improvement – yes, prompts that you can use all year round! Whilst you may not journal every day – which is normal – it’s still nice to have a repository of ideas to help stimulate personal growth and work on self-improvement, even if it’s in bits and pieces. Let’s read what Chloe has to share today! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes and is based on the author(s)’ personal experiences. *I/We are not doctors, and nothing in this post should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contains affiliate links, which will cost you nothing should you click on them. I will get a small referral fee from any purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog.* [***Read our Privacy Policy page***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/) *for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Mindfulness Journaling & Writing Prompts Boards: ![365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement.jpg) ## A Note from Chloe of “Nyxie’s Nook” When I made the decision to take my Anorexia Nervosa recovery seriously, I began looking into ways for self-improvement and personal growth. I was coming out of, what I would describe – a long-term toxic relationship with self-neglect. I suffered from various mental and physical illnesses as a result of that. After I lost my dream job, I knew that things had gone too far. It was time that I took back control of my own life. I went for therapy and treatment for [Anorexia Nervosa](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/anorexia-nervosa/symptoms-causes/syc-20353591), which is an insidious mental illness that is often downplayed by society. I attended all the group meetings, and even did additional work for self-improvement at home. ## **When I Began Journaling for Self-Improvement** It was during this time that I put my love for writing into practice, and began journaling. I was able to transform my troubles into words, and found a safe space within the many pages of my journal. I shared some of these thoughts and revelations with my therapist but not everything, and that’s okay. After all, journaling is a mindful and private practice, and what’s written within those pages belongs to you, first and foremost. When I discovered mindfulness and its many benefits, it was only natural that I incorporated those into my journaling practice. It helped me to dive deeper into difficult questions that I had pushed into a corner of my mind for too long. ## **How Mindfulness Journaling Can Help You** You see, mindfulness gives us the tools to help increase self-awareness and our emotional intelligence. It helps us to connect with our thoughts, feelings and experiences without judgement. From there, we can begin to work on personal growth, through the identification of root causes and triggers. More importantly, being mindful can subsequently help with how we react to things, and build up resilience to manage this thing called life. Read Related Posts: - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [I May be Chronically Ill, but I’m Also Chronically Resilient](https://achronicvoice.com/chronically-ill-resilient/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable ](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) ## **How These 365 Mindfulness journaling Prompts Can be Used for Self-Improvement** [According to Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/consumer-health/in-depth/mindfulness-exercises/art-20046356): > “Mindfulness is a type of meditation in which you focus on being intensely aware of what you’re sensing and feeling in the moment, without interpretation or judgment. Practicing mindfulness involves breathing methods, guided imagery, and other practices to relax the body and mind and help reduce stress.” Some of the keywords for mindfulness are: sensation, awareness, presence and release. The primary purpose isn’t to solve problems, make judgements or to take action. It’s a focus on the here and now, and to allow thoughts and feelings to come and go, rise and fall. It isn’t about detachment from these feelings or thoughts, but rather, detachment from judgement and interpretation, which can be unhelpful at ‘best’, and destructive at worst. By doing so, you can uncover repressed emotions, truths and even feel less stressed. No matter where you are on your recovery or journaling journey, mindfulness can help you to work towards your goals with self-compassion, self-love, and self-awareness. These 365 mindful journaling prompts for self-improvement have been pieced together in a manner that provokes thought, rather than to force you to come to a conclusion about something in your life. You can use them as catalysts for those days when you feel like you have nothing to write about, or have run into mental block. You can also expand or adapt them to fit your own journaling style, and to the circumstances of your own life. I’ve tried to divide the prompts to revolve around the calendar year, as each season comes with its own beauty and challenges. But that doesn’t mean that you have to follow any particular order either – do what feels best and right for you. Take a look at the 365 mindfulness journaling prompts for self-improvement below, and let me know if any of these helped you with your reflection and journaling practice! ## **365 Mindfulness journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement:** ### January Mindfulness Journaling Prompts (Theme: New Beginnings) *Special Days: New Year* 1. Happy New Year! What is one big or small goal that you’d like to achieve by the end of the year? Can you visualise how you’ll feel once you’ve reached that milestone? 2. What is one thing you can commit to today, so that your near or distant future self will thank you for? 3. What do you hope to reinforce through this journaling practice? It could be as simple as creating a new helpful routine, or as deep as doing inner work and learning more about yourself. 4. What are you excited about right now or of late? It could be an upcoming holiday, or simply taking some downtime at the end of a long day. 5. What is your [**favourite quote (or three!)**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/), and how does it inspire or comfort you? 6. What are you able and willing to let go of this week? It can be a small thing, such as not tidying the entire house due to chronic pain, or a big thing, such as forgiving someone who has done you wrong. 7. When do you feel most energised? Perhaps a certain time or day, in solitude, or in company? How can you use that energy for yourself and the greater good? 8. Do you have a dream that is achievable yet unfulfilled? Dream about it a little more today! And if you have the right energy, perhaps write a few actionable steps that you can do to achieve this. 9. What do you value most in life? Are you standing by these values and how so? If you aren’t, how can you realign yourself with them? 10. List three things you can do this year to take better care of your physical health. They can be small things, such as doing a few morning stretches, or a bigger thing such as eating healthier dinners. 11. List three things you can do this year to take better care of your mental health. It can be as small as saying a positive affirmation every morning, or something a bit bigger such as going to see a psychologist for any mental health issues. 12. List three things you can do this year to [**take better care of your emotional well-being**](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/). It can be a small thing such as creating a peaceful night routine, or something that you find harder, such as setting personal boundaries. 13. What would you do if you had an extra hour every day, and why? 14. What [**skill(s) would you most like to learn or build upon**](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/), and what does that mean to you? 15. In expansion of yesterday’s journaling prompt, how could you learn or build those skills? 16. What was your biggest mistake in life, and what did you learn? How can this lesson help you in future? 17. What will you do today that will benefit you tomorrow? (If you’re journaling at night, then the day after!) 18. What’s something you will regret not doing? Will you do it eventually, and how will you get there? 19. Bad moods happen. When you feel like you’re in one of those moods, how can you turn things around? 20. What is your dream destination and why? Who would you like to accompany you on that trip? 21. What is something you would attempt to do, if your health and circumstances permitted you to? 22. What was your big win for the day? It could be seemingly simple yet hard, such as getting out of bed whilst in pain. Or something big, such as speaking at a public conference! 23. How do you respond to crises or emergencies? How can you improve on that? 24. Think about a controversial issue or opinion that you feel strongly about. Now write [**something defending the opposite**](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/). How did that make you feel and did you learn anything about yourself or others? 25. What kind of an adult did you want to become as a child? Are you that person now or better? If you’re not where you want to be, what steps can you take to work towards it? 26. What was your dream job as a child and why? Are you working in that line of work now, and is it everything you thought it would be? 27. Describe yourself in 10 words. Do you like what you see? If you don’t, why and how can you change that for the better? 28. What’s your deepest secret desire? What stops you from revealing it to others? 29. What helps you stay focused when you feel your mind wandering off? 30. What is something in your life that you don’t do enough of, but think you should? 31. Success is not necessarily related to career or finances. What does success mean to you? How can you have a healthier perspective of success? Pin to Your January Mindfulness & Journaling Boards: ![January Prompts — Theme: New Beginnings](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/january-prompts-theme-new-beginnings.jpg) ![January Journal Prompts — Theme: New Beginnings](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/january-journal-prompts-theme-new-beginnings-one-thing-commit-today-future-self-thank-you.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Are You a Capable Person? What Does That Even Mean?](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) - [Every Next Level of Your Life Will Demand a Different You](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) - [Life is a Long Process of Becoming Into...](https://achronicvoice.com/life-is-a-long-process-of-becoming-into/) - [The Secret of Change: Spend Your Energy Wisely with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/secret-of-change/) - [Timeless Duties Toward Life Every New Year](https://achronicvoice.com/new-year-duties-life/) ## February Mindfulness Journaling Prompts (Theme: Loving Kindness) *Special Days: Valentine’s Day* 1. List five things that you love about yourself. If you come up blank, then imagine that you’re your own best friend who’s listing these things down. 2. What does unconditional love mean to you? Would you like to give and receive more of that in your life? Why or why not? 3. What do you love most about your body? It could be your eyes, how hard it works for you every day, or even your scars. 4. How do you [**show love and support to a friend in need**](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/)? 5. What are [**some forms of support**](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) you wish your friends or family would show you more of? 6. What is one thing you can do to show love to someone who matters today? It can even be someone who is in general need, because every life is precious. 7. What are three things you love about life in general? 8. What are three things you love about your own personal life? 9. What is your love language? How do you like to be shown love from others, and does this change depending on the type of relationship (romantic, platonic, familial, etc)? 10. What does familial love look like to you? 11. What does platonic love look like to you? 12. Who is your favourite person in the world? [**Furry companions count**](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/)! 13. List 10 acts of kindness that someone has done for you. They can be simple or elaborate! 14. Happy Valentine’s Day! What does romantic love look like to you? 15. Are you happy in your current [**romantic relationship**](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/)? Is there anything you can do to deepen that bond? If you aren’t in a romantic relationship right now, what does intimacy look like to you? 16. Is there someone whom you’ve lost in your life and miss? Write a letter in memory of them. 17. What is your most cherished possession, and what significance does it hold? 18. Who fully understands and ‘gets you’ as a person? Why do you think that is? 19. What are you [**passionate about in life**](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/), and how can you follow that passion? 20. If you were [**speaking to your body**](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/), what wonderful things would you tell it? 21. What are three things you look for in a relationship? 22. Think back to yesterday’s prompt. What are three positive or unique things you bring to every relationship? 23. What are your pitfalls as a friend or partner? Be honest! How can you work on improving these? 24. Are there any relationships in your life that could do with improvement? Why do you think that is, and how can you attempt to make things better? 25. Which relationships drain you? Why? What characteristics of those relationships feel unhealthy? 26. Are you different from your parents? How so, and how has this impacted your relationship? 27. What is your least favourite thing about yourself? Why is that? 28. Thinking back on yesterday’s prompt, how can you change your perception of that quality or attribute? 29. (Leap year!) “[**I am valuable**](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) and I see my value in…” Pin to Your February Writing Prompts & Journaling Boards: ![February Mindfulness Journaling Prompts — Check Them Out on a chronic voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/february-mindfulness-journaling-prompts.jpg) ![February Journaling Prompts. Theme: Loving Kindness. “What is one thing you can do to show love to someone who matters today? It can even be someone who is in general need, because every life is precious.”](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/february-journaling-prompts-theme-loving-kindness-show-love-life-recious-quote.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [Disability & Sex: Disabled People are Not Automatically Bad Sexual or Romantic Partners](https://achronicvoice.com/disability-and-sex/) - [How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationships with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/) - [4 Cool Truths My Partner Said (Unwittingly)](https://achronicvoice.com/cool-truths/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) ## March Mindfulness Journaling Prompts (Theme: Transformation & Empowerment) 1. [**What gives you strength**](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/), especially when the going gets tough? 2. What was the event where you think you showed the most courage in your entire life? 3. What [**negative thought patterns**](https://achronicvoice.com/difference-think-positive-stay-positive-chronic-pain/) do you want to break, and how do you think you can start to do so? 4. What is something you need to be truthful to yourself about, and how do you think being honest with yourself can be helpful? 5. What would your perfect day consist of? Are you able to re-imagine and create such a day within your capacity and environment? 6. “Today I believe that I can…” 7. What does having self-confidence mean to you? 8. When did you [**last feel helpless**](https://achronicvoice.com/splitting-your-burdens/), and how did you cope with it? 9. “My top goal(s) for this week are…” 10. [When it comes to learning, how do you best go about it](https://www.lifehack.org/572775/find-your-own-learning-style-make-learning-more-easy-and-effective)? Are you a visual, audio, tactile learner or something else? 11. What inspires you to [**take positive action**](https://achronicvoice.com/give-your-best-even-when-feeling-depressed/)? 12. It’s important that you forgive yourself in order to move forward with more freedom. What will you forgive yourself for today? 13. What is your [**favourite mantra or affirmation**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/), and how does it make you feel? 14. What do you envision in your future? Can you imagine a more empowered one? 15. What are your best qualities, and how can you use this to create a better life? 16. What do you want to improve on? It can be a hobby, skill or personal trait. 17. [**What does productivity mean to you**](https://achronicvoice.com/july-maximise-wellbeing-stress/), and when are you most productive? 18. When did you last break a rule? How did you feel and what were the consequences (if any)? 19. Which teacher, professor or mentor had a real impact on your life? Was it good or bad? Why? 20. Who else in your life has left a lasting impact, and for what reasons? 21. What is your greatest fear and why? How can you work towards overcoming it? 22. What is something that you avoid at all costs, or until you absolutely have to? Is that a healthy or unhealthy thing to do? 23. Think about your most embarrassing experience and write about it. Push through feeling uncomfortable about it. 24. What’s something you [**wish you had known 10 years ago**](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/)? 25. When you leave this world, what do you want to be most remembered for? 26. What was important to you 5 years ago that no longer is? How come? What’s changed? 27. What recent challenges have you overcome, and how did that make you feel? 28. Write about a time you stepped out of your comfort zone. What did it bring you? 29. Think about a time you completely [**changed your views**](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) on something. What was it and why the change of heart? 30. How can you brighten someone else’s day? Is this something you can do every day or often? 31. How can you use your greatest strength to empower yourself today? It could be applicable to a physical activity, thought or even perspective. Pin to Your Self-Awareness & Affirmations Boards: ![March Journal Prompts. Theme: Transformation and Empowerment. Get Them All. a chronic voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/march-journal-proompts-theme-transformation-empowerment.jpg) ![March Journaling Prompts. Theme: Transformation and Empowerment. “What would your perfect day consist of? Are you able to re-imagine and create such a day within your capacity and environment?”](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/march-journaling-prompts-perfect-day-reimagine-create-within-capacity-environment.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [Kick Ass With Kindness and a Sweet Cherry on Top](https://achronicvoice.com/kick-ass-with-kindness/) ## April Mindfulness Journaling Prompts (Theme: Imagination, Creativity & Hope) *Special Days: Good Friday, Easter* 1. If you were to write a book about your life, what would the title be? And why should people read it? 2. What 5 – 10 things remind you of spring time? 3. What do you imagine a perfect society would look like? 4. What would your [**dream vacation**](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) consist of? 5. What does creativity look like to you? 6. Building off yesterday’s prompt, do you think you are a creative person, and why or why not? 7. What is one good intention you can set for yourself today or tomorrow? 8. Laughing is good for your health! Write down three [**things that never fail to make you laugh**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/). 9. What kind of humour do you enjoy the most? What is it that you like about such humour the most, and do others around you appreciate it as much as you do? 10. Write about a time where you found a surprising opportunity within a challenging situation. 11. What would you wish for, if a genie were to grant you five wishes right now? 12. What is your favourite mythical creature and why? Add a sketch if you’re artistic! 13. What is worrying you the most right now and why? Are these worries real or unfounded? 14. What would your dream house look like? 15. Create a [**bucket list**](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/) for your next milestone birthday! 16. If money wasn’t an issue, what would you do with your time? 17. If you could donate a million dollars to a charity organisation, which one would it be and why? 18. If you could travel backwards or forwards in time, would you, and what would you change or want to see? 19. What do you think about the phrase, “Is the glass half-full or half-empty”? Do you have a side you lean towards, or a completely different take on it? 20. Write about a time when everything you’d hoped would happen, did. 21. Think back to your childhood. What was your favourite book, TV show or video game? Why did you like it as a child? 22. Do you feel that yesterday’s answer has influenced your life now? [Are you still that child deep down inside](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/my-inner-child-and-the-angry-girl)? 23. What do you miss most about being a kid, if at all? 24. How can you [**enjoy nature**](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) today? 25. What colours do you think reflect Spring? 26. What are your current life goals? How are you working towards them? 27. What was your [**favourite hobby**](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) as a child? Do you still enjoy it? 28. Write a letter to your child self. What do you think is most important to convey? 29. If your body could send you a clear, direct message, what do you think it would try telling you with the most urgency? 30. If you could give yourself the [**advice you needed as a teenager**](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/), what would it be? Pin to Your Mindfulness, Creativity & Journaling Boards: ![April Mindfulness Journaling Prompts. (Theme: Imagination, Creativity and Hope.) Pastel floral illustrations adorn the background, with tasteful splashes of gold streaks. The words stand out against a royal purple text box.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/april-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-theme-imagination-creativity-hope.jpg) ![April Journaling Prompts. Theme: Imagination, Creativity and Hope. “Laughing is good for your health! Write down three things that never fail to make you laugh.” www . a chronic voice .com (A simple pastel notebook, black pen and black coffee have been laid flat on a clean white table. Eucalyptus and baby's breath are in a vase nearby. The photo gives off a Scandinavian hygge vibe.)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/april-journaling-prompts-theme-imagination-creativity-hope-laughing-health.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Featuring People with Illnesses, Passions & Talents](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-people-illnesses-talents/) - [How to Use the Tetris Effect to Invite Positivity Back into Your Life, Despite Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/tetris-effect-positivity-chronic-illness/) ## May Mindfulness Journaling Prompts (Theme: Self-Acceptance & The Little Things in Life) *Special Days: Mother’s Day* 1. Write down one thing you can see, smell, hear, touch and taste right here and now. 2. What is your [**favourite song**](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/)? Take your time to think about why you like it – how does the lyrics or tune make you feel? 3. Which five things/people/animals/etc would you save, if you had to leave your home in an emergency? 4. Discuss a time when you listened to your intuition, and was that helpful? 5. Is nature a part of your daily life? If not, how can you bring it into your life a little more? 6. Write about seven unique, exciting or odd things in your life. Dig deep, they may not be that obvious! 7. What is one small thing that can make your day or totally turn it around? 8. What has been your favourite memory of the year so far? What do you treasure about it? 9. What was your last dream about, and what do you think it was trying to convey? 10. What was the last nightmare you had? How did it make you feel? 11. What was the first thought you had this morning? Is it a [**daily occurrence**](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) and why? 12. Do you recall what you were doing or where you were on this exact date last year? 13. Which social media platform are you drawn to and use the most? Do you think you’re addicted to using your phone? 14. Looking back on yesterday’s prompt, do you think you need to reduce your screen time? How is that achievable? 15. Take a look around the room. Write a story about the person or people who occupy this space. 16. What is your favourite food in the world? What do you like about it? 17. What about your favourite drink in the world? 18. How would your day be different without the most important person in your life? This ‘person’ can be a furry companion, too! 19. What is [**one small thing you can do every day**](https://achronicvoice.com/life-is-a-long-process-of-becoming-into/) that will have positive compounding effects on your life? 20. When you [**close your eyes at night**](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/), what usually comes to mind? Are they happy or troubling thoughts? Let them come, and let them go tonight. 21. What is your favourite plant or flower and why? Is it the colours, its resilience, or something else? What does it remind you of? 22. Write a short story or paragraph about the last photo you took on your camera reel. 23. What is the earliest memory you have about your life? Why do you think this left a lasting impression? 24. You are given a chance to reverse or erase an event from your past. What is it, and why erase it? 25. Going off yesterday’s prompt, think about what would happen if you erased said event. Do you think losing this experience, no matter how painful, would change you as a person? How so? 26. What’s something that you would like to improve about your home or [**work environment**](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/)? Are there actionable steps you can take to make that happen? 27. When was the last time someone told you that they were proud of you? What was it for? 28. [**As a local**](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/), are there places you still haven’t visited in your own country that are considered a ‘must’ by travellers? Why is that? 29. What imperfections do you have? Which do you most value and why? 30. What are your favourite aspects about your personality? How does that set you apart from others in a good way? 31. Which parts of your personality do hold you back and why? Pin to Your Writing Community & Self-Care Boards: ![May Mindfulness Journaling Prompts (Theme: Self-Acceptance and The Little Things in Life). The corner of a Mac laptop, a bronze bowl of paperclips, a shiny pen, and notebook with a marbled design cover can be seen laid flat against a black background.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/may-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-theme-self-acceptance-little-things-life.jpg) ![May Mindfulness Journaling Prompts (Theme: Self-Acceptance and The Little Things in Life). What are your favourite aspects about your personality? How does that set you apart from others in a good way?](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/may-journaling-prompts-theme-self-acceptance-little-things-life-favourite-personality.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [What’s it Like to be the Mother of a Sick Child? (Precious Insights from My Own Mum)](https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/) - [You Don’t Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) - [Dealing with Pain, One Second at a Time](https://achronicvoice.com/dealing-with-pain/) [Subscribe for More](#/portal/) ## June Mindfulness Journaling Prompts (Theme: Maintaining Balance) *Special Days: Father’s Day* 1. Can you believe we’re already halfway through the year?! Do you remember your goals from January? How are you doing with them? 2. Do you have any new goals for the next half of the year? What are they? 3. Think about a time in your life that you felt most balanced and aligned with your values. What was going on then that helped you to feel that way? 4. Do you like summer? What do you enjoy most about the summer season? 5. What are some of your favourite childhood summer memories? 6. What makes you most uncomfortable? Is there something you can do during those moments to feel more at ease again? It could be a grounding technique, [breathing exercises](https://www.healthline.com/health/breathing-exercise), visualisation or something else. 7. What are some toxic habits that you need to give up? What would motivate you to give them up? 8. List three outdoor activities that you enjoy doing. 9. In contrast with yesterday’s journaling prompts, list three [**indoor activities**](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) that you enjoy doing. 10. What would a better work-life balance look like to you? 11. How can you realistically [**add more mindfulness into your everyday life**](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/)? 12. What is your [**favourite daily routine or ritual**](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/), and how does it make you feel? Can you recreate more of that particular good feeling in your life? 13. What is your idea of a balanced meal or diet? Do you consume such a diet, and what prevents or helps you to maintain this? 14. Write how each season affects your mood and energy levels. 15. Name a big decision that you’ve been weighing, and how you are considering it. How will this decision impact your life? What’s the best possible outcome? 16. What’s one thing you’d like or hope to do that will [**improve your physical health**](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/)? 17. In continuation of yesterday’s prompt, what about something that you’d like to do to improve your mental health? 18. Are you good at communication? What are some ways you can be better at it? 19. How do you cope with being wrong? Do you admit it or argue against it? How can you improve? How can you [**be a better listener**](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/)? 20. Close your eyes and take deep breaths for 3 minutes. What thoughts came into your head? Write them down. 21. What have you learned this year so far? 22. What are three things you’re grateful for today? In reflection of that knowledge, how would you like to move forward today/tomorrow? 23. What is [**one thing you can improve in your bedroom**](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/)? Is it the lighting, pillows, clutter or something else? 24. What makes you feel most alive? How can you strive towards more of such moments? 25. Connect with yourself – what are you feeling right now, and why might that be? Let it rise, breathe, and release it, slowly if you must. 26. Do you feel supported in your life? Who belongs to your support system? 27. What aspects of your life do you take for granted? Be honest with yourself! 28. List 10 things that are within your locus of control, and that you can use to improve the quality of your life. 29. List 10 things that you can’t control, yet worries you. Remember that whilst these may cause anxiety, they’re outside your control, so try to let them go. Focus instead on the things from yesterday’s journaling prompt. 30. Think about tomorrow. What are some little things you can do to make it great, no matter how you will feel? Pin to Your Mindfulness & Journaling Boards: ![June Journaling Prompts (Theme: Maintaining Balance). Do you have any new goals for the next half of the year? What are they? — Get all 365 prompts in the post!](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/june-journaling-prompts-theme-maintaining-balance-new-goals.jpg) ![Get the mindfulness journaling prompts for June (Theme: Maintaining Balance)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/mindfulness-journaling-prompts-june-theme-maintaining-balance.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [What’s it Like to be the Father of a Child with Chronic Illness? (Precious Insights from My Own Dad!)](https://achronicvoice.com/father-of-child-with-chronic-illness/) - [Give Your Best Anyway, Even When You’re Feeling Depressed](https://achronicvoice.com/give-your-best-even-when-feeling-depressed/) - [Asking for Help (and Why Everyone Needs to Learn this Important Life Skill)](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) ## July Mindfulness Journaling Prompts (Theme: Freedom, Creativity & Self-Expression) *Special Days: Independence Day* 1. What’s your first memory of feeling independent? 2. Do you remember how you celebrated your 21st birthday? (Or if you’re younger, then the last big birthday!) Did you have a good time, and what did you like most about it? 3. What is something you no longer believe in? Why? 4. What is the most surreal experience you’ve had to date? How did that make you feel, or what thoughts came to mind? 5. What is one creative way you can practise self-care today? 6. What are your top three strengths? If you’re unsure, you can try the [VIA quiz here](https://www.viacharacter.org/)! 7. How can you focus on these strengths to excel in life? 8. Who is the person whom you feel like you can express your deepest thoughts and feelings most freely to? Share a bit more about this person, and what about them makes you feel that way. 9. What was your most creative project as a child that you’re proud of even up till today? 10. When it comes to decorating your dream home, what would you have on the walls? Family photos, artwork or something else? 11. How would you make a rainy day where you’re [**stuck indoors**](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) fun for yourself? 12. Do you think that you’re a creative person? If yes, how do you like to express that creativity? If no, then why not? 13. Building off yesterday’s journaling prompts, what has been your most creative project to date? Remember that creativity doesn’t only exist in the realm of art; it can even exist in the form of code, game strategy, home organisation and more! 14. What are some small things you can do to [**make your home environment more pleasant to live in**](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/)? It could be a specific room, or your whole house! 15. What thought scares you the most? What steps can you take to overcome it slowly and steadily? 16. In what situations do you undervalue yourself? How can you [**remind yourself of your worth**](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) in such situations? 17. Put together a list of seven songs that sum up the previous week. Be sure to list the emotions and/or events that inspired them. 18. Going off yesterday’s prompts, pick seven [**songs to inspire you**](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) for the week ahead. 19. What are three things you can choose to be grateful about today, despite circumstances or how you feel? 20. What is the [**most important life lesson you’ve learned so far**](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/), and how does that help you in life? 21. If you had one pain-free day with no obligations, duties, or things to worry about, how would you spend it? (Let’s throw in a large bank account too for good measure!) 22. What sort of artform do you enjoy the most? Is it classical paintings, manga, cinema, data visualisation or something else? What do you appreciate about it? 23. You’ve been asked to speak at your former school about what you’ve learned in life. What do you wish to share about the most? 24. How do you handle conflict? Do you shy away from it, or face it head on? How can you improve on this? 25. “In the future, [**I want to learn**](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/)…” 26. List three things that you’re [**capable of accomplishing**](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) for today. They can be small, simple things, too. 27. If you had one month to travel with all expenses covered, where would you go? Would it be a backpacking trip, a luxury cruise, a staycation or somewhere else? 28. When do you feel at your most vulnerable? Is it a reasonable fear, and how can you reframe your thoughts about it? 29. Are you working your dream job? What do you love about it? If you aren’t, [**what did you wish you could work as**](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) instead? 30. How do you feel about where you are in life, versus expectations from society or the people around you? 31. If you were to have dinner with a famous person (dead or alive), who would it be and why? What would you talk about? Pin to Your Mindfulness, Self-Love & Creativity Boards: ![July Mindfulness Journaling Prompts (Theme: Freedom, Creativity and Self-Expression)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/july-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-theme-freedom-creativity-.jpg) ![July Journaling (Theme: Freedom, Creativity and Self-Expression). “What is one creative way you can practise self-care today?”](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/july-journaling-theme-freedom-creativity-one-creative-way-practise-self-care-today-prompt.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) - [What’s It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) ## August Mindfulness Journaling Prompts (Theme: Pacing & Self-Care) 1. Do a worry dump and write down all the things that are worrying you. Now try to breathe, and visualise letting them go one by one. 2. Do you think [**technology contributes to your health**](https://achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/) or takes away from it? Why? 3. Are your [**stress levels**](https://achronicvoice.com/resisting-stress-supporting-supporters-september-2017/) different at different times of the week (e.g. weekends vs weekdays)? How can you work to even these out? 4. What kind of support system works best for you? Is it physical group support, a small [**family unit**](https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/), [**online friends**](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) or something/someone else? 5. Building off yesterday’s journaling prompt, how does your [**community encourage and empower you**](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/), and how do you support others in return? 6. Are you a [coffee, tea](https://bucketsoftea.co.uk/tea/coffee-tea-yin-yang/), or alcohol person? Do you think you drink too much of it and does it affect your sleep or mood? 7. Write out your [**general daily routine**](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/). What do you enjoy and what don’t you enjoy? 8. What good habits do you want to build in their place? 9. Write down five [**positive affirmations**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) that inspire you. 10. What is your most unhealthy [self-soothing](https://positivepsychology.com/self-soothing/) technique? In what ways can you change it into a healthy self-care technique instead? 11. What sort of activities drain you the most? Are there ways you can work around them even better? 12. What areas of your life do you wish you had more confidence in? 13. What [soft skills](https://www.lifehack.org/876969/soft-skills-list) have you decided are important in your life and built (e.g. communication skills, time management, empathy, etc)? 14. When it comes to self-care, what works best for you? 15. What do you like and dislike about yourself most? Can you work on [**honing your strengths**](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/)? 16. If there was one thing in your life that you would change, what would it be and why? 17. What else would you like to accomplish before the end of the year? Have your goals changed or expanded since the beginning of the year? 18. What was the most recent big change in your life? How did it impact your life journey subsequently? 19. What five [important life lessons](https://sicklessons.com/) did your parents, guardians, elders or mentors teach you as a child? Do you still bear them in mind even as an adult? 20. What is one thing about your life that you dislike? How can you [**reframe that into something more helpful or meaningful**](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/)? 21. What do others often compliment you about? 22. Looking back at yesterday’s prompt, do you find it hard to take compliments? Why do you think that is? 23. What is your deepest insecurity? Why do you think that is? 24. Do you drink enough water or have proper meals? If you don’t, how can you start or maintain it? 25. Do you feel better or worse after exercising? Is there a [**way to make exercise more accessible for yourself**](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/)? 26. [**Think back to the COVID19 pandemic**](https://achronicvoice.com/covid-19-vaccine-experiences/). What did you learn during this time? It can be a skill, a life lesson, or something else. 27. Do you [**worry about money**](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/)? How does that impact your daily life? 28. Are you a frugal person or a spendthrift? Is that a good or bad thing? 29. Do you admire any qualities in others that you’d like to adopt yourself? How can you do so? 30. When you think about the future, what feelings come up? What do you envision? 31. Think about the future again. Where do you hope to be in 5 years, and what little changes can you do to make that possible, or as close to possible? Pin to Your Self-Care & Well-Being Boards: ![August Mindfulness Journaling Prompts (Theme: Pacing and Self-Care)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/august-mindfulness-journaling-promts-theme-pacing-self-care.jpg) ![August Mindfulness Journaling Prompts (Theme: Pacing and Self-Care). “What was the most recent big change in your life? How did it impact your life journey subsequently?” — Get all prompts on A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/august-mindfulness-journaling-promts-theme-pacing-self-care-recent-big-change-impact-life-journey.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) - [“Stress Less” Course: By a Therapist Who Lives with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/stress-less-course-by-therapist-with-chronic-illness/) - [It is \*Always\* Possible to Make Time for What Matters Most](https://achronicvoice.com/make-time-what-matters-most/) ## September Mindfulness Journaling Prompts (Theme: Space & Relaxation) 1. Write down your ultimate [**way to relax**](https://achronicvoice.com/reconnecting-friends-family-sharing-social-media-september-2018/). 2. Which is your favourite room or spot in your home and why? 3. Thinking back to your home, how can you [**slowly begin to improve it**](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/)? Be realistic and write your ideas down here in bullet points. 4. To you, what is the perfect way to spend a day off? 5. List your [**favourite movies**](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/). Take time to discuss why you enjoy or connect with them. 6. List five things that have lifted your spirits today. They can be small things as well, such as something your pet did, or a kind word from a stranger. 7. What is the ultimate way to [**relax on a holiday**](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/)? Describe it in detail! 8. Take a moment to sit with yourself. How are you really feeling right now, and what is the root cause? 9. Do you like to travel alone, with a partner or in a group? Why is that so? 10. [**How do you feel when at parties or amongst crowds**](https://achronicvoice.com/survive-the-holidays-chronic-illness-disability-pain/)? Are you a people person, or do you prefer smaller intimate groups? 11. What does personal space look like to you? How do you feel when others do not respect it, and how can you [**protect this sacred space**](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/)? 12. Which [podcasts](https://sicklessons.com/) are you listening to and enjoying right now and why? If you’re not listening to any podcasts, what music are you listening to on repeat? 13. What is [**making you feel happy**](https://achronicvoice.com/find-happiness-chronic-illness/) right now? If nothing, then what was your last happy memory? 14. [**What do you do when you feel bored**](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/)? Can you bring more calm and peace to these moments? 15. Where do you need to [**practise setting boundaries**](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/) in your current life? 16. What three benefits do you get from being out in nature? 17. What can you realistically remove from your life for a better experience? 18. When do you feel most like an introvert? When do you feel most like an extrovert? 19. What has been weighing on your mind of late? What are some things you can do to release these worries? 20. What are your three [**favourite books**](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies-2/) and what have they taught you, or what did you enjoy about them the most? 21. What is your [**favourite daily ‘me time’ ritual**](https://achronicvoice.com/memory-parrotlets-designing-my-days-may-2018/) and what does it bring to your day? 22. What is the best way to [**calm yourself down**](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) when you’re feeling restless or anxious? 23. [**Do you get enough sleep**](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/)? If not,why do you think that is and how can you improve? 24. What makes you feel most pressured in life? Can you do something to [**reduce this pressure**](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/)? 25. Are you more of a routine or spontaneous person? Does that ‘get in the way’ at times? 26. When depressed or extremely down, what [**helps to cheer you up or make you feel better**](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/)? List three things you can keep in your toolkit for the future. 27. “We teach others how to treat us.” Going off this statement, are you setting the right boundaries in life? If not, how can you improve? 28. What game most brings out your competitive streak? It can be a computer, phone, ball, card, board game, etc. Do you think that it’s healthy and if not, how can you manage your feelings better? 29. When do you feel the happiest and most carefree in your own skin? 30. What do you want to escape from most? It could be the mundaneness of your routine or job, a person, place, or even a mental, imaginary frame of mind. Pin to Your Writing & Self-Care Boards: ![September Mindfulness Journaling Prompts (Theme: Space and Relaxation). Get the prompts on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/september-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-theme-space-and-relaxation.jpg) ![September Journaling Prompts (Theme: Space and Relaxation). What is your favourite daily ‘me time’ ritual, and what does it bring to your day? Get all the prompts on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/september-journaling-prompts-theme-space-relaxation-favourite-daily-me-time-ritual.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or ‘How to Relax’ by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [How Much Time Are You Wasting On Sleep?](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/) - [The Chronic Pain Cycle & How to Break It (Top Tips From an Occupational Therapist)](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/) - [To Live with Chronic Illness is to Learn to Live with Maybes](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-maybes/) ## October Mindfulness Journaling Prompts (Theme: Dark & Light) *Special Days: Halloween* 1. Who do you turn to [**when you need support**](https://achronicvoice.com/supporting-sometimes-letting-go/)? Why? 2. [**When you feel sad**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/), what do you do? Do you have healthy or risky coping techniques? What can you do better? 3. What do you enjoy most about Halloween? If you don’t celebrate, then what do you most enjoy about the October season in general? 4. What are five toxic habits that hold you back? 5. What piece of advice changed everything for you? 6. What made you feel happiest today? 7. Where do you feel [**stuck in life**](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/)? 8. Write about the most surprising helping hand you’ve ever received. 9. What is something you learned this week? 10. Write about the last argument or disagreement you had. Who was it with and what was it about? 11. What worries you the most in life? Is there something you can do to improve the situation? 12. What are you grateful for today? What made you get out of bed today? 13. What do you need to help you feel safe and secure in life? 14. Who made you feel happiest today? It can also be a pet or stranger! 15. When was the last time you cried and what sparked it? How do you feel about it now? 16. Who is somebody you look up to? What qualities do you admire about them? They can be famous or someone you know. 17. Think about a time when your [**anxiety was at its worst**](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/). How did you cope, and how do you think you can cope better the next time something like that happens again? 18. What are some of your favourite autumn/fall memories or [**family traditions**](https://achronicvoice.com/father-of-child-with-chronic-illness/)? 19. What are five things you like most about yourself right now? 20. What about five things that you like the least about yourself? What can you do to work and grow through them? 21. What do you [**need to hear from others**](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) right now? 22. Do you consider yourself a judgemental person? If so, how can you improve? 23. What’s your biggest regret in life, or is there something that you feel guilty about? 24. List three positive things from the past week. 25. What is your biggest pet peeve, and what about it makes you fume? 26. [**Do you compare yourself to others**](https://achronicvoice.com/dont-compare-life-destination-special/)? How does this make you feel, and what do you think the genuine root cause is behind it? 27. What do you want your loved ones to understand about you, but it’s [**just not getting through**](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/)? Maybe it’s your ‘complex’ job, unresolved trauma or something else. 28. What is the most [toxic thing your inner critic tells you](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/my-inner-child-and-the-angry-girl) all the time? How can you empower yourself instead? 29. What’s one obstacle in your life that you’re having a hard time overcoming? 30. List five things that you take pride in. 31. Do you find darkness peaceful or frightening? What kind of feelings does it invoke? Pin to Your Self-Reflection & Mindfulness Journaling Boards: ![October Journaling Prompts (Theme: Dark and Light). “What is the most toxic thing your inner critic tells you all the time? How can you empower yourself instead?” Get all the prompts on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/october-journaling-prompts-theme-dark-and-light-toxic-inner-critic-empower-instead.jpg) ![October mindfulness journaling prompts for people with chronic illness, mental health issues, or disabilities. Theme: Dark and Light. View them on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/october-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-chronic-illness-mental-health-disabilities-theme-dark-and-light.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [What Neverending Pain Reveals to You](https://achronicvoice.com/what-neverending-pain-reveals/) ## November Mindfulness Journaling Prompts (Theme: Showing Gratitude) *Special Days: Thanksgiving* 1. How have you shown appreciation lately? It can be to an individual or an organisation. 2. Think back to yesterday’s prompt – How can you show appreciation in everyday life going forward? 3. What do you appreciate most about your friends or family? 4. What positive legacy do you want to leave in this world? 5. What are three things are you grateful for when it comes to your job? If you [**don’t have a job**](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/), then your [**favourite hobby**](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/)! 6. What’s one change that you think would make the world a better place? 7. Let’s try some gratitude again. List 10 things you’re grateful for in life right now, and why each is important to you. 8. Which three people are you grateful for on a larger scale? (E.g. Marie Curie, Mahatma Gandhi, etc.) 9. What are three of the [**best gifts**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-gift-ideas/) that you’ve ever received, and what made them special? 10. What/who is something/someone you took for granted, and didn’t realise until they were gone? 11. Write a short letter of gratitude to someone who means a lot to you. They can be someone who’s alive, or who has passed on. 12. What do you [**value most in a friend**](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/)? Now think about your closest friend, and list down the ways in which they’ve changed you. 13. What’s the sweetest thing someone’s done for you in life? 14. What is something you can do to show more love to yourself? It could be in a [**physical, mental, emotional, even spiritual aspect**](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/). 15. List 10 [**little things in life that make you smile**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/). 16. Who are the three most [**supportive people**](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) in your life, and how can you show your gratitude to them in your own special way? 17. Do you enjoy buying gifts for others? Why or why not? 18. [**What sort of gifts do you like receiving**](https://achronicvoice.com/all-i-want-for-christmas-pain-relief/)? 19. How do you like to show gratitude towards others? (You can think about your love language if that helps!) 20. Write down five things you would like to [**thank your body**](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) for today. 21. What was something nice you did for someone, yet they didn’t appreciate it? How did that make you feel, and are you still close to them now? 22. What has been the best day in your life thus far? 23. “The [**world would be a better place with more empathy and kindness**](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/).” – Do you agree or disagree? What are some things you can do to contribute to this? 24. How can you show your appreciation to service staff (i.e. waiters/waitresses, cab drivers, desk clerks, delivery people, etc)? 25. [**Are you a kind person**](https://achronicvoice.com/kick-ass-with-kindness/)? If so, do you feel like others take advantage of it, and how does that make you feel? If you don’t think you are, then why not, and what can you do to be kinder? 26. What modern conveniences and/or [**aspects about your country/city are you most grateful for**](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/)? 27. Do you like and communicate with your neighbours? What about them do you appreciate? If you don’t, do you think it might be worth it to build a relationship with them? 28. What is your [**positive affirmation for today**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/)? 29. What are three things you can be more grateful for in your life, despite circumstances? 30. What do you [**appreciate about where you live**](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-florence-chronic-illness-italy/)? Is it the convenience, access to nature, space or something else? Pin to Your Gratitude & Mindfulness Journaling Boards: ![November Mindfulness Journaling Prompts (Theme: Showing Gratitude)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/november-journaling-prompts-theme-showing-gratitude.jpg) ![November Mindfulness Journaling Prompts (Theme: Showing Gratitude)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/november-journaling-prompts-theme-showing-gratitude-sentence.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [The Value in Seeking Out Moments of Gratitude (and How to do it)](https://achronicvoice.com/value-gratitude/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [10 Very Normal Things I am Grateful I Can Do](https://achronicvoice.com/normal-things-grateful-i-can-do/) - [Find Your Way Back to Happiness with a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/find-happiness-chronic-illness/) ## December Mindfulness Journaling Prompts (Theme: Closure & Looking Forward) *Special Days: Hanukkah, Christmas Day* 1. The year is nearly over. What is something else that you want to achieve before it ends? 2. When does it officially feel like the holiday season to you? Is it when they start playing Christmas music in stores, or something else? 3. What is your favourite activity that can only be done in winter and why? 4. If you could sit on Santa’s lap and ask him for three things, what would they be? They don’t have to be items! 5. What were you worried about this time last year? Are you still worried about it now? 6. What are some of your favourite winter memories from childhood? 7. What was your first [**experience with loss**](https://achronicvoice.com/grieving-the-life-i-will-never-have-chronic-illness-disability/), and how did it change you as a person? 8. When it comes to forgiveness, is there someone in your life you find hard to forgive? Why? What would you like to say to them? 9. What’s the most significant secret you’ve ever kept? Did the truth ever come out? 10. Describe your childhood in one sentence. 11. [**What do you like or dislike most about the festive season**](https://achronicvoice.com/survive-the-holidays-chronic-illness-disability-pain/)? 12. Would your younger self be proud of who you’ve become, and your journey to get here? 13. What’s your favourite season of the year, and what about it brings you joy? 14. What is one thing in your life that you wish you had proper closure for? 15. What is the perfect way to unwind after a long day? 16. What is something you can look forward to when you wake up tomorrow? 17. Is there something about yourself that you [**can’t bring yourself to accept**](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/), and how can you work on this in order to heal? 18. What is something you can do to [**lift your spirits today**](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/)? It can be simple – such as [**listening to music**](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/), or [cuddling your dog](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/the-way-my-dog-talisker-brings-me)! 19. What is your favourite family holiday tradition? 20. What are your favourite festive foods? It doesn’t have to be from Christmas, either! 21. Is there a [**vacation you’re looking forward to**](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/)? How are you planning for it? If you don’t, then is there a destination that you dream about? 22. Think about your favourite place as a child. Where is it and why? If it’s still accessible, do you visit it? 23. Are you [**afraid of being alone**](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/)? Why or why not? 24. It will be a new year again soon. What are you looking forward to the most? 25. Merry Christmas! What will you do today to ensure that you take good care of yourself? It could be mental or physical. 26. Let’s do a self check-in. How do you feel today? What feeling would you like to carry forward or invoke for the rest of the day? 27. Make a spring cleaning plan to help declutter your life! 28. Who are the three people whom you spend the most time with, and how do you feel around them? Are there ways you can improve your relationships with them if they’re not optimal? 29. Who is the person you most look forward to seeing right now? 30. Are you the sort of person who makes New Year resolutions? If so, do they work for you? If you don’t, then what are your thoughts on [**self-improvement and personal growth**](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) in general? 31. What is [**one healthy habit that you’d like to introduce into your life**](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) for the new year? Pin to Your Self-Reflection & Mindfulness Journaling Boards: ![December Mindfulness Journaling Prompts (Theme: Closure and Looking Forward)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/december-journaling-prompts-theme-closure-looking-forward.jpg) ![December Mindfulness Journaling Prompts (Theme: Closure and Looking Forward)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/december-journaling-prompts-theme-closure-looking-forward-sentence.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/) - [Curated Chronic Illness Gift Ideas for Christmas, Birthdays & Other Occasions!](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-gift-ideas/) - [How to Survive the Holidays When Chronic Illness & Disability Cause Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/survive-the-holidays-chronic-illness-disability-pain/) - [All I Want for Christmas is Some Pain Relief! (Real Wish List Ideas from 13 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/all-i-want-for-christmas-pain-relief/) ### Bonus Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement Here are some extra prompts that you can use if you come up blank for any of the writing prompts above, or if you feel like journaling about more than one thing for today! They have been categorised around different themes as well. #### **Pets & Animals** 1. Do you have a pet whom you love dearly? Write a letter to them. You can still do this even if they have crossed the rainbow bridge. 2. What is your [favourite thing about your pet](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/the-way-my-dog-talisker-brings-me) and why? 3. What do you find most difficult about taking care of your pet? 4. If you could have a pet or another pet, what would you choose? It can also be a different breed or the same! 5. What are your three favourite animals, and what about them do you admire? 6. Are you an animal person? Why or why not? 7. Are you a cat or dog person? What traits about them do you relate to or appreciate? Read Related Posts: - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) - [Why I Moved from SiteGround to Cloudways (and Couldn’t be Happier). Plus Cute Puppy Pics & A New Pacing Strategy.](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/) #### **Family** 1. Were you close with your siblings growing up? How did that make you feel? 2. If you have any siblings, how similar or different are you from them? How has this impacted your relationship? 3. If you are an only child, did you ever wish you had a sibling? What did you imagine you’d do together? 4. If you have kids, what about the experience do you find to be most overwhelming? (If you don’t, write about what you think would be overwhelming.) 5. In continuation of the above prompt, what is the most rewarding experience about [**being a parent**](https://achronicvoice.com/carole-griffitts-chronically-ill-grandmother-modern/)? 6. What about your family do you appreciate the most? 7. Is there something you envy about other families and why is that? 8. What’s [**something unique about your family**](https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/)? It could be a ritual, tradition, private jokes or something else. #### **Home & Space** 1. Do you prefer a minimalist or maximalist style? What do you like about it? 2. What are your favourite colours to paint your walls in, or do you prefer wallpaper? How does it make you feel? 3. What type of flooring do you prefer? Is it marble, parquet, carpeted, etc? How do you think that makes your house look? 4. Do you enjoy spending time in the kitchen? What are your must have kitchen equipment and why? Read Related Posts: - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-home-resources-learned-other-blogs/) - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Sarah Frison – A Pastry Chef with a Stomach Disorder](https://achronicvoice.com/sarah-frison-pastry-chef-stomach-disorder/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Cheyanne Perry – Living a Full Life with Deadly Allergies](https://achronicvoice.com/cheyanne-perry-life-allergies/) #### **Work & Career** 1. What is one thing you like having on your work desk and why? 2. Are you a [**Mac or Windows kind of person**](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/)? What do you like about the interface? 3. How long have you been working in your current job? Do you enjoy it, or [**wish you could change careers**](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/)? What would you change it to if so? 4. What are three pieces of advice you’d give to someone who was looking to join your work industry? 5. In what sort of work situations do you thrive in? Is it when there’s structure, or when you’re given [**freedom to make your own decisions**](https://achronicvoice.com/stories-we-tell-ourselves-prisons-freedom/)? Perhaps when you’re allowed to work from home, or maybe you’re the sort who works well under pressure! 6. If you could start your own company or business, what would it be about? 7. What do you think makes a good boss? 8. What are some work values that you think are important? Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don’t Reflect)](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Chronic Illness is Expensive, but Here’s the Real Reason Why](https://achronicvoice.com/real-reason-why-chronic-illness-expensive/) #### **Self** 1. What was life like when you were 16? 2. What belief do you hold that you worry others would judge you for? Why is that so? 3. If you could send a message to someone in the past, who would it be and what would you say? 4. If you could send a message to someone in the future, who would it be and what would you send? 5. How many languages do you speak? Is there a language that you want to learn? 6. If you wear makeup, what is one ‘must have’? How does it make you feel when you put it on? 7. Do you enjoy cooking? What is your best or favourite dish to make? 8. Are you a paperback or digital book kind of person? What do you appreciate about the medium? 9. What is your favourite book genre and what do you like about it? 10. What about your favourite movie genres? Are they the same as your favourite book genres? 11. What is one app you can’t live without on your phone? 12. Do you have any self-care apps on your phone? Which is your favourite and why? 13. What is your favourite scent or smell in the world? Is it a particular perfume, freshly baked bread, a forest or something else? What feeling does that scent invoke? Read Related Posts: - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Finding Your Self Behind the Illness (Your Story Isn't Over Yet)](https://achronicvoice.com/finding-self-behind-illness/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [My Diary Entries (Previously: Blog Posts Written for Community Linkups)](https://achronicvoice.com/diary-entries/) #### **Travel** 1. If you could choose to visit outer space or the deep ocean, which would you choose and why? 2. Which is your favourite country that you’ve visited so far, and what did you love about it? 3. Is there a country you know you’d never want to visit, and why not? 4. What kind of traveller are you? (Backpacker, cruise, luxury hotel, etc.) What do you enjoy or get out the most from such trips? 5. What are your top three bucket list destinations and why? 6. Which aspects of travelling do you like and dislike the most? 7. Do you prefer to take a plane or do you prefer road trips? How does it make you feel? 8. Are there routines you maintain when you travel, and what are they? Are they good or bad routines? Read Related Posts: - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Sarah Poitras – Round the World with a Lung Disease](https://achronicvoice.com/sarah-poitras-travelling-world-lung-disease/) - ["It's in My Blood": Bree Dixon — Paris Je T'aime, Even with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/bree-dixon-paris-je-taime-chronic-pain/) - [Coming Alive in the Winter Air (Pushing for Personal Changes & Group Advocacy)](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-advocacy/) - [March 2018: Sorting My Medications & a Hike Up Little Adam's Peak](https://achronicvoice.com/sorting-medications-hike-little-adams-peak-march-2018/) ## I Hope These 365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement Have Been Helpful! It may seem like too much of a commitment to use these mindfulness journaling prompts for self-improvement every day, especially if you’re just starting out. But I’d like to emphasise that the beauty of journaling is that it’s one of those things you can and should take personally, and at your own pace. Journaling should be a good habit that works for you and you alone. I hope you have a fruitful journaling session today! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Flowers are the Most Beautiful When They’re Just About to Die (and What That’s Got to Do with Being a Spoonie)](https://achronicvoice.com/flowers-most-beautiful-die-spoonie/) - [7 Proven Strategies to Stay Resilient No Matter What Happens (from A to G)](https://achronicvoice.com/strategies-stay-resilient/) - [Why You Need a Good Therapist on Your Healthcare Team (Based on My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-good-therapist/) - [A Quarterly Reflection: 12 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned](https://achronicvoice.com/quarterly-reflection-life-lessons-learned/) - [Is Yoga Accessible for People with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/) Pin to Your Mindfulness & Journaling Boards: ![365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/365-minfulness-journaling-prompts.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Harvey ](https://www.pathways.health) Jul 19, 2025 These prompts are such a great resource! Mindfulness and journaling can be incredibly healing, especially when navigating chronic illness or emotional stress. I love how this helps people find ways to reflect and take small steps toward improvement. At Pathways.Health, we also emphasize mindfulness as part of a holistic approach to chronic pain and healing, helping people reconnect with their bodies and minds. Thanks for sharing these prompts! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Aug 4, 2025 Hi Harvey, no problem 🙂 And yes, I hope people like your app and find it useful too as per your link! - Sue Nov 30, 2023 Those are great! Found this article randomly and I’m so excited I did! THANK YOU! Really appreciating this 🫶 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Nov 30, 2023 Happy they were helpful to you, Sue! 🙂 - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Aug 27, 2023 Some excellent thoughts from Chloe — I really like her blog and would absolutely recommend it. Number 31 on January’s prompts — about redefining success — is a big one for me since getting sick, losing my job, losing the career path I was on. I imagine a lot of us have been through this, finding ourselves off that path and feeling like our worth was tied to our jobs and finances. This post makes for an incredible resource. Very thoughtfully put together — thank you for sharing! Caz xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Aug 28, 2023 Thank you so much, Caz, I really appreciate your support as always! And yes, fantastic prompts for year-round use, or in any order you like — whichever helps best in that particular moment 🙂 Sending lots of hugs! - Kirsten Jul 18, 2023 These are great! I am always looking for blog post ideas and journaling ideas. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Jul 19, 2023 Thanks, Kirsten! I hope you find some (or most!) of them useful and that they give you some ideas 🙂 Sending good thoughts. - [ Despite Pain ](https://despitepain.com) May 23, 2023 My goodness, this is such a fantastic post from Chloe with such a long list of prompts. Even if people only manage a few each month, they’ll be helping themselves. Having them laid out like this makes mindfulness seem easier. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) May 24, 2023 Thank you Liz! Yes, it’s probably difficult to journal every day, but these serve as a foundation — for when you need a little motivation or inspiration to get back into the flow! 🙂 Thank you so much for your support as always. - [ Kelly Windley ](https://www.kellywindley.nz) May 16, 2023 Wow, this is a really useful post and resource — thank YOU both 🙏 I love how you’ve created the prompts month by month and made them relative to that time of the year. 😻 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) May 17, 2023 Hi Kelly, thank you so much for your support — we appreciate it deeply! I’m glad it’s helpful and I hope it’s something you can use! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope (Part 1/5) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/ Last updated: 2026-06-08T16:01:19.000Z In the previous series all about knees, I shared [**resources for my recovery journey after a major knee surgery**](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/). In this new series, I will be sharing things you can do to help keep boredom at bay, because the recovery process for any major surgery can be a long, painful and tedious one. The pain and lack of mobility is frustrating, and limits your access to things you can do to pass the time. Minutes pass by like hours. ‘Recovered’ seems a lifetime away. I will begin with depression after knee surgery and how to cope, as I believe that mental health is of utmost importance. When you feel anxious and depressed, it is easy to spiral downwards into a vicious loop that affects your physical health. It can also impact your motivation to keep up with your physiotherapy and self-care. This post is also a great resource for anyone who's bed bound, stuck at home for whatever reason, feeling restless, anxious or bored. (You can [**view the full series at the end of the post**](#full-series)!) P.s. If you have any additional good suggestions on things to do while recovering from knee surgery, leave a comment and I’ll add it in and credit you! 🙂 Pin to Your Mental Health & Surgery Boards: ![Depression After Knee Surgery and How to Cope (part 1 of 5 in the knee recovery series). Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery-how-to-cope-part-1-knee-recovery-series.jpg) --- **Disclaimer*: Knee injuries and surgeries, or any surgery for that matter, varies widely from person to person. Your age, lifestyle, weight, circumstances, medications, comorbidities, allergies and other issues can impact your recovery timeline, as well as the tools and methods required. They should be adapted for YOU.* *This article, and the resources or suggestions provided within, are based on MY own personal experiences with a spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture, as a person with many chronic illnesses. They are meant for educational purposes and *not to be substituted for medical advice. Please consult your own medical provider before trying anything out.** *This post also contains affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog (approx. $100/month). Please* [***read our privacy policy page***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/) *for more information. Thank you!* **Items with a star ⭐ next to them are resources I’ve personally tried and would recommend!** Changelog: - **12 February 2024:** Post split into separate sections for easier reading. --- ## 1\. Keep Calm & Meditate I'm not quite into meditation, but it's [scientifically proven to have benefits for your mental well-being](https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/meditation/in-depth/meditation/art-20045858). Whilst it may not take away your pain, it can still help with depression after knee surgery, and also to be less anxious and more self-aware. My friend, Melissa, is a yoga teacher who lives with Fibromyalgia. She is passionate about accessible yoga, which can be done even from bed. You can also listen to [my interview with her on the Sick Lessons podcast](https://sicklessons.com/melissa-reynolds-time-management/) here. ### Sign Up for a Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) Course Online If you can't sleep, a body scan meditation can be relaxing. Here is a [10-minute body scan video on YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=%5FDTmGtznab4) by Jon Kabat-Zinn, who is an American professor emeritus of medicine, and creator of the "Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction" (MBSR) programme. [According to Niazi and Niazi (2011)](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3336928/): > "Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) therapy is a meditation therapy, though originally designed for stress management, it is being used for treating a variety of illnesses such as depression, anxiety, chronic pain, cancer, diabetes mellitus, hypertension, skin and immune disorders." Whilst MBSR is not a cure, there is also evidence that it can be beneficial for your over all well-being. MBSR courses generally run for 8 weeks. Here are recommended institutions to register at, and [sound clips for simple meditation exercises, compiled by the Yale School of Medicine](https://medicine.yale.edu/stresscenter/reduction/mbsr/). Jon Kabat-Zinn has also written many books on mindfulness for various purposes. There are books for beginners, mindful eating, depression, why it’s important, and more. You can take your time to browse [all of his books here](https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B000AQ12GA/allbooks?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=0c1a4617d57187c8a9c6f5877ca1e2ee&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). Buy Books by Mindfulness & Meditation: Full Catastrophe Living (by Jon Kabat-Zinn): [![Full Catastrophe Living (Revised Edition): Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41vN964n21L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0345536932?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Full Catastrophe Living (Revised Edition): Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness") The Mindful Way through Depression (2nd Edition) (by Mark Williams et al.): [![The Mindful Way through Depression: Freeing Yourself from Chronic Unhappiness](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41712x7CORL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1462553923?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "The Mindful Way through Depression: Freeing Yourself from Chronic Unhappiness") Practicing Mindfulness (by Matthew Sockolov): [![Practicing Mindfulness: 75 Essential Meditations to Reduce Stress, Improve Mental Health, and Find Peace in the Everyday](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41gAyOGYyaL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1641521716?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Practicing Mindfulness: 75 Essential Meditations to Reduce Stress, Improve Mental Health, and Find Peace in the Everyday") The Headspace Guide to Meditation and Mindfulness (by Andy Puddicombe): [![The Headspace Guide to Meditation and Mindfulness: How Mindfulness Can Change Your Life in Ten Minutes a Day](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41e26dV9YXL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1250104904?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "The Headspace Guide to Meditation and Mindfulness: How Mindfulness Can Change Your Life in Ten Minutes a Day") The Miracle of Mindfulness (by Thich Nhat Hanh): [![The Miracle of Mindfulness: An Introduction to the Practice of Meditation](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/314fqxp5OBL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0807012394?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "The Miracle of Mindfulness: An Introduction to the Practice of Meditation") Ikigai: The Japanese Secret To A Long And Happy Life (by Frances Miralles): [![Ikigai: The Japanese Secret To A Long And Happy Life by Francesc Miralles](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61PoMZK3mTL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B5LCJMLH?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Ikigai: The Japanese Secret To A Long And Happy Life by Francesc Miralles") Buy Books on Mindfulness & Meditation: - [Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness (by Jon Kabat-Zinn)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0345536932?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=a7c014e4a37f5170540750d70b71ffe5&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [The Mindful Way through Depression: Freeing Yourself from Chronic Unhappiness (by Mark Williams, John Teasdale, Zindel Segal, & Jon Kabat-Zinn)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1462553923?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b58dee99ebb21be39fb4d2fbc95047c4&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Practicing Mindfulness: 75 Essential Meditations to Reduce Stress, Improve Mental Health, and Find Peace in the Everyday (by Matthew Sockolov)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1641521716?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=94b7d24e7c2fde740589a9366b875a0e&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [The Headspace Guide to Meditation and Mindfulness: How Mindfulness Can Change Your Life in Ten Minutes a Day (by Andy Puddicombe)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1250104904?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=bd29522140fe7e804d26a47f8bceed4e&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [The Miracle of Mindfulness: An Introduction to the Practice of Meditation (by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0807012394?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=94ec29e177dea99c7c5ea01593c06e9d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Ikigai: The Japanese Secret To A Long And Happy Life (by Francesc Miralles)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B5LCJMLH?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b2fcd4cf575b737ad2bd3835bcc0fd10&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [How to Rewire the Brain to Manage Chronic Pain (& Resources to Help)](https://achronicvoice.com/rewire-brain-manage-chronic-pain/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or ‘How to Relax’ by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [Is Yoga Accessible for People with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/) ## 2\. Connect with a Mental Health Therapist It would be strange if you did not feel upset, angry or sad after a major knee surgery (or any surgery). After all, parts of your identity and abilities have been altered. Your mental health is definitely going to take a blow, and it's not 'wrong' or 'bad' to feel anxiety or depression after knee surgery. My own psychiatrist did video consultations with me as it was more convenient that way. She works closely with my healthcare team as well. For those who do not have a therapist on your own healthcare team - request for one. If your request is refused, there are also a few mental health professionals you can reach out to online. They communicate via video calls, emails, and even text messages. ### Online Mental Health Therapist Platforms (Pros & Cons) Popular mental health therapy platforms online include [Better Help](https://www.betterhelp.com/) and [Talk Space](https://www.talkspace.com/). Do note that there is some controversy to using such platforms; Mental health is such an intimate thing, and conversing behind a screen literally screens away some of the social cues. Personally, I prefer in-person psychology sessions as it provides more space, context and connection. But such mental health platforms can be useful for those who are unable to leave their homes easily. Seeing a private psychologist in-person can also be costly. It is still better to reach out for help than not though, especially when you're struggling with depression after knee surgery. Every bit of support helps. In Singapore, there's [The Therapy Co](https://www.thetherapy.co/), which allows you to connect with qualified mental health professionals. The platform is founded by Sarah Poh. She is a psychotherapist whom I got to know, surprisingly, through an SEO course instructor. ### Reach Out to Your Loved Ones for Moral Support Alternatively, you can reach out to a friend or family member. Whilst they may not be professionals, sometimes just thrashing things out helps. Often, those who are depressed lack even the motivation to help themselves. This includes doing the work to find and arrange an appointment with a mental health therapist. They may also feel embarrassed or guilty for needing to see one. The costs for knee surgery and items needed whilst recovering can be hefty already, and a mental health therapist may seem like an 'unnecessary expense'. But let me get this straight - **seeking help for your mental health is not a luxury, but a necessity**. You cannot function to the best of your abilities when your mental health is in disarray. **Don't let societal stigma or internalised ableism stop you from getting the help you need.** Pin to Your Mental Health & Post-Surgery Boards: ![Mental Health Matters - Post Surgery Support](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/mental-health-matters-post-surgery-support.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [Asking for Help (and Why Everyone Needs to Learn this Important Life Skill)](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [Is Seeking Help for Your Mental Health Worth It?](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/) - [Why You Need a Good Therapist on Your Healthcare Team (Based on My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-good-therapist/) ### Mental Health Apps If you still feel that therapy is 'not your thing', you might want to look into a digital app. Such apps have a lot of resources to help with pain management, stress and mental health issues. They contain many tips, self-reminders, exercises, articles and tools. It's like a pocket-sized toolkit which you can pull out and use as needed. Once again, remember to do your research on the company, and don't use apps to self-diagnose. Mental healthcare is 'trendy' these days and sadly, some companies are just out to make a profit. That doesn't mean that there aren't some genuine founders out there - you just need to find them, and find what suits you best. ## 3\. Start a Gratitude Jar This is really easy to get started. All you need is a sealable jar or container, a pen and some paper. Then you write one thing you're grateful for every day and pop it in. Over time, the notes stack up. When you're feeling down, you can pour them out, unfold and read them for some cheer. Look at it as 'saving inspiration for a rainy day'. [Gratitude is powerful](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11999-016-5100-0) (Kelly, 2016), and a shift in perspective can often turn a bad day into a slightly better one. There are also pre-written affirmation notes that come in a jar, and they're a bit like fortune cookies. Depression after knee surgery can impact your motivation, so these can be useful for days when you don't know what to say or think. Some of these can also serve as reminders for things we may have forgotten, because we're not in a good mental state. Pin to Your Self-Care, Knee Surgery & Chronic Pain Boards: ![Gratitude and Self-Care Ideas While Recovering from Surgery](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/gratitude-self-care-ideas-recovering-surgery-6.jpg) Types of Gratitude Jars & Affirmation Notes: Gratitude Jar with Blank 'Blessings' Sheets: [![DEMDACO Grateful Happy Heart Mini Navy 4 x 4.5 Ceramic and Wood Inspirational Jar with Cards](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31ADuBp3bXL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BCCKWZBT?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "DEMDACO Grateful Happy Heart Mini Navy 4 x 4.5 Ceramic and Wood Inspirational Jar with Cards") Ceramic 365 Affirmation Cards Jar: [![Young's Inc. Ceramic Positive Thoughts Jar with 365 Affirmation Cards - 6](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41wqkH2TTiL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00GIZLO88?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Young's Inc. Ceramic Positive Thoughts Jar with 365 Affirmation Cards - 6") Mindful Affirmation Cards for Health & Well-being: [![Intelligent Change Mindful Affirmation Cards for Health and Wellbeing](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31k350orwFL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BNSR6RKN?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Intelligent Change Mindful Affirmation Cards for Health and Wellbeing") Buy Gratitude Jars & Affirmation Notes: - [Demdaco: Grateful Happy Heart Mini Navy Ceramic & Wood Inspirational Jar with Cards (includes: 25 blank note cards)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BCCKWZBT?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e21ec5d683079939f9a57ba334c73c2f&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Young’s Inc: Ceramic Positive Thoughts Jar with 365 Affirmation Cards](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00GIZLO88?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=76919971ea0aaf5e2a0e61fa51f56e1a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Intelligent Change: Mindful Affirmation Cards for Health and Wellbeing (includes: 52 affirmation cards & display stand)](https://www.amazon.com/Affirmations-Wellbeing-Inspiration-Affirmation-Inspirational/dp/B0BNSR6RKN?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=8cf91b1f235bf813349dde0c9410946c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Smiles by Julie: Jar of Smiles: A Quote for Every Day of the Month (includes: 31 inspirational quotes)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00Q7FW2XA?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=038dfc682e96d944e2fad324e2f06295&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [You Don’t Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [An Inspirational Poem on Miracles, by Thuli Zuma](https://achronicvoice.com/poem-on-miracles-thuli-zuma/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [The Value in Seeking Out Moments of Gratitude (and How to do it)](https://achronicvoice.com/value-gratitude/) ## 4\. Chat with Online Friends in the Chronic Illness & Disabled Community **You are never alone in your recovery journey - never forget that.** There are many others with chronic illness and disabilities out there. Some of them may also be experiencing anxiety and depression after knee surgery. Even if they may not be experiencing the same injury or surgery as you are, they understand the physical and mental toll it takes on a person. [According to Tsai et al. (2018)](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6016559/): > "Study findings extend the current understanding about online blogging as an avenue of social support by identifying the use of a VOSS by bloggers and blog readers which enables the establishment of a virtual “community”. It provides a conceptual understanding of how bloggers and readers who share experiences of chronic pain can establish relationships. Through sharing experiences of different offline environments related to pain, blog users are able to engage in a sequence of steps leading to experiences of virtual social support." I have a chronic illness group of friends on Facebook Messenger, and we check in on each other regularly. They too, are going through horrendous health problems. [Shruti's brain is sagging](https://allthingsendometriosis.com/intracranial-hypotension/), whilst [Claire lives with MCAS](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/living-mcas/) and other painful chronic conditions. It's comforting to chat with them, as topics that other people may find 'morbid' or 'disgusting' are normal to us. We discuss bowel movements, death and bleeding as if it were normal, because ***it is our normal***. ### Find the Right Community For You So reach out for support, in whatever form that looks like to you. I personally dislike in-person meetup support groups. But if that's your preference, you can arrange to attend one. That can be something on your calendar that you look forward too. It may be troublesome with the extra logistics, but worth it for your mental health. Otherwise, there are many online support groups out there, whether you're looking for general support, or for a specific condition. They can be found on all the social media platforms, charity websites, or even pen pal groups. I am an admin of the [Chronic Illness Bloggers network](https://chronicillnessbloggers.com/), if you care to join us! Just remember that not all chronic illness communities are a good fit for you. Some can be overly negative, or even veer towards toxic positivity, which would only worsen your depression after knee surgery. So do screen them properly to see if they will be helpful for you. We all have different support needs and preferences. ### Unintended Benefits of Joining a Support Group An unintended benefit from joining a support group is that often when you reach out for support, you end up supporting someone else too. And that's always a good, fulfilling feeling. Just because you're suffering, it doesn't mean that you can't help someone else, whether intended or otherwise. Pin to Your Mental Health, Community & Chronic Pain Boards: ![Reach out - do not suffer in silence](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/reach-out-dont-suffer-in-silence.jpg) Read Related Posts & Join Online Chronic Illness Communities: - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [My Diary Entries (Previously: Blog Posts Written for Community Linkups)](https://achronicvoice.com/diary-entries/) - [16 Chronic Illness Bloggers Share Their Top Posts for 2020](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-bloggers-top-posts-2020/) - [#projChronicWisdom: Simple Pleasures I Can Enjoy While Stuck in Bed with Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/projchronicwisdom-simple-pleasures-enjoy-pain/) ## **Conclusion to Depression After Knee Surgery - Focus on What You Can Do & Let Time Do Its Work** I hope that this list gives you some ideas for ways to support your own mental health, especially if you're dealing with depression after knee surgery. Some of these activities may sound fun, but we know that the reality is that it will still be an arduous recovery journey. The recovery timeline for a major knee surgery is also highly variable. That unpredictability can be extra frustrating. How long will you take to heal? How much function can you regain? As always, only time will tell. So focus on what is within your control, and take care of your entire well-being, from the physical to mental, emotional and even spiritual aspect. Doing so creates a positive cycle, and working on one part of your well-being impacts all other aspects as well. All this ultimately contributes to your recovery process. Wishing you a speedy recovery, and the best possible results! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Depression, Mental Health & Knee Surgery Boards: ![Depression After Knee Surgery and How to Cope](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery-how-to-cope-part-1-5.jpeg) Read More Posts in This Series: 1. *Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope (this post)* 2. [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) 3. [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) 4. [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) 5. [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) Read Related Posts: - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 – 6](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) - [Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care: Introduction to the Series](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-introduction/) ### References: - Kelly, J. D. (2016). Your best life: Breaking the cycle: The power of gratitude. *Clinical Orthopaedics and Related Research®, 474*(12), 2594–2597\. - Niazi, A. K., & Niazi, S. K. (2011). Mindfulness-based stress reduction: A non-pharmacological approach for chronic illnesses. *North American Journal of Medical Sciences, 3*(1), 20–23\. - Tsai, S., Crawford, E., & Strong, J. (2018). Seeking virtual social support through blogging: A content analysis of published blog posts written by people with chronic pain. *Digital Health, 4*, 2055207618772669\. ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Despite Pain ](https://despitepain.com) Mar 26, 2023 This is an absolutely fantastic post. You have so many great ideas to keep our minds occupied when we need to spend a lot of time in bed. Your list includes such a wide range of activities that it would be difficult for someone not to find something they could do. I find I need to have several things I can turn to. I do like to try to work on my blog in some way — I might not be able to write a full post, but I can jot down ideas or work on social media posts. Sometimes my “meds brain” can’t focus on that, so I might just watch something on television that doesn’t need too much attention or play a game on my phone. I really love your suggestions. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Mar 31, 2023 Thank you so much Liz, for going through this extremely long post haha! I tried to cover as many bases as I could because well, spending so much time in bed is frustrating to say the least, isn’t it? Sending lots of love to you! - [ Cassie Creley ](https://cassiecreley.com/digital-clutter-ereader/) Jan 26, 2023 What a great list of ideas, Sheryl! I also feel the benefit of digital decluttering when I’m not able to physically declutter — I love that I’m still able to accomplish a form of tidying. And yes, watching TV doesn’t have to be mindless — it can be such a great opportunity for learning. I hope you’re recovering well and seeing improvement. So glad you’re up to blogging again! Take care of yourself! PS: If you’re interested in documentaries, here’s a post about my 15 favorites: [15 Shows About Fascinating People and Places](https://cassiecreley.com/15-shows-about-fascinating-people-and-places/) - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Feb 3, 2023 Thanks, Cassie! Yes, those little tasks can be surprisingly productive — especially in the long run! I’m recovering okay… slowly! Thanks for sharing your post! - [ Kadie ](https://lifewithkadie.com) Jan 16, 2023 Hi Sheryl, what an awesome list! I’ve never seen one more complete, honestly! Coloring is one of my favorite things to do when I’m recovering or feeling anxious. I use my iPad and Apple Pencil — my favorite app is Color Therapy, though I still enjoy coloring old school too. I’ll have to check out some of the other things on your list as well. I hope you’re healing well from your surgery, whether past or recent. Thanks for this list! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Jan 17, 2023 Hi Kadie, thank you! I’m glad this resource is helpful — I hope it supports anyone stuck in bed too 🙂 I ruptured both knees last year and am still recovering. For half the year I was bed bound and disabled. Ooh, I’ll check out your app suggestion — I didn’t know coloring on iPad could look so good! I’ll update the post with your tip when I can. Thanks again! - [ Shruti ](http://allthingsendometriosis.com/) Jan 11, 2023 Thank you, Sheryl, for such a resource — the time and effort you’ve put into sharing all this is something many of us are grateful for. There’s so much to learn here. Thank you also for including Toby — I’m sure he’s wagging his tail in heaven knowing he’s still thought of and loved. Big hugs and I hope you recover well from your ordeal. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Jan 11, 2023 Thank you, my dear friend! I hope you’re coping okay — reach out to our little group whenever you need to. Sending good thoughts and love 🙂 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Physiotherapy After Knee Operation (Part 6/6) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/ Last updated: 2026-04-28T13:14:43.000Z Physiotherapy after knee operation is the most crucial part of the recovery process. It needs to be taken seriously, because doing something wrongly, or too early, or too late, can all have devastating long-term impacts on your ability to walk properly again. I was bed bound for months after [**my bilateral patellar tendon rupture surgery**](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/), and had to keep my feet flat without bending at all for 6 weeks straight. Needless to say, my muscles wasted away quickly, and I needed a lot of help to get basic things done. This article is the last of a series on my knee injury, and subsequent knee surgery recovery process. They contain tips, resources and tools for all aspects of after surgery home care. This post in particular will focus on equipment needed and physiotherapy after knee operation, to help get you back on your feet and walking again. (You can [**view the full series at the end of the post**](#full-series).) **❗️❗️❗️ Please work with your own physiotherapist as our knee injuries, circumstances and comorbidities are all different. If there is something on this list that you'd like to try, do check in with them if it's safe and suitable for you first.** --- *\*Disclaimer: This article and the resources provided below are based on* [***MY own personal experiences with spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon ruptures***](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/)*, as a person with many chronic illnesses. It also includes extensive options to cover various knee surgeries - not everything is meant for your specific type of knee injury or knee surgery. *They are meant for educational purposes and not to be substituted for medical advice. I am not a doctor, so please consult your own medical provider before trying anything out.** *This post also contains affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Please* [***read our privacy policy page***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/) *for more information. Thank you!* **Resources with a star ⭐ next to them are ones I’ve personally tried and would recommend!** Pin to Your Physiotherapy After Knee Operation Boards: ![Physiotherapy Tools and Resources You Will Need After Major Knee Surgery](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-tools-resources-need-after-major-knee-surgery.jpg) --- ## 1\. Exercise Equipment (When You Can Start Physiotherapy After Knee Operation) ### 1.1 Dumbbells (Important to Maintain Upper Body Strength) I got some dumbbells in 1kg, 2kg and 5kg. Admittedly I haven’t used the 2kg and 5kg ones, but have increased the count with the 1kg dumbbell. It’s useful and important to maintain your upper body strength if possible, as you’ll be relying on it a lot more, with your legs temporarily out of service. I use my arms and torso to worm around the bed, pull myself up and to help with transfers. When you can start sitting and standing, you will need your upper body muscles to pull yourself up as well. ### 1.2 Ankle Weights (for Strength Training Leg Exercises) I was instructed to use ankle weights for physiotherapy after knee operation, after a few months of being able to walk again. In short, I cuff these around my ankles for strength training. There are a few leg exercises I do with them strapped on - horizontal leg raises, side leg raises, and also knee bends backwards whilst standing. **These exercises should be adapted for you by your own physiotherapist.** Visual Examples: Sportneer - Adjustable Ankle Weights (2 - 10lbs): [![Sportneer - Adjustable Ankle Weights](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/61p7vFc4M1L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08T257Z5R?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) MXiiXM - Adjustable Silicone Wrist & Ankle Weights (2lbs): [![Adjustable Silicone Workout Wrist and Ankle Weights, 2lbs](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41t7r7hgJoL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BZR85MMY?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Adjustable Silicone Workout Wrist and Ankle Weights, 2lbs") Buy Dumbbells: - [JFIT: 3 pairs with rack (2lb, 4lb & 6lb)](https://www.amazon.com/JFIT-Dumbbell-Set-Durable-Rack/dp/B01M0E3601?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=95d14e519a9ed20ab021c4bf10b7644e&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [BalanceFrom: 1 pair hand weights (different weight options available)](https://www.amazon.com/BalanceFrom-Colored-Vinyl-Coated-Dumbbells/dp/B075M86N5C?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=3ed3498c60d39a0d0b3914dfca2f4562&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Buy Ankle Weights: - ⭐ [Sportneer: 1 pair adjustable neoprene ankle weights (1-5 lbs; other colours available)](https://www.amazon.com/Sportneer-Weights-Adjustable-Fitness-Walking/dp/B08T1TGP48?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=a78b73a3d7a21ae431da71f1d14d81a6&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [ Virtee: 1 pair adjustable rubber ankle weights (1-10lbs)](https://www.amazon.com/Virtee-Adjustable-Removable-Gymnastic-Aerobics/dp/B085DM8FL3?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=3fd9e22f8835947550aa7ba7fb151e6f&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [MXiiXM: 1 pair adjustable silicone ankle/wrist weights (2lbs; other colours available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BZR85MMY?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=dcd5d87ec91e5592d4b3e666f03e356f&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ### 1.3 Exercise Bicycle (Types & What to Look Out for) After the 3 - 4 month mark, your doctor may allow you to start physiotherapy using an exercise bicycle at home. I had no idea there were so many different types of exercise bikes on the market, such as ones that are recumbent, upright or with spin wheels. I bought a second hand spin bike (by accident really, I thought they were just regular wheels), and cycle on it when I can. It was hard in the beginning, as my knees were still stiff and couldn’t bend much yet. It would be very helpful if you could take a look and have a feel of the bike beforehand. It was too troublesome for me to go out shopping, so I just bought the most suitable one I could find from a secondhand online marketplace. My surgeon didn’t recommend a recumbent bike for me, as he says it doesn’t work out certain groups of muscles. But if you have problems with your upper body or limbs, a recumbent bike may be more suitable. #### **Things you may want to watch out for when purchasing an exercise bike:** - Adjustable height so you can get on and off. - Ensure that it’s heavy and stable so you don’t topple over. - Adjustable resistance, if it matters to you. I just increase the number of rounds I do. Visual Examples: Dmasun - Flywheel Bike with Accessories: [![Dmasun - Flywheel Bike with Accessories](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41XFRp9--kL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09P1CKJXP?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Marcy - Recumbent Exercise Bike with Resistance ME-709: [![Marcy - Recumbent Exercise Bike with Resistance ME-709](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41dQHNAbvzL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B002KV1MJU?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) DeskCycle - Under Desk Bike Pedal Exerciser: [![DeskCycle - Under Desk Bike Pedal Exerciser](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41DWrYokeML._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00B1VDNQA?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Flexispot - Exercise Bike Standing Desk Workstation: [![Flexispot - Exercise Bike Standing Desk Workstation](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41NIjg6YJBL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0762FFNQ4?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Buy Indoor Exercise Bikes & Pedals: - [Pooboo: adjustable, silent magnetic resistance, with digital display & bluetooth sensor](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CBQ4H2FT?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=96af1d95482e302e4152053d7b7b1933&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Dmasun: Flywheel, adjustable with digital display, iPad & water bottle holder](https://www.amazon.com/DMASUN-Exercise-Cycling-Stationary-Comfortable/dp/B09P1CKJXP?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=633966b1a2396975c11c8d22f612f497&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Marcy ME-709: Recumbent bike with resistance & digital display](https://www.amazon.com/Marcy-Recumbent-Exercise-Resistance-ME-709/dp/B002KV1MJU?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=15c3a07776b405dcd25d11465e4f22c1&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [DeskCycle: Under desk bike pedal exerciser](https://www.amazon.com/Under-Desk-Bike-Pedal-Exerciser/dp/B00B1VDNQA?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=085a61ed4d4bfd1d0189ce6874b3628c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [FlexiSpot: Standing up, height adjustable exercise bike workstation](https://www.amazon.com/FLEXISPOT-Folding-Exercise-Adjustable-Stationary/dp/B0762FFNQ4?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=12aa177ba19c69682fce2d38917efd6b&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ### Don't be Discouraged, and Work with Your Physiotherapist & Doctor The first time I tried, I couldn’t even get on the exercise bike as I couldn’t bend my knee and lift my leg high enough to put it over the other side. It gets easier over time though, as you rebuild your muscles and increase the angle your knees can bend to. Cycling in itself helps with knee bending, too. I do both front and back paddles to exercise different groups of muscles. You may find one direction harder than the other, especially in the beginning. Take it nice and slow, and don’t push beyond your body’s current limit, as that will only set you back for days. Do discuss with your doctor first before even buying an exercise bike. **Safety is of paramount importance. You don’t want to aggravate your knee injury, or worse, break your knees or tendons again.** ## 2\. Mobility Aids (For When You Can Start Walking & Do Physiotherapy After Knee Operation Again) Visual Examples: Drive Medical - Wheelchair with Elevating Leg Rests: [![Drive Medical - Wheelchair with Elevating Leg Rests](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51GkkUl2SlL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B008KMKU6Y?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Drive Medical - Foldable Wheelchair with Swing-Away Footrests: [![Drive Medical TR39E-SV Lightweight Folding Transport Wheelchair with Swing-Away Footrest, Silver](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41faPm9hqAL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000TW0CQ6?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Drive Medical TR39E-SV Lightweight Folding Transport Wheelchair with Swing-Away Footrest, Silver") Pride Mobility - Sport Electric Mobility Scooter: [![Pride Mobility - Sport Electric Mobility Scooter](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41im+MAW-oL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00PV2QSLW?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) ### 2.1 Wheelchair with Leg Extensions (You'll Need to Keep Your Legs Straight) If you broke both patella tendons or had both knees operated on like I did, you’ll need to keep your legs flat at 180 degrees for a few weeks. As such, a regular wheelchair isn’t sufficient. You’ll need one with leg extensions that can be adjusted upwards, so that you can rest your legs flat on them. When I could sit on an extended wheelchair instead of using the stretcher, I requested for ambulances with backlifters. You can sit on your wheelchair, and be lifted mechanically up inside them. **Do ensure that it's a backlifter and not sidelifter**, as those aren't wide enough to fit an extended wheelchair. Every bump along the way is going to hurt in the beginning, so stability matters a great deal. You can keep your legs strapped together to help. I preferred not to, as I was worried that I would be in even more pain, should the leg extensions collapse accidentally. Many passersby were careless as they walked by. **The seat width of the wheelchair is also important.** I thought that the more spacious it was, the better. But my occupational therapist said that it should be a just-right fit, so that you're more stable and comfortable. **So check with your own occupational therapist before buying one.** Browse Wheelchairs with Elevated Leg Rests: - [Medline: Lightweight, foldable, (various seat widths)](https://www.amazon.com/Medline-Lightweight-User-Friendly-Wheelchair-Desk-Length/dp/B00737NJ92?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=64b238c94e5ab51d9cde2f21425c52af&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Drive Medical BLS18FBD-ELR: Lightweight with swing-away leg rests, foldable (various seat widths)](https://www.amazon.com/Drive-Medical-Streak-Wheelchair-Elevating/dp/B008KMKU6Y?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=a1036524f4d554c1f99f47498148a183&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ### 2.2 Electric Mobility Scooters Many people, including my school's accessibility office, suggested that I buy an electricity mobility scooter. The main advantage is that you can go around with greater independence. But as I was looking forward to regaining my walking ability, I rather spend the finances on another accessibility tool, as a decent mobility scooter can be quite costly. #### **A few things to take note of, should you decide to get an electric mobility scooter:** - **Ease of Disassembly & Stowage.** It should be foldable or easily disassembled if you plan to store it in the boot of a car. At the same time, it should be stable enough for sitting on and driving around. - **Plan on Getting Around.** Will you need assistance to disassemble it, and how do you plan on getting into the car if you're alone? - **Extra Battery Packs.** Most of them come with battery packs, and your mobility scooter may run out of power outside. Do bring along a spare battery. - **Power.** Ensure that it's powerful enough to go up slopes. - **Adjustable Seat & Legroom.** Remember to get one that's suitable for your height, or that's height-adjustable. Also, if you're larger in size, do ensure that the mobility scooter you plan on getting has enough legroom. - **Purpose of Use.** What will you be using your mobility scooter mainly for? There are cross-terrain, high powered ones, and also basic ones to go around your neighbourhood. - **Space for Storing Things.** Will you be bringing along any other mobility aids and things, and is there enough space to store them? Buy Electric Mobility Scooters: - [Pride Mobility S74: Adjustable, suitable for outdoor terrain, 14 miles/charge, comes with charging port, 5-piece disassembly, wraparound Delta tiller & LED lights (325lbs capacity)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00PV2QSLW?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=2b353defbe8c49fdea85f7e5a4ffd76c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Golden Technologies Buzzaround EX: Adjustable, 4-step disassembly, front & rear suspension, 18 mile drive range, wraparound Delta tiller, LED lights](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07MVKD2NM?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e5a49d3cf02db49fcc99a303a12ea142&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ### 2.3 A Roller Chair (for Home Use) One of those height adjustable office chairs is good enough. A wheelchair can be pretty bulky to navigate, especially around tight spaces in my apartment. Call it a hack, but I would sit on the commode and place my legs on the roller chair to go to the shower when I was able to again. Do remember that your legs need to be flat, so you don't want one with a backing that you can't stretch beyond. ### 2.4 Walking Frame (First Thing You'll Need to Start Walking Again) A walking frame is the first mobility aid you'll probably need to learn to stand and walk again after a major knee surgery. As usual, there are a few options to choose from, in various materials and features. I have one that is foldable to save space, is height-adjustable, and made of lightweight aluminium. It also has a lower handle bar which can be useful for extra support when standing or sitting slowly. I didn't anticipate this but I should have - lifting the frame repeatedly to walk requires the use of my hands. Which means, they get swollen pretty quickly. Compression gloves can help to cushion your hands and slow the swelling. It might also cause your arms to ache, so keep up with the upper body exercises. Our body operates as one unit, after all. > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/CeSKC3ePw6C/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/CeSKC3ePw6C/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) Browse Walking Frames: - [Drive Medical: Deluxe 2-Button folding walker](https://www.amazon.com/Drive-Medical-10200-1-Deluxe-Folding/dp/B000MMC6EE?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e094f52a33b0dc296d53dbda69937521&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ### 2.5 Walking Stick / Crutches / Rollators After you've 'graduated' from the walking frame, you can start trying a walking stick. My surgeon didn't recommend crutches as I had broken not one, but both knees. Thus, he was worried that I might fall due to instability. For that same reason, he didn't recommend a rollator with wheels. I know quite a few spoonies who have some pretty cool canes. You can do a search online for something that suits your style. Just don't sacrifice stability and functionality. I selected a simple, standard quad cane for a better grip. Yes, it's an old man's copper brown. I'm not bothered by it, as I look forward to not needing it in future, hopefully! Visual Examples: BeneCane - Walking Cane with LED Lights: [![BeneCane - Walking Cane with LED Lights](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41-RAEYq5LL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09QFYDC7K?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) RMS - 4-Pronged Wide Quad Base Walking Cane: [![RMS - 4-Pronged Wide Quad Base Walking Cane](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31kgZZYaP4L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07K2KL1VP?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Flydrum - One-Piece, Ergonomic Walking Cane (solid support): [![Flydrum - One-Piece, Ergonomic Walking Cane (solid support)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31XkVWQUdgL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09TNL3232?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Buy Walking Canes: - [BeneCane: Foldable, adjustable quad cane with LED lights](https://www.amazon.com/BeneCane-Walking-Folding-Lightweight-Adjustable/dp/B09QFZ75BF?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f8ce5ded2ae22a3ffa1781b11465228c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [RMS: Large 4-pronged quad base, adjustable with padded handle](https://www.amazon.com/RMS-Quad-Cane-Adjustable-4-Pronged/dp/B07K2KL1VP?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=65c9e7bf6757eabe439934dfd48be459&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Vive: Fold-up, lightweight, adjustable walking cane](https://www.amazon.com/Vive-Folding-Cane-Collapsible-Lightweight/dp/B00RKJUPS6?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=066d58063f36535df7922aca19909673&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Flydrum: One-piece ergonomic wooden can (supports up to 400 lbs)](https://www.amazon.com/FLYDRUM-Walking-One-Piece-Ergonomic-Seniors/dp/B09TNL3232?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=5654070f8e329c7d22b5472ca51880d5&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [The Chronic Pain Cycle & How to Break It (Top Tips From an Occupational Therapist)](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/) - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) - [Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-home-resources-learned-other-blogs/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) ## 3\. Orthopaedic Footwear (Don't Aggravate Your Knee Injury) I'm fortunate that I work at an orthopaedic footwear store with a qualified Pedorthist ([NOT the same as a podiatrist](https://bestaccreditedcolleges.org/articles/podiatrist-vs-pedorthist.html), though you can visit one, too), and professional [shoe fitters](https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100064536768708). As such, I had my feet measurements, walking gait, and other important feet-related data there with them. They recommended a pair of Revere walking shoes, mary janes (for when I need to wear dresses!), and two pairs of Spenco slippers for both outdoor and indoor use. My Revere shoes have a centre-stabilising feature, so I feel more steady, supported and confident when I walk. It is the pair I utilise the most, especially to go to school, or if I'm out for a long time. The [Spenco Pure Slide sandals I wear](https://www.amazon.com/Spenco-Womens-Pure-Sandal-Ash/dp/B0136FYTOI?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=62180b7ffff7ac68ea0db84b42e0fb39&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) are truly pure comfort, and though they aren't cheap, they are the best I've ever worn, durable and I wouldn't want to wear any other sandal or slipper anymore! I won't be recommending footwear here, because these should be fitted by a professional, especially after a knee surgery (or even for everyday wear). Also, there is no 'best shoe', because our feet are *very different*. There is only 'the right shoe for you'. A lot of people don't realise how bad their shoes are for them. I didn't realise myself, until I started working at Footkaki. If you're in Singapore, you can [pay them a visit](https://footkaki.com/). They're nice people and their foot assessment service is **free** 😄 My Spenco Slippers for Home Wear: > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/CMEwA2PDjv4/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/CMEwA2PDjv4/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) ## **Conclusion to Physiotherapy After Knee Operation** As you can see, physiotherapy after knee operation and the equipment you'll need comes in a series of progression. They are tools there to help you rebuild your muscle strength, and ability to walk again. Mobility aids should not be seen as something to be embarrassed about, because at the end of they day, it's your health at stake and not someone else's. It's also vital to work with your own physiotherapist to prevent further injury, and to recuperate maximum walking ability. Wishing you a speedy recovery, and don't forget to check out the links below for more tips and resources for knee surgery home care! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Physiotherapy After Knee Operation Boards: ![Physiotherapy After Knee Operation — Physiotherapy is the most crucial part of the recovery process. This post focuses on equipment and resources you will need to help you get back up on your feet again.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation-recovery-process-equipment-resources.jpg) View the Full Home Care & Physiotherapy After Knee Operation Series: 1. [Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care: Introduction to the Series](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-introduction/) 2. [After Surgery Care at Home: Hygiene Resources](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/) 3. [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable In Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/) 4. [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) 5. [Wound Care & What to Wear After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery/) 6. *[Physiotherapy After Knee Operation (this post)](#)* Read Related Posts: - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 – 6](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) - [Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care: Introduction to the Series](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-introduction/) ### Wound Care & What to Wear After Knee Surgery (Part 5/6) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery/ Last updated: 2026-05-29T16:50:21.000Z Shopping for clothes can be fun, but this isn't the case when it comes to deciding what to wear after knee surgery. The options for adaptive clothing are limited, and it is difficult to change your clothes or try them on. Yet, comfortable clothing is crucial, especially in the early stages of recovery, when you need to keep your legs flat for weeks. This article is part of a series that cover [**my recovery journey for my spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture surgery**](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/). It will focus on wound care, tips, and resources on what to wear after knee surgery. Hopefully you will be able to find something that helps make your life a little more comfortable as you recover! ([**Links to more tips and resources for after surgery home care can be found at the end of the post**](#full-series).) --- **❗️ Disclaimer:* Knee injuries and surgeries, or any major surgery for that matter,* [*vary widely from person to person*](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/knee-pain/symptoms-causes/syc-20350849)*. Your age, lifestyle, weight, circumstances, other chronic health conditions, medications, comorbidities, allergies and other issues can impact your recovery timeline, as well as the tools and methods required. *They should be adapted for YOU.** This article and the resources provided below are based on MY own personal experiences with spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon ruptures, as a person with many chronic illnesses. It also includes extensive options to cover various knee surgeries - not everything is meant for your specific type of knee injury or knee surgery. **They are meant for educational purposes and not to be substituted for medical advice. I am not a doctor, so please consult your own medical provider before trying anything out.** *This post also contains affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Please read our* [***privacy policy page***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/) *for more information. Thank you!* **Resources with a star ⭐ next to them are ones I’ve personally tried and would recommend!** --- ## 1\. Comfortable, Accessible Clothing & Underwear (Half Your Body is Out of Service) The only full-range brand I could find was Slick Chicks. Apart from underwear, they have adaptive shorts, bras, tops, joggers and hoodies. You can [browse their products here](https://slickchicksonline.com/collections/all) (unaffiliated). Pin to Your Accessibility, Chronic Illness & Disability Boards: ![Wound Care And What To Wear After Knee Surgery (Part 5 of 6 in the knee resource series)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery.jpg) ![Adaptive Clothing — What to Wear After a Major Knee Surgery. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/adaptive-clothing-what-to-wear-after-major-knee-surgery.jpg) ### 1.1 Accessible Underwear (Comes with Side Fastenings) It's a nightmare to pull your underwear down each time you need to pee. Adaptive, accessible underwear come with hooks or velcro, which you fasten at the sides instead. I prefer the velcro straps as they're easier to stick on and off. Although, they can irritate the skin if you don't stick them back perfectly. ### 1.2 Overnight Period Panties (Disposable & Leak-Proof) Speaking of underwear, periods are another nightmare after a major knee surgery. Apart from the discomfort, there's also added work to do to keep clean. I use disposable overnight panties which are more comfortable, leak-proof, and can be torn open at the side to be discarded. This saves you the pain of pulling them down your legs and past your knee injury site again. I use the largest size, as it still fits and allows the skin to breathe better. I actually used these in the hospital, and the nurses were amazed. They didn't know that they could get them at the regular chemist store. Some of them even started using them at night, too! ### 1.3 Accessible Shorts & Baggy Dresses You can also wear a baggy cotton nightdress at home, which is comfortable even if there are guests. Whilst dresses are more comfortable, they're not practical for days when you need to go for appointments. So I bought some adaptive shorts that also fasten at the sides with velcro. Dresses tend to bunch up when you're being pushed around whilst on a wheelchair. If your legs need to be kept straight, then you'll need to be transferred and fit into suitable transport as well. I had to hire a private ambulance for a few months, and needed two paramedics to carry or haul me up with my legs laid as flat as possible. You can see how troublesome dresses can be in such scenarios. I wasn't even able to use the disabled bathrooms outside, because I couldn't move or stand. So, we had to manoeuvre the whole process whilst stretched out on my wheelchair, and the adaptive shorts were handy. Visual Examples: ⭐️ Slick Chicks - Side Fastening Women's Hipster Panty: [![Slick Chicks - Side Fastening Women's Hipster Panty](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/316Bt4EkeaL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01G689L9A?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) ⭐️ Rael - Disposable Overnight Underwear with Organic Cotton Cover: [![Rael - Disposable Overnight Underwear with Organic Cotton Cover](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41xVVpCJlcL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B836FZFB?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Buy Adaptive Underwear & Overnight Underwear: - ⭐️ [Slick Chicks Store](https://www.amazon.com/stores/SlickChicks/SlickChicks/page/1F908ED7-6958-4A1C-961F-3A546FC81630?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=8b76f7917652a5a6925698b723e8ccf5&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - ⭐️ [Rael: Organic cotton overnight underwear, unscented, disposable](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B836FZFB?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=70461413ff36c74b6a5685fc6c284448&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Always Discreet: Incontinence & postpartum underwear, classic cut](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00NAK3URM?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=980bb782d72f9c18847de7acf0ae0945&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Depend: Incontinence underwear for men, disposable](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01N6J36E6?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c6aa9ddd753aa9e0b8420506236ce090&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ## 2\. Compression Socks & Gloves (for Blood Circulation & Pain Relief) Visual Examples: ⭐️ Copper Compression - Long Arthritis Gloves: [![Copper Compression - Long Arthritis Gloves](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41lgOHJLIaL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07NQRNJN3?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Thx4Copper - Compression Arthritis Gloves with Strap: [![Thx4Copper - Compression Arthritis Gloves with Strap](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41WOGxOGEoL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08FDK7Q25?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Copper Fit - Menthol & COQ10 Infused Compression Gloves: [![Copper Fit - Menthol & COQ10 Infused Compression Gloves](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41RsDpOZdfL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B084TYDX6K?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Physix Gear - Unisex Compression Socks: [![Physix Gear - Unisex Compression Socks](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41Pgpv9FKiL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01J4MF4DW?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Unisex Calf Compression Sleeves: [![Unisex Calf Compression Sleeves](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31eluj2WI2L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0177AXRB4?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) ### 2.1 Compression Socks Compression socks are commonly used for [**people with Antiphospholipid Syndrome like me, who run the risk of blood clots**](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/). They're also [used by pregnant women for similar risks](https://www.cmaj.ca/content/186/10/E391). Compression socks help with blood circulation, which can be useful when you're sedentary in bed for months post knee surgery or major surgery. I admit that I try to avoid them as they can be uncomfortable. But even if you dislike wearing them, a pair of regular socks can help to keep your feet warm and cosy. ### 2.2 Compression Gloves I also bought some compression gloves, and must say that they're one of the best investments I've made for pain management. And so simple at that! I'm not sure why I didn't use them earlier. I even wear them to school now, and even to sleep at times. I have a few hand therapist-designed ones from Grace & Able, whose founder also lives with Rheumatoid Arthritis, and sponsored one of our Christmas Giveaways! I also have pairs that are textured, which help me to grip objects better. And ones that come with a wrist strap to help with wrist pain. I also like my copper gloves that extend all the way to my elbow. This is helpful for days when it's not just my hands that are aching, but also parts of my wrist and forearm. Buy Compression Gloves: - ⭐ [Grace & Able (support a fellow chronic illness small business owner!)](https://graceandable.com/) - ⭐ [Copper Compression: copper-infused, extra long fit](https://www.amazon.com/Copper-Compression-Long-Arthritis-Gloves/dp/B07NQRNJN3?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=00fa15ca2842c8d8e65c88b5bdf1b1b9&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - ⭐ [Thx4Copper: copper-infused with wrist strap](https://www.amazon.com/Thx4COPPER-Compression-Arthritis-Gloves-Strap/dp/B08FDK7Q25?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=0c6c343c9880e33566657142370de974&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [FreeToo: Highly elastic, longer fit for more coverage, copper-infused silicone gloves](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B54WY7Y3?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=97278b8cf85f1f352bb1a9502f35867a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Copper Fit: ICE copper compression gloves, infused with menthol & Coq10](https://www.amazon.com/Copper-Fit-Compression-Infused-Recovery/dp/B084TYDX6K?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e2a62a48639c17bb5d513873ccdb4ed4&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Buy Compression Socks: - [Physix Gear Sport: Unisex sport compression socks (20-30 mmhg)](https://www.amazon.com/Physix-Gear-Compression-Graduated-Maternity/dp/B01J4MF4DW?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=282ccc254c0ed64f307332cddfef85ab&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Sockwell: Women's micro grade, moderate graduated compression socks (15-20 mmHg)](https://www.amazon.com/Sockwell-Womens-Graduated-Compression-Natural/dp/B01N3ODY3F?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=13816e3a836b122d1580a5ec4bd55697&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Run Forever: Calf compression sleeves, footless compression socks (15-20 mmhg)](https://www.amazon.com/Calf-Compression-Sleeves-Varicose-Maternity/dp/B0177AXRB4?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=4cfe8f747cf0da89927e41d76564eb0b&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [Chronic Illness Christmas Giveaway: Gifts for Every Body in Pain This Lonely Pandemic Season!](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-christmas-giveaway-gifts-pain/) ## **3\. Things Needed to Clean & Care for Your Knee Surgery Wound** The average time it takes for skin wounds to heal is about 2 weeks. Most people would have been able to remove all the bandages from their knee surgery by then. Mine took almost 2 months, most likely due to my steroid medications and autoimmune disorders themselves. Thus, I had to keep my knees wrapped up that whole time. I had to change my wound dressing every 3-4 days, but this differs for each person. Check with your own surgeon on how often you need to change them. **It might not be wise to change them daily, as each time you open it up, your wounds are exposed to germs.** Skin refuses to shut its gap: ![Patellar Tendon Rupture stitches and wounds](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-open-wound.jpg) Steri-strips used as 'stitches': ![Steri-strips skin closures used after major knee surgery](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/steri-strips-skin-closures-major-knee-surgery.jpg) ### 3.1 Hospital-Grade Isopropyl Alcohol Wipes (for Cleaning Your Wound) The alcohol wipes are essential for sterilisation of the skin and your knee surgery wounds. We'd dab the wounds quickly without rubbing, and never used the same surface twice. As the surgeon cautioned, **all sorts of germs live on the skin, and you don't want to spread them into your wounds**. ### 3.2 Steri-strips / Adhesive Skin Closures (if Your Injury Site is Still Split Open) As my flesh was still split open, the surgeon used steri-strips as placeholder stitches. We'd use them to pull my skin together using a simple technique. These are essential to help your skin heal, and to ensure that they don't sag further to the sides. ### 3.3 Sterile Cotton Dressings (to Absorb Moisture & Pus) After that, the sterile cotton swab goes on top to absorb any moisture or pus. **Ensure that it covers your entire wound area.** I'd fold one up for extra padding and better absorption. ### 3.4 Tegaderm Plasters (to Seal & Secure the Dressing) Tegaderm plasters are those transparent seals they use at the hospital to secure any IV lines, and where they scribble the date of insertion on. This goes on top of the sterile cotton dressing to seal and secure it. It also prevents any water from seeping in, which may cause your wound to become infected. ### 3.5 Other Wound Dressing Supplies I also had regular plasters in all shapes and sizes. As my wounds healed, I could patch up different parts with greater precision. Needless to say, this was a hassle and the dressings were uncomfortable. I couldn’t wait to rip them off my knees and let the skin breathe. But for now, keeping your wounds clean is of paramount importance, or risk a delay in your recovery process. ### Knee Surgery Wound Cleaning & Dressing Order Step 1 - Sanitise (dab, don't rub! Let dry): [![JJ Care - 70% Isopropyl Alcohol Wipes](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51H3trwAVzL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08HCT135X?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "JJ Care - 70% Isopropyl Alcohol Wipes") Step 2 - Stick on Steri-Strips (if needed): [![3M - Steri-Strip Reinforced Adhesive Skin Closures](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/514S7v8BO6L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07J55YS7C?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Step 3 - Place Sterile Cotton Bandage Over Wound: [![Medpride - Sterile Non-Adherent Pads](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41FFD8jQ4VL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07MZBR32X?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Step 4 - Seal with Tegaderm Dressing: [![Tegaderm Transparent Dressing](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41iVRE4lg2L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0009Q01AO?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Buy Products to Clean & Dress Your Wound: - [JJ Care: Large alcohol prep pads, 2-ply (70% isopropyl alcohol)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08HCT135X?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=5ace208da301231e838ddea3d038706f&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - ⭐️ [Medpride: Sterile non-adherent pads (3” x 8”)](https://www.amazon.com/Non-Adherent-Non-Adhesive-Removal-Switch-Individually-Protection/dp/B07MZBR32X?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=d39c5dadaafd003395beb9bad78fd7c9&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - ⭐️ [Tegaderm: Transparent sterile dressings (6” x 8”)](https://www.amazon.com/Tegaderm-Transparent-Dressing-Inch-Count/dp/B0009Q01AO?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ecc64382e83366500d74c46ba9f229db&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - ⭐️ [3M: Steri-Strip adhesive skin closures (1/2” x 4”)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07J55YS7C?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=3128296fd46068e04a19825ea073426e&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Med Pride: Butterfly wound closures, hypoallergenic](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07576489T?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6f6096816aecd3f2d0fe938a57631b7d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [QuikClot: sterile Z-fold blood clotting gauze (3" x 2')](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07WV5P9RS?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=a65c0b687639e8a280216a263c23e803&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ## **4\. Scar Recovery Silicone Gel (Only After Your Wounds Have Closed Up)** When your knee surgery scars have closed up fully, your surgeon may allow the use of a silicone scar recovery gel. I've been applying it on my knee scars daily, though I should be more religious about the routine. They will take some time to look less visible though, as these scars are pretty huge. Buy Silicone Scar Gels, Tapes & Sheets: - ⭐️ [HealFast: 100% medical-grade silicone scar gel](https://www.amazon.com/Physician-Formulated-Silicone-Scar-Gel/dp/B08X12WCF7?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=03823e42d48ece735bdd8e7ee3fc81b7&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Nuvadermis: Range of silicone scar gel, tape & sheets](https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/20016626-D607-412B-A04A-2F06F98F31A6?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=a2af7606b7b04fa24247fd9feebcc473&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - ⭐️ [Mederma: Intensive overnight scar cream](https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B08SS8NG7T?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=92c0eb90f68407d2c57b7fb13cc45a26&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ## **5\. Basins, Baskets, Bins & Containers** You don’t need fancy ones. I use reusable or disposable ones that we already have in our kitchen. I have basins and cups of various proportions for brushing my teeth, washing my hands and face and even my hair whilst in my bedroom. You’ll obviously need a pretty big basin for washing your hair or face. Baskets or containers are also useful for keeping things you might need together in one place. Pens, plastic bags, medication pouches, hair ties, books, power banks, etc. You can also put different baskets as ‘holders’ in different locations, such as a set for the bathroom, skincare products, for the bedroom, in the living room, etc. ## **Conclusion to Wound Care & What to Wear After Knee Surgery** To conclude, post-op wound care is of first priority, as the slightest infection can stall your recovery process or lead to a worse situation. Dress as comfortably as you can in baggy clothing, and keep your blood circulating through little movements. Compression clothing such as gloves and stockings can be helpful for that as well. Whilst dresses were more comfortable for me at home, they weren't as practical outside. Adaptive shorts with side fastenings were much easier as I was transported and wheeled around for medical appointments. Finally, if you're a female who gets periods, using disposable overnight panties or period underwear can save a lot of hassle and worries as you lay in bed all day long. There is also a range of accessible underwear that come with side fastenings, so do check those out! Know that you are not alone in your recovery journey. Sending plenty of good thoughts, and don't forget to check out the links below for more tips and resources if you found this post useful! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Wound Care & What to Wear After Knee Surgery Boards: ![How to Cope After Major Knee Surgery - The Ultimate Resource Guide](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-to-cope-after-knee-surgery-ultimate-resource-guide-1.jpg) View More Posts for Home & Wound Care After Knee Operation: 1. [Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care: Introduction to the Series](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-introduction/) 2. [After Surgery Care at Home: Hygiene Resources](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/) 3. [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable In Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/) 4. [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) 5. *[Wound Care & What to Wear After Knee Surgery (this post)](#)* 6. [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) Read Related Posts: - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 – 6](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) ### Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery (Part 4/6) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/ Last updated: 2026-03-24T15:40:39.000Z I'm not going to lie, but it's going to hurt pretty badly after major knee surgery, or any surgery for that matter. This article is part 4 of 6 in a series that covers resources and therapies for pain after major knee surgery. It is also applicable for anyone who is bed bound from acute or chronic pain, or who just underwent an operation. (You can [**find the full series at the end of the post**](#full-series).) I will start with painkillers and medications - they should not be viewed as an evil, but as essential tools there to help manage post surgery pain. I will then move on to tips on how to manage pain without medication, and natural pain relief resources, as these can be equally as helpful too. --- **❗️ Disclaimer:* Knee injuries and surgeries, or any major surgery for that matter,* [*vary widely from person to person*](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/knee-pain/symptoms-causes/syc-20350849)*. Your age, lifestyle, weight, circumstances, other chronic health conditions, medications, comorbidities, allergies and other issues can impact your recovery timeline, as well as the tools and methods required. *They should be adapted for YOU.** This article and the resources provided below are based on MY own personal experiences with spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon ruptures, as a person with many chronic illnesses. It also includes extensive options to cover various knee surgeries - not everything is meant for your specific type of knee injury or knee surgery. **They are meant for educational purposes and not to be substituted for medical advice. I am not a doctor, so please consult your own medical provider before trying anything out.** *This post also contains affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***privacy policy page***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/) *for more information. Thank you!* **Resources with a star ⭐ next to them are ones I’ve personally tried and would recommend!** --- ## 1\. Keep Your Medications & Painkillers Within Reach (Important!) If you live with chronic illness, you know how important it is to have your medications on standby. It's crucial to be *extra* organised now. You don't want to need your emergency medications in the middle of the night, but can't get to them. [**I also had to take antibiotics four times a day for months**](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/), due to skin wounds that wouldn’t heal from my knee surgery. That can be troublesome on top of keeping track of my regular medications, which I take three times a day. So keep them all close by. These are some medications I keep together in a box on my bed: Painkillers, antihistamines, prednisone, dhamotil/lomotil, benzodiazepines, charcoal tablets, my oral sleep spray, Citravescent and more. [Antihistamines were essential](https://oahct.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/OAH-Frequently-asked-questions-after-Surgery-0820.pdf) especially during the first few weeks of recovery. Ironically, it wasn't the wounds from the knee surgery that irritated my skin, but the leg braces. They were uncomfortable, and affected my quality of sleep. ### Ensure That Your Caregivers Know Where Your Medications are & What You Need Exactly You may be familiar with your medications and can prattle their tongue-twister names off with ease. But others may not, and most likely don't know where you used to keep them, either. I have so many medications that they need to be kept in several pouches and bags, and occupy an entire cupboard. You're going to need to rely on others to get your sodium valproate, hydroxychloroquine, hydroxyzine... "Is this the same as hydroxy...chloro...cuine?", vortioxetine and more. They are going to have a hard time; my mum took months to figure them out. Even pharmacists sometimes stumble over the names of my medications. Or they use the brand names which are often easier to pronounce. So ensure that your caregivers are familiar with your medications, what you need and when. (I wanted to buy the [Hero Automatic Pill Dispenser](https://herohealth.com/) but alas, they don't work in Singapore, only the U.S. :( ) Pin to Your Major Surgery & Knee Surgery Resource Boards: ![Tips for Patients and Caregivers After Major Knee Surgery](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/tips-for-patients-caregivers-after-major-knee-surgery.jpg) Buy Oral Sprays: - [Spectra Sprays (Use code: ACHRONICVOICE for 10% off!)](https://redirect.viglink.com/?format=go&jsonp=vglnk%5F166240988677312&key=86272c2d355b47c47afc6ca614a354ea&libId=l7oopuxg01033tqk000DL2s2kgzsp&loc=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.achronicvoice.com%2Fshop%2F&v=1&out=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.spectraspray.com%2F%3Fref%3Dro3g2jmalw&ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.achronicvoice.com%2F%3Fp%3D37172%26preview%3Dtrue&title=Shop%20-%20A%20Chronic%20Voice&txt=%0A%0AUSE%20CODE%20%27ACHRONICVOICE%27%20for%20%2410%20Off%0A%0A) Buy Pill Dispensers: - [e-Pill Station: Locked automatic pill dispenser with tipper base](https://www.amazon.com/Automatic-Dispenser-Anxiety-Free-Dexterity-Limitations/dp/B00DC4QZ0U?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=67037df1a972fb29e392e76f173f16dc&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Yaklim: Monthly pill organiser (2x/day)](https://www.amazon.com/%EF%BC%BBUpgrade%EF%BC%BD-Organizer-Medication-Dispenser-Supplement/dp/B08TBFZQBQ?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=d2e06fc55a07d4704bd5955a48a93786&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Se7en-Day: Weekly pill organiser (3x/day)](https://www.amazon.com/Organizer-Compartments-Moisture-Proof-Medication-Supplements/dp/B07Q9JSHMP?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=117429ba570a38f26a6cea37ef31d3ad&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) ## 2\. Heat Therapy (Improve Blood Circulation) Immobile legs make for cold legs with poor blood circulation. You can try using a heat blanket or hot water bottle for some heat therapy. I've never tried a heat blanket as it gets too warm in Singapore, but they're soft, flexible and easy to wrap around. I have a [**YuYu hot water bottle**](https://achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-review/), which is great for covering larger surface areas as it's long. When I could again, a nice hot shower helped both to refresh my mind and body. The coldness of my limbs also caused some dizziness when I moved around, and those hot showers helped with that. Visual Examples: YuYu Bottle - Recovery Power Series (use code **ACHRONICVOICE!** for 15% off): [![YuYu Bottle - Recovery Power Series (use code ACHRONICVOICE for 15% off)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-recovery-power-series-thumbnail.jpg)](https://www.yuyubottle.com/shop/collections/recovery/yuyu-recovery-power) Hothands - Disposable Insole Foot Warmers: [![Insole Foot Warmers with Adhesive Value Pack (5-Pairs)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41D221Tz06L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B007BI45KK?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Insole Foot Warmers with Adhesive Value Pack (5-Pairs)") Rechargeable Electric-Heated Socks: [![Heated Socks, Heated Socks for Men Women with APP Control, 8000mAh Rechargeable Electric Heated Socks Up to 10 Hours Washable Winter Warm Socks Foot Warmer Heated Socks for Skiing Cycling Camping](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51SGhI27LIL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DF55TYXH?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Heated Socks, Heated Socks for Men Women with APP Control, 8000mAh Rechargeable Electric Heated Socks Up to 10 Hours Washable Winter Warm Socks Foot Warmer Heated Socks for Skiing Cycling Camping") BedSure - Electric Foot Warmer: [![Bedsure Electric Foot Warmer, Bed Foot Warmer Fast Heating, Versatile Extra Large Heating Pad for Feet, Back, and Full Body, Gifts for Women, Men, and Mom, Auto Shut Off, 20x33 Inches, Charcoal Grey](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51PAfhFDDfL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D961LHV7?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Bedsure Electric Foot Warmer, Bed Foot Warmer Fast Heating, Versatile Extra Large Heating Pad for Feet, Back, and Full Body, Gifts for Women, Men, and Mom, Auto Shut Off, 20x33 Inches, Charcoal Grey") Buy Hot Water Bottles: - ⭐ [YuYu: long, hot water bottle (use code ACHRONICVOICE! for 15% off)](https://www.yuyubottle.com/shop) - [Foricom: large aperture, BPA-free](https://www.amazon.com/FORICOM-Classic-Shoulder-Menstrual-Compress/dp/B0956GQ2WC?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=1d1f1438f6d4e49af71c1ca70d54a940&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Buy Hand & Feet Warmers: - [HotHands: disposable insole warmers](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B007BI45KK?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f37528177aaa7002f0aa64bf7634cb44&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [HotHands: disposable hand & foot warmer bundle (other bundles available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B54375S2?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=253c25d55a8aa822cac43a37093030bd&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Wamoval: rechargeable, washable, electric-heated socks, bluetooth-enabled](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DF55TYXH?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=d98fc0dacbf59512cb6b77755bbe21e4&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [BedSure: extra-large electric foot warmer](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D961LHV7?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=2474d75c5cbdce88689c941fd22fcf28&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [PhysioNatural: microwavable mittens with flaxseed, unscented, minky fabric](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07S242C6R?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6138d62186fa0e06584b3a913266b549&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Buy Throws / Blankets & Heated Blankets: - [Big Blanket Co: extra large, polyester & spandex blanket (10′ x 10′ / 3m x 3m)](https://www.amazon.com/Big-Blanket-Co-Temperature-Regulating/dp/B08BJG8S76?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=fb3f120ba49b0d5232fc6cfcb3bb0124&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Bedsure: extra large, fleece blanket (various sizes & colours available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0157T2ENY?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b721dca4257ea47e963c45f6a72914dc&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Puredown: Lightweight soft down throw, OEKO-TEX certified (70" x 50" / 1.77m x 1.27m)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01J7CIUCG?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=3e7bebcd3acdc0b4e3b4cb81e4feaf3f&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Sealy: double-sided 240gsm Sherpa fleece, electric heated blanket (various sizes & colours available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BVWG1FY9?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e1a24cfa386eebae69c969be0011e2e4&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ## 3\. Cold Therapy (Reduce Swelling & Inflammation) Right after a major knee surgery, your knees and/or legs are going to be swollen and inflammed. You can wrap a cloth around a reusable cold gel pack and place them near the injury site to help tame the swelling and provide some pain relief. Alternatively, there are compression gel wraps you can buy that are designed to cover the knees. **Note that these are only to be used if your wounds are not directly at the knee itself. Check with your doctor if you're unsure.** I used regular cold gel packs wrapped in towels, though they do get damp quickly and aren't as flexible, so it was a little hard to keep them in place. Visual Examples: Relief Expert - Ice Pack Knee Wrap with Straps: [![Relief Expert - Ice Pack Knee Wrap with Straps](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41i+gi-HBiL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08C27X5ZF?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) TheraICE - Elbow & Knee Pull-on Cold Compression Sleeves: [![TheraICE: Elbow & Knee Pull-on Cold Compression Sleeves](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41PZTi0wkzL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07RZMGTMD?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Revix - Microwaveable Fabric Heat/Cold Pad (using seeds & beads): [![Revix: Microwaveable Fabric Heat/Cold Pad (using seeds & beads)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41-ym6cUnNL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08WZYT5M5?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Vive - Cold/Hot Gel Compression Brace: [![Vive - Cold/Hot Gel Compression Brace](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51UwDZhOT3L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B079JX3J4W?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Buy Cold Packs & Knee Wraps: - [Med Pride: 2x hot & cold compress gel pads (microwavable, with sleeve & belt)](https://www.amazon.com/MED-PRIDE-Reusable-Packs-Sleeve/dp/B09NF2LZ6C?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f9f29aad78213d71af50e27f342b090a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [TheraICE Rx: hot & cold compression sleeve for elbow / knee (slip-on)](https://www.amazon.com/TheraICE-Rx-Flexible-Injuries-Compression/dp/B07RZMGTMD?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=dc348edfa68e26800c5ae7a2d43a8c85&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Revix: minky fabric microwaveable hot & cold knee wrap (using flaxseeds, millet, clay beads & sorghum)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08WZYT5M5?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=47f1fdf4eac19ac65d19ee6f55d2006b&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Vive: Patented front & back knee wrap (adjustable compression & hot/cold therapy)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B079JX3J4W?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=576e1e1e7b4b6eadea6b3feec9e94a73&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Relief Expert: Ice pack for knees (with wraparound straps)](https://www.amazon.com/Relief-Expert-Injuries-Reusable-Compression/dp/B08C27X5ZF?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=78768aab8d66d4cfd1d26367c7470c33&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [YuYu Bottle Review: Hot Water Bottle for ‘Surround Warmth’ Pain Relief](https://achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-review/) - [The Chronic Pain Cycle & How to Break It (Top Tips From an Occupational Therapist)](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/) - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [Floatation Therapy: Did it do Anything for My Chronic Pain?](https://achronicvoice.com/floatation-therapy-chronic-pain/) ## 4\. Keep Your Skin Moisturised (Dead Skin Cells Clog Up & Can Itch) Your skin is going to dry up, especially if you’ve been in bandages for some time. [*Humans lose 200,000,000 skin cells every hour*](https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2016/11/161129114910.htm). Without a [proper shower](https://www.bustle.com/wellness/gross-things-that-happen-when-you-dont-shower), those dead skin cells are merrily hanging out on the surface of your body. This can make your skin look unsightly and shrivelled up. I was surprised at how bad my skin quality was, of all the things. You may itch quite a bit as a result of that, and also from the recovery process in itself. The remnant surgical abrasions from the knee surgery will also look bloody and disgusting. But not to worry; once you’re up and taking showers again, your skin will look better soon after. Stitches post major knee surgery: ![Stitches for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture Knee Surgery](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/patellar-tendon-rupture-knee-surgery-stitches-left-knee.jpg) Removing stitches after, degraded skin quality: ![Removing stitches after knee surgery (dry flaky skin)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/removing-stitches-after-knee-surgery.jpg) Buy Face & Body Moisturisers: - [CeraVe: moisturising cream with hyaluronic acid & ceramides](https://www.amazon.com/CeraVe-Moisturizing-Cream-Daily-Moisturizer/dp/B00TTD9BRC?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e23539f50c1a38977a116a43cb111161&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - ⭐️ [Aesop: rind concentrate body balm (other scents available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00WHNGPZW?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=209869d9ec9a7e5ac760b618b15ff427&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Hempz: 2-pack, triple-moisture, with 100% pure hemp seed oil](https://www.amazon.com/Hempz-Natural-Moisture-Whipped-Hydration/dp/B088CL9QH6?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=a8a07c631c8406a16df87cc711c5231a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Aloe Infusion: unscented, with organic aloe vera](https://www.amazon.com/Aloe-Infusion-Body-Face-Moisturizer/dp/B01N9QS1HN?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=88153395b7a91b30c6f8e420fd69d5ff&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Buy Hand, Nail & Cuticle Oils / Creams: - ⭐️ [Crabtree & Evelyn: Lavender hand cream](https://www.amazon.com/Crabtree-Evelyn-Hand-Therapy-Lavender/dp/B0BNCD2S3M?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=a0f170e3fdf5c9c5e61f797bd1990b4a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - ⭐️ [Korres: Olive hand cream](https://www.amazon.com/KORRES-Olive-Hand-Cream-Salt/dp/B07C3V7DMC?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ea0f90ee86c7273cc31d011b13825ef8&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Ora's Amazing Herbal: Unscented, clinically-tested eczema treatment cream](https://www.amazon.com/Intensive-Moisturizer-Oras-Amazing-Herbal/dp/B00BIQRANU?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=0d4d47399c34f771558c6f4a391271ba&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ## 5\. Cushions for Sitting Comfortably After Knee Surgery ### **5.1 Gel Cushions** Gel cushions are essential when you're out and about, as most wheelchair seats are thin, hard and uncomfortable. If you think sitting in a wheelchair and having someone push you around sounds luxurious and fun - I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but it's anything ***but***. You can also develop bedsores or haemorrhoids when you need to sit all day long. It's important to prevent rather than treat these ailments, as they can be a literal pain in the ass. ### **6.2 Doughnut Cushions** Doughnut cushions are like doughnuts - they have a hole in the middle. The hole is meant to relieve pressure against your anus when you're in a sitting position. If you've already developed piles, these may help you to sit a little more comfortably. Visual Examples: Ergonomic Innovations - Orthopedic Memory Foam Donut Pillow: [![Ergonomic Innovations - Orthopedic Memory Foam Donut Pillow](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41yRSNAFnjL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07XF72ZSF?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) ComfiLife - Gel Enhanced Memory Foam Seat Cushion: [![ComfiLife - Gel Enhanced Memory Foam Seat Cushion](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41SpRAAUtIL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B014F18ZGU?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Buy Doughnut Cushions / Haemorrhoid Pillows: - [Ergonomic Innovations: Physical therapist endorsed brand, supportive foam core (up to 240 lbs)](https://www.amazon.com/Tailbone-Hemorrhoid-Postpartum-Pregnancy-Sciatica/dp/B01LSR1FD4?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=5c256c71a1f868bc60ec903f36d71993&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Ergonomic Innovations: Orthopaedic pure heat responsive memory foam](https://www.amazon.com/Ergonomic-Innovations-Orthopedic-Donut-Pillow/dp/B07XF72ZSF?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f500b8e141503020886643a6a5bcdf72&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [H.: Orthopaedic gel memory foam (various firmness & sizes)](https://www.amazon.com/H-Charcoal-Donut-Pillow-Tailbone/dp/B08D7TPD11?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ea25aed83ed0c658bb8fd89218330d5d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Buy Gel / Pressure Relief Cushions: - [C Cushion Lab: Patented, extra-dense memory foam](https://www.amazon.com/Cushion-Patented-Pressure-Relief-Sitting/dp/B08J88HV2P?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=dc2d260b66065be9ee6c91e311a9b1cb&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [ComfiLife: Non-slip, orthopaedic, memory foam](https://www.amazon.com/ComfiLife-Gel-Enhanced-Seat-Cushion/dp/B014F18ZGU?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=649c09afa20b154daabe4b8a1e63de09&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Purple: Pressure reducing grid designed (Made in the USA)](https://www.amazon.com/Purple-Ultimate-Seat-Cushion-Relieving/dp/B01CKMP21W?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=cdc1442cac5398f99b11a59fffa78268&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-home-resources-learned-other-blogs/) - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) ## 6\. Massages (Excellent Therapies for Pain Relief & Blood Circulation) Your body is going to ache with all that sitting and lying down. I think I’ve formed muscles in places that I don’t usually work out, such as my lower back and bum! Massages, at least for me, are relaxing therapies for pain in general. They help with blood circulation as well, which in turn aids healing. Massages also helps to relieve muscle tension, so that you’re then able to stretch out a little more, or do your physiotherapy exercises with less pain. Visual Examples: CozLow - 6-in-1 Wood Therapy Massage Tools: [![CozLow: 6-in-1 Wood Therapy Massage Tools](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41-s1SiTBcL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09WM3NMSG?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Posture Magic - Set of 6 Massage Balls: [![Posture Magic - Set of 6 Massage Balls](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41yu83reJpL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0879HVW3K?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) ### 15.1 DIY Self-Massage Kits I bought a simple massage kit that came with various tools to target different areas of the body such as my thighs and neck. I have a large roller for my thighs, a Y-shaped tool for my neck, and a few other bibs and bobs. Buy Self-Massage Kits: - [CozLow: 6-in-1 lymphatic drainage & self-massage kit (hand-made, high-quality beech wood)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09WM3NMSG?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=0c6cfc0fdeacd2c1bedfbae80a8a79ce&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Posture Magic: Set of 6 Massage Balls for myofascial trigger point release](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0879HVW3K?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=d57eeab15ff5d0e4fe2a19348a6ec86c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ## 7\. Solutions if You Can't Massage Yourself The problem with the massage kits is that my hands and fingers have a 'contact limit', due to [**inflammation from Lupus and Sjögren's**](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/). Everything I push or press adds up, and by the end of the day, they're swollen with pain and I can't bend my fingers anymore. Here are some things I use instead. Visual Examples: Comfier - Shiatsu Neck & Back Massager with Heat: [![Comfier - Shiatsu Neck & Back Massager with Heat](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/418x2hS-77L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07JH7GS76?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) TheraGun - Deep Tissue Therapy Electric Massage Gun: [![TheraGun - Deep Tissue Therapy Electric Massage Gun](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31iWuw6hKXL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B086Z6V3S6?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Fit King - Air Compression Leg Massager: [![FIT KING Air Compression Recovery System,Dynamic Compression Massage Boots for Circulation Improvement and Fast Recovery,Sequential Compression Device for Athletes,FSA HSA Approved (Medium)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41-1oIs8hUL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B62V291P?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "FIT KING Air Compression Recovery System,Dynamic Compression Massage Boots for Circulation Improvement and Fast Recovery,Sequential Compression Device for Athletes,FSA HSA Approved (Medium)") Cloud Massage - Shiatsu Foot Massager with Heat: [![Cloud Massage - Shiatsu Foot Massager with Heat](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41c3t9L8FYL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09JX3PQ5J?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) ### 7.1 Electric-Powered Shiatsu Back Massager & Massage Guns I bought a cheap shiatsu back massager which I can lean against whilst resting in bed. It does help to knead out all the knots and aches in my back and neck a little. You can also get a massage gun, where you can adjust the vibration levels to massage various sore body parts. I personally don't like these, as they make me feel overstimulated, and tend to cause bruises, as [**I'm**](https://www.achronicvoice.com/2018/05/27/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome-personal-experiences/)[**also on blood thinning medication**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/). But if you're in need of something strong and targeted, they might work for you. Buy Massage Seats / Cushions: - [Snailax: Shiatsu massage cushion with heat](https://www.amazon.com/Snailax-Shiatsu-Kneading-Massager-SL-256/dp/B076HWNCP5?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=a790d2022e45e286ca0066517cd69140&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Comfier: Shiatsu neck & back massager with heat & adjustable compression](https://www.amazon.com/Comfier-Shiatsu-Neck-Back-Massager/dp/B07JH7GS76?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=7f7a21de83b03e2d9daab45c08ff50ee&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Buy Massage Guns: - [Theragun Prime G4: percussive deep tissue muscle massage, adjustable, 4 attachment heads, quiet, cordless (other models available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B086Z6V3S6?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6e7ac6beb23b4d4e066911634f4d6532&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Toloco: percussive deep tissue muscle massage, 10 massage heads, silent motor, adjustable, cordless (various colours)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B083L8RNJR?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=7601552080d3f756cb564d31b27f4d8a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ### 7.2 Electric-Powered Leg, Calf and/or Feet Massagers I didn't buy any of these whilst recovering, as I didn't want to cause myself any further injury. But now that my knees are functioning better, I am considering getting one. I still get pins and needles when I wake in the morning, or if my legs have been still for too long. It takes a good while of movement before they start to normalise. My knees are definitely not the same as before, and I think the huge scar tissues surrounding them affect blood flow. Perhaps one of these leg, calf or feet massagers might help to improve that on a more regular basis! Buy Leg, Calf and/or Feet Massage Machines: - [Fit King: air compression electric foot massager (various sizes)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B62V291P?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=068f77fb84d65c0a49f7fa72dbf0d440&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Aicutti: Wraparound Leg Massager with Heat (can be used on other body parts too)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09F2MSQLK?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=3b4fa2d7392614bf306162e5d2583ffa&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Cloud Massage: Shiatsu Foot Massager with Heat Therapy (5 massage modes)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09JX3PQ5J?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=24659733d68ad8a5e2e2fb932e5a664d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Nekteck: Shiatsu Foot Massager with Heat](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06WGP2CVL?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f9d826f8809460aa90a473c31a8b17bc&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ### 7.3 Home Massage Therapy (Ensure That the Therapists are Qualified) After a few months when I could move my knees again without them hurting so much, I found a home massage therapy service, [Urban Company](https://invite.urbanclap.com/0C8sUpWrnrb). The prices were decent, and the masseuses had years of experience working in renown massage companies previously. The first massage therapy I had post knee surgery was so therapeutic, having spent months confined in bed. I could feel all the tight knots in my body relaxing, and had a good night's sleep after. Of course, you'll need to avoid massaging the knee area for now. But a good massage from a trained therapist helps both mentally and physically. ### 7.4 Guasha Tools for the Face, Head & Neck (Lightweight Pain Management Tools) I also get inflammation in the blood vessels in my forehead, skull, neck, shoulders, face and jaws. Something I've found to be helpful are guasha tools. They're light, so they don't hurt my hands. They come in various materials such as rose quartz, jade, metal and wood. The benefits of crystals is that they're cool to the touch, so that can be soothing as well. I personally prefer the rose quartz material. They also come in various shapes and edges, so choose one that can best fit and reach the curves of your face, jawlines and wherever else you need. Be careful not to scrape too hard, especially if you're on blood thinners like me. My favourite shape is the one with three curves on one edge, as I find that I can reach most spots comfortably. You can do a search on YouTube for examples on how to best use each guasha shape. I don't use them in any specific method, but just whatever way feels relaxing. Over all, I've found that they do help to relieve some pain through muscle relaxation. Guasha-ing on the way to school: > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/reel/ChRAcuMD25d/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/reel/ChRAcuMD25d/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) Buy Gua Sha Tools: - [YYZP: 3-piece hand-carved rose quartz set](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06XGX8746?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6c512ade07f6fc3d06b00071c4f33f3b&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Airlaxer: 4-Piece natural quartz set](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B096Z7MDMG?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=5d587dbd95518f9c13ffa86b32b01e6f&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Scienlodic: Large, with resin handle (for neck, leg, etc)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B095C254HY?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b0af2d125bcc7b95c2a432ea2da74376&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ## 8\. Kinesiology Tape (for Pain Relief) Lying in bed all day doesn't only cause aches, but also weakens all your muscles. That in turn causes more pain when you try to use them again. Whilst I don't use kinesiology tape as I find it a hassle to tape myself, I know that it helps to relieve the pain of many chronically ill people, especially those who are [hypermobile](https://www.nhsinform.scot/illnesses-and-conditions/muscle-bone-and-joints/conditions/joint-hypermobility). Here's how [my friend, Shruti, uses kinesiology tape](https://allthingsendometriosis.com/using-kinesiology-taping-ehlers-danlos-syndrome/). She lives with [EDS (Ehlers Danlos Syndrome)](https://medlineplus.gov/genetics/condition/ehlers-danlos-syndrome/) and other chronic illnesses, too. Here are also some great videos on how to use them, courtesy of Thrive Tape. Their kinesiology tape comes with far infrared as well, for potentially more pain relief (unaffiliated): [Thrive Tape – Calf Strain application](https://vimeo.com/362164623) from [Thrive Tape](https://vimeo.com/thrivetape) on [Vimeo](https://vimeo.com/). [Thrive Tape - Inner Knee "MCL strain" application](https://vimeo.com/362164711) from [Thrive Tape](https://vimeo.com/thrivetape) on [Vimeo](https://vimeo.com). [Thrive Tape - Full Knee "Osteoarthritis" application](https://vimeo.com/362164850) from [Thrive Tape](https://vimeo.com/thrivetape) on [Vimeo](https://vimeo.com). You can also apply and use kinesiology tape for your wrist, finger, arm, legs, ankles, feet, back, neck, shoulder and other sorts of pain. Buy Kinesiology Tape: - [KT Tape Pro: Pre-cut & uncut options](https://www.amazon.com/KT-Tape-Kinesiology-Therapeutic-Resistance/dp/B076SRKYC3?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f8da589990db88ce959291783900495e&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [SB SOX Pro: Water-resistant, latex-free, pre-cut & uncut options](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09B2QDWLR?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=2039d7382e551d74db85e48a6724b2ef&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Hampton Adams: 2-pack, latex-free & hypoallergenic](https://www.amazon.com/Kinesiology-Tape-Sports-Athletes-Resistant/dp/B07DJ3PBNM?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f34fe163733d42b73c70916e639bed86&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ## Conclusion to Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery In conclusion, there are many resources and therapies for pain after surgery out there. It might take some experimentation to find out what works best to relieve and manage your pain, as our bodies are all unique. To get more tips, insights and resources on post-operative knee surgery care, check out the links below. Wishing you a speedy recovery! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Resources & Therapies for Pain & Knee Surgery Boards: ![Resources and Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/resources-therapies-pain-after-major-knee-surgery.jpg) View the Full Resources & Therapies for Pain After Knee Surgery Series Here: 1. [Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care: Introduction to the Series](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-introduction/) 2. [After Surgery Care at Home: Hygiene Resources](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/) 3. [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable In Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/) 4. *[Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery (this post)](#)* 5. [Wound Care & What to Wear After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery/) 6. [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation (this post)](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) Read Related Posts: - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 – 6](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) ### Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable in Bed (Part 3/6) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/ Last updated: 2026-06-06T16:49:52.000Z You’re literally going to live on your bed for the next couple of months after a knee surgery or major surgery, so you’ll want to get as comfortable as it gets. Your butt and back are going to ache, and it’s not very… interesting, to put it simply. This post is part of a series on [**my spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture injury and recovery journey**](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/). This article in particular will focus on the must haves after knee surgery. It will contain tips and resources to help you be as comfortable as is possible whilst stuck in bed. They are also suitable for anyone who is disabled and bed bound, or who is recovering from surgery in general. (You can [**view the full series at the end of the post**](#full-series).) --- **❗️ Disclaimer:* Knee injuries and surgeries, or any major surgery for that matter,* [*vary widely from person to person*](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/knee-pain/symptoms-causes/syc-20350849)*. Your age, lifestyle, weight, circumstances, other chronic health conditions, medications, comorbidities, allergies and other issues can impact your recovery timeline, as well as the tools and methods required. *They should be adapted for YOU.** *This article and the resources provided below are based on MY own personal experiences with spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon ruptures, as a person with many chronic illnesses. It also includes extensive options to cover various knee surgeries – not everything is meant for your specific type of knee injury or knee surgery. *They are meant for educational purposes and not to be substituted for medical advice. I am not a doctor, so please consult your own medical provider before trying anything out.** *This post also contains affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***privacy policy page***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/) *for more information. Thank you!* **Resources with a star ⭐ next to them are ones I’ve personally tried and would recommend!** Pin to Your Post-op & Surgery Recovery Boards: ![Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable in Bed — Get the resources on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery-stay-comfortable-in-bed-get-resources.jpg) --- ## 1\. Comfortable Bedding, Mattress & Pillows (Absolute Must Haves After Knee Surgery) ### 1.1 Hospital Bed (Highly Practical, if Your Budget Allows) Hospital beds are not cheap; a decent one costs hundreds, even thousands, of dollars. I was fortunate as someone donated one to me, as her husband had just passed away 🙁 I am grateful to her, as the hospital bed was a tremendous resource, and made the recovery process a lot easier (if not any less painful). The ability to adjust the height and position of the bed is immensely useful when you’re recovering from a major knee surgery. The grab bars at the side were essential for pulling myself up to a sitting position. Do also get one that has a board at the front, or your legs might keep sliding down and off the bed. It’s also useful for pushing your feet against to aid with getting up when you can. The hospital bed didn’t only help right after my knee surgery, but came in handy when I was learning to walk again. As it’s height adjustable, that makes standing up easier, as your knees do not need to bend as much to get to an upright position. As I gradually regained my leg muscles, I could lower the bed to practice standing from a lower sitting position. That will be the first thing you learn to do again. You may be disappointed that you will need assistance as all your muscles have atrophied, but it gets easier with practice! A hospital bed is useful for any person who lives with chronic illness and daily chronic pain, too. Even though I can walk now, albeit rigidly, the grab bars and adjustments are still useful. Before my knee surgery, I never gave much thought to bed height. But I’ve come to realise how much of a difference it makes even without a knee injury, as getting out of bed with arthritis or joint aches can be a slow, painful endeavour. (Toilet ‘runs’ at night, anyone?) Buy Hospital Beds: - [EShine 2000 Series: 12" or 14" memory foam/pocket spring hybrid mattress, bluetooth app control, up to 750lbs/340kg (other bed sizes available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CDC87VGC?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=7076dfed0c8a335f7cbb7bb560d69220&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [GotBran: 3-Function electric bed, 4.7" memory foam mattress, jetcon motor, central locking system, 5" casters ](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CGLY4ZMR?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=95078b73d8e58611273e23882b903b5d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ### 1.2 Pressure Sore Air Mattress (Relieve Bedsores, Ulcers & Skin Lesions) The bed that was donated came with a basic pressure sore mattress, but I didn’t use it myself as I found it lumpy and uncomfortable. However, if you suffer from bedsores, ulcers or skin lesions, these mattresses can help to relieve some pressure and discomfort from your body. Buy Pressure Sore Air Mattress: - [Roscoe Medical: with electric alternating pressure pump (supports up to 300 lbs)](https://amzn.to/3uQmLev) - [Drive Medical 14027: Alternating pressure mattress with low air loss alarm (supports up to 350 lbs)](https://amzn.to/3HEiToH) - [Medacure: Pressure redistribution elastic memory foam mattress](https://amzn.to/3htkG5i) ### **1.3 Comfortable Bedding (Your Bed’s Going to be Home for A While)** Ensure that your bedding is clean and comfortable. You will probably need to change the bedsheets more frequently, as there will be food bits, pee, dirt and sweat on it. The last thing you want is to fall ill from food poisoning or bed sores. All that wisdom about [only using the bed for sex and sleeping to prevent insomnia](https://www.healthline.com/health/sleep-hygiene#limit-activities) – well, you don’t have much of a choice after a major knee surgery. Your bed will be ‘home’ for a while, so invest in some comfortable, cooling bedding if you don’t already have some. Buy Bedding Sets: - [Lane Linen: 100% Egyptian cotton, 1000 thread count, smooth sateen weave (other colours & sizes available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09B2HXT9K?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b8ccaf19eec0ad94b94b430df9fc774a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Gokotta: 100% rayon derived from bamboo, 24" extra deep pocket fitted sheet with elastic corner straps (other colours & sizes available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CCRM9D67?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b4815108ee2b12685c7503672e81d3b4&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Serta: 100% cotton, goose feather fiber & down fiber filling, hypoallergenic (other sizes & types available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B082YL5ZT1?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=aa5133c8e90381f77b93d2a53208eb06&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Support Local - Buy Bed Sheets & Towels (Singapore-Based, Unaffiliated): - [Sunday Bedding: bamboo sateen / ⭐ french linen / 100% organic cotton / cotton sateen sheets](https://sundaybedding.com/collections/sheet-sets) - [Oak & Sand: ⭐ tencel x naia / tencell lyocell / giza egyptian cotton / hotel cotton](https://oakandsand.com/) - [Weavve: ⭐ Tencel sheets](https://weavvehome.com/collections/bedding) - [BedTribe: iced bamboo sheets](https://bedtribe.com/) - [Sojao: ⭐ 100% GOTS-certified organic](https://sojao.shop/) ### 1.4 Ergonomic Pillows (You’ll be Lying or Sitting 24/7) A good pillow (or two or three!) are must haves after knee surgery, if you want to stay comfortable in bed. You can arrange them to lean against for more or less support, whether you’re lying flat or to your side. You can even use them to support your knees, or hug them for some comfort. As I had to keep my knees and legs *absolutely straight* for 6 weeks and had to encase them in leg braces, I was only able to sleep in a flat or upright position. If you’re like me, you’ll really want some good pillows. Remember that you’re not only using them for sleeping, but *all day long*. The Leg Braces I Had to Wear for 6 Weeks After My Knee Surgery: ![Leg braces and plaster cast post major knee surgery](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/leg-braces-bandages-knee-surgery.jpg) Pillows are a highly preferential thing. Some are more suitable for side sleepers like me, and others for back and stomach sleepers. The shape and the hardness level are dependent on your preference and needs as well. Then there are buckwheat pillows, ergonomic pillows, and other scented ones with different textures and purposes. I suffer from [TMD (Temporomandibular Disorder)](https://www.nidcr.nih.gov/health-info/tmd), and get a stiff jaw, neck and head every single morning. The inability to move whilst asleep because of the leg braces also contribute to the pain and stiffness. If you have any recommendations for a good pillow or tips – I’d appreciate it! ~~Unfortunately, despite trying out various pillows, I still haven't found the perfect one for me.~~ I found *my* pillow! The [Anvo firm orthopaedic pillow](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B092LND2SG?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=92dc195351d96a3b573fb8677607dceb&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) was great at first, as I started to wake in the mornings with less aches and pains. But for some weird reason it stopped 'working', so I hunted for another pillow. [My current favourite pillow is this buckwheat one](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07X5YPK4V?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=345609aedf702a97b31778552b994cd8&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). The buckwheat hulls shift according to your head position, which makes it more flexible. Buckwheat hulls also repel heat, so it doesn't get trapped within my pillow. Of all the things to buy, I think pillows are an essential investment, as you lay your head down for a third of a day, every day! Types of Comfort Pillows: ⭐️ Anvo – Cervical Memory Foam Contoured Orthopedic Pillow: [![Anvo: Cervical Memory Foam Contoured Orthopedic Pillow](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51bxhWAOAML._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BJC3M3QS?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Anvo: Cervical Memory Foam Contoured Orthopedic Pillow") ⭐️ Sobakawa – Organic Cotton Buckwheat Pillow: [![Sobakawa: Organic Cotton Buckwheat Pillow](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41rp75BuLRL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07X5YPK4V?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Sobakawa: Organic Cotton Buckwheat Pillow") Buy Pillows: - ⭐️ [Anvo: Ergonomic contoured design, memory foam, CertiPUR-US certificated (firm / soft)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C3YLYXYJ?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=167b08b67cb7a8972f9625eeeafc2da1&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - ⭐️ [Sobakawa: Traditional buckwheat pillow, cooling (queen / traditional)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07X5YPK4V?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=345609aedf702a97b31778552b994cd8&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [DreamyBlue: Shredded memory foam, adjustable height, hypoallergenic (king / queen)](https://www.amazon.com/DreamyBlue-Premium-Pillow-Sleeping-CertiPUR-US/dp/B09ZKC4B61?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=66a55bc1039b79942ce20e53cddec10b&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Lofe: Organic tartary buckwheat hulls, adjustable height, cooling (various sizes)](https://www.amazon.com/Lofe-Organic-Buckwheat-Pillow-Sleeping/dp/B089VTMYNX?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6f365e7e196a499e76a5054040d7314f&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ## 2\. Leg Wedge Pillows (Inclined to Help Reduce Swelling) I had to keep my legs propped up day and night for a few months to prevent blood clots, and it also helps to reduce swelling. Your doctor will most likely ask you to keep your legs elevated as well, especially right after a major knee surgery. You can, of course, use regular pillows stacked atop each other. Alternatively, you can get a firm leg wedge pillow. These are specifically made for your lower limbs to rest upon, so they shift less, and you don’t have to keep re-adjusting them. They’re also firmer, can be more comfortable, and easier to prop your legs up with. Leg wedge pillows come in different shapes and sizes. They can come in a straight, flat incline, with curves, or angled at the knee area. There are also ones that have dividers for each leg, and sides to keep them in. The flat ones can also be used for leaning your back against whilst in bed. **❗️ Pick something that’s suitable for your type of knee injury. If you’re unsure, check with your doctor.** [According to Cleveland Clinic](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/15567-home-going-instructions-after-total-hiptotal-knee-replacement): > “For knee replacement, you will need to elevate the leg to help reduce swelling. **It is important to elevate the entire leg, down to the ankle. When elevating, your feet should be above the level of your heart.** You may also use pillows to elevate, but never place a pillow behind your knee. Your knee should be as straight as possible when elevated.” Visual Examples: Lounge Doctor – Elevating Leg Rest Pillow: [![Lounge Doctor: Elevating Leg Rest Pillow](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41xxUteor9L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07K3VJVK3?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Lounge Doctor: Elevating Leg Rest Pillow") LightEase – U-Shaped Coutour Elevating Pillow: [![LightEase: U-Shaped Coutour Elevating Pillow](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31Frl-laOCL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09J25M5RT?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "LightEase: U-Shaped Coutour Elevating Pillow") Memory Foam Bed Wedge Pillow, 45° Incline, Flat Top: [![Memory Foam Bed Wedge Pillow, 45° Incline, Flat Top](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/411rANHPxuL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07DM1FZFC?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Memory Foam Bed Wedge Pillow, 45° Incline, Flat Top") Ubbcare – Single Leg Memory Foam Elevating Pillow: [![Ubbcare: Single Leg Memory Foam Elevating Pillow](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41+XSpqWMAL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09XDLJPT2?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Ubbcare: Single Leg Memory Foam Elevating Pillow") Buy Elevating Leg Rest Pillows: - [Lounge Doctor: ergonomic, open-cell foam (18" wide)](https://www.amazon.com/Lounge-Elevating-Swelling-Lymphedema-Pregnancy/dp/B07K3VJVK3?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=bf8d25c001b8a491dfd8995a9c933ca8&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [LightEase: memory foam, conforms to ankles, with handles (15.7" wide)](https://www.amazon.com/LightEase-Post-Surgery-Elevation-Elevating-Sleeping/dp/B09J25M5RT?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=39ca12373154f689fba56908cf369acf&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Ubbcare: Certipur-US certified memory foam, free-from, single leg pillow (40° tilt)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09XDLJPT2?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=a49e42474ca3275bd05e4f4319452182&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Xtra-Comfort: Gel-infused memory foam, silicone dots (45° incline, 8" height)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07DM1FZFC?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=1ec6d1851e1a03f37840d2f360fb4d29&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Everlasting Comfort: Contour knee wedge pillow for between legs (with strap)](https://www.amazon.com/Everlasting-Comfort-Knee-Pillow-Sleeping/dp/B07995B8L1?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=730d172923e784370bde3bda937b696a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ## 3\. Sleep Accessories (Filter Out Unwanted Environmental Stimulation) I don’t really use sleep accessories such as sleep masks or noise cancellation ear plugs, as I don’t like the feel of ‘something pressing against me’. But I know many people who find sleep accessories essential for better quality of sleep, especially if their environment isn’t conducive for resting for whatever reason. [**Manta Sleep sponsored one of our Christmas Giveaways**](https://achronicvoice.com/virtual-holiday-party-chronically-ill-disabled/#manta-sleep), and also gifted me with a few of their high quality sleep masks. I kept the Cool and Steam ones for pain relief usage, and gave the regular ones to my dad and some friends. Their reviews were all positive, and it’s a brand I’d highly recommend. Their products and customer service are top-notch. They even have weighted and sound masks, are fully adjustable, comfortable even for side sleepers, and for those with long eyelashes. Visual Examples: Manta Pro 100% Blackout Sleep Mask: [![Manta Pro Sleep Mask - 100% Light Blocking Sleep Mask for Side Sleepers, Breathable and Comfortable, Spacious & Zero Pressure for Long Lashes, Perfect for Sleep/Travel/Nap/Shift Work](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51pY7LL9D-L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C36K8SJJ?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Manta Pro Sleep Mask - 100% Light Blocking Sleep Mask for Side Sleepers, Breathable and Comfortable, Spacious & Zero Pressure for Long Lashes, Perfect for Sleep/Travel/Nap/Shift Work") Manta Slim 100% Blackout Sleep Mask (Ultra Lightweight): [![Manta Slim Sleep Mask - Ultra-Lightweight Blackout Eye Mask, Slim Elastic Head Band Comfort Design, Zero Pressure Eye Mask, Infinitely Adjustable Eye Cups, Perfect for Side Sleepers](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51Axx58ajPL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08661DWZR?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Manta Slim Sleep Mask - Ultra-Lightweight Blackout Eye Mask, Slim Elastic Head Band Comfort Design, Zero Pressure Eye Mask, Infinitely Adjustable Eye Cups, Perfect for Side Sleepers") Manta Cool Mask (for Allergy, Migraine, Puffy Eyes & Sinus Relief): [![Manta Cool Mask (for Allergy, Migraine, Puffy Eyes & Sinus Relief)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51Bby8wzjsL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0865RLTXB?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Manta Cool Mask (for Allergy, Migraine, Puffy Eyes & Sinus Relief)") Manta Steam Mask (for Dry/Puffy Eyes, Migraine & Sinus Relief): [![Manta Steam Mask (for Dry/Puffy Eyes, Migraine & Sinus Relief)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51zp737v4uL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0865KJ1QR?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Manta Steam Mask (for Dry/Puffy Eyes, Migraine & Sinus Relief)") Buy Sleep Masks: - ⭐️ [Manta Sleep Mask Shop](https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/AB130236-7A11-4154-9426-8540E11E9F39?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=5a70420c93810863bcf287e7b0a2f685&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [MZOO: Adjustable, 3D contoured cups, memory foam, heat bonded](https://www.amazon.com/Contoured-Sleeping-Blindfold-Concave-Meditation/dp/B0B6HRZD6L?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=cd9f8440e1d7b356a293a9397fc90c0f&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ## 4\. Adjustable Bedside Table (Essential!) This might be the most important thing after your bed, as everything you’ll need will be placed here. Your breakfast, lunch, dinner and snacks. Your medications, water bottle, coffee mug, tissue box, laptop, stationery supplies, monitors, books and whatever else you need. A bedside table is a must have after knee surgery, or if you’re stuck in bed from chronic pain. Get one that has the capacity to be adjusted up and down to suit the height of your bed and body’s positions. It should also be sturdy, long and wide enough to put all the things. You can also get a bed tray table that can be placed on your bed itself, if that’s more comfortable for you. Visual Examples: ⭐️ Overbed Bedside Table (with Cup Holder): [![Vaunn: Overbed Bedside Table (with Cup Holder)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31pUaF4oReL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07R8W63HM?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Vaunn: Overbed Bedside Table (with Cup Holder)") Tilt Top Overbed Table: [![Vaunn Medical Adjustable Tilt Overbed Bedside Table with Wheels for Hospital and Home Use](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41KScohd5hL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07WZWSPD9?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Vaunn Medical Adjustable Tilt Overbed Bedside Table with Wheels for Hospital and Home Use") Foldable Bed Tray Table / Laptop Desk: [![Laptop Desk for Bed, Adjustable Bed Table with Leather Desktop, Foldable X-Large Laptop Bed Trays with Drawer for Bed Couch Floor Writing Working Reading Eating Painting (Gray, 23.6](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31dB6eekiPL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09B1MD1CR?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Laptop Desk for Bed, Adjustable Bed Table with Leather Desktop, Foldable X-Large Laptop Bed Trays with Drawer for Bed Couch Floor Writing Working Reading Eating Painting (Gray, 23.6") Bamboo Foldable Bed Tray Table with Handles: [![Pipishell - Bamboo Foldable Bed Tray Table with Handles](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41aClmzlhdL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B088K4X3YJ?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Buy Overbed Bedside Tables: - ⭐️ [Vaunn: height-adjustable (29”-43”), plastic top with cup compartment](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07R8W63HM?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=0142f1e28b4861e1c46ec511cbb2dddd&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Drive: height adjustable (28” - 45”), wood, low-pressure laminate top with height locks](https://www.amazon.com/Drive-Medical-Overbed-Table-Silver/dp/B002VWJZ8S?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b1b3a6ce44142ce16660ee75e9b7600d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Vaunn: height adjustable (29” - 41”), tilt-top, heavy-gauge steel with wheel locks](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07WZWSPD9?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=855257ef3122d146fbad2930af0f845f&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Buy Bed Tray Tables: - [Hetthi: adjustable height & tilt, foldable, extra large, pvc leather (more colours available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09B1MD1CR?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b7b693a023fd060fdd2f84591bd8bf4a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Pipishell: Bamboo, foldable legs, side handles (more sizes available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B088K4X3YJ?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=4f6455ef9a1fa0ac34e8df9d8110f1c8&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ## 5\. Power Bank & Cable (to Stay Connected, Distracted & Comfortable in Bed) Don’t forget your power supplies! You probably own a digital device or two that helps to keep you entertained, and also connected with the world. From your mobile phone to laptop, tablet, Kindle, earphones and whatever else. It’s a good idea to have a high capacity power bank with a long, multi-head cable whilst [**stuck in bed**](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/). That way you can charge a few different devices at the same time. You’re not going to be very flexible right after a major knee surgery either. So adapt the power supply to whatever position you’re in, rather than the other way around. Buy Portable Power Banks: - ⭐ [Anker: 25,000mAh, triple 100W ultra-fast USB C charging ports (laptop-compatible)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DCBB2YTR?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ef4efa08c702f932eece207fc40281e3&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [JoyFar: 30,000mAh, 17-layer protection system, digital display](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D9LW3FGG?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e1ad2247fbb483ead197957308b29c31&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Buy Charging Cables: - ⭐ [Anker: 2-Pack, 6 ft fast charge, universal compatibility with USB-C port](https://www.amazon.com/Anker-2-Pack-Premium-Charging-Samsung/dp/B07DC5PPFV?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e5662646d6abc58ee29b2654ca4b36b8&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Cleefun: 5-Pack, 6 ft fast charging nylon braided cord (USB Type C, USB 2.0)](https://www.amazon.com/Durable-Brained-Cleefun-Charger-Charging/dp/B09XVFDLQX?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=8bfb3a9d8532c031dfba37b7a41a08ad&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [How Much Time Are You Wasting On Sleep?](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or ‘How to Relax’ by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) Pin to Your Major Knee Surgery Resource Boards: ![Knee Surgery Post-op Care — Must-have resources to make recovery more comfortable. Get the list on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-op-care-must-have-resources-make-recovery-comfortable.jpg) ## **6\. Water Dispensers & Bottles (It’s Essential to Stay Hydrated Even Though You’ll Have to Keep Peeing)** You might avoid drinking water so that you need to pee less. The need to use the bedpan yet again is such a hassle, isn’t it? But common sense would say that hydration is more important than that. It’s essential for a healthy lifestyle, and for recovery after major knee surgery (or any surgery, really). If you dislike the taste of plain water, throw in a lemon or some fruits. There are even fruit infusion machines, and those that transform plain water to bubbly! Though I wouldn’t recommend drinking too much carbonated drinks, as that might make you overly gaseous whilst lying still in bed. To make things easier, you can get a filtered water dispenser and place it beside your bed, so you don’t need to keep asking someone for refills. Or any jug with regular water, really. **The important thing is to stay hydrated.** I have a Larq bottle which allows you to fill it up with water from anywhere, and uses UV light technology to kill germs. It can also keep liquids warm or cool for a few hours. If you like your beverages hot or cold, get a bottle like that. They also have a lightweight one for on-the-go, so you can refill your water supply from almost any source – super handy for long days out ~~camping~~ at medical appointments. Visual Examples: ⭐️ Larq: Insulated Self-Cleaning Bottle: [![Larq: Insulated Self-Cleaning Bottle](//a.impactradius-go.com/display-ad/11455-819458)](https://imp.i263265.net/c/2113489/819458/11455) ⭐️ Larq: Filtered Water Dispenser: [![Larq: Filtered Water Dispenser](//a.impactradius-go.com/display-ad/11455-1900022)](https://imp.i263265.net/c/2113489/1900022/11455) SodaStream: Terra Sparkling Water Maker Value Bundle: [![SodaStream Terra Sparkling Water Maker Bundle (Black), with CO2, DWS Bottles, and Bubly Drops Flavors](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41f+5X-JHmL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B097TD87ZY?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "SodaStream Terra Sparkling Water Maker Bundle (Black), with CO2, DWS Bottles, and Bubly Drops Flavors") Fruit Infuser Water Pitcher: [![64](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41SIvfX2oSL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DG59QZLN?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "64 oz Fruit Water Infuser Pitcher, Heavy Duty Wide Mouth Glass Pitcher with Lid and Pour Spout, Tea Pitcher Airtight Seal for Freshness and Convenience, Great for Cold Beverages, Breast Milk") Buy Water Filters & Bottles: - [⭐ LARQ Store: Self-Cleaning Bottles & Water Filters](https://imp.i263265.net/c/2113489/819458/11455) - ⭐ [Brita: UltraMax BPA-free, 27 cup water dispenser (includes 1 filter & accessories)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09WBL9HCS?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f2735e13a65a0ce49fedea524b512ca1&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [OneDream: water pitcher with fruit infuser, heavy-duty, glass](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DG59QZLN?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=46bb0996f45647fff85a4090ddfafa69&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Hydracy: Large BPA-free water bottle with time marker, leak & condensation proof, wide-mouth (more colours & sizes available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B091D3GDZ7?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b432722050f870c6190a3a763108b984&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Buy Sparkling Water Machines: - [SodaStream Bundle: Includes 2x Co2 cylinders, 3x carbonating bottles, 2x 40ml bubbly drops flavours](https://www.amazon.com/SodaStream-Terra-Sparkling-Water-Bottle/dp/B097TD87ZY?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=4e1f5b643c7e6263beb80b0410e4ba9d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Twenty39 Bundle: infuse flavors directly into the bottle (CO2 cartridges not included)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B086DSMGL7?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c4a23a1681f462c7b1b4a27427f6331e&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ## 7\. In-Bed Aids & Transfer Equipment (to Help Your Caregiver & You to Move About) Visual Examples: Positioning Bed Pad for Transfers, with Handles: [![Positioning Bed Pad for Transfers, with Handles](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41EtRmGJuiS._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07PLF746G?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Vive – Attachable Compact Bed Rail: [![Vive - Attachable Compact Bed Rail](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41gisgkzNIL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07NWWWKNJ?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Lumex – Overhead Bed Trapeze Bar with Floor Stand: [![Lumex - Overhead Bed Trapeze Bar with Floor Stand](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31MVTCB0-QL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B008SI8198?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) ### 7.1 Positioning Bed Pad (for Transfers) After a major knee surgery, you will need help to be transferred from your bed to the commode, wheelchair, sofa, onto transportation, be repositioned in bed, etc. This can hurt, as every small movement triggers pain at your injury site. You will want transfer equipment that is stable, and a caregiver or paramedic who is strong enough to support your body weight. Buy Positioning Bed Pad: - [Neppt: 8 heavy-duty reinforced handles, double-sided polyester, waterproof (40" x 48")](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07PLF746G?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b93edde6446db8ee3d7d561c3cc63b92&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Zheeyi: Double-sided nylon fabric, waterproof, 8 handles (48" x 40")](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B096ZKQ3K7?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=0aa3b5b9421d0405d8bc90ac48e183f0&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ### 7.2 Overhead Trapeze Bars (for Hoisting Yourself Up) I didn’t have these installed, but wish I did. They would have made sitting up a little easier! There are those that can be mounted to the headboard or footboard of your hospital bed. And also those that can be attached to your ceiling. Buy Overhead Trapeze Bars: - [Lumex: Height-adjustable, floor stand included, optional bed mount (supports up to 450 lbs of assisted weight capacity)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B008SI8198?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=071b84d142aaa83c9f8f696e30cc8f25&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Aossa: Two-piece design ceiling mounted bed trapeze (350lbs / 158kg weight capacity)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08X2NFTXY?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f2905cf83191b8736c027a4dadf81bc1&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ### 7.3 Compact Bed Rails (for Support Getting Up & Standing) These are also useful for pulling yourself up to a seated position, and provide support for when you can start learning to stand from your bedside again. I didn’t have these installed either, but my walking frame comes with an extra bar so I used that instead. Buy Compact Bed Rails: - [Vive: Adjustable non-slip padded rail, attachable to bed](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07NWWWKNJ?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=46dac9ef6895b6234981b606164b681e&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Stander: Height-adjustable bed cane with ergonomic padded handle, attachable to bed, with organiser pouch (supports up to 300 lbs)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000GUHG6K?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=288e83e9f6181bb9536b1ee67bac83b6&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ## 8\. Alarms / Call Bells (Essential to Call for Aid & for Emergencies) You know how you have a call bell on flights and by your hospital bed, which you press whenever you need assistance? These are essential whilst you’re stuck in bed during your recovery period, too. Sure, you can use your mobile phone, but people don’t have their phones with them all the time at home. Especially when they’re cooking, doing the laundry, sleeping, etc. It may also be on silent mode. The alarms I bought are similar to doorbells. We have one plugged in the living room, and one in my parents’ room. I have two call bells by my bedside, which I press whenever I need to use the bathroom, need help getting a drink or something else that I can’t do on my own. The volume can also be adjusted, so if I need help urgently at night, I know that someone will be awoken and come to my aid. If your house is big, you might want to plug one into each separate area so that it’s audible. Visual Examples: ⭐️ Retekess TH003 – Wireless Emergency Call Bell: [![Retekess TH003 Wireless Caregiver Pager System,Nurse Alert System, 492ft,1 Plug-in Receiver,1 SOS Help Call Button for Home,Elderly,Patient,Disabled](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31DgwuhrzaL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08FJC82YQ?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Retekess TH003 Wireless Caregiver Pager System,Nurse Alert System, 492ft,1 Plug-in Receiver,1 SOS Help Call Button for Home,Elderly,Patient,Disabled") Retekess – Wireless Emergency Call Bell (with Watch Pager): [![Retekess TD112 Wireless Nurse Call System,Restaurant Pager System,1 Watch Receiver,10 4-Key Call Button for Restaurant,Bar,Hospital,Clinic,Cafe](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51ITa07o-0L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B5R11289?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Retekess TD112 Wireless Nurse Call System,Restaurant Pager System,1 Watch Receiver,10 4-Key Call Button for Restaurant,Bar,Hospital,Clinic,Cafe") CallToU – Wireless Alert Buttons + Walkie Talkies: [![CallToU - Wireless Alert Buttons + Walkie Talkies](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/415LjuwjCyL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0921HH5Q9?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Buy Alarm Call Bells: - ⭐ [Retekess TH003: 1x wireless call button with transmitter](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08FJC82YQ?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f98d3446beaf72785ff54e37add26209&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Retekess TD112: 1 watch receiver, 10 call buttons, with alarms](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B5R11289?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c2e62734caf818a1d2864e2624621db9&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [CallToU: 2x wireless call buttons with transmitters & walkie-talkies](https://www.amazon.com/CallToU-Caregiver-Transmitters-Receivers-Attention/dp/B0921HH5Q9?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=d9c7f5970b041fbd63002d037385231d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Liotoin: 3x wireless call buttons with transmitters](https://www.amazon.com/Wireless-Caregiver-Transmitters-Receivers-Operating/dp/B083XQGTRP?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=eb2aa3a30757ddb33b5f5b8b8c26b776&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ## 9\. Voice Activated Home System (Get Stuff Done Without Getting Out of Bed) My uncle got my room fixed up with a voice activated system, which is pretty useful as I can’t get out of bed. My voice gets hoarse after a while, so I still prefer to use the remote controls. But it’s nice to be able to switch off the lights and close the curtains with voice control. The system can also play music and do a few other nifty tasks for you, which can be helpful when you’re bedbound post knee surgery. Buy Digital Smart Home Hubs: - [Amazon Echo Show 5](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09B2SRGXH?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ddb66d22b8e1433a07c72ccebd364ef1&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Google Nest products](https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/8E366402-36AA-4ADD-B2A7-BA6E44A3B8F9?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=fc4a5c5746c930f31e868e32d136fcc4&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) - [Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-home-resources-learned-other-blogs/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) ## 10\. Humidifier & Air Purifier (Plus Candles or Essential Oil Burners, if You Like) As I live in hot and humid Singapore, I have the ceiling fan turned on all day long, and the air conditioner on at night. Your skin gets dry and your throat parched, when you’re lying in bed all day with little ventilation. ### 10.1 Air Humidifiers (for Moisture) I purchased a humidifier which I turn on at night for extra moisture. Even with that, my skin is still dry and scaly since my knee surgery from the lack of showers. ### 10.2 Air Purifier / Filter (Improve Your Air Quality) My sister loaned me her favourite air purifier as well, which helps to make me feel ‘safer’ in a sense. As I’m breathing the same air in the room day in and out, this helps to circulate some fresher air. It also helps when guests pay a visit, with the [**ongoing pandemic**](https://www.achronicvoice.com/2021/08/19/covid-19-vaccine-experiences/) and whatnot. ### 10.3 Candles & Essential Oil Burners (if You Find Scents Relaxing) I also have candles and essential oil burners because I love floral scents, and it helps to make me feel a little more relaxed. I can add water-based essential oils into my air humidifier simultaneously, so that’s handy. Buy Humidifiers & Essential Oil Diffusers: - [Levoit: Smart wi-fi humidifier + diffuser (with 10-pack replacement filters)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B1KT966G?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=962ca56325fe89101cbd99feb3d8eff2&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Levoit: Humidifier + diffuser with ultrasonic cool mist & dual 360° rotation nozzles](https://www.amazon.com/LEVOIT-Humidifiers-Ultrasonic-Humidifier-Essential/dp/B07WKZVWRD?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ba57d1188f8819b800b49c63aadcc571&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Pure Daily Care: Diffuser with 10 essential oils, ambient light & timer controls](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07JD2GDKN?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=62e9fc69e91a684f833d97181f7b365f&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) - [COVID-19 Vaccine Experiences from People with Chronic Conditions](https://achronicvoice.com/covid-19-vaccine-experiences/) ## 11\. Private Hire Ambulance Services (You Won’t be Able to Get into a Car for A While) If you’ve had a major knee surgery and need to keep your legs stretched out for weeks or months, then it might be a good idea to hire a private ambulance service to take you to and from your follow-up medical appointments. It might be difficult to fit both you and your extended wheelchair into a regular-sized car. More manpower will be needed to transfer you onto the vehicle. And it is also a lot less painful for you to be seated or stretched out the entire time. For those of you who live in Singapore, here’s a list of [emergency ambulance services and their rates](https://www.moh.gov.sg/licensing-and-regulation/accredited-private-ambulance-operators/eas-common-fees). Having tried a few companies, I wouldn’t say any of them are superb, but I used [AMS](https://www.ambulanceservice.com.sg/) the most. I met a paramedic whom I liked, Hairol, and would request for him each time. Their fees are also more affordable for frequent trips. **These are lists that my hospital provided me with: private hire ambulances, home-based physiotherapists and occupational therapists, and local places to buy mobility aids.** No matter where you live in the world, your hospital should be able to provide you with similar resources. ## Adapt This ‘Must Haves After Knee Surgery’ Guide to Fit Your Personal Needs I hope that this list of ‘must haves after knee surgery’ has been a useful guide to support you in your own recovery process. Always bear in mind that comfort is a personal preference, so always adapt the tools and resources to fit your own unique needs and circumstances. Wishing you a speedy recovery, and don’t forget to check out the links below for more tips and resources for post knee surgery home care! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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[Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) 5. [Wound Care & What to Wear After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery/) 6. [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) Read Related Posts: - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 – 6](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) ### After Surgery Care at Home: Hygiene Resources (Part 2/6) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/ Last updated: 2026-04-29T16:32:39.000Z Let’s face it, after surgery care at home is going to be messy, dirty, and a tad unpleasant. You’re going to need to urinate a few times a day, and poop as well. It’s normal, healthy and human to do so. And you're going to need help with these functions every day for a while. I hate bedpans and commodes with a ferocity, and how someone needs to assist me with the most 'disgusting' aspect of everyday living. It's obviously unpleasant for them, too. Yet, hygiene and the after surgery care at home is of paramount importance. You don't want to land in hospital again due to an avoidable infection. My 'regular' chronic pain can already make some most days unbearable. It's even more difficult to manoeuvre when a body part is broken or weakened. But you don't have a choice but to accept help after you've just had a major surgery ([**a spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture in my case**](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/)). So you might as well ensure that your caregiver(s) know what to do and how to help. Make the after surgery care at home as painless and smooth as possible for the both of you. After a while you will both get used to the routine, and also realise that we all more or less poop and pee the same way. Nothing fascinating, so just get on with it. This post is part of a series where I share tips, resources and my recovery journey for knee surgery. (You can [**view the full series at the end of the post**](#full-series).) --- **❗️ Disclaimer:* Knee injuries and surgeries, or any major surgery for that matter,* [*vary widely from person to person*](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/knee-pain/symptoms-causes/syc-20350849)*. Your age, lifestyle, weight, circumstances, other chronic health conditions, medications, comorbidities, allergies and other issues can impact your recovery timeline, as well as the tools and methods required. *They should be adapted for YOU.** This article and the resources provided below are based on MY own personal experiences with spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon ruptures, as a person with many chronic illnesses. It also includes extensive options to cover various knee surgeries - not everything is meant for your specific type of knee injury or knee surgery. **They are meant for educational purposes and not to be substituted for medical advice. I am not a doctor, so please consult your own medical provider before trying anything out.** *This post also contains affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***privacy policy page***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/) *for more information. Thank you!* **Resources with a star ⭐ next to them are ones I’ve personally tried and would recommend!** Pin to Your After Surgery Care at Home & Hygiene Resources Boards: ![After Surgery Care at Home: Hygiene Resources (Part 2 in the knee recovery series)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene-resources-part-2-knee-recovery-series.jpg) --- ## 1\. Essential Hygiene Resources for After Surgery Care at Home Visual Examples: Bed Pan: [ ![Medpro: Bed Pan](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31m455JSZ3S._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B005JXC9NE?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Medpro: Bed Pan") Urinal: [![Urinal](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41g0CCTLdRL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07VB6RNKX?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Urinal") ⭐ Disposable Underpads / Incontinence Pads: [![Medpride: Disposable Underpads / Incontinence Pads](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51JPl-AEcCL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06XRYQ722?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Medpride: Disposable Underpads / Incontinence Pads") 3-in-1 Folding Commode: [![Medline: 3-in-1 Folding Commode](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31RgRtKqQZL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B086TTX5TD?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Medline: 3-in-1 Folding Commode") ### 1.1 Bed Pans (for Peeing Whilst in Bed) I place a disposable underpad / bed pad underneath before hoisting myself onto the bedpan. More often than not, droplets may splash over or stain the bed, so use them to keep it clean. You might need help to clean up for a while, so this makes it easier for your caregiver, too. In the hospital, they put you in a diaper or place a plastic sheet under you the entire time. They don’t have the manpower to tend to your comfort all day long. I don’t have to tell you how uncomfortable and sweaty that gets. I also *just can't pee* into a diaper no matter how hard I try, so I had to struggle to use the bedpan. However, if you have incontinence or the patient has Alzheimer's or another medical condition, you might need to remain on a diaper. You have more options at home, so try to make yourself comfortable. I hate to say it, but you’ll be in bed for quite a while, especially if you broke both knees like I did. If you don't like bedpans, you can use a urinal. There are both male and female ones available on the market. I find bedpans easier to clean properly, so I stick to those. Have baby wet wipes, tissue or toilet paper and hand sanitiser nearby to help clean up better after you're done. Buy Bed Pans: - [Qiwey: Heavy-Duty Stainless Steel Bed Pan with Lid](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BWF2LGMJ?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b4f124c97d3bcf090150da0d4ec08e66&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Medpro: plastic fracture bed pan](https://www.amazon.com/Medpro-Fracture-Plastic-Built-Handles/dp/B005JXC9NE?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=52b4ef667a09f883eb415e4ec3f3c069&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Bed Pan Set (with 30 absorbent gel pads & liners)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BXBCHG3G?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f3b741e0c10ca518c69619b277649d7c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Buy Male Urinals: - [ PerfectMed: plastic male urinal with glow-in-the-dark lid (32oz/1000ml)](https://www.amazon.com/Urinals-Spill-Proof-PerfectMed-Pack/dp/B07YMHR8SJ?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=d158d4b31ae5e891200562d3d8440ba1&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Keepon: thick male urinal (66oz/2000ml)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07VB6RNKX?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=30f214d17debba4a98875f81953e723b&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Buy Female Urinals: - [Innovative Designworks: Spill-Proof female urinal](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09L7V4HZB?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=02001b3e6cfa3042d948da89181c2dd9&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Travel Jane TJ1R: disposable female urinal, instantly turns to gel (27oz/800ml)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0821SK6Y6?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=02e332be764d99dc34840f09d27d4d5c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Sunany: Female Silicone Pee Funnel (with pouch; more colours available)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B088R55BX6?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c7b21735157cb87929cf77ec62f9a58c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Buy Disposable Underpads: - ⭐ [Medpride: (23” x 36” / 58cm x 91cm)](https://www.amazon.com/Disposable-Underpads-Incontinence-Absorbent-Protection/dp/B06XRYQ722?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=118e528870e5d5a90546d82ee5c6880c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Remedies: (30” x 36” / 76cm x 91cm)](https://www.amazon.com/REMEDIES-Underpads-Disposable-Absorbent-Protection/dp/B00X2WZT9A?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ea6d28ac35cfac9d55752b488d471cb7&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Stack Man: with adhesive strips (30” x 36” / 76cm x 91cm)](https://www.amazon.com/Disposable-Underpads-Absorbent-Adhesive-Incontinence/dp/B09DNRWYVQ?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=43b9d3d9cc52a313d39c91ee24a87496&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ### 1.2 Commodes (for Pooping) There are a few different kinds of commodes you can get as well, so choose one that will suit you best. I have a portable, waterproof commode chair that has a cover. There are also commodes that are height adjustable, come with detachable legs, and other different features. For a few months after my knee surgery, I had to do my business with my legs stretched out flat on the bed, as I couldn't bend them. After I was recovered enough, the commode came in useful as I could be wheeled to and from the shower. Buy Commodes: - [Drive Medical 12005KDC: with transfer bench & padded seat](https://www.amazon.com/Drive-Medical-Combination-Transfer-Commode/dp/B002VWK0SM?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=40cd9504fe1624d0bc4e4e3164b7a6d0&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Medline: padded with drop arm](https://www.amazon.com/Medline-Heavy-Padded-Drop-Arm-Commode/dp/B009GQ492E?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=aa84485fab590fab3ba2544a94de3406&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Medline: 3-in-1 toilet design, foldable with splash shield](https://www.amazon.com/Medline-Folding-Bedside-Adjustable-Supports/dp/B086TTX5TD?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=0110b028ccea15f6eebbfeafcd08b178&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [Asking for Help (and Why Everyone Needs to Learn this Important Life Skill)](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) - [What Stops You from Splitting Your Burdens Up?](https://achronicvoice.com/splitting-your-burdens/) - [Would You Rather: Have an Invisible Illness or a Visible Disability?](https://achronicvoice.com/rather-have-invisible-illness-or-disability/) ## 2\. No-Rinse Soap & Shampoo for Washing Your Body & Hair Some people may be too weak or ill after a major knee surgery to take a full shower. So nurses in the hospital or carers at home may need to wipe them down with body wipes. I personally hate that because Singapore is humid, and I never feel clean or fresh after such a simple wipe down. I prefer to use no-rinse body foam or cloths, then wipe the soap off again with warm water. To my surprise, it actually felt clean that way. I used to need a shower daily or else I’d feel gross. So I was surprised that I could adapt to this method of cleaning up. Washing my hair is trickier. We tried a few funnels and equipments, but they all make a mess anyway. So be prepared to mop up if you want to wash your hair in the room. When I was a little better, I was able to wash my own hair using two basins - one behind and one next to me. Doing so allowed me to scrub my scalp clean and rinse out at different angles. I even got pretty efficient at it! I use regular shampoo for that. I tried a few different brands but have concluded that I hate dry shampoo as they feel icky with residue. I did use it in the hospital, but also requested for a basin of water and a cloth so that I could wipe it out after. The no-rinse shower caps are okay. I do prefer to wipe them down with clean water as well. They definitely aren’t as clean as shampoo and water, but they are clean enough for days when you need to just get your hair washed quickly. I 'treated' myself to a full-on shampooing session every 3-4 days, and used the shower caps in-between as needed. Pin to Your Knee Injury & Knee Surgery Resource Boards: ![Resources to Keep Clean When You're Bedbound Post-Surgery](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/resources-keep-clean-bedbound-post-surgery-1.jpg) Buy Rinse-Free Shampoo & Conditioner Caps: - [Nature Valley: unscented, pH-balanced & hypoallergenic](https://www.amazon.com/Shampoo-Nurture-6-Pack-Shampoos-Conditions/dp/B07BKMWX7D?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ad9187138484f814a5edab257bb82341&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Medline: unscented, pH-balanced & hypoallergenic](https://www.amazon.com/Medline-ReadyBath-Unscented-Rinse-Free-Conditioner/dp/B002NHEJ8W?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=0c7a9eeff3663efc26b5940586a2e0d2&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Medcosa: with vitamins & chamomile extract](https://www.amazon.com/Shampoo-Hassle-Free-Bedridden-Chamomile-Medcosa/dp/B08KYD2VQH?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=06d2a9250d48ab598b961351b1c29f69&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Buy Rinse-Free Body Wash Products: - ⭐ [Nurture Valley: foaming, face & body, hypoallergenic](https://www.amazon.com/Rinse-Nurture-Cleansing-Moisturizes-Protects/dp/B01LWIAJ3S?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c53e45288feefdd6478ac652d37b9229&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - ⭐ [Scrubzz: disposable sponge bathing wipes, unscented, pH-balanced & hypoallergenic](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06XQ9NQPQ?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=1123a487c0cbb371ad152c286a2f9a1a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Hygienjoy: disposable pre-soaped mitts, hypoallergenic, ph-balanced](https://www.amazon.com/HYGIENJOY-Disposable-Convenient-Waterless-Disabled/dp/B09CQ9VJYZ?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=fac3025543bff1afc9fd51e6e77adace&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [HyperGo: bath wipes, hypoallergenic, biodegradable (12″ x 12″)](https://www.amazon.com/HyperGo-Rinse-Free-Hypoallergenic-Biodegradable-Bathing/dp/B013VIPNS6?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=115de99d90c6cf8111b1da9a9bdababd&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Buy Alcohol Wipes & Hand Wipes: - [Winner: 4-ply 100% cotton, 70-75% isopropyl alcohol wipes](https://www.amazon.com/Winner-Sterile-Alcohol-Large-Cotton/dp/B01M650DVS?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=1621b4b1c9160d8a01e52622d67f5325&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [CareSour: Unscented, 75% isopropyl alcohol wipes (320 pieces)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CQ5HYPPZ?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=7f180a269835f06b5ecc367c9035f5f0&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Buy Female Hygiene Wipes: - [Summer’s Eve Simply Sensitive: ph-balanced, micellar water formula](https://www.amazon.com/Summers-Eve-pH-Balanced-Dermatologist-Gynecologist/dp/B076HFFX3J?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=16497a1b05c885b711cd5930842638a2&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Rael: 100% purified water and organic cotton, hypoallergenic & free-from](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07PQCCHBG?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=2499e72522ecefacc29fb7aa3697aefd&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Goodwipes: large, hypoallergenic & flushable per INDA G4 Guidelines](https://www.amazon.com/Goodwipes-Flushable-Biodegradable-Botanicals-Dispenser/dp/B099BHK748?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=fa962ce5f6140481f0f572e1519d5e83&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Buy Feminine Wash: - [Rael: foaming, cosmos certified natural, ph-balanced & free-from](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B071LTMYQN?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=8aed4eadb194919471a5d669f0039a3a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Monistat: fragrance-free, pH-balanced complex with boric acid](https://www.amazon.com/Monistat-Maintain-Feminine-Boric-Fragrance/dp/B08QPQ1P7G?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e1fb0ffa56f410191a598ab4a11ee4d4&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [vH essentials: ph-balanced with prebiotics](https://www.amazon.com/essentials-Feminine-Cranberry-Prebiotics-Chamomile/dp/B0072K2BMG?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=8f13bce3a5b7b106b3aef932a3dbcd66&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ## 3\. Level Up Your Toilet - Make It Accessible We had to renovate our bathroom as it was in poor condition anyway. Thankfully, kind souls provided the funding to do so. (Renovation sure isn’t cheap!) We’ve added in a shower chair that folds up into the wall to save space. Railings have also been installed beside the toilet bowl and also near the shower area. Space that was previously taken up by cupboards have been reduced or removed. It still hurts my knees when I bend to sit on the toilet bowl even after 6 months. My hands are also always in pain from Lupus and Sjögren's, so pulling myself up with the railings hurt, too. My advice would be to get an adjustable toilet bowl seat. It will save you a lot of pain. The commode we bought isn’t height adjustable either; I'd advise you to get one that is. I've had to stick to the bedpan mostly because of that. As you can see, **height is an accessibility feature - so do ensure that whatever installments you make to your toilet and bathroom are suited to your own height.** Visual Examples: Shower Chair: [![Medline: Shower Chair](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/316l8zOAJrL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01MSISJKG?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Medline: Shower Chair") Transfer Bench with Swivel Seat: [![Transfer Bench with Swivel Seat](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41Osuf8Ul0L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0184P0UZ2?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Transfer Bench with Swivel Seat") Raised Toilet Seat: [![Bemi’s Assurance: Raised Toilet Seat](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31m9MumSNwS._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B083Y4M7YH?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Bemi’s Assurance: Raised Toilet Seat") Toilet Safety Rails / Grab Bars: [![Vive: Toilet Safety Rails / Grab Bars](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41mLgn-HhnL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B015789VQI?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Vive: Toilet Safety Rails / Grab Bars") ### 3.1 Shower Chair / Shower Bench This is useful in the shower for supporting your legs, especially when you need them flat. Over time you can wash whilst sitting with your legs down, but having it there can provide relief whenever your legs or knees are tired. ### 3.2 Raised Toilet Seat I don't have one, but wished I did. A raised toilet seat is useful for anyone with chronic pain; simple movement such as standing and sitting hurts, when you live with chronic illness. It is extra useful right after knee surgery, as you won't be able to bend your knees much. ### 3.3 Grab Bars / Railings In the beginning, I needed manual assistance from my helper or dad just to stand and sit. Over time, I was able to do so myself, with the aid of railings. If you notice, every disabled toilet outside has these for accessibility reasons! Buy Shower Chairs & Benches: - [Platinum Health: carousel sliding transfer bench, swivel seat, arm & back rest, height adjustable (19″ \~ 23.5″)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0184P0UZ2?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=9666131c35c0a83256f59ae066ab9b67&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Medline: arm & back rest, height adjustable (16″ to 21″)](https://www.amazon.com/Medline-Shower-Armrests-Bathtubs-Supports/dp/B01MSISJKG?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c4b465c5f89ae9c646f74c83c291f902&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Aliseniors: padded, lightweight, adjustable height (13.4″ to 18.4″)](https://www.amazon.com/Aliseniors-Adjustable-Shower-Chair-Comfortable/dp/B092VHBJQL?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=12678c72f520b01b8588089c1a554746&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Buy Raised Toilet Seats & Grab Bars: - [Bemis: shield protection, elongated, support arms, 3" lifted seat, tested up to 1000lbs](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B083Y4M7YH?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=bba843e1d43ec08f38c20d561e0c9160&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Platinum Health: padded seat & arm rests, adjustable height](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07TSFX9PL?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c858da11172361842321cbe207e46aa5&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Vive: Standalone toilet rails, up to 300lbs](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B015789VQI?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=1cc258c20ea7b56e56805e4f09073d04&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) - [Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-home-resources-learned-other-blogs/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [Invisible in Singapore: What’s It Like to Live Here with Chronic Illnesses?](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/) ## Conclusion to Part 2 of the 'After Surgery Care at Home' Series This post is part of a series on after surgery care at home, especially for post major knee surgery. Hygiene comes first, because it is of the utmost importance during the recovery process. Keeping clean is also an everyday routine that is unavoidable, and can also help make us feel a little fresher and better. I hope these hygiene resources for after surgery care at home have been useful to you, and feel free to ask more questions in the comments below! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. View the Full After Surgery Care at Home Series: 1. [Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care: Introduction to the Series](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-introduction/) 2. *[After Surgery Care at Home: Hygiene Resources (this post)](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/)* 3. [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable In Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/) 4. [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) 5. [Wound Care & What to Wear After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery/) 6. [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) Read Related Posts: - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 – 6](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) ### Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care: Introduction to the Series (Part 1/6) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-introduction/ Last updated: 2025-10-24T16:52:31.000Z A knee surgery, or any major surgery, carries with it a certain percentage of risk. There's the general anaesthesia, rare but possible mishaps, unforeseen problems, medication interactions and more. Knee surgery post-operative care and the recovery process will look different for every individual, but there are some resources in general that can benefit most patients. In my case, I suffered a [spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture](https://casereports.bmj.com/content/12/2/e227931). Meaning both my knees were [completely broken](https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/299204) \- from the thigh, down to the kneecap and quadriceps, which left me bed bound for a year. Whilst mine are the two biggest tendons in the knees, others suffer from bone fractures, [ACL (anterior cruciate ligament)](https://orthoinfo.aaos.org/en/diseases--conditions/anterior-cruciate-ligament-acl-injuries/) and [MCL (medial collateral ligament)](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/21979-mcl-tear) tears, and more. Many elderly people need knee replacement surgery done as well. These knee surgeries differ in degrees of severity, but all affect our ability to walk and move properly. Spending that much time in bed is a nightmare in terms of logistics and physical health. This series of articles will focus on knee surgery post-operative care, and to make coping with disability a little easier. (You can [**view the full series at the end of the post**](#full-series).) --- **❗️ Disclaimer:* Knee injuries and surgeries, or any major surgery for that matter,* [*vary widely from person to person*](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/knee-pain/symptoms-causes/syc-20350849)*. Your age, lifestyle, weight, circumstances, other chronic health conditions, medications, comorbidities, allergies and other issues can impact your recovery timeline, as well as the tools and methods required. *They should be adapted for YOU.** *This article and the resources provided below are based on MY own personal experiences with spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon ruptures, as a person with many chronic illnesses. It also includes extensive options to cover various knee surgeries – not everything is meant for your specific type of knee injury or knee surgery. *They are meant for educational purposes and not to be substituted for medical advice. I am not a doctor, so please consult your own medical provider before trying anything out.** *This post also contains affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***privacy policy page***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/) *for more information. Thank you!* **Resources with a star ⭐ next to them are ones I’ve personally tried and would recommend!** *Originally Published: 13 December 2022* --- My Ex-Chronic Illness Life: > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/reel/CWIf02RD3PM/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/reel/CWIf02RD3PM/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) My New Chronic Illness Life: > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/Ci-dgEtv-IR/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/Ci-dgEtv-IR/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) ## Support From Friends & Family Post-Operation is Crucial Besides the obvious physical aspect, a major surgery or knee surgery can take a huge mental and emotional toll on anyone. The psychological impact from the sudden loss of mobility and independence can be terrifying. It take a huge blow on your self-confidence and self-esteem. It can make you question your self-identity. Support from friends and family play a huge role in your knee surgery post-operative care, and during the long recovery process. Your loved ones are there to encourage and cheer you on, and they help to pass the time in the best possible ways. Friends whom I hadn’t met in ages offered to commit to weekly visits, and I looked forward to these events in my calendar. They were like bright spots in the gloom of it all. There were also weekly milestones, as I counted down to when I could start physiotherapy. This horrible incident rekindled some friendships. Or rather, it reminded me that just because I haven’t seen my friends in a long time, it doesn’t mean that they have stopped caring. Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Disability Support Boards: ![Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care - Your Support System Matters](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-your-support-system-matters.jpeg) Read Related Posts: - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [Asking for Help (and Why Everyone Needs to Learn this Important Life Skill)](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) ## **A Big Thank You to Everyone Who Supported & Continue to Support Me** I would also like to thank everyone - family, friends, acquaintances and even strangers who helped me along my major knee surgery post-operative care and recovery journey. For those who supported us financially, a lot of the funds went into some of the items listed in this series of posts. For those who supported emotionally through visitations and communication - this was invaluable for my mind and spirit. For those who supported physically, I couldn't have gotten around to my doctor appointments without your help, and managing everyday tasks would be an even bigger challenge than it already was and is. **So a big thank you to each and every single one of you - you know who you are :)** A common comment I see on social media is that others with chronic illness or disabilities do not have anyone to support them or to rely on. So I am very grateful for all the kindness and support that I do have. I know that I'm very fortunate that way, and appreciate every little action. Here's wishing you a steady and speedy recovery from your knee surgery, or any major surgery! You can click on the links below to view the entire series. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care Boards: ![Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care - The Comprehensive Series](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-comprehensive-series.jpeg) View the Full Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care Series: 1. *[Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care: Introduction to the Series (this post)](#)* 2. [After Surgery Care at Home: Hygiene Resources](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/) 3. [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable In Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/) 4. [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) 5. [Wound Care & What to Wear After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery/) 6. [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) Read Related Posts: - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 – 6](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ **Carrie John Kellenberger** ](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/2022/12/08/what-it-feels-like-to-win-health-coverage-in-taiwan/) Dec 14, 2022 What a great resource, Sheryl! Strangely enough, I was just thinking of you again today and wondering how you were managing, as my husband had to lift me out of bed last night for “help.” It was a bad night and unfortunately they’ve been frequent this year. And then—poof—here is your article, and I’ve got a great number of the items you’ve listed here in my room right now (aside from bed pans, which we now know we must get). I’ll be sure to share widely and will wisely hold on to everything this time, as I keep giving it away and then inevitably need it again. I admire you. I’ve thought many times of your holiday giveaway this year and while I love it, I’m also aware of how much work it is. I was glad to see you take this year off, but I admit I’ve missed your posts and wanted you to know that someone notices your regular events from this site! Glad I could be the first to comment on this extraordinary resource guide and wish you a happy holiday—and hopefully a better year for both of us! Sending hugs and love from Taiwan 💛 - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Dec 16, 2022 Thank you so much for your support as always, Carrie — I appreciate it tremendously 🙂 I’m sorry to hear that you’re in so much pain. Many healthy people don’t realize that the resources I listed for post-surgery are just as helpful for those living with chronic illness, since our daily pain levels can be similar. Sending hugs to you. And yes, I definitely needed a break from the giveaways — they’re *too much*work and always cause me to burn out and flare up 😅 When I’m up for it, I’ll be sure to host one again. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### What's it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/ Last updated: 2026-03-24T07:14:58.000Z *A Note from A Chronic Voice: To open, I’d like to thank Lucjan for contributing this guest post. I especially love to hear from men within the community, as their voices are pretty rare, yet vital. Lucjan is a caregiver, whose wife is chronically ill with fibromyalgia and endometriosis. Read on to find out more about the challenges, rewards and his best tips on being a caregiver to a chronically ill loved one!* *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my/our personal experiences as patients. *I/we are not doctors, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ## An Introduction by Lucjan When most people think of caregivers, they think of elderly parents being cared for by their adult children. However, caregivers come in all shapes and sizes. There are also many young caregivers who are providing care for chronically ill spouses, partners, siblings, or friends. I am one of those caregivers. My wife has two chronic conditions that require support. Maybe it is not around-the-clock care because she is fairly independent, but it’s care nonetheless, which can be exhausting, both physically and emotionally. Caring for a chronically ill person can be very challenging. Being a caregiver for disabled kids and young adults by profession, I have a lot of experience with this. One of the hardest things is that you never know what to expect. Before I continue, I’d love to give a BIG thank you to Sheryl for allowing me to contribute to her work and for acknowledging us – caregivers. Sheryl is is a beautiful person with a warm heart, who cares deeply about others. So thank you, Sheryl! Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Caregiver Boards: ![Caregiving For A Chronically Ill Spouse (Guest Post by Lucjan of Worry Head blog)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/caregiving-for-chronically-ill-spouse.jpg) ## What’s it like to be a caregiver for a chronically ill loved one? The person you are caring for may have good days and bad days. They may be in pain or uncomfortable a lot of the time. You may need to help them with basic activities of daily living such as eating, going to the bathroom, or getting dressed. You may also need to help them manage their medications and schedule doctor’s appointments. In some cases, you may need to provide transportation to and from appointments. You may also need to be their advocate, communicating with their healthcare team and making sure they are getting the care they need. My wife lives with constant pain and fatigue. If it’s not her primary condition – endometriosis, it is because of another – fibromyalgia. Endometriosis and fibromyalgia, are lifelong conditions with no cure. Caring for a chronically ill person can be emotionally draining. You may feel guilty, even resentful, or angry at times. You may feel like you are not doing enough or that you are failing. You may feel like you constantly stepping on eggshells around the person you are caring for, worried about upsetting them. This is the hardest part of being a caregiver for me – the emotional roller coaster. One minute I am feeling great about how well my wife is doing and the next minute I am feeling down about how her chronic illnesses are impacting her life. Read Related Posts: - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-home-resources-learned-other-blogs/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) ## **The inevitable conflicts** My wife tried to commit suicide on two occasions, she also asked me to divorce her for the sake of my happiness. She thought that I wasn’t happy, that she was a burden to me, and that suicide was the only option to help me live my life and to escape her own pain. Whenever I was at work, I had conflicted thoughts. I knew that she was safe being with her mum at home, but at the same time, her mother didn’t know her daughter’s thoughts the way I did. Despite all of these challenges I stood by her, and never left her side. I showed my wife my true colors and let her know that I would always be there for her, no matter what happened. I think that this is one of the key things that has helped us get through tough times. Read Related Posts: - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned) ](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) ## **We need a voice!** Society expects caregivers like me (especially men) to be strong and stoic. We are not supposed to show any emotion or weakness. This is especially [hard for men because we are not used to talking about our feelings](https://dc.etsu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=5019&context=etd) But the truth is, we need a voice! We need to be able to talk about our experiences and how we are feeling. We need support from family, friends, and our community. This is why I decided to be a voice for those loving [men who care for women with endometriosis and fibromyalgia](https://www.worryhead.com/). Because I want them to know that they are not alone. ## **The ups and downs of caring for a chronically ill loved one** There are various challenges but there are also rewards in loving a chronically ill person. I expand on both below. I’m going to name five of each category. **The challenges include:** - The emotional roller coaster - The physical toll - The financial burden - The social impact - The feeling of isolation **The rewards include:** - The feeling of satisfaction - The sense of purpose - The opportunity to learn - The deepening of your relationship - The chance to make a difference If you feel like caring for your partner becomes too much, [**you will have to set some boundaries**](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/). This can be difficult, but it is necessary in order to protect your own well-being. You need to make sure that you are taking care of yourself, both physically and emotionally. This means getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, exercising regularly, and making time for your own hobbies and interests. It is also important to talk to someone who understands what you are going through. This could be a friend, family member, therapist, or support group for caregivers. If you are the caregiver for a chronically ill person, know that you are not alone. There are others out there who understand what you are going through. Seek out support and care for yourself so that you can continue to be the best caregiver possible. Pin to Your Carers, Society & Humanity Boards: ![Society's Expectations on Carers and Why We Need a Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/society-expectations-carers-voice-1.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) ## **The challenges** ### The emotional roller coaster The hardest part of being a caregiver is the emotional roller coaster. One minute you may feel great about how well your loved one is doing and the next minute you may feel down about how their chronic illnesses are impacting their life. You may feel happy and like things go well, and then suddenly things can change, making you feel guilty, resentful, or angry at times. You may feel like you constantly step on eggshells around the person you are caring for, worried about upsetting them. ### The physical toll. Caring for a chronically ill person can be physically demanding. You may need to help them with basic activities of daily living such as eating, going to the bathroom, or getting dressed. Even though this may not be the case for every relationship, it is something that can take a toll on the caregiver over time. You may also need to help them manage their medications and schedule doctor’s appointments. In some cases, you may need to provide hands-on care such as wound care or giving injections. It all depends on the circumstances but caring for a chronically ill loved one can still be physically demanding and exhausting. ### The financial burden. Living with a chronic illness can be expensive. The cost of medications, doctor’s appointments, and treatments can add up quickly. In some cases, you may need to miss work to provide care, which can impact your income. I had to miss work on many occasions to support my wife who struggled to get out of bed. Aside from pain, chronic fatigue is one of her main symptoms. When the pain and fatigue disable your loved one, and you have to prioritize your partner’s well-being, work can take a backseat. Financially, this can be challenging as it may mean less income for the household. Read Related Posts: - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [4 Cool Truths My Partner Said (Unwittingly)](https://achronicvoice.com/cool-truths/) - [Asking for Help (and Why Everyone Needs to Learn this Important Life Skill)](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) - [The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don’t Reflect)](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Chronic Illness is Expensive, but Here’s the Real Reason Why](https://achronicvoice.com/real-reason-why-chronic-illness-expensive/) ### The social impact. Caring for a chronically ill person can have a negative impact on your social life. You may find yourself canceling plans or avoiding social activities. You may feel like you are missing out on important life events such as birthdays or weddings. Plans often change. For example, you may have made plans to go out for dinner but then your loved one has a flare-up and isn’t feeling well. You may end up staying home to take care of them. ### The feeling of isolation. [Caring for a chronically ill person can be isolating](https://www.healthaffairs.org/doi/10.1377/hlthaff.2019.00087). You may feel like you are the only one who understands what you are going through. You may feel like no one else can relate to your experiences. And this is true, because in the same way as I will never be able to fully grasp what my chronically ill wife is going through, she will never understand my perspective. The variety of conflicting emotions caregivers like me go through is incomparable to anything else. Read Related Posts: - [29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) Pin to Your Caregiving, Relationship & Chronic Illness Boards: ![The challenges of being a caregiver to a chronically ill loved one](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/challenges-caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one-1.jpg) ## The rewards ### The feeling of satisfaction. Despite the challenges, there are also rewards to being a caregiver. One of the biggest rewards is the sense of satisfaction you feel when you are able to help your loved one manage their chronic illness and improve their quality of life. You may also find a sense of purpose in your role as a caregiver. You may feel like you are making a difference in the life of someone you love. ### The sense of purpose. Loving someone with a chronic illness can be challenging, but it is also an incredibly rewarding experience. Seeing your loved one overcome the obstacles of their chronic illness is an amazing feeling. Knowing that you were there for them through the tough times makes it all worth it. You feel a sense of purpose. You know that your role as a caregiver is important and valuable. ### The opportunity to learn Caring for a chronically ill person can also be an opportunity to learn new things. You may learn about the medical condition itself, as well as new treatments and therapies. You may also learn new ways to manage stress and care for yourself. I often find myself knowing more about endometriosis and fibromyalgia than most of my wife’s general practitioners. It seems like I am always doing research to try and find new ways to help her. Read Related Posts: - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [Why Humility is the Best Tool for Advocacy](https://achronicvoice.com/humility-advocacy/) ### The deepening of your relationship Caring for a chronically ill person can also deepen the relationship you have with them. You may find yourself spending more time together and sharing intimate moments that you wouldn’t have otherwise experienced. [Loving someone with a chronic illness](https://www.worryhead.com/loving-a-woman-with-long-term-illnesses/) gives you a chance to grow closer. Caring for a chronically ill person can also help you achieve that because the challenges you face together can create a bond that is stronger than anything else. You may find that you have a deeper understanding of and empathy for the person you are caring for. You may also find that you are more patient and tolerant than you ever thought possible. ### The chance to make a difference. Finally, caring for a chronically ill person gives you the chance to make a difference in their life. You may be the one person who understands what they are going through and can provide them with the support they need. This is important because chronic illness can be isolating and overwhelming. Having someone who understands and is there for you can make all the difference. Pin to Your Caregiving, Chronic Illness & Relationships Boards: ![The rewards that caregiving can bring](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/rewards-caregiving-1.jpg) ## Conclusion on Being a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One If you recently became a caregiver for a chronically ill person, know that it is a challenging but incredibly rewarding role. You will be faced with many challenges, but you will also have the opportunity to deepen your relationship, learn new things, and make a difference in the life of someone you love. Not only will you be providing them with the support they need, but you will also be gaining a greater understanding of and empathy for the person you are caring for. So, embrace the challenges and savor the rewards. They will make you a better person and a better caregiver. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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Unsubscribe anytime. **Read More Posts from Male Contributors on the Blog:** - [“It’s in My Blood”: Roy George – A Dramatic Life with a Short Bowel](https://achronicvoice.com/roy-george-dramatic-life-short-bowel/) - [Suffering with a Rare Disease, Isaac Syndrome, as Told from a Male Perspective](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-isaac-syndrome/) - [Rheumatoid Arthritis – the Biggest Street Fight of My Life](https://achronicvoice.com/rheumatoid-arthritis-fight-life/) - [The Greatest Battle of My Life: How I Overcame Addiction](https://achronicvoice.com/overcame-addiction/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Caregiver Boards: ![The challenges and rewards of being a caregiver to a chronically ill spouse](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/challenges-rewards-caregiver-chronically-ill-spouse-1.jpg) ![What's it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/whats-it-like-to-be-a-caregiver-for-a-chronically-ill-loved-one-channges-rewards-1.jpg) **Contributor Bio:** ![Lucjan of WorryHead’s headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/lucjan-worryhead-profile.png) Lucjan is a blogger and author. He posted 300+ articles on his blog and wrote three books on the subject of chronic conditions, including “Endo-Tool: Endometriosis for Men”, “Fibromyalgia for Caring Partners” and “Supporting a Chronically Ill Partner”. Lucjan has a decade of experience in supporting a woman whose chronic conditions drove her to suicidal attempts. If you’re a man in a relationship with a woman suffering from endometriosis or fibromyalgia, I highly recommend you check out [Lucjan’s blog](https://worryhead.com/). You can also find him on social media here: [Pinterest](https://uk.pinterest.com/EndometriosisAndFibromyalgia/), [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/worryheadblog/) & [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/WorryHeadblog/). ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ **Lucjan** ](https://worryhead.com/) Dec 3, 2022 Thank you all for your kind words — it must be unbelievably and impossibly hard for people who go through illness alone. For those who have a loved one, there is a new world of gratitude and appreciation for the little things in life that most healthy people overlook. Chronic conditions can bring you both closer. Even though I’m healthy like a bull, I am very humbled to belong to this wonderful chronic illness community. Thank you, Sheryl 🙂 Thank you all 🎗 - [ **Arjan Bogaers** ](http://www.heartandsoul.co.za) Nov 21, 2022 Very moving. For the environment, the caregiver is often the invisible presence — taken for granted. “How is …?” — never: “How are *you* coping with this situation?” The focus is mostly on the patient. It’s not so much a gender thing, but rather the unquestioned assumption that the ‘healthy’ person is therefore without distress. But they too have their disappointments, feelings of helplessness, and the loss of the life together that “could have been.” I am the one who needs care, which presented my wife with her personal thresholds. “I don’t know myself in this situation,” she said recently. The search for a new identity — not just for her, but also for the identity of our relationship. After all, we each have our biography, but in a marriage, those biographies merge: “I am I, and you are you. And we are both each other too.” But that may only go so far — she has a life that is hers. So, every so often, we arrange alternative assistance, and she goes away — on holiday, visiting family, whatever — for at least three days, sometimes a week or more. To make that work is not only possible but very necessary. My very best wishes. - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Nov 21, 2022 Thank you for your constant support of the blog, Arjan. It’s always good to hear male voices — they are fewer and far between, I personally think. Your wife makes a very good point regarding identity, and you sum it up beautifully about relationships and the compromises needed to make them work — which are always worth it if you love each other. - [ **Kathy** ](https://www.upbeatliving.net) Dec 8, 2022 The idea of being invisible definitely happened to me when I was taking care of my young son with cancer. No one asked how I was doing. The same thing happens as I take care of my aging parents. I enjoyed reading about the perspective of a caretaker. - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Dec 16, 2022 I’m glad for people like Lucjan who share their perspective as caregivers with such compassion and objectivity. If any other caregivers ever wish to guest post on the blog, please let me know 🙂 - [ **Sarah Warburton** ](http://sarahwarburton.com) Nov 21, 2022 Thank you to both of you, Sheryl and Lucjan, for sharing this important post. I live with fibro and do need care from my husband some of the time, but not that much fortunately. It was so interesting and touching to hear a caregiver’s voice, as this perspective is so often overlooked. Thank you again and best wishes to all of you. Sarah x - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Nov 21, 2022 Thank you, Sarah! I agree that caregiver voices need to be heard louder and clearer. They too need support and should always be appreciated as human beings like all of us 🙂 - [ **Despite Pain** ](https://despitepain.com) Nov 20, 2022 Sheryl, thank you for sharing Lucjan’s post. My husband is my carer and I could relate to everything Lucjan wrote about. I try to be fairly independent when I can, but on those bad days (too many lately), I rely on him so much. I don’t know how I would manage without him, but I also feel bad that his life is ruled by my pain. Carers need much more recognition for what they do. Lucjan — you’re doing an amazing, but difficult, job. - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Nov 20, 2022 Hi Liz, I recall you sharing this during our podcast interview! Thank you for reading the post. What your husband and Lucjan do is amazing — acts of pure, unconditional love. The very essence of humanity 🙂 - [ **Carole Griffitts** ](https://www.navigatingthestorms.com) Nov 20, 2022 So familiar — what my husband would say. What he did say in the book we co-wrote so people could see what it’s like for the caregiver (*Sunbreaks in Unending Storms*). Glad you’re helping get the message out! - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Nov 20, 2022 Thank you, Carole — and thank you for writing your book with your husband too. Caregivers’ voices should absolutely be heard; they need just as much support! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### What's It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness URL: https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/ Last updated: 2026-05-04T16:41:39.000Z Going back to school as an adult with disability and chronic illness wasn't something I had in mind - at all. But a lot has happened this year for me. For those who aren’t aware, [**I suffered a spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture**](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) in January, which left me [**suddenly disabled**](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) and completely bed-bound for several months. During that horrible downtime, I decided to try my luck and apply for a degree in Linguistics and Multilingual Studies. The application fee was just $10, and I had a lot of time to fill in all the pesky paperwork, right? Who knew, but I got accepted into the programme. So it seems like I’m ticking a big one off my bucket list and **re-inventing** my life, albeit with broken body parts, work, chronic pain and whatnot. I’ve been back in school for about two months now, and the commute kills me more than the lessons themselves. It’s an hour's drive each way, and I need to go to school four times a week. If you include the infamous chronic illness ‘morning wake up prep time’, it really adds up. Most of us with chronic illness or disability take at least an hour or two to get up to speed every day, even on a day with no **commitments**. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your School, Disability & Chronic Illness Boards: ![What's It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/whats-it-like-going-back-to-school-adult-with-disability-chronic-illness.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled: Taking on the Eye of the Tiger in the Year of the Tiger](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 – 6](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) - [Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care: Introduction to the Series](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-introduction/) - [The Barriers That Throw Rocks into My Bucket List with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/) - [April 2019: Tiring First Quarter Being Muggle Sick](https://achronicvoice.com/tiring-first-quarter-muggle-sick-april-2019/) ## Tip #1: Pace Yourself: Listen to Your Body & Inner Child ### The Extra Responsibilities of Being an Adult So having said all that, my first tip is to pace yourself and accept help. School is ***hard***, and even more so if you’re in a full-time programme. As an adult, you’ll probably still need to work to support yourself. I don't have much savings at all because being chronically ill costs money. A lot of it. Like many others with chronic illness, I can't hold down a full-time job either. I always end up falling very ill about three months in. Stress kills, but if you're healthy that can be hard to see immediately. With a chronic illness, you literally *feel* the stress as it causes physical pain. You might also have your own family as an adult, which would add more responsibilities to your plate. I once had a colleague whom I worked with full-time, and she was pregnant and studying at the same time, too. A healthy, functioning body is always a marvel to me, although you must admit that that takes quite a bit of grit to do regardless! The big question - **How** exactly do you pace and **what** does that even mean in this context? How do you **enable** yourself to do what you need and want to do? Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don’t Reflect)](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/) ### What is Pacing & How Do I Pace Myself? In basic terms, 'pacing' means paying close attention and listening to your body and inner child. It's intuitive in nature, but many of us have silenced their voices for so long that we don't recognise them anymore. \[bctt tweet='“In basic terms, #pacing means paying close attention & listening to your body & inner child. It is #intuitive in nature, but many of us have silenced their voices for so long that we do not recognise them anymore.” #ChronicPain #SelfCare'\] I actually think I've gotten better at listening to them of late. Sometimes the thought pops up in my head, "I'm boooored", or "I'm tiiiired", and I notice it immediately. That's my inner child whining - and for good reason. So I stop whatever I'm doing if that's possible, and do something else instead. For example, I may be reading my English textbook, and I hear "I'm tiiired" in my mind. I then stop to ask myself, "Do I really need to finish this chapter right now, or can I continue tomorrow instead?" Often the answer is tomorrow, so I force myself to close the page. This has always been difficult for me to do. I hate leaving tasks left undone, and like to squeeze everything in at a go. But when you live with chronic illness, you learn how unsustainable that is. It never was quite 'me' to pace, but I am left with little choice. Pace, or pay the price of pain. I've learned to be better at pacing over the years. The thing is, I've been pacing school pretty well, I think, but am still running (ha!) into endless pain flares regardless. I suppose I'd be in a worse state if I hadn't paced, though. One bonus of pacing - you'll be able to absorb the information much faster and more easily after you're well rested. So it's really more productive in the end. Pin to Your School & Chronic Illness/Disability Boards: ![How to Pace Yourself as a Student with Chronic Illness or Disability [Background - A finger pressing a keyboard key that says 'studies and research']](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-pace-student-chronic-illness-disability-1.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) - [A String of Bad Days (and What Happened When That Good Day Finally Came Along)](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/) ### Spread It Out if You Must There will be periods where pacing might not be possible, such as when you have a group project deadline, or an upcoming exam. But what I’m talking about is an over all pacing strategy for your entire study years. If that means that I need to study on the weekends too, that's okay. I find that easier to cope with as compared to doing homework on days where I need to go to school. I'm usually bushed by the time I get home, so it actually takes more effort to process the exact same information. Remember - this is a course you probably chose to study because you’re passionate about it. So if you want to get it done, then some things need to go or be re-arranged. ### Don’t Forget Self-Care Time That doesn’t mean you need to or should sacrifice all your weekends and personal time either. Don’t forget to schedule in social and downtime, too. Watch a good movie in the evening, or slot in a meet up with a friend on weeks where you're feeling better. Take your dog for a walk. Pull some weeds out of your garden. These all count as downtime that helps to revive and refresh you. As for hobbies, I’m sure you want to keep them going to some degree as well. We all need some ‘me-time’ after all. Otherwise, you might burn out and grow to resent what you chose to do in the first place - go back to school as an adult. For me that's mostly writing and blogging for now, as my activities are fairly limited with the broken knees. So that's probably how I managed to churn this post out despite my schedule being packed to the brim! Extreme pain and exams have made me cancel a few meetups with friends, but I try to reschedule them when I feel better. It's important to maintain some level of social connection for your mental well-being as a human being. Obviously, studying is stressful and will lead to some unavoidable pain flares. Sometimes, I wonder why I chose to torment myself. If I didn't have school to attend or homework to do, I can take my time to rest and heal. Instead, I’ve been sitting on my doughnut cushion, and relying on pain meds to get through the past few weeks. There is little choice when there are tests and exams. I no longer take myself on a guilt trip when I need to rely on these medications. I've come to realise how silly and futile that is, when I live in *endless* pain. They’re available to me for a reason. I still need to live my life, and they help me to do so. End of story. Pin to Your Self-Care, Student Life & Chronic Illness/Disability Boards: ![The Importance of Self-Care as a Student with Chronic Illness or Disability [Background: Collage of young girl with illustrated sun and plants in the back.]](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/importance-self-care-student-chronic-illness-disability-1.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or ‘How to Relax’ by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [It is \*Always\* Possible to Make Time for What Matters Most](https://achronicvoice.com/make-time-what-matters-most/) ## Tip #2: Accept Help with Grace The biggest help for me has been someone loaning us a car, and my dad driving me to school with it. It is an hour's drive each way, so a cab is expensive. Public transport is too exhausting for me, especially with my physical disability now. It's also full of germs. Even before COVID, I would often get sick from inconsiderate passengers. It's also more relaxing being driven by someone familiar. I can eat my breakfast or lunch whilst commuting, listen to music, and relax for a while. I can't do that in a cab. You might need to be wheeled around in your wheelchair, need someone to assist you in the toilet, or carry your bag. There is no need to feel embarrassed or humiliated. Accept the help, and focus on what you came to school to succeed in. As I always say, we all have different lots in life. So give generously whenever we can, and receive what we need with grace. Return that kindness in ways that only you can give to the world. ### Get a Carer if You Can If you can afford it, hiring a carer is worth it. Having someone there in case of emergencies can be reassuring. They can help to save you effort and energy, so you can focus more on what matters most - your health and studies. On bad days, my helper even helps me to dress, as I can't fasten my bra straps, or tie my shoelaces. As I focus on physiotherapy and regaining my strength, her help has been invaluable. It also frees my parents (or other family members) of some time, as she can accompany me to school instead. Waiting around as I attend classes or go for medical appointments is time-consuming. ### Get in Touch with Your School Accessibility Office I can’t emphasise this enough. Please don't be shy or think that you don't qualify as 'disabled' to warrant assistance. If you live with anything chronic in nature that impacts your life, that's reason enough to approach them. You may also think, "I've been dealing with school fine all these years so I don't need the help". But if you can improve your quality of school life - why the heck not? I am fortunate that the people who work at the [accessibility office in my school, NTU](https://www.ntu.edu.sg/education/accessible-education), are all so helpful and sincere. They truly care about my time in school, and want me to enjoy my studies as much as possible. ### What the School’s Accessibility Office Can Do for You The school's accessibility office will probably have a lot of good suggestions for you, based on experiences from other disabled and chronically ill students in the past. They know the best routes to take on a rainy day, or because of your medical condition. They can connect you to the right people in your faculty, and ensure that you get the accommodations you need. They can also help find you student mentors whom you can approach for 'ground level' advice. My school now has a special transport arrangement for disabled students, which is great. The van picks me up from one class to another, on days when I have them back-to-back and need to get to another location. Pin to Your School & Accessibility Boards: ![Woman with frizzy hair holding a pop up bubble with text: Should I approach the school’s accessibility office for help?](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/approach-school-accessibility-help-1.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Asking for Help (and Why Everyone Needs to Learn this Important Life Skill)](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) - [What’s it Like to be the Father of a Child with Chronic Illness? (Precious Insights from My Own Dad!)](https://achronicvoice.com/father-of-child-with-chronic-illness/) - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) ## Tip #3: Advocate for Yourself and Your Needs Don't be afraid to **communicate**, speak up and ask for what you need. Remember, you're not asking for the moon, and this isn't even going to be a thing in 10 years, or even right now. Whatever your request is, it’s probably something that you truly need and not some fancy indulgence. Our needs with disability and chronic illness also vary widely. As they say, 'one man's poison is another man's cure'. So focus on your own remedy, so to speak. Take the help you need to get through school, which will ultimately help you to cope with the stress - that big, bad, evil pain flare trigger. This can come in many forms. I was amazed by all the useful resources the accessibility office shared with me; They have tools that help students to enlarge the text on the board, volunteer student note-takers and other services and tools that help to make learning a pleasure. ### Connect with Your Professors & Tutors All my professors and the school admin staff have been very supportive as well, so I'm very grateful. They even held a one-on-one meeting with me just to ensure that I had everything I needed. As a result, I have extra time to complete my exams, added rest time if needed, my questions answered and my mind reassured. One of my lecturers also records his lectures, and I'm allowed to watch them from home on days when I'm feeling unwell. You will need a doctor's letter for these accommodation requests, so do write up a list of things you think might help you, and approach your doctor for help. Accepting the help you need is way more productive than trying to be 'independent' and showing everyone that you can handle it alone. Sure, we all probably can. But what for and at what cost? Is the price worth it? Pin to Your Student, Chronic Illness & Disability Boards: ![How to Advocate for Your Needs as a Student with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-to-advocate-needs-student-chronic-illness-disability.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [Would You Rather: Have an Invisible Illness or a Visible Disability?](https://achronicvoice.com/rather-have-invisible-illness-or-disability/) ## Tip #4: Get the Right Equipment for School The accessibility office highly recommended a motorised scooter. They said that it was one of the best things other students with chronic illness and disability got for school. But it's over my budget, and my walking is slowly improving, so I decided to stick to what I have for now. I did buy myself a lighter laptop to bring along for all my classes. It's kind of funny as I asked during the accessibility meetup if I could take notes on my computer, instead of using a pen and notebook. They seemed amused; I guess it's a generational gap 😜 I am still pretty amazed that students can now use laptops in class. During my era (ahem), that might have been considered a distraction or cheating. Heck, we weren't even allowed to bring our mobile phones to school! I'm obviously old, or older. Oh yes, it has amazing battery life too, which saves me the trouble of hauling the charger along to school. As any chronically ill person knows, any and all things add up, so even something as 'dismissable' as a bit of extra weight does matter. ## Tip #5: Rest & Rejuvenate Wherever and Whenever You Can This may be on your commute to school, in between classes or anywhere else. A short nap, or simply closing your eyes for a while can help to relax and recharge you. I also try to squeeze in some time to read every day, and chat with online friends who also live with chronic illnesses. Do things that take your mind off school-related stuff. This actually helps your brain to reset. You will find that you'll solve problems and digest information much better after. Remember, every little bit counts, and they all add up. As a person with chronic illness and disability, I have no choice but to take it one day at a time. Even the best planners amongst us have their plans dashed way too often. ### Taking It One Day at a Time The unpredictability of chronic illness is not something that the average healthy person is able to comprehend. So don't try to make them understand. I have friends who are perplexed at how I live my life, and how I don't seem to have a life plan. To be honest, I'd much rather be married with three kids in tow by now. Going to work and picking the kids up from school every day, and doing normal family things on the weekends. A most *normal* and maybe even 'boring' life. That, or hitch-hiking and backpacking my way across the globe. Two extremes I know, but both only possible with good health. Instead, I live day to day, as I must, and make decisions as I go along. And I've learned to be okay with that. Taking it one day at a time has actually been my best life strategy so far. It helps to break things up into sizable chunks that I can chew on and finish up bit by bit. It also adds some colour back into my life; My path ahead may not be as clear as others, but it certainly is more intriguing, in a warped sense. So take it one day at a time, or even one second at a time. That's really all we can do with chronic pain, isn't it? Read Related Posts: - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) ## Tip #6: Know When to Stop My biggest fear is brain fog, and especially if it occurs during an exam where there’s a timer. I think I even fear chronic fatigue and brain fog worse than pain itself. When it's 'just' pain, I have tools and strategies in place to help me cope. But when it comes to cognitive issues, it is beyond my control and there is absolutely nothing I can do about it. The worst part about it is knowing you have the answers there - just out of reach beneath the haze. \[bctt tweet='“When it’s ‘just’ pain, I have tools & strategies in place to help me cope. The worst part about #BrainFog is knowing you have the answers there - just out of reach beneath the haze.” #ChronicPain #ChronicIllness #MentalHealth #spoonie'\] Whilst I do have extra time to complete my exams, it still is a struggle. I also take more time to revise, as my brain takes forever to absorb a simple statement. When the brain fog is especially bad, I would suggest that you not push through if that's an option. Rest, sleep, eat or go do some other mindless task that needs to be done without the guilt. I promise you'll be amazed by what you **can do** after. Read Related Posts: - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [How to Rewire the Brain to Manage Chronic Pain (& Resources to Help)](https://achronicvoice.com/rewire-brain-manage-chronic-pain/) - [7 Proven Strategies to Stay Resilient No Matter What Happens (from A to G)](https://achronicvoice.com/strategies-stay-resilient/) - [So This is What a Tonic Clonic Seizure Feels Like](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) - [5 Things You Should Know About My Epilepsy (It’s More Than Just Seizures)](https://achronicvoice.com/epilepsy-more-than-just-seizures/) ## Tip #7: Be Mentally Prepared to be Disappointed or Frustrated in Some Ways For example, I’m forced to take a compulsory ‘health and wellness’ module. Topics include 'boundaries in your first relationship', 'mindfulness exercises', etc. It feels a little weird as I'm the same age as the tutor, and old enough to have three kids or more by now. First relationship??? That was so long ago that I don't even fully remember anymore! We're also learning about the causes of chronic diseases now, which feels strange to me as everything is so basic and irrelevant. Even painful, because I feel like what's being taught isn't the whole picture at all. But it seems like I couldn't worm my way out of the module, as it's a requirement by the university that all students must take. I tried. So I just grin and bear it, and get over and done with it. ### Why are My Grades Not Up to My Standard? To be frank, I've been pretty shocked and disappointed with my grades so far. I barely scraped through some of the modules. I mean, chronic pain and fatigue don't help for sure. But I like what I'm studying and thought I was good at it, that's why I even came back to school as an adult in the first place! What I've come to realise is that the school probably expects answers in a certain format, at least for the first year. Hopefully there will be more allowance for opinions, thoughts and external research as we go along. I would have 'fought the system' 20 years ago. But now I know better and just go with the flow. There is a time and place to do what I need to do. Also, if your grades aren't great due to ill health, don't beat yourself up over it. It is not your fault, and you're trying the best you can. That's more than what a lot of people give, and all that can be asked of you. Just keep your eye on the prize and try to get your degree (or whatever certification you're studying for). ## Tip #8: Connect with Your Classmates & School Mates ### The Generation Age Gap As an adult, there will be a clear generational age gap. Ways of thinking, texting, **communicating** and whatnot can be shocking. But I think that's a good thing. I believe that it's important to immerse myself and keep abreast with what's going on around me at present. Otherwise, I run the risk of degeneration and obsoletion as I'm trapped in my opaque glass bubble. ### What I Like & Dislike About The Students What I like about students of this generation is that they seem more educated and aware of disabilities and chronic illnesses. Nobody cares that I have a walking stick in school. It's the old folks on the streets who stalk me, and ask intrusive questions usually for their own satisfaction. What I have been disappointed with is that when I do ask for a small favour, not many are actually willing to help. That might just be a human nature thing, though. I feel disappointed because if a random classmate had asked for that same favour, I would have agreed readily. All I asked for was some help to record a lecture with the lecturer's permission, as I was at a doctor's appointment. I've learned a vital lesson from that experience(s) - as a person with chronic illness and disability, you ultimately still need to rely on your own devices. Advocate for yourself and ask for help, yes, but also be ready to handle it on your own if it comes down to that. ### Keep Looking for Your People Having said that, there are definitely nice people around. I just need to find them, or deepen the friendships I have first. This takes a lot more effort with chronic illness and disability in the mix, but human relationships are an important aspect of life. Whilst I may be rejected continuously, I don't mind. My body has been rejecting me for decades after all so I'm used to it 😜 But showing love and affection is one of my core strengths. I thrive on it, too. In fact, I think I've scared many boys and also potential friends away because I can be too enthusiastic to 'love'. My Chinese name is 嘉爱 after all, which means 'good/perfect love'. Perhaps names do have meaning after all 😉 Read Related Posts: - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering (Part 5/5)](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Keeping Up with the World: Why it’s Important Despite Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) - [Kick Ass With Kindness and a Sweet Cherry on Top](https://achronicvoice.com/kick-ass-with-kindness/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) ## Conclusion on Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and/or Chronic Illness So there we go. My seven best tips for going back to school as an adult with a disability or chronic illness, based on my experiences so far! As it's a degree programme, I still have about four years to go, which is a pretty big life **commitment**. I'll be 40 by then \*gasp\* So keep a lookout for more school-related posts! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your College/University & Chronic Illness/Disability Boards: ![Going Back to School as an Adult with Chronic Illness and Disability [Background: two polaroid photos of a student carrying books, and another with digital gadgets for school.]](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/going-back-school-adult-chronic-illness-disability-1.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ **Anne** ](https://www.raisiebay.com) Nov 1, 2022 Hi Sheryl, I’ve found this article really informative. I’m not going back into education but my daughter will be hopefully going back in September and she will need lots of help with her chronic illness and disabilities. It’s good to know it can be done though and I really hope she gets the help she needs. Well done on taking this step yourself. I was an adult learner myself but that was before I became ill. - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Nov 2, 2022 Hi Anne, it hasn’t been easy I admit! So I think I might drop another module next semester. I think three is the maximum I can take, especially if I also want to do some work and manage my energy/pain levels. Life with chronic illness is like playing with one hand tied behind your back (or in my case, two broken knees as well haha!). - [ **Erin Butts** ](https://www.periodssuck.com/) Oct 20, 2022 Hi Sheryl, I hardly know what to say because this blog was so good. I could relate to the brain fog, although mine is due to PMS. I loved your insight and perspective on going back to school as an adult with chronic illnesses and disability. Every tip was valuable. Thank you so much for sharing! - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Nov 2, 2022 Thank you so much Erin, I really appreciate that you took the time to read it 🙂 It’s been tough, I have to say — I totally underestimated it! I’m amazed at how much energy the other young adults have haha. Thank you once again! - [ **Katie Clark** ](http://painfullyliving.com) Oct 12, 2022 Wow, Sheryl! I’m so happy for you. You are one amazing woman! I’m glad to hear they have assistance and accommodations for you. I know you’ll do well with whatever you put your mind to. You’ve gone through hell but continue to reinvent yourself. 💜💜💜 - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Oct 16, 2022 Thank you so much, Katie! Yes, I think with chronic illness, many of us have gone through more than we need to bear. Support from loved ones and online friends like yourself really helps. Sending love — hope you’re doing well! x - [ **Despite Pain** ](https://despitepain.com) Oct 10, 2022 Well done for having the courage to do this. From personal experience, it’s easier to stay in your own bubble and much harder to step outside your comfort zone. I really hope it goes well. You have given some fabulous tips. I laughed at this: “I am still pretty amazed that students can now use laptops in class. During my era (ahem), that might have been considered a distraction or cheating. Heck, we weren’t even allowed to bring our mobile phones to school!” I feel really old because we didn’t even have mobile phones when I was young! - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Oct 10, 2022 Hi Liz! Haha yes — we had pagers when we were teenagers. It was exciting! That delayed gratification was probably good for us. I was also in a convent girls’ school, and some would hide their new phones in their bras — we had to jump to check if we hid them there 😂 Yes, I never liked staying in bubbles, so here I am getting into “trouble” again (of the good kind, I hope!). Sending love! x - [ **Lisa Ehrman** ](https://chronicallycontent.com/) Oct 9, 2022 These are all great ideas and things to consider when starting college with disabilities. I was trying to finish my master’s degree online when I got sick. I found the only way I could pace myself was to take one class each semester. I worked on my classwork while I was in bed — it worked for me. I wish you all the best in your studies! - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Oct 9, 2022 Thank you Lisa, it’s nice to hear from others with chronic illness who’ve studied as adults too! I’ve already dropped one module and am left with four — still seems too much. The issue is the financial side; they charge the same rate per semester regardless of module count! I’ll just go with the flow for now. - [ **Carrie Kellenberger** ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Oct 6, 2022 Hi Sheryl aka the lovely Jiā ài — did I read it correctly? My reading in Chinese is intermediate and a mix of simplified (from my time in China) and traditional (because of Taiwan). I know you’d laugh if you knew my Chinese name 🙂 I loved this article! So many great thoughts and tips for students. Thrilled to hear your school’s accessibility office and faculty have been supportive. Surprised you didn’t get a simple favor granted, but proud of how you’re pacing yourself. Hate that you have two hours of commuting every day! Proud to call you my friend and to support you over these next four years 💜 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 to 6 URL: https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/ Last updated: 2026-05-12T16:39:10.000Z This article is part of an ongoing series about my Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture incident and knee surgery as a patient with Lupus, other chronic diseases and steroid therapy. Each part of the series will be updated and can be referenced below: Follow the Ongoing Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture Series: - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [*Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 – 6 (this post)*](#) - [Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care: Introduction to the Series (1/6)](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-introduction/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope (Part 1/5)](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Knee Surgery & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Knee Series — Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture. Learn what weeks 1 to 6 were like, a.k.a. the most critical period for healing. Read on A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture-weeks-1-to-6-healing-knee-series.jpg) ## Week 1: Post Knee Surgery Care in the Ward The first week following any major surgery tends to be bad in the sense of pain. I could do away with the bulky backslab post knee surgery, in exchange for leg braces. These had to be locked at 0 degrees for 6 weeks to prevent my knees from bending. My white blood cell count tends to be low, which was a major concern to the Orthopaedic team. I was started on a course of prophylactic antibiotics to prevent any skin infections. The surgeon and his team would change my dressing every few days to check on the wound. He would clean it with alcohol swabs without rubbing the skin as quickly as he could, to limit germs from entering the wounds. My red blood cell count was also lower than my baseline, so the Orthopaedic team decided to give me a blood transfusion. As always, finding a single pack of blood for me is difficult as I am [O negative with autoantibodies](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK2269/) (Dean, 2005). That is why I need to carry a medical card with me in my wallet stating so in case of an emergency. They had to filter the blood and hope that there would not be reactions. ![Cleaning Surgical Wound for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/patellar-tendon-rupture-knee-surgery-wound-cleaning.jpg) ![Blood Transfusion](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/blood-transfusion.jpg) ![Leg Braces and Plaster Cast Post Knee Surgery](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-plaster-cast-leg-braces.jpg) ### Working with the Pain Management Team The Pain Management team came to see me the next morning to see how they could help manage my pain better. As Pain Specialists, they understood the [difference between drug addiction and drug resistance](https://www.msdmanuals.com/en-sg/home/drugs/factors-affecting-response-to-drugs/tolerance-and-resistance-to-drugs). It's a little tricky for me because I am also on psychiatric medications - a mix of mood stabilisers and antidepressants - that can interact with opioids. As such, I can't have too much opioid painkillers either for fear of [Serotonin Syndrome](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3865832/), which can be deadly (Volpi-Abadie et al., 2013). As I had seemed fine from the single shot the night before, they decided to increase the fentanyl dosage. ### Dealing with Serotonin Syndrome Unfortunately, I started to get hot flushes and sweated so much that my clothing clung to my body. I was also running a mild feverish temperature. I recognised it to be a sign of Serotonin Syndrome and hurried to inform the doctors. I requested for a fan to cool me down, a change of clothes, and a basin of water so that I could wipe the sweat off my skin and hair. We had no choice but to reduce the dosage again, and I had to bear with the rest of the pain. We also contacted my Psychiatrist, who said that I could be taken off my psychiatric medications for a few days. She came to see me in the ward the following day to re-titrate my medications. As a chronic illness patient we take so many medications, and each have the potential to interact with the other. A straightforward treatment for a healthy person is always complicated for us. Pin to Your Knee Surgery & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Post Knee Surgery Care and Pain Management](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/post-knee-surgery-care-pain-management-1.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [The Annoying Thing About Antiphospholipid Syndrome (and Then Some)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [Why I Need to See 10 Different Doctors on a Regular Basis](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) - [What’s it Like to be on a High Dose of Steroids? (And the First Question You Will Definitely Ask)](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) ### A Visit from the Physiotherapist and Occupational Therapist [Physiotherapists and Occupational Therapists](https://www.mcphs.edu/admission-and-aid/blog/occupational-therapy-vs-physical-therapy) play vital roles in injuries related to Orthopaedics, and also post surgery. To be honest, I didn't know the difference between them prior to my knee surgery, but now their roles were crystal clear. In short, a Physiotherapist (PT) aids a patient with physical rehabilitation. An Occupational Therapist (OT) on the other hand, teaches them how to execute everyday tasks following a physical impairment. It will be clearer with the examples of how they assisted me below. ### The Start of Occupational Therapy The OT explained the components of the wheelchair to me, and made sure I knew how to manoeuvre it in all directions. We went up and down the hallway a few times. With the help of the nurses, we also found ways to safely [transfer](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK564305/) me from the bed to wheelchair and back, both sideways and backwards. I'd need at least three people to assist me, as my surgical wounds were still fresh and raw, and I had to keep my legs straight. She asked questions about my home environment, such as if it had ramps or narrow spaces. She asked about the height of my bed, the structure of my room, and the size of my bathroom. She also recommended a wheelchair width based on my body size. My parents snapped a few photos with measurements so she could have a better idea. We then discussed ways I could move around at home without provoking my knee injuries. My parents were also busy back home renovating and rearranging my room to accomodate a hospital bed that someone kindly gave to us, and also for all the medical equipment I would need, such as a commode, leg braces and more. Our bathroom now has been completed revamped to be disability-friendly, too. ![Measuring the Apartment for Occupational Therapist](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/house-measurements-occupational-therapist.jpg) ### Limited Physiotherapy for Now The PT on the other hand, examined the functionality of legs and feet, and asked where my pain was. She gave me a simple exercise to do - moving my feet up and down as much as I could. The PT's role would be more important further down the recovery timeline. For now there wasn't much we could do for physiotherapy, as I had to keep my legs and knees totally flat for 6 weeks, to allow the tendons time to heal. Pin to Your Knee Surgery, Physiotherapy & Occupational Therapy Boards: ![What’s the difference? Physical vs Occupational Therapy — Learn More in the Knee Surgery and Recovery Series on the Blog, A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/whats-the-difference-physical-vs-occupational-therapy-knee-surgery-recovery-series-blog.jpg) ![In a Wheelchair Post Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-wheelchair.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [The Chronic Pain Cycle & How to Break It (Top Tips From an Occupational Therapist)](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/) - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) ### The Difference in Rehabilitation Time for Single vs Bilateral Patellar Tendon Ruptures Rehabilitation would be much different for a person who only suffered a [patellar tendon rupture in one knee](https://orthoinfo.aaos.org/en/diseases--conditions/patellar-tendon-tear/). Most would be able to start physiotherapy right the next day, in a bid to not let their leg muscles go to waste. But when both [patella tendons](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Patellar%5Ftendon) have ruptured and it's impossible to stand or even lift your legs, then one has no choice but to let the muscles atrophy, in exchange for proper tendon recovery. Besides, my knee tendons were apparently of poor quality no thanks to Lupus and steroids. So that was all the more reason to allow my patella tendons time to heal. ## Week 2 - 3: Discharge from Hospital & Recuperation at Home These were without a doubt, the toughest weeks in the whole recovery process. There is nothing you can actively do to help speed it up. The best thing you can do to help yourself is to eat well and get plenty of sleep, to give your body the resources it needs to repair. You'll probably be exhausted most of the time anyway. Recovery is hard work that takes place serreptitiously beneath the surface. My mental health was at its lowest during this period of the recovery process. I was no longer amidst the hustle and bustle of the hospital, which helped with distraction. There are no skilled nurses at home to assist with the disabled life, and our new helper wasn't due to arrive until a week later. It was a trying week for my parents and me, as we navigated care around the clock. We were all sleep-deprived, at loggerheads and explosive. It didn't help that I had to leave my dog, Talisker, with some friends as he provides me with quite a bit of emotional support on a regular day. Although, my friends took such wonderful care of him and I couldn't be more grateful! The surgeon had actually suggested staying in a community hospital for a while, but I was adamant about going home. I have a huge phobia and dislike for hospitals and their routines. The surgeon acknowledge the mental toll it would take, and agreed to let me recuperate from home despite his concerns. ![Talisker the shetland sheepdog behind the dog gate](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/dog-gate.jpg) ![Lovely friends visiting and taking care of my dog for a while whilst my knees recover from surgery](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/friends-visit-post-knee-surgery.jpg) ### Struggling with Mundane Everyday Routines Mornings are always hard for me because of chronic pain. It takes me about two hours every day to 'wake up', after my medications and lots of coffee. Evenings are a little easier as we started to clean up and have dinner. I'd allow myself to watch some Netflix, and relax on the computer. Besides it was time to unwind and get ready to sleep. Afternoons post lunch were the toughest part every day, where I'd sink into despair the most. There I was getting a sore ass in bed, locked flat in my leg braces and unable to move. Every little knock against my legs that caused my knees to bend would make me cry out in pain. I had to travel via private ambulance for medical appointments as I couldn't fit in a regular car with my legs stretched out. Some of the paramedics were careless and presumed to know what to do, just because they had 'years of experience'. They believed that just because my legs were locked in braces, I was entirely 'safe' from pain. False. Read Related Posts: - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [The Road to Recovery is the Longest of Them All](https://achronicvoice.com/road-to-recovery-longest/) - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does ‘Normal’ Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) ### The Mental Challenge May be Harder to Deal with as Compared to the Physical It was an extreme mental challenge as I'd repeat to myself, 'whatever it takes to survive', hour after hour, minute after minute. My brain was still in shock as it had all happened so quickly. My life had taken such a drastic turn and I was lost. It was a place I'd never been to before. I had lots of experience with and knew how to deal with pain, but not the loss of physical independence. I hated relying on others for the simplest of tasks, such as retrieving a pen on the table right next to me. I wasn't able to shower as well, and those who read my blog probably know how much I love my showers. I won't rehash too much in this section, as I wrote an entire post on [**what it feels like to be suddenly disabled in this post**](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/). Pin to Your Mental Health & Knee Surgery Boards: ![The Enormous Mental Challenge of Recovering from a Physical Disability](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/mental-challenge-recovering-physical-disability-1-1.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - [Why You Need a Good Therapist on Your Healthcare Team (Based on My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-good-therapist/) ## Weeks 4 - 6: Laying Still Waiting for the Patella Tendons to Heal, Whilst Watching the Leg Muscles Atrophy I had another 3 weeks to go before I could begin physiotherapy, but I felt a little better psychologically. I ordered some food as a small celebration the day we hit the halfway mark. The leg braces were itchy, uncomfortable, heavy and affected the quality of my sleep. The surgeon granted me permission to remove them to sleep towards the end of this period. Ironically, the quality of my sleep wasn't much improved. The lack of mobility in my legs and knees meant that I couldn't move my body much whilst asleep. This led to stiffness and aches in my neck and body every morning, on top of my 'regular' pains from chronic illness. Afternoon naps were actually more restful, as I would sleep in a sitting position. So sometimes I sleep in that posture at night, too. I've changed my pillow many times but even supposedly ergonomic, expensive ones haven't helped. I have yet to find a fix for this issue. Read Related Posts: - [How Much Time Are You Wasting On Sleep?](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/) - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) ### Finding Things to Occupy My Mind With, Whilst Allowing My Patella Tendons Time to Heal By this point, my brain had had enough time to process the shock, more or less. By allowing myself to just be and to feel what I needed to feel, my heart and mind slowly started to heal, too. [My bosses](https://footkaki.com/about-footkaki/) are really supportive, empathetic and understanding people. They had continued to pay me, despite my lack of output during the past few months. Now I was ready to dabble in a bit of work again. I also decided to learn some new things online. So I signed up for vocal lessons and took up French again online. It's amazing how much you can learn and who you can connect with, through a small screen on the table! In fact, I think my activities during this period was even more than before the bilateral patellar tendon rupture incident! I had a class or course slotted into nearly every day of the week. I usually feel flustered when my calendar appears to be packed, but this time I was happy that it was. Distraction is crucial during this period, because there isn't much you can do. Your knees need to just be, and you need to wait for them to heal at their own pace. Trying to speed up the process will only end in disaster. My surgeon actually recommended that I find some engaging TV series, and to immerse myself in them for the next few months. So go ahead and gorge yourself on Netflix, if you like! ![Netflix and Chill Post Knee Surgery](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/netflix-and-chill-post-knee-surgery.jpg) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Knee Surgery & Knee Injury Recovery Boards: ![How to Occupy Your Mind Whilst Recovering from Knee Surgery](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/occupy-your-mind-recovering-knee-surgery-1.jpg) ![Weeks 1 to 6: Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture. Read the post on the blog, A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/weeks-1-to-6-knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture.jpg) ### References: - Dean, L. (2005). Chapter 7, The Rh blood group. In *Blood groups and red cell antigens*. National Center for Biotechnology Information (US). - Volpi-Abadie, J., Kaye, A. M., & Kaye, A. D. (2013). Serotonin syndrome. *The Ochsner Journal, 13*(4), 533–540\. ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ **Lucy** ](https://lbhealthandlifestyle.com/) Aug 27, 2022 Sheryl, I’m so sorry to read how tough this journey has been for you so far, both physically and mentally. Thank you for sharing your story and journey to help others in a similar position know they’re not alone. I wish there was something I could do to make things easier. Just know I’m thinking of you and wishing you all the best for the rest of your recovery. Sending love and strength 💜 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/ Last updated: 2026-04-23T14:56:14.000Z This article is part of a series about my Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture incident as a patient with Lupus, other chronic diseases and steroid therapy. Each part of the series will be updated and can be referenced below. In this post, I will share more about my recovery time for simultaneous Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture. As a patient, it was extra distressing because there is not much information out there about it, neither from medical journals nor other patient experiences. I hope that this article sheds some light onto this rare medical incident. Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture Series: - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - *[My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment) (this post)](#)* - [Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 – 6](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) - [Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care: Introduction to the Series (1/6)](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-introduction/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope (Part 1/5)](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. Whilst I have done my utmost to be meticulous in research, *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ## Patient Profile Plays a Huge Role in Recovery Time For a bit of background before I begin, I am a female in my 30s of Asian Chinese descent, which you can probably guess from my profile photo. I have been on prednisone for about 16 years to control Systemic Lupus Erythematosus (SLE) and Sjögren’s. I also have other autoimmune, neurological and psychological disorders, namely: Antiphospholipid Syndrome, Epilepsy (classic tonic clonic seizures), Clinical Depression & Anxiety, Paroxysmal Supraventricular Tachycardia (PSVT / Arrhythmia) and have a repaired mitral heart valve. As you can probably see, my situation is incomparable with another patient. Your recovery time for a Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture is going to be entirely different from mine. The quality of my tendons are very poor, according to my surgeon. How poor as compared to yours – I obviously do not know. How steroid therapy affects me is probably different as compared to you as well, and we’re probably not a hundred percent match in physiology and ancestry. And it’s not only our genetics, but our external environment also plays a role. **TL;DR** All that just to say – no two chronic illness patients are ever alike. Pin to Your Lupus, Knee Surgery & Recovery Time Boards: ![My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture — What happens when you have Lupus, and are on long-term steroid therapy.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture-lupus-steroid-therapy.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [My About Page](https://achronicvoice.com/about/) - [The Annoying Thing About Antiphospholipid Syndrome (and Then Some)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [So This is What a Tonic Clonic Seizure Feels Like](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) - [What’s it Like to Live with a Heart Rhythm Disorder?](https://achronicvoice.com/heart-rhythm-disorder/) - [My Second Brush with Death: A Broken Heart (Literally)](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) ## Why I’m Sharing My Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture Experience So why bother to share my personal recovery timeline then? Well, for one I was frustrated by the lack of information out there when I was searching for answers. Such occurrences are extremely rare, so that makes sense. But that doesn’t mean that I cannot contribute my experience and knowledge as a patient in some ways. There are some articles out there for [patellar tendon rupture](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK513275/) in just one knee (Hsu & Siwiec, 2023), and mainly these are for athletes, because most of the demographic who would suffer such a violent injury are sports people. Yes, it is a violent injury; the [patella tendon](https://www.healthline.com/human-body-maps/patellar-ligament) is the biggest and toughest tendon in the knee (Healthline, 2018). It takes a great amount of force to cause a complete rupture. Both my patella tendons ruptured simply from running – which tells you just how bad their quality is. Pin to Your Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture & Chronic Illness Boards:s ![What Does a Patellar Tendon Rupture Feel Like?](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/patellar-tendon-rupture-feel-like-1.jpg) ## My Simultaneous Patellar Tendon Rupture Recovery Time ### 30 Jan 2022: The Day the Patella Tendons Died My life was forever changed with the sound of two successive ‘pop’ sounds. I had been jogging beside my dog, Talisker, urging him into the curved tunnel during agility training. My body was twisted at a slight angle, but it was not like I was performing a stunt. But I guess to my Lupus and steroid eroded body, that was considered extreme sports. I had also spent 8 hours the day before spring cleaning my room and sorting through my piles of medications. All that squatting, bending and snapping likely contributed to the [‘spontaneous’ bilateral patellar tendon ruptures](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4929805/) too (Rosa et al., 2016). My knees were also strangely sore in an acute sense during agility class the week before, after doing a couple straight tunnel dashes with my dog. Running for longer distances was less painful than short spurts where I had to start and stop quickly. I guess that repeated start stop action puts a lot of strain on the knees. #### **You Can Never Really Tell, When Abnormal is Your Norm** I thought it was just my Sjögren’s acting up again, because my knees hurt almost every day anyway, and paid not much mind to it. I went out with a friend in the evening, and even went for a walk up and downhill despite the pains. I had never had [tendonitis](https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/encyclopedia/content.aspx?contenttypeid=1&contentid=739) (University of Rochester Medical Center \[URMC\], n.d.) or knee injuries before, so to me, it was just part of a regular Lupus or Sjögren’s pain flare. That is a huge problem with chronic, autoimmune disorders such as these. You often get so used to living with pain that you sometimes don’t notice when a pain is ‘not normal’ anymore. Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Chronic Pain Boards: ![When Chronic Pain Isn't 'Normal' Anymore But You Don't Realise...](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-isnt-normal-1.jpg) #### What Normal is Like for the Chronically Ill The chronic illness life revels in drama. My screams pierced and reverberated through the wide gym area. Both dogs and humans froze in their tracks. The trainer rushed to hold me, as I laid on my side on the grassy turf. An ambulance was called, and my parents appeared out of nowhere. For some strange reason, they had decided to visit my agility training class for the first time ever. #### Initial Thoughts: Dislocated Joints & EDS Friends I kept uttering that I had dislocated my joints under my breath. My first thoughts were of online friends who live with [Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS)](https://rarediseases.info.nih.gov/diseases/6322/ehlers-danlos-syndromes), a disorder that makes them hypermobile (Genetic and Rare Diseases Information Center \[GARD\], 2025). I was already thinking of asking them for tips on how to ‘pop’ my joints back. Something that they do by themselves from time to time. That’s an irrational thought as knee joints are pretty big, but perhaps I was in denial that something worse had happened. I had never dislocated a joint before, so it was all a new mystery to me in the endless wastes of chronic pain. Little did I know that what had happened was worse than dislocated joints. I had suffered total ruptures in both my patella tendons, which are the biggest tendons in the knees that join the bottom of the kneecap to the top of the shinbone. Without the patella tendon, you cannot bend your knee, lift your leg – or walk. > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/CZWobHOvtBr/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/CZWobHOvtBr/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) #### **Getting to the Hospital** When the paramedics arrived, they secured my legs together with some bandages to minimise movement. They then asked me to try and straighten my legs out, so that I can be transferred to the ambulance. I screamed, but I managed. Four of them lifted me up on a stretcher, and off I went to the nearest hospital – Sengkang General Hospital (SKH). Read Related Posts: - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [What’s it Like to be on a High Dose of Steroids? (And the First Question You Will Definitely Ask)](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) ### 31 Jan 2022: The Day After the Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture Incident The head orthopaedic surgeon at SKH saw me the following day; it was kind of a fortunate thing that he was around. It was the long Chinese New Year holiday season, so the hospital was like a ghost town. All the patients were lying around waiting for doctors, nurses, surgeons, technicians, pharmacists, and everyone else to return to work. Based on the x-rays and physical examinations, the surgeon concluded with certainty that I had suffered a spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture. The probability of a dual rupture is next to never. Just how bad it was couldn’t be determined without cutting me open to see. #### **Why I Requested to be Transferred to My Regular Hospital, TTSH** The [recovery time for a bilateral patellar tendon rupture](https://orthoinfo.aaos.org/en/diseases--conditions/patellar-tendon-tear/) is fairly long (American Academy of Orthopaedic Surgeons \[AAOS\], 2021), taking up to a year. It’s also more unpredictable for a chronic illness patient like myself. Various medical teams would need to work together to provide the best possible care. As such, I requested to be transferred to Tan Tock Seng Hospital, where my rheumatologist is. He has been my primary doctor for 20 years, right from the start of my chronic illness journey. I knew that he would take good care and advocate for me there. The orthopaedic team also seemed solid there. ### 31 Jan – 03 Feb 2022: Figuring Out How Bad the Injury Was & Preparing for Surgery My case wasn’t considered an emergency, so my MRI wasn’t a priority over the holiday period. ‘Emergencies’ were supposedly for life-or-death situations only, which made me feel anxious as I had read that the sooner you operate on a patellar tendon rupture, the better the recovery rate. As I also have Antiphospholipid Syndrome and am on blood thinners, I suffered from [haematoma](https://www.verywellhealth.com/bruises-and-hematomas-4178410) (Barhum, 2024) on top of the bilateral patellar tendon rupture. That means the swelling and [edema](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK279409/) (Institute for Quality and Efficiency in Health Care \[IQWiG\], 2022) were more pronounced. It didn’t only make my knees look more distorted physically, but all that internal pressure was painful. It felt like my knees were oranges about to burst with their juices, but not in an appetising way. #### **Why I Needed Stronger Painkillers as a Chronically Ill Patient** I had to keep asking for stronger painkillers, as all they wanted to give me was oral Tramadol. I am most certainly not addicted to Tramadol, but my [drug tolerance](https://www.verywellmind.com/addiction-physical-dependence-and-tolerance-differences-4069788) (Gupta, 2024) for it is quite high. It is my goto painkiller for Lupus and Sjögren’s pain flares, as I’m allergic to paracetamol (Panadol). And even though NSAIDs (e.g. Ibuprofen, Naproxen, Aspirin, etc) are actually more effective for my autoimmune disorders due to their [anti-inflammatory properties](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6039135/) (Gunaydin & Bilge, 2018), they are risky for me because of my blood clotting disorder, and the need to take blood thinning medication. A regular person may take ibuprofen for a headache or menstrual cramp. Tramadol is my equivalent. It definitely wasn’t going to relieve pain that was higher than the regular pain I live with day to day. #### **The Role of a Backslab for Knee Injuries** Finally, liquid morphine was administered. It helped a little, but the [backslab](https://www.rch.org.au/fracture-education/management%5Fprinciples/Management%5FPrinciples/) (The Royal Children’s Hospital Melbourne, n.d.) they decided to encase my legs in was actually more effective. A backslab is made up of bandages, and plaster which they ‘paint’ in between layers, which then dry up to form a hardened cast. This helped to contain the pressure within my knees, thus relieving some pain. It also helped to keep my knees and legs as straight as was possible, which was important to prevent further injury. ![Backslab for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/plaster-cast-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [Asking for Help (and Why Everyone Needs to Learn this Important Life Skill)](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) #### Sleep, Eat, Rinse, Repeat As the Orthopaedic wards were full, I was parked in a random one that had a slot. A sympathetic nurse would turn on the TV for us after breakfast, and switch it off in the evening. She would select Channel 8 for us, which is the local Chinese TV channel. The ward was mostly filled with elderly Chinese women so everyone else adapted. Apart from that we slept, washed, ate, fiddled with our phones and waited for the holidays to end. Never in my life have I wanted a festive season or long holiday period to end so quickly in my life. #### The Complexity of Orthopaedics & Finding the Right Surgeon for the Surgery [Orthopaedics](https://orthoinfo.aaos.org/en/treatment/orthopaedics/) involves the musculoskeletal system, with each part as complex as the next (AAOS, 2022). From the spine to wrist, hand, ankle, knee and more – there are specialists for each specific body part. Dr. Farhan, Head of Foot and Ankle Surgery, paid me a visit during the holiday lull. The funny thing was that he had also paid a visit to my workplace the day before, so my boss passed along a ‘hello’. (I work at [Footkaki](https://footkaki.com/), which is founded by one of Singapore’s first few [pedorthists](https://www.pedorthics.org/page/What%5Fis%5FPedorthics) (Pedorthic Footcare Association, n.d.) selling orthopaedic footwear.) Whilst Dr. Farhan could technically perform my surgery, I implored him to find me the best knee surgeon. Someone who was most familiar with the intricacies of the knee and tendons. It’s a bit of an irony that surgeons who see patellar tendon ruptures the most are sports surgeons. I was nowhere near sporty. Dr. Farhan did another physical examination, and conveyed his findings to Dr. Lee, who was the Head of Department and Head of Sports Medicine and Surgery. Dr. Lee’s biggest concern was actually the quality of my skin at the injury site. Skin infections are a major problem in knee surgeries, with the most severe complications ending in amputation. I had a small scrape on my left knee that I had acquired the day before the bilateral patellar tendon rupture, which he took note of. #### The Severity of a Spontaneous Bilateral Tendon Rupture, as Surmised by a Surgeon Dr. Lee appeared by my bedside after the holidays, much to my delight. The news was grim, and he wasn’t one to mince words. Not in an unkind manner, but as a matter of fact. He told me that a spontaneous bilateral tendon rupture is an extremely rare and serious case. In his entire career, he had only seen five or so of such cases, and the patient profile varied widely. The problem with [tendons, unlike bones, is that they do not regrow](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4041869/) (Yang et al., 2013). The best we can do is to try and repair the tendons with an [allograft or autograft](https://journals.lww.com/jorthotrauma/abstract/2019/04000/autograft,%5Fallograft,%5Fand%5Fbone%5Fgraft%5Fsubstitutes%5F.8.aspx) (Baldwin et al., 2019), which will never be as strong as they were in their original state. I might even be disabled for life, if the surgery wasn’t successful. I was facing one of my worst nightmares – permanent physical disability. Pin to Your Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture & Orthopaedic Boards: ![The Severity of a Spontaneous Bilateral Tendon Rupture, as Surmised by a Surgeon](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/severity-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture-surgeon-1.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Would You Rather: Have an Invisible Illness or a Visible Disability?](https://achronicvoice.com/rather-have-invisible-illness-or-disability/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) #### Gratitude to the Orthopaedic Team at Tan Tock Seng Hospital Much to my relief and delight, Dr. Lee and his medical team were empathetic and understanding. He pushed for my surgery to be done as soon as was possible, even if that meant using an ER operating theatre. The Orthopaedic operating theatres were fully booked as surgeons rushed to clear the surgery backlog from the holidays. Apparently not many Anaesthesiologists were keen to take me on as I was obviously a high risk patient. So I’m grateful that they managed to put together an excellent team, and the surgery was performed that same week. I truly cannot praise the entire [Orthopedic Department at Tan Tock Seng Hospital](https://www.ttsh.com.sg/Patients-and-Visitors/Medical-Services/Orthopaedic-Surgery/Pages/default.aspx) more. Every single doctor and medical student I met was humble, patient and humane. They truly represent what medicine is all about. ## 04 Feb 2022: Day of Surgery for the Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture ### Preparation for Knee Surgery As with any surgery, I had to fast the evening before. Choking whilst unconscious on an operating table would not be a great way to go. My surgery took place in the early afternoon, after Dr. Lee’s morning clinic. Fasting always leaves the patient parched, irritable and anxious, but I was just eager to get the surgery over and done with. The porter wheeled me to the operating room, and the team started to prepare me before Dr. Lee arrived. As my veins are tiny and tricky, even the best Phlebotomists weren’t able to set a good plug in the ward for me. Anaesthesiologists are known to be experts at this, so mine was set in the surgical theatre. The Anaesthesiologist and her assistant asked me many questions concerning my lifestyle, medical history and state of health. These are all crucial information so that they can make the best decisions on the spot should anything go wrong mid-surgery. [Anaesthesiologists don’t only put you to sleep](https://www.kevinmd.com/2015/03/physician-anesthesiologists-just-put-sleep.html); It is their duty to ensure that you wake up, too (Yost, 2015). The Orthopaedic team dismantled the backslab and drew arrows on my feet with a marker. A nurse helped me to pee in a bedpan, and gave me a blanket to keep warm. All standard procedures for a knee surgery. ![Bruises from blood tests and setting a plug in the hospital](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/plug-bruises.jpg) ### The Surgery Itself – Not Much Clue When You’re Blacked Out Then, Dr. Lee stepped into the room. It was time. This is one of my favourite things, even though the circumstances are always dire. For some reason, I really like the feeling of [becoming unconscious immediately](https://www.kevinmd.com/2021/08/you-are-not-asleep-under-anesthesia.html) (Mariano, 2021). Maybe it’s because I rarely get a good, full night’s sleep on a regular day. With a shot into my IV line, my world turned black. The next thing I know, I am being shook awake amidst bright lights, hustle and bustle. They asked how I was, and Dr. Lee informed me that the surgery went well. I smiled and thanked them all, even though the pain was already starting to kick in with a ferocity. ### Back to the Ward We Go Post Knee Surgery I could have some food and drink after I was wheeled back to the ward, and the team had decided that I was to be given IV fentanyl. It comes in the form of a button which you can press anytime you needed pain relief. There is an automatic lock that controls the dosage so that the patient doesn’t overdose. As the pain was quite severe, the initial dose that they had allowed me on was insufficient. I wasn’t able to sleep from the pain, so the night shift doctor decided to give me a single shot of a higher dose. > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/CZq1d6fPi3%5F/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/CZq1d6fPi3%5F/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) ## Conclusion to My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture Thank you for reading thus far! We have come to the conclusion of this phase of the recovery timeline for simultaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture. Keep reading to learn more about this rare medical incident in the series below. If you’re suffering from this somewhere in the world too and would like to share your experiences, feel free to [**approach me via the contact form here**](https://achronicvoice.com/contribute/). 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Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture Series: - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - *[My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment) (this post)](#)* - [Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 – 6](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) - [Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care: Introduction to the Series (1/6)](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-introduction/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope (Part 1/5)](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) Pin to Your Spontaneous Bilateral Tendon Rupture & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Broken Knees — Read about my rare medical incident — spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture (approximately only 50 reported cases in the medical literature), which was a result of my Lupus and steroid therapy. (A Chronic Voice .com)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/broken-knees-rare-medical-incident-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture.jpg) ![My Rare Medical Incident - Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/rare-medical-incident-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture-1.jpg) ### References: - American Academy of Orthopaedic Surgeons. (2021, September). *Patellar tendon tear.* OrthoInfo. - American Academy of Orthopaedic Surgeons. (2022, March). *What is an orthopaedic surgeon?* OrthoInfo. - Baldwin, P., Li, D. J., Auston, D. A., Mir, H. S., Yoon, R. S., & Koval, K. J. (2019). Autograft, allograft, and bone graft substitutes: Clinical evidence and indications for use in the setting of orthopaedic trauma surgery. *Journal of Orthopaedic Trauma, 33*(4), 203–213\. - Barhum, L. (2024, October 14). *Hematoma vs. Bruise.* Verywell Health. - Genetic and Rare Diseases Information Center. (2025, May). *Ehlers-Danlos syndrome.* U.S. National Institutes of Health. - Gunaydin, C., & Bilge, S. S. (2018). Effects of Nonsteroidal Anti-Inflammatory Drugs at the Molecular Level. *The Eurasian Journal of Medicine, 50*(2), 116–121\. - Gupta, S. (2024, October 10). *What does it mean to be substance dependent?* Verywell Mind. - Healthline. (2018, January 22). *Patellar ligament.* - Hsu, H., & Siwiec, R. M. (2023, February 13). Patellar tendon rupture. In *StatPearls.* StatPearls Publishing. - Institute for Quality and Efficiency in Health Care (IQWiG). (2022). In brief: Causes and signs of edema. In *InformedHealth.org.* National Library of Medicine (US). - Mariano, E. R. (2021, August 5). *You are not ‘asleep’ under anesthesia.* KevinMD.Com. - Pedorthic Footcare Association. (n.d.). *What is pedorthics?* Retrieved July 26, 2022, from - Rosa, B., Campos, P., Barros, A., Karmali, S., & Gonçalves, R. (2016). Spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture: Case report and review of fluoroquinolone‐induced tendinopathy. *Clinical Case Reports, 4*(7), 678–681\. - Tan Tock Seng Hospital. (n.d.). *Orthopaedic surgery.* Retrieved 26 July, 2022, from - The Royal Children’s Hospital Melbourne. (n.d.). *Management principles.* Fracture Education. Retrieved July 26, 2022, from - University of Rochester Medical Center. (n.d.). *The best ways to treat, prevent tendonitis.* Retrieved July 26, 2022, from - Yang, G., Rothrauff, B. B., & Tuan, R. S. (2013). Tendon and ligament regeneration and repair: Clinical relevance and developmental paradigm. Birth Defects Research. *Part C, Embryo Today : Reviews, 99*(3), 203–222\. - Yost, P. (2015, March 7). *Physician anesthesiologists do more than just ‘put you to sleep’.* KevinMD.Com. ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ **Caz / InvisiblyMe** ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Sep 16, 2022 Bloody hell, you’ve been through the wringer with this, Sheryl. I’m glad you shared this, especially since there’s so little information out there for a situation like yours. Blog posts on rarer conditions are vitally important. It really makes a difference when the info comes from someone who has lived through it. “You often get so used to living with pain that you sometimes don’t notice when a pain is ‘not normal’ anymore.” — So true. Sometimes we notice something is off, but brush it off as ‘one of those things’. The reality of a new problem isn’t one we want to face. Thank you for sharing your experiences here, and I’ll be keeping my fingers crossed for smoother sailing during the rest of your recovery! xxxx - [ **Carole Griffitts** ](https://www.navigatingthestorms.com) Aug 5, 2022 Appreciated reading this. I have Sjögren’s — mild compared to you. My rheumatologist just told me he isn’t ready to put me on steroids. After reading this, I don’t think I ever will! (I’m much older and not likely to really need them.) Good luck on your recovery. - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Aug 14, 2022 Thanks Carole! Yes, for me we’ve tried ten different immunosuppressants and biologics with no effect, so I had no choice. Right now I’m having bad Sjögren’s and Lupus flares, so I’ve had to increase my pred again — otherwise the pain is unbearable. Sending love. - [ **Britt** ](https://thekaspack.com) Aug 4, 2022 I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with all of that. I can only imagine how challenging it makes everything. Thank you for sharing your experience — hearing personal stories helps others realize they’re not alone, even if the obstacles differ. We can all support one another and encourage others in the chronic illness community to keep fighting. - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Aug 4, 2022 Thanks Britt 🙂 Yes, I hope sharing helps someone else going through this rare journey — and maybe contributes a little to medical insight too! - [ **Katie Clark** ](http://painfullyliving.com) Jul 31, 2022 Thank you for sharing this experience. You’re right — with such a rare situation, it’s important that info like this is available. While I wasn’t diagnosed with Sjögren’s, my knees, elbows, and finger joints have been flaring badly (as have dry eyes and mouth). I see my doctor on the 9th and will ask for imaging just to be sure things are okay. - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Aug 1, 2022 Hi Katie, I really hope they find the root cause soon — undiagnosed pain can be so despairing. Sjögren’s can be tricky due to false negatives; mine was finally diagnosed through an eye test. Sending lots of love, my dear friend. - [ **Carrie Kellenberger** ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Jul 26, 2022 Hi Sheryl, Obviously you’ve been in my thoughts since this happened. When you first posted about it, I looked up what was ahead of you and was shocked by the lack of information — all I found was sports-related material. Thank you for taking us through the first part of your journey and explaining how everything led up to this event. I hope you don’t mind questions, but did anyone ever warn you about this possibility, or is it so rare that no one thought to mention it? Has anyone advised you on what to avoid? As patients we want to know everything, and I’m sad (and shocked) that this happened to you. Not gonna lie — the Year of the Tiger has been awful for both of us. I can’t wait until it’s over! Sending continued good thoughts and love your way. - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Jul 28, 2022 Hi Carrie, thank you for always keeping me in your thoughts. Yes, the lack of info is sad, so I’m doing my small part! Most medical articles I read were aimed at athletes. Nobody warned me about tendon ruptures, even though they’re a possible side effect — it’s just extremely rare. We focused more on osteoporosis, joint pain, and quality of life. And it’s not really possible to test tendon quality accurately anyway. Yes, it’s a pretty bad year for us Tigers, isn’t it?! Let’s hope it gets better soon! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth URL: https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/ Last updated: 2026-05-22T15:19:47.000Z ## Chronic Illness & The Inevitable Loss of Identity Chronic illness has gnawed away at my self-identity, self-esteem and self-worth since it made its debut appearance in my life. Can I blame it? These are some of the best and juiciest cuts of a person. With the utterance of a single diagnosis - Antiphospholipid Syndrome - the doctor changed the course of my life forever. I sat in shocked silence, as he prattled off a list of activities that I could no longer do, and foods that I could no longer eat. It was an immediate confiscation of my sporty, tomboyish, tough girl persona. Was I now relegated to the ranks of soft, crybaby girls? Weaker? Lesser? A typical girly girl? *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Self-Identity Boards: ![Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness. Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-with-chronic-illness-sharpened-self-worth.jpg) ![Chronic Illness and the Inevitable Loss of Identity and How to Rebuild](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-loss-of-identity-rebuild.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Finding Your Self Behind the Illness (Your Story Isn’t Over Yet)](https://achronicvoice.com/finding-self-behind-illness/) ## The Loss of Identity From Chronic Illness is a Form of Trauma The loss of identity is usually a slow process, as you first try to keep things glued together with willpower fueled by cheap denial. It works in the beginning, but clogs up quickly and unpredictably. After my first life-threatening health related incident, the comorbidities started to stack. I would either need to undergo another surgery, or a new diagnosis would be meted out every year. Slices of my humanity and pieces of my identity went along with them. Trauma is often associated with war or abuse, but what is associated with both war and abuse? Pain, loss and the subsequent grief. The sense of having seen and experienced too much evil. The taste of how ugly life can be, and the feeling that your life is constantly under threat. The unfairness of it all. Chronic pain and chronic illness are also traumatic experiences, as a [consequence of cumulative adversity](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0277953699003998) (Alonzo, 2000). Read Related Posts: - [You Don’t Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) ## **When Chronic Illness Becomes Your Identity** Over the years, my [identity also started to blend with my chronic illnesses](https://www.changingfaces.org.uk/advice-guidance/mental-health-wellbeing/managing-loss-identity/) (Changing Faces, 2022). New people I met - colleagues, friends, a stranger at a party - only knew me as the ‘after’ chronic illness version. The one who couldn’t drink too much alcohol, and who left early at her own birthday party due to a pain flare. The one who had to keep working from home because she was in pain... again (*is she just using it as an excuse?*). It was unfathomable to think of me as healthy, adventurous or sporty. My ‘true personality’ before all this happened. Some people even chuckle in amusement, as if I were telling a joke. Pin to Your Identity, Chronic Illness & Mental Health Boards: ![What Happens When Chronic Illness Becomes Your Identity?](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-identity.jpg) ### The Impact of Steroid Therapy on Perceived Self-Identity My young adult years passed by in a blur with most of my good memories shadowed by pain. So often I would try to step into my perceived persona only to have it fall apart, leaving me embarrassed and feeling very much like a fraud. The steroid medication I was on only added to the confusion as I was still undergoing puberty. With so much hormones in play, it was difficult to sort all the emotions out. It also served to amplify the anxiety, depression and suicidal thoughts. Until this day, I will never know how much of what I felt in my youth was due to steroids, and how much was from puberty. Like any other young adult, I was trying to fit myself into the world. To find my clique, to own a slice of normality, to define who I was, and relate myself with certain figures and things. But I never fit in, except for the online space where I could meet others from around the world who were chronically ill like me. Like any other person my age, I had relationships and experienced heartbreaks. I entered the career rat race, and slogged my ass off to be recognised. I was finding my place in the world - just like everyone else - with a huge, addon dose of tremendous pain. Read Related Posts: - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [What’s it Like to be on a High Dose of Steroids? (And the First Question You Will Definitely Ask)](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - [A Page From a Sick Girl’s Diary: Sometimes I Wish I was an Old Person](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girls-diary-wish-old-person/) - [We Want to Have Fun Just Like You, But Here’s What it Takes](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/) ## The Definition of Self-Worth & The Confusion with Self-Esteem You might be surprised - or not - that the search volume on Google for ‘self-worth’ is significantly lower than ‘self-esteem’. The two terms are often used interchangeably, yet are two distinct concepts in psychology. Is this interchangeability for the mere sake of simplicity? Or do we, as a society at present, value confidence - or the appearance of it - over inherent value? Value that's often intangible and therefore, harder for others to attribute merit to? I like [this definition of self-worth from Positive Psychology](https://positivepsychology.com/self-worth/) (Ackerman, 2018), and relate to it most: > “Self-esteem is what we think and feel and believe about ourselves. Self-worth is recognizing ‘I am greater than all of those things.’ It is a deep knowing that I am of value, that I am loveable, necessary to this life, and of incomprehensible worth.” In short, having a healthy sense of self-worth is to understand that every human being has inherent value, no matter who they are or where they come from. It is not reliant on career standing, financial assets, connections, where you live, how you dress or anything material for that matter. ### How Modern Society Views a Person’s Worth Modern society is built on production and productivity of tangible things and skills. Pride is taken in how much you can maximise your time. The ‘I’ll sleep when I’m dead’ mindset reigns supreme. It is a society that emphasises on ‘more’, for better or for worse. More choices, more money, more hobbies, more pleasure, more, more, more. People size you up and decide your value based on your job and and where you work at, how much money you have, who you know, how you look and more. This isn’t only applicable to societal roles, but also in the selection of romantic partners and friendships. Nobody wants to be associated with a supposed nobody. ### The Sick, Old & Disabled Have Always Been Viewed as a Burden The opinion that the sick, old and disabled are a burden isn’t a new concept. This is understandable during times of bleak survival. The healthy have a higher likelihood of survival and propagation. Nature isn’t something we can fight against, and often it is the physically strong who survive. But we are living in an era where we can thrive, and go beyond the mere need to survive. We are living in an age where [self-actualisation is more within our grasp than ever](https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/beautiful-minds/what-does-it-mean-to-be-self-actualized-in-the-21st-century/) (Kaufman, 2018). **The belief that the sick, old and disabled are a burden, then, is an insult to our** [**creativity and humanity as human beings**](https://blogs.icrc.org/law-and-policy/2019/07/30/power-of-humanity-being-human-now-future/) **(Slim, 2019). Did we devolve our way to ignorance and complacency?** ## The Process & Importance of Building an Identity The building of an identity is a long, experimental [process that begins in our childhood](https://www.thoughtco.com/self-concept-psychology-4176368) (Vinney, 2024). [We observe our parents and the world around us](https://www.verywellmind.com/the-importance-of-a-childs-social-identity-1066758), and learn what’s socially acceptable or not (DiMaria, 2023). With more access to resources and ideas as teenagers, we increase our experimentation of self. We travel to ‘find ourselves’, experiment with fashion, associate ourselves with music and book genres, pick up new or improve on hobbies, cultivate friendships, indulge in our sexual appetites and more. Our identities give us a sense of value and pride. It is our presentation to the world, and [gives us a sense of belonging and definition](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/00049530.2021.1883409) (Allen et al., 2021). Read Related Posts: - [Are You a Capable Person? What Does That Even Mean?](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [Disability & Sex: Disabled People are Not Automatically Bad Sexual or Romantic Partners](https://achronicvoice.com/disability-and-sex/) - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) ## The Chain Effect When Your Self-Identity is Systematically Destroyed When your self-identity takes a major hit, all the [facets of your selves](https://www.researchgate.net/publication/347514075%5FFacets%5Fof%5FSelf) (Vimal, 2020) start to topple like a string of dominoes, gaining in speed as the pieces fall. The self-image we have spent our entire lives thus far building is being [brought into question](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/eight%5Freasons%5Fto%5Fdistrust%5Fyour%5Fown%5Fperceptions) (Suttie, 2020). Pin to Your Loss of Identity & Chronic Illness Boards: ![The Chain Effect When Your Self-Identity is Systematically Destroyed](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/effect-self-worth-destroyed.jpg) ### The Initial Grief Experienced with the Loss of Health & Loss of Identity “I love to hike. Who am I now if I can’t hike? Will I ever experience that feeling of standing atop a mountain again?” “I love to drink. Who am I now if I can’t even take a sip of wine? How do I handle social situations? Will I become a laughing stock?” “I love to dance. Who am I now when I can’t even get my legs to coordinate? Will I ever experience that joy of expression again?” “I love to teach and I am a mother. [Who am I now when I can’t work](https://hbr.org/2021/02/when-you-lose-your-job-and-its-your-whole-identity) (Zucker, 2021), or take care of my kids? Am I a bad person? Am I of any use now?” “What sort of partner am I now, when my vulva or bladder hurts all the time and sex has to be a cautious affair? Am I no longer desirable or sexy?” As you can see, a lot of what we base our identities on is what brings us status, joy, a role that we hold dear and/or a sense of fulfilment. They are reflected in activity, not passivity. If you’re doing no-thing, then you’re a no-body whom no-one wants to be associated with because you belong no-where. You have nothing of value to offer, or so it seems. ### The Loss in Facets of Your ‘Self’ [Self-identity or self-concept isn’t only one thing](https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/blog/theory-knowledge/201404/one-self-or-many-selves) (Kaufman, 2018). It is a multi-faceted diamond that consists of: self-worth, self-efficacy, self-esteem, self-confidence, self-value, self-actualisation and more. Each of these have their own psychological definitions and effects on a person, and all of them take a major blow with the loss of identity. Our self-worth collapses, as we question our value in society, to our family, friends and even to ourselves. This has a devastating effect on our confidence and self-esteem. Things you used to be able to do with ease now take colossal effort. Spontaneity is replaced with a need for endless backup plans. Activities that you enjoy require that you meter and pace your limited energy supply. Read Related Posts: - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [Grieving the Life That I Will Never Have](https://achronicvoice.com/grieving-the-life-i-will-never-have-chronic-illness-disability/) ## The Need for Self-Acceptance When There is No Answer I have no easy answer or magical solution for dealing with that loss. We all have different coping mechanisms and cope with loss in different ways. Our upbringing, past and life goals are as rich as they are varied. Yet one thing is for certain - there is no answer to chronic illness at this point in time. It is chronic, meaning, ‘persisting for a long time or constantly recurring’. ### The Difference Between Self-Acceptance & Giving Up I have found that the most effective and powerful way to deal with this recurrent loss is through self-acceptance. Mind you, [self-acceptance is not the same as giving up](https://drdavidhamilton.com/the-power-of-acceptance-its-not-about-giving-up/), as it is often confused with (Hamilton, 2024). Instead, self-acceptance redirects all that energy that we spend fighting into rebuilding instead. It turns an unproductive activity into one that [might help to improve our quality of life](https://peerj.com/articles/259/) (Garcia et al., 2014). As Socrates puts it, *“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new”.* When you give up, there is a sense of despair and lost hope. There is nothing else to look forward to in life. Self-acceptance on the other hand is empowering. There is a sense of peace that settles on your being, when you let things go and let them be. There is more freedom to flow, as you no longer struggle against the tide. You may not know where you’re going, but you understand that things will always be okay, somehow. Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or ‘How to Relax’ by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [Asking for Help (and Why Everyone Needs to Learn this Important Life Skill)](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) ### Self-Acceptance is the First Step Towards Healing I also know full well that it’s also not easy to accept that you’re chronically ill or disabled. After all, I spent a decade of my life since I was first diagnosed fighting against my illnesses. I told myself that I would never give in and ‘let chronic illness win’. After many years, at the peak of exhaustion, I realised how futile that mission was. I realised that I was actually fighting against myself and that the battles will never end. So why not work with instead of against my body? The help of an excellent psychologist was paramount to my healing, and healing consists of more than just the physical body to encompass the mind. I learned that happiness can exist despite the horrors of pain, and that it can cohabit the same space. It doesn’t have to be an either or situation, as society would have us believe. Pin to Your Self-Acceptance, Chronic Illness & Healing Boards: ![Self-Acceptance is the First Step Towards Healing](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-healing.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-Exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [An Inspirational Poem on Miracles, by Thuli Zuma](https://achronicvoice.com/poem-on-miracles-thuli-zuma/) ## How to Harness the Power of Self-Acceptance to Rebuild Your Identity ### Look Towards the Future, Instead of Harping on the Past You can only start to rebuild your identity when you accept your circumstances. Certain things lose their power the moment you accept them to be true, because they can no longer prey on your thoughts. Take your self-confidence back. When you acknowledge your new reality as a person who is chronically ill or disabled, you [enable yourself to look towards the future](https://hbr.org/2020/08/take-ownership-of-your-future-self) (Hardy, 2020). Gazing at the past through rose-tinted glasses and puppy dog eyes will not change your life for the better. But everything can change in the present moment and beyond. In his TED talk, [*The Psychology of Your Future Self*](https://www.ted.com/talks/dan%5Fgilbert%5Fthe%5Fpsychology%5Fof%5Fyour%5Ffuture%5Fself), Harvard psychologist Dr. Daniel Gilbert (2014) shares his research on a phenomenon he calls the "end of history illusion". Human beings are constant works in progress, yet it's easier to believe that our current state is finalised. Another crucial viewpoint he shares in his talk is this: > “If your identity narrative is rooted in the past, your past will determine your behavior. But if you intentionally decide who your future self will be — and find the courage to share that vision with others — it becomes possible to actively transform into that desired future self.” ### What Happened When I Accepted Who I Am & What I Was - Chronically Ill As mentioned above, self-acceptance is liberating. When I started to embrace my identity as the ‘sick girl’ instead of trying to regain the ‘tough girl’ persona, I ironically [became tough again, in a sense](https://www.betterup.com/blog/self-acceptance) (Halasgikar, 2025). I no longer feel insulted each time someone identifies me as being chronically ill or disabled. Therefore, association with that identity no longer stirs up feelings of self-doubt, self-hatred or shame within me. ### Letting Self-Worth Take Root & Grow We all have our strengths and weaknesses, regardless of whether we’re healthy or not. These traits cannot be measured with a point system, or filtered into fixed data. As human beings, there is always potential lying ahead of us. As Leonardo di Caprio said, *“Every next level of your life demands a different you”*. Pin to Your Self-Acceptance, Identity & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Self-acceptance — How I Rebuilt My Identity with Chronic Illness. Read the post on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-how-rebuilt-my-identity-with-chronic-illness.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [Every Next Level of Your Life Will Demand a Different You](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) - [Kick Ass With Kindness and a Sweet Cherry on Top](https://achronicvoice.com/kick-ass-with-kindness/) - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) ### The Need to Accept & Enhance Our Strengths As we work on our weaknesses, so do we need to accept and enhance our strengths. **There is only one you, and that is a powerful thing.** What is it that you, and only you, can do? What about in this very moment and space? When my perceived ideas of productivity and my ideal and idealistic personas were stripped away, I was left to stare at myself in all my vulnerability. This is who I am, but I had covered it all up like many others have. I had forgotten how much power I actually possessed as a human being, whilst trying to rack up points with people who don’t matter to me. ### Focus. Actions speak louder than words. Where are you focusing your time and energy, and what or whom for? Where do your priorities lie? If the things you take pride in are all suddenly taken away from you, who are you, then? ### Re-Imagining the Path Towards Your Life Goals The things that we do are manifestations of who we are, and not the other way around. The once healthy version of you and the chronically ill version of you can still achieve the same ideas, even though the medium might differ. Goals are still attainable, even if the path may look a lot different. I have come to understand that I am no less human than the next person beside me. We return to dust just the same. But what we leave behind as legacies can last beyond lifetimes. Read Related Posts: - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [It is \*Always\* Possible to Make Time for What Matters Most](https://achronicvoice.com/make-time-what-matters-most/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [Don’t Compare, Your Life Destination is Your Own Special Mission](https://achronicvoice.com/dont-compare-life-destination-special/) ## Speaking Up for Myself Being chronically ill has taught me that my self-worth is not determined by opinions, judgements or society’s often warped values. When they no longer have an influence on me, I am then able to advocate for myself and my needs. I learned to speak up and ask for the help I truly need, because there is no shame in being chronically ill. This is my lot in life, and we give and take in accordance to what we have. I now dare to question doctors when I am being mistreated, or when my pain is being brushed aside. I ask for the medications I know I need, and referrals to specialists for undiagnosed medical problems. Over time, I have even regained enough self-worth and confidence to advocate for not just myself, but others who are like me. For those who daren’t or can’t speak up for themselves. Pin to Your Chronic Illness, Self-Worth & Advocacy Boards: ![Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness and Learning to Speak Up for Myself](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness-speak-up.jpg) ## Going Beyond & Advocating for Others Who are Like Me I can use my voice and vulnerability to shine a spotlight on those who are in need, trapped under the isolating darkness of chronic illness. My vulnerability may symbolise weakness, yet becomes a strength when used like a knife. I don’t have to put the broken pieces back together, because what would I cut and mark with, then? When you’re no longer afraid of being seen as weak, then you are strong. Others may be wondering what it feels like to be broken, but you already know. You’re *there*, so use your broken pieces to carve your mark again. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [Why Humility is the Best Tool for Advocacy](https://achronicvoice.com/humility-advocacy/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Self-Identity Boards: ![Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness-sharpened-self-worth.jpg) ### References: - Ackerman, C. E. (2018, November 6). *What is self-worth & how do we build it? 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(2021, February 17). *When you lose your job—And it’s your whole identity.* Harvard Business Review. ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - **Lynn Geier** Nov 20, 2022 I would like to thank you for this post. I am much older than you and retired but up until three years ago I was active, strong and busy even in my retirement. But all of a sudden in one day I was chronically ill. It has been three years and now I am trying to figure where I fit in the world and who am I. Being seventy-six is hard to find a new identity and your post has helped me along. Thank you. - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Nov 21, 2022 Thank you for your comment, Lynn. Lucjan and I appreciate it. Seventy-six truly is hard to find a new identity, especially when you’ve lived so actively all your life. Sending you lots of warm wishes. - [ **Britt** ](https://thekaspack.com) Aug 4, 2022 Yes! Our society focuses on such a narrow view of what they deem to be valuable in life. But this limited outlook fails to acknowledge so many incredible strengths that exist. Sure, someone with a chronic illness may not be able to go out and work a physically demanding job every day — but that doesn’t mean there aren’t other areas where we can each excel. This message needs to be shared over and over until it sinks in! - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Aug 4, 2022 Thanks Britt! Yes, it’s my hope that such awareness becomes a normal part of society eventually — that’s the only way forward for humanity, really. - [ **Caz / InvisiblyMe** ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Jun 24, 2022 “Slices of my humanity and pieces of my identity went along with them.” That’s so true and what I’ve also found, with each extra test, procedure, injustice in healthcare, and each surgery. It’s exhausting and takes a toll in ways we don’t even appreciate at the time because we’re in so deep. Trauma is a strange one, isn’t it? I think chronic illness can absolutely be traumatic. Recognising that and validating our response is so important. I love how you covered this with such honesty — and how you turned it around to show the power of self-acceptance. Bravo, Sheryl. This post moved me deeply 💜 - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Jun 28, 2022 Hi Caz, thank you for such a heartfelt response. People like you inspire me to write 🙂 I’ll be doing a follow-up series on this soon — it’s so close to my heart. Sending love, and please know you’re awesome! - [ **Carrie Kellenberger** ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Jun 24, 2022 Hi Sheryl, I’ve had your post open since you published it. I’m not well right now, but wanted to tell you I SEE YOU. I HEAR YOU. The grief is overwhelming. My son only knows me as Sick Carrie; people now only remember me that way. It’s a continuous battering against the heart and mind. I’m so glad we met. You express things I never could so well. I’ll be sharing this widely. Take care — I’m always in your corner. 💜 - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Jun 28, 2022 Thank you for your unwavering support, Carrie — I appreciate it deeply. It’s heartbreaking when people only know you as the ‘sick’ one, when you used to kick more ass than most 😄 Just know you’re still amazing, always. - [ **Despite Pain** ](https://despitepain.com) Jun 15, 2022 Sheryl, this is such a good post. You’ve explained so accurately what happens when chronic illness hits — there’s always more to pain than physical symptoms. Acceptance is key but never easy. - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Jun 18, 2022 Thank you Liz, I appreciate you taking the time to read and comment. You’ve always been such a fantastic ally in the chronic illness community. Sending gentle hugs! - [ **Lucy** ](https://lbhealthandlifestyle.com/) Jun 13, 2022 Thank you for sharing this post, Sheryl. I relate to so much of it and feel like I could have written it myself. You’ve worded it perfectly — the loss of self-worth, the remarks, the shift from being viewed as ‘hardworking’ to ‘burdensome’. I’m only recently realising that my worth doesn’t depend on others’ ability to see it. Sending love and hoping you’re okay. - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Jun 18, 2022 Thank you Lucy for reading and commenting. I’m happy for you — rebuilding self-esteem is no small feat. It really is a huge loss when illness hits, but your insight shines through. Sending hugs! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness URL: https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/ Last updated: 2026-05-01T16:09:46.000Z \* *Content Warning: Contains mentions of the Holocaust, chronic illness, ableism, mental health issues, chronic pain and suffering.* *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ## What Does the Book, "Man's Search for Meaning", Have to Do with Chronic Illness??? With over 10 million copies sold, [Viktor Frankl](https://www.viktorfranklinstitute.org/about-viktor-frankl/)’s book, “Man’s Search for Meaning”, is one of the most popular books of our times (Viktor Frankl Institute of Logotherapy \[VFIL\], n.d.). I am sure that there are many great reviews of this book out there already. **But the angle that I’d like to take here is from the perspective of a person with chronic illness**. Many of the points that Viktor Frankl make are highly relatable to when you live with chronic illness, trapped in a body of pain. I would exclaim ever so often whilst reading the book, “Yes, this is *exactly* what it feels like to live with chronic illness, too!” Even the psychological coping methods that the prisoners used are similar to how many of us manage our chronic pain. Having said that, **I am in *no way* discounting the experiences of the men in the concentration camps. They suffered horrid, unimaginable crimes of war.** [Culture has an influence on how we express or deal with emotions and pain](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2213422016300191) (Lim, 2016). But emotions and pain are still things we can all relate to no matter who we are, or where we come from. A billionaire for example, is no less immune to heartache as anyone else on the streets. The grief from the loss of a loved one is just as heartbreaking for a person in a modern city, as it is for someone from a hill tribe. Viktor Frankl wrote the book in only nine days, yet it is full of thought provoking questions and wisdom. “What is the meaning of life?” His thoughts on this timeless question are easy to understand and written with bosom knowledge. I only wish that I could have read it in the original German version with all nuances retained. In this post I will share some of the insights I gleaned from Viktor Frankl's book, "Man's Search for Meaning", and how they relate to chronic illness life. - Originally Published on: 04 April 2017 ***\*P.s. For a visual summary, view the infographic at the end of the post!*** [Buy the Book on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0807014273?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=1064508c66e7ccb95224162e388657ad&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Pin to Your Life Lessons & Chronic Illness Boards: ![16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness from “Man's Search for Meaning” by Viktor Frankl. Book Review by Sheryl Chan on A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/16-takeaways-with-chronic-illness-from-mans-search-for-meaning-viktor-frankl-book-review-sheryl-chan.jpg) ## 1\. The Importance of Retaining Self-Respect ➡️ **How maintaining a shred of dignity can be like a life buoy on the stormy seas of chronic illness.** ⬅️ Through Viktor Frankl’s observation, the men who possessed a rich inner life often outlasted those who were tough in physical capacity only. **The last of one’s liberties is your choice of attitude towards the situations that life presents to you.** Living with chronic illness over the years has made me realise how important self-respect is. In fact, I believe that [dignity](https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/blog/dignity/201304/what-is-the-real-meaning-dignity-0), more so than love from others, is the virtue that keeps a person alive. When you’ve hit rock bottom, the number of people who love you, or how much they love you, no longer matters. You think to yourself, “They’d be better off without me”. Or, “Why should they have to suffer for my problems?”. These negative thoughts are likely shaded with depression or a defeated mindset. Some people don’t even have the ‘luxury’ of such thoughts, because they don’t have family or people they can rely on to begin with. But if you can maintain a thread of dignity and sense of self-worth, then you will find the strength to carry on. To remain dignified is to remain responsible. Not only towards others, but also towards yourself. You begin to die when you lose faith in the future. Many of the men who passed away in the camps did so of ‘health reasons’. Yet it was clear to those around them that these men had given up on hope right before their passing. **This leads me to wonder: Do many of those who die from chronic illness actually die from despair above all?** Read Related Posts: - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) ## 2\. The Most Depressing Influence: The Unknown ➡️ **There is no beginning or end to chronic illness. This sort of pain is meaningless, and can take a toll on a person.** ⬅️ As Viktor Frankl observed, the most depressing influence in the camps was the unknown. The men didn't know how long they'd have to endure their suffering. As a person with chronic illness, we do have an answer to that - we will have to live with the pain until the day we die. But the pain levels and severity of side effects do fluctuate. Chronic pain is highly unpredictable and symptoms change by the day, and even by the hour. This unpredictability can develop into anxiety and depression, as you're always on the alert for sudden pain. Acute pain can also feel unbearable, such as that experienced with a UTI or by giving birth. Yet there is often some comfort in the fact that the pain will pass. This in turn can grant you the strength to pull through. Chronic pain on the other hand is of a chaotic nature. A sense of purpose may give a chronically ill person focus, but we mostly need to endure for the sake of enduring. This takes a toll on a person. There is no real victory in overcoming a pain flare, only a moment of temporary relief. You live to fight more meaningless pain another day. Read Related Posts: - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [What Neverending Pain Reveals to You](https://achronicvoice.com/what-neverending-pain-reveals/) ## 3\. Looking at Others, From the Inside Out ➡️ **How being chronically ill makes me feel more like an observer of life, and rarely a participator.** ⬅️ The men who laboured within the camps were able to look at life on the outside through the fences, yet this meant nothing to them. It was akin to a dead man peering into a foreign world. I have often felt that way myself, trapped within my own body. [I feel like I'm just 'looking outside' of myself wherever I go](https://themighty.com/2022/05/chronic-illness-rare-disease-numb-to-life/) (Harrison, 2024). An observer of life, and rarely a participator. The freedom that others have is exclusive to them. They can come and go as they please, fuelled by an unbelievable amount of energy. This vitality is magical to me, something I can only admire from afar but never grasp. However, Frankl warns that the danger with this division lies in the opportunities we end up missing out on. There is always the possibility of creating something positive out of the terrible. But it is something we must actively look for. ## 4\. Looking at Yourself, From the Outside in ➡️ **How observing chronic pain through a different lens can feel liberating.** ⬅️ Then there is the inversion; Looking at yourself from the outside in. Frankl would sometimes transport himself into the future using his imagination. And research has shown that imagination is a crucial element in self-identity and self-preservation. He would picture himself giving lectures on the current torments he was experiencing. Thus, everything became experimental and scientific to him, interesting even. Sometimes I also picture myself ‘outside’ of my body, where I separate pain from thought. Not in a transcendental way, but more from an analytical, third person point of view. Even doctors often have no explanation as to what's happening to me, or what to do about it. Our bodies are such fascinating things, including the 'why' and 'how' of pain. The pain doesn't disappear when I observe myself in the third person. It's more like putting it under a microscope, which gives me something to observe, study and think about. I then become the scientist running the investigation, and no longer feel like the subject or victim. Chronic pain becomes a little more bearable this way. Chronic pain then, has some sort of purpose. Perhaps even more so, because I am experiencing it first hand, 'for real'. Read Related Posts: - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) ## 5\. It Doesn’t Really Matter What We Expect From Life ➡️ **How to derive purpose from life by approaching it with humility, instead of entitlement.** ⬅️ This was the best lesson I learned from the book, which helped me through some depressive moments as well. Frankl urged the men who were deep in despair to change their attitudes towards life. **To ask, "What does life expect from me?", instead of, "What do I want out of life?".** To come from a place of humility and look at ourselves as being the question of life, instead of questioning her with an air of constant arrogance and entitlement. Living with chronic illness has also made me realise that the purpose of life is simply, 'to be'. It is to hold constant communion with life and ask her, "What is it that you expect from me, in this very moment?". And then to get up and go fulfil that duty to the best of my ability. If life requires that I suffer in the present moment, then I will need to accept this job with grace. To ask myself, then, "What is it that only ***I*** can do in such a situation?" This makes my task unique, and gives it purpose. Should you lose all hope in this life, then your one task is to continue hoping, despite. I don't find this emotionless or stoical at all. In fact, I find it to be a peaceful thought. To quote Mel Robbins, “You have been assigned this mountain, to show others that it can be moved.” Read Related Posts: - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [Are You a Capable Person? What Does That Even Mean?](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) ## 6\. Self Defense Mechanisms We Employ ➡️ **Psychological self defense mechanisms that we learn are often illogical, and why humour is one of the best coping strategies.** ⬅️ Some of the men in the camps had built up apathy as a form of psychological self defense. If they braced themselves for the ultimate end, then what was the worst that could happen next? Frankl shared an interesting anecdote: The men were walking through a beautiful field one day, yet none of them could feel happy about it. Such beauty was so foreign from their reality that they had depersonalised themselves from feeling any pleasure. Dealing with chronic illnesses year after year can build up this same nonchalant attitude, too. It is a neutral state, devoid of too much pain, or too much joy. In fact, I started to dread stability and joy, because something worse would always happen after. I even took it a step further and became self-destructive. Whenever life got a little 'too stable', I would do something to rock the boat. I tried to use minor sufferings as a talisman for major ones. I needed to seek out psychological help so that I would stop ruining my life, and trust that happiness can exist as is, without strings attached. I hoped, dreamed and willed of escape, which in chronic illness terms, means a remission. Yet I knew that if and when that did happen, I would probably panic and be unable to accept it as reality. As I sit here updating this post 7 years later, I am glad to say that my mental health is in slightly better shape. Depression, anxiety and panic attacks still happen. But I've learned that I can take away some of their power, simply through the acknowledgement of their existence. Instead of trying to run from or bury my fears and emotions, I [make space for them](https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/blog/emotion-as-information/202209/creating-space-for-our-emotions-to-heal) (Hendel, 2022). That is how they come, and eventually go. ### The Power of Humour He also notes that [humour is another means to self preservation](https://www.themarginalian.org/2019/08/19/viktor-frankl-humor-survival/), and might even be the best form of it (Popova, 2019). Humour takes the edge off terrible situations, and casts it in an amusing light. There is victory in that sense, as you have managed to enjoy a little something even within the throes of agony. There are only a few people who get my morbid [sense of humour](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10902-012-9342-6) (Leist & Müller, 2012), but making light of dire situations and chronic pain helps me to cope. It gives me courage by diminishing the severity of the problem, thus taking away some of its power. Read Related Posts: - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [Dealing with Pain, One Second at a Time](https://achronicvoice.com/dealing-with-pain/) ## 7\. Be Careful of Becoming the Monster You Hate ➡️ **If we want society to believe in the invisibility of our pain and to show empathy, then we need to set the first example.** ⬅️ How does a person start to look like what they hate? By focussing the entirety of their thoughts on the subject, until they begin to think in its likeness. As Nietzsche said, "He who fights with monsters should be careful lest thereby become a monster. And if thou gaze long into an abyss, the abyss will also gaze into thee." In "Man's Search for Meaning", Viktor Frankl claims that this can happen when freedom is suddenly regained. Many of the men became the oppressors towards their former oppressors upon their release. One needs to hold firm to their values and have a deep sense of self-knowledge. Otherwise, the risk of degenerating into arbitrariness is very real. ### How Chronic Pain Can Dismantle a Person Chronic pain and stigma from society can also build up with similar toxicity in those with chronic illness. If we wallow in misery and pain for too long, a bitterness starts to set in. If we aren't careful, it starts to harden into a crust. We want those who have ignored our plight to feel our pain. "Now they know what it feels like. That'll show them!" We dismiss others who are in pain, because their pain can't be as bad as ours. This rottenness can even be found within chronic illness communities. There are truly some supportive people and networks out there. But there are also those that are breeding grounds for negativity and unkindness. ### The Irony of Being in Pain All the Time It's a bit of an irony, and even takes some effort to not morph into a hypocrite. You will find no lack of finger pointing, blame, shame and disbelief within a community that needs to stand together more so than others. We bottle up our frustration with society's ignorance and lack of empathy. Then we regurgitate the hate, anger and judgement back onto our own communities. It's not hard to find heated arguments, as we accuse each other of exaggeration, 'misinformation' or stupidity. We become arrogant in the knowledge of our illnesses, and reject any new suggestions. (P.s. My biggest pet peeve is unsolicited advice, and there's also heaps of harmful, illegitimate advice out there. But there are also one or two gems that we may just be missing out on, if we're too disgruntled to even consider them!) **If we want others to accept as the normal human beings that we are and to be kind, then we need to** [**set the first example**](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/three%5Fstrategies%5Ffor%5Fbringing%5Fmore%5Fkindness%5Finto%5Fyour%5Flife) **(Breines, 2015). We need to keep an open mind, and show compassion towards ourselves and towards others.** **We** [**need to forgive the unforgivable**](https://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.edu/how-do-thoughts-and-emotions-affect-health) **(Lawson, n.d.), or it will forever take up space within our heart, mind and soul.** Space that is precious, sacred and could be put to better use. Read Related Posts: - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) Pin to Your Life Lessons & Chronic Illness Boards: ![16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness, From Viktor Frankl’s Book, “Man’s Search for Meaning”. Life Lessons. Book Review. Read on A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/16-takeaways-with-chronic-illness-viktor-frankl-book-mans-search-for-meaning-life-lessons-book-review.jpg) ## 8\. The Disillusionment of ‘Happiness’ as the End Goal ➡️ **Happiness is often imagined. There are pockets of joy we can find in everyday life.** ⬅️ When you are in the throes of suffering and strive for 'happiness' as the end goal, you can forget that unhappiness still exists when and if you do get there. This may happen to some of us who go into remission from chronic illness. Life doesn't consist of happy moments only. Pain, grief and loss still exist no matter how healthy we are. This can lead to disappointment again. Life isn't linear, constant or black and white. It is a melange of both bright and dull colours, a spectrum of opinions and perspectives, twists, turns and more. Conflicting thoughts and emotions can co-exist. We need to remember that in order to keep things in perspective. This helps us to be able to appreciate a moment as is, empathise with others, and also to understand ourselves better. [What would make us happy is often imagined](https://www.ted.com/talks/dan%5Fgilbert%5Fthe%5Fsurprising%5Fscience%5Fof%5Fhappiness) (Gilbert, 2004). There are still pockets of joy we can find despite all that is going on around us. [Joy is also a more stable element than happiness](https://www.lifehack.org/829871/joy-vs-happiness) (Chargualaf, 2020). Whilst happiness is often emotional and temporary, joy is transcendent of that. Read Related Posts: - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [Keeping Up with the World: Why it’s Important Despite Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) ## 9\. There is No Limit to Suffering ➡️ **Repeat: There is no limit to suffering.** ⬅️ When the men in the camps thought that they had reached the limits of human suffering, they learned that pain really has no ceiling. It's always possible to suffer some more. This is a concept that people with chronic illness can grasp. Almost every year I'd learn of a new diagnosis I had, or would need to undergo yet another surgery. This leads to a fear of impending pain and expectation of suffering. I felt like a soldier that was constantly on the move and going into battle. You think to yourself when you've hit rock bottom, "How much worse can this really get?". Only to discover that the bottom is infinite. This leads me to my next point... Read Related Posts: - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) ## 10\. Opening Our Minds to New Ways of Thinking ➡️ **Chronic illness teaches our brain to be on the constant lookout for pain. We need to unlearn that and stop it from becoming a bad habit.** ⬅️ As human beings, it is normal to feel depressed at times. We all experience it. Existential distress doesn't always equate to a mental illness, however. Sometimes, all we need to do is to open our minds to new ways of thinking. Those who [live with chronic pain tend to be hyper-aware](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4153734/) of their bodies (He et al., 2014). Chronic pain trains you to monitor the slightest change within it. Any new pain or ache arouses suspicious and we start to analyse it. Previous undesirable experiences have taught us that it's always better to be a little paranoid, and nip a problem in the bud. 'Wait and see what happens' has often escalated to regrettable levels of pain and distress. A pain flare that could have been avoided, if only we had done something about it a little sooner. Whilst this habit has helped me with pain management more often than not, I also started to find things that weren't even there to begin with. Many times I'd go to the A&E out of prudence, only to be sent home with an 'all-clear'. It took me a long time to unlearn this fear and to retrain my brain to consider the possibility of a decent outcome. I had to resist the urge to hit the panic button too quickly, because that was also exhausting to deal with. **A question I use to help me cope and make decisions is this: "What would benefit my over all well-being most in the present moment?". Then I'd try and work outwards from there, step by little step.** This does take some practice and also experience. The more you live with chronic illness, the more you familiarise yourself with it, quirks and all. It isn't always a perfect self-assessment, but self-knowledge is always useful. Sometimes other ailments are mistaken for our 'regular' chronic pain, hence the [importance of flexibility](https://aeon.co/essays/it-takes-psychological-flexibility-to-thrive-with-chronic-illness) and being open to change (Trunzo, 2019). Read Related Posts: - [How to Rewire the Brain to Manage Chronic Pain (& Resources to Help)](https://achronicvoice.com/rewire-brain-manage-chronic-pain/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) - [Give Your Best Anyway, Even When You’re Feeling Depressed](https://achronicvoice.com/give-your-best-even-when-feeling-depressed/) ## 11\. A Tenseless State vs Struggling For a Worthwhile Goal ➡️ **Life isn't about reducing pain but increasing meaning, and the additional struggles that the chronically ill face when pain is all they know.** ⬅️ The existential vacuum is a first world, modern day problem. Boredom has become a bigger problem than distress. Viktor Frankl mentions that what we need in life is not a tenseless state, that is, one free of any worry or problem. Instead, what we need is a worthwhile goal to strive for, and the suffering that comes with it. I like his illustration using the architecture of arches in buildings. To strengthen an arch, you do not lessen the pressure placed upon it. Instead, you must increase the pressure so as to make it more compact. It isn’t about decreasing tension in our lives, but increasing the tension for meaning. ### The Added Struggle with Chronic Illness Many of us consumed by chronic pain might actually view a tenseless state as preferable. I'd give anything to escape from intense chronic pain. It terrifies me. I’d rather live in a meaningless vacuum than to suffer day and night. This is something that the average healthy person might not understand, with statements like 'what doesn't kill you makes you stronger' as mantras for the era. In that sense, those of us who are stuck with chronic illness may have a bigger challenge to deal with. Everything [can feel meaningless when pain is all-consuming](https://formative.jmir.org/2021/6/e29365/) (Costanza et al., 2021). Goals become redundant, even frivolous. All you want is for the pain to stop. We need to [convince ourselves that whatever we're aiming for is worth the hellfire](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4113206/) that comes with it (Dezutter et al., 2013). Those who have no family or support network in place will find this even harder. But all we can do is to try from a place of hope and humanity. Read Related Posts: - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [You Don’t Have to be Strong, You Just Have to be a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) - [An Open Letter to Death, and One Simple Plea](https://achronicvoice.com/letter-to-death-simple-plea/) ## 12\. The Meaning of Life in Each Moment **This is one of Viktor Frankl's most well-known quotes: “For the meaning of life differs from man to man, from day to day and from hour to hour. What matters, therefore, is not the meaning of life in general but rather the specific meaning of a person's life at a given moment.”** Everyone's life is unique and bears purpose. There is only you standing in this very spot right now in the whole world. Mind blowing, if you think about it that way. [Logotherapy](https://positivepsychology.com/viktor-frankl-logotherapy/), which is Frankl's form of therapy and amongst the three important pillars in psychology, sees in essence human existence as ‘responsibility’ (Madeson, 2020). What is it that only you can do, right here and right now, for the better? He uses movies as a metaphor: Every scene that you watch has meaning from moment to moment, yet you only know what the whole point to it is at the end. Life's like that too. We all need to play our part, and play it well until the very end. So for those who are suffering in one way or another - hang in there. Who knows what will happen next? And even if the ‘movie’ doesn’t have a happy ending, it usually has a captivating plot or profound insight to it. **It is a role that life insists upon and has selected you for, because there is no better protagonist for it. In the words of Dave Grohl, "No one is you and that is your power."** Read Related Posts: - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [Finding Your Self Behind the Illness (Your Story Isn’t Over Yet)](https://achronicvoice.com/finding-self-behind-illness/) - [An Inspirational Poem on Miracles, by Thuli Zuma](https://achronicvoice.com/poem-on-miracles-thuli-zuma/) ## 13\. Our Current Mental (Un)hygiene & Over Demand for Happiness ➡️ **When a state of activity is valued more than a state of passivity, does it make us less humane?** ⬅️ One interesting point he makes is the modern idea that people ought to be happy, and that unhappiness is a symptom of maladjustment. We end up being twice as unhappy, because we are unhappy that we are unhappy! Society often sees it as a sign of failure. Thich Nhat Hanh also said, "Our idea of happiness is our biggest obstacle to happiness", which rings true here as well. We are also a realistic generation, because we know the extent of humankind’s potential for empathy and also cruelty. The symbol of this era is achievement. It adores the young, the successful and worships happiness. It ignores everything else because it sees no value in them. Our sense of being and dignity are often replaced by our sense of usefulness, with the latter seen as more valuable and admirable. Those of us with chronic illness often feel like we're living out our twilight years, even though we may only be 20\. Many of us can't work full-time or even part-time, and struggle with pain from the moment we wake, until we go to bed again. ### Are Those with Chronic Illness the Dregs of Society? Based on outward appearances, we're underachievers and seen as the dregs of society. What do we have to give, offer or show off about? Are we burdens on the system? We are the epitome of everything modern society does not adore. Nothing about our situation is pleasant or conjures envy. Often it conjures sympathy, only because people realise that they're human just like us, and that this could happen to them someday, too. Your self-worth and self-identity are called into question with every new diagnosis. Before I became chronically ill, I was an overachiever. This was only because I had the energy to push myself beyond my limits. Now I need to pace myself; To force myself to stop even before I come anywhere near my limits, or risk a pain flare. It's a bit like a moth to a flame though, and many of us still take that risk on a rare good day. Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or ‘How to Relax’ by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [Would You Rather: Have an Invisible Illness or a Visible Disability?](https://achronicvoice.com/rather-have-invisible-illness-or-disability/) ## 14\. Why Are Decent Men Called Saints? Frankl mentioned that him being nice or kind to men in the camps didn't make him a particularly good person. Shouldn't these be normal actions that decent people do? Survival has always been at stake throughout the centuries. In the modern jungle, decent acts are lauded as 'amazing', whilst rudeness and unkindness are 'normal'. "Welcome to the real world", we quip. Easy access to a wealth of information has made us jaded, opinionated and sometimes misinformed. What has happened to us as human beings? ## 15\. Potential vs Actualisations: The Young vs the Old ➡️ **Experiences and the meanings we assign to them become the building blocks of our memories, and of our psychological quality.** ⬅️ Frankl brings up an interesting point - that the old are more enviable that the young. What blasphemy as mentioned above! To be feeble, infirm, and slow? There must be a way to prolong youth... He states the young are full of potential and possibilities, but these have yet to crystallise into realities. Old folks have concrete actualisations. They own actual assets within their memories, and are rich with experiences. **By spending your life, you are buying it.** Health, finances, and responsibilities can limit physical quality. But we can choose part of our psychological quality. At the end of our lives, the quality of our memories comes from the meaning we have created out of all the little moments over the years. ### The Value of Our Chronic Illness Experiences & Why We Should Share Them Chronic illness expands our experiences in life and often our perspective on it as well. Like how becoming a parent 'unlocks a new door' and provides more insight into life, so does chronic illness. Whilst these experiences may not be desirable, [there is still value to them](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3460203/) (Ziebland & Wyke, 2012). Don't let them rust under a closed lid. Display them, if not for appreciation, then for knowledge. If not for art and humanity, then for science and truth. Read Related Posts: - [Every Next Level of Your Life Will Demand a Different You](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Why Humility is the Best Tool for Advocacy](https://achronicvoice.com/humility-advocacy/) - [Grieving the Life That I Will Never Have](https://achronicvoice.com/grieving-the-life-i-will-never-have-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) ## 16\. The Formation of Stigma Through Collective Guilt ➡️ **Stigma needs to be fed to grow in strength. Don't become part of the problem.** ⬅️ As humans, we tend to place everyone in the same classification, based on the action of one person. We refer to a single trait or object from a vile person, then associate it with vileness. It's lazy logic, or really, illogical. For example: "Jack the murderer always has an apple in his hand. Therefore, association with apples is evil." (You can swap this with a hijab if you want.) Making such assumptions and associations are not only superstitious, but also stigmatising. [**Stigma requires a collectiveness**](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/1363461519890964) **to it. It grows or diminishes in strength based on the number of persons in the group** (Mascayano et al., 2020). And stigma can be destructive if it gets out of hand. If only one person believes that mental illness is a 'conspiracy', there isn't much to fear. But if a million people believe that to be true, the fear intensifies and spills over into society. ### The Stigmatisation of Mental Illness in Everyday Life Movies are a good example once again. The mentally ill are often portrayed as cold-blooded murderers, but that isn't always the case in reality. [According to the American Psychological Association](https://www.apa.org/monitor/2021/04/ce-mental-illness) (DeAngelis, 2022): > “Diagnosis alone is never enough to tell you if someone is likely to be violent again in the future,” says Brown. Instead, a contextual approach is needed that considers symptoms, circumstances, and individual characteristics, among other factors, she says. Another example where this stigmatisation happens quite a bit is when a criminal is diagnosed with mental illness in the news. Many of these keyboard warriors don't even read the article. They don't bother to find out more about the diagnosis or about mental illness. They just get on their high horse and crucify said criminal without mercy. Maybe even gain a sense of satisfaction from their self-righteousness. "A pathetic excuse." "A stupid reason." "We should rip her eyeballs out, pour burning coals on them and torture her to death." How humane of them. Laws exist for a reason, and mental illnesses are not an excuse to escape them. But these same people pass gross misjudgement on the mentally ill in everyday life as well. "Depression is a pathetic excuse for not cleaning the house. She's such a bad mother." "Anxiety is a stupid reason to miss work for. He's so lazy and irresponsible." "We need to give her a good slap to get her out of her head and face up to real life." Have these people ever considered that they're part of the problem? The stigma and ignorance surrounding a mental health issue may deter a person from seeking the help they need. So get out of the way and don't be part of the problem. Read Related Posts: - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - [Why You Need a Good Therapist on Your Healthcare Team (Based on My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-good-therapist/) - [Disability & Sex: Disabled People are Not Automatically Bad Sexual or Romantic Partners](https://achronicvoice.com/disability-and-sex/) - [4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/) - [A Page From a Sick Girl’s Diary: Sometimes I Wish I was an Old Person](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girls-diary-wish-old-person/) ## Concluding Thoughts & Further Applications This is a book that I will definitely need to read again several times. I am sure that there's much more to learn, especially over the different phases of my life. 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Health and Illness in a Connected World: How Might Sharing Experiences on the Internet Affect People’s Health? *The Milbank Quarterly, 90*(2), 219–249\. ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ **Harriet J. Hartley** ](https://data-machine.com/) Apr 18 2025 Such a powerful and thoughtful post. *Man’s Search for Meaning* is already such a profound read, and connecting its lessons to life with chronic illness adds an entirely new layer of insight. Thank you for sharing your personal reflections so openly — it’s comforting and inspiring to see meaning and resilience explored in the context of real, ongoing challenges. - [ **Carrie** ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Sep 4 2022 I read *Man’s Search for Meaning* in 2019 and it remains one of my top recommendations for friends coping with illness or trauma. Your line — How being chronically ill makes me feel more like an observer of life, and rarely a participator.— captures so much truth. I’m definitely working through despair this year and hoping next year is gentler. - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Sep 7 2022 Thanks for reading, Carrie — I appreciate it! Let’s hope 2023 is kinder to the Tiger zodiacs out there. 2022 has been one of the toughest years for sure. Sending hugs 💜 - [ **Britt** ](https://thekaspack.com) Aug 4 2022 “For the meaning of life differs from man to man…” — what an incredible reflection. Too often we look only toward future goals and miss the moments of meaning now. Adopting a more mindful approach has completely changed my life these past years. - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Aug 4 2022 Hi Britt — I’m thrilled your mindful approach is helping, and congrats on your new business! It’s one of my favourite books too 💛 - [ **Sue at Book By Book** ](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/) Jun 6 2022 Wonderful post — this book has long been on my must-read list, and your summary shows how well its lessons apply to chronic illness. You’ve inspired me to finally pick it up! - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Jun 7 2022 Thank you Sue! It really resonates with anyone who has faced suffering. I agree — the lessons are universal 💛 Take care! - [ **Alison** ](http://www.thrivingwhiledisabled.com) Jul 31 2020 Thank you Sheryl. I love how you applied those lessons to the disabled identity. Having goals and purpose truly strengthens us. That’s when I feel most whole. - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Aug 2 2020 Most welcome Alison. Some people don’t see the parallels, but I think Frankl’s lessons are universal — we can all draw meaning from them. Sending love 💛 - [ **Shruti Chopra** ](http://allthingsendometriosis.com) Jul 31 2020 There’s so much to learn from this book and your reflections. “Looking at Yourself from the Outside In” and “The Meaning of Life in Each Moment” really struck me. Thank you for sharing this, Sheryl. - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Aug 2 2020 Thank you Shruti 💜 Yes, it’s a book I’ll re-read again myself. Hope you’re getting some rest — gentle hugs! - [ **Claire** ](http://throughthefibrofog.com) Jul 29 2020 I hadn’t heard of this book but it sounds fascinating. I resonate with what you say about pain having no ceiling — perhaps only those with chronic illness can truly understand that. - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Aug 2 2020 Thank you Claire — I agree, it’s something only those living it can grasp. Pain teaches us, but life remains beautiful too 🌷 - [ **Lisa** ](http://www.centralpainnervecenter.com) Apr 6 2017 Great post! I love how you applied Dr Frankl’s lessons for those of us living with chronic conditions — sharing what we’ve learned helps others 💫 - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Apr 6 2017 Thank you Lisa! While reading I kept finding parallels to chronic illness — I knew I had to write about it. Wishing you good health 💖 - [ **Emma** ](http://notjusttired.com) Apr 5 2017 I enjoyed reading this from the perspective of someone with chronic illness. It can indeed feel like living imprisoned by our bodies — and speaking about it helps others understand. - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Apr 5 2017 Thank you Emma — I’m glad it resonated 🙂 Definitely recommend the book — it’s easy to read yet deeply thought-provoking x **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### How to Prepare for a Medical Appointment in a Post-Pandemic World (4 Top Tips From a Doctor) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/prepare-medical-appointment/ Last updated: 2025-10-24T17:10:31.000Z I’m excited to have Dr. Marta Becker with us, as she shares her four top tips on how to prepare for a medical appointment. She is an ear, nose and throat (ENT) specialist with Jefferson-Abington Health from Philadelphia, PA. > “Everybody wants to get in and out of their doctor’s office as quickly as possible, but not miss out on any important information,” said Becker. “Many doctors are also trying to keep to their schedules better than they have in the past to get everyone out of the building as quickly and safely as possible. These tips will help patients not forget any important information while informing their doctors of everything going on in their lives. From chronic pain to illness triggers, having all the information readily available will help your physician more effectively treat what’s ailing you.” *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes and is based on the author's personal experiences. It is *not* to be substituted for medical advice. Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contains affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy page***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/) *for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Digital Health & Patient Resources Boards: ![How to Prepare for a Medical Appointment in a Post-Pandemic World (4 Top Tips From a Doctor)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin-prepare-medical-appointment-tips-doctor.jpg) ## When Your Calendar is Packed with Medical Appointments If you live with a chronic condition, chances are that your calendar is packed with medical appointments with [**various doctors and specialists**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/). Living with chronic illness is like a full-time job with unpredictable hours. It can be overwhelming to keep up with all the symptoms, medication side effects, fluctuations in diet, mood and more. ## Going for a Medical Appointment in a Post-Pandemic World COVID-19 has changed much of our everyday lives and how we go about doing everything. Most people try to get in and out of stores and restaurants quickly, for fear of catching the virus. This is especially true for people with chronic conditions who are more susceptible to infections. The pandemic has also impacted doctor and hospital visits. Doctors' schedules are often jam-packed as they clear a backlog of patients. Medical appointment times are also cut short, so that doctors can see more patients. Those who live with chronic pain and illness have been affected the most. Yet, it is they who need most of their doctors' time, due to the complexity of their illnesses. ## Why It’s Important to Describe Health Issues Accurately The probability of extending your medical appointment time is slim. The need to convey your health issues to your doctor with greater accuracy becomes an urgent one. This is especially true if the [**pain or symptoms are 'invisible'**](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/). To be able to do so can help to improve your quality of care, and thus your quality of life. This consists of paying attention to details, and polishing communication skills. Which can be awfully hard with [**brain fog, pain and fatigue**](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) wreaking havoc on the mind and body. Fortunately, it is still possible to get important information across to your doctor despite these barriers. Organization and consistency are skills that we can all hone. They are also key to walking away from your medical appointment knowing that you've done your best. While there may not be a cure, your doctor will be better equipped to dispensing medical advice, or modifying your treatment plan. This in turn can only benefit you. ## 4 Top Tips on How to Prepare for a Medical Appointment ### 1\. Organize your medical story like a reporter: What? When? Why? How? - **What** is the chief complaint of your health issue, and what are the related complaints? Start here. - **When** exactly did it first start? Did it resolve, recur or fluctuate at all? - **Why?** You may not know why, but what else was going on at the beginning? Do you know what the trigger(s) were? Was there an illness going around, was it a stressful period, or were you exposed to something? - **How?** What qualities does the problem have: intense, lingering or a nuisance? Are other symptoms associated with it, and do they come and go at the same time? What makes it better or worse: medications, other treatments, sleep, exercise, nothing? ### 2\. Organize your data - Know and list down your **medications** in detail: Names, doses, what time you take them, etc. Bring a list if necessary. - Know and compile your **medical history**. Do include chronic diagnoses such as high blood pressure or depression. Also include operations you may have had such as a heart surgery. List down any medical incidents that have happened in the past, such as fractures or ruptures. - Have copies of your **test results** on hand: Laboratory tests, x-rays, previous procedure reports, reports from providers like physical therapists, etc. Often there is a portal that you can print these test results from. Don’t assume that the medical provider you will be seeing will have access. - If you have a **medical journal** where you note down your symptoms, print a summary. (More on this below.) ### 3\. Set a reasonable agenda ahead of time and lead with it during your medical appointment - Let the provider know what you want to discuss in a few short sentences. Do this right at the **beginning of the medical appointment**. - Try to **stay focused** on the problem(s) at hand. - Inconveniently, the time allocated for most medical appointments is fixed, even if a patient’s issues are more complex than usual. **Be open to this.** ### 4\. How an app like ‘“Journal My Health” can help - **Symptom tracking to see patterns and find potential triggers.** With a digital journaling app, you can keep track of when your symptom(s) started and how it/they change over time. ![Journal My Health App](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/journal-my-health-app.gif) - **Graphing function to find correlations.** “Journal My Health” has a graphing function, which helps to look for correlations between your symptom(s) and other factors such as exercise, weather, or even interventions such as medications or physical therapy. - **Printable graphs.** You can print graphs that show your health experiences, and take them with you to your medical appointment. - **Calendar-based note-taking function.** You can take notes on the calendar-based note app to best describe certain symptoms or experiences. - **Store and access all your important medical information easily.** You can also store your medication list, medical history, and notes from previous tests and appointments on the app for future references. Pin to Your Health Infographic Boards: ![How to Prepare for a Medical Appointment in a Post-Pandemic World (4 Top Tips From a Doctor) Infographic](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/infographic-how-to-prepare-medical-appointment.jpg) [Download the 'Journal My Health' App Here](https://www.journalmyhealth.com/) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [COVID-19 Vaccine Experiences from People with Chronic Conditions](https://achronicvoice.com/covid-19-vaccine-experiences/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) - [5 Things You Should Know About My Epilepsy (It's More Than Just Seizures)](https://achronicvoice.com/epilepsy-more-than-just-seizures/) - [Is Seeking Help for Your Mental Health Worth It?](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/) **Contributor Bio:** ![Dr. Marta T. Becker headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/meetdoctors-marta-becker-otolaryngologist-philadelphia-1-1.jpeg) [Dr. Marta T. Becker](https://www.journalmyhealth.com/about/) is a board-certified otolaryngologist and Head and Neck surgeon from Philadelphia, USA. She graduated from Harvard University and the Harvard-MIT Health Sciences and Technology (HST) division of Harvard Medical School and was residency-trained at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. She is a partner at the single-specialty practice Berger Henry ENT (Ear Nose Throat) Specialty Group. She has a keen interest in using digital tools to help improve the quality of patient care and life. ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ **Britt** ](https://thekaspack.com) Aug 4, 2022 This is great information. I never thought about setting an agenda before heading into an appointment, but it makes sense. Being organized and knowing what you hope to achieve can help both you and your doctor make the most of the time you have together. I’m going to start putting this into practice not only with my own medical appointments but also with veterinary appointments for the pets. - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Aug 4, 2022 Thanks so much for the comment, Britt! Yes, it can be super useful for pets too — I kind of use the same approach with my dog 😉 - [ **Kathy** ](https://www.upbeatliving.net) Apr 21, 2022 Thanks for sharing this information, Sheryl. I’m now taking care of my parents’ medical needs and have been floundering in disorganization. This definitely helps me. - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Apr 22, 2022 I’m glad this helps, Kathy — and I’m sorry you need to take care of both your parents’ medical needs and your own 🙁 I hope you’re doing okay. Sending gentle hugs. - [ **Lucy** ](https://lbhealthandlifestyle.com/) Apr 18, 2022 These are such great tips, Sheryl — thank you for sharing. The time to get a medical appointment is longer since Covid and the appointment time shorter, frustratingly. I definitely need to start tracking things more closely by keeping a medical journal so I can easily relay exactly what the problem is, how long it’s been happening, and the specific triggers. - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Apr 22, 2022 Thank you, Lucy. Dr. Marta provided some excellent tips, and it’s always great to have a doctor’s perspective too! It’s actually a little quicker here in Singapore because the “non-essential” appointments were delayed, but now with things back to normal, waits are long again — which is harder in a wheelchair with my legs all stretched out. - [ **Karandeep Kaur** ](http://creatingwithchronicfatigue.co.uk) Apr 16, 2022 Making sure that you get across the information you need to your doctor is so important, yet it can be difficult. This is a great guide to help with that — I’m definitely going to write these down for the next time I have an appointment! - [ **Sheryl Chan** ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Apr 17, 2022 Thanks Karandeep! The app is also useful for consolidating all your information in one handy place 🙂 - [ **Despite Pain** ](https://despitepain.com/) Apr 16, 2022 Doctors often don’t have a lot of time, so it makes it extra important to prepare for appointments. This is a fantastic post with great ideas — really helpful, Sheryl! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled: Taking on the Eye of the Tiger in the Year of the Tiger URL: https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/ Last updated: 2026-06-03T16:53:45.000Z ## Welcome to the Year of the Tiger – When I Became Suddenly Disabled I’ve become suddenly disabled, and it’s been a rollercoaster ride the past 4 weeks, in every which way possible. Mentally, physically, emotionally, even spiritually. My identity, ability, desirability and physicality have all been called into question. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. Whilst I have done my utmost to be meticulous in research, I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice. Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding any new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/) *page for more information. Thank you!* ### What are the Odds of Both Patellar Tendons Rupturing at the Same Time? The chances of a [bilateral patellar tendon rupture](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/ccr3.592) is rare. A spontaneous event is even rarer (Rosa et al., 2016). Whilst it is more common in people with Lupus (SLE) and who are on steroid therapy, the chances of it ever happening is still super rare. Those of you who have known me for decades know that I somehow drew the short end of all the health sticks, though. A life-changing health-related incident happens every couple of years. Ones that take an entire year to recover from, with remnant scars and permanent alterations made to mind and body. Read Related Posts: - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [Disability & Sex: Disabled People are Not Automatically Bad Sexual or Romantic Partners](https://achronicvoice.com/disability-and-sex/) - [Would You Rather: Have an Invisible Illness or a Visible Disability?](https://achronicvoice.com/rather-have-invisible-illness-or-disability/) - [Life is a Long Process of Becoming Into…](https://achronicvoice.com/life-is-a-long-process-of-becoming-into/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Disability Boards: ![What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/what-feels-like-suddenly-disabled-v2-broken-clay.jpg) ![What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/feels-like-suddenly-disabled.jpg) ## How Much Pain & Grief Can a Person Take? The answer is again and again, until death do us part. After a while, you start to question if life is mercy or sadism. ‘Life purpose’ and ‘there is no choice’ – These phrases bear little meaning to me anymore. That is what four near-death encounters on top of other gruelling health ordeals do to you. Becoming suddenly disabled adds another to the ‘suck’ stack which I’m losing count of. I try to not even contemplate my situation, and simply get through it within a shroud of emptiness. A void that is unperturbed by the quavers of false logic and everchanging emotion. An opaque, protective bubble that I need to step into again, in order to cross yet another rough passage of time. I have considered popping that bubble to hurl myself against that impenetrable storm many times. But I hug myself like a helpless child and wait it out as usual, one painful bob at a time. Who knows why. My mood has been turbulent the past few weeks, and started out soaked in the rags of rage. Highly flammable, I set them alight without precaution or consideration. My words were like glass shards which I thrusted at anyone in close proximity. This contrasted against long bouts of depression and withdrawn silence, when nothing was happening during the day. Pin to Your Grief, Loss & Disability Boards: ![How Much Pain and Grief Can a Person Take? What it Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pain-grief-suddenly-disabled.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [Every Next Level of Your Life Will Demand a Different You](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) ## Time has Never Been so Painful to Endure with the Suddenly Disability I honestly can’t wait for 2023 to make its debut appearance already. 2022 is the year of the Tiger in the Chinese zodiac. I’m not quite superstitious although I do knock on wood at times… I am also born in the year of the Tiger. There are five elements, of which mine is fire. The current year is water. I can’t help but wonder if that means my element is being drowned, washed away, snuffed out, neutralised. Becoming suddenly disabled means that I’m currently bed bound and unable to walk. There are benevolent dictatorships; my room feels like a benevolent prison. My skin presses against my bedsheets all day, but do I have a right to complain, when I have access to Netflix, music, my computer and food delivery services? My knees and legs need to remain flat at 180 degrees for six weeks. I am literally watching my leg muscles shrink and atrophy. But as the surgeon says, they need to be sacrificed to allow the tendons time to heal. ## Mortal Flesh, Made Extra Mortal with Prednisone Parts of my flesh from the surgical sites are still split open and taking much longer than average to heal, no thanks to my prednisone medication. Most people are able to remove their wound dressing by the 2nd week post surgery. But mine are still sealed up tight with Tagederm even after 4 weeks. According to my surgeon, a skin infection is the most dangerous thing that can happen post surgery. Skin infections may require more surgeries, with the worst case scenario ending in amputation. So I hope my skin heals up soon. Of all the scars on my body, these are by far the biggest, most gruesome and visible as well. > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/CZq1d6fPi3%5F/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/CZq1d6fPi3%5F/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) Read Related Posts: - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [What Neverending Pain Reveals to You](https://achronicvoice.com/what-neverending-pain-reveals/) - [Dealing with Pain, One Second at a Time](https://achronicvoice.com/dealing-with-pain/) - [What’s it Like to be on a High Dose of Steroids? (And the First Question You Will Definitely Ask)](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) ## Rare Diseases Mean Doing Things the Unconventional Way We can’t do things the conventional way, and need to roll with the punches and play it all by ear. My surgeon is the head of the Orthopaedic Department, yet has only seen five cases like mine in his entire career. And even amongst those five cases, the patient profile is highly varied. There is no rule book or guidelines to follow in my case. He told me straight up that he may or may not make the right decisions along my recovery journey. I appreciate that frankness, because it shows a certain humility and willingness to work together with the patient in order to achieve the best possible outcome. Our aim is to walk again, and not to walk like a robot at that. Read Related Posts: - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Is My Doctor Right for Me?](https://achronicvoice.com/is-my-doctor-right-for-me/) - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does ‘Normal’ Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) - [Why I Need to See 10 Different Doctors on a Regular Basis](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) ## My Obsession with the Recovery Timeline I’ve been obsessed with the recovery timeline, even though it’s very individualistic and milestone based. I keep chopping up and calculating time in chunks in my head. With not much else for my brain to feed off of during the day, it tends to replay memories of failed romance and what is beyond the haze of my future. “6 weeks until I can begin physiotherapy. 3 months to bending my knees to 90 degrees or more. 4.5 months to standing and sitting. 6 months to walking with a walking frame, before sitting back down on the wheelchair. 8 months to walking with a walking frame without a wheelchair. 10 months to walking short distances, sitting and resting, without any mobility aids. 12 months – a whole year – to regaining full walking capacity. Jogging and more vigorous exercises not included.” I repeated that to myself every day, more so because I had no idea if that was even ‘correct’ to begin with. This timeline was based on that of a paramedic who had suffered the same injury. Thankfully, after consulting my surgeon, his hope is that I will be able to bend my knees, sit and stand again in 3 months. Weight bearing and bending are apparently two separate exercises. Then from there it’s a slow process from becoming suddenly disabled, to walking and regaining full functionality again. Everything seems so near yet so far. In the grand scheme of things, 6 – 12 months does not sound so bad. But within the present moment itself, every minute is excruciatingly slow. The unpredictability of chronic illness gets to me most. So this loose timeline frustrates me to no end. Read Related Posts: - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [The Road to Recovery is the Longest of Them All](https://achronicvoice.com/road-to-recovery-longest/) - [To Live with Chronic Illness is to Learn to Live with Maybes](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-maybes/) ## Allowing Myself the Space to be Numb & Process It All I had actually wanted to write about the whole incident and more about the medical side of things first. But each time I tried to do so, I only felt an overwhelming strain of pressure. I am too depressed to do or even write about anything. Becoming suddenly disabled is a shock to the system, to put it gently. And that’s perfectly fine and normal. I am currently trying to allow myself the space and time to simply stare at the wall. To let the emotions sieve through my brain, instead of doing things and trying to be ‘productive’. Which is impossible now anyway. My blog stats are plunging. My day job is at a standstill. My podcast project has been cast aside. My memoir is on pause. Life feels like it’s been **cancelled**. It’s in disarray, on hold, stopped cold in its tracks. I have no mood to even do anything pleasurable or mindless such as reading or watching TV. And that’s okay. Read Related Posts: - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [A String of Bad Days (and What Happened When That Good Day Finally Came Along)](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/) - [The Barriers That Throw Rocks into My Bucket List with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/) ## Fighting Negative Thoughts Through Reframing I try to reframe my thoughts. I tell myself that even if I’m doing nothing, I am doing everything I can to heal. Time is what it takes to heal, so no matter what I’m doing – even if it’s just sitting in bed staring into space – my body hasn’t stopped working to repair itself. I need to trust the process, and provide my body with nutrients and sleep; the supplies needed to rebuild. ## Other Year-Long Ordeals I’ve Had to Endure Because of Chronic Illness The year I was on Tuberculosis treatment was markedly more torturous. I had to go down to the clinic to take the medications in front of the nurses every single day. The medications also interacted with my prednisone, so I had to double the dosage for the same efficacy. Unfortunately, the TB medications triggered my heart rhythm disorder, so I ended up at the A&E every few days. Prednisone also drives me insane. That was the year I had to finally see a psychologist, and had to stop working in order to cope. Then there was the year where I had a mitral valve prolapse and had to fundraise USD100,000 to get surgery done in the U.S., as no surgeon was keen to operate on me in Singapore due to the complexity of my chronic illnesses. That one was scary, as I could literally feel life slipping away from me. With each passing month, I’d have a little more trouble breathing. We fought hard against a clock for that one. And that multiple DVT/PE episode when I was 17 was hands down the most painful experience I’ve had in my entire life. I remember thinking to myself, “If there was a hell, this is probably what it feels like”. Every knock against the bed railing, gentle kiss on the forehead or trail against my skin sent shockwaves of pain through my entire body. This went on for over a month, where I needed help to even take a sip of water through a straw. Read Related Posts: - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [My Second Brush with Death: A Broken Heart (Literally)](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [So This is What a Tonic Clonic Seizure Feels Like](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Life Boards: ![The Endless Ordeals When You Live with Chronic Illness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/endless-ordeals-live-chronic-illness.jpg) ## Blindsided by the Lack of Independence & Mobility But this lack of mobility and deprivation of independence is on a whole new level. Not quite next level, but on a different plane altogether. I hate it when my mother or helper stands there to watch or help me pee, poop or clean up. It isn’t so much that I’m embarrassed about being naked. After decades of hospital stays, countless surgeries and doctor appointments, you get used to the exposure of flesh and bone. Read Related Posts: - [After Surgery Care at Home: Hygiene Resources](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/) - [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/) - [Wound Care & What to Wear After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) ## The Exhaustion of the Invasion of Privacy It’s more the invasion of rather than lack of privacy. The feeling of helplessness, and that I can’t stop anyone from coming and going as they please, if they wanted to. Being from an Asian culture and having grown up with nine siblings, privacy is probably a non-concept to my mother anyway. (Although she was very shy when we visited a spa park in Seoul many years ago!) There were only two rooms in her house when she was growing up. All the boys slept on mattresses on the floor together in one room, and the girls in the other. So I’ve had to teach her not to leave the door wide open and chat, or to arrange my clothing in the wardrobe, when I’m doing my business. ## When Things Will Never be Done Right Because You Can’t Help Yourself I was also very snappy and caustic when I first became suddenly disabled. Something that would have taken me 3 seconds previously now took someone else 5 minutes to help me do. And it will never be ‘perfect’ because it’s not how I would have done it myself. This may seem like a non-issue, but an interference in habitual actions can be unsettling. I think I’ve worked out a system with my helper now however, so processes are speeding up a little. Read Related Posts: - [What’s it Like to be the Mother of a Sick Child? (Precious Insights from My Own Mum)](https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/) - [What’s it Like to be the Father of a Child with Chronic Illness? (Precious Insights from My Own Dad!)](https://achronicvoice.com/father-of-child-with-chronic-illness/) - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) - [The Art of Supporting: Sometimes That Means Letting Go](https://achronicvoice.com/supporting-sometimes-letting-go/) ## Deprivation of My Daily Luxury — A Shower I haven’t had a full body shower in 5 weeks, and really miss have one. Ever since my Deep Vein Thrombosis/Pulmonary Embolism episode where I couldn’t shower for 6 weeks straight, showers have become a daily luxury to me. I step into the shower every evening with unforgotten gratitude. It’s quite tricky for now as I can’t bend my knees; stretching them to the full length takes up quite a bit more space. I can’t even fit into the disabled toilet in the hospital, so I’ve had to bring my own bedpan and pee in a spare room when I go for medical appointments. We’re renovating the bathroom at home to make space for me to shower with my legs stretched out, so that’s something I’m looking forward to. I’ve also had to book private ambulances to shuttle me to and fro the hospital because of this. For now I’ve been experimenting with rinse-free shower supplies. I’ve also learned how to manoeuvre my hair so that I can wash it with actual water and shampoo every now and then. I also try to wash every inch of my body on my own in bed, with the exception of my feet and back which I can’t reach. Every little bit counts, I think. Every tiny twitch of the muscles, and the mental satisfaction when I’ve completed it all. ## Unsolicited Advice… Here They Come Again! People tell me to be strong. That I need to endure this. To be optimistic. That everything happens for a reason. As always, a health related incident brings all the unsolicited advisors to the yard. I’m not sure what makes them think that seeing a plight gives them the right to dish out advice that could be potentially harmful. An aunt tells me that her daughter had an ACL injury and was back in school a week later. A stranger on social media tells me that they had both their kneecaps replaced, and was out of the hospital in 4 days. Paramedics talk about plastic kneecaps when I tell them it’s a patellar tendon injury. People try to pray for me over a voice recording, saying that my problem “isn’t difficult to solve at all”. But what do any of them really know about my personality or my medical history at all? What do they really know about the quality of my tendons? (Which, according to my surgeon, is like pasta for lack of a better metaphor.) Do they even know what or where the patella tendon even is? Have any of them become suddenly disabled at some point in their life at least? Read Related Posts: - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [Advice That Could, Quite Literally, Kill](https://achronicvoice.com/advice-quite-literally-kill/) - [What You Reshare Can Change Someone Else’s Life Forever](https://achronicvoice.com/what-you-reshare-can-change-life/) ## When People \*Do\* Get It Right in Terms of Showing Support I received an email from a chronically ill friend online who said that she had hoped that I had suffered from something ‘less devastating’ like an ACL, but was dismayed that it was a bilateral patellar tendon rupture. It felt comforting to know that someone actually got it! Or another friend who actually went to read up about the condition, so that she knows what the actual impact is. That also warmed my heart. Simply because she took the time to try and understand it. That knowledge can help to explain whatever I may be feeling or experiencing. That takes some effort to do, and generates empathy. I’m not a big drinker, but I’ve felt like I need a good, stiff drink many times so far. And I’ve had a friend who has come over to hang out and do just that. I love it as it makes me feel a sense of normalcy, even if for only a few short hours. Or my friends who fostered [my dog, Talisker](https://www.instagram.com/mysheltietally/), for a month. He’s a bit of a rascal and a handful, and is a big deal to take on. I received an email from a chronically ill friend online who said that she had hoped that I had suffered from something ‘less devastating’ like an ACL, but was dismayed that it was a bilateral patellar tendon rupture. It felt comforting to know that someone actually got it! Or another friend who actually went to read up about the condition, so that she knows what the actual impact is. That also warmed my heart. Simply because she took the time to try and understand it. That knowledge can help to explain whatever I may be feeling or experiencing. That takes some effort to do, and generates empathy. I’m not a big drinker, but I’ve felt like I need a good, stiff drink many times so far. And I’ve had a friend who has come over to hang out and do just that. I love it as it makes me feel a sense of normalcy, even if for only a few short hours. Or my friends who fostered [my dog, Talisker](https://www.instagram.com/mysheltietally/), for a month. He’s a bit of a rascal and a handful, and is a big deal to take on. > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/CXy8nBYv8dj/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Talisker (@mysheltietally)](https://www.instagram.com/p/CXy8nBYv8dj/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) ## Rebooting My Motivation As the weeks pass on by, I’ve been increasing my activity from bed itself. I am grateful for computers in this age, which allows me access to many other worlds despite not being able to walk. I applied for a Linguistics degree at a local university, even though I probably can’t afford it. I’ve always wanted to study that, the application fee was only $10, and it helped to waste 5 hours of a day – so why not? I’ve also signed up for online vocal classes, which is something I’ve been meaning to do for some time now. And I will also restart my French lessons. I’ll also try to get my podcast and memoir projects back on track, and hope to scrape some rust off and write some songs. To be able to even scrape this post together was a big deal for me. To be able to edit and refine it is an important milestone for me. It means that the shock of becoming suddenly disabled is settling slowly, even though disappointment and frustration still linger like sore bullies. Read Related Posts: - [Give Your Best Anyway, Even When You’re Feeling Depressed](https://achronicvoice.com/give-your-best-even-when-feeling-depressed/) - [29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [#projChronicWisdom: Secret Motivation Tips for When You’re Unmotivated](https://achronicvoice.com/projchronicwisdom-motivation-tips/) - [#projChronicWisdom: Simple Pleasures I Can Enjoy While Stuck in Bed with Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/projchronicwisdom-simple-pleasures-enjoy-pain/) ## Whatever it Takes to Survive My brain’s current motto is ‘whatever it takes to survive’. Whenever I dip into a depressive or hopeless state, that sentence surfaces reactively. There are many external and internal factors that have the potential to affect my mood and situation. I need to take control of what I can, and find ways to deal with those I can’t. I might need to trick my brain, which as you know, can be rather gullible. But what I do need now is discipline, patience and focus. “I can’t get through this long and empty afternoon.” *“Whatever it takes to survive.”* Even if that means watching Netflix without feeling guilty about it. Productivity or usefulness are often illusions, anyway. “6 weeks seems like a long time away. A year seems impossible.” *“Whatever it takes to walk again.”* “I hate being disabled and needing to **rely** on others to help me use the toilet.” *“Whatever it takes to survive.”* Read Related Posts: - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [How to Rewire the Brain to Manage Chronic Pain (& Resources to Help)](https://achronicvoice.com/rewire-brain-manage-chronic-pain/) - [Asking for Help (and Why Everyone Needs to Learn this Important Life Skill)](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) ## Reframing Conversations in My Head I also have conversations in my head where I try to reframe defeating statements. (Skip the points below if you don’t like TMI.): Me: “I can’t get my brows threaded, can’t shave my legs or get waxed. I’m starting to look so primitive and shabby.” Me to myself: “You know what? Yes, hair will grow and actually, I’m glad I’m not losing any hair. Yes, it’ll look unruly and you won’t like it. But hey, guess how long it takes to strip alll of that off? 30 minutes flat. The solution is easy once you can move about again.” Me: “I hate being waited upon hand and foot for clean ups and toilet usage.” Me to myself: “You know what? Only kings and queens had that privilege in the past. Their handmaidens scrubbed their backs in the bath and combed their hair. They had servants to take their chamber pot out. So just pretend you’re a queen or something.” Read Related Posts: - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) Pin to Your Mental Health, Disability & Chronic Pain Boards: ![How I Reframe Negative Thoughts to Survive Suddenly Disability](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/reframe-negative-thoughts-suvive-sudden-disability.jpg) ## Retreating into a Cave for 2022 & Biding My Time to Strike It’s still going to be an arduous process even if I’m starting to shift my mindset a little. It feels a bit like I’ve had to wrap my coat around me, and retreat into a cave due to a sudden, unexpected storm. I’m hoping that my skin heals up so that I can begin physiotherapy in 2 weeks. That’s when the hard work begins. Apparently the pain is going to be excruciating. But for the first time, I’m looking forward to it. There will be depressive days again; it’s tough and I’m barely hanging on by a thread to get through. Feelings buzz in a frenzy and thoughts are polluted. Life is up in smoke and I can’t see anything in this haze. But you know what? The only way to get out of a fire with smoke is down on your knees (pun so not funny and unintended). So I will crawl and crawl and crawl, until I come to a conclusion. **Whatever it takes to survive.** > *“Rising up straight to the top* > *Had the guts, got the glory* > *Went the distance, now I’m not going to stop* > *Just a man and his will to survive”* > *–* [Eye of the Tiger by Survivor](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=btPJPFnesV4) Pin to Your Inspirational Quotes & Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![The only way to get out of a fire with smoke is down on your knees. I will crawl and survive this.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-knees-crawl-survive.jpg) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Follow the Ongoing Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture Series: - *[What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled (this post)](#)* - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 – 6](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) - [Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care: Introduction to the Series (1/6)](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-introduction/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope (Part 1/5)](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) Pin to Your Disability, Chronic Illness & Life Boards: ![What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled: Taking on the Eye of the Tiger in the Year of the Tiger](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/eye-of-the-tiger-year-of-the-tiger.jpg) ![What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/feels-like-sableduddenly-dis.jpg) ### References: - Rosa, B., Campos, P., Barros, A., Karmali, S., & Gonçalves, R. (2016). Spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture: Case report and review of fluoroquinolone‐induced tendinopathy. *Clinical Case Reports, 4*(7), 678–681\. ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Donna Oct 8, 2022 Hi Sheryl, I went on Pinterest looking for help with my sudden disability and I can’t believe the first thing I saw and read was your article! I also just suffered a spontaneous rupture of one of my patellar tendons after surgery to repair my total knee replacement. It happened while getting out of bed a few days after surgery — we both heard a pop, and I could no longer stand. My leg was like a noodle. This all started in February and I’ve gone through seven surgeries. I’m finally up and walking again and taking showers! Unfortunately, I had to have a knee fusion, so my leg doesn’t bend anymore. It’s been six weeks since that surgery and I’m still trying to wrap my mind around how to live with this disability. I’m a nurse and don’t know how to do anything else — I’ve been at the bedside at a hospital job for 37 years. I also have lupus and rheumatoid arthritis among other things. I am so grateful to have found your site and your posts. I’m looking forward to reading them all. I am so sorry that you’re having to go through this. I can’t imagine what it must be like with both legs involved. I do understand some if not most of what you’re going through. If you would ever like to text and support one another I’ll send you my email address, but if not, I understand and will continue to read and support you through your Pinterest site. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. You are very brave! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Oct 8, 2022 Hi Donna, Of course we may keep in touch. It’s so rare to find someone else who has suffered from this unfortunate condition. I too don’t know how I’m going to deal with this alteration in my body and life, but I know that all I can do is take it one day and one step at a time, literally. I still have hopes of travelling far and wide, and experiencing what our beautiful world has to offer. It must be really tough knowing you were a nurse at a full-time, strenuous job before. I also have a recent post about loss of self-identity related to this. You can find it via search or on my home page. Sending you good thoughts! x - Donna Beaty Oct 9, 2022 Sheryl, Thank you for replying! I’m sorry we both are going through this. My doctor also told me a patellar tendon rupture is rare but I’m also on steroids. It’s honestly the hardest thing I’ve ever had to deal with in my 57 years! I look at life now as an open book with blank pages waiting for my new chapters to begin. I just don’t know what I want to do yet! I’ve started getting up with my walker and getting around the house some. It was strange at first because I felt like my brain wasn’t telling my leg what to do. That’s improving slowly. Something I’ve found useful is a lift chair — the kind that older people use. My family bought me one for my birthday and it’s been invaluable. Now I can sit in the living room and relax instead of lying in bed all the time! Thank you for sharing your experiences with everyone. I plan to read all of your posts like a good book. I’m sorry that you had to go through this trauma on top of your chronic conditions. I can’t imagine both legs being injured. Take good care of yourself. Gentle hugs to you! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Oct 9, 2022 Hi Donna, yes of course! I’ve also been on steroids for 20 years — it’s a love-hate relationship with prednisone! We tried over 10 immunosuppressants to no avail, so for now it’s still steroids for me. I’m glad your family bought something that helps with accessibility — every tool that works can be amazing. It took me a long time just to be able to use the bathroom independently again. Thank you for reading my blog; I truly appreciate it 🙂 My email address is sheryl @ achronicvoice .com (without the spaces!). **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationships with Chronic Illness URL: https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/ Last updated: 2026-07-22T15:04:44.000Z We haven't had a guest blogger in a while, so I'm happy to have Lydia with us today! Lydia lives with chronic migraine, Fibromyalgia and C-PTSD. Today she shares with us her tips on setting healthy boundaries in all sorts of relationships, when you live with chronic illness. Let's hear what she has to share today! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the author's personal experiences as a patient. *I/we are not doctors, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Self-care Boards: ![How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationships with Chronic Illness ](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-to-set-healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness-lydia-joy-launderville.jpg) ## Healthy Boundaries are Especially Crucial When You Have a Chronic Illness It's no secret that healthy boundaries play an important role in our relationships, whether it’s romantic, platonic or familial. This is especially true when you live with an energy-limiting chronic illness, and want your relationships to thrive. We see the importance of healthy boundaries echoed on social media in the form of memes, posts and comments. Medical professionals and even our own therapists place emphasis on it as well. As a person who faces daily struggles with chronic illness, I know how true that can be. My health and well-being depends on me taking care of myself. I have to save my energy for the things that matter most to me. This is on top of the essential tasks I need to do. Here are a few lessons that I've learned on my journey with chronic illness and setting healthy boundaries. I hope that they come in handy in helping you to navigate your own life with your loved ones. Always remember: healthy boundaries allow us to live our best and fullest chronically ill life. ## 1\. Know Your Own Limitations with Chronic Illness I've undergone a lot of trial and error to understand my limitations. I've experienced burnout and flare ups from chronic illness far too often, by trying to do All The Things too quickly. Coming to terms with my limitations has changed my life for the better. I had to examine where my energy was going, and then watch for patterns. And they appeared. Soon it became clear that I needed to say "no" more often than I was comfortable doing so with the people in my life. For example, I couldn't always hop in the car and spend an evening out, if I was already feeling extra fatigued. Healthy boundaries start with knowing what our limitations are, and respecting them. **Read Related Posts:** - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) ## 2\. Be Your Own Advocate & Communicate Your Needs in All Your Relationships Speaking up for myself was very difficult at first, as I didn't want to burden those in my life with my needs. I've always been self-conscious about needing assistance or space. I worried that my family, friends or partner would interpret that as disinterest on my part in making memories together with them. But what I've learned, and am still learning, is that speaking up and sharing your limitations with them is vital to healthy living. Setting healthy boundaries and sharing them with my loved ones have ultimately resulted in more quality time. So do share with your family that you need to take a day off to simply rest. Let your partner know that you need a low-key date at home, where Netflix and the couch are the main attractions. Vocalise when you need a break from your friends. The people in our lives want to support us. Sometimes all it takes is simply to let them know our boundaries so they can do just that. Read Related Posts: - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [Asking for Help (and Why Everyone Needs to Learn this Important Life Skill)](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [Why Humility is the Best Tool for Advocacy](https://achronicvoice.com/humility-advocacy/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [The Art of Supporting: Sometimes That Means Letting Go](https://achronicvoice.com/supporting-sometimes-letting-go/) ## 3\. Be Upfront & Set Healthy Boundaries with the New People in Your Life Only you know when the right time is to tell someone new in your life that you have chronic illness. Chronic pain, fatigue, brain fog and a body with unpredictable energy levels are part and parcel of my everyday life. When I'm on an outing with a new friend or date, that could mean that I suddenly need to rest. While I do share that I have health issues, I usually try to hide it at first. I've learned to be upfront about my limitations by passing up on some invitations, and this has helped me a lot. I take time to rest up on the bad days, so that we can enjoy our time together on my better days. Read Related Posts: - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/) - [A String of Bad Days (and What Happened When That Good Day Finally Came Along)](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/) ## 4\. Stick to Your Medical Appointments This may seem like a no-brainer for most people, but life gets complicated. Sticking to the neverending medical appointment can be a chore. Create healthy boundaries to stick to these appointments, even if your presence is suddenly demanded by others. This can go a long way in improving your quality of life with chronic illness. For me, medical appointments mean keeping myself up to date about the status of my chronic illness. I also use this time to share any concerns I may have with my doctors. I need these information and knowledge to live my best life with chronic illness. Read Related Posts: - [How to Prepare for a Medical Appointment in a Post-Pandemic World (4 Top Tips From a Doctor)](https://achronicvoice.com/prepare-medical-appointment/) - [Why I Need to See 10 Different Doctors on a Regular Basis](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) - [Is Seeking Help for Your Mental Health Worth It?](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/) ## 5\. Prioritise Yourself & Focus on Self-Care Making yourself a priority is important whether you live with chronic illness or not, and has a positive impact on your relationships, too. When we are at our best, we can be more present for the good moments in life. Chronic illness has a way of complicating things, so prioritising our needs is crucial. We should never feel guilty about doing so. Self-care looks different for everyone, but the essence of it remains the same. They are often small acts that we do for ourselves so that we can rest, recharge and recover. Self-care also includes setting healthy boundaries. Perhaps you need to cut off a toxic friend who only wants to whine about their problems, and ignores your pain and need for rest. Or maybe you need to draw a line with a certain family member who keeps giving unsolicited health advice. Self-care is a gift that you give to yourself. This isn't limited to the bad days; it can also be a guilt-free treat on your better days! Read Related Posts: - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) ## 6\. Respect Your Chronic Illness Journey It's important to respect how far you've come and where you're going on this journey. Chronic illness can complicate life in a way that only others with it can understand. But our lives can still be beautiful, unique and worthy. For this to happen, healthy boundaries need to be part of our life strategy with chronic illness. These boundaries may change over time depending on the fluctuations in our disease activity, so it is crucial to listen to our bodies. We should never allow others to discredit our chronic illness, needs or journey. As humans we can be our own worst critic, yet we also have the potential to be our own best advocate. Look back at how far you've already come, and never forget your strength and resilience. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [I May be Chronically Ill, but I’m Also Chronically Resilient](https://achronicvoice.com/chronically-ill-resilient/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) **Contributor Bio:** ![Lydia Joy Launderville headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/lydia-joy-lauderville-headshot.jpg) Lydia Joy Launderville is a writer based in Virginia who covers an array of topics that include health and lifestyle, with a special focus on chronic illness, mental health, and trauma recovery. Her work has been featured on Yahoo News, The Mighty, MSN, Baptist News Global, The Daily Press and The Virginian-Pilot. Lydia also enjoys blogging, volunteering for a nonprofit that helps victims of religious abuse, time in nature, and spending time with her rescue cat. You can find her online here: [Blog](https://lydiajoylaunderville.wordpress.com/), [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/thatpurple%5Fgirl/) & [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/lydiajoylaunderville). ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Nyxie ](http://www.nyxiesnook.com) Mar 15, 2022 I’m constantly making boundaries clear to my friends and family. My friends get it, but family — not so much. Never mind my employers. It’s hard out there when you have a chronic illness, especially when it’s not seen as one by others. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Mar 18, 2022 I hear you. Family is a different beast altogether since you’re bonded by blood and they know where it hurts most to cut. Sending gentle hugs. - Michelle J Feb 26, 2022 Thank you, really helpful x **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### 2021 Virtual Holiday Party for the Chronically Ill and Disabled URL: https://achronicvoice.com/virtual-holiday-party-chronically-ill-disabled/ Last updated: 2025-10-25T05:24:17.000Z ## It's Time for the Chronically Ill & Disabled to Party (Online)! I can’t believe it’s already time for the ***third*** virtual holiday party on A Chronic Voice. I still have warm, fuzzy feelings from [**last year’s Christmas Giveaway**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-christmas-giveaway-gifts-pain/)! It’s an annual event that I believe brings the health and wellness community closer together across the board. And also a fantastic opportunity to learn about and try some pain management products! It always brings a smile to my face when a sponsor steps up with a big heart and wants to get involved. It definitely makes all the effort and pain flares worth it! (I worked on last year’s giveaway for 40 hours/week which obviously wasn’t the best idea, but as you know, it’s a seasonal thing.) Once again, a **BIG THANK YOU** to all our generous sponsors in the 2021 Virtual Holiday Party on A Chronic Voice! I’m sure that your product or service will put a huge smile on a chronically ill or disabled person’s face. *\*Disclaimer: This giveaway is meant for community and educational purposes. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ## Who This Virtual Holiday Party & Giveaway is For **The giveaway items in this post are specifically for those who live with a chronic illness, mental illness or disability. All sponsors are welcome to enter the giveaways that aren’t theirs as well!** I won’t be asking you to ‘verify’ that you truly are chronically ill or disabled. Because lord knows how much society and doctors don’t believe in our pain already! We’ll be partying hard based on trust and goodwill. I am a staunch believer in **#**StrongerTogether. So thank you to everyone who has helped and is helping to make this event a success. Whether as a contributor, participant, and also helping to spread the word and cheer around! ## Important Notes About the Giveaway & Prizes **Please read carefully before participating.** 1. **Giveaway Items are Not Intended to Treat, Cure, or Replace Your Doctors’ Advice and Ongoing Treatments.** Please note that all giveaway items are for the users’ enjoyment only. They are not intended to treat, cure or in any way replace your doctor’s medical advice or ongoing treatment plan. Always be sure to check with your doctor before you start on any new treatment or protocol. 2. **Different Terms & Conditions (and LOCATIONS) for Each Sponsor.** Please note that the terms and conditions (T&Cs) differ for each sponsor. Click on each Rafflecoptor widget for the full T&Cs stated before each entry. Please note the location of each giveaway as well, so you don’t enter one that doesn’t ship to your address! 3. **Country & State Laws, and Age Restrictions.** You need to be 18 and above to participate. Giveaway items must be legal in your location and for your age. Proof of identity may be required by the host or sponsor. 4. **Images Used.** All images used have been granted permission by each individual sponsor. Otherwise I have used images sent to me specifically to be used for this giveaway. 5. **Delivery Dates.** Due to the timeline and pandemic, you may not receive your prize in time for Christmas Day itself. We think receiving a gift at any time is still a happy occasion however! Shipment may take up to 5 weeks depending on the location. If the sponsor can only send the item out at a later date, this will be stated in their section. 6. **Shipping.** Shipping will be covered by each individual sponsor, if any. 7. **Swapping or Cancellation of Giveaway Items.** In the unforeseen circumstance that the giveaway item is unavailable for whatever reason, the sponsor has the right to swap it with another item, or to not send the item. We’ll try our best to not let that happen though! 8. **How Many Giveaways Can I Join?** There is no limit. Join all of them if you like! But you can only win **one prize**. (Let’s share the joy, hey? 😉 ) ## How to Play & Best Tips for Winning!​ Sponsors are listed in alphabetical order. Within each of their sections is a button to enter the draw, which leads to a widget. Click on the dropdown options and complete as many actions as you can within the widget. Each action earns you a point or three, which increases your chances of winning in the random draw at the end. **Some actions, such as re-shares on social media, can be done once a day. So don’t forget to come back to earn even more points!** ## Presenting the Generous Sponsors for This Virtual Holiday Giveaway! 1. [Aromalief](#aromalief) 2. [Bexi's Bespoke Revitalisation](#bexi) 3. [Bump'n (Formerly Handi)](#bumpn) 4. [Elaine Merryfield](#elaine-merryfield) 5. [Grace & Able](#grace-able) 6. [Headache Hat](#headache-hat) 7. [Heather Nickolett (Seint Beauty)](#seint-beauty) 8. [Leslie L. McKee](#leslie-mckee) 9. [Live with ME/CFS - Sue Jackson](#live-with-me-cfs) 10. [JumbledBrain Ltd](#jumbledbrain) 11. [Low Histamine Kitchen](#low-histamine-kitchen) 12. [Manta Sleep](#manta-sleep) 13. [ME/CFS Self-Help Guru](#me-cfs-self-help-guru) 14. [Melissa vs Fibromyalgia](#melissa-vs-fibromyalgia) 15. [MIGA Swimwear](#miga-swimwear) 16. [NuLeaf Naturals](#nuleaf-naturals) 17. [Positivity In Pain](#positivity-pain) 18. [Rheum2Cre8Art (Marla Nolan)](#Rheum2Cre8Art) 19. [Sarah Malm Designs](#sarah-malm-designs) 20. [SpectraSpray Global](#spectraspray) 21. [Tabuu](#tabuu) 22. [To Better Days](#to-better-days) 23. [YuYu Bottle](#yuyu-bottle) 24. [358 Walking Sticks](#358-walking-sticks) 25. [Earn Bonus Points!](#bonus-points) --- ### Quick Overview of Location Specific Prizes: - USA Only: [Aromalief](#aromalief), [Bexi's Bespoke Revitalisation](#bexi), [Elaine Merryfield](#elaine-merryfield), [Grace & Able](#grace-able), [Headache Hat](#headache-hat), [MIGA Swimwear](#miga-swimwear), [Positivity in Pain](#positivity-pain), [Sarah Malm Designs](#sarah-malm-designs) & [SpectraSpray](#spectraspray). - USA & Canada Only: [Heather Nickolett / Seint](#seint-beauty). - UK and/or EU Only: [Tabuu](#tabuu), [YuYu Bottle](#yuyu-bottle) & [358 Walking Sticks](#358-walking-sticks). - Worldwide: [Bump'n](#bumpn), [Leslie L. McKee](#leslie-mckee), [Live with ME/CFS](#live-with-me-cfs), [Jumbled Brain](#jumbledbrain), [Low Histamine Kitchen](#low-histamine-kitchen), [Manta Sleep](#manta-sleep), [ME/CFS Self-Help Guru](#me-cfs-self-help-guru), [Melissa vs Fibromyalgia](#melissa-vs-fibromyalgia), [NuLeaf Naturals](#nuleaf-naturals), [Rheum2Cre8Art](#Rheum2Cre8Art) & [To Better Days](#to-better-days). --- ### [Aromalief](https://www.aromalief.com/) ![Aromalief is sponsoring 10 of their Orange Ginger and Lavender - Day and Night Gift Sets in the 2021 Holiday Giveaway on A Chronic Voice!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/aromalief-day-night-hemp-cream-gift-sets-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) #### Prize: **[Aromalief Day and Night Gift Set - Orange Ginger & Lavender 4oz (RRP $76)](https://www.aromalief.com/products/aromalief-day-and-night-gift-set-orange-ginger-lavender-full-size)** **Number of Winners:** 10 **Location:** U.S. Only. [ ](https://www.facebook.com/aromalief) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/aromalief/) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/aromaliefveganpainrelief/) Pain relief, moisturiser and aromatherapy in one? We’re in! Aromalief is generously sponsoring 10 of their Orange Ginger and Lavender – Day and Night Gift Sets in this Holiday Giveaway! Aromalief was started by Annabel Mendez to help millions of women suffering from chronic pain after noticing that most pain relief creams were designed by men for sports. She wanted to create a cream that would work fast, but that wouldn’t dry out a woman’s skin. It was also important that it had a great scent, because women were alienated for smelling like “medicine”. The creams are vegan and cruelty-free and proudly made in the USA. If you’re looking for a natural alternative pain relief solution, Aromalief may be able to help, especially if you live with inflammatory or neuropathic pain. [Enter the Aromalief Holiday Giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd53/?) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) --- ### [Bexi's Bespoke Revitalisation](https://bexiphd.com/) ![Bexi’s ‘Ludi’ is all-natural and formulated to help heal bug bites, pimples, flare ups and scars. Win a bottle in the 2021 Chronic Illness Virtual Holiday Party!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/ludi-bexi-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ![Bexi is giving away her newly released ‘West Davis Honey Revitalising Mask’ in this Holiday Giveaway!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/west-davis-honey-revitalising-mask-bexi-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) #### Prize: - **[Ludi by Bexi (RRP $125)](https://bexiphd.com/products/ludi-by-bexi)** - **(NEW!) The West Davis Honey Revitalising Mask (RRP $90)** **Number of Winners:** 1 each. **Location:** U.S. Only. [ ](https://www.facebook.com/bexiphd/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/bexiphd/) Everything that Dr. Rebecca (Bexi) Lobo, PhD makes and sells is designed to relieve some of the allostatic load on your body so you have more of the resources you need to heal and recover. Her skincare products are made with whole foods and essential oils to provide your skin with the components it needs to revitalise itself. Bexi lives with [Sjögren’s disease](https://sjogrens.org/) and [dysautonomia](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/6004-dysautonomia) and suffered from terribly dry, sensitive skin as a child and adult until she used her doctoral research on nutrition in breast cancer and her skills as a biochemist to make skincare products that revitalised her skin. Her family and friends were so impressed with her success that they asked her to make products for them and soon after she founded Bexi’s to share her products with everyone. Bexi’s ‘Ludi by Bexi’ is an all-in-one product formulated to soothe, moisturise and support the healing of bug bites, pimples, flare ups and scars, and comes in a convenient rollerball bottle. The best part about it is its versatility. It can be substituted for Bexi’s Balm, Serum, Purifying Moisturiser and Spritz. It’s also gentle enough to use on the face, body or scalp! I am also excited that she’s sponsoring her just released ‘West Davis Honey Revitalising Mask’ in this Holiday Giveaway! The raw honey is sourced locally from a beekeeper who makes it her mission to help save indigenous California bees, honey bees and Mother Earth. The Revitalising Mask can be applied to the face, neck, hands, arms, legs and/or feet. It gently exfoliates, hydrates, moisturises and revitalises all at once in 10 minutes! *P.s. Check out [Bexi’s shop](https://bexiphd.com/collections/online-store) for her full-range of truly natural face and skincare products.* [Enter the 'Ludi by Bexi' Holiday Giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd52/) [Enter the 'West Davis Honey Revitalising Mask' Holiday Giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd72/?) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) --- ### Bump'n (Formerly Known as Handi) ![The ‘Bump’n Book of Love, Lust and Disability’ is a beautiful coffee table book full of powerful stories, poetry and artwork from 50 disabled contributors. Bump’n is sponsoring 5 copies in the annual Virtual Holiday Party on A Chronic Voice!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/bumpn-book-love-lust-disability-chronic-illness-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) #### Prize: **The Bump'n Book of Love, Lust & Disability (RRP $49.99 / $15)** **Number of Winners:** - 5 (Hardcover). - 10 (Audio/E-Book). **Location:** Worldwide. [ ](https://www.facebook.com/getbumpn) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/getbumpn/) [ ](https://x.com/getbumpn) Bump'n was formerly known as Handi, but had to change their name due to trademark issues. I’m quoting from Bumpn’s About page as they say it best themselves: > “Bump’n was founded by disability consultant and activist Andrew Gurza and innovation strategist Heather Morrison from a simple and shocking fact: hundreds of millions of people around the world can’t masturbate due to hand limitations (pain, immobility, lack of dexterity, weakness etc).” The ‘Bump’n Book of Love, Lust and Disability’ is a beautiful coffee table book full of powerful stories, poetry and artwork from 50 disabled contributors. Yes, **[help break the stigma](https://achronicvoice.com/disability-and-sex/)** by putting it on your coffee table for guests to browse and marvel 😉 Bump’n is kindly sponsoring five copies of their gorgeous book this year. If you’re a lover of beautiful books – this is something you’d want to grab! They are also offering 10 copies in audiobook or e-book format, for those of us who aren’t able to lift or carry heavy, physical books. Thank you for remembering us, Bump’n! [Enter the Bump'n Holiday Giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd54/?) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) --- ### [Elaine Merryfield](https://www.navigatinglifewithfibro.com/) ![Elaine created this lovely set of Healing Message Cards, and is sponsoring six sets for this Holiday Giveaway!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/healing-message-cards-elaine-merryfield-holiday-giveaway-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) #### Prize: **[Healing Message Cards (RRP $19)](https://www.navigatinglifewithfibro.com/store/p1/HEALING%5FMESSAGE%5FCARDS.html)** **Number of Winners:** 6. **Location:** U.S. Only. [ ](https://www.facebook.com/NavigatingLifewithFibro/) [ ](https://www.linkedin.com/in/elaine-merryfield-b1433514/) Elaine is an author, health educator and former registered nurse, who was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia in 1989\. She has been supporting others in their journeys to reclaiming health since 2000\. She shares from her healthcare background, and also from her own personal journey. She aims to raise awareness around the role of the mind-body-spirit connection, to help others move forward. She has also created this lovely set of Healing Message Cards, and is sponsoring six sets for this Holiday Giveaway! Each set contains 36 postcards, with soothing photographs and gentle words from her own collection. If you love words of affirmation and empowerment, her cards will be sure to make your day! If you’re into visualisation and vision boards, they are also a powerful tool to guide and inspire. *P.s. Elaine also provides other healing support and services. If you were searching for more Fibromyalgia support and resources, check these out:* *- [Healing Support Circles: Learn to Navigate Life with Fibromyalgia with a Support Community](https://www.navigatinglifewithfibro.com/store/p2/Healing%5FSupport%5FCircles%3A%5FLearn%5Fto%5FNavigate%5FLife%5Fwith%5FFibromyalgia%5Fwith%5Fa%5FSupport%5FCommunity.html)* *- [Individual Consult Session](https://www.navigatinglifewithfibro.com/store/p3/Individual%5FConsult%5FSession.html)* [Enter the Healing Message Cards Giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd55/) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) --- ### [Grace & Able](https://www.graceandable.com/) ![Grace & Able Compression Gloves - Hand Therapist designed and tested on actual patients with arthritis. They are giving away 10 pairs in the Virtual Holiday Party on A Chronic Voice!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/grace-and-able-compression-gloves-virtual-holiday-party-chronically-ill-disabled-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) #### Prize: **[Compression Gloves (RRP $19.99)](https://www.graceandable.com/products/compression-gloves-soft-on-skin?variant=40385594228802)** **Number of Winners:** 10. **Location:** U.S. Only. [ ](https://www.facebook.com/GraceandAble/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/graceandable%5Fofficial/) [ ](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCG7fxuaiyJ8Z-pVqUyz8hCg) I first learned about compression gloves from... my mum. No kidding! Whilst she doesn’t have chronic pain in her hands, she’s really, ***really*** into the ukulele 😉 Since then, I've come across several chronic illness blogs that recommend them for pain management, too. (Here are **[more useful home resources](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-home-resources-learned-other-blogs/)** I never knew existed, and learned about from other chronic illness blogs as well!) Grace & Able was founded by Sarah, who lives with [Rheumatoid Arthritis](https://www.arthritis.org/diseases/rheumatoid-arthritis) herself. It all began when she had to wear an ugly wrist brace to her own wedding, but a friend customised it to match her gown. She then discovered that many others with chronic pain were also looking for better solutions. These compression gloves are all hand therapist designed, and tested on actual patients with arthritis. They come in an assortment of bold colours that you'll love to wear, whether indoors or out. Grace & Able is sponsoring 10 pairs of these gorgeous compression gloves in this Holiday Giveaway! If you have chronic pain or arthritis in the hands or finger joints, these will help relieve some pressure. Especially if you write or type a lot, or want to engage in hobbies or tasks that involve your hands quite a bit! *P.s. They also sell [wrist braces](https://www.graceandable.com/collections/wrist-braces) and [brace covers](https://www.graceandable.com/products/breathe-wrist-brace?variant=40167802699842) in their signature modern style and colours, just in case you were hunting for something like these!* [Enter the Grace & Able Holiday Giveaway](https://app.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd56) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) --- ### [Headache Hat](https://theheadachehat.com/) ![The Headache Hat is a unique, wearable ice pack that can be worn in a few different ways for targeted pain relief. Add it to your migraine, headache, head pain and chronic pain management toolkit. Two are up for grabs in the Holiday Giveaway on A Chronic Voice this year!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/headache-hat-wearable-ice-pack-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ![The Headache Halo is the two-row version of the Headache Hat that comes with ice cubes pre-loaded so it’s ready to go. Headache Hat is giving away two in the Holiday Giveaway on A Chronic Voice!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/headache-halo-chronic-illness-holiday-giveaway-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) #### Prize: **- [Headache Hat Wearable Ice Pack (RRP $39.99)](https://theheadachehat.com/products/headache-hat-for-migraine)** **- [Headache Halo (RRP $29.99)](https://theheadachehat.com/collections/page-1/products/headache-halo)** **Number of Winners:** 2 each. **Location:** U.S. Only. [ ](https://www.facebook.com/headachehat1) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/headachehat1/) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/headachehat/) I learned about the Headache Hat through reading the blogs of those who live with migraine. If you live with chronic head pain, some form of cold therapy is likely in your pain management toolkit. The Headache Hat is a unique, wearable ice pack that contains rows of ice cubes that can be removed, added or moved around for targetted pain relief. Each cube is coated in a thin layer of plastic, so you don’t get water dripping off your hair and face. It’s also reversible so you can get another 30 – 60 minutes of cold therapy, after one side becomes too warm. In fact, the idea for Headache Hat came to the founder, Sherri, whilst she was in the middle of a migraine attack. She was using ice cubes in a Ziploc bag, which as you can imagine, isn’t a very pleasant experience even without any pain. The wrap design of the Headache Hat allows it to be worn in a few different ways. You can wear it on your head like a hat or to the side; around your back, neck, lie down on it or even drape it on another body part that needs some pain relief! The Headache Halo is the two-row version of the Headache Hat that comes with ice cubes pre-loaded so it’s ready to go. I’m extremely excited to say that Sherri is sponsoring two Headache Hats and two Headache Halos in this Holiday Giveaway. If you’re looking for some headache and migraine relief – this might come in handy! *P.s. Need heat therapy instead of cold? Headache Hat has hot versions, too! [Visit their online shop](https://theheadachehat.com/collections/page-1) to find out more!* [Enter the Headache Hat Holiday Giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd75/?) [Enter the Headache Halo Giveaway](https://app.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd74/) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) --- ### [Heather Nickolett (Seint Beauty)](https://heathernickolett.seintofficial.com/en) ![Heather is an independent makeup artist who’s lived with Juvenile Rheumatoid Arthritis (JRA) and RA for nearly her entire life. She is sponsoring one of Seint’s “5 Minute Makeup Starter Kit”, which consists of four makeup tins, the compact and a brush, in the Virtual Holiday Party on A Chronic Voice!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/seint-beauty-heather-nickolett-makeup-starter-kit-chronic-illness-holiday-giveaway-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) #### Prize: **[5 Minute Makeup Starter Kit IIID Palette 8 (RRP $110) + 4 Tins (RRP $12-16/Tin)](https://heathernickolett.seintofficial.com/en/shop/retail/palette-builder/eyJjb21wYWN0SXRlbUlkIjoxNzE0LCJpdGVtSWRzIjpbXSwidmVyc2lvbiI6M30)** **Number of Winners:** 1. **Location:** U.S. & Canada Only. [ ](https://www.facebook.com/seintofficial) [ ](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGyEh4tPLpUgQFg3b-3eZOw) Seint is all about redefining, simplifying and streamlining the beauty routine. To **[recognise your inherent beauty](https://achronicvoice.com/why-your-beauty-never-left-you/)**, and to radiate that with confidence and positivity. Their mission is simple and resonates within your soul: > “Helping others look beautiful is nice, but helping them believe they are beautiful is life changing.” Heather is an independent makeup artist who’s lived with Juvenile Rheumatoid Arthritis (JRA) and RA for nearly her entire life. Little activities and actions that others take for granted can feel like a colossal task to her. She was actually in remission, when she got hit head on by another vehicle. This triggered her RA again, and caused the **[worst pain flare](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/)** of her life. Needless to say, this led her down a road of depression, being **[unable to work due to the severe pain](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/)**. She couldn’t apply makeup because the routine hurt not only her hands and fingers, but also wrist, elbows and shoulders. However with Seint, all the makeup products are in one compact, and the brushes are double ended. She didn’t have to worry about reaching all over her vanity for the next product, and didn’t get as fatigued from spending too much time doing her makeup. Heather still uses Seint Beauty to this day not only because it’s easier. But also because it makes her look good and feel the most confident she has in her life. Check out her gorgeous makeup art and work in the gallery section to see what I mean! She is sponsoring one of Seint’s “5 Minute Makeup Starter Kit IIID Palette 8 + 4 Tins”, which consists of four makeup tins, the compact and a brush. She will get in touch with the winner to recommend certain combinations or to advice them. This is one product you’ll want to add to your makeup kit and beauty routine! [Enter the Heather Nickolett / Seint Beauty Holiday Giveaway​](https://app.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd57/) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) --- ### [Leslie L. McKee](https://leslielmckee.com/) ![Leslie L. McKee’s book, 'Hope Amid the Pain: Hanging On To Positive Expectations When Battling Chronic Pain and Illness', is a 60-day devotional journal. 3 copies up for grabs in the Holiday Giveaway on A Chronic Voice!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/hope-amid-the-pain-devotional-journal-leslie-l-mckee-holiday-giveaway-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) #### Prize: **[Hope Amid the Pain: Hanging On to Positive Expectations When Battling Chronic Pain and Illness, A 60-Day Devotional Journal (RRP $16.99)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1649601328?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=a94042fe250271f26724b4a66bb90be6&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl)** **Number of Winners:** 3. **Location:** - U.S. Only for 1x Paperback. - Worldwide for 2x Digital. [ ](https://www.facebook.com/leslielmckee) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/leslielmckee/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/hopeamidthepain/) [ ](https://x.com/leslielmckee) Leslie is an avid reader and author, and has also worked as a reviewer and editor. She writes Christian devotionals and flash fiction, and has been living with chronic illness for over 20 years. Her goal is to provide those who live with chronic pain – like her – words of encouragement, comfort and hope. I’m sure anyone who’s been diagnosed with a chronic illness asks, “Why me?”. That you’re not a bad person, that life’s unfair, that you don’t deserve this. If you’re Christian or religious, you may also wonder, “Is God punishing me? Is my faith not strong enough for God to heal me? How can I achieve my dreams? What’s my purpose?” Leslie’s book, “Hope Amid the Pain: Hanging On To Positive Expectations When Battling Chronic Pain and Illness”, is a 60-day devotional journal. It will guide you through a place of self-awareness, reflection and perhaps guide you to a sanctuary of peace. **[Journaling has countless benefits](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/)** that are connected to our mental, emotional, spiritual and even physical well-being. (You can **[learn more about the 7 Dimensions of Wellness in my post here](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/)**.) Leslie is giving away one paperback and two digital copies of ‘Hope Amid the Pain’ in this Holiday Giveaway. If you’re a Christian who needs some inspiration, motivation and hope, this devotional may be the perfect gift for you, or a loved one with chronic illness! *P.s. Leslie also offers [professional editing services](https://leslielmckee.com/leslie-l-mckee-editing/).* [Enter the 'Hope Amid the Pain' Book Holiday Giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd77/) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) --- ### [Live with ME/CFS - Sue Jackson](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/) ![Suzan L. Jackson is sponsoring three copies of her book, “Finding a New Normal: Living Your Best Life with Chronic Illness”, in the Virtual Holiday Party on A Chronic Voice! If you’re a person with ME/CFS or chronic illness, this might be the perfect read to inspire you to thrive.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/finding-new-normal-living-best-life-chronic-illness-book-suzan-l-jackson-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) #### Prize: **["Finding a New Normal: Living Your Best Life with Chronic Illness" Book (RRP $9.99)](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/p/my-book.html)** **Number of Winners:** 3. **Location:** - U.S. Only for Paperback. - Worldwide for E-Book. [ ](https://www.facebook.com/livewithmecfs) [ ](https://x.com/livewithmecfs) [ ](https://www.youtube.com/c/SueJacksonDE/videos) Sue is an advocate in the chronic illness community whom I ‘bump into’ quite a bit with online. She lives with ME/CFS, and so do her two sons. She also has [Lyme Disease](https://www.cdc.gov/lyme/index.html). In this Holiday Giveaway, Sue is offering three copies of her book, “Finding a New Normal: Living Your Best Life with Chronic Illness”. I do read her blog posts on a regular basis, and can tell that she is a positive yet practical person. Her tips come from living with chronic illnesses for over 20 years, so there’s bound to be words of wisdom in her book. If you or someone you love lives with any kind of chronic illness, this might be the perfect read for you in the year(s) to come. I hope it inspires you to thrive and reach your full potential as a human being, despite the hurdles thrown your way! *P.s. Don't forget to [check out my interview with Sue over on Sick Lessons](https://sicklessons.com/sue-jackson-family-connections-slowing-down/), where people share life lessons they've learned from living with chronic illness.* [Enter the 'Finding a New Normal' Book Holiday Giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd58/?) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) --- ### JumbledBrain Ltd ![Michelle is a Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) survivor and caregiver, and is now a TBI life coach. Enter to win her 6 week self-study course for brain injury survivors in this Virtual Holiday Party for the Chronically Ill & Disabled!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/self-study-course-tbi-brain-injury-survivors-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) #### Prize: **[6 Week Self Study Course for Brain Injury Survivors: From Surviving to Thriving (RRP $67)](https://www.jumbledbrain.com/brain-injury-from-surviving-to-thriving-6-weeks-course/)** **Number of Winners:** 3. **Location:** Worldwide. [ ](https://www.facebook.com/jumbledbrain/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/michelle%5Fmunt/) [ ](https://x.com/michelle%5Fmunt) [ ](https://uk.pinterest.com/MichellesJumbledbrain/) [ ](https://www.linkedin.com/in/michelle-munt-54136333/) Michelle of Jumbled Brain is another advocate whom I ‘bump into’ on social media every week, as we read and promote each other’s posts to raise awareness of various chronic conditions. She is a Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) survivor and caregiver, and is now a TBI life coach. Most of what I’ve learned about TBI is from Michelle’s writings. Her 6 week self-study course for brain injury survivors is an excellent resource not just for TBI, but also stroke, aneurysm and tumour survivors. If you’re struggling with a ‘jumbled brain’, brain fog or other cognitive issues, this might be the perfect course for you. Or even to help a loved one who suffers from such a traumatising condition. *P.s. Michelle also offers [coaching services for invisible disabilities via video or phone](https://www.jumbledbrain.com/brain-injury-life-coach/). You can book a free 20 minute consultation with her first, with no obligations to buy anything!* [Enter the Jumbled Brain Holiday Giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd59/?) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) --- ### [Low Histamine Kitchen](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/) ![Claire of 'Low Histamine Kitchen' lives with MCAS and is allergic to many things. Win a copy of her e-book, 'Low histamine sweet treats: 15 fun recipes to make at home' in the Virtual Holiday Party for the Chronically Ill & Disabled!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/low-histamine-sweet-treats-ebook-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) #### Prize: **[Low Histamine Sweet Treats E-Book (PDF Format) (RRP $3.99)](https://payhip.com/b/jru1)** **Number of Winners:** 3. **Location:** Worldwide. [ ](https://www.facebook.com/lowhistaminekitchen) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/lowhistaminekitchen/) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/throughthefibrofog1718/) Claire and I met within the online chronic illness community, and became good friends over the years! Although our chronic conditions and timezones differ, we still manage to support each other almost every day. (I guess my warped sleeping hours help…) She also helps to moderate [my FB Group, ‘Chronic Illness Social Pod’](https://www.facebook.com/groups/ChronicIllnessSocialPod). I can’t stop browsing her website for recipes. You’d imagine that having MCAS and being allergic to so many things in the world would mean a boring diet, but no! She has so many flavourful recipes that look more delicious than what I throw together for most of my dinners 😉 Here are two pages from her blog so you get what I mean: - [A roundup of her best low histamine recipes for breakfast, lunch, dinner, snacks & treats!](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/low-histamine-recipes/) - [Adding flavour to your low histamine recipes](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/adding-flavour-low-histamine-recipes/) If you have a sweet tooth like me, then you’ll want to enter to win one of three copies of her Holiday Giveaway e-book, ‘Low histamine sweet treats: 15 fun recipes to make at home’. Make yourself or a loved one a treat or 15 today! *P.s. She’s quite the author, and has written three books which are available for purchase:* *- [Living well with Fibromyalgia: a simple guide of health and lifestyle measures for those with chronic illness](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08BWFK9JF?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=82d85b6a20cf4a0ebdd0dc85cab16648&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl)* *- [Low Histamine Kitchen breakfast recipes ebook](https://payhip.com/b/hsrH) (which she sponsored in last year’s Christmas Giveaway)* [Enter the 'Low Histamine Sweet Treats' E-Book Holiday Giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd60/?) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) --- ### [Manta Sleep](https://mantasleep.com/) ![Manta Sleep is sponsoring one of their 100% blackout sleep masks in the Virtual Holiday Party on A Chronic Voice!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/manta-sleep-mask-giveaway-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) #### Prize: **[Manta Sleep Mask (RRP $35)](https://mantasleep.com/products/manta-sleep-mask)** **Number of Winners:** 1. **Location:** Worldwide. [ ](https://www.facebook.com/mantasleep/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/mantasleep/) [ ](https://x.com/mantasleep) I’m a night owl who really needs to brush up on her sleep hygiene. My dream is to be one of those people who wakes up at 5am because that actually is my productive, creative hour. (One can dream, right?) And as every chronically ill person knows, **[quality sleep is crucial to managing chronic pain and fatigue](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/)**. So when I found Manta Sleep online, I was thrilled. Their sleep masks are guaranteed 100% blackout, which can be helpful for those with light sensitivities and migraine. They’re zero pressure on the eyelids and eyelashes, made of soft, durable materials, and can be adjusted many ways for a more comfortable fit as well. Whether you sleep on your side, back or belly doesn’t matter, as their masks can adapt to your needs with ease! I also love their company culture and mission. They’re pro-nap (anytime, anywhere!), and anti-hustle culture. Their focus is not on sleep itself, but the energy it gives you to create your best life. As they say (or I say), no sleep, no gain! They’re sponsoring one Manta Sleep Mask in this Holiday Giveaway! I’m already envious of the winner as I’d like to win one too 😉 *P.s. Manta Sleep has other variations of their sleep mask as well if you’re looking to maximise your sleep even further. They come in Slim, Max and Pro. And they also have one made in silk, which is the only anti-aging mask optimised for deep sleep! They also sell other accessories and sleep aids, such as the cool eye cups and warm eye cups. I can almost imagine how comforting those would feel against my eye area. [Visit their online store](https://mantasleep.com/collections) for more details, and the full range of products they have to offer!* [Enter the Manta Sleep Mask Holiday Giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd73/?) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) --- ### [ME/CFS Self-Help Guru](https://www.themecfsholisticcoach.com/) ![Julie Holiday is a psychologist, holistic and life coach who lives with ME/CFS. Her courses recognise the importance of mind, body and spirit connection for wellbeing. She's offering a one-to-one coaching session on top of her 'Embrace, Replenish, Thrive' membership group in this Holiday Giveaway for those with chronic illness and chronic fatigue!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/mecfsselfhelpguru-chronic-illness-coaching-membership-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ![The ‘Achieving More Restorative Sleep' is a 5 week mini-course by Julie Holliday, who is a psychologist, holistic and life coach. If you live with ME/CFS or a chronic illness, you know how important a good night of sleep is for managing chronic pain and chronic fatigue. Enter to win in the Holiday Giveaway on A Chronic Voice!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/me-cfs-self-help-guru-chronic-illness-coaching-sleep-course-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) #### Prize: **- [One-to-One Coaching Session](https://www.mecfsselfhelpguru.com/coaching) \+ [‘Embrace Replenish Thrive’ Coaching Group](https://www.mecfsselfhelpguru.com/groups/embrace-replenish-thrive-level-3) (Total RRP £162 / $218)** **- ‘Achieving More Restorative Sleep’ E-Course (RRP £18 / $24)** **Number of Winners:** 1 each. **Location:** Worldwide. [ ](https://www.facebook.com/TheMecfsHolisticCoach) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/mecfsholisticcoach/) Julie Holliday is a diverse holistic coach who lives with ME/CFS. She studied Psychology at university, has an Advanced Diploma in Person-Centred Counselling, and is also trained in Life Skills Coaching, Advanced Level 4\. On top of that, she’s worked as a Residential Social Worker, a Children’s Worker in a women’s refuge, and as a Manager of children’s homes! She’s not only professionally trained, but has hands-on experience both career-wise and on a personal level. Having suffered at the hands of chronic illness and chronic fatigue, she’s learned to thrive and live a quality life despite. She now sees it as her calling to help others do the same. Julie recognises the importance of the mind, body and spirit connection. Of treating the person as a whole, rather than separate body parts, as is often the case these days. I love that her philosophy embraces all **[7 dimensions of wellness](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/)** that are essential to a person’s wellbeing. In this Virtual Holiday Party, she is offering two giveaway items: - **Prize 1:** A 45 minute online one-to-one coaching session, which is a premium service. If you’re looking for more calm, joy, a greater sense of control, pacing methods, with a focus on self-love and self-compassion, this is perfect for you! She’s also thrown in her 3 month ‘Embrace, Replenish, Thrive!’ membership in good spirit. You will receive weekly coaching sessions, and also get to connect with others like you with this support network. - **Prize 2:** ‘Achieving More Restorative Sleep: 5-week Mini-Course’, which includes five self-study lessons. If you live with ME/CFS or a chronic illness, you know how important a good night of sleep is. The **[consequences of a pain flare or PEM](https://achronicvoice.com/me-struggles/)** are vicious. *P.s Julie also offers [more group and individual coaching packages](https://www.mecfsselfhelpguru.com/coaching) which you can sign up for separately should you be interested. These include workbooks, membership programmes, additional email support and more resources!* [Enter the ME/CFS Self-Help Guru Coaching + Membership Holiday Giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd61/) [Enter the Restorative Sleep E-Course Holiday Giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd76/) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) --- ### [Melissa vs Fibromyalgia](https://melissavsfibromyalgia.com/) ![Have you ever wanted to try yoga as one of your pain management options, but find the lack of accessible options frustrating? This is the perfect resource for that, as Melissa shares her knowledge for yoga you can do right from your bed! Which is where most of us spend our time when our chronic pain symptoms are flaring… Join us in this Virtual Holiday Party for the Chronically Ill & Disabled!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/bed-yoga-toolkit-melissa-vs-fibromyalgia-chronically-ill-disabled-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) #### Prize: **[The Bed Yoga Toolkit (RRP $19.99)](https://melissavsfibromyalgia.teachable.com/)** **Number of Winners:** 3. **Location:** Worldwide. [ ](https://www.facebook.com/MelissavsFibro) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/MelissaNReynolds/) [ ](https://x.com/thefibromama) [ ](https://nz.pinterest.com/goingmyownpace/) [ ](https://www.youtube.com/c/melissavsfibromyalgia) Have you ever wanted to try yoga as one of your pain management options, but find the lack of accessible options frustrating? This is the perfect resource for that, as Melissa shares her knowledge for yoga you can do right from your bed! Which is where **[most of us spend our time when our chronic pain symptoms are flaring](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/)**... Melissa is a yoga teacher and mum to four amazing boys. She has also written two books, a workbook, runs several yoga courses and made over 100 YouTube videos. I’m really not sure how she manages it all – probably the yoga 😉 Get to know her better by reading a **[guest post she wrote for this blog, “Is Yoga Accessible for People with Chronic Illness?”](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/)**. She is sponsoring three of her course, “The Bed Yoga Toolkit – Bed yoga for the chronic life”, in this Holiday Giveaway. If you were thinking about adding some gentle yoga to your coping tools, this might be the perfect chance to try it out! *P.s. Melissa also runs many other [accessible yoga courses](https://melissavsfibromyalgia.teachable.com/), which you can find on her website. They’re all adapted to and place an emphasis on using yoga to cope with chronic pain. Whether you’re a beginner, want to learn some breathing techniques or gain access to all her resources, she has something for you!* [Enter the Bed Yoga Toolkit Holiday Giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd62/?) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) --- ### [MIGA Swimwear](https://migaswimwear.com/) ![Comfortable, adaptive clothing is hard enough to find. Swimwear is next to impossible. This is why we’re huge fans of MIGA swimwear’s inclusive designs. They come with SPF 50 built into the fabric, and their designs are adaptable for many chronic conditions. MIGA is sponsoring 5 of their Mio One-Piece Halter Swimsuit in the Holiday Giveaway on A Chronic Voice!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/miga-swimwear-mio-halter-one-piece-chronically-ill-disabled-giveaway-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) #### Prize: **[Mio Halter One Piece (RRP $125)](https://migaswimwear.com/collections/resort-2021/products/mio-halter-one-piece?variant=31340668125316)** **Number of Winners:** 5. **Location:** U.S. Only. [ ](https://www.facebook.com/MIGASwimwear) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/migaswimwear/) [ ](https://x.com/marialuisa%5Fmiga) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/migaswimwear/) Comfortable, adaptive clothing is hard enough to find. Swimwear is next to impossible. This is why we’re huge fans of [MIGA swimwear’s inclusive designs](https://migaswimwear.com/blogs/stories-of-resilience/accessible-swimwear). MIGA’s swimwear comes with SPF 50 built into the fabric, and their designs are adaptable for many chronic conditions. [You no longer need to squeeze yourself into a tiny bikini](https://migaswimwear.com/blogs/stories-of-resilience/beach-bodies-come-in-all-shapes-and-sizes), and can feel confident again when out for a swim or tan! MIGA was founded by Maria Luisa Mendiola in 2017, who wanted to challenge the pre-conceived definition of ‘beauty’. She aims to break the stigma and raise awareness on disfigurement, disability and chronic illness. There are also **[many invisible illnesses that cannot be seen on the surface](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/)**, and leave the skin unmarred. Her swimwear collections aren’t only gorgeous to look at, but go a step beyond. They are **[expressions of self-love, self-acceptance and beauty](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/)** in non-conventional forms. I’m excited to say that MIGA is sponsoring five pieces of their Mio One-Piece Halter Swimsuit in this Holiday Giveaway! Designed in a bold colour block and trendy faux bottom detail, the halter top comes with extra long straps that can be worn four different ways. *P.s. They sponsored the [Anna Long Sleeves One Piece](https://migaswimwear.com/collections/resort-2021/products/anna-long-sleeves-one-piece?variant=31340410175620) in last year's giveaway, which was [inspired by Anna who has Hidradenitis Suppurativa](https://migaswimwear.com/blogs/stories-of-resilience/what-i-have-not-who-i-am) (Acne Inverse). We love that their swimwear are inspired by the chronic illness and disabled community. [Visit MIGA's online store](https://migaswimwear.com/collections/resort-2021) for more amazing, accessible swimwear collections!* [Enter the MIGA Swimwear Holiday Giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd63/?) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) --- ### [NuLeaf Naturals](https://nuleafnaturals.com/) ![NuLeaf Naturals is one of America's top pioneering cannabinoid wellness companies, and sells high quality, full-spectrum CBD products. They're sponsoring a bottle of CBD oil and CBD capsules in this Holiday Giveaway for people with chronic illnesses and disabilities!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/nuleaf-naturals-full-spectrum-cbd-oil-capsules-chronic-illness-holiday-giveaway-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ![NuLeaf Naturals is sponsoring a bottle of CBD oil and a bottle of CBD capsules in this Holiday Giveaway for people with disabilities, mental illness or chronic illness! They are one of the America's top pioneering cannabinoid wellness companies that sells full-spectrum CBD and a range of other hemp products.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/nuleaf-naturals-cbd-capsules-giveaway-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) #### Prize: **- [900mg Full Spectrum CBD Oil, 15ml (RRP $79)](https://nuleafnaturals.com/product/full-spectrum-hemp-cbd-oil-60mg-ml/)** **- [900mg Full Spectrum CBD Capsules (60 capsules) (RRP $79)](https://nuleafnaturals.com/product/cbd-capsules/)** **Number of Winners:** 1 each. **Location:** Worldwide. [ ](https://www.facebook.com/nuleafnaturals) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/nuleafnaturals/) There are so many wellness companies selling CBD products these days. How do you know that what you’re buying is quality stuff? At the top of the list of things to watch out for is their lab reports – these should be easy to find and access. Other important qualities you’ll want in your CBD product are: full-spectrum extract, where the plant was grown, certifications and extraction methods. So it’s good news that NuLeaf Naturals’ CBD products have *all* these qualities and more! They have been around since 2014, and are one of America’s top pioneering cannabinoid wellness companies. They are sponsoring one of their 900mg full spectrum CBD oil, and one of their 900mg full-spectrum CBD capsules. Don’t miss out on this incredible offer… I wish I could win one bottle for myself! *P.s. Apart from quality CBD oil and capsules, they also sell topical CBD and CBD for pets. And not only CBD, but CBC, CBG and CBN as well, which are all extracts from the hemp plant, but with different properties. [Browse their online store here](https://nuleafnaturals.com/shop/) to see everything they have to offer!* [Enter the NuLeaf Naturals (CBD Oil) Holiday Giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd64/?) [Enter the NuLeaf Naturals (CBD Capsules) Holiday Giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd80/?) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) --- ### [Positivity in Pain](https://positivitypain.com/) ![‘Positivity in Pain: Finding Joy & Happiness Despite Chronic Pain’ is a pocket reference guide to living a positive, healthy and happy life, despite the limitations set upon you by chronic illness. The author, Jennifer, is a 30 something stay at home mum, who also blogs about motherhood, lifestyle and mental illness. She is giving away 2 copies in the Virtual Holiday Party on A Chronic Voice!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/positivity-pain-finding-joy-happiness-chronic-illness-book-holiday-giveaway-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) #### Prize: **[“Positivity in Pain: Finding Joy & Happiness Despite Chronic Illness” Book, Signed Copy (RRP $16.50)](https://www.lulu.com/shop/jeremy-corter-and-jennifer-corter/positivity-in-pain/paperback/product-16r5dr7q.html?page=1&pageSize=4)** **Number of Winners:** 2. **Location:** U.S. Only. [ ](https://www.facebook.com/PositiveInPain) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/jenniferlynnpassmore/) [ ](https://x.com/jenngem) Jennifer is a 30 something stay at home mum, who also blogs about motherhood, lifestyle and mental illness. She also makes pretty jewellery as a passion project!She aims to smash the stigma of maternal mental illness. Her blog covers important topics that are often brushed under society’s carpet. She is giving away two signed copies of her book, “Positivity in Pain: Finding Joy & Happiness Despite Chronic Pain”, in this Holiday Giveaway. It is a pocket reference guide to living a positive, healthy and happy life, despite the limitations set upon you by chronic illness. If you’re looking for inspiration to thrive, this might be the perfect book for you to read in the New Year to come! *P.s. Did I mention Jennifer makes and sells pretty jewellery on [her Etsy store as “CorterMoonDesigns”](https://www.etsy.com/sg-en/shop/CorterMoonDesigns)?! She also has [another book, “The Chronic Illness Companion”](https://www.lulu.com/shop/jennifer-corter/the-chronic-illness-companion/paperback/product-1mqpm99y.html?page=1&pageSize=4), which is filled with journaling prompts, motivational quotes and messages. You can put a positive smile on her face by purchasing a little something for yourself or a loved one from her 🙂* [Enter the ‘Positivity in Pain’ Book Holiday Giveaway](https://app.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd65/) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) --- ### [Rheum2Cre8Art (Marla Nolan)](https://www.etsy.com/shop/Rheum2Cre8Art) ![Marla Nolan of Rheum2Cre8Art is an artist who live with Rheumatoid Arthritis. Her paintings are inspired by nature, calming and evergreen to look at. She is sponsoring 2 handpainted landscape watercolor paintings in this Christmas Giveaway, framed and ready to hang!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/landscape-watercolor-paintings-rheum2cre8art-chronic-illness-holiday-giveaway-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) #### Prize: **5” x 7” Landscape, One of a Kind Watercolor Painting Framed and Ready to Hang** **Number of Winners:** 2. **Location:** Worldwide. [ ](https://www.instagram.com/Rheum2Cre8Art/) I am always so envious of people who can paint (yes Marla, I’m looking at you 👀 ). And to paint when Rheumatoid Arthritis affects your joints – that takes some serious passion! Marla is a disabled artist whose goal is to advocate for Rheumatoid Disease, which she has had for over 30 years. Painting takes her mind away from her own chronic pain, fatigue and depression. She does them in small cracks of time, energy permitting. She hopes that when others view her paintings they can imagine a mini vacation, or simply feel some joy, like she does whilst creating. In future, she would love to find ways for others to try painting as a form of non-medicated therapy. Marla is sponsoring two 5″ x 7″ hand painted, landscape watercolour paintings in this Holiday Giveaway. They come framed and ready to hang, so you just need to find your favourite spot to display it! 😉 *P.s. As you may know, *[many people with chronic illnesses aren’t able to work full-time, or even part-time](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/)*. If you’d like to support Marla’s work, [she goes by the name ‘Rheum2Cre8Art’ on Etsy](https://www.etsy.com/sg-en/shop/Rheum2Cre8Art), and sells more paintings in different sizes as well!* [Enter the Rheum2Cre8Art Holiday Giveaway](https://app.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd66/) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) --- ### [Sarah Malm Designs](https://www.sarahmalmdesigns.com/) ![Sarah Malm Designs was born out of a mission to “Send the Love”. Art, whether engaging in or admiring, can be therapeutic. She is sponsoring an 8” x 10” hand painted ‘Northern Lights Poster’ in the Virtual Holiday Party on A Chronic Voice!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/sarah-malm-designs-watercolour-print-northern-lights-poster-holiday-giveaway-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) #### Prize: **8" x 10" Original Watercolour Print: Northern Lights Poster, Grand Marais, Lutsen, Minnesota, North Woods (RRP $15)** **Number of Winners:** 1. **Location:** U.S. Only. [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/sarahmalmdesigns/%5Fcreated/) The isolation and loneliness stemming from the pandemic has taken a toll on everyone’s mental health, that’s for sure. (Here are some **[tips on how to cope](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/)**, from the chronic illness and disabled community who’s been stuck at home forever.) Sarah Malm Designs was born out of a mission to “Send the Love”. **[Art, whether engaging in or admiring, can be therapeutic](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/)**. Whilst we may not be able to see our loved ones or even acquaintances, there are other ways to reach out and show that we care. One of them is to send a beautiful card or gift – which Sarah strives to do! Sarah lives with Hashimoto’s Disease and Fibromyalgia, although she’s still trying to get to the root cause of her chronic pain. You can [read more about Sarah, her artwork, business and chronic illness life in this interview on my friend Katie’s blog, ‘Painfully Living’](https://painfullyliving.com/2021/11/19/sending-you-love-interview-with-sarah-malm-on-art-business-and-life-with-chronic-illness/). She is sponsoring an 8” x 10” hand painted ‘Northern Lights Poster’ in this Holiday Giveaway. It is made on thick, durable matte paper, and of giclée printing quality. Hang it in your bedroom, living room or workspace to add a touch of beauty and calm! [Enter the ‘Sarah Malm Designs’ Holiday Giveaway](https://app.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd67/) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) --- ### [SpectraSpray Global](https://www.spectraspray.com/) ![SpectraSpray's ‘Immune Essentials Oral Spray Vitamin Kit’ for this year’s Chronic Illness Virtual Holiday Party comes with an immune spray, stress spray AND sleep spray! Oral sprays are emulsified and thus absorbed into the body much faster than traditional pills and capsules.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/spectraspray-immune-essentials-oral-spray-vitamin-kit-chronic-illness-holiday-giveaway-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) #### Prize: **[SpectraSpray Immune Essentials Oral Spray Vitamin Kit (RRP $56.85)](https://www.spectraspray.com/product-page/immune-essentials)** **Number of Winners:** 1. **Location:** U.S. Only. [ ](https://www.facebook.com/spectraspray/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/SpectraSprayVitamins/) [ ](https://x.com/spectraspray) [ ](https://www.linkedin.com/company/spectraspray-global/posts/?feedView=all) [ ](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC85QkTGOp0JAa3t65iRFQXg) I’m grateful for people like Janet, the founder of SpectraSpray. She is a staunch supporter of the chronic illness community, and is always up for collaborations. Fueled by having a mum who suffered from early onset Alzheimer’s and a son with ADHD and anxiety, her passion supports optimal health and wellbeing to help others live better every day. If you don’t already know with all my constant raving about SpectraSpray, I’m a big fan of their sleep spray. It really works! At least for me, and another friend who has insomnia that I bought it for. So I’m really excited that the sleep spray is included in their Immune Essentials Oral Spray Vitamin Kit for this year’s Virtual Holiday Party! Not only that, but the pack comes with an immune spray and stress spray, too. Talk about having all bases covered. Oral sprays are emulsified and thus absorbed into the system much faster than traditional pills and capsules. They can be a great replacement **[if you hate swallowing pills, or suffer from dysphagia](https://achronicvoice.com/dysphagia-oral-vitamin-sprays/)**. (But please check with your doctor first as always!) They’re also diabetic and bariatric patient friendly, TSA compliant, non-GMO, sugar/gluten/dairy free, and contain no binders, fillers or allergens. *P.s. These aren’t the only oral sprays they have by the way! They also sell other supplements and oral vitamin sprays such as Iron (Ferrazone), *[vitamin D3 + K2](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/)*, Folate Plus, B12 Energy spray and more. [Visit SpectraSpray’s online shop](https://www.spectraspray.com/shop) to get the details on all of them! You can also *[read my personal review of SpectraSpray here](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/)* 🙂* [Enter the SpectraSpray Holiday Giveaway](https://app.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd68/) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) --- ### [Tabuu](https://wearetabuu.com/) ![We love Tabuu’s play of words with ‘taboo’. The stigma that you’re ‘too young to be that sick’ is still rampant in society. So taking your pills in public, especially in a fun social setting, can be extra awkward. Tabuu pill cases are waterproof and made of durable food-grade stainless steel, and come in fun, stylish colours. Win one in your favourite colour in this Virtual Holiday Party!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/tabuu-pill-case-chronic-illness-holiday-giveaway-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) #### Prize: **[Tabuu Pill Case (RRP $30)](https://wearetabuu.com/collections/frontpage)** **Number of Winners:** 3. **Location:** U.K. Only [ ](https://www.instagram.com/wearetabuu/) We love Tabuu’s play of words with ‘taboo’. Lucy, the founder of Tabuu, had a Whipple surgery to remove a pancreatic cancer when she was only 25\. She was told that she had to take up to 20 pills a day for the rest of the life – something that many people with chronic illness can relate to. The **[stigma that you’re ‘too young to be that sick’](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girls-diary-wish-old-person/)** is still rampant in society. So taking your pills in public, especially in a **[fun social setting](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/)**, can be extra awkward. Lucy aims to break this stigma, and created Tabuu pill cases. These pill cases are waterproof and made of durable food-grade stainless steel, and come in fun, stylish colours. They’re easy to put in your pocket, or slip in and out of your bag. They’re also convenient to take on trips, and can be kept together with your keys. If you’re tired of carrying ugly, lumpy pill cases around, then enter to win one of three Tabuu pill cases in your favourite colour in this Virtual Holiday Party! *P.s. If you’d like to buy an extra Tabuu pill case, they do ship worldwide, and donate a portion of their profits to cancer charities! If you live on mainland U.K., shipping is free for orders above £30\.* [Enter the Tabuu Pill Case Holiday Giveaway](https://app.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd69/) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) --- ### To Better Days ![To Better Days' adhesive active patches contain a patented mix of Vitamin D and dextrose for targeted pain relief. Great for joint, nerve or muscle aches and pains. They're giving away 3 trial packs in the Holiday Giveaway for the Chronically Ill and Disabled on A Chronic Voice!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/to-better-days-active-patches-trial-packs-giveaway-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ![To Better Days' new migraine patches combine Vitamin D, chamomile, lavender and ginger. If you live with migraine disorder or chronic headaches, you probably already use a few of these to help cope with the pain. They're sponsoring 3 packs in the Chronic Illness Holiday Giveaway here!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/to-better-days-migraine-patches-giveaway-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) #### Prize: **- Active Patches Trial Pack (RRP $13)** **- Migraine Patches (RRP $29)** **Number of Winners:** 3 each. **Location:** Worldwide. [ ](https://www.facebook.com/tobetterdaysuk) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/tobetterdays%5F/) To Better Days was inspired by the 30-year practice of specialist neuropathic doctor, Dr. John Lyftgoft, and his wife, a physical education therapist, Maria Lyftgoft. Their pain relief products are made in Britain, and a first of their kind to be available in the UK. Do you suffer from joint, muscle or nerve pain? To Better Days’ may be another good alternative pain relief tool to add to your toolkit if so. Their active patches contain a patented mix of Vitamin D and dextrose. Simply paste them on, and they can take as quick as 30 minutes to work! Their new migraine patches combine Vitamin D, chamomile, lavender and ginger. If you live with migraine disorder or chronic headaches, you probably already use a few of these to help cope with the pain. It’s scary to run out of abortive medications, so every alternative treatment that works is a plus. To Better Days is sponsoring three Active Patches Trial Packs, and three Migraine Patches in this Virtual Holiday Party. Enter to win and add another pain relief tool to your repertoire! [Enter the ‘To Better Days Active Patches’ Holiday Giveaway](https://app.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd70/) [Enter the ‘To Better Days Migraine Patches’ Holiday Giveaway](https://app.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd78/) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) --- ### [YuYu Bottle](https://yuyubottle.com/) ![YuYu Bottle's Body Bottle is from their new White Label collection, which is great for those with chronic pain who need a wider area of coverage. If heat therapy and hot water bottles help with your pain management, then you'll want to enter this Holiday Giveaway to win their Black Panther Body Bottle!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/yuyu-body-bottle-giveaway-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) #### Prize: **[Body Bottle - Black Panther (RRP £25.00 / $34)](https://yuyubottle.com/products/body-bottle?%5Fpos=3&%5Fpsq=body%20bottle&%5Fss=e&%5Fv=1.0&variant=44852725285181)** **Number of Winners:** 1. **Location:** U.K. Only. [ ](https://www.facebook.com/YUYUProducts) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/yuyubottle/) [ ](https://x.com/YUYUBottle) [ ](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwBjLk6szpJ6218xRVLBtpg) Heat therapy is one of my favourite forms of pain relief, especially for joint aches and menstrual cramps. Sometimes it works even better than painkillers! What’s so special about the YuYu Bottle is that it’s loooong, and comes with adjustable straps. The bottles are also made of top quality, fair-trade rubber from Sri Lanka, and the surface is bumpy on purpose. The clever design traps air under the fabric, so that it stays warm for longer. You only need one kettle to fill it up. All that to say, you get targeted pain relief with a wider area of coverage. The YuYu Bottle can be fastened around your waist, draped across your neck and shoulders, or slung across an achy joint. I even hug mine to sleep at night sometimes for some anxiety relief. (You can **[read my personal review on the YuYu Bottle here](https://achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-review/)**.) They are sponsoring one Body Bottle in ‘Black Panther’ in this Holiday Giveaway! It comes with a handy side pocket, and measures 15cm x 75cm with the cover on. It comes from their new White Label collection, which is great for people with chronic illnesses who need wider bottles. YuYu Bottle is also big on community and sustainability, and [collaborates with many worthy causes, charities and chronic illness organisations](https://yuyubottle.com/pages/brand-collabs). Some of which include: Macmillan, Kidney Research UK, Arthr and Crohn’s & Colitis UK. *P.s. YuYu Bottle has a wide range of collections, so don’t forget to [browse their online shop](https://yuyubottle.com/shop). Want ultimate luxury and comfort? Try their Cashmere collection! Looking for the softest fleece or cotton? Check out their Luxury Fleece and Pure Japanese Cotton collections! They even have a Liberty Fabrics collection with pretty prints that would look good around your home. These bottles would make a great gift for anyone who wants a bit of warmth and comfort in their life. (*Use Code ACHRONICVOICE! for 15% off!*)* [Enter the YuYu Body Bottle Holiday Giveaway](https://app.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd79/) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) --- ### [358 Walking Sticks](https://www.etsy.com/uk/shop/358WalkingSticks) ![I am elated that 358 Walking Sticks is with us for this year's Virtual Holiday Party! Their handmade walking sticks are absolutely stunning, with a sleek high gloss oil finish. Tom and Naomi use their own walking sticks for support when dizzy, in pain, and even to fend off the occasional stray dog whilst hiking! Join us for the party if you live with chronic or mental illness, or have a disability!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/handmade-358-walking-sticks-chronic-illness-holiday-giveaway-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) #### Prize: **Handmade Walking Stick (RRP $173 & up)** **Number of Winners:** 1. **Location:** U.K. Only. [ ](https://www.instagram.com/358walkingsticks/) I am elated that 358 Walking Sticks is with us for this year’s Virtual Holiday Party! Their handmade walking sticks are absolutely stunning, with a sleek high gloss oil finish. You can tell that a lot of love and effort went into crafting them. Tom lives with poor mental health and Naomi with chronic migraine. They use their own walking sticks for support when dizzy, in pain, and even to fend off the occasional stray dog whilst hiking! If you walk or hike a lot, or need support to **[maintain some physical independence](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/)**, then enter to win a 358 Walking Stick! They are happy to sponsor a walking stick of up to £120 in value. (Do note that these walking sticks are not meant to substitute actual medical devices or mobility aids.) Tom and Naomi will also get in touch with the winner to discuss what’s best for you, rather than fixating on one design. The right height and grip matter a great deal. And the walking stick should also be accessible for your particular disability or needs. *P.s. 100% of their profits go to charity. In this case, [MIND Foundation](https://www.instagram.com/mind%5Feurope/), which does psychedelic research, therapy and self-development.* [Enter the 358 Walking Sticks Holiday Giveaway](https://app.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd71/) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) --- ## Earn Extra Points! **Earn even more points in the bonus widget below!** The bonus points will be added to the giveaway that you’re looking to win in. All the best to everyone! And remember… as long as you had fun, you’re already a winner! Or learned of a potentially useful product that could help to improve your chronic illness life 🙂Happy Holidays and New Year! [Earn Bonus Points!](https://app.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd81/) [View All Sponsors Again](#sponsors) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Dec 9, 2021 Fantastic round-up of gifts, Sheryl! As usual, I’m late to the party, but better late than never! Great job! - Celina Kobetitsch Dec 8, 2021 I would love the Spectraspray!! I am always trying to find a way to use my essential oils and having a spray-on would just be so much more practical! Thank you for this awesome giveaway! - Celina Kobetitsch Dec 8, 2021 The CBD products look great. CBD is such a great tool for pain relief. I am still trying to find the best product for me, because some CBD products have worked better than others. - Celina Kobetitsch Dec 8, 2021 I love the Mio Halter one piece swimsuit! I have had so many abdominal surgeries, that I would be so much more comfortable with a one-piece at the beach. What a great product for people like me! Thank you! - Celina Kobetitsch Dec 8, 2021 The Hope Amid the Pain devotional looks so interesting!! I’m always trying to figure out how to turn to God in my darkest moments, and sometimes it’s not so easy, when you’re in pain, to want to praise God. I think this devotional could be so useful for a Christian! Would love to check it out! - Celina Kobetitsch Dec 8, 2021 The headache hat looks so useful and practical!! I’ve never seen anything quite like it, and would love to use it for my compression headaches that always come. I bet it could even help my neck! - Celina Kobetitsch Dec 8, 2021 The compression gloves look awesome! I used to have some and would wear them constantly! I’m also an organist, so I also love to use them in the winter when I’m in cold churches playing organ. These look so stylish too. - Celina Kobetitsch Dec 8, 2021 The Aromrelief pain cream looks amazing! I have so many problems with lotions causing me reactions, and I love that the Aromrelief pain cream looks more like something fun than a “medical pain cream.” Would love to try it out!!! - [ Katherine Itacy ](https://katherineitacy.com/) Dec 8, 2021 Thanks again for holding this giveaway! The sponsors are all so generous for providing prizes to the community. I’d personally love to win a one-on-one coaching session with the ME/CFS Self-Help Guru. I have CFS along with several other chronic illnesses and it’s forced me to “retire” from practicing law. I’ve been working on pacing and respecting my limitations for the last four-plus years, but it’s still hard a lot of times. It’d be amazing to speak with someone who can help provide me with additional tools and resources to work on self-love, self-compassion, and treating myself and my body with more grace. - [ Rebecca Lobo ](http://bexiphd.com) Dec 7, 2021 Thank you for organizing and hosting this giveaway, Sheryl. I have Sjogren’s and struggle to get high quality sleep because my dry eyes keep waking me up. I also get very sensitive to light, which makes it difficult to nap during the day. I was excited to learn about the Manta Sleep Mask and all of the variants. - [ Sarah Warburton ](http://sarahwarburton.com) Dec 6, 2021 Sheryl – thanks so much for putting all of this together. What an amazing collection of prizes – it must have taken such a lot of hard work on your part to co-ordinate it all! As a newbie to the blogging scene, I’m so grateful to you for the community you have created. very best wishes Sarah xx - [ Rachael Emma Tomlinson ](https://accessiblerach.co.uk) Dec 5, 2021 Where has the last 12 months gone? I really don’t know. But it’s worth it to get the chance to win a walking stick. Thanks for all your hard work throughout the year, keeping us all motivated. Well, not so much me because I have been a bit slack of late, but you have been the constant in the CIB community. xx - [ Rhiann ](http://www.brainlesionandme.com) Dec 5, 2021 Hello Sheryl I can’t believe that Christmas is nearly here once again! Thank you so much for all your hard work in organising this amazing Holiday Giveaway for everyone in our community. And you should also be thanked for all your incredible work throughout the entire year advocating and supporting those living with chronic illness and chronic pain. Thank you, and wishing you a very Merry Christmas and a wonderful New Year! - [ Julie Holliday ](https://www.mecfsselfhelpguru.com) Dec 5, 2021 I’m hoping to win the Nuleaf naturals CBD oil. I have ME/CFS and arthritis and I’m hoping the CBD oil will work as a natural anti-inflammatory and maybe I can reduce my medication. Great Prize! - [ Melinda ](http://www.lookingforthelight.blog) Dec 3, 2021 Thanks, Sheryl for another great holiday giveaway. The goodies this year are great. I wish I had thought to ask Aromalief about joining in but I see you did. Such a nice gift. Have a great holiday season. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Dec 3, 2021 Thanks Melinda! Someone else referred them to me, which is awesome! They seem to be a popular giveaway and I can totally see why! 🙂 - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Dec 2, 2021 I can’t believe it’s nearing the C word again already either. Where has the last year gone? It’s a bit worrying when each time you blink it’s like months disappear. It’s great to see the virtual party again this year, it’s definitely one to look forward to. A lot of sponsors have done wonderfully coming forward to be a part of this and the generosity is amazing. I’m just going through now to see which ones I can enter from the grey, rainy UK. That Mana Sleep mask is rather funky. I thought it was a pair of headphones on your eyes at first 😂 Definitely entering that one because I find my eye mask, despite being light, still presses my eyeballs and lids uncomfortably. And the pill case… such a great idea! Will take a look on the website now, definitely need one of those bad boys. And those walking sticks, wow! So much cool, meaningful and useful stuff 😄 Thank you to those involved, and a huge thank you, Sheryl. This is a monumental task for you to undertake for all of us and we appreciate it. I hope you know just what a difference you make to the chronic illness, pain and disability community. You rock! Thank you for everything you do 🙏 Now, get some rest after getting all of this together! Caz xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Dec 2, 2021 Hi Caz, thank you so much for your kind thoughts and words… it means a lot to me! 🙂 People like you make it all worth it 🙂 And yes, we have loads of lovely sponsors again this year! Many of them are also disabled or have chronic conditions themselves, so it’s a bit of a community project, fun and games! I hope you and everyone on all ends have loads of fun!!! - [ Katie Clark ](http://painfullyliving.com) Dec 2, 2021 Such a wonderful collection of spoonie businesses/resources for those living with chronic illness. Several I had not known of. I’m definitely entering for several! Thank you for this amazing virtual Spoonie Holiday Party! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Dec 2, 2021 My pleasure, Katie! And thank YOU for introducing a few sponsors to this giveaway too! It makes such a huge difference! - bn100 Dec 1, 2021 Thanks to Sheryl and the sponsors. Would like to try these products to help with pain relief and share with family. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Dec 2, 2021 Thanks for joining us! I hope you win a little something to help manage your pain. - Kathleen K Nov 30, 2021 Thanks for hosting this amazing giveaway and for sharing so many great resources (most of them are new to me)! 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Dec 2, 2021 Hi Kathleen! Yes to me, too! I learn a lot every time there’s a new sponsor 😉 I love that there’s always something new out there to try for pain management or quality of life all the time. - Kathleen K Nov 30, 2021 The Active Patches are something I would love to try for joint and/or muscle pain! - Kathleen K Nov 30, 2021 I used to paint but Rheum2Cre8Art’s pieces are much better than mine ever were! These would look great in my home! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Dec 2, 2021 Haha as Marla (Rheum2Cre8Art) would say I think… what’s important is that you enjoy the creative process! 🙂 Would love to see your paintings some day! - Kathleen K Nov 30, 2021 Full spectrum CBD is such a big help with pain relief but I’ve never been able to try Nu Leaf’s oil and would love to! - Kathleen K Nov 30, 2021 The Manta sleep mask looks so much better than what I’m using now – I love that it blocks all light! - Kathleen K Nov 30, 2021 The seint beauty stuff looks gorgeous – and I love Heather’s philosophy – us chronically ill want to look beautiful, too! - Kathleen K Nov 30, 2021 I’ve never seen the Grace & Able gloves before – I get arthritic pain in my hands, and the colors are cute, too! Win, win! - Kathleen K Nov 30, 2021 The honey face mask looks amazing – I love the smell of honey and this sounds like it solves multiple issues all at once! - Kathleen K Nov 30, 2021 I’d love to win the Ludi by Bexi products because my condition causes unusual scarring (and I still sometimes breakout in my 40s so that would be helpful, too!). - Kathleen K Nov 30, 2021 I’d love to win the Aromalief package because I have lots of musculoskeletal pain and it would be great to try something effective that also moisturizes! - [ Nikki Albert ](https://brainlessblogger.net/) Nov 30, 2021 Wow! What a good collection in there this year! I sent in my tickets for a few of them for sure- applicable to Canada of course. 🙂 I was going to do that pain patch one but the migraine patch ingredients- I am allergic to camomile (That is such a common ingredient for a lot of things these days but it is a ragweed and I am allergic to all of those. Which sucks.) I still might though because the pain one sounds interesting and my SIL also gets migraines (Far more frequently due to the pandemic) and I could give them to her if I win. 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Dec 2, 2021 Wow! That’s really interesting though like you say, sucks… because most people see chamomile as ‘calm, soothing and mild’. Now I know it can be evil, too 🙁 I hope you win a little something too. Good luck! 🙂 - [ dSavannah ](http://dsavannah.com/blog/) Nov 30, 2021 You are a rock star!!!!! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Dec 2, 2021 Thanks dSavannah! It’s thanks to everyone who supported and is supporting is project!! - [ Sarah Rathsack ](http://www.mymigrainelife.net) Nov 30, 2021 What an amazing giveaway! Thank you for the opportunity to win! - [ Despite Pain ](https://despitepain.com) Nov 30, 2021 Oh, Sheryl, what a fantastic post. Those giveaways are outstanding. There are going to be a lot of lucky people. Hopefully I’ll be one of them 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Dec 2, 2021 I hope so too, Elizabeth! You too do so much for the community. I hope you win a little gift in the giveaway 🙂 - Leslie Nov 29, 2021 Thanks so much to you, Sheryl, and the sponsors for the chance to win these awesome prizes! And thank you for all you do to help the chronic pain community. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Dec 2, 2021 Thank you for sponsoring your lovely book too, Leslie. Am sure the winners will be delighted! I love when the chronic illness community gets together in a positive and fun way 🙂 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Why 'Easy' Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness URL: https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/ Last updated: 2026-05-28T17:35:35.000Z ## “Get an Easy Part-Time Job”, They Said Many people with chronic illness or a disability are unable to work full-time. You don’t see many of them working part-time jobs either. Why? (Unless they’re hiding in plain sight, which they often are. It’s a bit of a superpower.) All their education seems to have come to nought. They can’t advance their careers, nor partake in the modern rat race. I’ve had people, even those who have seen me struggle with chronic illness, tell me to get a part-time job so that I can support myself and in turn, improve my self-esteem. They describe such part-time jobs as stress-free, with fixed and shorter working hours. Whilst said with kind intentions, that very suggestion in itself tells me how much society in general just doesn’t understand - and will never understand - what living with chronic illness and chronic pain is like. And I don’t blame them for that. How could they possibly understand something so invisible and insidious? Something so rotten, yet looks whole, even good, on the outside? At the end of the day, they are only trying to look out for me, too. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Read Related Posts: - [What’s It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [We Shouldn’t Expect People to Understand](https://achronicvoice.com/we-shouldnt-expect-people-to-understand/) - [Would You Rather: Have an Invisible Illness or a Visible Disability?](https://achronicvoice.com/rather-have-invisible-illness-or-disability/) - [4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Part-time Jobs Boards: ![Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness. Read the post on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/why-easy-part-time-jobs-not-easy-with-chronic-illness.jpg) ## The Stigma of Chronic Illness People Being Too ‘Lazy’ or ‘Proud’ to Work Part-Time Jobs Or sometimes I see strangers make nasty and ignorant comments on social media or the papers. They accuse people with chronic illness who stay home all day for being ‘lazy’. That they aren’t trying hard enough, or lack willpower and self-respect, or that we’re letting our ‘ego’ of working a menial job hold us back. These statements angered me in the beginning, but now I let them slide. There will always be mean people around who refuse to consider any other viewpoint but their own, and won’t get off their high horse. The only thing I can do is to educate those who want to listen and learn. And to provide articles such as these, for when those ignorant people do a Google search in secrecy, to confirm how ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ they are. In this post I’ll list down some common part-time jobs that always seem to have positions available. ‘F&B warriors’, ‘sandwich artists’, ‘happiness managers’, ‘circulation officer’... yes you can tell I don’t like such cheesy titles. Sometimes I need to squint and think, trying to figure out what sort of role that actually is. Are people truly happier with titles that come in frills and bows? But I digress, sorry. Pin to Your Work, Podcast & Chronic Illness Boards: ![The Stigma of Chronic Illness People Being Too ‘Lazy’ or ‘Proud’ to Work Part-Time Jobs](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/stigma-chronic-illness-lazy-proud-work-part-time-jobs.jpg) ## To Make It Clear, It’s Not That People with Chronic Illness Can’t Work at All There are many articles out there that share about things people with chronic illness can do to earn some money. ‘Not easy’ doesn’t mean impossible, either. Sometimes it just takes more time, and definitely a lot more effort. People with chronic illness still have plenty of value, in the forms of skills, mindsets, charisma and more. Unique traits that belong to them as an individual, despite being chronically ill. But the purpose of this post is to raise awareness on how certain ‘easy’ part-time jobs are not as simple as they sound. Factors and barriers that an abled-bodied, healthy person would not even have thought of as a problem to begin with at all. They might assess how tiring or hectic a job will be, but they will never factor in pain. And not purely ‘pain’. But what sort of pain, where, the threshold, ways to minimise it, how to pace, emergency plans and more. Ready to take a peek into our strange world? Read Related Posts: - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does ‘Normal’ Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) - [Chronic Stress, the Silent Assassin](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/) - [3 Types of Chronic Pain that Sound Bearable, but are Not](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-bearable-not/) ## 1\. Dog Walker, Babysitter, Toilet Cleaner, Porter, Deliveryman/Woman, Caregiver, Security Guard, Etc Let’s get the obvious ones out of the way first. They’re all so different, aren’t they?! But one thing they do share in common is how ***physical*** they are. The amount of manual labour, or simply moving about, is enough to dismantle us for a day, or a week, or a month. No, not kidding. When you live with chronic illness, payback is a bitch - and the mother of all bitches. And no, these aren’t ‘light exercises to get us moving’. Yes, exercise is one thing in the pain management toolkit that can help in the long run. But unfortunately, those with chronic illness need to exercise on terms that their body dictates, which vary by the day, or even by the hour. Pushing it doesn’t give you ‘nice achy muscles’ that make you feel proud, strong and happy or give an endorphin rush. But ‘burning, inflammed, maybe I need to go to the hospital’ kind of pain. ## 2\. Ice Cream Scooper & Barista Perks: Free ice cream and coffee for all staff. You can have them for breakfast, lunch and dinner if you like! (If the company is generous enough that is.) Watching people’s faces light up with a smile as you serve them sounds like a fun and stress-free job, doesn’t it? You’re literally doling out cups of happiness in solid and liquid forms! Fun fact: I’ve been an ice cream scooper, barista and crêpe maker before. Back when I was 17 and working part-time whilst still studying for my diploma in Interactive Media Design. I won’t deny that it was fun, but it certainly isn’t a job I could do now. At the end of every work day, my hands would be swollen. Have you ever scooped ice cream with an ice cream scoop? Even at home, I’m sure you put your ice cream out for a little while before scooping out that deliciousness because it’s *solid*. That or eat out of the tub. Which customer wants semi-solid ice cream though? They paid good money for it. They want it as solid and cold as it can get. Oh, and as round as you can make em’. So you scoop, and scoop, and twirl and smile. Squeeze, release, stack, repeat. Then when you’re done for the day, you’re not quite done, yet. You need to mop and clean up all the happiness leftover on the walls, tables and floors. And count the happiness in the cash register for the boss. ### An Extra Note About Swollen Hands & Household Chores This is somewhat similar to doing household chores for me as well. I actually need to plan how much I use my hands for the day, before I hit my ‘achy, hands on fire, can’t bend my fingers anymore’ limit. You can see the puffy, red, splotchy swells on my hands, as Lupus and Sjögren’s Syndrome unleash their vengeance. Mopping and changing the bedsheets are major contributors to hand swelling. Moderate contributors would be walking the dog, cleaning the birdcage full of mini poop and washing the dishes. Smaller contributors - but still energy draining - are things like turning taps on and off, pressing elevator buttons and more. Yes, every tiny contact with my hands adds up to the total pain score. Read Related Posts: - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) Read Related Posts From Fellow Chronic Illness Bloggers: - [When The Simplest Things Floor Us](https://painpalsblog.com/2019/06/13/when-the-simplest-things-floor-us/) ## 3\. Cashier Weird Fact: I actually like being a cashier, I’m not sure why, and get excited when there’s a self checkout machine! I find it calming to arrange the items and scan those barcodes. (Yes, weirdo.) Anyway, unless you’re the boss of your shop, cashiers usually stand on their feet for hours at a stretch. There are customers in line who want to get out asap as well, so no ‘please wait whilst I do some gentle yoga or stretches’ for even a minute. This applies to part-time jobs like the ones above as well. I remember when I first started scooping ice cream, I wasn’t used to being on my feet all day. But my body adjusted to it after a while as I wasn’t as ill back then. It was just a different set of muscles needed, and muscles usually adapt. Now, however, I know that the pain would accumulate and implode. Chronic illness forces your body to adapt to its demands, or it will bring you to your knees. I shudder at the thought of being a cashier. The self checkout machine is only for one or three bags of groceries, and I can take my own sweet time. To serve hundreds of customers a day might finally break my fetish for playing at cashier. Scanning barcodes, lifting cans and tins and bottles and cartons, packing them into separate bags, pulling and pushing the cash register to collect and return change nonstop... I think my queue would snake out to be the longest one, and I’d be fired within a day. So nope, cashier doesn’t work either, sorry 😞 Read Related Posts: - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [Is Yoga Accessible for People with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/) - [The Chronic Pain Cycle & How to Break It (Top Tips From an Occupational Therapist)](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/) ## 4\. Waiter or Waitress Well if you’ve read the above two entries, you’d know that waitressing is like a level up. Standing on your feet *plus* balancing trays and glasses *plus* plastering a smile on your face full-time. On top of that, there may be horrid, fluorescent lighting, booming music and chatter, repulsive scents and/or allergy triggers laden in the air from somewhere. ### How Sound, Lights & Smells Can Trigger Chronic Pain By the way, I love a good metal concert or rock band at the pub. I love a good bassline, often more than a good electric solo. When I was younger, I’d worry so much when attending such an event, because of my epilepsy. The bass vibrations and electric screeches would sometimes cause my head to spin, and I’d worry about getting a seizure and freaking everyone out. Often at concerts I’d stay far, far behind because of this. People with vestibular migraine, inner ear disorders, tinnitus and other balance issues will have similar problems with music and sounds. Balancing trays on top of that would require circus-level training. Bright or flashing lights are also a trigger for many with migraine and epilepsy. Then there’s people with MCAS who can react to just about anything in the air, and those with food allergies need to be cautious. People with Celiac Disease can get ‘glutened’ simply from kissing someone who just ate something with gluten (not that they’d be kissing the customers of course ;) ). Or simply from making and eating a sandwich on the same counter where something with gluten was placed on before. Waitressing is a rather confusing part-time job and a bit of a minefield. On top of that, customers vary by the day, and expect good service. No resting bitch face on high pain days, or you’ll see your name on your employer’s Facebook reviews. If you’re in the U.S., that probably means much less tips and salary for you. Also, it’s nearly impossible to plan and pace your energy for the day, which is critical when you live with chronic illness. You can’t just tell your boss, ‘I’m done for the day because my body said so’. So nope, of all the part-time jobs out there, I’d rank waitressing as one of the toughest. Pin to Your Chronic Pain Boards: ![How Sound, Lights & Smells Can Trigger Chronic Pain](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/sound-lights-smells-trigger-chronic-pain.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [So This is What a Tonic Clonic Seizure Feels Like](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) - [5 Things You Should Know About My Epilepsy (It’s More Than Just Seizures)](https://achronicvoice.com/epilepsy-more-than-just-seizures/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Axon Optics: Eyewear Made Specially for Migraine Pain Relief](https://achronicvoice.com/axon-optics-eyewear-migraine-pain-relief/) ## 5\. Chef or Kitchen Helper Ooh, this one should be easier as you’re behind-the-scenes and don’t have to entertain anybody! But hey, people want their food piping hot - 10 minutes ago. So you work, and you work hard and fast. Except slicing and dicing and chopping and mixing are starting to take a toll on your hands real fast. The heat is also intense, and starting to make you feel faint. You don’t want to collapse face down on the stove whilst managing to chop a finger into two... ### When You Need to Prep to Meal Prep at Home At home, people with chronic illness need to plan not only their meals, but also plan on how to prepare their meals. Do they have the energy for it today? How much effort would it take and if they used that up on cooking, how much is there left for other tasks? Often for me, even opening a small packet of chilli sauce can be exhausting after a long day. Many with chronic illness also own kitchen tools that have been modified to be more accessible. They don’t just have a knife, but a rocking knife. And a special can opener, high powered blender and more. Maybe the restaurant you’re working at will let you bring your own set of kitchen tools, but really, you only have enough energy to prepare a few meals. So nope, being a chef or kitchen helper is also one of the worst part-time jobs to work as well with chronic illness. Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![When Chronic Illness Means You to Prep to Meal Prep](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-meal-prep.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) - [Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-home-resources-learned-other-blogs/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Sarah Frison – A Pastry Chef with a Stomach Disorder](https://achronicvoice.com/sarah-frison-pastry-chef-stomach-disorder/) - [Invisible in Florence: Life with Chronic Illness in Italy](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-florence-chronic-illness-italy/) Read Related Posts From Fellow Chronic Illness Bloggers: - [Cooking and chronic illness: tips and tricks](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/cooking-chronic-illness/) - [Helpful Kitchen Gadgets to Make Life Easier if You Have Pain](https://despitepain.com/2021/06/17/helpful-kitchen-gadgets-make-life-easier-if-you-have-pain/) - [POTS and Heat Intolerance](https://katethealmostgreat.com/pots-and-heat-intolerance/) - [9 Ways You Can See My Invisible Illness, Celiac Disease](https://caseythecollegeceliac.blogspot.com/2017/10/9-ways-see-invisible-illness-celiac-disease-symptoms.html) ## 6\. Beautician or Aesthetician You probably need to undergo quite a bit of training for this one, so the boss will need to invest a bit in you. Talk about pressure. It’s definitely not a job for me because I can’t even paint my own nails properly. Besides not having the patience to get everything nice and perfect, my hands tremble from my epilepsy medications. I’d have nail polish, creams, scrubs and lotions smeared all over customers in unwanted places. Or pluck out more eyebrow than I should have. Maybe waxing or sugaring is a bit easier if they ask for a full brazilian or leg wax, but from what I hear, it’s pretty tough work ripping those stubborn hairs out, too. These part-time jobs also tend to require focus. Each customer has a different beauty request, and you need to do your best to fulfil them. Whilst a small mistake is usually reversible, it would probably take a month or so to regrow if you’ve already removed it from the body part. That as you can imagine, would make for some irate customers. Going on their first date with half an eyebrow, or a broken nail. The actions you take to transform and beautify your clients are usually minute. Tiny little actions, chipping away and perfecting the shapes and features bit by bit. Whilst it’s not physically draining as if you were carrying carton boxes, it’s a whole new field of manual labour, too. You don’t need perfection when you transport items, but you do need it here. With brain fog and chronic fatigue, concentration can be extra tough as well. So beautician part-time jobs... we’ll have to give that a miss. Read Related Posts: - [Flowers are the Most Beautiful When They’re Just About to Die (and What That’s Got to Do with Being a Spoonie)](https://achronicvoice.com/flowers-most-beautiful-die-spoonie/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [Appearances – the First Layer of Defense](https://achronicvoice.com/appearances-first-layer-defense/) - [When Autoimmune Disorder Ravages Your Face (and How That Led to My Body Dysmorphic Disorder)](https://achronicvoice.com/body-dysmorphic-disorder/) - [Life is a Long Process of Becoming Into…](https://achronicvoice.com/life-is-a-long-process-of-becoming-into/) ## 7\. Über or Cab Driver Hey, you get to sit down all day, and if you enjoy driving, this should be the perfect part-time job, right? But sitting on your arse all day long can be painful and unhealthy, too. I know we sound like such whiners - can’t stand for too long, yet can’t sit too long. But the truth is we do need something in-between. There are even those with sitting disorders, where sitting is actually the most painful position. This isn’t a part-time job for me because I have epilepsy and when you have that here in Singapore, you’re forbidden to drive for life. I’m not sure about your country, but epilepsy is a big one for not working as a cab driver. My direction sense is also the epitomé of atrocious. I can get lost even with GPS on my phone. Whilst it’s not an outdoor toil in the sun job per sé, your arms and face are most likely exposed as a cab driver. Even if you slather on the sunblock in the winter months, there is still sun exposure. For people with Lupus, even a trickle of sunlight or UV light can trigger a flare. For others such as those with MCAS, sunlight can also cause a reaction. Yes, we’re pretty much reactive to everything. People with MCAS or migraine might also be fearful as they never know who’s going to step into their car shrouded in perfume. Or strands of pet hair, or cigarette stench. They often find this off putting because it can trigger pain flares that last for hours, days, even months. Which would mean they’d be out of a job for that amount of time as well. So cab driver part-time jobs... we'll need to pass on this one, too. Pin to Your Invisible Illness & Working Boards: ![Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/why-easy-part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness-2.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Travelling New Paths with Chronic Illnesses in My Pocket](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-new-paths-chronic-illness/) - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/) - [Curated Chronic Illness Gift Ideas for Christmas, Birthdays & Other Occasions!](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-gift-ideas/) - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) ## 8\. Bartender, Air Stewardess, Nurse or Any Other Shift Work Working late night hours? Just nope. I don’t think *anyone* with a chronic illness could do this one. Mornings and nights are usually our worst hours, but of a different sort of terrible. We struggle to get going in the morning before our medications kick in. But at night is where inflammation and pain levels rise with each passing hour, until we go to bed. That is, if painsomnia doesn’t keep us awake. Then there’s all the cocktail shaking, smiling and dress code. Just nope. Working as a bartender, or any part-time jobs that require late hours, is quite frightening. ## 9\. Tutor or Teacher Some of those with chronic illness love to teach. Maybe a part-time role isn’t too bad, if they are okay with the routine. I love children. But for me, the requirement of needing to show up at a fixed time for each lesson fills me with dread. My aunt runs a tuition centre, and my mum has asked me to help teach there a couple times. But chronic illness is so inconsistent, and this is one job that requires consistency. And also patience, alertness and intuitiveness. I dread to think how I’d be failing not just one, but maybe 20 - 40 young students for every day of work I miss. Education is important. They need teachers who care and who can show up. That’s not me, because I don’t have the physical or mental capacity to do so. I can't even count 3 + 2 when my brain fog is flaring - it can be that bad. Just the thought of failing them stresses me out. Pin to Your Career & Chronic Illness Boards: ![When a Job Requires Consistency, But Chronic Illness is Unpredictable](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/job-consistency-chronic-illness-unpredictable.jpg) ## 10\. Musician I admire those who have an aptitude for music, and all the emotions they can stir. But hey, musicians are known to lead pretty much wild lifestyles, even if it can be a part-time gig. They often need to drink drinks that appreciative fans buy for them, work late nights or shifts, have inconsistent schedules and more. Even if you don’t play in a bar or try to be as sensible as you possibly can, all those practices for weddings and events can be tiring, too. Being a musician is not easy. Musicians will tell you that. ## 11\. Photographer Sure, you don't need to work every day as a photographer. But having tried my hand as an assistant wedding photographer before, let me tell you it is a bloody tough job. You wouldn't imagine it, but it is a rather physical job that requires strength and stamina. Lugging DSLR cameras and a variety of lenses gets exhausting after an hour or two. Yes, heavier than a bag of potatoes. Here in Asia we need to go to the bride's house at around 5am for the groom to come fetch the bride. And festivities don't end until near midnight. You don't even get a proper lunch break. Because you know, you need to take photos of people enjoying their lunch. You also need to be on your best behaviour all day, and be quick to capture candid shots. These memories are for life, and you can't afford to screw up. You could be a baby, pet or family photographer. Perhaps those are less time and energy consuming. But once again, it is a rather physical job that requires quick brain processing for that perfect shot. Read Related Posts: - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Roy George – A Dramatic Life with a Short Bowel](https://achronicvoice.com/roy-george-dramatic-life-short-bowel/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Sarah Poitras – Round the World with a Lung Disease](https://achronicvoice.com/sarah-poitras-travelling-world-lung-disease/) ## 12\. Florist or Florist Assistant Ahh, getting in touch, literally, with nature every day. And of the pretty kind. That can’t be bad, can it? If you didn’t know, I love flowers and doing floral arrangements. I used to go to the flower warehouse to pick out bunches here and there. And I enjoyed the process of cleaning them up and arranging them in a vase, as a present for others or for myself. The reason I stopped is because flowers, even at the warehouses, are expensive in Singapore. It’d cost me around $100 each trip. And many of these flowers die pretty quickly in our hot, humid climate. Such as hydrangeas, which if you don’t freeze, can die within a day. So I can’t just leave the flowers aside and work on the arrangements the day after. Another big reason is that floral arrangement is actually hard work on the hands. Who knew?! Manipulating the tools to remove thorns, clipping off stray and dead leaves, cutting off stems - some of which are quite tough - and other manual tasks left me with cramped, swollen hands each time. So even though I’d be happy to be a florist assistant, I don’t think it’s suitable for my hands. By the way, Carrie of My Several Worlds does lovely floral arrangements for fun, too. She does Ikebana and purchases less at a go, so perhaps that’s a bit easier. Not in terms of creative direction, but on the hands! Check out her beautiful arrangements on her Instagram, [wayoftheflower](https://www.instagram.com/wayoftheflower/)! ![Amateur floral arrangement at home.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/flower-arrangement-achronicvoice.jpg) Amateur me having fun with flower arrangement at home! ## 13\. Freelance Web Designer or Developer This is what I do for a living, so it’s possible! But what I’d like to emphasise here is the ‘easy’ aspect, as per the point of this post. Truly, every job has its upsides and downsides. The problem with freelancing, as compared to a stable part-time role, is obviously the fluctuation in income. I’m struggling this October as I have no clients. Zero. Then some months, I get quite a few that I overwork myself and fall into a pain flare that requires taking more medications. But what’s a girl to do? I can’t reject all those jobs, because there will be months where I get nothing. Ideally, there would be retainer jobs, but usually it’s the bigger advertising agencies that have a need for that. And ad agencies are what I avoid if I possibly can. Working in the industry, after all, was what prolonged my high levels of autoimmune activity in the first place. Even if it’s a part-time role, trust me, it’s hectic. Ad agencies are infamous for having tight deadlines, late night hours and changes that need to be done right now. It’s not healthy for even healthy people. P.s. I have recently [relaunched my work site and portfolio here](https://work.achronicvoice.com/), so do take a look! 😊 ## 14\. Blogger or Writer These are part-time jobs I do, too, so that’s another possibility! But once again, I want to highlight the ‘easy’ isn’t easy bit. Let’s do a quick breakdown. How do I earn money as a blogger or writer? From sponsored posts published to my blog, social media collaborations, affiliate links and ads placed on my site. These, once again, vary widely by the month. I had no clients for September nor for October, so I’m left with only ad money. This is the third quarter of the year, also known as the quietest quarter in advertising, so even ad money and blog traffic have taken a huge hit. And even so, the most I earn from writing an article is a few hundred dollars, yet I can spend weeks on it. The money isn’t worth it, per sé, but it’s still money. And something I can do. And something that does help with my blog traffic, too. I’ve gotten nearly nothing from blogging in September. Yet I still need to pay to maintain the blog. I spend approximately $100 a month on it for domain, hosting, and plugins that improve site efficiency and security. Otherwise viewers complain. ### A Word on Paying Bloggers Fairly Many clients don’t hold high regards for the general blogger either, and try to offer you $20, even $10, to write a post. Of course I ignore such disrespectful requests, but I do know of others who would do it for that amount, or for a small free gift such as a bracelet. I respect each and every blogger’s decision. But what angers me is that these companies do have budgets, yet take advantage of a person who is poor and struggling to earn a living as it is. Even if they are a ‘startup with a small budget’ - I believe that they still need to pay bloggers as they deserve. That’s only fair. ### A Side Note About Advertisements on Blogs & How You Can Support Chronic Illness Bloggers By the way, there are also viewers who complain about the ads that some chronic illness bloggers run. That they’re distracting, shameless or disgusting - yes, really. Whilst this is a topic for another time, I want to say this here - many of the helpful posts that chronic illness bloggers write, and all the advocacy work that they do - are for free. They spend hours, and often burn all their precious energy to write them. So unless you’re willing to pay them to write and advocate for you, then please shut up about ads on their site which helps them to earn anything from $0 (happens) to maybe a few hundred dollars (rare). P.s. Some bloggers are on ad companies that do PPV (pay per view). This means that they earn money even if you’re just scrolling past the ads and not clicking on them, although the money is very little (a few cents for a thousand views...). It all adds up though. So if you want to show them support, read and scroll through their blogs! :) Read Related Posts: - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) - [A Quarterly Reflection: 12 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned From Blogging](https://achronicvoice.com/quarterly-reflection-life-lessons-learned/) ## In Conclusion to Working Part-Time Jobs with Chronic Illness So that’s a list of ‘easy’ part-time jobs that may be easy if you’ve got the wealth of health, but detrimental if you have a chronic illness. A point I’d like to note is also that not all of these part-time jobs are impossible for every person with chronic illness. Our chronic pain and abilities come in all shapes and sizes, albeit often invisible. I do know of some people with chronic illness who have been cab drivers, beauticians and more. It really depends. This list is more of a compilation of potential problems, hazards and stressors that a person with chronic illness may face, even if the job appears to be stress-free or simple. Kind of like motherhood, living with chronic illness is a full-time job and one that’s for life. You can’t just apply for sick leave or a day off from it. It hounds you on holidays, and is the only companion who’ll stick with you faithfully until the day you die. There may be lighter days or bouts of remission, but that’s what the word ‘chronic’ means - forever and ever. ### Some Things I've Learned About Disability Support From Reading Chronic Illness Blogs Some countries such as the U.S. and U.K. have a disability support system to help people like us. (We don't have that in Singapore, unfortunately.) But having read enough blogs from others with chronic illness, I've come to realise how flawed and painful that system can be, too. First, you need to undergo assessment (often by a healthy person), who judges if you're sick enough. The chronically ill are often disbelieved and ridiculed during this process. It's not unheard of to keep trying many times. How do you prove an invisible illness that sometimes doesn't even touch your appearance? How do you convince healthy people who are suspicious that you want to rip the system off that you really need aid? Then, if you do manage to qualify for disability support, the amount granted is usually only enough to scrape through each month. Whilst those with chronic illness can still work part-time jobs to earn a bit of supplementary income, they can't exceed a certain amount. Otherwise, their disability gets cut off because they're deemed 'self-sufficient'. Talk about a rock in a hard place. Anyway, that’s a topic that I’m not adept at discussing as I don’t live in the US, UK, Europe or elsewhere. So I’ll continue to read and share posts from those who do to raise awareness about this issue. Read Related Posts From Fellow Chronic Illness Bloggers: - [Demystifying Health Insurance](https://thrivingwhiledisabled.com/demystifying-health-insurance/) ### Let's Build an Inclusive Workforce Together Thank you for reading this far. If you’re an employer looking to do some good, do hire a chronic illness or disabled person today. We may be disabled and our chronic illnesses may be unpredictable. But one thing is for certain - we all have our strengths. We need only find a sustainable way to maximise them. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Featuring People with Illnesses, Passions & Talents](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-people-illnesses-talents/) - [Are You a Capable Person? 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Read the post on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/inclusion-at-work-matters-strengths-chronic-illnesses-disabilities-adaptation-humanity-resilient-workforce-v1-colourful-discussion.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Juliette @ An Ideal Life Jul 6, 2024 Every single point here is so, so important!! I’m a part-time student-writer-blogger-editor-pet sitter-freelancer and can barely scrape by these days…being mostly housebound means I can’t add much more either! With invisible disabilities, especially, it’s so challenging to balance your health with some kind of semi-accessible income…mostly to pay for the expenses that come from your health! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 6, 2024 Hi Juliette, thank you for sharing more insight 🙂 Yea, people say money isn’t everything but when you have chronic illnesses… you need as much dough as you can get lol. It can feel defeating to see others my age adulting and I still feel like a kid. Sending well wishes to you and plenty of good, accessible, happy work 🙂 - Neve Apr 4, 2022 Sheryl, thank you for this post. I’m a writer/content writer/editor, also, and it’s been a struggle to maintain secure and regular employment, even with all my qualifications and experience, which makes this struggle even more absurd. Like you, I’ve had many close to me refer to flexi, part-time or self-employment jobs as the be-all-end-all. Unfortunately, what so many do not understand is that the pain is only half of it. We also have to contend with things like fatigue (from our bodies constantly trying to recover from pain that never recovers!) and from brain fog and neurological disturbances related to memory recall, concentration, and learning. These are just a few examples of the daily ‘grind’ pain sufferers are already on. Pain is a full-time job, in and of itself. Thank you for using your platform to raise the consciousness surrounding chronic pain and chronic illness. I wish you, me, and all your readers health! x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 8, 2022 Thank you for reading and sharing about your own experiences, Neve, I appreciate it! Yes work and career are such tricky things with chronic illness. Like you said, it truly is a full time job in itself and one that’s so tiresome and tiring. - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com/) Mar 5, 2022 I love the sarcasm and the general humour you’ve put in this blog post to share some truths – Truths that others believe are excuses. I know I’ll be sharing this with a few people who think it’s easier for those who don’t work as often. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 7, 2022 Thanks for sharing the post Shruti! Haha that’s my regular sense of humour truth be told… which seems to be creeping into my writing more and more over the years 🙂 - [ Susie ](https://findyourownhope.com/) Mar 2, 2022 There is so much more to things then people realise, thank you so much for addressing this and sharing your thoughts <3 I hope today is treating you okay xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 4, 2022 Thank you Susie. Definitely much beneath the surface and super tricky with chronic illness and working! - Nikki Albert Nov 25, 2021 I was a banker full-time which clearly was impossible for me, so I went down to a part-time teller. And while you do sit down for that it was still really problematic: fluorescent lights, as well as a lot of sunlight coming in. 100 customers instead of a set amount of appointments- so my chance for errors was Way higher when I couldn’t focus due to a migraine or brain fog. A lot of scent triggers. Just trying to work with high pain and other symptoms like fatigue and extreme nausea. Physical issues like a hand tremor which made writing hard. And while I coped as best I could for the income I was pushing myself hard– and then the sudden, abrupt continuous dizziness and vertigo started. And that I couldn’t push through at all. So that was that. I do have some freelance writing side income. And I do have some occasionally blogging income which is unpredictable since my vertigo issues made me do a lot less on that front. It is hard. Functionality is lower and some days just not even there. Income instability really sucks. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 25, 2021 I agree… the income instability is a real cause of worry month after month… living hand to mouth in your 30s is also depressing. Working as a banker sounds tough, too. I have no experience with part-time teller – but if you want to share I can add it to the post! 🙂 - Katie Clark Oct 31, 2021 I had a reality check last week. I signed up to substitute teach in a few districts in my area. I have an app that shows the different jobs that are available. I feel pressed to help because there is such a shortage of substitute teachers. So, I signed up for a 1/2 day position that aI knew would be relatively easy. I thought I wouldn’t have an issue at all. WRONG! Out for the night and the entire next day for a job from 11-2:40 pm. I applied for SSDI (USA) last October. I found out last week that I qualify. It’s such a relief, but to be honest, it hasn’t hit home that I don’t have to earn $. I’ve felt so much tension about it since I had to retire due to Fibromyalgia. I need to take a deep breath and allow myself to feel at peace with myself in this part of my being. For so long, I was a wage earner. It’s hard to let that go. I find I keep looking at different jobs. I haven’t shared this out yet-that I’ve received SSDI and Medicare Insurance. It’s difficult for me to tell those who know me. I’ve shared with a few, most are very happy for me. A few, hesitate in their reaction and I immediately feel they see me as less. - [ Cassie Creley ](https://cassiecreley.com/outdoors-chronic-illness/) Oct 29, 2021 Wow, thank you for this detailed post! What a great breakdown of why jobs aren’t “easy” for people with chronic illness. I especially appreciate that you talk about just how variable work and income are with freelance jobs. I’ve looked into freelance writing and people frequently don’t know the amount of behind-the-scenes work that goes into it. I’ve enjoyed doing a handful of guest/freelance posts but they’ve been unpaid, and I also make next to nothing blogging. I’d love to do more, but I’ll have to get much healthier first. I really appreciate all the work you put into raising awareness about this topic! - [ Alison Hayes ](https://www.thrivingwhiledisabled.com) Oct 26, 2021 Great post Sheryl! I love how you’re pointing out the flaws in others’ assumptions – “easy” jobs aren’t! There’s a lot of bias out there, and the assumption that disabled folks, especially those of us with invisible chronic conditions, are lazy is one of the big ones. We deserve more respect than we receive and it definitely can be a fight to get the supports we need. Here in the US I’ve written a lot about the brokenness of our systems, as well as how to get on them, because they are still better than nothing. Getting the help is hard, and often damaging to mental/emotional health, and the supports really do tend to be less than ideal. I’m all for UBI or other alternatives because the current system is damaging. I’ve got a stress-responsive condition, so for me the pressure alone is often what makes working hard to do – I can make it through for a while, but there’s often a cascade at some point where my movement symptoms are triggered by the stress around working, which increases the stress and makes my symptoms increase and worsen. I’m better at pacing and stopping myself before these things happen, but it isn’t easy. Thanks again Sheryl, for putting this together! - Chelle Oct 20, 2021 I would like to add a job to your list: Online scorer. The pay can be low and you will need a Bachelor’s degree but it is flexible. I have done it since 2007 and knowing I have some money coming in every month has been invaluable. Most companies have projects you sign up for and you score the same standardized tests every year. The more you score the more likely you will be asked to be a team lead. I recently started with another company and the pay is double what I made with the other company. But I’m able to work both because they schedule differently. Just a thought that might help someone. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 20, 2021 Hello Chelle, thanks for sharing! Yes for sure, there are many jobs we can still work! There will be a separate post for that specifically 🙂 This one tries to highlight the why ‘easy’ isn’t easy bit 🙂 - Katie Clark Oct 31, 2021 Thank you for sharing that idea. As a retired teacher, that could be something I look into. - [ Lucy ](https://lbhealthandlifestyle.com) Oct 19, 2021 This is such a great post Sheryl, thank you. I hope it falls into the hands of many people to educate them and break down the stigma of the chronically ill being lazy. It’s so frustrating when I still feel capable of so much yet my body isn’t and it’s so difficult to find even a part time job which I’m able to do without setting my health back. I’m totally with you on your excitement of being a cashier. One of the small joys I get some days is going through the self check out and scanning the barcodes of my shopping, it never fails to make me feel excited! Thank you so much for mentioning the comments regarding ads. I’ve had one and it made me feel so disheartened. In a weird way I’m glad I’m not alone in having received those comments but thank you for challenging the negativity that can be received. It’s my only source of income at the moment. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 20, 2021 Thank you Lucy! Haha it’s funny I’ve found someone who likes playing at cashier, too! Yes I know you had a Twitter comment about that and comments like those anger me. We’re all just trying to survive and should always support each other (to reasonable extents), and not tear each other down. Sending hugs. Do what you do best x - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Oct 19, 2021 Great post, Sheryl! You’ve covered all of it. I wish that people could see our value and understand that there are things we can do better than others. I have a diverse range of skill sets, but it’s just so hard trying to find things to make it all mesh together. No job is easy, even part-time jobs, when you’re dealing with the full time position of being chronically ill. Teaching is A LOT of work, even if you’re only doing 10-15 hours a week. Musician – I’ve done that too and no one really understands how much effort it is to stand, move and sing. Singing takes A LOT of energy, which is why I’ve had to retire from that field completely. And photography, I had a good side gig going with that until my camera equipment became too heavy to lug around. Plus you have to do a lot of running around for photos. Thanks so much for the mention with Way of the Flower, by the way! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 20, 2021 Yes first a full-time (unwanted) job of taking care of chronic illness, then everything else, sadly. You would know best about the teacher one, being a teacher and employer yourself! And most welcome, love your creations! 🙂 - [ Despite Pain ](https://despitepain.com/) Oct 18, 2021 Excellent post, Sheryl. Sometimes people think it would be easy to find work and hours that suit. But the unpredictable nature of what we live with often makes it extremely difficult to consider working. On a better day, I might think oh, maybe I could do something…then the following day, I am reminded why I can’t. I remember when I first retired from work at 28, a friend suggested that I could get a ‘wee job in a nursery’. I love kids, however, I could hardly manage out of bed without help and I struggled to walk. Yet they thought I’d manage to help look after a bunch of kids under the age of five??? I think it’s an example of how people’s minds work when they don’t really try to understand what you deal with. It must be so difficult there with no benefit system to help people who can’t work due to their health problems. I am grateful that we have that in the UK, but it is far from perfect. Claiming benefit here is extremely stressful and depressing and the assessments and judgements are awful. The system is very flawed and unfair. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 20, 2021 Haha yea…I get the same suggestions, ‘a wee little job’, hence this post! Yes I am admittedly a little jealous of your NHS! But we all make do with what we have at the end of the day 🙂 Sending hugs my friend. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### COVID-19 Vaccine Experiences from People with Chronic Conditions URL: https://achronicvoice.com/covid-19-vaccine-experiences/ Last updated: 2025-10-25T11:55:35.000Z First of all, I want to thank everyone who contributed their COVID-19 vaccine experiences to this roundup. Yes, there are already many COVID-19 vaccine experiences being shared out there. But the data for those with chronic conditions is still quite sparse. In this collaborative roundup, you will see a mix of responses in regards to taking the COVID-19 vaccine. Some people with chronic conditions experienced terrible side effects, whilst others were perfectly fine. Their backgrounds, where they come from, coping strategies and feelings all differ, too. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the contributors' personal experiences as patients. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your COVID-19 Vaccine Experiences Boards: ![COVID-19 Vaccine - A Roundup of Experiences from People with Chronic Conditions](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/covid-19-vaccine-roundup-experiences-chronic-conditions-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ## The Conundrum of the COVID-19 Vaccine for Those with Chronic Conditions Reactions to the COVID-19 vaccine can be rather diverse even for healthy people. So what more about those with chronic conditions? Chronic conditions are so varied, individual and each patient’s mix of co-morbidities make it even more confusing. How does one define a fixed set of possible side effects that this group of people might experience? Autoimmune disorder and chronic illness patients are understandably worried. Getting the COVID-19 vaccine is a catch-22 situation for many of them. The COVID-19 virus will likely prove deadly for them as their immune systems are compromised. Yet many of them are unable to take the vaccine for an assortment of reasons that are no fault of theirs. The additional barriers from the lockdown make access to medical care, or even getting to a vaccination site, that much more troublesome, too. Chronic pain is indescribable and torturous. Will the COVID-19 vaccine trigger an allergic reaction or pain flare? Will it make them feel worse than they already do on a daily basis? These fears are not unfounded. It is important to provide awareness, education, support and resources. Knowledge is power as they say, and in this case, may help to provide a sense of comfort and confidence. Pin to Your COVID-19 Vaccine & Chronic Conditions Boards: ![The Conundrum of the COVID-19 Vaccine for Those with Chronic Conditions](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/conundrum-covid19-vaccine-chronic-conditions-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does 'Normal' Even Mean?)?](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) ## What This Roundup is and is Not About Whilst I have my own thoughts about the COVID-19 vaccine, this post is meant for educational and awareness purposes. I do not wish for it to be inflammatory and hope to keep the tone as neutral as is possible. It is solely a collection of experiences shared, from those who have chosen to get vaccinated. I hope it shows others with chronic conditions that they are not alone. Your fears, worries and concerns are all valid. It also seeks to share coping and pain management strategies for possible side effects from the COVID-19 vaccine. Especially from the perspectives of others with chronic conditions who share the same fears and concerns. Finally, I hope that this collaboration will be a repository of patient experiences that grows with time. I hope that this data will be useful not only to others with chronic conditions who are weighing up the pros and cons of taking the COVID-19 vaccine, but also to caregivers, friends and family who are concerned, and also to healthcare staff. Pin to Your Chronic Illness & COVID-19 Vaccine Boards: ![27 Chronically Ill People Share Their Experiences Taking the COVID-19 Vaccine](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/27-chronically-ill-experiences-covid-19-vaccine-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ## My COVID-19 Vaccine Experiences as a Person with Chronic Conditions: ### [1\. Claire of "Through the Fibro Fog"](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/) *London, UK* [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/through.the.fibro.fog/) [Twitter](https://x.com/throughfibrofog) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/throughthefibrofog1718/) [TikTok](https://www.tiktok.com/@lowhistaminekitchen) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? That I would have an allergic reaction due to having mast cell activation syndrome. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? I have been ‘shielding’ (UK initiative to help protect those who are clinically extremely vulnerable) at home for a year, with only a few trips out. I needed my life back to some extent and to at least feel safe going to necessary medical appointments. I also took it to help prevent the spread of COVID-19 and to hopefully contribute to ending the pandemic, or at least having it under control. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Astra Zeneca. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? It felt very positive. The procedure was very quick and simple, and done in a professional way. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? I got chills for around 16 hours, as well as increased headache and fatigue for about four days afterwards. My arm was a bit sore for around five days. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? I was very easy on myself. Slept or hung out on the sofa, didn’t work and just ate nice food, drank lots of water and watched TV. Be kind to yourself, try and clear your schedule for a few days if you can, have some food ready in the fridge or freezer, and make sure your comfiest clothes are washed and ready to be worn! #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? I feel more reassured when I go to medical appointments or out for walks. I’m not ready to go in shops or elsewhere yet, but I hope to when I’ve had the second dose. I am very happy to have had it, and was fortunate to have it relatively early. --- ### 2\. Kirsty #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? The potential reaction to the vaccine, and how it would affect my autoimmune diseases, Fibromyalgia and CRPS (Complex Regional Pain Syndrome). #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? I did want to be vaccinated to protect myself, as I have asthma and autoimmune disease. I also wanted to protect my family. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Astra Zeneca. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? Awful. I went to get the get the Pfizer vaccination and I was told no, I had to have Astra Zeneca. I was bullied into having the vaccination. I was berated in front of a long line of public that were waiting for the injection. Two doctors and a nurse surrounded me, and told me that I should get the COVID-19 vaccine. They asked, “Do I want things to return to normal? Do I want to be able see family and friends, and help other people see their friends and family?” It was a horrible experience for me. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? I was bedridden for a week with diarrhoea, fever and a swollen arm. I also had extreme fatigue, wide spread pain, headaches, light sensitivity, flu-like symptoms and it was difficult to move the arm that was injected into. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? I tried to get as much rest and drank as much fluids as I could, and took paracetamol four times a day. I kept a damp cloth on my forehead and a heat patch on my arm. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? Disappointed, now that it’s come out that Astra Zeneca shouldn’t be given to those 30 and below. I’m 30 and am afraid to get my second dose. I’m not sure I will be going for it. #### Do You Have Any Other Comments? I think that it’s important for people to be vaccinated, but I wish that we had more time for testing to see the long-term side effects. --- ### [3\. Shelley of "Chronic Mom"](https://www.chronicmom.com/) *Texas, USA* [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/ChronicMoms) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/chronicmom/) [Twitter](https://x.com/chronicmom1) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? The side effects that I might experience. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? I knew that my body wouldn’t deal well with a COVID-19 infection. And because I have children in school whom I couldn’t quarantine as well as I’d like to. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Pfizer. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? I had a quick and easy experience getting my vaccine. It was a drive through so I didn’t even need to get out of the car. Once they gave me the shot, I pulled over and waited for 15 minutes to make sure there was no reaction. I didn’t have any problems, so the whole thing took about 25 minutes all in. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? With the first shot, my arm was really sore for a couple days. I had some muscle pain, but I didn’t know if that was just my normal pain or caused by the vaccine. It felt like getting a flu shot over all. The second shot went even better as I didn’t have any side effects. It was weird in that my first dose was worse then my second, as most people experience the opposite. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? I had muscle pain the first night, so I took an Epsom salt bath and used my heating pad. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? Relieved. I’m still being really careful, but I’m not as anxious about what would happen if I got sick from the COVID-19 virus. Read Related Posts: - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [Why Fear is Self Harm, and How to Get Back Up](https://achronicvoice.com/why-fear-is-self-harm/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) Pin to Your COVID-19 Vaccine & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Biggest Fears of Taking the COVID-19 Vaccine From People with Chronic Illnesses](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/fears-covid-19-vaccine-chronic-illnesses-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) --- ### 4\. Jo Moss of "A Journey Through the Fog" *Norwich, UK* [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/ajourneythroughthefog) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/jomoss1975/) [Twitter](https://x.com/JourneyFog) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? An immediate serious allergic reaction. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? Because the alternative – catching the COVID-19 virus – is much worse than the potential side effects of the vaccine. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Astra Zeneca. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? It was over quickly; I had the vaccination at home. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? Yes, I reacted quite severely; light-headed, nauseous, wiped-out, achy, weak, drowsy, dizzy, hungover, painful restless legs, muscle cramps, headache, runny nose, sore throat, shivers, fever, ‘poisoned feeling’, and the injection site was very sore. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? Painkillers, hot water bottle and antihistamines. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? The days following the jab weren’t pleasant. It’s certainly not something I would choose to go through. Do I think it was worth it? Absolutely! The alternative would be a lot worse. I don’t think I would survive if I contracted COVID-19. --- ### [5\. Jo Jackson of "Tea & Cake for the Soul"](https://teaandcakeforthesoul.wordpress.com/) *London, UK* [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/teaandcakeforthesoul) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? An adverse reaction, as I had been very ill after a flu jab in the past. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? For the greater good, the bigger picture. This isn’t just about me. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Astra Zeneca. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? Excellent, very well organised, easy to book and informative throughout the procedure. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? I was shivery the night after, tired for a couple of days and had a sore arm for about 10 days. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? I just wrapped myself up and kept warm in bed for the shivers, relaxed for the tiredness and didn’t worry about the arm pain. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? Fine, no problems at all. --- ### [6\. Jenny of "Life's a Polyp"](https://www.lifesapolyp.com/) *Oklahoma, USA* [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/lifesapolyp/) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/) [Twitter](https://x.com/Lifesapolyp) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/lifesapolyp/) [TikTok](https://www.tiktok.com/@lifesapolyp) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? I didn’t have any fears about taking a vaccination. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? I wanted to protect myself and others around me the best way I could. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Pfizer. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? I was incredibly anxious. As a healthcare worker, I was qualified to receive the COVID-19 vaccine earlier than others during its rollout in my state. Yet, I was terrified that I would be turned away. It was a relatively quick process. I didn’t even feel the needle insertion during the first dose, and for the second dose, I felt the needle but it was not painful at all. Both doses were relatively the same for me, although they were at different locations. Both times I was overcome with emotion and became teary eyed with elation and gratitude for receiving the vaccine. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? I had a sore arm for a few hours with each dose. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? I moved my arm a lot to help reduce the soreness faster. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? I am extremely grateful for the scientists who worked tirelessly to create the COVID-19 vaccine. I am grateful that I qualified to receive it early on in its rollout in my state. I feel safer with the vaccination, and am proud to do what I can to help protect not only myself but also my community. Pin to Your COVID-19 Vaccine & Chronic Conditions Boards: ![Why These People Chose to Take the COVID-19 Vaccine Despite Chronic Illness](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/people-chose-covid-19-vaccine-chronic-illness-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) --- ### [7\. Joy Austin of "The Joyous Living"](https://www.thejoyousliving.com/) *California, USA* [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/thejoyousliving) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/thejoyousliving) [Twitter](https://x.com/thejoyousliving) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/thejoyousliving/) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? I was terrified I would get sick, since my pulmonologists all said that I could die from COVID-19 due to my rare lung disease. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? I wanted to live. If I didn’t have the COVID-19 vaccine I would be worried that I would catch it and die due to my pulmonary alveolar proteinosis. I had not been out in a year except to visit the doctor. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Pfizer. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? It was very easy and simple. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? No side effects except for a mild headache. But that could have just been from my Fibromyalgia, too. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? I took a some Ibuprofen before the shot and that seemed to help. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? Free. I have been able to visit the grocery store and a couple other shops since getting the COVID-19 vaccine. I am even planning a vacation this summer. --- ### [8\. Alisha Nurse of "The Invisible F"](https://theinvisiblef.com/) *From Trinidad and Tobago, but lives in London, UK* [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/AlishaPNurse) [Twitter](https://x.com/AliApow) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? As a person from an ethnic minority, I struggled with listening to the science versus the ethnic communities’ worries. There were lots of myths and misconceptions intermingled with people’s worries that were perpetuated online, about using ethnic groups for testing and experimentation. A history of medical negligence and abuse towards certain ethnic minority groups is hard to ignore. But I also had to weigh that against the fact that we’re in a global pandemic, and that my chronic health problems make me more vulnerable. The fact that I might be more exposed to picking up the COVID-19 virus at work made me genuinely scared. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? I was offered the COVID-19 vaccine through work. By then, I had talked it through with many people, including friends from minority ethnic groups who shared similar worries. I carried out more research, and joined some seminars at work that addressed some of these concerns about the COVID-19 vaccine. I decided that even though I wasn’t sure if it felt like the right thing to do, that I would get vaccinated anyway. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Pfizer. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? It was pretty smooth! I was offered the vaccine through work. I received a text message offering me an option for appointments and I booked it online. I went to the hospital and the system was very fluid. After I had the vaccine, I went to a room to rest for 15 minutes so I could be monitored. Once I felt fine, I was able to go home. It was the same for my second vaccine dose. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? After the first dose, I experienced some feverish chills and nausea about an hour after the shot. But I would mostly describe it as a general feeling of unwellness. I went back to working from home and had this moment of ‘ahh I feel a bit weird, maybe unwell?’ but I couldn’t quite pinpoint what was wrong. I had some food then went to bed and I slept like a baby! The next morning I was fine. After the second dose, I didn’t experience side effects until a day later. These lasted for about three days, and I felt more fatigued, unable to concentrate and needed to rest constantly. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? Don’t be a hero! Just rest, rest, rest! Listen to your body and from my experience, it told me to rest; Once I did that and stayed hydrated, I was fine. I live alone and didn’t have energy to cook on those days, so pre-plan and prepare your meals before you get the vaccine. It was really helpful to have soup after my first vaccine; it was warm and nourishing, and I kept water nearby all the time. In hindsight I should have booked some time off work, but thankfully my employers were understanding. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? Having gone through the worries, stress and sharing this with friends, I think that getting the COVID-19 vaccine is a personal choice. I’d really urge people not to feel pressured into deciding based on what their families and communities say and choose to do. Do your own research. And by research I mean from various reputable sources, not WhatsApp videos or personal commentaries. Weigh up the options and decide what is best for you. --- ### 9\. Kathy Forsyth of "Upbeat Living" *USA* #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? Feeling sick afterwards. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? I have both an immune deficiency and asthma/chronic bronchitis. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Pfizer. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? I had to drive about 50 minutes to get to the vaccination site. The people doing the clinic were very organized and helpful. They answered all my questions and had chairs and tables spaced far apart. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? With my first dose I had a sore arm for about 24 hours. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? I was given a small cold pack to put into the freezer that I could use for pain relief at the injection site. It helped quite a bit. I didn’t need to take any pain medication. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? I feel relieved, because I’ve been on a waiting list since early February. Read Related Posts: - [“It’s in My Blood”: Cheyanne Perry – Living a Full Life with Deadly Allergies](https://achronicvoice.com/cheyanne-perry-life-allergies/) - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [Why I Need to See 10 Different Doctors on a Regular Basis](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) Pin to Your COVID-19 Vaccine Experiences & Chronic Illness Boards: ![COVID-19 Vaccine Experiences from People with Chronic Conditions](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/covid-19-vaccine-experiences-people-chronic-illness-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) --- ### 10\. Rachael Tomlinson of "Accessible Rach" *England, United Kingdom* #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? I am not sure I had any to be honest. I treated it like the flu vaccine that I take every year. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? To protect others and myself. I don’t see it as a magic bullet, however it does make me feel a little safer should I contract the COVID-19 virus in the future. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Pfizer. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? Very smooth and well organised. I had the Pfizer so had to wait 15 minutes after the vaccination, but I was fine. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? Not with the first vaccine. However for the second shot I was in bed with flu-like symptoms for four days, with headache, dizziness, sickness and all my limbs ached. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? I tried to sleep them off. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? Even though I has side effects I wouldn’t hesitate to have a third vaccination when it is offered. --- ### [11\. Dana Marton of "Chronically Mommy"](https://chronicallymommy.blogspot.com/) *Georgia, USA* [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/DLMorningstar/) [Twitter](https://x.com/dlmorningstar) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/dlmorningstar/) [TikTok](https://www.tiktok.com/@dlmorningstar) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? An allergic reaction. I live with Bell’s Palsy, Trigeminal Neuralgia, and Occipital Neuralgia. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? I don’t want to catch the COVID-19 virus. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Pfizer. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? It was close to my home, fast and easy. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? I had to rest, rest my eyes, cool compress the right side of my head, and wait patiently for it to pass. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? I am happy to see people again! --- ### [12\. Kathryn Stone of "Chronically Ill Kat"](https://chronicallyillkat.com/) *UK / Netherlands* [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100027191602584#) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/chronicallyillkat/) [Twitter](https://x.com/ChronicalillKat) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? I was really scared that the COVID-19 vaccine would trigger another relapse in my ME (Myalgic Encephalomyelitis). #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? I chose to take the vaccine because ultimately the benefits outweigh the risks. The risk of COVID-19 is far higher for me than the risk of the vaccine. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Astra Zeneca. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? The procedure was quick and painless. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? I had some not very pleasant side effects. I was unable to sit upright for about a week – it really set my POTs (Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome) symptoms off. Alongside that I had alternating chills and a fever that lasted a few days. Over all I just felt very ill. But it felt like a constructive ill because I knew it meant that my immune system is working properly! #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? I drank lots of rehydration salts to try and minimise the tachychardia and POTs symptoms. I had also already planned so that I had nothing to do except be sick that week! #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? I definitely feel a lot less anxious about going to the physiotherapist, but will remain in shielding until I have had my second vaccine. It does feel like there is a beginning to the end now! Read Related Posts: - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [A Day in the Life of a “POTSie” (A What??)](https://achronicvoice.com/day-in-life-potsie/) - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) - [Mainstream: Can You Talk to Us About ME? (There are Enough ‘Normal’ Health Tips to Go Around Already)](https://achronicvoice.com/mainstream-me-health-tips/) - [Learn More About the Super Rare Disease – Esophageal Diverticulum](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) Pin to Your COVID-19 Vaccine Side Effects & Chronic Illnesses Boards: ![COVID-19 Vaccine Side Effects Experienced by People with Chronic Illness](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/covid-19-vaccine-side-effects-people-chronic-illnesses-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) --- ### [13\. Alison Hayes of "Thriving While Disabled"](http://thrivingwhiledisabled.com/) *New Jersey, USA* [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/thrivingwhiledisabled) [Twitter](https://x.com/thrivingwdisabl) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/thrivingwhiledisabled/) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? Not being able to get vaccinated. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? To protect myself from getting COVID-19. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Pfizer. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? It was run by the military in a mega site, and was relatively fast and efficient. I was happy to see that they took care to improve accessibility. My nurse was kind and efficient, and everybody was respectful in regards to my FND (Functional Neurological Disorder) symptoms. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? For the first shot, the arm pain is more severe than what I have experienced with any other vaccine in the past. My second shot went smoothly. I was extra tired, but otherwise no adverse reaction. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? Letting myself rest with minimal expectations of myself, and drinking plenty of water. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? More hopeful. After my second shot, I am going to be able to go out in the world feeling that much safer. Since being vaccinated, I have felt much freer, and have spent time with other vaccinated friends. --- ### [14\. Julie Holliday of "MECFS Self Help Guru"](https://www.mecfsselfhelpguru.com/) *UK* [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/TheMecfsHolisticCoach) [Pinterest](https://uk.pinterest.com/mecfsholisticcoach/) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? That the vaccination would cause as big a crash as the virus itself. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? Anecdotal evidence was showing that the unpleasant effects on people with ME weren’t lasting more that a few days for most people. Also I’d had a nasty virus the year before that had caused a huge relapse, and I feared that that kind of relapse was far more likely if I caught COVID-19. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Pfizer. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? The healthcare staff were kind, it was well set up and efficient. It was a big centre and very noisy. I asked if I could wait out my 15 minutes post vaccine somewhere quiet because of the ME, and they found me somewhere quiet for my wait. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? My symptoms were mild with a sore arm, aches and pains, and extra fatigue that only lasted for three days. Read more on my blog: [My COVID Vaccine Experience](https://www.mecfsselfhelpguru.com/2021/03/my-covid-vaccine-experience.html). #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? I was careful to rest even more that usual and took extra antioxidant supplements. My symptoms also eased a little with my daily anti-inflammatory medications that I take for another issue. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? More confident that once I’ve had the second shot of the vaccine, it’ll be safer to spend time around people again. --- ### [15\. Claire Saul of "Pain Pals Blog"](https://painpalsblog.com/) *UK* [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/painpalsblog) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/painpalsblog/) [Twitter](https://x.com/ClaireSaul1) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? Slightly concerned about how severe any side effects might be, as I had COVID-19 last year and was pretty ill. All my chronic illness symptoms have been worse ever since. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? To protect myself and those around me from the virus – to help to start to move life back towards normality. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Pfizer. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? Excellent – well organised, felt very safe, no waiting, well spaced cubicles and seating areas, friendly and helpful staff. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? A sore arm, headache, achy limbs and very tired. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? Regular paracetamol and plenty of fluids. Plus a good supply of TV recordings and Netflix films. I ensured that I had a free couple of days so as not to put any pressure on myself. I did sleep for long periods! #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? Glad to have had it. Am happy to have played my part in moving towards controlling this disease, and also to be able to help protect my friends and family. 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Penny of "Hope Found in ME"](https://hopefoundinme.com/) *Essex, UK* [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/hopefoundinme) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/hopefoundinme) [Twitter](https://x.com/hopefoundinme) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/hopefoundinme/) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? Not being vaccinated within the priority groups because of my health conditions. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? To protect myself, my husband, my family and wider community. It’s a team effort. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Astra Zeneca. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? I was vaccinated at home. It was straightforward and took only a few minutes. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? Yes. I was wiped out. Had extreme nausea, was off balance, fever and increased fatigue levels. I have written a piece on my blog about my vaccination experience here: [Covid19 Vaccination – My Experience](https://hopefoundinme.com/2021/02/20/covid19-vaccination-my-experience/) #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? I rested, laid horizontally, hydrated, ate bland foods and boiled sweets and took medication to relieve fever symptoms. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? Happy. I will be glad to receive the second dose. Although I do hope that the side effects will be less intrusive. --- ### [17\. Rhiann Johns of "Brain Lesion and Me"](https://www.brainlesionandme.com/) *South Wales, UK* [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/MyBrainLesionAndMe) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/serenebutterfly/) [Twitter](https://x.com/serenebutterfly) [Pinterest](https://uk.pinterest.com/serenebutterfly/) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? The side effects of the vaccination making my condition and symptoms worse. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? I like to think I have a strong sense of civic duty, and wanted to keep myself and those I love safe from the potential devastating effects that COVID-19 can have. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Astra Zeneca. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? It was great; the vaccination and potential side effects were all fully explained, the practitioner throughly went through the checklist to make sure I was eligible and safe to take up the COVID-19 vaccine. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? Yes, I really suffered for several days afterwards. The pain and stiffness that I constantly grapple with intensified a few hours after having the vaccine, and I found it extremely difficult to walk up the stairs in the night. That night I also experienced violent shivering after suddenly feeling extremely cold, and generally felt like I was coming down with the flu. I also had a very sore arm, which hurt and felt very uncomfortable when moving it for quite a few days afterward. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? I coped by resting and taking things easy for those few days I felt very bad. I wore my favourite comfortable loungewear and allowed myself time to indulge in TV and films. Relaxing activities that I found soothing, and that helped to replenish my energy and soul. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? As much as I am not looking forward to getting the second dose, I am relieved to have had the first of the vaccination done. I am feeling a little more protected from the virus, especially after losing a much loved member of my family. I also feel good for doing something productive to help protect others from this virus that has upended everyone’s lives. --- ### 18\. Katie *Michigan, USA* #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? Feeling sick and miserable after. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? To protect myself and others from getting COVID-19. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Moderna. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? It was quick and easy. I just had to wait for 15 minutes before I could leave. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? The only effect I experienced was a mild sore arm. I have only had my first shot though. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? I will be fully vaccinated after my second dose, but I already feel hopeful. I do feel a little nervous about it as some people have said that it was the second one that made them feel sick. Then again, there were others who said they had no bad side effects. Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Public Health Boards: ![Post-Vaccine Thoughts & Feelings From People with Chronic Illnesses](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/post-vaccine-thoughts-feelings-chronic-illnesses-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) --- ### 19\. Angela Weldon *Scotland, UK* #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? Passing the COVID-19 virus to my elderly parents. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? For normality. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Astra Zeneca. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? Straightforward. I went to the vaccination centre, waited in a small queue and it was all done quickly. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? A splitting sore head and sore arm. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? Painkillers and rest. I learned to take painkillers the nights before and after the vaccination. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? I’ve only had my first dose, so still unsure as I’m not fully protected. Am currently isolating after each contact. --- ### 20\. Jo *California, USA* #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? Side effects. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? Because getting COVID-19 would be worse. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Pfizer. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? The hardest part was finding an appointment for the vaccination. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? Fatigue, an increased pulse rate, low grade fever, body aches and arm redness that was not at the injection site. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? I just rested. Nothing alarming or serious. The next day I was better. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? Relieved. I will probably still wear my mask and wash my hands more thoroughly, but I’m not as paranoid. [Subscribe for More](#/portal/) --- ### 21\. Lenore *New York, USA* #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? Getting COVID-19 from the gross public. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? Because I work with the gross public. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Moderna. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? The signup was awful; ended up with work arranging it. But I was very impressed at how the actual vaccination site was set up, and how happy everyone seemed. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? Yes, for the first shot my arm ached and was tired. For the second shot my immune system was clearly aware of the first dose and was still pissed off about it. I was extremely tired and it triggered an acute flare of my PsA (Psoriatic Arthritis), which involves basically all my joints. The acute phase lasted a couple days and I missed a day of work. A few joints are still aching after a month. But I’m not sure if it’s residual from the shot or from background disease activity. Still better than having COVID-19! 🙂 #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? Rest, drink lots of water and take painkillers. Having a sense of humor helped. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? Relieved. We are incredibly lucky to live in a time where science and medicine were able to create vaccines to cope in such a short timeframe. mRNA vaccines have been worked on for years, including for Sars-CoV-1 and was able to be adapted for use on the Sars-CoV-2 virus. It is an amazing accomplishment, and something that is unheard of in human history. Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Vaccination Side Effects Management Boards: ![Best Tips for Coping with COVID-19 Vaccine Side Effects From People with Chronic Illnesses](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/tips-coping-covid-19-vaccine-side-effects-chronic-illnesses-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) --- ### 22\. Anonymous *USA* #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? Possible allergic or other reaction post-vaccine. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? The variants are escalating. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Johnson & Johnson. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? I had anxiety due to having PG (propylene glycol) allergy, but my pharmacist scheduled me for a time when multiple professionals would be on site with no other patients. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? I had a sore arm that morning and the following night, for about 2 hours each time. Nothing else. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? Still on a rollercoaster due to learning the possibilities of later side effects like the blood clots, because I was in that window and age group during the pause. --- ### [23\. Emma of "Lavandoula"](https://lavandoula.com/) *Boston, MA, USA* #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? Allergies or autoimmune flares. New autoimmune processes. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? Ultimately, it was less scary than potentially getting COVID-19\. Dr. Sarah Ballantyne’s breakdown of research helped me feel a lot better. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Moderna. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? Way better than anticipated. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? I had a very sore arm for 2 – 3 days, and a day of fatigue as well. For both shots! My autoimmune symptoms that were not well managed before also flared up. But not outrageously compared to my baseline. Each shot experience felt remarkably similar for me. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? I pre-planned by going back to an elimination phase AIP diet, the month prior to and during the vaccination. Avoided everything that I knew could otherwise cause me to flare up. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? Deeply relieved that I didn’t have a bad reaction, and less scared of going to work or seeing my friends. --- ### 24\. Emily Laster *Kentucky, USA* #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? That I’d lose my sense of smell and taste. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? Because I’m a Type 2 Diabetic and I knew that this would help me immensely. I live with chronic pain through Neuropathy, and it seriously sucks. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Moderna. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? Very comfortable, hardly felt the needle. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? Just a sore arm for a few days. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? Safe. Very safe. I’ve had both shots, and I’m good to go, but I’m still wearing a mask. Pin to Your COVID-19 Vaccine Experiences & Chronic Conditions Boards: ![COVID-19 Vaccine Experiences from People with Chronic Conditions](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/covid-19-vaccine-experiences-chronic-conditions-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) --- ### 25\. Harpriya Singh *Ontario, Canada* #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? I am a patient fighting with active Ulcerative Colitis. I feared that the COVID-19 vaccine might aggravate my already goofed up immune system and give me a bad flare up. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? I chose it to protect myself, my family and my community from the virus. I have to do my part as an individual, and we all must get vaccinated whenever it’s our turn and beat this pandemic! #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Pfizer. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? It went very smooth. I got the vaccine at Trillium, Ontario. It was really well organised. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? I just experienced a sore arm for a day and a low grade fever which settled with a Tylenol. Thankfully, it didn’t add to my Colitis flare. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? Apply an ice pack for the sore arm and pop a Tylenol for the fever. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? I feel more protected! --- ### [26\. Tori of "Chronically Thriving"](https://www.chronicallythriving.me/) *Colorado, USA* [Twitter](https://x.com/ellie%5Fendo) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? Getting a pain flare post vaccine that I would not be able to treat at home. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? I am high risk and have been told by two doctors that getting COVID-19 would kill me. A vaccine is immensely more tolerable than death. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Pfizer. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? Our local hospital had a great set up. Those of us with mobility aids and high risk statuses were separated from the able-bodied people who were also getting vaccinated. The shot was painless. I had one issue with a nurse trying to rush my 30 minute wait after my second dose. I think I was the last person and she wanted to go home, but she was extremely rude when I told her that I was not a 15 minute wait person due to MCAS. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? Yes. Fever, body aches, dizziness, extreme fatigue, and my arm hurt so much that having bed sheets or a shirt sleeve brush against it was excruciating. My first and second dose had the same symptoms, but my second dose was significantly worse in all aspects. More pain, higher fever, more fatigue, and it lasted longer. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? Tylenol. I also called my pain management office and told them exactly what was happening. I had tried to get a remedy for inevitable breakthrough pain less than a week before my second dose and they ignored me. Instead of helping they gaslit me and told me the pain wasn’t real. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? Okay but not great, because my high risk kids can’t get vaccinated yet. --- ### [27\. Sheryl of "A Chronic Voice"](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) *Singapore* [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/achronicvoice) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/achronicvoice/) [Twitter](https://x.com/AChVoice) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/achronicvoice/) [YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/@sicklessons) [LinkedIn](https://www.linkedin.com/in/sherylchan/) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? A severe, delayed reaction when I wasn’t at the hospital anymore. In Singapore those who have had anaphylaxis or even food allergies were one of the last on the list to be allowed the COVID-19 vaccine. I’ve had anaphylaxis before from Rituximab, a biologic drug for Lupus, also only after my second dose. The first dose was fine and dandy as it was still ‘new’ to my body. My doctor said there was a small possibility it might happen with the COVID-19 vaccine. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? To protect myself and those around me, if that’s possible. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Pfizer. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? Efficient and easy. My doctor booked me a slot at the hospital to take the COVID-19 vaccine, which is reserved for all high risk patients. There is a doctor there on standby and the A&E is in the same building. I was amused by the countdown timer as it was a kitchen timer. 30 minutes went by quickly and I could leave after. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? Surprisingly, none. I felt perfectly fine after the first dose. For the second dose, I had some soreness in my arm five days after the shot, but nothing that interrupted my day too badly. I think it’s also because I’m on a mid-level dosage of prednisone (steroids), which helps to control my Lupus and Sjögren’s Syndrome activity. The prednisone probably suppressed the vaccine’s side effects, which is both good and bad. Good being no miserable side effects. Bad being I’m not sure if the COVID-19 vaccine is as effective on me as compared to others. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? I asked my doctor for an epipen just in case I had a delayed allergic reaction. Having that on standby made me feel safer. Who knew that an epipen was so expensive though; it costed me about USD120. Also, some of my friends were taking antihistamines and paracetamol before their vaccination. I avoided those on purpose so that I could tell immediately if something wasn’t quite right. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? Singapore has relatively good contact tracing and public healthcare measures in place. Because of that, I have never had to worry too much about catching the COVID-19 virus. Although we must still be cautious and not complacent, and we need to all play our part in society if we want things to slowly return to normality. I still get nervous if I happen to have been close to a new cluster, as announced in the newspapers daily. But I do feel slightly safer now with the COVID-19 vaccine. I also feel fortunate to be in Singapore, compared to many other countries where people are either unable to access good healthcare or vaccines. Or where the general public refuses to cooperate in a bid to rid us all of this pandemic. Pin to Your Chronic Illness & COVID-19 Vaccine Experiences Boards: ![What's It Like to Take the COVID-19 Vaccine with Chronic Illness?](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/whats-it-like-covid-19-vaccine-chronic-illness-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) --- ### [28\. Carrie Kellenberger of "My Several Worlds"](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/) *Taipei, Taiwan (Originally from Canada)* [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/MySeveralWorlds/) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/myseveralworlds/) [Twitter](https://x.com/globetrotteri/) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/myseveralworlds/) [LinkedIn](https://www.linkedin.com/in/carriekellenberger/) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? An allergic reaction due to MCAS and my allergy history with over 200+ allergies on file. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? To keep myself and others around me as safe as possible. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Astra Zeneca. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? Quick and easy. I signed up online and went to a nearby hospital parking lot to get my first jab. They even had info pamphlets in English which was very surprising to me! #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? Yes. I reacted like I do with all vaccines and shots. I got a migraine, chills, fever, and a lot of widespread pain on top of what I normally experience. It amped up my fibromyalgia symptoms just as I expected. I was extra miserable for around four days after it. My arm was still sore after two weeks and that is the first time that has happened with a vaccine. I got my flu shot and pneumococcal shots in January as preventative measures and my recovery time was 24 – 48 hours with those jabs. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? Rest is best! Don’t push through it. Drink lots and lots of water. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? Grateful and relieved. Anxious, but looking forward to get my second shot! (I’ll keep doing this until we beat this thing.) --- ### 29\. Katie Clark of "Painfully Living" *Michigan, USA* #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? I was worried about how sick I would become and for how long. I was especially worried about the talk of long-term exhaustion. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? I decided it was my duty to protect my family and community. Also, I felt that dying from COVID-19 was way worse than months of side-effects from the vaccine. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Pfizer. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? First, we went on a waiting list. My husband was called first for an appointment, but he mentioned me and the fact I have FM (fibromyalgia), and they let us both sign up. We went into a big auditorium and waited in our car until we got a text to come in. It was very well organized. We had to sign in on a computer and then were ushered to a medical professional for the shot. We were given the option of which arm to be injected. It was quick and painless. Then they filled out our card. We had to sit in spaced out chairs for 15 minutes before going back to our car. We were in and out within 30 minutes. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? Very sore arm from shoulder to elbow, and very tired for a few days. I take Low Dose Naltrexone (LDN) which is known to boost my immune system. I’m not sure if that’s one reason I didn’t have serious side effects of the COVID-19 vaccine. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? I prepared ahead of time to be very ill. No plans for a few days, just rested. We had food ready to go. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? I felt very free; almost like superwoman (until Delta variant arrived). Now, I’m worried again, especially for my unvaccinated 6-year old granddaughter in that I could carry it and pass it on to her and not even know it. I’m ready for my booster shot! --- ### [30\. Kim of "Miss Mental"](https://miss-mental.com/) *The Netherlands* [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/missmentalblog) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/miss%5Fmental0) [Twitter](https://x.com/miss%5Fmental0) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/Miss%5FMental/) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? Getting an allergic reaction and possible side effects. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? I’m at risk due to my asthma, and I wanted to contribute to help the group immunity as the lockdowns are so harmful for our mental health. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Pfizer. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? I was super anxious, but everyone was so nice. A doctor took me to a separate room to give me my shot, and she stayed with me for over an hour because I had a panic attack. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? After my first shot I was bedridden for five days; I just felt so extremely tired and dizzy. I didn’t quite feel like myself until after the second shot, which I didn’t get any reactions from. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? I listened to my body. It needed rest, so I gave in to that, and lots of fluids. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? Safer, although I’m not looking forward to a possible third shot. Pin to Your Chronic Illness & COVID-19 Vaccine Experiences Boards: ![Chronically Ill & Vaccinated - Read About Their Experiences](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/chronically-ill-vaccinated-experiences-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) --- ### [31\. Elizabeth / Liz of "Despite Pain"](https://despitepain.com/) *Scotland, UK* [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/despitepainpage) [Twitter](https://x.com/DespitePainBlog) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/despitepain/) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? I had read that some people get side effects, so I was a little concerned about that, but not concerned enough to put me off getting it. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? I wanted to protect myself and those around me as much as possible. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Astra Zeneca. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? It was straightforward. I received my appointment and went to the local sports centre to get vaccinated. I was worried in case there were long queues because I struggle to stand for long periods. But when I was there, it wasn’t busy. A few weeks later, I had my second dose and had the same experience. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? The morning after I received my first vaccination, I woke with a bit more pain than normal. At first, I thought it was just a bad pain day, but as the day went on, I started to have flu-like symptoms and felt quite shivery. The following day, I was fine. After my second vaccination, I had no side effects at all. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? I went to bed with a hot water bottle. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? I just have all my usual pain now. I’m relieved that I, and my family, have been vaccinated. --- ### 32\. Kelly *Connecticut, USA* [Twitter](https://x.com/Fibrogirl96) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? How I would react from the shot. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? To protect myself from being hospitalized, and to keep from getting long haulers (long-term side effects from the COVID-19 virus). #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Moderna. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? I had a good experience with one hiccup that wasn’t a big deal. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? After my first COVID-19 vaccine shot, I had a sore arm. It became swollen only on day 11. After my second shot, I had a sore arm for a day or two. I also had a small fever from days 1 – 8, with the highest point at 102.3°F (39°C). #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? Okay, so for the first shot, I talked to my doctor because of the swelling. It wasn’t a big deal as he prescribed prednisone and Benadryl. For the second shot, I took Tylenol the day after for the fever. To be safe, I took Benadryl around day 8 or 9 for a week or so, and had no swelling at all. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? I feel great. I feel safe and secure. I will be getting the booster around December. Please if you can get the COVID-19 vaccine, it gives you peace of mind. --- ### [33\. Gemma of "Wheel Escapades"](https://wheelescapades.com/) *Norfolk, England, UK* [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/wheelescapades/) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/wheelescapades/) [Twitter](https://x.com/gemmaorton) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? Catching COVID-19\. As someone with extremely weak muscles, therefore not having the strength to cough, and already using a non-invasive ventilator at night, I was terrified of how COVID would affect me, and if/what treatment I would be given if I ended up in hospital. I was admitted in early 2020 with flu, and this was a big enough struggle. The no visitors would be hard too, because I rely on people that know me and my condition to assist me. The hospital is not equipped or staffed well enough to care for me safely. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? Because I wanted the extra layer or protection for myself and those around me. I don’t see any other way of fighting this. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Pfizer. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? It was well organised, quick and painless. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? I had a mild headache, some joint aches and fatigue for 12 – 24 hours. It was nothing to concern me. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? Paracetamol and rest. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? I feel a bit safer because I am vaccinated, but also because many people around me are too. I am still cautious, wearing my mask in public, keeping a good distance and not socialising in large groups. I hope that having the vaccine has reduced my chance of being seriously unwell with COVID. Pin to Your Public Health & Awareness Boards: ![Chronic Illness & The COVID-19 Vaccine - Fears & Hopes](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/chronic-illness-covid-19-vaccine-fears-hopes-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) --- ### 34\. Tamara *Belgium, Wallonia, Province du Luxembourg* #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? My biggest fear was the side effects due to all my chronic illnesses. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? To protect vulnerable persons and myself. #### Which COVID-19 Vaccine Did You Get? Pfizer. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? All was very well organized and really fast. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? Yes, for my first shot in May 2021, I had terrible fever, aches, migraine, nausea, etc. It was extremely bad. For my second shot in June 2021, I had no side effects. I was amazed. But ever since I had the first shot, my IBS (irritable bowel syndrome), migraine and menstruation have become like hell. Before the COVID-19 vaccine they were ‘just’ a nightmare. Now they have calmed down a little. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? It was really hard to cope with the side effects. I rested, ate less and mostly plant-based whole foods. I endured and tried my best to be patient until the situation improved. I listened to my body and mind. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? I feel okay, and hope things will get better in future. --- ### [35\. Lisa Ehrman of "Chronically Content"](https://chronicallycontent.com/) *Kansas, USA* [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/laehrman/) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/lisaehrman/) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/lisaehrman/) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? Because I have MCAS, I feared an allergic reaction. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? To protect myself. #### Which Vaccine Did You Get? Pfizer. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? Safe with a 30 minute observation, but no issues. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? None. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? Glad that I did it. --- ### 36\. Dennis Labban *Trinidad, West Indies* #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? I didn’t have any fears about the vaccine itself. My only fear was getting infected as I work in an essential service. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? I took the vaccination as I have a few chronic illnesses. #### Which Vaccine Did You Get? Sinopharm. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? It was quick and the nurses were polite. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? No side effects. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? I feel fine health wise, and I feel I am helping to eradicate COVID-19 by being vaccinated. --- ### 37\. Nikki Albert of "Brainless Blogger" *Canada* [Twitter](https://x.com/brainless%5Fblog) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? That I would get COVID-19\. My asthma is poorly managed and my immune system fatigued at best, so I would not fair well. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? Mostly because I was high risk due to my asthma. But frankly, since I always fall sick so easily and recover so slowly, I worried that even without asthma I would get quite ill should I contract COVID-19. I knew that I needed protection via the COVID-19 vaccine. Not to mention the need to protect my parents, and my sister-in-law who has severe, unmanaged asthma. And also other family members with cancer who are undergoing treatment. #### Which Vaccine Did You Get? Pfizer. I was eligible for Astra Zeneca, but when I got there they said due to the severity of my asthma I was also eligible for Pfizer, and they wanted me on that one. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? Not bad at all really. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? I had a mild sore arm. Weirdly enough, the COVID-19 vaccine affected my menstrual cycle for both shots. It bumped them off-track and made them last longer than usual. I did get some massive fatigue, which I thought was just me feeling unwell in the usual chronic illness way. That was until my spouse pointed out that it likely was a side effect of the COVID-19 vaccine, too. I really was laid out with fatigue for a week. I guess he likely was right. I’m just so used to being sick, it hadn’t even occured to me that it might have been something else. #### If You Suffered From Side Effects, How Did You Cope? Any Best Tips or Advice? I didn’t find it that bad. The fatigue knocked me out, yes, but really I just slept a lot and then a week later I was back to normal. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? The same as usual, which isn’t awesome, but you know, same old. I feel a bit safer though. I would feel better if more people were vaccinated, so I’m still cautious. #### Any Other Comments? I’ve had worse reactions to the flu shot. I react sometimes to the fillers used. So this one really wasn’t bad for me at all. Sort of a pleasant surprise for me. --- ### [38\. Laurie Hanscom Harmon of "Seeking Serenity & Harmony"](https://seekingserenityandharmony.com/) *Maine, USA* [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/seekingserenityandharmony) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/seekingserenity2001/) [Twitter](https://x.com/harmony2001/) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/SeekingSerenityandHarmony/) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? That I would get a bad reaction. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? Because I have multiple family members that are immune compromised. I also foster children so am exposed to multiple people that I cannot be sure are practicing social distancing and masking. I wanted to continue helping families and children. And to protect my own family I felt I needed to take the risk and get the vaccine as the lesser of two evils. #### Which Vaccine Did You Get? Moderna. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? It was easy peasy. A little arm ache was all I had. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? Just a small arm ache. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? No side effects. I did drink plenty of water, and took pain relievers within the recommended time frames. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? I feel that I have made the right choice for my family and myself, and for those we come into contact with. --- ### [39\. Christine of "Teardrops to Diamonds"](https://teardropstodiamonds.wordpress.com/) *Oxford, England, UK* #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? Wasn’t afraid, was just hoping it would be effective. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? I live in Oxford and have friends who were involved in Oxford Vaccine. I was reassured of it’s safety and ultimately I want to protect myself as much as possible. #### Which Vaccine Did You Get? Oxford-AstraZeneca. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? Procedure was clear and well organised. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? Sadly, yes. Nausea, very bad headache and severe joint pain. Limbs felt very heavy. I ended up stuck in bed unable to move any part of my body for several hours. Living alone meant I couldn’t get help, and couldn’t even press my pendant alarm because I was unable to lift my arms. In many ways I experienced an exacerbation of what I live with on a daily basis (chronic pain, neuropathy, mobility issues, neurological issues, headaches). I didn’t feel back to my “normal” for over a week. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? I had no choice but to wait until I could move before I could let someone know. Speaking to others, I was assured that it would pass eventually. I increased my fluid intake and pain medications. I would advise anyone who lives alone to have someone check in on them a few hours after the vaccine, perhaps through a phone call or by text. For my second jab I arranged it so that if my friend didn’t get a response from me after several hours, to come by my place in person. And to even let herself in should there be no response from me. In the end I had no side effects after the second jab, apart from a sore arm. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? That I am currently as protected as I can be, but that I and others are still at risk of getting COVID-19 and/or passing it on to others. Therefore I am still wearing a mask when in public places and limiting my social contact. --- ### 40\. Anna Rothlübbers *Berlin, Germany* #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? Allergic reaction and worsening in chronic pain and inflammation symptoms, as well as differences in fertility long term. Additionally I have severe allergies and was worried about a potential reaction. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? Because of the associated freedoms, and because I have an increased risk of getting severe COVID. #### Which Vaccine Did You Get? Pfizer. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? Good. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? For the first dose I had moderate fatigue, headaches and experienced a worsening of inflammatory symptoms. This only lasted for about 3 days though. For the second dose I had a mild fever for about 3 days, felt like I had a flu for 1 – 2 days, and had some worsening in symptoms; but it was more like a mild flare. Additionally as a cisgender woman, my period has since been less strong and slightly irregular. My boobs have also decreased in size. #### How Did You Cope with the Side Effects, if Any? Any Best Tips or Advice? I had a free weekend after my first dose of the COVID-19 vaccine, and I took a long weekend break after my second (I was lucky to have it counted as a sick day). Besides that I just tried to rest a lot, take some painkillers and ate as healthily as I could. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? I am glad that I decided to do it, but now my main worry is about female health related issues. #### Any Other Comments? Thank you for doing this, could have been super helpful to have \[read this earlier\]. --- ### 42\. Nikki *Ontario, Canada* [Twitter](https://x.com/Canadian%5Fmom84) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? I live with multiple chronic pain conditions and my pain levels are debilitating daily. Prior to my first vaccination I was nervous. I was nervous because I had heard and read about others’ experiences and knew that my body often reacts poorly. The thought of dealing with even slightly more discomfort was daunting. My anxiety prior to my second dose was well founded as I knew how I felt after the first dose. As a chronic pain warrior, the simple thought of more pain or discomfort is terrifying and often overwhelming. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? I choose to take the vaccine to protect myself, loved ones and those who are unable to get it. #### Which Vaccine Did You Get? Moderna. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? The over all experience was both terrible and a blessing. Physically it sucked, but I truly feel blessed to live in a place where these vaccines are readily available. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? These are the side effects I encountered: migraine attacks, severe full body aches, mild fever, extreme fatigue, nausea and gastrointestinal issues. After the first vaccine, I did suffer from a migraine and experienced more than my usual fatigue for a few days. Those are seemingly tolerable side effects for many, but for the me, a chronic pain warrior, those side effects kicked my butt. They kicked my butt enough that when it came time for my second vaccination, I was honestly terrified. Not of the vaccination, or of the needle, but of the possible side effects. Knowing that many had stronger reactions to the second dose did cause further alarm. My anxiety began to rise to the point where I had to continually ground myself (a calming technique). After my second dose I was down and out for five days. The migraine came back and hung around for three days. The body aches on top of my daily pain became overwhelming and had me straight bed ridden. #### If You Suffered From Side Effects, How Did You Cope? Any Best Tips or Advice? I coped by allowing my body the rest it needed. I coped by reminding myself that this too will pass. I coped by drinking plenty of fluids. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? Now that I’ve been fully vaccinated I feel blessed and have not experienced any long term issues or side effects. --- ### [43\. Amanda Pratt of "Imagine Life Therapy"](http://imaginelifetherapy.com/) *Florida, USA* [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/imaginelifetherapy) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/imaginelifetherapy/) [Twitter](https://x.com/therapyimagine) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/imaginelifetherapy/) #### What was Your Biggest Fear Pre-Vaccination? Safety. #### Why Did You Choose to Take the Vaccination? Safety from COVID-19. #### Which Vaccine Did You Get? Pfizer. #### What was the Over All Procedure Experience Like for You? Great! I have Lyme disease, Babesia, Lupus, Fibromyalgia, POTS, MCAS and Endometriosis. #### Did You Get Any Side Effects or Symptoms from the Vaccine? If So, What Did You Experience? Apart from a sore arm, I had no side effects after the first shot of the COVID-19 vaccine. The second one resulted in a slight headache about 30 hours after, but apart from that I had no other side effects. I actually felt better afterwards; I had three amazing days after each dose. I recently got my booster shot as well. My body had a bigger response to that, and I had all over body soreness and fatigue for about three days. #### If You Suffered From Side Effects, How Did You Cope? Any Best Tips or Advice? I was prepared for them by reducing workload and taking a day off just in case. #### How Do You Feel Now That You've Been Vaccinated? Relieved. --- Thank you to everyone who contributed your precious time, knowledge and COVID-19 vaccine experiences to this roundup! I hope that the thoughts shared from various people with chronic illness around the globe has proved insightful. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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Read Related Posts: - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (52 Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [MediSearch Review: A Medical AI Search Engine for Patients, Clinicians & Medical Writers](https://achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Millicent Sep 1, 2021 Thank you for putting together this post. The topic of covid is tough because most people strongly lean one way or the other. Offering a safe space for everyone to share their experience is golden. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 2, 2021 Thank you Millicent. It’s really tough because we all feel so strongly about it. All I want to do with this post is gather experiences from those who DID take the vaccine to try and keep it focussed to one aspect of this complex topic and issue. I’m glad that you found it to be a safe space online x - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Aug 27, 2021 To steal your word, this is an excellent “repository” of patient experiences. Nobody brings together patient voices quite like you do, Sheryl. It’s definitely interesting to read other experiences of the vaccine. I like your approach of neutrality despite having your own feelings, which is what I’ve tried to do in various posts like this where it’s better to present the information to allow others to make their own informed opinions or decisions.I have chronic conditions and went I went for my first jab, the nurses were all back and forth and making me worried because they said my history is a contra-indication for the vaccine. Having spoken to a doctor there, he said it was up to me so I said yes. Thankfully I was fine – sore arm which I couldn’t care less about because that’s nothing compared to chronic illness life, tiredness like someone was pulling my eyelids down a few hours later and a little extra nausea but nothing too bad. My parents are in their 70s and all they had were sore arms at the injection site. My dad is on immunosuppressants, however, so I do worry that his immune system is unlikely to have responded all that well to the two Pfizer jabs, if at all.What I find quite disturbing here is Kirsty’s experience. “I was bullied into having the vaccination. I was berated in front of a long line of public that were waiting for the injection” – that is just not on. People make an appointment and go in without being able to speak to someone first about the jabs a lot of the time, so I imagine there will be people turning up still unsure and a bit hesitant. There should never be anything like this happening, that really is awful.Excellent post, Sheryl!Caz xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 2, 2021 Hi Caz! Thanks so much for your support as always! I appreciate it 🙂 Yes I do try to keep things neutral. My blog’s tagline is ‘articulating lifelong illnesses from various perspectives’, after all :pHaha I chuckled when I read this bit of your comment: “sore arm which I couldn’t care less about because that’s nothing compared to chronic illness life”. So true lol.Yes Kirsty’s experience was certainly disturbing, though I think majority had good experiences. Important – to me – to highlight all the events that people claimed happen, though! Thanks so much for reading again! - [ Sue Jackson ](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/) Aug 22, 2021 Excellent post, Sheryl! Thanks for all your hard work in putting this together. I did a 3-part series on my blog about the vaccines for those with ME/CFS and related illnesses – our immune dysfunction is quite unique which makes the decision even more complex!SueLive with ME/CFS - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 2, 2021 Thanks for pointing that out Sue, I will go have a look, how interesting! Yes such a complex decision isn’t it?! Thanks for doing your part and helping to raise awareness for ME/CFS, too! - [ Claire ](http://throughthefibrofog.com) Aug 21, 2021 Thank you for putting this together Sheryl! So informative and the views of those with chronic illness and the vaccine does seem to have been a bit ‘lost’ in the discussion, as you say. I feel so happy that so many people feel relieved after having the vaccine (as am I) and that it offers them a better feeling of safety in this awful situation. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 2, 2021 Thanks for contributing too, Claire! Yes that or their voices are too few, too scattered or too unheard. I hope more entries pour in. Would really love for this repository of information to grow, especially now that booster shots might be required for many of us who are immunosuppressed. (Interestingly, my doctor said that for the immunocompromised it isn’t so much seen as a booster shot as a 3rd shot!) - [ Lucy ](https://lbhealthandlifestyle.com/) Aug 19, 2021 Thank you Sheryl for providing such a balanced and neutral post on this. I’ve seen so many people post extremely strong views which has caused a lot of people to be afraid of sharing their views and experiences. Thank you for providing a platform to allow so many people to share their experiences and raise awareness about the procedure and side effects to help others prepare and put their minds at ease. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 21, 2021 Thank you Lucy. I do have my own opinions though I try to remain as neutral as I can, unless it’s flat out nonsensical. Fears and concerns are valid, though. If you like you can contribute to this repository too! 🙂 - [ Alisha Nurse ](http://www.theinvisiblef.com) Aug 19, 2021 Thanks so much for doing this round up Sheryl- it’s really insightful and helpful to get other people’s open views on this. Really handy! thanks for taking the time to put this together. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 21, 2021 My pleasure, Alisha! Thank you so much for contributing. I know many others with chronic illnesses are afraid, and trying to get information and experiences from others with chronic illnesses, too. So I help this helps, no matter how little! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Dysphagia & Swallowing Problems (and How Oral Vitamin Sprays Can be of Help to You) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/dysphagia-oral-vitamin-sprays/ Last updated: 2025-10-25T12:05:12.000Z Dysphagia is a [common problem for many people who live with chronic illness, cancer or a disability](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1125316/) for a wide variety of reasons (Leslie et al., 2003). In this post we will learn a bit about the swallowing process, and how things can go wrong along the way. We will also see how oral vitamin sprays may be a potential source of supplementation. This may be especially useful for patients who are suffering from malnutrition. *\*Disclaimer: Whilst this post is sponsored by* [*Spectra Spray*](https://www.spectraspray.com/)*, all opinions expressed are my own. *I am not a medical professional*, but have done meticulous research from credible sources for this article. *Nothing should be taken as medical advice.* *Always* be sure to check with your doctor before you start on *any* new treatment or protocol. This post might contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps to keep this blog running. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/) *page for more information. Thank you!* ## What is Dysphagia? [Dysphagia is the medical term for swallowing difficulties](https://www.yalemedicine.org/conditions/dysphagia-difficulty-swallowing) (Yale Medicine, n.d.). This usually has to do with problems in the neural control or structures involved in the swallowing process. Causes are wide-ranging, and therefore so are the treatments administered. ## The Stages & Complexity of Swallowing To understand the debilitating impact of dysphagia, let's first take a brief look at the swallowing process. The ability to swallow is something we often take for granted. But did you know that 50 pairs of muscles and nerves are needed to coordinate this process? The act of swallowing consists of three main stages. The first is known as the oral stage, and begins in the mouth. Chewing with saliva helps to soften and prepare the food for the next step. The second stage is known as the pharyngeal phase. It begins when the tongue pushes the food or liquid to the back of the mouth. This triggers a swallowing response to pass food or liquid from the mouth through the throat. The larynx closes and breathing stops. This is to ensure that the food or liquid does not enter the airway and lungs by accident. The third stage is called the esophageal phase. It begins when food or liquid enters the esophagus, which is the tube that carries them to the stomach. Pin to Your Health & Nutrition Boards: ![The Stages & Complexity of Swallowing](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/stages-complexity-swallowing.jpg) ## What Causes Dysphagia & Who Gets It? Dysphagia can affect all sorts of people, as it is a symptom of an underlying problem. It does occur most frequently in the elderly however. As we age our muscles weaken, including those involved in the swallowing process. A few other [medical conditions that can cause dysphagia](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/dysphagia/symptoms-causes/syc-20372028) are (Mayo Clinic, 2024): - **Acid Reflux & GERD.** Acid or gastroesophageal reflux causes contents in the stomach to flow back up to the esophagus. Common signs are heartburn, stomach pain and burping. [GERD (Gastroesophageal Reflux Disease) is the more severe form](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/heartburn/expert-answers/heartburn-gerd/faq-20057894) (Mayo Clinic, 2023). Patients suffer from frequent heartburns, and may also regurgitate food or sour liquid, cough, wheeze and present other chest pains and problems. - **Epiglottitis.** [Epiglottitis](https://www.msdmanuals.com/en-sg/home/ear,-nose,-and-throat-disorders/mouth-and-throat-disorders/epiglottitis) is a bacterial infection of the epiglottis and surrounding tissues that causes them to become inflamed (Cheng, 2024). The epiglottis is a tissue flap at the base of the tongue that shuts the entrance to the trachea (windpipe) and larynx (voice box) during swallowing. **Epiglottitis is considered a medical emergency**, as it [can cause asphyxia and respiratory arrest](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK430960/) (Sutton et al., 2024). - **Goiter.** The thyroid is a gland found in the neck, and the term ‘goiter’ is used to describe any condition where it becomes enlarged. It is a fairly common condition, with [approximately 5% of the population in the U.S. living with it](https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/goiter) (Johns Hopkins Medicine, 2023). Whilst tests are important to rule out cancer, [patients are usually asymptomatic](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC509493/) (Langham & Taylor, 1956). When a goiter grows too large, the swelling becomes obvious and the pressure can lead to difficulty breathing, coughing and swallowing. - **Esophageal Cancer.** [Cancerous growth in the lining of the esophagus](https://www.cancer.gov/types/esophageal/patient/esophageal-treatment-pdq) can cause chest pains, coughing, and painful or difficulty swallowing (National Cancer Institute, 2025). - **Infections.** Infections such as [Tuberculosis](https://journals.lww.com/eusjournal/fulltext/2013/02020/tuberculosis%5Fpresenting%5Fas%5Fdysphagia%5F%5Fclinical,.6.aspx) (Rana et al., 2013) and [Esophageal Candidiasis / Thrush](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK537268/) (Robertson et al., 2023) can cause pain or difficulty with swallowing. - **Cancer & Cancer Treatments.** [Cancers and tumors can cause dysphagia](https://www.mdanderson.org/cancerwise/dysphagia-in-cancer-patients--what-to-know-causes-diagnosis-prevention-treatment.h00-159305412.html), especially neck, mouth, esophagus and stomach cancer (Hutcheson, 2019). Radiation therapy causes scarring and fibrosis which can build up over time. It can also cause strictures, where the swallowing passage becomes constricted. - **Cerebral Palsy.** This is a [group of disorders that affect movement and the ability to maintain balance](https://www.cdc.gov/cerebral-palsy/about/index.html). It is the most common motor disability in childhood, with about 1 in 345 children living with it (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention \[CDC\], 2025). Children with Cerebral Palsy [commonly have feeding disorders and dysphagia](https://www.nature.com/articles/ejcn2013224). They must be monitored closely for aspiration, dehydration and malnutrition (Arvedson, 2013). - **Muscular Conditions.** Two muscular conditions associated with dysphagia are Scleroderma and Achalasia. [Scleroderma](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/BF02493531) is an autoimmune disorder where the body attacks healthy tissue. This can lead to stiffening of the throat and esophagus muscles (Montesi et al., 1991). [Achalasia](https://www.msdmanuals.com/en-sg/professional/gastrointestinal-disorders/esophageal-and-swallowing-disorders/achalasia) is a condition where the muscles in the esophagus are unable to relax to allow the passing of food or liquid to the stomach. Symptoms include progressive dysphagia (Lynch, 2024). - **Congenital and Developmental Conditions.** Some people are born with certain disorders that can increase the occurrence of dysphagia. Some of these disorders include: Cleft-lip and palate, and learning disabilities. - **Esophageal Diverticulum.** [**I personally suffer from this condition**](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/), and the [main symptoms of esophageal diverticulum](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12328-023-01765-2) are “dysphagia, regurgitation, weight loss, heartburn, respiratory complaints, and retrosternal pain when swallowing food” (Sato et al., 2023). Read Related Posts: - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) - [Learn More About the Super Rare Disease – Esophageal Diverticulum](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Sarah Frison – A Pastry Chef with a Stomach Disorder](https://achronicvoice.com/sarah-frison-pastry-chef-stomach-disorder/) Pin to Your Dysphagia & Chronic Illness Boards: ![What Causes Dysphagia & Who Gets It?](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/causes-dysphagia.jpg) ## Signs & Symptoms of Dysphagia According to the National Health Service (NHS) (2023), some [common symptoms of dysphagia](https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/swallowing-problems-dysphagia/) include: - Coughing or choking whilst or after eating - Wet or gurgly noises whilst or after eating - Shortness of breath whilst or after eating - Inability or extra effort needed to swallow - Drooling - Sensation of food stuck in the throat - Pocketing of food in the cheeks ## **Types of Dysphagia** Swallowing difficulty can be further broken down into [oropharyngeal and esophageal dysphagia](https://www.healthhub.sg/a-z/diseases-and-conditions/601/dysphagia) (HealthHub, 2021). The former consists of the first two stages of swallowing, and the latter the third. ### Oropharyngeal Dysphagia This is caused by disorders of the nerves and muscles in the throat, and are primarily nervous system disorders. These disorders weaken the muscles involved in swallowing, which can lead to choking or gagging. Some disorders that can cause oropharyngeal dysphagia are: Multiple Sclerosis, Parkinson’s Disease, Post-Polio Syndrome and also nerve damage from radiation therapy. ### Esophageal Dysphagia This occurs when a person feels as if there is something stuck in their throat. A few common causes include: - Spasms in the Lower Esophagus - Tightness in the Lower Esophagus - Narrowing or Scarring of the Esophagus - Foreign Bodies Lodged in the Esophagus or Throat - Swelling or narrowing of the esophagus from GERD or inflammation ## When Does Dysphagia Become Dangerous? Patients who suffer from dysphagia sometimes have a fear of eating or drinking due to the fear of choking, coughing and/or pain. This can lead to malnutrition and dehydration over time, which then leads to nutritional deficiencies and other health problems. If you do eat or drink but cough or choke often, there is also an increased risk of developing [aspiration pneumonia](https://www.pennmedicine.org/for-patients-and-visitors/patient-information/conditions-treated-a-to-z/aspiration-pneumonia) (Penn Medicine, n.d.). This is a chest infection that can develop as a result of foreign objects, such as food being lodged in the windpipe or lungs. Those with a weakened immune system, lung disorders such as COPD, the elderly or poor oral hygiene are at a higher risk. Read Related Posts: - [4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/) - [COVID-19 Vaccine Experiences from People with Chronic Conditions](https://achronicvoice.com/covid-19-vaccine-experiences/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Roy George – A Dramatic Life with a Short Bowel](https://achronicvoice.com/roy-george-dramatic-life-short-bowel/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Sarah Poitras – Round the World with a Lung Disease](https://achronicvoice.com/sarah-poitras-travelling-world-lung-disease/) ## How is Dysphagia Diagnosed? Dysphagia is a symptom of an underlying problem and therefore, the root cause needs to be determined and treated in order for it to improve. A team of medical specialists should be consulted for the diagnosis of dysphagia, based on other symptoms, occurrences, existing medical history and other factors. Some medical specialists who are involved in the process include: - An otolaryngologist, who specialises in head and neck disorders. - A gastroenterologist, who treats problems of the digestive system. - A neurologist, who treats problems of the brain, spinal cord and nervous system. - A speech-language pathologist, who are experts in the study and treatment of people who have speech, language and/or swallowing difficulties. There are also many medical tests that can be used to assess swallowing problems to lead to a [proper diagnosis of dysphagia](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33448766/) (Wilkinson et al., 2021). Some of these tests include: - **X-rays of the Chest and Neck Areas.** This helps to determine if any foreign objects are stuck. - **Barium Swallow Test.** This is a special x-ray test for the throat and esophagus, where you drink barium before it begins. The barium coats the inside of the esophagus, so that it shows up better on the x-ray. This can help in literally highlighting problematic areas. - **Fluoroscopy.** This test involves the swallowing of barium whilst videotaping the process. ([**Read more about my personal experience with a barium swallow test and fluoroscopy here**](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/).) - **Esophagoscopy or Upper Gastrointestinal Endoscopy.** These tests insert a small tube, known as a scope, down your throat. This helps with taking a closer look at the esophagus, stomach and upper intestines. Sometimes a biopsy is taken to check for inflammation or cancer cells. - **Manometry.** This test inserts a small tube with a computer attached down the esophagus. The computer measures the pressure in the esophagus when swallowing. - **pH Monitoring.** This test is designed to monitor how often acid from the stomach gets into the esophagus, and how long it stays there. Read Related Posts: - [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) - [MediSearch Review: A Medical AI Search Engine for Patients, Clinicians & Medical Writers](https://achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/) - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [How to Prepare for a Medical Appointment in a Post-Pandemic World (4 Top Tips From a Doctor)](https://achronicvoice.com/prepare-medical-appointment/) ## How is Dysphagia Treated? Treatment of dysphagia varies depending on the severity and root cause of the problem. Treatments can be non-invasive and consist of swallowing compensatory strategies or rehabilitation exercises. This is where patients work with a speech-language pathologist to learn new swallowing techniques. Diets can also be adapted so that the consistency of foods and liquids make them easier to swallow. In severe cases of dysphagia where the patient is suffering from malnutrition, alternative forms of feeding may be considered, such as tube feeding through the nose or stomach. Surgery may also be done to widen the esophagus by inserting a stent, which is a plastic or metal tube. ## How Do Oral Vitamin Sprays Help Patients with Dysphagia? Oral vitamin sprays are not a cure for dysphagia, but can be helpful in cases of malnutrition or malabsorption. Using them is simple - spray them on the insides of your cheeks, hold and swallow briefly. Our cheeks contain a myriad of rich blood vessels so the vitamins are quickly absorbed into the bloodstream. [Oral vitamin sprays have also been emulsified](https://nutritionj.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12937-015-0105-1) (broken down), so it saves the body the work of digesting them before use (Satia et al., 2015). They work faster as compared to traditional forms of supplementation that come in tablets and softgels. Tablets and softgels can be especially difficult for patients with dysphagia to swallow, as they often need to be swallowed whole. This can increase the risk of choking, and the discomfort can lead to medication non-compliance. Pin to Your Oral Vitamin Sprays, Dysphagia & Nutrition Boards: ![How Do Oral Vitamin Sprays Help Patients with Dysphagia?](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/oral-vitamin-sprays-patients-dysphagia.jpg) ## What Types of Oral Vitamin Sprays are There & Where Can I Get Them? [Spectra Spray](https://www.spectraspray.com/) is where I personally get oral vitamin sprays from. I have found the sleep spray particularly effective, having tried a plethora of other options as well. They also offer a variety of vitamin, CBD and combination sprays, such as you would find in a multivitamin. Pin to Your Oral Vitamin Sprays & Supplements Boards: ![Oral Vitamin Sprays - What Types are There & Where Can I Get Them?](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/oral-vitamin-sprays-types-where.jpg) ### A List of Spectra Spray’s Combination Sprays - Cal Mag + D3 Herbal Mineral Spray (A herbal supplement that contains more than 12 herbs that support health and wellness. Comes with added calcium and magnesium.) - Cafe Energy Spray (Natural caffeine combined with adaptogens and vitamins B6 and B12.) - Sleep Support Spray Supplement - MultiVitamin Spray Vitamin - CBD Oral Spray - CoQ10 'Ubiquinol' Spray Supplement - Immune Support Spray Supplement - Stress Support Spray Supplement ### A List of Spectra Spray’s Oral Vitamin Sprays - Folate Plus - B12 Energy Spray Vitamin - Iron Support Spray Supplement (in the form of Ferrazone) - Vitamin D3 Spray Supplement - Vitamin D3 with Vitamin K2 Spray Vitamin You can visit their online shop for more details, and view the ingredients used in their sprays.2 [Buy Oral Vitamin Sprays](https://www.spectraspray.com/?ref=ro3g2jmalw) *Spectra Spray Global is a spray vitamin company based in the USA with a mission to provide easy to use, highly effective, on-the-go health products that change lives everyday.* ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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Read Related Posts: - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) Save to Your Dysphagia, Chronic Pain & Nutrition Boards: ![Dysphagia &Swallowing Problems (and How Oral Vitamin Sprays Can be of Help to You)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/dysphagia-swallowing-problems-oral-vitamin-sprays.jpg) ![Dysphagia & Swallowing Problems (and How Oral Vitamin Sprays Can be of Help to You)wing Problems (and How Oral Vitamin Sprays Help with Nutritional Deficiencies)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/dysphagia-swallowing-problems-oral-vitamin-sprays-nutritional-deficiencies.jpg) ### References: - Arvedson, J. C. (2013). 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(n.d.). *Dysphagia (difficulty swallowing).* Retrieved 31 May 2025, from ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Nikki Albert Aug 14, 2021 My mom has trouble with this after her breast cancer treatment. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 21, 2021 I’m sorry to hear that, Nikki 🙁 It’s a condition that is scarier than most people can imagine. - [ Sandy ](http://Justliveforward.com) Aug 10, 2021 Sheryl – This is a fabulous article – so comprehensive! Having experienced this condition, I apppreciate the detail you’ve provided. I really wish that I had known about the oral vitamin sprays. I had no idea that something like that existed, and it would have been enormous help because I had so much difficulty eating as much as I needed to and wanted to. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 21, 2021 Thank you Sandy! I am glad that you approve of the article as a dysphagia sufferer yourself. I am always worried to provide misinformation so I do a lot of research. Yes I like my oral vitamin sprays! If you like you can use my link for a discount to try out 🙂 - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Aug 9, 2021 An excellent and informative post about dysphagia, Sheryl. I’ve already mentioned what my dad goes through and how he has suffered from this for most of his life. Now that he is older, it has gotten much worse for him. I’ve only experienced this in terrible times of illness and unfortunately, had to do that damn Barium swallow test. It’s awful. I HATE SCOPES!I’m sure that oral vitamin sprays will help many patients as I know many women in my fibro and AS group who also have dysphagia and struggle to take their meds. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 21, 2021 Gosh I hate scopes too and that disgusting barium that makes me vomit. It tastes like blood, literally. I hope your dad manages to find something to help him 🙁 Yes I hope oral sprays help more people out there who have trouble taking certain pills! - Katie Clark Aug 8, 2021 Thank you for thoroughly explaining this condition and how it is diagnosed. My friend is going through this process, so I sent it to him. It’s a very scary symptom. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 21, 2021 Thanks for sending it to him Katie. It definitely is terrifying. I’ve experienced choking sensations before (where apparently there was nothing ‘stuck’, so they said), where I was vomitting saliva for hours. It is definitely no fun at all. I wish your friend well. - Holly B Aug 6, 2021 Great information! I love the idea of using spray vitamins to get all the nutrients I need! Having MS I suffer with dysphagia and its always great to get information that can help me feel better!! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 21, 2021 I never knew you had MS or suffered from dysphagia too, Holly 🙁 I hope that this article was useful for you, and know that you are not alone! - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com/) Aug 5, 2021 The thought of being unable to swallow is so scary. I remember having my throat numbed with a liquid so a camera probe could be put in by the ENT – just that sensation of not being able to feel your throat was so uncomfortable. After that, swallowing for a few hours became tough as the numbness wore off. I’m glad there are vitamin sprays that can be helpful so that people don’t miss out on their vitamins.Very helpful post. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 6, 2021 Oh gosh, I really hate ENT and scopes and basically anything down my throat. I’m quite sensitive in that area and always gag so badly. I know that horrible feeling when the tubes come out – they also put in two big tubes for breathing when I underwent my heart surgery. I had a sore throat for days. I am glad you found the post helpful, and I hope you’re on your way to recovery, no matter how fast or slow. Sending love! - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Aug 21, 2021 I agree. I have suffered from this occasionally since my 20s, but it’s not regular. It only happens when I’m really sick and flaring. It’s terrifying with scopes! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### 12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/ Last updated: 2026-03-26T16:01:51.000Z ## The Frustrations of Invisible Illness The invisibility of chronic illness makes it incredibly frustrating. We look healthy, yet the pain under our skin can be excruciating. But is pain ever fully invisible? Painkillers mask the evidence of chronic pain somewhat, yet they often provide minimal relief. A body gone rogue is not easy to tame. And taming it requires a surprising element of trust. *\*Trigger Warning: This post contains images of blood, needles and flesh. Don't worry, they're not that gruesome ;) But if such images trigger you, please do not continue. Thank you and sending well wishes.* *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. Whilst I have done my utmost to be meticulous in research, *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* *First Published on: 15 May 2017* Pin to Your Invisible Illness Awareness & Medication Boards: ![Visible Evidence of Invisible Illness — Read the Post on A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness.jpg) ![Invisible Illness - Is it really invisible? Look at some evidence and decide for yourself...](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-evidence.jpg) ## Traces of a Body Gone Rogue If you pay enough attention, you will notice the little clues of a body gone rogue. Imprints of pain that the owner is trying to conceal, but there's always a little something left behind. Maybe it's the dark eye bags or bloodshot eyes. The dried, cracked lips, swollen fingers or bloated tummy. You know, the areas of a person's body we generally pay less attention to. We tend to only notice the over all shape of the body or hue of wellness. Maybe it's that constant look of fatigue, which you've already associated as part of their 'normal' appearance. Or the remnant wounds from scabs that never seem to heal. Maybe you've dissociated those minute actions we repeat; the unconscious rubbing of our belly, squinting, blinking, shaking our wrists. It's there. ## When People Presume You're Just a Cold, Hard Bitch Sometimes you don't need to use your eyes, but your ears to hear the agony. More often it's about what you don't hear. I tend to withdraw into silence when I'm in pain. Back in school, friends would often ask what was wrong, whilst other classmates would just assume that I was a cold, arrogant bitch. They thought that I had found the conversation topics boring. In actual fact, I was concentrating hard on being present despite the amount of pain I was in. The best thing they could do for me was to carry on as per usual, and allow me to participate in my own way. Pin to Your Invisible Illness & Quote Boards: ![Is Pain Ever Truly Invisible?](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pain-truly-invisible-quote.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [What’s It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [How Many Times Can You Hit Rock Bottom with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/rock-bottom/) ## Personal Photo Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue These are little signs that you usually wouldn't notice unless you live with me, or if I bring them up first. There are inconspicuous, until they ruin me enough to be obvious. Often, that is an emergency situation that requires hospitalisation. Pin to Your Chronic Illness Boards: ![Photo Evidence for a Body Gone Rogue](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/photo-evidence-body-gone-rogue.jpg) ### Heartbreaking Hair Loss My hair was falling out in bunches and clumps every day for a period of time from medications. I was on sodium valproate (Epilim) to control my epilepsy, and this wasn't even supposed to be a 'normal' side effect of the drug. These pictures do not include all the loose strands scattered and floating around the house. Wherever I went, I left behind some of my hair. It was frustrating to see yet more hair on the ground, right after I had mopped up even! When I first posted about this to Instagram, some African-American girls rolled their virtual eyes at me and said that this was nothing; that it was their norm. But I'm Asian with stringy, mousy, fine limp hair. So that is indeed, a big bunch, pun intended. ![Hair loss from meds - achronicvoice.com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/hair-loss-from-medications.jpg) ![Hair loss from meds - achronicvoice.com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/hair-on-floor.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [So This is What a Tonic Clonic Seizure Feels Like](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) - [5 Things You Should Know About My Epilepsy (It’s More Than Just Seizures)](https://achronicvoice.com/epilepsy-more-than-just-seizures/) - [Appearances – the First Layer of Defense](https://achronicvoice.com/appearances-first-layer-defense/) - [When Autoimmune Disorder Ravages Your Face (and How That Led to My Body Dysmorphic Disorder)](https://achronicvoice.com/body-dysmorphic-disorder/) - [What’s it Like to be on a High Dose of Steroids? (And the First Question You Will Definitely Ask)](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) ### Pesky Head and Brain Inflammation When I tell people that I have brain inflammation, what I mean is that there are micro haemorrhages in the blood vessels there due to [Lupus (SLE)](http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/lupus/basics/definition/con-20019676). Sometimes this goes into overdrive and bulge out in swollen lumps all over my skull. My hair hides most of them, but I can’t do anything about the reddish bumps visible on my forehead. They look like rashes, but feel more like bruises. Sometimes they don’t go away for days, and start to give me a headache from a buildup of pressure. ![Brain and head inflammation from lupus and sjögren's - find out ore at www.achronicvoice.com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/forehead-blood-vessels-swollen-inflammation.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) ### Embarrassing Eye and Lip Inflammation I had to stop wearing contact lens so frequently due to dry eyes from [Sjögren’s Syndrome](http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/sjogrens-syndrome/basics/definition/con-20020275). No matter how much I moisturised them, it still wasn’t enough. Your eyes can turn red from a lack of moisture; this can range from mild irritation to a persistent pain. There’s no pill you can take to make it feel better. Here’s what it looks like when the inflammation travels over to the eyes. Lip inflammation is a little more obvious when seen up close in person. I hate having it there as it makes me look like a freak, and I can't conceal it. ![Inflammation from sjogren dry eyes - find out more at www.achronicvoice.com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/red-eye-sjogrens-dry-eye-inflammation.jpg) ### Warning Inflammation in my Hands My hands are a favourite target, and warning signs of an upcoming flare tend to start from there. The [swelling](https://www.lupus.org/resources/how-lupus-affects-the-muscles-tendons-and-joints) is actually three times more painful than it looks in this picture. Put it this way - if someone is able to hide their pain when it is bad, imagine what it must be like when it becomes visible. ![Inflammation in small joints and hands from lupus and sjögren's - find out more at www.achronicvoice.com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/lupus-hand-joint-inflammation.jpg) ![Kefentech anti-inflammatory plaster for lupus and sjögren flare - find out more at www.achronicvoice.com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/kefentench-anti-inflammatory-plaster-wrist.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [All I Want for Christmas is Some Pain Relief! (Real Wish List Ideas from 13 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/all-i-want-for-christmas-pain-relief/) - [How to Survive the Holidays When Chronic Illness & Disability Cause Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/survive-the-holidays-chronic-illness-disability-pain/) ### Bleeding that Takes a Day to Staunch I have a blood clotting disorder called Antiphospholipid Syndrome, and take a blood thinner medication, warfarin, to prevent blood clots. This 'fix' helps with preventing strokes, heart attacks, DVTs, pulmonary embolisms and other life-threatening medical conditions. But the downside is that my blood is ultra thin, so bleeding from cuts or wounds can take a long time to staunch. Clean cuts are the worst. I've had paper cuts that have taken 24 hours to shut their gaps. I am aware of the fact that [**I can bleed to death rather quickly**](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) in a major or even minor accident. In fact, I've had several near-death encounters from internal haemorrhages from 'normal' bodily functions, which you can read about in the related posts below. ![Bleeding that takes a day to stop, due to warfarin (blood thinners) for antiphospholipid syndrome - find out more at www.achronicvoice.com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/bleeding-from-warfarin.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [Wound Care & What to Wear After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery/) - [Pregnancy, Miscarriage & Women’s Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) ### Abusive-Looking Bruises from Blood Thinners & Pets As you know by now, I am on blood thinners for APS, which also makes it way too easy for me to get bruises. A light bump, pinch or punch can add a new bruise to the endless collection. I'm often surprised to find a new one hidden somewhere on my body. Recently with my new puppy, it's been worse as well. He's a bit of a biter and chewer even though his baby teeth have all grown out. And he's got all that sheepdog energy which he happily takes out on me. I mean, look at the pictures and you'll see what I mean. People often ask if I'm being abused. Read Related Posts: - [Why I Moved from SiteGround to Cloudways (and Couldn’t be Happier). Plus Cute Puppy Pics & A New Pacing Strategy.](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/) - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) - ["It's in My Blood": Kelly Hodgkins — Riding Horses with CRPS](https://achronicvoice.com/kelly-hodgkins-riding-horses-with-crps/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Bree Dixon – Paris Je T’aime, Even with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/bree-dixon-paris-je-taime-chronic-pain/) [Read on My SubStack: The Way My Dog, Talisker, Brings Me Joy](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/the-way-my-dog-talisker-brings-me) ### Ugly Pigment Discolouration from Medication My shins are covered with a different kind of pigment discolouration, which can sometimes be harder to differentiate to the untrained eye. This is a [side effect from taking hydroxychloroquine](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5289873/), which is a staple drug for many people with Lupus and Sjögren's Syndrome due to proven efficacy rates. ![Bruise from taking warfarin (blood thinners) for antiphospholipid syndrome - find out more at www.achronicvoice.com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/bruises-from-antiphospholipid-syndrome.jpg) ### Sneaking in a Secret Lie Down in Public Here’s me at the dentist, curled up on the couch as there was no one else there. I had ground off half a molar tooth (!) from my TMD and bruxism issues the night before. So I had no choice but to be there despite having a terrible day. When I walk out of the dentist's, nobody would even know that I had been in severe pain. ![Lying down in pain at the dentist's - read more at www.achronicvoice.com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/public-chronic-pain-lie-down.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation ](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/)[Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) - [4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/) ### My Daily Medication Cocktail (Not Very Tasty) I take my medications in three separate doses per day, but I have combined them all for the sake of this article. That’s a total of 21 pills (I actually didn’t know as they keep changing, and counted them just for this post!). If I look fine to you and appear to be able to function, it’s because I take this many pills per day. *P.s. It's been a few years so that cocktail's changed again. I'll lay out the new mix someday...* ![My daily medication cocktail - find out more at www.achronicvoice.com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/daily-medication-cocktail.jpg) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life & Medication Boards: ![My Daily Chronic Illness Cocktail (The Not so Tasty Kind)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/daily-chronic-illness-cockatail.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [A Pain Pill, a Caress, an Exhalation of Relief](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-pill-caress-relief/) ### My Life-Saving Enoxaparin Injections & Coaguchek Kit This is something you’ll only see if you live or travel with me. I love my [**Coaguchek kit**](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#coaguchek) as it provides me with a sense of security. I am able to check my [**INR**](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#INR) (blood clotting time) with a prick of the finger. Diet is a big cause for fluctuations, and this can be a problem when travelling. If my blood isn't thin enough, then I need to inject myself with [**Enoxaparin**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/#enoxaparin), which is a short-term blood thinner. I also need to switch to these pre-surgeries or during pregnancy, if ever. ![My coaguchek XS machine - read more at www.achronicvoice.com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/coaguchek-xs-machine.jpg) ![My enoxaparin injection - read more at www.achronicvoice.com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/enoxarin-clexane-injection.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Travelling New Paths with Chronic Illnesses in My Pocket](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-new-paths-chronic-illness/) ### Glaring Criminal Evidence in My Bedside Drawer & My Mini Pharmacy Not very smart. Tons of pills for all sorts of purposes scattered everywhere. Common ones more accessible in the upper drawer, and less used ones below. Sometimes scattered on the table for emergency purposes. Always a bottle of water in case I need to swallow some pills. Antihistamines for urticaria/hives and itching. Painkillers for all sorts of chronic pains. NSAID pain patches for inflammed joints and muscles. Calcium channel blockers for arrhythmia/irregular heart rhythms. Measurement tools to test my blood pressure and blood clotting times. A plastic bag for waste and in case I need to throw up. Various anti-anxiety medications for different purposes - panic and anxiety attacks, and for the occasional messed up sleep due to hyperactivity from my steroids or from painsomnia. Ironically, I also keep more prednisone/steroids in my drawer. They're necessary for when an unbearable pain flare strikes, one where even strong painkillers do jack shit. It looks like a mini lab in the store room. Housing agents have asked questions about my 'mini pharmacy', for which I have no simple answer to. There's more medication in the kitchen of course; liquids that need to be poured out, or those that need mixing with water for effervescence. ![Drawerful of meds at my bedside table #besideChronicBeside - read more at www.achronicvoice.com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/beside-table-medications-books.jpg) ![My 'mini pharmacy' for chronic illness at home - read more at www.achronicvoice.com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/home-storage-mini-pharmacy.jpg) Pin to Your Invisible Illness Awareness & Medication Boards: ![12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Ever Truly Invisible?)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/12-visible-evidence-body-gone-rogue.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-home-resources-learned-other-blogs/) - [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable in Bed ](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/) - [Learn More About the Super Rare Disease – Esophageal Diverticulum](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) ### Bits & Pieces of Leftover Scars I have a fairly big scar from [**my mitral valve repair surgery**](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) at the bottom of one boob. I'm glad that I didn't have to do an [open heart surgery](https://medlineplus.gov/ency/article/002950.htm) in the end, and that it's mostly hidden beneath my clothes. Here's also another scar from a [tenosynovectomy](https://rheumatoidarthritis.net/surgery/hand-and-wrist-surgery/), where they had to remove the [tendon sheath from my wrist](http://www.healthline.com/health/tenosynovitis) due to [tuberculosis complications](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2190554/). Both surgeons did a fantastic job of stitching me back up, and I'm grateful to have had them. Some of my dearest healthcare memories were of conversations with them, even though I saw them for only one procedure. I remember my heart surgeon telling me why he decided to go down this path. And my hand surgeon showing me pictures of his gory handiwork with passion-filled eyes. While the scars have faded beautifully, the marks will remain forever. ![My tenosynovectomy scar - read more at www.achronicvoice.com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/tenosynovectomy-wrist-scar.jpg) ## In Conclusion to Invisible Illness - There is Always Visible Evidence if You Pay Closer Attention There are more scars on and inside my body which I won't show you due to their R21 nature, so we’ll stop here ;) As you can see however, a body gone rogue can be a very subtle thing. But if you view the world around you through empathetic and observant eyes, you will notice how many stories there are waiting to be told, both happy and sad. Life can be tough as it is. A little more kindness, thoughtfulness and willingness can go a long way. What other signs do you have that are there with chronic illness or disability, yet can be easy to miss out if people don’t stop to notice? 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Read Related Posts: - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [Why I Need to See 10 Different Doctors on a Regular Basis](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [Chronic Illness is Expensive, but Here’s the Real Reason Why](https://achronicvoice.com/real-reason-why-chronic-illness-expensive/) Read More About Invisible Illness Experiences from Other Chronic Illness Bloggers: - [Living with invisible illness and the challenges it poses](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/living-invisible-illness/) - [15 Ways Anyone Can "See" My Invisible Illness, Fibromyalgia](http://caseythecollegeceliac.blogspot.sg/2017/08/living-with-fibromyalgia-15-ways-anyone-see-invisible-illness-fibromyalgia.html) - [9 Ways You Can See My Invisible Illness, Celiac Disease](http://caseythecollegeceliac.blogspot.sg/2017/10/9-ways-see-invisible-illness-celiac-disease-symptoms.html) - [22 Photos of How Illness Changed People's Bodies (That They're Not Hiding Anymore)](https://themighty.com/2017/06/photos-chronic-illness-body-change/) Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Invisible Illness Boards: ![12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Ever Truly Invisible?)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/12-visible-evidence-body-gone-rogue-2.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Kyle Williams Jul 18, 2025 Despite being wiped out totally from a crazy day yesterday, only capable of doom scrolling, i stumbled upon this & decided o needed to read it. An hour later, two things strike me; i bet your experience & knowledge base is probably massive & as I’m now starting to discover, the more mystifying, complex & beyond our medical comprehension is this strange condition (& who knows if it’s triggered by other conditions, extreme stress {of maybe multiple varieties}, genetics, or indeed any combination of those or more things, i get the feeling it’s something medics just don’t want too touch. One condition, ok they can deal with that. Ones caused by that one, a bit harder. Anything else, forget it! (My journey originally began with ADPKD & a damaged back. Both involve intense pain, randomness of symptoms & even drawing other things in) As a scientist I’m intensely rational BUT also realise how little we actually know & how ppl mostly expect clinicians to have not just answers but cures. I fully grasp some things can’t \[yet? Ever?\] Be cured or won’t be until we understand more & stop the attitude of testing things as individual issues! So multiple symptoms for the same cause might be normal for us, we know that & learn to read it (once we realise that we can’t avoid it forever!) but it’s easy beyond many professionals, unless they have experience! That leaves us to sort it on our own. Being your own expert can be threatening but it doesn’t need to be! We just need to have a certain level of confidence to even seek support which means taking about stuff! I’m not one to question other’s symptoms, if that’s what they suffer, then i trust them (none of us needs more hassle than we already have by adding stuff that isn’t real!) it makes me realise even more how complex we are & how amazing it is that more doesn’t go wrong with us earlier in life! But having a condition shouldn’t sideline is it make us feel excluded or pariahs. We just have s different measure by which we live so that we can still function despite being impaired. We also grasp what really goes on with interactions between drugs & often how drugs can end up totally ineffective, even detrimental & we have to become experts in our own care. It’s not arrogance, it’s a necessity born of the inability for medicine to have solutions! We need to remember (& be proud of things like the fact that we manage to survive symptoms, including levels of pain, that the „normal” person would struggle with & the mental side can & i guess usually is, apart from being even more hidden, though there are signs once we realise what to look for, can be even more destructive & takes even more strength to cope with than anyone who hasn’t experienced it could imagine.) We get sidelined so easily by others that can’t relate to or cope with us or our lives, we often can only rely on each other for support & validation. That we can & we can share openly gives me so much hope! No matter how bad it might feel, were not alone & look after each other, even if it’s no more than saying „you’re not alone!” So thank you all of you, despite, or is that in-spite, of your own issues, most of all Sheryl, for having the time to contribute, research & curate this & therefore support each other. {One day or symptoms & conditions WILL become mainstream & common knowledge, just like cancer has become & genetic renal failure (my primary condition) is becoming.} It’s this sort of stuff that helps us be able to get through that next second or wake up refreshed ready to fight again next morning. You’re all wonderful ppl for still being around, despite the pressures on us! 👋🏻😀 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 4, 2025 Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and lived experiences, Kyle. And sorry for the late reply as I wanted to read it carefully and have been mega unwell, too. I agree with you that comorbidities can just jumble everything up into one big mess… I mean, the body does work as one unit, afterall! I sincerely hope you’re feeling a bit better today, and sending good thoughts! - [ Lucjan ](http://worryhead.com) Jul 24, 2021 Your body may break but your spirit NEVER does! My heart goes to ALL chronically ill women. Regardless of your chronic condition, big or small, you are invisible to others… …especially to MEN! Men need to men up and help women with their struggles. There’s still a normalization of “female issues “, and it frustrates me to bits! Male doctors ignore women, their problems are swept aside. Women suffer and seem to be invisible in men’s eyes, their problems are invisible, their pain is invisible, their illness is invisible, and the list goes on… Men need to combat other men who neglect, and willingly or not, hurt women. Men should rise above their pride and delusional ideas. So to I bow to those gents who care, who support, and who spread awareness about the issue of invisible women and invisible illness. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 27, 2021 Thank you Lucjan. Also for all you do to raise awareness of endometriosis, and fight on our side. You are very much appreciated! 🙂 - [ Mother Wintermoon ](http://motherwintermoon.wordpress.com) Jul 22, 2021 As a person with chronic auto-immune diseases, c-ptsd and multiple hospitalizations I can woefully relate! I’ve lost over half of my hair. It would grow back, then BAM! — another medication, flare-up or major surgery would cause it fall out again. Sending abundant love and many hugs your way…sister in spirit. 🙏 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 27, 2021 Thank you for your comment. I know… doctors and people think hair doesn’t matter. That it’s just hair, it’ll grow back, that it’s superficial. But no. It impacts self-esteem especially for women a great big deal. I love my hair (in all its fine, limp, mousiness). I don’t want to go bald. - Kyle Williams Jul 18, 2025 🤔 i Like your last comment! I don’t think any of us want too! I’ve had a few years of extreme stress which, contrary to what many medics say, my hair has gone white & i am rapidly balding, exactly the same as my dad did but he took 10-15 yrs, I’m almost as bad in 5 yrs! It’s stuff like that that we struggle to cope with but your stuff, helps us cope! I’m almost at the point of accepting it’ll be departed soon so i may consider doing the job properly! (I guess that’s not on your list!) Talking about it though matters! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 4, 2025 Talking about it (at least for me!) helps for sure. But it also depends on who I talk to haha. I would be happy to share about your ‘invisible’ illness and side effects on the blog, if you ever wish to share! - [ Melissa ](https://walkwithme383.blogspot.com/) Jul 20, 2021 There are so many not-so-invisible signs of chronic illness. My biggest one is the way I walk. My gait has been really affected by my spinal problems. I can only take very small, sort of shuffling, steps. My bottom kind of sticks out, too, so with my cane I really look like a cartoon of an old lady. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 27, 2021 I am sorry to hear that Melissa 🙁 I have a friend who has a funny gait too due to a car accident. And sometimes people on the street stare at her, so I stare back. I don’t get it. Is it that ‘fascinating’? People are strange. - Kyle Williams Jul 18, 2025 Wow! I had a massive fibro flare back on Mar 1st. I’m STILL recovering & a mini-flare last month appears to have done some more damage to L5/S1 & i now have little choice but to use 2 poles when i walk due to the shooting pains. It does at times often involve lots of shuffling! Frankly, I’m too focused on not falling over to even listen to, let alone care about what others say or think! That’s their problem! Enjoy! I don’t care what it looks like! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 4, 2025 Yea I walk funny too because of my two broken knees (you can read all about it here if you like: ), and multiple long hospital stays – we know how those just weaken the muscles further! For me it can be frustrating when I want to move faster, but simply can’t :/ - [ the joyous living ](https://www.thejoyousliving.com) Jul 20, 2021 oh gosh — my hair is constantly falling out too! i thought it was just me. my hairdresser will also do special vitamin deep washes yearly to help remove the chemical buildup in my hair from the medicines. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 27, 2021 Haha not only you! A hair is a woman’s pride! Yes I also go for hair loss treatment, and it seems to help quite a bit! - [ Despite Pain ](https://despitepain.com/) Jul 17, 2021 Like you say, is pain or illness ever really invisible? Even when there are no actual visible signs, you can often see it in someone’s eyes. For me, my visible sign is one I’ve gone through my life wishing was completely invisible. I have scoliosis and had always tried to dress to cover it, but it’s not easy unless I’m wearing a NASA spacesuit lol. On bad pain days, nothing can disguise my shape. On better pain days, I think to myself that it can’t be seen, then a stranger gives a sympathetic look and asks if I’ve got a sore back. I used to be embarrassed by that. Now, I see it as an awareness exercise lol. I also appreciate those people because they are demonstrating empathy. Your mini pharmacy is quite impressive. And it even stocks Baileys!! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 27, 2021 I am sorry to hear that, Elizabeth 🙁 Yes I think at this point, I’ve gotten used to being visible when it does become visible. I just limp if I need to, lie down where I want… becoming a cranky, eccentric old lady 😉 Haha it was the ex’s booze stock. But it goes nicely with the mini pharmacy, don’t you think?! - [ Claire ](http://throughthefibrofog.com) Jul 15, 2021 Oh there are so many signs of chronic illness aren’t there. The dark circles under my eyes is probably the most obvious for me, but also scars from injections and cannulas etc. So many things, but perhaps others don’t see them clearly as we do. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 27, 2021 Definitely, if people only paid closer attention, by a little bit! - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Sep 26, 2020 I related so hard to this post, Sheryl. Amazing that I haven’t seen it before because I’ve read almost everything on your site! One of my telltale signs is that I’ve got my arms wrapped around my body like I’m holding myself together. You can tell just by how I’m sitting. Thank you for sharing and being so brave and upfront about everything you live with, Sheryl. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 28, 2020 Thanks Carrie. For sure the signs are there. What’s funny is that this is the only post on my site that has been flagged as containing ‘shocking content’ so ads don’t show on this particular page. Our lives must be really shocking to viewers :p xxx - [ Shruti ](http://allthingsendometriosis.com) Feb 18, 2020 You know, I think it’s incredible – the sort of issues chronic illness throws up and how resilient you need to be to keep doing what you need to despite the constant setbacks which may not be obvious to the average person. I’m so glad you’ve written about these signs – I’m beginning to realise how much we ignore (try to at least). Thank you for sharing this – more strength and love to you Sheryl. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 18, 2020 Thank you so much for your support and kindness Shruti, I appreciate it 🙂 Yes it does take quite a bit of effort and we often don’t even realise it as we trudge on. Sending love to you on your journey, too. May it be a peaceful one, as much as is possible 🙂 - Emma England Oct 25, 2017 Thank you for sharing this. It’s very brave of you, and I imagine it wasn’t easy. It does a fantastic job in raising awareness of how much hidden pain there is in invisible illnesses. I’m sorry you have so much to deal with x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 25, 2017 Thank you Emma! No it wasn’t easy as I hate plastering my face all over the internet haha. But I think it helps when there are visuals to it 🙂 Thank you so much for dropping by and sharing! x - Micki Hogan Jun 7, 2017 This is an excellent post that really speaks volumes to how invisible illnesses are actually quite visible. Will be sharing the heck out of this article!! Great job lady!!! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 7, 2017 Hi Micki, Thanks for the feedback and I really appreciate the support! 🙂 - Liberty May 25, 2017 I am sorry you have to deal with all these, I can also relate a little, the cracked lips are the worst they look awful and are painful! take care xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 25, 2017 Hi Liberty, Thank you for your empathy. Life is still manageable so no worries! Just wanted to raise awareness using photos, because pain is never fully invisible if a person really pays attention (e.g. emotional pain) 🙂 Take care and hope you have a wonderful day! - Layla May 18, 2017 So sorry you have to deal with all these! I found the hair loss the worst, although mine has stopped a while ago I have not that much left and it’s really lowering my self esteem! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 18, 2017 Yes, I find the hair loss worst too! It really does lower your self esteem a great deal, and the cruellest thing is when doctors or friends just go, “stop being stupid, it’s just hair” 😉 - [ Caz ](http://invisiblyme.com/) May 17, 2017 Great post, and many of these I can really identify with. I didn’t know about the pigment issue (no.6) with Hydroxychloroquine – I’ve been taking it for just over 2 months now, hoping it has some benefit in the upcoming months. Have you noticed any improvements regarding your Lupus since taking it? x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 17, 2017 Hi Caz, Glad it’s relatable! 🙂 As for hydroxychloroquine, I’m surprised the pigmentation issue is pretty unknown (another reader also mentioned the same problem). Maybe it is more common in Asia, I’m unsure, but my doctor knew right away what it was. As for whether it helps with the Lupus, I’ve been taking it over a decade so probably. Exactly how, I’m not sure 😉 My doc says it’s one of those drugs that’s good to just maintain there for Lupus because apparently it does help. I hope you’re not having too many side effects! x - [ Caz ](http://invisiblyme.com/) Jun 3, 2017 Thanks for the reply. Just wanted to let you know I’ve been taking it for maybe 2 months or a little more now and aside from the initial mental side effects (counteracted now with Citalopram, though the rheumatologist said she didn’t think depression or anxiety or anything similar was a known side effect!) I’m doing okay on it. Can’t say I can see any benefits yet though, but I’ll keep my fingers crossed. Perhaps with the pigmentation it’s just a case that it’s not brought up as a possible side effect, and I haven’t gone looking for that issue online, though I’m sure that if I did I’d find plenty of information and experiences from others who have dealt with that side-effect. In general, when getting medication in the UK we seem to very rarely, if at all, be made aware of any side-effects! x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 4, 2017 Hi Caz, Seems like many people in the U.S. don’t know about the hydroxychloroquine pigmentation issue…I’ve had quite a few people message me about it! My doc picked it up immediately, maybe more common side effect in Asian women? I’ve been on it for a decade maybe so I don’t know…but I’m still on a fairly high dose of steroids as well all this time. My doc said it’s a good drug to keep in the cocktail regardless. I hope it works for you! - Magic Miss Bri May 16, 2017 Stuff that looks like really bad acne in my face, but it’s the malar Lupus rash. The Frankenstein-esque scar across the front of my neck from a C6-C7 vertebra fusion, my walking away or trying not to breathe when those Wal-Mart perfumes are around me and my making my own laundry detergent (chemical sensitivity), not wearing bras and wearing a lot of Jersey cotton (due to tightness and pain on skin), never wearing high heels and mostly wearing slip-on shoes (easier to deal with in pain). SLE and Fribro, plus a myriad of side conditions sufferer. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 16, 2017 Exactly…ways we need to skirt around everyday life but are unseen, or misunderstood. Would be interesting to see your photos and explanations somewhere (although I totally understand if you don’t/can’t share…was just curious) 🙂 I hope you are having a decent day! x **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body URL: https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/ Last updated: 2026-04-28T14:25:19.000Z When we mention vitamin D, we tend to think of sunshine and milk. When we mention vitamin K, many people often go, ‘what does that vitamin do again?’. This article explains the role that these two vitamins play in the body, and how they work together synergistically for optimal health and well-being. We will also take a look at the various methods of supplementation, and how oral vitamin sprays can be helpful for those who suffer from malabsorption or chronic illnesses that interfere with the regular methods of supplementation. 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Read Related Posts: - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) More Posts I Have Written for SpectraSpray: - [GABA for Sleep & Supplements that Work Best Together with It](https://www.spectraspray.com/post/gaba-for-sleep-supplements-work-best-together) - [Multivitamins for Kids - What They Can and Cannot Support](https://www.spectraspray.com/post/multivitamins-for-kids-can-cannot-support) ## Types of Vitamin D (Vitamin D2 & Vitamin D3) In general, [vitamin D](https://www.hsph.harvard.edu/nutritionsource/vitamin-d/) is both a nutrient we eat or take, and a hormone that our body makes. It comes in two forms - vitamin D2 (ergocalciferol) and vitamin D3 (cholecalciferol) (Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health, 2023). When we refer to the “[sunshine vitamin](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3356951/)” or to vitamin D in general, we are mostly referring to vitamin D2 (Nair & Maseeh, 2012). [Certain medications can interaction with vitamin D](https://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/VitaminD-HealthProfessional/), such as orlistat, statins, steroids and thiazide diuretics (Office of Dietary Supplements \[ODS\], 2024). It is a fat-soluble vitamin, meaning that it is stored in body fat. [Vitamin D toxicity](https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/endocrinology/articles/10.3389/fendo.2018.00550/full) is a possibility if we overdose on it. This can lead to hypercalcemia and hypercalciuria. Symptoms include nausea, muscle weakness, neuropsychiatric disturbances, kidney stones, renal failure and more (Marcinowska-Suchowierska et al., 2018). For the reasons listed above, it is important to discuss with your doctor before taking any supplements. ## Types of Vitamin K (Vitamin K1 & Vitamin K2) [Vitamin K](https://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/VitaminK-HealthProfessional/) is also a fat-soluble vitamin. It comes in the forms of vitamin K1 (phylloquinone), and vitamin K2 (a series of menaquinones). Compared to other fat-soluble vitamins, very little vitamin K actually circulates within the blood. It is rapidly metabolised and excreted (ODS, 2021). Experts believe that the absorption rate is a little better for vitamin K2, as it is often found in foods that contain fat. In addition, vitamin K2 has a longer side chain. This allows for a longer circulation time in the body as compared to vitamin K1\. There is also a third synthetic form - vitamin K3 - known as menadione. It is no longer used in dietary supplements as lab studies have shown that it damages hepatic cells (ODS, 2021). ## **The Basic Roles of Vitamin D** [Vitamin D helps with the absorption and retention of the minerals, calcium and phosphorus](https://pubchem.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/compound/Ergocalciferol), in the body. These are essential 'materials' for the body to build and maintain healthy bones (National Center for Biotechnology Information \[NCBI\], 2025). It also has a role to play in cardiovascular disease, as it helps to regulate blood pressure, vascular cell growth, inflammatory and fibrotic pathways. [Studies have also shown that vitamin D may play a positive role](https://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/VitaminD-HealthProfessional/) in (ODS, 2024): - Controlling infections - Reducing inflammation - Inhibiting carcinogenesis - Slowing tumour progression According to the ODS (2024), some studies have also shown a correlation of low vitamin D levels in patients with Multiple Sclerosis (MS). But there are no concrete results from clinical trials so far, for disease management or prevention of MS. What is interesting is that many of the body's organs and tissues have receptors for vitamin D. This suggests that vitamin D plays important roles beyond bone health, although scientists are still trying to figure that out. [Vitamin D2 is approved for the treatment](https://www.rxlist.com/calciferol-side-effects-drug-center.htm) of: hypoparathyroidism, vitamin D-resistant rickets and hypophosphatemia (RxList, 2023). Vitamin D3 is commonly used in dietary supplements to aid with calcium absorption. Studies have shown that [vitamin D3 can be superior](https://academic.oup.com/jcem/article-abstract/96/3/E447/2597204) in raising the body's stores of vitamin D (Heaney et al., 2011). ## The Basic Roles of Vitamin K [Vitamin K plays a few important roles](https://lpi.oregonstate.edu/mic/vitamins/vitamin-K) in the body, such as: blood clotting, and the prevention of osteoporosis and coronary heart disease. Without vitamin K, the proteins that depend on it for blood clotting cannot form. This can lead to excessive bleeding (Linus Pauling Institute \[LPI\], 2022). [Vitamin K is a cofactor of gamma-carboxylation of many proteins](https://www.mdpi.com/1422-0067/20/4/896), including osteocalcin, one of the main proteins in bone (Halder et al., 2019). [Osteocalcin is produced during osteoblasts](https://www.annualreviews.org/content/journals/10.1146/annurev.nu.15.070195.000245). These cells build up the skeleton during the remodeling process. Newly made osteocalcin is inactive, and requires vitamin K2 to activate it, and for calcium to bind (Vermeer et al., 1995). Apart from that, the matrix GLA protein (MGP) is vitamin-K dependent. This protein [prevents the calcification and stiffening of arterial walls](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29188966/) and [soft tissue](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2161831322009814) from the accumulation of calcium. Vitamin K2 is much more efficient than vitamin K1 for this purpose, due to the way they are metabolised. As such, many experts believe that vitamin K is necessary for bone growth and development, too (Paakkari, 2016; Theuwissen et al., 2012). ## Where to Get Your Daily Dose of Vitamin D Most of the vitamin D that Americans take comes from fortified foods in their diet, as few foods naturally contain vitamin D. For example, infant formula in Canada and the U.S. needs to contain a minimum requirement of vitamin D. The same goes for milk in Canada as well (ODS, 2024). [Vitamin D2 mainly comes from plant-based sources](https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/vitamin-d2-vs-d3) such as: mushrooms grown in UV light. It is also taken in the form of fortified foods and dietary supplements. Vitamin D3 mainly comes from animal-based sources such as: oily fish, egg yolks, butter, liver and also from dietary supplements (Arnarson, 2023). Vitamin D3 is also produced by our skin when exposed to UVB (ultraviolet B) radiation from the sun. The benefit of obtaining vitamin D from sunlight is that you can't overdose on it; your skin simply produces less of it if the body already has a sufficient supply (Arnarson, 2023). A few things to note if you do plan to spend more time in the sun: wear sunscreen, especially when the sun is at its hottest, as overexposure to UV light can lead to other health problems such as skin cancer. You should also be exposed to sunlight outdoors and not indoors behind a glass panel, as glass blocks out the UV rays (Arnarson, 2023). ## Where to Get Your Daily Dose of Vitamin K Vitamin K1 is the predominant form of [vitamin K found in the human diet](https://microbialcellfactories.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12934-021-01574-7). It can mainly be found in green leafy vegetables such as spinach and kale. And also in broccoli, vegetable oils and some fruits (Zhang et al., 2021). Vitamin K2 from food varies by subtype, and can mainly be found in fermented foods and animal-based sources. MK-4 is the only subtype of vitamin K2 that is not produced by bacteria. It can be found in some animal products such as chicken, egg yolks and butter (Zhang et al., 2021). Other subtypes of vitamin K, from MK-5 through MK-15, have longer chains, and are produced by bacteria. They can mainly be found in fermented foods. Natto is a form of fermented soybeans which is particularly high in MK-7\. Some cheeses also contain a good amount of vitamin K2 in the forms of MK-8 and MK-9\. Some recent studies have also shown pork products to contain vitamin K2 in the forms of MK-10 and MK-11, although such long chains provide little vitamin K activity and are poorly absorbed (Zhang et al., 2021). Almost all menaquinones are also produced in the body within the gut. You can find a [list of common foods that contain vitamin K on the ODS website](https://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/VitaminK-HealthProfessional/) (2021). Pin to Your Vitamin D & Vitamin K Boards: ![Where to Get Your Daily Dose of Vitamins D and K — Read the post on A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/where-to-get-daily-dose-vitamins-d-and-k.jpg) ## Causes of Vitamin D Deficiency According to Yale Medicine (n.d.), a few contributors to [vitamin D deficiency](https://www.yalemedicine.org/conditions/vitamin-d-deficiency) include: - **Limited exposure to sunlight.** This could be a result of spending too much time indoors, living in a place where there is limited sunlight, or aging, where the skin's ability to synthesize vitamin D from the sun decreases. - **Malabsorption.** This could be due to a chronic illness that affects the gut such as IBD, Ulcerative Colitis, Crohn's Disease, Celiac Disease and more. As vitamin D is fat-soluble, its absorption is very much dependent on the gut’s ability to absorb dietary fat. Malabsorption of vitamin D could also be due to health conditions that limit fat absorption, or from gastric bypass surgery. Such conditions hinder the process by not allowing the body to produce enough vitamin in time. Or the body is simply unable to absorb it for utilisation. - **Food allergies or intolerances.** Inability to consume vitamin D rich foods due to food allergies or lactose intolerance. - **Incomplete diet.** Simply not consuming enough of it in your regular diet. - **People with dark skin.** The pigment that gives skin its dark colour contains more melanin, which lowers vitamin D production. Fascinatingly, whilst Black Americans tend to have lower vitamin D in their bodies, they also seem to have lower rates of bone fractures and osteoporosis, as compared to White Americans. Studies about this are still ongoing. - **Obesity.**Those who are obese may need to take higher amounts of vitamin D as compared to those of a regular weight. This is because greater amounts of subcutaneous fat store away more vitamin D. - **Some babies and infants who are exclusively breastfed.** Breast milk does not normally contain a sufficient amount of vitamin D that meets the requirements. This is also dependent on the mother's own supplementation of vitamin D as well. Read Related Posts: - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/) - [Learn More About the Super Rare Disease – Esophageal Diverticulum](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [What’s it Like to be the Mother of a Sick Child? (Precious Insights from My Own Mum)](https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/) ## Consequences of Vitamin D Deficiency ### Vitamin D Deficiency in Children [Vitamin D deficiency can be a serious problem](https://www.aafp.org/afp/2009/1015/p841.html) in children. Rickets can develop, where bone tissue fails to mineralise properly. This can result in soft bones and skeletal deformities. This then leads to chronic pain, failure to thrive, developmental delay, dental abnormalities, and a whole host of other health problems, some of which become permanent disabilities (Bordelon et al., 2009). ### Vitamin D Deficiency in Adolescents & Adults Vitamin D deficiency can present as osteomalacia in adolescents and adults. This is where existing bone does not mineralise properly during the remodelling process. This can lead to weaker bones that fracture easily. Symptoms may be similar to that of rickets (Bordelon et al., 2009). ### Osteoporosis, Vitamin D & Calcium Bone is living tissue that is constantly being remodeled in the body, and the rate of remodelling slows down as we age. [Osteoporosis](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/osteoporosis/symptoms-causes/syc-20351968) means 'porous bone', and is a bone disease which causes bones to become brittle and weak (Mayo Clinic, 2024). At its worst, even a cough or sneeze can cause a fracture. Osteoporosis is a major health problem in the U.S., with [over 53 million Americans](https://journals.lww.com/otainternational/fulltext/2022/06001/osteoporosis%5Fmanagement%5Fin%5Fthe%5Funited%5Fstates.7.aspx) suffering from it, or who are at risk for it (Hoggard & Jeray, 2022). Vitamin D deficiency alone can lead to rickets or osteomalacia. A lack of vitamin D also reduces calcium absorption. Both vitamin D and calcium need to be taken into account as factors for the development of osteopenia and osteoporosis. Pin to Your Vitamin D, Nutrition & Health Boards: ![Causes and Consequences of Vitamin D Deficiency](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/causes-consequences-vitamin-d-deficiency.jpg) ## Causes of Vitamin K Deficiency According to Johnson (2024), a few [causes of vitamin K deficiency](https://www.msdmanuals.com/en-sg/professional/nutritional-disorders/vitamin-deficiency,-dependency,-and-toxicity/vitamin-k-deficiency) include: - **Malnutrition** or extremely inadequate intake of vitamin K from food. - **Fat malabsorption**, especially due to diseases that impair this process such as: Cystic Fibrosis, Celiac Disease, Crohn's Disease and Chronic Pancreatitis. - **Liver diseases** that decrease storage of the vitamin. - **Decreased production of the vitamin in the intestines.** - **Use of anticoagulants**, such as warfarin (brand names: Coumadin or Jantoven). - **Use of medications** that interfere with vitamin K such as certain antibiotics, antacids and anti-seizure drugs. - **Breastfed infants.** In fact, there is a deadly disease known as [VKDB](https://www.chop.edu/conditions-diseases/vitamin-k-deficiency-bleeding-hemorrhagic-disease-newborn) (Vitamin K Deficiency Bleeding) which affects some newborns in the first few days of life (Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia, n.d.). ## Consequences of Vitamin K Deficiency A deficiency in vitamin K can interfere with blood clotting processes in the body. This can lead to excessive bleeding that may not stop. (I know this from firsthand experience as [**I have a blood clotting disorder myself, Antiphospholipid Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome-personal-experiences/), and [**am on warfarin**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#warfarin).) Pin to Your Vitamin K, Nutrition & Health Boards: ![Causes and Consequences of Vitamin K Deficiency](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/causes-consequences-vitamin-k-deficiency.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled ](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/)[My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) ## The Synergistic Effect of Vitamin D & Vitamin K2 Whilst both vitamin D and vitamin K play specific and important roles in the body, [they also work together synergistically](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1155/2017/7454376). For one, they work together to enhance and regulate calcium metabolism. Vitamin D promotes the production of vitamin-K dependent proteins in the body. These proteins need vitamin K for carboxylation - a chemical reaction - in order to function properly (van Ballegooijen et al., 2017). Calcium is needed not only for good bone health, but also plays a role in heart, muscle and nerve functions, and blood clotting. Recent scientific evidence however has also shown that [taking too much calcium supplements may increase the risk for heart disease significantly](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7910980/), due to a variety of possible factors, such as overcirculation and coagulation (Myung et al., 2021). This is where vitamin K2 comes in. The risks for arterial calcification and heart problems can be significantly lowered with [at least 32mcg of vitamin K2 present in the diet](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4566462/). However, the typical Western diet contains insufficient amounts of vitamin K2 to activate enough MGP to do so (Maresz, 2015). Pin to Your Vitamin D, Vitamin K2, Health & Wellness Boards: ![Vitamin D and Vitamin K2 - Why They Belong with Each Other](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2-belong-each-other.jpg) ## Vitamin D & Vitamin K2 Supplements Vitamin D3 with vitamin K2 supplements come in a variety of forms. From the [slowest to fastest absorption rate](https://www.spectraspray.com/why-spray-vitamins) (SpectraSpray, n.d.): - Pills - Gel capsules - Sublingual liquids - Intravenous - **Oral vitamin sprays** ### Oral Vitamin Spray Supplements [Oral vitamin sprays have the fastest absorption rate](https://nutritionj.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12937-015-0105-1) because the ingredients have already been emulsified (Satia et al., 2015). This means that body does not need to do extra work to break them down. SpectraSpray’s supplements also contain no binders, fillers, dyes or artificial flavouring, which is good news for those who have allergies to them. Oral vitamin sprays are great for the convenience and ease of use. All you need to do is to spray them on the insides of your cheeks, hold and swallow. They can be particularly useful as a means of vitamin D plus vitamin K2 supplementation for those who have gut or fat absorption problems. They are also useful for those with chronic illnesses who are unable to take traditional forms of supplements. Spectra Spray has a fantastic range of oral vitamin sprays for this purpose, including a vitamin D with vitamin K2 oral spray. [Buy Oral Spray Vitamins from SpectraSpray](https://www.spectraspray.com/?ref=ro3g2jmalw) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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The synergistic interplay between vitamins D and K for bone and cardiovascular health: A narrative review. *International Journal of Endocrinology, 2017*, Article 7454376\. - Vermeer, C., Jie, K.-S. G., & Knapen, M. H. J. (1995). Role of vitamin K in bone metabolism. *Annual Review of Nutrition, 15*, 1–21\. - Yale Medicine. (n.d.). *Vitamin D deficiency.* Retrieved June 1, 2025, from - Zhang, Z., Liu, L., Liu, C., Sun, Y., & Zhang, D. (2021). New aspects of microbial vitamin K2 production by expanding the product spectrum. *Microbial Cell Factories, 20*(1), 84\. ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Anne ](https://www.raisiebay.com) Jun 22, 2021 This is such a well researched and informative article. I have learned a lot and it explains things that I was unsure of before. Now, how do I get my teenager to spend more time outside instead of sitting on her computer! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 27, 2021 Thank you Anne! I tried my best to make it as detailed yet clear as possible, and made sure it matched the research. Haha, how about… taking the phone or computer for a walk outdoors too? ;p - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/2021/06/21/how-do-i-describe-chronic-pain-to-my-doctor/) Jun 22, 2021 Hi Sheryl! You’ve done a terrific job laying all this information out for readers in such an informative way. You hit so many points in your post that I didn’t know about until I saw it today. It’s a great idea for a post and I thank you for a terrific lesson today! Now, to go outside to sit in the sun and catch some Vit D. Hope you are taking care and doing well! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 27, 2021 Thank you for your support as always Carrie! Haha enjoy your sun session! Yes, vitamin K is so dear to me, in a sense 🙂 - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com/) Jun 22, 2021 This was so informative. It’s very easy to forget that we need to balance the intake of our vitamins based on the needs of our body in combination with some of the medical conditions we have and then in all that, it’s also easy to forget what each vitamin does!! This was such an important read – I didn’t realise that I didn’t know so much about Vit K. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 27, 2021 Thank you Shruti… yes Vitamin K is so dear to me, probably the dearest, due to its interaction with my medications and blood disorder. I’m glad that this article helped! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### It is *Always* Possible to Make Time for What Matters Most URL: https://achronicvoice.com/make-time-what-matters-most/ Last updated: 2025-10-25T12:58:44.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Life has Been Full of Stressors and I Don't Have Time (or so I Thought) If you're a regular participant, you might have noticed that I haven't been able to make time to join in my own linkups for the past two months! Life has been fraught with stressors of all sorts. A bit of a vicious cycle as one thing always leads to another; a general rule of life. Actions lead to consequences, consequences lead to choices which lead to actions (non-action is passive action, too). And all this is done either consciously, instinctively or otherwise. In this month's linkup, I share my thoughts about priorities, and how I'd like to make time for things that matter to me more. At some point I should read my entries over the years to see all the slips, slides and progresses I've made. It should be both an emotional and fun thing to do! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ## We Have a Hypersensitivity to Stress, Don't We? I've been **accumulating** a load of stress over the past few months, both in my mind and body, and even beyond. The toxicity of stress might not be so apparent to a healthy person, but anyone with chronic illness possesses a hypersensitivity to it. I can literally ***feel*** stress, as it manifests as physical pain. Work stress is always the most vicious kind of stress for me. It might have to do with the fact that it's a from-waking-to-sleeping-and-even-dreaming cycle for days, weeks and months on end. I'm the sort of person who isn't able to fully rest my mind or body when the ball's in my court, so to speak. I'm well aware of this fact, yet still allow myself to go down the rabbit hole each and every time. I stick a little toe into that hole, then a whole foot, then go, 'what the heck, I'm already in so I might as well finish what I started'. Admittedly, sticking that little toe in was on purpose so that I'd have 'no choice', as certain things become commitments to other people. Pin to Your Stress & Chronic Pain Boards: ![Chronic Illness Problems - Hypersensitivity to Stress](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-problems-hypersensitivity-stress.jpg) ## The Game Goes on Though, as Long as We're Alive... But as long as I'm alive, the balls will keep bouncing back into my court, and the game will go on. I might get a couple good shots in and get the ball out of my court for a little while. But that's just temporary as life is motion. I definitely need a better life strategy because the cost is pretty hefty. I get pain flares which force me to keep going to the bench to rest, and not even get to hit the ball for a quite some time. The people and pets around me suffer for quality time, both because I'm so wrapped up with the toxicity, and also because the pain grows to the point where I can't even sit and stand without wincing. One of my biggest warning signals is my steroid dose. If the occasional painkiller isn't working, I usually need to increase my steroid dose, which means that my body isn't handling my chronic illnesses very well at all. Of late I've had to push that dose up quite a bit and am unable to reduce the amount. Usually an increase in steroids means that I don't need my painkillers anymore, but I still do. So I know that I'm not not in a good place all round, and need to do something about it. Which leads me to... Pin to Your Self-Care & Pain Management Boards: ![The Need to Pace with Chronic Illness, Because Life is Motion](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pace-chronic-illness-life-motion.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or ‘How to Relax’ by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [Chronic Stress, the Silent Assassin](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/) ## 'I Will Make Time for It', He Said I gave one of baby cockatiels to this girl, and her boyfriend came along and really liked my new puppy, Talisker. He is passionate about dogs and is constantly reading up about their behaviours, and even bought the whole [Dog Whisperer series](https://www.cesarsway.com/training-courses/) to learn more. He offered puppy training classes for Talisker; all I had to do was to pay for his transport and whatever else I could afford. I was touched, because group classes are a little tricky for me, with the unpredictability of chronic illness. And whilst it's always nice to have one-on-one, focussed training, the price is beyond me. I felt bad though as he lived a distance away. I asked him, "Are you sure you have the time, though?" He replied, "I will make time for it." Whilst many of us have heard that before, this time it really stuck with me. A flood of random thoughts surfaced in my mind. But the main takeaway that stayed up until now is that we **can** always make time for the people who matter to us, in one way ar another. There is no excuse. ## We Can Still Make Time for What Counts, Despite Chronic Illness Time management is both an art and a skill. It's always possible to make time for the things that matter most to you. My health may present giant barriers, but I can try to buffer in rest time like a cushioned landing at the front and back. Chronic illness may stifle many dreams and hamper my passions, but I just need to do some creative planning, and carve out a route that works for me. This path may be my own to walk and it's most likely not going to be an easy one, but I know that I will never be alone. Not unless I choose not to breathe in the fresh air of humanity all around me, or stubbornly refuse to be adaptable. I need to work on **carving** out time for the things that matter most to me, and for the people I love. As with any skill, it takes practice. I know that time management isn't my strong suite and that I might not be the best sculptor around, but I'd like to start carving out my time with a little more thought, grace and love. Pin to Time Management & Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![Time Management is a Skill That Takes Practice - Quote](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/time-management-quote.jpg) ![Chronic Illness and Creative Planning Quote](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-dreams-planning-quote.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [How to Rewire the Brain to Manage Chronic Pain (& Resources to Help)](https://achronicvoice.com/rewire-brain-manage-chronic-pain/) - [Asking for Help (and Why Everyone Needs to Learn this Important Life Skill)](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) - [The Barriers That Throw Rocks into My Bucket List with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/) - [To Live with Chronic Illness is to Learn to Live with Maybes](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-maybes/) ## That All Sounds Fine & Dandy, But What Next? So how do I carve out quality time for myself, my loved ones and for the things that matter to me? It's easy to make it sound pretty and revel in the idea, but it only works if I follow up with a plan and action. That's where I need to sit down and actually get down to the business of planning then following through. What matters to me most? What does life expect from me? What memories do I want to create, where I can look back on at the end of my life and smile fondly about? Or even not look back on if I die tomorrow? This will be a bit of a personal reflection for me, so I'll leave that to my figurative diary. But for one, I do plan to set stricter limits for myself on joining social media threads and the likes. ## Let FOMO be FOMO; Lose Out But Win in Something Else That Matters More I need to tell my brain that, "Yes, you're experiencing FOMO and that's okay. Lose out on this, and win in something that actually matters. Like your health, education and memorable experiences". I will also need to do some financial planning so that I can take on less work, so that I can heal up as much as possible, and cut down my steroid dose again. I need to remind myself not to take on so many tasks and jobs even though they might sound 'simple enough'. They may indeed be simple enough, but I often forget to factor in the fact that it's still tedious and time-consuming work that eats into my limited energy supply. I need to **prioritise** ruthlessly. I only have 3 - 4 productive hours a day with my chronic pain and chronic fatigue in tow. Do I really want to spend those hours on tasks that won't even matter in 5, 10, 20 years? Pin to Your Self-Love & Self-Care Boards: ![Let FOMO be FOMO. Lose Out But Win in Something Else That Matters More Quote.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/let-fomo-be-fomo-quote.jpg) ## Bringing Harmony Back to My Self Through the 7 Dimensions of Wellness My aim is to get my body back to a manageable baseline, even though it’s still a chronically ill baseline. It's ironic, but one of the contributors to my recent pain flares was writing my latest post, “The [**7 Dimensions of Wellness & How to Use Them for Chronic Pain Management**](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/)”. I spent half a day every day for a month chiseling away at it, as it grew into a wordy piece and took roots. The more I researched, the more I found, the more I just ***had*** to write about it. It's a piece that I'm proud to have produced, but I'm not sure it was worth the pain flares, increase in steroids, and impact it had on the relationships around me. The cost was pretty big. In any case it's done and dusted, so there's no use wondering. I can only move forward and try to do things with a little more wisdom and pacing next time. I talk about the seven dimensions in that post, which include: physical, mental, social, spiritual, emotional, intellectual and occupational wellness. I plan on going through my own post as a reference, to see how I can bring **harmony** of these elements back into my life. Wellness goes beyond physical health; our body is a complex sum of many amazing parts that all need tender loving care and respect. Pin to Your Health & Wellness Boards: ![Wellness goes beyond physical health quote](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/wellness-physical-health-body-quote.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [An Inspirational Poem on Miracles, by Thuli Zuma](https://achronicvoice.com/poem-on-miracles-thuli-zuma/) - [Don’t Compare, Your Life Destination is Your Own Special Mission](https://achronicvoice.com/dont-compare-life-destination-special/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) - [What’s it Like to be on a High Dose of Steroids? (And the First Question You Will Definitely Ask)](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) ## A New Website on Blogging & SEO I have many ideas for blogs and websites brewing in my head. I have a bad habit of snapping up domain names impulsively... and love browsing pretty templates as a form of relaxation. Anyway, I think I will be finally launching a new website soon that revolves around blogging and SEO, so a bit of a different niche than A Chronic Voice, which has to do more with health, wellness and chronic illness. It will be a website about blogging for people with time and energy constraints, so it's still very relevant for those with chronic illness, too! I hope to provide ‘**training**’ in the form of blog posts, services, and maybe even mentoring, consultations and packages. Unlike the last time, I'm just going to trim out all the 'fat' and bloat, start small, and take it one morsel at a time. ## Keeping Talisker Fit Plus Mentally Stimulated I am also thinking of bringing Talisker for more training classes. Whilst he's been more well-behaved and less bitey of late, I think that formal training will still benefit him as I'm a total dog noob, and it will help to stimulate him mentally, being a smart sheepdog and all. The only problem is money (of course!), as these courses usually cost up to a thousand dollars. When he's a little older and his joints are more formed, I will also take him for agility classes. I bet he's going to enjoy that as he loves to jump. Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) So that’s it for my June entry! I’m happy and relieved to finally have some time for myself, and to join in again after two months. 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Pin to Your Self-Care & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Make Time - Why It is Always Possible](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/make-time-always-possible.jpg) ![It is *Always* Possible to Make Time for What Matters Most](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/always-possible-make-time-matters-most.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Aug 21, 2021 I thought I’d leave a second comment to let you know I’m here because I’m going through a bit of a health crisis right now as well, all related to stress and too much activity. This part of your article really jumped out at me: “A bit of a vicious cycle as one thing always leads to another; a general rule of life. Actions lead to consequences, consequences lead to choices which lead to actions (non-action is passive action, too). And all this is done either consciously, instinctively or otherwise.” It’s so true! I’m also struggling to get back to some sort of a baseline this summer. I hope things are going better for you. Sending hugs! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com) Aug 21, 2021 Aww … I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through a difficult time again, Carrie 🙁 It sucks when we dip back down to the bottom of the barrel, doesn’t it? I hope that you are getting the support you need, and rest up. Put as much on hold if you can 🙂 Sending hugs! - [ Lucjan ](http://worryhead.com) Jul 24, 2021 Do more of what makes you happy 🙂 If you don’t, where is the point? You have one life. Live it! Chronic illness doesn’t mean your life is over. Try to find happiness in everything you do. Don’t make permanent decisions for temporary emotions. Take care of yourself before taking care of others, because if you break, you won’t be helpful to them anyway. You have nothing to prove. You have to take care of YOURSELF. This doesn’t make you selfish. The world will wait for you. Practice self-care, and again, DO MORE OF WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL HAPPY 🎗 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com) Jul 27, 2021 Thanks for your comment, Lucjan! 🙂 Haha happiness is not what I strive for in life, but that is a long topic of its own! I wrote a post, “I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Purpose” — should you be interested you can search for it! - [ Alison Hayes ](http://www.thrivingwhiledisabled.com) Jul 12, 2021 Sheryl, So sorry to hear that the last few months have been tough – I feel you on picking up a bit too much work and then not being able to do it all, as I seem to do that all the time! I really hope you can get yourself rebalanced and I understand what a struggle it can be. One thing I did that really seemed to help was list my self-care activities as my priority to start the day. Having things like meditating and going for a walk as the top priorities meant I was more likely to do them, so I’d have energy / focus / stability to handle whatever happened next. Like most things, easier said than done, but thought I’d share what’s helped me most. So glad you’re enjoying time with Talisker and your next project sounds great – SEO and blogging makes sense as a next business step, especially since you have a built-in potential audience – US! Hope you can get yourself rebalanced – there’s so much of life to enjoy and you deserve to enjoy it! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com) Jul 27, 2021 Thank you Alison for your empathy. I’m glad you take good care of yourself through activities – I really need to do that, too! Haha! A built-in potential audience – I love the sound of that! 😀 Thank you for all your support lovely. Sending hugs! - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Jul 3, 2021 I’m sorry you’ve had to up the steroid dose and that you’ve not been in a good place. I personally find pacing / making time to look after myself incredibly difficult, especially since the pandemic began and I’ve taken on a lot more. More to do, more stress, health going downhill, and I feel like I’m suffocating. It’s a vicious cycle – and as you say, you then need to carve out the time because it won’t happen otherwise. I don’t have anything useful to say here because I’m a total hypocrite on this subject, but it’s easier to see the situation when it’s not your own. I want to say “sod everything else, it can wait, you need to look after yourself first, Sheryl,” but it’s just not that easy. Little steps and practice and you’ll start carving the time a little better in favour of yourself hopefully. It’s ironic how miserable baseline is with chronic illness, but when things get worse, the crappy baseline starts to sound appealing! PS – I really hope Talisker liked his new puppy training classes! Nice of that guy to offer less, maybe some more classes in future would be great for both of you if he continues to get less bitey. The cost is just extortionate. Maybe hint you’ll leave a glowing review and mention the company in your blog 😉 Caz xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com) Jul 27, 2021 Thank you for sharing your thoughts and joining us this month, Caz! I always enjoy reading your entry 🙂 Yeah it’s difficult to make time, but I also tend to just let myself “slide”, both mentally and physically. I just get so engrossed and “trapped” haha. I need to consciously practice to “break” that chain, which I aim to slowly do! Build up tiny habits to help me along the way 🙂 x - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Jul 3, 2021 I completely agree that stress piles up and manifests as physical pain. I’ve worked so hard to minimize my reactions to stress and not let it take over with things beyond my control – such a difficult thing to do though. Your new website sounds great and I’m sure it will be as big of a hit as A Chronic Voice. Looking forward to more Talisker photos, as always! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com) Jul 27, 2021 Thank you for all your support Carrie – you’re always so lovely! Haha yes, more Talisker photos coming right up. He also has an Instagram: - [ Claire ](http://throughthefibrofog.com) Jul 3, 2021 I feel we are quite similar in letting stress pile up, often from work and then neglecting both ourselves and the people and pets around us. I do find that carving out a few time-slots in the day to get away from the computer helps – even if, like today, it was to do the ironing instead! Hope the training with Talisker goes well (I may need to send my cat around as he has been up to mischief lately …) - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com) Jul 27, 2021 Haha and it doesn’t help because we “help” each other do more stuff :p Yes I really need to build those “me-time” slots into the day by force to make them good habits! Haha yes send Sammy over anytime – he can also train Tally for me 😉 - [ Despite Pain ](https://despitepain.com/) Jun 27, 2021 It’s difficult to find time for everything you’d like to do when you’re living with a chronic illness. Over the past year I’ve had a lot going on, which meant I needed to prioritise my time and energy, so social media and blogging took a hit – but it made me realise that some things are less important than others. I’m excited to read about your new website plans. Having a helpful site like that with chronic-illness bloggers in mind sounds like a big hit to me. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain URL: https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/ Last updated: 2026-04-02T16:42:52.000Z This article explores the 7 dimensions of wellness and how we can use them to improve our quality of life despite chronic pain. Those who live with chronic pain know all too well that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to pain management. Even those who live with the same chronic illness often need a mix of different treatment protocols and routines. All dimensions of wellness are interrelated and important for our wellbeing. Certain suggestions might be repeated in different sections, but the application differs according to the dimension of wellness featured. Pin to Your Dimensions of Wellness & Chronic Pain Boards: ![How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-to-use-7-dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain.jpg) *\*Disclaimer: Wellness is a mammoth topic; a tribute to the diversity of our humanity. Every patient with a chronic illness or disability is unique, too. The resources and suggestions below are for a general audience. *I am not a medical professional*, but have done extensive research for this post from credible sources. Please take each suggestion with a pinch of salt, and *discuss anything you’d like to try with your doctor first*.* *Whilst this post is sponsored by Mayv, all opinions expressed are my own. This post may contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read the* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/) *page for more information. Thank you!* ## What are the 7 Dimensions of Wellness? The seven dimensions of wellness include: physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, intellectual, occupational and social wellness. The idea is that our bodies rely on every single one of these dimensions of wellness for optimal health and wellbeing. Each dimension influences the others, for better or for worse. Kind of like a car. The engine, fuel, steering wheel and more parts need to work in unison so that the car can 'go'. How well and how far it travels is dependent on the quality and maintenance of the sum of its parts. According to the World Health Organisation, **health is not just an absence of disease**. It requires integration of all seven dimensions of wellness, so that we are **complete and fulfilled as a human being**. > [“Wellness necessicitates good self-stewardship, for ourselves and those we care about and who care for us….. Wellness … is a personal responsibility.”](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5508938/) (Stoewen, 2017) Pin to Your Health & 7 Dimensions of Wellness Boards: ![The 7 Dimensions of Wellness All Matter](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/7-dimensions-of-wellness-all-matter.jpg) ### A Note on Holistic Health vs Holistic Healthcare > ["Holism also has its origin in the Greek word holos, which means 'whole'..... it is an approach that looks at things in a total perspective."](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/B9780128012826000036) (Patwardhan et al., 2015) The dimensions of wellness are often interchanged with the term 'holistic health'. Whilst holistic health may encompass holistic healthcare, the reverse may not necessarily be true. We all need to find what works best for us, which can be as different as the sun and moon. > ["In conclusion, good health care is likely to be holistic but holistic health care, as it is marketed at present, is not necessarily good..... What matters most is whether or not any given approach optimally benefits the patient."](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2034187/) (Ernst, 2007) One important thing to note is that these dimensions of wellness are **not** anti-conventional medicine. Rather, they are about making [lifestyle choices that are supportive to healing and wellness in its entirety](https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/conditionsandtreatments/complementary-therapies) (Better Health Channel, 2021). ### The Importance of Forming Healthy Habits All seven dimensions of wellness require discipline, attention and self-compassion. The aim is to form healthy habits that become part of our everyday lives. The more you practise them, the better you get at accessing these resources when chronic pain strikes. This is because self-regulation is hard as compared to habits. About [40% of our everyday behaviour is habitual](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5508938/) (Stoewen, 2017) and therefore, has a huge impact on our present and future. One of my favourite sites for mini courses and resources that help with habit formations based on scientific research is ['Clearer Thinking'](https://www.clearerthinking.org/) (n.d.). > “We build our character from the bricks of habit we pile up day by day.” - Zig Ziglar Pin to Your Chronic Pain Management & Self-Care Boards: ![The Importance of Forming Healthy Habits for Chronic Pain Management](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/importance-healthy-habits-chronic-pain-management.jpg) ## The First Dimension of Wellness – Physical Wellness Let's begin with physical health, as it's often what we think of first when we mention 'wellness'. This is because it's the easiest to measure as compared to the other dimensions of wellness. It is less abstract, with more tools that are able to give us tangible insight. Taking care of our bodies is a way of showing respect and appreciation both to ourselves and our loved ones. It is to express gratitude for the miracle of life. What we choose to nourish ourselves with, and how we maintain our fitness, diet, sleep and appearances; They all have an impact on managing chronic pain and self-esteem to a degree. *(P.s. I love this playlist, 'Student of the Land', on YouTube: ‘*[*Skin & Hair Care for those with Chronic Conditions*](https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6ooEUG5R1t%5F67ZV8F74rEEUrv%5FTg7N1K)*’. All traditional Indian mother to daughter holistic remedies (Chopra, n.d.)!)* You may have heard of the quote, 'your body is a temple', and the chronic illness version, 'my body is a temple, ancient and crumbling, probably cursed or haunted'. It's funny because it feels that way ~~sometimes~~ often. It may feel pointless at times to put in the effort to maintain our bodies and physical health with chronic pain. But healing and wellness go beyond physicality to encompass our entire being. Chronic pain may have limited us in certain ways, but we can still try to live a life of meaning and value. > “My body is a temple, and my temple needs redecorating.” - Joan Rivers Pin to Your Health, Wellness & Quote Boards: ![Healing and Wellness Go Beyond Physical Health](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/healing-and-wellness-go-beyond-physical-health.jpg) ### Getting Enough Quality Sleep & Rest Whilst there are many aspects of our physical health that we need to pay attention to, I’d like to take some time to focus on quality sleep and rest. They are often sacrificed in the name of ‘productivity’ in a society that glorifies busyness. A culture that emphasises on ‘doing’ and devalues ‘being’. This is one reason why those with chronic pain feel worthless at times. It's hard not to despair when all you can do is... nothing. Simple, everyday chores take colossal effort. Tasks on your todo list overflow and form a stagnant puddle. Yet we need to remember that resting and sleeping are actually highly productive for all dimensions of wellness. Our body shifts into [optimal repair and healing mode when we sleep](https://newsinhealth.nih.gov/2021/04/good-sleep-good-health) (NIH News in Health, 2021); modes that cannot be activated when we are awake. This ultimately gives us more fuel to keep going. Life is a marathon after all, and not a sprint. Quality sleep, however, is also a catch-22 situation. It's hard to fall asleep whilst in the cruel, unrelenting grip of chronic pain. Where you have no say and no choice but can only endure it. Those with chronic illness have even coined a term for it, '[painsomnia](https://creakyjoints.org/acr-2018/painsomnia-tips/)' (Donvito, 2018). Read Related Posts: - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [How Much Time Are You Wasting On Sleep?](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) ### Holistic Ways to Improve Physical Wellness This is not an exhaustive list, but some basic, general suggestions for improving physical wellness: - **Taking a Walk in Nature** [Trees release aerosols](https://e360.yale.edu/features/ecopsychology-how-immersion-in-nature-benefits-your-health) into the air as a self-protective mechanism (Robbins, 2020). These compounds contain antibiotics, anti-inflammatories, antiseptics, antivirals and analgesics. On top of that, they can [boost our immune system and increase the number of cancer killing cells](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2793341/) (Li, 2010). The power of being close to trees and breathing in the fresh air should not be underestimated. So simple, yet so good for our physical wellness! - **Exercise & Movement** We all know that exercise is good for us. But what do you do when chronic pain or chronic fatigue leaves you bed bound? So often I need help to even get from a seated to standing position. But exercise and fitness consist of many aspects. Cardio, weightlifting and crossfit are on one end of the spectrum. But stretching, breathing and [strength training are also important](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40279-018-0862-z) (Suchomel et al., 2018). Many [chronic pain patients with arthritis and joint pains are encouraged to do some strength training exercises](https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/5-weight-training-tips-for-people-with-arthritis), as this helps to support and protect the joints (Harvard Health Publishing, 2021). Other movement exercises you can try to manage chronic pain, at your own time and pace: Qigong for shoulder pain management, gentle yoga poses from the comfort of your own home, and creating your own walking routine. - **Eating a Balanced & Customised Diet** “We are what we eat”, as they say. But we are also what our bodies can utilise effectively. In Ayurvedic medicine, your diet is geared towards optimising your dosha, or body type. Nutritional therapists also recommend different foods for different individuals. (And yes I’ve tried both types of alternative therapies; the insight was interesting to say the least!) In general, [limiting highly processed foods](https://food-guide.canada.ca/en/healthy-eating-recommendations/limit-highly-processed-foods/) (Health Canada, 2022) and choosing healthier, organic options can help to control inflammation and chronic pain. As they also say, “eat the rainbow”. [Fruits and vegetables of different colours](https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/phytonutrients-paint-your-plate-with-the-colors-of-the-rainbow-2019042516501) contain various unique antioxidants and nutrients, all of which our body needs for optimal function (McManus, 2019). - **Taking Essential Supplements & Vitamins** Many with chronic illness are unable to eat certain foods, and miss out on a variety of nutrients. Or they may not be able to keep food down, absorb or utilise these nutrients properly. Patients like myself often need supplements in addition to their medications. - **Deep Breathing Exercises** Deep breathing for physical wellness, really? Yet [athletes train their breathing techniques](https://theconversation.com/how-controlled-breathing-helps-elite-athletes-and-you-can-benefit-from-it-too-128072) to boost sports performance (Shearer, 2019). And some patients do [breath retraining exercises to ease their obstructive sleep apnoea](https://www.sleepfoundation.org/snoring/mouth-exercises-to-stop-snoring) (Suni, 2024). I am currently reading a book, [“Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art”, by James Nestor](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0593191358?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ed5e33f67552819a48ad1c21706a94bd&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) (2020), and found it really astounding to learn that the jaw, nose and facial structures of people in the past were maximised for breathing. People back then had no snoring, sinusisitis or sleep apnoea problems. As a human race, our facial features have actually devolved. The question they are trying to figure out is, “why”? Read Related Posts: - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) - [Dysphagia & Swallowing Problems (and How Oral Vitamin Sprays Can be of Help to You)](https://achronicvoice.com/dysphagia-oral-vitamin-sprays/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [Is Yoga Accessible for People with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/) - [Learn More About the Super Rare Disease – Esophageal Diverticulum](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) Pin to Your Health, Wellness & Infographic Boards: ![Holistic Ways to Improve Physical Wellness Infographic](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/holistic-ways-improve-physical-wellness-infographic.jpg) ## The Second Dimension of Wellness – Mental Wellness [Mental wellness and emotional wellness](https://www.psychreg.org/dont-say-mental-health/) are sometimes used interchangeably. Emotional wellness refers more to our moods and emotions, whereas mental wellness is more of how our brain functions (Ivey, 2019). Working on our mental wellness is about doing our best to improve our mental capabilities and cognitive function. In other words, to stretch our mental resilience and shift our mindset in a more positive direction. Doing so has many benefits, such as: - Better ability to manage stress and life's curveballs - Work more productively - Realisation of your full potential as a person regardless of the situation - The ability to make meaningful contributions to society Pin to Your Mental Health & Self-Care Boards: ![The Benefits of Working on Our Mental Wellness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/benefits-working-on-mental-wellness-infographic.jpg) As someone who has been living with clinical depression and anxiety for years, I know just how important mental wellness is. Without it, there is no motivation, drive or hope. As a result, we sometimes let ourselves 'go to waste', as there is no desire to get better, or to do better. The worst part about it? [What we think isn't always true](https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/emotional-fitness/201310/feelings-aren-t-facts) (Goldsmith, 2013); Learning to make that differentiation can sometimes be the line between life and death. According to the Trunzo (2019), a clinical psychologist and professor of psychology at Bryant University in Smithfield, Rhode Island: > “[Be the thinker, not the thought](https://aeon.co/essays/it-takes-psychological-flexibility-to-thrive-with-chronic-illness): this phrase refers to how we handle our internal voice, the constantly running commentary that we experience all day, every day, and can never seem to silence. For whatever reason, that inner voice can be very critical, judgmental or even downright cruel. We also tend to listen to it way too much.” Pin to Your Mental Health & Awareness Boards: ![Why You Need to Work on Your Mental Wellness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/why-need-work-on-mental-wellness.jpg) ### Holistic Ways to Improve Mental Wellness Psychiatric medications have been a game-changer and lifesaver for me. I must take them every day to function properly, but they are not a be-all-and end-all solution. If I do not pay attention to the afflictions on my mental health and take proactive steps, my need for medications will only increase. A few methods to try and maintain good mental wellness are: - **Spending Time in Nature** Dr Qing Li is an environmental immunologist, forest medicine expert, and also the [leader in ‘Forest Bathing’ research](https://lifebeyondnumbers.com/dr-qing-li-forest-bathing-why-you-need/). His studies have shown that the more time we spend closer to trees, the greater the health benefits, such as (Das, 2018): - Lower adrenaline and cortisol levels (which affects our stress levels) - Improved T-Cell function (which affects our immune systems) - Decrease in blood pressure - Decrease in respiratory rate The benefits of immersing ourselves in nature have been known for centuries. Yet we are losing touch with it in modern society, and losing our sanity and all dimensions of wellness along with it. Cultural traditions such as ‘[udeskole](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/14729679.2012.699806)’ and ‘[hygge](https://www.visitdenmark.com/denmark/highlights/hygge/what-hygge)’ in Scandinavia (Bentsen & Jensen, 2012; VisitDenmark, n.d.), and ‘[shirin-yoku](https://time.com/5259602/japanese-forest-bathing/)’ (aka forest bathing) in Japan (Li, 2018), are becoming popular again in modern society for these reasons. Sometimes it can be impossible for those with chronic pain or disability to leave the house, let alone take a leisurely stroll through the woods. In these instances, why not bring nature to you instead? You could do some outdoor or indoor gardening, which also has a positive effect on all dimensions of wellness. What if you want to enjoy the health benefits and aesthetics of greenery, but want something a little more low-maintenance instead? A terrarium, [air plants](https://www.gardenista.com/posts/10-things-nobody-tells-you-about-air-plants-tillandsias/) (Slatalla, 2022), or these [hard to kill houseplants](https://www.thespruce.com/easy-houseplants-hard-to-kill-4141665) can do the job, too (Iannotti, 2024). And if you're into technology, there are even [smart gardens](https://nymag.com/strategist/article/best-indoor-garden-kits.html) on the market these days (Schwartz, 2025)! > “In every walk with nature one receives far more than one seeks.” - John Muir - **Talking to a Professional Therapist** There are major differences between a psychologist, a psychiatrist and a counsellor, although they all fall under the same umbrella of ‘[mental therapists](https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/guide-to-psychiatry-and-counseling)’ (Bhandari, 2024). In brief, a psychiatrist is a medical doctor who can prescribe medications and treats mental illnesses and disorders. A psychologist has a doctoral degree in psychology, which focusses on the study of the mind and human behaviours. A licensed mental health counsellor has a master’s degree in psychology, counselling or a related field. Within each profession there are different schools of thoughts and treatments as well. This makes it critical that you do your research before hiring a professional therapist, based on your mental health needs and communication style. I know of many people who have stopped after only a few sessions, because they didn’t feel that it benefitted them. I have personally fired a few psychologists assigned to me by my hospital, because our communication styles were worlds apart. ***Feeling comfortable is key to working on your mental wellness with a therapist***. You will be exploring deep, dark corners of your mind and you need to be able to trust them. For More Insight, Read: - [Why You Need a Good Therapist on Your Healthcare Team (Based on My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-good-therapist/) - [Is Seeking Help for Your Mental Health Worth It?](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/) - [What I’ve Learned – Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years (Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’)](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - **Improving the Quality of Your Connections & Relationships** Doing so has many benefits for all dimensions of wellness; In regards to mental wellness, [high quality relationships](https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/HealthyLiving/Strong-relationships-strong-health) can stave off loneliness and depression, and increase happiness (Better Health Channel, n.d.). - **Eating a Varied, Healthy Diet** An unhealthy, incomplete diet has many consequences on our over all health and mental wellness. It can lead to fatigue, impaired cognitive function and poor decision making. It can also exacerbate stress, depression and other mental health problems as it [promotes inflammation](https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/5-inflammation-fighting-food-swaps-2021051022570) (Bilodeau, 2021). A healthy diet provides the nutrition our brain and nervous system need to build new proteins, cells and tissues. This consists of a healthy mix of complex carbohydrates, lean proteins, fatty acids and minerals. According to Harvard Health Publishing (2024), some [foods that will help to boost your mental health](https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/foods-linked-to-better-brainpower) include: - Green leafy vegetables such as kale and spinach contain a variety of nutrients for optimal brain health and cognition. - Fatty fish such as salmon and cod are rich in omega-3 fatty acids and healthy unsaturated fats. These are essential in cleaning up amyloid-beta in our brains, which causes cognitive decline. - Berries contain flavonoids, which help to improve memory. - Nuts are packed with protein, fibre, healthy fats, minerals and vitamins. Talk about packing a punch! Here's a great [list of the different types of nuts](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/howto/guide/health-benefits-nuts) (Torrens, 2024) you can go nuts on (good pun, or no?). - **Setting Realistic Goals & Working Towards Them** Goal setting is a common method used in recovery and mental health programmes. Planning for action helps an individual to define their idea of success, and their own roadmap for execution. With each milestone comes a sense of achievement. This can further fuel motivation towards recovery or healthy habits. SMART goals are a popular method used in a variety of settings due to their effectiveness. In short, SMART stands for: - S: Specific - M: Measurable - A: Attainable - R: Relevant - T: Time Bound You can [read more about SMART goals and use this template for yourself here](https://www.verywellmind.com/smart-goals-for-lifestyle-change-2224097) (Stibich, 2024). - **Implementing a Healthy Sleep & Wake Routine** Our brain and body thrive on healthy routines. As mentioned earlier in the article, the formation of healthy habits is key to all dimensions of wellness. Quality sleep is essential in chronic pain management, and [good sleep hygiene](https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/sleep-hygiene-simple-practices-for-better-rest) can help our brains to switch off and ease into sleep every night (Solodar, 2025). A healthy morning routine can help to set the tone for the rest of the day. You could **[do some gentle yoga](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/)** whilst still in bed, read with a cup of coffee, or do some meditation. These routines help us to start and end the day with a bit more control, even if chronic pain is relentless. The structure can help us to pace and manage our limited energy and stress levels better. - **Mindfulness Practices** [According to the Mental Health Foundation (2021)](https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/explore-mental-health/a-z-topics/mindfulness): > "Mindfulness is a technique you can learn to be fully present and engaged in the moment without judging anything. It can help you manage your thoughts, feelings and mental health." Mindfulness is an effective coping tool for those with mental health issues. It has been shown to reduce stress and anxiety levels, and can even change the brain's structure in positive ways. - **Hugging & Caring For Your Pets** The power of touch should never be underestimated, even if it isn't through human contact, which some of us might not be able to get. Having a [pet companion can help to improve mental wellness](https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/7-ways-pets-improve-your-mental-health) by staving off depression and isolation . Caring for a pet can also positively impact all other dimensions of wellness, such as increasing your social interaction and fitness levels, when you bring them for a walk (Healthdirect Australia, 2023). For More Insight, Read: - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) - [Why I Moved from SiteGround to Cloudways (and Couldn’t be Happier). Plus Cute Puppy Pics & A New Pacing Strategy.](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/) - [Are You a Capable Person? What Does That Even Mean?](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) Read My Post on SubStack: - [The Way My Dog, Talisker, Brings Me Joy](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/the-way-my-dog-talisker-brings-me) Pin to Your Mental Health, Wellness & Infographics Boards: ![Holistic Ways to Improve Mental Wellness Infographic](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/holistic-ways-improve-mental-wellness-infographic.jpg) ## The Third Dimension of Wellness – Emotional Wellness Emotional wellness is also closely linked to the mental and social dimensions of wellness. It [includes an awareness, respect and acceptance of the ‘self’](https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/greater-self-acceptance-improves-emotional-well-201605169546) that is rooted in a positive mindset. It is not to suppress or deny ‘bad feelings’, but to understand the value of all our emotions, and what they’re trying to tell us (Harvard Health Publishing, 2016). Being connected with ourselves can help guide us intuitively towards alignment and purpose. This doesn’t necessarily mean feeling good right away, but to take a step in the right direction for long-term wellness benefits. > “Thoughts and feelings are like children knocking on the door of the present moment.” —Jeff Foster ### The Benefits of Emotional Wellness Out of all the dimensions of wellness, emotional wellness probably fluctuates the most. Something annoying can trigger us in a negative way, and a shift in perspective can lift our mood just as quickly. Working on our emotional wellness has benefits, such as: - An improved outlook on our life and future - Improved self-esteem - Self-acceptance which enables us to thrive - An acknowledgement of the full spectrum of human emotions - The ability to enjoy expressing our emotions - The ability to share our feelings with more honesty and openness Pin to Your Emotional Wellness & Self-Love Boards: ![The Benefits of Emotional Wellness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/benefits-of-emotional-wellness-infographic.jpg) All these elements are necessary for us to feel good about ourselves, and also to connect on a deeper emotional level with others. > “By throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely.” — Mitch Albom > "We need to rebrand vulnerability and emotion. A vulnerable man is not some weird anomaly. He is open to being hurt, but also open to love." — Grayson Perry Read Related Posts: - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [Grieving the Life That I Will Never Have](https://achronicvoice.com/grieving-the-life-i-will-never-have-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [Give Your Best Anyway, Even When You’re Feeling Depressed](https://achronicvoice.com/give-your-best-even-when-feeling-depressed/) ### The Chain of Chronic Pain, Anxiety & Depression Those with chronic pain and chronic illness often suffer from depression. A study by Mullins et al. (2023) found that “42.4% of [individuals with chronic pain reporting some mild, moderate, or severe depressive symptoms](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/papr.13220) on a validated measure of depression”, and 43.6% of participants also reported feeling anxious. This isn't a surprise. When you live with chronic pain with seemingly no end in sight, it is normal for all the dimensions of wellness to tank if we're not careful about it. You start to worry about your future, and get frustrated or feel guilty about your lack of independence. [Those with chronic pain are usually hypervigilant](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4153734/) of every little change in their bodies (He et al., 2014). We're always on the lookout, so that we can suppress the minor symptoms, before they escalate into a full blown pain-flare. Experience has taught us such. Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Mental Health Boards: ![The Chain of Chronic Pain, Anxiety and Depression, and What to Do About It](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/chain-chronic-pain-anxiety-depression.jpg) For More Insight, Read: - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [What Neverending Pain Reveals to You](https://achronicvoice.com/what-neverending-pain-reveals/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) ### The Need to be Mindful & How I Reframe My Thoughts We need to be mindful about our emotions and thoughts, and pay them as much heed as we do to physical sensations. It is no easy feat, but it gets better with practice, and helps us to regulate ourselves before it's too late. One method I use to manage my chronic pain, depression and anxiety is to [reframe my thoughts](https://positivepsychology.com/cbt-cognitive-restructuring-cognitive-distortions/) (Ackerman, 2018). I try to reframe 'today is a bad day' into 'today is a good day to finish reading that book', or something more positive. This isn't lying to myself, but shifting my perspective and priorities for the day. The priority being a greater emphasis on self-care, so that I can do more later on. I also feel like I've managed to accomplish something I had meant to, even if it wasn't according to the plan for the day. ### Holistic Ways to Improve Emotional Wellness - **Journaling** The benefits of journaling are widely known. What's best is that you can keep [all sorts of journals](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/202001/discover-8-journaling-techniques-better-mental-health) for different purposes, too (Sarkis, 2020). Many people with chronic pain and chronic illness keep **[habit, mood and pain trackers](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/)** either by hand or using a digital app. This can help us to pick out patterns and triggers that we may have otherwise missed whilst on cruise control through life. Some people do a 'thought dump' in their journals in the morning or right before bed. This is also known as [expressive writing](https://www.pathways.health/pain-awareness-through-journaling-and-using-it-to-manage-chronic-pain/), where you write without inhibition or care to punctuation, grammar or spelling (Chan, n.d.). Allowing thoughts to flow from your brain to your pen and paper can be a cathartic experience. It can help to sort your thoughts and feelings out, bring about insight, solutions and self-healing. Read Related Posts: - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 – 6](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) - [The Road to Recovery is the Longest of Them All](https://achronicvoice.com/road-to-recovery-longest/) - [How to Prepare for a Medical Appointment in a Post-Pandemic World (4 Top Tips From a Doctor)](https://achronicvoice.com/prepare-medical-appointment/) - [The Value in Seeking Out Moments of Gratitude (and How to do it)](https://achronicvoice.com/value-gratitude/) - **Sex & Showing Affection** [Sex and orgasms release oxtoxycin](https://www.healthline.com/health/love-hormone), also known as the 'love hormone' (Santos-Longhurst, 2023). Along with oxytocin are serotonin and dopamine, which are known collectively as the 'feel good hormones'. These hormones in return can enhance mood, relieve stress, encourage bonding, and improve our over all emotional wellbeing. Read Related Posts: - [Disability & Sex: Disabled People are Not Automatically Bad Sexual or Romantic Partners](https://achronicvoice.com/disability-and-sex/) - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationships with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/) - **Exercise** Exercise is another way to release feel good hormones. This can help us to better manage stress, and feel a greater sense of confidence and emotional wellbeing. According to Domonell (2016) on CNN Health: > "[Endorphins](https://edition.cnn.com/2016/01/13/health/endorphins-exercise-cause-happiness/index.html), which are structurally similar to the drug morphine, are considered natural painkillers because they activate opioid receptors in the brain that help minimize discomfort... They can also help bring about feelings of euphoria and general well-being." - J. Kip Matthews, Ph.D, a sport and exercise psychologist - **Doing Mindful Meditation Exercises** Studies have shown that meditation changes the brain in profound ways. In fact, certain [areas of the brain that regulate emotions](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5337506/) have been found to be bigger in monks who as you know, meditate a lot (Guendelman et al., 2017). Even if it's only for 5 minutes a day to begin with, building up a positive habit such as a meditation routine has many benefits. It can help us to set the tone for the rest of the day, unwind before bed, regulate stressful moments and cope with chronic pain. - **Deep Breathing Exercises** The power and art of breathing are becoming 'lost' in our modern, busy lives. It's almost ironic we're often so stressed and tensed up that our breaths are shallow without us even noticing. Daily, focused deep breathing exercises were actually something both my psychologist and psychiatrist highly recommended to help manage my stress, anxiety and panic attacks. The more regular your practice is, the easier it becomes to access this calming resource when chronic pain, stress or panic attacks strike without warning, as they often do. - **Laughter Yoga** Yes, it's a thing! As [Kataria of Laughter Yoga International](https://laughteryoga.org/) (n.d.) explains: > "Laughter Yoga is not a comedy. It is an exercise program for Health and Wellbeing. The yoga part of Laughter is the combination of Laughter Exercises with yoga breathing techniques ( Pranayama )." [Glantz (2019) on NBC News also tried laughter yoga](https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/i-tried-laughing-yoga-what-i-learned-about-myself-surprised-ncna1019436) and says, "*The takeaway: my inner child needs to come out and play*". - **Seeking Help From and Working with a Professional Therapist** I went through a year of [Inner Child Psychotherapy](https://psychotherapy.psychiatryonline.org/doi/full/10.1176/appi.psychotherapy.20180008) myself, although I didn't know that that was what it's called back then (Hestbech, 2018), only that I enjoyed that style of therapy for the depth of personal insight, and that it was working. I can say that seeing a psychologist was one of the most important and helpful things I have ever done for my life on an emotional and mental level. And that it has shaped my subsequent choices and path in life in a long-lasting and healthy way. Read My Post on SubStack: - [My Inner Child and the Angry Girl (Part II)](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/my-inner-child-and-the-angry-girl) - **Immersing Yourself in a Hobby or Activity You Enjoy** This probably goes without saying, but doing things that we enjoy gives us a sense of accomplishment, satisfaction and/or joy. As long as we keep it balanced with the rest of the dimensions of wellness (because some of us get too immersed sometimes, don't we? ;) ) - **Art Therapy & Therapeutic Art Activities** [Art therapy has officially been around since the 1940s](https://www.canr.msu.edu/news/the%5Fbenefits%5Fart%5Ftherapy%5Fcan%5Fhave%5Fon%5Fmental%5Fand%5Fphysical%5Fhealth), and has proven to be [therapeutic and healing for many patients](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2804629/) with chronic pain and mental health issues (Stuckey & Nobel, 2010; Tiret, 2023). The definition, as per the [American Art Therapy Association](https://arttherapy.org/about-art-therapy/) (n.d.): > "Art therapy, facilitated by a professional art therapist, effectively supports personal and relational treatment goals as well as community concerns." You don't have to be a professional artist to reap the benefits of art. It is an effective medium that gives us the opportunity to explore our emotions further, and develop greater self-awareness. Art isn't limited to the classic forms of painting or drawing either. You could also try your hand at floral arrangement, photography, craft work, sculpting, decorating, dancing, music (like my mum who picked up the ukulele at 60, and enjoys it to no end!), theatre, and so much more. These days colouring books for stress relief are very popular. It is, after all, a way to be mindful as you’re focussed on the present moment. They also derive a sense of satisfaction when they’ve completed colouring a page. For those with arthritis or chronic pain in their hands or fingers, paint-by-numbers is also a popular way to do something similar. Paint brushes are lighter and easier to grip and control, as compared to colouring pencils. (**[Read this post to learn more and view visual samples of these arts and crafts](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/)**.) - **Doing Charity Work or Helping Someone in Need** Whether done with altruistic intentions or otherwise, being able to positively impact another person's life can make us [feel good about ourselves in many ways](https://www.helpguide.org/articles/healthy-living/volunteering-and-its-surprising-benefits.htm) (Segal & Robinson, 2018). The feeling of being useful and valuable is a self-esteem booster. You can also check out this series, ['Effective Altruism' on the 80,000 Hours podcast](https://80000hours.org/podcast/effective-altruism-an-introduction/) (n.d.), which uses evidence and analysis to find out how and where you can do as much good as possible. If you live with chronic pain and chronic illness, there are still ways to volunteer thanks to the internet. You may not even have to get out of bed to make a positive difference in someone else's life. There are many non-profit organisations for example that need help with their social media, article writing, website set ups, administrative tasks and so much more. For some inspiration and ideas, check out what [Lupus Chick](https://lupuschick.com/10-ways-to-help-others-while-dealing-with-chronic-illness/) (Zeppieri, 2018) and [Carrie of 'My Several Worlds'](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/2020/06/15/volunteer-work-when-you-are-chronically-ill/) (2020) have to share. They are both active advocates and volunteers in the community, despite being chronically ill themselves. You can also **[check out this post I wrote about how to be a health advocate from bed, especially when disabled or bed bound](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/)**. If you do not have time, energy or the necessary expertise, [donating cash is actually one of the best ways to help a charity organisation](https://online.uga.edu/news/charitable-giving-volunteering-vs-donating/) out (Ridley & Zwald, 2021). Money is always needed for practical resources, and to reach out to those in need. One of my favourite sites is [kiva.org](https://www.kiva.org/) (n.d.). I received a card that contained $25 once for a birthday present. I could then use it to choose whom I wanted to fund in their database online. These people would repay it slowly over time, and then you can use the money to fund someone else again. There are people who need all sorts of things from medical expenses either for themselves or loved ones, to buying food, obtaining cattle, repairing their houses, setting up a small business and more. Pin to Your Chronic Illness, Disability & Humanity Boards: ![Ways to Feel Useful Despite Chronic Illness or Disability](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/ways-feel-useful-despite-chronic-illness-disability.jpg) - **Reading a Book, Or Watching a Film that Takes Your Mind to a Better or More Captivating Place** Books and films of different genres can all be interesting. But [fiction in particular has been found to nurture a sense of empathy](https://www.researchgate.net/publication/269874783%5FThe%5FArt%5Fin%5FFiction%5FFrom%5FIndirect%5FCommunication%5Fto%5FChanges%5Fof%5Fthe%5FSelf) (Djikic & Oatley, 2014). As we move along the story with the protagonist and characters, we form connections and invest emotions into them. We put ourselves in their shoes. This can help us to see things from a different perspective; it can also make us feel heard and less alone if their situation is relatable. An immersive film or book can also help to distract you from chronic pain, if the pain levels are not overwhelming. Read Related Posts: - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You’re All Invited, Too!)](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies: Part II](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies-2/) - [Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill: Part III](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-3-chronically-ill/) - [Book Review: The Narwhal Who Suffers from Chronic Migraines](https://achronicvoice.com/book-review-narwhal-migraines/) - [Magazine Review: Lucky Peach’s Last Issue, Ever](https://achronicvoice.com/magazine-review-lucky-peach/) - **Looking at Pictures That Make You Smile** Look at something that makes you smile today. Be it old photos that bring about happy memories, cute kitten pictures on Twitter, or just scrolling through funny pictures on your phone. Did you know that [smiling whether you mean it or not still has health benefits](https://www.nbcnews.com/better/health/smiling-can-trick-your-brain-happiness-boost-your-health-ncna822591) (Spector, 2018)? My friend, [Katie of 'Painfully Living' (2020), has a whole blog post written about this](https://painfullyliving.com/2020/10/24/smile-power-emotional-and-physical-healing/). The science behind it is fascinating, so have a read, and keep smiling! - **Binaural Beats** Binaural beats is a form of sound therapy where you listen to sounds of two different frequencies in each ear. Whilst precise benefits have yet to be proven, small studies have shown positive effects on mood. Participants have shown improvements in cognition, depression, stress and anxiety levels. What's also interesting is that apparently, different sound frequencies can affect your brain in different ways. Thus the binaural beats that you select should be a [state of mind that you want to work towards](https://www.healthline.com/health-news/your-brain-on-binaural-beats), be it for deep relaxation, creativity, focussed attention or something else (Booth, 2019). Do note that people with epilepsy and some other disorders might want to avoid trying binaural beats, as it may trigger instead of help their condition. - **Flotation Therapy** **[I was curious and first tried floatation therapy](https://achronicvoice.com/floatation-therapy-chronic-pain/)** for joint and muscle aches, as there were claims that they were great for chronic pain. I was disappointed in that regard, although there are studies that have shown [positive effects for stress-related pain](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/16341307/) (Bood et al., 2005). An unintended side effect however, was the calmness that washed over me after I emerged. I felt almost high. The deep relaxation enabled me to have the best sleep I have had in literally years that night. Fascinated, I went to read up more about it. Not everyone is great at meditation (like me), but I discovered that floatation therapy is one of the few ways that any human being can use to enter a meditative state of mind. > [“Floating has given me hope that a whole chunk of our population that normally would never be able to meditate could now achieve those sorts of deep meditative states...”](https://time.com/floating/) Justin Feinstein, Ph.D., Clinical Neuropsychologist (TIME, n.d.) Pin to Emotional Wellness & Infographic Boards: ![Holistic Ways to Improve Emotional Wellness Infographic](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/holistic-ways-improve-emotional-wellness-infographic.jpg) ## The Fourth Dimension of Wellness – Intellectual Wellness Intellectual wellness is the pursuit of lifelong learning and self-improvement. It is about our engagement in mentally stimulating and creative activities. It is a chance to both expand your knowledge, and also to share your talents and skills with others. Intellectual wellness is sometimes equated with IQ or academic knowledge. But it goes beyond that to encompass common sense, critical thinking, general knowledge and creativity, too. > “A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to its old dimensions.” – Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr. Pin to Your Intellectual Wellness & Self-Improvement Boards: ![Why Should You Work on Your Intellectual Wellness and How to Do So](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/why-how-work-on-intellectual-wellness.jpg) ### The Importance of Keeping Our Minds Sharp Our mind is our greatest asset, so it is of critical importance to keep it sharp and stimulated. Like our bodies, it needs constant exercise and inspiration. Whilst the precise causes of dementia and Alzheimer’s disease are still unknown, some studies indicate that keeping our minds active in key ways may help stave them off. It is more than just stimulating our brains, but also to encourage it to keep learning new skills. To make it work in ways that it is unfamiliar with. ### The Benefits of Working on Your Intellectual Wellness The benefits of working on your intellectual wellness are manifold. Apart from learning to be a critical thinker and the ability to view things from different perspectives, you will also gain a deeper understanding of who you are as a person, and what values you hold dear. I personally believe that there is always a 'next level of life' that we can strive for in this regard. And that we will never know our full potential unless we unlock those doors and strive for it. > *“Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death.” – Anaïs Nin* > “The goal is not to change who you are but to become more of who you are at your best.” – Sally Hogshead Pin to Your Personal Development & Motivational Quote Boards: ![The Benefits of Working on Your Intellectual Wellness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/benefits-working-on-intellectual-wellness.jpg) !['The goal is not to change who you are but to become more of who you are at your best.' – Sally Hogshead Quote](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/goal-change-best-sally-hogshead-quote.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Every Next Level of Your Life Will Demand a Different You](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) - [Life is a Long Process of Becoming Into…](https://achronicvoice.com/life-is-a-long-process-of-becoming-into/) - [The Secret of Change: Spend Your Energy Wisely with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/secret-of-change/) - [The Subtle Difference Between Saying “Think Positive” and “Stay Positive” to Someone with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/difference-think-positive-stay-positive-chronic-pain/) - [April 2019: Tiring First Quarter Being Muggle Sick](https://achronicvoice.com/tiring-first-quarter-muggle-sick-april-2019/) ### Some Ways to Work on Our Intellectual Wellness The key to improving intellectual wellness is to always be learning something foreign to you. It doesn’t matter if you’re good or bad at it. What’s important is to give your brain a good workout. Here's a list of both easy and challenging things you can try to work on your intellectual wellness: - **Learning a New Language, Instrument or Skill** Learning a foreign language is hard. It goes beyond vocabulary and confusing grammar structures (or lack of one!). Languages encompass thousands of years of culture, emphasis on different values and life perspectives, logic and so much more. P.s. As a web developer, I also consider code as a language, a very logical one! Learning a new instrument also gives your brain a wonderful workout, as it requires engagement of so many of its parts. You need coordination, and the ability to integrate and apply sensitivity to basic sensory skills. There are even studies that show that [musicians have different brain structures](https://www.inc.com/john-rampton/the-benefits-of-playing-music-help-your-brain-more.html) from non-musicians; their corpus callosum is larger, which is a bunch of nerve fibres that connect the two sides of the brain (Rampton, 2017). Regardless of whatever new skill you're intending to pick up, it is a good idea to work with a mentor if that's an option. A [good mentor has the ability to guide you properly](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK552775/) and encourage you to improve (National Academies of Sciences, Engineering, and Medicine, 2019). Otherwise, you might end up feeling frustrated and give up, rather than stimulated. (**[Read this post for free education resources and ideas](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/)**.) - **Reading** We've covered reading before for other dimensions of wellness, but its benefits are numerous. It's important to [diversify and read a wide variety of genres](https://nybookeditors.com/2018/10/the-importance-of-reading-other-genres) in application to intellectual wellness (NY Book Editors, n.d.). Not only do we acquire a wider scope of knowledge, we also learn to appreciate different writing styles, learn new vocabulary, understand varying points of views, and even pick up wisdom from other people's life lessons. - **Writing** Writing is a personal one for me. It's a passion, and I believe that the ability to [articulate our thoughts well in writing](https://www.inc.com/peter-economy/5-remarkably-powerful-hacks-to-become-more-articulate-you-dont-have-to-give-a-ted-talk-to-do-it.html), is the ability to think well (Economy, 2019). To be able to [distill the essence of a complex topic](https://hbr.org/1973/01/clear-writing-means-clear-thinking-means) into an impactful statement or short article is an art form (Swift, 1973). P.s. Once again, writing code is also writing! In fact, I often get hungry after concentrating hard on writing or coding. Curious, I learned that thinking does burn calories, though of course, not as much as exercise does. From TIME magazine (Heid, 2018): > “The bulk of your brain’s energy consumption is put toward sustaining your alertness, monitoring your environment for important information, and managing other “intrinsic” activities. In terms of its energy demands, “an [individual thought is cheap, but the machinery that makes it cheap is very expensive](https://time.com/5400025/does-thinking-burn-calories/).” - Dr. Marcus Raichle, a distinguished professor of medicine at Washington University School of Medicine in St. Louis > “Writing is thinking. To write well is to think clearly. That’s why it’s so hard.” ― David McCullough Pin to Your Writing, Reading & Intellectual Wellness Boards: !['Writing is thinking. To write well is to think clearly. That’s why it’s so hard.' ― David McCullough Quote](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/writing-is-thinking-david-mccullough-quote.jpg) - **Watching Documentaries & Films, or Listening to Podcasts & Audiobooks** Many people do not enjoy reading, but prefer to listen to an audiobook or podcast, or watch a film. This may be due to a disability or chronic pain which can affect learning styles. Whatever the reason, doing so is just as beneficial as long as you are paying attention and your brain is absorbing and digesting the information. (**[Check this post out for audiobook, podcast and film resources](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/)**). Documentaries, films and animations are a great way to expand our knowledge and stimulate creativity too, as the visual elements help to show us something that our brains might not even be able to conjure in the first place. - **Teaching or Mentoring** **[If you’ve ever mentored or taught someone else](https://achronicvoice.com/roy-george-dramatic-life-short-bowel/)**, I’m sure that you were surprised to learn a new thing or two yourself! The questions your student or mentee ask may be something that have never crossed your mind. Or perhaps you’ve had to understand the topic even deeper in order to articulate it with more clarity. - **Taking a Workshop or Course** Always wanted to **[learn how to bake, code, blog or do a fabulous flower arrangement](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/)**? Perhaps now is a good time to do so! A workshop or course is great for building a foundation for you to get started with. Subsequently, you should strive for self-improvement and build upon that knowledge. - **Talking to Other People on a Variety of Subjects** Conversations and debates done with an open-mind can be a very interesting way to learn new things. We’re all knowledgeable about something, so there’s always something we can learn from others. It’s also a great opportunity to **[force our brains to consider different viewpoints](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/)**, understand them, and also to explore our own core values and beliefs. - **Travelling** **[Travelling takes us out of our regular day-to-day bubble](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/)**, which can be both frightening and exhilarating. But it tends to always provoke deeper thought into our own values and assumptions. Things we've always taken for granted, or accepted without question. It pushes the boundaries of the mind, and expands it. These newfound perspectives ultimately help us with problem solving as we become more logical, lateral and/or intuitive thinkers. To learn more, I highly recommend this book by Richard Conrad, “[Culture Hacks: Deciphering Differences in American, Chinese, and Japanese Thinking](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1544503148?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b571f81d49e426feaa0f6d09d282bd48&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl)”. Pin to Your Intellectual Wellness & Infographics Boards: ![Infographic - Some Ways to Work on Our Intellectual Wellness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/ways-work-on-intellectual-wellness-infographic.jpg) ## The Fifth Dimension of Wellness – Social Wellness According to Martino et al. (2015): > ["Social connection is a pillar of lifestyle medicine](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6125010/). Humans are wired to connect, and this connection affects our health." No human being can survive alone. We are interdependent beings who [need to feel like we belong](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/19349637.2014.864541) somewhere (Shevellar et al., 2014). A lack of it – as has been [clearly demonstrated during this COVID19 pandemic](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1186/s40359-023-01130-5) – leads to isolation, depression, and other physical and mental health problems (Kupcova et al., 2023). In fact, captors use [social isolation as a means to torture prisoners](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3150158/) of war (Umberson & Montez, 2010). It is that powerful. [Social interactions can influence our wellbeing and biology](https://newsinhealth.nih.gov/2017/02/do-social-ties-affect-our-health) (National Institutes of Health \[NIH\], 2017). Whilst it may be a little harder to interact in-person with the ongoing pandemic, the effort to stay connected, and the quality of interactions still play a big role in our social wellness. Social wellness emphasises the community aspect of our humanity and environment. We all have different strengths and weaknesses, which we can give and receive. Being self-aware and knowing our core values by working on the other dimensions of wellness, in particular on our emotional and spiritual wellness, has a direct impact in this regard. Read Related Posts: - [29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [COVID-19 Vaccine Experiences from People with Chronic Conditions](https://achronicvoice.com/covid-19-vaccine-experiences/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [Keeping Up with the World: Why it’s Important Despite Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) Pin to Your Social Wellness & Humanity Boards: ![Just How Powerful is Social Wellness? Click to Learn.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/powerful-social-wellness.jpg) ### Sometimes It Means Saying ‘No’, and The Need to Diverge Being social also doesn’t mean that you need to constantly expand your network; the [quality of those relationships matter most](https://news.syr.edu/blog/2020/04/22/why-relationships-matter-maybe-now-more-than-ever/) (Plummer, 2020). Sometimes to maintain social wellness means [**saying ‘no’ to toxic relationships**](https://www.achronicvoice.com/2022/01/25/healthy-boundaries/). Another thing to be aware of is that [we all change over time as human beings](https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/10/how-friendships-change-over-time-in-adulthood/411466/) (Beck, 2015). It is okay and a natural part of life to drift apart and go down different paths. But it is equally as vital to replenish those human interactions as well, no matter your age or status. This might be harder as we grow older, but not impossible. I see plenty of articles along the lines of “[how to make friends as an adult](https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/apr/30/how-to-make-new-friends-adult-lonely-leap-of-faith)” on the internet (Sedghi, 2018). Those articles were probably written because there are many others out there like you, who are looking for new, meaningful friendships. Pin to Your Social Wellness & Self-Care Boards: ![Saying 'No' - How It Protects Your Mental, Emotional and Social Wellness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/saying-no-protects-mental-emotional-social-wellenss.jpg) ### Some of the Benefits & Signs of Social Wellness This network of [social support comes with massive benefits](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2921311/) that spills over to the other dimensions of wellness (Ozbay et al., 2007). Kind of sticky like glue. Have a look: - **A Positive Impact on Our Emotional Wellness** Doesn’t it invoke those warm, fuzzy feelings when someone appreciates you, or simply had you in their thoughts? So simple, yet can mean so much! - **Physical Wellness Benefits** Studies have found that people with strong social networks and healthy relationships tend to live longer, and respond better to stress. - **Tangible Aid** Sometimes we need an actual, physical helping hand. For example, those who are suffering with chronic pain or a disability **[might need to go to the Emergency Department](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/)**, but can't drive. Or they might **[need help with preparing a nutritious meal, or tidying the house](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/)**. **[Even healthy people need support at times](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/)**, such as with babysitting, running errands, or tapping into someone else's knowledge. - **Sharing Our Wealth of Information & Knowledge** We all possess different skills and knowledge. We all know something well, even if it's how to **[operate the entire hospital bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/)** to precision. Being able to tap into the brains of others can save us a lot of time as we gain information with speed and precision. Being able to share your knowledge is a natural self-esteem booster and makes you feel valued as well. In terms of chronic illness, disability and patient care, I truly hope that more healthcare organisations will come to realise this (Tabrizi & Morgan, 2014): > “Healthcare organisations have recently realised that [medical knowledge not only needs to be managed but also shared among professionals and patients](http://www.ijmar.org/v1n2/14-004.html). Inadequate knowledge sharing in healthcare organisations can lead to medical errors. As a result, knowledge sharing in healthcare industry may no longer be a “nice to have” process but changes into a “must have” one.” Pin to Your Social Wellness & Healthcare Boards: ![Some of the Benefits and Signs of Social Wellness Infographic](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/benefits-signs-social-wellness-chart.jpg) ### What if Chronic Pain or Disability Limits Your Ability to be More Social? Not everyone who lives with chronic pain or a disability has family or friends to depend on, which can be a very scary thought. And even if they do, tension can run high at home. The added financial, mental, emotional and social impact can [take a toll on each family member’s quality of life](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3791092/) (Golics et al., 2013). Chronic pain or disability in itself can make it harder to leave the house and to meet people. Even Zoom chats can be exhausting. As a result, we need to find novel ways to take care of our social wellness. Whilst social media can be a vice, it can also be a positive tool for those with chronic illnesses to improve their social wellness. I’ve personally made many good friends who are also chronically ill online, whom I speak to on a daily basis. No one else but they would understand (or become bored) with the babble about chronic pain and mental health issues day in and out. This makes me feel less alone and improves my morale, as we encourage and help each other to rationalise, and to make decisions for the betterment of our wellbeing. Read Related Posts: - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [What’s it Like to be the Mother of a Sick Child? (Precious Insights from My Own Mum)](https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/) - [What’s it Like to be the Father of a Child with Chronic Illness? (Precious Insights from My Own Dad!)](https://achronicvoice.com/father-of-child-with-chronic-illness/) - [4 Cool Truths My Partner Said (Unwittingly)](https://achronicvoice.com/cool-truths/) - [We Want to Have Fun Just Like You, But Here’s What it Takes](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness, Disability & Social Wellness Boards: ![What if Chronic Pain or Disability Limits Your Ability to be More Social?](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-disability-limits-ability-social.jpg) ### Holistic Ways to Improve Social Wellness There are many ways to improve our social wellness, but it is also highly dependant on your personality type, what and where you draw energy from. Going to the bar for a chat and drinks may energise one person, but wipe someone else out for two weeks. Find what works for **you**. Here are a few suggestions: - **Joining a Support Group Online or Offline** Are you a parent who’s struggling to juggle kids and chronic pain? Or maybe you’re trying to quit a bad habit? Or perhaps you live with a disability or chronic pain, and struggle with everyday life. Joining a support group can be helpful, as you’re all there to lend support to each other without judgment. I’ve also heard of people going to support groups, and being pleasantly surprised to find out that they still had something valuable to contribute to others. There are also many support groups that you can join online. Some can be rather specific, such as for certain chronic illnesses. Just be careful to pick the ones that are actually good for your social and emotional wellbeing. And not ones that take you down a dark hole of negativity. - **Join Up with Other Hobby Enthusiasts** Perhaps you have a huge love for bird watching, knitting or playing tennis. These days there are many apps and online forums to connect with new people who share the same passions as you do. It’s also wonderful to meet others who ‘get’ why you love your hobby. You can bounce ideas off each other, collaborate, share tips and tricks to hone your skills and fuel your passion. This certainly adds to satisfaction in life! - **Meeting up with Friends, Colleagues, Acquaintances & Even Strangers** Studies have shown that all sorts of connections are important for social wellness, from close friendships to casual ones, also known as “[weak ties](https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20200701-why-your-weak-tie-friendships-may-mean-more-than-you-think)” (Leslie, 2020). Earlier on I did say to stay away from toxic friendships and to nourish the quality ones. In this instance, the idea is to get to know a wide variety of people better. Who knows what budding friendship (or romance) might come out of it? If it's impossible to meet up, a video call or chatting on the phone can also be beneficial. If energy is limited, planning your day - or even week or month - to make time for such activities can be helpful. - **Cultivating Healthy Relationships, Whether Familial, Platonic or Romantic** Relationships are hard work; they take persistent effort from all parties. You need to keep in touch, and express appreciation in your own ways. Yet the things that you do together do not have to be complicated. It’s all about showing up as fully as is possible. You could do a dinner date right at home, or play board games together. Little moments like these often become wonderful lifelong memories that we treasure. You could bake cookies for your friends and family, buy or make them a nice gift, or even just lend your ear and listen to them without judgment. In fact, that is actually one of the best things you can do for a person who’s suffering from chronic pain. They are often not looking for advice; they’ve probably tried them all. But they want to express how they feel and get a load off their chest. For More Insight, Read: - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [September 2018: Reconnecting with Friends & Family, and Sharing on Social Media](https://achronicvoice.com/reconnecting-friends-family-sharing-social-media-september-2018/) - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/) - [Curated Chronic Illness Gift Ideas for Christmas, Birthdays & Other Occasions!](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-gift-ideas/) - **Contributing to Society** You could donate blood or volunteer for a charitable organisation. You could also **[advocate for a cause through blogging](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/)**, participating in awareness events, or even by resharing useful stories and articles to your social media (just **[be very careful not to spread misinformation](https://achronicvoice.com/what-you-reshare-can-change-life/)**!). Such contributions not only help to better society and humanity as a whole, but will also enable you to feel good and useful as a human being. > “Think of giving not as a duty but as a privilege.” - John D. Rockefeller, Jr. > “If you think you are too small to make a difference, try sleeping with a mosquito.” — Dalai Lama > “How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” — Anne Frank Pin to Your Social Wellness & Infographic Boards: ![Holistic Ways to Improve Social Wellness - Infographic](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/holistic-ways-improve-social-wellness-infographic.jpg) ## **The Sixth Dimension of Wellness – Spiritual Wellness** When you hear the word ‘spiritual’, what comes to mind is probably religious or ‘woo woo’ stuff. Whilst those may be a means to obtain spiritual wellness for some people, [in context to the dimensions of wellness](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5508938/) it refers more to (Stoewen, 2017; [University of New Hampshire, 2020](https://www.unh.edu/health/spiritual-wellness)): - Your connection and pursuit of peace with the external world and inner self. - Refining your relationships with others. - Self-awareness; Understanding your values, beliefs, principles and direction in life with more clarity. - Reassurance in your self-identity; The focus on enhancing your ‘being’ and not merely your ‘doing’. Put in simple terms, spiritual wellness aims to bring about harmony both within and without through self-knowledge, acceptance and flow. It is a lifelong pursuit that requires constant refinement and adaptation. It fluctuates in conjunction with our emotions, life experiences, circumstances and world events around us. > “It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.” — Charles Darwin > “Out of clutter, find simplicity. From discord, find harmony. In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.” — Albert Einstein Pin to Your Spiritual Wellness & Infographics Boards: ![Spiritual Wellness Infographic](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/spiritual-wellness-dimensions-of-wellness-infographic.jpg) ### The Benefits of Spiritual Wellness **Resilience** We develop the ability to weather the storms in our life with more resilience and grace, because we know what we stand for, and what matters to us. We are aware of our capabilities and potential as an individual. [Resilience is an important trait in stress and anxiety management](https://www.apa.org/topics/resilience) (American Psychological Association, n.d.), and critical when dealing with chronic pain with no end date in sight. > “Maybe life isn’t about avoiding the bruises. Maybe it’s about collecting the scars to prove that we showed up for it.” — Hannah Brencher Read Related Posts: - [I May be Chronically Ill, but I’m Also Chronically Resilient](https://achronicvoice.com/chronically-ill-resilient/) - [7 Proven Strategies to Stay Resilient No Matter What Happens (from A to G)](https://achronicvoice.com/strategies-stay-resilient/) - [Kick Ass With Kindness and a Sweet Cherry on Top](https://achronicvoice.com/kick-ass-with-kindness/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - **Acceptance** Contrary to popular belief, acceptance is **not** a sign of defeat or weakness, and certainly does not mean a person is giving up. I know this full well from my own decade long rebellion against acceptance of my chronic illnesses. I swore at 14 that I’d ‘fight them to the death’. [Only to realise after 10 years with the help of a wonderful psychologist](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/my-inner-child-and-the-angry-girl), that I could only bash myself against the wall for so long. Chronic illness isn’t my or my body’s fault. The battles I fight are pointless, because there are no winners when it’s my own body whom I’m pitting myself against. Acceptance lifts the self-guilt, self-blame and hatred, so that you can start advocating and caring for yourself and those around you. Loving your body, nourishing it and working with it can only bring better results. It brings about freedom. The freedom to channel that energy, anger and fire into something more useful and beautiful. It means to be at peace with ‘what is’ and not to be plagued by all the ‘what ifs’, which are highly deceptive and torturous. Acceptance is powerful. It unlocks the floodgates of your potential, when you realise that there is so much more you **can do and give** from where you stand (or sit, or lie). Here are [14 benefits of practising acceptance](https://psychcentral.com/blog/cultivating-contentment/2018/08/14-benefits-of-practicing-acceptance) that are spot on (Woods, 2018). > “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” – Socrates - **A Sense of Empowerment** Exploring and understanding your inner self can be an inspiring process, with you as the source of your own inspiration. This can lead to a sense of empowerment in the knowledge that you’ve got your own back. That even though your circumstances are stressful or challenging, they are not a definition of who you are as a person. That you still hold value with no strings attached. And that you still have the ability to contribute in one way or another. > “People can be at their most vulnerable, but still tenacious at the same time.” — Toni Bernhard > “You can change the world again, instead of protecting yourself from it.” ― Julien Smith, The Flinch Pin to Your Self-Worth & Inspirational Quote Boards: !['People can be at their most vulnerable, but still tenacious at the same time.' — Toni Bernhard Quote](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/vulnerable-tenacious-toni-bernhard-quote.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [An Inspirational Poem on Miracles, by Thuli Zuma](https://achronicvoice.com/poem-on-miracles-thuli-zuma/) - [Why Your Beauty Never Left You](https://achronicvoice.com/why-your-beauty-never-left-you/) - [Flowers are the Most Beautiful When They’re Just About to Die (and What That’s Got to Do with Being a Spoonie)](https://achronicvoice.com/flowers-most-beautiful-die-spoonie/) - [#projChronicWisdom: Secret Motivation Tips for When You’re Unmotivated](https://achronicvoice.com/projchronicwisdom-motivation-tips/) - [February 2019: Hopes to Awaken Life Within Me Again](https://achronicvoice.com/february-2019-awaken-life-within-me/) - **Self-Compassion** Self-compassion is an extension of acceptance, where we **give ourselves the permission we need to heal**. It is to be aware of it and say, "I'm in too much pain to do much right now. I need to rest, and to take good care of my mind, body and spirit". And to be at peace with that. It is to say, "I may not be great at this task or am not where I want to be in life, but that's okay. I give myself the permission to fail. But I will pick myself up when I'm ready, and become a better person in line with what I value in life". > “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi > “Make your heart as vast as space, so big that nothing can harm it. When our hearts are that wide, it is as if the judgments are ripples on water, flowing away and leaving no trace. This is what vulnerability makes possible. It allows the natural strength of the heart to emerge.” - Mark Coleman, “[Make Peace with Your Mind: How Mindfulness and Compassion Can Free You from Your Inner Critic](https://www.amazon.com/dp/160868430X?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=73338320ec5312823c0ac6c27e5b5086&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl)” Pin to Your Self-Compassion, Healing & Quote Boards: ![Self-compassion is an extension of acceptance, where we give ourselves the permission we need to heal. Quote on achronicvoice.com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/self-compassion-acceptance-heal-quote.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [You Don’t Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [A String of Bad Days (and What Happened When That Good Day Finally Came Along)](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/) - [Don’t Compare, Your Life Destination is Your Own Special Mission](https://achronicvoice.com/dont-compare-life-destination-special/) - **A Sense of Purpose in Life** For many people, **[a purpose or goal in life](https://achronicvoice.com/life-purpose/)** can very powerful, and be their biggest motivation to keep going. When you live with chronic pain, this sense of purpose may be even more crucial as you live with more bad days than good. Paying attention to our spiritual wellness can help us to realise and define the things that matter most to us in life, and to strive for them. This can lead to more immersive and fulfilling experiences that we create for ourselves despite circumstances. **[Chronic illness or a disability may put up (some bloody huge) barriers](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/)**. But that doesn't mean that we cannot achieve our goals. We just need to go about it in a non-traditional way with a bit more inventiveness. Here are a few great quotes that sum it up: > "Remember, don't try to build the greatest wall that's ever been built. Focus on laying a single, expertly-placed brick. Then keep doing that, every day." - Will Smith > "Big things are built one brick at a time. Victories are achieved one choice at a time. A life well lived is chosen one day at a time." - Lysa TerKeurst > "Architecture starts when you carefully put two bricks together. There it begins." - Ludwig Mies van der Rohe > “Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” - Martin Luther King Jr. Read Related Posts: - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - **A Deeper Understanding of Your Core Values** What do you value most in life, and why? Why do you want to pursue the things you do? Most of us can probably give a brief answer to these questions, but not always articulate them wholly or properly. These **[values fluctuate according to our personal growth and changes in life circumstances](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/)**. This makes it even more necessary to keep in touch with our inner state of being and values. It is not a one-off event or definition. > “Don’t push growth; remove the factors limiting growth.” – Peter Senge > “Don’t go through life, grow through life.” – Eric Butterworth - **Reassurance in Your Self-Identity** When you are diagnosed with a chronic illness or disability, it's [hard not to question your self-identity](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3056146/) (Karnilowicz, 2011). Who are you without the career that was supposed to last you until retirement? What are you worth when your physical capabilities and productivity levels are non-existent? This **[deep sense of loss](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/)** can leave you feeling quite helpless and naked on the inside. My spoonie friend, Shruti of 'All Things Endometriosis', articulates it so well [in this article](https://allthingsendometriosis.com/spoonie-chronic-illness-change-you/) (Chopra, 2021): > "Being sick may have taken me away from fulfilling my potential the way I had dreamed of, but it has challenged me to rework that potential and grow. I love and respect the person I have become because of my challenges. I am grateful that I have been able to do that..... Some days I manage and some days I mourn the person I felt I could have been, which we’re all allowed to do because every emotion is valid." When you work on your spiritual wellness, you start to realise the beauty of that nakedness deep within you. That that [vulnerability is actually a strength](https://medium.com/the-mission/how-to-embrace-vulnerability-as-your-greatest-strength-d2ac2b80ba52) that keeps you anchored (Fahkry, 2018). That you are whole as a person, even if you do not have the shiny shoes of productivity to slip into every day. It is one of the greatest opportunities you can get in life, to learn to truly love yourself for who you are. > “To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable; to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength.” — Criss Jami > “We are at our most powerful the moment we no longer need to be powerful.” ― Eric Michael Leventhal > “Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” ― Brené Brown > “I understand now that the vulnerability I’ve always felt is the greatest strength a person can have. You can’t experience life without feeling life. What I’ve learned is that being vulnerable to somebody you love is not a weakness, it’s a strength.” ― Elisabeth Shue Pin to Your Self-Identity, Chronic Illness & Quote: ![Working Out Your Self-Identity with Chronic Illness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/working-out-self-identity-chronic-illness.jpg) Pin to Your Spiritual Wellness & Infographics Boards: ![The Benefits of Spiritual Wellness Infographic](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/benefits-spiritual-wellness-infographic.jpg) ### Holistic Ways to Improve Spiritual Wellness Spiritual wellness is not a task to be 'done and dusted'; None of the dimensions of wellness really are. A daily routine for checking-in with your spiritual health is best. The closer you look into something, the more you find. The longer you observe something, the more you realise. A bit of a mix between a detective and a monk (my own definition). - **Mindfulness** Some people are suspicious of mindfulness as they view it as an emptying of the mind. But there are [differences between mindfulness and meditation](https://medium.com/thrive-global/mindfulness-meditation-whats-the-difference-852f5ef7ec1a) (Shapiro & Shapiro, 2017), which I’ll cover next. Mindfulness is hardly a passive process, but an active one inside our brains. It is an observation of life as it is in the present moment, with no holds barred. It doesn’t require you to sit in a meditative posture, chant, or otherwise do something otherworldly. The emphasis is on observance and focus. To acknowledge our thoughts and emotions as they rise, then let them go without judgment. To keep bringing our thoughts back to the present moment. You can be mindful whilst eating, walking, and doing other mundane chores or routine tasks. This enables us to be more self-aware of the ‘what’ and ‘why’ that drive our behaviours, thoughts and actions. It can bring about clarity, and help us to make better choices. [Dialectical Behaviour Therapy](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2963469/) (DBT) is based on mindfulness (Chapman, 2006). It is one method used by clinicians to help their clients cope better with a myriad of mental and mood problems. Some studies have also shown that mindfulness can help to alleviate stress, release endorphins, reduce high blood pressure and more. To quote from [Jon Kabat-Zinn’s book, “The Unexpected Power of Mindfulness and Meditation”](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0486831825?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=582aa7ba0f6544588ec16ebc18b176dc&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl): > “Mindfulness, which includes tenderness and kindness toward ourselves, restores dimensions of our being. These have never actually been missing, just that we have been missing them, we have been absorbed elsewhere. When your mind clarifies and opens, your heart also clarifies and opens.” - **Meditation** There are a dozen [forms of meditation](https://positivepsychology.com/differences-between-mindfulness-meditation/) out there (Schultz, 2020). From mindfulness meditation, to Zen meditation, to transcendental meditation. Each has their own unique emphasis and employs different methods. Which meditation practice should you pick up? That's entirely dependent on your aims and what you're comfortable with. Some forms of meditation are focused on being more mindful, others on achieving enlightenment and wisdom, and yet others on accumulating self-knowledge. In general however, meditation has been proven to help with stress and anxiety management, and increase attention spans. Some studies have shown that meditation can be as effective as taking antidepressants. Brain scans have even shown that [those who meditate regularly have more grey matter](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1361002/) in their brains, which indicates better preservation of the brain (Lazar et al., 2005). Studies have also showed that [mindfulness meditation decreases activity in the default network mode](https://medicine.yale.edu/news/yale-medicine-magazine/new-study-finds-links-between-meditation-and-brain/) (DNM). This is often referred to as the “monkey mind”, which gets easily distracted (Yale Medicine Magazine, 2012). Whilst studies have yet to confirm the effects of meditation on addiction, some results seem positive. This may have to do with the practice of [‘decoupling’ the craving from the act in itself](https://www.dovepress.com/mindfulness-meditation-in-the-treatment-of-substance-use-disorders-and-peer-reviewed-fulltext-article-SAR), until it has passed (Priddy et al., 2018). > “I have lived on the lip of insanity, wanting to known reasons, knocking on the door. It opens. I’ve been knocking from the inside.” - Rumi - **Travel** Travelling is a great way to explore new cultures, ways of thinking, meet all sorts of people and expand our general knowledge. This can be a liberating experience, as you come to realise that there's no such thing as 'normal'; values vary from culture to culture, and person to person. Whilst it's hard to travel much these days with the pandemic, the good news is that many educational and travel sites have gone virtual. From art museums, to nature parks, to cities and more. (Here are [101 ways to travel without leaving your house from Condé Nast](https://www.cntraveler.com/story/101-ways-to-travel-without-leaving-your-house) (2020).) People with chronic illness and disability are actually celebrating this unintended increase in accessibility. Hopefully such opportunities for armchair travelling will be a permanent feature! Read Related Posts: - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [Coming Alive in the Winter Air (Pushing for Personal Changes & Group Advocacy)](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-advocacy/) - [Travelling New Paths with Chronic Illnesses in My Pocket](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-new-paths-chronic-illness/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (52 Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - **Journaling** Journaling is a spiritual practice for many, as **[writing forces you to slow down](https://achronicvoice.com/quarterly-reflection-life-lessons-learned/)**, or helps you to express your thoughts and feelings. It can be a reflective and revelatory process. Calming or distracting at the very least, and epiphanic at best. - **Reading** **[Reading is another form of armchair, mind and time travel](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/)**. We may be reading a book about an entirely foreign culture or past civilisation. Perhaps a historical narrative, or even enter imaginary worlds through fantasy. This can lead us down the road of self-reflection once again. We may be perplexed by the choices the characters in the story make, root for them, relate to them, or harbour some other feeling. This can reveal a lot about our own values, prejudices and personal character traits, too. - **Spending Time in Nature** Nature truly is a healer, and benefits all dimensions of wellness in so many ways. Many retreat to nature for respite, stress relief and solitude. The quiet time and leisurely pace allows us the space and time to regain our footing in life, and get in touch with our inner self again. To be up close to the beauty and wonders of life can be awe-striking and bring about hope and joy as well. - **Taking Yourself Out for ‘Dates’ or Carving Out ‘Me-Time’** You don't need someone else to take you out on a date. **[Romance yourself](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/)**. The best part about it? No compromises required - you can do and have all your favourite things! Spending quality time with yourself is vital for recharging your mental, emotional and spiritual batteries. Simply enjoying a cup of coffee alone whilst watching the world go by is one of my favourite things to do. I spend time observing passersby, wondering about their lives. This activity (or non-activity) in itself helps me to relax. It also helps me to 'regroup' from all the busyness in my life that takes up space and energy. My spoonie friend, Claire of 'Through the Fibro Fog', seems to agree as she goes out on ‘[London dating herself days](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/dating-yourself-chronic-illness/)’, too (at least before the pandemic!). Pin to Your Self-Care & Self-Love Boards: ![Taking Yourself Out for ‘Dates’ or Carving Out ‘Me-Time’](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/romance-yourself-spiritual-wellness.jpg) Pin to Your Spiritual Wellness & Infographics Boards: ![Holistic Ways to Improve Spiritual Wellness Infographic](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/holistic-ways-improve-spiritual-wellness-infographic.jpg) ## The Seventh (and Final!) Dimension of Wellness – Occupational Wellness I believe that as humans, we were born to work. Not work in the sense of a career, although career falls under the same umbrella. But work as in doing something useful that feels rewarding. Both as a contribution to society or to others, and also for your own self-esteem and happiness. Many with chronic illness or disability have had to give up professions that they love. Many of us even consider the ability to have work stress as a ‘luxury problem’ or a blessing in itself. It means that our bodies are functioning at full capacity. When the ability to earn an income is taken away from us, it can feel demoralising. Who are we, when we have no ability to contribute financially, or to produce? But there are other ways to feel a sense of accomplishment through work. Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Featuring People with Illnesses, Passions & Talents](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-people-illnesses-talents/) - [The Barriers That Throw Rocks into My Bucket List with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Chronic Stress, the Silent Assassin](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/) ### Signs of Occupational Wellness Time seems to fly by when you’re working on something that you love, doesn’t it? We become so absorbed with the process, and the final result feels like an accomplishment that you can be proud of. Here are some signs of what it means to have occupational wellness: - [Doing work that is meaningful to you](https://www.forbes.com/sites/rodgerdeanduncan/2018/09/11/the-why-of-work-purpose-and-meaning-really-do-matter/?sh=4363e48568e1), and brings you a sense of [job satisfaction](https://oem.bmj.com/content/62/2/105), accomplishment and happiness (Duncan, 2018; Faragher et al., 2005). - Pacing, knowing your boundaries and having [a healthy work-life balance](https://www.oecdbetterlifeindex.org/topics/work-life-balance/) (Organisation for Economic Co-operation and Development \[OECD\], n.d.). - Working in a way that maximises your energy, your learning and working styles. - Collaborating and communicating clearly and constructively with those whom you work with. - Feeling challenged at work in a way that inspires you, and not leads to burnout. - Going home or to bed after work, knowing that you did a good job. Pin to Your Occupational Wellness & Infographic Boards: ![Signs of Occupational Wellness Infographic](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/infographic_signs-occupational-wellness-achronicvoice-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Common Career Crisis Reasons Many people hit a mid-life crisis (or even at a younger age these days), where they just up and switch career paths. I've read many 'About' pages of entrepreneurs who claim that they did so for a variety of reasons, common ones being: - They were sick of working overtime, all the time, and basically having no life. - They felt like their career wasn't one that brought them any life satisfaction, or that it didn't contribute to society in a positive way. - They realised that they had been doing what everyone else did, or what their parents wanted, instead of what they truly loved. - They had a brilliant idea that they were excited to share with the world. ### Holistic Ways to Improve Occupational Wellness Here are some ways we can strive to achieve occupational wellness, despite chronic illness or disability: - **Finding Ways to Accomplish Our Career Goals** Chronic illness not only robs us of our health. It can also rob us of our ability to work, amongst many other things. Whilst brain fog and brain injuries may flirt with our memories, chronic pain and disability cannot rob us entirely of knowledge and experience that we have earned along the way. Many patients even become [more knowledgeable than the average doctor](https://www.medpagetoday.com/blogs/drrob/21266) about their chronic conditions (Rob, 2010). Are there opportunities to continue practising and expanding your knowledge in one capacity or another? If you are an employer, what can you do to [promote occupational wellbeing for your employees](https://www.healthaffairs.org/doi/10.1377/hlthaff.2016.1150) (McLellan, 2017)? Doing so not only increases their quality of life, but the over all health of your business. I remember needing to quit my job in advertising as **[the stress was outright killing me](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/)**. I had lived an entire year on a red blood cell count that technically could use a few blood transfusions. The only reason that I could still breathe normally was that my body had acclimated to the low oxygen levels, as if I had hiked up Mount Everest. (I am always amazed by my body in that regard.) Finally, I gave in and took a three month unpaid leave. I shouldn't have been surprised at the 'miraculous' improvement in my health. I knew right there and then that I had to quit my job. What this led to is a 10 year career in the same line of work but as a freelancer, which I learned that I enjoyed even better than working full-time! It fitted my style of working. And the time saved on commute and acting ‘normal’ in the office meant that I could use that energy to do productive work instead. Whilst I still struggle to cope with the workload and unstable income, the ability to have a say has been crucial for my over all wellbeing. Both in terms of occupational wellness, and all dimensions of health. > “When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.” — Helen Keller > “If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” — John Quincy Adams - **Exploring Careers that Fill You with Purpose and/or Happiness** If you are well and fortunate enough to pursue a career path, it can be a good idea to assess if it's one you actually enjoy. Or is there another career path you can explore? One that will introduce more joy and purpose in your life? > “If you are working on something exciting that you really care about, you don’t have to be pushed. The vision pulls you.” — Steve Jobs - **Maximising Your Potential at Work** If your job already brings you fulfilment - which can mean different things to different people - is there a way to better yourself even more? Is there a way to breathe your personality and talents into what you do? Is there a way to expand your interests and potential? Are there people at your workplace on the same wavelength as you that you can explore interesting ideas, concepts or projects with? > “The quality of a person’s life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence, regardless of their chosen field of endeavor.” — Vince Lombardi - **Picking Up New Skills** **[You don't know what you're capable of and what you may actually enjoy without trying](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/)**, can you? Just like how people acquire a taste for food, even though they may seem 'disgusting' at first bite, we can also acquire a taste for new interests. Picking up a new skill is beneficial for and touches on all the dimensions of wellness. It may eventually even lead to a new career path that you love; I know people in real life who have done this, and have never looked back. Regardless of career prospects, picking up a new skill helps with self-improvement, expands our knowledge, and can give us a sense of fulfilment by working on it. > “I’ve learned so much from my mistakes... I’m thinking of making a few more.” – Unknown Pin to Your Self-Improvement & Motivational Quotes Boards: ![Quote - 'I’ve learned so much from my mistakes… I’m thinking of making a few more.’ – Unknown](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/learned-mistakes-make-more-quote.jpg) - **Working on a Hobby** I know a number of people with chronic illness and disability who love craftwork, and have set up Etsy stores to sell their products. It's a great way to work on something, feel good about it, and even earn some money! Some have transformed their hobbies into a freelance business, or companies end up commissioning them for work after seeing their creations on social media. Even if you don't work on a hobby to sell something, it can bring about a great sense of satisfaction and feel rewarding. (**[View this post for a comprehensive list of hobbies you can do](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery-hobbies-crafts-games-part-3-5/)**.) - **Blogging** I had to throw this one in, of course. Those who do not blog have no idea how much work blogging actually is! Writing is probably the 'easiest' part. Then there's graphic creation, SEO optimisation, post promotion and social media interaction. The hours spent can be on par to a full-time job. Yet blogging has been one of the most fulfilling things I have done in my life. I started my blog during a very difficult period in my life, where I was in and out of the Emergency Department every few days. Blogging gave and gives me an outlet to share, contribute to society, and raise awareness. It's especially gratifying when a blog post helps another person with chronic pain or disability out there. Read Related Posts: - [MediSearch Review: A Medical AI Search Engine for Patients, Clinicians & Medical Writers](https://achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/) - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) - [A Quarterly Reflection: 12 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned](https://achronicvoice.com/quarterly-reflection-life-lessons-learned/) - [12 Chronic Illness Bloggers Share Their Top Posts for 2020](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-bloggers-top-posts-2020/) Pin to Your Occupational Wellness & Infographics Boards: ![Holistic Ways to Improve Occupational Wellness Infographic](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/holistic-ways-improve-occupational-wellness-infographic.jpg) ## In Conclusion to the 7 Dimensions of Wellness Admittedly, I hadn’t intended to write *this* much about the seven dimensions of wellness! I guess it only goes to show the complexity and interrelationship of everything that goes on, both within and around us. And the need to nurture all the dimensions of wellness, so that we can thrive to our fullest possible extent in this one life we have. Chronic pain is a monster consumer of energy. Disability and chronic pain often leave us feeling defeated, as our body doesn’t work as intended. It is all too easy to slide down that slippery slope of self-destruction and to perpetuate a poisonous cycle that seeps into all aspects of our lives. This only wreaks more damage and havoc on our health and wellbeing. It is therefore, of even more urgency that we pay full attention to all the dimensions of wellness. ***‘Health is wealth’. And health is physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, intellectual, occupational and social wealth all rolled into one.*** ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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(2012). *New study finds links between meditation and brain functions.* Yale School Of Medicine. - Zeppieri, M. (2018, October 13). *10 Ways to Help Those in Need Despite Chronic Illness.* Lupus Chick. ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Nikki Albert Nov 26, 2021 I am a firm believer in taking care of our entire embodied beings which means all these factors… which are also life satisfaction factors. I often talk about these myself because sometimes when we are chronically ill we focus heavily on one or two because we are so keenly aware those are lagging behind… but if we focus on our entire being it can really help overall. Sometimes just bit by bit with small changes too. This is such a thorough guide to that effect. I’m going to share it with my followers. Thank you for putting such thoughtful work into it! You rock!!! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 29, 2021 Thank you so much Nikki! The irony of writing this post was it caused a pain flare hahaha! I really need to take my own advice… and totally agree. I too (even though I wrote this post!) need to practice more of incorporating all the dimensions of wellness. Make it a habit. Because at the end of the day, it’s all about habits, isn’t it? - Lucy Aug 16, 2021 This is such a detailed and comprehensive article Sheryl, thank you. I especially like you way you’ve highlighted the importance of spiritual, social, intellectual and occupational wellness, which don’t receive as much attention as physical and mental health. You provide such a range of activities for each dimension so there’s something for everyone. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 21, 2021 Thank you Lucy! Yes they are all such important dimensions but I think modern society, especially in Western cultures, neglect the spiritual side of things a lot, though it seems to be changing in recent years. I guess, like it says in the article, that people often confuse spiritual wellbeing with spirituality or religion, which can be different things. Hope this article is helpful to you! - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Aug 16, 2021 Wonderful, comprehensive, and BEAUTIFUL post, Sheryl. I love how you break each dimension down to explain all of this. This is a ‘one-stop shopping’ guide to wellness and you did a great job! “Chronic pain is a monster consumer of energy. Disability and chronic pain often leave us feeling defeated, as our body doesn’t work as intended.” This part really resonated with me because I’m really feeling it again this summer. Going back and forth between what is the point and there is a point to all of this. I needed to read this today! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 21, 2021 I’m sorry that the parts that resonated with you were about pain 🙁 Really hope you get back to a more reasonable baseline soon. And thank you… I actually ran into a pain flare just piecing this post together – the irony. But I’m happy to have done it! 🙂 - [ Max Russell ](https://jerseyrehab.com/) Jul 27, 2021 Sheryl, you’ve written a wonderful article! Living with a disability or chronic pain requires patience and a strong desire to live a happy and fulfilled life. I advise people to make positive lifestyle adjustments such as taking a balanced diet, adequate sleep, mental relaxation, yoga practice, and emotional bonding with friends and family. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 6, 2021 Thanks for doing your part! - Katie Clark Jun 29, 2021 You’ve captured the complexity of chronic pain. It’s not just get a pill, and things will be fine. It’s really hard to explain to friends and family because literally, they aren’t able to grasp the whole picture. When we try to share just one part, it makes it seem so simple. This is why I say it’s a full time job to work on these 7demensions. I wonder if it will ever be less demanding? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 27, 2021 I couldn’t agree more – pain can sound so simplistic when people only understand it as acute physical pain, or ‘some sort of’ mental pain. It certainly is a lifelong, full time job working on these dimensions, indeed! - [ Claire ](http://throughthefibrofog.com) Jun 23, 2021 Such a comprehensive post – so helpful! I totally agree that wellness isn’t just ‘one thing’ and is so many aspects of our lives, that often inter-connect. I’ve found that being outside and in nature in the woods or just at a local park is one of the best ways to perk up my mood and make me feel better. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 27, 2021 I wish we had woods or larger greenery here, and less humidity. I bet you I’d be walking and going outdoors SO much more, and no – truly isn’t an excuse! :p - [ Heather @ Writer's Life for You ](https://writerslifeforyou.com/) Jun 14, 2021 First of all, this is an amazing article! I had never heard of the 7 dimensions of wellness but as soon as you mentioned them I saw that they all do work together. I need to work on several of these, especially spiritual. I want to start meditating more because I feel like I’m always so busy and that would really help. I recently started yoga for the physical aspect because sometimes finding an exercise you can do when you have a chronic illness can be so difficult. I’m bookmarking this article! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 14, 2021 Thank you for sharing your personal experiences, plans and for bookmarking this article, Heather! Yes there are a few different numbers for the dimensions of wellness but I thought these seven were the best fit! I do need to work on my spiritual health, too. As mentioned in the article, it’s not about ‘woo woo’ stuff, but being in touch with my inner self and more. I wish you all the best on your journey! - [ Beth Elkassih ](https://madeyousmileback.com) Jun 13, 2021 Thanks for sharing this well detailed and written article. I particularly like your definition of emotional and mental well-being and yes, yes, yes, I am a big proponent of journaling. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 14, 2021 Thank you Beth! I did a lot of research to ensure that the definitions were as accurate as possible, and also my own personal take on them based on experiences with chronic pain. And journaling is a fantastic tool indeed for many things! - [ Myrah Duque ](https://www.mamacitaonthemove.com) Jun 13, 2021 First of all, THANK YOU for this in-depth article about dealing with chronic pain! It has definitely helped me in the way I now look at living with chronic pain. It’s such a health challenge that many live with and we don’t stop to think about it. Definitely sharing this article. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 13, 2021 Thanks so much, Myrah! I’m glad it helps you in some way or another. Chronic pain and the management for it definitely differs from person to person, and encompasses beyond just getting better from physical pain. Hope your pain eases up a little bit! - [ Elaine Merryfield ](http://navigatinglifewithfibro.com) Jun 8, 2021 This is such a comprehensive and helpful article/ post that you wrote here about living with chronic heath challenges and all the dimensions of our lives that are interconnected and interdependent. It took me years to learn this so I see this as such valuable info for those earlier on in their journeys. Blessing to you for this valuable contribution. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 9, 2021 Thank you Elaine! It was a tough one to write as it required quite a bit of research for a blog post, but one I was so glad to do 🙂 Yes health really goes beyond just the physical, doesn’t it? Those with chronic illness definitely know the mental, occupational and emotional impact at the minimum for one. - [ Despite Pain ](https://despitepain.com) Jun 6, 2021 Sheryl, I have never before read such a good, in depth article about coping with chronic pain. You have covered so much and gone into so much detail. Living with constant pain is complex and there is not one simple fix (if only there was!). Your post gives people so many accessable avenues to venture down which they might not have thought of before. Well done on a fantastic post. Oh, and I agree that writing a blog post is almost therapeutic. Then comes the hard part which non-bloggers don’t know about. This post must have taken you a huge amount of time, effort and energy. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 7, 2021 Hi Liz, thanks so much for your appreciation and support. You want to know the ironic thing about writing this post? I ran into a pain flare haha… :p I spent a whole month just focussed on it. It was kind of a fascinating rabbit hole. In any case I really enjoyed producing it, and learned so much in the process. I am so glad the post was useful for you, too! Keep an eye out because I have more resource projects on the plate 😉 - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) May 31, 2021 “My body is a temple, and my temple needs redecorating.” – Joan Rivers ^ Hahahah I love that! I’ve come across it before but totally forgot about it until now. I love how you break these dimensions down and take the holistic, all over approach to encompass the different aspects of our mental and physical health, and the ways in which we can improve or manage areas through nutrition, lifestyle, mindfulness, therapy and so on. You’ve given lots of great points to consider and tips to try, and I like the references to other material and services like the Mental Health Foundation. This is an incredibly comprehensive guide – very well done for putting this all together, Sheryl, absolutely fantastic! Caz xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 1, 2021 Hi Caz, thank you so much for your unending support, know that it’s deeply appreciated. This article was a beast to write and I ended up with a pain flare because of it (the irony, right?!). It was just such a fascinating topic to research and learn and write about and morphed into something else than the original ‘simple’ article I thought it would be :p Happy you enjoyed the post and found it useful! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients URL: https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/ Last updated: 2026-04-09T15:07:04.000Z The causes of malabsorption are not always readily apparent, yet the effects can be devastating as our body does not have the nutrients it needs to function properly. There are certain chronic illnesses that are more susceptible to malabsorption, and many patients require supplementation in one form or another. In this article, we will take a look at what malabsorption is, what its causes are, how it impacts our bodies, and potential solutions to combat nutrient deficiencies. *\*Disclaimer: Whilst this post is sponsored by* [*Spectra Spray*](https://www.spectraspray.com/)*, all opinions expressed are my own. Please note that *I am not a medical professional*, but have done meticulous research from credible sources for this article. Nothing should be taken as medical advice. *Always* be sure to check with your doctor before you start on *any* new treatment or protocol. This post might contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps to keep this blog running. Kindly refer to our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/) *page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Malabsorption & Nutrients Boards: ![The Causes and Dangers of Malabsorption, and An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients via Oral Spray Vitamins](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-of-malabsorption-easy-way-get-nutrients-oral-spray-vitamins-pink.jpg) ## What is Malabsorption? According to Zuvarox and Belletieri (2023): > “The gastrointestinal tract is involved in absorbing nutrients such as fats, carbohydrates, proteins, vitamins, minerals, and trace elements. [Malabsorption refers to impaired nutrient absorption](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK553106/) at any point where nutrients are absorbed, and maldigestion refers to impaired nutrient digestion within the intestinal lumen or at the brush border.” When we consume foods, they are normally broken down into [macronutrients and micronutrients](https://www.msdmanuals.com/en-sg/professional/gastrointestinal-disorders/malabsorption-syndromes/overview-of-malabsorption) in the small intestine. The body then absorbs them into the bloodstream from there (Malik & Nguyen, 2025). This process is interrupted when [malabsorption](https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/malabsorption) occurs, where the body is unable to digest or absorb these nutrients (Johns Hopkins Medicine, n.d.). [Causes include](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/B9780123864567038041): autoimmune disease, surgery, infection, congenital or a genetic defect (Ensari, 2014). ## Causes of Malnutrition in Chronic Illness Patients Certain chronic illnesses are particularly susceptible to malabsorption, such as: Irritable Bowel Syndrome, IBS, Crohn’s Disease, Ulcerative Colitis, Celiac Disease, Mast Cell Activation Syndrome (MCAS) and Short Bowel Syndrome (SBS) (Scaldaferri et al., 2017). According to Scaldaferri et al. (2017): > “Existing data suggest that [malnutrition affects a large portion of patients](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1155/2017/8646495) with inflammatory bowel disease (IBD), estimated in 65–75% of patients with Crohn’s disease (CD) and in 18–62% of patients with ulcerative colitis (UC).” In these diseases or disorders, the cell linings in the [intestines might be inflamed](https://www.crohnscolitisfoundation.org/patientsandcaregivers/diet-and-nutrition/malnutrition-and-ibd), destroyed or unresponsive. Small intestine inflammation can result in problems with digesting food and absorbing nutrients. Large intestine inflammation (including the colon and rectum) can result in problems with water and electrolytes absorption (Crohn’s & Colitis Foundation, n.d.). In patients with IBD, inflammation tends to occur in the intestines, which can lead to ulceration of bowel surfaces. This in turn leads to malabsorption from chronic blood and protein loss. Alternatively, patients are unable to eat due to symptoms such as nausea, vomiting, diarrhoea and abdominal pains. They may have limited food choices as well. This lack of food, and therefore, nutrient intake, plays a major role in malnutrition. ## Medications as a Factor in Malabsorption Medications taken to control and manage chronic illnesses can also cause malabsorption. For example, glucocorticosteroids are notorious for interfering with calcium absorption. This can lead to [osteoporosis](https://emedicine.medscape.com/article/330598-overview) and other health problems. In fact, osteoporosis is often overlooked until a fracture occurs, yet is the most common bone disease in the U.S. (Elam et al., 2024). [Sulfasalazine](https://medlineplus.gov/druginfo/meds/a682204.html) is a [DMARD (disease-modifying anti-rheumatic drug)](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK507863/) that doctors sometimes use in patients with UC or IBD. It is also a folic antagonist. The aim is to control and treat bowel inflammation, diarrhoea, rectal bleeding and abdominal pain. Side effects, ironically, can mirror the symptoms of the disease (AHFS Patient Medication Information, 2024; Benjamin et al., 2023). ## Some of the Consequences From Malabsorption Depending on the type of nutrient loss or malabsorption, a wide range of symptoms can occur, such as: - Anaemia - Chronic fatigue - Sleeping disorders - Female infertility - Osteoporosis or osteopenia - Hypertension - Cardiomyopathy - Poor wound healing - Night blindness - And more Some common vitamin and nutrient deficiencies in IBD patients include: - Iron - Calcium - Selenium - Zinc - Magnesium - Vitamins (especially vitamin A, B12, Folic Acid, D and K) ## Surgery & Malnutrition in IBD Patients [Up to 50% of patients with Crohn's Disease need surgery](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5490541/) within the first 10 years post diagnosis. And up to 85% of patients awaiting surgery suffer from malnutrition (Grass et al., 2017). What's worse is that malnourishment in itself [can have an impact on the surgical outcome](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6174741/). This is especially true for those with chronic diseases, who already have other risk factors and a faulty immune system (Stoner et al., 2018). The rates for malnutrition in IBD patients range from 25 - 69%. It is especially common in Crohn's Disease, as it can affect any part of the gastrointestinal tract. Compare that to UC, where inflammation is limited to the colon (Stoner et al., 2018). Read Related Posts: - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care: Introduction to the Series](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-introduction/) - [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) ## The Rise of Obesity & The Need for Bariatric Surgery Another major problem in modern society is [morbid obesity](https://care.diabetesjournals.org/content/28/2/481). The numbers are climbing and will reach close to one million over the next few years. Nutritional deficiencies such as Vitamin B12 and iron are common in this population (Fujioka, 2005). Over 100,000 [bariatric (weight loss) surgeries](https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/bariatric-surgery/about/pac-20394258) are performed annually. This surgical procedure alters the anatomy of the regular digestive system. These alterations mean that the body will no longer have the time or space to break food down for absorption and utilisation 'as per usual'. Malnutrition can occur on top of other health issues such as metabolic problems and ulcers (Mayo Clinic, 2024). In general, fat-soluble vitamins A, D and K will be [deficient in two-thirds of such patients](https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/encyclopedia/content.aspx?contenttypeid=134&contentid=106) within 4 years of surgery. This leads to other health problems such as easy bruising, rashes, osteomalacia and more, depending on the type of nutritional deficiency (University of Rochester Medical Center \[URMC\], n.d.). ## Bacterial Overgrowth (SIBO)’s Impact on Malabsorption [SIBO (small intestinal bacterial overgrowth)](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/21820-small-intestinal-bacterial-overgrowth-sibo) is a common cause of malabsorption. Whilst probiotics are generally good for intestinal flora, some contain prebiotics such as fructooligosaccharides or inulin. These carbohydrates provide food for gut bacteria. But they can also lead to overgrowth and aggravate gastrointestinal (GI) symptoms (Cleveland Clinic, 2024). [Intestinal hyperpermeability (aka leaky gut)](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/22724-leaky-gut-syndrome) and SIBO are also common symptoms faced by people with Celiac Disease, who are on a strict gluten-free diet (Cleveland Clinic, 2022). Other acute causes of SIBO include antibiotic use, which wipes out or disturbs intestinal flora, and narcotic use, which can slow down intestinal transit (motility). Rotaviruses, Astroviruses and Noroviruses are some [transient causes for SIBO](https://courses.lumenlearning.com/microbiology/chapter/viral-infections-of-the-gastrointestinal-tract/) as well (Nursing Hero, n.d.). [Intestinal bacteria also loves iron](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6315993/#sec7-pharmaceuticals-11-00098), and sometimes absorb it before the body is able to utilise it, leading to iron deficiency (Yilmaz & Li, 2018). ## Microbial Infections That Can Cause Malabsorption Protozoal and Helminth infections can cause malabsorption, and also intestinal tuberculosis and chronic pancreatitis. These happen especially in the tropics, and is known as “[tropical malabsorption](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2653921/)” (Ramakrishna et al., 2006). There have also been a rise of IBD and Celiac Disease in the tropics that have lead to malabsorption. ## Conclusion to The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption Malabsorption is a complex topic that often isn't given enough attention. It is also often not picked up early enough, even by medical professionals. This can have a detrimental effect on the patient. [Sometimes the effects of malabsorption are not readily apparent](https://www.msdmanuals.com/en-sg/professional/gastrointestinal-disorders/malabsorption-syndromes/overview-of-malabsorption), and further testing needs to be done (Malik & Nguyen, 2025). As detailed above, there are many root causes that can lead to malabsorption. Regardless of the cause, it is vital to replenish and nourish the body with nutrients. They are essential for optimal health and wellbeing in any person. Whilst many patients do take supplements to support their health, the body is often unable to absorb them properly for a variety of reasons. ## Oral Spray Vitamins as a Potential Solution for Supplementation There are a few methods to take your vitamins or supplements. In order of slowest to fastest absorption rate: - Pills - Gel capsules - Transdermal patches - Sublingual liquids - Intramuscular injections - **Oral spray vitamins** The use of oral spray vitamins is a quick, easy and ingenious way to provide your body with nutrients. The [absorption rate is up to 3 times faster](https://www.spectraspray.com/about-us) than traditional pills and capsules (SpectraSpray, n.d.). This is because the vitamins have already been emulsified (broken down) in oral spray vitamins. The body does not need to waste time or effort breaking down binders, fillers and inorganic materials that often come with pills and capsules. Some chronic illness patients such as those with MCAS might also be allergic to these binders or fillers. Oral spray vitamins might be a potential solution to explore if patients are struggling with pill or capsule supplements for any reason. Or if such supplements have proven to be ineffective for them. They can also be used to boost the health of the general population. [Shop on SpectraSpray](https://www.spectraspray.com/?ref=ro3g2jmalw) *\*Spectra Spray Global is a spray vitamin company based in the USA with a mission to provide easy to use, highly effective, on-the-go health products that change lives everyday.* ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. 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(Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) Pin to Your Health & Nutrition Boards: ![The Causes and Dangers of Malabsorption, and An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_causes-dangers-malabsorption-nutrients.jpg) ### References: - AHFS Patient Medication Information. (2024, February 15). *Sulfasalazine.* MedlinePlus. https://medlineplus.gov/druginfo/meds/a682204.html - Benjamin, O., Goyal, A., & Lappin, S. L. (2023). Disease-modifying antirheumatic drugs (DMARD). In *StatPearls.* StatPearls Publishing. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK507863/ - Cleveland Clinic. (2022, April 6). *Leaky gut syndrome.* https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/22724-leaky-gut-syndrome - Cleveland Clinic. (2024, August 9). *SIBO (small intestinal bacterial overgrowth).* https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/21820-small-intestinal-bacterial-overgrowth-sibo - Crohn’s & Colitis Foundation. (n.d.). *Malnutrition and IBD.* Retrieved May 2, 2021, from https://www.crohnscolitisfoundation.org/patientsandcaregivers/diet-and-nutrition/malnutrition-and-ibd - Elam, R. E. W., Jackson, N. N., Machua, W., & Carbone, L. D. (2024). *Osteoporosis.* Medscape. https://emedicine.medscape.com/article/330598-overview - Ensari, A. (2014). The malabsorption syndrome and its causes and consequences. In L. M. McManus & R. N. Mitchell (Eds.), *Pathobiology of Human Disease* (pp. 1266–1287). Academic Press. https://doi.org/10.1016/B978-0-12-386456-7.03804-1 - Fujioka, K. (2005). Follow-up of nutritional and metabolic problems after bariatric surgery. *Diabetes Care, 28*(2), 481–484\. https://doi.org/10.2337/diacare.28.2.481 - Grass, F., Pache, B., Martin, D., Hahnloser, D., Demartines, N., & Hübner, M. (2017). Preoperative nutritional conditioning of crohn’s patients—systematic review of current evidence and practice. *Nutrients, 9*(6), 562\. https://doi.org/10.3390/nu9060562 - Johns Hopkins Medicine. (n.d.). *Malabsorption.* Retrieved May 2, 2021, from https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/malabsorption - Malik, Z., & Nguyen, M. (2025, March). *Overview of malabsorption.* MSD Manuals. https://www.msdmanuals.com/professional/gastrointestinal-disorders/malabsorption-syndromes/overview-of-malabsorption - Mayo Clinic. (2024, July 5). *Bariatric surgery.* https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/bariatric-surgery/about/pac-20394258 - Nursing Hero. (n.d.). *Viral infections of the gastrointestinal tract.* Retrieved May 2, 2021, from https://www.nursinghero.com/study-guides/microbiology/viral-infections-of-the-gastrointestinal-tract - Ramakrishna, B. S., Venkataraman, S., & Mukhopadhya, A. (2006). Tropical malabsorption. *Postgraduate Medical Journal, 82*(974), 779–787\. https://doi.org/10.1136/pgmj.2006.048579 - Scaldaferri, F., Pizzoferrato, M., Lopetuso, L. R., Musca, T., Ingravalle, F., Sicignano, L. L., Mentella, M., Miggiano, G., Mele, M. C., Gaetani, E., Graziani, C., Petito, V., Cammarota, G., Marzetti, E., Martone, A., Landi, F., & Gasbarrini, A. (2017). Nutrition and IBD: Malnutrition and/or sarcopenia? A practical guide. *Gastroenterology Research and Practice, 2017*(1), 8646495\. https://doi.org/10.1155/2017/8646495 - SpectraSpray. (n.d.). *About SpectraSpray.* Retrieved May 2, 2021, from https://www.spectraspray.com/about-us - Stoner, P. L., Kamel, A., Ayoub, F., Tan, S., Iqbal, A., Glover, S. C., & Zimmermann, E. M. (2018). Perioperative care of patients with inflammatory bowel disease: Focus on nutritional support. *Gastroenterology Research and Practice, 2018*, 7890161\. https://doi.org/10.1155/2018/7890161 - University of Rochester Medical Center. (n.d.). *Problems with digesting fat after weight-loss surgery.* Retrieved May 2, 2021, from https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/encyclopedia/content?contenttypeid=134&contentid=106 - Yilmaz, B., & Li, H. (2018). Gut microbiota and iron: The crucial actors in health and disease. *Pharmaceuticals, 11*(4), 98\. https://doi.org/10.3390/ph11040098 - Zuvarox, T., & Belletieri, C. (2023). Malabsorption syndromes. In *StatPearls.* StatPearls Publishing. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK553106/ ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Katie Clark May 4, 2021 This makes me wonder. I had the Nissen Procedure done to stop acid reflux. Since then, my stomach has been on FIRE. However, once I stopped dairy and gluten this past year, it’s been 80% better. I wonder if the procedure caused issues with absorption of nutrients. - [ Alison Haayes ](https://thrivingwhiledisabled.com) May 4, 2021 Thank you for writing this! It took forever for Al to be diagnosed with autoimmune pernicious anemia for the reasons you mentioned above. In his case, his immune system has been attacking the intrinsic factor, which is what takes B-12 from the stomach and intestines into the blood stream. Eating B-12 does him no good because the problem is in his digestive system. He’s getting monthly injections of B-12 now, which does the trick, but it took quite a few doctors to figure out what was wrong, especially because usually there are other symptoms of B-12 malabsorption, but they were masked by the symptoms from his TBI several years earlier. I’m using the sleep spray now, and like it – though unfortunately one of my cats bit one of my tubes and punctured it! Thanks again for discussing this – malabsorption definitely is one of those things pretty low-down on doctors’ priorities to test for! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 5, 2021 Hi Alison, yes it’s surprising how difficult malabsorption can be to diagnose sometimes, no? That’s kind of funny about the cat but am sorry to hear that happened! 🙁 Does it work for you like it works for me? And agreed, we definitely need more awareness on malabsorption. Sometimes a simple few tests are all that’s needed, even. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Disability and Sex: Disabled People are Not Automatically Bad Sexual or Romantic Partners URL: https://achronicvoice.com/disability-and-sex/ Last updated: 2025-10-25T14:16:08.000Z ## Not Your Everyday Email Request – Writing About Disability and Sex Amidst the dozens of emails I receive a day for blog related stuff, one stood out the other day. It asked if I was interested in writing a post for their blog on disability and sex. I was highly suspicious at first, as it was from a porn site, Lustery. Was it legitimate or risky? But after doing some research on their website, I decided to say 'yes'. They seemed truly passionate about raising awareness on disability and sex, and it didn't seem like a scam at all. It is also a highly stigmatised but important topic that needs to be addressed in society. According to Hussein and Ferguson (2019): > "[Stigma and discrimination can be real or perceived](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/26410397.2019.1697103), with important implications for the health of populations, including the delivery of sexual and reproductive health care, making these obstacles critical public health concerns." *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. Whilst I have done my utmost to be meticulous in research, *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ## Modern Society's Portrayal of Disability & Sex Sadly, the portrayal of good sex in society, or even any sex at all, rarely involves disabled people. How could a person who uses a wheelchair, walking stick or another form of mobility aid even have sex? How could a person with an invisible illness that causes chronic pain be even 'up to task'? In this era of dating apps and quick swipes, options for sex partners are technically unlimited. One night stands are all too common, and even seen as a form of masculinity or independence. [Pornography can also create unrealistic sexual expectations or fantasies](https://fightthenewdrug.org/porn-upgrades-what-a-consumer-finds-attractive/) (Fight the New Drug, n.d.-a). I am not disputing that these are bad or good things, but they do cultivate some faulty thinking in relation to sex and disability. Pin to Your Sex, Relationship & Disability Boards: ![Can Disabled People Have Sex? Do They Even Need It?](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_disabled-people-sex-need.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/) - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Would You Rather: Have an Invisible Illness or a Visible Disability?](https://achronicvoice.com/rather-have-invisible-illness-or-disability/) ## Myths & Associations to Disability & Sex They perpetuate the [myth that disabled people are non sexual beings or asexual](https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/feduc.2017.00046/full) (Shah, 2017). Or that they're not 'worth' wasting time or effort having sex with. Why should you, when the sea is full of able-bodied people who are ready to play? Words that are often associated when people think about disability are (wheelchair) 'bound', 'restricted', 'limited', 'immobile', 'slow', 'weak', or some other negative connotation. Whereas sex is often seen as ‘wild’, ‘fun’, ‘vigorous’, ‘spontaneous’, ‘active’, ‘hearty’ and ‘requring lots of stamina’. Pin to Your Disability, Sex & Stigma Boards: ![Myths & Associations to Disability and Sex](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_myths-associations-disability-sex-really-know.jpg) ## What Do We Really Know About Disability & What Accessibility Means? Where is the overlap that matters most? The intimacy. The social, mental and emotional connections. The flourishing and nourishing of love. The communication and relational depth. The sort of human connections that deep down inside, we crave for the most. According to Fight the New Drug (n.d.-b) (a great website for such topics, by the way!), an article titled “[The Percentage Of Sexless Twenty-Somethings Is Now A Record High, But Why?](https://fightthenewdrug.org/bad-sex-for-millennials/)”: > "A disturbing amount of porn emphasizes dominance and violence, things that don’t have a place in a safe, consensual, and mutually satisfying relationship where sex is involved. There’s a lot more to sex than just the act of intercourse itself—things like trust, sharing, cuddling, intimacy, and love." And if you do not live with a disability or chronic illness, what do you really know about a person's physical limitations? Yet society lumps them all into one group. An example is the fact that many restaurants and [public spaces claim to be accessibility friendly](https://www.forbes.com/sites/andrewpulrang/2020/01/03/4-ways-to-understand-the-diversity-of-the-disability-community/?sh=330daa253d3e), just because they have a ramp for wheelchairs (Pulrang, 2020). But not all disabled people need ramps or wheelchairs, and ramps are not a one-stop solution for accessibility. I will not delve further as this is one gigantic topic of its own! But there are many great blogs written by disabled people that you can search for to learn more. Read Related Posts: - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) - [Is Yoga Accessible for People with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [What’s It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) ## It's Okay to Have a Thought by Instinct, But What You Act Upon After Matters Most I wouldn't be surprised if a healthy person reconsiders any sort of relationship with a person, should they learn that they have a disability. A 'defect'. I experienced this first hand myself. It does take a different kind of commitment and understanding that not everyone is prepared or selfless enough for. I wouldn't blame anyone for having this initial, reactive, instinctive thought, however. As human we have an innate wiring to survive and to propogate. But as with any thought, it's what you act upon that matters. It's important to keep an open mind and to question our thoughts, as they [aren't always true or correct](https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2017/02/27/why-facts-dont-change-our-minds) (Kolbert, 2017). How do you know that someone isn't a good sexual partner based on the mere fact that they have a disability? Have you asked their opinion or thoughts about it? Do you know their actual limitations and abilities? What you do really know about disability, if at all? Pin to Your Self-Awareness & Quote Boards: ![The Importance of Questioning Our Thoughts - They Aren't Always True](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_sex-disability-thoughts.jpg) ![Quote - It’s Okay to Have a Thought by Instinct, But What You Act Upon After Matters Most](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_quote-thought-instinct-act.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [The Subtle Difference Between Saying “Think Positive” and “Stay Positive” to Someone with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/difference-think-positive-stay-positive-chronic-pain/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) ## Social, Physical & Sexual Needs as Any Human Being To be human is to need connection on all levels, including social. In fact, [social pain and physical pain have a shared neural circuit](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.26599/BSA.2019.9050023) (Zhang et al., 2019). James Coan, a Professor of Psychology at the University of Virginia, says, “[Humans have this dire need to connect](https://thepangean.com/The-Importance-of-Human-Connections). Our brains have learned from brutal evolutionary lessons that social isolation is a death sentence” (Chadha, 2020). Physical connection is another human need. Whilst it's true that some chronic illnesses or disabilities can [trigger pain from touch](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/symptoms/21570-allodynia) (Cleveland Clinic, 2024), that doesn't mean that these people have no desire for affection. > "[Connection is not an exchange of information](https://www.proquest.com/openview/d009c00cede33e7656c7162d179c731c/1). It’s an exchange of humanity. It’s an exchange of emotion." - Sean Stephenson (Sánchez, 2023) Whilst it may be oversimplified, the [five love languages](https://www.mic.com/p/do-love-languages-actually-matter-psychologists-weigh-in-18799908) provide a simple framework for "speaking your partner's language", with physical touch amongst them (Duncan, 2024). We all need this to varying degrees, whether abled or disabled. I've had abled partners who were on extreme ends of the spectrum, and showed their care and love in very different ways. To add to that, a study by Meston and Buss (2007) identified [***237 distinct reasons*** as to why humans have and need sex](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-007-9175-2). This ranges from obvious or traditional reasons, such as emotional fulfilment, human instinct and duty, to more drastic causes such as revenge. Pin to Your Humanity & Self-Awareness Boards: ![Social, Physical and Sexual Needs as Any Human Being (Disabled or Not)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_sexual-needs-human-being-disabled.jpg) ## Formation of False Narratives Through Hyperconnectivity Modern life is fast-paced, stressful and often worships a culture of busyness. This likely contributes to the [faulty and dangerous conclusion that disability is a burden](https://www.vice.com/en/article/xw78a7/we-need-to-stop-talking-about-disability-as-a-burden) in general (Leary, 2018). The internet ensures hyperconnectivity, yet [miscommunication and false narratives have also escalated](https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2018/04/17/concerns-about-the-future-of-peoples-well-being/) (Anderson & Rainie, 2018). The selective lens of social media, porn and advertising seep into our subconsciousness. It's almost brainwashing with the daily constant bombardment. In fact, one needs to make a real effort to break away from certain streams of thoughts after a while. Pin to Your Society, Social Media & Awareness Boards: ![False Narratives of Sex and Disability (Perpetuated Through the Warped Lens of Social Media)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_false-narratives-sex-disability-social-media.jpg) ## Good Communication is Key to Good Sex I'm sure you know of relationships that have ended due to poor or miscommunication. This frequently happens outside of the bedroom, too. Good sex requires sensitivity, compromise, give and take. This is true whether you have a disability or not. Every relationship possesses its own beauty, and also its own set of problems. No matter who you are, or where you come from in the world. Pin to Your Relationship & Communication Boards: ![Good Communication Is Key to Good Sex (Disabled or Otherwise)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_good-communication-sex-disabled.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) ## **The Importance of Sex & Disability Education** It's important to take time to educate ourselves on disability. It might surprise you at how 'able' these people actually are in so many ways. Apart from research from reliable sources, the best way to learn is through disabled people themselves. Ask if it's okay to ask, then ask if you get the green light. What sort of disability do they have? How does it impact their day to day life? What do they struggle with? What do they love to do and are passionate about? Some things you'll have to discover on your own, but that's the magic of building any relationship. You might be surprised at what you fall in love with and [what they have to teach you](https://io9.gizmodo.com/what-disabled-people-can-teach-us-about-sex-and-why-w-1691916261) \- probably even in the bedroom (Quarmby, 2015). ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! 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Pin to Your Disability & Sex Education Boards: ![The Importance of Sex and Disability Education](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_importance-sex-disability-education.jpg) ![You Might Be Surprised At What Disabled Have to Teach About Sex!](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_disabled-teach-sex.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationships with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [4 Cool Truths My Partner Said (Unwittingly)](https://achronicvoice.com/cool-truths/) - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) Read More About Disabled People & Sex: - [Disabled Fables & Things - sex blog by a disabled Asian woman](https://disabledfables.com/) - [After A Lifetime Of Being Sidelined, People With Disabilities Are Reclaiming Their Sexuality (Lim, 2021)](https://www.ricemedia.co/culture-people-lifetime-sidelined-people-disabilities-reclaiming-sexuality/) Pin to Your Disability & Sex Boards: ![Disability & Sex: Disabled People are Not Automatically Bad Sexual or Romantic Partners](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_disability-sex-disabled-sexual-romantic-partners.jpg) ![Disability & Sex: Disabled People are Not Automatically Bad Sexual or Romantic Partners](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_disability-sex-disabled-sexual-partners.jpg) ### References: - Anderson, J., & Rainie, L. (2018, April 17). *3\. Concerns about the future of people’s well-being.* Pew Research Center. - Chadha, A. S. (2020, August 14). *The importance of human connections, as told by the coronavirus.* The Pangean. - Cleveland Clinic. (2024, July 10). *Allodynia.* - Disabled Fables & Things. (n.d.). *The erotic missadventures of a captive libido.* Retrieved April 13, 2021, from - Duncan, T. A. (2024, February 21). *Do love languages actually matter? Psychologists weigh in.* Mic. - Fight the New Drug. (n.d.-a). *Expectations vs. reality: Why watching porn can change what you find attractive.* Retrieved 13 April 2021, from - Fight the New Drug, F. the N. (n.d.-b). *The percentage of sexless twenty-somethings is now a record high, but why?* Retrieved 13 April 2021, from - Hussein, J., & Ferguson, L. (2019). Eliminating stigma and discrimination in sexual and reproductive health care: A public health imperative. *Sexual and Reproductive Health Matters, 27*(3), 1–5\. - Kolbert, E. (2017, February 19). *Why facts don’t change our minds.* The New Yorker. - Leary, A. (2018, March 20). *We need to stop talking about disability as a burden.* VICE. - Lim, L. (2021, March 25). *After a lifetime of being sidelined, people with disabilities are reclaiming their sexuality.* RICE. - Meston, C. M., & Buss, D. M. (2007). Why humans have sex. *Archives of Sexual Behavior, 36*(4), 477–507\. - Pulrang, A. (2020, January 3). *4 ways to understand the diversity of the disability community.* Forbes. - Quarmby, K. (2015, March 17). *What disabled people can teach us about sex – and why we should listen.* Gizmodo. - Sánchez, M. A. (2023). *Exploring the connection of childhood and adulthood attachments in first-generation latino relationships: A qualitative study* (Publication No. 30820274) \[Doctoral dissertation, The Chicago School of Professional Psychology\]. ProQuest Dissertations & Theses Global. - Shah, S. (2017). “Disabled people are sexual citizens too”: Supporting sexual identity, well-being, and safety for disabled young people. Frontiers in Education, 2(46). https://doi.org/10.3389/feduc.2017.00046 Zhang, M., Zhang, Y., & Kong, Y. (2019). Interaction between social pain and physical pain. *Brain Science Advances, 5*(4), 265–273\. ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Katie Clark Apr 18, 2021 I have thought about writing on the subject. I'm a bit too nervous, though. Sex raises dopamine, which improves mood and lessens pain. My husband and I have joked that whenever I have a headache, I need sex because it always clears it ;) - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 8, 2022 You totally should, Katie! I'd really love to hear it from your perspective as someone who's older, has children and a grandkid, and more! Haha so true... sex truly is a painkiller, and a fun one at that! - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Apr 14, 2021 You approached this topic so thoughtfully Sheryl. It's so true that society has certain narratives around disability and sex that seem to be at odds with each other, yet that definitely doesn't need to be the case. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 15, 2021 Thank you Claire. I had wanted to write a short post about my guest post on Lustery, but it turned out into a topic of its own! Definitely needs more awareness around the topics of sex and disability, especially with the constant bombardment of false narratives on social media and even the news. - [ Ellen Best ](https://ellenbest24.wordpress.com/) Apr 14, 2021 A tough subject handled so well. But in a world that thinks over sixty is too old for sex or intimacy, let alone an over sixty with a hidden illness still wanting sex... I am not seeing attitudes changing any time soon. I overheard a man say "She can't expect me to want her now she is soft and wrinkled, that is not what I married!" He was bald and rotund discussing his wife! It beggars belief. We can only hope our own partners have been taught better! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 15, 2021 Thank you Ellen! Yes it’s strange... why can’t older folks have sex or want it? And what a horrible thing for her husband to say — unbelievable! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Why I Moved from SiteGround to Cloudways (and Couldn't be Happier). Plus Cute Puppy Pics & A New Pacing Strategy. URL: https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/ Last updated: 2025-09-10T10:46:16.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* A bit of a mishmash of topics this month for my linkup entry, but why not?! Read about my latest web hosting saga; a mini review of SiteGround and Cloudways of sorts. A bit of a blogger's nightmare as my website was taken offline for almost a week. And how that turned to a blessing in disguise, as I took the leap and signed up at Cloudways instead. And I hope you don't mind, but there are many animal pictures in this post! Finally, I've been trying to 'be a good girl' with my work-life or computer-life imbalance. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ## “Incorporating” a New Hosting Platform I didn’t think I’d use the prompt, “incorporating”, to talk about hosting issues this month, but here I am! Moral of the story: Getting a good host matters for your website; sometimes what everyone thinks is a ‘good host’ is in fact, not suitable for you. Also, customer support is paramount - full stop. So what triggered this spade of vehement conclusions? [As a web developer](https://work.achronicvoice.com/), I’ve tried dozens of hosting and domain companies over the decades. Always curious about ‘which is better’, and of course, based on my clients’ or my needs. ### The Price to Pay for SiteGround’s ‘Great Speed’ SiteGround is well known for great uptime and service, but I beg to differ. They recently took my website offline for days, because it exceeded ‘shared server usage’. Sure, they send you warning emails at 80% usage, but with not much help except to 'clean up or upgrade your plan'. Their plans, after the initial introductory offer, are infamous for the hefty price tag. Many customers need to find a new host again after their plan ends, which can be a hassle. I chose to go with SiteGround regardless, as I was lured by the reviews of 'great speed'. Yet this isn't quite the perfect picture as I've come to realise. SiteGround's hosting speed is decent (well, compared to my previous host at least!), but this comes at a cost to certain clients. Websites that ruin those 'pretty numbers', so to speak, are taken offline. They could argue that this is to 'protect resources for other customers', which I can accept. But moving on to my next point, which was the main reason I decided to leave SiteGround for good. ### Problems with SiteGround’s ‘Great Customer Support’ Many customers seem happy with SiteGround's customer support, yet I've never had a *single* good interaction with their support staff. What I've come to realise is that issues they help most customers to solve are mostly simple WordPress related issues. When it comes to more complex backend problems, their front-line support staff are clueless. One of them even ended the chat without any resolution to my problem, or waiting for my reply. This isn't a one-off, unlucky experience either. ### How I Ended Up at Cloudways’ Doorstep We've been doing a lot of research at work on hosting companies with great speed, as this is a [major SEO factor in 2021](https://developers.google.com/search/blog/2020/11/timing-for-page-experience). My boss is also on SiteGround, yet finds even their best GoGeek plan unsatisfying to keep up with his website's needs. His plan was ending soon as well, and he wasn't sure if he wanted to pay so much money for their regular, post-offer plans. We both moved to [Cloudways](https://www.cloudways.com/en/?id=848707) recently, and I'm going to say that I'm blown out of my mind. Each and every single one of their customer support staff deserve a gold medal. Some of them even stayed online with me for hours to try and help fix my website. SiteGround wanted to charge me $30 for re-instating a backup version, but Cloudways wanted to try and avoid that. SiteGround's reason was that their senior engineers had to do 'manual work' to restore the backup. Is that to say that they outsource the work? Or that their regular engineers don't do any 'manual work'? ### Cloudways’ Blazing Fast Site Speed Another reason that I'm now a big fan of Cloudways is that their hosting speeds are blazing fast. I hadn't expected such a huge leap in site speed, as my WordPress theme is 6 years old. I'm working on a more updated blog layout for Google's latest rollouts, but this automatic boost is helpful for my SEO in the interim. Both my mobile and desktop site speeds increased by 20 - 30 points. My desktop site speed is close to 100 now, even! (You can [check your own site speed on Google here](https://developers.google.com/speed/pagespeed/insights/).) ### Which Plan to Pick on Cloudways? There are a quite a number of different plans to select from on Cloudways, which might be overwhelming. If you're unsure or confused, their basic Digital Ocean or Vultr plans are sufficient (approx. $10/month). I am on the 1GB Vultr high frequency plan (more speed!), which costs $13/month. I would recommend it without a moment's hesitation. And I'll definitely be incorporating many more websites and projects on Cloudways soon. [Start Your Free Trial on Cloudways](https://www.cloudways.com/en/?id=848707) Pin to Your Blogging & Hosting Boards: ![Why I’m Loving Cloudways (and Never Going Back to SiteGround Again) - Try Free Trial](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_loving-cloudways-never-siteground-free-trial.jpg) ## Learning to “Breathe Well” ### Seeing a Psychologist to Try & Learn Breathing Techniques Moving on to more chronic illness life stuff, my psychiatrist referred me to a psychologist a few months ago. She wanted me to find new ways to regulate [**my anxiety and panic attacks**](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/), as the anti-depressants I'm on are pretty much maxed out. She asked me to give it at least three sessions, as I've never had a good experience with in-hospital psychologists here in Singapore. They are pretty much textbook and clinical. [The private psychologist I had seen a few years back](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/my-inner-child-and-the-angry-girl) was brilliant and helped me a great deal, but also expensive. It was totally worth it though, as the issues we explored and the perspectives that I gained are for life. Anyway, as predicted, after three sessions of me trying my best to keep an open mind during the sessions, I quit. Every session felt like a forced Q&A where she was the teacher or mother, and I was the child. "Do you think that this is a good way to view things?" ... "No." ... "Yes." "Can you try doing this every day?" ... "No." ... "Yes." You get my point. ### Why We Need to Practice Deep Breathing Even When We're Feeling Fine If there was one useful thing that I took away from the sessions, it's that we need to practice deep breathing even when we're feeling fine. To transform it into a habit, and [forming healthy habits is an everyday process and effort](https://bjgp.org/content/62/605/664) (Gardner et al., 2012). This helps us to access these mental resources much quicker when it's actually needed during meltdown mode. [Muscle memory](https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0164822), yes, even for deep breathing (Cho et al., 2016). Read Related Posts: - [Why You Need a Good Therapist on Your Healthcare Team (Based on My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-good-therapist/) - [How to Rewire the Brain to Manage Chronic Pain (& Resources to Help)](https://achronicvoice.com/rewire-brain-manage-chronic-pain/) - [Is Seeking Help for Your Mental Health Worth It?](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [Just Breathing is Enough For Today](https://achronicvoice.com/just-breathing-enough-today-poem/) Pin to Your Mental Health & Self-Care Boards: ![Why We Need to Practice Deep Breathing Even When We’re Feeling Fine](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_deep-breathing-feeling-fine.jpg) ### Book Recommendations on the Topic of ‘Breathing’ I then asked my psychiatrist to recommend some books on breathing that I could learn techniques from instead. She recommended [“Think Like a Monk” by Jay Shetty](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1982134488?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=8531b448374f6a42a5dea0890cfe2e7b&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), because of its timeless yet practical applications in modern society. I also bought two other books on the Kindle store after having a look around. The first was [“Breath: The New Science” by James Nestor](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0735213615?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=4ea31661a240a932c05f4a6a8ca557fa&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). It is about a journalist who travels the world to investigate what went wrong along the way with our breath, and how to fix it. It's a New York Times bestseller and the first few pages had me captivated. The second book was [“Power Breathing” by Sang H. Kim](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1934903094?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=90cf2cf971beeffff64057edfc4d75fb&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), who is a martial arts expert and creator of “Power Breathing for Life”. I hadn't intended to purchase a book on power breathing but calming ones instead, but the excerpts held my fascination for some reason. I liked how clear and simple they were. The authors come from two very different backgrounds, and take on very different approaches on the topic of breath. I'm sure that I'll learn some interesting trivia and perspectives from both of them. And also practical applications to help curb my anxiety and improve my wellbeing! Pin to Your Books & Reading Boards: ![Book Recommendations on the Topic of ‘Breathing’](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_book-recommendations-breathing.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You’re All Invited, Too!)](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [Book Review: The Narwhal Who Suffers from Chronic Migraines](https://achronicvoice.com/book-review-narwhal-migraines/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Magazine Review: Lucky Peach’s Last Issue, Ever](https://achronicvoice.com/magazine-review-lucky-peach/) ## Things that Make Me Smile ### My Little Rascal, Talisker Hmm…smiling. I think the person who makes me smile the most is [my puppy, Talisker](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/the-way-my-dog-talisker-brings-me), who is not even human! He’s a rascal, no doubt about that, and nips at me until I’m bruised and bleeding. It's funny that people caution you about the responsibilities prior to getting a puppy. Responsibilities such as taking them for walks, cleaning their poop, vet trip costs and so on... ### Everybody Warns You About Responsibilities, But Nobody Warns You About the Bites! But nobody warned me that [puppies bite](https://www.aspca.org/pet-care/dog-care/common-dog-behavior-issues/mouthing-nipping-and-biting-puppies). And they bite pretty hard, for about a year. I mean it makes sense if I stop to think about it. Human babies teethe too, and need to bite at things to ease their itch. And pups definitely have bigger and stronger baby teeth. My spoonie friend, [Shruti of 'All Things Endometriosis'](https://allthingsendometriosis.com/), got a puppy around the same time as I did, and was just as surprised, as new dog owners. We both have different chronic illnesses that biting can mess with. She has EDS and POTS, and often needs to use a walking stick. All that excited jumping and biting can catch her off guard and impact her stability. [**I have Antiphospholipid Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/), a blood clotting disorder, and take blood thinners for it. So I'm prone to bruising and bleeding, and both can lead to other problems such as DVTs or haemorrhages. We both try to work around the biting as best as we can. Read Related Posts: Read Related Posts: - [A Day in the Life of a “POTSie” (A What??)](https://achronicvoice.com/day-in-life-potsie/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) Pin to Your Pets & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Puppies and Chronic Illness - The One Thing Nobody Warns You About](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_puppies-chronic-illness-warning.jpg) ### Affection & Cuddles are Life One of the reasons I decided on a shetland sheepdog is that they're affectionate. > [*"Shelties are often known as velcro dogs because they love to be close to their owners. They often follow their owners closely around the house for hours on end, keen to be by their side."*](https://peteducate.com/do-shelties-like-to-cuddle) So far he's pure puppy wildness, but when he does decide to lie against my foot or hop into bed for snuggles, my heart melts. I hope that the adult version of him will be less bitey, and more cuddly like that. Often when I'm away from him for a few days, my face lights up into a smile when I think about him. I also can't help but smile whenever I browse the hundreds of pictures of my birds and dog on my phone. Here are some of my favourite pictures of them. I hope that they make you smile, too! ![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/talisker-puppy-first-day-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/talisker-medication-boxes-mess-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/talisker-steak-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/scorcher-cockatiel-buddy-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/parrotlets-piper-archer-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/cockatiel-babies-first-batch-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/green-parrotlet-tiny-piper-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/blue-flowers-archer-memories-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/birds-laptop-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Me and my furry and fluffy companions Pin to Your Furry Companion & Animal Boards: ![Puppy and Bird Pics to Make You Smile!](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_puppy-bird-pics-smile.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does ‘Normal’ Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) ## Learning How to “Stop” - Much Harder Than I’d Thought! ### Metering My Energy with Chronic Pain & Chronic Fatigue I’ve been trying to stop myself every day, before I hit my maximum energy consumption. Some days I feel crappy, whilst on others I feel up to task. It’s always a risk as I tend to do all the things on those better days. Sometimes I work on projects for 10 hours straight. For a healthy person they might feel a little fatigued after (or not even). But when you're chronically ill, it's almost certain that there will be a price to pay. ### Trying Out a New Pacing Strategy I am currently trying to pace myself a little differently. To quit being productive before I even start to feel tired. The concept is similar to overeating. Often we eat until we're 'full', but our bodies have a bit of a lag reaction. That is why [mindful eating](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/dont-eat-until-youre-full-instead-mind-your-hara-hachi-bu-point/) can help with weight issues and eating more healthy portions. I am quite in-tune with my hunger levels (except when my period is about to come, then I eat all the carbs...late at night). But I'm definitely not in-tune with my energy levels, as I tend to get absorbed and sucked down the rabbit hole. Before I know it, I crash. Read Related Posts: - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [It is \*Always\* Possible to Make Time for What Matters Most](https://achronicvoice.com/make-time-what-matters-most/) - [How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationships with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/) - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) - [The Secret of Change: Spend Your Energy Wisely with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/secret-of-change/) ### 'Mindful Productivity' & Keeping My Todo List for the Day Flexible I guess the point I'm trying to illustrate here is to practise 'mindful productivity'. To stop every now and then to assess my body, pain and energy levels. To recalibrate my energy and if necessary, adjust the todo list for the rest of the day. > [“Mindful productivity](https://nesslabs.com/mindful-productivity-2) can be defined as being consciously present in what you’re doing, while you’re doing it, in conjunction with managing your mental and emotional states. Mindful productivity is about calmly acknowledging and accepting your feelings and thoughts while engaged in work or creative activities.” - Anne-Laure Le Cunff, Ness Labs Todo lists don't have to be locked in for the rest of the day. You are allowed to modify them on the go, based on a variety of circumstances. So far this strategy has proved pretty good on a mental and physical level. That isn't to say that I wake with less pain, but I do seem to have less crashes that take several days to recover from. Pin to Your Working & Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![Trying Out ‘Mindful Productivity’ to Balance Work, Chronic Fatigue and Illness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_mindful-productivity-work-chronic-fatigue-illness.jpg) ## Relishing Life ### Self-Reminder: Sometimes One Little Thing is Enough to Make Your Day Finally, relishing. My partner has finally found his way to Singapore from Berlin, after a year, and despite all the COVID red tape. I am relishing some quality time spent with him in person, after a year of long-distance relationship. Which is something I never thought I'd do actually, if not for COVID! Life is all about the little things, as they say. Relish in whatever little or lot you have. Sometimes, one small thing is enough to make your day. Read Related Posts: - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [Winter Fun, Games & Pain with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-fun-chronic-illness/) - [Coming Alive in the Winter Air (Pushing for Personal Changes & Group Advocacy)](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-advocacy/) - [A Hurried Return, but Chronic Illness’s Opening Hours Remain Unchanged](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-opening-hours/) - [Travelling New Paths with Chronic Illnesses in My Pocket](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-new-paths-chronic-illness/) Pin to Your Inspirational Quotes Boards: ![Relish in whatever little or lot you have. Sometimes, one small thing is enough to make your day.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_quote-relish-one-small-thing.jpg) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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Making health habitual: The psychology of ‘habit-formation’ and general practice. *British Journal of General Practice, 62*(605), 664–666\. https://doi.org/10.3399/bjgp12X659466 ### Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness URL: https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/ Last updated: 2026-03-24T16:13:22.000Z Oral spray vitamins are on an upward trend, and for good reason. The benefits are manifold, but are particularly exciting for those who live with chronic illnesses, like me. Apart from pain, many chronic conditions can cause malabsorption or a lack of appetite. Medications themselves can deplete nutrient supplies or interfere with absorption in the body. In this article, we will explore what vitamins are, and their role in our bodies for pain management and optimal function. We will also learn more about oral spray vitamins and supplements, how they work and how to use them. *\*Disclaimer: Whilst I wasn't paid for this post, I received a 50% discount for my order placed on Spectra Spray. Spectra Spray was also one of the many lovely sponsors in the* [***Christmas Giveaway hosted on this blog last year***](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-christmas-giveaway-gifts-pain/)*. All opinions expressed in this review are my own.* *This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. Whilst I have done my utmost to be meticulous in research, *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Healthy Living, Nutrition & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick and Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins-quick-easy-way-get-nutrients-chronic-illness.jpg) [Shop on Spectra Spray](https://www.spectraspray.com/?ref=ro3g2jmalw) [Buy Spectra Spray in Singapore](https://www.rainbowcare.com.sg/nutrition/SpectraSprayVitamins) ## What are Vitamins & Minerals, and Why Does the Body Need Them? ### An Overview on Vitamins There are [13 types of essential vitamins](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/vitamins-and-supplements/vitamins-and-minerals-older-adults), and they fall into one of two categories: fat-soluble or water-soluble (National Institute on Aging \[NIA\], 2021). [From the National Health Service (NHS’s) website (2020)](https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/vitamins-and-minerals/): > *“Vitamins and minerals are nutrients your body needs in small amounts to work properly and stay healthy. Most people should get all the nutrients they need by having a varied and balanced diet, although some people may need to take extra supplements.”* #### **Water-Soluble Vitamins** According to Lykstad and Sharma (2023), “[water-soluble vitamins](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK538510/) dissolve in water upon entering the body”, and thus cannot be stored in large amounts. With up to [60% of the adult human body consisting of water](https://www.usgs.gov/special-topic/water-science-school/science/water-you-water-and-human-body?qt-science%5Fcenter%5Fobjects=0#qt-science%5Fcenter%5Fobjects), these vitamins circulate easily (Water Science School, 2019). Excess is filtered out by your kidney, then excreted through your urine. The role of water-soluble vitamins include: energy production, energy release, the building of proteins and cells, and the making of collagen. #### **Fat-Soluble Vitamins** [Fat-soluble vitamins](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK534869/) enter the bloodstream through the lymph channels in the intestinal wall. Many of them require proteins to act as carriers. These vitamins are stored in the liver and fat tissues, and are released gradually as the body needs them (Reddy & Jialal, 2022). Whilst it’s rare to overdose from fat-soluble vitamins through diet, it’s possible to do so from supplements due to the higher dosages. The role of fat-soluble vitamins include: building of bones, protection of vision and our general health. ### An Overview on Minerals [Minerals are micronutrients](https://medlineplus.gov/definitions/mineralsdefinitions.html) that the body depend on to function (National Library of Medicine \[NLM\], 2022). A major [difference between minerals and vitamins](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/essential-vitamins-and-minerals) is their source. According to Cleveland Clinic (2024), “while minerals come from the soil, vitamins come from plants and animals”. Many vitamins, minerals and medications can interact in positive or negative ways, so it is best that you work with your doctor, nutritionist and/or dietician before taking any supplement. Should you be interested, here’s the [full list of vitamins](https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/listing%5Fof%5Fvitamins), food sources, benefits of each and some trivia from Harvard Medical School (Harvard Health Publishing, 2020). ## Common Problems with Chronic Illness Patients When It Comes to Taking Their Medications Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Healthcare Boards: ![4 Common Problems with Chronic Illness Patients When It Comes to Taking Their Medications](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_problems-chronic-illness-medications.jpg) ### 1\. Non-Compliance in Medication Adherence Due to a Multitude of Factors According to Heath (2017): > *“*[*Non-compliant patients*](https://www.techtarget.com/patientengagement/feature/Overcoming-Patient-Barriers-to-Chronic-Disease-Management) *aren’t simply ignoring their chronic disease management plans; they usually have a series of barriers keeping them from adherence.”* Multiple factors can contribute to medication non-compliance in patients. This can be especially dangerous for those with chronic illnesses. Immunosuppressants, antidepressants and many other drugs require a period of weeks or months before results are seen. This can be frustrating for the patient, as they need to bear with often horrible side effects in the meantime, both mental and physical. A [major barrier to non-compliance](https://journals.lww.com/lww-medicalcare/abstract/2021/01000/cost%5Frelated%5Fmedication%5Fnonadherence%5Fand%5Fits%5Frisk.3.aspx) is medication costs (Nekui et al., 2021). Other common reasons include fear or discomfort from medication side effects, a lack of symptoms to ‘justify’ taking their medications, pain from swallowing, frustration from the daily tedium. A [breakdown in cultural communication](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5571787/) can also play a role (Kleinsinger, 2003). Read Related Posts: - [The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don’t Reflect)](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Chronic Illness is Expensive, but Here’s the Real Reason Why](https://achronicvoice.com/real-reason-why-chronic-illness-expensive/) - [Why I Need to See 10 Different Doctors on a Regular Basis](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) ### 2\. Malabsorption Sometimes the patient may be faithfully compliant with their medications, yet suffer from [**malabsorption**](https://achronicvoice.com/malabsorption-nutrients/). Their bodies are unable to absorb, use or store medications, vitamins or nutrients for [reasons such as](https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/malabsorption) (Johns Hopkins Medicine, 2023): - Too much or too little stomach acid - Insufficient production of digestive enzymes - Bacterial overgrowth, SIBO or parasites such as Giardia lamblia - Surgery - Disorders that injure parts of the digestive tract - Disorders that affect the flow of lymphatic fluid from the bowel [Certain chronic illnesses are prone to malabsorption](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/B9780123864567038041), such as IBD, IBS, Crohn’s Disease and Ulcerative Colitis. These disorders affect the digestive tract in one way or another. They either interfere with the breaking down or absorption of nutrients, or patients may not be able to eat or keep their food down (Ensari, 2014). #### My Personal Experiences with Supplements: Iron Speaking from my own experience, I’ve had to try about 3 – 4 forms of iron supplements for my haemolytic anaemia due to Lupus, before we found one that my body would accept. The most common forms of iron including ferrous gluconate gave me severe stomach cramps, or just didn’t work. [Ferinject](https://www.nps.org.au/medicine-finder/ferinject-solution-for-injection) (NPS MedicineWise, 2021) – IV iron – worked but was a temporary boost, and the price wasn’t very wallet-friendly. Finally, [Maltofer](https://www.maltofer.com.au/) – iron polymaltose – (Aspen Pharmacare Australia Pty Ltd., n.d.) was suggested, and it worked! They come in either tablet or liquid form, which I take out of gratitude, but dislike the taste and/or addition of pills. I am currently giving [Spectra Spray’s iron supplement (Ferrazone)](https://www.spectraspray.com/product-page/iron-support-spray-supplement) a go instead. This has been my preferred method to take my iron supplement so far. I will need to wait for a couple weeks before getting my blood checked for iron and RBC levels again. #### My Personal Experiences with Supplements: Calcium [**Many patients with chronic illnesses need a calcium supplement**](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#calcium) due to medication interference. My steroids can cause osteoporosis, and [**I am currently at osteopenia levels**](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/). The standard calcium plus vitamin D tablets once again, did not work for me, even at maximum dosages. I am currently on separate forms of them, which often confuses even hospital staff and pharmacists. I take [calcium carbonate](https://www.uofmhealth.org/health-library/d00425a1) tablets (University of Michigan Health \[UMH\], 2017) together with [calcitriol](https://www.uofmhealth.org/health-library/d03126a1) capsules (UMH, 2020), which is the active form of [**Vitamin D**](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#VitaminD) that is normally made in the kidneys. Pin to Your Supplements, Medications & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Calcium and Iron Supplements — When the Regular Forms Don't Work with Chronic Illness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/calcium-iron-supplements-when-regular-forms-dont-work-chronic-illness.jpg) ### 3\. Dysphagia & Other Swallowing Problems I recently choked on a small piece of meat and had to go to the A&E. Every sip of water I tried to take only made me throw up all over again. This went on for 4 hours where I was totally ignored (typical, hey?). When I finally saw the ENT specialist, she tilted my head upwards to check the back of my throat. I gagged and vomited again and all of a sudden, the sensation disappeared. She must have thought that I was a hypochondriac, but I would much rather stay home instead of throwing up for hours in a frigid hospital. I will need to ask my rheumatologist about this swallowing issue when I next see him. It isn’t the first time I’ve gagged, especially from warmer liquids. Patients with severe dysphagia often have a [fear of swallowing](https://www.uofmhealth.org/health-library/tp23477spec) due to choking, and often avoid eating (UMH, 2024). This can lead to malnutrition, and medication non-compliance as well. Dysphagia can stem from a complex medical issue. [Some issues include](https://www.healthline.com/health/difficulty-in-swallowing) (Kahn, 2023): - GERD - Cancers of the mouth or oesophagus - Medical conditions that affect the nervous system such as a stroke, TBI or dementia - Scleroderma - Achalasia - COPD - [**Oesophageal Diverticulum**](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) Read Related Posts: - [Dysphagia & Swallowing Problems (and How Oral Vitamin Sprays Can be of Help to You)](https://achronicvoice.com/dysphagia-oral-vitamin-sprays/) - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) - [Learn More About the Super Rare Disease – Esophageal Diverticulum](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) ### 4\. Xerostomia and Other Chronic Pain in the Mouth or Throat Areas [Xerostomia](https://www.dovepress.com/diagnosis-and-management-of-xerostomia-and-hyposalivation-peer-reviewed-fulltext-article-TCRM) is the subjective complaint of [dry mouth](https://www.aaom.com/dry-mouth). This medical issue is actually more common than you might think, and also more painful than you might imagine (American Academy of Oral Medicine \[AAOM\], 2015; Villa et al., 2014). I suffer from it due to [Sjögren’s Syndrome](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/4929-sjogrens-syndrome) (Cleveland Clinic, 2023), and [**during bouts of severe pain flares they leave me crying in pain all night**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-bearable-not/). It’s pretty amazing if you stop to think about how a ‘simple’ lack of saliva can cause so much pain. It literally feels like a million needles pricking at my tongue, ruthless and relentless. Other [illnesses that can cause dry mouth](https://www.nidcr.nih.gov/health-info/dry-mouth) include HIV, AIDS, Diabetes, nerve damage and more. Many medications and chemotherapy have dry mouth as a listed side effect too, including numerous over-the-counter drugs (National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research \[NIDCR\], 2024). Dry mouth can range from a mild annoyance to a severe debilitation. Many other health problems or annoyances can arise from a dry mouth and lack of saliva as well, such as (NIDCR, 2024): - Difficulty with wearing dentures - Sore throat - Halitosis (bad breath) - Modified sense of taste - Increase in plaque, tooth decay and gum disease (that’s why I need to see a dentist every 6 months) - Thrush / Yeast infection in the mouth - Mouth sores - Cracked lips - And damn – it’s just really uncomfortable and even very painful at times! ## **Oral Spray Vitamins That I Recently Bought from Spectra Spray** I recently purchased some oral spray vitamins as gifts for my family, based on what I thought would best suit them. My mother and sister have [Graves’ Disease](https://www.niddk.nih.gov/health-information/endocrine-diseases/graves-disease) (National Institute of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Diseases\[NIDDK\], 2021), so I bought them some [Vitamin D3 + K2 oral spray vitamins](https://www.spectraspray.com/product-page/d3-w-k2-spray-vitamin). I bought my dad an [immune support oral spray](https://www.spectraspray.com/product-page/immune-support-spray-supplement) and for myself, an iron, stress relief and sleep spray. As mentioned, I am still waiting to do the blood tests for concrete results on the iron supplementation via oral spray. But I must say, I am a huge advocate for the [sleep spray](https://www.spectraspray.com/product-page/sleep-support-spray-supplement) – it really does work! I bought one for a friend too, and he confirmed with me its efficacy. To him it had a melatonin-like effect. To me, I’m just glad it works on a daily basis or as and when I need it. ## All the Things I've Tried for Poor Sleep Stemming from Painsomnia, Depression or Anxiety I have tried many things to help manage my sleep, which is important especially for pain management. A [lack of quality sleep is also the biggest trigger for my epilepsy](https://www.epilepsy.com/what-is-epilepsy/seizure-triggers/sleep) (Schachter, n.d.). I use clonazepam, bromazepam or alprazolam according to what I need and based on the time of day or night. I usually ‘round up’ my fatigue for days before taking a clonazepam to help me sleep, or risk a seizure. I don’t take them every night for fear of it losing its efficacy. I can’t take too much melatonin due to [**my blood clotting disorder, Antiphospholipid Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/). The same goes for [valerian root](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/insomnia/expert-answers/valerian/faq-20057875) (Mayo Clinic, 2018), which also gave me depression. I am already on pretty high dosages of antidepressants and rely on some benzodiazepines, which probably interact with it. Whilst [**floatation therapy works wonders for me**](https://achronicvoice.com/floatation-therapy-chronic-pain/), it’s expensive and a hassle to commute to the location. Magnesium supplements do nothing for me. In fact, I think they make me more alert. ‘Milder’ aids like lavender oils, candles and chamomile tea are pleasant, but don’t do much beyond that. The only thing I now use on a consistent basis for better sleep is Spectra Spray’s oral sleep spray. I take it about 2 hours before bed and before I know it, my eyelids are nice and heavy. It is now my favourite tool in my sleep kit. Pin to Your Sleep & Wellness Boards: ![Things I've Tried for Sleep - And What Finally Worked For Me!](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_better-sleep.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [July's Supply & Demand: Learning to Maximise Wellbeing in the Midst of Stress](https://achronicvoice.com/july-maximise-wellbeing-stress/) - [What’s it Like to be on a High Dose of Steroids? (And the First Question You Will Definitely Ask)](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) - [How Much Time Are You Wasting On Sleep?](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/) ## How Oral Spray Vitamins Work & Why They’re So Effective There are a few methods to take your vitamins or supplements. In order of slowest to fastest absorption rate: - Pills - Gel capsules - Transdermal patches - Sublingual liquids - Intramuscular injections - **Oral spray vitamins** The faster the absorption rate, the quicker your body can utilise the nutrients. [In oral sprays, the vitamins have already been ‘broken down’ or emulsified](https://nutritionj.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12937-015-0105-1) (Satia et al., 2015). This means that your body does not need to spend extra time or effort breaking down the protective binders, fillers and inorganic materials that come with traditional pills and capsules. Some people with chronic illnesses such as MCAS are also allergic to certain binders and fillers, and may have a hard time finding a brand that works for them. Here are some [detailed clinical studies](https://www.spectraspray.com/clinical-studies) fo Spectra Spray’s Vitamin D3 and Sleep Spray (SpectraSpray, n.d.-a). Part of the studies have shown up to a 30% reduction in the usage of pain medications when using the sleep spray. This is because chronic pain and poor quality sleep are intertwined, with each affecting the other. This is interesting to note, as most sleep supplement studies do not focus on chronic pain, too. ## How Do You Use Oral Spray Vitamins? I’m not even oversimplifying it, but all you do is spray them on the inside of your cheeks, hold for a bit, swallow and that’s it. The [cheeks contain a rich blood supply](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.3109/03639040903117348); the oral spray vitamins are absorbed efficiently across these thin layers of cell linings, directly into the blood capillaries beneath them (Sohi et al., 2010). Oral spray vitamins are absorbed by the body up to three times faster than regular pills and capsules. [Spectra Spray’s oral sprays](https://www.spectraspray.com/why-spray-vitamins) are also all natural, non GMO, vegan, gluten free, sugar free, dairy free and GMP certified (SpectraSpray, n.d.-b). I also love how convenient they are to carry around, and that I do not need to spend time counting all my pills. If you’re a spoonie, you know how time-consuming, mundane and frustrating a task that is. ## Conclusion: Oral Spray Vitamins are a Keeper for Me! If you haven’t figured it out yet, oral spray vitamins are a big win and keeper for me! I wish that all my medications were in oral spray forms, but I can only dream about that for the future for now. If there’s one small problem I have with them, it’s that I also suffer from [TMD due to bruxism](https://nourishdentalcare.com/tmj-disorder-treatment/). I often have problems opening my mouth too wide, so sometimes it takes me a while to stick the oral spray into my mouth. You may also face this issue if you have Trigeminal Neuralgia, or other mouth related chronic pain. Having said that, I still much prefer oral spray vitamins to regular pills and capsules. The convenience and ease of use are big wins for me. I especially love my sleep spray as it works amazingly well for me, unlike many other products I’ve tried. I hope that this article was useful in helping you to understand how oral spray vitamins work, and if they might be worth a try. I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below! [Shop on Spectra Spray Now!](https://www.spectraspray.com/?ref=ro3g2jmalw) [Buy Spectra Spray in Singapore](https://www.rainbowcare.com.sg/nutrition/SpectraSprayVitamins) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) - [Dysphagia & Swallowing Problems (and How Oral Vitamin Sprays Can be of Help to You)](https://achronicvoice.com/dysphagia-oral-vitamin-sprays/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [Curated Chronic Illness Gift Ideas for Christmas, Birthdays & Other Occasions!](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-gift-ideas/) Other Articles I've Written for SpectraSpray on Their Website: - [GABA for Sleep & Supplements that Work Best Together with It](https://www.spectraspray.com/post/gaba-for-sleep-supplements-work-best-together) - [Multivitamins for Kids - What They Can and Cannot Support](https://www.spectraspray.com/post/multivitamins-for-kids-can-cannot-support) Pin to Your Vitamins, Supplements & Nutrition Boards: ![Oral Spray Vitamins - A Quick and Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin2_oral-spray-vitamins-nutrients-chronic-illness.jpg) ### References: - American Academy of Oral Medicine. 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(n.d.-b). *Why spray vitamins.* Retrieved March 18, 2021, from - University of Michigan Health. (2017, February 13). *Calcium carbonate.* - University of Michigan Health. (2020, February 12). *Calcitriol (oral/injection).* - University of Michigan Health. (2024, October 27). *Difficulty swallowing (dysphagia).* - Villa, A., Connell, C. L., & Abati, S. (2014). Diagnosis and management of xerostomia and hyposalivation. *Therapeutics and Clinical Risk Management, 11*, 45–51\. - Water Science School. (2019, May 22). *The water in you: Water and the human body*. U.S. Geological Survey. ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Jun 28, 2021 I'm a big fan of oral spray vitamins! It seems to have helped me get back to normal levels for vitamin D and regular tablets just weren't working to do that. - [ Paul M. White ](https://www.novaferrum.com/) Jun 8, 2021 Hey There Hope you are doing well! I have contacted you earlier to partner up. But did not receive any response from your side. Looking forward to your reply! Thanks - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 9, 2021 Hi Paul, I will check in a bit as have been very busy and burned out of late. Thank you for your patience. - [ Karen ](https://kupongirl.com/7-ways-to-save-money-on-your-move/) May 12, 2021 I really got a lot of great information from your post, very useful information! Thank you\~. I too suffer from chronic pain and it’s a real pain for sure. I’ve seen many doctors and many are just clueless and don’t offer any remedies or don’t want to be bothered to help you out. My daughter won a variety pack of the Spectra sprays and didn’t like them so she gave them to me. I tried them and like them a lot. The sprays work quickly as you mentioned and that is a big game-changer for me. No worrying anymore wondering if I’m going to choke on a tablet or capsule!! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 12, 2021 Hi Karen, thanks for your comment and for sharing your experience! Wow how did she win an entire variety pack, that’s pretty neat! Which ones do you have? Yes I love my sleep spray a lot 🙂 Take care of yourself x - [ Karen Lyons ](https://kupongirl.com) May 13, 2021 D3, CoQ10, and B12 was in a bundle gift package. On Facebook there’s a group called The Compass Girls (Rachel and Zippy) — it’s on mostly Wednesday nights at 8pm. They are both bloggers and with the show they promote products on different topics. For us the guests, when you leave a comment your name is in the bud to win products. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### The Barriers That Throw Rocks into My Bucket List with Chronic Illness URL: https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/ Last updated: 2026-05-22T16:02:25.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Allocating More Time & Effort Into My Bucket List I’m going to be honest and admit that I’ve grown a bit tired of writing my own monthly prompts of late. I have a gazillion ideas and other projects I want to work on, so I will probably be allocating more time and energy toward them instead. Things like regular types of blog posts (which I haven’t done in a while!), my new job, my own business website, and blog experimentations in other niches. Also on longer-term goals that are on my bucket list, which I yabber about below. Maybe it’s an Aries thing? ;) I am always great at and super excited with kicking off new projects. But have a hard time maintaining them and pacing ;) Don’t worry though, I still enjoy reading what **you** have to share every month, and will keep these linkups up and running. I will probably get back on the train at some point, too (if I even hop off, that is). *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Bucket List Boards: ![The Barriers That Throw Rocks into My Bucket List with Chronic Illness. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/barriers-throw-rocks-into-my-bucket-list-with-chronic-illness.jpg) ### Re-defining My Priorities in Life I need to re-define my priorities, my business, my finances and my life. I’m turning 35 this year and it feels like one of those milestone years. I guess in terms of biology, it *is* kind of a milestone year. I wasn’t even aware that I did indeed have a bucket list; I just figured that it didn’t matter if I dropped dead at any point in time as I’ve reached that level of acceptance after four near death experiences. So many people in war torn or inaccessible countries don’t even have that privilege of a bucket list or dreams. Even thinking about them could mean death. Read Related Posts: - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [What’s it Like to Live with a Heart Rhythm Disorder?](https://achronicvoice.com/heart-rhythm-disorder/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [An Open Letter to Death, and One Simple Plea](https://achronicvoice.com/letter-to-death-simple-plea/) ## My Current Bucket List There are a few things I would really like to accomplish in life, namely: ### 1\. Start My Own Family It’s been on the list since I was a tween. At 14, I’ve had to make decisions about my body that involved fertility, even though I didn’t even have a first love, yet. Thing is, the older I get, the less motivated I am with all the daily aches and pains. Often I think to myself, if I can’t even take care of myself, what more an active kid or two who will require attention 24/7? It was one of the reasons why I got a puppy actually, to test myself a little bit. Having done that, I know that I will survive a kid, even though I’m sure a kid is heaps harder to take care of compared to a crazy, nippy little pup (don’t let those puppy eyes fool you for one second). As a human being, we always find a way to make it through. Read Related Posts: - [You Don’t Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) - [What’s it Like to be the Mother of a Sick Child? (Precious Insights from My Own Mum)](https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/) - [What’s it Like to be the Father of a Child with Chronic Illness? (Precious Insights from My Own Dad!)](https://achronicvoice.com/father-of-child-with-chronic-illness/) - [I May be Chronically Ill, but I’m Also Chronically Resilient](https://achronicvoice.com/chronically-ill-resilient/) - [Dealing with Pain, One Second at a Time](https://achronicvoice.com/dealing-with-pain/) > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/CLWuvJpjACb/) > > [A post shared by Talisker (@mysheltietally)](https://www.instagram.com/p/CLWuvJpjACb/) P.s. Here's [Talisker's Instagram account](https://www.instagram.com/mysheltietally/), if you were interested! ;) ### 2\. Own My Own Home In a country like Singapore where land is scarce, houses and apartments cost a bomb. Also, we’re only allowed to purchase an HDB (the typical flat the average family lives in here) as a single person at 35\. Yes, you can’t buy an apartment before you turn 35 if you’re not married, unless it’s a private property. It’d be nice to have my own space and privacy. To have a roof under my head that I know belongs to me. To know that I have a place to stay when I’m older. Read Related Posts: - [What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - [Invisible Cities Linkup: Pros & Cons of Living with Chronic Illness in Your City](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-cities-linkup/) - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does 'Normal' Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) - [Invisible in Florence: Life with Chronic Illness in Italy](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-florence-chronic-illness-italy/) - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) ### 3\. Write My Memoir I always say I’ll get around to this, but end up writing blog posts, or working on some other thing that has a shorter timeline. This probably has to do with me being a productivity addict. I’m the sort of person that feels uncomfortable and unaccomplished if I don’t produce tangible results for something at the end of the day. It’s a mindset I’m working on as it’s too black and white, and ironically, hinders me instead. I’d like to write my memoir like a piece of artwork, a poetic prose. To invest all my emotions and heart into it, even if it hurts. I *have* a story to tell, and I want to leave my mark on it, even if it's just for myself. Read Related Posts: - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) - [A Quarterly Reflection: 12 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned](https://achronicvoice.com/quarterly-reflection-life-lessons-learned/) - [The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Prisons or Paths to Freedom](https://achronicvoice.com/stories-we-tell-ourselves-prisons-freedom/) - [Life is a Long Process of Becoming Into...](https://achronicvoice.com/life-is-a-long-process-of-becoming-into/) ### 4\. Earn My Degree, Masters Then PhD in Linguistics You might be surprised, but if given a choice, my main purpose in life, I feel, would be to [preserve dying languages](https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20140606-why-we-must-save-dying-languages). Yes I do advocate for rare disease awareness, but I strongly feel that the preservation of dying languages is an equally pressing matter. If I had to choose, this would be #1 on my bucket list. With the death of every language comes the death of perspective, a way of thinking, a way of solving problems. As a result, our world views shrink, and our approach to problem solving slides into rigidity, which at some point hits a gridlock. This impacts all areas of society and humanity, including healthcare and research. As a bilingual person who also understands another two languages or so, I know that certain logic, formation of conclusions, and modes of thinking are heavily influenced by language. A brain switch if you will. So much history, culture and beliefs are tied to a language, too. It means too much to let so much beauty, knowledge and wisdom simply fade away and die. And something else that you may or may not find interesting is that as a programmer, I think that code is in itself a language as well. I do a mental shift between programming and writing as required. There are so many ways to write code and to arrive at the same conclusion. Some are more efficient, and some less so, depending on what the aim is. It’s problem solving in one of its most direct forms. Read Related Posts: - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Why Humility is the Best Tool for Advocacy](https://achronicvoice.com/humility-advocacy/) - [What's It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) - [February 2019: Hopes to Awaken Life Within Me Again](https://achronicvoice.com/february-2019-awaken-life-within-me/) - [Every Next Level of Your Life Will Demand a Different You](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) ## Health & Financial Barriers That Block Out These Bucket List Goals Okay so enough rambling about my bucket list. The main barriers as you very well may guess, are health and finances. I know that I have to take care of my health and be even more disciplined about it, if I want to achieve any of these life goals. Without it, finances would be even more unachievable than it already is anyway. [**Even working part time is a struggle**](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) for me, as I realise how much even four hours of work a day - if at all - is for my body. But I know with better discipline, focus, stress management and a healthier lifestyle, I can improve my energy levels, too. How I wish I had a sponsor especially for my studies, but for now I’ve started saving wee bits of money in investment portfolios. Admittedly I know jack shit about investing, and have tried to read up a little more about it. But I must say that it really doesn’t interest me at all (maybe that’s why I’m so broke). I guess that’s it from me for the month. I am also aware that priorities and bucket list goals can change over time. Life, especially with chronic illness and disability is 'interesting', to say the least. To continue, you can read the [**previous**](https://achronicvoice.com/new-year-duties-life/) or [**next**](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/) diary entries. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don’t Reflect)](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Chronic Illness is Expensive, but Here’s the Real Reason Why](https://achronicvoice.com/real-reason-why-chronic-illness-expensive/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [November 2018: Meeting and Collaborating with Chronically Ill People in Real Life](https://achronicvoice.com/meeting-collaborating-chronically-ill-real-life-november-2018/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Bucket List Boards: ![Do you have a bucket list as a person with chronic illness? Here are some of the barriers that stand in my way to achieving them.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_bucket-list-chronic-illness-barriers.jpg) ![Bucket Lis Goals - What Do You Do When You're Chronically Ill?](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_bucket-list-goals-chronically-ill.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Chronic Mom ](https://chronicmom.com) Feb 25, 2021 I had no idea about the rules in Singapore. I know land is scarce there, but wow! Is most land not private property there? I love the idea of having a bucket list, even if health and finances make it hard for things to happen. I want to travel all over the world, but I know my health will stop me in some places. Still, it’s nice to have a goal to look to. - [ Melissa Reynolds ](https://www.melissavsfibromyalgia.com/) Feb 23, 2021 It seems like you will have a queue for your memoir! I love that you not only have your bucket list but you are working away at it bit by bit – us chronic illness ninjas can totally achieve our goals if we hit it this way. I can’t wait to hear your progress on these 🙂 - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Feb 22, 2021 OK, so I am now going to totally bug you about writing a memoir!!!! You write so beautifully and I know I would love to read it 🙂 - Katie Clark Feb 22, 2021 I so enjoyed reading this, Sheryl. I feel like I’ve come to know you even better. I believe what once fit our needs/purpose doesn’t always stay. Thank you for providing this platform. It’s one of my favorite writes 🙂 For some reason the topics provide something that pulls things out of me I didn’t plan on. I know that you have in you to be a wonderful mom. You are a mom of sorts to many in the way you show your caring. Tally will be a great big brother, too 🙂 I look forward to reading your memoir. That is one of my bucket list goals that I need to focus time on; my novel. I’ve got to figure out how to work that in. - Pain Reaction Feb 21, 2021 I had the same thoughts before I decided to have a kid. I’ve raised several puppies, gotten pretty good at it. I was so not prepared for how much more pain I’m in now. I knew I would hurt more, but oh my god it’s bad. My daughter is 8 months old now and just keeps getting heavier, I can’t wait until she can walk. However, I did plan for at least some increase in pain knowing that it would be relatively short term when you consider the stages of childhood. Might be several years of increased pain levels but it’s worth it in the long run I think. Damn well better be 😛 I hope you get to accomplish at least one of your goals in the reasonably near future. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### 5 Things You Should Know About My Epilepsy (It's More Than Just Seizures) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/epilepsy-more-than-just-seizures/ Last updated: 2026-03-28T15:28:46.000Z ## Introductory Note from A Chronic Voice Tiffany Kairos is an active advocate in the chronic illness and epilepsy community online, and such a lovely lady, too! She's constantly supporting and giving shoutouts to other chronic illness advocates whenever and wherever she can. I live with epilepsy myself, albeit to a lesser degree than Tiffany does. My form of epilepsy is the typical grand mal seizures that you see on TV, and for a period of time they were happening dangerously in my sleep. Let's read Tiffany's experiences with epilepsy, and learn more from her in this post! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the personal experiences of the author(s). *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy page***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/) *for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Epilepsy, Seizure & Awareness Boards: ![5 Things You Should Know About My Epilepsy (It's More Than Just Seizures)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/5-things-know-about-my-epilepsy-more-than-seizures.jpg) ## Tiffany Shares More About Her Epilepsy & Seizures By and large, when I tell someone that I live with epilepsy they’re taken aback, astonished that I appear fine and relatively healthy. They also have an expression of perplexion, because they don’t know what epilepsy is. There are [over 40 types of epilepsy](https://www.epilepsy.com/connect/forum-archive/products-resources-helpful-links/over-40-different-types-seizures-revised), many of which do not always involve dropping and convulsing. *(Also known as a grand mal, or* [*generalised tonic-clonic seizure*](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/grand-mal-seizure/symptoms-causes/syc-20363458)*.)* My condition, epilepsy, is a neurological disorder, which means that it impacts more than just my brain. Here's what you should know about living with epilepsy, which I share about in this article through my own experiences. ## 1\. Epilepsy Is More Than Just Seizures [Symptoms](https://www.aans.org/en/Patients/Neurosurgical-Conditions-and-Treatments/Epilepsy) that commonly occur alongside epilepsy include: - Depression and Anxiety - Fear - Stress Taking care of our physical health is half the battle when living with epilepsy. It's an emotional and social battle, too. When the doctor first dropped the bombshell that I had epilepsy, I felt every emotion in the book so deeply, yet numb at the same time. I wrestled with depression for over a year. Research estimates that [30 to 35 percent of people with epilepsy experience depression](https://www.healthline.com/health/epilepsy-depression-connection). Living in constant fear of when the next seizure would strike, and stressed about what my future might look like. And strike they did. Unexpectedly, continuously and variously. Read Related Posts: - [So This is What a Tonic Clonic Seizure Feels Like](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Awareness Boards: ![30 - 35% Of People With Epilepsy Suffer From Depression (Find Out More)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/people-with-epilepsy-suffer-depression.jpg) ## 2\. The Importance of Having a Support System in Place A rock solid support system is essential for tackling any difficulties along the way. The empowerment of having family and friends whom you can count on to encourage and cheer you on is priceless. It certainly was and is for me. My spouse and family refused to let my condition consume me, and lifted me up when I was down. They gave me the strength that I needed to stand on my own two feet again. I knew that I would be facing countless challenges that were out of my control, but I also decided that I wasn't going to give up the fight. I was going to learn everything there was to know about my condition, persevere and help others on their journey, too. I'd discovered what my future would look like. Read Related Posts: - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [What’s it Like to be the Mother of a Sick Child? (Precious Insights from My Own Mum)](https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/) - [What’s it Like to be the Father of a Sick Child? (Precious Insights from My Own Dad!)](https://achronicvoice.com/father-of-child-with-chronic-illness/) - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) ## 3\. Epilepsy Has No Regard For Your Age Epilepsy doesn’t discriminate. It can happen to anyone - young or old. I was diagnosed at 22, having had my first seizure at 16. I never anticipated that a chronic illness would happen to me. I thought that I was invincible. Boy was I wrong. There’s nothing more chilling than when reality slaps you in the face. Read Related Posts: - [A Page From a Sick Girl’s Diary: Sometimes I Wish I was an Old Person](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girls-diary-wish-old-person/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [We Want to Have Fun Just Like You, But Here’s What it Takes](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) ## 4\. Epilepsy is Often Invisible & Unpredictable Just because you don’t see it happening, doesn’t mean that I don’t experience it. Epilepsy doesn’t always like to show its cards. It’s common for it to be an invisible illness. Various [treatments and medications](https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/epilepsy/treatment/) are available which can slow or even halt seizure activity. However, someone with epilepsy may still need assistance to complete certain tasks. One minute I can feel perfectly healthy. The next thing I know, I’m resting with a heating pad draped across my forehead, nursing a pounding [migraine after experiencing a massive seizure](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5540694/) (Kim & Lee, 2017). On certain days my epilepsy cuts me some slack, which allows me to enjoy activities. On other days however, my amount of activity is limited, or I need to take breaks to avoid triggering a seizure. Seizures often strike without warning and I'm left with no choice but to cancel plans, which I hate. I don't want to appear flaky, yet I need to pick up the phone, call or text to back out of something that I had been looking forward to. Read Related Posts: - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [Would You Rather: Have an Invisible Illness or a Visible Disability?](https://achronicvoice.com/rather-have-invisible-illness-or-disability/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/) ## 5\. There Is No Cure for Epilepsy Here's the thing... Epilepsy is an incurable condition, although some people do go into remission. This is regardless of any documentary, magazine, article or grapevine information you may have read or heard. No essential oil, diet or herb is going to cure me. Over the years of living with epilepsy, I've learned how and which situations can provoke seizure activity. For example, when it rains or when my period is coming. I need to ramp up on self-care, which consists of avoiding stress and resting more. While they do not cure me, getting good sleep, proper stress management, certain exercises, a healthy diet, and taking medicine on time definitely help to reduce my seizures. Epilepsy is a serious condition and should be treated as such by everyone, including those who don’t live with it. Your compassion, kindness and empathy are needed and appreciated as we are fighting an invisible battle every single day. Read Related Posts: - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationships with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/) - [How Much Time Are You Wasting On Sleep?](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Epilepsy, Seizure & Chronic Illness Boards: ![5 Things You Should Know About My Epilepsy (It's More Than Just Seizures)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/5-things-should-know-about-epilepsy-more-than-seizures.jpg) **Contributor Bio:** ![Tiffany Kairos headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/tiffanny-kairos-profile.jpg) Tiffany Kairos is an epilepsy survivor, advocate, and blogger. She is the founder of '[The Epilepsy Network](https://theepilepsynetwork.com/)', which is an online community devoted to providing better epilepsy awareness and education, and also offers inspiration to all those who are affected by epilepsy. Tiffany's works have been published on various health websites such as The Mighty, Huffington Post and Mayo Clinic. She has also been featured on a number of podcasts such as HealtheVoices Radio, The Epilepsy Spectrum and more. Connect with her here: [Blog](https://riseaboveepilepsy.com/) / [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/tiffanykairos/) / [Twitter](https://x.com/TiffanyKairos) / [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/RiseAboveEpilepsy) / [LinkedIn](https://www.linkedin.com/in/tiffanykairos/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Sarah C. Nov 27, 2021 Hi, I am Sarah. I had seizures all my life — I don’t know if it was because I was born early. As a baby I was like five months early, very small. Growing up I would daydream a lot and didn’t focus on my schoolwork. During those spells I’d run into traffic without realizing, and someone had to shake me out of it. The medicine I was on made me so sleepy — I hated it. When I was eighteen, I stopped my meds because I wanted a family, but the side effects were birth defects. Long story short, I’m back on my meds and do a lot of writing about good and bad experiences, and doing the best I can. Anything I can do to cope with taking meds again? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Nov 29, 2021 Hi Sarah, I empathise with your situation. I too would love to start a family someday, but the meds I’m on for epilepsy and many other chronic illnesses are toxic for that purpose (heck, even in general!). But it’s kind of like we Chinese say, “using poison to combat poison” — the lesser of two evils! My only advice is to find a doctor you can trust, respect, and believe in, and work closely together. The medications are necessary for a reason — if you crossed the road and got hit by a car, that wouldn’t be good for having a family either! Please take care. - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Feb 28, 2021 As someone who doesn’t have epilepsy and has never had a close friend or loved one with it, I can only get a feel for what it’s like thanks to people like you who share their stories and raise awareness, so thank you Tiffany. So many chronic conditions are far more than just the one thing people often associate with them, like seizures in this case. And I do get the issues with invisible conditions and living with something that can only be managed because there is no cure. I’m glad you have your spouse and family by your side. 💚 - Ruth Feb 26, 2021 This is great! There needs to be more awareness about epilepsy out there, and this helps explain things in “real life” terms, not medical terms — so it can be understood by all. - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Feb 18, 2021 Great interview Sheryl and Tiffany! I don’t know too much about epilepsy to be honest, but was tested for a rare form years ago. So good you are raising awareness! - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Feb 18, 2021 Tiffany is one of my favorite advocates and she’s also a terrific friend. I was so happy to see her interview go live on your site last night just as I was heading to bed. She has so much to offer the epilepsy community, and I’ve passed her details on to several friends living with epilepsy. Great interview! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Is Yoga Accessible for People with Chronic Illness? URL: https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/ Last updated: 2026-04-14T16:02:08.000Z ## An Introduction to Accessible Yoga for People with Chronic Illness The type of yoga that comes to mind for most people (long classes and becoming a pretzel) is not the bulk of what yoga can offer. Especially for those of us with chronic illnesses. Despite what we see on Instagram or even on YouTube. As a person with chronic pain and fatigue, when I completed my yoga teacher training, my exclusive focus was on making every single thing I learnt more accessible. I workshopped every pose the entire way through the journey of physical ability. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my/the author's personal experiences as a patient. *I/We are not doctors, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Accessibility, Yoga & Exercise Boards: ![Is Yoga Accessible for People with Chronic Illness? Guest Post by: Melissa Reynolds, on A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/yoga-accessible-chronic-illness-melissa-reynolds.jpg) ## **The Potential Benefits of Yoga** My research into yoga has shown the following potential benefits from practice: - Calms the autonomic nervous system - Help with sleep - Reduced fatigue - Reduced pain - Increased physical capacity - Decreased myofascial pain - Less anxiety - Reduced depression - Relaxation - Mindfulness of movement - Awareness of proper alignment Perhaps, more importantly, these are the benefits I have also noticed and that my students are also noticing. Please do note that this is not the result of one or two practices. It is the result of consistent practice. Pin the Infographic to Your Health & Wellness and Yoga Boards: ![The Potential Benefits of Yoga Infographic](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/infographic_benefits-yoga.jpg) ## The Types of Practices Most Helpful for Chronic Illness ### **Yoga Nidra** Through several years of consistent practice of Yoga Nidra guided meditation, a profoundly restful practice you can do on your bed, my rest and digest mode has been much easier to switch on. There is a theory that [fibromyalgia is caused by an overactive nervous system](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1155/2012/981565) \- specifically being stuck in fight or flight mode (the opposite of rest and digest) (Martinez-Lavin, 2012). It can also help with insomnia, rest, during flares and more. ### Restorative Yoga Restorative yoga is a type of yoga that was created for those who were injured or unwell. A class consists of a small number of poses for a long period of time. Each pose is set up so that you feel completely relaxed and comfortable. The point is release, not sensation. This induces the relaxation response. **Try this practice on YouTube:** ### Breathwork It is common for those in pain to be chest breathers. Breathing in this way can actually cause more pain and fatigue. Deep breathing can also help to activate the rest and digest (relaxation) response. There are all sorts of breathing practices available in yoga, but the ones I recommend are mindful breathing (focusing on your breath and breathing fully) and the simple 4:2:6 breath (inhale for a count of 4, pause for a count of 2 and exhale for a count of 6). **This very quick video shares the 4:2:6 breath with you:** ### The Physical Practice The physical practice has been a lifesaver for me, and I've never done a 90 minute class or resembled a pretzel. There are several poses I use throughout the day for pain relief. Neck stretches, mountain and forward fold and cat and cow. Using our breath and moving mindfully while completing a slow flow class can offer many benefits. It's exercise, moving with our breath helps us to keep it relaxed (and not upset the central nervous system) and the postures can have physical benefits as I mentioned above. **Here's a gentle beginner practice on YouTube:** 10 minutes a day is a great goal. But starting where you are is better. You can do yoga on a bed or in a chair. You can start with breath work or meditation. The options are endless, you just need to know they exist and give one a go. Tell us if you give any of these practices mentioned a go and how they made you feel. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! 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Read Related Posts: - [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) - [The Chronic Pain Cycle & How to Break It (Top Tips From an Occupational Therapist)](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/) - [How to Rewire Your Brain to Manage Chronic Pain (& Resources to Help)](https://achronicvoice.com/rewire-brain-manage-chronic-pain/) - [Just Breathing is Enough For Today](https://achronicvoice.com/just-breathing-enough-today-poem/) - [12 Simple Tips to Manage Stress (or ‘How to Relax’ by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) **Contributor Bio:** ![Melissa Reynolds headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/melissa-reynolds-profile.jpg) Melissa Reynolds is a mama, blogger, author and yoga teacher. It is her passion to share the tools yoga offers with people with chronic pain and fatigue, so that they may experience the same benefits she has. You can find her at [melissavsfibromyalgia.com](https://melissavsfibromyalgia.com/) and on her [YouTube channel](https://www.youtube.com/c/MelissavsFibromyalgia). ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Feb 8, 2021 Terrific article with lots of great resources, Melissa. I watched your video this weekend. I used to do a lot of yoga but then I got too sick and have too much damage to my spine to do more than basic poses and what you’ve mentioned in your restorative yoga video. It’s always nice to see that something is always possible with yoga, even if some of us can only do 5 or 10 minutes before we need to stop. - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Feb 4, 2021 I’ve fallen off the wagon with yoga, but used to find it so helpful. I definitely couldn’t do a full hour but 15–20 minutes works best for me and my symptoms. You’ve prompted me to try again! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### 12 Chronic Illness Bloggers Share Their Top Posts for 2020 URL: https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-bloggers-top-posts-2020/ Last updated: 2025-10-25T14:31:45.000Z ## A Variety of Perspectives from Various Chronic Illness Bloggers It’s been a while since I’ve done a year end top posts roundup, and this year I'd thought I'd do it with a slight twist! Top posts from other chronic illness bloggers will also be included, and they all live with different disorders and disabilities. I find it important to showcase as many voices as possible, as chronic illness and their co-morbidities are as diverse as people themselves. I hope that the top blog posts from these chronic illness bloggers will provide insight, tips, resources, entertainment, comfort, awareness, inspiration and even some humour! Please note that this is not a competition; it's just a fun way to share good content with one another, and to build community. I'll start out with my own top 10 blog posts for 2020\. Scroll further down to read the very best posts from 15 other chronic illness bloggers. Now sit back with your favourite beverage, relax and have a read! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the personal experiences from the authors. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [*Privacy Policy page*](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/) *for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness Bloggers & Community Boards: ![The Most Popular Posts of 2020 From Various Chronic Illness Bloggers | A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_most-popular-posts-2020-chronic-illness-bloggers.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Invisible Cities Linkup: Pros & Cons of Living with Chronic Illness in Your City](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-cities-linkup/) - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does 'Normal' Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) - [Keeping Up with the World: Why it’s Important Despite Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) --- ## 1\. [The Chronic Pain Cycle & How to Break It (Top Tips From an Occupational Therapist)](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/) ### A Top Notch Guest Writer & Tinkering with Pinterest Strategies Cynthia Hill is an absolutely delightful lady who contributed this guest post to the blog. She is a fantastic therapist with extensive knowledge regarding pain, and provided some very useful tips for pain management. I really appreciate guest posts like this one from medical professionals, as the advice is backed by real-life experience and expert opinion. During this time, I also started to create more Pinterest graphics for posts to see if that was a viable blogging strategy. This post managed to reach 2000 views within a month, so it seems like the answer was yes! (Though with all the changes in Pinterest algorithms, who knows what's down the road.) Thank you for your contribution once again, Cynthia - your post was #1 on the list for 2020! 🙂 ## 2\. [Chronic Illness Christmas Giveaway: Gifts for Every Body in Pain This Lonely Pandemic Season!](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-christmas-giveaway-gifts-pain/) ### Ending 2020 with a Big Bang! This Christmas Giveaway was an exciting way to end the year on the blog and with a big bang! We were lucky enough to collaborate with some awesome sponsors to add some cheer and to lift the mood despite the horrible pandemic going on. The logistics and organisation for the giveaway was a killer, and I ended up with a bad pain flare. But it was worth every ache and inflammation. I also hope that it brought the chronic illness community closer together. Every single one of us matter, and together we are stronger. Stronger as a collective voice in society. Stronger bonds as friends, and stronger within ourselves knowing that we’re not alone. I would love to make this an annual event, and introduce other pain management products, arts and crafts, apparel and more. Hopefully this becomes a repository we can refer to for pain management resources as well! If you're interested in becoming a sponsor for 2021, I'm already taking names ;) Just leave a comment at the bottom of this post! ;) Read Related Posts: - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) - [Curated Chronic Illness Gift Ideas for Christmas, Birthdays & Other Occasions!](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-gift-ideas/) - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/) - [How to Survive the Holidays When Chronic Illness & Disability Cause Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/survive-the-holidays-chronic-illness-disability-pain/) - [All I Want for Christmas is Some Pain Relief! (Real Wish List Ideas from 13 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/all-i-want-for-christmas-pain-relief/) ## 3\. [The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don’t Reflect)](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/) ### Yes, Money Plays a Big Role in Quality of Life for Chronic Pain Patients This was a sponsored post, where they gave me leeway on the topic as long as it tied back to their product, too. But it morphed into a topic that I believe needs more awareness about in society. The cost of living with chronic illness and disability are often taken at face value. Many people think that the costs end at doctor appointments and medications. Yet there are so many hidden costs that patients need to bear the brunt of in silence. Some of these may seem ‘unnecessary’ to healthy people. But they can make a big difference to the quality of life of someone in chronic pain. This includes various foods and supplements, more adequate mobility aids and lifestyle products. Then there is the need for aid with everyday ‘no brainer’ chores such as cleaning or cooking. Living with a chronic illness or disability requires a lot of planning. And in a bid to retain some quality of life, money does play a part. Often it isn’t even so that we can live a life of luxury. But just so we can experiment with new treatments, and afford pain management tools that actually make a difference. ### Freedom to Write Can Morph Into More Useful Posts This post also taught me that more helpful posts result when a client allows for more flexibility in topic. Reviewing a single product or service does serve a purpose, as people may be searching for these as well. But turning the post into something that benefits an entire community, with your product as part of the solution, is another strategy. It can create more traffic, outreach and evergreen posts. Read Related Posts: - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [Why I Need to See 10 Different Doctors on a Regular Basis](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) ## 4\. All You Need to Know About the Coronavirus From the Beginning to Right Now (with a List of Live Updates from Verified News Sources) ### Publishing About a Trending Topic, Before It Reaches Its Peak So, no, this post isn’t updated with the latest news sources anymore, because there is so much to take in every single day. But what happened was that I wrote this post right before the panic set in, and before the situation blew up. In fact, I rushed the post out as if it were on a deadline. I included the latest research at that time, and also tools to track information about the virus. This was right before I had to book a last minute flight back to Singapore from Berlin myself, because of the situation. I don't want to say that riding on the wave of sudden tragedy is the way to go. But you can use this period to write posts that are well researched, current, backed by facts, and helpful to your audience. Publishing a post on a trending topic - especially right before it peaks - turbo charges your blog traffic for a period of time. It's important to keep your finger on the pulse, on whatever it is that you blog about. Read Related Posts: - [COVID-19 Vaccine Experiences from People with Chronic Conditions](https://achronicvoice.com/covid-19-vaccine-experiences/) - [Latest Research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome (2024 Edition)](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [MediSearch Review: A Medical AI Search Engine for Patients, Clinicians & Medical Writers](https://achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/) - [4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/) - [Advice That Could, Quite Literally, Kill](https://achronicvoice.com/advice-quite-literally-kill/) ## 5\. [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) ### To Update a Post from the Archives, or Not? There is the ongoing debate on whether you should update your post URL or not for SEO reasons. For me, it usually depends on a few common factors: - How well is the post performing in search engines currently? - Does the post still contain value, or do I have more important thoughts to add on to it? - Is it a topic that might still be of interest or use to readers. How can I make it more useful for them? When I first started blogging, I wrote a lot more introspective posts. There is nothing wrong with that, and I still write them every now and then. But at the end of the day, the purpose of blogging is to serve an audience - whoever that looks like for you. For me, it is to raise awareness about chronic illness from different perspectives, and to support others who are suffering. Going back to the drawing board, if I can enhance a post with graphics, useful information or better copy, then I choose to revive it. I update the URL to something more SEO friendly, if the current search terms aren’t making much of an impact anyway. For this post in particular, I have packed it with a lot more shareable graphics and quotes for Pinterest, and optimised the SEO. I hope that with time it goes up the SERP, as it’s one of my favourite posts for coping with those bad days! Read Related Posts: - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [A String of Bad Days (and What Happened When That Good Day Finally Came Along)](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/) ## 6\. [12 Simple Tips to Manage Stress (or ‘How to Relax’ by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) ### Another Makeover from the Archives, and Evaluating Post Titles This is another post that I updated, as the original one was not so SEO-friendly, and a little plain. I did spend a good portion of 2020 updating old posts, to increase the longevity of articles on my blog. It also seems like Thich Nhat Hanh’s books are quite popular, and people do search for reviews. So in this case, it was vital to include his name in the post title. This blog post consists of my personal takeaways from the book on how to manage stress (which I should totally pay more attention to, myself!). Read Related Posts: - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games (Part 3/5)](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You’re All Invited, Too!)](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies: Part II](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies-2/) - [Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill: Part III](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-3-chronically-ill/) ## 7\. [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) ### Reframing Negative Thoughts Into Truthful Ones, So That Positive Action Can Take Place Yes, yet another updated blog post! Whilst this post was more popular, I still chose to update the title to try and hit the right notes. [First published on Thrive Global](https://medium.com/thrive-global/positive-thinker-unicorns-rainbows-3293fba38e2c), it is one topic that I think needs to be addressed more. I share my own method on how to reframe negative thoughts in this post, especially on those high pain days. Sometimes, one small thought can make a whole lot of difference, in a good way. I hope that you find it helpful, too! Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [The Subtle Difference Between Saying “Think Positive” and “Stay Positive” to Someone with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/difference-think-positive-stay-positive-chronic-pain/) - [Is Seeking Help for Your Mental Health Worth It?](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/) ## 8\. [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) ### I Still Miss You, Horace This blog post is one of my personal favourites written last year, even though it’s filled with grief and sorrow. I wrote it as a memorial to my dearest cockatiel, Horace, who startled and flew off by accident. It was a horrific week, where I pushed past my limits to look for him. I literally searched for him from waking to sleeping. Trudging under the hot sun for nine hours straight isn’t great for Lupus or chronic pain. But what if he was just there, on that tree, or the next? We recognised his distinct call five days after he went missing, and rushed down to coax him off a tree branch. He was hesitating to take that leap of faith, when a crow swooped down at him. It is a moment I will never forget. He escaped those black jaws of death with such grace, despite his innocence as a hand raised and hand fed bird. I will always miss the cheer, shenanigans and joy he brought into my life. He will always be my little baby boy. I still peek at ‘missing pets and birds’ groups every single day. Just in case, you know? Read Related Posts: - [Why I Moved from SiteGround to Cloudways (and Couldn’t be Happier). Plus Cute Puppy Pics & A New Pacing Strategy.](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled: Taking on the Eye of the Tiger in the Year of the Tiger](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [What Neverending Pain Reveals to You](https://achronicvoice.com/what-neverending-pain-reveals/) - [Grieving the Life That I Will Never Have](https://achronicvoice.com/grieving-the-life-i-will-never-have-chronic-illness-disability/) ## 9\. [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) ### A Peek at Perpetual Lockdown Life, From the Chronic Illness & Disabled Community This blog post is the final piece of a three part series. It shows how the pandemic has affected people with chronic illnesses and disabilities from around the world. Lockdown mode is something that we're familiar with, even before the pandemic happened. I hope that this post raises awareness on how difficult it is for spoonies to leave their house and stay in, both. The isolation does take a heavy mental toll, which society is also realising by now. Staying indoors day in and out is no fun. Being stuck in bed in pain all day, every day - even worse. Read Related Posts: - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care: Introduction to the Series](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-introduction/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) ## 10\. [Drink Pure Wine Review (A Product That Excites Me as a Person with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/drink-pure-wine-review/) ### A Revolutionary Product (That I'm Still Purchasing for Myself!) Finally, we have my Drink Pure Wine review. I got to test out some wine wands, and was duly impressed. I tested the wine wands on all sorts of wines, from red, to white, to even champagne. Each time it did a fantastic job, if you follow the instructions and stir it thoroughly. I was actually able to enjoy and laugh with friends whilst having a glass or two of wine. The alcohol felt good, and I woke up each time without the usual inflammatory pains associated with Lupus and Sjögren's Disease. I even bought more wine wands out of my own pocket, and am definitely saving them up for those special occasions! Read Related Posts: - [YuYu Bottle Review: Hot Water Bottle for ‘Surround Warmth’ Pain Relief](https://achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-review/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [We Want to Have Fun Just Like You, But Here’s What it Takes](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) - [3 Types of Chronic Pain that Sound Bearable, but are Not](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-bearable-not/) --- ## And Now, Presenting...The Top Posts from Other Chronic Illness Bloggers in 2020! ### 1\. Jenny of [lifesapolyp.com](https://www.lifesapolyp.com/) ### ![Jenny of Life's a Polyp](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/jenny-lifes-a-polyp.jpg) I love how diverse Jenny’s top 10 blog posts were for the year. From vacations, to chronic pain, to self awareness and knowledge about her conditions. She lives with two rare diseases, FAP (Familial Adenomatous Polyposis) and Short Bowel Syndrome. I quote from her About Page: ‘FAP is a hereditary rare disease that causes the development of hundreds to thousands of colon polyps’. Sounds painful, alright. If you’re someone who’s suffering from these rare diseases, Jenny has had them since she was 8\. She's definitely someone whom you might like to connect with online if you live with them, too. #### **Top 10 Posts on "Life's a Polyp":** 1. [Managing Diarrhea Through Diet](https://www.lifesapolyp.com/2020/04/managing-diarrhea-through-diet.html) 2. [The Whipple Procedure](https://www.lifesapolyp.com/2020/03/the-whipple-procedure.html) 3. [Finding or Establishing Support Groups](https://www.lifesapolyp.com/2020/03/finding-or-establishing-support-groups.html) 4. [A Journey From Running Away to Running Forward](https://www.lifesapolyp.com/2020/05/a-journey-from-running-away-to-running.html) 5. [Desmoid Tumors](https://www.lifesapolyp.com/2020/06/desmoid-tumors.html) 6. [Physical Therapy After Abdominal Surgery](https://www.lifesapolyp.com/2020/05/physical-therapy-after-abdominal-surgery.html) 7. [Navigating and Understanding School Accommodations](https://www.lifesapolyp.com/2020/07/navigating-and-understanding-school.html) 8. [Vacationing Amidst a Global Pandemic with Chronic Illness](https://www.lifesapolyp.com/2020/08/vacationing-amidst-global-pandemic-with.html) 9. [FAP and a Feeding Tube](https://www.lifesapolyp.com/2020/09/fap-and-feeding-tube.html) 10. [Pets and Chronic Illness](https://www.lifesapolyp.com/2020/01/pets-and-chronic-illness.html) #### **Jenny's Reflections** *"I tried to focus a lot on sharing educational information and stories of what others face with the rare disease of Familial Adenomatous Polyposis."* #### **Jenny's Goals & Hopes for Her Blog in 2021** *"I hope to further grow the reach of Life’s a Polyp in various formats to increase awareness of Familial Adenomatous Polyposis and bowel diversions."* #### **Connect with Jenny on Social Media** [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/lifesapolyp) / [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/lifesapolyp/) / [Twitter](https://twitter.com/lifesapolyp) / [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/lifesapolyp/) --- ### 2\. Claire of [throughthefibrofog.com](http://throughthefibrofog.com/) ![Claire of Through the Fibro Fog](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/claire-through-the-fibro-fog.jpg) Reading Claire’s reflections and goals for her blog, I’d say that she’s pretty well on track! She is one of the goto resources from a patient's perspective on low-histamine diets for MCAS (Mast Cell Activation Syndrome). She spends a lot of time in her kitchen experimenting with new flavours, creative recipes and more. Her blog also has a lot of tips and resources for coping with a range of chronic illnesses. She lives with (vestibular) migraine, chronic headaches, fibromyalgia, POTS, Raynaud's Syndrome and more. In addition to that, she is a moderator in [my FB Group, Chronic Illness Social Pod](https://www.facebook.com/groups/ChronicIllnessSocialPod/). We call her our resident detective, because she is the sharpest one of us all! :) *P.S. If you'd like to support a fellow hardworking chronic illness blogger,* [*her e-book, 'Low Histamine Kitchen breakfast recipes'*](https://payhip.com/b/hsrH)*, is only $2.99 :) She also has* [*another book, 'Living with Fibromyalgia'*](https://www.amazon.com/Living-well-Fibromyalgia-lifestyle-measures-ebook/dp/B0888Q2KGF?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=7ff993a50789d681e8b1620351d8a599&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) *(affiliate link), that is full of great tips and resources.* #### **Top 10 Posts on Through the Fibro Fog** 1. [Low Histamine Recipes](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/low-histamine-recipes/) 2. [Low Histamine Foods – Shopping List](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/low-histamine-foods-shopping-list/) 3. [Easy low histamine diet food swaps](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/easy-low-histamine-diet-food-swaps/) 4. [Low Histamine Diet](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/low-histamine-diet/) 5. [Low histamine breakfast ideas and shopping list](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/low-histamine-diet-breakfast-ideas-and-shopping-list/) 6. [Low histamine vegan power bowl](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/low-histamine-vegan-power-bowl/) 7. [Living the low histamine diet life – FAQ](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/living-low-histamine-life-faq/) 8. [22 non-pharmacological forms of pain relief recommended by those living with chronic illness](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/non-pharmacological-pain-relief-living-chronic-illness/) 9. [Clothes and chronic illness: comfortable styles and symptom management](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/clothes-chronic-illness/) 10. [4 health professionals to consider seeing if you live with fibromyalgia](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/health-professionals-fibromyalgia/) #### **Claire's Reflections** *"Well, my top ten has rather a theme of low histamine resources! So I am very glad that people find them so helpful and I hope it helps others who follow this diet to find support and some tasty recipes too!"* #### **Claire's Hopes & Goals for Her Blog in 2021** *"I hope to further act as a resource for a low histamine lifestyle for those advised to follow this diet by their doctors, and to also continue to raise awareness of the conditions I live with and offer any help I can do for others."* #### **Connect with Claire on Social Media** [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/through.the.fibro.fog/) / [Instagram (Low Histamine Kitchen)](https://www.instagram.com/lowhistaminekitchen/) / [Twitter](https://twitter.com/throughfibrofog) Read Related Posts: - [Axon Optics: Eyewear Made Specially for Migraine Pain Relief](https://achronicvoice.com/axon-optics-eyewear-migraine-pain-relief/) - [Book Review: The Narwhal Who Suffers from Chronic Migraines](https://achronicvoice.com/book-review-narwhal-migraines/) --- ### 3\. Liz of [despitepain.com](https://despitepain.com/) ![Liz of Despite Pain](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/liz-despite-pain.jpg) Elizabeth’s posts are always filled with fantastic chronic illness tips, resources and reflections. She’s in her early fifties, but had to retire for medical reasons at 28. She lives with and blogs about coeliac disease, Raynaud’s Syndrome, Scoliosis, Trigeminal Neuralgia, Arthritis and Osteoporosis. Read her blog for inspiration, hope, and tips on how to cope with chronic pain. Also, the emotional and mental burdens that come along with it. #### **Top 10 Posts on Despite Pain** 1. [20 Ways to Distract Yourself From Pain](https://despitepain.com/2019/03/12/20-ways-to-try-to-distract-yourself-from-pain/) 2. [How to Get Help in a Trigeminal Neuralgia Emergency](https://despitepain.com/2019/07/26/how-to-get-help-in-a-trigeminal-neuralgia-emergency/) 3. [Why is Appearance so Important to People](https://despitepain.com/2019/08/27/why-is-appearance-so-important-to-people/) 4. [How to Explain the Pain of Trigeminal Neuralgia](https://despitepain.com/2019/09/26/how-to-explain-the-pain-of-trigeminal-neuralgia/) 5. [Trigeminal Neuralgia Triggers Which Make Life Difficult](https://despitepain.com/2020/07/03/trigeminal-neuralgia-triggers-which-make-life-difficult/) 6. [Jokes About Disabled People Are Not Funny](https://despitepain.com/2019/09/05/jokes-about-disabled-people-are-not-funny/) 7. [Accepting a New Normal When You Miss Your Old Life](https://despitepain.com/2020/06/06/accepting-a-new-normal-when-you-miss-your-old-life/) 8. [How to Protect Your Face From Cold Weather](https://despitepain.com/2019/10/23/how-to-protect-your-face-from-cold-weather/) 9. [What’s Life Like for Young People with Trigeminal Neuralgia?](https://despitepain.com/2020/02/25/whats-life-like-for-young-people-with-trigeminal-neuralgia/) 10. [This is Why Trigeminal Neuralgia Needs Awareness](https://despitepain.com/2019/10/03/this-is-why-trigeminal-neuralgia-needs-awareness/) #### **Liz's Reflections** *"Some of those posts gave suggestions about coping with or treating pain, while other posts might have helped non-sufferers to understand more. When I first started blogging, I wanted to share my experience of living with pain in the hope that I could possibly help other people. Hopefully, those posts, and others, have done that."* #### **Liz's Goals & Hopes for Her Blog in 2021** *"There are so many aspects to living with chronic pain so I hope to add more posts covering more of those issues. I especially want to add more self-help and pain management posts. I can't offer miracle cures (I wish I could), but I really hope that some of my posts will help someone in some way. Even just knowing that someone else really understands what they're dealing with can help a person."* #### **Connect with Liz on Social Media** [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/despitepainpage) / [Twitter](https://twitter.com/DespitePainBlog) --- ### 4\. Caz Homer Of [invisiblyme.com](https://invisiblyme.com/) ![Caz of Invisibly Me](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/caz-invisibly-me.jpg) I love Caz’s dreams and hopes for her blog, and advocacy work off screen. And also the richness of topics on her blog! She does a neat roundup of frugal finds every Friday – so don’t forget to check them out for some fab deals! Caz had her large bowel removed and lives with a stoma bag. That can take a huge blow on any young woman’s self-esteem and mental health, which she shares more about on her blog. She also lives with osteopenia, suspected undifferentiated connective tissue disease, bronchiectasis with lung inflammation and scarring (long term damage from recurrent chest infections), anxiety, ME/CFS, fibromyalgia, chronic migraines, Raynaud’s Syndrome, Erythromelelgia and Pernicious Anaemia. That’s a lot to deal with for anyone, much less for a young adult who is supposed to be in the peak of health. Her online persona is always so upbeat and lovely, too. Find out more about her chronic illnesses and [how she copes with them in this post](https://invisiblyme.com/2020/07/26/realityof-multipleillnesses/). #### **Top 10 Posts on Invisibly Me** 1. [Stoma Life : A Unique & Individual Ostomy Experience](https://invisiblyme.com/2020/10/03/stomalife-unique-experience/) 2. [10 Ways To Deal With News Overload & Emotional Stress](https://invisiblyme.com/2020/06/30/10tips-newsandstress/) 3. [The Sunshine Vitamin : Why Vit D Is So Important](https://invisiblyme.com/2020/06/03/why-vitamin-d-important/) 4. [Invisible Conditions : The Terrors Of Public Toilets](https://invisiblyme.com/2020/03/10/publictoilets-invisibledisability/) 5. [8 Ways To Nurture Self Confidence](https://invisiblyme.com/2020/10/15/8ways-nurture-selfconfidence/) 6. [Give Yourself A Winter Health MOT](https://invisiblyme.com/2020/11/13/winter-health-mot/) 7. [Medichecks Home Blood Tests Review & Discount](https://invisiblyme.com/2020/02/19/medichecksreview/) 8. [Thoughts On Talking Mental Health](https://invisiblyme.com/2020/02/05/timetotalk2020/) 9. [Snuggle Up With Heat Holders](https://invisiblyme.com/2020/02/29/snuggleup-heatholders/) 10. [Justin Bieber’s Diagnosis : Get The Lowdown On Lyme Disease](https://invisiblyme.com/2020/01/14/lowdown-on-lyme/) #### **Caz's Reflections** *"I've not been able to post as much as I'd hoped given my chronic illnesses & stoma problems, but I'm proud of what I have achieved. I'd hoped to widen the scope of content while providing more reviews and applicable advice."* #### **Caz's Goals & Hopes for Her Blog in 2021** *"I want to take a little of the pressure off as I often feel I'm not good enough and I'm not doing enough. I'm hoping to do more collaborations with fellow bloggers, while continuing my advocacy efforts in regards to the things I'm passionate about.* Things like: the closure of my local A&E, the legal case against the first surgery I had to protect other patients in future, the removal of opioid medications for many patients on the NHS, difficulties patients face with pernicious anaemia treatment and so on. *I'd like to continue diversifying content on my blog and raising awareness, providing a little advice and support while challenging stigma."* #### **Follow Caz on Social Media** [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/invisiblymeblog) / [Twitter](https://twitter.com/invisiblymeblog) / [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/invisiblymeblog/) --- ### 5\. Cynthia Covert of thedisableddivablog.com (now set to private) ![The Disabled Diva Banner](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/the-disabled-diva.jpg) Cynthia is right on the money when she says that many of us with chronic pain are always on the lookout for tips and tools to better manage our pain. She lives with Fibromyalgia, Psoriasis, Psoriatic Arthritis and Endometriosis. Her blog focusses a lot on pain management, as she experiments with and uses cannabis and PEMF to cope. Oh and she’s also obsessed with Disney, and blogs a lot about her trips there with insights into accessibility. That was mostly pre-pandemic days, but there are still plenty of interesting and useful reads! #### **Top 10 Posts on The Disabled Diva** 1. 6 Fibromyalgia Triggers and How to Avoid Them 2. What You Need To Know About Fibromyalgia Leg Muscle Weakness 3. How to Make Cannabutter 4. Five Types of Wearable Pain Relief Devices for Muscle and Joint Pain From Fibromyalgia and Arthritis 5. How to Prevent Fibromyalgia Flare Stank 6. PEMF Therapy for Pain Relief 7. Health Benefits of Tea for Fibromyalgia and Arthritis 8. How COVID-19 has Changed the Lives of the Chronically Ill 9. Is it Fibromyalgia or Something Else? 10. How to Reduce Chronic Pain with Magnesium #### **Cynthia's Reflections** *"I think my top ten posts reveal that there are many people who are not having their pain relief needs met by the medical community and/or are looking for non-pharmaceutical alternatives."* #### **Cynthia's Goals & Hopes for Her Blog in 2021** *"My goals and hopes for The Disabled Diva Blog in 2021 are to continue sharing alternative pain relief options, products to simplify tasks, and ways to make life easier and more enjoyable."* #### **Follow Cynthia on Social Media** [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/thedisableddiva/) / [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/the%5Fdisabled%5Fdiva/) / [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/thedisableddiva/) --- ### 6\. Katie Clark of painfullyliving.com (site no longer exists) ![Painfully Living Banner](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/painfully-living.jpg) Katie is an absolutely lovely lady whom I wish I could call my grandmother! She was one of the first few who joined my [FB Group, Chronic Illness Social Pod](https://www.facebook.com/groups/ChronicIllnessSocialPod), and is now one of my trusted moderators who help me to manage the group. The team leans on each other for support to keep the group up and running. It is not unusual for one or all of us to be in pain, or to hit a pacing barrier every single day. But splitting the workload up with these ladies makes the group tasks more pleasurable! Katie lives with Fibromyalgia, Interstitial Cystitis, Acid Reflux, likely IBS, FMD, and grew up with a lot of trauma in her household. I love her blog posts, which are full of elderly wisdom. And also the ones where she shares quality moments spent with her grandkids! She is also a retired teacher and you can tell that it runs in her veins, as she never stops learning. Read Katie’s blog for more inspiration, wisdom, research and reflections. #### **Top 10 Blog Posts on Painfully Living** 1. Acceptance is my Superpower- Living Fully with Fibro 2. But….HOW do I Practice Acceptance (My Super Power in Development) 3. Those Are Fighting Words! Metaphors Make Meaning 4. What’s Good Enough?-Acceptance to Eliminate Shame 5. Breast Pain and Fibromyalgia 6. The Danger of Distraction: Turning Toward Pain to Eliminate Suffering 7. Tentatively Ecstatic! My Experience With Low Dose Naltrexone Part 1 8. You’ve Gotta Be Kidding! Looking Back at Childhood Fibromyalgia Symptoms 9. Ur In Trouble: Interstitial Cystitis and Fibromyalgia 10. Traveling Across the USA in the Time of COVID-19 #### **Katie's Reflections** *"For me 2020 was a lot about acceptance and discovery. My wellness journey is up and down, back and forth, but I do feel through it all, I'm growing into a more full person. I share from my experineces so that others know their not alone, so that we may find strength in community."* #### **Katie's Goals & Hopes for Her Blog in 2021** *"My goal is to continue sharing and connecting with those who can identify. My hope is to stay true to my purpose for why I am writing and continue to find joy and purpose in sharing through my writing."* #### **Follow Katie on Social Media** [Twitter](https://twitter.com/klclark525) / [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/painfullyliving/) / [LinkedIn](https://www.linkedin.com/in/katieclark525/) --- ### 7\. Lynley Gregory of [topladytalks.com](https://topladytalks.com/) ![Top Lady Talks Banner](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/top-lady-talks.jpg) Lynley's blog covers some important topics that society needs to be more aware of. Things like ableism that people don't even realise is a thing. Also, stigma surrounding disability and more. She is a retired teacher from Wales who is now a disabled wheelchair user due to a pelvic fracture. This was caused by underlying Osteoporosis, which she didn't even know she had. She blogs about her romantic relationships, and interactions with society as a disabled person. Don't forget about her wheelchair too, as she shares a fair bit about her wonderful mobility device, and how it helps her to live a better life. #### **Top Blog Posts on Top Lady Talks** 1. [Is having a disabled partner a burden…..???](https://topladytalks.com/2018/02/19/is-having-a-disabled-partner-a-burden/) 2. [“Me and my wheelchair” – an essential yet ‘interesting’ relationship……](https://topladytalks.com/2018/07/31/me-and-my-wheelchair-an-essential-yet-interesting-relationship/) 3. [Am I an addict…..???](https://topladytalks.com/2018/01/31/am-i-an-addict/) 4. [The Disabilty Discrimination Act 1995 is 25 yrs old – a time to celebrate or to commiserate……???](https://topladytalks.com/2020/11/09/3081/) 5. [My CBD Oil trial aka ‘no Dad, that doesn’t mean I’m on drugs now……..’](https://topladytalks.com/2020/06/11/my-cbd-oil-trial-aka-no-dad-that-doesnt-mean-im-on-drugs-now/) 6. [A Covid 19 thought for those with chronic illness….. aka ‘Welcome to our world’](https://topladytalks.com/2020/04/06/a-covid-19-thought-for-those-with-chronic-illness-aka-welcome-to-our-world/) 7. [What is the ‘right’ body type? aka “Disabled people are hot too……!”](https://topladytalks.com/2019/05/01/what-is-the-right-body-type-aka-disabled-people-are-hot-too/) 8. [Can love with a disabled person last? A Valentine Day’s musing………](https://topladytalks.com/2019/03/28/can-love-with-a-disabled-person-last-aka-what-does-dr-phil-know-anyway/) 9. [Caught on camera? “Do I have to be a virtual recluse to be considered disabled ‘enough’?”](https://topladytalks.com/2018/12/01/caught-on-camera-do-i-have-to-be-a-virtual-recluse-to-be-considered-disabled-enough/) 10. [I’ve been on the telly……!!!](https://topladytalks.com/2017/07/17/ive-been-on-the-telly/) #### **Lynley's Reflections** *"I think that my top posts of 2020 are a great spread of topics, both serious and lighthearted and are a true reflection of what my life as a disabled person with chronic pain is like. It’s not always smiles and giggles and lockdown has been a real challenge but there are some lighter moments which I’m glad to grab if ever I should see one....!"* #### **Lynley's Goals & Hopes for Her Blog in 2021** *"My goal this year is to give more time to my blog. This festive season has been rather difficult for me and I haven’t given as much time to it as I have done previously.* *I really want to try to be more disciplined in this new year as I have a lot of content to get out there and I know that I find comfort, support or solace from other people’s blog post then hopefully someone can find the same in mine. I just want to shine a light and say ‘you’re not alone'."* #### **Follow Lynley on Social Media** [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/topladytalks) / [Twitter](https://twitter.com/TopladyTalks) / [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/topladytalks/) / [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/topladytalks/) --- ### 8\. Melissa Reynolds of [melissavsfibromyalgia.com](https://www.melissavsfibromyalgia.com/) ![Melissa vs Fibromyalgia Portrait](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/melissa-vs-fibromyalgia.jpg) Once again, pain management is a hot topic for many of us who live with chronic pain, as can be seen in Melissa’s 10 top blog posts for 2020! Melissa is a yoga teacher who is passionate about using it for pain management, and wants to help others with chronic pain do the same. Her yoga classes are adapted specifically for those who live with Fibromyalgia and chronic pain, and don't involve pretzel twists. She lives with Fibromyalgia, and is a mother of four (not sure how she handles it!). If you’re interested in using yoga as a gentle tool for pain management, [get in touch with her](https://melissavsfibromyalgia.teachable.com/p/yoga-for-the-chronic-life). Don’t forget to check out the wealth of reviews and resources on her blog, too! #### **Top 10 Blog Posts on Melissa vs Fibromyalgia (She has Taken Down Her Blog, Sadly)** 1. Inexpensive Items for Fibromyalgia My Top 9 2. How Micro Yoga Helps Chronic Pain, Chronic Fatigue, Fibromyalgia Plus Your Toolkit 3. The Best Supplement for Fibromyalgia: Recovery Factors 4. My Low Dose Naltrexone (LDN) for Fibromyalgia One Year Experiment 5. MSM Supplement for Fibromyalgia: A Review 6. Yoga for Chronic Pain and Fatigue: What it is, isn’t, how I use it and you can too 7. 6 Practices for Calming an Overactive Nervous System 8. Copaiba Essential Oil for Fibromyalgia and Chronic Pain 9. My Favourite Five Books About Fighting Fibromyalgia 10. The Central Nervous System, Restorative Yoga and Fibromyalgia #### **Melissa's Reflections** *"These most popular posts are unsurprising, we just want some help with managing our symptoms and other people's research and experience is a big help!"* #### **Melissa's Goals & Hopes for Her Blog in 2021** *"I hope to share the benefits of yoga for chronic pain and fatigue with as many people as possible so they can build a toolkit to help them manage as well as possible until a cure exists."* #### **Follow Melissa on Social Media** [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/melissanreynolds/) --- ### 9\. Sam Moss of [mymedmusings.com](https://mymedmusings.com/) ![My Medical Musings Banner](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/my-medical-musings.jpg) Sam is a prominent advocate in the online chronic illness world. She runs her own FB Group, "Medical Musings with Friends", where she spends a lot of time and effort to support and lift others who are suffering. She lives in perpetual pain with a degenerative bone disease, on top of other health problems. She is also a Christian lady, and whilst her blog does not revolve around that fact, her outlook on life is reflective by her peace and focus. Check out her blog, which is always full of interesting reads, encouragement, honesty and cheer all at once! #### **Top 10 Blog Posts on My Med Musings** 1. [The Spinal Surgery Recovery Road](https://mymedmusings.com/2018/11/12/the-spinal-surgery-recovery-road/) 2. [A Case Of Chronic Illness Overload](https://mymedmusings.com/2020/01/11/a-case-of-chronic-illness-overload/) 3. [A Chronic Disease Management Plan – Do You Have One?](https://mymedmusings.com/2018/02/18/a-chronic-disease-management-plan-do-you-have-one/) 4. It’s OK To Be Tired 5. Meet The Admin Team 6. Dancing To The Beat Of My “Chronic Illness” Drum 7. [A Full And Fulfilled Chronic Illness Life](https://mymedmusings.com/2020/09/10/a-full-and-fulfilled-chronic-illness-life-2/) 8. “I Should, I Better, I Have To” …..No, You Really Don’t!! 9. [A World Changing Course – Entering The Unknown](https://mymedmusings.com/2020/03/15/a-world-changing-course-entering-the-unknown/) 10. [Wigs, Hats, Scarves, Or Au Naturale?](https://mymedmusings.com/2020/02/03/wigs-hats-scarves-or-au-naturale/) #### **Sam's Reflections** *"It's been a huge year for so many reasons, including my own health challenges. I think my Top 10 posts have really captured the essence of my journey through 2020 and my thoughts throughout the year. A good roundup overall."* #### **Sam's Goals & Hopes for Her Blog in 2021** *"I would really love to expand my following. I want to ensure I'm connecting with my readers, in a way that makes a difference to how they approach living with chronic illness."* #### **Follow Sam on Social Media** [Anchor.fm](https://anchor.fm/my-medical-musings) / [Twitter (@My\_medmusings)](https://twitter.com/My%5Fmedmusings) / [Twitter (@Med\_Musings)](https://twitter.com/Med%5FMusings) / [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/mymedicalmusings/) --- ### 10\. Sarah Rathsack of [mymigrainelife.net](https://www.mymigrainelife.net/) ![My Migraine Life Banner](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/my-migraine-life.png) Sarah has been living with migraine disorder since she was five, and is now a mother herself. She shares about her life journey, lessons learned, coping tools and more on her blog. #### **Top 10 Blog Posts on My Migraine Life** 1. Sponsored: Setting Goals vs. Resolutions with Chronic Illness 2. [Sponsored: How Traveling was Different this Year](https://www.mymigrainelife.net/sponsored-how-traveling-was-different-this-year/) 3. [Sponsored: Migraine in the Workplace](https://www.mymigrainelife.net/sponsored-migraine-in-the-workplace/) 4. Social Distancing: What’s That? 5. Corona Virus is Not a Break: It’s Our New Reality 6. [Sponsored: 5 Ways My Migraine Life Has Changed during COVID-19](https://www.mymigrainelife.net/sponsored-5-ways-my-migraine-life-has-changed-during-covid-19/) 7. Sponsored: Know Migraine Mission: Breaking Down Stigma 8. [20 Gifts for Migraine Relief: Gift Guide 2020](https://www.mymigrainelife.net/20-best-gifts-for-migraine-relief-2020/) 9. Care Plan for Chronic Pain: Pain Management Tips 10. [Photophobia Glasses: Axon Optics Review](https://www.mymigrainelife.net/photophobia-glasses-axon-optics-review/) #### **Sarah's Reflections** *"It was a crazy and tough year but I'm proud of all that I accomplished!"* #### **Sarah's Goals & Hopes for Her Blog in 2021** *"I want to continue my migraine advocacy and build my audience and community."* #### **Follow Sarah on Social Media** [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/mymigrainlife) / [Twitter](https://www.twitter.com/mymigrainelife) / [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mymigrainelife) / [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/mymigrainelife) --- ### 11\. Sue Jackson of [livewithcfs.blogspot.com](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/) ![Live with CFS Banner](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/live-with-cfs.jpg) Sue lives with Myalgic Encephalomyelitis/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (ME/CFS), and so do her two young sons. Her older son also has Lyme Disease. As with many spoonies, we often start out with a fast-paced career, unaware of what is going to happen next in life. Sue shares more about family life with chronic illnesses on her blog, and how to live a good life despite that. #### **Top 10 Blog Posts on Life with CFS** 1. [Coronavirus and ME/CFS](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/2020/03/coronavirus-and-mecfs.html) 2. [The October Slide: ME/CFS and Infectious Triggers](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/2020/10/the-october-slide-mecfs-and-infectious.html) 3. [Info & Resources on COVID-19 and ME/CFS](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/2020/04/info-resources-on-covid-19-and-mecfs.html) 4. [My Update: Crashes, Infections, and Treatments ... Oh, My!](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/2020/07/my-update-crashes-infections-and.html) 5. [Weekly Inspiration: Lift Up Your Spirits](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/2020/07/weekly-inspiration-lift-up-your-spirits.html) 6. [Weekly Inspiration: 5 Ways to Start the New Year Right!](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/2020/01/weekly-inspiration-5-ways-to-start-new.html) 7. [Weekly Inspiration: You're Right Where You Need To Be](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/2020/04/weekly-inspiration-youre-right-where.html) 8. [COVID-19 Long-Haulers and ME/CFS](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/2020/08/covid-19-long-haulers-and-mecfs.html) 9. [Interview with Rachel of Chronic Fatigue Sanity Blog](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/2020/06/interview-with-rachel-of-chronic.html) 10. [Weekly Inspiration: Chronically Ill Holiday Gifts and Tips](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/2020/11/weekly-inspiration-chronically-ill.html) #### **Sue's Reflections** *"People were clearly looking for information on how COVID-19 might affect those of us with chronic illness, how to cope with daily life and extra stresses, and positive support for lifting spirits and living your best life."* #### **Sue's Goals & Hopes for Her Blog in 2021** *"I want to continue to be a source for both reliable scientific information about diagnosis, treatments, and COVID-19, as well as for inspirational posts that are uplifting and positive, and a place for people to connect. Plus just plain fun!"* #### **Follow Sue on Social Media** [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/livewithmecfs) / [Twitter](https://twitter.com/livewithmecfs) --- ### 12\. Rhiann Johns of [brainlesionandme.com](https://www.brainlesionandme.com/) ![Brain Lesion and Me Banner](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/brain-lesion-and-me.jpg) Rhiann is another supportive member of the online chronic illness community. She not only shares insight into her life with FND, vertigo and more. But she also takes the time to read and share other blogs to raise awareness about other conditions. Her posts are full of wisdom, self-reflection, knowledge and humanity. Have a read and I’m sure you’ll agree! #### **Top 10 Blog Posts on Brain Lesion and Me** 1. [Identity Crisis: Am I Defined by Chronic Illness?](https://www.brainlesionandme.com/identity-crisis-am-i-defined-by-chronic-illness/) 2. [Chronic Illness: A Harbinger of Shame and Guilt](https://www.brainlesionandme.com/chronic-illness-a-harbinger-of-shame-guilt/) 3. [What Happens When Pain Becomes Chronic](https://www.brainlesionandme.com/what-happens-when-pain-becomes-chronic/) 4. [Chronic Illness: A Burden & Being A Burden](https://www.brainlesionandme.com/chronic-illness-a-burden-being-a-burden/) 5. [Living Inauthentically With Chronic Illness](https://www.brainlesionandme.com/living-inauthentically-with-chronic-illness/) 6. [Am I Warrior? No, I Am Just Enduring](https://www.brainlesionandme.com/am-i-a-warrior-no-i-am-just-enduring/) 7. [5 Ways to Find Self-Love When Chronically Ill](https://www.brainlesionandme.com/5-ways-to-find-self-love-when-chronically-ill/) 8. [The Most Painful Parts of Living With FND](https://www.brainlesionandme.com/the-most-painful-parts-of-living-with-fnd/) 9. [The Reality of Living Through a Flare](https://www.brainlesionandme.com/the-reality-of-living-through-a-flare/) 10. [Loss In The Time of Chronic Illness](https://www.brainlesionandme.com/loss-in-the-time-of-chronic-illness/) #### **Rhiann's Reflections** *"I feel proud that I have managed to cover a broad range of topics of life with chronic illness, and perhaps more so that one particular post of life with FND has made it in the top 10 as it is a condition that is not widely known about, understood and one which has many misconception surrounding it - pleased that I could shine a spotlight on something that is a constant part of my life and raise awareness for other struggling with it."* #### **Rhiann's Goals & Hopes for Her Blog in 2021** *"I would love to share some other blogger's experiences of living with FND and I would also love to broaden my own writing to a wider audience perhaps such as the piece I wrote this year for the British Medical Journal."* #### **Follow Rhiann on Social Media** [Twitter](https://twitter.com/serenebutterfly) / [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/serenebutterfly/) / [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/serenebutterfly/) --- ## **Don't Forget to Support Your Fellow Chronic Illness Bloggers!** So there we have it – the 10 top blog posts from a variety of chronic illness bloggers! I hope that you have found something educational or interesting from this roundup. Don’t forget to support and follow these lovely chronic illness bloggers on social media, too! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [“It’s in My Blood”: Featuring People with Illnesses, Passions & Talents](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-people-illnesses-talents/) - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) - [A Quarterly Reflection: 12 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned](https://achronicvoice.com/quarterly-reflection-life-lessons-learned/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Sue Jackson ](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/) May 23, 2021 Thanks so much for including my blog in this outstanding round-up!! There is so much great information and so many resources here – thanks for all your hard work in pulling this together! Sue [Live with ME/CFS](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/) - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Feb 8, 2021 Terrific round-up of fantastic bloggers. All my favorites are here! - Pain Reaction Feb 5, 2021 Such a great list! I love many of these bloggers already but now I have a few new ones to check out and a lot of reading to do. Thanks for sharing! - Katie Clark Feb 1, 2021 I’m so honored that you’d like for me to be your grandmother, Sheryl. I’d definitely dote on you:) Maybe one day we can see each other in person. You have an open invitation to MI, if ever we can travel again:) It’s amazing to be listed among this group. I had aspired to get more blogging savvy this last year, but for the time being, I’m just going to keep doing what I do. Maybe one day I’ll learn and implement more. I just hope that what I’ve put out there in the world finds those that need to read it, warts and all. Feeling understood, heard, and cared for is the best gift we can give anyone. Thank you for doing that for me:) - Nikki Albert Jan 27, 2021 2020 was a bad year for me. 2021 not really aiming to be much better. I really want to do some structural work on blog posts and some maintenance on my blog but, man, I just have so little actual functional time in the day. I like the idea of revamping some of them though. Some need some work. Headlines, SEO, some editing of content… sigh. Thank you for sharing such an awesome list of blogger posts to check out. I was going to contribute to this list but like I said I had issues so never got around to it. But this is a fine list of people and posts to dig into! 🙂 Some of my fav peeps on here. 😀 - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Jan 27, 2021 The post on chronic pain was so interesting! I’ve read it a few times now 🙂 And thank you for including my posts! They are very low histamine orientated but I hope people find them helpful. I look forward to reading some of those from my fellow chronic illness bloggers too. - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Jan 27, 2021 This is absolutely fantastic, Sheryl, what an amazing collation of posts! You said “When I first started blogging, I wrote a lot more introspective posts” and that’s something I’ve realised recently, too. I’ve been going through old, very old, posts nearer to when I first started blogging. Cringe-worthy doesn’t cut it. They’re awful, no SEO awareness, and typically more personal and introspective, as you found when you started blogging. Now it is more about serving a purpose and writing for an audience. Could I just ask — when you revive old posts, do you ever worry about losing the old link? Ie. you might update a post from 2017, update the URL to today’s date and something more SEO-friendly, and republish. Any links to that particular post will then be lost. I suppose that’s less of an issue compared to a post that wouldn’t rank well or be read much though, so maybe I’ve answered my own question. I know and follow most of these bloggers, all but one actually, and it’s incredible to see them all here together. So much brilliant content, so many fantastic bloggers & kind, passionate people helping to make the chronic illness community the kick-ass place it is. Thank you also for including me in the post, Sheryl. You rock! ♥ xx - [ Anne Sweet ](https://www.raisiebay.com) Jan 26, 2021 I love this list, so much information. I see a lot of reading ahead, I’m looking forward to gleaming some advice. - [ Despite Pain ](https://www.despitepain.com) Jan 26, 2021 Sheryl, thank you so much for listing my blog. You have shared some amazing chronic illness bloggers. You are such an amazing health advocate but the support and encouragement you give to other bloggers is outstanding. Thank you for that. ### Timeless Duties Toward Life Every New Year URL: https://achronicvoice.com/new-year-duties-life/ Last updated: 2026-01-08T14:09:37.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I’ve archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I’ve kept most of the posts written as I realise it’s much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## New Year, New Beginnings New Year, new Beginnings. New Year, new year resolutions. New Year, new me, new you. To be honest, I’ve always viewed it as just another day, with different numbers flipped on the calendar. I spent New Year’s and New Year’s Eve working, doing ‘normal’ stuff, but indulging in some fancy meals as an excuse 😛 Food is one of life's greatest pleasures, especially when memories are formed with good friends and family. I recognise that this is a privilege, and I am grateful to have it. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your New Year and Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![Timeless Duties Toward Life Every New Year](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/timeless-duties-life-every-new-year.jpg) ### A Fairly Major Life Change with a Part-Time Job That being said, there are indeed new beginnings for the new year for me, and a pretty major one at that! I’ll be starting a part time role at my friend’s company, about 20 hours a week. Though being chronically ill, I view that as a full time role. My maximum productivity levels per day are 4 - 6 hours, if that at all. I've known this friend for 20 years now (geez!), and he got me on board his team *because* I have chronic illnesses, and he just became a father. Yet, I am still feeling pressure, mainly from myself. I don't want to disappoint anyone, which is a feeling I'm sure weighs many of us down all the time, tied to chronic fatigue as the anchor. But I need to remind myself to take it one step at at a time, and to not stress over the small stuff, which I'm obviously not great at! In any case, a more stable source of income is a relief, and I'll see where this goes for us all, for now. Who knows what the future holds, right? And who knows what's around the corner, we just need to keep walking and turning at those corners. There is no dead end in life per sé. Only endless mysterious corridors to walk through, sometimes difficult choices to make at forks, and doors to open using curiosity as the master key. Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [Chronic Stress, the Silent Assassin](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) ## Endurance & Grace - What Did My Mum Mean? My mum once said to me as a teenage girl, “I admire your strength”. I was hugging my legs in pain, with tears streaming down my face. I didn’t understand. I was a mess. Broken and defeated. She went on to explain that it had to do with endurance, the gracefulness that comes with it, all without complaint or self-pity (though there’s nothing wrong with that), and how that encapsulated what being a woman was about. To be human, really. To survive through hell and high water. 2020 has been a year that tested the endurance of humanity, with the ongoing pandemic and mutated strains. Yet I have hope that things will get better. Maybe not immediately, or even for the foreseeable future. But having lived through decades of chronic illness, I have confidence. With chronic illness there are only impermanent highs, and extreme [**rock bottoms**](https://achronicvoice.com/rock-bottom/) that you come hurtling back down into. We survive, each and every time. **We heal when we start to believe that it is a possibility, and with the help of others.** There is no doing this alone. So I know deep down inside me that we will survive the pandemic collectively. I only hope that the virus doesn't destroy too many lives, before we surrender our egos for the betterment of society and humanity. Read Related Posts: - [You Don’t Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [I May be Chronically Ill, but I’m Also Chronically Resilient](https://achronicvoice.com/chronically-ill-resilient/) - [What’s it Like to be the Mother of a Sick Child? (Precious Insights from My Own Mum)](https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/) - [Asking for Help (and Why Everyone Needs to Learn this Important Life Skill)](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) ## The Pandemic has Revealed the Best & Worst of Humanity I think that this pandemic has also revealed the best and worst in us as human beings. How selfish we are, yet how generous. How helpless, yet how strong. How easily we can be broken mentally, yet also how we’re creative and learn to adapt. How we’re all so different, yet the same. How we’re all so human. These are all, unsurprisingly, life lessons that we’ve learned as people who live with chronic illnesses and disabilities. Yet this pandemic has highlighted them in bright yellow. Read Related Posts: - [COVID-19 Vaccine Experiences from People with Chronic Conditions](https://achronicvoice.com/covid-19-vaccine-experiences/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [What Neverending Pain Reveals to You](https://achronicvoice.com/what-neverending-pain-reveals/) - [Keeping Up with the World: Why it’s Important Despite Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) ## What Could the New Year Possibly Symbolise for Me? I’m not really an affirmation or symbol type of person, so I’m thinking hard about what this new year could represent for me. I think I tend to have certain people - fiction or otherwise - whom I look up to, rather than a symbol. And I do love a good quote. So I’ll sum it up with my ‘life quote’: > *“*It did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us. We needed to stop asking about the meaning of life, and instead to think of ourselves as those who were being questioned by life—daily and hourly.** > > *Our answer must consist, not in talk and meditation, but in right action and in right conduct. Life ultimately means taking the responsibility to find the right answer to its problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly sets for each individual.” - Viktor Frankl* This truly is my life motto. To keep asking life, "what is it you demand from me?" Because it always demands the very best. And I want to be life’s empty vessel; that emptiness is where one’s usefulness lies within. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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Read Related Posts: - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [Every Next Level of Your Life Will Demand a Different You](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![Timeless Duties Toward Life Every New Year](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_life-demand-new-year-beyond.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Anne ](https://www.raisiebay.com) Jan 20, 2021 As usual, I found myself nodding along with all that you said, you truly are a wise person Sheryl and I enjoy reading your posts. Good luck with your new job, I know you can do this! Happy New Year and I look forward to linking up with your future link ups. - [ Rhiann ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com) Jan 19, 2021 Happy New Year, Sheryl. Big congratulations on your new job, I am so happy for you, and I am sure you will do great! I just loved your quote “we survive, each and every time” — it’s one which is so true but one that we constantly forget especially in the midst of such severe and relentless symptoms. I’d just like to thank you for providing such thought-provoking and revealing prompts every month and your continued support and friendship toward myself and so many others! You are such a brilliant advocate! x - Carolina Jan 19, 2021 Happy New Year! Such a great post, and great prompts. I love the line “we survive, each and every time.” Yes! We can survive and endure and have hope as we go forward. - Kathy Jan 18, 2021 Wishing you good health and productive days in the new year. - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Jan 11, 2021 I can see why you feel a little apprehension about a new job. It’s definitely challenging at times to work with chronic illness, especially if there are deadlines involved and stressful projects. Wishing you all the best with it, Sheryl! - [ Catherine Green ](https://spookymrsgreen.com) Jan 11, 2021 Congratulations on the new job, I’m sure you will succeed! And wonderful guidance from your mum when you were a teenager. It reminded me of a similar scenario when I was a child recovering from yet another eye operation, and both my mum and my nan were there to support and encourage me, calling me brave yet keeping me grounded and making sure I didn’t succumb to the pain and self-pity. They made me the woman I am today, determined and resilient. - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Jan 10, 2021 Oh wow, this is a biggie for 2021 for you, Sheryl. Congratulations on the job! It’s absolutely a lot to take on, but you are more than capable; it’s just your health that has the potential to hold you back or slow you down. As your friend knows about your chronic illness it’ll hopefully mean you can listen to your body (more so than at a random firm with a manager that may have zero idea or compassion) and that you can be honest if you’re finding things too much or need to make any adjustments. Very exciting times — I really hope it goes as smoothly as possible lovely! You got this! xx - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Jan 9, 2021 Happy New Year, Sheryl. Congratulations! I’m really happy for you and I know how it feels to be starting something new and wondering if you can do it. I also know you — you are meticulous with planning and time management. I know you can do it, especially with an understanding employer. - [ Despite Pain ](https://www.despitepain.com) Jan 9, 2021 Good luck with the new job, Sheryl. Be extra extra kind to yourself. ### How to Survive the Holidays When Chronic Illness & Disability Cause Pain URL: https://achronicvoice.com/survive-the-holidays-chronic-illness-disability-pain/ Last updated: 2025-12-11T14:40:03.000Z ## When It Feels Like You Need to Survive the Holidays Many people love the holidays and Christmas season, including those with chronic illness and disability. All the warm, fuzzy feelings and gatherings with loved ones can bring real cheer. Yet many of us feel like we need to survive the holidays, too. The holidays bring along with them: increased physical activity, shopping for gifts, sparkly lights, Christmas carols on repeat, rich foods, sweet treats and more. I admit that I love all that, but it also means an increase in pain levels if left unmanaged. Many of us with chronic illness or disability would love to immerse ourselves in all the festivities, yet we often struggle to even get through a single event. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the authors' personal experiences as patients. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ## The Season of Endless Triggers Sensory overload and burning our limited energy supplies take a heavy toll on those of us with chronic illnesses. Bright, flashing lights can trigger a migraine attack or seizure. Feasting on rich foods, even a bite of it, can prove nauseating or dangerous. Are we destined to have miserable holidays forever?! Here's a compilation of what hurts and helps the most over the holiday season. They're opinions from 18 people with chronic illnesses and/or disabilities themselves. Do have a read and share your thoughts in the comments below! Read Related Posts in the Christmas & Holiday Series: - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/gifts-chronic-illness/) - [All I Want for Christmas is Some Pain Relief! (Real Wish List Ideas from 13 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/all-i-want-for-christmas-pain-relief/) - [Curated Chronic Illness Gift Ideas for Christmas, Birthdays & Other Occasions!](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-gift-ideas/) Pin to Your Christmas, Holiday Season & Chronic Illness Boards: ![How to Survive the Holidays When Chronic Illness and Disability Cause Pain](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-to-survive-holidays-chronic-illness-disability-pain.jpg) --- ## 1\. Pippa Stacey [Website](https://www.lifeofpippa.co.uk/) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/lifeofpippa/) ### How Does Chronic Illness or Disability Affect You During the Holiday Season? One of my biggest struggles during the festive season is **finding seasonal food and treats suitable for my allergies.** It takes a \*lot\* of planning and preparation to make sure I'm not left disappointed due to a lack of options during the festivities! ### What is Your Best Tip to Survive the Holidays? If you have specific dietary requirements, connect with others online and follow accounts dedicated to sharing safe foods. Save posts on Instagram or create lists of anything that catches your eye, and start as early as you can. **If you do your research you can end up with a list of safe and suitable treats** to add to your Christmas shopping! --- ## 2\. Kat [Website](https://www.lifeonaseesaw.co.uk/) ### How Does Chronic Illness or Disability Affect You During the Holiday Season? I actively manage my workload before Christmas. That includes **delegating, the to-do list AND the mental workload!** Very important to let my husband do and plan certain things. For example, we buy pressies for half the family each, and that includes coming up with what to buy. I also actively **turn down invites to certain social arrangements.** There is enough going on. And we don't need to meet up before Christmas, let's do it in January, when we're all bored anyway... ### What is Your Best Tip to Survive the Holidays? I am originally from Germany but live in the UK now. Due to flight prices and complicated travel arrangements, I have adapted over the years. And for us, **Christmas doesn't HAVE to be on a particular date.** It's when we say it is. Drop the perfect and enjoy it for what it is. If you can't see your family on 25th Dec then plan in another date when everybody is able again. --- Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Cheyanne Perry – Living a Full Life with Deadly Allergies](https://achronicvoice.com/cheyanne-perry-life-allergies/) - [An Anaphylaxis Reaction from Rituximab in Between Shady Years](https://achronicvoice.com/anaphylaxis-rituximab/) --- ## 3\. Jenny [Website](https://www.lifesapolyp.com/) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/lifesapolyp) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/lifesapolyp/) [Twitter](https://x.com/LifesaPolyp) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/lifesapolyp/) ### How Does Chronic Illness or Disability Affect You During the Holiday Season? I have **limited energy** and I **feel stressed easily.** **Food and drink also causes me to use the restroom frequently and experience bloating, pain, and nausea** so I often don’t feel well. ### What is Your Best Tip to Survive the Holidays? **Minimizing holiday plans to what’s manageable** helps me feel better emotionally and physically. I host the holiday meal but I’m only responsible for cleaning while my parents cook the meal. This way no one has to do it all. --- ## 4\. Liz [Website](https://despitepain.com/) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/despitepainpage) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/despitepain/) [Twitter](https://x.com/DespitePainBlog) [YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnD9OO%5FRc9IhUf8jaASmsVQ) ### How Does Chronic Illness or Disability Affect You During the Holiday Season? My pain doesn't look at the calendar and say, ok, you'll need to be able to go shopping and prepare for Christmas, so I'll give you a reprieve for a week or so. It won't even give me a reprieve on Christmas day. **Christmas normally means more shopping, more cooking, more socialising and more stress - all of which exacerbate my pain.** It used to bother me more than it does now. It got me down that I really had to do things differently. Now, I've learned to forget about shopping. If I buy gifts, I keep it simple and purchase online. On Christmas Day, my husband and I stay at home on our own. I'm happy with that. We chat to family on the phone or online. My husband helps with food and we plan and prepare what we can in advance, then have a lazy day. No stress, just a simple, enjoyable day. ### What is Your Best Tip to Survive the Holidays? **Keep things simple and accept help.** Also, accept that we can't change the current situation. --- ## 5\. Alexandra [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/theacceptancejourney/) [Twitter](https://x.com/TheAcceptanceJ) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/theacceptancejourney/) ### How Does Chronic Illness or Disability Affect You During the Holiday Season? **I tend to get less sleep because there are more outings or family/friends gathering at home later than usual.** During this time, I tend to **feel depletion instead of fulfillment because I’m constantly giving from an empty cup.** I tend to feel “not enough” for others because I’m not “giving” as much as I’d like to give: time and energy. But I try to practice communication skills to clarify my needs ahead as possible! **Meditation and recollection of the previous day** helps me to recalibrate and push that reset button. **Committing to a few of the several events rather than ALL** gives me peace of mind. ### What is Your Best Tip to Survive the Holidays? **Evaluating which gatherings you’re going to** is a great way to sift through which ones would be meaningful AND flexible for your own illness/disability needs. But whichever you choose to go, **you don’t have to stay for the whole time.** If the gathering is in your place, you can co-host with other family/friends. You can let your your co-host know your bedtime, so that when time approaches, they can start lowering down music, and other things to wind down the evening. You can go straight to bed, put on your earplugs and the co-host can run the rest of the gathering. **It’s so good to work as a team**, so that you can avoid unnecessary triggers to flare ups! ### Additional Tips: **Make decisions ahead of time**. Be ready with a firm and confident response when family/friends question your decline of an invitation. And just **honor your physical, emotional, mental needs** (well, ALL of your needs). Fill your cup first before expending your time and energy. You’d have a much greater time with family/friends when you focus on managing and taking care of your needs. --- Read Related Posts: - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [How Much Time Are You Wasting On Sleep?](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/) - [Chronic Stress, the Silent Assassin](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/) --- ## 6\. Carrie Kellenberger [Website](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/MySeveralWorlds) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/myseveralworlds/) [Twitter](https://x.com/globetrotteri) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/myseveralworlds/) ### How Does Chronic Illness or Disability Affect You During the Holiday Season? I typically find the last two months of every year hard to get through. It's like the marathon is almost over and the finish line is in sight, but trying to pace towards the end of it is difficult because of all the extra holiday activities that come up. Extra activity makes me worse, so we have learned to **avoid a lot of those activities by saying no to most of them and choosing one that we really want to go to.** ### What is Your Best Tip to Survive the Holidays? **We have already locked our holiday activities down for the past five years** so nothing will change for us. We'll celebrate like we usually do - in the comfort of our own home with some Skype calls with family and friends. Since Taiwan never entered lockdown, we can proceed with our annual Christmas meal at the W Hotel in Taipei. ### Additional Tips: Given my extreme health limitations, I plan ahead and pay attention to what I have to do and what I’m doing while I’m at it. I’m almost done with my Christmas shopping. I’ve done everything online for years now since I’m too sick to go to a mall or do shopping on my own. **Planning things out is key.** Also, **don’t feel guilty about saying no. Real friends understand why you can’t come** to their own holiday events. I’ve found that a great many of my friends start visiting me now to spread some holiday cheer. --- ## 7\. seekingserenity and harmony [Website](https://seekingserenityandharmony.com/blogger-award/) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/seekingserenityandharmony/) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/seekingserenity2001/) [Twitter](https://x.com/harmony2001/) ### How Does Chronic Illness or Disability Affect You During the Holiday Season? Holidays usually make it **harder for me to emotionally regulate while dealing with Anxiety/Depression and S.A.D..** The **cold air of winter also contributes by making my pain** worse than in warmer months. I definitely need to make sure I am getting enough sleep and limiting my sugar and sweet holiday food intake. ### What is Your Best Tip to Survive the Holidays? Yes winter/holiday time limits my activities. That is often the time of year that my mental health is a bigger struggle and with the added stresses and business my inflammation and pain levels soar as well. My tip is to **listen to your body, be very aware of what it needs to keep things as balanced as possible.** Try to be sure to take time for a nap or a good book. Whatever it is your mental and physical health needs to be a priority over all of the holiday chaos. --- ## 8\. Jen Johansson ### How Does Chronic Illness or Disability Affect You During the Holiday Season? Because **stress makes all my symptoms from Transverse Myelitis worse**, I’ve had to let go of most of what I used to do during the Holiday Season. But I’m a classically-trained singer who rarely gets to use her talents and my husband is the Director of Music at our church. And when he asks me to sing, I just can’t refuse him! I pay for it dearly in pain, numbness, tingling, fatigue, and frustration, but being able to share my voice and serve my church is well worth the sacrifice! ### What is Your Best Tip to Survive the Holidays? **Prioritize and simplify!** Will this year be like it was pre-lockdown or would be without our illness or disabilities? No. But can it still be meaningful and memorable? Yes! **Let go of having to have magical or perfect holidays and focus on the things that really matter**, whatever that may be to you and yours. It might not be easy and will probably be different but it can be good, even great, and you might even find a new tradition you wouldn’t have otherwise. --- ## 9\. Christy [Website](https://icecreamnstickyfingers.com/) ### How Does Chronic Illness or Disability Affect You During the Holiday Season? I have to remember not to overdo it. Christmas is my favorite holiday and I love spending extra time with the family. But **overdoing it and not pacing myself will leave me hurting more.** ### What is Your Best Tip to Survive the Holidays? This year isn’t any different from the rest since I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis in 2016\. **I get my flu shot and had a mask to wear if I knew I was going to be around someone who could possibly be sick.** I’ll even skip an event if needed. I had to skip Christmas with my extended family a few years ago because a family member had the flu the previous week. I didn’t have a mask and **I wasn’t going to risk my health for festivities.** If I was in control, I would have rescheduled when everyone was well. --- ## 10\. Katie Clark [Twitter](https://x.com/klclark525) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/painfullyliving/) [LinkedIn](https://www.linkedin.com/in/katieclark525/) ### How Does Chronic Illness or Disability Affect You During the Holiday Season? The fatigue hits after just getting into things. One of the traditions we have is baking my grandmother's Christmas cookies. She did about 20 different ones. While I never did that many, I tried to do 5-6 each season. I just can't stand all that time anymore. So, I've given more and more of the baking to my daughter. When I do bake, **I've found getting the ingredients prepared one day and making it the next**, sometimes even baking the 3rd day, allows me not to over do. Oh, **and my husband cleans up** 😉 ### What is Your Best Tip to Survive the Holidays? This will be an unusual season. But **I'm so fortunate to have my daughter, son and daughter-in-law and my granddaughter in our bubble**, so we'll mostly have a “normal” celebration. We'll miss out on having a get-together with my sister’s family (which we've done for 30 years) and our larger family party with my cousins and Aunt (who lost her husband this past August). I don't know if we’ll try something virtual, but we will send out our Christmas letter. ### Additional Tips: I think it’s going to be tempting to let go of traditions and celebrations due to COVID-19 this year. But, **I feel that it’s more important than ever to follow through, grounding us in something from “reality”.** --- Read Related Posts: - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do) ](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [COVID-19 Vaccine Experiences from People with Chronic Conditions](https://achronicvoice.com/covid-19-vaccine-experiences/) - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) - [4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/) --- ## 11\. Patti ### How Does Chronic Illness or Disability Affect You During the Holiday Season? Usually the stress of the season (not just the holidays but also my photography biz as it’s the busiest time then, too). It gets to the point where **I’m constantly exhausted and will fall asleep anywhere**, especially on Thanksgiving or Christmas day. ### What is Your Best Tip to Survive the Holidays? **I do all my shopping online and get them wrapped** by wherever I bought it (usually Amazon). **My family is usually very good about having me bring easy things** (like chips or sodas/drinks) for part of the meal, instead of cooking something, which is pretty hard for me to do. --- ## 12\. Julie Holliday [Website](https://www.mecfsselfhelpguru.com/) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/TheMecfsHolisticCoach) [Pinterest](https://uk.pinterest.com/mecfsholisticcoach/%5Fcreated/) ### How Does Chronic Illness or Disability Affect You During the Holiday Season? I have to have a really strict diet because of gut issues related to chronic illness, but **over the holidays I find it really difficult to not indulge, so I usually end up with worsening gut issues**, and then a general worsening in my condition. I also have to be really careful about the social events I get involved with, making sure they don't use too much energy. **I can't party like I used to, but I've got used to that in general life**, so it's not too much of a big deal at the holidays. **I always used to like to be the 'hostess with the mostest' though, and I still struggle a little to step back from that.** The consequences of doing too much over the holidays though are pretty severe so I've learned to accept the way things have to be, by focusing on how I can realistically have the best time without putting my health at risk. ### What is Your Best Tip to Survive the Holidays? I think my biggest tip for the holidays is to **focus on the joy that is available to you in any given moment, instead of what you might be missing out on.** **Don't take any connection for granted**, be present with loving moments. Be as grateful as possible with what is. When I can't be present with the people I want to spend time with **I hold them in mind while practising a loving kindness meditation.** That way I feel like I can be involved with the spirit of the season. --- ## 13\. Gabriela ### How Does Chronic Illness or Disability Affect You During the Holiday Season? I feel moderate **headaches, lethargy, and off and on seizures.** ### What is Your Best Tip to Survive the Holidays? **I try to distract myself as much as possible.** Reading, writing, singing, asking God for help, anything to take my mind off of what is consuming my thoughts. --- ## 14\. Sam Moss [Website](https://mymedmusings.com/) [Spotify](https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/my-medical-musings/) ### How Does Chronic Illness or Disability Affect You During the Holiday Season? For those of us who love Christmas but live with chronic illness, we tend to approach the season with a little dread, mixed with joyful anticipation. We simply **can’t keep up with the expectations of others, or the expectations we used to put on ourselves in our healthier days.** Christmas with Chronic Illness and COVID, is a Christmas for two with my husband...simple, easy and no pressure. Our pre lit tree will be the focus for Christmas and is much easier to enjoy decorating. I’ll be able to help adorn it with special ornaments we’ve purchased over the years. Our nativity scene will also be centre stage. We are going to listen to carols and watch as many Christmas movies as we like. We will have a Christmas dinner but will eat it in the lounge room in comfort. **We’ll keep it all very simple with easy to prepare festive food.** ### What is Your Best Tip to Survive the Holidays? This year, when we celebrate Christmas chronic illness style, we are not alone. Times have changed for everyone. The restrictions chronic illness sufferers have learned to embrace for years, due to their disabilities, are being forced on the healthy community, due to the impact COVID will have on Christmas. Our family all live interstate, so even if they wanted to visit for Christmas, as they do every two years, it's impossible with border closures across our country. Perhaps COVID is giving the world a Christmas gift. The gift of time. Time to stop. Time to get out of the rat race for a season. **Time to reconnect with what really matters in life.** --- ## 15\. Jay ### How Does Chronic Illness or Disability Affect You During the Holiday Season? Flaring is more common between the **extra activities and cold weather.** ### What is Your Best Tip to Survive the Holidays? It's difficult to share the holiday tasks when you're limited to only your household, rather than having the help of your extended family. **Pacing is key and be kind to yourself everything doesn't have to be perfect.** --- ## 16\. Alison Hayes [Website](https://thrivingwhiledisabled.com/) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/thrivingwhiledisabled) [Twitter](https://x.com/Thrivingwdisabl) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/thrivingwhiledisabled/) ### How Does Chronic Illness or Disability Affect You During the Holiday Season? Late November is the anniversary of my father's death from a TBI, so I often struggle with depressive tendencies. **Any form of emotional stress will trigger an increase in my FND symptoms.** So I need to be extra focused on striking a balance between having too much free time (and increasing my risk of depression), and overwhelming myself with the energy that comes with people celebrating the holidays. ### What is Your Best Tip to Survive the Holidays? Make sure to **schedule 'recovery' time between events and to know what your next desired event is**, so that you can focus on looking forward to that. It's a delicate balance, but that anticipation aspect is extremely helpful for me in managing my mental health, even as I limit my activities to help with symptom management. --- Read Related Posts: - [Tell Me You're Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You're Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationships with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) --- ## Conclusion: What Do You Do to Survive the Holidays Yourself? Do any of these holiday downers and tips resound with you as a person with chronic illness or a disability, too? Do you have any other insights to share on how you survive the holidays yourself? Share your thoughts in the comments below! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts in the Christmas & Holiday Series: - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/gifts-chronic-illness/) - [All I Want for Christmas is Some Pain Relief! (Real Wish List Ideas from 13 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/all-i-want-for-christmas-pain-relief/) - [Curated Chronic Illness Gift Ideas for Christmas, Birthdays & Other Occasions!](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-gift-ideas/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness, Holiday & Self-Care Boards: ![Holiday Survival Tips From the Chronic Illness and Disability Community](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/holiday-survival-tips-chronic-illness-disability-community.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Dec 15, 2020 So agree with so many of these suggestions, particularly about having smaller celebrations if that’s what feels better for you. And screenshotting recipes for food intolerances — I do that so often! ### Chronic Illness Christmas Giveaway: Gifts for Every Body in Pain This Lonely Pandemic Season! URL: https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-christmas-giveaway-gifts-pain/ Last updated: 2025-10-25T14:54:51.000Z ## It's Time for the 2020 Chronic Illness Christmas Giveaway! It’s time for the 2020 Chronic Illness Christmas Giveaway on A Chronic Voice! I held one last year too, and found it to be such an enjoyable experience for all parties involved. Who doesn’t love a good (pain relieving or comforting) gift? With the pandemic going on all year and beyond as well, I wanted to make this year’s Chronic Illness Christmas Giveaway even grander and more exciting to lift all our spirits. It’s with **huge thanks to these 34 sponsors** that this goal has been accomplished. I couldn’t be more grateful for their generosity and kindness, during this season of giving and receiving. They are a mix of professional brands and companies, and also individuals living with chronic illness or disability themselves. They all want to give a little something back to the community, and to spread some kindness around. So here’s another a big thank you to each and every one of them for making this giveaway possible! ~~**End Date for All Giveaways: 20 December 2020, 23:59 (Singapore Time)**~~ *\*Disclaimer: This giveaway is meant for community and educational purposes. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this post should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ## Who This Christmas Giveaway is For This giveaway is meant for people with chronic illnesses, mental disorders and/or disabilities. It will be based on trust, as I can't verify each person's state of being. That's always subjective. My biggest hope for this giveaway is that those who live with chronic pain will receive something to help them manage it a little better. And also to bring a smile to their faces! **You may join as many giveaways as you like, but can only win one prize so that everyone gets a bit of joy.** Wishing all participants good luck, and a merry season! ## Important Notes About the Giveaway Prizes 1. **Giveaway Items Are Not Intended to Treat, Cure, or Replace Your Doctors’ Advice and Ongoing Treatments.** Please note that all giveaway items are for the users’ enjoyment only. They are not intended to treat, cure or in any way replace your doctor’s medical advice or ongoing treatment plan. Always be sure to check with your doctor before you start on any new treatment or protocol. 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[Melissa vs Fibromyalgia](#melissavsfibromyalgia) 1. [ME/CFS Self Help Guru](#mecfsselfhelpguru) 2. [Miga Swimwear](#miga) 3. [Modibodi](#modibodi) 4. [NuLeaf Naturals](#nuleafnaturals) 5. [Plant Therapy](#planttherapy) 6. [Reakiro](#reakiro) 7. [Spectra Spray](#spectraspray) 8. [Symjo](#symjo) 9. [TCK Publishing / Everyday Mindfulness](#tckpublishing) 10. [That's Handi](#thatshandi) 11. [The Seated View / Lene Andersen](#theseatedview) 12. [Thriving While Disabled / Alison Hayes](#thrivingwhiledisabled) 13. [Through the Fibro Fog](#throughthefibrofog) 14. [Thryve Inside](#thryve) 15. [To Better Days](#tobetterdays) 16. [Winnie's Picks](#winniespicks) 17. [ Bexi's PhD](#bexisphd) 18. ([Bonus Points](#bonuspoints)!) --- ![BetterYou: Pure Magnesium Bath Flakes](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/better-you-magnesium-bath-flakes-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### BetterYou: Pure Magnesium Bath Flakes *Sponsored By: [betteryou.com](https://betteryou.com/)* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/betteryou) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/betteryou%5Fltd/) [ ](https://x.com/BetterYou%5FLtd) [ ](https://www.youtube.com/user/BetterYouLtd) **Christmas Giveaway:** BetterYou Pure Magnesium Bath Flakes 1kg (RRP £9.95 / $15). **Number of Winners:** 5 **Location:** U.K. Only. [BetterYou sells a range of supplementary products](https://betteryou.com/collections/all) such as vitamins, iron, folic acid and more. They go about this in an innovative way to ensure maximum absorption. This is especially helpful for people who suffer from conditions such as IBD, Crohn’s Disease or Coeliac Disease. Sometimes pills are just not the best way to absorb nutrients or supplements. (I would know, as a patient who’s been on various forms of iron and calcium!) They specialise in intra-oral sprays and transdermal magnesium. Many people with chronic pain have raved about how hot magnesium salt baths help to soothe those aches. Soak up and relax this winter season and beyond. BetterYou is giving away not just one, but [five packs of their pure magnesium bath flakes this Christmas](https://betteryou.com/products/magnesium-flakes)! [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd12/) --- ![Blisslets Nausea Remedy Wrist Bands - Zita and Lucy](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/blisslets-zita-lucy-nausea-relief-bracelets-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Blisslets: Zita + Lucy Nausea Relief Bracelets (1 pair) *Sponsored By: [blisslets.com](https://blisslets.com/)* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/myblisslets) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/blisslets/) [ ](https://x.com/blisslets) **Christmas Giveaway:** Zita + Lucy Nausea Relief Bracelets (1 pair) (RRP $48.99). **Number of Winners:** 1. **Location:** U.S. Only. I stumbled across these beautiful nausea relief bracelets on one of my favourite blogs, ‘Through the Fibro Fog’ (also a sponsor in this post with [her recipe book here](#throughthefibrofog)!). I’ve had pregnant friends who wear motion sickness bands to help curb the nausea. But Blisslets actually made me want to wear one as an accessory in itself as well! [Blisslets was founded by Katie Aparicio](https://blisslets.com/pages/about-us). She was both frustrated with morning sickness, and the lack of beautiful nausea relief bands out there. They all stuck out like an ‘I’m pregnant’ siren. Blisslets is offering one pair of their ‘Zita + Lucy Nausea Relief Bracelets’ in this giveaway. You need to wear one on each wrist for maximum effectiveness. The bracelets activate the [P6 nei guan accupressure point](https://blisslets.com/pages/how-they-work) on each wrist. Whatever the cause of your nauseous suffering: morning sickness, migraine-induced, motion sickness… I’d enter this giveaway right away! And if you’d like to purchase a pair of their pretty bracelets regardless, drop by their [online shop here](https://blisslets.com/collections/all)! They also have a [men’s collection](https://blisslets.com/pages/mens-collections) that is inspired by the classic sailor’s life. [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd13/) --- ![dSavannah Rambles: Hand Crocheted Grey Scarf with Beads. 2020 Chronic Illness Christmas Giveaway.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/hand-crocheted-grey-scarf-beads-dsavannah-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### dSavannah Rambles: Hand Crocheted Grey Scarf with Beads *Sponsored By: [dsavannah.com](https://dsavannah.com/blog/)* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/dsavannahcreative) [ ](https://x.com/dsavannahcreate) **Christmas Giveaway:** Hand Crocheted Grey Scarf with Beads (RRP $19.95). **Number of Winners:** 1. **Location:** U.S. Only. [dSavannah is an active member in the chronic illness community](https://dsavannah.com/blog/index.php/about-the-rambler-2/). She is also ‘a wife, a friend, and a servant to her pet overlords’. She makes pretty things too! Unfortunately, she’s had to close down her Etsy Shop. But she's sponsoring one hand-crocheted grey scarf in this giveaway. It comes in an intricate pattern, and features glass beads on the end to add a little sparkle :) We think it looks so well-made and cosy, too! Here is more information about her lovely gift: Size: 53” long (including fringe); 5.75” wide Medium: Yarn (100% acrylic), glass beads Care Instructions: Machine wash cold, gentle cycle. Tumble dry low. For best results, hand wash and lay flat to dry. [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd15/) --- ![$120 and $80 Eden + Elie Gift Cards. Illness Christmas Giveaway.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/eden-elie-gift-cards-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Eden + Elie Gift Cards *Sponsored By: Anonymous* **Christmas Giveaway:** - 1x $120 Eden + Elie E-Gift Card. - 2x $80 Eden + Elie E-Gift Card. **Number of Winners:** 3. **Location:** Singapore & Malaysia Only. (Free shipping within Singapore. $10 shipping overseas.) Thank you to this lovely anonymous sponsor. People like you make the world a better place with your kindness. And speaking from my own experiences with ‘anon’, they truly are one of the most supportive and caring people around! These handcrafted, artisanal and ethically sourced jewellery are stunning, to say the least. The designs are intricate, elegant, and suitable for everyday wear. Some of these pieces are also inspired by our local [Singaporean Peranakan culture](https://www.nlb.gov.sg/main/article-detail?cmsuuid=1138ea9d-9dbe-4f09-9fef-ba2c7105eb91). From earrings, to necklaces, to bangles and more, I’d encourage you to visit their website. (And maybe browse for hours 😉 ) [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd49/) --- ![“How Not To Be Good, the A to Z of Anxiety” by Elli Johnson](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/how-not-be-good-a-z-anxiety-elli-johnson-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### “How Not To Be Good, the A to Z of Anxiety” by Elli Johnson *Sponsored By: [ellijohnson.com](https://ellijohnson.com/)* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/ellijohnsonuk) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/ellijohnsonuk/) [ ](https://x.com/ElliJohnson1979) **Christmas Giveaway:** Paperback copy (£10 / $15). **Number of Winners:** 5. **Location:** U.K. Only. I got lucky and happened upon Elli’s Instagram account, which led me to her book. It is a memoir that reveals her raw struggles with anxiety, and challenges the myths of ‘having it all’. It piqued my curiosity, because [**I find anxiety and panic attacks**](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) to be one of the the hardest symptoms to cope with, living with chronic pain. Often **[more than physical pain itself](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/)**, even. Here’s a review from her website: > *“This book is for anyone who wants to grow and find solace from mental fight. How Not To Be Good is absorbing, fearless, personal and packed with insight. It has been forged in the fire of a daily struggle that will echo in the hearts of all who read it. So read this book and then give it your friends so they too can find that relief is possible.” – Mark Rowland (CEO Mental Health Foundation)* Elli is giving away five copies of [her memoir, ‘How Not To Be Good The A-Z of Anxiety’](https://ellijohnson.com/how-not-to-be-good-by-elli-johnson/) this Christmas. Enter to win a copy of this raw book on our humanity. [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd16/) --- ![Esme Salon’s Work At Home Binder - 2020 Chronic Illness Christmas Giveaway.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/esme-salon-work-at-home-binder-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Esme Salon: Work at Home Binder *Sponsored By: [esmesalon.com](https://esmesalon.com/)* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/groups/SharingInspiringBloggers) **Christmas Giveaway:** Work At Home Binder (RRP $77). **Number of Winners:** 1. **Location:** Worldwide. I've been in one of Esme's Facebook groups, Share Care & Inspire, for a few years now. She's always been such a supportive and caring person. She is also opening up a shop on her website, with many gorgeous products, resources and books. (You can tell she's a passionate cook!) Esme is offering one copy of her new ‘Work at Home Binder’ to help keep your life and business organised. Here’s what’s in it, and the many things you can do with it: - Over 300+ pages of business and home life solutions. - Organize your business with easy lists. - Keep track of business growth. - Set up your business brand. - Log all your blogging tasks. - Help manage your home and family. - Beautiful wall art and adult coloring pages. [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd18/) --- ![FKC You! Art Giveaway](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/fkc-you-art-paintings-giveaway-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### FKC You! Art *Sponsored By: fkcyou.com* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/fkcohen) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/fkcyouart/) **Christmas Giveaway:** Painting of choice in the gallery in this section (RRP $250 - $300). **Number of Winners:** 2. **Location:** U.S. & Canada Only. Faith Kaminsky Cohen is an acrylic and plastic artist whose work can be found around the globe. She is also a certified [Zentangle](https://zentangle.com/pages/what-is-the-zentangle-method) teacher. She began her career as an attorney in New York City, fighting for the rights of teachers and students for 17 years. Whilst she is now mobility impaired and her legs are lopsided, she wanted to lend her hands this season. She is giving away two paintings that she has created, each costing up to $300\. The colours of her paintings are bright and lively. I think that they’d look perfect displayed in your home, office or workspace! [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd21/) --- ![FootKaki, Singapore vouchers and discounts for readers of A Chronic Voice in the 2020 Christmas Giveaway.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/footkaki-gift-vouchers-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### FootKaki *Sponsored By: [footkaki.com](https://footkaki.com/)* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/footkaki) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/footkaki.sg/) **Christmas Giveaway:** - SGD100 Vouchers. - Unlimited 10% off for readers of A Chronic Voice. **Number of Winners:** 5. **Location:** Singapore Only. Owen of FootKaki is the only practicing pedorthist in Singapore. Clarence is his son, and is a shoe fitter. Don’t underestimate their abilities. This family-owned business has helped hundreds of people with chronic feet pain and problems! For general knowledge, here are the [differences between a podiatrist and pedorthist](https://pedorthicworks.com/podiatrist-vs-pedorthist/). It surprised me how much they could tell about my body, from the free foot assessment I did at their shop! I was even surprised that my actual shoe size wasn’t what I thought it was all along! A foot assessment consists of: foot arch types, gait analysis, foot conditions, advice and more. [Get your feet analysed for free at FootKaki](https://footkaki.com/book-a-free-foot-assessment-shoe-fitting-session/) 🙂 Their shoes, sneakers, sandals and heels are beautiful to boot (pun unintended). Not your typical association with clunky, ugly orthotic footwear. FootKaki is offering five SGD100 vouchers in this giveaway. On top of that, they are also offering all readers of A Chronic Voice 10% off. Vouchers and discounts must be used by 31 May 2021 and are not exchangeable for cash, so I’d check them out asap! [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd23/) --- ![LoveHandle phone grips Christmas Giveaway](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/love-handle-phone-grips-christmas-giveaway-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Love Handle Phone Grips *Sponsored By: fullofgritandgrace.com* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/lovehandletv/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/thejennagreen/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/lovehandle/) [ ](https://x.com/lovehandletv) [ ](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9s4xgYc28GOL-MTI7yjZXA) **Christmas Giveaway:** LoveHandle phone grip for The Multiple Sclerosis Society (RRP $10). **Number of Winners:** 3. **Location:** U.S. Only. Jenna of ‘Full of Grit and Grace’ is an active advocate within the chronic illness community. She is also a business coach, and an ambassador for LoveHandle. [Phone grips](https://www.businessinsider.com/guides/tech/phone-grips-on-amazon) help make life a little more accessible for people who suffer from chronic pain. This range by LoveHandles was designed to raise funds for the [National Multiple Sclerosis Society](https://www.nationalmssociety.org/). Each comes with cute letterings such as ‘spoonie strong’, ‘advocate’ and ‘warrior’. Which is great for raising a little bit of awareness. Or even as a gentle reminder to yourself! Jenna is sponsoring three LoveHandle phone grips this Christmas, with three designs to choose from! [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd48/) --- ![Goldstone Reiki: Distance Healing Reiki Session - 2020 Christmas Giveaway](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/goldstone-reiki-distance-healing-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Goldstone Reiki: Distance Healing Reiki Session *Sponsored By: goldstonereiki.co.uk* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/GoldstoneReiki) **Christmas Giveaway:** Distance healing Reiki session (RRP £25 / USD35). **Number of Winners:** 2. **Location:** Worldwide. I’m going to start out by saying that I know zilch about Reiki, and am dubious about distance healing. Then I’m going to admit that I know very little about the universe, and might just be the foolish one 🙂 And I also accept that there are many modes of healing (that’s what this blog is about after all – articulation through various perspectives!). And yes, Catherine is okay with me saying the above statements. [Research studies have also proven promising on the healing benefits of Reiki](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/2156587217728644) (McManus, 2017). In any case, Reiki has been instrumental in Catherine’s own healing journey. So I do believe that this package would be great for some of you out there! She is offering two distance healing Reiki sessions that can be conducted over Zoom. The package will consist of three short healing sessions of about 20 minutes each. It is similar to meditation, and you can read more about it in this article, “[Energy Healing with Reiki](https://spookymrsgreen.com/2019/03/13/energy-healing-with-reiki/)”. Catherine has been studying the practice and history of Japanese Reiki therapy since 2016\. She holds the following qualifications: - Shinpiden (Reiki Master 3rd Degree) - Okuden (Reiki 2nd Degree) - Shoden (Reiki 1st Degree) [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd24/) --- ![Huggaroo: Weighted Blanket/Throw, Neck and Shoulder Wrap & Hot/Cold Headache Wrap - Christmas Giveaway](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/huggaroo-weighted-blanket-shoulder-neck-headache-wrap-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Huggaroo: Weighted Blanket/Throw, Neck and Shoulder Wrap & Hot/Cold Headache Wrap *Sponsored By: [Huggaroo](https://amzn.to/46OucHA)* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/huggaroo/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/huggaroo%5Fcomfort/) [ ](https://x.com/huggaroo%5F) [ ](https://www.youtube.com/c/huggaroo) **Christmas Giveaway:** - 1x Huggaroo 7lb Weighted Blanket/Throw (RRP $59.99). - 1x Huggaroo Microwavable Neck and Shoulder Wrap (RRP $35.99). - 1x Huggaroo Hot/Cold Headache Wrap (RRP $29.99). **Number of Winners:** 3. **Location:** U.S. Only. Huggaroo is popular within the chronic illness community. I’ve read many great reviews about their products for migraines and pain management. They are offering three of their awesome products in this Chronic Illness Christmas Giveaway: - **[Huggaroo Weighted Blanket/Throw (7lb)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06XD4728N?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e3e271908e94fd3a180eea482ec99ec9&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl)** – suitable for kids, or adults who need a portable weighted throw blanket. Made of ultra plush chenille fabric, it sounds like a dream for sleeping with. It’s entirely machine-washable, too! - **[Huggaroo Microwavable Neck & Shoulder Wrap](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09H69LNGL?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=41ddf491a2aad89986deb0326e935db3&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl)** \- Not your regular heating pads, they deliver moist, comforting heat to your tired neck and shoulders for up to 15 minutes, and stay warm for another 15\. Made of ultra plush 100% polyester Minky fabric, it feels luxurious against your skin. It can also act as cold relief; just pop the wrap in the freezer! - **[Huggaroo Hot/Cold Headache Wrap](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08HY6VP6B?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=a22d4d5dcc00c18dfda72572e2848efd&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl)** \- I’ve heard many great reviews from people with migraine about this product. It delivers warm, moist heat to the facial sinuses, eyelids, scalp and wherever else you apply it for up to 15 minutes, and remains warm for another 15\. It is easy to secure around your head with velcro, and feels soft with its Ultra plush, 100% polyester Minky fabric material. Oh, and all you have to do is pop it in the microwave to reheat! [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd19/) --- !['Sunshine & Shadow' & 'Yarn' - Poetry Books by Hughie Carroll - Christmas Giveaway](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/sunshine-shadow-yarn-poetry-books-hughie-carroll-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### 'Sunshine & Shadow' & 'Yarn' - Poetry Books by Hughie Carroll *Sponsored By: [carrollonline.uk](https://carrollonline.uk/)* [ ](https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/20671806.Hughie%5FCarroll) **Christmas Giveaway:** 'Sunshine & Shadow' / 'Yarn' (RRP £8 / $11). **Number of Winners:** 2 / 2. **Location:** Worldwide. I quote from Hugh Caroll’s preface of his poetry book, ‘Yarn‘: > “Taking the ‘backward step’ in zazen I often find that the unconscious gets to work. Moments significant to me arrange themselves into a haiku/haibun/senryu sort of form, dubbed ‘hughku’ (thanks Brendan!). Making them public is taking the ‘forward step’ of full self-expression.” And from his other poetry book, ‘Sunshine & Shadow’: > “Poems on circus, zen, love, longing, loss and darkness. Most have sprung from the silence of meditation. I rarely write in a deliberate way but instead wait until something comes up demanding to be written.” Sounds like dreamy, reflective, relaxing reads for those introspective days to me. And he’s giving away two copies of each book this Christmas! [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd14/) --- ![I Love Natural is giving away 3 bottles in the 2020 Chronic Illness Christmas Giveaway!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/i-love-natural-emu-tracks-pure-emu-oil-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Emu Tracks / I Love Natural: Pure Emu Oil *Sponsored By: [www.ilovenatural.store](https://www.ilovenatural.store/)* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/ilovenatural.store) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/ilovenatural.store/) **Christmas Giveaway:** Emu Tracks Pure Emu Oil 50ml (RRP SGD32). **Number of Winners:** 3. **Location:** Singapore & Malaysia Only. From the [Emu Tracks Science & Research page](https://emutracks.com.au/discover-et/science-research/): > “Emu Tracks initiated research exploring the benefits of emu oil for gastro-intestinal health and treating bowel diseases 10 years ago. We have been working with a leading South Australian University to further the research…Ongoing research has shown Emu Oil has considerable effect in the relief and reduction of pain associated with inflammation…” [Emus](https://nationalzoo.si.edu/animals/emu) are the second largest birds in the world, and are endemic to Australia. Emu oil is derived from their fat. Australian Aborigines have bee using it for centuries to relieve skin problems, wounds and pain. Emu oil is anti-inflammatory, and has great penetrative properties. It works well for problems to do with skin ailments, arthritis and joint aches, and digestive disorders. [I Love Natural was founded by parents](https://www.ilovenatural.store/about-us/) themselves, who went through a traumatic health incident with their newborn son. Their goal is to promote effective traditional healing solutions from various cultures. Nature is a great healer and holds a lot of power, after all! They are giving away three bottles of [Emu Tracks’ pure emu oil](https://www.ilovenatural.store/product/pure-emu-oil-50ml/) in this giveaway. Check out the many [positive testimonials on their website](https://www.ilovenatural.store/review/), from people of all ages and walks of life! [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd25/) --- ![Kate Mitchell's e-book is written with the chronically ill in mind! She is giving away a copy this Christmas here.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/chronic-health-bloggers-blog-book-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### “Chronic Health Bloggers: Take Your Blog (And Income!) to the Next Level” by Kate Mitchell *Sponsored By: [katethealmostgreat.com](https://katethealmostgreat.com/)* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/katethealmostgreat/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/katethealmostgreat/) [ ](https://x.com/kmitchellauthor) **Christmas Giveaway:** E-Book (RRP $10). **Number of Winners:** 1. **Location:** Worldwide. Are you someone with chronic illness who’s looking to starting a blog, and maybe earn some income from it along the way? If so, then you’ll want to win one copy of [Kate’s e-book, “Chronic Health Bloggers: Take Your Blog (And Income!) to the Next Level”](https://katethealmostgreat.com/shop/), this Christmas! [Kate Mitchell](https://katethealmostgreat.com/about-me/) lives with Fibromyalgia, Rheumatoid Arthrtis, POTS, Endometriosis and Asthma, just to name a few! She has been blogging about chronic illnesses for 17 years. This book is chock full of resources to help you get started on your blogging journey and includes: - 29 blog post ideas - Tailwind tribes to join - SEO checklist for posts - 25 Instagram prompts - A checklist for your weekly blogging and social media tasks (you know the damn brain fog!) - A Canva media kit template - A guide on how to solidify your social media presence - Her money making resources - And more! [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd26/) [Subscribe for More](#/portal/) --- ![Foggy Frog and the Pain Gang Book Christmas Giveaway on A Chronic Voice](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/foggy-frog-pain-gang-book-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### "Foggy Frog and the Pain Gang" by Megan A Schartner *Sponsored By: liveken.com* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/MegLiveKen/) [ ](https://x.com/megliveken) **Christmas Giveaway:** Paperback copies of the book, "Foggy Frog and the Pain Gang" by Megan A Schartner. (RRP AUD19.99 / $15). **Number of Winners:** 5. **Location:** Worldwide. What [started as a Kickstarter project](https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/chronicmeg/foggy-frog-and-the-pain-gang-making-the-invisible) is now reality for Megan A Schartner. Her book aims to raise awareness about invisible illness, as Foggy Frog and the pain gang pays random visits to the chronically ill. Even the simplest of tasks can become a drag when they drop by. I also love the ‘True Stories’ section on her website, which features real people and how they react when Foggy Frog and the Pain Gang visits them. Megan is giving away five copies of her book, 'Foggy Frog and the Pain Gang' this Christmas. These stories are ones that many of us can relate to and find solace in. Or to help others grasp the concept of invisible illness a little bit better! [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd27/) --- ![Suzan is giving away 3 copies of her book, “Finding a New Normal: Living Your Best Life with Chronic Illness”, in this Christmas Giveaway!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/finding-new-normal-best-life-chronic-illness-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### “Finding a New Normal: Living Your Best Life with Chronic Illness” by Suzan L. Jackson *Sponsored By: [livewithcfs.blogspot.com](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/)* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/livewithmecfs) [ ](https://x.com/livewithmecfs) **Christmas Giveaway:** Paperback or e-book copies of the book, 'Finding a New Normal: Living Your Best Life with Chronic Illness', by Suzan L. Jackson (RRP $12.99). **Number of Winners:** 3. **Location:** - Paperback: U.S. Only. - E-Book: Worldwide. [Suzan lives with ME/CFS](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/p/our-story.html) (Myalgic Encephalomyelitis / Chronic Fatigue Syndrome), and so do her two sons. She is another passionate advocate within the chronic illness community. She works tirelessly to raise awareness about ME/CFS through her blog, her Facebook groups, and more. She is also a freelance writer and reviewer who specialises in travel, food, family and health. This Christmas, Suzan is giving away three copies of [her book, ‘Finding a New Normal: Living Your Best Life with Chronic Illness’](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/p/my-book.html). This guide provides inspiration, advice on emotional coping and wisdom from someone who’s been there for more than 20 years. It focuses not just on enduring your life, but immersing yourself fully in it. [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd28/) --- ![“Think Eat Cook Sustainably: 100 Recipes, Plus Tips and Ideas for a Healthy World](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/think-eat-cook-sustainably-recipes-book-healthy-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### “Think Eat Cook Sustainably: 100 Recipes, Plus Tips & Ideas for a Healthy World" by Rachel Khanna” *Sponsored By: livingwellwithlyme.com* [ ](https://x.com/swissmiss329) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/christinam5954/) **Christmas Giveaway:** Paperback copy of the book, 'Think Eat Cook Sustainably: 100 Recipes, plus Tips & Ideas for a Healthy World' by Rachel Khanna (RRP $18.99). **Number of Winners:** 1. **Location:** U.S. Only. Christina Mathers and her beautiful family have been fighting Lyme Disease since 2014\. Rachel Khanna is an accomplished chef and health counsellor. She encourages and inspires organic and healthy eating through her cookbooks, cooking classes, workshops and coaching sessions. Christina felt that this book was an excellent resource for Lyme Disease. She is giving away a copy of Rachel's book, 'Think Eat Cook Sustainably' in this Chronic Illness Christmas giveaway. [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd29/) --- ![Melissa vs Fibromyalgia: 3 Month Membership, 'Yoga for the Chronic Life Virtual Yoga Studio' - 2020 Christmas Giveaway](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/yoga-chronic-life-virtual-studio-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Melissa vs Fibromyalgia: 3 Month Membership, 'Yoga for the Chronic Life Virtual Yoga Studio' *Sponsored By: [www.melissavsfibromyalgia.com](https://www.melissavsfibromyalgia.com/)* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/MelissavsFibro) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/melissanreynolds/) [ ](https://www.youtube.com/c/melissavsfibromyalgia) **Christmas Giveaway:** A 3 month membership to 'Yoga for the Chronic Life Virtual Yoga Studio' (RRP $425+). **Number of Winners:** 2. **Location:** Worldwide. Melissa is an active advocate in the chronic illness community online. She’s also a yoga teacher, a mum of four, and more (I really have no idea how she manages – must be the yoga! 😉 ). For as long as I have known her, she has been a passionate about using yoga for pain management. This includes fibromyalgia – which she also lives with – chronic fatigue, insomnia and more. I like this sentence on her website, which just about sums it up, “I don’t pretzel, I modify the tools of yoga to what I need at the time – and offer the same to you.” Melissa is offering two lucky winners a [3 month membership to her virtual yoga studio package, ‘Yoga for the Chronic Life’](https://melissavsfibromyalgia.teachable.com/p/yoga-for-the-chronic-life). Yes, you can yoga slowly, at your own pace, from home! The 3 month membership includes full access to: - The Foundations of Yoga for Fibromyalgia (RRP $199) - 10 Days Beginners Journey to Yoga (RRP $49) - The Pelvis & Pregnancy Friendly Series (RRP $59) - The Bed Yoga Toolkit (RRP $39) - The Seated Yoga Series (RRP $39) - 10 Days Meditation Toolkit (RRP 20) - Melissa vs Fibromyalgia Exclusive Community access (RRP $20/month) [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd46/) --- ![Holistic Coaching Package: Win Some Happiness Back Into Your Life, Despite Chronic Illness - 2020 Christmas Giveaway](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/holistic-coaching-happiness-life-chronic-illness-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Holistic Coaching Package: Win Some Happiness Back Into Your Life, Despite Chronic Illness *Sponsored By: [themecfsholisticcoach.com](https://www.themecfsholisticcoach.com/)* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/TheMecfsHolisticCoach) **Christmas Giveaway:** 4 Session Fixed Starter Pack (RRP £270 / $360). **Number of Winners:** 1. **Location:** Worldwide. [Julie studied Psychology in university](https://www.mecfsselfhelpguru.com/about), and has an advanced diploma in person-centered counselling. She has had extensive experience as a counsellor, trainer, social worker and more. She also lives with chronic illnesses such as ME/CFS, fibromyalgia and more. She offers holistic coaching, support and empowerment for people who live with such chronic illnesses. Her desire is to help them work towards better health, happiness and rediscovery of their dreams. She is offering her [‘4 Session Fixed Starter Pack’](https://www.mecfsselfhelpguru.com/coaching) in this Chronic Illness Christmas Giveaway. Here’s how it works: - 4 x weekly 45-minute Skype (or Zoom or Facebook Live) sessions, to take place once a week over 4 weeks. - All 4 sessions to be scheduled when the package is booked. - Additional between session email support. (Email support may be solicited once between each session). If you’re someone who’s struggling to cope with your energy or pain levels, who is experience emotional or mental drain, who is at a loss of what to do with the limitations chronic illness has placed on you or more – this holistic life coaching package is for you. Sign up to win back some happiness, hope and direction in your life! [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd45/) --- ![In this Chronic Illness Christmas Giveaway, Maria is offering three Anna Long Sleeves One Piece in emerald green from MIGA swimwear.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/miga-swimwear-anna-long-sleeves-one-piece-swimsuit-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Miga Swimwear: Anna Long Sleeves One Piece *Sponsored By: [migaswimwear.com](https://migaswimwear.com/)* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/MIGASwimwear) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/migaswimwear/) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/migaswimwear/) [ ](https://www.youtube.com/user/shileile6) **Christmas Giveaway:** Anna Long Sleeves One Piece, Emerald Green (RRP $150). **Number of Winners:** 3. **Location:** U.S. Only. [Maria Luisa Mendiola founded Miga Swimwear](https://migaswimwear.com/pages/about-us) in 2017\. Her aim was and is to challenge the status quo and definition of what ‘beauty’ is. She wants to break stigma, and raise awareness on disfigurement, disability and chronic illness. Her swimwear collections are vibrant and a celebration of life. They are expressions of self-love, self acceptance, and beauty in non conventional forms. In this Chronic Illness Christmas Giveaway, Maria is offering three [Anna Long Sleeves One Piece in emerald green](https://migaswimwear.com/products/anna-long-sleeves-one-piece?variant=31340410175620). The swimsuit is named after Anna, an artist who lives with [Hidradenitis Suppurativa](https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/hidradenitis-suppurativa/), also known as Acne Inverse, a chronic skin disease. Anna’s wounds were painful, and interfered with her art creation. This swimsuit works for Anna, because its raglan sleeves guarantee no chafing in the armpits. The fabric is UPF 50, and comes with a zipper with pulley at the back for easier wear! [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd44/) --- ![Modibodi is giving away an AUD100 gift voucher in this Christmas Giveaway!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/modibodi-gift-voucher-period-incontinence-underwear-chronic-illness-christmas-giveaway-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Modibodi: AUD100 Gift Voucher *Sponsored By: [modibodi.com](https://www.modibodi.com/)* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/ModibodiAU/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/modibodi/) [ ](https://x.com/modibodi) [ ](https://au.pinterest.com/modibodi/%5Fcreated/) [ ](https://www.youtube.com/user/ModibodiAU) **Christmas Giveaway:** AUD100 voucher (approx. USD75). **Number of Winners:** 1. **Location:** Worldwide. [Modibodi](https://www.modibodi.com/pages/our-story) is the maker of the original period and incontinence underwear. I have a few Modibodi undies myself, and love how they’re so comfy, easy to maintain, and long lasting! Their underwear lining is made of [modifier air technology](https://www.modibodi.com/pages/how-it-works) to keep your private bits cool and breathable. They even have a modifier swim technology so you can go swimming as per usual, and another fit for mums who are breastfeeding. To top that off, their range spans a wide collection, and they all look good! [Modibodi is offering an AUD100 voucher](https://www.modibodi.com/collections/gift-cards/products/e-gift-card) (approx. USD75) in this giveaway. I wish I could enter my own giveaway; I keep browsing through their products and want to snap up just about everything 😉 [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd43/) --- ![NuLeaf Naturals is giving away these CBD wellness products in the Christmas Giveaway to two lucky winners!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/nuleaf-naturals-cbd-oil-capsules-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### NuLeaf Naturals: Full Spectrum CBD Oil & CBD Softgel Capsules *Sponsored By: [nuleafnaturals.com](https://nuleafnaturals.com/)* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/nuleafnaturals) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/nuleafnaturals/) **Christmas Giveaway:** - Full Spectrum Hemp CBD Oil (60mg/mL): 900mg CBD Single Bottle (RRP $99). - Full Spectrum Hemp CBD Capsules (15mg/softgel): 900mg CBD Softgels Single Bottle (RRP $99). **Number of Winners:** 2. **Location:** U.S. Only. [NuLeaf Naturals](https://nuleafnaturals.com/about-us/) has been producing high quality CBD products since 2014\. They produce full-spectrum CBD Oil using organic hemp, with no junk added into it. They aim to create premium cannabinoid wellness products that their customers trust. And I’d say that they’ve been meeting their goals, with over 20,000 positive customer reviews! They also have the [batch reports up for their products](https://nuleafnaturals.com/batch-reports/). If you’re thinking of buying a CBD product, that’s one of the most important signs of quality to look out for. NuLeaf Naturals is giving away these CBD products to two lucky winners in this giveaway: - [Full Spectrum Hemp CBD Oil (60mg/mL).](https://nuleafnaturals.com/product/full-spectrum-hemp-cbd-oil-60mg-ml/) You’ll be getting the 900mg CBD size worth $99. - [Full Spectrum Hemp CBD Capsules (15mg/softgel).](https://nuleafnaturals.com/product/cbd-capsules/) You’ll be getting the 900mg CBD size, also worth $99. [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd36/) --- ![Plant Therapy: KidSafe Wellness Sampler 3-Set. They are giving away one sampler 3-set in this Christmas Giveaway!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/plant-therapy-kidsafe-wellness-sampler-set-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Plant Therapy: KidSafe Wellness Sampler 3-Set *Sponsored By: [planttherapy.com](https://www.planttherapy.com/)* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/PlantTherapy/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/planttherapy/) [ ](https://x.com/PlantTherapy) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/planttherapy/) [ ](https://www.youtube.com/user/PlantTherapy/videos) **Christmas Giveaway:** KidSafe Wellness Sampler 3-Set (RRP $26.95). **Number of Winners:** 1. **Location:** U.S. Only. [Plant Therapy](https://www.planttherapy.com/pages/why-plant-therapy) creates high quality essential oils, CBD, and natural body products. All their products have traceable test reports, are animal cruelty free, and affordable. Their [KidSafe essential oil blends](https://www.planttherapy.com/collections/kidsafe) are meant for children ages 2-10\. These oils were formulated by [Robert Tisserand](https://roberttisserand.com/about/), who is the co-author of the book, ‘Essential Oil Safety’. He also has over 40 years of experience in essential oil blending and aromatherapy product development. Plant Therapy is offering one ‘KidSafe Wellness Sampler Set’ in this giveaway, which consists of some favourites to help against seasonal threats such as the flu. For more information on each essential oil product in the sampler set: - [Germ Destroyer KidSafe Essential Oil](https://www.planttherapy.com/products/germ-destroyer-kidsafe-essential-oil) - [Immune Boom KidSafe Essential Oil](https://www.planttherapy.com/products/immune-boom-kidsafe-essential-oil) - [Sniffle Stopper KidSafe Essential Oil](https://www.planttherapy.com/products/sniffle-stopper-kidsafe-essential-oil) [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd42/) --- ![Reakiro is offering a variety of their CBD products in this Christmas Giveaway!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/reakiro-cbd-oils-gel-capsules-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Reakiro: CBD Oils & Gel Capsules *Sponsored By: [cbdreakiro.com](https://cbdreakiro.com/)* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/reakiro/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/reakiro.shop/) [ ](https://x.com/reakiroofficial) [ ](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNO02G5hai4QkVOUrNacfzQ) **Christmas Giveaway:** - CBD Oil 1000 mg (RRP €54.99 / $66). - CBD Oil 1500 mg (RRP €69.99 / $84). - CBD Gel Capsules 750 mg 30 pcs (RRP €39.99 / $48). - CBD Capsules Immune Support 600 mg 60 pcs (RRP €44.99 / $54). **Number of Winners:** 4. **Location:** EU and U.K. Only. There are hundreds of shady CBD companies touting cures on social media and what not. I’m sure you’ve come across some in your DMs or emails. [Reakiro](https://cbdreakiro.com/pages/about-reakiro) is a leading European HACCP/GMP certified manufacturer and supplier of full-spectrum CBD oils, creams and capsules. No harsh chemicals or pesticides are used, they are non-GMO, full spectrum, EU certified seeds and more. Their [lab results for all their CBD products](https://cbdreakiro.com/pages/cbd-laboratory-results) are also stated upfront – which is of extreme importance. If you've found CBD to be a big help with pain management, this is a great time to try Reakiro out. If you've never tried CBD for pain relief but wanted to, now might be a good time to do so, too! [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd41/) --- ![Spectra Spray: Sleep Well, Be Well and Stay Well Vitamin Spray Kits. 2020 Chronic Illness Christmas Giveaway on A Chronic Voice.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/spectra-spray-sleep-be-stay-well-vitamin-sprays-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Spectra Spray: Sleep Well, Be Well & Stay Well Vitamin Spray Kits *Sponsored By: [spectraspray.com](https://www.spectraspray.com/)* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/spectraspray/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/SpectraSprayVitamins/) [ ](https://x.com/spectraspray) [ ](https://www.linkedin.com/company/spectraspray-global/posts/?feedView=all) [ ](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC85QkTGOp0JAa3t65iRFQXg) **Christmas Giveaway:** - 1x Sleep Well Spray Vitamin Kit (RRP $37.95). - 1x Be Well Spray Kit (RRP $29.95). - 1x Stay Well Spray Vitamin Kit (RRP $37.95). **Number of Winners:** 3. **Location:** U.S. Only. Made with an advanced micro-emulsion technology, [Spectra Spray’s oral sprays](https://www.spectraspray.com/about-us) ensure maximum absorption. They are also made without binders, fillers, artificial colours, dyes or allergens. Which is great news for [**those with certain chronic illnesses who are sensitive**](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/) to them! [Janet Ryan](https://www.spectraspray.com/janetryan) was searching for natural solutions for her son with ADHD, anxiety and in-attention. She consulted many types of doctors, both clinical and natural. Her journey led her to educate and certify herself. She then founded Spectra Spray, which also has a team of nutritional advisors onboard. Spectra Spray is giving away three of their bestselling sprays this Christmas! Visit the links below for more information on each giveaway item: - [Sleep Well Spray Vitamin Kit](https://www.spectraspray.com/product-page/sleepwelllifestylespraykit) - [Be Well Spray Kit](https://www.spectraspray.com/product-page/be-well-kit) - [Stay Well Spray Vitamin Kit](https://www.spectraspray.com/product-page/stay-well-spray-vitamin-kit) [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd40/) --- ![Megan is giving away 1 of these journals for Christmas!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/symjo-symptom-journal-megan-raine-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Symjo: A Symptom Journal by Megan Raine *Sponsored By: symjo.co.uk* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/mysymjo) [ ](https://x.com/mySymjo) **Christmas Giveaway:** Symjo Symptom Journal (RRP £30 / $40). **Number of Winners:** 1. **Location:** Worldwide. Instagram recommended Megan to me, and I'm not surprised why! I immediately fell in love with her Symptom Journal, 'Symjo', which she just launched. Megan lives with endometriosis, which is a painful chronic condition. Symjo was born from her passion for design. And using that to help make the lives of others with chronic illnesses more organised and manageable. The Symjo journal consists of four sections. Here’s a description from [her Etsy page](https://www.etsy.com/sg-en/listing/865578800/symjo-daily-symptom-tracking-journal-for): - The ‘Daily Symptom Section’ to keep track of daily symptoms, pain scale, area of pain and medications taken; - The ‘Appointment Diary Section’ to write in all upcoming appointment details, with following note pages to take along to every appointment to keep your notes in one place. - The ‘Medical Journey’ – to keep track of all the medications you’ve tried and tested throughout your health journey, and track your symptoms and side-effects. - And finally; the ‘Useful Bits’ section containing space to write in important contacts, website resources, book recommendations, self-care routines and more. The journal comes complete with divider tabs, bookmark, elastic closure and an extra wee treat inside! Enter the giveaway to win one Symjo from Megan! [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd39/) --- ![TCK Publishing is offering one paperback copy of their book, Everyday Mindfulness' in this giveaway!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/simple-practices-empower-transform-life-every-wellness-melissa-steginus-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### “Everyday Mindfulness: 108 Simple Practices to Empower Yourself and Transform Your Life” by Melissa Steginus *Sponsored By: [tckpublishing.com](https://www.tckpublishing.com/)* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/tckpublishing/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/tckpublishing/) **Christmas Giveaway:** Paperback copy (RRP $14.99). **Number of Winners:** 1. **Location:** U.S. Only. [TCK Publishing](https://www.tckpublishing.com/about-us/) started out as an small independent publishing in 2011\. They have now expanded to an international market. They specialise in trade paperback books, and publish a wide range of genres. I love that their mission is to help authors earn a full-time income from royalties. They also treat their authors like partners. One of the latest books on their shelves is ‘Everyday Mindfulness’ by Melissa Steginus. I quote from their Amazon page: > “With step-by-step instruction and evidence-based exercises you can do in as little as 5 minutes a day, it’s never been easier to make positive changes stick in your life.” The book consists of 108 simple practices to transform your life step by step. It touches on all important aspects of your wellbeing: physical, emotional, rational, spiritual, occupational and network. [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd38/) --- ![In this Christmas Giveaway That's Handi is giving away 4 copies of ‘The Handi Book of Love, Lust & Disability’, which opens up conversations and breaks the stigma surrounding sex, relationships and disability.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/bumpn-book-love-lust-disability-chronic-illness.jpg) ### That's Handi: 'The Handi Book of Love, Lust & Disability' & Interview with the Founders *Sponsored By: getbumpn.com* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/getbumpn) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/getbumpn/) **Christmas Giveaway:** - 2x Physical Books (RRP $50). - 1x Audio Book (RRP $15). - 1x E-Book (RRP $15). - 1 hour Zoom chat with Handi co-founders and disability activists Andrew Gurza & Heather Morrison. **Number of Winners:** 5. **Location:** - Paperbacks within US, UK & Australia (Postage of approx. $6 - $10 to be covered by the winner). - E-Book or Audiobook worldwide. - Zoom chat interview worldwide. Handi was founded by disability consultant and activist, Andrew Gurza, and innovation strategist, Heather Morrison. Did you know that over 50% of disabled people are unable to achieve sexual pleasure on their own? (And many times even with partners due to chronic pain, but that’s for a post in and of itself.) This Christmas they’re giving away four copies of ‘The Handi Book of Love, Lust & Disability’. It opens up conversations and breaks the stigma surrounding sex, relationships and disability. The book is full of beautiful artwork, portraits, stories, poems and more from over 50 disabled and proud contributors. You can still buy a copy of this gorgeous book even if you don’t win as well! All profits go towards funding the development of their first line of sex toys for people with hand limitations, ‘The Handi Joystick’. The founders of Handi – Andrew and Heather – are also offering a 1 hour Zoom chat with them as a giveaway. Time is a precious commodity, so it’s great they’re doing this! Have some intimate and real conversations with them on these stigmatised topics. It would be insightful for any podcaster, blogger, disability or sexual health advocate! [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd37/) --- ![Chronic Christmas: Surviving the Holidays with a Chronic Illness](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/chronic-christmas-surviving-holidays-chronic-illness-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### "Chronic Christmas: Surviving the Holidays with a Chronic Illness" by Lene Andersen *Sponsored By: [theseatedview.com](https://theseatedview.com/)* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/LeneAndersenwriter/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/theseatedview/) [ ](https://x.com/theseatedview) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/theseatedview/) [ ](https://www.linkedin.com/in/lene-andersen-95887613/) **Christmas Giveaway:** Paperback (only 1 signed copy available), e-book or audiobook for, 'Chronic Christmas: Surviving the Holidays with a Chronic Illness' by Lene Andersen (RRP $8.99). **Number of Winners:** 3. **Location:** Worldwide. [Lene Andersen of ‘The Seated View’](https://theseatedview.com/about) was also a generous sponsor in last year’s Christmas Giveaway! She has a Masters Degree in Social Work, and is an award-winning writer, health and disability advocate and photographer. She lives in Toronto, but was born and raised in Denmark. She’s lived with junvenile arthritis since she was four. “Chronic Christmas” a book all about self-care, both for those with chronic illnesses and their loved ones. It’s filled with wonderful self-care suggestions in the form of an Advent calendar. But these tips can sure be handy year round! Lene is offering three copies of [her book, “Chronic Christmas: Surviving the Holidays with a Chronic Illness”](https://theseatedview.com/books), in this year’s giveaway. There is only one paperback version available if that is your choice, and it will be a signed copy! [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd22/) --- ![Thriving While Disabled / Alison Hayes: 'Thriving with FND' Course, 'Navigating the US Welfare System' Coaching Programme & 'Medical Care Problem Solving' Sessions - 2020 Christmas Giveaway](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/alison-hayes-thriving-fnd-usa-welfare-system-course-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Thriving While Disabled / Alison Hayes: 'Thriving with FND' Course, 'Navigating the US Welfare System' Coaching Programme & 'Medical Care Problem Solving' Sessions *Sponsored By: [thrivingwhiledisabled.com](https://thrivingwhiledisabled.com/)* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/thrivingwhiledisabled) [ ](https://x.com/Thrivingwdisabl) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/thrivingwhiledisabled/%5Fcreated/) **Christmas Giveaway:** - 1x 'Thriving with FND' Course (RRP $100). - 1x 'Navigating the U.S. Welfare System' Coaching Programme (RRP $300). - 2x Medical Care Problem Solving Sessions (RRP $50). **Number of Winners:** 4. **Location:** Worldwide (Held over Zoom). [Alison Hayes is another passionate advocate](https://thrivingwhiledisabled.com/about-me/) within the chronic illness community. She lives with FND (Functional Neurological Disorder). It is a disorder that is difficult to even get a correct diagnosis for, and to treat. Her blog is full of insightful articles into the U.S. healthcare system, disability benefits and chronic illness. If you’re someone who’s struggling to cope with FND, then [her ‘Thriving with FND’](https://thriving-while-disabled.thinkific.com/courses/Thriving-with-FND) course is for you. The curriculum includes: FND diagnosis, medical support, treatment options, and other tools for self-advocacy and quality of life. If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed by the US social welfare system, Alison has a coaching program to help you with that. ‘[Navigating the US Welfare System](https://thrivingwhiledisabled.com/do-you-want-to-talk-about-social-welfare-supports/)’ will let you share your biggest challenges and needs, and Alison will help you develop a plan to either apply for the support(s) you need, or to make the best use of the supports you have. Past clients of hers have hired her to help them build their own businesses after being on disability, and to help them apply for SSDI. She is also offering [single-meeting medical care problem-solving sessions](https://thrivingwhiledisabled.com/special-offer/) to two winners. If you are struggling with or trying to improve your medical care experience, she will happily meet with you via Zoom to discuss your fears or concerns and help you create a plan to improve your situation. For example, if you feel your doctor isn’t listening to you, Alison will help you feel better prepared for your appointments, and help you decide if it’s time to seek a different doctor. *\*Updated (02 Dec 2020): Alison has added two more gifts to this list!* [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd34/) --- ![Claire is giving away five copies of her e-book, “Low Histamine Breakfast Recipes”, in this giveaway!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/low-histamine-breakfast-recipes-ebook-claire-g-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### 'Low Histamine Breakfast Recipes' Ebook by Claire G. *Sponsored By: [throughthefibrofog.com](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/)* [ ](https://www.instagram.com/through.the.fibro.fog/) [ ](https://x.com/throughfibrofog) **Christmas Giveaway:** 'Low Histamine Breakfast Recipes' Ebook by Claire G. (RRP $3.50). **Number of Winners:** 5. **Location:** Worldwide. [Claire](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/about-me/) has been a lovely friend online, and is one of the moderators for [my Facebook Group, ‘Chronic Illness Social Pod’](https://www.facebook.com/groups/ChronicIllnessSocialPod). She lives with Fibromyalgia, MCAS (Mast Cell Activation Syndrome), Raynaud’s Syndrome, Dysautonomia, hEDS and Interstitial Cystitis to name a ‘few’! Her chronic conditions, in particular MCAS, means that she is highly sensitive to the world around her. That includes food, which forms a huge part of our lives. She has studied and experimented with various foods for her condition over the years. Her blog is a repository of resources for others with similar issues. What I love about her recipes i that they’re not in the least bit bland. In fact, they’re full of colour, flavour, nutrition and life! Having purchased a copy of her book myself, I must say that it is both a feast for the mouth and eyes. Claire is giving away five copies of [her e-book, “Low Histamine Breakfast Recipes”](https://payhip.com/b/hsrH), in this giveaway! [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd33/) --- ![Thryve is offering 1 Thryve Gut Health Test Kit in this Christmas Giveaway.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/thryve-gut-test-kit-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Thryve: Gut Health Test Kit *Sponsored By: thryveinside.com (now known as [www.ombrelab.com](https://www.ombrelab.com/))* [ ](https://www.instagram.com/ombrelab/) **Christmas Giveaway:** Thryve Gut Health Test Kit (RRP $199). **Number of Winners:** 1. **Location:** U.S. Only. Richard Lin co-founded Thryve, after a bout of antibiotics led to a major gut injection, and landed him in the hospital. That spurred his mission to find better answers to gut health. And how to optimise the bacterial communities within us. Thryve has a team of scientific advisors on board. They also invest a lot into research and algorithms that aim to improve our microbiome. This includes recommended foods and supplements to optimise our health and wellbeing. I did a review of their Gut Health Test Kit a few years ago, and thought it might be a good idea to reach out to Richard this year. I had genuinely enjoyed discovering more about my gut microbiome. Call it coincidence or science, but the bacteria side effects and recommended foods seemed to match up! They are offering one Thryve Gut Health Test Kit this Christmas, and I’d try and win this if I were you! (Heck, I want to reassess my gut bacteria again after all this time 😉 ). Thryve also offers personalised probiotics, if you’ve been having problems with off-the-shelf ones. [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd32/) --- ![This Christmas Giveaway, To Better Days is giving away 5 of their trial packs for joint aches](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/to-better-days-joint-patches-trial-packs-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### To Better Days: Trial Pack *Sponsored By: tobetterdays.co.uk* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/tobetterdaysuk) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/tobetterdays%5F/) **Christmas Giveaway:** 5 Boxes of 'To Better Days Joint Patches Trial Packs' (RRP £9.59 / $13 per pack). **Number of Winners:** 5. **Location:** Worldwide. To Better DaysTM is an innovative, non-medicine alternative to help those experiencing sustained discomfort. The adhesive patches contain a patented combination of vitamin D and dextrose to offer a topical and targeted option that supports the health of joints, muscles and nerves. Simply apply the patch directly to the source of discomfort for relief within hours. Made in Britain, their exclusive health patches are the first of their kind to be available in the UK. For all those experiencing prolonged discomfort. The patented combination of vitamin D and dextrose in To Better DaysTM active patches is inspired by the 30-year practice of specialist neuropathic doctor, Dr John Lyftogt and his wife, a physical education therapist, Maria Lyftogt. Their work explored using the two ingredients together to progress new, natural and non-addictive ways to treat patients for nerve, muscle and joint ailments in their New Zealand clinic. They are giving away five boxes of their ‘To Better Days Joint Patches Trial Packs’ in this Christmas Giveaway! Each box contains three big and six small joint patches to see what suits you best. [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd31/) --- ![Winnie's Picks Paint by Numbers for Adults - 2020 Christmas Giveaway](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/winnies-picks-paint-by-numbers-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Winnie's Picks: Paint by Numbers for Adults *Sponsored By: [winniespicks.com](https://winniespicks.com/)* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/WinniesPicks) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/winnies%5Fpicks/) **Christmas Giveaway:** 1x regular painting of your choice from their catalog (RRP \~$29.95). **Number of Winners:** 2. **Location:** Worldwide. [Winnie’s Picks](https://winniespicks.com/pages/about-us) isn’t only a generous sponsor in this year’s Chronic Illness Christmas Giveaway, but also last year’s! We love you, Winnie’s Picks 😉 I love browsing their painting catalogue; They’re full of interesting colours, subjects and environments. Merely looking at them is pleasing to the eye, so what more when you get to paint them? If you enjoy colouring as a form of stress relief, then you might fall in love with paint by numbers. It also takes less effort to paint that it is to colour with pencils. So that makes it easier for your joints and fingers, if you suffer pain in those areas. They have lots of [useful tutorials](https://winniespicks.com/blogs/tutorials) you can check out. Art therapy is definitely one of the best tools in the pain management toolkit. And Winnie’s Picks is giving away two regular [paint by numbers paintings from their catalogue](https://winniespicks.com/collections/paint-by-numbers-for-adults) in this Chronic Illness Christmas Giveaway! [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd30/) --- ![Bexi is giving away three products from her Bespoke Revitalisation range in this Christmas giveaway: Body Milk, Spritz and Balm.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/bexis-bespoke-revitalisation-body-milk-spritz-balm-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Bexi PhD: Bexi's Bespoke Revitalisation Body Milk, Spritz & Balm *Sponsored By: [bexiphd.com](https://bexiphd.com/)* [ ](https://www.facebook.com/bexiphd/) **Christmas Giveaway:** - 1x Body Milk (6.8 fl oz / 200ml) ( (RRP $40). - 1x Spritz (1 fl oz / 30ml) (RRP $35). - 1x Balm (0.17 oz / 5g) (RRP $15). **Number of Winners:** 3. **Location:** U.S. only. [Dr. Rebecca (Bexi) Lobo, PhD](https://bexiphd.com/pages/about-bexi) lives with Sjögren’s Syndrome, and suffered from dry, terrible skin as a child. She went to graduate school to investigate how diet and lifestyle can be integrated for disease prevention. Her PhD research involved the study of interconnections amongst metabolic pathways, and how nutrient structure affects the body as a whole in the long run. She believes that your skin is dynamic, and so should your skin care be. Thus, Bexi’s Bespoke Revitalisation was born. She only includes ingredients that your skin need, and nothing else. Bexi is giving away three products from her Bespoke Revitalisation range in this Christmas giveaway: - [Body Milk](https://bexiphd.com/collections/online-store/products/body-milk) - [Spritz](https://bexiphd.com/collections/online-store/products/spritz?variant=31583436898366) - [Balm](https://bexiphd.com/collections/online-store/products/balm) [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd50/) --- ## Earn Bonus Points! Which were your favourite giveaway items and which do you hope to win? Earn points for each giveaway by answering the polls, re-sharing and more via each Rafflecoptor widget. You can also win bonus points in the bonus widget below! All the best and may we all have a merry season and a better year ahead of us. [**Click here to view all our generous sponsors once again!**](#sponsors) [a Rafflecopter giveaway](http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/2da468cd47/) ## Gifts by Location Infographic: ![Chronic Illness Christmas Giveaway: Gifts for Every Body in Pain This Lonely Pandemic Season! Infographic by Location.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/chronic-illness-christmas-giveaway-infographic-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - susan ruth Dec 20, 2020 i would love to win either the Modibodi or bexi’s bespoke revitalisation as these are problem areas for me and these products most likely would be a positive addition to my self-care routines. - Sara Dec 17, 2020 So excited to submit an entry for the Modibodi gift certificate. I’m curious to give period underwear a try, and this brand looks super fashionable and not at all like what you’d expect incontinence or period underwear to look like. There’s no reason you can’t be both functional and practical, and I appreciate a brand that gets that too. - Sara Dec 17, 2020 The Spectra Spray: Sleep Well vitamin spray kit looks awesome! I have trouble both falling asleep and staying asleep due to neurological symptoms and well… the anxiety demons come out at night. Would be grateful to try this! - Sara Dec 17, 2020 Excited to be entering for the Reakiro: CBD Oil giveaway! I’ve heard so many good things about CBD oil for pain relief and have always wanted to check it out for my joint pain. 🙂 - Sara Dec 17, 2020 I hope to win the Bexi’s Bespoke Revitalisation Spritz for my dry skin! I’ve had mixed connective tissue disease since the age of 13 and for whatever reason it’s always involved dry skin. I have literally never found anything that satisfies my dry skin on my face, so curious to try this out. I have to put lotion on multiple times a day just to be able to smile comfortably.. excited to try something new out! Thanks 🙂 - Sara Dec 17, 2020 Thank you so much for organizing this! - Deidre Dec 17, 2020 How exciting! I need to eat low histamine and would love that ebook! - SHELLEY Dec 11, 2020 Wow this is truly amazing, you have do a fabulous job of getting all these prizes together! These will definitely make a lot a people smile! xx - Krista Dec 11, 2020 Thank you for hosting this! So fun and a great way to learn about resources to help us live with chronic illnesses - Tammy Dec 10, 2020 Thank you for sharing this give away I’m really struggling with my fibromyalgia and mental health right …. in the mourning stage after giving up work This has given me hope and ideas if lots of things to help me along my way Thank you - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 10, 2020 I am really touched to hear this, because that was what this giveaway was supposed to be about. I wish you well…join in in as many as you like for your country, and I wish you all the best! 😀 - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Dec 10, 2020 Such an incredible giveaway – you’ve done amazingly well putting all of this together, Sheryl, thank you for your effort. So many funky goodies, fab books and a few brands I’m curious about now that I’ve not come across before, like the Emu Tracks oil. It’s been an extra tough year for so many, so this is a wonderful way to bring people together and put smiles on some faces 🤗 Good luck to everyone entering! 🎉🎄 Caz xx - Sonja Dec 7, 2020 Thank you for this amazing opportunity! Having just reached my 1-year “anniversary” of being unemployed, I appreciate these kinds of opportunities so much! What a lovely idea! I hope I might be lucky enough to win Elli Johnson’s book, the Chronic Health Bloggers Prize by Jate Mitchell, or the Esme Salon giveaway:) Have a peaceful December and holiday season! - Sonja Dec 7, 2020 Just coming back to add that the reason why I would like to win Elli Johnson’s book is that I’ve struggled with anxiety for a long time, and I think that learning ways to manage that is a key missing piece in me being able to get healthier, as I believe my constant state of stress and anxiety is triggering lots of health problems in me. I really hope I get the chance to win the book! The reason why I would love to win Kate Mitchell’s e-book is that I’m just getting started as a freelancer and health blogger, and her e-book sounds like exactly what I would need to help me succeed on this new adventure! The reason why I would love to win the Esme Salon bundle is that as an aspiring freelancer and health blogger whose main struggle is to get organised enough to get stuff done (especially after having been unemployed for a year, and sometimes suffering with extreme pains due to my adenomyosis) , I think this would be incredibly helpful in getting me into a good routine and organised in all areas of my life, and break the chain of being overwhelmed and not getting stuff done due to being overwhelmed. Thank you so much to all these wonderful people for participating in this giveaway, it’s so generous of you!! - Lisa Marie Alioto Dec 6, 2020 This is amazingly generous – and what a great way to perk up the holidays for the lucky winners! - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Dec 4, 2020 What a fantastic round-up of prizes and the wonderful people who donated. I’m heavily involved with Christmas fundraisers and giveaways here in Taiwan every year. Next year I will get myself together and get on this ahead of time. Sometimes I think I spread myself a bit too thin and I’ve managed to do that again this year. I can’t say no to children’s charities and animal fundraisers at this time of year. Anyways, I look forward to seeing how this turns out and good luck to all your participants. Season’s Greetings! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 4, 2020 You always do so much, Carrie! Thank you 🙂 And feel free to participate in the giveaways, too, as there’s plenty to go around! 😀 xxx - Kathleen K Dec 3, 2020 So many great options, and so many new products to check out! Everything I entered for are things I think could help me as someone who is somewhat homebound with chronic illness/pain and food allergies. There are so many conscientious products/services here! Thank you! - [ MAndy Farmer ](https://www.mandyandmichele.com) Dec 3, 2020 Some excellent gifts here! How exciting - [ Heather Hancock ](https://heather-hancock.com/) Dec 3, 2020 I have entered to win the To Better Days Joint Pain Patches, the Symjo Symptom Journal, the ModiBodi Gift Voucher, and the Esme Work At Home Binder. What a great Christmas giveaway! Thank you to all those offering prizes, it’s appreciated. Now for a little luck! - Rhonda Butler Dec 2, 2020 Thank you for the generous giveaway! I’m super excited about the possibility of winning something this year. Bless all the sponsors and best of luck to everyone. 🎄🤎🥰 - Rhonda Butler Dec 7, 2020 I’m really excited about the possibility of winning the neck and shoulder wrap from Huggaroo! The knee pillow is a pretty amazing product of theirs too. Wish me luck! - [ dSavannah ](https://www.dsavannah.com/blog/) Dec 2, 2020 I LOVE art and collect it and my house is like a mini-gallery, so I would love to win one of the FKC You! Art pieces! - [ dSavannah ](https://dsavannah.com/blog/) Dec 2, 2020 I would also REALLY love the Reiki session. I’ve had a few previously and they’ve been positively life-changing! - Les Dec 2, 2020 Thanks so much for the chance to win. There are a number of amazing prizes, and I’d be honored and blessed to win any of them. Thanks and blessings to you, Sheryl, and all the participants. - [ Lisa Ehrman ](https://chronicallycontent.com) Dec 2, 2020 Great giveaways! I could really use the Nausea bracelet, because I’m nauseated every day. - [ Julie Holliday ](https://www.mecfsselfhelpguru.com) Dec 1, 2020 I’m also going for Kates ebook, as I could do better with my blog - [ Catherine Green ](https://spookymrsgreen.com) Dec 1, 2020 I would like to win a copy of Chronic Christmas – all my life I have powered through the holidays ignoring my chronic pain and pretending everything is fine when it isn’t. Maybe this could reassure me that I am allowed to stop once in a while? - [ Catherine Green ](https://spookymrsgreen.com) Dec 1, 2020 Thanks for including my giveaway for Goldstone Reiki, Sheryl! I’m going to browse through the other items, I quite fancy those books for Christmas… 😉 - Holly B Dec 1, 2020 This is so wonderful. I enter and followed some truly amazing people! Thank you for sharing and sponsoring such a great way to learn about new products and the people who are donating! - [ Julie Holliday ](https://www.mecfsselfhelpguru.com) Dec 1, 2020 Today I’m going for the Reiki, because every little bit of healing helps! - Chase Clark Dec 1, 2020 Thanks for putting this together! Very excited & hoping I’ll win something!! - [ Julie Holliday ](https://www.mecfsselfhelpguru.com) Dec 1, 2020 I’m hoping to win the Rakiro CBD oil immune support capsules as it sounds like a wonderful product for a chronic illness that involves a moderately compromised immune system. I’ve also been dealing with more pain recently so I’m hoping it would help with that too! I’ve also gone for the winnies picks and the magnesium. - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Dec 1, 2020 Amazing line up of prizes Sheryl!! I’ve entered a few and keeping my fingers crossed!!! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### 33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/ Last updated: 2026-04-27T17:30:34.000Z ## Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness from Leaving the House — Regardless of COVID-19 Status The lockdown laws for the COVID-19 pandemic vary for different countries and states, but people things that stop people with chronic illness from leaving the house are plentiful. In a sense, we live in lockdown mode on a daily basis. Parts of Europe are set to go back into full lockdown again at the time of publishing this post. Here in Singapore, we're allowed to gather outside in up to groups of five. The chairs, benches and any place where people queue have all been marked with red tape (yes I know, the unintended pun) for proper social distancing. Masks are compulsory by law, which I'm grateful for. There are a bunch of other strange rules which I won't go into detail here (like no airing of live sports in bars). Many healthy people are resuming a semi-semblance of normality here, where they can go out for a drink, meet their friends for a while, and do some shopping with a bit of caution. For people with chronic illness or a disability however, not much has changed, and many of us worry that we'll be forgotten again once the lockdown is finally lifted (when?). *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. Whilst I have done my utmost to be meticulous in research, *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* This Post Is Part Of A Three-Part Series: - [29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) *- What Stops You from Leaving the House on a Normal Day (sans COVID-19)? (this post)* Learn More About Things that Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19) from The Following 33 Opinions: Your browser does not support the video tag. ## Will Accessibility Degrade Again After the Lockdown? Will all the accessibility [**features and accommodations within society and at workplaces**](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-chronic-illness/) degrade again? People will surely forget the frustration of being cooped up at home all day soon enough, right? It's human instinct built for survival. The fact that people with chronic illness or a disability still need to continue the lockdown life won't matter anymore, will it? Sad to say, I think that this will be the case, as humans forget short-term pain or minor inconveniences quickly. Rarely will someone stop to consider the wellbeing of someone beyond that of themselves, and their loved ones. "To each their own." "It's none of my business." "I'm too busy." "The government will take care of it." "I don't know anything about this, so how can I help?" So on and so forth. Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [We Want to Have Fun Just Like You, But Here’s What it Takes](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - [A Hurried Return, but Chronic Illness's Opening Hours Remain Unchanged](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-opening-hours/) ## Mini Interviews with People with Chronic Illness and/or a Disability Well I think I've rambled on enough, so here's a list of things that stop people with chronic illness and/or a disability from leaving the house on a regular day, with or without the [**COVID-19 lockdown in place**](https://achronicvoice.com/covid-19-vaccine-experiences/). These are real life mini interviews, from actual people who live with a chronic illness or disability. You will see that apart from chronic pain, overwhelming fatigue and the accompanying payback down time is a huge deterrent for many. I hope that this short compilation helps to give you a glimpse of insight into our lockdown world, and that you will take something away from it, mainly empathy. To those of you who contributed, my apologies for getting this out so late; life has been manic. Thank you once again for your support and for speaking up - like I always say, “**every voice counts**”. Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Disability Boards: ![33 Mini Interviews: Life in Permanent Lockdown with Chronic Illness | A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/33-mini-interviews-life-permanent-lockdown-chronic-illness.jpg) ![33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/33-things-stop-people-with-chronic-illness-leaving-house-sans-covid-19.jpg) ## Before the COVID-19 Lockdown, What Stopped You from Leaving the House as a Person with a Chronic Illness and/or a Disability? ### 1\. Anonymous “My own introversion haha.” ### 2\. Khai Hoon “Crowds.” ### 3\. Ash “Pain. Am I going to be able to rest? I look perfectly healthy but I'm in agony, so will I get a seat on the train, will people help me out, will I make it through xyz activity or need to leave early and disappoint people.” ### 4\. Jo Moss “My health - I'm pretty much [**bedbound**](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/), and have been for seven years now.” [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/ajourneythroughthefog/) [Twitter](https://x.com/JourneyFog) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/jomoss1975/) ### 5\. Melissa Reynolds “Lack of energy and pain.” [Website](https://www.melissavsfibromyalgia.com/) ### 6\. Claire G. ### [](https://www.melissavsfibromyalgia.com/) “Migraine pain and dizziness, and feeling faint from [**dysautonomia**](https://achronicvoice.com/day-in-life-potsie/).” [Website](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/through.the.fibro.fog/) ### 7\. Jo Jackson “Before the quarantine, my life had become very isolated due to chronic pain. Although I was able to work and visit people locally, I couldn’t travel any distance so had not been out to concerts to see friends for a long time. It was quite hard [**seeing friends**](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) post on social media about events that I would have normally attended, but couldn’t.” [Website](https://teaandcakeforthesoul.wordpress.com/) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/teaandcakeforthesoul/) ### 8\. Karen Taylor “I have very low immunity, thus [**any virus going around my community is a threat**](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/) and thus, forces me into isolation. Currently in my fifth week \[at time of submitting this entry\] of isolation because of COVID19.” ### 9\. Susan C Smith “Pain; I’ll think how daunting it is to simply get cleaned up and dressed knowing how I’ll feel afterwards. I used to push myself and do it anyway. Now I’m realizing it takes too much energy out of me, [**magnifying my pain and other symptoms**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/).” [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/Huskymom1416/) ### 10\. Stacey Kovaciny “Pain, [**Epilepsy**](https://achronicvoice.com/epilepsy-seizures/), and Asthma if pollen levels are high.” [YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/rawabilitylife) ### 11\. Nick Winder “Having an autoimmune ‘flare’.” ### 12\. Katie Clark “Fibromyalgia (FM) issues: fatigue, brain fog and pain – in that order.” [Twitter](https://x.com/klclark525) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/painfullyliving/) ### 13\. Emmie Arnold “Pain and fatigue, though most of the time I can work through it, which is a beautiful thing. This pandemic is certainly giving me some space to get enough rest.” [Website](https://illness-to-wellness.com/) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/illnesstowellness) [Tumblr](https://illness-to-wellness.tumblr.com/) [Twitter](https://x.com/ill%5Fto%5Fwell) ### 14\. Jennifer Brightbill, FNTP, CEOC “Even when it’s not recemmended we stay at home, I don’t always leave the house because I enjoy being at my home. I have [**created a safe, loving space**](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) that is very inviting and I enjoy being in.” [Website](https://feastingonjoy.com/) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/feastingonjoy) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/feastingonjoy) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/feastingonjoy/) ### 15\. Nina T Torres “PAIN is the #1 thing that stops me from leaving the house. Things such as the harsh weather like rain, wind, and humidity increase my pain tremendously. I’m also often restricted to my house due to operations. Since the age of 18 it has become my norm to have a surgery every 1 to 1.5 years, so being home bound is not new to me.” [Website](https://scarsforchrist.blogspot.com/) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/knee%5Fna01/) [Twitter](https://x.com/torresnina73) ### 16\. Rachel Tait (What a Pain) “[**Pain, fatigue and physical limitations**](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/).” [Website](https://whatapain.co.uk/) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/whatapainblog) [Twitter](https://x.com/whatapain%5Fblog) [YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8lk0Qss8IYlApuFvL--rLg) ### 17\. Jen Johansson “Fatigue.” ### 18\. Emilee Kendell, A Mercurial Consciousness “Chronic physical ailment and mental health issues.” [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mercurialconsciousness/) [Twitter](https://x.com/mcherbalremedy) ### 19\. Carrie Kellenberger “Usually I have enough energy to go downstairs to get my coffee. Energy is a huge problem. It is always a deterrent for leaving the house. Sometimes I can push through things, but that always makes me sick, so I try to manage what I leave for.” [Website](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/MySeveralWorlds/) [Facebook (Personal)](https://www.facebook.com/globetrotterI) [Twitter](https://x.com/globetrotteri) ### 20\. Liz, Despite Pain “My pain.” [Website](https://despitepain.com/) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/despitepainpage) [Twitter](https://x.com/DespitePainBlog) [Pinterest](https://uk.pinterest.com/despitepain/) ### 21\. Caz / InvisiblyMe “[**Chronic migraines**](https://achronicvoice.com/axon-optics-eyewear-migraine-pain-relief/), stoma problems, chronic pain from nerve damage and fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue.” [Website](https://invisiblyme.com/) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/invisiblymeblog) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/invisiblymeblog) [Twitter](https://x.com/invisiblymeblog) ### 22\. Cheyanne Perry “Severe, life-threatening reactions from a condition called mast cell activation syndrome. I have reactions to perfumes, colognes, strong laundry detergents, smoke, chemical cleaners, airborne foods, and more. These triggers are often found in public. In order to keep myself safe and reduce the need for emergency epinephrine, I can only go to places that are ‘safe.’ When I do go out, I wear a filtered mask.” ([**Read more about Cheyanne’s life with MCAS here**](https://achronicvoice.com/cheyanne-perry-life-allergies/).) ### 23\. Terry Mayfield “Bedridden most days, [**leaving home only for medical appointments**](https://achronicvoice.com/prepare-medical-appointment/).” [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/TerryMMayfield) [Twitter](https://x.com/terrymmayfield) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/TerryMMayfield/) [LinkedIn](https://www.linkedin.com/in/terrymayfield/) ### 24\. Alice “My [**anxiety**](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/).” [Pinterest](https://uk.pinterest.com/notebooksandglasses/) ### 25\. Kevin B “The knowledge that I would be embarrassed at a meal that I either do not order food, I [**do not eat the food I order**](https://achronicvoice.com/roy-george-dramatic-life-short-bowel/) or the unpleasant sight of how I see myself with this disease.” ### 26\. Ernestine Coleman-Dupree (Virgina Nymph) “Migraines and back pain.” ### 27\. Gemma “The lack of accessibility.” [Twitter](https://x.com/gemmaorton) ### 28\. Sarah Poitras “Fatigue related to my chronic disease. [**Sometimes I just need to hang out on the couch or in bed**](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) all day and my body thanks me for it.” ([**Read more about Sarah and her life with lung disease and travelling here**](https://achronicvoice.com/sarah-poitras-travelling-world-lung-disease/).) [Website](https://www.travelbreatherepeat.com/) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/TravelBreatheRepeat/) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/spoitras9) [Twitter](https://x.com/TBR%5FTravelBlog) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/travelbreatherepeat/) ### 29\. Cynthia Covert “What stops me from leaving the house on a normal day are plans I have made with my family. For example, if my husband and I have a Disneyland date planned for Saturday, I will [**conserve my energy prior to it**](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/).” [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/thedisableddiva/) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/the%5Fdisabled%5Fdiva/) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/thedisableddiva/) ### 30\. Rachael Tomlinson “Fatigue.” [Website](https://accessiblerach.co.uk/) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/WheelieMSAdvocate/) ### 31\. Samantha DeCosmo “Chronic pain and fatigue.” [Website](https://apurposeinpain.com/) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/apurposeinpain/) ### 32\. Jaime Smith “Fear of getting Covid-19 due to my poor immune system. Any of my family becoming a statistic.” ### 33\. Sheryl Chan, A Chronic Voice “My body keeps a debt score just because I leave the house, whether it’s for a medical appointment, work or pleasure. The thing about being in a public space is not just about the energy spent physically, as chronic pain and fatigue has a compounding effect. It also drains you mentally and emotionally when you need to pay attention to your surroundings and communicate with people.” [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/achronicvoice/) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/achronicvoice) [Twitter](https://x.com/AChVoice) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/achronicvoice/) [YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/@sicklessons) [LinkedIn](https://www.linkedin.com/in/sherylchan/) ## Thank You to Everyone Who Contributed to This Roundup A big thank you to everyone who contributed to this roundup about things that stop people with chronic illness from leaving the house on a 'regular' day - with or without an ongoing pandemic. I hope this post helps to raise awareness of how much energy goes into simply existing with chronic pain chronic fatigue - which are recurrent themes throughout the post. Our bodies are also often immunocompromised, which makes public spaces a challenge to navigate as we fall ill rather easily. I hope that as a society, we will be more empathetic towards every person, whether an illness or visible or otherwise. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does ‘Normal’ Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) - [3 Reasons Why I Don’t Let Multiple Sclerosis Prevent Me from Living a Normal Life](https://achronicvoice.com/dont-let-multiple-sclerosis-prevent-normal-life/) Pin to Your Things that Stop People with with Chronic Illness from Leaving the House Boards: ![33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/stop-people-chronic-illness-house-covid-19.jpg) ![33 Mini Interviews: Life in Permanent Lockdown with Chronic Illness | A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/covid-19-lockdown-chronic-illness-opinions-commmunity.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Cassie Creley | Starlight Through The Storm ](https://cassiecreley.com/stay-connected-from-a-distance-holiday/) Nov 5, 2020 This is such a great roundup. Thank you for raising awareness of the many challenges that come with leaving the house for those of us with chronic illness. Hopefully posts like this will keep healthy people thinking about how lockdown will continue to impact us even after COVID. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Thanks Cassie, the community gave some really great feedback and collective insight, which I enjoy compiling to see the patterns. You can probably see that so many of us have the same restrictions in some sense, even though our disorders vary so widely! - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Nov 4, 2020 The comments and similarities here are not surprising at all, yet when you see them all together, it really hits home again how disabling and hard life with chronic illness is. You’ve done a terrific job with this round-up, Sheryl. I always look forward to seeing these posts and reading what others have to say! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Thank you Carrie. Me too, it’s always interesting insight to have so many different perspectives (and also discovering that we all struggle with similar things!). - Katie Clark Nov 4, 2020 Thank you for bring understanding and awareness by including so many voices. My hope, am I naive, that some of the things put into place to help the larger community during this Pandemic will remain because they are helpful for Spoonies and doable because they are already place. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Not naive at all 🙂 Hope is a good thing and the impossible is made possible by people like you 🙂 I too hope that there is some good within society out of all this pandemic horror! - [ Sam Moss ](https://www.mymedmusings.com) Nov 3, 2020 This is such an important post Sheryl to raise awareness of how the lives of so many of us haven’t changed, and won’t change post any lockdown or covid virus. Thanks so much for writing this and sharing the voices of so many from our community. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Thank you Sam. I love when the community all adds in their slice of perspective. I love the different thoughts that come together and find it interesting. It all adds to paint a bigger, better, more accurate picture of the truth (whatever that means in chronic pain!). - [ Chronic Mom ](https://chronicmom.com) Nov 3, 2020 Great post. I’m definitely concerned on losing accessibility after lockdown, it’s really helped a lot of disabled people that were denied accessibility previously. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Hi Shelley, yes the accessibility has been great during lockdown. I loved taking lessons online. Usually commute times are the killer for me anywhere. - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Nov 3, 2020 My goodness, it’s incredibly hard-hitting when you see so many reasons one after the other like this. I’ve been incredibly angry of late with governments and many of the selfishly ignorant people defying lockdowns and moaning about how the ‘weak and old’ should be locked up & forgotten about so the rest of the population can live their lives. A large number of people are already the ‘forgotten’. Our lives have already been impinged because of our health in some way, but we don’t get a second thought. You’ve done an absolutely fantastic job at putting all of these together, Sheryl. A hugely poignant collection from some of the most badass, honest & awesome people out there. xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Hi Caz, yes it is, isn’t it? So many of us struggle with the same things though our diseases differ. And the lockdown has indeed highlighted the divide and need for more awareness. - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Nov 3, 2020 From talking with friends on Instagram I’ve definitely found that we seem to find lockdown easier, as we are used to be being home more. I love being out and about in London but my fatigue gets worse, headache and migraine attacks, sore joints etc etc. My body has almost enjoyed this enforced rest. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Hi Claire, agreed! Lockdown life for us is pretty much business as usual. It’s taken a hit on my mental health though just like anyone else, although not from my usual routines, but more of others at home too, which interferes it hehe. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Suffering with a Rare Disease, Isaacs' Syndrome, as Told from a Male Perspective URL: https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-isaacs-syndrome/ Last updated: 2026-05-17T09:15:08.000Z ## Introduction by A Chronic Voice on Men's Health & Isaacs' Syndrome It always warms my heart when I hear a male voice speak up within the rare disease community. Rachit shares about Isaacs' Syndrome in this post. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the author's personal experiences as a patient. *I/We are not doctors, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Rare Disease & Isaacs' Syndrome Boards: ![Suffering With A Rare Disease, Isaacs' Syndrome](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-isaac-syndrome-male-perspective.jpg) According to Novartis (2025): > “Studies show that [nearly 80% of people living with autoimmune diseases are women](https://www.novartis.com/us-en/stories/autoimmune-diseases-disproportionately-impact-women-heres-why-matters), and some of these diseases, like Sjögren's disease, affect women as much as 9 times more often than men.” And from Vlassoff (2007): > "The gender differences in the social consequences of health and illness include how illness affects men and women, including health-seeking behaviour, the availability of support networks, and the stigma associated with illness and disease. [Men and women respond differently when ill](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3013263/), in terms of time before acknowledging that they are ill, recovery time, and how women and men are treated by their families and society." With men less likely to speak up about chronic pain, their emotions and anything deemed overly 'sensitive', it is always worth a celebratory cheer when one takes the courage to do so. These men are helping to break societal stigmas of what's categorised as 'unmasculine'. No feelings are invalid; we are all human beings who experience a wide and profound array of emotions, men included. It is my hope that more men such as Rachit will share their stories and experiences, so that other men may feel less alone, too. Thank you Rachit, and if any other men with chronic illnesses would like to share their story on my blog, please[**click on the 'Contribute' menu tab**](https://achronicvoice.com/contribute/)and submit your details in the contact form there 🙂 Now over to Rachit! Read Other Guest Posts on the Blog, Written by Men: - [3 Reasons Why I Don’t Let Multiple Sclerosis Prevent Me from Living a Normal Life](https://achronicvoice.com/dont-let-multiple-sclerosis-prevent-normal-life/) - [The Greatest Battle of My Life: How I Overcame Addiction](https://achronicvoice.com/overcame-addiction/) - [Rheumatoid Arthritis – the Biggest Street Fight of My Life](https://achronicvoice.com/rheumatoid-arthritis-fight-life/) ## Getting Diagnosed with Isaacs' Syndrome at the Prime of My Life I write, dedicating my articles to my pissed off attitude about 'healing'. I need to learn how to be uncomfortable and to fight back, as to do otherwise is to settle. This is my personal endeavour to help patients all over the world who suffer from a rare disease. I was diagnosed with a rare medical condition in March 2016\. [Isaacs' Syndrome](https://www.ninds.nih.gov/health-information/disorders/isaacs-syndrome) (Genetic and Rare Diseases Information Center \[GARD\], 2025), they call it. Also known as Neuromyotonia - a complex disorder resulting from muscular hyperactivity, and Membranous Glomerulonephritis, a slow, progressive kidney disease. Life was only beginning for me then and I was working as an investment banker, but had to give that all up. Read Related Posts: - [Learn More About the Super Rare Disease - Esophageal Diverticulum](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled: Taking on the Eye of the Tiger in the Year of the Tiger](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [Why I Need to See 10 Different Doctors on a Regular Basis](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) - [How Many Times Can You Hit Rock Bottom with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/rock-bottom/) ## Endless Painful Investigations & Treatments I had to undergo a plethora of medical investigations, which finally interpreted my symptoms as Isaacs' Syndrome. Treatments I tried: Steroids, IVIg, Plasmapheresis, ACTH injections, painkillers, immunosuppressive agents, intestine related medicines and alternative therapies. I was on 38 pills at one point, which were a part of my daily acid tasting platter. My food restrictions were endless due to side effects such as high sugar levels, fluctuating blood pressure, IBS, disturbances of my stomach lining, diarrhoea, and so much more. Every triumph or progress that I made was fleeting, as the impact of medications and procedures revealed the limitations of my health. It was a tragic experience for me, and it felt as if I were crawling through broken glass; the need to shift the focus on my journey yet again, rather than having arrived at the final destination. Read Related Posts: - [Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 – 6](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) - [To Live with Chronic Illness is to Learn to Live with Maybes](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-maybes/) - [A Pain Pill, a Caress, an Exhalation of Relief](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-pill-caress-relief/) - [An Anaphylaxis Reaction in Between Shady Years](https://achronicvoice.com/anaphylaxis-rituximab/) ## **What I Learned from These Personal Experiences with Isaacs' Syndrome** 1. To live with rare disorders require extra effort, through maximum discipline and lifestyle corrections. 2. Insurance support systems for expensive treatments can be a lifesaver. 3. Sports Medicine can help to bridge the gap between fitness and living with a rare disease. 4. There is no universal law or a fixed method to healing. 5. Utilise all resources available to you during treatment. This helps to ease additional financial, social and personal burdens. 6. I felt that a holistic approach was missing during my treatment with medical specialists and doctors. I felt that I could have benefitted from more holistic practices, which might have eased the pain felt during diagnoses and treatments. 7. [Corporate Social Responsibility (CSR)](https://www.businessnewsdaily.com/4679-corporate-social-responsibility.html) can be the backbone of society, as it makes serious contributions towards meaningful healthcare research (Reckmann, 2024). This in turn can reduce the escalated negative impact on society. 8. A Central Information Portal is beyond useful, a hub where chronic illness patients, government initiatives, doctors and more can access and communicate with each other easily. This is especially useful for chronic illness patients who are in locations that are less accessible, or who require online consultation or quick support. Chronic illness patients can use the portal to share their concerns and experiences, and doctors more information. Government initiatives can use it to explore cost effective measures and to better understand innovations. Educational and research facilities can use it to access data and discover remedies. 9. Our body is gifted by God, but our 'monkey brain' needs our utmost attention, when a man-made crisis manifests itself. 10. Adding humour to life can transform it in positive ways for everyone around us. It eases the caregivers' roles, and the pain felt by family members and ourselves. I still give credit to cartoons, which lifted my mood during those tough days. Read Related Posts: - [The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don’t Reflect)](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/) - [What I’ve Learned – Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years (Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’)](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) Pin to Your Mindset, Positivity & Quote Boards: ![Adding humour to life can transform it in positive ways for everyone around us. It eases the caregivers' roles, and the pain felt by family members and ourselves. I still give credit to cartoons, which lifted my mood during those tough days. #selfcare #chroniclife #copingstrategy](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/humour-life-positive-2.jpg) ## No Circumstance in Life is Permanent I decided to take up table tennis despite my struggles, which I saw as a drug free therapy. Those who battle with chronic illness have much in common with players on a sports field. Playing table tennis was good for my mental health, as it reminded me that any suffering is as constant a phenomenon as losing a game, which is but temporary. No situation or circumstance in life is permanent. As Walt Disney once said, 'The difference between winning and losing is most often not quitting'. Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [I May be Chronically Ill, but I'm Also Chronically Resilient](https://achronicvoice.com/chronically-ill-resilient/) - [You Don't Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That's Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) ## Accepting Life with Isaacs' Syndrome & Being 'Rare' In closing, I urge my fellow rare disease friends to stand tall, to accept with grace being 'rare', where 'rare' is an alien term, one that the mainstream outcasts. To live with rare disease is to spend time seeking doctor after doctor in hope for an answer. It is to spend exorbitant amounts of money on treatments that may or may not work. It is the constant search for alternatives apart from prescription drugs. It might even mean that 'cure' becomes a favourite word. At the same time, we need to acknowledge each other's invisible struggles, one that words cannot express. We also need to work on healthy ways to improve our attitudes, our sense of spirituality and our physical tolerance. These are essential elements of life that can aid us on our journey toward recovery, and may help to reduce our dependency on prescription pills. I am still patiently waiting for that Midas touch. My only request to my readers would be to share any conducive food for thought, as bailing out isn't an option for me. Everything in life seems misty at present, and I'm baffled by this recovery code that I need to crack. Yet I would still like to thank my doctors and family, for aligning their own life journeys with mine, and for helping to raise awareness of my rare disease, Isaacs' Syndrome. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [What's it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) Pin to Your Rare Disease & Men's Health Boards: ![Male Voices From The Rare Disease Community: Isaacs' Syndrome](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/male-rare-disease-community-isaac-syndrome.jpg) **Contributor Bio:** ![Rachit Shah contributor headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/rachit-shah-profile.jpg) Rachit Shah lives in Mumbai, India, and has a Master's in Business Management, with over 13 years of experience in investment banking before Isaacs' Syndrome affected his life. He is fond of long distance running and table tennis. He copes with his chronic illness by doing volunteer work, watching inspirational movies, and is grateful for his family and God's grace. He says, as Charlie Chaplin once said, 'to truly laugh, you must be able to take your pain, and play with it'. You can contact him here: rachitshah421@gmail.com ### References: - Genetic and Rare Diseases Information Center. (2025, May). *Isaac syndrome.* U.S. Department of Health & Human Services, National Institutes of Health. https://rarediseases.info.nih.gov/diseases/6793/isaac-syndrome - Novartis. (2025, May 13). *Autoimmune diseases disproportionately impact women — here’s why that matters.* https://www.novartis.com/us-en/stories/autoimmune-diseases-disproportionately-impact-women-heres-why-matters - Reckmann, N. (2024, October 25). *What is corporate social responsibility?* Business News Daily. https://www.businessnewsdaily.com/4679-corporate-social-responsibility.html - Vlassoff, C. (2007). Gender differences in determinants and consequences of health and illness. *Journal of Health, Population, and Nutrition, 25*(1), 47–61\. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3013263/ ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Oct 28, 2020 It really is refreshing when a man speaks up and it’s so good to read that Rachit does. People need to be made more aware of what men go through because they’re so poorly represented and contributions / guest posts like these really help to do that. Thank you for sharing. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 So agree, Shruti. We truly need more courageous men like Rachit to speak up, so others can gain insight, too, and feel less alone. - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Oct 28, 2020 I was just talking last week with an Instagram friend about how so few stories seem to be told by men living with chronic illness. I can imagine that it makes men feel more alone or even as though they have to hide their conditions. Thank you to Rachit for sharing his story and experiences. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 I think so too, that men may have it harder in that regard, as there are so few voices in the community compared to women. THey too, need immense support and a community they can feel supported by. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends URL: https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/ Last updated: 2026-04-21T15:57:38.000Z *\*Content Warning: Mentions of anxiety, panic attacks, depression and suicidal ideation.* I’m writing this whilst in a mentally unsound state of being, for a bit of cathartic release at 1am. Anxiety and panic attacks have been plaguing me for months. I had a full blown panic attack yesterday, the sort where I collapse onto the floor and heave, and wail, and scream my lungs out, not caring if the neighbours hear me. Because that’s how it feels like inside my head. And it’s been bubbling, bubbling, bubbling for months. My daily antidepressants - vortioxetine and escitalopram - are already maxed out. They’ve helped to dig the well of tolerance a little deeper, but just barely. They have stopped the suicidal ideations though, so that’s something, I guess. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Mental Health & Chronic Pain Boards: ![The Savagery of Panic Attacks and The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/savagery-panic-attacks-saving-grace-internet-friends.jpg) ## Xanax, the Great Slayer of Panic Attacks Did I tell you that I love my xanax? No, I don’t take it daily. Not even for weeks on end at times. And no, I’m not an addict. (If you have a problem with medications for mental disorders, [go educate yourself](https://patient.info/news-and-features/why-is-there-still-stigma-around-antidepressants) (Patient.info, 2018) – on the right channels.) [It’s a short term medication to control anxiety and panic attacks](https://www.drugs.com/xanax.html) (Drugs .com, 2024). And when I’m having one of those, xanax really kills their engines. I don’t even get high, I just get calm. Not even calm like [**post floatation therapy**](https://achronicvoice.com/floatation-therapy-chronic-pain/) or [**yoga calm**](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/). But calm as in ‘I feel normal again and can function without that jittery bug fluttering all over my brain and heart and body’. It feels so good to be normal. Just normal. Read Related Posts: - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - [What’s it Like to be on a High Dose of Steroids? (And the First Question You Will Definitely Ask)](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) Pin to Your Education & Mental Disorder Boards: ![“If you have a problem with medications for mental disorders, go educate yourself — on the right channels.”](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/medications-mental-disorders-educate-quote.jpg) ## Disappointment After Disappointment I guess you could say it’s been disappointment after disappointment. In myself, in my business, in my family relationships, in my health, in the way I manage or don’t manage my health. I’ve been panting all day today, and had another anxiety attack. The xanax snapped me back into myself again. And I needed absolute darkness and silence. Even the soft sounds from my friend’s phone had to be plugged into earphones, because even that tingled and taunted the edges of my brain. It isn't 'irritation' in its simple form, but one that carries pulses of electrical anxiety via the nerves of my brain. The pulses turn into currents, and the currents into a gushing flood. They carry these little anxiety 'bugs' that burrow into that soft space of my brain, sucking serenity out of me, transferring their waste into me. Then finally, it culminates and bleeds and explodes. That sort of 'irritation'. Half my body was tingling and numb. It was frightful. I catastrophized as usual, and I have every right to. Worst things have happened within hours, even minutes. That absolute silence. That absolute darkness. It is something I can’t get at home. There is no compromise without a backlash of sorts. So I swallow, and swallow, and swallow, and burst. And swallow some more. Pin to Your Anxiety & Mental Disorder Boards: ![Anxiety transmits little 'bugs' that burrow into that soft space of my brain, sucking serenity, transferring waste.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/anxiety-bugs-serenity-waste-quote.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [You Don’t Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) ## There is a Big Difference Between 'Producing' & 'Productivity' I honestly didn’t think that I’d start my entry for the linkup this way. In fact, I wasn’t even motivated to write it, because I have 101 things on my todo list. 101 maybe not-all-important things but need-to-do want-to-do things. I admit. I am addicted to productivity. There is a difference between ‘producing’ and ‘productivity’, though. What I think I’m doing: producing. What people think I’m busy with: productivity. What I’m actually doing: producing without prioritising and self-care and therefore, the exact opposite concept of productivity. Pin to Your Productivity & Perspective Boards: ![There Is A Big Difference Between Producing Produtivity](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/producing-productivity-difference-quote.jpg) ![Producing without prioritising and self-care is the exact opposite concept of productivity.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/producing-prioritise-self-care-productivity-quote.jpg) ## The Addiction to Achievement I also read this book – [StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Gallup](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00DDR6WJK?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=703a5f4a24b3aed8fffb19f8e99d7e0a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) – this month, and the very first character in the list was ‘Achiever’, which caught my full attention because it felt like they were describing me to a T. I read all the other characters in the book, and found one or two more I could semi-relate to, but nothing like the ‘Achiever’ one. I am not a perfectionist, but I do like a good quality, tangible result. Here are some of the statements that I could totally relate to: > *“You feel as if every day starts at zero. By the end of the day you must achieve something tangible in order to feel good about yourself. And by ‘every day’ you mean every single day – workdays, weekends, vacations.”* > *“After each accomplishment is reached, the fire dwindles for a moment, but very soon it rekindles itself, forcing you toward the next accomplishment. Your relentless need for achievement might not be logical. It might not even be focused. But it will always be with you. As an Achiever you must learn to live with this whisper of discontent. It does have its benefits.”* > *“Remember to build celebration and recognition into your life. Achievers tend to move on to their next challenge without acknowledging their successes.”* > *“Count personal achievements in your scoring ‘system’. This will help you direct your Achiever talents toward family and friends as well as toward work.”* ## Strengthen What You're Already Good At to Go Further As I read through each character profile, I could imagine various friends, but of course, not a 100% fit but a mélange. Nobody is a 100%, I would think, even if a trait is dominant. The book is interesting in the sense that it believes in strengthening your strengths, as opposed to continuous 'improvement' on your weaknesses, and the struggle that comes along with something that isn't inherently natural. To sum it up from the book: > *“From the cradle to the cubicle, we devote more time to our shortcomings than our strengths. This is quite apparent in the way we create icons out of people who struggle to overcome a lack of natural talent.”* > "The inspirational nature of this story actually masks a significant problem: Overcoming deficits is an essential part of the fabric of our culture." (Does the word 'ableism' sound familiar here?) > "You **cannot** be anything you want to be - but you **can** be a lot more of who you already are." Pin to Your Self-Awareness & Quotes Boards: ![“You cannot be anything you want to be - but you can be a lot more of who you already are.” - Strengths Finder, Tom Rath](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/be-more-you-quote.jpg) It was quite eye-opening, and the book was a quick, easy read: [![StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Tom Rath](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41qWK+LtzTL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/159562015X?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Tom Rath") [Buy Book from Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00DDR6WJK?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=46a9b3efab940d281eefca104299bd54&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ## So, I Suppose Imposter Syndrome is a Real Thing I’ve been working on my business site which seems to go on and on to no end. Tweaking endlessly to get it perfect, knowing I might not even get any business when it launches. [Fear of not being a ‘real’ expert](https://allthingsendometriosis.com/podcast-struggles-marketing-yourself/) with all the solutions to every problem a client may have. I have this thing where I feel I need to be a real ‘expert’ before I offer my services for money. But really, we all learn along the way, and I do have sufficient knowledge to provide these services. I never really believed in [imposter syndrome](https://hbr.org/2008/05/overcoming-imposter-syndrome), but maybe, this is what it actually is. ## Killing It on My 101 Todo List of Nothingness I haven’t been producing any new blog posts of my own. I have no motivation, and it feels like the blog is dying a slow death. I don’t know. I had plans to expand on Antiphospholipid Syndrome knowledge, things I’ve learned the hard way, the long way after 20 years, since I was a tween. But I haven’t even gotten around to that since January. Talk about procrastination. With the 101 todo list of nothingness. I’ve been producing so much. Problem is, if you ask me what I’ve been really producing, I can’t even remember anything of significance, or any major milestones. Maybe my mind is in a block right now, and I am simply too exhausted to even think. I have been flaring for weeks, and can’t even lie down properly to get enough sleep. I haven’t slept in two days, so I guess that contributed to the meltdown. A small, final trigger was all it took to cause that explosion. And all it takes is a few mean words. Or the tone in speech. Thinking about it now makes me feel a tad embarrassed. Because it seemed like nothing major to cause such a reactive, emotional outburst. Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [How Much Time Are You Wasting On Sleep?](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/) - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) ## Digital Marketing & Online Business Reads I’ve been acquiring lots of new tidbits of information in digital marketing, SEO, and online business. Through a [Digital Marketing Strategist course](https://www.linkedin.com/in/sherylchan/) I took to become certified, and through reading a number of new books and articles. If there’s one thing I’m happy about, it’s that I seem to have formed a morning reading routine, because I actually want to learn more, and my appetite for this knowledge is voracious. I’m curious. It’s helpful information. It will help my business. It’s fascinating all at once. These are the books I’ve read or am currently reading, and would recommend, should you be interested, too: [![Five Figure Funnels: How To Sell Marketing Funnel Services To Your Customers For Five Figures In Any Market, No Matter Your Experience](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41qFRJHYmsL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1649451296?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Five Figure Funnels: How To Sell Marketing Funnel Services To Your Customers For Five Figures In Any Market, No Matter Your Experience") [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1649451296?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=add0738d48711de041b01c94f1b7fca2&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) [![Traffic Secrets](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51ZaRQcoFtL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1401958915?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Traffic Secrets") [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/Traffic-Secrets/dp/1401958915?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=063538a9cae780a8cf5e8fc3f96e5637&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You’re All Invited, Too!)](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies: Part II](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies-2/) - [Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill: Part III](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-3-chronically-ill/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Book Review: The Narwhal Who Suffers from Chronic Migraines](https://achronicvoice.com/book-review-narwhal-migraines/) ## A Scotch Whisky Name for a Scottish Dog I’ve also acquired, if you could call it that, a little shetland sheepdog pup whom I named long before I got him. COVID-19 has made even pets difficult to acquire, so I’ve been stalking all the dog pages for months every day. The last time I booked an appointment to view some sheltie pups the following day after they arrived was a no go; the pups were sold out within two hours from their pics being posted. [Talisker, a brand of whisky](https://www.malts.com/en-row/distilleries/talisker) that I quite enjoy ([Ardbeg](https://www.ardbeg.com/home) comes first ❤). Perfect name I think, for a Scottish dog. I love him and his name, although I hadn’t imagined that people have difficulty pronouncing his name here. Haha. My parents have already given him different nicknames. He’s only two months old, tinier than he actually looks in pictures, still needs 18 hours of rest a day, and yes - I’m happy to wait for him to take his time to grow up, and savour every bit of it. > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/CGRsDKTjWJ8/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/CGRsDKTjWJ8/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/CGbSfk9DVmZ/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/CGbSfk9DVmZ/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) ## Switching from Baby to Adult Foods & What I've Learned I’ve been panting (how unfit) just running after him cleaning up, playing, feeding, and so on. I think it’s good training or to get a taste of what it feels like to have an actual human baby. For the future. I’ll start with the dog. I’m totally green to this whole dog caring thing though, and already keep worrying when he shows signs of lethargy, or rash, or something else. I’m worried about the finances involved as well, as I need to wait for another two months before I can buy him insurance. I don’t know how or what to feed him yet, and am just sticking to what the pet shop has fed him thus far, and switching him slowly to a variety of foods. But I know I’ll learn, just like with my birds. It was so scary syringe-feeding something tinier than your thumb, but now I can feed a batch of six chicks within 5 - 10 minutes. Going back to my business - that really should be the approach I should take. Learn along the way. Enjoy the learning process. Learn from the mistakes (thankfully nobody is going to die when it comes to work, as compared to caring for newborn animals). Move on, and gain experience like that. I need to break free of that rigidity, but it’s ingrained in my personality, partially embedded as the eldest kid from young, so it can be a bit of a struggle. But I’ll have to try. > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/CCh6Xj-DXra/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/CCh6Xj-DXra/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/CFuHfNijR9q/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/CFuHfNijR9q/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) ## Forming Lovely Friendships on CISP That Goes Beyond Moderating I’ve been forming such lovely relationships with my moderators over at [CISP (Chronic Illness Social Pod)](https://www.facebook.com/groups/ChronicIllnessSocialPod). The group chat has evolved from moderating the share threads, to daily check ins on each other, virtual support, and a close-knit group where we talk about everything under the sun. From politics and COVID-19 where we live, to social media Q&As, and more. What makes it even more interesting is that we’re all from different countries - Singapore, UK, USA and India respectively. So there’s four global perspectives right there, and I really really love that. *(Read:* [*World Arthritis Day ‘COVID-19 Time Capsule’ with Sheryl from Singapore*](https://creakyjoints.org/living-with-arthritis/coronavirus/patient-perspectives/arthritis-covid-19-time-capsule-sheryl-chan/)*)* We’ve also started an [Instagram account where we’re featuring spoonies](https://www.instagram.com/cispfriends/), their medical conditions, stories and accounts. Anyone is welcome to be featured, whether they’re part of our Facebook Group or not. [Get in touch with all of us on Instagram here](https://campsite.bio/cispfriends), and if you want to be featured too, drop us an email at: **cispfriends@gmail.com** (We might take a while to respond and get your post up because we're chronically ill too, just like you ;) ) ### Competition Amongst the Chronically Ill is Ridiculous We’re big on community, reciprocation, fairness and advocacy. It’s wonderful to have a team who lift each other up, where we can share about a bad day, and the good. It really is such a blessing for me, and I’m so happy to have these lovely people in my life. If there’s one thing I don’t want in CISP as it continues to slowly grow and expand, it is competition amongst each other. I believe that competition amongst spoonies is ridiculous. We’re outnumbered as it is, and need to respect each other’s perspectives, believe in each other’s pain, and not become the society whom we claim is ableist and abusive. To sum that up with a quote by Friedrich Nietzsche: > *“Battle not with monsters, lest ye become a monster, and if you gaze into the abyss, the abyss gazes also into you”* Read Related Posts: - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [Why Humility is the Best Tool for Advocacy](https://achronicvoice.com/humility-advocacy/) - [Don’t Compare, Your Life Destination is Your Own Special Mission](https://achronicvoice.com/dont-compare-life-destination-special/) Pin to Your Friendship & Support Boards: ![#PerspectivesMatter. Competition amongst the chronically ill is ridiculous. We're outnumbered as it stands. #StrongerTogether](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/competition-chronically-ill-stronger-together-2.jpg) ## An Everlasting Bond Requires Cultivation And whilst we’re on the topic of forming, of course I have to add that I hope to form a bond with Talisker that is everlasting and unbreakable. A timeless, unspoken love. One that I will work on cultivating, together with him. And yes, also with my cute little cockatiels who are my fluffy little supporters. Speaking of which, one of the contributors to the meltdown was that I discovered dozens of bugs crawling on Stella (mummy bird) in the nest box, and freaked out. We had to throw the nestbox away, along with all their wooden stands and toys, disinfect the cages, spray the birds with bug spray, and fumigate my room late into the night. It didn’t help that I had had three appointments at the hospital earlier that day, and was already completely bushed from barely sleeping the night before. ## Months of Little Panic Attacks Stewing in a Giant Pot Adrenaline got me going, and I was sweating like a pig in the humid heat of Singapore. As my room was fumigated, I had to sleep on the couch for the night, and the small table fan didn’t do much to relieve the heat. Combined with the aches and pain all over my body, I obviously didn’t sleep much at all, and the morning sun might have triggered my Lupus a little bit more as well. And whilst I thought that I could rest up the next day, a string of unpredictable events meant that I had to push through once again. So when those few mean words were uttered at night, I couldn’t handle anything anymore. Months of little panic attacks were stirred into a giant pot and exploded, splattering its ugliness everywhere. Whilst a kind stranger on a Cockatiel FB Group in Singapore took Stella's eggs in for incubation as she didn't want to sit on them anymore, only one egg survived. I will probably keep it, and call it 'Bug'. Just kidding. Let's just hope it's healthy when it hatches. Read Related Posts: - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does ‘Normal’ Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) - [What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Featuring People with Illnesses, Passions & Talents](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-people-illnesses-talents/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) ## Someone Please Switch My Brain Off I can’t remember what I wanted to talk about with the ‘switching’ prompt originally. It’d be nice though, if I could just switch my brain off for a couple hours. Total nothingness. Total bliss. No anxiety, no panic attacks, no depression, no worries, no pain. I actually really enjoy going under general anaesthesia. I love it when the anaesthetist puts that mask over my nose and mouth and asks me to count down from 10\. That quick disappearance into nothingness; I love blacking out like that. Of course, I don’t enjoy waking up to post-surgery pain and nausea. That’s the obvious drawback. And NO. I don’t want to undergo GA anytime soon, because that means surgery, and surgery means pain, and hospital stays. Things that I now have developed phobias of. I will do anything to stay out of the hospital. Once they’ve figured out what the problem is, I am always begging the doctor to let me go home, and to let me monitor my condition and recover from home, if it’s juuuust stable enough to do so. I hate hospital stays. End of conversation on that one. Read Related Posts: - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [A Pain Pill, a Caress, an Exhalation of Relief](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-pill-caress-relief/) Pin to Your Mental Health Awareness & Chronic Pain Boards: ![“It’d be nice if I could just switch my brain off for a couple hours. Total nothingness. Total bliss. No anxiety, no panic attacks, no depression, no worries, no pain.” Read the post: The Savagery of Panic Attacks, and The Saving Grace of Internet Friends on A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/switch-brain-off-no-anxiety-panic-attacks-depression-worries-pain.jpg) ## Self-Soothing Bites You in the Ass in the Long Run I guess something else that I need to switch is my lifestyle. It isn’t healthy I admit, even for a healthy person. Late nights, stress from everywhere - often self-inflicted - not the best diet, lack of exercise, cigarettes...the list goes on. Perhaps some of these I use to [self-soothe](https://positivepsychology.com/self-soothing/), but I also know that it’s a vicious cycle that bites you in the ass in the end, yet I still go there for the immediate relief, even if brief. I guess I do need to switch things up slowly. But I have no motivation to do so, not much at least. Read Related Posts: - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [Give Your Best Anyway, Even When You’re Feeling Depressed](https://achronicvoice.com/give-your-best-even-when-feeling-depressed/) - [#projChronicWisdom: Secret Motivation Tips for When You’re Unmotivated](https://achronicvoice.com/projchronicwisdom-motivation-tips/) Pin to Your Mental Health & Self-Care Boards: ![Self soothing bites you in the ass in the long run.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/self-soothing.jpg) ## Lockdown vs Locked in Physically & Mentally I feel that as long as I’m living with my parents 24/7 in lockdown and lock in mode for now, I’m trapped. Mostly inside my head. Which affects everything else. Corrodes every other aspect of my life. Once again I’d like to emphasise, I don’t hate my parents. We get on mostly okay, although my way of thinking is so different from theirs that it’s impossible to share any real thoughts without getting lectured. So it’s all surface talk. So when I had that breakdown, even though they were both there beside me, I had to call a friend and beg him to help save me. I’m not sure how to describe it, but there it is. I need space. Lots of it. I need darkness. I need pure silence. I need nothing. I need so much nothing right now. Pin to Your Anxiety & Panic Attacks Board: ![When a panic attack strikes: I need space. I need darkness. I need silence. I need a lot of Nothing.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/panic-attack-strikes.jpg) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (52 Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) - [Is Seeking Help for Your Mental Health Worth It?](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/) Pin to Your Mental Health & Mental Illness Boards: ![Cathartic Writing At 1 Am (Post Panic Attack)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/cathartic-writing-panic-attack.jpg) ![The Savagery Of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace Of Internet Friends](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-friends-gloom-doom-glory.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Anne ](https://www.raisiebay.com) Oct 30, 2020 Sheryl, just reading this post makes me realise that you are doing too much, pushing yourself too far. You can allow yourself to self soothe, in fact it’s a necessity. I hope you can get your brain in check and stop the panic attacks. I love your little dog xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Aww thanks Anne. Maybe I have, yet feel that I’m still unproductive, because I haven’t really closed many business deals of late! Finances can sure take an impact. - [ Rhiann ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com) Oct 30, 2020 Hello Sheryl, I am sorry that you are having such a horrible time mentally at the moment, and when reading this, I hope you are feeling better. Anxiety and panic attacks are extremely horrible and such an isolating experience knowing from experience. I think it’s incredibly brave that you have shared your experiences in a beautifully raw and honest post. I hope your beautiful new dog (seriously in love! 😍) is giving you much comfort and joy during this difficult time. Sending hugs and take care of yourself xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Aww thanks Rhiann. He’s been a brat (which pup isn’t right?) but an adorable brat! Thanks for the love, sending some right back to you! - Kathryn Forsyth Oct 28, 2020 Your over-tired brain still did a great job of describing your life this month, Sheryl. I had a lot more anxiety at the beginning of this pandemic. I also had a lot more trouble sleeping. Lately, it’s depression sucking me down. I’ve been so very tired since having pneumonia, and I’m not sure that it’s all due to that infection. I miss my little doggie. I’m so happy you found such a cute furry friend. Hugs! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Thanks Kathy, I have no idea how, but it seems like a pretty random post I wrote there, ha. My depression and anxiety are at peak levels too, and am also trying to get them down. Like chronic pain, they fluctuate, so it can be hard to control and frustrating. Aww…I hope you can get a furry companion again sometime. 🙂 - Ava Meena Oct 26, 2020 I’m sorry things have been so hard 💜 I have used valium for pain related panic attacks and there’s often no other recourse for me once it gets that bad. Thankful we have these meds. I’m hoping for better days for you. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Thank you lovely. Yes I think it can be hard for others to understand why we even need these meds, and med shame us. But these meds are serious lifesavers. - Kadie Oct 26, 2020 I related to a lot of what you’ve said here about anxiety and panic attacks but what hit home most to me is the little part about switching your brain off. The closest I’ve ever been to general anesthesia was a couple of years ago when I had my wisdom teeth removed and I remember that feeling of no racing thoughts, no anxiety, no panic, no negative thoughts and mostly no pain, none, zip. First time I ever remember not having some sort of pain. I remember being awake enough to hear someone say “oh that’s gonna hurt later” but at the time I was just so pain-free and so free of any worries and I just wanted to stay that way. Needless to say, I did hurt later but at the time it was the most blissful feeling in the world. I am sorry you are having such a hard time right now and have so much going on. I hope you can take some comfort and joy in your new little puppy. My husband and I rescued two kittens during the lockdown and though one of them sadly passed away I have poured myself heart and soul into the other one who is thriving and with who I have developed such a special bond with which has helped so much! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Haha yes anaesthesia can be great like that hey…until the pain hits hard later :p But that nothingness feels so good. No pain, for once. I am so sorry to hear that one kitten passed away 🙁 I hope the other is doing well now? - [ Alison Hayes ](https://www.thrivingwhiledisabled.com) Oct 25, 2020 Sheryl, Sending you hugs and love! That’s a lot of overwhelm and fear that you’re struggling with! I understand those anxiety flares, I have had them myself – though only one event I’d describe as a panic attack. It”s really hard to do anything near thinking logically and your description felt very apt. I also deeply understand the stress of living with parents.. I moved in with my mother for financial reasons a year or so after my father’s death, and it was incredibly painful. My father had always been calmly supportive, with my mother being much less predictable/reliable and my mother leaned on me emotionally during the time. Between that and the intensity of constantly being aware of my father’s absence, things were very painful and stressful. We all got through it, but I felt much better after I moved out of the house and had something resembling my own space. Your ending words are sticking with me – that desire for dark, quiet nothingness. I understand that urge a bit, when things seem too chaotic and out of control, but I know that my personal actions tend to be towards activity, light, and action. I have a hard time staying still, being calm, or keeping things quiet. I’ve accepted this part of my contradictory nature, and I suspect that we have some similarities on that front. Reading your thoughts on ‘producing’ I feel that identity too – I tend to feel like I HAVE to be productive and make new, different, exciting things – and create value. Finding the right balance with that is hard, but I think you’ve given yourself a seedling of an idea. I have several self-care expectations for myself that I do before get down to ‘work’ and one of my most important shifts in expectation was to prioritize my self-care as essential to do before working on my blog or business. Maybe something like that would help you too. To actually be more productive, you need to be healthier – eating decently, exercising regularly, and so on. Maybe you can, like I did, build some of that into your daily self-expectations so that you can get work done more days and feel better when doing so. I’m so sorry that Stella had an infestation and I really hope that the surviving egg hatches a healthy chick. Love your puppy and let him love you back! He may also be a great tool for helping you get some more regular exercise by going out for walks together! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts in such detail, Alison 🙂 It really is much harder than it sounds, isn’t it? It isn’t just ‘get up and fix it’, especially when anxiety and depression are pushing you down. Quite a vicious cycle really. Like you know what will help, yet can’t reach out for it, and do just the opposite to feel better, which doesn’t help! - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/2020/10/12/world-arthritis-day-why-it-matters-to-me-arthritis-everywhere/) Oct 23, 2020 Great post, Sheryl! I’m a day late coming over here to read it, but will be snooping around your site for my weekly ‘drive-by’. Panic attacks are awful, but look at you making the best of it by writing at 1am! I try to avoid writing so late, but sometimes that need is so strong and so undeniable, you just have to do it! Fantastic! I always find I’m strongest with writing when I’m upset and it’s late. As for your comments about business, it’s tough. As someone who runs a giant online HR business, I can say that it’s very stressful. We wear so many different hats to keep things going. We’re dealing with teachers and schools in countries all over the world and the time and effort we have to put into our website, soc med accounts, newsletters, and all the other little things that crop up with running your own business – especially during a pandemic – none of it will ever be perfect. But we do know that our program is highly rated and that our teachers appreciate that and it helps because we’re way behind on perfecting our site! (Actually it’s just me since my husband doesn’t know much. It’s hard!) I guess what I’m trying to say is to go easy on yourself. There’s only so much you can do and you also need to keep your health in mind. Take good care. You do an excellent job with everything that you do! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Haha ‘drive by’…I like the sound of that :p Yes I usually don’t write well at all at night, but it is also cathartic for me, and I just needed to immerse myself. I write best when in pain…the irony. Do I then have to always be in pain to be my best? 😛 Haha. - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Oct 23, 2020 I’m sorry you’ve been having such an incredibly rough time of it mentally. Anxiety can be overwhelming and all-consuming, and panic attacks are very unpleasant (understatement of the century). I think it’s amazing you wrote this at 1am while feeling the way you were. You did brilliantly with the prompts, and I really like that you’ve written about meds because there’s still so much stigma sadly attached to them for mental health or pain. I’m actually having to go back on Citalopram because my anxiety has become unmanageable again. I only came off them because I’d had to up the pain meds and regularly have to use migraine meds, and mixing them all isn’t too great an idea. Anyway, waffle waffle. I personally feel totally wrung out, with too much to do as I’m trying to take on more for my parents as they shield, and not enough time. I’m never well enough and doing too much makes my health worse. I don’t ever get to the things I’d ‘like’ to do, which makes me a tiny bit resentful of the to-do list at times. Productivity is something I’m also addicted to. Your look into productivity vs producing is interesting. Like you, I feel I’ve not been producing so much. I think some of that is when there’s little that’s meaningful. I can ‘do’ lots of stuff, but not much has particular meaning. It’s painful. It’s like how badly I want to write a book but I never will; that would feel meaningful and productive, but I don’t get the time and I don’t have the energy. What we probably both would benefit from is the world stopping, just briefly, so we can catch our breath, catch up with life, and start afresh. Ditto your thoughts on competition in the chronic illness realm. I find it pretty sick and very frustrating when people try to do it. I also just wanted to say I don’t think – and I’m pretty sure nobody else does either – that your blog is ‘dying a slow death’. It’s very much alive, it’s very much a top chronic illness blog, and you my friend are very much loved in this community. I wouldn’t mind taking a digital marketing course actually. Maybe some graphic design too (where you just design and move things around, as I can’t draw to save my life). I’m trying to learn a bit more on the SEO front, too. What a sweetie Talisker is! I love the name too, perfect. I think my invisible dog would have to be called Jack Daniel’s or Jim Beam 😆 An incredible post, Sheryl. Sending lots of love & gentle hugs your way 🤗♥ - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Thank you for all the lovely comments and conversation here, Caz 🙂 Haha I write best when in any sort of pain. The irony, hey? As if I need to be in permanent pain to always write my best lol. And yes panic attacks are horrendous. I think you can’t really understand it, until you’ve had a full blown one. THey are also my pre-seizure auras, where the panic rushes through my body from head to toe, so that adds to the fear that I might be getting a seizure. DOuble whammy. And yes, I really hate all that unnecessary competition. We need to be supporting each other. Sending hugs xxx - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Oct 22, 2020 There is so much you have said here – so much to absorb. For when you write of being an achiever, producing-productivity, the bond of online friends, for not having competition… everything speaks to me and I’m sure all of us. We connect with you in all this and I hope you know how special it is what you do. I feel, sometimes, we don’t realise it, but when we think we’re not producing, when we’re reading, experimenting – basically when we’re learning, we really are being productive because we’re creating foundations with valuable knowledge which consciously and sub-consciously help us during the times we believe are “productive” – it all reduces the effort that goes into “producing”. I just wanna end by saying two more things… good luck with your business website – you know your stuff and I believe your clients will see that… and… we love you Sherrryyyyylllllll!!! 😀 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 I love that view point Shruti…you are always so full of wisdom and perspective! 🙂 Yes I too believe that everything is connected and nothing is isolated (it’s on my About page in fact!), yet at the same ironic time, my monkey brain taunts me otherwise. - Katie Clark Oct 22, 2020 One thing that makes me mad for you is that you aren’t able to get disability of some sort so that you can have your own place. Even though your parents are supportive and loving, living together is an extra stressor, I know, as my adult children, who I love beyond measure, lived with us. While I know your talent and expertise will be in high demand, the stress of your business must be high. I’m struggling, too, trying to figure out how to work to earn a bit. So far, nothing has been flexible enough to allow for the full time job of self-care. I just want you to know that you much loved. You do more for others than you know. Be good to yourself. PS- this site gas s wealth of helpful posts that will always be needed. Don’t give up on it. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Aww…thanks for feeling my pain, Katie. Haha yes no such thing as disability to live by yourself here. Unheard of! Even healthy single people can’t buy a housing apartment on their own until they’re at least 35 years old. I guess space is really limited here, lol. Thank you for the encouragement 🙂 - Via Oct 22, 2020 I cannot say enough how much I relate to this. The constant sinking depression, panic attacks because you’re always hovering just on the edge, the guilty pleasure of undergoing anaesthesia – I relate to all of that so much. Especially as I’m reaching the end of the list of anxiety drugs I can try and getting closer and closer to the conclusion that I may be med-resistant. I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve been going through all of this, but I can’t say enough what a beautiful gift it is to turn so much pain into something tangible, so other people can feel it with you. Well done, this is beautiful. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 THank you Via. I’m glad that some good came out of that panic attack with this post, lol. I hope it lends some insight into the torment, even slight. - [ Chronic Mom ](https://chronicmom.com) Oct 22, 2020 I really relate to this. Before the Xanax hysteria in the US it used to help me so much. It was the only thing that could really stave off a panic attack. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Xanax is really such a lifeline, no kidding. It breaks suicidal ideation for me too when it’s due to anxiety. So for people to say otherwise, they really don’t know what they’re talking about and are too privileged to understand such torment. - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Oct 21, 2020 That last line of needing nothing really stood out to me. When everything is so overwhelming that is often exactly what we need. I had panic attacks or vertigo attacks (we can’t figure out which as they are so similar) years ago, and all I needed was nothing. Not work, as I sat in my office (thankfully private, just me) with the door firmly closed so nobody saw me shaking, not seeing friends in person, not days out. Nothing. I needed quiet, peace and space. I hope that things become easier for you Sheryl, and that Talisker (and the birds) bring you joy. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Nothing is so great, isn’t it? :p Thank you for your lovely support as always my friend! - [ Melinda ](https://www.lookingforthelight.blog) Oct 21, 2020 You have said a lot and boy do you have a lot going on! I understand the challenge of getting a pet during the lockdown, we went thru the same thing, it took months to get a dog. He’s brought so much joy into my life. It must be extra stressful being at your parent’s place right now, no doubt that is adding to your stress. The positive is you’ve found motivation in the new books your reading which can help change your focus. I know that doesn’t carry over to the entire day but is a good start. Take care of yourself and thank goodness for your friends. M - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 I’m glad your little companion brings you such joy, too! Yes we all need to look out for each other, both on and offline 🙂 Never know who’s hurting deep inside. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Triggers Trigger Triggers (Re-stabilisation Procedure Encore) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/triggers-trigger-triggers-re-stabilisation/ Last updated: 2026-01-08T13:47:12.000Z *\*Content Warning: Mentions of suicide ideation in the post.* *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I’ve archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I’ve kept most of the posts written as I realise it’s much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Trying to Stabilise Anxiety & Depression I’ve been feeling out of sorts of late, that’s for sure. My emotions are chaotic and all over the place, as I’m seized by anxiety and depression simultaneously. I had backslid to my suicidal ideation state, so I knew I had to call my psychiatrist asap. My antidepressant dosages have gone up, as my psychiatrist thinks that I need to stabilise the anxiety and panic attacks first. How did this come to be? Was it all of a sudden? What were the triggers? *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Read Related Posts: - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [Is Seeking Help for Your Mental Health Worth It?](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - [Why You Need a Good Therapist on Your Healthcare Team (Based on My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-good-therapist/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![Triggers Trigger Triggers (Re-Stabilisation Procedure Encore)](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/triggers-stabilisation-pin-2-2-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ## Triggers Trigger Triggers I believe it was a cascade of events; each event pushed the buttons of the others, and set it off in a final firecracker display. At first it was a month of work-related stress. I was excited about getting some income, but perhaps that job in particular wasn’t good for my stress levels. Something for me to bear in mind in future - even though history does repeat itself every now and again. I can’t help it when I start feeling better. It’s been 6 weeks since then and I’m only just recovering from this single, gruelling work-related stress episode. It’s been painful physically, mentally and my fatigue levels have been off the charts. I can sleep 10 hours a day and still feel exhausted, yet my sleep quality has been poor, and I’ve been up itching every night. Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Chronic Stress, the Silent Assassin](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/) - [The Eternal Spoonie Struggle: Justifying Rest & Recovery Time](https://achronicvoice.com/spoonie-justifying-rest-recovery-time/) - [How Much Time Are You Wasting On Sleep?](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/) ## Locked Down and Locked in Buying or renting a house in Singapore is ridiculously expensive. And with all my health bills to pay, I can't afford that, and so I live with my parents. The standard house in Singapore is small compared to what others overseas might be used to. This means that I face my parents all day long and we are within a few arms’ reach all day, working in the same space. This too, had a huge impact on my mental health. So what I tried to do was to run to cafés to work nearly every day, for long periods of time. This exhausted me further physically, and though I'd come home all achy, it was still better in my mind than being trapped at home. I know that I sound like a spoilt brat, but there I said it. Read Related Posts: - [COVID-19 Vaccine Experiences from People with Chronic Conditions](https://achronicvoice.com/covid-19-vaccine-experiences/) - [What’s it Like to be the Mother of a Sick Child? (Precious Insights from My Own Mum)](https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/) - [What’s it Like to be the Father of a Child with Chronic Illness? (Precious Insights from My Own Dad!)](https://achronicvoice.com/father-of-child-with-chronic-illness/) - [Invisible in Singapore: What’s It Like to Live Here with Chronic Illnesses?](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) ## The Need to Improve My Diet & Lifestyle I’ve been faced with all sorts of temptations of late, too. Unhealthy and addictive late-night snacking - I’ve gained too much belly weight and am skinny fat. But I’ve been trying to mend that by regulating my grocery orders and planning my meals a little bit more. I don’t eat the same pre-cooked meals as my parents all the time now. It’s easier to be more precise as to what goes into my body when I prepare my own meals. Looking at [Claire’s low histamine recipes](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/low-histamine-recipes/) and [Shruti’s diet for endometriosis](https://allthingsendometriosis.com/recipe/chia-seed-chocolate-pudding-recipe-endometriosis/) have inspired me to eat a little better, and to treat my body with more respect. Hanging with the right crowd (yes, even online!), does help to inspire me to better myself in more ways than one. I often feel guilty because I don’t do enough to keep myself healthy as compared to others with chronic illness, even though I still live with daily pains. Sometimes it feels like I deserve the pain because I’m not taking care of myself as well as others with chronic illnesses. Read Related Posts: - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Sarah Frison – A Pastry Chef with a Stomach Disorder](https://achronicvoice.com/sarah-frison-pastry-chef-stomach-disorder/) ## Thoughts on Business & Street Smarts Finally, I’ve been running away from launching my business website for far too long. I keep tweaking it, trying to find that right angle, and whatnot. And I know that when I launch, business isn’t even going to start pouring in immediately and that it’d take some time and effort. So I really need to press that launch button and learn from there. (P.s. [My actual business website is now live here](https://work.achronicvoice.com/)! If you're looking for a medical writer and/or to build a website, get in touch 🙂) I admire people (like my friend, Eunice, and my sister, Shereen) who can just dive head in and learn on the go. I tend to plan and research and make sure all the stars align before I do that 'perfect' launch. I feel uncomfortable going into work not being an expert, as if I were an imposter. ### Winging It and Making It To illustrate, my sister started a canvas printing business with zero knowledge about it; she didn’t even know what a pixel was. But she managed to do pretty well! And my friend Eunice when we were back in school, applied for a job in setting up displays for events, and stated that she had experience when she had none. But she winged it and even managed to rope me in as per her boss’s request for more hands on deck. They’re both really street smart. Me? I’ve always been the more book smart one with the better grades - but that doesn’t get you that far in life, does it? Regardless, I do enjoy my books and texts and writing - and am not going to stray far from them, don’t you worry! This is a bit of a sketchy, poorly written entry this month. I’ve been a little burned out from blogging and maintaining all the network and social media communities online. I've also been attending courses to obtain [my Digital Marketing Strategist certification](https://www.linkedin.com/in/sherylchan/), and trying to get my business site launched. How are the rest of you doing? Hope to hear from you, too x ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [It’s in My Blood”: Jayne Bailey – Getting Crafty & Working as a Life Coach](https://achronicvoice.com/jayne-bailey-crafty-life-coach-eds/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Kelly Hodgkins — Riding Horses with CRPS](https://achronicvoice.com/kelly-hodgkins-riding-horses-with-crps/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [What’s It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![Triggers Trigger Triggers (Re-Stabilisation Procedure Encore)](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/stabilise-anxiety-depression-6-2-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Sue Jackson ](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/) Oct 4, 2020 Ah, Sheryl, I’m so sorry to hear how you’ve been struggling. I agree with you – the stresses and triggers can just pile up until it’s all too much, even though each thing might not seem like a big deal on its own. We are very fortunate – our 26-year -old son has been living at home with us the past 18 months or so, but we have a large house, so we can all spread out a bit – REALLY comes in handy with the pandemic and my husband working from home all the time now! Just being able to think it through and write about it, as you have done here, can often help – you are identifying and acknowledging the issues instead of burying them. So, I hope writing this post has helped you – I’m sure it will help others, too! Rest and take care of yourself! Sue New Book: Finding a New Normal: Living Your Best Life with Chronic Illness - Kathy Sep 30, 2020 I think your post was just perfect as it was. I always get something out of reading your posts. It’s good to know that I’m not the only one who struggles. Gentle hugs coming your way across the globe. - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Sep 28, 2020 I so know what you mean by just going for it rather than constantly tweaking for a certain level of perfection even before you hit the launch button. I’ve had to really let that go with my blog and I’m glad I did. I don’t mind learn as I go because doesn’t that happen regardless at what stage you’re at? In fact by waiting for perfection we’re probably slowing/delaying the practical, on-the-job-learning experience. Don’t think too much – just go for it Sheryl. (and… nope this is not poorly written for sure!) - [ Alison ](https://www.thrivingwhiledisabled.com) Sep 22, 2020 \*hugs\* Sheryl, a self-aware processing of what’s on your plate, if overly harsh on yourself! You don’t sound like a spoiled brat, you sound like a woman finding the right ways to cope with living with her parents. There is definitely a loss of freedom in that, and alone can be unbalancing. There are always going to be people who are worse off than you and people who are better-off. That doesn’t make your own struggles less significant for you. Using gratitude for what you do have can help you feel better, but guilting yourself that others may have it worse doesn’t help anybody. On the food front, I get it, and improving your diet isn’t a bad thing, but beating yourself up just makes your own journey harder. Reading this, I can hear the voice of depression in there, and want to reassure you that this too shall pass. You deserve happiness, and you can and will get back to it. May that return journey be as healthy and short as possible! \*hugs\* - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 25, 2020 Aww thanks Alison. You are always so sweet 🙂 It definitely can be a challenge living with others in a small space! Thanks for your kind words. And you’re probably right…the depression has been strong of late, but getting better with less stress and medication. Hope you are doing well yourself! - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Sep 22, 2020 Sheryl, this is not badly written! It’s honest and real, and that’s what makes for good writing!! I’m sorry the past month has been so tough. Living with others is always so challenging isn’t it, especiallly when cooped up due to lockdown. However, some tough love (from your online friend!!) – you absolutely do not deserve any one of your symptoms or conditions. None of us do. Life with chronic illness is hard and we all have different ways of coping. And thank you for the shoutout 🙂 I have learnt so much from you and others in the community, and am always so thankful for the support. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 22, 2020 Thank you for the kind words lovely. I wrote it without polishing it as per usual, heh. And I think I sound like an absolute spoilt brat! I should be grateful I have a family, a roof, I know 🙂 Hahaha…thank you online friend. I think I chat with you more than some friends in real life even these days since we’re so used to online communication! x - Katie Clark Sep 21, 2020 This is the opposite of poorly written. Maybe not as poetic as some of yours can be, but still honest and touches the heart. You show that even though we can know all the right things that help us to live our best, it’s really a lot to ask when we have all these things to deal with. You know this already, but you expect so much of yourself. Please, put yourself first. Sending you much love. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 22, 2020 Thank you for your honest and kind words, my friend. Yes guilt can be huge with chronic illness, but I still feel like often I could be trying harder. Sending hugs! - Katie Clark Sep 25, 2020 I understand completely. I think we are so alike in so many ways. I’m so glad that you are my friend in this blogosphere of life with chronic illness:) **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### When Your Stress & Fatigue Thresholds Suck (Also on Cute Cockatiels, Education via Zoom & Art Films for Rent) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/stress-fatigue-thresholds-suck/ Last updated: 2025-11-09T13:51:29.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Escaping to Cafés to Work, with the Easing Up of the Lockdown In July the lockdown laws were slightly eased in Singapore. We can now gather in groups of up to five, although social distancing and mask wearing are still enforced. What this meant was that I could finally work at cafés again, which is one thing that lifts my mood and increases my productivity. Although, I kind of overdid it in July as I was out nearly every day, in a bid to escape the tension at home. It’s not that I don’t love my family, but we’ve been literally sitting within visible distance from each other for the past few months all day, working and whatnot. I needed a breather (lots of it), and I paid the price for it. I haven’t had pain flares this bad (though not the worst ever) in a while, but I don’t regret anything. It’s a trade off between physical strain working outside, or mental and emotional strain staying indoors, and I chose and choose the former (for now at least!). *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Read Related Posts: - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) - [What's it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [Is Seeking Help for Your Mental Health Worth It?](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/) Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![When Your Stress and Fatigue Thresholds Suck (Also on Cute Cockatiels, Education via Zoom and Art Films for Rent)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/stress-fatigue-threshold-pin-4.jpg) ## Extra Limitations This Month from Additional Pain August seems to be a little quieter on the work front, which is perfect as my body has reached a maximum stress level, which is something like half of a healthy person’s threshold or even less. That’s good enough in my book; I’ve long [**learned to accept my limitations**](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) when it comes to work stress, and how much I can achieve to that end. I also suffered a [pleurisy](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/pleurisy/symptoms-causes/syc-20351863) in July (some inflammation and small blood clots around my chest bone area), which made it hard to breathe, walk and lie down to sleep. According to Mayo Clinic (2023): > "If you have pleurisy, these tissues swell and become inflamed. As a result, the two layers of the pleural membrane rub against each other like two pieces of sandpaper, producing pain when you inhale and exhale. The pleuritic pain lessens or stops when you hold your breath." It probably is a cause and effect in terms of the pain flares I experienced together with the work stress and commute. Although, the blood clots are probably a separate issue in itself from the [**Antiphospholipid Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/). Who knows what I accidentally ate or which vegetables I miscalculated in my diet to clot my blood a little more than usual. Might have been that soy milk latte I had instead of regular milk. I thought it tasted diluted but who knows. Read Related Posts: - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [Chronic Stress, the Silent Assassin](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/) ## Self-Education for a Better Future & Better Health I also signed up for a Digital Marketing Strategist course a while back, which begins in August, so that’s good timing as well. I’m not one who multitasks well, so I’m glad that I can just focus mainly on the course itself in August. I was only interested in the SEO module, and maybe the analytics bit, but I can become a certified Digital Marketing Strategist if I complete all the modules. Since there are subsidies, that’s a perfect opportunity to learn things that will be extremely relevant to blogging, and my upcoming business plans related to it. So far the teacher has been great over Zoom, and I've learned some practical new things. Mornings aren't quite my forté in terms of brain fog, pain and comprehension levels, but I've managed to survive week one! ### Attending My First Ever Online Qigong Class I also attended my first ever Qigong class in support of an ex-client, but it turned out to be very interesting. As there were only two of us students on Zoom, we had plenty of time to chat and ask questions. It was fascinating as a lot of the terms are familiar from childhood kungfu films, except it's now used in real life. Whilst I can't afford the private class rates for now and there are no course series coming up, we might work something out in exchange for blog reviews. We'll see if that happens and where that goes! Read Related Posts: - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [What’s It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) - [MediSearch Review: A Medical AI Search Engine for Patients, Clinicians & Medical Writers](https://achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/) - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) ## Watching The Baby Cockatiels Grow Into Their Own Personalities The baby cockatiels are growing up fast. I suppose they must in nature - make it fast or return to the food chain. I should really separate them from their parents so that they can become more independent and bond more intimately, but I’m a little lazy with the feeding duties. There have been a few enquiries, mainly from people who are looking for wives for their own cockatiels. All I pray for is that they go to kind, caring homes. As always, the white and yellow pearl coloured ones are more popular due to their uniqueness. But personality wise, the original ugly ducklings are the cutest hands down. I’m suspecting that Ardbeg (the white pearl) is female, due to her frosty attitude and gentle instincts (Stella mama has already laid a few more eggs and she's sitting on them, too!). Here's Ardbeg, the ice queen up high. The song playing in the background by chance is fitting and shall be her theme song - [‘Sitting in an Angry Chair’ by Alice in Chains](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpEXM1Yziws). *(\*Trigger warning: video has flashing lights.)* > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/CDOZDI6DKt7/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/CDOZDI6DKt7/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/CC0nMJMjIFP/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/CC0nMJMjIFP/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) ## Watching Art Films from "The Projector" I also found some [art films on The Projector](https://theprojector.sg/) (the ‘art cinema’ of Singapore), which we can rent for SGD12 online for 48 hours. We’ve watched a Chinese one directed by [Zhang Yimou](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6GC7NL7w4EQ) featuring Gong Li called "To Live". It's about life during the communist era, which was poignant if slow. I wouldn’t say it was my favourite film ever, but I think it’s possible to like a film in a different way. I appreciated the insight I gained, a bit of history in visual form where I can actually see how the communal kitchens and people were like back then. Then I watched [a French film, 'Fanny's Journey'](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MzIfsWb6zDI), the following weekend. It's based on a real-life story of how some Jewish children in France travel to safety in Switzerland on their own, and the troubles they encountered along the way. I found the young children really cute, and the film was light if the background behind it heavy. Once again, I appreciated the insight I gained from watching the environments, dressings, landscapes and more. This is impossible to imagine and invoke whilst studying history back in school, especially from a climate or culture we've never seen or experienced. I think films like these should be incorporated into the education system as they do help to pique interest and help students to form connections and make sense of what they’re actually studying. (The same goes for how math is useful, where I struggled to comprehend the 'why' and 'how' behind it as a student.) ## The Healing Journey is an Ongoing One I hope that August will be a restful month for me, where I return to being a student and blogger. I will try to launch that business site soon, and am reading some books to help me understand my target audience better, as it’s a little undefined at the moment. Life as a freelancer suits me well, but the unstable income can be a worry. I would say even more so when you’re chronically ill, because freelance jobs often come in a flow. Yet with chronic illness you need to dam that river on your own accord every few months or so, before trying to kickstart your business again. But once again, as I’ve already uttered a few times in this post, that’s okay. It is what it is. I can only do what I can, and flow in a different sort of way. Not a rushing mainstream river, but more of a lazy swirl down a mystical one. Often I’ll run into muddy bogs and move at a crawl, sometimes it’ll be like whitewater rafting, and sometimes it will seem magical around me. I’m sure in for a ride, aren’t I? 😉 ### Paying More Attention to My Diet Finally, I would like to pay more attention to my diet in August, as it certainly isn’t the most optimal. Whilst I’ve been drinking earl grey and peppermint tea with honey, honey is still sugar. I’ll also need to cut back on the snacking. I’m not saying I’ll be focussing 100% effort into transforming my life into a healthy one, because I find that miserable. I need to live and enjoy the ‘bad stuff’, too. But every bit counts towards healing and my wellbeing. So eating, moving and sleeping just that wee bit more will be helpful, too. Santé! Read [**last month's entry**](https://achronicvoice.com/july-maximise-wellbeing-stress/) or [**next month's entry**](https://achronicvoice.com/triggers-trigger-triggers-re-stabilisation/)to continue. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [July’s Supply & Demand: Learning to Maximise Wellbeing in the Midst of Stress](https://achronicvoice.com/july-maximise-wellbeing-stress/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [The Eternal Spoonie Struggle: Justifying Rest & Recovery Time](https://achronicvoice.com/spoonie-justifying-rest-recovery-time/) - [A Perfect Capture of Life with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/capture-life-with-chronic-illness/) Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![Spoonie Life: Living Life at Half the Energy Bar](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/spoonie-life-pin.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Rhiann ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com) Aug 29, 2020 Hello again for another month Sheryl, and thank you once again for the thought-provoking and inspiring prompts! I hope you are doing as well as can be and are recovering from pleurisy. Your cockatiels are certainly adorable and sound very entertaining, I am sure they are helping to put a smile on your face and are a wonderful distraction from the pain and other difficulties you continually face. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 4, 2020 Thank you Rhiann! It’s all better now but other issues are popping up. You know how it goes from a flare recovery…except it’s taking longer than the month I expected! I clearly forgot what ‘full time’ work is like :p Yes they do…in fact I just fed this new batch and kissed them goodnight. It’s amazing how they grow from a little egg! - Cynthia Aug 23, 2020 Your baby cockatiels are adorable!!! My fatigue level has hit an all-new level leaving me to also let accept that I can’t currently follow the schedule I have been keeping thus far. It’s frustrating, but fighting it just makes it worse. I hope this month has been a time of physical rest. Hugs! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 12, 2020 Thanks Cynthia! They really make me smile 🙂 I understand about the fatigue as mine is also at an all time low, though slowly improving through doing absolutely nothing and sleeping like a log! I hope yours heals up soon! xxx - [ Catherine Green ](https://spookymrsgreen.com) Aug 19, 2020 Hi Sheryl, I hope you are resting and recovering well alongside your studies. I have had pleurisy in the past and it was really painful. I thought that was what I had in June when I attended the hospital emergency department but instead they found a nodule on my lung! I find that my reiki practice and meditation help ease chest pain, lots of gentle deep breathing and relaxation. [https://spookymrsgreen.com/2020/08/17/how-to-unlock-your-potential-and-stop-unhealthy-behaviours/ ](https://spookymrsgreen.com/2020/08/17/how-to-unlock-your-potential-and-stop-unhealthy-behaviours/) - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 20, 2020 Hi Catherine, I’m glad that you found something that works for your chest pain! I get it a lot from a combo of poor posture, blood clots, inflammation, and my lung is partially dead from a previous pulmonary embolism which took months to recover from. Sending love and thanks for joining us in this month’s linkup once again! - Katie Clark Aug 13, 2020 I’m glad your taking some time for yourself. I, too, am a student and I love to learn, so I hope that is a rejuvenating time for you rather than more stress and draining. I appreciate how you have already shared your workflow and tips for Twitter and Pintrest. I look forward to learning more from you, but only after you are rested and recharged. Your FB Groups: Chronic Bloggers and Chronic Bloggers Social Pods are so helpful in learning more about blogging. I’ve learned from you and the people you have gathered there! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 16, 2020 Aww…you’re really such a sweetheart, Katie. I really love that you’re constantly self-educating despite your age (not to say you’re old but you know what I mean!!). Education really is important. I am trying my best to ‘force’ myself to rest haha…difficult for me to sit still. Not in the sense of meeting people, but doing stuff. But I really do need to just be still and quiet and peaceful for now 🙂 - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Aug 11, 2020 Hi Sheryl… I really hope the pleurisy has healed and your breathing isn’t painful. I’m so excited to hear that you’re working on your new business! Good luck with that. Also the course sounds exciting – it’s really nice to get some focussed time on one thing. Sometimes we’re doing too many things inconsistently and not really getting anything substantial done. Wishing you a beautiful August 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 16, 2020 Hi Shruti, it’s better now thank you so much 🙂 Haha it’s been tiring for me even though it’s just 4 hours a day for 4 days at a go…I guess mornings aren’t the best for me! 😉 Thank you and wishing you one, too! x - Nikki Albert Aug 11, 2020 I’ve been studying too… to see if I can with the way my health has been. And maybe I will be able to functionally use it… that is the Main goal but we shall see what the future holds. Sometimes limits do not let us, but sometimes they can be nudged a wee bit - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 16, 2020 That’s the biggest study of all time, isn’t it? 🙂 I hope you find answers to your symptoms and pain and discomfort, and get solutions to them soon. Sending love. - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Aug 10, 2020 So agree that being a freelancer is stressful and unpredictable. I hope the new biz site gives you a little more stability – sounds so exciting. And the cockatiels are so cute! They must make you smile so much 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 16, 2020 Haha my biz site is sitting there…revamping forever :p I think you know how that goes…. though my Digital Marketing instructors are giving me a hand direction wise, free of charge, so that’s real nice of them! So I’ll try and get it out soon…again haha! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows URL: https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/ Last updated: 2026-05-18T15:49:17.000Z ## Wait...What Did I Just Think? I woke up feeling like crap. One of those depressive days that arrive unannounced, bringing joint aches and other chronic pain friends along with it. “[**Today is a bad day**](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/)”, was the very first thought that surfaced in my mind. Quite the positive thinker, as you can tell. And then, I paused to think about what I had just thought about without even thinking about it. You know, a subconscious reflexive thought that we often accept as truth without even questioning it. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. Whilst I have done my utmost to be meticulous in research, *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. 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It is a form of escapism and idealism to me. I guess these days they call it “[toxic positivity](https://theconversation.com/toxic-positivity-why-it-is-important-to-live-with-negative-emotions-166008)”. It’s worse when other people use it as an “I don’t want to hear anymore of your boring topic, let’s end it” catch-all phrase. (P.s. This also applies to situations where they cut you off mid-sentence to say, "let’s pray". A post for another time.) That is not to say you aren't allowed to be a positive thinker in this manner. If it helps you deal with your situation, then that's a good thing. What nourishes one type of personality is destructive to another. And I believe that the definition of how to be a positive thinker and what it entails is different for us all. ## **The Struggle Between Mind, Body &** “**Truth**” This leads to a frequent battle between my mind and body. “Today is a bad day.” I lie in bed feeling awful, then I start to feel guilty about all the tasks on my todo list that I won’t be able to accomplish, and feel even more miserable. It is a silly and vicious cycle, because it isn’t my fault, and beating myself up about it is only going to turn the bad day into a worse one. It also sets up the framework of how I will be approaching the rest of my day, whether I’m aware of it or not. I will probably end up sick on the sofa, feeling useless and frustrated. Then I might reach out to junk food for lunch, and contribute to the neverending pile of household chores. I don’t want to force myself to be a positive thinker and go, “Today is a good day! Yay!”, because it feels self-deceptive and shallow. (Once again, if it actually motivates you - go for it. I am just sharing my thoughts and personal methods of coping here.) So what ends up happening is that I allow “today is a bad day” to be the bad day that I had assumed it would be. I know, I’m so ‘real’ and ‘human’ 😉 Read Related Posts: - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [What Neverending Pain Reveals to You](https://achronicvoice.com/what-neverending-pain-reveals/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [Give Your Best Anyway, Even When You're Feeling Depressed](https://achronicvoice.com/give-your-best-even-when-feeling-depressed/) ## How to be a Positive Thinker by Looking at Things from a Different Perspective So here’s a little trick I’ve learned over the years whilst living with chronic pain and chronic illness. I can take that sentence and turn it into another truth, simply by changing my perspective on it. I can take “today is a bad day” and look at it as “today is a good day for resting”. Or “today is a good day for reading that book I keep neglecting as I always want to ‘do’ stuff”. Or “today is a good day to have a party in bed”. Or even “today is a great day to do nothing. Sometimes that’s good for the soul, right?”. Once I reframe my thought, I immediately feel lighter. The weight of guilt, frustration, anger and blame lifts. I set myself free from the trappings of my own thoughts. It is another complimentary, if unasked for, practice session on **genuine** positive thinking. Positive in the sense of addition, a plus, an accumulation. Not to run from a problem, but to rise above it. To exercise our ability to adapt, which is after all, how human beings have survived since the beginning of time. 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Read Related Posts: - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [You Don’t Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) - [I May be Chronically Ill, but I’m Also Chronically Resilient](https://achronicvoice.com/chronically-ill-resilient/) Pin to Your Positive Mindset, Self-Help, Mental Health & Chronic Pain Boards: ![How to Reframe Your Thoughts Into Genuine Positivity](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/reframe-thoughts-genuine-positivity-pin.jpg) ![How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns and Rainbows](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-to-be-a-positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows-v2-humans.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Feb 3, 2023 I’m pretty sure you’ve written how so many of us feel right here, but it’s not always easy to put it into words. I get that vicious cycle and the guilt for not doing enough, the self-reproach for the to-do list getting too long, and thus feeling more miserable. I’m also a really big believer in the power of perspective. That has been an important one for me when living with chronic conditions because I’m not naturally positive (anymore, at least) and I’ve had to find ways to change my views on things and how I approach life. Talk of positivity can set off quite the opposite because you’re right, it’s often the unicorn BS and it can be toxic. Thank you for showing that being more positive doesn’t have to be like that at all. Changing our perspective is a powerful thing. It’s empowering when we actually have a good degree of control over that, in contrast to the lack of control we can feel with our bodies and our health. Fabulous post as always, Sheryl. xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 4, 2023 Thank you so much for sharing, Caz! Yes I hate the whole fake positivity thing as you can probably tell from the post. But shifting perspective is a whole different thing and it can really turn a day around, despite pain 🙂 I hope you’ve been doing well! x - [ Nyxie ](https://nyxiesnook.com) Mar 15, 2022 Great advice! Thank you for sharing 🙂 I know I could definitely do with more positive thinking. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 18, 2022 Thanks Nyxie! Yes I agree I could use more positive thinking myself lol… but the authentic sort! 😀 - Kathy Oct 31, 2021 I like your approach of “Today is a good day to \_\_\_\_.” - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 11, 2021 Thanks Kathy! It’s a bit of a reframing exercise that I admittedly need to make into a habit myself! - [ Sravanya ](https://hyderabadbeautyblog.in) Oct 30, 2021 Very well presented article thanks for sharing the post. - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Jul 27, 2020 It reminds me of reframing thoughts with CBT and what I learned during my psych degree many moons ago. I’ve seen lots of self-help style books that push the unicorn fantasy, and it’s just not me. I can get behind inspirational quotes and motivational messages for a quick pick me up, but in reality the faux positivity doesn’t help me in practice in the day to day. I’ve found the need to adapt my way of seeing things continually since living with chronic illness, and I’ve come to really value the importance of perspective. Excellent post, Sheryl ❤ - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 27, 2020 Thanks Caz! I had no idea about the CBT bit…it was just a random thought that popped into my head and I decided to share it in a post haha. Now I learned that there actually is a term for it, and I can go read up more about it! 🙂 Thanks for sharing and I so agree on the positivity self-help books that are primarily catered for a modern, get-go American type reader. - Katie Clark Jul 26, 2020 I thank you for explaining that you can be REAL and POSITIVE. Losing hope is what ends life. However, ignoring our pain, just makes it cry out harder. This is the way to manage and live life FULLY. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 27, 2020 Thanks Katie. Yes often many of us feel like we’re faking positivity for others, but truly, there can be authenticity within it if we choose to reframe our perspectives in a way that’s beneficial for our wellbeing. - Nancy Sexton Jul 26, 2020 Thank you for this… My 12 year old daughter was struck by chronic pain 16 months ago on a plane flight to London. I struggle daily to help her have a sense of hope. We are changing much of life to try to find comfort. Thank you for the words…Today is a good day for….This phase can help me take my lead from her and what her needs are daily. Blessings to you. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 26, 2020 Thanks so much for leaving a comment, Nancy, and how this post has helped you. It really does motivate me to continue writing and blogging and sharing and also to learn from others. Sending you and your daughter much love. - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Jul 21, 2020 It’s such a simple change in sentence that we can tell ourselves and suddenly our mental and physical approach changes. Loved it – and great timing for me. I’m having “a good day to rest” day today 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 22, 2020 Haha I’m glad you’re changing your perspective for today, Shruti, especially if you’re not feeling well! I was semi-productive, but anxious and achy myself. So…a semi-productive day is enough. Thanks for reminding me by reading your comment lol. I shall switch off and just relax with some Netflix now 😉 - [ Chronic Mom ](https://chronicmom.com) Jul 21, 2020 I love this. I found a chart once on toxic positivity and it showed how a lot of positivity can be harmful, and then gave an example of what to say instead. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 21, 2020 That sounds like a very useful chart! Yes I think toxic positivity is so harmful and so many healthy people especially aren’t even aware of such a thing! - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Jul 20, 2020 I love the ‘without unicorns and rainbows’ bit!! Re-framing is such a good move and I need to get back into the habit of it. Especially when it comes to resting more. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 21, 2020 Yes I realised after writing this article that there was a psychological term for it called ‘reframing’! It really is such a helpful tool! - Sigrid Chu, Life Notes to File Oct 23, 2018 Hello Sheryl, I currently practice “positive-thinking with a twist”. I’ve come to realize that acknowledging the negatives are important for us to be able to think positively about our unfortunate situations. And I don’t mind complaining too if it’s helpful. The most important thing is to rise from the ashes. Thank you for this post. Best, Sigrid - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 23, 2018 Hi Sigrid, thanks for stopping by! Yes positive thinking with a twist sounds about right 😉 It is indeed important to acknowledge all the emotions we feel in order to heal and to grow. - Tessa G Aug 15, 2018 This really resonates with me. I can’t tell you how often I sarcastically say ‘oh yeah, it’s all unicorns and rainbows today!’ This is the kind of thinking I try to use, but sometimes I get caught up in the gosh-I’m-so-lazy thinking, and then a whole new negative thought process begins. Good to have a reminder to keep things in perspective! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 15, 2018 Hi Tessa, I’m equally as guilty of doing what you do despite having written this as well 😉 I suppose often such emotions can override logic even, especially when you’re in a bad state in every which way possible! Sending you good thoughts and strength for the week! - Jana Nov 4, 2017 I love the way you think! This is a great way to turn negative thoughts into something positive without feeling fake about it or like you are trying to fool yourself, because that never works! I will definitely be using this from now on. I love this shift in mindset! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 4, 2017 Hi Jana, Thank you, I’m really glad it works for you! 🙂 Yes I never liked the whole ‘just think positive’ concept, so this was my method of ‘being positive’ ;P - [ Melitta Campbell ](https://www.melittacampbell.com) Oct 27, 2017 I love your way of reframing a bad day – I’m definitely going to be using that one, thanks! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 27, 2017 You’re most welcome Melitta! I hope it helps 😀 - [ Nicole | The Professional Mom Project ](https://theprofessionalmomproject.com/5-things-i-hate-about-blogging/) Oct 26, 2017 Love this perspective thank you. Sometimes it’s all about re-framing matters in our own minds and do the best we can with what we’ve got. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 26, 2017 Hi Nicole, Exactly! Thank you so much for reading and dropping by x - Gloria Oct 23, 2017 I like this way of thinking. You’re right, there’s no point ignoring our problems and living in cuckoo land by pretending everything is wonderful. Smile yes, and think positive but deal with the problems that are the cause of the bad days! However, sometimes I’m having a bad day & I don’t always know why! Then I just blame the hormones ? ‘Today is a good day to be hormonal.’ Might try that! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 23, 2017 Haha that’s a good one! Indeed some days are simply hormonal and chaotic and 100% okay! :p - Anindya Rakshit Oct 23, 2017 Yes, it got me thinking…..I like your perspective…..nicely written… - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 23, 2017 Thank you Anindya! - [ Rosie Amber ](https://rosieamber.wordpress.com/) Oct 22, 2017 I like you ideas for turning around a negative thought. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 22, 2017 Thanks Rosie, much appreciated for reading 🙂 - Danielle Faith Oct 22, 2017 Finding the silver lining and being optimistic is key for conquering chronic illnesses. As always you are spot on. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 22, 2017 Hi Danielle, Yes, it can be difficult to find that silver lining 🙂 For me, it’s being honest in that positivity. Hope you are having a good weekend! x - [ Claire ](https://www.painpalsblog.wordpress.com) Oct 20, 2017 It has been one of those days today, Sheryl! Made it to the sofa but it is now 7pm and only just managed clean PJs and teeth clean!! Used day to catch up on Netflix and all my lovely chronic pals blog posts. Still struggle tho with the fact that everyone else in the house seems to think that when I have a bad day nothing needs doing – huge debate just now about if anyone is cooking whilst my shoulder out of socket and fngers navy. C xxx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 20, 2017 Hi Claire, How are you now? I hope tomorrow will be a much better day 🙁 Yea I totally get what you mean. A similar example would be, if I were to sit down on a crowded public transport, start fiddling with my phone for pain distraction, and not giving up my seat. From an outsider perspective, it seems like we’re selfish and lazy. In any case, take it day by day! Wishing you a good day soon x - [ Sarah ](https://www.travelbreatherepeat.com) Oct 16, 2017 Thanks for sharing your insight and perspective. Such a simple and easy change to make in our thinking, which can be so valuable to those of us with chronic illnesses. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 16, 2017 Hi Sarah! Thanks for reading, I hope it helps 🙂 Yes I tend to be a little too serious when it comes to ‘being real’ but it’s always a matter of perspective! Hope you have a lovely week ahead! - [ Kat ](https://writerkatgn.wordpress.com) Oct 16, 2017 This is a great post. Balance is so important when it comes to positivity when chronically ill, I think–although as you said, if Pollyanna positivity helps people, go for it. But I’ve found for most, a more honest approach is the most helpful: allowing room to complain and accept that the hand we are dealt is /hard/, but also to find the hidden benefit within it. Today is a good day to rest. Today is a good excuse to watch three seasons of that show I haven’t gotten to see. My upcoming surgery means I get to rewatch The Lord of the Rings surgery. Whatever. Find those silver linings, but they don’t have to be /all/ unicorns and manure. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 16, 2017 Hi Kat, Exactly! And yes…some days can be totally shit, too, and that’s fine. But more often than not, there’s a different perspective that is more helpful for ourselves out there 🙂 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### July's Supply & Demand: Learning to Maximise Wellbeing in the Midst of Stress URL: https://achronicvoice.com/july-maximise-wellbeing-stress/ Last updated: 2026-01-03T14:32:47.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Bothering (or Not) As the COVID-19 pandemic draws on, I must say that I’ve become less bothered with my appearances. This includes how I smell, and how presentable I look. I mean, not that I stink, I still shower daily - a necessity in a humid climate like Singapore. But previously, I’d feel a little naked if I had forgotten to dabble some perfume on before leaving the house. Now, I don’t even wear jewellery for a bit of shine. My eyebrows are unkempt but I’m not fussed. I mean - we’re all hidden under those stuffy masks. My number one gripe whenever hospitalised is the inability to shower. Wipe downs are not the real deal; I remember when I was hospitalised for 2 months and couldn’t even use the bathroom on my own. Towards the end they allowed me the occasional half-day leave, and going home for a shower, albeit with help from mum, was absolute bliss. The little pleasures in life matter a great deal. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Read Related Posts: - [After Surgery Care at Home: Hygiene Resources](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [COVID-19 Vaccine Experiences from People with Chronic Conditions](https://achronicvoice.com/covid-19-vaccine-experiences/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![July’s Supply and Demand: Learning to Maximise Wellbeing in the Midst of Stress](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/july-wellbeing-stress-pin-2-2-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ## Demanding Little Suckers! [**My cockatiel, Horace, flew away and could never be found**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) 😔 A day after his disappearance, his parents started getting it on hardcore. Like 10 times a day. Now we have six chicks, and they are demanding little suckers! Their parents can’t keep up with the regurgitation and feeding (their throats must be sore!), so I’ve stepped in earlier than usual to help feed their babies. Usually I begin hand feeding the chicks at around 2 - 3 weeks, but now I’ve started even the youngest one at a few days old. Thank goodness I’ve had some experience or I might have freaked out. Balvenie (chick #6) is so tiny, like a giant sized ant. She's also so fragile, with a tiny little beak and blind. How precious life is, though. It’s also fascinating to watch the formula go down their throats and into their crops, as their skins are still translucent. I also love hearing their cute little purrs as they get some head rubs. ## Nourishing Life — Literally Tying that in with the next prompt - nourishing. I usually don’t feed my birds too many seeds as it’s bad for their diet (it’s like McDonald’s for birds). I give it to them in the afternoon as treats. But for now, I allow them to eat all they want - they have six ever-hungry mouths to feed, and better fed than starved to death! They’re constantly screaming at me for more food, so I let them be. The formula I’m feeding the chicks has at least plenty of nutrients in it, so hopefully they grow up nice and strong. > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/CCh6Xj-DXra/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/CCh6Xj-DXra/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) I, too, need to nourish my own wellbeing. I’ve been neglecting it, not entirely by choice with the increased workload and timelines. Although I will admit, I could have managed my time and stress better. I’m terrible at both, but I’d like (need!) to make an attempt. To say to myself ‘stop’ consciously, even though I don’t feel like it, or am ‘in the zone’. To let myself feel discomfort and quit before I go overboard, and do too much in order to feel productive and ‘good’. It’s a bit (a lot) of an addiction for me. Over time I hope I’ll get used to that discomfort. It’s discomfort that’s good for my long term health and wellbeing. **In order to nourish myself in this instance, I need to subtract, and not add. To return to a state of stillness and calm, and not fill myself up with more.** Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Stress, the Silent Assassin](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [The Secret of Change: Spend Your Energy Wisely with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/secret-of-change/) - [The Eternal Spoonie Struggle: Justifying Rest & Recovery Time](https://achronicvoice.com/spoonie-justifying-rest-recovery-time/) Pin to Your Wellbeing, Productivity & Quote Boards: ![Productivity Can be Addictive Quote](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/productivity-addictive-quote-2-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ![In order to nourish myself in this instance, I need to subtract, and not add. To return to a state of stillness and calm, and not fill myself up with more.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/wellbeing-nourishing-quote-pin-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ## Telecommunicating — Time Saver for Certain Medical Consults! I’ve had a few telemedicine sessions for my less urgent doctor appointments, which I have found to be such a time saver. Medications get delivered for free too, so that’s another huge time saver. The queues at the pharmacy can drag on, and as I usually have many medications to collect. It can take up to 2 hours waiting for them, and waiting around in a public place for a chronically ill person is physically exhausting. And whilst Zoom and Skype meetings with friends have been popular...guess what? I haven’t had a single one - only for a [podcast interview](https://sicklessons.com/). I don’t have enough friends, it seems, or my friends are like me. I don’t like talking on the phone, or communication via screen much. Read Related Posts: - [29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) - [“Stress Less” Course: By a Therapist Who Lives with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/stress-less-course-by-therapist-with-chronic-illness/) - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [How to Prepare for a Medical Appointment in a Post-Pandemic World (4 Top Tips From a Doctor)](https://achronicvoice.com/prepare-medical-appointment/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) ## Tolerating the Lockdown and Lock Up It’s been difficult in the house with the lockdown and lock in with my family! Usually I’m alone at home on weekdays, working or blogging. Now everyone is home so space is compromised, volumes louder, and \*ahem\* arguments increased. It really is a test of patience and communication. Now that the lockdown is easing up a little, I take any opportunity I can get to escape from the house for a breather. My new favourite café is Wheeler's Estate, as it’s outdoors and spacious. Plenty of space to breathe and work. The food is a little on the pricey side so I need to save up for these treat days, but at least it's delicious, and the change of environment to a natural one makes me happy. That’s it from me for now. Thank you for reading my entry this month! 🙂 You can [**read next month's diary entry here**](https://achronicvoice.com/stress-fatigue-thresholds-suck/). ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. Kathryn Forsyth Jul 26, 2020 Hi, Sheryl! I loved the little video of your birdies. Life is a constant balancing act isn’t it? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 26, 2020 Thanks Kathryn! Will update (of course ha) next month on their growth and new looks – they grow so quickly 😉 It sure is, and those who learn how to balance live the best, I believe 🙂 - [ Rhiann ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com) Jul 25, 2020 Another fantastic and honest post, Sheryl. I am so sorry that Horace has failed to reappear, it must be so sad and painful for you. The baby birds are gorgeous, and I am sure it is successful in keeping you distracted and providing lots of pleasure by caring for them. I think we are tolerating having to spend so much time with the same people day in and day out! I hope it is becoming easier for you, and can take some time for yourself. Take care and hope to see you again next month! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 26, 2020 Hi Rhiann, yes I still miss the little brat, and hope he is happy somewhere out there. I am doing okay, just been flaring so that sucks. The birds are cute as can be (though many think they’re ugly at this stage, but who isn’t ugly at this stage, ha!). Yes endurance is the most important life skill, patience! :p Sending love! xxx - [ Anne Sweet ](https://www.raisiebay.com) Jul 21, 2020 Lovely to hear about the new chicks. I can totally relate to being cooped up with the family. I can also relate to not liking talking on the phone too, and as for zoom, it’s not made it’s way into my vocabulary or life yet. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 21, 2020 Yes they do keep me semi-occupied and are adorable! And yes, now that working in cafés are allowed I go out nearly every day, which isn’t exactly a good solution either as I come back fatigued haha. - [ Alison ](https://www.thrivingwhiledisabled.com) Jul 20, 2020 Sheryl, Ah, the tensions of being cooped up! Glad the birds found a way to deal with it all, and glad the chicks are providing you with such a positive distraction! I’m glad you are able to get your meds shipped in, and the telemedicine appointments have gone so well! A change of scenery can be invigorating, so glad things are opening up enough to give you that opportunity! Keep up the great work Sheryl, I love participating in the linkup! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 21, 2020 Hi Alison, I’m so happy you enjoy participating in the linkups, too! I find it so interesting to read how everyone interprets the prompts! The chicks are great, soon they’ll have to go to new homes, though. I’ll probably keep two cheekiest ones 😉 - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Jul 19, 2020 I read this post yesterday and your point on nourishment really stayed with me and I thought I needed to regain some control with my diet again so today I attempted making gluten free and vegan bread. Today, I’m here to just thank you for reminding all of us about nourishment. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 21, 2020 Yes I’ve been thinking about my (bad) diet of late again haha. I need to fix that and want to. Thank you for your kind words Shruti! - [ Cassie Creley | StarlightThroughTheStorm ](https://cassiecreley.com/ups-and-downs-summer-chronic-illness/) Jul 18, 2020 Hi Sheryl, your prompts have led to such great opportunities to share this month. I’m so sorry Horace hasn’t returned. I was thinking of him earlier this week—I happened to see two red parrots fly by outside my doctor’s office. They’re definitely not native to Washington state so I wonder if they were pets who got out and found each other. I wish Horace was with your family, but I hope he’s found a new one. I’m glad the baby birds are doing well—I can’t believe how tiny they are! As someone who also really wants to feel productive, I appreciate what you shared about accepting the discomfort of stopping a project before you want to. Discomfort now is much better than a flare later. It’s something I constantly need to remind myself. I hope you’re able to find that balance too! Hope the rest of the month holds good things in store for you! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 22, 2020 Thanks Cassie! I do enjoy reading everyone’s take on the prompts every month. It’s refreshing and eye-opening and a taste of culture and chronic illness experiences, too 🙂 Bit of armchair travelling, if you will, haha. Yes lots of birds that jailbreak unfortunately. And it’s sad when others who are not familiar with birds claim that birds are meant to be free and couldn’t stand their cages. In fact, birds do treat their cages like home – it’s safe and comfortable. Who knows what a bird really thinks or needs, they’re not human 🙂 Anyway, I digress. Yes I still miss Horace, but am happy that we have six little ones now! Soon I’ll have to find a couple of them some loving homes, though 🙁 - Naomi Jul 17, 2020 Wow to the horny birds! I guess it’s pretty obvious in the human world that sex lives might improve once kids leave but who knew for birds too? Lovely to read an update on your life, each one gives me more of a glimpse into your world . - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 21, 2020 Haha yes, daddy was actually depressed for an entire year with Horace stealing the limelight. I thought it might be that, but turns out it \*really\* was that. He’s much chirpier now lol. THanks Naomi, always good to read yours, too! - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Jul 17, 2020 Ah, six baby chicks to look after! How sweet, although maybe a little noisy and lots of hard work too?! It must be lovely to have a distraction from lockdown and feeling cramped up inside. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 21, 2020 They aren’t too noisy thankfully, as they’re not big birds! The feeding does take a bit of work mostly because of my joint pains, so even a small 1ml syringe hurts me after constant pushing and pulling. They’re worth it though <3 - Katie Clark Jul 17, 2020 I love that Horace’s parents were so determined to give you new babies to care for! Sounds like they went a bit overboard, though! I’m also finding more enjoyment in just being me and not worrying too much how I look. (However, now and again a photo of me pops up and I’m uhh…a bit self-conscious. I really don’t look in a mirror but in the morning, so that’s freeing! Glad you found a getaway. The photo you shared looks YUM-O! How long do they let you stay? At one place my cousins visited, they had a strict two hour time, no matter if you were ordering more food or drink or not! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 21, 2020 Haha they sure went overboard! Need to remove that nestbox soon-ish before they start making more lol. Haha yes same, sometimes I look in the mirror and go ‘oh gosh!’. And the café allows us to stay all day so it’s great! I love cafés that have an outdoor space the most 🙂 - [ Despite Pain ](https://www.despitepain.com) Jul 17, 2020 I’m sorry that Horace didn’t reappear but, wow, you have baby birds to take care of. I’ve also had no zoom or skype link ups. I’m actually quite glad about that because I’d really need to smarten myself up! Lockdown means staying home and there’s no chance of visitors so I slouch about in my old comfy clothes all the time with messy hair. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 17, 2020 Hi Elizabeth, yes, the feeding is making my hands sore with the lupus and sjögren’s haha. But they are so cute and worth it. Yes I hate Zoom/Skype to be honest. Enjoy your stay home time! 🙂 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Interview on “The Uninvisible Pod”: What I've Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years URL: https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/ Last updated: 2025-10-25T16:14:00.000Z I recently had the pleasure of being interviewed over on “[The Uninvisible Pod](https://uninvisiblepod.com/)”, a podcast series hosted by Lauren Freedman. She herself lives with depression, anxiety, Hashimoto’s Disease and sleep disorders, since she was a teen. Her podcast features people who live with various chronic illnesses, their loved ones, caregivers, experts and more. It touches on their coping strategies, life experiences, healing modalities, and more. I loved that her podcasts are so well organised, with key takeaways, key links, an overview and everything stated upfront. The images she creates and colours used are all so lovely to boot! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. Whilst I have done my utmost to be meticulous in research, *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Podcasts & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Episode 80: Antiphospholipid Syndrome, Lupus, & Mental Health with Sheryl Chan](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/sheryl-chan-a-chronic-voice-podcast-pic.jpeg) *[Episode 80: Antiphospholipid Syndrome, Lupus, & Mental Health with Sheryl Chan on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’](https://uninvisiblepod.com/episodes/episode-80-aps-lupus-mental-health-sheryl-chan/)* ## What I Share on the Uninvisible Podcast Interview In this podcast interview, I chat about how it all began for me on this chronic illness journey – with a [**mini stroke (transient ischaemic attack) at the age of 14**](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) – and how I’ve evolved as a person throughout the past 20 years. From swearing that I would fight chronic illness until the day I die, to slowly learning that there is so much freedom in acceptance. I’ve been through life and death situations numerous times, and each time it’s a little different. From quick near death experiences, to long drawn out ones for contrast. Read Related Posts: - [My Second Brush with Death: A Broken Heart (Literally)](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [How Many Times Can You Hit Rock Bottom with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/rock-bottom/) ## Some Key Life Lessons on Chronic Illness, Which I Share on the Uninvisible Podcast ### 1\. Trust your body and believe in your pain. Don’t let doctors brush you off, and seek help immediately. Waiting for two days before going to the Emergency Department nearly cost me my life, and did permanent damage to my body. Pin to Your Self-Awareness & Self-Care Boards: ![You may not realise it yet, but there is so much freedom to be found in acceptance.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/freedom-acceptance-quote-pin.jpg) ![Trust your body and believe in your pain. Don’t let doctors brush you off, and seek help immediately. Your pain is real and not imagined.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/trust-yourself-pain-quote-pin.png) ### 2\. Your doctors need to work together as a team, and be for you, not against you. You are in charge of your body and always have the final say. Doctors are there to guide you with their knowledge, and should be willing to communicate with each other in a bid for answers; the body works as a whole and not separate parts removed from each other. If you don’t like your doctor, fire them – seriously. Chronic illness is for life. You want doctors who are for you. Pin to Your Healthcare & Chronic Pain Boards: ![](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-team-pin.jpg) ![Chronic Illness is for Life. Build a Team of Doctors Who are For You, Not Against You.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/doctors-quote-pin-2.jpg) ### 3\. Don’t be afraid or hesitant to ask for help. When I finally learned to let my pride go (and this wasn’t an easy thing – of all the seven deadly sins I would have said that pride was my biggest one), there was once again, so much freedom to be had. Some tasks that can really eat into your limited energy bank, such as picking something up from the store, or even opening a water bottle, are almost nothing effort-wise for others. Let them help you. Let them be a real part of your life. Vulnerability is what connects us as human beings, and there is so much joy to be had in allowing for that to happen. Read Related Posts: - [Asking for Help (and Why Everyone Needs to Learn this Important Life Skill)](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) - [What Stops You from Splitting Your Burdens Up?](https://achronicvoice.com/splitting-your-burdens/) - [Why I Need to See More Than 10 Different Types of Doctors Regularly](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Self-Care Boards: ![Don’t be afraid to ask for help. It will improve your quality of life, especially with chronic illness.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/fearless-help-quality-of-life-pin.jpg) ![Let others help you. Let them be a real part of your life. Vulnerability is what connects us as human beings, and there is so much joy to be had in allowing for that to happen.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/allow-vulerable-human-quote-pin.jpg) ### 4\. Sometimes chronic pain isn’t the worst part about living with chronic illness. The inevitable mental health issues, isolation, lack of support and understanding can really take a toll, too. Pay attention to all aspects of your wellbeing, and not just the physical. ### 5\. I learned that mental health matters so much more than I had imagined. This is especially true coming from an Asian culture where there’s a lot of stigma behind it. Whilst it’s common to see a psychologist even for a ‘normal’ person in the U.S., in Asia people don’t go to one unless they’re ‘mental’ or in ‘deep shit’. It’s an act for the hopeless, the losers, or the pathetic. It took me 10 years to finally insist on psychological help, and it literally turned my life around. Now I advocate for all who have a chronic illness, and even their caregivers or family members, to have a psychologist as part of their healthcare team. In fact, I even think it’s essential to have a psychologist **right from the beginning** of a diagnosis (or undiagnosis). ![“Mental health is really important. Don't wait too long to seek help. Because all of us with chronic illness, and even healthy people, face some nental health issues. You re not alone. You're not weird. You're not strange. And I think it's important to get a psychologist to guide you through the process right from the start; that can make a huge difference in how you manage to deal with it.” - Sheryl Chan of A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/mental-health-really-important-sheryl-chan-uninvisible-pod-quote.jpeg) Read Related Posts: - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [Is Seeking Help for Your Mental Health Worth It?](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Infographics Boards: ![Key Takeaways from the Podcast - Chronic Illness Perspectives Infographic | A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-perspectives-podcast-infographic-poster.jpg) ## Give It a Listen on the Uninvisible Podcast! I didn’t realise that our conversation had lasted for a whole hour, but I had a good time! Thanks Lauren for having me on the podcast, and I hope you enjoy listening to it, too. Don’t forget to check out the many other interviews and stories of others with chronic illness, too! [Click to Listen to the Podcast](https://uninvisiblepod.com/episodes/episode-80-aps-lupus-mental-health-sheryl-chan/) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [A Quarterly Reflection: 12 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned](https://achronicvoice.com/quarterly-reflection-life-lessons-learned/) - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [Why Humility is the Best Tool for Advocacy](https://achronicvoice.com/humility-advocacy/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) Pin & Help to Share the Post & Podcast! ![My Lifelong Journey with Chronic Pain - Key Life Lessons Shared on The Uninvisible Pod | A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/life-lessons-chronic-pain-podcast-pin-1.jpg) ![(Over) Sharing Chronic Illness Life on 'The Uninvisible Pod | A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/life-lessons-chronic-pain-podcast-pin-3.jpg) ![Interview on the Uninvisible Pod. What I've learned living with chronic illness for 20 years.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/life-lessons-chronic-pain-podcast-pin-5.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Michelle Curtis Jul 15, 2020 So many great lessons in one little podcast! One of the things that blows me away is how much chronic illness initially affected my mental health, but how valuable the lessons I’ve learned since have been. In some ways, it really challenges us to be better, more well rounded human beings. In order to survive, we can’t afford to let anything slide when it comes to developing healthy ways of coping and looking at our lives, along with many other life skills. You did just a great job of demonstrating this. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 15, 2020 Thanks Michelle! Chronic illness does impact one’s mental health to a LARGE degree, and is sorely underestimated, imho. I really do believe a therapist needs to be part of the team right from the get-go 🙂 - Katie Clark Jul 13, 2020 I love that your main doctor is like a dad or grandpa to you. What a comfort to know that someone understands all that you have been through and all that you deal with has your best interest in mind. I sure hope he will be around for a long time. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 13, 2020 Hi Katie, yes he’s like a father to me, and probably knows more about me than even my own parents in certain ways lol. I’m really fortunate to have had him from the get-go. - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Jul 13, 2020 I heard this whole podcast when you had posted it earlier and it was so relatable. I also think it takes a lot to speak about yourself so openly so thank you for doing that. And your finally point in this post – O’ it’s so true! We Asians really have quite the stigma against mental health – that’s why the suicide rates are so high! But I am really happy the conversation is happening, just hope it brings about the changes that are needed to encourage people to talk about their troubles. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 13, 2020 Yes like you said in India, it really is crazy high. The stigma is real, and needs to be addressed. It will take time, but we will get there 🙂 Open conversation really is so important, as are advocates who are willing to take the brunt and speak up for many others who can’t. - [ Sue Jackson ](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/) Jul 12, 2020 Great post … and a great interview! Loved learning more about you and your illness journey. Thanks for all the inspiring words! Sue New Book: Finding a New Normal: Living Your Best Life with Chronic Illness - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 12, 2020 Thanks for your encouragement, Sue. I appreciate it! 🙂 - Raina Jul 11, 2020 I can relate to your story Sheryl, I had to let go of my pride and learn to ask for help. My culture believes seeking help from a psychologist is a sign of weakness. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 12, 2020 Hi Raina, my, totally the same here. Weakness or a mental flaw. Like there’s something wrong with you. I’m glad you too learned how to let go of unnecessary pride. There really is a fine line between dignity and ego 🙂 - [ Chronic Mom ](https://chronicmom.com) Jul 11, 2020 I’ve never heard of this podcast before, i will have to add it to my list. I loved how you talked about your journey from “I will fight this every day” to acceptance. I think everyone has to eventually make that journey if they’re going to ever feel peace. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 11, 2020 Thanks Shelley, it’s a good series with many various perspectives. As you know, I love that 🙂 Yes that was probably the toughest lesson of my life. It has everything to do with my self esteem, self image, who I am or thought I am as a person, and so much more. I’m glad I made it through and chose life 🙂 - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Jul 10, 2020 Completely agree with this Sheryl! I think we all learn so much about ourselves and how to navigate healthcare over time, although I think I still need to learn how to ask for help a bit more often! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 11, 2020 Thanks Claire. These are definitely tough life lessons and hard questions to ask, often with no answers. And despite our different diagnoses, there are so many similarities as well. Being ill really brings you face to face with just how vulnerable we truly are as a species 🙂 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness URL: https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/ Last updated: 2025-10-25T16:17:43.000Z ## A Message from Sheryl of "A Chronic Voice" on Self-Acceptance Self-acceptance is one of my favourite subjects to discuss and talk about, so when Kelsey offered to write a guest post about this topic, I was excited. As the tagline of this blog states, “articulating lifelong illnesses from various perspectives”. Thus, I am always eager to hear your point of view. There are thousands of chronic illness and symptoms out there, and everyone struggles and copes with them in their own ways. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the author(s)' personal experiences. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ### Using Perspectives as Tools Acceptance of chronic pain and a seemingly ‘lesser’ life can be a bitter pill to swallow. I get it. When I was 14 I swore (and back in those days my parents said I should never swear because it’s un-Christian to do so), but I swore to fight it to death. 20 years later, I have changed my stance a little. For me, I had to hit a wall that I [could no longer bash through on my own before I sought professional help](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/my-inner-child-and-the-angry-girl). The psychologist I selected played a huge role in my mental recovery. It’s still an ongoing process – healing and acceptance – and I’m definitely not going to insist that self-acceptance is the one and only way to cope with chronic illness and pain. But I also think there’s no harm listening to a different point of view, and giving it some consideration. **We can look at perspectives as tools, and keep them in the same toolbox. Different tools can come in handy for different days, different pains, and different circumstances. Context is important.** Without further ado, I’ll let Kelsey share her point of view on self-acceptance, and why it’s important when you have chronic illness. Read Related Posts: - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [The Road to Recovery is the Longest of Them All](https://achronicvoice.com/road-to-recovery-longest/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) Pin to Your Self-Acceptance & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness | A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness-cope-3-pin.jpg) ## The Struggle with Self Acceptance Over the Years Let’s face it, most of us struggle with self-acceptance even without chronic illness. Negative self-talk is so easy to engage in, and pretty much every human being does it. When you have a chronic illness, it can be even easier to be extra hard on yourself, or blame yourself for what you’re going through and how it’s affecting others. I’ve been there. I’ve struggled with self-acceptance at several points in my life, and most recently for the first two years after I was diagnosed with [fibromyalgia](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/fibromyalgia/symptoms-causes/syc-20354780). I spent a lot of time over the past few years thinking about self-acceptance, self-compassion, and self-love, all of which have become priorities to me. Does that mean I never engage in negative self-talk? No, it means that I am aware when I do and try to reframe it in my mind. Learning to accept yourself as well as your illness is incredibly important in your over all wellbeing, both body and mind. Read Related Posts: - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) ## The Importance of Self Love and Self Compassion To even have self-acceptance, I’ve found that it’s important to start with two other concepts. First, self-love, because if you don’t love who you are and forgive yourself for any mistakes, how can you expect anyone else to do so? And yes, loving yourself means you with your illness, not you before your illness (though you can love her too). Second, self-compassion is a necessary ingredient in the self-acceptance recipe. Your illness may mean you need to make a lot of changes to your lifestyle or in your life and relationships in general. Being compassionate with yourself will make this process easier. With these two components you can begin to accept yourself, your life, and your illness as your reality has changed. It can be a process and a lot of work, but it’s worth it. Whether it’s something you can do on your own, through reading self-help books and blogs, or you need a therapist to help you with, if you aren’t engaging in self-acceptance it might be time to reflect and see if you can. Pin to Your Self-Care & Mental Wellbeing Boards: ![Self Compassion - It can be a process and a lot of work, but it’s worth it.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/self-compassion-quote-1-pin.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [An Inspirational Poem on Miracles, by Thuli Zuma](https://achronicvoice.com/poem-on-miracles-thuli-zuma/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Prisons or Paths to Freedom](https://achronicvoice.com/stories-we-tell-ourselves-prisons-freedom/) - [Finding Your Self Behind the Illness (Your Story Isn’t Over Yet)](https://achronicvoice.com/finding-self-behind-illness/) ## Self-Acceptance and Its Role in Mental Health Self-acceptance leads to better mental health. Sometimes when we struggle with our physical health we forget about our mental health, and yet the two are closely connected. As I have been studying psychology for the past year, I see more and more how the two are related. For many illnesses, stress can set off flares, just like having an illness can itself cause anxiety and depression. Letting go of expectations, mistakes, and how your condition has “changed you” is a start in accepting yourself and will help your mental health. Journaling, especially in gratitude journals, is a way to put this into practice, and you might be amazed at how easily you start to feel happier. Read Related Posts: - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [Find Your Way Back to Happiness with a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/find-happiness-chronic-illness/) - [The Value in Seeking Out Moments of Gratitude (and How to do it)](https://achronicvoice.com/value-gratitude/) ## Self Acceptance Can Help Us to Communicate Our Needs Better Self-acceptance makes it easier to communicate your needs to others. If you have a chronic illness, you no doubt have a lot more needs than you did before you were sick. There are many times when you may have to let your family, partners, friends, employers, and doctors know what your needs are. The more comfortable and better you feel about yourself and your illness, the more easily you will be able to share with people who can help you. Self-acceptance helps set boundaries. How can you set up boundaries with anyone if you don’t care enough about yourself to accept your current reality? I don’t think you can, at least not properly. I’ve found that my boundaries around dating, friendships, sharing my story and my needs, and trying new things have been easier to set the more accepting I am of myself and my capabilities. You have to advocate for yourself because no one else truly can. ## Conclusion to Self-Acceptance Whilst Living with Chronic Illness Self-acceptance will allow you to continue to fully live your life. That’s really what it comes down to, isn’t it? I want to lead the best life I can, chronic illness or not. I also know that I can, but it took the work of truly accepting who I am to start living it as full, or arguably even more fully than, I was before I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia. The only thing that can stop me is myself, and the only thing that can stop you is yourself. If you’re not practicing self-acceptance regularly, now is the time. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationships with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) Pin to Your Self-Acceptance & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness | A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/live-better-self-accetance-1-pin.jpg) ![Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness | A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/live-better-self-accetance-5-pin.jpg) **Contributor Bio:** ![Kelsey Harris headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/kelsey-harris-profile.jpg) My name is Kelsey Harris and I’m a blogger, writer, and masters student in counselling psychology. My goal is to inspire people to live the best life they can while dealing with chronic pain and illness. I have fibromyalgia, am borderline for lupus, and have struggled with anxiety in the past. My biggest passions are travelling, film, and spending time with my dog. Find her on [Twitter](https://x.com/janevspain). ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Raina Jul 7, 2020 Thanks for sharing your story. I too had a difficult time accepting my new self after fibromyalgia diagnosis. I had to accept my new reality of it and learn to live with it. Self acceptance made my life better. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 8, 2020 Hi Raina, yes Kelsey was brave to share 🙂 It’s really difficult to accept it I agree. It can take a long time, and did so for me. It’s an ongoing process too. Sending love x - Yaya Jul 5, 2020 Thank you for sharing this! Self-compassion in particular is something I’m working on as someone with various mental health conditions, esp. during lockdown at the moment. Be safe xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 5, 2020 You’re welcome Yaya, Kelsey did a great job of highlighting this important facet of life with chronic illness and pain, I think 🙂 - Michelle Jun 24, 2020 Coming to terms with my chronic illness and finding acceptance was a huge step toward happiness for me. I suffered terribly from negative self-talk and deeply toxic shame. It’s definitely a journey rather than a destination, but taking those first steps are definitely steps in the direction of a more fulfilling and satisfying life. Great guest post! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 1, 2020 Hi Michelle, I’m glad you have found a more fulfilling and satisfying path for yourself 🙂 Yes self-acceptance is tough, but there is so much freedom in it, too 🙂 Sending happiness your way! x - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Jun 23, 2020 I think Kelsey has made some spot-on points, and acceptance of illness and the ‘lesser’ life has been one of the hardest aspects for me to deal with. I see it as a continual work-in-progress. Self-acceptance is more inclusive because you’re dealing with the illness(es), the new norm of your life, and yourself as a whole, and it can be a difficult one to get your head around let alone really come to terms with and put into practice. But without that self-acceptance, at least a good degree of it, you’ll be forever hitting a wall and building up bitter feelings that make any life, including a chronic illness life, an uphill battle. Caz xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 1, 2020 Love the way you summed this up, Caz! Because that was exactly it – I kept butting my head against a wall and was getting myself more and more injured by fighting and fighting. It definitely is a continual work in progress, especially when you receive a new bad diagnosis, go into a painful flare, etc. And I love that you use the word ‘inclusive’ to talk about a person as a whole – because that’s so true. Thanks for sharing this comment!! - [ Catherine Green ](https://www.spookymrsgreen.com) Jun 23, 2020 I nodded vigorously while reading this article! Having battled with a rare eye disorder all my life, I thought I had found a way to live with it not impacting on my lifestyle. However I realise that is simply not true, and now I’m in the process of learning to speak out and educate my family and friends. They may think I am fine and healthy when in truth I am struggling. Rather than battle on alone, I am putting support networks in place. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 1, 2020 I’m happy that you’re putting support networks in place for yourself, Catherine! There really is NO shame in that. It not only improves your own quality of life, but allows your loved ones into your space for greater bonding, and so that they can enjoy life together more with you 🙂 Sending love! x - [ Rachael Emma Tomlinson ](https://accessiblerach.co.uk) Jun 23, 2020 Thank Kelsey, self-acceptance is a major challenge with chronic illness and I had to do it the hard way by also accepting me as a person with a chronic illness, it made me take the longest and hardest look I have ever done at myself and at times I struggle but mostly I am not only accepting me for what I a I also advocate for me and others. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 1, 2020 I do think many of us with chronic illness start out battling against it. Some of us never stop. If that helps them cope – it’s fine. But I do personally believe it really isn’t a long-term strategy to keep fighting. That’s just plain exhausting, when that energy could be spent on other things that would better improve our quality of life. Thank you for advocating for others, and yes, self advocacy is so important, too!! - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Jun 22, 2020 Kelsey, I really enjoyed this. If I could get one lesson through to a friend with a new diagnosis, it would be about working with self acceptance. It’s cyclical. Understanding it is crucial to living well. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 22, 2020 Agreed! It’s so hard to do so though, especially if you’re newly diagnosed. Fighting for decades gets tiring though. Working with my body has been a better long-term strategy, if you could call it that! - [ Kate ](https://katethealmostgreat.com) Jun 21, 2020 Self-acceptance is SO hard but SO necessary! Thanks for this post. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 22, 2020 Kelsey did a great job sharing using her own experiences 🙂 I agree – it’s such a necessary ingredient in life to thrive. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/ Last updated: 2026-05-21T15:27:25.000Z ## When Silence Isn’t Golden Silence. Who knew silence could be so overwhelming? More suffocating than the humid tropic air, and not in the least bit golden. The rest of the flock is older and more placid, having laid their eggs, and had their mates. They even seem a tad jaded, or it might have been that Horace had stolen the limelight. And he’d steal it over and over again [right in your face quite literally](https://www.instagram.com/p/B%5F9Mo9Bgcm5/). Any casual whistle or chatter would excite him and he’d scurry over, hop up on my shoulder or finger, and observe my mouth in earnest. His little beak would mutter in silent concentration, as he got his vocals ready. Then he’d burst out into a completely different melody, a previous record from his limited memory. He’d whistle loud and proud, on and on. He was always eager to show his beautiful vocals off, but more often than not, he whistled and chattered because he was happy. He was my happy little baby boy. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Read Related Posts: - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [Why I Moved from SiteGround to Cloudways (and Couldn’t be Happier). Plus Cute Puppy Pics & A New Pacing Strategy.](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) ## Everything About That Day is a Blur The details of that day lie in a mess. If you live with chronic illness too, you’d know that it’s next to impossible to leap out of bed and immediately go on a nine hour **search** under the sun with little sustenance and rest. But that was what I did, and I thank my body for giving me that shot of adrenaline. Anxiety, fear and worry kept the flames of adrenaline stoked, and wouldn’t let it die. Death was in the cards today, and I had to keep going, and going fast at that. We heard his frantic screams the entire day, as we traced his voice from tree to tree. But his calls bounced off all the tall buildings in the vicinity, and many trees were too dense to peer through. Earlier that morning, I had heard my mum yelling that ‘the bird was out of the cage’, before my dad tried to grab it from the window ledge. He must have been frightened. By the time I dashed out, it was way too late. And way too late is often just a few seconds short. Pin to Your Grief & Quotes Boards: ![When Silence is Not in the Least Bit Golden (Loss, Love, Life Lessons)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/silence-not-golden-pin.jpg) ![Too Late is Often Just a Few Seconds Short](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/way-too-late-quote-pin.png) ## As the Search for My Missing Bird, Horace, Continues He refused to come down from the first tree for hours. A neighbour and my dad then tried to help catch him with a long stick and net, which only spooked him off. I regretted my decision to allow that attempt, and spent the next few days thinking about what would be the best course of action if I did manage to find him somehow. There are too many maybes, what ifs, and could have beens that fateful Monday. It was everybody’s fault, and nobody’s fault. But next time, I had decided that I was just going to sit there with his favourite food, and keep calling him down even if it took me all day, or days. ### A Glimmer of Recognition & Hope Stella screamed all of Saturday morning, more than her usual A.M. response to the bird calls at dawn. It was a little perplexing; apart from the regular crows, pigeons, mynahs, sparrows and orioles, there wasn’t a trace of Horace’s distinct cockatiel screech. Then all of a sudden whilst we were having lunch, we heard him calling for us. His voice was crystal clear as it flooded through the neighbourhood air. Cockatiels are flock animals, and Stella kept calling for her baby. We hurried down and found him on a nice, clean, visible branch opposite the road. Unfortunately, he was too frightened to descend, despite my friendly, reassuring calls, and a bowl full of his favourite fatty seeds, aka McDonalds’ for birds. I combed my fingers through the seeds, and poured them like sand back into the bowl, trying to entice him. He could see them, and hear the soft clicks, but he was just too frightened, or to novice a flyer to know how to come back down. ### A Mix of Sorrow & Pride as I Watched Helplessly Stella and Scorcher approached in their big black cage, and the three of them started to communicate in bird language with excitement. Horace was clearly eager to return, but needed some help and encouragement. Right at that moment, a crow swooped right down at him and he took off. I turned my head only to see him streaming through the air, his body twisting to avoid those black jaws of death. Disappointment overcame me like a shadow; we had been so very close. But I was proud of my baby as I watched his beautiful flight. Who knew he’d manage to take care of himself for five days out in ‘the wild’, and even manoeuvre away from a nasty, veteran city crow? He is after all, a pampered, privileged baby we had hand raised from day one. Who has never had to hunt for food on his own, or find shelter from the sun or rain. This he is now still doing somewhere out there. There are really only a few options of his disappearance by now. - He is still trying to find his way back home, but is confused with all the lookalike buildings and trees. I **hope** Stella keeps up with her calls to come back home as much as possible. - He flew into someone’s home, which happens quite a bit with missing birds. I **hope** he flew into a friendly home if so. And I **hope** they saw my posters somehow. - He’s already dead. Mauled by a crow, cat or snake. Or from thirst or starvation. But as long as I have yet to see his dead body, I have **hope**. I have never noticed the dead birds around my estate before, and today I found two during my hunt for Horace. Mangled carcasses half eaten, black beady eyes unshut and staring back. Looking for a quiet bird in a tree is like looking for a needle in a haystack. I find so many other things - including a tiny, camouflaged woodpecker right next to the traffic lights - but no signs of poor Horace. ## Extra Bad Timing for A Car Accident... As luck would have it, I was also involved in a car accident between these two heartbreaking glimpses of Horace. I found out it was minor only after, because at that point in time it didn’t feel very minor at all. Both my cab driver and my head were hurting rather badly, and she was giddy when she stood up. At first I was struck with shock, before I burst into tears as horrible what ifs flashed through my brain in rapid, non-sequential order. - What if I was bleeding because of the [**blood thinners I take for Antiphospholipid Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/)? I nearly died the last two times something similar happened (sudden corpus luteum cyst ruptures that wouldn’t stop bleeding). - What if I was [**denied emergency admission to the hospital**](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) which has the expertise and equipment to treat me? Also, just like the last time. - What if I had traumatic brain injury? (Like I said, I panicked. It would take a major accident for TBI.) - I hadn’t had a bite all day. [**When will I be able to eat**](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/)? (I guess that’s a good sign I could still think about food!) - Why is everyone moving so slowly? Don’t they know this is an emergency? Don’t they know [**I have serious medical conditions**](https://achronicvoice.com/about/)? They have all my medical emergency cards! They took me to the nearest hospital, and I was extremely fortunate to get a caring, empathetic and professional A&E doctor there. Those of you who are frequent fliers at the A&E will know just what sort of gems these people are. This came as a surprise to me as it was a shiny new hospital, and I wasn’t sure if they had veteran doctors on their team. ## How Two Life Lessons from Chronic Illness - Adaptation & Acceptance - Helped Me You can say that chronic illness has trained me well to adapt and accept. Whilst my cab driver could leave after an hour or two despite her giddiness from the **trauma** and painkillers, I had to be kept under observation for 15 hours or so. The ironic upside of the [**COVID-19 pandemic**](https://achronicvoice.com/covid-19-vaccine-experiences/) is that hospitals are mostly cleared of less urgent patient appointments, so I get to see my doctors much faster, and wards are emptier. I am talking 5 minute compared to 4 hour waiting times. And one other person in the ward instead of five. I whiled my time away reading and scheduling blogs, and participating in share threads. The injected tramadol no longer has an effect on me. It is my goto painkiller on a normal day for chronic pain as I’m allergic to standard panadol. Whilst I don’t take it much at all, I have built up a resistance to it over the years. I have seen patients giddy and faint from a 50mg injection, and my friend was only allowed a 40mg tablet post surgery. But a 100mg injection doesn’t do a thing for me, especially for high levels of pain. The last time I needed fentanyl to control the corpus luteum bleeding pains. For now, I am grateful there are still a few options should there ever be a severe need. Read Related Posts: - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [How to Prepare for a Medical Appointment in a Post-Pandemic World (4 Top Tips From a Doctor)](https://achronicvoice.com/prepare-medical-appointment/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) ### How I Used to Pass the Time in Hospitals Back When There Were No Digital Devices 15 hours ended quick enough to me. As a young girl I would go for my hospital appointments alone, and I would always have my black notebook and pen with me. I’d spend hours reading, thinking and [**writing poetry**](https://achronicvoice.com/one-of-those-nights-poetry-steroids/), as I waited to see my doctor. Back then there were no mobile phones, so that was my only way of passing time. Years of hospitalisation and the agony of waiting to get out have also instilled a patience in me during crises such as these. The irony, and I’m not sure why, is that I don’t handle everyday stress or minor stressors well, but am ‘in my zone’ when dealing with big, especially life or death, situations. Of course, dealing with loss, grief, **trauma** or any other uncomfortable emotion isn’t easy to cope with. But these lessons I’ve learned from chronic illness make it easier, as I have a logical mental system in place. ‘Easy’ is relative, and ‘easier’ is even more relative. The hurts have not disappeared, but I’m able to sit in the mess and be okay with that. **Grief, like chronic pain, comes and goes. It is the ocean, and I am the shore. I will be broken, but there I remain. When it comes, it comes. When it goes, it goes. But sit with it, and you'll be okay.** Read Related Posts: - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [You Don’t Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) - [I May be Chronically Ill, but I’m Also Chronically Resilient](https://achronicvoice.com/chronically-ill-resilient/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [Just Breathing is Enough For Today](https://achronicvoice.com/just-breathing-enough-today-poem/) Pin to Your Grief, Loss & Quotes Boards: ![Grief, like chronic pain, comes and goes. It is the ocean, and I am the shore. I will be broken, but there I remain. When it comes, it comes. When it goes, it goes. But sit with it, and you’ll be okay.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/grief-ocean-broken-pin.jpg) ![Grief, like chronic pain, comes and goes. It is the ocean, and I am the shore. I will be broken, but there I remain. When it comes, it comes. When it goes, it goes. But sit with it, and you’ll be okay.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/comes-goes-okay-pin.jpg) ## Honouring Your Emotions - Wherever They’re at in the Moment I was also feeling terribly down the day after he was spotted, and didn't do a thing. **I've learned that it's okay to give myself grace**. To sit and stare at the wall for hours if need be. It is not a crime to do so, and the world will keep on spinning. Right in that moment, what I needed was absolute stillness. The solidity of that stillness is the bridge of return, that enables me to step back into the world that's spinning. That is what acceptance means to me. It isn't a defeat - you know I've tried and am trying my best to bring poor Horace home - but an allowance of grace. To keep trying my utmost best, whilst **honouring** how I feel and where I am in time. Read Related Posts: - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) Pin to Your Self-Care & Grief Boards: ![It's not a crime to give yourself some grace - the world will keep on spinning.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/crime-grace-pin.jpg) ![I’ve learned that it’s okay to give myself grace. To sit and stare at the wall for hours if need be. It is not a crime to do so, and the world will keep on spinning. But right in that moment, what I needed was absolute stillness.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/grace-poem-pin.jpg) ### Being Okay Amidst the Mess Surprisingly, I was highly productive the day after, and drowned myself in work and blogging for nearly 12 hours (I get a bit obsessive like that). I found happiness in that productivity, and that I finally managed to crack certain tasks that I had been procrastinating on. I want you to know as well, from what I've experienced with all the losses with chronic illness, is that **it's perfectly okay to be happy even within your grief**. There are no bad or good emotions, only negative or positive reactions and **responses** to them. It isn't black and white; more like an inseparable swirl of colours from a paint palette that's been accidentally knocked over. Read Related Posts: - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [Give Your Best Anyway, Even When You’re Feeling Depressed](https://achronicvoice.com/give-your-best-even-when-feeling-depressed/) - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (52 Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) Pin to Your Self-Awareness and Quotes Boards: ![It’s perfectly okay to be happy even within your grief. There are no bad or good emotions, only negative or positive reactions and responses to them.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/happy-grief-pin.jpg) ![There are no good or bad emotions, only negative or positive reactions and responses to them.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/good-bad-emotions-reactions-pin.jpg) ### Memories, Yearning & Bird Song The funny thing about Horace is that I never liked his name, but my ex-partner did. We thought that he’d be sold within a few months, but nobody wanted such a plain looking bird. Every single one of his siblings were coveted shades of white and yellow pearls, all except for him. But his character was bright and he wasn’t for a minute dull. I didn’t like his name and he probably hated it too, because all he could say was 'Scorcher', which is his father’s name. But now all I yearn for is to hear whatever he has to say again. What inspires me about birds when I hear them, is that they sing their beautiful songs simply because that's what they do. I hear them in the thunderstorm and rain, and under the merciless, beating sun. That is how I'd like to live my life, like a bird. To sing my song despite everything, just because that's what I do, and who I am. Read Related Posts: - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [An Inspirational Poem on Miracles, by Thuli Zuma](https://achronicvoice.com/poem-on-miracles-thuli-zuma/) - [Flowers are the Most Beautiful When They’re Just About to Die (and What That’s Got to Do with Being a Spoonie)](https://achronicvoice.com/flowers-most-beautiful-die-spoonie/) - [Why Your Beauty Never Left You](https://achronicvoice.com/why-your-beauty-never-left-you/) - [The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Prisons or Paths to Freedom](https://achronicvoice.com/stories-we-tell-ourselves-prisons-freedom/) Pin to Your Self-Awareness & Quotes Boards: ![Birds sing their beautiful songs because that's what they do. I'd like to live my life like a bird. To sing my song because that's what I do, and who I am.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/bird-song-poem-pin.jpg) ![Acceptance: Trying your best, with an allowance of grace, whilst honouring how you feel, where you are in time. It is not defeat.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/acceptance-not-defeat-2-pin.jpg) ## The Premonitory Song Before He Disappeared Forever... This song is dedicated to Horace. I wonder if it’s some kind of eerie premonition. It’s the music playing in the background of the [video clip I sent out for people to help identify](https://www.instagram.com/p/CAZL9ZUg1Uk/) and call out to him. > *“Dance while you can* > *Before the night is over* > *We know how life* > *How life can change* > *In an instant, baby* > > Dance while you can > Don't you know life is horror > I've seen how fast it can change > > *Look into my eyes* > *We know life pulls the rug from our feet* > *One day to another* > *No time to be shy* > *We must treat this and every night* > *Like the last goodbye”* Michelle Gurevich - Dance While You Can Pin to Your Acceptance & Quotes Boards: ![Dance while you can, Before the night is over, We know how life, How life can change, In an instant, baby. Dance while you can, Don’t you know life is horror, I’ve seen how fast it can change.” - Michelle Gurevich](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/gurevich-lyrics-pin.png) ## In Loving Memory of Horace And here are some cute pictures in loving memory of Horace, as we **await** his return. There is something you do in Buddhism called ['放生' (fang4 sheng1)](https://www.samyeinstitute.org/sciences/philosophy/life-release/), where you release life meant to be slaughtered, to prevent a calamity upon yourself. This used to be part of Chinese culture where emperors and empresses would release hundreds of birds during events, as well. Whilst my mother doesn't practice Buddhism, she reminded me about this as I laid in the hospital bed. Perhaps Horace had escaped in order to prevent me from a more devastating car accident. Whilst this may not be logical, I would like to remember him that way. Horace, my lovely little hero. In Loving Memory of Horace, as We Await His Return: ![Cocktiel Hatchlings](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/welcome.jpg) *Welcome to the world!* ![Cockatiel Trio](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/trio.jpg) *Baby Horace, Magnus and Edgar.* ![Cockatiel Babies](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/horace-gaga-2.jpg) *Cuddly siblings.* ![Cockatiel Babies](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/horace-gaga.jpg) *Cockatiels are always so happy.* Your browser does not support the video tag. *Baby Horace & Edgar getting headrubs.* Your browser does not support the video tag. *Handfeeding them hungry babies.* Your browser does not support the video tag. *Horace learning to talk and whistle.* Your browser does not support the video tag. *Because broccoli is delish.* ![Cockatiel bird resting](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/cutest-pie.JPG) *My cutest little pie.* Your browser does not support the video tag. *Birds grind their beaks when contented.* ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Grief, Loss & Life Lessons Learned from Chronic Illness Boards: ![A Gar Accident & A Missing Pet. How Years Of Chronic Pain Has Taught Me To Cope.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/accident-pet-chronic-pain-pin.jpg) ![In Loving Memory of Horace — How years of chronic pain has taught me to cope with loss. Read the post on the blog: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/in-loving-memory-horace-years-chronic-pain-taught-me-cope-with-loss.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Katie Clark Jul 20, 2020 Seeing where you are now, after losing Horace, taking care of all the new baby birds, I had to come back to this post and comment on how we weather (you have weathered) the pains of this life and how we also find new joys (not diminishing our losses but going forth with hope despite them). - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 21, 2020 Hi Katie, thanks for coming back to this post 🙂 Yes exactly what you said. I knew that I could replace that grief with life and love. Not that I forget about Horace – I just thought about him yesterday as I looked at his new favourite pillow spot to hang out with me – and I would be overjoyed if he ever, somehow, found his way back home. But love is an endless well. And that’s where I need to focus on 🙂 xxx - [ Rhiann ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com) Jun 27, 2020 Hello for another month Sheryl, and I am so sorry to hear of all the struggles and traumas you have had to endure in June, I do so hope the month has improved for you since then. It was such a beautiful and honest post of the painful lessons we often experience from living with chronic illness, but how they can also help us in other areas of our lives. Such a relatable topic, and am sure we can all think of examples from our own lives. I am so sorry to hear about Horace and hope that he returns to you as I am sure his company is such a comfort and blessing for you. Take care xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 1, 2020 Thanks for reading and joining us as always, Rhiann. I love seeing a friendly face and having you in the linkups 🙂 Yes grief is an ongoing process with chronic illness. It’s funny how everything in life teaches and ties in together. Nothing is exclusive, really 🙂 - Cynthia Jun 18, 2020 Hugs!!! My heart just aches for you. Horace sounds like a little warrior! I do hope he returns. BTW the way you speak of him expresses how special he is. I also hope you have had adequate time to recover from the trauma of the accident. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 20, 2020 Thanks Cynthia! He was young, but really such a warrior. I doubt he will return since it’s been a while, but in my heart I will light a candle and hold a special place in case he does return 🙂 He is always welcome home 🙂 As for the accident, I think missing Horace was more traumatic lol. Sending hugs back! - [ Catherine Green ](https://www.spookymrsgreen.com) Jun 17, 2020 Hi Sheryl, what a beautiful bird Horace is, and I do hope he is happy wherever he ended up. My dog heard him on the laptop when I played those videos and his response was so cute! Our pets certainly keep us going during the chronic pain flares. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 20, 2020 Hi Catherine, he was indeed such a beautiful baby who brought me great joy. He is probably dead or in someone else’s home by now, but wherever he is, I wish him well. Aww…I am so glad I posted that video the month before. Pets really are family, aren’t they? 🙂 - Naomi Jun 13, 2020 Goodness, plenty of trauma in this blog!but also lots of lovely reflections and hope. I hope Horace is at peace, wherever he is - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 14, 2020 Indeed! I too, hope that he is at peace wherever he is – at the rainbow bridge, or with another person somewhere. <3 - [ Alison Hayes ](https://www.thrivingwhiledisabled.com) Jun 5, 2020 Oh Sheryl, I’m so sorry about Horace getting loose! I hope he does come back, but I understand that you need to let him go for now. Loss is always hard – and uncertainty is sometimes worse than finality. There’s always hope, and while that can be good, that also means that there’s more opportunities for disappointment. Your memories and images of him are beautiful, thank you so much for giving us a glimpse into your life with such a sweet little companion! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 7, 2020 Hi Alison, yes I think uncertainty is definitely harder to cope with than finality, a lesson that I found harder to deal with as a teen haha. But with chronic illness and all the unpredictability, I’ve learned how to be okay within that uncertainty. Acceptance really helps me to cope. And thank you, I hope you like the photos and videos 🙂 - Terry Mayfield Jun 5, 2020 Beautiful post, Sheryl. Hold your precious Horace close to your heart. I hope he is well and makes his way home to you. Hope you are healing from your car accident. Sending comforting, supportive hugs and love. ?? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 5, 2020 Thanks Terry. He is always dear to me, and always in my heart, even though he’s just a tiny little bird 🙂 - [ Despite Pain ](https://www.despitepain.com) Jun 3, 2020 I was thinking about you the other day and wondered if he had returned. I’m sorry he hasn’t. But, yes, don’t give up hope x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 4, 2020 He hasn’t and frankly I’m losing hope. But in my heart, I will always await his return should he show up at my door anytime 🙂 - [ Anne ](https://www.raisiebay.com) Jun 3, 2020 Oh Sheryl, I felt a lump in my throat when the crow took Horace. I truly hope he dropped him and one day he will find his way home, or at least find another kind home. I really do. I’m so sorry you had to go through the trauma of a car accident, it must be surreal being in hospital in these times. My husband cut his hand and severed a tendon last week, he went to A&E and was home within 2 hours….unheard of. The next day he went back for minor surgery and was home in the time you’d normally be kept waiting. Saying all that, I’m glad you came out of the other end okay and I hope you continue to keep your stillness and peace until you feel healed. Sending love and best wishes from very far away x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 3, 2020 Hi Anne, the crow didn’t take Horace, he escaped! Beautiful manoeuvre…and he’s not trained :p I just pray he doesn’t fall prey to another attack if he’s still out there. If he flew into someone’s home, may the person be a kind soul (and hopefully saw my poster!!! 🙁 ). I’m sorry to hear about your husband! Was it from making those beautiful walking sticks? 🙁 Yes totally unheard of lol. I hope you and him are both doing well right now xxx - Nikki Albert Jun 2, 2020 I once thought I lost my can, Bobby. We had moved some furniture in and he is very skittish. Then there were fireworks and later the next day a thunderstorm. Turns out he was so scared he was hiding in our basement rafters the whole time. And popped out when he calmed down. I cried I was so happy to see him and woke up my bf. We lost him a few years later anyway to pancreatic cancer. It seems we are destined to lose our beloved pets. But I cannot stand it sometimes. I miss him. I miss Franky. I just have Charlie left and he is 12… so bit of an old man himself now. I panicked recently and brought him to the vet terrified something was wrong with him… turns out just a bit of a bug. But I just am so scared he will become seriously ill. I do hope your Horace comes home. I really do. <3 It is so hard when they are lost and we do not know what is happening to them. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 2, 2020 Thank you Nikki, I really hope he finds his way home somehow too. In the meantime, his parents are in mating mode again so…we’ll see where that goes heh. And yes, it’s really sad to lose a pet, they become so dear to us. Sometimes I wonder if it’s worth getting a new pet or bird after losing one to disease, an unfortunate escape, or for unknown reasons. Then I think to myself I don’t want to shut myself out from all that potential new love again. My heart can bear with this pain, because it can be filled again. Not in the same way of course, but we only live once, and should soak up all the love in the world, and radiate it back. That is something I’ve believed, since a little girl 🙂 Sending love as always! xxx - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/) Jun 2, 2020 A beautiful post about the hard lessons we learn from being chronically ill and how we can apply those lessons to other aspects of life. Sheryl, I read this last night and it’s so beautiful. I really don’t know what to say other than that I will sit and hold this space with you. It’s amazing to see that in grief, you’ve come up with so many relevant points for your readers to consider. I hope with all my heart that Stella keeps calling him home and that he finds his way to you soon. As an aside, I’m so sorry about your accident. What a horrible thing to happen on top of everything else. I’m glad you are ok, I’m glad you were able to make the most of your time while at the hospital (again) and I’m so impressed with how much you’re able to do while there. I barely get anything done. I try to read, but mostly I just sit and stare at the numbers willing them to call me next. Sending gentle hugs! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 2, 2020 Hi Carrie, thanks for holding this space with me 🙂 I guess it is just ups and downs, and we kind of have gotten used to the swing of things, you could say, heh. Yes I tend to get into this self-reflective mood when I’m in my most down moments. I guess it’s just who I am, and writing is my goto release 🙂 Sending love to you too! xxx - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/) Jun 3, 2020 Sending lots of love right back at you. I get the same way. A little melancholy does wonders for my writing, but I sure could do without the heartache! - [ Maria ](https://missmv.com/) Jun 2, 2020 Your writing style has captivated my full attention. I had a sad incident with one budgie and it affected me emotionally a lot. Hearing him screaming until passed away was a torture and I felt powerless as I couldn’t do anything for him. Soon after that, I concluded that exotic birds shouldn’t be traded as pets, but I guess that my opinion. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 2, 2020 Thank you Maria. I have two budgies two who love to sing all day to music 🙂 I am sorry to hear about the passing of yours. Am not sure how it died, but it can be heartbreaking when we can’t protect something that’s so vulnerable, isn’t it? Sending hugs to you. - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Jun 1, 2020 This was so poetic to read. You made grief sound like a melody – as if there was calm in all the fear, trouble and pain – yet reading it, I felt it all. I wish he comes back soon and thank you for reminding us of how to face a tough time. Big hug Sheryl. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 2, 2020 Thanks Shruti…like they say, there’s no music without the black keys on the piano, too. It adds so much depth to the music (aka life). I hope he manages to find his way back home, somehow. On another note, my other two cockatiels seem to be up to no good again 😉 - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Jun 1, 2020 You write so beautifully about difficult topics Sheryl. I hope that Horace (I love that name!) finds his way back to you. Pets are really part of the family aren’t they. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 2, 2020 Thanks Claire…sad and painful topics inspire me more than happy words, unfortunately. I’m glad you love his name 😀 And yes, I never thought I’d fall in love with him so much. He really drew me in! 🙂 - Katie Clark May 31, 2020 This is so beautifully, heartache written, Sheryl. You are a true poet. I love how you say, “The hurts have not disappeared, but I’m able to sit in the mess and be okay with that. Grief, like chronic pain, comes and goes. It is the ocean, and I am the shore. I will be broken, but there I remain. When it comes, it comes. When it goes, it goes. But sit with it, and you’ll be okay.” And I’m glad you sing, your song is helping others. My hope is that Horace returns to you, but if he doesn’t, it is plain to see that he has given you much as you have to him. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 1, 2020 Thanks Katie for your kind words as always. I hope the post (which I spent quite a lot of effort on), does dearest Horace justice 🙂 I too hope he returns, but who knows. Yes we all have songs to sing, because that’s life. Sending love and hugs 🙂 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/ Last updated: 2026-06-06T16:40:19.000Z ## What It's Like to be Stuck at Home with Chronic Illness & Disability – Introduction to the Series In the first part of this series, people with chronic illness and disability shared their best tips for coping with isolation whilst stuck at home, often from pain or fatigue. With the [**COVID-19 pandemic and ensuing lockdown**](https://achronicvoice.com/covid-19-vaccine-experiences/), many healthy people have found themselves in similar situations. Perhaps with less pain and fatigue, yet the mental health impact is real no matter who you are or what you have. Whether you are an introvert, extrovert, or whatever 'vert' you view yourself as, this change in our normal routines creates a disturbance in our own lake of life, sending ripples across that impact everything else. There is a difference between peaceful solitude, and a reduction of freedom and human connection. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the authors' personal experiences as patients. *I/We are not doctors, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Changelog: - 29 May 2020: Updated with new additions at the bottom. Read More in the Series: - [29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) - *Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability) (this post)* - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) ## An Interesting Contrast in Opinions About Being Stuck at Home Due to Chronic Illness or Disability It was interesting to read what others with chronic illness and disability viewed as the best and worst parts about being stuck at home, even if it’s more common for them than others. What were seen as positives for some were seen as negatives for others, and vice versa. Some [**find it hard to be apart from their friends**](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) and families physically, whilst others have grown closer to their loved ones as a result. Quite a number have found it a relief to ‘let the house go’ and not feel pressured in its upkeep, whilst many others are bored of staring at the same four walls day in and out. Some are doing less exercise, whilst others are doing more! Take a look at what those with chronic illness and disability have to say about the best and worst parts about being stuck at home below. Is it something you can relate to, whether you live with a chronic health condition or not? Pin to Your Mental Health & Home and Lifestyle Boards: ![Best and Worst Parts About Staying Home - Can You Relate?](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/best-worst-staying-home-relate-pin-2.jpg) ![Best and worst part about being stuck at home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability). Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/best-and-worst-part-stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability-v1-green-patio.jpg) ## What’s the Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home? ### 1\. Anonymous “Lack of sexual contact/intimacy (not gonna lie haha).” --- “Get to catch up on reading! 🙂” ### 2\. Khai Hoon “Higher utilities bill. Haha.” --- “Save time from commuting.” ### 3\. Ash “Feeling like the world is passing you by. Everything can feel out of control for you and you feel like can’t contribute. You’re not able to do the things that bring you joy like seeing family and friends, travel, and **[go to the office.](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/)** Also this feeling of wasting your days. Like you’re just lying there, and not achieving anything.” “You get to **[pause and slow down.](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/)** [Spend time with pets](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/the-way-my-dog-talisker-brings-me) if you have them. Find other **[ways that you can contribute and feel productive](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/)**, whether that is through finding charities you can help by donating or admin things from home, or just being a voice on the other end of the phone for someone who might be having an even worse time than you. Also cooking. If you feel well enough that is. Some days you don’t, and that’s ok, but some time to make and eat comfort food, and rediscover joy in the small things is nice.” ### 4\. Jo Moss [ ](https://www.facebook.com/ajourneythroughthefog/) [ ](https://x.com/JourneyFog) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/jomoss1975/) “Boredom.” --- “I get to structure my rest time more effectively.” ### 5\. Melissa Reynolds [ ](https://melissavsfibromyalgia.com/) “My kids are all here all day too!” --- “Really saving energy on the usual routine.” ### 6\. Claire G. [ ](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/through.the.fibro.fog/) “Not being able to see friends and family.” --- “Being able to take time to slow down and spend time on interests that I enjoy such as cooking, **[yoga](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/)** and doing really hard jigsaw puzzles!” ### 7\. Jo Jackson [ ](https://teaandcakeforthesoul.wordpress.com/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/teaandcakeforthesoul/) “Not being able to see my family or go out to the beach when I fancy a change of scenery.” --- “The freedom of not having to be anywhere at a specific time.” ### 8\. Karen Taylor “No one to talk to all day. Finding the discipline to exercise.” --- “Having time to read and **[research for my Uni degree](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/)**. Having the freedom to **[watch a movie or documentary on Netflix](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/)**.” ### 9\. Susan C Smith [ ](https://www.instagram.com/Huskymom1416/) “No direct in-person contact with other people. I’m a ‘people person’ and there’s no substitute.” --- “Catch up with little projects that had fallen by the wayside. Hopefully try something new. For example, I’d like to learn more about painting.” ### 10\. Stacey Kovaciny [ ](https://www.youtube.com/rawabilitylife) “Four walls syndrome! Being bored.” --- “Time to catch up on emails, movies and crafts. Time to catch up with family.” Read Related Posts: - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) ### 11\. Nick Winder “Missing out on social interaction which is all too **[important for mental health](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/)**.” --- “You have time to focus internally and **[question what is truly important to you](https://achronicvoice.com/make-time-what-matters-most/)**.” ### 12\. Katie Clark [ ](https://x.com/klclark525) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/painfullyliving/) “Not being to have my son’s family over and hug my granddaughter.” --- “Not having the pressure of commitments that I end up disappointing people if I can’t follow through.” ### 13\. Emmie Arnold [ ](https://illness-to-wellness.com/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/illnesstowellness) [ ](https://x.com/ill%5Fto%5Fwell) [ ](https://illness-to-wellness.tumblr.com/) “The precious little parts of life that I didn’t even realize mattered to me - having options at the store, passing strangers on the street without being scared, freedom of movement (even when I stayed at home and was happy not to have plans!), hugs from people – even casual acquaintances…to name just a few.” --- “I have few excuses not to clean my home anymore. I now have the time to clean in little chunks of time and not burn myself out physically.” ### 14\. Jennifer Brightbill, FNTP, CEOC [ ](https://feastingonjoy.com/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/feastingonjoy) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/feastingonjoy) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/feastingonjoy/) “It’s all perspective. I don’t really feel like there is a ‘worst’ part. The biggest problem though is that I feel a **[loss of freedom](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/)**.” --- “I don’t really view this as being ‘stuck.’ I **[replace the word ‘stuck’ with the phrase ‘get-to.’](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/)** I get to be at home. The best part is being able to focus on my 3 core values – Family, Faith and Health.” ### 16\. Rachel Tait (What a Pain) [ ](https://whatapain.co.uk/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/whatapainblog) [ ](https://x.com/whatapain%5Fblog) [ ](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8lk0Qss8IYlApuFvL--rLg) “How lonely it is.” --- “There isn’t the pressure of needing to keep on top of the house haha.” ### 17\. Jen Johansson “Being unable to help friends and family in need.” --- “Getting to **[wear comfy clothes](https://achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery/)**.” ### 15\. Nina T Torres [ ](https://scarsforchrist.blogspot.com/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/knee%5Fna01/) [ ](https://x.com/torresnina73) “I’m a very social person so not seeing and socializing with my family and friends is difficult at times.” --- “The **[mornings are the hardest](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/)** for me when living with severe **[Rheumatoid Arthritis](https://achronicvoice.com/rheumatoid-arthritis-fight-life/)** due to pain and stiffness. Therefore, It’s easier for me to get ready for work in my own environment without having to get up early and I can adjust the temperature in my house to make the mornings more comfortable &manageable. I’ve come to realize that working at home is actually ideal for me!” ### 18\. Emilee Kendell, A Mercurial Consciousness [ ](https://www.instagram.com/mercurialconsciousness/) [ ](https://x.com/mcherbalremedy) “Lack of social life, guilt for cancelling plans, the fear of missing out. At least with COVID everyone is in the same boat.” --- “There is infinite time to create with little distractions. I encourage you to follow your energy and do the things you thought you didn’t have time for before.” ### 19\. Carrie Kellenberger [ ](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/MySeveralWorlds/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/globetrotterI/) [ ](https://x.com/globetrotteri) “The worst part of being stuck at home is lack of human contact. It’s hard being by yourself all the time. It’s especially hard seeing everyone else out enjoying themselves when you can’t leave your home.” --- “Reading as much as my heart contents, working on my indoor garden, and playing with my cats. I started my indoor garden project in 2015 and it was one of the best decisions I ever made. It keeps me focused and occupied and there is no denying that having nature around is exceptionally good for your mental health.” Read Related Posts: - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You’re All Invited, Too!)](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies: Part II](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies-2/) - [Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill: Part III](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-3-chronically-ill/) - [Book Review: The Narwhal Who Suffers from Chronic Migraines](https://achronicvoice.com/book-review-narwhal-migraines/) ### 20\. Liz, Despite Pain [ ](https://despitepain.com/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/despitepainpage) [ ](https://x.com/DespitePainBlog) [ ](https://uk.pinterest.com/despitepain/) “Not seeing family. It was my Dad’s 87th birthday last week and I couldn’t visit him.” --- “Comfy clothes and messy hair.” ### 21\. Caz / InvisiblyMe [ ](https://invisiblyme.com/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/invisiblymeblog) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/invisiblymeblog) [ ](https://x.com/invisiblymeblog) “I feel that **[time is passing me by](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/)** and before I know it the years have started to slip by, **[as though I’m watching life outside my window](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/)** on fast-forward. **[Being limited in what you can do](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/)** because of chronic illness/pain can mean you feel you’re missing out, which isn’t easy to accept and can lead to loneliness, frustration and even resentment unless we’re able to adapt our perspective.” --- “I’ve come to appreciate home as my sanctuary and **[relish the small, simple joys](https://achronicvoice.com/value-gratitude/)**. I’ve found a better place of contentment, along with an understanding of the difference between that and complacency. I’ve found great gratitude in comfort at being at home with illness and pain.” ### 22\. Cheyanne Perry “The worst part about being stuck at home is not having access to my treatments, as well as the fear that comes from **[not being able to go to the hospital in the case of an emergency](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/)** due to the risk of COVID-19 exposure. Although I am mostly housebound regardless, it was nice to know I could leave the house if I wanted to risk the potential consequences.” --- “The best part about being stuck at home is the additional time spent with my immediate family in my household who are also stuck at home. Currently, I do not have to feel guilty or perceived by others as lazy for staying home due to chronic illness because now social isolation is mandated.” Read Related Posts: - [What’s it Like to be the Father of a Child with Chronic Illness? (Precious Insights from My Own Dad!)](https://achronicvoice.com/father-of-child-with-chronic-illness/) - [What’s it Like to be the Mother of a Sick Child? (Precious Insights from My Own Mum)](https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/) - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - ["It's in My Blood": Featuring People with Illnesses, Passions & Talents](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-people-illnesses-talents/) - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) ### 23\. Terry Mayfield [ ](https://www.instagram.com/TerryMMayfield) [ ](https://x.com/terrymmayfield) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/TerryMMayfield/) [ ](https://www.linkedin.com/in/terrymayfield/) “Isolation and loneliness.” --- “Quality time with my husband.” ### 24\. Alice [ ](https://uk.pinterest.com/notebooksandglasses/) “I’m quite used to it so don’t actually mind it – but I do fear going out of the house. I get all anxious and I get impatient and snappy.” --- “Knowing I am doing what I can to stay safe and spending quality time with my family.” ### 25\. Kevin B “The lack of support and interactions with friends and family.” --- “**[Not being exposed to illness](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/)**, not being embarrassed when at times I am unable to eat or swallow. I am avoiding the embarrassment of my disease as I am not exposed to others.” Read Related Posts: - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) - [Learn More About the Super Rare Disease – Esophageal Diverticulum](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) - [Dysphagia & Swallowing Problems (and How Oral Vitamin Sprays Can be of Help to You)](https://achronicvoice.com/dysphagia-oral-vitamin-sprays/) - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) ### 26\. Ernestine Coleman-Dupree (Virgina Nymph) “Cabin fever!” --- “Getting caught up on my to-do list!” ### 27\. Gemma [ ](https://x.com/gemmaorton) “Not seeing family and friends.” --- “Staying safe. Appreciating what I have. Time for myself.” ### 28\. Sarah Poitras [ ](https://www.travelbreatherepeat.com/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/TravelBreatheRepeat/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/spoitras9) [ ](https://x.com/TBR%5FTravelBlog) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/travelbreatherepeat/) “Being afraid to go outside.” --- “It’s been the impetus I’ve needed to reconnect with friends and family in a more meaningful way. I’m reminded of how I used to talk on the phone with my friends as a kid, calling just to say hi and nothing more. I’ve talked to people I hadn’t had contact with in years. I feel my social circle and heart widening again.” ### 29\. Cynthia Covert [ ](https://www.facebook.com/thedisableddiva/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/the%5Fdisabled%5Fdiva/) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/thedisableddiva/) “Not being able to do the things I used to **[look forward to doing on my good days](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/)**. Good days are no different than my bad ones.” --- “The best part of being stuck at home is not having to decline invitations out! No excuses to come up with or **[feeling like I have to prove how much pain I am in](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/)**.” ### 30\. Rachael Tomlinson [ ](https://accessiblerach.co.uk/) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/WheelieMSAdvocate/) “Missing friends and family, just meeting for coffee!” --- “Having time to assess where I see myself after lockdown.” ### 31\. Samantha DeCosmo [ ](https://apurposeinpain.com/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/apurposeinpain/) “Boredom and loneliness.” --- “[Spending time with my dog](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/the-way-my-dog-talisker-brings-me).” ### 32\. Sheryl Chan [ ](https://www.facebook.com/achronicvoice/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/achronicvoice) [ ](https://x.com/AChVoice) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/achronicvoice/) [ ](https://www.youtube.com/@sicklessons) [ ](https://www.linkedin.com/in/sherylchan/) “I miss working in cafés from time to time. It helps with my productivity and mood.” --- “I’m actually going on more walks in replacement of going to cafés. It’s nice to be in touch more with nature and get more exercise!” ### 33\. Jaime Smith “My children are around me fussing about: the pandemic, can we go here or there, can I see my boyfriend why do I have to wear a mask, we can’t live like this forever, the Governor said we could do xyz at our discretion so why can’t we do fill in the blank, and I could go on. Not knowing how to handle your kids’ mental health, understand the pandemic and reasons for why we need to do what we have to do. To be the parent and say no one has ever been through this on Earth up until now, we’ve never been through this we don’t know what to do, or say, or feel either. It is such a helpless, sad, disheartening, guilty, scary, indecisive feeling to not know how to raise your kids during this time in terms of all that encompasses a pandemic. (Sorry this is wordy…I think you get my point) making decisions as a parent is hard enough, and now the pandemic multiplied it by a hundred times!)” --- “Being home and spending time with my children. My husband is a nurse practitioner so I see him the same amount as I did before. Getting back into my **[love for adult coloring](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/)**. Being so much more grateful to The Lord for all we have! People understanding the quote I love a lot more than before, ‘when you have your health, you have wealth.’ Nothing can move forward or happen if you don’t have your great health. I APPRECIATE it so much more now!” ## Conclusion to Best & Worst Parts of Being Stuck at Home Due to Chronic Illness or Disability A big thank you to everyone who contributed to this community roundup! As you can see, there are many recurrent themes when it comes to the worst part about being stuck at home due to chronic pain or illness, namely: loneliness, lack of social connection, boredom and the need to endure pain. On the other hand, quite a number of participants have learned how to appreciate their loved ones even more, and are spending more quality time with them. Many have also learned to re-evaluate their priorities and goals, and some have even 'upgraded' their home into beautiful living spaces. I hope that this article has lent insight into what life is like being stuck at home with chronic pain, chronic fatigue or disability, whether visible or invisible. I also hope that this raises more awareness so that we can show a little more empathy to all around us. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. 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Read Related Posts: - [Keeping Up with the World: Why it’s Important Despite Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) - [Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-home-resources-learned-other-blogs/) - [Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 – 6](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) - [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/) Pin to Your Chronic Pain, Disabilities & Stuck at Home Boards: ![Best and Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness and Disability)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/stuck-home-pin.jpg) ![Stuck At Home With Nowhere To Go. Yes It Sucks, but Here are Some Upsides! Can You Relate?](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/stuck-home-relate-pin.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/) Jun 2, 2020 It’s an honor, as always, to be included. I mentioned last night that I really hope this series goes viral for you. I think the happy and sad faces are pretty cute too. Reading through the comments here, I realize I’m the only one who never entered a formal lockdown in Taiwan. As an aside, President Tsai Ing Wen and her government did a great job of keeping Taiwan safe. I feel like I’m in a bit of a bubble over here compared to the rest of the world. I’ve worked from home for 10 years, so nothing has really changed for me. I’ve got my routine in place, (I HATE ZOOM AND SKYPE, but that has been a part of my life for years because I’m in HR), and I’m really used to and most comfortable being at home in an environment I have complete control over. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 2, 2020 Hi Carrie, yes President Tsai Ing Wen did a really good job enforcing things early on. I was reading about some foreward thinking women leaders on this issue which included her, Chancellor Angela Merkel, etc. I also hate Skype and Zoom lol. I only do it if i absolutely have to (I wonder if that’s why I haven’t started my podcast lol…). And of course you’d be included as always 🙂 Not viral at all, but a little space on the internet for voices to be heard! Thanks! I thought it was better to combine them and was scratching my head as to the best way to display them, and thought the faces made it easier haha. - Katie Clark May 31, 2020 The overriding them is the isolation we are facing is exasperated even more by the quarantine time. However, chronic illness sure brings isolation more than I ever realized. I’m glad to have found this community (thank you Sheryl for being a big part of connecting us). We have others who truly understand and don’t judge us for how we’re feeling. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 1, 2020 You’re most welcome, Katie. I enjoy being a part of this community and am happy to help where I can, according to my own energy boundaries, too. It’s always a comfort just to know there are kind people out there, and people who understand without explaining anything 🙂 - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) May 31, 2020 I nodded along to a lot of these. Alice’s point is one I experienced today, going out the house and getting anxious and snappy! It doesn’t matter how careful you are because you have to trust other people are going to be likewise sensible and cautious, when the reality is you’ll often find many people that aren’t (you know, the ones that ignore the distancing and stand next to you in a queue, that veer in your direction on the pavement, that shout across your face talking to someone as you try to distance in a shop). Yep, makes me anxious & mad in equal measure! Loved reading through these, and thank you for including my thoughts, too. You’ve done an amazing job and put in so much effort in collating it all together, Sheryl. Caz xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 1, 2020 Thanks Caz and for your contribution, too! Yea some people can be so insensitive. And some complain over really nothing at all. That bugs me a lot. What’s a small sacrifice of say, wearing a face mask and doing some social distancing for a while, or a longer period, as compared to the world remaining in shutdown for even longer? - Jason Herterich May 30, 2020 It’s so nice to read a post with contributions capturing so many different perspectives! I feel like I can relate to so many of them. Personally, I’ve found the hardest part to be socially isolated from my friends. Zoom calls just don’t do it for me. On the flip side, I’ve been working much more and have been way more productive 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 1, 2020 Thanks Jason…it is all so relatable, isn’t it? Yea I generally hate phone or Zoom/Skype calls…they make me anxious for some reason haha. That’s good that you’re more productive! I need to switch things up every now and then to be productive, and the environment matters. So I have been going on more walks, too 🙂 - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) May 30, 2020 Sheryl! It’s so nice to read all of these – everyone had something different to say. I think I miss being able to go to my physiotherapist but I am also glad that I’m being able to make time for focus. Our lockdown has been going on for over 2 months now and although things are opening up slowly, my movement outside home won’t be for a while even once things start to get better (which seems like ages away!)… Anyways – I think I went off on a tangent. I enjoyed all these perspectives that you manage to bring together. 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 1, 2020 Thanks for your thoughts, Shruti! Yes our lockdown doesn’t seem to be slowing down anytime soon in Singapore, or going at an extremely cautious pace, which is good I suppose! Does drive one up the wall, but what do you do. I also found all the perspectives interesting! Always good to hear opposing schools of thoughts and how it helps them to cope 🙂 - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) May 29, 2020 I really love these posts with insights from the chronic illness community, so insightful. I feel the same as so many people that not seeing friends and family is the hardest aspect of staying home. But it also makes me feel safer, so FaceTime and Zoom is so important right now. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 1, 2020 Yes for some people more than others, the disconnect from friends and family can be really difficult to cope with. I am glad for technology, that’s for sure! I hope you continue to find joy in the little things xxx - [ Rachael Emma Tomlinson ](https://accessiblerach.co.uk) May 28, 2020 Thank you once again, Sheryl, for providing these opportunities, some interesting responses x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 1, 2020 Most welcome Rachael, and thanks for contributing, too! x **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### 29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/ Last updated: 2026-04-13T16:21:10.000Z ## People with Chronic Illness are No Strangers to Being Stuck at Home in Isolation People with chronic illnesses and/or disabilities are no strangers to being stuck at home in isolation. [**Many are unable to work full-time**](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/), or only have enough energy to go out for essentials tasks such as grocery shopping and [**doctor appointments**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/). And even these activities require pacing and planning, to ensure that there is minimal post-exertion pain flares. So what do people like us do at home all the time? You’ve been in isolation for a few months and should know by now – it’s definitely no holiday or fun times. It gnaws away at your [**mental and physical wellbeing**](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/), when you’re cooped up for this long with no social contact and minimal movement. Changelog: - 29 May 2020: New additions added at the end of the post. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the authors' personal experiences. *I/We are not doctors, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Read More in the Series: *- 29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives) (this post)* - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) Pin to Your Isolation & Chronic Illness Boards: ![29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/best-tips-how-to-cope-with-isolation-at-hoome.jpg) ## Yes, It's Okay to Use Different Coping Strategies for Different Days Over the years, we’ve learned how to cope with pain and isolation in our own different ways. As you can see above, the tagline of my blog is ‘articulating chronic illness from various perspectives’. It is my genuine belief that it's beneficial to consider different viewpoints, even opposing ones. [**Context matters**](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/), and I view each one as an [**extra tool in the coping toolbox**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/). In fact, I do use completely opposite strategies for different days and situations. If you think about it however, they serve the same purpose at the end of the day - a bid for a better quality of life. So let's dive in and hear what these 29 people with chronic illness have to say about how they cope with self isolation. It is after all, something they've had many years of experience doing, and will probably need to continue doing for the rest of their lives. I'm sure that we can glean some insight and learn a thing or two. Heck, even I could learn something new as a person with chronic illness myself! ## What's Your One Best Tip for Dealing with Isolation at Home? ### 1\. Anonymous 😉 “For those who don’t live with your partner, invest in some trusty sex toys!” ### 2\. Khai Hoon “[**Pick up on your long shelved hobbies**](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/), take courses and time to wind down. Spend time with family. Time to re-think and re-align purpose of life (but [**don’t go into depression**](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/)).” ### 3\. Ash “Get off social media. Everyone is living their best life on there its not reality and it will make you feel bad like you’re missing out. Most people are sat on their bums [**watching netflix in sweat pants**](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) too, so don’t worry.” ### 4\. Jo Moss “Plan something to look forward to each day, like a [**phone call with a friend**](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) – personal contact either by phone or online is so important for your mental health.” [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/ajourneythroughthefog/) [Twitter](https://x.com/JourneyFog) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/jomoss1975/) ### 5\. Melissa Reynolds “Being organised and remembering self-care, especially if you’re supposed to be working and have kids at home! Give yourself grace. Anxiety is a pervasive fellow and will sneak on up so try to keep it balanced.” [Website](https://melissavsfibromyalgia.com/) ### 6\. Claire G. “Don’t put pressure on yourself to be ‘productive’ and go with what your mind and body need each day in terms of activities.” [Website](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/through.the.fibro.fog/) ### 7\. Jo Jackson “Maintain a routine where possible but allow yourself time out if needed. Everyone has days where they are unable to cope. I get up at a similar time every day, [**do my stretches**](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/), food prep for the day, have a walk, do some jobs then allow myself some chill out time. If you can [**give purpose to each day**](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/), you will have something to get up for and feel that you’ve achieved something, even if it’s out of the norm.” [Website](https://teaandcakeforthesoul.wordpress.com/) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/teaandcakeforthesoul/) ### 8\. Karen Taylor “[**Accepting that this situation is beyond my control**](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/), and it is much better for myself, my loved ones and the health system if I stay home. It’s simple, not easy, but true.” ### 9\. Susan C Smith “Having realistic expectations for each day. For example, rather than cleaning your entire home top to bottom in one day, agree with yourself on cleaning 1-2 drawers in the bedroom.” [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/Huskymom1416/) ### 10\. Stacey Kovaciny “It's Important to keep your mind busy, so [**arts and crafts are great for keeping you sane**](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/).” [YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/rawabilitylife) ### 11\. Nick Winder “If you’re still able to function well mentally, keep busy. Find something that is mentally stimulating like [**learning a new skill, writing, reading**](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) etc. There’s no use in worrying about the situation at hand.” ### 12\. Katie Clark “Think out if the box to find meaningful things to do. When I became homebound and then retired, I had to really [**adjust my perception of self**](https://achronicvoice.com/finding-self-behind-illness/) and what my life was. I finally realized that I could do/be anything, so I began to find new things that have given me purpose.” [Twitter](https://x.com/klclark525) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/painfullyliving/) Read Related Posts: - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/) - [A String of Bad Days (and What Happened When That Good Day Finally Came Along) ](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/) ### 13\. Emmie Arnold “Make goals for each day and week, but write them in pencil rather than pen and have grace for yourself. Know that there will be days that you get a lot done, and there also may be days that there you’re especially fatigued, sad to the point of tears, and anxious to the point of brain fog that you can’t work through. Know that whatever you do – and don’t do – is good enough. We’re going through a pandemic. This is not a vacation. This is not normal. We don’t have to pretend it is. May you take good care of yourself, be in contact with people you love, and [**feel joy in unexpected places amidst the global and personal heartbreaks**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/).” [Website](https://illness-to-wellness.com/) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/illnesstowellness) [Tumblr](https://illness-to-wellness.tumblr.com/) [Twitter](https://x.com/ill%5Fto%5Fwell) ### 14\. Jennifer Brightbill, FNTP, CEOC “Choose your 3 core values and purpose to do ONE thing in each of those buckets each day. I choose to do one thing in my Family, Faith and Health bucket each day – even if they’re small things.” [Website](https://feastingonjoy.com/) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/feastingonjoy) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/feastingonjoy) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/feastingonjoy/) ### 15\. Nina T Torres “[**Making your home nice and comfy**](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) is my number one home bound survival tip. I’ve created a room that is super conducive to a mentally healthy environment with many accessories that [**create a relaxing mindfulness atmosphere**](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/). I have a HUGE Himalayan salt lamp, an electric fireplace, & a diffuser with several essential oil relaxing sense to calm the mind body and soul in my bedroom. Empowering music is also essential in creating an environment that is conducive to a mind being able to thrive in a home bound Quarantine situation.” [Website](https://scarsforchrist.blogspot.com/) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/knee%5Fna01/) [Twitter](https://x.com/torresnina73) ### 16\. Rachel Tait (What a Pain) “Practise self care. Actively plan self care into your day to meet whatever your needs are. For example on a day I’m struggling with loneliness my self care may be a video call to my best friend. On days where I’m mentally struggling because of my physical limitations I make a point of being kind to my body rather than mad at it. This could be doing a face mask, giving myself permission to rest or saying positive affirmations such as ‘[**My body is not useless**](https://achronicvoice.com/poem-on-miracles-thuli-zuma/); I can still do \*insert something I CAN do\*’.” [Website](https://whatapain.co.uk/) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/whatapainblog) [Twitter](https://x.com/whatapain%5Fblog) [YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8lk0Qss8IYlApuFvL--rLg) ### 17\. Jen Johansson “[**Take one day at a time.**](https://achronicvoice.com/dealing-with-pain/) Don’t borrow trouble from yesterday or tomorrow. Today has enough of its own.” ### 18\. Emilee Kendell, A Mercurial Consciousness “Take care of yourself and give structure to your day. Have a routine of tea, [**yoga**](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/), art, work, relaxation and family/fur/plant baby time. Try to stay out of bed during the day and get outside when you can.” [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/mercurialconsciousness/) [Twitter](https://x.com/mcherbalremedy) ### 19\. Carrie Kellenberger “Netflix and TV are great, but I have a hard rule. No TV until after dinner. During the day, this gives me plenty of time to work, write, create art, work on my garden and read, which are all activities that make me feel good.” [Website](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/MySeveralWorlds/) [Facebook (Personal)](https://www.facebook.com/globetrotterI) [Twitter](https://x.com/globetrotteri) ### 20\. Liz, Despite Pain “Finding lots of distractions whether it be television, books, social media or a hobby.” [Website](https://despitepain.com/) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/despitepainpage) [Twitter](https://x.com/DespitePainBlog) [Pinterest](https://uk.pinterest.com/despitepain/) ### 21\. Caz / InvisiblyMe “Focus on what you can do rather than being sucked down by what you can’t do. Look at the big and tiny things you can actually do, even if you have to think outside of the box a little. We may not be able to change the situation itself, [**but we can change our perspective**](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/), and perspective is a hugely powerful thing when you come to realise the potential. Give yourself permission to rest as you readjust.” [Website](https://invisiblyme.com/) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/invisiblymeblog) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/invisiblymeblog) [Twitter](https://x.com/invisiblymeblog) ### 22\. Cheyanne Perry “The best tip for surviving home life is to focus on [**accomplishing one goal per day**](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/)–even if it is something small like walking to the mailbox and back, knitting, or finishing a book.” ### 23\. Terry Mayfield “[**Acceptance**](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/). We cannot change what is out of our control. We can only change how we choose to cope.” [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/TerryMMayfield) [Twitter](https://x.com/terrymmayfield) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/TerryMMayfield/) [LinkedIn](https://www.linkedin.com/in/terrymayfield/) ### 24\. Alice “Stay as productive and busy as you can so your your thoughts don’t go crazy.” [Pinterest](https://uk.pinterest.com/notebooksandglasses/) ### 25\. Kevin B “[**Social media friends are always there**](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) when I need.” ### 26\. Ernestine Coleman-Dupree (Virgina Nymph) “Reaching out to others through other means so I don’t feel alone. Email, text, phone, social media. Also finding things I can do within my means so I don’t feel worthless. Can I run a mile or hike the parkway no I can’t but I can help tutor kids in English & edit short stories.” ### 27\. Gemma “Enjoy the little things.” [Twitter](https://x.com/gemmaorton) ### 28\. Sarah Poitras “Look for interesting and new ways to engage with the space around you and use the tools you have at home to feel fulfilled. We rearranged some furniture and are using rooms in different ways and it has made us feel better just being here and also more productive.” ([**Read more about Sarah's travels around the world with lung disease here**](https://achronicvoice.com/sarah-poitras-travelling-world-lung-disease/).) [Website](https://www.travelbreatherepeat.com/) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/TravelBreatheRepeat/) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/spoitras9) [Twitter](https://x.com/TBR%5FTravelBlog) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/travelbreatherepeat/) ### 29\. Sheryl Chan “Change your scenery, both physically and mentally. I used to enjoy working at cafés a few times a week to help with [**productivity and mental wellbeing**](https://achronicvoice.com/july-maximise-wellbeing-stress/). Now that I can’t do that I go for short nature walks instead (probably healthier, ironically!). Also, don’t work on the same tasks or projects every day. When you feel like your brain is maxed out on it, switch things up. This will keep you mentally stimulated, gives you momentum and have something to look forward to.” [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/achronicvoice/) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/achronicvoice) [Twitter](https://x.com/AChVoice) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/achronicvoice/) [YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/@sicklessons) [LinkedIn](https://www.linkedin.com/in/sherylchan/) --- ## Check Out the Latest Contributions in the Chronic Illness & Isolation Series Below ### 30\. Cynthia Covert “Before chronic illness, I quit working full-time to become a stay-at-home mom. Learning how to relax and not feel like every moment has to be filled with productivity was not an easy lesson to learn. It did however, prepare me for the downtime later caused by chronic illness.” [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/thedisableddiva/) [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/the%5Fdisabled%5Fdiva/) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/thedisableddiva/) ### 31\. Rachael Tomlinson “[**Take time to breathe**](https://achronicvoice.com/just-breathing-enough-today-poem/), if I feel it’s all getting too much I turn everything off and just sit and close my eyes and breathe slowly, it’s like hitting the reset button for me.” [Website](https://wheeliemsadvocate.co.uk/) [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/WheelieMSAdvocate/) ### 32\. Samantha DeCosmo “Be aware of the [**damage that constantly comparing yourself to others**](https://achronicvoice.com/dont-compare-life-destination-special/) can have. Remember, people tend to share the best parts of their life on social media. Be kind to yourself, you’re doing just fine.” [Website](http://apurposeinpain.com/) [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/apurposeinpain/) ### 33\. Jaime Smith “Well on a personal level depending on your faith, it is that God is in control. No one on this Earth is in control of what takes place. So trusting The Lord more for bringing me closer to him, becoming more faithful lot him allowing him to take the lead of my life. Oh and watching church online is nice! I never go to church due to my fatigue from Lyme Disease, so church in tv is wonderful!” ## A Big Thank You to All Contributors Who Bravely Shared About Isolation at Home with Chronic Illness I would like to thank each and every chronically ill and disabled person who contributed to this series. This can feel vulnerable, yet does help to raise awareness about what life with chronic pain and fatigue is like. It definitely is no picnic. I also hope that it helps to build up more community as we reach out for more meaningful connections. Finally, remember that you are never alone - there are many of us out there who are in a similar situation, even if our chronic illnesses or disabilities differ. Hang in there and reach out to a trusted person today - whether in real life or a ‘spoonie friend’ online! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [Give Your Best Anyway, Even When You’re Feeling Depressed](https://achronicvoice.com/give-your-best-even-when-feeling-depressed/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [Find Your Way Back to Happiness with a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/find-happiness-chronic-illness/) Pin to Your Isolation, Chronic Pain & Chronic Fatigue Boards: ![29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/isolation-home-tips-pin.jpg) ![How to Survive Isolation - 20 Top Tips From Those with Chronic Illness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/survive-isolation-pin.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Paolo May 30, 2020 Must have been hard living alone during this pandemic. I hope everyone is safe! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 1, 2020 Thanks Paolo 🙂 I hope you and your loved ones are safe and healthy where you are, too! - Cynthia Covert May 28, 2020 Such a wonderful variety of tips! If anyone can help people get through these times, it is the chronically ill! Thanks for sharing my tip. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 1, 2020 So true, Cynthia! You’d think decades of experience would teach us a thing or two, heh. Still difficult too, for sure! And no problem, thanks for the contribution! - Marya May 28, 2020 I’ve done yoga and worked out everyday and had to start homeschooling my son. But I’m still on social too much1 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 1, 2020 Haha me too…way too much. My excuse is I use it to try and drive traffic to my blog but still. Need to cut back 🙂 - Holly May 27, 2020 This is an amazing and inspiring post! We all have our ups and downs but staying positive and focusing on self-love and self-care will help us all! Thank you for sharing these wonderful quotes and advice from some amazing people! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 1, 2020 Thanks Holly! It’s the people that makes such posts 🙂 As with anything in life there are ups and downs, hey? I hope that this post helped to add a bit of insight both ways 🙂 - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) May 27, 2020 I love this one “Take care of yourself and give structure to your day….” – structure creates normalcy and I’m all for discipline to help myself through the days (lockdown or no lockdown). Thank you for putting all of these together 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 1, 2020 Yes that was food for thought for me, too. So many good tips in here, I think! - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) May 27, 2020 So many helpful suggestions here! I particularly like feeling as though I have accomplished something in the day – no matter how small. - [ Rachael Emma Tomlinson ](https://accessiblerach.co.uk) May 23, 2020 Thank you, Sheryl, I missed it the first time but I have submitted mine too, you really do have some amazing ideas and are so supportive of us all x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 24, 2020 Thanks Rachael! I will take a look and add them in! - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) May 21, 2020 This is such a fantastic idea, Sheryl! I love being able to see such a mix and match of ideas and suggestions from other people, it really does make for a colourful patch-work quilt of inspiration and support. Thank you too for using my words of not-so-great wisdom! ? You’ve done brilliantly putting this together, I think it could be a wonderful resource for a lot of people! xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 21, 2020 Thanks Caz! Yes I love always to read different perspectives on the same thing (as can be seen in my tagline above!). Your contribution was helpful. Every voice counts as I like to say 🙂 xx - [ jo ](https://ukpsychobillygigguide.wordpress.com) May 17, 2020 There are some really good ideas here. I hope everyone is coping ok. Thanks for including my tip. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 19, 2020 Yes, a small contribution from everyone really adds up. And you’re most welcome, thanks for sharing your tip! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### To Live with Chronic Illness is to Learn to Live with Maybes URL: https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-maybes/ Last updated: 2026-05-01T16:39:13.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Foreseeing the Future with the COVID-19 Pandemic As this COVID-19 pandemic carries on, there is no foreseeable date as to when all this will end, if at all. I have a feeling it will become more commonplace in the future, and vaccines will be developed to target them like the flu. Evolution and global environmental changes - which have been going on for eons - will go on still. I suppose that leaves us with focussing on what we can foresee, instead of what we can’t. It’s a life lesson many of us with chronic illnesses have had to learn early the hard way, as living with chronic illness is basically living with unpredictability as a constant companion. Sometimes we get so used to it we panic when things are too ‘stable’ - can it be true? What horrible thing is going to happen next? It really messes with your psyche. I’ve been hard at work with my business site, and hope to launch soon-ish in a couple weeks. It’s been something I’ve been talking about for ages if you’ve been following my monthly prompt entries. Whilst I know it’s not the final solution to having a stable monthly income, it’s a start. I’m also not sure if it’s a good idea to link it back to my blog site, A Chronic Voice, but I did want to tie in the brand for social media. All I can do is try. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [COVID-19 Vaccine Experiences from People with Chronic Conditions](https://achronicvoice.com/covid-19-vaccine-experiences/) - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Chronic Pain Boards: ![To Live with Chronic Illness is to Learn to Live with Maybes](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/live-with-chronic-illness-learn-live-with-maybes.jpg) ## Panicking (or Not Panicking) About the Pandemic To be frank, I’m not really in panic mode, though maybe I should be? My biggest concern is having an internal bleeding episode from random [**Antiphospholipid Syndrome issues**](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) now, and [**needing to be rushed to the hospital**](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/). I can’t ‘bear with it’ or fix that at home, whereas I’ve learned how to handle many other pain issues that come with my other chronic illnesses. Apart from that, I’ve still been going for walks, buying things from the supermarket, etc, all with my mask on, of course. I do get a little edgy when there are too many human beings around, but apart from that, I try not to think too much about it. Read Related Posts: - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) ## My Upbringing & the Shattering of Expectations — Not Always by Choice I know this is a pretty random word to be stuck right into the middle of the prompts this month, but it called out to me. I find it a fascinating thing - upbringing. It literally shapes your entire life and character. I was brought up in a very religious Christian household. My parents were missionaries, and now still work for the church or in missions. And as the eldest daughter in an Asian family, I was treated with the strictest level of discipline out of all my siblings, and given the most responsibility. I was trained for obedience, and it was naturally inbuilt in me as the eldest, as I always had to keep an eye out for my sisters. ### Sick and Tired of Always Trying to Do the Right Thing, Especially When Nothing Changes After I fell ill, the typical eldest child syndrome started to fall apart. Whilst I retained some of the characteristics, I was no longer independent or ‘in charge’, so to speak. And the funny thing is, now that I’m 34 and the years fly by, I’m getting more and more rebellious. Not just in terms of family, but also with my health. I’ve always listened to my doctors, tried to do the right thing for my health, and explored alternative options. But after 20 years of no-change, ‘a little fed up’ is an understatement. I’m living life a little more ‘dangerously’ now, and sometimes do things that aren't 'good for my health'. Yet these are things that a healthy person would hardly be judged for. I'm tired of the need to always rebut accusations that I could try harder, do better, do more - I have done all I can after all this time. And now as the years go by, I just want to let it all go and loosen the 'rules' a little bit. And yes, I still add a dose of caution in for good measure, due to fear of being in pain more than any other reason. Read Related Posts: - [What Neverending Pain Reveals to You](https://achronicvoice.com/what-neverending-pain-reveals/) - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Advice That Could, Quite Literally, Kill](https://achronicvoice.com/advice-quite-literally-kill/) - [What You Reshare Can Change Someone Else’s Life Forever](https://achronicvoice.com/what-you-reshare-can-change-life/) - [4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/) ## Missing Access to Conveniences & Decluttering for Mental Well-being So back to COVID-19 type prompts, ha. I'm really missing my online grocery shopping; it used to be so easy, efficient and accessible, but now all the delivery slots are full every time I check. Admittedly I've saved quite a bit because of this, but I do miss my cheese, organic meat and produce, and other pantry supplies that I used to order in a go online. Unfortunately, these aren't things that I can buy from the local supermarket, which mostly sells Asian produce imported from nearby Malaysia. Or I would have to run around various places in Singapore, or pay a premium price instead. Luckily, the food delivery services are still in full swing, although the options are more limited at my parents' location. I've set aside Fridays as 'party days', which gives me something to look forward to in the week. I allow myself to order whatever deliciousness I want, and to relax more than usual. Speaking of which, tomorrow is Friday from the time of this post, and I can't wait! ### Physical Environment Does Affect Mental Health Finally, I really need to clean out my room. There’s too much junk in it and with things such as medications where it’s a neverending pile, this can be a disheartening endeavour. I’d like to spend some time slowly rearranging all the boxes full of stuff and creating pleasant little corners where candles and flowers sit. Perhaps upgrade my chair (it’s really hurting my neck, shoulder and back), and get a nice bedside table that’s easier to access. It’d be great for my mental wellbeing and body both. Environments do play a huge role in how you feel and think, and with the need to stay in all the time now, it makes even more sense to spruce my room up a little bit at least. ## Soothing — Nature Does it Best Ironically, I've been going on more nature walks than usual with the lockdown. My week is usually packed with doctor or other appointments, and I enjoy going to cafés to work for a change in scenery. It keeps me productive and a tiny bit more active. Now that I can't hang out anywhere outside, I've started a little late afternoon walk ritual with my dad. It's been quite pleasant and a nice break, otherwise I tend to work nonstop; I admit to being a productivity-based person, which can be unhealthy in extreme measures. I feel guilty or stressed out if I haven't done enough 'real' work for the day. These nature walks have been soothing with all the trees, flowers and animals. I've uploaded a few pictures to Instagram to share for some armchair Singapore Nature Walking (scroll right on the widget) 😉 I hope you enjoy them as much as I enjoyed the walks. Stay safe my friends! x To continue along with my diary entries, you can [**read last month's thoughts**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-opening-hours/) or [**the following month's throwback**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/). > View this post on Instagram > > Join me on an armchair Singapore nature walk. #throwback > > A post shared by [ Sheryl Chan](https://www.instagram.com/achronicvoice/) (@achronicvoice) on May 7, 2020 at 6:42pm PDT Your browser does not support the video tag. *Horace (the son), off-key superstar.* Your browser does not support the video tag. *Scorcher (the father), headrub addict.* ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! 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Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Lifestyle Boards: ![To Live with Chronic Illness is to Learn to Live with Maybes](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-maybes-pin-3.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don’t Reflect)](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/) - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Alison ](https://www.thrivingwhiledisabled.com) May 29, 2020 Sheryl, Chronic illnesses often do train us to expect a constant state of flux, don’t they? What each of us can do can vary so much day to day or month to month – and how doing it feels does too! As a fellow older sister, I get it. My family was a bit different dynamics though as my younger sisters are twins and I have always been pretty severely nonstandard(not particularly rebellious, just going to the beat of my own drummer). As adults, one of my sisters and I are both disabled and not straight, and our other sister teaches special needs students and has four kids! So, in a good way, we all do what we can to help each other and enjoy the kids. Walks are wonderful things, aren’t they? I try to go for a walk most mornings(sometimes it turns into early afternoons) on the nature trail right by my home. I’m doing my best to just enjoy the company of our cats and take things easy, one step at a time. But it is scary right now where I live – things are starting to be opened up, even though nowhere near enough testing or tracing has been done. My partner and I are in agreement that we’re going to continue to minimize our exposure, which unfortunately means there isn’t a whole lot we can do because people are being stupid and crowding a lot in public spaces. As always, thank you for the lovely post and for running this whole link party! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 1, 2020 Thanks for reading and commenting, Alison! Yes family dynamics can be a strange thing. Every family is so different. I agree with your decision to continue social distancing and being careful. I think there are too many irresponsible people out there and all it takes is one or two to create chaos. Stay safe my lovely friend x - [ Rhiann ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com) May 29, 2020 “I suppose that leaves us with focussing on what we can foresee, instead of what we can’t. It’s a life lesson many of us with chronic illnesses have had to learn early the hard way, as living with chronic illness is basically living with unpredictability as a constant companion.” So beautiful, and said with such eloquence and truth. The unpredictability of living with such illnesses is genuinely one of the hardest aspects to have to learn to deal with, and perhaps harder for those closest to us to understand. Your posts are always such a pleasure to read Sheryl, with such beautiful and powerful imagery conveyed in your words. And thank you for sharing such entertaining videos and gorgeous photographs, they were such a pleasure to see while stuck inside during lockdown!! Take care, Rhiann x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 1, 2020 Aww…thanks Rhiann, especially coming from such a great writer such as yourself! I am glad those words were relatable. I hope it made sense and helped to illustrate it to healthy people, too. Those happy videos I’m glad I posted them. This month, it’s an all too different beat 🙁 - Kathy May 26, 2020 Hi, Sheryl! I loved your bird videos and I’m going to check out your Singapore nature walk photos. Have you gotten your bird back yet? I was saddened to hear of his being lost. I lost a beloved blue parakeet when I was a child. I love reading your posts. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 26, 2020 Thanks for your kind support in every which way, dearest Kathy. I so very much appreciate it 🙂 No, he is still somewhere out there. Let’s hope he finds his way home soon, my dearest little baby boy 🙁 - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/2020/05/11/may-momentum-and-world-mecfs-day-on-may-12-millions-missing/) May 15, 2020 “I suppose that leaves us with focussing on what we can foresee, instead of what we can’t. It’s a life lesson many of us with chronic illnesses have had to learn early the hard way, as living with chronic illness is basically living with unpredictability as a constant companion. Sometimes we get so used to it we panic when things are too ‘stable’ – can it be true? What horrible thing is going to happen next? It really messes with your psyche.” I loved this. I think most of my friends and family really don’t understand the unpredictability of being ill all the time. It drives me crazy trying to figure out if I did something or if it’s just my body saying no. I’m trying really hard not to think about the ‘whys’ anymore and just accept. Not having control over my body has made me a bit worse with keeping things organized in my home though. Everything is in its place. I got rid of A LOT of stuff in 2017 when I decided to go through everything and get rid of what reminded me of my 20s. It felt really good, and it also reminded me of how much stuff we collect. I came to Taiwan with a backpack. How did I get all this stuff?! 🙂 What a great way to recognize the weekend. Fridays are usually my full rest day. That’s my day for reading other blogs and connecting with a few friends online. Maybe it’s time to change things up. I can relate to being a little rebellious after being so strict for so long! As an aside, I’m so glad I did some extra digging here because I thought your prompt ideas this month was your post for May. I don’t know if that’s brain fog or not, but really glad I exited that post and came to the main page to read other entries! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 15, 2020 Hi Carrie, yes it can really mess you up mentally! I needed a psychologist’s help to get rid of that faulty thinking. Acceptance is definitely a huge (if not the biggest) tool in my toolbox to cope with unpredictability and chronic pain. It actually is stoic philosophy, which many people don’t link to, and think is defeatist to do so. Yay for Fridays (it’s Friday today!). Ordered my usual salmon, avocado and quinoa meal with lychee rosewater cake. Lol. Yummy! - Niamh Kane May 12, 2020 Party Fridays are so cool I like the ritual it involves, scouring the menus, the anticipation will it ever get here? Plus hopefully luxurious pjs for the special occasion. I love Horace he woke my cat up immediately with his little song 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 12, 2020 Haha yes, gives me something to look forward to in the week. Even though I haven’t worked full-time in an office for years, it’s just a little psychological thing stuck in my head. Anyway, still a good day to relax (extra)! And I bet your cat wanted to pounce on Horace haha 😉 - [ Anne Sweet ](https://www.raisiebay.com) May 12, 2020 I like that you have ‘party’ time on Fridays, I think maybe that’s something we could do to make things a little more exciting around here and distinguish the end of the week. I’m homeschooling three kids at the moment and it’s hard work. I think I deserve a treat at least. I love your birds. We always used to have birds when I was growing up, my Mum hated cats. Now, we have no birds but two cats. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 12, 2020 Thanks Anne! Yes it helps to distinguish the change, change up the vibes and mood, gives something to look forward to, and the best part of it all is that it doesn’t have to be complicated! 🙂 For me it’s just nicer food than every day sustenance haha. And allowing myself to ‘let go’ more than usual. Thanks my birds are a blessing to me 🙂 - Katie Clark May 10, 2020 I loved meeting Horace and Scorcher! So cute! It’s funny to see that they have such personalities. I can see why you find them soothing. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 10, 2020 Yes Scorcher (daddy) used to be more playful. After he had two batches of kids he’s grown up fast lol. Horace is pure cheekiness 🙂 They are fun 🙂 - Cynthia May 8, 2020 My household consists of a gamer and two bloggers, one of which also works fulltime outside the home. We started taking family walks every night to force us all to take some time away from our computers. I hope to continue doing this long after the lockdown is lifted. It’s nice that you have your dad to walk with. Enjoy that time with your dad and keep sharing pictures! I can’t get over how green everything is. So beautiful! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 10, 2020 Yes! Someone seems like more of us are spending time in nature (I guess instead of cafés and malls) because of this COVID-19 pandemic. The irony, but I guess good in a way! And yes, I noticed that too when I looked at my Instagram. Everything from the 3 months in Europe was a different mood and filter, a little grey and drab but moody in a nice way. And back in tropical Singapore everything is lush and green and bright, heh. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### How Much Time Are You Wasting On Sleep? URL: https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/ Last updated: 2025-10-25T16:39:04.000Z ## Sleep has a Huge Impact on Our Quality of Life Every individual’s rest and sleep requirements differ. A healthy person’s body is [**able to handle a bigger blow of stress**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/), and recover with less consequences. People with chronic illnesses on the other hand, learn to pay constant attention to the state of their body. If there is one thing we can agree on through our assorted experiences, it is that sleep has a huge impact on the quality of our our lives. Many things play a role in the quality of your sleep, including good sleep hygiene, and [**if your bed is well suited for your needs**](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/) and body type. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. Whilst I have done my utmost to be meticulous in research, *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy page***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/) *for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness, Sleep & Self-Care Boards: ![How Much Time are You Wasting on Sleep? (Or Not)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep-pin.jpg) ![Don’t Compare - Everyone’s Rest Requirements are Different](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin-dont-compare.jpg) ## Sleep is NOT a Luxury; It is a Necessity In modern society, [sleep is often considered a luxury more than a necessity](http://www.bbc.com/news/health-27286872), but your brain isn’t loafing when you rest (BBC News, 2014). It isn't so much a descent from an active to passive state. It is more of a switch of modes from energy consumption to replenishment and restoration. Your brain redirects blood and energy, and your body undergoes maintenance and repair. Even the fastest car needs to undergo constant maintenance, what more your body. Let us take a quick look at what goes on within our bodies when we sleep, and how it can affect us. > *“Rest is not idleness, and to lie sometimes on the grass under trees on a summer’s day, listening to the murmur of the water, or watching the clouds float across the sky, is by no means a waste of time.” – Sir John Lubbock* Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) - [De-Stressing and Winding Down in December 2018](https://achronicvoice.com/de-stressing-december-2018/) Pin to Your Sleep, Health & Wellness Boards: ![9 Important Things That Happen When You Sleep](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/9-sleep-pin.jpg) ### 1\. Garbage Collection During Sleep Our body has a [garbage collection system known as the Glymphatic System](https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/news/story/3956/to-sleep-perchance-to-clean.aspx), which becomes 10 times more active when we are asleep (Michaud, 2013). This system is in charge of taking out the protein trash such as [amyloid-beta](https://www.nature.com/articles/aps201728). An accumulation such proteins leads to neurological diseases such as Alzheimer's. In fact, almost all neurodegenerative diseases result from a build up of this toxic protein (Chen et al., 2017). Research has also found that the brain’s cells reduce up to 60% in size when we are asleep, which allows for efficient waste removal (Michaud, 2013). (This fact fascinates me, as the surgeon who tried an experimental technique during my heart surgery mimicked this concept). Pin to Your Chronic Illness, Sleep Health Boards: ![Our Body has a Garbage Collection System Which Becomes 10x More Active When We Sleep](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin-garbage-collection.jpg) ### 2\. Circulation of TNF (a Cancer Killer) Happens When We Sleep A cancer killer known as [TNF (tumour necrosis factor alpha)](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5955790/) starts to circulate when we are asleep. Research has shown that both the amount as well as the effectiveness of it reduces by a third in those who slept after 3am (Rockstrom et al., 2018). ### 3\. Immune System Resistance & Recovery is Optimised Whilst Sleeping You may already have noticed that sleeping aids in recovery when you are sick. This may be due to an [increase of infection resisting proteins produced by our immune systems](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/insomnia/expert-answers/lack-of-sleep/faq-20057757) when we sleep (Mayo Clinic, 2025). Moderate amounts of sleep deprivation also [reduces the levels of white blood cells](https://www.sleepfoundation.org/articles/sleep-deprivation-effect-immune-system-mirrors-physical-stress) in our bodies, which play a big role in our body's defence system (Suni, 2018). Studies have also shown that in only one week of sleep deprivation, [genes involved in inflammation and more](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4955784/) were activated (Zhao et al., 2016). Millions of people are sustaining damage to their bodies in this manner. ### 4\. Tissue Renewal & Repair Happens Fasters Whilst We are Asleep The artificial lights that we use round the clock in modern society resets our [Circadian Rhythm](https://www.nigms.nih.gov/education/fact-sheets/Pages/circadian-rhythms.aspx) as much as exposure to the sun does (National Institute of General Medical Sciences \[NIGMS\], 2025). This forces our bodies to work overtime. As a result, physical processes such as digestion and cell renewal become less efficient. Every tissue in the body, from those in our muscles and bones right down to those at the cellular level, [renews at a faster rate while asleep](https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/265678) (Paddock, 2014). Pin to Your Sleep & Quote Boards: ![Amazing Things Happen in Your Body When You Sleep](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_amazing-body-sleep.jpg) ### 5\. Improved Processing of Blood Sugar During Sleep Studies have shown that the ability to process blood sugar in healthy young men were [reduced by up to 30%](https://edition.cnn.com/2012/10/15/health/sleep-insulin-resistance/) after only getting four hours of sleep per night for a week. This result nearly matches those of diabetics. There was also a huge drop in their insulin response, and elevated levels of cortisol (Gardner, 2012). This is a stress hormone which can lead to hypertension and memory impairment. Research is also ongoing from this finding, to understand the [link between sleep and obesity](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4394987/) (Knutson & Van Cauter, 2008). ### 6\. Hormone Regulation Shifts to ‘Repair’ Mode During Sleep Sleeping moves our body from a [catabolic to anabolic](https://www.diffen.com/difference/Anabolism%5Fvs%5FCatabolism) state. That is, from one of stimulation, to one of conservation, repair and regrowth (Diffen, 2025). Many of us are familiar with [melatonin](https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/melatonin-for-sleep-does-it-work) (Johns Hopkins Medicine, n.d.) and associate it with [**sleep supplements**](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/). In fact, it is a hormone that also helps in the regulation of other hormones within our body, too. Apart from maintaining our body's circadian rhythm, it is also linked to [**female reproductive hormones**](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) and more. ### 7\. Skin Clean Up & Repair Also Happens During Sleep The top layer of our skin comprises of dead cells that are closely packed together. They shed throughout the day, but the metabolic speed of our skin speeds up during sleep. This enables these dead cells to be shed at a faster rate. A lack of sleep for a continued period of time can also cause premature [ageing of the skin](https://www.healthline.com/health/beauty-skin-care/beauty-sleep) and permanent discolouration (Aswell, 2022). Pin to Your Sleep & Infographics Boards: ![9 Things That Happen in Our Bodies When We Sleep Infographic](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/infographic-sleep-bodies.jpg) ### 8\. The Importance of Sleep Cycles A normal night of sleep consists of both [REM (rapid eye movement) and NREM (non rapid eye movement) sleep](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/body/12148-sleep-basics), with the latter consisting of three different stages. The brain cycles through these stages of sleep throughout the night; each cycle lasts approximately 90 to 120 minutes, and 8 hours of sleep typically consists of four to five cycles (Cleveland Clinic, 2023). The [brain is in a state of high activity during REM sleep](https://www.sleepfoundation.org/stages-of-sleep/rem-sleep), which is when we dream. When an individual does not get enough REM sleep, many problems can occur, such as memory and cognitive issues (Summer, 2024). Sleep disorders can disrupt the sleep cycle at any point, leading to further health, mental and cognitive issues (Cleveland Clinic, 2023). ### 9\. Our Brain Organises Memories & Thoughts Whilst We are Sleeping A sharp [increase in blood to brain areas happens during sleep](https://www.psu.edu/news/research/story/increased-blood-flow-during-sleep-tied-critical-brain-function), which aids with the removal of metabolic brain waste. The brain recharges its energy stores, and does some housekeeping. A lack of sleep can thus lead to degenerative brain diseases such as Alzheimer's, and also other mental conditions such as anxiety and depression (Chuprinski, 2021). ## Conclusion - Are You Wasting Time on Sleep? This is but a brief list that skims the surface of sleep and its purposes. Yet it is enough to see that our bodies are hard at work not only when we are in physical motion, but also whilst at rest. So don’t feel bad about going to bed now if it’s time – your body has other very important jobs to attend to! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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Read Related Posts: - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [How to Rewire the Brain to Manage Chronic Pain (& Resources to Help)](https://achronicvoice.com/rewire-brain-manage-chronic-pain/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) Pin to Your Sleep, Mental Health & Wellbeing Boards: ![Your Bedtime is Sacred Time](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/bedtime-sacred-time-pin.jpg) ![Stop Working and Go to Bed - Your Body has Really Important Things to Attend to and Needs Your Cooperation](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin-go-to-bed.jpg) For More Insight on Sleep: - [While We Sleep, Our Mind Goes on an Amazing Journey](https://www.nationalgeographic.com/magazine/article/science-of-sleep) - [Brain Basics: Understanding Sleep](https://www.ninds.nih.gov/health-information/public-education/brain-basics/brain-basics-understanding-sleep) - [Cellular Garbage Disposals Clean Up](https://www.livescience.com/31966-cells-garbage-disposal-crucial-processes-nigms.html) - [Global sleeping patterns revealed by app data](https://www.bbc.com/news/health-36226874) - [Body Clock: What makes you tick?](https://www.bbc.com/news/health-27161671) ### References: - Aswell, S. (2022, August 22). *6 ways to maximize your beauty sleep for #wokeuplikethis skin.* Healthline. https://www.healthline.com/health/beauty-skin-care/beauty-sleep - BBC News. (2014, May 12). *‘Arrogance’ of ignoring need for sleep.* https://www.bbc.com/news/health-27286872 - Chen, G., Xu, T., Yan, Y., Zhou, Y., Jiang, Y., Melcher, K., & Xu, H. E. (2017). Amyloid beta: Structure, biology and structure-based therapeutic development. *Acta Pharmacologica Sinica, 38*(9), 1205–1235\. https://doi.org/10.1038/aps.2017.28 - Chuprinski, M. (2021, January 18). *Increased blood flow during sleep tied to critical brain function.* Penn State University. https://www.psu.edu/news/research/story/increased-blood-flow-during-sleep-tied-critical-brain-function - Cleveland Clinic. (2023, June 19). *Sleep.* https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/body/12148-sleep-basics - Diffen. (2025, June 22). *Anabolism vs catabolism.* https://www.diffen.com/difference/Anabolism\_vs\_Catabolism - Gardner, A. (2012, ctober). *Too little sleep may fuel insulin resistance.* CNN Health. https://edition.cnn.com/2012/10/15/health/sleep-insulin-resistance/ - Johns Hopkins Medicine. (n.d.). *Melatonin for sleep: Does it work?* Retrieved 2025, June 30 from https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/melatonin-for-sleep-does-it-work - Knutson, K. L., & Van Cauter, E. (2008). Associations between sleep loss and increased risk of obesity and diabetes. *Annals of the New York Academy of Sciences, 1129*, 287–304\. https://doi.org/10.1196/annals.1417.033 - Mayo Clinic. (2025, January 24). *Can lack of sleep make you sick?* https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/insomnia/expert-answers/lack-of-sleep/faq-20057757 - Michaud, M. (2013, October 17). *To sleep, perchance to clean.* University of Rochester Medical Center. https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/news/story/to-sleep-perchance-to-clean - National Institute of General Medical Sciences. (2025, May 20). *Circadian Rhythms.* National Institutes of Health. https://www.nigms.nih.gov/education/fact-sheets/Pages/circadian-rhythms - Paddock, C. (2014, June 9). *Sleep strengthens memory after learning.* Medical News Today. https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/277956 - Paller, K. A., Creery, J. D., & Schechtman, E. (2021). Memory and Sleep: How Sleep Cognition Can Change the Waking Mind for the Better. *Annual Review of Psychology, 72*, 123–150\. https://doi.org/10.1146/annurev-psych-010419-050815 - Rockstrom, M., Chen, L., Taishi, P., Nguyen, J. T., Gibbons, C. M., Veasey, S., & Krueger, J. M. (2018). Tumor necrosis factor alpha in sleep regulation. *Sleep Medicine Reviews, 40*, 69–78\. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.smrv.2017.10.005 - Summer, J. V. (2024, March 22). *REM sleep: What it is and why it’s important.* Sleep Foundation. https://www.sleepfoundation.org/stages-of-sleep/rem-sleep - Suni, E. (2018, October 26). *Sleep & immunity: Can a lack of sleep make you sick?* Sleep Foundation. https://www.sleepfoundation.org/physical-health/how-sleep-affects-immunity - Zhao, Y., Forst, C. V., Sayegh, C. E., Wang, I.-M., Yang, X., & Zhang, B. (2016). Molecular and genetic inflammation networks in major human diseases. *Molecular bioSystems, 12*(8), 2318–2341\. https://doi.org/10.1039/c6mb00240d ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Katie Clark Jul 17, 2020 After a week of sketchy sleep, I finally had a full, deep sleep. Fog is lifted. Feels good:) - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 21, 2020 I’m glad you managed to get some quality sleep. The difference is astounding, isn’t it?! - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Jul 16, 2020 Just as a type this at 11pm, I know I am doing the wrong thing by not having switched off and trying to relax the mind. I’ve definitely fallen off my nice night-time routine, so maybe reading this post is a sign to be better behaved – especially since you mention tissue repair which is so important in hypermobile-EDS patients like me. Time to be good – thank you Sheryl 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 16, 2020 Well it didn’t help we were all group chatting and having too much fun and ended up sleeping at 3am – you may call me a hypocrite :p I really need to read my own post and fix up my sleeping times! Difficult when in pain in the mornings and afternoons as it throws off the cycle, and there’s work to do – but I definitely can improve it. - Holly Jul 16, 2020 This is a really informative and important post! I struggle getting enough rest, and now realize I need to sleep more! Thank you for sharing this! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 16, 2020 You’re welcome, Holly. Sleep really is a fascinating science, and there’s still so much we don’t even know about it. But it definitely isn’t a waste of time! - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Jul 15, 2020 This is just the little nudge I need to be better about not watching TV on my laptop close to bedtime. I’ve been meaning to swap to reading for some time but haven’t done it . . . - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 15, 2020 Hahaha…me too. Mine is more of doing click threads or catching up with social media, oops. Or watching series indeed. And I have the same ‘problem’…love the idea of reading but my books are in a pile. I’m terrible 🙁 - Varun Sharma May 22, 2020 More informative given by you than any doctor give. Thanks for this post. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 1, 2020 Thanks for your comment! Lots of research went into this and I guess doctors don’t have time to sit through and run through every single point, especially in public healthcare systems sadly 🙁 - [ Felicia Denise ](https://feliciadenise.com) May 6, 2020 Great information! More informative than any doctor I’ve had in the last seven years. Thank you. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 6, 2020 Thanks for reading, Felicia! Sometimes doctors are too busy to explain all the ins and outs, I guess, though the parts that directly impact our conditions should be explained! - [ Despite Pain ](https://www.despitepain.com) May 2, 2020 I’ve not been sleeping great lately and as a result, feeling pretty off, as well as tired. Your post explains exactly why. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 2, 2020 Yea sleep, whether we realise it or not, impacts just about every area of our lives. I do hope you manage to get some quality sleep soon. Sending lots of love xxx - [ Rachael Emma Tomlinson ](https://accessiblerach.co.uk) Apr 28, 2020 What an interesting post this is and I have learnt so much for it thanks Sheryl x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 28, 2020 Thanks for reading, Rachael! It’s a really brief overview, but glad it was helpful! 🙂 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### 12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/ Last updated: 2026-05-01T17:01:56.000Z ## An Introduction to Thich Nhat Hanh’s Books on Mindfulness Thich Nhat Hanh’s writings on mindfulness and peace are popular worldwide due to their simplicity. ‘How to Relax’ is one of the many books in his ‘Mindfulness Essentials’ series. There is also ‘How to Sit’, ‘How to Eat’, ‘How to Love’ and more. Today’s review features the best tips for stress management and mindfulness that I found from his book, ‘How to Relax’. Whilst he is a Zen master, the techniques and teachings in this book are non-religious. In fact, licensed psychologists in hospitals employ these methods for stress management and mindfulness, too. So let’s see what we can learn from him about relaxing, and also examine how stress harms us in many ways. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. Whilst I have done my utmost to be meticulous in research, *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* [Buy the Book, “How to Relax”, by Thich Nhat Hanh on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1941529089?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6d5ae55f15e82cb133caee31e6561622&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Pin to Your Mindfulness & Book Review Boards: ![12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/12-lessons-mindfulness-how-to-relax-thich-nhat-hanh.jpg) ## 1\. A “Reading Scan” Mindfulness Meditation This book was like a guided mindfulness meditation, especially useful for those who are unable to stay still. I am one of those who stress easily, and become restless when left to my own meditation devices, even though I know that it will benefit me. There are constant cues to breathe, as he cycles through relaxation techniques and concepts. Sometimes an entire page is there as a reminder to breathe. There are also some basic exercises you can refer to at the back of the book for your personal practice. ## 2\. The Mind and Body Connection Something I found interesting in this book was the sentence, “We take care of our body first. We can take care of our mind later.” I would have thought that it would be the other way around, but tension in our bodies does prevent us from doing anything well. This in turn affects our mental wellbeing. Our breath is the bridge between our mind and body. We need to keep it in good working condition, so as to ensure the smooth flow of essential resources. It is important to be kind towards ourselves, especially when we are in pain. Focus on letting go and allow your body to feel at ease; let it return to its natural, relaxed state. Feeling better physically frees up our mental capacity, and improves the elasticity of our stress limits. We can reallocate these extra resources (or ‘spoons’, as spoonies might call it) back into our health and wellness in a mindful manner. For example, when we have less physical pain, we are able to do some exercise. This in turn improves not only our fitness levels, but also our mental health and reduces our stress levels. We are able to cook a healthy meal, which in turn nourishes our mind and body. Pin to Your Self-Compassion & Kindness Boards: : ![Be Kind to Yourself, Especially When in Pain](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_be-kind-pain.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [Kick Ass With Kindness and a Sweet Cherry on Top](https://achronicvoice.com/kick-ass-with-kindness/) - [Is Yoga Accessible for People with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/) ## 3\. The States Existing Within Us I like the example of water he uses in the book, where we are both wave and water, calm and storm. The element is the same, but it can manifest in many forms. As such, we do have the power to redirect our emotions into one that is more beneficial for our wellbeing. When we are feeling stormy and agitated, it is within us to transform it into a sea of calm. Sometimes that can be impossible, and we need to learn how to surrender and ride upon the waves. Going against it would only be a disastrous endeavour. Read Related Posts: - [An Inspirational Poem on Miracles, by Thuli Zuma](https://achronicvoice.com/poem-on-miracles-thuli-zuma/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) - [Just Breathing is Enough For Today](https://achronicvoice.com/just-breathing-enough-today-poem/) - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) Pin to Your Mindfulness, Meditation & Stress Management Boards: ![Breathe. Relax. Whatever Position You're in Right Now.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_breathe.jpg) ## 5\. Your Special Relaxation Spot Do you have a secret resting spot at home that isn’t your bed? Somewhere you can go to just to de-stress, relax and breathe? Our environments play a huge role in our overall well-being. I know for one that my stress tolerance decreases when my home is in a mess. It’s almost as if there are ‘visual disturbances’ in my field of vision, provoking my brain. Often we accept certain inconveniences because that’s how things have always been; we don’t give it much thought. But we can improve our wellbeing by making simple changes to them. What are some daily occurrences that irritate your brain (you know, that momentary feeling of annoyance that jumps at you because it is a minor hassle)? The bed isn’t a good place to go to either, because we often lay in it when we’re feeling unwell. It isn’t so much a secret escape place, but an area of routine. The inability to fall asleep can also invoke stress, and the emergency pills I have beside it are reminders of being chronically ill. The sofa is my secret resting place which I retreat to whenever I’m unable to sleep or am anxious. Curling up on it seems to help. There is a lamp with soft lighting beside it, and there is no pressure to be active there. I don’t have ‘sleep’ as a task and that, ironically, helps me to fall asleep. ## 6\. Being Mindful Through Lazy Days and Effortlessness [Thich Nhat Hanh](https://plumvillage.org/about/thich-nhat-hanh/biography/) states the need for days where time unfolds naturally, unhurriedly, timelessly. This gives us a chance to re-establish the balance within ourselves. This can be difficult for some more so than others, yet it is still important to carve out a little ‘me time’. This isn’t selfish, and is in fact, the exact opposite. We are only able to care for those around us with greater capacity when we stabilise ourselves, and allow our bodies to recover its strength. He also mentions the irony of vacations in our modern era, where we often don’t know how to relax. Sometimes we return even more exhausted, as we rush about trying to make the ‘most of it’. There is also no need to go to great lengths and expenditure to experience the benefits of travel (although that’s always preferable, isn’t it 😉 ). He reminds us that it is possible to take a little holiday in the present moment. We often miss the little pleasurable things around us because we scurry by them. Pin to Your Self-Care & Wellness Boards: ![Relax here and now. Take a holiday in the present moment. Read the post. (Background: Body of a woman dressed casually in a loose white cotton shirt and beige pants. She carries a bright green watering can in her right hand, watering green plants.)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/relax-here-now-holiday-present-moment.jpg) ## 7\. The Healing Energy We All Possess This was another thought that I found interesting: the energy produced from within doesn’t only benefit us, but also those around us. If you can sit alone in quiet mindfulness and peacefulness, that is already relaxing and healing. This calming energy radiates both inwards and outwards. If you are near other people, this becomes amplified. As we all know, panic feeds panic, and the same goes for peace. That one calm, collected person in a group can have a positive effect over everyone else. If we’re able to walk our talk, we can influence others in a good way. I find this especially appropriate for those of us who are raising awareness for a variety of reasons. If we want others to be understanding towards us, then we have to set an example. If we want acceptance within society, then we need to accept ourselves first. ## 8\. Embracing the Bad with the Good If we want peace to fill us, then we must also embrace the unpleasant feelings residing within us. We need to ‘be’, and become peace. He suggests that the world needs more joyful and peaceful people who are capable of being, as is. To know the art of being peace, is to have the foundation necessary for our subsequent actions. The quality of our being, determines the quality of our doing. An anxious mind will interfere with our ability to focus on a task, and neither will it be our best work. ## 9\. How Our Idea of Happiness Makes Us Unhappy This is one of his famous quotes, “Our idea of happiness is our main obstacle to happiness.” This is similar to Viktor Frankl’s thoughts on modern society’s state of mental (un)hygiene, where happiness is our religion. To not be happy is a sign of failure, a blasphemy. Sometimes our ideas of happiness cause unhappiness because they are unattainable. Or they might contain with them an element of anger or delusion. The present moment on the other hand, is where joy can exist. We need to learn how to be mindful and appreciate these realities, instead of obsessing over imaginary ones. There are still many things we can enjoy despite living with chronic pain, instead of waiting for the day when we finally get better – when will that be? Read Related Posts: - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) ## 10\. Compassion Begins from Within Compassion is incomplete if it excludes yourself. We must stay with our breath mindfully, and not lose ourselves in the turbulent tides of anger or hate. Having said that, we shouldn’t deny anger either, because it is part of being human. Instead, we should learn how to be aware of our anger, so that we may breathe it in, and expel it with a smile. I also love his analogy on ‘blame’ that uses a tree as a metaphor. When you plant a tree and it fails to grow well, we don’t blame the tree. We change the soil and its environment instead. So it is with our health. We are not at fault and shouldn’t blame ourselves for being chronically ill. We need to work on our internal and external environment instead – to produce suitable conditions that are necessary for nurturing healthy growth. That is all we can do. Blaming ourselves makes no sense and serves no purpose. Pin to Your Self-Love & Quote Boards: ![Compassion is incomplete if it doesn't include you. (Background: Woman giving herself a hug, with neon lights overlayed.)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/compassion-incomplete-include-you.jpg) ## 11\. Resting is also Relaxing Have you ever been so tired, yet unable to fall asleep? For many with chronic pain, this is an everyday reality, not just an occasional one. I remember my father sitting by my bedside one evening when I was in severe pain as a teenager, and unable to sleep. He asked me to listen to the cars on the road outside, and think of all the people on their way home. He guided me through thoughts of the present moment, and it did help me to relax. He reminded me that to lie there and rest is also beneficial to our bodies. The emphasis on needing to fall asleep can be stressful in itself. Back then, we didn’t even know that a term like ‘mindfulness’ existed. Another method Thich Nhat Hanh suggests is to smile for the sake of smiling, even if you don’t feel like it. This helps to relax the facial muscles, so the act in itself can have a good effect on us as well. Read Related Posts: - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [How Much Time Are You Wasting On Sleep?](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [The Road to Recovery is the Longest of Them All](https://achronicvoice.com/road-to-recovery-longest/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) ## 12\. Letting Go and Being Present Many of us have heard this before, so this is a gentle reminder that we need to train ourselves to let go and be present. Do not dwell in the past or muse over the future, because growth can only happen in the present, if we do so with mindfulness. Our faith in ourselves increases, as we gain confidence to handle the future. This makes a lot of sense to me. The periods in my life where I have been the most anxious over my future were during my lowest moments. You never worry as much when you’re able-bodied and mentally sound. Over all, I found this to be a simple book that did have a calming effect. You can read it over and over again, whenever you need a mini mindfulness meditation! [Buy the Book, “How to Relax”, by Thich Nhat Hanh on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1941529089?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6d5ae55f15e82cb133caee31e6561622&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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More Book Reviews & Book Recommendations: - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You’re All Invited, Too!)](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies: Part II](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies-2/) - [Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill: Part III](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-3-chronically-ill/) - [Magazine Review: Lucky Peach’s Last Issue, Ever](https://achronicvoice.com/magazine-review-lucky-peach/) Pin to Your Mindfulness & Book Review Boards: ![12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or ‘How to Relax’ by Thich Nhat Hanh) - Read the Book Review [Background: White candles lit with sparse green plants. Calming atmosphere.)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/book-review-thich-nhat-hanh-how-to-relax.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Katie Clark Jun 7, 2020 Finally, got the book. I hadn’t heard of the Book Depository! A great resource in itself. Looking forward to reading it and the Power of Mindfulness. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 8, 2020 I hope you enjoy it! It will be at the very least, a reminder to breathe 😉 - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Jun 5, 2020 “smile for the sake of smiling” – just reading it made me smile. I’m going to try that. I struggle to read books – something that has happened in recent years as my hands have weakened and I’m not a kindle person for sure. But I think I’ll order this and see if I can manage to read this because just reading your post is helping me to relax. Thank you Sheryl. - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Jun 5, 2020 I really like the emphasis on meditation being about focus and not relaxation here. I often expect it to be calming, when it can actually be hard work at times. - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/) May 24, 2020 Terrific post, Sheryl. I’ve had this one saved for a bit and have been meaning to come and visit to read this article specifically. I haven’t read Thich Nhat Hanh’s writings, but it has been on my TBR list for a while. I’m expecting wonderful tips and reassurance when I do read it since I’ve seen so many people talking about it. Your sum-up makes me want to read it even more. You know me and my relationship with stress – I’m all about it! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 24, 2020 Haha Carrie…so I write a post about stress management, but stress out all the time myself :p The irony. His books I will admit are just okay-ish in the sense that there are many repetitive pages. But I guess that’s the point to it – some form of meditation? (Or to knock it into the brain of people like me.) Anyway he has many books, so probably worth a read! 😀 - Asian Living Apr 24, 2020 A nice post. Today is really stressful as we cannot do what we wanted to do due to COVID - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 24, 2020 Thank you Asian Living 🙂 Yes stress levels are high worldwide for so many reasons. Hopefully this clears soon! In the meantime, stay calm and stay safe! - Kathy Apr 21, 2020 Hi, Sheryl! Thanks for the reminders to stay in the present moment instead of fretting about the past or worrying about the future. - Alexa Federico Jun 6, 2017 This sounds like my kind of book! I can relate. Sometimes I get antsy when I try to meditate or just relax and rest, but I try to remind myself that we all need self care and “me time,” especially when we have a chronic condition. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 6, 2017 Yes indeed! I found another way to ‘meditate’ and relax btw, suitable for restless people like you and me 😉 New post in the works! x **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### A Hurried Return, but Chronic Illness's Opening Hours Remain Unchanged URL: https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-opening-hours/ Last updated: 2025-11-09T16:58:40.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## The Return Home to Singapore from Berlin I had to sadly return to Singapore earlier than expected, due to the coronavirus outbreak. My parents were very worried, what with chronic illness and all that in the mix. After being put on hold with the customer service line for 7 hours straight (yes, happy tropical island music for hours!), I was told that my flight back had already been cancelled. I guess I was lucky in some sense, as they only sent this email out a few days later, and I had time to book a flight on Finnair back for the next day. The airplane food was surprisingly good on Finnair (maybe the best so far), although I was a little freaked out the entire flight. There was an inconsiderate woman seated next to me who was sniffling the whole way through without a mask, and simply wiping all her snot on her sleeve. Then there was a young drunk girl in front of me, who disrupted everyone’s sleep throughout the flight with the glaring call bell, yelling and doing ‘stretching exercises’. She was seated in the emergency row - not so reassuring. Apart from that, Finnair airport looked really nice and nature oriented, and I hope to be able to visit Finland someday too when this is all over! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Pandemic Life Boards: ![A Hurried Return, but Chronic Illness’s Opening Hours Remain Unchanged](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_hurried-return-4-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.png) ## I Miss the Weather in Europe! To say that I miss the weather in Europe is an understatement. I believe that I will never adjust to the weather here in Singapore - hot and humid is just not for me. Every day I simply look forward to my evening shower to get some relief. The humidity saps me of energy, causes fatigue, depression, aches and more. Whereas [**cold weather makes me feel alive**](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-advocacy/), makes my spirit feel a little more wild and free, and refreshes me. I actually love it when the weather in Singapore gets grey and gloomy, because it feels so much more soothing and calm, despite the increased aches due to humidity or air pressure levels. Read Related Posts: - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Winter Fun, Games & Pain with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-fun-chronic-illness/) - [What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - [Invisible in Singapore: What’s It Like to Live Here with Chronic Illnesses?](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/) - [Invisible Cities Linkup: Pros & Cons of Living with Chronic Illness in Your City](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-cities-linkup/) ## Well Enforced Social Distancing in Place Back Home My life actually hasn’t changed all that much since I’ve returned to Singapore, with the self-isolation and social distancing in place. I guess that I’m more isolated than I had imagined on a daily basis, living the chronic illness life. But it’s something I’ve gotten used to, and quite enjoy in fact. [**The ones I come into closest contact with are my birds**](https://achronicvoice.com/stress-fatigue-thresholds-suck/), and they make for lovely company. I am happy they still remember me after 3 months of separation, by the way! Also, having returned to Singapore, I must commend the government for educating the public here thoroughly. Everyone seems well-informed, there is little panic (yes there is toilet paper and food on the shelves!), and all supermarkets have tape on the floor for proper social distancing. Let’s hope this disruptive virus is rid soon. Life isn’t so fun with this tiny thing floating around, is it? ## Some Musings About "Stress" I have been super stressed with a web job, only because I haven’t worked on one with such a tight timeline for a long time, and am not used to it anymore. I am really glad I got the deal though, because, money. The stress has been so bad for me that I passed out in bed on Friday night and only woke at 15:30 the following day, which hasn’t happened since I was a teenager! After which I napped again for 2 hours after ‘lunch’, and went to bed earlier than usual. I think to myself, "wow have I become weak". But thinking to myself further, any increase in stress levels for any person would be the same. Handling stress requires stamina, and stamina comes with training. It’s like a muscle, yet one we shouldn’t push beyond the limits either. I do still need to learn how not to stress over things that I have no control over however, which I’m terrible at. When I hit a roadblock in the project that was totally out of my control, I freaked out. Work is the biggest area in my life where I self-blame for some reason. Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Triggers Trigger Triggers (Re-Stabilisation Procedure Encore)](https://achronicvoice.com/triggers-trigger-triggers-re-stabilisation/) - [Chronic Stress, the Silent Assassin](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/) - [De-Stressing and Winding Down in December 2018](https://achronicvoice.com/de-stressing-december-2018/) Pin to Your Stress Management & Quote Boards: ![Handling stress requires stamina, and stamina comes with training. It’s like a muscle, yet one we shouldn’t push beyond the limits either.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_stress-stamina-2-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ## Celebrating My Birthday, Which Falls on Easter This Year Finally, with all that’s going on in the world right now, we need to find reasons to celebrate life a little still, do we not? Easter’s coming right up, and it falls exactly on my birthday! Anyway I’ll be turning 34, which sounds a little older than 33, and closer to that dreaded ‘35 year old pregnancy deadline’ that many women fear. Strangely, the older I get, the more tired I am from the daily pain, and the less I want a baby. This was different when I was 14, and never even had a boyfriend yet! The irony. Yet I do still hope to have my own child and family some day, because I’d like to ‘unlock’ all the meaningful doors in life if I can. This is largely out of curiosity, and we only live one life. And family is after all, one of the biggest and most meaningful doors to unlock, if at all possible. Apart from that, I have no plans for my birthday. It’s just another day, and a social distancing one. We’ll see what happens when it comes 🙂 Thank you for reading my catch up for April 2020! To continue down memory lane, you can read my diary entries for the [**previous**](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) or [**next**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-maybes/) month. Pin to Your Self-Care & Awareness Boards: ![With all that’s going on in the world right now, we need to find reasons to celebrate life a little still, do we not?](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_celebrate-life-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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Read Related Posts: - [Timeless Duties Toward Life Every New Year](https://achronicvoice.com/new-year-duties-life/) - [Every Next Level of Your Life Will Demand a Different You](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) - [Pregnancy, Miscarriage & Women’s Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Pandemic Life Boards: ![A Hurried Return, but Chronic Illness’s Opening Hours Remain Unchanged](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_life-changed-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/2020/04/28/coping-with-stress-and-chronic-illness-life-during-a-global-pandemic/) Apr 28, 2020 I almost missed the deadline for your April Linkup Party because of a site snag. I just submitted and I think that’s the latest I’ve ever submitted something at the end of such a long month. Thanks so much for organizing this each month, Sheryl. I was a bit scared for you having to fly back with all this chaos, but have been so grateful to see your posts pop up in my news feeds and on soc med. I’m so glad you’re home and safe, even though you didn’t want to come back. Your comments about stress are spot on. Stress has ruined my life and made things so much worse. I feel like I’d just gotten a hold on it and had it under control and then this hit! I really love this quote in your entry: “The stress has been so bad for me that I passed out in bed on Friday night until 15:30 the following day, which hasn’t happened since I was a teenager! After which I napped again for two hours after ‘lunch’, and went to bed earlier than usual. I think to myself, ‘wow have I become weak’. But thinking to myself further, any increase in stress levels for any person would be the same. Handling stress requires stamina, and stamina comes with training. It’s like a muscle, yet one we shouldn’t push beyond the limits either.” That is such a great quote and it took so long for me to get a grip on stress in my life. It’s my number one trigger and it wipes me out! I moved to stress relieving activities to help cope with stress. Finally, I just wanted to wish you a Happy Birthday again! I’m so sorry I was late with this! I hope you had a terrific celebration. - [ Rhiann ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com) Apr 24, 2020 Happy Birthday, Sheryl. I hope you had a wonderful day and was able to enjoy it despite the lockdown and enforced isolation. I glad that you got back safely home before the lockdown was imposed and I hope that the whole situation isn’t negatively affecting you too much. I also am finding that life hasn’t changed that much despite the lockdown; I guess something that a lot of us with chronic illnesses are feeling! I wish you all the best for the remainder of the month, and hope you can celebrate your birthday in style someday soon! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 24, 2020 Thanks Rhiann! It was a lockdown birthday but as we get older, I think birthdays get quieter anyway (at least for me). I did buy myself a slice of cake though lol. Hope you’ve been keeping well yourself xxx - Kathy Apr 14, 2020 Hi, Sheryl! I look forward to your prompts each month. I’m sorry you had to end your Germany trip earlier than you wanted. I hope you are staying safe. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 24, 2020 Thank for the encouragement, Kathy! Sometimes I wonder if these monthly linkups are any fun or any use. I’m glad that some of us do enjoy it so that’s nice to hear! No worries about the trip, I am glad to have had the opportunity at all, and that I was well there. There will be more in future 🙂 Stay safe my friend! - [ Catherine Green ](https://www.spookymrsgreen.com) Apr 13, 2020 Happy Birthday, Sheryl! I’m glad you got home safely before lockdown, and I hope you manage to calm the work stress very soon. My main stress comes from having no work and struggling to obtain paid work these days! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 24, 2020 Thank you so much Catherine! Haha it’s a vicious cycle isn’t it. I get stressed without money coming in, too. Yet the biggest trigger for stress that leads to physical pain and flare ups is from work, too. Oh my. Just need to keep trying to find that balance, I suppose! 😉 - Cynthia Apr 12, 2020 Happy birthday!!! Glad to hear you were able to return home when you did. Traveling is how I found my ideal climate. You can imagine how happy I was when my husband was then offered a job where my body experiences less pain. You never know what the future holds. Wishing you some pain relief! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 13, 2020 Thanks Cynthia!! That’s really nice you found your ideal climate. It’s funny how those of us with chronic illness can be so extreme when it comes to that – cold vs heat is so debatable! 😀 - Niamh Apr 10, 2020 It sounds like you have wonderful memories to take with you from your break away. Lucky you got your flight out of their sorted. I understand the weather preference so well. I adore the heat the cold brings me nothing but pain we should swap 😀 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 10, 2020 Hi Niamh, yes they were such lovely memories! Haha I would swap in a heartbeat if I could! ;p - [ Alison Hayes ](https://www.thrivingwhiledisabled.com) Apr 5, 2020 Sheryl, Thanks so much, as always, for sharing! I’m so sorry that your trip ended early, it sounds like you had so much fun!! With all the COVID-19 stresses, though, it makes sense that you did. Hope your work goes well- I totally feel you on being especially self-critical with work-related stuff, I absolutely am the same on that! April is FND awareness month, and I’m doing my best to spread knowledge of FND while plodding through the COVID-19 stress. Enjoy your time with your birds – and please do your best to keep those COVID germs out of your system! \*hugs\* - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 8, 2020 Hi Alison! Trip was good for a change of scenery! I’m glad you can relate regarding work stuff 😉 And your post on FND was brilliant. Keep raising awareness! x - Laura | Tales of a Natural Spoonie Apr 5, 2020 Hi Sheryl, I am so glad that you were able to get back home safely. I was a little worried that you may end up stranded due to everything going on with C-19\. Although the Singapore weather sounds dreadful, heat and humidity are my nemesis! Much love, Laura xxx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 5, 2020 Thanks Laura! Yes it was a little stressful towards the end with the flight booking and all that! Yes heat and humidity are my nemesis too, ha! Sending love, hope all’s well with you and yours xxx - Laura | Tales of a Natural Spoonie Apr 5, 2020 We are doing ok at present. Kids are starting to get a bit of cabin fever but the new puppy is keeping them entertained. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 8, 2020 I want a puppy too! Haha. I’m sure it’s providing them with lots of joy (and responsibility) for now 😉 Stay safe and happy as possible! x - [ Lisa Ehrman ](https://chronicallycontent.com) Apr 4, 2020 I’m so glad that people aren’t buying all the toilet paper there! It’s wonderful when people are educated well, they won’t panic purchase. It’s great to hear that you got a paying job. 🙂 Stay safe. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 4, 2020 Hi Lisa, I think the situation’s changing as we’re going into lockdown soon…but the gov is strict here (like we’re in school lol)…so things should be okay at least toilet paper wise lol. Yes am really worried about money as I had one source cut off as well. Take care! x - Nikki Michelle Albert Apr 3, 2020 It is also my birthday month! Woot! Not sure what I will do on it. Maybe all my favourite indoor things? Not sure yet. I am less stressing about money since my spouse found work, ironically this makes me at higher risk of getting ill… so sort of good and bad. But it has been hard in this province economically to find work… and significantly worse now so that was lucky and fortunate. We just have to be as careful as we can. And I am on disability so my income remains the same craptastic income it is…. with no end in sight since I do not see any potential for answers or treatment in the foreseeable future. But I have accepted life as it is for now. And life as it is, is rest and recovery. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 3, 2020 Woot! All my favourite people in April! Ahaha. Yea with the coronavirus, I think all of us are having quiet birthdays. And like you, I’d planned on ordering my own slice of cake and indulging in the whole damn thing because I’m not sure anyone will remember anyway haha. At this age, it doesn’t matter either. I hope you have a good one regardless. Acceptance is truly such a big tool in handling chronic illness I too agree. xxx - [ Anne ](https://www.raisiebay.com) Apr 2, 2020 Glad you are home and safe and that your birds remember you. I think you are in the best place for now. I hope you have a lovely birthday, even in lockdown. I met my current husband when I was 36 and we have three children. (All locked down with me at the moment and driving me nuts!) x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 3, 2020 Yes Anne thank you! Yes they’re a little blue but maybe with age haha (though they’re really not that old!). Definitely in the best place for now. Let’s hope this all dies down sooner than later. x - JacQueline Roe Apr 2, 2020 I hate that your trip was cut short, but I’m glad you are safe. And have toilet paper-LOL! Who knew this was ever going to be a struggle, right? Thanks again for the chance to link-up. 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 2, 2020 Thanks Jacqueline! Yes we’re all safe and sound, so that’s good 🙂 Haha yes! The gov is pretty strict here. So it’s fairly well controlled and rationed. Indeed! If we lived out in the open nature that wouldn’t be a problem ;p Sending hugs! - Katie Mar 30, 2020 So glad you made it home safely. Are you and your parents doing okay? I sure do understand how the warm humidity could be a drain on you. You would LOVE MI, USA weather. Very much like Berlin’s from what I know. We’re just getting into the 50s and everyone is out wearing just windbreakers. (You have an open invitation if you should ever want to venture our way!) - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 30, 2020 Hi Katie, yes everyone is okay, although it’s pretty stressful having everyone in the house all the time lol! But we’ll manage as always 🙂 That sounds amazing, I’d love to visit someday! And thank you so much for the open invitation! ??? - [ Rachael Emma Tomlinson ](https://accessiblerach.co.uk) Mar 29, 2020 Loving your response to the prompts and even finding some joy in all of this upheaval, pleased to hear you are safe back home and they are practising social distancing too, looking for to sharing this month link up. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 29, 2020 Hi Rachael, thank you! It’s been quiet mostly for now at home, except that my parents are home too, so….some normal clashes here and there 😉 How are you coping? Would be lovely to have you with us this month! x - Naomi Mar 28, 2020 I’m so happy you loved Europe! I hope you get to come back some time. I turned 34 yesterday so welcome to the club when it happens :). For me, there are way too many reasons not to have a baby but I realise it’s not the same for everyone. I hope to grow a forest, one day, rather than an embryo 😉 ps loving the look of the prompts, my mind is mulling them over and i’ll jot something down before too long - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 29, 2020 Happy birthday, Naomi!! How did you celebrate? Guess I’ll find out in your entry 😉 Yes having a child or not to have one is totally a personal thing! For me I was so sure I wanted one at 14\. Lol. Growing a forest sounds like such a beautiful thing, too 🙂 And yes, I really liked Europe in general, though Berlin not so much! But I will definitely be back – for sure! xxx Can’t wait to read your entry! - naomi Mar 31, 2020 Just cake, walk and time with the partner and poochers 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 1, 2020 Sounds perfect to me 🙂 I think mine will be similar…except swap birds for poochers and self bought cake haha xxx - Dani Rayner Mar 28, 2020 I just want to say, I have a chronic illness and am blessed with 2 children. I had them at age 36 and 41 so you do still have plenty of time! The only thing diffrent was I had more appointments to check in baby and me, but I also got to see baby on the extra scans too! Having said all that motherhood can be hard work and we have to be in the right place emotionally and physically when we embark on such a big life change. It’s very true about the isolation due to the virus, it makes you realise what a high level of isolation many of us “suffer” with each and everyday. For some it is a blessing and others a curse, but either way many more people may really understand it better when we get the other side of this pandemic than thought they did before. Stay safe everyone - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 29, 2020 Hi Dani, thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and some inspiration! Yes I did book an appointment with the high risk gynae just to check. They did say that mine wouldn’t just be ‘high risk’, but ‘very very high risk’. So the stars will have to align health, emotions, and mental wise before I do this 😀 (And of course, with the right guy ;p ) I am happy to hear you have two beautiful children regardless…give them a little virtual hug for me! 🙂 Yes funny how it’s almost like our ‘situations’ or shoes are reversed for a bit for now. What we do or don’t do on a normal basis is now seen as ‘the right thing to do’. We can only hope that compassion comes out of this! Sending you love! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Winter Fun, Games & Pain with Chronic Illness URL: https://achronicvoice.com/winter-fun-chronic-illness/ Last updated: 2025-11-09T17:06:18.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## My 3 Month Stay in Berlin is Ending Soon, Sadly Oh my March. Time is a droplet of history, encapsulated in a bullet going at the speed of light. I feel like I haven’t met any of my goals at all, and by this time I’m close to the 3 month mark of being in Berlin. I am closer to being back in Singapore now than ever before. Which isn’t a pleasant feeling as I love the winter season here. Yet, I’m also looking forward to nuzzling and cuddling my birds once more. I’ve missed them quite a bit. I hope they aren’t too angry with me for abandoning them for so long! I haven’t really done anything too touristy, and have just been living here as if I were back in Singapore, save for the change in location. I suppose it’s a different vibe when you travel to a new place for a short period of time, as opposed to a few months. So far I’ve been to the Museum Island, the East Side Gallery, a few nice bars and people’s homes. I’ve spent a lot of time indoors, but am content with that. Another strange fact - I have yet to make a single German friend here. I know, right?! I’ve met people from everywhere else - France, USA, UK, Australia, Ireland, Pakistan, the Netherlands, India, Spain, etc. Then again, Germans in other parts of Germany tell me that Berlin is not quite Germany 😛 The only German I’ve really interacted with at any length was an iTalki teacher I had for two lessons online. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* PinPin to Your Chronic Illness Life & Winter Season Boards: ![Time is a droplet of history, encapsulated in a bullet going at the speed of light.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/time-speed-quote-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.png) ![Winter Fun, Games & Pain with Chronic Illness](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_winter-chronic-illness-2-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.png) > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/B9jqn9sqbk0/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/B9jqn9sqbk0/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) Read Related Posts: - [Coming Alive in the Winter Air (Pushing for Personal Changes & Group Advocacy)](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-advocacy/) - [A Hurried Return, but Chronic Illness’s Opening Hours Remain Unchanged](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-opening-hours/) - [Travelling New Paths with Chronic Illnesses in My Pocket](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-new-paths-chronic-illness/) - [Invisible in Singapore: What’s It Like to Live Here with Chronic Illnesses?](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/) - [What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) ## Out and About, Doing a Little More on My Travels Speaking of which, I think I did quite a lot in the past couple of weeks, as we were visiting family for a week in France. Flights, as all of us chronic illness people know, are evil. I tried illustrating it to my partner with my half filled water bottle on the flight. As we were descending, it was getting all squeezed and sucked in from the air pressure. I told him that was how my bones felt like whenever I take a flight, no matter how long or short the ride is. ### Toulouse, a Pleasant Little City in France I enjoyed strolling along the cobblestoned streets of Toulouse. Speaking of which, my oh my, all the food, the glorious food on arrival! Every street corner had chocolates, cheese, wine, saucisson, and yumminess galore! This is quite in contrast to Berlin. The greedy foodie in me was much satisfied. We stayed at my partner’s mum’s place for a couple days and it was so homely and cosy. Her cat, Kimmie, was the cutest. She loved nuzzling noses and rubbing heads. It’s always nice to have a furry friend at home. It’s too bad that I can’t afford a cat or dog at home, as I can barely take care of myself financially as it stands. (Update: Okay, I still can't quite afford a dog, but [here's Talisker](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/the-way-my-dog-talisker-brings-me), my sheltie!) > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/B9aFec1AwvC/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/B9aFec1AwvC/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/B9fOspxlIB-/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/B9fOspxlIB-/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) ### A Day Trip to San Sébastien, Spain, Next Door We also visited San Sébastien in Spain for a day trip, which was a short drive away. We were lucky, as it was the only sunny day our entire stay there. I kept thinking, "this is how life should be", as we spent our day together with quality family time. Sangria (for the rest) and thick Spanish hot chocolate for me, whilst live music played nearby. After which we had their famous tapas/pintxos for lunch, then visited the beautiful aquarium. Strolling around the town and seaside was super pleasant, too. I think I could live in a simple place like this and be happy. > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/B9cy96OgJzd/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/B9cy96OgJzd/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/B9UQ3hzqw65/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/B9UQ3hzqw65/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) ### And Then Chronic Illness Jolted Me Back to 'Reality' And then of course, chronic illness had to get jealous and whipped my ass for an entire week. On the way back to Berlin, I barely slept for two days straight as I was up all night pacing in pain. I think I caught a UTI somewhere along the way, and just took antibiotics as it was burning, and we had much travelling to do. I also vomited at the airport, so that was really no fun. I am however, grateful that I had my partner there to support me. > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/B9WhRN-q1Pa/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/B9WhRN-q1Pa/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) Read Related Posts: - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Triggers Trigger Triggers (Re-Stabilisation Procedure Encore)](https://achronicvoice.com/triggers-trigger-triggers-re-stabilisation/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) ## Setting My Sights on New Work Targets As for targets, I just clinched a new web development job, and am excited about it. It’s a nice change from writing jobs every now and then. The timeline will be a little more strict, but I believe I can do this. Apart from that, I am also working on [my new business site](https://work.achronicvoice.com/) (it’s taking much longer than I had imagined), due to the fact that I’m stuck with carving out my services and exact niche. I am also reading up more on internet marketing and affiliate sales, and trying to push myself to do all these boring but necessary stuff (to me at least!). Anyway, I’ll prioritise my client’s job first, and target to get my website out asap next. The book I’ve been reading on internet marketing has been somewhat helpful, and helps to give me a better idea of how I should carve my little corner of the web out next. ## Putting on a Few Extra Winter Pounds... Finally, I think I’ve put on some winter weight, ha! Whilst it hasn’t been super cold in Berlin, it’s been an excuse for me to indulge in raclette, fondue, saucisson, cheese and whatnot. I’ll just take it as a special, long holiday! I remember my childhood back in Hong Kong, where I’d also put on some belly fat during winter even as a child. It used to be much colder back then, before the global warming rise in temperature. Anyway I’m not too worried as I’ll be back to sunny Singapore soon. For now, eat and as they say, ‘there’s more of me to love’ for now 😉 ## Trying Not to Stress Too Much So I’m going to be as stress-less as I possibly can from now until I go back home (and hopefully after as well!). I’ll enjoy what I can, when I can. It’s a good way to be in life. I suppose after you’ve gone through a bad period or a bad pain flare, it’s easier to look at things that way for a while. It lends some perspective. One thing I’m definitely not looking forward to when I get back in April - all the doctor appointments stacked back to back, week after week, that I’ve held off for the past 3 months. It will be a full month of hospital visits and with the coronavirus running rampant, let’s hope it’s not too much of a hassle. Anyway, I’ll find out when I’m back. For now, I’ll just enjoy what little time I have left in Europe. Cheers to life! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-chronic-illness/) - [Why I Need to See More Than 10 Different Types of Doctors Regularly](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) - [How to Prepare for a Medical Appointment in a Post-Pandemic World (4 Top Tips From a Doctor)](https://achronicvoice.com/prepare-medical-appointment/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (52 Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [#projChronicWisdom: Simple Pleasures I Can Enjoy While Stuck in Bed with Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/projchronicwisdom-simple-pleasures-enjoy-pain/) Pin to Your Inspirational Quote & Affirmation Boards: ![I will enjoy what I can, when I can quote](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/enjoy-can-quote-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.png) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Niamh Mar 23, 2020 Oh your journey just sounds so wonderful Sheryl. You managed so much pacing. Your analogy of the water bottle is spot on I usually feel like that at the end of the day lol Safe travels back to your birdies xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 23, 2020 Thanks Niamh! Yes when I looked at the water bottle it just felt like that haha! I did try to pace a lot, and whilst pain never fully goes away, I still had a lot of good memories! x - Kathy Mar 16, 2020 I loved reading about your travels. I’m so glad you got this opportunity! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 19, 2020 Thanks Kathy! I haven’t really shared much as I tend to get a bit lazy and don’t want to share too much private life stuff apart from illness. Sending hugs! - [ Rhiann ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com) Mar 16, 2020 “I suppose after you’ve gone through a bad period or a bad pain flare, it’s easier to look at things that way for a while. It lends some perspective.” – I love this quote, so true! You write so eloquently, and always resonates so much, regardless of diagnosis. You have such a talent! It’s such a lovely post and enjoyed reading your updates on your travels, although I am so sorry that pain has made it so difficult for you, it often has a habit of doing that, doesn’t it? I hope that you manage to enjoy the rest of your time in Berlin, and whatever adventures await you next! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 19, 2020 Aww…thanks Rhiann for your continuous support. You are a wonderful writer too 😀 - Naomi Mar 13, 2020 Lovely to hear an update on your adventures. I totally get the part where you haven’t gone out and been ‘touristy’-its like that for me when we go near places like that on the boat. I just exist in those places like I do anywhere else mostly! Hope going home isn’t too stressful - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 14, 2020 Hi Naomi, I like how you put it – existing in those places happily on your boat instead of doing it all. Sometimes I think that can also defeat the purpose! It’s been a bit stressful as my flight home got cancelled, which I only found out about through waiting to get connected to the call centre at seven hours. But anyway managed to book a flight back tomorrow as I don’t know what the situation’s going to be like in Europe – seems to be going really fast so best to go home I guess. At least I’ll see my birds soon! 🙂 xxx - [ Shruti ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com/) Mar 11, 2020 “I suppose after you’ve gone through a bad period or a bad pain flare, it’s easier to look at things that way for a while. It lends some perspective.” – so true!! O’ my, had to point out how right that felt when reading it. You just express things so well! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 12, 2020 Thanks Shruti! Yes the sun does seem brighter after a bad pain flare heh. Sending you good thoughts! - [ Despite Pain ](https://www.despitepain.com) Mar 11, 2020 The time just flies by, doesn’t it? Your trip sounds great, but poor you at the airport!! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 11, 2020 It sure does, it’s crazy!! Every year faster and faster! Yes trip has been a wonderful experience and opportunity so far. The pain was ‘worth it’. All part of the ‘game’. I am just really really grateful it’s not worse. - Cynthia Mar 11, 2020 I can’t believe it is March already… I don’t feel like I have done much, yet the other day someone shared that they couldn’t believe that I have done so much. So I guess it is where you are when you look at it. With that said, from my point of view, you have been busy LOL. Enjoy the rest of your time in Berlin! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 11, 2020 Hi Cynthia, I know right? I say this for nearly every month of every year though, haha! I guess the little things do add up, but it doesn’t feel like it hey! I’ve mostly been inside the house in Berlin, really. So the blog post features just some fun highlights 🙂 Thank you! - [ Jackline A ](https://www.sincerelyjackline.com) Mar 11, 2020 I am so sorry that you have pain especially on your trip. It can’t be easy experiencing it while your away. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 11, 2020 Hi Jackline! It’s not so bad really, just that when you’re right smack in the middle of planes and buses, it can be a nightmare! But still, I am grateful for this opportunity 🙂 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### 7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going URL: https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/ Last updated: 2026-06-02T16:16:56.000Z ## Self-Reminders for Those Bad Days When I Feel Defeated by Depression or Chronic Pain Some reflections I had whilst writing the post, “[**Why Your Beauty Never Left You**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-your-beauty-never-left-you/)”. I'm not here to dispense advice, because god knows I'm struggling to get my own life in order! But I just wanted to scribble these thoughts down as guideposts, for those bad days when I lose my way. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Inspiration, Resilience & Mental Health Boards: ![7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/7-reminders-bad-days-keep-you-going.jpg) --- Your browser does not support the video tag. ### Download the e-Book Now comes in a beautiful e-book filled with uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations for those bad days! [Download Now](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/ebook-7-reminders-dim-days.pdf) --- ## 1\. There is No Need to Prove Anything to Anyone Not even to yourself. It only leads to a more confused you, and hinders rather than promotes growth. What you must do is to focus on making the best out of the present moment. If you can learn to appreciate whatever it is that you're doing, the results will be a consequence of that action. There is no need to worry. > *"And now you don't have to be perfect, you can be good." - John Steinbeck* Pin to Your Self-Love & Motivational Quotes Board: ![And now you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good. - John Steinbeck](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-perfect-good.jpg) ![There is no need to prove anything to anyone...not even to yourself.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-prove-nothing.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) ## 2\. You Are Worth Your Existence Just as You Are No matter your state of health or wealth. No one has any right to tell you that you're less of a human being than they are; we are all made of the same stuff, share this planet as home, and will return to dust together. ## 3\. You Are Just as Human as Anyone Else Having said that, neither should you ever believe that you are more of a human being than anyone else, based solely on your material possessions, or standing in our volatile society. These are the sort of achievements that can go up in smoke overnight. If it comes to that, what are you, then? Pin to Your Inspirational Quotes & Self-Awareness Board: ![You are worth your existence just as you are. We are all humans made of the same stuff.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote_worth-it-1.jpg) ## 4\. Abandon the Heavy Baggage of Ego Abandon the cruel expectations from the slave drivers, Should and Should Not. They will always be there as gatekeepers of our morals, but they also have huge egos. Sometimes they overstep their boundaries, and cause more harm than good. Do not let them manipulate you, and sap you of your humanity. Travel light to reach the expanse of knowledge, and leave lots of room to acquire the jewels of joy you will find along the way. Pin to Your Self-Love & Self-Care Boards: ![Let Go - Abandon the cruel expectations from the slave drivers, Should and Should Not.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-let-go.jpg) ## 5\. Focus on Building a Strong Core of Being One that external forces and petty opinions have no dominion over. Of course it will chip and crumble at times, but because of who you are, you have the infinite ability to rebuild. So keep moving forward, to the perfect rhythm that your body sets. Follow its pace, or you will not go far. You are bound to get blisters along the way, some of us more than others. They will cause permanent scars. These scars are gems of wisdom in the flesh, and wisdom is sacred. It has the power to make or break worlds, and you have earned the right to hold some of this fire. But be careful, for this fire will burn you alive if you think you are its master, and [**try to force it upon someone else**](https://achronicvoice.com/advice-quite-literally-kill/). Pin to Your Bad Days & Self-Reminders Boards: ![You have the infinite ability to rebuild. So keep moving forward, to the perfect rhythm that your body sets.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-rebuild.jpg) ![Scars are gems of wisdom in the flesh, and wisdom is sacred.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-scars-wisdom.jpg) ## 6\. Befriend Yourself, You Will be Pleasantly Surprised There will be many surprises when you start getting to know yourself better. You will be impressed with your abilities and unlock hidden potential. Heck, you might even start to like yourself, and all the traits that you thought you wanted nothing to do with! Pin to Your Self-Love & Self-Compassion Boards: ![Befriend yourself, you will be pleasantly surprised. Read more on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/befriend-yourself-pleasantly-surprised-self-love.jpg) ## 7\. Break Down That Wall Around Your Heart I still have [**no answer to the question, “who am I?”**](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/), except that I am human. We are unyielding, vulnerable and changeable all at once. I suppose we'll have to live out our lives to find out the answer. To keep listening and tuning that musical resonance deep within our beings. It might take a bit of work breaking down the icy fortresses we've built around our hearts, in a foolish attempt to protect that which needs no protecting. > *“Character is what you know you are, not what others think you have.” – Marva Collins* Pin to Your Bad Days & Inspiration Boards: ![7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going. “Keep listening and tuning that musical resonance deep within you.” Read more on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/7-reminders-for-bad-days-keep-you-going-keep-listening-tuning-musical-resonance-within-v1-man-gaze.jpg) ![It might take a bit of work breaking down the icy fortresses we’ve built around our hearts, in a foolish attempt to protect that which needs no protecting. Click to Read: 7 Reminders For Those Dim Days When You Lose Your Way](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote-hearts.jpg) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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Read Related Posts: - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [A String of Bad Days (and What Happened When That Good Day Finally Came Along)](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/) - [#projChronicWisdom: Things I Find Beautiful in My Everyday Life Despite the Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/projchronicwisdom-beautiful-life-despite-pain/) Pin to Your Bad Days, Chronic Pain & Mental Health Boards: ![7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_7-reminders-4.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Lucy ](https://lbhealthandlifestyle.com) Jul 24, 2021 Thank you for these important reminders. I especially love the one that we are worthy exactly as we are. Other people can so often make us feel inferior due to our limited ability to work and socialise but one of the positive things about having a chronic illness for me is slowly realising and accepting that materialistic things like a job and income doesn’t define my value and my worth isn’t found in those things. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 27, 2021 You are so right. I think being chronically ill has made me face my inner fears and demons deep inside, because there’s nowhere else to run. Chronic pain slows time down too, and you’re just forced to just lie there and confront everything close up. It’s harrowing, traumatic, but also shows you your resilience. And with acceptance comes strength 🙂 - Ben Apr 15, 2021 It’s definately important to learn to connect with yourself and deal with the emotional components when you’re chronically ill. I found when I first got lyme that the symptoms were so intense I needed a way to cope, and also realized part of these deep emotions had contributed. As horrible as the symptoms were and how I could barely function, the last nearly 3 years have been the biggest period of growth for me. I reconnected with my Inner Child, become alot more comfortable socially, found other things to enjoy other than just the gym such as laughter club and improv. And realized it was important to be social and connect with people which I didn’t do much before, but in my recovery due to the inner growth I started to enjoy socializing again. I like the idea of building a strong core of being. Somehow during this when it was really bad I found something deep inside myself that just kept me going and that I just had to heal. It’s still a work in progress but i’ve come really far. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 5, 2021 Hi Ben apologies for the super late reply! Thank you for reading the post and yes, chronic illness and pain really ruffles all sorts of feathers. I am glad that you seem to be moving in the right direction and doing so for your own wellbeing. Wishing you all the best. We are all works in progress 🙂 - [ Sue Jackson ](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/) Jan 24, 2021 Ah, Sheryl, what a lovely post – warm, thoughtful, and comforting. All so inspiring and all such good reminders to us all, especially on the bad days. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Sue [Book By Book ](https://bookbybook.blogspot.com/) - [ Nyxie ](https://www.nyxiesnook.com) Aug 4, 2020 Such an excellent read. Thank you so much for sharing. I honestly found this so inspirational. I get so caught up in my bad days that it can drive me mad. Today I realised that I haven’t felt anywhere close to suicidal in months and it’s because I’m somehow able to hold myself during and grief or stress that comes my way. Long may it continue but it sure beats feeling so awful all the time. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 5, 2020 Thank you, Nyxie! I’m glad you found a bit of inspiration in this post as that was my aim 🙂 I am glad you haven’t felt suicidal in months, that really is an achievement. And on the down days, know that it’s okay, too. Just hang in there xxx - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Jun 23, 2020 I loved this post (and the graphics) so much. All the shares. Saved as a reminder for each week. Love love love that Steinbeck quote too. Thanks so much for all that you do, Sheryl. Sending you the biggest, softest hugs. Always with you! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 24, 2020 Thank you Carrie, you’re always so supportive! Sending much love back at you, and thank you so much for helping me to share the post and graphics, I really appreciate it much! xxx - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Jun 23, 2020 “There is No Need to Prove Anything to Anyone… no even to yourself” .. with a certain increase in life pressures lately – I’ve realise how important it is I do this. It’s been a timely reminder 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 24, 2020 Same here…whatever you’re going through, I wish you the very best! 🙂 - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Jun 23, 2020 Really enjoyed all these reminders – especially letting go of our ego. I know I am guilty for trying to be ‘perfect’ when that’s really unnecessary and harmful even. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 24, 2020 Yes I think our ego is of course, there for a reason and can be useful. But it’s a really fine line! Life is about balance after all, I guess! - Nikki Michelle Albert Mar 27, 2020 Chronic illness and, lately, my isolation due to this downturn has led to a lot of self-reflection… I am introspective anyway so prone to it. And I find I have grown in many of these ways. I wonder if it is age? That I have settled into a level of comfort with myself I couldn’t accept before? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 27, 2020 I hear you. To be honest, my life hasn’t changed all that much at all since the self-isolation…it’s kind of what my life is like with chronic illness anyway. I do miss going out to work at cafés every now and then though, it helps me to be more productive, and a change of environment always helps. But regardless, I’ve also reached a level of acceptance of being alone or lonely, both. - [ Ellen Best ](https://ellenbest24.wordpress.com/) Mar 5, 2020 I liked befriend yourself, it is something we are guilty of forgetting. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 27, 2020 Thanks Ellen! Yes it’s my favourite one, too. So easy to forget, difficult to maintain and do. Hopefully we learn over time! x - Kathy Walker Mar 5, 2020 Loved your post. Sometimes we beat ourselves up so much and really we should be better to ourselves. Thanks for saying this that we should befriend ourselves because we are good people. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 5, 2020 Thanks so much Kathy. Yes agreed, I think we are better deep down inside than we know ourselves to be. Sending you good thoughts! x - Elizabeth O Feb 28, 2020 If there is one thing parents need to teach kids from an early age, it is be at peace with who you are. We are all enough as we are. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 29, 2020 Totally agreed! Self acceptance is important and is probably the most important life skill. - Amber Hurley Feb 27, 2020 Break down that wall around your heart. That really resonated with me. - Jillian Feb 26, 2020 Great reminders. Thank you for an encouraging post! - [ The Frugal Samurai ](https://thefrugalsamurai.com) Feb 26, 2020 Very inspiring and positive – looking forward to following the rest of your journey! - Amy Elizabeth Braun Feb 26, 2020 These are very deep and wise advice to remind us about those bad days about the end of our lives. Like when I read “There is No Need to Prove Anything to Anyone”, I thought: “Wow that is deep”. But maybe because I have trouble with trying to prove everything to everyone to make everything right - [ Katie Clark ](https://painfullyliving.com) Sep 13, 2020 I needed these today. Pinned 5 quotes. You’re words speak such important truths. Thank you for the insight into dealing with these hard moments with chronic illness. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 13, 2020 Wow thanks so much for that, Katie, I appreciate it! I know it is a hard day for you, so I truly hope this post helps. Sending you gentle hugs and love. - Crickette, The Things I Have to Say Feb 26, 2020 I learned that it’s all really about perspective. No matter how sad life is, you can paint a beautiful picture. Some people look outward, in order to feel better. While it works, the result does not last very long. When you are able to seek inner peace, you become more powerful. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 26, 2020 Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Crickette. Yes it really is all about how you write your own life story, isn’t it? 🙂 Though that can be really hard when your cards in life are tough. - Charlene Feb 26, 2020 These are all such great reminders! Each of us is an important part of society and are enough! - [ Jon Maldia ](https://beintheworldyoga.com) Feb 26, 2020 “There is No Need to Prove Anything to Anyone” – I love that. I used to care what others think and say. Luckily, I outgrew it. I’m much happier now. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 26, 2020 That’s great, Jon! I am really happy for you! 😀 - [ WanderlustBeautyDreams ](https://www.wanderlustbeautydreams.com) Feb 26, 2020 These are such lovely reminders to keep in mind to changing your mindset and habits! - Marjie Mare Feb 26, 2020 This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you so much for sharing it. Often, I forgot, I am Just as Human as Anyone Else - Olufunke Feb 25, 2020 These tips are awesome. I am going to start by befriending myself and getting to know me more. - Mark Feb 25, 2020 Love these tips. Very important. Especially number 6, befriend yourself, it’s the key to happiness. Thanks for sharing. - Bella Feb 25, 2020 These are such great tips, you truly don’t have to prove anything to anyone!! - Chelsea Sauve - Wandure Feb 25, 2020 These are such magical reminders – thank you! I really quite like this one “Befriend Yourself, You Will be Pleasantly Surprised”. Really lovely. - Serene Xi Feb 25, 2020 I really like this: You Are Worth Your Existence Just as You Are. I used to have a note taped to my computer screen that read: You are perfect the way you are. - [ Krysten Quiles ](https://why-girls-are-weird.com) Feb 25, 2020 I had a really crummy weekend so these are really helpful for me to move on from it. Thanks so much for sharing this with all of us! - Nikki Michelle Albert Feb 25, 2020 Our self-identity is fluid and I always remind myself of that. I am what I let myself be. And I can be more than I think. And accept who I am… because I am the only me around. - [ Tamara J. ](https://www.razzledazzlelife.com) Feb 25, 2020 “Breakdown that walk around your heart.” That’s my favorite! Such a great piece of advice to follow. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 25, 2020 Thanks Tamara 🙂 Sending good thoughts your way! x - [ The joyous Living ](https://www.thejoyousliving.com) Feb 24, 2020 thanks for sharing. i just had to repin your post on pinterest. hav ea great day. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 25, 2020 Thanks so much for spreading the love, much appreciated! x - [ Shruti ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Feb 24, 2020 It’s so true how we forget that we’re human and how others can too. It’s such a basic yet necessary reminder. Thank you 🙂 - arv Aug 31, 2018 your points are inspiring. Great set of advice! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 31, 2018 Thanks for dropping by and reading, Arv! Much appreciated! - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Aug 31, 2018 Such an encouraging post! It made me chuckle when you said “god knows I’m struggling to get my own life in order” because I feel the same, an uphill battle… You’ve given some wonderful suggestions and made great points, and I agree that befriending yourself can be very surprising. Who knows, maybe if we learned to like ourselves more we could take on the world! 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 31, 2018 Hi Caz, haha yea…I just felt a little embarrassed to be seen as giving advice, when I fail on so many of these fronts again and again…so they’re really just reminders to self 😉 And yes! I also think this comes with age, where you learn to accept yourself a little more and to actually be comfortable in your own skin 🙂 - Ashley McKnight Oct 31, 2016 You are an inspiration, and the things you share help me understand my patients better, but also are inspiring to me personally. You are brave and strong and have hope even within the dismal days. I loved what you said in another post that just because one day feels futile and wasted, that doesn’t mean life is wasted. Thanks for sharing your experiences with us. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 31, 2016 Hi Ashley, thank you so much for your own inspiring words 😉 I’m not even sure anybody reads these posts or if they’re helpful, so any constructive feedback is greatly appreciated 🙂 And yes, that is exactly my aim. I don’t just want to reach out to others who are ill, but also to the average person out there. I feel that that is the best way to connect, when we realise that we’re all the same at the end of it all. Wishing you a wonderful week ahead, and thank you for being a practitioner who truly cares about your patients. We need you around! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Drink Pure Wine Review (A Product That Excites Me as a Person with Chronic Illness) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/drink-pure-wine-review/ Last updated: 2026-06-06T16:34:34.000Z *\*Disclaimer: Whilst this post is sponsored by* [*Drink Pure Wine*](https://drinkpurewine.com/)*, all opinions expressed in this review are my own. This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness, Social Well-Being, and Food & Drink Boards: ![Drink Pure Wine Review - A great product for people with chronic pain](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/drink-pure-wine-review-product-chronic-pain-1.jpg) ![Pure Wine Review — (A Product That Excites Me as a Person with Chronic Illness). Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pure-wine-review-chronic-illness.jpg) ## A Pleasant Parcel of Drink Pure Wine Wands A parcel landed on my doorstep, and I glanced at the address. Could this be the parcel from Drink Pure Wine? Yes it was, and I couldn't be more delighted to receive not just one, but a few boxes of Drink Pure Wine wands! I had been browsing Drink Pure Wine's website for some time before I had approached David, the founder of the product, to see if we could work together. You could say that I was elated when he replied, and we had a nice chat over Skype. As a chemist, he shared his passion about chemistry, wines, the myth of the Asian flush, grapes and more. An interesting lesson, you could say 😉 > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/B8WbO30Kpqy/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/B8WbO30Kpqy/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) ## My Drink Pure Wine Review: A Revolutionary Product for Those with Chronic Illness Could I finally enjoy a glass of wine, without the potential side effects triggered by chronic illness? [**Drinking alcohol usually goes two ways for me**](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/). Either I enjoy the nice woozy effects without much pain, or I become unwell, but not in the sense of a hangover. More like a sickened feeling from having drank poison. I had read many positive Drink Pure Wine reviews from people who suffer from migraine disorder. Wines contain [histamines](https://thejournalofheadacheandpain.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s10194-019-0984-1) (Worm et al., 2019) and sulfites, which are potential triggers for migraine pain flares. It's a little different for me. I usually get inflammatory pains from Lupus and Sjögren’s disease instead, whenever I consume alcohol. They manifest as achy joints, and [**painful red bumps on my forehead and skull from swollen blood vessels**](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/). I wasn't sure if these wine wands would be useful for such types of inflammatory pains, too. Read Related Posts: - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Book Review: The Narwhal Who Suffers from Chronic Migraines](https://achronicvoice.com/book-review-narwhal-migraines/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [3 Types of Chronic Pain that Sound Bearable, but are Not](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-bearable-not/) ## Drink Pure Wine Review Round 1: Steak & Wine for Dinner at Home We were, quite coincidentally, cooking steak for dinner that evening. What better way to test the product there and then, than to open a bottle of red wine, right? All in the safety of home, too 😉 The instructions were simple enough, as I stirred the wine wand in my glass. I did notice the nice, buzzy effect that alcohol gives, but without the poisoned feeling this time. I was however, already rather achy that day, so it was difficult to say how well the wine wands had worked. ## Drink Pure Wine Review Round 2: Board Games & Drinks Night at a Friend's So that coming weekend, I packed the wine wands into my bag as we trotted off for a board game night at a friend’s place. I had to test them out again, of course. Wine aside, I was a little worried, as those of us with chronic illness tend to be when there is a need to socialise. I always save all my energy, and schedule rest time in before and after. This helps to mitigate some of the stress, and the potential of pain flares that usually follow. When we arrived, wine bottles were already on the table, paired with good chips, olives, ham, cottage cheese and homemade pies. A feast, to say the least! ### Testing the Wine Wands at an Actual Social Event I poured myself a glass of red wine, enough to cover the filter of the Drink Pure Wine wand. I swirled it, and left it in the glass for a little over the recommended three minutes, before removing it to take a sip. We chatted about our lives, and I consumed half a glass whilst doing so. So far so good; I started to feel nice and warm, but without any extra pain. Another friend arrived, and we soon started the board game fun. My usual aches and pains set in, but ones that I were familiar with. This always happens when I stay out late or spend energy socialising. Yet I noticed that my 'alcohol triggered head pains' were actually non-existent. This was exciting for me, as I celebrated quietly in my heart. I managed to stay for a few more hours than usual, and even had a lot of fun laughing, playing and bonding! ![Drink Pure Wine wine wand immersed in a glass of red wine, surrounded by snacks.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/board-game-wine-night.png) Can you spot my wine wand? Read Related Posts: - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [Keeping Up with the World: Why it’s Important Despite Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness and Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) ## The Morning After Wine Night I needed help to get into bed when I got home that night. But it was from the usual fatigue and full body aches, from having overdrawn from my energy account. I had already given myself permission for full rest and recovery the day after, for some peace of mind. But to my surprise, I actually woke up feeling not just okay-ish, but good! Living with chronic pain is like a box of bad chocolates; you never know what you’re going to get when you wake. I would even go so far as to rate it as one of the best days I’ve had in months, and I couldn’t believe that it was right after a high energy burning night. I am definitely not saying the wine wands were the main source of this good day, but they did contribute to it! I was in awe the entire day, and kept poking and testing various body parts just to check if it was real. I mean, I am so often in pain, whether mild or severe, that to feel almost no pain is akin to a miracle. [**Is this what ‘almost healthy’ feels like**](https://achronicvoice.com/superpowers-average-human/)? It felt incredible, unbelievable. In fact, I felt so good that I even suggested that we go out for more social activities, which is near unheard of. I am usually the one tampering them down. So off we trotted to a nice Japanese-French café for some good cake, amazing hot chocolate, and good books. After which we watched [Akahige](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0058888/) (or half of it, because it’s 3.5 hours long), with some good sushi at home. I was actually in the mood for both activities, and was glad that I could enjoy this gift of a rare, god-sent day. > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/B8fiw3PoQoN/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/B8fiw3PoQoN/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) Divine cakes, hot chocolate & tea at [Café Komine, Berlin](https://cafekomine.de/). Read Related Posts: - [Winter Fun, Games & Pain with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-fun-chronic-illness/) - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [To Live with Chronic Illness is to Learn to Live with Maybes](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-maybes/) ## I’m Definitely Adding Drink Pure Wine Wands to My Chronic Illness Toolbox **I will definitely be keeping my Drink Pure Wine wands close at hand whenever there's wine involved!** I can’t drink much due to [**blood thinning medications I take for Antiphospholipid Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) (a blood clotting disorder). But the occasional glass or two is fine, and these are when the wine wands will come in handy. It really is quite nice to converse with a friend slowly, over a glass of good wine. These wine wands also work with white wine, and other fermented drinks such as beer. I will of course, have to test those out next 😉 You can also check out [Drink Pure Wine’s FAQ page](https://drinkpurewine.com/pages/faqs) for more information on how it all works. Cheers! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationships with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness, Lifestyle & Product Review Boards: ![My Drink Pure Wine Review as a Person with Chronic Illness - Approved!](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/my-drink-pure-wine-review-chronic-illness-4.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Debra Roberts Jan 30, 2022 I’m definitely going to order this (Sjorgren’s sufferer here). Does it alter the taste of the wine in any way? I apologize if that’s already been asked and answered; I may have missed it. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 19, 2022 Hi Debra! No it doesn’t! If you do try it out, let me know how it works for you 🙂 Cheers! - Rhonda Albom Feb 29, 2020 These wands sound like magic. I know I can’t drink red wine because the tannins affect me. I wonder if the wands could help. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 2, 2020 I’ve tried it on red, white, rosé and sparkling so far…so far so good for me! But I’m not sure about your conditions 🙂 - Margaret | Live Like No On Else Feb 29, 2020 I don’t suffer from chronic illness, but this is how I normally wake up the next day after just a half glass of wine. Alcohol and I just don’t mix. Perhaps it’s because I have maybe a half glass of wine once a year or so. LOL. Glad to know you didn’t have the normal side effects the day after. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 29, 2020 Haha yes definitely it’ll have an effect if you don’t drink for a year, I think 😀 I rarely drink too, but it’s nice to have a glass every now and then 🙂 - [ Kathy Kenny Ngo ](https://www.lifeiskulayful.com) Feb 28, 2020 Any product that helps ease chronic pain gets a thumbs up from me. - Kuntala Bhattacharya Feb 28, 2020 Nice to read that you have been able to bring in positive changes to your life. I love white wine and relish it better than red wine. Lod reading your post. - Chelsea Sauve - Wandure Feb 28, 2020 Always best to listen to your body – so glad you found something a delicious wine that works for you so you don’t have to miss out! 🙂 - Nikki Michelle Albert Feb 21, 2020 I have written about this for migraines and I have to say they really do work… and it is pretty awesome really! I do enjoy white wines and paler wines… but just could never have them. Massive, massive trigger for me. But I tried it on a white and a red and No issues at al. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 25, 2020 That is so awesome to hear, Nikki! I am glad to hear from others with chronic illnesses too themselves that it works for them. 😀 - Sundeep Feb 17, 2020 I’m wine lover and I would love to try new wines and I don’t to miss this one too. Thanks for the review. - [ Despite Pain ](https://www.despitepain.com) Feb 16, 2020 I had to stop drinking red wine due to migraines. I wonder if this would be ok. It’s always so exciting to read of new products like this. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 16, 2020 Yes me too but for different autoimmune reasons! Products like these just make it really exciting for us as it helps with quality of life and socialising, I think 🙂 - [ Despite Pain ](https://www.despitepain.com) Feb 18, 2020 Definitely. A little bit of normality can make a difference. - Mark Feb 16, 2020 I’m not much of a wine person though but sure looks great. And since it’s working for you, why not. - Hannah Feb 16, 2020 Wow, I cannot imagine going through this type of pain and having to give up so many things that you really enjoy. I am so glad you are sharing ways people can learn to live with pain and even thrive. Thank you so much for your honest sharing. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 16, 2020 Thanks Hannah! Yes chronic illness does take a huge bite into the pleasures of life! ;p Always nice to have a product or two that helps. - Kuntala Bhattacharya Feb 16, 2020 Thats a cool review. I am not a big fan of wine somehow. If compared I like white wine better, it rolls up well inside my mouth. - [ Norma ](https://www.happinesson.com) Feb 16, 2020 I would love to try that wine. It seems very different from the rest. I will pick up some when I pay a visit to the supermarket. - Olufunke Feb 16, 2020 I wonder if it will work for me. I’m not really a wine lover but I do have pains from previous accident. Would love to try things that doesn’t involve swallowing pills or with less side effects. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 16, 2020 That’s interesting to have reactions post accident…what sort of pains? Hope you are doing okay otherwise x - [ Kathy Kenny Ngo ](https://www.lifeiskulayful.com) Feb 15, 2020 Would love to give this a go in a few months when I’m all recovered from giving birth. Though not a huge wine fan, this one sounds really promising and worth a try. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 16, 2020 Yes it’s worth a shot if it helps you enjoy it without the side effects, after recovering from birth, of course! 🙂 - Chad Feb 15, 2020 I am not a huge wine buff but I love to try new wines like this one, it seems very interesting. Thanks a lot for the review. - GiGi Eats Feb 15, 2020 So glad to hear you woke up feeling OKAY-ISH!! That is far better than – TERRIBLE!!!! So cheers to this wine! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 16, 2020 Haha thanks, yes cheers indeed! - [ Jessica Collazo ](https://www.elogiosamislocuras.com/) Feb 14, 2020 I would like to try this wine. I have diabetes, so I can’t drink any kind of wine because my sugar levels are going up. I love wine. That is my weakness. So I would love to try this. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 15, 2020 Hi Jessica, thanks for your comment. Unfortunately, it doesn’t remove the sugars that affect diabetes, so am not sure this product will help you in that respect 🙁 It’s more to remove antihistamines and sulfites 🙂 - Kristin Tousignant Feb 14, 2020 I need to find these in Canada or even the US Great review - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 14, 2020 Yes! I believe they ship it over there 🙂 I will definitely join their affiliate programme too! - [ Katie ](https://painfullyliving.com) Feb 15, 2020 The first place I saw them was on Amazon. This was a year ago or something. I didn’t get them then, but I think I’m going to get some and give it a try. - Katie Feb 13, 2020 This is a product I had checked into a year ago. It sounded fairly unbelievable. So, hearing you actually gave it a good try and found it helpful is encouraging. I can have one glass but even then I tend to get a weird headache and hands and feet noticeably swollen. If I have more, I get that poisened ill feeling. Problem is, I love wine. So tired of having to give up everything. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 14, 2020 Hi Katie, I know exactly what you mean. I only ‘try’ a glass of wine or alcoholic beverage for say, a bf’s birthday or special occasion mostly, because of the unknown poisoned feeling like you say. (I used to find swimming at least 20 laps before drinking helps btw – so maybe it really is toxic overload with the meds in our bodies.) Might not hurt to try this product for a few glasses at least I think! Who knows, if it helps it will make a great addition in your toolkit that might bring some happiness back, even if just a wee bit 🙂 - Katie Mar 26, 2020 I tried it with Pino Grigio and it literally tasted “cleaner”. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don't Reflect) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/ Last updated: 2026-05-06T16:19:51.000Z ## The Oft Unseen Extra Costs of Living with Chronic Illness & Disability We all know the truth of the saying, "health is wealth". But apart from the metaphorical aspect of this idiom, it’s actually pretty literal as well. It’s expensive just to stay alive if you have a chronic illness or disability, especially if you live in a country where healthcare is not subsidised. There are extra costs that come with such circumstances, that are often not reflected in statistics or the news. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Cost of Living, Chronic Illness & Disability Boards: ![The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don't Reflect)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-with-chronic-illness-disability-news-often-dont-reflect.jpg) ### All the Big and Little Things that Add Up Medications, [**doctor appointments**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) and the endless medical investigations add up quickly, and there is never a ‘final solution’ to your problems. A lot of trial and error is involved, and usually patients can only achieve a quality of life that’s manageable, rather than good or even above average. Chronic illness patients often need to add a range of holistic, professional and/or [**alternative therapies and services**](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) to their [**pain management plan**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/). This may include anything from massages and [**yoga classes**](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/), to caretakers and unique pain relief tools. Sometimes patients need to pay to see a private doctor as well as they are in too much pain, and cannot afford to wait months before seeing one on public healthcare. Here are a few things that chronic illness and disability patients need or which helps to improve their quality of life, that are often not taken into consideration when one mentions ‘the cost of healthcare’. Read Related Posts: - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) - [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable in Bed (Part 3/6)](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/) - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) - [Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-home-resources-learned-other-blogs/) ## Occupational Therapy, Yoga & Other Physical Therapy Sessions Many chronic illnesses have a physical impact on our bodies. Movement can cause pain, and in some illnesses such as [Ehlers Danlos Syndrome](https://www.ehlers-danlos.com/what-is-eds/) (EDS), it can even lead to joint dislocation. [**People with dysautonomia**](https://achronicvoice.com/day-in-life-potsie/) have trouble sitting and standing, and [**some with ME/CFS are too fatigued to even get out of bed**](https://achronicvoice.com/mainstream-me-health-tips/). These are just a few chronic illnesses that disable us from walking around our own homes, much less do some exercise. Those with debilitating chronic pain sometimes need help from a [**physical or occupational therapist**](https://achronicvoice.com/nourish-naturally-skin-care-tips/). These professionals are trained to guide their clients through gentle exercises that are safe for their bodies. It is important to maintain muscle strength and move without injuring yourself, otherwise you may end up [**trapped in a pain cycle**](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/). These sessions aren’t always cheap, and the cost can add up quickly especially if you need more sessions per week. Yoga, tai chi, and other forms of gentle exercises can also be useful for people with chronic illness. These movements and poses need to be done properly however, or they might end up harming more than helping your body. Beginners and even intermediate students often need an instructor for guidance for this reason. These classes are beneficial in many ways for those who live with chronic pain, but once again, add to healthcare expenses. [**I tried flotation therapy**](https://achronicvoice.com/floatation-therapy-chronic-pain/) for a while, and found that it helped me a lot with painsomnia. It is also beneficial in the healing process of your body. I stopped due to the cost of each float session. Other types of therapies include cryotherapy (which I’ve never tried due to the cost), and infrared saunas. Read Related Posts: - [How to Survive the Holidays When Chronic Illness & Disability Cause Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/survive-the-holidays-chronic-illness-disability-pain/) - [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) - [Invisible in Singapore: What's It Like to Live Here with Chronic Illnesses?](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/) - [Invisible in Florence: Life with Chronic Illness in Italy](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-florence-chronic-illness-italy/) - [The Barriers That Throw Rocks into My Bucket List with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/) ## The Need for Organic or ‘Clean’ Products and Food Can Quickly Add Up as Extra Costs This is often not even a want, but a need. Many shampoos and soaps with harsh chemicals have an immediate effect on my body. They cause rashes, itchiness, dryness, and even adds to the pain. [**Scented products can also trigger migraines**](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/). Many of our bodies have become hypersensitive as a result from both our diseases, and also the medications we have no choice but to take. [**Many with chronic illnesses need to be on a special diet**](https://achronicvoice.com/cheyanne-perry-life-allergies/) that are specific to their condition. For example, I need to [**monitor my intake of Vitamin K**](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) and blood thinning foods due to [**Antiphospholipid Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/). [Celiacs](https://medlineplus.gov/celiacdisease.html) do not consume gluten-free food simply as a fad, but as a matter of survival. Those with [IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome)](https://www.niddk.nih.gov/health-information/digestive-diseases/irritable-bowel-syndrome) and [food allergies](https://medlineplus.gov/foodallergy.html) also need to be careful with ingredients that are often hidden. Organic or foods that are better in quality are generally more expensive. This is one reason that people often choose the cheaper versions whilst doing their grocery shopping. Yet for many of us with chronic illness, the chemicals and pesticides in such foods can trigger yet more pain and damage to our bodies. We often have no choice but to spend a bigger portion of our finances on produce of higher quality. Read Related Posts: - [“It’s in My Blood”: Sarah Frison — A Pastry Chef with a Stomach Disorder](https://achronicvoice.com/sarah-frison-pastry-chef-stomach-disorder/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Roy George — A Dramatic Life with a Short Bowel](https://achronicvoice.com/roy-george-dramatic-life-short-bowel/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) ## Hiring a Caretaker or Cleaner — Extremely Helpful, but Extra Costs, Once Again Those with physical disabilities, the elderly, or a chronic illness that limits their mobility might require assistance from a caretaker. Our family members can't always be there to help us through the day. Simple activities such as preparing meals or going to the bathroom can be impossible for some to accomplish on their own. We also have trouble cleaning the house, either from chronic fatigue or chronic pain. I know that my hands become swollen from washing the dishes, or mopping the floor. Whilst this is still tolerable for me, those with larger families or more crippling pain might end up neglecting the upkeep of their homes, and not by choice. This is not only depressing, but a [clean house is essential for our wellbeing](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-truisms-wellness/201607/the-powerful-psychology-behind-cleanliness) in many ways, especially when you spend so much time in it. Read Related Posts: - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [What’s it Like to be the Father of a Child with Chronic Illness? (Precious Insights from My Own Dad!)](https://achronicvoice.com/father-of-child-with-chronic-illness/) - [What’s it Like to be the Mother of a Sick Child? (Precious Insights from My Own Mum)](https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) ## Adapting our Homes for Accessibility Doesn't Come Cheap Many with chronic illness or disabilities need to adapt their houses to make things more accessible. This can be a simple change, such as re-arranging where we place things to make retrieval easier. But often we need to invest in certain areas that may not come cheap. This may include modifying your shower area to include grab rails, and doors that are safe. A high quality mattress and pillows are important as well, so that one does not wake with more pain in the morning. Stairlifts are useful especially if you live in a multi-storied house. They make it much easier for the disabled and elderly to move around and regain some independence. There is a [wide range of stairlifts](https://handicare-stairlifts.co.uk/advice/stairlift-prices/) to choose based on space and budget constraints, and might be something worth enquiring further about. Read Related Posts: - [After Surgery Care at Home: Hygiene Resources](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/) - [Wound Care & What to Wear After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery/) - [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) ## Wheelchairs & Mobility Aids That are Suitable are Often Not Subsidised Some people with chronic pain are ambulatory wheelchair users. This means that they may be able to walk a little or stand for a while, but still need a wheelchair or mobility aid to travel longer distances. For others with more debilitating chronic pain or disability, their wheelchair is literally their legs. Whilst insurance may provide a wheelchair, they are usually ones that are lower in quality and often come in a “one-size-fits-all” mould. Many people with chronic illness and disabilities find such wheelchairs extremely uncomfortable. Sitting in a wheelchair all day is not as luxurious as you may imagine it to be. It often leads to sores, aches and extra pain. If you are struggling with the question of whether you should use a wheelchair or not despite being able to walk, I would like to encourage you to do so. Every single blog that I've read has had no regrets doing so. Some people with chronic illness and disability have even invested in or ran fundraisers for a powerchair. Such tools can add extra costs to an already expensive chronic illness life, yet the vast improvement in quality of life can be worth it. ## Pain Management Toolkits - Which Differs from Person to Person Every individual with chronic illness has their own special pain management toolkit. [**We all use different things to relieve pain**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/), as not everything works the same for everyone. Sometimes, we even need to deploy different pain management strategies, when the same ‘trick’ doesn’t work on a particular day. From pain medications to essential oils, technological tools, breathing practises, gentle exercises, massages, eye masks, ear plugs and more - these pain management tools add to extra costs that often do not even occur to a healthy person’s mind. CBD oil is on the rise and can be used in a few different ways - as a tincture, ointment, vape, gummies and more. Then there are the moisturising eye drops and mouthwash needed for [**Sjögren’s Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-bearable-not/). Heated blankets or ice caps can help to ease many kinds of pain, and I find that anti-inflammatory plasters help to ease arthritic types of pain. [**Migraine glasses**](https://achronicvoice.com/axon-optics-eyewear-migraine-pain-relief/) help to block out certain lights so that migraineurs can actually leave their homes. These are just a few products that help to improve our quality of life. ## Mental Health Treatments & Art Therapy Many who struggle with pain on a daily basis end up with mental health issues, which comes as no surprise. [**We often need to seek the help of a psychologist**](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/), which isn’t always covered by insurance. Professional help like this can be costly, although online therapy is making this more accessible (although there are caveats as well). [Art therapy](https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-art-therapy-2795755) is also a useful avenue to help a person regain a grip on their lives, but as with anything, can come as extra costs. There are other ways that we can work around this, such as a hobby or colouring books, but even these often need some money to be spent! Read Related Posts: - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [Why You Need a Good Therapist on Your Healthcare Team (Based on My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-good-therapist/) - [Is Seeking Help for Your Mental Health Worth It?](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/) ## In Conclusion to Extra Costs That Come with Chronic Illness & Disability As you can see, living with a chronic illness or disability isn’t only about seeing the doctor and getting prescribed medications. Many of the statistics that are reflected in the news do not delve into the everyday, which is where we actually live our lives. If you live with chronic pain like me you would understand that any relief, however slight, is often worth a shot. Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness is Expensive, but Here’s the Real Reason Why](https://achronicvoice.com/real-reason-why-chronic-illness-expensive/) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Extra Costs of Living with Chronic Illness & Disability Boards: ![The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don’t Reflect)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-of-living-chronic-illness-disability-news-dont-reflect-2.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Lucjan ](https://worryhead.com/) Jan 24, 2022 Hi Sheryl, As always, very well written, very informative post! I’m sooo lucky to live in London, UK, where our health care is “free” (taxes say otherwise), so my wife has access to the NHS anytime anywhere, however… What I’d like to mention is also that apart from chronically ill people losing time off work during their flare-ups, aome of their partners lose on it too. My wife has endometriosis, fibromyalgia, and is often chronically fatigued. Sometimes she even struggle to work from home when feeling anxious and depressed, often suicidal. In times like this I take time off work to help her go through these difficult moments as I’m afraid of her wellbeing. I take time off work, which affects both of our incomes. Chronic conditions bring a big financial strain on people who suffer from them, and the closest ones too. Thank you Sheryl for that post! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 24, 2022 Thank you for taking the time to read and comment, Lucjan! Yes definitely, the toll and changes in lifestyle for caregivers are equally as drastic, and should be spoken of more often. More provisions should also be given to them. Finances are definitely a heavy weight with chronic illness, especially for those who are all alone. We often worry about what the future entails. Thank you for stopping by, and I love what you do so keep at it! Take care and say hello to your lovely wife, too! - [ Allie Schmidt ](https://www.disabilitydame.com/) Jan 17, 2021 I totally agree with this. Having a chronic illness and/or disability is a money pit. It’s hard to rationalize all the extra expenses for therapies. It’s like you know that they are helping you, but when you can’t see the direct benefit instantly, it’s hard to keep justifying the costs. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 22, 2021 Totally. And the problem is sometimes it takes quite a while of rigorous therapy before you start to see results, just like medications. But it’s too costly to ‘test’ these on our own 🙁 - Heather Hancock Dec 23, 2020 I’m late to comment as I have only now read the article. I live in Canada which has public healthcare, but contrary to popular belief, I have to pay for everything on that list. I have extended health insurance that I pay a premium for and last year they put a limit on how much you could claim in a year. It’s getting so bad that my meds are no longer reimbursed at all (I used to get 80% back) and alternate therapies like physical therapy, massage, acupuncture, etc. have a combined limit of $1000 per year. I’ve had to pick and choose as using one therapy only allows me eight visits max. In 2019 I had 3 long distance ambulance rides costing $5000 and only $10000 was reimbursed. Medical equipment is no longer covered at all, so to replace my wheelchair will cost $20000, which I do not have so I sit in my 20 year old wheelchair that’s too small. The costs of living with a disability and chronic illnesses is astronomical. - S Oct 1, 2020 Just want to point out that IBD and IBS are vastly different. Was it a typo saying they’re the same? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 12, 2020 Hi I do know that they are different. I don’t think there was any mention of IBS in this article? - Natalie Jan 22, 2023 I just found this blog through Pinterest. It’s very well-done and so nice. to find others who understand! I also noticed the IBS/IBD mix-up (little pet peeve of mine as someone with IBD). It’s in the section on “The Need for Organic or ‘Clean’ Products and Food”. Definitely feel the cost on my medical food since I have a malabsorption issue with most food! Looking forward to checking out more of your work! \*Natalie - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 3, 2023 Hi Natalie, that is nice that you landed via Pinterest! Do you have a blog yourself that I could check out, too? 🙂 I didn’t know the distinction so clearly either but being involved in the online chronic illness community has taught me heaps 🙂 Will update once I can, if there’s any errors on my end. Sending good thoughts! - Katie Clark Jun 15, 2020 I tried keeping track of my “extra” costs due to health. Wow, it got too overwhelming! It’s so frustrating that pain management (other than a few) is not covered by health insurance, even if doctor recommended. I had 4 PT visits recently (before the quarantine). I just got a bill for over $500! I’m supposed to have that at least covered by my insurance (my copay should be $30 per visit and I already paid for one). I’ve got a message into them about this. I’m hoping they’ve made some sort of clerical error! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 20, 2020 Hi Katie, yes it’s so sad isn’t it? I’m sorry to hear about the bills! 🙁 I think society just assumes treating illness consists of doctor fees and medications. Those are expensive enough, but there are soooo many other things that come into play when dealing with and trying to manage pain, and every individual’s needs and reactions are different. Tricky thing. - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Jun 13, 2020 I have always found your posts helpful Sheryl, and this is another one those special ones. “It’s expensive just to stay alive if you have a chronic illness or disability” – and it’s so easy for this financial expense to bog us down mentally and send the mind into a tizzzzzzy!!! I think finances can be one of the most distressing non-medical factors which are obviously made worse by the health issues – something most who are healthy don’t realise. You put it all into perspective so nicely. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 13, 2020 Thanks so much for your encouragement, Shruti 🙂 Yes it’s extra expensive just to breathe with chronic illness hey! I also agree that finances can be one of the most distressing factors when you live with health issues, and get somewhat annoyed with all the ‘money isn’t everything’ or ‘you don’t need money for a good life’ rubbish quotes out there ahahhaa. - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Jun 13, 2020 Health care is so expensive, and all the adaptations you mention too. From train fares to medical appointments to supplements, to more expensive coffee because I have to have decaf (I know that’s a silly one, but still, it’s an extra cost) being chronically unwell is an expensive life for sure! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 13, 2020 Please don’t call it silly, it isn’t silly one bit! What’s life without the little pleasures? Seriously 🙂 And yes, I think people and sometimes even ourselves as patients have no idea that chronic illness living can cost so much. Sometimes I wonder what I spend on and when I count it all, it’s when I realise. - Katie Apr 10, 2020 So many costs and only so much $ available. The hard part for me is deciding what treatments are worthy of putting my few eggs into. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 10, 2020 Yes crazy costs for everything unfortunately 🙁 Yes and the problem is sometimes you don’t know til you try, and sometimes it works, other times money down the drain 🙁 - [ Katie ](https://painfullyliving.com) Apr 28, 2020 I’m recording the amount I’m spending out of pocket. I do this for our LLC expenses and income, but I decided to keep track of this too, just to really see what I’m spending. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 28, 2020 Sounds like a good idea. I do keep track of it in a rough sense and it can really add up quick! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Coming Alive in the Winter Air (Pushing for Personal Changes & Group Advocacy) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/winter-advocacy/ Last updated: 2025-11-09T17:18:32.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## The Treasured Winter Memories, Despite Pain February...what should I say about 2020 so far? There's been a mix of good and bad, as there always is, but let's say that it's been mostly awesome just for the new experiences in itself. Winter has been a fascinating season for me in every which way. The Lupus and Sjögren's has been flaring all week, and then there's the daily milder aches and pains. Yet surprisingly these aren't what I remember when 'looking back' on the past month. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ### The Warmth of Human Interactions Shades and slices of memories in black and white and vintage colour come to mind. I think of laughter from strangers over hot fondue, the invigorating sting of winter air, steam from hot bowls of noodle soup for dinners, mist from glühwein, the fresh produce at the marketplace, and things like that. Somehow in my memories, the pain during those moments have been erased, and only the treasures remain. They are beautiful moments that my brain has chosen to tuck neatly into its folds; safe, sweet and sound. Pin to Your Chronic Illness, Travel & Mental Health Boards: ![Coming Alive in the Winter Air (Pushing for Personal Changes and Group Advocacy)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/coming-alive-winter-air-pushing-personal-changes-group-advocacy.png) ![Somehow in my memories, the pain during those moments have been erased, and only the treasures remain. Click to read the post.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/memories-pain-erased-treasures-remain.png) ## Meeting a New Chronically Ill Friend Randomly I also met up with another person with chronic illness there in Berlin. She has both Antiphospholipid Syndrome and Lupus as well; I don't even know anyone else with this combination in my home country, Singapore! We ended up chatting nonstop for four hours straight, which might have been the trigger for the pain flares, but it was totally worth it. We've already made plans for dinner along with our partners, so that should be fun. > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/B7yUND9AbLb/) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/B7yUND9AbLb/) on Jan 26, 2020 at 6:27am PST Read Related Posts: - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [Pregnancy, Miscarriage & Women’s Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) - [How Many Times Can You Hit Rock Bottom with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/rock-bottom/) ## Planning for Play Time & Work Time I've been in Berlin for a few weeks now, but have been a bit of a slob as I haven't really ventured out as much as I can. Work has been surprisingly busy, so that's my excuse. I thought that I'd been spending a lot of free time revamping my blog and services, but am really happy that I've had to put that on hold due to work as well. This is a big relief as that means more money for travelling and living expenses. We're looking at a few countries nearby to perhaps visit for short trips, but don't really have any concrete plans and that's fine by me. It's the kind of 'play it by ear' that I can actually participate in for once, as everything is fairly manageable time, distance and support wise. If I had flown here on a with a more compact time limit, that wouldn't be possible, so I'm grateful that I'm able to pace even the leisurely activities. Read Related Posts: - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Travelling New Paths with Chronic Illnesses in My Pocket](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-new-paths-chronic-illness/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) ## Join Us at the “Chronic Illness Social Pod” Facebook Group I set up the [Chronic Illness Social Pod (CISP) Facebook group](https://www.facebook.com/groups/ChronicIllnessSocialPod/) in January as well. If you've yet to join us, you're more than welcome to do so here - we'd definitely love to have you with us! Just remember to fill in the questions so we know that you're one of us. This is because I'd like to keep the group focussed on the chronic illness, mental health and wellness niches, in order to raise awareness with as much impact as is possible. I'm still tweaking the timings, rules and such, to make it easier to participate in and manage for us both. So if you have any thoughts or suggestions, feel free to share them with me. If you've found some of the rules confusing, trust me that they're mostly just words to keep things fair for us all. Just start by sharing one post in one thread, and I bet you'll get the hang of it in a day or two 🙂 So come join us so we can grow together. ## I'm Loving the Invigorating Winter Air of Berlin Back to the subject of Berlin, I'm really loving the wintery weather here! It's invigorating on the outside, and cosy on the inside. Have I told you that I LOVE IT? 😜 Perhaps winter is still a novel experience for me, being a tropical summer girl. But the humidity in Singapore was never pleasant for me either, even as a child. I absolutely hate the feeling of sticky skin. Humidity also causes me to ache. Whilst Berlin isn't as dry as I thought it would be, the weather here has actually been kinder to my joints as compared to Singapore, save for the rainy days. Going outside after being cooped up in pain at home for days always makes me feel as if I'm awakening, and coming alive once more. I take a deep breath of fresh, cold air, and feel a rush of happiness. This isn't something I can do in Singapore, as the heat and humidity saps, rather than boosts my energy. Pin to Your Winter, Mental Health & Chronic Pain Boards: ![I take a deep breath of fresh, cold air, and feel a rush of happiness. Read the post - Coming Alive in the Winter Air.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/deep-breath-fresh-cold-air-happiness.png) ## Ditching My Bullet Journal Practice, as It Wasn't of Service to Me Anymore I ditched my bullet journal in January; think I've gone through at least five or so by now. I started it at first mainly for the fun of pasting pretty stickers, tapes and colours in it. I'm not artistic like that, and can't do incredible calligraphy or hand drawn charts, so I relied a lot on stamps, tools and the likes. I guess after a while it got a little boring, especially when I had to carry over lots of tasks month after month. You know, the things you 'need' to get done but never get around to 😉 I recently switched to an online to do list called [TeuxDeux](https://teuxdeux.com/) and have found it actually quite pleasant to use. Whilst the range of functions could be expanded, it suffices for now. Another option I tried was Columns which is free, but it was too simplistic so I didn't like it as much. In closing, I'd like to greet February with open arms and an open mind. Europe has been an interesting experience so far, especially in regards to conversations I've had with Europeans with different mindsets and ways of thinking. I'll also be aiming hard to get that blog revamped by the end of the month, regardless of work or not! Keep an eye out as this will be a major update. I might also need your help with testimonials and/or reviews, if you'd like to be part of the process. Have a good one! You can continue with my diary entries for the [**previous**](https://achronicvoice.com/hello-2020-bubble-glitter-dont-pop/) or [**following month**](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-fun-chronic-illness/). ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Invisible Cities Linkup: Pros & Cons of Living with Chronic Illness in Your City](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-cities-linkup/) - [What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - [Invisible in Singapore: What’s It Like to Live Here with Chronic Illnesses?](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Winter Season Boards: ![Winter Novelties - Perspectives from a tropical summer girl. Click to read.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/winter-novelties-perspectives-tropical-summer-girl.png) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Rhonda - Spoonie Mom Blog Feb 21, 2020 Hello my spoonie sister! Such a pleasure joining you again and getting a glimpse into your month. Wishing you the best February and sending you a gentle hug. xoxo - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 21, 2020 Hello dear Rhonda, thank you for the love! Right back at ya! xxx - Carolina Feb 18, 2020 I love your positivity in seeing past the pain to hold onto the “beautiful moments” in your memories. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 18, 2020 Thanks Carolina! Haha I don’t think it’s so much positivity as just the way it is 😀 Thank you though! - [ Catherine Green ](https://www.spookymrsgreen.com) Feb 17, 2020 Hi Sheryl, it is good to hear you are enjoying Europe! I completely agree with your sentiment about happy memories – having grown up with sore eyes and rarely having a day without pain, I still only remember happier times and experiences. I had a fun swimming session with my husband and daughters last weekend, and while the chlorine in the pool stung my eyes and they were horribly dry and sore, I enjoyed the time with my family. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 18, 2020 Thanks Catherine! Yes it’s funny how our memories are always nice and golden. Rose-tinted glasses are real :p I’m happy you had a good time with your family despite the pain. Sending much love x - Naomi Feb 16, 2020 Lovely to hear how you’re getting on in Europe. I love that you are loving winter! I’m also a big fan although it’s been pretty tame in England this year so I’m a bit disappointed as my first one on the boat. I’m sure we’ll all help as much as we can in whatever way we can 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 16, 2020 Yes it’s a novel experience for me! No snow (sadly lol), but I really do love the freshness and serenity of the air 🙂 Sending hugs and hope that storm has calmed down! - [ Rhiann ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com) Feb 14, 2020 Hello for another month Sheryl, it sounds like you are having such a fantastic time in Germany!! I am so glad, and I hope your travels and adventures continue to go well, and can’t wait to read more about them! I really resonate when you talked about becoming awakened after being cooped inside for days; I often feel the same, even though it often causes some anxiety too. I hope you enjoy the rest of February. Take care! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 14, 2020 Thanks Rhiann! It’s okay here, but I’m definitely loving the change in scenery and weather. It’s kind of the same routine back home really, and I’m mostly indoors with chronic illness and pacing but still fun haha. Sending you love too! Will let you know more maybe next month! 😉 - [ Alison Hayes ](https://www.thrivingwhiledisabled.com) Feb 10, 2020 Hi Sheryl, I’m so glad to hear that you’re enjoying your time in Germany! It sounds fun – and I totally understand wanting to have an easy, play-it-by-ear schedule. I love the visceral image of aches and pain being melted away by joy and connections – and agree that one of the most helpful forms of pain/symptom management I’ve found is distraction – often in the form of enjoyable activities! That image of memories as pictures resonates so strongly with me, and I’m so happy that you’ve made such great connections. I hope you keep enjoying your time there! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 10, 2020 Hi Alison, Yes I’m enjoying the weather especially (strange as it may sound)! So far it’s been easy-going but you know me, always needing to be chipping away at something on the blog 😉 Thank you for your kind words. It’s funny how our brains colour our memories to keep us alive, and give us something nice to look back to. Sending hugs x - Kathy Feb 6, 2020 I’m glad you’re enjoying the change in weather! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 6, 2020 Hi Kathy, yes I’m loving the weather so much, and the change in scene! 🙂 - Nikki Albert Feb 4, 2020 I think it is cool to be travelling and I hope you have a blast. I’m a bit landlocked at the moment but it would sure be nice to even have a wee vacation. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 4, 2020 Hi Nikki, thanks so much! It is indeed cool just to get a change of environment, though my doc did say I was stretching it in terms of appointment! :p I’m sorry you are landlocked. I totally know the feeling (was landlocked whole of last year almost), and I love to travel so that doesn’t help. I do hope you get a small getaway, even nearby, soon. Sending love x - [ Anne ](https://www.raisiebay.com) Feb 3, 2020 It sounds like you are enjoying life in Germany, l’m glad that travelling is working out well for you and that you have met a new friend. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 3, 2020 Thanks Anne! It has had ups and downs, but new experiences whilst travelling are always a positive for me, so I view it that way! 🙂 Sending hugs. - Heather Keith Freeman Feb 3, 2020 I went to look at the Facebook pod but I am confused and intimidated; what does it mean to “finish” a thread? What are these things that you have to do in a timely fashion or be booted? I don’t want to invest the energy in joining something new, however interesting it may sound, and have it turn out that I can’t obey the rules. I appreciate any information you can provide. It might be worth putting your reply in the group’s info as well; I’m sure I’m not the only one who is confused! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 3, 2020 Hi Heather, What it means to ‘finish’ a thread is simply that if you participate in one, then you need to reciprocate as well. It isn’t a heavy load (something like 5-8 retweets/repins/FB likes or comments) over 2-3 days. And there is no set time limit in the sense that you can take your time to do so, but may not join new threads (every MWF) until you finish. If that makes sense 🙂 Cheers. - Cynthia Feb 3, 2020 It’s so awesome when we have the opportunity to connect in person with someone who has the same or similar chronic illness. Sounds like you had a great time! I know some people would freak out by flying by the seat of their pants, but I find that is the best way for me to make social plans. It’s less stressful being that I don’t have time to worry if my body will cooperate or not. Enjoy the winter weather!! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 3, 2020 Thanks Cynthia! It’s always great when you click with someone I guess, chronic illness or not. But somehow that just had a special bond (though one we rather not have, ha!) 😉 Yes I don’t always play it by ear, but whilst travelling everything goes! 🙂 Sending hugs. - Jenny Feb 2, 2020 This post is beautifully written. What you wrote about memory really resonates with me – I only seem to remember the good parts of my past, which I guess is a blessing. How exciting that you’re in Europe. Which countries are you thinking of visiting? If you fancy popping to Barcelona, remember that you are always welcome to stay with me (or have a tour of the city). - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 2, 2020 Thank you Jenny! Yes I guess it’s our brain’s way of keeping us alive :p I’m not sure where I’ll be yet, but probably not Barcelona this time as I’ve been there (lovely place!), and want to visit some other places that I haven’t been. We might be in another part of Spain near the Basque Country though! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/ Last updated: 2026-04-26T16:39:53.000Z I’m sure you’ve noticed the commodities of love mushrooming around us at an alarming speed. Yes, Valentine’s Day is coming right up ;) Amidst all the expressions of romantic love, I’d like to take some time to honour the bond I have with my body. It’s after all, the most intimate relationship I’ll ever have. Read on to learn how to have a healthy relationship with your body, even especially with chronic illness. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Self-Love & Chronic Illness Boards: ![How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-have-healthy-relationship-with-your-body-chronic-illness-2.jpg) ![How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-have-healthy-relationship-with-your-body-chronic-illness.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [An Inspirational Poem on Miracles, by Thuli Zuma](https://achronicvoice.com/poem-on-miracles-thuli-zuma/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [I May be Chronically Ill, but I’m Also Chronically Resilient](https://achronicvoice.com/chronically-ill-resilient/) ## A Healthy Relationship with Your Body is a Daily Effort Relationships require a great deal of effort, whether they’re romantic or not. A healthy relationship with your body is no different. They need time and attention in order to thrive, and to take root beneath the superficial. Our bodies are a relationship destined by birth, and not one we can separate from as and when we please. Like it or not, we need to learn to get along with it. Over time, you may even realise how much it wants to make you happy, as opposed to being the abusive bitch you thought it was. There are many things we can do to love our bodies on a daily basis. These are often inconspicuous acts that don’t seem like much, but add up over time. Respect its limits, and listen to it with an open and empathetic mind. This is an important factor for any healthy relationship, and is no different with your body. Treat it with compassion, and watch the relationship grow stronger than ever before. Pin to Your Self-Love & Personal Growth Boards: ![Self-Love Matters, Especially with Chronic Illness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/self-love-matters-especially-chronic-illness.jpg) ## Finding New Ways to Love Our Broken Bodies It’s difficult to love your body when it’s seemingly flawed, broken, and wrecked with constant pain. But I’ve also come to appreciate the imperfections, for they are marks that set you and me apart. It can be frustrating when my body doesn’t go along with my plans, but compromises are the cornerstone of progress. These constant face-offs can be a drag, but I also get to pick up the most important life lessons at a younger age. I am forced to confront uncomfortable topics which society can choose to ignore. As a result, I become intimate with the elements of life, and learn how to navigate across its fierce ocean. Your ideas of love will differ from mine, and there are a million and one ways to express them. So go ahead and unleash your creativity, but never leave sincerity out of the equation. No matter the state of your health, find that special rhythm with it. Speed isn't of essence here; learn how to connect with your body, such that the dance through life is an enjoyable one. Pin to Your Body Positivity & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Finding New Ways To Love Our Broken Bodies With Chronic Illness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/finding-new-ways-love-broken-bodies-chronic-illness.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [Are You a Capable Person? What Does That Even Mean?](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) ## An Intimacy Like No Other If there’s one thing I’ve become with my body due to chronic illness, it is intimate. Many healthy people aren’t fully aware of changes happening within themselves, but I’ve gained a heightened sensitivity to it. This isn’t always pleasant. It’s like a tooth with its nerves exposed, but it does provide crucial feedback. I am familiar with every nook and cranny of my broken body, and ‘gross’ functions no longer perturb me. In fact, I’m amazed by how much knowledge our blood and poop contains, and the process to produce them is pure art. In that sense, my body is the artist, and I am its medium. I am comfortable with my scars and bruises, lumps and bumps; almost proud of them, in fact. Each one represents an event or milestone of healing or survival; each one owns a piece of my life story. Go ahead and look at them all you want – you have some of them yourself. \[bctt tweet='“I am comfortable with my #scars and #bruises, lumps and bumps; almost proud of them, in fact. Each one represents an event or milestone of #healing or #survival; each one owns a piece of my life story.” #ChronicIllness'\] ## A Healthy Relationship with Your Body Requires Commitment Whatever it is and as grim as it may sound, my body and I have no choice but to make things work between us. The prize for clear communication, careful compromise, kindness and love, is a deeper understanding of who we are as a person. There will be days where we fail, but we can try to commit ourselves to being a better partner every day. In that way, we can live a rich and full life, no matter the length or circumstance. Live well and love much, my friends. Oh, and Happy Valentine’s Day! 😉 ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Personal Development & Self-Love Boards: ![How to Build Up a Healthy Relationship with your Body, Despite Chronic Illness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-to-build-healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Featuring People with Illnesses, Passions & Talents](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-people-illnesses-talents/) - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Feb 21, 2025 Wow, this is another incredible post, Sheryl! I think like you’ve I’ve come to at least find some degree of acceptance over “imperfections” and “problems”, and I’m increasingly trying to embrace them. I don’t know that I’ll ever fully accept my health issues or my body, but I know that despite that I’ve still reconnected to myself more than I’d have thought just going through the process of living and managing with health conditions. I love how you’ve said I’ve also come to appreciate the imperfections, for they are marks that set you and me apart. “. It’s so true. Gosh, how boring it would be to all be identical! “I am forced to confront uncomfortable topics which society can choose to ignore” – Agree here with this too myself. I’ve learned a lot, I’ve educated myself, and I’ve become far more understanding and empathetic as a result. More often than not, I hate myself and struggle a lot with guilt and the need to be productive, otherwise I feel even worse. It’s a vicious cycle but you’re so spot on with how you and your body need to learn to live together and things need to work between you. We would always say to another person that they deserve to be happy, to live the best life we can under the circumstances. It’s harder to apply it to ourselves but it’s certainly a road worth walking down and working on. We’re the only ones who can do it and not being happy with ourselves serves no purpose. Caz xxxx - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Jul 7, 2020 I just had an “aaawww” moment with my body when I read “Over time, you may even realise how much it wants to make you happy, as opposed to being the abusive bitch you thought it was.” There was a time when it was me vs my body but that thought process didn’t work to benefit me in any way and now we’re a team! We love what we have and we’re in this through the thick and thin. I don’t know if I have ever mentioned this before but I absolutely love your style of writing. You mange to invoke so many feelings with the way you write. While reading this post, I suddenly reconnected with my body. Loved it. Thank you Sheryl. 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 8, 2020 Aww…thanks as well Shruti for your encouraging, kind words! I’m so happy that my writing connected with you!! 😀 Yes I think in the long run, fighting against ourselves is just plain exhausting and pointless. To live well, we need to work with ourselves 🙂 - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Jul 6, 2020 Really great post Sheryl. I always try and focus on all the things my body can do, rather than what it does to annoy me! I guess that comes back to gratitude, which seems so important with chronic illness. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 8, 2020 Hi Claire, yes I think so, too 🙂 Maybe for me the word is more of ‘awe’ than gratitude. Kind of like I’m thunderstruck when I realise that little bit of what it actually is doing for me 🙂 - Nikki Albert Feb 5, 2020 I firmly believe we need to have a little self-compassion for our embodied selves. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 5, 2020 Totally agree. No point beating it up, it really doesn’t help, and isn’t at total fault. - Jo Moss Feb 4, 2020 I love this Sheryl. I have spent most of my life at war with my body due to eating disorders. It wasn’t until my body failed and became riddled with pain, that I learned to respect it – I’m still working on the loving it part. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 4, 2020 Hi Jo, I totally know what you mean. I swore I’d ‘fight the disease’ til death as a 14 year old. Over the years, I’ve learned so much about how much my body really isn’t the enemy 🙂 It’s even gained a newfound respect, despite the pain. Sending well wishes to you and hope you have a low pain day…year!! - [ Marlynn | UrbanBlissLife ](https://UrbanBlissLife.com) Feb 2, 2020 Love this! These are all such important reminders! - [ The Frugal Samurai ](https://thefrugalsamurai.com) Feb 1, 2020 Hope it works out for you Sheryl, and thanks for sharing this article – body and mind is the most important things in life, rest are just details. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 1, 2020 Thank you for your kind thoughts. Yes health is wealth indeed! - Olufunke Feb 1, 2020 If I’m guilty of anything right now, it would be not loving my body enough. Although, it’s not entirely my fault. It’s because my body seems to have a mind of it’s own and hardly pay attention to me anymore. The scars, I’ve acceped, the pain is harder. How can you love a body that doesn’t allow you to live your life in ways that bring you happiness and fulfilment? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 1, 2020 Hi Olufunke, it’s okay to be unhappy or angry with your body for now…it’s a long process that took me 20 years to understand and accept, too. It’s difficult to explain, but it was a realisation that we needed to try and work together in order to get the best out of life. I wish you all the best on your personal journey, but take your time x - [ Christine ](https://fitmanniahealth.wordpress.com/) Feb 3, 2020 And also just to add. We should teach our minds how to respect our bodies. Love your content from the first moment i saw it . Great stuff. Keep it up - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 3, 2020 Thanks so much for your kind words, Christine 🙂 Yes, you make a really good point! Our minds can be deceptive too. - [ Christopher Mitchell ](https://www.travelingmitch.com) Jan 31, 2020 Great stuff, I think we need to consider this kind of stuff now more than ever! - Laura Jan 31, 2020 It’s so important to love your body and get to know it. Sometimes we forget how important our body is x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 31, 2020 Yes it really is so important, and so easy to forget x - [ Amber ](https://withasplashofcolor.com) Jan 31, 2020 I’m still working on it but I decided a few years ago I was going to take time to love me, body and all, and put me first. This post really hits home - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 31, 2020 I am glad you’re taking the time and effort to do it, however slowly you may think that goes. It will be worth it x - Laura Jan 31, 2020 It’s so important to love and know your own body. I feel so many times we don’t take care of it as we should. I try to be more healthy this year x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 31, 2020 Yes when everything feels okay, we often barely think about or care for our bodies. They do really work so hard for us without us even knowing! I wish you well on you health journey this year! x - Margaret | Live Like No One Else Jan 31, 2020 Love how you write about becoming more intimate with your body. Knowing it and it’s limitations. One thing I’m sure is how much we take for granted when we are healthy. I remember pulling a muscle in my neck one time and I was bed ridden for several days, couldn’t even move. My husband had to even carry me to the bathroom. If it wasn’t for such instances, I wouldn’t appreciate my body when it is healthy. Thanks for the reminder. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 31, 2020 Most welcome Margaret, I hope it’s a good reminder for us all, whether we’re ill or healthy alike 🙂 Yes it can feel dreadful when you can’t even go to the bathroom on your own – I had that experience once in the hospital where I couldn’t move at all for two months and it was pure torture. So thank you body, for all that you do. I am amazed at your resilience and in awe of what you can do 🙂 - Jody Jan 31, 2020 Wonderful post and a fantastic reminder to all. It has taken a long time to have a healthy relationship with my own self. I now love all of me. I love having reminders to continue growing and learning and accepting myself. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 31, 2020 Thanks Jody, and I love how you love all of you now! Must have been quite the journey 🙂 And yes, constant reminders are still needed, at least for me! 🙂 - Chelsea Sauve Jan 31, 2020 I love the body positive approach to honouring the bond with your body. That’s beautiful, and a message that needs to be widely appreciated. Thanks for this lovely post. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 31, 2020 Thank you Chelsea, I do genuinely believe it’s a precious, intimate bond and that our body works really hard to keep us in balance and happy. The least I can do is to honour it a little 🙂 - Celebrate Woman Today Jan 30, 2020 Sheryl, Thank you for sharing this with us all in a very gentle, yet vivid way. I love how you put it, ‘Commitment to Being a Better Partner,’ while speaking about your body. Our bodies are indeed magical and full of wonder. And all this magic reveals to us when we become so much more attuned to them. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 31, 2020 Thank you so much, I truly believe it’s a relationship with our bodies, and one that must be treated with the very best we’ve got in every way we can! 🙂 - Jhentea Guzman Jan 30, 2020 Great reminder to love ourselves or our body. Sometimes we don’t appreciate our physical appearance because society dictates a different standard when it comes to beauty. We should define our own. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 30, 2020 Exactly, Jhentea, well said 🙂 Beauty takes on many forms, and means different things to different people. - Margaret Jan 31, 2020 Love this so much! ♥ - Gervin Khan Jan 30, 2020 This is such a nice and very insightful post to read. I have a lot of flaws and I hated my body because of that but my family helping me to realized that I need to learn to accept and love my flaws for me to start loving my body again. And now, even I am gaining weight because of giving birth I still love my body because I knew that I have a husband and a family that strongly supporting now matter what happen and no matter what I look. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 30, 2020 That’s a lovely way to look at it, Gervin. I am glad that you have supportive and loving family and resources to help you along your journey. Sending good thoughts and well wishes! - Dana Jan 30, 2020 Excellent post. No one is truly happy about each piece of there body, however, it is how God made us and someone will love us for it. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 30, 2020 Thanks Dana. It’s true, as humans we all have flaws, whether we know them or not, and often we dislike lots about ourselves for no good reason. It’s time to treat our bodies with more compassion, I say 🙂 - [ Lyosha ](https://www.lyoshathegirl.com) Jan 30, 2020 It is such a helpful article full of insight! Loving your body and being in peace with it is a key - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 30, 2020 Thanks for reading and commenting, Lyosha! Loving your body and being at peace with it is indeed important, yet so so hard, isn’t it?! All we can do is try our best, and that’s enough 🙂 - [ Jessica Collazo ](https://www.elogiosamislocuras.com/) Jan 30, 2020 I always take my body to the limit in terms of sleeping. Sometimes my Insomnia takes the best of me. Thanks for this tips. We have to learn to respect and love our bodies. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 30, 2020 Hi Jessica, I do that too despite my chronic illnesses, which is really not wise! I tend to want to be ‘productive’ all the time but that’s just not possible, and my body can take a blow from it! I really need to practice self compassion and am still learning to let things go 😉 - Chad Jan 30, 2020 Amazing amazing amazing article Sheryl, I can’t thank you enough for talking about this. Self-acceptance is a huge goal for me for this year. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 30, 2020 Thank you Chad. I think that’s an excellent goal to strive for this year and forever! Self-acceptance can really change your life for the better 🙂 - [ dSavannah ](https://www.dsavannah.com/blog/) Jan 30, 2020 All great thoughts, especially “It’s difficult to love your body when it’s flawed”. Boy howdy is it. @dSavannahCreate from [dSavannahRambles ](https://dsavannah.com/blog/)xoxo - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 30, 2020 Haha tough one isn’t it, especially with chronic illness! But indeed I’m learning to love it more, and treat it with more kindness 😀 - Katie Clark Jan 29, 2020 I’ve saved this post to read again and again. Just when I feel like my body and I are connecting and have an understanding, bam! We’re in a fight today, and I needed this to help me get beyond anger and discouragement. Thanks.? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 29, 2020 Thanks for reading and saving it, Katie 🙂 Yea my body is in a flare this week as well, and to be honest I could probably treat it better, too. Anyway just hoping this will pass calmly enough, and sending you well wishes and strength, too! x - Jenny Feb 7, 2019 I really enjoyed this post, espcially the part about finding a new intimacy with your body. This is such a lovely way to look at things. And it’s so true, I’m so much more grounded in my body than I used to be. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 8, 2019 Thanks Jenny! Yes even though it’s forced, the awareness we have about ourselves and our bodies are still invaluable lessons 🙂 - [ Jenny ](https://trippingthroughtreacle.com) Feb 5, 2019 I love this post Sheryl, my body has been through so much, I have so much more respect for it when I was ‘well’ and just worried about how it looked! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 6, 2019 Thanks so much, Jenny 🙂 Yes your body is a quiet but kickass fighter 😉 - [ Despite Pain ](https://www.despitepain.com) Feb 4, 2019 This is a great post. It becomes easy to hate our bodies because of how they function so badly. But hating our bodies, is like hating ourselves. We need to learn how to love again. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 4, 2019 Hi Elizabeth, yes exactly. And I think we often don’t realise our bodies might be confused, but are truly trying their best for us, too. Sending good thoughts today! - [ Claire Saul ](https://www.painpalsblog.wordpress.com) Feb 13, 2018 Pretty much a love letter to ourselves – that is us spoonies. Great post Sheryl – sharing!! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 13, 2018 Thank you for sharing and reading as always, Claire! Yes, a love letter to our broken, beautiful bodies :p - Kirsten Feb 13, 2018 I really love this article. I used to look at my body as my enemy when I first got ill, but through the years I slowly learned more to take care of it. I think whenever I have a high pain day I’m gonna come back to this piece. It’s a great eye opener that we should not be angry at our bodies but we should comfort it. After all, it’s the only body we were given so we might aswell treat it right. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 13, 2018 Hi Kirsten, Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts 🙂 Yes me too. I used to fight against it and get really angry with it, but now I think it’s pretty amazing despite all the errors with its internal code lol. Wishing you low pain days! x - Pearl R Meaker Feb 12, 2018 This really hit home for me as I don’t like, let along love, my body very much. We are wonderfully made and even when things are wrong, our bodies are still amazing. Thank you for the reminder to honor my body for the marvelous creation it is. Hugs! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 12, 2018 Dear Pearl, I’m happy that this article is of use to you 🙂 Yes it can be so difficult and probably be a lifelong learning journey, but our bodies are still wondrous things 🙂 x **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### A Day in the Life of a “POTSie” (A What??) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/day-in-life-potsie/ Last updated: 2026-06-09T14:42:24.000Z ## An Introduction from A Chronic Voice — What is a “POTSie” & Hello Keira! Keira is a young lady who lives with Postural Tachycardia Syndrome (POTS), a.k.a. a “POTSie”. On top of that, she has five other major chronic and mental illnesses. Keira is also into photography, animal behaviour and travelling, and seizes those rare good moments to enjoy these lovely hobbies. In this guest post, she will focus on sharing primarily about POTS, and how it affects her daily life. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the author's personal experiences as a patient. *I/We are not doctors, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your POTS, Dysautonomia & Chronic Illness Boards: ![A Day in the Life of a “POTSie” (A What??) — A peek into Keira Marlow’s life with POTS. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/day-in-the-life-of-potsie-keira-marlow-POTS-v1-dizzy-environment.jpg) ## What is a POTSie? Many of you are probably wondering what a “POTSie” is. It is an acronym that many people who live with POTS use to refer to themselves. [POTS is an autonomic condition](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK541074/); this means that your body has difficulty regulating your blood pressure and heart rate (Zhao & Tran, 2023). The blood pressure and heart rate of a regular person increases slightly when they stand up. But in a person with POTS, these fall rapidly instead. That may not sound too serious, but it can significantly impact a person's quality of life. The quick drop in blood pressure causes extreme dizziness, blood pooling, nausea and fainting. This limits their activity, ability to work and even walk. ## How POTS Changed My Life I have had POTS for six years, and it has affected my life in a way that I could never imagine. Before I had this condition, I was an extremely active person. I would regularly go on long walks, play hockey, do karate and had no problem being on my feet all day. But now on a bad day, I can't even leave my flat due to the dizziness and weakness. A bad day for me used to consist of me passing out in public and ending up in hospital on a regular basis. I haven’t passed out for several years now, as I have become more aware of the signs that lead up to a collapse. Even so, I still cannot walk for five minutes without feeling dizzy and weak, with blood pooling in my legs on a bad day. I need to sit down, so that I don't end up fainting. ## Limitations and the Impact on Quality of Life As you can imagine, this has limited my physical abilities and activities. It has been a very hard adjustment for me to accept that I'm now like this. The [**unpredictability of when I'll have a bad day**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) makes it even more difficult to cope with. Whilst there are certain [**triggers such as heat**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) or fatigue, sometimes I can just wake up and be symptomatic for no apparent reason. What this means is that I haven't been able to work full time for several years, due to being too unreliable. I have to cancel plans regularly, and need to ensure that I have plenty of opportunities to sit and rest if I'm out. There is no cure for POTS, only medications that help to reduce certain symptoms. Unfortunately, none of them have worked for me. That may sound like there is no hope for people with POTS, and that they could never leave their homes. But I'm lucky enough that it isn't like this every day for me. ## Appreciating My Good Days I do have good days where I'm hardly symptomatic at all. I can walk a fair distance without feeling dizzy, and have enough energy to visit my friends. There are also some activities I can do that don't affect my blood pressure too badly, such as horse riding and canoeing (activities that allow me to sit!). I always try to make the most out of these good days and never take them for granted, because you never know how long they'll last for. ## Raising More Awareness for POTS Having POTS means that I have had to change my outlook on life. I am now setting up my own business, in the hope of becoming self-employed. This would never have crossed my mind if I didn't have this condition. It has also encouraged me to [**raise awareness about it, through writing**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) and talking. It is my hope that more people and doctors will become more familiar with POTS, and the people who live with them every day. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does 'Normal' Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Featuring People with Illnesses, Passions & Talents](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-people-illnesses-talents/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Why Humility is the Best Tool for Advocacy](https://achronicvoice.com/humility-advocacy/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) Pin to Your POTS, Dysautonomia & Chronic Illness Boards: ![When Your Body Just Refuses To Co-operate - What A Day In The Life With Pots Is Like. Click To Read.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_day-life-POTSie-7.png) **Contributor Bio:** ![Keira Marlow headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/keira-profile.jpg) My name is Keira. I am 28 and suffer from Postural Tachycardia Syndrome, secondary Addison’s Disease, joint hypermobility, Borderline Personality Disorder, depression and anxiety. I am passionate about raising awareness for these lesser known conditions. I also enjoy photography, animal behaviour and travelling. Find her here: [Twitter](https://x.com/keiramarlow1). ### How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home URL: https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/ Last updated: 2026-01-08T14:15:46.000Z ## The Need to Maximise Accessibility When You Live with Chronic Pain or Disability Adaptations and modifications of spaces are often required when you live with chronic pain or a disability. Many of us spend a lot of time at home, so it only makes sense that we transform it to suit our needs for a better quality of life. There are a few rooms in our homes where high frequency of activity occurs. These are typically the bedroom, bathroom, kitchen, living room and entryway. The first question to ask if your home is accessible or not is, 'Do you have trouble navigating within and across it?'. Barriers may include flooring material, slip hazards, and elevated surfaces. Here are some ways to maximise accessibility, and make your home a safer and happy place to live in. *\*Disclaimer: Whilst this post is kindly sponsored by Cibes Lift, all opinions expressed in it are my own. This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Home Accessibility & Disability Boards: ![How to Maximise Accessibility and Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_accessibility-home.jpg) ## 1\. The Most Important Place to Maximise Accessibility at Home — the BATHROOM Let’s start with the bathroom, because this is a big one where [80% of falls occur for elderly adults](https://www.aging.com/falls-fact-sheet/). Common fall hazards include slippery surfaces and the lack of a seat to rest. Those with disabilities, chronic pain and the elderly may have trouble standing for long periods of time, become exhausted from the effort of showering, or become dizzy with the quick changes in temperature. Some modifications you can make to improve accessibility in the bathroom include: - **Anti-Slip Mats.** Place a rubber or anti-slip mat on surfaces that get wet all the time. - **Improve the lighting.** Fog from heated showers may dim the bathroom, making it harder to see. This can be especially dangerous for those with vision problems. - **Install a shower chair.** This reduces the amount of effort and concentration needed to shower, thus preventing unnecessary falls. - **Upgrade your shower doors.** Doors with handles that require pushing, pulling or pressing can be frustrating, when your hands are already weak, and now wet as well. Handles can also provide a false sense of security, as one may grab onto them for support. Glass material can dangerous should they break, especially during a fall. You might want to install a shower door that opens and closes with a slight nudge. - **Upgrade your taps.** Faucets that require twisting or turning can be pain-inducing, and sometimes even impossible to turn on and off. In fact, this contributes to more swelling in my hands, which can take days to recover from. A single tap that controls both hot and cold water temperature plus the amount of water with a slight lifting action is best. - **Install grab bars or rails.** These are major tools that help a person sit and stand. I often ask for help from real human beings when switching from a lying or seated position to standing. So having grab bars in the shower for stability and support is a huge everyday aid. Read Related Posts: - [After Surgery Care at Home: Hygiene Resources](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [Mainstream: Can You Talk to Us About ME? (There are Enough ‘Normal’ Health Tips to Go Around Already)](https://achronicvoice.com/mainstream-me-health-tips/) - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [So This is What a Tonic Clonic Seizure Feels Like](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) ## 2\. Maximise Accessibility in Your BEDROOM — Where you Probably Spend Much of Your Time in Next there is the bedroom, where many of us spend most of our time in, either resting, sleeping or recovering. Here are some big and small things you can do to improve accessibility, and hopefully getter a better night's rest! - **Mattress & Pillows.** Your mattress and pillow directly affects your quality of sleep and physical health. If they are not comfortable or supportive enough, you might actually be perpetuating your pain. [**Rest and sleep are vital for healing**](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/), and a good mattress and pillows can play a huge role in that. They would in fact, be my first priority for a bedroom upgrade. - **Bedding Material.** Many people with chronic illnesses suffer from [allodynia](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/symptoms/21570-allodynia) or [skin sensitivities](https://dermnetnz.org/topics/sensitive-skin/). Synthetic material can be irritating to the skin. 100% organic cotton bedsheets are a good choice, but it can vary for each person. Other options are silk, bamboo, or a mix. - **Bed Height.** The height of the bed and width of the mattress can also play a role. For example, I find it painful to bend down to sleep and rise from a short bed. Yet have difficulty climbing into one that's too high as well. If the width of the mattress is smaller than that of the bed frame, this can create an addition barrier for getting into bed as well. - **Bedside Table.** This is a must have for a person with chronic illness! Many of us have a drawerful of emergency medications and comfort tools beside our bed for quick and easy access. Having a lamp to light the room up for immediate visibility is also useful. This is also where many of us place our mobile phones, in case we need to make a call for help. If there are knobs attached to drawers, do ensure that they are not too small, and pull open with ease. - **Wardrobe.** An organised wardrobe is not only pleasing to the eye, but makes everyday wear more accessible. Spread your clothing out a little for easy viewing. I use these foldable boxes from Ikea that have dozens of compartments, for separating underwear and small items. This makes it much easier to search for and retrieve an item. Read Related Posts: - [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/) - [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) - [Wound Care & What to Wear After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Cheyanne Perry — Living a Full Life with Deadly Allergies](https://achronicvoice.com/cheyanne-perry-life-allergies/) - [The Chronic Pain Cycle & How to Break It (Top Tips From an Occupational Therapist)](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/) ## 3\. Maximise Accessibility in Your Kitchen — Keep Yourself Safe & Useful Tools Handy The kitchen is another area where we spend a lot of time in, preparing meals, washing up, or making a cup of tea or coffee. The final meal may be simple, yet the energy taken to create it can quickly add up, with all the kitchen tools 'hidden' in drawers and cabinets everywhere! Here are a few ways you can modify your kitchen to improve accessibility: - **Place Items at Body Height.** Take note of where a disabled or chronically ill person is able to reach up until. Do not place commonly used items in high shelf units, as that can make it impossible for them to access and use. - **Handles, knobs and taps.** Whether they twist, pull or push, ensure that they are nice and easy to grab onto, and easy to turn on and off. It can be a struggle to turn a tap off when your fingers are soapy and arthritic. And it can be a hazard if the stove top cannot be turned off. - **Labels.** Labelling containers and drawers can be a good idea, if a person suffers from memory problems or brain fog. - **Accessories & Kitchen Tools.** There are kitchen tools out there that can help a person with chronic pain or disability to prepare, cook and clean with a little more ease. Inventions such as the rocking knife and grabber can make a big difference! You can also transfer anything from bottles or packets that may be hard to open, into reusable airtight containers that are easy to access. Don't forget to label them with the name and expiry date if you choose to do so! Read Related Posts: - [Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-home-resources-learned-other-blogs/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) - [A Day in the Life of a “POTSie” (A What??)](https://achronicvoice.com/day-in-life-potsie/) - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does 'Normal' Even Mean?) ](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) ## 4\. The Living Room — Maximise Accessibility for a Major Space at Home The living room is another major space in our houses. Many of us spend time on the sofa reading or watching TV, or entertaining guests. Living room spaces tend to be large with no support in any direction, so it is important to improve it where we can. For one, the flooring should be anti-slip. Support rails or mobility aids could also be placed where a person most likely needs them. A good sofa that allows one to lie back or stretch out can make a difference. Good cushions and throws are easy ways to help make a person more comfortable as well. The coffee table should be at a comfortable height, and items placed on it should be within arm's reach from the sofa. A basket could be kept nearby to make things more accessible for a person. For example, they could keep their hobby equipment and other comfort tools in there. Baskets are also a great way to conserve energy around the house in general. You could keep separate ones in your kitchen and bathroom with room specific cleaning products. You could also keep one by the staircase, to carry up and down without the need to make two trips. ## Maximise Accessibility at Home with Smart Home Digital Tools Smart homes are also on the rise, and digital tools should not be overlooked. Many devices can also be connected and controlled via your mobile phone. This reduces the need for repetitive actions such as switching the lights on and off. It can also help to save much effort such as getting out of bed, and walking from the bedroom upstairs to answer the door downstairs. Read Related Posts: - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [MediSearch Review: A Medical AI Search Engine for Patients, Clinicians & Medical Writers](https://achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/) - [Why I Moved from SiteGround to Cloudways (and Couldn’t be Happier). Plus Cute Puppy Pics & A New Pacing Strategy.](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/) ## If You Can Afford Them, Home Lifts are Excellent for Maximising Accessibility in Large Houses A fantastic option for multi-storied houses is to install a domestic lift. This dramatically [increases accessibility to every floor of your home](https://www.cibeslift.com/gb/home-lifts/). This helps a disabled or chronically ill person to be more independent, and move around their own homes with more confidence. It can also create more connections, as they are able to join a family member in another room with greater ease. There are a few different types of lifts that could suit your specific needs. Some are wheelchair suitable, and others are small enough to even fit into your wardrobe! They could be for in or outdoor usage, and span a range of budgets and styles. A good lift is made of quality material, is quiet, and energy efficient as well. Don't hesitate to ask the lift company as many questions as you like, so that they can give you the best recommendation. Installation is usually hassle-free, and some lifts can even be ready within 2 - 3 days. I hope that these suggestions and tips have been of help to you. Do you live with a chronic illness or disability, or are a caregiver to one? What are your biggest accessibility barriers at home, and how have you overcame them to improve your quality of life? I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments below, and am sure that they will be beneficial to another reader, too. Thank you! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [“It’s in My Blood”: Shannon Giroux — Making a Better Home to Live in, Despite Multiple Sclerosis](https://achronicvoice.com/shannon-giroux-better-home-multiple-sclerosis/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Alison ](https://www.thrivingwhiledisabled.com) Aug 16, 2020 Sheryl, This is great! You’ve been really thoughtful in building this list, with suggestions that can have a wide range of investment costs, so that folks at any stage or state can pick up something useful to try! Making your living space safer and more comfortable is huge and a great way to improve your state of mind and sense of well-being. Keep up the great work! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 16, 2020 Thanks Alison! Yes I wanted to cover a wide range of budgets – it isn’t always expensive is best, although yes, some fancy tools can make a huge difference in one’s quality of life! But little things like baskets and knobs can matter so much, too! - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Aug 16, 2020 This is such a brilliant list. When I renovated my home 6 years ago, I made sure we put hand-rails in the bathrooms thinking that if my old uncles and aunts came to stay, they should have these elements in the shower. 5 years ago, my mum had a stroke and my body went through a major health crash and we’ve used those railings the most, plus a bath stool. Both things have been absolutely precious to us. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 16, 2020 You really have foresight and practicality, Shruti! Yes these little things may look humble, but help so much! - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Aug 14, 2020 Great minds! I’m just putting a post together on items to help with accessibility. It really is good that there are getting to be more options now. I hope people are able to access an occupational therapist for help and suggestions. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 15, 2020 That’s great that you’re putting together a post too, Claire! I too am glad that there are more options now than ever before 🙂 - [ Despite Pain ](https://www.despitepain.com) Jan 23, 2020 Sheryl, this is a fantastic post. Your tips to help make life easier are simple but very clever. I already do some of the things you’ve mentioned, but right now, I am going to get a basket (I’m sure I have one) to put all my ‘clutter’ into. I always have so much stuff lying around me. It will be much tidier looking and easier to find things if it’s together in a basket. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 15, 2020 Sorry Elizabeth I just saw this comment! Yes simple sometimes does the trick, I think! 😉 - Cynthia Jan 23, 2020 These are fantastic suggestions! I especially love the tip about placing things at body height. The cabinets in my kitchen are impossible for me to reach, so instead of pulling muscles or breaking dinnerware, I bought a bookcase to display and store my plates, bowls, and glasses. I use the cabinets for storing things I rarely use. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 23, 2020 Thanks Cynthia! And that’s a good idea/home hack you have there. A bookshelf sounds more accessible than some kitchen cabinets! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### The Chronic Pain Cycle & How to Break It (Top Tips From an Occupational Therapist) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/ Last updated: 2026-04-17T16:44:02.000Z ## An Introduction to Cynthia Hill & Chronic Pain Management Cynthia Hill shares her best tips on how to break the chronic pain cycle in this post. She is an occupational therapist with over 25 years of experience who aims to help her clients - many of whom live with chronic pain or disability - regain their quality of life. Cynthia has always had a special interest in hand injuries, which led her to write her own book, “[The Hand Arthritis Manual: Simple Solutions to Manage Pain and Stiffness Without Drugs or Surgery](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09GY4PBTJ?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=2d039198ed044493d66fb479c55ce065&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl)”. She covers much ground in this guest post, highlighting chronic pain triggers, useful tips to combat them, and how you can be on your way towards recovery and healing. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. Whilst I have done my utmost to be meticulous in research, *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Pain Cycle & Occupational Therapy Boards: ![The Chronic Pain Cycle and How to Break It (Top Tips From an Occupational Therapist)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-cycle-how-break-it-tips-occupational-therapist.png) ![Chronic Pain Triggers & Tips to Combat Them Without Drugs or Surgery](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_chronic-pain-triggers.png) ## Causes That Contribute to the Chronic Pain Cycle More than likely, if you are reading this, you are [one of over 50 million Americans](https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/volumes/67/wr/mm6736a2.htm) (Dahlhamer et al., 2023) who deals with the chronic pain cycle and you want to know how to break it. Knowing the source or original cause of the pain is helpful in determining how to best treat it. There are numerous reasons for chronic pain. Sometimes chronic pain can be traced back to a specific injury, surgery, or even an infection. The injury, incision, or infection is long since healed, but chronic pain is still a daily reminder of that event. Frequently chronic pain is related to a specific condition such as low back pain, osteoarthritis, rheumatoid arthritis, multiple sclerosis, fibromyalgia, shingles, nerve damage, stroke (cerebral vascular accident), some cancers, inflammatory bowel disease, etc. It is important to treat the underlying condition. However, chronic pain may continue to be prevalent. It is possible to [develop chronic pain](https://www.webmd.com/pain-management/features/causes-pain) and have no apparent cause for it (Freeman, 2011). There was no injury or any type of tissue damage prior to the onset of pain. Negative emotions such as sadness, depression, anxiety, guilt, and anger seem to [aggravate chronic pain](http://www.columbianeurology.org/neurology/staywell/document.php?id=42106) (ColumbiaDoctors, n.d.). There is some evidence showing that abnormalities in the interactions between the hypothalamus, pituitary and adrenal glands along with the nervous system affect how we react to stress and pain. People with chronic pain tend to have low levels of endorphins in their spinal fluid. Endorphins are chemicals in the body that naturally help control pain. ## More About the Chronic Pain Cycle Once chronic pain sets in, it becomes a vicious cycle. Pain ➡ Muscle Tension ➡ Stiffness ➡ Swelling ➡ Inactivity ➡ Weakness ➡ Decreased Function ➡ Toxic Thinking ➡ More Pain. And the cycle continues to repeat itself. In order to [break the chronic pain cycle](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/10410236.2012.715537), the cycle must be interrupted (Stones & Cole, 2013). Interrupting it in just one place usually is not enough. It needs to be interrupted in several places to be most effective. Pin to your Chronic Pain Cycle & Pain Management Boards: ![The Chronic Pain Cycle: Pain - Muscle Tension - Stiffness - Swelling - Inactivity - Weakness - Decreased Function - Toxic Thinking - More Pain. And the cycle continues to repeat itself. In order to break the chronic pain cycle, the cycle must be interrupted.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_chronic-pain-cycle.png) ## How To Break The Chronic Pain Cycle ### Treat The Pain The most obvious place to start is with the pain itself. There are [numerous pain medications](https://www.webmd.com/pain-management/features/causes-pain#3) on the market today (Freeman, 2011), both over-the-counter and prescription, that can ease the pain by masking it. Many anticonvulsants, which were originally developed to treat epilepsy, are also prescribed for chronic pain. Drugs such as Lyrica and Neurontin. Anticonvulsants are especially helpful with pain due to nerve damage. Opioids such as Codeine, oxycodone, and morphine can be effective but are also highly addictive. [NSAIDs (nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs)](https://www.drugs.com/drug-class/nonsteroidal-anti-inflammatory-agents.html) not only help decrease pain, but they also help control swelling and inflammation (Drugs.com, 2023). Pain medications alone will not eliminate or cure the cause of the pain. I highly recommend becoming familiar with the list of side effects that the medications have. In some cases the side effects can be more severe than the original symptoms. Muscle rubs can provide localized pain relief to stiff sore muscles. Topical pain relievers that contain capsaicin, camphor, or menthol work well to provide temporary relief of both joint and muscle pain. Read Related Posts: - [So This is What a Tonic Clonic Seizure Feels Like](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) - [5 Things You Should Know About My Epilepsy (It's More Than Just Seizures)](https://achronicvoice.com/epilepsy-more-than-just-seizures/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Rheumatoid Arthritis - the Biggest Street Fight of My Life](https://achronicvoice.com/rheumatoid-arthritis-fight-life/) ### Treat the Muscle Tension Trigger points (muscle knots) are hard, sensitive areas in the muscles that remain tight and contracted even when the muscle is at rest. Common causes of trigger points include overuse, muscle injury, poor posture, and a sedentary lifestyle. Stress, anxiety, dehydration, and unhealthy eating habits also contribute to muscle tension. Muscle knots can occur anywhere in the body. They are commonly found in the back, shoulders, neck, and even in the gluteal muscles. They are tender to the touch. Often times, they feel swollen, bumpy, and tense. To [treat trigger points](https://www.healthline.com/health/muscle-knots#treatment), it is imperative to break up the knotted tissue and calm the inflamed nerves (Cronkleton, 2023). Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Trigger Point Boards: ![Common causes of trigger points include overuse, muscle injury, poor posture, and a sedentary lifestyle. Click To Read: The Chronic Pain Cycle & How To Break It (Top Tips From An Occupational Therapist)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_pain-trigger-points.png) #### Trigger Point Release Trigger point release should be done by a skilled practitioner, such as a physical therapist, occupational therapist, or a chiropractor. Pressure is placed on the muscle knot until is softens and releases. Trigger point release is usually followed by specific exercises to stretch and retrain the muscles. #### Massage Therapy Massage therapy works by improving circulation. It helps to loosen up the muscles which, in turn, helps to relieve pain and stiffness. Typically, it takes several frequent sessions to see significant improvements. There are several types of massage. Some are forceful, such as deep tissue massage, while others are gentle, such as Swedish massage. Self massage is another option. This can be done by pressing into the affected area and making small circles with your fingers. A tennis ball or a foam roller can also be used by placing them between the affected area and the floor or a wall and rolling back and forth to apply pressure to the tense muscles. Read Related Posts: - [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) - [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) - [Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-home-resources-learned-other-blogs/) Pin to Your Chronic Pain Management Boards: ![There are several types of massage. Some are forceful, such as deep tissue massage, while others are gentle, such as Swedish massage. Click To Read: The Chronic Pain Cycle & How To Break It (Top Tips From An Occupational Therapist)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_massage.png) ### Treat The Stiffness #### Gentle Stretching Gentle stretching can help release tension in the body. Slow and gentle is key. Never force positions that are painful. It is best to stretch in the pain-free range. In other words, stretches should not cause increased pain. Slowly move into the stretch position, hold for 10 - 30 seconds, then release the stretch slowly. Stretches may be repeated several times for even more benefit. I highly recommend doing stretches in the morning to loosen up stiff muscles and joints. It is quite common to experience stiffness first thing in the morning. Stretching can also be beneficial after activity to minimize stiffness and soreness. Heat therapy is another tool that is helpful in relieving stiffness. Using heat therapy prior to stretching helps relax the muscles for better stretching. I talk about the use of heat in more detail in the next section. Pin to Your Pain Management & Exercise Boards: ![Gentle stretching can help release tension in the body. Slow and gentle is key. Never force positions that are painful. Click To Read: The Chronic Pain Cycle & How To Break It (Top Tips From An Occupational Therapist)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_gentle-stretching.png) ### Treat The Swelling #### Cold and Heat Therapy Cold packs are a great tool to use to decrease swelling. Cold therapy works by constricting blood vessels, which reduces swelling. Cold compresses should be applied for approximately 15 minutes at a time. They can be used multiple times throughout the day to provide relief. If you don’t have a cold pack a bag of frozen peas works quite well. Be sure to place a thin cloth between the cold pack and your skin for protection. Heat, in contrast, is relaxing. It loosens stiff muscles and relieves pain. Heat works by increasing blood flow to the area to promote healing. Heat can be used in the form of a heating pad, paraffin bath, warm water soaks, or a a microwavable hot pack. As with the cold packs, be sure to place a cloth between your skin and a hot pack for protection. Heat can used multiple times throughout the day as needed. For safety, do not leave the heat on for more than 15 minutes at a time. Alternating between hot and cold therapy is another way to utilize them effectively. This works by dilating blood vessels with heat and then constricting them with the cold. The actions of dilating and constricting blood vessels helps to move excess fluid (swelling) out of the area. Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Pain Management Boards: ![Cold therapy works by constricting blood vessels, which reduces swelling. Click To Read: The Chronic Pain Cycle & How To Break It (Top Tips From An Occupational Therapist)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_cold-therapy.png) ![Heat therapy is relaxing. It loosens stiff muscles and relieves pain. Heat works by increasing blood flow to the area to promote healing. Click To Read: The Chronic Pain Cycle & How To Break It (Top Tips From An Occupational Therapist)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_heat-therapy-2.png) #### Retrograde Massage Retrograde massage is a form of massage that focuses on a distal to proximal pattern. This works by gently moving excess fluid in towards the center of the body. If lymphoedema is present treatment by a healthcare professional who has been trained in [**lymphatic drainage**](https://achronicvoice.com/nourish-naturally-skin-care-tips/) may be needed. Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Pain Management Boards: ![Alternating between hot and cold therapy is another way to utilize them effectively. This works by dilating blood vessels with heat and then constricting them with the cold. Click To Read: The Chronic Pain Cycle & How To Break It (Top Tips From An Occupational Therapist)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_heat-cold-therapy.png) Read Related Posts: - [YuYu Bottle Review: Hot Water Bottle for ‘Surround Warmth’ Pain Relief](https://achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-review/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/) - [3 Types of Chronic Pain that Sound Bearable, but are Not](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-bearable-not/) #### Compression Garments [Compression garments](https://www.blog.ohmyarthritis.com/how-does-compression-help/) such as socks and sleeves are proven to help decrease swelling (Oh My Arthritis, 2021). Gradient compression works by providing the greatest amount of compression farthest from the heart and the least amount of compression closest to the heart. Gradient compression garments not only reduce swelling but also increase blood circulation. Some people find that they also help reduce pain that is related to the swelling. However, not all people experience a decrease in pain. The amount of compression needed may vary depending on the severity of swelling. It is best to consult your healthcare provider before purchasing compression garments to ensure that you get the correct size, style, and amount of compression to meet your specific needs. Have you ever accidentally hit your thumb with a hammer when trying to pound a nail into the wall? If so, then I am sure that the first thing you did (besides saying a few choice words) was to press on your injured thumb. This is something that we all tend to do instinctually. We do this to ease the pain. The sensation of deep pressure automatically overrides the pain sensation. Therefore, instead of the affected nerves sending pain signals to the brain, they start sending signals for deep pressure. So it is possible for the pressure garments to help in this way too. However, too tight of compression may cause an increase in pain just as not enough compression will not be effective. ### Diet & Natural Remedies Inflammation can be affected by our food choices too. Certain foods are known to cause inflammation in the body whereas, other foods are known to minimize inflammation. Click on this link to learn more about how our food choices affect us. Some natural remedies are known to aid in decreasing swelling and pain. Things such as CBD oil and certain essential oils have been shown to be beneficial. I have more detailed information about these on my website as well. ### Treat The Inactivity I know it can be extremely difficult to get up and move when everything hurts, is stiff, and fatigue is present. However, our bodies are designed to move. Movement is essential to maintaining flexibility and strength. Activity makes us feel better by improving our mood too. Exercise doesn’t have to be strenuous to be beneficial. In fact, the best forms of exercise for people dealing with chronic pain are gentle in nature. Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Exercise Boards: ![It can be extremely difficult to get up and move when everything hurts, is stiff, and fatigue is present. However, our bodies are designed to move. Click To Read: The Chronic Pain Cycle & How To Break It (Top Tips From An Occupational Therapist)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_bodies-designed-move.png) ![Exercise doesn’t have to be strenuous to be beneficial. In fact, the best forms of exercise for people dealing with chronic pain are gentle in nature. Click To Read: The Chronic Pain Cycle & How To Break It (Top Tips From An Occupational Therapist)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_gentle-exercise.png) #### Aquatic Therapy [Pool or water based exercise](https://www.painscience.com/articles/aquatic-therapy.php) is one of the best forms of exercise (Ingraham, 2019), especially if it is done in a heated pool. The heat helps to relax and soothe tense sore muscles. The buoyancy of the water minimizes stress on the joints by absorbing the impact. Water provides resistance which improves strength and cardiovascular functioning. The water also offers some compression which is beneficial for reducing swelling and improving circulation. If water is not your thing, don’t worry, there are plenty of other options. Walking is something we all can benefit from. A walk outside on a nice day can lift your spirits in addition to improving your circulation, strength, and cardiovascular functioning. Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Fitness Boards: ![The buoyancy of the water minimizes stress on the joints by absorbing the impact. Water provides resistance which improves strength and cardiovascular functioning. The water also offers some compression which is beneficial for reducing swelling and improving circulation. Click To Read: The Chronic Pain Cycle & How To Break It (Top Tips From An Occupational Therapist)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_aquatic-therapy.png) ![A walk outside on a nice day can lift your spirits in addition to improving your circulation, strength, and cardiovascular functioning. Click To Read: The Chronic Pain Cycle & How To Break It (Top Tips From An Occupational Therapist)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_walking-2.png) #### Yoga Gentle [forms of yoga](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2936076/) are another good option. Raja yoga is the most common form taught in today's society. Not only does yoga aid in improving flexibility, strength, and posture, but it helps promote a greater awareness of thought, spirituality, and emotions. Because yoga involves both mind and body, it can be effective at creating a relaxation response. When done regularly, yoga has been shown to decrease chronic pain (Vallath, 2010). If you enjoy music, simply turning on some uplifting music and moving your body to the music can do wonders to break free from inactivity. There is no right or wrong exercise. Do something that you enjoy. Switch it up if you get bored with the same thing on a regular basis. Do what makes you feel better. Most importantly, move every day. Read Related Posts: - [Is Yoga Accessible for People with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/) - [Floatation Therapy: Did It do Anything for My Chronic Pain?](https://achronicvoice.com/floatation-therapy-chronic-pain/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) Pin to Your Pain Management & Exercise Boards: ![Yoga involves both mind and body, and can be effective at creating a relaxation response. Click To Read: The Chronic Pain Cycle & How To Break It (Top Tips From An Occupational Therapist)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_yoga-pain-management.png) ![There is no right or wrong exercise. Do something that you enjoy. Do what makes you feel better. Most importantly, move every day. Click To Read: The Chronic Pain Cycle & How To Break It (Top Tips From An Occupational Therapist)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_move-every-day.png) ### Treat The Weakness Weakness can be caused by a chronic illness, inactivity, an injury, and it can even be a side effect of some medications. Getting up and moving to treat the inactivity will also help treat the weakness. However, just moving your body may not be enough. You may need to do some gentle resistance exercises to [strengthen weak muscles](https://www.health.harvard.edu/pain/strength-training-relieves-chronic-neck-pain) (Harvard Health Publishing, 2008). Resistance can come from a variety of things. Water exercises, as stated above, provide resistance. You can use your own body weight to provide resistance. Yoga and pilates use body weight resistance. Dumbbells, resistance bands, and even common objects such as water bottles or canned goods can be used to provide resistance. If getting up out of a chair is difficult you may need to strengthen the quadriceps, hamstrings, and gluteal muscles in your lower body. Strengthening muscles in your upper back as well as the triceps muscles in the back of your arms will help too. Stronger muscles equals more stable joints. More stable joints can result in less pain. A strong core can [reduce back pain](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4395677/) (Chang et al., 2015). Better strength and more stable joints may improve balance and make doing daily activities easier. Increased strength can even improve your level of confidence. If you are new to doing resistance exercises to improve strength, I highly recommend finding an occupational therapist or physical therapist to help get you started. As with most things, consistency is key. You will want to make exercise part of your daily routine. Pin to Your Health, Wellness & Exercise Boards: ![You may need to do some gentle resistance exercises to strengthen weak muscles. Stronger muscles equals more stable joints. More stable joints can result in less pain. Click for more tips.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_weakness-exercises.png) ![As with most things, consistency is key. You will want to make exercise part of your daily routine. Click To Read: The Chronic Pain Cycle & How To Break It (Top Tips From An Occupational Therapist)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_consistency-exercise-routine.png) ### Treat The Decreased Function The good news is that as you treat all of the things listed above, your ability to function will naturally improve. You will find that things are easier to do than they were before. You may even find yourself looking forward to doing certain activities that you used to dread because they were such a struggle. Increased functional ability might even start to reverse the chronic pain cycle. Now that you can function better, you may find that you are naturally more active. Being more active helps improve strength, decrease swelling and stiffness, and may even help decrease the pain. If there are specific tasks that you find particularly difficult to perform it may be advantageous to seek professional help from an occupational therapist. Occupational therapists (OT’s) are experts in identifying specific exercises or activities that will improve function necessary for specific tasks. OT’s are also experts at modifying activities to make them easier to perform. On my website I talk about some of the more common modifications that can make life easier for anyone dealing with chronic pain. It is possible to over do things. So you will need to figure out what the right balance between rest and activity is for you. This balance may vary depending on the time of year, your age, life circumstances, and your unique situation. Pin to Your Occupational Therapy & Pain Management Boards: ![Occupational therapists (OT’s) are experts in identifying specific exercises or activities that will improve function necessary for specific tasks. OT’s are also experts at modifying activities to make them easier to perform. Click To Read: The Chronic Pain Cycle & How To Break It (Top Tips From An Occupational Therapist)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_occupational-therapists.png) ![It is possible to over do things. So you will need to figure out what the right balance between rest and activity is for you. Click To Read: The Chronic Pain Cycle & How To Break It (Top Tips From An Occupational Therapist)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_balance-resting-activity.png) ### Treat The Toxic Thinking Last, but certainly not least, is treating your thoughts, mood, and emotions. Our minds are a powerful instrument. We still have a lot to learn about how our minds can affect our physical health. Have you ever had to give a speech in front of an audience? Do you remember how it made you feel? If you are like me, you don’t enjoy being in front of a crowd. You might worry that you will forget what you planned to say. You worry about losing your notes. Maybe the thought of having people laugh if you mess up terrifies you. Along with these thoughts and feelings are very real physical symptoms. You may feel butterflies in your stomach or even nauseous at the thought of public speaking. Your palms become sweaty. You find yourself needing to go to the bathroom right before going on stage even though you just went a short while ago. Your muscles are tense or even quivering with fear. Perhaps when you begin to speak your voice is shaky and quiet. These are all physical symptoms directly linked the thoughts and emotions you are experiencing at the moment. When dealing with an injury or illness that results in chronic pain, it is easy to develop toxic thinking without even being aware of it. Emotions such as anger, frustration, and resentment are common. Stress, anxiety, and worry add to the mix. There is even [some evidence that negative mood and emotion can lead to pain](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1053811909005862) or at least exacerbate it (Wiech & Tracey, 2009). Negative emotions are also known to have an ill effect on our immune system. It is imperative to address the [psychological aspects of chronic pain](https://www.academia.edu/download/95487050/pdf.pdf) (Manchikanti, 2002). Cognitive behavioral therapy can help with anger management, sadness, stress, and anxiety. It also promotes a greater sense of wellbeing by teaching effective coping strategies. People who have learned these skills also experience less pain. Pin to Your Mental Health & Chronic Pain Boards: ![Our minds are a powerful instrument. What you think and feel can impact your physical health. Click To Read: The Chronic Pain Cycle & How To Break It (Top Tips From An Occupational Therapist)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_toxic-thinking-2.png) ## Conclusion to The Chronic Pain Cycle & Tips to Break It As you can see, chronic pain is multifaceted and therefore requires a multifaceted approach to treatment. Each person experiences pain a little differently. Therefore, each person should be looked at individually and treated according to their own unique situation and circumstances. I hope this has helped you discover some new methods for addressing your pain. Life is possible beyond pain. [Cynthia’s book, “The Hand Arthritis Manual – Simple Solutions to Manage the Pain and Stiffness Without Drugs or Surgery”](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09GY4PBTJ?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=05c0d981912fb29460557e6ba76b4785&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), contains more pain management techniques and in-depth, professional tips. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! 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Read Related Posts: - [How to Rewire the Brain to Manage Chronic Pain (& Resources to Help)](https://achronicvoice.com/rewire-brain-manage-chronic-pain/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [How to Survive the Holidays When Chronic Illness & Disability Cause Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/survive-the-holidays-chronic-illness-disability-pain/) - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) Pin to Your Chronic Pain Cycle, Pain Management & Occupational Therapy Boards: ![The Chronic Pain Cycle and How to Break It (Top Tips From an Occupational Therapist)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_chronic-pain-occupational-therapist-7.png) ![Pain Management Tips From An Occupational Therapist With Over 25 Years Of Experience! Click To Read.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_chronic-pain-occupational-therapist-13.png) **Contributor Bio:** ![Cynthia Hill headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/cynthia-profile.jpeg) Cynthia Hill in an occupational therapist with over 25 years of experience working with people who have some sort of injury, disease, or illness. One of the most rewarding aspects of her job is seeing people regain function and return to living their lives again. She is the author of 'The Hand Arthritis Manual - Simple Solutions to Manage the Pain and Stiffness Without Drugs or Surgery'. ### References: - Chang, W.-D., Lin, H.-Y., & Lai, P.-T. (2015). Core strength training for patients with chronic low back pain. *Journal of Physical Therapy Science, 27*(3), 619–622\. https://doi.org/10.1589/jpts.27.619 - ColumbiaDoctors. (n.d.). *General neurology.* Retrieved 2025, June 28 from https://www.columbiadoctors.org/specialties/neurology/our-services/general-neurology - Cronkleton, E. 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(2008, April 1). *Strength training relieves chronic neck pain.* Harvard Medical School. https://www.health.harvard.edu/pain/strength-training-relieves-chronic-neck-pain - Ingraham, P. (2019, November 5). *Get in the pool for pain.* PainScience.Com. https://www.painscience.com/articles/aquatic-therapy.php - Manchikanti, L. (2002). Understanding psychological aspects of chronic pain in interventional pain management. *Pain Physician, 5*(1), 57–82\. https://doi.org/10.36076/ppj.2002/5/57 - Oh My Arthritis. (2021, July 25). *How does compression help with swelling?* https://www.blog.ohmyarthritis.com/how-does-compression-help/ - Stones, C., & Cole, F. (2013). Breaking the cycle: Extending the persistent pain cycle diagram using an affective pictorial metaphor. *Health Communication, 29*(1), 32–40\. https://doi.org/10.1080/10410236.2012.715537 - Vallath, N. (2010). Perspectives on yoga inputs in the management of chronic pain. *Indian Journal of Palliative Care, 16*(1), 1–7\. https://doi.org/10.4103/0973-1075.63127 - Wiech, K., & Tracey, I. (2009). The influence of negative emotions on pain: Behavioral effects and neural mechanisms. *NeuroImage, 47*(3), 987–994\. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.neuroimage.2009.05.059 ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ KAthy Kenny Ngo ](https://www.lifeiskulayful.com/) Jan 24, 2020 I have chronic back pain and it is hellish to deal with. I’m really glad that someone has decided to write about this. It really can be emotionally taxing and when people dismiss it, it hurts. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 29, 2020 Hi Kathy, it can indeed be very hurtful when people dismiss bad pain as less than it really is. I hope that you’re feeling better this week, and sending many good thoughts. - [ Lyanna Soria ](https://www.angelaricardo.com) Jan 21, 2020 My mother has chronic pain and this was quite a helpful post for me. Filled with wonderful tips to keep in mind and definitely learned something new. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 29, 2020 Thanks Lyanna, I’m glad that you took away something useful from Cynthia’s post. Chronic pain is not easy to deal with, and as a child am sure it was difficult for you, too. Sending love to you and your family x - [ Samar ](https://www.themoodrecipes.com/) Jan 17, 2020 Thank you for the expceptional blog post. It is one of the most effective one till date. Keep up the good work for the people whom no one cares about. - Laura Jan 17, 2020 I don’t have chronic pain, so I didn’t know lot of this information. I like there is a way to brake the cycle. - Eileen M Loya Jan 17, 2020 This is an extremely helpful post. My husband suffers from chronic pain brought about by a myriad of medical conditions. I always encourage him to get up and move around but he says it gives him so much pain. I am worried that his muscles would atrophy and increase his immobility. I make him exercise his legs even when he is in bed so his leg muscles would gain strength. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 29, 2020 It’s nice and caring of you to encourage your husband to keep moving, even if just a tiny little bit. Do ensure it’s safe and professionals can be a big help if that’s affordable. Sending both of you good thoughts and best wishes 🙂 - Joy Della Vita Jan 17, 2020 Wow, I had no clue there is something such as a “chronic pain circle”, thank you so much for educating me on this topic! - Erin Jan 17, 2020 As a person that doesn’t live with chronic pain, this post is super informative. Its helped me understand the experiences of friends and family that are suffering chronic pain. Thanks for sharing - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 29, 2020 Most welcome, Erin. Chronic pain is a complex topic, as each of us experience and respond to it differently! I wish you and your loved ones well 🙂 - joanna Jan 17, 2020 I think that the hardest is so treat the toxic thinking. Once you are down, it takes a lot of strength to come back up to a better mood, alone. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 29, 2020 I agree on this one, mental health is so important. When you feel defeated mentally, often it’s hard to do anything physically good for yourself, too. - Margaret | Live Like No One Else Jan 17, 2020 Wow. A very comprehensive guide. Thank you. My hubby has some chronic pain issue and I’ll make sure to save this so that I can read it to him. Thanks for sharing such a great article. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 29, 2020 You’re welcome Margaret! This article is written by a professional occupational therapist, and I like the tips too. Hope it’s helpful for a long time to come! - Shunta Jan 16, 2020 These are some great tips and great information to have and read about. Thanks for sharing - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 16, 2020 Thanks Shunta, glad you found it useful! - [ tweenselmom ](https://www.tweenselmom.com) Jan 16, 2020 Now that we are older, we feel these different kinds of chronic pain. I’m not really sure how to find occupational therapists in our area. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 16, 2020 Definitely. Age does contribute to aches and pains as well, unfortunately. I believe you can Google for them, although research, trial and error may be needed to find a good fit! - Amanda Jan 16, 2020 Very informative post! I’m currently in Physical Therapy now for my back pain. It’s definitely helping! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 16, 2020 Hi Amanda, agreed that Cynthia gave some really useful, professional tips here! I’m glad that your physical therapy sessions are helping! - Chelsea Sauve - Wandure Jan 16, 2020 These are excellent tips for those struggling with chronic pain. I quite appreciate that you provided a multitude of ways to treat the pain, from the swelling to the muscle tension. Very thorough! 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 17, 2020 Thanks Chelsea, agreed that Cynthia really dug into the pain management tips thoroughly! I hope it’s helpful for many people with or without chronic pain out there! - [ Trent peek ](https://peekatthis.com) Jan 16, 2020 What a valuable insight into chronic pain. I can’t imagine what I would do in the situation. Thanks for sharing. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 16, 2020 Hi Trent, it’s good for general knowledge, or for sharing with someone who may be in pain! An occupational or physical therapist can definitely be a valuable guide too. - Chad Jan 16, 2020 I just shared your post across my network! Although i don’t have chronic pain the information is vital for everyone that does. Thank you so much. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 16, 2020 Thanks so much for the support in raising awareness, Chad, much appreciated! Yes you never know who out there may be hurting, or needs help. Cheers. - Amanda Jan 15, 2020 This is great advice and information on how to deal with chronic pain. I agree that diet and exercise play an important role. Also, one that was mentioned that I don’t think people realize, are our emotions. Thanks for sharing this! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 16, 2020 Thanks Amanda! Cynthia wrote such a fantastic and useful post here I think! And yes, emotions and also stress play such a huge role in our bodies but are often overlooked! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Hello 2020: A Bubble Covered in Glitter. Please Don’t Pop. URL: https://achronicvoice.com/hello-2020-bubble-glitter-dont-pop/ Last updated: 2026-01-08T14:26:32.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Purging My Room (Full of Medications) My room’s in a mess. Has been for days. Trays and tubs and bags of medications lay scattered all over the floor, in sparse groups that lay divided with expiry dates. A problem that only people with chronic illness understand, with the endless changes in medications, dosages and appointment dates. I have too many spare supplies of ‘take as needed’ medications; a fear that I won’t have them when I need them. Badly. I suppose that this ritual purging of medications is something all of us with chronic illness dread and undertake every now and then. It really is a tedious chore and took me a couple of days to sort out. Then the next biggest task was up - packing supplies for 3 months. Yes, I’m getting ready to be frozen in Berlin. I’m not sure what to pack for sleepwear? *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![Hello 2020: A Bubble Covered in Glitter. Please Don’t Pop.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/hello-2020.png) Read Related Posts: - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Coming Alive in the Winter Air (Pushing for Personal Changes & Group Advocacy)](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-advocacy/) - [Winter Fun, Games & Pain with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-fun-chronic-illness/) - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) ## Seizing the Opportunity to Stay Overseas This will probably be my longest trip yet. The longest so far has been a month - a backpacking trip from Asia to Europe via the Trans-Mongolian railway, and the other was a split between China and Sri Lanka. 3 months will be pushing it — no direct access to [**my doctors**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/), hospitals and support network. My finances aren’t exactly tidy either. Irresponsible, you say. A [**dream come true**](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-new-paths-chronic-illness/), regardless. I had to seize the opportunity when it rose like a bubble covered in glitter. So precious. I hope it doesn’t pop. ### Here's to Hoping I'll Manage the Journey There I hope I’ll be able to manage three heavy luggage bags on my own. A third of the weight and space are occupied by glass bottles, boxes and packets of pills. I know I will manage - it will just be a pain in the hands and ribs that’ll take a few days to recover from. Not to worry, I’d probably need a few days to recover after a long flight anyway. My body clock is already screwed up though. I wanted to adjust it so that I wouldn’t be too exhausted when I get onto a late night flight, but I started way too early and now it’s a bit of a mess. But everything will fix itself once I arrive! I’m just going with the flow for now. It doesn’t matter so much at this point, I suppose. ## Looking Forward to Eye-Opening New Experiences It’ll be an eye-opener for me to spend a few months living somewhere during the winter season. I know I’ll love it, even if it's just for the novelty of it. I’m also curious as to what sort of winter problems I’ll encounter health-wise, in terms of pain symptoms and skin issues (my skin is already dry in the tropics, so...). But I know that I’ll adapt - that’s what we do as human beings. I haven’t planned anything. The plan is just to get there and settle down first. There’ll be plenty of time to research and check things out, I suppose! But then again, time always flies. I’ll probably visit some museums and touristy sites on the weekdays where I’m on my own. I’ll leave everything else to spontaneity, depending on how I feel. It’ll be great and I can’t wait 🙂 ## Revamping and Ramping Up My Blog I’ll also be spending a huge portion of my time there revamping and ramping up the blog, so keep an eye out for some changes! I would really love if it could finally take off as a stable stream of income, and it’d be something I’d really enjoy doing as well. So much to think about and do, but do I must. I need to stop wasting my time on the nitty gritty, and bite into this behemoth task. Like they say, *bite off more than you can chew, then chew*. ## Envisioning What My 2020 Will Look Like So that’s mostly my direction for 2020 so far. I want to combine my blog and career into one thing. And being able to start the first day of the year by setting foot in a different country is a blessing already. I hope to nurture a few important things in my life and watch them bloom - [my career](https://work.achronicvoice.com/), blog, health and relationships. Everything else is icing on the cake. It’s going to be a good year, I know it. It has to be and I want to believe in it. Sending love, positive thoughts, and peace to all my lovely friends x Thank you for reading about my chronic illness life in January 2020\. [**Continue with February 2020 here**](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-advocacy/), or [**read last month's (December 2019) entry**](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-new-paths-chronic-illness/)! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! 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I’m excited for you. Life is definitely about making the best of things, not waiting until everything is perfect – and you deserve to be happy and enjoy your adventure. Hoping your business dreams come true as you enjoy your adventures – I’m struggling myself on the whole ‘make money on your dream’ thing, but doing my best! Looking forward to hearing more! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 12, 2020 Thanks so much dear Alison! Yes I guess all we can do is try our best, and have some fingers crossed, too 😉 Wishing you all the best with 2020 too! - Cynthia Jan 9, 2020 I love that you are taking this trip without everything being “in order”. I hear that all the time. You should wait until you feel better or when your life is more stable, but when living with a chronic illness better and more stable may never come. I seriously hope you have the time of your life! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 9, 2020 Thanks so much Cynthia! And this sentence you made just makes so much sense, “but when living with a chronic illness better and more stable may never come”. So, so true. Whatever opportunities we have and can manage reasonably, we should 🙂 Sending many hugs your way! x - Naomi Jan 7, 2020 Ooh yay fantastic news! I so hope it goes as smoothly with your health as it can do. I don’t know if you tolerate/ have room for a hot water bottle but that mightn’t be a bad idea to accompany cosy pjs. When im cold on the boat I generally opt for another duvet or blanket rather than full on pjs - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 12, 2020 Thanks Naomi! I guess we can only hope for the best! So far so good though! I have a YuYu bottle with me and also a regular one, so all set! 😉 It’s been lovely so far x - [ Catherine Green ](https://spookymrsgreen.com) Jan 7, 2020 Hi Sheryl, Happy New Year! It sounds like you have a wonderful opportunity with the travelling, and I’m sure you will find a way to power through the associated health challenges, as always. I look forward to seeing how you develop the blog during the next 12 months 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 7, 2020 Thank you Catherine for your support and participation as always! I too look forward to how your year progresses through the monthly linkups and on social media. Fingers crossed it progresses well for us all! xx - Niamh Kane Jan 7, 2020 Hi Sheryl I am so excited for you! The trip sounds like a wonderful opportunity to hunker down with hot chocolate and some thermal pjs during this creative bubble that’s come along. I’m sure the heating will be super inside so you’ll survive in leggings and hoody until you find yourself wandering in lots of lovely places waiting to meet you with funky socks and boots. I hope you have such a great time, take care Niamh xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 12, 2020 Thanks Niamh! Hot chocolate has been bought, and I don’t have thermal pjs so just wearing what I’ve got with a fluffy jacket, ha! It’s been great so far though, think I might write a post about it! Sending love! - [ Anne Sweet ](https://www.raisiebay.com) Jan 6, 2020 How exciting! I hope your trip to Germany goes really well and your health holds out. Good luck with your money making ventures too. x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 7, 2020 Thanks Anne! So far so good! Some down days, of course, but everything is relaxing and I have a place to rest, so all good! 🙂 Hope you’re doing well, too! x - [ Rhiann ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com) Jan 4, 2020 Hello, once again Sheryl, Wow, it certainly sounds like your 2020 is crammed full of new adventures, opportunities and excitement. It all sounds amazing and will look forward to reading all about your exciting ventures throughout the year, as well as the changes to the blog. Wishing you all the best for this year. Rhiann x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 4, 2020 Thanks for your support as always, Rhiann! Yes so far so good…day 4 of the new year :p Fingers crossed for the rest of it! Hope we all make it through, and have some fun along the way! x - Cynthia Jan 4, 2020 Looking forward to hearing about your adventures in both your career and travels! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 4, 2020 Thanks Cynthia, you’ll probably hear bits and pieces about them via the blog and social media! Keep in touch for sure! xxx - [ Lisa Ehrman ](https://chronicallycontent.com) Jan 3, 2020 What a fun way to start the new year…in another country! I hope that these trips will be inspiring and refreshing 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 4, 2020 Thanks Lisa, I agree! Always such a treat and blessing to be able to travel, what more right on the very first day of a new year 🙂 Sending lots of hugs your way! - Nikki Albert Jan 3, 2020 I look forward to what you have planned for your blog! It is exciting to take new directions and have new ideas and plans. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 4, 2020 Hi Nikki, yes the problem is I tend to have too many ideas (some good, some average, some bad, of course!), and get consumed with ‘this is too much!’ haha. I look forward to your ventures too, you always have something new and interesting and thought provoking to read about! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Travelling New Paths with Chronic Illnesses in My Pocket URL: https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-new-paths-chronic-illness/ Last updated: 2025-11-09T17:26:11.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Exciting New Travels ### Short Bangkok Escapade Recently, I was on a fairly last minute getaway to Bangkok! It was an easy going, relaxing trip, even though my friend from Berlin booked the wrong flight and arrived a day late….. Needless to say I was a bit annoyed, especially since I took an early flight to meet him at the airport. I had to wake at 4am, when there are about 10 flights available throughout the day. In any case, I shan't complain because I know it’s a privilege to even be able to travel, and to be able to manage on my own despite the aches. With chronic illnesses we tend to need a full day to recover from any flight anyway, be it short or light haul, so I just took the day off alone to rest. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Travel & Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![Travelling New Paths with Chronic Illnesses in My Pocket](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_traveling-new-paths-4-1-2-1-1-1-1-1.png) ### Off to Berlin for a Couple Months in the New Year I will also be flying off to Berlin for a few months on a flexible ticket on New Year’s Day itself (cheapest!). Thankfully it was easy enough to reschedule all my medical appointments thanks to my supportive team of doctors, although being away from them for so long is unnerving. This will be quite the adventure for me, having always wanted to live in Europe, at least for a while. ### Travel Insurance is as B\*tch I am having problems with travel insurance, as none of them will take someone with pre-existing conditions for such a long period of time. At most it’s a month of coverage. So it’s quite a risk as well; although having read through all their policies, none of the coverages are really that great anyway, even for a healthy person, should you require admission to a hospital. My only hope is that I don’t end up in a life threatening situation at the A&E overseas, more so because of the cost than anything else. I am willing to put up with pain, the loss of my support network, and other unknowns, in exchange for this travel opportunity. Read Related Posts: - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Winter Fun, Games & Pain with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-fun-chronic-illness/) - [Coming Alive in the Winter Air (Pushing for Personal Changes & Group Advocacy)](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-advocacy/) - [A Hurried Return, but Chronic Illness’s Opening Hours Remain Unchanged](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-opening-hours/) - [Plunging Into a Sparkling Sky of Unknown Possibilities](https://achronicvoice.com/unknown-possibilities-nostalgia/) ## Bonding with My Birds I was also delighted to arrive home from Bangkok to the excited squeals from my birds. Scorcher hasn’t whistled or spoken in months, ever since he became a daddy of eight. All that frantic feeding and upbringing must have made him jaded. But that day he whistled in victory, and screamed every single word or sentence I’d ever taught him into my ear. Even shy Stella was squealing away happily. That really warmed my heart up. Birds are cuter than you’d think (and also messier)! I am going to miss them whilst in Berlin, and will try to spend more time bonding with them before I leave. ## Can’t Wait for the Cooler Rainy Season to Arrive Singapore is hot and humid year round, which I find unpleasant. I really hate the feeling of stickiness on my skin. With the arrival of the cooler, rainy season however, comes more fatigue and joint aches. I still find it more preferable however; surprisingly I find such weather soothing, not depressing. I am not sure how my body will react to Berlin’s winter, but I’m game to find out. I know I’ll need lots of hot teas, coffee, blankets and layers to keep me warm. Whilst winters may be miserable, warming up and getting cosy can be a wonderful feeling, too. Share your best chronic illness winter tips with a summer girl like me in the comments below! 😉 ## Coping with All the Things, and Possible New Things (Good and Bad!) When I go to Berlin, I will be leaving all familiarity and support behind. It will be a leap of faith, a huge change in environment and culture, and so much more. Whether I end up liking the experience or not, I am of the mindset that any experience - good or bad - is ultimately useful. Like I wrote in [**my ‘About’ page**](https://achronicvoice.com/about/), there is no such thing as useless knowledge, only complex structure. I know that I will need to be more independent whilst there in several ways. [**Singapore really spoils you with all the convenience**](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/); something I’m aware of having grown up in Hong Kong. Apart from getting around, I will need to [**learn how to cope**](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) with the cold, and also new ways of pacing. Pain will probably manifest in different ways. I also hope to make some new friends and meet many locals. All whilst still trying to build [my business](https://work.achronicvoice.com/) up and find work online. Technically my everyday computer tasks would be the same as in Singapore - work hunting, blogging, etc. But I would also like to spend some time exploring the city, vicinity and people. How much I can explore will depend on how much I manage to earn on an ad-hoc basis. As you can see, I’m going there with huge limitations, but it’s an opportunity of a lifetime that I’m not missing out on. With chronic illness, all you can do is one thing at a time, and take one step at a time. Read Related Posts: - [What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - [Invisible Cities Linkup: Pros & Cons of Living with Chronic Illness in Your City](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-cities-linkup/) - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [Keeping Up with the World: Why it’s Important Despite Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) ## Ending This Whirlwind of a Year It’s been a whirlwind of a year, and the ending is no different. Life is swirling in scattered pieces all around me; fortune cookie letters waiting to be picked and interpreted, if I can. I think I’ve reached a stage in my chronic illness life where I’m not struggling to grab a piece, or fighting to pick the piece that I want. Instead I’m just standing still, and waiting for the pieces to flutter upon my feet, whatever they may be. I will then pick them up at the right moments, and read them. Their foretelling will be obscure, as always. I only need to interpret them in a manner that’s best for me. Sure, some things are set in stone. But there is bound to be a river I can still choose to float myself down, back to the big ocean where we all finally end up in. Thank you for reading my diary entry for December 2019 🙂 You can continue with [**last month's**](https://achronicvoice.com/unknown-possibilities-nostalgia/) or [**next month's**](https://achronicvoice.com/hello-2020-bubble-glitter-dont-pop/) entries. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! 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Read Related Posts: - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness and Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [3 Reasons Why I Don’t Let Multiple Sclerosis Prevent Me from Living a Normal Life](https://achronicvoice.com/dont-let-multiple-sclerosis-prevent-normal-life/) - [I May be Chronically Ill, but I’m Also Chronically Resilient](https://achronicvoice.com/chronically-ill-resilient/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Kathy Dec 28, 2019 Sheryl, I’m excited for you in your travels! I pray that you have a great adventure with manageable health issues. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 28, 2019 Thanks Kathy! It’ll be one off the bucket list for me, and it happened without little to no planning, too! Fingers crossed it goes well. Sending you hugs and happiness for the New Year! - JacQueline Roe Dec 20, 2019 I loved hearing you are getting to go on this adventure after such a difficult year! I hope you don’t mind–I am praying for you! Also, the description of your bird now being jaded because of “kids” makes me giggle. As a mother of three, I believe he will recover given enough time–lol! 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 20, 2019 Thanks Jacqueline, that’s really sweet of you. And yes he did really grow up quickly after his kids. With one still ‘living at home’ he seems none too happy :p Haha I hope he does recover! - [ Anne ](https://www.raisiebay.com) Dec 18, 2019 One thought that struck me is that I never thought of Singapore as hot and humid. When we have summers here in the UK they are hot and humid but don’t last long. I can’t cope with feeling cold but sometimes the humidity is just too much. Well done on getting a bit of travelling in, I hope I can get travel insurance when I finally decide to to travel. Thanks for prodiving all the prompts and link ups this year, I’ve found it really helpful being given an opportunity to talk about my life and illness. x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 19, 2019 Hi Anne, me too! Apart from the linkups, I don’t think I’d write about such personal aspects about my life, though chronic illness and how we cope does seep into everything. Yea Singapore is awfully humid and I hate it, never ‘got used to it’ (what am I talking about eh…lived here half my life!). Even back in school I could never stand it, heh. When it rains but is still very hot, the aches can also be pretty bad. Sending gentle hugs xx - Cynthia Dec 18, 2019 Oh my goodness, I am so excited for you!! What an amazing adventure you have ahead of you! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 19, 2019 Thanks Cynthia, I’m really excited, too! Haven’t done something like this in ageeeees 😉 x - [ Rhiann ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com) Dec 17, 2019 Hello again Sheryl and thank you for all the inspiration and support, for not just this month but for the entire year. Taking part in your link-up parties has often been a challenge but has also been fun and a great opportunity to meet other bloggers that I may not have otherwise. Anyway, I am wishing you all the best for your upcoming trip to Berlin, and hope it is smooth sailing for you! You are so brave for venturing way outside your comfort zone, especially by yourself. I am sure that it will provide so many wonderful opportunities for you. I am sure that there will be an army there for you when in need of advice or support, especially when needing to adapt to the cold (my tip would be to remember that layering is your best friend – plenty of light layers, which is then easy to remove when getting too warm which can happen easily when in shops and other public places!) Wishing you all the best for your exciting adventures and hope it is just the start for you in 2020! Stay safe Rhiann x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 17, 2019 Thanks lovely, layers it is! 😉 It should be a fantastic experience. Something that healthy, younger Sheryl would do (and have done!) so it’s not quite ‘stepping out of my comfort zone’ perhaps 😉 I’m happy the prompts are fun and/or useful for you. I love reading your posts and everyone else’s too. Really helps to give some perspective, or kinship. Sending lots of hugs and warmth for the holidays! xxx - Jerry Dec 16, 2019 Hi Sheryl, I don’t know how you muster the courage to go for the trip. Being a chronic patient myself, vven a trip to the mall is a challenge. Can you share how you managed to psych yourself up for the trip? I wish you all the best! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 16, 2019 Hi Jerry, I understand what you mean, even taking the bus can be daunting for me on some days. I think it was partially the way I was brought up as well – my dad used to take us on trips that weren’t quite ‘ordinary’ either. Like $1 motels, and offbeat destinations. He didn’t like touristy places. So comparatively I think the Berlin trip is quite okay for me as it’s a big city 🙂 Having said that, I’m definitely worried about medical emergencies, but just don’t want it to stop me from living my life and doing what I enjoy – probably the most. Sending you well wishes! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### 3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/ Last updated: 2025-12-09T03:27:34.000Z ## Holiday Checklists — For When Chronic Illness or Life Circumstances Affect Your Holidays Negatively I've created some holiday checklists here for those with chronic illness, and those who want to lend a helping hand. Holiday seasons are a time for fun and bonding, yet they can also be stressful periods, more so for some than others. *\*Disclaimer: This post is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy page***](https://www.achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/) *for more information. Thank you!* ### Don't Forget Those Who are Struggling Over the Holiday Season Whilst many are out shopping for gifts, there are single mothers struggling to provide a simple meal for their children. Whilst many are drinking in celebration, others are drinking to drown their sorrows. Whilst many are hopping from party to party, others are under their covers crying all alone in pain. The list of contrasts doesn’t end here. Unlike others, those who live with chronic illness may find the holiday season a trying time. They might even dread instead of look forward to all the festivities. Many of them start planning a month or two in advance, just so that they will be able to 'perform their duties'. For those who have loved ones with chronic illness, perhaps you’d like to help, but have no clue on how to do so. The holiday checklists below are simple, but hopefully serve as a gentle reminder for self-care moments amidst the festivities, so that everyone has a good time! Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Holiday Checklists Boards: ![3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/3-important-checklists-chronically-ill.jpg) Read More in the Holiday & Christmas Series: - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/) - [How to Survive the Holidays When Chronic Illness & Disability Cause Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/survive-the-holidays-chronic-illness-disability-pain/) - [Curated Chronic Illness Gift Ideas for Christmas, Birthdays & Other Occasions!](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-gift-ideas/) - [All I Want for Christmas is Some Pain Relief! (Real Wish List Ideas from 13 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/all-i-want-for-christmas-pain-relief/) ## Holiday Checklist 1: What to Do with Chronic Illness, Before the Holiday Festivities Go Into Full Swing - **Schedule in Time for Breaks.** Have you [**scheduled in some rest time both before and after each activity**](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/)? It's easy to become absorbed in all the fun and festivities. But chronic illness has a way of demanding payback later. Don't fear it, but don't neglect pacing your energy levels. - **Ration Your Energy Wisely.** Will this dish, decor, routine or task really make a big difference? Is it worth spending your limited energy supply on, or is there an easier alternative? - **Decide What Your Priorities are.** Is this obligation a necessary one to fulfil? Or would it be better to spend that energy on something more meaningful instead? - **Simplify and Improvise.** Is this a task you can simplify? Instead of creating something from scratch, perhaps part of it can be pre-made? Instead of hauling a pile of groceries or presents home, perhaps you can shop online? - **Delegate and Channel the Holiday Spirit.** [**Are there any tasks you can delegate**](https://achronicvoice.com/splitting-your-burdens/) to someone else who’s willing to help out? Don’t feel bad about it, especially if they offered assistance. [**They will be happy to help**](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/), and your body will thank you for it. It’s the season of giving for everyone, after all! - **Pack Your Medications Beforehand.**I’m sure every person with chronic illness has a [**pouch in their bags that contains medications**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/). Both emergency and daily regular ones. Ensure that your medications aren’t expired, and are easy to access should you need to find a pill. - **Don’t Forget Your Comfort Tools.** Comfort tools don’t have to be anything fancy, and can make a big difference in helping you to cope. Perhaps a [**hot water bottle**](https://achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-review/), a pair of [**migraine glasses**](https://achronicvoice.com/axon-optics-eyewear-migraine-pain-relief/), or even essential oils. [**Things that help to relieve your mind and body**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) of some stress, pressure and chronic pain. - **Rope in a Lookout Buddy.** Do you have someone to look out for you? Especially someone who’s familiar with your chronic illness and its pre-flare symptoms? An extra pair of eyes that will notice should you be overdoing things, or if you get a little confused? If you don’t, you can also run a trustworthy person through your ‘chronic illness emergency protocol’. - **Know Your Exit Plan, in Case You Need to Leave at a Moment’s Notice.** In the event where you need to leave early due to chronic illness, what will your ‘exit plan’ be? Do you need to label or put your gifts somewhere first? Do you need to have a plastic bag, essential oil, or medication on hand for sudden symptoms? Pin to Your Chronic Illness Holiday Checklist & Infographic Boards: ![Chronic Illness Holiday Checklist #1 Infographic — What to do with chronic illness, before the holiday festivities go into full swing!](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-holiday-checklist-1-what-to-do-before-holiday-festivities-infographic.jpg) ## Holiday Checklist 2: Self-Care To Dos Whilst Attending an Event with Chronic Illness - **Check in with Yourself Every Hour or So.** Are you drinking enough water? How are you feeling? If you notice a decline in your health or mind, do something to make yourself feel better. For example, lie down on the sofa, rub on some essential oils, or simply take your leave. Set an alarm if it helps you to remember. - **Ignore the Ignorant. Focus on Creating Good Memories Instead.** If someone is making ignorant remarks about your chronic illness, remember that you [**don’t have time or energy for this nonsense**](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/). Their fleeting, thoughtless comment is not worth your health or anger. Spend it on creating good memories that you can treasure and keep instead. - **Keep Breathing!** Take some time every now and then to [**steady and destress yourself through your breath**](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/). It’s beneficial for your mind, body, spirit and emotions! - **Keep Listening to Your Body and Adapt Accordingly.** Are you feeling safe, assured and comfortable? If not, what can you do to feel more relaxed and thus, last longer with less backlash pain? [**Chronic illness and mental health can go in a vicious cycle**](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/). So don’t forget to pay attention to both aspects, and assess what you can do to help yourself to feel better. It doesn’t have to be complicated. Sometimes a [**shift in perspective can make all the difference**](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/). - **Speak Up and** [**Self-Advocate**](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) If you’re slightly unwell but still would like to join in the festivities, then voice it out. For example, you can always sit and watch others play games, without having to participate in them physically. Read Related Posts: - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [You Don't Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) - [Are You a Capable Person? What Does That Even Mean?](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) - [A String of Bad Days (and What Happened When That Good Day Finally Came Along)](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) Pin to Your Holiday Checklist, Self-Care & Infographics Boards: ![Holiday Checklist #2 Infographic — Self-care to dos whilst attending an event with chronic illness.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklist-2-self-care-to-dos-attending-event-chronic-illness-infographic.jpg) ## Holiday Checklist 3 (For the Supporters): What You Can Do to Support Those with Chronic Illness - **Don't Wait for Those with Chronic Illness to Ask for Help.** Offer to be their ‘lookout buddy’. You don’t always have to wait for someone to ask for help. Often when a chronically ill person does so, it’s because they’re at their wits’ end already. [**Be their personal advocate**](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/). Ask them for permission to bug them often with questions like, ‘how are you feeling?’, or ‘is there anything you need help with?’. - **Offer to be Their Kitchen or Cooking Assistant.** Even for those without chronic illnesses, chopping, slicing, dicing and washing up can be a lot of effort. For someone who’s chronically ill, this can lead to extra chronic pain and flare ups. You don’t need to be a kitchen wizard to help out with such chores, so go ahead and ask if you can be of help! - **Offer to Do Their Christmas Shopping or Groceries for Them.** Get a list of items to buy, and go for it! Shopping for presents or groceries can be tedious tasks even on regular days. The [**extra precautions needed to be taken due to the COVID-19 pandemic**](https://achronicvoice.com/covid-19-vaccine-experiences/) can make such escapades even more exhausting. You can also help to sanitise and put their groceries away, which may take them hours to do on their own. That leaves them with little energy left for the rest of the day. Another alternative is to help purchase all their gift items online or offline in one go. Chronic pain can make sitting and/or typing at the computer exhausting as well. - **Set them at ease.** Tell them jokes, chat and gossip. Relieve them of the worries that are probably playing on repeat in their minds. And yes, you can talk to a person with chronic illness like a normal person. Chances are, they’ll appreciate that a great deal! - **Offer to Keep an Eye on the Kids or Pets.** Children and pets will ultimately be their parents’ responsibility, but you can help lighten some of the load. Children are full of energy and questions. Maybe you can burn that off by running around with them, and help to satiate their curious minds. It’s your chance to be that cool aunt or uncle 😉 - **Offer to Take Them Outside for a Short Breather.** Holiday events can be boisterous, chaotic and noisy. Sounds, scents and lights can be triggers for those with chronic illness, whether mentally or physically. For example, bright lights can trigger a migraine, scents (even the good ones!) can trigger a mast cell flare, and sounds can worsen anxiety. All combined, the cognitive cost of being in such an environment will drain their energy supply quickly – no matter what chronic illness they have. So ask if they’d like to go out for some fresh air every now and then. Take your friend or loved one with chronic illness some place quiet to re-stabilise, before rejoining the crowd. Chances are, they would really appreciate that. - **Help Them to Conserve Their Physical Energy.** Minimise their need for movement, as this can add up quickly. On a normal day some movement is probably good for them. But attending an event is already an exhausting activity in and of itself, when you have chronic illness in tow. Let them chill out on the sofa whilst you serve up some yummy delicacies, if they can eat them! - **Treat Them Like a Normal Guest.** Seriously, I love it when people treat me like a normal person. It makes me feel the most welcomed, understood and comfortable. When people hesitate to ask me questions, or treat me with special attention all the time, it can get awkward. It makes me feel like a child who is incapable of caring for herself. Read Related Posts: - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [What’s It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) - [The Art of Supporting: Sometimes That Means Letting Go](https://achronicvoice.com/supporting-sometimes-letting-go/) - [Kick Ass With Kindness and a Sweet Cherry on Top](https://achronicvoice.com/kick-ass-with-kindness/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Support, Caregiving & Infographic Boards: ![Holiday Checklist #3 Infographic (For the Supporters) — What you can do to support those with chronic illness during the festive season.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklist-3-support-chronic-illness-festive-season-infographic.jpg) ## Conclusion to the Chronic Illness Holiday Checklists Series I wanted to say ‘treat those with chronic illness with an extra sprinkle of thoughtfulness’. But thinking about it, shouldn’t we treat everyone that way regardless? Merry Christmas and happy holidays to all! I hope that these holiday checklists were useful both to those with chronic illness and their supporters. End the year as best as you can, wherever you are in life. Do you have more tips to add to these lists? I’d love to hear from you in the comments below. And don't forget to check [**the rest of the holiday series at the top of this post**](#xmas-series)! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. More Insight From Other Chronic Illness Bloggers: - [5 ways you can support a loved one with chronic illness during the holidays](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/managing-chronic-illness-holidays/) - [Your Mindful Guide to Surviving the Holiday Season With a Chronic Illness](https://skillfullywell.com/2017/12/06/your-mindful-guide-to-surviving-the-holiday-season-with-a-chronic-illness/) - [Surviving the Festive Season With a Chronic UTI](https://www.chronicutiaustralia.org.au/surviving-the-festive-season-with-a-chronic-uti/) Pin to Your Christmas, Self-Care & Chronic Illness Boards: ![3 Important Holiday Checklists For Those With Chronic Illness And Their Supporters](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/3-important-checklists-chronic-illness-supporters.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Sue Jackson ](https://Live%20with%20ME/CFS) Dec 20, 2021 Wow, another outstanding post, Sheryl! You’ve packed in so many great tips here. I especially like “Ignore the ignorant.” I SO need to train myself to do that and not let those who don’t get it ruin my holiday. I included this post on my round-up of chronic illness holiday blog posts: [https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/2021/12/weekly-inspiration-chronic-illness.html ](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/2021/12/weekly-inspiration-chronic-illness.html) Hope you enjoy the season! Sue - Holly B Nov 18, 2021 Fantastic tips and advice! We all love to be involved and participate in the holidays and I always overdo! Thank you for sharing your Insight! Happy holidays!! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 25, 2021 Thank you Holly! We all definitely do as chronically ill people I think… who doesn’t want to participate in the fun and festivities, right!? Wishing you a happy holiday too! - Scout Dec 24, 2020 This is a really good checklist. I think sometimes we forget that all illness has a (however mild) knock-on effect in several directions, back and forth. It’s important to be mindful and work together. Hope you have a great holiday season. I’m certainly looking forward to relaxing after eating a bit too much turkey tomorrow! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 25, 2020 Ooh boy, I’d love to have some nice, fresh, roasted turkey now! And yes, anything stress related – the good or bad kind – will induce pain flares regardless. Pace well and have a happy holiday! - Katie Clark Nov 13, 2020 I love that you added a list for the family and friends of those living with chronic illness. That has been the main change for me. I have given up many of my duties. My daughter is now hosting Thanksgiving at her house. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 25, 2020 Thanks Katie! I think lots of times people want to help but just don’t know how as it can be a sensitive topic, or they might feel awkward, or afraid to make us feel awkward! So I guess spelling it out in this case helps! 😉 I’m glad your daughter helps you out x - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Nov 11, 2020 I love the extra checklists and add-ons that you’ve added to this article, Sheryl. Really well done! Enjoy your holidays! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 11, 2020 Thanks Carrie! Just a refresh from last year to make it an even better resource for all! Enjoy yourself, too! - Amber Killmon Dec 23, 2019 This is a great checklist. I can see it definitely coming in handy for anyone with chronic illness or anyone who cares for someone with a chronic illness - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 23, 2019 Thanks Amber! I do hope it’s useful for chronic illness people! It can be realllly easy to fall into the trap of overdoing once you get started! Have a great season! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 25, 2020 Thanks Amber! And there are three, for different parts of the holiday season, since it’s not really a one day one off thing! Wishing you a merry season! - katrina Kroeplin Dec 21, 2019 great list. i have a few chronic illnesses that have made me disabled. i always do too much around the holidays and it’s so hard. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 22, 2019 I hear you. It can be difficult in both the stress and excitement of it all! Really hard to keep a happy balance, especially when it changes every minute! Hope it’s a good one for you this year! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 25, 2020 I am sorry to hear that, Katrina. I hope there are bits of the holidays that you still are able to enjoy. Pacing really is important, as well as narrowing it down to what matters most to you. Sending joy this season! - [ Yeah Lifestyle ](https://www.yeahlifestyle.com) Dec 20, 2019 As someone without chronic illness, I did not know so much thought process goes into a holiday planning, it is eye opening for me to read this and be more aware of others and their needs - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 20, 2019 Thanks for taking the time to read and consider us invisible illness folks! 😉 We definitely appreciate people like you. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 25, 2020 Thank you for taking the time to read and comment. Yes I think when you live with a chronic illness, life revolves around a whole load of planning! - [ Catherine ](https://livingthegourmet.com/) Dec 19, 2019 Very thoughtful post and beautiful list of reminders this season. Have a very merry Christmas and blessed New Year! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 20, 2019 Thanks Catherine, and Merry CHristmas and New Year to you and your loved ones too! - [ Ashley R ](https://www.swiftfit.net/) Dec 19, 2019 This is such a sweet and thoughtful post. I am thankful that no one I know has any chronic illnesses. It humbles me. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 22, 2019 Thanks Ashley. I am glad that you don’t know anyone with chronic illnesses, either! Though there are actually many with chronic pain around, but they just don’t speak up, in workplaces and such 🙂 Sending good thoughts for the season! - Dan "Jay" Reyes Dec 19, 2019 It’s really hard for people with chronic illnesses to deal with everyday stressors, especially during the holidays. It’s nice of you to give your tips on this subject. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 20, 2019 Thanks Dan! I hope these tips are helpful not just to those with chronic illnesses, but also their loved ones, or anyone who wants to be part of the ‘team’. It’s the season for it after all 🙂 - [ Kat&Phil ](https://www.stayingafloatblog.com) Dec 19, 2019 Really, truly appreciate what you did here! You’ve compiled a great list with some highly valid questions. It’s crazy how much pressure we put on ourselves this time of year. Thanks for the reminder to take a step back and re-evaluate. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 20, 2019 Yes insane isn’t it, all that unnecessary pressure to keep up with the Jones’! Thanks for reading, taking a step back for anyone is definitely a good idea! 😉 - Michelle J Cantu Dec 19, 2019 What an important checklist. It’s hard to imagine what one goes through, but you really helped put it all into perspective. I hope your holidays are bright and you are enjoying them. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 20, 2019 Thanks Michelle, am glad you found it helpful. Hopefully it’s some good reminders for any event or season as well! - Cristina Petrini Dec 18, 2019 It will be a beautiful but delicate Christmas for me, my mom was operated on two months ago and I want her to enjoy the holidays without being too stressed if this were the case, her recovery situation would only worsen. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 19, 2019 I am sorry to hear about the operation. I hope it went well and that she’s recovering nicely. Sending well wishes for the holidays, and a stress-free one as much as is possible! - [ Amelia ](https://youcanalwaysstartnow.wordpress.com/) Dec 17, 2019 Great post that we should all be aware of. I think a lot applies to everyone being overwhelmed especially during the holidays. Lower expectations that we have to “do it all”. Love you give us ways to be more aware and ideas. Happy Holidays. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 19, 2019 Thanks so much as always, Amelia! Yes these ideas are definitely applicable to one and all in order to take care of your self during this busy, often stressful season! - Kim Young Dec 13, 2019 These are wonderful checklists – I always have an “exit” plan too 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 14, 2019 Thanks Kim, exit plans can really help in many ways – no regrets, ‘should haves’, less anxiety, saving energy for what matters, etc. 🙂 - Kathy Dec 11, 2019 Great lists, Sheryl! Now to actually put them into practice. I overdid myself for Thanksgiving last month. I need to pick simpler food options or ask for help. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 13, 2019 Thanks Kathy, hope they’re helpful! Oh dear, it’s really difficult to not overdo, so much self-awareness is needed, and even so! Sending hugs and hope your symptoms ease up in time to enjoy some of Christmas! xxx - Naomi Dec 9, 2019 Socialising is definitely my top struggle so good idea on the buddy. I thought I’d planned in rest last year but one day off in between three different events, two of them two day-ers was no where near enough. This year things are looking a lot more simple and spread out 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 9, 2019 That sounds like a good idea to spread things out a bit more! It’s less celebrated here in Singapore – still celebrated but I don’t think to the levels in Western countries, so it’s a little bit easier to pace. Sending happy wishes and have a good one! - [ Carole ](https://fibroflutters.com) Dec 9, 2019 Hi Sheryl This will appear in today’s #chronicillnessVOICE (9 Dec) which goes live at 11 am UK time. Great infographics for us to use, thank you and wishing you wellness as always Carole FibroFlutters - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 9, 2019 Thanks so much Carole, hope it helps someone out there 😀 - [ Claire ](https://ourfavouritejar.home.blog/2019/12/05/a-christmas-extravaganza-at-waddesdon-manor/) Dec 8, 2019 Such great advice for all those with Chronic illness, I have pinned this as it is so informative x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 8, 2019 Thanks Claire, happy you pinned them. Hope they are helpful to you and others! 🙂 - [ Despite Pain ](https://www.despitepain.com) Dec 7, 2019 These are fantastic lists for both the chronic illness person and for their friends/family. Christmas can be difficult, so having checklists like these are ideal. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 7, 2019 Thank you, yes the holiday season requires so much more extra pacing for us, and the people around us can be thrown into confusion, too! Checklists can help that little bit 🙂 - Cynthia Dec 7, 2019 Fabulous check lists!!!! Wishing you a lovely holiday season! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 7, 2019 Thanks lovely, wishing you a lovely one, too! x - Dawn Dec 22, 2018 Thank you for this! I also have a chronic “invisible” illness. I’m very thankful that it doesn’t cause me pain, but I do find that I get tired more easily than I used to. Mostly, this is a frustration for me, not others, but so many entries on this list apply in that I need to remember to be kind to myself as well as others! Have a very happy holiday! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 22, 2018 You’re welcome, Dawn! No matter how severe our health conditions are, self-care is very important, especially during such a busy period! Have a happy holiday too! - [ Jo ](https://teaandcakeforthesoul.wordpress.com) Dec 21, 2018 Great post. We really do all need to think more of ourselves than what’s expected. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 22, 2018 Hi Jo, yes indeed! It all works out to the benefit of all in the end 🙂 - [ Verla ](https://treesmendus.com) Dec 21, 2018 A brilliant and comprehensive list Sheryl! I am going to share wide. A great help for me personally. Happy Christmas. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 22, 2018 Thanks Verla, hope it does help some out there, and thank you so much for sharing! Happy Christmas to you too! - [ Jenny ](https://trippingthroughtreacle.com) Dec 19, 2018 Fantastic checklist Sheryl, thanks so much for this! It is such a good reminder as I try and ‘push through’ so often but the tips are great to help me pace myself 🙂 Happy holidays! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 20, 2018 Thanks Jenny! Hope it helps us all get through the season and emerge with less flare ups 😉 Happy holidays to you, too! x - [ Claire Saul ](https://www.painpalsblog.com) Dec 19, 2018 Fab checklist, Sheryl! I have shared this on my PainPals blog regular feature “Monday Magic”, Happy Christmas, Claire x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 19, 2018 Thanks so much as always, Claire. Have a wonderful Christmas, too! x - [ Rachel, The Invisible Hypothyroidism ](https://theinvisiblehypothyroidism.com) Dec 19, 2018 Brilliant checklist for this time of year. Thank you. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 19, 2018 Thanks Rachel, I’m glad it’s a helpful guide so that we can all gather and at least enjoy the season a little! - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Dec 18, 2018 Such fantastic, practical things to keep in mind, especially with the checklist about things to take with you when you go out (I find with Christmas and more stress and things on my mind my brain gets foggier and I forget these things more easily)! I also love the suggestions for others who want to help. So often others won’t know how to help, and we may be stuck for ways they could. Brilliant post 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 18, 2018 Thanks so much, Caz, glad it was helpful! Yes brain fog can really mess things up (I actually had a nightmare about brain fog last night, ha!), so lists and preparation can make a big difference during events 🙂 And there are many ways we can all help each other but I suppose if you’ve never suffered from a condition before, it can be difficult to know if it really is the right thing to do as well 🙂 Have a lovely Christmas dearie! - [ Susie Lindau ](https://susielindau.com) Dec 17, 2018 Great tips for everyone! What’s a spoonie? It’s in the title. Maybe you could add a definition to the first paragraph for ignorant people like me. LOL! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 17, 2018 Thanks for pointing that out, Susie! Thought I updated the title but thanks to you, I just updated it again 🙂 It’s just a term for someone with chronic illness, and is based on something called the ‘spoon theory’: [https://butyoudontlooksick.com/articles/written-by-christine/the-spoon-theory/ ](https://butyoudontlooksick.com/articles/written-by-christine/the-spoon-theory/) - [ Fiona Maclean ](https://www.london-unattached.com/) Dec 17, 2018 These tips are good for me too! I’m a little bit older now and just don’t have the same energy levels. I hope you have a wonderful Christmas - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 18, 2018 Thanks Fiona, glad they’re useful for you too 🙂 Yes energy levels for me are a huge struggle with chronic illness too (many of us feel like old folks ;)). Hope you have a wonderful Christmas too! - Cza Dec 29, 2017 I read through this and I definitely agree. This holiday season was my partner’s and my first time getting presents entirely on our own, and spending hours after work shopping to look for everyone’s gifts. I really had to be mindful of my partner’s condition and the way he was feeling. Stress often exacerbates his epilepsy. Also I didn’t want his synovitis to flare up due to having to walk too far. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 17, 2018 That’s great that you’re both keeping an eye out for each other 🙂 Go slow and steady, and I wish you a very happy holiday! - Shellie Dec 26, 2017 Love this list! Thank you!! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 26, 2017 Happy it was helpful! 🙂 Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! x - Emma England Dec 22, 2017 Great checklists Sheryl! I hope you have a very happy Christmas (and it’s not too exhausting!), and all the very best for 2018 xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 22, 2017 Thanks for reading and sharing, Emma! Sending you much love for the rest of the holiday seasons! x **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/ Last updated: 2025-12-09T04:03:53.000Z ## When a Surprise Becomes a Disaster — Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses I’m a big fan of samples, which makes Christmas gifts or other exchanges a pleasure. I love trying out new textures, sniffing new scents, and figuring out if the latest product on the block is a fad or of true value. Yet, samples might be dangerous gifts for those with chronic illness. It may be their worst nightmare, and I’m not speaking solely from a perspective of mere taste or habit. Certain products can actually be physically harmful or triggering for people with various chronic illnesses. In this post I will list down some of my favourite presents to receive, but people you should never, ever give them to. Not even to ‘try out a little bit and see’. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Read More in the Holiday & Christmas Series: - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) - [How to Survive the Holidays When Chronic Illness & Disability Cause Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/survive-the-holidays-chronic-illness-disability-pain/) - [Curated Chronic Illness Gift Ideas for Christmas, Birthdays & Other Occasions!](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-gift-ideas/) - [All I Want for Christmas is Some Pain Relief! (Real Wish List Ideas from 13 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/all-i-want-for-christmas-pain-relief/) Pin to Your Holiday & Dangerous Gifts Boards: ![Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illness (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronnic-illness-gift-ideas-swap.jpg) ## Dangerous Gifts #1: Perfumes I’ll start with a landmine topic. I love perfumes, and it used to be a hobby of mine when I could still afford it whilst working full-time. I’d order samples online, and sniff odours from past, present and future. You can check out [my Fragrantica profile](https://www.fragrantica.com/member/312880/) here, where I used to review, search for and classify my favourite perfumes. You know the feeling of seeming a little ‘naked’ when you forget something before leaving the house, whether it’s a watch or your phone? Yeah, I never leave the house without spraying on a perfume that matches my mood. It’s almost like a precursor as to how you might expect interactions with me to be like for the day or night. The following perfumes were gifts, and are also my current favourite gotos: [Maison Francis Kurkdjian’s Oud Silk Mood](https://www.amazon.com/Maison-Francis-Kurkdjian-Extrait-Parfum/dp/B0CVJNV6CF?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=cd0800613271dafa6aa2935ea3bdb835&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), [Frederic Malle’s Portrait of A Lady](https://www.amazon.com/Portrait-Lady-Parfum-1-69-oz/dp/B074YDKQBP?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=39e95bc5dfc2ae84498f524584101395&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), [Jo Malone’s Velvet Rose and Oud](https://www.amazon.com/Jo-Malone-Cologne-Intense-Originally/dp/B008HDB7LI?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=a9e9f778ed20e6d2df2d5b58120c868c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), and [Guerlain’s Rose Barbare](https://www.guerlain.com/sg/en-sg/p/lart-la-matiere-rose-barbare-eau-de-parfum-P017912.html). Whilst rose scents tend to be associated with ‘old lady’ perfumes, the chemistry fits with my own body’s, and I love it when it’s combined with oud. ### Never, Ever Give Perfumes To... Whilst I love perfumes as gifts, some would absolutely dread it. Have you heard of people with [Mast Cell Activation Syndrome](https://www.aaaai.org/conditions-and-treatments/related-conditions/mcas) (MCAS)? They’re basically allergic to most of the world. Anything can trigger an [anaphylaxis reaction](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/8619-anaphylaxis) (a full blown allergic reaction), which can even lead to death. From reading blogs of people with MCAS over the years, I’ve learned that scents are one of their biggest triggers. Scents can also trigger flare ups in other chronic illnesses such as [ME/CFS](https://www.cdc.gov/me-cfs/about/index.html) and [migraine](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/migraine-headache/symptoms-causes/syc-20360201). Scents are also something that’s almost unavoidable in public spaces. Being trapped in an elevator in a shroud of noxious perfume, or getting a deadly sniff of poison when you turn a street corner sounds like a scary way to live. Perfumes were made to highlight your personality, make you smell good, and freshen up the air around you. Never thought that they could be such dangerous gifts, did you? If you still want to share your love for perfumes with them in some other way, a good book might be an ideal alternative. This is [one of my favourite books about the chemistry and science of perfume making](https://www.amazon.com/Secret-Scent-Adventures-Perfume-Science/dp/0061133841?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=929ce04504e6e5a509333a8cad3c897f&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). Fascinating, to say the very least. Here is a list of some of my favourite advocates and their blogs, where they share their experiences with scents, and the horror they can bring: Read Related Posts from Other Chronic Illness Bloggers: - [Through the Fibro Fog: Living with MCAS (Mast Cell Activation Syndrome)](https://www.throughthefibrofog.com/living-mcas/) - [Hell's Bells & Mast Cells: How to Tell Someone They Smell](https://hellsbellsandmastcells.com/2019/07/23/how-to-tell-someone-they-smell/) - Sara Russell: [How scents and fragrance can harm you](https://buildnurturerestore.com/scents/) Read Related Posts on the Blog: - [Invisible in Florence: Life with Chronic Illness in Italy](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-florence-chronic-illness-italy/) - [4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [An Anaphylaxis Reaction in Between Shady Years](https://achronicvoice.com/anaphylaxis-rituximab/) - [Mainstream: Can You Talk to Us About ME? (There are Enough ‘Normal’ Health Tips to Go Around Already)](https://achronicvoice.com/mainstream-me-health-tips/) ## Dangerous Gifts #2: Hand Creams, Body Lotions & Makeup Christmas is the season where I receive the most hand cream, body lotion and makeup as gifts, and I love it! I am by nature a curious person, even when it comes to minor things like ‘how does this smell or feel like?’. In fact, I apply a different scented hand and body lotion every night before I go to bed, once again based on my mood. You can see a pattern of how I use scents to represent how I feel and lift my mood by now! Textures also matter a great deal. You’d think that I’d be used to stickiness and greasiness by now, living in a humid climate like Singapore, but I haven’t. Whilst my skin has a tendency to be dry, I still prefer textures that are on the more fluid side. I've gotten used to oils by now as well. My skin is also discoloured as a side effect of hydroxychloroquine and other medications, so using vitamin C serums help quite a bit. I am currently using [Alphascience's Tannic \[CF\] Serum](https://www.amazon.com/TANNIC-Serum-Appearance-Preservative-Free-Fragrance-Free/dp/B071DSDP9S?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c99a174c249dce4284da1b348311b89c&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) as recommended by my facial therapist, and find that it really helps with the discoulouration and dullness. And with it being the festive season, makeup items can be such fun with all the colours and packaging - from classy to chic to sweet! It's always fun for me to try a new brand or product, and you can never have too many lipsticks, I say! My current favourite is [Givenchy’s “Le Rouge Deep Velvet Lipstick” collection](https://www.givenchybeauty.com/us/p/le-rouge-deep-velvet-matte-lipstick-F20100096.html) \- the colours are gorgeous and suit my skin tone, and they don’t smudge so easily. Do note that they have various textures in this series, such as satin and sheer, but my favourite is always matte. [MAC lipsticks](https://www.amazon.com/s?k=MAC+lipstick&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=0f49a0ddc6080e3bbcfb1e49c8830516&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) are also always a good default choice, with their incredible range of colours! I’ve also gotten a few free sticks using their [‘Back to MAC’ recycling programme](https://www.maccosmetics.com/back-to-mac). All you need to do is collect and return six of their products to receive a free lipstick of your choice. I also use a lip balm mostly at night before bed, because my lips dry out easily from Sjögren’s disease. My current goto for this nightly affair is the “Rose Deep Hydration Petal-Soft Lip Balm” from Fresh. Some of my other favourites are [Laneige’s lip sleeping mask](https://www.amazon.com/Laneige-Sleeping-Berry/dp/B07XXPHQZK?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=8fb2cbd1a8c2e11647f69c2f18c71bd7&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) and [Mario Badescu’s moisturising lip balm](https://www.amazon.com/Mario-Badescu-Rose-Balm-0-35/dp/B07QX69FNJ?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=018805f2a07907182377fb08e863c779&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). Read Related Posts: - [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/) - [3 Types of Chronic Pain that Sound Bearable, but are Not](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-bearable-not/) - [11 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [Appearances – the First Layer of Defense](https://achronicvoice.com/appearances-first-layer-defense/) - [We Want to Have Fun Just Like You, But Here’s What it Takes](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/) ### Hand Creams, Body Lotions & Makeup are Dangerous Gift Ideas For... Once again, people with MCAS are at high risk, so avoid giving such gifts entirely. Anything applicable can also be harmful to people with [skin allergies](https://acaai.org/allergies/types/skin-allergies), or autoimmune disorders such as [psoriasis](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/psoriasis/symptoms-causes/syc-20355840) and [Discoid Lupus](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/21808-discoid-lupus). The best thing you can do is to show up for them or visit them, without using any scented products at all. Of course, they need to shower and maintain their bodies as well, so if you want to give them gifts in this category, be sure to check with them first. Generally products that are as natural, organic and ‘free from’ are best. Scrutinise the ingredient list - the lesser the better, and the items should be pronounceable. Whilst you may want to surprise them, all parties would probably receive more joy if you checked to see if these are dangerous gifts for them beforehand. ## Dangerous Gifts #3: Clothing & Jewellery Clothing and accessories can be tricky to purchase even for the average person. There's the matter of style preference, then size, which can vary slightly for every brand. I do admit that some of my favourite presents have been earrings, necklaces and bags however. Usually these are classic designs that won’t fail you. I also love receiving the occasional dress or accessory from friends who snapped them up, because ‘it reminded them of me’! ### Clothing & Jewellery are Bad Gift Ideas For... People with [sensitive skin, allergies or immune disorders](https://www.aaaai.org/tools-for-the-public/conditions-library/allergies/allergic-skin-conditions) such as psoriasis, allodynia, or eczema might not be able to handle such gifts, even if they liked the styles. The culprits can include textures or chemicals used to make them. Nickel is a common skin allergen, and so is latex. Apart from materials, temperature sensitivities can also be a trigger. Some chronic illnesses that could be affected by heat or cold - sometimes drastically so - are: [Dysautonomia](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/6004-dysautonomia) and [Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome](https://www.ninds.nih.gov/health-information/disorders/postural-tachycardia-syndrome-pots) (POTS), ME/CFS, Migraine Disorder, [Erythromelalgia](https://rarediseases.info.nih.gov/diseases/6377/erythromelalgia) and [Myasthenia Gravis](https://www.ninds.nih.gov/health-information/disorders/myasthenia-gravis). Clothing and jewellery can still make for pretty and practical gifts, but you may want to check with your loved one if they have any related sensitivities first. Here’s a list of blogs and sites that do a better job than I can to explain and illustrate some of these conditions: Chronic Illness Blogs That Share More About Hypersensitivity & Painful Touch: - [Kate the Almost Great: POTS and Heat Intolerance](https://katethealmostgreat.com/pots-and-heat-intolerance/) - [Live with CFS: Another Diagnosis: Erythromelalgia](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/2016/11/another-diagnosis-erythromelalgia.html) - [Top Lady Talks on Chronic Illness Bloggers: Finding Clothes as a Wheelchair User](https://chronicillnessbloggers.com/2019/04/08/accesiblefashiom/) - [The Spoonie Mummy on Chronic Illness Bloggers: Dressing with an Ostomy](https://chronicillnessbloggers.com/2019/06/10/dressing-with-an-ostomy/) Read Related Posts: - [Wound Care & What to Wear After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery/) - [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [After Surgery Care at Home: Hygiene Resources](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) ## Dangerous Gifts #4: Food, Snacks & Dessert Aren't these usually the sweetest of treats? I find pleasure in eating, especially when there's excellent company involved. Gathering over food always makes for some of the best memories, I feel. Whether it’s a fancy meal, a delicious cocktail at the bar, or even a hot kebab at the corner of the street, way past midnight. And yes, desserts are a must! ### Who Not to Give Food Items as Gifts To... Unfortunately, there is a long list of people with various types of chronic illnesses whom food affects for different reasons. They could be living with: [**esophageal disorders**](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/), [Inflammatory Bowel Disease](https://www.cdc.gov/inflammatory-bowel-disease/about/) (IBD), [Celiac Disease](https://medlineplus.gov/celiacdisease.html), [Familial Adenomatous Polyposis](https://medlineplus.gov/genetics/condition/familial-adenomatous-polyposis/) (FAP), [food allergies or intolerances](https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/conditionsandtreatments/food-allergy-and-intolerance), [Diabetes](https://medlineplus.gov/diabetes.html), [Gastroparesis](https://gi.org/topics/gastroparesis/), [**Antiphospholipid Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) or something else. Food can be the biggest bane of their lives as eating something incompatible - even a tiny speck - can cause pain. It can send their bodies into a pain flare that takes weeks or even months to recover from. Each of these disorders are complex, with varying symptoms and triggers. I won't dive into detail for the purpose of this post, but here is a quick overview of some of the more common ones: - **For Celiacs/Coeliacs:** Even a crumb of gluten can cause them to [go into a pain flare (aka ‘glutened’)](https://www.verywellhealth.com/what-does-it-feel-like-when-you-get-glutened-562469), with [cross-contamination](https://www.coeliac.org.uk/information-and-support/your-gluten-free-hub/home-of-gluten-free-recipes/new-to-gluten-free-cooking/cross-contamination/) as a major source of the problem. Such contamination can even be found in their own homes, or restaurants that claim to be gluten-friendly. All it takes is for the same pot, pan or toaster to be used with a product that contains a tiny bit of gluten, for a person with Celiac Disease to become ill. Remember that going gluten-free **IS NOT** a fad or fashion statement for Celiacs. Their lives depend on it. If you do purchase food items for them, then you need to understand that there are [varying degrees of ‘gluten-free’](https://nationalceliac.org/celiac-disease-questions/understanding-gluten-levels/), which means that the product isn’t necessarily safe for your friend with Celiac Disease. [Food labels](https://www.fda.gov/food/food-labeling-nutrition/questions-and-answers-gluten-free-food-labeling-final-rule) can be tricky and mean many different things. There are a few organisations that [certify products as being gluten-free](https://www.verywellfit.com/certified-gluten-free-products-562767), which according to the FDA, has to contain less than 20ppm of gluten. Check for these certifications and always ensure that the packets have a quality seal. Here are some great bloggers with Celiac Disease. Read about their life experiences as they navigate life in a gluten-filled world – from eating out to misconceptions, and even kissing! Bloggers with Celiac Disease & Their Life Experiences: - [Casey the College Celiac: Please Know What Celiac Disease Is Not](http://caseythecollegeceliac.blogspot.com/2019/05/please-know-what-celiac-disease-is-not.html) - [Casey the College Celiac: 9 Ways You Can See My Invisible Illness, Celiac Disease](http://caseythecollegeceliac.blogspot.com/2017/10/9-ways-see-invisible-illness-celiac-disease-symptoms.html) - [Chronically Gluten Free: 5 Surprising Things You Didn’t Know Contained Gluten](https://chronicallyglutenfree.com/2018/03/5-things-didnt-know-contained-gluten/) Read Related Posts: - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [Dysphagia & Swallowing Problems (and How Oral Vitamin Sprays Can be of Help to You)](https://achronicvoice.com/dysphagia-oral-vitamin-sprays/) - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) ## Dangerous Gifts #5: Physical Books I [first bought a Kindle](https://www.amazon.com/All-new-Amazon-Kindle-Paperwhite-Signature/dp/B0C8RR4WN3?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=72e799ecfeb0ea1163d46d2b9c40c273&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) because my ex-partner couldn’t sleep with the bedside lamp turned on. I had always thought that I was a physical book kind of person, until I owned a Kindle. It is so much easier to read with a Kindle flat against your thighs in bed or placed on a table, especially when your joints are aching. Aching so much that even the act of holding a book open can be painful. Thick, heavy books can be daunting for me to finish, not because of the number of words, but the size. Thanks to the Kindle, I managed to enjoy and finish one such book recently about [‘Catherine the Great’](https://www.amazon.com/Catherine-Great-Portrait-Robert-Massie-ebook/dp/B004J4X9L0?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=2e98525b8c1aaad756c7cc1fbc9b6738&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl)! ### Physical Books are Not Great Gift Ideas For... Physical books aren't something that cross most people's minds when purchasing as gifts. Whilst many people with disabilities love to read, it can be a challenge on some days, either from chronic pain or brain fog. Physical books can be troublesome in particular for people who live with arthritis, [visual impairments](https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/blindness-and-visual-impairment), [migraine](https://www.healthhub.sg/a-z/diseases-and-conditions/649/headache-and-migraine), [Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS)](https://edition.cnn.com/2019/11/04/health/what-is-ehlers-danlos-syndrome-trnd/index.html), [Spinal Muscular Atrophy (SMA)](https://ghr.nlm.nih.gov/condition/spinal-muscular-atrophy), [Multiple Sclerosis](https://www.ucsfbenioffchildrens.org/education/multiple%5Fsclerosis%5Fand%5Fschool%5Fconcerns/) and more. This might be due to the weight, muscle pain, dislocated joints, head pains, or something else. If your friend happens to own a Kindle or digital notepad, it might actually be a good idea to [buy them a gift card](https://amzn.to/2C9R5Wp). Then they can even select their own books; I know that I'd love such a gift for sure! Here are some great blogs that share more insight into how reading physical books can trigger pain for them in various ways. They also contain tips on how they still manage to get their reading fix in: Chronic Illness Bloggers Who Have Trouble with Physical Books, and Ways to Work Around It: - [Booming Mindfulness: Reading Every Day With Chronic Illness](https://www.bloomingmindfulness.co.uk/reading-every-day-with-chronic-illness/) - [Migraine Strong: 5 Tips To Enjoy Reading With Chronic Migraine](https://www.migrainestrong.com/5-tips-to-enjoy-reading-with-chronic-migraine/) - [Wheel Escapades: The Ups And Downs of Reading, Books, Ebooks and Audiobooks](https://wheelescapades.com/2019/03/06/the-ups-and-downs-of-reading-books-ebooks-and-audiobooks-world-book-day/) - [Veroniiiica: Seven Factors That Make Websites Accessible to the Visually Impaired](https://veroniiiica.com/2018/03/16/seven-factors-that-make-websites-accessible-to-the-visually-impaired/) - [Pain Pals Blog: When The Simplest Things Floor Us](https://painpalsblog.com/2019/06/13/when-the-simplest-things-floor-us/) - [All Things Endometriosis: Everything Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome](https://allthingsendometriosis.com/about-ehlers-danlos-syndrome/) Read Related Posts: - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You’re All Invited, Too!)](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Shannon Giroux – Making a Better Home to Live in, Despite Multiple Sclerosis](https://achronicvoice.com/shannon-giroux-better-home-multiple-sclerosis/) Pin to Your Infographic & Gift Boards: ![Gifts Not to Give People with Chronic Illnesses [Infographic]](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/gifts-not-give-people-chronic-illnesses-infographic.jpg) ## Showing That You Care Through Acts of Service Whilst gifts are often meant to be pleasant surprises, it can be tricky when it comes to chronic illnesses. Unless you're familiar with the person and know what sort of gifts they'd love, it might be a good idea to check beforehand. Besides, this isn't an exhaustive list of potential problems; it's barely a glimpse. You don't have to reveal what your gifts are exactly, but getting a few clues is a good idea. A trip to the Emergency Department on Christmas (or any other day) would suck big time. Whilst you may not fully comprehend what your loved one's chronic illnesses are about, showing that you care through the questions you ask can mean a great deal. Often knowing that you bothered to even ask is a heartwarming, bonus gift in itself! I also wanted to add a little reminder here that gifts don’t always have to be a tangible item that you buy. Many people with chronic illnesses have trouble doing certain tasks, such as cooking, cleaning, or driving. Offering to take them for a drive out to nature, or cooking them a nice meal can mean just as much. Little things like these can go a long way and create wonderful memories. ## Supporting Businesses Owned by People with Chronic Illnesses There is no denying that living with a chronic illness or disability is tough. Many of us aren't able to work full-time due to chronic pain, and stress is a major trigger for pain flares. As a result, many people with chronic illness try to find work from home, or start small businesses. You can help by supporting businesses run by people with chronic illnesses. Their insider's knowledge about living with chronic illness is also a bonus, because these gifts are specially crafted with them in mind. Happy holidays to one and all. Don't forget to check out [**the rest of the Christmas and holiday series at the top of this post**](#xmas-series)! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Christmas, Holiday & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Chronic illness gift ideas and what not to give](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-gift-ideas-what-not-to-give.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Pain Reaction Mar 6, 2021 Ugh, food gifts are the worst for my husband. Last Christmas his parents gave him a ton of spices, which we didn’t check. After one use, my husband (who has Celiac) was destroyed for two weeks. The spices all said “may contain wheat”. His parents didn’t think to check the ingredients and neither did we. The most miniscule amount of gluten can be so damaging. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 15, 2021 Oh dear, that must have been so awful!! Yes my parents, even after 20 years, still don’t know what I can and can’t eat sometimes, with my blood clotting disorder. It’s a little upsetting but I try not to get upset either 😉 - [ APRIL KEY RODE ](https://www.rodesontheroad.com/) Nov 5, 2020 Great tips! I didn’t know some of this. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Thanks April, it can be a real tricky subject to navigate when someone has an invisible illness! - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Nov 2, 2020 Terrific round up of lists and ideas. I’d say no to all of these except books. Friends who send me books as well as coloring books and markers are the best. The rest are all things I can do without. I don’t need much. I’d rather have someone give me a plant or some flowers to play with. Very thoughtful post, Sheryl! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Haha and you do lovely colouring books and so much more, too! Love your ikebana and got to hear you singing live one day! - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Oct 31, 2020 LOVE this list!! So well thought out. I really trigger with perfume bad and I think as my birthday nears, I will remind people of how crappy I feel with it (unless I choose it of course). I really like how you’ve suggested alternatives – ooo actually maybe I won’t remind them, I’ll just send them this post 😀 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Thanks Shruti. Perfumes seem to be a gigantic trigger for so many disorders although they are also soothing for many people (like me), so it’s such a fine line to walk. Thanks for directing people to this post! 😀 - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Oct 31, 2020 I have MCAS and yet always seem to be given perfume, or fragranced items, as well as chocolate or other food I can’t eat. It’s so frustrating! Especially as I have been quite open with the fact that I can’t have them. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 MCAS really does seem like such a tough disease to deal with 🙁 THere are so many things you can’t do or eat. Yet, also many things you can, as proven by your recipes and blog! I will definitely direct people there if ever they need ideas! - [ Sagar Sahay ](https://alpharagas.com/) Mar 29, 2020 I never thought a gift can be a curse for someone but this article made me realize and it is so true. I will definitely be careful whenever I gift things to people. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 29, 2020 Hi Sagar, yes indeed, if you put it that way haha. Interesting perspective! Thank you so much for being more mindful – that thoughtfulness in itself is a huge gift to others more than you can imagine 🙂 - Holly Dec 21, 2019 WOW, what a great and comprehensive article. Thank you so much for including several of my resources. My heart is full of gratitude. Hugs, Holly - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 22, 2019 Most welcome Holly! I couldn’t help but to share them 🙂 Sending good thoughts for the season! x - Nilakshi Dec 20, 2019 You have done your research well. This is such a helpful guide. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 20, 2019 Thanks Nilakshi. It did take a lot of work and research! And unfortunately, is only a brief overview 🙁 - Marisa Dec 19, 2019 Such an interesting post, most of these things I always thought were harmless. But you made some great points! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 20, 2019 Thanks Marisa! Yea we can be really sensitive to so many things ;p Hopefully this just raises a little awareness! - [ Ivana Mearns ](https://www.weddingcraftsacademy.com) Dec 18, 2019 that’s such a useful guide, thank you. it can be difficult to decide what to buy when buying a gift for someone who is not well but now I’ve read your words of wisdom, I have much better idea what to get. thank you. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 19, 2019 Thanks for taking the time to try and understand, Ivana. People like me really appreciate it! 🙂 - Kileen Dec 18, 2019 This was such an interesting post! Thank you for sharing!! Kileen - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 19, 2019 Thanks Kileen, glad that it sparked interest and awareness! - [ Tabitha Bradley-Raines ](https://tabtakeson.blogspot.com) Dec 18, 2019 Wow! There is so much I never think of when it comes to gift giving. Thanks for opening up my eyes. I will definitely be extra considerate now since I now am more aware. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 19, 2019 Thank you Tabitha, people like me are really appreciative of these little, thoughtful gestures! 🙂 - Morgan @ Baby Got Balance Dec 18, 2019 You’ve got a great list here – I’m sure that most people wouldn’t even consider some of these gifts to be potentially problematic. I love that you mention service, too, as I feel like this is often more valuable than a physical trinket. Thanks for sharing! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 19, 2019 Hi Morgan, Experiences and services are definitely more valuable than physical gifts a lot of the time! Memories are forever 🙂 Thanks for taking the time to read and comment! - Cynthia Dec 16, 2019 Thanks for this list!! So many things to think about. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 16, 2019 Welcome, Cynthia! Crazy isn’t it, and this isn’t even the tip of it unfortunately, but it’s good to get some awareness out I suppose! - Sarah Dec 6, 2019 This is something I hadn’t considered before, but I’m really glad that you posted this. I think this will be really helpful in the future as I buy gifts for others and will make sure I take these things into consideration. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 6, 2019 Thanks for reading and for being so considerate, Sarah. We chronic illness folk really appreciate it! 😉 - Kara Guppy Nov 24, 2019 Some great tips here, although now I am worried about buying the right gift, so many things to consider - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 22, 2019 Haha don’t worry too much! 🙂 Am sure your friends still appreciate it, this is just to raise some awareness in general! - [ ERin ](https://www.herheartlandsoul.com) Nov 24, 2019 Thank you for bringing awareness to this! I think so many people don’t even think of how a gift that is perfectly fine for them can be dangerous to others. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 22, 2019 Exactly, Erin! Often it is not out of ill intention, but just plain not knowing. So I thought it might be a good idea to raise a wee bit of awareness 🙂 - Following the Rivera Nov 22, 2019 This is such an insightful and well written post!! I had zero idea about the consequences of some gifts. I’ll do more research into it in the future. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 22, 2019 Thank you so much! This barely touches the tip, but I hope it’s a start! Thanks for doing research, we appreciate it 🙂 - Annemarie LeBlanc Nov 21, 2019 This post provided so much information and make me rethink about buying gifts. I believe it would be best to give gift cards if we do not really know the person we are giving the gift to. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 22, 2019 Hi Annemarie, you are so right! Gift cards may seem ‘boring’, but are really fantastic for people whom you know nothing about! And it’s always usable! - [ Lyanna Soria ](https://www.angelaricardo.com) Nov 21, 2019 Choosing gifts can sometimes be hard especially since you need to consider a lot of things before you give it to the person. It’s great and thoughtful of you to compile and write this down. Those are some great and definitely useful tips to remember. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 22, 2019 Thanks Lyanna. I hope it’s a useful resource and guide for consideration, when buying gifts for any season or occasion! - Celebrate Woman Today Nov 20, 2019 A very powerful post. Thank you for researching and putting extra links to explore. I love it! Obviously, we need to be thoughtful of gift gifting. It is a thoughtful process, rather than just scratching a name off the gift list. Bravo! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 22, 2019 Thank you, glad you found it interesting to explore. And exactly, gift giving should be thoughtful in the first place, you are so right 🙂 - [ Shannon Gurnee ](https://www.redheadmom.com) Nov 20, 2019 This is such a creative way to share this. Thanks for sharing these ideas. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 22, 2019 Thanks Shannon, I just hope it helps both parties (the gift receiver and giver)! Happy Holidays! - Julie Syl Nov 20, 2019 Thanks for sharing pros and cons about these gift ideas. Gifts are really something to think thoroughly too. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 20, 2019 Yes, spending a little time to be thoughtful about the person you are gifting might be worth more than the gift itself at times! - [ Lyosha ](https://www.lyoshathegirl.com) Nov 20, 2019 Very thoughtful list! You are doing great posting it. What do you think is the most ‘safe’ option for a gift? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 20, 2019 Hi Lyosha, I don’t think there’s a safest option, because we are all such unique individuals! Though gift cards and cash (nice wrapped) are always a good idea! - Cathy Nov 20, 2019 This is such a great post very informative, such a perfect reference for buying gifts. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 20, 2019 Thanks Cathy, hope it helps with gift decision making! 🙂 - Natasha Romero Salas Nov 20, 2019 This is such an informative post. There are so many things you wrote about that people don’t think about right away. Thank you for all of the information! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 20, 2019 Yes because often it doesn’t affect us in the slightest bit, so it naturally wouldn’t even cross our minds! But there’s no harm being a little more thoughtful, too! - [ Steph S ](https://stephsocial.com) Nov 20, 2019 Gift giving can be so hard even more so for those who have chronic illness! I had no idea that what I was giving could cause problems for them! I’ll have to rethink! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 20, 2019 Thanks for doing your part, Steph. Us sick people appreciate it more than you can imagine! - [ Cindy ](https://www.cindygoesbeyond.com) Nov 20, 2019 Everything you shared is so true! Acts of service, Amazon gift cards and other gift cards are good choices. It’s so good to be mindful of others and what they are going through. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 20, 2019 Yes those are nice gifts for healthy people, too! Sometimes generic is okay, and quality time is never a bad idea 🙂 - [ Ashley Rollins ](https://swiftfit.net) Nov 20, 2019 This is such a great reminder for those who can’t accept these things as gifts. Books are always a great idea! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 20, 2019 THanks Ashley, yes I just wanted to do a small reminder kind of thing during this supposedly happy season! - [ Garf ](https://www.morningsidefit.com) Nov 20, 2019 These are great ideas and tips for gifts. However, I prefer to gift cash because I am not good at buying gifts for others. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 20, 2019 Hehe…us Chinese people give cash all the time. We do it especially during Chinese New Year, where you put them into cute little red packets! - [ Heather ](https://thesupermomlife.com) Nov 20, 2019 Very interesting! I never thought about these things, but you are SO right! We often resort to lotions or perfumes because it seems like an easy go-to. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 20, 2019 Don’t get me wrong, I personally LOVE perfumes and lotions! But some people might hate them, or be unable to use them 🙂 - [ Myrah Duque ](https://www.mamacitaonthemove.com/) Nov 20, 2019 OMG! Good to know. It never occurred to me that some of these would be dangerous. I definitely will be editing my gift list - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 20, 2019 Thanks for being so thoughtful, Myrah! - Sue-Tanya Mchorgh Nov 19, 2019 I found this post very informative. This is a lovely guide for gift ideas for persons with Chronic Illness. I will make sure to share this post. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 19, 2019 Thanks so much Sue! All the chronic illness people thank you for helping to advocate for us, too! 🙂 - [ tweenselmom ](https://www.tweenselmom.com) Nov 19, 2019 This is sooo useful. This Christmas, make it more about the other people when giving gifts, sensible ones that can give the recipient a smile, not sickness, when they open the gift. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 19, 2019 Thank you! Yes let’s be a little kinder and more empathetic. It will make Christmas a real Christmas! - [ Fiona Cambouropoulos ](https://www.coombemill.com/blog/) Nov 19, 2019 There seems to be so many allergies and intolerances in people these days. What a helpful post to understand who might be at risk and what to give instead. I know I have to be careful with perfumed creams as they can trigger a skin reaction on me. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 19, 2019 Thanks Fiona! Allergies sure are on the rise with all our city living and processed foods, I guess! But many of these autoimmune disorders are genetic as well. Let’s make it a great Christmas for all! 🙂 - catherine santiago jose Nov 19, 2019 Nice post! I love every tips and advices that you’ve mentioned here and it’s also serves us as a reminder that we need to be careful on buying or giving a gift for our loved ones or other persons. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 19, 2019 Thanks Catherine! Yes we are all different individuals, so it can be easy to forget what we like may actually be harmful to someone else! - Pati Robins Nov 19, 2019 you have given me trully some food for thought here , i think sometemies we just do not think what we buy - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 19, 2019 Yes, often we buy more for convenience, or based on what we like. Am sure our friends are still grateful, but when one has a chronic illness, the gift can actually be harmful, so just keep an eye out! 😉 - Angela Nov 19, 2019 This really made me think. It’s so easy to just give something without thinking about whether it is the right thing for that person. Now I will think more about allergies etc when choosing gifts. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 19, 2019 Thanks so much Angela, your words warm my heart. Am sure your loved ones will appreciate your thoughtfulness so much! - Maysz Nov 19, 2019 I Love this I have smell allergy for strong perfumes and high chemical beauty products like beauty soaps so it’s important to know the person condition before buying their gifts great post! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 19, 2019 Thanks Maysz, and like you said, perfumes and strong scents really seem to be a huge trigger for lots of people, regardless of health status! Something even I am surprised about 🙂 - [ Stacie ](https://divinelifestyle.com) Nov 19, 2019 Oh wow! This is really good to know. I’ve never thought about how some of these might be dangerous to someone else. I have given perfume and lotions so many times as gifts. =/ - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 19, 2019 Hi Stacie, yes, especially if your friend or family member is chronically ill! Though from all the comments I’ve received so far, seems like lots of healthy people are sensitive to perfumes as well! I do love my perfumes, though 😉 - Nate Nov 19, 2019 Hello Cheryl, I very much resonate with this post because my nose is huge on scents. I can smell things from a mile away, lol. I am sensitive to most scents and for a long time, I went away from wearing cologne. Very informative and thank you for sharing as always. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 19, 2019 Thanks so much for your comment, Nate. Yes even knowing how much it affects those with chronic illness, I was surprised to discover just how many healthy people are also affected by scents. You’re most welcome! - [ HilLesha ](https://www.tothemotherhood.com) Nov 19, 2019 This is wonderful advice! While I don’t have MCAD or MCAS, I can’t wear traditional perfume since it triggers migraines and allergies. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 19, 2019 Thanks HilLesha, I hope it was a helpful guide! Yea perfume actually does contains hundreds of chemicals in it! - Joanna Nov 19, 2019 This was quite an interesting read, I never thought about how people can have issues using perfumes or hand creams for example. Those are some items that I often buy as gifts. I will be more aware from now on. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 19, 2019 Thanks so much Joanna, that was my intention with this article – to raise general awareness on such issues, especially if your loved one is suffering from chronic pain or illness. Thanks so much for being aware 🙂 - Cristina Petrini Nov 19, 2019 Your blog post has filled me with joy and emotion, this should be the true spirit of Christmas. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 19, 2019 Thanks Cristina, Christmas is indeed all about giving and receiving freely (and the right stuff! 😉 ) - [ Berlin ](https://momiberlin.com) Nov 20, 2019 I so love your list and I truly appreciate how you distinguish your likes as well as the not so famous or preferred gifts for others. I guess, it would easier to give something if we know his hobbies and fave color, for instance. It helps, too, that we are observant and keen. - Kirsten Nov 18, 2019 I’ve seen many chronic illness gift guides but yours is different and I love that! I’m sure it’s helpful for many people who know someone with any of these illnesses. As a business owner myself I love that you mentioned to buy from spoonies. x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 18, 2019 Thanks so much, Kirsten! Yea I thought it important to mention. Having read so many blogs over the past four years, I didn’t even know that many of the things I use or do as a person with chronic illnesses myself are dangerous for others! Chronic illnesses are really varied and infinite. - [ Lorna ](https://ginlemonade.com/) Nov 18, 2019 This is literally a much needed post. Thank you! Perfume is my thing, but I’d never give perfumes or scented things to people, because I’m hyper-aware people can’t tolerate them. I don’t even wear it much, because I’d rather not make my husband sneeze. We’ve started to give experience gifts like zoo memberships, magazine subs, online courses, and movie trips. Even to friends, just to spend time to together. Because if you give people stuff they can enjoy, it’s not a gift. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 19, 2019 Thanks Lorna! Perfume is also my thing – one of the biggest perhaps! – but yes like you said, many people are intolerant or sensitive to them, too. Experience gifts sound like such a great idea, I might just steal those ideas for myself! 😉 - [ Amelia ](https://www.youcanalwaysstartnow.com) Nov 18, 2019 Great post. I don’t have a Chronic Illness but scents give me headaches. Plus so many places now (work for me) are scent free. There are so many charities now we can give to in people’s name local and international. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 18, 2019 Thanks as always for your support, dear Amelia! Scents can indeed be triggering for many. Am glad that many places are more aware! - [ Modern Gypsy ](https://moderngypsy.in) Nov 18, 2019 Wow, this is an amazingly detailed and informative post. Honestly, I never imagined a physical book could be a problem for those suffering with a chronic illness. I think it’s a very good idea to support small businesses run by chronically ill folks. Not only would they be knowledgeable and help you select appropriate gifts, I think it’s also important to support small biz over large corporations wherever possible. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 19, 2019 Hello, so true! Small businesses are generally better with customer service, and real love and care go into their products. And yes, books are actually pretty painful especially if you’ve dislocated a joint or have muscle atrophy or issues! - [ Claire ](https://ourfavouritejar.home.blog/2019/11/16/gift-guide-perfect-memorial-gifts/) Nov 18, 2019 What a brilliant post! There is so much information in here. I’d honestly never thought about any of these things before, you’ve really opened my eyes x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 19, 2019 Thanks for your comment Claire. That was truly my intention. Glad it gets out, even a little bit! - [ Despite Pain ](https://www.despitepain.com) Nov 18, 2019 This is such a great post. There are so many posts at this time of year about what gifts you could buy for people, therefore I am glad that you have covered why not to buy certain gifts for some people. I have trigeminal neuralgia, and perfume smells can also set that off. I remember sitting in the dentist’s waiting room one day and a bottle of perfume in the form of a woman sat next to me. Before I got to the dentist’s chair, my face was throbbing. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 18, 2019 I had no idea that scents could even trigger TN! Do you have a blog post describing such an incident that I could include? I am sorry to hear about the pain you have to go through. - [ Despite Pain ](https://www.despitepain.com) Nov 22, 2019 Sheryl, sorry, I don’t have a post about specific triggers like that yet. The main triggers are cold, talking, eating etc but it can also be triggered by noise and smells. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 22, 2019 Thanks for sharing, though. Now I know! - [ dSavannah ](https://dsavannah.com/blog/) Nov 18, 2019 Great article!!! Thanks for putting all of this together!!! @dSavannahCreate from [dSavannahRambles ](https://dsavannah.com/blog/) - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 18, 2019 Thanks for your support as always lovely! - Naomi Nov 18, 2019 Fantastically well researched and put together. I have migraine but love reading so always a case of one man’s ceiling and I’m always amazed at how the same condition manifests itself differently in different people, and over time - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 18, 2019 Thanks Naomi! Yes it’s amazing how infinite the list of problems can be with every individual with chronic illness, huh. Even as one myself, I barely am aware of what can harm others, and vice versa! - Sarah Nov 18, 2019 Thanks for the mention, dear Sheryl! Love the ideas. I agree, plz don’t ever try to give me an edible item or something that smells. Unless it’s labeled GF (both food and beauty products!) or I already use and love, it’s going straight in the bin. I’ve got no issues with doing that. Well, I don’t like waste so just don’t give me anything I’d have to throw out. Now if you buy me something I use all the time (cream, make-up, whatever) that’s kinda costly, I will %100 appreciate that 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 19, 2019 Hi Sarah, my pleasure! And yea, me too, heh. I throw out quite a bit of stuff, unfortunately. Such a waste, really 🙁 - Holly Nov 17, 2019 Hi Sheryl – What a great resource for gift-giving and education for those with chronic illness. PINNED! Thank you for including several of my articles. My heart is full of gratitude. Hugs, Holly - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 17, 2019 My pleasure, Holly. Great articles you had there! Sending hugs xx - [ Gemma Orton ](https://www.wheelescapades.com) Nov 17, 2019 Great post with some really useful ideas and tips. Thank you for the mention! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 17, 2019 Most welcome. Meant for a resource and reference for all 😀 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Plunging Into a Sparkling Sky of Unknown Possibilities, with a Tinge of Nostalgia in Tow URL: https://achronicvoice.com/unknown-possibilities-nostalgia/ Last updated: 2026-01-08T13:45:19.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Paying Pain the Price for Having Some Fun To say that October sucked would be an understatement for me. It was my fault to a certain degree, although I don’t even know why I use the word ‘fault’. I was just trying to live life like a regular person, then things snowballed and got out of hand fairly quickly. I was actually prepared and willing to pay pain for the fun I had, but the circumstances were not quite ‘standard’ this time, so recovery is taking a somewhat different route. I spent most of my October thus locked up at home once more, down in the dumps, and just waiting for things to get better again. I feel ashamed that I’m ashamed that I had fun. Why can’t we just go past the limits every now and then without such drastic payments in terms of health? Anyway, I don’t regret much of what I did. It’s nice to ‘run wild’ and live life once in a blue moon. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. 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Thank you!* Read Related Posts: - [We Want to Have Fun Just Like You, But Here’s What it Takes with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/) - [A Page From a Sick Girl’s Diary: Sometimes I Wish I was an Old Person](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girls-diary-wish-old-person/) - [Triggers Trigger Triggers (Re-Stabilisation Procedure Encore)](https://achronicvoice.com/triggers-trigger-triggers-re-stabilisation/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Chronic Pain Board: ![I feel ashamed that I’m ashamed that I had fun. Why can’t we just go past the limits every now and then without such drastic payments in terms of health?](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote_ashamed-fun-health.png) ![It was my fault to a certain degree, although I don’t even know why I use the word ‘fault’. I was just trying to live life like a regular person.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote_fault-regular-person.png) ## Attending the Event, “A Piece of Mind”, on World Mental Health Day Since I’ve been single I’ve also been arranging quite a number of meetups, going on dates, and attending random events. One of these was [‘A Piece of Mind’](http://apieceofmind.splashthat.com/), hosted by Esquire and We Work. It was held on World Mental Health Day, in a bid to raise awareness and educate the public on mental illnesses. The panel of speakers were from all walks of life in various industries, and familiar with mental illness in one form or another, either through training or personal experience. There was a psychotherapist, magazine writers, the Vice Chairman of IMH ([Institute of Mental Health](https://www.imh.com.sg/Pages/default.aspx)), a youth support worker, and a neuroscientist from Holmusk. I had a wonderful time chatting with the folks from [Holmusk](https://www.holmusk.com/) after the event on AI, which they’re using to detect depression. They were such intelligent, enthusiastic and down to earth people, and our conversations even veered towards the realm of gut health and chronic illnesses in relation to AI. > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/B3cVCOKgNOH/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/B3cVCOKgNOH/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) ### Mental Health Communication Tips I Learned from the Event An interesting 'trick' that the psychotherapist shared stuck with me. We often ask people, "are you okay?", to which we receive a mumbled response of "I'm fine" most of the time. But she said to wait a little while, then repeat the question. She uses this in her counselling sessions too, and says you'd be surprised at what people will tell you after that. Another great tip from the speakers, especially when you don't know what to say, is to ask genuine questions instead of dishing out unsought for advice. Ask them how they feel, what they think, etc. This can be a great way for them to open up and to reinforce your connection. Giving advice when you hardly know much about the situation or what they've already attempted may cause more frustration, instead. A final tip from the speakers for people who are suffering from depression is to mix your daily routines up, and introduce small changes into your life. You'd be surprised how the little things can get you out of a funk. Pin to Your Mental Health Quote Boards: ![People often say, “I’m fine” in response to “are you okay?”. But wait a while, then repeat your question. You’d be surprised at what might unravel then.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote_are-you-okay.png) ![Mix your daily routines up, and introduce small changes into your life. You’d be surprised how the little things can get you out of a funk.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quote_daily-routines.png) ## Moving Back to My Parents' for Good (for Now) I have quite a bit of organising to do this November, as I’m finally moving all my belongings and the birds back to my parents' for good. Quite a sad affair as my birds recognise my ex, and I do still consider him family despite the breakup. He will always be a friend to me, and an important person in my memories. I just want to say a big thank you to him, for the 6 precious years we had together through all the ups and downs. I will probably need to clip the feathers of the remaining birds as the windows at my parents’ place are plentiful and always open, and the ceiling fans are always turned on. Don’t want any accidents happening right off the bat! But don’t worry, their feathers will grow back in a couple months, and I’ll see what to do then. For now, both them and I will be familiarising and settling ourselves into a new environment together. All that unpacking will not be fun, but there is no rush either, I suppose. Read Related Posts: - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [4 Cool Truths My Partner Said (Unwittingly)](https://achronicvoice.com/cool-truths/) - [How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationships with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/) - [When Your Stress & Fatigue Thresholds Suck (Also on Cute Cockatiels, Education via Zoom & Art Films for Rent)](https://achronicvoice.com/stress-fatigue-thresholds-suck/) - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) ## Plunging into a Sky of Unknown Possibilities With the move back comes a huge plunge into a new life. A final cut, an established divider, a total change of scenery, a nostalgic feeling, and a myriad of possibilities. Our environments often have a huge effect on our decision making process, perspectives and motivations. I hope that this change will help to propel me towards a positive direction faster, and get to wherever I need to be next in life. I’m taking a leap of faith in some ways this month, which I’ll share when the time is right! As for the work front, I will definitely need to change up some strategies, try and focus despite the depression and brain fog that have set in again, and work towards a better income flow. There are a number of recurring income sources I could build, but what holds me back is not knowing if they’ll even make a cent, and if they’ll be worth all that time and effort. But I suppose I just need to do my market research, and give it a shot. At the very least, I’ll gain some knowledge, which is always a good thing! Hopefully the change in environment will do the trick, and breathe some fresh ideas into my mind and life. ## Thinking of Starting a New Podcast I also have two other projects connected to A Chronic Voice that I’m thinking about (as if I don’t have more pressing things to do on my plate, heh). I agreed to two podcast interviews in the last couple of months, and to my surprise, found them rather fun and interesting! As a result, I am thinking of starting my own as well. It will be another way to revive another website I own called [‘Sick Lessons’](https://www.sicklessons.com/), and incorporate it as a facet of this blog. What do you think? I have zero knowledge about podcast creations and thus find it daunting, but I figured I could learn along the way, and that it doesn’ matter if episode one is amateurish for a start 😛 Listen to The Podcasts Here, and Pin to Share! [ ![My Virgin Interview on the ‘Disabled to Enabled’ Podcast](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/instagram_disabled-podcast-interview-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ](https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/16-sheryl-chan-you-can-die-in-singapore-but-you-cant/id1465712315?i=1000447998085) My Virgin Interview on the ‘Disabled to Enabled’ Podcast [ ![This Is Not What I Ordered, the Podcast, Episode 47: Acceptance Is Power With Sheryl Chan](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/acceptance-power-podcast-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.png) ](https://laurenselfridge.com/listen/47) This Is Not What I Ordered, the Podcast, Episode 47: Acceptance Is Power With Sheryl Chan ## Split Into a Million Different Directions I’m so happy that 2019 is drawing to a close. Relieved more like it. It hasn’t been the best year for me, with the [**dengue fever**](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/), break up, many other bad new diagnoses, unexplainable symptoms, and hospitalisation stays. I’m praying that 2020 will be kinder, happier, and I also hope to contribute to those elements through my own choices as well. I really don’t know which way I’m headed for next year. If you really think about it, there are always a million possibilities up for grabs. Sometimes they happen quickly and at other times, drag on forever. But there is always a choice, even if the glass looks opaque for now. For me I’m considering going back to school even though it’d take me up to 7 years to graduate, and I don’t know how I’ll find the money. But it would definitely be a dream come true, no doubt about it. (P.s.[ **I *did* go back to school in the end**](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/)!) At the same time I’m also considering some new travels, new jobs, and new other things. It feels like a splitting of directions, but I am grateful that I have this slight possibility of choice at all. I apologise if I keep repeating certain topics, but they’re swimming around like goldfish in the bowl of my brain for now. For now I shall just prepare to move everything out and onto new pastures, whatever the colour of the grass may be. Thank you for reading my June entry 🙂 You can continue with my diary entries by reading what happened [**last month**](https://achronicvoice.com/life-is-crazy-but-keeper/) or the [**following month**](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-new-paths-chronic-illness/). ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! 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Having fun and then experiencing a hefty payback in terms of a flare in symptoms is one of the most frustrating aspects of living with a chronic illness. And another frustrating aspect is not knowing where that line is between overdoing it and not! I am sorry to hear of your breakup and then having to adjust to new surroundings at your parent’s place- I hope that the change of scenery does you some good. And congrats on the podcast – you did great! Rhiann x - [ Niamh ](https://chronicbodylove.wordpress.com/) Nov 17, 2019 Sorry to hear about your break up Sheryl I hope you and your bird family get setup with as little stress as possible at your folks place. Good call on the wing clipping. The podcast idea is amazing I’ve wanted to do something like it for a while but with not much of a following I figure I’d have to put more effort into building my blog audience first but I can’t wait to see what direction you take with it. I’m also moving and your words of the possibilities ahead ring true. I hope the unknown has some really lovely surprises for you up her sleeve (especially some travel R&R) xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 18, 2019 Hi Niamh! I actually broke up almost a year ago, but didn’t want to dramatise it on my blog until everything was finalised. Now I’m home and all that. We’re all good…adaptation is in our blood! 🙂 Yea the podcast idea scares me a little, but I think might be interesting to explore at the very least. I wish you amazing possibilities ahead! xxx - Kathy Nov 17, 2019 I hope that you and your birds enjoy the change of scenery! I’m glad to hear that you have ideas swimming around in your head even when you’re struggling with depression and brain fog. Hugs. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 18, 2019 Thanks lovely! Birds look a tad depressed but aren’t we all with change! We’ll all be fine after a while! Brain fog comes and goes, we’ll take it day by day 🙂 xxx - Spoonie Mom Rhonda Nov 9, 2019 Dearest Sheryl, You are such an inspiration to me! You’ve accomplished so much already and are still reaching out to grab hold of the possibilities in the coming year. I’m sending all the positive thoughts and prayers I can muster up for you young lady. 2020 is going to be your year, for sure. I can so relate to your story about trying to live like a normal person and paying a price. I recently started a list of things my body can manage to handle. Things like cleaning my ceiling fans or walking 2 flights of stairs at once. Alongside each task is how badly I will pay for it in pain the next day, if I dare engage. Then I try to limit my activities and spread them out. So I can’t even imagine how you fit everything in. Thanks for the linkup and all that you do. Can’t wait to pin and share your inspirational quotes. xoxo #spooniehugs - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 12, 2019 Aww…thanks dearie. I haven’t accomplished anything, really! Feels like a dragged out, wasted year. I hope things go well for you, too. Sending hugs. - [ Anne Sweet ](https://www.raisiebay.com) Nov 4, 2019 It does sound like it’s been a difficult year for you and I really hope that the future really does bring some sparkling possibilities. You have to keep hoping and I can see positivity in this post too. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 4, 2019 Hi Anne, It’s been not so easy, but not the worst ever! Just hanging in that balance as usual 🙂 Yes let’s hope the future sparkles for us all! xxx - Michelle Nov 3, 2019 You’re always so positive despite it all, Sheryl! You set the example for us all. Sorry you had such a rough time and I hope you’re seeing better days right now. Xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 3, 2019 Hi Michelle, Haha that’s quite funny…I’m generally not positive (or maybe I don’t realise it? 😉 ). Or perhaps I had time to draft these blog posts properly! 😉 Life is good. Painful but still good. Sending love x - [ Claire ](https://ourfavouritejar.home.blog) Nov 3, 2019 It’s sounds like a difficult time for you but that said I am really loving the positivity you’re displaying. So many wonderful opportunities await you my love, can’t wait to see which way you go x x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 3, 2019 Hi Claire, It’s not that bad (not the worst ever!). There are positives too, guess I should express those more often too, heh. Thanks lovely, sending love too xx - [ Lisa Ehrman ](https://chronicallycontent.com) Nov 2, 2019 The podcasts sound very good, and I’m glad that you enjoyed the first one. That’s something I’m not interested in, but I bet you’ll be amazing. I hope that the next year brings you better health and good things in your work. Moving is so tough ( we just did it) so I’m glad to hear that you’re going to take your time unpacking. There’s a lot of benefit in unpacking slowly. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 3, 2019 Hi Lisa, Yea podcasts/audio are not my thing either, but I think it might be worth just giving it a try, why not! 🙂 Thanks for the love. Let’s hope 2020 is kinder to us all! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 2, 2019 Thank you Alison! We’ve been broken up for a year now so it’s not exactly new, even though we’ve just been in close contact still as friends, which I think is great 🙂 Hehe…I hope they like my parents. My animals adapt quickly with some love. Much to learn from them! And yes, I really like staying alone, so that will be a big adjustment. But I’ll take my cue from my pets! 😉 Sending hugs to you xxx - [ Alison Hayes ](https://www.thrivingwhiledisabled.com) Nov 2, 2019 Hi Sheryl, I’m glad you ended up feeling ready to write early this month – it would have felt weird not to start the month reading your thoughts! I’m so sorry about your breakup – relationships are hard, and ending them is hard, no matter what the details are. I hope you can heal from that emotional pain as well as that your symptoms treat you better! Your poor birds getting their feathers clipped – but I totally understand the need to protect pets from extra risks they may not recognize – it sounds like you’re being a responsible pet parent and keeping them safe while they adjust to their new environment! I hope the move back in with your parents runs as smoothly as possible – I remember moving back home after living independently – it was a really tough adjustment, and everybody has different mental and emotional habits and expectations about things. I hope that that too, runs as smoothly as possible. Thinking of you and wishing you the best as you make your way through these changes! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Life is All Sorts of Crazy, but She's Definitely a Keeper URL: https://achronicvoice.com/life-is-crazy-but-keeper/ Last updated: 2025-11-09T17:49:30.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Chronic Illness Life is All About the Waiting... September has been sort of an interval month for me, as I wait around for lots of different things to fall into place. Waiting for people to respond, waiting for businesses to regain traction, waiting to see [**how this Implanon implant will affect my menstrual cycle**](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/). As always, only time will tell. And when you live with chronic illnesses you learn to wait, whether it suits your personality or not. Waiting for symptoms and side effects to clear, [**waiting for hours to finally see the doctor**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) for 10 minutes, waiting for answers, waiting to see if a new treatment works, waiting to feel better, [**waiting for the A&E department to accept you**](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/). Waiting, waiting, waiting... Still, I haven’t learned absolute patience, as my heart swells up with both hope and frustration, and my mind spends its energy on a high speed treadmill. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Read Related Posts: - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (52 Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [How to Prepare for a Medical Appointment in a Post-Pandemic World (4 Top Tips From a Doctor)](https://achronicvoice.com/prepare-medical-appointment/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [It is \*Always\* Possible to Make Time for What Matters Most](https://achronicvoice.com/make-time-what-matters-most/) - [#projChronicWisdom: Simple Pleasures I Can Enjoy While Stuck in Bed with Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/projchronicwisdom-simple-pleasures-enjoy-pain/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![Life is All Sorts of Crazy, but She’s Definitely a Keeper](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_life-crazy-keeper-3-2-1-1-1-1-1-1.png) ## Parting Ways with Baby Gaga I made friends with the people at the laundry shop a few months ago, because they have two cute little cockatiels in their shop. I had originally wanted to sell them a baby cockatiel from the two batches mine produced, and although they wanted a female, they didn’t seem all that keen. So I kept the sole female and we bonded over head rubs and poop cleaning sessions. Then the laundry lady called me up with sad news one day. Toto, her one year old cockatiel, had died by accident whilst out on a walk 😢 I feel so heartbroken for her, he was such a bright and cheerful boy. She seemed really keen on acquiring a cockatiel now, and after a few days with a heavy heart, I parted with Baby Gaga. As I’m moving back to my parents’ soon (which has no space for so many birds), I know that she’ll be better off with her. Besides, they bring them to their shop every day so I know where to find them. And from the way I see them treating their other birds, I know that Gaga (originally Edgar until we discovered she was female!) will be well-loved. > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/B2qBWwRgwwO/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/B2qBWwRgwwO/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) Read Related Posts: - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) - [When Your Stress & Fatigue Thresholds Suck (Also on Cute Cockatiels, Education via Zoom & Art Films for Rent)](https://achronicvoice.com/stress-fatigue-thresholds-suck/) - [July’s Supply & Demand: Learning to Maximise Wellbeing in the Midst of Stress](https://achronicvoice.com/july-maximise-wellbeing-stress/) - [Why I Moved from SiteGround to Cloudways (and Couldn’t be Happier). Plus Cute Puppy Pics & A New Pacing Strategy.](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/) - [Travelling New Paths with Chronic Illnesses in My Pocket](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-new-paths-chronic-illness/) ## Try Try Trying to Earn My Keep September also threw up many unexpected but pleasant monetary surprises. Which is a relief because I need the cash. Affiliate links, income and gifts that usually take months to accrue rolled in at the same time. From Google Ads, CDBaby (support my noob music here! - [Spotify](https://open.spotify.com/artist/4wF456S6h0wCliUnkmR6c0) and [Apple Music](https://music.apple.com/us/album/secrets-for-nicotine-single/1061871408)), [ShopBack](https://app.shopback.com/sgp?raf=d2O3S3&slug=referred-signup-bonus), and [Ko-Fi](https://ko-fi.com/achronicvoice). Now I just need to wait for another few years before they align like that again 😉 I am also on the hunt for more businesses on various fronts: - **Studio Canvassa.** My sister is paying me a salary for a while to help restart her canvas and laminate printing business. So I’ve been busy updating the website, enhancing the SEO, promoting services and looking for new customers. - [**Black & Web**](https://blackandweb.com/)**.** Ultimately, still my bread and butter business, whether it’s my ‘real passion’ or not. I do enjoy certain aspects of it, but [**the stress can be pretty bad**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/). I’ve been hunting for new and old clients as well. It’s usually the kind of business that works best by word of mouth, and what I need to do is to keep trying to roll that ball. - **A Chronic Voice.** I had a few great writing gigs in September under my blog business, but October looks to be quieter on this front. Whilst blogging and writing would be my #1 job preference, the money is truly unsustainable. For now, I will continue to accept credible jobs and keep producing my own material. Blogging is a marathon, and to go far requires perseverance and a lot of investment in time and effort. (P.s. My associated [work site for health and medical businesses is now live here](https://work.achronicvoice.com/)!) ## Affirmations from Unexpected Sources I am also strangely finding that with this increase in workload, I am stressing out less easily. I am fortunate that I can work on them at my own pace, which makes all the difference. I am able to pick a project, focus on it, and stop when I need to, unlike an office job. I’m learning how to seize opportunities where they arise energy-wise, and to [**let go when I wake up to a bad day**](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) without any of that foolish guilt. This used to be a huge problem for me, but I think I’m slowly getting there. This seems to have happened after I did two interviews - one on Chronic Eileen, and the other on [the ‘Disabled to Enabled’ podcast](https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/16-sheryl-chan-you-can-die-in-singapore-but-you-cant/id1465712315?i=1000447998085). Perhaps speaking out loud or articulating these thoughts did something to my brain. Kind of like a self-affirmation, saying "this is what I believe in, for real". Strange where you find inspiration from sometimes. Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [Plunging Into a Sparkling Sky of Unknown Possibilities, with a Tinge of Nostalgia in Tow](https://achronicvoice.com/unknown-possibilities-nostalgia/) ## Life is Crazy, but Hang on Tight and Love Her with All Your Heart Christmas will almost be upon us by the end of October. Unbelievable. Do you have any plans or activities lined up? I’m taking things one bite at a time for now, and see where life leads me to by December. Perhaps I’ll just be a stone’s throw away from where I am right now, or maybe the whole scenery would have changed by then. Who knows what life has in store for us? She’s a cheeky little thing. Hang on tight to her and love her with all your heart. Life’s all sorts of crazy, but she’s definitely a keeper. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Curated Chronic Illness Gift Ideas for Christmas, Birthdays & Other Occasions!](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-gift-ideas/) - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) - [All I Want for Christmas is Some Pain Relief! (Real Wish List Ideas from 13 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/all-i-want-for-christmas-pain-relief/) - [How to Survive the Holidays When Chronic Illness & Disability Cause Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/survive-the-holidays-chronic-illness-disability-pain/) - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Kathy Oct 18, 2019 Hi, Sheryl! I love the quote about life: “Who knows what life has in store for us? She’s a cheeky little thing. Hang on tight to her and love her with all your heart. She’s all sorts of crazy, but definitely a keeper.” I’m having a pain flare so I’m waiting for it to pass. Love photos of your birdies. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 19, 2019 Thank you Kathy! That final line was what inspired the title and picture of this post. It really can get pretty wild, this lady called life :p Yea I’ve developing new hair loss symptoms so am a bit depressed myself. Sending hugs to you. - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/2019/10/12/learning-to-love-your-chronically-ill-body/) Oct 17, 2019 Well, clearly we are all exceptionally good at waiting! I’m just getting around to reading everyone’s entries and I’m noticing a trend! 🙂 That is so incredibly kind of you to part with Baby Gaga, and it’s also wonderful that you can continue to see her. This month seems like it was a really great link-up month for you, Sheryl. I’m glad to see that it went so well. It has been really good to read your comments about keeping up with work. I’m finding this especially hard to do right now and can’t wait for this year to be over! 🙂 Peace and gentle hugs. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 17, 2019 Hey Carrie, haha I think we don’t have much of a choice, unfortunately! 😉 Well to be honest the month hasn’t been going well at all so far. But it hasn’t been the worst either, so I guess that makes it…okay? 😮 Thank you for the love though. Sending some right back at ya! - [ Rhiann ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com) Oct 12, 2019 Hello again Sheryl, thank you once again for the brilliant prompts for this month. I do hope the month will be a good one for you. I especially resonated with ‘waiting’ this month, I think it is something that we learn to do when living with illness. We wait and wait and wait, learning to be patient in the midst of suffering. And the last part about life being crazy but holding onto it was beautifully profound! Keep up the brilliant work and I look forward to next month! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 12, 2019 Thanks for your lovely wishes, Rhiann! Yea waiting can be quite the thing with chronic illness, and incredibly painful in its own way! I hope you have a good month too, and sending lots of love! - [ Niamh Kane ](https://chronicbodylove.wordpress.com) Oct 5, 2019 I love the main pic with the girl and the cigarette it definitely catches the mood. I found it drawing me in. Sorry you had to part with Gaga but what a blessing to be able to visit. I had a similar situation with my dogs many years ago. It makes all the difference knowing they are in loving hands. I hope October comes through with some more star aligned monetary surprises Sheryl take care xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 6, 2019 Hi Niamh, thanks and yes, happy that the little one is in good hands and maybe even has a boyfriend now :p As for the picture with the cigarette, I love it too for similar reasons as you do. But some people don’t agree as well as seen below heh. But I still like it anyway. October has been dry and quiet so far, but it’s still fairly early so let’s see where it goes! Sending love too! - Naomi Brook Oct 3, 2019 Great prompts yet again! Definitely hear you on finding work that fits our pace. I’m hopeful of getting involved in a podcast that will mean I do the background stuff that can be done any time. I also write up to two blogs in advance to get ahead when I’m feeling well enough and perhaps it’s raining outside! Days like today I am writing because I have to make sure I don’t rush around. Writing really is beneficial in so many ways. Bit of a ramble…great blog though 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 4, 2019 Thanks for sharing, Naomi! Yes writing has so many benefits, both for ourselves and for others 😀 - JacQueline Roe Oct 1, 2019 These prompts ring true for the place I am in this month. I am so glad to hear of some progress in the monetary department, it is a constant struggle when our bodies won’t allow us to do “normal” work. Praying for you 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 1, 2019 Perhaps the seasons reflect upon us all (though there’s no seasons here, heh). Yea Sept was great money wise but Oct is dry again. It’s a scary cycle, I guess, when you freelance sometimes and also with the unpredictable health issues. Thank you, hope you have a great month! - Eliza Oct 1, 2019 Hi Sheryl, I really love everything you’re doing here, but a photo in the header of a girl with a cigarette!!!! in her hand…….? On a site designed to help others and raise awarness about chronic ilnesses……? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 1, 2019 As I replied on Instagram: I knew someone would say that 😉 I love your profile too, keep up with your own style. I chose this picture more for metaphorical reasons, and also to keep things a little real with how I feel, i.e. not all sunshine, positivity and perfection. Anyway, keep doing what you do best. - Nikki Albert Oct 1, 2019 I am figuring out how to make more affiliate income myself. As it is, it is unpredictable. And I figure if I utilize it more, it might be a little more consistent. We shall see. Blogging fun. I am doing a lot of waiting but it coming nearer to my appointments now that October is here. I hope I finally get answers. I’m on the outs with Christmas. I expected too much from it as an adult. Now it is just a day really. Also I am not really fond of winter overall. Hoping fall lasts a wee bit longer than usual around here. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 1, 2019 Hey Nikki, hope that the Oct appointments work out well, fingers crossed for you! Yea affiliate income is so wishy washy…until you get to a certain level then maybe it gets better, I don’t know. I’m still figuring it out! Ahaha…we only have summer here so that sucks, too. It’s either hot or hot and rainy, the humidity is no fun either. Great job on creating your own app btw…you’re insanely productive despite all your pain! Sending hugs x - Kirsten Sep 29, 2019 We do wait a lot as chronic illness patients that is for sure! And yay for the monetary suprises. You totally deserved it. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 1, 2019 Thanks Kirsten! Those were really just a one off 🙂 Yea…waiting is boring, and maybe one of the annoyances of life with chronic illness! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life URL: https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/ Last updated: 2026-05-26T18:03:44.000Z ## The Many Negative Associations with Painkillers Painkillers — hero, villain, friend and foe in one. What’s your opinion about them? Have you been told: - Don’t take them, they’re bad for your liver and body. - You’ll become reliant, dependent, or addicted to them. A good-for-nothing, pathetic junky. - You’ll need more and more of them to kill the pain and eventually, nothing is going to save you. Maybe you’re the one who tells yourself such things. These were beliefs that had been drilled into my head as a child and young adult; scary old wives’ tales of the horrors of addiction and untreatable pain. That was why I only took the mildest painkillers, whilst enduring my two worst life-and-death situations. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Read Related Posts: - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) ## The Dangers of Leaving Chronic Pain Untreated Bravo, what a brave, strong girl. So self-reliant, self-sufficient, so much willpower, and all that crappy jazz. This approach isn’t wrong per sé, especially if they were acute, one-off episodes. But when the pain is chronic, neverending and unyielding, it can become dangerous to not treat it. Pain is a deep, dark pit that co-exists with the poisonous snakes of severe depression, anxiety, and yet more pain. There can always be more pain, and there can always be different kinds of pain. Chronic illness patients learn to identify the unique characteristics of every pain symptom over time. Almost as if we were connoisseurs of pain. Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Invisible Illness Boards: ![The Dangers of Leaving Chronic Pain Untreated](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_dangers-leaving-chronic-pain-untreated.jpeg) ![“Pain is a deep, dark pit that co-exists with the poisonous snakes of severe depression, anxiety, and yet more pain. There can always be more pain, and there can always be different kinds of pain.” Read the Post: Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life, on A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pain-depression-anxiety-more-pain-quote.jpg) ## Sensitisation to Chronic Pain Pounding muscle pain pairs well with Sjögren’s Syndrome, whilst those mini joint aches are distinctive of Lupus. This confusion in my brain is a hangover from epilepsy, whilst that severe headache is Lupus manifesting in the Central Nervous System. The longer you need to deal with pain, the more your sensitivity to it increases. This is due to a number of factors: you’re sick of being in pain, previous bad experiences train your brain to be hypervigilant, and your body starts to become [sensitised to the overexposure](https://www.painscience.com/articles/central-sensitization.php). This oversensitivity does nothing to help your body, your mind, or your situation. It only makes you more fearful, depressed, anxious, and leaves you feeling beaten and defeated. Read Related Posts: - [How to Rewire Your Brain to Manage Chronic Pain (& Resources to Help)](https://achronicvoice.com/rewire-brain-manage-chronic-pain/) - [What Neverending Pain Reveals to You](https://achronicvoice.com/what-neverending-pain-reveals/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - [3 Types of Chronic Pain that Sound Bearable, but are Not](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-bearable-not/) - [A Pain Pill, a Caress, an Exhalation of Relief](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-pill-caress-relief/) ## Improving My Quality of Life by Including Painkillers Over the years I have become more liberal when it comes to my relationship with painkillers. In fact, I carry a strip of tramadol in my wallet wherever I go. And just like every other person with chronic illness, I have a pouch filled to the brim with all sorts of emergency medications and supplies in my bag: beta blockers, benzodiazepines, antihistamines, antibiotics, urinary alkalinisers, anti-inflammatory lozenges and plasters, peppermint oil, a plastic bag for throwing up, etc, etc and of course, painkillers. My new pain management ‘strategy’ is to pop a painkiller after two hours or so, if my aches do not subside after my morning round of medications. This is especially helpful if I have an appointment or need to leave the house. If I can nip pain in the bud, it saves me from a bigger pain flare, where I would need steroids instead to control it. That solution isn’t any better, as steroids come with its own set of nasty and sometimes permanent side effects. Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Painkillers Boards: ![Painkillers for Chronic Pain - Hero, Villain, Friend or Foe?](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_painkillers-chronic-pain-hero-villian-friend-foe.jpeg) ## How This Pain Management Strategy Improves the Quality of My Life This pain management strategy can make such a huge, positive difference to my entire day. It improves my quality of life, just like that. After taking painkillers, I start to feel life returning to my body, and the cogs of my brain resuming their action. It becomes possible to get some work done, clean the house, do some exercise, or go out to socialise. All these activities in turn, have huge benefits to my life and to my physical, emotional and mental health. I pay off some bills, boost my self-esteem, reclaim some independence, improve my living conditions, and spend quality time with loved ones. We all know how important these factors are as a human being, and to live a decent life. All these great benefits, just because I decided to take my prescribed painkillers instead of wrestling with pain, and wasting my day away. It also isn’t just the current day that’s wasted, but the next few days needed to recover from the pain itself as well. Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Painkillers Boards: ![Painkillers for Chronic Pain - How They Help to Improve my Mental, Emotional and Physical Quality of Life](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_painkillers-chronic-pain-improve-mental-emotional-physical-quality-of-life.jpg) ## Painkillers & Medications Should Target the Underlying Cause It’s important to know what specific medications or complementary treatments you will need to treat different types of pain. This may be confusing in the beginning, but you will learn to understand your body better and what it needs to heal over time. ### What My Opioids Can & Can’t Do for Me For example, taking tramadol might help with my period cramps, suppress an early onset of a Lupus or Sjögren’s pain flare, and ‘regular’ types of bodily injuries. But tramadol is not going to do anything for my Lupus CNS headaches, epileptic brain fog, or nerve pain in my feet. You need to understand the root cause of the pain, and target it from there. Painkillers in themselves are not a one stop solution. ### Dealing with Inflammatory Type Pains for Me Because the source of Lupus CNS headaches are inflammatory in nature, [NSAIDs](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/drugs/11086-non-steroidal-anti-inflammatory-medicines-nsaids) (anti-inflammatories) are needed to suppress them. This means Ibuprofen or its equivalent. This is tricky for me however, as I also have Antiphospholipid Syndrome (a blood clotting disorder), and all NSAIDs interact with my blood thinning medications. Hence, I need to be cautious with how much I take. The alternative – which I’m currently using – is a temporary increase in my steroid dose. It’s ‘safer’ than taking an NSAID painkiller every day under these circumstances. ### Painkillers are Useless for Treating My Epilepsy Brain Fogs For these, I take a benzodiazepine such as clonazepam, to help me get a better night of rest. This in turn helps to give my brain a break, so that it has more resources for healing whilst I sleep. A lack of or poor quality sleep is after all, the [biggest trigger for epilepsy](https://www.epilepsy.com/what-is-epilepsy/seizure-triggers/sleep). ### Painkillers for Neuropathic Pain Pregablin (Lyrica) is what I take or took for nerve tingles and pain. This medication is a different class of painkillers; it specifically targets [neuropathic pain](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6003018/). It is also used to treat epilepsy. Taking pregabalin is not going to do much for my other sources of pain. ## There is No Cut-and-Dry Solution to Managing Your Own Pain Read Related Posts: - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [What’s it Like to be on a High Dose of Steroids? (And the First Question You Will Definitely Ask)](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) - [The Annoying Thing About Antiphospholipid Syndrome (and Then Some)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [How Much Time Are You Wasting On Sleep](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/) - [So This is What a Tonic Clonic Seizure Feels Like](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) As you can tell by now, I need to know what sort of pain I’m dealing with, before I know what works. It isn’t as straightforward as ‘pop a pain or chill pill’, but to ‘pop the right pill’. There is no cut and dry or hard and fast rule as to how and what you should do or take. But do what’s best for you. Best being how it makes you feel from an over all perspective. I have lifted all the internalised stigma and prejudice I used to hold on painkillers, and now view them as one of my biggest allies. Having said that, I am not claiming that this is the only way we should cope with all our pain. Medications are toxic to a degree. But bearing with pain is also toxic in equal measure, as it impairs our quality of life, and shrivels us up into a shadow of who we once were. In other words, pain sucks the life out of us. **I definitely do not pop painkillers like candy all day long. They are my allies, not my masters. I am not their slave, but I am indeed grateful for the reinforcements and support they grant in times of need.** Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Painkillers Boards: ![Why I’m so grateful for my painkillers, living with chronic illnesses](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_grateful-painkillers-living-chronic-illnesess.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [40 People Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Flare Up Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [The Chronic Pain Cycle & How to Break It (Top Tips From an Occupational Therapist)](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/) - [Drink Pure Wine Review (A Product That Excites Me as a Person with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/drink-pure-wine-review/) ## If Not for Painkillers… If not for painkillers, I’d be spending more time in bed suffering for no good reason. I’d be unable to meet my friends and family, which helps with my emotional and mental wellbeing. It’s a proven fact that humans need community in order to survive and thrive. If not for painkillers, I’d be unable to accomplish whatever amount of work it is that I can do. This not only helps me to feel like a useful member of society, but also helps to pay the bills, and stimulate my brain. If not for painkillers, I’d be unable to cook a proper meal for myself, wash up, or clean the house. Food is also medicine, and to be able to nourish my body is a blessing. To keep the house tidy and organised brings a sense of peace and joy, and is important for our mental wellbeing. It isn’t pleasant to feel like you’re a pig living in a sty, or relying on liquid nutrition and snack bars for all your meals. If not for painkillers I wouldn’t be able to clean up after, care for and spend time with my birds and puppy. [Quality time with pets](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/the-way-my-dog-talisker-brings-me) have plenty of emotional benefits, which is another form of healing. I’d also be unable to write or blog this much, activities that I view not only important for its advocacy aspects, but also as hobbies that I’m passionate about. Without painkillers, I wouldn’t be able to educate myself as much I want to, which are all food for the mind, body and soul. How then, can you call painkillers evil in and of themselves? For those of us who live with chronic pain, they are one of our biggest allies. Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![If Not for Painkillers (How They Help Me to Live an ‘Okay’ Life With Chronic Illness)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_painkillers-help-live-life-chronic-illness.jpg) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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Plus Cute Puppy Pics & A New Pacing Strategy.](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/) Pin to Your Healthcare & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life | A Chronic Voice](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life-2-pin.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Adrian Vanmeter ](https://youtube.com/channel/UCX6gZnCTknFRpIvv3oWFEiw) May 19, 2021 I really enjoy your website but especially this article. So many people judge and look down upon people who need pain medicine and even doctors are hard to get to understand what medications work and don’t work. It’s nice to see an honest person explaining how they feel. I have primary Sjögren’s,fibromyalgia and 10 other diagnoses and completely understand. Thank you for this. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 20, 2021 Thank you Adrian for sharing openly, too. Our voices do need to be heard loud and clear. Yes so many people say they’ll never take meds for anything and tough it out. But after 20 years I think to myself, to what end? This is not living, either. - [ Despite Pain ](https://www.despitepain.com) Apr 29, 2021 Such an excellent post, Sheryl. I take anti-inflammatory meds and anticonvulsant meds daily for some of my pain. They allow me to ‘manage’ most days. Then along come those days when something more is needed, like migraine meds. And then there’s the tramadol. I am always reluctant to take it because of side effects, however, there are days when I have no other option. I need to take it and put up with the side effects. Pain can be uncontrollable and people need as much help as they can. There is a stigma attached to pain meds which should not be there. None of us take them through choice. We simply have to do what we can in order to cope. I know I couldn’t cope if all of my meds were taken from me. That doesn’t make me an addict. Just someone who lives with pain and needs help. - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Sep 14, 2020 If not for my painkillers, I’d never leave my bed. I’m so tired of talking to people about this who don’t understand. I’m tired of people writing horrible, WRONG, information about painkillers without thinking about the millions of people who rely on them to function. I’ve never boosted my meds. I’m scared to ask for me. I make do with what I have. And now I’m at the point where if someone makes a snarky remark about what I’m taking for pain – GOODBYE. 🙂 I’ve got plenty of people in my life that do get it! Great post, Sheryl. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 14, 2020 For sure, Carrie. I used to hold the same stigma myself, for a long time in fact. Because I was brought up to believe it was harmful and damaging to my kidneys and liver, and that I’d become an addict. But that is so so wrong. I am not addicted to my painkillers at all. Dependence and addiction are two worlds apart. And like you, without my painkillers, my quality of life wouldn’t be even decent. They allow me to gain some semblance of normality, however slight. - [ Chronic Mom ](https://chronicmom.com) Jul 10, 2020 Great post. Too many people demonize pain killers and claim they don’t work (when anyone in pain can tell you that they do). With the opioid hysteria I lost access to treatment for pain completely, and I am way less functional then I used to be. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 11, 2020 I am so sorry you lost access to such an important tool in your pain management toolkit 🙁 I know for sure it’s one of my biggest allies just to survive. I took one today for the aches, and I already feel so much better and can function and do some stuff. The stigma that it’s bad for you really needs to die. Living a half-assed life is also no good for anyone. - Lynette Dec 5, 2022 Well said! I get tired of being accused of drug seeking, when all I want is a chance a living a some what normal life for a brief amount of time. I say just walk a day in my shoes, and then tell me I should not take pain meds Lynette - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 7, 2022 Agreed as well. Chronic pain is a whole new beast altogether. - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Jul 9, 2020 “All these great benefits, just because I decided to take one pain pill instead of wrestling with pain, and wasting my day away. ” – it took me a while to be more accepting of pain killers and respect that my day is valuable and I can’t let it go waste. Sometimes I feel I learnt this lesson too late but I liked reading your take on it and it helped reaffirm my decision to take pain killers. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 11, 2020 Hi Shruti, I learned this lesson too late myself. I think especially in Asia, our parents tend to demonise painkillers as ‘addictive’ and ‘toxic for your liver’. They worry about us getting hooked on them. So I lived only on panadol at the most painful period in my life. Now looking back, I shake my head and think ‘how silly’. Seriously, when pain management is well controlled, it can work wonders and bring about a much better quality of life, especially for those who live with chronic pain. - Holly Jul 8, 2020 I totally understand how you feel, I know without pain meds I would not be able to get out of bed. Unfortunately in today’s world, pain clinics think everyone is just out for th prescription, one day I finally told the doctor that I need them to survive and with MS it’s like having a toothache but in your whole body, his response ‘ gives me something to think about” I guess he has had a toothache before because now he just writes the prescription! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 11, 2020 LOL! Funny how you had to relate it to him like that. Toothaches are awful. I’m glad he finally gave you the prescription! It really is quite terrible in the US as it stands right now 🙁 - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Jul 8, 2020 I’ve found that half my doctors want to increase my painkillers and the other half want me to come off them! I think I have got to know which pain needs them and when to take and when not too. I try and o other options first, but sometimes painkillers are what is needed and we shouldn’t feel guilty for that. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 11, 2020 I’m really glad I have a goto rheumatologist whom I can request any meds from (within limits and that makes sense), as he’s my central doctor whom the others refer to. Yes doctors have their personal opinions on painkillers (and antibiotics!) too, but now I try and decide for myself when and how much I need. No one else inhabits my body or knows my limits, after all! - Neil Oct 27, 2019 I have been suffering with chronic pain for more than 20 years now . I honestly think without heavy duty pain meds, my latest version is the Fentanyl patch , that I wouldn’t still be around , to spend hours of agonizing pain . It’s also important for your family members to believe there is something that can help you ., for them watching you go through your worst is an extremely hard and torturous . For all these years I would put narcotics at the top of my pain control tools and distraction is a clear second . Thanks Amelia for your post and regards to everyone with this life changing affliction. Neil”………… - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 29, 2019 Hi Neil, thanks for sharing and adding another voice to raise awareness about chronic illness, pain and quality of life. Pain really eats away at so many facets of life, and whatever helps to maintain a semblance can go a long way. - arv Oct 19, 2019 Many people are choosing alternative therapies because pain killers are bad for health. But if this is the only solution, not much of a choice. - [ Debbie Harris ](https://www.debs-world.com) Oct 19, 2019 This was such an interesting post especially I have had limited experience with this area. You explain it very well. I have pinned this post on my group board. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 19, 2019 Thanks so very much for the support Debbie, I appreciate a lot! 🙂 - [ Claire ](https://ourfavouritejar.home.blog) Oct 4, 2019 I can not even imagine what it is like to live with chronic pain, knowing that it’ll be with you always must make this even more difficult to deal with. I had severe neuralgia for 18 months, the pain was so extreme, I have never experienced anything like it. Id pass out when the pain hit. I was not believed either and was regularly overdosing on over the counter medication. It go to the point where I could see no way out and in an overdosed half conscious state, I almost made it as far as the nearest railway bridge. Thankfully it is now a distant but very painful memory. Thank you for sharing your experiences x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 4, 2019 Hi Claire, thanks for taking the time to read, and share about your own experiences. Neuralgia I hear can be hell, and I can’t imagine that either. Unending pain really drives a person up the wall. I am glad you made it through, and hope you never have to suffer it again! x - Nikki Albert Sep 27, 2019 My pain is worse than it has ever been and I am thankful for my slow release tramadol which I take twice a day so that I can walk and function a little. Frankly, without it, it is unbearable and I can’t sleep or get about very well at all. Or exercise… which is very important to the pain clinic that I do but physically impossible without pain management. I do not care about the stigma. It is my Life we are talking about here and I Need Quality of Life. Something others simply take for granted. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 27, 2019 Exactly and well said, Nikki! Only live once, and the irony is that society is all about maximising your life, but how do you do that when you’re in pain all the goddamn time? I am thankful you have something to help you get by, albeit slowly I’m sure. Sending hugs x - Angie Sep 25, 2019 Great read! I have suffered with chronic pain for years. I tried everything under the sun to get relief with no success. I refused narcotic pain meds for far too long fearing the risk of addiction, and the stigma behind them. The pain became severe a couple years ago and I could no longer function without pain meds. I take Hydromorph Contin (long acting) morning & night, and have regular release for break through pain. I am very careful to not take more than what is absolutely necessary. I think it’s so important to know that NO amount of medication will take 100% of the pain away, it only takes the edge off making the pain a bit more tolerable so I can have a bit more quality of life than if I didn’t take the pain meds. I have never felt “high” or “drugged up” from them so I don’t really understand why people get so addicted to them. If taken as prescribed they shouldn’t alter your state of mind, they should make you more clear because you are not in a state of unbearable pain with no relief. I still struggle with the stigma that comes with narcotic use, and it would be nice if chronic pain patients aren’t made to feel like the are “drug seeking”. There is enough of an emotional strain having an illness that leaves you in constant pain- the last thing we need is to feel weak & guilty for doing what is best for us… - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 25, 2019 Thanks for sharing such vulnerable thoughts, Angie. Am sure many others can relate, too. I have had pain meds but only in the ED near death that made me feel nice and high, so I get how people can get addicted to them. But they helped me through that pain, and that was that. I am not craving for more, etc. It is a tool to get through a painful, difficult period. As for chronic pain that’s a different matter with different strategies, for sure. Like you said, no amount of pain meds can totally ease all the pain, it just helps us to actually live a little. - Kathy Sep 25, 2019 I’ll definitely be sharing this one! It’s so true that it really takes a variety of approaches to help us function. To demonize pain medication is so hurtful to those who need it. Well said. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 25, 2019 Thanks for the support Kathy! Yes, it isn’t solely painkillers for a quality life either, but definitely a huge part of for chronic pain patients. We’d know best, in partnership of an unbiased, knowledgeable doc/docs! - Pamela Jessen Sep 23, 2019 You’ve made some very important points here about taking pain medication. I am on Opioid painkillers along with several other medications to manage my chronic pain. Without them, my pain would be at an 8 or 9 on the pain scale all the time. With them, I can generally stay at a 4-5 instead which allows me to have some quality of life. Like you, I believe we need to have a community in order to heal. Without my pain meds, I wouldn’t be able to function at all as a normal human being – no managing things around the house, no going out, no spending time with my husband…nothing. I don’t even worry about things like addiction anymore…I know I’m dependent on the medication to stay as functional as possible and that’s just fine with me. I’m glad you’ve found the solutions that work best for you. It’s all about our health!! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 24, 2019 Hi Pamela, Thanks for sharing your own thoughts, and I agree with your view points. I think it’s one others can’t possibly understand unless in severe daily pain. Life really doesn’t seem worth much then. We only live once, so living it well is important (ironic because this is exactly what society preaches!). And painkillers do help us to live a little better, to feel a bit more functional and human. - [ Rachael Emma Tomlinson ](https://accessiblerach.co.uk) Sep 23, 2019 Fabulous article and like I always say, “you do you” and whatever it takes to make life more bearable - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 23, 2019 Thanks Rachael! And definitely. We all need to do what works for us individually! - Lisa Sep 23, 2019 Great article and really puts things in perspective for people who think painkillers are the “enemy”. This really sums up how I feel. Thank you so much for posting this. Love it. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 23, 2019 Thanks for your comment, Lisa. I think it’s also how lots of us pain patients feel. Painkillers are not the enemy. It’s how we use them. Sending love. - [ dSavannah ](https://www.dsavannah.com/blog/) Sep 23, 2019 Agree with everyone that this is a great post. I’m so sick of the negative rhetoric against painkillers, and the people who don’t take medication that could improve their quality of life because they are so afraid of … addiction, negative stigma, etc. I would not be alive without my antidepressants. I would be curled in bed all day sobbing if not for my pain meds. We are “addicted” to air, too! Your comment “There is No Cut-and-Dry Solution to Managing Pain” is so true. One med that helps you may not help me at all, even with the same condition! (Lyrica didn’t do a thing for my nerve pain; it just made me gain weight! Tramadol might give others bad mental states, while it helps my pain so much. It’s scary to be a science experiment, but the improved quality of life is worth it! Thanks for speaking out!!! @dSavannahCreate from [dSavannahRambles ](https://dsavannah.com/blog/) - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 23, 2019 Haha I like the air analogy :p And yes our bodies are all different so what works for each of us, meds or otherwise, differs too. Tramadol can and does make lots of patients super nauseous for example, and I can only take the bare minimum before I feel it too I think (never really tried to go beyond, so there!). Like I said, do what’s best to live! 🙂 - Kirsten Sep 23, 2019 I don’t like how there is such a toxic negative discussion about medication. Without mine, I would not be able to work 2-3 hours a day, go on walks or meet friends in the weekend. It definitely improves my life and wellbeing. I have tried so many painkillers till I found the right ones for me. It has been a long proces. Like you mentioned, I don’t think you should just take pills for the sake of it but talk about it with your doctor and take your time to notice what the meds are doing to your body. Are the side effects worth it? Are there any long term risks? What is the best time of the day to take them? Etc… Anyway, I love your article and I believe it’s a very important topic to talk about! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 23, 2019 Thanks for your support as always, Kirsten! Yes lots of unnecessary negative associations, because of a few mistakes or people (who themselves, need help of a different sort too perhaps). At the end of the day, everyone’s just trying to kill some sort of pain in one way or another. And yes, the right pill and how it interacts/affects your body is also very important to pay attention to! Sending love. - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Sep 22, 2019 This is such a brilliant post, Sheryl. This needs to be said and I think everyone should read it, including (and perhaps especially) doctors. There’s so much focus on the ‘opioid crisis’ in the UK and the US right now and while it’s good to be aware of the potential risks and pitfalls, it has the potential to be incredibly dangerous to patients. I eventually gave in to the need for Tramadol last year. Things were getting worse and worse and I was getting to the point of being able to manage to do very little because of chronic pain. I’d stayed clear of regular prescription painkillers for so long but a few things happened that made me knew I had to call it a day and look after myself better, starting with readjusting my perspective on such pills. As you say, they can help in giving us some semblance of life and the ability to do things the basics and hopefully also the things that are important to us, like you caring for your birds. Also really good points about leaving pain untreated and the sensitivity factor, I hadn’t really thought about that before. Absolutely fantastic post! Caz xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 23, 2019 Hi Caz, Thank you and exactly. It’s really a weigh up of pros and cons as always, and for chronic pain patients, the game of life is not like everyone else’s. Our cards in life are different, and to win or endure, we need to use different strategies, too. Thanks for your comment x - [ Katie ](https://painfullyliving.com) Apr 25, 2020 I recently watched an interview with Dr. Genevra Liptan where she talks about not taking opioids out of the pain management toolbox, but guidance for how to prescribe. She suggests weaving very small doses with other things to find out what can best work for each individual suffering from pain. [http://www.drliptan.com/blog ](https://www.drliptan.com/blog) - [ Amelia ](https://www.youcanalwaysstartnow.com) Sep 22, 2019 Great and needed post. It is educational as we don’t know what people are going through. People without chronic pain need education on this as I think we have assumptions that are not correct. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 23, 2019 Thanks Amelia! I think even lots of us with chronic pain started out with our own stigmas, too. Until you’re in real bad pain every day, people have no idea. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill: Part III URL: https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-3-chronically-ill/ Last updated: 2026-01-08T14:33:25.000Z ## **Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill, but Good Reads for Anyone!** I am finally getting around to the third installment of book recommendations, specially dedicated to my fellow chronic illness friends! Not all of these books are solely about health and illness; we need a break from these topics sometimes, don’t we? But they are more or less related to humanity, the human body, and the art and science that goes along with them. Have a look and let me know which your favourites are! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* More Magazine & Book Recommendations: - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You’re All Invited, Too!)](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies: Part II](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies-2/) - [Book Review: The Narwhal Who Suffers from Chronic Migraines](https://achronicvoice.com/book-review-narwhal-migraines/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering ](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Magazine Review: Lucky Peach’s Last Issue, Ever](https://achronicvoice.com/magazine-review-lucky-peach/) Pin to Your Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill & Disabled Boards: ![Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill: Part III](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_book-recommendations-chronic-illness-p3-1b.png) --- ## Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill (Series 3) ### If You’re Feeling…Scattered [![Take Daily as Needed: A Novel in Stories](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/312wUiTBWfL._SL400_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0826360963?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) #### Take Daily as Needed *By: Kathryn Trueblood* There is so much going on in this book, which is really reflective of the chaos of life itself. Throw chronic and mental illnesses, divorce and teenage troubles, death and a myriad of impossible characters, and you get a boiling, sticky stew of life’s downsides. It is told from a first-person perspective as a mother, wife and daughter. Her thoughts are scattered with bits of random knowledge that we accumulate throughout our lifetime. They brim with worry and anxiety, despair, hope, faith and love. Her writing style does a great job of illustrating and capturing the [50,000 – 70,000 thoughts we have per day](https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/shahilla-barok/did-you-knowyou-have-betw%5Fb%5F11819532.html). It dips and rises, just like the human spirit, and is a great read about life and family. [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0826360963?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=56d5a042fb3bc909969cb8d8c55ff0b5&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [What’s it Like to be the Mother of a Sick Child? (Precious Insights from My Own Mum)](https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/) - [What’s it Like to be the Father of a Child with Chronic Illness? (Precious Insights from My Own Dad!)](https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Carole Griffitts – A Grandmother with Modern Passions](https://achronicvoice.com/carole-griffitts-chronically-ill-grandmother-modern/) - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [4 Cool Truths My Partner Said (Unwittingly)](https://achronicvoice.com/cool-truths/) --- ### If You’re Feeling...Morbid [![From Here to Eternity: Traveling the World to Find the Good Death (By: Caitlin Doughty)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51J3q65QqvL._SL400_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0393356280?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) #### **From Here to Eternity: Traveling the World to Find the Good Death** *By: Caitlin Doughty* This was the first book I bought and loaded onto my [Kindle Paperwhite](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C8RR4WN3?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=9ba386bd335a3464fb54a23c91a64e0b&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). Mortality is a topic that fascinates me, having come face to face with death a few times. It’s one aspect of humanity that’s often avoided and shushed, even though it’s just part of the process. Caitlin is a mortician with a morbid sense of humour and a flair for words. It was interesting to learn about how different cultures bury, celebrate or mourn their dead. From rural communities in the USA, to the rituals of Barcelona, the concept of suicide in Japan, and more. Life takes on fresh perspective with each death, which goes to show that [**‘normal’ doesn’t exist**](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/). Life is much larger than that. She has another book, [Smoke Gets in Your Eyes: And Other Lessons from the Crematory](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0393351904?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=a66a5e723a8f0d89b38e66aaabd111dc&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), which I’ve downloaded for reading, too. The first few pages are already hilarious – something to do with being a teenage apprentice, a pink razor, and cleaning up a dead man in the morgue. [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0393356280?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=9d9c5cc2bab6afdc63c136e997de7234&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [My Second Brush with Death: A Broken Heart (Literally)](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) - [What Neverending Pain Reveals to You](https://achronicvoice.com/what-neverending-pain-reveals/) - [An Open Letter to Death, and One Simple Plea](https://achronicvoice.com/letter-to-death-simple-plea/) --- ### If You’re Feeling...Spiritual [![The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment (By: Eckhart Tolle)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/417VRErnKPL._SL400_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1577314808?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) ### #### The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment *By: Eckhart Tolle* A classic book on mindfulness, and the power of being in the present moment. Yes I’m late to the peace party :) I am going through this one slowly, because I don’t think it’s a book that should be gobbled up. Filled with gems of wisdom and food for thought on every page, it's a great way to start or end your day with. Whilst it touches on some religious concepts, I’d say that the [life lessons are universal ones](https://sicklessons.com/). [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1577314808?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=bb567f5992190165e8278e1edc654549&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [The Value in Seeking Out Moments of Gratitude (and How to do it)](https://achronicvoice.com/value-gratitude/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [Is Seeking Help for Your Mental Health Worth It?](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/) --- ### If You’re Feeling...Academic [![The Secret of Scent: Adventures in Perfume and the Science of Smell (By: Luca Turin)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/315-rVql40L._SL400_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0061133841?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) #### The Secret of Scent: Adventures in Perfume and the Science of Smell *By: Luca Turin* I love perfumes, but it’s an expensive hobby that I could only afford back when I was [**working full-time**](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/). I would order sample vials online, and sniff all the bottles in perfume stores. From the premium booths of Guerlain, to the general stores of Sephora and the airport's DFS. From the imported potions along Arab Street, to pure essential oil mixtures. My first gift to my ex was a bottle of Green Irish Tweed by Creed, and my first splurge was on Guerlain's Rose Barbare from their [L’Art et la Manière series](https://www.guerlain.com/sg/en-sg/fragrance/perfumery-of-art/lart-la-matiere-1/). Anyway sorry for the diversion. This book is a look into the science behind scent and our sense of smell. To create perfumes is all about chemistry – one of my worst subjects back in school, ironically. It must be an amazing job, inventing molecules for new fragrances in the labs. The possibilities in chemistry are endless at such a minuscule level. It's a bit of a science-y and technical read, but the kind of technicality that's sensual and sexy. It was also interesting to know that our sense of smell is still quite the mystery. Luca presents his theory as a biophysicist on how it functions in our bodies, known as the 'vibration theory of olfaction'. This is based on a 'swipe card' model, as compared to traditional shape theories. [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0061133841?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f9d9d97f39dab13dcb275fd5f0634c76&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) --- ### If You’re Feeling...Mortal [![I Am, I Am, I Am: Seventeen Brushes with Death (By: Maggie O'Farrell)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41oKzU+7GNL._SL400_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0525436057?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) #### I Am, I Am, I Am: Seventeen Brushes with Death *By: Maggie O'Farrell* A light and easy memoir to read, which I know sounds ironic given the title. The author shares 17 experiences she's had with death - serious, accidental, and incidental ones. The results of wannabe teenage heroism, health problems, encounters with murderers, and more. A good, entertaining read for when your [**head is clouded with brain fog**](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) and you can’t concentrate on much else. [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0525436057?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=641e8340a2f94997e3281cbe72522408&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) --- ### If You’re Feeling...Compassionate [![The Language of Kindness: A Nurse's Story (By: Christie Watson)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41xhwslD6LL._SL400_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1784706884?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) #### The Language of Kindness: A Nurse's Story *By: Christie Watson* A memoir by a lady who got into the nursing field by happenstance, because she didn’t know what else to choose for her studies. Funny where life leads you to, and a pretty common problem for many of us, I think! It touches on a bit of everything that goes on in the hospital. The frenzy in the emergency room, the [**intenseness of a surgery**](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/), the high-stress and heartbreaks in the NICU, stolen drugs by doctors, interactions with patients, and much more. All of these encounters are tied back to her perspective as a nurse with over 20 years of experience in the field. She also shares some thoughts and insights into other nursing specialisations. Each requires a different set of skills and personality type! [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1784706884?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=753d441c482d220bf4ecd36dd3c32172&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [Why I Need to See 10 Different Doctors on a Regular Basis](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [What’s it Like to Live with a Heart Rhythm Disorder?](https://achronicvoice.com/heart-rhythm-disorder/) - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) --- ## **What’s on My Wish List** I have a collection called 'Self Reward List' on my Kindle. It's essentially an excuse to buy a new book, and motivation to finish reading the ones in my 'Am Reading' collection. Currently there are 30 books in it \*ahem\*, and that excludes ones that I've already bought for my [tsundoku](https://lithub.com/the-pleasures-of-tsundoku-or-how-i-learned-to-stop-worrying-and-love-book-piles/) pile. Terrible, I know. But thought I should spread the indulgence around, since it isn't deadly. Check them out: ### 1\. The Poisoner's Handbook: Murder and the Birth of Forensic Medicine in Jazz Age New York *By: Deborah Blum* [![The Poisoner's Handbook: Murder and the Birth of Forensic Medicine in Jazz Age New York (By: Deborah Blum)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51acyBff5ZL._SL400_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/014311882X?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) It must have been an exciting time to be alive during the jazz age of New York. There are so many different types of poisons, each with their own distinct lethalness. Each chapter features one poison, its history, how it was mostly used, and the trace of clues they leave behind. [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/014311882X?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=53c3419a9b624c53f442a5277c67bf04&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) --- ### 2\. A Monk's Guide to a Clean House and Mind *By: Shoukei Matsumoto* [![A Monk's Guide to a Clean House and Mind (By: Shoukei Matsumoto)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/412UlrmaUWL._SL400_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0143133330?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Monks and homes? Sounds like an interesting combination to me. This book views cleaning in a different light, and touches on the Japanese concept of ‘cultivating the mind’. Topics revolve around garbage, insects, cleaning tasks, and objects such as hand towels. As opposed to a typical 'what' and 'how' stance common in Western society, it seems to deal with the 'why' and the 'how' behind the 'why'. If that makes sense. Hopefully reading this will inspire me to curate the perfect space for my mind and body! [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0143133330?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=3aac7749e8816aedd1f7265f90f4b90a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) --- ### 3\. This is Going to Hurt: Secret Diaries of a Junior Doctor *By: Adam Kay* [![This is Going to Hurt: Secret Diaries of a Junior Doctor (By: Adam Kay)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41WuWM2pSFL._SL400_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1509858636?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) To be honest, I thought the title sounded a little boring. I mean, people like me have hospitals for second homes, so what insight can we really gain from a junior doctor? But this [book review by Carol of ‘Invisibly Me’](https://invisiblyme.com/2019/08/31/thisisgoingtohurt-bookreview/) convinced me that it’s one to add to the list! Apparently she doesn’t get amused easily, yet this doctor managed to make her laugh with every page. And anything that makes you laugh is good, right? [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1509858636?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=49f928a55f45f4acdc9ed90a6c335063&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [Is My Doctor Right for Me?](https://achronicvoice.com/is-my-doctor-right-for-me/) - [How to Prepare for a Medical Appointment in a Post-Pandemic World (4 Top Tips From a Doctor)](https://achronicvoice.com/prepare-medical-appointment/) --- ### 4\. Illness as Metaphor and AIDS and Its Metaphors *By: Susan Sontag* [![Illness as Metaphor and AIDS and Its Metaphors (By: Susan Sontag)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51XIUF0wlzL._SL400_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0312420137?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) I’ve never read any of Susan Sontag’s books, but she is a much revered author and thinker. She was a cancer patient herself when she wrote this book, and her aim was to destigmatize illness. It’s interesting to read about chronic illness from the perspective of a patient and essayist rolled into one. It shows how the words and the language we use matter. They can influence how society approaches disease, and how doctors treat them. I've always believed in the immense, enlightening power of metaphors (it's even in [**my About page**](https://achronicvoice.com/about/)!), so this should make for an interesting read. [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0312420137?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f44d1448fa0cb8dae519f5c30fd9f235&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) --- ### 5\. You Can Do All Things: Drawings, Affirmations and Mindfulness to Help With Anxiety and Depression *By: Kate Allan* [![You Can Do All Things: Drawings, Affirmations and Mindfulness to Help With Anxiety and Depression (Book Gift for Women) (By: Kate Allan)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51hWEMImeYL._SL400_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1642508055?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) If you need a little motivation or inspiration, these drawings and affirmations will do the job! You might already be familiar with [the author, Kate Allan, on Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/thelatestkate/). With over 100k followers, her art resonates with many who live with mental health issues. This book is a compilation of her wonderful drawings, so you can pick it up for an instant perk-me-up! [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1642508055?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=d9fd842db31aab123e8524a416c0d335&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) --- I hope something on this list caught your eye. For more book recommendations for the chronically ill that spans a wide variety of genres, check out [**part one**](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/) and [**part two**](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies-2/). Happy reading! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [An Inspirational Poem on Miracles, by Thuli Zuma](https://achronicvoice.com/poem-on-miracles-thuli-zuma/) - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) - [It’s Just One of Those Nights (Poetry on Steroids)](https://achronicvoice.com/one-of-those-nights-poetry-steroids/) - [Just Breathing is Enough For Today](https://achronicvoice.com/just-breathing-enough-today-poem/) - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) Pin to Your Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill & Disabled Boards: ![Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill: Part III](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_book-recommendations-chronic-illness-p3-3.png) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Lindsay Oct 11, 2019 Lots of great suggestions! I have already read a few of these and look forward to checking the others out! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 11, 2019 Hi Lindsay, happy you like the list! If you have any to share as well, feel free to leave a comment! 🙂 - [ Rachel, The Invisible Hypothyroidism ](https://www.theinvisiblehypothyroidism.com) Sep 19, 2019 Ooh, thank you for the recommendations, Sheryl. I already had two of these in my ‘to-read’ list but will add a few more. I love finding new books that help with mindfulness and those kind of topics especially. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 19, 2019 Hi Rachel, that’s awesome! If I may ask, which two were on your list? I’m curious! ;p - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Sep 18, 2019 Oh wow, Maggie really had a lot of near misses with death. I hadn’t come across that one before but I vaguely remember seeing the cover for Take Daily as Needed some time this week but I had no idea what it was about, that also sounds really interesting. Will add them to my TBR – great round-up of bookish inspiration!! Caz xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 19, 2019 Thanks Caz, glad you found them inspiring! Yes near misses with death, although not all of them are that serious. Some are the sort of mini accidents we all have in life, though she did have some scary problems, too! But interesting concept, I’d say. Take Daily as Needed is truly one focussed on chronic illness and family! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness URL: https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/ Last updated: 2026-05-19T14:43:08.000Z ## Physical Pain is Terrible, But Sometimes It Isn't the Worst Part About Chronic Illness When we mention the word ‘pain’, the type of pain that often comes to mind first is that of a physical nature. Physical pain is no laughing matter; in fact, unbearable physical pain that becomes chronic is a [major contributing factor to suicide risk](https://www.reuters.com/article/us-health-pain-suicide/chronic-pain-may-contribute-to-suicide-study-warns-idUSKCN1LQ2L6). For people who live with chronic pain, this seeps into all facets of their life like a slow poison. It disables one function after another, switches off mental and emotional connections, and corrupts all the rules of life. [**Many of these disabilities are “invisible”**](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/), which leads to societal stigmas. Humans are highly visual creatures, afterall. How do you empathise with pain that’s internal and therefore, unseen to the naked eye? Even family members can have trouble grasping the depth and complexity of chronic pain, and they’re often the people who are closest to us. What more about colleagues, acquaintances, and worse yet – strangers? *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Read Related Posts: - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [A Page From a Sick Girl’s Diary: Sometimes I Wish I was an Old Person](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girls-diary-wish-old-person/) - [Would You Rather: Have an Invisible Illness or a Visible Disability?](https://achronicvoice.com/rather-have-invisible-illness-or-disability/) - [4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Chronic Pain Boards: ![Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness. Read the post on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/sometimes-physical-pain-isnt-worst-part-about-chronic-illness.jpg) ![For people who live with chronic pain, this seeps into all facets of their life like a slow poison. It disables one function after another, switches off mental and emotional connections, and corrupts all the rules of life. Read the post: Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-slow-poison-mental-emotional-connections-corrupts-life.jpg) ## The Endless Symptoms & Side Effects of Chronic Illness Take a Toll When it comes to autoimmune diseases and chronic illnesses, the symptoms are neverending. The medications used to control them come with their own set of side effects as well. Some of these side effects are so harsh that patients are unable to continue using them. Or they may need another medication to control the side effects of the side effects. The irony. It’s terrifying [**when your physical appearance morphs because of medication**](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) or illness. [**Looking at yourself in the mirror becomes a traumatic experience**](https://achronicvoice.com/body-dysmorphic-disorder/). It’s deflating and scary when you experience strange symptoms, ones that even your doctor has no answer for. ## Here's the Surprising Thing About Living with Chronic Pain I’ve lived with chronic illnesses for 20 years, and have gone through many, many pain flares. Flares that are so painful and disabling that I imagine this is what hell must feel like. Yet, I actually don’t find this to be the worst aspect of living with chronic pain. **In my humble opinion, one cannot deal with chronic physical pain when they’re already defeated mentally. At that point, you’re too tired to even care anymore.** You don’t care about what others think about your ‘cowardice’ or rudeness. You don’t care that your friends and family might feel hurt or worried by your behaviour. It’s difficult to put this into words unless you’ve experienced it yourself. Read Related Posts: - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - [An Open Letter to Death, and One Simple Plea](https://achronicvoice.com/letter-to-death-simple-plea/) - [3 Types of Chronic Pain that Sound Bearable, but are Not](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-bearable-not/) Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Mental Health Boards: ![What Could be Worse Than Physical Pain?](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/what-could-be-worse-than-physical-pain.jpg) ![“One cannot deal with chronic physical pain when they’re already defeated mentally. At that point, you’re too tired to even care anymore.” Click to read the post: Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/cannot-deal-chronic-pain-defeated-mentally.jpg) ## The Worst Part About Chronic Illness, According to 40 Chronic Pain Patients I ran a poll on Twitter some time back, on what patients found could be worse than physical pain itself: > Which part of living with chronic illness - unrelated to the the pain itself - gets you down the most? > > — A Chronic Voice (@AChVoice) [May 7, 2019](https://twitter.com/AChVoice/status/1125620290032037888?ref%5Fsrc=twsrc%5Etfw) That's 821 votes in total. Not all my polls have had such responsiveness, so obviously it struck a chord within the chronic illness community. ## 5 Recurring Themes on What Can be the Worst Part About Chronic Illness This led me to take it one step further and go into a little more detail, as it's clearly a topic that needs way more attention. There were a few recurring themes in the subsequent open-ended responses: 1. The loss of friendships 2. The ignorance or lack of understanding from friends, family and society 3. Isolation and loss of a social life 4. Loss of independence and career 5. The unpredictability Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Infographics Boards: ![What Can Hurt More Than Chronic Pain? Top 5 Recurring Themes: loss of friendships, Ignorance or lack of understanding from friends, family and society, isolation and loss of a social life, loss of independence and career, and the unpredictability. [Infographic]](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/what-can-hurt-more-than-chronic-pain-infographic.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [What’s It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) ## There are Many Ways to Show Support & Solidarity with a Chronically Ill Loved One How many times have you, as a friend or caregiver, felt helpless seeing your loved one in pain? I found these responses thought-provoking, because many of the situations *can* be made better, even by a little bit. Sure, no one can bear anyone else's physical burden for them. But issues such as isolation can be worked around with a bit of creativity. Also, simply showing up and being present for a loved one, especially when they are in the throes of suffering, can mean the world to them. Read Related Posts: - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) - [What Stops You from Splitting Your Burdens Up?](https://achronicvoice.com/splitting-your-burdens/) - [Asking for Help (and Why Everyone Needs to Learn this Important Life Skill)](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) ## Thank You to the Contributors Below! Thank you to each and every one of you who contributed, provided insight, and dared to be vulnerable for a good purpose. I appreciate it, and know that it will be educational for many people out there. No matter what you’re going through or how you’re feeling, remember this: you are not alone. Hang in there x *\*Note: Some of the responses have been edited for the purpose of brevity or clarity.* --- ## What Can be the Worst Part About Chronic Illness, Besides the Physical Pain: ### 1\. Jo Moss [ ](https://www.facebook.com/ajourneythroughthefog/) [ ](https://x.com/JourneyFog) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/jomoss1975/) “Isolation, loss of independence and people's ignorance surrounding my illnesses.” ### 2\. Laurie Harmon [ ](https://seekingserenityandharmony.com/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/seekingserenity2001/) [ ](https://x.com/harmony2001) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/SeekingSerenityandHarmony/) “The emotional pain of feeling rejection. I always feel I am not enough. I feel I ‘should’ be holding down a job outside of the house. People who were close to me no longer are. The fatigue and emotions I battle with weigh in addition to my health struggles. I know that my family cares and that they want me t o feel better. But they don’t understand what I am feeling or going through as they aren’t experiencing it for themselves. I give them a lot of credit for trying, still some days I feel so alone and misunderstood.” ### 3\. Mandy Vaccarezza [ ](https://www.ladyfibro.co.uk/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/ladyfibro/) [ ](https://x.com/ladyfibro) “Not having a social life, losing my friends, feeling isolated and lonely. This has been difficult for me to accept and adjust to, going from a social animal to being completely isolated. People not understanding the effects of an invalidating chronic illness, to the point of not wanting to be around you, as they think it would have an effect on their ‘Happiness Bubble’. Feeling let down by the lack of understanding and care…too many things to list.” ### 4\. dSavannah [ ](https://dsavannah.com/blog/) “The people who have disappeared from my life. The resulting loneliness and isolation.” ### 5\. Jenny [ ](https://www.lifesapolyp.com/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/lifesapolyp) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/lifesapolyp/) [ ](https://x.com/LifesaPolyp) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/lifesapolyp/) “When my **[Short Bowel Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/roy-george-dramatic-life-short-bowel/)** flares, causing me to run to the bathroom every 10 minutes or less for hours on end.” ### 6\. Rachel Tait [ ](https://whatapain.co.uk/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/whatapainblog) [ ](https://x.com/whatapain%5Fblog) “When I lost my job to chronic illness it hurt more than the physical pain of my **[rheumatoid arthritis](https://achronicvoice.com/rheumatoid-arthritis-fight-life/)**. I lost a huge part of my identity when I lost my ability to work. It took a major toll on my mental health. I worked so hard to get into my career field and to have my career cut short at age 27 was so painful. With time I’ve adjusted, but it will always feel like a part of me is missing. Thankfully I have my blog to focus on now and have found a new way to feel purpose. However, I’m not sure the pain of losing my career will ever really be completely gone.” ### 7\. Tonya “People not believing I’m in pain.” ### 8\. Rhiann Johns [ ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/MyBrainLesionAndMe) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/serenebutterfly/) [ ](https://x.com/serenebutterfly) “The isolation and loneliness. Sometimes it’s not even physical isolation but being in a roomful of people and feeling totally alone because of the pain. In an interview recently for disability benefits I was asked whether I saw many people or had visitors. I was really sad to say that I didn’t, which I found confronting. It made me aware how small my world has become because of chronic illness and pain.” ### 9\. Sarah “Exclusion of outings with friends or family.” ### 10\. Sophie “Being fat and not being able to use my brain to its full capacity!” ### 11\. Carole Griffitts [ ](https://www.navigatingthestorms.com/) [ ](https://x.com/CaroleConnects) “Being too weak and subject to injuries keeps me from joining in activities with family and friends. That is emotionally painful.” (**[Read more about Carole's passions and talents in this interview](https://achronicvoice.com/carole-griffitts-chronically-ill-grandmother-modern/)**!) ### 12\. Bonnie [ ](https://www.instagram.com/poshnotions) “Fatigue and brain fog.” ### 13\. Courtney Madenford [ ](https://x.com/courtneym8216) “Mental pain.” ### 14\. Jordyn C. [ ](https://www.facebook.com/thechronicallyunimaginable) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/thechronicallyunimaginable) [ ](https://x.com/Jordyn72758776) “For me, the alienation that chronic illness/pain causes is often worse than the physical pain itself. It’s difficult to be with someone, yet know that they don’t truly understand. I could be in a room full of 100 friends and still feel like I’m stranded and forgotten.” ### 15\. Kirsten ” Feeling unproductive, and missing out.” ### 16\. Sarah Johnson “Brain fog and mental health problems.” ### 17\. Janean Overman “The unpredictability of it all. Living with chronic illness has caused me to view human connections in the same inconsistent way. Effects of my condition has made me unreliable. Therefore, I believe people will only show themselves to be untrustworthy and not constant in my life.” ### 18\. Amanda M “My loss of concentration and cognitive abilities.” ### 19\. Nick Winder [ ](https://www.facebook.com/illnesstoultra) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/illnesstoultra) “When questioned if the symptoms are just ‘part of life’, especially when it’s the people that are close to you.” ### 20\. Gail C. [ ](https://pppdsurvivor.blogspot.com/) [ ](https://x.com/dizzy%5Fgigi) “Knowing that **[my friends and family don't really understand](https://achronicvoice.com/we-shouldnt-expect-people-to-understand/)**. They are kind, but they don’t know.” ### 21\. Erica Carrasco [ ](https://achysmile.com/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/achysmileblog) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/achysmileblog) “Multiple days in bed missing out on everything happening around me, especially time with my kids.” ### 22\. Ashley B. [ ](https://ashleysanatomy.com/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/AshleysAnatomy) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/%5Fashleysanatomy) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/ashleysanatomy/ashleys-anatomy-blog/) “I find the loneliness that I often experience is the most painful part of being chronically ill. I spend hours at a time alone while normal people attend work or school. I start to **[compare myself to others](https://achronicvoice.com/dont-compare-life-destination-special/)** and I make myself sick (literally). I try to keep myself busy, and my brand and blog does just that.” ### 23\. Collin Wong [ ](https://collinscrohns.wordpress.com/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/collins%5Fibd%5Fchronicles) [ ](https://x.com/theasiangut) “The psychological toll that the pain takes on most chronic illness patients including me.” ### 24\. Elizabeth Sirrell [ ](https://www.despitepain.com/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/despitepainpage) [ ](https://x.com/DespitePainBlog) [ ](https://uk.pinterest.com/despitepain/) “Payback. For everything I manage to do, even when I pace myself, there is payback. Even a week after being active, I might still be paying a price. After years of learning to listen to what my body needs, I still want to do more than I’m capable of. The realisation that I can’t often hits me hard as if I am new to living with chronic pain. But I’ve been living with it for most of my life.” *([Listen to an interview I had with Elizabeth on the “Sick Lessons” podcast](https://sicklessons.com/liz-sirrell-acceptance-empathy/), about life lessons she’s learned from living with chronic illness.)* ### 25\. Amanda “Having to let go of people who don’t understand, the ignorance you face from others, and not being able to physically do the things you did before.” ### 26\. Beth “The constant fight to be recognised by doctors, family and friends as being disabled, and having the authority over my own body. Nobody knows me (or what helps) better than I do.” ### 27\. Alex Flipse [ ](https://www.facebook.com/flippymom) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/flippymom) [ ](https://x.com/flippymomof3) “Having to live in poverty in order to get government assistance such as low income subsidy that is **[extra help for my meds, medicaid, food stamps and more](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/)**. I wish that I could be a productive member of society.” ### 28\. Cyrene [ ](https://www.instagram.com/cyrenexo) [ ](https://x.com/cyrenexo) “Stiffness and fatigue.” ### 29\. Tammy Whitaker “The depression and anxiety along with the pain is hard to cope with.” ### 30\. JacQueline Roe [ ](https://authorjroe.com/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/jacquelinevaughnroe) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/jacquelinevaughnroe) [ ](https://x.com/JacQuelineVRoe) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/jacquelinevroe/) “Depression that distances us from friends and family.” ### 31\. Catherine “Not being able to keep up with the pace of life – feeling so inconsistent. Feeling weak and useless.” ### 32\. Mary Caelsto [ ](https://marykitcaelsto.com/blog/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/marykitcaelsto) [ ](https://www.patreon.com/kitmuse) “The lack of understanding from family members and coworkers.” ### 33\. Jasmin Floyd [ ](https://www.facebook.com/jasminsblog) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/twoskeletons) [ ](https://x.com/twoskeletons) “I’ve found that the feeling of missing out on life, not being well enough to be included in activities and events, and having to explain how I’m doing, can all hurt more than the physical pain. It takes a huge emotional toll to know that the only reason I can’t always go out is due to my body and chronic symptoms. Friends don’t always understand my situation, which makes it even harder. I struggle to continuously express how I’m feeling to them because it changes over the course of each day. Also, I simply don’t have as much energy or stamina as I used to. I’ll need my friends to understand that our hangouts will look different now, more laid-back and thoroughly planned out because of my new physical needs.” ### 34\. Bridget “The unpredictability – can I do the thing or not, will the thing kill me or be super easy? Will this sneeze be a sneeze, or something akin to a surprise cameo of Green Arrow’s arrow through my right ovary? ?‍♀️” ### 35\. Laura Spoonie [ ](https://lauraspoonie.blog/) [ ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LjAhZrwOhQw) “Not being able to carry out normal, everyday tasks. Making me feel unaccomplished.” ### 36\. Nira Hyman [ ](https://canyouhelpmeimlost.wordpress.com/) “Anxiety over how bad pain may get.” ### 37\. Elizabeth Bulfer [ ](https://findinglifessilversun.com/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/findinglifessilversun) “The disconnect between what my brain wants to do, and **[what my body is capable of doing](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/)**.” ### 38\. Varpu “When people don’t take you seriously but belittle your illness and pain, dismissing them either as pretense, or as just a little something that’s ‘between the ears’.” ### 39\. Gwen “[The voice in the back of your mind](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/my-inner-child-and-the-angry-girl) that nags at you at your best, and screams at you at your worst, telling you that you should be strong enough to overcome this, why aren’t you able to push past this, do more. That voice telling you that you just might be wasting your only life, and that you are failing at everything. That vicious little voice that’s born out of ableism and societal pressure to ‘hustle’. A voice made out of every single time someone close to you disregarded your illness or didn’t understand. The moments when this voice gets going feels more painful and more damaging than physical pain ever has.” ### 40\. Laurie Ann Harmon [ ](https://seekingserenityandharmony.com/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/seekingserenityandharmony) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/seekingserenity2001) “Emotional pain of feeling alone, feeling like no one else really ‘gets’ it. Those that ‘get’ it are those that are in my online chronic illness groups. I am sitting here in bad pain tonight and there are people around me, but I feel very alone and disconnected.” ### 41\. Chronic\_Denial “The feeling of aloneness when facing a period of disease flare with no foreseeable end can be mentally painful to bear. It’s easy to feel like the (usually) healthy people around you can’t truly understand **[the sacrifices you've already made to the dreams in your life](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/)**. And the potential sacrifices that come to mind when you realize that you may never fully recover, or that you may be on a path of lifelong decline in health. It can be a very painful process to reimagine a new, more limited landscape than the life you had imagined for yourself. Often there’s a loss of freedom and independence. The positive is that going through this painful process **[can open our eyes to the huge variation in what it means to be human](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/)**, and to really believe that everyone deserves equal rights and opportunities. In the case of invisible illness, it has helped me to view every person I interact with as an individual, and to wonder what burdens they bear, and how I can make their life easier and happier. This can be as simple as holding a door, or listening to someone vent their frustrations with a non-judgmental ear. **[Turning the mental pain into something useful and positive](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/)** is the best way for me to begin to heal, feel less alone, and like I’m living again.” ## In Conclusion to What Can be the Worst Part About Chronic Illness - From 40 Patients As you can see, there is a recurrent theme that revolves around a sense of isolation in one form or another. Be it a loss of friendship or lack of understanding and awareness, these factors can make an already painful life with chronic illness even more painful. The [**unpredictability of chronic pain and chronic fatigue**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) only adds another layer of exhaustion. It becomes another obstacle to navigate; another barrier at attempts to reconnect with humanity. If you live with chronic illness, know that you are not alone - there are many of us out there who understand just how you feel. There is a huge chronic illness community online whom you can reach out to for support and solidarity. If you're having a bad day, don't forget that there can and will be a few good days, too. Sending good thoughts to all! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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Read Related Posts: - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [7 Proven Strategies to Stay Resilient No Matter What Happens (from A to G)](https://achronicvoice.com/strategies-stay-resilient/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/sometimes-physical-pain-isnt-worst-part-chronic-illness-2.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Sue Jackson ](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/) Sep 25, 2022 Excellent work on the polling and a wonderful summary, Sheryl! I think, for me, the worst parts are definitely lack of understanding from others and isolation. Still in that bad crash that began over a month ago, and the isolation is really starting to affect me!! Thanks for speaking for all of us! Sue [My Book: Finding a New Normal: Living Your Best Life with Chronic Illness ](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/p/my-book.html/) - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 28, 2022 Yes I agree, especially if you’re extroverted and gain energy from these interactions. Isolation is bad though for anyone. Sometimes just a simple chat with a friend can really brighten one’s day 🙂 P.s. Would you like me to add your entry into the list? 😀 - [ APRIL KEY RODE ](https://www.rodesontheroad.com/) Nov 3, 2020 All the topics mentioned here by everyone is so true. It is so disheartening when people think that we’re making it up or just pretending to feel it. No one to help you and try the best you can to continue your day. Great topic, and so helpful! Sometimes I wish I can be normal and be like everyone, but it’s frustrating to know that I am not. It’s good to know that we’re not alone, and somebody somewhere understands our struggles. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Sending gentle hugs, April. It’s difficult to be undiagnosed like you are, as it can even lead us to question our own pain and selves. And people around us can be harsh. I hope you find answers to your pain soon. - [ Alison B Hayes ](https://www.thrivingwhiledisabled.com) Jul 3, 2020 Such an important topic! Physical pain is bad, but emotional pain lingers long after physical pain shifts. This is why meditation can be so important – to help you seperate the physical pain from the other components(like personal emotional expectations or fears around the pain) – but there’s not a lot you can do about how society treats you, except for try to help those around you understand or choose to only nurture friendships that are capable of respecting your pain or limitations. My FND hasn’t had major pain issues associated with it, and so far my migraines have mostly been managable – but from the glimpses I’ve had when things have gone bad, I have nothing but respect for folks managing chronic severe pain. I know how challenging I’ve found it when family or friends fail to understand my symptoms, or have assumed I’m ‘cured’ when I’ve had periods of improved control. It’s always got some aspect of struggle to it, and so often people just fail to understand! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 4, 2020 Thanks for sharing your tips and thoughts, Alison 🙂 Yes I think it’s especially hard when friends and family dismiss your pain or don’t understand, especially when they’re the ones who are supposed to care the most, or who actually live with you. And the point made about society is spot on. More education and awareness are indeed necessary! - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Jul 1, 2020 I find missing out on events and fun things with friends and family to be really hard. It’s somehow more disappointing and hurtful. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 1, 2020 It can feel really depressing when you’re missing out on memories with loved ones, especially for the more extroverted ones of us. - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Jul 1, 2020 Hi Sheryl… I was looking at the Twitter poll options and realised that I would find it hard to pick one. I really feel I’ve missed out being a happy teenager and social person in my 20s and now in my 30s I wonder how I would’ve been had I been able to keep a job, be social etc. But after going through all that thinking I do feel quite happy that despite all the issues, life has been kind because I’ve managed to lose the people who didn’t care and have a more understanding set of friends. I’ve been blessed with family that is loving, helpful but lets me live too. So yes I have missed out on a lot of stuff I would’ve loved to have done and yes it can hurt but thankfully somewhere I’m at peace with that. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 1, 2020 Hi Shruti, I can totally relate to your sentiments. With the high dose of steroids I was on, I will never truly know which was puberty, and which was the steroids. But that’s okay, I’ve learned to let that go. And I did write an article about what you mention too, regarding losing all the people who don’t matter, in case you wanted to read 😀 [https://www.sicklessons.com/attract-best-people/ ](https://www.sicklessons.com/attract-best-people/) - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/) May 24, 2020 Thanks, once again, for another excellent resource article and round-up of chronic voices to attest to your topic. For me, the never-ending pain and exhausting that comes with it makes me feel very misunderstood. Sometimes I feel like no one in my family or inner circle of friends really get it. I know they read my articles and they’ve seen it, but there are times when I wonder if they really understand how my life is now. I can only keep trying my best to continue to inform them, but I’m pretty sure they got sick of reading my blog over 10 years ago! 🙂 It’s good to know we can look to other communities that DO understand us! I find solace in those groups. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 24, 2020 Haha I hear you. I never force anyone to read my blogs though, and I think my ex never read it (but he lived it with me throughout). Surprisingly, I get other people reading it in stalker-ish mode lol. Yes, it’s good to have the community as a support network for sure 🙂 The pain and fatigue can get really depressing many a times. - [ Amelia ](https://www.youcanalwaysstartnow.com) Sep 16, 2019 A much needed post. I can’t imagine what you and others are going through. I think when you are physically and mentally not suffering chronic pain or pain period we take our bodies for granted. Also we have no idea what others are going through so compassion is needed on so many levels. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 17, 2019 Thanks for taking the time to read and trying to empathise, Amelia. We need more people like you around 🙂 Whilst it’s true that it’s difficult to cope and impossible for others to understand, the best we can do is to try and convey it, and for the other party to try. - [ Carol ](https://carolcooks2.com) Sep 15, 2019 I read this post and the comments and it does seem like it is hard to get even close friends and family to understand…I have always said that if you haven’t got a plaster on your forehead then people think it is not as bad as all that or take a tablet or try to focus on something else … I suppose because you can’t see pain it makes it more difficult… I try so hard to understand and I am so aware that my understanding isn’t enough. A well written and thought-provoking post 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 15, 2019 Hi Carol, thank you for taking the time and heart to try and understand. It means the world to people with illnesses! Really it’s all about listening, and showing up for them. I hope you and your loved ones are in good health x - [ Marian Wood ](https://www.marianwood.com) Sep 15, 2019 Hi Sheryl, the medications, the pain, the side effects pandas you have highlighted society all must make things so hard. The closest I know of this is my husband with chronic back pain, addicted to his pain killers. He has been on them about eight years or more, he suffers withdrawn and alot of pain with out them. Very interesting post, addressing the issues. - [ Marian Wood ](https://www.marianwood.com) Sep 15, 2019 Sorry no pandas… nor sure what I was writing there.. grrr to predictive text. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 15, 2019 Haha I loved the pandas! :p And yes, it can be hard for others to understand though, because they don’t experience it. And I’m sorry to hear your husband is addicted to his pain pills…though I’d say there is a huge difference between addiction and dependence! Sending hugs. - Pamela Jessen Sep 14, 2019 Wow, you’ve really captured the thoughts of those who live with chronic pain and show what we all go through. It’s raw and heartbreaking to read some of these comments. Having lived with Chronic Pain for over half my life, I completely understand what everyone here is talking about. I still struggle with issues like being productive and making a difference. thank you for talking about such a difficult topic. Your compassion came clearly through. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 15, 2019 Thanks Pamela, and to all who dared to be vulnerable and share their insights. Yes it’s heartbreaking, and a topic that’s so easy to shove under the carpet when you’re not the one who’s suffering and weakened with pain. - Donna Sep 14, 2019 Gteat article! It’s so helpful to know how others feel. So many of the comments sounds like I feel. Every day I go through the pain and loneliness of not doing what I did in the past. Adding 20 ugly pounds to my 5’1″ frame. Wondering about my quality of life for who knows how many years. Wondering if I’m a hypochondriac. The brain fog where I forget to pay bills. Losing friends and family. I hear myself whine and feeling guilty about it. Can’t work to make money and Soc Security barely covers expenses so can’t even afford CBD to see if it would help. Thanks for giving me a chance to try to explain. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 15, 2019 Hi Donna, I think many of us experience many of these thoughts or feelings, unfortunately. It really does suck when it affects you physically and mentally, too, makes it so much harder to cope. You are definitely not alone. Hopefully this helps a little bit with highlighting some common and eternal human problems we have in society. - [ Catherine Green ](https://spookymrsgreen.com) Sep 12, 2019 Those comments resonated deeply. Outwardly I appear normal and healthy, and generally I am. But I live with a rare genetic eye disorder. I was unable to claim government disability benefit because most health professionals have never heard of it. So I spent years commuting to a full-time office job, knowing full well on some days that my eye pain was so severe I could end up having a car accident. But I persevered through the dark days, and while I have now adapted my lifestyle to better accommodate my disorder, it is still very lonely. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 13, 2019 Hi Catherine, it really is an issue when the condition is rare, plus not so visible. It really sucks to get support in such a scenario. It does get pretty lonely and I’ve found the online spoonie community to be a big support group. Which is lovely because they understand! - Michelle Sep 10, 2019 Thanks so much for raising awareness of this very important topic. Though my career felt like one of the hardest things to deal with losing, ultimately, it was more about the disapproval I felt radiating off of everyone that made it so hard for me to also be able to accept those changes. It’s the lack of support, friendship and camaraderie I missed the most, being forced into isolation was hard enough without the mass exodus of friendships and colleagues from my life who all felt that if I just had the initiative, I could keep going. Having people that “get it” in my life was very cathartic and helped me move forward. The reality is it takes very little to watch out and support our fellow human and that begins with belief, understanding and compassion for others. Whether we fully understand what they’re going through or not, it’s not difficult to accept that we don’t know and shouldn’t judge. Great post. Thank you! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 11, 2019 Hi Michelle, Thanks for sharing and for your support! Totally get what you mean. I wrote in another post about suicide about the same issues in society. I truly believe that with more empathy, many of those with chronic pain will be more inspired to carry on. - Debra Purdy Kong Sep 9, 2019 Very interesting post, and thanks for sharing. What really struck me was the poll results and how many people felt that societal expectations were one of the hardest aspects to deal with. It makes sense when you think about it, and is opening my eyes to what others are going through. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 9, 2019 Hi Debra, thanks so much for taking the time to read these responses and for your empathy. Yes it really is difficult to deal with, there’s so much pressure within society even for healthy people, what more those with disabilities and illnesses. But we can make positive influences bit by bit in our own ways, too. Starting from the communities around us 🙂 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### On Being a Decent Human Being and Other Thoughts URL: https://achronicvoice.com/being-decent-human-being/ Last updated: 2025-11-11T18:51:45.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## In Search of New Freelance Jobs, After Resigning Due to Chronic Illness I have been working hard to find work of late, but everything is kind of in that sketchy start up stage. It feels a bit like I’m groping around in the dark and scraping by, nails scratching for sustenance off cavern walls. For now I’m looking for work-from-home jobs, as [**a full-time role will tip my health over the edge**](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) again. If that’s not possible, then I will reconsider my options again. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ### Why I Had to 'Downgrade' to Freelancing [I have been freelancing for 10 years](https://blackandweb.com/#about), and it all started because of my poor health. I learned that [**the stress from work was the biggest trigger**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/) for my flare ups and [haemolytic anaemia](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/22479-hemolytic-anemia). My health immediately improved upon resignation. This incident was an eye-opener for me in terms of how much of a role stress really plays on our health and wellbeing. I quickly learned that I enjoyed freelancing as compared to a full time job. I enjoy handling all aspects of a job, from negotiating with a client, to production work. Ironically, I hate multi-tasking and working on many little jobs. I prefer to have one or two bigger gigs on my plate at a time (a full integration of a website for example). But that’s not always possible, so for now I’m doing any and everything that makes sense to me. Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life & Humanity Boards: ![On Being a Decent Human Being and Other Thoughts](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_human-thoughts-11-1-2-1-1-1-1-1.png) ## Exploring Neuroplasticity & Similar [I wrote an article for Pathways](https://www.pathways.health/blog/what-fears-got-to-do-with-chronic-pain-ways-to-recover-from-it/) last month and hope to collaborate more with them. Neuroplasticity is a fascinating topic, and I've been doing lots of research about anything related to it of late. Whilst I believe in the benefits of yoga, breathing, meditation and the likes, I’m a bit of an impatient character to sit through it every single day. But I think that it’s time to dip my toes into this pool, and explore these methods of [**rewiring my brain for pain management**](https://achronicvoice.com/rewire-brain-manage-chronic-pain/). “[The Pain Reprocessing Therapy Workbook](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1648483763?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=797dcbefba6c0ad8e80119634446c341&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl)” seems to be one of the most comprehensive books about this topic out there, and I might just purchase it to study it in a little more depth. Have any of you tried this book out and would you recommend it? [**My favourite way to ‘meditate’ so far has been flotation therapy**](https://achronicvoice.com/floatation-therapy-chronic-pain/). It forces you to enter that theta state because well, you’ve paid good money to be locked up and isolated in that pod. But it’s pricey and [**my epilepsy**](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) isn’t too well controlled of late, so it’s not something I can do on the regular. I could really feel the effects after my first float though - I had my best sleep in years after, and felt nice and calm for a few days. Read Related Posts: - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [Is Yoga Accessible for People with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [Latest Research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [How Much Time Are You Wasting On Sleep?](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/) ## Is Ghosting the Latest Fad? [**I’ve been going on a number of dates**](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) of late, but it’s been tricky with my multitude of illnesses. Now I state upfront in my dating app profiles that I live with chronic illnesses, and ask them to just swipe left if that bothers them. I’m tired of [being ghosted](https://www.bbc.com/bbcthree/article/4dfe213c-2867-4001-ab1d-bf7b00543c97). Whilst I do agree that everyone has the freedom to choose the qualities they want in a partner, I also think that ghosting is an impolite and cowardly thing to do in general. It’s so easy to hide behind a screen these days, and not even practice being a decent human being. You’re not going to see them anymore, and they probably won't even remember you in a couple weeks. So just give them some closure, even if you only had a brief encounter. Have some balls. ## Trying Out Reusable Feminine Hygiene Products I recently ordered some [reusable period undies](https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/3183CC3A-9FE0-4BAE-A662-D1DADE051EB0?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=42db35b143227847d61eb5d3ac4ea932&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) and [reusable period pads](https://sg.iherb.com/pr/rael-organic-cotton-reusable-pads-3-count/123994?rcode=ZHK244), as I’ve always wanted to try them, and I suppose now’s a good time. My gynaecologist just inserted the [Implanon NXT](https://www.nps.org.au/medicine-finder/implanon-nxt-implant), in an attempt to prevent future occurrences of [corpus luteum cyst ruptures](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/22340-corpus-luteum-cyst) (aka egg explosions). Apparently headaches and irregular, unpredictable bleeding are the main side effects, so I guess these undies might come in handy for a while. Hopefully everything goes well; it’d be annoying as my periods tend to be regular. On a side note, ladies - what are your favourite reusable period products? Let’s break the stigma and talk about this very normal monthly occurrence. I’ve heard a lot of good things about menstrual cups and tried it once, but didn’t like it. But I think I might have just picked the wrong size, as I read that it matters. Whilst I prefer tampons on the go, I find pads and undies more comfortable when at home. Now just to find greener alternatives. What about you? Read Related Posts: - [Pregnancy, Miscarriage & Women’s Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [YuYu Bottle Review: Hot Water Bottle for ‘Surround Warmth’ Pain Relief](https://achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-review/) - [Why I Need to See More Than 10 Different Types of Doctors Regularly](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) - [Wound Care & What to Wear After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery/) - [After Surgery Care at Home: Hygiene Resources](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/) ## Recounting a Harrowing Experience at the A&E I wrote a post last month recounting my [**life-threatening experience at the A&E**](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/), where I was rejected by SGH (Singapore General Hospital) for treatment. It took almost 8 hours before I finally got there, via two ambulances, from a different hospital. My blood count had dropped to a dangerous level by then, and it was chaos all round. I wrote that post because I’m sure that I’m not the only person who’s had to go through such a harrowing experience. But they may not have a platform or the ability to share it. They may be the elderly who are too frail to talk or move, the young who may be afraid and unable to cope with all the distress, or anyone else. ### My Hope for Improved Hospital Emergency Protocols Whatever the reason, I wrote that post for them and for me. I plan to take this up to the hospital and share it on social media. I only wish for two things to happen - improved protocols for emergency situations, and stringent monitoring of humane treatment by hospital staff towards all patients. I also understand that sometimes it’s the other way around, where patients are mean or disrespectful toward hospital staff. I have seen signboards requesting for patient cooperation everywhere. So it really goes two ways. Mutual respect, cooperation and patience are important. This balance can be difficult to maintain, what with the high levels of stress and pain going around. But I also think that clearer boundaries can be set for each party, so as to maximise efficiency with the right care and attitude. Whilst [**empathy can’t be expected of everyone**](https://achronicvoice.com/we-shouldnt-expect-people-to-understand/), humane treatment can still be enforced to a certain degree, through a well built set of protocols. Anyway let’s see where and how this goes. Fingers crossed. Thank you for reading my thoughts for September! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! 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I know for them, this is the umpteenth person in a situation they have to handle, but most likely, this is a first or at least a life-impacting event for us, the patient. In my experience, I’ve had some very caring health care over the years that helped me to calm down and alleviate my fear. However, one episode of cold indifference still lingers. I believe that health care (and those in the taking care of others professions) need to be taught ways to have compassion but also to protect themselves. I can understand that some may turn indifferent for self protection of getting overwhelmed by emotional events they deal with every day. - [ Ruth Websdaley ](https://d2shine.co.uk) Sep 15, 2019 Really enjoyed this month’s topics Sheryl- thank you! Wishing you all the best with finding a new work from home role. I know I couldn’t work full time unless it was from home! On the reusing topic- it took me a while but i’m switched to using a menstrual cup and it’s been really great. Hope you find the right solution for you 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 15, 2019 Thanks Ruth, glad the topics were enjoyable for you 🙂 Great to hear about the menstrual cup – seems to be the most popular option amongst women so far! - Jo Moss Sep 14, 2019 Thanks for another great selection of writing prompts. I’m really interested in more Eco-friendly period products, myself, so I’m looking forward to reading people’s suggestions. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 15, 2019 Hi Jo, glad the prompts are enjoyable. Feel free to suggest new ones anytime! I wonder when I’ll run out of ideas lol. Yes eco-friendly products can be quite interesting for the innovation in and of themselves too! - [ Rhiann ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com) Sep 9, 2019 Another great post as always Sheryl, and some brilliant prompts! It’s been another fun month. Loving that you are researching more about neuroplasticity, I agree that it is a fascinating subject, I certainly have enjoyed learning more about it via the Pathways app. Looking forward to seeing you next month!! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 9, 2019 Thanks as always, Rhiann! You’re always too kind, and your own take on the prompts are always so good.x - [ Marian Wood ](https://www.marianwood.com) Sep 7, 2019 An interesting post! I’ve never tried period undies. I hated sanitary towels, just horrid. So, over a year back now I tried a moon cup. I didn’t think I’d get on with it as blood makes me faint. However, once I’d used it a few times and got used to it, I actually think it is great, it has honestly changed my periods, - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 7, 2019 That’s interesting…never heard of a moon cup! Sanitary towels sound uncomfortable, but I should try just to try haha. - Kathy Sep 5, 2019 Neuroplasticity is a fascinating topic. I’m hoping the implant helps and doesn’t cause more issues. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 5, 2019 It kind of is, yes! And so far haven’t been feeling so well but nothing drastic…feels a bit like starting a new medication…just give it some time and time will tell as always, hey 🙂 - Nikki Albert Sep 3, 2019 I love the research topics you have been exploring. My personal research projects are always more philosophical but I do always keep up to date on current research as well, which I find promising and intriguing. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 3, 2019 Admittedly am doing it for practical reasons :p Philosophy interests me, but I tend to read books and then get inspiration for blog posts from them! And totally agree that keeping up to date with research (and current events in the world, really) is so important. - Laura Doherty Sep 3, 2019 Always love the way you interpret each of the prompts Sheryl, also thank you for linking to my post. I am so glad you enjoyed it! xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 3, 2019 Thank you lovely! And my pleasure – it was a really helpful post! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### “Stress Less” Course: By a Therapist Who Lives with Chronic Illness URL: https://achronicvoice.com/stress-less-course-by-therapist-with-chronic-illness/ Last updated: 2025-10-25T18:24:53.000Z *\*Disclaimer: This “Stress Less” course review is sponsored by Amanda Pratt of “Imagine Life Therapy”. This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ## Stress is Part of Life, and More so with Chronic Illness [**I have a friend, Julie**](https://achronicvoice.com/december-likes-2018/), whom I really admire in terms of how she handles stress. She says, “well if there’s nothing I can do about it, then why should I become more stressed out about the situation? That would only make things worse, no?” Well, yes. We all know this in theory, but executing it is difficult for many people. People like me. It’s so easy to run away with your thoughts, as they take you on a wild ride of worst case scenarios. As a person with numerous chronic illnesses, stress is inescapable, as your body is in a hypervigilant state all the time. That takes a huge toll on both the mind and body over time. [**Stress is often a major contributor**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) and trigger for pain flares, and [**chronic pain can quickly turn into a vicious cycle**](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/). Stress comes and goes in all directions, and even if you manage to staunch one hole, there is always more leaking in and out. All we can really do is to try our best to manage what is within our control. This is where the “[Stress Less Course](https://imagine-life-therapy.teachable.com/p/stress-less/?affcode=202180%5Fyxmliqtv)” run by Amanda of “Imagine Life Therapy” can be helpful. Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Stress, the Silent Assassin](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/) - [When Your Stress & Fatigue Thresholds Suck (Also on Cute Cockatiels, Education via Zoom & Art Films for Rent)](https://achronicvoice.com/stress-fatigue-thresholds-suck/) - [July’s Supply & Demand: Learning to Maximise Wellbeing in the Midst of Stress](https://achronicvoice.com/july-maximise-wellbeing-stress/) - [2018 December Prompts: De-Stressing, Savouring, Simplifying, Resting & Finalising](https://achronicvoice.com/de-stressing-december-2018/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) Pin to Your Mental Health, Stress Management & Chronic Illness Boards: ![‘Stress Less’ Now: a Complete Course by a Therapist Who Lives with Chronic Illness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/stress-less-course-review.png) ## More About Amanda Pratt, and the “Stress Less” Course [Amanda, the creator behind the “Stress Less” course](https://imaginelifetherapy.com/about/), holds a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology, and a Master’s in social work. She was a school social worker, who spent her free time volunteering locally and globally. On top of that, she lives with several chronic illnesses herself, including Lupus, Lyme Disease and Fibromyalgia. This made me feel an instant connection with her, because chronic illness is an experience that’s impossible to describe. It was reassuring to know that my instructor for the course is not only **highly qualified**, but also **‘gets it’ for real**. ![Amanda Pratt, LMSW (MI), LCSW (FL)
Founder, Therapist (LMSW (MI), LCSW (FL)), Certified Life Coach](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/amanda-pratt-imaginelifetherapy.jpg) Amanda Pratt, LMSW (MI), LCSW (FL) Founder, Therapist (LMSW (MI), LCSW (FL)), Certified Life Coach (Image from [imaginelifetherapy.com](https://imaginelifetherapy.com/)) ## The “Stress Less” Course has a Well-Balanced Structure and Pace There are six main modules in the “Stress Less” course: - **Module 1** – Stress: The Good, The Bad & The Ugly - **Module 2** – Coping Strategies: The Anti-Stress - **Module 3** – The Art of Action - **Module 4** – Mindset is Everything - **Module 5** – Communication - **Module 6** – Self-Care Each module is further broken down into bite-sized lessons, delivered in the form of high quality videos that take you through the process step by step. I am not a good video or audio based learner, so the timing stated upfront helped to prepare my brain to sit and listen. That I even finished the entire course at all says a lot about it in a positive way! The information was captivating, and the length of each session was just right. A workbook is attached with each lesson for you to download and keep. The workbook is thorough and professional, and comprises different coping tools, goals, charts and educational material. There are also pit stops along the way to check in on your progress. Best of all, it's conducted online so you can keep up even on the bad days whilst in your pjs! ## Tracking Progress in the “Stress Less” Course ### Self-Evaluation Questionnaires on a Personal Level I personally enjoy questionnaires, especially those that reveal something new about yourself. Whilst I knew that I am not someone who handles stress well, it surprised me to know just how bad I really was at it! There was a ‘coping inventory’ questionnaire at the beginning of the course, where we identified our healthy and unhealthy coping mechanisms. This is like a starting point and reference chart which I could refer to along the entire course, to see how my perspective and application to each area has changed or improved. It was also interesting to see the full list of coping strategies in the inventory; tools that others use but I may have missed out on for maximum effect. This was a great opportunity to add some new tools to my stress-reduction toolkit, and sharpen the existing ones. ### Weekly Instructor Check-ins On top of the self-evaluations, Amanda also conducts a weekly check-in on all current participants via her Facebook group. As I received this course for free and did it on a different timeline, I didn’t get to utilise this feature. A quick peek at past messages on the wall looked like it was something the average participant found useful though. For those who prefer more communication and direct Q&As from their course instructor, this is perfect. ## What I Liked Most About the “Stress Less” Course You can tell that Amanda is someone who takes pride in her work, and truly enjoys helping others. The online course is well-structured, organised and full of important details. The platform was super easy to navigate and keep track of. Amanda also has a wonderfully soothing voice, so each session sounded therapeutic in itself! I also liked the mix of materials. The self-assessment questions and goals were interesting. The coping strategies involved both physical activities and mindset shifts, and are all practical for everyday stress management. What’s best is that you can always refer to the course or workbooks again any time you fall off track, or need a little reminder in future! ## Did My Life Change After Taking the “Stress Less” Course? My life situation hasn’t changed since I started on the “Stress Less” course - I still live with chronic illnesses, and go through ups and downs. I still live day by day, and take it one step at a time. But the difference after taking the “Stress Less” course is the number of coping tools I now have, and am able apply to a variety of real-life problems. It has also made me more self-aware of where my biggest flaws lie, so that I can correct these negative thought patterns before they snowball into a giant mass of stress. ## Who I Would Recommend the “Stress Less” Course to I would highly recommend this course if you: - are going through a stressful period in life and need help coping - want to learn more about how stress works, and how it affects our mind and body - want to gather new stress management tools for current or future scenarios - want to learn more about yourself as a person, how you handle stress, your strengths and weaknesses [Click to Get Started](https://imagine-life-therapy.teachable.com/courses/stress-less?affcode=202180%5Fyxmliqtv) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! 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Read Related Posts: - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) - [29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [How to Survive the Holidays When Chronic Illness & Disability Cause Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/survive-the-holidays-chronic-illness-disability-pain/) - [Is Seeking Help for Your Mental Health Worth It?](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/) Pin to Your Mental Health, Stress Management & Chronic Illness Boards: ![‘Stress Less’ Course Run by Imagine Life Therapy. Break the cycle, manage your chronic pain and improve your quality of life.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/stress-less-course-imagine-life-therapy.png) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ dSavannah ](https://dsavannah.com/blog/) Aug 30, 2019 Do the videos have transcripts or are captioned? I have trouble with sound / movement, so videos wouldn’t work for me. Thanks for the great review! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 30, 2019 Hmm…not as far as I know, but you can check with Amanda via the link! 🙂 - [ Amanda Pratt, LCSW, LMSW ](https://www.imaginelifetherapy.com) Sep 4, 2019 I have a written script of the whole course so I can definitely share that with you if needed. I’m also currently working on turning each module into a readable e book to help with this! Feel free to join my email list so you are notified when I release those. - Shawn Bethea Aug 25, 2019 I’ve just shared this to Twitter, but I’ve also bookmarked. This seems like something I could certainly benefit from! xxx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 25, 2019 Thanks so much lovely Shawn! 🙂 - [ Marian Wood ](https://www.marianwood.com) Aug 24, 2019 This course sounds very useful. Supportive and interesting. I don’t handle stress as well either and I have less reason to be stressed.. hope that makes sense. Good informative post. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 24, 2019 HI Marian, yes it’s a really useful course for both people with chronic illnesses, or not. Haha I totally get you on the stress bit. I guess many of worry naturally as part of being human! 😉 - [ Amelia ](https://www.youcanalwaysstartnow.com) Aug 23, 2019 Course sounds great and needed. I think anytime you can get tools is a bonus. Sounds like a good mix with video, workbook and check-ins. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 23, 2019 Yes, tools that you can keep and refer to anytime are always a bonus! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Asking for Help (and Why Everyone Needs to Learn this Important Life Skill) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/ Last updated: 2026-06-19T18:27:28.000Z ## Ancient Communities vs Modern Day Independence Independence is a much revered trait in the modern world. But total independence is a bunch of bullshit. To be completely independent is to live in a bubble in which you’d die within minutes. To be alive is to be dependent; every living being breathes, and that requires synthesis. Asking for help in the right moments is a [valuable life skill](https://sicklessons.com/) that not only improves your quality of life, but also brings out the best in others. This in turn enhances the humaneness within society. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Read Related Posts: - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) - [Kick Ass With Kindness and a Sweet Cherry on Top](https://achronicvoice.com/kick-ass-with-kindness/) - [What Stops You from Splitting Your Burdens Up?](https://achronicvoice.com/splitting-your-burdens/) - [Why Humility is the Best Tool for Advocacy](https://achronicvoice.com/humility-advocacy/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Asking for Help Boards: ![Asking for Help (and Why Everyone Needs to Learn This Important Life Skill). Read the post on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-why-everyone-needs-learn-important-life-skill-v1-hands-illustration.jpg) ### Insights Gleaned from a Book About the Concept of Communities I was reading [‘Religion for Atheists, A Non‐Believer's Guide to the Uses of Religion’ by Alain Botton](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0307476820?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c3578b9d6886536a4f78fec6a2a7a06b&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), and there was a chapter dedicated to ‘community’. He spoke about the communities we used to live in, where people got to know each other at a deeper level. They had to help each other out during times of mass adversity, whether they liked one another or not. The saying ‘it takes a village’ didn’t come from nowhere. But communities such as these rarely exist in modern spaces. People hurry by each other. An approaching stranger stirs immediate apprehension. 'What do you want from me?" "What snake oil are you trying to sell?" "No, I have no spare change." "Red Alert - Avoid oncoming human being: Distance = Speed \* Time." Add in an angle for better probability of avoidance. I am guilty of doing this myself; my method is to smile, mumble 'no thanks', and carry on walking with a firm step. Read Related Posts: - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You’re All Invited, Too!)](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies: Part II](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies-2/) - [Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill: Part III](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-3-chronically-ill/) ## We Were Made to be Social as Human Beings But community is an important aspect of being human. [**We were made to be social**](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/), to communicate, and to form connections, whether you're an introvert or extrovert. In modern terms, this is also known as ['finding your tribe'](https://www.theladders.com/career-advice/how-to-find-your-tribe-in-10-simple-steps). As Aristotle sums it up: > "Man is by nature a social animal; an individual who is unsocial naturally and not accidentally is either beneath our notice or more than human. Society is something that precedes the individual. Anyone who either cannot lead the common life or is so self-sufficient as not to need to, and therefore does not partake of society, is either a beast or a god." ### Loneliness is a Modern Day Epidemic This lack of contact in modern society is one reason why it’s so sick these days. Why depression and anxiety are rampant, with [loneliness declared a public health concern by the World Health Organization](https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2023/nov/16/who-declares-loneliness-a-global-public-health-concern) (WHO). Having a tribe to call your own brings about many mental and emotional health benefits, and contributes to your overall well-being. People who live within the '[blue zone](https://www.weforum.org/agenda/2017/06/changing-the-way-america-eats-moves-and-connects-one-town-at-a-time/)' territories are known to be happier and to live longer. There are many contributing factors, with "family connections" and "right tribe/friends" as major ones. [**To know that you always have a support network to fall back**](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) on is a big reassurance and reduces stress. In fact, it can even propel you to greater heights as compared to going at it alone in life. Read Related Posts: - [29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) - [How to Survive the Holidays When Chronic Illness & Disability Cause Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/survive-the-holidays-chronic-illness-disability-pain/) ## Asking for Help Can be an Act of Survival & Also an Opportunity for Bonding As opposed to what many might think, there is a difference between asking for help and begging or bossing people around. The act of asking for help is to open up your heart to [**reveal your vulnerabilities**](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/), from one human being to another. We all have our weaknesses. To ask and to receive help is an opportunity for love, bonding, kindness and humanity. It is also an act of survival. There is this quote that I love, "Asking for help isn’t giving up. It’s refusing to give up". That pretty much sums it up, doesn’t it? You’ve reached a dead end, or you don’t have the strength to complete the race on your own, or you need an investor to give your business a chance. Whatever your need, reaching out to someone who has the capacity to give and is happy to do so, is what being human is all about. We’re all in this thing called life together, so we might as well make the most out of it. Remember, even [mighty civilisations fell](https://www.weforum.org/agenda/2016/03/why-do-civilizations-collapse/) due to a lack of cohesion. And if not that, from climate change which brings us back to my initial point on how life is a state of interdependency. Pin to Your Inspirational Quotes & Asking for Help Boards: ![Asking For Help Isn't Giving Up. It's Refusing To Give Up. - Unknown-](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_help-give-up.png) ## Life Isn't Fair, but We Have the Power to Make It a Little Better I’m sure you’ve heard about the [equality vs equity](https://onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/equity-vs-equality/) concept before. In brief, equality is where everybody begins at the same starting line, no matter their handicap or boost. A man with no legs starts at the same position as a marathon runner. Equity on the other hand, redefines that starting line based on what a person has or doesn't have. Let's admit, life will never be fair. But every person owns the power to make the world a little better to live in. Pin to Your Life Lessons & Empathy Boards: ![Life will never be fair. But every person owns the power to make the world a little better to live in.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_quote-life-power.png) ## Take Courage and Learn How to Ask for Help Revealing your weaknesses takes quite a bit of courage. Being labelled a pansy or loser isn't very sexy, I don't think. But no man is an island, and if you dare to be weak, then only are you able to be strong. It is about being aware that we all have weak spots, and that that’s okay. In fact, often our greatest strength is also our greatest weakness. Take that weakness that you're trying to hide, and hang it out in the sun to dry. It will bother you less over time, and hopefully also weigh lighter, and evaporate at some point. Learning how to ask for help is one of the biggest life lessons you learn when you live with chronic illness. It you want to live and live well, then you will need help. Full stop. Everyone in the world needs a little help, but being ill makes you more aware of this fact; it’s practically shoved right into your face every morning. There’s nothing like [**losing basic control of your body**](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) to alert you to this fact. Such as the days where you need help just to get from the bed to the bathroom, or [**when you need a nurse to shower you**](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/). Or when you’re [**unable to hold down a job**](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/), and can’t afford to pay for the medications you need. Read Related Posts: - [The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don’t Reflect)](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/) - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [4 Cool Truths My Partner Said (Unwittingly)](https://achronicvoice.com/cool-truths/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) ## Chronic Pain Changes the Rules of the Game As they say, health is the greatest wealth. To be ill is to immediately forfeit all your god-given assets. It bankrupts your life of pleasure, quality time with friends and family, travel, and work. And also the ability to do things that you may not even like, such as housework. Yes, it can be depressing not being able to do something boring or icky. [**Life goals aren’t just something you reach out to pluck**](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/); they’re more like twinkling stars you try and reach out for during a rare good period. These good periods come and go like finicky toddlers. Life can become an empty husk if you let it, so you need to make an effort to maintain some sort of humanity within you. ### Chronic Pain Teaches You Life Lessons the Hard Way Speaking from my own personal experiences, I started out as a very stubborn teenager (weren’t we all?). Of the seven deadly sins, mine was easily pride. Ego. I had to be the best at whatever, no matter. A real senseless waste of energy, if you ask me now. I have chronic pain to thank for that, it really is the best teacher you can get in life, [**besides grief**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/). Day after day of being in [**immense pain will break any person**](https://achronicvoice.com/what-neverending-pain-reveals/), because there is no limit to it. Being [**pushed around in a wheelchair for months**](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) was an eye-opener for me. Then the inabilities started to pile up over the years. I added new diagnoses, surgeries, symptoms, side effects, pain flares, [**A&E trips**](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/), one by one to the list. When you're passed out on the floor, [**confused from a seizure**](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/). Or when you can't even shampoo your own hair, because your fingers have frozen into claws. When you're at your worst at almost all times. It's quite impossible to go through all that alone, and I'm lucky and thankful that I have a good support network. Read Related Posts: - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [What’s it Like to be the Mother of a Sick Child? (Precious Insights from My Own Mum)](https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/) - [What’s it Like to be the Father of a Child with Chronic Illness? (Precious Insights from My Own Dad!)](https://achronicvoice.com/father-of-child-with-chronic-illness/) - [How Many Times Can You Hit Rock Bottom with Chronic Illness? ](https://achronicvoice.com/rock-bottom/) - [The Road to Recovery is the Longest of Them All](https://achronicvoice.com/road-to-recovery-longest/) ## How I Learned to be Comfortable Asking for Help & Voicing Out My Needs My ex-partner and parents have supported me on this rubbish journey every step of the way. My ex was always proactive in lending a hand, which actually taught me how to be comfortable asking for help. He was always happy to oblige, and we even bonded over many of these painful situations. I've never been closer to someone else in my entire life and ironically, I have chronic pain to thank for that. It now feels like a natural thing for me to ask for some help. Living with chronic illness trains you to be bold and to advocate for yourself, because the consequences are never worth it. There is no point pushing through pain, when I can get relief from it in one way or another. In fact, my request may only cost someone else a few seconds of their time, and take hardly any effort on their part! ## Some Simple Truths to End (or Begin!) with The simple truth is, as a person with (invisible) disabilities, I will need more help than others to get by in life. I have also learned that asking for help is not inherently wrong. What matters is the intention, what and why. This applies to both healthy and ill people alike – anyone who counts themselves as a human being. Life is about giving more than receiving, and there are no limits to some things you can give, such as gratitude and kindness. Life is short, but it is also long when your pain or problems outnumber your capabilities, resources or threshold. There is enough suffering to go around in this world, and there are some battles you will have to fight alone. So give up the ones you can. Figure out what you could truly use some help with, then see if you can reach out to another human being to make a connection. [**Discipline your ego**](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) for a moment, and [**set this world ablaze with kindness**](https://achronicvoice.com/kick-ass-with-kindness/), grace and meaning. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Asking for Help Boards: ![There is enough suffering to go around in this world, and there are some battles you will have to fight alone. So give up the ones you can](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_quote-suffering-2.png) Read Related Posts: - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [Why Fear is Self Harm, and How to Get Back Up](https://achronicvoice.com/why-fear-is-self-harm/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Katie Clark Sep 25, 2020 Wonderful insight, Sheryl! I may be your elder, but you have wisdom way beyond your years. I appreciate that you spell out how and why we need to connect with others and be brave to voice our needs. I’ve been able to ask for help when it comes to physical issues, but when it’s emotional, I lock up and lockout those who care about me. There are many reasons I have for this, but in the end, I really need to let them go and ask for help. - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Sep 25, 2020 So true – even though asking for help is tough, it can lift us in ways we don’t realise until we don’t ask. It allows get the boost we need and also helps family / friends feel like they’re being helpful too. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 25, 2020 Hi Shruti, yes it can be really tough, and takes a blow on your self-esteem. But I think that’s only if you view it from only one perspective. There are many perspectives to view it from, too 😀 Just yesterday I was reading a blog post on how a lady felt useless and her friend had to visit her all the time. But her friend actually felt ‘helped’ as well as it was her only alone, adult time away from her kids and own illnesses! Sending hugs to you! - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Sep 23, 2020 Such a great post Sheryl, and perhaps particularly poignant at the time in 2020 when we are much more alone than before. Community is so important, and the support that comes with it. I am so thankful for online communities at the moment. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 25, 2020 That’s so true, thanks for highlighting it in regards to 2020 and the pandemic. Community is definitely important now more so than ever, and the lockdown certainly increases the loneliness which we all need help with, in a sense. - Emma (Not Just Tired) Aug 20, 2019 Great post, Sheryl. Asking for and accepting help is something I still struggle with, even though I know I need it! I’m getting better but I still tend to have go through a battle with myself every time I need to ask! Found your post very thought provoking, thank you xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 21, 2019 Hi Emma, thanks for sharing your thoughts! Yes asking for help is never easy for many people! Am happy to hear you’re getting better at it though 🙂 It makes things easier for everyone all round, I think. Pushing through causes more flares and might ironically end up needing more help. Sending lots of love! xx - Kirsten Aug 19, 2019 I love this post. I’m definitely saving this! Sometimes I notice the worse I feel the more I become stubborn and think I can do this all on my own. But most people will actually love helping. I know how I feel when I helped someone. It feels great! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 21, 2019 Hi Kirsten, thanks so much! 😀 And yes you’re right, we all need some help sometimes 🙂 It truly brings out the best in us as human beings! - [ Sue Jackson ](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/) Aug 19, 2019 This is such a beautifully written and important post! I struggled with this so much in the beginning (and still sometimes now!). I liked the post so much that I included it in my own Weekly Inspiration post today, with a link back here: [https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/2019/08/weekly-inspiration-from-other-chronic.html ](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/2019/08/weekly-inspiration-from-other-chronic.html) Thanks for the inspiration! Sue - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 19, 2019 Thank you so much, Sue, this is such an honour! Yes I think naturally we all struggle with it as human beings. Never nice to put all your vulnerabilities on display. Thank you so much for adding the link there, I appreciate it 🙂 - [ Nyxie ](https://www.nyxiesnook.com) Aug 19, 2019 Such a powerful post. It’s so important that we become comfortable with asking for help. No one is meant to do this alone, we’re naturally social creatures and that should mean being able to ask for help when we need it. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 19, 2019 Thanks Nyxie. Yes being ill really trains you to set aside your pride or fears, and just ask. When you’re in so much pain or vulnerability, there’s no point anymore. Asking for and providing help in return forms such deep connections and really adds a dynamic to humanity – perspective that is sorely lacking in our modern day black or white era. - Naomi Aug 18, 2019 This is a subject I feel strongly about, too. Living with chronic illness has made me be much more vulnerable and my partner doesn’t think we would have worked out it I was still a million- miles- an- hour kind of person. I think the next step is to thunk creatively about all the ways we might need to ask for help. My most difficult has been ‘can we please just meet for half an hour because longer than that is likely to make me ill’. I feel like it’s such a short amount of time but it’s really what I need the most. Oh and on the topic of ignoring people around you, that’s one of my favourite things about living on the canals; you’re weird if you \*don’t\* say hello 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 21, 2019 Hi Naomi, you read my mind! My original post idea was about how to ask for help, but it ended up being more on the why, first. I suppose that’s vital to understand, before delving into the ‘how’! So keep an eye out for part 2 😉 Haha…so you need to say hi to every boat you pass by? But that sort of hello is a bit different I think, because that space in itself creates a different sort of community too, with people who are desiring a different lifestyle 😀 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER URL: https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/ Last updated: 2026-05-24T14:03:20.000Z ## When Acute Pain Strikes, and You Know What It Entails A sharp pain struck the left side of my abdomen whilst I was asleep, and I just knew. I hurried to pop a pain pill, in hopes that the ache would subside. Sometimes that’s a small, albeit hacky, hint that it’s ‘just’ one of those mysteries that sneak up on you. When you live with chronic illnesses, strange symptoms can strike any body part. I just hoped that I wouldn’t need to go to the dreaded A&E/ER. But the pain only increased in intensity, as I knelt on my blanket, hunched up in agony. What I didn’t know was that I would be refused treatment later on, so this was only the beginning of my ordeal. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ## Time to Head to the Dreaded A&E/ER After 4 hours, it was time. I got up and started to pack my hospital bag methodically, calmly. A well rehearsed routine on auto pilot, no need for emergency drills. I threw on a sweater — the frigid temperatures at the A&E always feels like they’re already preparing patients for the morgue. In went bottles of water, my phone, a spare power bank, and my wallet with most of the cash removed. Oh and don’t forget to use a bag with zippers; you don't want the extra task of needing to keep an eye out for things falling out. I usually bring two days of spare medications as well. Nobody has ever gotten my meds right, as they’re dispensed and titrated by [**10 different doctors**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) or so. Sometimes the hospital pharmacy don’t even carry these drugs, so I still need to advocate for myself whilst there. Missing a dose can multiply the pain. I dialed a cab, and braced myself for another harrowing experience at the A&E. I believe I've developed a phobia; it is always so stressful there, with all the harsh lights, cold air, and the pained expressions on people’s faces are contagious. ⚠️ *P.s. If your symptoms are not too severe, visiting a 24 hour clinic might actually be a better option for everyone. Help to spread the queue out a little, and you also get to see a doctor faster. Here’s a* [*list of 24 hour clinics and hospitals available in Singapore*](https://blog.moneysmart.sg/healthcare/24-hour-clinics-singapore/)*.* Pin to Your Chronic Illness, Hospital & Emergency Department Boards: ![What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment at the Emergency Department. Chronic Life — Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/what-feels-like-refused-treatment-at-emergency-department-chronic-life.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (51 Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) - [How to Prepare for a Medical Appointment in a Post-Pandemic World (4 Top Tips From a Doctor)](https://achronicvoice.com/prepare-medical-appointment/) ## When the Doctors at the Emergency Department Have No Clue The waiting area at [Tan Tock Seng Hospital (TTSH)](https://www.ttsh.com.sg/Pages/default.aspx) where I usually go to was quiet for once, to my immense relief. It’s never pleasant when you need to wait for hours on end in agony. Especially when you already know what the problem is, how urgent it can be, yet the triage refuses to take you seriously. They wheeled me in for an ultrasound scan, and I told the doctor to check for [free fluid](https://pediatriceducation.org/2020/06/08/hat-causes-free-peritoneal-fluid/). She didn’t seem too knowledgeable, and kept asking me what she should do next. I actually don’t mind this so much, as compared to doctors who are arrogant or dismissive. ### Passing Me on to the Senior Doctor-in-Charge She concluded that there was no free fluid, but I was fairly certain that there was. As usual, a senior doctor took over my case, and then it escalated from there. Parked at the Emergency Department meant for life-and-death cases, I was now under the care of several doctors who never once left my side. They quickly realised that I was indeed bleeding internally. Worse yet, it wasn’t one [corpus luteum cyst rupture](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/ovarian-cysts/symptoms-causes/syc-20353405), but two this time. My [INR (blood clotting ratio)](https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/encyclopedia/content.aspx?contenttypeid=167&contentid=international%5Fnormalized%5Fratio) was also way over my target, meaning that my blood was very thin. They struggled to contain the bleeding as my blood count plummeted, and pumped me up with three [**different kinds of blood clotting agents**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/). I would find that these drugs alone would cost nearly $2,000 later in my bill, as there is no government subsidy for Emergency Department cases in Singapore. Whilst there might not have been a need to inject them all, I believe that the doctors made the right call. There is no gynaecological department at TTSH to perform an emergency surgery if there had been a need. For the average healthy person, a surgery to remove the acquired mass of clots would already have been done. Read Related Posts: - [Pregnancy, Miscarriage & Women’s Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [How Many Times Can You Hit Rock Bottom with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/rock-bottom/) Pin to Your Women’s Health, Blood Clotting & Bleeding Boards: ![Antiphospholipid Syndrome Emergency - Ovarian Cyst Ruptures](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-emergency-ovarian-cyst-ruptures.jpg) ![Read about my experience on the blog: Ovarian Cyst Ruptures - What That Feels Likes](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/ovarian-cyst-ruptures-what-feels-like-read-experience-blog.jpg) ## Coping with Pain at the Emergency Department The extra shot of tramadol they gave me wasn’t enough; I was still in severe pain. The bright, harsh lights and insistent beeping of machines made me feel even more anxious and agitated. The conversations with other patients I overheard in the ED were not reassuring either. “Aunty, we need to operate on you right now. It’s essential to save your life”. I hope that I wouldn’t need a surgery too; it’s always better when you have time to prepare for them, both mentally and physically. Elderly patients were wheeled in and out, their faces covered with giant oxygen masks and other huge medical equipment. I was given a dose of fentanyl, which was when I finally found some relief. In fact, I felt a little high, and that felt nice after having been in immense pain. It was then that I understood why people could get addicted to it, and how [Prince could have overdosed](https://www.theguardian.com/music/2018/mar/27/prince-had-exceedingly-high-level-of-fentanyl-in-body-when-he-died) on it. It numbs you of pain in different ways. But the truth is, chronic pain patients would much rather be healthy and live a full, high quality life, as opposed to being drugged up, and bound by the invisible chains of pain, forever waiting for relief. Read Related Posts: - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 – 6](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) ## Refused Treatment From SGH — the Hospital I Needed to Go to As TTSH didn’t have a gynaecology department, I needed to be transferred to [Singapore General Hospital (SGH)](https://www.sgh.com.sg/), which has both a gynaecological and rheumatology department. The last time I was admitted there for similar abdominal pains turned out to be a less serious problem, so they had advised me to go to TTSH in future. I also dread the A&E department at SGH the most, out of the ones I’ve visited in Singapore (yes I’ve been to a few, and could probably do a review). Massive crowds aside - which is common in public hospitals at night anyway - I’ve always found the healthcare staff at SGH’s A&E to be incredibly rude and dismissive. One of the doctors there once rolled her eyes at me, and shoved her nametag up into my face when I asked for her name. When you are in pain, such unkindness is doubly hard to bear. ### Repeated Trying and Failing to Transfer Me to SGH The emergency doctors at TTSH tried for more than 4 hours to transfer me to SGH for proper care, but they refused to accept me, citing that I was ‘unstable’. Their protocol is to reject a patient whose blood pressure drops below 90bpm (beats per minute) within the past 24 hours, for ‘patient safety’ reasons. But my blood pressure tends to be on the lower end anyway - 90+bpm is normal for me - so that didn’t help. The alternative was to transfer me to the nearby [KK Women’s & Children’s Hospital](https://www.kkh.com.sg/), even though they had no in-house rheumatologist either. SGH would only accept me after a consultation with a gynaecologist there. Whilst I don’t see how all this shuffling around was helpful, better get going than going nowhere, hey? Pin to Your Hospital & Women's Health Boards: ![My Hospital Saga. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/hospital-saga-read-story.jpg) ## When There’s Not Much a Women-Focused Hospital Can Do For You, Either The moment my ambulance touched down at KK, I was wheeled in and the doctor told me upfront that they didn’t have the capacity to support me there. It can be [**tricky to perform surgery on a patient with Antiphospholipid Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#surgery), as I had the potential to clot whilst still bleeding. That can quite literally, make a bloody mess of things. My blood count was already within the red zone, and to make matters worse, I have the rarest [blood type](https://www.redcrossblood.org/donate-blood/blood-types.html) (save the extra rare ones, such as ‘[golden blood](https://bigthink.com/surprising-science/golden-blood)’, with autoimmune antibodies thrown into the party. What this means is that on top of matching the rhesus and blood group, the [autoantibodies](https://www.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/antibody-coombs-test) in the donor’s blood must also not interact with mine. The doctors always have trouble procuring blood for me, and sometimes it even takes days to find a match. Whether a surgery was performed or not, both options were still major risks. (If you’re reading this, [please consider donating blood](https://www.redcross.sg/give-blood/why-should-i-donate-blood.html), especially [if you’re O negative](https://www.bloodworksnw.org/medical-services/transfusion-medicine/emergency-red-blood-cell-use), aka a universal blood donor.) The gynaecologist at KK didn’t even bother to waste time examining me, and called SGH up immediately to advocate on my behalf. She was a lovely doctor, and agreed that time was of essence here. It did take some time, before she finally managed to convince them. (I can only imagine what the conversation was like on the other end of the line...) I was now in my second ambulance, on the way to SGH. It was a private one which we had to pay a few hundred dollars for later. ## Facing Mortality Once More I was once again, faced with the very real prospect of my mortality. How many times have I trodden this path? I have become numb to it in all honesty. Whilst they may still sneak up as surprises, they have lost their shock value. In that sense, I have the upper hand, because there is less mental and emotional processing to undergo. I only need to make the decisions that I find most logical, in an attempt to preserve my life. I have faced major life and death events twice, and even though I overcame them, I am tired and ready to let go the next time. But at that very moment in the ED, I realised that that wasn’t true, that I wasn’t quite ready to go yet. This time it wasn’t out of fear - death comes to us all. But for a hope and chance at a better life. After 8 hours had passed, I was offered up that sole pack of least incompatible blood once more. What this means: I could either [get allergic reactions from it](https://www.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/blood-transfusion-what-to-know#2), some of which can be rather severe. Or some of the extra autoantibodies in that pack of blood would stay in my system like a new horde of parasites, integrating themselves into my blood ecosystem, and/or [causing haemolytic anaemia](https://journals.lww.com/jtrauma/abstract/2012/01000/emergency%5Funcrossmatched%5Ftransfusion%5Feffect%5Fon.7.aspx) (Miraflor et al., 2012). This would make finding blood in future even harder. Read Related Posts: - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [My Second Brush with Death: A Broken Heart (Literally)](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) - [What’s it Like to Live with a Heart Rhythm Disorder?](https://achronicvoice.com/heart-rhythm-disorder/) - [An Open Letter to Death, and One Simple Plea](https://achronicvoice.com/letter-to-death-simple-plea/) ## Making Decisions Based on 20 Years of Emergency Experiences As the last blood test had been taken 2 hours ago, I requested for an updated reading, to know if the bleeding had been staunched. I didn’t know how many times I had been pricked by then - 20, 30? Both with big green needles, and the small butterfly ones. The doctors agreed to my request, and we found that the red blood count had actually increased from 6.8 to over 9\. This can happen during moments of crises, where you’re either dehydrated, or when your [blood vessels constrict to make up for the blood loss (vasoconstriction)](https://www.healthline.com/health/vasoconstriction). Whilst this was a false reading, it was also indicative that the bleeding had stopped. Thus, I chose not to undergo more blood transfusion for the time being. These were just little things I learned from my previous corpus luteum cyst rupture incident. And after living with myriad chronic illnesses over 20 years, you learn how to lead in regards to your own healthcare. A decision always has to be made. Even waiting something out is an action that could affect you in drastic ways. Read Related Posts: - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) - [A Quarterly Reflection: 12 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned](https://achronicvoice.com/quarterly-reflection-life-lessons-learned/) - [How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationships with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) ## Experience is a Good Teacher, with Pain as the Best One of Them All Pain is in a class of its own. After placing all sorts of body parts in the hands of various doctors and surgeons over the years, I have learned to decide for myself. These doctors and lab tests are here to guide me, but the final decision lies with me. No one else will bear the consequences or inhabit my body thereafter, and I need to be sure that I can live with that. I was finally wheeled up to the high dependency ward, where the doctors were much more humane and humble. I was assigned to a gynaecologist whom I really liked. I hope that she is willing to keep me as a patient in future, and that she will be my high risk gynaecologist should I ever get the chance to become pregnant. ### Why Hospitals are Never Pleasant to Stay in She also gets bonus points for allowing me to go home after a 3 day stay, after confirming that my condition was stable enough. That is a considerably short stay, compared to how urgent the situation had been a few days ago. [**I don’t think patients ever rest well in hospitals**](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/), with the plastic bed sheets, shared toilets, and bland, mushy food. Having your usual medication cocktail mixed up, or needing to wait hours for common medications or painkillers you have access to freely at home is also frustrating. Ignorant or rude nurses also have the power to make your life a misery. The blood clots will take a couple of months to break up and dissolve, so for now and as always, I will simply need to practice patience. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! 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Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [So This is What a Tonic Clonic Seizure Feels Like](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) - [Latest Research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [The Road to Recovery is the Longest of Them All](https://achronicvoice.com/road-to-recovery-longest/) Pin to Your Emergency Department & Hospital Boards: ![Emergency Department - What It Feels Like To Be Refused Treatment](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/emergency-department-what-feels-like-refused-treatment.jpg) ### References: - Miraflor, E., Yeung, L., Strumwasser, A., Liu, T. H., & Victorino, G. P. (2012). Emergency uncrossmatched transfusion effect on blood type alloantibodies. *Journal of Trauma and Acute Care Surgery, 72*(1), 48-53\. http://doi.org/10.1097/TA.0b013e31823f0465 ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Katie Clark Apr 23, 2021 You’ve dealt with so much over your life. For someone to look at your history and to doubt anything you tell them when it comes to your body is absolutely insane. You have grown strong and sure in yourself. If this had been earlier in your life with blood clotting, you might not have stood up for yourself and what would have happened? I understand over time, health providers can get jaded. Sure, they deal with people who are good actors and are only after the high. But, that can’t be the norm. Thank goodness for that doctor who was willing to do her job and advocate for you. But to be shuffled around like this when you were in such pain and dire straits is so scary. - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Apr 22, 2021 I wish I could say that I can’t believe this happens, but sadly it does. It’s so frightening isn’t it. I haven’t been outright refused admission at A&E but twice they just observed me and said I was neither and accident or emergency despite horrendous symptoms. All at 3am both times. It’s so hard to advocate for ourselves when so unwell. - [ Paediatric Oncall ](https://www.pediatriconcall.com/articles/pediatric-hematology/blood-transfusion/blood-transfusion-introduction#1085) Aug 23, 2020 Transfusion is extremely safe today, however the general perception that transfusions are unsafe persists thanks largely due to the HIV pandemic and risk of post transfusion hepatitis. Today very often it is said, ” The best blood is the one that you have not received.” Preventable death due to wrong identification of blood still occurs and is largely occur due to human error. Ignorance among clinicians about how to transfuse blood adds further to these preventable deaths. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 28, 2020 For sure, though am not sure you read this whole story as it specifically talks about autoantibodies on top of a clotting disorder and rare blood type (in my country) so it’s a little trickier than that 😉 - [ Amy H ](https://thismamaslife.com) Dec 23, 2019 Wow! That’s such a horrible thing to go through! No one should be turned away especially in an emergency - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 23, 2019 Exactly my thoughts! And Singapore is a first world country, so to speak. Oh well, that was just my experience! 🙂 - [ Yeah Lifestyle ](https://www.yeahlifestyle.com) Dec 21, 2019 What a horrible experience you have had to endure especially from trained medical staff, I am glad it is all sorted now and you are completely recovered - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 22, 2019 Thank you, it was a horrid experience indeed, and unjustified. To many of them it’s just a job, I suppose. - Kristine Nicole Alessandra Dec 21, 2019 It made me feel angry reading about how you were attended to. My husband lives with chronic pain and it is frustrating every time I take him to the hospital to be treated for it. He has lumbar stenosis that is where his pain is coming from. He’d get a steroid shot only to be relieved of the pain for three weeks max. Steroid injections do not come cheap! One more thing I dislike with hospital admissions is the barrage of medical/nursing interns and residents asking the same questions, over and over again several times a day. How do they expect a person to get some sleep if they keep bugging them. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 22, 2019 Hi Kristine, I’m sorry to hear about your husband’s pain. You’ve been to the hospital emergency many times too, it seems, so you know how dreadful it can be! But it was on another level, being rejected by Emergency themselves! I felt more shock than anything else, to be honest. It’s unfathomable to me, as a patient. I don’t know but healthcare can seem so cold and inhumane at times! - [ Heather ](https://thesupermomlife.com) Dec 21, 2019 I can not even imagine being in this position. How frightening when the very place that is supposed to take care of you, refuses to help. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 22, 2019 Hi Heather, yea it was a horrible position to be in, but I’ve been in it many times so at least I had an inkling of what needed to be done. It did indeed feel very unjustified to be refused help that was extremely necessary, though. - Catherine Santiago Jose Dec 21, 2019 That was really a terrible experienced for you and I am so sorry for you to feel that. You are such a brave woman and I am so proud of you because you were able to managed yourself and everything even if you are in so much pain. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 21, 2019 Thanks lovely Catherine. It was quite an ordeal, sadly not the first, but hopefully the last! Yes I wrote this to raise awareness, and hope that positive will change will happen, and that others can advocate for themselves as well. - [ Ashley ](https://www.swiftfit.net/) Dec 20, 2019 I am so sorry that you had to go through this. That sounds horrible and unfair. Hugs to you. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 22, 2019 No worries Ashley. I survived! Just wanted to put the story and my experiences out there so others can listen, and also advocate for themselves. Hopefully there are changes to the system, too. - [ Catherine ](https://livingthegourmet.com/) Dec 20, 2019 What a terrible experience to endure! I am so sorry to hear you had to go through such a traumatic experience. I hope you are doing well now. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 20, 2019 Thanks Catherine. Yes it was inhumane. I just wanted to share my experience and raise some awareness about this so that hopefully protocols get better in future at least. - Chad Dec 20, 2019 To be refused treatment is a CRIME!!!! I am so so sorry you went through this, this is awful and unacceptable. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 20, 2019 Thanks Chad, yes it’s inhumane I think. But what do you do when trapped in a system! Trying to do my bit by raising awareness! - [ Stacie ](https://divinelifestyle.com) Dec 20, 2019 Oh my gosh, what a horrible experience! I can’t believe they did that! That’s so unacceptable. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 20, 2019 Yea it was definitely unpleasant to be lying in bed for almost 8 hours in pain and bleeding nonstop and getting rejected by a hospital 🙁 - [ Anne Sweet ](https://www.raisiebay.com) Aug 28, 2019 Thank you for sharing your experiences, even though they are harrowing. I hope you are feeling much better now. x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 28, 2019 You’re welcome, Anne. I am sharing it really to raise awareness – am sure there are many cases like this out there, but without a voice. I am better now. Going to get a small surgical procedure done tomorrow in fact, to prevent further episodes! - Char | Chronically Hopeful Aug 17, 2019 Oh my gosh, Sheryl. I didn’t get very far into it due to distress caused by reading about certain things, but I saw some other bits as I scrolled down to comment…. Eek. I’m so sorry you had to go through all that. It sounds awful. I also hate A&E and will avoid it at all costs, mostly due to sensory issues and the stress of staff who are ill-equipped to help me, but I’m so glad you went as I imagine you have some potentially life-threatening conditions that do need emergency care. I hope you are feeling better and recovering well. Sorry I didn’t read the ending… Sending big hugs and much love. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 18, 2019 Hi Char, thanks for your comment. A&E is always a harrowing experience and nasty place in terms of sensory overload, isn’t it? Every little sound and light just really adds on to the distress of a person who’s already in pain. No worries about not reading the ending :p Thanks and I hope you are well too! - [ dSavannah ](https://dsavannah.com/blog/) Aug 15, 2019 Good heavens! Sending lots of healing {{{hugs}}}! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 22, 2019 Thanks dearie. Think I received all of the hugs! 😉 - [ Niamh ](https://chronicbodylove.wordpress.com) Aug 13, 2019 Omg I cant get over the ordeal you had to go through. I can only imagine how you had to process it all. It sounds like you were doing a lot of the doctors work for them. Thankfully you are so educated and experienced with your needs. It was a very expensive emergency but so glad you came out the other side Sheryl. Sending very soft hugs, Niamh x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 13, 2019 Hi Niamh, well I guess most of the docs at the A&E aren’t too senior and probably covered our kind of illnesses briefly in school only. Having inhabited this broken body for 30ish years, I hope I understand it a little at least :p Yea and it wasn’t the first time it’s happened so at least I had a frame of reference! Most importantly really for clotting/bleeding disorders – that comes as #1 priority to control above all else (save an anaphylaxis) I think! - [ Cassie Creley ](https://cassiecreley.com) Aug 13, 2019 What a lot to go through, on top of having a medical emergency! Thank you for sharing your experience to raise awareness. While I’ve never been refused treatment, I have been sent home from the ER because they’re not sure what’s wrong with me and I “seem to be getting better.” Beyond frustrating. I hope you’re recovering well and feeling better Sheryl! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 13, 2019 Wow that must be scary – to be sent home not knowing what’s wrong! Though I think I’d prefer that whilst they investigated outpatient instead of being admitted (hospitals are just meh, aren’t they?). Thank you for reading. I’m sure I’m not the only one to have this happen to before, and it’s just heartbreaking. - Michelle Aug 13, 2019 Sheryl, these sorts of stories just break my heart. I’m so sorry you went through such a terrible ordeal. Thank you for sharing it and helping those who have been through similar understand they are by no means alone or singled out; it’s a systemic issue and it seems to be a worldwide problem in healthcare. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 14, 2019 Hi Michelle, thanks for taking the time to read and share. I appreciate it a lot 🙂 Yes, hospital politics, unoptimised processes, general human behaviour, etc. I just hope for this to improve. - Laura Aug 12, 2019 Massive love and hugs Sheryl, your experience sounds horrendous and I’m so sorry you had to go through that x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 12, 2019 Thanks Laura! It was horrendous but at least I got out okay (for now, this time)! xx - WittyKittyVixxy Aug 12, 2019 I am so sorry you had to go thru this. Knowing the Hospitals and their ERs, I can totally understand what you felt. Healing hugs coming your way Sheryl. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 12, 2019 Thank you so much. I just wanted to share my experience, because I’m sure I’m not the only one 🙂 x - Jenny Aug 11, 2019 Oh wow. This was a really interesting read- so well written. But also really harrowing. I’m sorry you had to go through all this, it must have been scary. Glad that it all worked out okay in the end but what a rigamole! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 12, 2019 Thanks Jenny! Yes harrowing. Antiphospholipid Syndrome is like that…it likes hitting you like an assassin! :p - Howard hudson Aug 11, 2019 So very sorry for what you went through. I don’t think I could have been as brave and determined as you. Just hope things get better for you. I have had chronic pain in the abdominal area since my cystectomy and hernia. 5\. Years ago, and hear in the states, tried everything, and on Vicodin 5mg. Hope to try Kratom soon. Best of luck with lesser pain for you, howard - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 12, 2019 Thanks Howard. Thank goodness the pain didn’t last for too long (as compared to other experiences I’ve had, at least!). I am sorry to hear about your chronic abdominal pain…it must be really miserable on some days 🙁 I hope the kratom works for you. - Bree Aug 9, 2019 Im so sorry with all you have to contend with being refused admission to an ED – emergency department . I hope your feeling better xx I just can’t comprehend. I was in ED last Saturday with chronic blood nose. I have been having them on and off since April before we went overseas. Saturday was awful. It started at 2, by 3 pm I realized I needed help. Called ambulance and was rushed to our local hospital . It was Saturday…so busy with sport injuries heart attacks. etc. Oh and people who really needed to just see a doctor. It took them ages to see me, ages for the bleeding to stop. Lucky the doctor on call was amazing and she stayed way past her time to go home to treat me. She managed to quarterize one of the bleeds. I got home at 11.30\. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 9, 2019 Yea I feel sorry for the docs at the ED too – the ones who tried to advocate for me and stayed with me were on a 14 hour shift. They’re not all bad, but when you get a nasty doctor/nurse, they can make your life a living hell for a while. And a while is a long time when you’re in danger or in pain! How are you feeling with the nose bleed? Hope it’s much better now. And yes, many people really need to just go to a 24h clinic instead – do they have those there? Sending hugs xx - [ Despite Pain ](https://www.despitepain.com) Aug 9, 2019 I’m so sorry you’ve gone through all this, Sheryl. I hope you’re feeling a bit better now. Sending hugs. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 9, 2019 No worries Liz, I really just wanted to be a voice and get this story out, as I’m sure I’m not the only one. Sending hugs right back! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### A Perfect Capture of Life with Chronic Illness URL: https://achronicvoice.com/capture-life-with-chronic-illness/ Last updated: 2025-11-12T03:47:32.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* *\*Trigger warning: Mentions of death.* ## Chronic Illness Life — Mostly Mundane (and Unpleasant) A word that could probably sum up life with chronic illness is 'mundane'. Sure, it has its (very much unwanted) moments, but for the most part you're just cruising along, pacing, trying to avoid those unwanted moments. It's a sadistic, adult version of hide and seek. Either I'm hiding from my overactive immune system as it tries to smoke me out, or I'm looking for where pain has hidden all its rotten candy. This month is one of continuous recovery, new treatments, and undecided plans for me. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![A Perfect Capture of Life with Chronic Illness](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_capture-chronic-illness-4-2-1-1-1-1-1.png) ## A Capture of the Mundane Ocean that is Chronic Illness Life Here I am, still gliding across this same glassy ocean in August. Are you bored yet, reading the same thing rephrased, month after month? Perhaps these linkups do indeed capture what it’s like to live with chronic illness - how mundane it all gets. Even though the storms do get pretty rough and even life-threatening at times, no doubt. There’s still no land in sight, and the skies have yet to fully lift their veil of gloom. A touch of calm spreads across the waters, but it's more eerie than serene in nature. What lurks beneath, above and beyond? Everything is opaque. I adjust my course with a hesitant pause on occasion, but mostly I allow the tide to take the lead. Who can defy destiny after all? We are at the mercy of mother nature. A cold breeze makes me shiver, and I think by instinct, "please, not too much pain". I make this request of the universe, to no one in particular. The wind rustles my hair in reply. My hair mussed up means nothing to me. ### Where is the Horizon? For how long do I need to sail? A small slice of shore would be nice, even if I’m forbidden to land. Although stepping onto soft sand would be nice, and I would kiss it for all its cliché worth. Other dangers lurk on land and there will be new problems to solve, but there will also be more resources at my disposal. Land feels like a distant memory. What does it feel like, to have that little bit of security? That illusion can feel so tangible when you're not stuck on a tiny boat, floating on an open ocean. Land is fertile ground for planting arrogance, but a taste of its fine produce would be nice. With each passing day, these memories grow rosier and more colourful. I blow them like glass, reworking their translucence into something more wondrous to behold. Read Related Posts: - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Triggers Trigger Triggers (Re-Stabilisation Procedure Encore)](https://achronicvoice.com/triggers-trigger-triggers-re-stabilisation/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) ## Chronic Illness Life is Too Expensive for How Mundane It is My calendar for August actually looks quite busy. There’s the [**appointment with the neurologist, rheumatologist, gynaecologist, and cardiologist**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/). Do you know what that means? Money. Something that my parents still help me out with, when they should be retiring soon. They just helped to pay off last month's $3,000 A&E bill, because there's no government subsidy for emergency room cases. Let's hope that we get the green light to claim it back from my insurance company. I miss those days when I had my own stable flow of income, and could afford my own holidays. There was a price to pay - massive flare ups, and I wouldn’t trade that sort of pain back again. ### I Miss Travelling So Much But damn, it was nice to go on holidays. Nothing makes me feel more alive. I should rephrase that — [**travelling makes me feel most alive**](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/). I do enjoy fancy trips in nice hotels. But I feel most alive in places where I don’t understand the language, where it’s different from back home. I love going far far away from the city on overnight trains, in search of ancient artistic treasures, and mindblowing wonders on our planet. It makes me feel small and insignificant. But it also makes my problems feel that way. Maybe I should pull up my big girl panties and try again. Writing and blogging aren’t earning me enough income for now. We’ll see what I’ll have to do, when forced to a crossroads. For now, I cruise along on this tiny ship of mine, and will try to keep it afloat. Read Related Posts: - [Travelling New Paths with Chronic Illnesses in My Pocket](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-new-paths-chronic-illness/) - [Invisible in Singapore: What’s It Like to Live Here with Chronic Illnesses?](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [Winter Fun, Games & Pain with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-fun-chronic-illness/) - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) ## Keeping the Corpus Luteum Cyst Ruptures Under Control I will also need to get the [Nexplanon](https://www.nexplanon.com/what-is-nexplanon/) inserted this month, as I've already suffered two devastating and bloody [**corpus luteum cyst ruptures**](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/). My blood count had fallen to dangerous levels both times, as I bled continuously from my blood thinning medications. It's always an ordeal finding me blood for transfusion as well, due to my rare blood conditions. There were no perfect matches both times, and I shudder to think what would have happened if my blood count had dropped a mere half a pint more. Such [ruptures do happen to healthy women during ovulation too](https://www.self.com/story/the-4-signs-of-ovarian-cyst-rupture-you-shouldnt-ignore), but they mostly just feel a mild pain before it subsides. None of this egg explosion nonsense. ### Why Birth Control is Complicated with Antiphospholipid Syndrome The [problem with birth control are the interactions with blood clotting disorders](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/yes-your-birth-control-could-make-you-more-likely-to-have-a-blood-clot/) such as mine. Almost all of them increase the probability of blood clots, which is the reason why I've never even considered them before. To reduce the risk of this happening, we will need to avoid the ones with oestrogen, and select from a range of [progestin](https://www.aafp.org/afp/2000/1015/p1839.html) ones. Amongst the three most suitable options, I had to eliminate two simply for the fact that they can cause bone loss. I already have osteopenia from [**long-term steroid usage**](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/). So that left me with Nexplanon. The only comfort I get from this idea is that the side effects are reversible immediately upon removal, including fertility. I like having my periods regularly, but let's see how this goes. Read Related Posts: - [Pregnancy, Miscarriage & Women’s Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [The Barriers That Throw Rocks into My Bucket List with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/) ## The Great Exchange of Life Speaking of which, my two parrotlets dropped dead in July. Dropped dead are the right words. Archer II fell off his perch like a feather, with barely a sound. We were having dinner and watching the first episode of La Casa de Papel (Money Heist), and it was a few minutes before we noticed his dead, warm body upturned on the bottom of his cage, claws gripped like a vice. I was bawling my eyes out in absolute shock. I thought he might have been still alive. Weren’t those his eyes peeking open? But no, my ex-partner said he was dead. We buried him under a big tree in the park. There were a few homeless people around, a sight that Singapore tries to erase from the public eye for the most part. ### Another Life Fluttered to the Grave That same night his partner, Piper, had a night fright. She could no longer grip onto the branch, and was stuck on the ground. That didn’t bode well, and she was dead within a few short hours, too. We dug Archer II out and unwrapped his handkerchief grave. His eyes were wide open again, so I asked my ex-partner to shut them. But he replied that there were none left - ants had make quick work of them. There were only black orbs of space staring back at us. The only comfort I derived from this is that they get to return to the earth side by side. Archer II adored Piper. She was his goddess, and he worshipped her night and day. I can only imagine the extreme joy on his face and his excited squeaks, to see her there with him on the rainbow bridge. ### Baby Birds to Feed Just as they died, new life was born. Two cockatiel babies hatched the day before and after. Is this the cost of life? I plan on hand feeding this new batch, even though they will all need to go to new homes. This period is especially crucial in a bird's life. It is so much harder to bond with them after. I want to earn their tiny trust, and for them to let me ruffle their little punk crests, and coddle my cheek against theirs. This is the price of life. It isn't an exchange by choice and I would much rather my parrotlets were alive, but even I am only part of its never-ending, unbreakable cycle. > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/B00%5FtrQgubM/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/B00%5FtrQgubM/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) Read Related Posts: - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) - [Why I Moved from SiteGround to Cloudways (and Couldn’t be Happier). Plus Cute Puppy Pics & A New Pacing Strategy.](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/) - [When Your Stress & Fatigue Thresholds Suck (Also on Cute Cockatiels, Education via Zoom & Art Films for Rent)](https://achronicvoice.com/stress-fatigue-thresholds-suck/) - [An Open Letter to Death, and One Simple Plea](https://achronicvoice.com/letter-to-death-simple-plea/) - [4 Cool Truths My Partner Said (Unwittingly)](https://achronicvoice.com/cool-truths/) ## I Need Some Inspiration You know what would really inspire me now? A trip overseas. Yes, I’m jumping back to this topic. Probably sounding a bit of a spoilt brat, too. But yes, that would really inspire not just a little, but a lot of life back into me. It was after all, my primary source of motivation when I was healthier. Scratch that; back when I was younger, more ignorant, and more willing to put up with stupid amounts of pain. There are many ideas and plans swimming around in my head, with this recent cordial breakup and loss of support in many ways. I'd like to [**go back to school**](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/), travel, do this and that and that. But at the end of the day, it all goes back to paragraph one. Thank you for reading my August 2019 entry 🙂 "If I'm losing now but I'm winning late, that's all I want." - Theme song from Money Heist, when Archer II passed on. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [My Second Brush with Death: A Broken Heart (Literally)](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [Flowers are the Most Beautiful When They’re Just About to Die (and What That’s Got to Do with Being a Spoonie)](https://achronicvoice.com/flowers-most-beautiful-die-spoonie/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![A Perfect Capture of Life with Chronic Illness](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_capture-chronic-illness-21-1-2-1-1-1-1.png) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Kathy Aug 22, 2019 Hi, Sheryl. As always, you write powerful words. I’m so sorry for the loss of your beloved birds, and relationship. I’m hoping the new babies are doing well. Maybe a trip to somewhere closer to home would be inspiring. I find that there are many places locally that I have never visited. When I venture out of my comfort zone, and go somewhere for part of a day, it is rejuvenating for me mentally, even if I need to rest for days afterwards. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 22, 2019 Hi Kathy, thank you for your kind words as always, too! Yes you just inspired a thought about a nearby trip to the next door country, Malaysia, to visit my grandma, perhaps! 🙂 But I have a procedure coming up next week, so let’s see how that goes first 🙂 Rejuvenating, isn’t it? Sending love! - Jo Moss Aug 16, 2019 Hi Sheryl. Thank you once again for giving inspiration with some great prompts for this month. I just love your thought evoking writing, your posts are always a pleasure to read. So sorry to hear about Archer II and Piper. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 17, 2019 Hi Jo, Thanks so much for your kind compliment! Your posts are also always a pleasure to read, even if filled with sad thoughts or the link. So relatable and true. Sending love. - [ Rhiann ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com) Aug 14, 2019 Hello once again Sheryl; and thank you once again for giving inspiration with some wonderful prompts for this month. I just love your powerful writing! The imagery and vivid descriptions you use are so beautiful and exquisite. The paragraph you wrote for capturing was wonderfully eloquent. I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your much loved parrotlets. It must have been so heart-breaking for you. I know how hard a loss it can be, it’s been three years since I lost my dog and I still miss her and her loyal companionship everyday. I hope the knowledge that you gave them plenty of love and a wonderful home brings some comfort. Take care Rhiann x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 14, 2019 Aww..thank you so much Rhiann. I’ve received a few kind words both from people I know plus strangers today, it must be my lucky day! ??Yes pets are such joy, the death of them is always heartbreaking. I’m sorry you lost your dog, too. Such dear creatures. I hope they enjoyed their time on earth, too. Sending hugs x - JacQueline Roe Aug 10, 2019 It breaks my heart that you lost your little friends! I have thought of you many times when I have made myself venture outside to receive the healing comfort of sunshine, wind, and best of all, birdsong. I have to be hunkered down and shaded by sunglasses if the migraine is bad, but the song of birds is so freeing. I’m praying for you, friend! Thank you for your honesty 🙂 - Jennifer Aug 8, 2019 I’m sorry to hear about your parrotlets. I can really relate to the connection you have with your pets. I absolutely adore animals and I understand how painful it can be when you lose them. But the connection we have with animals can also bring so much joy. I also feel really inspired when I travel. It really does put your life in perspective when you realise how small you are. I haven’t been able to travel very far this year due to my health and finances too. But I decided to visit family in the north of Scotland instead which has actually been very inspiring for me. I hope your finances and health improve and you manage to travel again soon xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 8, 2019 Hi Jennifer, yes pets bring so much joy, hence the grief when they pass on. But the grief is worth it, they will always have a special little corner in my heart 🙂 I’m happy to hear you could have a change in scenery, and to the highlands, even better! Nature always helps, I hope you managed to get some fresh air, and quality family bonding time 🙂 x - [ Anne ](https://www.raisiebay.com) Aug 4, 2019 so sorry to hear about Archer II and Piper, it’s always so difficult to lose a pet. I hope your medical insurance comes through and things get a little easier financially for you. And I really do hope you manage to get your trip overseas x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 5, 2019 Hi Anne, Thanks for your lovely words. Yea never easy, but they provide so much mutual affection whilst alive too, that it’s ‘worth’ the grief 🙁 I hope you are doing well yourself! x - [ Niamh Kane ](https://chronicbodylove.wordpress.com) Aug 4, 2019 Aw Sheryl I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope they will at least be at peace together and up to lots of feathery mischief. I too have been dreaming of travelling again the courage to just go like I used to regardless of languages spoken or much detail mapped out. I’d kiss that cliched sand right along with you. Maybe one day we can have a chronic holiday lineup. Good luck with the nextplanon I hope it goes really well for you xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 5, 2019 Hahahaha! That made me laugh…kissing the clichéd sand together. That we shall do! Yea for me it’s more of finances. But whilst I’m still alive and breathing, I know that not all hope is lost. Often you just to turn a corner…the unknown waiting time gets on your nerves, but wait you must haha. Thanks yes they were known as the gangsters in the house because they were…always squabbling with the others in a pack. So I hope that now they’re immortal, they’ll be up to more feathery mischief fun! - [ Fancy ](https://www.fancypaperblog.com) Aug 3, 2019 I am sorry to hear about the loss of your birds- both is cruel. You should never worry about your blog being boring by the way as you write so well! I can imagine how life feels mundane at times. To me however reading your stories is the opposite, if that makes sense! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 4, 2019 Thanks for the encouragement! Yes, the only comfort, really I find, is that they passed on together. It’d be more heartbreaking if one lived on without the other 🙁 - Sonia Boal Aug 3, 2019 You really are getting it rough right now. I feel sorry for you,; that sounds patronising- I don’t mean it that way. I have Sjögrens Syndrome, Fibromyalgia and chronic pain in my left foot after a bad break & dislocation- so I know a little of what you mean. At the moment I’m between flare ups so I’m making the most of it and doing everything that I can’t when I’m bad. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 4, 2019 Hi Sonial, Thanks for dropping by 🙂 It’s been a not so great year, but hey, who doesn’t have those, right? Just hoping it gets better, and that yours does, too! Sending good vibes! x - Nikki Michelle Albert Aug 3, 2019 I know how you feel. My mom has helped me out financially way too much and she is retired. It seems wrong that she has to do that because I make so little on disability and have so many costs associated with it… and she also drives me everywhere because of the vertigo. I am sorry you lost your birds. I too lost two beloved cats… so close together. It hurt so deeply. And now I just have Charlie left, who is ten, and I fear at his age he will be gone too soon as he already just developed hip arthritis. I know my two elderly cats had a real good life though. And a long good life at 16 and 14 when they passed. It just hurts a lot and I miss those furballs. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 3, 2019 Yea…kind of makes you feel like a loser at this age, but obviously that’s not how we should be comparing it – equality vs equity, ‘independence’ is subjective based on what you already own or started out with, after all. That’s something I wonder about btw…how others in huge countries get around (I have epilepsy, so can’t drive). Here it’s really convenient and affordable to dial a cab at any time. Yea my babies…wished I had time to stroke their feathers before they died. Dropping dead is not good. Birds are so fragile, the tiny ones at least. And I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your beautiful cats, too 🙁 Never good to lose a pet, although I don’t regret a thing about getting them in the first place. That’s the ‘price to pay’ for connection. So worth it, so painful. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### How to Rewire the Brain to Manage Chronic Pain (& Resources to Help) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/rewire-brain-manage-chronic-pain/ Last updated: 2026-01-08T13:59:20.000Z In order to know 'how' to rewire the brain to manage chronic pain, first we need to understand 'what' pain and neuroplasticity even are. Let’s take a closer look at their definitions and causations to begin with. *\*Disclaimer: This post is sponsored by Pathways and is meant for educational purposes. All personal opinions within the article are my own. Whilst I have done by utmost to be meticulous in research, *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* - **Last Updated:** 11 August 2025 Pin to Your Neuroplasticity & Chronic Pain Management Boards: ![How to Rewire the Brain to Manage Chronic Pain (and Resources to Help)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-to-rewire-the-brain-manage-chronic-pain-resources.jpg) ## What is “Pain”, Exactly? The word "pain" - such a broad term, yet I suppose effective for quick communication. As human beings, we all have experienced pain at some level, at some point in our lives. [Pain is truly a multidimensional experience](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29072005/), namely: "sensory-discriminative" (physical sensation of pain), "affective-motivational" (emotional response to pain) and "cognitive-evaluative" (thought processes related to pain) (Fang & Shao, 2017). Meaning to say that both the mind and body are involved when it comes to pain, whether as voluntary or involuntary responses. [Pain isn’t always bad](https://www.ninds.nih.gov/health-information/disorders/pain) and has its uses as a form of protective mechanism (National Institute of Neurological Disorders and Stroke \[NINDS\], 2025). The brain itself contains no pain receptors, and it is [our body that sends danger signals to it as feedback](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0166432822001292). The brain then interprets and translates them into pain which we feel (Baron & Devor, 2022). ### The Difference Between Acute Pain & Chronic Pain At its most basic level, there are two patterns of pain - acute and chronic - where chronic pain is defined as anything that lasts for more than 3 months. There is also episodic pain, which may be irregular in duration and/or occurrence (NINDS, 2025). Our brains dedicate about 5% of neurons in a particular area to process acute pain. [Compare this to chronic pain](https://journals.physiology.org/doi/full/10.1152/physrev.00040.2019), where the numbers are much higher at 15% to 25%, due to the constant firing that wires these neurons together (Kuner & Kuner, 2021). ### The Different Sources of Pain According to NINDS (2025), pain can mainly be classified into the following categories based on its source: - Nociceptive (pain "from tissue damage and/or inflammation") - Neuropathic (pain from nerve damage) - Nociplastic (pain due to nervous system dysfunction) [Pain can also be of a psychosomatic nature,](https://www.intechopen.com/chapters/71768) where physical pain and sensations are experienced, yet no clinical cause can be found. The current consensus is that such pain is triggered by a combination of "psychosocial and biological factors" (Allahverdi, 2020). ### Pain of Any Kind is REAL and Hurts In sum, each of us experience pain differently, but no matter the root cause, the pain felt is ***very real***. Nothing in our bodies are standalone; our mental and physical health are bonded. Pain can lead to a drastic loss in a person’s quality of life. A [**pain cycle also tends to build up over time**](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/) if the pain does not go away. We then learn to fear this pain, or develop more problems that feed off it. Read Related Posts: - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [How to Survive the Holidays When Chronic Illness & Disability Cause Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/survive-the-holidays-chronic-illness-disability-pain/) - [All I Want for Christmas is Some Pain Relief! (Real Wish List Ideas from 13 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/all-i-want-for-christmas-pain-relief/) - [A Pain Pill, a Caress, an Exhalation of Relief](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-pill-caress-relief/) Pin to Your Pain Science & Awareness Boards: ![“Pain” - Learn about the different types of pain](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pain-learn-about-different-types.jpg) ## What is Neuroplasticity? [Neuroplasticity](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/B9780128194102000011) is still a new-ish field in medicine, and more of an umbrella term used to describe adaptation and changes to the brain (Innocenti, 2022). There are *many* different types of neuroplasticity categories, but we will focus on [two main types for the sake of this post - functional and structural](https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-brain-plasticity-2794886). Functional plasticity is the brain’s ability to move functions from a damaged area to other parts within it. Structural plasticity is the brain’s ability to change its physical structure by learning (Cherry, 2024; Innocenti, 2022). This can be both a good and bad thing. These changes in the brain manifest through the formation of new connections between neurons. This can reinforce either negative or positive thought patterns, bad or good habits. It can also amplify pain, or dial it down. ### A Bit More About the Brain, and What Neuroplasticity has Got to Do with It The brain is made up of three main parts, namely: the cerebrum, cerebellum and brainstem. The [cerebrum](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK551718/) "controls motor and sensory information, conscious and unconscious behaviors, feelings, intelligence, and memory" (Maldonado & Alsayouri, 2023). The [cerebellum](https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/anatomy-of-the-brain) helps to coordinate fine motor skills, and also with certain cognitive functions such as attention and fear. The [brainstem](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/body/22638-brain) is the 'bridge' between the spinal cord and the cerebrum and cerebellum. It also controls autonomic functions such as breathing and heart rate (Cleveland Clinic, 2025; Johns Hopkins Medicine, 2025; Maldonado & Alsayouri, 2023). #### Various Parts of the Brain & What They Do We won't zoom into each part of the brain specifically, but some keywords in relation to this article are (Cleveland Clinic, 2025; Johns Hopkins Medicine, 2025; Maldonado & Alsayouri, 2023): - **Amygdala** \- Processes emotions, and triggers the fight or flight response. - **Hippocampus** \- Processes memories, learning and also spatial awareness. - **Frontal lobe** \- Primarily associated with decision-making functions, voluntary movement, language, speech production, personality and more. - **Parietal lobe -** Aids with awareness of the environment through interpretation of visual, sound, motor, sensory and memory information. This includes pain and touch. - **Temporal lobe** \- Processes sensory information, and is associated with language, emotion and memory retrieval. The amygdala and hippocampus are housed here. [Grey matter](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK553239/) is the mass of neuronal cells involved in processes such as memory, emotions and muscle control. [White matter tracts are bundles of myelinated axons](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/body/24831-grey-matter), which relay sensory information from the muscles and skin to the brain (Cleveland Clinic, 2023; Mercadante & Tadi, 2023). They are interdependent and form ‘pathways’ to the various compartments in our brains. ## 'Rewiring' Our Neuronal Pathways These neuronal pathways ‘light up’ every time we think, feel, or do something. Over time, these pathways become stronger based on our thoughts and actions. We can work on improving the ‘stamina’ of these pathways, which helps to increase the speed of transmission between sensory input and brain output. A [good example of this can be seen in stroke patients](https://www.physio-pedia.com/Neuroplasticity%5FAfter%5FStroke), who often need to relearn how to do basic activities such as walking. This is usually done under the guidance of a physiotherapist, where they practice these motions on repeat over many sessions (Physiopedia, n.d.). We can also work on decreasing negative input, or attempt to break the pain cycle, by consciously teaching our brains that the danger signals it receives are not 100% accurate. A classic example of this can be seen in [Allodynia](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK537129/), where even a light breeze can cause extreme pain to the sufferer (He & Kim, 2023). One of the coping methods used is ‘[systematic/graded desensitisation](https://leaflets.ekhuft.nhs.uk/s3/assets/easysite-leaflets/desensitising-january-2023.pdf)’; this exposes the patient to the cause of the pain itself at a gradual pace, in an attempt to desensitise the sensation (Orthopaedic Hand Service, 2023). Read Related Posts: - [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) - [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) - [Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 – 6](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) ## Central Sensitisation & Its Relation with Chronic Pain Chronic pain can also lead to [central sensitisation](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/10669817.2017.1323699) and/or [peripheral sensitisation](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11064-008-9711-z), where the central nervous system (CNS) or peripheral nervous system (PNS) becomes hypervigilant (Cheng & Ji, 2008; Louw et al., 2017). Such individuals develop a "heightened awareness" of pain due to "familiarity" with it. Pain isn’t just ‘pain’ - to the patient and doctor, details matter in order to find a solution and relief. For example, it could be of a neuropathic, radicular, somatic, myofascial, visceral, or inflammatory nature. ### Who is Affected by Central Sensitisation? According to Dydyk et al. (2025), "[centralized pain](http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK553027/) occurs in 5% to 15% of the general population, most of whom have fibromyalgia". Other types of chronic illnesses in which central sensitisation can occur include but are not limited to: Rheumatoid Arthritis, spondyloarthritis, Systemic Lupus Erythematosus (SLE) and osteoarthritis. It also affects many other conditions such [Phantom Limb pain](https://mcpress.mayoclinic.org/living-well/what-is-central-sensitization-and-how-does-it-relate-to-pain/), a devastating condition where amputees feel extreme pain in the areas that are ‘no more’ (Mayo Clinic Press Editors \[MCPE\], 2024). How is that even possible, when nothing physical exists there to feel the pain? [Repetitive Strain Injury (RSI)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kMbko6lpGGk&feature=youtu.be) is caused by repetitive movement and overuse, and can affect the muscles, nerves and tendons (Pathways Pain Relief, n.d.). Sandip, the founder of the Pathways Pain Relief app, suffered from such bad RSI that he could hardly turn the page of a book without extreme pain. He was desperate to the point where he considered learning how to type with his toes. ### Central Sensitisation & The Creation of Pain Cycles In central sensitisation, the brain is using its memory compartment to ‘learn’ pain. Treatment therefore involves unlearning this pattern. There are medications and nerve treatments that work on our memories, but we can also [unlearn these patterns and reduce these pathways through neuroplasticity](https://theconversation.com/turning-down-the-volume-of-pain-how-to-retrain-your-brain-when-you-get-sensitised-202850) (Pate, 2023). No matter what the cause of chronic pain is, it ends up feeding back into the pain cycle. This triggers a cascade of emotional and mental side effects, which can trigger yet more pain, stress and fatigue (Volcheck et al., 2023). It is a vicious cycle that needs to be broken and rewired. In Sandip’s case, the root cause of his pain stemmed from central sensitisation, and he was able to become pain-free over time by tapping into the science of neuroplasticity. Read Related Posts: - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [Chronic Stress, the Silent Assassin](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/) - [Rheumatoid Arthritis – the Biggest Street Fight of My Life](https://achronicvoice.com/rheumatoid-arthritis-fight-life/) - [How Many Times Can You Hit Rock Bottom with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/rock-bottom/) Pin to Your Central Sensitisation & Chronic Pain Boards: ![Central Sensitisation and Its Relation with Chronic Pain](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/central-sensitisation-relation-chronic-pain.jpg) ## Everyday Activities That Can Modify the Brain It might surprise you, but many activities that we already do in our daily lives involve neuroplasticity. It really isn't such a foreign concept! Here is a list of how neuroplasticity may be involved in everyday activities: - **Exercise.** [Aerobic exercise](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1073858418771538) influences the survival and maturation of adult born neurons, and increases neurogenesis (the growth of new neurons) (El-Sayes et al., 2019). - **Sleep.** [**Sleep is essential**](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/) for the removal of waste within our brains. A lack of it impacts neurogenesis and cognitive function. One of its neuroprotective mechanisms is to reduce [inflammation associated with aging](https://www.abc.net.au/radionational/programs/allinthemind/neuroplasticity-and-how-the-brain-can-heal-itself/6406736), which can result in diseases such as Parkinson's disease (Malcolm, 2015). - **Diet.** The [brain may weigh only 2% of your total body weight](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1155/2017/3589271), but it consumes a whopping 20% of energy derived from nutrients (Phillips, 2017). Basically, if you don't have quality fuel to begin with, you're not going to get very far. - **Creative Pursuits.** The creation of art, dance and reading fiction are other [interesting ways to enhance neuroplasticity](https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/tips-to-leverage-neuroplasticity-to-maintain-cognitive-fitness-as-you-age) within the brain (Fisher, 2025). - **Music.** [Music is perhaps one of the most powerful methods to alter the brain](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2666354623001308), as it requires simultaneous usage of several areas. Both audiovisual information as well as the appreciation of abstract rules are required. Some studies have even found that the brain structures of trained musicians differ from others (Zaatar et al., 2024). P.s. [Combine music, dance and movement](https://www.kspublisher.com/media/articles/MERJMS%5F53%5F342-359.pdf) for turbo neuroplasticity mode (Santana et al., 2025)! Read Related Posts: - [Is Yoga Accessible for People with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/) - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Sarah Frison – A Pastry Chef with a Stomach Disorder](https://achronicvoice.com/sarah-frison-pastry-chef-stomach-disorder/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Cheyanne Perry – Living a Full Life with Deadly Allergies](https://achronicvoice.com/cheyanne-perry-life-allergies/) Pin to Your Neuroplasticity & Infographics Boards: ![5 Everyday Activities That Can Modify Your Brain in Good Ways [Infographic]](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/infographics_everyday-activities-modify-brain.jpg) ## 6 Ways to ‘Rewire’ Your Brain to Manage Chronic Pain Here are a few simple techniques and useful resources to get you started: ### 1\. Mindfulness Meditation Several areas of the brain are involved in [mindfulness meditation](https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2006/02/meditation-found-to-increase-brain-size/), which can modify the amount of grey matter present, and also [slow down cognitive decline](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/13554794.2020.1731553). Structural changes in the brain may even occur in [experienced meditators](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1155/2020/8830005) who have been practising for a long period of time (Adluru et al., 2020; Cromie, 2006; Tang et al., 2020). Research also shows that [meditation might have an accumulative effect when it comes to pain management](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2949834123000351), through the modulation of stress and its effects on the "brain-endocrine-immune-gut" system (Moreno, 2024). How Meditation Can Reshape Our Brains: Sara Lazar at TEDxCambridge 2011 (TEDx Talks, 2012) ### 2\. Human Connection As human beings, we are [**wired to seek out social connections**](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/). A rich social network of both [meaningful relationships not only helps to moderate stress](https://www.nature.com/articles/nn.3093), but also impacts "structural and functional connectivity" in the brain (Davidson & McEwen, 2012). ### 3\. Food & Supplements Certain supplements and foods have neuroprotective effects on our brains. Some of these foods include curcumin, catechin polyphenols (found in tea), resveratrol (found in grapes, wine, peanuts, etc), omega-3 fatty acids (found in oily fish), and much more (Phillips, 2017). Apart from a healthful diet, studies also show that [intermittent fasting](https://www.mdpi.com/2072-6643/14/6/1275) can "enhance cellular stress resistance, synaptic plasticity, and neurogenesis", through multiple pathways (Brocchi et al., 2022). ### 4\. Psychotherapy & CBT Psychotherapy is often used to switch negative thought patterns into positive ones. [Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)](https://www.carlbring.se/en/neuroplasticity%5Fcognitive%5F-behavior-therapy-social-anxiety/) involves both changes in our thoughts and actions. A common method in CBT is graded exposure. Like its name says, it is a process where the therapist guides the patient, slowly exposing them to their fear. The end goal is to replace the negative thoughts with positive ones instead (Carlbring, 2015). ### 5\. Neurosculpting [Neurosculpting](https://www.neurosculpting.com/lisa-wimberger-story/) is a trademarked five step process founded by Lisa Wimberger (Wimberger, n.d.). It fuses the latest research in neuroscience with a guided meditation. We often find something stressful because we have made negative associations with it. Our brain then assesses these experiences and compartmentalises them. It classifies them as threats, in order to protect us in future. Neurosculpting aims to remap these associations in our brains, which are most likely not totally accurate. ### 6\. Digital Resources There are many courses on neuroplasticity out there, on [**free platforms**](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) such as YouTube, or paid ones like Udemy. As always, quality makes a big difference. It is always a good idea to do your research on the lecturer, course materials, and also understand your own learning style. #### The Pathways App & Its 5 Main Modules [Pathways](https://www.pathways.health/) is another great digital resource on neuroplasticity. Sandip was a pain patient himself, so he understands what it feels like to be in constant pain, and how neuroplasticity can indeed work to manage it. It is currently the [most comprehensive online pain therapy programme](https://www.pathways.health/blog/the-most-comprehensive-online-pain-therapy-program-pathways/) out there (Sekhon, 2018). The five main modules are: 1. Pain Relief Essentials 2. Supercharge Pain Relief 3. Deep Stress Relief 4. Happiness & Gratitude 5. Mindfulness & Meditation Within each module are many physical and visualisation exercises, educational material, quizzes and more. Laid out in a step by step plan, each session is digestible and easy to follow. I liked that there was a transcript for each session, although it is a good idea to pause whatever you are doing, and listen to the audio. This will help the information to sink in a little deeper. The Pathways app provides all the tools and information you need to get started on rewiring your brain in a positive way. Its ultimate aim and wish is that the power of neuroplasticity can be harnessed to manage your chronic pain. Pin to Your Pain Management & Infographics Boards: ![6 Ways to Rewire the Brain to Manage Chronic Pain Infographic](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/infographic_6-ways-rewire-brain-manaage-chronic-pain.jpg) ## An Accountability Partner Can be Helpful Whatever you choose to do, finding an accountability partner can be helpful. You can both encourage each other to work towards a better quality of life, especially when one of you is feeling down. I wish you all the best in your experimentation and journey to better health. I know that I will be trying these methods out for myself, and perhaps follow up with another post in future 🙂 ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! 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Read Related Posts: - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [The Secret of Change: Spend Your Energy Wisely with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/secret-of-change/) - [Life is a Long Process of Becoming Into…](https://achronicvoice.com/life-is-a-long-process-of-becoming-into/) Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Neuroplasticity Boards: ![How to Rewire the Brain to Manage Chronic Pain (and Resources to Help)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-to-rewire-the-brain-manage-chronic-pain-resources-2.jpg) ### References: - Adluru, N., Korponay, C. H., Norton, D. L., Goldman, R. 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The transformative power of music: Insights into neuroplasticity, health, and disease. *Brain, Behavior, & Immunity - Health, 35*, 100716\. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.bbih.2023.100716 ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Lucy ](https://lbhealthandlifestyle.com) Jul 24, 2021 This is such a detailed post, thank you for all your research and efforts in putting it together. I incorporate neuroplasticity exercises and have found them beneficial but I never considered how other aspects of health like diet and human connection can enhance the benefits of them. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 27, 2021 Thank you Lucy, for taking the time to read it! Yes I hope the research is as accurate as is possible on my end of things. Definitely – diet and social connection are SO important, too! I have an entire post about those too. Just do a search for ‘Dimensions of Wellness’ 😉 If it’s too long there’s audio too! 😀 - [ Heather @ Writer's Life for You ](https://writerslifeforyou.com/) Jun 18, 2021 Excellent in-depth post! I loved how you differentiated between chronic and acute pain. Neuroplasticity is such an interesting field and you did a great job explaining it. As someone with chronic pain from RA and Fibromyalgia, it’s nice to know there is hope. I’m going to look into mindfulness meditation as my psychologist just mentioned this too. I’m also hoping that some CBT will help too. I always love how informative your posts are. They’re super helpful and interesting. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 18, 2021 Thank you so much for your kind words, Heather. I never knew you had RA and fibromyalgia. I hope this post helps a little and goodness knows I need to practice it more myself, too! 😉 - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Jun 17, 2021 As someone with fibromyalgia, so central sensitisation, I try and eat well and exercise (kind of failing at the sleep aspect . . . ) but I haven’t heard of neuro sculpting before. Thanks for sharing this, I will look into it further. - [ Mardene Carr ](https://conciergelibrarian.com) May 27, 2020 I cannot begin to imagine what it must be like for persons who suffer from chronic pain. I can well imagine that it must be tiring though. Sigh - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 1, 2020 Hi Mardene, it definitely isn’t easy one bit, but I think as human beings we learn to adapt in order to survive, and thrive with what we have where we are 🙂 Thank you for your empathy x - Liz Crusade May 26, 2020 I know many that have cured their multiple chemical sensitivity with brain retraining. However, some of us won’t do the desensitization methods like sniffing Tide or Axe so wish you had a link to “There are medications and nerve treatments that work on our memories”. Lastly I had severe fibromyalgia and it went away when I cleaned my home of chemicals residue and someone I knew developed Parkinsons’ but was a big home use pesticide person. So neurotoxins like pesticides and perfumes are a factor especially if genes play a role and I want a balance between ‘head in the sand’ nothing can harm me and environmental health knowledge. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 26, 2020 Hi Liz, thanks for your comment and feedback! I didn’t write anything about sniffing Tide or Axe, oh my, that doesn’t sound good! Cleaning your home of chemicals are definitely helpful, and also eating or using products that are ‘cleaner’ in and on our bodies. However, this post focuses on neuroplasticity, and not environment factors. That would be an entirely new topic on its own, which might be a good idea. Take care! - Char | ChronicallyHopeful.com Sep 26, 2019 You’ve done lots of research for this, thank you for putting it together. I’m glad to have found the keto diet and various supplements as well as gentle movement to be best for my pain relief. Was on so much medication before that. Chronic pain is awful and there are so many types of pain too… Each requiring different treatments. Like my body needs heat for relief while my spine and head needs cold – sometimes simultaneously. So bizarre, isn’t it? Thanks again for all this great info x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 27, 2019 Hi Char, Thanks for taking the time to read and comment. Am glad you found that the keto diet worked for you! Yes I think it’s hard for people to understand that there are so many kinds of pains, with different approaches needed. It indeed is bizarre as it gets! x - [ dSavannah ](https://dsavannah.com/blog/) Sep 17, 2019 I included a link to this blog post on my post about pain and the Pathways app on [dSavannahRambles ](https://wp.me/p2Crn0-1QG). Thank you for your thoughts! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 17, 2019 Thank you so much! 😀 - [ Candice ](https://www.shescraftycrafty.com/) Sep 12, 2019 oh this post is amazing! I know several people that suffer from chronic pain and I am going to share your post with them! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 13, 2019 Thank you Candice, your support means a great deal to me! - Pamela Jessen Sep 12, 2019 Such a welll done post!!! You’ve provided excellent information and resources for people with Chronic Pain…thank you so much for your thoughtfulness and care in presenting this. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 13, 2019 Thanks Pamela! I hope it’s helpful and I learned a lot from researching this topic, too! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Why You Need a Good Therapist on Your Healthcare Team (Based on My Personal Experiences) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-good-therapist/ Last updated: 2025-10-26T08:27:34.000Z ## My Biggest Takeaway from Decades of Living with Chronic Illness If there’s one advice I’d give as [**a person who’s lived with chronic illnesses for 20 years**](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/), it is this: [**don’t ignore your mental health**](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/), and find a good therapist to be part of your healthcare team. I learned this lesson the long and hard way, when that time could have been better spent on [**improving my wellbeing**](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/). *\*Disclaimer: Whilst this post is sponsored by BetterHelp, all opinions expressed in this review are my own. This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Good Therapist & Mental Health Boards: ![Why You Need a Good Therapist on Your Healthcare Team (Based on My Personal Experiences)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/why-need-good-therapist-on-healthcare-team-my-personal-experiences.png) ## When There’s Nowhere Left to Go & Your Mental Health Slides Backwards... Fast The year I caught tuberculosis (TB) was a particularly bad one for me. It changed the course of my life in more ways than one, with my mental health taking the biggest blow. [My coping methods that had worked for decades no longer did](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/my-inner-child-and-the-angry-girl). When your [**motivation level declines to a flat line**](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/), you start to shrivel up as a human being, and your life concaves into nothingness. Stopping the medications for TB wasn’t an option, so I begged my doctor to refer me to a psychiatrist for the first time in my life. At the same time, I was scouring the internet for a good psychologist. I wasn’t sure what the differences were, and what I really needed from whom. You never know whom you’re going to get when you’re on public healthcare, but I was fortunate to be assigned to a psychiatrist whom I actually liked. Our initial consultation went well. She said that while my coping methods had been excellent thus far, I had finally reached that [**roadblock that we all hit**](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) some day. What we needed to do then, was to find new paths and learn more techniques to get around it. This consists of many things: medications, self-care, talk therapy and more. Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [You Don’t Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) - [Are You a Capable Person? What Does That Even Mean?](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) ## The Key Differences Between a Psychiatrist, Psychologist & Therapist You might be confused as to whom exactly you need to see for your mental health issues, like I was. What’s the [difference between a psychiatrist, psychologist](https://www.yourhealthinmind.org/psychiatry-explained/psychiatrists-and-psychologists) and [therapist](https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-a-therapist-2672019)? The key differences, in brief, are as follows: - Psychiatrists are medical doctors who can prescribe medications. - Psychologists focus on psychotherapy using various methods, to address emotional and mental health issues. - Therapists is a wide umbrella term that consists of social workers, marriage or relationship counsellors, life coaches, psychiatrists, psychologists and more. They may hold degrees or certifications in varied or specific fields. ## My Personal Experience with a Psychologist To give you a better idea and comparison, I will share with you what my psychology sessions looked like. I had selected mine after extensive research on the internet: what their fields of interests were, working styles, schedules, reviews and more. It matters a great deal as your relationship with your psychologist will be an intimate one. You will be sharing your vulnerability and weaknesses with them, so you need to be able to trust them. My first session with my psychologist went even better than I had expected. We covered so much ground in a mere 50 minutes, and I left the clinic feeling lighter than I had for months. Whilst the problems still existed, a [**slight bit of perspective**](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) was helpful. Every session was an exploration and revelation. We dove deeper and deeper into my childhood, [inner child's suppressed needs](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/my-inner-child-and-the-angry-girl), fears, character, beliefs and more. The surprising thing - to me at least - was how my personality and life experiences influenced the way I coped with my health more than I had imagined. Nothing in this world is really isolated. ## My Personal Experience with a Psychiatrist My psychiatric sessions began around the same time, and she started me on medications to treat the clinical depression and anxiety. This period was also a mental revelation in many ways for me. I learned that mental illnesses are real problems happening within your body, and are not to be discounted or taken lightly. [**Medications are essential tools**](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/), and they made a huge difference in the quality of my life. I found my sessions with my psychiatrist to be very different in nature. I'm sure that the amount of time allocated for private vs public healthcare mattered, but the approaches were like night and day. She was more scientific in some sense and treated things symptomatically. This is in comparison with my psychologist, who focussed more on emotional healing and root causes. Neither is better or worse; I found them valuable in different ways. Both require equal attention and have the same goals in mind. ## Online Therapists as an Option in Modern Society Teleconsultation is on the rise. We have apps here that partner with hospitals and clinics where you can [‘see’ a doctor online](https://www.straitstimes.com/business/companies-markets/4-more-medical-service-providers-join-moh-telemedicine-sandbox), with medications delivered to your doorstep. Online counselling is also gaining popularity, for many reasons: - You may be too ill or physically unable to visit the clinic - The commute is far - You have other commitments that you can’t sacrifice more time for - You wish to remain anonymous for whatever reason - Cost (my psychology sessions were about $150 for 50 mins) I'd strongly recommend that you see a professional therapist in-person for severe mental illnesses, are suicidal, or prefer actual human contact; some things you just can’t convey through a screen. But seeing a certified therapist online can also be a good place to start if you’re unsure of your needs, or what your next step should be. Read Related Posts: - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) ## How to Select a Good Therapist Who Meets Your Needs It's important to verify your therapist's qualifications. Where do their certificates or degrees come from? Make sure it is from an established educational facility. Next, their introduction should reveal other important information, such as how they conduct their sessions, their methods and/or what to expect. Go through reviews from their patients, if any, to see what they liked or disliked about the therapist. See if these are critical plus or minus points for you. Finally, your therapist may also own a website or have had articles published somewhere. Reading them can also give you more insight into them as a person, their values, and if you will get along. ### Keep Looking if Your Therapist Isn’t a Good Fit Based on my personal experiences, I am a firm believer that [**mental healthcare is no less important**](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/)than physical treatment. Each affects the other to contribute to your overall well-being. I have also experienced the difference it can make, and the lessons and coping strategies I learned are applicable for life. Having said that, not all therapists are equal. They may not necessarily be a lousy therapist, but we are all diverse individuals; getting your point across will prove easier with some than others. If your first experience with a therapist didn't go well, don't be discouraged and write off therapy as 'not for you'. I would encourage you to keep looking until you find a good fit. You are also allowed to change your therapist along the way, if you feel that someone else might be able to provide better support. ## Get Started with Your Mental Health Online There are a number of counselling platforms online where you can find a licensed therapist. [BetterHelp](https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/therapy/) is one of the more established options, with a wide selection of therapists to choose from at an affordable rate. I also like how you have accessibility to mental healthcare right at your fingertips. As someone who lives with chronic illnesses, I have learned that it’s important to build up a support team that I trust, like and am able to work with. Having good doctors, friends, family and therapists are not options or something I can do without. They are important partners for my long-term wellbeing, survival, quality of care and life. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Why I Need to See 10 Different Doctors on a Regular Basis](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) - [The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don’t Reflect)](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) Pin to Your Good Therapist & Mental Health Boards: ![Why You Need a Good Therapist on Your Healthcare Team (Based on My Personal Experiences)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/why-need-good-therapist-on-healthcare-team-my-personal-experiences-chronic-illness.png) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Verla ](https://treesmendus.com) Jul 11, 2019 Care of the mind translates to care of the body. Loved the article Sheryl. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 11, 2019 Hi Verla, yes indeed! It definitely goes both ways x - [ Nyxie ](https://www.nyxiesnook.com) Jul 7, 2019 Wonderful post! A therapist is key to any health care team and I know without mine I would be completely lost! Although my physical health has also suffered lately, I’m more in touch with my therapist than any other providers. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 7, 2019 Thanks Nyxie! Yes they’re such an integral part of any healthcare team and longterm illness. I hope it becomes more common because it’s so important 🙂 - [ Rachel, The Invisible Hypothyroidism ](https://www.theinvisiblehypothyroidism.com) Jul 4, 2019 I’ve learnt this over the years, too. Your healthcare team may be filled with a GP, specialist doctor, complimentary medicine doctor/practitioner etc. but having that mental health professional there to support you too goes a long way in making you feel supported in all aspects of living with a health condition/s. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 5, 2019 Hi Rachel, yes! It took me a long time to realise how crucial my mental health was living with something like chronic illnesses. My docs weren’t helpful in that regard either, but I think in general are becoming more aware, too. I just wanted to make sure others catch it early on! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### The Eternal Spoonie Struggle: Justifying Rest & Recovery Time URL: https://achronicvoice.com/spoonie-justifying-rest-recovery-time/ Last updated: 2025-11-12T03:59:19.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## #NEisVoid — Welcome to Chronic Illness Life Chronic illness requires a fine balance, and sometimes that balance can feel like a no man's land, or a void where you're treading water all alone. If you surpass that threshold, you suffer the [**consequences of a pain flare**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/). But if you remain in that state, guilt can start to creep up on you. Am I really in a state of rest and recovery, or just a lazy, freeloading slob? Read as I share my thoughts for July. (P.s. [#NEisVoid is a hashtag created by Brianne Benness](https://noendinsight.co/neisvoid-explained/) and means "No End in Sight".) *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![The Eternal Spoonie Struggle: Justifying Rest and Recovery Time](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_spoonie-recovery-19-1-2-1-1-1-1.png) ## Literally Sick with Something Every Month This Year 2019 has been harsh. And harsh moves fast. Yet it is a welcome pace, one that I’ve been familiar with almost all my life. I know such thoughts aren't true, but I feel as if the severity of the pain or gravity of the situation helps to justify my ‘lounging around’ during the grey-area days. Days where I feel mostly fine for long stretches of time, yet am not working or doing much. The fact is, [**working full-time will lead to major pain flares**](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) after 3 months or so, yet this guilt leeches onto me. I have been either bedbound or admitted to the hospital nearly every month this year, both due to ‘regular’ illnesses (aka muggle sick) and emergency situations. In January/February it was bronchitis, severe enough to trap me in bed for a month. [**In March it was Dengue Fever**](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/), when I was just an unlucky passerby for a hungry mosquito. April was actually a great month, somehow the Dengue virus had stimulated my immune system in a good way, and I had lots of fun. Then May came by and I became a reluctant host to a stomach bug. I unleashed the full works of my mini home pharmacy (we have all one as a spoonie, don't we?), but couldn’t eat or drink much for a week. [Resource is one of my goto drinks for sustenance](https://www.nestle.com.sg/brands/nestle-health-science/resource%5Fbreeze) in scenarios like this (I hate the [milk flavoured ones](https://www.amazon.com/stores/Ensure/page/9BC5E533-58BE-41C0-86A1-60837031671A?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=001b8bd8c85e9a97f425b28d25bca9bf&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl)). Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Stress, the Silent Assassin](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) - [April 2019: Tiring First Quarter Being Muggle Sick](https://achronicvoice.com/tiring-first-quarter-muggle-sick-april-2019/) ## Back to Square One Just as I was Starting to Feel Better... Just as I was starting to feel better, I developed severe, unexplained headaches that lasted all day. My usual painkillers didn’t help much, until I discovered that Ibuprofen worked like a charm on them. The caveat: it’s a tricky drug for me as I’m on blood thinners, and [**NSAIDs (nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs) can cause excessive bleeding**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/). After suffering this for 2 weeks, I went to the A&E on the advice of my neurologist. It’s a common protocol for those of us with a blood clotting disorder, as you never know if [**unfamiliar pains might be due to blood clots or internal bleeding**](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/), which can escalate and cause massive damage. By then, my head had swelled up into a heated ball of inflammation which I tried to soothe using cooling baby fever patches (hey I have a small head!). Swollen blood vessels popped up in visible red patches on my scalp and forehead, the vice grip of the internal pain creating external ones. ![Swollen forehead from probable Lupus headaches.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/swollen-forehead-1-1-2-1-1-1-1.jpg) Swollen forehead from probable Lupus headaches. ![Inflamed blood vessels popping out on my forehead.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/swollen-forehead-2-1-2-1-1-1-1.jpg) Inflamed blood vessels popping out on my forehead. Read Related Posts: - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) ## Analysing My Own Pain, Since the Doctors Couldn't Help Me The blood tests at the hospital proved inconclusive as I had predicted, and the discharge summary classified it as ‘migraines’. I also doubted this, having read many a migraineur’s blog. So I sat down at home to analyse the pain and situation I was in. After living with chronic illnesses for some time, you become somewhat familiar as to how your body reacts to your diseases. Not all of us have access to a private doctor on standby 24/7, so we often need to do what we can on our own at home. Here’s what I took into account: location of my pain, how it presents itself, the frequency and time of occurrence, the medications that work and don’t work, the effectiveness of said medications, my recent and long-term medical history, changes to my current drugs or protocols, and data from doctors and test results. ### Personal Conclusion from the Self-Analysis & My Follow-Up Plan With these findings, I strongly suspected that these headaches were of an autoimmune nature. I then wrote down a list of actions I could take to try and deal with them, and emailed it to my doctor for approval. Thankfully, the increase in my steroid dose worked, which just goes further to prove that the headaches were indeed autoimmune in nature. My doctor confirmed this when I next saw him, saying it was probably [Lupus headaches](https://www.hopkinslupus.org/lupus-info/lupus-affects-body/lupus-nervous-system/) (my Lupus tends to get bored and shifts around in my body). This might also explain the brain fogs I’ve been having, as they are all related to the Central Nervous System. ## Planning for July, Or Rather, Letting July Plan for Me, No Thanks to Chronic Pain Then came June. I had a double [corpus luteal cyst rupture](https://www.sgh.com.sg/patient-care/conditions-treatments/ovarian-cysts) which warranted a costly visit to the emergency department. It was a precarious situation as they always have trouble finding me blood due to rare autoantibodies, and I was bleeding massively. But I am going to stop my story here for now as it’s getting too lengthy, and I think this particular episode deserves an entire post on its own. *(P.s. Post is out! Read it here:* [***What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER***](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/)*)* Phew. So there we have it, and we’re already at July. Chronic illness is hard work, in more ways than one. I plan on taking July a little easier because I don't have a choice, really. I’ve been planning to relaunch [my work site](https://work.achronicvoice.com/), but every week presents new health problems. So I think I’ll stop penning it down in my bullet journal and just work on it spontaneously. I don’t have plans for July; I think I’ll let July plan for me. What does it have in store for me? I guess it doesn’t really matter if I’m ready for it or not, as it’s already here upon us. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [A String of Bad Days (and What Happened When That Good Day Finally Came Along)](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [The Road to Recovery is the Longest of Them All](https://achronicvoice.com/road-to-recovery-longest/) - [#projChronicWisdom: Simple Pleasures I Can Enjoy While Stuck in Bed with Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/projchronicwisdom-simple-pleasures-enjoy-pain/) Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![The Eternal Spoonie Struggle: Justifying Rest and Recovery Time](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_spoonie-recovery-18-2-1-1-1-1-1.png) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Ella Kim Jul 29, 2019 Justifying rest time with chronic illness is always tough. I’m constantly telling myself that it’s necessary for me to keep going at a steady pace, but it’s so hard to do that when you feel “okay.” I definitely relate to your comment about letting July plan for you. Sometimes, you just can’t predict what your month has in store I know it’s late in the month, but I hope that the following months bring better luck to you. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 29, 2019 Hi Ella, it’s probably one of the most frustrating thing about chronic illness, isn’t it?! At least if we knew a mega pain flare were upcoming, we could try and plan around it haha. I hope you have a good upcoming August! x - Kathy Jul 24, 2019 I didn’t realize all you’ve been through until this post. Something about listing every thing out. I think that taking care of your health is your full time job right now. No guilt over resting allowed! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 25, 2019 Hi Kathy! I’m sure we all have some bad years like this, so no problems. Just sucks but that’s life. Sending love, too! xxx - WittyKittyVixxy Jul 18, 2019 So sorry to read about what all you have been through. Gentle healing hugs coming your way ?. I thought I was having it bad, but reading about your struggle helped me look at it from another perspective. As I get older,I am also finding it harder to cope. But all a spoonie can do,is soldier on. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 18, 2019 Hi there, it’s not as bad as it sounds, really, therefore my guilt! But then again, I keep comparing it to my ‘worst ever episodes’ which isn’t quite fair either as they are moments of life and death! No matter what it is, your pain is also valid, and I’m sending you lots of well wishes and hugs today xxx - [ Laurie Hanscom-Harmon ](https://seekingserenityandharmony.com) Jul 17, 2019 Great Post. I’m sorry that this stuff keeps happening to you. It is an exhausting battle with our bodies trying to keep up with all the games it plays on us. I am crossing my fingers that the remaining month is a time of you feeling your best. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 17, 2019 Thanks Laurie! No worries, all of us are fighting our own battles, too. I am hoping things turn too for the rest of the year for us all! Sending hugs! - [ Rhiann ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com) Jul 15, 2019 Hello again Sheryl for another month, thanks again for some wonderful prompts. I am so sorry that this year, so far, has been a tough one for you, I am hoping that it will improve for the remaining months of 2019\. Yes, I can totally relate to feeling great guilt when needing rest and a slower pace of life, I’ve recently had a giant pile of ironing that needed doing, but no strength or energy to do it, and kept feeling the guilt eating away at me every time I looked at it. But, if anyone deserves some rest and recuperation it is you. Take it easy and see you again next month! Rhiann - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 15, 2019 Thanks Rhiann. It isn’t the toughest I’ve had, and therein lies another form of guilt. I think you understand what I mean! I can have low pain days, then a sudden burst of emergency episodes, or a month of high pain. When the low pain days are ‘longer’ than usual, I sink into that guilt of not finding a ‘proper job’. Thank you for your kind words. Step by step, get back on our feet. That’s all we can do x - Jo Moss Jul 6, 2019 I’m sorry you are having such a tough time Sheryl. I hope the second half of the year brings improved health. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 7, 2019 Hi Jo, not to worry. We all have our lot, hey! Yes let’s hope the second half is kinder! x - [ Niamh Kane ](https://chronicbodylove.wordpress.com) Jul 8, 2019 Hi Sheryl, What a year you’ve had omg I don’t know how you managed to get through all that. I think your plan for July is solid. As much as I like to think I can tick off my tasks sometimes we have to admit there’s other plans for us, which you’ve accepted so gracefully this month. Fair play to you getting to the bottom of the headaches. I can’t believe they conveniently wrote it off as migraine. I have one everyday and never seen a reaction like your forehead had. Like you said not once in any platform on migraines seen that mentioned. I hope July takes care of you this month xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 9, 2019 Hi Niamh, It hasn’t been a great year, but it hasn’t been my worst ever either, so therein lies the problem haha. Yea and it was a neurologist professor who wrote it off as migraines, but I think they just needed a discharge diagnosis before further investigations. Yea I’ve had migraines before when I was much younger and they were nothing like this! Quite different I would say. Thank goodness the steroids worked, though now I’m having other problems. It’s like a ship with holes and we’re just trying to throw buckets of water out constantly, hey? Haha we’ll manage just fine 😉 Sending hugs! x - [ Allison Bird ](https://medium.com/not-just-my-story) Jul 6, 2019 Wow, isn’t that the way with the wrong diagnosis stuff. We get so good at interpreting our own symptoms because doctors so often do such a poor job. I landed in the hospital at the very end of May with what was probably a cyclic vomiting syndrome flair, but who really knows. My doctors sure have no idea. I’m glad that part of your story seems sorted out, but the cyst situation sure sounds scary! As for now, well, we all just keep on keeping on, right? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 6, 2019 Hi Allison, thanks for reading! Yea though sometimes we need those machines and blood tests and stuff at the hospital to really know for sure! I bet if we had the equipment at home it’d be brilliant… :p The cyst stuff isn’t so scary because I’m grown numb to it, although it most certainly can be a life or death situation. And yes, all we can do is carry on, fortunately and unfortunately! - [ Alison ](https://www.thrivingwhiledisabled.com) Jul 6, 2019 Ah, the familiar ‘am I being lazy or do I need the rest?’ self-flagellation process! I face that often and utterly agree that it’s frustrating! You’ve fought through a lot this year, and it sounds like you’re coping as well as you can 🙂 It sounds like you’ve been doing some really good self-analysis and self-care, and I’m so glad that you have at least some doctors who can work with you rather than ordering you around or standing by their own odd assumptions. Hope your July runs more smoothly! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 6, 2019 Self-flagellation is the right word, thanks for summing it up! 😉 Thanks for the encouragement, and yes, I’m grateful for my team of doctors, I really am 🙂 - [ Anne ](https://www.raisiebay.com) Jul 3, 2019 I’m so sorry you are having such a rough year Sheryl, if anyone needs to rest then it has to be you and you should do it guilt free. I truly hope the second half of the year treats you much better. x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 3, 2019 Hey Anne! It’s not so bad, really, I guess? Haha. I hope we all get the rest we need and deserve x - Nikki Michelle Albert Jul 3, 2019 Hmmm seems like we are both having a rough go of it lately for different reasons. But my pain has been at Epic levels for no reason I can determine but every single day. Not even counting the migraines. It has been hellish. And I have not been able to do much at all, which then makes me feel worse. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 3, 2019 Hey Nikki, yea having followed you on your blog, your year sounds super rough, rougher than mine in a lot of ways. Daily vertigoes would really be hellish 🙁 I hope you get some relief ASAP 🙁 x - [ Cassie Creley ](https://cassiecreley.com) Jul 2, 2019 Thank you for explaining so well what it’s like to oscillate between knowing you need rest, and then feeling guilty or lazy for doing what you need! This is a topic I have been talking about with some friends recently, and I have found their validation to be very helpful in allowing myself to rest. I hope that July is kinder to you! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 2, 2019 Hi Cassie! Thanks so much for reading and commenting, I appreciate it 🙂 Yes it’s a topic I think we all feel when stuck with anything chronic. It really feels like a dead zone, doesn’t it? Sending hugs! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does 'Normal' Even Mean?) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/ Last updated: 2026-05-27T16:26:17.000Z ## My Responses to the “A Day in the Life” Linkup These responses are part of the ‘Day in the Life’ linkup previously, which aimed to showcase people with different illnesses, and how they live their lives. The [**definition of ‘normal’**](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/)is always an intriguing topic to me, because there is no such thing. It could be a macro definition that covers a specific society and culture. Or it could go right down to a micro level, that details an individual’s daily routine, out of billions of people on this planet. Here's a glimpse of what my average day looks like for this moment in time. This isn't set in stone, as life, circumstances and chronic illness are bound to change. If you'd like to participate and share some insight too, the link is at the bottom of this post. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Read Related Posts: - [What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - [Keeping Up with the World: Why it’s Important Despite Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Featuring People with Illnesses, Passions & Talents](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-people-illnesses-talents/) - [Every Next Level of Your Life Will Demand a Different You](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) ## A Day in My Life with Chronic Illnesses In brief, chronic illnesses I have: - [**Antiphospholipid Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [**Systemic Erythematosus Lupus (SLE)**](https://achronicvoice.com/rock-bottom/) - [**Sjögren’s Disease**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-bearable-not/) - [**Epilepsy (Tonic Clonic Seizures)**](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) - [**Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture**](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [**Mitral valve repair (and now severe mitral valve stenosis)**](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) - [**Paroxysmal Supraventricular Tachycardia (a heart rhythm disorder)**](https://achronicvoice.com/heart-rhythm-disorder/) - [**Clinical Depression & Anxiety**](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - [**Oesophageal Diverticulum (and repair)**](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) Pin to Your “Day in the Life” and Chronic Illness Boards: ![My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does ‘Normal’ Even Mean?)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life-my-responses-linkup-what-normal-mean.jpg) ![What's it like? A Day in My Life with Chronic Illnesses. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/whats-it-like-day-in-my-life-with-chronic-illnesses-v1-clock.jpg) ### Where do you come from? How accessible is your city/town? Singapore, an island state in Southeast Asia. It's super small, which makes everything convenient and accessible. ### My first thought and/or sensation when I become conscious in the morning. I move my body a little to gauge the pain levels for the day. *"Ugh, X part of my body hurts."* I then roll over to gently push myself up like how they do it in yoga classes, to try and minimise the pain of sitting up. Then I force myself to stand and limp to the kitchen for breakfast and coffee. Here are some [funny but painful memes](https://themighty.com/2018/02/memes-mornings-chronic-pain/) that I can relate to, and that might explain it better! ### How long it takes for me to go from zero to functioning, if at all. About two hours, once the steroids and coffee kick in. Prior to that, I’m pretty much zombie-ish with little energy, nausea and/or body aches. Read Related Posts: - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [Is Yoga Accessible for People with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [What’s it Like to be on a High Dose of Steroids? (And the First Question You Will Definitely Ask)](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) ### What my morning routine is like in general. A simple breakfast and wash up. Catch up on routine stuff on my computer such as the news, emails, schedules, etc. If I have work, then that is my priority because who knows how much energy I have left for the day; things can always take an ominous turn with chronic illness. ### Best and worst times of the day in terms of pain, fatigue, etc. Mornings are usually the worst especially if I’m in a flare phase, as I’ve been stationary all night without any medications. Nights are also not good as inflammation levels are highest then. This means pain and fatigue, yet the inability to get the restorative sleep you need. Whilst I don’t like afternoons mood-wise, they are the the peak periods in my day in terms of energy levels. At about 4pm I hurry to get an hour or two of household chores done, if possible. ### What I consider a daily self-care must do. A nice, hot shower in the evening to wash the day away. It’s both a hygienic and symbolic ritual for me. A little treat which I now appreciate and enjoy daily, after I wasn’t able to shower when hospitalised for two months. And in a hot and humid climate like Singapore, that feels really gross. ### The household chore I have the most trouble with. Mopping the floor. The ‘pushing against’ the handle with my hands causes inflammation, so [**my hands become all swollen**](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) after. I’m no good at scrubbing the toilet or changing bed sheets either 😜 ### A task I wish I had more help with. A private chef would be nice 😉 I don't cook as much as I would like, partially because I don't enjoy it, and the other half of the time I'm in pain so it can be difficult. Some sort of delicious, affordable and nutritious catering service every day would be a nice option as well. Unfortunately the ones I’ve tried here don’t meet those full set of expectations so far. ### The part of the day I like best. The wee hours of the morning between 5 - 7am, IF I’m able to even wake at all, which is rare ;) My brain seems to be at peak performance and I can get a lot done. I also love how everything is so peaceful and unhurried during these few short hours, and how the air is so calm and cool. But let me repeat, it’s rare that I even wake at those hours, and if I am, it's more likely that I couldn't sleep due to pain! ### What’s breakfast, lunch and dinner typically like. Any diet protocols? Breakfast is usually some bread from the bakery, or whatever's in my pantry cupboard - nuts, protein bars, cereal, etc. Fairly typical. Lunch is usually takeaway - there are lots of options here so there’s no usual fare. It could be Japanese today, and Italian tomorrow. Brunch food, fruits, local hawker fare, salad bowls, etc. I love bread and cheese, too! Dinner varies as well, like lunch. But if we cook then it tends to be a simple rotation of one type of meat or fish, and some vegetables or salad. Pressure cooked potatoes with butter to go along if we feel like it. The occasional beef stew, udon mix, or Chinese soups in the pressure cooker. A whole black pepper chicken from the rotisserie is cheap and delicious, too! No diet protocols for me, but I do need to watch my intake of green leafy vegetables and anything else that might [**interact with vitamin K**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/), due to Antiphospholipid Syndrome (my blood clotting disorder). Read Related Posts: - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [After Surgery Care at Home: Hygiene Resources](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [How Much Time Are You Wasting On Sleep?](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/) ### How do I unwind for the evening? A hot shower, then dinner with a good movie or TV series. Some dessert or chocolate - [I believe that every day should end on a sweet note](https://bucketsoftea.co.uk/tea/coffee-tea-yin-yang/) (it’s a good excuse)! I don’t have notifications turned on for social media on my phone, so evenings are mainly when I check in, clear requests and interact. I also read more blogs and health articles, and schedule them via the Buffer phone app. This can be a slippery slope though, because it can go on forever if you let it. I recently laid down some ground rules for myself in an attempt to clean up my sleep hygiene. I'm not a good sleeper and sometimes have nights on end where I'm literally half-awake and lucid dreaming. Medications that are meant to help can sometimes make the dreams more vivid instead. You wake feeling not just unrefreshed, but like you're going insane because you can't shut down your brain or escape from your body for even a second. I've already been referred to the sleep clinic for suspected sleep apnoea and have a sleep study lined up, but both the neurologist and I agree that my evening routines could be improved. I'm one of those silly people who feels guilty when I 'lie there and do nothing', especially when sleep is the bedrock of health and life! Read Related Posts: - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [It is \*Always\* Possible to Make Time for What Matters Most](https://achronicvoice.com/make-time-what-matters-most/) ### Are you are able to do any exercise? If so, what do you enjoy and does it help with managing your pain? This year has been bad for me, as I keep falling in and out of illnesses that have confined me to bed. It's now June and I've only had a single month where I was feeling kind of okay. So no, I haven't been exercising much at all. In terms of pain management when I was able to before, it didn't really help with that. But it did help me to feel slightly more confident and happy that I was healthy, with a bit more muscle weight than flabs 😉 I mostly swam, though I didn't quite enjoy it; I did it just to try and keep fit (and I hate running!). I much prefer playing team or ball sports, because it feels more like fun and games rather than exercise! But I can't anymore due to my blood clotting disorder, as the contact can cause excessive bruising or bleeding. I also used to play some squash with my ex; that I enjoyed even though I'd go home with bruised palms. Read Related Posts: - [Is Yoga Accessible for People with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/) - [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Floatation Therapy: Did it do Anything for My Chronic Pain?](https://achronicvoice.com/floatation-therapy-chronic-pain/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) ### What helps with de-stressing in your day to day life? [**Watching my birds chirp**](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/) and just doing their thing makes me smile. Their lives are so uncomplicated and they’re easily contented. [**Writing is another big one**](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/); it helps me to decipher my actual thoughts and feelings. This relieves part of the mental burden, and maybe also with planning my next move in life. A blank future can be terribly pressurising, so it's nice even to have just an inkling. Having someone to talk to or crack morbid jokes with always helps as well. I love morbid jokes, it helps me to cope. It's like telling a painful truth, but with defiance painted all over it. Also just knowing that there are people out there whom I can rely on at any hour brings me great comfort. Finally, any [**opportunity to travel**](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) and escape day to day life always helps. The [**upheaval of routine lends perspective**](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/). It helps to unclog my cluttered thoughts, freeing up space within my mind and body for better things. Read Related Posts: - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Travelling New Paths with Chronic Illnesses in My Pocket](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-new-paths-chronic-illness/) - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) - [March 2018: Sorting My Medications & a Hike Up Little Adam's Peak](https://achronicvoice.com/sorting-medications-hike-little-adams-peak-march-2018/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) ### If working, how do I keep sane with the work stress? If staying at home, how do I keep sane with the isolation? Of late I haven't been handling the isolation well, which is a surprise as I'm someone who needs a lot of alone time. I guess as human beings it's innate that we need social contact every now and then. So I've been trying to meet all sorts of people more, even though getting out the door can be a monumental task in itself. These mysterious new headaches I've been having are like assassins that strike hard and fast, knocking me back to bed quickly. Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [Chronic Stress, the Silent Assassin](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/) - [29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) ### Do you have any pets and how are they are a part of your life? Yes, six birds (plus three babies!). They make a huge mess every day with all the pooping and nibbling, but they make for lovely company. Our family dog of 14 years passed away recently from a cardiac arrest. She was a lovely girl that brought us so much joy with her warm greetings and unconditional love. Even whilst suffering from cancer and skin problems, her enthusiasm for life never faded. It makes me wonder why. Then it makes me wonder, do we even need a 'why'?, and definitely bigger than all my problems combined. Update: [I have another dog now, Talisker, who is a shetland sheepdog](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/the-way-my-dog-talisker-brings-me). He brings me such joy simply by being present, and I love him to death. We play 'fetch' every evening, and do some 'patience lessons' every night. He is my shadow though often rebellious (and I love that about him). ### People you see most often and your favourite thing to do with them if any? [**My ex-partner/flatmate**](https://achronicvoice.com/cool-truths/). It's nice just chilling out at home. It's also nice going for a simple brunch or fancy dinner every now and then. Or to the orchestra - I think that's our new thing! ### If you got ‘normal people sick’, how much impact does that have on top of things? [**Getting regular illnesses**](https://achronicvoice.com/tiring-first-quarter-muggle-sick-april-2019/) like the flu or a stomach bug can be like a giant wave that knocks you back for a while. We already live with pain on a regular basis, so any additional burden will take its toll. Also, the average healthy person has a functioning immune system, which may be deployed to handle that one attack. But we have a faulty defense system. It isn't only fending off multiple fronts, but mistaking some of their own as the enemy. Resources are spread thin and we're just trying to scrape through. This means that the amount of time it takes for us to heal is longer. Perhaps you only need a week to recover from a bout of influenza, but for us it might take a month or more. The medications needed to fight off these germs may also interact with our current ones, which can prove to be a big problem. I'm not talking about tolerable symptoms such as temporary nausea or dizziness, but dangerous ones such as [**blood clots, excessive bleeding**](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#SectionB), serotonin syndrome, and god knows what else. ### If I could leap out of bed pain free for ONE day within my current environment and circumstances, I would... See what it's like to live a 'normal' day, packed with activities from dawn to dusk. Wake up early to do some exercise and study some French. Then get ready for work donned in high heels. Being productive at work while enjoying those coffees. Then meeting people for dinner or drinks after to 'unwind'. I might even read a book before going to bed. That’s probably quite a handful even for a healthy person, but not impossible. A good night's sleep would probably be enough to recharge their batteries. But in my current state, I know for sure that I'd be exhausted after that first sentence was completed (if at all!). It'd be amazing, I think, to feel that kind of normal that people take for granted again 🙂 Thank you for reading, I hope that this was informative! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) - [The Superpowers of the Average Human Being](https://achronicvoice.com/superpowers-average-human/) - [4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/) - [All I Want for Christmas is Some Pain Relief! (Real Wish List Ideas from 13 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/all-i-want-for-christmas-pain-relief/) Pin to Your “Day in the Life” with Chronic Illness Boards: ![My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does ‘Normal’ Even Mean?)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life-what-does-normal-mean.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Sarah Warburton ](https://sarahwarburton.com) May 28, 2021 Wow Sheryl, you accomplish so much, what an amazing woman! Thoroughly enjoyed reading this and it’s sobering to read of others who, for one reason or another, don’t live a “normal life”, whatever that is. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 1, 2021 Thanks for reading, Sarah! Would love to hear from you too, if that’s ever up your writing and sharing alley! 😀 - [ Becky Derbyshire ](https://thelifestylebloggeruk.com) Oct 11, 2019 wow, and hear i am lying on the sofa with a cold feeling sorry for myself…perspective! Thank you for writing such an interesting post. x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 12, 2019 Hi Becky, thanks for taking the time to read it. Hope you feel better from the cold soon! x - Kirsten Jun 28, 2019 I totally agree with you that every day should end on a sweet note. I save my chocolate or dessert till the end of the day too! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 28, 2019 Ha, good to hear we’re on the same page on that! ;p - [ Marian Wood ](https://marianwood.com) Jun 28, 2019 Wow, this is quite a day, you are amazing! I moan at my own aches and pains, but they are just normal life, would be helped with a new mattress.. Thanks for sharing! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 28, 2019 Hi Marian, truly it isn’t that bad! I am well enough and grateful. Just the days when the flares get horrendous or a necessary trip to A&E – those suck, and it’s a countdown to escape the hospital! 😉 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### A Pain Pill, a Caress, an Exhalation of Relief URL: https://achronicvoice.com/pain-pill-caress-relief/ Last updated: 2026-05-27T15:23:49.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* *\*Trigger Warning: Nothing too serious, but a tad of a gloomy theme this June.* ## When You Think You’ve Got It, Then a Pain Flare Rears Its Ugly Head Again So I’m saying it again, repeating it like a fucking broken record. Where did the year go to? It’s officially hit the halfway mark and I’ve officially got nothing done. It’s so fucking frustrating. No progression in any direction. I got [my new work website](https://work.achronicvoice.com/) set up nice and sweet, then in one fell swoop, I developed [**mysterious pain symptoms**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) the very next day. How lucky can one get? It’s been two weeks, which included a hospital admission, and I have yet to get back on my feet. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Life Journey Boards: ![A Pain Pill, a Caress, an Exhalation of Relief. Mid-year thoughts on where life goes from here, when chronic pain keeps interrupting your plans. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pain-pill-caress-exhalation-relief-mid-year-thoughts-chronic-pain-plans.jpg) ### Days Blended into an Abstract Blur, Due to Chronic Pain Setting work aside, which I desperately need and is the next priority after my health, my days have melded into an abstract, and have become a rinse-repeat procedure of bed, computer, some reading and poor sleep. I have vivid, horrible dreams every night, and wake feeling drugged up. Of late, I haven’t even had the energy or felt well enough to [**step out of the house**](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/). I tried and didn’t get very far. After only limping for 200 metres we had to turn back and head home, where I collapsed in bed for the rest of the day. The unforgiving [**heat and humidity combination of Singapore**](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/) added a sting to it. Read Related Posts: - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does ‘Normal’ Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) ## Wondering Where Life Goes From Here Again This has left me wondering where life goes from here. I try to tell myself ‘momma says [**take it one day at a time**](https://achronicvoice.com/dealing-with-pain/), that’s all we can really do, especially for me’, but I feel like I’m lying to myself for some reason. As if my mother said it really just to comfort me. Like hugging and soothing a child, shielding her from a bitter reality. [**I know that the world is still a wondrous place**](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/), despite all the grief and suffering that exists in all living facets of it. Not once have I doubted this. Nature is too grand, too awe-striking, and larger than all my problems combined. It is a living ancestor to whom I bow my head, both out of reverence, and out of shame for my disrespect towards it. I also wonder about many other things, some out of a child-like curiosity, but more with an adult’s guilt-ridden self-questioning that descends into an unhealthy, manic worrying. I am hurling rocks into an ocean that is able to swallow every single one of them; the almost inaudible ‘plop’ dies in silence. I am carrying so many rocks, many of which I have dug out with my own hands. The others seem to have rained down from the sky into my basket, unpredictable as ever, from god knows where. I also wonder, how do others do this? [**How do they deal with worse than what I have**](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/)? How do you do it? It makes me feel ashamed for [**being less strong**](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) than I was 10 years ago. So I pick more rocks up and put them in my basket as punishment. Read Related Posts: - [Asking for Help (and Why Everyone Needs to Learn this Important Life Skill)](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [An Inspirational Poem on Miracles, by Thuli Zuma](https://achronicvoice.com/poem-on-miracles-thuli-zuma/) - [What Stops You from Splitting Your Burdens Up?](https://achronicvoice.com/splitting-your-burdens/) ## Getting Older, but Feeling Aimless Due to Chronic Pain I turned 33 in April. It felt like a turning point for me. Not 30, not 35, somehow 33\. Is it the double digits? [**With the brain fog**](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) I do admit that it’s been easier to recall my age. I kept having to do double takes when I was 32. Nothing major has happened. It wasn’t like [**my year long race for heart surgery**](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) at 25\. Nor [**my near-death catastrophic blood clotting episode**](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) at 17\. Yet the problem is that nothing has been happening for a while now, as well. I have come to appreciate long, drawn out periods of boredom and downtime, simply because these periods aren’t filled with ‘crisis level, nothing helps’ type of pain. But somehow I’m now wishing for an ‘either or’ situation. Either pain pushes me over the edge, and [**not taunt me with these ‘less-than-my-worse’ episodes**](https://achronicvoice.com/letter-to-death-simple-plea/). Or it goes away so that I can be on my way with my head held high, filling myself up with love and inspiration and life. Where is 33 on the map of my lifetime? I’m done with and desiring simultaneously. Read Related Posts: - [The Barriers That Throw Rocks into My Bucket List with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) ## Getting Up and Carrying on, Because That's What You Do as a Human Being I know what I have to do. You don’t have to tell me again. I’m sick of being told again. I don’t need to hear words of sympathy, empathy, clichés, or even lightbulb moment insights. Of course I’m going to pick myself back up again once this bad luck dies down, whenever that may be. What else does one do? It’s become a practice. A spoonie’s way of life. And for me, a bit of a zombie on cruise control. Maybe it’s just all the medications, brain fog, pain and moody piano music in the background talking right now. [**Written words that might embarrass** **me**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) when I do finally [**meet a friend or acquaintance**](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) who’s read them in real life. But I don’t really care. I think it’s important to etch them down regardless; I can’t be the only one who feels - the irony - like a zombie out there. [**Get up and carry on.**](https://achronicvoice.com/give-your-best-even-when-feeling-depressed/) Get up and carry on. I’m not sure what your mantra in life is, or what brings you hope and inspiration. But for me, to know that [**my one duty in life is to ‘get up and carry on’**](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) helps me to tide through a great deal. It applies to any and all situations. Call it a bit dry, dull or soulless if you want, but I’m alive, am I not? And as long as you’re alive, your soul is somewhere in there, sleeping or hiding maybe, but it definitely hasn’t disappeared. In that sense, there is a blood-stained drop of hope. And perhaps the greatest things that one can hope for in life, are actually the most bloodied of them all. Read Related Posts: - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) ## Desiring for the Fine Fragrance of Life I am filled with desire. A taste for pleasure. A plea for pardon. A pain pill, a caress, an exhalation of relief. Pleasure is prayer. Prayers are filled with well wishes, good intentions and more often than you’d imagine, begging. I’ve been there myself, on cold marble with bruised knees, [**pleading for a second chance at life**](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/). Silly girl, you should have begged for quick mercy. I had a period of brief respite after [**my dengue episode**](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) in April where I actually felt good. Hearty and hale, nothing like I’d felt in ages. Life (or was it death?) winked at me, and reminded me what it’s like to own a body loaded with energy, ready to fire. It teased me and we got drunk on cheap wine, which re-opened up the pathways in the brain that inspire immortality. It’s been only a month since then so I can still kind of remember the feeling, but as you very well know, it’s just all a matter of time. ### The Irony of This Returning to ‘Normal’ As I'm recovering from the hangover, I think to myself, maybe I'll see him again one day. And the irony of this recovery is that it isn't a leaving of pain, but a returning to it. Dear life, you're quite the playboy, aren't you? I am but a woman held bondage through your absence. Your return is always far apart and your stay swift, but you always bring the brightest flowers, and your scent is nothing of this world. My desire has left me numb, with every departure that you take. And so as time goes my, I transfer your transgressions upon my own shoulders. I confess my part to play, a stupidity borne out of simultaneous innocence and greed. You knew me before I was in my mother's womb, my genes a puzzle you pieced together with your own hands. I had no say in the building of my body, but I bear the consequences regardless. Life is unfair - that's you, alright. Whatever it is come release me again soon. [**You have broken into me, but I am yet unbroken**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/). *P.s. This quote popped into my inbox today and I thought it appropriate to add in:* > "To have finally dealt with suffering is to consume it into yourself. Which means you have to, with eyes open, be able to keep your heart open in hell. You have to look at what is, and say 'Yeah, Right.' And what it involves is bearing the unbearable. And in a way, who you \*think\* you are can't do it. Who you \*really\* are, can do it. So that who you think you are has to die in the process." - Ram Dass ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Chronic Pain, Depression & Chronic Life Boards: ![June Writing Prompts: A Pain Pill, a Caress, an Exhalation of Relief](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_june-writing-prompts-12.png) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Jo Moss Jun 16, 2019 Sheryl, I can relate to your frustrations, my life has been on a similar path recently. I hope you get a bit of respite soon. I love reading your posts, so beautifully written. Take care. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 16, 2019 Hi Jo, thanks for the understanding and kind words 🙂 Yes, I’m so frustrated, and today is especially depressing. In any case, I’m sure both you and I will survive it. Sending lots and lots of hugs. - [ Rhiann ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com) Jun 8, 2019 Hello once again Sheryl I loved your post for this month; it was beautifully and eloquently written. An articulate essay that wonderfully describes the thoughts and feelings of someone like yourself going through a time when illness is constantly throwing everything it has. I am so sorry of your continued suffering, how you manage to still write so brilliantly is a testament to your strength and resilience despite it. I hope you continue to get up and carry on – such a brilliant mantra. Take good care of yourself and look forward to seeing you next month Rhiann - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 9, 2019 Thanks Rhiann. I find it easier to write when in pain, the irony. Yes I believe many others are feeling this way too, sadly. Thank you for your kind and supportive words. Sending hugs and see you on social media for sure! 😉 - [ Alison ](https://www.thrivingwhiledisabled.com) Jun 8, 2019 Sheryl, sorry you are in such a frustrating spot – feeling stymied and stuck is so exhausting in itself! Hoping you can keep climbing out and that your health evens out soon! I’m still working through my own healing, though I am improving – also pushing myself a bit this month, since it is Pride and I want to stand up for my bi identity too. I empathize with the fatigue and frustration, feeling like progress has been halted – I understand feeling low, but I’m hoping that things improve for you! Thinking of you and wishing you the best! \*gentle hugs\* - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 8, 2019 Hey Alison, yes feeling stuck can feel surprisingly exhausting! Thanks for your well wishes, and wishing you the best in your endeavours this month too x - Nikki Michelle Albert Jun 6, 2019 I have gotten nothing done this year either. or all of last year. I feel like I am stuck in limbo while Waiting constantly for more appointments and tests to help me out with this new significant problem. And then things just get worse and I wonder what the hell, man? What did I do in a past life to deserve this? But we get through, somehow, and all our goals go to the wayside for a bit - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 6, 2019 Yea that’s exactly how I feel, too, and how I somehow get through it. My goals keep shifting as well. Perhaps the amount of ‘free’ time we have to think about them, plus the limits of illness, play a role. But that’s allowed I suppose. Sending good thoughts. - Kathy Jun 5, 2019 You elegantly put into words the feelings that arise when our health keeps throwing curve balls at us. Sending gentle hugs and love your way across the miles. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 6, 2019 Thanks Kathy. Curve balls is the right word, alright. Super, mind bending, amazing curve balls that I could maybe appreciate if I were out of the picture ;p Sending hugs right back! - [ Anne ](https://www.raisiebay.com) Jun 3, 2019 I’m so sorry to hear of your suffering Sheryl, you put it into words so perfectly, it reads like poetry. I know it must feel like time is passing you by but keep making the most of the good parts, no matter how small xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 4, 2019 Hi Anne, Thank you, pain helps to add some colour to words, I think :p Yes I know and thanks for the reminder…I definitely need to make the most out of the good parts, even the bad parts. Sending love x - Jenny Jun 2, 2019 Sheryl, Ah, I’m so sorry that you’re struggling. This time of year is hard. All times of year are hard. I empathise so much. Just earlier I was thinking “it’s already summer and I’ve done nothing, and planned nothing.” I agree with the others though, you write so beautifully about your struggles and it’s good to hear such honesty. We tell ourselves – “just roll with the punches” but when the punches are endless it’s completely exhausting. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 4, 2019 Hi Jenny, That’s interesting that you had the exact same thought, just in a different phrasing. I guess that’s part of what these prompts aim to bring out 😉 Thank you…I think I write my best work when in pain, ha! And definitely, rolling with the punches is so easy to say, but harder to do. To keep watching out for that hit, and constantly rolling out of the way can really wear you down. A short break in the corner would be nice! 😉 - [ Niamh ](https://chronicbodylove.wordpress.com) Jun 2, 2019 Hi Sheryl, I am so sorry to read of your sorrow this month. You have endured so much this last while. I can’t agree with Jordyn more, your words are poetry. They pull images through me that are so relatable. I am quite fortunate this month but am being fooled by mania that moving forward is going to be easy based on a day of clear headedness. I agree whole heartedly with you when you speak of feeling like a zombie, sometimes I feel like white noise itself and nothing more just numb and unable to fix attention of anything. I do hope you receive more respite soon. Sending love and gratitude that despite these months you still get back up and provide this space for all our fellow spoonies. Thank you and take care. xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 4, 2019 Hi Niamh, Thanks for the lovely thoughts and kind words. I actually don’t think I’ve endured all that much compared to so many others, and feel a bit guilty about that. Ha. And no worries…this space is beneficial to me, just as much as it is to others, I hope! Mania doesn’t sound fun one bit to me. I get slightly manic and have anxiety and am on meds for them, but nothing to the extremes. I hope you manage to hang in there and move on with balance! Sending lots of well wishes and love. - Jordyn C. Jun 2, 2019 Wow Sheryl, your words are pure poetry! You write in a way that makes me feel everything that you are. That is amazing. On another note, I am sorry that you haven’t been doing well recently. I feel like this part of the year is hard for many chronic illness warriors, for one reason or another. I love your mantra, “Get up and carry on.” It is so true. I hope this month fairs better for you! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 2, 2019 Hi Jordyn, thanks for the kind words 🙂 I haven’t felt inspired to write of late, and this is the latest piece that I’m actually happy with, despite it stemming from pain and frustration. I wish you well too, and sending hugs! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness URL: https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/ Last updated: 2026-07-15T11:56:35.000Z *\*Disclaimer: Whilst this post is sponsored by Age UK Mobility, all opinions expressed in this review are my own. This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness, Disability & Mobility Boards: ![Tips and Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/tips-tools-help-regain-independence-with-disability-chronic-illness.jpg) ## The Challenges of Everyday Living with Disability or Chronic Illness Living with a disability or chronic illness, [**whether visible or invisible**](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/), can transform the simplest everyday task into a challenging beast. One that requires tremendous effort to overcome, and saps you of energy when the day has barely begun. Chronic illnesses and physical disabilities mean that they will probably last for a lifetime as well. As such, it might not be so bad of an idea to implement some home and lifestyle changes that could possibly improve your quality of life. Whilst some of these addons may be big ones, many are also small tweaks with beneficial tradeoffs. Read on for some tips on how to regain independence despite living with a chronic illness or disability. ## 1\. Medications and Therapies I recently asked the Twitterverse in the form of a poll, [“As a disabled or chronically ill person, what do you think gives you the most independence?”](https://twitter.com/AChVoice/status/1127072695009431553), which received nearly 500 votes. > As a [#disabled](https://twitter.com/hashtag/disabled?src=hash&ref%5Fsrc=twsrc%5Etfw) or [#chronicallyill](https://twitter.com/hashtag/chronicallyill?src=hash&ref%5Fsrc=twsrc%5Etfw) person, what do you think gives you the most [#independence](https://twitter.com/hashtag/independence?src=hash&ref%5Fsrc=twsrc%5Etfw)? Do share your knowledge with me and others! :) [#disability](https://twitter.com/hashtag/disability?src=hash&ref%5Fsrc=twsrc%5Etfw) [#chronicillness](https://twitter.com/hashtag/chronicillness?src=hash&ref%5Fsrc=twsrc%5Etfw) > > — A Chronic Voice (@AChVoice) [May 11, 2019](https://twitter.com/AChVoice/status/1127072695009431553?ref%5Fsrc=twsrc%5Etfw) Twitter Poll on What Helps with Being Independent with a Chronic Illness or Disability The option that received the most number of votes was ‘pain meds’. For me, they are a big help when I have no choice but to get a task done, when I’m travelling, or when I want to attend an event. Sure, the pain will probably return with a vengeance after, but sometimes it’s also worth it to be able to [**do ‘normal’ things and participate in life**](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/). It’s nice when you can create some beautiful memories that will last a lifetime. Many people also tweeted at me to clarify, as medications that enable one to function cover a wider range than that. One woman said that HRT (hormone replacement therapy) helps her migraines, and sometimes it is anti-anxiety meds or steroids you need instead. Not quite pain relievers, but with all the same goal of regaining a manner of composure and independence. Long term medications such as biologics or immunosuppressants that work can be big game changers as well. Read Related Posts: - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [What’s it Like to be on a High Dose of Steroids? (And the First Question You Will Definitely Ask)](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) ## 2\. Mobility Aids Next in the poll were mobility aids; wheelchairs, walking canes, rollators, scooters and crutches all fall under this wide umbrella. The all-terrain mobility scooter someone owned sounded like a practical unicorn! Smart crutches also sounded interesting, and many of these aids are customisable to fit your individual needs. I’ve also read many blogs written by disabled people, and if there’s one thing I can conclude from them, it is this: their mobility aid is their biggest tool to freedom and independence, and many regretted not using them earlier. There is a stigma attached to mobility aids in society, where you're expected to be completely paralysed to ‘qualify’ the use of one. The younger you are, the closer the scrutiny. But as one blogger wrote (I’m so sorry I forgot who!), we need to pave the way for acceptance within society. In order to normalise it, we need to get out there and be seen collectively. Read Related Posts: - [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) - [A Page From a Sick Girl’s Diary: Sometimes I Wish I was an Old Person](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girls-diary-wish-old-person/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) ## 3\. Exercise (All Movement Counts!) Exercise is a pretty generic term; it could mean crossfit, marathon running, [**yoga in its various styles**](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/) or stretching. Many people with chronic pain find it hard to even get out of bed, much less exercise, but some [**gentle movement when you’re able**](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/) to can help to improve your flexibility and stamina. If you suffer from a form of arthritis, strength building exercises can be helpful in providing support for your joints over time. Many of these exercises can be done in a pool as well, which helps to reduce friction and pain, and take some weight off your joints. Christa Fairbrother is an instructor who focuses on aqua yoga for arthritis, and whose blog I've followed for some time. Here she shares some [simple hand exercises you can do to keep those joints mobile](https://www.christafairbrother.com/yoga-exercises-for-arthritic-hands/). You can also [**be mindful**](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) and sneak in a light stretch every now and then whether you're lying in bed or sitting in your chair, to prevent stiffness that might feed into a vicious cycle of yet more pain problems. Never force yourself to do more than your body can handle however; the aftermath isn’t worth it. But a light push here and there can have cumulative effects, thus increasing your physical capabilities over time. ## 4\. Digital Tools & Electronic Devices Digital tools for both in and outdoor use are plentiful in modern society. There’s always something new and upcoming on the market. Kickstarter is a good place to see what I mean. Just open their website and chances are, you'll find some imaginative health-related gadget on their home page. The Amazon Alexa and Google Home are some well-known equipment that you might have heard of. People have [**transformed their homes into accessible hubs**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-home-resources-learned-other-blogs/), and use them as a control station for lights, locks and more. They can also be set up to be a robotic personal assistant, reminding you of important events every day. I also chanced upon [development of this smart glove for the blind](https://www.forbes.com/sites/rebeccabanovic/2019/04/20/anora-the-smart-glove-helping-the-blind/#774a0415173e) whilst going through my newsfeed. It provides the user with detailed feedback about their surroundings, and looks like a pretty amazing tool to me. But I’d also love to hear some feedback about it from those who are actually blind or visually impaired themselves! Read Related Posts: - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [MediSearch Review: A Medical AI Search Engine for Patients, Clinicians & Medical Writers](https://achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/) - [How to Prepare for a Medical Appointment in a Post-Pandemic World (4 Top Tips From a Doctor)](https://achronicvoice.com/prepare-medical-appointment/) ## 5\. Foods, Diets & Supplements Yes, food can be used as a tool to aid in your fight against chronic disease as well, and a powerful one at that! Whilst it doesn’t cure, many people have reported feeling much better after a change in their diets. This is especially critical if you suffer from some form of [**digestive, gut or bowel related disease**](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/). Chronic pain from autoimmune disorders stem from inflammation, thus it'd make sense that a [low and anti-inflammatory diet](https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/foods-that-fight-inflammation) would be beneficial. This includes but isn't limited to: nuts such as walnuts and almonds, fatty fish such as salmon and tuna, fruits such as berries and oranges, and vegetables. [Curcumin is a component of the spice turmeric](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/10408398.2015.1077195), and is a powerful anti-inflammatory and antioxidant. It also has the most clinical evidence to date, on its effects on inflammatory disorders such as Rheumatoid Arthritis. Supplements often need to be paired with another compound to boost its bioavailability (the amount that's actually absorbed and used by your body). Piperine, a compound found in black pepper, [boosts the effect of curcumin by up to 2,000%](https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/turmeric-and-black-pepper). A word of caution: [curcumin is a blood thinner](https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/turmeric-benefits). As with all supplements, do verify its [**interactions with your current medications**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-enoxaparin-doacs-nsaids/#WarfarinInteractions), protocols or illnesses before consuming. Other popular diets espoused by others with chronic illnesses are the AIP, Paleo, FODMAP, ketogenic, and more. Some patients have found relief through strict adherence to these diets, and they might be worth trying, if you're someone who is able to stick to the plan! 😉 Do your research and work closely with your health practitioner, as you don’t want to become malnourished. Read Related Posts: - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) - [Dysphagia & Swallowing Problems (and How Oral Vitamin Sprays Can be of Help to You)](https://achronicvoice.com/dysphagia-oral-vitamin-sprays/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) ## 6\. Home Modifications & Ownership The place where most of us with chronic illnesses or physical disabilities feel the most comfortable in is at home. This is where we remove our inhibitions, and can take a breather both mentally and physically. It is the one place where you can adapt your environment to fit your own needs. From the bedroom to the kitchen and bathroom, there are many things both big and small that you can do to make life a little easier for your individual needs at home. Marina Carlos is a disabled blogger, who created a thread on Twitter showing how she has adapted each room in her own home to fit her needs. I found it insightful as she highlights issues that I wouldn't have otherwise paid attention to, such as the height and size of mirrors. She shows us how she lays out her bedroom and bathroom, to make transfers to and from her wheelchair more convenient. She also talks about how she organises her wardrobe and kitchen for easy access. [A stairlift can help you to stay independent](https://www.ageukmobility.co.uk/product-category/stairlifts) as well, by allowing you to access different levels of your home with ease any time, any day. There are many different kinds available: straight, curved, outdoor, previously owned and even those that are able to carry wheelchairs. They can be custom made to fit the shape of your staircase and individual needs as well. Home ownership can give you a bigger sense of independence as a disabled person, yet is no easy feat either. It is important to know the pros and cons, and also [your rights as a home buyer](https://learn.totalmortgage.com/buying-a-home-while-disabled-disability-home-loan-grants). There are a number of programmes and resources out there to help with the purchase of your own home, or even [repairs and modifications](https://agesafeamerica.com/getting-help-to-pay-for-home-repairs-or-modifications/). Read Related Posts: - [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/) - [After Surgery Care at Home: Hygiene Resources](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/) - [Wound Care & What to Wear After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) ## 7\. Alternative & Complementary Therapies As chronic illness patients we get few answers from medical textbooks. Our hope dwindles as treatment after treatment option gets struck off the list. As such, many of us are desperate and/or willing to try alternate therapies in search for some hope. Acupuncture and physical therapy are some well established ones, and work pretty well for some people who suffer from specific problems such as migraines, menstrual cramps, back and neck aches. [**I’ve tried floatation therapy**](https://achronicvoice.com/floatation-therapy-chronic-pain/), which I didn’t find helpful for my physical pains, but did give me the best sleep I had had in a few years. TCM (Traditional Chinese Medicine) is also popular here in Asia, but is [**something I avoid due to my blood clotting disorder**](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/). I also tried an Ayurvedic regime for a while, which is adapted based on your body type. I actually found it somewhat effective for my general wellness and energy levels, though you do need to put quite a bit of work into it every day! Apart from these, there is a wide plethora of alternative and complementary therapies out there. They might be worth checking out, but only after you [**do proper research from credible sources**](https://achronicvoice.com/what-you-reshare-can-change-life/), and get the green light from your doctor. Give it a few tries if you think it might be for you, before writing it off. Who knows, it might complement your existing medical treatments, and build your body, confidence and independence back up over time. Read Related Posts: - [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don’t Reflect)](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Advice That Could, Quite Literally, Kill](https://achronicvoice.com/advice-quite-literally-kill/) ## In Conclusion & Some Disability Bloggers I Recommend These are just a few tools and resources that enable those with disability or chronic illness to regain independence, and go about their day as best as they can. An interesting mention from the poll was 'voice' as a [**tool for self-advocacy**](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/); speaking up for what you and others need can and does make a big difference! Free travel passes and disability parking signs also received a few mentions, and have enabled disabled people to get out and about with a bit more ease. Attitude, mindset and [**support from friends and family**](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) may be intangible, but play a big role in helping a person to move forward, bit by bit. Whilst I live with numerous chronic illnesses, ~~I do not have a physical disability that requires the use of a mobility aid~~. As such, I thought I'd take this opportunity to share a few blogs that I read and find insightful. I hope that they provide you with more real life experiences and resources, especially if you're newly diagnosed. (Update: Well, **[I suffered a spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/)**, and have now officially joined the disabled club.) - [Wheel Escapades](https://wheelescapades.com/): Gemma is a lover of tea and cakes from the UK, who blogs about accessibility and life with a wheelchair. - [Top Lady Talks](https://topladytalks.com/): Lynley was left suddenly disabled after a pelvic fracture, and shares about her 'new life'. - [Gin & Lemonade](https://ginlemonade.com/): Lorna's blog covers a diversity of topics, from parenting with disability, writing, travelling and more. - [Sarah Lynn](https://myrockindisabledlife.org/): Sarah lives with Spina Bifida, a disorder of the spine, and her posts revolve around and discuss societal perceptions and stigmas about disability. Over to you — what other tools do you use that I missed out on? Or what on this list did you find particularly interesting, and would like to try? I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) - [Would You Rather: Have an Invisible Illness or a Visible Disability?](https://achronicvoice.com/rather-have-invisible-illness-or-disability/) - [What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - [Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 – 6](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) Pin to Your Home & Living, Disability & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Tips and Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_independence-disability-7.png) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Lucy ](https://lbhealthandlifestyle.com/) Mar 4, 2022 These are such great tips Sheryl. I love how many different options you provide, covering so many different areas so there’s something to benefit everyone. I’ve never heard of Quell or Oska Pulse, I’ll have to check them out and give them a go. Losing my independence was one of the hardest things when I first struggled with chronic illness. Making these changes you suggested to regain some form of normality makes such a huge difference. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 4, 2022 Hi Lucy, you’re most welcome! I really need to update this list, too. I recently ruptured both my patellar tendons as you know so the loss of independence has been really annoying. Fingers crossed! - [ April ](https://www.livablebydesign.online) Feb 22, 2022 This is a great post, thank you! I completely agree with the mobility aids, especially. It was a giant step to start using a cane (and later, a wheelchair for longer distances) at age 33, but it made all the difference. I continue to rely on them during relapses, and always have to swallow my pride the first time I pull them back out and venture into public. I also appreciated your round-up of fellow bloggers and will be sure to check them out! Thank you for a great post! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 22, 2022 Hi April, thank you for your comment. Yes I recently ruptured both my patellar tendons so am disabled for a while. Going to be a long road ahead so this post will help me too, hopefully! - [ Alison Hayes ](https://www.thrivingwhiledisabled.com) Jan 26, 2021 Sheryl, Thank you for this pretty thorough guide of options. Like you, I’m dealing with chronic stuff but don’t use any mobility aides, so it’s nice to have some resources specifically on that perspective. I’m all about self-advocacy and developing those skills, and definitely have been helped most by medication, mindset, and exercise. I’m a huge fan of MBSR as a tool as well. - Katie Clark Jan 26, 2021 Great info here as a starting point for anyone looking to improve their independence and quality of life while managing a disability and/or chronic illness. I appreciate that you share other bloggers that you respect, so I know they give quality info. - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Jan 23, 2021 Such a comprehensive guide! So many good options and many that I use myself. - [ Marcin ](https://velobike.co.uk/) Dec 4, 2020 Thank you very much Sheryl for providing this kind of guide, as many people need to be more aware of this topic. As Mobility Scooter dealer from the UK, that you can find on [https://velobike.co.uk/ ](https://velobike.co.uk/)we have gladly reshared this post of yours on our own social media’s because you have done a great job. If you have ever need for sources on mobility scooters feel free to get in touch with us, we will gladly provide you with good research material. Cheers! - Sarah May 29, 2019 Thank you so much Sheryl for including me in your list of incredible blogs! It was such an honor to be included in this! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 29, 2019 Keep up the fab perspectives and writing, Sarah! - Lainie Ishbia May 28, 2019 What an honor to be included in one or your fabulous Blogs!! Thank you so much ! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 28, 2019 You’re welcome, Lainie. Keep up the fab niche resources! - [ Lucy ](https://www.everydayjoyandme.com) May 27, 2019 Since getting a shower seat it’s made showering much easier and is something I’d highly recommend. I’m hoping to try acupuncture and love essential oils. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 27, 2019 Glad to hear there are small things that are helping you to cope, and all the best with the other therapies! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write URL: https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/ Last updated: 2025-10-26T15:41:34.000Z *This article was first published on* [*writersam.co.uk*](https://writersam.co.uk/the-power-and-purpose-of-blogging-and-why-you) *as a guest post.* ## What's the Purpose of Blogging About Chronic Illness? Blogging about chronic illnesses can be hard work. For some, the exposure of their privacy or the intimacy of topics can be a deterrent. Others struggle with expressing their thoughts, or posting content on a regular basis. Vicious, unconstructive trolls who don’t even bother reading are an energy drain. Usually, it is a combination of all of these factors. So why do we even bother? To begin with, people with chronic illnesses are the minority of the population. Every single voice counts, if we want to make a difference. Many of us struggle with feelings of anxiety and guilt. We feel like a burden to our family and society, and that we don’t deserve help because we are ‘defective’. As a result, many of us remain silent for the entirety of our lives, and nobody even knows. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Purpose of Writing & Chronic Illness Blogger Boards: ![The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write (Is it worth the effort?)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_purpose-blogging-writing-7.png) ## The Power of a Single Voice. Your Voice. When one person with chronic illness speaks up, they become an advocate for many others who are like them. He or she isn’t the only one suffering with this condition out there. One voice is equivalent to hundreds, thousands, even millions. Imagine that. [**Your voice has power and purpose**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-bloggers-top-posts-2020/). Use it for good. ## A Journey of Self-Refinement Apart from that, I find that writing on a consistent basis has actually made me [**a better version of myself**](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/). How so? It forces me to face my fears, by digging them out from the recesses of my mind. Proper digestion and dissemination takes time and effort. It organises the chaos of my thoughts, which usually results in an organic plan or solution. To write is to [**be present and mindful**](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/). As I type, I am focussed on this very word in the moment. It forces me to slow down, to think, and reflect upon myself. The interesting thing is, I may think that I’m writing about different topics each time, but they usually lead back to the same path. Polishing various aspects of myself as a person results in the [**total wellness of my entire being**](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/). When I put my words to digital paper, I am making a subconscious commitment. “This is what I think. This is who I want to blossom into.” Over time, my thoughts evolve and become more refined. What we think about shapes us in the end. ## The Role of Writing About Chronic Illness Within Society I also find that often people don’t mean to be rude or insensitive, but are [**just ignorant**](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/). Whilst ignorance is never an excuse, often they aren’t even aware that they’re hurting someone else. They say things like “I’m so OCD” in a humble brag. Meanwhile, some people with real OCD are considering suicide from the mental torment. It is our duty to speak up for ourselves, because we know what it feels like best. Your doctor is the trained theorist and expert in providing treatment, and should be your trusted advisor. But you are the experienced navigator and survivor of actual events, as well as the leader of your own life. Chronic illnesses are complex and no two cases are the same. We need to [**listen to as many perspectives as possible**](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/), because each one adds a little colour to the overall picture of understanding. [**Provoke thought on our mortality**](https://achronicvoice.com/what-neverending-pain-reveals/). Highlight hidden flaws in society. Restore faith in our humanity. Stand by to catch those who might fall next. Share real life experiences. [**Provide credible resources**](https://achronicvoice.com/what-you-reshare-can-change-life/). Encourage empathy. Reduce ignorance. There is so much power in writing and reading. So why not write? ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. 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Read Related Posts: - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) Pin to Your Purpose of Blogging & Advocacy Boards: ![The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write (Is it worth the effort?)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_purpose-blogging-writing-12.png) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Katie Clark Apr 22, 2021 I have been blogging since my first pain psychologist suggested it. All my life, writing has been a way for me to better digest my thinking. My blog has certainly done that for me, and I agree, it helps me to reach for my best self because I thoroughly research issues I’m dealing with. I don’t think I’d be able to write about the topics without it; I want to bring light and understanding to myself and others from what I write. I have struggled with writing from time to time-self imposed timelines and expectations can really way to me. However, when I get a message from a reader that my post has connected with her and helped her in some way, I know that I’m not just writing to the wind. That’s what I want to do with my posts. Yes, I’m writing about my own experiences, but each of us is so different with the path we’re on. I feel like the more journeys that are out there, we can glean something that connects that helps us along the way or even brings in a companion for a bit. You, Sheryl, are one such chronic illness blogger that has done that for me. This post encourages me to keep writing. Thank you. - Amanda May 25, 2019 This is such a wonderful exploration and explanation of the power of blogging! I’ve been reading and writing blogs since 2006, and in that time the world of blogging has changed a lot! But the thing that consistently renews my love of it is the fact that no matter how much changes it continues to provide a space for us to express things we might not feel able to elsewhere. It empowers us (both as readers and writers) and connects us with others, which is huge when you’re dealing with the isolation chronic illness can bring with it. So many times over the years I have felt like my voice was worthless, and I’ve considered giving up blogging on several occasions, but I’m so glad I didn’t. Thanks for the reminder that by writing our blogs we help both ourselves and others. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 26, 2019 Hi Amanda, thanks for taking the time to read this and share your thoughts! Yes sometimes I forget it myself too, so this post is also a reminder to myself 😉 Keep writing! - [ Rachel, The Invisible Hypothyroidism ](https://theinvisiblehypothyroidism.com) May 21, 2019 I’ve had all of these thoughts (and some wrestles) when it comes to writing about my experience of chronic illness too. However, it has been such a therapeutic tool and connected me to so many others (like yourself) who live with health conditions that affect them from day to day, and that alone is so invaluable. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Cheryl. Another great post. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 23, 2019 Thanks Rachel, well said on your part, too! I am happy to have met you and many others in the community, which is a whole other world from the one we live in where many cannot comprehend. It definitely is therapeutic for me (when I can think straight enough! ;)). Sending hugs! - [ Lucy ](https://www.everydayjoyandme.com) May 21, 2019 I’ve just started blogging and this nails it on the head. I have ME/CFS and wanted to contribute a positive voice to the community too. Excellent blog post - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 23, 2019 Great to have you with us in the blogging community, Lucy. Every voice counts 🙂 I’ve also followed you over on social media 🙂 - Lior May 20, 2019 Thanks Sheryl for the article – I’ve just come across your blog while thinking about whether I should start a chronic illness blog. What’s stopping me is that I doubt that healthy people would read it – I’m not sure what angle to take in order to be enticing to them. I already have a private instagram where I write short posts on how ME/CFS affects my life. There’s a strong spoonie community on instagram which I very much appreciate, but it feels like a bubble – very valuable to those of us in it, but not affecting the healthy people. My posts do reach select people from my old professional life and friends, but I’m not sure if they’d click through to a blog. I want to identify a purpose for my blog and I’d really like to help break down ableism, but I can’t see how that would work if I can’t get healthy people reading. Do you have any pointers? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 20, 2019 Hi Lior, thanks for sharing your thoughts with me 🙂 It’s interesting because my intentions and concerns when I first set up my blog are exactly the same as yours. What I can say so far is that sharing both my own and other people’s articles on my various social medias has achieved this aim to a certain degree. Friends and acquaintances approach me with more awareness, and/or the subjects or language they use I think has changed a little over time organically. Of course there will be those who will just ‘mute’ you, there is always a choice no matter what. I’ve also been approached not only by people with chronic illnesses, but those whom I thought were healthy but are actually struggling, asking for resources or suggestions. I think there’s only one way to find out if blogging is your thing and/or if it will meet your goals through this medium 🙂 Good luck! - Charlotte May 16, 2019 I have just come back to blogging after an extended break and its helping me no end! Firstly as someone with chronic illness i love having a platform to meet other people going through the same. Secondly im a student nurse and I learn a lot about other people and what they need from me as a nurse. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 16, 2019 Hi Charlotte, thanks for dropping by, and am glad that you chose to blog again, and that it’s proving beneficial so far! The connections amongst others with chronic illnesses too is definitely a ‘highlight’. And am happy to hear that you’re a student nurse. We definitely need more who are ‘in between’. I think they make some of the best advocates out there 🙂 x - [ Despite Pain ](https://www.despitepain.com) May 16, 2019 We, as patients, are the people who know exactly what it is like to live with a health condition. As well as being able to explain it to other people, our writing gives other sufferers the feeling of not being alone. Our voices definitely help others. - [ My Small Surrenders ](https://mysmallsurrenders.wordpress.com/) May 15, 2019 Sheryl, Thanks so much for posting this. I struggle with my writing ALL THE TIME for any combination of the reasons you listed in this article. When I started sharing my stories a few years ago, I was driven by the need to feel connected to other people who might be living through similar experiences, as much as I was to educate anyone about what it’s like to live with chronic pain (of any kind). There are times now when I am so overwhelmed by the pain or daily activity that writing is the last thing in which I can invest my energy. Thanks for the reminder that writing, even a short piece, can still meet those goals. I hope today is a good day for you. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 16, 2019 Hello, thanks for dropping by and taking the time to read 🙂 Yes it can be useful, if not for others, for yourself as well, especially if you enjoy it! Sending love x **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### May 2019: Investigating Chronic Pain Levels Post-Dengue Fever URL: https://achronicvoice.com/may-2019-investigating-chronic-pain-post-dengue-fever/ Last updated: 2025-11-12T14:59:20.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Getting My Act Back Together (Hopefully) in May April was a bit of a whirlwind month for me. There was the post-dengue fever recovery, my birthday, and work to catch up on. There was also the loss of some pets - [our first, only and dearest dog, Snuffles](https://www.instagram.com/p/BwIvQQoHaGU/), who died from a cardiac arrest. We will miss her, but I'm also glad that she's no longer in pain from her cancer, horrible itching and arthritic joints. We also had to give away [one of our parrotlets](https://www.instagram.com/p/BsY5wTvjsQm/) because he was starting to become of age, and began to pursue the female in the other parrotlet couple. Whilst she enjoyed the attention, I’m pretty sure we’d end up with one dead male parrotlet, if we were to keep them both. Cute little things they are though, with their angry, high pitched ‘eep eep’ squabbles. So here I am, regathering my tools and stepping into May, almost half a year gone by. I’m retracing and catching up on tasks - yet again. Re-assessing my energy levels - as always. And hunting down (‘eep eep’ style) my targets and plans - all over again. Drop........./.../.......roll (sloth style), and limp. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Read Related Posts: - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) - [July’s Supply & Demand: Learning to Maximise Wellbeing in the Midst of Stress](https://achronicvoice.com/july-maximise-wellbeing-stress/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [When Your Stress & Fatigue Thresholds Suck (Also on Cute Cockatiels, Education via Zoom & Art Films for Rent)](https://achronicvoice.com/stress-fatigue-thresholds-suck/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_may-writing-prompts-1-2-1-1-1-1-1-1.png) ## Investigating the Improvement in Chronic Pain Levels, Post-Dengue So, something interesting seems to have happened to my body with the dengue. They took me off my main [immunosuppressive drug, cyclosporin](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK482450/) (Tapia et al., 2023), whilst I was in hospital. It’s been over a month now, and we haven’t re-introduced it back into my system yet, because guess what? I don't seem to be in as much pain as usual. I'd imagine coming off one of my biggest drugs would cause intense pain by now, but it hasn't. I discussed this with my doctor, and he did say that there was a very very slight possibility that the dengue virus had messed with my immune system, and somehow reset it in the process. Something to do with [T-Cells and neutrophils](https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/imr.13162) (Bert et al., 2023). The likelihood of this happening is so rare, he can count the number of cases on his fingers, and he’s been in the medical profession for decades. To put it briefly, neutrophils are akin to the scouts of our immune system, and T-Cells are the berserkers or cavalry. Without neutrophils, T-Cells do not know where exactly to strike. Communication is key. The dengue virus had probably interrupted their communication (which was faulty to begin with anyway). Anyway, the acid test for this is whether I can cut down [**my steroid medications**](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) or not. That's the other main drug I rely on to keep my immune system well-behaved, and also my biggest physical pain remover (not reliever) [**when the big flares hit**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/). That's my mission in May. My fingers *and* toes are all crossed and tangled up. Read Related Posts: - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [It’s Just One of Those Nights (Poetry on Steroids)](https://achronicvoice.com/one-of-those-nights-poetry-steroids/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) ## Trying to Boost My Health in a Myriad of Ways Autoimmune disorders are complex with many factors involved, both external and internal, so it can be extremely difficult to tell what's doing or affecting what. Even as I type this sentence, the variations in my daily life serve to complicate my investigations, even though I've kept it as constant as I possibly can. I first started using the Quell device for pain relief upon discharge from the hospital. This makes me unsure if that might also be helping with the pain, and exactly how much. It was a novelty to actually have the occasional pain-free day, which was a strange but welcome 'feeling'! (I put 'feeling' in quotation marks because - whilst pain is a sensation, is 'pain-free' one, too? I think so...feeling 'nothing' feels awesome!) I've tried adding a few other supplements and protocols to help give my body a healing boost as well, such as an ultra binder detoxification supplement, a new probiotic with different strains, and lymphatic drainage massages with essential oils. ### Being Careful Not to Overstimulate My Already Overstimulated Immune System Stimulation of the immune system is something that many healthy people classify as a good thing to do. For those of us with autoimmune disorders however, this could mean pain and destruction, as our immune systems are already hyped up on a regular day. Unfortunately, I think the new probiotic was too full on for my body, so I've been limping around with cramps and joint aches the entire week. Other factors that have messed with my ongoing investigations in between, some of which I cannot control: - Sudden downpours and thunderstorms after weeks of \*intense\* sun. - I spent 9 hours out in one day, attending two events that only happen once a year/rarely. - My INR (blood clotting time) went haywire for unknown reasons. The clues have fallen apart and are lying around in a mess, and I will need to piece them back together again, perhaps using a different approach. Slow and steady is really the name of the game. These investigations will probably be a lifelong one, to be honest. I also understand that in order to conclude if something works or not, sometimes I may need to backtrack and so, there *will* be pain involved. The irony. Read Related Posts: - [4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/) - [Why I Need to See More Than 10 Different Types of Doctors Regularly](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) - [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) ## Figuring Out How to Set Healthy Boundaries On a different note, the ‘original’ Sheryl is a rather impulsive and impatient character. With the improvement in my pain levels, I admit that I’ve been a little careless with my energy and behaviours. I guess I’m allowed to seize the day and celebrate a little, but I also need more discipline 😉 [Eustress](https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/blog/be-the-sun-not-the-salt/202408/eustress-the-good-stress) after all, is still stress. And stress as we all know by now, can channel back into our system as a [**pain trigger**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/). I don’t want to restart the [**vicious cycle of pain**](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/) all over again (if it hasn't already), especially over things that aren’t worth it. I’d like to guard my energy better. Or rather, to nurture it lovingly. I’ve been using the extra energy I’ve had of late to do a bit more cooking and cleaning. (Though I've had to bribe myself with dessert or Game of Thrones reruns.) I've also been meeting people, laughing and smiling more. [**Social interactions are vital for our mental well-being**](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/), yet is the first thing that goes out the window when you're in pain. I do have difficulties when it comes to [**setting boundaries**](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/) in certain scenarios, or dealing with certain toxic personalities, however. Thus, I will need to sit down to explore these personal issues. I tend to either panic or compromise too much each time it happens. So I figured that I could plan some of my decisions in advance. A frame of reference so to speak, of where I draw the line, when to say no, etc, to protect my own energy and well-being. Read Related Posts: - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Chronic Stress, the Silent Assassin](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/) - [We Want to Have Fun Just Like You, But Here’s What it Takes with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/) - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I've Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) ## Reviving an Old Project, "Sick Lessons" Finally, I’m not sure if you remember this project of mine, [sicklessons.com](https://www.sicklessons.com/). I abandoned it for a while because I wasn’t able to devote equal attention to both blogs at the same time, and chose to focus on A Chronic Voice. But I’m thinking I don’t have to keep that project perfect. It’s allowed to be shoddier than A Chronic Voice, a bit more raw that is. There are still so many stories and life lessons waiting to be heard. Whilst this blog aims to do that too, they run on slightly different tangents. "A Chronic Voice" focuses on articulating lifelong illnesses through various voices and perspectives. I do this through publishing personal and guest posts on my blog, and through lots of sharing via my social media channels. It’s a lot of work! "Sick Lessons" on the other hand, focuses more on the lessons that people have learned, mainly from being chronically ill. Things that they have been forced to come to terms with, or [**gems of wisdom dug out from the dirt**](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/). Lessons that can be applied to our own lives, and reflections to ponder over. Well, that's it for my May. Thank you for catching up with me 🙂 To continue, you can read the diary entry for the [**previous month**](https://achronicvoice.com/tiring-first-quarter-muggle-sick-april-2019/) or the [**following month**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-pill-caress-relief/)! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [To Live with Chronic Illness is to Learn to Live with Maybes](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-maybes/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) - [A Quarterly Reflection: 12 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned](https://achronicvoice.com/quarterly-reflection-life-lessons-learned/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_may-writing-prompts-12-2-1-1-1-1-1.png) ### References: - Bert, S., Nadkarni, S., & Perretti, M. (2023). Neutrophil-T cell crosstalk and the control of the host inflammatory response. *Immunological Reviews, 314*(1), 36–49\. https://doi.org/10.1111/imr.13162 - Tapia, C., Nessel, T. A., & Zito, P. M. (2023). Cyclosporine. In *StatPearls*. StatPearls Publishing. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK482450/ ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Cassie Creley ](https://cassiecreley.com) May 25, 2019 Sheryl, thank you for hosting these link ups! I’ve been enjoying reading them and have been wanting to participate for awhile. I was excited that all these prompts lined up so well with what I’ve been experiencing and musing over this month. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 25, 2019 Most welcome, Cassie! I too really look forward to seeing how others use the prompts every month, always fun to read! Thanks for joining us this month! x - [ Lisa Ehrman ](https://chronicallycontent.com) May 23, 2019 Thanks for the prompts this month! It’s really interesting to hear how the sickness maybe re-set your immune system. I certainly hope that your lower pain will continue. That’s what everyone would love 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 23, 2019 Hi Lisa! Yes fascinating, isn’t it? We’re mutant after all, quite literally 🙂 I think it did help to reset it for a while but now I’m developing other problems so…welcome to a new ride 🙂 - Selina May 18, 2019 Condolences on saying goodbye to your special friend. I recently lost my little lhasa apso dog. It’s comforting to know they are not suffering but they are definitely missed! It’s wonderful that you’ve maybe had a good side effect from the dengue fever. I hope it continues giving you a much needed break! My system reacts horribly to probiotics. I suppose they work well for some and not well for others! Wish you the best in your continual investigations and treatment. Thank you for providing the writing prompts and link up party! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 18, 2019 Hi Selina, thanks for dropping by! Yea, it’s always sad when a pet you’re close to passes on 🙁 I think the good side effects are fading haha. Perhaps it just gave a temporary boost. May has struck me down with more normal people sick stuff again. Oh well. Sounds interesting. My nutritional therapist mentioned that people with SIBO (small intestinal bacterial overgrowth) get reactions from probiotics. Maybe something worth looking into! x - [ Rhiann ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com) May 14, 2019 Hey Sheryl, Thank you for the fantastic prompts this month, it’s been enjoyable finding ways to incorporate them in a post. And such positive prompts too so am hoping that it reflects a more positive frame of mind. I am sosrry to hear about the passing of your dog, I know from experience that it’s a painful and horrible time. I do hope you find a loving home for your parrotlet. And best wishes for your reviving of Sick Lessons, it’s a great and hopeful blog for anyone living with chronic illness and, or chronic pain. All the best Rhiann x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 16, 2019 Hi Rhiann, thank you! I hadn’t noticed they leaned towards the more positive side, ha. Perhaps it’s a matter of perspective, too 😉 I too always enjoy reading your entries every month as they are rather different from mine, which makes it all the more interesting. Sending hugs! - Kathy May 8, 2019 I didn’t notice any loss of quality in this month’s post. I learned in April, that I really needed to pace myself. I wanted to help with a fund raiser, but didn’t think that I could due to huge amounts of fatigue, brain fog, and pain. However, I spoke with the organization president about my misgivings. (It’s a very small, local group.) Together we worked out tasks that I could do sitting down. Two weeks before the event, we started on these tasks so we didn’t have them all to do the week before. I packed my lunch and took the time to stop working and eat it. To my surprise I was able to do way more than I thought I could, over that two week period. Following the fundraiser, I was completely beat for the next week. It showed me that I could do more than I thought if I paced myself. I’m so glad that you’re feeling better than last month. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 10, 2019 Hi Kathy, Thanks for the encouragement! 🙂 And I’m also happy that you managed to do more than you thought you could for a good cause! Pacing is definitely important but I’m known to suck at it 😉 Try I must! Sending love! xx - Jennifer May 7, 2019 Hi Sheryl, I’ve been away from blogging due to uni for the last month. This is one of the first posts I’ve read in a while and it was a lovely read! Once I finished uni I immediatly checked out what pompts you had chosen for this month as it is a perfect way for me to get back into writing, so I am really grateful that you do them! It was really interesting to hear how you have been getting on. I relate a lot to boundry setting as I am sure a lot of chonically ill people do. Sometimes it is difficult to know which events are going to be “worth” the consequences. I might steal your idea of planning ahead so that I have a frame of reference. Hope you are as well as possible! 🙂 xxx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 7, 2019 Hi Jennifer, Good to hear from you! How are things? I hope uni life has been kind enough to you! I am honoured that you came to check out the prompts as one of the first things! To be honest I felt that this was one of my more disorganised and messy posts, heh. My thoughts are all over the place, but I suppose it doesn’t matter. Next month will come, and we can re-piece our lives over and over again (in a good way!) 🙂 Sending much love! - Jennifer May 8, 2019 Things are good thanks! Looking forward to getting back into blogging over the summer. I didn’t think it was messy at all, I thought it was great! But yes we can re-piece our lives again (which we have gotten quite good at due to chronic illness!) 🙂 Sending love back! - [ Alison Hayes ](https://www.thrivingwhiledisabled.com) May 5, 2019 Sheryl, thanks so much for sharing! Love the image of getting moving ‘sloth style’! So very, painfully, true! My condolences on the loss of your dog, and I hope that the parrotlet is able to find a good home(you just can’t fight nature sometimes). The autoimmune process you’re talking about is fascinating! It’s amazing how complicated our bodies are, and the miraculous way they work(and the frustratingly small things that can go wrong, leading to huge consequences for us!) I’m with you on the boundary setting concerns as well – my post this month is about my adventure in boundary maintenance. Your ‘sick lessons’ idea is great, and I’m glad you’re working on reviving it! \*hugs\* best wishes to you – hope you can keep smiling and have more to smile about! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 6, 2019 Hi Alison, thanks for reading! Haha yes, drop roll and run spoonie style 😉 Snuffles was a lovely dog (aren’t they all?!), and I’ll have some great memories with her always 🙂 Yes I miss the little parrotlet but it’s better this way. And yes our immune systems are crazy (quite literally for us!). Don’t you wish they were more normal and boring sometimes :p Yes I’ll take it slow and revive it calmly, for once, heh. Sending hugs to you too! xxx - Naomi Brook May 4, 2019 Lovely blog. Glad to hear you’re smiling more 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 4, 2019 Thank you! 🙂 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable URL: https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/ Last updated: 2025-10-26T15:55:20.000Z ## A Reflections 3 Years Later on Why I Write I wrote this article when I first started this blog. Reading it 3 years later simply reminds me of why I need to continue writing. If [**you're a chronic illness blogger**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-bloggers-top-posts-2020/) yourself, I hope that this inspires you to carry on. If you've been meaning to share your story, I hope that this gives you that small nudge you might have needed 🙂 Read on to find out why I write and continue to do so! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Why I Write & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_why-write-6.png) ## The Truth is... Blogging About Chronic Illness Can be Vulnerable & Embarrassing Revealing so much about my private life makes me very uncomfortable. I often hesitate for weeks before hitting the publish button. What business is it of a stranger to have a piece of my life? Why would anyone care about my problems, when they have their own? I also fear projecting the wrong image; I am not looking for attention, pity or aid (well more aid from the government would be nice 😜). To provide insight into life with chronic illnesses is to [**put all your vulnerabilities on public display**](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/). It goes beyond your closest circle of friends and family, to grant strangers access to your personal space. It means showing them the [**fragments of a broken body**](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/), and the ugly wounds that will never heal. It means revealing just how non-independent you are, and how much help you actually need to 'adult'. This might become a consideration or 'liability' for a wide scope of activities, from selection as an employee to travel buddy. Writing forces you to come face to face with the subject at hand, scouring it in search for its essence. You milk it for all it's worth and package it. You offer it to all passersby for free, in hope that they will take a sip towards understanding. Blogging about ill health is to set a public alarm clock that reminds everyone of your infirmities, and in turn, theirs. I do notice that people around me are paying more attention to how I am feeling, and I am grateful for that. Yet at the same time it makes me sad that I'm viewed in a light that I wish could be brighter. Read Related Posts: - [A Quarterly Reflection: 12 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned](https://achronicvoice.com/quarterly-reflection-life-lessons-learned/) - [Why 'Easy' Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [A Page From a Sick Girl's Diary: Sometimes I Wish I was an Old Person](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girls-diary-wish-old-person/) - [Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) ## Why I Write — If Not Us, Then Who? Despite all these (maybe silly) concerns, I feel that it is an important job. It is something only I and others like me can do, and there aren't that many of us out there. If not us, then who? Many good people suffer too; disease does not pick and choose, and can strike on a whim. I write to [**provoke thought on our humanity**](https://achronicvoice.com/what-neverending-pain-reveals/), and with that, the need we have for each other in this world. Who else can you turn to, should you be dealt with such a card in life? I hope to contribute to this community that feels like family, and strengthen the safety net to catch those who might fall next. We understand pain and just how bad it can be. ## Writing to Raise Awareness About Invisible Illness We need to write to raise awareness on invisible illnesses. There are too many 'normal' looking people who are suffering from circumstances beyond their control to ignore. We need to write in a bid to forge a more harmonious society. We need to serve as living reminders that we are all the same deep inside. We need to write to encourage thought and empathy for everyone around us, and to learn to [make less ignorant judgments](https://sicklessons.com/liz-sirrell-acceptance-empathy/). I need to write because I can. Because others who are like me may not be able to, and are unable to express their pain. I write so that loved ones who want to understand can begin to understand. I write in hope for a better world to live in, for the healthy and ill alike. Utopia might be impossible to achieve as a constant or final state, but [**even a glimpse of it can change the world**](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/). And guess what? This power is inherent in you and me. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! 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Read Related Posts: - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) - [Why Humility is the Best Tool for Advocacy](https://achronicvoice.com/humility-advocacy/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) For More Insight: - [Wisdom in the Age of Information and the Importance of Storytelling in Making Sense of the World: An Animated Essay](https://www.themarginalian.org/2014/09/09/wisdom-in-the-age-of-information/) - [One Book Which Changed My Life Forever](https://medium.com/personal-growth/one-book-which-changed-my-life-forever-2c6957273a4#.mgmn4hba8) - [Rules for Making Fun of Mental Illness](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/crazy-life/201802/rules-making-fun-mental-illness) Pin to Your Why I Write & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_why-write-1.png) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Laurie Harmon ](https://seekingserenityandharmony.com) May 1, 2019 Hello, I nominated you for the Sunshine Blogger Award - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 1, 2019 Thanks so much Laurie, I am honoured! 😀 - Jordyn Apr 30, 2019 Sheryl, this is so so beautiful. As you said, however painful it may be to write about our experiences, who else will? I love what you are doing for the chronic illness, mental health, and disability community. I have nominated you for the Disability Blogger’s Award, because your voice needs to be heard! Keep on writing 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 1, 2019 Thanks so much, Jordyn, what an honour it is! 😀 And yes, we need to work together as a ‘sick’ community, encourage each other, and help each other out to make maximum impact 🙂 - [ Rachel, The Invisible Hypothyroidism ](https://theinvisiblehypothyroidism.com) Apr 29, 2019 I find it SO therapeutic to write and put all my health experiences in to words. It helps to process it and understand what it happening/what has happened to me much more clearly. It helps me move forward in my health journey. And probably most importantly – it raises awareness of them (hypothyroidism, Hashimotos, Anxiety etc.) and also helps others experiencing similar know that they’re not alone. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 1, 2019 Hi Rachel, yes, it does kill many birds with one stone, doesn’t it! (Hopefully we don’t kill the birds literally though ;p) - [ Cassie Creley ](https://cassiecreley.com) Apr 28, 2019 I’m glad I’m not the only one to feel uncomfortable sharing so much online. Chronic illness often means being vulnerable, and I’m glad blogging gives me more control over what and how I share, and lets me use it for a purpose. Thanks for articulating so well why it’s important to keep sharing. I needed this reminder that it’s worth it! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 28, 2019 Hi Cassie, yes it’s a huge vulnerability, I must say. Even your real life enemies know where to hit for maximum pain ha! But still an important job to get the knowledge out there, I think 🙂 Don’t stop writing, if that’s what you want to do! x - [ Lydia B ](https://beinglydia.com) Feb 11, 2017 Wow, this is such a powerful post. It spoke to a lot of the same feelings inside me. I find writing can be very exhausting and since I am already totally fatigued why add something else? Because of everything you said. Thank you. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 11, 2017 You’re most welcome, Lydia. Many chronic illness bloggers seem to feel the same way too; it’s such a private, vulnerable thing to do, and it does indeed take up a lot of mental effort. There is no rush, take your time, just don’t stop. Otherwise I and many others will miss out on important knowledge that only you can provide through your experiences 🙂 Take care! - Kerry @ Chronically Zen Jan 5, 2017 Great post! I completely understand. I’m often struggling over how much negative to balance with positive. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 5, 2017 Thank you. I am glad that many of you understand where this is coming from. It can indeed be a really difficult balancing act on a fine line! - [ Kat ](https://writerkatgn.wordpress.com) Jan 4, 2017 Wow! This is so beautifully written! As a writer and aspiring novelist, I so, so agree. If we do not lift our voices about our experiences, especially our most challenging and honest ones…who will? Thank you for writing so courageously and so eloquently. I just found your blog today, but am looking forward to following it! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 4, 2017 Hi Kat, Thank you very much for the encouragement. I agree we need to keep writing and telling our stories. Ironically, it isn’t so much to talk about ourselves, but to lay ourselves bare for educational and solidarity purposes. Almost like a human experiment haha! Keep up with your words! - [ Chronic Mom ](https://chronicmom.com) Jan 4, 2017 I love this, you expressed exactly how I feel as a chronic illness blogger. Sharing is hard for me and I rarely do it in real life, but with a blog I put it all out there on the internet. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 4, 2017 Yes, it is the same for me. I don’t like pouring my heart out to strangers because it is so self-absorbed, whiny, and benefits no one. But over the years, I have come to realise that there’s a difference in sharing for the greater good, and sharing for selfish reasons. And the big difference is actually speaking less and listening more, before responding only in essence. (Which I’m still trying to learn, really). Wishing you all the best! - Valerie Jan 2, 2017 I struggle so much with sharing too. Sometimes I worry that I share too much. Lovely post, I can identify with this so much. Kudos to you for sharing your heart. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 3, 2017 Hi Valerie, Thank you! It seems like there are quite a number of us who feel this way too (to my surprise). Keep up the good work writing and sharing over at Lilac and Lyme…there is no one else who can do this job 😉 Have a great day! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-home-resources-learned-other-blogs/ Last updated: 2026-01-08T14:31:29.000Z *\*Disclaimer: Whilst this post on useful home resources is kindly sponsored by Handicare Stairlifts, all opinions expressed in it are my own. This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ## The Extra Challenges of Living with Chronic Illness or Disability As we know by now, living with a visible or invisible disability imposes many challenges in daily life. Simple movements are not that simple and add up quickly. Many of us keep an ‘energy cheque book’, often filled with cancellations, notations and bright yellow highlights. Our energy allowance is meted out on a daily basis, and it gets old fast when you need to watch it with hawk-like attentiveness. I started my blog 3 years ago, and one of the surprising benefits is the amount of [**knowledge I’ve learned from other bloggers**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-bloggers-top-posts-2020/). Whilst I’m no medical whiz nor do I fully grasp the personal pains of every person, I have learned more about other rare diseases and how these individuals cope. This includes accessible home resources, novel treatments, medications and fresh perspectives. I have decided to compile a list of these useful home resources, tools and hacks for everyday living here. After all, our houses are where many of us spend the most time in. Read Related Posts: - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [We Want to Have Fun Just Like You, But Here’s What it Takes with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/) Pin to Your Useful Home Resources, Disability & Accessibility Boards: ![Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_home-resources-3.png) ## 1\. Useful Home Resources for the Kitchen: Rocking Knife, Food Dehydrator & Grabber Blythe of “Sustainable Spoonie” wrote one of my favourite posts on energy saving gadgets for the kitchen (unfortunately, it seems like she no longer blogs). Equipments such as pressure cookers and food processors might be well known tools, but I never knew about [food dehydrators](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07PY5M579?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=56c371ca0447dff4021cbcbc78bc2ea3&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), which you can use to easily make your own healthy snacks for the bad days (or even good ones!). Then there's the [rocking knife](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BS44R7SG?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=18d41614267e9fd1c99029168c98d790&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), where you use both hands to cut food up with a rocking motion. This sounds like it'd take much of the pressure off the hands and wrists. The [grabber/reacher is a simple tool that you could treat as an extended arm](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CSPTWZYH?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=0618a61cec48ff18548830c8c252ac22&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). This reduces the need to bend down to pick things up, which can be agony for those with back or joint aches. The great thing about the grabber is that it can be used anywhere in your home, too! ## 2\. Useful Home Resources for the Bathroom Bathroom: Shower Chair, Grab Bars & Toilet Seat Raiser For some reason, I had never thought about purchasing a [shower chair](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01MSISJKG?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=d177cf1409a213032c728379da9c05de&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) before. There’s a reason they have them installed in hospitals. Sitting down can save you a lot of energy, especially for those who find showering more fatiguing than refreshing. [Grab bars](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004TSUA6S?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=cf1dfeb1d4205b95d369b49343c30c19&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) are a fantastic fixture not only for those who suffer from chronic pain or dizziness, but also for the elderly, and anyone with a fall risk. Whilst I don’t need these, I know how useful it is to have something solid to hold onto for support. I used to ask my partner to transform his arms into my personal handrails whenever I was aching horribly, so I could pull myself up with more ease. Do you do this, too? 😉 Update: Well, [**I suffered a spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture and became disabled**](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) and bed bound for an entire year. So I can attest now that shower chairs and grab rails are a must have for bathroom accessibility. My shower chair is affixed to the wall and can be folded up to save space. In addition, a [toilet seat raiser](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DK3J7F9L?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=934e7805c939965552982f63a9bba414&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) is also incredibly useful. Read Related Posts: - [Knee Surgery Post-Operative Care: Introduction to the Series](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-post-operative-care-introduction/) - [After Surgery Care at Home: Hygiene Resources](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/) - [Wound Care & What to Wear After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery/) - [4 Cool Truths My Partner Said (Unwittingly)](https://achronicvoice.com/cool-truths/) - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) ## 3\. Useful Digital Home Resources: Voice Assistants, Alexa & Google Home Working on a computer can be limiting and difficult for those with disabilities or chronic pain. Here’s where voice assistants can be amazing accessibility tools. You can dictate your emails, browse the internet, and even set the position of your mouse on-screen. The main benefit of using your voice instead of your mouse or keyboard, is that it lifts ergonomical restrictions. You are now free to sit in the most comfortable position for you, and move your body more. This is a great tool for healthy people too, with [sitting and sedentariness as big factors of disease](https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/move-more-every-day-to-combat-a-sedentary-lifestyle-2018052413913) in modern society. This isn't limited to your desktop either. You can use voice assistants on your phones and other digital devices to make a phone call, send text or WhatsApp messages, and set reminders (for e.g., “Remind me to call Doctor X at 10a.m. tomorrow”). I’ve also read many impressive things about how people use the Alexa to improve their lives at home. There is no limit to imagination, but here are [15 great ways to set it up for home use](https://countingmyspoons.com/2018/01/alexa-makes-life-easier/), compiled on Julie’s blog, "Counting My Spoons". From turning the lights on and off, to an intercom, to entertainment! It sure does sound like a handy little ‘companion’ and personal home assistant. Or if you prefer using Google Home instead, [this guide by "My Hope Whispers"](https://www.myhopewhispers.com/2018/11/a-spoonies-guide-to-google-home.html) is a good place to start. I like how she uses it to unlock the door for her kids when they come home from school. And how it 'remembers' things such as where she's placed her keys, or last took her medications. Read Related Posts: - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [MediSearch Review: A Medical AI Search Engine for Patients, Clinicians & Medical Writers](https://achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/) - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/) - [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) ## 4\. Useful Home Resources for the Bedroom: Bed Tray, Kindle & More A [bed tray](https://www.bestproducts.com/home/decor/g816/bed-trays-lap-desks/) sounds like something useful for when you're bedbound. There is a variety of them out there, so hopefully you can find one to suit your needs. If you need to work from bed, there are trays that come with holders for your laptop, ipad and other devices. If storage is a concern, there are foldable ones. There are also those with closed compartments so you can keep your 'desk' organised, and even ones with lefties in mind! I included the Kindle on this list as many of those who live with chronic pain also suffer from [painsomnia](https://themighty.com/2018/01/painsomnia-memes/). A [Kindle with backlighting](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C8RR4WN3?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=7ac3af9e76c88b2f20343939f8fa8ee7&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) is great for nights when you’re up alone, and don't want to disturb your sleeping partner. A good book can be a wonderful distraction and soothing companion, as they immerse you in a different world. Kindles are lightweight so they don't hurt your wrists, and sits in your palm quite nicely. In fact, I recently downloaded a bulky book I already owned to read on my Kindle instead. This increased the pleasure and speed of reading, as it took away the constant need to reposition myself or the book in order to read it properly. Read Related Posts: - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You're All Invited, Too!)](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [Book Review: The Narwhal Who Suffers from Chronic Migraines](https://achronicvoice.com/book-review-narwhal-migraines/) ## 5\. Bibs & Bobs, and the Importance of Organisation I know I sound like a grandma, but I love going to Daiso (the dollar store here - what’s it called in your country?). Everything is priced at $2, and the quality of items are actually pretty good! Space is limited, so [**I and many people in Singapore**](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) live in small apartments. Here’s a list of household items that I’ve bought, love and still use: a wall clamp for brooms (so it’s elevated off the ground), lots of fluffy face towels (yes I like to feel the softness after a shower), many different sized boxes for various storage purposes (bird seeds, medical documents, condiments), pretty ceramic bowls to throw random items and jewellery into, etc. ### Organising Your Daily Medications If you take lots of medications every day, then you'd know the value of organisation. I use these stackable holders I bought from Daiso to separate my morning and night medications. This helps to reduce the mental load of differentiation each time I need to refill my pill boxes, which is a lifelong task. Ikea also sells these large compartment storage boxes that are great for keeping my wardrobe and yet more medications organised. Apart from the comfort a nice and neat home brings, keeping things in their proper places is vital for those who suffer from brain fog. In cases of an emergency, caregivers or acquaintances can locate and retrieve important items for you quickly as well. ## 6\. Useful Home Resources for Multi-Storied Homes: Baskets & a Stairlift Whilst I’ve never lived in a house with multiple stories, I’ve learned some interesting hacks from others nonetheless! For example, [Natalie of “The Spoonie Mummy” keeps a basket by the staircase at home](https://thespooniemummy.com/2018/05/02/handy-hacks-for-people-with-arthritis/), which she dumps items into that she wants taken up or down. This saves her from the need to make several trips, which can escalate the pain from her [**Rheumatoid Arthritis**](https://achronicvoice.com/rheumatoid-arthritis-fight-life/). Another option, especially if climbing staircases are a huge daily problem for you or a family member, is to [consider getting a stairlift fitted](https://handicare-stairlifts.co.uk/). The rails on which these chairs operate on come either straight or curved, and can be customised to fit your home. This is great if you're looking for a long-term solution. There are many companies that offer financing options or refurbished stairlifts as well. ## In Conclusion to Useful Home Resources for the Chronically Ill & Disabled These are just a few things or tools you can use to improve the quality of your life at home. Many of these useful home resources fascinated me when I first discovered them for myself. I hope that something on this list is of use to you. I'd also love to hear what your personal favourite home hacks and tools are as well in the comments section below! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [3 Types of Chronic Pain that Sound Bearable, but are Not](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-bearable-not/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Invisible in Florence: Life with Chronic Illness in Italy](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-florence-chronic-illness-italy/) - [Invisible in Singapore: What's It Like to Live Here with Chronic Illnesses?](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/) - ["It's in My Blood": Shannon Giroux - Making a Better Home to Live in, Despite Multiple Sclerosis](https://achronicvoice.com/shannon-giroux-better-home-multiple-sclerosis/) Pin to Your Useful Home Resources, Disability & Accessibility Boards: ![Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_home-resources-1.png) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Oct 20, 2020 This is such a helpful list Sheryl! I don’t have too many adaptations around the house, as I am fortunate not to need them. But saying that, I sort-of adapt my personal care. So pills are organised for the week so brain fog doesn’t mean I take something twice, water by my side all the time and many other things. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Me too! I have like all my emergency meds by my bedside for when I’m in too much pain to even walk across the room to go pick them up haha. I do need to organise stuff even better! - [ Shruti ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Feb 27, 2020 This is such a good list… and I love my shower stool! The best thing to have when getting exhausted during a shower and makes washing hair so much easier. What’s strange is, many years back, I got hand rails done in the shower for any elderly family that may visit and I think I end up using it the most! And I’m so grateful I got it done. Saved me so much possible trouble. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 27, 2020 Hi Shruti, thanks for checking this post out too! 😀 I don’t have so much trouble in the shower and love the alone time in there, but sometimes my fingers are quite arthritic so I have problems opening bottles or scrubbing my scalp haha. A shower stool and rails are definitely useful when you’re struggling in the shower! - Kirsten Apr 23, 2019 I love this list! Thanks for sharing. I totally agree with you, since I joined the chronic illness community I learned so much more about the medical world and accessibility. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 23, 2019 Thanks Kirsten, for taking the time to read and comment! Yes there’s so much other helpful, well researched information out there, and also personal experiences from actual people who live with all sorts of illnesses. What’s surprising too is that the knowledge from one thing can sometimes be applied to something totally different as well, so that’s pretty neat! - Jaime A. Heidel Apr 23, 2019 This is a really helpful list! Thank you for curating it. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 23, 2019 Thanks Jaime, I’m really happy to know that it’s helpful! - [ Mandy FArmer ](https://www.mandyandmichele.com/letters-to-friends) Apr 23, 2019 This is a great list. I will share on my FB page. My shower bars have been a lifesaver for me. Love the stair basket idea too! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 23, 2019 Thanks for the feedback and for sharing, Mandy! Yes I’ve heard great stuff about the shower bars and chair. The stair basket is definitely a neat idea too. I think I might even ‘compartmentalise’ my apartment that way 😉 - [ Despite Pain ](https://www.despitepain.com) Apr 21, 2019 I love my shower seat. I honestly don’t know how I managed without one. Sometimes the hot water from a shower really helps, but standing didn’t. So to be able to just sit there, with the hot water helping is wonderful. I’d recommend it to anyone with pain and mobility problems. Pound shops here in the UK. Amazing places, aren’t they? Can never have too many containers!! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 21, 2019 Yes exactly, sounds like a good idea for some pain relief, comfort, keeping clean and independent in the shower! Agreed, can never have too many containers ;D Georgina Apr 21, 2019 Hi! This is a very informative post and filled with so many useful tips. I’ll definitely be trying some out! I’ve been following your blog for a while and love it, so I’ve nominated you for the Disability Blogger Award that I created! You can find my post on Chronillicles. Happy blogging! Georgina from Chronillicles ? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 21, 2019 Hi Georgina, thanks for the nomination, I will take a look! 🙂 And am happy to hear that you found this post useful. Let me know if you do use any of them in your home and how it goes! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### 4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why URL: https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/ Last updated: 2026-03-30T15:56:05.000Z ## A Quick Update 2 Years from When I First Wrote This Post I wrote this post 2 years ago and to be honest, I don't really face any of these issues anymore, but only because I've been [**speaking up for myself**](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) with more confidence as time goes by. People around me are also more aware since, well...I bombard their feeds with such topics every day 😉 In any case, I think it is still a useful post, especially for young adults or the newly diagnosed. These scenarios are very real, and communication with others around you can be tricky and awkward. There are[**many things that healthy people do**](https://achronicvoice.com/superpowers-average-human/) because, well, they’re pretty normal things to do. Yet, such actions might be detrimental to a person with a [compromised or weakened immune system](https://www.verywell.com/definition-of-immunocompromised-1958841). This includes people with chronic or terminal illnesses, the young, pregnant and old. Not all the following scenarios are wrong per sé, and I am not trying to create hostility, nor ask for preferential treatment. But we do come into contact with all sorts of people every day, who influence us just as we impact them. Often, we are not even aware when this happens. With so many problems existing in our world already, it wouldn't hurt to be a little more understanding. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Invisible Illness & Disability Awareness Boards: ![4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-how-to-be-polite-why.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [COVID-19 Vaccine Experiences from People with Chronic Conditions](https://achronicvoice.com/covid-19-vaccine-experiences/) - [A Page From a Sick Girl's Diary: Sometimes I Wish I was an Old Person](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girls-diary-wish-old-person/) ## 1\. Sick Colleagues or Germ Carriers in Public Places **Scenario:** Colleagues who come into work coughing and sneezing, or carrying some other spreadable virus. Perhaps they don't have much choice because there’s lots of work to get done, or an important meeting to attend. **Unfiltered First Thought:** “Oh shit. Why are people so inconsiderate? He should be wearing a mask! That’s how viruses spread, what with all the windows closed and [human germ transport systems everywhere](https://www.theguardian.com/money/work-blog/2014/sep/29/open-plan-office-health-productivity). Would it be rude if I gave him a mask? Or maybe I should wear one to protect myself? But wait...why do I have to do that when I’m not the one at fault?!” **What I Proceed to Do:** Hold my breath every time I hear him cough or whenever he talks to me, as some sort of imagined psychological defense. Hope that the germs disperse as soon as possible. **Why the Drama?:** Well, I’ve contracted tuberculosis once, although everyone around me was disease free. The doctor said that I probably caught it from a passerby. It was a miserable experience that lasted for a year; [**I was in the hospital every other day**](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) for reactions to the medications. Even if it's just the common cold, people like me take twice as much time to recover. Moreover, the [flu is also extra dangerous for pregnant women](http://www.livescience.com/57091-guide-to-flu-season-for-pregnant-women.html). **What You Can Do:** Be a good citizen and wear a mask for the sake of everyone else around you. Even a healthy person can catch it. A virus does go viral after all. Or better yet, rest or work from home; allow your body to heal! **What I Can Try Doing in Future:** Just go up, give a polite tap on his shoulder, and practise my diplomatic skills. I am sure many others around us would be grateful, if he prioritised his health first too. Doing so [actually maximises efficiency](https://peopledynamics.co/workplace-health-importance/), if work is your aim. Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [What’s It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [November 2018: Meeting and Collaborating with Chronically Ill People in Real Life](https://achronicvoice.com/meeting-collaborating-chronically-ill-real-life-november-2018/) - [Invisible Cities Linkup: Pros & Cons of Living with Chronic Illness in Your City](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-cities-linkup/) ## 2\. Sharing Food With People Who are Sick **Scenario:** Girlfriends meet up and order a ton of deliciousness to share. One of them is down with a cold, or something similar. Forks stab into cakes and spoons stir the dishes, mixing everyone’s saliva up. **Unfiltered First Thought:** “Smile. Take part in the conversation. It shouuuuld be fine! Try to scoop from the other corner. Remember where their spoons have been. Avoid the area. Act normal, don’t be a drama queen!” **Why the Drama?:** With all the immunosuppressive drugs we are on, our immune system is in sleep mode. We lack the extra layers of defense that you have, so even mild viruses have easy access into our bodies. **What You Can Do:** Initiate dividing the food up into portions. I don’t even mind having less for ease of mind. **What I Can Try Doing in Future:** Just speak up, plain and simple! These are friends I am with, so they should understand. ## 3\. Giving Unsolicited Advice **Scenario:** An acquaintance asks how your health has been of late (after all these years, you [**can’t hide your status as ‘the sick girl’**](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/)). So you tell them the truth - you’ve not been well. They proceed to give you advice on the best time of day to exercise, suggestions for a complete diet makeover, or some other perfect solution. **Unfiltered First Thought:** “Sigh. Here we go again. Does she think I’m lazy? Or maybe stupid? Hmm that's hard to decide on. Does she think that I've just been swallowing all these pills with awful side effects, like a good little doctor's girl? Without doing any research, or trying to find other solutions? Does she even know [**what's at stake if I stop these medications**](https://achronicvoice.com/advice-quite-literally-kill/)?" **Why the Drama?:** No drama here. I usually just smile and nod a la Miss Universe style, chalking it up as their way of showing concern. Even though I might disappear from their mind the moment we disconnect, it is still a good thought after all. Well unless they keep insisting on you doing things their way, then I put them on the block list of my life. I don't need the extra stress. **What You Can Do:** Trust that your loved one or friend has already tried what they could to the best of their ability. Don’t give any advice, especially if you don’t live with them. Do you really know what they go through or do every day? What you see is only a small, controlled fraction of their life. Exercise more? Perhaps they can actually outrun you despite their pains. Go vegan? Do you even know the science behind [**vitamin K and blood clotting disorders**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/)? Of course, if we ask for your opinion, then feel free to give it. We’re all ears. **What I Can Try Doing in Future:** Not much, it’s a human thing. As long as we exist, this is something that will pop up not just in medicine, but in all spheres of knowledge. I’ll just continue doing what I do - listen to see if there’s anything I can learn from them, otherwise, zone out. 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Sidenote: this one mostly comes from strangers. **Unfiltered First Thoughts:** “Fuck you, you ignorant cow.” (Sorry, cows.) Give an icy smile, detach from the idiot, and ignore him for the rest of the duration. **What You Can Do:** Assume that whatever someone else does or doesn’t participate in is for good reason, especially if you don’t know them well. Do not utter your judgments out loud for now, you might just be making a fool of yourself. Here’s another insider tip - there's no need to feel awkward or utter polite sympathies around us at all! The best thing you can do is to trust that we can adult. **What I Can Try Doing in Future:** Actually, I have been speaking up a little more of late, and think that this should continue. Sometimes, insensitive people need a taste of their own medicine too ;) And by doing so, I am also speaking up for others who are like me. ## In Conclusion to Everyday Scenarios We're Unsure How to be Polite About as Chronically Ill or Disabled People These are just a few common scenarios, but you can probably spot the recurring theme. You never know how much effort someone else is putting into an activity that may be mindless to you, so just be kind. Everyone has their own personal disabilities, so to speak. Your greatest fear might be ridiculous in the eyes of everyone else. Just be mindful that [**the definition of ‘normal’ can vary**](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/); that simple awareness can make a big difference in the world we live in. Also, my potential responses are just that - possibilities. [**Things can change**](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/), and it doesn't have to be how you react to situations either. Put your own spin on things, do it your way, and according to your needs. The main aim should be constructive education (well most of the time at least!). Often people mean no harm, yet ignorance in itself can be harmful. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. 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Yep, that about sums it up. I do think speaking up is good, but in the way you suggest so that you can hopefully bring awareness and understanding. If they continue with the stupidity, well then, I say go with your first instinct;) Great scenarios and helpful guidance for how to deal. The medical advice…..ugg. But, most of the time it’s out of caring and trying to understand by using their own experience. However, when it’s just to make money off of the chronically ill, that’s when I think being a bit abrupt is good. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Hi Katie…agreed with the unwanted medical advice and snake oil saes…they can go f\*ck off. Haha well yea, those are real thoughts that cross my mind, it can be so frustrating! - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Oct 2, 2020 “sorry cows” – that made me laugh! This is good for someone like me who has really struggles to maintain a filter of what’s going on in my head and what I eventually say!! But seriously some people don’t think before they speak and some do not understand the consequences of them exposing their coughs and colds to others, which now, in these Covid-19 times I hope people have developed a better understanding of. - [ Alison ](https://thrivingwhiledisabled.com) Oct 2, 2020 Yes! I get some genuine ‘you look great/young/happy’ comments, which I can say thanks for. I avoid sick people whenever possible and get annoyed when folks come to events while sick. It’s so important to speak up for your own health/safety/peace of mind. We all deserve to feel comfortable, and you have laid out several socially challenging situations well! - [ Melinda Sandor ](https://www.lookingforthelight.blog) Oct 2, 2020 I hear you and boy am I glad that my husband understands and shields me from so of this stupid language. I did stand up for myself strong this year about the holidays. His father is 92 and he hasn’t seen him in a couple of years and is planning to go home for the holidays. Last night I expressed my deep concern about the family not understanding the importance of no one coming to see his dad for at least a week before David gets there. It’s bad enough that he has to travel there but I don’t need all these people dropping in and out just because it’s not “nice” to tell people not to come over. Not only do we live in a COVID world but my immune disorders make being around germs much harder. It really pisses me off to hear you don’t look sick! What, do I have to be dying to look sick? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 12, 2020 Hi Melinda, it can be really tough for society to understand, can’t it? We do have a long way to go in terms of awareness, but I hope we’re slowly getting there. I hope you take good care of yourself and put yourself first x - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Oct 1, 2020 Yes, all of this! My tolerance level is so low. I’m glad I can work from home and don’t have to deal with inconsiderate sickies. I’m also not big on sharing food, even though it’s part of Asian culture. I’m the oddball that always asks for a separate bill and separate dishes for two reasons: a) protect my health and b) avoid the dishes I really can’t eat. At first people were a bit offended because this is Asia and it’s part of the culture, but it’s amazing how quickly people change when they realize how much it affects your health. The last shared meal I committed to was for a birthday party a few years ago. When I got there, they already had several bottles of wine and platters of meat on the table. I excused myself from the bill right then and there since I don’t drink and I’m not paying for someone else and I’m not a big meat eater. Frankly I was surprised that people expected all of us to chip in on that! (No one had an issue with it except me. LOL) - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Apr 22, 2019 These made me chuckle but they’re so spot on, and I love how you’ve covered each one by breaking them down. Number 3 is a kicker sometimes, really hard to know how to handle it when they do mean well (which isn’t always the case, but often is). I love that you “usually just smile and nod a la Miss Universe style”! xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 23, 2019 Thanks Caz! Heh these happened a lot when I first started working and meeting people as a young adult. We all learn and grow as time goes by I guess 😉 Yes! Good time to practice patience and exercise your smile muscles 😉 - Brittany W Feb 3, 2017 These are great tips for awkward situations! It can be so hard to speak up but our health is worth it. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 3, 2017 Hope it’s helpful to some of us out there 🙂 Yes it totally is! Hope you have a fab day! 🙂 - Evelina Jan 29, 2017 Actually, another strat would be to say “Why thank you!” and look really appreciative when they say you don’t look sick (kind of like how people say “thanks for the compliment” when someone doesn’t sell them booze without an ID). After all, you spend hours some days trying to look normal, so isn’t it kind of good you did just then to this prick? It might hurt saying that, but it’s a polite kick-your-ass comeback, because seeing your honest thankfulness and taking their nasty remark as a compliment, they’ll probably get knocked off their pedestal, because that is NOT the kind of reaction they were going for. People tend to stutter and walk away wide eyed after a reply like that. That’s the way bullies work. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 29, 2017 Haha…I think some of them actually meant to pay a ‘real compliment’, and wouldn’t get it 😉 Just a note – I would say that some of these, especially the last one, would have been more applicable in my youth. But good to list them all regardless 🙂 Cheers! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### When Autoimmune Disorder Ravages Your Face (and How That Led to My Body Dysmorphic Disorder) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/body-dysmorphic-disorder/ Last updated: 2026-06-05T16:29:03.000Z ## An Introduction to Julia Métraux & This Guest Post on Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) Julia is passionate about writing and contributes to various online publications. She aims to raise awareness on rare diseases and mental health, and we're honoured to have her share her story about body dysmorphic disorder with us here today. The stress of living with either autoimmune disease, permanent injury, or mental illness is one that must be carefully watched, as they can easily feed into each other and create yet more problems. Let's begin with Julia's story about Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD), starting out in Mexico..... *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the author's experiences as a patient. *I/We are not doctors, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Body Dysmorphic Disorder, Mental Illness & Autoimmune Disease Boards: ![When Autoimmune Disorder Ravages Your Face (And How That Led To My Body Dysmorphic Disorder). Guest post by Julia Métraux, on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/autoimmune-disorder-ravages-face-led-to-body-dysmorphic-disorder-julia-metraux-v1-cover-face.jpg) ## A Strange Awakening The day after my twentieth birthday, I woke up covered in hives and my face was swollen beyond recognition. I had experienced a myriad of mysterious symptoms after being in a car accident when I was eighteen and a half – including severe pain, anaphylaxis, and nausea. I knew I was sick, but despite [**nearly weekly doctor’s appointments**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) for over a year, no one was able to pinpoint what was wrong. It soon became clear that I had to go to the hospital. Soon after I arrived, I was moved from the Emergency Room to an inpatient area, and doctors tried their best to stabilize my symptoms. For some reason, having to be on oxygen, as my levels were in the 70s, didn’t freak me out, as it would a few years prior. Instead, what really scared me was seeing a photo of my face. ## The Distress of Not Recognising Your Own Face Due to Autoimmune Disease I happened to be in Mexico when this attack started. I’m covered by American insurance which requires 'evidence' to cover out of country medical emergencies. Even though I would later receive documentation that would confirm this from the hospital, my dad thought it would be a good idea to take photos of my appearance. I agreed to this, not realizing that I looked drastically different – in my opinion, worse – than I did when I had looked in a mirror before going to the hospital. When my dad showed me the photo on his phone, I audibly shrieked. I didn’t recognize the person in the photo. My eyes looked like they were swollen shut, despite being open, and the rest of my face was extremely puffy. ![Julia whilst sick in hospital.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/julia-hospital.jpg) Julia whilst sick in hospital. ![Julia looking good now!](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/julia-now.jpg) Julia looking better now. ## Developing a New Mental Disorder Post-Diagnosis A little over a week later, I was discharged and given a diagnosis, pending the confirmation of a biopsy, of [systemic urticarial vasculitis](https://www.vasculitisfoundation.org/education/forms/urticarial-vasculitis/). That period when I was in the hospital was the longest of my life. At times, I wasn’t sure that I would make it – but I pulled through. What I didn’t know at the time was that I had developed body dysmorphic disorder as well. [Body dysmorphic disorder](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/body-dysmorphic-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20353938), according to the Mayo Clinic, is a “mental disorder in which you can't stop thinking about one or more perceived defects or flaws in your appearance.” My journey with figuring out which autoimmune disease was making me sick – and being told that my symptoms were ‘in my head’ – had already taken a toll on my mental health. Shortly before I was hospitalized in Mexico, I had just left my university due to symptoms impacting my ability to study, which led to me feeling severely anxious and depressed. I thought this was characteristic of anyone who developed a chronic illness. Unfortunately, this led to me to ignore certain behaviors that I expressed after this severe flare up that were warning signs that I had developed body dysmorphic disorder. After getting home, I found myself staring photos of myself and in the mirror much more often. I didn’t do so out of any superficial reason – I was genuinely convinced that if I caught any physical signs of my vasculitis, I could [**prevent myself from having a severe flare**](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/). But, I would convince myself that I was on the verge of an attack and needed to go to the hospital immediately because of ‘physical signs’ of my vasculitis. In reality, I probably just had some pimples, not hives. Read Related Posts: - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [Is Seeking Help for Your Mental Health Worth It?](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) ## A Vicious Cycle and Getting Help While this behavior was unhealthy for me mentally, the stress took a toll on my body. Like with many chronic illnesses, anxiety aggravates vasculitis. I became somewhat obsessed with my appearance. My anxiety, which has always been terrible, had gotten even worse. I genuinely did have flare ups from my vasculitis, but this could have been triggered in part from my fear of getting flare ups. After talking to my rheumatologist about my anxiety, she referred me to a psychologist who treats many chronic illness patients. This psychologist diagnosed me with body dysmorphic disorder. And, just with my vasculitis diagnosis, I had to work to get better. I’m still working on getting better. I specifically was and continued to be treated in [cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT)](https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/cognitive-behavioural-therapy-cbt/). Just like with my autoimmune disorder, my mental health issues won’t go away – I just need to work to manage them. ## How I Cope with Body Dysmorphic Disorder Every Day As someone who has body dysmorphic disorder, I have a few suggestions for coping with it. Here are a few of them. My first one is to recognize that some of your behavior and thoughts about your appearance may be irrational. My fear that I would have a severe vasculitis flare up again was rational, but my behavior in obsessing over my appearance was not. My second is to work to change it. This may be different for everyone, but, if you’re like me, CBT can help. It’s been over a year since my hospital stay in Mexico, and I’m doing a bit bit better – both physically and mentally. I can look at a selfie of myself without worrying myself sick, but I often need to catch myself when I see a pimple. Vasculitis and body dysmorphic disorder were both unexpected surprises in my life – but I’m strong, and I’ll pull through. Read Related Posts: - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That's Okay) ](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [I May be Chronically Ill, but I'm Also Chronically Resilient](https://achronicvoice.com/chronically-ill-resilient/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Body Dysmorphic Disorder, Mental Illness & Autoimmune Disease Boards: ![When Autoimmune Disorder Ravages Your Face (And How That Led To My Body Dysmorphic Disorder)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_body-dysmorphic-disorder-10.jpg) **Contributor Bio:** ![Julia Métraux headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/julia-metraux-headshot.jpg) Julia Métraux is a writer, dog person, and student at The New School (in that order). She is currently a staff writer at The Tempest and an editorial intern at Narratively. Her work has appeared in The Mighty, Alma, BUST, Briarpatch, GUTS and more. She was born with a mild to moderate hearing loss, developed a rare form of urticarial vasculitis at 18, and managed post-concussion syndrome in her teens. She writes for pleasure, has great interest in journalism, and hopes to give insight into living with rare disease, and the difficulties of obtaining a diagnosis. Find her here: [Twitter](https://x.com/metraux%5Fjulia) or email her at juliametraux@gmail.com. ### Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That's Okay) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/ Last updated: 2026-04-03T16:35:49.000Z ## You are Never Alone in Thinking that Today is Not a Good Day Have you ever thought to yourself that it's not a good day today, and then watch your mind and body spiral downwards helplessly? These feelings are all part of the human experience, no matter age, gender, circumstance, health or wealth. You are not alone. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Mental Health & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Having a Bad Day? You are Never Alone.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/bad-day-never-alone.jpg) ![Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day-make-decisions-thats-okay.jpg) ### What I Hope to Illustrate with This Post What I hope to shine a light on is the humanity that resides deep within every single one of us. I hope to reach out to anyone who's sick or otherwise, and feels like today is not a good day. Who is feeling beaten, broken, sore, down or defeated. Hang in there. I and many others are thinking of you, rooting for you and wishing you well. Depression is an insidious beast. Don't let it fool you into thinking that if it's not a good day, then you must be a bad person or a burden to those around you. ## Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions It is one of those dull days where food has lost all appeal, and I am unable to eat. In the process, it starves my mind of energy. Simple questions morph into complex equations that require colossal effort to answer. I should eat, but I don’t know what, and I don’t know if I can. I should work, but my mind is a blur as it keeps readjusting its focus; the fog in my brain is unsubstantial and therefore impossible to fight. I feel nothing. I feel weight. The weight of nothing bearing down on my chest, crushing against my lungs. Breathing requires conscious effort, as my body has forgotten its natural rhythm. I feel drowsy and with that, a little high. My body digs into its reserves and conjures pleasure for payment, for the delinquent pain that has overstayed its welcome. I feel drained of all emotion, yet I sob with grief. The cause is unknown. I feel numb yet anxious, a paradox reflecting the discord between mind and body. Anxiety has burrowed itself deep into my stomach, taunting me from within myself. I wish I could punch my gut to be rid of it. I lie in bed and stare at the wall. I sit on the sofa and stare at the floor. I do all the things that I have to do, tasks that other people expect of me. My own needs can wait, as the need to not deal is bigger than that. My thoughts are mush; I drag them in a net through a marsh. I wade for the sake of wading, breathe for the sake of breathing. To waste some time to arrive at nightfall. To sleep in hope of waking up to a better tomorrow. Sometimes that's all it takes. Pin to Your Depression, Mental Health & Chronic Illness Boards: ![I feel nothing. I feel weight. The weight of nothing bearing down on my chest, crushing against my lungs. Breathing requires conscious effort, as my body has forgotten its natural rhythm.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/feel-nothing-depression-quote.jpg) ![It's Not a Crime to be Kind to Yourself](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/not-crime-be-kind-to-yourself.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [How to Rewire the Brain to Manage Chronic Pain (& Resources to Help)](https://achronicvoice.com/rewire-brain-manage-chronic-pain/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [A String of Bad Days (and What Happened When That Good Day Finally Came Along)](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/) ## Today is Not a Good Day, So be Kind to Yourself Today is not a good day to make decisions, and that's okay. No need to reprimand or correct yourself, it will not change anything. Save that energy to complete any necessary tasks for the day - you will need it. If there is no pressing matter at hand, then give yourself the day off to do absolutely nothing. It isn’t a crime. Don’t feel guilty about it, be kind to yourself. Just cruise along without judgment, and release all the rules your ego has made up. “Don’t pity yourself.” Fuck that. “You should be doing something useful with your life.” Fuck that. “You shouldn’t be wasting your time.” Fuck that, too. Fuck should and shouldn’t. You have to just sit and let it be for today, or it will demand for more attention tomorrow, with more fire in its belly. Read Related Posts: - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [You Don’t Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) - [Asking for Help (and Why Everyone Needs to Learn this Important Life Skill)](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) ## Sometimes Even if You Lose, You Win You don’t have to decide right now if you don’t want to. Let all thoughts and feelings sink and settle at the bottom. The ones that are light will rise up where it's bright. Get some sun, perhaps. It might help a little. And you must remember that perhaps it was a wasted day, but that doesn’t mean a defeated life. You may lose a few battles, but you can still win this war. You can even fold your cards and give in to depression for a round or two, when it is obvious that playing a drawn out game with it will only end in bigger losses. As Eliezer Wiesel said, “There are victories of the soul and spirit. Sometimes, even if you lose, you win.” Hang in there and see it through. At the end of it all, you will understand why, but you mustn't give up now. Not today, not tomorrow, not until time is ready for you. Pin to Your Inspirational Quotes & Self-Care Boards: ![Be Kind to Yourself if You're Having a Bad Day - Spoonie Edition](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/be-kind-bad-day-spoonie.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [Give Your Best Anyway, Even When You’re Feeling Depressed](https://achronicvoice.com/give-your-best-even-when-feeling-depressed/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - [Is Seeking Help for Your Mental Health Worth It?](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/) Pin to Your Depression & Chronic Pain Boards: ![Don't Let Depression Fool You](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/dont-let-depression-fool-you-not-alone.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Holly B Nov 18, 2021 Beautifully written! It seems that at times when I am exhausted I make decisions just to quit thinking about it and that when I make the worst mistakes! Great advice! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 25, 2021 Thanks Holly! It’s true… sometimes making a decision when exhausted can be helpful though haha. Just because it resolves the endless chatter in the head. Sending hugs. - [ Gemma Orton ](https://www.wheelescapades.com) Aug 6, 2021 This is all so true and brilliantly said. We need to give ourselves time and care when these days come. Not put unnecessary pressure on us. This week has been one where I feel I haven’t achieved anything, but rest is also important. For the mind too. Sending you good vibes for good days ahead. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 21, 2021 Thank you Gemma! This was written on a depressive day, and updated on another depressive week haha. Sometimes, depressive pieces somehow lift my mood more than positive pieces on those bad days. Kind of like comforting and relatable. - [ Lucy ](https://lbhealthandlifestyle.com/) Aug 4, 2021 I can relate to these feelings so much. Chronic illness is as much a mental battle as a physical one. In a society which tells us we should be constantly on the go, I often feel guilty for resting and putting off things I have to do. Thank you for the reminder that it’s ok and so important to have a day off, rest and be still. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 6, 2021 Thank you for your kind words, Lucy. I think we all need to encourage and remind each other as spoonies, as it’s so easy to forget, isn’t it, especially on the bad days. Sending good thoughts your way! - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Aug 3, 2021 I have so many of these days. It feels like most of my year is comprised of days like this. Your advice is spot on. These are the days we leave decisions and other things for some other day. I’m getting much better at letting these types of days go. Nothing is more important than my health. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 6, 2021 I’m so sorry to hear that, my friend. It’s past the mid year mark, so hopefully it gets better or speed up to the next year already!! Yes indeed. Chronic pain is not worth it. Sending you good thoughts. - [ Despite Pain ](https://www.despitepain.com) Apr 17, 2019 I love this. Some days we just need to go with the flow and do what we need to do. The ‘you should’ voices need to quieten down. Thanks for this. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 17, 2019 Thanks Liz 🙂 Yea sometimes even knowing this logically is hard. The ‘you should’ voices can be pretty powerful! 😉 - Jo Moss Apr 16, 2019 Beautifully written and a great reminder to take time out to rest on our bad days, rather than trying to push through or berate ourselves for not being productive. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 16, 2019 Hi Jo, yes it’s a neverending lesson for me, for sure. Hope you’re doing good today 🙂 x - [ dSavannah ](https://www.dsavannah.com/blog/) Apr 16, 2019 This is so spot on, it made me cry. Thanks for sharing these hard truths. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 16, 2019 Aww…sending lots of hugs to you today. We’re in this together x - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Apr 13, 2019 I think you’ve written this perfectly. I have a lot (too many) of these days myself and I used to constantly berate myself, try to force myself to do something, to focus, and I’d get nowhere and feel all the worse for it. These days I’m a bit kinder to myself. Like yesterday, when I knew it was going to be ‘one of those days’ where things don’t get done, decisions don’t get made, thoughts just don’t happen… I tried to let it go, just go with the flow, and do very little but without feeling as guilty or frustrated by it. You’re right, some days we do just have to hang in there. Sending hugs your way, Sheryl. I hope there are brighter, slightly easier days again around the corner.. ♥ Caz xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 14, 2019 Thanks Caz! Yes it’s so bloody difficult to not feel guilty, isn’t it?! At least for me it is. It really is something I need to work on, even on the good days. My days have been much better of late. Thank you so much and sending hugs to you! xx - Elizabeth Feb 13, 2017 Thank you so much for participating in our first link up party at The Unbroken Smile. Thanks for sharing! ((Gentle Hugs)) – Elizabeth - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 13, 2017 Thanks for having me! 🙂 - edv Oct 19, 2016 thank you. in a day, mixed with equal parts, agony and hope, this was strangely uplifting. \~ bereft of flame, moths hung as if stars. Velvet wings quivering for a kiss that never was. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 19, 2016 Hi Ed, I’m truly glad that this article comforted someone out there. Wishing you the best possible outcome to whatever it is you are seeking! - Ellen Sue Stern Oct 19, 2016 The more involved I become in the chronic pain world, the more I “get it” that we are sharing a parallel universe, with a common language, unspoken understanding, and a level of empathy that is truly elevating humanity, both in spite of and because of the enormous challenges we face. Your words hit home. The relief of not having to defend, apologize. expain, justify, or pretend-especially on the Really Bad, This is Pointless and Futile Days, makes me grateful for the work you do to empower the millions of people struggling mightily to face yet another day with a measure of hope and optimism. Know that you’re making a difference. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 19, 2016 Hi Ellen, Thank you very much for the kind words. I’ve yet to publish this on any social channel so I’m surprised you found it first…you made my day! 😉 To know that someone out there gets it is comforting. Hang in there too my friend 🙂 - Ellen Sue Stern Dec 3, 2016 Hi Sheryl We should connect some time. I am currently working on a new book: ON A SCALE of 1-10: When Chronic Pain Hijacks Your Life. Check out a relevant blog: “How Not To Treat Chronic Pain. The Way We Do.” - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 3, 2016 Feel free to contact me anytime via comments/email/social 🙂 All the best for your book, it sounds interesting! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### “But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/ Last updated: 2026-07-15T14:01:03.000Z ## The Sudden Beginnings of Malaise from Dengue Fever I rarely take pain medications for something as ‘trivial’ as joint aches. But I popped one that day as I had work to do the next day, and I needed all the energy a [good night of sleep](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/) could provide. Don’t get me wrong, these aches aren’t trivial at all, but I try to minimise my dependance on medications, for fear that I will have nothing left to control the major pain flares when they do hit. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ### An Unwarranted Meltdown All it took was for my partner to flip over on his side in bed, for me to go into a meltdown. I was probably running a high temperature then already, but hadn't yet realised it. I spent the next 2 hours bawling my eyes out for ‘no reason’, feeling mentally unsound and physically drained. I have since come to realise that I get extremely emotional and snappy when I’m having a high fever, both as a cause and effect. [**I live in the tropics**](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/), but shivered as if I were naked on a tundra. Even with the air conditioner turned off, I was wrapped up in a thick bathrobe whilst hugging a [**hot water bottle**](https://achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-review/) under the blankets. Read Related Posts: - [What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does ‘Normal’ Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) - [An Anaphylaxis Reaction from Rituximab in Between Shady Years](https://achronicvoice.com/anaphylaxis-rituximab/) - [“It's in My Blood”: Featuring People with Illnesses, Passions & Talents](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-people-illnesses-talents/) Pin to Your Dengue Fever, Lupus & Invisible Illness Boards: ![“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare). Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/but-thats-normal-for-me-why-mistook-dengue-fever-for-lupus-flare.jpg) ## It Took Me 3 Days to Go to the Emergency Room, Not Knowing I Had Dengue Fever It went on like this for 3 days, before I decided to go to the A&E. My partner wasn't too worried and didn't think that it was anything too bad. 'Food poisoning' was his probable conclusion. It isn't that he doesn't care, but because he's seen me in a maelstrom of a [**Lupus/Sjögren's flare**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-bearable-not/), and the horror of pain then. And trust me, I was reluctant to go to the A&E myself; it's like a cuss word to a person with chronic illness. Nobody likes being hospitalised, especially if you’ve been in and out so many times, with severe pain as associated memories. ### One More Blood Test for Dengue Fever... I timed it such that it was off-peak hour and was fortunate to get a gentle and skilled doctor, which is akin to a miracle in the ER. It was the first time that someone had taken arterial blood from me without making me cry out involuntarily in reaction, due to the landmine of nerves they sit amongst. 5 minutes after collecting all the regular blood samples, he said, "Oops sorry. I forgot one more tube for dengue fever". An offhand statement. A general precaution. Neither of us thought much of it. 30 minutes later he rushed back to my bedside and informed me that I had dengue fever. I was a little surprised. Dengue Fever? Really? Are you sure it isn’t 'just' Lupus? But then again I’ve been quite the ‘lucky’ girl over the years,[**having acquired tuberculosis**](https://achronicvoice.com/heart-rhythm-disorder/) and other mysterious ailments off the streets. I didn’t even need to be near any infected clusters, and all it takes is a few seconds for me to catch bored bugs with nowhere to go, and nothing to do. Read Related Posts: - [4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [4 Cool Truths My Partner Said (Unwittingly)](https://achronicvoice.com/cool-truths/) ## Escalating to an Urgent Case After the Dengue Fever Diagnosis The doctor immediately marked me as an urgent case, as my red blood cell count had dropped to half of what was normal, and many of the main blood tests were abnormal. It gets a little tricky controlling fevers for me, as I’m hypersensitive to paracetamol (panadol/acetaminophen), and [can’t take too much ibuprofen due to blood thinners and steroids](https://www.health.harvard.edu/diseases-and-conditions/bad-mix-blood-thinners-and-nsaids). (Ibuprofen and steroids combined can damage your stomach. Ibuprofen also thins your blood in addition.) They got me a bed in the ward pretty quickly, where I was kept hydrated through a drip for a whole week. It’s not quite fun having a bulky extension for an arm everywhere you go, but I hardly had the strength to leave my bed much anyway. Read Related Posts: - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [What’s it Like to be on a High Dose of Steroids? (And the First Question You Will Definitely Ask)](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) ### When Doctors Just Keep You the 'Bare Minimum Alive' One of the worst nights was when I was having a high fever with violent chills. The on-call doctor for that night, Boulder Thng, frantically checked me for rashes. Seeing that they were more or less in the same state, he simply left me to my own devices. **As long as I hadn't gone into shock, he didn't seem to care.** I was shivering too much and had to pee in a bedpan, but ended up wetting the entire bed. The nurses wanted to just wipe me down, but I forced myself to the bathroom, and allowed them to shower me at 5am. Whilst I know that it isn't wise to shower in hot water when you're having a fever that's over 40 degrees celsius, it felt good. In some sense it helped, because I was 'warm' enough to stick on a cool fever patch after. ## “But That’s Normal for Me” The conversation with my doctors went mostly like this: **Doctor**: “Do/Did you have any joint pains or muscle aches?” **Me**: “But that’s normal for me.” **Doctor**: “There are some rashes here.” **Me**: “But that’s normal for me.” **Doctor**: “When did you get them?” (Rashes can indicate the beginnings of [Dengue Shock Syndrome](https://www.msdmanuals.com/en-sg/professional/infectious-diseases/arboviruses,-arenaviridae,-and-filoviridae/dengue-hemorrhagic-fever-dengue-shock-syndrome) which presents more severe, life threatening issues, especially since I'm already on blood thinners.) **Me**: “I can’t remember because it’s an everyday thing for me. I get rashes and bruises all the time from Lupus and Antiphospholipid Syndrome, either from contact against my body, or random urticaria (hives).” **Doctor**: “We fear you might be getting [haemolytic anaemia](https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/hemolytic-anemia). We want to start you on blood transfusion immediately.” **Me**: “But I’ve had haemolytic anaemia from my Lupus before as well. Besides, my blood type is O negative with autoantibodies. Please wait to ask my main rheumatologist tomorrow, perhaps?” (It tends to take a few days to find suitable blood for me, otherwise they resort to just filtering the blood. Even if the blood type is an exact match, having [autoantibodies](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/symptoms/autoantibodies) in your blood means that there will be reactions with your immune system should a transfusion occur.) **Doctor**: “Okay, but if it drops below seven to six, we will have to do it anyway as it will be life threatening.” (The next day my regular rheumatologist says I was probably just dehydrated.) **Doctor**: “Did you experience any extreme fatigue, nausea, vomiting, bleeding, bruising, head pains, etc?” **Me**: “But that’s normal for me.” Read Related Posts: - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [Why I Need to See 10 Different Doctors on a Regular Basis](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [How Many Times Can You Hit Rock Bottom with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/rock-bottom/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) ## Why Lupus is Known as “The Great Imitator” of Diseases I suppose it’s easy to see why Lupus (SLE) is known as “the great imitator” (although, [Sjögren’s disease](https://medlineplus.gov/sjogrenssyndrome.html) does have close overlaps as well for me). Just about any generic symptom or side effect could be caused by Lupus, ranging from something ‘simple’ such as an itch/urticaria, to something more severe such as haemolytic anaemia (where your red blood cells keep disintegrating). For the entire duration of my stay there, it was difficult for even the doctors to differentiate between dengue fever and Lupus symptoms. Whilst the senior doctors were of course more discerning, the on-call, junior and night doctors were mostly just bumbling along, clueless. As long as I was alive and hadn’t progressed to a dangerous state of shock, they didn’t dare to touch me. ## Dengue Fever Co-Infections, and Longer Lasting Fevers The fevers tend to last for about 4 - 5 days before subsiding on their own; there isn’t much you can do except to keep yourself hydrated and wait it out, as dengue is a viral infection. I saved my ibuprofen tablets and timed them to perfection, as I didn’t want to be caught with my pants down again, literally, [in the middle of the night when inflammation is at its worst](https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/do-we-feel-pain-more-at-night-202301182877). That can be a double combo hit when you include existing chronic pain and health issues. As my fevers were high and dragged on for 7 days, the doctors became a little worried, and started to test me for other infections, of which they found some. In general with a suppressed immune system, there usually are co-infections or extra bugs that join in the party. Additional painful sores and an early period were not helpful either. Read Related Posts: - [A String of Bad Days (and What Happened When That Good Day Finally Came Along)](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) ## Home Sweet Home After the Dengue Fever Subsided I was finally allowed to go home when my blood counts looked to be fairly stable. And as anyone with chronic illness knows, there is no other feeling like home sweet home. What was sad was that many of the elderly patients who shared the ward with me actually did not want to go home, as there was no one to look after them there. Many of them have had falls and accidents, and have developed [**fears of moving around on their own**](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/). I find it sad when one actually considers a shared hospital room better than the privacy of their own home, due to the lack of support. As such, I wish everyone a life filled with good health, luck, and hope that the rest of 2019 will be better for us all. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! 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Read Related Posts: - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) - [Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-home-resources-learned-other-blogs/) - [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Liz Aug 2, 2019 I got dengue last year– I just got diagnosed with dysautonomia with likely EDS and MCAS comorbid… And I have already been diagnosed with PCOS, hypothyroidism, etc over the years. It wasn’t until the fever got to a horrible place that I knew it wasn’t something I already have! The headaches and bone pain got were different or in different places than what I usually have, but not worse in any respect other than taking so long to stop. My boyfriend had been convinced by our landlord that I’ve been faking our dramatizing my illness, so he didn’t think it was serious enough for me to be in bed since I’m “sick like that anyway.” When he showed a friend who grew up in the islands a picture of my rash, he changed his tune…. His friend was horrified and asked if I was in the hospital! I had roughed it out at home by taking doxycycline I had laying around (controversially used but tropical docs swear by it; it knocked my second wave of fever out in no time, and I felt waaaay better the next day). However, I think now that my dysautonomia symptoms got worse from deconditioning all that time. This was last year, and honestly, I haven’t felt my version of normal since! I read that in older, ill, and female patients, chronic symptoms of fatigue from dengue were documented (and from West Nile Virus, something I think I have had twice since moving to Houston). Make sure if you have an increase in symptoms like fatigue or autoimmune flares that you let your doctor know. Thank you for posting your story! I don’t feel alone!!!! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 4, 2019 Hi Liz, Thanks for sharing – very interesting to hear about other people’s experiences with dengue, too! Here it actually is pretty common, as my country is right smack in dengue mosquito party land, and this year there has been a rise in cases as well. Yes actually my fatigue has been totally fine (I even felt better after the dengue for a month, more than usual, before my autoimmune disorders said enough, let’s get back to business). And yes, dengue actually can trigger autoimmune disorders too – like an ‘on’ switch for people who have the genes, and then that’s the trigger. - Jaime A. Heidel Apr 13, 2019 This is such a powerful story! I’m sorry you had to endure all that. Thank goodness they were able to figure out that your problem was much more serious than your usual chronic illness symptoms! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 13, 2019 Thanks Jaime! It seriously wasn’t much to endure at all, compared to what living with chronic illness is like. That was also the point I wanted to make with the article, and hoped it raised some awareness on the everyday situation of many people out there. Yes! I’m glad I didn’t go into Dengue Syndrome Shock; my father’s friend’s 13 year old niece recently died from dengue 🙁 - Ava Meena Apr 11, 2019 I’m so glad you received the proper treatment and were able to improved and go home, even though it took so long. What an ordeal! I have definitely been guilty of chalking things up to lupus that were not lupus, but not on this scale (yet). I hope your year improves! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 11, 2019 Thanks Ava! Well it wasn’t so long (compared to chronic illness!), which was actually the main point I was trying to make with this article (was trying to use it to raise more awareness, heh). Yea my Lupus/Sjögren’s flares have made me missed flights, etc and I’d say can be 10x worse because I can’t even sleep and would be actual screaming for help :/ - Kirsten Apr 8, 2019 I’m sorry you had to go through that. I can totally relate to not knowing if symptoms are a flare or caused by something else. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 9, 2019 Hi Kirsten, No worries, it was only for a ‘short’ period of time 🙂 I mean, 10 days of pain and fatigue is nothing compared to the other stuff we go through on a normal basis. That was also the point I was trying to raise with this article! 😉 - [ Rachel, The Invisible Hypothyroidism ](https://theinvisiblehypothyroidism.com) Apr 8, 2019 Oh my gosh, how scary! How are you now? When we live with chronic health conditions, it can be super hard to distinguish between what is kind of ‘normal’ for that and what isn’t. This shows just how difficult it can be, and even possibly life threatening. I was in Asia last year for my honeymoon and fell very ill. I thought I was just in a flare at first but ended up in hospital with a nasty virus. It was really nasty. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 8, 2019 Hi Rachel, I’m good now, thank you for asking 🙂 Yes it can be scary. This isn’t the first time that something really bad has happened that I’ve waited out at least 2 – 3 days before visiting the ER. I’m sure you do the same sometimes 🙁 This is also partially from learned experiences, where sometimes it really is just a flare and nothing else. So…therein lies the dilemma (and stress!). Where did you go and what did you contract, if I may ask? That sucks that it had to happen on your honeymoon! 🙁 You deserve another one ;p - [ Despite Pain ](https://www.despitepain.com) Apr 8, 2019 Sheryl, what a terrible time you had. When all those symptoms are normal, it is just so hard to know when you need to see a doctor rather than try to look after yourself at home. I had something similar happen. I had been putting up with pain thinking it was back and rib pain and just ‘normal’ feeling terrible, thinking it was either side effects of meds or just generally feeling crap because I get days like that. Turned out I had pancreatitis (due to gallstones). Not as serious as Dengue fever, but I was on a drip being monitored for a few days, then had to have my gallbladder removed as an emergency. My husband was a bit like your partner at the time too, because he is so used to seeing me with pain and all the associated symptoms. I hope you are picking up now. I know you’ve had a really tough time for the last few months. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 8, 2019 Hi Liz, thank you for your lovely message and thoughts. Your pancreatitis doesn’t sound any ‘better’ than dengue to me (a surgery sounds worse to me in fact!). I hope you are doing better now, and that your body wasn’t too damaged from it 🙁 I am picking up, hopefully. All we can do is hope, hey? Hope your year progresses beautifully, too! x **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### April 2019: Tiring First Quarter Being Muggle Sick URL: https://achronicvoice.com/tiring-first-quarter-muggle-sick-april-2019/ Last updated: 2025-11-12T15:39:34.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## It's Been a Tiring Year with Chronic Illness — and We're Not Even Done with the First Quarter It’s been a tough year for me so far, especially in March. None of my monthly goals have been met, ironically due to ‘normal people’ sicknesses, i.e. bronchitis and [**dengue fever**](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/). I’ve mostly been bed bound, drained, and we’re only into the first quarter. There is a tiredness in my soul; weights thrown into the stagnant pool of my heart over the years, going nowhere. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ### Muggle Sickness Adds Another Layer of Pain When you get ‘normal’ sicknesses on top of your ‘regular’ daily chronic pains, life can feel like a chore in itself. Like rotten garnishing to your usual stew of issues. Getting out of bed now takes not just double the effort, but triple, maybe more. Falling asleep takes just as much effort, and can be worse due to the spikes in inflammation that comes with the night. When you only need to deal with acute illness for a short period of time, it’s easy to persevere through the pain, knowing that there’s an end in sight. But there is no bright horizon or happily ever after with chronic illness, although yes some people do achieve remission and there are bouts of brief relief. I know that I’m not the only one out there who’s tired, and continue to find existence tiring at times. Do you feel this way sometimes as well, living with chronic illness? Read Related Posts: - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [What Neverending Pain Reveals to You](https://achronicvoice.com/what-neverending-pain-reveals/) Pin to Your Mental Health & Chronic Illness Boards: ![April 2019 Prompts: Tiring, Educating, Receiving, Giving and Quieting](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_april-prompts-1-2-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ## Self-Education is Never a Bad Thing I have been on pause from [my web development work](https://blackandweb.com/) for so long that the scene has completely shifted by now. Of all the industries out there, it’s one of the fastest to change. I suppose that’s both a good and bad thing. If I miss years of it, I don’t even have to bother catching up on the ‘in betweens’; I simply jump to the latest programming languages and best practices. At first I thought that if I blogged hard enough, perhaps I could get a job as a blogger or a writer at an office. But at this point in time, I think brushing up my existing coding skills, no matter how crummy or outdated they are, is for the best as well. There’s no harm in a knowledge upgrade, and with the need to constantly work from home, I am grateful that these skills are still usable. I do need to learn new ways of doing things however, so there’s still [**tons of stuff left for me to self-learn**](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/), get comfortable with, and then work on. I’ve already put a client on hold for more than a month due to poor health and hospitalisation, and I feel terrible for messing up their timeline. Whilst they’re kind and understanding, I still have a responsibility to fulfil, having committed to it. Read Related Posts: - [What’s It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) - [When Your Stress & Fatigue Thresholds Suck (Also on Cute Cockatiels, Education via Zoom & Art Films for Rent)](https://achronicvoice.com/stress-fatigue-thresholds-suck/) - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [MediSearch Review: A Medical AI Search Engine for Patients, Clinicians & Medical Writers](https://achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/) ## Getting Older with Another Birthday, but Grateful for Many Good Memories It’s my birthday month, but I don’t feel in the least bit celebratory. As mentioned above, this tiredness pervades other aspects of your life. I can’t even be bothered to organise anything for myself, even with the usual caveat of ‘see how my health is!’. I never thought that I’d be one of those women who’d start dreading each passing year that goes by in her thirties, but when your health doesn’t look to be on the mend at all, it gets a tad depressing. Having said that, something ‘traditional’ like attending a beautiful orchestra and dinner would be nice. Soothing music and good food - can’t go too wrong, I think? ([**There’s always that question mark with chronic illness**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/), unfortunately.) But hey, such pleasures can be enjoyed any other time too, right? I know that I’m lucky that I can even consider such options. I’ve received quite a few surprise birthday parties over the years, thanks to [**thoughtful friends**](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) who wanted to cheer me up. They’ve led me to the beach, showed up at my door (whilst I looked like a mess!), and gave the most thoughtful presents ever (and I never use the word ‘ever’ unless it’s really 'ever'!). No matter how my life progresses or regresses, these are precious memories that I will forever hold dear in my heart, even if many of these friends aren’t close ones anymore. Read Related Posts: - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/) - [Chronic Illness Christmas Giveaway: Gifts for Every Body in Pain This Lonely Pandemic Season!](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-christmas-giveaway-gifts-pain/) - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) - [February 2018: Adapting, Practicing, Realising, Celebrating & Inviting](https://achronicvoice.com/adapting-ebb-flow-chronic-pain-depression-february-2018/) - [The Superpowers of the Average Human Being](https://achronicvoice.com/superpowers-average-human/) ## I Don't Have Much to Give for Now, No Thanks to Depression I admit that I don’t have much to give at the moment, seeing how the year’s been going thus far. My blog has been quiet, and I’ve only been touching up some pieces from the archives that I feel might still be useful reads. I hope that my enthusiasm for blogging and writing returns soon, or at least the writing bit. It was a cathartic process for me, and my number one joy. Perhaps I have [**sunk into a state of further depression**](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/), if even my favourite things aren’t bringing me joy anymore. I’ll be seeing my psychiatrist this month, and I should check in with her I suppose. I am already on all sorts of medications however, and it frustrates me whenever I need to add on to the toxic load. Read Related Posts: - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [Why I Need to See More Than 10 Different Types of Doctors Regularly](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) - [How to Prepare for a Medical Appointment in a Post-Pandemic World (4 Top Tips From a Doctor)](https://achronicvoice.com/prepare-medical-appointment/) - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) ## The Need to Quiet Down and Heal in April April is going to be a quiet one for me I suppose. No expectations, no goals, no pressure. I just want to let go, lie in bed (that would be the third month in a row but…), and heal my body with gentleness. Whilst I’ll need to work on some jobs I’ve committed to, I know I just need to be as still and silent as I possibly can for the rest of the time. I don’t Netflix and chill all that much, but maybe I should finish the entire Hannibal series whilst enjoying a few squares of dark chocolate, with some tea or whiskey (just a tiny bit!). I want to say that I’d like to read more books, but that might insidiously be adding pressure on myself. Even good pressure feels heavy for me this month. What I know I must do, is lay my head down, and simply be still. Thank you for reading my April thoughts 🙂 To continue with my diary entry series, you can [**read last month's**](https://achronicvoice.com/epic-fail-redefining-success-march-2019/) or [**next month's entry**](https://achronicvoice.com/may-2019-investigating-chronic-pain-post-dengue-fever/). ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Mental Health & Chronic Illness Boards: ![April 2019 Prompts: Tiring, Educating, Receiving, Giving and Quieting](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_april-prompts-6-2-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Laura May 4, 2019 Awww Sheryl, I’ve seen how trying a year you have had so far on social media. Such rotten luck to get all the ‘normal people’ illnesses to. I really think we should have an exemption card from them. I hope April brought you the quiet time that you needed as you are such a giving person, you deserve a break xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 4, 2019 Hi Laura, thanks so much for your kind words and compassion 🙂 April was a great recharge month for me, so seems like writing my loose thoughts and plans for the month with these prompts do have some benefits from time to time ;p I hope you’re having a fab month! x - [ Rhiann ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com) Apr 20, 2019 Happy April, dear Sheryl. I am sorry to hear that it has been a really difficult time for you. I hope that you, like many, also living with a chronic illness that this month allows you some quiet time to allow you to recharge and recuperate. And that you are able to enjoy some chocolate and time with loved ones during the Easter celebrations. And also wishing you a very Happy Birthday month, I hope that you are able to enjoy the day and are able to do something special to celebrate in whatever capacity you are able to do so. Best wishes Rhiann - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 20, 2019 Thanks Rhiann! I like the idea of birthday month…it means I still have some time to enjoy it even more :p I am actually doing much better now, so I’m glad. Happy Easter to you too, and lots of chocolate happiness! 😉 x - [ Alison ](https://www.thrivingwhiledisabled.com) Apr 10, 2019 Hi Sheryl, Thank you for sharing! I love your posts and your prompts and have been enjoying writing to them. I’m so sorry you’ve been having such a rough time healthwise, and empathize. I spent the fall and winter sick more frequently than usual myself, and I totally understand that feeling of’maybe I’ll just take a nap for a few days’. Being chronically ill(especially the frustration of getting ‘muggle sick’ on top of our usual symptoms) is just exhausting, and it feels like healing takes forever. You are strong, and you are getting through it. The most important thing is to keep listening to your body and not pushing too hard- and yes I know that that feels so hard especially when you value busy-ness and accomplishments – it’s something I’m still working on too! I do believe in you, and I hope that things get easier soon! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 10, 2019 Hi Alison, thanks for your kind words and encouragement! I’m doing much better actually, just trying to maintain it! 😉 I hope you’ve been doing better these days yourself. Yea the need for long amounts of rest can be frustrating as it feels not just like a road block, but like you’re holding people around you up as well. It really is a daily practice of being mindful about the emotional aspects that are bound to be attached to that as well (really a self reminder here ;)). Sending hugs! - Emma (Not Just Tired) Apr 6, 2019 Awww Sheryl. This made me cry. I’m so so sorry you are having such a rotten, crappy time. It’s just not fair sometimes. I hope you can rest it out. I think a quiet time, with no pressure, no expectations, no nothing unless you feel like it sounds perfect right now. Be kind and gentle with yourself. It will pass, I know it will. I’ve had to quieten off on blogging etc lately, which of course massively frustrates me, but maybe it frees up space for other things. Or at least a quieter mind and head space for new possibilities ahead – if that makes sense! You do such wonderful work for the chronic illness community and so many of us look up to you. Don’t give yourself a hard time about anything. You’re amazing! Sorry for the waffle, you just touched a chord in me. Lots of love and healing vibes, Emma xxx PS wishing you a happy, peaceful birthday x Reply - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 6, 2019 Thank you so much Emma. That message really comforted and encouraged me 🙂 Please don’t cry! It really isn’t as bad as it sounds – for example I had a great day today 🙂 I wrote this entry on a rather depressing day though, so I guess it compressed everything into it. Though yes, it hasn’t been a fab year so far, I’m still doing decent enough 🙂 Yea taking a break from blogging frustrates me too. I enjoy it, but it also takes a lot of effort and energy. Hopefully the space and quieting down for a bit will recharge everything though. I feel a bit like an old battery; I do take much longer to regenerate than everyone else around me 😉 Thank you for your well wishes. I hope you are doing well yourself. Sending lots of love! xxx - Nikki Michelle Albert Apr 5, 2019 It is my birthday month as well! Although it will be a mellow month. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 5, 2019 Nice! Which date is it? 🙂 It’ll be a mellow month (maybe year…) for me too. - Ava Meena Apr 5, 2019 I’m sorry to hear about all these regular sicknesses bringing you down. 🙁 I’ve had a cold lately and can hardly find energy to do anything, but your acute illnesses are more serious. Hope you have lots of rest and healing and that you can enjoy some of the rest. 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 5, 2019 Thanks for your kind words, Ava 🙂 A cold is nothing to be trifled with when you deal with other chronic illnesses too…I know what it feels like :/ I hope you manage to squeeze in spots of rest and self-care into your mum life as well! x - [ Anne ](https://www.raisiebay.com) Apr 5, 2019 I’m so sorry to hear that you have had so much to deal with on top of everything else. I hope a quiet month will help restore you a little more. x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 6, 2019 Thank you, Anne. I’m sure it will help, although there will be some unhappy people, failed goals and disappointments. But as it goes, without good health, nothing’s good, hey? Sending you good thoughts too! x - JacQueline Roe Apr 4, 2019 Sheryl, I feel like after all these months of reading your blogs and following you online that you are a friend. I hate to hear that you are struggling so much. Please know that you are in my prayers. I hope that the rest you receive will heal your body, but I also pray that you get some enjoyment of time with people who love you. I have recently discovered an odd love for podcasts and audio books. I can rest my eyes and set the soothing voices on a low volume so that even on painful, low-energy days, I am still able to think, process, and be inspired. This may or may not be useful for you, but I thought I would mention it in case it does help. Hope to hear you are feeling better, soon! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 5, 2019 Hi Jacqueline, thanks so much for your kind word and prayers 🙂 I am doing okay, it’s just that some days/weeks get you really, really down. I wrote my April entry on a really depressing day, heh. I am happy to hear that podcasts and audiobooks are helpful for you! I’ve tried but they aren’t my cup of tea, although I’ve been engrossed in my Kindle of late in a book that would be too heavy/thick to read comfortably, so I guess that’s my distraction for now 🙂 Sending you lots of good thoughts, too! - [ Maya ](https://www.spreadhopeproject.com) Apr 3, 2019 I’m sorry that you haven’t been feeling well. 2019 has been rough for me as well, although March was a bit better. I love these prompts – especially quieting. It’s something I need to work on a bit more, both in my external environment as well as my brain. Also, happy birthday!! - Emma (Not Just Tired) Apr 4, 2019 Awww Sheryl. This made me cry. I’m so so sorry you are having such a rotten, crappy time. It’s just not fair sometimes. I hope you can rest it out. I think a quiet time, with no pressure, no expectations, no nothing unless you feel like it sounds perfect right now. Be kind and gentle with yourself. It will pass, I know it will. I’ve had to quieten off on blogging etc lately, which of course massively frustrates me, but maybe it frees up space for other things. Or at least a quieter mind and head space for new possibilities ahead – if that makes sense! You do such wonderful work for the chronic illness community and so many of us look up to you. Don’t give yourself a hard time about anything. You’re amazing! Sorry for the waffle, you just touched a chord in me. Lots of love and healing vibes, Emma xxx PS wishing you a happy, peaceful birthday x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 5, 2019 Hi Maya, I’m sorry to hear that 2019 hasn’t been too nice to you, either :/ Surprisingly people seem to quite like this month’s prompts – I thought they might be tough ones to write about! I am always surprised, in that sense 🙂 I too, need to work on quieting my external and internal environments, and listen to what I’m really saying to myself. - [ Niamh Kane ](https://chronicbodylove.wordpress.com) Apr 1, 2019 Thanks for continuing to give us the linkup opportunity while your health is undergoing so many processes of illness and healing. I think your Netflix and chill with whiskey plan is a keeper. Anyway its medicinal whiskey. I am sorry to hear you’ve been battling all those curveballs I hope the rest and your birthday orchestra fill your heart to the brim. Take care! Niamh xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 1, 2019 Aww, thanks Niamh! I do wonder every month, ‘will I make it in time to release next month’s prompts?!’. But the backup plan anyway will probably be to release them anyway, without sharing my own experience if the month gets real bad 🙂 Yea, curveballs are no fun, but they keep life ‘interesting’ I guess. And I like your perspective of medicinal whiskey 😉 We all need breaks from different parts of life from time to time I suppose. I hope you are coping well yourself x - Selina Apr 1, 2019 So sorry for all the extra illness you’ve been going through. It just stinks when more piles on you. Hoping your time of rest will help your body recover and bring renewed strength and hope. Thinking of you! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 1, 2019 Hi Selina, thank you. Am rest extra rest time will help, and it does happen to us all unfortunately hey! Let’s hope the year gets more awesome for us all from here on 😉 - [ Despite Pain ](https://www.despitepain.com) Mar 31, 2019 You’ve had such a difficult time recently, Sheryl. I hope that April does bring some quiet time so you can recharge your batteries. Take care of yourself. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 31, 2019 Thank you Liz. It’s been trying, I’d say, therefore the need for even more (endless heh) rest! Let’s hope we all gain more health and energy as the year goes on 😉 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### It's Just One of Those Nights (Poetry on Steroids) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/one-of-those-nights-poetry-steroids/ Last updated: 2025-10-26T16:29:09.000Z This poem was written during the peak of my struggles with steroid therapy for Lupus (SLE) as a teenager, when I was first prescribed them. If you would like to understand a little more about the side effects and how they affected me, the article can be found here: [**High Dose Steroids: The First Question You Will Definitely Ask**](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/). *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Poetry, Medications & Chronic Pain Boards: ![It's Just One of Those Nights (Poetry on Steroids)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pinpoem21.jpg) ## It's Just One of Those Nights The feelings are all churning In an inner sea of bile. Painfully raw they’re burning But you touch them, most servile. Those opportunistic bastards Finally have you cornered. You don’t want to feed them, But they’re waiting to feed you. Don’t you understand? They won’t let you die; Who will starve for you then? It’s just one of those nights. Guilt’s will is iron but false, And sorrow always has her way; They care about neither of yours. Making friends quickly today, They convince you that it was you, Who wanted to be their friend. They hang around all day, Smoking all your cigarettes Without ever needing to pay. And you think it’s alright, Because you befriended them first. It’s just one of those nights. Your daydreams lose their influence, So at night memory sweats in labour, Hoping to find some semblance, To something you can’t remember, And won’t remember when you wake. The lies of this ugly world, Trickle past skin unscathed. Meandering in a poisonous path, Death the journey and goal. You’re really dreaming of sleep, Even as you dream while sleeping. It’s just one of those nights. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Is Seeking Help for Your Mental Health Worth It?](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [A String of Bad Days (and What Happened When That Good Day Finally Came Along)](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/) Pin to Your Poetry, Medications & Chronic Pain Boards: ![It's Just One of Those Nights (Poetry on Steroids)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pinpoem1.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Kirsten Mar 5, 2019 You’re really talented Sheryl! I’m looking forward to read more poetry on your blog. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 6, 2019 Aww, thank you Kirsten! This was written when I was maybe 20, I rarely write poetry these days, but I should! I was pretty ‘old school’ and read quite a bit of poetry by Milton (my fav!), Tennyson, Edgar Allen Poe, etc. I really admired the way they constructed such lyrical, methodical yet emotional stuff 🙂 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### March 2019: Epic Fail and Redefining Success URL: https://achronicvoice.com/epic-fail-redefining-success-march-2019/ Last updated: 2025-11-12T15:48:27.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Epic Fail of What I Set Out to Do Last Month So, [**my plan for ‘honouring and reviving my youth’ in February**](https://achronicvoice.com/february-2019-awaken-life-within-me/) was an epic fail 😛 Note to self: pushing past my regular boundaries do [**trigger fairly long setbacks**](https://achronicvoice.com/triggers-trigger-triggers-re-stabilisation/), just in case I forget - which I did. Well I didn’t really, but after all these years of a rather conservative and paced lifestyle, I just wanted to try and push the bubble a little, and it burst. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Healthy Lifestyle Boards: ![March 2019 Prompts: Failing, Succeeding, Pausing, Deciding and Thriving](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_march-writing-prompts-1-1-2-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Death by Chinese New Year 'Festivities' It was Chinese New Year (CNY) and the beginnings of a cold, which rapidly morphed into bronchitis. CNY lasts for 15 days, and there are certain events that you must attend, ‘for your own good’. There is the important family reunion dinner, where relatives from everywhere gather to share a meal. Then we mix and toss lo hei, which signifies good health, good luck, good everything for the year ahead - how can you not attend that? Reunion dinner is also a rather 'sacred' day for honouring your elders. The next day, CNY officially begins, where you mingle with other family members, usually at the house of each grandparent. It’s a great time (or bad, depending on how you view it) to catch up and bond with relatives you rarely see. They're usually full day events that are boisterous and festive, full of non-stop eating, drinking, playing, and making merry. However, these events combined with a few other life responsibilities did me in. I have yet to make a full recovery from the bronchitis after a month. The endless coughing also triggered some Lupus inflammation in my chest area, which then led to a pulled muscle, which makes coughing even more painful. An [**endless cycle of pain**](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/). ### How Do 'Regular' People Do It?! Yes, I'm whining here 😉 It isn't fair don't you think, that we need to rest in bed for more than a month, just to recover from something so mild, when others heal up whilst still going about their regular activities in full swing? It's a [**superpower that the average human being possesses**](https://achronicvoice.com/superpowers-average-human/) that never fails to amaze me. As a result, I have been neglecting paid jobs I had taken up, much less making new friends or living vivaciously. What was I thinking, hey? But I’ll try again once I’m better. For now, I can't do much but rest. ## The Need to Shift My Perspective on What 'Success' Means [**Success is a vague thing**](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/). The definition is variable and subjective, to each their own. I tend to see overachievement as the benchmark, and 'plain old achievement’ as 'just okay'. Why? I’m not quite sure. What I do know is that pride was my biggest character flaw prior to falling ill, which also meant that I always strove to be the 'best'. ### Pain has a Way of Breaking Your Pride I had my pride broken when I [**suffered unbearable pain for months on end at 17**](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/), and which I nearly died from. [Pain is a harsh teacher](https://sicklessons.com/). It humbles you. It dunks your head into a pool of piss, and forces you to ponder life’s big questions as you drown. Then it pulls you up for a breath of air, before repeating the process all over again. I thought that the last traces of useless pride had been dunked out of me back then, but perhaps a subconscious trace of it remains. A little part that even I am unfamiliar with, and am unsure of how to ‘solve’. ### Redefining Success & Transforming the Journey There into a More Pleasant One What I do know is that I need to learn to break down my ‘successes’ into bite-sized pieces. I am result-oriented, and tend to view something as a success only upon completion. I minimise the process to get there, which isn’t fair either. I need to learn how to view them on a more singular basis. Every paragraph I write, every hour I spend working on something - these are also successes in their own right. Without these micro successes, there is no macro outcome. I need to [**learn how to be grateful**](https://achronicvoice.com/value-gratitude/) and celebrate a little for every small win. I need to change my perspective towards them, so that I can live life with not just more happiness, but also less stress and needless pressure. > "Without these micro successes, there is no macro outcome." Read Related Posts: - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [You Don’t Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) - [Every Next Level of Your Life Will Demand a Different You](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [7 Proven Strategies to Stay Resilient No Matter What Happens (from A to G)](https://achronicvoice.com/strategies-stay-resilient/) ## Hitting Pause on the Blogging Schedule for a Month After laying in bed for a month and having committed to a few paid jobs, I will have less time for blogging this month. I tend to be an ‘all or nothing’ type of person, and once I lose momentum I tend to just let go. (I’m an Aries girl - if that makes any sense, or if you’re into that kind of thing. Apparently we’re great at kicking projects off, but bad at maintaining them 😉 ) I don’t have any new articles in the pipeline for now, and thinking about creating some makes me feel stressed out on top of work. I don’t know how some of you do it - juggling work, kids, and blogging all at the same time. I truly admire your ability to pace, and tenacity to continue blogging despite the pain and fatigue. Blogging was my ‘full time job’ for a while, so to speak. Whilst I didn’t make a lot of money doing it, the number of hours I put in is equivalent to a full time job. My blog is now 3 years old, so I think taking a month off isn’t so bad. I’ll be using the time to earn some money, refresh my mind and to read more books, so that I can recharge those writing batteries. That isn't to say that I will not be posting at all, but more of releasing myself from the pressure of sticking to a publishing schedule. (Seriously, who cares except for me?) I will also continue to update and share articles from the archives, as there are many pieces that are still relevant, and could use a facelift. Read Related Posts: - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) - [A Quarterly Reflection: 12 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned](https://achronicvoice.com/quarterly-reflection-life-lessons-learned/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) ## Making Better Decisions in My Diet & Eating Habits I know that I’ve said this umpteeth times, but I really need to improve my diet. The major health pillars in life are sleep, diet and exercise. That goes for every human being, not just those with chronic illness. I think that out of these three pillars, fixing my diet should be the ‘easiest’ to keep consistent for me. Exercise is possible, but my energy levels fluctuate by the day, even by the hour, so a regular schedule can be hard to maintain. Sleep has always been an issue for me. I'm just a nightstalker who wishes that she could be a morning lark. That's because I actually do enjoy, am most productive, and create my best work between 4 - 7am! Also, my psychiatrist is doing some experiments with one of my drugs, so I guess sleep will be variable for now. When I say ‘easy’ in relation to food, I don’t mean easy in the sense where I can whip out nutritious meals three times a day, do fasts or cleanses, or follow a diet protocol. I suck at them all, or [**can’t do so for medical reasons**](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/). ### Changes I *Can* Make to Work Towards a Healthier Diet But I *can* make a decision to select the healthier option whenever I need to eat. There is no excuse for me, living in a first world country with easy access to food all day long. Even if I’m ordering takeaway, I can order something ‘cleaner’ than McDonald’s. I can select organic pantry supplies, healthier snacks and ‘emergency foods’ (we all have them, don’t we?), when shopping for groceries. That way, when I’m hungry and reach out for something to eat in the kitchen, my available options are immediately better than a bag of chips. I also want to cook a little more. Whilst I love to eat, I don't enjoy cooking - but there's no pressure to make my dinners restaurant standard, is there? There's no one to expect anything of me; the only person that has to stomach it is me 😉 I’ll start with simple, nutritious meals, even if it’s eating just to eat as a routine human thing. I know that tasty meals don’t have to be difficult to make, but I just don’t want to add pressure on myself ensuring that. For now, the goal is simply to increase the nutrition in my meals. Read Related Posts: - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) - [Is Yoga Accessible for People with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/) - [How Much Time Are You Wasting On Sleep?](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/) ## These Tiny Lifestyle Changes are Key to Thriving as a Human Being In continuation to the prompt above, these small, conscious decisions that we make on a daily basis will serve to nourish, and in turn help us to thrive, even if it may not feel like it in the moment. Thriving is often associated with mindful practices, thoughts and perspectives. But it can also be an automated, systematic, calculated thing, through the establishment of routines and healthy habits. Ones where you don’t even need to think about after a while. They may be the ‘boring’ stuff, nothing esoteric or mind blowing, such as going to bed earlier. These little kinks in my lifestyle are those that I’d like to iron out if possible. And they **are** possible, if done step by baby step 🙂 Thank you for reading my March 2019 entry. See you next month! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. 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Read Related Posts: - [Keeping Up with the World: Why it’s Important Despite Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) - [Life is a Long Process of Becoming Into…](https://achronicvoice.com/life-is-a-long-process-of-becoming-into/) - [#projChronicWisdom: Simple Pleasures I Can Enjoy While Stuck in Bed with Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/projchronicwisdom-simple-pleasures-enjoy-pain/) - [The Secret of Change: Spend Your Energy Wisely with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/secret-of-change/) - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Healthy Lifestyle Boards: ![March 2019 Prompts: Failing, Succeeding, Pausing, Deciding and Thriving](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_march-writing-prompts-4-1-2-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Alice Mar 28, 2019 I think we are all always on a mission to improve our diets ☺️ Small steps are definitely more sustainable. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 28, 2019 Neverending quest for me, at least, heh. It is soooo easy to eat badly 😮 - Kathy Mar 27, 2019 Hi, Sheryl! I enjoyed learning about Chinese New Year. I didn’t realize that you celebrated for so many days. Lo Hei sounds fun. I can so relate to holiday celebrations being completely exhausting even when you are trying to balance rest with activity. Thank you once again for great prompts! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 27, 2019 Hi Kathy! Well we don’t celebrate for 15 days straight lol, but people still do visit friends and family within this timeframe. The busiest days are the eve and then the first 2 – 3 days. Yes they’re so exhausting, aren’t they?! But I suppose, also part and parcel of life and living. Sending lots of love! x - Raisie Bay (@RaisieBay) Mar 23, 2019 I can relate to so much you talk about in this post. Your analogy of pain is spot on. I’m also with you on the diet thing…some things I eat make me feel really ill, but I still go ahead and punish myself. Why don’t I ever learn. Also, the success thing, yes, micro successes have to be counted. I haven’t written a post for this month but as it’s nearly April (how did that happen?) I’ll look out for the next prompts. gentle hugs x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 24, 2019 Hey Raisie, thanks for dropping by and reading 🙂 It’s sad, but I’m glad we’re not alone. And yes, it’s nearly the end of the month. New prompts coming up soon! 😉 Never feel pressured to participate though, that’d be the last thing I’d want. Sending lots of good thoughts x - [ Despite Pain ](https://www.despitepain.com) Mar 21, 2019 Sheryl, I’ve taken part in your link up for the first time this month, so I want to thank you for the inspiration. I am so sorry you’ve been having such a difficult time recently, and I hope that things start to improve for you soon. Tak care of yourself x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 21, 2019 Thanks so much for joining us, we are definitely happy to have you with us! 🙂 Yea hasn’t been a good year so far, let’s hope it gets better for us all! x - Lisa Ehrman Mar 10, 2019 I know exactly what you mean by improving the diet. I keep having great intentions, but can’t seem to be consistent. I’m just too sick many days to cook. I love cooking and baking, but haven’t been able to do it everyday. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 10, 2019 Yea..chronic pain doesn’t care about .good intentions, huh 😉 Haha and you enjoy baking and cooking! I don’t really so you can see the extra struggle :p I do hope you get some ‘up days’ to do what you like, though! x - [ Alison B Hayes ](https://www.thrivingwhiledisabled.com) Mar 9, 2019 HI Sheryl, Thanks so much for doing these prompts…they definitely have been good food for thought! So sorry you have been struggling through bronchitis…I caught it this year too and lost several months to it and that cycle of recovery/extra health complications. The thriving process is one of small positive changes over time all added together, and I am still trying to get myself rebalanced after about 4 months of dropping balls. Keep going, you’re doing great! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 10, 2019 Oh dear…several months cut out from the year for bronchitis sounds bad!! I’m sorry to hear that 🙁 Yea the longer healing process really sucks, but what do you do, hey? No choice but to wait it out, and glad it’s not something worse :/ I’m glad that the prompts have been good food for thought for you, and I hope they help in some way. Sending gentle hugs! x - [ Rhiann ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com) Mar 9, 2019 Hi Sheryl Once again, thank you so much for giving us all such brilliant prompts to use. I have really enjoyed writing the entry for this month. I am sorry that you had a hard time during February but sounds like you managed to have a lovely time celebrating Chinese New Year with family. I really hope that March is much kinder to you, Take care Rhiann x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 9, 2019 You’re welcome, Rhiann. I’m glad the prompts were to your liking for March 🙂 Feb was rough for me, but it was nothing compared to a bad flare. Crazy how we calculate degrees of pain so specifically, huh! :p Thank you and wishing that for you too! x - Niamh Mar 7, 2019 Hi Sheryl I’m sorry you had such a fallout and crashed so hard. It’s always such a wake up call but it sounds like you had some quality family time and celebrations, sometimes it’s worth the effort but I can’t imagine the resilience you had to push through all that! You do not have to earn the right to whine but if you did you’d have free range! x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 7, 2019 Aww thanks Niamh! Haha I never really hide my pain, but I try not to whine too much, there’s a difference I think – if you get what I mean! 😉 And yea I’m still crashing but I don’t regret anything I guess because it’s recover-able from I suppose. 🙂 But damn…it sure is taking a long time haha! x - [ Katherine ](https://khmerkronicle.blogspot.com/) Mar 7, 2019 Wow, I love the picture of pride, you write in such a powerful way! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 7, 2019 Hi Katherine, you meant in my ‘What Hell Feels Like’ article? Heh. It does feel that way, doesn’t it? Pain is the most cruel of all teachers, and the one we pay the most attention, perhaps. 🙂 - Nikki Michelle Albert Mar 6, 2019 Lately, I am conservating my energy. There is a lot I could be doing and should be doing but I am on pause. I don’t like it much because it feels like I Should do Something, but hell, standing is just so much effort. But we get through, eh? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 6, 2019 I totally get you, having been on bedrest nearly all day last month, and you need to do it for longer than that 🙁 The anxiety and guilt of just ‘waiting’ can feel awful. But I keep reminding myself of this post I wrote: [https://www.achronicvoice.com/2018/12/26/bad-days-good-day/ ](https://achronicvoice.com/2018/12/26/bad-days-good-day/)which does help me a little 🙂 Sending love xxx **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### 7 Proven Strategies to Stay Resilient No Matter What Happens (from A to G) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/strategies-stay-resilient/ Last updated: 2026-03-24T07:18:07.000Z ## An Introduction From “A Chronic Voice” On Angela & Strategies to Stay Resilient Angela wrote “[**I May Be Chronically Ill, but I'm Also Chronically Resilient**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronically-ill-resilient/)” on our blog last year, and she’s now back with a follow up piece! In the previous article, she talked about a system which she had developed for herself called the ‘3Rs of Resilience’. For a brief recap, she stated that resilience exists in three forms: - Staying Robust on challenging days - Regenerating when faced with setbacks - Radiating on good days In this new article, she shares seven techniques from [Positive Psychology Interventions](https://www.researchgate.net/publication/304930527%5FPositive%5FPsychology%5FInterventions%5FAn%5FOverview). Whilst there are many strategies out there, these are her personal favourites, and ones she learned in her Positive Psychology class. She hopes that they will also help to build your resilience up further. Let’s get started, with Angela's A to G strategies to stay resilient no matter what happens! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Mental Health & Pain Management Boards: ![7 Proven Strategies To Stay Resilient No Matter What Happens (From A To G)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/proven-strategies-stay-resilient-a-to-g.jpg) ## A is for Developing Self-AWARENESS All personal growth starts with self-awareness, and developing resilience is no different. My favourite quote about self-awareness is by [Lao Tzu, the wise Chinese philosopher](https://www.iep.utm.edu/laozi/), who said: > “Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power.” Self-awareness is about [**knowing our own needs, strengths and weaknesses**](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/). When we understand ourselves better, we can use strategies with more precision to deal with our good and bad days. We develop self-awareness by being aware of our emotions, thoughts, habits, behaviours and reactions. We can ask ourselves then, why we feel, think and behave the way we do. The more we understand ourselves, the more we can use this knowledge to make improvements. ### Double-Loop vs Single-Loop Learning [Professor Chris Argyris called this ‘double-loop learning’](https://www.forbes.com/sites/berlinschoolofcreativeleadership/2014/06/25/remembering-the-lessons-of-harvard-business-school-professor-chris-argyris-1923-2013/#4bc0f5f12d76), which differs from single-loop learning. In single-loop learning, we modify the method to get the result we want. Whereas in double-loop learning, the object itself needs to change to achieve the desired result. Thus, we can change our mental models by being self-aware, and through that, develop better and more creative strategies for dealing with life's adversities. I have developed a sense of self-awareness through handling my own chronic endometriosis pain. I now understand my own pain threshold, and how far I can push myself. I am aware of and admit to my limitations, so that I can [**reach out for help when needed**](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/), without compromising my independence, nor becoming over-reliant or fearful of my conditions. Read Related Posts: - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) ## B is for Mindful BREATHING Mindful breathing is a simple exercise; all we need to do is to focus on our own breath. Instead of allowing the challenges to overpower us with stressful thoughts, we [**take a moment to pace our breath**](https://achronicvoice.com/just-breathing-enough-today-poem/) instead. Observe these breaths, and lengthen each in and out breath gradually over time. Through this focus on breathing, we can let go of stressful thoughts, even if it's for a brief moment. This allows us to re-centre and recharge our mental capacities, to deal with the challenges at hand. I find mindful breathing a huge help when it comes to dealing with chronic pain. I visualise where the pain is within my body, and breathe into it. Then I imagine the pain leaving my body with every exhale, and with that pain is often reduced. This gives me the clarity of mind to seek out the right treatments, instead of becoming overwhelmed with distress and panic. ## **C is for Developing CREATIVITY** [Edward De Bono's quote on creativity](https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/8197985-creativity-involves-provocation-exploration-and-risk-taking-creativity-involves-thought) says it all: > “Creativity involves provocation, exploration and risk taking. Creativity involves 'thought experiments'. You cannot tell in advance how the experiment is going to turn out. But you want to be able to carry out the experiment.” Sometimes all it takes is a little creativity to solve a problem in life. Creativity requires us to look at things[**from a different perspective**](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/), or to apply a new approach to the solution. It calls for flexibility and a measure of risk-taking, to try that new method out. Challenging situations can be a good time for us to flex our creative muscles. We don’t have to use the same old methods, especially if they have never worked that well. We can try new approaches, in search of breakthroughs and growth. The [**unpredictability of chronic pain**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) often catches me off guard. It hits me hard, when I don’t have my medications with me. So all I can do is to apply creativity to [**try and manage the pain**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/). From my own experiments, I have noticed that drinking hot beverages help, especially coffee. I later learned that the caffeine helps to reduce inflammation, thus the pain that comes along with it! Creativity can also manifest as a perspective change about the situation I'm in, which frees me up from feelings of self-pity. Read Related Posts: - [Keeping Up with the World: Why it’s Important Despite Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [Every Next Level of Your Life Will Demand a Different You](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) ## D is for Growth Despite DISCOMFORT [**Bad days don’t last forever**](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/), and good days are the best times for pushing ourselves to grow a little more. It is important to learn how to live well with discomfort, especially for those with chronic illnesses, because discomfort is our shadow. Hence I don’t let myself become complacent on the good days. I maintain my wellness through regular exercise, healthy eating, and continue to build up good habits. In fact, I set higher goals and push myself harder on the good days at times, so that I can grow in strength and tenacity. But there are also those days where we simply can’t handle anything anymore. For those with chronic illnesses, such days are frequent. It is then necessary for us to rest and regenerate, sometimes at the expense of interrupting work and social commitments. The amount of timeout we need to take to deal with out health problems can prove extra challenging, because it goes beyond the physical aspects. We are often burdened with emotional ‘add-ons’ such as guilt, shame and worries that we are letting others down. As such, it is important that we apply the next three strategies to help us cope with the bad days, and to regenerate faster and better. Read Related Posts: - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [How to Survive the Holidays When Chronic Illness & Disability Cause Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/survive-the-holidays-chronic-illness-disability-pain/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [Is Yoga Accessible for People with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/) - [The Chronic Pain Cycle & How to Break It (Top Tips From an Occupational Therapist)](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/) ## E is for Self-EMPATHY Self-empathy is the process of bringing the focus back upon ourselves, and to attend to the feelings and needs that arise with kindness. It differs from self-pity, which has an element of blame to it. Self-empathy allows us to [**feel our emotions without guilt**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/). It is easy to feel anger and frustration when you're chronically ill, what with all the interruptions in life. Instead of berating ourselves or judging our needs and feelings, we can practice empathy to understand them better. One way to do so is to [**keep a journal, where you can explore questions**](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) with an emphasis on empathy such as, “What am I feeling?”, and “What do I need?”. ## F is for FORGIVENESS The Cambridge dictionary defines ‘forgiveness’ as: > “To stop blaming or being angry with someone for something that person has done, or not punish them for something.” Part of the empathy process is to also reach a point where we [forgive ourselves](https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/turning-straw-gold/201601/how-live-compassionately-forgive-yourself-forgive-others), for not being well enough to keep up with some of the commitments in life. ## G is for GRATITUDE Finally, practising gratitude for things both big and small helps us to tide through the most difficult times in life. - Gratitude helps us to realise that even during the worst of times, there are still things to be grateful for. - Gratitude encourages us to maintain focus on those good things. - Gratitude helps us to keep faith and hope. It isn’t hard to practice gratitude; all we need to do is to [**list down a few things that we're grateful for**](https://achronicvoice.com/value-gratitude/) on a daily basis. I personally find that journaling about my chronic pain, then ending it with a gratitude checklist brings comfort and peace. ## In Conclusion to Strategies to Stay Resilient No Matter What Over the past decade, I have consistently used these strategies to deal with chronic pain and other adversities in life. They help me to help myself in so many ways. These strategies ensure that I don't stagnate on the bad days, and radiate on the good ones. They help me to stay robust while facing challenges, and to regenerate faster when knocked down. When I was first diagnosed with pre-cancerous endometriosis, I was filled with depression and fear. There was a lot of shame, and it was hard for me to explain to people about my condition. Now, I am able to face my condition with hope and optimism, and am able to talk about it with candour. These techniques that I learned from Positive Psychology have worked so well for me that I am now pursuing my Masters in it. Armed with these strategies, I am now able to manage longer working hours, without crumbling to the mental and physical discomforts. It does take time and continuous effort for these strategies to work, however. Sometimes when I think that I’ve got it nailed, I stumble yet again. But so long as I can get back on my feet and practice these resilience strategies again, I know that I will return to vitality once more. I hope that these strategies will be of help to you, as they have been for me. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Strategies to Stay Resilient & Mental Health Boards: ![How to Stay Resilient with Chronic Pain (An A – Z Guide by Angela)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-stay-resilient-chronic-pain-a-to-z-guide.jpg) **Contributor Bio:** ![Blank Profile Photo](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/blank-profile.jpg) Angela suffers from pre-cancerous endometriosis, yet lives an active life whenever she gets the chance. She believes in living life to the fullest and started [Pod Of Life](https://www.facebook.com/podoflife), which promotes and trains people on resilience. ### References: - Argyris, C. (1993). Knowledge for Action: A Guides to Overcoming Barriers to Organizational Change. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass Publishers. - Debono, E. (1970). Lateral Thinking: Creativity Step by Step. Harper & Row ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Elizabeth Auwarter Feb 23, 2019 This is great advice! I especially need to work on the forgiveness aspect. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 23, 2019 Hi Elizabeth, forgiveness definitely is a tough one, whether towards others or ourselves! Sending good thoughts 🙂 - Kirsten Feb 18, 2019 WOW! Such wise words. I loved this interesting approach. I’m defnitely saving this one! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 19, 2019 I agree! Angela is really good with nailing resiliency strategies down 😀 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### February 2019: Hopes to Awaken Life Within Me Again URL: https://achronicvoice.com/february-2019-awaken-life-within-me/ Last updated: 2025-11-12T15:54:21.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Making Adjustments for 'Regular' Kind of Things January has been a pretty tough month for me, in terms of life changes of the 'normal' kind. At least no new health issues to add to the list for now, hey? 😉 I’ve had to adjust to many lifestyle changes, but this new routine should settle down soon enough. After all, we were made to adapt and survive as human beings 🙂 *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![February 2019 Prompts: Adjusting, Hoping, Surviving, Befriending & Awakening](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_feb-prompts-2-2-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ## Making Changes In Hope of a Better Life In continuation to the prompt above, I hope to gain some clarity and answers as to which direction I should move towards in life. [**Like I said in January**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-hold-break-it-january-2019/), I feel like I’ve been drifting on an open ocean aimlessly for far too long. Now’s the perfect time to do something about it, being a ‘[**new year**](https://achronicvoice.com/new-year-duties-life/)’ and all, hey? Sometimes change is brought about through action, and at other times it means to wait things out with patience. It’s a combination for me this time, as I hit the pause button on certain things, and the play button on others. Kind of like an ‘experiment’, if you will, to see what impacts and thus matters to my life more. This might take me a few months to decipher, but as they say, time will tell! ## Surviving the Freelance World I haven’t had a real job for years, but of late I’ve been seeking more opportunities out. I'm fresh on the web development scene again, so I need to familiarise myself with it, and 'fight' for jobs if I want to survive in the competitive world of freelancing. Hopefully as time goes by I will manage to regain a foothold, and balance things out a little. For now, I will have to just take it as a reorientation and learning process. If you’ve noticed a little more silence from me on the blogging side of things, this is why. I have limited energy to spare with chronic illness, so for now I’m putting work as my number one priority every day, including some weekends. It actually feels good to be negotiating and earning some form of salary again. Time will tell if this is sustainable, because my body tends to protest after 3 months or so of working any job, and I'm starting to feel fatigued already. Pacing will have to be my closest ally during this period; no one else can take care of me except me, for matters such as this. Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [It is \*Always\* Possible to Make Time for What Matters Most](https://achronicvoice.com/make-time-what-matters-most/) - [The Secret of Change: Spend Your Energy Wisely with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/secret-of-change/) - [Life is a Long Process of Becoming Into…](https://achronicvoice.com/life-is-a-long-process-of-becoming-into/) - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) ## Trying to Expand My Friendship Circle & Perspectives in Life I’ve also been trying to [**get out of my bubble**](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/). You may have read in my previous entries that I enjoy spending time alone, but to my surprise even I have a limit for that. [**Years of isolation**](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) can have a negative effect on your mental health, no matter how much you enjoy being on your own. I’ve actually been craving for more human connection, and have been putting in a little more effort to seek this out. I'm trying to befriend and interact with people from totally different circles, so that I can expand my perspectives even more. I would also like to [**rekindle or maintain certain friendships**](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) that matter to me. ## I Want to Awaken Life in Me Again This February I would like to awaken my passion for life and feel alive again. Being semi-depressed all day every day is no fun, and no way to live out the rest of my life. Whilst a large part of these mental issues are unavoidable due to my illnesses and medications, I am also responsible for the things within my control. They may not be much, but every little bit counts, and sometimes it’s that last tiny boost that propels you forward and upward. I want to desire life again. I want something worth fighting for. Yes I know I advocate for certain issues through my blog, but I need even greater personal purpose within my own life. I’m going to let myself go in February, and let life lead the way. I’ll let you know where I end up, if I arrive anywhere at all 😉 Thank you for reading my February 2019 entry. You can [**continue with the March 2019 entry here**](https://achronicvoice.com/epic-fail-redefining-success-march-2019/). ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. 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Read Related Posts: - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![February 2019 Prompts: Adjusting, Hoping, Surviving, Befriending & Awakening](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_feb-prompts-1-2-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Niamh Kane Feb 26, 2019 Hi Sheryl I just realised I commented on February 2018 post lol brain fog much! Anyway both articles I learned something from. Well done on your job I used to be a freelance graphic designer but that job is pretty much dead especially print I’ve been considering upskilling to web skills myself and I even got out of my comfort zone and applied for a weekend job totally unaware if I can manage it yet, but at least we’re willing to do our best. Good luck with your experiment I can’t wait to hear how it works out for you! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 26, 2019 Hi Niamh, haha no worries, thanks for reading them both! :p Totally get the brain fog…in fact we’re trying more med changes to see if it helps with my own brain fog issues! And nice to know that you’re a graphic designer! Perhaps we can collaborate in future. Our fogginess should produce some interesting results at least, hey? 😉 Yes I’ll let you know in the upcoming March prompts how that went ;p x - Suzanne (FibroMomBlog) Feb 22, 2019 I totally get what you are going through. I have been feeling lost and trying figure out what I’m “supposed” to be doing right now. My job is making me more sick- but I’ve been doing this job for over 20 years. I am trying to get my degree to do what I really want to do, but that takes time. I’m glad that you are going to see where life takes you. I hope it takes you somewhere good where you find a passion and sense of well-being and purpose. I was nervous about hitting publish on this month’s post for the link up party. I did it a little differently and I really bared my soul. It’s kinda scary….. Anyway, thank you for your continued support, encouragement and motivation! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 22, 2019 Hi Suzanne, thanks! It’s good to know someone else ‘gets it’, though like my partner says, at the end of the day many of us don’t know where we’re going anyway even if healthy heh. I can’t wait to read your entry when I get some time later. Thank you for sharing and baring your soul. In my limited experience, those are the pieces that really resonate with others and also encourages them, and takes a lot of courage to write. So thank you for that 🙂 Sending gentle hugs! - Marya Mom Mesa Feb 18, 2019 I understand the energy and trying to work. I still need two hour naps. I hope your new direction works out for you and that you find some local friends. I know how hard that is. It was easier in middle school, and I’m not kidding! I still talk to those people, but adult friendships just come and go. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 19, 2019 Haha I am so far…failing at my plans as February goes along :p Which we shall talk about in March :p Sadly friendships can clash with so many other life requirements, and it’s easy to just let them go 🙁 - [ Rhiann ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com) Feb 16, 2019 Thanks again for the brilliant prompts for this month, they were very inspiring and really enjoyed attempting to fit them into a cohesive post! I can relate with your thoughts on befriending. Spending so much time stuck in the house and alone I often miss spending time with people besides my parents! And wishing and hoping that I will find opportunities to connect with others and widen my social circle. Wishing you all the best for your plans and hope they find you to exactly where you want to be. Again thank you for the opportunity to take part and connect with so many other bloggers. Rhiann x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 16, 2019 Hi Rhiann, haha, so far I’ve taken a blow healthwise from ‘so much’ socialising. ‘So much’ 😉 But it’s okay. I wanted to have a taste again! And I’m really happy that you found the prompts inspiring and not tedious. Sometimes I wonder if I’m too serious and hand out too boring prompts 😉 Wishing you a fab Feb! x - Nikki Feb 6, 2019 I hope the freelance work works out for you and you can balance it with chronic illness. I can say on the isolation and hermit side of things, isolation makes depression worse for me. But I am introverted so I do not realize how isolated I am right away… because I am cool with alone time. So a few years back I made an effort to make some friends and do game nights and that sort of thing… and it does make you feel good mentally and emotionally. But, of course, there is a price to be paid for it as with all things chronic illness… still, worth it - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 6, 2019 Thanks Nikki! It’s never been easy to balance for me. Even after so many years of living with chronic pain and knowing the importance of pacing, I still forget about it in the heat of the moment, or fool myself into thinking I can handle it :p Yes seeing people definitely helps, no matter how much we like our alone time. I think it’s even more crucial because I no longer work full time. Perhaps in the past those interactions on a daily basis were half superficial, so you just want to get away and ‘rest’ from peopling. But when you’re on your own and even if you go to meet people who are not your ‘type’, it’s a choice and isn’t quite so bad. - Lisa Ehrman Feb 2, 2019 I hope you have success with your blogging jobs. And, I hope that your personal goals are leading you to where you need to be. 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 2, 2019 Thanks Lisa 🙂 It’s too early to tell, but I have my fingers and toes crossed! 😉 x - Kathy Feb 2, 2019 I wish you all the best in your new endeavors, Sheryl! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 2, 2019 Thanks dearie. Life is always new in some ways, isn’t 😉 xx - Kirsten Feb 1, 2019 Good luck with your new job Sheryl! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 2, 2019 Thanks Kirsten! Not really a single job…just freelancing 🙂 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### How to Use the Tetris Effect to Invite Positivity Back into Your Life, Despite Chronic Illness URL: https://achronicvoice.com/tetris-effect-positivity-chronic-illness/ Last updated: 2026-04-07T15:48:38.000Z ## What’s the Tetris Effect Got to do with Chronic Illness? Wait! Don’t stop reading – I’m definitely not about to start talk about gaming! While the Tetris effect may have started out with a phenomenon identified from heavy video game use, the Tetris effect is now used to describe instances when people devote so much time and attention to something that it begins to dominate and alter their thoughts, perceptions and dreams. Okay, so we’ve got that down but how does that relate to life with a chronic illness? Well, as anyone with a chronic illness reading this knows, life with a chronic illness can do just that – dominate our life and if we let it, dominate our thinking. The good news is though that it doesn’t have to! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the author's personal experiences as a patient. *I/We are not medical professionals, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Mental Health & Chronic Illness Boards: ![How to Use the Tetris Effect to Invite Positivity Back into Your Life, Despite Chronic Illness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-to-use-tetris-effect-bring-positivity-life-despite-chronic-illness.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [Keeping Up with the World: Why it’s Important Despite Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [The Subtle Difference Between Saying “Think Positive” and “Stay Positive” to Someone with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/difference-think-positive-stay-positive-chronic-pain/) ## Where My Chronic Illness Issues All Started for Me Here’s how it all began for me. When I first became [**sick with Myalgic Encephalomyelitis**](https://achronicvoice.com/mainstream-me-health-tips/) (ME), it was all about the pain, exhaustion and the losses. If seemed not a moment went by that something did not happen that didn’t remind me of my limitations, losses or pain. As time has gone by, this is all still there and more. Deep layers of unending exhaustion, memory loss, rotating areas of pain, and a few things I’m a bit [**too embarrassed to share**](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/). Soon though, this life became my new norm. That is not to say any of it went away, believe me, it’s right there, every moment, but I’ve [**accepted that this is my life now**](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/), just as I’ve accepted brushing my teeth a few times a day is a must. It just is. For now. ## How I'm Finding the Positives Within My New Normal So, I’m living here in my new norm, but as someone that has always been an optimistic, positive person, I have decided I am not ready to give that up to ME. ME has taken enough pieces of my old life; this was one piece I refused to give up. In fact, I think that I needed to continue to be that person now more than ever. Not only for myself, but knowing how contagious happiness can be, I realized [**I can still contribute**](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) to the world around me by showing what is all still possible despite living a life with extra challenges. This incentivized and motivated me to figure out how to do it. However, what once came innately to me was now going to take a bit of practice. But I was convinced I could get back to that happy place, and eventually it would be a seamless process (and it is!). Read Related Posts: - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) ## ‘Catching’ Positivity Using the Tetris Effect Strategy This again, is where the book “[The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology That Fuel Success and Performance at Work](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0307591549?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=d702dd25bb579e983f13f5efe22d8316&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl)”1 came into play for me. Once again, I’m going to ask you to hang in here with me because you may be wondering why a career-focused book is relevant when keeping your eyes open is a task at times. That’s the beauty of the book – while its title is focused on increasing success and performance at work, there’s not a single principle in it that cannot be applied to life with a chronic illness. To highlight this, I’m going to share with you the Tetris effect strategy that I learned from this book. Big picture speaking, through integrating the Tetris effect into your life, you can [**retrain your brain**](https://achronicvoice.com/rewire-brain-manage-chronic-pain/) simply by surrounding yourself with positivity. Bonus: Positivity is contagious! All of us have “caught” something: let’s catch positivity! And...let’s not just catch it for ourselves but let’s spread it to [**our caregivers and loved ones**](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/). ## Seek Out Opportunities for Positivity and Watch it Spread So, how do we start? First, you need to increase the number of positive opportunities, experiences, and thoughts in your life. To do so, you must repeatedly expose yourself to positive things. The great news is, once you start seeking them out, these positive experiences will naturally just start spilling themselves into your daily life. Now, you may be thinking how can all this ‘spilling’ happen from my couch or bed? It can! We have the opportunity daily to activate the Tetris effect. This is where your choice comes in though. And why it’s so important to choose happiness for yourself – and watch success follow right behind – because you deserve it. ## Know Where and Where Not to Look for Support To help you do this, focus on constantly surrounding yourself with stories of perseverance and success. What does that mean for us? It can mean going or calling into a support group, [**chatting with friends that understand**](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) your condition and support you, watching a feel-good movie, reading a romance novel, [**reviewing your gratitude journal**](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/)...So many possibilities! Trust me, they are there if you seek them out, even from your couch! I should stop for a moment here and talk about what it doesn’t mean, because that can be just as important and ruin any chance for success with this. One example is Facebook. Facebook can be a great source of information and also support, but I also know there are many groups that have a very negative spin to them or their topics of discussion are centered around the group members’ pain. While we all need to vent from time to time, making this your world, or even giving it too much time in your life, can do you harm. Limit or eliminate these experiences from your life as much as you can. It will serve you well. ## Neuroplasticity and the Connection to Pain Also, I should briefly mention neuroplasticity, because that comes into play here too. Bear with me though because I’m not too sciency. Essentially the brain has the ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections throughout life. Neuroplasticity allows the neurons (nerve cells) in the brain to compensate for injury or disease and to adjust their activities in response. So that’s a bunch of science but what does it really mean? It means I can focus on how exhausted beyond exhaustion I am for the next hour, but by doing so I am strengthening those pain neuropathways. Think of it as twine that turns to string that turns to rope. That is what my focus on that pain is doing. I am making it easier for myself to feel that pain. In those moments, my thoughts are working against me. Or, I can distract myself. I can do a puzzle, take a nap, read a book. I can think about [**something that makes me laugh**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/). Anything but that pain. When I do that, yes, that pain is still there, but I am not strengthening the pain sensors in my body. I am weakening them AND I am creating and/or strengthening the positive neuropathways in my body at the same time. ## Use the Tetris Effect to Create a Better Way of Life Okay, back to the Tetris effect! As I mentioned, the more you focus on creating the Tetris effect within yourself, you will soon find yourself drawn to things that make you happy. You will even start to subconsciously seek these moments out. Once you get to this point, it starts to become a way of life. You’ve done it! This newfound perspective will just naturally take over your thinking. And this is where we come full circle to our earlier discussion on neuroplasticity. You have started to make your body work for you as well as your mind. Your mind and body are now working together as one toward a common goal. You! ## A Simple Challenge: Choose Happiness for Yourself What may have started out as a simple video game has extended into a principle that we can choose to integrate into our lives. It most definitely is a choice though and one that you must proactively choose. I know I may still have some doubters at this point, but I ask that you give this strategy a solid chance for a few weeks so you can watch it work its magic. I bet you will be surprised at its effectiveness. And...you have nothing to lose by seeking out positive experiences. So I challenge you to choose happiness, to choose you! Life has given you a challenge; show life it won’t shake your spirit! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read More Posts by Lisa Alioto: - [Find Your Way Back to Happiness with a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/find-happiness-chronic-illness/) - [Mainstream: Can You Talk to Us About ME? (There are Enough ‘Normal’ Health Tips to Go Around Already)](https://achronicvoice.com/mainstream-me-health-tips/) Read Related Posts: - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [Give Your Best Anyway, Even When You’re Feeling Depressed](https://achronicvoice.com/give-your-best-even-when-feeling-depressed/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [#projChronicWisdom: Simple Pleasures I Can Enjoy While Stuck in Bed with Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/projchronicwisdom-simple-pleasures-enjoy-pain/) - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) Pin to Your Mindset, Positive Thinking & Mental Health Boards: ![How to Use the Tetris Effect to Invite Positivity Back into Your Life, Despite Chronic Illness](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_tetris-positivity-1.jpg) **Contributor Bio:** ![Lisa Alioto headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/profile-lisa-alioto-2.jpg) Lisa M. Alioto is a lawyer, career coach, and Myalgic Encephalomyelitis warrior with a strong belief in the power of positivity! She primarily focuses on writing articles about ME, along with invisible and chronic illnesses in general, with the goal of increasing awareness and providing hope, help and support. She is also the Vice President of the MN ME/CFS Alliance. Find her on [Twitter](https://x.com/lisaalioto). Sources: 1. Achor, S. (2010). The happiness advantage: The seven principles of positive psychology that fuel success and performance at work. New York: Broadway Books. ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ dSavannah ](https://dsavannah.com/blog/) Jan 18, 2019 It is SO freaking hard to find your way back to being positive with everything us MEeps deal with. But it can be done. I decided I would be kind, and that meant to myself too. I’m not perfect at it; I have bad days, but the continual practice does make a difference. PS have you seen the movie “What the Bleep Do We Know”? Good stuff. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 18, 2019 Hi Savannah, yes definitely extra difficult when life hands you extra lemons every day! But kindness will do us all good as you said. None of us are perfect, but practice does turn certain things into habits, as Lisa mentioned in this article! Never heard of it, will check it out. Thanks for the tip! - [ David ](https://www.dldbooks.com/davidfaucheux/) Jan 21, 2019 I liked her idea about reading a book. Some are so humorous and o thers just take you to a new and exotic place for a time. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 21, 2019 Yes! Sometimes books or words that don’t seem related bring about some new ideas or way of thinking 🙂 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### 40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/ Last updated: 2026-03-21T15:44:25.000Z ## The Final Instalment to the Pain Flare Series: Pain Management Tips In part one of this series, people shared what their biggest pain flare triggers were. In part two, they shared their best tips for preventing a pain flare. But what happens if you land right smack in the middle of that dreaded pain flare anyway? Do you have a pain management plan in place? Those who live with chronic illnesses are often on a neverending life quest for balance. They need to be aware at all times of the balance in their energy banks, to ensure that they don't overdraw. Yet sometimes, they find themselves in a pain flare anyway, even if they've been practicing self-care daily. [**Chronic illness is just an unpredictable beast**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/). Perhaps pain might get bored and wander away some day, but in the meantime, here's a roundup of best pain management tips from the chronic illness community for riding out that much dreaded pain flare. Read More in the Pain Flare Series: - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) - *40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits) (this post)* Pin to Your Chronic Pain Management Boards: ![40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/40-people-share-best-pain-management-tips-what-do-pain-flare.jpg) ## A Roundup of Best Pain Management Tips from the Community - For Coping with That Unexpected Pain Flare ### 1\. Abbey [ ](https://www.instagram.com/abbeyy%5Fxx/) [ ](https://x.com/xx%5Fabbeyy) “I have warm baths, the heat always helps with extra pain. I try and accomplish something small even if it’s just having a bath or **[changing into different clothes](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/)**, then I don’t feel as bad if I’m sat in bed all day. I think doing something like that helps mentally.” ### 2\. Sreetama “Lying down and making sure my mind is occupied by reading or watching a show.” ### 3\. Alison [ ](https://thrivingwhiledisabled.com/) “**[Take the needed day or two 'off'](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/)** and stop adding things to your plate. Think about what caused the flare, and normalize it (that really is a lot of pressure, anybody would be upset…or ‘that felt really rough, but now we are past the worst of it, and we can do what’s left), and make a plan for next steps as you feel better.” ### 4\. Rachel Hill [ ](https://www.theinvisiblehypothyroidism.com/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/TheInvisibleHypothyroidism/) “Don’t beat yourself up, just give your body what it needs right now. Rest, love and nourishment.” ### 5\. Tom Seaman [ ](https://tomseamancoaching.com/) [ ](https://x.com/dystoniabook1) “There is no way to properly prevent this from happening other than avoiding these situations, so instead I try and go with the flow of the stimuli that tends to overload my system rather than fight it. In other words, I **[sit with it until my body and mind acclimate](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/)**.” ### 6\. Nikki Albert [ ](https://brainlessblogger.ca/) [ ](https://x.com/brainless%5Fblog) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/brainlessblogger/) “At this point I need rest. I also take an Epsom salt bath and a magnesium pill. And I have a balm that is great for really sore areas. Then **[lay down with a heat pad and relax](https://achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-review/)**.” ### 7\. Julie Ryan [ ](https://countingmyspoons.com/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/CountingMySpoons/) [ ](https://x.com/drunkitty2000) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/drunkitty/) “Rest and let it ride. I don’t fight flares or try to push through them. I find that by allowing them to happen and resting into them I can limit how long they last. In addition to rest I find that making sure I stay well hydrated and eat properly when I’m feeling bad helps reduce how long the flare lasts.” ### 8\. Candace [ ](https://bucketsoftea.co.uk/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/buckets%5Fof%5Ftea/) [ ](https://x.com/buckets%5Fof%5Ftea) “Love after yourself and take a step back from life. Never feel guilty for **[asking for help](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/)** and reassurance.” ### 9\. Jo Moss [ ](https://www.facebook.com/ajourneythroughthefog/) [ ](https://x.com/JourneyFog) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/jomoss1975/) “Rest and be kind to yourself. Cancel non-urgent plans, they can wait for another day.” ### 10\. Kyra [ ](https://www.instagram.com/k.jones.designs/) [ ](https://x.com/SaltyBurdNurd) “Rest. Always allow yourself to rest. We live in a busy world where taking time to recover can be looked down on, but you always need to **[make time for yourself and your body](https://achronicvoice.com/make-time-what-matters-most/)**. For muscle issues in particular: a good TENS unit and hot packs can help a lot.” ### 11\. Michelle “Sleep, rest, keep my mind occupied, going to the beach, **[spending time with my animals](https://achronicvoice.com/stress-fatigue-thresholds-suck/)**.” ### 12\. Heather [ ](https://dinosaursdonkeysandms.com/) [ ](https://x.com/dizzythedonkey) “To rest as much as possible, and to just look after myself. To also **[talk to others for support](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/)**.” ### 13\. Jenny [ ](https://www.instagram.com/chronictravell/) [ ](https://x.com/chronictravell) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/thechronictraveller/) “**[Drink sports drinks and blend everything](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/)**.” ### 14\. Rhiann [ ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/MyBrainLesionAndMe/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/serenebutterfly/) [ ](https://x.com/serenebutterfly) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/serenebutterfly/) “Having a ‘self-care box’ has really helped, especially on the days when I am **[unable to get out of bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/)**. My self-care box contains everything that comforts me, enabling me to cope better during times of stress and suffering. Books, magazines, favourite films and TV shows – anything to distract me from pain and other debilitating symptoms.” ### 15\. Lin Shuwen “Reduce walking, lots of cold compress.” ### 16\. Fibro Jedi [ ](https://fibrojedi.me.uk/) [ ](https://x.com/FibroJedi) “Stop, reduce inputs (close computers, turn off phone) and get a book or a drink and focus on that one thing alone.” ### 17\. Ray “Rest and a quick and complete return to my strict routine. Sometimes steroids.” ### 18\. Jessica “Move, rest.” ### 19\. Chronic UTI Australia [ ](https://www.chronicutiaustralia.org.au/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/ChronicUTIAus/) “If a flare up can’t be avoided, people will contact their chronic UTI specialist for advice; temporarily double-up on their medication (ie antimicrobials, d-mannose etc) until symptoms settle; take bicarb soda in water or over the counter cystitis sachets to ease bladder burning; use heat or ice packs over the lower abdomen; take **[anti-inflammatory medication](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/)**; rest in a position that helps ease bladder pain symptoms; be careful with diet while the bladder is raw and unsettled.” ### 20\. Effie [ ](https://risingabovera.com/) “Rest, relax and **[call my doctor](https://achronicvoice.com/is-my-doctor-right-for-me/)**. He’s pretty good at fitting in patients immediately if they are going through a flare up.” Pin to Your Disability & Pain Management Boards: ![What To Do When A Pain Flare Hits. Tips From 40 People With Chronic Illnesses.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/what-to-do-when-pain-flare-hits-tips-people-chronic-illnesses.jpg) ### 21\. Sara Russell [ ](https://sararussellntp.com/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/sararussellntp/) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/sararussellntp/) [ ](https://x.com/sararussellntp) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/sararussellntp/) “I load up on my mast-cell stabilizers and take it really easy for the week or so after the flare.” (**[Read more about Sara's life in Florence, Italy, with chronic illness here](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-florence-chronic-illness-italy/)**.) ### 22\. Carrie Kellenberger [ ](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/) “I have two flare survival kits that help me when I’m flaring. One is in our car and it’s there for when I flare outside of our home. The other is in the drawer beside my bed. Both bags are packed with extra medications, ‘snap’ heating packs, a coloring book and markers, a book, pain patches and pain cream, compression wraps, a small foam pillow, and a soft blanket to wrap up in. Immediate rest is best. I strictly limit my walking and standing time. (**[Some activities are worth a flare, though](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/)**.)” ### 23\. Julie Holliday [ ](https://www.mecfsselfhelpguru.com/blog) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/TheMecfsHolisticCoach) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/mecfsholisticcoach/) “Accept it, **[allow the emotions it triggers](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/)**, but be careful to not add any meaning to it about what it means for the future. Then, to distract myself and make myself as comfortable as possible while I wait for the worst to pass.” ### 24\. Chronically Hopeful Char [ ](https://chronicallyhopeful.com/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/chronicallyhopefulblog) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/chronicallyhopefulblog/) [ ](https://x.com/chronic%5Fhopeful) “There’s no getting round it really. With **[Severe ME](https://achronicvoice.com/me-struggles/)** the flare up happens every time despite my best efforts to prevent it. I will stay in bed for at least two days after my bath, keep my muscles warm, but have cooling pads ready for spinal inflammation and hot flushes. I keep curtains shut and lights off and everybody stays quiet in the house. Only one person can come into my room at a time and they must speak in whispers. They will bring me food and drinks and I will only get up to go to the toilet – I’ll **[use a walker for support](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/)** and wear sunglasses as the bathroom curtains are not the blackout variety. My top tips would be to **[listen to your body](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/)** – rest as much as your body needs you to. Rest well – this includes silence, darkness and warmth. Hydrate and eat well. Use distraction like Netflix, colouring, **[audio books or music](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/)** if you can. Don’t feel guilty – rest is a vital part of managing chronic illness! Be kind to yourself.” ### 25\. Kirsten “Basically waiting till it’s over by resting and trying to distract from the pain by watching funny tv shows/movies, listening to music/podcasts or reading, **[talking to friends](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/)** and family.” ### 26\. Em [ ](https://theladyprince.wordpress.com/) “Knowing that it will pass eventually, **[that what I'm feeling is OK](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/)**, and doing deep breathing techniques. Having someone understanding present always helps too.” ### 27\. Alisha [ ](https://www.instagram.com/h%5Fo%5Fn%5Fh%5Fi%5Fc/) [ ](https://x.com/H%5FO%5FN%5FH%5FI%5FC) “Rest, heat, **[gentle movement and stretching](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/)**.” ### 28\. Kirsten Cliff Elliot [ ](https://helpmyhusbandhasaspergers.wordpress.com/) “Taking everything off the table that I can (i.e. reducing what I have to do as much as possible) in order to **[rest body, mind and soul](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/)**.” ### 29\. Amanda Malachesky [ ](https://confluencenutrition.com/blog/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/confluencenutrition) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/confluencenutrition26/) [ ](https://x.com/malachesky) “Rest, mindfulness, hypnosis, eat well (avoid triggers), hydration, time in nature!” ### 30\. Audrey Housworth “I cope with flare ups by de-stressing. I lay down and try to watch or listen to something funny… Laughter ALWAYS gets me through.” ### 31\. Hell’s Bells and Mast Cells [ ](https://hellsbellsandmastcells.com/2018/02/18/im-allergic-to-my-own-hormones/) [ ](https://x.com/HBMastCells) “Rescue medication, self care, FMLA to **[take time off work](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/)**, and a support system.” ### 32\. Lynn Clark “If I flareup despite my best efforts to thwart it, I give in to it! I don’t try to fight against it by plowing forward despite it. When I have to stop, I stop. If I need to lay down, I lay down. I decided long ago to **[not try to prove anything to anyone](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/)** or any flareup. It is a setup for misery.” ### 33\. Taylor “Solitude and quiet to focus completely on myself, self care and basic needs. Just ride it out until it passes, which it always does.” ### 34\. Pamela Jessen [ ](https://www.instagram.com/pamelajessen/) [ ](https://x.com/pamjessen) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/iampamelajessen/) “To stop what I’m doing, sit down and rest, and listen to relaxing music. I also use heat and/or ice to help alleviate the pain and rub Magnesium Gel into the areas that hurt the most. I rework my schedule so I’ve given myself more rest time and I allow myself permission to take a break.” ### 35\. Lotty [ ](https://thechronicparent.wordpress.com/) [ ](https://x.com/Chronicparent1) “Pacing yourself and asking for help before you get to 'I'm desperate!'.” ### 36\. Sheryl [ ](https://achronicvoice.com/about/) [ ](https://www.facebook.com/achronicvoice) [ ](https://www.instagram.com/achronicvoice) [ ](https://x.com/AChVoice) [ ](https://www.pinterest.com/achronicvoice/blog-posts-on-a-chronic-voice/) [ ](https://www.youtube.com/@sicklessons) [ ](https://www.linkedin.com/in/sherylchan/) “Nothing helps when a big pain flare hits, not even strong pain meds. I’ve learned that **[only steroids help](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/)** to control the unbearable pain, but increasing them to such a high dose always brings along a whole new set of mental problems. Honestly it’s a balance of **[how much physical pain I can bear](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/)** against the mental side effects. Then, I just switch everything off or out of my life and rest up.” ## In Conclusion to the Best Pain Management Tips Roundup from the Chronic Illness Community As you can see from this pain management tips roundup, pacing, self-compassion and resting are common themes. It isn’t about giving in to the pain and struggle, but [**allowing yourself to retreat so that you can heal**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronically-ill-resilient/). Which of these pain management tips do you use to cope with pain flares for yourself? Did you find a new pain management strategy from this list? I would love to hear from you in the comments below! And don't forget to check out the rest of the [**"Pain Flare" series at the top of the post**](#painflare-series) 🙂 ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationships with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/) - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [7 Proven Strategies to Stay Resilient No Matter What Happens (from A to G)](https://achronicvoice.com/strategies-stay-resilient/) - [What Stops You from Splitting Your Burdens Up?](https://achronicvoice.com/splitting-your-burdens/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Pain Management Tips Boards: ![Best Chronic Pain Management Tips, From 40 People With Chronic Illness — Read the post](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/best-chronic-pain-management-tips-people-with-chronic-illness.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Steve Ruble May 7, 2021 When Pain strikes, I like to chop up fresh Ginger and make a tea - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 7, 2021 That sounds like a good and simple way to help, too 🙂 - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Mar 8, 2021 As always, a great round-up of tips and advice from experts and veteran patients. I love these compilation lists! Thanks for taking the time to put them all together for us! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 9, 2021 I like doing roundups like these from the community as everyone as such important and useful tips and perspectives to share! What I aim to do with the blog, really! Thanks always for your contributions as well! 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 15, 2021 Thanks Carrie! It’s always interesting to see and read what other spoonies do for their pain flares and more, too! - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Mar 6, 2021 So many good suggestions! I also watch a TV show or film, try Epsom salt baths on and off (when dysautonomia doesn’t make baths a tricky thing to do) and love a hot water bottle. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 15, 2021 That’s great! Can I add them to this post? 😉 - Katie Clark Feb 27, 2021 I love Carrie’s idea of having a flare kit in the car and at home. Her ideas for what to put in it sound helpful, too. So many great ideas. For me, it’s a blue tooth eye mask and Insight timer for guided meditation. - Gloria Jan 18, 2019 What’s great about this list is that it shows how different things work for different people. Finding what works for us individually is important. My favourite one here is the self-care box by Rhiann. For my fibro, I find my diet is so important. When I have a flare up or a crap day, reading and writing keeps my mind of it. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 19, 2019 Hi Gloria, thanks for taking the time to read and understand! Yes everybody is different, and what works for one will not work for another. Rhiann does have fab ideas for self-care! And yes diet is underrated but can influence just about everything! Writing is also my own way of coping 😉 x - Angela Noel Jan 17, 2019 I love how you laid this post out and shared all of the ideas from others. This is excellent. I have several friends and family members who live with chronic pain and I am going to share these tips on Facebook. I think the theme in many of these is to acknowledge it, not fight it. Work with the pain and move through it, rather than resist. That’s a good way to think about a lot of the factors in our lives we can’t control. Thank you for the post. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 18, 2019 Hi Angela, thank you for taking the time to read everyone’s responses, and even deducing a common theme through them! Yes, as someone with chronic pain something we learn is that others may not, is that pain has no limit and we are faced with our mortality every day. Acceptance is the only way to get through it in the end. And you are so right that this applies to many areas of life, not just pain, as well. Thank you for sharing this post. I hope it helps your friends and family, too. They are really blessed to have someone like you in their lives 🙂 - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Jan 15, 2019 What an amazing collation, such great ideas & inspiration! Thanks for all your hard work in getting it all together 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 15, 2019 Thanks Caz! This is thanks to all the contributors who shared 🙂 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### 10 Things I Liked in December 2018 URL: https://achronicvoice.com/december-likes-2018/ Last updated: 2025-11-19T12:47:34.000Z ## Now That 2018 has Come to an End How was your 2018, now that the curtains are drawn? My chronic illnesses evolve every year, and it seems like my brain was the main interest to them in 2018, what with the seizures, brain fog and [**mixed psychological states**](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/). [**My Christmas and New Year holidays**](https://achronicvoice.com/de-stressing-december-2018/) were pretty much low key affairs, but they were still a lovely week full of good food and cosy gatherings. Here's a list of things I liked in December 2018\. I'd love to hear what your favourite things were as well, what with the surge of giving and receiving that is often linked with the holiday season! Here's wishing you and your loved ones a brilliant, beautiful and meaningful 2019! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Home and Lifestyle Boards: ![10 Things I Liked in December 2018](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/10-things-liked-december-2018.jpg) --- ## 1\. Family Dinner and Dear Little Snuffles > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/BrseZ%5F2HTZG/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/BrseZ%5F2HTZG/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) I had an early Christmas dinner with my family this year, because my sister claimed that her tree was dying (thank you, tropical weather!). It was beautifully decorated, and dinner was fit for a king. It was a fusion of Japanese, Western, Russian, French cuisines and more. My sister is a serious foodie and even blogs about it on Instagram, so she went to great lengths to prepare this meal. It was the first time I tried uni (sea urchin), and ate caviar the Russian way (with a mother of pearl spoon, on your wrist, and on blinis). Then there were cakes and macarons for dessert, which is my favourite part of any meal 😉 Whilst the food was divine, I think the best part of the whole gathering, besides seeing my family of course, was cuddling our dog, Snuffles, the whole time. I remember bringing her home as a baby, and her loyalty is just heart wrenching. She’s 13 now, survived cancer, yet is constantly itchy and her skin is mottled with age spots. She’s such a dear little thing 🙂 Read Related Posts: - [What’s it Like to be the Mother of a Sick Child? (Precious Insights from My Own Mum)](https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/) - [What’s it Like to be the Father of a Child with Chronic Illness? (Precious Insights from My Own Dad!)](https://achronicvoice.com/father-of-child-with-chronic-illness/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [Why I Moved from SiteGround to Cloudways (and Couldn’t be Happier). Plus Cute Puppy Pics & A New Pacing Strategy.](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/) - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) --- ## 2\. Rockin'1000 "Smells Like Teen Spirit" Cover, Live in Firenze Smells Like Teen Spirit - Rockin'1000 That's Live Official This sounds like an interesting band concept, with 1000 musicians in it! I enjoyed this cover of Nirvana’s “Smells Like Teen Spirit”. It just makes me think how Kurt Cobain’s spirit lives on, sadly only after death. Also, how much this song inspires life, despite his deep depression. Anyway it wasn’t just the song in itself that I liked, but watching everyone having a collective blast of a time celebrating life. (P.s. Re-reading this post and re-watching this video still makes me so happy, even after 7 years!) --- ## 3\. Achilles and the Uniqueness of Life > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/Bp1sKI2Fwzz/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/Bp1sKI2Fwzz/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) Achilles has been with us for 2 months now, and I got him because I missed Archer I (our first feisty parrotlet which we hand raised). But that was a mistake, because you can never really replace one life with another, even if the characteristics are the ‘same’ for each breed. Life is always unique, even with something as small as a parrotlet (approx. 26g/0.9oz). Archer I was a curious boy who liked to hang with one claw from my glasses as I went about doing my chores, whilst Achilles is independent and enjoys sitting alone, chirping away to music. He isn’t friendly, except during the nights. I’ve been watching Chinese dramas of late, and have been bonding with him by giving him head rubs for up to an hour. Spending time with life is always worth it 😉 Read Related Posts: - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) - [July’s Supply & Demand: Learning to Maximise Wellbeing in the Midst of Stress](https://achronicvoice.com/july-maximise-wellbeing-stress/) - [April 2018 Prompts: Marvelling, Splurging, Continuing, Balancing & Investing](https://achronicvoice.com/marvelling-miracle-of-life-splurging-birthday-april-2018/) - [A Perfect Capture of Life with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/capture-life-with-chronic-illness/) - [2018 August Prompts: Figuring, Completing, Boring, Cuddling & Chatting](https://achronicvoice.com/boredom-stimulating-cuddling-birds-august-2018/) --- ## 4\. Antipodes Skin Brightening Serum [![ANTIPODES Glow Ritual Vitamin C Serum, 30 ML](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31EYXA68uiL._SL500_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09D7TG63C?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "ANTIPODES Glow Ritual Vitamin C Serum, 30 ML") I didn’t like this serum so much at first, as I thought it was ineffective. But it seems like my skin was dry and stressed out for other reasons. My current skincare routine consists of using one bottle of serum until it is done, but applying a different one with alternative properties every 3 - 4 days. For example, this particular serum touts a skin brightening effect, so I use an ultra nourishing one every couple days. I like to try those free sample packs during this time 😉 Anyway, it seems to nourish and boost my skin better this way. Experimenting with new skincare products is something I find interesting for some reason. Also, better prevention than cure 😛 [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09D7TG63C?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=eb057c7ba9e091bacec4b0c80b1f964b&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [Veronica of Nourish Naturally Shares Her Best Skin Care Tips (Plus a Triple Discount!)](https://achronicvoice.com/nourish-naturally-skin-care-tips/) - [Wound Care & What to Wear After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [After Surgery Care at Home: Hygiene Resources](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/) - [On Being a Decent Human Being and Other Thoughts](https://achronicvoice.com/being-decent-human-being/) --- ## 5\. My Celadon Mug from Taiwan > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/Bo0zq1ugRKt/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/Bo0zq1ugRKt/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) Okay so this is not new anymore, but I still enjoy looking at it and using it. It includes a strainer for tea leaves and a lid to keep it warm - a teapot mug? The older I get, the more I’m turning into my mum, even in terms of the objects that I admire. She loves her desserts and pottery, and so do I. I enjoy picking out a nice mug to use every day, and displaying pottery for aesthetic purposes. From rough, imperfect, minimalistic craftwork, but especially intricate, complicated, oriental styles. --- ## 6\. My Friend, Julie, and Her Girls ![Girls with bird](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/girls-parrotlet.jpg) My friend, Julie, and I were free over Christmas, so we met up for a simple lunch at my place. She has a pair of 4 year old twins, and I am filled with joy whenever I see them. They are full of life, and her girls are especially affectionate and expressive – just like their mother 😉 As it was Christmas, more good food was to be had 😉 We enjoyed a good foie gras, and the girls were so excited just because there were snowflakes on the log cake. Whilst I am always exhausted after spending time with them (which [**makes me wonder how I’ll manage**](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/) my own kids in future, if ever), it is always a contented, happy tiredness. I’m already looking forward to meeting them again ❤ --- ## 7\. Gin Wigmore Holding On To Hell (Audio) - Gin Wigmore Whilst I haven’t gone through too many of her songs, I like what I’ve heard so far. I find her rough vocals very interesting, and was surprised to see how she looked like when I googled her. It just wasn’t what I was expecting, but in a good way! I’m still exploring, but another song I like is "Holding on to Hell". --- ## 8\. Story of Yanxi Palace Chinese Drama Story Of Yanxi Palace - Official Trailer | Nie Yuan, Qin Lan, Charmaine Sheh, Wu Jin Yan The girl at the hair loss specialist centre told me that this Chinese drama is extremely popular at the moment, and that everyone was watching it. I decided to watch it out of curiosity, and have finished all 70 episodes! Whilst I wouldn’t say that it was the bestest ever, it was still a fairly interesting storyline, if the typical Qing dynasty concubine drama. I just wished that for once, star-crossed lovers could be together in the end. Nothing I’ve watched so far has had a happy ending in that aspect. Read Related Posts: - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [What I Thought About the Award-Winning Film, “Unrest” (vs My Healthy Movie Night Companions!)](https://achronicvoice.com/unrest-film-movie-night-healthy-companions/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [#projChronicWisdom: Simple Pleasures I Can Enjoy While Stuck in Bed with Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/projchronicwisdom-simple-pleasures-enjoy-pain/) --- ## 9\. Olympian Labs Complete Prebiotic and Probiotic [![Olympian Labs Complete Prebiotic and Probiotic Supplement - 25 Billion Live Shelf Stable Cultures - 30 Vegetarian Capsules, Helps Restore The Natural Balance Within The Digestive Tract.](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41hUIv6XdxL._SL500_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00TS349YI?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Olympian Labs Complete Prebiotic and Probiotic Supplement - 25 Billion Live Shelf Stable Cultures - 30 Vegetarian Capsules, Helps Restore The Natural Balance Within The Digestive Tract.") I’ve started on this brand of probiotics for a month or so now, and think it’s been pretty good for my own body so far. It comes with prebiotics, which is basically food for the good bacteria. (Tip: [**if you have Antiphospholipid Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/)orare on blood thinners like me, always remember to check the ingredients for [**Vitamin K or blood thinning agents**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/)!). With 25 billion live cultures it is a little overpowering for my feeble gut, so I’ve reduced the dosage and take it on alternate days now, which seems to work better. What is ‘better’? I don’t really know, to be honest. I’m just basing this on the subtle changes I’ve noticed after my breakfast (or whatever little I eat). ### Figuring Out the Best Dosage and Time to Take the Probiotics My medications can be rather laxative in effect, but my stool quality seems to have improved, which also means [**better absorption of nutrients**](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/). This also happened after I switched from taking them in the morning to night. The [time when you take probiotics can make a difference](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/best-time-to-take-probiotics), too, although consistency is key. In terms of whether I feel better in terms of physical or mental health, I haven't noticed much of anything. Probiotics aren't a silver bullet, but I think it's safe enough for me to proceed with my next baby step towards hopefully better health. I'll be adding new protocols in first, before doing the harder work of subtracting unhealthy habits and foods 😉 [Buy It on iHerb](https://www.iherb.com/pr/Olympian-Labs-Inc-Complete-Prebiotic-Probiotic-30-Vegetarian-Capsules/65096?rcode=ZHK244) [Buy It on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00TS349YI?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ace1d8c99a7a1d809a37035743e72d2d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) --- ## 10\. Top Blog Posts I’m not sure how I’ve hit 10 favourite things for December already, so I’ll separate this bit into a new, more targeted post! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [12 Chronic Illness Bloggers Share Their Top Posts for 2020](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-bloggers-top-posts-2020/) - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) - [Dysphagia & Swallowing Problems (and How Oral Vitamin Sprays Can be of Help to You)](https://achronicvoice.com/dysphagia-oral-vitamin-sprays/) - [Drink Pure Wine Review (A Product That Excites Me as a Person with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/drink-pure-wine-review/) - [Learn More About the Super Rare Disease – Esophageal Diverticulum](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) ### January 2019: Chronic Pain has a Hold on Me, and I Need to Break It URL: https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-hold-break-it-january-2019/ Last updated: 2026-01-03T10:23:04.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Reviving the Spirit I Once Had This New Year I feel like I've been drifting upon a wide, open ocean for the past few years. I've neither been swept away by furious storms nor drowned yet, but I don't seem headed anywhere either. [**I don't quite know what to do with my life**](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) or myself from here, and feel like a rabbit caught in the headlights. [I daren't rock my little boat](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/my-inner-child-and-the-angry-girl), for fear of returning to the old days of constant flare ups and endless pain. So this is sort of a good state to be in too, if you get what I mean. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ### In Honour of My Youth As I reflect upon this prompt, I'm thinking that I'd like to dedicate 2019 in honour of my youth. There are certain traits that I'd like to rekindle, or at least remember, namely curiosity, daring, strength, resourcefulness and independence. This will no doubt invite more turbulence into my life as well, and whilst I fully accept that [**this previous version of myself is no more**](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/), that isn't to say that she never existed. I'd like to channel her spirit this year, and to remember what it feels like to be alive once more. *(Learn more about these 'versions' of me in this article:* “[*Me 1.0 is dead. What will I do with Me 2.0?*](https://medium.com/100writingdays/me-1-dead-me-2-d448d016bda3)”*)* Read Related Posts: - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [A Page From a Sick Girl’s Diary: Sometimes I Wish I was an Old Person](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girls-diary-wish-old-person/) - [Kick Ass With Kindness and a Sweet Cherry on Top](https://achronicvoice.com/kick-ass-with-kindness/) - [We Want to Have Fun Just Like You, But Here’s What it Takes with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/) - [Coming Alive in the Winter Air (Pushing for Personal Changes & Group Advocacy)](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-advocacy/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life & Diary Entry Boards: ![January 2019 — Chronic Pain has a Hold on Me, and I Need to Break It.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/january-2019-chronic-pain-hold-on-me-need-break-it.jpg) ## Struggles with Establishing Good Sleep Hygiene, But I'm Going to Try! [**Sleep plays a huge role**](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/) in inflammation, damage control and the maintenance of our health. I’ve never been a good sleeper; always staying up late for no good reason, with ill disciplined sleep hygiene and messy routines. I'm aware that a good night's sleep doesn't start right before bed, but from the moment I wake in the morning. Every little thing I do or consume, and the timings, add up to make an impact. I hope to establish a better sleep routine this year, which will be a challenging feat for someone like me! I know that I'll slip up many times, but I'd like to keep trying. My plan is to go to bed early, like a few hours before actually falling asleep, because there are certain things that I only do in bed. For example, I check my Twitter only once a day at night in bed. I can get over a hundred notifications, and it can take me up to an hour going through them. I'm aiming to fall asleep by 00:30 every night, which may sound late to many of you, but I do need a realistic starting point! The primary aim is consistency, before making more 'ambitious' changes. ## Chronic Pain has a Hold on Me, and I Need to Break It To be human is to possess certain fears, and [**my biggest fear is extreme pain**](https://achronicvoice.com/letter-to-death-simple-plea/). Whilst I'd like to chisel away at these fears, I don't want to say that I'm 'getting out of my comfort zone', because I like that comfort. As someone who's chronically ill, [**life can feel like hell overnight**](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/), so it's especially precious to have some comfort to fall back on. I'd like to keep it as base of sorts - like those catching games we played as kids with bases you could go to, either to recuperate or to avoid danger. I would like to build up both my [**physical and mental stamina**](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/), so that I can [**venture out from my comfort zone**](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) bit by bit, further and further. I will need to make conscious decisions and put in effort in both of these areas, in order to achieve this. Self-awareness and willpower are tools that I will have to retrieve from the toolbox and sharpen. They're in there, but just a little blunt from lack of use. I will need to force myself to make those life-changing decisions, and bear the consequences, whatever they may be. I need to break out of this mental block, but I don't wish for these fears to break me further either. I will need lots of patience and judgment calls in order to maintain that precarious balance. Read Related Posts: - [7 Proven Strategies to Stay Resilient No Matter What Happens (from A to G)](https://achronicvoice.com/strategies-stay-resilient/) - [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) - [You Don’t Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) - [Is Seeking Help for Your Mental Health Worth It?](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/) - [Finding Your Self Behind the Illness (Your Story Isn’t Over Yet)](https://achronicvoice.com/finding-self-behind-illness/) ## Regaining My Mental & Physical Strength As mentioned above, I need to strengthen my mental and physical stamina once again. I took a big hit [the year I had Tuberculosis](https://medium.com/100writingdays/the-year-i-couldnt-drink-coffee-6025ed86565e), which [**triggered major flares**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) one after the other, and messed my brain up pretty badly. [**I haven't held a proper job**](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) since then either, so my self-esteem needs some working on as well. I have also come to realise that a lot of my self-esteem is tied to productivity and work, so that's something I need to unlearn. My [**brain needs to undergo retraining**](https://achronicvoice.com/rewire-brain-manage-chronic-pain/), to adopt more healthy and useful mindsets. ## Allowing Myself a Few Cheat Days! Despite everything that I'd like to work on this new year, I also need a few cheat days where I'm allowed to break my own rules. It can be discouraging when you keep spiralling downwards and away from your goals due to circumstances out of your control, or even within. Pockets of time to regroup and self-compassion are necessary for moving forward, even if they may be ironic. For example, staying out late to party as opposed to sticking to that new sleep routine. But I think it's good to mix things up every now and then, as life isn't cut up all nice and square anyway. I will fall - and many times at that - over the year, but I need to remember to allow myself some grace, especially on the [**days when depression grips me**](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/), and convinces me that I have failed and am a failure. I will need the discipline to just lay low, and see it though one more time, all whilst allowing myself full access to hope, kindness and love. Thank you for reading my January 2019 thoughts and goals! You can [**continue with February 2019**](https://achronicvoice.com/february-2019-awaken-life-within-me/) here, or [**read last month's diary entry in December 2018**](https://achronicvoice.com/de-stressing-december-2018/) 🙂 ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [2018 June Prompts: Reminding, Pacing, Surrendering, Improving & Flowing](https://achronicvoice.com/self-reminder-listening-to-your-body-june-2018/) - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [A String of Bad Days (and What Happened When That Good Day Finally Came Along)](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/) - [Why I Moved from SiteGround to Cloudways (and Couldn’t be Happier). Plus Cute Puppy Pics & A New Pacing Strategy.](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Jan 11, 2021 I’m revisiting some of your older link-up articles today and was surprised to see I hadn’t commented on this one! It’s nice to be able to go back and see what you’ve written about and how you worked things into your future posts though. How has your commitment to sleep improved over the past two years? Were you successful or has it stayed where it is? - Kathy Jan 28, 2019 Hi, Sheryl!! I am intrigued by your answer for Dedicating. “There are certain traits that I’d like to rekindle, or at least remember, namely curiosity, daring, strength, resourcefulness and independence.” I’m not sure that you’ve really lost these traits, though I’m sure it feels that way. You “dare” to put your story out there every week with your posts. You show resourcefulness as you collect helpful information for your own health journey and share it with us. If you were not curious you would have nothing to say on your blog. You’ve had near death experiences and yet here you are encouraging us and keeping on going day by day. That looks like strength to me. Maybe our younger qualities adapt and grow as we do. They don’t look the same, but are still with us. Just my two cents worth. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 28, 2019 Hi Kathy, thank you for wise, motherly input 🙂 You are right – I suppose our traits do adapt and mature as well! ‘Adventurous’ could mean something entirely different to an adult as compared to a teenager 😉 And for the blogging stuff you mention in your comments – I actually don’t feel like I’m really ‘putting myself out there’ even though I am, because I don’t quite have a fear about it as others do (we have struggle with different issues). I guess I miss the spontaneity and daring of the literal nature sometimes 🙂 But thank you dearie for such a thoughtful reply. I hope you are doing well! xxx - Jennifer Jan 13, 2019 Your comparison to drifting on an ocean was such a perfect way to describe life with a chronic illness! I am really not sure where I am headed and I am scared to rock the boat in case I go backwards. I also relate to your sleep patterns! I don’t really have a routine because I am at university and I am definitely a night person. Mornings can be difficult for me due to my health but I seem to feel better in the evening. Maybe that’s why I prefer to stay up late 🙂 Happy new year! I hope this is an amazing year for you x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 14, 2019 Hi Jennifer, haha it does feel a lot like drifting aimlessly a lot of the time, doesn’t it? 🙁 I am glad that you could relate on so many points, and good to know I’m not the only one struggling to be healthier despite illness :p I am so bad with my evening routines, even though I know I need to improve it! Happy new year to you too. Sending hugs! x - [ Rhiann ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com) Jan 10, 2019 Hell again Sheryl, and a very Happy New Year to you. I hope you had a lovely and restful Christmas celebration. Like you I need to strengthen both my physical and emotional health or as you eloquently phrased it, stamina. I find that when experiencing a flare, or another deterioration in symptoms, it impacts on my emotional well-being. I become overcome by helplessness and frustration and let the littlest setbacks push me into a depression. I hope I can work on becoming more resilient and emotionally stronger. Thank you for once again providing such inspiring prompts, I found that these month’s words allowed the opportunity to reflect on the previous year as well as being able to use the lessons to look forward to the year ahead. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 11, 2019 Hi Rhiann! It was good for me, hope yours was as well? 🙂 I understand as I’m struggling with it myself. It’s easier to become depressed than not when you are in so much pain! It leads to thoughts of ‘what’s the point’, but we just have to cling on 🙁 I’m very happy (and relieved haha) to hear that the prompts for Jan are suitable to begin the year with! Sending you many good thoughts, stamina for us both (lol), and lots of happy moments! - Lisa Ehrman Jan 9, 2019 I enjoyed reading your thoughts on these prompts. I feel like I can relate, especially the breaking one. When things are bad enough, I often break my own coping and helping “rules”. I do this many times because I can’t even think clearly enough to try to help myself. When I’m that bad, it’s ok. And, I have to give myself that permission. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 9, 2019 Thank you Lisa! Strangely, people seem to be able to relate to this particular prompts post. It is actually my most vulnerable and messy response yet haha. Sending you lots of love and mental strength and self belief 🙂 x - [ Alison ](https://www.thrivingwhiledisabled.com) Jan 8, 2019 Sheryl – thank you so much for having this linkup! I understand the sleep struggle…my partner is very much a night owl, and I’ve grown to love mornings, so the last couple of months I’ve fallen out of my healthier sleep habits as well between being sick and the holidays. I’m working on being better about it too! Part of my frustration is that the amount of sleep I need varies dramatically, so having a set sleep and wake up time doesn’t work in the mid-to-long term, as I’ll have months of needing maybe six or seven hours of sleep a night, and then weeks to months of needing closer to 11 or 12! I’m so appreciative of you being open about all of this, since those of us managing disabling conditions often have more similarities than we realize. Sleep and energy and stamina and frustration all tend to be problems no matter what our precise condition is! I really empathize with you on the building stamina process and allowing rest days as well! I’m doing similar self-work with the goal of creating my web app and building out my blog, but it’s that balance of pushing, but not too hard, and recognizing the days when pushing helps, and the days where pushing is just a horrible idea! Allowing for rest is also one of those essential pieces that can quickly get thrown into disarray by harsh self-judgement…the question of if I’m using my extra symptoms as an excuse not to work or am listening to my body and resting can get overwhelming at times, and worrying about it only increases my stress and makes relaxation and recovery more challenging! Please keep taking care of yourself and keep up the great work you’re doing! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 9, 2019 Hi Alison, thank you for sharing your vulnerabilities and life here as well! As mentioned to Lisa in the comments, I’m surprised by how so many people can relate to my prompt replies, because it is my messiest, most vulnerable response to date! Yes life is all about balance it seems, hey! Both in the compromises we make with ourselves and with others, and also with work, self-care, blogging, etc. Especially precarious as someone with chronic illness too because we’re such fragile things ;p Sending you much love and good thoughts. Hope things get better and better in 2019! - Nikki Jan 2, 2019 I have had sleep issues since I was a kid and they got worse as the pain did. So severe that even my pain psychologist said it was pretty embedded and would be impossible to fix. But… then this vestibular disorder. And now I am drained to all hell at night from worsening symptoms. I crash at 11 and get up at 8\. Like clockwork. And rarely wake up at night. So ironically the vertigo has given me a perfect sleep cycle. But when that is treated… I bed it will go back to the way it was. But I’ll take the sleep now, as I need it. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 3, 2019 Hi Nikki, yea my neurologist said yesterday that it certainly doesn’t help with my epilepsy at all, the worst trigger in fact. I didn’t think they played that big a role, heh. While I’m not happy that you have those pains, I’m glad you can squeeze some rest in. I had pure insomnia at one period in time and it was certainly NOT fun. Wishing you many restful nights in 2019! - Jennifer Jan 2, 2019 I love your responses to the prompts. Although our illnesses and battles may be different the resulting struggles seem to be very similar. I really love these prompts that you do every month. They stretch me as a writer and they make me focus on things about myself that I hadn’t necessarily thought about, Hope you have an amazing New Year! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 3, 2019 Hi Jennifer, thank you. I think this entry may be one of my most raw, imperfect and vulnerable one yet. Yes I suppose pain does that to a person. I think people who say ‘pain will never break me’ have never truly experienced the full extent of pain (because there is no limit – I’m sure you understand that ;)). And I’m really happy to hear that you find these monthly linkups useful! Sometimes I wonder if we’ll run out of things to write lol, because often I realise certain things keep coming back to me on a different month. Sending hugs and wishing you a fabulous new year! - Suzanne \~ FibroMomBlog Jan 1, 2019 Reading this reminded me how much we have in common. Although our ailments may be different, the consequences we live with while having a chronic illness are often the same. Life is hard, but man it feels like “we” have to be so much stronger and diligent with our daily lives to just stay afloat. I don’t like to read other’s response to the prompts before I write my own, so they don’t affect my responses. However, I could have written something so similar to what you wrote. The sleeping habits, stepping outside my comfort zone, fear of the pain to come and debilitating depression that comes with all of it. I must tell you, you are someone that I look up to and admire. I read your articles and with all you go through, you find a way to help raise others up. Just know that you are doing a kick-ass job at the life you were given and I’m proud of you. Gentle hugs my friend. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 1, 2019 Hi Suzanne, thank you so much for your kind words 🙂 Yes I think living with chronic illness, no matter which, comes with a certain overlap emotionally, physically and mentally. It takes a hit on being human, alive, and also on your aspirations in some form. Nobody wants to be decrepit or in pain! And I actually don’t write with the sole aim of lifting others up (sorry I’m not that noble hehe). And I feel like a bit of an imposter at times because my pain levels these days aren’t as bad as they were a few years ago, though I still get bad days and risky hospitalisation stays! But I think our collective experiences, shared for whatever purposes, can still contribute to knowledge in one form or another 🙂 Sending love for the new year! x **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### A String of Bad Days (and What Happened When That Good Day Finally Came Along) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/ Last updated: 2026-04-19T13:35:56.000Z ## Experiencing A String of Bad Days in a Mixed Psychological State I've been in a state of depression again of late. I've been through this cycle enough times to know that my brain chemistry is messed up again, although I have cause to believe that [**my epilepsy**](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) has a hand in them as well. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Self-Reminder & Affirmation Boards: ![A String of Bad Days (and What Happened When That Good Day Finally Came Along)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/string-of-bad-days-what-happened-when-good-day-finally-came.jpg) ### When “Nothing” is Wrong I feel somewhat hypomanic at the same time, but not that I really know what that feels like? Sometimes these two contrasting sensations happen along their own thread in time, and sometimes they happen all at once. As such, my (unhelpful) psychiatrist diagnosed it as a mixed state, and increased one of the medications I share for my epilepsy and mood. These emotional turbulences aren't only rough for me, but for my partner as well. He bears the brunt of it, seeing that I've isolated myself from much of the outside world. "What's wrong?", he'd ask. "Nothing", I'd reply through frustrated tears. But that is the simple truth - nothing's wrong. Or rather, nothing should be wrong. Read Related Posts: - [4 Cool Truths My Partner Said (Unwittingly)](https://achronicvoice.com/cool-truths/) - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) ## When the Cause is Unknown, so Doctors Pass You Around From Speciality to Specialty None of my doctors have a clue either, and have been passing the baton around, though not in a cruel or intentional way. My rheumatologist thinks it might be a neurology problem, whilst my neurologist referred me to my psychiatrist, who suspects the root cause might be autoimmune in nature. Whilst my neurologist doesn't think that these symptoms have anything to do with my latest seizure, my partner noted that the behavioural changes began only after. Combined with the new nerve tingling issues, sudden fatigue episodes, brain fog, [**random heart palpitations**](https://achronicvoice.com/heart-rhythm-disorder/) and whatnot, I have reason to believe that it's all tied back to my brain and central nervous system. But as it goes, nobody really knows, as many of these symptoms are generic ones, or overlap with comorbidities. All we're doing each time something new arises is to play a sick game of medication trial and error to try and control the symptoms. Read Related Posts: - [Why I Need to See More Than 10 Different Types of Doctors Regularly](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) - [5 Things You Should Know About My Epilepsy (It’s More Than Just Seizures)](https://achronicvoice.com/epilepsy-more-than-just-seizures/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [My Second Brush with Death: A Broken Heart (Literally)](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) ## Chronic Fatigue is a Bitch - Making the String of Bad Days Even Worse Thinking in itself has become an arduous process. I've been having a hard time telling left from right, and numbers confuse me. I need a calculator to compute 2 + bloody 5\. The fatigue comes in sudden waves, and blackjack me from behind. It isn’t the logical, linear equation of 'minus energy = more fatigue', more like, 'whoa what just hit me. I'm flooded with fatigue, help!' ## Now I Remember Why I Don’t Do Yoga... I also went for a beginner's yoga class a while back. I hadn't been to one in years, and thought a few 'light stretches' and sweating it out would be good for a healthy push. But I remember why I stopped going to yoga after the class. Besides the fundamental worry of missing the class due to the [**unpredictability of my illnesses**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/), I returned home with bruises. I need to avoid contact sports as I'm on blood thinners for Antiphospholipid Syndrome, a blood clotting disorder. You’d think that yoga is an individual sport, but the pushing against, flipping around and whatnot is actually ‘contact’ in some sense. On top of that, I had forgotten about my nerve issues, so downward dog and the asanas that followed were actually painful. Read Related Posts: - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Is Yoga Accessible for People with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [How to Survive the Holidays When Chronic Illness & Disability Cause Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/survive-the-holidays-chronic-illness-disability-pain/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) ## A Pet Escapee :( One of our budgies, Sadie, escaped from her cage as well. She wouldn’t have much chance of survival out there, but you never know. She’s disabled and can’t fly due to a wing deformity, and had her toes bitten off before we got her. Whilst she isn’t tame or cuddly, I respected her the most out of all my birds. In some sense, I could relate to her the most due to her disabilities. She inspired me through her survival instincts and [**kickass attitude**](https://achronicvoice.com/kick-ass-with-kindness/). Whilst the other birds would fly and land on high up places, she'd grab onto the curtain and pull herself all the way up to the top. I will miss her spirit that lit up the apartment. Read Related Posts: - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) - [Why I Moved from SiteGround to Cloudways (and Couldn’t be Happier). Plus Cute Puppy Pics & A New Pacing Strategy.](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [Would You Rather: Have an Invisible Illness or a Visible Disability?](https://achronicvoice.com/rather-have-invisible-illness-or-disability/) ## The String of Bad Days Prompted a Very Important Reminder About Life All this down time has made me realise something important, so perhaps it was worth it after all. It’s been a real struggle trying to get any work or blogging done, even though I'm not 'busy' per se. This has led to a stupid but vicious cycle of guilt, which has led to sleepless nights and unproductive days. I accomplish nothing despite all the hard work worrying, but it's like an infinite loop that has crashed the system. But one morning, I woke up and actually felt a little better. There wasn’t any special event, my mood has just been that erratic. I sat down, had my coffee, and then cranked out not just one, but two articles for work! It’s funny how I [learn many lessons throughout my life](https://sicklessons.com/), yet forget them so easily as well. ## Saving My Energy for the Good Days That WILL Come This little gift of a day has reminded me that [**it’s okay to let everything go**](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) on the bad ones without holding on to guilt. They don’t last forever, and I need to save my energy up for the good days. When one does come around, I can then execute my tasks at a higher quality, as opposed to going around in exhausting, unproductive circles. When I’m unwell, whether physically or mentally, then I simply need to rest. I need to be gentle with myself and allow my body to just be. I [**need to be patient with the healing process**](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/), as this can only be beneficial in the long run, and is how better days are ushered in. Our bodies heal at their own pace, to [**a rhythm that must be respected**](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/). So go lay your head down, and rest up to your fullest. Because when that good day comes around, you’re going to be amazed at all that you can actually achieve, but only if you help your body to heal today, right now. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) Pin to Your Bad Days & Self-Care Boards: ![A String of Bad Days (and What Happened When That Good Day Finally Came Along). Insight from the bad days, to make the good days even better.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_bad-good-day-18.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Katie Clark Sep 28, 2020 I can identify with you. While my pain and other physical issues are a thing, they really don’t stop me from going about my day (usually). However, brain fog, deep fatigue w/weakness seem to go hand in hand with this incredible sadness and sometimes anger. Those are the times when everything feels way too much and I just want to curl up and go to bed. Often I do. But, I’m now doing a lot of guided meditation during those times with breathing (and I’m still actually doing the SMILE experiment). I smile, sometimes half and sometimes big, especially when I’m totally feeling like #!#$@$. I think it’s helping (all of that combined). I do want to encourage you to look at yoga again. Doesn’t have to be what many think (the asanas of up and down, down dog chataranga, etc). Have you looked into chair yoga? I find the support of the chair allows me to stretch without straining and can feel so good. Also, restorative and Yin. I had (after many years of practice) had a certain idea of what yoga had to be, vigourous, muscle building, up down, striving to get to poses that were challenges, 45 to 60 minutes at a shot. Now, I’m learing I can do 5 minutes of windshield wiper hip openers in bed before I get out of bed, or sitting tall in a chair and twisting to one side then the next and doing cat cow by holding my knees. Doing a bit of yoga (meditation in movement) throghout the day is really helpful physically and emotionally. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 30, 2020 I tried some taichi and maybe that might be interesting, too. But yes some sort of mindfulness exercise on a daily basis would greatly help my sort of personality I think. Often I just want to go go go :p I’m glad that yoga and mindfulness helps you to cope! xxx - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Sep 28, 2020 I’ve just realised, I think more than any other emotion – guilt is one I feel the most. And when I read this post I’m reminded that I need to slowly learn to free myself of this emotion so that I can express myself more naturally – just like Sadie. We all sometimes need to grab on to the curtain and pull ourselves up and find pleasure in doing that. And sometimes, we need to find pleasure where we are – doing our thing, or nothing at all. Lovely piece Sheryl (magically it brought out the philosopher in me!!) 😀 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 30, 2020 Yes guilt is such a big weight, isn’t it? Often it’s so unnecessary, too. Sadie was awesome. Disabled but powerful. She never gave up. I guess as an animal, you just try your best to survive without thinking 🙂 Haha…you are philosophical my friend, and beautifully so. I often stop to think when I read your posts and thoughts 🙂 - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Sep 26, 2020 My mood is always all over the place. Up one day and low low low the next. I never know what to think and just try to roll with it. If I’m super low, art helps. I can totally relate to wanting to use those good days to the fullest. I really have to watch myself and remember not to push too much. (Which is what I’m doing right now and that is why I’m ending my day on your lovely blog.) - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 28, 2020 Aww..thank you Carrie you’re always so encouraging and supportive 🙂 I hope you had a good rest. Yes it can be so difficult not to be ‘producing’, isn’t it? I get all fidgety! Sending lots of love your way! - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Sep 25, 2020 No matter how often I tell myself to rest on bad days I often have that twinge of guilt so it is so helpful to keep reading others telling me to go lay my head down. So thank you Sheryl! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 28, 2020 Haha…as we well know by now…I need to repeat this advice to myself the most :p Sending love! - [ Pippa ](https://www.lifeofpippa.co.uk) Jan 3, 2019 This is the post I didn’t know I needed until I read it! Beautifully said, thank you Sheryl. I hope 2019 is a good one xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 3, 2019 Thank you, Pippa. I hope it helped you in some way 🙂 Have a good 2019, too! xx - [ Jo ](https://teaandcakeforthesoul.wordpress.com) Dec 29, 2018 Great post. Guilt is awful isn’t it but impossible to stop. Hope you start to feel brighter soon. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 30, 2018 Thanks Jo! Yes, the silliest thing is that it’s often self-imposed as well 😉 Hope you have a bright year ahead, too! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### 3 Reasons Why I Don't Let Multiple Sclerosis Prevent Me from Living a Normal Life URL: https://achronicvoice.com/dont-let-multiple-sclerosis-prevent-normal-life/ Last updated: 2026-05-17T09:15:30.000Z ## An Introduction on Trevor & Multiple Sclerosis It's our pleasure to have Trevor with us today. I am always on the lookout for male voices within the chronic illness community, as they are rarer yet equally as important. The male to female ratio for many chronic illnesses lean toward women. For example, [9 out 10 people with Lupus (SLE) are female](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2891868/) (Weckerle & Niewold, 2011). Hence you could say that men are the minority within a minority. Add to the fact that men and women inherently tend to communicate and express our needs in different ways, and also the [**stigma of strength**](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) tied to men within society, and it can be an extra lonely road for them. So thank you for taking the time to share your story today, Trevor. It is my hope that it not only raises awareness of Multiple Sclerosis, but also provides an "I'm not alone" moment for others who live with chronic illness out there. Now let's read what he has to say! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the author's personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Multiple Sclerosis & Chronic Pain Boards: ![3 Reasons Why I Don't Let Multiple Sclerosis Prevent Me from Living a Normal Life (Guest Post by: Trevor McDonald)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/reasons-why-dont-let-multiple-sclerosis-ms-prevent-living-normal-life.jpg) ## My Multiple Sclerosis (MS) Began Rather Quietly On an otherwise ordinary morning in 2011, I woke up with a severe case of vertigo. I was in my late 20s, and to be honest, I didn’t even know vertigo was a thing that could happen. I tried to write it off as one of those weird things that happen, but it persisted. I later learned that it was my first [Multiple Sclerosis (MS)](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/multiple-sclerosis/symptoms-causes/syc-20350269) episode (Mayo Clinic, 2024b). Unfortunately, it was the mildest episode I’d experience. ## My Next Episode of Multiple Sclerosis was Brutal My next episode came a few months later in that same year. This one was marked by extreme muscular pain. It felt like my leg was in a vice grip that someone would tighten and loosen, but mostly tighten. Much to my dismay, the pain never completely subsided. For those of you who don’t have MS, I’ll explain. In the early stages of this autoimmune disease, most people are diagnosed with what’s called [Relapsing Remitting Multiple Sclerosis (RRMS)](https://www.nationalmssociety.org/understanding-ms/what-is-ms/types-of-ms/relapse-remitting-ms) (National Multiple Sclerosis Society \[NMSS\], n.d.). This is one stage of the disease, and it’s characterized by episodes that last 1-2 months before they subside. ### The Most Worrying Thing is the Permanent Damage that MS Can Cause But the most problematic thing about these episodes is that they can (and often do) cause permanent damage. This is what I experienced during my second episode. My pain was less intense after that episode, but it never went away completely. Now, here is where most people with chronic illness can relate. Many chronic illnesses come with some level of pain. If you let it, **c**hronic pain can really derail an otherwise happy life. Add more layers of chronic disease, and it’s even easier to succumb to hopelessness and rage. But I make a conscious decision to do the exact opposite. It’s a decision I make every single day. Here’s why and how I don’t let my chronic disease prevent me from living a normal life. Read Related Posts: - [“It’s in My Blood”: Shannon Giroux – Making a Better Home to Live in, Despite Multiple Sclerosis](https://achronicvoice.com/shannon-giroux-better-home-multiple-sclerosis/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [My Second Brush with Death: A Broken Heart (Literally)](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) ## 1\. We Only Get One Life As cliché as it sounds, we all have the same number of seconds every day. I can spend them dwelling on my problems, or I can spend them focused on more important things. I’ve done it both ways, and there’s no question that focusing on pain and problems is a waste. This may seem morbid, but [**we will all eventually die**](https://achronicvoice.com/what-neverending-pain-reveals/). When you’re on your deathbed and thinking about your life, do you want to remember days spent curled up in bed or days out living life to its fullest? Even on my worst days, I [**regret decisions to do nothing**](https://achronicvoice.com/give-your-best-even-when-feeling-depressed/), more than I regret a decision to do something. Even if it's just picking up a book to read, at least my day was made valuable by learning something new. ## 2\. I Always Maintain Hope When you have a chronic disease like Multiple Sclerosis, your doctor probably isn’t a fountain of hope and positivity. On the contrary, they usually prepare you for the worst. And although there are many promising treatments on the horizon, the old standby drugs simply don’t cut the mustard. At best, drugs like interferons will slow the progression of your disease. So, you may stay where you are or get worse. There’s not a lot of hope in that. That’s why I choose to focus my energy on alternative and cutting-edge treatments. This is what led me to [stem cell therapy](https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/bone-marrow-transplant/in-depth/stem-cells/art-20048117) (Mayo Clinic, 2024a). My doctor told me about a trial he thought I’d qualify for, and I was lucky enough to get a spot. Stem cell therapy has helped me live a mostly pain-free life. I still have issues, don’t get me wrong, but the debilitating pain isn’t an issue. And I know that if I can find a treatment to help with my pain, there must be other treatments that can help. I choose to have hope, and that keeps me going every day. Read Related Posts: - [I May be Chronically Ill, but I’m Also Chronically Resilient](https://achronicvoice.com/chronically-ill-resilient/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [Latest Research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [MediSearch Review: A Medical AI Search Engine for Patients, Clinicians & Medical Writers](https://achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/) ## 3\. I Share My Struggles & Receive Support I’m part of an active online support group that keeps me accountable. I’ve been part of this group for about three years, and it’s made up of others who have MS. We all have different symptoms and challenges, but we all share the same passion for life. In this group, we share successes and failures, and we check in on people who are inactive. You may [**find an online support group**](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) like this, or you may have one or two close friends who provide this level of support. I find it super helpful to have someone check in on me whenever I fall silent. It helps to know people care. If you’re struggling with MS, chronic pain or any other illness, my best advice is to avoid dwelling on your problems. If you need help with this, let someone know. [**People who care about you will be happy to help**](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) you live a better life – whatever it takes. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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Read Related Posts: - [What Stops You from Splitting Your Burdens Up?](https://achronicvoice.com/splitting-your-burdens/) - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [Suffering with a Rare Disease, Isaac Syndrome, as Told from a Male Perspective](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-isaacs-syndrome/) - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) - [Keeping Up with the World: Why it’s Important Despite Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) Pin to Your Living a Normal Life with Chronic Illness Boards: ![3 Reasons Why I Don't Let Chronic Illness Prevent Me From Living A Normal Life. Guest Post By: Trevor Mcdonald.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/why-dont-let-multiple-sclerosis-prevent-living-normal-life-featured-guest-post-trevor-mcdonald-2.jpg) **Contributor Bio:** ![Trevor McDonald's headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/trevor-mcdonald-profile.jpeg) Trevor McDonald is a freelance content writer who has had a passion for writing since he was a young adult. He has written a variety of education, health, self-development and lifestyle articles. Although living with a disease, he strives to do as much with his life as possible. In his free time, you can find him playing with his dog, writing stories at his favorite coffee shop, or laying out on the beautiful beaches of San Diego. You can find more about Trevor on his [LinkedIn](https://www.linkedin.com/in/trevor-mcdonald/). ### References: - Mayo Clinic. (2024a, March 23). *Stem cells: What they are and what they do.* https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/bone-marrow-transplant/in-depth/stem-cells/art-20048117 - Mayo Clinic. (2024b, November 1). *Multiple sclerosis.* https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/multiple-sclerosis/symptoms-causes/syc-20350269 - National Multiple Sclerosis Society. (n.d.). *Relapsing-remitting multiple sclerosis (RRMS).* Retrieved 2018, December 20 from https://www.nationalmssociety.org - Weckerle, C. E., & Niewold, T. B. (2011). The unexplained female predominance of systemic lupus erythematosus: Clues from genetic and cytokine studies. *Clinical Reviews in Allergy & Immunology, 40*(1), 42–49\. https://doi.org/10.1007/s12016-009-8192-4 ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Lu Jan 14, 2020 Hi, as well as photophobia, I have extremely painful, sore & inflamed eyes. It’s best when the sky is blue but when I can’t sleep, like now due to my horrible new neighbours who wake me up all night, I can’t do anything. I’m so frustrated because even though I don’t think I can manage it, I’m trying to return to work unwell as it’s my last chance (I’ve been long term sick a few years & in my 30s), I don’t want to be ‘unemployed’, I had plans, I wanted to buy a house now it’s all ruined. How do I get past this excruciating eye pain? Artificial light & sunlight trigger my eye inflammation which generally can be avoided (looking at ways to block it in the office or that’s a no no!). I haven’t had a holiday for 7yrs, I’ve spent most of my 30s indoors, I am not happy about that but how can I plan things when I don’t know if I’m going to be well enough on the day to get there? So frustrating… - Sydney Jul 24, 2019 Thanks Trevor! This is the philosophy I decided to adopt when I was diagnosed with severe RA. I felt like the clock was ticking but I still had so much I wanted to do. I can’t do it all but I will give everything else my best shot. Plus it’s much better for my mental health. Feeling like I had to give up was a very dark place for me. Plus I feel better when I’m about dwelling on my health. It’s still a work in progress though. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 24, 2019 It’s always a work in progress, even for healthy people I think 🙂 Here’s to accomplishing our goals step by step! - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Mar 29, 2019 I love this – so encouraging & uplifting to read and I think many of us need a reminder, at least from time to time, to hold on to hope, get support, and make the most of the one life we have to live. Thanks for sharing Trevor! x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 29, 2019 Yes agreed! I am really glad Trevor chose to share his story, and encourage others despite his own difficulties 🙂 - Denise Dec 21, 2018 Okay I’m first very happy you have found some relief but I am 60 and I cant seem to decide to live my life, ME/CFS rules my life. Along with fibromyalgia, hashimotos, hypothyroid and bipolar. I cant seem to find that drive or that push to get up and keep living. Today cold, damp, dark and windy, I feel like I want vfc to implode upon myself, hope is not even a twinkle of light. If you can chose to live a life i applaud you!! I cant seem to find that option, is it because I’m old? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 21, 2018 Hi Denise, Trevor will have to answer that question from his perspective, but personally for me I get where you’re coming from (and I’m only half your age!). I wrote another blog post about this here that expresses these thoughts: [https://www.achronicvoice.com/2017/07/26/suicide-option/ ](https://achronicvoice.com/2017/07/26/suicide-option/) Regardless, no matter how tired I am, for whatever the reason is, I know that I have to just hang on and see life through. Sending you good thoughts 🙂 - [ Rachel, The Invisible Hypothyroidism ](https://theinvisiblehypothyroidism.com) Jan 7, 2019 Hi Denise, as a fellow Hashimoto’s and Hypothyroidism patient, I’m sending a big hug. - [ Adam Hanmer ](https://adamski76blog.wordpress.com/) Dec 21, 2018 Hi Sheryl and Trevor, Good post and very true. I do feel a minority sometimes as well. Firstly a man in a woman’s world in my home I have my 3 lovely daughters, wife and our au pair (not moaning about this!). I have Primary Progressive MS so puts me in the 15% of people with MS. I also blog a bit about my trials and tribulations with MS if you fancy a read. Happy Christmas to you both. Keep up the good work and positivity. Adam. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 21, 2018 Hi Adam, Thanks for sharing your thoughts and blog. I will definitely check it out! Hope you and your lovely ladies have lots of quality time over this holiday season 🙂 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Axon Optics: Eyewear Made Specially for Migraine Pain Relief URL: https://achronicvoice.com/axon-optics-eyewear-migraine-pain-relief/ Last updated: 2025-11-19T13:05:59.000Z *\*Disclaimer: Whilst this post is sponsored by Axon Optics, all opinions expressed in this review are my own. This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ## My ‘Brief’ Year with Brutal Migraine Attacks A stark scene sits within the fog of my memories, one where I freeze up and stop dead in my tracks in the middle of a mall. My migraines had been quiet for a few days, so I had made a rare trip out of the house with my mother. But those damn migraines were the most unpredictable of all my illnesses - and I live with many. They struck like lightning without warning, a vicious bolt of pain right through the brain. It’s been 20 years so I don’t remember the exact details of where or how the pain felt like, but I do recall the debilitation. I managed to catch the bus back, and collapsed in bed at once, after drawing all the curtains firmly shut. The painkillers my doctor had prescribed had never worked for any of my migraines, and none of the drugs we had tried were successful at taming them. These excruciating episodes would last for hours, even days, and all I could do was to lie there in agony, and survive them. As mysteriously as they had surfaced, so did they disappear. Just like that, out of the blue. That was my brief encounter with migraines, and I really empathise with those who have to suffer them on a daily basis. They have such a huge impact on your quality of life, as you’re often trapped in bed, and left to suffer in dark silence. This often [**leads to mental health issues such as depression**](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) over time as well. Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) Pin to Your Migraine & Pain Management Boards: ![Axon Optics: Eyewear Made Specially For Migraine Pain Relief (Comes With A 30 Day Money-back Guarantee- Try It Now!)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_axon-optics.jpg) ## The Anatomy of a Migraine (as Opposed to a Headache) I’ve heard the word ‘migraine’ thrown about breezily, as if it were a synonym for a ‘really bad headache’. Whilst yes, they both have to do with pain in the head, migraines have distinct characteristics which include: - A throbbing or pulsing pain on one or both sides of the head - Sensitivity to light, sound, smell and/or touch - Nausea or vomiting - Blurred vision - Lightheadedness or fainting spells There are four phases associated with migraines, although not everyone will experience them all: prodrome, aura, attack and post-drome. Triggers vary for every individual, and range from food to stress, sleep, weather and more. You can [learn more about migraines here](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/migraine-headache/symptoms-causes/syc-20360201) (Mayo Clinic, n.d.). ## How Does Light Trigger a Migraine Attack? Did you know that our [eyes are linked directly to our brains](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/body/21823-eyes) (Cleveland Clinic, 2023), and that there are two pathways for transmitting information? One transmits visual information, and the other pain. This is believed to be a protective mechanism, such as when the sun is shining directly into our eyes, which can be harmful. But for people with migraines, this does not function as intended, and causes extreme pain instead. ## Sunglasses vs Blue-Tinted Glasses vs Migraine Glasses Many people with migraines retreat to a dark room in order to recuperate; some wear sunglasses to block out remaining traces of light. Whilst this might provide temporary relief, your eyes start to ‘dark adapt’. This level of darkness becomes the norm over time, which leads to an increased sensitivity to light. Hence, this isn’t a good long term solution for pain relief or eye care. [Light comes in a spectrum of coloured waves](https://science.nasa.gov/ems/09%5Fvisiblelight/), each with their own special set of properties, benefits, and harmful effects (National Aeronautics and Space Administration \[NASA\], Science Mission Directorate, n.d.). [Light therapy](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/22146-led-light-therapy) (Cleveland Clinic, 2021) is increasing in popularity, and you might have heard or even tried treatments such as infrared saunas or photon light therapy. The digital devices we use emit blue light, which is especially harmful to our eyes. It is also the light frequency that triggers migraines the most. Blue-tinted glasses do help to shield your eyes to an extent, and you can buy them at most optometrists these days. But they only provide minimal, generic protect. ### Axon Optics’ Migraine Glasses are Made with Upgraded FL-41 Filters According to their website, "[Axon Optics was co-founded by a leading neuro-ophthalmologist](https://axonoptics.com/pages/axon-optics-vs-fl-41) who pioneered many of the original FL-41 studies" ((Axon Optics, n.d.-a). Over the years, Axon Optics have also made improvements to their FL-41 filter migraine glasses. The primary aim of Axon Optics' migraine glasses is to block out lights that induce migraines and [photophobia](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3485070/) (light sensitivity) (Digre & Brennan, 2012). These filters have proven to be effective for migraine protection, as compared to other types of eyewear. There is a [wide variety of frames to choose from at Axon Optics](https://axonoptics.com/collections/migraine-glasses), to suit your individual needs and style (Axon Optics, n.d.-b). ![Man wearing the Jura frame migraine glasses by Axon Optics](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/jura-men.jpg) Go for that classic, classy look with the popular Jura frame from Axon Optics. ![A woman wears the Dalliance migraine glasses from Axon Optics.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/dalliance-black.jpg) For that classic cateye shape and extra curved protection, go with the Dalliance from Axon Optics. ## The Incredible Range of Eyewear from Axon Optics First of all, you do not need a prescription to wear these glasses, although you can add them in. They come in a variety of lenses: outdoor, transition, extra dark polarised, and even contact lens! All lenses come with a premium anti-glare coating, which helps to deflect reflections, scratches, smudges and debris. Many migraine sufferers own a few different pairs of glasses, which they switch according to their environments. If you are looking for something convenient, transition lens are great for their versatility. If you are looking for more specific coverage, owning both an indoor and outdoor pair of glasses would offer more targeted protection. Axon Optics’ eyewear also come in an assortment of shapes, depending on the amount of coverage you need. There are the standard frame types, then there are peripheral ones that block out light from the sides as well. Frames with gaskets provide maximum block out, and they also have something that you can fit over regular prescription frames. ![The colourful, fashionable Pantos from Axon Optics is great for narrower faces.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pantos.jpg) The colourful, fashionable Pantos from Axon Optics is great for narrower faces. ![Whilst the Skye Flex from Axon Optics is a more feminine look, it is made of hardy titanium and is also designed to block out peripheral light.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/skye-flex.jpg) Whilst the Skye Flex from Axon Optics is a more feminine look, it is made of hardy titanium and is also designed to block out peripheral light. ## Why You Should Try Axon Optics with Confidence Apart from custom made or prescription items, all of Axon Optics’ products come with a 30 day money-back guarantee, and free shipping within the USA. I think that this is an excellent deal for trying out something that might improve your quality of life. They are also non-invasive and thus do not come with negative side effects. With a wide selection of styles and frames to choose from, I believe that there will be something to suit your needs. Take a look at their online shop to see for yourself! [Shop Now](https://axonoptics.com/pages/photophobia-glasses) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don't Reflect)](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) Pin to Your Migraine & Pain Management Boards: ![Axon Optics: Eyewear Made Specially For Migraine Pain Relief (Available In A Wide Selection Of Styles)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_axon-4.jpg) For More Insight into Migraine Disorder: - [5 Weird Migraine Treatments (time.com)](https://time.com/2907315/migraine-treatments-relief/) ### References: - Axon Optics. (n.d.-a). *Axon Optics vs FL-41.* Retrieved 2025, July 8 from https://axonoptics.com/pages/axon-optics-vs-fl-41 - Axon Optics. (n.d.-b). Migraine glasses. Retrieved 2025, July 8 from https://axonoptics.com/collections/migraine-glasses - Cleveland Clinic. (2021, December 2). *LED Light Therapy.* https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/22146-led-light-therapy - Cleveland Clinic. (2023, November 15). *Eyes.* https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/body/21823-eyes - Digre, K. B., & Brennan, K. C. (2012). Shedding light on photophobia. *Journal of Neuro-Ophthalmology : The Official Journal of the North American Neuro-Ophthalmology Society, 32*(1), 68–81\. https://doi.org/10.1097/WNO.0b013e3182474548 - Mayo Clinic. (n.d.). *Migraine.* Retrieved 2018, December 18 from https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/migraine-headache/symptoms-causes/syc-20360201 - National Aeronautics and Space Administration, Science Mission Directorate. (n.d.). *Visible Light.* NASA Science. Retrieved 2025, July 8 from https://science.nasa.gov/ems/09\_visiblelight/ ### 7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/ Last updated: 2026-03-22T15:23:32.000Z ## An Introduction to Erica, and How to be a Better Friend to Someone with Chronic Illness In this guest post, Erica shares some simple tips on how you can be a better friend to someone with chronic illness. It can be difficult to put yourself in their shoes; I personally [**wouldn't expect any of my loved ones to understand**](https://achronicvoice.com/we-shouldnt-expect-people-to-understand/), because chronic illness is indescribable unless you live with it yourself. Having said that, showing some empathy is *always* possible, and a non–judgemental listening ear is *always* appreciated. Perhaps above all, acknowledging that their pain is real can mean a lot to them as well. Let's check out Erica's fantastic list of friendship tips below which, by the way, are applicable to any other relationship, too! > “We’re not meant to change anyone who isn’t willing or ready to change. What we can do is show up for them when they are ready to show up for themselves.” – [Jennifer Williamson](https://healingbrave.com/) *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the author's personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Read Related Posts: - [How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationships with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/) - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) Pin to Your Friendship & Chronic Illness Boards: ![7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/7-ways-better-friend-chronic-illness-3-things-never-do.jpg) ## Dealing with the Loss of Valued Relationships with Chronic Illness One of the most painful aspects of my chronic illness has been dealing with loss and grief, especially in losing valued relationships with family and friends. Battling a chronic illness is hard in so many ways. [**One of the hardest parts for me has been accepting support**](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) and letting those who care about me in. I’ve grown so accustomed to internalizing my emotions and processing new information on my own. Consequently, [**I end up isolating myself**](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) and turning anyone who tries to help away. While I am at fault for many of my lost or faded friendships, there are so many things I wish I could have said that may have led to a different outcome in the relationships. I forget that sometimes my friends and family struggle just as much as I do in not knowing how to help and support me. Here are 10 ways to be a better friend to someone with a chronic illness. Read Related Posts: - [What Stops You from Splitting Your Burdens Up?](https://achronicvoice.com/splitting-your-burdens/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Prisons or Paths to Freedom](https://achronicvoice.com/stories-we-tell-ourselves-prisons-freedom/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) ## 7 Things You Can Do to Show Your Support to a Friend with Chronic Illness ### 1\. Be Supportive When I Decide to Open Up About My Illness I constantly downplay my struggles because I don’t want to be that person who’s constantly complaining or being selfish. If I’m telling you about my pain, I’m deliberately choosing to be vulnerable with you because I want and need your support. ### 2\. Listen Without Trying to Provide a Solution Sometimes I’m just frustrated and complaining. I’m not looking for you to fix the problem – I just want someone to listen. I’ve more than likely tried or heard the suggestions or advice you have to offer. Listen with an open mind and really hear what I have to say. ### 3\. Be Mindful That This Is My Own Chronic Illness Experience While you might have a friend/aunt/co-worker who suffers from the same chronic illness, [**their experience is most likely completely different**](https://achronicvoice.com/advice-quite-literally-kill/) from mine. Each person experiences his or her disease and treatment in a unique way. While I know you may only be trying to help, try to refrain from drawing comparisons to others you know with similar conditions. ### 4\. Take the First Step to Reach Out I feel isolated all the time so when someone reaches out to me just to catch up, check in, or say hi, it can quite literally make my day. Text me, message me, Snapchat me, tag me – anything to remind me that you’re thinking of me and I’m not forgotten. Read Related Posts: - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [November 2018: Meeting and Collaborating with Chronically Ill People in Real Life](https://achronicvoice.com/meeting-collaborating-chronically-ill-real-life-november-2018/) ### 5\. Be Mindful of the Types of Plans We Make My energy levels are just not what they used to be. Keep in mind how draining things can be when making plans. Try to avoid loud restaurants, late nights or a lot of walking. ### 6\. Find Ways to Help Me Stay Comfortable, When We're Out Together Often in large social settings, I get anxious and feel out of place – not everyone knows and understands my limitations. I struggle to verbalize how I truly feel because I get embarrassed. Help me find a place to sit and have a conversation one-on-one with me, or suggest we go to the bar to get a glass of water. ### 7\. Accept Who I Am Today Learn to [**embrace the new me**](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/). Don’t have high expectations or compare me to my old life - accept me for where I am right now, not where you want or need me to be. Read Related Posts: - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [A Page From a Sick Girl’s Diary: Sometimes I Wish I was an Old Person](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girls-diary-wish-old-person/) - [We Want to Have Fun Just Like You, But Here’s What it Takes](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/) - [Kick Ass With Kindness and a Sweet Cherry on Top](https://achronicvoice.com/kick-ass-with-kindness/) - [Don’t Compare, Your Life Destination is Your Own Special Mission](https://achronicvoice.com/dont-compare-life-destination-special/) ## 3 Things You Should Never Do If You Want to be a Better Friend to a Person Who is Chronically Ill ### 1\. Don’t Just Assume – Ask Me You know the saying, when you assume you make an 'ass out of you and me'. Don’t assume I’m feeling fine because you think I look great. I know you’re trying to be nice, but [**it’s called an invisible illness for a reason**](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/). I hate having to explain why I may look fine but I’m not feeling any better. Instead, just ask me if I’m feeling better or if there’s anything else on your mind. ### 2\. Don’t Take It Personally When I Have to Cancel Plans Understand that I don’t cancel plans because I want to. It’s because I have to. I want to go but sometimes I just can’t and I already feel guilty about that. ### 3\. Don’t Give Up on Me One of my greatest fears is being a burden, so I isolate myself and push people away. When I stop hearing from you, it confirms my fears. Keep inviting me to hang out even if I often say no. One day I may say yes. I still want to feel included and be a part of a community. How do your own friends and family support you in your chronic illness journey? Feel free to share more tips on how to be a better friend to a person with chronic illness in the comments below, too! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [Why Fear is Self Harm, and How to Get Back Up](https://achronicvoice.com/why-fear-is-self-harm/) - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [What's it Like to be the Mother of a Chronically Ill Child? (Precious Insights from My Own Mum)](https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/) - [What’s it Like to be the Father of a Child with Chronic Illness? (Precious Insights from My Own Dad!)](https://achronicvoice.com/father-of-child-with-chronic-illness/) Pin to Your Friendship, Communication & Chronic Illness Boards: ![How To Be A Better Friend To Someone With Chronic Illness (Guest Post By: Erica on A Chronic Voice .com)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-to-be-better-friend-to-someone-with-chronic-illness.jpg) **Contributor Bio:** ![Erica's headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/erica-joy-profile.jpg) My name is Erica, and I’m from New York City. I write about my experiences with chronic illness and mental health, including lupus, fibromyalgia, IBS, depression and anxiety because I want other people suffering to know they’re not alone. I love ice cream, photography, traveling and cozy beds. Connect with her on [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/Hopenlyme/). ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ April ](https://www.livablebydesign.online) Mar 5, 2022 I resonate with so many of these. Thank you for sharing these tips! I especially loved your comment about feeling anxious out in public. It took me a long time to recognize that that was what I was feeling. Great suggestions, thank you! - Lucy Aug 23, 2021 I love this list, I wish I could hand it to everyone I know. Loneliness and loss of friendships has been one of the hardest things about chronic illness for me. No matter how much I explain things people just don’t understand what it’s like and I’m often judged by others and made to feel guilty for being restricted in what I can do. Hopefully as more awareness is raised we’ll receive more empathy, kindness and support. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 2, 2021 Thanks Lucy. I know the feeling… I don’t think I have anymore close friends for a variety of reasons. The pandemic, friends going on to make babies and form family clusters, isolation from chronic illness, yada yada. So it can become even more isolating in the end, save for internet spoonie friends 🙂 I agree that more empathy, kindness and support are needed. Not just for us, but for all humanity 🙂 - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Aug 18, 2020 “Listen Without Trying to Provide a Solution” – this has to be my most desired one from the list. I don’t think spoonies share because they’re looking for solutions – we just share! - Nikki Michelle Albert Aug 18, 2020 My good friend recently told me I talk too much about my chronic illness… so I must be focusing on it too much and maybe that is a problem. And then when on to say a whole lot of other typical stigma things like maybe I shouldn’t be on all my meds… It shocked me but I know she just doesn’t quite understand how serious my health issues are because she doesn’t see me at my worst. I was deeply hurt by it because I spend a great deal of time distracting myself from the pain and Not focusing on it … I just thought she was the sort of person I could be honest with about how I feel when she asks me. But Now I am going to constantly feel like I am talking about it too much or complaining… and won’t be mentioning anything anymore. Such is life. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 18, 2020 I’m sorry Nikki, but that’s a horrible thing for a good friend to say. An acquaintance, maybe, but a good friend?! 🙁 Sending hugs. I definitely think it’s okay to talk about your pain anytime as it’s part of our normal lives. And especially to loved ones it should be much easier to talk to them about. - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Aug 17, 2020 I so agree with ‘listen without trying to provide a solution’ – how many of us have been talking and then got the ‘cure’ that a person’s aunt’s dog’s sister had . . . listening alone is so important and helpful. I’m sure we have thought through most treatment options. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 18, 2020 Hi Claire, yes it can be so invalidating especially when it comes from a loved one. Listening is such an underrated skill of the 21st century. - Via Jun 27, 2020 Thank you so much for this article! It was SO perfectly laid out. The part that meant the most to me was not assuming. Honestly, if someone asked me about my chronic illness I’d be completely willing to share. But, unfortunately, stigma and assumptions make it so most people have no idea what to say and think they shouldn’t ask. Just ask me, I’d love to share! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 1, 2020 Hello, thank you for reading this guest post 🙂 Yes I think these are such fantastic nuggets of advice and wisdom for communication and how to be a better friend (to anyone, really!). Assumption is just plain annoying and ignorant, agreed. - Patricia Oct 4, 2019 Great article. As a chronic acute migraine sufferer I really relate to the loss of relationships. Like you, I never know when it’s going to happen. I hate cancelling but unfortunately cancelling is usually all I can manage before blocking all light and sound, and going to bed. However, I am fortunate enough to have one friend who has been through this with me for fifty years. Unfortunately, she was recently diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer. The thought of losing her is devastating. But I’m going to put your list to use with her. She is the one who needs support now. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 4, 2019 Hi Patricia, thanks for reading and sharing your own experiences. The isolation is definitely a painful and huge factor when it comes to dealing with chronic pain. I am so sorry to hear about your friend 🙁 I hope you and her hang in there and see it through as the most wonderful of friends. Please send her my love and gentle hugs x - Karley Linger Dec 14, 2018 Hey! I just wanted to stop by and let you know I absoloutly LOVE your blog I also wanted to drop a little message to let you know that I have nominated you for a Sunshine Blogger Award! You can find your nomination here – with what to do next. With Love, Spoonie Sanctuary - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 14, 2018 Hi Karley, thank you so much for your kind support, it’s much appreciated 🙂 And thank you for the nomination, will share it on my social! Here’s an old one I did btw, if you were interested 🙂 - Nicola Dec 12, 2018 This is a fab and useful post. I’m guilty of hiding how bad my illness can be & have had some relationships end because of my illness. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 13, 2018 Hi Nicola, I think it’s a really detailed and useful post by Erica, too! I wrote something about this as well, regarding being sick and ‘filtering’ out the people in my life, if you are interested! 🙂 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Curated Chronic Illness Gift Ideas for Christmas, Birthdays & Other Occasions! URL: https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-gift-ideas/ Last updated: 2026-04-14T15:43:22.000Z ## Chronic Illness Gift Ideas – for What’s Probably on Their Wish List! Wish lists tend to contain [**practical items that make everyday living easier**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-home-resources-learned-other-blogs/), or luxurious treats that warm the heart and soothe the soul. I’m not going to complain if I receive a fancy handbag, perfume or surprise holiday, so go ahead 😉 But my wish list has definitely evolved along with my chronic illnesses, to include things like pain relieving products. I could probably conclude that the ultimate desire behind every wish list is a better quality of life, whatever that means to each of us. Do you know someone who lives with chronic illness, but aren’t sure what to get them this Christmas or holiday season? Here’s a roundup of chronic illness gift ideas that might make a small or big difference in their lives. They’re also suitable for birthdays or any time you want to give them something. A small note before we begin – [**chronic illness and their symptoms vary**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) for every individual, even amongst those with the same diagnosis. So if something from this list of chronic illness gift ideas catches your attention but you aren’t sure if it’s suitable for your friend or loved one, don’t hesitate to check with them first – they will probably appreciate the gesture! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Read More in the Holiday & Christmas Series: - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) - [How to Survive the Holidays When Chronic Illness & Disability Cause Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/survive-the-holidays-chronic-illness-disability-pain/) - [All I Want for Christmas is Some Pain Relief! (Real Wish List Ideas from 13 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/all-i-want-for-christmas-pain-relief/) - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Gift Ideas & Wish List Boards: ![Curated Chronic Illness Gift Ideas for all Occasions! Get the list on A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/curated-chronic-illness-gift-ideas-for-all-occasions.jpg) ## Gift Ideas for Chronic Pain Management ### YuYu Water Bottle This was a product that I got to try out and review, and it’s been a useful addition to my personal pain relief toolkit. Unlike a generic hot water bottle, the YuYu Bottle comes in an elongated shape. There is a variety of cover materials to suit your comfort levels, such as fleece, cashmere and organic cotton. You can tie it around your waist and go about your chores. The length and flexibility also means that you can drape it across various body parts, such as around your neck. Sometimes I hug it as a warm, comforting bolster to sleep. Since my review, I also see that they’ve expanded their range to include an [Ice Recovery water bottle](https://yuyubottle.com/pages/ice-recovery), and the [YuYu Ice Pulse](https://yuyubottle.com/products/yuyu-ice-pulse) for targeted relief. Heat and cold therapy are useful for different sorts of chronic pain. Sometimes we even use both simultaneously to target different types of pain. [According to Malanga et al.](https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/00325481.2015.992719) (2015): > “Cold therapy is used in the management of acute injury/trauma, chronic pain, muscle spasm, DOMS, inflammation, and edema.” ….. “Physiological effects of heat therapy include pain relief, increases in blood flow and metabolism, and increased elasticity of connective tissue.” P.s. The YuYu water bottle isn’t only suitable for the chronically ill. Others who might appreciate it: ladies who experience menstrual cramps, people with desk-bound jobs that cause their backs to ache, and sportspeople in need of some muscle relief. [Click to Read My YuYu Bottle Review & Get a 15% Discount](https://achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-review/) Read Related Posts: - [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) - [The Chronic Pain Cycle & How to Break It (Top Tips From an Occupational Therapist)](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/) - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) - [How to Rewire the Brain to Manage Chronic Pain (& Resources to Help)](https://achronicvoice.com/rewire-brain-manage-chronic-pain/) ### Flotation Therapy Gift Voucher Who said that chronic illness gift ideas had to be limited to products? Floatation therapy works great for both physical and mental stress relief. In fact, I emerged from my first float ever feeling the most relaxed I had been in *years*! Flotation therapy is known scientifically as “Restricted Environmental Stimulation Therapy (REST)”. You basically float in a tank of water loaded with epsom salt/magnesium sulphate, which is akin to floating in the dead sea. Doing so induces a state of sensory deprivation, which leads you to the [theta state of awareness](https://www.healthline.com/health/theta-waves) (Larson, 2020); kind of like daydreaming on a long car ride (Speer, 2023). It’s literally meditation without even trying. [Flotation therapy stimulates the parasympathetic nervous system](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1186/1472-6882-14-417), also known as the ‘rest-and-digest’ state. This helps with many physical processes in the body, such as muscle repair and pain relief. It is also relaxing, which can help with anxiety, depression, and stress (Kjellgren and Westman, 2014). The only problem as always is the hefty price tag. A 60 minute session costs SGD90 (\~USD70), or SGD75 (\~USD60) if you buy a package. As with many alternative therapies, one attempt is usually insufficient to reap the full benefits, or to judge the effects with accuracy. So a gift card for more floats is always a good idea. 😉 Read Related Posts: - [Floatation Therapy: Did It do Anything for My Chronic Pain?](https://achronicvoice.com/floatation-therapy-chronic-pain/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don’t Reflect)](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or ‘How to Relax’ by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) ### Weighted Blanket / Oversized Blanket / Throw [Weighted blankets](https://www.amazon.com/s?k=weighted+blankets+for+adults&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=82d68057e0975315312037a2733f6028&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) can be a great gift idea for people with anxiety, ADHD, sensory processing disorders, stress and other related issues. The [weight feels like a warm embrace due to “deep pressure stimulation”](https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/blog/sleep-newzzz/201907/what-you-need-to-know-about-using-a-weighted-blanket) (Breus, 2019). This apparently helps you to fall asleep faster, with a better quality of rest (ain’t that the dream?). The price differs according to the material used to fill it; do ensure that it’s non-toxic, otherwise you’d just be trading one problem for another. *Update: I’ve bought myself a weighted blanket since last Christmas, but was a little disappointed in terms of the purported effects of aiding sleep and anxiety issues. One thing I hadn’t anticipated was the irony of the weight, when trying to pull the blanket over myself every night whilst aching everywhere. Moral of the story… it might not be suitable for all types of chronic pain.* I did get an [oversized, gigantic blanket](https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/CFF11DA4-942A-49FC-94CA-B1DAC9D768FE?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=1d9ab697224a8221fbf284f3344f9e5a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) though, and I must say that it’s been useful. I hate it when some part of my body is sticking out and getting cold, yet my blanket isn’t large enough to cover myself entirely, or I’m in too much pain to keep adjusting it. So big, light blankets are great for this purpose! Another simple chronic illness gift idea is to get your loved one a [comfy throw](https://www.amazon.com/s?k=throw+blanket&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=4284727e4f3eef520ab35a17341dc78b&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), and there are so many gorgeous designs and materials to choose from as well. These are great for covering cold shoulders or feet to retain some heat. In fact, I just bought a cheap one for myself for days when I don’t want to bundle myself up into burrito mode, and only need to keep one area of my body warm. Types of Weighted Blankets & Oversized Blankets: [![Knitted Weighted Blanket for Adult](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41yPtnMCwHL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D94322DR?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogv&th=1&psc=1) Knitted Weighted Blanket [![Sherpa Fleece King Size Weighted Blanket with Premium Glass Beads](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51M7jPa2b1L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BGRCT74N?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogv&th=1&psc=1) Sherpa Fleece Weighted Blanket with Premium Glass Beads [![Big Blanket Co Original Stretch Forest Green Giant Blanket](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/419w7dKhTtL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07NC9ZXYF?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogv&th=1&psc=1) Big Blanket Co Original Stretch ### Compression Gloves Instead of a pair of socks, perhaps compression gloves might be a better idea for your friend or loved one with chronic pain, especially if they have arthritis types of pain. I have found that compression gloves really help with pain management when my hands are aching. I have several types for different purposes – regular plain ones for all occasions, [dotted ones for better grip](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BYZVJCZZ?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogv&th=1&psc=1), and [long ones that reach all the way to my elbows](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07NQRNJN3?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=75c8c27f331357fa682cd01e84b6f9b8&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) for when my forearms are aching, too. [Grace & Able](https://www.graceandable.com/) sells hand-therapist designed compression gloves in fun colours that are FDA registered. What’s more, the founder, Sarah, lives with Rheumatoid Arthritis herself. Sarah also kindly sponsored 10 pairs of compression gloves in the [**2021 Christmas Giveaway here on the blog**](https://achronicvoice.com/virtual-holiday-party-chronically-ill-disabled/#grace-able), and we’ll never forget her kindness 🙂 Types of Compression Gloves I Use: [![Anti-Slip Fingerless Compression Gloves](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51Qi7NAU6oL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BYZVJCZZ?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogv&th=1&psc=1) Anti-Slip Fingerless Compression Gloves [![Copper Compression Long Gloves](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41J-vcNtPQL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07NQRNJN3?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogv&th=1&psc=1 "N/A") Copper Compression Long Gloves Read Related Posts: - [Wound Care & What to Wear: Compression Socks & Gloves](https://achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery/#compression) - [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [Rheumatoid Arthritis – the Biggest Street Fight of My Life](https://achronicvoice.com/rheumatoid-arthritis-fight-life/) ### Blisslets Acupressure Bands (for Nausea) You know those acupressure bands that people wear to help with motion sickness or morning sickness? [Blisslets](https://www.amazon.com/stores/BLISSLETS/page/2B57BB92-A260-4C30-B825-7CE6D90B8E3D?store%5Fref=bl%5Fast%5Fdp%5FbrandLogo%5Fsto&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b7eb38873070d2793f3adc9229cbfc76&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) help to relieve nausea by [applying gentle pressure on the P6 (nei-kuan) acupressure point](https://blisslets.com/pages/how-they-work). One study by Sadighha and Nurai (2008) [compared acupressure against an antiemetic medication, metoclopramide](https://www.annsaudimed.net/doi/full/10.5144/0256-4947.2008.287), and the anti-nausea effect for both post surgery were similar. What I like about Blisslets is that they are not only practical and functional, but also pleasing to the eye! I’ve bought a few of these for a friend who was having a tough pregnancy, and also for my helper who suffers from motion sickness. Whilst they said that it didn’t relieve all of the nausea, it did help to reduce it somewhat. Blisslets can also be great for a friend or loved one who suffers from migraine or another nausea-inducing chronic illness as well. [**Blisslets also sponsored a pair for the 2020 Christmas Giveaway on the blog here**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-christmas-giveaway-gifts-pain/#blisslets) 🙂 Blisslets I’ve Bought for Others as Gifts: [![Blisslets Acupressure Relief Band - Classics Pack](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41LtmkDjiZL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CFMD5T3L?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogv&th=1&psc=1) Classics Pack [![Blisslets Acupressure Relief Band - Cartagena Collection](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41l+zZ0GngL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CFMDTH12?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogv&th=1&psc=1 "N/A") Cartagena Collection ### Sleep Masks / Eye Masks Many people with chronic pain suffer from ‘[painsomnia](https://health.osu.edu/health/sleep/what-is-painsomnia)’, a term coined to mean insomnia due to chronic pain (Luke, 2023). Many of us have poor quality sleep in general, too. A good sleep mask can be a helpful sleeping tool, especially for those who are light sleepers. I personally don’t like sleep masks or ear plugs whilst sleeping, as I don’t like the feeling of ‘being trapped’. However, [Manta Sleep](https://mantasleep.com/?rfsn=7745577.2b8c6c&utm%5Fsource=refersion&utm%5Fmedium=affiliate&utm%5Fcampaign=7745577.2b8c6c) gave me a few of their standard sleep masks to try out, which I shared with my ex-partner and father. A few years later, they still use it because it just works! They also [**sponsored our Christmas giveaway back in 2021**](https://achronicvoice.com/virtual-holiday-party-chronically-ill-disabled/#manta-sleep), which is generous of them. Manta Sleep masks are 100% blackout and designed for even side sleepers. They also come in a few variations to cater for different needs, such as zero pressure, for long eyelashes or in silk. I also tried out their Manta Steam and Manta Cool eye masks, which are meant for eye relief from various ailments such as eye strain or stuffy sinuses. I like these as they feel so therapeutic and relaxing! Different Types of Manta Sleep & Therapeutic Eye Masks: [![Manta Max Mask - Extra Spacious 100% Blackout Sleep Mask](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51L3dWA6f+L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09BQ3BFX5?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Manta Max Mask - Extra Spacious 100% Blackout Sleep Mask") Manta Max Mask (Extra Spacious) [![Manta Sleep Weighted Eye Mask](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51adPnpTn8L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0865P18C2?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Manta Sleep Weighted Eye Mask") Manta Sleep Weighted Eye Mask [![Manta Cool Mask (for Allergy, Migraine, Puffy Eyes & Sinus Relief)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51Bby8wzjsL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0865RLTXB?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Manta Cool Mask (for Allergy, Migraine, Puffy Eyes & Sinus Relief)") Manta Cool Mask (for Allergy, Migraine, Puffy Eyes & Sinus Relief) [![Manta Steam Mask (for Dry/Puffy Eyes, Migraine & Sinus Relief)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51zp737v4uL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0865KJ1QR?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Manta Steam Mask (for Dry/Puffy Eyes, Migraine & Sinus Relief)") Manta Steam Mask (for Dry/Puffy Eyes, Migraine & Sinus Relief) Read Related Posts: - [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/) - [How Much Time Are You Wasting On Sleep?](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) ### Migraine/Photophobia Glasses If your friend or loved one lives with migraine disease or has photophobia (light sensitivity) triggered by another disorder, a pair of photophobia/migraine glasses can be handy. Migraineurs are actually discouraged in general from wearing dark sunglasses indoors, as it can lead to increased light sensitivity ironically. Migraine glasses are usually made with FL-41 filters, and [according to Albilali and Dilli (2018)](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11910-018-0864-0): > “FL-41 tint filters 80% of short wavelengths of 50 or 60 Hz found in fluorescent lights. Short wavelengths are known to trigger migraines more than other wavelengths.” Popular brands for migraine glasses include [TheraSpecs](https://www.amazon.com/stores/TheraSpecs/page/DEEA7C82-DEA9-4726-AF9C-994040DF217D?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=9bf81651f7075bc3ee3c05f0b6307a9d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) and [Avulux/Axon Optics](https://avulux.com/blogs/avulux-migraine-glasses-news/axon-optics-joins-avulux-family) (they have merged). You might want to check in with your loved one before purchasing a pair of migraine glasses however, as there are also many different types that block out various wavelengths of light. The quality of the migraine glasses also make a difference. Examples of Migraine Glasses: [![TheraSpecs Audrey Glasses for Light Sensitivity (Indoor Lens)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31ke2kpkbhL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B074DPHRPG?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) TheraSpecs Audrey Glasses for Light Sensitivity (Indoor Lens) [![TheraSpecs Classic Glasses for Light Sensitivity (Outdoor Lens)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31qDwsNuItL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00F8Q3ECW?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) TheraSpecs Classic Glasses for Light Sensitivity (Outdoor Lens) Read Related Posts: - [Axon Optics: Eyewear Made Specially for Migraine Pain Relief](https://achronicvoice.com/axon-optics-eyewear-migraine-pain-relief/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) ## Chronic Illness Gift Ideas for Mental Health & Well-Being Chronic pain and mental health are often interconnected, and taking care of one aspect has positive effects on [**all dimensions of well-being**](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/). Here are some chronic illness gift ideas that may be useful self-care or coping tools for your friend or loved one. ### Guided Journal & Symptom Tracker There are all sorts of journals for whatever your needs may be these days. In particular, a [guided journal](https://www.amazon.com/s?k=guided+journal&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b7691d7f13d16d4a3d54426a09e634a5&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) or [symptom tracker](https://www.amazon.com/s?k=symptom+tracker&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=d91d6d41e57088e0cc4b9950e8cc9f75&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) can be great chronic illness gift ideas. There are so many guided journals on the market these days to address all sorts of issues. They can be a great tool for working on self-improvement, self-esteem, [your personal healing journey](https://www.pathways.health/blog/pain-awareness-through-journaling-and-using-it-to-manage-chronic-pain/) and more. Most of them have writing prompts and encouraging quotes to guide the user throughout the lifespan of the journal. Symptom trackers are also handy for anyone with a chronic illness. By tracking symptoms, medications, mood and more, you can unravel patterns over time – both good and bad ones. Thereafter, you can take positive action. There are a few symptom trackers out there created by people with chronic illnesses themselves as well. Examples of Guided Journals & Symptom Trackers: [![100 Days to Brave Guided Journal: Unlock Your Most Courageous Self](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/519NmaRKL7L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310455227?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) 100 Days to Brave Guided Journal: Unlock Your Most Courageous Self [![Tell Me Your Life Story, Mom: A Mother’s Guided Journal and Memory Keepsake Book](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31F2s8ooFbL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1952568099?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Tell Me Your Life Story, Mom: A Mother’s Guided Journal and Memory Keepsake Book [![90 Day Food And Symptom Journal](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41RUsWoAlxS._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B098RS655T?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) 90 Day Food And Symptom Journal [![This F*cking Hurts: A Pain & Symptom Tracking Journal for Chronic Pain & Illness](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41ZJPZ7fFCS._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1990271340?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) This F\*cking Hurts: A Pain & Symptom Tracking Journal for Chronic Pain & Illness You can also [**check this post out for more ideas of journals and journaling methods**](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/), if you need some help deciding which type to get! Read Related Posts: - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) - [An Inspirational Poem on Miracles, by Thuli Zuma](https://achronicvoice.com/poem-on-miracles-thuli-zuma/) - [The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Prisons or Paths to Freedom](https://achronicvoice.com/stories-we-tell-ourselves-prisons-freedom/) ### Self-Awareness or Game Cards There are many card packs these days for all sorts of questions that you can play with others in a Q&A format, or to do some personal inner work. They can make for great gift ideas for a friend who isn’t too keen on journaling, but might still need or like thought-provoking questions to gain better self-awareness and clarity. I like to browse from a local store here in Singapore, [Cat Socrates](https://cat-socrates.myshopify.com/collections/mindfulness), but [self-awareness/game cards are also readily available on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/s?k=self+awareness+card+pack&crid=36ZRQ9M720F6V&sprefix=self+awareness+card+pac%2Caps%2C337&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=7469e2a433e586eb6a4efae352e095cd&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), your local bookshop or knick-knack store. P.s. You can even start playing these cards together right after they’ve unwrapped them. It doesn’t consume too much energy, and can be great for bonding! 🙂 Examples of Self-Care & Game Cards: [![Allura & Arcia: 52 Stress Less & Self Care Cards](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41+cFslWr1S._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B088BXDJPZ?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Allura & Arcia: 52 Stress Less & Self Care Cards [![Affirmators! 50 Affirmation Cards Deck to Help You Help Yourself - Without the Self-Helpy-Ness](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51ikV1Sv3CL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1601067119?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Affirmators! 50 Affirmation Cards Deck to Help You Help Yourself – Without the Self-Helpy-Ness [![Table Topics: Original 10th Anniversary Edition - Questions to Start Great Conversations](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51CXixctWsL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00GNI0DNM?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Table Topics: Original 10th Anniversary Edition – Questions to Start Great Conversations [![BestSelf: Intimacy Deck - 150 Relationship Building Conversation Cards](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41AxKvGusWL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07W1PVNFC?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) BestSelf: Intimacy Deck – 150 Relationship Building Conversation Cards Read Related Posts: - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [Find Your Way Back to Happiness with a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/find-happiness-chronic-illness/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) ### Crystal Stone Passive Diffuser If you live in Malaysia or Singapore, these [crystal stone diffusers from Hyang](https://hyang.co/) can make for a gorgeous gift. They’re hand-chiselled selenite crystals, so they’re great for the crystal lovers out there standalone. However, you can also drip essential oils onto them, so they’re a home decor item *plus* scent diffuser in one! I gifted my sister with one, and it’s still on display in her home. I also own one myself; admittedly the sillage isn’t wide, but I still enjoy the gentle scented wafts, and it’s calming to look at. Apart from crystals, passive diffusers also come in ceramic and lava rock materials. The scent from essential oils can be relaxing for the mind, so it can be a nice gift for those who suffer from anxiety and the likes. Types of Essential Oil Passive Diffusers: [![Plant Therapy Lava Rock Passive Diffuser](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41Yr-umUh6L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C1CVNGNG?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogv&th=1&psc=1) Plant Therapy – Lava Rock Passive Diffuser [![Rose Shaped Ceramic Passive Diffuser](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41qYGICN6tL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BX3P3D33?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogv&th=1&psc=1) Rose Shaped Ceramic Passive Diffuser If your friend prefers the scent to be more portable, a [diffuser bracelet or necklace](https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Essential+Oil+Diffuser+Bracelet+and+necklace&crid=330NWD4J2KTSF&sprefix=essential+oil+diffuser+bracelet+and+neckl%2Caps%2C520&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f9d4f6a201615c3a4d5c648a8a7ebebb&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) might be a great alternative gift idea as well. There are many designs to choose from to suit your friend’s personal style, and some come with encouraging messages chiselled in as well. Examples of Diffuser Bracelets & Necklaces: [![Lava Rock Essential Oil Diffuser Necklace (Bird Design)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51U6h+E-fnL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CC5LSV91?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogv&th=1&psc=1) Lava Rock Essential Oil Diffuser Necklace (bird design) [![Stainless Steel Locket Essential Oil Diffuser Locket](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51O91aqBRQL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07R5CHTVK?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogv&th=1&psc=1) Stainless Steel Essential Oil Diffuser Locket (with inscription) [![Lava Rock Beaded Diffuser Bracelet](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41wemh6rUzL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B086Q5JX2W?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogv&th=1&psc=1) Lava Rock Beaded Diffuser Bracelet ## Home & Lifestyle Chronic Illness Gift Ideas ### “Drink Pure Wine” Wine Wands These wine wands were another product I got to try out and review, and they get two thumbs up from me. Whilst I don’t drink on a regular basis, they’re really handy for occasions when I want to indulge and celebrate a little. The product was created by a chemist who is passionate about wine. [Here’s how to use it, according to Drink Pure Wine’s website](https://drinkpurewine.com/pages/faqs): > “With intermittent gentle stirring, it will remove over 50% of the histamines and sulfites from the wine. After 8 minutes, as much as 95% of the histamines and sulfites can be removed.” The good stuff like the flavour of the wine is retained as well. Apart from [wine wands](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B099M8WLKD?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=a1ab76855f9bd659d72117f42e59a374&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), they also sell a [single-use wine purifier and aerator called “The Wave”](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07WNJZSSK?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ada57794eb636ab08a3d882fe7bbd066&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), as well as a [reusable wine purifier, “The Phoenix”](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BJ4JSQB6?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=40b44e7135873a8964207348e1fdcc20&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). If your friend or loved one can no longer drink wine due to it triggering chronic pain, these might be worth trying out. You may want to check in with them first though, to see if it’s a good idea. [Buy Drink Pure Wine Wine Wands at 15% Off](https://lddy.no/f3wy) The Drink Pure Wine Product Family: [![PureWine: Silver & Gold Wine Wand Filters](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41mfyDFZYrL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B099M8WLKD?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) PureWine: Silver & Gold Wine Wand Filters [![PureWine: “The Phoenix” Wine Bottle Filter & Aerator](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41S5f921vUL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BJ4JSQB6?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) PureWine: “The Phoenix” Wine Bottle Filter & Aerator [![PureWine: “The Wave” Wine Filter & Aerator](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/419QlK5Pm5S._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07WNJZSSK?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) PureWine: “The Wave” Wine Filter & Aerator Read Related Posts: - [Drink Pure Wine Review (A Product That Excites Me as a Person with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/drink-pure-wine-review/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [We Want to Have Fun Just Like You, But Here’s What it Takes](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/) ### Oral Spray Vitamins [**I got to sample and review the “Sleep Spray”**](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) from [Spectra Spray](https://www.amazon.com/stores/SpectraSpray/page/633A83DB-3DB9-4E8E-BD3B-81DF52232375?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=01efcbc101c4a62d70225610238827e7&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) at a discounted rate. The sprays are diabetic and geriatric friendly, with no binders, fillers or allergens. The founder, Janet, is a lovely lady as well who [**sponsored three oral sprays in our 2020 Christmas Giveaway**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-christmas-giveaway-gifts-pain/#spectraspray). I also gave some oral iron mineral sprays to my dad. Other sprays that Spectra Spray sells include: L-Theanine, Vitamin B12, Vitamin D3, [**Vitamin D3 + K2**](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) (for synergistic effect, GABA (melatonin free), CoQ10, multivitamin and more. The benefit of oral spray vitamins is the superior absorption rate, which is about 5 times better than pills and capsules, [according to Spectra Spray’s website](https://www.spectraspray.com/why-spray-vitamins). As you just spray them onto your cheek, oral sprays can be great chronic illness gift ideas if your loved one suffers from dysphagia, or hates taking their supplements in pill form. As always, it might be best to enquire with your friend or loved one beforehand, to see if if oral spray vitamins might be something they’d be keen to try, as certain vitamins may not be suitable for them. For example, vitamin K interacts with my own warfarin blood thinning medication, so I obviously didn’t buy or try that one. Spectra Spray also sells gift cards, so your loved one can browse and select their own sprays! [Use Code “ACHRONICVOICE” for $10 Off Spectra Spray](https://www.spectraspray.com/?ref=ro3g2jmalw) SpectraSpray’s Full Range of Oral Sprays: [ ![SpectraSpray’s Full Range of Oral Sprays](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/spectra-spray-oral-sprays-range-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ](https://www.spectraspray.com/?ref=ro3g2jmalw) Read Related Posts: - [Dysphagia & Swallowing Problems (and How Oral Vitamin Sprays Can be of Help to You)](https://achronicvoice.com/dysphagia-oral-vitamin-sprays/) - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) ### Books & Magazines Books are usually a good idea for most people. Reading a captivating paperback is time well spent, whether fiction or nonfiction. Hardcovers or coffee table books with beautiful prints on good paper are also such a treat! Not sure which book to pick? Here are the [Editors’ picks and bestsellers of the month on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/b?node=17143709011&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ffe58b59a4355163aa9783f3bba324dc&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). Books are also a wholesome physical experience. I take pleasure in fondling the paper, taking in the musty scent, and enjoy the high quality of photographs or illustrations. It all adds up to help you unwind on a subconscious level. In fact, [studies have found that reading something you enjoy can reduce stress by up to 68%](https://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.edu/reading-stress-relief) (Olson, n.d.). I also have a huge love for magazines, and usually have one by my bedside in addition to a book. I reach out for it whenever I feel like I need something soothing. Magazines can be more creative with their presentation, which is refreshing. You usually need to absorb the content or storyline in a book, or risk becoming lost the further you continue. Magazines on the other hand, are usually split into interconnected prose which you can skip or read piecemeal. Whilst gift cards may seem a little boring, they’re pretty safe chronic illness gift ideas if you’re unsure of what to get. I know I’ll never complain about getting a ‘boring’ gift card for books. Also, not every disabled person is able to hold a physical book, so an e-book or audiobook might actually be a better option, and a gift card lets them choose the format. [Buy a Gift Card from Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/b?node=2238192011&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6d40c932f74bcd6452122a671fab4d11&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) [Buy a Gift Card from AllScript (Singapore)](https://www.allscript.com/magazines/AL002/Z0140/allscript-gift-card-25) Read Related Posts: - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You’re All Invited, Too!)](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies: Part II](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies-2/) - [Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill: Part III](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-3-chronically-ill/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [Magazine Review: Lucky Peach’s Last Issue, Ever](https://achronicvoice.com/magazine-review-lucky-peach/) ### Amazon Kindle / E-Reader As mentioned above, some people with chronic illnesses and disabilities aren’t able to handle physical books too well. Whilst I enjoy the physical experience of a paperback, reading on a Kindle comes with its own set of benefits, too. I never thought that I would be one to enjoy reading on a digital screen, so colour me surprised when I received a Kindle as a gift, and loved it! The size fits perfectly against the palm of my hand and it is light in weight, which is great for those of us who suffer from achy muscles and joints, especially in the hands and fingers. In fact, I managed to finish reading [Catherine the Great: Portrait of a Woman](https://www.amazon.com/Catherine-Great-Portrait-Robert-Massie-ebook/dp/B004J4X9L0?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=3ad6f2cdbf52bdde0ec3b15dd5abd9e1&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), thanks to my Kindle. I was struggling to read the paperback that weighs about 1kg (2.35 pounds) with my sore hands. I have the [Kindle Paperwhite](https://www.amazon.com/All-new-Amazon-Kindle-Paperwhite-Signature/dp/B0C8RR4WN3?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6505390ec96a15530b21164e86098471&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) and would recommend it; it comes with a backlight which is important in my opinion. Unlike mobile phones, the e-ink isn’t harsh on the eyes, which makes it suitable for reading in bed in the dark as well, should your loved one be unable to sleep. If your friend or loved one does not like the Kindle for any reason, there are also other e-readers available on the market, such as the [Barnes & Noble Glowlight 4e](https://www.amazon.com/Barnes-Noble-Glowlight-Touchscreen-BNRV1000/dp/0594149274?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=2e2bccdff5b01910d915af620078efbb&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), and the [Kobo Clara Colour](https://www.amazon.com/Kobo-eReader-Glare-Free-Waterproof-Audiobooks/dp/B0CZY1LRT4?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f8bdb041fe7f2f6cd78d0bed06921c7f&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). You can also [**check this post out for more ideas related to podcasts, audiobooks and reading devices**](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) that may be suitable as chronic illness gift ideas. Types of E-Readers: [![Amazon Kindle Paperwhite Signature Edition (32 GB)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41e1Z5AnvGL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C8RR4WN3?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Amazon Kindle Paperwhite Signature Edition [![Kobo Clara Colour E-Reader](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31LXXSG82LL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CZY1LRT4?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Kobo Clara Colour E-Reader [![Barnes & Noble Nook Glowlight 4e eReader | 6](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31ZfajZJjTL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0594149274?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Barnes and Noble Glowlight 4e E-Reader ### Noise-Cancelling Headphones / Earbuds These can be a practical gift idea for your chronically ill friend who is sensitive to sound. They’re not only useful for bringing along on travels, but also to block out noise at any given moment, whether on a busy street or whilst in bed. Alternatively, if your friend or loved one is into music, I’m sure they’d be delighted to own a pair of high quality earphones or headphones. The sound enhancement can make a big difference, and bring so much more listening pleasure. If they don’t already own a pair that works with their particular phone model, you can also get ones that do. I bought the [Apple AirPods](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DGVT3T92?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=573bfa0d21bb412b7a209bbf41c8647e&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) at the student discounted rate, and have zero regrets. I’m not sure why I didn’t get them sooner! They sync nicely with my phone so I can answer calls, switch from computer to phone easily, and the sound quality of music as compared to my previous earphones makes me happy. Examples of Headphones & Earbuds: [![Apple AirPods 4 Wireless Earbuds](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/21r1QKCYMaL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DGVT3T92?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Apple AirPods 4 Wireless Earbuds [![Sony WH-1000XM4 Wireless Noise Cancelling Overhead Headphones, with Mic & Alexa Voice Control](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/21pmgc6QwCL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0863FR3S9?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Sony WH-1000XM4 Wireless Noise Cancelling Overhead Headphones, with Mic & Alexa Voice Control [![Bose QuietComfort Bluetooth Headphones, with Over Ear Noise Cancelling & Mic](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31F1zwV97TL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CCZC9J1V?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Bose QuietComfort Bluetooth Headphones, with Over Ear Noise Cancelling & Mic ### Smart Home Set Up This could be anything from the [Google home store](https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/8E366402-36AA-4ADD-B2A7-BA6E44A3B8F9?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e100f6e3fcc4d97adcbcc0a63406e3e9&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) – from the [Nest doorbell](https://www.amazon.com/Bundle-Google-Doorbell-Wired-Indoor/dp/B0DCHCQS8Z?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=1dbe289553b23346fdaa0e8ce02c1cca&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), [Nest thermostat](https://www.amazon.com/Google-Nest-Thermostat-Smart-Programmable/dp/B08HRWWCTR?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=43ce1409cb600f5b0b779f0f7947d8b8&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), Nest hub and so much more. If your friend or loved one is more of an Apple sort of person, the [Apple store](https://www.amazon.com/stores/Apple/page/77D9E1F7-0337-4282-9DB6-B6B8FB2DC98D?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6f105f015a45374612d39628e606a895&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) also sells the [HomePod](https://www.amazon.com/Apple-HomePod-2nd-Generation-Warranty/dp/B0DP5GK33D?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=798ff98c9ba05cc879deb0e754dba7a4&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), which is able to integrate your entire home to make it more accessible. If they struggle with brain fog or remembering where they’ve placed items, the [Apple AirTags](https://www.amazon.com/Apple-MX532LL-A-AirTag/dp/B0CWXNS552?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c47f70dfdf3af64bfb9580c94e1872a9&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) can make for great chronic illness gift ideas as well! The nice thing about these smart home set ups are voice controls and a central management system (such as via a phone app). When you live with chronic pain, it’s often a toss up between suffering some pain to get up and adjust the controls, or enduring the cold/heat/lights for a little while longer. My uncle transformed my room into a smart home set up [**after I was bed bound for a year from breaking my knees**](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/), so I could do some ‘simple’ things such as switch the lights off and shut the curtains, without the need to keep calling for help. The gift of enhanced home accessibility is always welcome, I’d say! Examples of Smart Home Accessories: [![Apple AirTag](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31Ptkdc83bL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CWXNS552?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Apple AirTag [![Apple HomePod](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/514pvKblIoL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DP5GK33D?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Apple HomePod [![Google Nest Thermostat](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/21Dsod4yNhL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08HRWWCTR?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Google Nest Thermostat [![Google Nest Doorbell and Camera Bundle](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/210eCpV42xL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DCHCQS8Z?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Google Nest Doorbell & Camera Bundle Read Related Posts: - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) - [Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-home-resources-learned-other-blogs/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) ### Instant Pot (Bonus: Meal Prep for Them!) An instant pot is a multi-cooker which functions as a slow cooker, pressure cooker, yoghurt maker and more. I already own one of these, and they have my seal of approval on the chronic illness gift ideas list. We wanted to buy the [InstaPot brand](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00FLYWNYQ?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e138e6a558c1a20b1538591779e1e932&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), but didn’t realise how troublesome that would be in Singapore/Australia (shipping, weight, adaptor), and ended up purchasing the [Philips Viva](https://www.philips.com.sg/c-p/HD2137%5F62/viva-collection-all-in-one-cooker) one instead. What we did was to prepare a month’s supply of meals and freeze them in separate bags. Write the name of the dish down with a marker, together with any extra steps needed such as garnishing. After that you can dump each meal straight from the freezer into the pot, and have a warm, nourishing meal ready for dinner. Another thing you could do to help someone who lives with chronic illness or disability is to prepare frozen meals such as these. It is both an act of service and a nutritious, practical gift. Afterall, everyone needs to eat, and the healthier, the better! Just don’t forget to ask them about food sensitivities beforehand, or risk wasting your efforts. FYI: unfortunately, sales for the InstaPot brand was affected by the pandemic, and they have filed for bankruptcy. It wasn’t because they were a bad product though. [According to bon appétit](https://www.bonappetit.com/story/instant-pot-bankrupt), they were a little *too good*: > “We loved the Instant Pot, and it loved us back—and perhaps that was its ultimate downfall. In the end it was simply too good. It was so good we didn’t want to buy another.” Regardless, there are various other brands you can purchase an instant pot from as well. Examples of Instant Pots: [![Instant Pot Duo 7-in-1 Electric Pressure Cooker, Slow Cooker, Rice Cooker, Steamer, Sauté, Yogurt Maker, Warmer & Sterilizer, Includes App With Over 800 Recipes, Stainless Steel, 6 Quart](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41QIkgCmNLL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00FLYWNYQ?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) The Original Instant Pot Duo 7-in-1 Electric Cooker [![CHEF iQ Smart Pressure Cooker 10 Cooking Functions & 18 Features, Built-in Scale, 1000+ Presets & Times & Temps w/App for 600+ Foolproof Guided Recipes, Rice & Slow Electric MultiCooker, 6 Qt](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41lR3pmJiqL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0863JB424?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Chef iQ Smart Pressure Cooker – 10 Cooking Functions & 18 Features ### Air Fryer This is another kitchen equipment that has become indispensable for me, especially for my late night food cravings \*ahem\*. I often take food or meals out from my freezer, and just throw them into the air fryer to heat up. I also don’t like using the microwave for several reasons, one of which is that food tastes like cardboard after. So an air fryer is a fantastic substitute. It’s not only meant for reheating food though. You can also use the air fryer to cook vegetables, meat and full meals. Here are the [most popular air fryer recipes from Jamie Oliver](https://www.jamieoliver.com/recipes/air-fryer/). The best part is that it’s much easier to clean up after as well as it’s just one tray – so that’s some energy saved. Examples of Air Fryers: [![Ninja Air Fryer Pro XL 6-in-1 with 6.5 QT Capacity, Max Crisp, Air Fry, Air Roast, Bake, Reheat, Dehydrate, Max Crisp Technology with 450F, Nonstick Basket & Crisper Plate, Grey, AF181](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/412jHCGGR+L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CS3V8M9H?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Ninja AF181 Pro XL 6-in-1 Air Fryer [![Ninja DoubleStack XL Smart 2-Basket Air Fryer, Smart Cook System, DoubleStack Technology Cook 4 Foods at Once, Space Saving Design, 10 QT, 6-in-1, Smart Finish & Match Cook, Air Fry, Broil, Bake SL451](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/91mmBors5+L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D6NM91VZ?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Ninja SL451 DoubleStack XL 6-in-1 Smart 2-Basket Air Fryer [![Dome Air Fryer, Extra Large Capacity, No.1 Cooking Speed with Innovative Airflow, Self-cleaning Smart Digital Air Fryer with Dishwasher Safe Basket for Quick Easy Meals](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41ybcQr6AVL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CKP6Y6KB?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Dome Extra Large, Self-Cleaning Air Fryer Read Related Posts: - [“It’s in My Blood”: Sarah Frison – A Pastry Chef with a Stomach Disorder](https://achronicvoice.com/sarah-frison-pastry-chef-stomach-disorder/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Cheyanne Perry – Living a Full Life with Deadly Allergies](https://achronicvoice.com/cheyanne-perry-life-allergies/) - [3 Types of Chronic Pain that Sound Bearable, but are Not](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-bearable-not/) ### Robot Vacuum Cleaner My philosophy is to automate anything that’s repetitive and mindless in nature, whenever possible. Well unless it’s something beneficial like exercise, then habits are essential! Robot vacuum cleaners have become a popular household helper item. Even people who don’t live with chronic illness or disability buy these to save themselves some time and hassle. My sister bought my dad a Deebot for his birthday (but really, we all benefit from it 😉). I also have pet birds that are capable of making a mess even whilst inside their cages. Empty shell husks and dander have a way of floating everywhere, and they love to kick stuff out of their food bowls. And whilst I may admire [my sheltie](https://www.instagram.com/mysheltietally)’s luscious locks, he sheds a lot and his furry clumps can be found everywhere. So the robot vacuum cleaner has been real handy for stuff like that. I suppose anyone with children would face the same problem, perhaps even more so. A dirty house and dusty floors are never good for our mental well-being either. So I think we can all agree that a robot vacuum cleaner is nice to have on the wish list, if you don’t already own one! Many models also has a mop function, so that’s taking down two birds with one stone. As with most electronic products, robot vacuum cleaners come in a wide range of price points and functions. Whilst there are mega high-end ones that even have AI integrated for ‘true’ obstacle avoidance, the less expensive ones still get the job done. Examples of Robot Vacuum Cleaners: [![Shark Robot Vacuum & Mop Combo, PowerDetect NeverTouch Pro, Self-Emptying, Self-Refill with Self-Clean Pad Wash & Dry, 60-Day Debris Capacity, 30-Day Refill Tank, 5 PowerDetect Technologies, AV2800ZE](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/416iPjLmz0L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DCPX2M8N?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Shark AV2800ZE Robot Vacuum & Mop Combo – Self-Emptying & Self-Cleaning [![ECOVACS DEEBOT T30S AI Robot Vacuum and Mop, 11000Pa, TruEdge Adaptive Edge Mopping, ZeroTangle Technology, AI Instant Re-mop, Hot Water Mop Washing, Self-Emptying & Refilling, AI Obstacle Avoidance](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31di9R+DDKL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DBV75TWZ?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Ecovacs Deebot T30S AI Robot Vacuum & Mop – TruEdge, ZeroTangle, AI Obstacle Avoidance ### HEPA Air Filter I bought one of these after [**my spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture**](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/), as I had to spend 24 hours in bed for an entire year. Visitors came and went, and the pandemic was still in full swing. I’ve also bought an air filter for an ex-partner, as he had some mild allergies probably triggered by our birds’ dander. Needless to say, I personally think that an air filter is an essential home equipment to have. Those with chronic illnesses are often immunocompromised and/or sensitive to many things. Air quality matters a great deal, so an air filter can be a practical gift idea. If you do get one, do ensure that it has a [HEPA (high efficiency particulate air) filter](https://www.epa.gov/indoor-air-quality-iaq/what-hepa-filter). According to the United States Environmental Protection Agency (2024): > “This type of air filter can theoretically remove at least 99.97% of dust, pollen, mold, bacteria, and any airborne particles with a size of 0.3 microns (µm).” Whilst lots of these particles are unseen to the naked eye, my air filter is always stuffed with [**my dog’s hair and my birds’ feathers**](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/) when we take it out to clean. My birds are not even in the same room as I am. [My HoneyWell HEPA air filter](https://www.amazon.com/Honeywell-HPA200-True-Allergen-Remover/dp/B07DD9H6YH?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=78db5e861b0fe453c49b01dc7f926b89&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) is a fairly affordable one. But should it break down in future, I would definitely consider getting an even better quality air filter, judging by how it’s helped me so far! Examples of HEPA Air Filters: [![Honeywell AllergenPlus HEPA Air Purifier, Airborne Allergen Reducer for Extra Large Rooms, Reduces Allergens, Smoke, Wildfire Smoke, Pollen, Pet Dander and More, White, HPA304](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51Z6bU2PhgL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07DD9H6YH?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Honeywell HPA304 AllergenPlus HEPA Air Purifier [![LEVOIT Air Purifiers for Home Large Room Bedroom Up to 1110 Ft² with Air Quality and Light Sensors, Smart WiFi, Washable Filters, HEPA Sleep Mode for Pets, Allergies, Dust, Pollen, Vital 100S-P, White](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41rSPdzuiTL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BNDM2RNG?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Levoit Vital 100S-P HEPA Air Purifier (works with Alexa) Read Related Posts: - [Knee Surgery for Spontaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture: Weeks 1 – 6](https://achronicvoice.com/knee-surgery-spontaneous-bilateral-patellar-tedon-rupture-weeks-1-6/) - [After Surgery Care at Home: Hygiene Resources](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/) - [COVID-19 Vaccine Experiences from People with Chronic Conditions](https://achronicvoice.com/covid-19-vaccine-experiences/) ### Hero Health Pill Dispenser The [Hero Health pill dispenser](https://herohealth.com/) is something I wanted for myself, but they don’t work outside of the U.S. unfortunately. You basically fill the dispenser with all your daily medications, and set reminders for when it’s time to take them. A simple push of a button will then dispense all the right pills for that timing. In addition, you can store up to 10 different medications apart from your regular ones for when you need them. It is also connected to licensed health professionals, and you may be able to qualify for it if you are on Medicare (hence it only working in the U.S.). I would totally ‘splurge’ on one of these because as a person with chronic illnesses, taking medications are a reality of my everyday life that is not going to stop anytime soon. I currently use a [3-times-a-day weekly pill organiser](https://www.amazon.com/Organizer-Compartments-Moisture-Proof-Medication-Supplements/dp/B07Q9JSHMP?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c90027099ad86e8d95537834d4e70314&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), as some of my medications get mushy if I prep them on a monthly basis. If that’s not a problem however, there are also [monthly pill organisers with dates](https://www.amazon.com/Month-Pill-Organizer-Times-Morning-Noon-Evening-Night/dp/B09M93DNQ6?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=416c6cd9c3751fbcaff2221490fef266&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) so you can organise them all in a go. Examples of Pill Dispensers & Pill Organisers: [![e-Pill Station – Locked Automatic Pill Dispenser with Tipper Base - White Lid](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31ciL0Gp2eS._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00DC4QZ0U?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) E-Pill Station – Locked Automatic Pill Dispenser with Tipper Base [![4 Times-a-Day Large Pill Organiser](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/518Mpt9f4tL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09M93DNQ6?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) 4 Times-a-Day Large Monthly Pill Organiser [![3 Times-a-Day Weekly Pill Organiser](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41pz3aVm4dL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07Q9JSHMP?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) 3 Times-a-Day Weekly Pill Organiser Read Related Posts: - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [What’s it Like to be on a High Dose of Steroids? (And the First Question You Will Definitely Ask)](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) - [A Pain Pill, a Caress, an Exhalation of Relief](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-pill-caress-relief/) ## Nature-Related Chronic Illness Gift Ideas ### Indoor Smart Gardens Gardening can be beneficial for physical and mental health, but it can also be tiring to maintain if you live with unpredictable chronic pain. The bending, trimming, pulling and whatnot can trigger a pain flare and become stressful ironically. If your loved one enjoys gardening but isn’t able to do so anymore, [indoor smart gardens](https://www.amazon.com/stores/ClickandGrow/page/B23CA48E-C88A-41D8-94F0-5FAF4793BA35?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=693bc6b2fd98d165138e2b909b884bf0&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) can make for great chronic illness gift ideas. Many of us in Singapore also live in apartments as we’re a tiny nation, so an indoor smart garden is a great substitute for smaller spaces. You can plant your own seeds, and harvest your own vegetables, fruits and/or flowers. You can also adjust the temperature, water levels, nutrition and whatnot with ease via an app. It’s low-maintenance, which is great for those with chronic fatigue or chronic pain. The results are just as satisfying, and possibly edible, too! Examples of Indoor Smart Gardens: [![Click & Grow Indoor Herb Garden Kit with Grow Light | Smart Garden for Home Kitchen Windowsill | Easier Than Hydroponics Growing System | Vegetable Gardening Starter (3 Basil Pods Included), White](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31sAZ1h4XnL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01MRVMKQH?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Click & Grow Indoor Herb Garden Kit with Grow Light [![LetPot LPH-Max Hydroponics Growing System Kit, 21 Pods APP & WiFi Automatic Controlled Smart Indoor Garden with 36W LED Grow Light, Auto Drip Irrigation Kits, Self-Managed Nurturing & Watering](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51xh+2ZrGZL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CJ4HWMCS?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) LetPot LPH-Max Hydroponics Growing System Kit [![Hydroponics Growing System Kit, 16 Pods Indoor Garden with 28W Full Spectrum LED Grow Light, Auto Timer, 3 Smart Light Modes, 8L Large Herb Garden, Ideal Gardening Gift for Women, Men (Black)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51kHI1edcaL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DCDWY33M?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Growell Hydroponics Growing System Kit Read Related Posts: - [29 Best Tips on How to Cope with Isolation at Home (from People Who Have Done and Will Do This All Their Lives)](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Shannon Giroux – Making a Better Home to Live in, Despite Multiple Sclerosis](https://achronicvoice.com/shannon-giroux-better-home-multiple-sclerosis/) - ["It's in My Blood": Kelly Hodgkins — Riding Horses with CRPS](https://achronicvoice.com/kelly-hodgkins-riding-horses-with-crps/) ### Good Old Flowers & Plants Since we’re on the topic of plants, [fresh floral bouquets](https://www.amazon.com/s?k=fresh+floral+bouquets&crid=FS6J455AGHOH&sprefix=fresh+floral+bouquet%2Caps%2C364&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c36d53a80f081fb0062e2f4022406e35&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) are always a welcome sight to me. Flowers are such beautiful reminders of life, in all their fragility and beauty. They can help to brighten up a dull room or bring some much needed cheer. They show people that you care and that you remember them, which brings comfort and joy. Personally, I think that flowers make for great chronic illness gift ideas any time or day. I’ve grown a fondness for [dried floral arrangements](https://www.amazon.com/s?k=dried+floral+arrangements&crid=1DC8FBZMDXJ2Q&sprefix=fresh+floral+bouquets%2Caps%2C370&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b05543e8ba8de245c8cde78d2f32da1f&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) too, after a friend gifted me with one when I broke my knees. They are still prettifying a corner of my bedroom after a few years. I also enjoy floral arrangement (although I might not be very good at it…). Unfortunately, it’s an expensive hobby here in Singapore as flowers are not cheap. All the dethorning, stem cutting and movement also cause my hands to ache badly by the end of each session. I still enjoy it nonetheless. There are a wide assortment of plants and flowers to choose from. You can purchase fresh or dried bouquets, flower domes, self-sustaining terrariums, hanging air planters, succulents and more. Alternatively, you can also order a weekly floral arrangement to be delivered to their house. There are even subscription boxes where they deliver a bunch of flowers so that your friend or loved one can do their own floral arrangements. ### Some of My Favourite Florists in Singapore My favourites in Singapore are the [dried floral arrangements from Windflower](https://windflowerflorist.com/collections/preserved-dried-flowers), and the fresh bouquets from [Charlotte Puxley](https://charlottepuxleyflowers.com/). They also offer subscriptions. I also like the plants from Tumbleweed, and purchase gifts from these shops ever so often. [Tumbleweed also sells gift vouchers](https://tumbleweedplants.com/products/gifting-vouchers). ### Tip: Don’t Forget the Vase! A tip if you’re thinking of flowers as chronic illness gift ideas – it might be easier to purchase vase arrangements instead of a bouquet. Then all your friend or loved one needs to do is find someplace to beautify, without the scrambling and fumbling for a spare vase or holder. Once again, do check in with them to see if they may be potentially allergic to pollen or plants. Examples of Floral Arrangements: [![Natural Dried Flower Bouquet](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51OkXbNwU2L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B9JXV557?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Natural Dried Flower Bouquet [![BloomsyBox Farm-Fresh Winter in the Sierras, Red and Green Design](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51gXwGO+s-L._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BKJPGK8M?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) BloomsyBox Farm-Fresh Winter in the Sierras, Red and Green Design [![Beauty and The Beast Rose in Glass Dome with LED Light](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51onA1fdTOL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08Y7Y8FHC?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Beauty & The Beast Rose in Glass Dome with LED Light Read Related Posts: - [Flowers are the Most Beautiful When They’re Just About to Die (and What That’s Got to Do with Being a Spoonie)](https://achronicvoice.com/flowers-most-beautiful-die-spoonie/) - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - [Invisible in Singapore: What’s It Like to Live Here with Chronic Illnesses?](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/) - [Invisible Cities Linkup: Pros & Cons of Living with Chronic Illness in Your City](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-cities-linkup/) ## Digital Chronic Illness Gift Ideas ### Smartwatch If your loved one or friend doesn’t already have one, a [Google FitBit](https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/22BEB519-CE70-4332-B393-3620E470AE19?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b2ac72062003bbe6f754263fbeb8b436&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), [Apple Watch](https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/CA74C4B8-97DA-4FD8-A93A-0B871FB0FA4F?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e079c9cd12dfba73a24bd3f2cfab6a1b&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), or another smartwatch might make for a well-received gift. I don’t use one because as mentioned, I don’t like feeling strapped (quite literally in this instance) to something. But if I did receive one, I’d be happy to try it out. Why? Smartwatches aren’t only meant for health nuts. Whilst they are not fully capable of being integrated into healthcare monitoring systems as of yet, you can still gain some insight through personal pattern observation. [According to Phillips et al. (2018)](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0749379717304567): > “Wearables offer an unobtrusive way to collect rich data on PA \[physical activity\]. These data can be linked to other data sources and used to help monitor and promote activity behavior change and maintenance.” Your friend or loved one may be able to discover for themselves what their triggers for pain flares are, their overall sleep quality and more. Thereafter, they can make positive adjustments to their lifestyle, and continue monitoring for better quality of life. As a bonus, many smartwatches are also accessibility tools in one, as you can sync them to your mobile phone. You can then use them to make phone calls, snap photos, read text messages and more. Popular Smartwatches: [![Fitbit Sense 2 Advanced Health and Fitness Smartwatch with Tools to Manage Stress and Sleep, ECG App, SpO2, 24/7 Heart Rate and GPS, Shadow Grey/Graphite, One Size (S & L Bands Included)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/3162LuIJLJL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BGK8R2SG?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Fitbit Sense 2 – Advanced Health & Fitness Smartwatch [![Apple Watch Series 10 [GPS 46mm case] Smartwatch with Rose Gold Aluminium Case with Plum Sport Loop. Fitness Tracker, ECG App, Always-On Retina Display, Carbon Neutral](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/417IABMaMuL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DGHV2B2Z?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Apple Watch Series 10 Smartwatch ### Blogging Tools & Resources You might be surprised, but maintaining a blog can run into hundreds of dollars. There are the basic hosting and domain costs that cannot be avoided – they’re like virtual rent. I personally use CloudWays for cloud hosting, and you can get [$25 hosting credit](https://vrlps.co/ax0jCde/cp) if you decide to try them out. Then there are things like social media scheduling tools, graphic creation tools, and other essential plugins that ensure that your website is user-friendly and protected against malware. Yes, there are free versions most of the time, but they are not always the best options, and many of the free plans are very limited as well. If you use a [website builder like Elementor](https://trk.elementor.com/21335), that requires annual payment, too. Then there are website themes (my favourites are by [HeartenMade](https://www.heartenmade.com/ref/sheryl.chan/)!). You could technically use the default theme version, but that usually looks dated. I personally use [Buffer](https://buffer.com/) to schedule my posts to [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/achronicvoice), [Twitter](https://x.com/AChVoice), [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/achronicvoice/) and [BlueSky](https://bsky.app/profile/achronicvoice.com). It has saved me so much time and effort as I can automate everything. Apart from my own blog posts, I also read and share a lot of health-related news articles, journals and other chronic illness blogs. Scheduling tools like these help me to advocate round-the-clock (and keep me distracted on painsomnia nights!). As my work account uses [Canva](https://www.canva.com/), I have access to the paid version. It certainly does make processes easier compared to the free version, as there is more access to photographs, upload sizes, download options and more. #### **AppSumo Gift Card** You may not be familiar with what your chronic illness blogger friend needs or prefers to use, so a gift card from [AppSumo](https://appsumo.8odi.net/AqrxJ) might be a good gift idea. AppSumo is basically a marketplace for all sorts of apps and technology-related goods, and I like it because any purchases made are lifetime deals (yes, the recurrent subscription model is annoying). You can also play around with your shiny new tool for 3 months, and if you don’t like it, you can initiate an automatic refund quickly and easily – no questions asked. Alternatively, you can ask your friend or loved one some sneaky questions such as, “what would you recommend for graphic creation”, or “what’s the best hosting site to use?” to get a quick insight to their preferences. Then you could see if that particular platform sells any gift cards or plans that could help offset or cover some of their upcoming blogging-related costs. Read Related Posts: - [MediSearch Review: A Medical AI Search Engine for Patients, Clinicians & Medical Writers](https://achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Carole Griffitts – A Grandmother with Modern Passions](https://achronicvoice.com/carole-griffitts-chronically-ill-grandmother-modern/) ### Polaroid Camera or Digital Instant Camera [Polaroid cameras](https://www.amazon.com/stores/Polaroid/page/614F9A2C-48C4-4DD4-B3BC-5479C551E9C6?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=3515b54da5b641a6640fe2b7efa50cf7&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) are lots of fun; I used to snap a photo a day, then scribble a short message along the borders. It became a mini project and daily visual journal. When I browse through these polaroid photo albums, I am always surprised at how the little everyday things and ‘non-events’ all piece together to form a beautiful narrative – even the photos I take on bad days (of which there are plenty…). I’ve also brought my polaroid camera along for my travels and to family events. When I’m travelling in rural places, these keepsakes mean so much to the kids and people when I give them their snapshots. They’re also great icebreakers and make for lovely memories for all. Another alternative is a digital portable instant camera. These can be connected via bluetooth or an SD card so you can upload photos to your computer. Many also let you print photos from your phone camera; your loved one can browse through their favourite photos on a bad or slow day, and print these out to cheer themselves up. There are also those that are printed on Zink photo paper, which comes with a sticky backing to paste on your favourite objects or as reminders. #### **Analog Film Camera** Another hobby I had a decade ago was analog film photography. Unfortunately, I had to stop as it can be quite a costly hobby, as you need to process each batch of films. I absolutely loved experimenting with different films however, as each type has a different quality and feel to it. My favourite film used to be the Kodak Agfa 200, and you can [browse these photos on the Lomography website to see what I mean](https://www.lomography.com/films/871964355-kodak-gold-200-35mm-agfa-vista-200/photos). Lately I’ve had an itch to pick this hobby up again as a creative outlet – do you think I should? 🤔 Best-Selling Polaroid & Instant Cameras: [![Fujifilm Instax Mini 11 Camera Bundle with Case and 40 Sheets of Film](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51AxPNQdzDL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B097RZB4M3?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Fujifilm Instax Mini 11 Camera Bundle [![Polaroid Now 2nd Generation I-Type Instant Camera + Film Bundle - Now Black Camera + 16 Color Photos (6248)- Black](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41F94OTvIvL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BVNMK48Q?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Polaroid Now 2nd Generation I-Type Instant Camera & Film Bundle [![KODAK Step Printer Wireless Mobile Photo Printer with Zink Zero Ink Technology & Kodak App for iOS & Android (White) Gift Bundle](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51i6fuCI9oL._SL250_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08CY9MF79?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Kodak Step Instant Smartphone Zink (Sticky Backing) Photo Printer Starter Bundle Read Related Posts: - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) ## Packages, Subscriptions & Gift Cards ### Subscription Boxes The selection of subscription boxes out there these days are amazing – they have one for just about everything. From coffee to tea, flowers, all sorts of food and snacks, skincare, self-care, and even periods! There are also [pain relief and self-care kits curated by people with chronic illnesses](https://themighty.com/topic/chronic-illness/subscription-boxes-chronic-mental-illnesses/), for people with chronic illnesses. Most of us would rather spend our money on one specific item we want as opposed to random objects in a box, because many people with chronic illness can’t work and don’t have much change to spare. So a curated box of surprises might be exciting. It makes me happy to sample new things, so I take it as a mini adventure. Having said that, not everyone with a chronic illness wants a box of surprises on their wish list, as consistency is key to maintaining their health. For example, obviously don’t get a box of ‘delicious treats’ for your friend with Celiac Disease or IBD. And don’t get a box of scented goods for someone with Mast Cell Activation Syndrome (MCAS) or skin allergies, etc. If you’re hesitant, simply approach your friend or loved one and ask. It can still be a surprise, but gathering more information on what they can and cannot do/eat/apply would help both of you tremendously. Alternatively, an [Amazon gift card](https://www.amazon.com/Amazon-com-amount-Waving-Santa-Slider/dp/B0BMTTV653?gpo=50&th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c6ccf89db4977fdda993dcdf2e5b8821&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) within your own country is always a good idea. I know I have many items on my Amazon wish list that I’d love to buy, but they aren’t really needs so I’ve just left them there. [![Amazon.com Gift Card for any amount in a Slider Design](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31wOARhoy1L._SL400_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BMTTV653?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) A Reliable Amazon Gift Card, Christmas-Themed Here are some chronic illness gift ideas for subscription boxes: - [TheraBox #1 Self-Care Subscription Gift Box](https://mytherabox.com/products/therabox-self-care-gift-subscription-box-month-to-month) - [CalmBox Gift Subscription Gift Box](https://thecalmbox.com/checkout?gift=true#plan-selection) - [10 best self-care subscription boxes](https://www.independent.co.uk/extras/indybest/food-drink/subscription-boxes/best-self-care-wellness-subscription-boxes-a7906216.html) - [I Tried 5 Different Subscription Boxes For My Period So That You Don’t Have To](https://www.buzzfeed.com/laraparker/i-tried-five-different-period-subscription-boxes-to-see-if) - [31 Best Coffee Subscription Boxes for 2024](https://urbantastebud.com/best-coffee-subscription-boxes/) - [18 Best Tea Subscription Boxes (2024)](https://urbantastebud.com/best-tea-subscription-boxes/) Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [Pregnancy, Miscarriage & Women’s Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Roy George – A Dramatic Life with a Short Bowel](https://achronicvoice.com/roy-george-dramatic-life-short-bowel/) - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does ‘Normal’ Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) ### Fitness Package We have something here in Singapore called ClassPass, which is a platform for various hotel facilities, gyms, massages, yoga and pilates classes, and more. I went with a friend to a five-star hotel’s swimming pool using the free trial, and had a good time with her! I didn’t sign up for the fitness package however as it is too costly, especially if I only use it once a week or less. It’s great value-for-money for my friend however, because she exercises and even teaches yoga classes every single day. A [gift card for ClassPass](https://classpass.com/gifts) or the equivalent in your country can make for wonderful and healthy chronic illness gift ideas. The wide range of fitness facilities and exercise sessions mean that they have the freedom to pick the dates and types of workouts that suit their fitness levels best. [Buy ClassPass Gift Card](https://classpass.com/gifts) There are also fitness instructors with chronic illness who have started their own exercise or [stress relief programmes](https://imagine-life-therapy.teachable.com/courses/stress-less?affcode=202180%5Fyxmliqtv), adapted for those who live with chronic pain. You can learn more about some of these programmes and their founders below. Read Related Posts: - [Is Yoga Accessible for People with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/) - [‘Stress Less’ Course: By a Therapist Who Lives with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/stress-less-course-by-therapist-with-chronic-illness/) - [Autoimmune Strong](https://www.getautoimmunestrong.com/) ## Conclusion to Chronic Illness Gift Ideas Many of these wish list items are things I’d never thought I’d want or need in another life. If not for my chronic illnesses, I probably wouldn’t even know of their existence. To the people who invented these wonderful products and services – thank you. My wish list also probably looks a little different compared to others with chronic illness, based on the varying kinds of pains we experience. Here’s a [Reddit thread for more chronic illness gift ideas](https://www.reddit.com/r/ChronicIllness/comments/1abh6su/what%5Fare%5Fyour%5Ffavourite%5Fchronically%5Fill%5Fgifts%5Fto/?utm%5Fsource=embedv2&utm%5Fmedium=post%5Fembed&utm%5Fcontent=whitespace&embed%5Fhost%5Furl=https://www.achronicvoice.com/2018/12/08/wish-list-chronic-illnesses/) as well. Over to you – what’s on your wishlist, and how does that reflect your current state of being? Don't forget to [**check out the rest of the holiday series**](#xmas-series) at the start of the post, too! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Chronic Illness Gift Ideas & Wish List Boards: ![Chronic Illness Gift Guide — Here’s What’s Probably on Their Wish List. Whether it’s Christmas, their birthday, a housewarming or some other occasion — this guide has you covered!](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-gift-guide-wish-list-christmas-birthday-housewarming-all-occassions.jpg) ### References: - Albilali, A., & Dilli, E. (2018). Photophobia: When Light Hurts, a Review. *Current Neurology and Neuroscience Reports, 18*(9), 62\. - Breus, M. J. (2019, July 12). *What you need to know about using a weighted blanket.* Psychology Today. - Kjellgren, A., & Westman, J. (2014). Beneficial effects of treatment with sensory isolation in flotation-tank as a preventive health-care intervention – a randomized controlled pilot trial. *BMC Complementary and Alternative Medicine, 14*(1), 417\. - Larson, J. (2020, July 1). *What is the purpose of theta brain waves?* Healthline. - Luke, W. 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(2024, September 4). *What is a HEPA filter?* ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Dec 13, 2021 So many great ideas here and I love all of them. (I have most of them too.) We’ve had an awful time trying to figure out how to get an instant pot here because of shipping. They’ve just brought Chinese versions in, but my husband doesn’t want that so we’re still waiting. Also, I LOVE my robot cleaner. What a lifesaver that thing is with two cats! - Marya Sep 10, 2020 I’ve been wondering about a weighted blanket (in Florida!!!) or an extra large heating pad. I have trouble regulating body temps when I don’t feel well. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 12, 2020 That’s no good 🙁 It can be really pesky, I know. I find my weighted blanket too heavy (ironic I know!) especially when I have joint pains. But it does provide some anxiety relief. - Nikki Albert Sep 10, 2020 I do have a kindle and an Oska Pulse. Books are my go to for sure. But I have always wanted to try a weighted blanket. Subscription boxes are cool but I can’t afford them. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 12, 2020 Subscription boxes would make perfect gifts or treats – I love them too, all the little bits and pieces to sample 🙂 I love my Kindle too. Never thought I would as I prefer traditional books, but it’s a lifesaver on the weight and in the dark, especially if you have a partner who hates the lights on. I want to try an Oska Pulse but not sure it’s worth the spend. - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Sep 10, 2020 The Quell seems like a really good idea and something I would love to know more about. A very helpful and relevant list here Sheryl even though I’m discovering it in 2020! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 10, 2020 Hi Shruti, I might have to take the Quell down unfortunately. It seems they got into trouble with the FTC for claims that are false: [https://www.ftc.gov/quell ](https://www.ftc.gov/quell) So it’s really up to the person as I’ve heard many good reviews from those with chronic pain. For me I could never really tell if it was placebo or not. I thought it helped, but not to a super degree where I could tell for sure. - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Sep 10, 2020 I’ve been wondering about an Instant Pot for a while now! Seems such a good piece of kitchen it for those days when cooking and standing for a long time is out of the question. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 10, 2020 To be honest I haven’t touched mine in a while, but it definitely is super useful for dumping in one pot meals. And I’m sure you’ll be more creative with it than me, ha! Let me know if you ever create some awesome one pot low histamine recipes! 🙂 - [ Christina P. Kantzavelos ](https://www.beginwithintoday.com) Jun 6, 2020 Hey there! This is an amazing list. I saw that you brought up journaling. As a spoonie and licensed mental health clinician, I saw a huge need for a mind-body journal with prompts that cater to chronic illness. I created Begin Within – A Daily Healing Journal for this reason. It’s bullet journaling meets living life chronic illness. Hope you can check it out and maybe consider adding it to your list ? - Bindu Thomas Dec 26, 2019 I love the idea of heavy blankets and floatation. Would definitely like to try them. Wish you would find more peace and healing in the new year with your illness. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 27, 2019 Thanks Bindu! Yes flotation was an interesting experience for me. When you’re forced to just lie and be still for an hour or more, it gets to you (in a good way!). - [ tweenselmom ](https://www.tweenselmom.com) Dec 25, 2019 I love your ideas and the way you wrote about them. Christmas gifts are over but I’d like to have some of these on your list. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 25, 2019 They sure are year round gifts, especially suitable for those who live with chronic pain, but also for anyone else 🙂 Merry Christmas! - Fransic verso Dec 25, 2019 Amazing stuff to be on the wish list, the oska pulse got my attention because it sounds really cool. I’m not sure if we have enough time because the list already with Santa and Christmas just couple days. Would put some of the things next time, thank you for sharing. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 25, 2019 Most welcome, Fransic, and thanks for browsing the list! 🙂 The Oska Pulse is pretty famous within the chronic illness community, and seems to have a good rep! Merry Christmas! - Rose Ann Sales Dec 24, 2019 I love these stuffs, even if I don’t have chronic illness, especially the weighted blanket, it’s so comfy to use. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 25, 2019 Hi Rose, yes they can be useful, comforting gifts for anyone else, too! Weighted blankets are a popular choice it seems 🙂 - Bella Dec 24, 2019 Instant pot!!!! i just got one a couple weeks ago and I am so stoked on it! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 25, 2019 It’s a pretty useful tool, isn’t it? Especially if you’re the sort who loves (or I guess hates :p) to cook! - Rosey Dec 24, 2019 My son has a tens machine. My neighbor just had something installed inside of her body that she charges to make pain go away; it’s like a tens machine. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 25, 2019 Hi Rosey, wow that’s interesting. An internal TENS like device. I hope both your son and your neighbour are doing okay. Sending good thoughts for the season. - Andrew Koscielecki Dec 23, 2019 Cool things on the list, but I would add more high tech stuff. - Gervin Khan Dec 23, 2019 Those things are cool. I also have a wish lists but I can’t afford to get it because I keep on procrastinating. Well, goodluck and I’m looking forward for your next update! - Sundeep Dec 23, 2019 Thanks for sharing this amazing list of items. I am looking for Instant pot. Will definitely going to order this right away. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 23, 2019 Hi Sundeep, thanks, these items can be useful for anyone! 🙂 Happy cooking!! - [ Krysten Quiles ](https://why-girls-are-weird.com) Dec 22, 2019 I love my weighted blanket, and I think I need that Tens unit. Thanks so much for sharing this with all of us! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 22, 2019 Most welcome, happy there’s something on the list you like! I’m not so much into my weighted blanket, but many people love it! - [ Stephanie Stebbins ](https://www.stephaniestebbins.com) Dec 21, 2019 I want every single one of these (especially the Roomba)! Thank you for this list! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 22, 2019 They’re great gifts even for healthy people, aren’t they?! I need me a Roomba too, ha. - cherie Nov 14, 2019 I LOVED my Roomba, had it for a lot of years. I have been trying to convince my husband that we should get one here in Germany. He doesn’t think it will work well, but they really do a great job. I would also love to have a weighted blanket, but they are so costly. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 16, 2019 Haha the men don’t seem to like it so much, do they :p I personally didn’t like the weighted blanket after trying one (they are so heavy to pull up and I am one of those people who shuffle a lot in my sleep :p) - [ Claire ](https://ourfavouritejar.home.blog) Nov 5, 2019 You’ve put together such a wonderful list here. I am loving so many of these suggestions that I think I may forward to my fiancé ? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 6, 2019 Thanks Claire, you definitely should, ha! 😉 - Jenny Nov 5, 2019 This list of gifts is great for all of us who need pampering and self care. Even without chronic illness, we all have those days when we need some extra help and comfort. I love the gift boxes, I subscribe to one that I receive seasonally, and I so look forward to the surprises I find, things I may not have purchased for myself. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 6, 2019 Definitely! What sort of subscription do you have? I love receiving things like that in the mailbox too 🙂 - [ Amelia ](https://www.youcanalwaysstartnow.com) Nov 5, 2019 Good list. I have used a bullet journal for two years now and love it. Page for the week open and can see exactly what is happening and needs to be done. I think everyone should have a heating pad at home even for a cold and general aches. Your blog makes me appreciate my body (currently pain free) and what I take for granted. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 6, 2019 Thanks so much lovely! Would love to look at your bujo pages some day on your blog! I just use them for lists and rely on stickers and washi tape to make them pretty haha. Yea definitely need a heating pad myself, I currently use the old school hot water bottles! - [ Don Shetterly ](https://mindbodythoughts.com/) Nov 4, 2019 I do love my Instant Pot. It is one of the best things I ever bought. I’ve heard about the weighted blankets but not sure if I would like that or not. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 4, 2019 Good to hear you love your pot! Yea weighted blankets are okay…I didn’t like them so much personally! - Carlyn Dec 15, 2018 I love the weighted blanket idea! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 15, 2018 It does work for many people! - [ Verla ](https://treesmendus.com) Dec 14, 2018 A nice reminder about a remote vacuum cleaner and kindle. They are now on my list. Thank you Sheryl. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 15, 2018 Thanks great, Verla! I hope you get them this Christmas. Let me know how you find them if you do! - [ Claire ](https://www.painpalsblog.com) Dec 11, 2018 I would love a Roomba….I wonder if it could cope with my shaggy dog’s long hair?! Anything to help with cleaning! A weighted blanket is top of my list this year, C x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 11, 2018 Haha probably not, I think hmm…But I agree, anything to help with cleaning! It seems like weighted blankets are popular requests this year! 🙂 - [ Rachel, The Invisible Hypothyroidism ](https://theinvisiblehypothyroidism.com) Dec 10, 2018 I have that very instant pot cooker – it’s great. I need to look some more in to weighted blankets. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 11, 2018 The Philips one? 😀 Yes, and ironically, I like pressure cooking potatoes with it, it taste good (what a waste of the cooker, ha ;)). I didn’t really like the weighted blanket I bought, but it might work for you! 🙂 - Emma Dec 6, 2017 My mum bought be a heated wrap blanket/wrap around brace it also has a large velcro strap so can just wrap around and keep in place. A god send for my back and hips. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 6, 2017 Nice, with a velcro strap even! Would you care to share the link to it? 😀 - Terri Dec 2, 2017 There are several things here that are on my wish list as well. I would love to have a Roomba. We have two little dogs who shed like crazy, and vacuuming is a never-ending job. I recently got an Instant Pot and it’s fantastic. It’s really nice for those days when I just don’t feel like spending much time in the kitchen. I shared this on Pinterest and Facebook — you’ve got some wonderful ideas here! Thanks for giving me some items for my list! :o) - Marla Nolan Nov 27, 2017 Sheryl, thanks for sharing these items. I think I’ll save up for the pulse for my RA. Please let us know how it works for you. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 27, 2017 My pleasure, Marla! I also need to save up for it 😉 - [ Emma ](https://edsjour.blogspot.com) Nov 27, 2017 Some great ideas here, the Oscar pulse sounds great but too expensive for me unfortunately. The subscription boxes also sound a great idea too. This is a helpful list. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 27, 2017 Yea, something to try in future hopefully! Thanks, I’m glad you found this helpfuL! 🙂 - [ Caz ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Nov 27, 2017 Some fab ideas – I’d love to try floatation, and what a novel gift that is to give someone! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 27, 2017 Thank you! Yes, it’s definitely worth a few tries ;D - [ Lydia ](https://beinglydia.com/) Nov 27, 2017 This wish list is very close to mine! I, too, have an instant pot and it can be a lifesaver when you are too sore to make a big meal. I am doing an art journal right now and I find it very healing. I sort of do the bullet journal thing but it is in a file on my computer and is mostly to record health stuff though that includes appointments, etc. so it is a bit of a to do list. The oska and Quell are at the top of my list. We did the Roomba thing and it was great at first but scared the dog and cat, and was annoying, especially when I wasn’t well. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 27, 2017 Hey Lydia, seems like these items are quite the spoonie’s dream gift haha! I guess the Roomba is a love or hate thing, from what I hear. I shall be happy with my unpainted on hands and legs for now 😉 I use my Google Calendars for lots of things, but it’s been quite nice to be in the act of actually using my hands to write something down at times :p xx - Stephanie Nov 23, 2017 A weighted blanket and books are definitely on my list! I wouldn’t mind a Roomba either (and neither would my carpet)! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 23, 2017 Yes how nice it would be to sink into bed with a weighted blanket (I think)! I’ve heard good and bad reviews about the Roomba, so hey, need to test it for myself ;p **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Mainstream: Can You Talk to Us About ME? (There are Enough 'Normal' Health Tips to Go Around Already) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/mainstream-me-health-tips/ Last updated: 2026-07-22T15:00:43.000Z Constantly I am inundated with article titles, statements, and ‘tips’ that tell me that the [**key to being healthy is a good night’s sleep**](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/). Or that exercise is essential to healthy living. Yes, these things are great for most people. But they do not work for me or M.E., otherwise known as Myalgic Encephalomyelitis. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the author's personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Fatigue and M.E. Boards: ![Mainstream: Can You Talk to Us About ME? (There are Enough 'Normal' Health Tips to Go Around Already)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/mainstream-talk-m-e-enough-normal-health-tips.jpg) ## What is ME/CFS? Myalgic encephalomyelitis (ME) is a multisystem disease that causes dysfunction of the neurological, immune, endocrine, and energy metabolism systems. As noted on the CDC website, [up to 2.5 million Americans suffer from ME/CFS (Chronic Fatigue Syndrome)](https://www.cdc.gov/me-cfs/index.html). There may be as many as 24 million people across the globe who suffer from this debilitating disease. Sadly, so many suffer in silence. Unable to get properly diagnosed and even once diagnosed, unable to get healthcare support. In short, the medical community has fallen greatly behind when it comes to supporting these patients. Read Related Posts: - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - [Learn More About the Super Rare Disease – Esophageal Diverticulum](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) - [Would You Rather: Have an Invisible Illness or a Visible Disability?](https://achronicvoice.com/rather-have-invisible-illness-or-disability/) ## When Even Chewing Can Cause Fatigue with ME/CFS So, when I hear those well-meaning commercials or article taglines, while I know it aligns with the needs of most people, I can’t help but cringe. Real sleep and ME/CFS just don’t mix – if I do get lucky enough to fall asleep and also stay asleep (neither are guaranteed despite unbelievable exhaustion), there’s no restorative value to it. Then there’s the endless exercise promotions. While I used to love (crave, even) to exercise, any attempt to do so will [**cause me to relapse and experience an extreme flare-up**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) in my symptoms. It can make getting out of bed an unconscionable thought. Hard as it may be to believe, the exercise of chewing (yes, chewing is considered exercise for me now!) can even be too much. ## How Much More is There Left to Really Promote? Those commercials and popular magazine taglines...yes, I get that they resonate with the majority. If only my day, any day of mine, could be so easily ‘fixed’ by some sleep and exercise. I am the one that needs the tips and strategies. Those other articles, while mainstream, are a dime a dozen. They are EVERYWHERE. How much more is there to say about those topics for the healthy? ## Much More Education is Needed on Chronic Illnesses Such as ME/CFS Flip the coin: With more than 1 million people in the United States with ME/CFS and up to 24 million across the globe, is it too much to ask to see a few headlines that talk about tips and strategies for those that ‘getting enough sleep’ or ‘exercising your way to health’ just isn’t an option? It would help not just those with ME, but the tens of thousands (the millions) with other chronic illnesses as well. Personally, I would love to read many more articles that provide strategies for getting through a day with a chronic illness. ## The Hope That ME/CFS Experts & Foundations Bring While there are few ME experts across the globe, those who exist I wholeheartedly admit are priceless and fill me with so much hope and also help! Notably, the [Open Medicine Foundation](https://www.omf.ngo/) (busy researching for a cure and updating us along the way!), [Solve ME/CFS Initiative](https://solvecfs.org/) (vigorously supporting scientific research and advocacy!), and [#MEAction](https://www.meaction.net/) (an incredible global community of outreach, advocacy, education, and support organization) are amazing organizations that thankfully are there for us every step of the way. I’m also grateful that many states are now also forming such organizations, including my own state through which I have co-founded the [Minnesota ME/CFS Alliance](https://www.facebook.com/MinnesotaMECFSAlliance/). But we need more. ## Support is Still Needed for ME/CFS on Many Levels Within Society With so many afflicted with ME/CFS, we need support at the local level from our physicians, disability providers, human resource departments, social services, and also the media. Through research, programs to educate medical students and providers, advocacy, and increasing awareness of ME, all of us, sick yet fighting for a better quality of life, are making great strides. One of the greatest such strides was made by [**Jen Brea with her award-winning documentary, “Unrest”**](https://achronicvoice.com/unrest-film-movie-night-healthy-companions/), that put ME/CFS on the map. So, I do see light at the end of the tunnel. The tide is slowly turning. But I still must ask: Mainstream Media: Can you dedicate some articles that will help me with ME/CFS? You not only will be helping a million Americans and up to 24 million people globally, but also raising awareness of this debilitating disease. Awareness, curiosity, learning...it leads to understanding, compassion, hope, support. All things that the ME/CFS community needs from the public, its public figures, the government, employers, and the healthcare community. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read More Posts Written by Lisa Alioto on the Blog: - [Hey You…It’s Me (M.E. Struggles & a Tribute to the Human Spirit)](https://achronicvoice.com/me-struggles/) - [The Value in Seeking Out Moments of Gratitude (and How to do it)](https://achronicvoice.com/value-gratitude/) - [How to Use the Tetris Effect to Invite Positivity Back into Your Life, Despite Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/tetris-effect-positivity-chronic-illness/) - [Find Your Way Back to Happiness with a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/find-happiness-chronic-illness/) **Contributor Bio:** ![Lisa M. Alioto headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/profile-lisa-alioto-2.jpg) Lisa M. Alioto is a lawyer, career coach, and Myalgic Encephalomyelitis warrior with a strong belief in the power of positivity! She primarily focuses on writing articles about ME, along with invisible and chronic illnesses in general, with the goal of increasing awareness and providing hope, help and support. She is also the Vice President of the MN ME/CFS Alliance. Find her on [Twitter](https://x.com/lisaalioto). ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Izza ](https://zaturaniamindbox.blogspot.com) Dec 4, 2019 Thank you so much for speaking up Lisa. I’ve never known anything about M.E. until I read your writing. I guess chronic illnesses is underrated topic for the media. I think it’s better for them to educate people more about it so people will get better understanding. Wish you all the best! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 5, 2019 Thank you for taking the time to read, Izza. That is a big deal so thanks! 🙂 Sending good thoughts to you. - Naomi Brook Jul 21, 2019 Totally agree with this. I have migraine and believe any energy limiting condition isn’t helped by thr bombardment of how to be a better/ more productive/ fitter etc person. I also think all this pressure to do everything in life is bad for everyone’s mental health, even if it never reaches chronic/ crisis point. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 25, 2019 Agree as well! The high speed of information transmission these days often paints false pictures and adds pressure. Sending hugs x **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### De-Stressing and Winding Down in December 2018 URL: https://achronicvoice.com/de-stressing-december-2018/ Last updated: 2025-10-27T13:39:58.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## De-stressing & Winding Down December 2018 As most people’s social calendars ramp up in intensity this month, mine is ironically slowing down. My partner’s dad was with us for most of November, so I’ve had my fill of quality ‘family time’. As he was here for a holiday, we pretty much ‘celebrated’ for a few weeks with all the nice dinners, chats over sweets and alcohol (them, mostly!), and my routine was out of whack. But all for good reason! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ### Taking Time for the Simple Pleasures in Life Thus, December will be a time for me to unwind and de-stress, to slow down, and to [**be more mindful with my living habits**](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/). It will be a time for me to meet up with my [**small group of friends**](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) and family, people whom I don’t feel any pressure hanging out with at all. Even though I don’t enjoy cooking so much, it will be a time to make some cosy meals, and enjoy the nourishment they provide. I hope to draw the year to a gradual close, like a long exhalation expelling stale air. At the same time, I’d like to begin preparations to [**usher in new beginnings**](https://achronicvoice.com/new-year-duties-life/) once again. Nothing fancy, more of a simple flow down the river of life, but with tiny adjustments to my little boat. Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![2018 December Prompts: De-Stressing, Savouring, Simplifying, Resting and Finalising](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin-dec-prompts-3-2-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ## Savouring the Magic of the Holiday Season One thing I like about the holiday season is the fantastic excuse to let myself go, to a certain extent. Of course too much of a good thing isn’t good anymore, but it’s nice that all I have to say is, ‘it’s the holidays!’ to negate some judgment or criticism. Unfortunately, we don’t get to revel in the magic of white Christmases here. It’s more like a soggy Christmas with the torrential rain, and filling your lungs up with humid air. But I love how bright, happy and festive everything looks out and about, and even online. I’m savouring the joyful vibes, delicious food, and cosy moments spent with loved ones that just seems more prevalent during this season of love and light. Read Related Posts: - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) - [How to Survive the Holidays When Chronic Illness & Disability Cause Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/survive-the-holidays-chronic-illness-disability-pain/) - [All I Want for Christmas is Some Pain Relief! (Real Wish List Ideas from 13 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/all-i-want-for-christmas-pain-relief/) - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/) - [Curated Chronic Illness Gift Ideas for Christmas, Birthdays & Other Occasions!](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-gift-ideas/) ## The Pros & Cons of a Simpler Life Ever since I stopped working in an office and going to church, my interaction with other human beings have reduced drastically. In some way, my life has become much less ‘complicated’ than it used to be. I no longer have to force myself to go for ‘important’ functions, or come up with excuses to avoid or leave a gathering early, especially when I’m feeling unwell. There are pros and cons to this simplification. For one, I never in my life could have imagined that I’d actually crave some contact, after a few years of being mostly alone! It seems like we’re all social creatures at the end of the day, although the amount of interaction needed may vary. This [**isolation and loneliness**](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) can feel especially stark for me on Friday nights, even though I no longer follow a nine to five schedule. I imagine all the people celebrating the end of a work week, and [**having fun with their friends**](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/). This is a psychological thing for sure, because even when I was working, I never did enjoy crazy party nights! ## My Weird Affair with Sleep & Rest Whilst I don’t have many events to attend that require pacing, I do need to re-adjust my sleep schedule. It’s been all over the place and not in the least bit healthy. My body needs not only the down time, but also the right hours, in order to repair and heal. I have this weird thing where I get anxious going to bed early, because I feel as if I could be using that time to ‘do stuff’. Ridiculous, I know. I’ve even researched and written articles on the [**importance of sleep**](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/), and how our bodies are working really hard, but knowing this at a logical level still doesn’t help. This will be a never-ending life quest for me; my mother isn’t a good sleeper herself, having grown up in a large family with nine siblings. Her parents also owned a restaurant, and the children were expected to help out at odd hours. But yes, without quality sleep I will never heal, and my body will never be running at peak performance. So try hard I must. Do any of you have brain tricks to help with this? ## Concluding 2018 Thinking about it, December and January are just months that come in succession. I may wish to make conclusive decisions about certain things, but in reality many issues will keep hanging in the air, whether by choice or not. My health status is forever in limbo, so any plans to have kids have been drifting along ever since I was a teenager. (Not that I wanted them then, but it has always been on my mind.) I’ll soon be 33, and this issue is starting to get a little more real. Regardless, there are some things that I can conclude such as blogging and other life goals. I might not have the means to achieve some of them yet, but what I can do is to say to myself firmly that "yes, this is something I want to attempt in my life", and begin putting one foot in front of the other towards that direction. Over time, that journey would have already begun, and quite organically to boot. My mother lives a "take it one day at a time" philosophy, and based on what I’ve observed of her of late, she does seem so much happier and lighter. It’s probably a good one because what other day can you really live in? Things will always work out in the end she says, and I too, cling onto that hope now. Thank you for reading my December 2018 entry. You can continue down memory lane with me by reading the reflections for [**November 2018**](https://achronicvoice.com/meeting-collaborating-chronically-ill-real-life-november-2018/) or [**January 2019**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-hold-break-it-january-2019/). ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [The Barriers That Throw Rocks into My Bucket List with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled: Taking on the Eye of the Tiger in the Year of the Tiger](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [10 Things I Liked in December 2018](https://achronicvoice.com/december-likes-2018/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![2018 December Prompts: De-Stressing, Savouring, Simplifying, Resting and Finalising](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin-dec-prompts-6-2-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Jumpstart Positivity Dec 31, 2018 Thank you so much for another great linkup! Sometimes we look at all of the great content that you produce and we find ourselves in comparison mode wondering how the heck you get #allthethings done. But it’s nice to see you’re human because we’re all human, too! We each have our own journey. It’s about connection, not competition. And we couldn’t ask for a better space for connection than A Chronic Voice 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 31, 2018 Hello! Yes I think as humans we can’t help but wonder and compare. I too compare myself, actually. I don’t know how those with chronic illness can hold down a full (or even part time) job and still be so prolific with their blogs! Now that’s impressive 🙂 Thank you for your support as always! - Kirsten Dec 20, 2018 I’m looking forward to your posts in 2019\. Happy holidays Sheryl! Xxx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 20, 2018 Thanks Kirsten! I’m looking forward to yours as well 🙂 Happy holidays! xxx - Kathy Dec 18, 2018 Thanks for the great prompts, Sheryl! I hope you have a lovely Christmas!! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 18, 2018 You’re welcome, glad you liked them. Have a Merry Christmas too Kathy! x - [ Rhiann ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com) Dec 8, 2018 Love these prompts, and great ones to use to discuss the most wonderful time of the year! Thought-Provoking prompts that allowed me to reminisce about what Christmas means as someone living with a chronic illness, and how changes are needed to be able to enjoy and participate in the festivities. Wishing you a very Merry Christmas and hope it is a special one for you and your loved one, and all the best for the rest of the year and for 2019! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 9, 2018 Thanks Rhiann, I hope the prompts weren’t too tough for the month (or any other month…I tend to make things a little too complicated at times, heh). Hopefully it helps us all to pace a little better this season, though! Sending you good thoughts and a Merry Christmas too! - Nikki Dec 6, 2018 I understand about the sleep cycle. When I am not working my gets really warped. But with the vertigo I am tired early and get up early which is… weird for me. Since I have had crazy insomnia since I was a kid - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 6, 2018 Hi Nikki, yes it’s a tough one for some of us 😉 Haha even when I was working it was also warped. I guess it really is a matter of discipline and retraining the brain. Like many other things as well, all it takes is one day to break the loop, too! - [ Maya ](https://www.spreadhopeproject.com) Dec 5, 2018 Love these prompts! I love the holidays,but they can also be stressful at times. I, too, have fewer obligations than in the past because of simplifying my life, but I also miss the connectedness at times. I also love the thought that December and January are just months in succession. I’m always up for re-evaluating goals, planning out ideas, etc, but sometimes there seems so much pressure to make these drastic changes between Dec 31 and Jan 1, and for many of us (probably most of us, realistically), that’s just not feasible. So I love the idea as using it as a marker, but maybe not putting quite so much pressure on ourselves for instant and dramatic change. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 5, 2018 Hi Maya! Yes the amount of stress (whether self-inflicted or out of obligation) can really get out of control in Dec! But there are many steps we can take to help ourselves out a little, too! It’s good that you are always re-evaluating goals, etc…I think it’s a good habit to have 🙂 And yea, I mean, different cultures follow different calendars even, so nothing to stress over really 😉 Sending hugs! - [ Rachna Parmar ](https://www.rachnacooks.com) Dec 4, 2018 That made for a good read. Holidays can be stressful for few. I hardly get any these days. With a teen and a tween, it’s a lot of work. I am hoping that we can catch maybe a weekend getaway somewhere. I work from home so at least there is no stress of commute. Wishing you happy holidays! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 4, 2018 Thanks for reading, Rachna! Yes that sounds hectic too – a teen AND tween 😉 I hope that you can also catch a getaway and get some time to relax and unwind. Wishing you happy holidays, too! - [ Susie Lindau ](https://susielindau.com) Dec 3, 2018 Fantastic! A great way to roll into the holidays. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 4, 2018 Thanks Susie! Let’s roll in at a nice cruise speed eh 😉 - Jen @ The Frozen Mind Dec 3, 2018 These were perfect prompts for the holiday season! Thank you so much for doing this link up! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 3, 2018 Phew! And here I was worried that they were not appropriate enough! Thanks Jen! - Kate Dec 2, 2018 Hi Sheryl! Another fab linkup with very thought provoking writing prompts. Liking that you’re de-stressing and things are slowing down for you in December. This month can get to be more stressful than is necessary and to be able to slow the pace a little and take things as they come is a great thing to do if possible. Though the feeling of isolation can weirdly be a not so fab side effect of slowing down. I completely related to what you said about how you’ve been simplifying your life, but the con to that is being a bit isolated. Like you, leaving work was essential for health, but on the flip side, you miss the socialisation that came with work and even the parties you never really wanted to go to anyway! I’m quite busy (for once) next week with a lot of socialising and a side of hospital appointments. Honestly not sure if I’m going to be able to do everything and I’m getting a bit anxious. But I’ll take it as it comes. Anyway, have a fab December and happy holidays ? Kate xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 2, 2018 Hi Kate, thanks for dropping by and reading 😀 Haha I hope thought provoking in a good way, and not too complicated! 😉 Not sure I still like any kind of office type parties, or parties where you’re obliged to attend, but I definitely miss some form of human interaction! 😉 I hope that the business will end on a good note! Sometimes it’s nice to be busy (but not too much!) 😉 Take care of yourself this season and hope to read your reflections too, but only if you have time and want to! x - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Dec 2, 2018 Hi Sheryl! Today was dedicated to you! First of all, thank you so much for a terrific year of link ups and prompts. I am looking forward to participating more regularly in 2019\. I’m also slowing down and starting to take it easy. This is usually a time of year when everything speeds up, but I’ve learned rest is best, especially over the holiday season. I’m so happy to hear that you got your celebrations in and can look forward to a nice and easy entry (hopefully) to 2019\. Fingers crossed that your health stays on track and you don’t have any mishaps for the remainder of this year. Like you, my Friday and Saturday nights are very isolating and hard to get through. My husband usually goes out. I try to fill my time with reading or other things to avoid looking at all the fun that everyone else is having on the weekend. It’s really hard to stay positive when you’re stuck at home weekend after weekend. I’m not a big partier, but I used to enjoy going out for an afternoon over the weekend or meet with my friends for brunch. I haven’t done that all year. It’s also interesting that you mention sleep because that has been on my mind for a while now. My sleep patterns are so messed up. I’m really working hard to get to a better sleep schedule and perhaps even achieve unmedicated sleep – something that I haven’t been able to do in well over six years. Wishing you all the best for 2019\. 2018 brought me a new friend. I’m very grateful to have met you! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 3, 2018 Hi Carrie, thanks for the comment, apologies it took me a while to reply. Been fairly busy and also unwell here and there…hope you’re doing okay! I’m glad someone gets the Friday/Saturday night thing! It’s weird cos I’m not even a party, social creature 🙂 And I guess when you’re working you just want to go home and rest, the irony. And I’m sorry to hear you have problems with painsomnia 🙁 I hope you manage to get a little better in 2019 and that it will help with all aspects of your life. Looking forward to reading more of your writing in 2019! P.s. I have that picture I keep forgetting to send you. Will do so soon. It’s not you, you look fab! I look awful is all. Haha! l;) **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### All I Want for Christmas is Some Pain Relief! (Real Wish List Ideas from 13 People with Chronic Illness) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/all-i-want-for-christmas-pain-relief/ Last updated: 2025-12-09T04:33:26.000Z ## A Common Chronic Illness Wish List Item: Pain Relief My original intention for this post was more of a show and tell session, where the chronic illness community could share what was on their wish list, and discover new coping tools. But it turns out that we all mostly want the same thing no matter where we are in the world - some good old pain relief. Even for just a day. Unfortunately, ‘pain relief’ isn’t something that we’d be able to gift each other, or even to ourselves. Regardless, this was an insightful roundup to me. Have a look at what others with chronic illness have to say! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Read More in the Holiday & Christmas Series: - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) - [How to Survive the Holidays When Chronic Illness & Disability Cause Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/survive-the-holidays-chronic-illness-disability-pain/) - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/) - [Curated Chronic Illness Gift Ideas for Christmas, Birthdays & Other Occasions!](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-gift-ideas/) Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Wish List Boards: ![All I want for Christmas is some pain relief! (Real Wish List Ideas from 13 People with Chronic Illness)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/all-i-want-for-christmas-pain-relief-wish-list-ideas-chronic-illness.jpg) --- ### Kirsten of “Graphic Organic” **ONE Item I'd Really Like to Try for Pain Relief is:** Weekly massages. **The Reason I Haven't Tried It is Because:** I have had massages which felt amazing, but it's too expensive to have them weekly. **The Best Thing That's Worked for My Own Pain Management so Far is:** Physiotherapy and medication. Read Related Posts: - [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) - [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) --- ### Bridget **ONE Item I'd Really Like to Try for Pain Relief is:** The money to properly care for myself. The money to have the surgery I needed two years ago, or the physical therapy, or afford better food, the massages that increase then reduce pain. **The Reason I Haven't Tried It is Because:** Not many people are keen to toss money at random people or hire the chronically ill. Also couldn’t afford to complete my bachelor's degree which makes it more difficult. **The Best Thing That's Worked for My Own Pain Management so Far is:** Heat and ignoring it to the best of my abilities, occasionally with assistance from methocarbamol and tramadol. Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [What’s It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) - [The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don’t Reflect)](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Chronic Illness is Expensive, but Here’s the Real Reason Why](https://achronicvoice.com/real-reason-why-chronic-illness-expensive/) - [The Chronic Pain Cycle & How to Break It (Top Tips From an Occupational Therapist)](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/) --- ### Char of “Chronically Hopeful” [*chronicallyhopeful.com*](https://chronicallyhopeful.com/) **ONE Item I'd Really Like to Try for Pain Relief is:** A weighted blanket. **The Reason I Haven't Tried It is Because:** Forgot to put it on my wish list lol... **The Best Thing That's Worked for My Own Pain Management so Far is:** A ketogenic diet. **Any Other Comments You May Have:** I've tried coming off the Keto diet a few times, but within 24 hours I deteriorate drastically, so it's definitely been worth the effort! Read Related Posts: - [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/) - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) --- ### Sam Moss of “My Med Musings” [*mymedmusings.com*](https://mymedmusings.com/) **ONE Item I'd Really Like to Try for Pain Relief is:** Medicinal Cannabis. **The Reason I Haven't Tried It is Because:** It's not fully legal in Australia. **The Best Thing That's Worked for My Own Pain Management so Far is:** Pacing and Distraction Therapy. Ensuring I get plenty of rest breaks throughout the day is so important to managing my pain. Writing and administrating my online support forum, Medical Musings With Friends, are two things that help distract me from pain. I'm passionate about both and they give me a wonderful sense of purpose. Read Related Posts: - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) - [Why Humility is the Best Tool for Advocacy](https://achronicvoice.com/humility-advocacy/) --- ### Ruth Rosselson of “Palindromic Rheumatism” [*palindromicrheumatism.wordpress.com*](https://palindromicrheumatism.wordpress.com/) **ONE Item I'd Really Like to Try for Pain Relief is:** CBD oil. **The Reason I Haven't Tried It is Because:** It isn't currently available at a useful strength in the UK. It's not legal or easily accessible. **The Best Thing That's Worked for My Own Pain Management so Far is:** My mindfulness practice. Nothing actually gives me pain relief, so mindfulness is the best way I've found of living with it without it dominating my whole life. **Any Other Comments You May Have:** I haven't updated my blog for ages. I should. I have palindromic rheumatism. It isn't a very common type of arthritis, and I think isn't taken as seriously as RA \[Rheumatoid Arthritis\] because it doesn't cause joint damage. But the pain (and fatigue) impacts on quality of life - and this needs to be taken more seriously by the medical community. Read Related Posts: - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or ‘How to Relax’ by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [Rheumatoid Arthritis – the Biggest Street Fight of My Life](https://achronicvoice.com/rheumatoid-arthritis-fight-life/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) --- ### Jo Moss of “A Journey Through the Fog” **ONE Item I'd Really Like to Try for Pain Relief is:** Full extract cannabis oil (including THC). **The Reason I Haven't Tried It is Because:** THC is a controlled substance in the UK, so therefore illegal. And although, theoretically, specialist doctors will be able to prescribe Cannabis-based medicines as of the 1st Nov 2018, realistically it's going to be months or possibly years before it's a viable option for chronic pain patients like myself. **The Best Thing That's Worked for My Own Pain Management so Far is:** CBD oil. I'm intolerant to most prescription pain medication so I started taking CBD oil 2 years ago. Cannabinoids like CBD (although there are over 100 different types of cannabinoids in cannabis, all with their own therapeutic properties) have been more effective in treating my pain than any prescription medication I've taken, and without the nasty side effects. But although CBD oil helps reduce my pain levels, I still experience a lot of pain at times - this is why I desperately want to try THC. --- ### Melissa Reynolds of “Melissa Vs Fibromyalgia” [*melissavsfibromyalgia.com*](https://www.melissavsfibromyalgia.com/) **ONE Item I'd Really Like to Try for Pain Relief is:** CBD oil. **The Reason I Haven't Tried It is Because:** In New Zealand it's considered the same as cannabis under the law and so it's illegal! **The Best Thing That's Worked for My Own Pain Management so Far is:** [Low dose naltrexone](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3962576/). **Any Other Comments You May Have:** I always prefer natural options first for pain relief. Read Related Posts: - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [Is Yoga Accessible for People with Chronic Illness? (Guest Post by Melissa)](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/) - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) - [YuYu Bottle Review: Hot Water Bottle for ‘Surround Warmth’ Pain Relief](https://achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-review/) - [Floatation Therapy: Did it do Anything for My Chronic Pain? (Review of Palm Avenue Float Club, Singapore)](https://achronicvoice.com/floatation-therapy-chronic-pain/) --- ### Vanessa Quinlan-McChrystal of "The Girl with the Five Lads & Fibromyalgia" **ONE Item I'd Really Like to Try for Pain Relief is:** I would love a reasonable priced CBD patch that is available here in the UK. I reviewed a US one a while back, it was amazing but it was expensive and wouldn't ship to the UK. **The Reason I Haven't Tried It is Because:** Shipping and cost really. **The Best Thing That's Worked for My Own Pain Management so Far is:** Hot Water Bottle and Meditation. --- ### Chronic UTI Australia **ONE Item I'd Really Like to Try for Pain Relief is:** Cannabis oil. I have never been prescribed pain killers by any doctors I've seen for my chronic UTI symptoms. It wasn't until I talked to other women with chronic UTI that I realised pain relief was an option! **The Reason I Haven't Tried It is Because:** Cannabis oil isn't available in Australia yet. **The Best Thing That's Worked for My Own Pain Management so Far is:** Chronic UTI patients report the pain relief that has worked best for them includes: - Amitriptyline, and when in a very bad flare Tramadol is my life saver (although only one, two can make you feel really sick). - A combination of Amitriptyline and Phenergan. For very acute onset flare pain, I take 1/2 teaspoon of Celtic sea salt in a glass of water, the pain eases enormously in about 5 minutes. - Hiprex, sometimes vitamin C, essential oils like oregano, tea tree, lemon etc. I’ve tried things like Panadeine Forte and that helped, but took a while and didn’t help with urinary frequency. - Nothing worked for me… - I was prescribed Voltaren suppositories following a gynae procedure. I once tried that in desperation and it helped take the edge off a bladder pressure/back ache flare. --- ### Pamela Jessen **ONE Item I’d Really Like to Try for Pain Relief is:** An Oska unit. **The Reason I Haven’t Tried It is Because:** The price is too expensive for me. **The Best Thing That’s Worked for My Own Pain Management so Far is:** A combination of medication and mindful meditation. Pin to Your Wish List & Pain Relief Boards: ![All I Want for Christmas - Less Pain, Less Pain, Less Pain, Less Pain!](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/all-i-want-for-christmas-less-pain.jpg) --- ### Taylor **ONE Item I’d Really Like to Try for Pain Relief is:** TENS machine or equivalent. **The Reason I Haven’t Tried It is Because:** Expensive trial, and I hate the idea of having so much waste from the packaging and eventually more electronic waste. **The Best Thing That’s Worked for My Own Pain Management so Far is:** Remedial massage. --- ### Monica Laipple of “Invisible Not Broken” [*invisiblenotbroken.com*](https://invisiblenotbroken.com/) **ONE Item I’d Really Like to Try for Pain Relief is:** [H-Wave](https://www.h-wave.com/). **The Reason I Haven’t Tried It is Because:** $6K. **The Best Thing That’s Worked for My Own Pain Management so Far is:** Physical Therapy and H-Wave at sessions there. Also like [Quell](https://www.quellrelief.com/) a lot. **Any Other Comments You May Have:** Thank you for doing this! --- ### Sheryl of “A Chronic Voice” **ONE Item I’d Really Like to Try for Pain Relief is:** Medical marijuana. **The Reason I Haven’t Tried It is Because:** It’s illegal in my country, Singapore, and will be for a long time I’m sure, even the topical CBD oil versions. **The Best Thing That’s Worked for My Own Pain Management so Far is:** Keeping stress levels to a minimum, as that’s my biggest trigger for pain flares. Otherwise, [**high dose steroids**](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) are the only thing that’s able to control the pain (although this comes at a mental cost). Nothing else works then, not even strong painkillers administered at the hospital. **Any Other Comments You May Have:** I don’t see how it’s any more harmful to try medical marijuana, compared to other types of painkillers or alternative therapies that are permitted here. Apart from pain, it may even be helpful for my seizures. Read Related Posts: - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [So This is What a Tonic Clonic Seizure Feels Like](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) - [Chronic Stress, the Silent Assassin](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/) - [What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - [Invisible in Singapore: What’s It Like to Live Here with Chronic Illnesses?](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/) ## Conclusion: All We Want for Christmas is a Little Bit of Pain Relief! Thank you to everyone who contributed to this roundup! As you can see, many of us want pain relief, although the tools and types differ. Chronic illness and pain management are complex and highly individual. I wish everyone with a chronic illness some pain relief this holiday and Christmas season! Don't forget to [**check out the other Christmas and holiday posts**](#xmas-series) at the top of the post! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Christmas, Wish List & Pain Relief Boards: ![13 Wish List Items from people with chronic pain — What they really, really want.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/wish-list-items-chronic-pain.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Chronic mom ](https://chronicmom.com) Dec 8, 2020 I was surprised about so many of the UK bloggers wanting CBD oil, I thought I was all on my lonesome living in a place with so many restrictions on CBD, Cannabis etc. I can have CBD, but not the kind that has anything useful in it. Cannabis is banned, and will probably always be. - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Dec 8, 2020 I’m curious about CBD as well, but for some reason feel quite nervous to try it given that I have MCAS. Perhaps I should ask my doctor for their opinion on whether it would be safe for me. - Catherine Feb 23, 2019 I tried CBD oil for about two months for hypermobility syndrome pain and it did absolutely nothing. The cure all didn’t cure anything sadly. Is there anything else that can be suggested? I’ve been put on various different painkillers from cocodamol to tramadol and nothing has helped at all. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 23, 2019 Hi Catherine, that sucks 🙁 Though I read that it really depends on the strain and how it interacts with your own body as well. Here’s one of my favourite bloggers about it if you’re interested to find out more: [https://www.ajourneythroughthefog.co.uk/ ](https://www.ajourneythroughthefog.co.uk/) Sending good thoughts and gentle hugs. - [ Verla ](https://treesmendus.com) Dec 6, 2018 What great questions and interesting answers. My vote is for going outside to be closer to the health benefits of trees. And exercise. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 7, 2018 Hi Verla, thank you for sharing! Yes nature is wonderfully beneficial in so many ways, too! - [ Rachel, The Invisible Hypothyroidism ](https://theinvisiblehypothyroidism.com) Dec 4, 2018 This is really eye opening. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 4, 2018 It was for me as well! - Nikki Dec 3, 2018 I would also like to try CBD oil. My doc things Cannabis might not be good with all my meds. But I would be willing to try CBD treatment which wouldn’t be as bad, I’d think - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 3, 2018 Yea I think mainly we just want to have another option to try, since most of what we have already doesn’t quite work either. - Chronically Hopeful Char Nov 30, 2018 Thanks for the feature, Sheryl! Great round up and once again a very clear pattern emerges. I tried CBD oil for a week only though. Only thing I noticed was it made me sleep a lot. I know that weight or pressure relieves the aching in my legs, the diet has taken care of most of my other pain, so weighted blanket is really something I’m interested in trying. They’re just really expensive so I have to wait for a gift ? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 30, 2018 Thanks for your contribution, Char! I tried a weighted blanket but sadly it did nothing for me, whether for aches or anxiety haha. But as we’re all different, who knows! 🙂 Hope you get one this year 😉 - [ Rachael Stray ](https://rachaelstray.com/) Nov 29, 2018 Gosh this post really puts things into perspective. I wish everyone the very best for this year and next and that they get some pain relief! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 29, 2018 Thanks for your continuous support. Rachael! Wishing you a good year ahead too and happy holidays 🙂 - Amy Nov 29, 2018 I just wanted to add that TENS units are available on Amazon in the US and UK for fairly reasonable prices. Mine was $22 US, £29 UK. That said, I generally only use it for specific spots, say, low back or thigh. I haven’t found it helpful for my generalized muscle pain. If you’re in the US, Topricin makes a topical called Fibro Cream which I love for my worst areas during flares, my thighs, shoulders, and back. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 29, 2018 Hi Amy, thanks for sharing! I have a cheap $10 TENS machine myself, but it doesn’t do much to relieve any pain, heh. Not sure if a more expensive one has any added functionality :p **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/ Last updated: 2026-07-23T14:57:52.000Z ## Why Many People with Chronic Illness Hate to be Known as ‘Sick’ From reading articles online, I’m aware that many of us with chronic illnesses don’t like to be known as sick or weak. No human being does, really. There are many reasons why one might dislike the association with their illness, such as: - We are [more than our illnesses](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-schizophrenia-one-man-s-journey/201512/you-are-not-your-mental-illness); we are [**human beings with individuality**](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/). - Associating and repeating to ourselves that we are sick leads us to believe that as the ultimate truth, and thus remain ‘stuck’ in that state. - Labels and thus judgment of any sort are not cool. - You hate being treated differently or being known as the weakest of the group. There are many more reasons, but these are common themes that I see. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Sick Girl & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Why I don’t mind being known as “the sick girl”.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/why-dont-mind-known-sick-girl.jpg) ![Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength). Read the post on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/call-me-sick-girl-how-to-make-weakness-strength.jpg) ## My Own Struggles with Self-Identity as a Teenager I struggled with this sick girl identity as a young adult, and tried to be as 'normal' as I could. I was competitive and strove to be the strongest physically, mentally and emotionally. I was the girl who’d carry the extra load, went on for longer or pushed myself to be faster, and never shed a tear in public. I was even the physical training instructor of my NPCC group (National Police Cadet Corps) in school. It might have be a struggle, but I was still physically able to do 500 push ups and sit ups during training camps. Even when I suffered my first major health blow via a [**near-deadly clot in the lung due to multiple DVTs**](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/), I toughed it out in the hospital for months with only panadol as painkillers. To put things into perspective, that's the worst pain I've experienced to date, and I did it in part to prove my 'strength'. Read Related Posts: - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [You Don’t Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) - [Are You a Capable Person? What Does That Even Mean?](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) - [Kick Ass With Kindness and a Sweet Cherry on Top](https://achronicvoice.com/kick-ass-with-kindness/) - [A Page From a Sick Girl's Diary: Sometimes I Wish I was an Old Person](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girls-diary-wish-old-person/) ## Turning Weakness Into Strength Through Acceptance But what is strength [**when the pain is chronic**](https://achronicvoice.com/what-neverending-pain-reveals/)? When you’re in it for the long term? When you’re running a marathon, not a sprint? I learned over the span of a decade how ridiculous I was being. The point is to pace myself so that I can stay in the game of life, and to even maybe end it on a good note. There’s this quote by Tyrion Lannister, a dwarf from Game of Thrones, that's one of my all time favourites: > “Let me give you some advice, bastard. Never forget what you are, the rest of the world will not. Wear it like armour, and it can never be used to hurt you.” It resonates with me because it's so true. What happens [**when you finally learn to accept a perceived weakness**](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/), is that it transforms into a strength. It loses its power and no one can ever use it to hurt you again, whether intentional or otherwise. ## Oh, the Things We Can Do as a Person with Chronic Illness If you’d like to take it a step further, put on that armour and step into battle; [**there’s a lot of advocacy work left to be done**](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/), and every person on our side counts. There’s still so much that science doesn’t understand about our bodies, and still so much pain that medicine can’t fix. But in the meantime, we can work on clearing misunderstandings and misconceptions the public and even doctors have about us as patients. We can work on sharing the reality of our experiences, and [**speak up for those who can’t**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) or aren’t ready to do so yet. We can remind others of what it means to be human, and how to behave like a decent one. We can lead by example, ***because*** we are sick. A strange opportunity if you would; your words or actions wouldn’t have as much power if you were healthy, because you don’t live the reality of it. Experience after all, is the best form of credibility. Your scars tell a story of survival. ## The Opportunities that Blogging has Brought About Over the last few years, I’ve been blogging and posting to my social media accounts every single day. Sometimes I’d hit the schedule limit in Buffer, and would have to consider what to remove. There’s just too much important information to share, and stories waiting to be heard. If people around me never knew that I was sick or just how much chronic illness impacts my life, well now they do. When I made the decision to start blogging about it, I walked in well aware of this, and I was ready. Ready to forever be known as 'the sick girl', and to reveal private aspects of my life for illustrative or referential purposes. Read Related Posts: - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) - [Why Humility is the Best Tool for Advocacy](https://achronicvoice.com/humility-advocacy/) - [12 Chronic Illness Bloggers Share Their Top Posts for 2020](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-bloggers-top-posts-2020/) - [A Quarterly Reflection: 12 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned](https://achronicvoice.com/quarterly-reflection-life-lessons-learned/) - [MediSearch Review: A Medical AI Search Engine for Patients, Clinicians & Medical Writers](https://achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/) ## What Being Known as ‘The Sick Girl’ Has Done As a result, all sorts of people have approached me. Friends, family and acquaintances often come to me when they need a referral to a good doctor, or advice on some strange symptom. Others with chronic illness whom I've [met online have become friends](http://www.myseveralworlds.com/2018/11/21/chronic-illness-prompts-meeting-advocating-tweaking-working-curating/). Others whom I never knew were ill or those who were recently diagnosed, approach me for advice or a listening ear. In the words of one young lady whom I spoke with, not even her mother could understand the pain or grief associated with being forever ill. Isn't it amazing how you can be so useful even though [**you might not have been able to get out of bed today**](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/), or for the past month or year? You can take that unwanted identity and transform it into a lighthouse for those who are suffering; for those who don't know where to turn to, or whose position you were in once. You have the power to take a supposed negative identity, and turn it into a useful one. Sometimes people whom I haven't spoken with in years approach me simply to get something out of me, and I don't even mind anymore. Because I understand what pain is, and if there's something being ill has taught me, it's to have a little empathy. At the end of the day, we're all just trying to live our best lives, and if I have the ability to change something for the better, then I should. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [What’s it Like to be the Mother of a Sick Child? (Precious Insights from My Own Mum)](https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/) - [What’s it Like to be the Father of a Child with Chronic Illness? (Precious Insights from My Own Dad!)](https://achronicvoice.com/father-of-child-with-chronic-illness/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) Pin to Your Identity & Invisible Illness Boards: ![Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_sick-girl-1.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Katie Clark Jun 19, 2020 I love this quote, “Let me give you some advice, bastard. Never forget what you are, the rest of the world will not. Wear it like armour, and it can never be used to hurt you.” There are times I wonder should I be talking about what I’m dealing with? Not sure that others really want ot hear it. But, in the end, it’s a part of who I am now. So, I’ve decided to talk about it. Not all the time, but if I didn’t, it’s like I’m hiding a part of me to be more accepted or something. But, I find what I’ve done and am learning is important and if someone doesn’t, that’s okay, but they then, don’t really want to be a part of where I am now. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 20, 2020 Yes! When Tyrion said that in the series, I was like fuck yea!!! Probably wasn’t meant for chronic illness, but my thoughts immediately jumped to it haha. It’s so true, isn’t it? Once again, everything boils down to acceptance, and turning your weakness into strength. I too talk about my health openly, and am not offended by questions. I see them as opportunities to educate. (I mean, unless they’re trying to shove their thoughts down my throat then go somewhere else…) I think by speaking up, we are speaking up for many others suffering in silence, too. That’s really important. - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Jun 18, 2020 I really love this! I often debate whether other terms used to describe those with chronic illness such as ‘fighter’ and ‘warrior’ are positive or negative. I haven’t really made up my mind, but I do agree that health concerns open up worlds too. Like meeting all the people here! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 20, 2020 Aww…I love all the people I’ve met online and offline along the way, too! I think all schools of thoughts are fine – whatever works for you is good 🙂 For me I don’t like the words fighter or warrior, just because I think it’s a bit dramatic, haha. This is of course, just me. If you like using it, I encourage it! - [ chronic mom ](https://chronicmom.com) Jun 18, 2020 I love that quote. That’s how I’ve long viewed being sick, I wear it as armor. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 20, 2020 Me too! Maybe one of my favourite quotes, haha. Our weaknesses can also be our strengths (and if we’re not careful, vice versa). - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Jun 17, 2020 I can completely relate to you here Sheryl. I was okay to be known as the sick girl early because I felt it empowered me to voice my health journey and be informative. But sometimes I hesitate to mention I’m unwell because oddly it makes others a little awkward and they suddenly feel the need to encourage me and ask me to be positive! 😀 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 20, 2020 Haha actually I find that the more comfortable I am in my own skin, the less others hesitate to mention it. I guess it’s because it doesn’t affect me so much in terms of comments, interpretations, etc. I just talk about it as how they’d talk about, say, work or family. It IS normal life, after all 🙂 x - Kirsten Nov 27, 2018 LOVE THIS SHERYL! It’s so difficult to find a healthy balance between being the sick person (listening to our bodies, raising awareness, using mobility aids, taking meds, going to doctor appointments, etc) and being you, the person behind the illness (your personality, your likes and dislikes, your friends and family, your job or hobby, etc). Sometimes I tend to be stubborn and ignore my chronic pain which leads me to a flare or crash. But other times I’m just sick and tired of being sick. It’s difficult but we gotta except ourselves and just be ourselves. There is nothing to feel ashamed about and it’s a part of us. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 28, 2018 Thanks Kirsten! This is a quote that really inspires me, the wise little dwarf 🙂 I think achieving that balance is something we all struggle with, even if we were healthy, what more when ill! But definitely important to try and aim for every day that’s possible. Sending good thoughts! x - [ Rachna Parmar ](https://www.rachnaparmar.com) Nov 27, 2018 I really loved this post. Kudos to your courage and work. I also loved that quote you shared. It is so very true as I have experienced in my own life. It was lovely reading you. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 27, 2018 Thank you so much for reading, Rachna! Am really glad it resonates with you, and hope it gives you a little bit of inspiration 🙂 - [ Rachel, The Invisible Hypothyroidism ](https://theinvisiblehypothyroidism.com) Nov 27, 2018 Such an important message. We are more than our health conditions but it is also OK for them to be a part of us. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 27, 2018 Thanks Rachel! Yes totally agree. There are many perspectives to it, and finding peace with each one is key in order to thrive, and also to put a face to it. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### What's it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/ Last updated: 2026-07-26T08:11:52.000Z ## mThank you to Floral Garage for This Collaboration That Showcases What It's Like to Live in Singapore with Invisible Illness Chesna from [Floral Garage](https://floralgaragesg.com/) approached me a couple weeks back for a collaboration. We had a floral workshop planned for raising awareness on chronic conditions, but perhaps the timing wasn't right and we didn't have enough participants. So they kindly sponsored four of their best-selling bouquets instead, to a few of the interviewees below. Thank you Floral Garage for your generosity! I'm sure you put a smile on the recipients' faces despite any pain they may have had that day. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness, Travel & Singapore Boards: ![What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts). Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/7-locals-share-thoughts-whats-it-like-live-with-invisible-illness-singapore.jpg) ## A Brief Introduction About the Interviewees As for the people interviewed in this article, they are all Singaporeans living with various chronic illnesses and autoimmune disorders. I actually became acquainted with one of them, Brenda, as we were trapped in the same hospital ward 😉 As you will see, they come from varying age groups, backgrounds and careers, which goes to show that chronic illness can affect anyone, sadly. I hope that this short discussion with these seven Singaporeans will help to make the invisibility of these conditions a little more prominent within society, and that you learn something new today. At the very least, I hope that it instills some empathy for those around you, because you never know who may be hurting. *(Anything in the italic brackets below are additional comments from me.)* ![Floral Garage and A Chronic Voice Collaboration - What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/flowers-divider-1.jpg) ## What Chronic Illnesses or Autoimmune Disorders do You Have? **Nicole 1:** Hashimoto Thyroiditis **Nicole 2:** [**Rheumatoid Arthritis**](https://achronicvoice.com/rheumatoid-arthritis-fight-life/) **Katherine:** Eczema **Sherry:** Vasculitis **Masyitah:** Sjögren’s Syndrome. Along with Sjögren’s is tinnitus. **Brenda:** Crohn's Disease **Sheryl:** - [**Antiphospholipid Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [**Lupus**](https://achronicvoice.com/rock-bottom/) (SLE) - [**Sjögren's Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-bearable-not/) - [**PSVT (a heart rhythm disorder)**](https://achronicvoice.com/heart-rhythm-disorder/) - [**Mitral valve prolapse & repair**](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) - [**Epilepsy**](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) - [**Clinical depression and anxiety**](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - Update as of 2025...more diagnoses, namely: - [**Spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture & repair**](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [**Oesophageal diverticulum**](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) ![The bustling streets of Singapore city](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/singapore-streets-1.gif) ## What's a “Day in the Life” Like for You with Chronic Illness? **Nicole 1:** It used to be about not functioning properly. Brain fog, forgetfulness, no energy, fatigue were the main issues. Three years later I also started having constant pain in my finger joints. No help from doctors. People didn’t/don’t understand as [**on the surface you look fine**](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/). **Nicole 2:** I wake up in pain, which subsides slightly but it never really goes away. Something different hurts every day and [**you can't really prepare for that**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/). Sometimes the simplest of tasks becomes difficult, like getting dressed or just sitting down. **Katherine:** It has become my happy habit to oil and [**moisturise my skin 24/7**](https://achronicvoice.com/nourish-naturally-skin-care-tips/). **Sherry:** Waking up and not knowing the amount of energy I have for that day. It is sometimes hard to plan ahead, as I don't know if the activities that I am going to do are 'too much' for me. Or sometimes a flare may just occur, and I have to cancel pre-arranged plans, which is something that I don't like to do. My energy level will deteriorate quickly, and my feet will be painful doing typical activities, such as shopping for electrical appliances. **Masyitah:** It changes on a daily basis. Although the demands don't change, my response towards them has to. I have to be conscious of the load I do for the day. I am mostly home-bound and semi/flexi working, so naturally all duties of home demands are on me. I have to [**balance all this including work, fatigue, pain, brain fog, dryness, etc**](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) just to be sure I can function the next day as people depend on me. I am slowly realising that I am losing muscle strength. My body frame lately is smaller than it used to be. I’m not sure, perhaps the lower dose of prednisone *(steroids)* is one cause. I am still losing hair due to meds or the disease itself (denied by rheumy). Self care is hard to do. But there hasn't been a day or moment that I do not think about my illness. With all the demands, I get anxiety attacks. Initially it was bad, I would be in bed for most of the day. Nowadays I tell myself I have had it worst, [**the fear is only bigger in my head**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-fear-is-self-harm/). I had[**trouble sleeping**](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/). I still do at times but it is getting better. Fatigue is one that is a killer. The meds give me fatigue too. So somedays, with all the demands, I can’t even move an inch. The quilt cover would feel heavy and painful to carry. Or I would feel extremely cold on the extremities of my body, I would be layering my attire whilst everyone else would be sweating. There are times when I have terrible pain or swelling out of the blue (of course with autoimmune - nothing is out of the blue). This limits my movement. **Brenda:** Precious moments with family and friends. **Sheryl:** [**Waking up always takes some time**](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) for me, as I'm achy and nauseous until my [**steroids**](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) and coffee kick in. At my worst, it took me two hours just to shift my legs out of bed and start getting dressed. This was the reason I had to cab to work back when I was working full-time. I also have clinical depression and anxiety, and currently what my psychiatrist calls a mixed state. I find the anxiety harder to cope with than the depression, although there are more straightforward medications to managing them for me. I also worry because I get [**panic attacks**](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) right before a seizure as well, so it can be hard to differentiate them. Maybe they're all related; I personally think that they all stem from an autoimmune source, perhaps from the [**Lupus since that can affect any and all parts of the body**](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/). [**On a 'good day', I do some work**](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/) from home with [**my birds**](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/) flying (and pooping!) around me with some music on. [Work these days](https://work.achronicvoice.com/) comprise of either building websites, writing sponsored posts, or simply trying to take my blog up a notch. The todos for the blog are endless, but I do enjoy it! ![Singapore housing](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/singapore-hdb-flat.jpg) ## What's Something You Wish You Had More Assistance with? **Nicole 1:** Understanding what else apart from medication can help with the illness, such as lifestyle, diet etc. **Nicole 2:** Cost of medication that actually works. **Katherine:** Prompt medical advice when my skin becomes too dry and cracked. **Sherry:** I wish I had more assistance during flares, to reduce even the smallest amount needed to walk, such as having people buy meals for me when I'm at work. I just use the various food delivery services when I'm at home. **Masyitah:** More answers and direction as to where my disease is going. Yes the blood and urine tests monitor inflammation levels, but what about all those 'weird' things that pop up out of nowhere such as a swelling vein, or hives. [**In public places**](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/), I would like an identification which states that I am ill; that I need the 'those who need it more' seats on the buses and trains. Instead of faces that imply: please go ask someone else instead of me. That I have no strength to 'hold onto the rail' when the bus moves fast, jerks, or stops all of a sudden. **Brenda:** Cheaper prices for stoma users, it's so expensive for one bag. I can't imagine if the patient is an elderly person without a job. *(From what I understand, the average cost for a month's worth of* [*TPN*](https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/total-parenteral-nutrition/about/pac-20385081) *is $8,000.)* **Sheryl:** Financial aid/subsidies from the government for people who go to the doctors' on a regular basis. Now the classification for 'chronic diseases' isn't broad enough (Lupus is as chronic as you can get, but isn't even listed), and the subsidies are miserable. My most expensive medication hardly gets any coverage, and can cost thousands of dollars per month. I wish that there were no division of drug classes. It also doesn't make sense especially if [**the patient is unable to work**](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/). Read Related Posts: - [Asking for Help (and Why Everyone Needs to Learn this Important Life Skill)](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) - [Chronic Illness is Expensive, but Here’s the Real Reason Why](https://achronicvoice.com/real-reason-why-chronic-illness-expensive/) - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don’t Reflect)](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/) ![Singapore Potato Head](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/singapore-potato-head.jpg) ## What's Something That Helps You to Cope with the Pain or Discomfort? **Nicole 1:** Diet! Avoiding gluten at all costs as it causes me pain, and makes the autoimmune attacks worse. The rest of [the diet (AIP)](https://ultimatemealplans.com/diet/aip) and changes I have implemented are helping me to regain my life. **Nicole 2:** [**Yoga**](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/). **Katherine:** Praying. **Sherry:** There's nothing much I can do to [**cope with the pain or discomfort**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/). Sometimes [**doing various crafts can help**](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) to distract me from the pain. However, to [**prevent the pain and discomfort**](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/), I use private transport quite a lot to reduce the amount of time spent on my feet. **Masyitah:** Hopeful thinking, [**practice of positivity**](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/), prayers. [**Massages, rubs**](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/), quiet time - my down time is the most important for me. It is my practice of calmness. **Brenda:** [**Watching funny videos**](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) or sleep. **Sheryl:** Physical, emotional and moral [**support from my partner**](https://achronicvoice.com/cool-truths/), parents, and birds. [**Writing**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/). Music. Read Related Posts: - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-home-resources-learned-other-blogs/) ![Singapore bridge](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/singapore-bridge.jpg) ## What's Your Biggest Wish for the Good of Singapore's Future? **Nicole 1:** More awareness on autoimmune diseases, and open mindedness from the medical community towards alternative methods that may help people. Instead of relying on medications which might be more harmful than helpful in the long run. **Nicole 2:** That there would be more affordable and effective help for people with chronic illnesses. **Katherine:** [**Be brave to be kind**](https://achronicvoice.com/kick-ass-with-kindness/). **Sherry:** That everyone is more aware of autoimmune illnesses, that they are able to receive the support that they need, and know that they are not alone! More doctors who are knowledgeable on autoimmune illnesses so that patients do not have to be [**referred to various departments**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) to get a diagnosis and proper treatment. **Masyitah:** That autoimmune disorders are listed as chronic illnesses. That there are more forums talking about autoimmunity, and more help for people living with autoimmune diseases. *(Only 20* [*chronic diseases are covered by the CDMP*](https://www.hpp.moh.gov.sg/all-healthcare-professionals/guidelines/GuidelineDetails/medisave-for-chronic-disease-management-program-and-vaccinations) *at present.)* **Brenda:** Have a charity group that helps people with financial problems, who need to live with stoma bags for life. **Sheryl:** To be more gracious and empathetic within all facets of society - not just healthcare - whilst retaining our cultural roots. --- ## Thank You to Our Contributors! ### Nicole 2 ![Nicole 2 Profile Photo](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/nicole-2-profile.jpg) A dog lover who loves to travel, and learn about history and culture. ### Katherine ![Katherine Profile Photo](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/katherine-profile.jpg) Thankful to live my life with gratitude. ### Sherry ![Sherry Profile Photo](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/sherry-profile.jpg) Founded Autoimmune Illness Support Group – Singapore on Meetup in 2013 and [on Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/groups/1511172962475100/) in 2015\. Runs a ground-up movement (GUM), [Be Kind SG](https://www.facebook.com/BeKindSG/), that promotes volunteering with ‘invisible’ communities, such as children and youths with special needs, and adults and seniors with intellectual disabilities. ### Masyitah ![Masyitah profile photo](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/masyitah-profile.jpg) 43 year old mother of two. ### Brenda ![Brenda profile photo](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/brenda-profile.jpg) I’m a happy go lucky girl who has been diagnosed with Crohn’s disease for 18 years. I went through multiple surgeries and am now a survivor of my latest one, which left me with only 1.8m (5.9ft) of my small intestines. 🙂 ### Sheryl ![Sheryl profile photo](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/smiley-red-800.jpg) The owner of this blog! Striving to raise awareness not only about chronic illnesses, but to foster empathy and kindness within all facets of society. Also runs a [sister site, “Sick Lessons”](https://sicklessons.com/), where people share the life lessons they’ve learned from being ill. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Invisible in Singapore: What’s It Like to Live Here with Chronic Illnesses?](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/) - [Invisible Cities Linkup: Pros & Cons of Living with Chronic Illness in Your City](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-cities-linkup/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Featuring People with Illnesses, Passions & Talents](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-people-illnesses-talents/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [My Diary Entries (Previously: Blog Posts Written for Community Linkups)](https://achronicvoice.com/diary-entries/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness, People & Singaporean Boards: ![What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts). In Collaboration With: Floral Garage Sg.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_illness-singapore-locals-4.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Alison Hayes ](https://www.thrivingwhiledisabled.com) Apr 20, 2021 Lovely share. It really does seem like disability-related struggles are very similar everywhere. I absolutely empathize with many of these comments and experiences. I’m in the semi-invisible category myself and with the migraines, I’m now dealing with the medication struggles as well. Thanks so much for putting this together – it’s really nice to recognize just how universal these struggles are! - Katie Clark Apr 18, 2021 I think of Singapore as such an exotic, far away place. Yet, reading each of the responses makes me realize just how much we are the same all over the world. We live with so many of the same things. It’s so upsetting that there isn’t more help/financial support for those with chronic illness. I have applied for disability after working for 32 years. It is basically getting my retirement benefits 6 years early. I just can’t be dependable enough to work on any consistent basis. I would like to, but after 3 years, I have lost hope. However, the odds of me getting disability is pretty slim. I’ve been waiting to hear since October. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/ Last updated: 2026-04-12T17:42:02.000Z ## Part 2 of 3 in the Pain Flare Series: Preventing a Pain Flare Before It Hits This is a three-part series all about pain flares caused by chronic illness. (You can find [**links for the other two at the end of this post**](#painflare-series).) In this second instalment of the series, we share our best strategies to stop a pain flare from happening in the first place. These tips all come from real life, painful experiences; I hope that you find something useful to add to your own pain management toolkit. And like how triggers vary for each individual, so do coping strategies. What helps one person may worsen another's condition. For example, a bath may help me to unwind, but trigger a pain flare in someone else. The tricky thing about chronic illnesses are how individualistic they are. Even people suffering from the same illness can present vastly different symptoms, and use opposite strategies to cope! I would gently urge you to keep an open mind, and to only try out what feels comfortable and suitable for yourself. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. 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Thank you!* Read Related Posts: - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) - [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) Pin to Your Pain Flares & Pain Management Boards: ![Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/best-tips-preventing-pain-flare-people-chronic-illnesses.jpg) ## Dear Chronic Pain Community - What is Your Best Tip for Preventing a Plain Flare Before It Happens? ### 1\. Abbey “Pacing myself, making sure if I know I’m having a busy weekend with a lot of activity I plan breaks in between so I can rest. Or, if I’ve had a hectic Saturday, I make sure I have nothing planned on the Sunday so I can just sit and watch telly/read a book which helps me recharge.” ### 2\. Sreetama “**[Painkillers when I start feeling stiff](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/)**, instead of when the pain sets in.” ### 3\. Alison [thrivingwhiledisabled.com](https://thrivingwhiledisabled.com/) “Regular self-care habits like **[daily meditations](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/)**, gratitudes, and regular exercise.” ### 4\. Rachel Hill [theinvisiblehypothyroidism.com](https://www.theinvisiblehypothyroidism.com/) “Being aware of any busy periods coming up and planning how to effectively use and reserve my energy.” ### 5\. Tom Seaman [tomseamancoaching.com](https://tomseamancoaching.com/) ” Breathing exercises, meditation, visualizing the situation I might be in that causes a flareup and talk myself through it before it happens.” ### 6\. Nikki Albert [brainlessblogger.ca](https://brainlessblogger.ca/) “If I want to do something, or I need to, I pace and take a lot of breaks. Pacing and moderation when I am fine and when I am not fine are fundamental. Some flares I cannot control, like weather though.” ### 7\. Julie Ryan [countingmyspoons.com](https://countingmyspoons.com/) “Pacing. It won’t prevent all flares but it will conserve my energy so that I’m less likely to flare from simply over-doing it.” ### 8\. Candace [bucketsoftea.co.uk](https://bucketsoftea.co.uk/) “Try to avoid stress as much as possible and don’t ever stress over things you have no control over. Remember self care is not a luxury, **[it’s essential to your whole wellbeing](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/)** be it physical mental or emotional. Surround yourself with people who understand.” ### 9\. Jo Moss “Pacing. Something I’m not very good at but I try my best anyway. I try to take regular rest breaks. I also plan my activities so they’re spread out over a few days, rather than all in one day.” ### 10\. Kyra “**[Be careful with your stretches and your work outs](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/)**! Take things slow, and know your limits. There’s no shame to small, manageable exercises each day as opposed to big feats. What matters is that you include activity where you can!” ### 11\. Michelle “Trying not to overthink and **[removing negativity from my life (where possible)](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/)**.” ### 12\. Heather [dinosaursdonkeysandms.com](https://dinosaursdonkeysandms.com/) “To manage my stress through meditation, yoga and **[talking to others](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/)**. To also **[take time to do things I enjoy](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/)** and try to remember that whatever it is that’s causing the stress, it’s not the end of the world.” ### 13\. Jenny “Rest and **[eat very very simple foods](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/)**. The kind of food that has practically no nutritional value.” ### 14\. Rhiann [brainlesionandme.com](https://www.brainlesionandme.com/) “Ordinarily, it would be to pace yourself. However, the problem with this is, like the **[unpredictability of symptoms](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/)** that we already live with, what we are able to do on any given day is just as unpredictable. **[My capabilities vary from day to day](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/)** just as how I feel does. So perhaps my best tip would instead be to listen to my body and any signs that I am exceeding my personal limits.” ### 15\. Lin Shuwen “I **[load up on Pred](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/)**, but it doesn’t always work for me.” ### 16\. Fibro Jedi [fibrojedi.me.uk](https://fibrojedi.me.uk/) “Do not expect too much of yourself, give each day a realistic number of things to do.” ### 17\. Ray “Self care routine.” ### 18\. Jessica “Keep moving, I must exercise every 3-4 days.” ### 19\. Chronic UTI Australia [www.chronicutiaustralia.org.au](https://www.chronicutiaustralia.org.au/) “There is often some detective work involved. Sometimes people keep a diary of their symptoms, and any events proceeded them, so they can work out what their triggers are. Once people have identified their own personal triggers, they do their best to avoid them! Treating chronic UTI is a long process. As an infections is slowly brought under control, people find they have less problems with flare ups and no longer have to avoid the triggers.” ### 20\. Effie [risingabovera.com](https://risingabovera.com/) “Meditate, stay grounded, pray. Eat and sleep well. **[Take your supplements](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/)** and medications on time. Stay active and workout no matter what that is.” ### 21\. Sara Russell [sararussellntp.com](https://sararussellntp.com/) “I carry a Respro filtrating mask with me **[when I go out in public](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/)** and put it on if I am in an area where I’m likely to get exposed. I also limit my trips to places where I’m likely to get exposed, and of course my home is a fragrance-free sanctuary. I carry a small bottle of hand soap in my purse to avoid the chemical-laden public restroom soaps.” ### 22\. Carrie Kellenberger [myseveralworlds.com](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/) “Pacing and management are key to avoiding flare-ups. It is crucial to my lifestyle, and without some sort of plan in place for each day, my life can quickly spiral out of control. Every single chronically ill person knows the importance of pacing, and they also know the importance of **[saying no and setting boundaries](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/)**.” ### 23\. Julie Holliday [mecfsselfhelpguru.com](https://www.mecfsselfhelpguru.com/blog) “Being aware of my sustainable baseline of activity, being aware of the messages from my body and **[whether I'm having a good, bad or average energy day](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/)** and aiming to approach everything I do with an attitude of mindful relaxed effortlessness.” ### 24\. Chronically Hopeful Char [chronicallyhopeful.com](https://chronicallyhopeful.com/) “I **[wait days between bathing](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/)** – most commonly a whole week, but when I was less severely ill I would skip just three days as my worst flare symptoms arrive 48 hours after the exertion (I call it ‘Day 2’) and then on the third day I felt better and could do it all over again. On the day of my bath or seated shower I will stay in bed all morning and not plan any other activities. I also make sure that I have no upcoming events or visits for the few days after because I know that I will have to stay in bed and very likely in the dark for a few days.” ### 25\. Kirsten “Resting enough before and after an activity, clearing my mind with off-screen activities; going out, even if it’s just for a short walk, **[doing stretch exercises or gentle yoga](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/)**, [playing with my dog](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/the-way-my-dog-talisker-brings-me).” ### 26\. Em [theladyprince.wordpress.com](https://theladyprince.wordpress.com/) “Use a piece of jewellery to fidget with, gets rid of anxious energy, and also works as a talisman if I have a flashback that keeps me in the present.” ### 27\. Ruthy [d2shine.co.uk](https://d2shine.co.uk/) “Pacing! In time we all learn our limits, and if you can keep an eye on how much you’ve done, physically and mentally you can help avoid ending up in flaring situations. Once you push and take your body over the edge, it’ll be a while until you’re able to function again. Be kind and mix doing things with breaks and self care.” ### 28\. Alice hightower “Cbd oil and **[vitamin D](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/)** helps but nothing really prevents.” ### 29\. Jenny Clarkson [trippingthroughtreacle.com](https://trippingthroughtreacle.com/) “Because my flare ups are usually **[triggered by emotional stress](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/)**, I try and prevent and deal with it as much as possible by carrying out activities such as yoga and meditation. I find that these help to calm my mind, so I can cope better with with any problems that arise.” ### 30\. Monica Laipple [invisiblenotbroken.com](https://invisiblenotbroken.com/) “So much water and Nuun. Taking my pain killers before I satrt and having voodoo tape on hand to wrap up the dislocation. I also time all of my activities so physical tasks are followed by still tasks and I use an app called fabulous to keep me on track.” ### 31\. Alisha “Wearing proper support and taking things slow.” ### 32\. Kirsten Cliff Elliot [helpmyhusbandhasaspergers.wordpress.com](https://helpmyhusbandhasaspergers.wordpress.com/) “Keeping to a routine.” ### 33\. Amanda Malachesky [confluencenutrition.com](https://confluencenutrition.com/blog/) “Good self care: daily walks, go to bed early, **[eat right](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/)**, b vitamins and magnesium.” ### 34\. Audrey Housworth “My best tips for preventing flares is drinking plenty of water and taking inventory of my thoughts. **[Staying positive](https://achronicvoice.com/difference-think-positive-stay-positive-chronic-pain/)** and hydrated really lessen the intensity for me.” ### 35\. Hell’s Bells and Mast Cells [hellsbellsandmastcells.com](https://hellsbellsandmastcells.com/2018/02/18/im-allergic-to-my-own-hormones/) “Continuous hormone medications, if tolerated, to suppress hormone fluctuations.” ### 36\. Lynn Clark “I have to take time every day for meditation, yoga and stretches to relax my muscles, and **[getting enough rest and sleep](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/)**.” ### 37\. Taylor “Pacing before it happens – being the most rested possible to limit it’s affect.” ### 38\. Pamela Jessen “Pacing myself and allowing enough rest time between activities.” ### 39\. Lotty [thechronicparent.wordpress.com](https://thechronicparent.wordpress.com/) “Taking it easy if you do get a cold or minor illness.” ### 40\. Sheryl [achronicvoice.com](https://achronicvoice.com/about/) “It isn’t always possible to avoid stressors, but I try to squeeze in some rest time, and make that a priority above all else. Even a short nap can make a noticeable difference in pain levels. If the flare is starting to increase in intensity, I take one of **[my anti-anxiety medications](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/)** which help me to sleep better. This has actually been a big game changer for me – I’m not a good sleeper, and you have no idea how much a quality night of sleep can help a person with chronic illness!” ## In Conclusion - Preventing a Pain Flare is a Highly Personal Affair Thank you to everyone who participated in this community rounding and for sharing your best tips! As you can see, preventing a pain flare can look very different for each person. I personally believe that it also depends on the context and the day. Sometimes I employ two opposite methods or tools for different days, depending on the potential cause of the pain. I hope that this roundup on preventing a pain flare has also given you more insight ideas to incorporate into your personal self-care toolbox. Take care! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read More in the Pain Flare Series: - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - *Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness) (this post)* - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) Pin to Your Pain Flares & Chronic Pain Boards: ![40 Best Tips For Preventing A Pain Flare (From People With Chronic Illness)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_prevent-flares-3.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Lucy ](https://lbhealthandlifestyle.com/) Sep 17, 2021 Thank you for putting this post together and collecting so many people’s useful advice. It’s always great to be introduced to new ideas and strategies we can put in our tool kit to help manage our conditions. Preventing flares from happening in the first place really helps me make more progress in the long term. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 2, 2021 Thank you so much for your support Lucy! If you have more tips to add in, let me know. I’ll be happy to update this as chronic pain is neverending and the more tips and tools to try, the better! - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Jul 27, 2020 A few people mentioned pacing and as I’ve gotten better at it (although in phases, but longer ones now), I do see a difference in the regularity and intensity of the worst of flares. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 27, 2020 Yes pacing is soooo important and also….soooo hard. For me at least haha. I really need to dig my heels harder into practising it. 🙂 - Katie Clark Jul 26, 2020 I sure appreciate all these tried and true strategies from so many! For me, lately, meditation (especially outside) is helping. But also, I’m experiencing way less pain most days due to my new regiment of Low Dose Naltrexone (LDN). I’ve been on it 100 days now. Started at 0.25mg and am now titrated to 3.75mg. It sure is helping with FM symptoms. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 27, 2020 I’m so happy that the LDN treatment is working for you, and also the meditation. Every little bit of coping strategy and pain management tool helps, I’d say. Sending love! - [ Despite Pain ](https://www.despitepain.com) Jul 24, 2020 It’s always helpful to know how other people cope. Learning how our own bodies can react to different things really can help. Although, sometimes they just throw curveballs at us. Great post – thanks for sharing. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 25, 2020 Thanks Elizabeth. I agree, learning about our bodies is so important for pacing and pain management. I thought these were some great tips from others with chronic illness and pain! - [ Rachael Stray ](https://rachaelstray.com) Nov 14, 2018 What a great resource to share tips from so many others which will hopefully help. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 15, 2018 Hi Rachael, yes that was the aim! 😀 - [ Rachel, The Invisible Hypothyroidism ](https://theinvisiblehypothyroidism.com) Nov 13, 2018 Lots of great tips curated here! 🙂 We can sure learn from each other to try and prevent as many flare ups in future. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 14, 2018 Thanks for contributing to this too, Rachel! You’re so right, it’s great we can learn from each other 🙂 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Hey You...It's Me (M.E. Struggles & a Tribute to the Human Spirit) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/me-struggles/ Last updated: 2025-10-27T14:52:47.000Z ## An Introduction to Lisa & M.E. (Myalgic Encephalomyelitis), Which She Lives With Lisa does have a way with words, as she pours her heart out into this powerful piece about [M.E. (Myalgic Encephalomyelitis)](https://www.cdc.gov/me-cfs/signs-symptoms/) and her struggles with it. She is a regular contribution on this blog, and I always look forward to what she has to say. The coping strategies and knowledge she share are articulate, and her experiences intimate. Gain inspiration from this beautiful tribute to the human spirit. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your M.E. (Myalgic Encephalomyelitis) & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Hey You...It’s Me (M.E. Struggles & a Tribute to the Human Spirit). By Lisa M. Alioto](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_me-cfs-1.jpg) ## The Ride with Me It’s been a few years that we have been on this journey together. We have had our ups and we have really shared some downs. (I could have done without those!) It’s been a bumpy ride together to say the least. For a while there, I thought I lost me to you. Sometimes I still think I have lost me, or parts of me, but then I realized that it really was just some of the things that I thought defined me that you had taken. However, a long drive and some time sitting, pondering lakeside, I realized that [**you haven’t taken a single thing away that has defined me**](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/). I was giving you too much power. And sometimes I still do. But M.E., it’s time you knew your place in my life. You aren’t me, you are simply M.E. ## M.E. and What I Let it Do to Me M.E. is a multisystem disease that affects the neurological, endocrine, immune, and energy metabolism systems. It affects 17 - 24 million people globally, with most people affected being women. Anyways, that sounds like a mouthful but what does it really mean? To me, it’s meant a whole lot. In particular, the neurological component is a real kicker. That’s where M.E. really has tripped me up. I graduated from law school with top honors (magna cum laude!). I have since achieved a mini-MBA and have become a successful certified coach. School, and more importantly, knowledge and the passion to learn has always been at the heart of who I am. Then along came M.E. and it made me forget things. It’s made me forget where I parked my car, what someone’s name is, why I called someone, what I ran upstairs for...the list is endless. I felt like I went from being a relatively intelligent person to one that stumbles through the simplest of tasks. It made me doubt myself, lose confidence in my ability to operate in the world, and most of all, it made me feel like all I had worked for, the degrees I earned, and the knowledge I gained throughout the years has vanished. It made me feel like people would no longer look at me the same way or look at me as less than in some way. I know so many of these things are small things but my emotions tell me they may lead to bigger things or that a minor slip up could cause a larger misstep. Read Related Posts: - [Grieving the Life That I Will Never Have](https://achronicvoice.com/grieving-the-life-i-will-never-have-chronic-illness-disability/) - [What’s It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [Are You a Capable Person? What Does That Even Mean?](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) ## When I Realised What was Happening to Me The biggest takeaway for me here is that I let M.E. lose confidence in myself. I LET IT DO THIS. And when it comes down to it, that’s what this all boils down to. I’ve always been confident in my abilities to get through any challenge, every challenge. But M.E., you’ve made me question if I can do that anymore. Well, those days are over. In reviewing my list of “issues,” I realized that everything that I’ve named above really is life’s small stuff. Yes, it’s chipped away at my confidence. But that’s on me – I’ve let it do that. The emotional side of me has blown up these moments to the what-ifs that they are not. While one could say that I’m being sensible or pre-planning for what may lay ahead, one could just as easily say, slow down. You are not there now or perhaps ever. ## I am Still Me Deep Down Inside When I really think about it, I am still the same person that graduated law school with top honors. Give me that challenge again and while I may have to work a bit harder, I know I can still do it. My legal knowledge is still fully intact. When it comes to coaching, M.E. has actually helped me become an even better coach. The variety of experiences that come with living and working with a disability have made me a stronger, more well-rounded coach. Yes, M.E. will still knock me down like a punching bag day in and day out, but I will keep coming back for the next round, because while it may be giving me a few new scars in life, there’s beauty and insight that comes with those scars that have compensated for the day-to-day challenges it has given me. Read Related Posts: - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) - [Every Next Level of Your Life Will Demand a Different You](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [I May be Chronically Ill, but I’m Also Chronically Resilient](https://achronicvoice.com/chronically-ill-resilient/) ## The Difficulty of Living with M.E. on a Daily Basis I think the toughest part of this all is that these little things happen daily, there’s no forgetting about M.E. So, it easily becomes an insurmountable mountain that I’m reminded of daily. However, the reality is that while M.E. travels on my life’s journey with me daily, it is not me and it’s not that big. It is simply M.E.. It can’t take the essence of me. And I most definitely won’t let M.E. take away the gratitude, joy and happiness that dominates my thinking. M.E. may win the battle some days, M.E. may make me cry in grief at times, but M.E. will never, ever will win the war. Why? Because I won’t let it. Me is stronger than M.E. M.E.: Learn it, know it, believe it. You will not win. While this has been one part of my specific experience with M.E., I’m guessing many others of you with chronic illnesses have encountered similar feelings. For me, the key is to keep in mind that our diseases do not define us or own us. ## How I Cope with M.E. by Being Thankful They may travel with us daily, but so does our faith and belief in the greater good. And while it may not always seem that way there is so much to be thankful for out there - whether it’s the relationships in our lives, the jobs we may still hold, the pleasures we can still partake in, and the [**opportunities to give back**](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) that exist, we still have so much. Yes, we have lost some of our “favorites” – but there’s still so much left. So much opportunity, so much to contribute to life and the lives around us. Dare I say, we may have even become [**better versions of ourselves**](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) along the way? Fighting a daily battle does something to a person; it makes us stronger, more resilient, and for me has really made it easier to not sweat the truly small stuff. [**Perspective is everything**](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) and M.E. has definitely given me that. From me to you... ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read More Posts Written by Lisa Alioto on the Blog: - [The Value in Seeking Out Moments of Gratitude (and How to do it)](https://achronicvoice.com/value-gratitude/) - [How to Use the Tetris Effect to Invite Positivity Back into Your Life, Despite Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/tetris-effect-positivity-chronic-illness/) - [Find Your Way Back to Happiness with a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/find-happiness-chronic-illness/) - [Mainstream: Can You Talk to Us About ME? (There are Enough 'Normal' Health Tips to Go Around Already)](https://achronicvoice.com/mainstream-me-health-tips/) Pin to Your M.E. (Myalgic Encephalomyelitis) & Chronic Fatigue Boards: ![Hey You...It’s Me (M.E. Struggles & a Tribute to the Human Spirit). By Lisa M. Alioto](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_me-cfs-2.jpg) **Contributor Bio:** ![Lisa M. Alioto headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/profile-lisa-alioto-2.jpg) Lisa M. Alioto is a lawyer, career coach, and Myalgic Encephalomyelitis warrior with a strong belief in the power of positivity! She primarily focuses on writing articles about ME, along with invisible and chronic illnesses in general, with the goal of increasing awareness and providing hope, help and support. She is also the Vice President of the MN ME/CFS Alliance. Find her here: [Blog](https://breakthroughcoachi3.wixsite.com/realisticoptimism), [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/RealisticOptimism/), [Twitter](https://x.com/lisaalioto) & [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/lisaalioto/realistic-optimism/). ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Ellen ](https://ellenbest24.wordpress.com/) Nov 5, 2018 My neice has ME and your posts are not only well written but very helpful for a relative on the periffery. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 5, 2018 Thank you so much for being someone in your niece’s life who tries to understand, and cares. That means a lot to her, I’m sure 🙂 - Katie Foden Nov 5, 2018 Hi Lisa Thanks so much for this article, it sums up how I feel ME is relentless it is part of our world, we may not choose to have it but we can choose how we deal with it. pretty much summed up in your statement “However, the reality is that while M.E. travels on my life’s journey with me daily, it is not me and it’s not that big. It is simply M.E.. It can’t take the essence of me”. Your writing is really relatable and easy to read so thank you!!! Let me know if you have anything that you have found really beneficial I have had ME for 20 years now but always strive to keep putting one foot in front of the other and not to give up! X - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 5, 2018 Thanks for the comment, Katie, and for sharing your own valuable thoughts and experiences! I will relay your message to Lisa for sure! - Anne Copeland Nov 5, 2018 You are amazing considering all the things you have been through. You are an excellent spokesperson for those with “invisible” physical challenges (which also can affect the mind – it is, after all, part of the body). I am glad that you can do this because everyone needs to understand these types of challenges that do affect many people. I have worked with children and adults with physical/developmental/emotional challenges for many years of my life (I will soon be 77) and it has been the work of my heart. Many times they have a combination of any of those three or all of them. My own brother came home from Vietnam 100% challenged, and that is what gave me the heart to do this work all my life. I think the “invisible” challenges are perhaps the most difficult of all to deal with because the average person cannot see something directly necessarily, so they don’t understand that it is a challenge. The most difficult challenge we have in front of us is to educate people. I have permanent PTSD and have had it most of my life so I do understand. Thank you for your great writing and I am glad that you can do something so worthwhile. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 5, 2018 Hi Anne, I’m glad that Lisa’s writing spoke to you, and is also a voice for those with invisible illness or pain. You’re right that the invisible ones can be the hardest to deal with. Wishing you and your family all the very best xx **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### November 2018: Meeting and Collaborating with Chronically Ill People in Real Life URL: https://achronicvoice.com/meeting-collaborating-chronically-ill-real-life-november-2018/ Last updated: 2025-10-28T02:36:20.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Meeting New People with Chronic Illness in Real Life **Meeting**➡️ Most of us spend lots of time **[meeting a selection of doctors](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/)**, even though we’d rather be well enough to meet our friends or family. Some of us don’t like meeting people at all, or maybe you meet a lot of weird folks on the street. ⬅️ *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* I’m cheating a little here, because I met Carrie of "My Several Worlds" in September. She’s from Canada but has been living in Asia for 16 years! [She has Ankylosing Spondylitis](http://www.myseveralworlds.com/ankylosing-spondylitis/) and other chronic illnesses, and [currently resides in Taipei, Taiwan](http://www.myseveralworlds.com/2018/10/15/invisible-in-taiwan-living-in-taipei-with-chronic-illness/). As you probably know if you read [**last month’s entry**](https://achronicvoice.com/passive-income-pacing-october-2018/), my mental health hasn’t been the best of late. So I decided to tag along on one of my partner’s work trips for a breath of fresh air. Carrie and I had a nice chat over coffee and pie, and it was refreshing to meet someone who just gets you. No explanations needed when you do things that are out of the norm, although I’d say we pretty much behaved like normal people whilst there! 😉 I was grateful she used her last spoon (even pushed it!) just to meet me, as she had a tough week taking care of her caregiver who had a surgery. Don't forget to check out this talented lady's [beautiful ikebana creations on Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/wayoftheflower/) as well, they're always a feast for the eyes! Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![November 2018 Prompts: Meeting, Advocating, Tweaking, Working & Curating](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_november-prompts-1-3-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ## Collaborating with Others as Advocates *You can be an advocate online, offline, or simply support those who do so. You can take action and share their posts, give them constructive feedback and encouragement, or simply take the time to read and understand. You can also stand up for a friend or a stranger in need, and rather sadly, we need to advocate for ourselves at hospitals and during doctor appointments sometimes.* A local florist, [Floral Garage](https://floralgaragesg.com/), found my website and approached me via email. We had plans to conduct a floral workshop for those with chronic and autoimmune disorders in a bid to raise awareness, but unfortunately we didn't have enough participants. Sherry is another fantastic advocate in Singapore who runs a local [Facebook group for those with autoimmune disorders](https://www.facebook.com/groups/1511172962475100/). She does a lot of work speaking up and bringing attention to these issues during meet-and-greet sessions with parliamentary members. We had plans to use this event as a resource for future reference as well, but I suppose the timing isn't right just yet. So now we've decided to send out bouquets to [**four people who would be up for a short Q&A on the blog**](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/). Hopefully this works out; baby steps toward a better future for the chronically ill in Singapore. ## Tweaking My Dietary Habits **Tweaking**➡️ Life with chronic illness means that your mind and body is in a constant state of flux. We often make tiny tweaks or big changes in hope that our health improves, even just a little bit. There are also a million things apart from our health that you can tweak, both external and internal. A body piercing perhaps? Or maybe your home decor, sleep routine, exercise sequence, a **[new hobby](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/)**, etc. ⬅️ I’ll begin by tweaking my eating habits this month, based on my gut bacteria report from Thryve Inside. Whilst it isn’t a full snapshot of what’s in my gut as there are too many factors at play, it did made me realise that perhaps my diet isn’t the most optimal. More specifically, how as a [**patient with Antiphospholipid Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) I’m told to avoid or moderate my intake of [**foods containing vitamin K**](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/). I need to avoid green tea for this reason, and eat sparing amounts of certain foods and fruits, such as avocados and salad bowls. Yet these foods contain beneficial bacteria that I seem to be lacking. I can’t gorge on these foods for obvious reasons, so I’ll need to tweak my diet in tiny bites, literally. I expect my medication dosage to shift based on these changes as well. Whilst it may be a hassle, I’d like to test this theory out to see if it makes any difference. Perhaps it’s another wild goose chase, but what harm is there in eating more greens, if I do it in teeny tiny baby bites? Read Related Posts: - [Learn More About the Super Rare Disease – Esophageal Diverticulum](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [Dysphagia & Swallowing Problems (and How Oral Vitamin Sprays Can be of Help to You)](https://achronicvoice.com/dysphagia-oral-vitamin-sprays/) ## Working on My Stress Levels Whilst Working **Working**➡️ Many of us with chronic illness **[aren’t able to hold down a full-time job](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/)**, or even have a career at all. Working becomes a health hazard, as the **[stress triggers pain flares](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/)** that sometimes require hospitalisation or lengthy recovery periods. Working on our health is often our biggest job in life, yet many of us dream of a normal life, where ‘too much work’ is a ‘luxury problem’. You could also work on a new project, skill, or even character traits and habits. ⬅️ ### Pushing Myself to Find More Work, and the Cost of That Recently I've been trying to find more work, and have also been pushing myself to re-establish [my web development business](https://work.achronicvoice.com/), but with a simpler spin to it. Unlike the days of my youth, I no longer seek the adrenaline rush and recognition from cutting edge projects. They were fun whilst they lasted, which is to say, like puffs of cigarette smoke. But that was enough to leave my body in ruins, and the wreckage it left behind took me a long time to clean up. In fact, I'm still tidying the mess up to this day. If I were going to destroy my body (literally, because inflammation levels would rise and perhaps stay), then I’d rather spend it on something life-giving, such as trying to start and maintain a family in future. October was a fairly busy month for me in terms of work, which was both good and bad. I was reminded of why I had to stop working full-time in the first place, as I woke up with joint pain and inflammation after working 10 hours (but only for a day). I actually find this low threshold for stress somewhat fascinating; how my body is so reactive and temperamental, almost its own entity separate from my will and desires. ### Surprising Boost in Self-Esteem Yet doing this has also boosted my self-esteem a little, as I realise that not all my skills have been lost. This gives me some reassurance that I could pick up from where I left off, should I choose to work full or part time in this industry again. As they say, the best way to boost your self-esteem is to dive right in - right? My ideal mix of work for the moment would be full website integrations, complete with copywriting and/or a blog section. Hit me up if you or someone you know need such work done 😉 Whilst it'd be nice to write sponsored posts on my blog alone, unfortunately that only brings home a few small packs of bacon. Read Related Posts: - [Triggers Trigger Triggers (Re-Stabilisation Procedure Encore)](https://achronicvoice.com/triggers-trigger-triggers-re-stabilisation/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [When Your Stress & Fatigue Thresholds Suck (Also on Cute Cockatiels, Education via Zoom & Art Films for Rent)](https://achronicvoice.com/stress-fatigue-thresholds-suck/) - [June 2018: Self-Reminder on Listening to Your Body](https://achronicvoice.com/self-reminder-listening-to-your-body-june-2018/) ## Curating Health Content for My Social Media Feeds **Curating**➡️ Perhaps not to the level of a museum curator (although bonus points if that’s what you do!). But these days online curation is pretty commonplace. You could curate your [Pinterest board](https://www.pinterest.com/achronicvoice/blog-posts-on-a-chronic-voice/), or content where you source for good reads or useful information to share. ⬅️ Apart from writing, I love to curate content for [my social media accounts](https://bio.achronicvoice.com/), especially for [my Twitter](https://twitter.com/AChVoice) and [BlueSky feeds](https://bsky.app/profile/achronicvoice.com). Call me weird, but I get a sense of satisfaction when I organise my hashtags, timings and even types of posts in an orderly manner. I even think I could get a job as some kind of content curator, if someone would have me 😉 Perhaps it’s to do with feeling in control, because my chronic illnesses leave me feeling helpless a lot of the time. Unlike other social media platforms, Twitter and BlueSky are awesome for finding some great blogs and niche content, once you get the hang of it. Even though it can sometimes be discouraging when people choose to be trolls, I just need to weed them out and continue to work on the things that matter. Just like a garden, everything on social media is reliant on interaction. It’s important to establish yourself and plant the right seeds of what your online presence is all about. Providing nourishment takes effort and must be done with loving care. You also need people to land on your content, interact with it, and carry them far and wide in a combined effort to raise awareness. Sending good thoughts to each and every one of you out there this November. Thank you for reading, and you can continue with the [**December 2018 entry here**](https://achronicvoice.com/de-stressing-december-2018/) 🙂 ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! 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Read Related Posts: - [July’s Supply & Demand: Learning to Maximise Wellbeing in the Midst of Stress](https://achronicvoice.com/july-maximise-wellbeing-stress/) - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![November 2018 Prompts: Meeting, Advocating, Tweaking, Working & Curating](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_november-prompts-2-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [Carrie Kellenberger](https://myseveralworlds.com) Nov 22, 2018 Hi Sheryl. I left a comment last week but it didn’t go through. I wish I had saved it because it was a long chatty one and today I’ve got so much brain fog going on, I can’t remember where my head is. Hee hee. Thanks so much for the shout-out in your article and for mentioning my ikebana page on IG. This form of art therapy really brings me a lot of pleasure and I’m curious to see how my year of arrangements will turn out. I did them every month and learned as much as I could with each style that I did. I’m so sorry to hear that your floral workshop didn’t work out. The next time you come to Taipei, maybe you could come to my place and we can create some ikebana arrangements together? I’m so interested in your Thryve inside results. Having had such good luck with my own diet reboot, I can honestly say that it works. At least it worked in one troublesome area for me and that was more than enough for me. I’m so fascinated by how the gut affects our bodies as a whole. It’s something I try to read up on whenever my friend remembers to send articles to me to read. I hope to share more information later with everyone. All the best and see you in December for your last link up of 2018\. What a doozy of a year! - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 22, 2018 Hey Carrie, thanks for dropping by and joining us in the linkup this month! Haha it happens, don’t worry about it 🙂 And yes, love your ikebana creations, you have a talent for you for sure! No worries that it didn’t work out either as it would have been a tiring day so in a sense, this also works 😉 The Thryve results were super interesting, to me at least! And yes, see you in December online 😉 Sending gentle hugs! - Suzanne (FibroMomBlog) Nov 19, 2018 Hi Sheryl, Your post gave me so much to think about. First of all, I think you are an outstanding writer! Thank you for sharing your words and struggles with us. Of course what you said at each prompt resonated with me in some way. Working is a hard one for me. I was on a medical leave but was forced to go back to work as I couldn’t find a doctor that believed that a Fibromyalgia patient couldn’t work. Everyday is such a struggle for me. I push myself even when I’m out of spoons for the day to continue to work on my blog. I do this not only in hopes of it taking off and finding a way for it to bring me income but to connect with people like you. I admire what you are doing with your blog and I am glad that I found you! - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 19, 2018 Hi Suzanne, Thank you so much for your kind words. They touch my heart and am happy to connect with people who ‘get it’ as well! The working bit is really a big issue in life, I’d say, sadly. Whilst yes life isn’t all about work, a healthy amount is still necessary for so many reasons. Sending love! x - BMO Nov 6, 2018 Good luck with adding some more work to your life. It is a real balance we have to maintain with illness and what we can do. - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 6, 2018 Thanks Nikki! Yea definitely, and combined with characteristics…I stress easily, and once my mind is focused on a project, I just can’t quit until it’s done. I’ll need to manage that 😉 - Nicole Starbuck Nov 3, 2018 Thank you so much for sharing! I really appreciate the recommendations to check out Useful Interweb, Brain Pickings, and Notcot – these all look like really great resources. Also, Carrie Kellenberger’s work is stunning! I’ve just started following her on Instagram after reading your post. And I don’t think you’re weird for getting a sense of satisfaction when you organize your hashtags, timings, and even types of posts in an orderly manner. I’m the same way! - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 4, 2018 That’s good to know that you find that useful and interesting, too! Yes ikebana, so simple yet so beautiful hey! Haha…yea sometimes I spend too much time ‘organising’ when it’s not necessary, so that’s the downside 😉 x **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/ Last updated: 2026-04-02T16:56:18.000Z ## I Asked What Your Biggest Pain Flare Triggers are, and You Answered In this three part series we’ll be investigating pain flares: how it varies for each individual, what triggers them, how to prevent and also cope with them. (You can find links for the other two at the end of this post.) *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Support Group Boards: ![A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers — 40 people in the chronic illness community share their opinions, insights, and support.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/roundup-pain-flare-triggers-chronic-illness-community-opinions.jpg) ### The Individuality of the Pain Experience Pain is a private and personal experience, one which no one else can feel for you, no matter how empathetic they may be. Often the best thing a person can do is to acknowledge that it’s [**impossible to comprehend**](https://achronicvoice.com/we-shouldnt-expect-people-to-understand/), but validate the existence of the pain. Then, find ways to help make the sufferer’s life a little bit easier. This can also vary from person to person. In this first part of the series, we’ll take a look at what the biggest pain flare triggers are for people living with various chronic conditions. As you will see, there’s a common theme running through the responses. Read Related Posts: - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (52 Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) ## Biggest Pain Flare Triggers of 40 People with Chronic Illness ### 1\. Abbey “Pushing myself too far physically, or being overly stressed.” ### 2\. Sreetama “Sitting/standing more than an hour at a stretch and emotional stress.” ### 3\. Alison [thrivingwhiledisabled.com](https://thrivingwhiledisabled.com/) “Stress, **[including positive stress](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/)**, and feeling overwhelmed by it.” ### 4\. Rachel Hill [theinvisiblehypothyroidism.com](https://www.theinvisiblehypothyroidism.com/) “Pushing my body to do too much physically.” ### 5\. Tom Seaman [tomseamancoaching.com](https://tomseamancoaching.com/) “Situations involving external stimuli. Either too much light or noise. Sometimes various noise happening at the same time such as a conversation and the radio and/or television.” ### 6\. Nikki Albert [brainlessblogger.ca](https://brainlessblogger.ca/) “Overdoing it. Walking too much. Doing too much work around the house. I want to pace all the time, but sometimes my brain thinks ‘Hey we can do this’ and my body is like ‘What the hell, man!'” ### 7\. Julie Ryan [countingmyspoons.com](https://countingmyspoons.com/) “Weather. Specifically, it seems like I’m most likely to flare as a bad storm is moving in. Once it hits I start to feel better.” ### 8\. Candace [bucketsoftea.co.uk](https://bucketsoftea.co.uk/) “Stress and lack of self care.” ### 9\. Jo Moss “Overexertion or stress.” ### 10\. Kyra “**[Exercise.](https://achronicvoice.com/accessible-yoga-chronic-illness/)** It never fails to flare the worst muscles spasms due to my peripheral nerve disease.” ### 11\. Michelle “Stress.” ### 12\. Heather [dinosaursdonkeysandms.com](https://dinosaursdonkeysandms.com/) “Stress.” ### 13\. Jenny “Over-straining my body.” ### 14\. Rhiann [brainlesionandme.com](https://www.brainlesionandme.com/) “It has to be doing too much, whether it’s **[pushing too hard at the gym](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/)** or doing too many chores in a short amount of time. Doing so, only leads to increased pain and fatigue culminating in a massive flare.” ### 15\. Lin Shuwen “Work stress.” ### 16\. Fibro Jedi [fibrojedi.me.uk](https://fibrojedi.me.uk/) “Unexpected change of plan.” ### 17\. Ray “Stress, usually psychological but can be physical, I push too hard sometimes and get ahead of what this disease will allow my body to do.” ### 18\. Jessica “Allergies.” ### 19\. Chronic UTI Australia [chronicutiaustralia.org.au](https://www.chronicutiaustralia.org.au/) “With chronic UTI, a flare up occurs when bacteria are released from within the cells that form the bladder lining (urothelium). This causes the bacteria to ‘wake up’ from their dormant state and multiply in the urine. This often results in an attack of acute cystitis symptoms (a flare). Chronic UTI sufferers commonly report triggers that ‘wake’ the bacteria include sexual intercourse, internal gynaecological procedures, vigorous exercises such as horse riding and cycling, stress, bowel movements, alcohol and some foods that individuals are sensitive to.” ### 20\. Effie [risingabovera.com](https://risingabovera.com/) “Stress and taking on too much.” ### 21\. Sara Russell [sararussellntp.com](https://sararussellntp.com/) “Chemical scents and fragrances (and some “natural” ones too, like cigarette and marijuana smoke, and some essential oils).” **[Read more about Sara's life in Florence, Italy, with chronic illnesses here.](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-florence-chronic-illness-italy/)** ### 22\. Carrie Kellenberger [myseveralworlds.com](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/) “I have two major triggers for flares. One is activity. If I do too much or surpass my daily step count, I can count on a flare hitting within 48 hours. My second trigger which is just as important as the first is stress. When I’m stressed, flares hit much quicker and equally as hard as activity-related flares do.” ### 23\. Julie Holliday [mecfsselfhelpguru.com](https://www.mecfsselfhelpguru.com/blog) “Using more energy than I’ve got, but particularly if there’s been some kind of stress or pressure involved.” ### 24\. Chronically Hopeful Char [chronicallyhopeful.com](https://chronicallyhopeful.com/) “**[Having a shower or bath](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/)**!” ### 25\. Kirsten “Overdoing things & stress.” ### 26\. Em [theladyprince.wordpress.com](https://theladyprince.wordpress.com/) “Loud noises.” ### 27\. Ruthy [d2shine.co.uk](https://d2shine.co.uk/) “For me it’s pushing myself too far physically. I work and I like to keep fit but I’m not always great at keeping in check with my body. I’m terrible with doing too much, pushing my limits too far and ending up with **[seizures](https://achronicvoice.com/epilepsy-more-than-just-seizures/)** and pain flares.” ### 28\. Alice hightower “Corn.” ### 29\. Jenny Clarkson [trippingthroughtreacle.com](https://trippingthroughtreacle.com/) “My biggest trigger for a flare up is absolutely stress. Initially it just starts off by me feeling fatigued and down, but then it will often flare up into a full-blown **[MS relapse](https://achronicvoice.com/dont-let-multiple-sclerosis-prevent-normal-life/)**. As a result I try and minimise stress as much as possible through meditation and yoga.” ### 30\. Monica Laipple [invisiblenotbroken.com](https://invisiblenotbroken.com/) “Aside from stress and general moving it would be overdoing it. That changes depending on the day. Overdoing it could be cleaning the house or on bad days it could be getting out of bed.” ### 31\. Alisha “Overexertion; exceeding my limits for the day.” ### 32\. Kirsten Cliff Elliot [helpmyhusbandhasaspergers.wordpress.com](https://helpmyhusbandhasaspergers.wordpress.com/) “Stress – **[physical + mental/emotional](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/)**.” ### 33\. Amanda Malachesky [confluencenutrition.com](https://confluencenutrition.com/blog/) “Stress, **[especially grief](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/)**.” ### 34\. Audrey Housworth “Stress and dehydration are two big triggers for me.” ### 35\. Hell’s Bells and Mast Cells [hellsbellsandmastcells.com](https://hellsbellsandmastcells.com/2018/02/18/im-allergic-to-my-own-hormones/) “Hormone fluctuations.” ### 36\. Lynn Clark “Stress, whether it be from change, worry, or exhaustion, is my biggest trigger.” ### 37\. Taylor “Social interaction.” ### 38\. Pamela Jessen “Doing too much without giving myself enough rest breaks between activities.” ### 39\. Lotty [thechronicparent.wordpress.com](https://thechronicparent.wordpress.com/) “**[Chest infection](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/)**.” ### 40\. Sheryl [achronicvoice.com](https://achronicvoice.com/about/) “Any kind of stress. **[Work stress tends to be the worst of the lot](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/)**; I guess I tense my body up subconsciously which ‘holds’ all that inflammation in. By the end of the day that becomes painful, and by the next morning my joints and muscles are sore and limited in function. Usually around the three month mark of working any full-time job I end up in hospital from worse side effects that may require surgery or a **[high dose of steroids](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/)**.” ## In Conclusion to the Biggest Pain Flare Triggers from 40 People with Chronic Illness Thank you to everyone who contributed to this roundup of their biggest pain flare triggers when it comes to chronic illness. As you can see, there is a very common theme of “stress” running through the responses. [**Stress is often dubbed a ‘silent assassin’ for me**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/). With chronic illness, your capacity for stress is obliterated, and can manifest as debilitating physical pain and fatigue. This is something I think healthy individuals will never realise – just how much damage they can sustain to their bodies without even thinking about it. Don’t forget to check part two and three of this series below, where people with chronic illness share how best to prevent a pain flare from occurring to begin with, and also their best pain management tips if you land up in a flare regardless. Take care! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read More from the Pain Flare Triggers, Prevention & Management Series: - *A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness) (this post)* - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) Pin to Your Pain Flare Triggers & Chronic Illness Boards: ![40 Real-life Perspectives - A Roundup Of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_flare-triggers-1.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Eileen Burns Mar 25, 2024 Agree with a lot of above, I would also add in sugar, sugar is one of the worst culprits for inflammation. Along with processed food, a clean diet has helped me keep my fibro pain down for over 25 years - [Laurie\~ Seeking Serenity and Harmony](https://seekingserenityandharmony.com) Oct 8, 2022 Wow what a great roundup. I feel much less alone now. So many folks gave replies very close to what I would have said. Looking forward to part 2\. - [Sheryl Chan](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 8, 2022 Hello! Yes we do share such similar experiences, don’t we? It’s a sad thing, but also comforting to know that we are not alone. Part 2 and 3 are out – you can click on them in the post links too 🙂 - Nikki Albert Aug 20, 2020 I can relate to most of these. Stress is a big one and it seems like often I am in a state of chronic stress which means I have to constantly try to de-stress and manage that. I think, from my past experiences, that my stress threshold is low… and as a result I burn out faster than most people. I have to really watch that. - [Shruti Chopra](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Aug 20, 2020 I found a bit of me in most of those replies. Whether it’s external triggers of sound, smell, over-doing it, shower – I think we all exist in all these answers. I really enjoyed reading all these perspectives. - [Jason Herterich](https://invisiblenotbroken.com/discomfortzone) Aug 19, 2020 This is great – I love seeing compilations like this that caption a perspective of our wider community 🙂 My biggest trigger is a lack of self-care, which ultimately stems from not checking in with myself often enough. If I don’t tune in to my body then I end up either exercising too hard, sitting for too long, or having too much screen time. - [Sheryl Chan](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 20, 2020 Thanks Jason – it’s the aim of my blog, too, to view things from various perspectives – life and chronic illness and pain are so individual and vast! Would you like me to add your trigger into this list too, btw? 😀 - Margey Nov 14, 2018 I want to cry, seeing all the triggers of a flare. Almost every one got a nod as I read them. Certainly helps to know there are others fighting the battle. Stay strong. - [Sheryl Chan](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 14, 2018 Aww…yes there are many people who are going through similar situations. You are definitely not alone. Sending hugs! x - Ava Meena Nov 4, 2018 I love to see everyone’s responses. The sun has been my biggest trigger lately, which is such a bummer! I just want to go outside for a walk on a beautiful day without stressing about being in the sunshine - [Sheryl Chan](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 5, 2018 That really is a bummer 🙁 I remember slathering on loads of sunblock before school every morning (in those days there weren’t any ‘non sticky’ formulations!), and it felt and smelt so gross especially living in a humid climate. Then I realised that I wasn’t affected by the sun so much (it can still trigger a major flare, according to my doctor), but I am so so grateful that I can just go in the sun for walks. Sending you lots of good thoughts, and hoping you can get a nice walk soon! x - Lorelle Oct 29, 2018 That’s a great collaboration there. Stress and overworking oneself seem to be the common triggers. - [Sheryl Chan](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 29, 2018 Definitely. Stress translates and seeps into many different aspects of life! - Chronically Hopeful Char Oct 28, 2018 What a great collection! There is certainly a theme here. Stress is a major trigger for me too, fortunately my family arrange things in such a way that I have hardly any stress in my life – so yes, my main trigger would be my bathing days. But any over exertion or loud noises, stress or excitement can also cause pain to flare and it’s not always easy to control those things. Thanks for this important post – healthy people really need to be reading this, open their eyes to the dangers of stress and the harm it does to the body! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Invisible in Florence: Life with Chronic Illness in Italy URL: https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-florence-chronic-illness-italy/ Last updated: 2026-06-13T15:53:39.000Z ## An Introduction to Sara Russell & Chronic Illness in Italy Sara graciously agreed to share her life experiences for the [**Invisible Cities linkup**](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-cities-linkup/), when I learned that she resides in the beautiful countryside of Italy! Living in Europe (at least for a while) is a dream of mine, so this was a particularly inspiring read for me. The insight into the healthcare system there is also valuable for anyone who is looking to live, work or travel there. Without further ado, here's Sara for you! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness in Italy, Travel & Culture Boards: ![Life with Chronic Illness in Italy. Invisible in Florence, Featuring: Sara Russell. Read the interview on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/life-with-chronic-illness-in-italy-invisible-in-florence-sara-russell-invisible-cities-linkup.jpg) ![12 Pros & Cons Of Living With Chronic Illness In Florence](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_florence-italy-2.jpg) ## Chronic Illness in Italy (in and Around Florence) As a quick introductory note, I live in a small town in the Tuscan countryside, an hour outside of Florence. So my piece will make reference both to small-town life and Florence life. There are some gaps in what I’m able to say about Florence because my severe chemical sensitivity limits how frequently I go into the city and what I do there. ![Sara smiling](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/sara-russell.jpg) A happy hello from Sara (Source: Sara Russell) ![Rolls of tagliatelle](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pasta-circles.jpg) ![Snowy landscape in Italy. (Source: Sara Russell)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/winter-landscape-italy.jpg) Snowy landscape in Italy. (Source: Sara Russell) ![Foggy in Italy. (Source: Sara Russell)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/foggy-italy.jpg) Foggy in Italy. (Source: Sara Russell) ### Best thing about your city for living with chronic illness? I live in the countryside because I have a severe chemical sensitivity and have a hard time with artificial fragrances, chemical odors, cigarette smoke and car exhaust. When I go into the city, there are a few things that strike me. It’s a beautiful city, full of art, history and culture. There are all kinds of museums, artisan shops, boutiques, markets and more. There are several top-notch hospitals. The restaurant choices in Florence are almost endless, and there are many places that people with food allergies, celiac disease and other health issues that cause dietary restrictions can eat without worrying. Many of the Florentine restaurants and public places have outdoor seating where service animals are not only allowed but truly welcome. ### Worst thing about your city for life with chronic illness? I have to be very careful about chemical exposures when inside the city. There’s a lot of smoking in outdoor public spaces (although not inside restaurants, libraries, etc.) and Italians (not to mention a lot of tourists) love wearing lots of perfume in the city. Thus I often wear my filtrating face mask when out and about in Florence. ### How accessible do you think your city is? For those with wheelchairs, Florence is a mixed bag in terms of accessibility. Hospitals are equipped with elevators, wheelchair ramps, etc., and some apartment buildings have working elevators. The sidewalks and cobbled streets aren’t wheelchair-friendly. Some of the museums and other public attractions are accessible, but even this can be a mixed bag. Read Related Posts: - [What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) - [Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-home-resources-learned-other-blogs/) - [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) ![A street in Italy.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/italy-alley.jpg) ![Italian lifestyle - red wine, pizza and bread.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/italian-lifestyle.jpg) ### How educated is the public on chronic illnesses there? It’s a real mixed bag. From the point of view of food allergies and celiac disease, I find Florence to be far ahead of many other cities I’ve visited, and Italian food service in general has a very high level of awareness and very good protocols regarding food restrictions. However, the general level of ignorance regarding the impact of cigarette smoke, artificial scents and other chemical exposures is pretty astounding. While it’s against the law to smoke in hospitals, patients and medical staff do sometimes smoke inside hospital bathrooms in Italian cities, and I once got into a verbal altercation with a man who smoked inside a crowded allergy and immunology department at a major hospital in Florence. Italian [**culture is super interesting**](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/), because, at least as someone coming from the American context, I find that there are huge ups and downs in various areas. For example, I find Italian mainstream culture to be relatively dismissive and ignorant regarding [**invisible illness**](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/), wheelchair accessibility and chemical sensitivity, yet incredibly accommodating to people with chronic mental disabilities. It might be fair to say that Italian culture is relatively more egocentric than American culture, which in practice means that in general, Italians tend to care less about other people’s problems than Americans do, and to be less helpful and responsive than their American counterparts are. For example, it’s completely normal for a smoker to feel entitled to smoke even in the presence of pregnant women, babies and small children, people with asthma, and chemically sensitive people. When asked by someone with special health needs to stop smoking, the smoker is unlikely to comply and fairly likely to get very angry with the person who made the request, no matter how ill the person may be as a result of the exposure. There’s a bit of a general ‘it’s not my problem – it’s your problem – deal with it and don’t bother me’ kind of attitude in the general public – less empathy, more entitlement. Yet there are some striking exceptions, and food service and many areas of medical care are notable in this regard. ![Florence city.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/florence-city-2.jpg) ### If you could pass one new law in your country, what would that be? Italy is a strange place. People don’t really follow the law, because there isn’t a strong enforcement system or a cultural ethic of looking out for other people. So I wouldn’t bother passing new laws, but would work on enforcing the existing laws regarding accessibility and smoking in public places. I would also work on an education campaign to inform the public about chemical sensitivities and wheelchair accessibility, and really just common sense lessons about [**kindness and respect for fellow humans**](https://achronicvoice.com/kick-ass-with-kindness/), and particularly folks who are in some way ‘different’ from the norm, whether visibly so or not. ### Which is your favourite city or country (other than your own) and why? I have a special place in my heart for Berkeley, California. ### Where in the world would you visit, if disability, illness or level of fitness weren’t an issue? I would love to visit Alaska, and see the Northern Lights. ### What sort of ‘alternative treatments’ wouldn’t raise any eyebrows there? (Perhaps it’s ingrained in the culture, totally legal, etc). Italy is a real mixed bag in terms of alternatives to the mainstream. However, CBD oil is available by prescription from pain clinics. And when I was at a medical conference on the Ehlers-Danlos Syndromes and Hypermobility Spectrum Disorder a few months ago, I was very impressed with the level of knowledge and understanding that the pain specialist conveyed about the responsible and effective integration of CBD into the treatment of pain. I’m not sure that outside of an audience of rare disease doctors and patients, that eyebrows wouldn’t be raised. In general, Italian culture and Italian mass media are very much about allopathic positivism and anyone who falls through the cracks of the system gets shunted to the side. My neurologist and my geneticist prescribe mostly nutritional supplements, which I think may be looked at as strange in other countries. Read Related Posts: - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [What’s it Like to be on a High Dose of Steroids? (And the First Question You Will Definitely Ask)](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) ![Ponte Vecchio](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/florence-bridge.jpg) ### Which are the most and least affordable alternative therapies there? How much do they cost in general? #### The Universalized Medicine System There is, at least in theory, a universalized medicine system with copayments that are assessed on a sliding fee scale based on family income. In theory, people with one of more debilitating illnesses and/or disabilities have access to a medical exemption for services related to the illness or disability. However, there is a lot of red tape and thus not everyone with significant health issues has any significant exemptions. I have spent a fortune on copays for medical visits, not so much because of the cost of each single visit, but because as someone with a very complex and multi-system condition, the visits certainly add up over time, and sometimes I’ve had to travel quite far away to find a specialist in my field. I have to pay out of pocket for private physical therapy sessions. My physical therapist is top-notch and I pay 35€ per session. #### Allergy Desensitization Specialists I am lucky that in Florence, the San Giovanni di Dio hospital’s allergy and immunology department specializes in allergy desensitization treatments. I went through a cycle of desensitization treatment for a class of antibiotics because I’d become allergic to every antibiotic except doxycycline (not ideal for someone with a diagnosis of neutropenia). The program was very good. #### A Neuromuscular Rehabilitation Program I was also very lucky to participate as an inpatient in a three-week intensive physical therapy program in a neuromuscular rehabilitation program in a hospital in Bozzolo, near Mantua, a few hours from Florence. There was a non-profit that funded the project, and I paid nothing for the three-week stay in the hospital and for the treatments. The physical therapists and neurologists working at the hospital in Bozzolo were truly top-notch. #### Difficulties with Finding a Suitable Allergist/Immunologist in Florence I haven’t found an allergist/immunologist in Florence that is able to support me for my severe allergies and my neutropenia. I’ve been left to my own devices, beyond getting allergy testing at the Careggi Hospital, where the allergist on staff literally went into a panic when he saw the welts that the skin prick test had caused, and I had to calm him down (something that never happened to me in the US). The doctor then proceeded to tell me, “Madam, you’re allergic to the entire plant kingdom. As long as you refrain from touching, breathing, or eating anything, you’ll be alright.” I found his attitude to be unprofessional and frankly histrionic. #### An Amazing Neurologist That being said, I have an amazing neurologist who follows me for my [**chronic migraine**](https://achronicvoice.com/book-review-narwhal-migraines/) at the Careggi Hospital in Florence. He took a super-detailed history, listened carefully to the past medications that had been tried and my adverse reactions to prior medications. He hypothesized that my allergies were driven by excessive mast cell activation and has been treating the migraines with modest success with mast cell stabilizers. He’s a great listener and is very responsive to email updates/queries (mind you, I only email when strictly necessary and am respectful of his time). #### Celiac Disease vs Food Allergies in Italy It’s worth mentioning that if one has a diagnosis of celiac disease in Italy, one gets access to 100€ in vouchers valid for the purchase of certified gluten-free grocery items per month, regardless of income. There isn’t any such benefit for people with diagnosed food allergies, no matter how severe the allergies are. #### Group Homes for Adults with Mental Disabilities One service that is provided in Italy, including in and near Florence, are group homes for adults with mental disabilities. These provide a family-style group living situation with varying degrees of round-the-clock care, completely covered by the Italian public health system. With reasonable variations depending on the severity of the person’s mental health condition, the residents have a treatment plan that includes varying degrees of daily and weekly household chores (including self-care), and when appropriate, are placed in [**part-time work**](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) or volunteering positions well-matched to the person’s ability, conditions, passions and preferences. Meals are shared, family-style, and the residents receive a modest monthly stipend. For someone coming from the U.S., where no such service is offered, much less covered by the medical care system, I’m quite impressed. Read Related Posts: - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [5 Things You Should Know About My Epilepsy (It’s More Than Just Seizures)](https://achronicvoice.com/epilepsy-seizures/) - [Why I Need to See 10 Different Doctors on a Regular Basis](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) - [Chronic Illness is Expensive, but Here’s the Real Reason Why](https://achronicvoice.com/real-reason-why-chronic-illness-expensive/) - [Is My Doctor Right for Me?](https://achronicvoice.com/is-my-doctor-right-for-me/) ![Florence Duomo](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/florence-duomo.jpg) ### How expensive is it to live with a chronic illness there? Any stats you’d like to share to give a clearer picture? Overall, living with a chronic illness near Florence is much more affordable than living with a chronic illness in the U.S., where I previously lived. Nonetheless, the more medical care you need and the less you fit the right type of molds for getting medical exemptions, [**the more your care ends up costing**](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/). ### What are the hospitals like in terms of service, quality of care, emergency room protocols, etc? It really depends on which hospital, what condition the patient has, and who’s on staff. That being said, the general quality of Italian hospitals is good and the quality of service is quite excellent for the price. There is a top-notch children’s hospital in Florence, the Meyer Hospital, with a very good emergency room and an excellent range of specialty departments. There are two very good general hospitals in Florence with good emergency departments and a good range of specialty departments, the Careggi Hospital and the San Giovanni di Dio Hospital. I haven’t been able to cover all my specialty care needs, but am definitely better cared for medically than I was at any point while living in the U.S.. ### What should foreigners be aware of in regards to healthcare, if they want to visit or work in your city? The emergency department staff have at least good functional English language skills. Emergency care is quite good and surprisingly affordable. [Discover More in the: Invisible Cities Linkup](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-cities-linkup/). ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [“It’s in My Blood”: Sarah Frison – A Pastry Chef with a Stomach Disorder](https://achronicvoice.com/sarah-frison-pastry-chef-stomach-disorder/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Cheyanne Perry – Living a Full Life with Deadly Allergies](https://achronicvoice.com/cheyanne-perry-life-allergies/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Roy George – A Dramatic Life with a Short Bowel](https://achronicvoice.com/roy-george-dramatic-life-short-bowel/) - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/) - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness in Italy, Travel & Lifestyle Boards: ![By: Sara Russell. Invisible In Florence: Life With Chronic Illness In Italy. Quality Of Life And Healthcare Around The World.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_florence-italy-4.jpg) **Contributor Bio:** ![Sara Russell headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/sara-russell-profile.jpg) Sara Russell is a Nutritional Therapy Practitioner who works remotely with clients worldwide, specializing in complex health conditions. Sara is herself affected by a constellation of chronic health struggles. She resides in the Tuscan countryside with her husband and their seven-year-old son. You can learn more about Sara’s work and read her blog at [sararussellntp.com](https://sararussellntp.com/). Connect with her on: [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/sararussellntp/), [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/sararussellntp/) & [Twitter](https://x.com/sararussellntp). ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Spoonie Mom Rhonda Oct 18, 2019 Interesting post! How impressive that in Italy, people with celiac disease get access to vouchers for the purchase of certified gluten-free grocery items, regardless of income. But, I agree with your statement: “…too bad there isn’t any such benefit for people with diagnosed food allergies, no matter how severe the allergies are.” - [Sheryl Chan](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 18, 2019 Hi Rhonda, yes I found it interesting too! It’s fascinating how different life can be around the world, especially with illness thrown into the mix! - Jenny Oct 20, 2018 This was really interesting! And the photos are so beautiful! - [Sheryl Chan](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 20, 2018 I agree! They’ve all been interesting though! 🙂 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### The Value in Seeking Out Moments of Gratitude (and How to do it) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/value-gratitude/ Last updated: 2026-06-13T15:27:45.000Z ## An Introduction to Lisa Alioto & Why Seek Out Moments of Gratitude Lisa is writing a series of guest posts on the blog on effective methods to cope with chronic illness. These are principles which she has applied to her own life with success. In this article, she shares how her initial skepticism (and even derision!) about using a gratitude journal turned into appreciation, when she saw the positive changes it made in her life. If you have [trouble forming new habits](https://jamesclear.com/three-steps-habit-change), there are some nifty tips here as well. I hope you that you will find the tools in this article useful, and that they will be something you can add to your own chronic illness management toolkit. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Gratitude, Journaling & Self-Care Boards: ![The Value in Seeking Out Moments of Gratitude (and How to do it). Gust Post by: Lisa Alioto. Read the post on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/value-seeking-moments-of-gratitude-how-to-do-it-lisa-alioto.jpg) ## Chronic Illness Changes Everything in Your Life Becoming sick with a chronic illness changes your life in just about every way – your relationships, your job, your day-to-day choices, so on and so forth. At times it can be hard not to let that dominate your thinking. I’ve got great news for you though – it’s actually within your power to do something about this. I have always been an optimistic and positive person. Yet when I became sick, these [**negative thoughts drained**](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) and distracted me, when [**opportunities for gratitude and joy**](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) were still very much alive in my life. I decided that I had to find new strategies to redirect my focus, aware that what used to be innate to me was now going to take a bit more practice. Read Related Posts: - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) ## A Useful Tool I Learned from a Book This is again where the book, [“The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology That Fuel Success and Performance at Work”](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0307591557?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=04dc44bcbe5277dc61fd15145cbb6ddf&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), came into play for me. I know what you're thinking: why would I read a career-focused book? How could it possibly help with getting out of bed or off the couch? What does it do for sorting through the mail, throwing a load of laundry in, or [letting the dog out](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/the-way-my-dog-talisker-brings-me)? But therein lies the beauty of the book. While its title is indicative of success and performance at work, every single principle is applicable to life with chronic illness. Read Related Posts: - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You’re All Invited, Too!)](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies: Part II](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies-2/) - [Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill: Part III](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-3-chronically-ill/) - [Book Review: The Narwhal Who Suffers from Chronic Migraines](https://achronicvoice.com/book-review-narwhal-migraines/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) ## The First Useful Strategy From the Book That I Applied to My Own Life To give you an example, here's the first strategy that helped me to refocus my mind, away from all the thoughts that troubled me in relation to my illness. I will admit, this strategy seemed a little cliché in the beginning, but I soon chided myself for having had such thoughts, because this idea really works! I needed a little convincing to begin with, so I started with the science. In general, we need three positive experiences to address a negative one. [**On particularly hard days**](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/), we need to double this and aim for six. (Whilst the ratios up for debate, the general consensus is that we need more positive than negative experiences for this to work.) To do this, you need to train your brain to [**seek out the positives in your life**](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/), which can be especially trying during difficult times. It takes sorting through a whole lot of weeds to find the blooming flowers, lights of opportunity, and the path to happier thoughts. ## The Simplicity and Benefits of a Gratitude Journal I have found a [gratitude journal](https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/gratitude%5Fjournal) to be very helpful in my personal journey. When I first read about this in the book, I imagined that I would be too tired to journal, and wondered how that was really going to help. (Yikes, so much negative thinking, and I hadn't even gotten started yet!) But it really only takes about five minutes or so to get it done (if even!). This is still doable even for those with busy lives, limited attention spans, or low energy levels (I know this feeling well myself). And when I say 'journal', I don't mean essays! It can be little things, such as: - Sorted through my laundry. - Father brought me my groceries for the week! - Enjoyed a short call with a friend. - Relaxed through a session of gentle yoga. ## How to Get Started with Your Gratitude Journal There are a few critical keys in order for this to work. While studies go back and forth about [how many days it actually takes to form or break a habit](https://www.forbes.com/sites/jasonselk/2013/04/15/habit-formation-the-21-day-myth/), let's start with 21, which most people are familiar with. Before you begin, make a firm commitment to doing this for at least 21 days straight. And as the saying goes, 'out of sight, out of mind'. So put your journal in a prominent and accessible place that's within your main circle of reach. You also need to be aware that finding six things to be grateful about is going to be tough on a bad day. This is the best time to get your creative juices flowing. Don't ponder or feel like you need to achieve something big; simply list down whatever pops into your head. Remember that every little bit counts. Doing your laundry may be a huge accomplishment, but may not be doable on certain days. So break that down - sort your laundry today, then wash and dry a load the next. Each of these actions can count as an entry, and make up part of your success story for the day. Finally, pick a specific time of day to journal. Do you want to start your day with a boost by jotting down yesterday's successes? Or do you want to end it on a positive note, by recounting your achievements for the day? ([Here are 35 ideas for getting started with your gratitude journal from Positive Psychology](https://positivepsychology.com/gratitude-journal/).) Read Related Posts: - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [A Quarterly Reflection: 12 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned](https://achronicvoice.com/quarterly-reflection-life-lessons-learned/) - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) ## What This Daily Activity Does to Your Brain You may be thinking at this point, “yes, I've heard of gratitude journals before and I can write these things down. But what really is the goal here? Why are you asking me to do this? It sounds so elementary.” But this 'simple' activity actually trains your brain to seek out the positive aspects of your life. Instead of focussing on your pain; it learns to seek out things to be grateful about through your firm commitment. It stretches your mind over time by forming new neural connections; this is also known as “[neuroplasticity](https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/neuroscience/neuroplasticity)”. The more you do it the easier it gets, and the faster you will be able to spot the good in your days. Your everyday thoughts begin to transform into beautiful ones instead. And who knows, your journal may even become a mind map or recording of how your brain has learned to transform its thinking over time. ## A Gratitude Journal Can be a Great Tool for Reframing Your Life Story To reiterate, I did find a gratitude journal a little much in the beginning, but it does work. I've also found it to be especially helpful on the hard days. Flipping through the pages of the past month helps me to [**reframe the story of my life**](https://achronicvoice.com/stories-we-tell-ourselves-prisons-freedom/) in a more positive light. For some reason it [**can be easy to forget our successes**](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/), whilst our downfalls stay rather memorable. A gratitude journal can turn that around for you too, when used both as a daily tracker, and as a tool to gain an overview of your life. This, my friends, is an easy way to [**train your brain to work for and not against you**](https://achronicvoice.com/rewire-brain-manage-chronic-pain/). As mentioned earlier, the more you practice the easier it gets. Your brain will start to seek out and even create these positive moments, knowing that you will be documenting it. And with that, you have begun the process of retraining your brain to focus on gratitude and successes you have brought about for your own day, and even for others! I would encourage you to give it a try; I think the results will surprise you in a good way! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read More Posts Written by Lisa Alioto on the Blog: - [Hey You…It’s Me (M.E. Struggles & a Tribute to the Human Spirit)](https://achronicvoice.com/me-struggles/) - [How to Use the Tetris Effect to Invite Positivity Back into Your Life, Despite Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/tetris-effect-positivity-chronic-illness/) - [Find Your Way Back to Happiness with a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/find-happiness-chronic-illness/) - [Mainstream: Can You Talk to Us About ME? (There are Enough 'Normal' Health Tips to Go Around Already)](https://achronicvoice.com/mainstream-me-health-tips/) Read Related Posts: - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Featuring People with Illnesses, Passions & Talents](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-people-illnesses-talents/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) **Contributor Bio:** ![Lisa M. Alioto headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/profile-lisa-alioto-2.jpg) Lisa M. Alioto is a lawyer, career coach, and Myalgic Encephalomyelitis warrior with a strong belief in the power of positivity! She primarily focuses on writing articles about ME, along with invisible and chronic illnesses in general, with the goal of increasing awareness and providing hope, help and support. She is also the Vice President of the MN ME/CFS Alliance. Find her here: [Blog](https://breakthroughcoachi3.wixsite.com/realisticoptimism), [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/RealisticOptimism/), [Twitter](https://x.com/lisaalioto) & [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/lisaalioto/realistic-optimism/). ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Kirsten Oct 18, 2018 (Almost) every day before I go to sleep I think about something I'm grateful for and that I'm proud of myself for that day. But writing it down seems like a good idea. Especially on a bad day to look back on. - [Sheryl Chan](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Oct 18, 2018 That's the perfect and beautiful way to end the day! 🙂 Sounds like you have a practice going on already, with or without a journal! I suppose with a journal the benefit is the ability to look back especially on the bad days, as it's so easy (at least for me) to forget something even after one night. - [Ellen Best](https://ellenbest24.wordpress.com/) Oct 16, 2018 Most of the time I am able to be positive and grateful. Thanking the universe for all that keeps me better off than some. But occasionally when I least expect it … the condition bites hard. My looks do not pity me and though self pity is never good, just sometimes … we all need someone to smile and say 'I Know.' I wouldn't keep a journal it just is not my thing, I once read 'the secret' It gave me a way of thinking, a way of being, that you live your life in the way of grattitude. Eleven years on and I still refresh myself and would not be without it. A bit like your journal it pulls me back into the correct mindset. But we all have to find a way forward, we are human after all. A super post thank you. - [Sheryl Chan](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Oct 16, 2018 Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Ellen! Actually like you, I don't keep a gratitude journal either. I tried for some time, and it didn't do anything for me. I am unsure, but it may be that I am grateful in that very moment in itself already (and on days when I'm deeply depressed nothing works, heh). But I think what Lisa shares in this post is excellent, and works for many others out there! We all have different methods to cope and live our best lives, and I think every 'tool' is worth sharpening in the arsenal. Never know when you'll need it 😉 Sending love! - [Rachel, The Invisible Hypothyroidism](http://theinvisiblehypothyroidism.com) Oct 15, 2018 Thanks for this. After a particularly bad week last week, with a flare up in my physical health conditions which inevitably had a knock on effect to my mental health, I realised I still have a lot to do in reframing my thoughts and working on my emotional and mental health for the longterm. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://www.achronicvoice.com/) Oct 15, 2018 Hi Rachel, it's never easy when dealing with pain, no matter how many times we've been through it, and how much 'common sense' things we know to do! Hang in there and I hope you feel that little bit better soon. Sending lots of good thoughts and hugs xx **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Would You Rather: Have an Invisible Illness or a Visible Disability? URL: https://achronicvoice.com/rather-have-invisible-illness-or-disability/ Last updated: 2026-06-16T15:57:25.000Z ## Invisible Illness vs Physical Disability – Is There Even a 'Winner'? To clarify before I begin - [**I have a variety of chronic illnesses**](https://achronicvoice.com/about/) that affect the blood, brain, heart and virtually any body part, but I know nothing about physical disability and have only been confined to a wheelchair once. So if I made a mistake in this article, feel free to correct me. Update: Well, now I *do* know, when [**I became disabled overnight**](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) due to a spontaneous patellar tendon rupture. I will update this post at some point with more experiences and thoughts. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Invisible Illness & Disability Boards: ![Break the Stigma. Would You Rather: Have an Invisible Illness or a Visible Disability? Something no one should ever need to think about. Read the post on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/break-stigma-would-you-rather-have-invisible-illness-or-visible-disability-v1-walking-street.jpg) ### They Can Never be Directly Compared, Either There are also a myriad of factors that can play a role in how invisible illnesses or physical disabilities are treated, or how we feel about them ourselves. For example, cultural values can affect public perspectives and how disabled individuals are treated. I am also well aware that this topic might be controversial, spark anger or trigger indignation in some people. But I have decided to go ahead and speak about it regardless. What is the point to that? ## These are Honest Thoughts that Run Through My Mind For starters, these are actual thoughts that go through my mind as someone who lives with a host of invisible illnesses. So often [**here in Singapore**](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/), an old or disabled person in a wheelchair enters the elevator, and everyone is immediately accommodating and respectful. No questions are raised about their right of way. Then I struggle to limp out as fast as my inflamed joints will allow, so as not to stir the visible annoyance of those exiting. Perhaps I should smile and explain my predicament, but that would take longer than the amount of time needed to drag myself out. ## Breaking Stigmas and Raising Awareness About Invisible Illnesses Secondly, I believe that open conversations about such issues help to break the stigmas that them - the ‘untouchable issues’, the ‘hush don’t ask issues’. This is part and parcel of my everyday life, so I'm going to talk about it as it ***is*** my normal. Too often we avert our gazes or train our children to stifle [their innocent curiosity towards those with disabilities](https://themighty.com/topic/disability/how-to-talk-to-children-about-disabilities/). Doesn’t this only condition one to avoid instead of engage? Doesn’t this increase needless misunderstanding, instead of fostering genuine communication? ### Get Comfortable Talking About Uncomfortable Topics It is common for even friends to squirm or become nervous, when you mention that you're in pain or depressed, in reply to their, "how are you today?". As a side note - thank you for asking, and don’t fret over the ‘right way’ to respond. I would like you to be comfortable asking real questions with sincerity and empathy. I believe that the physical act of voicing out these thoughts impacts our psychological awareness about them. To keep them under wraps due to fear of offending only fuels the stigma that these are phantom ills in society. This not only breeds misunderstanding of the conditions in themselves, but also the people beneath that layer. Read Related Posts: - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - [Invisible Cities Linkup: Pros & Cons of Living with Chronic Illness in Your City](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-cities-linkup/) - [Disability & Sex: Disabled People are Not Automatically Bad Sexual or Romantic Partners](https://achronicvoice.com/disability-and-sex/) ## The “Pros” of Physical Disability Compared to Invisible Illness For a ‘plus’, people tend to be more accommodating, patient and sympathetic, when they come across a physically disabled person in public places. Perhaps they are thinking to themselves, “Oh such a poor dear. Imagine if I didn’t have a leg too? That would be awful.” They are able to relate immediately to the suffering of the person before their eyes. But internal pain is invisible, and unable to trigger such thoughts without a good deal of imagination. ### The “Benefits” at Work Even if employers or co-workers aren't accepting or understanding, nobody would dare to accuse you of faking your disability. However, when your chronic illness is invisible and you look 'fine', colleagues and bosses may question the validity of your sickness. [**Chronic pain is highly unpredictable**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/). You may be in tremendous pain one day but tip top shape the next, which is a difficult concept for the average healthy person to grasp. "That's not how the body works!" But that's exactly right - our bodies don't work like everyone else's. ### Seeing is Believing Physical issues are also easier to visualise, since there is a frame of reference. Doctors and surgeons are able to examine them closer to some extent, and attempt to fix the problem (although success rates might differ). An autoimmune disease or invisible chronic illness goes right down into your DNA, and [**can affect any part of the body**](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/). You [**often throw in huge sums of money**](https://achronicvoice.com/anaphylaxis-rituximab/) (if you even have that amount to spare), and play the lottery with your body. The chances of winning are about the same as that in real life. ## The “Cons” of Physical Disability as Compared to Invisible Illness Being confined to a wheelchair also means that you never get any 'time off'. You can't just get up and go for a swim, and not every place you'd like to visit is accessible either. [Navigating shop aisles can be a tricky undertaking](https://wheelescapades.com/2018/01/10/8-tips-for-sale-shopping-with-wheels/), and choices for holiday destinations are limited. These are restrictions that don't even cross many of our minds. Chronic illness patients do get glimpses of good days, even if brief, and tend to spend them with much joie de vivre. I am also glad that I actually don’t look sick, despite this being the bane of invisible illnesses as well. I cannot imagine how I would look like if my internal problems manifested in physical form. I'd probably look like an un-human being that makes children cry, and it'd bring about greater bouts of depression as well. Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [What’s It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [Chronic Stress, the Silent Assassin](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/) - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does 'Normal' Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) ## Invisible Illness vs Disability – There is No Winner Here, Obviously As human beings all we can do is adapt to our circumstances, whether we like them or not. There isn’t much we can do in public, as every encounter with a stranger lasts for only the briefest of moments. All I can do is share information with anyone who shows interest, and hope that it creates a ripple effect of kindness and understanding. We also need to be aware that there are those with chronic illnesses who may not be confined to a wheelchair permanently, but need mobility aids on certain days. These are also known as ambulatory wheelchair users. Some are unable to walk for long distances without collapsing, whilst others suffer from vertigo. Some have [**chaotic heart rhythms**](https://achronicvoice.com/heart-rhythm-disorder/), whilst others experience disabling aches or fatigue. The list goes on, and these examples are to show you that [wheelchair usage isn't black and white](https://themighty.com/topic/ehlers-danlos-syndrome/learning-to-accept-wheelchair-use-with-a-chronic-illness/). ## Looking at it as an Opportunity to Raise Awareness About All Types of Disabilities We shouldn't feel guilty when we need a little more time to move around because of chronic pain. There is no need to feel embarrassed when you occupy a disabled seat on public transport. All much easier said than done, I know! But we don't have the energy capacity that others around us may have, and that's okay. Take your time. Should someone go out of their way to make us feel uncomfortable, perhaps we can turn the tables, and take it as an opportunity for education. I hope that this post raised some awareness on the dilemmas we face, both with invisible illnesses and physical disabilities. Here's sending both visible and invisible camps nothing but good thoughts! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! 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Read Related Posts: - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationships with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/) - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Prisons or Paths to Freedom](https://achronicvoice.com/stories-we-tell-ourselves-prisons-freedom/) For More Insight: - [11 Perks Of Being A Wheelchair User](https://wheelescapades.com/2018/09/12/11-perks-of-being-a-wheelchair-user/) - [The Challenges of Life with Disability in Taiwan](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/2023/03/15/the-challenges-of-life-with-disability/) - [What I Want People Who Stare at My Daughter in Her Wheelchair to Know](https://themighty.com/topic/disability/reactions-to-using-a-wheelchair-in-public/) - [What I Want People Who Touch My Wheelchair Without Permission to Know](https://themighty.com/topic/other/what-i-want-people-who-touch-my-wheelchair-without-permission-to-know/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [Heather Hancock](https://heather-hancock.com/) Oct 21, 2021 I think you’ve done a good job trying to balance this article. I am a person who has lived with a physical disability my entire life and within the last 20 years, has acquired autoimmune disorders and chronic invisible illnesses. The combination sucks. My life experiences with CP are directly opposite to some of the statements you’ve made in the article and I wish to correct those. 1\. “People tend to be more accommodating, patient and empathetic, when they come across a physically disabled person in public places.” This has not been my experience. When out in public either on my walker or in my wheelchair, people constantly cut me off by abruptly walking in front of me. It’s dangerous on the walker because I can fall (poor balance) and in the chair because I have to slam the breaks on (grab my rims and pull back to stop myself). There’s also little assistance in stores and I often feel utterly invisible as people stare through me and address my husband. 2\. “Employers also seem more accepting and understanding in general, and nobody at work thinks that you’re faking your disability. ” Again not my experience, I’ve had employers refuse to interview me once they see my equipment. I’ve had coworkers and managers believe that I am faking it to get attention and special treatment. Those same coworkers daily sabotaged my work and blame me. I’ve had managers daily calling me to their office to ask if “I think I can still physically meet the job requirements of my position.” 3\. “Physical issues are also easier to visualise, since there is a frame of reference. Doctors and surgeons are able to examine them closer to some extent, and attempt to fix the problem (although success rates might differ).” CP has, for decades, been viewed as a childhood disorder even though it doesn’t go away. Once I turned 18, all services stopped. I had access to nothing. I’ve spoken to my GPs, orthopedic surgeons, physiatrists, neurologists and every single one of them do not know what to do for me. The refrain is “you have CP (as if I don’t know) and you have to learn to live with it.” Meaning live with the ever increasing loss of function, the ever increasing levels of chronic severe pain (mine is a constant 8-9/10 and can go as high as 20/10\. No access to pain killers – I’m viewed as an addict. The list goes on, but that gives a little insight into my world. - Katie Clark Sep 19, 2020 I agree, there is no real answer here. We all have to take the lot we are given and live in acceptance for our own mental health and overall wellbeing. From there, we need to make the world more aware. I would love to think we humans would be more empathetic, but… this time of COVID-19 has sure eye-opening! - [Sheryl Chan](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 22, 2020 Yes this article was to provoke thought, I suppose. And to dare to ask certain questions that might be taboo, both to the healthy and disabled communities 🙂 I believe that the more something is spoken about, the less stigma there is surrounding it! - [Carrie Kellenberger](https://myseveralworlds.com) Sep 18, 2020 Great article and I can’t decide. I am an ambulatory wheelchair user that also relies on mobility aids, but if I can manage my time strictly and within 30 minutes being on my feet, I will leave those aids at home. Having a wheelchair or a mobility aid in Taiwan, as I’ve mentioned on my own site, doesn’t really do much for those of us here. We seem to be invisible. No one would go out of their way to move or even bother to keep the sidewalks clear. This is what frustrates me so much about Taiwan. That said, if I entered a restaurant in a wheelchair or had been in my wheelchair with that incident this time last year, that never would’ve happened. No one would ever threaten someone in a wheelchair, although I have had people try to move my wheelchair because they felt I was in the way. When I’m out without mobility aids, that’s also tough because then people have to take me at my word when I say I have to sit or I need to sit on the first floor of your restaurant because I can’t do the stairs. Both aspects are so frustrating. Now I just get loud. LOL. I’m also really vocal about places that are inaccessible here or that make things harder on people who are mobility compromised because they should also be considering the many seniors in Taiwan that have to navigate the daily obstacles that people regularly through in the way without thought or care. (A good example is people thinking they own the sidewalk, forcing seniors and patients out into the road to get where they are going.) The judginess doesn’t go away when you’re in a wheelchair here either. I’ve been in a wheelchair at the hospital and had a senior woman sit on me just because the default here is ‘respect the elderly’. I think she saw a young looking woman in a wheelchair and no seats and just decided that she’d do that because she was older. It turns out she wasn’t even a patient! She was there with a patient. I never ever in my life ever expected someone to sit on me, and my husband was just so shocked. Yet it happens here because of cultural issues. Anyways, blah blah blah. I always write a book chapter on your site. Great article, Sheryl! - Katie Clark Sep 19, 2020 Wow, I can’t imagine being treated as if you’re a piece of furniture! Crazy she would sit on you. What did you do? - [Sheryl Chan](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 22, 2020 Yes that’s absolutely crazy, Carrie, even for the whole respect to elderly Chinese culture! (Trust me, I’m Chinese! Lol.) - [Carrie Kellenberger](https://myseveralworlds.com) Aug 21, 2021 Yes, we’ve seen a lot more news about this here in Taiwan recently because it was seniors who didn’t want to follow mask mandates here and it was seniors that were ignoring the rules or thought they were above them. That really angered a lot of people here in general. I would never disrespect a senior, even in my home country, unless they were being exceptionally disrespectful to me. Surprisingly, I’m very rarely told to go home to my own country, but when I have heard that, it has come from seniors. I find that a bit funny because a great many of them are ‘new to Taiwan’ themselves since so many families moved to Taiwan with the founding of the People’s Republic of China in 1949\. - [Sheryl Chan](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 21, 2021 Yea we kind of have a similar issue in Singapore, and there was an article that outlined their thoughts and opinions. I guess many of them think that they’re already so old and near dying, so why bother. On top of other reasons. Old people can be stubborn, eccentric and cranky. And Asian seniors can be especially demanding of respect hehe 🙂 - [Carrie Kellenberger](https://myseveralworlds.com) Aug 21, 2021 I tried to wiggle out from under her! IN MY CHAIR. Then my husband told her very loudly to get up in English because he doesn’t speak much Chinese. She moved because he’s big and he stood right in front of us and basically had to use his body to intimidate her to get her to move. Shame is a big thing here and people don’t like losing face, so she moved. I was so sick that day and in such shock that anyone would do that, I honestly didn’t know how to react. In retrospect, I wish I had screamed or something, but then again, I had a rather large Taiwanese woman sitting on me. My friends told me to take circular knitting needles with me the next time I’m waiting for my appointment. JAB JAB. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 21, 2021 Hahaha… I like your friends’ suggestions. Arm your wheelchair good… spikes everywhere but no, just carrying my ‘hobby’ around. - [Sheryl Chan](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 22, 2020 Yes since writing this article a few years ago, I do realise it isn’t black and white for many people either. But I hope this article provokes some thought within society, too! 😀 - [Shruti Chopra](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Sep 17, 2020 For the longest time, my illness was invisible. Then, in the last five years I’ve had a visible disability and it’s visible because I use walking sticks. It was a strange transition between invisible to visible. In all the health issues I faced, I have always wished that if I could choose to get rid of the visible or the invisible illness, it’s the invisible I’ve always wanted to get rid of not because people are more careful with me because of my visible disability but because my invisible issues cause me so much more pain. But that’s obviously because I am comparing. The invisible eats away at my quality of life far more than the visible. So I guess if I had the choice, I’d stick to the visible disability I have and get rid of the invisible I have. Personal choice based on my conditions. - [Sheryl Chan](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 22, 2020 It’s really not a question that we can choose from I suppose, but it really did get me thinking, and I wanted to voice my thoughts out loud no matter how blasphemous it may sound 🙂 I believe that the more something is spoken about, the less the stigma surrounding it. And that is my final goal. - [Claire](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Sep 17, 2020 It’s a difficult and sensitive subject (which wrote about so well!) and I have thought about it many times. There are definitely pros and cons, although I do not have a visible disability so perhaps I cannot reflect on that adequately. When I wear a ‘please offer me a seat’ badge on public transport occasionally I have been heartened that I was offered a seat without asking, but I also noticed the stares as I look fairly young and healthy. - [Sheryl Chan](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 22, 2020 Yes being young and healthy-ish looking has cons of its own, though hopefully we stay young forever, ha! It is indeed a super sensitive topic, but I wanted to bite the bullet anyway. I think they are issues that need spoken more about, as some may be fearful to question or ask, which just perpetuates stigma. - Suzi Apr 22, 2019 I have both but find the mocking and looks that I get from my visible disability most difficult, it often prevents me from leaving the house. People often avoid talking to me when they notice my speech problem. It’s very lonely and makes me feel less of a human and very inadequate. My invisible disabilities come with issues and judgements too but I find them easier to deal with. - [Sheryl Chan](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 22, 2019 Hi Suzi, thank you so much for sharing, the insight you provide is valuable. I guess people don’t quite know how to respond when they can’t relate, although unkind behaviours are uncalled for, and being kind doesn’t hurt. I hope that over time, the awareness we are trying to raise will make an impact on people’s attitudes toward both the visibly and invisibly disabled. - IBD fighter Kanchan Oct 13, 2018 A very sensitive subject indeed but you have really done a good job by writing about it . Mine too is a invisible illness . I have a #Jpouch ,which gives me a hard time going out even for short period of time. My problem is my BM COUNTS . I can’t stand in lines outside the restroom facilities. Sometimes I am at the verge of crying when I can’t find one nearby . No one around understands my plight except my immediate family. One cannot make the surrounding people understand these difficulties. I don’t carry any badge saying “ I have a Pouch which can leak ,please let me go first”. I think any invisible chronic condition is at risk of getting weird looks in public places . Can we change that ? Perhaps NO. Thank you Sheryl for taking this untouched subject. - [Sheryl Chan](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 13, 2018 Thank you for sharing. I can only imagine how frustrating that must be for you 🙁 Maybe we should print our own education badges or flyers so we can hand one out quickly. While they’re taking it we can dash into the bathroom first 😉 I don’t know, but there has to be an easier way! - Jen @ The Frozen Mind Oct 12, 2018 I think I would rather stay as I am. I use my mobility devices as I need them. Yes, I get looks when I get out of my car standing and get into my wheelchair but I would rather deal with that than to have no choice. I do not have a handicap sticker so I leave the handicap spaces for the others. (although I do qualify for one) I have just had to toughen up and not worry about the looks people give or the rude words some people say. I try to use those as opportunities to educate rather than allow it to break me down. Mary Frey of “The Frey Life” vlogs about this a lot and I love her attitude! Jen @ TheFrozenMind.com - [Sheryl Chan](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 13, 2018 Thanks for the reference and for sharing your thoughts! It’s definitely not easy to ignore the immediate world around you, but we do what we must to live a good life indeed. Great job and remember that we are all behind you, and believe you 🙂 x - Sarah Oct 12, 2018 Another great and thought-provoking article Sheryl. While most of the time my disability is invisible, when I exercise and fly I make it visible by using oxygen. So I get the best (and worst) of both worlds! For the most part I’m grateful that I can fly under the radar and look healthy most of the time. But I’m sure if I had to wear the oxygen 24/7 I’d get better accustomed to the weird looks and feel less weird about sitting in a reserved seat. Either way, I myself try to be as openminded about everyone I encounter since you never know what’s going on under the hood. - [Sheryl Chan](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 12, 2018 Hi Sarah, thank you for taking the time to read this and to share your thoughts! It’s a touchy subject and without reading, easy to misunderstand! I have changed the title from ‘physical’ to ‘visible’ as someone correctly pointed out, physical disability can also be invisible, sadly 🙁 I agree these days I make it more obvious myself, heh. I just squat in elevators doubled over if I have to – no more dignities of my 20 year old self ;p And planes you should definitely make it obvious. Even a short trip knocks the wind out of me and requires a whole day or two of recovery after. I wish you many more happy trips to come though x - [Jenny Clarkson](https://trippingthroughtreacle.com) Oct 11, 2018 I found this so interesting to read Sheryl. As someone with MS, I have mobility difficulties but lots of invisible difficulties too – cog fog, fatigue and chronic pain to name a few. I have to say that when I started using my crutches and scooter, I finally felt ‘believed’. I don’t have to worry about putting my disabled badge on my car and worry that people are going to think that I am a fake. But there are problems too – a distinct lack of access around the UK and abroad and believe it or not I get a lot of ‘looks’ from older people with mobility aids as though I am making it up. For example, I may stop my scooter on the pavement to wait for an elderly person using a walker or a cane and they don’t look at me or say thank you. It’s frustrating but I have got used to it I guess xx - [Sheryl Chan](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 12, 2018 Hi Jenny, thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts. So important to hear from actual people themselves! When I first wrote this in 2016, I wasn’t even thinking about those with a combination of both (have since updated it with a paragraph at the end). Over the years I’ve become more aware through reading blogs (thanks to people like you!). It’s definitely such a tricky thing, hey? And you’re right, I actually seem to get judged the most from the older folks outside. Many of them have this ‘right of way’ attitude that borders on dismissive. This might be due to cultural reasons too, with the whole Confucianism philosophy we’re raised on, where we’re supposed to respect the elderly and that they come first! I guess all we can work on is our own sense of self-confidence and self-worth – I find that that helps a lot with most everything in life! People seem to naturally believe in you too when you express a quiet, genuine sense of that. Sending you good vibes for the weekend! 🙂 xxx **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### What's it Like to Live with a Heart Rhythm Disorder? URL: https://achronicvoice.com/heart-rhythm-disorder/ Last updated: 2026-06-18T15:39:48.000Z ## The Added Chaos to Life with a Heart Rhythm Disorder I was in a mad rush last week, checking off doctor appointments and errands before my trip to Taiwan. A holiday is always a welcome and happy event, but it probably wasn’t a good idea to run on a mix of adrenaline, coffee, a lack of sleep and new mental health issues right before it. The stress triggered a heart palpitation episode, something which I hadn’t had in over half a year. I was sitting at my desk doing some light work on the computer, when my heart started to pound, insistent for attention. I hurried to strap on my blood pressure (BP) monitor, which is always by my bedside. The beats per minute (bpm) was ‘only’ at 140, which also happens during exercise or if you have a fever. For some people, it can shoot up to beyond 200 bpm. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* - **Updated:** 26 August 2025 Read Related Posts: - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-home-resources-learned-other-blogs/) - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) Pin to Your Cardiology & Heart Rhythm Disorder Boards: ![The Added Chaos to Life with a Heart Rhythm Disorder](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/added-chaos-life-heart-rhythm-disorder.jpg) ![What’s it Like to Live with a Heart Rhythm Disorder? And how I manage it at home. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/whats-it-like-live-with-heart-rhythm-disorder-how-maage-at-home.jpg) ## A Brief Introduction on Heart Rhythm Disorders There are many [different kinds of heart rhythm disorders](https://www.hrsonline.org/Patient-Resources/Heart-Diseases-Disorders), such as atrial fibrillation, ventricular fibrillation (which typically causes cardiac arrests), and more (Heart Rhythm Society, 2021). Irregular heartbeats are also known as [arrhythmias](https://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health-topics/arrhythmia), and they fall under two categories - ventricular and supraventricular - depending on where it occurs (National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute \[NHLBI\], 2022). The [causes for an abnormal heart rhythm](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/16749-arrhythmia) are manifold. It could be due to physical injuries to your heart, post-surgical complications, changes in structures due to heart disease, lifestyle factors and more (Cleveland Clinic, 2023). An [electrocardiogram](https://www.nhcs.com.sg/news/murmurs/understanding-electrocardiogram-ecg) (ECG) is a test to check your heart rhythm, where a sinus rhythm is indicative of a normal heartbeat (National Heart Centre Singapore \[NHC\], 2021). ### What I Have – Paroxysmal Supraventricular Tachycardia (PSVT) I personally have a heart rhythm disorder called “paroxysmal supraventricular tachycardia” (PSVT), which I developed after [**I underwent a mitral valve repair for a prolapsed valve in 2011**](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/). According to Cleveland Clinic (2021), [PSVTs](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/22232-paroxysmal-supraventricular-tachycardia-psvt) occur due to "abnormal electrical activity that begins in the atria", which then leads to repeated, rapid contractions. To complicate matters, there are several types of tachycardias that can be classified as a PSVT. ## The Year I had Tuberculosis was One of the Worst Years of My Life In 2014, I caught tuberculosis (TB) from who knows where. No one else around me had it. I had to take TB medications under the watchful eye of a nurse every single day for 9 months. That was a horrible year for me, as the TB medications had serious interactions with my regular cocktail of daily meds, [**especially the steroids**](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/). It was also the year I was [**finally diagnosed with major depressive disorder**](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) and anxiety. I would get a heart palpitation episode every 3 to 4 days, so it was a year of nonstop trips to the A&E/ER day and night. I became reclusive and had to be on constant high alert. I wasn’t allowed to leave the country, and needed someone else to stay with me whenever my partner back then left for a work trip. ### Just About Anything Could Trigger a Heart Palpitation Episode I had to completely abstain from alcohol, tea and coffee that year, as even a decaf could trigger a heart palpitation episode. Just about anything could set it in motion – from mild physical or emotional strain, to regular medications for the flu, to certain foods and spices, and many other random things. The worst part was that there was no way to predict any of these episodes. That mental burden was traumatic, and took quite a while to recover from. ### During and After Each Heart Palpitation Episode For me, it isn’t too dangerous when I am having a PSVT episode that falls within a normal bpm range, which is about [60 to 100 depending on your age](https://www.heart.org/en/healthy-living/fitness/fitness-basics/target-heart-rates) (American Heart Association \[AHA\], 2024). However, it is very uncomfortable, to the point where I’m unable to pay attention to anything else. After every termination of an arrhythmic episode, I would also feel a wave of fatigue wash over me – one that I would always have to give in to no matter what I was doing. [**I had to stop working**](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) full-time during this period, and couldn’t even sit through a short movie. ## A Chance Encounter at a Heart Rhythm Specialist's Clinic I sought the help of many [**cardiologists and heart rhythm specialists**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/), and we tried a variety of beta blockers and calcium channel blockers to try and get the PSVT episodes under control. Unfortunately, nothing seemed to work, and they all just said that I had to endure these episodes until the TB treatment concluded. I was ‘lucky’ in some sense to get a PSVT episode right in the middle of a consultation with a new heart rhythm specialist who came highly recommended. She hooked me up to the ECG machine, and was able to determine for herself what it was all about. ### Diagnosis of Junctional Rhythm PSVT She diagnosed it as a [junctional rhythm](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/23206-junctional-rhythm), which is a less common form of PSVT (Cleveland Clinic, 2022a). She also told me that [surgery to fix junctional rhythms can be trickier](https://www.jacc.org/doi/10.1016/j.jacc.2008.08.030), depending on its location (Padanilam et al., 2008). A miscalculation could mean that I’d need a pacemaker for life. This was one of the main reasons why we decided that it would be a better idea to just rely on medications until the TB treatment ended. There are also different types of junctional rhythms (I guess it just gets more and more intricate as we go down the rabbit hole, doesn't it?!). According to Cleveland Clinic (2022), the four types of junctional rhythms can be classified as: - **Junctional bradycardia and junctional escape rhythm** – where the heart rate is slower than normal, at about 40 - 60 bpm. - **Accelerated junctional rhythm and junctional tachycardia** – where the heart rate is faster than normal, starting at 60 and going over 100 bpm. ### A Few Defining Characteristics of Junctional Rhythms There are a few characteristics that set junctional rhythms apart from other types of PSVTs. Note – I am no expert; also, cardiology and anatomy are probably my least favourite medical topics to research 😛 Regardless, here are some differences I found from various medical journals; you can click on the links to read the papers: - **'Slower' Beats per Minute (BPM).** [According to Heaton and Goyal (2023)](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK557664/), "in accelerated junctional rhythm, a pathologic AV node generates an electrical impulse at a rate of 60 to 100 bpm; in junctional tachycardia, the accelerate rate is higher than 100 bpm" (also see: Lome, n.d.). [Other types of PSVTs](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK568784/) on the other hand, typically occur between 120 - 250 bpm (Hafeez et al., 2024). - **Less Common in Adults.** According to Page et al. (2016), [junctional tachycardia is primarily found in infants](https://www.ahajournals.org/doi/10.1161/CIR.0000000000000310) after "cardiac surgery for congenital heart disease". - **Difficulty in Discerning P waves.** [P waves](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK555952/) represent atrial depolarisation on ECG readings (Rogoff & Pride, 2022). [These can be difficult to discern](https://www.healio.com/cardiology/learn-the-heart/ecg-review/ecg-topic-reviews-and-criteria/junctional-rhythms-review), and may be misinterpreted as another form of heart rhythm disorder instead of a junctional rhythm PSVT (Heaton and Goyal, 2023; Lome, n.d). ### The Tricky Thing About Junctional Rhythm PSVTs in the A&E/ER For the reasons stated above, junctional rhythms can be easily misdiagnosed in the A&E. This has happened to me many times, and I am subsequently left untreated. I suppose the emergency doctors are more familiar with classic heart rhythm disorders, such as [atrial fibrillation](https://www.heart.org/en/health-topics/atrial-fibrillation/what-is-atrial-fibrillation-afib-or-af) (AFib) (AHA, 2025a). However, my heart rhythm can be faulty even within a normal bpm range. In fact, it was at 86 bpm or so at the heart rhythm specialist's clinic, which is considered a good resting heart rate. I usually need to self-advocate at the A&E, and keep insisting that they monitor the ECG properly. After some time, a senior doctor would usually confirm that I was indeed suffering from a heart palpitation episode, despite having a normal heart rate. A mad rush to terminate it would follow, as the doctors would suddenly realise the gravity of the situation. Read Related Posts: - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) - [Learn More About the Super Rare Disease – Esophageal Diverticulum](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) - [Suffering with a Rare Disease, Isaac Syndrome, as Told from a Male Perspective](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-isaacs-syndrome/) ## Techniques I Would Try at Home to Terminate an Arrhythmic Episode My own heart rhythm doctor taught me a few manoeuvres to try and 'reset' my heart rhythm on my own. If these failed, then I'd usually need to rush to the A&E. ### Valsalva Manoeuvre I would try the safest and easiest method first – the [Valsalva Manoeuvre](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/23209-valsalva-maneuver) (Cleveland Clinic, 2022b). It is a simple technique where I would pinch my nostrils shut and blow out hard, similar to when I'm trying to clear a blocked ear. The Valsalva Manoeuvre has never worked for me personally. Neither has splashing cold water or coughing, which were other suggestions I received. Regardless, I'd still try it first since it is the safest and easiest to do. ### Carotid Sinus Massage ❗️**Important: DO NOT try a** [**carotid sinus massage**](https://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJMvcm1313338) **without approval from your own doctor, as it can be very dangerous. It is also** [**contraindicated in patients with diseased carotid arteries**](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/0002934385904085)**. Risks include getting a stroke or** [**transient ischaemic attack**](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/#TIA) **(TIA), fainting and even death (Pasquier et al., 2017; Schweitzer & Teichholz, 1985).** If the Valsalva Manoeuvre failed, I would then attempt to massage the carotid arteries in my neck one side at a time, with a pause in between. I was warned by my doctor not to massage both sides at the same time as that could make me faint. Carotid sinus massages are used both to diagnose and terminate PSVT episodes. In simple terms, it works by stimulating the parasympathetic nervous system (PNS) through a cascade of processes, which may result in a "decrease in blood pressure and heart rate" (Pasquier et al., 2017; Schweitzer & Teichholz, 1985). Sometimes this technique would terminate an arrhythmic episode, and I'd breathe a huge sigh of relief. It apparently has a [low efficacy rate of about 20%](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK538172/) (Armstrong & Moore, 2023), but it seemed to work a little better than the Valsalva Manoeuvre for me. It was also what my heart rhythm specialist tried during the PSVT episode I had at her clinic, which worked. That saved me a dose of medications via IV line. Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Heart Rhythm Disorder Boards: ![How I Personally Deal with an Irregular Heartbeat at Home](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/deal-irregular-heartbeat-home.jpg) ## How I Personally Deal with an Irregular Heartbeat at Home During these heart rhythm disorder episodes, I’d have my BP monitor strapped on for dear life, sometimes even for hours. I’d hit the start button over and over again, in hope for a sign of improvement. It was my practical ally in those moments of distress, as it provided me with continuous feedback about my heart. Apart from my blood pressure reading, it also gave me feedback on what my heart rate was exactly. The faster the heart rate, the higher the risk and urgency was to go to the A&E. I also had to be sure that my blood pressure wasn't already too low, if I were going to take medications. If it was, then I'd have no choice but to just go to the dreaded A&E. Whilst the BP monitor does not cure or fix my heart rhythm disorder, the data it provides is useful for planning my next course of action. It also brings me peace of mind to be able to check on some of my vital signs in a heartbeat (pun intended). If you're working with your doctor and/or are attempting to track patterns, the automatic recordings available in certain devices can be useful, too. ### If All Else Fails, Take Medications In the worst case scenario, I would take one or two tablets of my emergency medications. For me that's [verapamil](https://medlineplus.gov/druginfo/meds/a684030.html), a calcium channel blocker (U.S. National Library of Medicine \[NLM\], 2017). Before that, I had tried an assortment of other drugs for my type of heart rhythm disorder to no avail. So what works for you may be entirely different from me as well. Weirdly, a scene would pop up in my head during such times. One where an actor grabs a bottle of pills before passing out from a heart attack or similar. I would be reluctant to take extra medications as I have a low BP naturally, and verapamil can decrease it further. Besides, I was already on quite a high dosage of other heart medications to cover the rest of the day. Read Related Posts: - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Dysphagia & Swallowing Problems (and How Oral Vitamin Sprays Can be of Help to You)](https://achronicvoice.com/dysphagia-oral-vitamin-sprays/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) ### If Medications Fail Too, Then it's Time to Go to the A&E Medications don't always work either, so half the time I'd end up at the A&E anyway. As you can see, it's a pretty step-by-step process, with discomfort, fear and worry attached throughout. The only 'good' thing at the A&E is that when I tell them I am having a heart palpitation episode, I get prioritised as it can be life-threatening. Otherwise, I usually need to wait in agony for hours, before being seen by a doctor. ## What Type of Blood Pressure Monitor to Get for a Heart Rhythm Disorder There are many different types of blood pressure monitors available on the market these days, and they each have their own pros and cons. Common ones for home use are digital blood pressure monitors that come with an arm or wrist cuff. The [AHA (2025b) recommends](https://www.heart.org/en/health-topics/high-blood-pressure/understanding-blood-pressure-readings/monitoring-your-blood-pressure-at-home) "an automatic, cuff-style, upper arm (biceps) monitor", as the wrist monitors are less accurate. I have both but use the wrist monitor more frequently, as it is more convenient and I can lie in bed and keep hitting the start button 😛 I use the one with the arm cuff when I want to cross-check a reading, or am feeling a bit better. Whatever you choose, do ensure that the cuff fits well, and follow the instructions for your device carefully. For instance, the wrist BP machine I have requires that my wrist is [positioned at the level of my heart](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/high-blood-pressure/expert-answers/wrist-blood-pressure-monitors/faq-20057802) for the most accurate results possible. It is also important for the cuff to have direct skin contact, and to keep your arm straight (Mayo Clinic, 2024). 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The unpredictability makes the experience even more challenging and exhausting. It truly is physical and mental turmoil all at once. However, know that you are not alone out there, and that there may be solutions, even if it takes a while to get there. Whilst I still have a heart rhythm disorder – because it doesn't just magically disappear – it did get much better after I completed my course of TB medications. I still carry a strip of verapamil in my wallet wherever I go however, and also have them in my medication box by my bedside. You can never be 'too safe', I reckon! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! 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Differentiating junctional tachycardia and atrioventricular node re-entry tachycardia based on response to atrial extrastimulus pacing. *Journal of the American College of Cardiology, 52*(21), 1711–1717\. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jacc.2008.08.030 - Page, R. L., Joglar, J. A., Caldwell, M. A., Calkins, H., Conti, J. B., Deal, B. J., Estes, N. A. M., Field, M. E., Goldberger, Z. D., Hammill, S. C., Indik, J. H., Lindsay, B. D., Olshansky, B., Russo, A. M., Shen, W.-K., Tracy, C. M., Al-Khatib, S. M., & Evidence Review Committee Chair‡. (2016). 2015 ACC/AHA/HRS guideline for the management of adult patients with supraventricular tachycardia: Executive summary. *Circulation, 133*(14), e471–e505\. https://doi.org/10.1161/CIR.0000000000000310 - Pasquier, M., Clair, M., Pruvot, E., Hugli, O., & Carron, P.-N. (2017). Carotid sinus massage. *New England Journal of Medicine, 377*(15), e21\. https://doi.org/10.1056/NEJMvcm1313338 - Rogoff, B., & Pride, Y. B. (2022). EKG rhythm. In *StatPearls.* StatPearls Publishing. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK555952/ - Schweitzer, P., & Teichholz, L. E. (1985). Carotid sinus massage. Its diagnostic and therapeutic value in arrhythmias. *The American Journal of Medicine, 78*(4), 645–654\. https://doi.org/10.1016/0002-9343(85)90408-5 - U.S. National Library of Medicine. (2017, October 15). *Verapamil.* MedlinePlus. https://medlineplus.gov/druginfo/meds/a684030.html ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Sep 26, 2020 Oh wow! I did not know you had TB in 2014\. Thank you for sharing. I can’t even imagine that on top of everything else. Sending love! - arv Oct 11, 2018 It is not easy to live with such issues and requires a strong mind. I hope you find some respite to this situation. - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 12, 2018 Thanks arv, it isn’t too bad, really! These articles capture the acute moments, but so far so good. Thank you for your concern though 🙂 - Kirsten Oct 9, 2018 I don’t have a heart rhythm disorder but struggle from low blood pressure which causes high heart rate. It’s a scary thing and I can’t even imagine how it must feel for you to live with this illness every day. Thanks for sharing your story! - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 11, 2018 Hi Kirsten, thank goodness it’s been pretty well controlled after my looong year of TB! That TB year really broke me with the combination (had to up my prednisone as well to body weight so you get the picture) 🙂 Thanks for reading as always x - Anindya Rakshit Oct 4, 2018 It’s difficult indeed, and reading your chronicles, I feel it much more. Nothing we can say that will make things easier for you, but we have to gather the courage and strength to go on, along with medicines, and looking at life in a positive way, which you are already doing brilliantly. - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 4, 2018 Thanks for your kind comment, Anindya, and for taking the time to read! Yes it is what it is, we all do what we can 🙂 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### October 2018: Trying to Earn Passive Income Whilst Pacing URL: https://achronicvoice.com/passive-income-pacing-october-2018/ Last updated: 2025-10-28T15:33:24.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Attempts at Budgeting My Personal Finances... Again You could budget your energy or your time. As a person with chronic illness, rationing everything in your life is probably the norm rather than the exception. But what I’d like to budget for October 2018 are my personal finances, the good old-fashioned meaning of the word. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ### Trying to Curb My Impulsiveness One of my flaws is that I’m impulsive, and terrible with money management. I told myself that I was going to do a no spend month...for the past three months. So here it is inked online - I’m going to try doing it for real (again 😉 ). I will only permit myself to buy basic necessities and refills of regular items. I tend to spend more money when I'm feeling down, and recently that's been happening too often. Perhaps these things bring a smile or relief for a little while, but it's really just self-soothing, which is unhealthy. My finances need some looking after as well, especially since I’m not working full-time. I think the ‘boring self-care’ series sums this concept up pretty well. Sometimes, I need to think about long-term benefits over short-term gains. Besides, it will be a good opportunity to [**find joy in the little everyday things**](https://achronicvoice.com/value-gratitude/), and to pay more attention to my mind and body before there is even a need for relief. Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![2018 October Prompts: Budgeting, Speeding, Slowing, Evaluating and Escaping](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_october-prompts-3-2-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ## Speeding Up My Passive Income Stream Ideas Along One of the reasons why I’m investing so much time and effort into my blog, is that I hope to earn a relatively stable income from it some day. I sincerely strive to share knowledge of my personal experiences, and to provide support. But it would also be nice to actually earn enough to feed myself and buy my own medications, without relying on my partner or family. I am aware for the need to diversify my income streams. Writing on my blog alone will not suffice, and isn’t the best way to gain income, at least for me for now. Whilst I have a few scattered projects on hand, the first one I’d like to finish is my e-book for sale. It will be an adaptation from my blog, but not a direct copy and paste, of course. I’ll share more details when I get closer to completion, but it’s been sitting at chapter two for too long 😉 I'd like to make a conscious effort to speed things up a little. It’s only then that I can move on to ‘hopeful passive income item number two’. Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don’t Reflect)](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Plunging Into a Sparkling Sky of Unknown Possibilities, with a Tinge of Nostalgia in Tow](https://achronicvoice.com/unknown-possibilities-nostalgia/) - [Chronic Illness is Expensive, but Here’s the Real Reason Why](https://achronicvoice.com/real-reason-why-chronic-illness-expensive/) ## Slowing Down & Making Space for What Matters Most I can’t put new projects on my plate without first removing something, in order to make space for it (paraphrased from another blogger!). I suppose I’ve become too comfortable with my current daily blog routine, that I get uncomfortable if I veer too far from it. This is not a good thing, hence why I wanted to tag along on a trip to Taiwan with my partner. Even a few days of change can be helpful in getting out of my stale headspace, and [**gain some fresh perspective**](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/). I hope that I will be able to stop micromanaging so many things on my blog, just because I can, and because I want it to be ‘perfect’. I’m not saying that I’ll be scaling back on quality, but I need to get my priorities straight. Going for a stroll, working on my e-book, cooking a new recipe, or beautifying my work and home spaces are all just as important. I'm not abandoning my blog, but I think I need to cut back on some of the related activities. I often feel like I'm drowning because I want to do it all, and am aware of the sore need to [**slow down for my own well-being**](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/). I need to evaluate which practices are worth keeping - either because I enjoy them or because they’re beneficial - and which are time wasters that don’t add much value all round. Read Related Posts: - [It is \*Always\* Possible to Make Time for What Matters Most](https://achronicvoice.com/make-time-what-matters-most/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) - [The Secret of Change: Spend Your Energy Wisely with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/secret-of-change/) - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) ## The Need to Evaluate My Stress Levels & Release Control Speaking of evaluating...I have a huge issue with control. The first time I saw a psychiatrist, she said to me, “you have some great coping mechanisms, or you wouldn’t have been able to do so well without psych meds for more than 10 years. But you’ve now hit a wall that you can’t breach.” I ‘cope’ by controlling many aspects of my life. In fact, what can be controlled, I control. This fear developed after I lost total control of my body, and faced [**my first life or death situation at 17**](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/). I couldn’t even lift a finger without excruciating pain. It’s not something anyone can ever understand, unless they’ve been through it themselves. Such experiences leave more than physical scars. In fact, the mental scars can be harder to heal from. ### If You're Not Careful, Control Controls You in the End But I also know that I need to release some of that illusion of control, because life just doesn’t operate that way. And the ironic thing is that the details control me in the end, when I am trying desperately to control them, especially when there’s no need to do so. They bind me up - or I bind myself up - by sapping my energy, creating dizzy mazes in my brain, and fogging up my perspective with fatigue. There is no need for this [**self created stress**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/), so I plan to separate myself from my current activity whenever I feel my body tightening up, or sense a mental overdrive. Then I will simply sit, let my thoughts natter and run and overflow, until they calm down. Then only will I return to what I was doing...or maybe not. > “You should sit in meditation for 20 minutes every day- unless you are too busy. Then you should sit for an hour.” - Zen Proverb ([**Click for more quotes**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/).) ## The Serious Need to Escape the Thoughts on Repeat in My Head Escaping isn’t always a bad thing, hey? I’d like to do a lot more escaping this month. I’d like to [**escape into other worlds through books**](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/). I’d like to escape from digital immersion for extended periods of time. I’d like to escape from the endless thoughts that sprint on that faulty treadmill in my brain. My mental health hasn’t been in good shape of late, as I alternate between bouts of senseless anxiety and deep depression. I feel bad that my partner has to put up with that, it’s really no fun for anyone. Whilst it isn’t a daily occurence, it’s been happening way too often of late, and it’s exhausting. I’m not too sure how it developed either. Perhaps all this [**isolation is starting to affect me**](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/), even though I enjoyed all this alone time to start with. The irony about this whole situation is that I need to escape from myself - or the thoughts in my brain - in order to become my ‘normal’ self again. Hopefully the little escapism activities will help to stabilise and shut part of that faulty system down. That's it for my October 2018 thoughts, thank you for reading! You can [**continue with November 2018**](https://achronicvoice.com/meeting-collaborating-chronically-ill-real-life-november-2018/) or read more about [**the previous month, September 2018**](https://achronicvoice.com/reconnecting-friends-family-sharing-social-media-september-2018/) 🙂 ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [When Your Stress & Fatigue Thresholds Suck (Also on Cute Cockatiels, Education via Zoom & Art Films for Rent)](https://achronicvoice.com/stress-fatigue-thresholds-suck/) - [July’s Supply & Demand: Learning to Maximise Wellbeing in the Midst of Stress](https://achronicvoice.com/july-maximise-wellbeing-stress/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Nicole Starbuck Oct 26, 2018 I can totally relate to the part about spending more when feeling down! When I’m feeling down, I have less energy for things like grocery shopping or cooking, so I end up eating out more. One time my card company put a hold on my card because they considered all of the eating out to be “unusual activity.” (too bad my card was declined at the pharmacy counter while trying to pick up my meds!). It can be easy to fall into the trap of “I deserve it” and end up overindulging in whatever makes us feel remotely better. But you’re right, with “boring self-care” comes the constant self-evaluation! It’s important to access what we’re doing and why, and if we’re doing more harm than good. - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 26, 2018 Hi Nicole! Heh totally…one thing leads to another, then another. Especially when we want just that extra bit of comfort, or become used to it. At least, it works that way for me :p Yes I need to constantly remind myself of the ‘boring’ self care parts too. And writing it down, with comments coming in every now and then, are like notifications (but the good kind!) to remember, and execute my plans for the month 🙂 So thank you! x - [Lydia Beier ](https://beinglydia.com) Oct 23, 2018 I finally got to read your post and do mine! I love your answers. They are very much from the heart and down to earth. I have had a rocky October (it has been a rough year but I think this month has been the worst) and I wish I could have documented it as honestly as you have. I look forward to next month’s prompts. - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 23, 2018 Hi Lydia, I’m sorry to hear how bad your October was for you 🙁 You can find me on Messenger for a rant anytime. Sometimes that can be helpful 🙂 And am happy you could join us regardless, am always appreciative of anyone who takes the time and effort to do so! Sending hugs! xxx - Kathy Oct 20, 2018 Hi, Sheryl! Loved reading your post. I would love to be able to give you a hug all the way across the ocean. I think we all go through periods where we’re more unsettled. I struggle with doing too much and attempting too much all at one time. Like I signed up for a book discussion group and a pain management course at the same time that I’m in a new eating plan boot camp. Why do our brains do this to us, I’ll never know. I love your comments on your Instagram post. I have to ask myself that same question, “How much can I really digest without waste?” - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 20, 2018 Thanks Kathy! 🙂 I also love to read all your responses to the prompts every month 🙂 Haha I’m not sure why either, but it must be instinct that we forget the difficulties or pain associated with it 😉 But we always get through them somehow, don’t we? 🙂 (Said to myself right now as a reassurance too lol.) Wishing you a lovely week ahead, and sending hugs from across the ocean too! - [Maya Augelli ](https://www.spreadhopeproject.com) Oct 16, 2018 Love these prompts! I feel like so many of my thoughts are going to be similar to yours here. Like the fact that I’m also working on pushing forward on my book (novel, not illness related, but still), or that financial budgeting is a huge issue for me and I’m working on how to make more passive income as well. It sounds like you have a good outlook on balancing what you need health wise, with what your natural inclinations might be (i.e. the need for control), and I think getting them all out “on paper” (blog) can help us acknowledge and create that balance. - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 17, 2018 Hi Maya, thanks for the support! 🙂 Haha I don’t really have a good outlook or balance, rather I know what I should do but rarely do it 😉 Yea getting it down on ‘paper’ can help focus, I have to agree with that! 🙂 I wish you all the best with your novel – you \*need\* to finish it! 😉 In your own time and pace, of course x - Terri, Reclaiming HOPE Oct 16, 2018 Thanks for hosting us again Sheryl! I always look forward to them, though life got in the way the last couple of months and I just ran out of time and didn’t participate. How exciting that you have an e-book in the works! I hope you’re able to put aside some of the “ankle biters” (as my hubby calls the small tasks that take you away from your main one) and concentrate on completing it. I know having another income stream would be welcome. If it makes you feel any better, you’re not alone in having control issues. It’s something I struggle with as well. As you said, though, it’s all an illusion, and the more I try to control things, the more anxious I become. I’m finally learning to let it go and realize that I can only control myself, my own thoughts, and my reactions to whatever circumstances arise. Thanks again for hosting us! - [Rhiann ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com) Oct 13, 2018 Another fabulous insight into your own life with chronic illness, Sheryl! It’s such a wonderful insight and a brilliant opportunity to learn about other’s people’s lives and learn from their perspective and experiences! It always amazes me that despite the wide range of diagnoses every participant lives with there are so many overlaps and things we all have in common. I agree with your perspective on escaping…I love nothing more than to lose myself in the pages of a good book. Definitely, something I have been doing lately while dealing with the latest flare. Will look forward to next month. Take care Rhiann xx - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 14, 2018 Thanks as always for the support, Rhiann 🙂 Yes I genuinely love to learn about what everyone’s up to every month, and how they cope (or don’t cope) with it. I find it comforting to know that I’m not alone, and encouraging to see how each and every one of us are fighting on in our own small and different ways. The perspectives are wonderful, too. Escapism is an art, hey 🙂 Like you said in your own post, sometimes the pain gets so intense that it can be hard to escape. It does take a lot of determination and focus just to escape, sometimes! 😉 - Suzanne Oct 8, 2018 I really admire your strength! I also can relate to so much of what you said. I am big on control, and have to really look at that when I got sick. Finally, there was something I could not control and it really turned me upside down. I think I’m still trying to come to terms with it. I really appreciate you doing this link up party. I was afraid to put my writing out like this with other bloggers, but I am so glad I did. Plus, I learn so much about others and it makes me up my game a little. lol - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 9, 2018 Hi Suzanne, thank you for dropping by! Yes I think many of us with chronic illnesses get big on control. Pacing after all, is about controlling everyday activities in order to prevent the pain of a flare up! And you’re most welcome, I’m glad you decided to join us! I will definitely be checking it out soon! And don’t forget to add it to the main linkup page so everyone else can read it, too 🙂 x - [Lisa Ehrman ](https://chronicallycontent.com) Oct 7, 2018 Budgeting is a big deal for me, too. Living on a limited budget makes it hard, and sometimes we overdo it. This year has included many extra trips to doctor’s appointments. When you have to get a hotel, it really can add a lot! Budgeting is something that keeps challenging us, but at least we can try again next month 🙂 - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 7, 2018 I think I’m extremely fortunate to have family and a partner who supports me not just emotionally, but physically and financially too. In that sense, I am very fortunate 🙂 They’ve never made me feel bad about spending that little extra to feel better either, which is lovely of them. But I definitely need to live within my means 🙂 - Alisha Oct 6, 2018 I think that these are things that people with chronic health can struggle with a lot. I think the more that we talk about them the more that we don’t feel alone. I was hoping to submit an article but every time I click the link to participate it takes me to another page that doesn’t have a place to link and submit my article. I have never done this before but it does sound like a great idea 🙂 - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 6, 2018 Hi Alisha, thanks for taking the time to read and comment, it is appreciated! The links look to be correct on my end. When you click on them, it should take you to the main linkup page, where all the other blogs can be found. Just scroll down, and you should see the thumbnails where you can click to read what others have submitted, too. There is also a small blue ‘add your link’ button where you can add your own blog entry. Feel free to ask if you have more questions! - Alice Oct 4, 2018 I’m looking forward to this one – it’s already planned as one of my Blogtober prompts 🙂 - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 4, 2018 Can’t wait to read it! x - Jen @ The Frozen Mind Oct 2, 2018 I really enjoyed reading your post and I really enjoy taking part in this Link Up party! - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 2, 2018 Thanks Jen, it’s always exciting to see someone add their perspective and share about their life in the linkup! - Nikki Oct 1, 2018 Yeah I have the same budgeting issues. But a lot of it comes from decreasing hours with bills designed to be paid by two fulltime incomes. And then using all my savings when I was on leaves the insurance company refused to pay. So I need to have a strict budget. And likely some sort of debt consolidation in the near future. - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 2, 2018 I’ve gotten so used to not working full-time, I wonder how I can cope again. But I think I also need to find a way back to earning an income for myself, somehow. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Invisible in Singapore: What's It Like to Live Here with Chronic Illnesses? URL: https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/ Last updated: 2026-04-23T15:36:17.000Z These answers are my response to the “Invisible Cities Linkup” (Pros & Cons of Living with Chronic Illness in Your City). You can [**submit your own entry and read more about other countries here**](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-cities-linkup/). Updated: - **18 Sep 2018:** Kale. Also, images are all from [Unsplash](https://unsplash.com/). *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ## What it's Like Living with Chronic Illnesses in My City, Singapore ### Best thing about your city for living with chronic illness? Singapore is a tiny city-state that’s only 50 km (31 mi) across. While that means there aren’t many options in terms of landscapes, getaways or housing, what it also brings is convenience. Public transport is efficient, and I use Grab a lot (like Lyft). I can usually get a driver within 3 minutes, and they arrive pretty quick as well! Just about everything has a delivery service available here as well: groceries, beauty products, meal deliveries, laundry, housekeeping, etc. None of these are too expensive either, and there are options any day or time of the week. ![Fast-paced streets of Singapore](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/singapore-streets.jpg) ### Worst thing about your city for life with chronic illness? The weather, for one. It’s hot year round, hovering around 30°C (86°F) or more on average during the day. Humidity levels are about 80%, which can be the real sapper of energy, more so than the heat. The lack of space limits the variety of outdoor activities. Cars are ridiculously expensive (which can be a good thing for the environment, I suppose!). A Honda Civic would set you back by about USD84,000\. I really enjoy road trips and find them relaxing, but that’s not something that’s possible within the country (you’d be done in an hour 😉 ). Yes there are nice nature trails and small island getaways, but no real camping spots where you just go into nature for a couple days. Housing is another pricey affair, and most of us live in apartments. To own an actual house with a garden would cost you millions. On the upside, I guess there’s less housework to do with a smaller house! Read Related Posts: - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [Why I Moved from SiteGround to Cloudways (and Couldn’t be Happier). Plus Cute Puppy Pics & A New Pacing Strategy.](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/) - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) ![HDB Apartment in Singapore](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/singapore-hdb-apartment.jpg) ### How accessible do you think your city is? ~~My last wheelchair experience was over a decade ago so I can’t really comment on that, but back then I did find it troublesome to move around.~~ Update: well I became **[suddenly disabled and bed bound for a year](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/)** when I suffered a **[spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/)**. Now I'd say that Singapore city is average in terms of accessibility. Many restaurants do not cater for certain diets, and many buildings aren't very wheelchair-friendly. The disabled bathroom, even at the hospital, isn't easy to navigate when you've broken two knees and need to keep them straight! As for challenges that stem from chronic illnesses such as dizziness, nausea, etc, I feel safe and confident going about my day alone thanks to the ease of hiring transport. The city is small so rushing to the ER is fast, compared to other countries where you’d probably need to drive for at least an hour (and [**when you’re in pain, a minute feels like eternity**](https://achronicvoice.com/dealing-with-pain/)). My country is known – even mocked – for its strict laws and governance, but that also means safety and low crime rates even at night. All these factors contribute to improving the quality of life not just for me, but every other person as well. Read Related Posts: - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) - [Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-home-resources-learned-other-blogs/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [What’s It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) ![Disability accessibility Singapore](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/disability-singapore.jpg) ![Disability accessibility Singapore](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/disability-singapore-2.jpg) ### How educated is the public on chronic illnesses there? My extended family may not understand the full details of my illnesses (they just know that ‘I’m really sick’), but they always make me feel so loved during gatherings. [**As for the general public, not much at all based on my personal experiences**](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/). I’ve faced discrimination in the workplace many times especially from HR. They’ve even used my illnesses as an excuse to exclude me from certain company activities, in order to scrimp on costs. Many of us don’t really open up about such things as well, especially if there’s a mental aspect to it, which still holds quite a bit of stigma in most Asian societies. In fact, I only [**found out that a number of my colleagues and friends also live with chronic illnesses**](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) only after I started my blog! It’s surprising how we can become invisible even amongst ourselves, despite the daily pains. Read Related Posts: - [Disability & Sex: Disabled People are Not Automatically Bad Sexual or Romantic Partners](https://achronicvoice.com/disability-and-sex/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - [Is Seeking Help for Your Mental Health Worth It?](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [A Page From a Sick Girl’s Diary: Sometimes I Wish I was an Old Person](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girls-diary-wish-old-person/) ![Stigma in Singapore](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/youth-singapore.jpg) ### If you could pass one new law in your country, what would that be? I think I’d still give the same answer as I did in this [interview I did on Gemma of Wheelescapade’s blog](https://wheelescapades.com/2017/11/28/twenty-questions-with-sheryl/) (see Question 18). I’d put a heavy tax or ban on plastic goods and chemicals (I know that there are complexities to this too, so I’m just saying in general) – anything that harms our planet and in turn, us. I believe that the government has great power and a huge role to play in terms of making positive changes within society. One or two small groups aren’t going to make a big difference, or would take a long time to do so, as compared to the awareness and laws a government can make. ### Which is your favourite city or country (other than your own) and why? This is a tough one, because [**I love travelling**](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/), and to different places for totally different reasons! For Europe, I like Paris because it’s colourful, delicious, historical, and really a feast for all the senses. Also Italy in general; I remember going to Europe with my family for the first time when I was 13, and my dad’s company lent us a van. We drove around Austria and Switzerland, and they struck me as rather sedate (compared to Asian cities at least). And then we entered Italy, which stood out because it was so vibrant, with the most amazing pizza ever! (You need to remember that 20 years ago, ‘good pizza’ in my country would have been a little above Pizza Hut standard 😉 ) For Asia, I like Mongolia because it feels so liberating – the endless space is mind blowing, especially since I come from the city where there’s always ‘something in the way’ no matter where I face. There, you can accelerate in any direction for miles and miles without pause. It really was an amazing feeling to me. ![Mongolian yurts](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/mongolia-yurt.jpg) And of course, Hong Kong, because I grew up there and have so many fond memories associated with it. The weekly family outings, summer island getaways, dim sum, Christmas and New Year festivities, after school playtime, the two hour bus ride to school, and so much more. Childhood was also the healthiest and most carefree period of my life. I kind of think of it as my hometown 🙂 ![Apartment blocks in Hong Kong](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/hong-kong-flats.jpg) ### Where in the world would you visit, if disability, illness or level of fitness weren’t an issue? Also the [same answer I gave on Gemma’s blog](https://wheelescapades.com/2017/11/28/twenty-questions-with-sheryl/): Iran (or Persia, just because it sounds more romantic 😉 ). The architecture is gorgeous, the complex history is amazing, the food is delicious, and I’m sure it’ll be quite the adventure! Check these out: - [10 Must-See Sites of Iran’s Historical Architecture](https://mymodernmet.com/historical-architecture-iran/) - [Photographer Captures the Beautifully Kaleidoscopic Ceilings of Mosques](https://mymodernmet.com/james-longley-isfahan-mosque-ceilings/) ![Blue Mosque in Iran](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/iran-blue-mosque.jpg) ![Iranian tile art](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/iran-tiles.jpg) ![Iranian architecture](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/iran-architecture.jpg) ### What sort of ‘alternative treatments’ wouldn’t raise any eyebrows there? (Perhaps it’s ingrained in the culture, totally legal, etc). Traditional Chinese medicine, for one! I mean, lots of us are Chinese here 😉 This includes herbs, acupuncture, tuina, cupping, foot reflexology, etc. The furor over Michael Phelp’s cupping marks was hardly worth mentioning in the local papers. Ayurvedic medicine is also popular, including their herbs, oil massages, etc. There are four main racial groups in Singapore (Chinese, Malay, Indian and Eurasian), and we’re mostly respectful and tolerant toward each other. Hospitals have diets available for each of them (I usually select Indian meals because they’re the tastiest for hospital food!), and it’s not too unusual to see people praying to their various gods or handing out protective charms to their loved ones by their hospital beds. Stuff like that. Another thing I honestly find baffling is the outrage pain scales cause in Western societies. I’ve never heard of anyone complain about it here (or maybe I don’t talk to enough people). But it’s almost like an unspoken understanding that the pain scale is meant to be interpreted on an individual basis, and the number we give is according to our own pain tolerance levels. I was chatting with a girl who lives with Crohn’s in the ward bed next door the other day, and she was telling me a story of how the nurse told her that she had to go to the hospital if her pain levels were at a ‘2’, because her tolerance had become that high! I personally have not seen anyone’s pain disbelieved in the wards at least. While Singapore is extremely strict with drugs (I’m sure you’ve heard of our infamous death penalty for drug trafficking), I guess the good side to it is that we get the pain relief we need during acute crises. Oh and kale. It’s a very common and cheap vegetable here that people cook all the time! The repackaged ones with fancy letterings in the supermarket are way overpriced 😉 Read Related Posts: - [Floatation Therapy: Did it do Anything for My Chronic Pain?](https://achronicvoice.com/floatation-therapy-chronic-pain/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) ### Which are the most and least affordable alternative therapies there? How much do they cost in general? Body and foot massages are cheaper compared to Western countries, at least from the price lists I’ve glimpsed while overseas! Sometimes people even take a short plane ride for the weekend to places such as Thailand or Bali, where it’s even cheaper and more relaxing. I would imagine visiting a TCM doctor here would be cheaper as well. Flotation therapy is pricier compared to the U.S. I think. Cryotherapy is way too expensive for me to even try on a regular basis. ![Cupping therapy](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/cupping-therapy.jpg) ### How expensive is it to live with a chronic illness there? Any stats you’d like to share to give a clearer picture? My medical bills cost $1,000 – $2,000 per month, most of which are for medications. Drugs belong to different categories, and the government subsidises them at different rates if you’re under public healthcare. We have a scheme where chronic illness patients get slightly more coverage, but the ironic thing is that disorders such as Lupus don’t fall under that list…don’t ask me why. I’ve asked various sources, but nobody has a good answer. Isn’t Lupus as chronic as it gets?! Read Related Posts: - [The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don’t Reflect)](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Chronic Illness is Expensive, but Here’s the Real Reason Why](https://achronicvoice.com/real-reason-why-chronic-illness-expensive/) - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Why I Need to See 10 Different Doctors on a Regular Basis](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) - [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) ![Gardens by the Bay in Singapore](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/singapore-gardens.jpg) ### What are the hospitals like in terms of service, quality of care, emergency room protocols, etc? Service is pretty inconsistent, I think. It depends on which ward I end up in, under which nurses, etc. The quality of care in general is pretty good although once again, there are good and bad doctors and healthcare staff in every institution. [**Emergency room protocols can definitely be improved**](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/). I understand that it’s always going to be hectic, but I do think certain changes will help. I think the pre-admission triage needs better guidelines and assignments. Whilst they have a queue system going on, they never seem to be fully maximised. I was once bleeding profusely internally but was left in a corner for hours, and even had a doctor professionally roll her eyes at me when I mistook her for a nurse. Those who are bleeding visibly get attended to immediately, but internal bleeding is probably more deadly. I’ve spent years seeing and un-seeing many doctors, surgeons and healthcare professionals. I’m more or less happy with the team I’ve assembled for myself now, even though I had to go under private healthcare for some of my doctors, such as my [**heart rhythm specialist**](https://achronicvoice.com/heart-rhythm-disorder/), as I couldn’t find anyone suitable for me in the public hospitals. ![Singapore skyline](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/singapore-skyline.jpg) ## In Conclusion to What it's Like Living with Chronic Illness in Singapore As you can see, there are many pros and cons about living with chronic illness in Singapore. Personally for me, the biggest benefits are the convenience and affordable costs in terms of transportation, grocery delivery and hiring help. The biggest downsides are the lack of space which means that you can't just go on a relaxing road trip or an immersive nature walk. I would love to hear what you think in the comments below, and also more about your own town or city! [Join the “Invisible Cities Linkup” here](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-cities-linkup/) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does 'Normal' Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) - [A Day in the Life of a “POTSie” (A What??)](https://achronicvoice.com/day-in-life-potsie/) - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) - [Hey You…It’s Me (M.E. Struggles & a Tribute to the Human Spirit)](https://achronicvoice.com/me-struggles/) **Go-to Local Resources:** - [Ministry of Health](https://www.moh.gov.sg/) - [SingHealth](https://www.singhealth.com.sg/Pages/home.aspx) - [List of Hospitals and Institutions](https://www.sgdi.gov.sg/other-organisations/hospitals) Pin to Your Chronic Illness, Travel & Singapore Boards: ![Invisible Cities Linkup: Singapore. The pros and cons of living here with a chronic illness.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_singapore-linkup-2.jpg) ![Invisible in Singapore — What's It Like to Live Here with Chronic Illness? Read on A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/invisible-singapore-whats-it-like-live-here-with-chronic-illness.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [Sarah Warburton ](https://sarahwarburton.com) May 26, 2021 Ok so I’m very late to this but really enjoyed reading about real life in Singapore. I find it fascinating to read about how others live and what life is like elsewhere too. Great idea 🙂 - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 27, 2021 Thank you so much Sarah! Me too, hence why I started this series 🙂 I really hope to read your entry someday! 😀 - Rhonda - Spoonie Mom Blog Oct 7, 2019 Thanks again for such a wonderful linkup. It already feels like I’m going on a little trip by reading each blog. Love, love, love your informative post on Singapore. You and I have a funny thing in common. When it comes to hospital meals, Indian food is my favorite too. Great photos! - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 9, 2019 Thanks for joining us too, Rhonda! So interesting to read about everyone’s locations 🙂 And exactly what you said – a bit of armchair travel! Haha do they also serve Indian meals at the hospitals there? x - [Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Oct 15, 2018 I’m late, but better late than never. I learned a lot from this article as well as from our own meet-up while you were in Taipei. I think the thing I found most surprising about Singapore is the cost of everything there. I was really shocked when you told me how much it costs for people to live in Singapore with a chronic illness until I found out what medications cost in Taiwan without insurance. What a great idea for a blog link-up. I’ve really enjoyed participating in your link-up parties. I wish I had time to do more of them. - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 15, 2018 Hi Carrie, you are not late, at all! This linkup is meant to be relaxed, fun and educational 🙂 So far I’ve really enjoyed and learned a lot from everyone! Yes Singapore isn’t friendly for people with chronic illnesses…at all. I think I like the European systems best, lol ;p (But they like it here because of the low tax rates! 😉 ) And no worries, join whenever you like, I totally appreciate you even joining in a single one, knowing more about your condition from out short chat in Taipei! Sending lots of hugs! xx - Emma (Not Just Tired) Sep 21, 2018 Really interesting read Sheryl. Great to hear more about where you live and from the perspective of chronic illness. So interesting to hear about different cities and cultures – great idea! It’s kind of like travelling without the effort!! xx - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 22, 2018 Hi Emma, thank you! Yes I find it very interesting too. And answers many questions I’ve always had about what it’s like elsewhere with chronic illness! P.s. Not sure what happened with the spam filter but seems this comment went through? I will add you to the whitelist regardless x - Deborah Rogers Sep 21, 2018 This was such an interesting post. It sounds like you’ve become a good voice for others, helping them to open up about their illness and pain. It’s interesting what you say about the pain scale, because it drives me crazy. I never know what to answer doctors. When my pain is high but I am feeling like I am managing it, I rate the pain low, but then docs don’t realize how badly I’m feeling. It confuses me what I should tell docs sometimes. Thanks for sharing this info! - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 21, 2018 Hi Deborah, thanks for the feedback! I’m actually a little overwhelmed with keeping up with all the blogging stuff…it’s endless, but in a good way! 🙂 Yes, the pain scale is interesting, as I see extreme opinions and comments about it (amongst others) online, and it makes me wonder about a lot of things. That’s why I started this series, it’s just so fascinating to see how different healthcare is all over our world 🙂 As for me personally, I tend to separate ‘pain tolerance’ and ‘pain levels’, and just tell them the ‘actual’ level, if that makes sense! Because I think it helps them understand it better, too. I might say something like, “the pain is at an 8, but I can still manage it.” But at least they’re aware! - [Maya ](https://www.spreadhopeproject.com) Sep 20, 2018 It’s really interesting to see how illness is treated around the globe, both in terms of perception as well as healthcare. I’m curious, are the alternative therapies (any/some/all)covered by insurance in Singapore? I’m just wondering since, as you mention, you have a large Chinese culture and Chinese medicine is common, if that is covered there? Most alternative therapies aren’t covered here in the U.S. As for the pain scale, I think that’s probably because, at least here in the U.S, doctors/health professionals are often more rigid – i.e. “we can’t do xyz until your pain is at a 6”. So if for instance, you have a high pain tolerance you may never “qualify” for that, because you may never reach a 6, even though you could be worse off than someone with a low pain tolerance who says they’re at an 8\. Some doctors/health professionals get that it’s personal, but I honestly think so much of that is insurance getting in the way – we have so many rules and regulations about what you can do when and why because of insurance, that I think doctors feel they have to “stick to the rules”. Just my interpretation, of course. 🙂 - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 21, 2018 Hi Maya, thanks for your feedback. Yes it’s so interesting isn’t it? I’ve really enjoyed learning about every single one of the cities submitted so far 🙂 As for insurance, it works differently here. We don’t have disability/benefits, so it’s all out of our own pockets with government subsidies based on income levels. Which isn’t much really, my bills still cost $1k – $2k per month even though I’m unemployed. This is because they base income per family unit, and many of us need to live with our parents/family here unless we’re married (sometimes even when married), due to high housing costs. So even if you’re not working, they take into account every other family member. They also take into account the type of house you live in, so if you live in a condo and not HDB (like regular government type apartments), you’re also disqualified for yet more coverage. But for private insurance if you purchase it, I believe most of them have some coverage for TCM, too. I see it on my travel insurance at least 😉 As for pain scale, I just responded to Deborah above about it which might interest you, too! Thanks so much for the thoughts, hope to learn even more from you soon! 🙂 - [Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Sep 19, 2018 This is fascinating as I’ve wondered what healthcare is like elsewhere, and it’s interesting to read the social aspect too in terms of acceptance/understanding of invisible illness. Great post, very intriguing reading but a shame about the emergency care and also having to go private for certain things (though I guess it’s similar in the UK with often having to go private for various referrals and tests, and improvements could always be made with A&E). x - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 19, 2018 Hi Caz, thanks for the feedback! I was actually surprised how interested people were in this, too 🙂 It’s something I’ve always wondered – what’s it like living elsewhere with a chronic illness. If you like you can contribute anytime (no deadline!), and I hope over time this page becomes a useful resource as well as provide hope to others out there! x - [Jenny ](https://trippingthroughtreacle.com) Sep 18, 2018 Sheryl, this was so interesting! My cousin lives in Singapore, she is a physiotherapist. She said that she has had to really get her head around the difference between the healthcare there and here (UK), but she loves it! The acceptance of alternative remedies sounds great. - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 18, 2018 Hi Jenny, I never knew that! Where does she work at, if I may ask? And what sort of differences does she have difficulty wrapping her head around? I’m also super curious 🙂 x - Jenny Sep 18, 2018 This was so interesting! It’s a great idea for a theme for linked blogposts. I’m hunting down the others now. - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 18, 2018 Hi Jenny, I’m happy you find it interesting, too! Dov’s entry is also on the main page about living in Northampton, Western Massachusetts. I found it really interesting as well 🙂 - [Claire Saul ](https://www.painpalsblog.com) Sep 18, 2018 Sheryl, I love this post so much – so interesting! I am starting to think about mine…..I have mentioned you and shared your post in a shout out on Magic Magic Inspiring Blogs for You! Claire x - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 18, 2018 Thank you so much Claire, am so happy to know that it’s at all interesting haha. I can’t wait to read yours!! xxx **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Invisible Cities Linkup: Pros & Cons of Living with Chronic Illness in Your City URL: https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-cities-linkup/ Last updated: 2025-10-28T15:48:14.000Z ## The Invisible Cities Linkup – A Resource on Chronic Illness, Travel & Culture I’ve always been interested in cultures, specifically the differences, and [**what’s considered ‘normal’**](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) to each. This linkup will be about the ins and outs of the city or town you live in, in relation to the quality of life as someone with an invisible illness. Keep it to just one location, but if you feel compelled to share about another place you grew up or lived in as well, feel free to submit a separate entry. This is to keep the repository of information as uncluttered and accessible as possible. My hope is that you have some fun, read something educational, and share something insightful here. If you don’t own a blog but still want to participate, let me know and I’ll publish it on mine if suitable. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the author(s)' personal experiences as patients. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Invisible Illness, Travel & Culture Boards: ![Invisible Cities Linkup: Pros and Cons of Living with Chronic Illness in Your City](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/invisible-cities-linkup-pros-cons-living-with-chronic-illness-your-city-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ## How to Participate in the Invisible Cities Linkup 1. Copy and paste the list of 10 questions below into a new post on your blog. 2. Answer them as best as you can, but skip the ones that you can't. Then publish the post to your blog. 3. Email me the published URL to your blog post: info @achronicvoice.com 4. **Leave a comment on at least two other blog posts** in this linkup, for every entry that you submit. If you like, you can also share your favourite entries to your social media! 5. **Share this main linkup page** to at least one of your social media outlets to help spread the word around. 6. Failure to follow these rules might get you blacklisted from future linkups. Let's keep it fair for all 🙂 Thank you and have fun! Can't wait to learn more about where you come from, and all its nuances that only you would know about. ## Q&A: What's the Quality of Life Like in Your City with an Invisible Illness? 1. Best thing about your city for living with chronic illness? 2. Worst thing about your city for living with chronic illness? 3. How accessible do you think your city is in general? 4. How educated is the public on chronic illnesses there? 5. If you could pass one new law in your country, what would that be? 6. Which is your favourite city or country (other than your own) and why? 7. Where in the world would you visit, if disability, illness or level of fitness weren’t an issue? 8. What sort of alternative treatments or therapies wouldn’t raise any eyebrows there? (Perhaps it’s ingrained in the culture, totally legal, etc). 9. Which are the most and least affordable therapies there? How much do they cost in general? 10. How expensive is it to live with a chronic illness there? Any stats you’d like to share to give a clearer picture? 11. What are the hospitals like in terms of service, quality of care, emergency room protocols, etc? 12. What should foreigners be aware of in regards to healthcare, if they want to visit or work in your city? ## View Participants' Answers to the Invisible Cities Linkup 1. [**Invisible in Singapore**](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/) (A Chronic Voice) 2. [Invisible in Chicago](https://risingabovera.com/invisible-in-chicago-whats-it-like-to-live-here-with-chronic-illness/) (Rising Above RA) 3. [Philadelphia: Living With Chronic Illness](https://spreadhopeproject.com/2018/09/20/philadelphia-living-with-chronic-illness-invisible-cities-linkup/) (Spread Hope Project) 4. [Invisible in Taiwan: Living in Taipei with Chronic Illness](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/2018/10/15/invisible-in-taiwan-living-in-taipei-with-chronic-illness/) (My Several Worlds) 5. [**Invisible in Florence: Life with Chronic Illness in Italy**](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-florence-chronic-illness-italy/) (Sara Russell) 6. [Invisible Cities – Having A Disability In Norwich](https://wheelescapades.com/2018/10/17/invisible-cities-having-a-disability-in-norwich/) (Wheel Escapades) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does ‘Normal’ Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) - [What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Featuring People with Illnesses, Passions & Talents](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-people-illnesses-talents/) Pin to Your Invisible Illness, Travel & Culture Boards: ![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/invisible-cities-linkup-quality-of-life-across-globe-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/11-pros-cons-living-chronic-illness-city-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [Sarah Warburton ](https://sarahwarburton.com) May 26, 2021 I’m new to all this and just learning the ropes of blogging, but just came across this and, wow, what a great idea! Just reading through some of the blogs of others on this topic and found it really interesting to read about other places (probably because I’m nosey…) but will work on my own experiences of life in rural England and post when done 🙂 - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 27, 2021 It would be super awesome if you did that… this is one of my personal favs to read… a bit of an armchair travel, curiosity and it’s just interesting to see how others with chronic illness live elsewhere! - Rhonda - Spoonie Mom Blog Oct 7, 2019 I love that this linkup is open indefinitely so that I can keep coming back for more! Just added my link and hope that I did it right. Looking forward to hopping over to every city! Thank you for having me. xoxo - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 9, 2019 Hi Rhonda, I am so happy to see a new addition to this linkup, it’s one of my fav topics to read about! Will definitely read it soon! xxx - Jo Moss Oct 2, 2018 What a great idea! I’ve just added my link – I think I did it correctly. Can’t wait to read everyone else’s posts, its fascinating to read about different places around the world. - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 2, 2018 Yay, so awesome to have you onboard as well! Yes, you posted it correctly 🙂 Can’t wait to read and share. - Jenny Sep 18, 2018 Oh I am UP for joining in on this! Has anyone done London yet? Or Barcelona? - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 18, 2018 Would be super awesome to have you share with us too, Jenny!! The more knowledge the merrier, and what better way to learn and hear about stuff than locals, and people who’ve actually lived and experienced the place for themselves! No one’s done London or Barcelona yet, but even if they do, please don’t hesitate to share your own view as well. Perspectives can be so different 🙂 x - Bree Sep 15, 2018 Count me in on this one. - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 15, 2018 Yay can’t wait to read your answers!! 🙂 If there are more questions you think should be added – let me know! This is not set in stone, and I honestly would love to learn more about how life is altered for all types of conditions in various places 🙂 xx **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Find Your Way Back to Happiness with a Chronic Illness URL: https://achronicvoice.com/find-happiness-chronic-illness/ Last updated: 2026-05-06T15:56:11.000Z ## An Introduction to Lisa & How to Find Your Way Back to Happiness Using the Zorro Principle As Lisa demonstrates in this post, we can glean inspiration and insight from many things in life, even if they may seem irrelevant or unrelated. I do believe that knowledge gained is never wasted. It expands our capacity for understanding, and often helps with problem solving in other areas of our lives. In this post, Lisa shares with us some strategies she learned from a book about career, yet are applicable to the management of life with chronic illness. Read on to find out how they helped her to find her way back to happiness and success. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Happiness Boards: ![Find Your Way Back To Happiness With A Chronic Illness. Guest Post By: Lisa M. Alioto.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/find-way-back-happiness-with-chronic-illness-guest-post-lisa-m-alioto.jpg) ## In Search of Lost Happiness When I first became sick with a chronic illness my life seemed to stop. Everything, or so it seemed, that I loved vanished in an instant. Adventures with my friends, dancing late into the night, hard-core workouts by day…[**I felt like I had lost myself**](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/). At the same time, I felt like I was drowning in a pool of life’s daily tasks that were quickly piling up on me. The one thing I knew was that it was up to me to change what I could, to [**find the pockets of happiness**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) from my old life that still existed and if I wanted to continue to live a happy life I had to find new opportunities for happiness to replace the ones I had lost. Read Related Posts: - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [Finding Your Self Behind the Illness (Your Story Isn't Over Yet)](https://achronicvoice.com/finding-self-behind-illness/) - [#ProjChronicWisdom: Simple Pleasures I Can Enjoy Whilst Stuck in Bed with Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/projchronicwisdom-simple-pleasures-enjoy-pain/) ## A Life Strategy on Finding Your Way Back to Happiness, Gleaned from a Book However, before I could focus on the positive, I felt I had to get rid of these new feelings of becoming overwhelmed all the time. With limited energy, even the smallest of tasks started to pile up on me and quickly became a long to do list that haunted me day in and out. In my most cynical times, the list almost seemed to mock me. “Ha ha…look how far behind you are. You’ll never catch up now!” That’s when I decided enough was enough! Luckily, a friend introduced me to the book, [“The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology That Fuel Success and Performance at Work.”](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0307591557?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=706a73945f2c3c2917cd0c4336418b66&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Now you might be thinking – work?? How is a book about work going to help me when I’m stuck at home struggling to sort through my mail or do a load of laundry? That’s the beauty of the book – while its title is focused on increasing success and performance at work, there’s not a single principle in it that cannot be applied to life with a chronic illness. To illustrate this, I want to share with you the one I found to be most successful for me in this regard. This strategy helped me tackle those unending waves of feeling overwhelmed any time a new task was put on my plate. Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [Are You a Capable Person? What Does That Even Mean?](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You’re All Invited, Too!)](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies: Part II](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies-2/) - [Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill: Part III](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-3-chronically-ill/) ## What Exactly is “The Zorro Circle”? The Happiness Advantage discusses [the Zorro principle](https://www.designyourlife.net.au/blog/the-happiness-advantage/principle5). It shares how Zorro did not start out as a world-renown swordsman. At one time he wasn’t a famous swordsman at all but rather a man with very little in his life and many hardships. So how did he grow beyond his limitations, in this case, advance his sword fighting skills? The key to his success was having a circle drawn in the dirt, with him in the middle. He was only allowed to fight and eventually conquer what was in that small circle. As he progressed, the circle widened. Eventually he became Zorro, with a circle as wide as can be and the character we’ve all come to know. Okay...reality check time! At times we can’t even get off our couch let alone participate in swordsmanship so how does this Zorro story apply to us? The key to his success, and ours, is that very basic principle of drawing a circle in the dirt. In short, we must isolate and conquer. ### How to Isolate and Conquer So how do we do that? Here’s an example where I had to draw one of my Zorro circles. I was referred to a specialist. Sound familiar? As you all know, with that simple referral comes [**scheduling the appointment**](https://achronicvoice.com/prepare-medical-appointment/), figuring out how to get records released, finding out if the provider is in network, and on and on. Yikes – it’s exhausting thinking about all these steps. In moments like these, I need to stop and draw my Zorro circle. I order all these tasks and commit to accomplishing just one of them in a specific time frame. I remove from my mind all related and unrelated tasks; just focusing solely on the one at hand. Silly or not, when I achieve that step, I feel happy and successful! I then widen my circle…just a bit…and set a time frame for my next step and so on. Before you know it, my insurmountable, overwhelming obstacle, is overcome! Success! You will be amazed at how many tasks the Zorro principle applies to in our daily lives – whether it’s vacuuming the house, doing laundry or making a grocery list, each of these tasks can be broken down into smaller segments. In other words, into its own circle. Start small and build from there. And remember, isolate and conquer! (Why didn’t I think to do this before I got sick too???) Read Related Posts: - [Why I Need to See More Than 10 Different Types of Doctors Regularly](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) - [Is My Doctor Right for Me?](https://achronicvoice.com/is-my-doctor-right-for-me/) - [It is \*Always\* Possible to Make Time for What Matters Most](https://achronicvoice.com/make-time-what-matters-most/) - [A String of Bad Days (and What Happened When That Good Day Finally Came Along)](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/) - [Useful Home Resources I Never Knew Existed (and Learned About from Other Chronic Illness Blogs)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-home-resources-learned-other-blogs/) ## Joy Can be Found in All Moments, Not Just the Fun Times Admittedly, the reason I started with this strategy was that I felt that I couldn’t find happiness until I figured out a way to overcome these obstacles that were piling up and interfering with my ability to focus on positive, fun opportunities. However, the success I found with accomplishing each of my obstacles, that in and of itself brought me feelings of happiness and success. While I was buried in the midst of my illness, I clearly had forgotten that joy can be found not just in fun, light moments, but also in achieving what one once thought they couldn’t achieve. Living with a chronic illness often makes what once was possible seem impossible. The Zorro strategy (isolate and conquer!) reminded me how rewarding overcoming big and small hardships can be. Try it – I think you will be surprised at the results! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read More Posts Written by Lisa Alioto on the Blog: - [Hey You…It’s Me (M.E. Struggles & a Tribute to the Human Spirit)](https://achronicvoice.com/me-struggles/) - [The Value in Seeking Out Moments of Gratitude (and How to do it)](https://achronicvoice.com/value-gratitude/) - [How to Use the Tetris Effect to Invite Positivity Back into Your Life, Despite Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/tetris-effect-positivity-chronic-illness/) - [Mainstream: Can You Talk to Us About ME? (There are Enough 'Normal' Health Tips to Go Around Already)](https://achronicvoice.com/mainstream-me-health-tips/) Read Related Posts: - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [You Don’t Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) **Contributor Bio:** ![Lisa M. Alioto headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/profile-lisa-alioto-2.jpg) Lisa M. Alioto is a lawyer, career coach, and Myalgic Encephalomyelitis warrior with a strong belief in the power of positivity! She primarily focuses on writing articles about ME, along with invisible and chronic illnesses in general, with the goal of increasing awareness and providing hope, help and support. She is also the Vice President of the MN ME/CFS Alliance. Find her on [Twitter](https://x.com/lisaalioto). ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Debbie Oct 16, 2018 I love this idea♡ and what memories the word Zorro brought back! When I was a young girl, maybe 8 or 9, I LOVED Zorro! Lol! I think that “love” is going to help me to remember to practice using your Zorro Circle Guide! I get SO overwhelmed at times by the things I need to do. Simple things! I’m no longer able to work, so the things I do are pretty basic, yet, still overwhelming. (After 7 years with an actual dx of Fibromyalgia, I still find this sad) Visualizing an actual circle to help me tackle one thing at a time, GUILT FREE?! How extremely freeing will that be?!! Thank you so much for this♡ Always, Debbie - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 16, 2018 Haha! That’s good to know we have a Zorro fan (and therefore of this article, ha!) 😉 Lisa would be delighted to know, I’m sure! 🙂 Let us know how this method works out for you, I’d be interested to know! xx - [ Wendy ](https://www.pregnanteve.com/implantation-bleeding-early-late-period/) Sep 19, 2018 This is one of the most insight blog and blog posts. I had never heard of Zorro principle. It’s makes things so clear! It’s like Epiphany!!! - [ Verla ](https://treesmendus.com) Sep 10, 2018 Yes to celebrating small accomplishments! And yes to finding lightness in everyday moments. Thank you. I like the Zorro principle application too. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 11, 2018 Hi Verla, indeed, baby steps are often what takes us far! I am trying out the Zorro strategy this week and so far it’s been helpful 😉 x - Kirsten Sep 10, 2018 It’s true, we always focus so much on the outcome. We wait to be happy till we accomplished something big. But we have to learn to find happiness in the process and every small step is an accomplishment. Great message! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 11, 2018 Hi Kirsten, agreed. I’m very goal-oriented myself, but need to also learn to enjoy the process as it progresses 🙂 Life is after all, one big progression! Sending hugs! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### September 2018: Reconnecting with Friends & Family, and Sharing on Social Media URL: https://achronicvoice.com/reconnecting-friends-family-sharing-social-media-september-2018/ Last updated: 2025-10-28T16:07:14.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Reconnecting with Old Friends and Family This is a rare thing for me to say because I enjoy being alone and am never bored, but I’ve [**reached a point of isolation overload**](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) 😉 I hardly have any friends whom I hang out with on a regular basis anymore. When I was working full-time the little pockets of personal time I had were such great blessings, and they still are. But I also recognise the need for me to increase my human interactions, as it plays an [**important role to our mental and emotional well-being**](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/). *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ### Initiating Human Contact, Before I Become That Weird Bird Lady So I’ve been [**initiating meetups with various friends**](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) and loved ones, or I force myself to accept more invitations to social events. ‘Force’ isn’t the best word, but in general I would pick staying home alone over large gatherings. They’re good in small doses however, and [**helps to keep my mind sharp, current and energised**](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/). I’m already on my way to becoming ‘that weird bird lady’ as it stands (or perches). As always, the tricky part is being fully aware of my energy supply at *all* times, or risk a flare up. My last weekend was packed with activities (well, just one per day really), which was enough to put me in bed for all of Monday! ![Weird bird lady](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/weird-bird-lady-2-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Becoming a weird bird lady. Say "hello" to Scorcher, my cockatiel! ## Confessing to My Bad Eating Habits We’re all human here. That means that most of us do things that we know aren’t good for us, or avoid those that are 😉 I confess to struggling with my everyday diet, even though I know it’s important for my health. I love my desserts, and after my last session with the nutritional therapist, I realised just how much inflammatory foods I’m eating in general. I mean, I may know these facts in my head, yet am desensitised to the data because I read so much about them. I’m looking at the list of no-nos she wrote down: no gluten, no bread, no deep fried foods, no processed meats, no sugar, not too much coffee, no this, no that, no life. I know that others have it worse, such as those with IBD, gastroparesis, celiac disease, MCAD, etc, so I feel stupid for phrasing it that way, and for being a whiner. But there you have my confession 🙂 My plan for now is to add on the probiotic foods and supplements first, then figure out how to make the reductions in everything else work. Eventually...eventually I'll get it done 😛 Read Related Posts: - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) - [Learn More About the Super Rare Disease – Esophageal Diverticulum](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/) ## Relaxing with a Good Read Before Bedtime I received a Kindle in July, and so far I really like it! To my surprise, [**reading is actually much easier on the Kindle**](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) thanks to a number of factors: its light weight, perfect size, easy grip, and clear fonts. I also go on highlighting rampages, which is actually a similar process to how I mark blogs out on [Instapaper](https://www.instapaper.com/) before re-sharing them to my social media. The only thing I dislike is the way the pages transition - that quick flicker irks my brain a little; I’m not sure if that’s related to [**my epilepsy**](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/). It’s pleasant drifting off to sleep whilst reading a good book; a soothing feeling which is quite unlike any other form of relaxation. Check out the list below for some book recommendations, if you have no idea where to begin 🙂 Read Related Posts: - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You’re All Invited, Too!)](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies: Part II](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies-2/) - [Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill: Part III](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-3-chronically-ill/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [How Much Time Are You Wasting On Sleep?](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/) ## Romanticising Living Overseas "Romanticise" may sound like a romantic word, but it’s not. I’m not sure if it only applies to idealistic sorts of people, or if everyone romanticises a little? For me, [I romanticise about living in Europe](https://medium.com/100writingdays/my-biggest-jealousy-390b6b9397d6), in some cobblestoned town or city that's steeped in history, with the mountains in the background or nearby. For some reason I’m always happy when I walk along ancient streets, and gazing at mountains fills me with serenity. They possess a magical vibe drenched with details spanning centuries. This may be because my own country is only 53 years old. We do tend to be [**fascinated with that which is ‘other’**](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/), I suppose? Whilst this might be ‘the dream’, I’m also aware that living in a place is a whole new ball game than visiting as a tourist. Perhaps if health and finances permit, I might just pick one destination in Europe to go live in for a couple months, then I'd have better insight into what it's really like. Any recommendations, anyone? 😉 But anyway, I need to stay put for now, with these new nerve symptoms and seizure episode 😞 P.s. I did manage to live in Berlin for 3 months, which you can read about in the links below! Read Related Posts: - [Coming Alive in the Winter Air (Pushing for Personal Changes & Group Advocacy)](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-advocacy/) - [Winter Fun, Games & Pain with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-fun-chronic-illness/) - [A Hurried Return, but Chronic Illness’s Opening Hours Remain Unchanged](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-opening-hours/) - [Travelling New Paths with Chronic Illnesses in My Pocket](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-new-paths-chronic-illness/) - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) ## Sharing About My Chronic Illness Life on Social Media Sharing about your life on social media can be many things. It can be dangerous and unfair if your words get twisted. It can be invasive and a hassle if someone plagiarises your work or images. It can be degrading and demoralising if some troll decides to spit all over the words you took so much courage to say. It can be so many negative things, so why would any sane person take the risk? ### The Emotional Toil of Writing Poetry I wrote a lot of poetry in my youth. It’s actually quite a tedious process where you can feel like you’re bleeding your heart out onto the page. Until the poem managed to encapsulate the soul of that very moment I was trying to illustrate, I would never be satisfied and would toil at it for days, sometimes even months. I’d usually know when it was ‘done’; vulnerability would be stamped all over it. ### Dreams of Being a Legit Author Why am I telling you this? Well [**I've always dreamt of being an author**](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/), and realise that to be a good one is to always be vulnerable. To pluck up the courage to explore that which humanity shuns, to bare your soul and expose your flaws for all to see. Such emotional requisites are necessary even in fiction and fantasy, or people wouldn't be able to relate. ### Daring to Bare to My Vulnerabilities - My Humanity A profession is a kind of relationship, where compromises are usually needed. For the writer, I think 'total privacy' is what you sacrifice. So many things can be revealed about your person simply by the way you write, and not just the content. Thus [**I've given up on hiding my weaknesses**](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) ages ago. Now I share in hope that it's helpful to someone out there, and also to release my pain onto paper. This helps me to make some sense of it all. Thank you for reading my September 2018 thoughts. You can [**continue with October 2018 here**](https://achronicvoice.com/passive-income-pacing-october-2018/) if you're curious! 🙂 Or [**read the previous month's entry - August 2018**](https://achronicvoice.com/boredom-stimulating-cuddling-birds-august-2018/). ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) - [A Quarterly Reflection: 12 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned](https://achronicvoice.com/quarterly-reflection-life-lessons-learned/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [It’s Just One of Those Nights (Poetry on Steroids)](https://achronicvoice.com/one-of-those-nights-poetry-steroids/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![2018 September Prompts: Reconnecting, Confessing, Relaxing, Romanticising and Sharing](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_prompts_18-09-1-2-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Nicole Starbuck Sep 9, 2018 Thank you so much for sharing! I can relate to the bad eating habits. I’m usually pretty good about avoiding my no-no’s (no wheat and no dairy), but sometimes I really crave sushi (which has imitation crab made with wheat, is usually accompanied by soy sauce), and I’m a sucker for whipped cream and I really like cheese. So…sometimes I slip. But you’re so right – there’s definitely an inflammatory response! I’ve been experimenting with probiotics and digestive enzymes to offset the inflammatory effects for those times when I just can’t resist. Keep up the good habits! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 9, 2018 Hi Nicole, thanks for sharing, too! I’m impressed with your self-control 😉 ‘Slipping’ once in a while is okay, I think, as tasty food is a pleasure, too 🙂 Problem is I slip too often ha! Definitely need to get that inflammation under control though. Take care! - Kathy Forsyth Sep 7, 2018 Hi, Sheryl! I think you’re an author already. You publish great posts week after week. I have always wanted to visit London and the surrounding countryside ever since I read Beatrix Potter tales to my young children. Then I discovered the Chronicles of Narnia by C.S. Lewis and the desire just grew. If only our energy levels matched our dreams? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 7, 2018 Hi Kathy, thanks for the kind words 🙂 Your support has been invaluable, too. Aww…where do you currently reside in? London is lovely, and I love looking at pictures of the little towns and hamlets, filled with overgrown flowers and cobblestoned streets, too 🙂 - Maya Sep 6, 2018 I love these prompts and how open you are about everything – especially vulnerability, and dreams versus what may be feasible at the moment. I too, have always dreamed of living in Europe – I vacationed in Catalonia this year and I’m pretty sure I could live there if I remotely spoke any of the language! And as for the writing, I think you’re right – vulnerability and writing, especially sharing your writing, goes hand in hand. It can be so tough to push through, but it shows such strength to open up about everything! <3 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 7, 2018 Hi Maya, thank you so much for the comment and kind words, I appreciate it! Vulnerability, once accepted, can become a strength, I believe. Because it means you no longer fear your weaknesses, and can turn it into a tool not just for self-improvement, but for helping others, too 🙂 That’s a relief to hear I’m not the only one with ‘silly dreams’ of living in Europe 😉 I think I’d love living in a place where I didn’t speak any of the language, though! Best way to learn is being thrown off the deep end 😉 But of course, I’d need to have ‘take me to the best international hospital now’ written down and carried everywhere I go haha! #spoonieproblems 😉 Sending hugs! x - Nikki Sep 6, 2018 I have also been doing some reconnecting! I’m introverted and it feels almost unnecessary since we can amuse ourselves so well. But then it gets to that isolation point and you realize some human contact is actually a good thing. Definitely when we get into winter months as well - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 6, 2018 Hi Nikki, yes that’s so true…I don’t need external stimulus for entertainment either! Although I’m not sure I’m 100% introverted, I was more outgoing before becoming ill! 🙂 Yea human contact definitely needed to keep me sane at least, or I’ll end up living in a fantasy world in my head 😉 We don’t have winter here although I wish we did! - Kate Jennings Sep 5, 2018 Hey ‘weird bird lady’! Great read as always 🙂 There is nothing wrong with being an animal person. I myself am a ‘weird cat lady’ and my husband swears I love my cat more than I love him… he might be onto something 😉 Anywho, it’s difficult maintaining friendships as a spoonie and I think it’s great you’re making plans. I know this means sometimes forcing yourself to go out, but that isn’t necessarily negative. The sad truth is when you’re a complicated sausage (as spoonies tend to be), it does require a bit of effort sometimes, but that is okay. If ever you are in the UK, do come to London. I will take you on a gentle guided tour if ever you’re able to come over. Though ‘guided’ might be a bit of a stretch… more like I could point you in the vague general direction of stuff and there would be heavy reliance on Goggle maps! Take care x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 6, 2018 Thanks Kate! Haha I just meant I was/am spending way more time with my birds than those of the same ‘breed’ as me ;p Yea complicated is an understatement, hey? 😉 London is lovely, I’ve been there a couple times and also to see Prof. Graham Hughes. I have a blood clotting disorder which is named after him as he discovered it! 🙂 Thanks, I’ll keep that general pointing of direction aid in mind…I’m terrible with directions, the epitome of female direction sense 😉 x - Jennifer Sep 5, 2018 I am definitely the same when it comes to eating healthily. I have a massive sweet tooth and find it hard to resist desert! But I know that eating well really helps with my symptoms. I also romanticise about living in a city lined with cobbled streets and rich in history. I live not too far from Edinburgh and visit a few times a year. I romanticise about living there all the time. I hope your health improves enough to come to Europe! Your writing is always amazing to read thanks for sharing these prompts 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 5, 2018 Heh yea, to me dessert is life! I mean, it makes me happy, so… 🙁 But I’ll try and eat better for my own sake. Just sad our junk threshold is lower than healthy people’s, but hey, still grateful for all my body does for me every day. Do you also romanticise about that? I thought I was the only one with silly dreams 😉 I hope so too, I always enjoy visiting Europe, it feels magical, something like that 😉 And thanks for the support. I’m really happy to see you again in the monthly prompts…am always happy whenever people decide to share 🙂 Take care and have a fab month! x **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### YuYu Bottle Review: Hot Water Bottle for ‘Surround Warmth’ Pain Relief URL: https://achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-review/ Last updated: 2026-05-03T16:33:12.000Z *\*Disclaimer: Whilst this post is sponsored by YuYu Bottle, all opinions expressed in this review are my own. All images of YuYu bottles are from yuyubottle.com, except for those that feature me, my pets or my own bottle. This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. 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My [emerald luxury fleece YuYu bottle](https://yuyubottle.com/products/yuyu-luxury-fleece-set-long-hot-water-bottle-with-wearable-cover?variant=45228202000701) arrived via DHL, and I had to open it up to check it out immediately. I’d been browsing YuYu’s website for *ages*, and was overjoyed to finally own one! Heat therapy is underrated – it often works better than painkillers for me to relieve menstrual cramps. It is also great for certain types of joint aches, especially when combined with magnesium for a good soak in a hot tub. Up until then, my regular hot water bottle would follow me around the house for the entire period (pun intended 😉). It so happened that I was right smack in the middle of my menstruation cycle when I received the parcel, so what better time to do a YuYu bottle review? ![YuYu Hot Water Bottle in Coral Luxury Fleece](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/yuyu-hot-water-bottle-coral-luxury-fleece.jpg) Yuyu hot water bottle in coral luxury fleece ![Yuyu hot water bottle in emerald luxury fleece — strapped across my waist](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/yuyu-hot-water-bottle-emerald-green-luxury-fleece-draped-waist.jpg) Yuyu hot water bottle in emerald luxury fleece — strapped across my waist Read Related Posts: - [The Chronic Pain Cycle & How to Break It (Top Tips From an Occupational Therapist)](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [Pregnancy, Miscarriage & Women’s Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) ## Some Background Information About YuYu Bottles The YuYu hot water bottle measures 81cm (31.88"), and its elongated shape is what made it popular. Thanks to its length, the YuYu bottle can strapped around the body, draped across aching muscles, or placed on painful spots that can be harder for regular hot water bottles to reach. The capacity is slightly more than my regular hot water bottle, and easier to fill up as well. The YuYu bottle is a top 20 bestseller at Harrods and Selfridges in London, and five star hotels such as The Mandarin Oriental, The Ritz and Four Seasons have had bespoke designs made, to provide that extra bit of comfort for their customers. ## YuYu ICE and Pulse – New Additions for Cold Therapy If you’re looking for cold therapy instead of heat therapy, YuYu now sells the YuYu Ice Recovery bottle and YuYu Ice Pulse just for that. The [YuYu Ice Recovery](https://yuyubottle.com/products/yuyu-ice-recovery-set) bottle is a bit longer at 90cm (35.43"), and stays cold for up to 6 hours after you’ve frozen it. The design differs from their hot water bottles in that they come in connected 'chambers', so that they stay flexible even when frozen. The fabric cover is also designed to stay dry and comfortable on the skin. The [YuYu Ice Pulse](https://yuyubottle.com/products/yuyu-ice-pulse) is meant to be strapped onto your wrist for target pain relief. It was designed together with sports scientists, which reassures me that it is designed with safety and therapeutic effects in mind. The YuYu Ice Pulse stays cold for up to 75 minutes, so as not to cause skin irritation or vasoconstriction. ### Used by Top Athletes to Stay at the Top of Their Game, Too If you’re into tennis or F1, then you might just have spotted a YuYu Ice Recovery bottle in use! Jack Draper has used the YuYu bottle during changeovers, and Esteban during pitstops. Other [sportspeople who also use the YuYu Ice Recovery bottle](https://yuyubottle.com/pages/sports) include rugby and netball players, and olympic athletes. ![The YuYu Ice Recovery bottle](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/yuyu-ice-recovery-bottle-yellow-blue.jpg) The YuYu Ice Recovery bottle ![YuYu Ice Pulse](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/yuyu-ice-pulse-purple.jpg) YuYu Ice Pulse Pin to Your Heat Therapy & Cold Therapy Boards: ![Yuyu Bottle Review: Hot Water Bottles and New Ice Recovery Range](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-review-hot-water-bottles-new-ice-recovery-range.jpg) ## First Impression for This YuYu Bottle Review My first impression of the YuYu bottle was how smooth and luxurious the fleece cover was. This pleasant sense of touch made me feel calm and comforted. Next, I tightened the strap around my waist, and was happy to note that it stayed on firmly – no slipping, sliding or constant re-adjustments were needed. I even managed to wash the dishes and clean up after my birds hands-free, with the YuYu bottle providing ongoing pain relief from the emitted heat. P.s. I see they now have a [cover that comes with pockets](https://yuyubottle.com/collections/cover-upgrades/products/yuyu-luxury-fleece-pocketz-cover-only), and who doesn’t love pockets?! ![Grade A Sri Lankan rubber, designed to trap heat for longer. Eco-friendly, biodegradable, fair trade and flexible material.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-material-grade-a-sri-lanka-rubber.jpg) Grade A Sri Lankan rubber, designed to trap heat for longer. Eco-friendly, biodegradable, fair trade and flexible material ![YuYu bottle with pockets](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-purple-luxury-fleece-pockets.jpg) YuYu bottle with pockets ## Plenty of Choices for YuYu Bottle Covers, if Fleece is Not Your Thing Another plus point for YuYu is that their covers can be easily swapped, which is great not only for sensation, but also style or colour to match your mood! ### Grade A Cashmere Covers for Even More Luxury If you’re looking for an even more luxurious feel, their [grade A cashmere covers](https://yuyubottle.com/collections/cover-upgrades/products/30-cashmere-cover-only) are sourced from Inner Mongolia, which is renowned for having the world's softest cashmere. They use a traditional and ethical combing process which removes only 100 grams of wool from each goat per year. The process also helps to prepare these goats for the hot summer months. ### Cotton Covers for Sensitive Skin If you're allergic or sensitive to these materials, perhaps their [100% organic Japanese cotton collection](https://yuyubottle.com/collections/cover-upgrades/products/organic-cotton-cover-only) might be worth considering. These covers are not processed with chemical agents such as bleach or dye. They also have an [organic cotton waffle bottle cover](https://yuyubottle.com/collections/cover-upgrades/products/yuyu-organic-cotton-waffle-cover-only), which comes in a perforated surface to allow for more breathability and heat retention. ### Linen Covers for Even Better Heat Retention If you’re looking to maximise heat retention from your YuYu hot water bottle, then their [Belgian Pimlico linen covers](https://yuyubottle.com/collections/cover-upgrades/products/pimlico-linen-cover-only) do a wonderful job at that. These covers come with extra cotton padding for better insulation which can last for several hours. ## ‘Surround Warmth’ that Radiates Outwards I loved that the YuYu bottle was ‘surround warmth’, with the heat spreading out to provide better relief, rather than confined to one small section of my body. It provided pain relief for my back, as I had been sitting and working on my laptop for some time. I also tend to tense up the muscles in my neck and shoulders without realising it, and the YuYu bottle could be draped across with ease. I was able to continue working without any hindrance, whereas I’d have to reposition my regular hot water bottle frequently. ![YuYu hot water bottle gift box set](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-gift-box-set.jpg) YuYu hot water bottle gift box set Read Related Posts: - [Curated Chronic Illness Gift Ideas for Christmas, Birthdays & Other Occasions!](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-gift-ideas/) - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/) - [All I Want for Christmas is Some Pain Relief! (Real Wish List Ideas from 13 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/all-i-want-for-christmas-pain-relief/) - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) ## Some Thoughts on the YuYu Bottle vs Weighted Blankets I bought a weighted blanket a few months ago to see if it’d help with [**my sleep and anxiety issues**](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/), and I’m going to go so far as to say that I prefer the YuYu bottle, at least for these purposes. In fact, I’ve been using it like a warm bolster every night, hugging the fluffy fleece against my body for comfort. ### High Quality Materials Used to Make the Bottle The YuYu bottle is [made of grade A, eco-friendly and fair trade rubber from Sri Lanka](https://www.yuyubottle.com/our-story), combined with a bubbled surface which helps to trap the air within the fabric. This helps it to remain warm for longer, and I usually fall asleep before it even cools down. ### The Problem with Weighted Blankets for Me Whilst the weight *is* the point of a weighted blanket, the problem for me is that I have trouble evening out the beads and pulling the cover over me, especially when I’m already aching and fatigued. The material used in weighted blankets is also rather warm, which might be great during winter, but [**not when you live in a tropical climate year round**](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/). The YuYu bottle on the other hand, is lightweight and also much cheaper than a weighted blanket. This is not to discount the benefits of a weighted blanket, and the purposes you use them for can be entirely different. But I also thought I’d share some thoughts, in case you were weighing up a few different choices to aid with your own chronic pain conditions or sleep issues. ![Green parrotlet stands on top of the emerald green luxury fleece YuYu hot water bottle](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/green-bird-on-yuyu-hot-water-bottle.jpg) The YuYu hot water bottle isn’t only loved by humans 😉 ![A cockatiel rests on the emerald green luxury fleece YuYu hot water bottle, all fluffed up in comfort](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/cockatiel-on-yuyu-bottle.jpg) My birds love the warmth from my YuYu Bottle, too! Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Product Review Boards: ![Yuyu Bottle Review and 15% Discount Code (My Bird Approves). (A green parrotlet perches atop the YuYu emerald luxury fleece hot water bottle, seemingly with a smile on its beak.)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-review-discount-code-bird-approves.jpg) ## WYSIWYG (What You See is What You Get)! We all have expectations when we purchase or receive something, and this was no exception. Usually I’m disappointed because the purported benefits of a product aren’t as great as their marketing makes it out to be. However, I’d say that what you see on the website is what you get for the YuYu bottle. The YuYu bottle is exactly as advertised, and met all my expectations. It is a useful product to [**add to your pain relief toolkit**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/), especially if you rely on heat therapy. It should last a long time if cared for properly, and is flexible enough to be used everywhere, and for various chronic pain conditions. ## Minor Things About the YuYu Hot Water Bottle to Take Note of Whilst the strap is soft and flexible, they are also looking at improving the design in order to make it hardier. (P.s. I think they’ve upgraded this, from what I can tell on their website!) And whilst the YuYu bottle fits my body size perfectly, my partner’s dad had trouble tying it around his own waist for his back pain. It works just as well if you simply want to lay it across trigger/pain points, however. ## Suggested Usages for the YuYu Hot Water Bottle Some suggested ways to use the YuYu hot water bottle: - Drape it across your sore, aching muscles or joints. - Strap it around your waist to relieve back, abdominal or period pains. - Hug it to relieve anxiety and to provide comfort. - Sling it across your neck and shoulders to relieve muscle tension whilst you sit or work. - Fill it up with ice cold water instead of hot water for some cold therapy instead. It can then be used to soothe inflammation or sore muscles post-workout. The possibilities are endless with the YuYu bottle! YuYu has also collaborated with other chronic illness foundations, charity organisations, artists and sportspeople. They were also kind sponsors for one of our Christmas giveaways previously 🙂 So I’d say that the YuYu bottle can be used in a diverse range of situations! You can [check out the full list of who they've collaborated with here](https://yuyubottle.com/pages/brand-collabs). ![YuYu hot water bottle in London Liberty fabric - draped around the waist](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-liberty-london-fabric-v2.jpg) YuYu hot water bottle in London Liberty fabric - draped around the waist ![YuYu hot water bottle in London Liberty fabric - hugging for comfort](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/yuyu-bottle-liberty-london-fabric.jpg) YuYu hot water bottle in London Liberty fabric - hugging for comfort ## Get Your Very Own YuYu Bottle at a Discounted Price! I hope that this YuYu bottle review has proved useful if you were thinking about getting one either for yourself, or as a present for someone else. If you’re unsure what your loved one might prefer, [YuYu also sells gift cards here](https://yuyubottle.com/products/yuyu-gift-card) (I personally love gift cards, and don’t think they’re impersonal 🙂) Whatever you choose to purchase, don’t forget to use the discount code **ACHRONICVOICE!** on checkout to get a sweet **15% discount**! [Shop YuYu Bottles Here](https://yuyubottle.com/shop) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Resource Boards: ![Yuyu Hot Water Bottle Review — Learn more about YuYu bottles and get a 15% discount in the post!](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/yuyu-hot-water-bottle-review.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [How to Survive the Holidays When Chronic Illness & Disability Cause Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/survive-the-holidays-chronic-illness-disability-pain/) - [Floatation Therapy: Did It do Anything for My Chronic Pain?](https://achronicvoice.com/floatation-therapy-chronic-pain/) - [#ProjChronicWisdom: Simple Pleasures I Can Enjoy Whilst Stuck in Bed with Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/projchronicwisdom-simple-pleasures-enjoy-pain/) - [Must Haves After Knee Surgery to Stay Comfortable in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/must-haves-after-knee-surgery/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Mar 10, 2021 I’ve seen so many people on Instagram talk about the yuyu bottle and it does seem to be different given that you can wrap it around you. Rather tempted to get one now . . . - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 15, 2021 Haha… it’s nice and comforting for a bedtime hug for me! The warmth is lovely. - Capricious Aug 30, 2018 I’ve never used a hot water bottle, but I have to say I really like the design and cover of this one and wonder if I’d have more success using something like this over a heating pad. I have MCAS and heat intolerance, which heating pads (and even heated massage chairs) can really aggravate. Maybe a hot water bottle would be better. Is it terribly heavy filled? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 30, 2018 That’s interesting to know. I think there are such things as heating blankets or pads where you can adjust the temperature/volume. Might work better than a hot water bottle, as bottles can get pretty hot, and they’re ‘fixed’ at one temperature, but do slowly cool over time! - Claire Saul Aug 24, 2018 I couldn’t be without my various heating pads – I really like the look of this for my dodgy neck. I wonder if they’d like a UK reviewer?? Fab review Sheryl and as ever lovely pics x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 24, 2018 \*Various\*! Which and how many do you use? 🙂 Haha this is easy to drape across the neck because it’s so long. You can definitely try emailing them on their website to see if they need UK reviewers x - arv Aug 23, 2018 Looks like it is a great reliever of pains. I feel hot water bottle is indispensable. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 23, 2018 Hi Arv, yes hot water bottles are one of the most important tools in my pain relief toolbox 🙂 - [ Amelia ](https://www.youcanalwaysstartnow.com) Aug 23, 2018 This is new to me as I have never heard of them before. Also new is the tying around which I think it great as more versatile. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 23, 2018 Hi Amelia, yes the tying around is helpful especially when you have pain around your abdomen area, yet need to move around to get stuff done! - [ Rachael Stray ](https://rachaelstray.com) Aug 23, 2018 This sounds so idea for period pain especially as you are then free to use your hands to get on with every day tasks. Rachael | [https://rachaelstray.com/ ](https://rachaelstray.com/) - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 23, 2018 Yes!! It was great for period pains, but I also especially loved it for anxiety and sleep 🙂 - Alice Aug 22, 2018 Thank you for including a link to my post ? I love the look of this hot water bottle – it would be ideal for both my neck and endo pains. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 23, 2018 You’re welcome, Alice. It was a very informative post so I thought it might be useful for others, too! 🙂 The bottle looks and feels great 🙂 - [ Lydia ](https://www.beinglydia.com) Aug 20, 2018 Heat therapy has never worked well because I generate so much myself. If I use a hot water bottle or heating pad, even for five minutes, I break out in a very damp sweat. But if I was to try it, this would definitely be my go-to product. Thanks for your very informative and positive review. I will definitely keep it in mind and refer people to your review who might benefit. 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 21, 2018 Hey Lydia, thanks for reading and commenting, even though heat therapy isn’t your cup of tea 😉 For me it depends on the type of pain (could call ourselves pain connoisseurs I suppose?). For example, heat would make muscular flares from Sjögren’s extra painful, and I need to soak my hands in icy water. But for more types of pain, heat works great! - Meagan E Aug 20, 2018 This looks so luxurious and comforting! I never even considered a hot water bottle until reading this post. And as for the cashmere option? That sounds ahhhmazing! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 20, 2018 Hi Meagan, luxurious and comforting are the right words to describe it! ;D Haha you can use the 15% discount code if you’re interested 🙂 Hope it brings you a slight bit of homely luxury! 😉 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### There's No One Way to Live Your Life URL: https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/ Last updated: 2026-06-18T16:03:00.000Z ## Is This All There is to Life? It’s easy to get sucked into one way of thinking, when you only live your life one way. Staying under one roof with one partner, or staying in a rented apartment with a constellation of flatmates. Hanging out with the same group of friends, or not hanging out with anyone at all. Having one job, or having no job. Picking the same foods from the same supermarket aisles. Experiencing a different sameness every weekend. The result of this is thinking that there’s only one [**definition of success**](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/), and that there’s only one method to the art of living. I begin to think that everyone else’s wants are my needs, and that their lack is my lack. I construct barriers for myself without even realising. Isn’t this how society works? Isn’t this the correct roadmap for the rest of my life? I see many people going pass me on this path, so it has to be the one? *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. 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Thank you!* Read Related Posts: - [The Barriers That Throw Rocks into My Bucket List with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/) - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does ‘Normal’ Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Live Your Life Boards: ![There's No One Way to Live Your Life (and how to find your best new normal with chronic illness). Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/theres-no-one-way-to-live-your-life-how-find-best-new-normal-with-chronic-illness.jpg) ## The Chronic Illness Mouse Trap For those of us with chronic illnesses who spend many of our days at home in pain, unable to work, cook or clean, this routine can feel terminal. How do you live your life, when it feels as if chronic pain or fatigue is the one who's running the show? Will we ever be like everyone else again? Which begs the question…who is ‘everyone else’? Do I mean my friend, ex-colleague, ex-lover, Paris Hilton, or a boy from the slums of Delhi? Perhaps I meant ‘every healthy person’, ‘from my country’. But as I have discovered, this is a [defective and harmful way of thinking](https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/20-cognitive-distortions-and-how-they-affect-your-life-0407154), because perfection exists only in my imagination. ## What is “Normal”, Anyway? This is one of the many reasons [**why I love travelling so much**](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/), despite my multitude of chronic illnesses which makes it a hindrance. It is the fastest and easiest way to re-open my mind, and realise that [**the possibilities of my future are endless**](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/). The first thing I always notice when I travel, is how different another culture's 'normal' can be. Setting foot onto a stranger’s territory brings about an instant awareness that there’s no such thing. I’m the alien with foreign ways here, and how I live my life is puzzling to them. Travelling unwinds the strings around my heart, and I float free. Freedom...what a beautiful and fleeting sensation. Whilst I could probably recreate this feeling back home, travel is a puff of pressure that propels it forward. [**I feel a little more confident, a little happier, a little stronger**](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/). I remember my humanity. I recognise myself again in the mirror of life. This article about how [truth is dependent on where you stand, and what you see](https://kevinmd.com/2025/07/how-truth-depends-on-where-you-stand-and-what-you-see.html), resonates for similar reasons. Here is one of the many golden nuggets of wisdom from it: > "Behind every firmly held belief lies a human being, shaped by a unique constellation of influences, stories, fears, histories, and hopes. This kind of understanding doesn’t dilute conviction; it deepens humanity." Read Related Posts: - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [Kick Ass With Kindness and a Sweet Cherry on Top](https://achronicvoice.com/kick-ass-with-kindness/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [Finding Your Self Behind the Illness (Your Story Isn’t Over Yet)](https://achronicvoice.com/finding-self-behind-illness/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life & Perspective Boards: ![What is “Normal”, Anyway? Read the post: There's No One Way to Live Your Life on a chronic voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/whats-normal-anyway-blue.jpg) ## How to Retain This Awareness in Everyday Life This got me thinking as to how I can recreate this feeling and be more mindful when I’m back to the grind. It isn’t too hard, although it does take some time, effort and courage. ### Expanding My Social Circle I could expand my group of friends, for example. We tend to hang out with those who think like us. This is great, but it also runs the [**risk of sealing ourselves within our small perspective bubble**](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/). We are unable to comprehend the lives of others of a different social status, nor they ours. You're bound to gain new life insights by talking to people who are different from you. At best, it can be an epiphanic revelation that inspires you on a new path. At worst, you rediscover or reinforce your personal values and what matters most to you in life. ### A Career Change, Even Within the Same Profession Changing careers is a another life-changing move that can invoke this same realisation that there is no such thing as 'normal' (though I'm not asking you to up and do it on the spot!). You meet new people, take a different bus, or work on a different job scope. The routine may be similar, yet everything changes, too. ### Picking Up New Hobbies If you're homebound or stuck in bed, it is still possible to mix things up little by [**experimenting with new hobbies**](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/). You might develop a passion for something you thought you'd never like, and/or unlock new facets of yourself. You might develop new strengths, come to new conclusions, or find new ways of solving an old or recurring problem. Reading a book from a genre you wouldn't normally read can do this, too. The content can provoke thoughts or perspectives that you wouldn't usually consider. A human was responsible for the content after all, so in a sense it is communication with a different mind or mindset. ## Finding My Best New Normal with Chronic Illness Again (and Again) Life is about uprooting and replanting. Sometimes by the gardener of life, and other times by stormy weather. But we can also choose to change our scenery; there is nothing stopping us except for our belief that we can’t, or shouldn’t. I believe that as human beings we have the potential to adapt to almost anything when forced to, or when given a chance to. Even if it's just a whisper, you have some say as to how you want to live your life. And sometimes, a whisper can mean a lot. Perhaps we’re afraid about what others will say, or we fear what may be. Routine, no matter how unstable or unhealthy, can feel 'safe' because we know how to deal with it. There is a degree of control, even if that control is directed solely towards your own reactions. But guess what? We’ll know how to deal with a new way of living, too, after we've lived it for a while. And we’ll wonder then, how we could have lived the life we’re living right now. Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life & Self-Awareness Boards: ![Finding My Best New Normal with Chronic Illness Again (and Again)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/finding-best-new-normal-chronic-illness.jpg) ![Chronic Illness Life - There’s No One Way to Live Your Life - Read More](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life.jpg) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. 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Read Related Posts: - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Featuring People with Illnesses, Passions & Talents](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-people-illnesses-talents/) - [Flowers are the Most Beautiful When They’re Just About to Die (and What That’s Got to Do with Being a Spoonie)](https://achronicvoice.com/flowers-most-beautiful-die-spoonie/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Oct 28, 2020 I think I read this just in time. I have been wanting a pup in my life for a while now and as that dream nears (fingers crossed), I’m beginning to think of all the changes I’ll need to make and what a big responsibility this will be and whether I’m up for the change. I’ve already made a lot of changes this year in terms of starting the blog, learning new things for it and now I’m wondering if I’m okay to handle more change, but as I read this post, I feel this change should be good for me, although it makes me very nervous. Some times, life becomes stale in our everyday, in that “sameness” as you put it – let’s see how this goes. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 I hope you get your toy poodle soon, Shruti! He’ll bring so much joy into your life I’m sure 🙂 And change is a good thing, I think. Sameness can be insidious as it just stays without us realising. Sending good thoughts! - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Oct 27, 2020 I love to travel, even if that just means visiting places around London or nearby. it opens up my mind too, and I can’t wait until it feels safe to do that again. Because life does feel rather repetitive staying home right now . . . - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 Sad that we need to stay home for now, for so long. I do wonder when we will be able to travel again freely. It would be so refreshing. - Nikki Albert Oct 19, 2020 I discovered when I got worse with the vertigo and fully disabled life became so very small and limited… but I knew I needed to live my life in that limited space somehow or what life would I have? So I do my writing, blogging, and art. I socialize when I can. And I live a life in there with a lot of rest and recovery. I still do the things I love and I am passionate about… it just has to be paced more and slower. But you have to find a way to fit some life in there or you will just fade away into nothing. I can’t stand stagnation. Not using my brain. All This Rest. I need my hobbies and interests to make me feel alive. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 8, 2020 You do so much Nikki, I am constantly amazed, do you know that??? Writing both fiction, blogs, and more!! I want to do that too but keep falling back to just blogging lol. - [ Miriam ](https://miriamslozberg.com) Aug 22, 2018 Yes, you have to do what is best for you. What works for you may not be right for someone else and vice versa. So this is all well said. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 22, 2018 Exactly, Miriam! Thanks for dropping by and reading 🙂 - Cynthia Covert Aug 17, 2018 If there is one thing that my chronic illnesses have taught me is that there is no one size fits all for treatment, pain relief, or how we live our lives…. What works for one may not for another and that is okay… - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 17, 2018 Definitely. I believe that even if it’s a placebo effect, if it’s relieving you of your pain and not causing harm then that’s a good thing, too! - [ Amelia ](https://www.youcanalwaysstartnow.com) Aug 16, 2018 I feel the same way about travel. Always opens my mind and happy when I’m seeing new things. I think we need to shake ourselves off once in a while. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 16, 2018 Hi Amelia, yes! I like that term – ‘shake ourselves off once in a while’. Like shake the ego off for a bit 😉 x - [ Rachael Stray ](https://rachaelstray.com/) Aug 16, 2018 You’re so so right perfection only exists in your imagination. Remember everything is not as perfect as social media depicts! - [ Ritu ](https://www.butismileanyway.com) Aug 16, 2018 Great thoughts here! Routine is comforting… But not the be all and end all! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### August 2018: Boredom Can be Stimulating & Cuddling My Pet Birds URL: https://achronicvoice.com/boredom-stimulating-cuddling-birds-august-2018/ Last updated: 2025-10-29T07:53:08.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Figuring Out These New Nerve-Tingling Symptoms To be chronically ill is to be an enigma. The need to deal with a constant stream of puzzles arises, mysteries that you either solve or live with. [**July presented some strange new symptoms**](https://achronicvoice.com/blogging-rants-protecting-my-peace-july-2018/) for me. It started as tingles in my legs and feet when I got out of bed each morning, before the buzzing became a steadfast companion 24 hours a day. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ### A Step-by-Step Process I am blessed that I have such responsive doctors, who communicated with each other, and slotted me in for an earlier appointment. It’s most likely to be [peripheral neuropathy issues from Sjögren’s disease](https://www.hopkinssjogrens.org/disease-information/sjogrens-disease/neurologic-complications/), which has left my nerves alone until now. They’re also testing for other possible causes just to be sure – diabetes, syphilis, HIV (I did say they wanted to be sure!). I’m waiting to do the nerve test but if nothing shows up, then the next step will be to [**stop my blood thinners**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/), so that I can do a biopsy to check on the small fibre nerves. Do any of you suffer from nerve-related issues? If so, do you have tips or knowledge to share? Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![2018 August Prompts: Figuring, Completing, Boring, Cuddling and Chatting](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_prompts_18-08-1-2-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Undoing My Healthy Dietary Changes I’m not even sure what triggered it, but that shouldn’t be a surprise with chronic illnesses. Whilst I did change my diet somewhat as suggested by my nutritional therapist, it wasn’t anything ‘hardcore’. Anyway, I’ve cut everything out again so I’m back to square one, with additional symptoms to deal with. Don’t you hate this cycle, especially when all you tried to do was help your body out? In Chinese we have this saying, “越帮越忙”, which means “the more you try to be helpful, the more problems you create”. Sometimes I don’t even feel like trying new remedies out for such reasons. ## Completing My Life by Expanding My Variety of Activities I know I sound like a broken record every month, as I repeat my 'new' goals but end up procrastinating mostly. I spend a huge chunk of my life doing blogging related activities. Whilst I still do enjoy them and have no plans of stopping, I’d also like to re-introduce other activities back into my life again. For one, I need to [**take the initiative to visit my friends**](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) and family a little more. I’d also like to spend more time with nature even though I live in an urban jungle, and to start doing some light swimming again. I’d like to read more, and on a wider variety of topics. I’d like to spend more time making home cooked meals, even though I don’t like to cook. I’d like to watch more movies with my partner, and discover new TV series. Anything and everything, as you can see! I guess what I mean is that I’d like to put on my curiosity cap again, in order to exercise and stimulate my brain in more ways than one. I believe that by doing so, it will contribute to a life that’s more wholesome, fulfilling and complete. Read Related Posts: - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You're All Invited, Too!)](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/) - [Life is a Long Process of Becoming Into…](https://achronicvoice.com/life-is-a-long-process-of-becoming-into/) - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [February 2019: Hopes to Awaken Life Within Me Again](https://achronicvoice.com/february-2019-awaken-life-within-me/) ## Boring Can be Stimulating in the Long Run In addition to the prompt above, this also means that I’d like to start differentiating my weekends from my weekdays. Because I’m home most of the time, the lines can get blurry. I have decided that I’d like to set work, blogging, and other computer-related activities aside during the weekends (apart from my newsletter). I’d like to be bored. To allow my mind to wander, in order to explore new trails and creative pathways. I realise that when I’m unable to access my laptop, phone, or some other stimulus, my brain starts to get restless. Then something magical happens after it goes beyond that stage. It begins to provide me with interesting new ideas for blog topics, or throws up thought-provoking questions. It reminds me of forgotten tasks, suggests healthy activities, and proposes some useful changes I can make in my life. I try to ‘take notes’ so that I don’t forget! I am fortunate enough to remember a time where the internet and mobile data were rarities, so I do know clearly what the benefits to being bored are. Thus I’d like to set aside my weekends and just get bored, so that when Monday comes around again, I’ll be recharged, refreshed, a little smarter from a new venture hopefully, and also more productive! Read Related Posts: - [How to Rewire the Brain to Manage Chronic Pain (& Resources to Help)](https://achronicvoice.com/rewire-brain-manage-chronic-pain/) - [Floatation Therapy: Did it do Anything for My Chronic Pain?](https://achronicvoice.com/floatation-therapy-chronic-pain/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) ## Cuddling with My Lovely Pet Birds I read two interesting articles on the sense of touch recently. One explores the other-than-physical aspects of touch, which goes beyond just sex (also known as [skin hunger](https://www.psychologytoday.com/sg/blog/lifetime-connections/202011/skin-hunger-touch-starvation-and-hug-deprivation)). It examines the consequences of being isolated in prison, and the [**increase of loneliness**](https://achronicvoice.com/cope-with-isolation/) in modern society. The other is not an accurate portrayal of all the different love languages, but since it said something nice about my primary love language, I’m inclined to like it a bit more 😉 This is actually true, though. It can be quite ridiculous to the point where my mind knows clearly that affection or sex doesn’t always equate to love, yet I still feel loved with skin contact. I like to hug my partner and feel his body pressing against my heart (although he finds this ‘claustrophobic’ at times 😛). And the easiest way to calm me down and reassure me, especially when I’m in pain, is simply to stroke my hair. But anyway, I will continue to get my cuddles from wherever I can, which includes my cockatiel, Scorcher! He’s the cuddliest of them all, and the one that’s most bonded to me. I love to nuzzle his down feathers, and stroke his tiny little yellow head. He loves to perch on my shoulder and follow me around. He often sneaks into my room when I’m taking a nap, just so he can perch on my leg to snooze in unison. He’s content as long as he can be with me, which always reminds me to be grateful for all I have in life, too! (P.s. [Now I have a sheltie, Talisker](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/the-way-my-dog-talisker-brings-me), to cuddle, too!) Read Related Posts: - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [Disability & Sex: Disabled People are Not Automatically Bad Sexual or Romantic Partners](https://achronicvoice.com/disability-and-sex/) - [4 Cool Truths My Partner Said (Unwittingly)](https://achronicvoice.com/cool-truths/) - [When Your Stress & Fatigue Thresholds Suck (Also on Cute Cockatiels, Education via Zoom & Art Films for Rent)](https://achronicvoice.com/stress-fatigue-thresholds-suck/) - [Why I Moved from SiteGround to Cloudways (and Couldn’t be Happier). Plus Cute Puppy Pics & A New Pacing Strategy.](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/) > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/BlrcBuTAqfS/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/BlrcBuTAqfS/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/BYZ21ZPHte-/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/BYZ21ZPHte-/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/BbdlSwHnYbF/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/BbdlSwHnYbF/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/BcclU4gH9pU/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/BcclU4gH9pU/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) ## Chatting with Different People to Gain New Perspectives in Life Finally, I went for a lymphatic drainage massage to see if it would help with those nerve tingling sensations. I enjoy chatting with [**Veron of Nourish Naturally**](https://achronicvoice.com/nourish-naturally-skin-care-tips/), as we share a number of common topics of interests. I also think it’s important to chat with and listen to many different kinds of people, perhaps not to agree with - actually, [*especially* not to agree with](https://www.visualistan.com/2018/07/confirmation-bias-how-to-get-out-of-the-echo-chamber.html). But to learn new perspectives, and to challenge my own way of thinking. You never know what insights you can glean from a friend, or even a random person off the street. And isn’t it fantastic to [learn more about how others deal with life](https://sicklessons.com/)? We’re all navigating this same element of ‘time’, yet with variable situations, capacities and resources. Our ability to choose makes all the difference. I’ve learned quite a bit this month chatting to various people, and would like to stretch my mind even further through the knowledge that each and every person out there has to share. Thank you for reading my thoughts for August 2018\. You can continue with the chronic illness life series in [**September 2018**](https://achronicvoice.com/reconnecting-friends-family-sharing-social-media-september-2018/), or read last month's entry for [**July 2018**](https://achronicvoice.com/blogging-rants-protecting-my-peace-july-2018/) **🙂** ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-to-live-your-life/) - [Every Next Level of Your Life Will Demand a Different You](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) - [The Secret of Change: Spend Your Energy Wisely with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/secret-of-change/) - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [Are You a Capable Person? What Does That Even Mean?](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Marya Aug 26, 2018 Hi Sheryl! Just joined for the first time..quick question..how did you get your Instagram pics to line up like that? Mine are one after another. Thanks for hosting! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 26, 2018 Hi Marya, really happy you decided to join us this month! As for Instagram, I don’t quite understand the question, do you think you can give more details? 🙂 But anyway, I just schedule them in Buffer! - Kathy Aug 23, 2018 Hi, Sheryl! I enjoyed reading your post. You gave me lots to think about as usual. I hope they get your new symptoms sorted soon. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 23, 2018 Hi Kathy, thanks for reading! 🙂 Heh, I hope it’s thinking in the good kind of way ;p Yea me too! The new meds (sigh) seem to help some, but still, not a pleasant new addon as you know 😉 Sending hugs! - Dov Aug 20, 2018 Sheryl, Wonderful reading your post this month. I really appreciate what you say about the mysteries of living with chronic illness (the ways illness can be mystifying, our sometimes really surprising, stressful reactions to foods and medication–how our bodies can be a mystery to us.) I really like this quote: “In Chinese we have this saying, “越帮越忙”, which means ‘the more you try to be helpful, the more problems you create’. Sometimes I don’t even feel like trying new remedies out for such reasons.” It’s so true. I think it’s hard for people without chronic illness to understand how much work it can be to try new things, and how much distress and recovery time might be involved… And what you say about trying to separate weekday time from weekend time–time becomes so strange and kind of fluid (?) when one isn’t a part of all the hustle and bustle of weekday and weekend activity. “…I’d like to start differentiating my weekends from my weekdays. Because I’m home most of the time, the lines can get blurry. I have decided that I’d like to set work, blogging, and other computer-related activities aside during the weekends.” That makes sense. I haven’t really found a way to do that, and for the most part I’m okay with it. But, I often find myself wondering about how different it is that my activities aren’t “time bound.” Really interesting about being bored. I never really thought of it that way but I love your mediation on boredom and how it helps you come up with ideas. And the stuff about touch, that makes so much sense! It’s awful that some people are so isolated, forced to live in a world without any affectionate physical connection. I think solitary confinement is, except for in very specific and rare circumstances, utterly cruel and, frankly, unethical. And the absence of physical affection is one of the many things that can make the isolation of illness so cruel. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and linking to the articles. As always, I appreciate your writing and your prompts. Thanks for hosting the link up and for sharing your experiences!!! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 21, 2018 Hi Dov! Thanks for reading and participating as always 🙂 Now that you describe it that way, it’s funny huh. How it’s our bodies yet there’s still so much mystery within it 🙂 And yes! That idiom is often used when children or people try to help out say, in the kitchen. And you end up needing to do extra work because of it lol. Here’s another one you may like: 画蛇添足 which literally means ‘draw a snake, add some legs’. Kind of like messing things up by adding unnecessary things 😉 It’s strange as well regarding weekdays vs weekends, because I don’t work M-F 9-5 anymore. But I guess I’m a very rigid person (I blame my dad ;)), so somehow there are remnants of that feeling leftover from those days. Isolation is an extremely cruel and unethical form of punishment. I think people underestimate it, but isolated prisons are hell I’d imagine. Sending love your way! x - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Aug 9, 2018 Sheryl, I can see that we had a lot of similarities with our writing prompts this month. Let’s make sure my cats never meet your birds. 🙂 I really enjoyed participating in this month’s link-up festivities. I’m especially grateful to people like you who are in my time zone and up when I want to chat. You do so much for our community. I followed the link to your new diet because I was curious. I overhauled my diet again at the beginning of the year. My diet has been strict for years, but this year I really focused on eating lots of green veggies everyday that are grown by a friend of mine who is an organic farmer. He was convinced that my stomach issues were caused by bad gut flora and after a month on his rabbit diet, I am amazed at the difference. He was able to eliminate two of the three meds I take for my stomach just by introducing veggies that are grown in a microbe-rich medium. I never would’ve believed it, but even my GI doc was impressed and wondered what I had done. Anyways, I hope you are well today. Sending spoons and extra strength for Friday. Have a great weekend! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 10, 2018 Hey Carrie, I enjoyed reading your prompts, too! It’s amazing how all the entries can be so different or similar even though they’re derived from the same words 🙂 I think this month it was especially varied with the ‘Boring’ prompt, actually! Very interesting 🙂 And I’m happy to have someone in my timezone too. As an expat living in Asia, I guess you know the feeling of constantly needing to adapt to ‘the other side of the world’ haha. I rewinded my diet so I’m really back to square one now. Just waiting out these new nerve and epileptic symptoms, before I slap on new things or changes again! But definitely going to retry again soon-ish. Btw, I’ve always been super curious about the healthcare system in Taiwan, and how you manage there as an expat. If you’re happy to share, feel free to email me, or I could interview you someday if you’re up for it. I think it will be a super interesting topic – living overseas with chronic illnesses! You take care too! x - Nicole Starbuck Aug 7, 2018 Thank you for this! I have a hard time resting (being boring doesn’t feel productive to me), but you’re so right that it’s in those quiet moments that we give ourselves the space we need to breathe, refresh, and be creative. Some of my best ideas come to me on walks or in the shower, when I’m not connected to my phone or computer! Thanks for the reminder to take a break. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 7, 2018 Hey Nicole! Yes I kind of see them as a different kind of consolidation and productivity (there’s me convincing myself ;)). Take care of yourself, dearie! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Why Humility is the Best Tool for Advocacy URL: https://achronicvoice.com/humility-advocacy/ Last updated: 2026-06-13T16:08:10.000Z ## A Thought Whilst I Was Watching "The Icefall Doctors" Documentary I selected “[Earth’s Natural Wonders by BBC](https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p02ysx9r)” amongst a list of Netflix series, and began munching on my dinner alone. The first chapter shone a light on the [Icefall Doctors](https://www.theguardian.com/world/2015/sep/24/nepal-icefall-doctors-everest-ascent-routes-sherpa-mountain), whose job is to secure the safest route up Mount Everest for other climbers. Call me ignorant for not knowing about them earlier; I was only aware of the sherpa porters. But I was appalled by how these men’s lives are literally used to pave the way, before the ‘heroes’ and ‘conquerors’ even get on the trail. (P.s. ‘conquer’ is such a poor word choice for climbing, but I digress). How many lives were sacrificed along the way just so people could meet their personal goals, and go on to become famous or celebrated worldwide? Sure, it’s an admirable achievement, but is it ever worth another man’s life? This made me think about the many times I’ve pressed on in order to preserve that fragile thing called ego, and its cost. The intention behind such actions isn’t anything to be proud of, and does have an impact on those around us as well. Crossing Everest’s deadly slopes | Earth's Natural Wonders: Living on the Edge - BBC *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Humility, Advocacy & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Humility and Advocacy — Read why humility is the best tool for advocacy. If we want to be of real use, then we need to put our petty prides aside, and celebrate both our individual and collective humanity instead. Read more on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/humility-best-tool-for-advocacy-celebrate-individual-collective-humanity.jpg) ## Facebook Status: "Hi, I'm in Hospital...Again" I tend to only update my personal Facebook status when I get admitted to the hospital, and did so again recently. If you knew me a few years ago, you’d know that I was the sort of person who rarely posted about my private life online because, who cares? Yet [**now I share about my life with chronic illness at liberty**](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/), because I’ve come to realise that there are many good reasons to do so as well. I may begin with the thought, "what if people find it annoying, or think I’m being weak, or stupid?", and feel embarrassed before I even do anything. Then my thoughts would wander off to those who are going through similar situations, yet are unable to speak up for whatever reason. This gives me that push I need to post; I am simultaneously voicing out the suppressed concerns or struggles of many others out there, whether I know them personally or not. One of them may be that old lady who was screaming and begging to die in my ward. Another would be that teenage girl who emailed me for support, as not even her mother could understand her pain. So I put my useless pride aside, and post that goddamn status flaunting my vulnerability in all its gross glory. I try not to go overboard though, as too much of anything is never good and gets stale, thus losing its impact. Read Related Posts: - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Kick Ass With Kindness and a Sweet Cherry on Top](https://achronicvoice.com/kick-ass-with-kindness/) - [A Quarterly Reflection: 12 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned](https://achronicvoice.com/quarterly-reflection-life-lessons-learned/) - [The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Prisons or Paths to Freedom](https://achronicvoice.com/stories-we-tell-ourselves-prisons-freedom/) ## I am Not Indispensable Just the other day I had to deal with a bitter poster on Twitter. Whilst I’d usually block such people, I hesitate when it's another person who lives with chronic pain. I think to myself, "I should tolerate and accommodate them more than the average person because they’re in pain, right?". Or, "What if I’m blocking them from an important resource on my feed?". And then I realise that it’s my ego at play again, but on a sneakier level. I am only one of many who are sharing information and raising awareness on chronic illnesses. And guess what, there are tons of good resources available. In fact, they’re where I get my information from to begin with! Hospitals, research papers, and other bloggers - I am not indispensable. Read Related Posts: - [MediSearch Review: A Medical AI Search Engine for Patients, Clinicians & Medical Writers](https://achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/) - [Advice That Could, Quite Literally, Kill](https://achronicvoice.com/advice-quite-literally-kill/) - [What You Reshare Can Change Someone Else’s Life Forever](https://achronicvoice.com/what-you-reshare-can-change-life/) - [Latest Research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [12 Chronic Illness Bloggers Share Their Top Posts for 2020](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-bloggers-top-posts-2020/) ## The Need to Protect My Peace The most important realisation was, however, the need to protect my own energy as well. Sick people are still human, and [**we all have different perspectives**](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/). While I try to be as open-minded as I can, I will not agree with every single person, and that’s okay. The world would be a very dull place if we all thought and behaved in the same manner. When such people infringe on my peace and drain me of my already limited energy supply, then I need to cut them off, no matter who they are. This is necessary if I want to be able to continue doing what I do without burning out, and to retain a measure of joy from it. It’s more important to focus my energy on those who find my content useful, who nourish me in return, and who show mutual respect, kindness, understanding of differences, and support. Isn't that what community is all about, after all? At the end of the day, I'm just not that important. **Wait, I need to rephrase that. I am important, but my ego is not that big a deal, and often trips me up.** If we want to be of real use, then we need to put our petty prides aside, and celebrate both our individual and collective humanity instead. Read Related Posts: - [Keeping Up with the World: Why it’s Important Despite Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) - [What Stops You from Splitting Your Burdens Up?](https://achronicvoice.com/splitting-your-burdens/) - [It is \*Always\* Possible to Make Time for What Matters Most](https://achronicvoice.com/make-time-what-matters-most/) - [4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) ## Don't be Ashamed to Chat About Chronic Illness Casually Finally, the best thing you can do to raise awareness on an everyday basis both on and offline, is to chat with others as if chronic illnesses are normal (because they are for us!). Instead of fretting about how others will perceive me or take advantage of my weaknesses, I worry instead about how little is understood about chronic illnesses, and the stigma it holds within society. In that sense, any ridicule directed my way doesn’t really matter anymore, because I took the brunt of that shame or embarrassment for millions of others. Those who listen and want to learn more, or who didn’t even realise such problems existed, will now be wiser and become our allies instead. With humility, all judgment, negativity and worries recede into the background, so that [**I can become more useful**](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/). You can choose to view it another way, but I like looking at myself as a ‘tool’. Use me. Sharpen me. Harden me. Let me be the arrow that pierces into the heart of humanity. Humility releases me from the [**grips of fear**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-fear-is-self-harm/) to give me strength and focus. Humility toughens my protective shell, so that I can stand in the frontlines, and dare to make a positive difference in this world. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [You Don’t Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) For More Insight: - [17 Things to Consider If You're Debating Whether to Post About Your Illness on Facebook (themighty.com)](https://themighty.com/topic/chronic-illness/should-i-post-about-my-illness-online-social-media/) - [A New Idea of Self-Care (runningonbalance.com)](https://runningonbalance.com/new-idea-self-care/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [Alison Hayes ](https://www.thrivingwhiledisabled.com) Nov 21, 2020 Sheryl, That ego – while it can be useful, it can more often be detrimental! Thank you for your timely reminder on balance and self-care! It’s important not to ‘take one for the team’ especially when the team neither expects that of you nor understands that that’s what you’re doing! I feel fortunate not to have dealt with nastiness from folks on my social media yet(just some lovely compliments, the occasional crickets and sometimes spam), but you’re absolutely right. We aren’t the only resources available, not even close – and if somebody isn’t appreciating what you’re offering you don’t need to take any abuse from them. We’re trying to find and grow our tribes – and if somebody isn’t in a place to appreciate that, it’s their loss, not ours. - [Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Nov 21, 2020 This is a great post Sheryl. I tend to keep m conditions and my ‘other’ life (when of course they cannot by separated) distinct, such that I rarely discuss them with friends other than a few trusted ones. But as you say, it’s making it ‘normal’ that is most important and will stop (hopefully) all the stigma. - Katie Clark Jun 19, 2020 This idea that showing our humanity is important is the crux I believe of human connection. Brene Brown’s theory of the impact and importance of vulnerability. Through being vulnerable, we actually show our courage and strength, allowing others to show their humanity. - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 20, 2020 Yes exactly, Katie! It allows us to be human, and encourages others to embrace their humanity, too. As advocates trying to raise awareness about chronic illness and pain, our egos are not big helps and get in the way I think. Humility can be a useful tool in this case 😀 - [Tessa G ](https://www.whispersinthetrees.com) Aug 17, 2018 The way I see it, if others can post endless photos and posts of their children, vacations, their awesome spa day, and other activities, nobody should be criticizing us for sharing our life of chronic pain; after all, that IS our life, just as children and vacations are the lives of others. It’s our life, our outlet, and while it can be difficult to advocate for ourselves, we shouldn’t be afraid to post what’s going on in our lives, good or bad 🙂 - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 17, 2018 Agreed! It’s your life, your feed, your curation 🙂 - Emma (Not Just Tired) Jul 24, 2018 Great, thought-provoking post, Sheryl. I’ve also been shy about speaking out about my illness. Being on social media has helped me to open up much more, but I still often get nervous before I publish my tweets/posts! Usually it’s the ones I feel most nervous about that I get the most response too! That probably tells me something ?! I’m still working up to being more open in sharing my stuff with family and friends – your post has made me think! Time to shove that ego out of the way perhaps!! Sorry you had to deal with some negative comments. I’ve had to block a few people too. As upsetting as it is at the time, it’s just not worth ruining my inner peace! Thank you for your work. I always look forward to your posts, and they always make me think. I like that! xx - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 24, 2018 Hi Emma, thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts! Yes it can be nerve-wrecking, after all, it’s subjecting ourselves to the comments of the billions of internet users out there ;P I’m actually surprised you’ve had to block a few people too, seeing that your accounts are so full of gratitude – nothing to turn people off by! Thank you for your kind comments, your support, likewise, is deeply appreciated. Sending lots of spoons and love xxx - [Jenny ](https://trippingthroughtreacle.com) Jul 24, 2018 Great post Sheryl! I NEVER write about my illness (MS) on my private Facebook page, I keep it all to my blog page on Facebook. I just worry that I am going to bore people I guess, who may not be interested in my illness and the impact that it has on me. BUT, in a way I am not helping them to understand about MS and the affect it can have. They only see those times that I can manage to get out and about and not my real life. I guess that is the same for everyone on Facebook, but you really made me think, thank you. xx - [Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 24, 2018 Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts, Jenny! Yes I think many of us are shy/embarrassed and worry about over-sharing. I do think there still needs to be some kind of balance (I mean, \*any\* topic gets boring if overdone!), but I also think I can personally speak up a bit more. I have gotten to a point where I’m comfortable advocating for myself and just casually chatting about being chronically ill with strangers wherever! xx **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Book Recommendations for Spoonies: Part II URL: https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies-2/ Last updated: 2026-05-22T15:38:29.000Z ## Welcome to the Second Edition of Book Recommendations for Spoonies! Just like the first roundup of book recommendations for spoonies, these are all books written by people with illnesses themselves, or revolve around related topics. They're suitable even if you're a healthy person with no medical issues, and provide many interesting cultural and humane insights from around the world. I hope you enjoy this new collection, and I'd love to hear your feedback in the comments below, especially if you've already read any of these books! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Book Recommendations for Spoonies (Part 2) Boards: ![Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill, Part 2. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-for-chronically-ill-part-2.jpg) --- ### If You’re Feeling...Existential [![Man’s Search for Meaning](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51m5khg0C1L._SL350_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0807014273?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Man's Search for Meaning") #### Man’s Search for Meaning *By: Viktor E. Frankl* This is still one of my all-time favourite books. The amount of wisdom packed into a mere hundred pages is astounding, although the circumstances they derive from were horrific and inhumane. It’s one of those books that remains a staple on my bookshelf, as there's always something new to learn from it, or to remind myself about. ([**Read my full review and reflections about this book by Viktor Frankl here**](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/).) [ Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0807014273?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=e85603696bba9aa85ee79711f5041e79&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) --- ### If You’re Feeling...Endearing [![My Patients and Other Animals: A Veterinarian's Stories of Love, Loss, and Hope](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/31HwpovItzL._SL350_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0812998189?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "My Patients and Other Animals: A Veterinarian's Stories of Love, Loss, and Hope") #### My Patients and Other Animals: A Veterinarian's Stories of Love, Loss, and Hope *By: Suzy Fincham-Gray* I've only read a third of this book so far, but I was excited to receive it in the mail! Humans are not the only creatures who get sick and go to the A&E, animals and pets do, too. In this book, Suzy shares about her life as a student and vet, with cultural anecdotes between the UK and US peppered in. It touches on the emotional aspect of a caregiving or healing profession, and the constant self-questioning one faces while trying to balance humanity, financial limitations, and circumstances. This book might resonate with you [if you are an animal lover](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/the-way-my-dog-talisker-brings-me), or curious about the veterinary profession. [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0812998189?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=b98b2b1381e8ee9cb25cbf4bcc30b8f0&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [What's It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) - [Why I Moved from SiteGround to Cloudways (and Couldn't be Happier). Plus Cute Puppy Pics & A New Pacing Strategy.](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/) - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) - [August 2018: Boredom Can be Stimulating & Cuddling My Pet Birds](https://achronicvoice.com/boredom-stimulating-cuddling-birds-august-2018/) - [When Your Stress & Fatigue Thresholds Suck (Also on Cute Cockatiels, Education via Zoom & Art Films for Rent)](https://achronicvoice.com/stress-fatigue-thresholds-suck/) --- ### If You’re Feeling...Humane [![Tears of Salt, A Doctor’s Story](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41lunVsToJL._SL350_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0393356558?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Tears of Salt, A Doctor’s Story") #### Tears of Salt, A Doctor’s Story *By: Pietro Bartolo and Lidia Tilotta* To be honest, this wasn’t my favourite book, but it was still a good read for insight into the migrant situation in Italy. [Lampedusa](https://qz.com/678164/in-the-mediterranean-paradise-of-lampedusa-rescuing-refugees-and-migrants-is-a-matter-of-common-sense/) is where [Dr. Pietro](https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/jul/11/pietro-bartolo-lampedusa-doctor-migrant-deaths-mediterranean-slaughter-innocents) calls home, and where he returned to after becoming a doctor. It's a little island off Italy which sees the arrival of many migrants from all over due to its location. Dr. Pietro shares their different life stories, providing them with a human voice. His perspective is also very important both as a local who grew up on Lampedusa, and as a physician who works on the ground with patients. [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0393356558?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=c9e20391f544112f5dc112c733a49cf5&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) --- ### If You’re Feeling...Cultural [![The Sound of Sch, a Mental Breakdown, a Life Journey. By: Danielle Lim](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/sound-sch-book-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg)](https://www.ethosbooks.com.sg/products/the-sound-of-sch-a-mental-breakdown-a-life-journey) #### **The Sound of Sch, a Mental Breakdown, a Life Journey** *By: Danielle Lim* Written by a Singaporean author, this is a good read if you wish to understand more about mental illness, and its role in local Chinese culture. These elements are all interwoven within the fabric of society, and influence both our perspective and approach toward mental illness. This goes on to affect all [**other facets of 'normal' life**](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/), from private to public interactions, career, and treatment. [Schizophrenia](https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/schizophrenia) is no laughing matter, even though many people use it as an adjective in everyday language. Doing so reduces the severity of this devastating, often life changing illness. This is a well written and wonderful [**tribute to human resilience**](https://achronicvoice.com/me-struggles/) and sacrifice. [Buy from Ethos Books](https://www.ethosbooks.com.sg/products/the-sound-of-sch-a-mental-breakdown-a-life-journey) Read Related Posts: - [Invisible Cities Linkup: Pros & Cons of Living with Chronic Illness in Your City](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-cities-linkup/) - [What's it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - ["It's in My Blood": Featuring People with Illnesses, Passions & Talents](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-people-illnesses-talents/) - [Invisible in Florence: Life with Chronic Illness in Italy](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-florence-chronic-illness-italy/) - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) --- ### If You’re Feeling...Educational [![Writing Tools (10th Anniversary Edition): 55 Essential Strategies for Every Writer](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/918R+6x3vVL._SL350_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0316014990?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Writing Tools (10th Anniversary Edition): 55 Essential Strategies for Every Writer") #### Writing Tools, 55 Essential Strategies for Every Writer *By: Roy Peter Clark* This is one of my favourite books on how to write better, as it’s easy to read, memorable, and practical all at once. I particularly liked how he used each chapter to represent a writing tool, which I can refer to as needed. This is a helpful book if you are a [**writer or blogger who wants to raise awareness**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-bloggers-top-posts-2020/) through your writing. The words we use can make a difference in the lives of others, and how we express them can also vary its impact. This one's worth keeping in your blogging arsenal! [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0316014990?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=88f1713922a098f0638321945c44f3b1&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) - [A Quarterly Reflection: 12 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned](https://achronicvoice.com/quarterly-reflection-life-lessons-learned/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Why Humility is the Best Tool for Advocacy](https://achronicvoice.com/humility-advocacy/) --- ## What’s on My Wish List The wish list for books is a neverending one, I suppose! There's more than enough knowledge to last us this lifetime, and even more that we have yet to discover. Here are a few more books that I've been meaning to read, but obviously haven't done so ;) ### 1\. Sick Rose: Disease in the Golden Age of Medical Illustration *By: Richard Barnett* [![Sick Rose: Disease in the Golden Age of Medical Illustration](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51pJMAEjnxL._SL350_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1938922409?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Sick Rose: Disease in the Golden Age of Medical Illustration") This book is a collection of gruesome but gorgeous medical illustrations, before the age of colour photography. They represented the human body and visible afflictions, during an era where epidemics were rampant. I’d imagine they’d have to be as accurate as is possible! Illustrating something somehow [transforms it into a piece of artwork](https://www.guernicamag.com/seeing-art-in-medical-archives/), no matter what the topic is about. I think it’s also a beautiful reminder that the [**human body is indeed, an amazing work of art**](https://achronicvoice.com/poem-on-miracles-thuli-zuma/)! Every single one of us is a curated assembly of organs and organisms, working towards the singular goal of survival. If this interests you, there are two other books in this series as well. One on [surgical illustrations in the nineteenth century](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0500518106?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6829aaa751f056f3e6f93a3c16926014&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), and the other on [dentistry throughout the ages](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0500518106?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=9e7c0ac85f3979acb1a829d6dc9dc787&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1938922409?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=bd0af882805d8e8c4757c531cca15adf&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [Would You Rather: Have an Invisible Illness or a Visible Disability?](https://achronicvoice.com/rather-have-invisible-illness-or-disability/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [When Autoimmune Disorder Ravages Your Face (and How That Led to My Body Dysmorphic Disorder)](https://achronicvoice.com/body-dysmorphic-disorder/) --- ### 2\. Running from the Mirror: A Memoir *By: Howard Shulman* [![Running from the Mirror: A Memoir](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41PZn+w+y3L._SL350_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0985581530?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "Running from the Mirror: A Memoir") Just three days after birth, Howard contracted a bacterial infection which destroyed his face. His parents abandoned him after, and this is his life story. Displaced and transferred between homes, he had many families, but belonged to none. He managed to contact his birth mother one day, but this doesn’t seem to end well, either. This is a book I definitely want to read next; his writing style is beautiful, despite all the pain that stems from it. You can [read an excerpt on Narratively here](https://www.narratively.com/p/as-my-face-disappeared-so-did-my-mother-and-father). [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0985581530?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=fb721f418007a69f3beb21ce07ac1ad9&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) --- ### 3\. An Anatomy of Addiction, Sigmund Freud, William Halsted, and the Miracle Drug Cocaine *By: Howard Markel* [![An Anatomy of Addiction, Sigmund Freud, William Halsted, and the Miracle Drug Cocaine](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41JR1oAg5VL._SL350_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1400078792?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1 "An Anatomy of Addiction, Sigmund Freud, William Halsted, and the Miracle Drug Cocaine") This book has been sitting on my shelf for a few years \*sheepish grin\*. [Howard Markel](https://www.npr.org/2011/11/25/142782875/a-tale-of-two-addicts-freud-halsted-and-cocaine) is an acclaimed medical historian, and this book takes us down the fascinating paths of [Sigmund Freud](https://www.verywellmind.com/sigmund-freud-his-life-work-and-theories-2795860) and [William Halsted](https://hub.jhu.edu/magazine/2022/fall/william-halsted-breakthroughs-addiction/), two important people in the history of medicine. He shows how cocaine shaped their enormous contributions to the fields of psychology and medicine, during a time when the drug was new, unregulated, and barely understood. [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1400078792?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=a7d549275125b85357bcac9656c57f88&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) --- I hope you enjoyed this book list. If you do read any of them, I'd love to hear your thoughts via the comments section below! If there are any other genres you'd like to see in the next selection, feel free to comment as well. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. More Book Recommendations for People with Chronic Illness: - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You’re All Invited, Too!)](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies: Part II](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies-2/) - [Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill: Part III](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-3-chronically-ill/) - [Book Review: The Narwhal Who Suffers from Chronic Migraines](https://achronicvoice.com/book-review-narwhal-migraines/) - [Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Alice Jul 21, 2018 I shall definitely be reading some of those 😀 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 21, 2018 Yay, let me know how you find them! - [ Tea and Cake for the Soul ](https://teaandcakeforthesoul.wordpress.com/) Jul 20, 2018 Some interesting suggestions here. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 20, 2018 Which did you find most interesting? 🙂 - Kirsten (Graphic Organic) Jul 16, 2018 These all seem interesting, especially the Writing Tools book. It’s always nice to learn new things. x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 17, 2018 Yes it was an absorbing read, definitely worth it at least for me – learned a lot of new things, or at least, jolted reminders! 😉 - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Jul 16, 2018 Some really fascinating picks, Sheryl, most of which I hadn’t come across before (apart from Frankl’s book; an incredible man with some truly amazing insights). The Writing Tools book is one I’d actually quite like to check out, as well as Running From The Mirror, though that sounds heartbreakingly sad.Definitely adding that last one to my to-read list because I’m just too curious to not read it!! x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 16, 2018 Hi Caz, thanks for checking the list out! 🙂 Yes, the excerpt I read was gripping. I’m always impressed by people who can write personal narratives so well – a genre I really struggle with! And I liked the writing tools because it was really easy to read and also very practical – literally like a tool box! I believe there’s always something more to learn 🙂 Happy reading, my friend! x **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Finding Your Self Behind the Illness (Your Story Isn't Over Yet) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/finding-self-behind-illness/ Last updated: 2026-04-16T16:36:37.000Z ## An Introduction to Callie, and Finding Your Self Again Despite Chronic Illness I'm excited to have Callie on the blog today, as she shares some thoughts about self-identity, both from the perspective of a patient and also as a psychologist. She talks about the emotions many of us experience when first diagnosed with an illness, such as confusion, anger and grief. Often we enter into a crisis of identity, and what makes us who we are. She also shares an interesting perspective on why she doesn't believe that she's ill anymore, in the sense of how she identifies as a human being, at least. Let's hear what she has to say! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Self-Identity & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Finding Your Self Behind the Illness (Your Story Isn't Over Yet). Guest Post by: Callie Dixon of “River & Quill”.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/finding-your-self-behind-illness-story-isnt-over-callie-dixon.jpg) ## Let's Go Back in Time... Harness with me, if you would, that day in high school when you walked down the hallway, overheard the whispers, and felt the eyes. Maybe you had been sent to the office, failed a project, [**dumped a boyfriend or girlfriend**](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/); whatever the reason, you felt much more self-aware, and you were terrified that the entire school was watching you and wondering. Next, try to remember all your attempts to figure out who you were, whether you knew you were doing this or not. The trips to the mall to try on different styles; the various types of music you cycled through to find your niche; and the groups of students you decided to become friends with. All of these things helped to define who you were. Read Related Posts: - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [What’s It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) - [4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [A Page From a Sick Girl’s Diary: Sometimes I Wish I was an Old Person](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girls-diary-wish-old-person/) ## The Push & Pull of Identity Vs Role Confusion [Erik Erikson](https://www.erikson.edu/about/history/erik-erikson/), a rather well known psychologist, suggested that there are various stages which we progress through as individuals, called [The Stages of Psychosocial Development](https://positivepsychology.com/erikson-stages/). In adolescence, he proposed we encounter the push and pull of identity vs. role confusion. This just means that we try on various roles, questioning our identity, becoming confused at times, but by the end of the stage, most have resolved their conflicting ideas of who they are. There is more to this idea, but I think I’ll just leave it at this for the purpose of this post. However, if you’re intrigued, send me an email at callie@riverandquill.com and we can discuss. ## How Chronic Illness Jumbles Our Identity Up Again I have an unofficial hypothesis which goes something like this: I believe those of us with chronic illness are thrown back into “identity vs. role confusion” when we are diagnosed with our illness. We are unable to physically do the things we used to do with ease and joy. We are [**told** **not to eat the things we loved before**](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/). We may not even have the mental capacity to read the things we read before. All of these things, these little building blocks of what we have convinced ourselves is “me” have been knocked over and we have to rebuild. I remember thinking, “Well, if I can never have chocolate again, drink coffee again, have any of the foods I love, then I’m not me.” It sounds ridiculous, but I was having a major identity crisis over chocolate. It was much more complex than just the simple things though. It bled into every facet of who I was. Before, I was healthy. Now I was sick. Before, I was strong. Now I was weak. Before, I was happy. [**Now I was depressed**](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/). Before, I was a good mom. Now I was just barely keeping up with my kids’ every day needs. Before, I was a fun-loving wife. Now I was an emotionally vacant, sorry excuse for a companion. I felt like a frail shell of who I was before and I wasn’t sure how to regenerate the flesh. Read Related Posts: - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [Are You a Capable Person? What Does That Even Mean?](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) ## Life Interrupted & Grappling with Identity Changes Michael Bury, a sociology researcher, writes that on the onset of a chronic disease, the individual goes through a “[biographical disruption](https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1057/9781137355621%5F37)”. In the autobiography we were planning to write, our disease interrupted the chapter we were planning on the joys of parenting, or traveling, or running that marathon. The blueprint was burned. Our plans were completely robbed by something so unfair and so outside of ourselves and yet it changed everything within. Bury says that there are two types of “meaning” in chronic illness. The first has to do with how much the disease will impact us; how much will we be able to do what we did before and how much will we have to change? The second meaning is that of significance. So, maybe we have to stop doing something we did before, but how much does this matter to us? How much does this matter set to the backdrop of how others see us? Grappling with my changing identity was absolutely the most difficult part of this whole process. Well, that and the pain, but it’s funny how the two are reflective of one another. Read Related Posts: - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [Life is a Long Process of Becoming Into…](https://achronicvoice.com/life-is-a-long-process-of-becoming-into/) - [Every Next Level of Your Life Will Demand a Different You](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) - [The Secret of Change: Spend Your Energy Wisely with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/secret-of-change/) ## It's Not Fair, but it's Okay I want to address those of you who are newly diagnosed, or are finally getting to a place where you are honest with the reality of your illness facilitating some change. First of all, it’s ok to be angry about it. You didn’t ask for this. Your unhealthy friends who have eaten crap their whole lives are completely illness free and it’s not fair. This whole situation: not fair. It’s ok to admit it, and to breathe it, and to spend some time in the frustration. I still come back to it from time to time. However, it’s just as important to remember that there is a part of you which your disease holds no bearing. It’s the inner stuff. You know, the whole soul building stuff which we don’t take the time for in our busy, healthy lives. We can get lazy when it comes to anything other than the mundane if there isn’t pain indicating a problem. I’m still not happy I have [Interstitial Cystitis](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/interstitial-cystitis/symptoms-causes/syc-20354357). It sucks that I have to think about it, and avoid certain foods, and experience pain and discomfort from time to time. I am thankful, however, for all that it has forced me to learn about who I truly am, beyond the coffee and the chocolate. ## Unearthing Something Deeper Within Ourselves My illness has taught me to reach beyond the physical body and [**tap into a spiritual awareness**](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) I had neglected before. I now know that I am part of something larger than “chocolate lover” or “coffee lover” or “pasta maker”. I no longer consider myself sick. I know this can cause some controversy, and listen, I’m not in denial that my body has a chronic illness, but I don’t. I believe we can house ourselves in our broken bodies, or we can find a home in something that hovers. Something loving, moving, and pushing us toward one another and wholeness. If you’re spinning because your illness just threw you on the floor like a top, I encourage you to place the pause button on who you are contingent on what you do or what you eat. Figure out who you are at a frequency you hadn’t tuned into before. How? That just depends on you. For me, it meant writing, reading about god (the holy mystery), reading about healing, spending time with those I loved, listening to music, and a huge one was spending time in nature. I feel the buzz of that greater, unbreakable identity when I spend any amount of time outside. It maybe be different for you. And I know the thing which used to move you may be something you can’t do anymore. Grieve it. Truly, friend, grieve it. But then, try to find something else which stirs your soul and jump in full force. ## Your Story Isn't Over Yet Chronic illness may be a biographical disruption, but [**it’s not the end of the biography**](https://achronicvoice.com/stories-we-tell-ourselves-prisons-freedom/). You, the inner you, is stronger than you could imagine. Chronic illness isn’t your story, it’s just a plot twist. You are fierce under the timid body. You are mighty under the pain. You are courage and love and hope and endurance. You are greater than your illness. Don’t let your identity be defined by the ugly, but steal it back and build something beautiful. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Grieving the Life That I Will Never Have](https://achronicvoice.com/grieving-the-life-i-will-never-have-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Flowers are the Most Beautiful When They’re Just About to Die (and What That’s Got to Do with Being a Spoonie)](https://achronicvoice.com/flowers-most-beautiful-die-spoonie/) - [Why Your Beauty Never Left You](https://achronicvoice.com/why-your-beauty-never-left-you/) - [I May be Chronically Ill, but I’m Also Chronically Resilient](https://achronicvoice.com/chronically-ill-resilient/) - [My Diary Entries (Previously: Blog Posts Written for Community Linkups)](https://achronicvoice.com/diary-entries/) Pin to Your Self-Identity & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Finding Your Self Behind the Illness (Your Story Isn’t Over Yet)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_self-identity-illness-1%202.jpg) ### References: - Feldman, R. S. (2010). Psychology and your life. Boston, MA: McGraw/Hill. 320-326 - Bury, M. (1991).The sociology of chronic illness: a review of research and prospects. Sociology of Health and Illness,13, (4). **Contributor Bio:** ![Callie Dixon headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/callie-dixon-profile.jpeg) Callie is a wife, mom of three (three fur babies make six), school psychologist, and lover of life. Then there was the time when chronic illness hit and she wasn’t sure about any of it, even the life part. She has made it her mission to reach out to those in pain and offer hope, compassion and friendship. She believes there is beauty to be found in even the darkest of places. Connect with her here: [Blog](http://riverandquill.com/), [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/riverandquill/) & [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/riverandquill/). ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Emma (Not Just Tired) Oct 30, 2019 What an amazing, thought provoking post. I loved reading it! xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 31, 2019 Thanks for reading, Emma. Callie did a fantastic job writing this! 🙂 - Jennifer Jul 16, 2018 I really agree with this. I no longer consider myself sick either. I have been able to explore nature, spirituality and have gained a deeper insight to life. These things bring me so much joy and if I hadn’t fallen ill I don’t think I would have found that. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 17, 2018 Hi Jennifer, that’s wonderful to hear 🙂 I am happy for you, that you have managed to find some meaning out of all this, and most importantly, to find peace within your heart and situation. Sending love! - Angel Jul 12, 2018 Identity is such a huge issue in all of our lives, then add to the search for self and meaning an illness. That’s a whole other level of complexity to navigate! I applaud you for sharing your story and letting others know that they too can find themselves in the midst of some of the most trying of life’s circumstances. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 12, 2018 Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Angel! It certainly is a huge issue, even without chronic illness. So when you lose parts of your own beliefs in yourself, it can be very crippling indeed. - [ Lisa Ehrman ](https://chronicallycontent.com) Jul 12, 2018 Great post. I love the Plot Twist statement. That’s such a good description of my life, too 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 12, 2018 Agreed! I love the idea that it’s all the same story, and we can still write some of those chapters as we wish 🙂 - Phigella Jul 10, 2018 I relate to this so much, it took me years to find me again after my diagnosis and I thought I was going to go through it again last year when I had another illness diagnosed but it hasn’t taken as long this time x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 10, 2018 Painful lessons for sure, but I too realise that we still own a lot of power, at least in the sense of identity 🙂 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### July 2018: Blogging Rants & Protecting My Peace URL: https://achronicvoice.com/blogging-rants-protecting-my-peace-july-2018/ Last updated: 2025-10-29T09:02:28.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Adding More Nutrition to My Daily Diet My partner and I had our [**first session with the nutritional therapist last month**](https://achronicvoice.com/self-reminder-listening-to-your-body-june-2018/)! It was all very interesting, especially the interpretation of my blood tests from a new angle. Doctors tend to look at your readings to ensure that they fall within a range, and that range can be pretty wide. Nutritional therapists on the other hand, assess what that number may mean for you in particular. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ### What I Found Interesting During the Nutritional Therapy Session For example, nutritional therapists can predict your risk for heart disease by looking at a specific component of your white blood cells, or which part of the body inflammation may be stemming from. It sounds like detective work to me, and chronic illness after all, often falls under mystery (or horror...). I’m not going to bash what doctors do, because I believe that they have their merits as well, and modern medicine has saved my life countless times. I prefer to look at nutritional therapy as complementary, and believe that they can work hand in hand to improve my quality of life. We’ll see how this goes for the rest of 2018, as we make some modifications to our diet in an attempt to improve our health. Read Related Posts: - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![2018 July Prompts: Adding, Spreading, Ranting, Protecting and Dividing](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_prompts_18-07-04-2-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ## Spreading Kindness Everywhere I believe that what goes around comes around, and that we all have a role to play in the grand scheme of things in the universe. Yes, even those of us who are sick and bedbound. What it boils down to is that even though pain often has no purpose when it's chronic, purpose can still stem ***from*** it. I explain a bit more in my post, “[**I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose**](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/)”. If I want others to treat me with more respect, empathy and kindness, then it has to start with me. How I behave will set the tone for what I [**expect from others**](https://achronicvoice.com/we-shouldnt-expect-people-to-understand/). If I want to live in a better world and a more humane society, then I will have to [dig deep within myself and start from there](https://healingbrave.com/blogs/all/loving-kindness-meditation). > “You teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce.” – Tony Gaskins > ‘Throw kindness around like confetti.’ – Bob Goff ## Ranting About Social Media and Blogging (Gasp!) Thought I'd include a prompt to give us a legit place to let some steam out 😉 I've been feeling drained of late from all the blogging related activities, and being depressed whilst coping with flares don't help. In fact, it's probably a [**vicious cycle that feeds into each other**](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/). ### Surprise - The Worst are the Trolls *with* Chronic Illnesses Themselves What gets me down the most when it comes to blogging are other people, and ironically, most of them have chronic illnesses themselves. They seem to have become very bitter, or perhaps I feel like I'm not supposed to get mad at them because 'they're one of us'. How do you personally deal with sick trolls, if I may ask? I'm only human and do get angry, jealous, petty or mean at times. Not all situations are avoidable either, unless I decide to stop blogging - which I don't. ### Burnout and Empathy Fatigue I've been getting messages from various people online who ask for my help as well. Some of these requests are personal affairs in which they need some reassurance. Others are for raising awareness on important issues. I feel guilty for feeling resentment or fatigue, because they're mostly for good causes. ### Judgemental, Self-Righteous Keyboard Warriors Then there are those who 'yell' at or lecture me, saying things like "are you sure you want your take home message to be so negative as an advocate?", or "I can't believe an organisation like you would say such a thing". (By the way, I'm just one person, and I'm not from the U.S.. I avoid certain topics because I'm not living within the situation to fully grasp the nuances, and don't want to do more harm than good.) I hate this because often these are the people who don't even read the posts or bother to figure out the context, and just jump to conclusions in order to air their egos. Logically I know it's not worth wasting energy over, but sometimes I can't help but feel frustrated, especiallyon the[**bad days when my mind is already in a mess**](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/). Read Related Posts: - [What You Reshare Can Change Someone Else’s Life Forever](https://achronicvoice.com/what-you-reshare-can-change-life/) - [Advice That Could, Quite Literally, Kill](https://achronicvoice.com/advice-quite-literally-kill/) - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) ## Protecting My Peace So I guess rants can be cathartic, but it's even better if something useful comes out of them! How do you protect your peace as an advocate or blogger? Whilst I acknowledge that dealing with such issues comes with the blogging scope, I'm also aware of the need for me to protect my peace of mind with more mindfulness. I usually do this by totally disconnecting and [**going on a holiday**](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/). I did just see flights to Berlin from Singapore starting at $150 one way... But really, I need to find ways to protect my peace on an everyday basis as well, especially if I want to continue blogging effectively. Peace is such an underrated quality that permeates into every area of our lives. Without peace of mind in our speech or actions, we'll never be truly happy, or healed in entirety. I guess I'm going to have to cut down on the advocacy stuff in July, and fill my own cup back up. My partner's dad will be in town again for a couple weeks, so that should naturally be good distraction as well! Read Related Posts: - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does ‘Normal’ Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) - [Invisible Cities Linkup: Pros & Cons of Living with Chronic Illness in Your City](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-cities-linkup/) ## Dividing Up My Time Between Resting and Working I recognise the need to draw a clearer divide between blogging (which I count as work), and personal rest time. The problem is that I actually enjoy blogging and sharing, so the lines get blurry as I carry it into bed with me on my phone, or whilst I'm on the move. Where others browse to relax or distract themselves, I'm always hunting for useful health information to share, or catching up on interactions. But it's a never-ending affair, and can really sap you of your well-being. At least when I was working full-time, the physical divide between the house and office was a big reminder of the need to switch off. The in-between downtime spent commuting helped to create a divisive routine as well. I suppose one way of setting better boundaries it is to set cut off times, but I know I'll have to draw clearer lines moving forward. Thank you for reading about my chronic illness life in July 2018 🙂 You can [**continue with August 2018 here**](https://achronicvoice.com/boredom-stimulating-cuddling-birds-august-2018/). ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [It is \*Always\* Possible to Make Time for What Matters Most](https://achronicvoice.com/make-time-what-matters-most/) - [2018 November Prompts: Meeting, Advocating, Tweaking, Working & Curating](https://achronicvoice.com/meeting-collaborating-chronically-ill-real-life-november-2018/) - [It’s in My Blood” Feature #6: Jayne Bailey – Getting Crafty & Working as a Life Coach](https://achronicvoice.com/jayne-bailey-crafty-life-coach-eds/) - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Kat Jul 27, 2018 I wanted to say that hiring a nutritionist was one of the best things I’ve done for my own personal chronic illness. I’m not cured, but I’m no longer suffering day after day with no hope. - Kathy Jul 19, 2018 I enjoyed reading this months prompts and your answers. Once I put a spam filter on my blog, I’ve really only had one nasty comment. It is definitely a fear of mine, that I’ll share my heart and be attacked as a result. Thankfully it hasn’t happened, or I probably would have stopped blogging by now. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 19, 2018 Hi Kathy, thank you! Yea I have spam filters on my blog too, but I meant more on social media. I mean, that’s to be expected, but it can also build up and get tiring. I simply need to learn how to manage my emotions a little better – a lifelong struggle for me! 😉 Don’t stop blogging if you enjoy it – I do like reading your prompts every month! x - Kate Jul 15, 2018 Yet another good read! I think your writing prompts are fab! Don’t like to hear you feel guilty for ranting about sick trolls, because as you say, you are human. If the odd person questions why you’re not commenting on a certain subject or think that you’re in any way negative, then that’s their opinion and there’s nothing you can do about it. I find you to be one of the most empathetic, inclusive peeps out there in the blogging world and whatever people’s opinions, you know you’re well intentioned and that’s the main thing. In fact your writing prompt prior to ‘ranting’ is ‘spreading’ kindness, which is wonderful. The very act of blogging about your experiences with chronic illness and encouraging others to do so is an act of kindness – you’re encouraging others to be kind to themselves too, which can be so difficult to do when you’re ill. I think you’re awesome xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 15, 2018 Hi Kate, thank you so much taking the time to comment and encourage me! While I share and blog not for ‘likes’ or for anything in return, it can still get disheartening when others trash you. It doesn’t help that I’m so sensitive, which is something I’m working on as well 😉 And I’m glad you like the prompts, sometimes I’m not sure if they’re suitable ones for chronic illness, but I figure we have plenty of time anyway 😉 Wishing you all the best, lovely! x - [ Lisa Ehrman ](https://chronicallycontent.com) Jul 7, 2018 I hate that you have to deal with mean trolls. My blog is smaller, so it’s less of a temptation to those types of people. It really is a problem in this world, that people just go online to be hurtful. Your advocacy is really helpful, so don’t let yourself get down. It’s so important to back off, if you need a break, though. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 8, 2018 Thank you for your kind support Lisa, it’s the ‘good people’ like you out there who make it worthwhile! Yea I’m definitely being a little more self aware for July, and am trying to stay away from blogging over the weekends, at least, and go do something totally different. And yea, I’m not sure why there are so many trolls out there. And the thing I really don’t understand is that lots of people with chronic illness complain that society hates them, etc, but they are also the ones spreading that same shit around. Anyway, I loved reading your entry, and I also loved out sincerely positive your outlook was – it did inspire me x Wishing you a lovely week ahead! 😀 - Dov Jul 5, 2018 Sheryl, Thanks for the post. I loved the humor and your willingness to share the complicatedness of doing work that 1) you love 2) you need breaks from, but it’s not the kind of work that always allows for clear lines between work and personal time/space 3) makes you vulnerable in the way only personal writing online in the contemporary moment can. So frustrating that there are strangers out there who may or may not be carefully reading what you write, but make unkind/unthoughtful/not okay comments. I hadn’t thought much about spoonies trolling spoonies, and yet, now that I read about it here, I think of some folx I’ve seen on twitter who do attack other spoonies for various reasons. It’s been troubling me for a while but I don’t know how or whether to address it. Admittedly, I sometimes see spoonies posting things in which they kind of seem to be saying everyone should be doing what they are doing, or everyone can “at least” do this or that, and I get upset, as these posts don’t acknowledge the fact that not everyone has the same capacities the writer has, nor the same interests/needs. But mostly when I see stuff like this, I try to find something positive to focus on, or refrain from commenting and try to trust that people are doing their best to “speak from the heart.” Trolling in general is just such a worrisome thing. And so particular to social media/internet communication. I mean, I wonder if people did similar stuff before internet, like by mail or phone calls, I bet they’d be subject to legal repercussions, but online they can mostly get away with whatever. As a spoonie, I really appreciate twitter for what it can do, but also the general trolling and negativity can be so upsetting, and as a spoonie, at least in my spoonie world, it is so important not to get too emotionally “activated’. Kind of like when you say “protecting your peace” I guess. Anyway, it’s really refreshing to read your post and be reminded how meaningful it can be to be gentle toward each other as we share in public online spaces, even when we disagree. Maybe it’s not always the best or right answer, but a lot of the time it just might be. Thank you for all you posts, and for permission to rant, and for your work of spreading thoughtfulness, kindness, and understanding! 🙂 p.s. I keep meaning to ask you, how did your class go? (Didn’t you do an online workshop?) (Did you already write about it and I missed it?) - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 6, 2018 Thanks for reading and for sharing your own thoughts and experiences as well, Dov! Yes it’s difficult (at least for me!) to strike that cool balance that we all strive for. I know it’s a lot to do with self-worth, and I’m always in awe of friends that possess that quality. They’re really able to keep stress at bay because a lot of the time it really isn’t worth the energy! And I do try to tell myself to focus on those who matter online, but they can be very shy or quiet, while the trolls are loud and persistent 😉 I’m all for constructive criticism, in fact I appreciate it, but I senseless trolling just feels like I’m banging my head against a wall, and I do need to let go of that perceived ‘control’ 🙂 As for my writing course, I just had that final call session with my instructor! I’m still struggling to write that story – seems like I’ll have to rewrite it again. But it was helpful and I think I’m working towards the right direction, albeit slowly! Thanks for remembering and asking about it! Sending hugs and hope you have a great weekend! x - Dov Jul 6, 2018 Thanks for the note, Sheryl! Hear you–the difficulty of focusing on quiet, constructive voices when the destructive voices can be so much louder and ever-present and persistent. I sometimes see trolls writing infuriating stuff online and think (with my proverbial–very low–blood pressure rising), “what can I say to get through to them” and eventually I remember that the answer is “nothing.” (I suppose there are a few magicians out there who find ways to communicate with trolls. Dylan Marron, Sarah Silverman…but most of us don’t have the time, patience, troll-whispering abilities, spoons…) Glad the writing workshop has been good!!! yay! (Is your final project based on work you did during the course? Is it narrative non-fiction?) (I did an essay-writing workshop early on in my illness–with an old friend–and I learned a ton, and it meant so much to me to be able to do it. My final project didn’t come out the way I wanted, but then over the last few years I have noticed some really positive shifts in my essay writing process that at least to some degree I think is related to what I learned during the course.) Hope you’re managing as well as can be! 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 7, 2018 Yea any energy we have really should go first to improving our own health 😉 The writing workshop was interesting, though I think online workshops never work out as nicely as physical ones! The comments and sharing sessions were helpful, but I wouldn’t say made a huge difference, for the amount of money spent! But anyway, am one little step closer to that essay I really want to write but struggle to spit out 😉 x - Dov Jul 10, 2018 Hear you. Do you have a specific essay you’re working on/trying to finish, or did you mean “that essay I really want to write” in a more general way? I think what helped me most in the course I took (3ish years ago?) were the readings. My favorite was an excerpt of Vivian Gornick’s “The Situation and the Story”. I wound up getting the audio book and really enjoyed listening to it. I can’t say I fully understand how to apply what I learned from it, but I loved her analyses of the personas different essay writers use and how they function… Yay for little steps closer!!! 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 10, 2018 I meant a specific one, titled something like “Dying Quickly vs Dying Slowly” on my two encounters with death, and how they were different! The readings I actually found not super helpful, because I already read such essays from the listed publishers anyway. The feedback and comments from the lecturers and other students were the most helpful, I think! Somehow for personal essays that you really really want to write about, they just get stuck, at least for me! - Nicole Starbuck Jul 5, 2018 Thanks for sharing, Sheryl. I appreciate the reminder that if we’re looking for empathy, connection, patience, understanding, etc., that we have to express those things first. And that if we have trouble with these things, it’s usually because we need to fill up our cup! We can’t expect to get very far without any gas. Also, I like how you pointed out that not all chronic illness support groups or chronic illness blogs are supportive. I’ll admit that I find myself avoiding certain people or groups because they’re so negative. Not that I expect people with chronic illness to be chipper 100% of the time (this is impossible, and even remaining positive \*some\* of the time is a high success rate when dealing with chronic illness!). There’s a fine balance between “being real” (which can be perceived as being negative) and being open to solutions and new ways of thinking, all while being realistic and putting our self-care first. I push toward honesty with a willingness to grow. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 5, 2018 Hi Nicole, totally agree with you – honesty with a willingness to grow is so important. And yes, often a lot of people on social media mistake my more raw reflections as being negative (these are usually the ones who don’t actually read the entire post to the end). That judgment can be so exhausting, and while I try not to let it bother me, it still does at times 😉 I’ll just have to keep being mindful of my own wellbeing. Keep writing and sharing Nicole, I think you have a talent for it! x - Kirsten Jul 3, 2018 Thanks for being honest. I can totally relate. When I first started blogging on my old website, it was just an outlet, it was for fun and I only wrote when I felt well enough. Now that it is part of my job, it’s so much harder to let it go and not feel guilty when I’m too ill. Don’t get me wrong, I still very much love writing but it’s harder to have a healthier balance. If you have any tips or tricks let me know girl, cause I’m still figureing it out 😉 x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 3, 2018 Yes indeed, there’s more ‘at stake’ when you’re committed in terms of time and emotions, as with anything I suppose! Striking a healthy balance is something I’m really bad at, not just blogging but in general…I tend to do things in extremes :p And I’m also still figuring it out myself, but the thing that keeps me going are good people like you and many others out there, too! x - Nikki Jul 3, 2018 With people who respond to my posts of on social media of a determinantal nature. I tend to not engage. Just say ‘sorry you feel that way’ or ‘I guess that post isn’t something you can relate to’. Keep it minimal. Even people with illnesses can be judgemental of others with a different illness, ways of coping, treatment, or even have their own illness. I really can only handle minimal interaction with them, and ignore it. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 3, 2018 Yea that’s the logical and best thing to do, really 😉 Sometimes I manage, sometimes I’m exploding haha. - Teaandcakeforthesoul Jul 2, 2018 Great post and I totally get what you mean about the spreading kindness bit. I’ve said to my husband before that I don’t know why I bother sometimes. You know when people just keep taking advantage. But then he said you wouldn’t be you then. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 3, 2018 I totally get what you’re saying, too! I wrote a post about this some time back which you might find interesting 😀 [https://www.achronicvoice.com/2016/08/19/kick-ass-kindness-sweet-cherry-top/ ](https://achronicvoice.com/2016/08/19/kick-ass-kindness-sweet-cherry-top/) Keep staying you, that’s super kickass 😉 x **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Rheumatoid Arthritis — the Biggest Street Fight of My Life URL: https://achronicvoice.com/rheumatoid-arthritis-fight-life/ Last updated: 2026-06-02T15:00:17.000Z ## My Name is Ray, and I Have Rheumatoid Arthritis I was lucky and did not always have [Rheumatoid Arthritis (RA)](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/rheumatoid-arthritis/symptoms-causes/syc-20353648). I did not have RA as an infant, nor as a child, teenager or younger adult. Like I said I was lucky, unlike millions of others who have Arthritis. This is my story, with a supporting cast of the most caring of doctors, nurses, therapist, scientists, and some new and amazing targeted therapy. First a little bit about myself. I am a husband and father, a brother and son, a friend and a gentleman. I was 61 and at my peak both physically and professionally, but that changed overnight. This is my journey with Rheumatoid Arthritis, and trying to co-exist with an autoimmune disorder is like a street fight. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the author's personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Read Related Posts: - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) - [Suffering with a Rare Disease, Isaac Syndrome, as Told from a Male Perspective](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-isaacs-syndrome/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Roy George – A Dramatic Life with a Short Bowel](https://achronicvoice.com/roy-george-dramatic-life-short-bowel/) - [3 Reasons Why I Don’t Let Chronic Illness Prevent Me from Living a Normal Life](https://achronicvoice.com/dont-let-multiple-sclerosis-prevent-normal-life/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) Pin to Your Rheumatoid Arthritis & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Rheumatoid Arthritis — the Biggest Street Fight of My Life. Guest Post by: Ray Bouchard on A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/rheumatoid-arthritis-biggest-street-fight-life-ray-bouchard.jpg) ## It All Started One Fine Morning On October 29, 2015, I got up like every other morning, but just didn’t feel right. I pushed through it and got going. Later in the day the pain and stiffness worsened to the point where I called my wife, Kathy, and decided that I should go to the hospital. Sarasota Memorial ER evaluated me and delivered a diagnosis of [tendinitis](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/tendinitis/symptoms-causes/syc-20378243). They also administered a [cortisone injection](https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/cortisone-shots/about/pac-20384794) and a [diminishing dose pack of prednisone](https://www.mayoclinic.org/prednisone-withdrawal/expert-answers/faq-20057923), with directions to follow up with my primary care doctor. At the time I was 61, an avid weight lifter and cyclist, and was recovering nicely from a total knee replacement which I had eight months ago. My routine had changed to lighter weights and greater distance on the bike. I was used to pain, but I always pushed through it. The next morning, I felt great. So great that I drove to Tampa that evening to ride in a Critical Mass bike ride with Kathy. Nothing was hurting, as I did not yet understand cortisone or prednisone. Read Related Posts: - [What’s it Like to be on a High Dose of Steroids? (And the First Question You Will Definitely Ask)](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) - [It’s Just One of Those Nights (Poetry on Steroids)](https://achronicvoice.com/one-of-those-nights-poetry-steroids/) - [The Chronic Pain Cycle & How to Break It (Top Tips From an Occupational Therapist)](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/) - [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) ## A Sudden Collapse I continued with the prednisone until one morning shortly after the dose pack ended, I started to feel my body seize up and spasm. I remember calling my wife and telling her that I didn’t feel so good. I started to describe what was going on, and she said I should hang up and call 911\. I sat on the edge of the bed thinking for a few minutes before dialing 911\. I made my way to the front door to unlock it. That is where they found me with my Jack Russell Terrier, Harley, sitting right beside me. I could not talk due to the pain in my jaw and neck, and my muscles contracted to the point where I was forced into a fetal position and could not unclench my hands. When the paramedics heard jaw, shoulder, and chest pain, they looked at the heart as that would make sense, but at the hospital they did not look at anything else. Read Related Posts: - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [So This is What a Tonic Clonic Seizure Feels Like](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [3 Types of Chronic Pain that Sound Bearable, but are Not](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-bearable-not/) #### **The Realisation of Its Severity** During the three days when I was hospitalized, the morphine and cortisone helped to make me feel better. However, I still didn’t know what was wrong with me. I was told to see a rheumatologist, the sooner the better. I made an appointment with Dr. Yoel Drucker at the Sarasota Arthritis Center. During my first appointment, I began to quickly realize that this was serious. Dr. Drucker spent close to 50 minutes with me and then brought in other doctors to consult with; I was there for a total of four hours. That was followed by months of weekly appointments, tests, CAT and bone scans, as well as MRIs. It also began a period of high doses of prednisone and methotrexate, which brought relief. But the side effects caused [pancreatitis](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/pancreatitis/symptoms-causes/syc-20360227) and extreme weight loss, due to the nausea and vomiting which went on for two years. I must pause here to mention that without research scientists, the [Arthritis National Research Fund](https://www.curearthritis.org/), and all the donors who contributed, this is where my treatment would have ended. Those drugs and treatment were the gold standard of that time. Read Related Posts: - [How to Prepare for a Medical Appointment in a Post-Pandemic World (4 Top Tips From a Doctor)](https://achronicvoice.com/prepare-medical-appointment/) - [Why I Need to See 10 Different Doctors on a Regular Basis](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) - [Learn More About the Super Rare Disease – Esophageal Diverticulum](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) - [Latest Research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Chronic Illness is Expensive, but Here’s the Real Reason Why](https://achronicvoice.com/real-reason-why-chronic-illness-expensive/) ## Trying All Sorts of Meds for Rheumatoid Arthritis Rheumatoid Arthritis is lonely. I [**lost my job**](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) and friends, alongwithall[**sense of who I was**](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/). I slid into two years of isolation and depression. A lot of what I did was mechanical, but Dr. Drucker just kept working with me patiently, and quietly fought against health insurance [step therapy](https://www.bcbsm.com/index/health-insurance-help/faqs/plan-types/pharmacy/what-is-step-therapy.html). To date, I have tried various [disease modifying anti-rheumatic drugs (DMARDs)](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK507863/), along with numerous [biologics](https://www.fda.gov/AboutFDA/CentersOffices/OfficeofMedicalProductsandTobacco/CBER/ucm133077.htm). Each has provided some hope, but in the end they were not a good fit for my Arthritis. I have started a new therapy in the last eight weeks that looks promising; it is a DMARD, specifically a [Janus kinase (JAK) inhibitor](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3616338/). Read Related Posts: - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [A Pain Pill, a Caress, an Exhalation of Relief](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-pill-caress-relief/) - [An Anaphylaxis Reaction from Rituximab in Between Shady Years](https://achronicvoice.com/anaphylaxis-rituximab/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) ## Fighting the Good Fight for Others and for Myself Social media has been a good fit for me. I am part of a wonderful and caring community that collectively has more information on rare diseases than the [National Institute of Health](https://www.nih.gov/). It has helped me to [**begin ending to a different story**](https://achronicvoice.com/stories-we-tell-ourselves-prisons-freedom/); I am focusing on what I can do, and doing it when I can. I still enjoy running, biking, swimming, lifting or just being active, and I take every advantage to push the limits. And while it all sounds neat, remember that this is a street fight. **Rheumatoid Arthritis keeps taking pieces of me occasionally, but I always take something back.** I have RA, I have it by the belt buckle, and now I race to spread awareness. One in four Americans has Arthritis; I am racing because some infants began their lives with Arthritis. I race for science and the Arthritis National Research Fund. I race for me because I'm scared that if I stop, I'll stop. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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Read Related Posts: - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) **Contributor Bio:** ![Ray Bouchard headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/ray-bouchard-profile.jpg) My name is Ray and this is my story; It’s about coming to grips with the life changing events in my life, the first of which was the death of my mother at three months old, which shaped every aspect of my life. I struggle with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Anxiety and Clinical Depression. In 2015 I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis and found Twitter. A lot of this is about finding a new strength within me to deal with this new challenge, and sharing it with others in the autoimmune community. ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Eva Jul 6, 2018 Hi Ray. Sorry to read about your illness RA. Can I recommend you look up ‘Clint Paddison’. I won’t say any more because I don’t want to influence you in any way. I too have RA so understand and emphasise with your condition. Best wishes to you for a healthier future. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose URL: https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/ Last updated: 2026-04-23T14:35:20.000Z ## A Question for All Eternity: "What is My Life Purpose?" It's a timeless, eternal question that has plagued or intrigued humanity since the beginning of time. It is a thought that can be disturbing to me especially when I’m in the throes of extreme pain. What is the point to all this? Any sort of happiness I gain isn’t worth such torture. As the years go by, [**many of us with chronic illness sink into a state of depression**](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/), because physical pain always affects you on a mental level as well. It is never exclusive. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Pain & Philosophy Boards: ![I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose - Read the post on A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life-therein-lies-my-life-purpose.jpg) ### The Mixed Emotions in Reaction to This Question This question scares me on some days, makes me anxious, confused, angry or sad on others, but mostly I come up blank. Perhaps I get a glimmer of inspiration from time to time, but it never lasts. Some people pursue their passions with vigour and it keeps them stimulated and going, but chronic pain is heavy. It weighs you down against your will and wishes. Pin to Your Life Purpose & Quotes Boards: ![The point is not what we expect from life, but rather what life expects from us. - Viktor E. Frankl](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_point-life-expect-1.jpg) One of my favourite inspirational quotes of all time! ## The Circle of Life Purpose But a strange thought rose within my mind one ordinary day: "I don't have a purpose in life, and therein lies my purpose". What does this mean, to me at least? A life purpose is something of the highest priority in a person's life. Without one, I am untethered, and I can be fearless. I have nothing to adhere to, nothing to weigh against, nothing to hold me back. Sounds a bit chaotic, doesn’t it? To explain further... I actually believe other people have purposes to their lives, and because I have none, I can expend my energy on helping them find theirs, which in turn, [benefits us all as a society](https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-power-personal-narrative/201806/the-power-personal-narrative). (If you play RPGs or [MUDs](http://www.carrionfields.net/), that would be the ultimate support class ;) ) In the grand scheme of the universe, I am nothing but a speck, a flicker of everchanging emotion, and my pain is but a dot in its fabric. > *"Shape clay into a vessel; It is the space within that makes it useful. Cut doors and windows for a room; It is the holes which make it useful. Therefore benefit comes from what is there; Usefulness from what is not there." - Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching* Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [Interview on 'The Uninvisible Pod': What I've Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) - [An Open Letter to Death, and One Simple Plea](https://achronicvoice.com/letter-to-death-simple-plea/) Pin to Your Life Purpose & Inspirational Quotes Boards: ![Clay is fashioned into vessels; but it is on their empty hollowness, that their use depends. ― Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching. Read: I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Purpose.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin-clay-usefulness-4.jpg) ![It's only after we’ve lost everything that we're free to do anything. - Chuck Palahniuk. Read: I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Purpose.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_lost-everything-do-anything.jpg) ## Life Purpose Can Come Later, but Regret is Always Too Late What I need to do, is to simply do. Life purpose can come later, but regret is always too late. (Note that this is just one way of approaching such despair, and some days I do choose to employ the exact opposite philosophy to keep me going!) What I need to do is to simply keep going, no matter thought, circumstance, or emotion. To show the world the most important life skill - acceptance of what is, and to embody the essence of life itself - survival. It’s almost like being an amoeba or cell, which doesn’t contemplate itself into confusion. It keeps going, and because of that, the universe exists. Pin to Your Life Purpose & Self-Acceptance Boards: ![“It's almost like being an amoeba or cell, which doesn't contemplate itself into confusion. It keeps going, and because of that, the universe exists.” Read: I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Purpose](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_amoba-universe-1.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [You Don’t Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) - [7 Proven Strategies to Stay Resilient No Matter What Happens (from A to G)](https://achronicvoice.com/strategies-stay-resilient/) - [Dealing with Pain, One Second at a Time](https://achronicvoice.com/dealing-with-pain/) ## The Elegance of the Human Spirit If I can keep going and even take it a step further, to thrive despite the arid ground I’ve been planted in, what it does is to reflect the elegance of the human spirit. A display of humanity with purity. The roots are to survival, as the blossoms are to thriving. If I can keep going, I then, become an instrument for the beauty of life, I become the canvas for the master painter. Because of my lack, I can be filled up with life itself. Read Related Posts: - [An Inspirational Poem on Miracles, by Thuli Zuma](https://achronicvoice.com/poem-on-miracles-thuli-zuma/) - [I May be Chronically Ill, but I’m Also Chronically Resilient](https://achronicvoice.com/chronically-ill-resilient/) - [Flowers are the Most Beautiful When They’re Just About to Die (and What That’s Got to Do with Being a Spoonie)](https://achronicvoice.com/flowers-most-beautiful-die-spoonie/) - [A String of Bad Days (and What Happened When That Good Day Finally Came Along)](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/) - [Why Your Beauty Never Left You](https://achronicvoice.com/why-your-beauty-never-left-you/) Pin to Your Life Purpose & Inspirational Quotes Boards: ![What I need to do, is to simply do. Life purpose can come later, but regret is always too late. Read: I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Purpose.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_purpose-regret-2.jpg) ![If I can keep going, I then, become an instrument for the beauty of life, I become the canvas for the master painter. Because of my lack, I can be filled up with life itself. Read: I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Purpose.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_beauty-life-5.jpg) ## Stop Struggling, and Just Be What is the point to that? It is that I stop struggling with questions such as 'what is my life purpose'. Because as someone who lives in constant pain, my ego will never be able to sustain me. The illusion of control or independence will shatter against the rocks like waves that come and go. I will be in that raw state of fragility more often than not. It takes my flickering pain, and transforms it into a guiding flame. The journey of life is grand and glorious, but the road ahead is narrow, with many pitfalls and deep valleys of despair. It gives purpose to my pain. Pain has its uses, but in chronic illness, it becomes confused. Looking at it from this perspective, even when my pain has no purpose, there is still purpose to it. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [Give Your Best Anyway, Even When You're Feeling Depressed](https://achronicvoice.com/give-your-best-even-when-feeling-depressed/) - [What Neverending Pain Reveals to You](https://achronicvoice.com/what-neverending-pain-reveals/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) Pin to Your Life Purpose & Chronic Pain Boards: ![Is There any Purpose to Life with chronic Pain? Read the post on A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/is-there-any-purpose-to-life-with-chronic-pain.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Despite Pain ](https://despitepain.com) Mar 26, 2024 This speaks to me. I’ve often had those same thoughts. No children, no career…I could go on. Then I remind myself that it’s today that matters and I do what I can. - [ Lucy ](https://lbhealthandlifestyle.com) Jul 24, 2021 Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. It’s something I really struggle with too. Society tells us that for our lives to have meaning and purpose we need to climb the career ladder, be constantly on the go, travel – all things chronic illness can limit or prevent us from doing. I used to believe that my health has to improve before I can have a purpose and be of more valuable but you’re so right, we can inspire and help others by sharing our story and showing others they’re not alone. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 27, 2021 Society can be so blind to certain things, or trapped within certain thoughts, huh? I think it’s always possible to continue your story and narrative in a way that you want, to a certain extent, always 🙂 - Katie Clark Sep 10, 2020 I really love this thought, “A purpose is something of the highest priority in a person’s life. Without one, I am untethered, and I can be fearless. I have nothing to adhere to, nothing to weigh against, nothing to hold me back. ” Scary, yet freeing. Each moment allows for discovery of ourselves rather than having it all planned out. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 10, 2020 Thanks Katie! A bit of a strange thought, isn’t it? I find that it fuels me more than having a fixed goal or purpose as it feels so liberating, especially from the constructs we form about ourselves, and also the ones placed by society on us all. - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Jun 20, 2020 “my ego will never be able to sustain me. The illusion of control or independence will shatter against the rocks like waves that come and go.” – The pictures you paint with your words are incredible. I love how realistic you are and how you’re honest to yourself about what traits you have and how to work so beautifully with that. Also, I completely feel what you say when you speaking about just being. How many times do we forget that and instead go on chasing, when we can just be. Another favourite line of this post “What I need to do, is to simply do. Purpose can come later, but regret is always too late.” Sorry that my thoughts in this reply sound so scattered – I feel that you raise so many important points through your introspection and experiences that I’m going through an “Aha” moment in each line! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 20, 2020 Thanks so much for your thoughtful comments as always, Shruti. Yes I think we’re all different individuals – I am definitely not as passionate or talented in a wide variety of things as many of you are, but I am okay with this (I think haha!). I only have two loves in life – writing and travelling. And that’s enough for me. Everything else is icing 🙂 And on days when I can’t write or travel, of course it gets me down, but like you mentioned, we need to just do what we need to do, and then see how we can plan our next move from there. Thanks for reading once again. Sending love! xxx - [ Chronic Mom ](https://chronicmom.com) Jun 20, 2020 I’ve definitely struggled with this through the years. I want to have a purpose besides just struggling and surviving, but it’s hard to look beyond that sometimes. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 20, 2020 I think with chronic pain, it’s definitely a huge struggle. Pain is so limiting and really chains you up. Chronic pain is almost like brainwashing torture. I hope you manage to find some peace in your day to day living xx - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Jun 19, 2020 Thank you for this Sheryl, you write so well on a topic that many of us grapple with. I think it can be hard to find purpose if we don’t have traditional life ‘things’ like a full-time office job or vocation, but that doesn’t mean that we don’t have purpose. And as you say, there’s a much bigger picture! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 20, 2020 Thanks for reading, Claire. This is probably one of my personal favourite posts. It really was a struggle for a long time, because many people harp on about how purpose gives their life meaning. But I think it doesn’t have to be so cut and dry 🙂 - [ Darla Nagel ](https://www.darlanagel.com) Jun 22, 2018 Your attitude is so much like mine (and is healthy, I think): realistic yet positive, encouraging, and concerned about others. I want so much to share what has happened to me as a patient with myalgic encephalomyelitis and how patients with similar illnesses can reduce their illness burden. Maybe that’s my purpose, or maybe there’s something bigger for me around the corner. Keep writing! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 22, 2018 Hi Darla! Thanks for the comment 🙂 Heh I actually don’t think I’m a very positive person, so I’m actually surprised when people approach me to tell me I’m positive! Perhaps I am in some twisted fashion 😉 You should definitely share your experiences, I think it’s a benefit all around. And as my partner’s dad likes to say to me…you never never know what’s around the corner 😉 Thanks, you too! - [ Susan Pearson ](https://livingcreativelywithfibro.uk) Jun 18, 2018 I read the first few lines of this post and thought I was not going to like it, but I jumped to conclusions far too quickly. It is a wonderfully written inspiring post. It has arrived at just the right time also. I have only been because I hoped to either leave a legacy through my career or to raise some children but thanks to the Fibro it is not a sensible decision to consider having children, and I have had to give up my career. Reading through your post, it has hit home that by taking away the purpose I can be free to go with my whims within my Fibro limits and perhaps my legacy will be the blog I am creating as I document my journey. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 18, 2018 Hi Susan, haha thanks for giving the post and chance, and reading on 😉 I too, appreciate the support you and other readers give me, whenever they leave a feedback! I am glad that it was helpful for you in the end – the general feedback I have so far on this post is a sense of relief. I think often we put too much pressure on ourselves without even quite knowing the reason why. Wishing you all the best with your journey, may it be filled with joy! - [ Lowen Puckey ](https://livingpositivelywithdisability.com/) Jun 18, 2018 So thoughtful and beautifully worded xx Lowen @ livingpositivelywithdisability.com - [ Lowen Puckey ](https://livingpositivelywithdisability.com/) Jun 18, 2018 p.s I love Frankl too! And snap I have just been writing about him 😀 Great minds think alike! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 18, 2018 Thanks, lovely 🙂 And you totally should write about it, too. The more perspectives, the merrier! I did write more about his book last year, as well, if you’re interested to read! [https://www.achronicvoice.com/2022/05/30/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/ ](https://achronicvoice.com/2017/04/04/mans-search-meaning-full/) - Merrill Jun 18, 2018 This is exactly what I needed to read at this moment. I have been struggling with purpose and trying to find my purpose, because I felt I had to live with purpose or it would not be living at all. Your article shows me another way to think about purpose. Thank you for sharing. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 18, 2018 Hi Merrill, Thank you so much for reading, and commenting. Your support encourages me to keep writing, too 🙂 I know exactly how you feel, and it’s why I wrote this post. I guess modern society can be pretty self-absorbed, where everything is just about ‘me, me, me’. But when we take a step back, there’s actually a bigger picture where we can fit in, too 🙂 We all have a purpose in the universe, in the end! Sending hugs x **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### What’s it Like to be the Father of a Child with Chronic Illness? (Precious Insights from My Own Dad!) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/father-of-child-with-chronic-illness/ Last updated: 2026-05-24T13:16:41.000Z ## An Introduction to My Father If there's one passion that my father passed on to me, it would be travelling. More of the rugged, far out type of places, rather than posh retreats. I will forever be grateful for the wonderful childhood memories he gave to me, as chronic illness dominated my teenage and now adult life. As you will see in this interview, his best memories are all travel-related as a family. And if you've read the [**interview with my mum**](https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/) for Mother's Day last month, you can tell that their personalities differ quite a bit as well! It really is "extreme opposites attract" for them 😉 I decided to re-use the same set of questions for Fathers' Day, as I was curious as to how different their responses would be. I also thought that it would be interesting to have a parallel comparison of tips and insights from both of my parents. *(\*Text in italic within brackets during the interview are interjections from me.)* *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Fatherhood, Parenting & Chronic Illness Boards: ![What’s it Like to be the Father of a Child with Chronic Illness? (Precious Insights from My Own Dad!)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/what-like-be-father-of-sick-child-insights-my-dad.jpg) ## A Rare Interview With My Dad on What It's Like to be a Father of a Child with Chronic Illness ### What emotions and thoughts went through your mind, on the night I was admitted to the hospital, and the doctor said that I could have died It was actually morning for me as I was in the U.S., when I received the urgent night call from mum. In between the terse sentences as her phone battery was dying, all I knew was that [**you were laying at the hospital emergency ward**](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/), and may not make it through the night. One thing I remember is: “Come back quickly, as you may not see her alive.” My bosses and colleagues prayed for me before I rushed off to madly pack. The company secretary helped to book whatever air ticket was available for me to go home. I boarded the plane within two hours after your mum’s call, which was unbelievable under normal circumstances! The drive to the airport that morning also took half the usual time, which has never happened before, or ever since then. The 27 hour return journey went by in a blur; after a plane change at LAX, I was in transit in Tokyo, where they were still using a different cellular system then. I could only wonder and pray as there was no information as to what was happening. Upon arriving at Changi airport, my brother-in-law was there to fetch me. He was quiet and didn’t say a word, and I didn’t want to ask if Sheryl was still alive or not. Until I walked into the ward past midnight… Read Related Posts: - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [My Second Brush with Death: A Broken Heart (Literally)](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) - [So This is What a Tonic Clonic Seizure Feels Like](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) ### What’s the biggest worry you have for your child with chronic illness? That she [**finds the journey as being too difficult**](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/), and is unable to carry on with the very challenging life she undergoes. ### What do you think is the biggest support a father could give to a child with chronic illness? Am still learning and it gets clearer bit by bit. A lot of it comes down to supporting, be it mentally, emotionally, psychologically, financially and most importantly, spiritually. ### What makes you happiest? When she is able to [**live her days like any other ‘normal’ person**](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/). Seeing her travel to places she enjoys, when her body physically allows her to. Also, seeing her working diligently on her blog and making new friends along the way. Read Related Posts: - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [A Quarterly Reflection: 12 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned](https://achronicvoice.com/quarterly-reflection-life-lessons-learned/) ### What breaks your heart? Watching her endure numerous long days with escalating bouts of [**unrelenting pain and agony**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-bearable-not/), despite the best that doctors and medical science has to offer. ### How do you personally cope when your child is suffering from chronic illness, or receives a devastating new diagnosis? Take in a deep breath and try to grasp the situation, then do whatever I can to help. Pray fervently. Seek help from friends and supportive family members. ### What’s it like to be a father to a child with chronic illness? What qualities or characteristics have you had to hone because of this? It makes you feel weak despite your best attempts to bring cheer and help in your limited ways. Seemingly encouraging words or well intended actions can backfire unknowingly. I’ve learnt to be more understanding, and to know what to do in the changing environment. Patience and gentleness goes a long way, and is often helpful in calming the situation down. Read Related Posts: - [We Shouldn’t Expect People to Understand](https://achronicvoice.com/we-shouldnt-expect-people-to-understand/) - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [The Subtle Difference Between Saying “Think Positive” and “Stay Positive” to Someone with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/difference-think-positive-stay-positive-chronic-pain/) ### What ‘normal’ activity or thing did you wish your family could do together, if everyone were healthy? Glad we did a number of memorable things before chronic illness took a hold of her. It would be great to repeat some of the activities below: - Weekly bus rides exploring different places of interest in Hong Kong, when we lived there. Short retreats with her siblings to Lantau island, allowing mum to have a different sort of break by herself. *(Back in those days, Lantau island was a fairly secluded retreat accessible only by ferry, where we spent many a summer at. There was a dog called Bobo at the inn, and I slept with a crumpled photograph of him under my pillow every night until he died.)* - Long road trips in Malaysia, staying at all kinds of lodgings. *(I do remember staying at motels that cost $1 a night, which my dad seemed to consider a 'victorious find'. They were gross 😉)* - Attend sports events like football/soccer matches, as **[Sheryl was a sporty type of person](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/)**. *(Thank you daddy, for remembering this part of me that I hold dear.)* - Regular church activities where Sheryl used to be actively engaged and participated freely. - Annual extended family rustic retreats, where the majority of the clan gathered together for a few days. Busy, noisy, boisterous, but all in good fun! ### \*If\* you had the choice to go back in time and choose never to have your child with chronic illness, would you do so? Why or why not? No! The bible teaches us that God knows what is best for us despite our limited and biased human understanding. [Fanny Crosby](https://www.christianity.com/church/church-history/timeline/1801-1900/fanny-crosby-americas-hymn-queen-11630385.html), a well regarded Christian hymn writer, composed thousands of hymns which we still sing today despite her being blind from a young age. Reading her testimony including others with debilitating illness brings an assurance to us, that God knows, although we may not ever understand it. ### Do you blame yourself in any way for your child’s chronic illness? Definitely not, and why would I? ### What’s your biggest/best piece of advice to other fathers with children who are chronically ill? Seek the best for your children and allow them to flourish in their utmost capacity. Realising too that children with chronic illness cannot engage or participate in certain activities, and that they [**need much more rest, care and support**](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/). ### What’s the biggest life lesson you’ve learned through all this? Life is a myriad of complexities, coupled with intrinsic mysteries which even the best minds cannot fathom. Even then it’s [**not our goal in life to understand everything**](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/), but rather to learn to accept ungrudgingly what is placed before us. ### What sort of support did you wish you had more of in regards to being a caregiver to your child? Perhaps more government support would be helpful, as [**chronic illness is rather expensive**](https://achronicvoice.com/real-reason-why-chronic-illness-expensive/) and receives insufficient government assistance. ### What sort of activities do you do to replenish your own supply of energy and to restore emotional wellbeing? Short personal retreats, sabbath rest, reading, exercising, church activities, family events, a healthy diet, movies, countryside or beach trips, etc. Read Related Posts: - [The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don't Reflect)](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) ### What’s your happiest memories of you and your family? Family vacations and travelling with her occasionally, just to name a few here: - I last accompanied her to Xinjiang and Gansu in China, which was quite memorable *(well actually, my mum forced him to tag along, as I was going to go off alone!)*. It’d be hot and dry in the desert, then it’d snow and we’d shiver the next day. Who would have guessed that it would snow during summer. ![Dad enjoying a watermelon (ironically from Hainan island in the south) at Kashgar, Xinjiang, China.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/urumqi_kashgar-4.jpg) Dad enjoying a watermelon (ironically from Hainan island in the south) at Kashgar, Xinjiang, China. - Do you remember the time we stayed at a seaside chalet, and to save money we bought most of our food for the week? Apart from breakfast which was provided, I prepared lunch and dinner for all of you. You were all in the swimming pool right after breakfast until the evening! (*We were in the pool and sea for like 10 hours a day, and I do remember returning home with sun-blackened skin, oops…*) That was where your sister learned to swim, and the efforts paid off! We’d go to the beach during the evenings, and watch the fishermen haul in their catch, which was nice. - Do you remember shrieking with delight when it snowed in New York? Poor old me was trying hard to re-book flights, as the airport was closed due to heavy snowstorms. After walking two blocks in the icy snow, all you wanted was to get back to the hotel room. (*Well I was stupid and had sat on the upper deck of an open-air bus for an hour in winter…*) And we almost didn’t make it to the airport at 4am the next morning, with the icy and slippery road conditions. ![A natural wonder of sandy colours in Zhangye Danxia landform, China.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/zhangye-danxia-landform-11.jpg) A natural wonder of sandy colours in Zhangye Danxia landform, China. ### What did you wish your child could do? This is actually more for her to answer, as I am happy when she’s able to do things that she enjoys and finds meaning in. ![Dad speaking at an event.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/dad-profile.jpg) Dad speaking at an event. ## In Conclusion to What it't Like to be the Father of a Child with Chronic Illness A big thank you to my dad for sharing so openly about what it's like to be the father of a child with chronic illness - both the good and bad. I can tell that he loves me dearly, and always wants what's best for me. The bad really is not in relation to me as a person, but the need to watch me suffer helplessly, and the lack of governmental support. Once again, thank you daddy, and I appreciate you for [**always showing no matter what**](https://achronicvoice.com/make-time-what-matters-most/). You have never failed me once, and are always there for me when I'm at my sickest in the hospital. ♥️ ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [“It’s in My Blood”: Featuring People with Illnesses, Passions & Talents](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-people-illnesses-talents/) - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does ‘Normal’ Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) - [What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - [Invisible Cities Linkup: Pros & Cons of Living with Chronic Illness in Your City](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-cities-linkup/) - [Invisible in Singapore: What’s It Like to Live Here with Chronic Illnesses?](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/) Pin to Your Fatherhood, Parenting & Chronic Illness Boards: ![What’s it Like to be the Father of a Child with Chronic Illness? (Precious Insights from My Own Dad!)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_whats-it-like-father-sick-child.jpg) ![Fatherly Wisdom - What to Do When Your Child is Chronically ill](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/fatherly-wisdom-child-chronically-ill.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Bree ](https://3sistersabroad.wordpress.com) Jun 17, 2018 What a wonderful interview. Its funny isn’t it how things work. How he said that things went to plan for him\`to get home as quickly as possible and yet has never happened again. What a wonderful caring man he is and is so proud of you and what you are achieving with your life. xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 18, 2018 Thanks for the comment, Bree! Yes it’s funny how things work out in life all the time 🙂 Hope you are having a wonderful day! x - Emma (Not Just Tired) Jun 14, 2018 What a lovely interview. Your dad sounds like a wonderful, compassionate man. Lovely memories shared here too xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 14, 2018 Thank you, Emma! He certainly played a huge role, especially when I was a teenage girl! 😉 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Prisons or Paths to Freedom URL: https://achronicvoice.com/stories-we-tell-ourselves-prisons-freedom/ Last updated: 2026-05-24T14:38:24.000Z ## An Introduction to Rose Roberts & How the Stories We Tell Ourselves Matter Rose does a beautiful job articulating the [**struggles with self-worth**](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/)and self-trust that many of us with chronic illness experience. Society has many preconceived, rigid notions of how a person should and shouldn't be, which can strip away the essence of our humanity. We form stories about ourselves, for better or for worse. Read Rose's story about how her illness started in the most innocent of ways, and her journey towards reclaiming her freedom. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Self-Identity & Chronic Illness Boards: ![Living well with chronic illness — The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Prisons or Paths to Freedom. Guest Post by: Rose Roberts. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/stories-we-tell-ourselves-prisons-or-paths-to-freedom.avif) ## An Innocent Beginning... If someone had predicted I would one day stop being a writer, I would have said ‘Wrong!’ and walked away. Writing was more than how I made my living. It was how I maintained my balance when life pulled and pushed me in different directions. But that was before I became chronically ill. Before that illness and the stories about what it means to be ill imprisoned me. It began so innocently. My husband and I caught a virus while on vacation. He got better. I didn’t. I crawled from bedroom to bathroom. Electrical currents ran down my arms and across my chest. A piercing headache took residence in my left eye while bone-crushing exhaustion cemented me to the bed. ## The Slow Erosion of Self-Trust A year later, I was diagnosed with multiple illnesses, including [Myalgic Encephalomyelitis (ME)](https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/chronic-fatigue-syndrome-cfs/), a neuro-immune disorder, an [**‘invisible’ chronic illness**](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) that’s difficult to diagnose and treat. It’s also surrounded by a cloud of skepticism. That explained why my debilitating symptoms had been met with quiet shrugs and raised eyebrows from my doctors: They didn’t believe me. I think that’s when it started, the slow erosion of self-trust. This would be the first of many losses – both physical and psychological. Read Related Posts: - [Mainstream: Can You Talk to Us About ME? (There are Enough ‘Normal’ Health Tips to Go Around Already)](https://achronicvoice.com/mainstream-me-health-tips/) - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) - [Are You a Capable Person? What Does That Even Mean?](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) ## The Stories That Got Stuck in My Head [**Friends encouraged me**](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) to write about it. But the infection that had ripped through me had not only debilitated my body but had blanketed my brain in a fog so thick I couldn’t think straight. Words eluded me. Concentration was non-existent. Writing was impossible. I had only enough energy for the [**daily task of survival**](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/). Hungry for connection, I set aside my own beliefs and listened passively to the if-only stories of well-meaning visitors: “If only you hadn’t waited to see the specialist; if only you exercised; if only you prayed; if only you ate a plant-based diet.” That’s what they said. What I heard was that I was broken and needed to be fixed. I became entangled in society’s view that our self-worth is measured by what we achieve and by what we contribute. I knew I could barely hold a cup of tea, let alone meet these ingrained cultural expectations. Yet, these stories got stuck in my head. Worse yet was the story I spun around my heart: I felt guilty for becoming ill and ashamed for not getting better. This was the story from which I needed to be freed. ## Falling Further Into Illness I just wasn’t ready to accept this fact: Illness is part of being human. Most of us recover. Some of us don’t recover – I wouldn’t recover. Instead, I set out to find someone or something to fix me. I went from astrologers to shamans, practices to potions, promises to scams. I teeter-tottered between hope and despair before realizing what was happening: Illness had stolen my health. But I had travelled so far from my own essence that all self-trust, self-respect, and self-worth had vanished. For more than a decade, I felt like a performer in a high-wire act with no safety net to catch me if I fell. And fall I did. I fell into the wilderness. ## The Stories We Tell Ourselves — Rewriting a New Life Story for Myself Years passed. Slowly, gently, a wasteland became a sanctuary. This time I turned inward, learning to heal from the inside out. I read and reflected upon the stories of those who had travelled through their own wilderness, immersing myself in their wisdom. I returned to writing – just a sentence or two a day, whatever my health allowed. Writing became the doorway to my inner landscape. The more I wrote, the stronger my own voice became. And the more my insights and understanding took hold of me. Until, finally, the stories that had imprisoned me loosened their grip on my spirit. I wrote a new story based on traits like self-compassion, equilibrium, patience, and grit. These inner strengths became my safety net. I stopped trying to fit in. I stopped apologizing for being ill. And equally important, I learned to [**ask for help**](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/). I learned there are many ways to be seen and heard in the world. I learned the most important lesson of all: [**trusting my own goodness**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-your-beauty-never-left-you/). I emerged from the wilderness with useful practices and tools that help me face the challenges of living with chronic illness. I share these lessons from the wilderness with the hope they inspire and support others who strive to live a full and meaningful life while managing the struggles of chronic illness. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [What Stops You from Splitting Your Burdens Up?](https://achronicvoice.com/splitting-your-burdens/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [Flowers are the Most Beautiful When They’re Just About to Die (and What That’s Got to Do with Being a Spoonie)](https://achronicvoice.com/flowers-most-beautiful-die-spoonie/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) **Contributor Bio:** ![Rose Roberts headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/rose-roberts-headshot.jpg) Rose Roberts is a Canadian writer, reader, and nature lover. She’s been living with chronic illness and pain for over twenty years. But that’s only part of her story. In her life before illness, Rose was a corporate communications specialist. Now, she uses her deep love of writing to share the core values that have helped her find peace and equilibrium while facing the challenges of lifelong illness. She writes about the practical tools and practices she’s gathered from both her own experience and research across various disciplines. She shares her story to support, inform, and inspire others in pain – physical, mental, and spiritual. Rose lives with her husband in Ontario, Canada. You can [find her on Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/roserobertswriter/) where she chronicles quiet moments of the every day. ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Katie Clark Jul 17, 2020 Thank you for sharing your story. Thankfully you have come back to writing; such beautiful words you’ve shared. I love that you did one line a day in the beginning. While I’m writing (my blog about my wellness journey with Fibromyalgia, I have a fiction story that has been imprisoned in me since I was a teenager. I started to write it this winter, but then stopped, losing my confidence. I am going to try your way of getting back to it. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 21, 2020 That’s wonderful to hear, Katie! I might try my hand at a memoir too! 🙂 Rose is indeed, such a good writer 🙂 - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/) Jun 10, 2020 I really related to this interview and I know I’ve read it before through your online posts. It was good to read Rose’s story again and I found some validation in it that I missed the last time I read this interview. “Hungry for connection, I set aside my own beliefs and listened passively to the if-only stories of well-meaning visitors: “If only you hadn’t waited to see the specialist; if only you exercised; if only you prayed; if only you ate a plant-based diet.” That’s what they said. What I heard was that I was broken and needed to be fixed. I became entangled in society’s view that our self-worth is measured by what we achieve and by what we contribute. I knew I could barely hold a cup of tea, let alone meet these ingrained cultural expectations. Yet, these stories got stuck in my head.” These expectations are so much to deal with. I’ve never heard of anyone else mentioning that they can barely hold a cup of tea, and yet that’s me! There are days I can’t even pick up a glass of water! It sounds so silly and outrageous, so I wanted to make sure I commented on this to say THANK YOU FOR SAYING THIS. I think I was meant to read this today. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 13, 2020 Hi Carrie, thank you for reading and commenting as always xxx Yes, it’s good to receive validation that we’re not crazy or that it’s not just in our heads. Expectations are heavy to bear, from others and also from ourselves. We do need to take a step back from time to time so that we can be aware in order to give ourselves some grace and allow ourselves to be 🙂 - [ Chronically Hopeful Char ](https://chronicallyhopeful.com) Jun 12, 2018 A beautiful journey. Thank you for sharing your story Rose. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### June 2018: Self-Reminder on Listening to Your Body URL: https://achronicvoice.com/self-reminder-listening-to-your-body-june-2018/ Last updated: 2025-10-29T11:51:46.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Self-Reminder: Listen to Your Body So I was in the hospital again last week. As you may already know, managing chronic illnesses is all about the balance. Whilst I’ve gotten quite good at telling the flare forecast after 20 years, I still slip up every now and then. It wasn’t even a huge event that triggered it, but the miserly impact of a week's worth of sleeplessness. As I didn’t have many appointments that week, I figured that the 'healthier' option was to wait it out without the help of medications. Sometimes burning mental or physical energy helps, so the day before I had a mega flare, I was up from 5am until midnight keeping myself busy. Yet, sleep was still elusive. When you haven’t had a major flare for a while, you tend to forget that yes, it's possible to end up in the hospital for no good reason again. I’ll elaborate in another post as this recent stay has reminded me of many other important lessons as well. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. 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Thank you!* Read Related Posts: - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) - [How Much Time Are You Wasting On Sleep?](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Triggers Trigger Triggers (Re-Stabilisation Procedure Encore)](https://achronicvoice.com/triggers-trigger-triggers-re-stabilisation/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![2018 June Prompts: Reminding, Pacing, Surrendering, Improving and Flowing](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_prompts_18-06-1-2-1-1-1-1.jpg) ## Pacing My Limited Edition Energy Supply With that, everything in my daily todo list that I stress over (for no good reason, really), went out the window without further thought. That was another important reminder to stop sweating the small stuff. Nothing bad is going to happen if I don’t do them, yet the senseless worries accumulate to impact my health negatively. ### Stupidly, I Struggle to Relax I struggle to relax, as ironic as that sounds. I like running on adrenaline. Before I fell ill, one of my favourite feelings was working on a project for days on end with barely any sleep. We’d work all the way until 10am the next morning, go home for a nap, then do it all over again. I’d end up getting high on tiredness (yes that’s a thing). Looking back that was foolish, because now I understand just [**how toxic stress is for the body**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/), even for a healthy person. People with chronic illnesses are just more sensitive to its effects. Despite having all the time in the world to arrange my schedule as I wish, I struggle with pacing myself. I can easily spread myself thin, but not spread myself thick, if you get what I mean. Perhaps it is a matter of habit and discipline. Thinking about it, slowing down requires more discipline than speeding up. The latter can be motivated by fear, but the former requires a constant, conscious choice. Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [Why Fear is Self Harm, and How to Get Back Up](https://achronicvoice.com/why-fear-is-self-harm/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [When Your Stress & Fatigue Thresholds Suck (Also on Cute Cockatiels, Education via Zoom & Art Films for Rent)](https://achronicvoice.com/stress-fatigue-thresholds-suck/) - [July’s Supply & Demand: Learning to Maximise Wellbeing in the Midst of Stress](https://achronicvoice.com/july-maximise-wellbeing-stress/) ## Surrendering to Sleep Back to the topic of sleep. I need to learn how to surrender to it like in the good old days. If you came from a time before smartphones, I’m sure you remember shining a torchlight under the covers to read a book, or simply counting sheep, or playing word games in your head to entice the dark blessing of sleep. That’s definitely healthier than scrolling through social media, both on a physical and mental level. I read an article which highlighted an interesting [problem about sleep hygiene](https://nickwignall.com/the-problem-with-sleep-hygiene/). We tend to treat it like a goal these days. A target to be met. But sleep isn't something to conquer, and shouldn't be a task on the todo list. It would be nice to surrender myself into the arms of sleep like when I was a child, without any formulations such as, "I must fall asleep before X a.m.", or "I need at least Y hours of sleep". Sleep time should be sacred, the quietest part of the day where I'm allowed to let go, and let my mind and body roam free. ## Improving My Regular Diet I've discussed this with my partner, and we'll start working with a nutritional therapist once I'm feeling better. I've avoided manipulating my dietary intake too much due to [**Antiphospholipid Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/). Many beneficial herbs, supplements or foods can easily mess my blood up, leading to deadly blood clots or internal bleeding. But I've also gained more knowledge over the decades, so I think we can start working on nutrition slowly. I do have time to cook, but I don't enjoy it. My other bad excuse for eating poorly is the [**convenience of food deliveries and takeaways in Singapore**](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/). You can get food delivered at all hours of day, sometimes within 15 minutes. Like I said, these are bad excuses, which aren't valid if I care about my [**long term well-being**](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/). ## Polishing My Writing Skills Oh and another thing that I'm working on are my writing skills. I signed up for Catapult's "4-Week Online Nonfiction Bootcamp: Writing Personal Essays with Substance". The instructor is Lily Dancyger, who is the Deputy Editor of [Narratively](https://www.narratively.com/), which is one of my favourite online magazines. I love to read first-person real-life stories that flow like a novel, but it's a genre I struggle with. The programmer in me emerges to classify and assess the accuracy of every little detail. I hope to apply what I'll learn from this course to my own life stories for this blog (and perhaps for a book?) 😉 Read Related Posts: - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You’re All Invited, Too!)](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/) - [The Barriers That Throw Rocks into My Bucket List with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/) ## Flowing to the Rhythm of Grief and Life Finally, to my surprise, it seems like I'm still affected by the [**death of my dear parrotlet**](https://achronicvoice.com/memory-parrotlets-designing-my-days-may-2018/), Archer, and his five little chicks. Every morning when I wake up to check on my other birds, my first thought is, "are they alive or dead?". Not exactly a normal 'parental concern', I don't think, but parrotlets do go fast due to their diminutive size. [Grief is also something that ebbs and flows](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/turning-straw-into-gold/201805/17-tips-from-17-years-sick), and isn't reserved solely for other human beings. It could be a pet, an object, or even a circumstance that we grieve for. There are important spaces within our hearts that we hold for things that mean the world to us. They're like thumbprints, as no two spaces are ever the same. They shift and shimmer, reshape and change over the years. These special spots can never be replaced, and remain empty forever. But love is like a soothing wave that rolls across the vast ocean of our hearts. Sometimes the holes are awash with the beauty of our memories; other times they're left void. But the awareness of that space remains, no matter what state it's in. Thank you for reading about my chronic illness life in June 2018\. [**Continue with July 2018 here**](https://achronicvoice.com/blogging-rants-protecting-my-peace-july-2018/). ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) - [A Perfect Capture of Life with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/capture-life-with-chronic-illness/) - [2018 August Prompts: Figuring, Completing, Boring, Cuddling & Chatting](https://achronicvoice.com/boredom-stimulating-cuddling-birds-august-2018/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Melissa ](https://feelgoodcom.org/) Jun 23, 2018 Pacing is a struggle for us all! Thanks for creating the link up parties I am loving how they connect people with the same experiences… - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 23, 2018 Hi Melissa, Judging from \*every\* single response in the June linkup, not one of us isn’t struggling with pacing! We all want to live our lives I guess, and it can be frustrating to always have to pause and weigh everything every step of the way. I also love how we all have similar experiences in our different lives all over the world. Wishing you all the best! x - Terri Jun 22, 2018 Sheryl, thanks for hosting this link up! As always, I enjoyed reading about what’s going on in your life, but I’m sorry to hear you’ve been in the hospital again. I hope you’re getting some rest and starting to feel better. Like you, I struggle to relax. Even if I’m perfectly still, my brain is going 100 miles per hour! The curse of a Type A personality I guess…. It’s not surprising you’re still grieving the loss of your parrotlets. Grief is a process, and the feelings of loss don’t disappear overnight. I am sorry for your loss, though, and hope the pain lessens as time goes on. Your writing class sounds really interesting. I hope you’ll let us know how it goes – I know I could definitely benefit from some instruction. :o) Hugs! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 22, 2018 Hi Terri, you’re most welcome! It’s a pleasure to host them 🙂 No worries, I’ve been better since I’m out, though in a bit of a depressive funk, but like you said in your own post, this too shall pass! 😉 So true…even when I’m ‘resting’ my brain is not, so it isn’t really counted as rest, is it! 😉 I’m getting better with the birdies, but it’s just nice to even think about them sometimes, happy or sad 🙂 Just had writing class today, interesting but not sure it’s worth the money 😉 I’ll conclude at the end of it all and let you know! 😉 Have a fab weekend! - Kathy Jun 19, 2018 Sorry to hear you’re struggling with flares and sleep trouble. Your writing class sounds interesting. I’m having enough just to keep up with my blog. I don’t think I can add anything else right now. Take care of yourself. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 19, 2018 Hi Kathy, you’ve definitely got your hands full with your house and everything! Yes I will try to take care of myself, thanks for thinking about me xxx - Kate Jennings Jun 9, 2018 Hi Sheryl. I really enjoyed reading your June Linkup post. I can especially relate to pacing – like I’m sure most spoonies, we find it a real struggle to pace ourselves properly, but it is so important for health (physical and mental) to be able to do so. I liked how you identified that it takes more discipline to pace yourself than it does to try to get everything done quickly! Sorry again about Archie and the chicks, but thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings on the grief that comes from loss and I hope you’re doing okay. X - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 9, 2018 Hi Kate, thanks for reading and commenting, I appreciate your feedback! 🙂 Yes! Pacing is a tough one for just about every single one of us, I dare say 😉 It definitely does feel like more discipline is required, to filter out judgment, both upon ourselves and what others may think. And also to do what’s best, which may not always be the most fun! Thank you, I’m feeling okay really, but sometimes I just miss the little blue brat 😉 Hope you’re having a great weekend! x - [ Rhiann ](https://www.brainlesionandme.com) Jun 9, 2018 Love reading these posts and wish I could participate every month but the joys of having an illness that limits what you can do! Pacing is something that I also really struggle with, and wish I could a lot more than I actually do, but at the moment whilst preparing to go on holiday I am struggling with this due to all the washing, ironing and packing there is still to do! Trying to listen to my body but still, I’m experiencing times when my legs just go from under me because of doing too much. Best of luck with the course sounds amazing! You are a great writer anyway but hope you find that you get a lot out of it, and are able to put into practice everything you learn! Sending best wishes Rhiann x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 9, 2018 Hi Rhiann, Thanks for the support – that is also a huge contribution! 😉 If you like you just need to write with a minimum of three prompts, and a few short sentences will do! No pressure of course, but would be nice to read about your chronic illness life, too 🙂 Wow, where will you be travelling to? I know what you mean with all the pre-prep chores, it can be exhausting! I hope you are coping decently, and that you have a really good time on your trip! Heh, thanks for the compliment 🙂 There’s always room for improvement, and personal narrative is definitely not my strong point, but something I love to read 😉 Let’s see how that goes! xxx - Alice Jun 8, 2018 I love these posts! I especially like the section about your diet. I’m going to do a post in the near future about how diet can affect us and the impact this can have on chronic pain/chronic illness. I’m looking forward to next month’s Link Up Party already 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 8, 2018 Thanks Alice! Diet is something I get lazy with heh, but so important! Looking forward to your post about how it affects you! And aww…I’m really happy to hear that you’re looking forward to next month’s prompts. I wasn’t sure if people liked them/found them useful! If there’s a particular prompt you feel strongly about for whichever month, ping me and we’ll see if we can add it in! x - Dov Jun 6, 2018 Sheryl, Loved reading your post! Can you write a whole post about spreading yourself thin vs. thick?! Enjoyed your reminiscing on nights before there were cell phones. (Reading with flashlights.) (Talking on landlords in the relative dark). (Not scrolling away into the night.) Hear you, missing Archer and the chicks. So hard. Hope you’re hanging in, and that the babies are doing okay. And wow, this whole quote: “There are important spaces within our hearts that we hold for things that mean the world to us; they’re like thumbprints for no two spaces are ever the same. They shift and shimmer, reshape and change over the years. Sometimes these special spots can never be replaced, and remain empty forever. But love is like a soothing wave that rolls across the vast ocean of our hearts. “ - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 6, 2018 Thanks Dov! Haha…perhaps I shall! Someone else mentioned it was interesting, too. Yes!! I miss those days 🙂 There \*is\* gratification when things are harder to get, in a sense! Yes, life goes on despite death and I’m not depressed or anything, but sometimes I miss the fiesty little sucker 😉 Sending hugs! - Kirsten (Graphic Organic) Jun 5, 2018 I can relate so much to the sleeping issue. I want to control everything but sleep is something that comes naturally. If I have to get up early and I can’t sleep I tend to stress and worry about how I’ll feel the next day. But lately I’ve been trying to let it go and remind myself that even if I don’t actually sleep, I’m still resting and closing my eyes which is just fine. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 6, 2018 Hi Kirsten, Exactly, I do the same! I try to close my eyes and tell myself that I’m still resting, which is good for me. It was something my dad taught me when I was in my teens heh. I hope you get better sleeps this week (and beyond!) 😉 x - [ Lowen Puckey ](https://livingpositivelywithdisability.com/) Jun 4, 2018 Great post – I could identify with everything (except your programming expertise, an area I have zero skill in!). Look forward to hearing how the writing course goes! Lowen @ livingpositivelywithdisability.com - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 4, 2018 Thanks, Lowen! The prompts are my more ‘freestyle’ posts heh. I tend to edit my posts to death 😡 Thank you, I’ll let you know how it goes! x **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/ Last updated: 2026-06-07T05:55:24.000Z ## The Added Complications of Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome Do you have a friend or know someone living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (APS), or another blood clotting disorder? It can be a real pain, and interferes with treatments for many other chronic illnesses. I’m not discounting the severity of any other disease, but today I’d like to share with you on how having APS can complicate life further. I’ve been putting this post on hold for quite a while now as it can be a pretty dry subject. But a bloated forearm motivated me to get started, and a recent hospital stay finished it up. I was worried about internal bleeding or blood clots in both instances, which is a common cycle of worry when you live with APS. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome & Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![The annoying thing about living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome: Food and medication interactions. Diet, travel, pregnancy, and surgical complications. Read more on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/annoying-thing-living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome-food-medication-interactions-diet-travel-pregnancy-surgical-complcations-v2-woman.jpg) Read Related Posts in the Antiphospholipid Syndrome Series: - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [Latest Research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Pregnancy, Miscarriage & Women's Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [The Lowdown on Medications & Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) ## What is Antiphospholipid Syndrome? (Also Known as Hughes' Syndrome) There are a few different types of blood clotting disorders, one of which is [Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://www.genome.gov/17516396/learning-about-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) (APS or APLS) (National Human Genome Research Institute & Research Institute \[NHGRI\], 2010). It's also known as [Hughes' Syndrome](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/BF02686077), after the doctor who first described it in 1983 (Hughes, 2007). (Fun fact: I've visited him in person in London!) How the blood clots or is inherited varies for each these disorders, but in APS what it means is that the body produces certain antibodies called [antiphospholipid antibodies (APLAs)](https://www.ahajournals.org/doi/10.1161/circulationaha.105.548495) (Misita & Moll, 2005). These antibodies interfere with [phospholipids](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/104346829290024P), which are required for normal [blood clotting functions](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK507795/) (Irvine & Divecha, 1992; Garmo et al., 2023). If you recall, many [COVID-19 patients had an increase in antiphospholipid antibodies](https://ard.bmj.com/content/80/Suppl%5F1/1381.1.abstract) too, some of whom sadly succumbed to the thrombosis (Jordhani et al., 2021). Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome & Autoimmune Disease Boards: ![Antiphospholipid Syndrome - What you need to know about it](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-need-to-know.jpg) ## Try This Treatment for Your Lupus! Hold on a Minute... [**I have other chronic illnesses**](https://achronicvoice.com/about/) and autoimmune diseases, such as Lupus, Sjögren’s disease and epilepsy. There are quite a number of alternative and complementary therapies out there for these chronic illnesses. A lot of them are well established, or have good reviews from other patients. There are even renown TCM (Traditional Chinese Medicine) practitioners for Lupus in Asia who come highly recommended, yet I've never visited them. It gets a little tricky when it comes to APS, supplements, and [herbs, especially Chinese ones](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4325561/) (Chua et al., 2015), because many of them have a blood thinning or thickening effect. I once visited a TCM practitioner and tried to explain my conditions. He gave me some herbs, but when I Googled them, I realised that they'd all mess with my warfarin, a common anticoagulant medication used for APS, and which I take. Read Related Posts: - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) - [Tell Me You're Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You're Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) ## Warfarin & Caution with Both Prescribed & OTC Medications Apart from alternative and complementary therapies, I also need to work closely with [**each of my doctors**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) who prescribe me medications. Everyone on your healthcare team should be aware that you have APS, and that you're taking warfarin, as many medications and treatments can interact with it. In fact, it's one of the first things I tell the triage whenever I need to go to the A&E. You also need to be cautious with antibiotics and over-the-counter medications when living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome. [NSAIDs](https://www.health.harvard.edu/diseases-and-conditions/bad-mix-blood-thinners-and-nsaids) (aspirin, ibuprofen, naproxen, etc) are a common OTC drug for quelling fevers, menstrual cramps and minor aches (Harvard Health Publishing, 2019). Yet I can't take them unless absolutely necessary as they are a blood thinner, and might result in excessive bleeding in the stomach or elsewhere. Sometimes the interaction isn't that straightforward either. For example, [antacids and laxatives can interact with warfarin](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/deep-vein-thrombosis/in-depth/warfarin-side-effects/art-20047592) (Mayo Clinic, 2024), though they seem fairly innocuous. I use the [MedScape (n.d.) app](https://reference.medscape.com/drug-interactionchecker) to check for common interactions. (I once snooped a doctor using it to check for warfarin interactions as well!) It can be downloaded on your phone, and you can check any medication combination for interactions anytime. ### The Different Types of Blood Thinners Out There There are a few [different types of anticoagulants](https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/anticoagulants/) used for various conditions (National Health Service \[NHS\], 2024). The way aspirin works differs from warfarin, which differs yet again from rivaroxaban (Xarelto) or enoxaparin (Clexane/Lovenox). ([**You can learn more about the various types of anticoagulants here.**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome)) A person with a metallic heart valve might take a different type of anticoagulant medication, as opposed to someone with APS or [Factor V Leiden](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/factor-v-leiden/symptoms-causes/syc-20372423) (Mayo Clinic, 2022). Something to bear in mind is that there are different brands of such anticoagulants. You should always discuss changes with your doctor, as their effectiveness may vary from person to person. Rivaroxaban has a benefit in that you don't need to monitor your diet, as it thins the blood in a different way than warfarin. For most patients living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome however, warfarin is still one of the most effective anticoagulants. This is especially so if you've suffered from blood clots before, and I've had multiple DVTs and a Pulmonary Embolism, which nearly costed me my life. Thus, my INR target range needs to be even higher, and this is only possible with warfarin where you can adjust the dosage with more flexibility. Pin to Your Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome Boards: ![Antiphospholipid Syndrome - Things to Watch Out for (Background: Quinoa grains in a bowl, cropped in a circle.)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-things-watch-out.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [What’s it Like to be on a High Dose of Steroids? (And the First Question You Will Definitely Ask)](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [What's it Like to Live with a Heart Rhythm Disorder?](https://achronicvoice.com/heart-rhythm-disorder/) ### Genetic Factors & the Accuracy of Blood Test Results in Antiphospholipid Syndrome There are also [genetic differences between people of Caucasian and Asian descent](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3370339/) when it comes to APS, and how warfarin interacts with their blood (Lam & Cheung, 2012). For example, Chinese people tend to require lower doses of warfarin as compared to Caucasians. On the other hand, [Indians tend to need higher dosages](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/BF02983247) as their body metabolises it faster (Gan et al., 2003). ## Regular Foods Mess with Warfarin, Too Putting medication and herbs aside, even regular fruits, vegetables, meats and other foods can interact with warfarin, and the effects can take hold pretty fast. For example, if I ate three pieces of broccoli for dinner, my blood would become thicker by the following morning, sometimes even dropping to the [INR baseline](https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/encyclopedia/content.aspx?contenttypeid=167&contentid=international%5Fnormalized%5Fratio) (a measurement for how fast your blood takes to clot, which is 1.0 for the average person) (University of Rochester Medical Center \[URMC\], n.d.). This is fine if I keep my intake regular (three pieces of broccoli every week, no more, no less!), as my doctor adjusts my warfarin according to my regular diet. But that means no gorging on a big bowl of salad, or gulping down a random cup of kale juice because hey, isn't that supposed to be healthy?! Pin to Your Warfarin, Antiphospholipid Syndrome & Food Boards: ![Warfarin - How Foods and Treatments Can Interact with It (Background: Green vegetables such as broccoli, a half avocado, lime and other leafy greens.)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-warfarin-food-treatments-interact.jpg) ## Don't Forget About Blood Thinning Either It isn’t only blood clotting that you need to be aware of as well, as I learned the hard way. I once ate a plate of quinoa, only to wake up to a giant bruise that spanned my entire arm. I discovered that it wasn't the seed itself, but the hull which contains blood thinning agents called [saponins](https://www.hindawi.com/journals/ecam/2015/876426/) (Chen et al., 2015). You can identify most foods that contain vitamin K as they are either green in colour, leafy vegetables, or on a known list. Blood thinning foods are trickier as you can’t always tell until something happens. Research helps, but data can be a little sketchy. There is more medical literature on vitamin K than blood thinning foods. This does not go to say that you should avoid all fruits and vegetables 'just to be sure', because they still contain [**nutrients that are essential**](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) and good for our bodies. What's most important when on warfarin is how consistent your diet is to a certain degree. ### Foods are Powerful (and Dangerous!) Foods can [trigger or suppress inflammatory responses](https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/foods-that-fight-inflammation) within our bodies (Harvard Health Publishing, 2024). For example, [turmeric is great for combatting inflammation](https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/turmeric-benefits) (Johns Hopkins Medicine, n.d.) caused by Lupus and Sjögren’s, but it’s also a blood thinner. Hence, people with APS can’t just go buy a bottle of turmeric tablets and start popping them, even if it might be beneficial for their other conditions. The same goes for fish oil that is rich in omega-3, but also has anticoagulating effects. If it’s something that they would like to try, then they need to discuss this with their doctor, and monitor their blood tests for a period of time. It’s not impossible, but there are many additional steps to take for every little change. Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome, Food & Diet Boards: ![Diet Problems - Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome [The bottom half of a girl's face, smiling as she eats a bowl of salad with a fork.]](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/diet-problems-living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) - [Drink Pure Wine Review (A Product That Excites Me as a Person with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/drink-pure-wine-review/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [Learn More About the Super Rare Disease — Esophageal Diverticulum](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) - ["It's in My Blood": Roy George - A Dramatic Life with a Short Bowel](https://achronicvoice.com/roy-george-dramatic-life-short-bowel/) ## When You Add Alternative & Complementary Treatments into the Mix as Well As someone living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome, I need to avoid contact sports, or any activity that increases the risk of bruising or bleeding. Some alternative therapies such as [cupping therapy](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/16554-cupping) work by causing mild injuries (Cleveland Clinic, 2023), so trying them is out of the question. The same concept applies to [tattoos](https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/tattoos-and-piercings/art-20045067) as well (Mayo Clinic, 2024), if you were wondering. If I add Lupus back into my bag of chronic conditions, it means that I also need to avoid trying stuff like light therapy, infrared saunas and more. Lupus patients tend to be photosensitive, and these treatments could trigger a flare in symptoms. If we combined all my chronic illnesses together, there isn’t much left for me to try in terms of alternative or complementary therapies. One complementary therapy that I *did* try was [**floatation therapy**](https://achronicvoice.com/floatation-therapy-chronic-pain/). I was initially hesitant as I read that it might not be safe for those with epilepsy, but I had the green light from my neurologist since I was stable. Whilst it did not help to ease the chronic pain that I get from Lupus and Sjögren's, I did experience deep relaxation, and had the best sleep that night in *years*. ## Psychiatric Side Effects & Interference with Treatments for Mental Disorders [APS can also cause psychiatric disorders](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8773877/), such as mania, depression, bipolar disorder and schizophrenia (Man & Sanna, 2022). I personally live with clinical depression, anxiety and panic attacks. Although my doctors and I think that these mental health issues were triggered by [**my steroid therapy**](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/), it's hard to really be sure as I live with many chronic illnesses, and take about 20 pills a day. Any one of these chronic illnesses can cause cognitive dysfunction as well. I once experienced mysterious brain fogs for an entire year, and was first referred to my neurologist, who confirmed that it wasn't related to epilepsy. Then my psychiatrist, together with my rheumatologist, went through the whole year trying to pin it down. I was put on new medications and taken off them many times. Was it due to APS, Lupus, Sjögren's, depression, or something entirely new? In the end, we concluded that it was a manifestation of [Lupus (SLE) in the CNS (central nervous system)](https://www.lupus.org/resources/how-lupus-affects-the-nervous-system) (Lupus Foundation of America, 2021), which is a diagnosis of exclusion. It can be tricky because [APS can cause brain fog](https://medicine.umich.edu/dept/intmed/what-aps-%E2%80%9Cbrain-fog%E2%80%9D-what-are-some-strategies-help-manage-it), too (Yu, 2021). Read Related Posts: - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) ## Antiphospholipid Syndrome Increases the Risk of Any Surgery Many surgeons and anaesthesiologists aren't keen to carry out a surgical procedure on patients with APS, due to the risk of blood clots. Sometimes, APS patients die not from the surgery process itself, but from unexpected blood clots. In fact, this was a major issue amongst surgeons when I needed to [**get my mitral valve repaired**](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) a few years ago. None of them were keen to operate on me as I have APS, and suggested that I hold it off for as long as I could. This was contrary to the advice of the top heart hospital in the U.S., and I had to go there to get it done in the end. It's also not a good idea to get sliced open whilst on an anticoagulant ike warfarin either - I'm sure you can imagine why. This includes dental procedures as well. For a planned surgery, a protocol needs to be followed where you are weaned off the oral warfarin in replacement with self-injected [LMWH (low molecular weight heparin)](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK525957/) (Patel & Varacallo, 2025). The mechanism of LMWH works differently from warfarin in that the anticoagulant effect lasts for about only 12 hours. There used to be a downside in that there was no antidote for it, but now [**there are a few reversal agents available**](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/#reversal). After about a week the INR should have come back down to the baseline. The LMWH is stopped the night before, so that you will not bleed excessively during the surgery. LMWH is then used as a bridge when it's deemed safe to resume your warfarin. **Note that this is just from my personal experiences — the protocol for your own surgery or medication adjustments may differ, based on your own condition, and assessment by your healthcare team.** ### Emergency Surgeries are Never Straightforward with Antiphospholipid Syndrome The most recent major event caused by my APS was an ovarian cyst rupture. Such ruptures can happen to any woman during ovulation; they often feel some pain and probably just regard it as menstrual cramps. As I was on warfarin, the rupture wouldn't stop bleeding, and soon there was a 9cm (3.54") mass of clots inside me. ([**Learn more about ovarian cysts and ruptures here.**](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/#OCR)) I had waited for two days before heading to the A&E, as pain is a guessing game when you live with so many chronic illnesses. You never quite know the source of the problem, and I had assumed it was just period cramps or swelling from Sjögren's. In fact, to me the pain from the cyst rupture was initially bearable, compared to a bad pain flare day. People do get surgeries done immediately to remove such massive clots, but because I was on warfarin and have APS, no surgery is ever straightforward. So they put me in the high dependency ward, gave me painkillers, blood transfusions, then we just hung around to 'see how it goes'. (P.s. It happened a second time which was much worse.) Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome & Surgery Boards: ![Surgical Complications with Antiphospholipid Syndrome [Background: Surgeon in scrubs putting on plastic hand gloves.]](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/surgical-complications-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome-2.png) ## Pregnancy Complications with Antiphospholipid Syndrome APS can also be a problem for women who want to get pregnant. ‘Surprises’ should be avoided as warfarin can be harmful to foetuses, and can cause [fetal warfarin syndrome](https://casereports.bmj.com/content/2018/bcr-2017-223159.short) (Sousa et al., 2018). Women who plan on getting pregnant need to go on LMWH injections before they try for a child, and also during the pregnancy. ([**Learn more about pregnancy complications with warfarin and Antiphospholipid Syndrome here.**](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/#PregnancyComplications)) I actually prefer enoxaparin to warfarin as I don't have to worry about the foods I eat. It isn’t good as a long-term solution however, even if I don’t mind injecting myself twice a day. It's possible to develop a resistance to it, and [can also weaken your bones](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4945546/) (Gajic-Veljanoski et al., 2016). That isn't a good thing when I'm already at osteopenia levels, due to the steroids I take to control my Lupus and Sjögren’s. (The biggest tendons in my knees ruptured spontaneously because of this, which left me [**disabled for a year**](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/).) The [most dangerous period during pregnancy with APS](https://journals.lww.com/co-obgyn/abstract/2004/04000/antiphospholipid%5Fsyndrome%5Fin%5Fpregnancy.6.aspx) is during the later stages, as this is when blood clots tend to form, cutting off supply to the placenta (Carp, 2004). Losing a baby at any stage of pregnancy is heartbreaking, and to have it die just before birth can be highly traumatic. I've heard of too many heartbreaking stories where people only discover that they have APS after recurrent miscarriages. I suppose that diagnosing such disorders isn't exactly straightforward, yet such losses are preventable to a large extent (up to [80% successful birth rates for people with APS](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0049384819303664)) (Schreiber & Hunt, 2019). ## Travel Concerns with Antiphospholipid Syndrome ### Dietary Changes Just like you, people living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome love to [**go on holidays**](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-new-paths-chronic-illness/), but there are extra precautions we need to take. For one, our diets tend to change overseas. We not only lose access to our regular groceries, but some of us also want to sample as much of the local cuisine as possible! But who knows what ingredients are really in these recipes? The amount of food you eat and the change in meal times can also have an overall impact on how thin or thick your blood becomes. ### Different Formulations of OTC Medications Different countries favour different brands of medications for various reasons. This includes OTC medications, and I often cannot access familiar brands or the same formulations whilst travelling. In such scenarios, the MedScape app comes in handy. Having said that, the best solution is to carry your own 'mini pharmacy supply' whilst travelling. I usually spend a few hours just packing all my medications - from regular, to 'as and when needed', to emergency ones. ### A Blood Clot is a Medical Emergency A [DVT or blood clot is a medical emergency](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/16911-deep-vein-thrombosis-dvt) that requires immediate attention(Cleveland Clinic, 2022). The biggest concern is that these blood clots break up, and lodge in places they shouldn’t be in, such as the brain, heart or lung, which can even result in death. Finding a hospital overseas can be tricky for anyone, especially if you don’t speak the language, or are in a rural area. When you do reach the hospital, you need to explain your medical conditions to the healthcare team all over again. Time zone differences may make it difficult to contact your doctors back home as well. If you're alone, this can be even trickier. That is why it is essential that you carry medical information cards on your person wherever you go, so that doctors know about your medical conditions should you be unable to communicate. ### The Need to Monitor Even the Slightest Injury Even minor scrapes and cuts need to be monitored. I once had a paper cut overseas that wouldn't stop bleeding for an entire day. Fortunately, it finally stopped, but not after my thumb had turned blue from the bandage! It would have been not only annoying to need to go to a clinic or hospital overseas for a paper cut, but also costly. Travel insurance often doesn't cover chronic illness, even though you can still buy them as a chronically ill person. ### Steps I Take to Stay Safe Whilst Travelling with APS Out of all my chronic illnesses, APS is the one I fear the most whilst travelling, as it can be the most complicated to treat, and also strikes quickly. Sometimes I ask my rheumatologist to convert me to Clexane just for that duration of time, so that I don't have to fret over changes in my INR. I also purchased a [CoaguChek machine](https://diagnostics.roche.com/global/en/products/product-category/lab-type/point-of-care-testing-poct/coagulation-testing.html) which allows me to check my INR on my own (Roche Diagnostics, 2025). My doctor and I took a few months to test it against veinous blood tests, and it's about a +-0.3 difference in reading. So for me it's fairly stable, and brings me peace of mind whilst on the road. **(Please work with your own doctor to test your machine, as results can vary quite a bit.)** Read Related Posts: - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [March 2018: Sorting My Medications & a Hike Up Little Adam's Peak](https://achronicvoice.com/sorting-medications-hike-little-adams-peak-march-2018/) - [Winter Fun, Games & Pain with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-fun-chronic-illness/) - [Physiotherapy After Knee Operation](https://achronicvoice.com/physiotherapy-after-knee-operation/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) Pin to Your Antiphospholipid Syndrome, Travel & Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![Travel Concerns with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (and other annoying things). Read on the blog: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/travel-concerns-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome-annoying-things.jpg) ## Common Sense Becomes Uncommon When Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome Home ‘remedies’, such as massaging a bruise in order to help with blood circulation to promote healing, are a big no when it comes to APS. Doing so increases the chances of blood clots spreading to other parts of the body. I'm always super worried whenever I get a bump on my head. Whilst I live with microhaemorrhages in my brain, a massive clot would be disastrous. Epileptics don't always have to go to the A&E/ER after every seizure, but those with APS like me are advised to do so anyway. This is to ensure that I'm not bleeding in my head or somewhere else, as I wouldn't have known what had happened when I collapsed. Even the way I nourish myself for recovery can become a puzzle to solve. ## Why I Call Antiphospholipid Syndrome 'The Silent Killer' Part of why chronic illness is complex is because no two diagnoses are equal; people with the same disorder can manifest symptoms on extreme ends of the same spectrum. Whilst APS is a blood disorder, symptoms can appear anywhere in your body. The classic big bad stuff that it’s known for are strokes, heart attacks, pulmonary embolisms (clots in the lung), and brain haemorrhages. But it can also cause memory and cognition problems, headaches, edema, and even hearing loss, seizures, death, and mental disorders. For me, living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome doesn’t typically cause the biggest issues on a regular day. It’s Lupus and Sjögren’s that batter my body with muscle aches, joint pains, swelling and other problems that I can quite literally feel deep in my bones. But when APS hits, it closes in for a swift kill. It’s like the quiet, well controlled person in the room who never shows anger, but when they do, it’s scary and shocking. Pin to Your Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome Boards: ![Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome - My Personal Experiences (Background: Girl writing in her journal in a cosy room.)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome-my-personal-experiences.jpg) ### Is This a Blood Clot, or What? When I experienced the worst pain of my entire life due to a massive outbreak of blood clots, the general practitioner whom I had first seen brushed it off as muscle cramps. If even a doctor can get it wrong, what am I to do? But I like to think that I’ve become quite an expert in regards to my own body, with the many painful lessons and near-death experiences that I’ve had to go through over the years. It’s like hands-on medical training on steroids (and yes I take steroids, so I actually know what that's like 😉). So I rushed to the hospital the next time I had chest pains. And the next, and the next. I mean, if I didn’t learn from the most painful experience of my life, then that would be stupid, right? But as it turns out, most of the time it’s due to muscular pains, a mix of my other autoimmune diseases, or regular ailments. It's tough to tell the differences when you can’t see through your skin. Whilst I've learned some tricks to differentiate APS from my other chronic illnesses and the way the pain is presented over the years, these insights aren't foolproof either. #### My Other Autoimmune Diseases Can Also be a Nightmare... I once missed a flight because I was in unbearable pain, and couldn't imagine being cooped up in a pressurised, stuffy cabin for 8 hours. It was probably the Sjögren’s that was squeezing pain out of my entire body, as if I were a dying tube of toothpaste. Every joint and muscle in my body felt like they were on fire, and I spent that entire night up pacing, hugging myself and crying in agony. There are a few levels in every chronic illness patient’s personal pain scale. My 9/10 would be equivalent to screaming in pain throughout the night, and rocking my body into frenzied oblivion. This isn’t an exaggeration - I've had nights like these. #### ...But APS Takes the Last Slice of Cake I save my 10/10 rating for massive blood clotting episodes, like the one I had experienced before. I'd even rate it beyond 10 if I could - it is hell. ## Finding Your Own Rhythm, So That You Can Live a Full Life with Antiphospholipid Syndrome Recognising the signs and symptoms of APS is like a detective game. It takes practice and learning from the many mistakes that you're bound to make. But you will understand your body better over time as you grow together with it. I had so many questions when I was first diagnosed with APS as a gawky teenage girl. Seemingly silly questions such as, "Can I pluck my eyebrows, will it cause blood clots?". My doctor, being an older male, suggested that I avoid this as it would irritate the blood vessels. Small stuff like that. Questions that probably wouldn't even cross your mind at all. But when you're living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome, every small action or interaction becomes a puzzle to solve. As with many things in life, you will just need to [**find your own rhythm**](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/), with lots of patience, time, adaptation, and compassionate attention. Who knows what the future will hold for each and every one of us, but all we can do is to learn, and live as well as possible. I wish you all the best, and if you have any questions or tips to share about living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome, feel free to leave a comment below. 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(2025, April 7). *Point of care coagulation testing.* https://diagnostics.roche.com/global/en/products/product-category/lab-type/point-of-care-testing-poct/coagulation-testing.html - Schreiber, K., & Hunt, B. J. (2019). Managing antiphospholipid syndrome in pregnancy. *Thrombosis Research, 181*, S41–S46\. https://doi.org/10.1016/S0049-3848(19)30366-4 - Sousa, A. R., Barreira, R., & Santos, E. (2018). Low-dose warfarin maternal anticoagulation and fetal warfarin syndrome. *BMJ Case Reports, 2018*, bcr-2017-223159\. https://doi.org/10.1136/bcr-2017-223159 - University of Rochester Medical Center. (n.d.). International normalized ratio. Retrieved April 25, 2023, from https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/encyclopedia/content?contenttypeid=167&contentid=international\_normalized\_ratio - Yu, Z. (2021, October 5). *What is APS “brain fog”? 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Let’s hope someday a blood thinner that works as well with APS as warfarin is developed! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 30, 2022 Hi Mary, I’m so sorry to hear that you had to go through such a scary experience. I hope you are doing better now. Is there anything in particular about APS you’d like to know more about? I plan on writing a post about foods but have been procrastinating because it’s such a huge topic and so variable! - [ Sandy ](https://justliveforward.com) Sep 22, 2020 This is very comprehensive post! I was not familiar with this particular condition, but can appreciate how delicate the balance can be between how prescription drugs, supplements and food can affect our blood. I’ve noticed this based on my INR results over time – definite differences based on my dietary changes, as well as when taking certain medications. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 22, 2020 Thanks Sandy! Do you have a blood disorder that requires you to test your INR frequently, too? - [ Alison ](https://www.thrivingwhiledisabled.com) Sep 18, 2020 Hey Sheryl, Thanks so much for writing this up! APS sounds incredibly frustrating, indeed! I really appreciate you sharing this, and I\[‘ve got a much better understanding o what you’re managing now. This makes me feel so fortunate that no matter how weird my FND symptoms are, I’m unlikely to need emergency services. When even the doctors get confused, it’s a tough fight to get the proper care. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 22, 2020 THank you Alison for your support. Yes APS is really a silent killer. A lady on my Instagram just shared her story of losing her baby at birth, and nearly losing her life, all from blood clots caused by undiagnosed APS. It really strikes hard and looms in the background. Sending you love! x - Josie Jul 21, 2020 Hi Sheryl, I’ve just been diagnosed with APS after going to hospital emergency in April with 3 clots in my lungs. Amid all the Covid19 dramas happpening around the world this came as a huge and unexpected surprise. I’m a 45 year old mum of three, have always been active and always worried I’d get a chronic disease like Type II Diabetes since my mum has it so I watch what I eat (most of the time) and considered myself fairly healthy. It was so good to read your article and hear your experiences as I’m still navigating through it all and having a rollercoaster of emotions when I read new information. I was put onto Xaralto from the time I left the hospital and got my diagnosis 2 months later which is when the Dr recommended I change to Warfarin as after getting my blood checked again found that the Xaralto wasn’t effective enough to thin my blood with an INR of 1.5\. So I have just begun my Warfarin and am a bit nervous about how I keep my INR consistant with what I’m eating (because of the greens) but your article has given me some good ideas and advice. I know that I have to follow my Drs and pathology advice but knowing I’m not alone is really reassuring. Thanks so much. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 22, 2020 Hi Josie, I am sorry to hear about the diagnosis 🙁 It must be hard to grasp it at 45, especially with a family and total change in lifestyle that impacts everyone. But you are not alone. Yes for APS the general advice is to use warfarin instead of Xarelto as it’s not enough to thin the blood, and especially more so if you’ve had clots before (and 3 clots in the lung are quite a lot in a go). I am NOT a doctor however of course, so don’t take this as advice, just sharing my personal experiences and reading 🙂 Sending you good thoughts. Hope to keep in touch, as there’s not many people with APS online whom I know! - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/) Jun 4, 2020 This is a fantastic resource page. I have a friend with APS and she has told me a lot about what she deals with here in Taiwan. She has mentioned a few times that the health care she receives here is top notch compared to what she had back home in Canada – instant access to ER, for example, is a huge thing for us here. I really learned a lot more about what you are coping on a day to day basis and will be mindful of her experiences the next time she talks to me about them. Your comment about TCM made me smile a bit. It’s pushed heavily here in Taiwan, with doctors being able to cure cancer and lupus. I fell for that in 2011 through 2014 and it made me worse. Plus, no cure and a lot of money down the drain. It seems to be great for some folks and terrible for others. I did not know that Chinese herbs affect your blood like that! Thanks so much for sharing your experiences and your research, as always! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 5, 2020 Haha thanks Carrie – re TCM. Yea I have a lot of relatives and people pushing that on me too (we’re Asians after all). So I just scare them a little bit or just shut them off if they don’t listen. I know that there are some great TCMs out there for Lupus but unfortunately, I don’t even want to try because of APS. It gets so tricky. Even with Western medications where the interactions are more researched and defined it’s tricky, what more herbs of an unknown quantity. I wish your friend well, next time I can meet her too, perhaps! 🙂 - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Jun 3, 2020 I had no idea what Antiphospholipid Syndrome was – I feel really well informed now Sheryl…. and I didn’t find the subject to be dry at all 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 3, 2020 Thanks Shruti! This post barely scritches the surface of the topic, but it’s got to start somewhere! I really need to add more resources on my blog about APS as it’s super rare compared to say, Lupus resources, which is also not enough 🙁 - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Jun 3, 2020 Thank you so much for sharing this information Sheryl. It’s amazing how much I learn from people living with chronic illness conditions, and your posts are always so well researched and helpful. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 3, 2020 Thanks Claire, I try my best! Misinformation is super harmful so I try my best to do no harm in that regard to the best of my knowledge. I learn a lot from you and others with different conditions, too! - [ Jessica Collazo ](https://elogiosamislocuras.blogspot.com) Mar 13, 2020 Wao this is such a big deal. Didn’t know about this illness. Thanks for sharing your experience. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 14, 2020 Thanks for reading and trying to understand, Jessica. People like me appreciate it so much 🙂 - King Jan 1, 2020 I never heard of this condition but thanks for creating the awareness. Interesting to read - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 2, 2020 Thanks King, yes it’s a pretty rare disorder, although many people only find out when it’s too late. Thanks fo rreading! - Danielle Dec 31, 2019 I have never heard of this disorder before but it is really interesting to learn about it. How scary it must be to have to manage this illness. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 31, 2019 Hi Danielle, yes hence the need to raise awareness. So many rare diseases out there, unfortunately 🙁 - [ tweenselmom ](https://www.tweenselmom.com) Dec 30, 2019 Health is wealth indeed, thanks for your posts that help people be more aware and careful of their health. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 31, 2019 It sure is, and one that many take for granted, until sadly it’s too late! Sending good thoughts and wishing you health and happiness in the new year! - Samar Dec 30, 2019 I seriously had no idea regarding antiphospholipid syndrome, You are doing a great job in creating awareness. Thanks for the post. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 31, 2019 Thanks Samar, I’m glad that the word is getting around, but it’s not enough for sure. Here’s to more awareness! - Susan m Quackenbush Dec 30, 2019 Thank you for helping to bring awareness to this disease. Will was on blood thinners when he had his new heart a few years ago,. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 30, 2019 Hi Susan, sorry to hear that…I hope he is coping much better now? Yes they usually give warfarin for metal heart valves, but different countries have different protocols, too. And sometimes they take a different sort of blood thinner, as the sort you need for the heart is different. We decided against aspirin on top of warfarin for me (I have Antiphospholipid Syndrome and a repaired mitral heart valve, too 🙂 ). - Britney Dec 29, 2019 I love how informative you are! I’ve never heard of this, but I write about my own disorders and polycystic ovarian syndrome to help educate others. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 30, 2019 Hi Britney, that’s awesome that you do so. Will be following you on social media! 🙂 - Rose Ann Sales Dec 29, 2019 I haven’t heard of this syndrome before. You habe avery detailed and informative post about it. Thanks for sharing knowledge..! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 29, 2019 It’s a very rare condition, hence why the need to raise more awareness about it. Many people especially women only find out when it’s too late (such as a miscarriage). 🙁 - [ Jackline A ](https://www.sincerelyjackline.com) Dec 28, 2019 I have never heard of this but what an interesting read. Love medical related articles. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 29, 2019 Thanks Jackline, just trying to raise more awareness, especially from 2020 onwards! Medical articles can be quite fascinating, hey? 🙂 - Bindu Thomas Dec 28, 2019 I’ve not heard of APS before, though have heard of Lupus. I admire your courage how you deal with this condition. It’s really great that you came out with your story, it will be an inspiration for others dealing with this condition. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 29, 2019 Thank you Bindu, for taking the time to read, it means a great deal to me! Wishing you and your loved ones health in the new year! - bella Dec 28, 2019 so lovely to bring awareness about this syndrome, thank you for writing and sharing this with all of us. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 29, 2019 Thanks Bella, it’s very much needed. Thanks for reading! - [ Milica ](https://beautifulwanderlustlifestyle.blogspot.com/) Dec 26, 2019 I recently read about this when one of my colleagues shared story how she was sick for months, feeling bad and without any straight to do anything. Luckily she is better now but afraid that this can happen to her again. Thank you for sharing this. Happy Holidays!! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 27, 2019 You’re welcome Milica. If she’s new to Antiphospholipid Syndrome, you might want to share this article with her. There’s not a lot of patient perspective out there and I’m trying to raise more awareness about APS next year! 🙂 Have a good one, too! - Sundeep Dec 26, 2019 Thanks for creating awareness about this syndrome. Earlier I never heard about APS. You mentioned each and everything about APS. I am sharing in my few groups - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 27, 2019 Thanks Sundeep, a lot more awareness is certainly needed, and is my aim for the new year! It’s a deadly one, and a real subtle one at the same time. - AC Nov 23, 2019 Hi Sheryl, thank you for this article on APS. I myself has a blood disorder that happened 2 years ago while having my lung surgery (CA stage 1a). Took the haematology doctors 1 week to find out what is the problem with the blood as it is not clotting properly. Not sure if you heard about TTP. Was on steroids, plasma transfusions and chemo drugs. Body pain is there consistently. Good days and bad days. My symptoms very similar to yours so I can empathy with your feelings. Be positive. - [ Rachel, The Invisible Hypothyroidism ](https://theinvisiblehypothyroidism.com) Mar 11, 2019 Thank you for sharing such a comprehensive post, Sheryl. I wasn’t aware of all of this but appreciate knowing now. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 11, 2019 Thanks for taking the time to read and learn, Rachel. Those of us with APS really appreciate it! 🙂 - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Mar 9, 2019 I really do think that APS is under appreciated and not given enough attention, so you’ve done brilliantly raising awareness of this. You’ve met Hughes, the doctor who discovered it? Wow, how did that encounter come about? Very interesting about the link to diet, most of which I didn’t have a clue about. I know you said you’d put this post off a bit fearing it was a rather dry subject, but it’s such an important one and I think you’ve done brilliantly in making this easy to understand and getting across key information clearly, which couldn’t have been easy given the complexity of it and how the condition can impact other conditions. Caz xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 27, 2019 For some reason I missed this comment, sorry Caz! The encounter wasn’t much help (different ethnicities I guess, react differently), but he was such a nice and caring doctor from what I recall. Thank you so much for the support and kind words – they’re deeply appreciated! And yes, this post surprised me by becoming one of the top 5 on my blog. I thought it’d fade into history, but it seems like there are people out there who need this information from a patient’s perspective. Sending hugs! x - Daniel Oct 10, 2018 At last some information about aps, I’ve just been told I got aps after 4 years of clotting mine is triple positive APS and Lupus just trying to get use to it I’ve been on warfarin for 3 weeks - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 10, 2018 Hi Daniel, yes I have a combination of chronic illnesses too – like you I have APS and also Lupus (SLE). And I was also frustrated because even I myself am guilty of talking more about the Lupus than APS, yet the APS is a huge problem in itself! Shoutout if you have any questions, and I hope you manage to find a good balance in your life! - Rei Feb 11, 2022 Hi, We found out my 16 yr old daughter has triple positive APS as well last year and she lost right vision permanently from CRAO (central retinal artery occlusion) due to APS in October, and just 2 weeks ago had a stroke. How are you doing? Hope all is well. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Feb 19, 2022 Oh dear, I am so sorry to hear this, Rei 🙁 APS can be so tricky as it hits so ruthlessly, and fast. How is she coping? Send her my well wishes x - Kali Smith Sep 12, 2018 This sounds so scary I’m really hoping my tests turn out to be negative. I’m still sick with bronchitis so I think I’ll be waiting a bit to have my labs done but at least I know I can talk to a person who has it. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 12, 2018 Don’t worry Kali, it’s not so bad 🙂 As you’re unwell right now, it can make you feel more fragile. And yes, feel free to drop me a message anytime at all. I hope you recover from the bronchitis soon! - Gabrielle Jimenez Jun 27, 2018 My sister has APS I’ve tried to help as much as I can although I don’t feel her pain. She had her first stroke at 21 3 more by 25\. This article was 100% helpful! Thank you! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 27, 2018 Hi Gabrielle, I’m so sorry to hear that she had so many strokes due to APS 🙁 Those are really the ‘big guns’ when APS does hit, and I’m sorry she had to deal with them. She’s fortunate to have such a caring sister like you. Thank you for reading and feel free to let me know anytime you have questions about APS. Wishing you and your family all the best! - Layla Jun 3, 2018 This is crazy, I’ve never even heard of this before! It sounds like an absolute nightmare to live with and I really admire your strength dealing with all these conditions at once! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 4, 2018 Thanks for reading and trying to understand, Layla, I appreciate it! It’s not so bad really, only when it strikes 😉 I admire you just the same! xx - Emma (Not Just Tired) May 29, 2018 Oh my goodness, Sheryl, I had no idea how complex APS was to live with, as well as dealing with your other chronic illnesses too. I’m sorry you have to cope with all of this. To constantly be having to think, and weigh up everything you do, must be totally exhausting. I really do admire your positive attitude and all you manage to achieve, despite everything you have to deal with. Great post for raising awareness. xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 29, 2018 Hi Emma, how lovely of you to take some time to read through this large text! Yes it’s less advocated for, I think, because it’s lesser known than Lupus, and also because Lupus does give me more pain on an everyday life basis! I hope this article was easy to understand for someone without APS! Sending hugs xx - [ Lowen Puckey ](https://livingpositivelywithdisability.com/) May 29, 2018 Wow – this is so complicated! I can see the huge amount of work you’ve put into pulling this all apart to understand it. It must be such a headache considering every aspect of the introduction of something new to the mix. Lowen x @ [http://livingpositivelywithdisability.com ](https://livingpositivelywithdisability.com) - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 29, 2018 Hi Lowen, thank you so much for taking the time to read and trying to understand APS, even though you don’t have it! I appreciate it 🙂 Yes it’s very complex, but a silent complexity until it strikes! I hope you’re having a great day! x - Misty Ryan May 28, 2018 What an excellent depiction of a day in the life with APS! So many people dismiss me as “dramatic” or “attention seeking” when we both know APS can bring a very tough cookie to their knees- not to mention being dismissed by doctors for anxiety and then the federal government taking away our pain and anxiety medications because of others whom have abused you. Please keep writing. Following. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 28, 2018 Hi Misty, Thank you for reading and following 🙂 Yes APS can really get you all anxious because we can’t confirm a clot or bleed until further tests at the dreaded A&E at the hospital. And the pain can be excruciating! I hope that you don’t have to go through any more episodes! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Flowers are the Most Beautiful When They're Just About to Die (and What That's Got to Do with Being a Spoonie) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/flowers-most-beautiful-die-spoonie/ Last updated: 2026-06-11T15:41:32.000Z ## A Random Thought That Drifted to Chronic Illness During a Floral Workshop Recently, I attended a floral workshop as part of a good friend’s hen’s party. Such classes aren’t that cheap, so in a way I was glad to finally have an ‘excuse’ to go for one without feeling guilty ;) (P.s. I understand why they’re charged at those rates, premium flowers don’t come cheap. But it’s still quite a bit to spend for only a few hours!) As we sipped on our champagne and listened to the florist share about her philosophies, she said something which made me think - “Flowers are the most beautiful when they’re just about to die”. Perhaps I’m getting a bit obsessed, but my thoughts drifted toward those of us who live with chronic illnesses. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. 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This made me think, does this mean that we’re already forced to be at the blooming stage? That life has huffed and puffed into our tight middles, and ruffled our petals to instigate growth? (This was actually a trick I learned from the florist, to encourage flowers to open up faster!) We’re definitely no fresh buds, but in full bloom. We’re a fierce and chaotic burst of colour. Whilst pain is never pleasant or desired, it provokes expansion within our minds. [No one walks away without learning a little life lesson or two](https://www.sicklessons.com/). Just like flowers that have been cut, we can [continue to be on best display](http://mentalfloss.com/article/78184/8-tips-make-cut-flowers-last-longer) with the proper nutrition, care and environment. We may or may not be on the faster track towards death, but since we’re already in full bloom, we might as well brighten the lives of those around us. 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The expectations of 'strength' is a colossal ideal that sits atop the shiny, elevated pedestal erected by society. It's unreachable by the average person, and a desired possession for our egos. The path to get there can even be harmful at times, as we sacrifice important aspects of ourselves along the way. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Strength, Affirmation & Chronic Pain Boards: ![You Don’t Have to be Strong. Just a little stronger than before. A little kinder, a little gentler, a little better than before.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong-just-a-little-stronger-than-before.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) ## A Sense of Stolen Identity I was feeling down the other day, as I felt that I had [**lost a lot of the fire I possessed in my youth**](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/). When I was going through the [**most painful experience of my life**](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) at 17, I didn’t really take any painkillers, as I had bought into the belief that they’re bad for you. I thought that that was an act of strength and character. Now, I [**take a painkiller whenever I feel that I’ve had enough**](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/). I’m sick of being in pain. Whilst that makes sense, I'm also somewhat disappointed, as if I had lost a quality I admired in myself. I was no longer ‘strong’ or ‘brave’, just a weakling who relied on painkillers for pain that was much lesser than what I had experienced before. But a thought sliced through that despair. I realised that you don't have to be **strong**, just a little ***stronger*** than before. You don't have to be **brave**, just a little ***braver*** than before. A little kinder, a little gentler, a little better than before. I felt a sense of courage jolt through me with that thought, all within the span of a few seconds. ## You Don't Have to be Strong; Set Realistic Milestones The problem with trying to be ‘strong’, is that we’re comparing ourselves against an impossible standard. We’ll know when our intentions are wrong, when we [**worry about how others will judge us**](https://achronicvoice.com/dont-compare-life-destination-special/) should we fail to meet them. Instead, we can take that standard to meet us where we are in life right here, right now. By doing so, we turn that impossibility into [**a possibility that we can meet**](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/). Life is large, everchanging, and tethers itself to no one society, thought or perspective. It encompasses all ways of living. We don’t have to worry that we’re degrading into worthlessness, as long as we keep moving in the right direction. Read Related Posts: - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-to-live-your-life/) - [Keeping Up with the World: Why it’s Important Despite Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationships with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/) Pin to Your Life Lesson & Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![The Problem with Trying to be Strong, and How to Reframe It](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/problem-trying-to-be-strong-reframe.jpg) ## What’s the Point to Courage Without Fear? The word ‘courage’ would probably have no meaning without the existence of fear. Courage is to look fear in the eye (or in the corner of your vision!), and to walk past that dragon’s lair anyway. If that demon doesn't frighten you, then you could stroll by without the need for bravery. **Even if all you take is one small step forward, it is still a powerful act. It is to have some faith in yourself, to know that you can traverse this travesty, and survive this tragedy.** When I feel overwhelmed, this thought inspires me. I feel a sense of relief, as if the heavy weight of that gold standard is lifted, so that I can move and actually get going. Once again, you don't have to be strong, but just take a small tiptoe forward in faith and courage. > “Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear.” - Mark Twain Pin to Your Self-Care, Mental Health & Wellness Boards: ![The Powerful Act of One Small Step](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/powerful-act-one-small-step.jpg) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [Give Your Best Anyway, Even When You’re Feeling Depressed](https://achronicvoice.com/give-your-best-even-when-feeling-depressed/) - [A String of Bad Days (and What Happened When That Good Day Finally Came Along)](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Mental Health Boards: ![You Don’t Have to be Strong, You Just Have to be a Little Stronger Than Before](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/you-dont-have-to-be-strong-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Anne ](https://www.raisiebay.com) Mar 26, 2023 Sometimes I really wish that people wouldn’t use the word strong. It’s certainly not the word I would use for myself. But I like the idea of little steps and just being a little stronger than before. Beautiful words Sheryl, as always. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 31, 2023 Thank you for reading as always, Anne, I appreciate all your support 🙂 Yes I used to value ‘strength’ a whole lot. Maybe it’s the way I was raised, being the first child, etc etc. But strength is so relative and subjective, isn’t it? And we all have strengths no matter who we are at the end of the day! - [ Lucy ](https://lbhealthandlifestyle.com/) Aug 13, 2021 I love this post! It’s so true, focussing on a long term goal and big progress feels so overwhelming and out of reach most days. Instead, small steps in the right direction feel so much more achievable. It’s those small steps that all add up to make big improvements in the long term 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 21, 2021 Thank you Lucy! Yes baby steps for the win! 😉 Everything is so relative when we live with chronic pain. Every day is assessed bit by bit, sometimes even by the minute. So we need to compare it to that baseline again and again, instead of yesterday’s or tomorrow’s. - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Jan 21, 2021 I find it frustrating when people (including doctors) tell me to stay strong. It’s giving a standard that can be insurmountable. Why should I be strong when I am in pain, or having a horrible medical test? It’s ok to be scared or feel fearful I think. - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/) Jun 4, 2020 Loved this! It’s so important to remember that we can’t meet impossible standards. I do say ‘stay strong’ a lot, but I also give myself room to move with things as they come and go. I try not to be too hard on myself because sometimes expectations are truly impossible to meet. I think that as long as we stay in the present and try to take it one day at a time, it all becomes a little more bearable. Baby steps, one step at a time, be ready to bend with it when you need to. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 5, 2020 Thanks Carrie! Yes strong and stronger are relative terms, and as with many other things, must be seen in context, too 🙂 ‘Stay stronger’ my friend! Haha. xxx - Kathy May 22, 2018 I can relate to your thoughts in this post. “Even if all you take is one small step forward, it is still a powerful act.” So many quotable sentences, and inspiration to keep taking small steps forward. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 22, 2018 Aww thank you for your mega support as always, Kathy. Much appreciated, and sending much love and strength your way ;p xxx - [ Lowen Puckey ](https://livingpositivelywithdisability.com/) May 21, 2018 Awesome read 😀 I think our sense of needing to be strong can be destructive in some instances, for example when we pretend we’re not in pain or don’t admit the extent of our suffering to doctors. We need to redefine what strength is and does for us x Lowen @ livingpositivelywithdisability.com - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 22, 2018 Hi Lowen, exactly. Ironically as other spoonies’ fuses may have increased, mine has blown out. Now I just tell them like it is :p xx - [ Lydia ](https://www.beinglydia.com) May 21, 2018 Wow, I really needed this right now. I mean at this very minute. I am fighting symptoms I haven’t had to in a long time and dealing with pain levels I have never had before. I was beginning to think I was becoming a weakling and submitting to everything I have been dealing with for a long time now. This post really reminded me of who I am and where I have been. You are right, I just need that little extra strength, not a whole boat-load! Thanks, Sheryl. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 22, 2018 Apologies for the late response Lydia, I was in the hospital. How are you doing yourself? I am so glad this article was helpful to you in that very moment. And no way you are a weakling! You are full of character and class. And even if you want to be ‘weak’ for a moment, that’s also okay. Sending big hugs and I’m here to listen whenever you need. The small benefits of staying across different oceans 😉 - Emma (Not Just Tired) May 15, 2018 Great post Sheryl. Really inspiring. I like your thinking that taking one small step forward is enough. Phew! When I first became ill, I remember thinking about just taking baby steps, and that helped me a lot. It’s easy to forget this sometimes though, so thanks for the reminder! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 19, 2018 Hi Emma, thanks for reading as always 🙂 Yes in the beginning I fought hard to be really strong. But thinking about it, it’s truly unsustainable for a lifetime. I need to pick the battles worth fighting for 🙂 xx **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### What's it Like to be the Mother of a Chronically Ill Child? (Precious Insights from My Own Mum) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/ Last updated: 2026-05-09T07:53:43.000Z ## Mothers are Life’s Ultimate Superheroes There’s no need to state the obvious I suppose, but many mothers are the ultimate superheroes in everyday life. They’re the ones who show up when things get rough, and showing up once is actually the 'easiest' part. This can be especially difficult and true if you are a mother of a sick child. Unlike movies where superheroes calm calamities in an instant, real life problems require steadfast reappearances. It is to wake up every morning and to [**show up despite feelings or circumstances**](https://achronicvoice.com/make-time-what-matters-most/). This is tough, and mothers do it without demanding accolades or favours in return. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Read Related Posts: - [What’s it Like to be the Father of a Child with Chronic Illness? (Precious Insights from My Own Dad!)](https://achronicvoice.com/father-of-child-with-chronic-illness/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) - [We Shouldn’t Expect People to Understand](https://achronicvoice.com/we-shouldnt-expect-people-to-understand/) - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) Pin to Your Family, Motherhood & Parenting Boards: ![What's it Like to be the Mother of a Chronically Ill Child? A little interview with my own mother on the blog, A Chronic Voice .com!](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child-interview-mum-blog-v2.jpg) ![Real-Life Problems Require Steadfast Appearances - Not Superheroes in Capes](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/real-life-superheroes-pin.jpg) ## When Your Child has a Chronic Illness or Disability Being a mother of a sick child will demand a different kind of routine as compared to other healthy kids. Doctor appointments replace football practices or ballet classes; hospital stays become the norm instead of camping trips. It’s heartbreaking when they cry out and beg you for relief, yet there’s nothing more you can do for them. Frustration fills you as you go to the doctor's for answers, but come home with more questions instead. Such a family dynamic is stressful, yet these mothers never give in or up. ## Insights from My Own Mum on What It's Like to be the Mother of a Sick Child As Mother’s Day is around the corner, I thought that it would be a good idea to interview my own mum. It felt a little strange, as we don’t usually discuss such thoughts on a regular day. Maybe it’s a cultural thing and I’m sorry to go with the stereotype, but we’re Chinese after all 😉 Despite that, I know with certainty that no one else in the world cares about me more than she does. I'm reassured that she has my back no matter what, and that thought is a blessing and comfort in itself. So here's my beautiful mother for you today. Happy Mothers’ Day to all the splendid mummies out there! *(All the italic text in brackets during the interview are little interjections from me.)* Pin to Your Gratitude & Motherhood Boards: ![Thank You to All Mothers (Every) Day!](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/thank-you-mothers.jpg) ![Wisdom From A Mother With A Chronically Ill Child](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_wisdom-mother-chronically-ill-child.jpg) ## A Rare Interview With My Own Mum On What It's Like To Be A Mother Of A Sick Child ### What emotions and thoughts went through your mind, on the night you had to send me to the hospital, and the doctor told you that I could have died? My mind just when blank. Fear and anxiety. Things happened so fast that I couldn’t do anything but to pray and ask God for His mercy and grace. I also called up my prayer partners to pray. I told myself to keep focussing on the positive, that you would pull through. As I was praying with Shirley *(a friend)* next to the hospital bed, a picture of the passover story in Exodus played through my mind, where God passed through and struck down the firstborn of every household. But those who marked their doors with the blood of a lamb were spared. I felt assured by God that you would pull though by dawn. ### What’s the biggest worry you have for your child? That she leaves God and gives up her fighting spirit. ### What makes you happiest? To know that your child is coping well, and that she’s able to relate to you about her feelings, conditions and fears. ### What breaks your heart? When my child thinks that I don’t understand or don’t know anything about what she’s going through. Expectations. Sometimes I can feel the frustration and disappointment in her, when she expects me to know everything about what she’s going through, and expects me to have an answer to her problems. I feel lousy when I’m unable to meet that expectation, and I feel hurt on the inside. ### How do you personally cope when your child is suffering or receives a devastating new diagnosis? I always feel helpless. All I can do is cling onto God and my prayer support network. It’s always reassuring to know that someone in the group is praying for me and family. The Bible says, “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow you. When you walk through fire, you shall not be burned, nor shall the flame scorch you.” ### What’s it like to be a mother of a sick child who lives with chronic illnesses? What qualities or characteristics have you had to hone because of this? I feel sad and deeply hurt to see my child going through suffering, and being unable to help her cope with the pain, nor able to find a solution to her suffering. Sometimes I wish that I can take over her sickness. However, through the years I have learned to be patient, and to endure the hurts that are within me. It cheers me up just to see a smile on her face, and to see that she is well. Pin to Your Mother & Parent Boards: ![What’s it Like to be the Mother of a Sick Child? (Precious Insights from My Own Mum)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/interview-mother-sickness-pin-v2.jpg) ### What ‘normal’ activity or thing did you wish your family could do together, if everyone were healthy? Our family loves to travel. I remember some of the fun times we had in Switzerland and Hong Kong. The joy of going to church together in Hong Kong. It would be nice if we could go back to the good old days. I would love to relive the good old times. ### \*If\* you had the choice to go back in time and choose never to have your child who’s ill, would you do so? Why or why not? No. Every life is precious in the sight of God. I remember almost losing my eldest daughter while in Malaysia, when I was only a few months pregnant with her. I begged God to protect her, and surrendered her to Him. ### Do you blame yourself in any way for your child’s condition? Sometimes. ### What’s your biggest/best piece of advice to other mothers with children who are chronically ill? - Stay positive for your child. - Be a listener. Sometimes being a silent supporter may ease the tension between a sick child and the caregiver. Whatever you say may hurt. - Just being present. - Prayer. Pin to Your Caregiving & Communication Boards: ![#1 Advice From A Mum With A Chronically Ill Child. “Be a listener and be present. Whatever you say may hurt.”](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/advice-mum-chronically-ill-pin.jpg) ### What’s the biggest life lesson you’ve learned through all this? Be thankful and grateful always. Every single day of life is a blessing from God. There are friends who care and are faithfully praying, even though we don’t speak much. ### What sort of support did you wish you had more of in regards to being a caregiver to your child? Emotional support. ### What sort of activities do you do to replenish your own supply of energy and to restore emotional wellbeing? Playing the ukulele, meeting up with friends, spending time alone away from home, and doing some charity work. Praying and reading the Bible does help me emotionally. ### What’s your happiest memory of you and your family? The good times we had in Hong Kong while living there – the fun of playing with simple carton boxes, doing puzzles, the togetherness as a family, the prayer time, the weekly outings. During those days there wasn’t such a thing as mobile phones. There was more family time and verbal communication. ### What did you wish your child could do? Don’t suffer alone. Communicate more even though I may not be able to provide any answers. Pin to Your Communication & Chronic Pain Boards: ![“Don't suffer alone. Communicate more even though I may not be able to provide any answers.” - Advice From A Mother With A Chronically Ill Child.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/dont-suffer-alone-pin.jpg) ## In Conclusion to What It's Like to be a Mother of a Sick Child The answers and insights that my mother provided in this interview were quite different from those of my dad's. Her responses were more emotional, and emphasised more on communication, even if she may not understand entirely how I feel, or the pain I may be experiencing. One thing that was similar to my dad's responses was our family's love for travel, and the good times we had growing up together in Hong Kong. Those childhood memories of my family are dear to me, too. Not only was I free from chronic illness, but had many wonderful opportunities to explore the world around me. This has influenced the way I think and live my life to a large degree - even the way I cope with chronic illness life. If you are a parent of a child with chronic illness - I would especially like to hear from you in the comments below, or even interview you should you be up for that 🙂 Remember that you are not alone, and we are all in this thing called 'life' together. ![Mum and dad in Cape Town, South Africa.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/mum-dad-cape-town.jpg) Mum and dad in Cape Town, South Africa. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [What's it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationships with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/) - [February 2018: Adapting to the Ebb and Flow of Chronic Pain and Depression](https://achronicvoice.com/adapting-ebb-flow-chronic-pain-depression-february-2018/) - [A Perfect Capture of Life with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/capture-life-with-chronic-illness/) - [December 2017: Recovering from a Cold & Reminiscing My Childhood in Hong Kong](https://achronicvoice.com/recovering-from-cold-reminiscing-childhood-hong-kong-december-2017/) For More Insight: - [How My Mother Kept Me Alive (shadowsedge.com)](https://www.shadowsedge.com/how-my-mother-kept-me-alive/) - [So, What Do My Parents Really Think About MS? (trippingonair.com)](https://trippingonair.com/2020/02/9-questions-about-love-and-ms-on-valentines-day.html) Pin to Your Chronic Illness, Women's Health & Parenting Boards: ![I Live With Chronic Illnesses,and Here's What My Mum Has To Say About It.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/chronic-illnesses-mum-pin.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Katie Clark May 8, 2021 Rereading this, I want to send your mom a hug. It’s hard not to blame myself for my genes that led to both my children struggling with chronic conditions. Also, not knowing enough about things earlier so that I could have helped them before things came to a crisis. I know, though, they have their own life and journey and everyone has issues of some sort, but it’s so hard when our children hurt. - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Nov 24, 2020 It was so beautiful read your mum’s thoughts Sheryl. It reminds me of when I see sadness and struggle in my mum’s eyes while she tries to be strong for me. It’s incredible the strength family can have and what their support means to all of us. - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Nov 24, 2020 I’m so glad you have such support from your mum, it sounds as though you have a lovely relationship. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 24, 2020 Haha we have our times as you know. But family is family! 🙂 - Marya May 12, 2020 As a special needs mom myself, I really appreciated this. It is a timely reminder of what’s most important, especially now. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 12, 2020 Hi Marya, yes especially in these times, it really can be extra hard, with everyone home, and reality up close. I am not a mother, so I can only try and glean insights from my own mother. I am sure you can actually relate to her much more than I can, even 🙂 Sending you lots of hugs. - [ Despite Pain ](https://www.despitepain.com) May 11, 2020 My Mum passed away ten years ago and until the day she died, she always had a feeling of guilt about my pain. She often said that she wished she had pushed to see other doctors. I always tried to tell her not to feel like that, but I guess Mums just don’t like to see us ill or in pain and wish they could do more to help. She also told me often that she was proud of how I have coped and I told her that I got that from her. She was a pretty amazing woman. Lovely post, Sheryl. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 12, 2020 Thank you for sharing about your amazing mum, Liz. Yes you’re right, I guess it’s something parents, especially mums, can’t seem to distance themselves from, having borne us. 🙁 - [ Rachael Emma Tomlinson ](https://accessiblerach.co.uk) May 10, 2020 Sheryl, you have just had me in bits as I turned this around as my Mother and as an 83 year old I can still see most of this in her, what a fabulous post…hugs xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 12, 2020 Thank you, Rachael. It seems like almost all mothers are the same despite their many upbringings and cultural differences, hey? 🙂 Sending hugs. - [ Anne ](https://www.raisiebay.com) May 15, 2019 Your mother sounds amazing, it seems like having a strong faith has been her rod through all of this. I have a sick daughter too, she’s been ill for a very long time, so when I became sick too it was so difficult for all of us. I think I’m doing a good job of looking after both of us. Well, we are both still here xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 15, 2019 Hi Anne, well done for doing your very best 🙂 I’m sure your daughter appreciates it tremendously, too. Yes my mother is very religious and religion can be a strong pillar of support when all else fails, I suppose! Sending hugs x - Kathy May 14, 2019 It was so nice to read this post. It reminded me of how I felt raising my youngest son. He was diagnosed with cancer when he was 3 years old. We spent so much time in the hospital and in the doctor’s office. He is now 19 years old and cancer free, but there were many years of treatments and tests. Maybe I should share this with him. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 15, 2019 Hi Kathy, wow that must have been such a harsh experience, to say the least 🙁 I hope he is doing well these days? Send him my regards, and sending hugs to you 🙂 - [ Maya ](https://spreadhopeproject.com) May 11, 2019 AWw I love that you interviewed your mom for this. What a wonderful idea, and what great insight she’s able to give from her perspective. (And thank you to your mom for doing the interview and offering her perspective). I also wanted to let you know that I nominated you for the Disability Blogger Award! I love your posts and the linkup party’s and all you do for the disability and chronic illness community. Details are here: [https://spreadhopeproject.com/2019/05/10/disability-blogger-award/ ](https://spreadhopeproject.com/2019/05/10/disability-blogger-award/) - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 11, 2019 Thanks for the nomination, Maya! Your questions do sound interesting, and great answers to Chronillicles’ too! Haha yes I thought it might have been interesting to get her thoughts down on paper too 😉 Sometimes they want to tell us stuff that can be a bit sensitive, and getting it down on paper ‘formally’ helps to neutralise the sensitivity a little, if you get what I mean! - [ Caz / InvisiblyMe ](https://invisiblyme.com/) May 5, 2019 This is such a good idea, and an incredibly touching interview. It made me wonder what my own mother would say to these questions. The part about expectations breaking her heart made my heart hurt, I think my mum feels like that sometimes, too. Thank you for sharing this ♥ ♥ Caz xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 6, 2019 Hi Caz, would love to read your mum’s responses, too 😉 Yea I think sometimes I get frustrated when she doesn’t understand certain aspects of my diseases that I sort of expect her to, because she’s my mother. But that’s also quite unfair, and we did talk about it before. She’s just really not the ‘sit and research everything’ type of person, but she shows her love and concern in more tangible ways. 🙂 - Jen May 31, 2018 Beautiful post, thanks for linking to mine, sometimes it’s only through the eyes of our Mothers we realise exactly what not only we have been through but also we them. xxx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 31, 2018 Hi Jen, you’re most welcome. Yes, it must be so difficult to be a mother to a sick child, mostly because they feel heartbroken all the time 🙁 Sending you good thoughts xxx - Katie Clark May 13, 2020 A friend once told me, “You’re only happy as your as your unhappiest child.” Your mom has done a lot to help you live your best life despite chronic illness. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 13, 2020 Wow Katie, that’s such a powerful thought and statement. Really says a lot about what being a mother is like. Sending love to all the mothers out there. - Emma (Not Just Tired) May 20, 2018 Beautiful ? Really interesting too, and I bet it was insightful for you as well xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 20, 2018 It certainly was insightful, even for myself! 😉 xx - [ Lowen Puckey ](https://livingpositivelywithdisability.com/) May 15, 2018 Very much appreciated as the mum of a disabled child myself xx Lowen @ livingpositivelywithdisability.com - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 19, 2018 You’re most welcome, glad it was an inspiring read for you 🙂 - Marla Nolan May 14, 2018 This was a wonderful read for Mother’s Day. Thank you for sharing!, - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 19, 2018 Most welcome, Marla! x **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### I May be Chronically Ill, but I'm Also Chronically Resilient URL: https://achronicvoice.com/chronically-ill-resilient/ Last updated: 2026-05-13T07:14:40.000Z ## An Introduction to Angela & on Staying Chronically Resilient Angela and I met at a party through our ex-boyfriends (talk about how life goes 😉), but I never knew that she suffered from chronic illness, too. She was living overseas – which can be especially tough for a person with chronic illness! – and seemed so outgoing. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the author(s)' personal experiences as patients. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronically Illness & Resilience Boards: ![I May be Chronically Ill, but I’m Also Chronically Resilient — Angela Ng of “Pod of Life” shares her 3Rs approach to resilience on a chronic voice .com. Read the blog post now. ](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/chronically-ill-but-chronically-resilient-angela-ng-pod-of-life-3rs-approach-resilience.jpg) ### Realising How Invisible Chronic Illness Really Is After I started this blog, I discovered that she and a few of my other friends and ex-colleagues suffered from chronic pain, too. We had all managed to conceal our conditions so well, that we couldn't even identify ourselves amongst others with chronic illness. This just goes to show [**how invisible pain truly can be**](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/), and that you never know how much stress a person is really enduring. It's also a reminder that I need to pay closer attention to my loved ones, as distress isn't always loud and clear. Angela suffers from precancerous endometriosis, yet lives an active life whenever she gets the chance. She believes in living life to the fullest and started [“Pod Of Life” on Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/podoflife), which promotes and trains people on resilience. In this article she shares about her 3Rs perspective to resilience in relation to living with chronic pain. I really like her definition of the word, and am adding it to my coping toolkit for both the good and bad days. Learn more as she shares about it below. Read Related Posts: - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Featuring People with Illnesses, Passions & Talents](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-people-illnesses-talents/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [4 Cool Truths My Partner Said (Unwittingly)](https://achronicvoice.com/cool-truths/) ## What ‘Resilience’ Means to Me as a a Person with Chronic Illness Last year, Sheryl asked me to write about what resilience means in regards to my chronic illness, because it's one of my key strengths, a topic that I'm passionate about, and I'm also a resilience trainer. I sat on it for a long time because it has been very hard to talk about my illness. I have [precancerous endometriosis](http://www.cancer.ca/en/cancer-information/cancer-type/uterine/uterine-cancer/precancerous-conditions/?region=on), and not many people know what that is. Those who have it suffer in different shapes and forms. ## How My Pain Manifests Itself Mine comes with regular pain and inflammation that I have to manage. I often get low blood pressure and dizzy spells. After two surgeries and an [HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy)](https://medlineplus.gov/hormonereplacementtherapy.html) which messed up my hormones for over a year, the doctor told me that we have yet to make any progress. The growth is in a position that's hard to operate on, so it can't be totally removed even if we were to have another surgery done. So all I can do for now is to live with and manage it, until new solutions come along. Just like everyone else with a chronic condition. Read Related Posts: - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [We Want to Have Fun Just Like You, But Here’s What it Takes](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/) ## Adding Dimensions to My Definition of ‘Resilience’ I thought long and hard about what ‘resilience’ means to me. The most common understanding of ‘resilience’ is to ‘bounce back from setbacks’. I am not quite satisfied with this definition because for someone with chronic conditions, it feels like we are [**constantly on the bounce**](https://achronicvoice.com/what-neverending-pain-reveals/) and that’s exhausting! So I developed my own definition to resilience and use it in my training. My 3Rs to ‘Resilience’ are: 1. Regenerate when faced with setbacks. 2. Stay Robust on challenging days. 3. Radiate on the good days. ## Resilience Exists in Every Stage of Life I see resilience everywhere within the [**varying states of our wellbeing**](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/), as there are fluctuations when it comes to chronic illness. [**Some days are good, some are bad**](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/), and yet others are better than the rest. We need time out to regenerate on the bad days. We need to try and stay robust on the challenging ones (and it’s okay if we fail, because we just return to a state of regeneration). And on the good days, that’s when we’re able to radiate and extend ourselves fully into life. I like my 3Rs definition better because as long as I am breathing, living and trying, that is resilience! I don’t beat myself up too much when the conditions are less favourable. I am a person who loves life – I like to stay active and travel. It frustrates me when the bad days hit. I’m not only rolling around in pain while under heavy sedation, but I lose time to the things that I had wanted to do. Read Related Posts: - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) ## It Hurts More When Others Don’t Understand When people do not understand the state that I’m in, it makes me feel even worse during a flare. So whenever I’m in such a state, I accept it and know that it’s only temporary. It will pass and I will regenerate. I allow myself to rest and retreat, and surround myself with [**comforting and supportive resources**](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/). These all help me to regenerate even better. ## How I Maintain Robustness, and Radiate on the Good Days When I’m feeling really well, I radiate and extend myself. I do all the things that I love to do, from volunteer work, to diving and travelling. I push myself because such occasions are precious ([read my article on “The Chronically Time Lagged” here](https://www.facebook.com/flyswimdance/posts/848873311943082:0)). As my condition is unpredictable, I have to ensure that I stay robust on my trips and during important work periods. I worked with my doctor to [**develop a pain management plan**](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) that’s suitable for me. I was once adverse to using painkillers, and was so stubborn that I’d only take them when the pain was killing me. These days however, I listen to my doctor and take them before the pain hits in full force. Thus I’m better able to manage my downtime, and even reduce them sometimes. Read Related Posts: - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don't Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Why 'Easy' Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) ## Being Aware of My Current State, so That I Can Choose the Best Strategy For those who are chronically ill, I see that we are also chronically resilient. I don’t just say ‘again?’ when stuck in a low moment in time. I look at the state that I’m in, and decide on which strategy to apply: to regenerate, to stay robust, or to radiate. Sometimes it takes longer to regenerate and that's okay, too. We must keep trying and retain hope. That in itself is resilience, too. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read More from Angela: - [7 Proven Strategies to Stay Resilient No Matter What Happens (from A to G)](https://achronicvoice.com/strategies-stay-resilient/) Pin to Your Chronically Resilient Strategy Boards: ![I May Be Chronically Ill, But I'm Also Chronically Resilient. Angela Ng Of “Pod Of Life” Shares Her 3Rs Approach To Resilience.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/blog_resilient-ill-3.jpg) **Contributor Bio:** ![Anonymous blank profile photo](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/blank-profile-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Angela suffers from pre-cancerous endometriosis, yet lives an active life whenever she gets the chance. She believes in living life to the fullest and started [Pod Of Life](https://www.facebook.com/podoflife), which promotes and trains people on resilience. ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Katie Clark Sep 16, 2020 Yes, each day, get up again. New start. Chronically resilient. One of the things I hope that my granddaughter notices about me and takes for herself. Life is tough, even without chronic illness; chronic resiliency is what is needed for all walks. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 22, 2020 THat’s a lovely lesson to impart to her. A very important one. And definitely best learned by example. What a wonderful grandmother you are 🙂 Sending hugs to both you and her. - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Sep 15, 2020 Spoonies not recognising each other?! Why am I not surprised. Just before reading this piece I was talking to my mum about how well we conceal our health issues – not like we do it deliberately, but you just need to get on with life and make it as rich, wholesome and satisfying as possible while pushing the boundaries with your health at times because that can be a requirement for certain situations. And I guess that makes us all chronically resilient 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 16, 2020 I think it does happen more than we think! I mean even within our little CISP admin chat group, sometimes I can’t even tell you ladies are having a horrible day until you mention it. It can be really difficult to tell and a good idea to always check in with each other 🙂 - [ Sarah ](https://www.mystripylife.com) May 15, 2018 Brilliant!!! This post really resonates with me right now. My sons head of year on many occasions has stood at the front of the hall and talked about this very topic. Resilience – How children of today should turn up to school no matter how they may be feeling as it is a sign of resilience, a quality that they as a school will be proud of. I disagree with him on so many levels… the biggest being that there may be many kids in school with a low immune system and encouraging sick kids to school to prove they are resilient may make others poorly for a long time. Also, there are also chronically ill kids like my son who is one of the most resilient people I know. He may not fit the schools tick box definition but he inspires me everyday and he hasn’t made it to school for nearly a year and a half!! Sarah x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 19, 2018 Hi Sarah, I’m glad this post spoke to you, I’ll let Angela know! 🙂 I too find it a really good perspective. Like she says, bouncing back is a bit of a different ball game for spoonies, when all we do is bounce continuously! I know you’ll do what’s best for you and your family xxx - Julie Greenwood Oct 15, 2019 I really needed this!! I’ve always thought of myself as pretty resilient but lately I haven’t felt that way. I’m currently taking time off work to manage my psoriatic arthritis and sometimes struggle to recover. Thanks for sharing this timely message!! I just subscribed to your blog! Julie - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 15, 2019 Most welcome, Julie. It was written by the talented and inspiring Angela 🙂 It certainly is useful article chock full of great tips on resilience. Hope it helps with whatever you’re going through always x **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### May 2018: In Memory of My Parrotlets & Designing My Days URL: https://achronicvoice.com/memory-parrotlets-designing-my-days-may-2018/ Last updated: 2026-01-08T14:14:44.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* *\*Trigger Warning: This post contains some pictures and topics on sickness and death.* ## In Memory of My Five Tiny Parrotlets Last month, I marvelled over the [**births of five tiny parrotlet lives**](https://achronicvoice.com/marvelling-miracle-of-life-splurging-birthday-april-2018/). Unfortunately, only one of them survived. After asking around I discovered that this is a common scenario for birds, especially if it’s the parents’ first clutch. “Live and learn” is harsh in the bird kingdom. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![2018 May Prompts: Remembering, Caring, Entertaining, Designing and Believing](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_prompts_18-05-2-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Naming Them — Fond Little Reminders We gave them temporary names on the fly, and the sole survivor was JC (named after a friend who shares the same birthday). It was a blessing to watch her grow bigger at an astonishing speed, and she was starting to look a lot like her mother. The others were Archibald (named after its father, Archer), Sacha (it had red eyes, and shared the same birthday with another friend), Pepper (named after its mother, Piper) and the first one died before we could name it. Archibald died in my hands, which was very sad. I was stroking his tiny head to comfort him, and he laid it down to rest forever. Sadly, JC did not make it in the end either. I woke up in tears when I found her stiff body. She died with her eyes open 🙁 I actually wanted to rewrite the whole section above, but decided to leave it in for contrast. ‘Remembering’, after all, is a collection of transient thoughts that shifts with every moment. It’s a stark reminder that life is both precious and fragile. Every and any beautiful moment is worthy of celebration. In Memory of Archer & Piper's First Clutch: ![1 – 2 weeks old parrotlet. The miracle and what joy!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/baby-parrotlet-2-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) 1 – 2 weeks old parrotlet. The miracle and what joy! ![Archibald dead in my hands. Look at those beautiful feathers.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/archibald-parrotlet-rip-2-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Archibald dead in my hands. Look at those beautiful feathers. ![Hello sweetie! A green parrotlet.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/jc-parrotlet-1-2-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Hello sweetie! (This is JC) Your browser does not support the video tag. Enjoying a head rub ## Caring for My Sickly Parrotlets (the Parents) Sorry if I’ve been talking too much about my birds, but it’s been a pretty eventful few months for them. I tried to stop them from having babies at such a young age, but nature does as it wills. As a result, their tiny bodies seem to be over-taxed, in addition to some negative viral or environmental effects. Piper has been all fluffy and sleepy, although Archer looks to be on the mend (fingers crossed). ### Hand Feeding Baby Birds is Tiring (but in a Good Way!) I’ve been hand feeding the baby and parents about four times a day, and it’s surprisingly tiring! It takes me 1.5 hours each time, as I need to prepare the formula, boil water to keep the food warm, pump it drop by drop into their tiny mouths, then wash up after. My hands have become sore as a result, and I even had difficulty drawing formula up a 1ml syringe. It also triggered some minor flares, but I count myself fortunate to be able to rest whenever I need to. This made me a tad depressed, as I wondered how I was going to manage a real human kid in future, if ever. ### The Things I Remember About Our Beloved Archer Boy Once again, I decided to leave what I had written intact, in memory of the caring process. Archer died a day after JC, and it was a huge loss for us. He was one of our favourites, full of curiosity, sass and a good bite! When I think of him, this silly chant plays in my head, “Archer-cher-cher-cher-cher”. He loved to say that, on top of "good boy" and "naughty boy". He also loved to imitate all sorts of sounds, from the squeak of the sponge against dishes, to the creaky spritz of a spray bottle. His nickname was "Blue Monster", because he could be quite the brat! We will miss him a lot. Meanwhile, Piper is still under intensive care, and we got her a heat lamp under the vet’s advice. It seems to be helping a little, on top of the extra probiotics and medications, although her beak is becoming warped for unknown reasons. Hang in there, sweet Piper. Your browser does not support the video tag. Archer, still caring for his little lady up until he died. ![Archer and Piper, two parrotlets, all fluffed up and sickly 😔](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/piper-sickly-2-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Archer and Piper all fluffed up and sickly 😔 Read Related Posts: - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) - [A Perfect Capture of Life with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/capture-life-with-chronic-illness/) - [August 2018: Boredom Can be Stimulating & Cuddling My Pet Birds](https://achronicvoice.com/boredom-stimulating-cuddling-birds-august-2018/) - [When Your Stress & Fatigue Thresholds Suck (Also on Cute Cockatiels, Education via Zoom & Art Films for Rent)](https://achronicvoice.com/stress-fatigue-thresholds-suck/) - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) ## Entertaining My Partner's Father Who's in Town Okay technically this happened last month, but he’s still here for a few days in May so that counts? 🙂 He visits for a couple weeks twice a year, and seems to be blending into local life pretty well! I hate having people live with us for an extended period of time as I value my solitude and privacy, but I’d say that he’s an exception. He’s more like a friend who’s easy to get along with and doesn’t judge, so I feel comfortable having him around. The banter has been fun, and I’m happy for my partner to have family here, plus someone to watch the rugby with because I just don’t get it 😉 Read Related Posts: - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [4 Cool Truths My Partner Said (Unwittingly)](https://achronicvoice.com/cool-truths/) - [What’s it Like to be the Father of a Child with Chronic Illness? (Precious Insights from My Own Dad!)](https://achronicvoice.com/father-of-child-with-chronic-illness/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) ## Designing – Instead of Planning – My Days I have a pack of [Art Oracle cards](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1786270137?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=1dd05c8fc7d9a8bbaf4135cf3d3b8549&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) that’s pretty neat! I was drawing one every morning for a period of time for some fun and insight. There are three short quotes on the cards from various artists - one each for work, life and inspiration. I like this particular line from [Charles and Ray Eames](https://www.bbc.com/culture/article/20171218-charles-and-ray-eames-the-couple-who-shaped-the-way-we-live), “Design your days – don’t plan them”. That got me thinking as to how I write todo lists for myself every day (actually, these don’t really help me, but I just like playing around with the colours, stickers and washi tape in my bullet journal 😉 ). ### Design Goes Beyond Making Things Look 'Pretty' Back in design school and when I was working in advertising, I learned that design isn’t just about aesthetics. It’s about how you put elements together (on a screen, in my case), to impact the viewer in a desired manner. It’s about creating an experience, with a positive feeling as the goal most of the time. This is also how I interpret this quote. I’d like to try and make my days less of a to-do list and instead, design my tasks around how I want them to make me feel. For example, if I want to feel peaceful today, how can I organise my todo list such that it generates this emotion? What activities or non-activities can I schedule in to help me achieve this aim? Is there anything I need to strike out, in order to maintain peace? ![Art Oracle cards](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/art-oracle-3-2-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ![Charles and Ray Eames art oracle quotes](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/art-oracle-4-2-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) ## Believing that I Can Make a Living as a Writer/Blogger P.s. I decided to use this prompt to answer Claire’s question on my Twitter Q&A at the same time! ([Claire runs a great blog here](https://painpalsblog.com/), too.) > Sheryl - how do you manage to support so many other bloggers, whilst writing a fantastic and dealing with your own illness?? > > — Claire(PainPalsBlog)💙 (@ClaireSaul1) [April 21, 2018](https://twitter.com/ClaireSaul1/status/987782638822883328?ref%5Fsrc=twsrc%5Etfw) ### Focusing All My Resources (Tangible and Otherwise) on Blogging I haven’t done much pure coding for the past few years, although [I still take on web development jobs](https://work.achronicvoice.com/). I have been focusing all of my energy on working on this blog, as if it were a full-time job. Part of this is because I genuinely enjoy doing it, so it doesn’t feel like a chore at all. Another reason is that I hope to establish myself as a writer and blogger as the years go by, and make it my full-time career with a sustainable income. I believe that such a career isn’t only better for my physical and mental health, but it’s also more meaningful and satisfying. I’m definitely not going to rest until I’m able to bring some bacon home as well, as the saying goes 🙂 Thank you for reading about my chronic illness life in May 2018\. [**Continue with June 2018 here**](https://achronicvoice.com/self-reminder-listening-to-your-body-june-2018/). ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Lowen ](https://livingpositivelywithdisability.com/) May 30, 2018 I LOVE the idea of designing your days. RIP birdies x losing pets is so hard xx Lowen @ livingpositivelywithdisability.com - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 30, 2018 Hi Lowen, yes it’s an interesting way to look at it, I think! 😀 Yes RIP, and another bird is sick now…seems like bad luck this year, or I have no luck with birds 🙁 Fingers crossed! - Terri May 29, 2018 Sheryl, I’m so sorry to read about the loss of your feathered babies. Our pets become such a part of the family and it’s hard to say good-bye. They were lucky to have you there to love and care for them, so I hope you can take comfort in that. Sorry I’m so late to the party — I almost let the month get by me again! As always, your prompts made me think. I appreciate you hosting this linkup each month. I always enjoy reading everyone’s entries. Hugs to you lovely lady! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 29, 2018 Hi Terri, Yes pets can become such a huge part of the family, even if it was barely a year! I just hope I didn’t cause their deaths indirectly somehow without knowing 🙁 And no worries, I hope to be able to run these linkups for as long as I can without burning out, so you can join anytime when you’re up for it! 😉 I also love reading everyone’s entries, it’s so much fun 🙂 Sending hugs back! xxx - Dov May 11, 2018 Sheryl, Wonderful to read your post. So sorry for the loss of JC and Archer and the other little ones. (Is Piper okay?) I love the story about the Art Oracle cards, and “designing” rather than “planning”. It’s such a lovely distinction. (I can’t hear the word “plan” without think of the Yiddish proverb, mentchen tracht und gott lacht.–“man plans and god laughs.”) So nice that you enjoy the visits with your partner’s father– that they’re enjoyable and very low stress. (And that they can be entertained by rugby and you can be otherwise engaged. 🙂 Thank you for your beautiful writing and for the linkup! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 12, 2018 Hi Dov, Thank you, a loss of a beloved pet is never easy for sure. Piper is still in ‘hospital’, but hopefully she comes out fine! Yes, the cards are gorgeous, and I love little snippets that provoke thoughts like this 🙂 Thanks for sharing the proverb, I think it’s a really good one! 😉 With poor health, no matter my pride, I’ve learned that there is such a thing as ‘fate’ 😉 Thank you for your beautiful entry as well, I thoroughly enjoyed your writing and reading about what other spoonies are up to! xxx - Dov May 16, 2018 Sheryl, Glad to hear Piper is hanging in there. Sending <3! So lovely that words can be nourishing and time-shaping in these ways. And thought provoking snippets are the best! 🙂 (I wonder if for spoonies buoying and meditative words are that much more important. Would be cool to make a deck of similar cards just for spoonies! 🙂 ) Glad you like the proverb! I don't know quite what I think about fate, but sometimes I really marvel at the fact of existing. Just the sheer nuttiness of it all–the universe, Einstein, galaxies, planets, boy bands, DNA, light waves, sound waves, photons and the polarization of light, binary code, badgers, lantern fish, puffins, tardigrades, tree communities and their elders, the way leaves absorb and reflect sunlight, how every creature larger than an eyelash is an ecosystem in and of themselves and yet part of greater and greater ecosystems–it .just seems really wild that we're here and constantly having to make sense of the vastness and smallness of everything that we are. I'm so grateful I found your blog and got to meet you and I look forward to reading more of your writing and doing more linkups! - [ Chronically Hopeful Char ](https://chronicallyhopeful.com) May 9, 2018 A great post, Sheryl. So sorry for all the losses though, it’s always tough with little critters, although they only stay with us a few days, the bond you create while caring for them is strong. Hugs I love the idea of designing your day – something I will be thinking about implementing next week. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 9, 2018 Hello Char, thank you. Yes they’re little critters with a big impact on life 🙂 Happy memories though <3 Yes, I forgot about it myself lol. Def need to go back to designing my days again! Let me know how yours goes 😉 x - Barbara Moore May 8, 2018 This was such a touching post. The ups and downs of our fur babies keep us going on a day to day basis and we feel their sorrows as we do their joys. I am so sorry that this has happened to you and your fur friends and hope in some small way that writing about it has helped you with closure. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 8, 2018 Hi Barbara, thank you for your kind words. Yes it’s heartbreaking, but he brought us so much joy while alive (and I hope he enjoyed our company too!), so I wouldn’t have had it any other way 🙂 It’s just sad he died so young, he would have been a year old this week! R.I.P. my blue baby x - Kathy May 4, 2018 I’m glad you didn’t change any of it. You shared their little lives with us, and it’s right that you shared their little deaths as well. How hard that must be after all the care and effort you put in. Sending good thoughts and gentle hugs your way. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 5, 2018 Thank you dear Kathy…I loved the way you put it, sharing their little lives and little deaths 🙂 It wasn’t that much effort, if you look at the grand scheme of things! 😉 But I do miss the little creatures x - Marya May 2, 2018 I’m sorry about your loss! We’ve lost three senior dogs over the past year and I’m still missing them. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 2, 2018 Thank you Marya x Yes it’s not easy to lose a pet or family member who’s brought so much joy and character into your lives! - [ Lydia ](https://www.beinglydia.com) May 1, 2018 Sheryl, these are great prompts for May. I always think of this month as one of new beginnings. Trees are regaining their leaves, plants are poking their heads out of the ground, the air is fresh and new. The stories of your little bird family are sad, but they would be even sadder if those little ones had not come into the world at all. I look forward to writing my own answers to your prompts in the next few days. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) May 1, 2018 Hi Lydia, I’m glad you find the prompts are good ones for May! Unfortunately or fortunately it’s tropical country here, and even though I grew up in Hong Kong and visited other places in winter, I don’t get to experience the whole cycle of life with seasons like you do in Canada! Yes may my little birdies rest in peace, I will miss them greatly. I will be waiting to read your prompts, but take your time and no stress! Hope you have been coping alright as well. Sending much love xxx **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### My Second Brush with Death: A Broken Heart (Literally) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/ Last updated: 2026-05-09T17:27:14.000Z ## Signs of a Broken Heart Whilst Travelling Across the Gobi Desert 2014 was a riot of a year. I thought to myself after undergoing another surgery, “well, that should be it. I’ve met my quota for bad stuff happening this year”. So I started to plan for a trip that I had dreamt about for 7 years - travelling across Asia to Europe via the trans-Siberian railway. To my delight, a friend and her husband decided to join me just before I left. I was in decent shape back then, and even carried two backpacks for days, after an unruly horse threw my friend off in Mongolia. Yet there had been troubling episodes as well; I would wake in shock at night whilst on the train, feeling as if my heart were robbed of oxygen. We'd trundle along with passengers snoring in peace, as we glided across the empty vastness of the Gobi desert by moonlight. I would reason with myself that it was nothing but the dusty air. It was, after all, one of the largest deserts in the world. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Mitral Valve Prolapse, Cardiology & Humanity Boards: ![My Second Brush with Death: A Broken Heart (Literally). Mitral valve prolapse and repair — Read on A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/my-second-brush-with-death-broken-heart-literally-mitral-valve-prolapse-repair.jpg) Read Related Posts: - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [What’s it Like to Live with a Heart Rhythm Disorder?](https://achronicvoice.com/heart-rhythm-disorder/) - [Travelling New Paths with Chronic Illnesses in My Pocket](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-new-paths-chronic-illness/) - [Winter Fun, Games & Pain with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-fun-chronic-illness/) - ["It's in My Blood": Sarah Poitras — Travelling Around the World with a Lung Disease](https://achronicvoice.com/sarah-poitras-travelling-world-lung-disease/) ## More Adventure in Life, but Not the Fun Sort I went for my regular checkup upon return, only to discover that there were strange gurgling sounds coming from my heart. “It’s probably some micro haemorrhages [**caused by your Antiphospholipid Syndrome**](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/)", my doctor said. "They're tiny blood clots in your heart, but let’s see a cardiologist to be sure.” I wasn’t too concerned. Such statements might sound groundbreaking to the average person, but are common when you live with chronic illnesses. In fact, [I worry when things are going well for too long](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/my-inner-child-and-the-angry-girl). But the echocardiogram did reveal an abnormality - my mitral valve had prolapsed; one of my heart chambers was leaking. There was severe regurgitation, as blood flowed backwards into my lungs with every beat. There's no medication or alternative treatment to fix this. It only widens and hence weakens over time, until surgical intervention is needed. To make matters worse, it was the anterior (back) valve, which makes surgery a little trickier. No surgeon likes having a patient with a bonus blood clotting disorder either. People like me have died not from the surgery in and of itself, but from an outbreak of blood clots while undergoing treatment. Read Related Posts: - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) ## The Chaos that Thrives with Uncertainty I was in a daze, and the next couple of months went by in a haze. Thrown around from doctor to doctor, it felt like no one wanted me in their care, due to my complex medical history. My encounter with a top heart surgeon was unpleasant, to say the least. He postponed all three of my pre-arranged appointments, for reasons such as needing to leave for a conference. It didn’t matter that I had been waiting for hours in pain, whilst freezing in the fake hospital winter air (when your heart is dying, your body feels especially vulnerable). But what can you do, except to seethe with despair, and arrange for yet another reluctant date? Tension was rife when we finally met; I found him arrogant and disinterested, with zero empathy. Perhaps this is what happens when you’ve been through the process hundreds, even thousands of times, to attain recognition as ‘the best’. His opinion, like that of all the other doctors I had already seen, was to wait until the very last moment to do surgery. To them, my clotting risk outweighed the benefits of nipping the problem in the bud. Read Related Posts: - [Why I Need to See 10 Different Doctors on a Regular Basis](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [How to Prepare for a Medical Appointment in a Post-Pandemic World (4 Top Tips From a Doctor)](https://achronicvoice.com/prepare-medical-appointment/) - [Is My Doctor Right for Me?](https://achronicvoice.com/is-my-doctor-right-for-me/) ## Was Open Heart Surgery Truly the Best Solution? Minimally invasive surgery was already popular back then, but to my surprise, no surgeon was familiar with the procedures in Singapore. The surgeon I had seen was insistent on an open heart surgery, and cited the ‘many benefits’: he would get a better view of my whole heart with my chest split wide apart, and 'quick healing bone glue' would fix me back up quick-like, no problem. But I was only 24\. Perhaps I could live with a thick, crude scar running down half my chest, but it didn't make any sense to me, and my gut instinct was against it with an overwhelming vehemence. [**I had been on steroids for a long time**](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/), and my bones were near osteoporosis levels. Wouldn’t it be another problem I’d have to manage for life, on top of [**my already long list of health conditions**](https://achronicvoice.com/about/)? Read Related Posts: - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [So This is What a Tonic Clonic Seizure Feels Like](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) - [It’s Just One of Those Nights (Poetry on Steroids)](https://achronicvoice.com/one-of-those-nights-poetry-steroids/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) - [Learn More About the Super Rare Disease — Esophageal Diverticulum](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) ## In Search for a Better Solution to Fix the Mitral Valve Prolapse Like most people my age, I scoured the web for more knowledge, solutions and experiences from other patients. Two hospitals came up frequently in the search results - [Mayo Clinic](https://www.mayoclinic.org/) and [Cleveland Clinic](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/) \- the top two heart hospitals in the U.S.. I studied the profile of every surgeon on their websites, and learned that I could request for an opinion with $600\. Oh, the irony of opinions! [**Usually lengthy yet unwanted**](https://achronicvoice.com/advice-quite-literally-kill/), here I was paying for a few lines of text, which I scrutinised by the word. Contrary to all the advice thus far, this surgeon encouraged me to get it done as soon as possible. He based his conclusion on my medical history, age, and long term wellbeing. He appeared confident of the success rate, and seemed dismissive of my medical issues, but in a good way. I felt the feeble warmth of hope stir within me, a breeze against the uncertain winds of the past year. The caveat? I would need USD100,000 to get there and get it done. Read Related Posts: - [The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don’t Reflect)](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Chronic Illness is Expensive, but Here’s the Real Reason Why](https://achronicvoice.com/real-reason-why-chronic-illness-expensive/) - [MediSearch Review: A Medical AI Search Engine for Patients, Clinicians & Medical Writers](https://achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/) - [What You Reshare Can Change Someone Else’s Life Forever](https://achronicvoice.com/what-you-reshare-can-change-life/) - [Latest Research on Antiphospholipid Syndrome (2024 Edition)](https://achronicvoice.com/latest-research-on-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) ## No Time to Waste, Many Plans to Make to Fix the Broken Heart I could feel myself slipping away from life with every passing month. Breathing had become laborious, and no longer within autonomic control. My lungs and heart were out of sync, and I had to personally oversee my body's task of taking in and giving out air. Laying down to sleep every night took me 30 minutes of careful declination. To go any faster would result in a full body shock, as if a toilet pump had been shoved down my throat. Asking for money is never an easy thing to do. At worst, it wounds your fragile ego. At best, it [**reveals a weakness**](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/), a neediness. [**You feel useless, as if a burden**](https://achronicvoice.com/splitting-your-burdens/) to society, and a curse upon your family. But desperation has a way of motivating a person. Your pride, fears, doubts and sensibilities go out the window. It becomes a fight for survival, and triggers the basest instinct of what it means to be human. If you’re dead, how do you even be human at all? Within a week, we cobbled together a fundraising plan. A friend created a website, and I met others at a local pub on a busy Friday night, to discuss plans B, C, D and E. We must have looked like a bunch of people there to enjoy the live jazz music, not talk about matters of life and death. Whilst my weight was dwindling, I still looked fairly normal, if a bit underfed. I’d say that the most cunning of diseases are the ones that strike you not from behind, but from inside. Read Related Posts: - [Asking for Help (and Why Everyone Needs to Learn this Important Life Skill)](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [An Open Letter to Death, and One Simple Plea](https://achronicvoice.com/letter-to-death-simple-plea/) - [#ProjChronicWisdom: Secret Motivation Tips for When You’re Unmotivated](https://achronicvoice.com/projchronicwisdom-motivation-tips/) ## Showing Support Can Go Beyond Monetary Contributions I stayed up until 5a.m. many nights to respond to queries, thank donors, consolidate funds, and make trip arrangements. There was no putting things off, despite the sore need for rest. Foolishly, I had taken up some freelance jobs to try and contribute to the funds myself. But I had overestimated my body’s remaining store of stamina. When your heart is failing, the fatigue is all-consuming, and descends to the point where you’re too tired to even breathe. A classmate whom I didn’t even like back in school took over the job for me, despite his own busy schedule. This act of kindness still humbles and touches me to this day. Read Related Posts: - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [Curated Chronic Illness Gift Ideas for Christmas, Birthdays & Other Occasions!](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-gift-ideas/) ## What it Feels Like to Get Down on Your Knees and Beg After the world around me had settled into [**sleep at night**](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/), I would press my knees against the cold marble floor of my bedroom. Obscured by the city lights, I would search amongst the few visible stars for a favourable sign. I would beg God, the universe, whoever was out there and listening, to let me live. I would protest with tears streaming down my face, saying, “but why, I’m too young to die!”. Yet even in my pain and grief I had to keep myself constrained, and contain all my rage, denial and terror in a heart shaped box. A box that would explode if I were to have a meltdown or full blown cry fest. I'd sit on the sofa and sigh hundreds of times, as it was one of the few outlets I had left for [**regulating stress**](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) within my body. ## Donors Came from a Whole Spectrum of Life Donations poured in from all sorts of people. My parents’ traditional church held offering sessions, while tattooed ex-colleagues met up to discuss potential advertising campaigns. A friend from Russia insisted on wiring over his life savings, and two other game friends donated their poker winnings. Strangers donated huge sums of money, then requested to remain anonymous. Despite the tragedy of the situation, I bore witness to the eternal essence of humanity. When a life cries out, we answer the call. As the black hole sucked me in, the world joined their hands and stretched out to pull me back. It also [taught me many life lessons](https://sicklessons.com/), and put all my ignorant assumptions to shame. So many of the people whom I had assumed were mean, rude, or uncaring turned out to be the kindest of them all. So many of such people must have developed a shell over the years in order to protect their generous spirit, in a world that often chews it up and spits it out. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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Read Related Posts: - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [How Many Times Can You Hit Rock Bottom with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/rock-bottom/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [November 2018: Meeting and Collaborating with Chronically Ill People in Real Life](https://achronicvoice.com/meeting-collaborating-chronically-ill-real-life-november-2018/) - [On Being a Decent Human Being and Other Thoughts](https://achronicvoice.com/being-decent-human-being/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Jan 11, 2021 It seems like 2014 was a big year for both of us. That year, I came out of remission with AS and got my fibro diagnosis and a whole bunch of other problems started coming up. My heart issues didn’t start until 2016 and we found out that was due to a med interaction by a negligent doctor. They still keep a close eye on my heart since AS affects my heart and pretty much every other part of my body. You’ve been through so much, but I love that you have taken all these bad times and turned them into good, helpful experiences for others. I want to say that we found each other and became friends in late 2017 or early 2018\. Either way, I know I’m super grateful to have you in my life. I know I’ve read this article too. I’m surprised I didn’t comment on it before! Keep up the great work, Sheryl! We love you. - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Jan 9, 2021 Gosh Sheryl, you went through so much (and continue to do so). In a world where there is so much awfulness from others, it really is heartening to see the most amazing generosity of people too. So glad that friends, family and complete strangers were there for you xx - littlemisadvencha Apr 20, 2020 I just want to hug you! What a strong woman you are… - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 20, 2020 Aww thanks, Cha. You are such an empathetic sweetheart <3 - [ Lisa Ehrman ](https://chronicallycontent.com) Apr 25, 2018 I’m so thankful for all the kind and caring people who helped you! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 26, 2018 Me too 🙂 - Claire Saul Apr 23, 2018 Sheryl – you have reduced me to tears again!! Beautifully written – I have shared your link on PainPalsBlog reg feature Monday Magic – Inspiring Blogs for You! But given a mascara warning Claire x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 23, 2018 Haha…I like the mascara warning 😉 Thank you so much, Claire! I actually edited that quite a few times, and tried to submit it for pitches but there were no takers so I had to publish it to my own blog 😉 Hope you’re having a lovely start to the week, and thanks for all your support! xx - Kathy Apr 23, 2018 What a scary time this was for you! I’m so glad you’re alive and kicking! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 23, 2018 Hi Kathy, it certainly was a very scary time indeed! Glad I’m alive and kicking as well 😉 Hope you’re doing well yourself x - Ava Meena Apr 20, 2018 What an incredible story! You have lived through so much. I’m looking forward to reading the second half. 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 20, 2018 Thank you Ava, I hope I get the inspiration to write it soon…I realise I’m not so good writing first person narratives 😉 I hope you’re doing well with the pregnancy, and can’t wait to see some baby pics! 😀 x - Sarah Apr 18, 2018 I’m tearing up reading this. To learn the true generosity and kindness of those in your life is a wonderful thing. It’s too bad we often don’t see it unless we’re facing tragedy. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 19, 2018 Hi Sarah, thank you for your comment. Not to worry, I’m good (for now! – the spoonie caveat lol ;)). Yes there’s lots of ugly in the world, but beauty, too. Sending you lots of love! x - Layla Apr 16, 2018 Sheryl, I’m so glad you found so much generosity! And I’m glad you survived! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 16, 2018 Thank you dear Layla. You could say it was a once in a lifetime experience ;p - Katie Clark Jan 11, 2021 I’m so glad that you reached out and ask for help. You are a much needed and have done so much to repay this debt over and over by helping myself and so many others. It can be difficult to ask for help, it takes strength. You, friend, are one of the strongest I have ever come to know. I’m thankful to have you in my life. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Give Your Best Anyway, Even When You're Feeling Depressed URL: https://achronicvoice.com/give-your-best-even-when-feeling-depressed/ Last updated: 2026-03-30T20:03:26.000Z *\*Content Warning: Mentions of suicide, suicide ideation, and depression.* *\*Disclaimer: This post was first published on* [*chronicillnessbloggers.com*](http://chronicillnessbloggers.com/2018/02/13/giveyourbest/)*, and is being republished here with permission from the editors. This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. 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Thank you!* Read Related Posts: - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [Keeping Up with the World: Why it’s Important Despite Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [A String of Bad Days (and What Happened When That Good Day Finally Came Along)](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/) Pin to Your Depression & Mental Health Boards: ![Give Your Best Anyway, Even When You're Feeling Depressed](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/give-your-best-even-when-feeling-depressed.jpg) ## This is Just One of Many Methods I Use to Cope When I'm Feeling Depressed I'd like to preface this piece by saying that this is just one of the many methods I employ to cope when I'm feeling depressed, and the lack of motivation that comes with it. I do have days where I just let myself be and lie in bed all day, which isn't a bad thing either. Sometimes that's necessary. I wrote “[**7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going**](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/)”, which is pretty much the opposite school of thought from this piece. But I do believe that both ways of thinking are equally as important to have in my mental arsenal. ## An Aimless Cruise Through Life For the longest time, I had been trying to motivate myself to no avail, and started to wonder if I had simply grown tired of life. I had reached a stage where, if given a choice, would pick a painless death over the fulfilment of my happiest dreams. [**What’s the point to life**](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/), when you need to deal with pain on a daily basis anyway? Read Related Posts: - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [Sometimes, Physical Pain Isn’t the Worst Part About Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/) - [#ProjChronicWisdom: Secret Motivation Tips for When You’re Unmotivated](https://achronicvoice.com/projchronicwisdom-motivation-tips/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That's Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [There's No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) ## Knowing That I’m Not Alone Out There To my surprise, I realised that many others with chronic illnesses also struggle with this issue, and that there was a term for it - [passive suicidal, or suicide ideation](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/symptoms/suicidal-ideation). People like me aren’t actively thinking of ways to end our lives, but wouldn’t mind if we were to drop dead this very moment. You don’t have to worry about coming home to find me in the tub with slit wrists, yet I endure rather than enjoy my days. ## Medications for Motivation? Seriously? My psychiatrist believed that my lack of motivation stemmed from depression; in fact, it’s one of the main symptoms. Yet somehow I didn’t believe that medications could fix it. I mean, it isn’t a feeling like happiness, sadness or anxiety, and is more of a catalyst to action, right? Well, after a year or two of trying various medications, a new drug, [vortioxetine](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4296590/), became available at my hospital. She gave me a special slip of paper to collect them, and when my motivation climbed upwards over the next few weeks, I was astonished. Vortioxetine 1, my ignorance 0. Read Related Posts: - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - [Is Seeking Help for Your Mental Health Worth It?](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/) - [Why I Need to See 10 Different Doctors on a Regular Basis](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) ## Thoughts that Emerged from My Dull Routine Whilst Feeling Depressed Whilst this unmotivated period in my personal history wasn’t exactly a bad one, it sure wasn’t great either. ‘Meh’ would be a fitting description. No matter the activity, I got through each day without much aim or desire. It wasn’t that goals weren’t attainable, but they either didn’t exist, or I wasn't fussed about reaching them. This gave me a lot of time to think about motivation and all its connotations, and my personal conclusion is that it’s overrated. Sure, it’s a powerful catalyst that keeps you going, but you can still get there without it, albeit with less enthusiasm. ## What Motivation Means to Me at Present My current take on motivation and life is to ‘just do it’, no matter how I feel. Purpose can come later, but regret is always too late. It’s an investment in myself, in hope that one day I’ll be able to enjoy the fruits of my efforts and patience. I'm sure the vortioxetine helps a great deal, but it's also a thought I hold dear regardless. Feelings do influence our actions a great deal, but [they’re not always real or right](https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/emotional-fitness/201310/feelings-aren-t-facts). How I cope now is to set my emotions aside, and focus on getting things done. Deep within us all there lies a compass which always points in the direction of life. It’s what we’re drawn to by instinct; even a baby gravitates towards it without thought. Our passions are the lighthouses which signal the way, even on the darkest days. They may be a little dim in the depressive fog, but keep your eyes peeled, for they are there. Read Related Posts: - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Featuring People with Illnesses, Passions & Talents](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-people-illnesses-talents/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) ## When I was Feeling Depressed, Meaning Failed Me I used to believe that having a reason to live is what keeps a person going, but this perspective failed me once severe depression entered the picture. When it did, everything that once brought me joy seemed meaningless, even frivolous. Now I just get up and write that blog post, finish my work, do the laundry. I try not to overthink them. I don’t need motivation to clean the house — [**I still have the capacity**](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) to complete this task even without it. Of course I do get bad days where I’m in a pain flare, and I do stop to rest, then. There is a difference between getting things done, and not being able to do so due to the reality of certain situations. It’s important not to get them mixed up! ## When Dark Thoughts Resurface in the Throes of Depression Whilst thoughts such as “I just don’t feel like doing anything at all” still surface, I’ve decided that I’ve given them too much of my precious time and consideration. I try not to struggle against the feelings of hopelessness. They can follow me around in sulky silence like a fly at the border of my brain, whilst I get my tasks done. I may be moving at a crawl, but I know that I must keep going, even if I think there’s no point to it. Having said that, feeling aimless in life for too long is never a good thing, and you [need to work with your therapist in times like these](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/my-inner-child-and-the-angry-girl). They are there to guide you back onto the right path, because sometimes our brain gets confused, and our perceptions become distorted. ## Live Life to the Fullest, Even When Feeling Depressed We’re supposed to gain clarity and wisdom with age, so perhaps one day we’ll understand what it all means. How satisfied will we be if we looked back upon our lives, then? But if we [**keep working on ourselves**](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) as human beings right in this very moment, we can still end our journey on a good note. It’s not uncommon to hear someone say, “he lived a great life” or “she was an amazing person”, after they have passed away. Even in the midst of my depression, I was able to recognise such facts. So live your life to the fullest, no matter how you feel. It isn’t so much about conquering physical mountains, as overcoming the ones within us that block out the light. Travel at your own pace and time, but move forward anyway. Deep down in our hearts, we’ll know that we lived a good life, despite how we feel or think. What other methods do you use to motivate yourself when feeling depressed and defeated? I would love to learn some of your coping strategies, too! > *"Success is not final, failure is not fatal, it is the courage to continue that counts." - Winston Churchill* ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! 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Read Related Posts: - [You Don't Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) - [To Live with Chronic Illness is to Learn to Live with Maybes](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-maybes/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) **For More Insight:** - [Motivation is Overrated (outsideonline.com)](https://www.outsideonline.com/2274776/forget-motivation-and-focus-action) - [Feelings Are Not Facts: A Dangerous Confusion (huffingtonpost.com)](https://www.huffpost.com/entry/feelings-are-not-facts-a%5Fb%5F8726718) - [Managing a Set-Back and the Worry About Doing the Right Thing (mecfsselfhelpguru.com)](https://www.mecfsselfhelpguru.com/2018/07/managing-a-set-back-and-the-worry-about-doing-the-right-thing.html) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Mar 8, 2021 This post should have more comments, Sheryl! I really resonated with so much of what you said here, and I compeletely agree that with motivation, the point for me is to just do it, no matter how I’m feeling. I go up and down, but pushing through sometimes gets me over those humps. I really enjoyed this article! Shared and wondering how I missed it in 2018\. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 9, 2021 Aww thanks Carrie! Glad we’re on the same wavelength here! Glad you enjoyed the article and I really need to start writing more of such posts again…I enjoy them the most 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 15, 2021 Thanks for sharing! I remember it was rejected by a website once because they wanted a more positive message, but when they read it after I had published it here, they agreed that my perspective was important, too. I truly do believe we can have two different tools and opposing thoughts in our toolbox. Each to use whenever we need them most! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jun 20, 2020 That’s a beautiful mantra, and one I try to abide too as well. I may be heavily brain fogged and in pain today, but tomorrow is a fresh start, again and again. I am glad your family keeps you going. Sending love to you and yours! - Katie Clark Jun 19, 2020 For me, my family are my motivation even more than myself. They give me a purpose to get up each day and try my best. I’m fortunate that when I can’t even muster that, they are understanding and that helps me try again the next day. Every day is a new start has been my ongoing mantra. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### April 2018: Marvelling at the Miracle of Life & Splurging for My Birthday URL: https://achronicvoice.com/marvelling-miracle-of-life-splurging-birthday-april-2018/ Last updated: 2025-10-29T13:33:27.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Marvelling at the Wonders of Nature, and Miracle of Life My young parrotlets have been up to no good, and produced six eggs (well seven, but one cracked 🙁). It's been wondrous to discover a new hatchling in the nest box every 2 days, and I was lucky to watch a live birth as well! The parents have been pretty chill for newbies, although we found the firstborn lifeless at 1 week old. I think it would have been blue like its father, judging from the minuscule feathers that were starting to grow. I also believe that the fourth chick should be an albino; we'll see how they go in a few short weeks! 🙂 *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![April 2018 Prompts: Marvelling, Splurging, Continuing, Balancing and Investing](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_prompts_18-04-1-2-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) > [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/BglWc%5F-D45o/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) > > [A post shared by Sheryl Chan (@achronicvoice)](https://www.instagram.com/p/BglWc%5F-D45o/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading) ## Splurging, Because It's My Birthday Month! So I'm using it as an excuse to spoil myself 😛 I know that many of us with chronic illnesses out there are sensitive to scents, and I'll be more than happy to lay off the perfumes if we ever met! As for myself, I love perfumes and sampling scents, they make me happy. It's a pretty expensive hobby, which I've had to curb since I stopped working full-time 😉 ### More About My Perfume Hobby I have a collection of perfumes at home, and enjoy selecting one based on my mood for the day. The art and science of perfumery is fascinating, and I highly recommend these two books if you're curious to learn more: [ ![The Secret of Scent: Adventures in Perfume and the Science of Smell](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/315-rVql40L._SL360_.jpg) ](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0061133841?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) [The Secret of Scent: Adventures in Perfume and the Science of Smell](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0061133841?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=fa6f6624f420a99cfd84fa516bac2d3f&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) [ ![The Emperor of Scent: A True Story of Perfume and Obsession](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41JxsyMh24L._SL360_.jpg) ](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0375759816?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) [The Emperor of Scent: A True Story of Perfume and Obsession](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0375759816?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=20a16b2b43d37baa9bfa6d895f72154f&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ### Current Favourite Perfumes, and What's on the Wish List My current favourites are [Rose Barbare by Guerlain](https://www.fragrantica.com/perfume/Guerlain/Rose-Barbare-1020.html), and [Velvet Rose & Oud by Jo Malone](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00A2UCWJ0?th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=937a79520e31936bd1bd22ed3e874405&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), but my bottles are running dry after all these years! I've had my eye on a new one for a couple months - [Oud du Jour by Amouroud](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01CP69AL6?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=abcbf81e42fadfd6981b6d2d2ff11a1a&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) \- which should make a nice birthday present 😉 (P.s. I have it now!) I just wrote three (now four) paragraphs on perfumes, so you can probably tell that it's something I take pleasure in 😉 Out of curiosity, what sort of perfumes do you like, if any? Read Related Posts: - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/) - [Curated Chronic Illness Gift Ideas for Christmas, Birthdays & Other Occasions!](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-gift-ideas/) - [Invisible in Florence: Life with Chronic Illness in Italy](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-florence-chronic-illness-italy/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Cheyanne Perry – Living a Full Life with Deadly Allergies](https://achronicvoice.com/cheyanne-perry-life-allergies/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) ## Continuing My Goals to Wake Earlier in the Mornings [**Last month**](https://achronicvoice.com/sorting-medications-hike-little-adams-peak-march-2018/), I wrote that I wanted to wake up earlier. I’ve managed to sustain this so far, and couldn’t have felt happier! It makes the days feel less like a pressure cooker, and more like a slow simmer of goodness. I’ve had plenty of aches and downtime come late afternoon, but so far I much prefer this lifestyle. I love to write in the wee hours of the morning, when the sky is dark, the air is fresh, and my thoughts are clear. I finish up as I watch the sky transition to a pale, sun-tinged hue, which instills in me a sense of peace and contentment. I hope to be able to continue with this habit in April and beyond. ## Balancing My Health and Time My energy and time management skills may be non-existent.... I think it’ll be a lifelong lesson for me 😉 Before I fell chronically ill, I liked to cram all of my school or job assignments into four days, after which I'd reward myself with a ‘long break’. Basically work hard then relax hard, if that even makes sense! This isn't wise when you live with chronic illness and in truth, is [**unhealthy for the average person**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/), too. ### The Effects from the Bustle in March March was a pretty busy month by my standards, where I attended a wedding, and paid my respects to my ancestors (an annual Chinese tradition). Whilst my parrotlets nurtured new lives into being, one of my budgies was sick. March was also filled with the usual doctor appointments, fun outings, and work – which I hope will increase as time goes by! As such, my fatigue levels are building up, and I also just found out that I’m back to being anaemic, so I definitely need to rest up. ### How Do You Manage When You Actually Enjoy What You're Working on? I'm also obsessed with blogging, or working on related tasks such as [**content curation for Twitter**](https://achronicvoice.com/meeting-collaborating-chronically-ill-real-life-november-2018/). I enjoy doing all these things, so it never feels like work and I dabble with them all day, every day, which isn't healthy either. The irony of blogging about health to an unhealthy level 😉 'Balance' is a life mission which I'll need to practice more often. Do you have a tip or hack for maintaining a well-balanced lifestyle? Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [Why I Need to See More Than 10 Different Types of Doctors Regularly](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/) - [We Want to Have Fun Just Like You, But Here’s What it Takes with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/) - [It is \*Always\* Possible to Make Time for What Matters Most](https://achronicvoice.com/make-time-what-matters-most/) - [The Eternal Spoonie Struggle: Justifying Rest & Recovery Time](https://achronicvoice.com/spoonie-justifying-rest-recovery-time/) ## Investing More Effort into Blogging as a Business Whilst I already spend a significant portion of my day doing blog-gy things, I think it’s time to take it a step further after 2 years. It would be thrilling if I could earn a sustainable income through writing and blogging somehow. I have some product ideas underway for an online shop. It's been strangely difficult so far. I've approached three different artists to commission some work, but haven't had any good or conclusive experiences. Not to worry, I promise to get them out at some point! ### My New Podcast, “Sick Lessons” I will also launch a new website soon - “[Sick Lessons](https://www.sicklessons.com/)” will be a podcast where people can share life lessons they've gained from living with chronic illness. I want to use this as a means to reach out to both the healthy and sick alike. Wisdom and emotions transcend individual experiences to connect us as human beings, no matter where we may be. Well, that's it from me for April 2018! You can [**continue with May 2018 here**](https://achronicvoice.com/memory-parrotlets-designing-my-days-may-2018/) 🙂 ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) - [MediSearch Review: A Medical AI Search Engine for Patients, Clinicians & Medical Writers](https://achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Why I Moved from SiteGround to Cloudways (and Couldn’t be Happier). Plus Cute Puppy Pics & A New Pacing Strategy.](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/) - [August 2018: Boredom Can be Stimulating & Cuddling My Pet Birds](https://achronicvoice.com/boredom-stimulating-cuddling-birds-august-2018/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Lisa Ehrman ](https://chronicallycontent.com) Apr 30, 2018 I wish you all the best with “Sick Lesson”. It really sounds like a great idea for a site 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 30, 2018 Thanks Lisa, trying my best to keep it afloat! I do like learning life lessons from everyone, too! - [ Albert Romero ](https://lowerbackpaincommunity.wordpress.com/) Apr 12, 2018 It truly is wonderful to see the the miracle of new life. Congratulations on the hatchlings, and Happy Birthday. Its great that you made goal, stuck to it, and are now so happy with what that goal has brought that you are going to stick to it. I think it is important to change daily routines, even if just to keep our sanity. I definitely think it is possible to earn a sustainable income from blogging. You are a very genuine person and I think that will go a long way in helping you grow your blogs as a business. If you want some more info on how to go about doing this one of my professors has a blog, a podcast, and an online course all about content strategy. [https://michaelboezi.com/ ](https://michaelboezi.com/) - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 13, 2018 Hi Albert, Thank you! Unfortunately three of the chicks have passed, but apparently it’s quite common for birds, especially the first batch 🙁 That’s life, but sad… Yes I really need to try and stick to it. It can be ‘difficult’ (first world problem :p), but definitely worth my sanity in the long run! And thanks, I’d love to be able to earn from writing, that would be the dream, healthy or sick 😉 Thanks for the link, I’ll check it out! - [ Chronically Hopeful Char ](https://chronicallyhopeful.com) Apr 11, 2018 What a wonderful season of rebirth and new beginnings! Such a treat to witness new life coming into this big world. They are so tiny. I’m not really a perfume person. I love fresh floral scents, but they smell awful on my skin lol… it must be a reaction with the ph of my skin. I do currently have a lotion somebody gave me and it smells lovely. I think it’s shea butter and magnolia or something like that. Love it! I am very excited about your new website and hope to contribute soon. Wishing you a very happy birthday month! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 11, 2018 Yes, it was marvellous to see the births. Unfortunately, one of the babies died again today 🙁 He died in my hands while I stroked his little head. But apparently that’s the life of birds and breeding, especially for the first clutch. 🙁 As for perfumes, they’re really fascinating because the same one can smell so different on two different people. It isn’t just the perfume itself, but its wearer, too 🙂 Shea butter and magnolia sounds nice – those two scents don’t go well on me but they smell nice! 😀 Thank you, I look forward to your contribution, I’m sure it will be very enlightening and interesting! x - Selina Apr 7, 2018 So happy to see new friends have joined you! So sweet! I’m not a perfume gal but enjoy a bath & body fruity spray occasionally. I’m looking forward to the “sick lessons” site. Good look with its start-up. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 7, 2018 Thanks Selina! Nice to know what scents others like, I find it interesting! 😉 And thank you! I’m also excited to build it up and add more voices and life lessons to it 😀 x - Kathy Apr 4, 2018 I loved watching your video! I was shocked at how big there eyes were. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 5, 2018 Haha yes, big blind eyes 😉 I love it when he ‘pops’ out! 😉 - Marya Apr 4, 2018 Wishing you much success with Sick Lessons! It’s good to read about other chronic bloggers. I’m trying to get my blog going to..so much perseverance needed. But it does keep my mind off things. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 4, 2018 Thanks Marya! Yes, and it’s also necessary to enjoy the process, or it may not last 🙂 It definitely gives me something to do! 😉 - Kirsten (Graphic Organic) Apr 3, 2018 The parrotlets are adorable. It’s really the little things in life that make us happy. As for perfume, I’m a huge fan of the Miss Dior collection. Good luck with the Sick Lessons platform, it sounds amazing! x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 3, 2018 Thanks Kirsten! They’re the cutest, but also the meanest 😉 They have a pretty strong bite when they want to haha. Nice! Miss Dior does have a rather lovely, feminine collection there 🙂 Thanks, I hope the platform grows in a positive way! x - Emma England (Not Just Tired) Apr 2, 2018 Happy Birthday to you this month, Sheryl! I hope you manage to do something nice to mark the occasion! Glad you’re gong to treat yourself 🙂 My favourite perfume is Daisy by Marc Jacobs! I find it fresh, light and summery! Very exciting about the birth of your chicks. Nature truly is amazing! Great to read these as always and loving your new “Sick Lessons” site ? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 3, 2018 Dear Emma, Thanks so much!! As I grow older, I celebrate less haha. But it’s still a nice feeling to have a birthday for sure 🙂 Nice! Daisy is such a refreshing, happy scent! 😀 It would really suit your personality 😉 Thanks for your support with the Sick Lessons project…hope I get energy to keep at it…I tend to start well and maintain not so well 😉 Sending hugs! - [ Kat ](https://writerkatgn.wordpress.com) Apr 2, 2018 Congratulations on the new birds, your birthday month, and the new avenues with the blog! All so exciting! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 2, 2018 Thank you Kat! Yes, exciting in the good way, for once haha! 😉 x - Shannon Fahey Apr 2, 2018 I always get so inspired when reading other people’s monthly intentions so thank you so much! I especially liked the one about balancing your time and your health. I was definitely the same way before getting too ill to function, and I honestly think that’s what took me to my breaking point. Also, I really want to treat blogging more like a business as well and develop an income from it! Thanks again for the inspo! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 2, 2018 Hi Shannon, thank you for your encouraging words, they are also inspirational 😉 Yes I really enjoy reading everyone’s prompts too, very interesting especially when in parallel to other spoonies! x **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You're All Invited, Too!) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/ Last updated: 2026-05-06T16:35:38.000Z ## Book Recommendations for Spoonies (People with Chronic Illnesses), but Suitable for All Hello and welcome to the first in a series of book roundups, curated with spoonies in mind! They’re all written by people with various illnesses themselves, or with content that is relevant to our way of life. I’ll also throw in some unrelated, bonus recommendations here and there, as a welcome break from the constant talk of pain, pain, pain! If you’re healthy, these are also great reads to delve into the strange world of disease, or to better understand what a loved one is going through. Illness is complex, and [**permeates all aspects of a person’s psyche and body**](https://achronicvoice.com/worst-part-about-chronic-illness/). Without further ado, here are the first five books for your consideration. If you’ve read any of these before, I’d love to hear what you thought about them, and I’m sure your review will be useful to others, too! Just leave a comment at the end of this post 🙂 *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Book Recommendations for Spoonies Board: ![Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You’re All Invited, Too!)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/good-books-book-recommendations-spoonies-all-invited.jpg) More Book Recommendations for People with Chronic Illness: - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies: Part II](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies-2/) - [Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill: Part III](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-3-chronically-ill/) - [Book Review: The Narwhal Who Suffers from Chronic Migraines](https://achronicvoice.com/book-review-narwhal-migraines/) - [Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) --- ### If You’re Feeling...Self-Reflective [![The Sound of a Wild Snail Eating (By: Elisabeth Tova Bailey)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51YRdNI4psL._SL400_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/161620642X?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) #### The Sound of a Wild Snail Eating *By: Elisabeth Tova Bailey* A mysterious disease took over Elisabeth's life, after a trip to Europe. Some speculation as to what she might be suffering from are tick-borne encephalitis, chronic fatigue syndrome, or dysautonomia. In any case, she became bedridden, and this story is about her slow life with a pet snail for a companion. It is an autobiography, scientific observation, and meditative experience all in one. It reads like a novel, with much food for thought about life and chronic illness. [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/161620642X?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6f0c1d395b407c60cf328285046f0ec2&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [Hey You…It’s Me (M.E. Struggles & a Tribute to the Human Spirit)](https://achronicvoice.com/me-struggles/) - [Mainstream: Can You Talk to Us About ME? (There are Enough ‘Normal’ Health Tips to Go Around Already)](https://achronicvoice.com/mainstream-me-health-tips/) - [A Day in the Life of a “POTSie” (A What??)](https://achronicvoice.com/day-in-life-potsie/) - [Why I Moved from SiteGround to Cloudways (and Couldn’t be Happier). Plus Cute Puppy Pics & A New Pacing Strategy.](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/) - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) --- ### If You’re Feeling...Suspicious [![The Woman Who Fooled The World: Belle Gibson’s cancer con, and the darkness at the heart of the wellness industry (By: Beau Donelly & Nick Toscano)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51H8A4RIcEL._SL400_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1947534068?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) #### The Woman Who Fooled The World *By: Beau Donelly & Nick Toscano* This is an exciting book that grips you right from the first page, about a woman called Belle Gibson. She faked brain cancer, and raked up quite the following on Instagram with suggestions for alternative, ‘natural’ treatments. She built the popular app, “Whole Pantry”, which Apple endorsed. Penguin even published a book she wrote. Many cancer patients took her advice to heart to their detriment. This is a great read about modern society's infatuation with the billion dollar wellness industry, and its dark side. The pace is fast and before you know it, you're reading the last page! [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1947534068?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=a1f2679da80a3b48990f5489a1ea6f5d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) --- ### If You’re Feeling...Scientific [![The Clever Gut Diet: How to Revolutionize Your Body from the Inside Out](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51SMOrsMpUL._SL400_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1501172743?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) #### The Clever Guts Diet *By: Dr Michael Mosley* This is a bestseller by the popular TV personality, [Dr. Michael Mosley](https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/food/5257764/michael-mosley-trust-me-im-a-doctor-blood-sugar-diet/). I wanted to learn more about gut health, having understood that it affects every aspect of our health and body. There’s even evidence that [mental health begins within our guts](https://www.health.harvard.edu/diseases-and-conditions/the-gut-brain-connection). I don’t quite enjoy reading books that are too technical, so this was perfect. Dr. Mosley manages to explain scientific concepts in a way that the average person can grasp with ease. He has also written a few other popular books, such as the [5:2 fast diet](https://www.amazon.com/dp/150110201X?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=ca7895377abe7bbf5bef183760f03c73&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1501172743?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=65c2170f941ed2d7a75a1c6ee3a6cf30&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) - [Dysphagia & Swallowing Problems (and How Oral Vitamin Sprays Can be of Help to You)](https://achronicvoice.com/dysphagia-oral-vitamin-sprays/) - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - [Learn More About the Super Rare Disease — Esophageal Diverticulum](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) --- ### If You’re Feeling...Wise [![The Pain Companion: Everyday Wisdom for Living With and Moving Beyond Chronic Pain (By: Sarah Anne Shockley)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41AupBHTDcL._SL400_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1608685705?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) #### The Pain Companion *By: Sarah Anne Shockley* I loved this book by Sarah, which looks at pain in a very different light. We often believe that we're failures, unless we fight against pain and defeat it. Yet in this book she talks about ways to live with it, respect it, and even partner up with it for the good of your long-term wellbeing. I used some of the methods in this book while in pain, and I must say that it did help to calm me down. There are useful exercises and reflections you can try out, such as ‘writing a complaint letter to your pain’. While nobody wants to suffer no matter the amount of insight it brings, we might as well learn from these experiences that we don't have a choice but to endure. [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1608685705?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=d6ead19f9ededaca3bf3fe4fe82a8beb&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Read Related Posts: - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) --- ### If You’re Feeling...Young [![Carve the Mark (Carve the Mark, 1) (By: Veronica Roth)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51m39QbAqkL._SL400_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0062348647?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) #### Carve the Mark *By: Veronica Roth* Whilst I admit that I didn’t finish this book, I wanted to put it here as an option for a young adult fantasy fiction. This genre sure distracts the mind, doesn’t it? The main character is someone who lives in constant pain, and is able to unleash this as a torture weapon, too. The thing I didn’t like about this book was how much she was able to accomplish despite being in immense, excruciating pain. If you’ve ever lived with such pain, you’d know that it’d be impossible, no matter how tough or determined you are. Oh, and she falls in love with the enemy’s son. What a surprise, right? ;) But anyway, it really isn’t too bad if you’re looking for a light, trashy read, ala chick flick style. [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0062348647?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=532d249483bc1ac031e31f103e746da1&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) --- ## More Books on My Wish List I thought I’d also share three books on my (neverending) wish list, just in case something catches your eye here as well! ### 1\. The Little Book of Life Hacks: How to Make Your Life Happier, Healthier, and More Beautiful *By: Yumi Sakugawa* [![The Little Book of Life Hacks: How to Make Your Life Happier, Healthier, and More Beautiful (By: Yumi Sakugawa)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/41pyF89qcMS._SL400_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1250092256?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) Don't the illustrations in here look gorgeous? It'd probably make a great coffee table book, or a soothing bedtime browse! [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1250092256?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=816188913622220efaa7230e67177468&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) --- ### 2\. Backbone: Living with Chronic Pain without Turning into One *By: Karen Duffy* [![Backbone: An Inspirational Manual for Coping with Chronic Pain (By: Karen Duffy)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51q1suapJDL._SL400_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1948924579?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) I read an excerpt on Lenny Letter from this book and loved it. I find the sarcasm inspirational and it’s my kind of humour! I’ve ordered it and am just waiting for it to land on my doorstep :) [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1948924579?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6555660d105205ea8a51c71d8a413b00&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) --- ### 3\. Sleep Affirmations: 200 Phrases for a Deep and Peaceful Sleep *By: Jennifer Williamson* [![Sleep Affirmations: 200 Phrases for a Deep and Peaceful Sleep (By: Jennifer Williamson)](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51CBTPADkmL._SL400_.jpg)](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1507207603?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) I follow [Jennifer’s blog, “Healing Brave”](https://healingbrave.com/), and enjoy reading her posts. They really do stand out from the sea of repetitive self-help articles out there (and we know how they churn!). I’ve always had [**issues with quality sleep**](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/), and many people with chronic illness suffer from [painsomnia](https://www.sleepfoundation.org/physical-health/painsomnia). These affirmations read like a charm, and I can’t wait to get my hands on it. This is her first book written, so do show some support! [Buy on Amazon](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1507207603?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=88ea93c80f52554da3981df7290aea44&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) --- ## What’s Next for Book Recommendations for Spoonies? I shall leave you with these book recommendations for now. Let me know what you’re in the mood for, and I’ll see what to add to the next list. In the meantime, don't forget to check out the [**other book recommendations for spoonies**](#book-series) at the beginning of this post! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Magazine Review: Lucky Peach’s Last Issue, Ever](https://achronicvoice.com/magazine-review-lucky-peach/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Terri Apr 15, 2018 Sheryl, thanks so much for some great recommendations! I’m adding these to my reading list! Pinning and sharing on my FB page also so others can read them too. Hugs! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 15, 2018 You’re welcome Terri, I’m happy you found some titles you might be interested in! x - Nicole Apr 12, 2018 My suggestion would be The Shack by WM Paul Young. I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea, but I find it reassuring and affirmative. Re-reading regularly… - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 12, 2018 Thanks for the suggestion, will check it out! 🙂 - Kirsten (Graphic Organic) Apr 9, 2018 Thank you for the recommendations. I was just looking for a new book to read 🙂 xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 9, 2018 Am glad the list is useful! 🙂 I’ll try to get roundup 2 up sometime soon 😉 x - [ Sue Jackson ](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/) Apr 3, 2018 Great list! Glad you included Wild Snail Eating – such a wonderful little book and so beautifully written. I would also ad the 3 books written by Toni Bernhard, a good friend of mine who also has ME/CFS. She has written 3 books about applying Buddhist principles to a life with chronic illness, and they are all just wonderful – inspirational and practical. Here’s a review of her latest – How to Live Well with Chronic Pain & Illness – plus links to the first two: [http://bookbybook.blogspot.com/2016/04/nonfiction-how-to-live-well-with.html ](https://bookbybook.blogspot.com/2016/04/nonfiction-how-to-live-well-with.html) Thanks for the inspiring list! Sue - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 3, 2018 Thanks for the additional recommendations Sue, will have to check them out! I read Toni’s column on Psychology Today – always a good read, and I’m sure her books would be thought-provoking, too! Yes, The Sound of a Wild Snail Eating was a lovely, relaxing read! xx - [ Jen Williamson ](https://healingbrave.com/) Mar 29, 2018 Sheryl, thank you SO much for the mention! It truly means the world to me and I’m smiling ear to ear right now. I am thrilled about this book and almost can’t wait for it to be here. Your light is contagious. xo - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 29, 2018 Hi Jen, Totally my pleasure. I really enjoy your thoughts and writing, and will get the book as well 🙂 All the best! - chelsea w Mar 29, 2018 Ooh I read the book Backbone and thought it very humorous. The author is quite the character! Thanks for all these suggestions. I’ll be adding even more books to my TBR pile! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 29, 2018 Hi Chelsea, thanks, good to know it’ll be a good read! 😉 Definitely, I’m already thinking about #2 in this series 😀 Do share if you have any great reads too, thank you! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### 4 Cool Truths My Partner Said (Unwittingly) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/cool-truths/ Last updated: 2026-05-19T15:06:16.000Z ## Cool Truths My Partner Said in the Most Casual of Tones Have you ever had that lightning bolt moment where an offhand statement made by someone else knocked you off your feet? A statement so simple, yet powerful enough to make you stop, blink and think. Here are some of those special moments of truths for me. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Quotes, Relationships & Chronic Illness Boards: ![4 Cool Truths My Partner Said (Unwittingly). Read the post on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/4-cool-truths-my-partner-said-unwittingly.jpg) ### 1\. “If you’re suffering so much, then shouldn’t it be 100% effort counted on your part, too?” ![“If you’re suffering so much, then shouldn’t it be 100% effort counted on your part, too?” Read the post on: www.achronicvoice.com](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin-truth-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) We were moving to a new apartment, but I wasn't feeling well (what's new?!). I felt guilty as I rested in bed, whilst he buzzed around like a busy bee. We carried boxes and luggages over to the new place over a few nights, and I helped out with this despite the body aches. We'd have an exhausted dinner out after, and I would be apologising the whole time saying, "I'm sorry I can't be of much help. It's like you're doing 80% of the work, and I'm only doing 20%." At first he joked that he was actually doing 100% of the work, but I corrected him because I did do the boring admit shit like dealing with pesky management, arranging for repairs and such 😛 He agreed and said, "well if you're suffering so much, then shouldn't it be 100% effort counted on your part, too?". *Bing.* A flash of light went off in my head and I bolted upright. You know what, he's right! What I had done was to compare myself against a healthy person's energy scale. A scale which I'll always fall short of, no matter what. It's the whole [equality vs equity](https://www.internationalwomensday.com/Missions/18707/Equality-versus-Equity-What-s-the-difference-as-we-EmbraceEquity-for-IWD-2023-and-beyond) concept. If you think about it, the effort I had put in **was** 100% of whatever energy I had available to me, and so was his (perhaps 120% 😉). It wasn't an 80-20 percent ratio, but 100-100\. That's what partnerships of any form should look like in an ideal world, with each person simply giving his or her best. Read Related Posts: - [What Stops You from Splitting Your Burdens Up?](https://achronicvoice.com/splitting-your-burdens/) - [Asking for Help (and Why Everyone Needs to Learn this Important Life Skill)](https://achronicvoice.com/asking-for-help-life-skill/) - [You Don’t Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [Are You a Capable Person? What Does That Even Mean?](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) ### 2\. “I’m enjoying your company. Why must it be material?” ![“I’m enjoying your company. Why must it be material?” Read the post, “4 Cool Truths My Partner Said (Unwittingly)”, on achronicvoice.com](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin-truth-2-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) To provide some context, my ex had a job offer overseas in Germany at one point in time. He asked if I was keen to go along, and I definitely was. But the more research I did, the more I realised just how difficult a task it was going to be. For one, moving anywhere at all is a logistic and financial nightmare when you [**see 10 different specialists on a regular basis**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-need-see-different-types-of-doctors/). I also feel unwell half the time, and [**flare ups are unpredictable**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/). My support network is a huge boost to me here, and I won't get to pack them in my luggage. Emergency visits to the hospital in the middle of the night aren't uncommon, and I can't drive due to epilepsy. I would definitely need to rely on my partner a lot more if we were to go. I started thinking of other ways to get there, such as enrolling into school again. He blew up right away and said to me, "You can't study! I can't support you there, you will have to support yourself!" This statement devastated me, as all I was trying to do was find ways to make things work. So one day I said to my current partner, "I'm sorry I have nothing to offer you. I don't have money, I don't have the energy to party or go for many social events, and I'm extra troublesome." He immediately said to me, “Well I enjoy your company. Why does it have to be material?” *Bing.* That was another lightbulb moment for me. So you mean, me being me is enough?! Wow, who would have thought of that. But yes, you being you is enough. Stay you - there’s only one you in the whole world, and that is your power. Everything else can come and go - fame, fortune, ability, health. But your personality is a magnet that attracts and repels, and you can charge it up to turn it into a powerful force. It is your biggest commodity. > *"No one is you and that is your biggest power." - Dave Grohl* Read Related Posts: - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [So This is What a Tonic Clonic Seizure Feels Like](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) ### 3\. “Money is just money.” ![“Money is just money.” Click to read the post: 4 Cool Truths My Partner Said (Unwittingly).](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin-truth-3-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) I said to my partner one day, "I don't think I could deal with it if my [**heart valve collapsed**](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) again. I'd live out the rest of my days and die in peace, instead of going through the whole process of raising $100,000 to get a heart surgery done in the U.S. again." He said, “I’d give you all I had to do it.” What? All your life savings? “Money is just money.” And I guess...life is more precious than money. Always. Not even mine, but any life. Thanks for the reminder and for setting me straight. ### 4\. “Who cares?” ![“Who cares?” Click to read the post, 4 Cool Truths My Partner Said (Unwittingly), on AChronicVoice.com](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin-truth-4-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) I can't remember the exact situation for this, but that's because it happens a lot. I'd ask him about a comment some stranger had made online that was troubling me. Or I'd ask him if people would label me as weird or think that I was stupid, if I did or didn't do a certain thing. He always shrugs and says to me, "who cares?". This is always a stark moment for me, because he's right. Who cares if [**I don't have a 'normal' full time job**](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) \- it doesn't even matter if I'm sick or not. Who cares if I wanted to switch careers and start from scratch? Who cares if I wanted to give my fashion sense (or lack of) a revamp? Who cares if I wanted to sign up for "The Voice" (not really) even though I have no talent for it? Who cares if I want to do whatever I want to do with my own life? I hope you get my point by now. People make comments all the time, especially if they don't have to show their face, and it's human instinct to [**judge and compare**](https://achronicvoice.com/dont-compare-life-destination-special/). I admit to being no different from 'people'. But nobody can ever live in your body or utilise that mind of yours. There is nothing for them to gain from whatever it is you want to do; it mostly changes your life, not theirs. The consequences are for you to bear, not them. So who cares what they think? Do what's right for you. Read Related Posts: - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [Every Next Level of Your Life Will Demand a Different You](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) - [Life is a Long Process of Becoming Into…](https://achronicvoice.com/life-is-a-long-process-of-becoming-into/) - [The Secret of Change: Spend Your Energy Wisely with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/secret-of-change/) ## Do You Have More 'Cool Truths' to Share? So that's four cool truths or wise words my partner has said that will stick with me for the rest of my life. Do you have any personal epiphanies to share as well? I'd love to hear them! I would also like to add that my partner isn't a sage (too bad), and I will share in future on how chronic illness can be a downer in relationships, no matter the level of acceptance or wisdom. Until then, be good to yourself and your loved ones! ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationships with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-boundaries-relationships-chronic-illness/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Jul 23, 2020 What a moment that 100% was! We realise so much about ourselves the moment we stop comparing. I loved this post and now I’m wondering who’s given me such moments in my life! Hmmm… thinking 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 23, 2020 Haha often these little nuggets of wisdom pop up in the most common, unexpected moments 🙂 And I love when they do! 😀 - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Jul 22, 2020 I really love the first point – it’s so absolutely true – each person’s 100% looks different. I will take that with me and remind myself that I can have MY standards and not those of someone else. We don’t have to function at 100% all the time, but when we do it should be on our scale and that alone. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 22, 2020 Hi Claire, yes it’s so ‘enlightening’, isn’t it?! And so simple, and said in such a common conversation and place 🙂 The simpler things are, the more profound lol. I definitely do take that lesson with me through life now! 🙂 - Kanchan Mar 22, 2018 You are lucky to have understanding and loving partner . I believe whatever he said randomly and without thinking about anything but you, is really true to the core . Really who cares , money has value if it’s spent for good cause, & he is there because he loves you for being you . Every word seems so true and meaningful. Wish you happiness and well being. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 22, 2018 Hi Kanchan, Thanks so much for your kind words and comment. I think it’s the little every words like these that make such a big difference! I wish you good health and happiness too 🙂 - Marya Mar 21, 2018 You’re blessed to have a supportive partner! (I have one too.) - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 21, 2018 Thank you! And that’s great to hear! 😀 - Amy-Lynn Mar 20, 2018 I’m lucky enough to have someone like this, too. That 80-20 thing rings true and close to home for me. I still struggle with it even though he doesn’t. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 20, 2018 Yes, sometimes little reminders like these stick with you for life! - Sarah Mar 15, 2018 I’m pretty sure it’s you who’s the sage and wise one… you have such astute insights and give great advice which all of us in similar situations can take to heart. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 16, 2018 Aww, thanks Sarah! Haha I hope I don’t come off as a snooty advice-giver! 😉 I need to practice my listening skills, too 😉 - Emma England (Not Just Tired) Mar 13, 2018 Love this and your partner’s attitude. How refreshing! He sounds like a great support ? You’ve given me one of those “moments” in saying how can we compare ourselves to a healthy person’s scale! I do exactly like you were – apologising and feeling bad for not doing as much as my husband (even though he doesn’t think that!) – but it’s so true that we’re giving 100 percent of what we can. Great post ? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 13, 2018 Hey Emma! Haha to be honest, he wasn’t actually deliberately trying to be wise…they were just random epiphanies kind of thing 😀 And yes exactly! We are giving our best, and that’s what matters 🙂 - Kirsten Mar 13, 2018 You’re very lucky to have such a kind and caring partner. I feel like he should give inspirational speeches for spoonies ;p - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 13, 2018 LOL, I’ll let him know because that’s exactly what he’d hate to do ? Not that he hates spoonies \*wave\*! He actually doesn’t read my blog at all, and doesn’t even ‘like’ my page on social media. I don’t really care either, because he supports me in more meaningful ways for real 🙂 - [ Caz (InvisiblyMe) ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Mar 13, 2018 Oooo some interesting ones here! Some would rile me the wrong way, but others are like a breath of fresh air (it’s just money, and who cares, being two), though even those can be hard to hear. Interesting post!! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 13, 2018 Haha yes, every relationship has a different dynamic and humour to it! 😉 - Poovanesh Pather | FamilyGrowthLife.com Mar 12, 2018 You so lucky to have such a great partner. He appreciates and loves you for you. My truth is do the best you can with thd fuel you have on the day. I learnt that truth the hard way – 5 weeks in the hospital, 5days in a coma. So I have made that phrase my daily reality. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 12, 2018 Hi Poovanesh, yes so true – our energy levels change daily, and we should never expect to always give the same output! - [ Caz (InvisiblyMe) ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Mar 13, 2018 Definitely agree there. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### What I Thought About the Award-Winning Film, “Unrest” (vs My Healthy Movie Night Companions!) URL: https://achronicvoice.com/unrest-film-movie-night-healthy-companions/ Last updated: 2025-10-29T14:02:29.000Z *\*Disclaimer: This review of the film, “Unrest”, is a sponsored post. I got to watch a preview in exchange. This post is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ## Who is Jennifer Brea, and What is the Film, “Unrest”, About? Jennifer Brea was a Ph.D. student at Harvard, when she was struck down by a mysterious illness. This is a documentary of both her and her husband's journey, living with this nightmare of a disease called [ME/CFS (Myalgic Encephalomyelitis/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome)](https://www.cdc.gov/me-cfs/index.html). She approached me last November, and asked if I could review [her film, “Unrest”](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt3268850/), in exchange for a preview. (I apologise for getting around to it so late.) “Unrest” has now won quite a number of awards, and is currently available on Netflix, iTunes, Vimeo, and Google Play. It is my hope that it reaches the shores of Singapore soon, too! ![Poster of award winning film, “Unrest” by Jennifer Brea.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/unrest-poster-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Poster of award winning film, “Unrest” by Jennifer Brea ## What is the Meaning of Pain? > *“This illness destroyed my life. But what it showed me, I could never give that back.” - Jennifer Brea, "Unrest"* There were many meaningful sentences made in the documentary, but that quote stood out to me the most. Pain has indeed destroyed my body – I can feel the altered parts, and the physical weaknesses are ever present. Yet it has also opened my eyes to a whole new level of living. What it means to be human – [**so fragile, yet so strong**](https://achronicvoice.com/what-neverending-pain-reveals/). Broken, but enough. Full of flaws, yet that’s also [**where our beauty emerges from**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-your-beauty-never-left-you/). ## Get the Tissues Ready for Watching “Unrest” I will be honest, I’m one of those women who cry during sad movies. It’s not uncommon for my partner to look at me with amusement and say, “but it’s not even sad!”. Sometimes it’s not even a tragic moment, but the music! Those epic minor key tunes are powerful! I decided to watch it together with my partner and his father over Christmas, as I wanted to get more opinions about this film (and sneak some awareness in 😉). ## “Unrest” was the Best Documentary I've Watched in Ages “Unrest” was hands down one of the best documentaries I’ve watched in ages, and I was bawling throughout the film. (Okay, more like sniffling in silence, because my partner’s dad was nearby. I didn’t want to alarm him.) Whilst I don’t have ME/CFS, I do live with plenty of other chronic illnesses to make up for it. Even though the pains that we experience are different, the ultimate impact is the same. [Chronic illness affects our careers](https://cicoach.com/pdf/org-dyn%5FFINAL.pdf) (Beatty & Joffe, 2006), as well as relationships with everyone around us. [**It scrambles your identity**](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/), and changes you both inside and out. It reduces you into a rubble of a human being, dependent for aid, and sometimes struggling for survival, even. As such, I could relate to every single thing Jennifer said and did in this movie. Whilst I’m not chained to my bed like she was, I’ve had periods in my life that were similar. For a few years, my joint aches had been so bad that it took me two hours every morning just to shift my legs over the bed. Everything in the film was so relatable to me. Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [Dating with Chronic Illness (and What I’ve Learned)](https://achronicvoice.com/dating-with-chronic-illness/) - [Every Next Level of Your Life Will Demand a Different You](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) ## Viewpoints About “Unrest” From My Healthier Movie Companions As I mentioned earlier, my partner and his dad watched this film with me. But guess what? Their viewpoints were quite different from mine, which isn’t surprising. No matter how hard you try, it's [**impossible to understand someone else’s pain**](https://achronicvoice.com/we-shouldnt-expect-people-to-understand/) if you don't live with it yourself. I will share some of their thoughts here, because I feel that it’s important to listen to what healthy people think about such affairs as well. We shouldn't let outrage consume us, or they will never dare to speak truth. We need to work together, in order to improve our circumstances within society. ### Three Words that Summed Up the Film, “Unrest”, for Them Three words that summed up what my partner’s dad thought about it: interesting, enlightening, and boring. Yes, boring. I’m not going to argue with him, because I too, agree that [chronic illness is boring](https://themighty.com/2018/02/chronic-illness-recovery/). It doesn’t have a beginning, middle or end, and as human beings, we're drawn by nature to that structure, with life as the biggest story of all time. Neither could he comprehend the intermittent nature of the illness, where it was possible to walk around one day, and then become bed bound the next. That doesn’t make any sense in terms of how a ‘normal illness’ works – you fall sick, you rest, you recover, and continue on your linear path. Chronic illness is more of a dysfunctional sinus wave, a disruption to the pulse of life. To provide a bit of background, he is one of the kindest, most generous and patient person I know. I’ve seen with my own eyes how he cared for his wife when she was stricken with cancer, and he’s never judged or belittled me for always being sick. If someone of such a humane nature can find chronic illness boring, what about the rest of society? Read Related Posts: - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [3 Types of Chronic Pain that Sound Bearable, but are Not](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-bearable-not/) - [A Page From a Sick Girl’s Diary: Sometimes I Wish I was an Old Person](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girls-diary-wish-old-person/) - [We Want to Have Fun Just Like You, But Here’s What it Takes](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) ### Is There Any Point to Raising Awareness About Invisible Illnesses, Then? “Why doesn’t she do something about it?” That was something that puzzled him, even though I tried to explain that she *was* doing something about it by making this film, despite the difficulties. He asked, "what's the point of raising awareness? Is it to ask for funding?" He believes that the ultimate point is to facilitate the discovery of a cure. This is a very normal way of thinking. Speaking for myself, solving problems and finding solutions were my biggest coping mechanism for decades, until they weren’t. There comes a point in many a chronic illness person’s life where such coping tactics no longer work, and you’re left with the sole task of just trying to stay alive, and get through each day. Yet this statement does make sense, too. Whilst the first step towards any change is to acknowledge that a problem exists, the ultimate aim should be action. Showing empathy towards a sick person is often an excellent way to provide support. But to contribute towards research and to press for solutions on a bigger scale, is also to show solidarity. It is empathy in action. ### How Celebrity Endorsements Help He mentioned that he tended to pay more attention when it was a famous person who was speaking. The only difference I would say, is that you can relate to that person to a certain degree. You know a little about their life, their personality, and perhaps even admire their talents. You feel a connection. This is nothing new, as charities often use a single child or person to ask for funds, instead of showing a generic populace. He also said that, especially for actors that have been in the business for a while, you can see the marked differences of ‘before’ and ‘after’. There is a frame of reference, as we follow their timeline in showbiz. This is why many in the spoonie community are ‘happy’ when a celebrity chooses to be open about their chronic illness, such as [Selena Gomez with Lupus](http://www.eonline.com/news/890491/selena-gomez-didn-t-accept-her-lupus-diagnosis-until-it-became-life-or-death-i-m-not-really-proud-of-that), [Celine Dion with Stiff Person Syndrome](https://www.theguardian.com/music/2024/jan/30/celine-dion-documentary-stiff-person-syndrome), [Lady Gaga with Fibromyalgia](https://www.bbc.com/news/newsbeat-41250806) and so many more. It's a power up in terms of awareness raised, as opposed to the trickle plebeians like me generate 😉 For example, [Lady Gaga recently cancelled 10 tours](https://www.theguardian.com/music/2018/feb/03/lady-gaga-cancels-concerts-suffering-severe-pain) due to extreme fibromyalgia pain. I remember a friend telling me years ago how much energy there was in her concert, and all the dancing they did. I shuddered thinking about it, as that sounded like a great recipe for a pain flare. Now, knowing that Lady Gaga lives with [fibromyalgia](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/fibromyalgia/symptoms-causes/syc-20354780), I too wonder how she did it all. Having that grand frame of reference makes you ponder about it more, and being in the news always helps 😉 ### The Problem with Charity Overload This is another interesting point about where and whom we should donate to. There are [so many charities and people](http://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0100115) in need of aid, and the media bombards us with ads every day (Västfjäll et al., 2014). What do we do? Should we donate to that sick child, or to you? We can’t help everyone in the world. I really have no answer for that, except to just go with your heart. The only thing I can hope and strive for, is to show just how much chronic illness also affect us as human beings. The impact on society may be silent, but it's huge. [**None of us are ‘more’ or ‘less’ human**](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/), we’re all just trying to live with a decent quality of life. ### Technical, Medical Terms Whizz by You Whilst I understood the medical jargon used in the film, they confused my partner's dad at times. Words like ‘mitochondrial’ whizzed by him, and I’m not sure if it’s part of what made the movie boring. When you don’t understand something, it’s easy to quickly become lost and tune out. Whilst I think that these terms were necessary for explaining certain factors, it was also a good reminder to be more attentive with my own blog posts. Not every term that’s become everyday words to me is common language out there. ## Conclusion: The Film, “Unrest”, is Definitely Worth a Watch If you had to pick only one film to watch about chronic illness, I would give my vote to “Unrest”. Whilst the viewpoints of my partner’s dad were quite different from my own, I’d like to say that we didn’t argue over them, and I took no offence. In fact, I found his perspectives fascinating and enlightening. It’s important that we are open to what others think about our illnesses too, if we want change to happen. After all, we also need them as our advocates. They are the people with the energy and means to make a difference in our lives, and for the good of all society, too. As always, clear communication is the lifeblood for cooperation, in a bid to improve circumstances, whatever they may be. **Watch the Official Trailer for “Unrest” Here:** Official Trailer for the Film, “Unrest” ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Mainstream: Can You Talk to Us About ME? (There are Enough ‘Normal’ Health Tips to Go Around Already)](https://achronicvoice.com/mainstream-me-health-tips/) - [Hey You…It’s Me (M.E. Struggles & a Tribute to the Human Spirit)](https://achronicvoice.com/me-struggles/) - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [Would You Rather: Have an Invisible Illness or a Visible Disability?](https://achronicvoice.com/rather-have-invisible-illness-or-disability/) For More Insight About ME/CFS & The Film, “Unrest”: - [A Filmmaker’s Personal Look at Chronic Fatigue Syndrome](https://www.wsj.com/articles/a-filmmakers-personal-look-at-chronic-fatigue-syndrome-1515783784) - [This New Documentary on Chronic Fatigue Syndrome is a Must-See—and Not for the Reason You Think](https://www.vogue.com/article/unrest-documentary-netflix-chronic-fatigue-syndrome-wellness) Pin to Your ME/CFS, Chronic Fatigue & Film Boards: ![What I Thought About the Award-Winning Film, “Unrest” (vs My Healthy Movie Night Companions!)](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin-unrest-film-2-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Terri Mar 13, 2018 This is an outstanding post, Sheryl, and you’ve definitely made me want to watch the movie for myself. You’re so right that it’s impossible for people to really understand chronic pain/illnesses unless they’ve experienced them. Like you, I have a very supportive partner (my sweet hubby) who is extremely supportive and tries to understand, but sometimes he’ll make a comment that makes me realize that as much as he wants to, he just doesn’t completely get it. Sharing this on Pinterest and Facebook. Blessings to you! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 13, 2018 Hi Terri, Thanks for your comment! Yes we can’t blame them either really. How do you understand a concept that you’ve never personally experienced? I hope you enjoy the documentary if you do decide to watch it! 😀 Have a lovely week! - [ Carrie ](https://www.myseveralworlds.com/) Mar 5, 2018 This is a great assessment of Unrest, Sheryl. I thought the documentary was excellent. It summed up how I live day to day with ME/CFS. I cried through the whole thing. I haven’t asked my partner to watch it with me yet because I think he will form some of the ‘outsider’ opinions mentioned above and I’m not sure I am ready to deal with that yet. He sees it every day, but I am hesitant. Maybe in another few months. I watched Gaga’s documentary, too. It is not as focused on her illness, but it shows some extreme moments that were very hard to watch. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. It’s a very powerful film. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 6, 2018 Thank you Carrie! You want to know something strange? I blog quite a bit but my partner has never read any of the posts, and he doesn’t even ‘like’ my FB page lol. I don’t really mind this because the amount of effort he puts into taking care of me on a daily basis is so much more support than a few miserly ‘likes’ and whatnot. What I’m trying to say, I suppose, is that our partners do care for us, although they may express it in very different ways 🙂 I watched a bit of Gaga’s documentary but didn’t finish it…I should get round to that! 😉 - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Mar 6, 2018 I guess it’s not strange because my partner does the same! He does so much for me at home: All the groceries, most of the cooking, all the heavy lifting. The parts of this documentary where Jen Brea is weeping about how useless she feels and what a burden she is to her husband just ripped my heart to pieces. I feel that way all the time. I don’t expect my partner to follow everything, but some things, he just doesn’t know about. He comes to my appointments with me and contributes, but then he’ll say something truly wacko that he hasn’t mentioned to me and that doesn’t have anything to do with what I’m going through. Like once he asked my doctor for Adderall because he read somewhere that it might give me more energy without asking me first. (After that I asked him to run that stuff by me first before he mentions it to my doctor.) I don’t want to get flagged by a comment with someone who is accompanying me on my appointment, even if it is my partner. He reads some of the things I send him, but I think he’s busier taking care of what’s right in front of him than worrying about informative articles. Everything that I have said is going to happen has happened so far and I just wonder if he’s prepared for it: It’s going to get worse, not better. It has gotten worse, not better. Time has proven that over the years. My journal entries prove it. I’m not sure he accepts that yet, even though I’ve already moved into the acceptance phase of this part of my illness. Anyways, this is why I hesitate. I don’t like to overload him. I don’t want our lives to be only about me and what I’m going through. If he was spending as much time as I do looking at online research, he wouldn’t have a life either. He’s not sick, so I try to time these things appropriately. Hospital tomorrow so I’m looking at recovery from the extra energy and blood draws for the next week. Maybe we’ll watch it again in a few weeks when he’s ready for it. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 7, 2018 Heh when I was younger my mum used to follow me for appointments, but we always ended up quarrelling because I’d get frustrated, so I decided to just always go for my appointments alone. It’s less stressful for everyone all round. And yes I also told my partner it would only get worse over time, but he’s an optimistic soul! He says, “well, health research would also advance in the future. Who knows, a cure might just be around the corner.” Which also makes sense, doesn’t it?! As for feeling like a burden – I felt this way a lot with my ex, and he didn’t do anything to reassure me that I wasn’t. But over the years I’ve learned a lot about self-worth and self-esteem, and think my perspective is less self-destructive these days. It did take a long time, though! xx - [ Caz (InvisiblyMe) ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Mar 5, 2018 It was very interesting to hear your views on this (especially the emotiveness of it, as I’m not usually a crier either). I’ve seen a few comments on Unrest, and I think I’m at a point where I’m ready to check it out for myself because curiosity always gets the better of me eventually, for better or worse! Caz xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 5, 2018 Hi Caz, Thanks for dropping by! Definitely, it’s something you would be able to relate to, I’m sure. It’s very powerful, especially when our lives can be so similar in many ways, too. xx - Marla Nolan Mar 4, 2018 I loved it too and I cried! I have chronic fatigue but not to her extent. However everyday it is with me often making me feel as if I’m spinning in to the earth. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 5, 2018 It’s such a relatable film for many of us, huh 🙂 Sending you hugs! xx - Emma England (Not Just Tired) Mar 4, 2018 Really interesting Sheryl. Useful to hear about it from the perspective of a healthy person too. I’ve asked my parents to watch it, but as yet they’ve not got round to it! I probably need to emphasise the importance of it to me, but at the same time I think I’m worried that if they do watch it, they may not give me the reaction I want. Hmm! I cried my eyes out too watching it! xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 4, 2018 Hey Emma, thanks for reading my review 😀 Yes it was very interesting to see their responses, I thought it’d be different, too! So I was thinking to myself, if I want to reach out to this group of society, I need to expand my awareness tactics too. But in terms of relation to the film itself, it was definitely very real and raw for me. I hope your parents watch it with you soon! 🙂 xx - [ Caz (InvisiblyMe) ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Mar 5, 2018 I think the reaction of others, of those that are ‘well’, would be quite daunting for me too, especially where my parents are concerned because I think, underneath everything, I doubt their thoughts of me and what I’m going through (but it’s hard to appreciate and really ‘know’ the struggle with invisible illnesses unless you’ve experienced them yourself). I hope your folks get to see it soon and that maybe it opens a door for talking more openly about what you’re going through too. xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 5, 2018 I think over all, it will help a little as compared to not even watching it at all 🙂 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### March 2018: Sorting My Medications & a Hike Up Little Adam's Peak URL: https://achronicvoice.com/sorting-medications-hike-little-adams-peak-march-2018/ Last updated: 2025-10-29T14:13:59.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Sorting Out All My Medications I've got heaps of medications piled up, expensive 'treats' accumulated from my weekly visits to various doctors. It's time to stop procrastinating, and to start organising them into their own neat caches. Here's my usual routine: throw out expired meds, label the current ones with expiry dates by year, and arrange them into their 'regular' spots. Spare meds are further arranged in the drawers below. Yes, I have an entire cabinet just for storing all my medications. If you're a spoonie, I'm sure this tedious and boring process is familiar to you 😉 *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ![Yes, I have a cabinet just for medications.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/medications-sorting-1-2-1-1-1-1.jpg) Yes, I have a cabinet just for medications. Read Related Posts: - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [The Lowdown on Medications and Antiphospholipid Syndrome (Warfarin, Enoxaparin, DOACs, NSAIDs & More)](https://achronicvoice.com/medications-and-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [How to Maximise Accessibility & Improve Your Quality of Life at Home](https://achronicvoice.com/maximise-accessibility-home/) - [40 People with Chronic Illness Share Their Best Pain Management Tips (What to Do if an Unforeseen Pain Flare Hits)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![March 2018 Prompts: Sorting, Rising, Rejoicing, Reading and Priding](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_prompts_18-03-1-2-1-1-1-1.jpg) ## My Aim to Rise Earlier Every Morning I do notice that I accomplish my best work and am more productive in the early mornings. It's a little strange because I've always been a night owl, so you'd think I'd operate best at night! I guess age is catching up, and chronic illness has a way of affecting your daily energy meter as well. For March, I'm going to try my best to wake early, and hopefully that'll solidify into a habit thereafter. The tricky part is when I get a bad day, which means I can't help but to stay in bed the whole time. This messes up the cycle but hey, this is something I'd like to work on. ## Rejoicing as Piper (My Parrotlet) Lays Her First Egg! We got back from a week in Sri Lanka, only to find Piper crouched on the floor of her cage. So we made her a makeshift nest with one of my [KefenTech](https://kefentech.com/) anti-inflammatory plaster boxes, and found a tiny egg in there the next morning!! It was all very exciting even though I had been trying to prolong this event, as it's not really healthy for them to start so young. She's the baby of the family in terms of age and size, so it's rather endearing. I went to buy her an actual wooden nest box from the pet shop, but she doesn't seem to like it as much as the flimsy KefenTech one 😉 She laid another egg yesterday but unfortunately, it cracked. Let's see how many she'll lay in total, and perhaps I'll get to be a bird granny soon! ![Archer and Piper with their egg.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/baby-bird-new-egg-1-2-1-1-1-1.jpg) Archer and Piper with their egg. ![Piper's first two eggs!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/two-parrotlet-eggs-2-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Piper's first two eggs! ## What I'm Reading in March I actually bought the book, “[The Sound of SCH: A Mental Breakdown, A Life Journey](https://www.ethosbooks.com.sg/products/the-sound-of-sch-a-mental-breakdown-a-life-journey)”, for a friend's Christmas gift, but he already had a copy! (I'll attribute it to knowing my friends' tastes too well 😉) So I took it back as a gift to myself instead 😛 I also brought three books whilst on vacation in Sri Lanka last week: - [The Woman Who Fooled The World: The True Story of Fake Wellness Guru Belle Gibson](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1947534068?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=d8b619c3f6a91492f517c8f23ec336b6&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Royal Road to Fotheringhay: The Story of Mary, Queen of Scots](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0609810235?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=698b0f1da7d28c44f57aaa8c1950a78d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) - [Tears of Salt: A Doctor's Story of the Refugee Crisis](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0393356558?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=0d88ec1e4875f7cbb6b8ee3d63365692&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) Slightly ambitious perhaps, but I did manage to finish reading two of them! Some of these are really gripping stories that you might be interested in - you can find them in the book recommendations listed below. Read Related Posts: - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You’re All Invited, Too!)](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies: Part II](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies-2/) - [Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill: Part III](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-3-chronically-ill/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Book Review: The Narwhal Who Suffers from Chronic Migraines](https://achronicvoice.com/book-review-narwhal-migraines/) ### Sometimes, a Break from Regular Routines Does Wonders Speaking about the trip - I spend too much time on the internet when I'm back home, to the point of unhealthy I'll readily admit. It just seems so normal, because everyone's doing the same. But I also have zero issues being cut off from it whilst overseas, and don't go into withdrawal or anything of the sort. I think it's always a good idea to [**get away from our regular routines**](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) every now and then, for a change in rhythm and perspective. Sometimes by breaking routines, I realise that I didn't actually like what I 'needed' to have in my daily life previously. It's like running a clean up of mental junk! ![Having tea with a good book in the hills of Ella, Sri Lanka](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/fotheringay-ella-tea-1-2-1-1-1-1.jpg) Having tea with a good book in the hills of Ella ![The lush tea hills of Pedro Estate, Sri Lanka](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/tea-hills-ella-1-2-1-1-1-1.jpg) The lush tea hills of Pedro Estate ## Taking Pride in My Hike Up Little Adam's Peak! [Little Adam's Peak](https://www.journeyera.com/little-adams-peak-hike-in-ella-sri-lanka/) is rated an 'easy' hike, but having chronic illnesses complicate things, especially when it comes to physical activity. I fretted about it the night before: "What if the [sun triggers a Lupus flare](https://www.lupus.org/resources/10-truths-about-uv-radiation)?", "What if **I'm** [**having Sjögren aches**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-pain-bearable-not/) and can't come down?", "What if [**my ovaries burst again**](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/), because I'm supposed to keep activity low during ovulation?", "What if...what if...what if?". Yet I knew that it was something I had to do, or regret. ### Becoming More Comfortable in My Own Skin (Though I Looked Ridiculous) I l looked ridiculous wrapped up from head to toe in order to protect myself from the sun (many others were in shorts and flip-flops), but I didn't really care. Compared to many years ago, I've become more comfortable in my own porcelain skin (porcelain in the bad way 😉), and am okay with that. All I wanted to do was get to the top and enjoy the view. It wasn't so bad after all, and I managed to hike up in 40 minutes. I rewarded myself with a delicious cup of coffee (surprise, there's really good coffee in [Ella](https://www.lonelyplanet.com/sri-lanka/the-hill-country/ella)!), a nap, and relaxed for the rest of the day 🙂 ![Hiking up Little Adam’s Peak in Ella, Sri Lanka](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/hiking-little-adams-peak-1-2-1-1-1-1.jpg) Hiking up Little Adam’s Peak in Ella, Sri Lanka ![Cute dog that came to hang out with me at the top of Ella's Peak, Sri Lanka](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/cute-dog-little-adams-peak-1-2-1-1-1-1.jpg) Cute dog that came to hang out with me at the top! Read Related Posts: - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [You Don’t Have to be Strong, Just a Little Stronger Than Before](https://achronicvoice.com/you-dont-have-to-be-strong/) ### More Photos from Our Trip to Sri Lanka Here are a few more photos of our trip to Sri Lanka, I hope you enjoy them! ![Beautiful tea hills in Ella, Sri Lanka](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pano-ella-sri-lanka-1-2-1-1-1-1.jpg) Beautiful tea hills in Ella, Sri Lanka ![Delicious home made breakfast at our home stay in Sri Lanka](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/delicious-breakfast-sri-lanka-1-2-1-1-1-1.jpg) Delicious home made breakfast at our home stay! ![Lunch by Gregory Lake, Ella.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/gregory-lake-ella-1-2-1-1-1-1.jpg) Lunch by Gregory Lake in Ella ![Railway tracks at Ella](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/ella-railway-tracks-1-2-1-1-1-1.jpg) Railway tracks at Ella ![The beautiful Nine Arches Bridge in Ella](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/nine-arches-bridge-1-2-1-1-1-1.jpg) The beautiful Nine Arches Bridge in Ella ![Beautiful flowers adorning the path to our Bnb in Nuwara Eliya.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/flowers-path-kent-cottage-nuwara-eliya-1-2-1-1-1-1.jpg) Beautiful flowers adorning the path to our Bnb in Nuwara Eliya ![A cup of weak coffee in the garden, Nuwara Eliya](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/coffee-kent-cottage-nuwara-eliya-1-2-1-1-1-1.jpg) A cup of weak coffee in the garden Thank you for reading my March 2018 entry! [**Continue with April 2018 here**](https://achronicvoice.com/marvelling-miracle-of-life-splurging-birthday-april-2018/), or read last month's entry, [**February 2018**](https://achronicvoice.com/adapting-ebb-flow-chronic-pain-depression-february-2018/). ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [January 2018: Reflections on My Refreshing Holiday in Australia](https://achronicvoice.com/reflections-refreshing-holiday-in-australia-january-2018/) - [Winter Fun, Games & Pain with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-fun-chronic-illness/) - [Coming Alive in the Winter Air (Pushing for Personal Changes & Group Advocacy)](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-advocacy/) - [A Hurried Return, but Chronic Illness’s Opening Hours Remain Unchanged](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-opening-hours/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Emma England (Not Just Tired) Mar 24, 2018 Great to read these Sheryl and oh my goodness I just love your photos! Looks like a fantastic trip xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 24, 2018 Thanks Emma, it was a good break! ? Hope you’re doing well x - Miss H E Smith Mar 14, 2018 Hey Sheryl! I loved thisN and all your pictures are amazing ? I’m going to do mine today! How are you? Xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Mar 14, 2018 Hi Hannah! Thank you so much! <3 I'm doing good. Can you believe it that I'm elated because I spent 'only' 40 mins waiting for the doc today? Usually it takes 2 - 4h. Us spoonies must be weirdos 😉 Sending hugs and can't wait to read yours!! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### February 2018: Adapting to the Ebb & Flow of Chronic Pain and Depression URL: https://achronicvoice.com/adapting-ebb-flow-chronic-pain-depression-february-2018/ Last updated: 2026-01-08T14:35:52.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Adapting to the Ebb and Flow of Chronic Pain You’d think that after all this time, I would have gotten used to it by now, but no. It’s a little like sitting on a plane when an extreme bout of turbulence strikes - many people still get anxious no matter how frequent of a flier they are. [**My body was kind to me last month**](https://achronicvoice.com/reflections-refreshing-holiday-in-australia-january-2018/) over the holidays, and for that I am grateful. This week I am back in bed with a flare up, and felt a little disappointed as I thought that I could try cutting down [**my steroid medications**](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) again. It’s funny how you never really get used to the turbulence. But I must say that I've also learned a lot about myself, and [**expanded my coping strategies**](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-management-tips-pain-flare/) over the years. Insights from mental health professionals, friends, and writing helps me a great deal. I may not know when this flare will subside, but that's okay. I'll just hang onto my hat, sit back, and wait for this storm to pass. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Read Related Posts: - [Best Tips for Preventing a Pain Flare (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/prevent-pain-flare/) - [7 Proven Strategies to Stay Resilient No Matter What Happens (from A to G)](https://achronicvoice.com/strategies-stay-resilient/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [The Chronic Pain Cycle & How to Break It (Top Tips From an Occupational Therapist)](https://achronicvoice.com/break-chronic-pain-cycle-occupational-therapist-tips/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![February 2018 Prompts: Adapting, Practicing, Realising, Celebrating and Inviting](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_prompts_18-02-2-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ## Practising My Relaxation Skills Or non-existent relaxation skills, to be precise. I admit to being a bit of a worrywart, and tend to overanalyse things. Whilst this has been my best coping strategy so far, it isn't ideal for all situations. It's like chopping vegetables with a giant saw - there's no need for that, I should swap my tools if I want to be more productive. Your gut instincts are a different sort of intelligence, and ought to get a chance to speak as well. Besides, [overanalysis can lead to decision paralysis](https://markmanson.net/analysis-paralysis), and where's the good in that? Hence, I'm viewing the flare ups as an opportunity to practice letting go, and to be okay with the fact that I'll need to rearrange all my plans. I realise that the disappointment I feel from my self-imposed targets originates from the ego. So in a strange way, I'm glad for this roadblock and time to reflect. Read Related Posts: - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [2018 September Prompts: Reconnecting, Confessing, Relaxing, Romanticising & Sharing](https://achronicvoice.com/reconnecting-friends-family-sharing-social-media-september-2018/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) ## Realising That My Motivation Is Kind Of Back! Whilst my motivation levels have been deflated due to medication changes, there has been an overall improvement of late. Seems like that vortioxetine my psychiatrist wanted to try in a final attempt did the trick. Call me naïve, but I didn't really think that medications could help with motivation, or that depression could affect it so much. For a while we wondered if my psychological symptoms - brain fog and the lack of motivation - were caused by the [Lupus, which can affect your central nervous system](https://www.lupus.org/resources/how-lupus-affects-the-nervous-system) as well. There are no tests to diagnose this, so it's done through a process of elimination (differential diagnosis). Since the medications are making a difference, it seems like the cause is due to my anxiety and depression. These mental issues are side effects of the steroids I take to control my Lupus - do you see the irony here? Unfortunately, this scenario is all too common for people with chronic illnesses. Read Related Posts: - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - [Depression After Knee Surgery & How to Cope](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-after-knee-surgery/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) ## Celebrating Chinese New Year (CNY) You could consider it the Chinese version of Christmas, in the sense that it's the biggest family event of the year, and lots of 'presents' are given in the form of red packets. My grandma used to live in an old flat in a Malay neighbourhood, and it was so much fun to gather there to celebrate events. She had 10 children and only two rooms, so the girls and boys slept on mattresses in separate rooms. The toilet was run down (frankly it was gross), and you needed to climb over a dangerous ledge to switch TV channels. But what I wouldn't trade to have that cosy little house back again. Environments possess their own ambience, which in turn affect your mood. It's a good reminder that it's never a waste to invest in my personal living space. Also, that it's just as important to [**get in touch with the outside world**](https://achronicvoice.com/keeping-up-despite-pain/) and with nature. ## Inviting More Joy Into My Life I believe that what goes round comes around, so the best way to do this is to give more of myself. I also want to put myself out there a little bit more, and push open the gaps of mundaneness in order to create breathing space. I am not saying that routines are lifeless; they do serve a purpose and can be a source of joy as well. But I think it's always a good idea to mix things up a bit, lest we become too rigid, and lose our greatest capability - the ability to adapt. We might take a short trip somewhere over the CNY holidays, and [**travelling is always a joy**](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/), isn't it? At least it is for me 🙂 I also want to try and meet more people, be it for work, play or coffee. I may enjoy my solitude, but I know that being uncomfortable once in awhile for the right reasons can also bring about joy, even if the effects aren't immediate. Thank you for catching up with me for February 2018! You can [**read on with March 2018 here**](https://achronicvoice.com/sorting-medications-hike-little-adams-peak-march-2018/)**.** ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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Read Related Posts: - [December 2017: Recovering from a Cold & Reminiscing My Childhood in Hong Kong](https://achronicvoice.com/recovering-from-cold-reminiscing-childhood-hong-kong-december-2017/) - [#projChronicWisdom: Simple Pleasures I Can Enjoy While Stuck in Bed with Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/projchronicwisdom-simple-pleasures-enjoy-pain/) - [Find Your Way Back to Happiness with a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/find-happiness-chronic-illness/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness and Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [November 2018: Meeting and Collaborating with Chronically Ill People in Real Life](https://achronicvoice.com/meeting-collaborating-chronically-ill-real-life-november-2018/) ### The Greatest Battle of My Life: How I Overcame Addiction URL: https://achronicvoice.com/overcame-addiction/ Last updated: 2026-05-17T09:15:48.000Z ## An Introduction to Tim of “Sober Nation”, and His Struggles with Addiction I was happy when Tim of [Sober Nation](https://sobernation.com/) approached me and wanted to write a guest post. I'm unfamiliar with addiction as a disease, and knew that he was the right person to share about this issue. We often don't realise that we're addicted until it's too late. We also tend to think of addiction in the form of hard drugs or illegal items, but it can come in many forms. As Tim mentions, alcohol can be the bigger struggle just because it's easier to obtain. Anyone can be affected, not just those who have suffered from neglect or abuse. This is especially heartbreaking when loved ones watch how it destroys you and your life. Let's hear Tim's story, and also how and why he chooses to stay sober. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the author(s)' personal experiences as patient(s). *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Overcoming Addiction & Life Experience Boards: ![The Greatest Battle of My Life: How I Overcame Addiction. Guest post by: Tim Stoddart of “Sober Nation”.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/how-overcame-addiction-greatest-battle-life-tim-stoddart-sober-nation.jpg) ## The Struggle with Addiction is Real Before I found myself in this place, there were so many things I didn’t understand about this disease - and yes, it is a disease. I was miserable and struggling to survive each day as an addict. Little did I know that my greatest battle was still ahead. At this point, you may want to hear that I had a childhood filled with neglect and abuse. You may want to hear that I was nothing like you. In truth, I had a rather uneventful childhood filled with love. My parents were good people who wanted the best for my sister and me. My biggest complaint was that I didn’t see my dad enough because he was always working. ## The Vague Road to Addiction My family life didn’t drive me to addiction. It’s hard to say what did, really. If I had to pick one thing, I’d say it was [social anxiety](https://socialanxietyinstitute.org/what-is-social-anxiety). I smoked pot for the first time when I was 12, and got arrested at 15\. I was busted for underaged drinking at a Weezer concert, but it didn't faze me in the least. It was at the court-mandated rehab that I realized the root of my problem: I was self-medicating. Those meetings terrified me. I needed to be high just to get through the social interaction, introduce myself, and talk about why I was there. In front of an entire room of people? Yeah, no thanks. Instead of seeking help for my problem, I figured that I could use drugs to get through all my social situations. Addiction wasn't my intent, I just wanted to get through that next meeting, class, party, etc. Time marched on and I tried every drug you can imagine. I enjoyed all of them but when I tried opiates, I felt like I was home. The sense of euphoria you get from them is like nothing else, and it didn’t take long before I was addicted. Opiates consume you quickly, and I changed from an experimental kid to an addict. I had a disease that completely consumed me. Read Related Posts: - [What’s it Like to be the Mother of a Sick Child? (Precious Insights from My Own Mum)](https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/) - [What’s it Like to be the Father of a Child with Chronic Illness? (Precious Insights from My Own Dad!)](https://achronicvoice.com/father-of-child-with-chronic-illness/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) - [4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/) ## How I Become Aware that I Needed to Overcome Addiction I was lying in bed with my eyes glued open, waiting for 5 a.m. when I could meet my dealer for another fix. My heart was dying, and sleep was no longer an option for me. You'd think that that was my rock bottom if you saw me back then, but it wasn’t. I received a call later that day about my mom that almost sobered me straight up. Almost. Seemingly out of nowhere, she got the news that she had a fatal brain disorder. She needed an emergency surgery or she would die. The surgery itself was so risky that it might be what kills her instead. My entire family and I left Philly for California to be by her side. I was there in body, but I was struggling to get through each moment. Without any drugs, I was having very obvious withdrawal symptoms. It got to a point where I couldn’t handle dealing with them and my family at the same time. I knew that what I was doing was wrong, and hated myself for it. ## Entering a Phase of Rehabilitation & Relapse My dad and uncle confronted me as soon as we got home. Hearing what they had to say truly affected me to my core. After seeing my mom in the state that she was in, and realizing how my circumstances were also dire, I knew that something had to change. The next day, I entered rehab - and a whole new chapter in my life. After treatment, I moved to a halfway house in Florida, but relapsed after five months when I returned home. There were too many triggers for me there. You’d be surprised at what can trigger an addict. It could be a place, a person or even a smell. Do you remember the story of Pavlov’s dogs? Pavlov discovered that his dogs would salivate at any object or event that they associated with food. This is similar with addicts. Whenever we’re around anything that reminds us of drugs, we start to crave for them. I knew I had to get out of Philly, so I returned to Florida where I continued the greatest battle of my life. Read Related Posts: - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [Is Seeking Help for Your Mental Health Worth It?](https://achronicvoice.com/mental-health-worth-it/) - [What it Feels Like to be Refused Treatment by a Hospital’s A&E / ER](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) - [How Many Times Can You Hit Rock Bottom with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/rock-bottom/) - [My Second Brush with Death: A Broken Heart (Literally)](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) ## Things that Helped in My Recovery from Addiction Over time, I’ve learned a lot of ways to ensure that I don’t relapse and tumble down that slippery slope. One thing that has been the biggest help to me is stability. It was tough at first, remaining in a job that I hated, but it gave me something to stick to that wasn’t killing me. Eventually, I grew to love the routine and the small pleasures that it brought, one of them being the knowledge that each day was a better one, now that I was clean and recovering. Another thing that really helped me stay clean was the knowledge that my family loves and cares about me. I’ve always known that they love me, but seeing my mother in the hospital and how emotional my father and uncle were about my addictions, really brought the truth home to me. It all seemed to click. Now, I turn to my family instead of drugs or the bottle when things get tough. Having that support system has been crucial to my recovery. Read Related Posts: - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [What’s it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [The Road to Recovery is the Longest of Them All](https://achronicvoice.com/road-to-recovery-longest/) - [My Recovery Time for Simultaneous Bilateral Patellar Tendon Rupture (With Lupus & Steroid Treatment)](https://achronicvoice.com/recovery-time-for-simultaneous-bilateral-patellar-tendon-rupture/) ## The Freedom I Have Gained from Being Sober Despite this, I still encounter triggers in Florida. Even though opioids were my ultimate downfall, alcohol is a major trigger for me. Why? Well, it’s much easier to avoid heroin dealers than it is to avoid bartenders. In recovery, I learned [how dangerous alcohol can be](https://sobernation.com/3-reasons-why-alcohol-is-actually-the-most-dangerous-drug/). It’s definitely more mainstream than heroin or crack, but it’s just as deadly. I didn’t come this far to let alcohol take me down. Even though I still struggle with triggers, anxiety and stress, I love my sober life. I wake up in my own bed every morning, which is something that didn’t happen often enough in the past. I don’t let fear hold me back. Instead, I enjoy the strength that sobriety has given to me. I am now strong enough to let myself fail and get back up without resorting to drugs. I try to see the beauty in all things, but most importantly, I am finally free. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [Suffering with a Rare Disease, Isaac Syndrome, as Told from a Male Perspective](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-isaacs-syndrome/) - [Clinical Depression: Diagnosed 10 Years Late](https://achronicvoice.com/depression-diagnosed-late/) - ["It's in My Blood": Roy George - A Dramatic Life with a Short Bowel](https://achronicvoice.com/roy-george-dramatic-life-short-bowel/) - [Call Me Sick Girl (Or How to Make Your Weakness Your Strength)](https://achronicvoice.com/sick-girl-make-weakness-strength/) Pin to Your Addiction, Sobriety & Chronic Disease Boards: ![The Greatest Battle of My Life: How I Overcame Addiction](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/pin_addiction.jpg) **Contributor Bio:** ![Tim Stoddard headshot](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/tim-stoddart_crop-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Tim Stoddart is the co-founder and current president of [Sober Nation](https://sobernation.com/). Tim is a big believer in the power of thought, positive living, health, and kindness. A recovering addict and admitted adrenaline junky, Tim has found new and healthier ways to fill the void. He gives credit for his “spiritual awakening” to his loving family and reading thought-provoking books. You can find him on: [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/SoberNation/), [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/sobernation/), [Youtube](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2YTq3PhakkSYbOdSh6h1ow) & [Twitter](https://twitter.com/sober%5Fnation). ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Joey ](https://www.charterharleystreet.com/) Sep 11, 2018 I really appreciate your efforts and becoming sober. I know it is the most difficult thing to do when you are completely addict. My brother was a hard drug addict, and I know how hard it is to go through the journey of becoming sober. Thank you for sharing this. Keep up the good work. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Sep 11, 2018 Hi Joey, thank you for sharing your thoughts too, it must be hard especially with someone as close as your brother. You can contact Tim who wrote this article here: sobernation.com am sure he will be glad to hear from you. In the meantime, I wish you and your family well. - Marya Jan 30, 2018 Hey from an another sober spoonie! Thanks for sharing your story. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 31, 2018 That’s awesome to hear from you, too 😀 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don't Always Have to Fear the Unknown URL: https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/ Last updated: 2026-05-05T16:27:06.000Z ## Do You Have a Plan for the Future? Can You Even Have One When Chronic Illness is Unpredictable? What’s your plan for retirement? Does nothing concrete come to mind? What about in 10 years, or maybe just five? What about tomorrow, or this evening? I admit to drawing a blank in my mind to most of these questions. As someone who lives with chronic illnesses, life’s just more unpredictable than it’s already reputed to be. So what do we do? Everyone has a life plan; isn’t that supposed to be important? It’s [**easy to spiral down into despair**](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/), frustration and self-loathing when we can’t plan for and reach these standard milestones in life. Everyone seems to be adulting, while it feels like you’re just some helpless kid. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Read Related Posts: - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [I Have No Purpose in Life, and Therein Lies My Life Purpose](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/) - [A String of Bad Days (and What Happened When That Good Day Finally Came Along)](https://achronicvoice.com/bad-days-good-day-finally-came/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Life Lesson Boards: ![Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-but-dont-have-fear-unknown.jpg) ## The Frustration of the Unpredictable Chronic Illness Life The only steady companion throughout my journey thus far is fear; how can it not be when pain and uncertainty fills your days? It’s natural as human beings to seek out some sort of stability in life. To have a broken boat for a permanent home is stressful. My eyes are always on the horizon [watching out for the next storm that I know will come](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/my-inner-child-and-the-angry-girl). It’s just a matter of “when”. Surrounding me is a vast expanse of gloomy unknown, with hidden predators lurking beneath. My life definitely comes with higher chances of unpredictability. Yet the average person's life can also change in an instant, and sometimes in even bigger ways. As much as I fear the days of my “retirement”, I must say that I’ve made it through life pretty okay so far. I have supportive people to thank for this, but the decisions I’ve made, and the struggles I’ve endured have played a part, too. ## Do Not Become Your Own Biggest Obstacle Life has a sense of humour and wisdom beyond feeble mortal reasoning. Dealing with pain is hard enough work as it is, without the added stress of over-expectations and self-imposed rules. I find it helpful to [**redefine my expectations**](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/)according to my current capacity and not someone else’s, if I am to begin living a fulfilling life at all. In a bid to remove as many obstacles along my path as possible, I need to be careful of not becoming my own biggest hindrance. It is a constant process of learning how to take down these self-erected barriers of guilt and blame. Padding my shoes with self-care is essential for going further. Life is a marathon, yet I often forget to keep myself hydrated with self-belief. Looking at the lanes to my left and right aren’t helpful either – how does it help with my journey forward? > *“There are plenty of difficult obstacles in your path. Don’t allow yourself to become one of them.” – Ralph Marston* Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [The Barriers That Throw Rocks into My Bucket List with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/bucket-list-chronic-illness/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness and Pain Can Co-Exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) - [How Many Times Can You Hit Rock Bottom with Chronic Illness?](https://achronicvoice.com/rock-bottom/) - [Why Fear is Self Harm, and How to Get Back Up](https://achronicvoice.com/why-fear-is-self-harm/) ## There is No Right or Wrong Way to Live Your Own Life Another point I’d like to highlight is that there’s [**more than one way to live your life**](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/). There are billions of people on this planet, and every single one of us has variable ideas of what a good life looks like. In fact, you might not even agree with a majority of these views. Some people call life a journey, some call it a dream, an art, or even a joke. I think it’s a combination of them all; life is what I want it to be. We all have our own balls to juggle no matter who we are. But living with chronic illness is like having more balls to juggle, or doing so with an injured hand. It can be tough but I have to try, and it will get better with practice. ## There is Magic in the Unknown, Too Sometimes, to not know where I’m going to end up can be a pleasant surprise, too. It adds a bit of magic to the journey, and spices things up. It can create extraordinary memories that are worth remembering. It also fills the gaping holes of drab routines with the colours of meaning. What I fill these holes with is up to me – there is no right or wrong way to colour. But I want to encourage you to take life by the hand and let her lead the way, because she will never lead you astray. > *“There are plenty of difficult obstacles in your path. Don’t allow yourself to become one of them.” – Ralph Marston* > *“Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson* ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [Finding Your Self Behind the Illness (Your Story Isn't Over Yet)](https://achronicvoice.com/finding-self-behind-illness/) - [Every Next Level of Your Life Will Demand a Different You](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Carrie Kellenberger ](https://myseveralworlds.com) Apr 12, 2021 A very easy thing to do – fear the unknown. Since turning 46, I really feel the pressure to get my life plan in order. I’ve always planned for retirement but after getting sick, I had to dip into savings to get through things. Now my med costs are so high, I’m not putting back nearly enough money for retirement and that terrifies me. I have a plan and was able to put back what I had to take out, but the older I get, the worse my fears become. If something happens to my husband, I’m in deep doo-doo! All I can do is keep on going and keep trying to sock away as much as possible. We’re pretty much decided now on staying settled in Taiwan now. That idea was still up in the air this time last year. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 15, 2021 Definitely… I think lots of us with chronic pain and illness have similar thoughts and fears especially in regards to retirement and aging parents, etc. The future is a frightening place, but like my mum says, one day at a time. And I do believe that as humans, we are wired to survive 🙂 - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Apr 10, 2021 It’s so easy to fear the unknown, watching out for a flare to come along isn’t it. I’ve tried hard over the years to be more measured with it, and not let it hold me back from doing things I enjoy. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Apr 15, 2021 Yes, especially once you’re out of a recent, major flare. You just don’t want to go back to that deep, dark, depressive place again. I hope you gain strength and immerse yourself in beauty daily! - [ Pippit ](https://www.PatientsRightsAdvocate.com) Jan 23, 2018 Sometimes it can be hard to know what to plan. I find alot of short-term planning is good. Sometimes I have to change it depending on how I’m feeling on a particular day but it is inspiring to find things to look forward to. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 25, 2018 Yes almost impossible really with chronic illness. Short-term planning works for some, and I’m glad it works for you! x - Emma England (Not Just Tired) Jan 16, 2018 Great post Sheryl! I like the title! I definitely have to be careful not to become my own biggest obstacle. I’m definitely getting better at getting out of my own way, but it is a constant learning curve in remembering to let go of guilt, worry etc! I love how you say there is magic in the unknown. I most definitely agree! ? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 17, 2018 Hi Emma, Thank you so much! I’m glad to hear you are mindful about your own journey, it can be such a difficult thing to do 😉 Yes I tend to want to control certain things, so that’s a constant reminder for myself 😉 x **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### January 2018: Reflections on My Refreshing Holiday in Australia URL: https://achronicvoice.com/reflections-refreshing-holiday-in-australia-january-2018/ Last updated: 2026-01-08T14:00:50.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Reflecting on My Refreshing Aussie Holiday I spent 2 weeks visiting the western region of Australia, before joining my partner's family for Christmas. It was a ball of a time, watching all the kids rip open their presents. Their energy and joy was pure, infectious, and also very exhausting 😉 They were definitely the highlight of the trip, and the main reason I wanted to go. Perth and Margaret River had a relaxed vibe with lovely beaches, and we even got to hang out with some adorable quokkas! I will do another separate blog post about this, with tips on road tripping and wine touring as a spoonie, so keep an eye out for that! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ![A cute quokka on Rottnest Island](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/quokka.jpg) A cute quokka on Rottnest Island ![A gorgeous day at Yallingup Beach, Australia](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/yallingup-beach.jpg) A gorgeous day at Yallingup Beach ## Aiming for More 'Normality' in Life Yes I know, there's no such thing as 'normal' — [**I even wrote a whole post about that here**](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/). What I mean in regards to this prompt is my hope for more consistency in my life this year. As we know, that's not so easy with the [**unpredictability of chronic illness**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/), so all we can do is aim and try! For starters, I'd like to seek out and take up more work again. And with everything I've learned from reading and blogging, I'd like to step into that with more awareness of my limits and self-worth. Beyond earning an income, I want to seek out balance in other areas of my life too; a tug against chronic illness so that life stays tight — hopefully without snapping of course 🙂 ## Expanding What This Blog has to Offer I have plans underway for a small online shop, which will include e-books, art, apparel and maybe a blogging course as well. *\*shameless plug\** Do support me if you can! 😄 I would like to focus on health, wellness and [**chronic illness blogs**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-bloggers-top-posts-2020/), in hopes that more 'chronic voices' will be heard, amidst the din of social media. As they say, every voice counts. These are just ideas in my head that have yet to be fleshed out, and I'm looking forward to turning them into reality, bit by bit as 2018 unfolds. ## Focussing More on Self-Discipline in the New Year We've all read articles on the importance and benefits of self-care and self-compassion. Whilst I still think they're important, at times having more self-discipline can also be beneficial for our overall well-being. For example, I could heat up a simple bowl of bone broth for dinner even if I'm unwell, as opposed to ordering Deliveroo/GrabFood. And I definitely need to [**work on my sleep hygiene**](https://achronicvoice.com/wasting-time-sleep/), which will naturally increase the possibility of a good day ahead. [This is an excellent article that explains why true self-care can be hard work](https://thoughtcatalog.com/brianna-wiest/2024/04/this-is-what-self-care-really-means-because-its-not-all-salt-baths-and-chocolate-cake-2/), too. ## Refreshing My Mind Through Books I always have plans to read, but allow myself to get distracted. My recent trip was a wonderful reminder that it's possible to simply sit, read and soak up the present moment. Having less access to the internet always helps 😉 One of the best ways to improve my writing and stimulate my mind is to [**read a wider variety of books**](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/). I have come to realise that there's not really a better or worse genre; they all contribute to stretching our imagination and thus, our minds. Doing so encourages flexibility, empathy, humility and intelligence in its various manifestations. Thank you for reading about my chronic illness life in January 2018\. [**Continue with February 2018 here**](https://achronicvoice.com/adapting-ebb-flow-chronic-pain-depression-february-2018/), or read last month's entry, [**December 2017**](https://achronicvoice.com/recovering-from-cold-reminiscing-childhood-hong-kong-december-2017/). ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [March 2018: Sorting My Medications & a Hike Up Little Adam's Peak](https://achronicvoice.com/sorting-medications-hike-little-adams-peak-march-2018/) - [Winter Fun, Games & Pain with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-fun-chronic-illness/) - [33 Reasons Why I Don't Let Multiple Sclerosis Prevent Me from Living a Normal Life](https://achronicvoice.com/dont-let-multiple-sclerosis-prevent-normal-life/) - ["It's in My Blood": Sarah Poitras — Travelling Around the World with a Lung Disease](https://achronicvoice.com/sarah-poitras-travelling-world-lung-disease/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life & Travel Boards: ![Throwback to Jan 2018 — Reflections on My Refreshing Holiday in Australia](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/reflections-refreshing-holiday-australia-january-2018.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Leidamarie Tirado-Lee Jan 28, 2018 OMGoodness that quokka pic!!! It is one of the cutest things I have ever seen. Glad you were able to have such an enjoyable trip. Also, wishing you all the best in your upcoming 2018 which sounds like you have a lot of plans for. Like you, one of my goals is to grow by reading more kinds of books. If you come across any good ones, let me know. I’ll do the same! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 28, 2018 Hehe…it was certainly very cute!! Plans get dashed all the time especially with chronic illness, but let’s try hey 🙂 And yes! I actually have a post idea for books coming up soon. I will let you know when it’s out 🙂 Take care! - [ Chronically Hopeful Char ](https://chronicallyhopeful.com) Jan 11, 2018 I look forward to taking part in the link up again this month, was a bit late submitting my entry last month. Your holiday sounds like much fun! Those little critters are adorable. I grew up in South Africa so also had summertime Christmas at the coast. Very different here in Europe, though! Your goals for the new year sound so exciting, I have similar plans which I hope to put into practice this year… I’m a mix of excitement and fear at the moment. Must be brave! Wishing you all the best! - Terri, Reclaiming Hope Jan 11, 2018 Your vacation sounds fabulous Sheryl, and I just love the little quokka.? It sounds like you have a busy, productive year ahead of you. All the best to you – I can’t wait to see your expanded blog! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 11, 2018 It certainly was. Most importantly, it truly refreshed and motivated me 🙂 Yes the quokkas were so tame (not sure that’s a good thing!) that we could even pet them! Yes I am going to expand it, but I also need to be careful not to overdo as – you know how it goes 😉 Wishing you a wonderful year ahead too my friend! xx - [ Sue Jackson ](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/) Jan 4, 2018 Some very worthy goals for 2018! I’ve always thought it would be strange to have Christmas in the summer down in Oz, but I have to admit it is sounding good right now – we’ve had temps well below zero for weeks now! Self-discipline is not my problem – just the opposite in fact! I tend to push myself past my limits, thinking I “must” get things done – I need to work on listening to my body and taking better care of myself. Good luck with your goals for your blog this year – I also hope to write an e-book! Sue [Living with ME/CFS ](https://livewithcfs.blogspot.com/) - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 4, 2018 I still find it strange to have a ‘summer’ Christmas, even though I live in Singapore, which is summer year round 😉 I grew up in Hong Kong and loved the seasons, even though there wasn’t any snow. It just adds much more ambience to events! I wish you all the best for your ebook and 2018, too! x - Kathy Jan 4, 2018 Your Aussie holiday sounds and looks wonderful! Aiming for more consistency and self-care in the new year are worthy goals. I’m interested to see how your blog evolves over the new year, Sheryl. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 4, 2018 Thanks for your constant support, Kathy! It’s all I can do – aim 😉 Doesn’t matter if I reach them or not, but I just want to at least try. Take care and all the best for your new changes in 2018 too x - Emma England (Not Just Tired) Jan 3, 2018 Great responses Sheryl! Your trip to Oz sounds fab! I loved my time there in my backpacking days! You have some great goals for 2018 and I wish you all the very best! xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 3, 2018 Thank you Emma! You’ll have to share with me about your backpacking days – good old glorious and young days that seem like ages ago 😉 Wishing you all the best in 2018 too…I’ll be around! 😉 xx - Nikki Jan 3, 2018 I was reflecting on the unpredictability of chronic illness… but because of unpredictable symptoms arising recently that I need to adapt to. Not a good beginning to the year for me so far. Such is life. I am also refreshing my mind through books, on days I can read that is… lately that is a bit of an issue for me. But I got some great books for Christmas on my list I Want to read. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 3, 2018 Hi Nikki, I know what you mean…I’ve had bad beginnings to new years too, as those of us with chronic illness are prone to unfortunately 🙁 I truly hope it improves for you, such that you’ll go out of 2018 with a big bang in the positive sense! Bit by bit, it’s all we can do. I’m thinking of you x - Tanya Jan 2, 2018 It sounds like you have some good goals for 2018! I’m glad you had a good Christmas! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 3, 2018 Thank you Tanya! Just bits and pieces that I’m trying to pick up from 2017 😉 x - Sarah Jan 2, 2018 I so enjoy reading your writing – your thoughtfulness and insights always resonate with me. I think I’ll give this month’s link-up/prompts a shot myself! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 2, 2018 Thank you Sarah, I appreciate the comment! 😀 Would be super awesome to have you on board this month! Happy New Year! xx - [ Caz ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Jan 2, 2018 An online shop sounds fab! I think your goals and ideas for the year are fantastic – you’ve helped encourage me to start thinking about my own as I’ve put off thinking about the new year until now..! Wishing you all the best for a productive yet healthy, happy and positive 2018! 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jan 2, 2018 Hi Caz, Thank you, and I’m really glad I helped in some small way or another! Wishing you a healthy, happy and meaningful new year too! x **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### “It’s in My Blood”: Bree Dixon — Paris Je T’aime, Even with Chronic Pain URL: https://achronicvoice.com/bree-dixon-paris-je-taime-chronic-pain/ Last updated: 2026-05-13T07:27:26.000Z ## Featuring Bree Dixon of “3 Sisters Abroad” Bree enjoys travelling, especially with her two sisters, and her blog has some lovely pictures of the adventurous trio! She fell in love with Paris at first sight, and loves visiting Europe in general. She also has an interest in photography, and combines them with her passion for writing on her blog. Back at home, she spends lots of time with her beloved dogs, eating clean, and also appreciates a good TV show or two. Let’s check her out! 😉 *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the author(s)' personal experiences as patient(s). All images provided by Bree Dixon and included in this post are used with her permission. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![“It’s In My Blood”: Bree Dixon — Paris Je T’aime, Even with Chronic Pain. A series featuring people with chronic illness, their passions, and talents. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/bree-dixon-paris-je-t-aime-even-chronic-pain-its-in-my-blood-series-people-chronic-illness-passions-talents.jpg) --- **Bree Lives with the Following Chronic Illnesses**: - [Tuberous Sclerosis](https://ghr.nlm.nih.gov/condition/tuberous-sclerosis-complex) - [Lymphangiomyomatosis](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/16022-lymphangioleiomyomatosis-lam) (LAM lung disease) - [Thyroid disease – Hashimoto’s](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/hashimotos-disease/symptoms-causes/syc-20351855) - [High blood pressure](https://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/high-blood-pressure) - [Fibromyalgia](https://www.niams.nih.gov/health-topics/fibromyalgia) - [Meniere’s Disease](https://www.nidcd.nih.gov/health/menieres-disease) - [Osteoporosis](https://www.niams.nih.gov/health-topics/osteoporosis) - [Rheumatoid Arthritis](https://www.arthritis.org/diseases/rheumatoid-arthritis) [Learn more about her experiences living with these chronic conditions on her blog](https://3sistersabroad.wordpress.com/). --- ![Bree’s beloved dogs, Sally and Betty](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/bree-dixon-dogs-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Bree’s beloved dogs, Sally and Betty [Want to be featured too? Click here to sign up!](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood/) ## More About Bree Dixon’s Beloved Dogs - **How many and what sort of dogs do you have?** I have two dogs, Sally who is nearly 4 years old, and Betty who is just over 1\. Sally is a kelpie/dingo and Betty is a purebred kelpie. - **Are they your first pets? If not, what were your first pets?** No not my first pets. I grew up in a household of cats, dogs, chickens, kangaroos and birds. My very first pets that I would call my own were Gene and Beth. They lived until they were 11 and 12 respectively. Gene passed away in 2015, and Beth 2016\. They were sisters and blue healer x kelpies. - **How are your dogs like in terms of temperament? Are they very different?** They are the best dogs. They love to run and play but they also love to take naps ? Kelpies are bred to round up cattle and sheep, so they go and go and then stop. - **Do you or have you ever owned any other pets apart from dogs?** Yes my daughter had cats or still has cats. At one stage we had five cats and a muma cat. - **Why do you like dogs as pets the best?** Dogs are just so faithful. They love you no matter what and will protect you. - **Any cute quirks?** Yes lots. Betty comes inside for a nap when we say “nap”. She will also lay down if we say “feet”, to have them cleaned from the mud if it has been raining. Sally will dob on Betty when the elderly neighbour comes over to give them treats. Betty will also bring you the tissue you left on the floor as she tries to chew it. - **How do they affect your life in terms of wellbeing?** Pat a dog and you instantly calm down. They love to go for walks so it helps with my health to take them for walks every day. - **What about your physical lifestyle? Are they a lot of work to care for?** I find dogs easy to look after. Feed them, walk them, love them, and they give back 10 fold. - **Anything interesting or insightful about these breeds of dogs that’s not commonly cited in books and resources?** A lot of books say these dogs need lots of exercise. I agree to a point, but if I am unable to take them for a walk to the dog park or the beach, they are happy to play in the backyard. - **What sort of owners would be the perfect fit for these dogs?** People who are home a lot. They can get into trouble easily, chewing, etc, if left alone. - **Why did you specifically pick these dogs out of so many out there?** They are loyal dogs, very intelligent, plus we always get our pets from rescue groups. - **What should one be prepared for if they want to own dogs like yours?** Loving caring dogs who will always be your friend and companion. Read Related Posts: - [Why I Moved from SiteGround to Cloudways (and Couldn’t be Happier). Plus Cute Puppy Pics & A New Pacing Strategy.](https://achronicvoice.com/moved-from-siteground-to-cloudways/) - [A Car Accident & A Song Gone Silent (How Life Lessons from Chronic Illness Tide Me Through)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-life-lessons-accident-bird/) Read Related Posts: - [The Way My Dog, Talisker, Brings Me Joy](https://achronicvoice.substack.com/p/the-way-my-dog-talisker-brings-me) ![Out and about in Paris](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/bree-dixon-paris-architecture-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Out and about in Paris ## More About Bree Dixon’s Love for Writing & Reading - **You’re writing a novel, wow! What’s that roughly about?** Ooo now that would be telling. It’s about 3 sisters who travel and what they get up to! - **What’s your writing style like? Does it vary widely between your blog and novel?** Well I have only started writing the novel. So I’m not sure really what the style is like. - **Do you also write for a living?** I would love to, but isn’t that every writer’s dream to write for a living? - **What about writing do you love?** Putting my thoughts and feelings on paper and sharing our travels. - **What about reading do you love?** I love to read and get into the main character of the book. - **What sort of books or genres do you read and enjoy?** I love to read! History! Romantic and mystery novels. Anything that gets me in so I do not want to put the book down. - **What do you think is the most important connection between reading and writing?** I believe you write what you would like to read about. - **What do you think is most important to do if you want to be a good writer?** This is hard to answer as I am not sure If I am a good writer. Let me answer this when I have a best seller or four! - **How do you come up with blog post ideas?** Most of my blog is about our travels, however some of my posts are about things in general in my life. - **Any tips for bloggers who want to get started but don’t know where or what to write about?** Just write. Do not worry about likes or people following you. It will happen. **[Have some interaction with other bloggers](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-bloggers-top-posts-2020/)**. - **What do you get out of writing?** I think I have finally found something I can do. I was never any good at sewing, or knitting, or making anything. I can bake though. - **Do you prefer to type on the computer or write by pen or pencil? Do you think it makes a difference?** I prefer the laptop. My penmanship has gotten really bad over the years, and I get very tired when I write. I suffer with arthritis in my hands and fingers and typing is easier. Plus I can read it. - **Do you keep any notebooks, diaries or list? Do you find that they help you in your life?** I do **[keep lists and notebooks on my laptop and phone](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/)**. I never had to do that, however with my memory struggling some days due to my chronic illness, I now have to or I will forget. - **Any tips for reading consistently? (This is for me 😉)** Find something you like. Especially an author, they usually write similar books each time. Don’t force it. I can read a lot, then I just can’t pick up another book for quite a while. Read Related Posts: - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You’re All Invited, Too!)](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) ![The three sisters abroad! Meet Paula, Bree, and Muriel](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/bree-dixon-3-sisters-abroad-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) The three sisters abroad! Meet Paula, Bree, and Muriel ## More About Bree Dixon’s Belief in Clean Eating - **There are many types of diets, etc out there. What is your definition of clean eating?** For me, it’s cooking from scratch. Even if you eat baked goods and biscuits, make them yourself. Then you know exactly what’s gone into it. - **How does this affect your mental and physical wellbeing?** It has helped me with all my chronic illnesses. If I eat rubbish as I call it...packet biscuits, gluten and lots of sugar, I am very brain fogged. No energy at all. - **Do you dogs eat clean too? Any precautions to take for them?** Yes they eat grain free and basically what we eat. - **Why do you enjoy clean eating?** It’s cheaper. No driving past McDonald’s, etc. Everything is cooked at home. I love to cook and bake. - **Do you ever eat junk food or ever get certain cravings?** I love chocolate! - **What’s a typical day for you like in terms of meals (breakfast, lunch, dinner, or however you break them up)?** Breakfast is usually eggs – scrambled, omelette, poached etc…with avocado, bacon and tomato. As I usually eat breakfast later in the morning often I don’t have lunch. Dinner is a slow cooked meal, BBQ, or roast. I always have vegetables with my dinner, either steamed or roasted. I do not eat salads much. If I do it’s a caesar salad that we make ourselves. - **How did you start eating clean? Was it difficult to start in terms of determination and/or resources?** Very easy. I am allergic to fish, peanuts and gluten. I won’t eat anything that has soy in it due to having a thyroid condition. So by cooking clean I know exactly what’s in my food. - **Now that you’re into it, what are your best tips for those who’d like to start?** Start with replacing your packets such as flour, etc with almond and coconut flour. Google Paleo…very easy to cook. Use coconut oil, olive oil and duck fat for cooking. Do not be afraid of fats..real butter has good fat. - **What kind of diets have you tried? Or do you just follow your own protocol?** I have tried everything. As for eating clean – paleo is the one that’s worked for me. - **Is it expensive to maintain such a lifestyle? Any tips?** Only if you want it to be expensive. Visit the farmers’ markets and buy what’s in season. - **Anything you actually dislike about eating clean? (Maybe not the food, but something else?)** When people say oh it’s too hard, or you’re missing out on nutrients. Read Related Posts: - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/) ![Bathing boxes, Rosebud – where Bree Dixon lives](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/bree-dixon-bathing-boxes-rosebud-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Bathing boxes, Rosebud – where Bree Dixon lives ## Bree Dixon on Indulging in a Bit of TV-Watching - **What sort of genres do you like watching? Mostly series?** I love to watch comedy, murder mystery, reality and crime shows. - **Top 3 TV shows you’d recommend?** Outlander, Murdoch Mysteries and anything to do with dogs. - **What about watching TV do you enjoy?** I can have the TV on with my laptop on my lap. I love to have a laugh as well. Hence why I like comedy and reality shows. With the murder mystery ones I like to see if I can work out who “dunnit” before they do. - **There are people who prefer to read, and there are those who prefer to watch it in the form of a movie, TV series or documentary. What are your personal thoughts about this?** Its a personal thing actually. I say each to their own. I know of people who do not even own a TV. Others who have never read a book. - **Do TV series ever affect you emotionally/psychologically in a big way?** Yes, especially when the show has finished, or when I am watching a reality show. For example we have a show called “The Block”, which is about five couples who renovate their houses or apartments. Sometimes you want to throw something at the TV! - **Where and how do you usually watch TV series (ipad in bed, on the sofa in the living room)? Is that the most comfy spot?** I have a TV in my room and also the lounge room. I watch them in both places, but not at the same time. I share a house with two others, so when they are watching something I don’t like, I often go and lay down in bed to watch shows that I have recorded. ## More About Bree Dixon’s Passion for Photography - **What sort of cameras and lenses do you use?** I have an Olympus Digital camera. I purchased it last year before our trip to Europe. - **What sort of subjects do you enjoy taking? Portraits? Landscapes? Nature? Etc?** I love taking pictures of my dogs in action, flowers, actually anything. - **How often do you do photography? Do you sometimes go for a walk just to take pictures?** Yes I often take the camera to the dog beach or the dog park. Often I will say, “I wish I had my camera with me”. - **Do you use your phone to take photos too? What do you think about phone photography?** Yes I also use my phone camera, especially those times I have left my camera at home. I think it doesn’t matter what you use. However, a lot of photos that look amazing have had so many filters etc done to them. I prefer not touching anything up except for cropping. ![The Eiffel Tower in Paris, Bree’s love](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/bree-dixon-paris-eiffel-tower-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) The Eiffel Tower in Paris, Bree’s love ## More About Bree Dixon’s Travel Adventures - **What about travelling do you enjoy most?** I love getting away from everyday life, and meeting fellow travelers. Also seeing some amazing places. - **What kind of traveller are you? Cultural? Explorer? Adventurer? Sporty? Foodie? Etc?** I think I am a cultural, explorer, and foodie type of traveller. I love learning and seeing all the history. - **Which have been your favourite countries to visit and why?** I fell in love with Paris last year. So this year we went to France and did 16 days of touring. I love Europe, and would love to live there. My younger self should have moved there. - **Tell us something about your own country + hometown that’s worth knowing (both good and bad).** We are an island that’s bigger than most other countries. We have desert inland, and a rugged coastline. Australia has four seasons, and I live on the coastal region. One side is the bay and the other is the wild ocean. It’s a holiday destination in the summer months. All along the bay, everyone camps in tents and caravans. The place is very busy. - **How often do you travel, or try to travel?** I can only travel overseas once for 28 days in a 12 month period. It’s the pension I am due to my chronic illnesses. - **Do you usually travel solo, with your partner, or someone else?** I have traveled on my own. I went to the USA for 4 weeks on my own a few years ago. The last two trips have been with my sisters. When I was 16 I traveled with my mum to the UK. - **What are your main travelling concerns (apart from health reasons)?** I suppose the increased terrorist activity. Although in France, the army and police are everywhere. So actually I felt safer there than in my own country. - **Are you a heavy planner or go with the flow type of traveller?** I prefer planning for overseas trips. However I do like to go with the flow in my own country. - **Top bucket list destination?** Europe – Italy. - **Tell us about a surprising incident. I.e. a special find, or something you didn’t expect in a good way.** We saw so many wonderful things every day. To me that was the special find – opening my eyes in another town with the anticipation of what we would see that day. - **Favourite mode of transport and why?** My legs, and the little trains all the towns in Europe have to get you around for sightseeing. - **Which place can you visit over and over again without getting sick of it and why?** Paris. It’s so beautiful. As I said before I fell in love with her. - **Tips for those who have your kind of chronic illnesses and dream of travelling?** Speak to your doctor. Take along enough medication to get you through at least an extra week. Take prescriptions and have letters with your list of illnesses and drugs you take. Make sure you have antibiotics in case of sickness. Go on that trip! Do not be scared. You will have fun. Life is too short to say, “I wish I had gone away”. Read Related Posts: - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Travelling New Paths with Chronic Illnesses in My Pocket](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-new-paths-chronic-illness/) - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [Coming Alive in the Winter Air (Pushing for Personal Changes & Group Advocacy)](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-advocacy/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) ## In Conclusion to This Feature of Bree Dixon in the “It’s in My Blood” Series Thank you Bree, for sharing about your passion-filled and interesting life, despite living with multiple chronic illnesses! I hope that it serves as an inspiration and also as a reminder that we are still human beings with individual characteristics, varied interests and beliefs.Click on the button below to be featured in the “It’s in My Blood” series, and don't forget to check out the other features, too! [Want to be featured too? Click here to sign up!](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood/) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. **Contributor Bio:** ![Bree Dixon’s headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/bree-dixon-profile.jpg) I am a mother of two beautiful young ladies and mum to two beautiful fur babies. I have lived in nearly every state of Australia. I love to travel and write. Find her here: [blog](https://3sistersabroad.wordpress.com/), [Twitter](https://x.com/BreeDixon3) & [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com.au/breezer1955/). ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Ellie Presner ](https://crossedeyesanddottedtees.wordpress.com) Dec 31, 2017 What a fascinating woman you are, Bree! Nice to have a bit of a “window” into what makes you tick. I’m very curious about the caption to the photo of houses (?) up there, it says “Bathing boxes, Rosebud – where Bree lives.” What’s the story there, Bree? (Just a sentence will do, I don’t want you to think I’m demanding a novel! 😀 ) - Felicia Denise Dec 30, 2017 Excellent post, Bree! Keep smiling! 🙂 Nice to meet you, Sheryl! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 30, 2017 Hello Felicia, Thanks for checking this post out! 😀 - Terri Dec 30, 2017 I always love these posts Sheryl, and this one is no exception! Thanks for giving us insight into others’ lives and encouraging us to get out and live by sharing their stories. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 30, 2017 Hi Terri, Thanks, I’m glad that you’re finding them enjoyable! If you are up for it, we can interview you, too 😉 It’s open to any and all with chronic illnesses. Good way to raise some awareness of us as human beings, I think! x - [ Caz ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Dec 25, 2017 I already follow the 3 Sisters Abroad blog but it was fab to get to ‘know’ Bree a little more – fantastic interview, thanks for sharing! I’d love to go to Italy too – here’s to hoping you can tick it off your list one day soon! x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 25, 2017 Happy that we can all get to know each other a little better! 😉 Merry Christmas to all! x - [ Bree ](https://3sistersabroad.wordpress.com) Dec 30, 2017 Thank you Caz xx Yes I too love these kind of blog posts also as we share a few other things that we would normally not share on our posts. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness and Pain Can Coexist URL: https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/ Last updated: 2026-06-03T16:30:46.000Z ## Aren't Happiness and Pain Contradictory Feelings? When we imagine someone in pain, I doubt we attribute happiness as one of the feelings that could possibly exist in either their heart or mind. Afterall, shouldn't a happy life be void of suffering of any kind? For people who live with chronic illness, pain in one form or another is almost a guarantee every day. Does this mean that they will never experience happiness, or that it is something that is unattainable for them? In this post, I share some thoughts based on my personal experiences from years of living with various chronic illnesses. Whilst I have barely experienced reprieve from chronic pain throughout the years, that does not mean that pockets of happiness do not exist. *\*Disclaimer: This post was first published on* [*februarystars.co.uk*](https://februarystars.co.uk/2017/11/a-day-in-the-life-of-chronic-pain/)*. This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness, Happiness and Pain Boards: ![Life with Chronic Illness - Happiness and Pain Can Co-Exist](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/life-chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain-can-coexist.jpg) ![Trying to find joy within the pain — Life with chronic illness. Read more in the post on A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/trying-find-joy-within-pain-life-with-chronic-illness.jpg) ## A Day in the Life with Chronic Pain My partner massaged shampoo into my hair as I hunched over in the bathtub, shivering with pain. The movement from his fingers were awkward yet gentle, which made it all the more endearing. The pain was unbearable, yet I had insisted on a shower as feeling clean grants me a sense of wellness. I wept my eyes red and whined without inhibition, before he tucked me into bed like a child. This isn’t an unusual event for many of us who live with chronic pain. ## The Worst Part About Chronic Illness I suffer from a number of chronic illnesses whose names sound like tongue twisters - Antiphospholipid Syndrome. Systemic Lupus Erythomatosus. Sjögren’s disease. Paroxysmal supraventricular tachycardia. Spontaneous bilateral patellar tendon rupture and repair. I have an annuloplasty band for a heart valve, and epilepsy is the easiest, except that it isn’t. This excludes surgeries I’ve had such as a tenosynovectomy, and laser ablation for Cervical Squamous Intraepithelial Neoplasia 3 (yes I had to Google that as well). The worst part about living with them for me is [**their unpredictable nature**](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/). I could be having a great day, only to be in immense pain the next. It is difficult to find joy in this union that I didn’t ask for, and which I’m unable to divorce. Your body becomes a filthy jail cell, and you can’t go very far. It feels like a life sentence for an innocent victim. Read Related Posts: - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [“But That’s Normal for Me” (Why I Mistook Dengue Fever for a Lupus Flare)](https://achronicvoice.com/mistook-dengue-fever-lupus-flare/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [So This is What a Tonic Clonic Seizure Feels Like](https://achronicvoice.com/tonic-clonic-seizure/) - [My Second Brush with Death: A Broken Heart (Literally)](https://achronicvoice.com/death-broken-heart/) ## The Need to Seek Out Pockets of Joy in the Midst of Pain But if this is for the rest of my life, then I have no choice but to search for joy within it. Happiness and pain can co-exist, although such a concept confuses our rigid society. We like for things to be black and white, because it is easier that way. ### The Joy that Writing Brings to Me One of the activities that brings me joy is writing. On certain days it can be a struggle, as brain fog shields access to the complete repository of my thoughts. It takes 10 times the amount of effort to think. Vocabulary and theories that I know become a mystery, an answer without a bridge. It makes me feel stupid. But I sit and write, because writing is my personal panacea for all ills. Whilst the pain isn’t diminished, it helps me to untangle the conglomerated strands wrapped around my thoughts. Every little bit counts. It not only relieves some of the psychological pressure, but I experience a shot of delight whenever I discover a silver strand. Writing is cathartic and nourishing at the same time, which is yet another paradox. It is a well of inspiration without external stimulation, filtered over my lifetime. ### The Inspiration I Get from Travelling Travelling is another activity that brings me joy, as it helps me to refresh my perspective on life. Observing the normal, everyday lives of people from other cultures is a wonderful reminder that [**there’s more than one way to live**](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-to-live-your-life/). The beauty of our planet awakens my soul, and the kindness of strangers melts my heart. The grandness and resilience of nature leaves me in awe, and makes me realise that life is amazing, despite it all. ### Experiencing the Very Best of Humanity The friends that I do have choose to hang out with me of their own accord. I have no material things to offer them - no wealth, no power, and certainly no career connections. I’m not very fun either. I often leave parties early, and need plenty of rest breaks during full day events or whilst travelling overseas. Those who remain within my friendship circle are genuine, and I’d rank them in the top tier of humanity. Their kindness, generosity, empathy and depth is what being human is all about. I am fortunate to be able to experience this on a frequent basis. Read Related Posts: - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [A Quarterly Reflection: 12 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned](https://achronicvoice.com/quarterly-reflection-life-lessons-learned/) - [An Inspirational Poem on Miracles, by Thuli Zuma](https://achronicvoice.com/poem-on-miracles-thuli-zuma/) - [4 Cool Truths My Partner Said (Unwittingly)](https://achronicvoice.com/cool-truths/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![Things That Bring Me Joy, Despite Chronic Illness. (Read the post.)](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/things-joy-chronic-illness.jpg) ## Enduring the Difficult Days Through the Happiness and Pain Then there are those terrible days where all I’m doing is clinging onto the edge, as I [**wait for my next dose of painkillers**](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/). I don’t want company in a time like this, although visitations do make me smile. We converse away some of pain’s despair, and chocolate becomes a sacred object that brings brief relief. All of these moments in life are gems covered in dirt. Buried truths left to rot, but germinate and blossom instead with a sprinkle of love and kindness. The surroundings may be drab and rain may be a constant, but flowers grow regardless. It is still possible to admire their beauty, then. For years I have been escaping, fighting, denying and begging with pain. They worked out for some time, even decades, but they aren’t long-term solutions. Recently I’ve come to realise that I need to accept that pain will always be a part of my life. Part of me as a person, inhabiting a portion of my body. ## Positivity Through Acceptance, Not Denial I’d also like to make a careful distinction here. It isn’t about positivity that ventures into the realms of denial. Like I said, that doesn’t work out in the long run. It’s more about positivity through acceptance. An awareness that "yes, I’m in pain and the situation sucks, but it can’t stop me from thinking good thoughts." It can be extra difficult [**when depression enters the mix**](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/), but being aware that I am depressed can make a difference. I know that what I’m feeling isn’t the whole story, and that it’s okay to [**try and lift my spirits**](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) and relax, despite the deception being sold to my brain. Don’t let fear prevent you from growth; allow your mind to expand past that thick, sticky veil. There is beauty on the other side, the sort that provides [**meaning which transcends even happiness**](https://achronicvoice.com/i-have-no-purpose-in-life/). ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Chronic Illness Quotes to Inspire, Motivate, Grieve, Hope & Laugh About](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-quotes/) - [Find Your Way Back to Happiness with a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/find-happiness-chronic-illness/) - [Every Next Level of Your Life Will Demand a Different You](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [Flowers are the Most Beautiful When They’re Just About to Die (and What That’s Got to Do with Being a Spoonie)](https://achronicvoice.com/flowers-most-beautiful-die-spoonie/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness & Mental Health Boards: ![Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness and Pain Can Co-Exist. How to think positively through acceptance, not denial.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/life-chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain-can-coexist-2.jpg) ![Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness and Pain Can Co-Exist. Read more.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/life-chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain-can-coexist-3.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Mairead ](https://www.thesicklymama.com) Aug 14, 2020 Love this. Hope your journey is continuing to have its bright moments ? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Aug 15, 2020 Thank you Mairead 🙂 Life is up and down but we’ll all get there! 😉 - [ Shruti Chopra ](https://allthingsendometriosis.com) Jul 15, 2020 Sheryl it’s so strange how you’re not supposed to be happy – it doesn’t go with the “look” or the “style” of being in pain, yet it’s these moments of happiness that help. O’ and when you speak of travelling – hotel room beds where the sheets are clean, white and tightly tucked in – makes me so happy!! 😀 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 15, 2020 Haha I know right…hotels can be happy places, too (as long as we have all our comfort tools and meds lol). And yes, people do expect a certain ‘look’ but there really is none, and shouldn’t need to be one, either. - [ the joyous living ](https://www.thejoyousliving.com) Jul 14, 2020 great post. i have not been able to travel yet due to my illness and pain but i cannot wait until i do again. thanks for the inspiration. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 14, 2020 You’re most welcome, Joy 🙂 I too can’t wait to travel again, when my finances and pain levels (and COVID situation!) are in order. Hope you can soon, too! - [ Chronic Mom ](https://chronicmom.com) Jul 14, 2020 I love the idea of positivity through acceptance, not denial. So often we get pushed into denial in the name of having a good attitude. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 14, 2020 Hi Shelley, yes I truly hate positivity for the sake of positivity, or in denial. It in fact, depresses me and even angers me. Acceptance really is key for me 🙂 - [ Claire ](https://throughthefibrofog.com) Jul 13, 2020 Reading this made me think of a birthday a few years ago. I went out with family on lovely summer’s day to some gardens and it was really nice to see the kids running around and so relaxing for the adults. Yet I was still in pain. Happiness and pain definitely co-exist, not just on ‘special’ days but also on the more mundane too. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 14, 2020 Hi Claire, that’s a lovely example 🙂 I suppose that’s how flowers or treats at the hospital do cheer people up indeed 🙂 With chronic pain there’s no other way I suppose, but to find joy in the little things, too! - Jess Nov 7, 2018 Thank you for writing such a meaningful and touching blog post. It was refreshing to read through this with your experience of finding happiness through pain. I try and focus on this myself, as hard as it may be, with as many chronic conditions and chronic pains we have throughout our bodies, it’s still possible for us to have happiness, and we shouldn’t let that be taken away. Thank you for sharing this with us, x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 7, 2018 Hi Jess, and thank you for taking some time to share your kind words 🙂 Wishing you all the best with your life x - Raina Jun 26, 2020 Great post! It gives an insight to what life is for people like us. I have fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue syndrome, and like you said everyday is different. Thanks for sharing this with us. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Jul 1, 2020 Most welcome, Raina! Yes every day is different for everyone, but with chronic illness it can really be pretty hardcore haha. Sending hugs! - [ Morgan Shaw ](https://brainsandbodiesblog.com) Oct 26, 2018 Love this post and you bring like you leave parties early ? I really can relate to this how you can have joy and have so much pain ! Sounds like you have your partner well trained and you are good at writing so happy it brings you joy x. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 26, 2018 Hi Morgan! Haha am glad you like it. And I didn’t train him, he’s just that way 😉 Strangely, pain can really make you grow closer to someone. Wishing you a great weekend ahead! x - Carmela Dec 30, 2017 Dear Friends, Like everyone here, I live with 31 medical conditions i will not bore you with today! But i share the joy in finding like minded folk in this world happy for those moments of bliss in the 5 pain free minutes or the true love stories whose partners help us in and out of showers, beds, toilets and clinics, clinics, clinics while we chase cures that never come and each day get worse they hold onto the scraps of us that remain. Others tell me i am lucky and i am but he is lucky, too, because we bring things to this land we call 37 years of marriage or he wouldn’t be fighting so hard to save the scraps. I remind the ableists of this. Together my husband and I try to help anybody around us who might be forgotten- people who might need advocacy or practical help. We got kind of good at it. But without him it would be impossible to do any of it. We write policy papers and fill out forms for folks and help out in several organizations. I find focussing on other people takes me out of myself and I don’t find myself focussed so much on pain. Some days – though- bed and Netflix are the only way through! In any case though the key way is through. Each person here is precious keep going! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 30, 2017 Hi Carmela, Thank you for reading and sharing your upbeat thoughts! You seem like a very well rounded and level headed person, thriving despite illness. And I’m glad you have a rock solid life partner to double that power 😉 Wishing both you all the best, may you find lots more joy to come in life x - Carl noon Dec 27, 2017 I too live with , I call the multiples. That was so well said. The fog makes my eyes go in and out. With that said I write on Twitter some. Passing the k owldge that over 20 years with this has given me. For some it may help. But it helps me forget for a moment, sometimes as brief as it is. Thank you very much for sharing. I have many writings that I may share. At a later date. May peace warmth and consideration fill your days and nights this year , my Dear. Having others understand the anger that comes out at times . Is not meant at or for them . But at my our type conditions. May blessed be , Ty - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 27, 2017 Hi Carl, Thank you for reading, and thank you for sharing a bit more about how chronic illness has affected your life. I believe it’s important for us to be heard collectively 🙂 Wishing you all the best as well, maybe you have a peace-filled, joyful new year ahead. - stephanie Dec 24, 2017 I am delighted to read an article that is about more than merely coping. Happiness! Yes! There is a profound difference between “living” and merely “existing”, the latter being in the category of “coping”. For years I merely “coped”, suffering infinitely more than necessary because I could not tear my eyes away from Forever…the image of my suffering Forever, something I couldn’t accept and could not stop imagining. When I finally ‘hit bottom’, barely survived a period of being suicidal, I learned to look at Today, which is something I CAN cope with AND feel happiness in, enjoying friends, reading, making art, delightful foods, and some travelling now and then which fills me with excitement and true joy at how generally decent, welcoming, and helpful people are wherever I go. Travelling is so reaffirming. It soothes my spirit to know that I am at home in the world, not just my neighbourhood. Being ill and weak, exhausted and in great pain so much of the time easily twists my mind into thinking that I am “different”…”other than” the average person in my neighbourhood, in society, and so anything that brings me back to the reality that I belong, that I am privileged to belong in a place where I can walk out my front door and travel so very many places and find myself welcomed, that truly is an outstanding blessing. I believe we need to read more of this. I have epilepsy too. It does not go well with the herniated disc in my neck. The two simply don’t mix. The seizures prevent the disc from healing so the only option is pain management I live with it and the ceaseless pain caused by the nerves it is pinching on both sides of my neck leaving my shoulders and arms in agony, the right arm partially paralyzed. Instead of being angry I can’t help but feel incredible relief that I live in a country where I am cared for medically. What pain I feel now is nothing compared to what fresh hell I would exist in if I lived just about anywhere except where I do. How can I not be infinitely grateful? That isn’t “positive thinking” so much as “realistic awareness”. One last thing…I used to think of myself as a compassionate person. I suppose that to some small degree I was, but now I feel I have become profoundly compassionate as only a person who suffers deeply and relentlessly can be. It is, in this paradoxical way, a very great human gift. Knowing great pain, lasting pain, makes a person, any person, more valuable because they are able to empathize and assist others who are also in pain. And what else are we here for except to assist our fellow beings? What greater purpose could we have? Thank you for sharing your story. I wish you peace and ease as much as possible, sweetheart. Namaste…Steph - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 27, 2017 Hi Steph, Apologies for the late reply, am currently travelling for the holiday season, and wanted to take some time to respond to you properly! Thank you so much for reading this post, and also for sharing your insightful thoughts. Definitely have to agree with the compassionate bit, and also the part on realistic awareness. As I was discussing with someone yesterday, it’s literally impossible to comprehend what extreme pain can be like. It’s really impossible, and not even an exaggeration at that. And like you said, is a ‘gift’ in some sense. Wishing you a peaceful, and calmer new year ahead, with plenty of love and joy x - Emma England Dec 15, 2017 Beautiful article Sheryl. I’m amazed by how much you achieve, despite living with so many debilitating conditions. I love your description of travelling. It really does capture what it’s all about 🙂 I have also found a therapy in writing, but like you I find it so much harder with brain fog and fatigue. I have to try not to give myself a hard time when things don’t come to me as easily as they should! xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 16, 2017 Hi Emma, Thank you for reading and leaving such lovely comments as always 🙂 I’m not sure I ‘achieve’ that much haha. Right now I do feel a bit aimless because I’m not really working…but health is definitely a bit better because of that too. A day at a time, for sure! x - Amy Dec 14, 2017 This is written beautifully. thank you for writing this and publishing it. It is so affirming to read and know that I am not alone in this life. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 14, 2017 Hi Amy, Thank you for taking the time to read and comment – I appreciate the support 🙂 Yes, you are definitely not alone in this journey. Even if no one else around you understands it, many of us around the world do x Hope you have a Merry Christmas and good new year ahead! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Veronica of Nourish Naturally Shares Her Best Skin Care Tips URL: https://achronicvoice.com/nourish-naturally-skin-care-tips/ Last updated: 2026-03-18T05:16:42.000Z ## Featuring Veronica — Founder of Nourish Naturally When I first discovered Nourish Naturally, their philosophy intrigued me. They believe in the power of human touch, and don't use any machines for their facials. They carry a few different skincare ranges to cater for various needs. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the author(s)' personal experiences. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ### A Skin Assessment (and Special Discount for My Readers!) Veronica examined my face and discussed the options before starting, so I know that I’m getting what’s best for my skin. She has been in this business for 7 years, and her clientele ranges from 11 to 70! There are quite a number of people with eczema, acne, or rosacea who are regular customers. She also sees a fair share of those with psoriasis, skin sensitivities and other chronic skin problems. Whilst facials are not replacements for medical treatments, they can go a long way in soothing, healing and providing nourishment for the skin. With a nice range of organic and skin-sensitive products here, I think it makes a good starting point. ![Veronica, founder of Nourish Naturally](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/nourish-naturally-veronica-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Veronica, founder of Nourish Naturally ## An Introduction to Veronica & Her Business - **How did Nourish Naturally start up?** It was quite serendipitous actually. I never planned to be in this line. I come from the chemical engineering sector, then went into banking and finance, and then this. A space became available and we thought, “what should we do with it?”. We then brainstormed and at that time, I was already researching skin treatments and brands because of bad skin. I have tried everything from antibiotics to topical medications, but none of them were long lasting. When I came across [Maria-Galland](https://www.mariagalland.com/en/home), I was intrigued by the science of their protocols more than anything else. I am a very science-based person. The [massage techniques used by them](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=%5FaMVqTbe5ls) were developed by physiotherapists and lymphatic drainage professionals. I was sold when I saw the hand movements. It was like a pair of hands gracefully dancing on the face. And most importantly, the results were amazing. That started Nour!sh. - **How has the journey been like for you so far?** Slow and steady – I don’t believe in advertising or marketing. We rely on word of mouth so it’s always a slow start, but having been around for 7 years, it has been nothing but rewarding. It goes beyond the financial or monetary gains. If I wanted to make more money, I would have stayed in the finance industry. But this brings me satisfaction that money cannot buy. - **What are some interesting things you’ve learned along the way?** The power of human touch and interaction. Whether we want to believe it or not, we are all broken and in some sort of pain. **[We can always choose to be kind](https://achronicvoice.com/kick-ass-with-kindness/)**, and a touch makes a whole world of difference. People come to me, I would like to believe, not just because of the treatments I give, but because at times, we just need a listening ear and a loving touch. Nourish Naturally (especially at Thomson) is a very special place, it’s like home for many to seek healing and comfort. - **What are your biggest frustrations in this business?** Managing staff – that’s why we are so lean. - **How do you manage work-life balance and self-care?** There is no such thing as work life balance when you run your own business. You are at it every day, maybe sometimes just too much. Never take things too personally, and always be positive. I enjoy reading, dancing and travelling. - **What kind of clients do you find the most annoying?** People who expect miracles, and not wanting to work or change their lifestyle for it. - **What about the most lovable?** Those who appreciate you for what you do. On weekends, I almost never need to bring food to work at Thomson. Clients trickle in with food of all sorts, worried that we don’t have time to eat or buy food! How lovely. ![Some of the skin care products used at Nourish Naturally](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/skincare-products-nourish-naturally-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Some of the skin care products used at Nourish Naturally ![xxx](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/skincare-products-nourish-naturally-2-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) - **I was surprised to discover that you were the only person doing facials at the East Coast branch. How do you manage the business all on your own?!** I’m not sure, by God’s grace I suppose. I find this easier than having to manage unpassionate staff. - **What do you consider to be your biggest achievement in this line of work to date?** Seeing that the knowledge and skills I have, actually improves the lives of others. - **What are your future goals for yourself and the company?** We are very contented with keeping this small, niche and personable. It’s difficult to find people who are passionate about health and skin. My aim is to continue spreading the word and bringing some hope, especially to those whose **[self-esteem and confidence has been affected](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/)** by bad skin. Because I have been through this, I know how painful it can be. The next step and dream for me is to get a certification in Functional and Integrative medicine. Although I know a lot about it, it doesn’t hurt to be certified. And better yet, more structured grounding in this area. - **What were the deciding factors when it came to selecting these brands for use in your facials?** The efficacy and safety of products, as well as the uniqueness of their protocols. - **What’s the age range of your clients, and what sort of skin problems do they usually have?** From 11 to 70\. All sorts, although I would like to say I specialise in acne and skin sensitivities. - **Where did you train, and what’s their main school of thought?** At Maria-Galland Institute, Singtrain and [Bruno Chikly Institute for Lymphatic Drainage Therapy](https://chiklyinstitute.com/LDT). Read Related Posts: - [When Autoimmune Disorder Ravages Your Face (and How That Led to My Body Dysmorphic Disorder)](https://achronicvoice.com/body-dysmorphic-disorder/) - [What’s it Like to be on a High Dose of Steroids? (And the First Question You Will Definitely Ask)](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) - [The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don’t Reflect)](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Wound Care & What to Wear After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/wound-care-what-to-wear-after-knee-surgery/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) ![Treatment knowledge for face and skin care from Nourish Naturally](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/skincare-asian-girl-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ## More About the Treatments Used at Nourish Naturally - **Why don’t you use machines? Don’t they help to make the face ‘cleaner’?** Because I believe in the power of human touch. Have you seen a king being served by a robot? Machines lack the personal touch and are ‘dead’. - **You mentioned that the most important aspect of a facial is the face massage. Why?** In addition to my above statement – it drains, and brings oxygen and hydration to the skin’s surface. It also improve stretch and tone. - **Can we massage our own face at home, and do you have any good resources to share?** Yes. I don’t have any resources at the moment. Depending on their individual condition, I will teach them to do certain moves at home. - **You only use natural products at Nourish Naturally. What are the benefits to this and are they worth the extra costs, if any?** The range is diverse when it comes to facial products. For anti-aging treatments, we usually use the French skincare range, which may not be entirely natural. However, the results are faster and they are not considered unsafe. The organic and natural products are used mainly on those with sensitivities and redness issues. We have to understand that being organic does not mean we won’t have a reaction to it. Some organic products contain essential oils or flowers which can induce an allergic reaction, too. The key thing is to find something that works for you. For us, the best seems to be VMV, which has been tested on the most sensitive of skins, and removes all known allergens in their products as much as possible. - **Are there certain things about a ‘standard facial’ that you don’t believe in, or avoid?** At Nourish Naturally, there is no standard facial. I customise all treatments according to one’s needs and budgets. That’s why all facials start with asking one’s history (to see if there are contraindications), needs, as well as budgets. - **What are the most popular products sold at Nourish Naturally?** - VMV’s red better flare up balm - Suki’s balancing day lotion - World of Beauty Shantala Oil - Exfoliating Foaming Cleanser - VMV Superskin Toners - **I see that your mani/pedi also offers natural and organic options. Does this make a big difference?** This is the biggest difference – all our polishes are at least 3 free. Most are 5 free. This means that when you enter our doors, there is no smell of chemicals. These harmful chemicals can enter our bloodstream and bring about [endocrine disruptions](https://www.niehs.nih.gov/health/topics/agents/endocrine). Read Related Posts: - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Cheyanne Perry – Living a Full Life with Deadly Allergies](https://achronicvoice.com/cheyanne-perry-life-allergies/) - [Invisible in Florence: Life with Chronic Illness in Italy](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-florence-chronic-illness-italy/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) - [How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Your Body (Even with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/healthy-relationship-with-body-chronic-illness/) ![Personal skin care philosophies from Nourish Naturally](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/skin-care-mirror-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ![Personal skin care philosophies from Nourish Naturally](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/skin-care-touching-face-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ## Veronica's Personal Philosophies - **What’s your own personal face and skin care routine like?** It’s very simple. Clean, scrub, tone, serum and moisturiser. Never leave home without [sunscreen](https://www.fda.gov/drugs/understanding-over-counter-medicines/sunscreen-how-help-protect-your-skin-sun)! - **Why do you think applying sunblock on a daily basis is one of the most important steps in face and skin care?** That’s because the UV rays have a lot to do with skin cancers and aging cells. [Photo-aging](https://dermatology.ca/public-patients/diseases-conditions/skin-conditions/photoaging/) is very real, especially in a climate like ours. For clients with rosacea and psoriasis, UV radiation can worsen the condition. In fact, it activates the onset of rosacea at times. - **Sunblocks are one of those skincare products that mostly seem to be filled with chemicals. Do you have any recommendations?** Yes without a doubt, they are the one thing that a lot of people with sensitive skin find difficult to tolerate. Zinc oxide and titanium dioxide are the key ingredients for reflecting those nasty rays, and we don’t quite have other substitutes. Zinc Oxide is a lot more tolerable so if you find yourself sensitive to most sunscreens, opt for zinc oxide only sunscreens. - **Eye creams and toners are a bit more of a grey area when it comes to daily face care. What are you thoughts on them? Are they necessary in a daily or a weekly routine, and why or why not?** Toners are not exactly a grey area. Cleansers can be fairly harsh in order to remove dirt, oil and grime, making the skin more acidic or alkaline than it is. [Our skin has an optimum pH of 5.5](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18489300/). Hence, toners are important for re-balancing the pH of our skin, and preparing it for absorption of moisturisers and serums. ![You are what you eat](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/you-are-what-you-eat-sugar-face-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) You are what you eat - **What’s your general philosophy on health, wellness and skin/body care?** You are what you eat. Exercise, move and smile a lot. - **How do you go about maintaining this on an everyday basis?** My faith plays a big part in how I lead my life. Discipline when it comes to eating. I tell my clients, if you don’t prepare your own food, you will be very tempted to eat random foods sold outside, which are not as healthy. I bring my lunch almost every day, and I choose my food consciously. - **Do you consume any non-natural/non-organic products or food in your own life? Or are you ‘natural all the way, facials and beyond’?** No. Actually I don’t believe in having everything organic. In fact, it has become almost like a fad and in Singapore, and it costs a bomb to go organic. Preparing your own food is the surest way to ensure you know what goes into it. - **Do you have any basic or special face and skin care tips to share? I’m all ears!** Exfoliate and drain! In our climate, exfoliation is extremely important. Massage and draining brings life to your skin. - **What other aspects of life do you think contributes to poor skin health (especially for the face)?** Lack of exercise, excessive sugar, and low fat diets. - **Your favourite quote that represents your approach to life and why?** You are what you eat! Being positive and being kind makes a world of difference too. You never know how bad a day someone else is really having. Read Related Posts: - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) - [What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - [Invisible in Singapore: What’s It Like to Live Here with Chronic Illnesses?](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/) - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) ![Dealing with Problematic Skin and Autoimmune Disorders](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/gentle-face-skin-touch-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ## How Nourish Naturally Helps with Problematic Skin & Autoimmune Conditions - **What sort of skin problems do you see often or deal with a lot, and how do you go about helping these clients?** Acne, eczema, rosacea. I conduct in-depth consultation on history, lifestyle and food choices. I also use products that calm the mind and body. - **Do you think that your facials are more equipped to help such people, as opposed to other places?** I can’t really comment on that, but we take pride in ensuring that we know what we’re doing. And we have the skills and knowledge to deal with redness and skin that is **[undergoing a lot of stress](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/)**. - **For a face therapist, what added certification is required to advise clients on skin problems of an autoimmune nature?** There is no real certification required in Singapore, but **[knowledge is key](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/)**. You can learn by reading widely, on top of attending courses. My background in the sciences as well as lymphatic drainage treatments help. - **Are there overlaps to certain problems, and to the way they should be treated? For e.g. eczema and psoriasis?** The skin is one of the three largest organs to be affected by the gut. While mistreatment of the skin can have adverse effects directly, it never results in eczema or psoriasis. So in most cases, these problems are caused by an imbalance of the gut, and requires attention both in terms of what you eat and what you apply. Sunscreens, cleansers and Vitamin C are key to treating sensitive conditions. - **Have you ever encountered people with the same skin problem (e.g. psoriasis), that have required a totally different face care approach?** Yes, because every individual is unique. Knowing the history is of absolute importance. - **How does lymphatic drainage massage work?** In a nutshell, it brings about balance to your nervous system, which has an impact on your immune system. It stimulates fluid movements and drains toxins. - **I was also pleasantly surprised to discover that you share the space with Nourish Dental. How are they different from other dentists, especially in terms of dealing with chronic pain?** I am not aware of other dental clinics that specialise in this area. It is a very niche area. Each consultation for pain can last between 1 to 3 hours because it involves detailed history taking and manual therapy, before diagnosis and treatment options. Dr Chiong has a special interest in [Orofacial Pain](https://nourishdentalcare.com/orofacial-pain-treatment/) as well as [Dental Sleep Medicine](https://nourishdentalcare.com/dental-sleep-medicine/), and holds fellowship and accreditation with four Royal Colleges. He is also a board member of the European and American Sleep Academies. People in pain are also frustrated and confused, and at times unable to fully explain their pain until the right questions are asked. We have successfully treated many patients who felt hopeless about their situation. Basically we take all patients whom other clinics have not been able to diagnose or treat. We are fully equipped with the latest in technology for treatment, and manage a wide variety of conditions. ## Thank You Veronica, for the Skin Care Tips & Insights! A big thank you to Veronica for taking the time to answer these questions (some of which, I would imagine, be quite repetitive for her considering the number of clients she sees per day)! A main takeaway I personally derived at is her belief that the body is one big connected system. What we put on and in our bodies matter a great deal - both for skin care and overall health and well-being. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. 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Read Related Posts: - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) - [12 Visible Evidence of a Body Gone Rogue (Is Invisible Illness Truly Invisible?)](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/) - [Why Your Beauty Never Left You](https://achronicvoice.com/why-your-beauty-never-left-you/) - [After Surgery Care at Home: Hygiene Resources](https://achronicvoice.com/after-surgery-care-at-home-hygiene/) - [Curated Chronic Illness Gift Ideas for Christmas, Birthdays & Other Occasions!](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-gift-ideas/) Pin to Your Skin Care & Wellness Boards: ![Veronica of Nourish Naturally Shares Her Best Skin Care Tips](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_nourish-naturally-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) **Contributor Bio:** ![Veronica of Nourish Naturally headshot](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/profile-veronica-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Find Veronica and Dr Chiong here: [Nourish Dental](https://nourishdentalcare.com/) and [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/Noursh-Naturally-138217126205696/). ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Pippit Dec 16, 2017 Interesting article and good business model! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 16, 2017 Thank you, and yes it is! - [ Lydia ](https://beinglydia.com/) Dec 15, 2017 I found this so very helpful! I have always had problem skin and it has only gotten worse with age and my chronic health conditions. Thanks for sharing this! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 15, 2017 I’m really happy you found this interview help Lydia! Yes our skin definitely shows it when our insides aren’t feeling so good. Take care my friend x **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### “It’s in My Blood”: Sarah Frison — A Pastry Chef with a Stomach Disorder URL: https://achronicvoice.com/sarah-frison-pastry-chef-stomach-disorder/ Last updated: 2026-03-26T15:31:58.000Z ## Featuring Sarah Frison, a Pastry Chef from Belgium Sarah is our first interviewee from Belgium, and she's also a trained pastry chef! Wlist she is [**unable to continue on this career path due to chronic illness**](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/), she now uses her knowledge to help others by using a stepped nutritional approach. When people approach her for advice and tips, it's usually for gastroparesis-friendly and easy cooking recipes. Painting is a hobby that she's picked up quite recently, and her abstract works give off a bright, positive vibe. She also enjoys enhancing aesthetics and fixing things, as she believes that it helps to improve the general quality of life. Read on to learn more about this interesting lady! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the author(s)' personal experiences as patient(s)'. All images provided by Sarah Frison and included in this post are used with her permission. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. 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Click here to sign up!](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood/) ## More About Sarah Frison's Love for Cooking & Baking - **How did your passion for cooking and baking begin?** I’ve always enjoyed baking for as long as I can remember. When I was little I was always in the kitchen helping my mom. Growing up I would watch [James Martin](https://www.bbc.co.uk/food/chefs/james%5Fmartin) (a BBC chef) who had a show about baking that was aired on our national TV station. I would be in the kitchen trying all the different things he showed during the show as much as I could. I even pulled sugar in our kitchen when I was 11 or so. I’ve still got a scar on my hand from where the sugar burned me. I did manage it, though! Once we got cable tv and I could watch the BBC, every weekend I would watch his Saturday morning TV show. Even when I was training as a pastry chef and I would have to get started with something, I would still watch it first. My grandmother and my mom have always baked as well. I still use my gran’s sponge recipe, even though technically it shouldn’t work, it’s a great cake. I always make it for birthdays. Read Related Posts: - [What’s it Like to be the Mother of a Sick Child? (Precious Insights from My Own Mum)](https://achronicvoice.com/mother-of-chronically-ill-child/) - [What’s it Like to be the Father of a Child with Chronic Illness? (Precious Insights from My Own Dad!)](https://achronicvoice.com/father-of-child-with-chronic-illness/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Cheyanne Perry – Living a Full Life with Deadly Allergies](https://achronicvoice.com/cheyanne-perry-life-allergies/) - [Curated Chronic Illness Gift Ideas for Christmas, Birthdays & Other Occasions!](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-gift-ideas/) - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/) - **What about cooking and baking do you like?** I’ve always enjoyed baking as long as I can remember. Being able to create something and having it work out is amazing. It’s always come naturally to me. Cooking is second to that really. - **What’s the biggest difference between cooking and baking, in terms of skillset?** In cooking, you can freestyle, if you like, a lot more. At least it’s easier to do. In baking you need to know the science behind what you’re doing to be able to successfully change a recipe. In baking, and especially as a pastry chef, you need to be very, very precise. Certain recipes will fail horribly if you’re out by 1/8th of a teaspoon of one ingredient. The main skill is to be able to observe what’s going on and then being able to correct it with what you’ve learned. At least for a pastry chef, if you’re baking at home, the main thing is alway to read any recipe carefully and make sure you get every measurement right. - **What about in terms of how they make you feel?** I’ve always enjoyed my work/training immensely. I can say I was pretty darn good at it as well so it’s been so very hard not being able to work as a pastry chef anymore. It’s seriously creative, competitive and quite addictive as well. If you’ve ever watched cooking competitions on tv where the contestants have to work in a kitchen, real life is very similar to that. You know what work needs to be done and you’re working using the clock (sometimes to the minute) to get that work done in time. We even had old men yelling at us 😉 Cooking has always just been something I’ve done for dinner. My mom would always make meals fully from scratch so if you wanted to eat, you would have to chop vegetables, make sauces etc. I’ve never really done that as a hobby or professionally but do know a thing or two about it. - **What are some kitchen equipment you can’t live without?** Definitely my blender. I’ve got a vitamix and it makes such a difference. I use it every couple of days for a new batch of smoothies that I freeze. It does such a great job at pulverizing every little seed or skin. I got a food processor last year and that’s a big one as well. I don’t use it a lot but it’s great for prepping food when you’re cooking meals for someone else too. - **Do you cook all your meals? If so, how do you manage that?** I try to. I do manage most of the time. I always make my smoothies myself, I’ll do 4 or 6 at one time and then freeze them. My dinner is always pretty basic so I do that myself too. I live with my mom and she always makes her meal unless we’re having something we can both eat. I’ve got a post where I talk about how I cook, and some of my tips to make cooking easier. - **What sort of ingredients do you use? Do you think they make a big difference in the quality of food produced?** I try to get organic products as much as possible. Definitely when it comes to fruit and vegetables. I do notice there’s a difference in quality, produce lasts a whole lot longer before going bad as well. I try to get my produce from a local farm shop where they’ve good a good range of vegetables available. Everything has to be gluten-free first though so if a certain product isn’t organic but it is gluten-free (and gmo-free if I got it in the US) then I still buy that one. Certain flours for example can be hard to find both gluten-free and organic. Read Related Posts: - [The Extra Costs of Living with a Chronic Illness or Disability (That the News Often Don’t Reflect)](https://achronicvoice.com/extra-costs-living-chronic-illness-disability/) - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) - [Vitamin D & Vitamin K2: How They Boost Each Other in the Body](https://achronicvoice.com/vitamin-d-vitamin-k2/) - [Oral Spray Vitamins: A Quick & Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/oral-spray-vitamins/) - **On average, how much time do you spend experimenting with recipes?** Not that often these days. I did a Christmas/holiday season cooking show/course last year so I spent more time in the kitchen coming up with the recipes and recording the whole thing. - **Are there any recipes that you dreamt and came up with from scratch?** Sure, pretty much all recipes from my holiday season course from last year are invented ones. Mostly recipes are based on something you’ve seen somewhere though. A traditional recipe that was modified. - **You mentioned that your blog is your business. Do you have a shop front where you sell food products, or how does that work?** Yes, at the moment I sell an e-book on eating gluten-free and I’ve got products based on my paintings as well. It would be great to have actual food products but that’s pretty impossible at the moment with Belgium’s food regulations and my energy. I’ve had courses in the past as well as workshops. I’m probably bringing my holiday/Christmas course back for this season as well as previous live workshops as on-demand workshops. ![Sarah Frison smiling in a sunny field](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/sarah-frison-6-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Sarah Frison smiling in a sunny field Read Related Posts: - [How to Survive the Holidays When Chronic Illness & Disability Cause Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/survive-the-holidays-chronic-illness-disability-pain/) - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) - [All I Want for Christmas is Some Pain Relief! (Real Wish List Ideas from 13 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/all-i-want-for-christmas-pain-relief/) - [Dysphagia & Swallowing Problems (and How Oral Vitamin Sprays Can be of Help to You)](https://achronicvoice.com/dysphagia-oral-vitamin-sprays/) - [Every Next Level of Your Life Will Demand a Different You](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) - **You’re from Belgium! What are some pros and cons in terms of chronic illness care there?** Overall, I’m very fortunate to have a great doctor who thinks with me and is always up for listening to my suggestions. Medication and care is very affordable, although getting disability benefits as a young woman has proved very challenging. The system here is set up so that you have to see a government-appointed doctor who decides how your illness affects your life. The first doctor I saw felt that I wasn’t ill at all which meant that I spent the past almost 3 years working with a lawyer to get disability benefits. Getting a diagnosis hasn’t been straightforward either. Dysautonomia and gastroparesis (my main illnesses) aren’t well known at all over here, let alone doctors would suggest testing for them. I have friends in the US with the same illnesses and they helped me get diagnosed. Once I knew what tests I needed, I suggested them to my doctor who then got me the script to have the tests done. Read Related Posts: - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Travelling New Paths with Chronic Illnesses in My Pocket](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-new-paths-chronic-illness/) - [A Day in the Life of a “POTSie” (A What??)](https://achronicvoice.com/day-in-life-potsie/) - [Learn More About the Super Rare Disease – Esophageal Diverticulum](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) - [Chronic Illness is Expensive, but Here’s the Real Reason Why](https://achronicvoice.com/real-reason-why-chronic-illness-expensive/) - **Is it easy to obtain gluten-free food there?** Getting gluten-free food has gotten way easier since a Dutch supermarket chain (Albert Heijn) came to Belgium a couple of years ago. They label all their own-brand products so you’re certain they’re gluten-free. That’s great for staples! Other supermarkets always have a small section of gluten-free foods but nothing as extensive as that chain. It’s nice to know you can go out and just buy a jar of jam or a pack of sausages without putting on your detective hat. That supermarket also has a couple of decent quality ready meals that are gluten-free. Great for a convenient meal. Other than that, the gluten-free landscape is pretty bare. We haven’t got gluten-free options in cafés or restaurants, other than in just 5 or so places across the country. I went on a trip to the UK in June, and was blown away by how pretty much every single place had some gluten-free option. Even though they weren’t always safe enough for me to eat because they were kept next to non-gluten-free items, it’s such a big difference. - **Do you have any plans of expanding your business?** I do, at the moment I just do things that are health and cooking related, but I’m bringing more things about creativity into it as well. I’ll be doing a group creativity project in the Fall where we’ll be making a small craft. Anyone will be able to join in and watch the live videos. ![Some of Sarah Frison's art supplies](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/sarah-frison-art-supplies-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Some of Sarah Frison's art supplies - **Opinion on fast food?** Hmm, that’s a difficult one. If we’re talking about McDonald’s than yeah, no thanks. If we’re talking about pre-made meals (the kind you get in the supermarket’s fridge section) once in a while, there’s not much wrong with that. I love being able to go to the supermarket and picking up something gluten-free for when I’m not quite feeling up to cooking. That doesn’t happen that often that there are GF things my stomach can have. - **Favourite kinds of cuisine to eat and why?** Anything refreshing, I love curries too. You can make them in a gastroparesis-friendly way as long as you keep the spice level down. I prefer modern American/British foods really. There’s so much amazing stuff happening with tasty dishes available from all over the world. I was in a tiny local shop in Cornwall on holiday and they sold palm sugar in those blocks. I had never seen that in real life, let alone in a small neighbourhood shop. It was a small surfing town, but still. I love Gluten-free Girl’s American Classics cookbook as well as anything James Martin, Jamie Oliver and similar British chefs are putting out. We’re nowhere near that level in Belgium. - **What about least favourite foods to cook?** Cooking not that much. Eating? Probably Moroccan tagines and curries with cilantro leaves. I’m allergic to cilantro leaves as well as hating the taste (team soap here). Moroccan because it can be quite sweet and same-y, also I hate raisins in savory dishes. - **What sort of cooking/baking advice do people seek you out for the most?** Gastroparesis-friendly options and ways to make cooking easier. - **Any tips for newbie bakers and chefs?** For baking, follow the recipe to the T. For cooking, read the recipe fully, make sure you’ve got all the ingredients before you get started, make the recipe as it’s written at least once, then start to make changes. - **Goto resources online?** I love Gluten-free girl’s website and books, and often use the [BBC good food website](https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/) for references. ![“Storm”, an abstract painting by Sarah](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/sarah-frison-abstract-painting-storm-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) “Storm”, an abstract painting by Sarah ## More About Sarah Frison’s Passion for Painting - **How did your love for painting start?** I only started painting early spring of this year. I’d always done creative things as a pastry chef but never felt I would be able to paint or draw. I got this abstract painting course in a bundle with a business course. It looked pretty doable to do from watching the videos so I figured I would get some basic supplies and see if it worked. I knew with the first brush stroke that this was something for me. - **What inspires you to paint?** I tend to just see the idea of where I want to take something and then I try to make that happen. It doesn’t necessarily make sense but that’s how it always works for me. Sometimes I just start to paint and then the finished thing becomes clear half-way through. - **How would you describe your style?** As abstract really. Just **[fun and uplifting](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/)** rather than the complicated, intellectualized, often gloomy, paintings we picture when thinking of abstract art. I try to use bright, fun colors and textures because that’s what I enjoy looking at most and using as well. - **Artists you admire the most?** Gosh, that’s a hard one. I haven’t started that long ago so I don’t have many people that I look at yet. I just don’t know that many people in art I guess 🙂 That’s not a bad thing, in a way, that just takes away from creating yourself. I feel that architecture, interior design, etc are all great for inspiration that doesn’t come from looking at someone else’s work. Seeing different ways of using light, textures in curtains, fabrics, color combinations etc are all so wonderful. I do always love [the works of Caroline Zook (Kelso before she got married) at madevibrant.com](https://wanderingaimfully.com/projects/madevibrant), also because she got me into painting and drawing in the first place. It was her course I took last winter. - **What’s your toolkit like?** I’ve got a pretty small toolkit really. I guess it depends on what you consider small, of course. I try to stick to buying the items I know are going to work well. I just go on gut feel as well as trying to buy the best I can afford. That does make a difference. I recently got a cart to put all my things in. It looks pretty neat and tidy right now and not even that much. This is just the stuff I use all the time, though. I keep some extra supplies I stocked up on or things that came in a larger set (like brushes or markers) in a separate drawer, that’s also where I keep my paper. - **Favourite mediums to work with?** I love using acrylic paint. That’s what I learned to paint with so… It’s also easier to find allergen-friendly than oil paints. I’m seriously allergic to certain solvents and binders, so I need to be careful with what brands I buy. I use the Liquitex and Amsterdam Acrylic paints, they work for me so I tend to stick with them. I recently started to use watercolors as well, that’s great fun but very different to acrylic paint. - **Do you work with any other art forms as well?** I recently started dabbling in a bit of illustration as well. I’ve been really enjoying it but it does take practise of course. I use just a simple sharpie or a similar marker to draw. I love the look of using a fine tip sharpie. It gives it a fun feel and a very ‘drawn’ look, rather than looking realistic. - **Any favourite colours? And colours to work with?** I love the pink/dark pink/blue color combination I’ve usually got going on in my abstract paintings. I think it’s such a fun combination and something I always come back to. For my watercolors I just use the colors that fit the image best so no real favourites there. - **Works you are most proud of, and the stories behind them?** I quite like ‘Ocean’, the first fully abstract painting I did. I never really have specific stories behind a painting or a reason for painting them. I just do what feels right for the piece. ![“Ocean”, Sarah's first painting](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/sarah-frison-abstract-painting-ocean-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) “Ocean”, Sarah's first painting Read Related Posts: - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [Life is a Long Process of Becoming Into…](https://achronicvoice.com/life-is-a-long-process-of-becoming-into/) - [“It’s in My Blood”: Jayne Bailey — Getting Crafty & Working as a Life Coach with EDS](https://achronicvoice.com/jayne-bailey-crafty-life-coach-eds/) - **Do you display any of your own artwork at home and where?** I put up some prints for a while on one of the walls in the living room. I took them down and haven’t quite put something in its place yet. I am working on a large piece, my first on canvas, to go in the hallway/study area that leads to my bedroom. It’s an area that doesn’t get that much natural light and doesn’t feel like a room in itself so I figured having something there would help. I’m only halfway through it so we’ll see how it’ll look once it’s done. - **Any plans of starting a business? Why or why not?** I have sold one painting so far, yay! She ended up getting a digital copy and printed it herself because of shipping fees etc. I do sell products based on my paintings at Society 6, and prints of my work on my own site. I’m hosting a Facebook live series this fall where people will be able to watch a workshop of sorts to make a fall/thanksgiving card. It’s free to watch but people can donate if they’re enjoying the content. I’m definitely hoping to incorporate this more into my main business. - **Goto resources online?** I love Made Vibrant. Here’s some people I follow on instagram as well: [Eva Mouton](https://www.instagram.com/eva%5Fmouton/), [Marloes De Vries](https://www.instagram.com/marloesdevee/), [Emma Block](https://www.instagram.com/emmablockillustration/), and [A Question of Eagles](https://www.instagram.com/aquestionofeagles/). - **Tips for budding painters?** Hmm, just get started really. Take a good course or online workshop, follow along and see how you can make things your own. Use enough paint! It just doesn’t work if you scrimp on the amount of paint you’re using. ![Sarah Frison working at her desk](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/sarah-frison-working-desk-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Sarah Frison working at her desk ## More About Sarah’s Interest in Enhancement of Aesthetics & Fixing Things - **Why does the enhancement of aesthetics and fixing things interest you?** I feel that our environment plays such a big role in how we feel and behave. If we don’t pay attention to the aesthetics of our day-to-day life, we lose out on so much quality of life. All these little details, and sometimes quite big things, can truly make a big difference in how much we’re able to enjoy our surroundings. We can say we don’t really care about looks or aesthetics, but is that really true or is that something we feel because we don’t think we can truly affect the way things look? - **How does it play a part in your everyday lifestyle?** I always try to make the best choice possible when it comes to how I dress, what stores I support, what brands I buy and how I pick a certain option over another. It’s not even about being vain or slim, it’s about picking things that are the best option for me and my body. I might be slightly vain and pretty slim but that’s not the core thing, the core thing is that these choices matter and do affect everything on a larger scale. What we support is what we’ll have more of. - **What sort of things do you fix or enhance?** I always try to find a way to improve what’s there and look for ways to make things possible. That’s part of what a health coach and a pastry chef both do, look at the thing and use your knowledge (or the other person’s in the coach’s case) to make it work. I’ve been known to be able to pull things round last minute and still make it work. ![Sarah enjoying a little snack!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/sarah-frison-eating-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Sarah enjoying a little snack! ## Thank You for Sharing, Sarah! A big thank you to Sarah Frison for sharing so candidly about her life with chronic illness, and how she thrives despite that. Her passion for pastry making, art, aesthetics and ethics all shine clearly in her interview responses. I wish her many more joyful years to come; one where she has plenty of energy, time and money to create to her heart's desire. [Want to be featured too? Click here to sign up!](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood/) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life, People & Passion Boards: ![“It’s in My Blood”: Sarah Frison – A Pastry Chef with a Stomach Disorder](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-sarah-frison-pastry-chef-stomach-disorder.jpg) **Contributor Bio:** ![Sarah Frison headshot](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/sarah-frison-profile.jpg) Sarah Frison is a certified health coach and trained pastry chef living in Belgium. She had to give up her training to become a pastry chef when her health declined. She graduated from The Institute for Integrative Nutrition in 2015 after being diagnosed with Gastroparesis and Dysautonomia. Her step by step systems have helped others with chronic conditions combine going gluten-free with their other dietary restrictions, apply systems to use their energy well and get support. Find her here: [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/SarahFrisonHC/), [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/sarahfrisonhc/), [Twitter](https://twitter.com/sarahfrisonhc) & [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/SarahFrisonhc/). ### December 2017: Recovering from a Cold & Reminiscing My Childhood in Hong Kong URL: https://achronicvoice.com/recovering-from-cold-reminiscing-childhood-hong-kong-december-2017/ Last updated: 2025-10-29T15:28:23.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Recovering From a Cold I know, I know, we all get a cold every now and then, and it's 'no big deal'. But as someone with chronic illnesses, a cold is not simple at all. A cold is a gateway for flare ups and serious infections if left to its own devices, and the recovery process will be a long and arduous one. I can try to use natural means such as drinking more water and taking vitamin C tablets to curb its advance. But once it has gained the upper hand, there is no such thing as 'let your body heal naturally' for me; I will need the aid of medications, or wake up to a persistent groundhog day. To cut a boring story short, I visited a 24 hour clinic at 5 a.m. to get some standby medications before catching a flight a few hours later. Which is, frankly speaking, quite a normal thing to do if you live with chronic illness. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. 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Thank you!* Read Related Posts: - [4 Everyday Scenarios We’re Not Sure How to be Polite About and Why](https://achronicvoice.com/everyday-scenarios-not-sure-polite/) - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [33 Things That Stop People with Chronic Illness From Leaving the House (Sans COVID-19)](https://achronicvoice.com/things-stop-people-chronic-illness-leaving-house/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![December 2017 Prompts: Recovering, Shopping, Enjoying, Reminiscing and Preparing](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_prompts_1712-2-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ## Shopping This Holiday Season It's the holiday season, and I was curious as to what and where everyone buys stuff from. I love giving presents, although this is a little harder to do when you're not working (and hate doing craftwork, ha). Whilst presents are just material goods, it's always nice to know that someone has been thinking about you in one way or another. I like to buy decadent items for others, especially as Christmas gifts. Things such as nice smelling creams, lotions, potions, candles, and the odd arty item or book from one of those eclectic shops. Oh and chocolate, don't forget the glorious chocolate! Here are my two favourite gift shops in Singapore: [Therapy Market](https://www.therapymarket.com.sg/) and [Cat Socrates](https://cat-socrates.myshopify.com/). I usually get my books from Book Depository as they're cheaper than the local bookstores, and comes with free worldwide shipping. (P.s. Book Deposit now belongs to Amazon.) Read Related Posts: - [Curated Chronic Illness Gift Ideas for Christmas, Birthdays & Other Occasions!](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-gift-ideas/) - [Dangerous Gifts for People with Chronic Illnesses (and Gift Ideas to Swap Them With)](https://achronicvoice.com/dangerous-gifts-chronic-illness/) - [All I Want for Christmas is Some Pain Relief! (Real Wish List Ideas from 13 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/all-i-want-for-christmas-pain-relief/) - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) ## Enjoying My First 'Proper Trip' Of The Year Sorry if I sound like a spoilt brat, but I'm truly at my happiest when travelling. We'll be off to Perth for a road trip, before going to spend Christmas with my partner's lovely family. I plan to do a bit of walking in this beautiful region, and will take some steroids or painkillers if necessary to accomplish this. I really don't want to wait a whole year to travel, only to spend it indoors due to pain. Of course that will be the last resort, but let's just say that I regretted not doing that for the previous trip, and wasted half of it. I also can't wait to my partner's adorable nieces and nephews! Even though I haven't seen them in person for 2 years, they still recognise who I am despite their young age (no mean feat for 2 to 7 year olds!). That's because they bother to keep in touch via FaceTime almost every single day, and it's a family culture of theirs that I really admire. Read Related Posts: - [Travelling New Paths with Chronic Illnesses in My Pocket](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-new-paths-chronic-illness/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [March 2018: Sorting My Medications & a Hike Up Little Adam's Peak](https://achronicvoice.com/sorting-medications-hike-little-adams-peak-march-2018/) - [Winter Fun, Games & Pain with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-fun-chronic-illness/) - [A Hurried Return, but Chronic Illness's Opening Hours Remain Unchanged](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-opening-hours/) ## Reminiscing My Childhood in Hong Kong I miss the festive Christmas atmosphere and the chilly winter weather, whilst I was growing up in Hong Kong. Chinese New Year and Christmas celebrations were such fun there; everyone was so friendly on the streets, spreading good vibes and cheer. It's difficult not to feel uplifted and happy. It isn't just about throwing a few festive lights here and there - it really is all out celebration time! Here in Singapore, we have four different official races - Chinese, Indian, Malay and Eurasian. Whilst we get a wider range of celebrations, I feel that they're all watered down. Everything is celebrated and as a result, nothing is fully celebrated. Perhaps another reason why I have such wonderful memories of my childhood - it was the only time in my life I was actually strong and healthy. ## Preparing For a More Productive Year Ahead It's a little frustrating not having a job and therefore, not having an income. Yet I know that if I return to my previous office job, I will flare within 3 months without a doubt. I know this full well, because I've been through the same cycle over the years. The results weren't worth it each time; I either developed full blown flares, or required surgery for new symptoms. This resulted in a loss of all that income earned, in addition to more pain and health problems. I'm going to analyse my blog to see how I can take it to the next level, and also plan to start creating some items to sell such as e-books, artwork and courses. Whilst I probably won't earn the same amount of money as before, I think it's probably a better way to live for me in the long run. We'll see how this venture for 2018 goes. I tend to be great at starting projects, but need to work on completing them before moving on to my next 'exciting' idea 😉 Thank you for readingmy December 2017 entry. [**Continue reading with January 2018 here**](https://achronicvoice.com/reflections-refreshing-holiday-in-australia-january-2018/), or [**check out what I did last month**](https://achronicvoice.com/discovering-gut-health-old-friendships-november-2017/). ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. 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Read Related Posts: - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed (Part 4/5)](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [Chronic Stress, the Silent Assassin](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-stress-silent-assassin/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) - [12 Chronic Illness Bloggers Share Their Top Posts for 2020](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-bloggers-top-posts-2020/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Chiara Dec 20, 2017 So buzzed to hear you are coming to Australia! Can you believe that despite living in Australia I’ve never actually been to Perth! I understand it’s quite beautiful there. Hope you share some pics 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 20, 2017 Haha which part do you live in? It was a cool couple days, very un-summery, but coming from Singapore it was wonderful 😉 Yes I’ll share some soon! 😀 - [ Bree ](https://3sistersabroad.wordpress.com) Dec 7, 2017 Perth…my home town.. Hope you enjoy your time there xx - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 7, 2017 Thanks Bree! I haven’t been there since I was 5, so it should be fun! Any recommendations for Perth and Margaret River? 🙂 x - Terri Dec 7, 2017 Sheryl, thanks so much for the opportunity to participate in the linkup! I hope you don’t mind, but I used your image with the prompts. I figured it put your website out there one more time… If you’d rather I didn’t, let me know and I’ll be glad to remove it. :o) I loved reading your answers for the prompts. It was great to get to know you a little better! Here’s wishing you a fabulous holiday season! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 7, 2017 Hi Terri, Thank YOU for participating! It’s always so much fun to read what others with chronic illness are up to in parallel 🙂 No problem at all, and thank you for asking 🙂 Wishing you a fabulous Christmas too! xx - Kathy Dec 2, 2017 Hi, Sheryl. I hope you had or are having a fun, relaxing trip and that your cold is going away. I can relate to your working and health flare woes. I’ve experienced a similar situation. Maybe you can find a way to bring some of Hong Kong’s festiveness to your neck of the woods. Spread your own Christmas cheer. It’s a thought. I’m thinking about many of the same things as you as we come to the end of 2017\. Thanks for sharing! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 2, 2017 Hi Kathy! I’m leaving in two weeks, really excited about it! 🙂 Yes it’s not quite woes I think, more of me whining 😉 That’s a good idea, but I don’t really like organising events haha. That is, I’m happiest at home on my own, but what I did like about Hong Kong was that when you stepped out into the streets, the magic is all there. Whereas here it feels more of hanging up some lights for commercial reasons and that’s it. But yes your suggestion for spreading my own cheer is a good one, and suitable for any day of the year, not only Christmas! 🙂 Looking forward to reading your entry, if you’re participating this month! xxx **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### “It's in My Blood”: Roy George — A Dramatic Life with a Short Bowel URL: https://achronicvoice.com/roy-george-dramatic-life-short-bowel/ Last updated: 2026-05-19T16:02:27.000Z ## The Wonderful Randomness of the Internet To tell you the truth, I hardly know a thing about Roy George; he isn't in [**my usual online circle**](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/). In fact it was another stranger who linked us up with a few quick words on Twitter and voilà, I have a new, interesting person to feature in this series! Don't you just love it when the internet gives instead of sucks you dry? Editing Roy's interview gave me a glimpse into his amazing life, and the general impression I got is that he's a joyful person whom I'd like to meet in real life (and I don't even like to get out of my house!). Take a look at the pictures and you'll see what I mean 😊 I hope you enjoy this feature as much as I do! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the author(s) personal experiences as patient(s). All images provided by Roy George and included in this post are used with his permission. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life, People & Passion Boards: ![“It’s in My Blood”: Roy George — A Dramatic Life with a Short Bowel. Read on: A Chronic Voice .com](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-roy-george-dramatic-life-with-short-bowel.jpg) --- **Roy Lives with the Following Illnesses**: - [Short Bowel Syndrome](https://medlineplus.gov/ency/article/000237.htm) - [Hirschsprung Disease](http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/hirschsprung's-disease/symptoms-causes/syc-20351556) - [Total Aganglionosis](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/22985835) --- ![WhenWhen the kids ask you to take a picture, you do it! Summer 2017](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/roy-george-with-kids-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) When the kids ask you to take a picture, you do it! Summer 2017 [Want to be featured too? 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I love me some good vocal jazz and a great musical theatre piece. - **Do you mostly go solo or do you have a band?** I love to banter so I LOVE to go with friends. - **Best musician you’ve seen live? Why?** Natalie Cole. The grace, beauty, history and elegance she exuded on that stage was absolutely unreal. - **Musicians you dream of collaborating with or seeing live?** I would love to see Streisand live. I also would love to collaborate with so many people. They’re fantastic and brilliant in their own right. Kristin Chenoweth, Christine Ebersole, Beth Leavel (though friends I’ve never played for her), Lucie Arnaz (though friends I’ve not played for her). The list goes on. Read Related Posts: - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [Fun Things To Do While Recovering From Surgery: Hobbies, Crafts & Games](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/) - [Fun & Productive Things to Do on Digital Devices After Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/) - [Why Your Beauty Never Left You](https://achronicvoice.com/why-your-beauty-never-left-you/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) ![With friend and mentor Lucie Arnaz - yes THAT Lucie Arnaz](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/roy-george-with-mentor-lucie-arnaz-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) With friend and mentor Lucie Arnaz - yes THAT Lucie Arnaz ![The woman who kept him alive - mom Madalyn](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/roy-george-with-mom-madalyn-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) The woman who kept him alive - mom Madalyn - **Do you have playlists for different moods? What are the main ones if so?** I don't! Just shuffle haha. - **How does music make you feel?** Music is the universal language. Everyone can speak it. Even if you don't like their specific type of music there IS common ground. There ARE ways of relating and achieving the goal. - **Tips for aspiring musicians?** You will hear more Nos than Yes’ don't give up. If it’s the first thing you think about in the AM and last thing in the PM, be a musician with your full heart. - **Favourite goto resources, if any?** YouTube. Truly one of the best inventions because there’s so many different ideas, concepts, versions, and styles out there. - **Do you think that the starting age matters for picking up an instrument/singing?** Yes - educate your children early and get them interested in music of today and the artists that came before them. Don’t axe out some of the most incredible (Sinatra, Garland, Streisand, Whitney, Michale, etc). - **What is the best thing music gives to humanity?** A universal bond and options. Music is there for everyone. You can find your musical choices ANYWHERE. You can be a Christian and find your musical genre, you can love country, rap, swing, hip hop R&B the list goes on. Music provides a platform for people to express their heart and to share their feelings. ![Preshow picture with the cast of Broadway Baby! Starring Amazon’s “Just Add Magic’s” Kirrilee Berger](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/roy-george-preshow-cast-broadway-baby-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Preshow picture with the cast of Broadway Baby! Starring Amazon’s “Just Add Magic’s” Kirrilee Berger ## More About Roy George's Love for Theatre & The Performing Arts - **What sort of theatre do you do?** I’ve ranged from children’s theatre, cabaret and off-Broadway. - **Why did you choose this form of theatre?** [**Giving back as well as filling my own cup**](https://achronicvoice.com/humility-advocacy/) was very important to me. - **What other sort of arts do you do or partake in?** I do a lot of benefit concerts as well as teaching at performing arts camps, and teaching or accompanying masterclasses. - **Is there some form of art you admire but aren’t so good at?** Drawing. I am THE WORST AT IT hahah. Pictionary gives me anxiety ha. - **What would you like to explore next in this area?** Producing. I’m looking into television producing. As well as law and contractual agreements. - **What does theatre give to you?** A sense of being someone else. Forgetting that I have medical illnesses and just gives me the opportunity to express, chat, and share. - **What does it give to others?** A moment to forget about all the craziness that's happening in our political world. It allows people to [**breathe, not stress**](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) and have a moment to themselves. They can laugh, they can enjoy, they can be removed from their lives for 3 hours and just take in theatre. Read Related Posts: - [Just Breathing is Enough For Today](https://achronicvoice.com/just-breathing-enough-today-poem/) - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) - [Find Your Way Back to Happiness with a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/find-happiness-chronic-illness/) - [Life with Chronic Illness: Happiness & Pain Can Co-exist](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-happiness-and-pain/) ![Playing a Muse in Hercules](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/roy-george-theatre-muse-hercules-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Playing a Muse in Hercules - **How can it be used for good?** Theatre saved a lot of kids I teach - it saved their lives. It allowed them to come and be a part of a community they weren’t bullied in. Something they found they were good at and could contribute to. - **Can it be used for evil? 😈** Theatre has such a high expectation as well as such a high level of pushing a person to achieve greatness always. Unfortunately, that’s not always appreciated. Depending on the age level of the individual involved they may not be able to critically think through how to navigate, balance, and pace themselves. - **Where do you usually perform?** I don't get on a stage near as much as I’d like to. I love to do cabarets. I just performed at The Triad in May, and then in a staff show at camp this summer. It was pretty fun. ![A music director and his talented cast](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/roy-george-music-director-with-cast-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) A music director and his talented cast - **What’s your audience like?** My audiences are filled with friends, family, and people i don’t know but in some way know me. It’s such a blessing to connect with people through music. - **Favourite kind of artists or people to work with?** It sounds stupid but generous and kind ones. I love having the opportunity to collaborate with people (no matter the age) that keep me on my toes and inspire me to strive to push myself to be better even though I’ve been playing for 20+ years. - **Hardest thing about performing?** The schedule and stamina. For however long your show is, you have to captivate the audience no matter what. They have paid to see you (in most cases) and they are stuck there and god forbid they leave. - **Any tips for aspiring performers?** Giving up is NOT an option if its what your heart and soul want to do. Giving up is something you’ll face but you’ve got to make the conscious effort to push through and continue on in your goals and passions. [**Fall in love with the process**](https://achronicvoice.com/life-is-a-long-process-of-becoming-into/) albeit crazy and exhausting. Fall In love. ![Sightseeing in Washington D.C.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/roy-george-sightseeing-washington-dc-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Sightseeing in Washington D.C. ![Attempting to be smart with Albert Einstein](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/roy-george-albert-einstein-statue-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Attempting to be smart with Albert Einstein ## More About Roy George's Interest in College Basketball - **You seem like a very active and expressive person! Of all sports, why basketball?** I used to play - was absolutely NOT good at it - but my brother played and Syracuse New York has an amazing basketball team, and I used to teach the coaches’ children in theatre!! - **Why the ‘college’? Do you only play it at a certain level or place? (Pardon me I’m not American so maybe it’s a cultural thing?)** I haven’t played since high school and I was begged after my first few years of playing - I was begged not to play anymore as I was no good!! - **Favourite position to play and why?** Bench Warmer cause that’s what I played the most :-) - **Which teams do you follow and support?** Duke and Syracuse University occasionally some others but it's rare. - **Most inspiring sports people for you?** I don't follow them that closely. Jackie Robinson because he broke through racial and cultural barriers so that’s pretty incredible. - **How often do you play? Do you have a regular group?** NEVER I sit at home in my Pjs and watch!!! - **On down days, what do you replace basketball with?** I like World Cup soccer when it’s on!! I played soccer for about 5 years in high school and middle school and 2 years in college. ![With best friend and musical inspiration, Kayla](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/roy-george-with-best-friend-music-inspiration-kayla-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) With best friend and musical inspiration, Kayla ![With mentors Sharon (top left), Lois (bottom left), and Bram (right)](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/roy-george-mentors-sharon-lois-bran-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) With mentors Sharon (top left), Lois (bottom left), and Bram (right) ## Why Roy George Chooses to be an Advocate for Rare Disease - **You mentioned an interest in both patient advocacy and short bowel syndrome awareness. Tell us a little about both?** When I was growing up, it was rare for someone to be my age and [**be willing and open to talk about their life’s struggles**](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) and all. I wanted to be someone that could be an open book and talk about everything from how to play contact sports, to intimacy, to thinking on the fly when things go wrong. We have so many celebrities that speak up for cancer and other chronic illnesses, but it’s RARE that you’ll find a celebrity who wants to speak about bowel function or lack thereof. I have nothing to lose so why not help people and be a part of that? As a patient, to me, it seems as though we walk into a room (doctor’s office) and we somehow lose our rights. We lose the ability to speak for ourselves as people feel as though we’re not competent enough to speak clearly about our lives and what our bodies can or cannot endure. - **What about advocacy do you enjoy?** The look on people’s faces when I tell my story and they realize that I actually have a pretty chronic illness. Outwardly with clothes on I don't look like I have a problem. [**I don’t look “abnormal”, I don't look “sick”**](https://achronicvoice.com/visible-evidence-invisible-illness/), but I’ve worked hard for that and some days are more difficult than others. - **Anything about it that you dislike?** I’ve often been asked ignorant questions. I have a very expressive face so I have to work hard to keep that in check, but people make it very difficult to remain neutral sometimes. They border on offensive which is difficult to not react to. Growing up, I was a fight or flight kind of person so I really worked hard to advocate for myself. Not always the most eloquent (my mom has a book of stories) but I did my best. Still learning 20+ years later. Read Related Posts: - [What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - [Invisible in Florence: Life with Chronic Illness in Italy](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-florence-chronic-illness-italy/) - [Would You Rather: Have an Invisible Illness or a Visible Disability?](https://achronicvoice.com/rather-have-invisible-illness-or-disability/) - [Invisible Cities Linkup: Pros & Cons of Living with Chronic Illness in Your City](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-cities-linkup/) - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does ‘Normal’ Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) ![Three sisters and one of their favorite counselors](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/roy-george-counselor-three-sisters-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Three sisters and one of their favorite counselors - **Which do you think is the most important audience to raise awareness to?** 16 - 30 year olds. Yes parents are so important and caregivers. However, there’s this weird time in people's lives that are teenagers, puberty, intimacy as well as college and all that comes with it including partying. Educating people on the ‘dos’ and ‘do nots’ as well as the ‘how to’ we hurdle this obstacle. I wish I had someone that told me that growing up. I had a lot of trial and error growing up. It is comical now but I certainly took a lot of risks. Many of which I shouldn’t have. - **Have you encountered any obstacles along your advocacy path? Would you like to describe them?** The obstacles I’ve faced are people that want to ask questions that are specific and they often forget I am just like them. The difference is I have some knowledge and some extra idea of what’s going on. I’m not a doctor or a nurse, I cannot diagnose you, and I cannot or should not be telling you what is wrong with you. I can help you and relate to you and allow you to have a sounding board, but I cannot speak for your medical professional. - **How do you go about raising awareness?** There’s so many platforms: a blog, websites, YouTube, word or mouth, I’ve spoken at quite a few national conferences and smaller regional conferences. Many of those clips are available online. I believe it’s about networking. I’m willing to go ANYWHERE I’m asked to (hint hint) to speak, educate, and allow you to feel like you got something out of it as well as a laugh. ![Speaking in Arizona in 2017 with Mighty Well creator, Emily Levy](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/roy-george-speaking-arizona-with-mighty-well-emily-levy-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Speaking in Arizona in 2017 with Mighty Well creator, Emily Levy ![Roy George a sunflower field with best friend, Shawn](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/roy-george-best-friend-shawn-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Roy George a sunflower field with best friend, Shawn - **Do you often collaborate with anyone?** My mother who is a pediatric nurse for over 30 years - she and I speak together quite a bit from the patient to caregiver perspective. I also speak with [Mighty Well](https://www.mighty-well.com/) and [Emily Levy](https://www.mighty-well.com/pages/about-us). I’d like to meet more people that want to collaborate. I’m willing to work with anyone. As long as we can somehow be positive, informative and passionate let’s change some lives. - **Any upcoming projects? (You don’t have to give it all away...even a hint would be exciting 😉)** I’m recording an album that will be out in December (if you can guess what kind of album it is). I also am in the process of writing a song cycle. I’ve got a few musicals on my desk that I’m working on music directing also. I keep busy thankfully. I also host a podcast available on iTunes and Buzzsprout called Triple Threats & Beyond! - **Where do you meet most of the other people with short bowel syndrome? Is it mostly online?** Instagram, Facebook support groups, Twitter hashtags. The internet is a crazy place and so awesome all at the same time. ![Broadway Flea Market 2017 with students!](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/roy-george-broadway-flea-market-with-students-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Broadway Flea Market 2017 with students! - **Have any of them ever reached out to you for more support?** They sure have. I have friends from all around the world and it’s a humbling and incredible thing. Truly it is mind blowing and so incredible. - **Tips for those who are thinking about raising awareness for their own illnesses too?** Find your voice. I was told blogs are the way to go - I’m not a huge writer and don’t really like to write all that much. I like speaking with people directly so that was a new experience for me to really figure out how to [**find my place in this advocacy world**](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/). I’ve learned to use humor, music, and personal experiences! - **Bonus info about Roy George:** Through music, I was able to meet my childhood heroes and they are now mentors to me. I was a Make A Wish kid in 1999 and my wish was to meet the Canadian singing trio Sharon Lois & Bram. I firmly believe they made me the musician, teacher and performer I am. Lois died 2 years ago of cancer and Sharon, Bram and I have stayed in contact and I try to get up to Toronto to see them at least once a year. They were recently my guests on the finale of my second season for my podcast. I think that’s one of the most fantastic and really awesome things. Through them I’ve also gotten to meet some incredible friends and had a beautiful article written about me in my hometown. Read Related Posts: - [Every Next Level of Your Life Will Demand a Different You](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/) - [Interview on ‘The Uninvisible Pod’: What I’ve Learned From Living with Chronic Illness for 20 Years](https://achronicvoice.com/interview-uninvisible-pod/) - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) - [A Quarterly Reflection: 12 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned](https://achronicvoice.com/quarterly-reflection-life-lessons-learned/) - [November 2018: Meeting and Collaborating with Chronically Ill People in Real Life](https://achronicvoice.com/meeting-collaborating-chronically-ill-real-life-november-2018/) ![Long days of teaching kids, and great moments to relax with friends and colleagues](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/roy-george-teaching-students-relaxing-friends-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Long days of teaching kids, and great moments to relax with friends and colleagues [Want to be featured too? 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Follow Triple Threats and Beyond (Roy's podcast) here: [Twitter](https://x.com/TTBwithRoy) & [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/TripleThreatsAndBeyond/). ### “It's in My Blood”: Katarina Zulak — Living Life Skillfully & Artistically with Chronic Illness URL: https://achronicvoice.com/katarina-zulak-living-artistically-chronic-illness/ Last updated: 2026-06-04T15:14:51.000Z ## Featuring Katarina Zulak of “Skillfully Well” Katarina strikes me as an artistic and intelligent soul, and I picked up a few hobby tips whilst interviewing her! She's into calligraphy, writing and reading. She also started a creative bullet journal to organise her todo list, which can be tricky with brain fog. With meditation as part of her lifestyle, it's no wonder her demeanour is cool and collected. She enjoys learning in general, but history is of particular interest to her. Let's go sneak a peek into her mind! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on the author(s)' personal experiences as patient(s). All images provided by Katarina Zulak and included in this post are used with her permission. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![“It’s in My Blood”: Katarina Zulak. Living Life Skillfully and Artistically with Chronic Illness. Read the series on: A Chronic Voice .com.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-katarina-zulak-living-life-skillfully-artistically-with-chronic-illness.jpg) --- **Katarina Lives with the Following Chronic Illnesses**: - [Fibromyalgia](http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/fibromyalgia/symptoms-causes/syc-20354780) - [Endometriosis](https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/endometriosis) [Learn more about her experiences living with these chronic conditions on her blog](https://skillfullywell.com/). --- ![Katarina out with her husband, looking at the gardens of a local historic house, while scoping out potential wedding venues](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/katarina-zulak-gardens-historic-house-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Katarina out with her husband, looking at the gardens of a local historic house, while scoping out potential wedding venues [Want to be featured too? Click here to sign up!](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-people-illnesses-talents/) ## More About Katarina Zulak’s Calligraphy Hobby - **Calligraphy! That’s an interesting one. How did it all begin?** One winter, a few years after my initial fibromyalgia diagnosis, I had a significant relapse. The main symptom was much worse fatigue than I usually dealt with. I had to withdraw from a part-time school program I was in. But I knew that I needed something to enjoy doing everyday, so I started thinking about what kind of **[hobby I could do that was within my limitations](https://achronicvoice.com/fun-things-to-do-while-recovering-from-surgery/)**. I remembered learning italics as a kid, and how much fun I had doing it. So I did some research online and decided that I would give calligraphy a try. Gradually learning how to do it, even for half an hour a day, really helped me get through that difficult winter. - **What kind of calligraphy do you do?** I do [dip pen calligraphy](https://thepostmansknock.com/how-to-use-a-dip-pen-to-create-modern-calligraphy/) in a [modern, copperplate script](http://calligrascape.com/modern-calligraphy/). I also enjoy experimenting with watercolour paint instead of ink. I am still a novice but enjoying the learning process! - **What about it do you enjoy?** I use a [Nikko G pen nib](https://thepostmansknock.com/the-best-beginner-calligraphy-nib/), which is actually for anime, but works really well for beginner calligraphers. My favourite ink is a black Sumi ink. For paper I often use a [Rhodia practice pad and Strathmore drawing paper](https://thepostmansknock.com/best-calligraphy-papers-for-practice-and-projects/) or hot press watercolour paper for finished projects. When I'm using watercolour paint I often use cold press watercolour paper. - **What’s the most basic equipment one would need to do some decent calligraphy?** Really all you need is a dip pen holder, a few nibs, ink and practice paper to get started. - **Any tips for budding calligraphists?** Just be patient with yourself and remember that **[it’s okay to be a beginner](https://achronicvoice.com/next-level-life/)**. When I started I often felt like it should be easier to do something as basic as write, but this is a whole new technique! - **What are your goto resources?** A few great starter resources are [The Postman’s Knock](https://thepostmansknock.com/product-category/learn-calligraphy/) (a great website full of tutorials, practice kits and articles on everything calligraphy) and [the book “Modern Calligraphy” by Molly Suber Thorpe](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1250016320?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=f97d44d81c49ab7fe547403caab3c90d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl), which is a fun introduction to calligraphy and has lots of projects to try. I really was able to learn calligraphy by taking an online course by Melissa Esplin called [“The Modern Calligraphy Class”](https://www.calligraphy.org/product/modern-calligraphy-class). - **Biggest struggle with calligraphy?** My neck, shoulders and wrists can be quite sore due to my chronic pain condition. It’s important not to do too much if you have the same symptoms I do. Sometimes I’m not able to get to it for a few days or even weeks but once you learn it’s like riding a bicycle and you can come back to it anytime. Read Related Posts: - [Uplifting Activities to Do While Recovering in Bed](https://achronicvoice.com/uplifting-activities-to-do-while-recovering-in-bed/) - [Just Breathing is Enough For Today](https://achronicvoice.com/just-breathing-enough-today-poem/) - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies (but You’re All Invited, Too!)](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies/) - [Are You a Capable Person? What Does That Even Mean?](https://achronicvoice.com/capable-person-meaning/) - [A Roundup of Biggest Pain Flare Triggers (from 40 People with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/pain-flare-triggers/) ![Practising calligraphy with watercolour paint. The spoonies will get this one 😉](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/katarina-zulak-watercolour-calligraphy-spoonie-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Practising calligraphy with watercolour paint. The spoonies will get this one 😉 ## More About Katarina Zulak’s Love for Writing & Reading - **What do you enjoy about writing?** First, I like the research part before I write an article. I’ve always been kind of a nerd and I enjoy learning! I like trying to put ideas into words in a way that both engages the reader and makes it easy to read and understand. Finally I find it cathartic to think through my own experiences and write them down on paper. - **Biggest struggle with writing?** My fibromyalgia symptoms definitely get in the way. [Brain fog](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/symptoms/brain-fog) can make it hard for me to coherently express my thoughts or to put together an outline for an article that combines facts from different sources with my own experiences. I also don’t like to edit. Once I am done, I don’t feel interested in going over and over the same thing! Learning to come back to something with fresh eyes later has been part of my process of getting better at writing. - **Biggest joy from writing?** Connecting with other people! I love hearing back from people who have read an article and have had a shared experience or found something helpful in what I’ve written. - **What’s your style like?** I spent way too many years in grad school so I think sometimes my style can sound too academic. I try to make it more personal and engaging when I write now. I’ve actually learned to enjoy writing more when I am expressing my own opinions or sharing my own experiences because then it becomes more cathartic for me. - **How do you keep track of new ideas that pop into your head?** I have just started keeping a bullet journal to keep track of my different blog tasks, topic brainstorming notes and interesting articles I’ve come across. I am hoping it will help me stay organized despite brain fog! - **How has a bullet journal helped you so far?** I’m only on the second week of my bullet journal, but so far i’m finding it the easiest way to keep track of multiple to-do’s that I’ve ever tried. With brain fog I often lose track of different projects that I’m working on, health goals, habit changes, and that kind of thing. I’ve tried a regular agenda, a wall calendar, app reminders, and so far this is fitting me the best. Each day I log health information (hours slept, fatigue and pain levels), appointments or plans and tasks I’m hoping to get to. Whatever I’m not able to accomplish, I just move to the next day (‘migrate’ in bullet journal speak). I also have a goal tracking log, where I check off self-care goals for each day (like meditating, steps walked, etc). I can also brainstorm writing ideas, questions for doctors, and anything else that pops to mind. My log is a bit messy as I’m still trying to figure out how I want to keep track of things! - **Favourite and least favourite authors? Why?** I am definitely a [Jane Austen](https://www.amazon.com/dp/9388810511?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=940cbf60f4bdeac354b4748083f22adc&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) fan because of the wonderful characters she created and her timeless insights into relationships. I don’t like really dark or scary books like [“The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo” by Steig Larrson](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0307454541?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6b68c852b37c2173e007e4114118261d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). That kept me awake for too many nights after I read it. Read Related Posts: - [MediSearch Review: A Medical AI Search Engine for Patients, Clinicians & Medical Writers](https://achronicvoice.com/medisearch-review-medical-ai-search-engine/) - [The Power and Purpose of Blogging, and Why You Should Write](https://achronicvoice.com/purpose-of-blogging/) - [Why I Write, Even Though it Makes Me Uncomfortable](https://achronicvoice.com/why-i-write/) - [A Quarterly Reflection: 12 Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned](https://achronicvoice.com/quarterly-reflection-life-lessons-learned/) - [365 Mindfulness Journaling Prompts for Self-Improvement](https://achronicvoice.com/365-mindfulness-journaling-prompts-for-self-improvement/) ![A beautiful quote by G.K. Chesterton, which brought a smile to Katarina](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/katarina-zulak-watercolour-calligraphy-g-k-chesterton-quote-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) A beautiful quote by G.K. Chesterton, which brought a smile to Katarina - **You mentioned a love for mystery books. What sort of mysteries?** I like historical mysteries that really take you into another time and place, especially authors like [Charles Finch](https://www.amazon.com/stores/Charles-Finch/author/B001H6RV4O?ccs%5Fid=076fd1ba-2432-4ec8-a208-424804e6b54a&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=05407a03b937a86854291416f9890231&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) or [Anne Perry](https://www.amazon.com/stores/Anne-Perry/author/B000APAS2A?pd%5Frd%5Fw=ws8Zz&content-id=amzn1.sym.78f2affb-7cb9-4034-a202-130468a5a689%3Aamzn1.sym.78f2affb-7cb9-4034-a202-130468a5a689&pd%5Frd%5Fwg=a5jRd&pd%5Frd%5Fr=c4fbecff-a380-42aa-a128-59a57595d0c4&qid=1752922296&cv%5Fct%5Fcx=Anne+Perry&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true&ccs%5Fid=57dc46c4-6705-4448-9c5d-8e75b1ceb2ac&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=66dcc49b3649c37d59716d86272bc5ea&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). Often I find cozy mysteries are enjoyable, light-hearted reads. Recently I’ve enjoyed the [Bibliophile series by Kate Carlisle](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B095P4N8JX?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=8f1313bae694af08dac6b1beac34c256&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) or [The Royal Spyness series by Rhys Bowen](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B081SMPLRN?&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=4ca6af558734360adcaabe25acf6c041&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). I also like some police procedurals as long as they aren’t too dark – authors like [Louise Penny](https://www.amazon.com/stores/Louise-Penny/author/B001ILHIVY?ccs%5Fid=76ba9487-3991-40bd-8bc7-6a3bb1ba1797&linkCode=ll2&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=3cef2cb42d7e0929d6f6ff1158bfcfdf&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). No serial killers for me! - **Why are mysteries your favourite to read?** For me, reading is an escape from life. I want to enjoy my escape and I prefer books with mixed or positive endings rather than negative outcomes. I’ve read that one of the reasons mysteries are so popular is because they are based on a belief that there is justice and goodness in an uncertain world. The fact that the mystery is always solved in the end is probably one of the reasons I like this genre. Basically, I’m a sucker for happy endings! - **How do you prefer reading? Good old paper, iPad, laptop, Kindle, etc?** Because of my neck and shoulder pain, I mostly only **[listen to audiobooks](https://achronicvoice.com/things-to-do-on-digital-devices-after-knee-surgery/)** these days. I’ve actually come to really enjoy a good narrator because it helps you imagine the story that much more clearly. - **What’s your reading routine like?** Usually on tired days I lie down and listen to my most recent audiobook or play one while I am en route to an appointment. They go perfectly with a cup of tea and a cozy blanket too. Read Related Posts: - [Book Recommendations for Spoonies: Part II](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-spoonies-2/) - [Book Recommendations for the Chronically Ill: Part III](https://achronicvoice.com/book-recommendations-3-chronically-ill/) - [Book Review: The Narwhal Who Suffers from Chronic Migraines](https://achronicvoice.com/book-review-narwhal-migraines/) - [Chronic Illness is Unpredictable, but You Don’t Always Have to Fear the Unknown](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-unpredictable-dont-fear-unknown/) - [Best & Worst Part About Being Stuck at Home (From 32 People with Chronic Illness & Disability)](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) ![Katarina on a day trip to Vancouver Island in British Columbia](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/katarina-zulak-vacation-vancouver-island-british-columbia-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Katarina on a day trip to Vancouver Island in British Columbia ## More About Katarina Zulak’s Meditation Practice - **What does meditation mean to you?** For me, meditation is a brain training exercise. Meditating means practicing being present, instead of dwelling on past or future events. It also helps me practice being nonjudgmental, self-aware and accepting. I find the concept of learning to rest in awareness, without trying to change how things are right now, really calming. - **What does meditation do for/to you?** Meditation helps me live more skillfully with a chronic illness. It doesn’t take away my symptoms but it makes living with my condition easier – I **[feel more hopeful, accepting and resilient](https://achronicvoice.com/chronically-ill-resilient/)** when I stick to my meditation practice. - **How did you start learning to like it?** My pain specialist referred me to a program they run at the hospital called [Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction](https://palousemindfulness.com/). It teaches meditation for pain management. - **How long do you meditate for, and how frequently?** I took the MBSR program about four years ago. I have meditated on and off since then. In the last six months I have meditated 3 to 4 days a week pretty regularly. I usually meditate for about 15 minutes. - **How is it part of your lifestyle?** Meditation helps you practice being mindful, which means being aware in the present moment, nonjudgmentally. When I’m not meditating, I try to practice mindfulness throughout my day. It helps me to really enjoy the small moments, like a great cup of coffee or enjoying sunshine on a walk. That counterbalances the negative experiences of having difficult symptoms to cope with. Mindfulness also helps me when I am stressed to come back to my breath – it gives me a pause from racing thoughts or strong emotions so I can ease the tension and think clearly. It’s always a work in progress though because it’s really easy to get distracted and caught up in daily life! I am definitely not anything close to a Zen Master! - **Biggest misconception about meditation, in your opinion?** When I first started meditating I thought the goal of it was to become calm and blissful. But it’s really about seeing what is happening in the present moment more clearly. For example, if I am stressed about an upcoming appointment, meditating helps me to be more in touch with those feelings, become aware of any negative self talk, and stay more present instead of anxiously imagining future possibilities. Then I can choose to respond in a way that lowers my stress, like stopping negative self talk, reminding myself to take it one breath at a time and making a calming cup of tea. So meditating doesn’t magically take away difficult thoughts and feelings but helps me to respond in a more helpful way. - **Biggest benefit, in your opinion?** The biggest benefit has been learning to **[savour the small moments in life](https://achronicvoice.com/value-gratitude/)** that we usually miss because we are on automatic pilot. - **Tips for those who want to try it out?** There are lots of great resources for learning meditation at home. I liked a guided audio program called [“Mindfulness Meditation for Pain Relief” by Jon Kabat-Zinn](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1683649389?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=392e496f9e6687bd1bd7ea6531ae57bf&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). A great book is called [“You are Not Your Pain” by Danny Penman and Vidyamala Burch](https://www.amazon.com/dp/125005267X?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=6a86a84ab84d8ed1d7ec69b1ddd32b6b&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl). Read Related Posts: - [12 Lessons on Mindfulness (or “How to Relax” by Thich Nhat Hanh)](https://achronicvoice.com/lessons-on-mindfulness-thich-nhat-hanh/) - [How to Rewire the Brain to Manage Chronic Pain (& Resources to Help)](https://achronicvoice.com/rewire-brain-manage-chronic-pain/) - [Why Self-Acceptance is Important When You Have a Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/self-acceptance-chronic-illness/) - [Loss of Identity with Chronic Illness & The Plot Twist: Sharpened Self-Worth](https://achronicvoice.com/loss-of-identity-chronic-illness/) - [How to Use the 7 Dimensions of Wellness to Thrive with Chronic Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/) ![xxx](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/katarina-zulak-winter-lake-ontario-trip-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Katarina going to a nearby beach at Lake Ontario, to enjoy some sunshine after a grey winter ## Why Katarina Zulak has a Passion for Learning & What Fascinates Her the Most - **You mentioned a love for learning, especially history. Why history?** I’ve always been fascinated by people and history is just the story of people in different places and different times. It’s interesting to me to understand why people made the choices they made in history that got us to where we are now. Understanding history helps to understand the present. - **Which eras fascinate you the most? Why?** I can’t say that there is one era that interests me more than others but recently I have been listening to a podcast on the history of Rome and the similarities between partisan politics and the breakdown of social norms then and today has been kind of creepy to learn about! Sometimes it does feel like history repeats itself. (I warned you I was a nerd!) - **Which historical figures fascinate you the most? What about them?** I'm always interested in women who overcame the social expectations of their time. For example I recently learned about a woman named [Josephine Baker](https://www.biography.com/people/josephine-baker-9195959) who was an iconic African-American jazz singer in Paris during the Jazz age. Not only was she the first black entertainer to become world famous, but she was also a spy during World War II for the French resistance and a civil rights activist. That's the kind of role model we should teach our kids about! - **Do you aspire to be like them in certain regards?** When I think about suffragettes or other people that fought for principles like democracy or equality, it reminds me to not take the rights that I have for granted. - **What else do you enjoy learning?** I’m also interested in learning about cultures, languages, art etc. I also like learning about health, nutrition and biology. - **Anything you dislike learning?** I’m not interested in math, technology and those kinds of areas. Too dry! Or that’s what I like to tell myself when I don’t understand the business section of the newspaper… - **Your thoughts on the importance of education?** I think it’s important that our kids learn about history and society so that they are active citizens who understand that democracy, justice and equality can’t be taken for granted and so we don’t repeat mistakes of the past. Read Related Posts: - [What’s It Like Going Back to School as an Adult with Disability and Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/going-back-to-school-as-an-adult-disability-chronic-illness/) - [Useful Things to Do While on Bed Rest After Surgery: Education, Advocacy & Volunteering](https://achronicvoice.com/useful-things-to-do-while-on-bed-rest/) - [Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: 16 Takeaways with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/mans-search-for-meaning-chronic-illness/) - [There’s No One Way to Live Your Life](https://achronicvoice.com/no-one-way-live-your-life/) - [September 2017: Resisting the Urge to Stress Myself Out Unnecessarily & Supporting the Supporters](https://achronicvoice.com/resisting-stress-supporting-supporters-september-2017/) ## In Conclusion to This Feature on Katarina Zulak I enjoyed hearing what Katarina had to share in today's episode of the “It’s in My Blood” series, and I hope you did, too! Calligraphy is something that I admire, and would like to pick up as a hobby in future myself, despite shaky hands from chronic illness and medications. It also seems like many of the people featured in the series have a love for reading, which makes sense as [**we spend *a lot* of time stuck in bed**](https://achronicvoice.com/stuck-at-home-with-chronic-illness-disability/) with nowhere to go but within our minds. Don't forget to check out other people with chronic illnesses, passions and talents in the series below, and feel free to drop me a message if you'd like to be featured as well! [Want to be featured too? Click here to sign up!](https://achronicvoice.com/its-in-my-blood-people-illnesses-talents/) ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. **Contributor Bio:** ![Katarina Zulak’s headshot](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/katarina-zulak-profile-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Katarina Zulak is health blogger, health writer and all-around health nerd. Five years ago she was diagnosed with fibromyalgia. On her health journey, Katarina has learned about the power of self-care skills to improve her health and well-being. On her blog, [Skillfully Well & Painfully Aware](https://skillfullywell.com/), she writes about learning to live well, even with a chronic condition. She loves learning, reading, being outside, Netflix, calligraphy and coffee! Find her on social media here: [Twitter](https://twitter.com/annakatarinaz), [Pinterest](https://www.pinterest.com/akatarinaz/), [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/a.katarina.z/) & [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/akatarinaz). ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - [ Caz ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Nov 12, 2017 I already follow Katarina’s fab blog but it’s great to get to know her more, love this link-up post! Interesting questions too, and it’s made me think twice about trying audio books as I never have before! Thanks for sharing both of you 🙂 - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 12, 2017 Hi Caz, Yes it’s interesting getting to know more about others with chronic illnesses…it adds so much perspective and food for thought to my own life as well 🙂 **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### November 2017: Discovering the Importance of Gut Health & Rediscovering Old Friendships URL: https://achronicvoice.com/discovering-gut-health-old-friendships-november-2017/ Last updated: 2025-10-29T15:36:35.000Z *\*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! 🙂* ## Discovering The Importance Of Gut Health Whilst I've heard the term “[leaky gut](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/22724-leaky-gut-syndrome)” (or intestinal permeability) and have read up a little about it, there's still so much I have yet to learn. Did you know that up to [70% to 80% of our immune cells](https://www.mdpi.com/2072-6643/13/3/886) (Wiertsema et al., 2021) and [95% of serotonin](https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/164%5F2016%5F103) (Terry & Margolis, 2016) resides in our guts? It definitely wouldn't hurt to take better care of it! I am currently reading Dr Michael Mosley's book, “The Clever Guts Diet”, in hope that it sheds more light on this topic. So far it's been a fascinating read, and I must say that he's a captivating writer who's managed to turn a potentially dry subject into something easy to digest (pun intended)! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* [ ![The Clever Guts, book by Dr Michael Mosley](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/413+oFVX0YL._SL360_.jpg) ](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1780723040?tag=achronicvoice-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1) [Buy: “The Clever Guts” by Dr Michael Mosley](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1780723040?&linkCode=ll1&tag=achronicvoice-20&linkId=951bc359af701f587374438b01414d1d&language=en%5FUS&ref%5F=as%5Fli%5Fss%5Ftl) ## Rediscovering Old Friendships People drift in and out of our lives as time takes us down different paths, even if they were once good friends. It's totally normal and more than okay, yet sometimes life brings you back full circle. I went out the other night with two good old school mates, and we had fun! It was one of those rare good days where I could handle a few drinks, which was a bonus 😉 These are people who I'm super comfortable with, and who'd never judge me for my health. I never have to worry about explaining myself, and know that if shit hits the fan, they'd take care of me with nary a complaint. Perhaps that's why I could relax, be myself, and use every single spoon for pleasure! ![Guess the drink?](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/long-island-tea-2-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Guess the drink? Read Related Posts: - [We Want to Have Fun Just Like You, But Here’s What it Takes with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/want-to-have-fun-chronic-illness/) - [Drink Pure Wine Review (A Product That Excites Me as a Person with Chronic Illness)](https://achronicvoice.com/drink-pure-wine-review/) - [7 Ways to Be a Better Friend to Someone with a Chronic Illness (and 3 Things You Should Never Do)](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) - [Antiphospholipid Syndrome Diagnosis: The A to Z Guide as a Patient](https://achronicvoice.com/antiphospholipid-syndrome-diagnosis-a-to-z-guide/) - [The Savagery of Panic Attacks & The Saving Grace of Internet Friends](https://achronicvoice.com/panic-attacks-internet-friends/) ## Anticipating a Little Holiday Next Month Our original plan to catch some autumn scenery doesn't look like it's going to happen, so we've postponed it to the Christmas holidays. We don't know where we'll go yet, but I'm looking forward to travelling again! Wherever it is, I'll take the opportunity to get out into nature more, and to take a break from blogging and social media. I'm truly grateful to have the means and opportunity to travel despite circumstances. I also have my fingers crossed that I won't get another [**random ovarian cyst rupture**](https://achronicvoice.com/refused-treatment-hospital/) during then. Read Related Posts: - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [March 2018: Sorting My Medications & a Hike Up Little Adam's Peak](https://achronicvoice.com/sorting-medications-hike-little-adams-peak-march-2018/) - [Travelling New Paths with Chronic Illnesses in My Pocket](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-new-paths-chronic-illness/) - [Winter Fun, Games & Pain with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-fun-chronic-illness/) - [Coming Alive in the Winter Air (Pushing for Personal Changes & Group Advocacy)](https://achronicvoice.com/winter-advocacy/) ## Decluttering Our Apartment Our apartment isn't that big so there's lots of stuff lying around in the open, with no place to go. Hanging the clothes out to dry can immediately make the space look cluttered. Add the ironing board and the place is a disgrace! Also, pet birds equals constant mess. I've come to realise that there is no way to have a spick and span environment with pet birds; they can make a mess outside their cages, even when they're *inside* 😉 No one can deny that a clean and well organised space is bliss, and invokes a [**better state of mind and well-being**](https://achronicvoice.com/dimensions-of-wellness-thrive-chronic-pain/). It's definitely worth a little time and effort every day if possible. It's also a blessing to have a roof over my head, and I want to honour that by maintaining it to the best of my ability. ![Keyboard thief #1 - Archer the parrotlet](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/keyboard-thief-1-2-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Keyboard thief #1 - Archer the parrotlet ![Keyboard thief #2 - Scorcher the cockatiel](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/keyboard-thief-2-2-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Keyboard thief #2 - Scorcher the cockatiel ![The flock discussing their next revolt on a lamp shade](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/discussion-2-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) The flock discussing their next revolt ![Archer - Also known as ‘The Blue Monster’ - destroying my computer mouse](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/blue-monster-2-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Archer - Also known as ‘The Blue Monster’ - destroying my mouse... ## Cherishing the Good Days Whilst I still get hit by bad days every now and then (in fact, it hasn't been a good week and I just puked my guts out), I think the good days have increased in general. So I'm attempting to cut down my steroids (again and again!), ever so cautiously. Even a small change of 2.5mg can make a big difference in terms of pain control for me. ![Here’s 2.5mg of prednisone (steroid). Does it look innocuous or what? ](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pred3-2-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Here’s 2.5mg of prednisone (steroid). Does it look innocuous or what? Thank you for reading my November 2017 entry! Continue with [**December 2017 here**](https://achronicvoice.com/recovering-from-cold-reminiscing-childhood-hong-kong-december-2017/), or [**view all diary entries here**](https://achronicvoice.com/diary-entries/). ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [What’s it Like to be on a High Dose of Steroids? (And the First Question You Will Definitely Ask)](https://achronicvoice.com/high-dose-steroids/) - [It’s Just One of Those Nights (Poetry on Steroids)](https://achronicvoice.com/one-of-those-nights-poetry-steroids/) - [#projChronicWisdom: Things I Find Beautiful in My Everyday Life Despite the Pain](https://achronicvoice.com/projchronicwisdom-beautiful-life-despite-pain/) - [My Personal Experiences with Epiphrenic Esophageal Diverticulum (Plus Tips to Help Cope)](https://achronicvoice.com/epiphrenic-esophageal-diverticulum-personal-experiences-tips/) - [Today is Not a Good Day to Make Decisions (and That’s Okay)](https://achronicvoice.com/today-is-not-a-good-day/) Pin to Your Chronic Illness Life Boards: ![November 2017 Prompts: Discovering, Rediscovering, Anticipating, Decluttering and Cherishing](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/pin_prompts_1711-2-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Cza Dec 5, 2017 I just have to say, your pet birds are the cutest. 🙂 Glad to see that you’re keeping things organized. 🙂 I do agree that the gut is of great importance to one’s health! My mom, who’s had two bouts with lymphoma, has been seeing an integrative doctor, who also opened us up to the idea of changing our diet to improve the quality of our lives. Now if only fresh fruits and vegetables were more accessible to me and my partner! I remember getting an allergy to antibiotics once, and suffering from a bad case of hives for almost one whole week. The hives improved when I took OMX (probiotics). - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 6, 2017 Thank you Cza, they are really cute until they poop on you and bite you ;p Why is it so difficult to get fruits and vegetables where you are? (Just curious!) I have access and should make you of it more, I admit! 🙂 - Leidamarie Tirado-Lee Nov 15, 2017 It’s so great that you were able to enjoy a night out. Little victories like that can help sustain us for a long time, I feel. Also, I’m excited that you will get to go on a trip soon. Hope cutting down the prednisone goes well! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Dec 6, 2017 Hi Leidamarie, Yes indeed! Little victories feel like big, sweet victories 😉 x - [ Kelly Hodgkins ](https://moonglotexas.com) Nov 9, 2017 Thank you for these wonderful words! I so enjoyed your blog on them! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 9, 2017 You’re most welcome, I’m happy it was an enjoyable read! Will read yours soon as well! 😀 - Kathy Nov 9, 2017 I loved seeing the pictures of your birds! Prednisone does look innocuous. I have a love/hate relationship with it. When my asthma flares it’s the only thing that helps, but it wrecks havoc with sleep and my stomach. I’m so glad you were able to enjoy time with your friends. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 9, 2017 Thanks Kathy! Yes the birds have brought much joy and life into an otherwise dull home 🙂 Same for me, prednisone is the only thing that can control a major flare, when strong painkillers do nothing. For me the worst side effect is psychological; I end up pacing about all night and feel like I’m going mad. Yes, going out every now and then is enjoyable, although I tend to dread them before I go, the whole pre meditated anxiety about overdoing it thing 😉 - Emma England Nov 4, 2017 I really enjoyed reading these. I agree that the “gut” is a fascinating topic! I’ve always suffered with stomach problems, but by making some pretty big changes to my diet over the last couple of years, I’ve noticed a marked improvement. I also find that when my stomach is happier, so is the rest of me! So I experience less pain for example. So glad you managed to enjoy a night out. It’s always lovely when our health allows us to do a little bit of “normal!” Good luck with the decluttering! That’s definitely something we could do with doing! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 4, 2017 Thanks Emma! 🙂 Yes a lot of people seem to have good results with improving their gut health/diet…in any case, definitely good to try 🙂 And yes, some normal days are always such a blessing 😉 xx **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### The Subtle Difference Between Saying “Think Positive” and “Stay Positive” to Someone with Chronic Pain URL: https://achronicvoice.com/difference-think-positive-stay-positive-chronic-pain/ Last updated: 2026-04-28T15:32:01.000Z ## “Think Positive” vs “Stay Positive” — Do These Terms Imply Different Mindsets? I don't know about you but for me, there is a difference when someone tells me to “think positive” as opposed to “stay positive”. The former implies an undermining of suffering, while the latter tells me that you're on my team. Perhaps I have a case of word oversensitivity, but I'll go ahead and tell you more. *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* Pin to Your Words, Mindset & Positivity Boards: ![The Subtle Difference Between Saying “Think Positive” and “Stay Positive” to Someone with Chronic Pain](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/subtle-difference-saying-think-positive-and-stay-positive-with-chronic-pain.jpg) ## The Evolution of Thought When in Pain When I’m in the grips of pain, all I want is freedom from it. When you suffer from pain over a prolonged period, the idea of freedom evolves along with it. Perhaps it began with “I need some painkillers”, to “I need surgery”, to finally become “I want to die”. Every action is a compromise with yourself. Another keyword difference here is “I want” versus “I wish” to die. I have no desire for death, but at this point it seems like a better option than suffering. If there’s a hell, might as well get on with it. Read Related Posts: - [Why Painkillers are One of My Biggest Allies for a Decent Quality of Life](https://achronicvoice.com/painkillers-quality-of-life/) - [An Experience from Hell: Pulmonary Embolism, DVTs & Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/pulmonary-embolism-dvts-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [What It Feels Like to be Suddenly Disabled](https://achronicvoice.com/suddenly-disabled/) - [Why it Feels Like Suicide is an Option When You Live with Chronic Illness or Disability](https://achronicvoice.com/suicide-chronic-illness/) - [An Open Letter to Death, and One Simple Plea](https://achronicvoice.com/letter-to-death-simple-plea/) ## Encouragement to Stay on Course When you ask me to stay positive, it almost feels like you’re a teammate who’s reminding me to **stay** focussed. To keep my eyes on the ‘lifetime’ destination, and to **stay** on course. There is a subtle acknowledgement that you believe in my pain, and that you’re encouraging me to **remain** positive despite it. “Stay, don’t go” versus “You’re being negative which isn’t good. *Think* better thoughts”. Belief in someone else’s pain is very important; it provides them with a sense of relief because it acknowledges the reality of it. It’s not in their heads, it really is that bad. You can only go about solving a problem when you realise that it exists, and isn’t a fiction of imagination. ## Beyond Words — Show Up for Your Loved One Most people don’t mean you harm when they send their regards. They may not know how to respond because they’ve never had to go through anything like it, and therefore are[**unable to relate**](https://achronicvoice.com/we-shouldnt-expect-people-to-understand/). Perhaps this word difference doesn't mean anything to you - maybe they both invoke anger or sadness, or you like using them interchangeably. But my intention for today is simply to bring about an awareness that what you say has power; it can lift a person up, or cut pretty deep. And perhaps more than what you say, how you say it and where it's coming from matters most at the end of the day. So if you're trying to [**comfort a friend**](https://achronicvoice.com/better-friend-chronic-illness/) for whatever reason and don't know what to say, you can't go too wrong with a sprinkle of empathy and sincerity. ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Read Related Posts: - [How to be a Positive Thinker: Without the Unicorns & Rainbows](https://achronicvoice.com/positive-thinker-without-unicorns-rainbows/) - [What's it Like to be a Caregiver for a Chronically Ill Loved One (The Challenges & Rewards)](https://achronicvoice.com/caregiver-chronically-ill-loved-one/) - [3 Important Holiday Checklists for Those with Chronic Illness (and Their Supporters)](https://achronicvoice.com/holiday-checklists-chronic-illness/) - [Kick Ass With Kindness and a Sweet Cherry on Top](https://achronicvoice.com/kick-ass-with-kindness/) - [September 2018: Reconnecting with Friends & Family, and Sharing on Social Media](https://achronicvoice.com/reconnecting-friends-family-sharing-social-media-september-2018/) For More Insight: - [Why Phrases Like 'Stay Positive' Don't Help My Life With Chronic Illness](https://themighty.com/topic/scleroderma/why-phrases-like-stay-positive-dont-help-my-life-with-chronic-illness/) ### Comments Archives: Comments imported from previous WordPress site. - Katie Clark May 1, 2021 I can feel so helpless when I have a friend who is truly suffering. I don’t know what to do or say. But, I do feel that just being there, checking in, letting them know that they are not forgotten. It’s hard because they have to get through it on their own, but we can be there letting them know that we are witnessing what they’re going through and that we care ever so much. - Tania Nov 4, 2017 Yes! I feel like “think positive” is so often used in mainstream media and by people who aren’t close to me within a “think positive and you’ll improve” kind of way. As though it’s a mindset keeping people ill rather than physical problems with our bodies. I’ve not seen “stay positive” used before, but I much prefer it to “think positive” for the reasons you’ve given. Xx Tania | [When Tania Talks ](https://whentaniatalks.com) - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 4, 2017 Hi Tania, Yes exactly 🙂 And more often than not, the person who’s ill \*is\* trying to be positive in his or her own way, despite the struggle. So saying ‘think positive’ can be quite hurtful or discredits his or her efforts, too. - Nikki Nov 3, 2017 Not sure I like either. Because I can’t stay positive. I have bad days and I am aware on bad days my thoughts are not positive at all. On those days I have to try to just control those thoughts I guess. Or distract myself. But I certainly don’t like ‘think positive’ like if I just thought more positive that would just resolve all my problems. It is funny in a sense. I don’t like it when people tell me to think positive or Be positive but I do a lot of things to try and help myself stay that way myself. And to boost my mood. I am well aware it helps with the pain and my negative thoughts are spurred by high pain. Just don’t like people telling me to, because it isn’t as simple as they think. Especially with major depressive disorder. My brain doesn’t really go positive first, sort of have to steer it that way! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Nov 3, 2017 Heh I’m quite similar in the sense whereby I dislike people telling me to ‘think positive’ but on my own, I do try to do so 😉 I can see where you’re coming from regarding the major depressive disorder and positive thoughts. Almost like it’s an unnatural thing that needs some prodding and guidance. And yea, things aren’t always as they seem, especially with what you mentioned. Hard for people to see, which is fine. But it’d be great if they could then keep their comments to themselves hey 😉 - Emma England Oct 31, 2017 This is so true. There’s a massive difference between “think positive” and “stay positive.” Glad you picked up on (and wrote about!) how a subtle change in the way we say things can make such a big difference. You hit the nail on the head when you say how belief in someone’s pain is so important. It really does bring such relief. Thanks for writing this ? - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 31, 2017 Thanks for reading, Emma! 🙂 Yes actually I wasn’t sure if others thought this way too, as I’ve seen many articles on The Mighty which mention that they don’t like the usage of either (I linked up to one of them at the bottom of this article). In any case, belief and empathy is key! xx - Cathy Oct 30, 2017 You taught me something important. I have RA and will now encourage my fellow autoimmune friends the way you so eloquently suggested. Stay positive has a warmer, more comforting vibe. Thanks for writing this post! - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 31, 2017 Hi Cathy, Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂 Yes I also think it has a warmer, more comforting vibe to it – thanks for capturing the emotion of what I meant! x - Shannon|MSnubutterflies Oct 29, 2017 I agree with you. The difference of how you say it means everything. I also try to remember that they don’t realize how it sounds and that I’m probably guilty of the same thing sometimes. This is a great post. I hope it will help others understand the difference. - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 29, 2017 Hi Shannon, Thanks for your perspective! Yes what you said is so true as well. People often don’t have ill intentions, but having never been in our shoes, it can be easier to say something ‘offensive’ than not unintentionally. I admit to being guilty of being the same way as well…I suppose we’re all ignorant in one way or another 😉 😉 - [ Caz ](https://invisiblyme.com/) Oct 30, 2017 Agreed, great post as it does highlight ignorance (whether intentional or not) and how sometimes we need to think about why people say the things they do too (I think sometimes it’s said because people don’t know what else to say, feel they need to say something and this ends up coming out…) x - [ Sheryl Chan ](https://achronicvoice.com/) Oct 31, 2017 Hi Caz, Yes quite often I guess they’re saying something for the sake of saying something. As Viktor Frankl wrote, our current society is wired to always desire and seek happiness, to the point where sad or bad feelings are almost demonised, or ignored. **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** ### Magazine Review: Lucky Peach’s Last Issue, Ever URL: https://achronicvoice.com/magazine-review-lucky-peach/ Last updated: 2026-02-08T16:39:06.000Z ## Lucky Peach’s Grand Finalé [Lucky Peach](https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/food/wp/2017/03/16/the-mysterious-demise-of-lucky-peach-magazine-and-its-uncertain-future/) is an interesting magazine that does a fantastic job of blending food, lifestyle and prose together. Thus I was surprised to discover that this was going to be their last issue ever! For their grand finalé, they have put together the 'best of' over the years, and is worth a read. I'll let their words and pictures do most of the talking for this review. And since it is a chronic illness blog after all, I'll also highlight the posts that have a health aspect to them! *\*Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes, and is based on my personal experiences as a patient. *I am not a doctor, and nothing in this article should be substituted for medical advice.* Please consult your own doctor before changing or adding *any* new treatment protocols. This post may also contain affiliate links. It will cost you nothing to click on them. I will get a small referral fee from purchases you make, which helps with the maintenance of this blog. Read our* [***Privacy Policy***](https://achronicvoice.com/privacy-policy/)*page for more information. Thank you!* ## The Gorgeous & Colourful Graphics of Lucky Peach Magazine This is pretty much Lucky Peach's signature graphic style over the years! ![Things were drawn. Lucky Peach’s last issue ever magazine review.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/lucky-peach-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ![Colourful graphics. Lucky Peach’s last issue ever magazine review.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/lucky-peach-2-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ## Left Behind: A Field Guide to Post-Rapture Rot ![LeftPork buns from Momofuku, covered with mould spores.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/lucky-peach-3.jpg) Pork buns from [Momofuku](https://momofuku.com/), covered with mould spores ![Radishes in a pot from Noma and Prune-stuffed gnocchi from No. 9 Park covered with mould and yeast.](https://cdn.achronicvoice.com/lucky-peach-4.jpg) Radishes in a pot from [Noma](http://noma.dk/), and Prune-stuffed gnocchi from No. 9 Park covered with mould and yeast This is one of my favourite article in this issue. It was fascinating to see popular foods from good eateries becoming rotten, and I enjoyed reading about the type of mould or yeast inhabiting each dish. It talks about the conditions necessary for growth, and how some of them are more familiar to us than we realise. For example, [penicillium](https://www.adelaide.edu.au/mycology/fungal-descriptions-and-antifungal-susceptibility/hyphomycetes-conidial-moulds/penicillium), a bread loving mould: "also provides us with delicious cheese (the fuzz on the outside of Brie and the blue veins on the inside of blue cheese), and spurred the antibiotic revolution in medicine". If you've ever seen those blue-green mould on your bread, it's probably penicillium. [Fusarium](https://www.adelaide.edu.au/mycology/fungal-descriptions-and-antifungal-susceptibility/hyphomycetes-conidial-moulds/fusarium) moulds have a more complicated relationship with humans. Some species produce potent [mycotoxins](https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/mycotoxins), or give you toenail infections. Yet some species are beneficial; lovers of fake-meat mycoprotein Quorn are eating the guts of [*Fusarium venenatum*](http://blogs.uoregon.edu/bi432/files/2014/10/quorn-fusarium-1c4jakx.pdf), and the rinds of many [washed-rind cheeses](http://www.seriouseats.com/2014/06/cheese-101-washed-rind.html) are held together by [*Fusarium domesticum*](http://microbialfoods.org/microbe-guide-fusarium-domesticum/). ## Not the Best Looking Recipes ![Braised cold celery hearts victor recipe](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/lucky-peach-5-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Braised cold celery hearts victor recipe ![Close up of the uh...deliciousness](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/lucky-peach-6-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Close up of the uh...deliciousness There were some recipes listed at the back of the magazine, printed on black coloured paper with a nostalgic tint to them. This made the food look particularly unappetising, especially this 'Braised Cold Celery Hearts Victor' dish. I really can't tell if it's meant to make a statement, or if it's sarcasm. ![10 minute chocolate mug cake recipe](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/lucky-peach-7-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) 10 minute chocolate mug cake recipe This recipe looked the most enticing of the lot. And two minutes for a nice warm chocolate cake? I'm in! ## Stag Penises: Prized Tonic in Chinese Medicine ![Dick soup](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/lucky-peach-8-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Dick soup Apparently penises have magical properties in Chinese medicinal terms. Consuming them is supposed to increase your [yang energy](https://sg.euyansangclinic.com/health-articles/natural-rhythm-of-yin-yang-in-our-body). [Stag penises are prized in particular](https://www.abc.net.au/news/rural/2016-11-22/chinese-medicine-market-for-deer-penises-and-antlers/8044046), and are prescribed for impotence and fertility. Fuchsia talks about receiving some of these for gifts as a chef, the trauma of it, and what she made with them. Read Related Posts: - [Floatation Therapy: Did It do Anything for My Chronic Pain?](https://achronicvoice.com/floatation-therapy-chronic-pain/) - [Resources & Therapies for Pain After Major Knee Surgery](https://achronicvoice.com/therapies-for-pain-after-major-knee-surgery/) - [The Causes & Dangers of Malabsorption & An Easy Way to Get Your Nutrients](https://achronicvoice.com/causes-dangers-malabsorption-get-nutrients/) - [The Annoying Thing About Living with Antiphospholipid Syndrome (My Personal Experiences)](https://achronicvoice.com/living-with-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [November 2017: Discovering the Importance of Gut Health & Rediscovering Old Friendships](https://achronicvoice.com/discovering-gut-health-old-friendships-november-2017/) ## A Pilgrimage to All His Favourite Food Places ![A last meal in the holy city essay. Lucky Peach’s last issue ever magazine review.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/lucky-peach-9-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) ![A last meal in the holy city essay. Lucky Peach’s last issue ever magazine review.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/lucky-peach-10-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) A sad departure for one of Lucky Peach’s correspondents in his adopted home city. I’m guessing this is New Orleans after googling some of the food places. It’s a funny yet poignant four page essay on how he said goodbye, by visiting and eating at all his favourite food places there in one day. Talk about indigestion; it reminds me of that time a friend and I went to Billy Bombers' in our youth, and ordered as much as we could to meet the criteria for a major discount. I learned what gluttony meant from that incident, and just how distressing it really can be 😉 ## Some Food for Thought ![The problem with authenticity, an essay](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/lucky-peach-12-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) The problem with authenticity, an essay This was one of my favourite essays that explores the definition of authenticity in food. I guess the concept does spill over into all aspects of life as well. The author shares some thoughts on the 'impurity' of fusion, what delicious food is to him, and more interesting thoughts (it spans 10 pages!). It ends with the statement, "Inauthentic in execution, yet, in the final analysis, spiritually authentic. Whatever that is." ## An Interview with Renown Pastry Chef, Claudia Fleming ![Life and how it happens to a cook](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/lucky-peach-11-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Life and how it happens to a cook I usually read interviews in small doses, as I find prose to be more interesting. But interviews are really good for delving into a person's mind, and learning a thing or two about life from them. To be honest, I didn't know who [Claudia Fleming](https://www.chefclaudiafleming.com/) was until I read this article. In any case, her life story of struggles and triumphs was very relatable and engrossing. Now, her husband Gerry suffers from [amyotrophic muscle disease](https://www.ninds.nih.gov/health-information/disorders/amyotrophic-lateral-sclerosis-als) (Lou Gehrig's disease), and she talks a little about what life's like under such circumstances. This article provides a humane perspective, and makes me think we're all the same at the end of the day as human beings. Read Related Posts: - [Learn More About the Super Rare Disease — Esophageal Diverticulum](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-esophageal-diverticulum/) - [Suffering with a Rare Disease, Isaac Syndrome, as Told from a Male Perspective](https://achronicvoice.com/rare-disease-isaacs-syndrome/) - [7 Reminders For Those Bad Days to Keep You Going](https://achronicvoice.com/reminders-for-bad-days/) - [Tell Me You’re Chronically Ill Without Telling Me You’re Chronically Ill (Chronic Illness Memes)](https://achronicvoice.com/chronic-illness-memes/) - [Invisible Cities Linkup: Pros & Cons of Living with Chronic Illness in Your City](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-cities-linkup/) ## Lucky Peach’s Thoughts on MSG and Chinese Restaurant Syndrome ![Lucky Peach’s Thoughts on MSG and Chinese Restaurant Syndrome](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/lucky-peach-14-1-1-1-1-1-jpg.jpg) Another health related topic, ha! I'm pretty sure [MSG (monosodium glutamate)](https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/nutrition-and-healthy-eating/expert-answers/monosodium-glutamate/faq-20058196) makes me itch, and sometimes causes heart pounding in people I know. Does it do anything to you? This article details the history of this perceived link, [umami](https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/wordofmouth/2013/apr/09/umami-fifth-taste) (one of the basic tastes on our tongues), culture and even some science. ## A Comparison of Lunch Lists in New York vs San Francisco ![Lunch lists in New York vs San Francisco. Lucky Peach’s last issue ever magazine review.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/lucky-peach-16-1-1-1-1-1-jpg.jpg) ![Lunch lists in New York vs San Francisco. Lucky Peach’s last issue ever magazine review.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/lucky-peach-17-1-1-1-1-1-jpg.jpg) I've never lived in either city, so this was a great glimpse into lunch hour there. It sounds pretty much the same as it is here in Singapore, but it's interesting to see what types of foods people prefer there. It was also interesting to see the subtle differences in restaurant types between the two. Plus, the little sketches are cute! Read Related Posts: - [Invisible in Singapore: What’s It Like to Live Here with Chronic Illnesses?](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-in-singapore-chronic-illnesses/) - [What’s it Like to Live with Invisible Illness in Singapore? (7 Locals Share Their Thoughts)](https://achronicvoice.com/invisible-illness-singapore-locals/) - [Top Tips for Travelling with Chronic Illness & Disability (From a Girl Who Loves to Travel)](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-with-chronic-illness-disability/) - [Travelling New Paths with Chronic Illnesses in My Pocket](https://achronicvoice.com/travelling-new-paths-chronic-illness/) - [My Responses to “A Day in the Life” Linkup (What Does ‘Normal’ Even Mean?)](https://achronicvoice.com/a-day-in-the-life/) ## Hardcore Korean Grandmas - Haenyo Divers ![Jeju Island and the Haenyo divers](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/lucky-peach-15-1-1-1-1-1-jpg.jpg) Jeju Island and the Haenyo divers These women dive in frigid waters - sometimes to depths beyond twenty metres - to retrieve morsels for sale. Some of them are even in their 60s and 70s! It was fascinating to read about their way of life, which is healthy, yet one out of necessity. None of the divers wanted their own daughters to become [Haenyo](http://www.businessinsider.com/photos-haenyo-korean-deep-sea-divers-2016-10/?IR=T/#by-getting-to-know-them-and-earning-their-trust-kim-was-able-to-take-intimate-close-up-portraits-of-the-women-5), as it is a pretty tough job. These ladies come back from diving and writhe with exhaustion and sleeplessness for days. You can apparently lose all your body fat within three days when diving nonstop. These women claim to be tougher than other Korean women thanks to their lifestyle, and it is a matriarchal society specific to [Jeju Island](http://edition.cnn.com/travel/article/things-do-jeju-island/index.html) in South Korea. These independent ladies "can just go out to the ocean to dive whenever they need some money". It's also sad to hear firsthand how the oceans are being destroyed. Apart from garbage, the underwater environment is definitely dwindling and becoming a wasteland. These women would know - they've been diving for decades. Read Related Posts: - [Pregnancy, Miscarriage & Women’s Health in Antiphospholipid Syndrome](https://achronicvoice.com/womens-health-in-antiphospholipid-syndrome/) - [Tips & Tools to Help Regain Independence with a Disability or Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/regain-independence-disability-chronic-illness/) - [Why ‘Easy’ Part-Time Jobs are Not That Easy for Those with Chronic Illness](https://achronicvoice.com/part-time-jobs-not-easy-chronic-illness/) - [I May be Chronically Ill, but I’m Also Chronically Resilient](https://achronicvoice.com/chronically-ill-resilient/) - [How Does Antiphospholipid Syndrome Affect The Body? (Beyond the Blood to Major Organs)](https://achronicvoice.com/how-does-antiphospholipid-syndrome-affect-the-body/) ## Magazines Make Good, Wordy Reads Too! ![Words, words, words! In Lucky Peach magazine.](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/lucky-peach-13-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Words, words, words! ## A Few Final Words About Magazines & Lucky Peach’s Last Issue I wanted to say that I really enjoy reading magazines in general. They are great for delving into a totally different realm in a short span of time. Pretty pictures are always helpful, too! Almost all the articles in the final issue of Lucky Peach are in long form, each taking me an average of 15 minutes or more to read. It really is quite like reading a book full of short stories 🙂 I hope you enjoyed this review of Lucky Peach’s final issue, and learned a thing or two about bacteria and culture (pun unintended)! ![Lucky Peach Issue 24: The Best of Lucky Peach](https://storage.ghost.io/c/fe/94/fe943d06-f105-4c71-af52-25403dcbb0b8/content/images/2025/08/lucky-peach-cover-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1-1.jpg) Lucky Peach Issue 24: The Best of Lucky Peach ## Sign Up for My Free Newsletter Be the first to get the latest post updates in your inbox, and unlock the comments section. You will also receive an e-book full of uplifting messages, quotes and illustrations as a token of appreciation! [Browse more membership plans here](#/portal/), or [make a one-off donation](https://ghost.achronicvoice.com/#/portal/support) instead. Sign Up Email sent! Check your inbox to complete your signup. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. 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Actually a lot of magazines contain a wealth of interesting, well written articles, too 🙂 Yea too much MSG is definitely not good, I suppose, even though there’s no ‘hard evidence’ against it! **Start a new conversation in the Member Comments below!** _Truncated after 5 MiB. Use `/sitemap.xml` for the complete archive of public content._